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11+ Heartfelt Messages to Make Your Girlfriend Feel Appreciated

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1Say “Thank you.”

2Appreciate the little things she does.

3Give her compliments.

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Your know your girlfriend is amazing, but how do you communicate that to her in words? Figuring out
how to verbally express gratitude can be tough, but there are lots of ways you can speak up and let her
know. Read on for a list of great ways to communicate your appreciation through both words and
actions!
Method

Say “Thank you.”

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A simple “thank you” can go a long way. If you feel thankful in the moment, remind yourself to express
that sentiment out loud to your girlfriend, too.[1] Each time your girlfriend does you a favor or offers her
help, thank her sweetly and sincerely.[2] For example:

“I just want you to know how grateful I am for everything you do. You’re always ready to support me,
and I can’t thank you enough.”

“You put so much thought and care into everything we do together. It makes me grateful that you’re my
girlfriend.”

Method

Appreciate the little things she does.

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Show her that you notice the everyday details, too. Pointing out the little things she does shows your
girlfriend that you're paying attention and you don't take anything for granted.[3] When you call
attention to her efforts, add as much detail as you can.[4]

“Thank you for making breakfast today. You even put cinnamon in the coffee and made my favorite
pancake flavor! I feel so pampered—and full!”

“You went above and beyond to make this date night feel special, and I loved every minute of it. The card
and gift were such a thoughtful touch. Thank you!”

Method

Give her compliments.

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Compliments will make your girlfriend feel seen and valued. Give her a detailed compliment that goes
above and beyond “good job” or “you look nice today.” Tell her why you think she looks great or what
makes her special to you.[5] Hearing a heartfelt compliment from you will make her day![6]

“I love that shirt on you, babe. You always look amazing in green!”

“Dinner tonight was delicious. You’re a better chef than anybody else I know!”

“I love having conversations with you. You’re so thoughtful and creative, and you introduce me to new
perspectives all the time."

Method

Ask about her life.

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Show her that you're interested in her work, social life, and well-being. Taking the time to talk about her
everyday life will mean a lot to her and communicate that you genuinely. She’ll feel even more
appreciated if you remember her words in later conversations.[7]

Make it a habit to ask her, “How was your day?” or send a text on days when you don’t see one another
face-to-face.

Show particular interest in things that you know she values. Ask her how a work project is coming along
or what she’s been learning in her painting class. For example, “You mentioned last week that you were
thinking of applying for a promotion. Is that still in the works? You deserve it—you’re such a hard
worker!”

Method

Be her biggest advocate.

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Offer your girlfriend support during both good times and bad. Be there to talk through problems with
her and give encouragement when she needs it. Reassure her you’ll always there to help her in whatever
capacity she needs. She'll feel appreciated and supported.[8]

“Your goals matter to me, and I want to help you meet them however I can. I believe you can do
anything you set your mind to!”

“I know you’ve been having a tough time at work, but you've got this! If you want to vent or talk it over
with me, I’m happy to help however I can.”
Method

Ask her for advice.

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Prove to your girlfriend that you trust her and value her ideas. Tell her things you would only share with
someone close to you, like childhood secrets or dilemmas you're facing in the present, and ask for her
thoughts.[9] When you make it clear that she’s someone you trust more than other people in your life,
she’ll also feel appreciated.

“I’m having lunch with my cousin this week and feel conflicted. Something happened when we were kids
that I can't forget. Could we talk about it?”

“My roommates have been driving me crazy lately and I don’t know how to talk to them about it. I’d like
to talk the problem over with you, and I trust you to keep this just between us.”

Method

Support her dreams and celebrate her successes.

Image titled Show Appreciation for Your Girlfriend in Words Step 7

Tell her you're proud of her whenever she accomplishes her goals. If your girlfriend is working on herself
personally or professionally, congratulate her each time she takes an important step. Let her know how
proud you are and that her hard work is inspiring.[10] For example:

“Congratulations on your promotion! I’m so proud of you. Can I take you out for a little celebration?”

“I’m so proud of you for finally talking things out with your mom! I know your relationship has been
bothering you lately, and you were brave to step up and say something.”

Method

Tell her that you miss her.

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Make sure your girlfriend knows that you feel her absence. Either send her a text, call her, or schedule a
video call to tell her how different life feels when you're apart. You can also randomly tell her you miss
her, even if you just saw her yesterday! She'll appreciate both gestures.[11]
After you see her, you could send a text saying, “I miss you already! 😘”

When you haven’t seen her for a few days, text her, “I miss seeing your gorgeous face. 😍 Wanna meet
up this weekend?”

You could also say, “I didn’t know it was possible to miss someone this much, but I feel it when you’re
not here. I can’t wait for our next date! ❤️”

Method

Offer to help her with chores.

Image titled Show Appreciation for Your Girlfriend in Words Step 9

Lighten her workload as a gesture of appreciation. If she's been working hard or she's feeling stressed,
ask if you can handle a chore that she might normally do or run an errand for her.[12] If you offer
without her having to ask you for help, she'll feel seen and appreciated.[13]

“You’ve been working hard lately. Can I handle washing dishes for the week so that you can rest?”

“I know you usually walk the dog in the evenings, but your favorite show is on now! Can I take the dog
out so you can relax and watch it?”

Method

10

Write her a short handwritten note.

Image titled Show Appreciation for Your Girlfriend in Words Step 10

Surprise her by leaving a sweet note in her purse, car, or lunch bag. You could thank her, compliment her,
or just tell her how much you care. Handwritten notes are particularly endearing because they take time
and thought to complete, which will make your girlfriend feel extra appreciated.[14]

You might write, "You make me feel like the luckiest guy on earth" or "You're going to slay that exam
today. I love you."

If you find it difficult to open up emotionally face-to-face, take the first step by writing her a longer note.
It will be easier to express yourself on paper, and you can still be vulnerable with your girlfriend.

Method

11

Tell her “I love you.”

Make sure your girlfriend knows just how special she is to you. You may not feel ready to say “I love you”
yet, and that’s perfectly okay. There are other phrases you can use without using the “L” word. If you do
say “I love you” to your girlfriend, find other phrases to add some variety.[15]

“I’m crazy about you!”

“You’re my favorite person to spend time with.”

“I’m grateful to have a best friend AND partner.”

“You make me so happy!”

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↑Jin S. Kim, MA. Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 14 May 2019.
↑https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-health/cultivating-happiness.htm

↑Jin S. Kim, MA. Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 14 May 2019.

↑https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/between-you-and-me/202106/3-ways-improve-how-you-
say-thank-you-your-partner

↑Jin S. Kim, MA. Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 14 May 2019.

↑https://ideas.ted.com/the-secret-to-giving-a-compliment-that-makes-people-glow/

↑https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-health/cultivating-happiness.htm

↑https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/life-refracted/201705/52-ways-show-i-love-you-
cheerleading

↑https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotional-fitness/201712/10-ways-show-your-partner-
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Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

This article was co-authored by Jin S. Kim, MA and by wikiHow staff writer, Glenn Carreau. Jin Kim is a
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based out of Los Angeles, California. Jin specializes in working
with LGBTQ individuals, people of color, and those that may have challenges related to reconciling
multiple and intersectional identities. Jin received his Masters in Clinical Psychology from Antioch
University Los Angeles, with a specialization in LGBT-Affirming Psychology, in 2015. This article has been
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