Rebt Jurnal

The
Rational Emotive
Behaviour Therapist
Journal of
The Association for Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy
Volume 10 Number 1 2002
CONTENTS
Editorial
Stephen Palmer 3
REBT’s Situational ABC Model

Windy Dryden 4–14
Cognitive and Organisational Models of Stress that are suitable

for use within Workplace Stress Management/Prevention
Coaching, Training and Counselling settings
Stephen Palmer 15–21
Some Innovations in the Teaching of Unconditional

Self-Acceptance and Unconditional Other-Acceptance
Jim Byrne 22–36
Food for Thought: REBT and Other Psychological Approaches

to Obesity
Philip Kinsella 37–44
Index to Volume 9 48
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THE ASSOCIATION FOR
RATIONAL EMOTIVE
BEHAVIOUR THERAPY
Aims:
• To promote and develop the science of Rational Emotive Behaviour
Therapy (REBT)
• To maintain a register of members
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therapy and other relevant organisations
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professional activities
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of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy
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for the purposes of distributing information and advancing the objects
of the Association and keeping members and others informed on
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professional development of members and other professionals
• To carry on all such activities as may be conducive to the afore-
mentioned aims
President Professor Windy Dryden

Chair Professor Stephen Palmer
Vice Chair Gladeana McMahon
Hon. Secretary John Blackburn
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Council Member Michael Neenan
Co-Editors, The Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapist Michael Neenan and
Professor Stephen Palmer
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The Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapist Vol 10 No 1 (2002)
Journal of The Association for Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy
Editorial
Ten volumes reflecting UK REBT
Stephen Palmer
Co-Editor
Another year, another journal. Welcome to Volume 10 of The Rational

Emotive Behaviour Therapist. This journal is the main publication of The
Association for Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy, formerly The
Association for Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapists, and has reflected
the work of many of our members over the years. We continue to publish
state of the art articles and papers written by well-known REBTers.
This year has been very eventful for the Association. We became a
company limited by guarantee and held a stimulating Continuing
Professional Development (CPD) event on the day of our Annual General
Meeting. Recently we achieved one of our very early goals as we now have
our first United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy registered REBT
psychotherapists. They were registered via the Association and not through
other psychotherapy bodies.
Next year we can celebrate ten years of the Association. We are
hoping to have a bumper international edition of this journal with authors
from as far as the antipodes. And, of course, we can run more CPD events.
Season’s Greetings.
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Windy Dryden
Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT) is an approach to

counselling that can be placed firmly in the cognitive-behavioural tradition
of psychotherapy, meaning that it particularly focuses on the way that we
think and behave when understanding our emotional responses. REBT
was founded in 1955 by Dr Albert Ellis, an American clinical psychologist
who brought together his interests in philosophy and psychology which
are still present in this approach over 45 years on. One of the hallmarks of
REBT is that it holds that people can be taught and can learn the principles
of good mental health.
In this article, I will present a situational version of REBT’s ‘ABC’
model that Albert Ellis REBT first introduced over 45 years ago. There have
been many versions of the ABC model (e.g. Grieger & Boyd, 1980; Walen,
DiGiuseppe & Dryden, 1992; Wessler & Wessler, 1980; Woods) and before I
present my situational ABC model, let me summarise its main features:
• It roots the ABC components in a specific situational context, thus
underscoring that people tend to disturb themselves most in specific
situational contexts:
• It puts forward the view that the A that triggers B is best described as
the critical A
• It thus distinguishes between a critical A and the situation in which the
critical A occurs
• It makes clear that Cs can be emotional, behavioural and cognitive in
nature
• It is very explicit in differentiating rational beliefs from irrational beliefs
by making clear the different components of each
• It does not intend to be comprehensive and thus, for example, does not
deal with core irrational beliefs and their core rational equivalents. It does
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not do so because these core beliefs are general in nature and span different
situational contexts.
I will briefly describe the model in basic form before discussing each
element in greater detail.
‘Situation’:
We do not react in a vacuum. Rather, we think, feel and act in specific
situations. The term ‘situation’ in the ‘ABC’ model refers to a descriptive
account of the actual event to which we respond emotionally and
behaviourally.
‘A’ = Critical activating event:
Within this specific situation, when we have a significant emotional
reaction it is usually to a key or critical aspect of this situation. This is known
as the critical activating event (henceforth known as the critical A).
‘B’ = Belief:
It is a major premise of REBT that while our emotions are usually
about a critical A, this A does not cause our emotional reaction. Rather, our
emotions are primarily determined by the beliefs that we hold about the
critical A.
‘C’ = Consequences of the beliefs at B about the activating event at
A (there are three such consequences: emotional, behavioural and thinking).
When you hold a belief about a critical A, you will tend to experience
an emotion, you will tend to act in a certain way and you will tend to think
in certain ways. These three consequences of this A x B interaction are
known as emotional, behavioural and thinking consequences respectively.
Let me now discuss each of these elements in greater detail.
Situation
As I said earlier, emotional episodes do not take place in a vacuum.
Rather they occur in specific ‘situations’. Such ‘situations’ are viewed in
the ‘situational ABC’ model as descriptions of actual events about which
you form inferences (see below). ‘Situations’ exist in time. Thus they can
describe past actual events (e.g. My boss asked me to see her at the end of
the day), present actual events (e.g. My boss is asking me to see her at the
end of the day) or future events (e.g. My boss will ask me to see her at the
end of the day). Note that I have not referred to such future events as future
actual events since we do not know that such events will occur and this is
why such future events may prove to be false. But if we look at such future
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‘situations’, they are still descriptions of what may happen and do not add
inferential meaning (see below).
‘Situations’ may refer to internal actual events (i.e. events that occur
within ourselves, e.g. thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, aches and pains,
etc.) or to external actual events (i.e. events that occur outside ourselves,
e.g. your boss asking to see you). Their defining characteristic is as before:
they are descriptions of events and do not include inferential meaning.
‘A’
As I said above, ‘A’ stands for a critical activating event. This is the
aspect of the situation about which you experience an emotional reaction.
Let me make a number of points about ‘A’.
i) An ‘A’ is usually an inference and needs to be differentiated from the ‘situation’ or
actual event about which it is made.
An inference is basically an interpretation or hunch about the
‘situation’, whereas the ‘situation’ is purely descriptive. Let me provide
you with an example to make this distinction clear.
Imagine that you receive a message from your boss to the effect that
she wants to see you at the end of the day. You think that this means that
she is going to criticise your work. The situation or actual event here is:
‘My boss wants to see me at the end of the day’, while your ‘A’ is: ‘My boss
is going to criticise my work’. As can be seen from this example the ‘situation’
is a description of the facts of the matter whereas the ‘A’ is a critical or key
inference that you have made about the ‘situation’. It is critical because it is
the aspect of the situation to which you have an emotional response. When
you have a significant emotional response to an event or ‘situation’, the ‘A’
represents the personalised inferential meaning that you give to the
situation.
ii) Inferences that usually comprise the ‘A’ can be true or false and as such when
you make an inference you need to evaluate it against the available evidence.
In the above example, it may be true that your boss is going to criticise
your work when you go to see her at the end of the working day or it may
be false. All you can do is to consider the available evidence and come up
with the ‘best bet’ about what is going to happen at the meeting with the
boss. This involves considering such factors as: a) what has happened in
the past when your boss has asked to see you; b) the quality of the work
that you recently submitted to your boss; and c) how critical or otherwise
your boss is in general.
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iii) An ‘A’ can also be about a past, present or future event.

When you have an ‘A’ about a past, present or future ‘situation’ or
actual event you give that event inferential meaning. Thus:
Past ‘situation’ = My boyfriend did not return my call
‘A’ about past ‘situation’ = This proves that he doesn’t care for me
Present ‘situation’ = My father is discussing the value of saving regularly
‘A’ about present ‘situation’ = My father is criticising me for overspending
Future ‘situation’ = The hospital will contact me with the results of my
blood test
‘A’ about future ‘situation’ = The blood test will show that I am ill.
iv) An ‘A’ can be about an event external to you or about an event internal to you.
The defining characteristic of this ‘A’ is again its inferential nature.
For example:
External ‘situation’ = Letter with a cheque in it has gone missing
‘A’ about external ‘situation’ = Somebody has stolen my cheque
Internal ‘situation’ = Intrusive thought about hitting someone
‘A’ about internal ‘situation’ = I am losing control
‘B’
Beliefs are attitudes which can be rational (or healthy) or irrational
(or unhealthy). You can hold beliefs about descriptive ‘situations’, but more
often you will hold beliefs about the critical ‘A’s that you make about this
more objective ‘situation’.
Rational Beliefs
REBT argues that there are four basic rational beliefs which have
the following five major characteristics:
a) flexible or non-extreme
b) conducive to your mental health
c) helpful to you as you strive towards your goals
d) true
e) logical
Now let me discuss the four rational beliefs put forward by REBT
theory.
i) Full preference
Human beings have desires and for desires to be the cornerstone of
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healthy functioning, they take the form of a full preference. A full preference
has two components. The first component is called the asserted preference.
Here you make clear to yourself what you want (either what you want to
happen or exist or what you want not to happen or exist). The second
component is called the ‘negated demand’. Here you acknowledge that
what you want to occur or exist does not have to occur or exist.
In short, we have:
Full preference = ‘asserted preference’ component + ‘negated
demand’ component
ii) Non-awfulising belief
When your full preference is not met it is healthy for you to conclude
that it is bad that you have not got what you wanted. It is not healthy to be
indifferent about not getting what you desire. As with a full preference, a
non-awfulising belief has two components. The first component may be
called ‘asserted badness’. Here you acknowledge that it is bad that you
have not got what you want or that you have got what you don’t want.
The second component is called ‘negated awfulising’. Here you
acknowledge that while it is bad when you don’t get your desires met it is
not awful, terrible or the end of the world.
In short, we have:
Non-awfulising belief = ‘Asserted badness’ component + ‘Negated
awfulising’ component
iii) High frustration tolerance (HFT) belief
When your full preference is not met it is healthy for you to conclude
that it is difficult for you to tolerate not getting what you want, but that
you can tolerate it. An HFT belief also has three components. The first
component may be called ‘asserted struggle’ because you recognise that it
is a struggle to put up with not getting what you want. The second component
is called ‘negated unbearability’. Here you acknowledge that while it is a
struggle to tolerate not getting your desires met it is not intolerable. The third
component is called the ‘worth tolerating’ component and points to the fact
that not only can you tolerate not getting what you want, it is worth doing so.
In short, we have:
High frustration tolerance belief = ‘Asserted struggle’ component +
‘Negated unbearability’ component + ‘Worth tolerating’ component
iv) Acceptance belief
When your full preference is not met it is healthy for you to accept
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this state of affairs. There are three types of acceptance belief: a self-
acceptance belief where you accept yourself for not meeting your desires
or for not having them met; an other-acceptance belief where you accept
another person or other people for not meeting your desires and an
acceptance of life conditions belief where you accept life conditions when
they don’t meet your desires.
There are three components to an acceptance belief which I will
illustrate with reference to a self-acceptance belief. The first component is
called the ‘negatively evaluated aspect’ component. Here you recognise
when you have not met your desires or that your desires have not been
met by others or by life conditions and you evaluate this particular aspect
negatively. The second component is called the ‘negated global negative
evaluation’ component. Here you acknowledge that while you may have
acted badly, for example or experienced a bad event, the whole of you is
not bad. The third component is called the ‘asserted complex fallibility’
component. Whereas in the second component you negated the view that
you are a bad person, for example, here you assert what you are: a complex
fallible human being.
In short, we have:
Acceptance belief = ‘Negatively evaluated aspect’ component +
‘Negated global negative evaluation’ component + ‘Asserted complex
fallibility’ component
Irrational Beliefs
REBT argues that there are four basic irrational beliefs which have
the following five major characteristics:
a) rigid or extreme
b) conducive to psychological disturbance
c) unhelpful to you as you strive towards your goals
d) false
e) illogical
Now let me discuss the four irrational beliefs put forward by REBT
theory.
i) Demand
REBT theory holds that when you take your desires and turn them
into rigid demands, absolute necessities, musts, absolute shoulds and the
like, you make yourself emotionally disturbed when you don’t get what
you believe you must. Even when you do get what you believe you must,
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you are still vulnerable to emotional disturbance when you hold a rigid
demand at the point when you become aware that you might lose what
you have and need.
A rigid demand has two components. The first is known as the
asserted preference and is the same as the asserted preference component
of a full preference. Again, you make clear to yourself what you want (either
what you want to happen or exist or what you want not to happen or
exist). The second component is called the ‘asserted demand’. Here you
take what you want and you turn it into a ‘rigid demand’ (e.g. ‘I want to do
well in my examination and therefore I have to do so’).
In short, we have:
Rigid demand = ‘asserted preference’ component + ‘asserted
demand’ component
ii) Awfulising belief

When your rigid demand is not met then you will tend to make the
extreme conclusion that it is awful, horrible, terrible or the end of the world
that you haven’t got what you insist you must have. As with a non-
awfulising belief. an awfulising belief has two components. The first
component is the same as that in the anti-awfulising belief – ‘asserted
badness’. Here you acknowledge that it is bad that you have not got what
you want or that you have got what you don’t want. The second component
is called ‘asserted awfulising’. Here you transform your non-extreme
evaluation of badness and transform it into an extreme evaluation of horror
(e.g. ‘Because it would be bad if I were to fail my exam, it would be horrible
were I to do so’).
In short, we have:
Awfulising belief = ‘Asserted badness’ component + ‘Asserted
awfulising’ component
iii) Low frustration tolerance (LFT) belief

When your rigid demand is not met, you will tend to make the
extreme conclusion that you cannot bear not getting what you demand.
Unlike an HFT belief which has three components, An LFT belief tends to
have only two components. The first component is again known as the
‘asserted struggle’ because you recognise that it is a struggle to put up with
not getting what you must. The second component is called ‘asserted
unbearability’. Here you acknowledge that it is not just a struggle to put
up with not getting your demand met, it is intolerable. Since you think
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that you cannot put up with not getting your demand met the issue of
whether or not it is worth tolerating does not become an issue. You can’t
tolerate it and that’s that.
In short, we have:
Low frustration tolerance belief = ‘Asserted struggle’ component +
‘Asserted unbearability’ component
iv) Depreciation belief

When your rigid demands are not met you will tend to depreciate
yourself, depreciate others or depreciate life conditions. Thus, there are
three types of depreciation belief: a self-depreciation belief where you
depreciate yourself for not meeting your demands or for not having them
met; an other-depreciation belief where you depreciate another person or
other people for not meeting your demands and a depreciation of life
conditions belief where you depreciate life conditions when they don’t meet
your demands.
There are two components to a depreciation belief which I will
illustrate with reference to a self-depreciation belief. The first component
is called the ‘negatively evaluated aspect’ component. Here you recognise
when you have not met your demands or that your demands have not
been met by others or by life conditions and you evaluate this particular
aspect negatively. The second component is called the ‘asserted global
negative evaluation’ component. Here you give yourself a global negative
rating for not meeting your demands, for example. Thus, you may
acknowledge that you have acted badly and then evaluate yourself as a
bad person for acting badly.
In short, we have:
Depreciation belief = ‘Negatively evaluated aspect’ component +
‘Asserted global negative evaluation’ component
‘C’
‘C’ stands for the consequences that you experience when you hold
a belief at ‘B’ about ‘A’. There are three major consequences which I will
consider separately, but which in reality occur together.
Emotional ‘C’s
When your critical ‘A’ is negative and you hold a set of rational beliefs
at ‘B’ about this ‘A’, your emotional ‘C’ will be negative but healthy. Yes,
that’s right; negative emotions can be healthy. Thus, when you face a threat,
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it is healthy to feel concerned and when you have experienced a loss, it is
healthy to feel sad. Other healthy negative emotions (so called because
they feel unpleasant but help you to deal constructively with negative life
events) are: remorse, disappointment, sorrow, healthy anger, healthy
jealousy and healthy envy.
When your critical ‘A’ is negative, but this time you hold a set of
irrational beliefs at ‘B’ about this ‘A’, your emotional ‘C’ will be negative
and unhealthy. Thus, when you face a threat, it is unhealthy to feel anxious
and when you have experienced a loss, it is unhealthy to feel depressed. Other
unhealthy negative emotions (so called because they feel unpleasant and they
interfere with you dealing constructively with negative life events) are: guilt,
shame, hurt, unhealthy anger, unhealthy jealousy and unhealthy envy.
Behavioural ‘C’s
at ‘B’ about this ‘A’, your behavioural ‘C’ is likely to be constructive. Such
behaviour is constructive in three ways. First, it will help you to change the
negative event that you are facing if it can be changed. Second, it will help
you to make a healthy adjustment if the event cannot be changed and third
it will help you to go forward and make progress at achieving your goals.
When your critical ‘A’ is negative, but this time you hold set of
irrational beliefs at ‘B’ about this ‘A’, your behavioural ‘C’ is likely to be
unconstructive. Such behaviour is unconstructive in three ways. First, it
won’t help you to change the negative event that you are facing if it can be
changed. Indeed, such unconstructive behaviour will often make a bad
situation worse. Second, it will prevent you from making a healthy
adjustment if the event cannot be changed and third it will take you away
from pursuing your goals.
Thinking ‘C’s
at ‘B’ about this ‘A’, your subsequent thinking (or thinking ‘C’) is likely to be
constructive. Such thinking is constructive in two ways. First, it is realistic
and allows you to deal with probable outcomes. Second, it is balanced and
recognises, for example that you will get a range of positive, neutral and
negative responses to your behaviour. As a result these thinking ‘C’s enable
you to respond constructively to realistically perceived situations.
When your critical ‘A’ is negative, but this time you hold a set of
irrational beliefs at ‘B’ about this ‘A’, your subsequent thinking (or thinking
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‘C’) is likely to be unconstructive. Such thinking is unconstructive in two

ways. First, it is unrealistic in that you will tend to predict the occurrence
of low probability, highly aversive outcomes. Second, it is skewed in that
you think, for example, that most people will respond to you negatively, a
few may respond to you neutrally but nobody will respond to you
positively. As a result these thinking ‘C’s interfere with your ability to
respond constructively to realistically perceived situations.
Summary
Let me summarise below what I have discussed in this article.
Situational ABC Model of Psychological Health
Situation = Objectively described event
Negative Critical ‘A’ = Aspect of the situation to which your respond
emotionally, behaviourally and cognitively
‘B’: Rational belief = Full preference
Non-awfulising belief
High frustration tolerance belief
Acceptance belief
‘C’ = Consequences
Emotional (healthy negative)
Behavioural (constructive)
Thinking (realistic and balanced)
Situational ABC Model of Psychological Disturbance
Situation = Objectively described event
Negative Critical ‘A’ = Aspect of the situation to which your respond
emotionally, behaviourally and cognitively
‘B’: Irrational belief = Demand
Awfulising belief
Low frustration tolerance belief
Depreciation belief
‘C’ = Consequences
Emotional (unhealthy negative)
Behavioural (unconstructive)
Thinking (unrealistic and skewed)
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New York: Van Nostrand Reinhold.
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Walen SR, DiGiuseppe R & Dryden W (1992). A Practitioner’s Guide to
Rational-emotive Therapy. Second edition. New York: Oxford University Press.
Wessler RA & Wessler RL (1980). The Principles and Practice of Rational-emotive
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Woods PJ (1991). Orthodox RET taught effectively with graphics, feedback
on irrational beliefs, a structured homework series, and models of
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practitioner’s guide. New York: Plenum.
Correspondence
Windy Dryden, Goldsmiths College, New Cross, London, UK.
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Cognitive and Organisational Models of Stress
Cognitive and Organisational Models of

Stress that are suitable for use within
Workplace Stress Management/Prevention
Coaching, Training and Counselling settings
Stephen Palmer
Abstract
In the United Kingdom (UK), the Health and Safety Executive (2001)
published guidelines on workplace stress prevention. Rational Emotive
Behavioural Coaching and Training (REBCT) is a psycho-educational model
which is suitable for corporate stress management and stress prevention
workshops and seminars (Palmer, 1995a,b; Neenan and Palmer, 2001). This
paper highlights two models of stress that are suitable for use within REBCT
stress management workshops.
Introduction
Since the mid 1990s, there have been many incidents of work-related
stress (WRS) cases in the UK, costing employers many hundreds of
thousands of pounds in compensation payouts, not including the legal costs
(Palmer, 1995b). Hence, employers have become far more motivated to
tackle WRS. However, there is still a tendency to tackle WRS at the level of
the individual and not at the organisational level.
There are three levels of organisational interventions:
Primary: Remove hazard or reduce employees’ exposure to it or its impact
on them, e.g. risk assessment, stress audits, job redesign, restructuring,
improved communications;
Secondary: Improve the organisation’s ability to recognise and deal with
stress related problems as they occur, e.g. health promotion policies, training
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(stress/time/assertion), coaching, reward orientated management style,
healthy lifestyle;
Tertiary: Help employees cope with and recover from work related
problems, e.g. stress counselling, medication, surgery, outplacement
counselling, employee assistance programmes.
Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT) and REBCT based
stress management interventions, which concentrate on the employees’
appraisal of situations/potential stressors, and irrational/unhelpful beliefs
are useful at both the second and third intervention levels (Ellis et al, 1997).
However, preventing employees from becoming stressed in the first place
would be one of the main goals for using REBCT in organisations, as well
as being able to recognise the true source of stress (i.e. whether the pressures
come from an internal or external source) (Palmer, 1995b). At the primary
level, those employees who hold inflexible and rigid beliefs, especially about
performing extremely well under all conditions, are more likely to suffer
from higher levels of stress than employees who hold more flexible beliefs
and realistic standards. For example, ‘perfectionists’ tend to be less
productive and attain lower standards of work due to their anxiety about
failing (Palmer, 1995b).
ABCDEF Model
When teaching the REBCT model of stress and stress management
it is recommended to concentrate not only on the usual ABCDE part of
Albert Ellis’s now famous model of emotional disturbance (Ellis et al, 1997),
but also to include the focus on the future (F), in other words, what the
employee has learnt from the process to ensure that they are less likely to
become stressed by a similar event in the future. This is one of the important
aspects of stress prevention as opposed to stress management. In the UK,
the HSE (2001) focus on the prevention or elimination of WRS hazards
rather than their management so it is crucial that coaches, consultants,
trainers and therapists who are working across primary, secondary and
tertiary intervention levels are aware of this issue.
Figure 1 is the ABCDEF model of stress, stress management and stress
prevention that is used within the REBCT psycho-educational approach
for organisational work (Palmer, 2001; Palmer, 2002).
Strictly speaking, the usual five column ABCDE forms used within
REBT are not accurate according to the model of stress depicted in Figure 1
because at ‘C’, the consequences include the psychological response.
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FIGURE 1
Model of Stress & Stress Management

A- Activating event/demand (internal or external)
B- Beliefs or perceptions about event
C- Consequences: psychological, behavioural & physiological
D- Disputation of beliefs and perceptions
E-Effective, new approach to dealing with the activating event/demand
F- Focus remains on personal or work goals and

learning process may protect against future stress
© Stephen Palmer, 2002
Normally within REBT, these are noted as unhealthy emotions such as

anxiety or damning anger. However, in reality, the psychological response
includes the unhelpful (irrational) beliefs triggered, not by the ‘A’ but by
the negative perceptions at ‘B’ relating to ‘A’. This is clearly depicted in
Figure 2. Often the individual awfulises at ‘B’ as they perceive the situation
as threatening (e.g. ‘Oh no’; ‘Oh God’; ‘Oh shit’). The awfulising is often
summarised in one or two words. It is interesting to note that awfulising
would be considered a derivative in REBT theory as it is derived from a
rigid demand (Ellis et al, 1997). However, this model of stress would imply
that the immediate cognitions are more likely to be a so-called derivative
and not a demand such as ‘I must perform well’, which tend to be activated
later in the stress sequence. Assuming the person perceives the situation at
‘A’ as threatening at ‘B’, only then do they trigger the full stress response at
‘C’, the psychological, behavioural and physiological consequences. This
is easy to demonstrate to individuals either in one-to-one coaching/therapy
or in group stress management by connecting a person up to a Galvanic
Skin Response (GSR) biofeedback monitor. They are asked to think of a
previous stress scenario and as they imagine the situation in their mind’s
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FIGURE 2
Stress m anagem ent and prevention

program m e
A- ‘Im p ortan t’ deadline (m ay or m ay not be true)
B - O h no ! I wo n’t reach th e dead lin e
C - P sych olo gical : I m u st rea ch th e dea dli ne o the rw is e I’m a fai lu r e, it’s aw ful , I c an’t stan d it;
ver y an xio u s. B eh avi ou r : p r ocr a sti nate s. Ph ysi ol o gical : f atig u e, ear ly awa kening
D- Disp utation of beliefs and percep tio ns

u sing evi dence, lo gic an d p ragm atic ism
E -Effective, new ap pr oach: g oal focused bel iefs relating to per formi ng
well; con cer n n ot anxiety; ‘r eal’ actio n no t pro crasti nation; no fatig u e
F- F oc us rem ains o n work g oals. Fu ture focus - L earn s not

to rig idly dem an d a ‘perfect’ per for man ce fro m self
© Stephen P almer, 2002
eye, the very first words that they report using are usually awfulising. In
under a second, the GSR responds. This is a very persuasive demonstration
that shows the cognitive model of stress in action and the importance of
‘D’, the disputation of unhelpful (irrational) beliefs at both ‘B’ and ‘C’.
Once the model of stress has been explained, the stress management,
coaching or therapy then progresses in the usual REBT manner (see Palmer
et al, 1998; Neenan and Palmer, 2001a,b).
Palmer (1995a,b) found that some of the key unhelpful (irrational)
beliefs that triggered stress in employees were:
Demands:
• I must do better
• You must treat me better
• My working conditions must be better
• People must like me
Derivatives:
• I won’t do well and that would be awful
• I can’t stand my working conditions
• If people don’t like me, I am pretty worthless
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Palmer (1995b:52) reported that attendees of a stress management

workshop found the following techniques and strategies useful in reducing
stress:
• Learning about stress and discussing it with colleagues
• Learning to ‘de-awfulise’ stressful situations using the 0 to 99.99%
badness scale
• Learning not to rate themselves by their actions using the ‘Big I, little I’
dispute
• Learning how to become less ‘musty ’, i.e. relinquishing their
musturbatory beliefs
• Recognising and challenging ‘all-or-nothing’ thinking
• Learning and using relaxation techniques including imagery techniques
• Realising that the company will still go on after their own death and
the latter would go almost unnoticed by senior management anyway
Recently, Palmer ran a workshop which was attended by some of
the original delegates from the organisation referred to in this case study
(at least eight years on). Two out of three of the delegates were still using
the cognitive techniques and the relaxation exercise. They were able to teach
the cognitive techniques to the new managers in the group who
had observed their calmness in a typical stressful work environment.
However, this is only an anecdotal report from Palmer and elicited by a
group discussion with the course delegates so should be treated with
caution.
Organisational model of stress

In the UK, as the HSE (2001) have developed a recommended
approach to tackling WRS, it is important to educate managers, supervisors
and other relevant staff with an organisational model of stress. In fact, it is
ill-advised only to promote a cognitive model of stress as it does not place
the legal burden of responsibility upon the employer to tackle organisational
hazards. A suitable model of stress was developed by Palmer and Cooper
(Palmer, 2001; Palmer et al, 2001) who have incorporated the information
from the HSE (2001) guide. The seven key stress-related potential hazards
reported by the HSE have been included (see Figure 3). The HSE
recommend that a five-step WRS risk assessment is undertaken to assess
and deal with these hazards. These issues can be discussed during a stress
management or prevention workshop with managers and other relevant
staff attending.
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FIGURE 3
M odel of Work Stress © Palm er & C ooper 2001

Potential H azard
az ardss Sym ptom s of Stress Neg ative
Negative F inan
ina ncial
cial
In d iv id u al sym pto m s Ou tco mes

Outcom es Cost
C ulture •Raised blo od press ure (1995-- 6)
(1995
•Co ro nary he ar t
•S leep & gas troint estinal d isease
D em a nds disturbanc es •RS I
E •Increased alc oho l •Clin ical anxiety £3 .75 bn
a nd/or caffeine and dep ression
C ontrol M a nd/or nicotine intake •Bu rn out
P •Increased irritability &
negative emotions
R ole L •B ac k pains; tens ion
•P alpitations; headac hes
O Or g an is atio n al
C hang e Y sym p to m s •Increased over-
head s
•Increased s ick ne ss e.g. recru iting ,
E ab senc e tr ainin g £ 370 m
R elations hips •Long hours c ulture
E •Increased staff turnover
•Red uced pro fits
•Increased
S •Reduc ed staff
performa nc e
accid ents
S upp ort •Increased
•Reduc ed staff morale & litig atio n
loyalty
•Increased hostilit y
© Stephen P almer, 2002
Conclusion
This paper introduced two models of stress and stress management/
prevention that can be used by suitably trained consultants, coaches,
trainers, counsellors, facilitators and therapists. The use of the organisational
model of stress is appropriate for the UK as it corresponds to the HSE (2001)
document relating to WRS. In the light of the recent developments in the
UK regarding WRS it may be an error in organisational stress management
workshops not to include the legal responsibility that employers, including
managers, have towards their staff regarding WRS. Palmer and Cooper ’s
model of stress emphasises these responsibilities. There is little published
research on the effectiveness of cognitive stress prevention techniques
taught to a non-clinical population. This is an area that needs further research
to back up the claims of the many optimistic stress management practitioners.
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Emotive Behavior Approach. New York: Springer Publishing.
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Guide to Improving and Maintaining Employee Health and Well-being. Sudbury:
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behavioural approach to coaching, counselling and training. Paper given
at ISMA’s ‘The Changing Face of Stress Management’ conference, London,
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The Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapist, 6(1), 4–17.
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380.
Correspondence
Professor Stephen Palmer, Centre for Rational Emotive Behaviour
Therapy, 156 Westcombe Hill, London SE3 7DH, UK. Email:
[email protected]
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Some Innovations in the Teaching of

Unconditional Self-Acceptance and
Unconditional Other-Acceptance
Jim Byrne
Introduction
In this article, I will review the process that I went through when
learning how to teach Unconditional Self- and Other-Acceptance (USA/
UOA). In addition, I will outline some innovations which I created.
Background
When I began my private practice as an REBT therapist, in January
1999, I was concerned about the question of how to teach Unconditional
Self- and Other-Acceptance (USA/UOA). I had, of course, studied Ellis (1962/
91 and 1994), Dryden (1996) and Miller (1994). The main teaching points
that I wanted to present to my clients were as follows:
• Never rate your ‘self ’. Only rate your acts and your deeds. (To ‘rate’
yourself means to ‘esteem’ yourself. ‘Esteem’ and ‘estimate’ have the same
Latin root – estimare, meaning ‘to put a price on’! How can you put a price
on your aliveness, your ‘you-ness’? You can’t!)
• Give up demanding that you must be loved, liked or accepted. Only prefer
to have those results. You won’t die if you are unloved or unaccepted.
• Get rid of your perfectionistic goals and aims. It is normally good to aim
high, because it normally benefits you. It is therefore sensible to go for
effectiveness, efficiency, success, and so on. However, this is a reason to
prefer good performances from yourself. It does not justify demanding such
performances.
• When other people look down on your acts, traits and so on, do not
make the mistake of thinking that they are looking down on ‘you’. They
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Some Innovations in the Teaching of USA and UOA
can’t even see ‘you’ – meaning your essence or aliveness. They can only see
some of the results of some of your acts, deeds and traits, etc. It is OK for
them, and you, to be disappointed by your performances, traits, or whatever
they (and you) are looking down upon. But it will harm you, by overly
upsetting you, if you identify those performances with your essence; your
‘you-ness’.
• If you break your own moral code, or fail to live up to it, then that is just
tough stuff. It’s not the end of the world! The fact that you have a moral
code, and try to live up to it, makes you a normal human. The fact that you
sometimes fail to live up to your moral code, or even that you sometimes
actively and knowingly break it, is further evidence that you are a fallible,
error-prone human. Making yourself feel guilty about such failings will
not improve the situation. If you stick to your preferential philosophy – of
wanting, wishing, desiring, etc. – you will only feel remorse, which will
allow you to also feel ‘self ’ confident, and to plan to act better in the future.
(If you feel guilty, then you are ‘should-ing’ on yourself. You’d better give
up all absolute ‘shoulds’ about your preferences and wishes, and about
your moral code.)
• When significant others act against your best interests, or criticise or
castigate you, be alert. Don’t conclude that they should not have done this,
and that this makes you a pitiable victim, and the world a rotten place, because
that will produce depressive hurt in your body and mind. Instead, tell yourself
this: ‘I am disappointed that they deal with me in this regrettable way –
which they should have done – but it does not say anything about my ‘self ’,
or essence at all! I am disappointed, but not hurt!’ (For a series of questions
on disputing ‘shoulds’, see Appendix ‘B’ of Byrne [2001]).
• Give up all forms of ego anxiety. If your ‘ego’ is threatened, then a story
you made up about yourself is what is being threatened. (Note: This was the
point at which I began to realise that it might be difficult to teach this subject,
because the human ego is a selective extract from part of the individual’s personal
history. It’s their story about who they think they ‘are’! And it’s always largely
fictional! But since they are identified with their ego image, they think their
ego image ‘is’ they themselves!) What can anyone accurately say about
your ‘self ’? Only this: You seem to have what Erwin (1997) suggests could
be called ‘a virtual self’; it seems to comprise ‘aliveness’ (Ellis, 1962, p. 148),
and a ‘capacity to be aware’ (Byrne, 2002, pp. 44–46). (Note: Again I noticed
that it would probably be difficult to teach individuals that a part of their
essence is a sense of I-ness, which seems to be present, here and now. [Ellis,
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1962, p. 148]). The ‘self ’ in you is identical to the ‘self ’ in me, and in all
human beings. Therefore, what is there about your real ‘self ’ about which
you’d better be anxious concerning threats and dangers? There isn’t
anything to be anxious about! Your essence cannot be affected, sullied,
shrunken, deformed, distorted, dulled, dampened, or otherwise assailed
or assaulted. It is beyond danger for all time. (Note: Here I noticed that
there is no visible or ‘concrete’ referent to which the concept of ‘the self ’
refers. This makes it a highly abstract concept, which can be as slippery as
an eel, and difficult to hang on to. [Again, Ellis, 1962, forewarned about
this problem].) It is only if your capacity to form a personal viewpoint
foolishly identifies with your ego image (or self concept), or with negative
aspects of your reputation – rather than identifying with your aliveness and
your capacity to be aware – that you or anyone else can induce anxiety in you
about your ‘identity’.
So, these were my main intended teaching points, and my few
expectations of difficulty.
Problems of teaching USA/UOA

Initially, the vast majority of my clients seemed to find the idea of
unconditional self-acceptance (USA) relatively easy to grasp, and easy to
use in their lives. They quickly got over their problems of ego anxiety, shame,
guilt and depression about personal failings. However, I gradually realised
that a significant minority of clients slipped back to self-rating almost
immediately. During follow up conversations, and reflection on this
problem, I identified three areas of difficulty:
• Firstly, some clients seemed to find the REBT concepts of self and essence
to be so remote from their normal way of thinking about ‘themselves’ that
it wasn’t easy for them to integrate these concepts into their daily thinking.
(See Appendix ‘D’ of Byrne [2002]).
• Secondly, in order to learn these concepts, clients were obliged to learn
how to ‘teach themselves’ to think differently about themselves. This is a
skill area, and proved to be susceptible to the ‘stages of learning a new skill’
– whereby individuals move…
… from being unconscious of the fact that they don’t know how to teach
themselves to think more rationally about themselves …
… to the next stage which is to become consciously incompetent in this area!
(O’Connor and Seymour [1990]). (See Figure 4 below.)
Being at the stage of conscious incompetence is demotivating, and some
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individuals were prone to quit immediately, or quite early on, in order to

avoid the discomfort of experiencing themselves as being ‘incompetent’
and ‘stuck’. (See Appendix ‘F’ of Byrne [2002].)
• Thirdly, I did not have a satisfactory range of teaching aids, including
visual aids, for my teaching role. And especially teaching aids which would
cover the whole range of distinctions related to the ‘self ’. (See Appendices
‘A’, ‘B’, ‘C’ and ‘E’ of Byrne [2002].)
My Solution
Although all three of the problems described above are interrelated,
I set about solving my problems as follows:
(a) Teaching aids: I began by focusing on teaching aids. The first aid that I
found useful was Figure 1, from Palmer (1997). Most of my clients could
immediately see that they were a fallible person, because they do all sorts
of good, bad and indifferent things; and that they could not realistically
ever aim to be a ‘perfect person’.
FIGURE 1: Which one is a real person?
The second aid that I began to use was the OK-corral, from Stewart
and Joines (1991), which is shown in Figure 2. I used this aid to teach clients
to move away from positions 2, 3 and 4, each of which contains a ‘not-OK’
evaluation, of themselves and/or others. I wanted to encourage my clients
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to train themselves to always try to be in ‘box 1’: accepting themselves and
all others as being OK – ‘just because you’re alive, and just because you
choose to accept yourselves and see yourselves as being OK’. (Ellis, 1989.)
FIGURE 2: The OK Corral
I then went back to Palmer (1997) and Ellis et al (1997) and made a
special effort to learn how to use the Big-I/Little-i diagram, as shown in
Figure 3. (Coaching in the use of this diagram is included in the homework
assignment in chapter 4 of Byrne [2002].)
FIGURE 3: The Big-I/Little-i Diagram
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(b) Stages of learning: Once I was using the Big-I/Little-i diagram regularly
and effectively, my success rate increased; but there was still a small minority
of individuals who did not seem to be able to achieve USA; and frequently
UOA, especially for their ex-marriage partners! I then moved on to the
next stage. This is the problem of how clients are to teach themselves the skill
of working at changing their self concept, which is a problem for many
clients; though some are better than others at facing up to the challenge.
For the purpose of helping clients with this problem, I used the model
shown in Figure 4.
FIGURE 4: The Stages of Learning a New Skill
(Inspired by O’Connor and Seymour, 1990. Drawn by Jim Byrne.)
Once clients are made aware of the fact that they are not
unconditionally self-accepting, and that they have not yet succeeded in
applying the ideas we have been discussing, they move up from box 1 to
box 2, in Figure 4. In other words, they become conscious of their own
incompetence in this area. This can clearly become a ‘noxious A’, or a
stimulus which they can use to trigger irrational beliefs about their self-
efficacy; resulting in emotional over-upsets. Regardless of whether the result
is ego-anxiety or discomfort anxiety, or some form of self-downing, one of
the most likely responses is to quit trying to change what they identify with;
to abandon their homework; and to go back to sleep. But, unless they persist
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with the skilled task of trying to learn these new ideas and skills, they will
never make it into box 3. Indeed, if they are ever to change, they have little
choice but to keep moving back and forth between boxes 2 and 3, for quite
a long period of time, before the new learning becomes firmly fixed in their
long term memory. (This is the process of ‘over-learning’.) After a sufficient
amount of repetitive learning, they slip down into box 4. This is when they
become unconsciously competent in managing their self-perceptions, and
can quickly track down the source of any ego upset, and sort it out.
(c) A realistic model of the self: The next stage in the evolution of my approach
came as I realised that, even when they knew the Big-I/Little-i model, some
clients still had difficulty refraining from rating themselves and significant
others – especially difficult spouses or partners, and hostile ex-spouses or
ex-partners. Gradually it dawned on me that some of these clients seemed
to have a model of the self which fitted with their game of top-dog/under-
dog. (This is shown in Figure 5.)
Figure 5 is a simple model, which was suggested to me by the flip-
flop nature of some clients’ self-concepts: OK (inflated) one minute; and
not-OK (deflated) the next. It has just three elements. It has two inflatable
‘beings’, labelled ‘A’ and ‘B’. They are assumed to be connected at the ankle
by a hollow tube. The way I understood the model in Figure 5 was as follows.
Person ‘A’ becomes fully inflated, as an ‘upright’ top-dog, by putting person
‘B’ down, thus almost fully deflating them. The only way person ‘B’ can be
re-inflated (in this model), to become a fully upright top-dog again, would
be to put person ‘A’ down, thus almost fully deflating them. After a while I
voiced this hypothesis to particular clients who confirmed that they did,
indeed, seem to operate as if they were connected to their partner or ex-
partner by a tube, and that at any one time only one of them could be ‘fully
inflated’, because there seemed to be insufficient ‘air’ (or goodwill; or
‘esteem’) to maintain both individuals in a fully-inflated ‘equal-dog’
relationship.
I now had a visual metaphor with which I could work – or rather to
work against – in order to teach my clients a new approach to managing
their ‘self ’, and the ‘self ’ of their current or ex-partner. What I next
developed was a non-deflatable visual metaphor for the human self. This I
described as a huge steel letter-I, made from rolled steel joist (RSJ), which
is the type of long steel girder that builders use to support the full weight
of a floor in the construction of buildings. It is a very strong steel. I asked
my clients to imagine the kind of structure shown in Figure 6.
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FIGURE 5: The Inflatable Top-Dog Model
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The model in Figure 6 comprises a Big Steel Letter I surrounding an
individual human, who is wearing a white tracksuit, divided down the
middle, on which is written, in the form of billions of Little i’s, their personal
traits and behavioural history (classified into B for Bad and G for Good).
FIGURE 6: The Big Steel I
This Big Steel I is not in any way connected to the ‘self ’ of any other
person, including partners or ex-partners. It stands alone. It is also
uncrushable; unbendable; non-deformable. It is an ideal representation of
human essence, because it cannot crumple or be crumpled! It cannot shrink
or collapse. It also cannot be stretched or increased in any way. (The only
reason the ‘beings’ in Figure 5 can be inflated or collapsed is that they are
mistakenly identified with their traits and behaviours.)
My first teaching in this new phase involved walking around my
office, in the presence of a client, and asking them to visualise a Big Steel I
surrounding my body, like a full body ‘halo’.
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JB: ‘This Big Steel I, which we imaging surrounding my body, is an accurate

representation of my essence, my aliveness, or what is common to all
humans. Can it be inflated, expanded, deformed, deflated, increased, or
enhanced in any way?’
Client: ‘No. It does seem to be fixed for all time.’
I would then kick a piece of furniture and ask:
JB: ‘Isn’t that a bad act?’
Client: ‘Yes.’
JB: ‘And does it affect my Big Steel I?’
If the client looked at all doubtful, I would reach up over my head,
and behave as if I was desperately struggling to pull down the top cross
beam of the Big Steel I. Then I would ask: ‘Can it be reduced in height?’
Client: ‘No!’
JB: ‘And can I or you bend or deform it, in retaliation for that bad act?’
Client: ‘No way.’
JB: ‘And will it melt from the heat of my embarrassment, or the heat of your
anger, if I do a bad act?’
Client: ‘No!’
JB: ‘And if you tell me I’m a bad person for kicking the furniture, will my
essence, or Big Steel I, be affected in any way?’
Client: ‘Not likely.’
Next, I repeated this process with a Good Little i – which normally
involved something like my watering a ‘thirsty’ house plant. Again, the
client would agree that this does not make my Big Steel I bigger, taller,
better or more acceptable.
I then added the use of the white tracksuit as a place for the client to
write Bad (or Good) Little i’s, which did not affect the Big Steel I. I asked
my clients to imagine that all humans wear a white tracksuit, divided down
the middle, with a ‘G’ for Good on one side, and a ‘B’ for Bad on the other.
JB: ‘Now imagine I am wearing a white tracksuit, as a place to record the
Good and Bad Little i’s which represent my traits and behaviours. Now, if
I kick this table, where does this Bad Little i get recorded?’
Client: ‘On the side of your tracksuit marked ‘B’ for Bad.’
JB: ‘Could I write it on my Big Steel I?’
Client: ‘No. It’s not part of your essence, or aliveness.’
I experimented with this model with a few of my clients, including
married couple clients, and had considerable success in developing
sustainable USA. It also worked well in producing Unconditional
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Acceptance of Others (UOA).
One of my clients (let’s call her Jackie) had problems with rage
towards her ex-partner (let’s call him Henry). Jackie used to take their
daughter (Alice) to Henry’s flat every Friday teatime, and collect her again
on Sunday evening. During these ‘hand-over’ meetings, Jackie experienced
Henry as ‘trying to wind me up’. He would talk to her ‘disrespectfully’,
with his back turned; leave the room and not come back for ‘an
unreasonable amount of time’; lose Alice’s clothes, school work, and so on.
In response, Jackie would experience murderous rage, and on at least one
occasion, considered killing Henry.
I then developed the big steel I model further, until I produced the
Big Golden I. This occurred because I wanted to give Jackie a model of her
ex-husband’s essence, as distinct from his bad behaviours, so she could
focus in on his essence even while he was behaving very badly. So I
developed the Big Steel I into the Big Golden I by having it (in imagination)
chrome plated to a high gloss – so it would shine and be unscratchable –
and then having it gold plated, so that it could not be tarnished by any
animal, vegetable or mineral substance. I then trained Jackie to imagine
she was actively shining Henry’s Big Golden I, with a soft yellow duster,
while he seemed to be trying, deliberately, to wind her up. Each time he
behaved badly she was to write a Little i, in her imagination, on the side of
his imaginary white tracksuit marked ‘B’ for Bad, which she was to project
on to him; but at the same time she was to imagine polishing his Big Golden
I! In this way she found very quickly that she could stay calm under the
most intense or protracted provocation, and that Henry soon stopped trying
to wind her up. (Her anger might have been Henry’s ‘reward’ for his
crummy behaviour. Take away the ‘reward’ and the behaviour may often
become extinguished.)
Once Jackie was able to extend Unconditional Other Acceptance
(UOA) to Henry, she also found it much easier to Unconditionally Accept
herself (USA).
Figure 7 shows the range of elements of the Big Golden I model.
These include: the body, or physical self; the essence, which includes
aliveness, the capacity to be aware, and the capacity to form a personal
viewpoint (or I-ness); the ego, or self-concept, or what the individual thinks
s/he is; the personal reputation, or what others think of the individual; and
the ideal self, or self-ideal, or what the individual thinks s/he ‘should be’!
In introducing the Big Golden I to my clients, I would tell them:
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FIGURE 7: The Big Golden I
‘In simple terms, your essence is not your body or your mind; (or,
more precisely, not your body-mind). It is principally the aliveness which
underpins your body and mind (or body-mind). You cannot see it or touch
it, any more than you can touch your mind or your energy. Just as many
people were taught in school that they had a ‘soul’, which is invisible, I am
now directing your attention to your essence, your aliveness – which is
also invisible. And just as European artists developed the convention of
painting a golden halo around the heads of Christian saints to indicate
their ‘soul’, I have developed the technique of drawing a large ‘Golden I’
around the individual to indicate their essence.
‘But your essence is not just aliveness, otherwise you would have
your essence in common with plants and insects, and be very unlike your
present form. The additional elements of your essence, which make you
distinctly human, include (a) the capacity to form a personal viewpoint –
which means a sense of ‘I-ness’, or being ‘the one’ who is sitting reading
this sentence; plus (b) an ability to reflect upon, and verbally articulate, your
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culturally shaped and evolved personal viewpoint. This separates you not
only from plants and insects, and less evolved animals; but also from non-
human primates, like apes and chimps. This, then, is human essence, which
is distinct from all other forms of living essence. (See Byrne, 2002, Chapter
5 and Appendix ‘E’.)
‘So your essence is aliveness; a capacity to be aware; and a capacity
to form a personal viewpoint (‘I am I. I am this one here, and now. I am not
that one over there’).’
The Big Golden I was an important innovation because the pre-
existing teaching aids did not have a visual representation of the body, the
ego image (or self concept), the reputation, the ideal self (or self-ideal), nor
even of the essence, perceived as aliveness, plus (a) the capacity to be aware,
plus (b) the capacity to form a personal viewpoint (‘I am this one here, and
now!’). So the Big Golden I presents a more developed, fully formed,
definition of human essence than did Lazarus (1977), cited in Palmer (1997)
and Ellis et al (1997). But this is still faithful to the basic theory formulated
by Ellis (1962 and 1994).
My USA/UOA Programme
I have now developed a structured programme for teaching USA/
UOA – for I do not think it is possible to teach the one without teaching the
other – and it falls into four parts, as follows:
• Managing the emotional over-upsets which prove to be confidence
spoilers. (These are the ego disturbances of anxiety about poor performance,
loss of face and loss of love; depression about personal failings or rejection;
and guilt, shame and hurt.)
• Overcoming feelings of inferiority (and superiority). (This includes the
question of OK-ness; and getting rid of the idea that ‘I am an ‘X’ and I
should be a ‘Y’!’)
• Distinguishing behaviours and essence. (Including the Big-I/Little-i
model.)
• Learning the fuller range of distinctions related to the ‘self ’ – including
learning the Big Golden I model.
In my programme, each of these four stages takes at least thirty days
of practical homework assignments, applied mainly in relation to self and
others, normally symbolically. And I usually allow about 150 days for the
whole programme to be completed, allowing for slippage in the completion
of homework assignments.
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I am currently running a five-month workshop, on the third Saturday

of every month, based on the programme described above, which is also
outlined in detail in Byrne (2002).
As far as I can tell, at this early stage of monitoring, the programme
is proving useful and effective for most of its users.
The Philosophy and Skills of USA

Overall, it seems to me that USA is both a philosophy (Ellis, 1962 and
1994) and a set of skills (Byrne, 2002) for achieving self-acceptance, no matter
how well we perform, and no matter whether anyone else accepts us or
not.
I have found in practice that USA is teachable, as illustrated above.
USA is clearly learnable: and most of my clients have learned how to do it
to a significant extent. USA also seems to be deployable (with UOA) in
managing relationship problems, as illustrated by the case of Jackie and
Henry. It seems to me to be high octane fuel for a saner life, and well worth
the considerable effort involved in developing it.
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Food for Thought: REBT and other psychological approaches to obesity
Food for Thought: REBT and other

psychological approaches to obesity
Philip Kinsella
Abstract
Obesity is an increasingly serous health problem. REBT and other
psychological approaches can help patients reach their weight goals but
there is a high relapse rate. A group REBT programme is described and
suggestions are made for improving treatments.
Introduction
Obesity is an interesting health problem, where genetic, physical,
environmental, cognitive, behavioural and emotional factors interact in
complex ways. There is a huge literature on the subject and a surprisingly
large amount of papers looking at psychological issues. Body Mass Index
(BMI – defined as weight in kilograms divided by height in metres squared)
has become the common measure of obesity. Men with a BMI>28 and
women with a BMI>27 are considered overweight. Obesity is defined as a
BMI >30. Severe or morbid obesity is defined as BMI>39 (Foster and
Kendall, 1994). The prevalence of obesity is increasing; for example in
America between 1976 and 1991 the figure increased from 25% to 33% of
the population. Between 1900 and 2000 the prevalence has doubled despite
a 5% reduction in calorific intake. The health costs of obesity in America
are estimated at $39 billion and there is a separate $33 billion diet industry
(Battle and Brownlee, 1996). Obesity has clear effects on morbidity and
mortality. In summary, the risk of diabetes is increased between 2–10 fold,
hypertension is doubled in those 20% overweight, strokes are increased
2.2–4.9% increasing with weight increase, gallbladder disease is commoner,
particularly amongst women, respiratory disease, arthritis and gout are
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increased and finally obesity is associated with high cholesterol which is a
risk factor in heart disease. Regarding mortality, a review of all studies
concluded that obesity doubled the risk of mortality (mainly from diabetes)
compared to normal weight controls.
Psychological and REBT perspectives

The key factor that leads to weight gain is energy intake exceeding
expenditure and this is something that can be addressed in a psychological
way.
Probably the most interesting area from an REBT perspective is the
issue of cognitive processes in obesity. It is suggested that overweight
patients engage in dichotomous thinking in terms of good and bad foods,
or overgeneralised thinking such as ‘one biscuit means I’ve blown it’ or
avoidance of thinking about their diet, e.g. ‘I can’t keep track of what I eat’.
There is also likely to be a relationship between ‘self-esteem’ (as typically
defined) and weight loss: Nir and Neumann (1995) found that the higher
the level of ‘self-esteem’ the lower the amount of weight regain in follow-
up. This may suggest that REBT treatments that put emphasis on self-
acceptance would be helpful: it would be important to help the person
realise that she cannot value herself purely on the basis of her weight. (Ellis,
Abrahams and Dengelegi, 1992).
A paper by Faith (undated) describes the REBT approach in detail.
She explains that the REBT approach is to become aware of unhelpful beliefs
and behaviours that maintain poor eating habits. She identifies the first
belief to be ‘I must have my food when it is right there and I want it’, and
she clearly identifies this as a low frustration tolerance (LFT) belief . Patients
are encouraged to say that they can tolerate not having it, the urge will
pass, and they are advised to ‘move away from the food’. The second belief
is ‘I must adhere to my diet perfectly. Any lapses are catastrophes and mean
that I may as well give up dieting’. The person is encouraged to think that
lapses are in fact normal and to be planned for. They are asked to consider
whether one lapse means it is impossible to get back on track and whether
the belief is consistent with reality. They are invited to consider that such
unhealthy thinking is likely to lead to guilt and other unhealthy emotions
that make it harder to reach goals. The third irrational belief is ‘I am
worthless because I am overweight’. This is obviously an example of self-
downing and the part-whole error: it cannot be the case that a person’s
worth is based on one part of them, namely their weight. The final belief is
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‘I must lose weight and others must approve of my body’. It is clear that
people have great difficulty in getting down to their desired weights, so
this may not actually be possible. It would be better to set realistic goals
and give yourself credit for even modest gains, which we know have health
benefits. Behaviourally she recommends self-monitoring, ‘exercise, exercise,
exercise’, planning meals and shopping lists and rewarding oneself for
sticking to targets. Dryden and Steinberg’s book How to Stick to a Diet (1996)
is a comprehensive self-help book covering self-talk, behavioural change,
mental imagery, emotional eating, motivation, low fat eating, exercise,
sticking to a diet and case studies.
Treatment Effectiveness
Looking at the effectiveness of approaches, there are various ways
of treating obesity: medication, surgery, diets, psychological treatments and
combinations of these. Surgery is only recommended for patients who have
a BMI> 40, which is a minority group. Such surgery, which is usually these
days a procedure to put a band round the stomach, results in substantial
weight loss over the first six months, which is generally well maintained.
So this is actually a good result but has to be weighed against the risks of
an operation, which would be higher with the overweight. Drug treatment
results in 5–10% loss of weight within the first six months, with weight
levelling out afterwards. Weight is regained if the drug is stopped and there
are concerns about the long-term effects of these medications. There are,
however, various new preparations on or coming on to the market which
may achieve better results (Cooper and Fairburn, 2001).
Foster and Kendall have reviewed the psychological outcome studies.
Psychological treatment usually consists of the following elements:
1) self-monitoring of food intake, with the intention of helping patients
counteract underestimation of consumption;
2) psycho-educational elements, for example in REBT that would be
explaining the link between feelings, thoughts, behaviours and physiology;
3) stimulus control elements, in other words encouraging people not to
have fattening foods in the house, to shop on a full stomach, to leave food
on the plate, etc.;
4) motivational elements, to help people look at the advantages and
disadvantages of weight control and help them use their motivation
constructively;
5) dietary advice, provision of food/diet;
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6) exercise, often helping the patient develop an exercise programme or
sometimes providing this as part of the programme;
7) cognitive approaches – these have been a more recent development and
are plainly aimed at helping patients challenge self-defeating thoughts;
and
8) relapse prevention, helping the patient to put the approaches into place
over the longer term.
Sometimes other elements are added. In terms of the effectiveness
of these approaches, patients on average lost 0.5kg a week on a
psychological programme plus a diet. The trend over time has been for an
increase in presenting weights, longer treatment regimes (from 8 to 21
weeks), and longer follow-ups (16 to 53 weeks). The average attrition rate
is 17% over 18 weeks, which compares well with commercial programmes
(70% over 12 weeks). Approximately 65% of weight loss is maintained at 1-
year follow-up but only 13% maintained a loss of 5kg at 5-year follow-up.
It is a very common finding therefore that patients can lose weight in the
short term but tend to put it on again in the longer term. This has lead to
critics saying that psychological approaches to this problem are not very
effective.
What is being increasingly understood is that weight maintenance
is a different process from weight loss. For example, weight loss is focused
on avoiding fatty foods and exercising frequently in a time-limited way,
whereas weight maintenance is more about having an active lifestyle, eating
a sensible diet on an ongoing basis. It is also the case that the amount of
reinforcers are diminished in this period as the person will receive a lot of
compliments for losing weight, but none if they just maintain weight. There
is evidence that an approach based on maintenance can be more effective
(Perri et al, 1993).
REBT Treatment Effectiveness

There is one study of REBT with obesity (Block, 1980) which has
encouraging results. A group of 40 overweight adults were randomised to
REBT, relaxation control (with a credible rationale that stress can lead to
overeating) and waiting list control. The REBT approach helped patients
to become aware of their thinking about eating and they were taught to
think appropriately about it, and they were given homework on this. In
the relaxation group they were taught ‘deep muscle relaxation’ and
encouraged to practise it, and the therapists did not challenge irrational
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beliefs during the group discussion. All groups, including the waiting list
control, were given information about calorie control. The results were that
all 40 participants completed the study (which is very impressive), and
that the REBT group had significantly greater weight loss than the relaxation
and waiting list group, and indeed managed to maintain that loss at 18
weeks follow-up. The main weaknesses of the study are a small sample
and a short follow-up. The strengths are that there were two control groups,
the sessions were taped for fidelity to treatment, and the therapists, whilst
being competent in the therapy, did not have a particular REBT allegiance.
An REBT Group Treatment

A group REBT programme has been completed for 10 significantly
obese individuals based on Dryden and Steinberg’s How to Stick to a Diet,
and the outcome was evaluated. The patients’ weights ranged from 106 to
207kg with a mean of 143.7kg. They were selected from the medical clinic
having expressed an interest in REBT approaches. There were five sessions
of treatment and two follow-ups. There was a mixture of didactic teaching,
group exercises, individual exercises and discussion and the sessions lasted
for 75 minutes. Sessions dealt with self-talk, emotional eating, the four types
of irrational beliefs and the ABC model, the advantages and disadvantages
of weight control, behavioural change, stimulus control and exercise. Weight
change, attitude to the sessions and wellbeing were measured. There were
not enough patients in the group to draw statistically meaningful results.
The mean weight loss was 4.4kg. There was only a 0.05 possibility that the
weight loss occurred by chance though it was impossible to say that the
REBT intervention caused the weight loss.
My observations of the group were that one patient did not attend
after the first session but everyone else attended other sessions: the more
sessions people attended, the better they did. It was my impression that
the more behavioural elements such as stimulus control were more readily
learned and utilised. It was difficult to get the concept of irrational thinking
and the four beliefs over in one session, though the concept of emotional
eating was well understood by the group and excellent challenges were
made. In general, homework tasks were complied with, though there was
not enough time to check everyone’s homework in detail. I very much
believe that the aspect of group coherence and the support and practical
help that the participants gave one another was helpful. It was useful to
have the dietician there even as an observer as she knew all the patients
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and this helped to break the ice. There was not any problem in encouraging
the members to participate; in fact it was necessary to stop getting distracted
into side issues. There were also a significant number of problems that came
up for the members, such as relationship difficulties, physical illness and
so on and it was difficult to properly address them within the time limit.
Improving Treatments
Regarding future directions in research and treatment, the evidence
shows that psychological interventions for obesity are effective in producing
weight loss for a period, which will have health benefits, but there is a
tendency for patients to regain weight. The important question to now
consider is what can be done to improve treatments. Whether failure to
maintain weight loss is due to loss of knowledge, skills, motivation or the
aversive effects of these behavioural changes (such as hunger, stress or social
pressure) is not fully understood. Biological orientated scientists interpret
the failure to sustain change as evidence for biological determinants, and
there may indeed be a limit on the effectiveness of psychological strategies
(Jeffrey et al, 2000).
From what we have learned we can probably say what an ideal REBT
treatment would be. It may be individualised or group, it would start with
a detailed ABC analysis and the clear setting of realistic goals that should
be the loss of 10% of body weight, it should start with vigorous and forceful
challenges of LFT and self-downing beliefs which are frequently found. It
would very forcibly emphasise that people are fallible and valuable human
beings even if they do not reach their goals and indeed even if they remain
obese. It would help the person realise that there are pros and cons around
losing weight. It would include education about energy balance and
particularly the importance of low fat diets; it would encourage patients
not to have rigid demands about sticking to their programme but would
encourage flexibility and preferences. It would have a very strong emphasis
on regular activity, but would tailor it to the individual, and emphasise it
should be lifelong. It would encourage the use of stimulus control elements.
It would emphasise a stage of weight loss and one of weight maintenance.
It would put great emphasis on the rational attitude to relapse. Looking at
the issue of future research it would be useful to know whether this ‘ideal
REBT treatment’ would be more successful than previous therapies. The
key question is whether intensive work on LFT and self-downing beliefs
leads to better outcomes.
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Relapse Prevention
The other key future research activity is to fully understand the
cognitive, behavioural and emotional factors that occur in relapse. If these
were understood better, then REBT treatments could be evolved that target
them directly. With this in mind I have devised an REBT model of relapse
that I intend to validate, and I shall describe it now. This is an attempt to
understand the activating events for a relapse and the cognitive behavioural,
emotional and physiological consequences. For example, the triggering
event may be the patient weighing herself and either putting on weight or
not making adequate progress towards her goals; she may then at a
cognitive level engage in demanding thinking such as ‘I must reach my
ultimate goal or it’s not worth it’, the emotional response may be depression
or frustration and the behavioural response may be to start overeating and
stop weighing herself and so on. My research will attempt to understand
the complexities of this process in an attempt to devise better psychological
treatments.
References
Battle K & Brownlee K (1996). Confronting a rising tide of eating disorders
and obesity: treatment versus prevention and policy. Addictive Behaviours,
21(6), 65–75.
Block J (1980). Effects of rational emotive therapy on overweight adults.
Psychotherapy; theory, research and practice, 17, 277–280.
Cooper Z & Fairburn CG (2001). A new cognitive behavioural approach to
the treatment of obesity. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 39, 499–511.
Ellis A, Abrahams M & Dengelegi L (1992). The Art and Science of Rational
Eating. Barricade Books.
Faith MS (undated). Long term weight management and self-acceptance:
an ideal union. REBT Essay of the month. Internet.
Foster G & Kendall P (1994). The realistic treatment of obesity: changing
the scales of success. Clinical Psychology Review, 14(8), 701–736.
Jeffrey RW, Epstein LW, Wilson TG, Drewnowski A, Stunkyard AJ, Wing
RR & Hill RD (2000). Long-term maintenance of weight loss: current status.
Health Psychology, 19(1), 5–16.
Nir Z & Neumann L (1995). Relationship among self-esteem, internal-
external locus of control, and weight change after participation in a weight
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reduction program. Journal of Clinical Psychology, 51(4), 582–590.
Perri MG, Sears SF & Clark JE (1993). Strategies for improving maintenance
of weight loss. Diabetes Care, 16, 200–209.
Steinberg D & Dryden W (1996). How to Stick to a Diet. Sheldon Press.
Correspondence
Philip Kinsella, Nottinghamshire Healthcare NHS Trust, Dept of
Psychological Medicine, South Block, B Floor, Queen’s Medical Centre,
Clifton Boulevard, Nottingham NG7 2UH, UK.
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