A Treasury of Spiritual

Knowledge and Wisdom

Highlights of my 26 spiritually based books

Neville Berkowitz
personalempowerment.co
guidespeak.com

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A Treasury of Spiritual
Knowledge and Wisdom

Highlights of my 26 spiritually based books found on

personalempowerment.co and guidespeak.com

Neville Berkowitz

Johannesburg

South Africa

December 2020

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Free Books by Neville Berkowitz

On personalempowerment.co

Spiritual
How to Live in the Now
Being Loved Unconditionally
Spiritual Fireside Chats
A Spiritual Meander- finding spiritual solutions to life’s challenges
Spiritual Love
Spiritual Laughter
Wisdom in a Nutshell
Unfolding Your Child- a spiritual approach to parenting
Ego = Failure- learning to become more egoless and humble
Managing Your Stress Effectively
Achieving Your Goals and Dreams
Becoming Blissful
Listening- The Relationship Builder
GAIN- God And I Now
The Purpose and Meaning of your Life in terms of your Soul Contracts
Finding and Knowing God Within You
Reducing your Worry and Anxiety
Understanding and Elevating Your Vibrational Energy
The Pathless Path to Oneness
Nothing matters, except Love and Light
A Treasury of Spiritual Knowledge and Wisdom

Business
How to Survive and Thrive as an Entrepreneur
How to be a Great Negotiator

On guidespeak.com
The Book of Universal Spirit Laws
The Book of Evolving Relationships
The Book of Inner Peace
The Book of Life Skills
The Book of Understanding Animal Spirits
The Book of the Religion of Love

Published in book form only

5000 Years of Wisdom
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Background and explanation

I commenced writing spiritually based books in early 2005. My first spiritual website,
guidespeak.com, is primarily channeled writing, and I wrote six books during that time.
I commenced writing again in late 2009. By late 2020 I have written a further 21 spiritually
based books found on my other spiritual website, personalempowerment.co. Most of this
writing took place over weekends. During 2020, mainly due to the COVID -19 quarantine
lockdown, I have written six more books found on personalempowerment.co, while self-
isolating.
Depending on what I am writing about, either I research the subject matter and then write,
edit, and publish the free book online, or I sit down to write, and the words flow through me.
Editing and publishing online follow that. I believe that much of this writing is inspired by
Unseen Forces working with and through me.
My free books are downloadable from the two websites stated above. I believe that the
information has come from the Universe, and I am repackaging it and returning it to the
Universe via the two websites where they are found by people globally.
I have been “told” that to ensure no ego is involved, the books will be “discovered” after my
passing on into Spirit. After writing each book, I have family and friends around the world
who receive the book. They have been inundated with six books recently, but they appear to
be appreciated by them due to lockdown.
My primary objective in writing these free books is for my learning and growth in evolving into
a soul-based Being of Love and Light. I also want to leave a lasting form of guidance for my
two beloved sons, Michael and Jonathan, and, please God, their families in time too. Certain
family members and selected friends find value in what I write about. Numerous people
download the free books from the two websites found via Google and other Search Engines,
and occasionally a few appreciatively communicate with me.
I have decided to write this book as a summation of each of the 26 spiritually-based books.
My family and friends and the people accessing my two websites can now see a quick
summation of each free book before deciding to invest time reading one or more books.
I have decided to do the summary in chronological order as I wrote each book. I cannot do
justice to each book in a summary format and will attempt to make it an appetite whetter, at
best.

Thank you for selecting this book to read. I hope and trust that you find it of benefit, and it
encourages you to read one or more of the 26 books summarised here.

In Love and Light,

Neville Berkowitz

personalempowerment.co
guidespeak.com

December 2020

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Contents

4 Background and explanation

7 guidespeak.com

7 Background

8 Introduction from the website

9 The Book of Universal Spirit Laws

13 The Book of Evolving Relationships

20 The Book of Life Skills

24 The Book of Inner Peace

28 The Book of Animal Spirits

35 The Book of the Religion of Love

40 personalempowerment.co

41 What’s on personalempowerment.co

41 Background to the website

43 How to Live in the Now

49 Being Loved Unconditionally

54 Spiritual Fireside Chats

59 A Spiritual Meander- Finding Spiritual Solutions to Life’s Challenges

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66 Spiritual Love

Contents

71 Spiritual Laughter

75 Wisdom in a Nutshell

81 Unfolding Your Child- a Spiritual Approach to Parenting

89 EGO= Failure

96 Managing Your Stress Effectively

102 Achieving Your Goals and Dreams

111 Becoming Blissful

119 Listening- The Relationship Builder

126 GAIN- God And I Now

134 The Purpose and Meaning of Your Life in terms of Your Soul Contracts

143 Knowing and Finding God within you

149 Reducing your Worry and Anxiety

159 Understanding and Elevating your Vibrational Energy

167 The Pathless Path to Oneness

177 Nothing matters, except Love and Light

183 Conclusion

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guidespeak.com
guidespeak.com comprises six free books:
The Book of Universal Spirit Laws
The Book of Evolving Relationships
The Book of Life Skills
The Book of Inner Peace
The Book of Animal Spirits
The Book of the Religion of Love

Background

After a major shock in my personal life in mid-2004, I turned to a trusted friend who was a
Channel to understand what was happening at a spiritual place of understanding.
Through this Channel, I was “told” by his Guide that as my response to this revelation was
spiritually based forgiveness; I would also be given the ability to channel my Spirit Guides
and use this channeling to bring healing to this process.

What followed was nine intensive months of channeling, understanding, and healing. During
the second quarter of 2005, I was “instructed” to register the website name guidespeak.com
and begin writing/transcribing the words given to me. During the next 90 days, hundreds of
pages were written/transcribed, and the first five books of guidespeak.com were typed up,
and the website was launched around mid- 2005. The sixth book, The Book of Animal
Spirits, required substantial research, and I was led to the various research sources to
compile this book.

We started with the foundation of The Book of Universal Spirit Laws, followed by The Book
of Evolving Relationships. At this stage, people in my orbit sought me out to assist them with
their personal issues. The Book of Life Skills emerged from some of these channelings and
discussions.

My inner peace was beginning to develop, and The Book of Inner Peace was the next book
to be completed, The Book of The Religion of Love followed as my understanding and
spirituality developed away from organised religion to becoming Love and Light. My
emerging new religion/belief was becoming one where all paths lead to the Love and Light of
Source/Creator/God/Oneness/Universe and so many other names for All That Is, who is both
Nameless and Formless.

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The sixth book, The Book of Animal Spirits, required substantial research, and I was led to
the various research sources to compile this book, which identifies the attributes of many
entities within the Animal Kingdom. We share attributes with one or more of these Animals
Spirits and we can recognise which animals we are aligned to assist our spiritual journey.

The content of the website is mainly channeled and has been the foundation of all my 26
spiritually-based books. My evolvement from an ego-based person to a soul-based one has
intensified while writing these 26 books, commencing in 2005 with the abovementioned six
books.

Introduction from the website from the Guides

Welcome to a unique perspective of your life

You are an awesome human being.

You are not your body and your mind.
You are a Spirit currently occupying a body with a mind on your current visit to the Earth
plane.

You are an eternal Spirit who is a Part of the Source of Creation; some call God, Oneness,
The Universe, Jehovah and some 70 other labels in the Bible alone.
You are a Part of the Light and Love that comprises this Source of Creation.

Now you know why We say you are an awesome human being.
In essence, you are Energy and you resonate as a Vibration.
This Vibration has slowed down substantially from when you were in Spirit
to enable your Soul to enter your physical body on the earth plane.

You are Light and Love and if you don’t feel like that then please allow Us to help you
recover your true Self – the awesome human being you really are.

GuideSpeak.com comprises 6 free books to guide you to see the correct perspective of who
you/You really are and to return you to your inherent position as Love and Light as you deal
with yourself and those you interact with.

The end result is a frictionless life where Love and Light grease your wheels as you travel
through the ups and downs of living a life on earth. You will still know heartache and
happiness as the pendulum of life continually swings both ways but it’s how you choose to
react and respond in Love and in Light that will make the rest of your life a much more
enjoyable experience.

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The Book of Universal Spirit Laws
This book is the alphabet of spirituality. Unlike the Bible or similar other books from various
religions, there is no formal spiritual book on Universal Spirit Laws.

Understanding these foundational laws forms the bedrock of one’s spirituality. I cover 64
Universal Spiritual Laws; however, there are likely to be more laws and likely to be other
explanations of the laws, which I do cover. This book was written in early 2005. However, I
have learned and covered a lot of spiritual ground since then; going over these Universal
Spirit Laws to do this summation reinforced the foundation I received from these Laws.

From the introduction-

Universal Spirit Laws are foundation stones assisting you on your journey to greater
enlightenment. By understanding and applying these laws, you should experience being and
feeling more the part of God that you really are.
Your feelings of Love, Trust, and Oneness will enlighten you; improve your self-love and
your self-worthiness as you continue your journey of self-discovery.

Here is a list of the 64 Universal Spirit Laws.

To identify any specific Law use CTRL + Click on the Law to take you to guidespeak.com for
that specific Law
1.The Law of Abundance
2. The Law of Action
3. The Law of Affirmation
4. The Law of Allowing
5. The Law of As Above So Below
6. The Law of As Within So Without
7. The Law of Attachment
8. The Law of Attention
9. The Law of Attraction
10. The Law of Balance
11. The Law of Belief
12. The Law of Blessings
13. The Law of Cause and Effect
14. The Law of Choices
15. The Law of Clarity
16. The Law of Compassion
17. The Law of Compensation
18. The Law of Correspondence
19. The Law of Cycles
20. The Law of Decree
21. The Law of Detachment
22. The Law of Discrimination
23. The Law of Duality
24. The Law of Expectation
25. The Law of Faith
26. The Law of Flow
27. The Law of Forgiveness
28. The Law of Frequency
29. The Law of Gender
30. The Law of Giving

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 31. The Law of Grace
32. The Law of Gratitude
33. The Law of Healing
34. The Law of Integrity
35. The Law of Intention
36. The Law of Intentional Creation/Manifestation
37. The Law of Karma
38. The Law of Least Effort
39. The Law of Love
40. The Law of Manifestation
41. The Law of Meditation
42. The Law of Miracles
43. The Law of Now
44. The Law of One
45. The Law of Perpetual Transmutation of Energy
46. The Law of Perspective
47. The Law of Polarity
48. The Law of Prayer
49. The Law of Process
50. The Law of Projection
51. The Law of Prosperity
52. The Law of Pure Potentiality
53. The Law of Purification
54. The Law of Purpose
55. The Law of Reflection
56. The Law of Reincarnation
57. The Law of Relativity
58. The Law of Responsibility
59. The Law of Rhythms
60. The Law of Success
61. The Law of Surrender
62. The Law of Transcendence
63. The Law of Truth
64. The Law of Vulnerability

Here are a few examples of these Laws

1. The Law of Abundance

God is love. You are part of God. You are love. God has unlimited love for you. If you open
your heart you will have an abundance of love. Only you can stop this flow of abundance to
you. If you do not feel worthy to receive abundance you will create a barrier to stop the flow
of abundance to you.
If you feel worthy, then this abundance will flow to you. In your worthiness you will want to
share your flow of abundance with others.
If you want to have something in abundance – give it in abundance.
If you want to have love give love. If you want to have a friend, be a friend.
Sharing what you have, your knowledge, your wisdom with others allows your abundance to
flow to others and their abundance then flows to others and so on. You are enriched by
giving your abundance to others and this allows you to receive even more abundance from
the Source of all abundance – God expressing unlimited Love for you.

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10. The Law of Balance

When you are in balance you can heal, grow and evolve far more effectively. All your energy
can be utilized for your desired intentions. When you are out of balance your energy is out of
balance and cannot be effectively utilized for maximum performance.
A state of inner balance creates inner peace. When you have achieved this state of inner
balance, remember it and use it as a reference point. This will increase your awareness of
when you go out of balance so it can be corrected.
The Law of Balance can be applied by being aware of your imbalances.
To achieve and sustain balance start with your breathing. The rhythms of your inhaling and
exhaling will determine your balance. Focus on your breathing and see how your emotions
become better balanced.
Inner balance creating outer balance should be your desired state continually.

22. The Law of Discrimination

To discriminate is not to judge someone or something based on Ego’s societal norms such
as age, sex, skin colour, education, appearances, religion, etc. To discriminate at Soul level
is to listen to your inner voice, your intuition, that feeling coming from a place your conscious
mind has not experienced, beyond thought. When presented with a choice discriminate by
using your intuition to guide you to make a decision for the higher good of your Soul. Your
Ego may be able to persuade your mind that what it wants is beneficial for you. Listen to
your feelings, the language of your Soul, to guide you as your real intuition deciphers your
feelings and tells you what you should do for your highest good.

45. The Law of Perpetual Transmutation of Energy

Everything and everyone is only energy. With free will, you can choose to change, to
transmute energy with your thoughts.
Your thoughts come from your perspective of situations, people, and things. These
perspectives are based on your judgments. These judgments are made from where you are
standing at the present moment of now.
By learning not to judge, by accepting “What is Now,” your thoughts change and more
positive thoughts, based on greater understanding and acceptance, allow higher vibrational
frequencies to consume and change previous lower vibrational frequencies of thought, which
may have been more negative thoughts. This transmutation comes about by forgiveness of
others and sending them love.
By thinking negative thoughts, you send lower vibrational frequencies to others, negatively
affecting all parties involved.

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If you use your free will to change and transmute your thought patterns based on forgiveness
and love, you allow your vibrational frequencies of energy to increase as you evolve towards
the Light.

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The Book of Evolving Relationships
Background
This book was a healing process for me as I was going through a personal trauma of the
break-up of my near 20- year marriage in 2004/5. As stated above, I had a channeling
session with a Channel I trusted, and I was told via the Channel that I would be given the
ability to channel my Guides. After nine months of intensive channeling and major spiritual
awareness, I began writing this book on evolving relationships.
I am pleased to report that this was the start of my moving from being an ego-based person
to increasingly becoming soul-based through these last sixteen years. My perception of who
I was then and my perception of who I have evolved to become today is reflected in my
current relationship with my ex-wife. Today, we are the best of friends; our sons have
benefitted greatly from seeing this evolving relationship with me coming from soul-based
Love. During this past year, I have worked hand in glove with my ex-wife assisting her, when
requested to do so by her, in obtaining a Master’s degree at nearly age 67. As a Senior
University Lecturer, she was required to have a Master’s degree.
In 2002 both my wife and I were told by a Spiritual Teacher and Channel that we had a most
difficult and intricate soul contract in place. If we were able to see it through, then we would
have unparalleled spiritual growth. Boy, he wasn’t kidding on both the difficult part and the
spiritual growth part as well!
As part of my spiritual growth path, I learn best by writing and applying what I have learned
and written about. I have written 26 spiritually based books since 2005, as part of my
spiritual growth path. Hopefully, others reading one or more of these books will benefit as
well.
There were times in 2005 when I sat down to write this book on evolving relationships, and in
those days, I wrote with a pen, and while writing, I kept wondering where is this coming
from? The ideas, analogies, the acronyms, everything flowed and flowed, and I often felt like
a spectator taking dictation.
The channeling process taught me to look at the Bigger Picture and, if possible, likely soul
contracts at play. Other important issues were identifying where ego was in any situation and
where the soul was, if at all? The required progression from ego to soul was spelled out in
most instances.
This book is designed as 49 Lessons and covers a wide terrain in terms of self-
understanding and relationship issues being resolved coming from soul-based Love.

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Introduction

The introduction of the website from the Guides channeling through me:
Your visit to this plane of existence you call earth is to experience the physical. This takes
courage.

In Spirit, there are no boundaries, no limitations, and no physicality. On this physical plane
called earth, you are here to heal, grow, and evolve. You have contracted at Soul level to
being here, with other Souls, Souls which inhabit physical bodies so that you can play out
your various Soul contracts in various relationships. By healing “past/parallel/future” lives,
you need to relate to various people (Souls within bodies). These people with whom you
relate in your relationships are, like you, Souls within bodies. All of you have agreed to
choose to play out various roles in terms of your various Soul contracts.
These roles of choice include mother, father, sibling, relative, friend, teacher, fellow pupils,
boyfriend, girlfriend, lover, husband, wife, child, grandchild, grandparent, etc., etc. Included
in these roles are best friends, so-called “Soul Mates” (actually everyone is a Soul Mate),
enemies, murderers, rapists, adulterers, thieves, gentle people, loving people, fearful people,
giving people, caring people, healers, sinners, and saints, to name a few.
Every Soul comes from Light and is energy. While in the physical, the Souls learn about Ego
and Ego infiltrates Soul. In the context, We use Ego it is best defined as “Edging God Out.”
In this context, Ego is negative, it is egotistical, and it is darkness.
The healing process involves moving from Ego to Soul for Soul to reclaim its rightful place of
being Light in the body. Once the Light has emerged, the Soul has started its reclamation
process. The continual process of bringing more Soul, more Light into play allows the body
to heal, grow, and evolve.
This relationship with other people (Souls with bodies) can sometimes be a mirror
relationship. This is where people exhibit behavior that you exhibit now or have in a
“past/parallel/future” life. This mirror enables you to see, invariably, your Ego at work
reflected by others. By changing your “ways” and “improving yourself” – inevitably achieved
by coming from Soul/Love, not Ego/Fear – this mirror enables you to heal, grow, and evolve
more into the Light.
This journey of your life on earth is your choice to go on a path to find your worthiness as
you involve yourself with others in various relationships.
However, We, your Guides, are non-judgmental, non-manipulative, and non-controlling. We
are here for you to call upon Us. Soul will always give you what you need – not necessarily
what you want – that’s Ego’s role.
Nevertheless, you always have freedom of choice – your Soul Contracts notwithstanding. If
you don’t achieve your Soul Contracts through your freedom of choice, you simply return to
this plane you know as earth, at another time, to attempt to complete that healing process.
It takes courage to be in the physical, and We admire you all greatly for that. We are here to
guide you to heal, grow, and evolve in Love and Light.
These 49 lessons, as Chapters in the Book, given through this Channel, should help you
understand the role of Ego and Soul in your relationships as you heal, grow, and evolve.

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Here are the 49 Lesson headings:
Ctrl+ click on the lesson heading to read it on guidespeak.com
1. 13 Questions To Ask If You Wish To Resolve Your Relationship With a Meaningful Other
2. Worthy Of Love?
3. Do Not Give It a Life
4. Rage In A Relationship
5. Mood Swings In a Relationship
6. Who Is Your Moses
7. Where Does Fear Come From?
8. Betrayal Of Trust – You Are Not A Victim
9. Are You Worthy?
10. The Meaning Of Chocolate Cake – Understanding Conflict Resolution
11. Mother’s Day – You Choose Your Mother At Soul Level
12. Fathers Day – You Chose Your Father At A Soul Level
13. The Face In The Picture
14. Be Still And Know That I Am God
15. Everything You Need Is Inside Of You
16. Marriages Are For Growth Not For Happiness
17. I’ll Never Find Another Love Like That
18. Perspective Is Required In Resolving Personal, Emotional Relationship Issues
19. Was That An Angel?
20. The Journey Of Your Life – Part I
21. The Journey Of Your Life – Part II
22. The Journey Towards Worthiness
23. If You Need To Be Right – What’s Wrong?
24. Changing Your Belief System About You
25. Betrayal – The Healing Process
26. Who Controls Your Spotlight
27. Moving From Ego To Soul
28. Desperate Housewives Revisited
29. Respect – The Missing Ingredient
30. Hearing With Your Soul
31. Lucky To Be In A Wheelchair?
32. Is Your Spouse A Devil Or An Angel
33. Happy Birthday! Would You Like Some Presents?
34. The Little Bubble
35. Respect And Reverence For Age
36. On The Side Of Healing
37. You Can Only Heal What You Feel
38. Losing Or Gaining?
39. Vulnerability Is Your Greatest Strength
40. An Attitude Of Gratitude
41. Next Customer Please
42. I Can C Clearly Now
43. The See-Saw Of Balance
44. Simply Shift From Alone To All One
45. You Are GREAT!
46. The Three Commitments To Yourself – No.1 Trust In The Process
47. The Three Commitments To Yourself – No.2 Stay In The Now
48. The Three Commitments To Yourself – No.3 Be Love
49. Who Are You In A Relationship With?

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To give you an indication of this book, I am reproducing Lesson 32. A distraught lady was
introduced to me by a friend. She had been rejected by her husband, and what follows is the
channelled advice I was able to give her:

Lesson 32- Is your Spouse a Devil or an Angel?

Oh, what a usual tale is about to unfold before you with an unusual ending.
A wife, in her late thirties, is bereft. Her husband is pushing 40, has found a younger lover,
and left her and her children to live with this younger woman.
The wife is angry and resentful. “I gave him the best years of my life, and now who is going
to look after me, who wants a tired-looking, almost forty-year-old woman? I gave up my
promising career to have his children and to make a home for him. I have been out of work
for ten years; I’m not trained for anything. I have been dumped emotionally, physically, and
financially. It’s just not fair!”
I’m going to the best lawyer there is. I’m going to make him suffer. He thinks he can do this
to me; just wait and see what I do to him! I’m going to bring him to his knees. I’m going to
ruin him. Let him beg me to come back and then watch where I’m going to kick him!”
Wow, that’s some anger there!
“Of course, why shouldn’t I be angry, he is a devil, and he is going to get it from me!”
Would you ease up a bit so We can show you the “Bigger Picture” here?
“Well, I’ve read some of your other lessons, so I am prepared to listen.”
Thank you, it pleases Us that you are prepared to listen because, if you give Us the time, We
will show you how your attitude can change and your husband, the devil, can become your
ex-husband, the Angel.
“That I would love to see – You obviously don’t know him like I do!”
Oh, We know him a lot better than you think because We have been with him since he was
born, as We have with you.
Let us start with your intention to damage him financially. Why would you want to do to him
what he is already going to do to himself?
According to the Law of Cause and Effect and the Law of Karma, your husband, through his
actions, has dropped a pebble into the water. The ripple effect of this will cause a ripple that
will build into a wave, which will develop into a tidal wave. That tidal wave of consequences
following his actions, in this case, “negative and destructive” actions, will do more damage to
him than you could ever possibly do to him yourself.
Of course, if you decided to do “negative and destructive” actions to him, you would also
precipitate the Law of Cause and Effect and the Law of Karma against you, with similar
consequences.
Let us show you the unfolding picture here. Your soon to be ex-husband has to provide
financially for you and for your children. In addition, his new girlfriend now wants what you
have got. Maybe working full day, she can’t be at her best for him, working half-day her
income is reduced and she has more leisure time to pamper herself for him but that all costs
money. So, he now has two houses to run. His partner in the business is not happy because
he is drawing more from the business than his partner to afford the extra expenditure, and
the business can’t afford all this additional expenditure. The business needs the cash to buy

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stock in order to stay profitable. While this is taking place, the customers notice that your
husband is not so easy-going and friendly as he was before. His need for money starts to
impact on his relationships and friendships in his business. He becomes difficult with his
customers, and they start to go elsewhere for their needs. Business drops off, personal
drawings increase, bank overdraft levels are cut, his partner wants out of the business.
Of course, all this financial pressure is making him pretty difficult to be around. His new
girlfriend can’t understand why this fun-loving man is suddenly so difficult. He snaps at her,
can’t afford to take her out, and his sexual performance has taken a dive with all this
financial pressure.
Now, what did you want to do to him to make him suffer and bring him to his knees?
If you had, you would also have created a tidal wave for yourself. Why bother, he looks like
he is doing enough damage to himself. His health is suffering, his love life is about as
exciting as that of a celibate monk, his finances are in the toilet, his emotions are stretched
to breaking point, spiritually, he has lost the plot completely, and his new girlfriend is irritating
him. His married friends have disowned him. His single friends find him difficult to be with.
His girlfriend’s friends listen to “strange” music and speak a “different” language to him. His
own kids have lost respect for him.
So, as you can see, by choosing consciously to let him be, by detaching yourself from him,
you can let him self-destruct through the consequences of his actions. This is his self-
journey; you must respect that and let him be.
However, We can’t understand why you are so upset? It must be that you have forgotten that
your soon to be ex-husband and you had a Soul contract made in Spirit before you came to
the earth plane.
The contract was – you needed to find your own path, not being dependent on male energy
to protect you. You chose an overbearing, protective father, a brother who brought you down
because you were an “inferior” woman, and you chose a husband who abused you by
depriving you of your independence, damaged you financially and mentally, and then broke
your heart emotionally. These male energy Soul contract partners have all played their part
to bring you to the place you now find yourself in.
Now you are given the opportunity to develop the masculine energy inside of you, without
affecting your innate femininity, so you can develop your self-worthiness. You do not need a
man in your life to protect and provide for you. You can develop those skills for yourself. You
can learn to wire a plug. You can learn to mow the lawn or organize for someone to do it for
you. You can learn to protect yourself, to take responsibility for yourself. You can learn a
skill, get a proper well-paid job, and provide financially for yourself. Your children can look up
to you with respect, honor, and pride for being their mother and their “father.”
You are multi-faceted; you can do anything you put your mind, heart, and Soul into. You can
find your independence. You can develop your self-worth. You can develop your self-love.
You don’t need a man to complete you. You can become whole and complete yourself.
Now you have this wonderful opportunity to become the Real You when you have found this
“whole new you,” when you know your self-worth, and when you have developed
unconditional self-love, then you are ready for real love with a real man.
A real man who desires you for the real, whole, and complete person you have become. A
real man who does not have to put you down to feel better about himself, as your ex-
husband did in his insecurities. A real man who can express his tender emotions and show
you tender love, respect, and honor. In your wholeness, in your new-found light and love,
you can find someone worthy of you.

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Now is that your soon to be ex-husband, that devil who dumped you? In his insecurities, as
he felt himself getting older, he needed to prove to himself, and to his shallow friends, that he
could “get” a younger, prettier woman.
Any woman can open her legs, but only a worthy woman can open her heart and Soul to
healing, growth, and evolvement.
Your soon to be ex-husband has given you the opportunity to become a worthy woman. After
all, this was your Soul contract with him when you were both Angels in Spirit.
Now you are both Angels in physical bodies on the earth plane – don’t forget.
Thank you, my soon to be ex-husband, for being the Angel you contracted to be to give me
my freedom to find my self-worth, my-self-love, to find the unconditional self-love inside of
me as I journey on my own and develop the potential I have inside of me.
I now thank you for being my Angel and for propelling me on this exciting, challenging, and
somewhat frightening path of self-discovery. I now know that everything I need is inside of
me. I now know that I am never alone; I have God, my Guides, and my Angels, on earth and
in Spirit, to help me.
My soon to be ex-husband, thank you, you have played your part in our Soul contract. I am
now detached from you. I no longer need you; I release you in love and in light.
Thank you, my Angel, my soon to be ex-husband, for my wings – to fly to discover Who I
Really Am – a part of God.

This is a summation of creating an evolving relationship

There are three parties in a relationship. There is you, there is your significant other/partner,
and there is the relationship itself. The relationship itself becomes the effect of which you
and your partner are the cause. You could be doing OK, your partner could also be doing
OK, but the relationship is dying. Being OK usually has more to do with your EGO- Edging
God Out- than with your soul. The same for your partner. So, two ego-based people look to
see what they can get from the other party. There is little thought of giving and then getting,
being conditional giving. And there certainly isn’t any thought of giving unconditionally
without wanting to get anything in return.
Two ego-based people looking out for No.1 may have large egos but little common sense
between them. For a relationship to evolve beyond the party’s ego needs, the first
identification is that one or both must be conscious of their ego’s demands and expectations
of the other person. If it’s a love relationship, then soul-based love does not make demands,
has no expectations, and supports the other party. It is more likely to be an ego-based
relationship. No judgment if that works well for both parties looking out for No.1 in their lives.
In the ideal soul-based evolving relationship, the other party must also come from soul-
based Love with no demands on their partner, having no expectations, and being supportive.
This relationship usually doesn’t exist but is sometimes found in a couple who have been
married for many years and find their happiness in ensuring their partner’s happiness. This

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could occur in the honeymoon phase of a new relationship before one or both parties take
the other for granted in numerous ways.
So, we bring realism into play and say that it’s acceptable to make demands, have
expectations, and not fully support their partner. I am busy; they are busy, the kids need
constant attention, my boss is on my back all day, there is never any time for niceties, let
alone not making demands, not having expectations and finding time to be supportive, when
I have had such a tough day!
OK, so then what happens is both parties bring their frustrations home, attack each other,
the supposed heaven of the home turns into hell, the kids are drawn into the slinging of
insults and swear words, and Happy Families is not on TV or in the home!
Day after day the same, or similar drama plays out until one night one of the parties doesn’t
come home at a reasonable hour, and suspicion and jealousy enter the fray.
It’s a downhill spiral until the relationship crashes, and burns and the children are the
collateral damage of this growing fiasco.
All this is inevitable, and we have seen it played out daily in many relationships worldwide.
To avoid creating hell in your home, bring in some heaven. Suck it up, to begin with, and
lead by an egoless example. No more sentences to start with I, only you or we. No matter
how stressed out you are, go to the bathroom, change into some comfortable clothes.
Ideally, sit quietly and meditate for 5-10 minutes while breathing deeply during the meditation
to rid yourself of the day’s accumulated toxins. If possible, drink some fresh, clean water to
rid yourself of the remaining toxins in your body. Put on a happy face and go and greet your
partner and any children. Ask them about their day and listen attentively with your whole-
body focused on them. Keep this soul-based Love going by not making any demands nor
having any expectations of them. If you have listened attentively to them, they will
reciprocate by offering you help in getting dinner ready, having their baths or showers, and
ending a peaceful day in a loving embrace.

The Choice is yours- CHOICE- Courageously Helping One in Choosing Evolvement

CHOICE- Can Help Overcome I Change Energy

While the above summation is not covered specifically in any of the 49 lessons, it draws from
some of the lessons. There is a wealth of knowledge and wisdom in the simplicity of some of
the 49 lessons. When looked upon by the Unseen Forces in Spirit, many of the lessons often
show the reverse response approach of how we ego-based earth-bound people usually react
to situations that negatively affect us.

If you allow soul-based Love to guide you in your response, and you can identify and reduce,
if not get rid of entirely, your usual ego-based reaction, your life will move from hell on earth
to find a heaven on earth to live in.

The CHOICE is yours- in all ways and always.

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The Book of Life Skills

Background
This book emerged from conversations and channelings I had with my wider family, an ever-
widening circle of friends, and selected site visitors to guidespeak.com

Many of them had read The Book of Universal Spirit Laws and The Book of Evolving
Relationships and wanted guidance with their specific issues.

The topics are varied and were written as, and when they occurred, so they do not follow a
specific order.

Introduction

The introduction to this book from the Guides is:

Creating Miracles
Day to day issues occur. People tend to repeat repetitive patterns, and limited growth occurs
when, as the saying goes, when all you have is a hammer, you see every problem as a nail!
By changing perspective and learning to come from Love, miracles can occur in daily life
when not coming from Ego. More importantly, you can create your own miracles!
By coming from Love, from respect, from trust, from vulnerability, from compassion, from
understanding, from empathy, “in essence” coming from Love, you can create your own
miracles.
After all, you are Part of God, and you currently believe all miracles come from God. Now
use the Part of God that you are, your Soul, the Love inside of You, to come from that Love
and watch the miracles occur in your life as you co-create your life with God.
MIRACLE – May I Recognize A Conscious Light Evolving
This section of Life Skills illustrates how you can come from Love in day-to-day issues by
thinking, acting, doing, and saying, “What Would Love Do Now?”
The topics are not in any order and will be added to from time to time. If you have created
the foundation by reading through other topics on this website, then the Life Skills should be
easier to implement.

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Contents

The Contents pages will show you the wide-ranging topics covered, many of which are
common to people globally.
To access a topic: Ctrl + Click on the topic heading to read it on guidespeak.com.
1. Rejection Or Acceptance Of Love
2. Your Journey This Lifetime – A Victim Or A Victor?
3. First Your Needs Then Theirs
4. Relationship Responsibility
5. Change Your Perspective To Improve Your Life
6. Stand Tall And Proud
7. Are You Reacting Or Responding
8. Where Do Your Feelings Go
9. Being Out Of Your Mind Successfully
10. The Day Of Inter-Dependence – July 4
11. Release It In Love Of You
12. Our Friendship
13. The Love Of Us
14. Resolving Conflict Via Soul Level Approach
15. Giving And Receiving – The Bigger Picture
16. Simply Be
17. It Only Happens In The Now
18. Avoiding Anxiety – Learning To Stay In The Now
19. In Praise Of The Gentler Gender
20. Criticism – The Unfairest Cut Of All
21. Come To My Party
22. Change Threat Or Opportunity
23. Accepting Rejection
24. A Letter To A Mother
25. Letting Go Of Anger
26. The Unconditional Love Of Pets
27. The Ultimate And Complete Forgiveness You Seek
28. Are You Available To Be Loved?
29. People Are Like Icebergs
30. Caring But Without Contamination
31. Who Are You Really Mad At?
32. Confusing Loyalty With Integrity
33. Moving Away From Jealousy
34. Courage To Stand In Your Integrity
35. Searching For Love In All The Wrong Places
36. Not Enough Money
37. Who Is It You Can’t Trust?
38. Losing Your Temper
39. What Are Your Greatest Fears?
40. Why Am I So Competitive?
41. A Message For Valentine’s Day
42. Learning To Trust
43. Spiritual Weight Loss
44. C’mon Kids Join The Respect Revolution
45. You No Longer Need The Security Of Past Conditioning
46. Enthusiasm The Missing Ingredient
47. Unconditional Acceptance The Key To Love
48. Respect The Only Boundary In Behaviour
49. Children Learning Boundaries Of Acceptable Behaviour
50. Are You A Spider or a Fly?
51. Accepting Your New Reality

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52. Are You Circling Or Spiralling?
53. The Only Real Meaning Something has

I have chosen topic no.11- Release it in Love of You- to show you a Life Skill of letting go of
a relationship or issue that no longer resonates with who you are now or who you are
becoming through your spiritual growth.

Topic no.11- Release it in Love of You

When someone, or something, has reached the end of its cycle of life with you, it is
acceptable to let it go. It is more acceptable to bring closure to this cycle by correctly
finishing it off. When people pass on, their bodies are either buried or cremated. A finality is
reached with those bodies. The cycle of life for those bodies is complete and finally dealt
with.
How do you bury or cremate a relationship with someone, or something, that is not physically
dead but is emotionally dead?
When the person, or thing, was acceptable in relation to you, that is when you had a good
relationship with them, or it. You had a commitment, an unwritten contract that you would
both behave in a way acceptable to both of you when you made that contract.
This contract, or lease, was entered into formally, as in the case of a marriage, a partnership,
or informally as in the case of a friendship. This lease between the two, or more, of you, was
a contract to occupy each other’s sacred space with the intent of enhancing this sacred
space, not polluting it.
If you, as a landlord, leased space to a tenant who damaged this space unnecessarily,
disrespectfully, then you are entitled to give notice for restitution of your space as it was
before. If this rectification and restitution are not forthcoming, in a realistic and reasonable
time frame, you are entitled to cancel the lease and eject the tenant, suing them for
damages.
So it is with your sacred emotional space if someone, or something, breaks your lease
contract by their unacceptable behaviour in terms of the behaviour code you’re both
contracted for, then you can unilaterally cancel the lease agreement and release them, and
yourself, from this contract.
You are entitled to protect yourself from further harm and release yourself from the now
stranglehold that is negatively affecting you. The other person, people or thing, has to also
learn that the Law of Cause and Effect causes ripples that must play themselves out in
consequences of actions.
In releasing yourself from this, now, bondage, you first release the other person, people, or
thing, from your lease contract, by formal or informal notice. They must consciously know
that their actions caused this lease contract for your mutual sacred space to be broken and
terminated. They are no longer permitted to continue poisoning your sacred space.
After formal or informal notice has been served on the other person, then you can release
them in Love. Not necessarily to turn the other cheek type of Love, but rather release them in
Love Of Yourself!
By releasing them in Love Of Yourself, you are acknowledging the unconditional love you
have for yourself. You are no longer going to allow others to harm you and thereby giving
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yourself permission to say of them It’s okay, they don’t really mean harm, they are not really
abusing me they are simply troubled!
No longer is it acceptable for you, or others, to condition yourself with conditional love of
yourself. You deserve the best Love there is, unconditional Love of Yourself, let Us repeat
that. You deserve and have earned unconditional love of yourself by yourself. Nothing less
than that is acceptable to you now!
Release the other person, people, or thing, from your sacred space so that you are not
poisoned any longer by their actions (see The Ultimate and Complete Forgiveness You
Seek- The Book of Life Skills- guidespeak.com)
Release the other person, people, or things in Love, in Love of Yourself. You deserve the
unconditional Love of Yourself by yourself. When you know that God is Love, that you are a
Part of God, therefore you are Love, then you will know unconditional Love. You will know
God’s love for you. You will know your love for you unconditionally.
Release yourself – in the unconditional love of you.

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The Book of Inner Peace
Background

As I went through the intensive initial nine months of channelling and increasing spiritual
awareness, my fractured ego-based self allowed the Love and Light of
God/Source/Oneness/Universe to enter in the places where I was broken open.

I was becoming increasingly more and more loving and peaceful within. The writing of the
first two books, The Book of Universal Spirit Laws and The Book of Evolving Relationships,
was becoming increasingly part of me as my soul-based Love developed.

Introduction
From the introduction of this book from the Guides:
Inner Peace is Who You Are. It is your birthright. By separating from The Oneness that We
all are, Us here on the Spirit Plane, and all of you on the Earth Plane, all are part of The
One, sometimes called God. By feeling apart, by feeling separate, your Inner Peace is
disturbed.
Instead of feeling apart from Oneness, in your Fear, move to feel A Part of Oneness, in your
Love.
You are a Part of Oneness, a Partner of Oneness, a Part of God, a Partner of God – and
God is Love, you are Love, and God loves you always and all ways.
To re-create your Inner Peace, to have a mind at peace is easily obtainable and is
maintainable, as spelled out in the 18 Chapters of this Book of Inner Peace.
Ctrl + Click on the topic heading to read it on guidespeak.com
1. Inner Peace Is Your Birthright
2. Transparency Is Your Inner Light
3. Denial Of Love
4. You Are Not Your Body
5. An Unconditional Love Relationship
6. Love And Sex
7. Loveless Sex
8. Judging The Illusion
9. Forgiveness Is The Key To Inner Peace
10. Understanding Different Levels Of Consciousness
11. Health Is In The Mind Manifested In The Body
12. Healing The Imbalances With Love
13. Entitled To Be Happy
14. Relationships Are Eternal
15. Circumstances Don’t Change, People Do
16. Communicating With Love
17. Mind At Peace
18. Maintaining A Mind At Peace

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 I have chosen three topics to illustrate the contents of this book.

1.Inner Peace is your birthright

Inner Peace is your birthright. It is Who You Really Are.

You are a Part of God. You are pure Love. God is Love. God is Peace.
You are Love. You are Peace.
Inner Peace is your birthright eternally.
You are Inner Peace.
For you to be Who You Really Are a Part of God, you have to have a vision of God.
To be a Part of Something, you have to see that Thing so that you can see yourself, really
see yourself, as part of that Thing.
Because God is All There Is, an Oneness, God is Everything. So whatever you see God as
is what God is.
Some people see God in their children. Some see God in the face of their lover. Some see
God in a flower, some on a crucifix, some as a statue of Buddha, some as an old man with a
beard on a cloud. Some as a man. Some as a woman. Some in an ant. Some in a giant
redwood tree.
Some people see God in themselves. These are perhaps the fortunate ones. Some people
see themselves in God. These are the ones who have remembered Who They Really Are a
Part of God.
But for God to be God, you must have a vision, a feeling, a something, to feel a part of.
For you to become, again, the inner peace that you really are, and always will be, you have
to envisage yourself to be a Part of God. First, you have to keep a vision of God within your
inner sight then to see yourself as a part of that Vision.
Once you have that vision or feeling, and once you can envisage the part of God that you
really are through your inner sight, then you will know, once again, Inner Peace.
Inner Peace is Who You Really Are. To find Inner Peace, you simply have to become Who
You Really Are, the Part of God that you are.
God is Love; God is Peace. You are Love; you are Peace.
Welcome home into the loving arms of God.
Welcome home, My child; where have you been? What did you become? Were you happy
when you were that, where you were?
Did you remember that you are love always and all ways?
Did you remember that you are Inner Peace always and all ways?

6. Love and Sex

You are Love. Your partner is Love. When you both acknowledge that you are in love with
each other that the parts of God you both are have found each other, then you will know
unconditional love for each other.
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In this unconditional love, you will both selflessly give all to the other without wanting
anything in return. You will both want to give everything and not want to get anything in
exchange. There will be two people who have experienced the unconditional love of
themselves individually, now wanting and willing to share that unconditional self-love with
each other. You will both be independent in your individual self-love and interdependent in
your mutual love for each other and not be dependent on this love.
Only then will you really be in love. This love of giving and not wanting to get anything in
exchange, to simply be Love, Who You Really Are, to each other like ever-flowing fountains
of blissful love.
No Ego, no Fear, simply being Pure Love, simply being totally comfortable in being Love
together. The synergy of this unconditional love for yourselves and each other makes God
smile as you fully develop the parts of God that you both are.
Now when your love-controlled minds allow your love controlled bodies to join together
physically in a God-given beautiful sexual act, you will truly know the meaning of making love
while being Love. This is when you know that God is Love; this is when you will also
experience inner love, know peace, and know sexual gratification. Sexual love is not
measured by performance rankings but by knowing that you are Love, being Love, making
love, giving love without wanting anything in exchange, by expressing love physically with
the one you love in sacredness eternally.
This sacred love finds Inner Peace.

7. Loveless sex

Sex is not love. Loveless sex is bodies joining. You are not your body; you are Spirit.
Loveless sex is simply empty shells of bodies experiencing temporary, momentary, nerve
ending sensations.
Loveless sex is devoid of any real feelings of meaning. It is meaningless. A momentary
stimulatory experience takes something potentially magnificently God-like and love-like and
flushes it down the toilet like waste products. Loveless sex changes you every time. This
damage compounds on itself every time. Loveless sex is the Ego’s desire for power. The
Egos desire to express itself through control and manipulation.
Ego convinces you that you do not need to have Love to have sex. Sex is the ultimate high.
What do you need Love for? Sex is all you need. So go and enjoy sex. Love is for fools.
Well, if you are not Love, then you are Fear. Therefore, Ego has you trapped in Fear and
offers you loveless sex as a reward. Some reward!
Now that you have become Fear in loveless sex, you experience a lack of self-worth. Your
self-esteem diminishes as you use others for sexual gratification or as you are used for
sexual gratification. This taking of sex, rather than giving of Love, diminishes you, changes
you, as your feeling of emptiness grows inside of you. The not knowing Love in this God-
given ultimate act of lovemaking leaves you controlled by your Ego-driven need for power
based on Fear of control and manipulation.
You are now driven by your Fears. Your increasing lack of self-worth now requires more and
more loveless sex to generate a feeling of power, a poor substitute for feeling real Love.
Loveless sex diminishes you as it reinforces the Fear inside of you, as it reinforces your
increasing feeling of lack of self-worth, as you feel increasingly damaged inside of you.
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Ultimately all this diminishes your ability to feel real love Who You Really Are and makes you
cynical about real Love, and Fear now has you in a vice grip.
You justify your loveless sex by diminishing sex, as it’s only sex. It has no meaning for you,
only a physical need to control and manipulate someone to get what you want physical
gratification.
Where is the Love? Who needs Love? It is just sex!
Without Love, sex is animalistic. Without Love, sex diminishes you in its Fear-like grip.
Without Love, you will not know Inner Peace.
Without Love, sex is damaging to you.
Only Love is real; all else is an illusion.
Without Love, you are only an illusion.
Loveless sex is an illusion.
If you know how beautiful the God-given sexual act is when you are being Love, making love
by being real Love, then you will know that loveless sex is a damaging illusion. Loveless sex
is taking sex, not making love.
You choose – Being Love and making love in Inner Peace – or – being Fear in taking
loveless sex.

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The Book of Animal Spirits
Background
Writing this book was an eye-opening experience for me. I was led to various research
sources and applied my research, editing, and writing skills to understand what each of the
110 animals/birds/insects represented. Since then, when an animal/bird/insect appears in my
life, or on the screens I use daily, with this awareness and meaning of animal spirits, they
“speak” to me. I feel like they have a message for me or someone close to me.
Albert Einstein stated that there are no coincidences in God’s world. I have seen how
synchronicity works in my life and have often written about in my books. While I am writing
about a topic, suddenly, something or someone appears directly related to what I am writing
about. It’s all about vibrational energy and the Law of Attraction where Like is attracted to
Like.
We all know that certain animals have much more heightened vibrational energy than
humans. The bat’s ability to navigate in the dark, a dog’s hearing and sense of smell, a
snake feeling vibrations on the earth. At the time of looming natural disasters, invariably, the
animals sense the oncoming disaster and move to safer ground before the disaster
eventuating.
Humans’ role in their treatment of animals, domesticated or in the wild, is not a great record
of achievement, to say the least. Lack of awareness and lack of respect for Animals’ Spirit is
probably to blame. Hopefully, this book assists in creating this awareness and respect for
animals and their Spirit.
I trust that you can find one or more animals/birds/insects that “speak” to you from the
explanations below. Finding one or more Animal Spirits that align with who you are may
assist you in having a greater understanding of yourself. Sometimes it is the least attractive
member of the animal kingdom, like an ant, rat, snake, or wasp, whose Spirit most aligns
with us. We might want to be a lion as it satisfies our ego’s desire, but at soul level, a spider
maybe who we are most aligned to?

Introduction

Below is the introduction from the Guides:

We are honored that you have joined Us in this present moment of now to explore and
comprehend a very basic truth – “We are all One.”
Spirit, God, or whatever name resonates with you describes The One We are all part of.
The One has many faces. The One has a human face, an animal face, a bird’s face, an
insect’s face, a flower’s face, a tree’s face, a plant’s face, and so on.
The One is often described as Nature. Nature is an acceptable name for now.

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We Are All Part of Nature
All of you, on the earth’s plane, are part of Nature. The air you breathe goes to trees, plants,
and flowers and is returned to you from that part of Nature. The mosquito that bites your arm
to suck your blood becomes a part of you, and you become a part of it. The vegetables,
plants, insects, birds, fish, animals that you eat become a part of you. Your waste products
become fertilizer to make vegetables, plants, livestock feed, and so on grow, so the very
things you eat can feed upon them, and so the recycling of Nature goes on and on.
You are part human, part animal, part bird, part fish, part insect, part tree, part flower, part
plant, part vegetable, part fruit, part grass, part of The One, which We call Nature, for now.
If you consider that you need honor and respect for yourself from yourself, and from others,
then are you equally prepared to give honor and respect to yourself, others in human form,
and, most importantly, others representing Nature, in all Its forms?
If you truly honor and respect Nature in all Its forms, then giving awareness and
consciousness to all of Nature is a good starting point for this journey.
Honoring and respecting Nature consciously in awareness means thanking and blessing the
parts of Nature as they assist you in your existence, moment by moment.

You and Nature Combine

When you go to sleep on a pillow filled with feathers, and you awake to drink tea, coffee,
orange juice, have a piece of toast with honey or jam, perhaps have an egg, grab your
leather coat as you rush out the door, climb into your steel, leather, plastic, iron, composite,
motorcar, using petro-chemical fuel dug out of the earth and go to school, work, play, you
and Nature are combining and intertwining.
Perhaps it’s time to acknowledge with honor and respect that which you interact with,
moment by moment, that which comes from Nature, from The One, of which you are a Part.
So now, you have a greater understanding and comprehension of the fact that you are Part
of The One, Nature, as We have chosen to name It, for now.
So too are you, brothers and sisters, to the animals, birds, fish, insects, flowers, trees,
mammals, and so on.
However, unlike you, these animals, to use an all-embracing term, have remained part of the
natural rhythm of Nature, its birth, growth, survival, and death. This Nature is natural, not
artificial, as most humans have become. The animals speak to you as the Nature/natural
part of you. If you lived in a totally natural state, in say, the jungles of the Amazon forest,
then you would not live artificially, but you would be “back to nature.”
You would then know that your very co-existence, survival, and growth in this jungle would
be totally dependent on your adaptability to Nature’s rhythm. When animals, birds, fish,
insects, plants, trees, vegetables “spoke” to you, you would know and understand their
“message,” aware that making it through the jungle at that moment is wholly dependent on
their “messages” to you and your interpretations of these messages.

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Listen to the Messages Sent by Nature
The “messages” from Nature are also applicable in your artificial existence as a human.
However, it is difficult for Nature to get through to you in your concrete, glass, steel, wooden
cages you live in now. Human created barriers invariably block nature’s natural rhythm.
When Nature does manage to get through to you, It is pasteurized, homogenized,
insectecided, etc., out of existence. However, Nature is persistent and never stops its natural
flow of rhythms to get its messages to you.
As a human being, your balance in Nature needs restoring. You need to feel the part of
Nature you really are. You are always encouraged to go for a walk, a bicycle ride, a jog, play
golf, bowls, outdoor sports, and hobbies, climb a mountain, ford a stream, and follow every
rainbow until you find your dream! Do whatever you want or need to do but, please do it in
Nature and with nature. Restore your natural balance with Nature. Return to your roots,
literally and figuratively.

You are a part of Nature.

Nature sends you messages, sometimes, from animals, birds, fish, insects, mammals, etc.
These messages can be interpreted as encouragement, understanding, reminders, and
occasionally “strong, swift kicks in the posterior” to get you moving in a certain direction in
your life’s journey.
When these animals, birds, fish, insects, mammals, etc., come into your life, it is important to
explore, understand and comprehend the meaning it has for you – and for you to decide on a
plan of action to take to grow and evolve spiritually.
We have worked with numerous Souls on the earth’s plane who have developed special
skills in determining the interpretations of these “animals” and the language and messages
they portray. We have instructed the “Channel” to utilize resources available to assist in
interpreting these “animal tongues” as well as giving the “Channel” a greater understanding
of the interpretations of these “messages” from the animal, bird, fish, insect, mammal, etc. as
they relate to human beings.
A word of caution, do not judge these animals on the messages they bring simply because
an animal does not seem “great.” Do not prefer one that makes you feel good. Each animal
is unique and has a unique message for you. If this animal has come into your space, then
do not judge it, but accept it, surrender to it and take the message it has brought to you to
heart.
We trust that these “messages” will bring you closer to Nature, your natural state, and enable
you to interpret these messages for your healing, growth, and further enlightenment.

Contents

Table Of Contents

Ctrl+ click on the animal to read it on guidespeak.com

1. ALLIGATOR / CROCODILE
2. ANT
3. ANTELOPE
4. ARMADILLO
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5. BADGER
6. BAT
7. BEAR
8. BEAVER
9. BEE
10. BLACKBIRD
11. BLUEBIRD
12. BOBCAT / LYNX
13. BUFFALO / BISON
14. BULL
15. BUTTERFLY
16. CAMELS
17. CANARY
18. CARDINAL
19. CAT
20. CHAMELEON
21. CHEETAH
22. CHICKEN
23. COUGAR
24. CHIPMUNK / SQUIRREL
25. COCKATOO
26. COYOTE
27. COW
28. CRAB
29. CRANE
30. CROW/ROOK
31. CRICKET
32. CUCKOO
33. DEER
34. DOG
35. DOLPHINS (PORPOISES)
36. DONKEY
37. DOVE/PIGEON
38. DRAGONFLY
39. DUCK
40. EAGLE
41. ELEPHANT
42. ELK
43. FISH
44. FLAMINGO
45. FLY
46. FOX
47. FROG
48. GIRAFFE
49. GOAT
50. GOOSE
51. GORILLA
52. GRASSHOPPER
53. GROUSE
54. HAWK
55. HERON
56. HIPPOPOTAMUS
57. HORSE
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58. HUMMINGBIRD
59. JAGUAR
60. KANGAROO
61. KESTREL
62. KINGFISHER
63. LEOPARD
64. LION
65. LIZARD
66. LOON
67. MAGPIE
68. MOCKINGBIRD
69. MOOSE
70. MOUSE
71. OCTOPUS
72. OPOSSUM
73. OSTRICH
74. OTTER
75. OWL
76. PANTHER
77. PARROT
78. PEACOCK
79. PENGUIN
80. PIG
81. PIGEON
82. PORCUPINE
83. PRAYING MANTIS
84. RABBIT
85. RACOON
86. RAT
87. RAVEN
88. RHINOCEROS
89. ROBIN
90. SALMON
91. SEAGULL
92. SEAL
93. SHARK
94. SHEEP (RAM)
95. SNAIL
96. SNAKE
97. SPARROW
98. SPIDER
99. SQUIRREL
100. STORK
101. SWAN
102. TIGER
103. TORTOISE
104. TURKEY
105. TURTLE
106. VULTURE
107. WASP
108. WHALE
109. WOLF
110. ZEBRA
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I have used three examples to give you a glimpse of this book:

2. Ant
Architects and Builders, Community-Minded, Discipline and Order, Focussed, Hard-Working,
Honour and Respect, Patience, Persistence, No Ego, Unconditional Love
Architects and Builders: Ants design and build their own creations, turning them into
realities.
Community-Minded: Through self-sacrifice and true service to the community, each ant will
do its assigned role to ensure the survival, health, and growth of the whole colony or
community.
Discipline and Order: Knowing your place in your assigned role with discipline and order
working for the community’s greater good.
Focussed: Ants focus on the task at hand.
Hard-Working: The ant is very industrious and hard-working, creating success through
effort.
Honour and Respect: Although there is a caste system in place within the colony or
community, each ant, selflessly, will persevere with patience harmoniously to do its assigned
role honouring and respecting itself and all of the other ants for the benefit of the
colony/community.
Patience: Ants will show infinite patience in waiting for their hard work to create their dream,
their reality that they have created.
Persistence: Ants will continually persist in the drudgery of repetitive workloads until
success is achieved.
No Ego: Each ant within the caste system operates without ego, aligning itself, with honour
and respect for itself and all ants, with the integrity of one for all and all for one the virtue of
equality.
Unconditional Love: By operating without ego and for the benefit of all, the ant shows
unconditional love, honour, and respect for all, including itself. The lowly ant deserves the
highest praise. To emulate the ant is to ensure success in your life.

19. Cats

Domesticated, Magic, Mystery, Healing, Protectors, Teachers, Personalities

Domesticated: A cat is not really comfortable being domesticated; it prefers to be wild. Its
attitude towards being domesticated is to remain aloof, go its own way, put up with its
imprisonment but show its owner/captor who is the real boss by its attitude. Those cats who
accept domesticity live a regal life, not producing anything or contributing to the household,
other than love if it so decides to in its independence.
Magic/Mystery: Due to superior eyesight, a cat is at home in the dark. The dark generally
frightens humans, so the cat is attributable to magical and mysterious powers.

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Healing: Cats energy field rotates clockwise, which is the opposite of the human energy
field. Cats can absorb the negative energy of humans and so neutralize it, healing humans in
the process.
Protectors: With their excellent night vision, sensitive hearing, and high intelligence levels,
cats have proven to have extrasensory perception (ESP) and are early warning protectors
and defenders of their rights.
Teachers: Cats can teach many things. How to relax, how to be independent, how to give
and receive love, how to develop stronger spiritual awareness, improve meditation, and so
on.
Personalities: Cats, if satisfied to be domesticated, can take on personalities attributable to
humans.

93. Shark

Emotions, Confidence, Initiative, Protection, Sensitivity

Emotions: Sharks do not have swim bladders and are in perpetual motion in water to avoid
sinking to the ocean floor. Water is associated with emotional transformation, and the shark
tackles emotional issues head-on.
Confidence: The Shark has confidence that comes from being feared by most water-based
inhabitants. Those with Shark energy will use power, influence, and confidence to drive away
unwanted people or issues, especially negative ones.
Initiative: Sharks operate at a primal instinctive level. Those with this energy are likely to go
forward and attack, instinctively knowing that they can usually handle the fallout if there is
one.
Protection: The Shark exhibits the power of a fearless predator and is unpredictable,
making it all the more unstable and dangerous. This attacking nature makes it a powerful
symbol for self-protection via attack.
Sensitivity: The Shark’s nose is very sensitive, especially to blood in the water. Sharks can
feel movement in the water caused by struggling fish and are sensitive to electromagnetic
currents. Those with Shark energy will have an acute sense of smell.

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The Book of the Religion of Love
Background

Many of us are born into a religion that our parent or parents’ practice. Certain people
consciously choose to move from one religion to another through matters of the heart, such
as marriage, or soul, such as finding more meaning in another religion to the one you
inherited through birth.

A few of us move from formal religion to spirituality, where we find our own path to find and
know God within us. In these instances, we prefer to follow the Message rather than the
Messenger. We prefer to develop a personal relationship with our Creator unfettered by
rules, regulations, do’s and don’ts, traditions, rituals, and even superstitions.

Some people choose their own path to find and develop a personal relationship with the
Divine within them. They may see organised religion as too restrictive and a form of crowd
control.

As a pioneer in life, a creative person seeking expanding horizons, and a non-conformist, I

am ideally suited to move from organised religion to finding a Religion based on Love and
Light, without the trappings of traditions, rituals, dogma, and superstition. I have never been
a “joiner” in my life, preferring to march to the beat of a different drummer. I have a select
number of close friends and family with whom I communicate and visit, where possible. I
prefer being with these people and alone with my Spiritual Friends than having to do
something I don’t want to please a joiner community. During the current lockdown, due to
COVID -19, I choose to use emails and Whatsapps daily to communicate verbally and in
writing with around seventy- five friends and family worldwide. I am not judging others who
prefer to be part of a joiner community. There is no right or wrong here, merely the choices
we make. Eventually, our choices make us who we are.

Perhaps, you also prefer finding your own path to the Divine within you. If so, you may enjoy
and benefit from The Book of the Religion of Love.

Introduction

From the introduction of this book by the Guides:

There are 43 recognizable religions with some 20 sizeable religions in the physical plane you
know as earth. Each religion is a pillar of strength to its adherents.
Spirituality is not a religion; it is knowledge of awareness of Oneness. Spirituality is the
bridge, and the various religions are the pillars holding up this bridge.

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The bridge of Spirituality is eternally anchored and does not require the pillars of religion in
order to exist. However, the pillars of religion require Spirituality to exist so that they may
exist.
What is Spirituality? It is the awareness, the consciousness that there is One Supreme
Being, One Light, Oneness – which some people call God. The bible, used by over 2 billion
people, has over 70 names used to describe this Oneness, this Source of Creation.
It is the connectivity of and to that Oneness. It is the knowledge of Awareness when the
person in the physical feels that connectivity to being part of Oneness – part of God.
Feelings are the language of your Soul.
Your Soul comes from Oneness, from God.
When your Soul feels this connectivity to its Oneness, you experience Love, and when more
fully developed, Unconditional Love.
This Love, this feeling of Love, enables you to experience Who You Really Are – at Soul
level – part of Oneness, part of God.
When you feel this Love as Unconditional Love, then you know God’s Love.
Then you know God is Love.
Then you know Love is all there is.
Then you know God is all there is.
Then you know We/we are all part of Oneness, part of God.
Religion is not Spirituality. Religion is exclusive; Spirituality is inclusive.
Religion is based on a specific set of beliefs, rituals, and practices, usually within an
organized group or structure.
Spirituality has one knowledge, that of Awareness/Consciousness of Oneness. It has no set
of beliefs, no rituals, and no defined practices and exists without any organized group or
structure.
If Spirituality had to have a belief, it would be “God is Love.”
If it needed a religion to make it more acceptable to earth’s 7 billion people, it could be called
“The Religion of Love.”
We start the Book of The Religion of Love with a greater understanding of what Love is.
More chapters will be added by Us, via the Channel, at the appropriate time.
We wish you Namaste – May the God within us greet the God within you and so recognize
and remember Our/Your Oneness together.

Contents
Ctrl + click on the topic heading to read it on guidespeak.com

1. WHERE DOES LOVE COME FROM?

2. LOVE IS ALL THERE IS
3. DO YOU WANT TO KNOW CONTINUAL, UNCONDITIONAL LOVE?
4. DO YOU BELIEVE YOU ARE A PART OF GOD?
5. ENJOY THE MOMENT IN LOVE
6. AREN’T YOU GLAD YOU ARE AN ORANGE?
7. WHAT HAPPENED TO THAT LOVE INSIDE OF ME?
8. WHY YOU HAVE FEAR
9. HOW TO TURN HATE FOR SOMEONE INTO LOVE
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10. WHO ARE YOU? YOU ARE LOVE!
11. TRUST GOD NOW
12. 22 STEPS TO FIND YOUR INNER SECURITY
13. THE MEANING OF YOUR LIFE
14. 30 KEYS TO FORGIVENESS

Here is an example from this book

12. 22 Steps to Find Your Inner Security

What is your Inner Security? For most people on the earth plane their security comes from a
number of sources, e.g., from their job, their source of income, the stability and assuredness
of that income; their marriage or other meaningful relationship; their health; their physical
safety; the Love or friendship they receive from partners, children, family, friends; their
happiness at work, at home or in their social lives; their material possessions such as their
homes, car, furniture, etc.
These sources of security mainly come from people and things outside of themselves –
external reference points. Their level of security of themselves hinges on external factors
such as having a job, having someone to Love them, being accepted socially, living in a nice
house, and driving a nice car, as examples of outside reference points.
In essence, they allow the judgments of others to determine how secure they feel about
themselves.
When you rely on the fickleness of other people’s opinions, you cannot obtain lasting
security in the shifting sands of public opinion.
Regrettably, petty jealousies, greed, people’s insecurities, and fears, as well as their desire
to bring other people down to their level of “scarcity mentality,” generally point to a possible
imbalance of security one feels when you are subject to other people’s insecurities being
foisted onto you.
The only security worth having is well-founded Inner Security. The Inner Security you are
currently experiencing right now is your only real reference point of how you feel about
yourself – when no one is watching you!
Your Inner Security, your inner compass determining What You Are, is what you should hold
dearly.
Your Inner Security should be based on What You Are, not what you do. You are Part of
God, God is Love, and you are Love.
You are not your physical body; that is an illusion. You are a Soul!
That Soul is Part of God. That Soul is Pure Love.
The Inner Security that you feel inside you will be substantially enhanced if your reference
point is not your external reference points, but your knowledge and acceptance that you are
a Part of God.
The steps you need to take to develop this Inner Security are:
• Step 1 – Acknowledge that you are Part of God.

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• Step 2 – Accept that the only place you will find that Part of God that you are is in the
Now.
• Step 3 – When you are in the Now, you accept the fact that God will give you what
you need (not want) in every present moment of Now – for the highest growth
opportunity for your Soul to grow towards God.
• Step 4 – Accept that God’s timing for you is always perfect.
• Step 5 – Accept that what God is presenting to you right now is a Gift (that’s why it is
called a Gift because it is in the Present moment of Now!)
• Step 6 – Do not judge this Gift from God as good, bad, or indifferent. Ultimately,
everything happens for the best – it may take a long time to see that – but then, if you
could see the Bigger Picture, you would better understand it.
• Step 7 – Accept that this Gift from God requires you to search for the opportunity it
presents for your Soul's highest growth in this moment of Now.
• Step 8 – Welcome the insecurity and uncertainty that opens up for you because that's
where growth opportunities will be found.
• Step 9 – People usually cry out, "Help me God!" when confronted with Gifts from God
– opportunities to grow – which initially appear difficult or traumatic to experience.
• Step 10 – A better approach would be, "Thank you, God, for the challenge being
presented to me right now so I can discover the opportunity for the growth of my
Soul."
• Step 11 – By accepting and surrendering to God's will for you now, you learn to Trust
God Now to give you what you need when you need it.
• Step 12 – By adopting an Attitude of Gratitude, you accept that what is being
presented to you like a challenge is, in essence, an opportunity to grow spiritually.
You are grateful for this challenge, this opportunity to grow.
• Step 13 – Regrettably, when people do not accept this Gift from God to grow
spiritually, they are reneging on their Soul Contract. This Gift re-appears time and
again, in different guises, until it is finally grasped, unwrapped, dealt with, and growth
eventually occurs. God has infinite patience – eternity is forever!
• Step 14 – In dealing with the issue at hand that the Gift from God brings to you, you
need to bring a focus into play in dealing with what is in front of you now to deal with.
• Step 15 – Imagine yourself as the tip of an arrow. You take your energy, without any
distractions or dilution of that energy, and you focus it, like the tip of an arrow flying
through the air.
• Step 16 – By focusing your energy in the Now, you allow your Intuition to open up,
enabling your connection to your Guides, your Angels, your Higher Self, your Soul as
a Part of God, as well as God, to guide you in solving this issue.
• Step 17 – By stating, "Thank you, God, for helping me in this present moment of
Now," you allow Universal Wisdom to assist you.
• Step 18 – Now you learn to "Be still and know that I am God" as you repeat this to
yourself.
• Step 19 – God's Gift for you contains a MIRACLE (May I Recognize A Conscious
Light Evolving). This miracle is not the proverbial pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
This miracle is recognizing that the Conscious Light evolving is the Part of God inside
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 of you, your Soul, making its Presence felt. Feelings are the language of the Soul.
The Soul is Pure Love. This miracle you will experience is feeling your Soul, feeling
Pure Love, feeling the Part of God inside of you, feeling God's presence in your life.
What greater miracle can there be?
• Step 20 – Now, in God's timing, the answers will come to you to resolve this issue?
The parts of the answer will unfold over time as you learn to adjust to trusting the
process to unfold as it should. Once you have learnt to TRUST (To Release Unto
Spirit Totally) and (To Rely Upon Spirit Totally), then the opportunity resulting from the
issue or challenge will be developed, and your spiritual growth will follow.
• Step 21 – By learning to Trust God Now, you learn to Trust the Process to unfold as it
should, to Stay in the Now and to Be Love.
• Step 22 – This is best done by thinking, saying, and doing “What Would Love Do
Now?” and acting accordingly.

Expect a miracle; it is in the making right now, as you accept God’s Gifts for you as they
unfold in every present moment of Now.
To find your Inner Security, you need to become the Part of God you really are; then, you will
know Love, bliss, effortlessness, and a life of abundance with no need for outside reference
points for your Inner Security.
“Thank you, God, for the opportunity being presented to me right now.”
“Thank you, God, for holding me in the Palm of Your Hand – eternally.”

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personalempowerment.co
personalempowerment.co comprises 23 free books, of which 20 are spiritually based
books included in this book- A Treasury of Spiritual Knowledge and Wisdom.

These books are:

Spiritual
How to Live in the Now
Being Loved Unconditionally
Spiritual Fireside Chats
A Spiritual Meander- finding spiritual solutions to life’s challenges
Spiritual Love
Spiritual Laughter
Wisdom in a Nutshell
Unfolding Your Child- a spiritual approach to parenting
Ego = Failure - learning to become more egoless and humble
Managing Your Stress Effectively
Achieving Your Goals and Dreams
Becoming Blissful
Listening- The Relationship Builder
GAIN- God And I Now
The Purpose and Meaning of your Life in terms of your Soul Contracts
Finding and Knowing God Within You
Reducing your Worry and Anxiety
Understanding and Elevating Your Vibrational Energy
The Pathless Path to Oneness
Nothing matters, except Love and Light
A Treasury of Spiritual Knowledge and Wisdom

Business
How to Survive and Thrive as an Entrepreneur
How to be a Great Negotiator

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What’s on personalempowerment.co

There are 20 books on the personalempowerment.co website that could be termed spiritually
based books suitable for highlighting in A Treasury of Spiritual Knowledge and Wisdom. I
have experiential knowledge that my Unseen Friends in Spirit have guided me in writing
these books.

There are also two business books- How to Survive and Thrive as an Entrepreneur, using
my over 40 years’ experience as an entrepreneur, and How to be a Great Negotiator, using
my local and global experience over four decades of, among other things, negotiating for a
living. I wrote these books for my sons and anyone else who wants to read and study them.

Additionally, for my close family and friends, I have produced 5000 Years of Wisdom, a near
1000-page compilation of some 13 500 quotations, carefully selected from over 750 000
quotations I have collected and collated over four decades. These 13 500 quotations from
arguably the finest minds to have walked the earth over the past 5000 years are under some
960 topic headings and ranked chronologically to reflect the changing, if any, of society's
mores about each topic. This book is now out of print, and as yet, has not been placed on-
line on personalempowerment.co.
Wisdom in a Nutshell provides an inkling of 5000 Years of Wisdom

Background to the website

In late 2009, as a divorced parent, I began working from home to be available for my sons
while they were at university and school.

Having always worked in an office since becoming self -employed in 1976, and as my
business grew, managing staff, it was a transition to be sitting alone with time on my hands. I
began my spiritual writing again and was guided to register the name personalempowerment
as I was “told” by my Guides that using the term spirit or spiritual may put people off. The
only name I could get was personalempowerment.co.

My Guides said that the guidepeak.com information was the basis of understanding about
the Spirit world and its interactions with the earth plane of existence, but it was now time to
write more “how-to” books putting this knowledge and wisdom into practical use.

I had to learn and do so while researching and writing books with the ongoing guidance,
which the Guides said would be more automatic than before.

The first free book was something I always wanted to know how to do, and that was living in
the now. The other 19 free spiritual books to date flowed after that.

This book, A Treasury of Spiritual Knowledge and Wisdom, is a synopsis of these 20

spiritually based books. This book aims to give people an indication of each book, enabling
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them to select one or more free books to download, thereby, hopefully, improving and
enhancing their lives. In essence, to personally empower themselves with this knowledge
and wisdom.

Except for some five books written during the quarantined lockdown period due to COVID-19
since early 2020, the other fifteen books were mainly written at night and over weekends. I
chose to spend my non-working time with my sons, close family, and friends, and with my
Unseen Spiritual Friends in Spirit, from whom I feel so enriched.

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How to Live in the Now
Achieve awareness, inner growth, peace in your life

Background

The first edition of this book, How to Live in the Now, was initially written in 2009/10 and
remains as current now as it was then. It is subtitled Achieve, Awareness, Growth, Inner
Peace in your life. The current edition was produced in 2013 using selected colour pictures.
I also produced and published 200 print copies of this current edition, which comprises 437
pages that I gave to selected family and friends. A few of these people tell me that they read
the book daily and have continued doing so for many years. One said it is his ‘bible,’ and
another friend in London says she has breakfast with me every day, as she reads a page a
day while eating her breakfast. Most people comment on the back cover “blurb” and say it is
their Friend.
Here is the back cover “blurb.”

This is not a book; it’s a Friend

Your new friend will take you on a journey of discovery of what the Now really is, how to
access it, the Omnipotence ever-present in the Now, the Being found in stillness, the breath
of your life, and understanding awareness beyond thought.

It will show you the importance of flowing and giving, of achieving balance, harmony, and
inner guidance. It will explain your feelings and negate your ‘fearlings.’ It will teach you
acceptance and surrender and that vulnerability is your greatest strength.

It will enable you to find happiness and Love. It will help you create an accurate perspective
and develop a perception of the meaning and purpose of your life. It will show you the
importance and consistency of change and how to embrace it willingly. It will provide long-
lasting solutions for you and not just the answers you think you need now.

It will show you how to enter the Now and remain ever-present in the Now. It will make you
powerful when you understand exactly what power is, where it comes from, and how to
enhance it further.

You will turn to your new Friend for your needs, whatever they may be-in any moment of
Now. Like your trusted best Friend, it will always be there for you.

In its pages, you will find understanding, kindness, compassion, and Unconditional Love for
You. It will guide you through dark nights, ensuring your safety into the passage of the light
of the day.

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It will uplift you in times of sorrow and embrace you in times of happiness. Like your best
Friend, it will touch your soul as its radiance, knowledge, and wisdom ennoble you to
become who You truly are.

I managed to get this free book onto Amazon.com at the insistence of certain influential
people who believed it deserved a wider audience.
Here is the link to the book if you would prefer to read it on your e-book reader. (Ctrl +click.)
https://www.amazon.com/How-Live-Now-Awareness-Empowerment-
ebook/dp/B00RSUURP8#customerReviews

When finding this link, I discovered that there are 52 Reviews, of which 30 are 5 Star
Reviews, and 12 are 4 Star reviews. Here is a link to the reviews: (Ctrl +click)
https://www.amazon.com/How-Live-Now-Awareness-Empowerment-
ebook/dp/B00RSUURP8#customerReviews

It is not possible to summarise this book of some 437 pages and do justice to it in a few
pages. I have decided to give you the Chapter Headings and the subheadings. Each
subheading has specific topics under it, and the detailed Contents runs to eight pages, so
here is a summary of the contents. Additionally, there are two topics below to give you an
insight into the book.

Chapter
1. The Now - The Now is not a time- it’s a space!
- What is the Now?
- Why is it preferable to be in the Now?
- The concept of a Higher Power
2. Access - Accessing the Now
- How do You become you
3.Omnipotent- God’s Space
- Godlike
- Gain
- Oneness
- Trust
- Truth
4. Being - Presence
- Silence and Stillness
- Doing and Being
- Listen
- Age
5. Breathing - Breath
- Gap

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 - Mindfulness
- Mind
- Healing
6. Awareness – Becoming aware
- Consciousness
- Watching
- Sensory
- Focus
- Attention
7. Flow - Flowing
- Simplify
8. Giving - Give
- Gratitude
- Miracle
9. Harmony - Balance
- Vibrations
- Peace
10. Inner Guidance- Inner Peace
11. Feelings - Emotional Feelings
12. Choice - Right to choose
- Intention
- Purpose
- Response
13. Acceptance - Learning acceptance
- Surrender
- Vulnerability
14. Happiness - Attaining Happiness
- Joy
- Enjoyment
- Smile
- Passion
15. Love - Undertanding Love
- Relationships
- Self
- Family
- Life
16. Fear - No fear Now
- Past
- Future
- Anger
- Anxiety
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 - Detachment
17. Perception - Everything is Perception
- Non -Judgement
18. Change - Change is the only Constant
- Understanding
- Patience
- Compassion
- Forgiveness
- Belief
19. Solutions - Creating Solutions
20. Now - The Present Mpment of Now
- This Moment
21.Time - Undertanding Time
22. Power - The Only Power
23. A Few More Ways into the Now- This Important Moment
- Animals
- Caution
- Prayer
- Problems
- Stretch
- Tears
- Transparency

For those people intent on learning How to Live in the Now, this book has hundreds of
examples that should provide one or more ways for you to access the Now and to know joy
and bliss in your life.

Here are two topics randomly selected from Chapter 3- Omnipotent- to give you an idea of
what you will find in this book:

Three steps to Heaven

How do you enter God’s Space, which can only be found in the Now?
To begin with, you must take a long-term view. A very long-term view. Actually, if the truth is
told, eternity.
You have to see yourself not just as a person, a human being, but as a human being who is
an eternal Soul, an eternal being who is living in eternity Now, as a Part of God.
So, now you know who You really are, at Soul level. How do you get the human body and
mind that you are in this life into God’s Space, without passing from this life into the next?
How do you become your Soul Now?
Only by living in the Now.
How do you enter and live in the Now?

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There are three simple steps:
◗◗ Non-resistance to what is Now.
◗◗ Non-judgment of what is Now.
◗◗ Non-attachment to what is Now.

But how do I develop these skills?

Non-resistance is hard. Learn to become nonresistant by practicing acceptance and

surrender. Whatever happens, simply say, “OK.” Then release your resistance to it and be
OK, and see what happens next.

Non-judgment is hard. Learn to be non-judgmental by practicing acceptance and surrender.

Whatever happens, simply say, “Perhaps,” and release your judgment of it. Then see what
happens next.

Non-attachment is hard. Learn to become non-attached by practicing acceptance and

surrender. If you see yourself as eternal, then everything is impermanent in the physical
world. So, whatever happens, simply say, “This is not permanent,” and release your
attachment to it. Then let it go, and see what happens next.

If you practice these three skills over time, you and what happens will gradually integrate and
become One. Your Ego cannot see the “bigger picture”: how everything is happening
perfectly. Now in the entire Universe. It only has its limited view as a reference point. And
from that point of view, resistance, judgment, and attachment are inevitable. “OK,”
“Perhaps,” and “This is not permanent” allow you to release the resistance, judgment, and
attachment hooks to remain in the Now.

These could be your three steps to God’s Space, which is the eternal dimension of this
present moment of Now.

It’s Now or Never

Elvis Presley sang “It’s Now or Never” and made it a hit. No wonder they called him the King!

There is never a reality that is not Now. So, in reality, it’s never not Now. Everything can only
happen Now. If it’s already happened, it’s in the past and, if it’s going to happen, it’s in the
future; but when it does happen, it’s in the Now.

While you as a body are here. Now, your mind might go back to your past or forward to a
possible future, but both are illusionary; only the Now is real. Anything and everything can
only occur Now. The Now is the eternal, ever-changing moment.

When you watch a movie, each frame is illuminated one at a time from a fixed point on the
movie projector, and that fixed point of illumination is Now. If the projector froze on one
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frame and that frame stayed on the screen, that moment of Now would be captured and
shown as one picture until the movie projector was repaired and the other frames rolled past
the fixed point of illumination. If the movie projector was never repaired, then the movie was
probably From Here to Eternity. (Just kidding!)

But here and Now is from here to eternity—all in the frame of Now, continually, eternally. The
eternal is Now. God is only in the here and Now, in God’s Space. When You are in the Now,
you are with God, in God’s Space. The only way you can be in the Now with God is to be
Godlike by being Love because God is Love. To experience the Now, you must be Love, be
loving, and a Being of Love. It’s Now or Never—be Love forever (sorry, Elvis!).

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Being Loved Unconditionally
This book was written in 2011

This second book, Being Loved Unconditionally- Finding unconditional love within your
Being, has its basis in my personal journey.

The Preface of the book explains its purpose and meaning:

This is a book from a survivor of the dissolution of a long-term relationship.

The understanding, awareness, and application written about in these pages are some of the
steps I took on my journey from the emotional “dark side” to the discovery of being loved
unconditionally.
Although I have been to an emotional Hell and back, now that I have found unconditional
love within my Being, I consider the dissolution and resulting journey the best thing that ever
happened to me.
The reason I have opened up and been vulnerable to you, the Reader, is to assure you that
it is possible to survive an emotional relationship dissolution and thrive after that, providing
you become unconditionally loving to yourself and then to all those in your orbit.
This book is dedicated to all those who read these words and apply this approach to being
Love unconditionally
I wish you inner peace.

I wrote this book some five years after the painful divorce I went through. My journey was
moving from an ego-based fearful person towards a soul-based Love person. About five
years later, around 2016, my ex-father-in-law died in a motor accident, and I stepped back
into my ex-wife’s life. Today we are the best of friends.

In all honesty, I can say that finding the unconditional Love within me was the turning point in
moving from an ego-based person towards a soul-based person.
I hope this book can help you in the way my life evolved, some of which are recorded in this
book in anecdotal form.

The book is written in a handwritten journal format with little notations alongside to emulate a
personal journey of self-discovery.

I am reproducing the Contents page below to give you an idea of the topics being covered:

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Contents

Is it possible to give and receive unconditional love?

Why unconditional love is needed here and now?
Would you like to be loved unconditionally?
The basic premise
Cleansing yourself first
Learning to love yourself
Becoming available to fall and rise in love
Learning how to stop being unloving
The voice of your parents
On being alone
The wonder of aloneness
From alone to All One
Self-centredness
From self-centeredness to sharing
Invest in yourself
Only a thought away
Start >>> with kindness
Listening unconditionally
First, seek to understand
Self-acceptance first
Accepting what is happening now
Gratitude is thankful acceptance
Patience is a virtue allowing unconditional love to blossom
Do unto others in unconditional love
True compassion
Total forgiveness enables unconditional love to manifest in you
Awareness of this present moment
The power of choice
On being vulnerable
A state of surrender
Strength is weakness, and weakness is strength
The infallibility of unconditional love
True joy measures your unconditional love
Peace begins with acceptance of what is now
Faith as a cornerstone of unconditional love
I will survive
Is your inner switch on?
You should only have one expectation
Loss and gain
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True love is another name for unconditional love
Looking for meaning in your life
Shortcut to unconditional love
Personal development of unconditional love- summary
The mirror of relationships
Why do relationships go bad?
Is it love, or is it need?
There is no attachment in true love
The earning of loyalty, trust, freedom, and dignity
Resolving the causes of conflict in a relationship
Not compromising to find a mutually acceptable solution
Another approach to conflict resolution
Learning to respond, not simply to react
Learning from break-up situation
Moving from revenge to healing yourself
Creating fertile ground for a meaningful relationship
Freedom and unconditional love
Freedom eclipses relationship love
Freedom is free will
Freedom expansion and joy
Freedom and independence
Self-love
First a true friendship and then a relationship
Imagine remaining in love
The tension of opposites
Knowing real intimacy
Crossing man-made boundaries
Allowing love to unfold another into Being
The merging of your inner bodies
A picture of contentment
The need for personal space
The intimacy of silence
No holding back
The action switch has an on-button
Get involved
A few refresher points
Bringing closure

Below are two example topics:

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Total forgiveness enables unconditional love to manifest in you

It is impossible to have unconditional love while still harbouring a grievance for past wrongs.

By keeping the other person “alive” in your ego-blocking mind, you restrict unconditional love
from coming through you.

If you choose not to forgive or not to forget, or even to forgive and not forget, you are
choosing to imprison yourself in the past and to throw away the key to your freedom of
receiving unconditional love.

The other party holds you within their power as you remain obsessed with the injustice done
to you. Your choice to hold onto the memory of the injustice done to you enables you to
remain a victim and to feed off the scraps of sympathy given to you.

Another choice is total forgiveness. This forgiveness is for-giving- you - the opportunity now
to let go of your past and to experience life fully in the now.

The real key to forgiveness is amnesia! But self-induced corrective amnesia.

Total forgiveness is releasing any care or concern you may have, in any way whatsoever,
about the outcome of any issue resulting from that which necessitated the need for
forgiveness.

In this way, you have ego detachment from this issue, and you don’t care what anyone says
or thinks because you have no ego to be damaged here.

Total forgiveness occurs when you transcend your attachment to any result, you simply let
go of any ego need, and you release it all now with love.

Goodbye, and good luck!!

Only with total forgiveness can you be available to access unconditional love.

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First a true friendship then a relationship

Unconditional love is nearly utopian but being unconditionally loving is utopia. It’s a great
target to aim for, but only a handful will achieve it in reality. Of course, that does not mean
that striving for it should not be done because it is difficult to attain.

In reality, your true friendships are based on the parties being unconditionally loving. In true
friendship, you admire and respect differences between you as individuals. True friendships
generally operate in some form of equality, certainly not based on being superior or inferior,
or some form of master and servant relationship.

True friendships generally do not allow each other’s egos to be overblown. Friendship is
based on listening, understanding, empathy, being compassionate, forgiveness, forgetting
past insults, no power struggle, respect, advice, and love.

In true friendships, because there are no ego power struggles, there are allowances for
‘strange’ behaviour when it occurs and a willingness to have convenient amnesia for past
mistakes, slights, insults, arguments, and unpleasantness.

Friends are needed to share our lives with. We make an effort to remain good friends.
Freedom is part of friendship. Friends know the magic phrase of vulnerability and surrender,
“I am sorry; I made a mistake, please forgive me.” Friends know how to respond to that
apology without any form of an ego-based scoring system.

A relationship with your significant other should, at least, be a friendship first, and then you
can strive by taking each step together towards a relationship based on unconditional love.

Current position- December 2020

I am updating this information above to illustrate how the current sexual permissiveness is
structurally undermining love relationships. Similar sexual permissiveness occurred in the
1960s with the advent of the contraceptive Pill. “Free Love” was the term used in the late
1960s. The 1970s saw an unprecedented jump in the divorce rate.
I have watched how young people are currently jumping into bed together after a few dates,
and the relationship is centred around available sex. The friendships that need to be
developed are being short-circuited with the easy availability of sex between the parties. I
have counselled numerous young people about their relationships. Certain guys agree with
me and have tried to develop friendships first, but their female partners use sex to bind them
to the relationships. When counselling young ladies, they have told me that the competition
is fierce for eligible, suitable young men to marry, and they say that if they are not sexually
available, then the guys will find someone available. You can probably see why I have
introduced this update some eleven years later in the light of the topic above.

I have watched one young man courting a young lady, who lives in another city, through the
COVID-19 Lockdown. They met briefly before the lockdown and subsequently had lengthy
WhatsApp video chats daily for months developing their relationship and friendship. They
reunited physically recently and have taken their relationship to great new heights as they
have a solid foundation of true friendship as their base.
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Spiritual Fireside Chats
This book was written in 2015.

I had several people, especially younger people, asking me what spiritualism was about and
how they could learn about it. I wasn’t aware of one source of information that could take
them from the basic understanding through the process to become spiritually enlightened. I
decided to write such a book and relied on my Unseen Friends to guide me through the
process.

Initially, I designed this book to be three books, basic, intermediate, and serious knowledge
and wisdom about spirituality. However, the people I led through the process wanted one
reference book moving them from basic to profound knowledge, so Spiritual Fireside Chats
was created.

The group involved in these chats considered it to be a course in spiritual development and
growth. They often joked that it was their Course in Miracles, which, of course, was the
famous book, supposedly a Channelling from Jesus, that has developed a huge global
following.

There are 126 Spiritual Fireside Chats, and the topic headings below should indicate the
evolving nature of these chats. The knowledge and wisdom were simple, to begin with, and
built momentum from the foundational floor to a high-rise building of 126 floors. Occasionally
we revisited certain topics once the knowledge base allowed and enabled us to look at the
topic in greater depth.

Although this was the third book I had written, I foresaw it as the necessary foundation stone
for fully grasping any other books I may write after that. Little did I know there were 17 more
spiritual books to come! My TRUST- To Release Unto Spirit Totally, and then, To Rely Upon
Spirit Totally, in my Guides, my Guardian Angel, my Higher Self/Soul, and my Higher Power
is absolute. I was given this knowledge and wisdom to impart to others as the perfect timing
for what was still to come in the other 17 books. TRUST- To Rely Upon Spirit’s Timing!

Below is the Contents page, which is quite voluminous.

Contents
Chat number
1 Spiritual Beings having a human experience
2 You are Unconditional Love
3 Soul Contracts (1)
4 Spirituality
5 Religion vs. Spirituality
6 Spiritual Beings
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7 Energy, Light, and Vibrations
8 Thoughts Create our Reality
9 “ What is”
10 Do Unto Others
11 Are we our Brothers’ Keepers
12 Forgiveness
13 Coming from Ego or Soul
14 Choices
15 Coming from Soul with Love
16 What you Sow You Reap
17 Soul Contracts (2)
18 Does Spirituality have to be Serious?
19 Winning and Losing
20 Vibrational Energy Frequencies
21 What is God?
22 Surrendering to God’s Will
23 Treat Others Well
24 Create or React
25 You are Part of God and Oneness
26 Experiencing
27 Create Your Reality
28 Everything happens for the Best in God’s Timing
29 Finding Peace and Completeness with Oneness
30 Miracles
31 Truth
32 Being Unconditionally Loving
33 Determine Your Attitude
34 Power
35 What would God/Love do Now?
36 Living our Lives with Pure Love
37 Having faith
38 How to achieve Oneness
39 Learning from Everyone and Everything
40 Togetherness in Families
41 The Meaning of Something
42 Disease and Ill-at-Ease
43 With Patience You Acquire Wisdom
44 Spiritual Healing
45 Grief
46 Excessive Grieving
47 Dealing with People who want to “Fix” You
48 Genuine Friends
49 Believe in Yourself
50 Befriend Yourself
51 Love and Lovers
52 Serving Others in Love
53 Soul Eyes
54 Unconditional Loving Service
55 The Love You Seek is Within You
56 Truth is in the Eye of the Beholder
57 Whose Truth is the True Truth?
58 Anger is a Negative Destructive Emotion
59 Sharing Love
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60 Thoughts Create Your Reality
61 Being on a Spiritual Path
62 Experiencing Reality from Different Perspectives
63 Souls Have Many Lives
64 The Integration of all Your Lives
65 Synchronising Your Vibrational Energy
66 You are a Multi-Level Being
67 Becoming Vibrationally Balanced
68 Having Positive Thoughts
69 Coming from Love
70 Solving Issues from Past Lives
71 Angels
72 Intensity of Thought
73 Manifestation of Thoughts
74 Changing Mindsets
75 Fear
76 Resolving Fear
77 Confidence
78 Choice with Deliberate Intent
79 The Power to Manifest
80 Choosing to Become Oneness
81 Oneness Knows what You Need
82 The Growth of Your Soul
83 Let Go and Let God In
84 Dealing with Conflict
85 Spiritual Awareness of Empathy
86 Oneness will become a Reality
87 The Opposite of Oneness is Separateness
88 Prejudice and Bias
89 Can Everyone choose Love/Soul over Fear/Loss?
90 Why have so few chosen the Path to Oneness
91 Vibrational Energy
92 Climate Change
93 Messages from Angels
94 Helping those in Trouble
95 Multiple Beings in Different Dimensions
96 The Next Stage of Our Spiritual Beingness
97 Defining Success
98 Examples of Success
99 Why Were We Born?
100 The Journey of Self- Discovery
101 Seeing Strangers as Oneness
102 The Goal of Spirituality
103 The Desire to Achieve
104 Freedom from Attachments
105 Ego
106 The Journey of Spiritual Awareness
107 Emotions
108 Oneness (1)
109 How Your Attitude Affects Your Life
110 You as Oneness Connected to All That Is
111 Becoming Oneness/God/All That Is
112 The Intent to Become Oneness
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114 Oneness (2)
115 God is Thought
116 Light Beings
117 What am I Here For?
118 Feel the Presence of God Within You
119 What is Truth?
120 The Love of Self
121 To Be is the Purpose of Life
122 Divine Will
123 The Unknown
124 Feelings are the Language of the Soul
125 Non- Judgement
126 We are All-Powerful
Conclusion

To indicate what is in this book, I am going to reproduce two chats of small duration:

Chat number 6- Spiritual Beings

Q When we started our chat, you said we are Spiritual Beings having a Human
Experience. What do you mean by Spiritual Beings? How can a Spiritual Being exist?

A All Spiritual Beings are, in fact, all anything is, which is Energy. This Energy moves by
vibrations and Light. Those vibrations require a common frequency to be in harmony. So, a
Spiritual Being is Energy, Light, Vibrations, and Frequency.

Q I am sorry I am finding it difficult to understand that. Can you give me an example?

A Sure. I want you to imagine an orchestra scheduled to play Beethoven’s Fifth Symphony.
Each orchestra member leaves their home with their chosen instrument and arrives an hour
before the performance starts. Their instruments are taken out of their protective cases. At
that moment, there is no musical sound except the sounds made in tuning and practicing.
One by One, each musician starts warming up with their instruments, and there is an
abundance of odd notes being played. Not a pleasant noise!

The Conductor arrives, taps his baton on his music stand, and the orchestra gets ready to
play. The baton moves and all the previously disjointed musicians suddenly start playing
together, and beautiful music is heard.
The energy expended by each musician creates vibrations via their instruments, and with the
same frequency of musical notes, a beautiful harmony is created and heard by all in the
Concert Hall.

Q Are you saying that each instrument is like a person? The vibrations are caused by the
musicians' energy, and that the same frequency creates the harmony?

A Exactly. It’s all Energy, Vibrations, Light, and Frequency.

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Chat no. 33- Determine Your Attitude

Q So it comes down to making a choice to determine your attitude?

A It always comes down to making a choice to determine your attitude. Even by choosing
not to make a choice, you are, in effect, making a choice not to determine your attitude.

We are all-powerful way beyond our understanding. We all have the power to choose our
attitude. Even those in prison can make a choice about their attitude to being incarcerated.
They can choose to be the best person they can be and strive to be Godlike, or they can
choose to become like a cornered rat in a cage, snarling and attacking everything that
comes into their space. Or they can choose an attitude between these two extreme points.

Q So I suppose it depends where you put the “C” in your life? (Chat no. -24 Create or
React)

A Exactly. Now you are getting it- Create or reaCt.

Q You have said we are part of God, and if God is the Creator, are we not also the
Creators?

A That is exactly the point. We are all so powerful beyond our understanding because
when we remember that we are Part of God and God is All That Is, then we are also eternal,
omnipotent, and capable of creating whatever we want in our lives. We are limitless, like God
is limitless. Can you handle all that power?
However, the acronym for POWER is Present Only When Ego Removed.

Q Wow, that sounds like a life-changing acronym. Can we discuss that next?

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A Spiritual Meander
Finding Spiritual Solutions to Life’s Challenges

Written in 2016

Introduction
Welcome to my latest book- A Spiritual Meander.
The other books I have written on Personal Empowerment.co and GuideSpeak.com
have all had a focal point, usually found in the title.

This book has me going back to my roots as a Real Estate Economist, where I made my
living identifying an event, or a trend, whether political or social or economic. I then
investigate and forecast how that event or trend is likely to impact the various sectors of
the real estate industry locally and globally and over what time frames.

This book is also based on research and forecasting but more on current events and
trends and then on the spiritual solutions for you, the reader.

The term meander is used to describe a river that snakes its way eventually to the sea. I
also meander from topic to topic, many times unrelated to other topics I have previously
discussed.

I use my day to day experience in life as my yardstick as to what I write. Sometimes it's
prompted by something I have read, meetings I have had, or conversations with family
and friends. As my life meanders between my various businesses, my family life, social
life, and spiritual pursuits, so the topics were researched and written.

Wherever possible, I have tried to keep each topic down to a page or two. However,
there are a few topics that required a few more pages.

You can pick this book up anywhere, turn to a topic that catches your eye, and,
hopefully, identifies something that will give you a reason to think about and maybe even
a spiritual solution to, perhaps, your issue at this present moment.

Contents

Contents ............................................................................................................................. 1
Introduction ..........................................................................................................................3
Topic 1 - There is no journey- only an awakening to be Godlike..........................................4
Topic 2 - How to get “in the Zone”........................................................................................6
Topic 3 - All we need is trust in each other, and peace will reign....................................... 12

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Topic 4 - Children can improve the future .......................................................................... 14
Topic 5 - One conscious breath is all it takes ..................................................................... 16
Topic 6 - Feelings are the language of your soul ............................................................... 17
Topic 7 - Judgement, limitations, and miracles .................................................................. 19
Topic 8 - Miracles and surrender ....................................................................................... 21
Topic 9 - Seeing through the protective mask of the ego ................................................... 24
Topic 10 - Awareness and consciousness is real power.................................................... 26
Topic 11 - Want a happy relationship- here is the key ....................................................... 28
Topic 12 - Achieving Happiness, Inner Peace and Unconditional Love in your life ............ 30
Topic 13 - I did it my way (apologies to Frank Sinatra!) ..................................................... 32
Topic 14 - The failings of instant gratification ..................................................................... 33
Topic 15 - A true friend ...................................................................................................... 35
Topic 16 - Feeling great is so easy to achieve ................................................................... 37
Topic 17 - Staying in love................................................................................................... 38
Topic 18 - Understanding your abundance ........................................................................ 39
Topic 19 - Are things falling apart or falling into place?...................................................... 41
Topic 20 - The see-saw of your life .................................................................................... 43
Topic 21 - Nothing matters, except love............................................................................. 44
Topic 22 - Building walls or bridges? ................................................................................. 45
Topic 23 - Finding a spiritual solution to problem-solving .................................................. 47
Topic 24 - Conscious breathing ......................................................................................... 49
Topic 25 - Awareness of this moment ................................................................................ 51
Topic 26 - Close your legs and finish your homework!....................................................... 53
Topic 27 - Patience, silence, stillness, meditation and CNN .............................................. 56
Topic 28 - How do you do? ................................................................................................ 58
Topic 29 - Do you wanna know a secret? .......................................................................... 60
Topic 30 - Understanding loss and gain............................................................................. 61
Topic 31 - Compassion is far more than you think ............................................................. 63
Topic 32 - What was war? ................................................................................................. 65
Topic 33 - Carl Jung: judgement, gratitude and meaning .................................................. 67
Topic 34 - Self- love is the solution for inner peace and bliss. ........................................... 69
Topic 35 - It's so easy to give unconditional love ............................................................... 71
Topic 36 - The benefit of honoring the Sabbath ................................................................. 72
Topic 37 - Kindness is the religion of Spirituality ................................................................ 74
Topic 38 - A quiet mind can hear intuition over fear ........................................................... 76
Topic 39 - Judgement and the jigsaw puzzle. .................................................................... 77
Topic 40 - Self-love - the missing ingredient in a patriarchal society.................................. 79

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 Topic 41 - Save the Earth before it’s too late ..................................................................... 81
Topic 42 - Fear is based on the perception of losing something ........................................ 83
Topic 43 - A different approach to cancer treatment .......................................................... 85
Topic 44 - Saint Mother Theresa had the answers all along .............................................. 88
Topic 45 - On Giving - from two Masters ........................................................................... 90
Topic 46 - Foundation stones for a wonderful life .............................................................. 92
Topic 47 - The solution for rejection ................................................................................... 94
Topic 48 - Judge ye, not, full stop! ..................................................................................... 96
Topic 49 - The third alternative to bullying ......................................................................... 98
Topic 50 - Some 40 key phrases for an enjoyable life...................................................... 100
Topic 51 - Amazing Grace ............................................................................................... 103
Topic 52 - Appreciation and gratitude- two building blocks for a spiritual journey ............ 105
Topic 53 - Children learn what they live ........................................................................... 107
Topic 54 - A different way to approach so-called death ................................................... 109
Topic 55 - Transparency will resolve society’s ills ............................................................ 112
Topic 56 - Synchronicity or coincidence- you decide? ..................................................... 114
Topic 57 - Get outside your comfort zone of repetitive prayers ........................................ 115
Topic 58 - Why I moved away from writing a daily gratitude journal?............................... 117
Topic 59 - Don't fear rejection become a Victor, not a Victim........................................... 119
Topic 60 - Are your priorities in order? ............................................................................. 120
Conclusion ....................................................................................................................... 123

Examples
I will provide you with two topics: spiritual and the other socio-economic, which has its
solution in spiritual pursuits.
One is a topic close to my heart, as although I have used the statistically rich USA as a case
study, my country, South Africa, is in a far worse position concerning school dropouts and
pregnant schoolgirls. However, I don’t trust the South African Government's statistics on
these issues.

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Topic 23 - Finding a spiritual solution to problem-solving

The people who progress in this world are the ones who look for solutions to issues in their
lives. Those who become the cream that rises to the top in their chosen fields are solutions
driven. The ones who get global recognition are not usually the wealthiest people but the
people who come up with solutions that assist mankind. Of course, some people like Bill
Gates manage to become the richest person in the world and benefit mankind.
However, people like Bill Gates and Warren Buffet know that it's important to use most of
their money in uplifting mankind. The Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation is financed by
both these super-wealthy and very successful business people.

How do you become a solution-driven person? From a spiritual perspective, we know that
all we have is but lent to us, a Trust that we must look after and use for the betterment of
mankind. In finding a spiritual way to develop a solution, we must be aware and
conscious of the inner space that we can go to and connect to the unlimited Resource
that is Oneness/Source/God.

When I wrestle with a business or personal issue and struggle to find a way forward for a
solution, which I term an elegant solution, which results in win: win for both Parties, I tend
to find this solution in one of two ways:

These solutions often come to me during my morning meditation when I am accessing my

Higher Self and Oneness/Source/God.

When I am immersed in a business negotiation or personal discussion, and no solution is

presenting itself, I call for a 5-minute bathroom break. By getting out of the room where
in- variably egos are clashing and going to a toilet cubicle, I breathe deeply (not always
the most desirable thing to do in a toilet environment!) and allow my Soul to connect to its
Higher Self as a form of meditation.

In that inner space, I merge with the situation at hand, and without ego being present, the
solution pops into my head. I then return to the negotiation table or discussion and
patiently wait for the most suitable time to proffer this solution. When dealing with ego
dominant people, it is best to allow them to be part of “finding” this solution via the prompts
you make to lead them to “their” solution.

This inner space is God’s Space in the Now. Within this space, all solutions are found, and
the Eureka moment occurs in your head.

Most people struggle with the problem and, in doing so, don’t move away from their ego
towards a soul solution. They bash their heads against the brick wall of resistance, and
the resistance simply increases because, as I have said before,’ what you resist persists.’
You make the brick wall of resistance even taller and broader and harder to climb over to
find the solution, which is on the other side of the wall.

Tackling the problem head-on will not resolve it. Einstein said, “Problems can’t be solved
with the same mind that created them.” It would be best if you got out of your mind or at
least to a higher level in your thought process to find a solution to the problem. That
process is via connecting from your Soul to your Higher Self, which connects to
Oneness/Source/God where all solutions reside.

The real test comes when the solution is found, and your ego wants to claim credit for
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finding it. The moment you allow that to happen, you close the door to the Inner Space
where the solution was found, and you are on your own should you need to do more in this
regard.

The soul approach enables the other Parties to claim the credit for finding a solution and
thanking them for doing so, thereby allowing the relevant people positively affected by the
solution to prosper.

If the solution will positively impact the well-being of those connected to the issue at hand,
for example, the staff, their families, the neighborhood, or wider communities, then publicly
praising the other Parties is a wise step forward in keeping with your soul-based mission in
this lifetime.

How ego-based people find solutions is a mystery to me, and perhaps you can do your
research and see if their system works better for you than the spiritual solution I am
proposing.

Topic 26 - Close your legs and finish your homework!

In the USA, the world's largest economy and the world's only Superpower currently,
some 47% of Americans rely on a Government funded handout to survive each month.
The same number, 47%, cannot access $400 for any unexpected occurrence at any time.
The USA annually spends the equivalent of US$ 1859 on military expenditure for every
American citizen.

I spent some time researching why the world's largest economy and only superpower
would have close to half of their people unable to fend for themselves financially to make it
through to each month-end.

Many reasons which cover the four pillars holding up any country:
Political, Economic, Social, and Government explains this, but to my mind, the two
overarch- ing factors that need to be addressed and rectified are:

(1) High school dropouts and

(2) Single mothers.

High school dropouts-

High school dropouts may sound simplistic, but the causal effects of leaving school
without a high school diploma and ending up in a life of criminal activities with one or more
periods of imprisonment are about 70%. This statistic is the percentage of prison and jail
inmates in the USA who did not graduate from high school.
Some 3 million high school students drop out of school each year. That is about 8% of
eligible students who fail to graduate high school in the USA.

Single mothers-
Close to 40% of births in the USA occur to unwed mothers. That implies 4 out of 10
students attending school are brought up by a single parent, 83% of the time by a
single mother and 17% by a single father. Single mother statistics show that 49% have
never married, and 51% are divorced, separated, or widowed.
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 Only some 50% of these single mothers are employed full time all year long, and 23% are
permanently unemployed. Among the unemployed, only 22% receive unemployment
benefits.
Employed white single mothers earn 78c of the dollar that white males earn for the same
job, African- American single mothers earn 64c of the black males earned dollar, and His-
panic/Latinos earn 56c of their male counterparts dollar.
On average, single mothers earn $26 000/year, and married couples earn $84 000/year.
Some 40% of single mothers were classified as poor, and of that number, 52 % lived in
extreme poverty. Among all homeless families nationwide in the USA, 75% were headed
by a single woman, with 2 out of 5 of these families being African Americans.

The Poverty Cycle perpetuates itself-

Any reasonable person will deduce that once trapped in the poverty cycle; the ability to
escape is limited. It's substantially more likely that their children will drop out of high
school, and their young women will become single mothers themselves, creating the next
poverty cycle and so on and on.

The reasons why school dropouts occur:

Low self -esteem
Unwanted pregnancy
Being suspended or expelled from school, even once
Peer pressure of other friends dropping out of school
Feeling academically unprepared for school
Experiencing a significant mental health problem
Homelessness and moving to a new home.

Support structures needed to ensure school children graduate high school:

Emotional- love and care from one or more parents, family members, to develop and
improve self-esteem

Informational- being able to assist with homework and to stimulate the student's desire to
learn more

Infrastructural- being able to provide babysitting so the single mother can attend school
and do homework, provide transport,

Instrumental- being able to access mentors, coaches, and tutors to provide guidance
and assistance with schoolwork, extramural school activities, and career guidance.

It’s obvious from the above unless USA society embraces this challenge, the single
parent and high school dropout will forever perpetuate the poverty cycle. Currently, the
USA has the highest incarceration rate of any country in the Western World, with 1%
of all adults behind bars. There is one lawyer for every 142 adults in the USA. In
Japan, by contrast, there is one lawyer for every 4500 adults. Japan has minimal
schoolgirl pregnancies and high school dropouts. Self- discipline, and respect for self
and others is prized in Japanese society.

In the USA, taxes must be increased to fight the criminal activities predominantly
caused by people who have dropped out of high school and or the result of single
parenthood.

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 Lack of education and skills training will limit the potential economic growth of this poverty
segment of society. Government assistance programs to feed, house, and medically care
for this segment of society will drain public sector spending in other areas where they
could be funding programs to enhance the society's growth potential exponentially. For
example, higher-level education and advanced skills training to be globally competitive in
the 21st Century.

China and India are the two most likely emerging economic powerhouses during the first
half of this century as they have some 30% of the world's population, an ability to be
technically and scientifically proficient as well as entrepreneurial in their outlook.
Any country wanting to compete with China and India must prize education and skills
training as much as these two emerging superpowers currently do.

Currently, in the USA, there are some 1 million international students, of which some 43%
come from China and India, and over 50% of these students are studying business,
management, engineering, mathematics, and computer sciences. By taking this education
back to their home countries, this learning and teaching magnification will drive these two
emerging Superpowers role into the drivers' seat by 2035- 2050. Both countries'
educational standards are currently well ranked, and the "polish" and networks developed
with their USA education will benefit both countries.

As stated at the outset, already half of the USA adults are on government financial support
and cannot access $400 for any emergency in their lives. The USA needs to find a way to
stop the drain on the Fiscus of financing anti-criminal activities such as policing, the judicial
and legal system, and the incarceration and rehabilitation of criminals caused, among other
things, via high school dropouts and single-parent families.

The potential uprising of the “have- nots" against the "have's" is already in the vernacular
of the world's language- the '1 % 'ers.' The disparity of this wealth divide does not have
to be explained here. However, history shows that no nation can hold onto its elite
classes' stranglehold of wealth for an indefinite period, while the masses suffered outside
the gates of prosperity.

The alarm bells are sounding for the world's current Superpower- the USA. Some solutions
are:

Find a way to bring self-discipline, perseverance, and self-control to all your people,
improving their self-esteem.

Get your school children to finish their homework every day

Get your young ladies to close their legs until they are educated, financially stable,
and ready to start a family with a responsible, well-educated, financially stable
husband.

As a young person, only by applying yourself diligently in these three areas are you likely
to succeed where your predecessors have failed and created the poverty trap in which you
may already be a participant?

A solution can come from being spiritually aware and willing to empower yourself, as I
discussed in the previous topic (Topic 25- Awareness of this Present Moment).

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Spiritual Love
Written in 2017

Introduction
How would you feel if you knew that you were Spiritual Love as your essence without a
shadow of a doubt?

That the real eternal and immortal part of you is Unconditional Love or Spiritual Love if you
prefer the term?

I believe this and reinforce that belief every morning with my prayer and meditation routine.
There are definitive steps I experience as I consciously think about being Spiritual Love.
These steps are the chapter headings of this book. I have fleshed out each stage to provide
a context for each chapter heading.
I spent a lot more effort on the last chapter on Inner Peace and spelled out numerous
subheadings in alphabetical order.

CONTENTS
Chapter 1 - Proving that you are Spiritual Love as your essence
Chapter 2 - The answer is so simple
Chapter 3 - Surrender
Chapter 4 - Vulnerability
Chapter 5 - Appreciation
Chapter 6 - Gratitude
Chapter 7 - Joy
Chapter 8 - Bliss
Chapter 9 - Abundance
Chapter 10 - Compassion
Chapter 11 - Empathy
Chapter 12 - Inner Peace
Conclusion

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Here is are two examples of this book:

Chapter 10 - Compassion

Compassion is not simply understanding how another is feeling and being supportive
of them. Compassion opens the door to go beyond the sensual physical world and
enter into the Spiritual realm to come to know Oneness and be a part of All That Is.

We usually feel sorry for another that already takes us out of our preoccupation with
ourselves and enables us to think about someone else. This is a huge step for many
people as they are usually so wrapped up in themselves that there is no emotional
space to connect to another if it doesn’t impinge upon themselves.

This feeling of empathy for another is the first step on the road to feeling compassion
for someone else’s current position in life.
When we feel passion for something, it derives from how we feel about something or
someone and ultimately how it will make us feel better about ourselves.
When we feel compassion for someone, we go beyond our feelings for ourselves,
and we include another, or others, in our emotional field.
Passion is inward-looking, and compassion is outward-looking.

Compassion is without a desired motivation or result. You do not feel compassion for
someone, so that you derive a benefit by showing such compassion. This is
manipulation, not compassion.
Being compassionate is not a tap you turn on when the time is opportune. Being
compassionate is a mindset and probably better described as a ‘soul set'’!

Being compassionate is knowing that the care, concern, empathy, understanding,

and desire for improved well-being for another is because you are Love at your
essence, and so are they. By your compassionate thoughts, words, and actions, you
can remind them of this currently overlooked fact.
By coming from Love and Light towards their current plight, you reawaken their
consciousness that they too are Love and Light and that the current temporary
position they find themselves in will pass, and they will remain as Love and Light
eternally and immortally.
Pain is inevitable in the sensual physical world of duality we live in, but suffering is
optional. Suffering is the ego’s cry for attention. We can pander to this ego’s need for
attention to calm things down but too much pandering, and we have someone who
will enjoy the attention and wallow in self-pity, which is likely to be followed by
anxiety and depression if left unchecked.

Compassion comes from knowing that we are all One and that if the other person is
hurting somehow, you are also hurting. Conversely, if the other person is happy and
blissful, then you, too, are happy and blissful.
Compassion is more than understanding at a physical, sensual level that someone
needs your support at that moment. Compassion is how the spiritual part of you is
expressing itself at this moment. By being compassionate, you have opened up a
communication channel from your Soul to the other person’s Soul. Your Love and
Light is connecting to their Love and Light.

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Now things will happen because your ego and their ego’s needs have been
sidelined, and your souls are connecting. Love and Light are working their magic.

Being compassionate is simply opening up the channel of soul communication, and it

is a state of being who You truly are at Spirit level.

Now the term ‘spirit level’ has another meaning. In the construction industry, one
uses a spirit level to ensure that the construction work is level. A liquid bubble has to
rest between two lines on a piece of wood or steel to determine that the construction
material is level.
Being compassionate also requires a level of balance. Being compassionate
requires the counterbalance from the other party to enable their soul to respond and
not their ego. If their ego responds, the spirit level goes out of balance, and giving
more compassion may increase their self-pity.

In the ideal world, we should be compassionate as part of our nature, but

unfortunately, people tend to take advantage and treat our kindness as weakness.
Be compassionate but not at the expense of your own well-being. Be compassionate
to yourself first and foremost. In this way, the Light and Love that you are can be
kindled first within yourself and then shared with another or others.

Compassion is a state of being. It is not something reserved for one type of person
and not for another. That behaviour is more akin to concern, which is ego-based
because you feel superior to someone or something, and you show them concern
and consideration to assist them in some way because you think they need it now.
Compassion is an overflowing fountain and is not directed at something or someone
specific. It is for everyone and everything. Compassion is the unending flow of Love
and Light from you to yourself and everyone and everything in your orbit. The sun’s
rays shine on everything and everyone without any form of discrimination as to who
deserves to feel the sun and who does not. The same for compassion - it is non-
discriminatory in any way or form. It is pure Love and Light, and your showing it is
coming through you, not from you. Oneness/Source/God has deemed you to be the
right vessel for this Love and Light of compassion to shine through to someone or
something.

Mother Theresa is quoted as saying, “you can either love someone or judge them,
but you can’t do both simultaneously.” If you truly love them, they will feel the Love
and Light that you are at your essence, and it will connect to them at their essence of
Love and Light. This essence is the part of Oneness/Source/God we call our soul,
which is connected to our Spirit, which is connected to Oneness/Source/God.

The willingness to be completely understanding is the key to taking you from

judgment to love. All the troubles that man has come from the lack of interest in
being understanding of another. Reacting to life’s issues and judging them from your
own standpoint creates the causal effect of life.
One man’s terrorist is another man’s freedom fighter. People who do not feel heard
and understood are the ones who wreak havoc as they explode to attain negative
attention because they weren’t given the positive attention they sought to be heard
and fully understood.

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Somehow we don’t have the time and the patience to hear and fully understand
others, but we have the time and energy to fight back and cause even more damage
to all concerned.
Most times, we listen and wait to interrupt with our viewpoint. When we realise that
the words "silent" and "listen" have the same letters, we begin to understand that
silence and listening go hand in hand.
When people feel that they have been fully listened to and fully understood, then
they will be much more compliant to finding a win: win solution to the issue at hand.

So compassion boils down to fully listening and hearing, fully understanding, and,
after that, the flow of unconditional Love and Light through you to another.
Compassion is Spiritual Love.

Chapter 11 - Empathy
Empathy is more than compassion. Empathy goes beyond completely listening and
hearing and fully understanding to absolutely feel what the other person sees,
hearing, and experiencing within themselves. Empathy is standing in the other
person's shoes and experiencing all their various emotional states. Empathy is the
merging of their emotional states with yours.

There is still much debate in psychology and psychiatric circles about the role of
empathy and how it originates in all creatures, including humans, its function, and
absence in disorders such as autism, borderline personalities, and the like.

I will leave those discussions to people qualified and experienced in those fields and
focus on the spiritual angle of empathy.

Being empathetic, spiritually, means to know inherently that the other

person/mammal/ bird/fish/insect/, etc., and you are One at a level unseen by those
on the earth’s plane.
What affects them, positively or negatively, affects you as part of Oneness.

If you drop a vial of poison into a swimming pool, it will contaminate the rest of the
water, to use an analogy. It may be so diluted that you will not suffer any direct
consequences, but your water supply is negatively affected. More and more poison
dropped into the swimming pool will eventually be very negative to your health and
well-being.

We cannot contaminate the sea with effluent waste, chemical waste, plastic bottles,
and the like and expect the fish we eat from the sea to not contain high levels of
mercury, lead, and other materials hazardous to our health.

We are One, whether we like it or not. We exchange the air we breathe with all living
things. We consume water and food from the earth. According to Dr. Deepak
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shed and replace 98% of all its atoms in less than one year. The body makes a new
stomach lining every five days, a new skin once a month, a new liver every six
weeks, and a new skeleton every three months. According to Dr. Chopra, your body
replaces and replenishes itself anew every three months.

We are interchanging everything we are with other things in our orbit to be blended
human beings. We are One at a physical level on the Earth plane, and we are One in
the Spiritual plane where we are all part of All That Is, or Oneness/Source/God if you
prefer to select the name that you relate best to.

In reality, empathy is our middle name, not because we choose to be so at an

emotional level but because we are blended physically with everyone and everything
on earth, and we are One in Spirit.

Whether we choose to recognise that blended self on earth and Oneness in Spirit
and think, speak and act accordingly with “what would Love do Now?” Or whether
we choose to selfishly and self-centered believe we are unique and somehow
special, we choose with every thought, word, and action.

To accept or deny our blended earth self and the Oneness we are in Spirit
determines our life’s journey on earth.

If compassion is Spiritual Love, then empathy could be termed Spiritual Bliss. Bliss is
love without a reason to be happy, it is Unconditional Love, and it radiates
throughout all existence of our universe and countless other universes whether we
want it to or not.

This Spiritual Bliss is eternal and immortal.

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Spiritual Laughter
Compiled in 2017

Introduction

I have lived my life by hearing, telling, and sending jokes to my family and friends
worldwide. The laughter and camaraderie that have developed make my life so
much more enjoyable.
In the old days, we told jokes to one, and another and I always seemed to have a
good memory for jokes. It was so much easier to receive and send jokes locally and
globally in the Internet's email days. In those days, I probably received and sent out
5-10 jokes a day, and they were always appreciated judging by the responses I
received. Today, WhatsApp is the medium of sharing jokes, and during the current
COVID-19 Lockdown, these jokes received and sent via WhatsApp has been a
lifesaver for me and so many of my family and friends, locally and globally, as we
self-isolate. It is not uncommon for me to receive 20-30 WhatsApps daily and
judiciously select who to send specific jokes during the day and evening.
In early December 2020, the Prime Minister of Great Britain announced they would
be rolling out the COVID-19 vaccine within days, which in my view, as expressed,
later on, is far too quick. I soon received a Whatsapp showing two rats and one rat
asking the other, “are you going to have the vaccine?” The other rat replied, “not a
chance; they haven’t finished human trials yet!”

From a spiritual perspective, laughter is a necessary ingredient for a peaceful mind.

Laughter allows happiness to enter and often enables perspective to occur. Spiritual
awareness is not a deadly serious pursuit, and laughter lubricates the Soul and
elevates our vibrations to a more blissful existence.
There is a Yiddish expression which, when translated, states, “what soap is for the
body, laughter is for the soul.” I believe that laughter is the best medicine as it
reframes one’s attitude to find humour sometimes in the direst of circumstances,
thereby allowing some perspective. Ultimately, none of us are getting out of this
world alive, in a physical body and ego-mind sense, so learning to laugh at life
makes the journey much more pleasant.
As I write these words, I remember my family members and friends who have
departed this life and how many laughs we had through the decades we had
together. Hopefully, they are vibrationally tuned into me at this moment and are
smiling at some of those jokes we told each other since we were kids and throughout
our lives together.
I started compiling and collating jokes of a religious and spiritual nature, usually
poking fun at the “sacred cows” of religious and spiritual belief systems.

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I decided to create Spiritual Laughter as a joke book with a subheading that states,
Laughter is a necessary ingredient for a peaceful mind.
Some jokes could be offensive to people who have a sensitive and protective nature
about their religion or spiritual beliefs. For those people, I suggest you skip this book.
For others who enjoy a good laugh, even at their own expense, I recommend you
download this book.

Here are some examples of these jokes, which some may call tasteless, but like the
legendary Alfred E. Neuman from the satirical Mad Magazine used to say, “What. Me
Worry?”

God’s Plan
God and Adam were walking through the Garden of Eden, discussing various things.
At one point, Adam says, "Wow, God, you sure made Eve awfully beautiful, just
amazingly beautiful!"
Spoke the Lord: "Yes, my son, that is so you would love her very, very deeply." After
a brief moment, Adam hesitatingly commented, "But Lord, you made Eve not too
smart." "Ah, yes," said God, "that is so she would love you very, very deeply."
And so it started… A few days after creation, the Lord called Adam and said, “It is
time for you and Eve to begin the process of populating the earth, so I want you to
kiss her.” Adam answered, “Yes, Lord, but what is a kiss?” So the Lord gave a brief
description to Adam, who took Eve by the hand and took her over to a nearby bush.
A few minutes later, Adam emerged and said, “Thank you, Lord, that was quite
enjoyable.” And the Lord replied, “Yes, Adam, I thought you might enjoy that. Now,
I’d like you to caress Eve.”
And Adam asked, “What is a ‘caress’?” So the Lord again gave Adam a brief
description, and then Adam went behind the bush to caress Eve. Quite a few
minutes later, Adam returned, smiling, and said, “‘Lord, that was even better than the
kiss.”
And the Lord said, “You’ve done well, Adam. And now I want you to make love to
Eve.” And Adam asked, “What is ‘make love’ Lord?” So the Lord again gave Adam
directions, and Adam went again to Eve behind the bush. But this time, he
reappeared in five seconds and asked, “Lord, what is a ‘headache’?”

Looking Good
A fifty-something woman has a heart attack and is taken to the hospital. While on
the operating table, she has a near-death experience. During that experience, she
sees heaven and asks God if this is it. God says no and explains that she has
another 30 years to live.
Upon her recovery, she decides to stay in the hospital and undergo a facelift,
liposuction, breast augmentation, tummy tuck, etc. She even has someone come in
and change her hair color. She figures since she's got another 30 years, she might

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as well make the most of it. She walks out of the hospital after the last operation and
is killed by an ambulance speeding by. She arrives in front of God and complains, "I
thought you said I had another 30 years."
God replies, "I didn't recognize you."

Sunday School Humor

The Sunday school teacher was carefully explaining the story of Elijah the Prophet
and the false prophets of Baal. She explained how Elijah built the altar, put wood
upon it, cut the cattle in pieces, and laid it upon the altar. And then Elijah
commanded the people of God to fill four barrels of water and pour it over the altar.
He had them do this four times. "Now, said the teacher, "can anyone in the class tell
me why the Lord would have Elijah pour water over the cattle on the altar?" A little
girl in the back of the room raised her hand with great enthusiasm. "To make the
gravy.”

Mother Theresa goes to Heaven

Mother Teresa died and went to heaven. God greeted her at the Pearly Gates. "Be
thou hungry, Mother Teresa?" asked God. "I could eat," Mother Teresa replied. So
God opened a can of tuna and reached for a chunk of rye bread, and they began to
share it. While eating this humble meal, Mother Teresa looked down into Hell and
saw the inhabitants devouring huge steaks, lobsters, pheasants, and pastries.
Curious but deeply trusting, she remained quiet.
The next day God again invited her to join Him for a meal. Again, it was tuna and rye
bread. Once again, Mother Teresa could see the denizens of Hell, enjoying lamb,
turkey, venison, and delicious desserts. Still, she said nothing.
The following day, mealtime arrived, and another can of tuna was opened. She
couldn't contain herself any longer. Meekly, she asked, "God, I am grateful to be in
heaven with You as a reward for the pious, obedient life I led. But here in heaven, all
I get to eat is tuna and a piece of rye bread, and in the Other Place, they eat like
emperors and kings! I just don't understand it..."
God sighed. "Let's be honest, Theresa," He said, "for just two people, it doesn't pay
to cook."

Garden of Eden
One day in the Garden of Eden, Eve calls out to God, “Lord, I have a problem!”
“What’s the problem, Eve?” “Lord, I know you’ve created me and have provided this
beautiful garden and all of these wonderful animals, and that hilarious comedic
snake, but I’m just not happy.” “Why is that, Eve?” came the reply from above. “Lord,
I am lonely. And I’m sick to death of apples.” “Well, Eve, in that case, I have a
solution. I shall create a man for you.” “What’s a ‘man,’ Lord?”

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“This man will be a flawed creature, with many bad traits. He’ll lie, cheat, and be
vainglorious; all in all, he’ll give you a hard time. But, he’ll be bigger, faster, and will
like to hunt and kill things. He will provide you with companionship and satisfy your
desires. Yet, he’ll be witless and will revel in childish things like fighting and kicking a
ball about. He won’t be too smart, so he’ll also need your advice to think properly.”
“Sounds great,” says Eve, with an ironically raised eyebrow. “What’s the catch,
Lord?” “As I said, he’ll be proud, arrogant, and self-admiring. You’ll have to let him
believe that I made him first. So, just remember: it’s our secret. Woman to Woman.”

The Tidal Wave

A Jewish grandma and her grandson are at the beach. He's playing in the water; she
is standing on the shore, not wanting to get her feet wet, when all of a sudden, a
huge wave appears from nowhere and crashes directly onto the spot where her
grandson was wading.

The water recedes, and the boy is no longer there; he had been swept away. The
grandma holds her hands to the sky, screams, and cries: Lord, my GOD, how could
you? Haven't I been a wonderful grandmother? Haven't I been a wonderful mother?
Haven't I kept a kosher home? Haven't I given to charity? Haven't I lit candles every
Friday night? Haven't I tried my very best to live a life that you would be proud of?

A voice booms from the sky, "All right already!" A moment later, another huge wave
appears out of nowhere and crashes on the beach. As the water recedes, the boy is
standing there. He is smiling and splashing around as if nothing had ever happened.
The voice booms again. "I have returned your grandson. Are you satisfied?”
She responds, shaking her fist at heaven, "He had a hat!"

Spiritual Laughter is found on personalempowerment.co under the Heading-

Laughter- on the Home Page.

Enjoy, enjoy!

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Wisdom in a Nutshell
Background

As stated earlier, I have produced a near 1000 page book entitled 5000 Years of
Wisdom. Over many decades I have carefully collected over 750 000 quotations that
had special meaning for me. I selected and collated 13 500 quotations and placed
them chronologically under 960 headings. These selected quotations span 5000
years and are from the wisest minds to have walked the earth. Arguably, this book
has the most wisdom I have found within any book. This book was bound in aged
leather and presented to selected family and friends as gifts for friendship and love.
A University in Johannesburg, South Africa, has used a portion of this book as an
award they present to their Doctoral Students upon their graduation.
To date, it remains a print book and cannot be found on personalempowerment.co.

In 2017 I decided to impart some of this wisdom in an online book entitled Wisdom in
a Nutshell. I selected some 150 categories out of the original 960 categories and
utilised specifically chosen quotations, which I used as catalysts; I expanded on
these quotations to flesh them out with my interpretations.

Examples of certain of the 150 categories will whet your appetite to possibly explore
this book in greater detail on personalempowerment.co.

Examples:

Anger

When we allow ourselves to experience anger, we can be guaranteed one result,

regret. Once the anger is expressed, ‘the cat is out of the bag.’

Anger stems from insecurity within us that we are not receiving what we want. We
boil over in disappointment and express that feeling as anger towards someone or
something. We have simply given our power base away to them, and we are
vindicated emotionally, temporarily, but ‘the chicken always come home to roost,’
and we end up paying a much higher price for losing our temper and expressing our
anger.

Anger is usually not to do with the current episode you are exploding about, but more
likely other underlying issues you have allowed to fester and now erupt. The real
trick is not to express your anger but to explain your anger, firstly to yourself and
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Suppressed anger is even more detrimental to our bodies as the boiling takes place
within and usually gives off steam like a pressure cooker. Regrettably, whatever it is
will be detrimental to our health and well-being.

The wisdom concerning anger is never to become angry and become more forgiving
and understand other people and other things. Accept ‘what is’ with an
understanding that you will use this opportunity to become the best person you can
be in every circumstance with the spiritual watchword of 'what would Love do now?'

Anxiety
Can you imagine taking a knife and stabbing yourself repeatedly? Being anxious has
the same effect mentally as stabbing yourself.

Anxiety is based on worrying about something in the future that may or may not
happen. If there is a solution to the concern, then there is no need to be anxious and
if there is no obvious solution, then being anxious about it serves no purpose now.
Anxiety robs you in the present moment of your strength as you worry about a
possible future event that may or may not occur.

Anxiety is based on feeling separate from the support and knowledge that you can
handle whatever comes your way. If you knew that whatever comes up in your life,
you have the ability and support to handle it, then there would be no need to be
anxious.

So the anxiety, in fact, is your feeling hopelessly inadequate to handle what may
come your way.

The facts show a different picture of your life. You have handled 100% of the things
in your life that were unwelcome and even unexpected. Somehow you found the
strength and ability to handle them. This is simply one more '3 a.m. Bogeyman of
Fear' that you can handle.

If you are a religious or spiritual person, you can be comforted with the knowledge
that God will not give you something you cannot handle. And, in fact, this fear is
most probably the next growth spurt in the growth of your Soul, camouflaged as a big
problem.

Welcome it as a challenge for your growth, and know that whatever it is, you will beat
it into submission and stand over its dead carcass!

Balance
The middle path is the one to seek. Nature balances itself with its four seasons, and
man must expect to experience ups and downs and find the middle way.

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Experience pleasure, but know that pain is its counterbalance. Experience the joy
and know that sorrow is the other side of the same coin. We live on earth in duality,
and the pendulum of life swings continually. Keep in mind this fact when your
storehouse is full and when it is empty. Plan and prepare in good times for the bad
times to come, and in the bad times, always remember the good times will follow.

Your most treasured possession is your health, for, without it, wealth is meaningless.
Keep healthy by moderate exercise, moderate eating, and moderate drinking.
Excess of eating and drinking is unhealthy, as is too much exercise putting your
body under too much duress. Lack of liquids, especially water as your body is made
up of 70% water, and reduced intake of necessary foods coupled with no exercise is
harmful. Find a balance that keeps you healthy.

In the materialistic world we live in, working hard, and making lots of money is prized
above all else. The downside is that divorces and damaged children result from the
parents' inattention to each other and their children. Find a balance and rate your
success on making sufficient money to be financially comfortable, maintain a happy
marriage, and spend quality time developing a loving relationship with your children
while ensuring you all lead a healthy and happy life.

Annually Forbes Magazine ranks the world's wealthiest people. If they ranked the
'wealthiest' people on this success scale of a balanced lifestyle as outlined above,
instead of who has the most financial wealth, a different picture of 'wealthiest' people
would emerge.

We must find our authentic self and strive for harmony and balance there. We then
will know the power of love rather than the love of power that usually results from
excessive material wealth.

Finding a balance between living a religious or spiritual life and a materialistic life is
always the first prize in life.

Charity
If you believe in Oneness, then charity is merely transferring your wealth from your
one pocket to another pocket in the same clothes. Your ability to give and the
recipient's willingness to receive is merely the see-saw of Oneness.

Maimonides, a Rabbi who died in 1204, sums up our duties in respect of charity as
follows:
Anticipate charity by preventing poverty; assist the reduced fellow man, either by a
considerable gift or a sum of money or by teaching him a trade or by putting him in
the way of business that he may earn an honest livelihood and not be forced to the
dreadful alternative of holding out his hand for charity. This is the highest step and
summit of charity’s golden ladder.

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This religious and spiritual approach to charity accords with the statement by
Thomas Browne (1605-1682), who stated that “he that giveth to the poor, lendeth to
the Lord.”

In today’s materialistic world, charity has become a tax write off for many with
wealth. According to the World Bank, the top 1% of people (some 70 million people)
have some 50% plus of the world's wealth while nearly 1 billion people live on less
than $2/day. According to Fortune Magazine, in 2015, some 34 million people with
more than US$1 million each had 45% of the world’s wealth. That is 0.7% of the
world having nearly as much wealth as the remaining 99.3% of the world.
Did someone say 1789- the French Revolution?!

The Maharishi Mahesh Yogi (1911-2008) who started Transcendental Meditation

(TM) was organising a conference when someone asked him where the money was
to come from to finance the conference, and he replied, “From wherever it is now.”
Such is belief!

There is another school of thought about charity and that it weakens the will of
people to become self-sufficient and further increases poverty. If people receiving
the charity are capable of working and giving them charity robs them of the need to
become independent of such charity. In that case, the logic of that argument holds
some water. However, the members of a society incapable of working for various
mental or physical reasons need the protection of receiving charity. The Have’s
should provide for the Have Nots through taxation and voluntary gifts.

Each person reading these words must make up their mind about their charity
concept, and their religious or spiritual or agnostic or other belief systems will guide
them accordingly.

Children
If you want a job or career in the world today, you are required to have a skill,
experience, and preferably academic training before you can apply for such a job or
career.

The most important job in the world is the proper raising and unfolding of children,
and the only qualification to become a parent is to open your legs or unzip your fly!

In the most developed economy today, the USA, some 40% of children are born to
single mothers. There are no illegitimate children, simply illegitimate parents!

Children are very fragile, emotionally, and mentally as well as physically. They need
to be nurtured with all the love, support, encouragement, admiration, kindness, and
patience while ensuring they have boundaries based on correction and discipline, as
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Children will not necessarily listen to their parents, but they will never fail to emulate
what they do. The best thing a parent can do for their child is to love their spouse as
the children will see the cause and effect of such love.

The result of great parenting is to give our children the understanding and
experience of being loved, being unfolded and not moulded, the roots of
responsibility, and the wings of independence.

Kahlil Gibran says it best- “Your children are not your children. They are the sons
and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They came through you but not from you.
And though they are with you yet, they belong not to you. You may give them your
love but not your thoughts, for they have their thoughts.”

Education
The USA, the world’s only Superpower, spends more money on Defence than on
Education, and it spends about $15 500 per student each year on primary,
secondary, and tertiary education, one of the world’s highest per capita education
expenditures.

Pew Research reflects the state of education in the USA as follows:

One of the biggest cross-national tests is the Programme for International Student
Assessment (PISA), which every three years measures reading ability, math and
science literacy, and other key skills among 15-year-olds in dozens of developed and
developing countries. The most recent PISA results, from 2015, placed the U.S. an
unimpressive 38th out of 71 countries in math and 24th in science. Among the 35
members of the Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development, which
sponsors the PISA initiative, the U.S. ranked 30th in math and 19th in science.

Other research on the USA’s penal system shows that 70% of jail and prison
inmates did not finish high school. There is a direct correlation between being poorly
educated and criminals in society.

Diogenes (412 B.C- 323 B.C.) stated that: “The foundation of every state is the
education of its youth.” Nothing has changed in 2500 years, and the USA is looking
down the barrel of an average educated youth population implying that the next 50
years will see the USA revert to the middle of the pack as far as economic
performance is concerned.

The only solution is an educated population taught to think about doing things,
especially out-of-the-box thinking for problem-solving, and not repeat parrot-fashion
to attain their educational qualifications.

With the top Universities and Colleges in the world in the USA teaching the best and
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the wealth and the possibly undereducated masses comprising 99% own the
remaining 50% of the assets.

Education boils down to a causal relationship; it simply cause and effect. Dumbed
down education by paying teachers poorly; the Teachers Union allowing poor
teachers to retain their jobs, ill-discipline at home and school; a sizeable number of
schoolgirl pregnancies, and an unacceptably high school drop-out rate becomes the
recipe for mediocre to poorly educated youth. Now bring those poorly educated
workers into the USA’s mainstream between 2020- 2070, and you have an economy
that slips into a mediocre performance level when ranked globally.

When teachers are respected and paid their true worth, then education levels will
rise, but if guns and ammunition are more important than education, then the
inevitable decline in living standards will result in the USA for most of the populace.

I have signalled out the USA because they have the statistics and research to
validate the above statements, but the same applies to many similar countries
worldwide.

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Unfolding Your Child
A Spiritual Approach to Parenting

Background

I have lived a religious and spiritually based life since 1976. Initially, I read Jewish
prayer books and other such literature. I also read books from other religions to gain
an understanding of their “God.” I found that most religions had the same God. From
the late 1980s, I started reading and developing a more spiritual approach to life.
To give you a few examples of the difference between religion and spirituality, I offer
these few statements:

Religion is following a Messenger. Spirituality is following the message

Spirituality is a personal relationship with the Divine- while Religion is more

community based and influencing a crowd to follow the religion’s relationship with the
Divine.

Spirituality is living in the present moment of Now, connecting to the universality of a

Higher Power, while religion is focused on the past, with their traditions, rituals,
customs, and sometimes superstitions, as the glue to hold their belief and
community together.

Spirituality is inclusive and believes that all paths lead to Love and Light, whereas
religion is exclusive, believing they have the only way to access their Higher Power.

The above is not included in the book Unfolding Your Child- a Spiritual Approach to
Parenting but is implied as I have written this book in a semi-biographical manner,
coming from my understanding and practice of spirituality, while taking into
consideration that many families also practice a religion too.

Should those parents, or parents to be, follow only a religious path, then the book will
still have value. They can ensure that their religious ways incorporate the spiritual
knowledge and wisdom in this book

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Introduction

This book was written in 2017, and statistics since then reflect the following:

The nuclear family of the post Second World War era has been attacked by two
major enemies- divorce and unmarried mothers. According to a November 2018
Time Magazine article citing the US Census data, the divorce rate is 39% of all
marriages. (I believe this figure represents recent marriages and recent divorces in a
calendar year, but I don’t want to split hairs on this definition). According to
childtrends.org, births to unmarried mothers comprise 40% of all births in the USA.
This trend has remained constant over the past decade.
Once again, I am using the USA as a yardstick as they have reliably rich statistics.

I, too, suffered a divorce and knew that I would not have survived this painful
process without my spiritual base. Additionally, my two sons would not have become
the most amazing young men they are for the world to see. I was able to bring the
concept of soul-based Love and Light into my role as their father. Furthermore,
writing 26 spiritual books, living a spiritual life, and influencing my two sons through
my behaviourial actions, backed up by my spiritual words, I feel qualified to write this
book.

Our sons were fortunate also to have a loving and caring mother guiding them too.
Over time, although still divorced, our family unit is stronger today than ever before.

I believe that the responsibility of becoming a parent is the greatest of all

responsibilities and the greatest challenge we face. We must go to a place of Higher
Learning for several years to become qualified to earn a living. However, as stated
earlier, the only qualification we must do to create a child is to unzip our fly or open
our legs!

With four out of ten students in a USA classroom coming from a single-parent home,
this both stresses and pressures the parent and the child. This handicap for many of
these children merely widens the gap between the haves and the havenot’s.

Expecting these single-parent children to compete in the race of life with such a
handicap is a tall order. They may experience emotional issues without knowing the
additional guidance, love, and protection of another parent; physical issues,
potentially through incorrect nutritional diets, abuse of alcohol and drugs; potentially
lack of spiritually and pastoral support; guidance and influence from their ill-equipped
peers, and, in many instances, financial constraints limiting their future education
and earning capacity.
Judging from the response I have had to this free book, I know it is achieving its
purpose.

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Contents

Introduction
A spiritual context to get us all on the same page
Soul Groups and the selection of roles on the earth plane
Selecting one’s parents
Spiritual Equals
Who are your children?
Children believe in ‘it’s possible’ not ‘it isn’t possible’
We are the World - We are the Children
Are we simply trying to keep our head above the rising tide?
Guess what is stopping you from connecting with your child?
Who is the teacher, and who is the pupil?
Boundaries and discipline
The most important job in the world
Are you ready to dive into the water?
Mirror mirror of myself who is the fairest parent of all!
Who is the authentic person within you?
Opportunities abound to become the authentic you
Now let's record our appreciation of our authentic child.
Scary, isn’t it?
You go first
Now some painful times to explore
Ready to confront the ego bogeyman in your life?
Ready to start your growing up process?
Now the enlightening part!
Emotional Wisdom
Interpretation is the key to understanding
Why do we react negatively from an ego perspective
A different view of being an example
Bring spirituality into your home as a foundation for leading by example
Why me, Lord?
Unlearning the reaction response and learning the coping response
You are creating your grandchildren now
Speak up or shut up or deliberately be silent
Life is about growth, not solely for happiness
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Revised tug of war
Sometimes even unconditional love cannot replace a hole in one’s soul
The choice to be opened up as a parent
What is happening now is the focal point of your life
Terrible two’s and the emergence of individuals dressed in toddlers’ clothes
Coming from soul with love is the solution, and your journey is how to do that as a
parent.
Hi Ho, it's off to big school we go
Those hormonal years!
Why did I want to become a parent?
Slow down and smell the nappies
Silence is beyond golden
Absent parents create absent children
Some of the many ways to damage your child
Treat your child as the miracle that they are
Encourage your child to be a human being, not a human doing
Being present is the solution to every issue or problem you face
Touch is the unspoken word
Are you paying attention to your phone or your child?
Your child’s worth is not measured by their achievements
Service with a smile
An abundance mentality
Prejudice, hatred, bigotry, and racism is learned initially in the home
There is nothing your child can't-do and be
Let's play think outside the box
Don’t rush to solve your child’s problem
What do you value about yourself, my child?
Simply be yourself; everyone else is taken
Where does your happiness come from?
It’s time to talk to your Higher Power
Saying Grace
Can you invest 30 minutes a day in your child?
Embrace the uncertainty of life
I don’t know, why don’t we look it up?
Whatever you do, do it with all your heart and soul
Is it a mistake or a retake?
Vulnerability revisited
Discover why and don’t focus on what happened
The Third Way of creating solutions

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What’s in a name?
Rules are like railway lines
The behaviour is usually not the underlying issue
There are two relationships we have with our children
From NO to Know
It’s only within you
A letter to a mother
Conclusion

Examples
It has been so difficult to find only two examples to give you an indication of this
book:

What do you value about yourself, my child?

Parents most often create values for their child based on the parent’s assessment of
values. These values may be genuine, or they may be values the parent aspires to
and has not reached, and they want the child to do it so they can bask in the
reflected glory of that achievement or value. The virtues of character are far more
important than the values of coming first in a test or examination or sport or a cultural
pursuit or fitting into a specific dress size, and so on.

Having virtues of character like:

1. Appreciation of beauty
2. Bravery
3. Compassion
4. Consideration of others
5. Courage
6. Creativity
7. Curiosity
8. Determination
9. Empathy
10. Enthusiasm
11. Fairness
12. Focus
13. Forgiveness
14. Generosity
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16. Gratitude
17. Hope
18. Honesty
19. Humour
20. Integrity (being honest coupled with strong moral principles)
21. Kindness
22. Leadership
23. Love of self and others
24. Love of learning
25. Modesty
26. Persistence
27. Perspective
28. Respectful
29. Self-control
30. Social Intelligence

“To thine own self be true” is Shakespeare’s advice to your child.

If possible, sit with your child from time to time and go through these 30 character
traits, explaining each one regarding their understanding of it, at appropriate age
levels. Do this repetitively as they age and enlighten your child to these character
virtues, establishing their lives' value parameters. Ask them to identify people they
know with each of these character virtues. Uncle Harry is enthusiastic, but Auntie
Sandy is modest, etc. If they allow these character virtues to be imbued within their
value system, then their future worth as human beings is assured. Whatever they
choose to do with their lives, once armed with these character traits, is assured of
success as human beings.

Can you invest 30 minutes a day in your child?

Well, can you? That’s all it takes, 30 minutes every day to have one on one time with
your child. No agenda, no chores, no commitments, no intruding cell phone calls, or
social media or urgent emails- simply kick back, take your shoes off, climb into their
bed with them or sit on the floor with them and just chill. This is their time, and you
feed off their energy and their needs and wants, and you discuss whatever they want
to talk about. You listen, listen, listen, remembering that listen and silent have the
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The fact that you are dedicating this time exclusively to them makes them feel worthy
and valued. If there is no longer any talk left in them, don’t discuss your issues of the
day; suggest that both of you use the remaining time to sit together in silence and
stillness. If possible, try and schedule the same time every day as you and your
child’s time so it becomes regular and something you are both committed to doing.
This time is “Being Time,” when your souls connect, and the unconditional love
within each of your souls comes out to connect and play.

During this time, encourage your child to express their dreams and empower them
to follow those dreams through your encouragement and motivation that they can
achieve whatever they set their heart on doing. I have fond memories of my mother
sitting at the edge of my bed simply listening to me express my hopes and dreams,
and her silent presence gave me such encouragement and self-belief, although I am
sure she didn’t understand how I intended to do all those things. Simply her sitting
there and listening to me speak the words out aloud that was running around in my
head made it all seem possible.

The freedom to express your emotions as a child is very liberating, and if they can do
it in a safe space with their parent, then the imagined fears don’t seem so frightening
once spoken out aloud. Refrain from trying to calm them down and solve the
problems for them. You are there merely in a facilitation role, as a Therapist. Your
function is to make them feel safe and express and expose those fearful emotions
and those emotions of hope. You can say things like “and how does that make you
feel?” and “ can you see yourself in a place where that fear has been addressed and
dealt with? “ and “those dreams and hopes are amazing, how do you see yourself
starting making them a reality?” By being your authentic self will encourage your
child to express similar authenticity about themselves.

Explain to them that as a part of Source/Oneness/God, they are perfect as they are.
As your child grows up to perhaps be a gawky teenager, show them photos, if you
have them, of how gawky you were as a teenager and explain that this growing up
phase will not be complete until they are around 20 years old. They mustn’t worry if
their legs are too skinny or their nose a bit big or their breasts too small or too large,
it will all sort itself out soon, and they will be beautiful or good looking depending on
their gender.

Your child doesn’t have to sell themselves out to fit into the crowd. If they are kind
and “give from their heart,” they will never be short of worthy friends. Most children
become narcissistic, and their egos are rampant in growing up. So if your child can
come from their soul, from love, be kind and be generous, they are likely to be in the
majority of one! If they become good listeners, they will never want for friends. So
they don’t have to get a tattoo or a belly piercing or smoke, drink or take drugs to fit
in. They create their group of soul people who can watch the other children's antics
trying to fit in and simply smile kindly and generously! The track record of the popular
girls and boys after school is usually not as wonderful as their school years. Many of
these children peak at school, and they don’t always attain great heights after
school. The Jock damages his knee and loses his football scholarship, and the Prom
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world beaters too. What is important is that your child must not use these popular
people as their yardstick of success. This will be a pretty shallow way of looking at
life and their aspirations as Soul people. This may be needed to be explained to
them with the researched examples you may need to dig up.

The biggest issue in these 30 minutes a day bonding sessions is not to criticise your
child in any way or form. You allow them this freedom of expression, and what you
discuss must be treated with the strictest confidentiality. Not even your spouse or
another sibling is a party to what is discussed between you two unless your child
gives you explicit instructions to do so. You and your child will develop a bond in
these 30-minute sessions, which should be a lifelong bond of trust and friendship
and enable your child to have a solid foundation of trust and authenticity of who they
are.

Being empathetic and understanding of your child enables them not to look to you for
answers and solutions but to enable them to be self-reflective through self-
examination and find answers and solutions that they feel are their own. If they can
do this by sitting in silence and stillness, with or without you, that is even better, but it
must be their choice to do so. In this role, you become, what is called in spiritual
terms, the Watcher, as they experience and express the issue in their own words
without any interference or advice from you? They need to express all their feelings,
and your function is to provide a safe space for them to do so. All feelings are valid
and must not be suppressed. By expressing all those feelings in a safe space
enables them to be aired and shared. Once they are out in the open, the energy
behind them is expended, and somehow the person feels they have been heard.

If you can get your child to a place that they can understand that nothing matters -
except Love, then all the ego related emotional responses have no real meaning and
are just hot air. Growing up and finding your inner core, which is Love, is not usually
done in tandem, and usually, we start looking for that inner core around midlife when
we look to make sense of what this life is all about. However, if you can make your
child aware of their inner being, as their soul, they may start the search for this
earlier than normal.

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EGO = Failure
Learning to become more egoless and humble

This book was completed at the end of 2017.

Introduction

As recounted in this book and all my other spiritual books, my main message is
moving from a fear-based egoic person to a Love-based soul person. It is a journey I
have been on and consciously maintaining, and improve upon, wherever I can. Of
course, there are times I slip up, but I usually get slapped down by the causality of
my words and actions. Putting my non-existent tail between my legs, I apologise, ask
for forgiveness, and get back onto my egoless saddle. It’s a work-in-progress, but
being conscious of coming from ego or soul is the best way forward for me.

I believe that EGO is at the root of many of man’s failures and the resulting damage
to not only the person with a rampant ego and their immediate family but to those in
a larger orbit as well.

In this book, I spend the first part identifying some of the causes of failure where ego
is directly responsible. In the second part of the book, I focus on becoming more
egoless and humble in your life and the positive impact on you, your immediate
family, and those in your orbit and beyond.

Contents
PART 1
Understanding why Ego = Failure
Begin with the end in mind
What is your ego?
Ego is a seducer
Newton’s Third Law of Motion
Emotional wounds and the role of your ego
Ants building anthills
Be objective, unbiased, independent, and detached in your self-assessment
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Feedback- the only food you can really indulge
Being vulnerable
Surrendering
Ego is a major stumbling block in negotiations
Listening- the forgotten art
Stubbornness
Myopia
My way or the highway
Ego is separateness from Oneness
True happiness can never be ego-based
Kindness requires an egoless approach to life
Empathy and compassion- the passion that gives with kindness
Tolerance is understanding with a capital T!
The duality of life
Democracy implies all to speak and be heard
Who is your competition?
Desiderata
Depersonalising people through ego
The need to be right
Smile
Anger- the underlying tension of ego-based people
Road rage- ego behind the wheel
Let’s revisit what ego is in the context of this book

PART 2
The more egoless and humble you
Where to start?
Abundance
Acceptability
Acceptance of what is now
Appreciation
Be yourself and do your best, humbly
Centre of attraction
Compassion
Credit taking
Criticism
Defending your viewpoint
Empathy
Equanimity

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Focus
Forgiveness
Fortitude
Gratitude
Graciousness
Hardships
Humility
If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all
Impartial
Input or output
Integrity
Investment
Jealousy
Justice
Kindness
Laugh at yourself
Letting go
Listening
Mentoring
Missed?
Oneness
Perspective
Pleasure
Resentment
Resilience
Self-control
Self-pride
Silence
Simplicity
Student forever
Success
Surrender
Values
Vocation
Vulnerability
Conclusion

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What is the Ego?

What is your ego?

I don’t want to belabour the point and use Freud, psychologist’s mumbo-jumbo
terms, etc., to attempt to explain what your ego is or the person next to you’s ego is.
Simply put, your ego is when you have a distorted view of your importance, which
comes across with inflated self-importance, arrogance, conceit, and naked ambition
to be better than someone else.

The need to feel superior to another and to laud that feeling as if it's your Divine
Right to do so. This sense of entitlement that the world owes you their ear and their
applause at your every word and gesture. When you are right, and everyone else is
wrong. When your inflated opinion about yourself distorts reality and negatively
affects your relationships at a level where trust is replaced with fear of your reprisal,
and the acquiescence of the other person is demanded, not earned, nor given
willingly. Ego is about control and fear and expresses itself in arrogance, obstinacy,
and manipulation. Ego is a bottomless pit of need and greed and remains insatiable
in its demand to be better than, more than, recognised and applauded as such by
all.

Ego is a sickness, and in a more balanced world where values were correctly
appraised and accepted by all, ego would be recognised as a mental illness that it
truly is and treated accordingly. The trouble is that the Jailer is driven by ego, and
he/she currently has the keys to the Kingdom!

Many people aspire to be better than the next person and usually would step upon
their neighbour to get above them, whereas giving them a helping hand is the
Soul/Love approach and seen as “soft” or weak.

The fundamental issue is one of perception. As a hunter, man needs to get to the
food before his fellow man but also needs to get his fellow man to help him capture,
kill, and transport the food home to his family. So, man, the hunter, decides to
incorporate and allow his fellow Hunters into his group and share the
spoils in a prearranged manner where fairness may come after the power of
leadership and control. The change in perception of leadership and power to one of
the democratic choices based on what is good for the group, not for one man, is the
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Man is hardwired for competition whereas women are hardwired for co-operation as
their role is to be gatherers and nurturers of families.
The patriarchal society has emerged, and ego has flourished due to man’s need to
be better than, more than, and superior in strength, brainpower, and resources than
his fellow man.

Today, man sees the earth as his hunting ground and does not
understand the symbiotic relationship between all the parts of Nature that creates a
balanced world. Man’s ego could feasibly destroy Nature’s delicate balance, and with
it, man’s survival as a species.

Ego chooses to separate itself from others and constricts the natural law of synergy
where 1+1 = 3. Ego chooses to be only no.1 and damn the rest. Ego creates a
delusion, and its insatiable lust needs to feed the delusion in a vain attempt to make
it a reality. Ego makes some very strange “moves” to convince all and sundry that its
delusion is, in effect, the reality. Insanity is usually at the end of this delusional road.

From a spiritual viewpoint, ego is the separation from Oneness, and I will go into
this in more detail later on.

Vocation

Education should have as its thrust the ability to identify and unearth the talents and
abilities inherent within the student so that they may choose a vocation that assists in
their Soul Contract’s orbit.

Job satisfaction, as measured by the Conference Board in the USA finds that less
than half of workers have job satisfaction, and this trend has been reducing of
late. Clearly, education has done a poor job of identifying and unearthing students'
skills set, abilities, and even desires.

Ambition is also at fault because it tells the ambitious person that they must hang in
there and do the grunt work, and soon, or one day, they will be headed for the
top. The problem with such ambition and motivation is that it diminishes the work
being done in the Now, in the present moment. You miss all those moments of living
in the joy that the Now brings by shoving them aside so that you can climb one rung

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more up the ladder of success. If you could find enjoyment in the grunt work, then
success is guaranteed because your superiors, if you are an employee, or yourself
if you are self-employed, will recognise the passion and vocation you have and that
which separates you from your fellow workers or entrepreneurs.

Working with dedication and passion is recognising that God is All That Is, so
whatever you are doing is for God. If God asked you to take out the trash and dump
it in a garbage truck or to do intricate brain surgery to save a life, it all belongs to
God, and you are doing God’s work.

Kahlil Gibran in The Prophet said, “Work is Love made visible. And if you cannot
work with joy, but only with distaste, it is better that you should leave your work and
sit at the gate of the temple and take alms from them who work with joy.”

Having such a vocation is an egoless way to live, and having ambition and ignoring
the present moment of Now for some future reward is an ego-based way of living.
Obtaining job satisfaction is knowing that you are Co-Creating your life with God as
your Co-pilot and that anything and everything is possible because God is All That
Is.

Needing to compete with another for a prize is so meaningless compared to

working for and with God and feeling job satisfaction of a job well done and
benefitting mankind. When you work like this, you then know there are no ordinary
moments.

For those who consider the job of a sanitation worker to be beneath them, simply
consider what would happen to the health of a city if the garbage wasn’t collected
and taken to a dump? Now perhaps you may have more respect for the “lowly.”
sanitation worker doing God’s work of keeping you healthier by removing your
garbage.

There is a wonderful story about an airman, Air Commodore Nash, a jet

pilot in the USA Air Force. When an enemy missile destroyed his jet fighter, he
managed to eject and parachute to safety. Five years later, he and his wife were in a
restaurant, and a man approached him and asked if he was Air Commodore Nash,
who parachuted to safety that this man had heard about. Nash was astounded and
asked the man how he recognised him and knew the story.

The man replied, “I was the person who packed your parachute.”
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properly so that the parachute worked. That night Nash couldn’t sleep as he thought
about the many times he, as an important pilot, never acknowledged this man’s
existence as he was only a parachute packer.

So, the question to ask yourself is who is “packing your parachute” to enable you to
make it through the day and home safely at night? Who do you take for granted due
to their supposedly lowly position on the totem pole of life?

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Managing Your Stress Effectively
This book was written in 2018

Background

Stress is something we accept as part of our daily life. Somehow living a stress-free
life implies stepping outside the world we inhabit daily and lying on the beach. The
front cover picture of this book has a person lying on a hammock with still, endless
water in front of them.

Our ego has turned stress into a badge of honour. Being busy, multitasking, chasing
deadlines, sweat on one’s brow from exertion have become the mark of someone
going somewhere with their life. Wasting time and relaxing is treated by our ego as a
sign of failure. The top three economic superpower countries: the USA, China, and
Japan, do not prize vacation time, and in some instances, consider taking a vacation
as a sign of weakness.

The biblical injunction in the Ten Commandments to remember the Seventh Day of
rest and keep it holy is mostly ignored by people with large egos dominating their
lives.

In deciding to write this book, I have initially focused on the practical issues related to
stress and practical solutions. After that, I introduce you to spiritual solutions for
managing your stress. I end with a third section that focuses on the choices we make
based on integrity and corruption with the resulting stressful consequences.

Introduction

Here is an extract from the introduction to this book:

Stress is a global issue, and I decided to do some research to identify:

what stress is;
How does it originate
How is it evidenced
How it affects one’s mind, brain, body, home life, work-life and social life.
What can one do to prevent and or reduce stress in one’s life?
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After that, I looked at stress from a faith and a spiritual viewpoint, seeking to
understand it at a more metaphysical level and how to apply an approach of faith
and spirituality to reduce stress.
Lastly, I looked at stress created by corruption at an individual level - physically,
mentally, metaphysically, and then I looked at the better option of integrity within you
at all three levels.

What’s in the book?

Having identified what causes stress, pages 8-29 provide numerous practical
solutions to manage and reduce stress in your life effectively. These are “How to”
solutions, and the feedback I have received on these solutions have been very
encouraging.

Pages 30-80 deal with the major stressors experienced in society and practical
solutions I have come up with using both Critical Thinking and Creative Thinking
techniques. I am hopeful that one or more of your stressors are dealt with too.

Stress in society experienced by most people is identified by the American

Psychological Association (APA), which conducts an annual survey monitoring these
stressors and quantifying them. I also use information and statistics from the UK and
Europe to get a more complete picture of stress in the Western World.

Pages 80-115 focuses on spiritual solutions for managing your stress. For those
spiritually based, you will probably suffer more from anxiety and depression than
those people with excessive ego running their life. You will be more emotionally
sensitive, kind, caring, considerate, compassionate, and empathetic. You will have
your own stressors and possibly be absorbing the stressors of others you care about
too. These spiritual solutions will assist you in reducing and managing your stress
more effectively.

Pages 115-130 cover the choices we make between integrity and corruption and the
resulting stress consequences of each choice. The choice between truth and lies in
one’s life is broken down into 18 steps from your inner self; your soul; your ego; your
first family; your current family; your work; your work colleagues; your friends; your
acquaintances; your entire family; your neighbourhood; your city/town; your country;
your continent; your world; your Soul/Spirit; your Soul Group and your Eternal World.
The choices you make affect each of these eighteen steps of your life.

This is a solution-driven book. Reading it will change and enhance your life’s journey
as you reduce your stress effectively and have more enjoyment in your life.

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Contents

Introduction
Problems of stress and practical solutions for you
I am no stranger to stress
Let’s define the problem first
What is stress, and where does it originate
Major life stressors
Basic 10 points to begin your journey to effective stress relief
Additional points to general stress management skills
The answer to your stress in a nutshell
Stress in society
What causes stress in society
How is stress evidenced
Technology and Social Media as stressors
Stress about money
Stress at work or from work
The economy and stress
Stress from relationships with family and partners
Stress from family responsibilities
Stress-related health problems with my family and me
Stress and job stability
Housing costs and stress
Personal safety and stress
Spiritual solutions for managing your stress
Integrity or corruption- it's your choice and stressful consequences

I have selected the following topic from the book, pages 27-29, as a summation of
confronting your fears as a stress-reduction process:

The answer to your stress in a nutshell

For those people too impatient to read through this book and find the answers to
their immediate stress issues, I will give you an answer now, which is more like
bandages to cover your ego-based emotional wounds.
By reading the entire book, I believe that you will be personally empowered to
remove your stress demons once and for all surgically. It's your life and stress, and I
am providing guidelines to you to temporarily heal yourself from the current stress
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you feel or give you the deep-seated remedies to overcome stress for the remainder
of your life. If you want the temporary fix, you will find it in The Short Answer below.

The Short Answer

The stress you currently experience comes from one place and one place only, and
that is from your ego-based thoughts of fear of loss. Your inability to overcome the
stress that you are wallowing in, which affects your performance as a person, is due
to your fear of taking action and what might happen if it all goes wrong and you lose
that which you fear to lose. Your stress is based on inaction on your part to confront
the issue head-on.

There is usually one major issue, and probably several other issues, causing your
stress. It could concern one or more people you need to confront, and you are too
scared to do so due to the potential fall out of the loss for you. This fear of loss is
imprisoning you. It is causing damage to your health. It is impacting your ability to
function at a much higher level. It is affecting your much-needed sleep. It is affecting
your relationships and probably your sex life too. It affects your happiness, joy, and
bliss, which are inherent in who you are as a Part of God. It is affecting your ability to
be Love and to give Love as a Part of God, who is Love. It affects the potential of
who you could be if you no longer had your stress impeding your progress.

All of these issues and more are being held hostage and imprisoned by your fear
caused by your in-action to confront and, hopefully, solve or resolve them. If you
want to solve and resolve these fear-based issues, you have to become
PROACTIVE and not REACTIVE. You are currently being reactive and sweeping the
issues under the carpet, hoping they will go away. All you are getting is a lumpy
carpet! It’s time to roll up the carpet and get out the vacuum cleaner and clean up
your life’s issues.

What’s the worst thing that could happen? Let’s start with the worst thing that can
happen if you confront the person or people or the issue itself? Whatever you stand
to lose, you did not possess it at some stage in your life, and you lived your life
without it. Sure, your life may be better off with the issue you fear losing in your life,
but you will survive its loss and, over time, you will adjust to living with this loss.

What is more likely to occur is that once the issues you fear losing are no longer in
your life, then a vacuum is created. “Nature abhors a vacuum” is a statement traced
back to Aristotle around 350 BC and is scientifically proven today, with the
movements of gravity and air pressure which fills the vacuum. Something is likely to
replace that which you fear losing, be it your money, job, spouse/partner, family,
home, friend, health, and so on.

When you look back at the path of your life and the CHANGE that has occurred, see
what was lost and what was gained soon after that.
My acronym for CHANGE is Clearing, Healing And New Gifts Emerging.

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Before you take the action of confrontation with the person or persons involved, if
you can accept that you will come away from the proactive discussion and lose
everything you feared you would lose, then what?

At this point, I would like you to live with the possible theoretical loss for a day or two.
In your mind, that which you feared losing is gone. How will you face the present
moment and your future without it? Once your mind has adjusted to living without
this precious thing that you have now, theoretically, written off in your mind, let’s
address the real issue behind this, and that is your EGO - Edging God Out. Your
EGO is what has created this fear in your mind. If you want to know why it has and
how to overcome your ego, then please read my free book, EGO = Failure, Learning
to become more egoless and humble, found on personalempowerment.co

It’s your EGO that generates this feeling of potential loss and keeps you imprisoned
as a hostage to this fear of loss.

Proactively confronting the issues:

By being PROACTIVE and confronting the issues of what you fear losing, you
overcome your EGO’s fears, and you find that the loss may not be what you feared it
would be. You may find that whatever you did lose, you can live without. Somehow,
your life feels freer now, and you feel relieved that the stress has been lifted from
your aching shoulders. By being PROACTIVE and confronting the issue of what you
previously feared losing, you could find that new and better opportunities present
themselves in the vacuum that has been created.

If you have an “Attitude of Gratitude” and an “Attitude of Abundance,” and not one of
scarcity, this will create the opportunities to materialise to fill that vacuum. An
“Attitude of Abundance” is simply believing that the “Universe is Abundant” and there
is no shortage of opportunities for you to create and develop. Conversely, an
“Attitude of Scarcity,” believes that life is a “zero-sum game” and for you to win,
someone has to lose and vice versa. An abundant mentality is Soul/Love-based, and
a scarcity mentality is ego/fear-based.

So, let’s return to your stress that you have now been PROACTIVE in facing and
confronting. You have potentially been left with one of four scenarios:
1. Loss of everything you feared losing.
2. Partial loss of everything you feared losing.
3. A partial gain of new opportunities plus what you salvaged from the partial loss.
4. No loss of anything and a gain of new things in the opportunities that have been
created and developed when you confronted your fear of loss.

Now the ball is in your court! You have been given the tools to confront your fears of
loss and four likely scenarios that could result. You have seen the future that you
feared and stared at it eyeball to eyeball and stood your ground. You have
discovered something that Ralph Waldo Emerson talked about some 150 years ago:

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 “When a resolute young fellow steps up to the great bully, the world, and takes him
boldly by the beard, he is often surprised to find it comes off in his hand and that it
was only tied on to scare away the timid adventurers.”

Let me end with these thoughts:

You believe your current stressful world to be safe. By simply worrying about your
stress and doing nothing to confront it proactively, you are merely sitting in a rocking
chair that requires action (stress) to move it, but it makes no forward progress and
simply stays where it is. The myth of the current safety of your stressful world will
sooner, rather than later, be punctured or dispelled. The person, or persons, you fear
to confront are likely to take some PROACTIVE action against you. All you will be
able to do at that point is to REACT, and that will catch you on your back foot, and
you are likely to be easily pushed over, with your biggest fears arising in reality.

“Time and tide waiteth for no man” is a saying that goes back to 1225 AD and has
stood the test of time. Be proactive and face your fears now, and your stress will be
lifted.

This summation is one of many solutions depicted in the book both at a practical and
spiritual level.

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Achieving Your Goals and Dreams
This book was written in 2018

Background and Update

I am writing this background in December 2020 while in voluntary isolation due to the
COVID- 19 virus, which has seen most of the world in lockdown stages since early
2020.

During this period of self-isolation, I have written six books, including this
compilation. I have also spent a substantial portion of my time in silent contemplation
and meditation. I have found a vibrational frequency wavelength where I connect to
my Unseen Friends in Spirit and obtain guidance, understanding, and direction. In
one such recent session, I asked my Guides what the purpose of my life is? The
answer was creativity. The ability to create something out of nothing by using my
imagination and practicality after that. This creativity expands my experiences,
others’ experiences, and the experience of All That Is.

The inspiration of an idea; the ability to research and develop the concept from an
idea into a workable prototype; having the passion, single-mindedness, enthusiasm,
and ability to create something workable, viable, and benefitting others.

I have always been driven to do things differently by “thinking outside the box.” I
have been a non-conformist. I have been a pioneer in so many ways and ventures
within the areas of real estate economics, real estate investment and development;
being an early Internet business pioneer (much to my financial cost!), and writing-
both pioneering real estate economics from 1980, and my spiritual writing from 2005
onwards.

I have approached life’s difficulties mainly from the viewpoint of finding the
opportunity within the difficulty. However, this began from a place of ego at the
outset, and then I have moved to approach life from a soul-based perspective in my
later years. My Guides reminded me that my first real estate development company,
at age 23, was called Creative Estates (Pty) Ltd!

Since becoming aware of the purpose of my life being creative, I have been able to
reassess my life, my successes, and failures, in a different light. Instead of seeing
them from an ego perspective of success or failure, I have seen them as an
expansion of previously known horizons from a soul-based perspective. I have been
co-creating my life with God within me as my Co-Creator. Together we have
expanded known horizons and served mankind in the process.
I believe I am qualified to have written this book - Achieving Your Goals and Dreams.

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Introduction

We all dream and wish for our lives to be different and better, and sometimes those
wishes stay simply wishes, and sometimes they become tangible and manifest as
realities.

The gap between wishing and manifesting as realities are based on having the
resources and abilities to plan correctly and doggedly execute that plan into action. It
sounds simple enough, but we all know that the planning and executing part is what
separates the Wannabes from the Victors in life.

This book is divided into a Practical first section and a Spiritual second section. The
first section will suffice for those who do not concern themselves with the spiritual
part of life and get you onto the Victor's rostrum. For my fellow spiritual travelers, the
second section will elevate your goals and dreams to a much higher and rewarding
space, or as I call it, God’s Space, in my free book found on
personalempowerment.co, How to Live in the Now.
You are in for a treat!

Contents

Part 1- A Practical Approach

Conventional
Introduction
What is a goal?
What is a dream?
Self-belief is the next step
Picking yourself up when your self-belief falters
Failure is an event and not a person
Visualisation
Commitment
Planning
Thoughts
Words
Action
Consistent with your values
Prioritise and focus
Feedback and reviews
Who or what can assist you
SWOT analysis
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What is the impact of achieving your goal/s and dreams in your life?
Aptitude
Attitude
Discipline
Determination
Mental toughness
Milestones
Rewards
Resetting your objectives

Part 2- A Spiritual Approach

Unconventional
The goal
The Dream
Vibrational Beings
Self-belief
Visualisation
Creating intent -The Law of Attraction
Commitment
Planning
Thoughts, words, and action
Judgements
Consistent with your values
Prioritise and focus
Feedback and reviews
SWOT Analysis
Aptitude and attitude
Motivation
Discipline, determination, and mental toughness
Milestones and rewards
Conclusion

I have selected three topics, two from Part 1 and one from Part 2:

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Visualisation

‘Seeing is believing’ is a practical way of living, whereas ‘believing is seeing’ is a

spiritual way of living that we will look at in this book's spiritual section.

Visualisation, mental imagery, performance enhancements, and neural-plasticity all

have one thing in common - if you can see it, you can do it, providing you do the
practical work to make it happen too.

A picture does say a thousand words, and that is why global and local businesses
have logos as their branding mechanism. When you see the McDonald’s Arch, you
may become hungry, or when you see the Coca-Cola sign, you may become thirsty.
Of course, we easily get a picture and sensory overload with billions of smartphones
snapping selfies and other pictures daily. Narcissistic people sharing these
enhancements have a lot of static to overcome, including other peoples’ cats doing
weird things, etc.

As I was writing this, I remembered the scarcity of pictures in my grandparents' and

great-grandparents' era and how prized photos of them in Lithuania and Latvia in the
last few decades of the 19th Century are still in our family archives today. Getting
dressed up and looking unsmilingly at the photographer hidden behind a blanket
waiting for the light to flash and take the picture. Some of us yearn for those quieter,
less “visually static” times!

Today, we have Augmented Reality and Virtual Reality, and we begin to wonder
what reality is? Skiing down a mountain slope on a moving base with water particles
streaking down our faces can be so real it defies understanding what reality is.

Visualisation for achieving your dreams has an increasingly strong support base
among neural scientists, neural surgeons, psychiatrists, psychologists, and sport-
related medical professionals and coaches.

According to Harvard University: Neuroscience research demonstrates that the

brain's visual areas are divided into two distinct pathways. The dorsal, or spatial, and
ventral, or object pathways. The object pathway runs from the occipital lobe to the
inferior temporal lobe, processing objects' visual appearances regarding colour,
detail, shape, and size. The spatial pathway runs from the occipital lobe to the
posterior parietal lobe, processing spatial attributes such as location, movement,
spatial transformations, and spatial relations. Our results (Motes, Malach, &
Kozhevnikov, 2008) suggest that visual-spatial ability is related to distinct patterns of
neural activity during visual-spatial information processing. When given an object
imagery task, both spatial and object visualizers showed bilateral task-related activity
in object processing areas, but spatial visualizers showed greater bilateral activity in
object processing areas than did object visualizers. Also, spatial visualizers showed
greater activation in attentional areas than the object visualizers. The data indicate
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that high object-processing ability is associated with the more efficient use of visual-
object resources, resulting in less neural activity in the object-processing pathway.

My non-medical understanding of the above is that imagining an end picture is not as

effective as the mental processing of the steps or stages required to achieve the end
picture.

Visualisation works because neurons in our brain send information that interprets the
action's imagery as if the action itself has occurred. The neurons are then stimulated
into believing that active performance is necessary. They create a new neural
pathway, which are clusters of cells in our brain that simultaneously create memories
of learned behaviour.

The body now has a mental library of learned behaviour to replicate consistently.
When asked to do so in real life, the memory cells duplicate what they have stored
away from the previous experiences. That is my Layman’s understanding of
visualization. Simply picturing yourself crossing the finishing line of your objective or
goal is not as effective as playing the stages of the process through your thought
processes, culminating in your crossing the finishing line and receiving your reward
for your accomplishment.

So, you can imagine having this new picture in your mind that is capable of being
reproduced at will, and then suddenly, you have a doubt penetrating your mind’s
picture. It is the equivalent of dropping ink over a famous painting by Rembrandt!

Negative imagery is as powerful as positive imagery, and that is why we see that
your thoughts create your reality. Visualisation is vital for you to perfect yourself in
practice, so when the flag drops in the race of your life, you are as mentally and
physically prepared to simply repeat what your neural pathways have remembered
through repetitive practice. Remove any doubt from your thoughts and strongly
believe that you can do it in as positive a mindset as is possible to do.

Seeing is believing, and believing is seeing it manifest.

Mental toughness

Tough times don’t last, but tough people do. Mental toughness requires a form of
myopia or shortsightedness. You block out anything that will weaken your resolve,
and you keep fixated on your goals and dreams.

Mental toughness is an emotional muscle that you develop based on a positive can-
do attitude, immaterial of what circumstances you find yourself in. “Bring it on” is your
war cry.

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The reason that the going is tough is that if it was easy, anyone could do it. It's tough
for a reason. Obstacles and cul-de-sacs are there to test your resolve and
determination to see if you are truly worthy of achieving your dream or goal. They
don’t hand out gold medals and scatter them like confetti. They are valuable because
there is only one available for the winner. And there is only one winner, and it's going
to be you!

Imagine your mind to be like the cargo hold of a ship of old with watertight
compartments. Your mind is in one of those compartments sealed off from any
thoughts and emotions that would be negative for your cause of achieving your
dream or goal. Banish those negative thoughts and emotions by keeping only
positive thoughts and positive emotions in your watertight compartment.

Developing a mental toughness attitude means doing the work that others won’t do
or don’t want to do. It means doing one more thing on your programme; an extra
length at the swimming pool, one more repetition at the gym, one more hill on your
bike, one more sale, one more, one more, one more.

”Bring it on” remains your war cry. See your mental-emotional muscle building and
building. No one likes rejection; it offends us and can impact negatively on our self-
worth, self-belief, and self-confidence if we let it.

However, sometimes continual rejection is a signal that we may need to be

redirected rather than rejected. By this, I mean we find another way to do what we
need to do that will be accepted and not rejected.

A case study in marketing tells about a Manufacturer who canned pink salmon and
sold it worldwide. A competitor arrived who sold the more valuable, and in shorter
supply, red salmon at a higher price but stole the market. The red salmon was tastier
and higher in Omega 3 but was more expensive. Wracking their brains to find a way
to recapture market share, a consultant made a deal with the manufacturer of
receiving x cents a can to increase market share. It proved a genius stroke, and the
pink salmon canner's market share not only increased to previous levels but
surpassed the previous record of sales. What was the redirection? The consultant
changed the marketing message to read, “Pink salmon - guaranteed not to turn red!”

The same hot water that boils and softens a potato is used to harden an egg. It's not
your circumstances but what you are made of that determines your outcome. If it's
important to you, you will find a way to solve the issue; otherwise, you will find an
excuse. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves of our bravery and our courage to
face impossible odds to succeed.

One way I have found that works for me is to remember scenes from movies that
typify such bravery and courage against all odds. One of my favourite scenes is from
the movie Braveheart with William Wallace (Mel Gibson) motivating his few Scottish
soldiers facing the might of the English army:

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William Wallace: We all end up dead; it’s just a question of how and why. Every man
dies; not every man really lives. I am William Wallace! And I see a whole army of my
countrymen, here in defiance of tyranny. You’ve come to fight as free men… and
free men you are. What will you do with that freedom? Will you fight?

Veteran: Fight? Against that? No! We will run. And we will live.

William Wallace: Aye, fight, and you may die. Run, and you’ll live… at least a while.
And dying in your beds, many years from now, would you be willin’ to trade ALL the
days, from this day to that, for one chance, just one chance, to come back here and
tell our enemies that they may take our lives, but they’ll never take… OUR
FREEDOM! [Scottish army cheers]

William Wallace: Go back to England and tell them there that Scotland’s daughters
and her sons are yours no more. Tell them Scotland is free.

If you Google “motivational speeches,” you will find inspiration from sportspeople,
politicians, Generals, and so many more to keep your inspiration levels topped up so
that you can develop your mental toughness muscle.
BRING IT ON!

Prioritise and focus

In Part 1, this section deals with prioritizing and focusing intently on achieving your
goals and dreams. This process is a left-brain focus, and with such intensity of
priority and focus, the left brain develops at the expense of the right brain, which is
under-developed. So your ability to think in words, to think logically and sequentially,
to be able to do linear thinking, to be good at mathematics, statistics, numbers, and
facts, and to apply logic to issues and problems becomes well-developed. But what
happens to your right brain functions of feelings, emotions, sensuality, visualisation,
intuition, rhythm, holistic thinking, arts, mindfulness, creative thinking, out of the box
thinking, creative solutions, balance, harmony, nature, beauty, love, etc.?

In finding a spiritual approach to focus and prioritising to achieve your goals and
dreams, I will show you how to do so with an awareness of developing your right
brain function.

Let's start with your left brain functions, as discussed in Part 1. Do this to the
absolute best of your ability until you hit a wall, and for some, it may be “burnout.”
Then the real fun starts!

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Now get out of your workspace at exactly the time you think that if you took your eye
off this ball, your world would collapse, and the earth would reverse its polarity
because you are that important!!

I don’t mean to go next door. I mean, get out into Nature without any electrical
devices to distract you and preferably on your own. You can take a notebook, a
pencil, and a sharpener. Remember what a pencil and sharpener look like?! Now
allow yourself a day or two to acclimatise and rid yourself of your obsession with
your left brain activity.

Don’t only sit in Nature. Do something arduous like going for a walk, a swim, or some
form of activity that needs your concentration to keep going in Nature. On day three,
once you have rebalanced yourself and you are starting to feel the stress and
tension drop off you, you can begin to meditate by sitting still and following your
breathing. The slower you can get your breathing, and the longer you can stretch
your in-breath and then your out-breath without effort, the deeper you will find your
ability to meditate. Do this in the morning, around Noon, and again in the evening
before going to bed. Carry this practice on for as many days as it takes for you to
realise that you are starting to feel calmer and more balanced in your life. Then carry
it on indefinitely as it will be necessary for your overall well-being, balance, harmony,
and solution-finding to achieve your goals and dreams.

By being on your own, you can start to get to know the real you and not the image of
you that you believe you are, regarding the goals and dreams you are working
towards. The real you is a part of God, who is Love, and so are you. Can you
imagine that? This tough top Achiever is actually love!

Your right brain has waited patiently to be introduced to you. It wants to offer you
balance, harmony, mindfulness, peace, love, care, kindness, warmth, humanity,
rhythm, feelings, emotions, sensuality, creative thinking, out of the box thinking,
intuition, visualisation, beauty, holistic thinking, and so much more.

You, like everyone, have been blessed with a library of wisdom, knowledge, and
information, but mainly wisdom, within you. I call it intuition. It's your inner knowing
and using your inner five senses; you can see with your inner eye, hear with your
inner ear, feel with your inner emotions, smell with your inner nose, and taste with
the inner tongue.
For example, when you smell the baking bread, your inner tongue activates your
saliva glands to expect to taste something delicious soon. Your inner eye and inner
ear can intuit whether you are talking to a friend or a foe. Your emotions have their
own guidance system, and they tell your body and your mind consciously,
unconsciously, and subconsciously how you are feeling about what is happening to
you in every moment of now.

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It is said that there is a thing known as women's intuition, and we poor men are
oblivious to those emotional signals. We are hunters, intent on using our spear to
catch our prey in silence and stealth and simultaneously make sure that we don’t
become prey for man or beast. We are left-brain hunters, and it's either catch our
prey or starve to death or be caught as prey. Where is the time to worry about right-
brain issues - that’s women's work? Exactly! So men and women are not from
different planets, like Venus and Mars; they are from different brain hemispheres!

In my negotiation book, How to be a Great Negotiator, available for free on

personalempowerment.co, I have an entire section dedicated to body language. I go
from the tip of one’s head to the soles of one’s feet to discern the messages being
given emotionally by one’s body, even though one’s words may be saying something
different. Body language is supposed to be 70% plus of all communication, and it's
all intuitive. Some 95% of what we actually see and absorb is done so unconsciously
and subconsciously. We miss the subtle stuff because our eyes are focused on what
we want to achieve as our goal and dream. The rest of it we call “noise,” but we have
registered it unconsciously and subconsciously within us.

Men and women go to a party and mingle. The wife or partner keeps a watchful inner
eye on her male partner and notices which women are showing subtle interest in
him. He is oblivious because he has an invisible spear, and he is unconsciously
hunting. Whether it’s just to have his ego stroked knowing that he could interest
another woman in him, or whether his motives are immoral, his wife/partner is across
the room but sees what is going on between her spouse or partner and the other
woman. She usually steps in at the appropriate time, and someone is sleeping on
the couch that night!
In today’s world of technology and visual distractions of so many types, which we
sometimes call entertainment, we have lost the ability to be silent, and preferably
silent in Nature. The outer noise is cancelling out our ability to use our inner senses.
We need to start training ourselves to live out life from the inside-out, instead of the
outside-in. This inside-out process is what I would call response and not reaction.
We respond to our inner senses and to find a right-brain environment to inhabit with
our thoughts, words, and actions - a world of beauty, love, and peace, a world of
balance and harmony, a holistic world of being mindful of the need to be kind, to care
for ourselves and others, a world of sensuality and creativity.

We experience this as we feel our emotions fully and not simply the left brain logical
thinking of facts and figures. In this way, we will develop the ability to find creative,
‘out of the box thinking’ for answers and solutions to achieve our goals and dreams.
We will know what it feels like to be in rhythm with the world, nature, and the
Universe. And to experience harmony and balance of a life well-lived.

Our strong inner compass will know where to find our North Star of achieving our
goals and dreams.

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Becoming Blissful
This book was written in 2018

Introduction and Continuation

When I finished my previous free book, Achieving Your Goals and Dreams, available
on personalempowerment.co, I stated that there are many more ways to find your
bliss but that I wanted the reader to focus on the main theme of the Spiritual Section
of that book. That focus was on aligning your Soul, Higher Self, and Higher Power in
harmony with the maxim “what would God / Love do now?”
This was the recipe for finding a feeling of bliss, which feeling is far better than even
achieving your goals and dreams, no matter how lofty they may be.
I now want to return to my spiritual roots and show you over 200 ways of becoming
blissful. Hopefully, you will experience a moment of knowing such bliss and then find
your own formula to reconnecting to this utopian space on a more regular and
frequent basis. I hope and trust that with over 200 ways in this book to guide you,
that one or more will resonate with you and be the key to unlocking the door to this
nirvana of knowing bliss and experiencing a life that some would call miraculous in
every moment of Now.

Why blissful?

That’s a fair question to ask as you enter this book. Bliss is best described as joy on
steroids! Bliss is the utopian space where feelings are the language of your soul.
Bliss is at the top of the “food chain” of spirituality. It is the feeling you experience
when you are in what I call God’s Space, which can only be accessed in the present
moment of Now.
The feeling of bliss is unique for every person. I don’t want to state that it is this or it’s
that and then builds up your expectations. You may experience bliss completely
differently and think that you have somehow failed and that this can’t be bliss. Bliss
is best described as the best or utopian feeling you have ever experienced anywhere
and anytime. Some people look back at their lives and attempt to find when they
were happiest and joyful and even something beyond that feeling of happiness and
joy. For many, it may be when they met their true love. For others, it may be the
miracle of childbirth and holding their child in their arms or suckling their breast. For
some, it may be entering their first home with their beloved and knowing you are
where you belong. For some, it may be on the steps of the Divorce Court, feeling
freedom from the tyranny of a bad marriage. As you can see, this is a personal
experience, and bliss is definable by you alone.

Let’s see what will work for you from the over 200 identified spiritual attributes
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for you that can be triggered by one or more of these attributes. I am treating each
attribute as a stand-alone subject, and therefore there may be a repetition of words
directly or indirectly in one or many attributes listed alphabetically below. Besides the
attribute headings, I haven’t started with any preconceived words and prefer to let
the words flow through me as much as from me. So, I, too, am looking forward to
what I have to say under each attribute!

Contents
Introduction and Continuation
Why blissful?
Ability
Abundance
Acceptance
Action
Adversity
Allowing
Anger
Answer
Appreciation
Approval
Attention
Attitude
Authenticity
Awareness
Balance
Be and Being
Beauty
Behaviour
Belief
Bravery
Breathing
Caring
Cause and Effect
Change
Character
Charity
Children
Choice
Coincidence

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Commitment
Compassion
Confidence
Conscience
Consciousness
Considerate
Contentment
Courage
Creativity
Criticism
Curiosity
Cycles
Death
Decisions
Desire
Destiny
Determination
Difficulties
Dignity
Diligence
Education
Egoless
Emotions
Emotional Intelligence
Empathy
Energy
Enlightenment
Enthusiasm
Expectations
Empowerment
Encouragement
Failure
Fairness
Faith
Fame
Family
Fear
Feelings
Flow

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Focus
Forgiveness
Freedom
Free Will
Friend
Friendship
Fun
Gain
Generosity
Genuineness
Giving
Goal
Godlike
Grace
Gratification
Gratitude
Growth
Happiness
Harmony
Healing
Health
Higher Self
Higher Power
Hope
Honesty
Humility
Humour
Imagination
Important
Inner Peace
Integrity
Intelligence
Intention
Intuition
Journey
Joy
Judgement
Justice
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Knowledge
Laughter
Leadership
Learning
Life
Listening
Loss
Love
Manifestation
Meaning
Meditation
Mindfulness
Miracles
Nature
Noble
Non - Judgement
Non - Resistance
Now
Oneness
Opportunistic
Optimism
Pain
Passion
Patience
Peace
Perceptions
Perseverance
Perspective
POWER
Praise
Prayer
Present Moment
Priorities
Proactive
Principles
Prosperity
Problems
Purpose

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Reality
Recognition
Rejection
Relationships
Religion
Resistance
Respect
Responsibility
Sabbath
Security
Self
Self - Belief
Self - Discipline
Self - Esteem
Self - Knowledge
Self - Love
Sensuality
Service
Sharing
Silence
Simplicity
Smile
Social Intelligence
Solitude
Solutions
Soul
Spirituality
Stillness
Strength
Success
Suffering
Support
Surrender
Synchronicity
Teacher
Thoughts
Tolerance
Transcendence
Transparent

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Trust
Truth
Understanding
Unconditional Love
Universe
Vibrations
Victor
Victim
Virtue
Vision
Vulnerability
Wealth
Wisdom
Work
Yes
Conclusion

Here is an example of a topic:

Appreciation

There are four levels of appreciation that I want to discuss.

Firstly, there is someone showing you appreciation.

Secondly, there are you showing appreciation to someone or something.
Thirdly, there is self-appreciation and,
Fourthly, there is an appreciation to and from Spirit.

When someone shows you an appreciation for whatever you are or have achieved, it
always feels good, and sometimes it feels great, especially if they are someone you
admire. You smile both inside and outside, and you probably have a good reason to
do so. However, be aware that an external appreciator may have their own
motivations for showing you such appreciation. Additionally, they can also reverse
their appreciation and criticise you and, once again, they may have their own
reasons for doing so. Putting too much store in treasuring such external appreciation
places your emotional well-being in someone else’s hands, and that is usually not
advisable to do. It’s nice when such external appreciation happens but keep your
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Whenever and wherever possible, show appreciation to people and other beings
such as animals and the like. Additionally, show appreciation for other things such as
Nature, beauty, food, and the myriad of other things you come across each day.
Showing such sincere appreciation is a form of giving, and not only do the other
people or things feel good, but you feel good about your appreciation of them too.
Such appreciation is an emotional win: win situation, and happiness and joy usually
follow and linger for a while with you and with them.

Self-appreciation is something few people practice sincerely. They may be ego-

based immodest and boastful to others about their achievements, but few people
congratulate themselves for being or doing something they are proud of. Conversely,
many people are self-critical and bring themselves down emotionally. Self-
appreciation begins with being rather than doing. Being a good person means being
caring, kind, respectful, considerate, polite, and other well-meaning things to yourself
and others. Self- appreciation is also based on achieving your selected goals for the
time you have set yourself to accomplish these tasks.
Self-congratulations are something most people shy away from. You can look
yourself in the eye in the privacy of your bathroom and congratulate yourself as you
smile into the mirror and your image in the mirror smiles back in appreciation of you.
You can begin the day by greeting yourself in the mirror with a smile on your lips and
being thankful for the day ahead in which you have the opportunity to be and do
things to be proud of.
That evening smile at yourself and tell yourself: “I am proud of you……. (your name)
for …………………. (whatever you did that made you proud).” Self-appreciation is
heading you in the direction of happiness, joy, and on the road to bliss.

Spirit appreciation - now this is where the rubber meets the road in appreciation!
Being appreciative of your soul, your Higher Self, and your Higher Power is the high
road to bliss. Appreciating everything you have, you are, and you aspire to be and
knowing that it is achievable if you harmoniously align your soul, your Higher Self,
and your Power, and become Oneness. By being peaceful and loving in every
possible way, will ensure you know bliss.

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Listening- The Relationship Builder
This book was written in 2018

Introduction

Trust is earned and cannot be commanded. The building blocks of trust are effective
listening, correct action, like, admiration, respect, commitment, and forming a
relationship in reaching a trust position.

Trust is the glue that holds a relationship together. You first have to trust yourself
and then form a relationship with others. If you can’t trust yourself, how can you
expect others to trust you?

Effective listening is the initial building block, and without it, you won’t have a good
relationship, either with yourself or another. Unlike reading, writing, and arithmetic,
our other learning blocks, we are not taught how to listen effectively. We hear and
consider it to be listening, but it’s not.

In a nutshell, successful people listen effectively, and unsuccessful people merely

hear. I am using the term successful and unsuccessful in their broadest possible
sense to shock you into the realisation that listening is different from hearing and
those who genuinely listen are likely to achieve their objectives in life.

Regrettably, for those who merely hear, reaching their objectives may pass them by
with all the noise that comes from only hearing and not listening effectively.

Why am I writing a book about listening effectively? I certainly don’t have any
specialised knowledge. Quite frankly, I am a talker rather than a listener. That is why
I thought I should become a better listener, even at the age of 66! So, I decided to
apply my research and analytical skills to this topic and learn how to become a better
listener. Hopefully, some of the knowledge and wisdom I have gleaned through the
years can be used so that together we can learn how to be more effective listeners
and with it become more successful in our lives and our relationships.

I have identified over fifty types of listening to focus on, and there are probably many
more. These fifty-plus topics should make you more aware of the need to listen
effectively and listen effectively. In doing so, I hope to help you achieve your life
objectives, especially in your relationships.

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Contents

Introduction
Power
Hearing
Listening
Listening promotes peace
Is it free speech or free listening we need?
Listening improves one's health
Listening by sound bites
Listening when emotional
Listening in noise
The best present you can give someone
Can you improve on the silence?
Respect
Selective Listening
Effective listening
What to do- tips for effective listening
Listening with filters
Are you asking the correct questions?
Listening by males
Listening by females
Listening between males and females in a relationship
Listening with understanding
Listening with empathy
Listening to interrupt
Listening to give comments
Listening to give advice
Listening to your ego
Listening to your soul
Listening to your conscience/ inner voice
Listening to your Higher Self
Listening to your Higher Power
Listening to wisdom
Listening in silence and stillness
Listening to yourself
Whole-body listening
Body language listening
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Listening with your eyes
Listening with your heart
Listening to your “gut-feel”/ intuition
Sensual listening
Listening in meditation
Listening in dreams
Listening to Nature
Listening Now
Listening with bias and prejudicial judgement
Listening to bias and prejudicial judgement
Listening to pollution of our mind, body, and soul
Listening to non-pollution of our mind, body, and soul
Listening to victims
Listening to victors
Listening to critics
Listening to music
Listening while dating
Listening to your spouse or partner
Listening to your young child
Listening to your older child
Listening to your Inner Child
Listening to your parents
Listening to your older parents
Listening to your friends
Listening to your work colleagues
Listening to your boss
Listening to your employees
Listening to your customers and clients
Listening to your teacher
Listening to your pupils
Listening by leaders
Listening to your medical advisers
Listening to your career advisers
Listening to your financial advisers
Listening to a salesperson
Listening by a salesperson
Listening to a professionally qualified or experienced person
Listening in a group
Listening to audiobooks

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Listening in an audience-based setting
Listening to social media
Conclusion

I have chosen two topics to give you an indication of this book:

Listening between males and females in a relationship

Relationships between a man and a woman need to be a two-way street in all

respects and be conducted with respect. Men and women need to talk and listen to
each other. However, there is a fundamental difference in how they are wired to do
so.

Most people do not listen to understand. They listen to interrupt with their opinions,
judgements, and conclusions, which is why a book like this is essential for healthy
relationships. People who listen to interrupt are ego-based people coming from fear
and hope, while those who listen to understand are more soul-based people coming
from love. Of course, all my comments are generalisations, and there are always
exceptions to the rule.

Having a conversation implies the readiness to exchange ideas and opinions, but it
is how it is done, which shows how the emotional makeup differs between men and
women.

Emotions do not always drive men, as they have that metaphorical pointed stick in
their hand (as discussed above), and they seek a solution now. A man usually needs
a beginning, middle, and end of the story as his emotions are geared to solve
problems. He cannot decipher the nuances of subtle emotional undercurrents.

Women are emotional beings, first and foremost, and they prefer to gather and
nurture by expressing their emotions and feelings (as discussed above). Men are like
a focused river seeking the sea in the fastest way possible. Women are like a river
that overspills its banks, and the water covers a lot of territories. While men are
direct with their words and often blunt and hurtful, women need to rationalise,
express, and process through words as if they need to spill their hopes and fears out
to sort through them and find an emotional solution without hurting anyone in the
process. Women are moved emotionally by how others feel; men merely want the
solution now.

A man will impress women how primordial men did with achievements such as
hunting the protein for the campfire. Man’s macho approach of competitiveness,
providing for their women and family, and protecting them is how they see their role
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things a man does while she does numerous things every day for the relationship
and the family. In a woman’s mind, her contributions are far more than her man’s
contribution and the inequality, as she sees it, lies as a burning thorn in her side and
the relationship.

The eternal question asked by a man of “what does a woman want?” can be
answered by effective listening to a woman. Man is emotionally insecure because,
unlike a woman, he doesn’t know how to process his sensitive emotions and
feelings. They are foreign objects to him, and such emotions and feelings threaten
him. He prefers not to show weakness and vulnerability, so he shuts down his
sensitive side, which he doesn’t know how to deal with.

When a man can truly listen to a woman express her feelings without getting
irritated, short-tempered, frustrated, and angry at how long it is taking to say so many
words when the answer is so apparent to him. Only then Aladdin’s Cave opens for
their relationship. This happens when that man gives his woman the time, attention,
and focus she craves so that she can feel safe and protected by him in her
uncertainty and emotional turmoil of needing to be heard fully by him. The woman
then feels safe and protected in expressing herself fully and being heard and
understood by her man. This is the trust she is seeking, and when she feels that
trust, her emotional insecurities diminish. This trust, which a woman wants from her
man, enables her to feel emotionally comfortable giving her man what he needs from
her, which is appreciation and admiration. He craves such appreciation and
admiration in a primal way by bringing home the protein and protecting her and their
family. He sees this validation of himself as the hero receiving acceptance and
approval of who he is to her, and that is all the encouragement he needs to go out
the next day and do it all again for her.

By making him feel appreciated and admired by his woman, he feels like the hero,
and his sensitive, emotional insecurity disappears for that moment. He feels at peace
within as he feels loved and trusted by her.

So here we have an intertwining of the roots of the relationship. Man attentively

listens to a woman and removes the emotional insecurities she feels in her life and in
her relationship with him. After that, a woman admires and approves of her man,
thereby feeding his emotional needs to be the relationship hero.

The more emotionally mature man also begins to understand the sensitive,
emotional insecurity he feels about himself. Suppose he allows himself the
opportunity to explore these emotions in a safe space, such as in his relationship
with his woman, then their relationship will blossom forth like never before. This is a
delicate and extremely respectful and trusting requirement, and the man has to feel
entirely safe to let his defensive guard down and express his emotional insecurities,
especially to the one person who sees him as a hero. Man doesn’t realise that a
hero's concept in his woman’s eyes is not to be the strongest but the most vulnerable
and trusting. If a man allows and trusts his woman to be his best friend in all respects
of the word, then both the hero and heroine will emerge. This combination is

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synergistically so powerful in a relationship that it is an unshakeable bedrock of
friendship, respect, and trust. If they can feel entirely emotionally safe with each
other, then nothing else matters.

For years now, I have told my sons to find their best friend and marry that person. I
don’t care who they are, where they have come from, or any other personal details.
Merely be emotionally vulnerable enough to trust them with every fibre of your being
and for them to do the same to you.

It seems so simple that it's ludicrous to believe so much mayhem has occurred over
tens of thousands of years between men and women. Angry men go to war to vent
their insecure, emotional frustrations because most men are like the person with only
a hammer who sees every problem as a nail.

I am now going to show you the importance of the intertwining of roots in Nature and
how the intertwining solution above of effective listening by men to women and the
subsequent removal of each other's emotional insecurities builds healthy, happy,
stable, and loving relationships.

The giant redwood trees in California, USA, grow to 350 feet and have been around
for thousands of years. The secret is in their root system, which is very shallow, only
some six-foot deep, but they extend outwards and intertwine with nearby redwood
trees' roots. This underground root support system of the intertwining of thousands of
roots creates an unbreakable foundation for these magnificent trees' ongoing health
and growth.

The same can happen in your relationship, and it all begins with effective listening by
men to their partners, as outlined above.

Let me inject some humour here and give you ten words or phrases that women say
and men hear but do not understand the meaning of:
Fine: when she says fine or, more likely, FINE, it's not fine at all!
5 Minutes: if she is getting ready to go out for the evening, 5 minutes means 30
minutes, but if you are watching the ball game on TV, 5 minutes is 5 minutes.
Nothing: is very far from nothing! NOTHING is pure exasperation that you just don’t
get it, and everything is the matter with you.
Go-ahead: This is not permission, it’s a dare, and if you do it, then the next word you
hear will be FINE!
A loud sigh: although not a word, it speaks much louder than any word could. She
thinks you are an idiot for not understanding, and if you ask what’s wrong, she will
say NOTHING!
That’s OK: if you take that literally, then beware of the pain that lies ahead for you
because it’s definitely not OK, and it's not FINE, and it's not NOTHING!
Thanks: if said politely, then do not question and merely say, “my pleasure,” but if
she says THANKS, she means THANKS A LOT, which means FINE and NOTHING!
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Whatever: this is not showing indifference, it's showing irritation, and she is planning
your punishment!
Don’t worry; I’ve got it: This means I am eventually doing what I have repeatedly
asked you to do.
Let’s change positions: it doesn’t mean some new acrobatics in bed. It means let me
watch TV and drink beer, and you do the cooking and the washing up!

Listening with empathy

Empathy means being able to stand in the other person's shoes and see the issue
from their perspective. This is a soul-based approach as an ego-based person
cannot stand in someone else’s shoes as they see their shoes alone and cannot
even acknowledge that the other party has shoes on!

Empathetic listening is usually a woman’s role or a man with enough emotional

security to come from soul-based love who can attempt to understand an issue at
hand. Empathetic listening allows and enables a person to express themselves fully,
and if they feel comfortable enough with an empathetic listener, they may also bare
their soul in the total vulnerability of all their emotional fears and hopes.
Empathetic listening is based on total trust between the parties. Knowing that there
is no sliver of doubt that the listener will not abuse the trust being placed in them by
disclosing these emotional fears and hopes to another person. Usually, when one is
allowed to bare their soul, the mere speaking it out loud to another is a cathartic
process, instead of keeping it bottled up inside. The speaker hears their paranoia for
what it is - sheer fear without any bases. Once the fear, or hope, is expressed aloud,
it’s as if the poison within is expunged, and the healing process can begin.

Empathetic listening is not designed to solve any problems that the other person is
struggling with. It's merely a safe space of trust whereby the speaker can hear
themselves voice their fears and hopes. We all have the wisdom within to resolve
our issues, and we need to be able to express these issues verbally so we can begin
the resolution and healing processes required to restore harmony, peace, and love in
our lives.

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GAIN- God And I Now
This book was written in 2019.

Background

As stated before in this Treasury of Spiritual Knowledge and Wisdom, I am a non-

conformist and pioneer with a life’s purpose to be creative and expand my horizons,
the horizons of others, and the experience of God, or All That Is, as I am part of God,
and I believe that God is within me, and within you too.

I have moved from a fear-based egoic person towards becoming a Love-based soul
person. I vulnerably show that progression in all my books.

When I sat down to write this book GAIN- God And I Now- I wanted to express in the
written word what I felt within me. As with all my spiritual books, I feel guided while
writing and believe that often the words come through me rather than from me.

Little did I know that this book would be followed by the book entitled The Purpose
and Meaning of Your Life in terms of your Soul Contracts, and then, after that, a
book entitled Finding and Knowing God Within You. I had a lot to learn about God,
and these books were my next steps in this process. My learning precedes my
sharing this knowledge and wisdom with you.

Introduction

This book GAIN- God And I Now- has a lengthy introduction, and I am going to
extract portions of it as a briefer introduction to this book:
I don’t have a religion; I have a personal relationship with God.
My God is a God of Love. My belief system comes from my understanding of
spirituality. This understanding is growing daily and is experiential rather than simply
knowledge-based.
Allow me to throw a cat among the pigeons and ask you,“ Does God have a
religion?” Your name for this Higher Power maybe God/Higher Power/Oneness/ or
whatever name resonates with you; I will use God for simplicity's sake, as it ties in
with the acronym GAIN- God And I Now.

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I am not asking what your religion believes God to be but instead looking at it
through God’s eyes. Does God genuflect, pray on a prayer mat, wear a tallis and
yarmulke, believe in the Veda, and so on? If God did have a religion, who would God
pray to?

Most of us were born into a religion, and for those who decided to follow the
teachings of that religion, they adopted many of their beliefs, traditions, customs, and
behaviour relative to that religion.
The occasional person like myself have used the religion they were born into as a
base and as a springboard. We have then added to our belief system by cherry-
picking other religions' parts and universal spiritual understandings to create a living
and evolving belief system.
In my case, religion has been replaced by a personal relationship with God, my
evolving perception of God- a God of Love. My God is Love and Love is my God.
People often ask me why I quote Jesus, Mohammad, Confucius, Indian mystics, and
many other religious leaders as I am obviously Jewish judging from my surname. My
answer is that I believe all these founders and leaders of various religions have
invaluable teachings for me. Why would I turn my back on this wisdom merely
because it’s not the religion I was born into?
If I counted on my fingers and toes, would I be grateful if a Chinese person showed
me how to use an abacus? If someone else showed me how to use a calculator,
would I say no thanks for this knowledge as my forefathers counted on their fingers
and toes, and the scriptures I follow says that this is the way to count? Would you
say that?

My perception of God is the God, and in some cases, a God, of most religions. I
believe that if you pray in a church, mosque, synagogue, temple, or any religious
structure, and especially if you pray in Nature, the same God is present to hear those
prayers of supplication and praise. I know this experientially because I have done so,
and my perception of my God remains the same wherever I pray and, in meditation, I
listen to my God wherever I am.
My God is the Unity behind all diversity. My personal relationship with my perception
of God grows daily.

I want to share this GAIN- God And I Now- with you, and, hopefully, you will find a
similar inner knowing of God within you too. After an introduction, I then use over
one hundred ways to illustrate how you can attain GAIN- God And I Now.

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Contents

Introduction, confessions, explanation, and Superheroes

You are a Light Being
Where did we go wrong?
Your spiritual journey
Abundance
Acceptance
Action
Adversity
Appreciation
Attention
Attitude
Authenticity
Awareness
Being
Best
Charity
Coincidences
Compassion
Dignity
Energy
Enlightenment
Enthusiasm
Faith
Giving and Generosity
Goal
Godlike
Gratitude
Growth
Happiness
Harmony
Healing
Hope
Humility
Imagination
Integrity
Intention
Intuition

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Joy
Judgement
Kindness
Knowledge
Leadership
Life
Listening
Loss
Love
Manifestation
Meaning
Meditation
Mindfulness
Miracle
Nobility
Non- Acceptance
Non- Attachment
Non- Judgment
Non- Resistance
Now
Opportunity
Passion
Patience
Peace
Perception
Perspective
Power
Praise
Prayer
Present moment of Now
Principles
Prosperity
Problems
Purpose
Questions
Reality
Recognition
Regret
Relationships

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Religion
Responsibility
Sabbath
Secret
Security
Self belief
Self esteem
Self Love
Sensuality
Service
Silence and stillness
Simplicity
Smile
Strength
Success
Suffering
Support
Surrender
Synchronicity
Teacher
Thoughts
Tolerance
Transcendence
Transparent
Trust
Truth
Understanding
Unconditional Love
Universe
Vibrations
Vision
Vulnerability
Wealth
Wisdom
Work
Conclusion

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I have selected three topics to give you an indication of this knowledge and wisdom:

Adversity

Now you may be wondering how adversity can be part of GAIN— God And I Now?
Why would an omnipotent God know adversity with us mere mortals?

Taking another perspective on adversity, we compare life to a kite. A kite only rises
high when it is against the wind.
In Ecclesiasticus 2:5, we read that “gold is tried in the fire and acceptable men in the
furnace of adversity.” Proverbs 17:3-13 has a similar quotation, as does Isaiah
48:10.

No one said that spiritually advanced people would not know adversity. Throughout
history, virtually every spiritual leader has combatted adversity and overcame it to
grow into that era's spiritual leader. In some instances, they become a Spiritual
Leader over thousands of years in the case of Moses, Jesus, Paul, Buddha,
Muhammed, and the three most important representations of Brahman in Hinduism,
Brahma; Vishnu; and Shiva, to name a few religious belief characters.

It seems that God uses adversity to test the belief, perseverance, character, morals,
ethics, values, and courage of those who would represent God and, in our instance,
for those who will attain GAIN—God And I Now.

Welcome adversity as a potential growth spurt to bring you closer to God. If you can
see that this adversity is God testing your resolve to be Godlike in your thoughts,
words, and actions, then you will change your perspective of this adversity. Your
thoughts, words, and actions will then become one of welcoming the adversity, and
by saying, “look here is adversity to test me, then I must be on the correct path to
become Godlike and to know GAIN— God And I Now”!

Changing the way you look at this adversity, and instead of seeing it as a fear-based
threat to you, see it as a soul-based Love needing to find an opening to blossom
forth.

Let me illustrate that with a story I have used before in one of my books:

A young Westerner was studying karate in Japan at a very high level. One day he
was on the train going home from his all-day classes. A large Japanese man
boarded the train and was evidently drunk and abusive in swearing and attacking the
other passengers. Our Westerner saw that this was an opportunity to use his karate
skills and to subdue this attacker on the train. He stood up and steadied himself as
the man lurched towards him, intent on doing him harm.

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Just then, a shrill whistle pierced the air, and a small elderly Japanese man stood up
and said to the abusive passenger, “come and sit here with me.” The abusive man
saw that this elderly gentleman didn’t present any threat to him, and he slumped
down in the empty seat. The older man then began talking to him in a whispering
tone and asking him if he had been drinking saki. He gruffly said that he had been.
The older man carried on in this conspiring whispering tone, and he said to the
abusive man that he and his wife always enjoy saki every evening when he gets
home from work. They sit in their little garden and enjoy a glass of saki. At which
point, the abusive man burst into tears and confessed that his wife had recently
passed on, and he was so distraught that all he could do was to get drunk every day
to numb the pain he felt. The older man tried as best as he could to put his arm
around this large man’s shoulders, and he held him as he sobbed and sobbed.

The young Westerner received the best lesson of his life that day as he understood
that soul-based love overcomes fear-based ego adversity.

There is always more opportunity for your soul's growth in adversity than there is in
any other circumstance. Bear in mind the saying “when the going gets tough, the
tough get going!”

Look for where love can replace fear in the adversity presented to you, and your
growth spurt to become GAIN—God And I Now— is assured.

Charity

As I have mentioned in my other books, in Johannesburg, we have beggars at most

intersections and traffic lights, and there are thousands of beggars wherever you
drive in the city. With 3 000 people a day streaming into Johannesburg to look for
work from the rural areas and neighbouring countries and over 10 million people
already unemployed in South Africa, the number of beggars grows daily.

I usually support certain beggars whose “territories” are the traffic lights along my
route to and from work. I have got to know their names and give them fruit daily, and
usually, I give them my family's old clothes, shoes, and other items.

One beggar, John, is a man around 30 years old with half his teeth already fallen
out, but he has the biggest grin you have ever seen, and he is always upbeat as he
goes from car to car soliciting money as the drivers wait for the traffic light to change.

John is a great fist-pumper, and most people ignore him, and for those who do return
his fist pump, they do it through the closed window, safely ensconced in the closed
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I open my window to give him fruit for the day, and we do skin to skin fist pump daily,
and it puts me in a wonderful mood and no doubt John too. Today, I saw a new
woman with a cardboard sign standing higher up the road, and I asked John what
the sign said. He told me her child was very sick, and she needed medicine urgently.
When my car drew up to her, I gave her some money. John chased my car up the
road and made a prayer sign with his hands to thank me for helping her.

Why am I telling you this story? I am starting to believe that John is an Angel in
human form. For someone who only has the ragged clothes on his back to call his
own. Additionally, he now has my son’s old shoes. He proudly shows them to me
each day in gratitude for having shoes on his previously bare feet. John maintains
the happiest face I encounter from anyone all day; he is a god incarnate.

Perhaps John’s message is to the rest of us to be very grateful for all we have and to
be a lot happier than we are. He has nothing materialistically and is the happiest
person I see all day long. If that isn’t an Angel in human form, then I don’t know what
is?

Thank you, God, for putting John in my life to remind me to be much happier than I
am with all that You have blessed me with.

John is the living proof of GAIN— God And I Now— as his infectious grin, happy
demeanour, and skin to skin fist pump brighten my day every morning on the way to
work. I somehow know I am fist pumping an Angel.

I now believe that John is giving me charity and upliftment rather than the other way
around!

Dignity

Because you are part of GAIN—God And I Now— you are born with dignity within
you.

Dignity can never be taken from you; you have to surrender it. Many people do so for
expediency reasons, usually for a short term gain and an unseen long term loss.
The dignity I speak of is not an ego-based feeling of superiority but a soul/love based
feeling of maintaining your self-respect through your thoughts, words, and behaviour
by operating in a Godlike manner towards yourself and others.

Dignity is a moral compass that shows you the way, no matter how dark it is where
you are currently. By acting in a Godlike manner always, and in all ways, your moral
compass will guide you correctly.

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The Purpose and Meaning of your
Life in terms of Your Soul Contracts

This book was written in 2019

Background

Throughout my spiritual development and evolvement moving from ego towards

soul-based living, I have been guided by Unseen Friends. I have had numerous
channelings with Channels, whom I trust, and my own ability to connect to my
Guides, Guardian Angel, and other Unseen Friends in Spirit.

The concept of Soul Contracts has been “spoken” about and some of my own Soul
Contracts identified for me. When my then-wife and I had a “reading” with a Channel
who was also our Spiritual Teacher about 20 years ago, we were “told” that we had a
most difficult and intricate Soul Contract. If we could survive it, we would thrive
spiritually. Through this process, I moved from an egoic person to one of soul-based
Love. Among other things, these 26 spiritual books in this Treasury of Spiritual
Knowledge and Wisdom are the beneficial result of this difficult and intricate Soul
Contract. My ex-wife and I went “through the emotional ringer.” Today we are the
best of friends, and our sons have seen the transformational power of Love within
our family.

In the silence and meditation, I practice I have been “shown” the hidden hand of soul
contracts with my Soul Mates throughout my life. For example, the untimely passing
on of my identical twin brother some thirty years ago was, partially, to enable his
Soul, and our joint Higher Self/Soul, to guide me in this transformation from an egoic
person to a soul-based person in this lifetime. Not a day passes when I don’t think
about him and often “feel” his presence. He is often in my dreams, and I recall most
of these dreams, even years after they occurred.

Today, I look at most issues through the eyes of a Soul Contract in play. By elevating
my vibrational energy, the horizon becomes wider, and for me, Soul Contracts
become clearer.

Of course, I cannot prove that Soul Contracts exist on the earth plane of existence,
but then I cannot prove to you that God exists. We are dealing with a belief system in
both instances.

Please have an open mind and see if this book resonates with your Soul. Feelings
are the language of our souls. If it does, you should be able to identify certain of your

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Soul Contracts through the six measures I illustrate below. Being aware of them as
Soul Contracts being played out by you and your Soul Mates from your Soul Group
or Soul Family, your perception and perspective will change. Your life will have more
purpose and meaning for you. Hopefully, more peace, Love, happiness, joy, and
bliss will then be experienced by you through understanding the “Bigger Picture” of
your life this time around on the earth plane of existence.

Introduction

I welcome you to this free book- The Purpose and Meaning of your Life in terms of
Your Soul Contracts.

During the past six months, as I have been writing this book, mainly over weekends,
my life has been in emotional highs and lows, both at home and at work. I was
unearthing and confronting issues, long dormant, and, at times, I felt like a laboratory
rat! Researching and writing this book unearthed these long-dormant issues, many
of which needed to be brought into the Love and Light of Spirit ultimately for my
awareness, growth, evolvement, and healing. Through this process, I identified
certain soul contracts that have given my life more purpose and meaning.

As stated throughout this book, I write these books for my own education and
learning, to leave a legacy for my sons, and for you, the Internet Reader, who has
found themselves at the doorway of this free book.

There is a limited amount of printed matter that I could research on this topic, and
this challenged me to produce something, hopefully, of both purpose and meaning
for you, the Reader.

Most people are unaware, or, if aware, are skeptical about the unproven concept of
soul contracts made in Spirit between Soul Mates within a Soul Group. I relished the
challenge of providing information, knowledge, and, hopefully, some wisdom about
unearthing one’s soul contracts and the purpose and meaning that they have for our
lives now.

I was not alone in this endeavour. I had Channels’ assistance, my own channeling,
my Unseen Spiritual Friends, my Sout, my Higher Self and, my Higher Power
working in harmony, peace, and Love co-creating my life and this book with me.

Archetypes are a major focus of this book. There are 100 archetypes identified and
commented upon to assist in understanding your soul contracts.

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All I can hope for is that you approach this topic with an open mind, look at the
information provided, and then decide if it qualifies as knowledge, and maybe even
wisdom for you. If you decide to accept the challenge of using this book to assist you
in unearthing the purpose and meaning of your life in terms of your soul contracts,
that’s all I can ask for. It certainly worked for me, and I hope and trust it will work for
you too.

Contents

Introduction
The search for purpose and meaning of your life
Going within to find the purpose and meaning of your life
My viewpoint about truth
What is your soul?
What is a soul contract?
Identifying the holes in your soul that need repairing
Rigorous, authentic self- examination
Soul contract markers
An interesting thought before we begin in earnest
If I show you mine, will you show me yours?
Conclusion- judgement is unnecessary and invariably incorrect
Now show me yours!
Research limitations

Part 1
The six soul contract markers:
Repetitive patterns in your life
Fears in your life
Blockages
Challenges
Hardships
Repetitive patterns that occur in your life

Part 2
Mirrors to yourself
Six soul contract markers- conclusion
The purpose and meaning of discovering your soul contracts
Now let’s look at your family, friends, and work colleagues
Behaviour modifications once you have identified a soul contract

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Archetypes to help you discover who you are, and possible soul contracts
Archetypes and your soul contracts
Application processes using the six soul contract markers for your archetypes
Resisting and Allowing

Six soul contract markers revisited for each applicable archetype:

100 Archetypes
1. Abundance
2. Addict
3. Adrenaline Junkie
4. Advocates
5. Alchemist
6. Analyser
7. Artist
8. Athlete
9. Avenger
10. Beggar
11. Bully
12. Casanova
13. Catalyst
14. Celibacy
15. Child
16. Comedian
17. Companion
18. Controller
19. Corruptor
20. Creator
21. Damsel in Distress
22. Destroyer
23. Detective
24. Devil
25. Experiencer
26. Fallibility
27. Father
28. Femme Fatale
29. Followers
30. Gambler
31. God
32. Goddess

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33. Gossiper
34. Guides
35. Harmony
36. Healer
37. Hero/Heroine
38. Humanitarian
39. Intelligence
40. Jester
41. Judge
42. King
43. Knight
44. Leader
45. Liberator
46. Loners
47. Loser
48. Lover
49. Magician
50. Manipulator
51. Martyr
52. Meditator
53. Mentor
54. Messiah
55. Midas
56. Mother
57. Networker
58. Orphan
59. Parent
60. Passivity
61. Patience
62. Pawn
63. Peacemaker
64. Performer
65. Persecutor
66. Persecuted
67. Pioneer
68. Pirate
69. Poverty
70. Prince and Princess
71. Prisoner

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72. Prostitute
73. Queen
74. Rebel and Revolutionary
75. Rejection
76. Rescuer
77. Responsibility
78. Saboteur
79. Scribe
80. Seeker
81. Sensitivity
82. Servants
83. Silver Spoon
84. Slave
85. Spirituality
86. Storyteller
87. Student
88. Survival
89. Teacher
90. Temperance
91. Thief
92. Tolerance
93. Trickster
94. Victim
95. Victimiser
96. Visionary
97. Warrior
98. Winner
99. Wisdom
100. Wounded
Conclusions

I have selected three topics to give you an indication of this book:

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Going within to find the purpose and meaning of your life

“The only journey is the one within” -Rainer Maria Rilke

When you enter this Now moment, your search for the purpose and meaning of your
life no longer becomes an ego-based outward search but becomes a love-based
soul approach to begin the search within.

The search within is where your soul, which is a part of God, resides. Your soul is a
splinter part of your Higher Self, or your Spiritual Energy, which resides in Spirit. It is
part of the Oneness some people call God, Jesus, Father, Allah, Brahama, Yazad,
Akai Murat, Adonai, Jehova, Shiva, Buddha, etc.

When you awaken, you become conscious that you are not an egoic body and a
mind. You are an eternal soul who is now having an experience in a chosen body
and mind. We live countless lives on the earth plane of existence and other planes of
existence. We mainly live in Spirit, and who We really are is a Vibrational Spiritual
Energy, reflected at present as our eternal Soul within a body, now known as you, on
the earth plane of existence.

In the search for purpose and meaning of your life, the starting point should always
be who You really are. The You, being your Higher Self/Spiritual Energy, which is
part of Oneness/God/Universe/Infinite Intelligence, and other labels we may prefer to
use. Your soul is only a splinter part of that Higher Self /Spiritual Energy, and your
soul resides within your current body and mind. This body and mind are who you
are. The You is your authentic Self, and the gap between You and you is the
authentic gap that needs closing while you are on the earth plane of existence.

I have highlighted the six soul markers below to identify this authentic gap that you
are being called upon to resolve this time around. Closing this authentic gap from
you to You, for you to be more Godlike in your thoughts, words, and actions, is the
purpose and meaning of your life, in terms of your soul contracts.

The purpose and meaning of discovering your soul contracts

OK, so let’s say you go through these six probings to discover what your soul
contracts are, or at least one or a few more of these contracts that you can identify,
then what?

Identifying them is excellent, but having a ticket to ride a bus and actually boarding
the bus to take you on the ride you have paid for is another matter. Are you prepared

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to tackle these identifiable soul contract issues? Let’s not kid ourselves; this is tough
work, but the harder it is, the higher the compensating reward for attaining your
eternal soul's growth towards whatever being Godlike represents for you.

What and who you become through these resolutive processes will determine your
current life's purpose and meaning. Your destiny will find you if you are prepared to
roll up your sleeves and attend to the work required to resolve the identifying issues
of the holes in your soul, in terms of soul contracts, found via:
your fears;
your blockages;
your challenges;
your hardships;
your repetitive patterns and the
mirrors in your life.
Of course, you have free will, and you don’t have to do anything and merely keep
doing whatever you want to do in this life. I am offering you the opportunity to
discover the purpose and meaning of your life in terms of your soul contracts, based
on my understanding of soul contracts. It’s your choice to follow through or to do
nothing. After all, I don’t know you, and whatever you choose won’t affect me one
way or the other.

However, I feel responsible enough to alert you to this opportunity and leave it up to
you to decide whether to board the self-discovery bus and identify your soul
contracts.

If you choose to do so, your soul contracts’ destiny is beckoning in terms of finding
the purpose and meaning of your life via resolving the identified holes in your soul.
Good luck with whatever choice you make!

Six Soul Contract Markers revisited for each applicable Archetype

Now by using the six soul contract markers explained earlier on in this book, the
areas of resistance comprising your ego-based well-hidden emotions will be
highlighted.

After that, the process of allowing the flow of these negative emotions to be
released, and healing to begin, can be implemented. These ‘allowing’ and ‘healing

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the holes in your soul’ processes is what will give you the purpose and meaning of
your life in terms of your soul contracts.

For each applicable archetype that resonates with you of the 100 archetypes listed
below, please identify:
1. The repetitive patterns that occur
2. Fears you have
3. Blockages you can’t get past
4. Challenges that occur, especially
5. Hardships that you experience
6. Mirrors of people who trigger strong negative emotions in you

To assist you and remind you to use these six soul contract markers for each
relevant archetype of yours, I have done so, for illustrative purposes, for both Addict
and Gambler archetypes below.

(As this summary has already overrun to be nine pages, please refer to this book on
personalempowerment.co for these illustrative examples)

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Knowing and Finding God
within You
Written in 2020

Background

Having written GAIN- God And I Now, and The Purpose and Meaning of Your Life in
terms of your Soul Contracts in recent months, I was led to research and write this
book- Knowing and Finding God within You. At the time, it seemed as if this was the
icing on the cake in terms of this understanding. Little did I know that it was a prelude
to writing about vibrational energy, Oneness, and Love and Light in books, as yet,
not on my horizon.

Introduction

I have long been an adherent of various Channelled Entities. They often speak about
themselves as being God and of us all being God. They also state that God is within
us all.

Many of us have grown up believing that the Higher Power we pray to is somewhere
“up there,” implying in heaven. So, attempting to understand how this Higher Power
could be both in heaven and within each of us simultaneously caused me to
research and write this book for the answers and solutions to this quandary.

I have researched the works of various authors who channel certain Unseen Entities
and am especially grateful to Rasha for her book, Oneness; Neale Donald Walsch
for Conversations With God – Book 1, and Abraham-Hicks.com for the words of
Abraham. I sincerely hope that you enjoy and benefit from reading this book. May
you be able to find and know God within you.

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Contents
Prologue
Introduction
In the beginning
Not only your thoughts create your reality
Your only disability is your attitude
Responsibility-the ability to respond
Reframing our life’s choices
Replace the need to control with Trust
Deep breathing brings you to Oneness
The manifestations you require are waiting for you in Spirit
The omnipotent power of choice
Moving from negative to a positive choice
Trusting the process to unfold as it should
Facing the tough stuff to rid yourself of negativity
Understanding true forgiveness
Desire and intent in creating a manifestation
Allowance through Trust
Finding joy and bliss simultaneously
Judgement damages you more than the person you are judging
Replace the need to control with open-handed Unconditional Love
Courage to take the next step
Become the Watcher of your life
The struggle ends when gratitude begins
Identify Energy Chargers and Energy Drainers in your life
Heightening your sensuality
Vibrational healing- unknowns require belief and trust
Timing your creative manifestations
Allowing and patience
The solutions are within you
Detachment from ego-based dramas of your life
Opening your spiritual eyes
A mind-boggling process is about to unfold for you
Winning through a Love-based abundant mentality
How to achieve ease and joy in your tasks
Manifestation creation techniques
Seeing adversarial relationships in a new light Love has many faces
Synchronicity
The strengthened willpower to turn the other cheek

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Vulnerability is an excellent source of strength
Unlimited creation
Dealing with disharmonious issues in your life
We are God, and God is us
You choose to experience everything that happens to you
Being alone and All One
Maintaining your heightening spiritual growth path
You will know both extremes on your road to spiritual growth
Your journey is unique
Becoming Oneness while still in your body
A full experience requires total commitment
Putting spirituality into practice
Miracles become commonplace
The winding upward climb to Oneness
Your way within is the correct way for you
The Chosen People are the ones that choose
All truths are valid
Spiritual healing processes
Want to experience your passing into Spirit?
How is this choice going to make me feel?
Focus and know joy and bliss
The creative process via Being-Having-Doing
Creating a frictionless journey to Oneness
Welcome the contrasts of opposites in your life
Contrasts evolve to create Oneness within
Identifying mirrors
Assisting others on the road to Oneness
Giving and receiving through Oneness
Where do you really live?
You have the solution within you
Understanding vibrational energy fluctuations
Living a more spiritual life
Moving to know One
Conflict resolution through soul-based Love efforts
Conflict resolution through the process of Unconditional Love
Dealing with multi-faceted parts of you
Continuing the cleansing process of ridding you of ego
What a waste of energy choosing your ego-based self
Communicating with God within you

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Synchronicity about God within you
Confirmations of God within you
Moving from harmony to Oneness
Conclusion

I have selected two topics to give you an indication of the knowledge and wisdom of
this book:

Become the Watcher of your life

The next step along the road to Oneness is beginning to see yourself as the Watcher
in your life. Usually, we see ourselves as being the cork on the wave bobbing up and
down with every trial and tribulation and occasional highlight in our life. Becoming the
Watcher enables us to see our life from a better perspective.

The Watcher is egoless and is attuned to the higher vibrational frequencies referred
to as being in alignment and harmony with your Higher Self/Soul and your Higher
Power.

As the Watcher, you don’t react or even respond to these continually changing
circumstances you call your life. You simply Be and TRUST the process to unfold as
it should. You are the epitome of surrender, allowance, and TRUST. You are here
Now with your open hands faced upwards to receive and to give all the abundance
you experience at these elevated levels of vibrational harmony. Inner trust, inner
knowingness, and inner feelings guide you now as you learn to be content with all
that comes through you from your Higher Self/Soul and your Higher Power. You
become the pipe that carries the life-giving water to all.

You don’t need acknowledgement or recognition for your role, as these are ego-
based needs. You are Love-based and are grateful for having the opportunity to help
others in this way. You are co-creating your life with God, who is within you. Your life
may still exhibit the emotional ups and downs as you experienced before, but your
ego-based needs are much diminished, and your Love-based soul will attend to
these issues.

In the past, your reactions and responses to these issues would have created ego-
based drama, but you are now in harmony and in alignment with Higher Beings, and
you know that nothing truly matters, except Love and Light. When others challenge
you to pick up the rope and have a tug- of -war with them about one or more ego-
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your old self would have picked up the challenge and wasted all that energy
entertaining their ego needs and yours. In the past, your feelings of fear, or the need
to be right, and maybe even feeling guilt, would have seen you rise to the ego-based
challenge of another. Don’t blame yourself; this was the conditioned patterning of
your mind for most of your life unto now. But now you know to go to God within you,
your Love-based soul, to look for solutions and not to rise to the bait of an ego-based
threat or challenge.

You can now look past the Challenger’s ego and relate to their soul. Expect that their
ego has hardened their soul's protective surroundings with the macho stuff seen
where brawn is valued above the brain. It’s only a facade as they would dearly love
to know and experience Love, but their separateness from their Love-based Higher
Beings is entrenched, and their ego is in total control of them now. It’s worth an
attempt to appeal to their Love based soul, but don’t expect acceptance as their ego
is seen incorrectly as their strength and power.

You know and have experienced that real POWER is Present Only When Ego (is)
Removed. However, we all have individual journeys towards Oneness and God
within us. Your ego-based Challengers haven’t found the entry gate to this road, as
yet. Your life is already one of Oneness and not one of ego-based separation from
your Higher Self/Soul and your Higher Power. You are not threatened by the
uncertainty of the unknown in front of you. You are allowing, surrendering, and
trusting that your destiny is being created for you via your Love-based soul with your
Higher Self/Soul and Higher Power.

As the Watcher in your life, your road to Oneness, or the God within you, will now
follow the path of least resistance as you have cleared the ego-based obstacles out
of the way.

The solutions are within you

I am always conscious that writing books such as these may not always be in the
reader's best interest. There is a delicate balance between identifying an issue and
providing a solution. Allowing and enabling someone to find their solution through
their experience is preferable for their soul’s growth. It’s a high wire trapeze act
without a safety net!

We are each responsible for our journey on the road to Oneness and finding God
within us. We find our potholes to stumble into and to get out of. We also find out
what works for us and what doesn’t in progressing along this infinite journey.

Ideally, I should be asking questions rather than giving answers and solutions from
where I am standing, which may not be where you are standing now. I should be
asking pointed questions to enable and allow you to find the answers within you.
After all, we all have the same God within us. Our answers are found within us.

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This would, of course, be the way I would approach it if you were sitting with me, and
we were exploring your journey on the road to Oneness and finding God within you. I
would be able to hear what you are saying, and through your body language and my
intuition, I could also infer what you are not saying and maybe hiding away from
discussing too. So, walking the high wire, conscious that what I am writing may be
what you need to know, or maybe near what you need to know, is as close as I can
get.

If we were sitting together now, the ten questions I would ask you about the ‘drama’
of your life at this moment are:
1.Are you coming from ego in this drama with yourself, or with another?
2.If so, what emotional wounds are your ego protecting?
3. Can we explore the root causes of the emotional wounds?
4. Now that you have seen that the way you are reacting in this drama is not about
this other person or people at all. Your reaction is aimed at ………… (the Initiator
triggering this reaction in you that you are now overreacting too. It may be from your
childhood or later on in your life.)
5. This person or people involved in the drama with you are merely triggers, not the
Initiator. They deserve to be explained to by you, if not apologized when you are
ready to do so.
6. Is this current relationship of value to you? Is it more critical for you to be right in
this drama and be happy to have this relationship damaged? Or is the relationship
more important to keep in harmony than you being proved right in this drama? If you
can’t resolve the issue creating the drama, can you then agree to disagree and leave
it like that?
7. What would happen in this drama if you came from a Love/soul-based manner
and approached the other person, or people, from a position of Love, kindness,
compassion, and understanding? If you said to them, let’s put aside our ego’s here
and find a way to understand each person’s viewpoint better. Let’s make our Loved
based souls’ talk instead of our fear-based ego’s.
8. Could you say to them, “let’s let the Power of Love replace our need for the ego-
based Love of Power of being proved right in this drama”?
9. What solutions could you find if you decided to pray for the other person's well-
being and then waited patiently for God within you, though your intuition, to provide a
solution for you in this drama?
10. Are you prepared to allow and surrender your ego now and let your soul shine
through?

Hopefully, by asking these questions and applying the solutions, you would learn
through your own experience of resolving this drama. This is far more powerful for
your soul’s growth than if I merely told you the solution.

Now you are on the soul-based Love journey towards Oneness and finding God
within you

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Reducing Your Worry and
Anxiety
I wrote this book during the second quarter of 2020 in response to the worry and
anxiety that the COVID-19 Global Virus Pandemic and a lockdown was causing.

Background

Uncertainty and fear gripped the world from late January 2020 when the COVID-19
Virus, which was supposedly detected in Wuhan, China, in late 2019, started to
spread throughout the world.

For the first time in recorded history, virtually all countries went into a quarantined
lockdown where healthy people were forced to stay at home, and the economies
slowed down significantly, causing major unemployment and business failures,
liquidations, and personal financial failures. When I was writing this book in the
second quarter of 2020, for economies globally, I saw drops of up to 50% in GDP for
that quarter compared to the quarter twelve months prior.

I am writing this in early December 2020, and certain Northern Hemisphere countries
are once again in lockdown as the COVID-19 Virus has rampantly re-emerged
during their current winter months. The USA has seen over 15 million infection
cases, with 284 000 resulting deaths as of early December 2020. This number of
deaths is approaching US soldiers' total fatalities in World War II from 1942-45.

A vaccine has now been created and is about to be rolled out. However, it
customarily takes between 5-10 years to complete research and development,
thorough clinical trials, and testing for a vaccine. These vaccines have been fast-
tracked in a few months. Urgency by politicians to create a vaccine and reduce the
political heat they face and the desire for potential profits by drug companies may
prove to be a dangerous combination if these vaccines have side effects or
complications due to insufficient procedural trials and tests. I sincerely hope I am
incorrect in my assumptions, and I hope and pray the vaccine is effective and not
harmful to its recipients.

Many people globally have been in lockdown for many long months. Students of all
ages have been housebound, and lessons are being taught digitally. Many parents
and other adults are working from home through digital means. The terms “The New
Normal” and “The Next Normal” have been coined to explain the surreal environment
in which we all find ourselves. Digital interface instead of a person -to -person
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The mental health issues, as well as physical health issues, are mounting. Mental
and physical abuse occurs in homes, and gender violence, mainly men against
women, is increasing dramatically and is very concerning. The abuse of alcohol and
other narcotics are direct side effects of the helplessness people are feeling. The
financial plight of people is becoming acute. Marriage and relationship breakups and
suicides are rising globally.

Coming from a soul-based Love approach, I am doing a few things specifically to

serve my family and friends, as well as people visiting my spiritual websites. Daily, I
share humorous jokes, and uplifting messages, via WhatsApp’s with family and
friends locally and globally. I continue to send out an uplifting Thought of the Day to
my email database. I have written this book to assist people in reducing their anxiety
and worry.

Introduction

This free book has been created to help people in the earlier stages of worry and
anxiety before succumbing to depression and any consequences resulting from such
depression.

This book has been written in three parts:

The first part: - transforming your worry and anxiety away from fear and towards
acceptance - adopting a positive mindset and a positive can-do approach to resolve
underlying problems creating your worry and anxiety.

The second part: - 45 techniques to assist in reducing your worry and anxiety

The third part: - 32 ways to create an attitude of increasing gain and affluence in your
life.

This is not a medical book and is not meant to replace any medical or mental health-
related practices.

As you will see from the statistics below, the current medical-related treatments need
some help to combat mental health issues, rapidly becoming the most significant ill-
health and disability in the world. These statistics are pre-COVID-19, which will
undoubtedly worsen these statistics and projections in the future.

One out of four people worldwide is likely to be affected by mental or neurological

disorders in their lives, according to the World Health Organisation (WHO). In 2019,

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WHO stated that currently, some 450 million people worldwide suffer from mental
disorder conditions.

In the USA, some 20% of the population have been diagnosed with some form of
mental health disorder. According to NBC News, in 2016, 12% of Americans took
antidepressant pills, 8.3% took anti-anxiety pills, and 1.6% took antipsychotic
medication. That is some 42 million adults who have been diagnosed with mental
health symptoms and have been prescribed medication. They live in the wealthiest
country in the world.

In the United Kingdom, the statistics are similar according to mind.org.uk, with 17%
of people living in private homes, excluding any hospital facilities, stating they suffer
from anxiety and depression.

The bottom line is that you are not alone if you are suffering from anxiety and or
depression. This book will help you reduce your worry and anxiety issues and turn
these "lemons into lemonades" for you.

Contents

Glossary
Introduction
Part 1- Transformation, Acceptance, Positivity, and Pro-activity
Focus your Energy
Who is worrying?
What is worry?
Step 1- Identifying the issues worrying you
Step 2- Assess the realistic likelihood involved
Step 3- Prayer and meditation
Step 4- Action programme and action plan
Step 5- Taking all possible preventative action
Step 6- Acceptance of the outcome
Step 7- Further action programme and plan
Step 8- Acceptance of inevitable outcome
Step 9- Dealing with fallout
Step 10- Learning to move on after fallout

Part 2- 45 Techniques to reduce your worry and anxiety

Now
Accept the worst outcome
Energy

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Fact or confusion
Identifying the root causes of the issue at hand
Action reduces and replaces worry and anxiety
Intolerance will wear you down
Time to be realistic and arm ourselves with the facts
Accept “what is” when it is inevitable
Always use a safety net
The past is history
The future is uncertain
Determination
Your only disability is your attitude
Watching your thoughts
Positive thinking only works with positive action

A daily 10-step programme for reducing worry and anxiety

Step 1- Joyful
Step 2- Acceptance
Step 3- Exercise
Step 4- Use your mind
Step 5- Act of random kindness
Step 6- Non-conflictual
Step 7- Focus on only one issue
Step 8- Creating a calendar
Step 9- Feel brave and courageous
Step 10- Sitting quietly

Resentment- the worry and anxiety builder

Give without expecting gratitude
Your real personal balance sheet
You are unique
Try to socialise, even if you don’t want to
Get your mind off yourself and onto helping others
Criticism- the good, the bad, and the ugly
Proper time management
The unknown- the real cause of worry and anxiety
Managing the unknown confidently by shaping your future
What happened to your previous worry, anxiety, and panic
A spiritual approach to managing the unknown future
Stilling your thoughts through correct breathing

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Renounce the next moment
Non-resistance to what is- acceptance and surrender
Align yourself to the Tripartite Alliance
Embrace the moment as it unfolds in Love
How can you fear the future when no-one knows what it will be?

Part 3 - 32 Ways to create an attitude of gain and affluence

Affluence and abundance
Impermanence
Be the best you can be
Freedom of thoughts, words, and action
Purpose and meaning of your life
Congratulate everyone
Being replanted
Gratitude
Generosity
Goals
No-mind
Intention
Humility
Happiness
No judgement
Money
Positivity
Humour
Acceptance of contrasts
Power is in the present moment
Your life’s purpose and end objective
Seek to understand and not judge
Receiving is as vital as giving
Transcendence
Timelessness
Integrity
Networks
Charity
Unity behind all diversity
A person of values
Wealth conscious
Energy is all we are

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And so we come to the end
Conclusion

I have selected three topics that follow sequentially to give you an indication of this
book:

The unknown- the real cause of worry and anxiety

We worry about the past when we regret what may have occurred and how it may
affect us in the unknown future. Guilt is often an emotional feeling in this instance.
Most worry and anxiety are based on the unknown future. We currently feel a lack of
resources to handle it or the inability to do something about what may need to be
done in the unknown future. The lack of resources and or potential loss we may face
paralyses us from taking the necessary action to avoid the looming issue. Worry and
anxiety replace determination and action. We become the immobile deer trapped in
the headlights of the oncoming vehicle.

No one knows what the future may bring. It is unknown. However, in the causal
world we live in, the future may be predicted; to some degree of accuracy. This is
based on our past or current attitudes, thoughts, words, and actions, or those by
another affecting us. The cause of what has occurred, or is currently occurring,
creating the effect in the future. The world, as we know, is causal and yet random
too. We perceive the world a certain way through our five senses, but we are the
blind leading the blind and not knowing the other Unseen Forces at play, which also
create our world and its future.

Let us use the simple example of a hypnotist at a public show connecting with the
participants' subconscious mind. Under hypnosis, a strong bear of a man will be told
that a simple plastic chair is bolted to the stage, and he is unable to lift it. Try as he
might, that chair will not budge one inch. Such is the subconscious mind's power,
and our usual prompts of logic and emotion hold no sway here.

The guiding of a homing pigeon or a bird revisiting the same nest every summer
season, half a world away, is impressive considering the pea-like size of their brain.
Of course, there are the Unseen Forces of the Spiritual World, the proven power of
prayer and meditation. There is so much that is inexplicable in our life. We simply do
not know what we do not know. The healing modalities of a spiritual nature are well
documented, and those who have experienced these so-called miracles are often
astounded by their non-invasive procedures that cure so-called incurable maladies.

We have alternatives when facing an unknown future. We can embrace the unknown
with belief and faith that a loving God will never give us anything we cannot handle.

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We can also believe that what we are asked to handle is for our eternal soul's
ultimate highest growth. We can have a hope-based self-belief that an unknown
future is brimful of opportunities. That same belief process may extend to having the
self-confidence that any threats occurring can be handled and overcome.

Alternatively, we can fear the unknown future, be worried, anxious, and stressed as
fear grips us so tightly that we can hardly breathe. We can let our fear-based
imagination loose and create thoughts of the worst possible outcomes for us and
others we care about.

The last two paragraphs are arguably the most important words you will read in this
book designed to end your worry and anxiety. The alternative you choose to believe
and implement is what will create your reality of the unknown future.

I believe we should embrace the unknown as we would embrace a friend. We should

not fear what is unknown but know that whatever it brings to us, we must simply Be
Here Now in the moment and Trust- To Release Unto Spirit Totally, and then To
Rely Upon Spirit Totally. Whatever happens to us is an opportunity to Be Love Now
and allow and enable our eternal soul's highest growth. This is a spiritual approach
to welcoming and embracing the unknown as a loving friend.

For those with immense self-belief and who see the unknown as brimful with
opportunities, having the proven self-confidence to handle whatever opportunities or
threats are presented, these are the winners in life. These people usually become
successful entrepreneurs, leading employers and managers, leading professional
people, leading sportspeople, and other leaders in their chosen fields of endeavour.

In my view, this understanding and self-belief inculcated into children from a young
age and sustained throughout their childhood, allowing them to attempt challenges,
and fail, and fail again, until they overcome and succeed is the best education for a
child. Not being afraid to try and challenge obstacles in their pathway through life
builds a self-belief reservoir and self-esteem.

With these positive emotional and spiritual stances above, we can now embrace the
unknown and not have to worry, be anxious, and stressed about the unknown any
longer.

For those interested, my free book found on personalempowerment.co, Unfolding

Your Child, a spiritual approach to parenting, is based on these principles.

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Managing the unknown confidently by shaping your future

Carrying on from the previous topic, I would like to guide you down a path to learn
how to manage the unknown future confidently. What is the unknown, but the next
moment magnified by our imagination exponentially for as far as we want to guess
into the future?

I enjoyed a movie called Next starring Nicholas Cage, where he “knew” what would
happen in the next few seconds. He could avoid “accidents” and place himself in
advantageous positions by knowing what was about to unfold in the next few
seconds.

Not one of us definitively knows what will happen; next, that is why it is called the
unknown. So, we develop our skills to anticipate what is likely to happen in the next
few seconds, the next minute, next hour, next 12 hours, tomorrow, next week, next
month, next year, and so on.

I have made a living for over 40 years, among other things, doing research and
forecasting based on known and unknown causal events and their likely outcomes in
the economic and real estate cycles so that I, and the people in business with me,
can benefit from these predictions.

I have pioneered various new market trends and can tell you that the lesson I
learned in Strategy as a part-time student at University over 45 years ago is real.

Referring to the expansion into the Western USA by the pioneering folk and
cowboys, the lesson was that “the pioneers get shot by the (Red) Indians.” But I love
the challenge of pioneering into the future and, with it, the shaping of that future too!
As a pioneer, it is all about personally empowering people, whether through my free
books like this one or my various business ventures over the years. I want to help
people unleash the power within them to be the best that they can be. Hopefully,
after that, they can help other people, as I hope I am helping you right now. I do not
mean to be immodest by giving you some of my journey, but I want to show you that
you can embrace the unknown future- by shaping it.

We are fortunate in the world to have had some fantastic pioneering entrepreneurs,
inventors, and the like in the past and currently. They all have one thing in common-
their desire to shape their future the way they envisaged it to be. If you decide to
embrace the future as a loving friend, and not be scared of it, you will be surprised to
find that your attitude and thoughts create your reality, as I have spelled out in
numerous books, as have most spiritual writers through the ages.

My free book found on personalempowerment.co, Achieving Your Goals and

Dreams, will provide you with the framework to create and shape your future. You

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will then stand with your head held high and scream into the headwind- “BRING IT
ON!”

What happened to your previous panic and anxiety?

Whatever you panicked about in your past is undoubtedly over, and the situation has
been resolved. The need to panic, or react to panic, can now be seen as both
harmful and wasteful energy. What you need to learn is how to identify what shock
news created a panic in your mind? What was the catalyst that created the
overwhelming feeling of lack, or potential loss, which consumed you? What made
you be enveloped in total despair?

The first few minutes, while that shock sent the adrenal and cortisol fight or flight
response surging through your body, your heart rate rose sharply, and perspiration
flooded your pores. Your emotions were under attack, and you responded in a primal
way when fear of lack, or potential loss, stared you in the face. It takes a lot of
practice to learn how to remain calm and unruffled in those times of emotional shock
and to be able to see things clearly without fear coursing through your brain and
body. Suppose you are one of the few people who thrive in such emotional pressure-
cooker situations, then you are probably an “adrenaline junkie” and working in an
emergency function, but even then, how do you handle such situations in your
personal life?

Your emotional makeup has probably been altered to be a much lower emotional
reactor for those given to a meditative life. Most likely, you are a responder rather
than a reactor. You know to breathe deeply and rhythmically, physically, and
emotionally, when an onset of an unexpected shock assails you.

Problem-solving is a learned skill usually borne out of necessity to survive and, after
that, thrive. The more experience and success you have with problem-solving, the
larger your armoury will handle more complicated problems and further develop
those skills. Well-founded confidence resulting from developing abilities and skills in
overcoming issues that presented challenges to you in the past is like a muscle that
needs exercise for it to grow.

Solving problems ensuring mutual understanding, respect, and empathy for all
parties concerned, in a responsive and non-reactive manner is how to manage
unexpected events and reduce shock and panic to become a non -event in your life.
When the initial shock created emotional overload and panic, logic disappeared from
your thought processes, and only raw emotions were evident. The ability to breathe
deeply usually deserts one at these times. Instinctively, your breathing becomes fast
and shallow, adding to the emotional panic you feel. It’s the ability to breathe deeply
and slowly and enable logic to fashion your thinking, which will enable you to avoid
the panic response.

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The starting point is a simple acceptance of what is occurring now. Whatever the
shock is, it is threatening you because of a perceived lack of resources to handle the
possible outcome or potential looming loss. So, let us begin by deep and slow
breathing for a few minutes until you feel calmer. Now, what decisive action can you
take to deal with this unexpected issue? Once you have taken that action, is there
anything else you can do now or in the foreseeable future to resolve this issue?

If so, do it now, or plan to do it when the correct time is right.

If the answer is no, then begin by accepting the inevitability of the potential impact
and likely loss in your life. Unless it is life-threatening to you, it will eventually be
resolved one way or another. You may not like how it is resolved, and you may be
poorer for it, in all respects, of becoming poorer, not only financially. I would like you
to consider the possibility that whatever you are about to lose may be necessary to
happen. Maybe, something must be moved out of the way to enable something
better suited for you to come into the vacuum left by that you lose. You might be
surprised to see that what emerges is, in fact, a preferable issue to that which
occurred before the shock worked its way through the system to resolve itself.

I will let you into a secret. In spiritual terms, you called this shock to occur to fix what
I have termed the “holes in your soul” in a few of my other free books found on
personalempowerment.co. You needed to fix the “hole in your soul,” impeding your
eternal soul's growth. You came back to the earth plane with a Soul Contract to do
precisely this. To face up to and amicably resolve the issue presented to you as an
emotional shock. You asked for this to occur so you could overcome it and resolve it
once and for all so that your soul could grow into higher planes in Spirit.

Once again, I refer you to my free book, The Purpose and Meaning of Your Life in
terms of Your Soul Contracts, found on personalempowerment.co. Armed with this
possibly new knowledge or explanation of you calling this issue to yourself to be
resolved by you, you can now reduce your emotional reaction and begin to apply a
more logical response to tackling the issue at hand. You asked for this challenge,
and you have the inner strength to overcome it. Believe it! Look at this issue as an
email that has landed in your inbox, and you must now deal with it like you would
other issues that need to be resolved in your inbox, hopefully, logically and
unemotionally.

I sincerely hope you read this book to reduce your worry and anxiety as it could be
life-changing and life-enhancing for you.

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Understanding and Elevating
your Vibrational Energy
This book was written in 2020

Background

A close friend and business associate asked me what I meant by saying, “all we are
is a vibration.” I tried to explain it to him, but I could see that I must have sounded
like a Sci-Fi devotee to someone not usually immersed in spirituality. By the way, I
do not enjoy Sci-Fi.

As I think better and express myself more clearly, through writing, I decided to
research and write about vibrational energy aided, as always, by my Unseen Friends
in Spirit.

I received a much better understanding of vibrational energy, elevating energy, and I

hope you do as well by reading this book.

Introduction

What is vibrational energy on earth?

Let us begin with a few definitions of vibrations and energy, which are two
interrelated terms in this context:

Albert Einstein stated, everything in life is a vibration.

According to Wikipedia, a vibration means quickly moving back and forth (or up and
down) about a point of equilibrium. The vibration may be periodic (having a pattern)
or random.

Einstein, in his famous equation of E=MC2, proved that light and matter are the
same and are all energy, thereby implying energetic vibration, as he stated that
everything is vibration.

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Another quotation from Einstein about energy deals with physics and not philosophy;
however, when this quotation is compared to the spiritual understanding of the Law
of Attraction as described by the Teachings of Abraham, a non-physical Energy,
channelled through Esther Hicks (Abraham-Hicks.com), Einstein’s physics is spiritual
philosophy.

Einstein stated, everything is energy, and that is all there is to it. Match the frequency
of the reality you want, and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be said no
other way; this is not a philosophy; this is physics.

Abraham defines the Law of Attraction as “that which is like unto itself will be drawn.”

If you are reading a spiritual book such as this one, you will be familiar with the
spiritual concept of ‘your thoughts create your reality.’

This book is not about proving that vibrations exist or proving that you are vibrational
energy as a soul. I will leave that to those with scientific hypotheses.

I have a belief and an experiential knowing that souls exist in Spirit, and certain
souls, as vibrational energy, have occasional visits to the earth plane of existence
where they inhabit physical bodies for what we know as a lifetime.

If you intend to benefit from this book and learn how to elevate your vibrational
energy to lead a more frictionless life and hopefully know more Love, peace, joy, and
bliss, then you need to accept the following:

Everyone and everything, everywhere, is energy vibrating at varying levels of

fluctuations and frequencies. Our soul is energy vibrating extremely fast in Spirit,
where it is formless. Our soul’s vibrational energy slows down substantially to
become the slower moving vibrational soul energy within a denser form of a physical
body on earth. When our heart stops beating, our soul’s vibrational energy leaves
the body, speeds up its vibrational frequency and returns to Spirit as formlessness,
and re-joins our Higher Self/Soul, which is part of Oneness with our Higher Power.

All that the soul has experienced while on earth accompanies it into Spirit. Those
experiences also become recorded in what some people call Akashic Records.

It is important to note that the vibrational soul is eternal and immortal. There is no
death of the soul, merely a change from form to formlessness. Like water becomes a
vapour or gas.

In truth, all we ever are is points of vibrational energetic Beings of Light and Love in
an infinite and eternal stream of Consciousness of Unconditional Love and Light. We

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choose to call this infinite and eternal stream of Consciousness our Higher
Power/Source Energy/God and many other names.

We are All One and far from ever being alone. You are me, and I am you, as we are
all the same infinite Unconditional Love and Light at our eternal essence. We are
Oneness. We are God.

In Genesis 4:9, when God asked Cain, “where is your brother, Abel?” “I don’t know,”
he replied, “am I my brother’s keeper?” With this question, the Lord was asking and
telling us that we are all our brothers’ keepers, as, at our eternal essence, we are all
One.

We come to the earth plane of existence as an energetic vibrational frequency as a

soul that enters a body. Over time, we forget we are a soul, and we become an ego-
based body.

This free book, and all my other 24 free books I have written so far and published on
my websites, personalempowerment.co, and guidespeak.com, are reminders of who
You really are as part of Oneness, the eternal stream of Consciousness of
Unconditional Love and Light, some call God.

You are Unconditional Love and Light always, and in all ways. Such Love and Light
is the absence of fear, as fear is ego-based, and EGO- Edging God Out- is an
illusion. Only God is real, as God is Love, and so are You at your essence. Now it is
time to live that knowledge as experiential knowing.

At your essence, you are vibrational energy which we call our Soul, and for now,
your Soul occupies a physical body known as ………………. (your name).

Contents

What is vibrational energy on earth?

Living as vibrational energy in Spirit
Living as vibrational energy on earth
Choice as a vibrational energetic Being
What isn’t a vibration?
What is the highest vibrational energy?
What is the lowest form of vibrational energy?
Am I a vibrational energetic Being?
What is reality?

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Your energy centres
Subtle Body’s energy system
Why do my vibrations shift?
How do my vibrations shift?
Maintaining and elevating my vibrational level
Harmony and balance
Disharmony and imbalance
Causality affects your vibrations
Being affects your vibrations
Doing impacts your vibrations
Faith elevates your vibrations
Trust increases your vibrations
Prayer improves your vibrations
Meditation meaningfully elevates your vibrations
Living in the Now is the only time for elevating your vibrations
Love elevates your vibrations
Joy raises your vibrations
Peace positively affects your vibrations
Inner peace is within your vibrational grasp
Breathing affects your vibrations
Conscious deep breathing is a spiritual awakening
Fear reduces your vibrations
Hope can affect your vibrations
Ego affects your vibrations
Attitude impacts your vibrations
Ego-based attitudes negatively affect vibrations
Conflict reduces your vibrations and may have eternal ramifications
Honesty and integrity, and their opposites, affect vibrations
Truth elevates your vibrations
Non- judgement elevates your vibrations
Non- resistance enables vibrational elevation
Appreciation improves your vibrations
Gratitude further propels your vibrations
Kindness increases your vibrations
Generosity raises your vibrations
Compassion and empathy upgrades your vibrations
Courage affects your vibrations
Relationships influence your vibrations
Forgiveness affects your vibrations

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Drinking and your vibrations
Tobacco smoking impacting vibrations
Food selection and preparation affect your vibrations
Exercising affects your vibrations positively
Sleep and your vibrations
Lovemaking and your vibrations
Health and your vibrational energetic frequency responses
Vibrational medicine and treatments improving your energetic balancing
Sound affects your vibrations
Listening affects your vibrations
Synchronicity may affect your vibrations
Do affirmations increase your vibrations?
Nature impacts your vibrations
Weather and its impact on your vibrations
Other examples of ways to elevate your vibrations
Some relevant quotations about elevating your vibrations
Conclusions

Here are a few topics to give you an indication of this book:

Choice as a vibrational energetic Being

In every instance of every experience, we have an omnipotent power- the power of

choice.
CHOICE- Can Help Overcome I Change Energy.

We can choose what we become as vibrational energy in a body on earth. We are

vibrational energy that can choose through our attitude, thoughts, words, and
actions.
Your choice will always be either-
(1) To Be Love Now, or to be fearful
(2) To be Soul-like/Godlike, or to be ego-based - EGO-Edging God Out

These earth-based choices will determine whether the eternal vibration that you are
is elevated or lowered in terms of Spirit's hierarchical structure. Whether you
experience more Light and Love as you move closer to the God within you now, who
is also your Higher Power in Spirit, or whether your eternal energetic vibrational
frequency experiences a dimmer Light and reduced Love in Spirit.

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Your Soul Mates in Spirit are found at the level at which you all resonate your
energetic vibrational frequencies. As postulated earlier, the earth terms, heaven, and
hell do not exist in Spirit but may be used to illustrate that bright Light and depth of
Unconditional Love which could be termed as heaven, while hell maybe the lack of
Light and lack of Unconditional Love at the base of the hierarchical pyramid I
described before.

Souls who have lived a life on earth of uplifting others in Love, kindness, generosity,
compassion, gratitude, integrity, and peace will find themselves together in Spirit.
The murderers, rapists, adulterers, and others who have committed similar free will
offences against others on earth will find themselves together in Spirit, too.

I am distinguishing contractual soul arrangements from free will actions in this

example. In terms of soul contract arrangements, the role of a murderer, rapist,
adulterer, and others, as Soul Mates, are roles agreed to be played out for the
experience and growth of the so-called victim, a Soul Mate. In these instances, the
perpetrator's role is a brave one as they are likely to face negative consequences on
earth for agreeing to play these roles. They will experience being pariahs on earth,
which could also be part of their soul contracts. However, free will choices made to
act like a murderer, rapist, adulterer, and others on earth will have eternal
consequences in Spirit. We are not born as winners or losers, but as choosers,
where free will choices are concerned. Choose wisely as an energetic vibrational
frequency human being on earth

Breathing affects your vibrations

The intake of oxygen through your in-breath, if a full in-breath is taken, enables your
brain to have a shot of oxygen to revitalise it, as well as helping to bring more
alkaline into your body. Your body’s acid levels increase with any form of worry,
anxiety, stress, and pressure, and the oxygen in-take helps rebalance your body with
more alkaline.

Most of us fail to breathe correctly, and we usually take shallower breaths in and out
of our chests rather than deep breaths into and out of our lower belly. Our solar
plexus based within our chest houses a bundle of nerves, hence the expression, ‘I
am a bundle of nerves!’ Shallow breaths stimulate these nerve endings, which are
known as the sympathetic nervous system. This nervous system triggers the flight or
fight response, which produces, among other things, the flow of acid referred to
above. So shallow breathing contributes to an unhealthy body and mind.

With correct deep breathing, we, among other things, rid the body of some 70-80%
of our body’s toxins, which are carried with the expelling of carbon monoxide of our
out-breath. Deep breathing revitalises the body’s various systems, such as the
circulatory, digestive, and nervous systems, and provides much-needed oxygen to
the trillions of cells in our body. This deep oxygen intake, which reaches the base of

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our spine, activates the parasympathetic nervous system known as the’ relaxation
response.’ This good feeling oxygen intake enables our detoxification via the out-
breath, relaxes us, and enables vital life force energy to rejuvenate our body and
mind.

Such deep-breathing elevates your energetic vibrational frequency, while shallow

breathing may reduce your energetic vibrational frequency.

I bet you just took a deep breath! I know I did!

Conscious deep breathing is a spiritual awakening

Last night I was listening, once again, to Eckhardt Tolle’s reading of his book, The
New Earth. He recounted the story of a man who asked his opinion about which
courses he should take to deepen his spiritual awareness.

He presented Eckhardt with a prospectus from a Spiritual College of what he called a

smorgasbord of spiritual courses. Eckhardt responded that they all look remarkably
interesting. He told the man that he did not want to choose for him. However, instead
of taking any of the courses for the next year, he said simply be conscious of your
breathing whenever you can, throughout each day for a year. Tolle went on further to
state that, preferably, when conscious of your breathing, take as many deep breaths
as possible.

Tolle stated that this would awaken your spiritual awareness far greater than any
courses you may choose to take. He explained that such conscious deep breathing
brings your mind into the present moment of now, and that is all you require to
awaken your spiritual awareness.

Earlier on in this book, I dealt with the topic of living in the Now as the only time you
can elevate your vibrations. Listening to Eckhardt Tolle last night reinforced this
message for me.

Non-Judgement elevates your vibrations

Making a judgement presupposes that you have all the relevant facts at your
disposal. Additionally, in making a non-prejudicial judgement, you will have to be
impartial, unbiased, and independent of your judgement’s outcome.

Most court judges have spent many years within the legal system and are usually
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subject to an appeal process to Higher Courts where a few Judges review the
disputed judgements. This process is arduous and reflects the lengths the legal
system goes to when addressing making a judgement.

When we make a judgement about someone or something, do we go to such

lengths? Usually, we lead with our ignorance of most, if not all, the facts. We usually
add our prejudices and biases, and we deliver a judgment that could be wrong and
detrimental to the person or object of our judgement.

We continually make such ego-based judgements, usually without a moment’s

hesitation and concern of its impact. Such injurious judgements can summarily
demolish reputations, which may have taken decades to build up. Conflicts may
emerge from such damaging thoughtless judgements. War and strife can flow,
immeasurable lives damaged and lost, and considerable property damage done,
flowing from such judgements.

It becomes obvious that issuing such an injudicious judgement will reduce one’s
energetic vibrational frequency significantly. If this judgmental behaviour is
consistent, then the person’s energetic vibrational frequency level will reduce to
potentially dangerously low levels, impacting both their immune system and trust
levels of their relationships.

I would like you to think of a person you may know who is so judgemental. Do people
trust them? Are people fearful of them? Is their health continually under attack?

Becoming non- judgemental is the way to be. Give everyone the benefit of the doubt,
but protect yourself nevertheless if you have reason to doubt them. If need be, ask
questions of them and unearth every possible answer. Probing questions should
unearth anything you need to know about them.

Judgement usually occurs when we are too lazy or uninterested in fully exploring the
situation with questions and listening to all sides' views. As quoted earlier by Carl
Jung, thinking is very difficult; that is why most people judge. If provoked by another
to make a judgement, you can answer with, “who knows all the facts?” or “it’s not my
place to judge,” or simply answering, “Is that so?” Your unavailability to participate in
the gossip and slander will be noted, and, hopefully, you will be given a wide berth
by the gossipers and slanderers of the world.

Remember Jesus’s statement, “let he among you who is without sin be the first to
cast the stone.” Mother Theresa stated, “if you judge people, you have no time to
love them.”

By being non-judgemental, I believe that you will elevate your energetic vibrational
frequency, whereas being judgemental will lower this vibrational energy.

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The Pathless Path to
Oneness
This book was written in 2020

Background

For those of us who believe in a Creator of us, our world, our galaxy, countless other
galaxies, and the Universe, we cannot accurately conceive such a Higher Power. We
develop belief systems, some become religions, and some are spiritually based
without any form of religion.

This Higher Power is Nameless and Formless. Name and form are two essential
requirements in our lives, so we invent and create names and even forms for this
Higher Power.

In the Bible, Genesis 1:27 states that “God created man in His own image, in the
image of God He created him; male and female He created them.”

But the question must be asked, who wrote the Book of Genesis in the Bible?

According to Wikipedia, “Tradition credits Moses as the author of Genesis, as well as

the books of Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers and most of Deuteronomy, but modern
scholars, especially from the 19th century, onward see them as a product of the 6th
and 5th centuries BC.

What does “created man in His own image” mean? And, more importantly, is it true?

As spelled out in my free book, Understanding and Elevating your Vibrational

Energy, all we are eternally and immortally is vibrational energy fluctuations and that
the Higher Power/Creator / God/ Oneness/Source Energy is the highest vibrational
energy fluctuations. I believe that is the image we are and that our Higher Power is
too.

Oneness, or a derivation of this Oneness, is referred to in most religions on earth.

Oneness is used in spirituality, as is the term Unity and Unity Consciousness.

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In this book, I mainly use Oneness but also use the other more familiar names of the
Nameless and Formless we know as our Higher Power.

The term the Pathless Path denotes your unique path of discovery, knowledge, and
wisdom you glean in finding your own way to Oneness. Religions follow their own
known pathway, whereas spirituality follows a pathless path to Oneness. All
pathways up the mountain reach the same summit, with the same vista- Oneness.

Introduction

Many people today struggle to align themselves with organised religion but state that
they are spiritual. There are even two acronyms for this, according to Wikipedia,
SBNR- Spiritual But Not Religious and SBNA -Spiritual But Not Affiliated.

In 2012, the highly regarded Pew Research Centre studied the number of Americans
who did not identify with a religion. These numbers grew from 15% in 2007 to 20%
by 2012, a 1% p.a. increase. Of concern in this research study was that 33% of
adults under thirty years of age in the USA claimed not to be religious. That is some
70 million young adults claiming not to be religious. What is unknown is how many of
these people are spiritual but not religious. Judging from book sales in the
Mind/Body/Spirit sections of bookstores, physical and online, there is a growing trend
to be spiritual but not religious.

This free book is created to help people who desire to find a deeper reality beyond
their ego-based active mind and discover a quieter mind where soul-based Love
exists. Such soul-based Love is spirituality for those who believe that God is Love.
This book straddles the monotheistic religions that believe in man’s encounter with
an external God and the Eastern religions who believe man finds the Divine within
themselves and all things. Additionally, it also straddles the non- Deity philosophies
of Eastern beliefs such as Taoism, Buddhism, and Confucianism.

I suppose, at my current level of spiritual growth, I have developed an understanding

by taking what I believe to be the best parts of all these faiths and beliefs that I have
been exposed to date. This, of course, is my unique pathless path to Oneness. You
will have your own pathless path to Oneness, and hopefully, this book will provide
some pointers you can use or choose to ignore.

Many people are searching for a way to transcend to a level of awareness and
consciousness of finding a Higher Power without rules, regulations, rituals, traditions,
and superstitions based on religious beliefs and practices. The search includes
seeking for their Higher Power within themselves in the terms they can understand,
and, most importantly, feel, as feelings are the language of their Souls. The search
to find and know Oneness of All That Is.

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We see the earth, and we see the sky and all of Nature, and we want to connect to
the Higher Power who created such a perfect world. The sun is perfectly positioned
to give us light, warmth and enabling the growth of all the species on earth. The
moon and its phases give us light and makes us conscious of the cycles of life. Life-
giving water covers 70% of the earth, with the sea some 67%, and freshwater some
3%. There are a balance and harmony of all living things on the earth- people,
animals, birds, insects, fish, trees, foliage, plants, etc.

This speck of dust we call earth existing among countless galaxies in the known and
unknown universes appears to be the only provider of all species' physical life as we
know such life is.

Oh, how glorious is our Higher Power for such creation. And to make us conscious of
such a Higher Power in our lives. We can call that Higher Power by names such as
Infinite Intelligence, All That Is, God, Source, Oneness, and numerous other names.
But, in truth, this Higher Power is Nameless, Formless, and Unknowable. We, on
earth, do not have a clue about this Higher Power. There are things we would like to
believe to be true about this Higher Power, but, in reality, we are drinking our own
Kool-Aid!

Of course, religious institutions cannot make such a statement. They cannot show
any ambivalence in their stated beliefs, which their adherents practiced, who usually
contribute to these religious institutions' financial welfare.

The growing number of Spiritual But Not Religious (SBNR) and Spiritual But Not
Affiliated (SBNA) people globally refuse to be hoodwinked by organised religion and
its trappings of faith, belief, traditions, rituals, and superstitions. Many religious
institutions, especially appealing to the poor and needy, possibly give these
adherents of this faith an unspoken belief that their perception of God favours their
religious institutions who show off their opulence in their Houses of Worship. The
subtle, unspoken message of this opulence is- our God favours us.

According to Wikipedia, the Catholic Church in the Vatican’s worth is unknown and
unstated, but it is ranked higher in wealth than The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-
Day Saints, the Mormon Church has an estimated worth of $100 billion with some 16
million members worldwide. The Catholic Church is reported to have about one
billion members worldwide. In the 2012 fiscal year, the Catholic Church's operating
budget in the USA was some $170 billion. The registered number of Catholics in the
USA in 2017 was some 70.4 million, around 22% of the population.

Organised religion appears to be “big business” to many disenchanted people. How

opulent religions manage to obtain tithings and other donations from their followers,
many of whom are poor and needy, requires a Harvard Business School
investigation! My interpretation is that blind faith, belief, traditions, rituals, and
superstitions, and the camaraderie of a community, appear to be the glue holding
people together within organised religions.

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The Founders of most religions preached in the open to anyone who would listen to
them. They appeared to have been connected to a Higher Power of their
understanding. We could call that nameless Higher Power, Infinite Intelligence, for
anyone who has an issue with the usual religious names for such a Higher Power.
This book wants to tap into that Infinite Intelligence without the stranglehold of the
“do’s and don’ts” of organised religion. We want to unearth the creativity, the
Unconditional Love and Light of such a Higher Power, the joy, and the bliss of the
highest energetic vibrational frequency we can aspire to become. We want to know
our Higher Power through our unique way. We want to emulate our perception of our
Higher Power in our every thought, word, and action.

We want to be like Rumi, the Sufi Poet of the 13th Century writing love poems to the
God of our unique understanding. Rumi wrote, Lose your soul in God’s Love; I swear
there is no other way.

We need to find our way to the Love that is God, as our God is Love. We need to
find our unique path creating such purpose and meaning in our lives. Our path, not
anyone else’s path. Our unique pathless path to such Oneness.

Contents

Introduction
What is the pathless path?
What is Oneness?
The pathless path to Oneness
Past knowledge and present experiential knowing
The way of the Finder, not the Seeker
Finding Heaven on Earth
The goal is in every step
A parable of seeking
You are not alone, but All One
Understanding the Bigger Picture of who you really are
Passion for walking the pathless path to Oneness
Moving from confusion to fusion
The three steps involving forgiveness
Thinking and experiencing
Our thoughts manifest the reality we experience
Resistance blocks your pathless path to Oneness

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Merging into Oneness
Love outlasts death
Mindfulness and commitment
Become the Watcher of your life (1)
Spontaneity is freedom
The heaviness of religion
Are you alive and vital?
Everything you need is within you
Contentment is the way forward
Humility is a requisite door opener
Kindness is also a necessary requisite
Spiritual morality is the benchmark to be followed
Experiencing a contrast of opposites
Simply Be
Creative solutions are waiting for you
Gaining perspective of the futility of resistance
Flow and resistance
Reframing and healing the past
Changing perspectives on helping others
The mirror is a blessing
The illusion of needs
Simplicity is the way
Friendships and relationships
Embrace change and know growth
God within you will resolve all conflicts
Your body reflects your mind’s thoughts
Follow your passion and find your bliss
Go with the flow
This Too Shall Pass
Do you remember virtue?
Choice in every moment of Now
Trust the process and be detached from the outcome
Humility is the way to walk
Getting and staying in the zone
Welcome the failures in your life
We walk sightless among the miracles
Freedom is not minding whatever happens
Service to others builds bridges of trust
The growing transparency of our lives

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You are watched and emulated by little eyes
Are you ready yet?
COVID-19 virus and global consciousness
If you don’t go within, you go without
What you think about me is irrelevant to me
Being the Watcher of your life (2)
The allowance of a cup
Stillness enables awareness of becoming Oneness
Accepting the unacceptable
At long last, the pathless path to Oneness opens up
Conclusion

Here are a few quotes on Oneness in this book:

Quotations on Oneness

People normally cut reality into compartments and so are unable to see the
interdependence of all phenomena. To see one in all and all in one is to break
through the great barrier which narrows one's perception of reality.
Tich Nhat Hanh

A person experiences life as something separated from the rest - a kind of optical
delusion of consciousness. Our task must be to free ourselves from this self-imposed
prison, and through compassion, to find the reality of Oneness.
Albert Einstein

You can develop the right attitude toward others if you have kindness, love, and
respect for them, and a clear realization of the Oneness of all human beings.
Dalai Lama

The essence of spirituality is to be constantly aware of the Oneness of all, at the

same time, to celebrate the uniqueness of the individual.
Jaggi Vasudev

Love is the recognition of Oneness in the world of duality.

Eckhart Tolle

The final goal of all religions is to realise the essential Oneness.

Mahatma Gandhi

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Here are three selected topics from this book:

A parable of seeking

One day a mouse looked up to the sky and saw the birds flying south as the air
began to chill. This little mouse wondered why the birds were flying south to escape
the coming colder weather, and more importantly, where they were flying to.
The little mouse decided to follow the path that the birds were on. He said goodbye
to his family and friends and went in the direction of the birds flying overhead. Day
after day, he travelled as far and as fast as his little legs could carry him. Eventually
exhausted and unwilling to go on any further in his quest, he decided to look around
and see where he was.

He saw that he was in a field of cabbages. Ah, he thought, maybe the birds know
something about cabbages that the rest of us do not know. Maybe cabbages are the
secret food for health and longevity? Maybe cabbages should be awarded a special
place in our lives and be prized among all other foodstuffs? Satisfied with his quest,
he decided to go back home to his family and friends and tell them of his amazing
discovery.

When this occurred, someone remarked that the veins on the cabbage looked like a
picture they had seen of the human brain. So, they concluded that cabbages were
food for enhancing the brain, and they exalted cabbages as a superfood. And they
all lived happily ever after, singing praises and worshipping the cabbage as a
superfood.

This parable illustrates the difference between knowledge of the past and
experiential knowing of the present moment of awareness and consciousness. The
birds do not leave a pathway etched in the sky as they travel southwards in their
experiential knowing of each passing moment. The mouse grew tired of learning why
the birds were flying south and where they were heading. The mouse decided to
judge the place he had reached as the Truth of his journey. He concluded that the
cabbage patch was the destination of the birds above in the sky.

Judgement occurs when you stop asking questions and decide you have found the
truth. Such judgment is laziness, and, regrettably, most of us are guilty of judging
without having all the available facts.
The problem comes after the judgment has been made. If your judgement is called
into question, your ego jumps in, digs its heels in, and entrenches your judgemental
position. Prejudice, bigotry, and even hatred, usually follows from such an
entrenched mindset.
I often use the following quote from William Blake to illustrate the lack of perception
we suffer from. If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to
man as it is, infinite. For man has closed himself up, till he sees all things thro’
narrow chinks of his cavern.

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God within you will resolve all conflicts

May the God within you be experienced by you always and in all ways.

The major religions of Christianity, Hinduism, and Islam all speak of God within a
human being's heart. My belief system experientially knows that my energetic
vibrational frequency level elevates when I communicate with God within me, and I
feel a “high.”

In silent meditation, I feel a connection to the God within me, and my Third Eye
between my eyebrows throb, and I feel what I best describe as a spider’s web
touching my face. This “high” also occurs while writing these books, and occasionally
when I am giving someone spiritual advice. During this process, if there is an
unexpected noise that disturbs me, I feel jolted back into my body.

If you wish to develop a meaningful relationship with another for whatever reason, I
recommend that you close your eyes and breathe deeply for a while. When you can,
silently speak to God within you and ask to be connected to God within the other
person. It is the same God within you both. Express to God within you the Love,
care, and concern you have for the other person. Ask God within you to bless and
keep the other person in God’s loving embrace. Ask God within the other person to
guide them correctly and for the Love that you send them to be felt within their heart.
Thank God within you both for this connection of Love within both your hearts.

Now, this is relatively easy to do when you love the other person. However, if you
want to see the power of this Love transmitted from God within you to God within
another, then select someone with whom you are in some form of conflict.

Up to this time, your egos have conflicted. You are now replacing ego-based fear
with soul-based Love. It's probably the last thing you feel like doing but trust me
when I say it will be the best thing for you to do. Pray for their well-being from God
within you to God within them.

Emotionally and spiritually, you will experience an elevating of your soul's vibration
as you release them in Love. At an energetic vibrational frequency level, they will
feel and experience this Love you are sending them. When you next communicate
with them, expect to find a changed and improved vibrational energy between you
both.

The stronger you develop your relationship with God within you, the better your life
will become. God is the Co-Creator of your life. Your conscious connection to God
within you will keep soul-based Love as your North Star. The Love you feel within
you will be the Love others see and feel emanating from you. Your energetic
vibrational frequency level will be elevated, and you will attract other Love-based
beings within your orbit.

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Finding and knowing God within you is the pathless path to Oneness.

As mentioned earlier, my free book Finding and Knowing God Within You is
available on personalempowerment.co. You may also find my free book GAIN- God
And I Now on the same website to benefit.

This too shall pass

I am thrilled to see that this timeless wisdom of This Too Shall Pass has become part
of the vernacular of the 21st Century. The origins are lost in the mists of time, but
Jewish Folklore has King Solomon requesting something to make him happy when
he was sad. The poets came up with a ring that had This Too Shall Pass written on
it. Sufi Mystic Rumi, in the 13th Century, refers to it happening to an Arabic Monarch.

So much wisdom in four little words. If the pathless path to Oneness required a logo,
then This Too Shall Pass could be it. The way to inner balance, harmony, and inner
peace is best expressed as This Too Shall Pass. The antidote to worshipping the
ego’s achievements is This Too Shall Pass.

The famous passage in Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 emphasises This Too Shall Pass:
For everything, there is a season, A time for every purpose under the heaven. A time
to be born and a time to die. A time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is
planted. A time to kill and a time to heal. A time to break down and a time to build-up.
A time to weep and a time to laugh. A time to mourn and a time to dance. A time to
cast away stones and a time to gather stones together. A time to embrace and a
time to refrain from embracing. A time to get and a time to lose. A time to keep and a
time to cast away. A time to rend and a time to sew. A time to keep silent and a time
to speak. A time to love and a time to hate. A time of war and a time of peace.

According to Microsoft's study in the second decade of the 21st Century, the average
person’s concentration span was down to eight seconds. In 2000, it was 12 seconds,
a drop of 33%. The first Smartphone was launched in 2007, and the choice
expanded what to see and hear. The instant gratification world via smartphones and
social media apps enables young people to multitask and loyalty, and disloyalty, is a
click away. Their impatience is becoming more acute as more and more options are
presented to them via the screens in their lives. Where will they learn the benefits of
the time processes as referred to in Ecclesiastes 3:1-8?

Life is not about switching when you see something better. Life is about sowing and
reaping and living through the time processes involved. What world will the young

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people of today create through such impatience and disregard for the necessary
maturation process that This Too Shall Pass is available to teach them?

In a world of instant gratification, the traits of perseverance, determination, patience,

loyalty, and trust may be seen as unimportant. However, throughout time
immemorial, they have been valued highly.

This Too Shall Pass is not resignation to the inevitability of time passing on but a
clarion call to value what is happening in your life now and to embrace it in soul-
based Love.

Whether we judge what is happening now in our life as joy or sorrow, it is CHANGE-
Clearing Healing And New Gifts Emerging. Change is fluid and continual, and
knowing that This Too Shall Pass is this continual process of change may make
more enlightened readers look for the New Gifts Emerging in every moment of Now.

For those travelling the pathless path to Oneness, understanding the CHANGE
depicted by This Too Shall Pass signifies is a vital step on the way.

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Nothing matters, except
Love and Light
Written in late 2020

Background and Introduction

In my free book, Understanding and Elevating your Vibrational Energy, I explain that
all we are is energetic vibrational frequencies of Love and Light. So is our Higher
Power/Creator/God/ Universe/Source Energy or any other names we call the
Nameless and the Formless.

Rumi, a 13th Century Sufi Poet and Mystic stated, Because of Love, I have become
the Giver of Light.

Those people who returned from Near-Death Experiences (NDE’s) all state that they
were bathed in a Light and Love that we do not have the vocabulary on earth to
describe and understand what they experienced.

While on earth, we are usually focused on our ego’s needs and desires, and this
EGO- Edging God Out- separates us from the Oneness we are at our essence. This
Oneness is the Love and Light written about in this book.

Whatever happens to us on earth only has relevance as it pertains to the effect our
thoughts, words, and actions have on the growth of our eternal soul. One other
relevance is the experiences we either choose to have in terms of our Soul Contracts
made in Spirit before coming to the earth plane of existence or through our free will
choices we make while on earth. These experiences are added to the expanding
experience of All That Is or Oneness or God if you prefer that name for the
Nameless and Formless who is the highest Love and Light, and of which we are
part.

The free will soul-based choices we make while on earth will determine whether our
vibrational energy is elevated into more Love and a brighter Light in Spirit as we
draw closer to our Source Energy. The other option for our free will ego-based
choices we make on earth is whether such choices sees a fall in our vibrational
energy level and we experience a lower form of Love and a dimmer Light as we
move away from our Source Energy in Spirit.

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Where Soul Contracts are being played out as agreed to in Spirit among Soul Mates
from our Soul Group or Soul Family, there are no negative consequences in Spirit. If
these Soul Contracts are played out as agreed to in Spirit, then we should see an
elevation of our souls for repairing the “holes in our souls,” being the reason we
came to the earth plane of existence this time around. This will elevate our
vibrational energy, and we will experience more Love and a brighter Light on earth
and in Spirit once we pass on from earth into Spirit.
That is why Nothing matters except Love and Light.

Contents

Selected quotations on Love and Light

Who are we?
What is Love?
What is Light?
Three questions for you
A personal perspective
The galactic perspective
A spiritual perspective
Having a clearer understanding of becoming Love and Light
Fear is illusionary
A prison of our own making
Fault finding or Finders of Love and Light
Whole-body listening
The mirror of you in a relationship
Jealousy is so unnecessary
Intention or commitment?
Nothing is unforgivable
The playing out of Soul Contracts
Actively being Love and Light now
The choice we make
This is not acceptable to me!
Understanding the Abuser
You cannot change anyone but yourself
Forgiveness is unnecessary
Conclusion

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Selected Quotations on Love and Light

There are 30 quotations selected to show the relevance of this topic. I have chosen a
few to place in this synopsis.

God’s body is Light

- Zarathustra- the Founder of Zoroastrianism, one of the world’s oldest continuously
practiced religions.

God is Love, and he that has learnt to live in the Spirit of Love has learnt to live and
dwell in God
- Brother Lawrence (1614-1691), author of the classic Christian text, The Practice of
the Presence of God

Love is God, and to die means that I, as a particle of Love, shall return to the general
and eternal Source
- Leo Tolstoy, Russian author and, according to Encyclopedia Britannica, one of the
greatest authors of all time.

Love is qualified as an attribute of that force, power, or influence known as God.

Thus as man makes application of Love in his daily experience, he finds God a
personal God.
- Edgar Cayce – a highly regarded Clairvoyant and Spiritual Medium

Teach only Love, for that, is what you are.

- A Course in Miracles – one of the top-selling spiritual books said to be channeling
from Jesus Christ.

For God is Love

- John 4:7 – 8

I don’t feel that we have any choice but to see the Love and Light that exists in every
person
- Doreen Virtue, contemporary American Author

When the power of Love replaces the love of power, man will have a new name: God
- Sri Chinmoy, Indian Spiritual Leader

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- John Edward, American Television Personality, Author and Psychic Medium

When we leave this world, how much we have Loved will be our true legacy. It is the
only thing we will leave behind and carry with us.
- Anne Siloy, a Spiritual Medium

Love God sincerely, and He will reveal Himself. Sacrifice everything at the altar of
this supreme Love; you will realise the Beloved within you.
- Meher Baba- an Indian Spiritual Master

I have selected three topics to give you an indication of this book:

What is Love?

Let’s commence with an explanation from Wikipedia:

Unconditional love is known as affection without any limitations or love without

conditions. This term is sometimes associated with other terms such as true altruism
or complete love. Each area of expertise has a certain way of describing
unconditional love, but most will agree that it is that type of love which has no
bounds and is unchanging.
In Christianity, unconditional love is thought to be part of the Four Loves; affection,
friendship, eros, and charity.
In ethology, or the study of animal behaviour, unconditional love would refer to
altruism which in turn refers to the behaviour by individuals that increases the fitness
of another while decreasing the fitness of the individual committing the act.
In psychology, unconditional love refers to a state of mind in which one has the goal
of increasing the welfare of another, despite any evidence of benefit for oneself.
(Source: Wikipedia)

In Hinduism and Islam, the concept of Unconditional Love is usually referred to as

that which is given to a Deity they worship.

In Buddhism, unconditional love is defined as loving-kindness and compassion to all

living sentient beings capable of feeling or perceiving things.

Unconditional Love is given freely without any expectation. Conditional love imposes
expectations being met.

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We are all infinite and eternal souls and are all a part of God. Our souls, and the part
of God within us, are also within all living sentients beings too. When we deal with
any living Being, we are dealing with the part of God within them as well as their
soul. Therefore, we should be much more conscious of Who walks beside and within
everyone.

We should be much more conscious of the unconditional loving-kindness we give to

another Soul, as part of Oneness or God.

The Law of Attraction states that Like is attracted to Like at an energetic vibrational
level of frequency. By giving anyone and everyone unconditional loving-kindness,
complete understanding, and acceptance of them, unconditionally, you will begin to
live in a world where unconditional love may flow like life-giving water. But have no
expectations of that occurring as such expectations are then based on conditional
love.
We accept and allow the tree in our garden or elsewhere to exist. We do not attempt
to ask the tree to change or to change the tree. We accept the tree unconditionally
for what it is. We don’t say I would prefer you to be a fir tree and not an oak tree. We
are unconditionally accepting and understanding of our oak tree.

Have you ever hugged the tree in your garden or elsewhere? If you do, you may feel
something stirring within you identifying your oneness with the tree. A tree provides
oxygen for all beings on the earth and removes carbon dioxide making the air we
breathe healthier. A tree does this unconditionally. There are times when we should
remind ourselves of this fact and also become unconditionally loving to all sentient
beings.

So, the bottom line of all of this is that I see the Unconditional Love of God, or
Oneness, as the model we should seek to emulate. By acting from soul-based Love
and not from fear-based ego, we can attain such Unconditional Love of ourselves
and for all sentient beings.

I believe that God is Love and that Love is God. If we approached every issue in our
lives with, “what would Love/God do now?” we are likely to find our world being a
more loving place.

Nothing real can be threatened

There is a three-part book collection known as A Course in Miracles, which is

supposed to be channeling from Jesus Christ. The books have been bought by tens
of millions of people globally, and it has been translated into many languages.

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Most people buy it and do not read it completely as it’s quite heavy going from what I
have read about it. I must profess to be one of those people.

There is a 14- word statement encapsulates the three books’ message at the book’s
outset. The message is not easily understood, and over 1200 pages and some 500
000 words are used to explain this 14- word statement.

The Statement is Nothing real can be threatened. Nothing unreal exists. Herein lies
the peace of God.

My interpretation is that our souls, as part of God, are eternal, infinite, and
undamageable, as God is too, and so much more. The world of Spirit is real and is
our souls’ permanent home. Only Love and Light are found in Spirit. The ego does
not exist in Spirit. Ego is based on fear and hope, both of which are illusionary and
do not exist. Only Love and Light exist as being real. Therefore, ego-based fear and
hope are unreal and do not exist outside of our minds’ illusionary thoughts. When we
know, understand, and experience these truths, we will know the Peace, Love, and
Light of God.

My shortened version of this statement is the title of this book, Nothing matters,
except Love and Light

Fault finding or Finders of Love and Light

A simple step to change our negative ego-based fear thoughts to become positive
soul-based Love thoughts is moving from being judgemental fault finders to become
finders of Love and Light.

This statement is such an important step of differentiation that I have underlined

above.
Moving from what’s wrong to what’s right.
Let’s begin by taking a piece of paper and a pencil and drawing a large T. On the
left, head it up with What’s Wrong with my Life, and on the right of the vertical line,
head it up with What’s Right with my Life. This becomes your emotional balance
sheet. Liabilities on the left and Assets on the right. This is your Personal Life List.
You can also name the two columns Scarcity and Abundance. Furthermore, if you
focus on the Abundance column, this becomes a Gratitude List.

After that exercise is completed, let’s move to the next most important part of your
life, and that is your primary relationship with your spouse or partner. Please repeat
the exercise above. This time call the two columns Fault Finding of my partner and
the Finding Love and Light of my partner.

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If you have any children, a similar exercise is done for each child. Now let’s deal with
your home. Fault finding of your home and what you are grateful for about your
home are the two columns. After that, let’s do the same exercise for your work. Fault
finding and what you enjoy about your work are the two columns.

These are the primary foundation stones of your life. If you benefit from this process,
look at other important areas of your life, such as your in-laws, wider family, friends,
religious or spiritual areas, sports, hobbies, etc.

With this process of moving from being a fault-finder to becoming a finder of Light
and Love, your life will change and improve.
The acronym for CHANGE is Clearing Healing And New Gifts Emerging. Your
process of moving from fault finding to finding Love and Light will become one such
change.

I wish you good luck, or should I rather say God luck!

Conclusion
I hope and trust that A Treasury of Spiritual Knowledge and Wisdom has helped you
find what you may be seeking in your life.

I have enjoyed compiling a synopsis of each book for you and commenting on each
book, providing you with a context of the background of what I was attempting to
achieve with each book for my own growth and, hopefully, to assist you with your
growth too.

In Love and Light,

Neville Berkowitz
personalempowerment.co
guidespeak.com

Johannesburg
South Africa

December 2020

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