COURSE MODULE 10

UNIT II: Self-Awareness and Values Development

This unit explains about Self-Awareness and Values Development of a person/individual.

It also explain self-management sequence that control ones’ success and failure.

Learning Outcomes
At the end of this chapter you will be able to:
1. Distinguish the differences between self-awareness and self-management;
2. Describe knowledge of self by mean of positive and negative self-talk;
3. Explain the self-management sequence that control one’s success and failure; and
4. Analyze the different levels of self-talk that give ways to change oneself.

Introduction:

Directions: What personal values do you have base in the picture below? Elaborate your answer.

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LESSON II. SELF-AWARENESS AND SELF-MANAGEMENT

Content

I. Self-awareness is defined as an awareness of one’s own personality or

individuality. The term “self” often refers to yourself, myself, himself/herself,
oneself, and your own self. This refers to a person in a prime condition, as
entire person or individual. Awareness is defined as having or showing
realization, participation, commitment, and knowledge of one’s values
development.

Dare to Dream, Dare to be!

The following are examples of great individuals who dared to dream and dared to be:

 Beethoven was totally deaf, yet he created musical masterpieces.

 Milton was blind, poor, and sick, yet he wrote Paradise Lost and Paradise
Regained.
 Abraham Lincoln failed several time in his political career, before he was elected to
presidency. He even became one of the greatest US Presidents.
 Burt Reynolds washed dishes for a living before he became a well-respected actor.
 Helen Keller Struggled to overcome her handicap to become an inspiration to both
the blind and the seeing.
A. YOU AS YOU
Nosce te ipsum is Latin for “Know thyself.” Let’s begin to know yourself, since the
essential formula for achievement is self-analysis.

1. Know the difference between your biological or inherited traits and your
environment or acquired traits.
2. Self-awareness is an awareness of one’s own personality or individuality.

 Self – oneself/himself/herself/myself
 Belonging to oneself
 A person in prime condition
 Entire person as an individual

 Awareness – Having or showing realization, perception, or knowledge

 Be your own best friend and believe in yourself, so that you can become
the person you want to be.
 You are you and you are what you think. You are unique in your own way.
Only you can control your destiny and make a difference in your life.
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B. YOU AS A FILIPINO
 Being aware of and remaining constantly on guard against the Filipino Tendency
towards negativism, you can eventually propel yourself into positivism.
 Use your “lakas at tibay ng loob” (courage and strength) to move away from the
fatalistic “gulong ng palad (wheel of fortune) and “bahala na” (come what may)
attitude.
 Begin by getting involved with your own life. Makialam ka sa buhay mo!
Cooperate, makisama ka, by first initiating a change in yourself.
 Begin without expecting instant miracles. You have got only one real friend and
one worst enemy and that is yourself.
 Believe in your abilities and work unyieldingly ro reach your objectives.
C. YOU AND YOUR FAITH

Filipino worship is directed towards God as a father-figure who takes care of all –
“Bahala na ang Diyos,” signifying that Divine Providence is responsible for our
destinies. Thus, whenever problems confront us, we tend to turn against God and blame
Him for all the misfortunes.
D. YOUR “SELF-HELP” CONCEPTS (MORELL, R.W 1999)
You may or may not be aware of the ‘self-help\ or self-improvement teachings, but if
you want to be more successful, you should:

Believe in Yourself
Keep Your Priorities for Yourself
Create Your Own Future
Focus on What You Want
Learn to Visualize the Outcome of Your Goals
Never let Anyone Control Your Destiny for You
Be Creative
Think Big
Control Stress
Be Aggressive and Assertive
Think Positively
Chart Your Own Course
Set Specific Goals and Review Them Often
Spend Some Time Each Day Improving Your Mind
Review Your Result and Adjust as Necessary
Be Tolerant
Do Everything With Love
Don’t Hate
Have Courage
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Recognize That Most of What We Believe About Life is An Illusion
Be Honest
Work hard
Believe Money is Good and it Will Come to You
And so on, and on, and on.

E. A SELF-MADE WALL OF NEGATIVE SELF-TALK (HELMSTETTER, S. 2000)

Here are few examples of frequently-used negative self-talk. As you read them, see if
you know someone who says something similar, or if you have said something like any
of these yourself:

I can’t remember names.

It’s going to be another one of those days!
It’s just no use!
I just know it won’t work!
Nothing ever goes tight for me.
That’s just my luck.
I’m so clumsy!
I don’t have the talent.
I’m just not creative.
Everything I eat goes right to my waist.
I can’t seem to get organized.
Today just isn’t my day!
I can never afford the things I want.
I already know I won’t like it.
No matter what I do I can’t seem to lose weight.
I never have enough time.
I just don’t have the patience for that.
That really makes me mad!
Another Blue Monday!
When will I ever learn!
I get sick just thinking about it.
Sometimes I just hate myself.
I’m just no good!
I’m to shy.
I never know what to say,
And so on, and on, and on

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Activity 2.1
Tell me about yourself
(The Art of Selling Yourself)

Direction: The following are tough, often pretentious questions. Figure out the question’s real
meaning and fire back a crisp, insightful answer. (Select only 10 questions and write your
answers on the space provided following the list).
1. Tell me about yourself.
2. What do you see as your greatest strength and greatest weakness?
3. Tell me about some projects you have led.
4. Tell me about problems you have solved in a group situation.
5. How would you define success?
6. Why should I hire you?
7. Why haven’t you received any offer so far?
8. What do professors tend to criticize most about your performance?
9. Tell me about the best professor you ever had.
10. How do you go about making important decisions?
11. Tell me about your involvement in community extension work.
12. Do you work well under pressure?
13. Do you prefer to work with others or by yourself?
14. What kind of a student are you?
15. What extra-curricular activities are you involved in?
16. What were your most memorable high school experiences? What did you learn from
them?
17. What do you do in your spare time?
18. How do you handle conflict?
19. Are you a member of your Barangay Organization? What is the nature of the
organization?
20. If you could change something about your work style, what would it be?
Answers
1. 7.
2. 8.
3. 9.
4. 10.
5.
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II. The Self-Management Sequence (Helmstter, Shad, 2000)

Life is not a matter of luck or fortune. If we leave our lives up to chance, chances are, we will
fail. Success in self-management is always the result of something else, something that leads up
to it. Most of what seems to happen to you, happens because of you-something you created,
directed, influenced, or allowed to happen.

The Self-Management Sequence: The Five Steps That Control Our Success or Failure.
Behavior

The step that most directly controls our success or failure is our behavior – What we do
or do not do.
Behavior means our actions. How we act, what we do, each moment of each day will
determine whether or not we will be successful that moment or that day in everything that
we do.
Feelings

Every action we take is first filtered through our feelings. How we feel about something
will always determine or affect what we do and how we will do it. If we feel good or
positive about something, we will behave more positively about it. Our feelings will
directly influence our actions. Our feelings are created, controlled, determined, or
influenced by our attitudes.
Attitudes

Your attitudes are the perspective from which you view life. Some people seem to have a
good attitude about most things. Some seem to have a bad attitude about everything. But
when you look closer, you will find that most of us have a combination of attitudes-some
good, some not so good.
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Beliefs

What we believe about anything will determine our attitudes about it, create our feeling,
direct our actions, and influence us to do well or poorly, or succeed or fail. The belief that
we have about anything is so powerful that it can even make something appear to be
something different than what it really is! Belief does not require that something be the
way we see it to be. It only requires us to believe that it is. Belief does not require
something to be true. It only requires us to believe that it’s true!

Programming

We believe that we are programmed to believe. Our conditioning from the day we were
born has created, reinforced, and nearly permanently cemented most of what we believe
about ourselves and what we believe about most of what we believe about most of what
goes on around us. Whether the programming was right or wrong, true or false, the result
of it is what we believe. It is our programming that sets up our beliefs, and the chain
reaction follows. What we believe determines our attitudes, affects our behavior, and
determines our success or failure thus:

 Programming creates beliefs,

 Beliefs create attitudes,
 Attitudes create feelings,
 Feelings determine actions, and
 Actions create results.

III. The Levels of Self-Talk (Hemlstetter, Shad, 2000)

Self-Talk is a way to override our past negative programming by erasing or replacing it

with conscious positive new directions. It is a practical way to live our lives by active intent
rather than by passive acceptance.

Self-Talk gives each of us a way to change what we would like to change, even if we
have not been able to do so in the past. There are five levels of Self-Talk.

 Level I – Self-Talk: The level of Negative Acceptance

(“I Can’t…”)

The level of negative acceptance is the lowest, least beneficial, and the most harmful
level of self-talk. It is a self-talk by which you say something bad or negative about
yourself, and you accept it. It is characterized by words, “I can’t…” or “if only I
could…” It is our way of telling ourselves to hesitate, question our capabilities, and
accept less that we know we could have done, had we only given ourselves a chance.

 Level II – Self-Talk: The level of recognition and Need to Change

(“I need to… I should…”)

This level beguiling. On the surface it looks as though it should work for us. But instead,
it works against us. In this level we are stating to ourselves and to others our recognition
of our need to change. It is characterized by words such as “I need to…” or “I ought
to…” or “I would…”
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 Level III – Self-Talk: The Level of Decision to Change

(“I Never… I no longer…”)

The first level of self-talk that work for you instead of against you. In this level, you
recognize the need to change, but also you make the decision to do something about it-
and you state the decision in the “present tense”-as though the change has already taken
place. It is characterized by the words, “I never…” or “I no longer.”

 Level IV – Self Talk: The level of the Better You

(“I am…”)

This is the most effective kind of self-talk we can ever use. This has been used the least,
but is needed most it is at this level that you are painting a completed new picture of
yourself, the way you really wanted to be, handing it to our subconscious, and saying,
“This is the me I want you to create!” it is characterized by the words, “ I am…” it “yes I
can’s!” It excites, demands, and pushes us forward.

 Level V – Self-Talk: The Level of Universal affirmation

(“It is…”)

This level of self-talk has been spoken for thousands of years. It is the self-talk of
“Oneness” with God. This level speaks of a unity of spirit, a divine and timeless cosmic
affinity which transcends all worldly thins and gives meaning to our being. This is the
self-talk for seekers, still living among mankind but anxious to find a greater reward. It is
characterized by the words, “It is…” It sounds like this: “I am one of the universe and it
is one with me. I am fit, within it, and exist as a shining spark in a firmament of divine
goodness.

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Activity 2.2

Direction: With the “Self-help” Concepts just select 10 related self-improvement teachings that
will help you to become more successful. (5 points each.)

Activity 2.3

Direction: Select at least 10 negative self-talk, and change these from negative self-talk to
positive and write it in your answer sheet. (5 points each)

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