TIZON, Gabriel Mari D.

3-AEC

THED05 April 24, 2021

"Bahay-bahayan"- on Psycho-Social Readiness

After understanding the demands of Marriage from Familiaris Consortio and Amoris
Laetitia, we realize that entering the married life needs a holistic preparation including that of
Psycho-social readiness.

Direction: Read the attached article "Bahay-bahayan". Find and write down your answers to the
following questions.

1. Did the author make the right decision? Which part of the article do you base your
answer? (10 points)

Yes, I do believe the author made the right decision. The author did not choose to
tread the same path most of his childhood friends took. He believed that marriage should
be considered when you are financially capable, emotionally stable, as well as
physiologically ready to face the responsibilities of a husband and father. The author also
emphasized that as of the moment he still relies on his parents support to survive, thus
having a child at that time would mean that the burden would fall on the parents to
support his child. This shows that the author does not want to rush or be put in a situation
where he would have to struggle to become a good provider as well as a good husband
and father towards his family.

2. What qualities of a mature person do the author shows he possesses? (10 points)

The author shows his readers that he does not want to rush his youth. He
prioritizes being a good son to his parents, a supportive brother to his siblings, a loyal
partner to his girlfriend, and a studious disciple to his mentor. The author has emphasized
the burden of pre-marriage pregnancy and what it did to his friends who when they were
younger, promised never to subject themselves to that kind of responsibility at an early
age. The author is mature because he acknowledges that it is not mere financial support
needed to raise a child, but it also takes a lot of emotional and psychological care as well.
The author keeps in mind the realities of this world, that sheer love and care alone won’t
be enough to raise a family. The author also mentions that he has a girlfriend and so do
his friends. Some of his friends however, have fallen into temptation and became the very
thing they promised themselves not to be; a young father.
3. Have you had any encounters with incidents similar to those of the author? Give
your personal reaction to your observations in relation to getting married and
having a family. (10 points)

Yes, I did encounter some incidents similar to what the author experienced. Some
of my friends have become young fathers. Fortunately, at least from an outside view, I
see my friends as responsible providers despite being in college, faithful partners to their
girlfriends, and above all else loving fathers towards their children. Although their hand
in parenthood was played early, they have managed to react accordingly by putting the
interests of their child above all else. Some people deem early parenthood as something
irresponsible and foolish. However, this does not change the fact that the overall health
and well-being of a child is at stake. My friends have managed to change their mindset as
well as their attitude in order to be loving and caring father figures for their family. My
friends who are young fathers have managed to set aside their boyhood dreams in order
to focus on the realities of raising a family properly. They acknowledge the mistakes they
made, however they do not cower away from the consequences. Instead, they face the
challenges head on for the benefit their family. They did not run from the problem, and
even embraced the role of father figure and husband in order to raise their child properly
and hopefully avoid the same mistakes he did.

4. Make a step-by-step plan on developing or improving your personality in relation to

Step 1: Focus on myself first.

As a future husband and father, my goal is to become not only a person of good
moral character, but also a father that can provide the wants and needs of my children.
My first goal is to focus on learning more about myself and my attitude before engaging
in a relationship, in addition to this I would like to finish college on time and find a good
paying job to support myself first and help my parents.

Step 2: Get to know my partner even more.

Getting to know your partner is crucial in a long-lasting and steady relationship. I

Step 3: Setting a time table and increasing life savings.

Step 4: Budgeting and looking for a house.

At this point, I want me and my future wife to start budgeting and planning ahead.
Our primary goal is to have our own place complete with furniture and a healthy
environment where we can eventually raise children.

Step 5: Getting married and settling down before having children.

When I and my partner get married, I want the both of us to enjoy life with
ourselves before having children. I want to spend quality time with my future wife
because up until this moment we haven’t been able to be together and actually have time
to spend with each other without worrying about anything else.

Step 6: Having children.

Personally, having children for me is not a rush, even so if I and my partner are
already married. I want both of us to be in agreement as to when we should have children
and have the discussion if our current financial status and work status permits us to have
a child that we can take care of and give undivided attention.