LESSON 1 Knowing and Understanding Oneself

Part I. Learning Module Information

The learners demonstrate an understanding of… himself/herself during middle

Content and late adolescence
Standards
Performance The learners shall be able to... conduct self-exploration and simple
Standards disclosure
Most Essential 1. explain that knowing oneself can make a person accept his/her
Learning strengths and limitations and dealing with others better
Competencies
(MELC) 2. Share his/her unique characteristics, habits, and experiences.
Duration Q1 Week 1

Objectives:
At the end of this module, you will be able to:
1. explain that knowing yourself can make you accept your strengths and limitations and
dealing with others better;
2. share your unique characteristics, habits and experiences; and,
3. Start and maintain a journal.

Part II: Learning Explorations

The personality stars you have just filled in shows how well you know yourself and how others
view you as a person. The self is our biggest asset. How you know yourself speaks one of the
important aspects of self – development. It is called self-concept. It is self-awareness in two
wide characters, the ideal self and the actual self;
Ideal self refers to the self-one desire to be, like the ones we admire and wish to be in the
community from any sector or profession. Your aspiration of becoming like them is based on the
positive qualities you have viewed them. Your connection with the ones you look up to could
want you also to develop what you see in them, what you learned and experienced from them,
including the things that they promote and most of all, it could also want you to build up their
ways in your thoughts, words and actions.
Actual self tells who you really are with the traits and characteristics you truly possess. These
traits may have been the outcome of how you were nurtured in the family, developed in school
and influenced by the community. It is your self- knowledge on how you think, how you feel, how
you act, and how you look. These traits are the things seen by others. No matter how people
view each one as a person, one’s knowledge of the actual-self comprises the self-image. Self-
concept affects one's behavior and overall success in any undertakings.

The two aspects of self-concept are both important and must be evaluated for positive self-
development. Ideal-self when improved based on idolizing someone must be think of and
chosen carefully to gain and develop the positive traits. It must be in tune with the actual-self.
The aspect that requires a great sense of well-being. Having the right attitude, and making the

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right choices of things we wanted to develop in us could affect our dealings with people and
things. Positive self-concept contributes to great success.

SELF-AWARENESS
Self-awareness of the traits possessed and the characteristics that need to be worked on will
give a great impact into becoming the best version ourselves. This contributes to one’s personal
effectiveness in dealing with others and in working towards success. A well-developed
personality is the one that builds on the strength and works on the weaknesses. One tries to
learn more about the new ways and shows good and admirable behavior behind whatever
situation they are in. To be effective, you have to set your personal goals, you have to plan your
actions and be reflective from time to time. Here are some of the personal qualities that could
give great impact to one’s personality:
1. Knowing Yourself
A person who knows oneself has the sense of direction and knows one’s purpose in life.
Knowing oneself is recognizing one’s strengths and weaknesses, including the fears, knowing
one’s desire and thoughts in life, likes and dislikes, habits and individualities as well as the
things one can tolerate in dealing with others and in handling situations.
2. Being Confident
Self-confidence is shown in one's personal judgment, ability, and capacity in responding to
situations. It is shown in one's personal way of carrying oneself, showing one’s ability, and
capacity in facing others without fear and hesitation. With self-confidence one can carry out the
things one wishes to do. This trait is being developed from experiences of having mastered a
particular emotion or activity.
3. Being Courteous
A courteous person receives good impression and earns respect. Courtesy leads to progress,
for one gets the support of many who feels the politeness of a person.
4. Being properly dressed
Proper dressing earns respect. It is important that one should always consider the occasion, the
time, the climate and the season in choosing what dress to be worn. It reflects the soundness of
mind and it tells how ready we are facing the day. The way you are dressed is the way you’ll be
addressed.

5. Being sensitive and know your body language

Sensitive people are cautious in their way in dealing with others and in handling situations. They
easily notice certain details others may accept or ignore, and they can be very creative in giving
opinions and in showing their gestures or actions.
6. Having a positive outlook
A positive attitude includes understanding life’s troubles and challenges. It means being
optimistic or having a positive mind in looking for the good in things, rather than being a
negative-minded with tendency to focus on the bad in things. Positive thoughts and actions
create happy community and a better world.
7. Being tactful in giving your opinions
A person’s tact or carefulness would tell many things about him or her; the emotional
intelligence, respect, self-awareness, thoughtfulness, compassion, delicacy, honesty,
diplomacy, and courtesy in dealing situations. Being careful in everything is shown when one
can give difficult feedback, and communicate sensitive information, with the right thing and
doing the right action to preserve a relationship.

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8. Being a good listener

Being a good listener enriches one's understanding and increases one's capacity for
considering others and situations. It levels up one's awareness with the outside world by
improving one’s thinking while listening. With good listening, comes the right words, actions and
interactions in our day-to-day lives.
9. Being friendly
Meeting and knowing new people help develop a healthy mental image. Your interaction with
others leads to manifestations and mastery of the five features of personality; honesty, delicacy,
right attitude, kindness and mindfulness. Start smart with the people you know. Be the friendly
you.
10. Being humble
Being humble means giving the way to understand others more. It doesn't mean one thinks less
of oneself. It simply means the person think of oneself less with a strong sense of valuing the
relationship above anything else. Being humble means showing a high level of self-esteem but
not bragging oneself to others. With humility, one can still feel better, because one fully knows
how to handle oneself well during situations.

What did you learn?

1. Why is it important to know oneself? How will it help you in your personal development?
2. What is your understanding of human development based on the discussion in this
lesson?

Reflect on this lesson. During our online class, present something interesting about you.

Part III: Assessment Task

ACTIVITY # 1: SELF-CONCEPT INVENTORY

Take a look at your own self-concept and answer the following self-concept inventory in your
journal. Give yourself a rating using the scale: 0 = very weak; 1 = weak; 2 = somewhat weak or
somewhat strong; 3 = strong; 4 = very strong
1. I have strong sex appeal.
2. I am proud of my physical figure.
3. I am physically attractive and beautiful/handsome.
4. I exude with charm and poise.
5. I am easy to get along with.
6. I can adjust to different people and different situations.
7. I am approachable; other people are at ease and comfortable with me.
8. I am lovable and easy to love.
9. I am a fast learner, can understand with one instruction.
10. I am intelligent.
11. I have special talents and abilities.
12. I can easily analyze situations and make right judgments.
13. I can be trusted in any transaction.
14. I have a clear conscience and carry no guilty feeling.
15. I have integrity and good reputation.
16. My friends and classmates can look up to me as a model worth emulating.
17. I can express my ideas without difficulty.

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 18. I talk in a persuasive manner that I can easily get people to
accept what I say.
19. I can express my ideas in writing without difficulty.
20. I am a good listener.
21. I am emotionally stable and not easily rattled when faced with trouble.
22. I am logical and rational in my outlook and decisions.
23. I feel and act with confidence.
24. I am a mature person.

Scoring: Copy this table in your journal. Write your score opposite each
number and get the subtotal.

Physical appeal Human Relations Intelligence

1 5 9
2 6 10
3 7 11
4 8 12
Subtotal: Subtotal: Subtotal:
Character Communications Maturity
13 17 21
14 18 22
15 19 23
16 20 24
Subtotal: Subtotal: Subtotal:

How do you perceive yourself?

Look at the results of your self-concept inventory and answer the following
questions.
1. In what areas do you consider yourself strong (with score 14-16 or
somewhat weak (score of 10-13) and very weak (below10).
2. Are there qualities you consider as your weakness but other people consider
as your strength? What are these? Check with a partner.
Example: A lady can say “I`m ugly” yet other consider her very charming. Or
conversely, one can have the illusion of saying “I am very intelligent or competent”
when most of his ideas sound unreasonable or illogical to most of the people.
There is indeed a big difference between what you see in yourself (real self-image)
and what is projected in the eyes of the others (your social image).
3. How realistic is your self-image?
4. To what extent does it reflect your real self?

ACTIVITY # 2: THIS IS ME!

Each one of us has the power to choose who we want ourselves to be, including how we want others to
know us. Below is your personal shirt that would best describe you as a person. Beside it are the choices
of personal qualities you wanted to be written on your shirt as your self-identity.

Directions: Draw your personal design of shirt. At the center of the shirt, write the word: This Is Me! Pick
your personal qualities and list them inside the drawn shirt. Style your own personal shirt.

This is Me!
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 ACTIVITY #3: I AM THE AUTHOR OF MY LIFE!

Directions: List down your goals you have envisioned for yourself at the center of your palm, and on
the fingers, list down the skills you wanted to hold with you to be successful in life.

Part IV: Internet Links

http://study.com/academy/lesson/what-is-self-concept-in-psychology-definition- lesson-quiz.html
http://study.com/academy/lesson/ideal-self-vs-real-self-definition-lesson-quiz.html

http://www.chrysalisdevelopment.com/page6/page4/page4.html http://www.learning-
mind.com/7-basic-personal-effectiveness-skills/

Roldan, Amelia S. (2003). On Becoming a Winner: A Workbook on Personality Development

and Character Building. AR Skills Development and Management Services (SDMS), Paranaque City,
Metro Manila.

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