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Building A Healthy Relationship

Building healthy relationships requires consistency, communication, and self-awareness. One must consistently work at relationships through both good and bad times. Communicating openly about feelings, actions, and expectations is key to developing trust and clarity. Most importantly, one must watch oneself by ensuring actions match words and emotions. Being aware of one's own thoughts allows for effective communication and building relationships that make sense to both self and others.

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Building A Healthy Relationship

Building healthy relationships requires consistency, communication, and self-awareness. One must consistently work at relationships through both good and bad times. Communicating openly about feelings, actions, and expectations is key to developing trust and clarity. Most importantly, one must watch oneself by ensuring actions match words and emotions. Being aware of one's own thoughts allows for effective communication and building relationships that make sense to both self and others.

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How to Build a Healthy Relationship

A step to making mentally healthier humans with healthy relationships.

Relationships are not feelings, they don’t just exist. One needs to build, nurture and sustain on them.
It means consistently working on relationships in everyday life. Working however doesn’t mean to
be constantly worried about investing a lot of working on it, or spending a lot of time and energy
into it. Its easy, calming and peace-giving.

Your relationships are about you. So the first one on building healthy relationship is;

- Watch yourself

Yes that’s about it. When you know yourself, your actions, words, thoughts and emotions. It will be
simpler and things will make sense to you and others as well.

1. When your actions match your words, you will make sense to others

Rose silently noticed her mother lying to her friends about being in office when Rose was always told
to be truthful.

In a similar manner, you cannot be asking your child to never smoke if you do it yourself or you have
friends and relatives who do it. Which in a way signals your approval to it when outwardly your
words are all different.

Its difficult for a child brain to make sense or develop a sense of trust with you.

And

2. When your actions match your thoughts and emotions, you will make sense to yourself.

Julie thinks that she really loves her husband and is very kind to him. She deeply feels all good things
for him. So, it became harder for her to cope when she found herself yelling at him, when she was
frustrated about not meeting a personal goal. Now it was a loop of negative emotions for Julie
where firstly she feels worthless of not achieving goals and then angering at some one she feels all
love for and then maybe being more aggressive or annoyed towards her husband for already being
in a negative state of mind.

The disappointment for Julie here was from herself which was projected in a way she didn’t really
wish to but got caught in that mental loop.

This is actually “Us” all the time.

Incase, you forgot the whole point. It was Watch Yourself so that When you know yourself, your
actions, words, thoughts and emotions. It will be simpler and things will make sense to you and
others as well.

- Communicate

We all hold a power and that is of Communication. Its your power and its only you who can work it.
It surely holds the ability of solving world war caliber problems. We will stick to relationships. They
are actually much deeper and complex.
Simply stating, Communication is important. It is the key to every lock.

You got angry. You feel bad about it. Communicate. To yourself and to the one on whom you
expressed your anger. Communicate about what made you angry.

When it comes to a parent. If you scolded your child. Whether or not you feel bad about it.
Communicate it with your child why did that stance happen. What do you expect from him/her and
Why? Yes that’s important and you are answerable to all the questions that your child dint even
raise.

Apart from making things easier and clear. Communication will always form a connect that would
stay forever.

Also, Communication will do two things. It will give clarity to yourself and make you feel sooo much
better. Second, it will give clarity to others and will help them understand you and your views better.

As a bonus, your children and better halves will be influenced by you to Communicate toooo. It’s a
win-win.

- Be consistent

Its about consistency through years and not just about today or tomorrow. Consistency is a kind of
legacy, Carry it with yourself.

Again from the parenting lens; You cannot be caring and loving towards your child the day you start
to believe that now he/she has become capable and deserving or worthy of the love that you held
back for years. I cannot stop myself from stating Ishaan’s example from the Bollywood movie “Taare
Zameen Par”. At the end of the movie when it was time for Ishaan to go back home for a vacation
with his not so loving and accepting parents who now apparently turned to be so. Ishaan however
no longer could connect to them. It was his consistently supportive teacher whom he runs back to.
Its painful to even imagine the trauma Ishaan would have gone through with the taunting voices and
the disturbed facial expressions that his parents often wore.

I know its asking for too much if its said that one has to always be happy or always be accepting or
always be loving. So, We have a fix. When you cannot be consistent, its communication that comes
into the picture. Again, talk about your inconsistency and the reason behind it.

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