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Love Systems’

ROUTINES
MANUAL

In Association with Fast Seduction 101

Also with: The Don

Badboy Lifestyles and
Brad P. Presents Savoy
ROUTINES

Table of Contents

Introduction

A Note On Sources

Chapter 1: Introduction to the Emotional Progression Model

Chapter 2: Openers

Chapter 3: Transitioning

Chapter 4: Attraction

Chapter 5: 4XDOL¿FDWLRQ

Chapter 6: Comfort

Chapter 7: Seduction

Chapter 8: Creating Your Own Routines

Chapter 9: Bonus Chapter – Storytelling

Chapter 10: Further Resources

Chapter 11: Major Contributors

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Introduction

So, here it is. The highly awaited, forever requested “Routines

Manual.” Contained inside are some of the best, most
consistently successful routines as compiled by the dating
industry leaders: Love Systems, Fast Seduction, Badboy
Lifestyles, and Brad P. Presents and others. These are the
workhorses used by Love Systems instructors and other
masters around the world.

A routine is any piece of prepared verbal or non–verbal material

used for attracting women and beginning a romantic or sexual
relationship. The variety and types of routines included in this
book range widely and are divided mainly according to the
objectives they seek to accomplish: e.g., building attraction,
creating comfort, creating physical intimacy, etc.

We offer you this book as a means to see what the masters use,
so you can develop your own material. Having a repertoire of
good routines is the bread and butter of good “game.” They are
what help us to replicate success. They help us avoid awkward
silences and “mind blanks.” They teach us what women like
to talk about. They demonstrate the kinds of things naturally
charismatic people do and help us develop the social skills to
attract beautiful women when we encounter them: at bars,
parties, during the day, or wherever.

There’s nothing “weird” about using routines. Everyone does

it whether they know it or not. Any story you’ve told more
than a couple of times is a routine. We’re here to help you
make and use the best material. Which brings me to a big
caveat: “game” is not just spitting routines.

There is much, much more to it: proper delivery, calibration,

having an attractive identity, physical escalation, genuineness,
having a unique and congruent style, and much more. Guys
who have great game have all of these areas mastered in
addition to having a formidable arsenal of routines in their
heads. These areas are covered in detail elsewhere, such as
a Love Systems bootcamp, or Magic Bullets by Savoy, but the
most important thing to keep in mind is personalizing your
game; creating your own style with the routines you choose.
You will notice that there are a wide variety of styles included
in this book; created by people such as Badboy, Brad P., Tyler
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pseudonyms). They run the gamut from smooth, to genuine, to
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and have worked for various guys in real world situations. It’s
up to you to hone in on what works for you. What you say,
how you behave, and how you dress should all meld into one
congruent whole. Your routines back up your behavior and
support the identity you’ve chosen to convey.

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highlight the identity you want to create out of the best parts
of yourself and learn from those. Don’t be afraid to experiment.
These are not gospel. Tweak and change them to make your
own versions. The goal is for you to come up with completely
new routines yourself. All the best guys have unique routines
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individuals. You should do the same. You will learn to do this

in the section on Creating Your Own Routines (Chapter 8).

We hope that you enjoy the book.

Best,

The Don
and

Savoy

A Note on Sources
Many of the routines in this book were invented by Love
Systems instructors. We were also able to arrange permission
to use material from www.TheAttractionForums.com and
other individual creators or copyright owners, and we are
grateful for their participation in this important project. A
large number of routines came from www.FastSeduction.com
(both the mASF Forum and the Fast Seduction 101 Archives);
these are used with permission from Learn The Skills Corp.
(owner and operator of the Fast Seduction 101 website),
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versions. All rights reserved, no re-use granted without
permission.

Dating science is a cumulative science, and every creator

builds on the work that has been come before. This sometimes
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to person over long periods of time without consistent
records. Rather than exclude these routines, we have
included them with the source notation “Unknown.” We
have made a good-faith effort to track down the original
authors of all of these routines, including posting them on
www.TheAttractionForums.com and canvassing Love
Systems’ large team of experienced instructors, many
of whom have deep roots in dating science. If you are
able to help us with the original authorship of any
of these routines, or feel that we have incorrectly
attributed anything in this book, please contact us at
[email protected].

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Similarly, if you feel that YOU have a routine that deserves

to be in the book and that you deserve to have your name
and contribution recognized, please contact us as well, at the
same address. This book has in many ways represented a
groundbreaking cooperation among many individuals involved
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Our goal is to continue to update and modify this book in
further editions, as part of Love Systems’ purpose of giving
men the tools to succeed with women.

Chapter 1
Introduction to the Emotional
Progression Model

The following is a brief introduction to the Emotional Progression

Model as taught in our live workshops and in Magic Bullets. If
you are familiar with it, feel free to skip ahead unless you want
a quick review. For those of you who are new, this section will
get you up to speed on some of the basic concepts and
terminology that will be used throughout the rest of the book.

The Emotional Progression Model, as it currently exists, was

developed by many men simultaneously and rigorously testing,
evaluating, and sharing tactics and techniques to attract
beautiful women. This makes us sound like technicians in lab
coats, but in actuality we were just doing what we would have
been doing anyway – going out and meeting women – except
that pooling our knowledge made us more successful with
every night.

Women and Emotional States

One over-arching principle that we recognized very early on
was that most women tend to make decisions about men,
dating, and sex based on their emotions rather than logic.
This is why men who are successful with women espouse the
principle “change her mood, not her mind” when they want a
woman to do something.

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While this is not an original breakthrough, the implications we

discovered from this are quite profound: the emotional triggers
that govern women’s decision–making are fairly consistent
across different ages, cultures, and characters. Put another
way, women’s personalities differ from each other as much as
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to relate to a woman’s unique qualities…but, the emotions you
need to unlock and some of the steps you need to take to get
there are surprisingly consistent. At the simplest level, your
best chances of beginning a sexual relationship with a woman
is to trigger four broad emotional states in her:

• Attraction: Feeling that your social value (a concept fully

explained in the book Magic Bullets) is equal or greater
than hers.

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she’s earned your attention.

• Comfort: Feeling comfort and connection with you.

• Seduction: Feeling aroused by your touch without

awkwardness or embarrassment.

Women need these four emotions in varying proportions, but,

while there are exceptions, most women need some measure
of all four.

Emotions in the Correct Sequence

A second major implication is that it’s easiest to create these
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is pretty intuitive. For example, we know that few women

could “feel aroused by your touch without awkwardness or

embarrassment” (Seduction) before they “feel comfort and
connection with you” (Comfort).

What most men do when they meet a woman whom they

don’t know but are interested in is to ask questions and look
for commonalities. These men ask “where are you from?”
and “what do you do?” and dozens of similar questions. What
they are doing is trying to build comfort. The reason why this
doesn’t work is that women aren’t generally looking to build
comfort with men they don’t know, or, if they do, they tend
to think of these men as belonging in the dreaded “let’s–just–
be–friends” zone.

We cover other reasons why these emotions, in this order, are

the crucial ones in Chapters 4–10 of Magic Bullets, the ground-
breaking book on the subject of dating and seduction for men.
To avoid the trap of “easier said than done,” Magic Bullets
also provides detailed step–by–step instructions and tactics to
explain how to develop each of these emotional states within
a woman – without gimmicks or pickup lines.

The Full Emotional Progression Model

As powerful as these four steps are, they are not enough by
themselves. It’s rare that you can walk up to a beautiful woman
and be given enough time and attention to build real attraction,
let alone all four key emotions. Similarly, your interaction with
a woman does not end the moment Seduction begins. Our
experience allowed us to apply these three “practical” steps to
go with the four “emotional” ones. Putting these all together,
we get the full Emotional Progression Model:

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1. Approaching
2. Transitioning
3. Attraction
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5. Comfort
6. Seduction
7. Relationships

Let’s take a quick look at these three new phases:

Approaching is the skill of starting a conversation with a

woman you don’t know in a way that gets her attention. It’s a
crucial one to master. Extremely beautiful women (remember,
Love Systems is designed for highly–desirable women) have
men approaching them all the time. It’s been estimated that
a normal, attractive, outgoing 25–year old, for example, has
been approached by men approximately 5,000 times in her
life. These women are quite adept at brushing men off and
will generally not give you a chance unless your skills are
top–notch.

Transitioning answers the question of “what do you do

next?” Men usually become adept at approaching fairly
quickly, but often “don’t know what to say” one or two minutes
into the conversation with a woman whom they don’t know.
Transitioning is a skill that brings the conversation to a place
where you can attract her instead of taking the unproductive
route of asking her questions about herself (which is an attempt
to build comfort too early).

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Sometimes she’ll be on the road to being your girlfriend.

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be somewhere in between. Again, through experience and
testing, we’ve been able to create a system of tactics and
techniques that allow you to guide a woman to wanting the
same form of relationship that you do, or to just have a one-
night stand without expectations. What do with your skill set
is up to you.

To learn more about the Emotional Progression Model go to

www.magicbulletsbook.com.

Here is a brief summary of some of the terms you will encounter

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Approaching – Initiating a conversation with a woman or a

group. Also known as opening.

Approach Anxiety – The feeling of nervousness most men

experience before approaching a woman they don’t know.

Cold Approach – Approaching a woman (or a group) whom

you don’t know and starting a conversation.

Cold Read – Making an observation or statement about a

stranger’s traits based on what you observe. Initially used by
magicians and psychics it traditionally involves techniques to
convince another person that the reader knows much more
about a subject than they actually do.

Congruence – Consistency of behavior to identity. If you

display personality trait X, congruence requires you act in a
manner consistent with someone with that personality trait.

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'LVTXDOL¿HU – Something you say or do that implies that you

are not romantically or sexually interested in a woman.

Embedding – The process of communicating something, usually

positive qualities about yourself, in the context of appearing to
be talking about something else.

Frame – The context under which an interaction takes place. If

a woman touches you and you playfully remove her hand and
say “no touching this early,” your frame is that she is trying
to get physical with you. Her frame may be entirely different.
The dominant person’s frame will usually take precedence.

Mixed Group – A group of people interacting with each other

that includes both men and women.

Physical Escalation – A process that takes place throughout

an interaction where we use physical contact to move things
from simple conversation towards a more physically intimate
direction. Generally physical escalation begins as playful and
innocent, then gradually becomes more romantic, then sexual,
ultimately culminating in sexual intimacy.

Rapport – Commonality of perspective, being in “sync” and

on the same “wavelength” as the person to whom you are
talking.

Transitioning – The act of seamlessly extending the conversation

off of the initial opening topic into other areas thereby continuing
the conversation in an unforced way.

Value (male) – How desirable you are to a given woman based

on what she’s learned about you.

Value (female) – A woman’s perception of how desirable she

is to men in general.

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Chapter 2
Openers

Opening is the act of beginning a conversation with a woman

or group of people who you don’t already know.

There are a number of ways to do this, varying from the casual

and sly to the bold and direct. The most important thing to
remember is that despite all the weight put on opening by
many guys, it is not a big deal. With the pressure taken off,
the simple act of starting a conversation should be successful
nearly 100% of the time. It’s what you do in the few minutes
after the opener that matters most in terms of the impression
you will make on a woman; not necessarily what you open
with. That is why we have the crucial Transitioning phase
(Chapter 3).

Some of the important categories of openers include: indirect,

direct, screening, teasing, and humorous. A full analysis
of these, and other types of openers, can be found in
Magic Bullets; our purpose here is more to organize the various
opening routines you can use.

Indirect Openers
An indirect opener is an opener that does not imply romantic
or sexual interest in a woman. Indirect openers are the most
versatile form of openers we have. They are easy to deliver,
don’t require an inordinate amount of skill, and can be tweaked
for just about any situation. They also avoid making women
uncomfortable and risking an initial loss of value because you
do not have to express overt sexual interest in the woman or
her group.

Just about anything can work as an opinion opener, but

there are certain topics that can make the job easier, such as
relationships, human nature, gossip, fashion, and new age
philosophy. These tend to work very well because they interest
most women. These are the things they think about and talk
about naturally. It’s hard for women to resist responding to
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philosophy are not good subjects for openers; some women
may respond to these narrow topics, but you are limiting your
success with many others.

The actual content of the responses you get from women after
the opener is not important. You can disregard or integrate
it as you choose, just make sure that you are steering the
interaction in the direction of your choosing and not letting
them hijack the conversation.

Below are some examples of opinion openers. After trying

a couple of these, you should be able to use stories and
situations from your own life and turn them into the same
sorts of openers. They should work just as well.

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For more on creating your own openers, see Chapter 8:

Creating Your Own Routines.

Drunk “I Love You’s”

This is a good opener for moving directly onto the topic of
relationships and setting yourself up for later more detailed
Comfort routines on your philosophies on dating, love, and
relationships.

“Hey, do you guys think drunk “I love you’s” count?”

(They respond.)

“OK, check this out… my friend Nick got really drunk last
night and told his girlfriend that he loved her, then this
morning he took it back. Do you think he meant it?”

(They respond.)

“Here’s my take. When you’re drunk you say things that you
actually mean but are afraid to say, so I told her that he
probably meant it but just need more time to say it sober.”

Sinn, Love Systems Instructor

Engaged Friend
This opener has a little drama in it and is short and quick for
stimulating interest.

“My friend is about to marry a girl I can’t stand. How do I

tell him not to?”

(They comment.)

“It’s not even that I don’t like her. I get along with her just
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couples like that.”

(They comment.)

Like you and me…

(To the woman you’re attracted to, smiling)

We’d never get along. I can already tell…

Move into a Transition or Relationship–related routine.

The Don, Love Systems Instructor

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Text Message Breakup

This is a longer routine and most suitable for younger women.

“Is it wrong to break up with someone with a text

message?”

(They will often ask how long you’ve been together.)

“It’s only been like three months. Nothing serious, but I

just received an email from her live–in boyfriend asking me
‘Are you sleeping with my girlfriend?’ I had no idea about
this guy…”

(Here you can go one of two ways based on your assessment

of the woman.)

If she seems like a potential girlfriend:

Follow–On 1 “So, obviously I need to cut her loose but I

don’t want to make a big deal out of it and get into it about
her lying to me and such, so a text message seems like the
easiest solution.”

If she seems more adventurous:

Follow–On 2 “It did seem to be going a little too perfectly.

I usually can’t just sleep with a girl for 3 months without
getting the ‘Let’s make this more serious’ talk. Now I know
why she was able to stay so casual without giving me an
ultimatum.”

LBD, Love Systems Instructor

and LXSarging

Email Read
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meet you due to the initial anonymity you have, and may
admit things they’ve done that are a bit unusual. Use this to
your advantage to “cold read” or “tease” her responses (see
important terms, Chapter 1) and move forward.

“Would you read your boyfriend’s email if you thought he

was cheating on you?”

(They answer.)

“My friend thought his girlfriend was cheating on him so

he had these guys in China hack into her email for $250…I
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should he tell her he hacked into her email or just dump her
out of the blue?”

(They answer.)

“If he breaks up with her out of the blue it’ll seem weird to
everyone. They’ve been together for like two years. But if
he says he read the email, she’ll totally turn it around on
him and make it about the hacking. That’s totally a brilliant
girl tactic. Turning it around on the guy even when you’re
wrong…”

(To the woman you want:)

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The Don, Love Systems Instructor

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Set Up
This routine demonstrates pre–selection in that you have
friends trying to set you up with people and also that you have
standards and are picky about who you date. The concept of
pre-selection is covered in Chapter 3 of Magic Bullets.

“Hey guys, how do you tell someone you’re not interested

without hurting their feelings?”

(They respond.)

“OK, check this out, I came out with some friends of mine
and my friend Mindy is trying to set me up with her friend,
and she’s cute but she’s just not my type.

What should I say?”

Sinn, Love Systems Instructor

Makeup Opener

This opener is most useful in all-female groups. Because it

leads quickly into playful teasing, it is especially suitable for
extremely attractive women.

“Hey guys, quick question, my friends and I are having a

conversation and can’t decide – can a girl tell when another
girl is wearing make up?”

(They answer Yes/No/Maybe.)

“That’s interesting because we were at drinks with our

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said ‘No’.”

(To the woman you want:) “Are you wearing makeup?”

(She responds – usually ‘yes’, especially if in a night club.)

“Oh. OK. I’m sure you’re still pretty.”

“Hold your hand out.” (Slap hand playfully.) “That’s for

cheating.”

Mr. M, Love Systems Instructor

Breast Enlargement
This opener is a bit outrageous so it’s best saved for bars and
clubs and used on women who look like they or their friends
have had or seriously considered having breast enlargement.

“My friend’s girlfriend is planning to have breast enlargement

surgery as her birthday present to him. He doesn’t know
about this and I don’t think he’ll be happy. Should I say
something to her? Or to him?”

(They respond.)

Follow–on 1 “Here’s the thing, I think her real motivation

might be that her sister just got her breasts done and they’ve
always been really competitive. But would someone really

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change their body like that just out of jealousy?”

Follow–on 2“I wonder if it’s even my place to say something

because I used to hook up with her sometimes – she’s
really beautiful but not my type, so I introduced her to my
friend. I’ve tried to stay out of their relationship, but I don’t
want either of them to be unhappy.”

Savoy, Love Systems Instructor, Program Leader

Excerpted from Magic Bullets

G–String
This is longer than most indirect openers so be prepared to
talk and tell a good story when you use this one. Don’t use
it in a loud or high-energy environment. Assume familiarity
and just start talking as if you already know them when you
use it.

”Hey guys, you won’t believe what’s going on with a friend

of mine and his girlfriend. They’ve been dating each other
for six months now, and my friend really loves her. But
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visit her mother to cool down.

While she was gone, my friend was so depressed, that he ended

up hooking up with some random girl he met in a club.

Anyway, a few days later, his girlfriend comes back, and

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the thong isn’t hers.

So she confronts my friend on this, and he lies and says

that the panties are his! And that he secretly likes to dress
up in women’s underwear. So I don’t know if his girlfriend
knew he was lying and just wanted to punish him, or if she
really is into this or not, but she said she thinks that’s really
kinky and turns her on and wants him to wear women’s
underwear around the house.

So he’s been doing this for a few weeks now and is absolutely
miserable!

So I think he should just come clean and let his girlfriend know
what happened. What do you guys think? How important is
trust in a relationship? Or do you think some things should
remain hidden, even if it means being miserable?”

Badboy, Founder, Badboy Lifestyles

Goodbye Opener

This routine is good for starting to talk about dating and

relationships. You can change the Milan modelling reference
to something more congruent to your identity; for example,
you could reference a business trip or a medical conference.
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because she says that I get off the phone really badly.
I just like to say, “Okay, I’ll talk to you soon.” I say sooner
rather than later, because with my friends, I like to talk to
them sooner.
Well she’s in Milan for Fashion Week, and she started this
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bye.’ Is that crazy?”
Sinn, Love Systems Instructor
Bar Opener
This is great to deliver at a bar, talking over your shoulder
while waiting for a drink. Don’t bother with it at malls or
coffee shops; it may come across as contrived.

“Hey, if a guy and a girl get to the bar at the exact same
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(They respond.)

“See, my ex–girlfriend was a bartender and she used to

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better at making eye contact. I bet you I get served before
you do.”

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can disturb her attention here by pointing at her collar and
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pushing her away with your forearm as she tries to get the
bartender’s attention.

Mr. M, Love Systems Instructor

Direct Openers
Direct openers explicitly express some degree of interest. They
can come in many different forms. The success of a direct
opener has less to do with the actual script of the opener and
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which it is delivered.

For more details on the practice and execution of

direct game, check out the guys at Badboy Lifestyles
(www.BadboyLifestyles.com) who wrote an excellent book on
the topic called the Badboy Lifestyles Seduction Manual. They
also offer one-on-one and small group training around the world,
where they train and coach you at malls, bars, and coffee shops
to do this successfully.

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Sinn, Love Systems Instructor

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Ajax, Love Systems Instructor

• (If she’s giving you eye contact.) “Don’t look at me like

that or I’ll fall in love.”

Badboy, Founder, Badboy Lifestyles

• “If you’re going to look at me like that, you should at

least talk to me.”

Sinn, Love Systems Instructor

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•“Are you (guys) shy, or something?”

(They respond.)

“Because we’ve been here for almost 15 minutes and

you haven’t even come over and said, ‘Hi’ yet.”
Craig

• "Here's the deal, I've been looking around this place,

and I've come to the conclusion that you are the only girl
here who's cute enough for me to talk to. So great, now
we're talking."

Brad P., Founder, Brad P. Presents

Fashion Tip
This is a ballsy opener that demonstrates value through
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of women how they would look even better to you. This must
be done playfully and with a smile. The women shouldn’t be
100% sure if you are serious or not. For example:

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“Open that up one more button.”

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amazing on them.

Train your eye to look for imperfections, but make your

commentary ambiguous, as though it’s almost a compliment.

From there, it’s easy to launch right into a routine. For example
you can talk about what and how much clothes say about people
and cold–read her right there or go in a different direction.

Kooper

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Screening Openers
Some openers present a woman with an implied challenge: is
she up to your standards? If she answers or is “compliant” to
your opener, you will be further ahead than if you’d simply used
an opinion opener. However, these openers carry a greater
risk of failure and require your tonality and body language to
be more polished. Here are some of our favorite examples:

•“Is there more to you than meets the eye?”

• “I saw you from over there and wanted to see what you
were like. What are your three best qualities?”

• “What do you have going for you more than your

looks?”

•“Why would I want to get to know you?”

•“What nationality are you?”

Humorous Openers
Humorous openers are neither direct nor indirect. You are
not pretending to have no interest in her, but you are not
hitting on her either. If you are naturally funny, use these
openers frequently. If you are not, check out our Further
Resources (Chapter 10). You can also learn the right delivery
style through trial and error.

Humorous openers are great because the humor acts

as a distraction from women wondering why you have
approached them.

Rich Girl
This opener is good for loud clubs and bars, and for environments
where you don’t want to come across too seriously.

When opening a group of women, walk up and ask:

“Which one of you is the richest?”

Then go further with “OK, you get to be my sugar mama.

But hmm.... We need someone to cook for us. Who is the
best cook?”

You can follow this up by proceeding to give jobs to each

of them.

Herbal

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Female Roommates
This humorous opener is good if you are young yourself and
talking to younger women who are still living in roommate
situations. It requires a decent amount of talking initially so
make sure your presentation skills are up to par.

”I’ve been offered this sweet place in X location… I want to

live there, BUT..... I have to live with four girls. Like four.

I’m going to get four times the boyfriend complaints; I’ll

never get in the fucking bathroom... I’m going to have to start
showering at the truck stop, and you know they’re going to
synchronize. (Smile knowingly.) Heck, I’ll probably start my
period. I’m going to have to leave the house for 5 days a month!

Did you know that’s why primitive civilizations developed

camping? All the women in the tribe would synchronize
and the guys would look up at the moon and be
like ‘The antelope are moving now, we must HUNT.’

Also... living with all those girls, I could get raped. Did you
know that 95% of guys that get date raped commit suicide
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Tenmagnet, Love Systems Instructor

Horse Girl

This opener is very much in the “Brad P.” style of a high-

energy approach that combines humor with attraction-building
material. He calls these sorts of openers “shockers.” He breaks
down how they work and how to create your own in his book
Instant Attraction, available at www.BradPpresents.com.

“Hey do you like horses?”

(She responds.)

“Hmm, I thought so. OK, check this out, when I was in

the 6th grade, there was this girl who loved horses. She
used to run around the playground for an hour straight at
lunchtime. She’d be galloping and making horse noises.
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LIKE HER!”

(She responds.)

“It’s cool. If it was me I wouldn’t admit it either. Now I’m

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I want to tell you I’m sorry for all the times I made fun of
you. See, in school I was always one of the cool kids. And
I used to make fun of the horse girl. Now I’m older and
more mature, and I feel bad. So do you forgive me?”

(She will usually mock forgive you.)

Hug, Hug, Hug.

Brad P., Founder, Brad P. Presents

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High Five Opener

This one is good for loud bars and clubs as a way to come in
at a high energy level and take over the group while adding
value to its members.

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your hand completely and say:

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This routine can be used to meet additional women. If you

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interested in them, have them help you approach another
group, like this:

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girls in here do you think would fall for that?”

(She responds.)

“How about that girl?” (Point out someone else.)

(She answers.)
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we’ll see if she falls for it.”

Now go run the routine on a second woman or group of women.

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away. If she stays too long, it just makes you look cooler.

Brad P., Founder, Brad P. Presents

Quality Control Opener

Use this opener for large groups or groups that seem to be

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but make sure there is a subtle amount of humor and self-
awareness in your delivery, so they know you are joking.

“Hi. I’m from – (name of bar/restaurant/parking garage)–

quality control. I’d like to know if your experience with
us has been average, bettter than average, or crappier
than average?”

At this point, most women will play along and give you a funny
little review of the place. This is role playing. Using the phrase
“crappier than average” communicates to the women that this
is just a fun little game.

Brad P., Founder, Brad P. Presents

Last Week’s Lay

Use this piece on more high-energy women who are having
fun and seem like they have a sense of humor.

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Potential Follow Ups:

• “Hey sorry I haven’t called, been really busy.”

• “Tell your friend I said hi and she was great too.”
• “No? Wasn’t you? Hmm, you look just this girl I had
sex with.....actually ya know, I can barely remember
what she looks like at the moment.... No, I’m pretty sure
it was you.”
Brad P., Founder, Brad P. Presents

Sorry I’m Late

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good for loud, high-energy places where indirect opening may
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Just walk right up to the group, plant yourself and say:

“Hey guys, sorry I’m late…”

Then stand and wait for a response.

Once they react and laugh, immediately launch into a Transition

routine (Chapter 3).

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Wear That
Wear That is a good, quick routine for fast-paced environments,
but can also be used virtually anywhere.

Eye her up and down, smile, and say:

“I was totally going to wear that tonight.”

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comes from.

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Dead Best Friend

This is another high risk/high reward opener that usually gets

a lot of laughs or indignation, either of which is useful. An
emotional response is better than an indifferent one.

“My best friend died… How long do I have to wait before I

sleep with his girlfriend?”

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right into a Transition routine (Chapter 3) before they even
have time to process what happened.

The Don, Love Systems Instructor

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Child Support
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It implies that you are not hitting on the women you are
talking to while simultaneously acting as a demonstration of
value if you make them laugh. Only use this opener if the
women are smiling and have a fun vibe.

This is risky, but can be effective. And it’s pretty good for just
entertaining yourself if you are sick of opinion openers.

“Hey guys, quick question. I have three child support

payments to make and I can only afford to pay one because
I like the track… And those kids don’t appreciate shit
anyway... One is to this woman I knocked up. The other
is her daughter. And there’s my ex–wife. I don’t want to
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out and bitch about it. And I don’t want to pay my ex–wife
because she’s a cunt. What should I do?”

The Don/Sinn, Love Systems Instructors

Secretary Opener

All the analysis from Child Support above applies here.

“So here’s the thing. I’ve been fucking my secretary for the
past couple months and she wants a raise. (Pause) Now, I
don’t mind that, I’m the one who taught her that you have to
give head to get ahead, but she wants her raise now, and her
performance review isn’t for another 4 months. What do I do?
How long should she have to put out before she gets a raise?”

At this point, they’re probably curious if you’re serious or

not. This is where you keep upping the ante with questions
like the following:

”Would your answer change if I told you she was

underage?”

”Would your answer change if I told you she was my

sister?”

And so on.

Eventually they will get that your story is a joke. This is when
you congratulate them on keeping up with you and having a
sense of humor. Then you can say your secretary is really a fat
40 year old man called Bubba. Often, they’ll ask what you do;
if they do, you’re already in the Attraction phase (Chapter 4).

This is a very advanced opener, and serves no purpose unless

you already have very strong game. Savoy invented it to keep
himself from getting bored running the same openers again
and again.

Savoy, Love Systems Instructor, Program Leader

DISCLAIMER: There are no secretaries at Love Systems

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as we know). More women work for the company than
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from the freezer full of vodka.

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Teasing Openers
Teasing openers are generally based on something you notice
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not be so off–putting that she is insulted.

In general, if you see something funny you can tease her

about, use it. Then improvise off of that and use an opinion
or other type of opener if that conversational topic starts to
stall.

Examples:

• If she has a large purse: ³-HH]\RXJRWDJXQLQWKHUH"´

• If she’s dressed more formally than everyone else: “Oh, my

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But I can’t believe Sarah won homecoming queen. She’s
such a bitch, I totally voted for you.”

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for protection?”

You should be able to succeed in opening nearly 100% of

the time, whether it’s with a supermodel surrounded by four
guys or an average-looking woman by herself. If you’re not
getting those results, practice until you do. Approaching
should be automatic, and you need it to be this way. The
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you to analyze the group’s reaction to you and to each other,
the nearby physical layout, opportunities to get the woman
you’re interested in alone, and so on. Being on “autopilot”
during the opener allows you do this. We strongly encourage
you to solve any problems you have with opening. If you’re
not at this level already, the resources below should get you
there. They have been thoroughly tested and reviewed, and
this book was designed to be compatible with them.

• Magic Bullets, Chapter 5

(www.magicbulletsbook.com) – free chapter download

• Sinn and Savoy on Opening

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd1)

• Brad P’s guide to Approach Anxiety

(www.BradPpresents.com/aa)

• The Don and Tenmagnet on The First Five Minutes

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd14)

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Chapter 3

Transitioning

The most recent addition to the Emotional Progression Model

is that of a Transition phase between Opening and Attraction.
There are several types of transitions; these are covered in
Magic Bullets. However, only “observational transitions” really
lend themselves to routines.

The key is to notice something about them and use that to

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continuing the conversation without appearing to be “trying
too hard.”

Cold Reads
A cold read is an observation about someone’s personality
based on truisms about human nature or on something you
observe about them. The more often you do this, the better
and more accurate you will get. Learn to improvise from the
ensuing banter and then transition into conventional Attraction
routines (Chapter 4) to move the interaction forward.

The most basic example of a good cold read is to take two

women’s responses to your opener and say:

“Ah, so you’re the good one and you’re the bad one.”

This will immediately prompt them to agree or disagree,

allowing you to engage them in a more personal conversation
that has moved forward from the topic of the opener.

Other examples:

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“Interesting… Firm handshake, limp handshake… She’s the

dominant one I guess.”

Tyler Durden’s Quickie Cold Reads:

These are good for more high-energy “party girls” in louder

club–type environments.

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Guess Their Occupation

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instead of asking questions. This causes them to offer the
real information and ask why you thought what you did, which
leads nicely into more cold reads.

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teacher/lawyer…”

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Lawyer –³<RXKDYHJUHHG\H\HV´

Don’t restrict yourself to these; make up your own based on

what you observe.

The Don, Love Systems Instructor

Girl Coding
This is a great routine for dealing with two or more women. It
keeps both the woman you are interested in and her friends
involved in the conversation, while demonstrating value by
making them laugh.

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(Wait for response.)

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“OK, throughout this interaction, you guys take on the same

postures. And you make the same facial expressions. And I
think the same eyebrows..... and you know what?

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you’re talking or whatever, you keep looking at each other
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like little shoulder strap mirrors, so when you’re separated
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(Then make look at an imaginary mirror on your shoulder

with a funny facial expression.)

Tyler Durden

Finger Length
Based on women’s responses to your opener, make a
“good girl/bad girl” type of cold read to lead-in to this routine.
Finger Length can also be used later as an Attraction routine
(Chapter 4). It’s a good routine to get you and a woman
touching each other.

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it means that you had a lot of testosterone in your system
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you want. I can totally see that.”

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That means that you had a lot of estrogen in your system
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She will start immediately asking how you know this. Say you
read it in Psychology Today. Explain what the opposite one
means as well. If she has friends, they will all want you to
examine their hands as well and/or will do it to each other.

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personality or image, like if she looks like a “bad girl” but has
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something like:

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worry, your secret’s safe with me.” (You can even punch
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the inside you’re actually pretty adventurous aren’t you?

People probably don’t normally think that about you, but
you have a pretty assertive side.”

Learn to improvise off of this routine, as it will usually provide

a rich source of material.

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Eye Accessing Cues

This routine is based on the psychological theory of Neuro-
Linguistic Programming. You can pretend to notice what she
is doing with her eyes in the middle of a conversation, whether
or not she actually does what you “notice.”

“Interesting… Are you a visual person?”

(She responds.)

“Do you think in pictures and see little movies in your

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are creative and are visually oriented tend to look up when
they think. I’m the same way.”

(She will respond.)

“We all favor different directions. People who tend to be

logical, like lawyers and accountants, tend to look to the
side when they think.” (Demonstrate by looking to the
side.)

“People who live in their emotions, touchy feely types, tend

to look down.” (Demonstrate by looking down.)

“We use all of them at different times, depending on what we

are experiencing, but you can tell a lot about how someone
thinks by which direction they favor the most. We both
favor visual orientation.”

This can be used as an easy Transition into the Lying Game

routine (Chapter 4).

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Eye Angle Transition

This routine works on the theory that eyes that are slanted
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“That’s really interesting.”

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whereas if your eyes slant upwards people tend to think
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There are two options from here:

If her eyes slant down – ³'R\RX¿QGWKDWSHRSOHDUHJHQHUDOO\

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friendly towards you but you really only let a select group
of people become really close to you?”

Or:

If her eyes slant up – ³'R\RX¿QGWKDWSHRSOHGRQ¶WDOZD\V

open up to you straight away and you only let a select group
of people become really close to you anyway?”

(She responds.)

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friends but only lets a few people into the inner circle. I’m
the same way.”

Mr. M, Love Systems Instructor

Handshakes
This routine works especially well with “warm approaches”
where you are being introduced to a woman by someone you
both have already met. It also works as a Comfort-building
routine (Chapter 6).

When you are introduced and shake hands, say:

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she shakes hands.”

Leave it at that. Bait her to ask:

“Well, what can you tell about me?”

Then say use one or a few (not all) of the following depending
on how you read her…

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grip, but not a death grip on the person she is meeting.
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a clear gaze, unwavering voice, will make eye contact,
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• “Insecure…if you are, you will seem to be trying hard to

get our approval. I’ll bet that you are generally secure in
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yourself in situations that make you feel a little unsure of
yourself.”

• “Competitive with other women…if you are, your body

language will change when other attractive women enter
the room. I can tell you aren’t one of those women who
rolls her eyes when a hot girl walks in.”

• “A girl who likes sex…if your handshake lingers or has a

sensual feel to it, you like sex. Here, give me your hand...
I’ll demonstrate.”

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you looked at your friend when talking to me that you
were making judgments about the way I am acting and
behaving.”

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genuinely pleased to meet others, and have an attitude
of “Who knows what door might open?” I’ll bet that you
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and downs, but you seem genuinely open and pleased to
meet me, so I’ll bet that you are happy in general.”

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drama out of small stuff, and from the way you describe
everyday events, I’ll bet that you aren’t a drama queen,
but I’ll also bet that you like to have at least a little drama
going on in your everyday life so you have something to
talk about with your girlfriends.”

Portray her as you want her to be. This routine is great

because there is a lot of easy touching opportunities built in.
For instance, when saying “We can tell if you like sex from
your handshake,” you continue with:

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hands the way you just did. A woman who doesn’t will have
a very abrupt handshake, like this.”

No woman wants to have others believe that she is stiff in bed,

even a guy she recently met. Additionally, this routine has all
sorts of teases built in as well. You can say things like:

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maybe not here.”

This routine also naturally segues into other cold reads.

For example, if you wanted to read her palm, say: “I’ll bet I
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lighting.”

Then take her by the hand and lead her to another part of
the bar and do a Comfort routine like Strawberry Fields or the
Truth Game (Chapter 5).

Stretch

Like opening, transitioning is a skill that you should have

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theory of transitioning and the different types of transitions
available to you. Fortunately, these are in Chapter 6 of Magic
Bullets, which is one of the chapters available for free download
at www.magicbulletsbook.com :H DOVR VSHFL¿FDOO\ GLG WKH
interview on Cold Reads as a companion to this section of the
book. With those two tools, plus The Don and Tenmagnet tying
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should be set.

• Magic Bullets, Chapter 6

(www.magicbulletsbook.com) – free chapter download

• Savoy and The Don on Cold Reads

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd23)

• The Don and Tenmagnet on The First Five Minutes

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd14)

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One of the insights of the Emotional Progression Model is that
men often don’t realize when a woman is attracted early on
in the interaction. To test for this we sometimes test if she is
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“pings,” are optional, but provide a potential shortcut. For
example:

“What nationality are you?”

“What are your three best qualities?”

“What do you have going for you more than your looks?”

“How tall are you?”

Again, an early attempt to skip to the 4XDOL¿FDWLRn phase is

optional and advanced. There’s no need to try this until you
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of the Emotional Progression Model.

If a woman doesn’t respond enthusiastically to your early

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should simply move into the Attraction phase (Chapter 4).

The Doppelganger routine below is an example of a Transition

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Doppelganger
“Hey, you know what?”

(She responds.)

“My ex used to always say everyone’s got a body double in

the world, like a perfect unrelated twin version of themselves.
Well, you totally remind me of a friend of mine I met while
travelling Australia. This girl is like your doppelganger. Her
name’s Kate but we all call her Cat. In fact, I’m calling you
Cat all night.”

(She laughs and/or says something.)

“Cat is one of the most fun and interesting people you’ll

ever meet – I mean this girl was pretty, sure, but she had
an amazing personality too. Tell me two interesting things
about yourself.”

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Mr. M, Love Systems Instructor

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Chapter 4

Attraction

The Attraction phase is where things get exciting. You’ve

already approached her. You’ve transitioned the conversation
from her wondering “why is this guy talking to me?” to “I’m
having a conversation with him.” Now we need to get her
to take the next step in her mind, which is: “I’m attracted
to him.”

There are a number of things you can do to attract a woman. The

book Magic Bullets goes over the different major characteristics
that attract women and explains why and how they work. We
don’t have time to go over all of them and how and why they
work, but we can list them here:

• Foundations

• Health
• Social Intuition
• Humor

• Attributes

• Wealth
• Status

• Outcomes

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• Pre-selected
• Challenging

Routines are one tool that you can use to convey these
characteristics. Sometimes this will be through what you say.
For example, you can tell a story about something that happened
to you that subtly communicates that you have status. We
cover this in the Bonus Chapter on Storytelling (Chapter 9).
Sometimes it will be through how you say it. Being able to
capture a group’s attention and have it focused on you (in
a positive way) demonstrates social skills and strong social
intuition. Humor also plays a big role, and you’ll see that many
of the routines in this chapter are designed to be humorous.
Some routines also give you a chance to demonstrate your
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other attractive women are and have been interested in you)
and a challenge to her. With each Attraction routine you use
or develop, think of how it can help you demonstrate these
eight qualities.

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Attraction Routines
Eyebrows Routine

This routine combines many elements at once. It allows you

to teach her something about herself and human nature,
while helping demonstrate value by showing social intuition,
intelligence and pre–selection:

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liar.”

(She responds.)

“Really… Have you done any acting? Because it’s quite

interesting… the most important part of being an actor is
having an expressive face. Looks and training are obviously
important, but an expressive face is crucial.

OK, can you move your eyebrows independently? Try it.”

(She tries to move her eyebrows independently; most

people can’t.)

“See, you couldn’t/could do comedy. To do comedy, you

have to be able to move your eyebrows independently.
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comedic roles because she has these eyebrows that are
always making this look…”

(At this point give her a quizzical look.)

“My ex–girlfriend was Russian, and she was trying to make

it as an actress, but she couldn’t quite do it, because she
had that very proper Russian face, you know, the kind of
expressionless Russian look.”

(Make a stoic face at this point.)

“Anyway, she would keep on applying for serious parts, but

all she could get was modeling gigs and dancing in music
videos and stuff like that, and it was because she didn’t
have an expressive face.”

Tenmagnet, Love Systems Instructor

You’re Probably Pretty Cool

This routine can be used to “warm” a woman up if she is
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this primarily as an Attraction routine, but it can also be used
in the Transitioning phase (Chapter 3).

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that outside of this you’re really fun and interesting person
and I know that I am too. But people can never really be
themselves in a (bar/club). I mean, look around you – its
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bitchy. Interesting thing is, someone like you is probably
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cool once people get to know you – it’s just that no one
really gets that far.”

Mr. M, Love Systems Instructor

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Burning Car

This is a simple story that gets a laugh and shows that you have
the ability to tell a good story and demonstrate personality.
There’s nothing special about this story in particular, but it’s
a good example of a short, humorous routine, of which you
should have many in your arsenal.

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walking down the street, and I see this car come up to the
intersection. And there is this thick black smoke coming off
it, and it smells like tar and burning oil. I look closer and
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hood, so I walk over, waving my hands and say, “DUDE!
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The guy looks at me (Make direct eye contact with her), he

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illustrate) And then drives off in his burning car.”

Tenmagnet, Love Systems Instructor

Penis Implant
This is a ridiculous little routine that is usually great for a few
laughs, especially in a high-energy environment. Lead into
this routine with a conversation about breast implants or any
sort of plastic surgery.

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plastic surgery done and it went really well. I mean it cost
a lot of money but it was really worth it.”

(They respond.)

“Well it’s kind of a secret… OK I got a penis implant. They

doubled my size; I’m 4 inches now.”

This routine can go on for 10–15 minutes with the women

asking to see your implant. If they are pretty heated up,
sometimes they’ll try pulling down your pants. You can just
tease them if you want or you can go ahead and whip it out if
you are so inclined.

This is a good way to turn things sexual under the veil of

humor. Start talking about what they’ve had done. If there
is a good sexual vibe going, squeeze their butts or boobs to
“check” if they are real. Say you think a woman’s lips are fake
and use that as an excuse to kiss her. The possibilities are
endless.

Brad P., Founder, Brad P. Presents

Personal vs. Relationship Qualities

This is primarily an Attraction routine, but can also be used as
a transition (Chapter 3) after an opinion opener (Chapter 2)
dealing with relationships. It also allows you to hear her ideas
on dating, which may help you make decisions about where
you want things to go with her.

“My friend has this theory about relationships. He (or she)

says that there are personal qualities and relationship
qualities.

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Personal qualities are the things that make you attracted to a

person, ‘Are they charming? Funny? Attractive? Charismatic?
That sort of thing. It’s what draws you to them.

Relationship qualities are things like, ‘Are they loyal? Do

they show up on time? Do they not sleep with your best
friend.’ Stuff like that.

When you date someone with personal qualities and no

relationship qualities, it’s passionate but chaotic and unstable.

When you have someone with relationship qualities and

less personal qualities, they are reliable and trustworthy,
but boring as hell.

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in the person you’re with, you’ll never be happy. I think
that’s true.”

The Don, Love Systems Instructor

First Girlfriend

Use this routine on a friend of the woman you are interested

in, but make sure that both of them are listening. It’s a funny
role-playing exercise that’s good for high-energy environments
where being silly isn’t out of place.

(When the friend tells you her name, say:)

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really sweet, heartfelt voice as if she has truly touched your
heart.)
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(Then you can improvise off the following material.)

“...I was 5 years old... she was 6... I’ve always gone for
older women...”

“...and she used to show me her goodies all the time... she
wanted to be a stripper.”

“It didn’t end well though... her family just moved away,
she never even said goodbye. In fact technically we’re still
going out. I shouldn’t even be talking to you.”

“This guy named Steve stole her off me... he was 7 and
wore a leather jacket. Now I have a leather jacket...”

Magnus (posted on www.bristollair.com)

The Self–Conscious Compliment

Find something you think she may be a little self–conscious
about and bring it up. Here are a couple of examples:

“Omigod! I just noticed that!”

(She asks what.)

“How adorable!”

(Now she really wants to know.)

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(She blushes and covers her face with both hands.)

Or another example:

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I’ve been looking at...wait, smile again.”

(She can’t help but smile and she’s also starting to feel
self–conscious like maybe you saw something nasty in her
teeth or something.)

“Oh....my....god...you have the....cutest little....crooked

smile!”

To make more of these, think about what things make women

feel a little bit self-conscious:

฀Height
฀Unusual smiles
฀Braces
฀Red hair
฀Freckles
฀Beauty marks

The purpose here is to:

1) Make her feel a bit self–conscious, thereby knocking her out

of her normal social program. If she is beautiful, her normal
social program probably includes men who compliment and
worship her. This changes that dynamic.

2) Communicate to her that you genuinely like her.

3) Activate old pair-bond anchors, because in a relationship

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to her boyfriend. Most boyfriends respond with something
like: “Baby, I love that about you.” By conveying the same
sort of message, you can begin to create the same kind
of bond.

It’s really important to only mention things she may be a bit

self-conscious about. Stay away from major issues like breast
size, weight, scars, etc.

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Hug Test
This routine is a great way to begin getting physical with a
woman while showing personality and sub-communicating that
you are screening for particular qualities in the women you
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as opposed to platonic, conversation, which can help you avoid
the “friend zone.”

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be sure I’m not wasting my time. Hug test.”

(She responds.)

“I have to see if you can hug worth a damn, otherwise I

have to stick you in the friend zone. So you better give it
your all.”

When you hug her she always gets a “B minus.” If she is

annoyed with the substandard rating, tell her do to it again;

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she’ll almost always give an amazing hug, for which you can
give her a reluctant “A.”

Future, Love Systems Instructor

Mock Indignance
In this routine, you pretend to get mad at her and act angrier
that you really are. You take something that a woman says
that can be misinterpreted and over-react to it on purpose. For
example, if she says that she doesn’t like a song that’s playing:

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to work out because not only is this my favorite song, but
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don’t like it and you make me feel really icky and awkward
and I don’t think this is cool and I’m going to divorce you
and I’m never going to talk to you again.”

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seconds, then wonder, then burst out laughing.

Brad P., Founder, Brad P. Presents

Masturbate in the Shower

This routine uses a classic setup/punchline structure, and can
be delivered as though you are simply making conversation.
When the punchline comes out of nowhere you will get some
good laughs. This is a good example of how humor works;
comedy often comes out of the unexpected.

“Did you know that 93% of all women masturbate in the

shower?”

(They respond.)

“Do you know what the other 7% do?”

(Almost always, they say, “No.” or they answer with

something witty, and you pretend that they’re wrong.)

“Oh…so you’re one of the ones… who…”

(Nod knowingly.)

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Director Routine
Use the Director Routine on a group so they end up seeking
your approval and following your lead. This builds attraction.
To deliver this kind of routine, you should be high-energy.
Play the role of director as you give each person a scene to
act out. For example:

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I’m the director. Here we go. OK, here’s your motivation –
you are at your grandmother’s, you just broke up with your
boyfriend, you are eating oatmeal, you are very upset, your
grandmother doesn’t care and she’s asking you to take out
the trash, and go!”

(The woman acts out the scene and you give her a critique.)

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“I thought it was good that you vibed with the oatmeal

but you gotta really show that inner struggle a little more.
Think about it, go back, come back next week and tell us
how it goes.”

(Then say to someone else:)

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high as a kite, you’re drunk off your ass. So this girl comes
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Showing her that the men in her group will follow your lead
will generally make her much more attracted to you.

Next think up a few more scenes to give to the other people in

the group. Make sure you come across very spontaneously.

Brad P., Founder, Brad P. Presents

Stripper Name
This is a fantastic routine to use after exchanging names with
a woman. It also gives you an opportunity for “call-back
humor,” which is very useful if you plan to get her phone
number and call her later. When you call and refer to her
by her “boy name” or “stripper name,” she should laugh and
return to the same emotional state as when you two met and
had fun together. You should also call her by one of these
names for the rest of the night.

“I was just talking to my dad today and he told me that if

I had been born a girl, my name would have been Amber.

Isn’t that weird? Amber is such a stripper name. If I was
a girl, I’d be dancing on a pole right now instead of talking
to you.”

(She responds.)

“Do you know what your boy name would have been?”

(She responds.)

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name be?”

(She responds. Improvise off of her answer, come up with

names for her, portray her as naughty, etc.)

Consolidated from various sources

Lying Game
This is a great follow-up to the Eye Accessing Cues Transition
routine (Chapter 3) and is similar in style. It’s great because
it creates a win/win situation. If you get it right, you’ve
displayed intuitiveness. If you get it wrong, you still have
the opportunity to teach her something interesting and have
learned something about her.

“Tell me four things about yourself. Three are true and one
is a lie. I’ll guess which is which.”

(She tells you. Take a guess.)

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(Right or wrong, she is involved and offering information

about herself. Then explain:)

“The basic idea is that when a person looks to the right they
are constructing an idea and when they look to the left they
are recalling something that has actually happened. Since
a lie is essentially a mental construction, people will often
access that part of the brain when trying to come up with a
lie and will look to the right. Interesting, huh?”

You can also move right into the Eye Accessing Cues Transition
routine (Chapter 3) from earlier and/or proceed to use
what you learned to make cold reads or have new things to
talk about.

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Lying Game II

Tell a woman you want to see how smart she is or if she’s a

good liar. Betting a drink on this game is often a fun addition
to this routine.

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is give an answer that is a lie for each one. For instance, I’ll
ask, ‘What color is the sky?’ and if you say, ‘red,’ you win…
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shirt? Where are we? What day is it? Where are you from?
What are you drinking?”

4th Question: (Stop and look puzzled for a moment and

ask…) “How many questions was that?”

(More often than not she will say, “3” and you’ve won.
Don’t forget to rub it in.)

5th Question: If she’s smart and catches the 4th Question

trick, laugh and give her a little shove and say: “Oh, you’ve
played this before, haven’t you?”

Almost without fail she will say, “No!” and laugh and then
you’ve won. Proceed to tease her about it.

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Run Away
This routine sets you up as a challenge for her, and also gets
her laughing. Like most routines, you can improvise around
this easily and do not need to follow it word-for-word.

“I’d just be terrible for you. I’m toxic. I’ll only hurt you…
Run away, while you still can, little girl.

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who’ll bring you chicken soup when you’re sick and hold
your purse for you in Pottery Barn. How about him?”

(Point to an average, dorky-looking guy.)

“He looks perfect…”

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Act like you’re going to introduce her to him, or, if you’re

feeling adventurous and he doesn’t seem attractive, actually
do so.

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Murder / Marry / Shag

– aka Fuck/Marry/Kill

This is a really fun game to play with a woman that lightens

the mood and creates great opportunities for teasing and
call-back humor. Also, you can take the woman you are talking
to and move her around the venue as you play the game, to
point out various people. This allows other women in the
venue to see you with women (implying pre-selection) and
may also give you an opportunity to be alone with her.

Put her on your arm, say:

“OK, we’re going to play a game called murder/marry/shag.

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which one you would murder, which one you would marry,
and which one you would shag – and then you have to tell
me why.”

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all of them, but tell her she has to play by the rules and then
tease her a bit for her answers and say she has a crush on the
one she said she’d marry. Offer to introduce them.

After this, it is now her turn to pick three girls for you.

Continue walking around the venue together as she picks out

three women. Then tell her which one would you murder,
which one would you marry, and which one would you shag,
and why.

Savoy has a variation on this routine where he includes one

woman among the three people he chooses for her; this tests
for bisexuality and reveals more about her.

Twenty Six, based on a Howard Stern sketch

Where She’s From

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woman is from without asking. Until you reach the Comfort
phase (Chapter 6), it’s better to make statements, especially
humorous ones like in the examples below, than it is to
“interview” her.

If a woman is of a different ethnicity than you, interrupt

yourself and say, ³,WRWDOO\¿JXUHGRXWZKHUH\RX¶UHIURP´

Guess somewhere illogical. For example:

If she’s Asian, say, “The Congo.”

If she’s black say “Korea.”

If she has an obvious German or Russian accent, say Australia

or England or Florida. You get the idea.

Once she laughs or disagrees, she will usually volunteer

the information. If she doesn’t, then you can ask the boring

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question: “Okay. Where are you actually from?”

Future, Love Systems Instructor

Answering Questions
If you are demonstrating the qualities that we went over in the
beginning of this chapter, which these Attraction routines are
designed to help you do, women will often show their interest
by asking you, personal questions. Answering these directly
may reduce the energy and tension of your interaction. When
these questions pop up in the Attraction phase, one strategy
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give the real answer. You can come off as insecure or insincere
if you avoid giving a real answer at some point.

A good universal answer to almost any question is: “Guess.”

“Fake” Answers

What do you do?

•“I work at McDonald’s.”

•“I’m a hand model.”
•“I drink a lot and contribute very little to society.”
•“I like to gamble.”
•“Sleep… a lot.”

How old are you?

•“15… My fake ID is amazing.”

•“65… Let me order. I get the senior discount.”

•“Why do you like older men?”

Where are you from?

•“My mother says I come from heaven.” – Savoy

•“McDonalds… I just got off work.”
• Tell her what neighborhood you live in. “But no, you can’t
come home with me. I hardly know you.”

Do You Have a Girlfriend?

• “No, I’m still searching for my soulmate.” (Delivered

genuinely) – Badboy

Or:

•“No I don’t have a girlfriend… I have 8 girlfriends.”

(She responds.)

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along, they are friends and I just have a lot of love to
give so I have 8 girlfriends… Actually I’m thinking about
adding a ninth girlfriend, would you perhaps be interested
in being my girlfriend?”

(She responds.)

“OK I can understand that, here’s the deal I’m going to

make you #4 right now and if you turn out to be really
great maybe you can move up. Cool?”

You can draw this routine out for as long as the conversation

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is interesting. Negotiate her future position, but don’t let

her be #1 or #2.

Brad P., Founder, Brad P. Presents

Chocolate Factory
You can use this routine to answer the question “what do you
do?” But it is funny enough that you can also roll it out any
time.

(She asks what you do.)

“I work at a chocolate factory.”

(She responds.)

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(She laughs/responds.)

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they’re into (blondes/brunettes). Want to know a secret?”

(She responds.)

“They killed Charlie and are now in control of the world’s

supply of chocolate. They’ve got the government spooked.
They own everything now.”

Mr. M, Love Systems Instructor

Smart Test
This routine is good anywhere in the Attraction phase, but is
especially useful toward the end, since it changes the tone of
your conversation to you “screening” her which is what you’ll
be doing more in the 4XDOL¿FDWLRQSKDVe (Chapter 5). Still,
this routine is light and should not come across seriously. It
lets her know that you are screening her for intelligence and
that you have standards. If she fails, just make light of it,
but don’t go overboard.

(To her friend) “I need to know if this girl is smart, what

do you think?”

(They answer. Then give her obviously false facts or lines

to see if she can tell the difference. For example:)

“Did you know that when you sleep… your heart actually
stops for 45 minutes every single night?”

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(If she doesn’t believe it, then say:)

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hang out with me.”

You can follow this up with one of the riddles from the next
routine; they work well together.

Brad P., Founder, Brad P. Presents

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Riddles
Riddles are fun Attraction routines that, like the Smart Test
above, blend into 4XDOL¿FDWLRn (Chapter 5). These are best
suited for quieter environments.

“Are you smart? Let’s see. My friend just showed me this

the other day…”

1) “Can you name three consecutive days without using

the words Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday,
Friday, Saturday, or Sunday?”

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2) “One of the main attributes of intelligence is the ability to

recognize patterns. What is the simple pattern in these
numbers?” (Write down the number: 854917632)

Answer: “They’re in alphabetical order.”

3) (Place 5 coins on the table in the shape of a plus sign

(+) with one in the center, and the four others forming
the vertical and horizontal lines, so that both lines are of
three coins sharing the one in the center. Hold another,
6th coin in your hand.)

“Now these are two even lines, the cross is perfectly

symmetrical. If I add this coin… (Place the 6th coin down,
making one line longer than the other) How can you make
the cross symmetrical again without moving any of the
original coins and only moving the new one?” She will

probably try to take the new coin off the table in which
case you can tease her for it.

Answer: Place the new coin on top of the center coin,

making it symmetrical.

You can then explain, “Intelligence is often about the

ability to see things in a different way. Most people only
see the problem in one dimension so they try to slide the
coins around into different positions and don’t think to
pick it up and use a second dimension. It’s really about
seeing new possibilities where others see constraint.”

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Use these one-liners early to avoid appearing to be hitting on

the woman. The idea is not to insult her, but rather to create
the impression that you are not chasing her.

Err on the side of being funny and teasing rather than serious
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out of your way to not come off as a hostile jerk.

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Examples:

• (If she’s short:) “I can’t hear you down there.”

•“Is she always like this?”

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• (If she’s not talking:) “<RXWDONWRRPXFK´or: “Will you

shut up already!”

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•“It would never work out between us.”

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• “I’m totally not boyfriend material. Hey, that guy over

there looks perfect for you.”

•“We are so broken up. I want my CD’s back.”

• ³<RXNQRZZKDW"<RX
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I've ever met.... (pause) or like this total weirdo. I’m
not sure which. I'm kind of curious about you.”

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Misinterpretation / Role Reversal

A powerful tool for building attraction is to misinterpret things
a woman says as her expressing romantic or sexual interest
in you. Doing this demonstrates humor and shows that you
are unique and challenging, thereby accessing two of the
“attraction switches” discussed at the beginning of this chapter.
Most of the time, these misinterpretations involve you playing
the traditional “female” role, which can frame her into the
traditional male role of trying to attract you and lead you to a
sexual and/or romantic relationship. Don’t go overboard with
this dynamic; it loses its effectiveness with excessive use.

Framing and frame control are crucial concepts in Love

Systems. For a more detailed breakdown of how to use these
to your advantage, check out Sinn and Savoy’s groundbreaking
interview on the subject (www.LoveSystems.com/cd5 on CD
or www.LoveSystems.com/cb5 for immediate download).

Some Examples:

• Don’t think you’re going to get something just because

you’re buying me this drink.

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•I don’t want to rush things.

• I don’t want to get hurt. I need lots of comfort and

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•Do you always move this fast?

•…yeah if you’re lucky.

•I’m not ready to be in a relationship right now.

• I wore my old briefs tonight to make sure nothing

happens.

•I swear, all you girls do is think about one thing.

•Oh my gosh, are you groping me?

•That guy over there looks perfect for you.

•Stop! I hardly know you…

•Let’s just be friends.

Role-playing Routines in Attraction

Role-playing routines involve giving people, usually including
yourself, characters or situations to act out. Done playfully,
this can lead a woman on an emotional journey and build
attraction.

Role-playing gets women out of the “here and now.” Most men
don’t do this, and limit themselves to conversations about the
immediate environment or each other. With role-playing, you
are limited only by your imagination. This also allows a woman
to take on a role and say or do things that she might otherwise
resist. A good role-play is like your own mini Halloween.

These routines allow a woman to be much more emotional

than logical. This is to your advantage, since attraction,
especially for women, is based on emotion, not logic. Most
men don’t know this, and don’t know how to lead a woman on
an emotional journey. Doing so will allow you to stand out and
be more successful.

Examples:
Sizzler Date

“I am going to take you on a romantic date... to the Sizzler.

And you can order anything on the menu. Even the $6
steak.”

Improvise from here (with all of these routines). Get her

involved in the role-play.

Sinn, Love Systems Instructor

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American Idol

“I’m going to get you guys a bunch of wigs and shiny clothes
and we are going to have our own American Idol contest
right here. And the winner gets to hang out with me all
night!”
Sinn, Love Systems Instructor

Street Gang

“I don’t know if I mentioned it, but I’m the leader of the

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like it. I’m going to make you my booty bitches and put you
in my rap video. We’ll put you in Daisy Dukes and have you
dance on my car when it bounces… Let’s see what you can
do. Shake it girl… Do the butt shake. Daddy likes.”

The Don, Love Systems Instructor

Angel-Devil

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a pitch fork. Now your friend here… I’d dress her up in a
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with you guys on each arm down the street… Every girl
would be jealous of you. And whenever I’d have to make a
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and the most creative answer wins.”

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Your Bodyguard
This is a great routine if she acts tough, punches you, shakes
hands too hard, or does something to imply that she is strong
or aggressive.

“Wow you’re tough, I’m hiring you as my new bodyguard.”

(She responds.)

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do you know how many people applied for this position?
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talkie.”

(She responds.)

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and they aren’t on the list you throw them out. If I go to
the bar, you lead the way and clear a path.”

Later, if anyone touches you or bumps into you, even by

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great call-back humor. (See the Stripper Name routine in
Chapter 4: Attraction.)

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Let’s Get Married

Lead into this routine by complimenting her, especially if it’s
something silly.

“I love you; let’s get married… Here’s what we are going

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midget Elvis in the 24 Hour Chapel of Love. We’ll go through
the drive through of course, I’m not made of money……No
wait, we can go inside if you want, because the girl’s family
pays for the wedding. Sweet! Oh, sometimes I think I
treat you too good. I’m going to spoil you if I’m not careful,
but I just can’t help it…And since you are paying I expect
the best. I’m going to want a tuxedo T shirt at a minimum,
because you know how I am, I want to wear something that
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a honeymoon suite at Motel 6 with a heart shaped jacuzzi
and a bed that takes quarters and vibrates. Oh, and they
better have a continental breakfast! If you try and get
cheap on me and skimp on the continental breakfast, there
will be trouble!”

This routine needs to be delivered in a playful tone. Get the

general idea from the text above, but there is no need to
match it word-for-word.

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Let’s Break Up Follow Up (1)

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previous routine, or wait until later, or even deliver this out of
the blue:

“Look I’m sorry it’s not you it’s me. I think I just need
some time to clear my head. Here are the rules for our
break up though. I can see other people but you can’t.
That includes sleeping with your friends.”

(She probably objects.)

“Hey, you are the one who is slowly losing me, so if you
want to win me back you have to follow the rules. OK, I’m
also going to expect you to do my laundry still and pay the
insurance on my car as well.”

(She probably objects.)

“What do you mean no?!? I can’t expect to ask your best

friend to pay my insurance; I haven’t even started dating
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refuse to compromise. I ask for a few simple things from
you and look how you react.”

You can continue this for as long as it’s fun. Divide household
possessions, argue abut the kids or exotic pets, and so on.

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Creepy Needy Guy

DISCLAIMER: When using this make sure you already have

some rapport and she knows you are joking and that you
are not really the creepy needy guy.

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enough social intuition (one of the attraction switches from
earlier) to know how many men behave around beautiful
women, making her feel that you understand her reality, and,
second, that you are different from such men. Use this right
after getting her phone number. Suddenly start acting like a
total creep.

It is crucial in this routine that she knows that you are joking
and playing a role.

“Wow! This is so cool. I’m so excited! This is a huge

moment. An actual girls phone number! Look I’m kinda
busy tomorrow, so I will only be able to call you like 15 or
20 times before noon, but I promise I will try to sneak at
least 10 calls in the afternoon. But the next day I’m free so
I will call you at least 50 times that day, unless you don’t
answer then I’ll call like 100 times. Wait….Why wouldn’t
you answer? Don’t you like me? Did I do something wrong?
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don’t like that I have a dog huh? Done, I’ll put him to sleep
as soon as I get home.”

This role-play creates opportunities for call-back humor. When

you do get her on the phone:

“Hey, this is (name), I was just calling to let you know

that I called my parents and told them about you. They
are so excited that we are moving in with them in their
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some monogrammed towels and matching robes with our
initials on them and I was calling because I need your middle
initial. I went through your purse last night while you were
in the bathroom but none of the cards in your wallet had
your middle name on it. I know we just met yesterday, but
I thought to myself why would she give me her number if
she didn’t like me just as much as I like her right? I mean
girls don’t just give their number out to guys they aren’t
in love with do they? Well anyway, I can only talk for a
minute I’ve got to call back the stone sculptor I hired to
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Be careful not to dwell forever in this routine. The longer you

do, the more you risk her subconsciously responding to the
role you are playing, instead of to you.

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I’m Pregnant
This is a fun routine that can be delivered either in person
(pull her in close and look her in the eye very seriously) or on
the phone for call-back humor.

“Hey, we need to talk. (Pause)….I don’t want you to freak

out, but I’m pregnant… Earlier when we were thumb
wrestling/hugging/holding hands/etc. neither one of us

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was wearing a glove. I’m not blaming you, I was caught

up in the moment too, but now we have to deal with the
consequences of our actions… It’s not funny…I mean one
minute of fun in exchange for a lifetime of responsibility.
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were the one who said it feels better to thumb wrestle (or
whatever you did) without a glove. I mean you did kinda
guilt trip me into that.”

(She responds.)

“Look, I’m keeping this baby, so you can either take

responsibility for your actions and do the right thing here
or, you can be a dead beat mother. It’s your choice.”

(If she refuses to marry you:)

“Oh, I see how it is, you’re ashamed of me. Fine, we don’t

need you in our life, but you better send that check every
month.”

If she agrees to marry you, either stage a mock wedding right

where you are, or go into the Let’s Get Married routine from
earlier in this chapter.

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Fights and Make-up Sex

This role-play can be used anytime you disagree with each
other.

“Wow, this is why we could never date.”

(She responds.)

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up breaking up for good, but I’m so good in bed you
would be calling me all the time trying to have no strings
attached sex.”

(She responds.)

“I’m serious, I know girls like you. I’m sorry I just can’t do
that. I know it’s all fun crazy sex for you, cause I’m the
human power tool in bed, but I can’t just have no strings
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my delicate feelings.”

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Smoking
The Smoking role-play can be used anytime she wants a
cigarette. It can also be used as an opener.

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Sweetie you PROMISED me you were going to quit…
Now what?”

(She responds.)

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“I don’t know if this relationship is going to work if you keep

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dry cleaning?? Lemme guess...”

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The three routines that follow can be used in the exact way.

Hair Dye
“I can’t believe you dyed your hair red/blonde/blue/black! Are
you kidding me? My mom is never going to approve. We’re
supposed to meet her tomorrow. Now what? How are we
going to explain this? We need to think of an excuse…”

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Shopping
Let her see you checking out the shoes/clothes she’s looking
at, then say:

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(Give some sexy eye contact and let her respond.)

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thinking about wearing those tonight when you meet her are
you? I told you… she’s a little old fashioned.”

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Supermarket
Look at whatever she’s grabbing:

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even like (Chicken/Cereal). What is this like the 5th night
this week? What did you do with the money I gave you for
cooking class? Are you gambling again? Or let me guess…..
Another pair of shoes, right?”

*OHQQ3,QVWUXFWRUBrad P. Presents

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Physical Escalation Routines

Physical escalation is the process of touching a woman and
making her used to physical contact with you. We start
touching initially out of social playfulness and move steadily
towards more intimate sexual touching that ultimately leads
to sex.

Touching should start at the very beginning of the conversation,

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level of touching normally goes through a progression. For
example: playful shoves and handshakes, then sitting close
with legs touching, then hand holding, then kissing, then
embracing, and so on.

We put these routines in the Attraction chapter, because

most can create the hot/cold, push/pull, punishment/reward
dynamic that can help get a woman interested in you. However,
physical escalation is a process that starts within seconds of
meeting a woman, and continues right up until sex. Here
are some sequentially escalating physical escalation tactics to
build your arsenal:

Pushing
Any sort of pushing and playful shoving is a great way to
initiate your initial touching. If a woman says something silly,
sarcastic or lame, laugh and push her on the arm or shoulder...
gently.

Important: Make the touching playful and fun. Otherwise you

will creep her out. Always be smiling when you do this.

As an opener: This can also be used as an opener. Simply

push a girl gently and look away like it wasn’t you. If she
pushes you back you probably have some initial attraction.
Proceed.

High Five/Knock Fists

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Hug/Push
Hug a woman as a reward for something she does and then
push her off of you and say:

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Again, be playful.

Hand Slap
If she does something silly or sarcastic, say:

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When she offers it up take it formally, like she is going to

curtsey and gently slap it. Then say:

“That’s for being a brat/cheating/being silly, etc.”

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City Handshakes
These handshakes are more involved versions of the High Five
Routine earlier in this chapter. Reward a woman for something
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Say: “Nice… L.A. handshake.” Then launch into some silly

longwinded handshake with 6 parts to it.

Then say, “Chicago handshake,” and make up another one.

Then, “Des Moines handshake,” and make up another…

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a lot of touching and playfulness. Obviously, change the origin
cities of the handshakes to something relevant to you and her.

Thumb Wrestle
You can thumb wrestle any time you and a woman have any
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Spontaneously launch into, “Let’s thumb wrestle,” and offer

up your hand.

Then soundly defeat her without mercy.

Variations:

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wrestle.” (Launch into a silly cold read.)

Savoy, Love Systems President and Program Leader

Go on a cocky tirade about how you were the Middle School

thumb wrestling champion and there is still a plaque of you
hanging on the wall there.

The Don, Love Systems Instructor

TV Test
This is a great routine to transition from being playful to getting
a woman imagining the two of you together as a couple. It’s also
a role-play routine. Your tone should still be fun and light.

Take the woman in your arms so that you are hugging her,
but she is facing away from you, and you are both looking
in the same direction.

“So, we’re on my couch. We’ve known each other for six

months now and we’re watching television. What are we
watching?”

Depending on her answer and how enthusiastically she

responds to the hug, you can choose to reward or punish her.

To reward her, congratulate her on her taste. You can even

move into some 4XDOL¿FDWLRQURXWLQHs (Chapter 5).

To punish her (if she says something silly or she is stiff and
unenthusiastic about the routine) shove her away playfully
and say:

“Grey’s Anatomy?! (or whatever her choice was) We’re

breaking up…”

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Spin Move
Use this routine to reward a woman for something, to move
her a short distance inside the venue, or just for the heck of it.
Say:³*LYHPH\RXUKDQG´ Take it and raise it over her head
and use it to playfully spin her around, ballroom dance style.

The Spin Move, Adapted to Steal Her Spot

The previous routine can also be used to steal a woman’s
seat or spot at the bar and/or to plant yourself more solidly
into her group. Take a position inside her group whenever
possible, rather than getting stuck standing in open space like
a stranger.

1) Tell one of the women, ³*ROLNHWKLV´ And hold your hand

out straight ahead with the wrist bent. This is a “compliance
test.” You want her to imitate your hand gesture.

2) If she doesn’t cooperate, this means that you didn’t have

enough attraction yet. You need to demonstrate more value
using Attraction material and routines from this chapter.

3) If she does cooperate, she will hold her hand out to match
yours. Take her hand and say, “Now do a little spin.” This
is another compliance test.

4) If she complies, pull her toward you, spin her around and
step into her former spot. Now you are leaning against
the bar in a power position instead of her, and she is
facing you with her back to the room.

5) With a playful attitude say, “Oh!” like you just tricked her
and she fell for it. If you do it right, she’ll be laughing or
punching your arm and calling you a jerk. Run another
routine to keep her logical mind occupied and continue
stimulating her with Attraction material.

Spin Test
A variation on these spin moves allows you to get into
4XDOL¿FDWLRn (Chapter 5) a little bit. Extend your hand to shake
hands, hold her hand way in the air and say, “Now spin.”

If she does, you know that she is interested in you, or that

she’s just a compliant kind of woman; you can proceed in
either case. When she lands from the spin, break into Thumb
Wrestling (earlier in this chapter) immediately.

If she does not spin, say:

“Wow. That was the fun test, and you just totally failed.
Watch. She looks fun...”

Turn to another woman in the group –– as long as it’s not

the one you are interested in –– and spin her. She will
usually agree to the fun test because she doesn’t want to
be thought of as “not fun.”

Look disapprovingly at the girl who didn’t spin and say:

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Trust Test
The Trust Test is a good way to move things in a subtly romantic
direction. Maintain a strong eye to eye gaze throughout, move
slowly and don’t explain whether she’s passed until the end.

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Put your palms up for her to take them.

1) Squeeze her hands. If she squeezes back, she passes.

2) Lower your hands, and if she follows with her hands,

she passes.

Then tell her if she passed or failed and that this tells you a
lot about her ability to connect with and trust people.

From then on she will generally be more responsive to physical

escalation.

Tyler Durden

Tension Test
The Tension Test is essentially a pretext to allow you to touch
and massage her. The key here is to deliver compelling Cold
Reads (Chapter 3) based on her reactions as you do so.

“OK, I’m giving you the tension test.”

Put her hands on your shoulders.

Put your hands on the lower part of her back and massage
in small circles.

Massage your hands up her spine until you reach her

shoulders and then massage them.

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As you do this, make up a cold read up based on the tension

you claim to have felt in her back. Tell her that you’ve
“discovered” she holds in a lot of emotions and is a person
with a lot of intense feelings, and proceed from there.

Tyler Durden

Arm to Hand Moving

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locations, (e.g. to go to the bar, to go somewhere quieter to
sit down, etc.) offer your elbow and lead her, arm in arm. It’s
fairly innocent.

Later, when you move again and you have (hopefully) built
up some comfort and intimacy, stand and offer your hand and
lead her across the venue holding hands. This implies greater
commitment and signals non–verbally that the relationship
has moved forward.

Piggy Back
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attracted to you, and social, nighttime environments. Move

her a few feet from her group and say:

“Stand on this chair…I’m going to give you a piggy

back ride.”

Then take her somewhere private within the venue or even

walk right out the front door and go for a walk.

You don’t need to ask her friends for permission in this case.
This maneuver happens so fast and appears so weird that
they will seldom protest.

Brad P., Founder, Brad P. Presents

Tap Cheek for Kiss

If a woman is already attracted to you and (ideally) you and
her are alone, then take a couple of opportunities to pause,
lean in a bit, tap your cheek, and wait for her to kiss it. Do
this after she compliments you or after you do something cool,
like deliver a great cold read.

Do this in a fun spirit. Don’t imply neediness, and don’t

kiss her cheek back unless she asks. She usually won’t, and
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The “cheek kiss” builds momentum toward a full makeout.

This can become especially powerful if you and her are doing
something involving repeated and somewhat unpredictable
events. For example, if you and her are playing blackjack,
point at your cheek every time you win a hand. Say “for
luck” if she seems hesitant – do this immediately and don’t

let her hesitation build for more than, literally, a fraction of a

second. Not only do you get repeated kisses and contact out
of this, but when you get blackjack, you can turn your head
slightly when she comes in for the kiss. Don’t make out with
her, unless she’s obviously ready; a peck on the lips is enough
to move the momentum forward. You’re almost assured of
being able to make out with her later.

You can use the same structure if you are both playing a trivia
game at a bar. Get a cheek kiss every time you get a question
right and turn your head for a lip peck after an infrequent
positive event, like winning the game.

Savoy, Love Systems President and Program Leader

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Attraction is a trickier concept than Opening or Transitioning.

You won’t succeed 100% of the time. Chapter 7 of Magic
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for a reason). It goes through the 8 attraction triggers, the
5 ways of conveying each attraction characteristic to a group
of strangers, and discusses the underlying concept of Value.
Value is such a critical component of attraction that we felt
it worth the type of in-depth analysis and toolkit that is
part of every volume of the interview series. There is also a
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of being able to apply these techniques when interacting – live
– with beautiful women and having a Love Systems instructor
like one of us looking on and helping you improve after each
attempt.

• Future and Tenmagnet on Value

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd16)

• Magic Bullets, Chapter 7

(www.magicbulletsbook.com)

• Love Systems Bootcamp

(www.LoveSystems.com/bootcamps)

Chapter 5
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Women become attracted to men all the time. A woman

doesn’t have the time necessary to get to know every guy she
is attracted to. So when you have good Attraction skills, you
will be able to get a woman’s real phone number in a short
amount of time.

However, when you call her afterward, there is a difference in

thinking between men and women.

Him: “She gave me her number, so she’s interested in

me.”

Her: “He was attractive but why would I see him again?
Why is he calling me he doesn’t even know anything about
me. He must be desperate or just want sex. I don’t feel like
having sex. I’m not going to call him back.”

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you again, or to have her willing to invest herself emotionally
and build comfort with you (the next phase of the Emotional
Progession Model), you need to convince her that you like her
for reasons other than her looks and sexuality. Ideally, those
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Paradoxically, the more beautiful a woman, the less effort she

will generally put into developing and demonstrating attractive

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characteristics of her personality. Many beautiful women are

accustomed to men being interested in them without having
to actually do anything. This is true even though what most
really want is a man who is challenging her, and who has
enough standards and experience with beautiful women that
he is not won over by her looks alone.

This is why we look for non-physical things as “reasons” to

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through statements that are essentially hoops for her to jump
through. Of course, if she has already told you a bit about
herself, look for positive qualities there and start with those.

If you are using hoops (see below for examples), start by

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think of themselves as having. She should be able to answer
yes to a small hoop without thinking. For example: “Are you
adventurous,” “are you smart,” “are you a good friend?”

Medium hoops require a little more effort on her part and are
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attracted, she won’t respond to your medium hoops. In that
case, go back to the Attraction phase (Chapter 4) and try
again in a few minutes. For example, if you ask her, “What
nationality are you?” she might show her lack of attraction by
refusing to jump through your hoop and answering with: “I’m
a mutt.”

Large hoops usually make it obvious that you are “screening”

her and that you are asking her to convince you that she is up
to your standards. Don’t say this explicitly of course. If she

is attracted to you and you have built momentum from her

jumping through smaller- and medium-sized hoops, she will
usually jump through a large hoop as well. If she isn’t or you
haven’t, then she probably won’t.

The result of her jumping through hoops is that you will be

able to show interest in her and give her compliments. For
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traced her whole family tree. It’s such a cool culture.”

The compliment, like the hoop, should be non-generic and

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more she will feel that she has genuinely earned your interest,
and, consequently, that you are the type of man who deserves
her emotional investment. Let her understand why you like a
given quality of hers, as in the above example, without going
overboard.

Sometimes compliments “hang” and create an awkward

feeling. You can counteract this by spacing out your hoops
with normal conversation so that they don’t come one after
another. You should also sometimes release the tension after
a compliment with a non-sequitur tease, something along the
lines of: “Too bad you’re such a dork!”

Keep this process going even after she passes a large hoop
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it down and make it more infrequent, but you will need to
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Much of the above theory and structure, as well as many

examples of hoops below, can be credited to Sinn, Love
Systems Instructor.

Small Hoops:
• “So who are you?”
• “What do you do for fun?”
• “What’s your favorite color?”
• “Are you spontaneous?”
• “Are you a good friend?”

Medium Hoops:

• “If you could go anywhere in the world, where would

you go?”
• “What do you want to be when you grow up?”
• “What nationality are you?”
• “If you could do anything in the world without fear of
failure, what would you do?”
• “Are you adventurous?”
• “Can you cook?”
• “Do you like animals?”
• “What’s your favorite book?”
• “Were you fat in high school? Because in high school,
the really beautiful girls, they could get by just on
their looks, but the fat girls had to actually develop a
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That’s a compliment.” – Tyler Durden

Large Hoops:

• “What are 3 reasons I would want to get to know

you?”
• “What would your friends say about you?”
• “OK, now teach me something interesting…” (After
having done a killer routine)
• “What are your three best qualities?”
• “If you had to pick one thing that makes life worth
living, what would it be?”
• “Is there more to you than meets the eye?”
• “If everyone looked the same what would make you
stand out?”
• “Who are you?” (emphasize the word ”are”)

Statements of Interest
Use statements of interest after she jumps through a large
hoop, or after a medium hoop that she gives a great answer
to. You may have to “release” in the latter case, as discussed
in the introduction to this chapter.

This is an oft-neglected area of dating science. So many

men are hung up on being a challenge that they forget to
tell a woman that they like her when the time is right. This is
an extremely important thing to remember to do, especially
when you obviously both like each other. If you do it too early,
it’s a big mistake, but once she’s clearly expressed a romantic
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you need to know how to reward her with a statement of

interest that is based on something other than her looks.

For example
• “When we met, you just seemed like another one of
those California blondie girls (or whatever is locally or
culturally appropriate). But now that I’ve gotten to
know you, I actually feel nervous around you.”

• “I can't believe this… Can you believe we met at

a bar?”

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curious about you.”

• “I have to hang out with you again sometime.”

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a while…”

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surprise.”

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a pretty detailed overview in the introduction to this chapter,
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system we have today.

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• Magic Bullets, Chapter 8

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Chapter 5

Comfort

The vast majority of time you spend with a woman before

your relationship becomes physical will probably be spent
in the Comfort phase. Once you’ve mastered the Opening,
Transitioning, Attraction and 4XDOL¿FDWLRn, the consistency
of whether you develop anything further will depend on the
power of your Comfort skills.

You’ve probably noticed that the further along we get in the

Emotional Progression Model, the less “generic” (applicable to
virtually all men or virtually all women) the routines become.
When you are opening or transitioning, you don’t need to
account for your of her individuality at all. By the time you
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woman’s unique personality and characteristics, and you do
so from the perspective of what you, as a unique individual,
value in a woman.

The result of this is that you are unavoidably going to need to

develop your own style for the Comfort phase. You need to
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We’re including a bunch of routines in this section so you can
have examples to start with; use these as a springboard to
make your own.

Comfort routines are generally longer than routines for previous

phases, because you are usually in a quieter and less intense

atmosphere by this point, and she is giving you her sustained

attention. Because the Comfort phase is usually longer,
routines should be more spaced out, with long stretches of
“normal” conversation between them.

Comfort routines should reveal personal things about you

and be more “real” than the shorter more showy Attraction
routines you ran earlier. Let your guard down but keep in
mind to stay away from saying anything that demonstrates
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and continue escalating physically towards sex.

Truth Game
This routine is often used right at the beginning of the Comfort
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building a connection and exchanging personal information
with a woman. The “game” itself is irrelevant; take advantage
of opportunities to tell stories or follow conversations down
paths that allow you and her to build comfort and intimacy.
Probe deeper on some of her answers. When you exhaust a
topic, you can always return to the game by saying “Okay,
whose turn was it again?”

“I have a fun way to get to know new people… It’s called the
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not allowed boring questions or boring answers; they have
to let skeletons out of the closet. Oh yeah, and we can’t
ask each other the same questions, so once someone asks
something, it’s off the table for the other person. Cool?”

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Ask personal questions. Don’t be shy. Don’t be afraid to

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if she asks you your sign or how many siblings you have.

It’s not a bad idea to introduce sexuality into the game, but
watch for her cues. If you ask a sexual question and her next
question isn’t sexual, then back off the sexuality for a bit.

Here are some sample questions to get you started:

• “Tell me a secret.”
• “If you could change one thing about yourself, what
would it be?”
• “When is the last time you felt jealous?”

Sexual questions:

• “What is the craziest place you’ve ever had sex?”

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• “What’s your favorite place to be touched?”
• “What’s your favorite sexual position?”

Strawberry Fields
This routine is an interactive thought experiment, in which a
woman’s answers supposedly reveal aspects of her personality,
like a Rorschach test. However, the goal is not to be “accurate,”
but rather to create emotional states in a woman that will
make her feel comfortable, sexual, and interested in getting
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“meaning” to her answers that will guide the conversation
appropriately.

You can either explain that Strawberry Fields is a psychological

experiment, or you can just jump into it.

“Okay… so you’re walking along the street and you come

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(She answers or usually shows with her hands.)

“Hmm... interesting… Ok, you get inside, how many

strawberries do you eat?”

(No matter what she says as long as it is 2 or more, say…)

“Omigod! X number! (shaking your head)<RXDUHVRRRR

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(She will frantically ask, “What?!” No matter what she does,

do not answer.)

“Now, what about the farmer?”

(She’ll say, “What farmer?” or “Did he see?” or something

of the like. At this point, look down and smile and just
shake your head like you can’t believe it...)

By now, she’ll be begging you to tell her. Here’s some basic

interpretation to use each time:

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high that you can’t reach them...” (Continue, and improvise
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Number of Strawberries: ³<RXVDLG[x–number], you baaad

girl, that is your sex drive. Most people say [much smaller
number than she chose] but you said [X] – oh, have mercy,
I’d never get any rest!”

The Farmer: “He has to do with society’s rules and

expectations on relationships. So you just go with your
feelings and don’t allow other people to run your life.”

Basically, you are telling her that she is highly sexual and that
she follows her feelings and not what society or her friends
tell her to do. She will likely want to live up to this, and it will
make her more comfortable with and responsive to sexual
intimacy later.

Her friends may ask you to do this routine on them later.

Try not to. If you have to do something, substitute another
similar routine like 4 Questions or Family Room, which are
given below.

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4 Questions
4 Questions is another “psychological test” that you can use to
discover things about her personality. If your reading of her is
accurate, she’ll be amazed. If it’s not, it still gets her to share
information about herself. It’s a win/win situation.

“I have these 4 magic questions and, if you are game, I’ll

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things about yourself you didn’t even know.”
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(Everyone wants to know about themselves.)

The 4 questions are:

1) Imagine yourself in a white room where everything is

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2) What is your favorite color? What are three adjectives

to describe it?

3) What is your favorite animal… Why? What are three

adjectives to describe it?

4) Imagine yourself near a large body of water... What are

your feelings? What do you do?

Answers:

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you felt x,y,z.

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x,y,z.

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said… qualities a,b,c.

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e,f,g.

You may have to probe a bit when she is answering the

questions so that her answers have enough depth for your
analysis to be meaningful. Like in the Strawberry Fields routine

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earlier in this chapter, the object is not to give an “accurate”

reading, especially based on an unproven psychological test.
Rather, the goal is to help her feel connected, understood, and
sexual. Make sure your “analysis” of her responses advances
you toward this aim.

For example, assume she gave the following responses:

1. White Room. Her responses: “Peaceful, calm, relaxed.”

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passionate.”
3. Favorite Animal. Her responses: “Dolphin – smart, free,
cute.”
4. Body of water. Her responses: “I feel excited and I jump
in and swim.”

Sample “analysis”:

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peace you feel calm and relaxed about it.”
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you stand out in the crowd.”
3. “People see you as free, smart cute, fun.”
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to just let yourself go to all the passion and excitement
and the deep connection you can experience.”

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Family Room
This is a great routine to use when you’ve started sharing
information about your backgrounds and family history. It’s
similar to Strawberry Fields from earlier in this chapter.

(Ask the woman to relax.)

“Imagine a room with no windows and no doors but with a

front and a back. Now think about your family members.
Choose a family member and put that person in the room
somewhere.”

(Then have her do this with all of her other family members
too, one at a time, and describe where they are in
the room.)

The interpretation is as follows:

“The placement in the room can be quite telling about

the relationship of the family member to the others. For
example, nearer to the front means that the person is either
the more dominant member or a pioneer in the family.
Closer to the back indicates the opposite. The proximity of
people to each other indicates closeness and vice versa.”

Mr. M, Love Systems Instructor

Three Things I Like About You

This is a great routine after you’ve been talking for a few
hours. It cements that you really like her as an individual for

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reasons that are unique to her.

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(Don’t say anything, she will ask what they are.)

³:HOOWKH¿UVW« is that you are so altruistic. I think it’s really

cool that you chose to be a nurse.” (Any personality-based
compliment will work here. See the section on Statements
of Interest (Chapter 5) for ideas.)

“The second is… that your eyes remind me of my little cousin.

She’s one of my favorite people.” (Modify as appropriate.)

“And the third I’m not going to tell you because you’re going
to stop doing it…”

Then no matter how much she begs and pleads for you to tell
her what it is; don’t ever say. Months later she may still ask
you. Just smile and don’t say a thing.

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Sleepless
Sleepless is an excellent routine, developed by Rokker, another
top Love Systems instructor. He uses it to communicate that
he is a person with purpose and direction, and that his life is
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be a part of.

“Hey, have you ever been so excited that you couldn’t go

to sleep?”

(She answers.)

“It’s funny because last night I tried really hard but I was
so excited that I just couldn’t sleep. Now normally this only
happens like the day before a big gig or show or something
but this time I guess it was just because some days you feel
like you’re the king of the world and everything works out
for you, right? It actually became quite a dilemma though
because even though I really enjoyed the feeling, I couldn’t
go to sleep. I wanted to sleep, but I also wanted to keep that
good feeling. So I ended up playing guitar for an hour in the
middle of the night before going happily to sleep… and came
up with some new material for a song I’ve been working on.
Felt really amazing to have this burst of creativeness in the
middle of the pitch black night when you are supposed to
sleep. Ever had one of those days? Feels good, doesn’t it?”

Obviously, this routine is tailored to Rokker’s individual

identity. Many Comfort routines will be like this, for reasons
explained in the introduction to this chapter. You will have to
adapt them to your unique identity. To get you on the right
track for doing this, we created a more “generic” version of
the same routine.

“Hey, have you ever been so excited that you couldn’t go

to sleep?”

(She answers.)

“It’s funny because last night I tried really hard but I found
myself smiling and being excited that I just couldn’t sleep.
Now normally this only happens like the day before a [big
presentation, I go rock climbing, etc] or something but this

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time I guess it was just because some days you feel like
you’re the king of the world and everything works out for
you, right? It actually became quite a dilemma though
because even though I really enjoyed the feeling, I couldn’t
go to sleep. I wanted to sleep, but I also wanted to keep
that good feeling, right? So I ended up [doing something
I really enjoy doing that’s high-value] for an hour in the
middle of the night before going happily to sleep…Ever had
one of those days? Feels good, doesn’t it?”

Now that you see how to adapt the masters’ personal routines
to your life, you can do the same thing with other personal
routines in this chapter.

Rokker, Love Systems Instructor

Heart Melters
Heart Melters are routines geared towards creating acce-
lerated, deep intimacy with a woman by sharing background
information and tugging on a woman’s heart strings.

Invented by Love Systems Instructor Captain Jack, they

are tailored around the idea that sharing intimate personal
information and revealing deep vulnerabilities heightens
intimacy and trust. As in the previous example, use these as
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be made into “heart melters.”

Heart Melter 1 – “Honey, Let Gramma Buy You Some

Jeans”

”I was visiting my mom the other day, she lives with my

grandma and takes care of her and watches over her to
make sure she’s okay. While we were talking I noticed my
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pair that came with holes already in them, a designer jeans
day I guess... I was wondering ‘Why does she keep looking
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After a while my mom got up to check on something in the

other room. My grandmother waited till my mom was out
of hearing range…. Then she leaned over and whispered,
“Honey, let grandma buy you some new jeans.”

(Women will often respond with “Awwwww!”)

”So I had to explain. ‘Oh, these jeans come like that, it’s
the style now.’”

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Heart Melter #2 – “$18 for the Light Bill”

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One night when I was laying in bed I overheard my mom

talking on the phone to one of her friends.

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what your parents are saying but you can tell something
is wrong?”

(She usually nods.)

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“Well, I snuck out of bed and listened through the crack in

the door.

She was worried about how she was going to pay the light
bill. So the next day after school I got my red wagon – you
know those little red wagons everybody has when they’re
kids? – I got mine from the backyard and dumped a bunch
of toys in it. I started at one end of the street and sold the
toys to the neighborhood kids. I gave my mom $18 and
told her it was for the light bill. She started crying.”

(Women have teared up at light bill story.)

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Heart Melter #3 – “First Child Brings Surge of Ambition”

”People always told me stuff like ‘Having a kid will change

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and helpless. I was amazed. ‘I have to protect this beautiful
little human. She’s really depending on me.’ I was scared
for a second but then I felt this amazing surge of ambition.
I wanted to work harder and become more successful so
that she could have everything she needed.

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It’s proven that men who have kids are more successful.
Something about having kids depending on you really
makes you stronger and hungrier for success than ever...
and when I look at my two daughters, I understand why.”

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I Didn’t Make The World; I Just Live In It

It’s important during the Comfort phase to share your personal

philosophies on life. This allows her to get a look inside who
you are, understand how you see the world and to see the fact
that you have a distinct, interesting point of view. Having a
point of view and an understanding of how the world works
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life, not an ignorant conformist lemming.

This routine is an excellent example of how to communicate

a personal philosophy on life, and help you create something
that is based on your real beliefs. There is also tons of sub-
communication in this routine. It communicates that you are
spiritual, that you set ambitious goals for yourself, that you are
one of the successful alpha males of the world, that you are
attractive, that you’ve dated runway models, that you have
a lot of experience with beautiful women, that you’re great
in bed and can be attentive afterwards, and so on. You also
frame her as being sexually open, which is great. Obviously,
you’ll want to modify this routine to make it relate to your own
life and experiences.

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more chances in life than a starving orphan somewhere.

I’m kind of a spiritual person, and I learn about anything I

can. I remember back in high school, one thing I wanted
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It’s an interesting story; I have a hard time imagining

good and evil chilling out, having a drink, and making bets
like my friends and I might do before a football game, but
it’s important. It’s an early civilization’s attempt to wrestle
with the idea of why do bad things happen to good people.
But you can’t go through life complaining about your lack
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about you.

I believe you have to take life for what it is, and take the
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certain way just because you don’t want it to be, no matter
how much logic or justice is on your side. Like, I know
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interesting and good looking I get some advantages that
other guys don’t have. It’s not really fair, but just because
it’s not fair doesn’t mean it’s not true. I didn’t make the
world; I just live in it.

Or like I have this great friend Katie, who is awesome.

She’s one of my best friends, we used to date a while ago,
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weird. She was a top runway mode for a while, and had
so internalized the idea that she was this unattainable
perfection, just because that’s what society wanted her to
be. So she always felt guilty after sex, and it was even
worse the more pleasure she had.

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orgasm with someone else, and like afterwards we were
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even when we were kissing through her tears. She couldn’t

internalize the idea that she was what she was – a normal,
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are who you are, and I’m sure you have insecurities like
anyone, but you’re much more in tune with your humanity.
[If this leaves an uncomfortable pause, lighten the mood
with something like “too bad you’re such a dork.”]

Savoy, Love Systems Instructor, Program Leader

Drugs vs. Touch Routine:

This is a good routine for a quiet area (because it’s long) in a
loud, crazy nightclub (because of its subject matter). It lets
you utilize the environment to begin building a more serious
connection in the face of all these distractions.

“Man... Look at all the people drinking water around here.

A friend of mine was really into the scene and he said that
people drinking water all the time in these kind of clubs are
usually on drugs...

It’s actually quite interesting. A side effect of the drugs is

it makes you feel affectionate, you want to be touched, you
enjoy and seek touch much more than without them. When
we are born and are still babies, we get lots of touch, we
need lots of touch to develop and grow in the right way.

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I read about this study decades ago where they took ten
newborn babies and isolated each of them in a separate
cell. The babies had everything they needed to survive,
they got fed by their mother´s milk, they had medical care,
everything... But no one was allowed to speak to them, play
with them, give them a hug, caress their head, be in their
presence for long, and so on. Human contact was held to a
minimum. The effect of this was that 100% of the babies
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a sad story, and you’d never be able to do that kind of test
today.

But isn’t that amazing? We need human touch, it is essential.

But as we get older it’s reduced, so our mind develops tricks
to create substitutes for this touch, like success. When we
experience success, it pleases us, because our mind and
body has linked this to touch, “social touch.” It’s like society
is patting your head. And you feel physical sensations of
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incredibly successful people who have it all; money, cars,
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people feel that way, but also many regular people too...”

(Most people feel that something is lacking from their lives.)

“They don’t know what’s missing so they buy more things,

do more things, and eventually, since nothing works, get
depressed. A lot of people have no one to touch them
lovingly like their parents did when they were young.
Some buy love like with prostitutes or something, but they
know it is not the same. They suffer from the effect of the
substitute... a substitute that can only work for a certain
time. I will guarantee you that these people value a real

genuine, unconditionally loving hug from a person who cares

about them more than anything their money could buy.

Drugs like ecstasy multiply this need by hundreds and make

it obvious to many of those people…so obvious that they
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life, they see that that was the part that was missing from
their life. But then it wears off and they link it to the drug
and they take it again and again. But in fact the need is
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Imagine what it would feel like if I would just lightly touch

and caress the back of your neck... Do you think it would
feel good?”

(Lightly touch the back of her neck. Don’t make it sexual.)

“Did that feel good? (The answer is obvious.) See?

A substitute can never beat the real thing...”

You can continue from here into a touching routine of some

sort, or talk about energy movement, or read books about
special ways to touch and demonstrate to her what you’ve
learned and that you might know more about her body than
she does.

Kooper

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Ideal Relationship Values

This routine is great for when you are alone, having a private and
deep conversation, particularly when the topic of relationships
has come up and sexual tension is increasing.

“I have a new theory about all relationships and what makes

up the ideal one.

First of all you need passion. This is where you have a

physical chemistry with this person, where you feel drawn
to them, you may even feel a warm feeling right here in
your stomach and maybe it spreads all over your body when
you’re with this person… where you can lose track of time
and give yourself completely to this experience…

Next you need intimacy. This is where you feel an emotional

connection with this person, like you’ve known them before,
and like you were always meant to know this person…
like this was meant to be and where you feel completely
comfortable and close… and you may feel it right here in
your heart…

Then you need commitment. Philosophers have called this

a sense of “duty”… where you feel secure, knowing that
this is someone that is here for you, that we both choose to
be together… and this is someone that you can see yourself
with now and in the future…

Now, all relationships are based on varying degrees of each

one of these elements.

For example if you have just passion, but no intimacy

or commitment, then that would be like just physical

infatuation. Like a one night stand or something… nothing
more, nothing less…

If you have just intimacy, but no passion or commitment,

then that would be just friendship. And we all have those…

If you have just commitment, but no passion or intimacy,

then that would be an empty relationship. Like a lot of
married people out there… so sad.

Then you can have passion and intimacy, but no commitment.

This is like a “romantic affair”… and maybe the knowledge
that it is something that’s now or never… or that you have
no guarantees about, makes the passion and intimacy even
more intense…

And you can have passion and commitment, but no intimacy.

That is like people who stay together because they really
like the sex.

And you can have intimacy and commitment but no passion.

That would be like grandma and grandpa who are together
for companionship, but can’t remember the last time they
did it.

And of course the ideal, as with all things… is about balance,

where you can have just the right amount of passion, just
the right amount of intimacy, and just the right amount
of commitment… well… now that I think about it, an extra
little bit more passion would be nice… What do you think?”

IN10SE

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The Shadow and the Rising Sun

Like the previous routine, this one is long and somewhat heavy.
Its creator, IN10SE, says that it is best used with women who
may be sexually repressed or who haven’t had sex in a while.
As always, memorization of exact wording isn’t necessary.
What is necessary is to convey the main themes. Here, it is
that she can let out what she is repressing. You are helping
her give herself permission to follow her passions, because it’s
not her who has these forbidden desires, it’s her “shadow.”

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darkness. And how opposites are really the same thing...just
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there are no absolutes.

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everyone has a Shadow...a dark side...a place of forbidden
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experience and imagine those... thoughts...the things that
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for and dream about...where you want to experience all
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enjoy all that life has to offer... The Shadow is a good thing,
he believed...because it brings a sense of balance.

Now, this sense of balance is very important because the

concept that whatever you repress grows and begins to spill
over into other parts of your life. If your shadow is repressed
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as the sun rises in the sky...... it gets higher and higher...
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everything that was once true has now changed...and now
the opposite is true... and the sun goes down. This was the
concept behind mid–life crisis.

It’s like the more you try to deny your shadow, the more
intense your shadow becomes...and the more intense your
shadow becomes the more you feel that underlying tension
growing within you for it to just come out ...until one day it
just takes over completely.

So balance then is a good thing.

Now what if you were to step into your shadow right now,
and see the world through the eyes of your shadow…. What
would that say about the person that you are now vs. who
you were before? What is it… that this shadow most wants
and desires right now? What do you deserve to enjoy now
in your life?”

IN10SE

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the Emotional Progression Model. Chapter 9 of Magic Bullets
provides a great overview of different approaches to build
comfort. If you’re not consistently moving beautiful women
from showing initial signs of attraction (laughing, asking you
questions, etc.) to a physical relationship, the odds are that
you biggest improvement opportunities come in the Comfort
phase. The best training for this comes from either a full
bootcamp, which is heavy on Attraction and Comfort drills
and live practice in restaurants, bars, and clubs, or from the
innovative new one-day Breakthrough Comfort seminars.
Breakthrough Comfort is a rapid form of comfort-building
designed by Sinn and Future that builds a very deep emotional
connection very quickly. It’s great if you want a woman to
fall in love with you, but be careful with this…

• Breakthrough Comfort specialty seminar

(www.LoveSystems.com/btcomfort)

• Magic Bullets, Chapter 9

(www.magicbulletsbook.com)

• Love Systems Bootcamp

(www.LoveSystems.com/bootcamps)

Phone Number Routines

If you’ve studied Magic Bullets and developed some good
routines, getting a woman’s phone number usually isn’t
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awkward ways to do this. Getting a woman’s phone number
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a woman’s interest in you. You can also slip in little elements
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to make her more likely to answer the phone when you call,
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conversation, or to make her more likely to see you again.

Do You Want Me to Call You?

One good way to get her number is to say:

“Do you want me to call you?”

This frames her response such that she has to essentially say
“Yes, I want you to call me.” This is a more powerful position
for you than simply asking for her number and waiting while
she either grants or refuses your request. This is one of those
elements of Love Systems which is very subtle but also very
important.

We Should Continue This:

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We should continue this conversation some other time.”
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Plans First, Phone Number Later

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the future, and then to get her number either right way or a
little bit later as a way of making these plans happen. These
can either be plans for that night; for example, you could be
telling a woman about a party or another venue where you
and your friends are going that you could invite her to. In that
case, you could get her phone number and tell her that you’ll
call her when you get there if it’s any good.

This is actually a less effective way of getting her to go

somewhere else with you than if you just brought her along
with you, but sometimes that won’t be an option. Either way,
you’ll have her number and an excuse to get in touch with her
very soon.

Usually we use this technique after making plans to do

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about and discovered a mutual interest in. You can get a
woman’s phone number this way even if you have no intention
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badly about this; a lot of the time, she wouldn’t follow through
with them either, especially if you met her in a bar or nightclub.
Women in these kinds of venues are very open to making
plans, because they are generally in a social mood and feeling
“in the moment” and it feels exciting and fun to be planning
future dates.

In the cold reality of the next morning, most women won’t

actually feel committed to doing whatever they said they would
– nor will they think that your commitment is necessarily real

either. You will to do some work on the phone re-establishing

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comfort with you before most women will see you again. Still,
making such plans provide a good path to getting her phone
number. For example:

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Here, give me your number; I’ll call you later on and we’ll
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“We’re totally going to this karaoke bar I know. It’s amazing

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your phone)

Call-back Humor Routines

If you know that you are going to have to phone or text her
for the two of you to see each other again, then it’s very useful
to make sure that you set up some call-back humor. This
concept, with examples, is explained in Chapter 4 (Attraction
routines), especially the Stripper Name routine. If you get to
the point where it’s time to take her phone and you realize
that you haven’t set up any call-back humor yet, there are a
couple of last-minute things you can do:

• Make her write her number on a piece of paper and then

tell her to draw her self-portrait so you’ll remember
what she looks like. Use her picture to create call-back
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second. When you call her, you can say something like:

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a really thin person. She has big ears though. Anyway, it
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• This will usually get her laughing and help her back into
the emotional state she was in when she met you. It
sure beats the utterly boring ³+LWKLVLV-RH:HPHWDW
[wherever],” line, which leads to the “Oh, hi”, “How are
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• Make her program your number into her phone. This is

a good idea anyway, since many women will not answer
the phone if they don’t know who is calling. In fact,
many Love Systems instructors will send a woman a text
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a woman has already programmed them into her phone.
Having to explain who you are to an answering machine is
a very weak move. To create call-back humor, tell her to
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you in her phone, ideally something that relates to an
enjoyable moment you shared. For example, if you had
previous role-played (see Attraction routines, Chapter 4
for examples) that you had dated and then broken up, you
can tell her to program you in as “ex-bf Joe” [or whatever
your name is]. If you can’t think of anything, tell her you
have to be “hot Joe” or something silly. The goal is to
make her smile when she sees your name pop up when
you call or text her, so she’ll be more likely to respond.

Turning Things Sexual

One of the problems many guys have is that they hook a
woman’s attention, get into Comfort for a long time, and then
it “goes nowhere.” Then it’s a quick ride off to “let’s just be
friends” land, probably for good.

We’ve covered some routines earlier that can help create

sexual tension early in the interaction. The routines in this
section make bolder moves in this direction.

Traditionally, we use these longer sexual routines later in the

Comfort phase. However, feel free to try them earlier if you
sense, or just want to test for sexual interest on her part.
We often do this. The type of intuition that Love Systems
instructors have of seemingly always knowing the “right”
thing to say, is to a large extent based on the accumulated
experience of trying different things at different times and
noting the results.

Being in Touch with Her Bisexual Nature

This routine is great for developing sexual rapport by taking
the conversation in a risqué sexual direction while seemingly
just having a casual conversation. This routine is also useful
for laying the groundwork for a threesome.

”It’s fascinating that people in society have so many hang–

ups about all these different things…”

“Hangups” is a powerful word when discussing sexuality. Use

it.

“It’s like society tries to categorize people into rigid slots.

It’s funny, some psychologists did this incredible study
where they took pornography, and showed it to men and
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•Men and men having sex

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And the straight guys liked the men with women, and of
course they liked the women with women, too.”

(They’ll sometimes test you here. Make no excuses for being

turned on by two women together. Smile and keep going.)

”But what was most fascinating, was the women... Of course

women liked watching sex between a woman and a man…
but what was surprising was that 80% of the women also
felt aroused by watching a woman with another woman.”

(Women will usually say ³<HDK , FRXOG VHH WKDW´ Some

won’t. They may be uptight sexually, worried about being
judged, or actually so comfortable with their sexuality that
they aren’t shy about things they like or don’t like.)

“So the thing is, it’s not really whether or not women are

bisexual or like ‘dykes’ or some label like that... It’s more

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and it’s how in touch she is with it, and how aware of it she
is, that’s the variable for how far she delves into it.”

Another great aspect of this routine is that if she senses that

you are good with women, and can help make threesomes
happen in a way that makes her feel comfortable, you can
stand out in her mind when compared to other men who may
be pursuing her. Don’t be afraid to talk about sex comfortably
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to lead women to threesomes, the ultimate reference is
Savoy and Badboy’s interview on the subject, available at
www.LoveSystems.com/CD18 (or for instant download at
www.LoveSystems.com/cb18). Threesomes are surprisingly
common and attainable with the right approach.

Kooper

Secret Sex Toys

This routine can only be used once you and a woman have
been talking for a while and she is comfortable with you. Grab
her purse and say:

“This thing is so small; it’s not even a purse; it’s like a

wallet. I bet I know what you got in here, you pervert.”

(Be sure to be smiling the whole time. Then open her purse
and start taking stuff out. It’s bold, but it’s amazing how
many women will actually let men go through their purses.)

(Everything you take out of the purse, accuse her of using it

as a sex toy. For example, if she had lipstick in her purse:)
“Ah ha! I knew it… This may look like a normal tube of
lipstick but I know that this is actually a vibrator. This is
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carrying this pocket rocket thing around with you all the
time, aren’t you?”

(Shake your head suspiciously. She will usually laugh.

Keep going, if the next item is a compact, say something
like this:)

“Ah ha! I know what this is… This is that new square vibrator
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really great disguise it…but I see right through it. I know
you are a freaking perv.”

Continue pulling things out of her purse until the routine gets
stale. She may try to grab her purse back, which is a great
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touching, which is a good thing, of course.

Brad P., Founder, Brad P. Presents

Kissing
The following routines are designed to take the unpredictability
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the best routines won’t make her want to kiss you, unless she
is already attracted, has accepted your touch and physical
escalation, and you make your move somewhere where
she is comfortable (e.g. usually not where her friends are
watching).

Don’t Look at Me Like That

This routine is great if there is obvious sexual tension.

“Don’t look at me like that or I’m going to kiss you.”

(She will respond with something like, “What look?”)

(Look away for a moment, then look back. She will likely
have the same look.)

(Shrug, smile and say:)

“I warned you.” (Kiss her.)

Sinn, Love Systems Instructor

Smell Beckoning
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sense of smell. I am a little crazy when it comes to the
way girls smell, and after 10 minutes [or however long it’s

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play nice together.”

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should come closer. If she doesn’t, abandon the routine.
She’s not going to kiss you, at least not yet.

(Then, a few minutes later, say:)

“Ugh. It’s impossible for me to sit here quietly and not kiss
you.”

(She usually won’t respond right away. Kiss her.)

A variation on this routine is to go directly to the next routine,

Almost Kiss instead of kissing her immediately. Try both
approaches to see which is more comfortable for you.

Future, Love Systems Instructor

Almost Kiss
This routine was developed independently but in very similar
forms both by Future and by Brad P. around the same time.
The version below combines both approaches.

“Here’s what we’ll do. We’ll almost kiss… We are going to

get as close as possible without actually kissing. Now this is
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close as possible, but you are not allowed to kiss me. And I
am not allowed to kiss you. We’re just not there yet.”

(Then move in. And do exactly what you said to do. There
is an art to this. Move close, but do not make her think you
are going to try to kiss. Your lips should be close enough
that you can feel each other breathe. Do not try to kiss her.
If you get any resistance from her, do not force the issue.
Playfully push her away and move onto another topic or
routine. Two minutes or so later, say:)

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until you are ready to do it, lady.”

Once you do almost kiss her, you can safely move in for another
one by just saying you want it.

Always break it after 2–3 seconds, even if she seems

comfortable.

After you do this about four times, a real kiss will be natural;
many times, she’ll even bring it up.

Future, Love Systems Instructor and

Brad P., Founder, Brad P. Presents

Simplicity
Going for the kiss can be very simple. If your intuition is
telling you that she’s ready to move forward, you can be fairly
direct with the right verbal intonation. Such as:

“Are you a good kisser?”

(She responds.)

“Let’s see…”

(Kiss her.)

Shhh…
Let the conversation drop. When she re–initiates, interrupt
her with:

“Shh…”

Then kiss her.

You Talk A Lot

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The Sudden Kiss

If you sense strong attraction and sexual tension, grab her
and kiss her, suddenly, when she least expects it.

The more the kiss appears spontaneous and unplanned, the

better: for example waiting a street light to change, as she
comes back from the bathroom, when she returns with drinks,
and so on.

The Don, Love Systems Instructor

Forbidden Territory
This kiss routine is best done after she’s become comfortable
with increasing levels of physical intimacy, and provides a
smooth, easy way to transition to kissing.

Stroke her hair back a little, look her right in the eyes
and say:

“Baby, this is so bad. We can’t do this... we don’t even know

each other that well…. OK look, this is the forbidden zone
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your hand.) We can kiss anywhere but here, because we’re
not ready for that yet.”

Then look her in the eyes, and start to kiss her forehead
and her cheeks, keep kissing her anywhere and everywhere
on her face apart from her lips, which are the “forbidden
territory.” Pull her face in close to yours, kiss her around
her neck and then after a minute she will start to moan and
really enjoy it. At this point, she’s ready to be kissed on the
lips. Go for it, she’ll love it.

If you have an actual reason for kissing to be “forbidden” or

dangerous, e.g. she is your sister’s friend, or her friend is
around the corner, then work that into our verbal pacing of
the situation to add to the intensity. The forbidden, and giving
into temptation, are powerful sexual triggers for many women.
Even irrelevant “barriers” can work for this purpose.

Soul, Love Systems Instructor

Text Messages
Text messaging (SMS) is a very valuable tool to help you stay
in touch with a woman and see her again.

Texts allow quick initial contact after the initial meeting

without the risk of showing too much interest. They allow
frequent contact without having to escalate into a full phone
call and make it really easy for her to respond and continue
the emotional momentum.

Initial Texts

These messages are great to send a little while after you met
her, later that day or night.

• “I know you haven’t been able to stop thinking about me

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• “Do you speak text?”

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• “Hey… Is it too soon for casual text? I mean… I barely

know you, maybe we should wait!”

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• “Stop thinking about me… My ears are tingling.”

Later at Night
• “Pssst… Are you still up or is it past your bedtime? I wanna
tuck you in and tell you a bedtime story!”

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Phone game and text game is a crucial component of dating

science. If you ever plan to go on a date or see a woman
more than once, you will need phone and text skills. Even
if you plan to focus on one night stands, good phone and
text game will still be necessary to meet up with a woman
after everyone has started to go home. The Sinn/Savoy
phone game interview is one of our best-rated, and is full
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do if you get a woman’s voicemail, how often and when
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call should be, what to do when she calls you, what to say
when she’s busy, and lots more.

• Sinn and Savoy on Phone Game

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd10)

• Magic Bullets, Chapter 20

(www.magicbulletsbook.com)

Chapter 7
Seduction
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and Comfort SKDVHV \RX DUH UHDG\ IRU WKH ¿QDO VWDJH RI
intimacy: Seduction.

If you have been effective up to this point and have steadily

increased the level and intensity of the physical contact between
you, the Seduction phase should usually be straightforward.

If a woman is not ready for physical intimacy, you’re probably

not done with the Comfort phase (Chapter 6) yet. Sometimes
a woman will want to be intimate but wants you to work harder.
There aren’t a ton of “routines” for this situation; it’s more an
area of themes and tactics. Here are two of our favorites:

Agree I
While you are kissing and getting sexual, if she says something
along the lines of, “we should stop,” agree with her, but keep
kissing and escalating playfully at the same time.

The idea is that you keep moving forward and physically

escalating while talking about how bad it is you’re doing it.
For example:

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• “This is totally too early, we have to stop.”

• “I can’t believe I’m letting you take advantage of me like

this. We have to take it slow. I need more time.”

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Whoops.”

The idea is to get her to laugh and take her mind out of her
inhibited state.

DISCLAIMER: The concept of “no means no” is

undoubtedly self-evident to almost all readers. Still,
you can get in trouble for what you write, and so, with
apologies to the overwhelming majority of readers for
whom this is beyond obvious, allow us to clarify that:

• No means no.
• “Stop” is very different from “we should stop.”
• If she resists even after you “agree” that you should
stop, stop.
• If in any doubt at all, stop. Communication is your
friend.

Agree II
A more serious version of the Agree routine above is to say:

“I totally understand. We’re still in our comfort and trust

building phase. I am really attracted to you, but I understand…
We can wait.”

Stop escalating. Have a fun conversation with her. Start the

touching again in a few minutes.

Your genuineness and sensitivity to the situation may cause

her to reassess what she wants and she will often change her
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not just interested in her for the sex.

The Seduction phase is one that can’t easily be demonstrated or

taught live. Fortunately, we can point you to two outstanding
resources. One is Chapter 10 of Magic Bullets (a book you
should have anyway) which goes over the entire avoid-blur-
distract model to state breaks and thereby pre-empting a
lot of late-stage discomfort from a woman. The other is two
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and step-by-step plans to move from the Comfort phase into
a physical relationship.

• Sinn and Tenmagnet on Seduction

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd12)

• Magic Bullets, Chapter 10

(www.magicbulletsbook.com)

Chapter 8
Creating Your Own Routines

As mentioned at the beginning of this book, the routines here

should not be used robotically but more as examples and
as a starting point to build your arsenal of original material.
Internalize the underlying mechanisms of proven routines and
create your own style so that you are also able to improvise
and develop material spontaneously. All the best practitioners
use a mix of practiced routines and improvisation.

As you’ve seen, what makes a good routine varies by phase

of the Emotional Progression Model. In this chapter, we will
go step-by-step to give you structures to design routines for
each effective phase of the game.

Opening
You really can start a conversation by saying just about
anything. What’s more important is how you say it and what
you say after your opening line. Ideally, your initial body
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says you will add value to a woman’s night (and to her friends’,
if, as is usually the case, she’s not alone) and that you’re not
just another boring guy hitting on a pretty woman. Even if
you meet someone in the daytime, when she’s alone and on
her way somewhere, the same principles apply.

Pick a type of opener that best suits your personality and the
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types of openers and see how you do. Opinion openers are the
easiest, so if you’re having trouble with these, we’ve created
a step-by-step model for creating your own.

The basic formula for an opinion opener is:

Step 1: Hook - Ask a short question, preferably on a female-

friendly topic. For example:

“Hey, guys…Would you read your boyfriends email if you

thought he was cheating on you?”

Step 2: Tease Their Answer - Improvise off of what they

say, tease her, do a quick cold read&KDSWHURUMXVW¿QG
something interesting and unique about it and comment.
For example:

“Note to self…do not date this girl.”

Step 3: Time Constraint - Imply that you are not pursuing her
and that you’re on your way somewhere. For example:

“I can only stay a minute, because I’ve got to get back to

my friends but...”

Story - Tell the story why you asked the original question
to make the opener more believable, give them more
information about the subject, and elicit more conversation.
For example:

“So my friend Chris thought his girlfriend was cheating on

him and...”

Opening Topics
A safe bet when approaching women who are by themselves
or in all-female groups is to choose topics that are known to
be generally interesting to women. Three of the best are:

• Relationships - Anything asking about what you or a friend

should do regarding a romantic relationship is always
reliable. The angle should be that you are wanting to hear
what a woman thinks about the situation. For example:
“Would you read your boyfriend’s email if you thought he
was cheating on you?”

• Social Dynamics - Non-romantic relationships and gender

differences also provide fertile ground. For example: “Hey,
if a man and a woman get to the bar at the exact same

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for mixed (male and female) groups.

• Popular Culture - Most women like to think that they are

culturally savvy and experts on popular culture. Make sure
you have a reason to be asking the question. For example:
“What do you guys think of Paris Hilton?” is uninteresting
and obvious, and whomever you ask it to will guess that you
have another agenda. In contrast, on a trip to Australia,
Sinn and The Don came up with: ³6R ,¶YH KHDUG 9DQLOOD
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of hero to you people or is it a joke like in the US?” This
opener was effective because it was situationally relevant
and interesting. Use your imagination and what you have
around you and in your life and you’ll have plenty of opening
material.

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out how to start talking to women, when in reality coming up
with openers is probably the easiest part of the whole game.

Transitioning
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6 of Magic Bullets, only “Observational Transitions” really
use much in the way of routines. This type of Transition is
based to a large extent on cold reads, which we discussed in
Chapter 3. To help you build your own Observational Transitions,
we’ve researched one of the classic cold reading studies: the
Forer effect.

The Forer Effect

The Forer effect (also called personal validation fallacy or
the Barnum effect after P. T. Barnum) is the observation that
individuals will give high accuracy ratings to descriptions of
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them, but are in fact vague and general enough to apply
to a wide range of people. The Forer effect can provide a
partial explanation for the widespread acceptance of some
pseudosciences such as astrology and fortune telling, as well
as many types of personality tests.

Forer’s Demonstration

In 1948, psychologist Bertram R. Forer gave a personality test

to his students, and then gave them a personality analysis
supposedly based on the test’s results. He invited each of them
to rate the analysis on a scale of 0 (very poor) to 5 (excellent)
as it applied to themselves: the average was 4.26. He then
revealed that each student had been given the same analysis
(which had been assembled from horoscopes):

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and yet you tend to be critical of yourself. While you have
some personality weaknesses you are generally able to
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that you have not turned to your advantage. Disciplined and
self–controlled on the outside, you tend to be worrisome
and insecure on the inside. At times you have serious
doubts as to whether you have made the right decision or
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independent thinker; and do not accept others’ statements
without satisfactory proof. But you have found it unwise
to be too frank in revealing yourself to others. At times
you are extroverted, affable, and sociable, while at other
times you are introverted, wary, and reserved. Some of
your aspirations tend to be rather unrealistic.”

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Read and learn the above paragraph. Virtually every sentence

is a starting point for a quality cold read. These themes can
also be useful in longer, comfort-building routines.

Attraction
The main goal of the Attraction phase is to capture a group’s
attention and to quickly show that you are a cool, interesting
person, without seeming like you are trying too hard to do
so.

Attraction routines should generally be short, and have a quick,

immediate effect on a woman. If you don’t generate interest
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especially if you are talking to strangers.

Some reliable sources of material for creating Attraction

routines include:

• Humor
• Psychology and Games
• Teasing
• Stories

Humor
Volumes have been written on “how to be funny.”

Most of these are useless. In the Resources section of this

book (Chapter 10) we list some of the exceptions which Love
Systems students have found useful in the past. One of these
is Love Systems instructors’ Sinn and Future interview on the
subject (www.LoveSystems.com/cd3).

Write down funny one-liners and pieces of material that you

think up or hear, and use these when meeting women. Watch

the results and adjust accordingly. Re-use the ones the work
well. Eventually you will have a whole repertoire of jokes
that you know work well through trial and error. You will also
begin to see a pattern in terms of what “style” of humor suits
you; dry vs. bombastic, cocky vs. self deprecating, and so
on. Humor is often learned in a non–logical, instinctual way.
You should also pay attention to other funny people and learn
from their choice of conversational content and mannerisms.

Psychology and Games

Attraction routines based on psychology and games include
the Eyebrows Routine, Smart Test, and various Riddles from
Chapter 3. Read widely, and keep your eyes open for material
that could make a good routine. Psychology Today and Mental
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factoids and topics. Turn these into tests and observations
that can be delivered quickly. They need not even be 100%
“accurate” as long as they are interesting (and sound true). No
one is expecting professional advice from a stranger in a bar.

Teasing
Teasing can create attraction because you appear not to be
pursuing a woman while simultaneously doing things to attract
her. Make sure you don’t overdo it. Err on the side of having
her be in on the joke rather than being insulting or making her
feel uncomfortable.

You can tease a woman for her:

• Mannerisms
• Body language
• Choices of vocabulary
• Clothes
• Age (if she is young)
• Lack of compatibility with you
• Arbitrary characteristics
• Things she hasn’t even done yet
• Etc.

The list of potential topics is endless. Use the examples

from 'LVTXDOL¿FDWLRQDQG7HDVLQg (Chapter 4) as a guide for
constructing these.

Stories
As you know, the hallmarks of a good Attraction routine is
that it is short, interesting, fun, and corresponds to a woman’s
emotional triggers. This applies just as much to stories told
in the Attraction phase as it does to teases, games, and the
like.

Rather than re-invent the wheel, we have included the very

comprehensive storytelling manual from Magic Bullets as
Chapter 9 of this book, which gives a step-by-step guide to
both Attraction and Comfort stories.

Comfort
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phases of the Emotional Progression Model. The key emotions
a woman should feel during this phase include:

฀ Connection
฀ Trust
฀ Intimacy

Connection
Especially early in the Comfort phase, your routines should
be primarily focused on building a connection. You are still
getting to know one another. The goal is to do this on a deeper
emotional level and share the important details about your
lives without the conversation becoming stale or mechanical
(i.e. the “job interview” conversation, with question after
question). The Truth Game in Chapter 5 is a great tool for
doing this, but anything that gets her to reveal intimate
facts and feelings so that you can reciprocate is good. Or,
conversely, you can tell a story in order to cue her to reveal
something about herself as well. Also, look for commonalities
(shared interests, experiences, etc.) as these help create a
sense of connection.

Some routine tools for this phase:

฀ The Truth Game

• Sharing your beliefs and philosophy on life
฀ Cold reads
• Finding commonalities through storytelling and questions

Trust
The next part of the Comfort phase is building trust and
feeling that there is a special connection between you and
her. Acknowledge that you both feel an unusually tight bond
and that she has somehow captured your attention. This can
help her trust you and show that you are not just another
guy looking for sex. You can also (judiciously) demonstrate
vulnerability - there are some great examples of this in the
Comfort chapter (Chapter 6) - to show that you trust her with
your feelings. Make sure that you do this without jeopardizing
the image she should have of you by now as a high-value
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Some routine tools for this phase:

• Statements of interest (Chapter 5)

• Vulnerability routines and stories
• Heart Melters

Intimacy
Toward the end of the Comfort phase, you need to put greater
emphasis on having her feel open to increased intimacy,
and, ultimately, sex. You’ve hopefully been increasing the
intensity of your touching and have already kissed her. Check
the physical touching routines and kiss routines (Chapter 5)
if you’re having trouble making this happen “naturally.” Your
intimacy routines should become more sexual without making
her feel uncomfortable or risking the sense of connection and
trust that you’ve built.

Seduction
As noted in Chapter 7, the Seduction phase of the Emotional
Progression Model does not necessary lend itself to a large
number of routines. Success in the Seduction phase is based
primarily on an understanding of female psychology and
avoiding “state breaks,” in which a woman logically confronts
the idea that she is going to have sex with someone new for
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able to provide enough emotional and/or physical stimulation
that she is able to “turn off” the logical side of her brain. If
you can’t do this, she probably won’t enjoy the sex very much
anyway, so this actually makes sense on a few different levels.
The avoid-blur-distract model for dealing with state breaks is
covered in Chapter 10 (Seduction) of Magic Bullets.

The unpracticed use of routines in the Seduction phase can

actually be dangerous. If you say something in your initial
approach that sounds like a “line,” you will often be forgiven.
If you say something in the Seduction phase that does not
sound genuine, you may destroy your chances with a woman.
Any Seduction routines that you create will usually be highly
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you will be able to say or do the right thing.

A Final Note
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statements of interest, role-playing, cold reads, etc.) are all
things you should eventually be able to improvise once you
understand the objectives you are trying to reach with each
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Allow yourself the freedom to be spontaneous. Qualify her based

on something she says, not just with a canned line. Create a
role-playing scenario unique to where and who you are. Say
what comes to your head naturally and see what happens.
Study the routines in this book and then learn to improvise
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make a mistake or two, but that’s how you learn. You will
improve with practice.

You must be able to build your own routines. There is no way

around this. We hope that there is enough in this book to
more than get you started. We also did an interview on using
and creating routines, which makes an excellent companion to
this book. For more advanced training, we recommend either
a Love Systems bootcamp (which is important to do anyway)
or a routines consultation. A consultation is a one-day, one-
on-one session where you work directly with an instructor like
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routines. Usually these consultations involve the creation of a
“routine stack” so you have a set of routines than lead easily
from one to another, that are personal to you and that work
well together to give a convincing picture of you and your
identity at your most attractive.

• Savoy and The Don on using and creating routines

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd9)

• Love Systems Bootcamp

(www.LoveSystems.com/bootcamps)

• Routines Consultation
([email protected])

Chapter 9
Bonus Chapter – Storytelling
Storytelling is a crucial skill in Love Systems and the stories
you tell should be less “canned” and more personal, so we’ve
decided to include the chapter on Storytelling from Magic Bullets
to help and augment the routines included in this book.

(Excerpted from Magic Bullets by Savoy)

What Is Storytelling?
Storytelling is a crucial tool in your arsenal, especially in the
Attraction and Comfort phases.

The Attraction phase is primarily about having a woman discover

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There are three ways to make this happen: she can observe
them; she can learn about them from a third party; or she can
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option as it allows you to tell a woman almost anything you
want about yourself. It also provides an opportunity for her to
observe some of your good qualities – being a good storyteller
and commanding a group’s attention demonstrates social
intuition and status, and possibly humor. These three qualities
are prominent among the eight attraction “switches” that more
or less universally catalyze a woman’s interest in a man. See
Chapter 7 (Attraction) of Magic Bullets. These qualities also
show her that you are able to feel and convey emotion.

Storytelling in the Comfort phase can help build a meaningful

connection with a woman. Stories provide a great opportunity
for her to get to know you better and should encourage her to
tell you about herself as well.

What stories you tell and how you tell them gives a woman
great insight into your personality. Make sure that your stories
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and your identity.

I’ll be using lots of mini-examples in this chapter. Often these

won’t be complete stories, or they will be exaggerated to make
my point clear. Don’t memorize and repeat them; most were
created just for this chapter for the purpose of illustrating one
particular storytelling technique at a time.

Storytelling structures can get pretty complicated, but they

don’t have to be. When I am telling stories, I focus on six key
elements:

฀ A hook line
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฀ Embedded information
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฀ Open threads
฀ A conclusion

Hook lines
A good hook line will introduce a story and give some clue
about what’s coming. It should create some suspense and
anticipation to focus your listener’s attention. Commanding
attention is especially important in the Attraction phase, when

you might be dealing with a larger group whose attention is

dispersed; in the Comfort phase, attention is easier to get and
you are more likely to be alone with her anyway.

A hook line can be a statement or a question. Some

examples:

฀ Have you ever been to Paris?

฀ I just had the craziest day!
฀ You know, you remind me of…

In theory, the hook line should be related to the story you are
going to tell. But it’s better to have an interesting hook line
that isn’t completely related to the rest of the story than it is
to have a perfectly on–message hook line that doesn’t capture
your listener’s attention.

You can use the hook line as “bait,” which is somewhat similar
to using open threads (see below). Consider the following
dialogue between two people who already know each other:

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He: Not bad. A bit tired; my plane was stuck on the

runway for two hours this afternoon. I had to go
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She: Why?

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people advocate writing your stories out word-for-word.
From teaching men in real-life situations over the past few
years, I haven’t found that this is as helpful as determinedly
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them that way. It’s more helpful to think in terms of content
themes and the emotional impact you are trying to create
than it is to memorize stories word for word. But try both
approaches and see what works best for you.

Storytelling to women is about emotions. Remove unnecessary

logical or factual detail. You only want the minimum amount
of non-emotional content to make your story make sense;
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embedding information, as explained later in this chapter).

Embedded information
Embedding means using a story that appears to be about one
subject to subtly tell listeners about something else. Usually
the “something else” will be positive characteristics about
yourself that you don’t want to bring up directly because you
don’t want to come across as bragging or trying too hard to
impress her.

Thus, what you are actually trying to communicate to her is

not the main point of the story.

Consider this example:

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strange about the city. I think I know what it is now. It’s
mushrooms. I did a show there last week and afterwards
a bunch of us went on a helicopter tour. It was really
beautiful and all, but the weird thing was all the satellite
dishes on the roofs. It was like a sea of little white patches,
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mushrooms just like the Smurfs.”

Theoretically, the story is about how satellite dishes look like

mushrooms from the sky. That’s true by the way. It’s amazing
what you can learn from a Love Systems book. But the point
of this story is the embedded information:

• The narrator does “shows” in New York, among other

places. This implies status, and potentially wealth, two
attraction triggers. In reality, it can be a trade show for
all that it matters at this stage.

• Helicopter rides are fairly routine for the narrator. To

most women, this implies wealth, and possibly status.
In fact, helicopter rides aren’t all that expensive or a big
deal; they just seem that way. Go take one so you can
tell stories about it.

Create your own stories with embedded information for the

Attraction phase. Start by thinking of events or situations
from your own life that relate to any of the characteristics
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context in which you could tell a story in which that information
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story. “Larger context” here simply means that the story is

about something bigger. In the example above, “shows” and

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New York feels weird.”

There are a virtually unlimited number of ways to embed

information. To get you started, here are some phrases or
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about you:

• “I took some friends on a rafting trip up north…”

(attraction trigger: health)

• “I had to talk my way out of that one…”

(attraction trigger: social intuition)

• “I was sailing with some friends of mine…”

(attraction trigger: wealth, status)

• “I’m sort of the leader of my peer group…”

(attraction trigger: status)

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most common embedding mistakes I’ve seen men make:

1. The embedded information appears to be out of place or

looks forced into the story.

• “I was at the Ferrari dealership to get my car serviced,

and my cell phone rang, and it was my brother, so I
told him about what happened last weekend when I was
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nothing relevant about being at a car dealership, let
alone about having a Ferrari in this story.]

2. The story is uninteresting without the embedded

information.

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afterwards a bunch of us went on a helicopter tour. It was
really beautiful, and I was surprised that I didn’t have
any fear of heights like I normally do.” [A story about
not being afraid of heights is not interesting. She’ll know
you only told the story to make yourself sound good,
which actually conveys low social intuition.]

3. The embedded information overshadows the story.

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something strange about the city. I think I know what
it is now. It’s mushrooms. I was hanging out with
my friend Donald Trump and he took us on a helicopter
tour to check out some locations for a new casino we’re
building together. It was really beautiful and all, but the
weird thing was all the satellite dishes on the roofs. It
was like a sea of little white patches, like the skyscrapers
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strange because we’re all living under giant mushrooms,
just like the Smurfs.” [No one unintentionally includes
details about building a casino with Donald Trump in a
story about how satellite dishes look like mushrooms.
Building a casino with Donald Trump is unambiguously
much more important than how satellite dishes look,
so it’s simply not credible to tell a story about satellite
dishes as if your casino plans were an incidental detail.
The more striking the embedded information, the more
powerful the story embedding it must be.]

Open Threads:
Another good advanced tactic is to leave open threads for
your audience to ask about, to spur further conversation or to
advance the story. For example, in the mushroom story, the
phrase “I did a show there last week” is an open thread. She
may ask you what you do for a living, or what kind of show
you did in New York. If you are a performing artist, you can
talk about this without appearing to be bragging as long as it
is done in response to a direct question. For the rest of us, the
only “shows” we are likely to actually do are trade shows. In
that case, replace the reference to “shows” to something else.
Maybe you were at a charity event or seeing your favorite
band. Maybe your company sent you on an emergency trip or
you were closing a deal or meeting with investors. Something
relevant to you.

Or if it was a trade show, brush off her follow–up questions and

create an air of mystery by saying “I don’t want to talk about
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new conversational subject. Run an opener if you don’t know
what to say next, but make sure there is not a long awkward
pause. Passing up easy opportunities to make yourself look
good in response to her questions can actually come across as
a positive characteristic in itself.

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monologue:

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these machines that look like they sell soft drinks, but it’s
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It tastes like a trip to the dentist. And you don’t put coins

in, either; you use your cell phone to dial a drink.”

The open thread, of course, would be what was I doing

in Japan?

Opportunities for input

A story can have a more powerful effect on someone if

they are actively engaged in it as opposed to just listening
passively. Try to structure opportunities for a woman to feel
that she is contributing to the conversation. This should be
done carefully, as she might unpredictably derail the story’s
direction or create awkward moments by being unable or
unwilling to contribute meaningfully. In previous examples,
we’ve been using elements of an Attraction story, so now
we’ll switch gears to Comfort. This story, or part of a story, is
actually true and is about my mom’s cat when I was a kid. It’s
not a routine I actually use; I designed it as a teaching tool,
but feel free to modify it for your own use if you like it. Stories
about childhood experiences are generally good in Comfort.
They can make you seem vulnerable without being weak, they
give you an opportunity to laugh at yourself, and they create
commonalities, as childhood is something you both have in
common. You’ll notice that this story has no hook line; we’ll
add that in a moment:

Cat Story
“My mom’s cat was really old and really big. He was
probably the only cat ever born without a sense of balance.
I thought being able to balance on ledges and treetops was
supposed to be part of the point of being a cat. But we lived

on an island, so maybe we had mutants. Anyway, when I

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edge of my crib and losing his balance and falling on me.
It scared me to death. It probably only happened once
or twice, but in my memories it felt like it was happening
all the time. In pre–school we all had to draw pictures of
things we were afraid of. The other kids drew snakes and
monsters. Those never bothered me, not even when my
older cousins tried to tell me there were snakes under my
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What scared me was my mom’s big old retarded cat. That’s
why today I have an aquarium. I’m pretty sure seahorses
won’t escape the tank and jump on me when I sleep.”

Now let’s play with this story to help a woman become more
actively engaged in it. The easiest way to do this is to ask her
questions about elements of your story that she might be able
to relate to. For example:

• Did you have pets growing up?

• Do you like cats?
• What were you most afraid of when you were a kid?

Many opportunities for input are set up as questions. But they

don’t have to be. The dialogue below contains an example of a
pause where the listener should feel compelled to contribute.
I also make one of the opportunities for input into a hook line.
This is often a good way of generating hook lines.

Me: “Did you have pets growing up?”

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llama’s name was Bob.” [Okay, she probably won’t
say this. When I’m creating sample dialogues,
sometimes I have the woman say something ridiculous
to emphasize that the exact content of her response
is irrelevant to what I’m going to say next.]

Me: “Oh yeah? My mom had a cat. And he hated me…”

Her: (She responds.)

Me: “My mom’s cat was really old and really big. He was
probably the only cat ever born without a sense of
balance. I thought being able to balance on ledges
and treetops was supposed to be part of the point
of being a cat. But we lived on an island, so maybe
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memories are of him walking along the edge of
my crib and losing his balance and falling on me.
It scared me to death. It probably only happened
once or twice, but in my memories it felt like it was
happening all the time. In pre–school we all had to
draw pictures of things we were afraid of. What were
you afraid of when you were little?”

Her: (She responds – but this one will probably be really

interesting and tell me a lot about her. Talking about
her response should build comfort. I can either
pursue the conversation in this direction or leave it
as an open thread and come back to it later)

Me: “The other kids drew snakes and monsters. Those

never bothered me, not even when my older cousins
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just laughed and told them I wasn’t scared. No sir.
What scared me was my mom’s big old retarded cat.
That’s why today I have an aquarium. I’m pretty
sure seahorses won’t escape the tank and jump on
me when I sleep.”

This story should have more of an impact on a woman than the

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is important. It’s hard to be listening to someone else talk
and then suddenly come up with something interesting to say.
But everyone knows what they were afraid of growing up and
whether they had pets.

By the way, did you notice the open threads: “we lived on an
island” and “I have an aquarium?”

Some general rules for inviting input:

• Make it as easy as possible for the listener

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story is going anyway.
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story going in a different direction or as training wheels
to get practice inviting input. Notional input is where
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true. For example, if you were telling a story about your
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right?” You wait for the “yes” answer and then continue
with the rest of the story.

Conclusion:
A good story should end on a high note that brings the action
to a conclusion. It doesn’t have to be a humorous punch line
that leaves everyone rolling around in laughter, but it does
have to wrap up the story and communicate that it is over.
What you absolutely don’t want is for someone to react to
your story with an expectant pause and then say “so then
what happened?”

Here are some examples of good conclusions (you can imagine

the stories that lead into them):

• “And that’s why I never drink tequila.”

• “I’m pretty sure he’s never coming back.”

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• “I’m pretty sure that seahorses won’t escape the tank

and jump on me when I sleep.”

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you learned from the experience. You don’t have to actually
say “and what I realized from this was…” although it’s not bad
if you do. In Comfort it might be a real lesson or insight. In
Attraction it more likely should be something humorous.

Delivery:
A story can take any length of time, from as little as 30 seconds
to as long as 30 minutes, or even longer in the right context.
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no one is going to listen to you for more than a minute or two
right after meeting you, so keep your stories short. Later
on, when you’re in the Comfort phase and maybe sitting in a
quieter area, longer stories may be more appropriate. Learn
to insert and remove material from your stories depending on
the situation. Many of my best stories have a “short version”
and a “long version.” This is another reason why you should
focus on the general outline of your stories as opposed to
memorizing them word for word.

Make sure you get everyone’s full attention before you begin.
If you don’t have the group’s attention, either command it
by being louder or stop talking until they are focused on you.
If you lose someone’s attention while you are telling them a
story, just stop and look at them until they focus. Or you can
playfully say: “Hey, show’s over here.”

The biggest mistake I see most men make is that they are not
“living the story.” This is another reason why it’s important that
your stories are actually related to your personal experiences.
For example, if you are telling a story about a party at your
brother’s house, you should be able to mentally immerse
yourself in the atmosphere of the party. You should be able
to see, smell, feel, hear, and taste everything that you were
sensing at that moment.

Most of this information will be unnecessary detail. You may

remember that your sister–in–law was wearing a long red

dress that she looked uncomfortable in, but if it’s not relevant
to the story, don’t include it. But you still need to know and feel
these details to put yourself psychologically “in the moment.”
This will make your story much more captivating and seem
more “real.” This is similar to how actors draw upon their
personal experiences to convey attitudes and feelings and to
create an emotional response in their audience. In addition,
having that background detail available to you makes the
rest of your storytelling better. This is similar to an author
creating extensive “backstories” for his or her characters. The
backstories are full of details that will never get into the book,
but they endow the characters with much fuller and more
interesting personalities.

If you’re not interested in what you’re talking about, there’s

no chance anyone else will be either. Take your new friends
on a journey with you through the story. Personalize your
openers, stories, and routines to things that you are genuinely
passionate about. Someone with excitement and enthusiasm
in their eyes talking about a model train set that he built (on
the surface, not that fascinating to most women) will get far
better results than someone going through the motions of
talking about his career as a movie producer.

Insert pauses strategically in your stories. They create tension

and anticipation. Using the stories we looked at previously in
this chapter, I’ve added a couple of potential pauses. Often
pauses will come while you’re addressing facts as opposed to
emotions:

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something strange about the city. I think I know what it

is now. [pause] It’s mushrooms. [pause] I did a show

there last week and afterwards…”

• “My mom’s cat was really old and really big. He was
probably the only cat ever born [pause] without a sense
of balance.”

Storytelling is a vitally important skill, not just in dating

science but for any aspect of your life. Sinn and Future are
both experts (both have worked as stand-up comedians)
on the theory and practice of storytelling and humor, and
we highly recommend their interview. Most Love Systems
bootcamps include at least one storytelling exercise, where
instructors like us help you take experiences from your life
and turn them into attraction or comfort routines. If you
haven’t taken a bootcamp, we both strongly recommend
it. All Love Systems instructors were once students, and
it’s typical to see most skilled men in dating science being
bootcamp alumni. If a bootcamp isn’t feasible, some Love
Systems instructors do one-day one-on-one work, and can
work with you on your storytelling and other skills (as well
as practicing at restaurants, malls, lounges, and bars with
whatever beautiful women happen to be there).

• Sinn and Future on Storytelling and Humor

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd3)

• Love Systems Bootcamp

(www.LoveSystems.com/bootcamps)

• One-on-one with instructors

([email protected])

Further Resources

This book is a great tool, and we strongly doubt that a better

routines manual will ever be created.

However, routines by themselves won’t make a beautiful

woman fall for you. They’re a tool, and an important one, but
they need to be used in the context of a system. And once
you’ve mastered a system, you’ll realize that a routine isn’t
always the right tool. There are other tools you will want to
learn. Your goal is to succeed with women, not to master
routines.

In general, this is how you should be thinking of your skills

after reading this book:

1. An overall system
2. Workshops and training
3. Advanced material
4. Routines on video
5. Keep up to date

1. An overall system – Magic Bullets

The routines in this book were selected and designed to be
used in the Magic Bullets structure. Routines without a system
may yield the occasional success, but you’re hardly using
them to anything like their full potential. Most of you have
probably read Magic Bullets, so you can skip the rest of this
section, but if you haven’t, head over to the Magic Bullets page

(www.magicbulletsbook.com) and pick it up (or download the

free chapters).

Magic Bullets is the quintessential guide to dating science today,

and is the Love Systems “bible.” It’s also a living book, in that
we are constantly experimenting and pushing the frontiers of
knowledge, and new discoveries get added to future versions
of the book. If you bought a legal copy of the book, these
updated versions are sent to you, for free, automatically.

In addition, if you are interested in “Direct Game,” you

should also check out the Badboy Lifestyles Seduction Guide
( h t t p : / / w w w. b a d b o y l i f e s t y l e s . c o m / w e b U I / e b o o k / )
and the accompanying 3-CD set “Badboy Style”
(www.badboylifestyles.com/bbstyle).

2. Workshops and training

You can read about it, see it, and hear it, but there’s really no
substitute for actually doing it.

Live training usually involves three things:

• Intensive classroom seminars, with individualized feedback

on your fashion, identity, routines, and rigorous drills and
exercises to practice opening and approaching, storytelling,
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• Approaching and attempting to seduce random beautiful

women, over and over, anywhere from coffee shops to bars.
A professional dating coach will watch and listen and tell
you after each approach what you did right and wrong and

how to improve for the next one. And you’ll keep doing it
until you improve.

• Watching and listening to a master dating coach at work, as

he demonstrates various techniques and gives you behaviors
and strategies to model. You can see how a master dating
coach can attract even the most unapproachable women -
live. This is important. If you don’t know what solid game
really looks like, it’s very hard to develop it for yourself.

All of the workshops listed below include 3 days of seminar

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out to meet and practice on beautiful women), and a money-
back guarantee.

• Love Systems (www.lovesystems.com/bootcamps)

The authors of this book, and many of the contributors
to it, are Love Systems instructors. These are the top
dating coaches and workshops available today.

• Brad P. Presents! (www.bradppresents.com/training)

Brad P. (and one of his assistants, Glenn P.) have a number
of routines scattered in the book. Their workshops
consistently garner great reviews. Savoy has sat in on a
Brad P. Presents! workshop and can personally vouch for
its effectiveness.

• Badboy Lifestyles (www.badboylifestyles.com/workshops)

Badboy Lifestyles trainers are masters of “direct game.”
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without hiding your intentions, and make her fall for you.
Both of us have sat in on at least one Badboy Lifestyles
workshop and were blown away.

All three of these organizations also offer individualized or one-

on-one training. This is more expensive, but may be more
convenient for some people.

It’s easy to postpone attending a workshop. They’re not cheap

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that this is a mistake. Both of us are former workshop students,
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day of the workshop, you will probably be blown away by the
instructors’ skills. Don’t be. They were once in your chair. If
you learn from them and practice what you’ve learned, your
skills can equal or exceed theirs. We’ve seen this happen over
and over; that’s how we recruit new instructors.

There’s never a perfect time to take a workshop. There’s always

a reason not to. Part of dating science is internal transformation,
and that includes seizing the moment. If you’re serious about
having beautiful women as a normal and easy part of your life,
then make it happen. Now. Waiting a year just means that
you will have one year less to enjoy your new skills once you
develop them. You don’t get extra time at the end to enjoy
your life just because you were late getting started.

Another pitfall some people fall into is waiting to take a

workshop until their skills improve. This is backward. The
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than the progress they made before one. And you should have
the results you want now, or in a few months, as opposed to
some distant future point.

If you’ve read this book and Magic Bullets, start planning your
workshop now. Pick a date. Sign up. Pay your deposit. Make
it happen for real.

3. Selected advanced material

By far the best source of advanced material is a monthly audio
program creatively known as The Interview Series. Every
month, two of the world’s top dating coaches are interviewed
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Seduction or from Phone Game to Threesomes. It’s a unique
product, since every topic gets treated in tremendous depth,
from at least two perspectives, and there’s an opportunity to
hear the tonality and delivery that the masters use in different
situations.

We strongly recommend subscribing to the interview series

at www.LoveSystems.com/ivs. It’s $24.99 per month plus
shipping.

When you subscribe, you will be sent the current month’s

interview, and a new interview every month afterward. So
you don’t have to start back at CD#1, but all of the previous
interviews do make an excellent home study library for an
amazing number of different topics.

That being said, it’s much cheaper to subscribe (about 50%

off). Plus subscribers get the interviews usually several months
before everyone else, and other goodies including their own
mailing list and bonus content.

Other than getting Magic Bullets, this is the single most

important thing you can do right now:

www.Lovesystems.com/ivs

Advanced material, by topic

In this section, we’ve also combined all of these previous

interviews with some other resources we recommend, and
sorted them by topic. For anything you are having trouble
with or want to improve, you can go straight to the source.

Approaching and Transitioning:

• Sinn and Savoy on Opening

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd1)

• “Instant Attraction” by Brad P.

(www.BradPpresents.com/instantattraction)

• The Don and Tenmagnet on The First Five Minutes

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd14)

• How to Handle Approach Anxiety

(www.BradPpresents.com/aa)

Attraction:

• Future and Tenmagnet on Value

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd16)

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(www.LoveSystems.com/cd8)

Comfort:

• Breakthrough Comfort specialty seminar

(www.LoveSystems.com/btcomfort)

Seduction:

• Interview with Sinn and Tenmagnet on Seduction

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd12)

Relationships:

• Relationship Management DVDs from Savoy

(www.LoveSystems.com/rm, coming in Spring 2008)

Meeting women in bars and clubs:

• Savoy and The Don on Advanced Winging

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd21)

• Moxie and Future on Obstacles and Other Men

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd7)

• Social Circle club game by Brad P.

(www.BradPpresents.com/socialcircle)

Meeting women outside of bars and clubs:

• Savoy and Tenmagnet on Warm Approach

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd13)

• Savoy and Badboy on Social Circles

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd20)

• Day Game seminar

(www.LoveSystems.com/daygame)

Humor:

• Sinn and Future on Storytelling and Humor

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd3)

• Mainstream humor books and DVDs that have been

recommended by past students:
° Humor Theory: Formula of Laughter by Igor
Krichtafovitch
° True and False: Heresy and Common Sense
for the Actor by David Mamet
° Three Uses of the Knife by David Mamet
° Comedian (movie) by Jerry Seinfeld

Phone Game:

• Sinn and Savoy on Phone Game:

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd10)

Dates:

• Ajax and Future on Dates:

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd4)

• Planning the perfect date, by Brad P.:

(www.bradPpresents.com/perfectdate)

Fashion and Identity:

• Brad P.’s fashion bible:

(www.bradPpresents.com/fashionbible)

• Tenmagnet, Sinn, and Future on Identity:

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd6)

Advanced Strategies - Important:

• Sinn and Savoy on Frame Control:

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd5)

• Savoy and Brad P. on Taking Chances:

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd15)

• Sinn and The Don on Physical Escalation and Kissing:

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd11)

• Savoy and Speer on Damage Control:

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd22)

• Underground Dating Seminar CDs:

(www.bradppresents.com/udscds)

One Night Stands:

• One Night Stand seminars:

(www.LoveSystems.com/ons)

• Brad P. “Pheremone Kid” 3-CD set and step-by-step guide:

(www.bradppresents.com/pheremonekid)

Threesomes:

• Savoy and Badboy on Threesomes

(www.LoveSystems.com/cd18)

• Brad P.’s threesomes CD set

(www.bradPpresents.com/threesomes)

4. Routines on Video
We have a great DVD resource available to you from the
producers of FastSeduction.com. As you develop your routine
arsenal, it is natural that you may want to see and hear them
being delivered so you know how they are done. That is
where routines on video come into play.

“The Art of the Pickup: Tactics and Techniques”

This DVD set is a video companion to the Routines Manual,

created with the primary purpose of taking your skills with
routines to the next level. It is produced in a unique educational
DVD format, developed by the founders of FastSeduction.com
and MindWorks Productions. Here is just some of what you
will get:

• Over 100 of the top routines and variations.

• Video explanation of “How to Create Your Own Routines”
• Bonus audio commentary on routines by Jay Valens and
Ray Devans, the co-founders of FastSeduction.com, and
professional narration throughout all scenes
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emphasis
• Alternate scenes for dealing with resistance and pitfalls

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step
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technology.
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feature in “The Matrix” DVD).

Here is what Brad P. had to say about the original “The Art of
the Pickup” DVD set:

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well thought out visualization of cutting edge seduction
theory being put into practice. It’s perfect for those who are
just starting to learn. I thought the explanation of “getting
physical” was particularly useful, as this is often one of the
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In “The Art of the Pickup: Tactics and Techniques,” each

routine and tactic is brought to you as a complete experience,
intended to be its own learning package. You can concentrate
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with, and watch it over and over again until you have perfectly
internalized the body language, timing, delivery, tonality, the
sequence of words - in short everything you need to get it
down perfectly for when you deliver it in real life.

For more information, check out:

www.artofthepickup.com/routinesbook

5. Keep up to date
The best way to keep up to date with new developments in
dating science is of course to subscribe to the Interview Series
(www.LoveSystems.com/ivs). But that’s not the only source
of continuing information and resources. In fact, there are
three good places to check out.

• The Attraction Forums (www.theattractionforums.com). This

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masters, to share information and ask questions to others,
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• The Love Systems Publications Library

(www.lovesystems.com/publications). Many of the best
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grows every week. It’s a great database for the best tips to
develop your skills.

• Fast Seduction 101 (www.fastseduction.com). This site

provides resources about and explanations of various dating
and seduction techniques for pickup artists. It is the largest
seduction website of its kind on the Internet, and includes
forums, a growing 450,000 post searchable archive, live chat,
instant messaging, product reviews and recommendations,
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wiki, newsletters, and more.

You will also want to check out the free newsletters from top
dating gurus. Sometimes these are full of great information
or new breakthroughs and reading them regularly will inspire

you to keep developing your skills. We list a few of the best

below. Just go to the home page for each website and look
for a newsletter signup box:

• Love Systems’ Insider (www.LoveSystems.com)

• The Badboy Club (www.BadboyLifestyles.com)
• Brad P. Presents Newsletter (www.BradPpresents.com)

Conclusion
Not every good resource is listed here. However, this should
give you a road map for the next year or so. We were once
in your shoes, so we know what it’s like. Write us any time at
[email protected].

Major Contributor Bios

Savoy - Nick (Savoy) is President and Program Leader of Love
Systems and is the author of Magic Bullets, our “bible” of
dating science and social dynamics. He has taught thousands
of men worldwide and is still occasionally available for one-
on-one training. He loves adventure and a challenge. After
college, he traveled the world for several years, managing
international businesses in Europe, the Middle East, and South
Africa. He has an MBA from Wharton and an Honors Degree in
History from McGill University in Montreal.

Sinn - One of Love Systems’ lead instructors, Sinn is also the

creator of the groundbreaking Day Game seminar that applies
the Love Systems methodology to “daytime” locations for
meeting women. He is also the co-developer of the immensely
powerful Breakthrough Comfort seminar and the notorious One
Night Stands program. Sinn is one of the leading visionaries
and developers of new material in dating science today.

Future - Future’s success with women rests on his naturally

positive attitude, his ability to always remain playful when
interacting with women, and his quick sense of humor. Future
is also one of Love Systems’ lead instructors and co-developer
of Breakthrough Comfort. Future is a stand-up comic and
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The Don – Originally from New York, The Don came to Los
Angeles to attend the University of Southern California
and has stayed there ever since. He is an accomplished
screenwriter, a member of Mensa, and an avid reader. The

Don uses a combination of intelligence, humor and strategy

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teacher, teaching students the tactics to generate attraction
and reshaping their beliefs about what they are capable of
with women.

Tenmagnet - Famous for his irreverent sense of humor and

remarkable creativity, he has mastered the art of talking to
any woman about anything. In his private life, Tenmagnet is an
aspiring writer and is active in the local music scene; he also
runs a bar and concert venue in downtown Toronto. Tenmagnet
is a frequent and very popular star of The Interview Series.

Captain Jack - During the day, Captain Jack writes advertising

copy, studies behavioral psychology, works on the next great
American novel, and hangs out with his two daughters, aged
7 and 5. He loves helping other men and believes anyone
willing to follow the Love Systems technique and adopt winning
behaviors can become immensely successful with women.

Rokker – A native of Stockholm, Sweden, Rokker believes in

the value of a strong and coherent identity. This has led him to
pursue a career as a singer/songwriter and musician. Using a
playful and humorous attitude, Rokker likes to help students
eliminate their inner fears of rejection and adapt a style that
is natural for them. He is very talented at helping students
develop a more playful style and a commanding presence.

Soul - Soul has a strong sense of determination. Using

Love Systems and his own drive to improve, he grew
from the stereotypical introverted class geek to a socially
astute charmer with an enviable social life. Soul believes in
developing all aspects of the mind, body and spirit in order

to achieve one’s goals. He is a seasoned martial artist,

an avid reader, and a talented young hip-hop dancer. He
is one of the most successful dating coaches in London.

Braddock – Braddock’s story is one of tremendous commitment

and perseverance. He went from being a popular high school
athletic star to lost and confused with women after moving to a
big-city college. He eventually trained with top Love Systems
instructors and developed the skillset that has allowed him to
date some of the most beautiful women in the U.S. Midwest,
including a member of the “Maxim Top 100.” He is currently
a law student and entrepreneur.

Mr. M - Mr. M is a lead instructor with Love Systems, and is

renowned for attracting and dating the most beautiful women
in the UK. He is part-owner of London’s premiere VIP/celebrity
nightclub hosting company and is a successful international
lawyer. However, Mr. M was not always the charismatic
playboy that he is today and is living proof that excellence
with women is something that you can learn. He only had
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M has dated celebrities, models, exotic dancers, actresses,
Playboy Playmates and professionals alike.

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with success in life. He is well rounded, equally comfortable
being outdoors as he is in a nightclub. He has competed in
the ecochallenge, traveled all over the world, trained in the
martial arts, and can speak intelligently on an wide range of
subjects. He believes that the more one experiences in life,
the easier it is to relate to others. He has dated all types

of women from exotic dancers to Ivy League graduates to

Olympic athletes.

Brad P. – Brad is the visionary creator of Brad P. Presents!,

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around today. A teacher by training, he ensures that not
only does the information get presented but that it’s properly
understood and internalized. After learning dating science
from from some of the greatest naturals in the world, Brad
developed the Brad P. Presents! curriculum in 2005 and has
been helping men all over the world improve their lives ever
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him at www.bradppresents.com.
Glenn P. - Glenn is a world class hair stylist and dating coach.
He has been coaching for Brad P. Presents! since November,
to rave reviews. He leads Brad P.’s New York City practice,
and teaches occasional workshops and one-on-one sessions
there.
Badboy - Badboy founded www.badboylifestyles.com in Europe
and teaches his own style of direct game that focuses on how
to connect with a woman at a deep, instinctual, sexual level
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only come from strong “inner game.” Badboy teaches how to
project dominance and create instant attraction with lightning
speed to bypass a woman’s logical brain and instantly connect
with her emotions and sexual drive. He is the author of the
very popular Badboy Lifestyles Seduction Manual and is the
creator of the Carpe Diem Live Video Program and the Badboy
Style 3-CD Set.

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Love Systems - Routines Manual

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Love Systems - Routines Manual

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Love Systems’

In Association with Fast Seduction 101

Also with: The Don

Chapter 1: Introduction to the Emotional Progression Model

Chapter 8: Creating Your Own Routines

Chapter 9: Bonus Chapter – Storytelling

Chapter 10: Further Resources

Chapter 11: Major Contributors

So, here it is. The highly awaited, forever requested “Routines

A routine is any piece of prepared verbal or non–verbal material

There’s nothing “weird” about using routines. Everyone does

There is much, much more to it: proper delivery, calibration,

individuals. You should do the same. You will learn to do this

We hope that you enjoy the book.

Dating science is a cumulative science, and every creator

Similarly, if you feel that YOU have a routine that deserves

The following is a brief introduction to the Emotional Progression

The Emotional Progression Model, as it currently exists, was

Women and Emotional States

While this is not an original breakthrough, the implications we

• Attraction: Feeling that your social value (a concept fully

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• Comfort: Feeling comfort and connection with you.

• Seduction: Feeling aroused by your touch without

Women need these four emotions in varying proportions, but,

Emotions in the Correct Sequence

could “feel aroused by your touch without awkwardness or

What most men do when they meet a woman whom they

We cover other reasons why these emotions, in this order, are

The Full Emotional Progression Model

Let’s take a quick look at these three new phases:

Approaching is the skill of starting a conversation with a

Transitioning answers the question of “what do you do

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To learn more about the Emotional Progression Model go to

Here is a brief summary of some of the terms you will encounter

Approaching – Initiating a conversation with a woman or a

Approach Anxiety – The feeling of nervousness most men

Cold Approach – Approaching a woman (or a group) whom

Cold Read – Making an observation or statement about a

Congruence – Consistency of behavior to identity. If you

'LVTXDOL¿HU – Something you say or do that implies that you

Embedding – The process of communicating something, usually

Frame – The context under which an interaction takes place. If

Mixed Group – A group of people interacting with each other

Physical Escalation – A process that takes place throughout

Rapport – Commonality of perspective, being in “sync” and

Transitioning – The act of seamlessly extending the conversation

Value (male) – How desirable you are to a given woman based

Value (female) – A woman’s perception of how desirable she

Opening is the act of beginning a conversation with a woman

There are a number of ways to do this, varying from the casual

Some of the important categories of openers include: indirect,

Just about anything can work as an opinion opener, but

Below are some examples of opinion openers. After trying

For more on creating your own openers, see Chapter 8:

Drunk “I Love You’s”

“Hey, do you guys think drunk “I love you’s” count?”

Sinn, Love Systems Instructor

“My friend is about to marry a girl I can’t stand. How do I

Like you and me…

(To the woman you’re attracted to, smiling)

We’d never get along. I can already tell…

Move into a Transition or Relationship–related routine.

The Don, Love Systems Instructor

Text Message Breakup

“Is it wrong to break up with someone with a text

(They will often ask how long you’ve been together.)

“It’s only been like three months. Nothing serious, but I

(Here you can go one of two ways based on your assessment

If she seems like a potential girlfriend:

Follow–On 1 “So, obviously I need to cut her loose but I

If she seems more adventurous:

Follow–On 2 “It did seem to be going a little too perfectly.

LBD, Love Systems Instructor

“Would you read your boyfriend’s email if you thought he

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Follow–On 1 “So, obviously I need to cut her loose but I

Follow–On 2 “It did seem to be going a little too perfectly.

Follow–on 1 “Here’s the thing, I think her real motivation

Follow–on 2“I wonder if it’s even my place to say something