A relationship is a bond or connection you have with other people.

All of your relationships can

have impacts on your physical, mental, emotional and social wellbeing.

A healthy relationship is one in which the both people benefit and feel comfortable. Healthy
relationships depend on shared values and interests and mutual respect. You are naturally attracted
to those who encourage and support your best qualities.

“The relationship indicates the way in which two or more people or groups regard and
behave toward each other”-Oxford dictionary

Our first relationships are within the family, and we get a attachment styles with regards to nature of
these relationships. These styles influence the nature of other relationships , and furthermore
assume a significant part in each life stages. Other family relationships include those among
siblings and children and other relatives.

“Types of relationship are based on three different components:intimacy, passion and

committment”-Sternberg (Triangular model of love)

Friendships outside the family start in childhood and are at first based on such factor as proximity
and relationship between parents. With developing maturity, it become possible to form close
relationships that include spending time together, interacting in various circumstances, offering
mutual social support, and engaging in self disclosure.

The friendship as well as romantic attraction is influenced by several factors such as proximity,
appearance and similarity. In addition, romance include sexual attraction and the desire for total
acceptance by the other person.

Why Healthy Relationships Are So Important?

Have you ever thought about the fact why people strive for relationships?Yes...there are many
explanations to romantic relationships and other relationships from the perspectives of evolution
such as need for survival,need for affiliation etc.And we all are aware that as humans, the
relationships we form with other people are crucial for our mental and emotional wellbeing, and
really, for our survival.
Relationships tell us the best way to cherish the present and assist us in deciding who we need to be
in our life and who we don't. Having genuine and trusty relationships allow us to really be our
actual selves.
So few benefits that we gain from a helathy relationships are given below:

• Have a sense of purpose and self respect: It is a basic tendency of people that is to
need to feel required, and like they're parrt for something greater. Many of us prefer a
position where other people seek help from us and like we are somewhat important by
rendering services to other. Being in a caring relationship, regardless of what kind, can give
an individual a feeling of prosperity and reason. Indeed, it's possible that having a feeling of
direction can really add anextra productive time to your life.
Also it is important to aware that having a sense of purpose will contribute to the development of
self esteem and self respect.

• Enjoyment and Fun: Having a partner or close friend for a simple talk,share the quality
times with them etc make feel awesome and it may be the most precsious memories to
 be.While it tends to be beneficial to balance your social activity with some alone time, it is
important to be in mind that, the benefits of a healthy and supporting relationships, if you
ever get too comfortable in hanging out out from the world.
• Contribution to physical health: In our lives, having a good and healthy relationship
can have some significant impacts on our well being of body also. Being enamored greatly
affects your oxytocin level (otherwise known as love hormone), which advances comfort
and nourishment of relationship through a feedback effect. This is the reason why you love
and seek the presence of close people, and why simply being close to them can help your
state of mind to be relaxed and satisfied.

• Help you to cope with stress: Diminished stress is also an advantage of relationships.
Having somebody to share your feelngs,especially who is supporting you is a very powerful
asset for adequate dealing with a stress situation.
The situation may appear to be simpler to overcome when we have an nettwork of reliable
relationships with us.

• Dealing of unhealthy habits and behaviours: When you are having healthy
relationships with individuals who care for you, their suggestions to follow healthy
diet,work out, quit drinking or smoking, and deal with clinical cocerns etc will lead you to
improvements in life.
When we are important to others, they spend their effort and time to offer help to us so that we can
overcome our negative behaviours and can lead a quality life.

These are very few benefits of having a relationship with people. But it is important to remember
that, in every relationship the outcome is based on the effort you put in, to maintain that relationship
healthily and smoothly.And also bear in mind that for every relationship there would be boundaries
so that dont make your steps over it .Dont make youself failure by putting hand on others personal
privacies, freedom as well as by falling in the trap of negative jealosy etc,

10 effective skills that would help you to develop relations and resolve conflicts in relationships are
given below:

1.Effective communication:Communications refers to your ways of sending and receiving

messages.These messages may be exchanged in words or through gestures, facial expressions, and
behaviors.You communicate to let others know your feeling, needs, wants and expectations.
Communication also let you to discover the feelings, needs, wants and knowledge of others.Three
basic skills needed in communication are speaking,listening and body language. It is a skill from
which you will benefit for your entire life.

2.Cooperation:Some activities are impossible without cooperation.Working together is good for

all.Working together through cooperation helps to build strong relationships. Also try to involve in
negotiating processes such as talking, listening, considering the other's point of view, devising a
plan for working jointly to resolve conflicts etc if the situation demands.

3.Compromise:Compromising is a problem solving method that invlolves any participant giving

up something to reach a solution that satisfy everyone. By your willingnesss to give up something
in order to reach a solution,you can show to the other person that you value the relationship with
him/her.

4.Listening skills: Active listening involves giving your full attention to whatever the speaker is
saying without interrupting or making judgements. When you listen to others, you show them that
you care about what they have to say and how they feel. Also you can use some techniques to
inform the other that you are listening by clarifying, encouraging, empathizing or even by just
moving your head or by humming 'yes' or 'ha'.

5.Mutual respect and consideration:In healthy reltionship, people show mutual respect
even when they disagree. This involves accepting one anothers' tastes and openions and being
tolerant different view points.Furthrmore, each person should show consideration by being
thoughtful about the rights and feelings of others.

6.Undersatnding what causes conflicts:We need to understand the root of the

disagreement. It helps to resolve the problem easily. Some commom causes of conflicts are
differences over goals, interests or values, power struggle etc. Conflicts also occur when one person
wants to control the actions, opinions or decisions of another person.If you see that a conflict is
building you can prevent it through various ways. On the contrary, if the problem is arrising and
you ara unable to notice it, then it will be unhealthful and unsafe for every one involved.

7.Be willing to forgive:If you are unwilling or unable to forgive, it my be a great barrier in your
relationships. But it is not preferred to forgive to others by ignoring your own self respect. Instead,
it is good if you are able to forgive in adequate situations and posses a well negotiating capacity.

8.Use the law of reciprocity: Always keep in mind that “What you give out is likely to what
you get back”. Don't expect to get something more than what you are investing in your relationship.
And also remember that every one involved has same level of personal freedom as you possess.

9.Build a positive relationship:Once a bond has been established, we must nurture the
relationship as well as pursue our goals.We need to balance reasons and emotions.Carl Rogers
called it as 'unconditional positive regard or acceptance'.

10.Mediation process:A process in which specially trained individuals help other people to
settle their conflicts calmly. Each side is offered a chance to talk to the other under the supevision of
the mediator. The mediator may then request the parties to sign an agreement to work out the issue
within a specific time work.You may think it is somewhat complex activity.But this is useful when
the people in a relationship face difficulty in solving their disagreements.

Yes!Relathionship is a beautiful thirteen letters filled with happiness and special feelings.It is
something as a human we are constantly striving for.If you are in relationships happy for you and
wishing an everlasting pleasure from it.If not,follow these techniques you will be a pro!
And friends please remember,conflict is not a scary memeber in your relationships.It is natural and
inevitable. Addressing and resolving conflicts are how we strenghthen our bonds and express our
expectations in relation to those of others. By attaining the skills I have described you can resolve
the differences.Be a master in all these skills and go forward...effective relationships are waiting for
you!!