Shattered Assumptions - Treat Grieving Clients Whose World Has Been Turned Upside Down
Shattered Assumptions - Treat Grieving Clients Whose World Has Been Turned Upside Down
Shattered Assumptions - Treat Grieving Clients Whose World Has Been Turned Upside Down
Shattered Assumptions:
Treat Grieving Clients Whose
World Has Been Turned Upside
Down
Joy R. Samuels, D.MIN., LPC-MHSP, NCC
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Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Joy Samuels is in private practice. She is an adjunct faculty at Lipscomb University.
Dr. Samuels receives a speaking honorarium from PESI, Inc.
Non-financial: Joy Samuels is a Fellow in Thanatology.
Materials that are included in this course may include interventions and modalities that are beyond the
authorized practice of mental health professionals. As a licensed professional, you are responsible for
reviewing the scope of practice, including activities that are defined in law as beyond the boundaries of
practice in accordance with and in compliance with your professions standards.
joy r samuels, D.Min., LPC-MHSP, NCC
Fellow in Thanatology
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Materials that are included in this course
may include interventions and modalities
that are beyond the authorized practice
of mental health professionals.
As a licensed professional, you are
responsible for reviewing the scope of
Declarations practice, including activities that are
defined in law as beyond the boundaries
of practice in accordance with and in
compliance with your profession’s
standards.
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Give sorrow words; the grief that
does not speak
Whispers the o'er fraught heart
and bids it break.
While there are several research studies supporting these approaches there
are limitations to the existing studies such as:
number of subjects (power),
lack of randomization,
generalizability (for example to diverse populations)
As with any psychotherapy there are some potential risks that you should
discuss with your clients, we think these include:
protentional increase of client distress,
protentional disruption to client’s mental health well being.
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Mind the gap
Expectation- assumptive
world, core beliefs
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Irvin Yalom
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The feeling that good things
are going to happen in the
future.
Oxford Dictionary
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Janoff-Bulman (1992)
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Benevolence of the world involves
the extent to which an individual
views the world in general and
The world is other people in positive or
negative terms.
benevolent
Survivors may view the world as a
place in which bad things happen
and its people uncaring.
Ferrajão (2019)
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Worthiness of self involves self-
perceptions of goodness, morality,
or decency; the ability to engage
in appropriate behaviors and
decision making; and a sense of
being lucky or fortunate in one’s
life.
They may develop a negative self-
image, viewing themselves as bad,
immoral, and subject to and
deserving of ill-fortune.
Ferrajão (2019)
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Our assumptive world may be
composed of:
How we tend to view others and
Working their intentions
definition of
How we believe the world should
assumptive
work
world theory
How we tend to view ourselves.
Harris, 2020
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Significant life-changing events can cause us to feel deeply vulnerable
and unsafe.
The world that we once knew, the people that we relied upon, and
the beliefs and perceptions that we once held may no longer be
relevant in light of what we have now experienced (or are currently
experiencing).
The grief response is elicited in response to the loss of our assumptive
world; we may lose small parts, or our whole assumptive world can be
shattered.
The appraisal of loss is subjective and entirely dependent upon an
individuals experience and interpretation of the loss.
Harris (2020)
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It is important to note that the assumptive world is more than a
cognitive construct; these assumptions exist at the very core of what
in life provides us with a sense of meaning, purpose, and security.
Each category of assumption will have cognitive aspects, but will also
incorporate:
social,
spiritual,
emotional,
psychological components.
Harris (2020)
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Tangible Loss Outward signs that loved one is compromised;
incidents of not remembering names, confusion,
inability to function outwardly noticeable.
Intangible Loss Grief over lost relationship while loved one alive;
changes in family dynamics, affinities, and
interactions.
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“Shaken, and not stirred.”
James Bond, Dr. No (1958)
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Over the past three decades, multiple
theorists have proposed that the
psychological effects of NLE, including
both negative and positive outcomes such
as:
Negative depression,
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Do factors Age significantly moderated the
association between total number of
facilitating recent events and levels of benevolence
beliefs.
positive
Spirituality was not a significant
reappraisals moderator of the association between
recent negative events and benevolence
moderate beliefs.
the effects of None of the proposed moderators
tested—age, social support, and
NLE on religiosity/spirituality—moderated the
association between NLE and
worldviews? meaningfulness beliefs.
Poulin (2019)
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Do NLE
predict Recent events did not significantly
predict instability of either
changes in belief (benevolence beliefs and
meaningfulness beliefs)
chronic Worldviews changed the most in the
absence of factors that may help
stability of individuals reinterpret those events, such
as older age and social support.
worldview
beliefs? Poulin (2019)
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Individuals who experienced more
negative events had less stable
worldviews over time.
Shaken vs.
shattered
In general, worldview change was
small, highlighting the apparent
stability of these beliefs.
Poulin (2019)
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What are
your Our assumptions are guides for our
day-to-day thoughts and behaviors.
assumptions
for today? Janoff-Bulman (1992)
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How do clients talk about:
Access
Knowledge
Belief
Social Support
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Access
I really don’t understand why she does that.
Knowledge I’ve never heard of that before.
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“Until the lions have their
own historians, the history of
Whose the hunt will always glorify the
story? hunter.”
quoted by Chinua Achebe (2019)
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Expectation language
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“Many of the most intense emotions arise during the
formation, the maintenance, the disruption and the renewal
of attachment relationships."
Bowlby 1977
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Who
When
Holidays Where
& What
Celebrations How
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VIA
GRIT
Brief Strengths Survey
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Relearning the world or coming to
terms with the loss of our
assumptive world is primarily about
learning new ways of acting and
being in the world.
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Our assumptive world may be composed
of:
Reframing
How we tend to view others and their
our intentions
shattered How we believe the world should work
Harris (2020)
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Create safety
In order to: Focus on what is important
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The Dual Process Model of Grief
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“It is the meaning of the traumatic event, for the survivor,
that determines which assumptions are affected and how the
event is understood.”
Beder (2005)
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Meaning-Making:
A social constructivist model that utilizes
a “master narrative,” which can be
Meaning described as a coherent overarching
making after story and understanding of one’s life and
experiences, along with the meanings
loss that are attached to these experiences.
experiences This narrative construction is facilitated
by the grieving process.
Harris (2020)
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Grieving is a process of reconstructing a
Meaning world of meaning that has been
challenged by loss
reconstruction Redefining the self
Redefining how one engages with the
world
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The storied nature of human life:
•Research in neuropsychology, child
development and social psychology
converges to suggest that human beings
are “wired” to process experience in
narrative terms
Neimeyer •We organize life events, imposing a plot
structure on them with a beginning,
middle and end
•Self-narrative: “an overarching
cognitive-affective-behavioral structure
that organizes the ‘micro-narratives’ of
everyday life into a ‘macro-narrative’ that
consolidates our self-understanding
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Reactive/Dysregulated
Therapeutic Reflective
process Reintegrated/Reregulated
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4. LOVING KINDNESS MEDITATION
May I be free from inner and outer harm and danger. May I be safe
and protected.
May I be free of mental suffering or distress.
May I be happy.
May I be free of physical pain and suffering.
May I be healthy and strong.
May I be able to live in this world happily, peacefully, joyfully, with
ease.
Jack Kornfield
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Writing your personal grief narrative
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7. LETTERS TO SELF
Writing from adult to child
What do you want to tell your “child” so that you are prepared for
your future life?
Writing from child to teen
What does your “child” want you to hold on to that could get lost in
adolescence?
Writing from present to future self
What are you hoping to change for the future?
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8. RELATIONSHIP REVIEW
The clinician identifies narrative disruptions, disorganization,
dominant themes, and other obstacles that need to be restructured
to allow integration to occur. Neimeyer (2006)
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Bridgework
Value or Belief that is being challenged Value or Belief that is being lived out
This intervention starts with the memory of the painful event. Rather than staying in the memory, identify
which value is being challenged; i.e., the memory of a spouse being unfaithful, the value or belief that is
being challenged is faithfulness. The arrow points to a current event or behavior that I am engaging in that
is reflective of the value or belief in faithfulness; i.e., I am choosing to limit the conversations at work to
professional topics vs. relationship concerns.
The idea is that memories surface as a reminder of what is important to us, not only of times our values
and behaviors were congruent, but those times when they were not. Focusing on the underlying value of
the painful event allows me to move out of the emotional content of the memory to self-efficacy. I can
engage in behavior today that is congruent with the values and beliefs I have. Samuels, 2000
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