LIMITLESS

DEVA PRESENCE

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Copyright © 2019 Déva Presence
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written permission of the publisher except for the use of brief
quotations in a book review. Printed in the United States of America
First Printing, January 2019
Self-Published by Déva Presence
https://www.orgasmicheart.com

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Contents
Introduction for LIMITLESS Women ...................................vi

Introduction for lIMITLESS Men........................................... viii

PART 1: TURN ANY MAN INTO A GREAT LOVER

(WITHOUT HIM KNOWING) ............................................ 10

1 Kill His Performance Anxiety, Now!................................. 11

2 Have an Orgasm BEFORE You Enter into Lovemaking. 13

3 Stop Stimulating His Most Sensitive Parts! STOP! ...... 14

4 Worship the “Wand of Light”.............................................. 16

5 Arouse and Anchor Him...Do not Stimulate and Stress

Him with Your Needs................................................................. 17
6 Know How to Recognize a Solid, Firm, Erect Lingam.. 18

7 Deeply Understand His Scale of Arousal, Even

BetterThan He Understands It Himself. ............................. 19

8 Take His Focus Away from the Lingam............................ 20

9 Feel in His Body Where There is Tensions and Release It.

........................................................................................................... 22

10 Do Not Let Him Extend His Hips Out Towards You.. 24

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PART 2: DÉVA’S TEN SECRETS TO LASTING
LONGER IN BED ......................................................... 28

Number 10 ........................................................................... 30

Number 9 ............................................................................. 32

Number 8 ............................................................................. 35

Number 7 ............................................................................. 37

Number 6 ............................................................................ 39

Number 5 ............................................................................. 41

Number 4 ............................................................................. 43

Number 3 ............................................................................. 47

Number 2 ............................................................................. 50

Number 1! ............................................................................ 53

Conclusion ........................................................................... 62

About the Author .............................................................. 64

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 Introduction for Limitless Women

Think about this, how many women know:

• Exactly what to do to make a man last longer in

bed?
• How to ROCK HER OWN WORLD by turning any
man into a master lover?
• Exactly what to do so the man stays
present, connected and open to you in bed?

I would say less than 000000000000.1% of women

have mastered these skills. Probably because
most think it’s impossible, but you can master
the art of conscious lovemaking. It will get him to
last longer in bed. He will be connected, present
and bringing you pleasure without reading one
book, taking one class or knowing any
techniques whatsoever.

It is possible!

After years of working with masterful Tantric

women and men, trying every practice and
technique imaginable, I struggled with this myself. I
was ready to give up! I’ve always known I have an
exceptionally sensitive penis. As a result, if I was not

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in full control of a situation, I would blow instantly.
Initially, this was devastating to me until I finally
realized, that is just how some people are! Beautiful,
rich sensitivity.

Women and men have different levels of

sensitivity. If you can master the methods of deeply
knowing your OWN level of sensitivity FIRST, you
can then adjust to his level of sensitivity and
create amazing lovemaking for you both.

If you want to go deeper for specific techniques, I

have some juicy private videos online I will share
with you. They contain many insights on how
to master your own orgasmic potential, clear pain,
get juicy and turn on the heat!

In the meantime, here are the proven methods

for making a man last longer, be present and
provide more pleasure with you. These methods
are tried and true, knowledge from my own
personal experience over the years! You can apply
this right away and have blissfully orgasmic results
instantly... Magnificent lovemaking awaits!

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 Introduction for Limitless Men

This practice has no goal. NONE. You are perfect

as you are. There is nothing you have to change
about yourself. You do not have a problem. If there
is a problem, it is the idea that somehow you need
to be fixed! I am not here to fix you. I am here to
help you find freedom in sharing new
experiences with yourself and with your lover.

Your desires and individual ways of being are

completely unique, natural and do not need to be
addressed as “issues.” For many years, I struggled,
resisting my natural tendencies to ejaculate with
shame and by creating a problem where, in fact,
none existed. As soon as I just simply accepted
my nature everything began to open up for me.

This ebook simply suggests that you examine your

thoughts around why you are curious about a
new and exciting approach.

While this may sound a bit esoteric, let’s say you are a
golfer. You have been practicing for years, mastering
the skills then you make it to the pros! In your
third season, you start playing badly. Putting
poorly, your aim is off and you are constantly

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finding yourself digging out of the sand trap. You tell
yourself, “There is something wrong with me!” so
you train harder. Still no luck. Finally, someone
comes along and says, “Hey, you are fine, but these
new gloves you got in season three, they just don’t
fit you. Why not try different gloves? Or simply take
them off completely.” Realizing it was the gloves all
along, without them, you now swing and putt
perfectly, playing your best ever.

The gloves are your self-defeating thoughts. The

gloves are the ideas you have about who you think
you are because of what your past tells you. Your
gloves are the defining and destructive judgments
you tell to yourself. I am asking you to take off
the gloves, removing all your self-defeating
thoughts.

As you dive into “Déva’s Ten Secrets to Lasting

Longer in Bed”” it is important that your gloves be
off, gone, in the garbage forever. Stop telling
yourself that you have a problem and start
focusing on the joy of lasting longer in bed. I
guarantee with this one simple step, you will last
twice as long, instantly. As for the other tips, they
will change your life for good.

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 PART 1:
TURN ANY MAN INTO A GREAT
LOVER (WITHOUT HIM KNOWING)

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Kill His Performance Anxiety, Now!

There is no reason he should be afraid of making

love. Just like women, men also have fear around
how things are going in the bedroom. “How am I
performing?” He may ask. Try to really let him know
(more importantly, let him feel it in your body’s
response) that you love him and enjoy him
REGARDLESS of how he is capable of
performing. If you remove the performance
anxiety and stress, his nervous system can then
switch to one of ease and relaxation. A man needs to
be in the parasympathetic nervous system to last
longer. Help him get there by cooling and calming
him with your assurance, loving guidance, and
patience.

It’s important to remove any fear around ejaculation.

Fear of pregnancy, for example, should not be
discussed in moments of pleasure. Distractions
should be eliminated during lovemaking. In the
heat of the moment, your partner should feel you
want all of him, including his desire to ejaculate,
from a place of pure pleasure and focus. Just like
women, men need to feel safe and comfortable

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to fully embrace their pleasure. Let him know it’s
ok to release much later in a way that feels
comfortable and safe for you both. Share with him
that if he waits, his orgasm will be much more
powerful. Invite him to experience the monumental
orgasm and ejaculation that results from holding out
for 20-30 minutes or even an hour. He will only
need to do this once to realize the extent of the
astronomical pleasure it will bring you both. He will
wonder why he hadn’t tried it before and his desire
to last longer will become a skill he will work
diligently to cultivate.

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Have an Orgasm
BEFORE You Enter into Lovemaking.

You are a powerful, magnetic woman that has the

power to (Easily!) push a man right over the edge
to ejaculate. The magnetism increases significantly
during the first orgasm. If you already had an
orgasm, there is a release of tension from your body
that he can feel. This will bring relaxation into his
body as well. It will also become easier for you to
have more orgasms during sex as you are then more
fully activated and sensitive.

Self-pleasure is an excellent way to prepare for

extending lovemaking with a partner. You can then
ask him to do things you enjoy that can help you
reach the place of feeling open and receptive. If
you are struggling to reach orgasm while having
sex with him, this will no doubt push him over the
edge. Have your orgasm first, relieve his struggle.
He will last longer as a result. If you orgasm easily
and many times before and during the lovemaking,
he will undoubtedly feel satisfied and successful
culminating in longer, more pleasurable and
relaxed lovemaking experience for you both.

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 3

Stop Stimulating His Most Sensitive Parts!

STOP!

Every woman knows how to make a man ejaculate.

It’ is easy: stimulate the head of the penis and just
below (called the frenulum) and he will release. So
quite simply what you need to do is ---- STOP IT! If
you want him to last longer stop doing the things
that take him to the edge. If you are going to
pleasure him, pleasure his shaft, groin, balls, anus
and rest of the body. Spread the energy throughout
his body. If you focus on his tip all the energy and
pleasure goes there and it blows. That is what men
are designed to do. You need to do something
different in order to get different results.

When I am engaging with a new woman, I have to

tell her over and over (and over) again “Do not
stimulate me there, please.” It is heavily ingrained in
women to touch the penis head because they love
the response they get from the man – very strong
arousal and subsequent quick release. A simple
technique, if he is too aroused even without
stimulating the penis head, is to squeeze his shaft
really hard.

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Squeeze out all of the edgy feelings from his
penis and ground him back into his body. Another
really important technique is to not slide in and out
so much on the penis. This is very stimulating to his
sensitive parts. Instead, make very short thrusts
or grinding movements with him. Stimulate your
clitoris on his body without sliding in and out. This is
a major key to helping him last longer!

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 4

Worship the “Wand of Light”

The word Lingam in Sanskrit, which represents the
male principle, means pillar of light. If he feels you
absolutely love his body and heart, but especially
his penis, he will most definitely last longer and
be more connected to you. He knows you accept
him and so unconsciously he will accept “being with
you longer”. Meaning, being inside of you for
longer periods of time. It’s now safe for him to be
connected and vulnerable with you.

Loving his lingam regardless of what it does is an

important quality for him to feel inside of his heart.
He needs clear verbal cues. Let him feel that you are
completely in the depths of your desire while also
in control of your magnetic pull. He wants to feel
that he can relax while you are loving your
pleasure and ravishing yourself from his energy
alone.

Get on your knees and place the lingam in your

hands and hold it lovingly. Tell him beautiful
things about his wand of light. Honor his male
principle and he will honor you with long-lasting
love.

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Arouse and Anchor him...Do not Stimulate

and Stress him with Your Needs.

Be clear and ask him where he is on the scale of

arousal. Use your power of desire to build his
arousal. If he is tired, let him rest. Find times when
he is not overstressed from work or tired from his
day. This will help him be more present for you and
cycle his energy into mutual pleasure. Find out if the
external environment is healthy and lively for him.
What does he eat? Is he consuming foods that bring
forth vitality in his body? Does he get enough
sleep, alone time, exercise and nature? Take care of
him and he, in return, will take care of you.

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Know How to Recognize a Solid, Firm, Erect

Lingam.

Ask him to tell you when he is at his hardest. Tell

him you wish to worship the power in his penis.
When he is rock hard, he is much more rooted in his
body and available for your mutual pleasure.

It is also a clear sign that his body (not mind) has the
desire for sex. If his penis is not fully erect, he will
have a harder time sustaining prolonged
lovemaking. Healthy blood circulation, quality
food, exercise and low stress all contribute to
having solid erections.

There are many forms of massage and practices

that can help him produce routinely strong
erections. Look up "Kar Sai Nei Tsang" for example.

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Deeply Understand His Scale of Arousal,

Even Better Than He Understands It Himself.
I have an entire chapter in my book “Lover”
explaining in detail the scale of arousal.
Communication is vitally important in transcendent
lovemaking. Initially, verbal communication will be
needed between you and your partner. After a
verbal understanding has been established, more
subtle nonverbal cues can be utilized. I usually tap
my beloved so she knows to slow down or
completely stop so the energy can move to other
parts of my body.

Eventually, as you create familiarity in your

partnership, you will begin to accurately recognize
his physical response and there will no longer be a
need for verbal communication.

Leaving all thought-based communication behind

grants full immersion into the sensations of our
bodies which allows the primal bliss of prolonged
exploration and pleasure to be completely
embraced.

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Take His Focus Away from the Lingam.

Slap him if you have to! Get him to look into your
eyes. Have him focus on touching your body the
way you like it. I remember my first real tantric
experience: I was with a woman who was fully
activated by me just simply touching her arms. She
was so aroused, she grabbed me and took me to the
bedroom. We started kissing and taking our clothes
off then went right into lovemaking. Upon entry, I
felt this intense desire to ejaculate. I tried to stop it
by squeezing my pc muscle, my eyes, tensing up, all
the wrong things to do! Finally, she grabbed me
hard and yelled: “Look at me!” I instantly snapped
out of it and looked at her.

We gazed into each other's eyes for a bit and then

she asked if I was ok. I scanned my body and to
my surprise, the urgency to ejaculate had totally
disappeared! She then asked me if she could gently
move and if I was ok with that. Feeling anchored back
in my body, I was an assured YES to her request! I
was amazed that I felt relaxed and far from my
ejaculation while her ecstasy was building. She
then went

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into a full orgasm while I was inside of her. I was
shocked that I could be so fully present with her
during her exquisite, deep orgasmic release.

Learn to cultivate your orgasmic energy without

draining the energy of your partner. With a few
simple tips such as stroking his third eye, singing
to him, dancing, making the sound “ha” with each
movement, laughing and just creating a generally
playful environment, you can transform your
intensity into a delicious ritual of pure pleasurable
intent.

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Feel in His Body Where There is Tensions

and Release It.

Massage his neck, hamstrings, head, hands, and feet.

If you can’t figure out where is his tension, ASK HIM!
Massage his butt. The tight ass is like the gunpowder
for the cannonball to blow and you are the match!
Remove the gunpowder and he will not blow (so
easily). The only thing that should be stiff is his
penis. Work out the tension in his belly and thighs so
that the energy can channel to other places. If he is
in a position that causes tension in the butt, thighs
or belly, he will not be able to redirect the orgasmic
energy away from his penis to other parts of his
body.

There are very simple, specific techniques, slightly

changing up certain sexual positions, for example,
that can completely change how long a man lasts
and the amount of pleasure he can deliver.

Returning home late from a party one night with a

college girlfriend, I was too exhausted to do anything
but sleep. I hit the bed and was out like a light.

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My girlfriend, on the otherhand, was too aroused to
sleep. Not at all caring that I was asleep, next thing I
knew she was naked on top of me. I was hard yet
stayed very still and relaxed pretending to be
asleep. As she ravished herself with my penis and
had an intense orgasm, something amazing
happened! Normally, this intense stimulation
would have led me to immediate ejaculation,
instead, I felt the most peaceful, blissful streams of
“valley orgasm energy” flowing through me.
Pretending to sleep and being completely
relaxed allowed me to channel and embrace the
intensity of the sexual energy flowing through us. I
was able to contain the energy without releasing any
of it. It was my first experience of the power I held
by remaining completely relaxed in the midst of
the intensity of a woman’s sexual energy.

More about this in my online course!

Last, but not least, the most important tip:

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Do Not Let Him Extend His Hips Out

Towards You.

Push into him and ground the energy back into him
rather than out into you. You need to be ready
and willing to change the entire dynamic of
sex. It’s not about what he does to you. It is all
about what you can do for yourself WITH
him. Your pleasure is YOURS. He has no power
over your pleasure. Don’t make your pleasure
about him. Own your pleasure and share it with him
as a gift.

In my online course, I will share many juicy

tidbits about giving pleasure through
touch and connection rather than seeking
pleasure from your lover’s touch. This is where deep
intimacy can begin. When you do this, you
are being vulnerable enough to allow him into
the mystery that is you, revealing the depths of
pleasure within you. You cannot have up walls
when offering pleasure to your man. Push your
heart, yoni (another Sanskrit term for vagina,
which means sacred space) and all other parts of
you into him. Open to your pleasure with him.

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 In Conclusion

Focus on receiving his energy not just his physicality.

If you focus on his physical nature you will
get physical attributes...ejaculation. Focus on the
energy of him being hard inside you. Focus on the
power of the connection. Focus on the raging
creative life force that sends you into powerful
orgasmic states. Let your mind, body, and
imagination drive you wild, rather than being
dependent on some form of stimulation from him.
Find new ways to move, breathe and make sounds
that keep you feeling ecstatic while he feels
grounded and connected to you. Your answer to pain
free pleasure is in you creating it yourself.

I remember having a very passionate lover deep in

her desire body ravishing herself on top of me. She
kept affirming to me with sounds and orgasmic
pleasure, “You’re such an amazing lover! You make
me feel so good! Oh my God, I love this cock!” and
on and on losing her mind in the experience
while I laid there watching her. I said to her “But I am
not doing anything.” I was just lying down not
even moving or touching her. She stopped for a
few seconds

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becoming aware of what I said and what was going
on, then continued ravishing herself expressing, “It’s
your energy!”

She was riding and loving the life force energy inside
of me. Every man has life force energy. Some you
can feel more than others. That’s not the point. The
point is you are feeling it deeply and allowing it to
penetrate you.

To learn about deepening communication and

connection within yourself, life and your partner,
check out my online program “Orgasmic Touch” and
guidebook “Lover.”

I wish you the best,

Déva Presence

P.S. I love feedback...Drop me a line, tell me how it’s

going! Specifically, what was making love like before
and what is it like now? Share concrete information,
details on what kind of changes you experienced as a
result of these tips and not just the physical
responses, but also the changes in your
connection, how you feel or experience pleasure
before, during and after the lovemaking
experience. Thank you so much for reading...Cannot
wait to hear from you!

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 PART 2:
DÉVA’S TEN SECRETS TO LASTING
LONGER IN BED

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Note: I wrote this ebook counting down from to the most
important aspect to lasting longer in bed. So, we begin at
number 10. Some may touch you more deeply than others. I
advise you to put them to the test and see what works best for
you.

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 Number 10

Ground Through Your FEET!

Action: Massage your feet or have her massage

your feet. Put your knees up and feet flat on the
floor (if she is on top) or simply stand up! Make
sure your feet are warm and grounded. You will
notice you can withstand the feelings of getting
aroused quickly when you are grounded. Grounded
meaning you can feel more than just your body. You
can feel the earth and your connection to it. Bring
that into the sex!

The most ungrounded position is the missionary

(man on top). By not doing this position helps
reprogram your response. Place your feet against
something that allows your feet to anchor your
whole body in lovemaking. Move by pushing with
your feet! Not your pelvis. You must have
freedom of movement in order to feel free to stop
or start as you wish. If you use the power from your
feet rather than your pelvis, you will reduce
tightness in your pelvic region. The body reads pelvic
thrusts and contractions as a signal to ejaculate.

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Bringing the focus on pressing with your feet will
ground you and allow for more relaxation in the
pelvis.

Basically, you need to move differently to achieve

different results. If you keep doing the same
movements you will get the same outcome.
Ground through your feet and relax your body.
Slow down. Don’t rush and let her feel ALL OF YOU
by grounding and pressing through your feet.

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 Number 9

STOP stimulating your Head (penis gland)!

The head (glans), foreskin and frenulum is

DESIGNED BY NATURE to make you ejaculate! Stop
focusing on that area. Stop using that to build your
desire. Simply stop! If you get hard without touching
this area, good. If you are dependent on touching
this area, you may be desensitized and need to stay
off it for a while.

Get to the bottom of how and why you get

aroused. Is it from visual, mental, physical
stimulation? Do you need something to
get aroused? Porn addiction? How does your body
respond to her or you? Once you find out, actively
change the pattern that is producing the response
your body is giving you. You are reprogramming
your body’s response to how the penis reacts to
pleasure. It just needs the space to reboot and
come back to a sensitive and lively state. You
want to eventually begin to feel orgasm from the
BASE of your penis. This means to feel fully
grounded while feeling orgasmic.

More Vibration, Less Stimulation

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Men, stimulation will get your penis to blow real
quick! Once you are engaging in sex, if you focus
on stimulation, your most sensitive areas will be
much more stimulated than hers. Her most sensitive
area is on the outside, the clitoris. Focus on vibrating
and circling her clitoris with your pelvis. This means
smaller movements. More grinding or quick and very
short pumping (from the feet) that rub against
her most sensitive area while your most sensitive
area goes on with little stimulation.

I know your woman can make lots of noise when

you are going in and out of her. Do not feed into her
reactions. Many women are making lots of noise
because “it is intense”. It does not mean it is
“better” than what you are doing when they don’t
make as much noise. Intensity does not mean
better orgasms or better sex. Stop following
intensity and start finding ways that keep you
poised to play for longer periods of time.

Action: Ask her “Would you be willing to make love

in a new way?” You may be surprised how much she
will enjoy your enthusiasm to do things that allow
for her to feel more connected to you.
Explore more with each other

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PLAYFULLY. Try not to be so serious. Be sure she is
with you in your desire to last longer. More
importantly then lasting longer, “being connected
for longer periods of time” - THIS is what is
important! Let her know that this is your desire.
Women have the capacity to be so sensitive that
when feeling your heart, they can go into
orgasm. Feeling your “manhood” contracting inside
her can bring her to orgasm. It’ is not about
orgasm. However, if she is not reaching orgasm,
simply know that she can in ANY WAY YOU SHOW
UP WITH HER. So you can focus more on what
helps you be with her. This is what’s important.

If you need to stimulate your penis gland in order to

"keep it up" there needs to be a brake from the
mental noise. Forget about performing! Take a long
brake from porn and any sexual stimulation or
masturbation until your penis stands firm on its own
again. The next step will really help this.

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 Number 8

Hydrate with Tropical Fruit!

Nothing gets my cock harder than consuming loads of

coconuts (the inner liquids and soft meat),
watermelon, pineapple, mangoes, melons, papayas
and all other forms of fresh, ripe, raw, local, organic
fruits! The more I eat them, the more I feel vital and
alive. Simply add SIGNIFICANT quantities of fruit to
your diet as if you are trying to rehydrate your body
with the water in the fruit. This plays a key role in the
body’s ability to function optimally. Good hydration
means good blood flow. Good blood flow results in
good erections.

Ruling out an actual health issue is also critically

important. If increasing your intake of fresh
organic fruits does not significantly change the
quality of your erections if you have erectile
dysfunction, please seek help from a medical
professional. The dietary changes should yield
results within two weeks, so if you are seeing
results, then keep it up so you can “Keep it up!”

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 Secondly, take a look at what you are putting in or
on your body. There are many things that could be
affecting the quality of penile blood flow.
Caffeinated drinks, processed sugar/ foods, meats,
drugs, alcohol, pasteurized/ homogenized dairy, and
smoking can all have an effect on your physical body
and response. This can be a slow process of change.
Sometimes just reducing the quantity of these
items can increase the quality of your erections.
Experiment By cutting somethings out of your
diet (significantly) for a while to see if any
improvements occur.

Action: How much is “significant” you say? Try having

one large watermelon each day. I usually cut it in half
and eat half in the morning and half for lunch. Then a
regular snack and evening meal. Consume 3-5
young coconuts each day with other meals, maybe
3 papayas, 7 mangoes, or as much as you feel
comfortable consuming. If fruit cannot be part of
your diet for whatever reason, increase your water
intake by one gallon a day! Try to stop smoking, stop
drinking and/or using drugs for a week or so to see
how your body responds. Eat higher quality foods and
take a look at what you are putting on your body
(shampoo, lotions, etc) as these, too, are absorbed
into the skin affecting bodily response. Or it could
be the kind of condom you are using.

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 Number 7

Ejaculate Less Often. NOT NEVER!

It is a huge stress on the body to never

ejaculate! It is ridiculous, that somehow never
ejaculating will make you a supreme being who can
last forever. This is simply not true. Perhaps for
some guys, but, for most men, this just does not
work. What does work is to simply stop ejaculating
every time you engage with your penis. For
decades, Grand Master Mantak Chia has been
teaching how to become a multi-orgasmic man. He
ejaculates regularly, meaning every 3 or 4 weeks.
This is achievable and will significantly change your
staying power. If you’re young and vital every week
will be a reasonable goal. Experiment, witness the
changes in your body and its response. Find out
what is good for you. However, try not to make
ejaculation the GOAL every time you pleasure your
body.

Let your body feel and experience physical

pleasure of all kinds without the ultimate goal
being the release. Learn to embrace the depth of
pleasure in the connecting of hearts. Learn to feel
satisfied with subtle or light pleasure. As you get

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older, the dopamine rush of ejaculation is less and
less satisfying. Lasting longer and becoming
multi-orgasmic means to channel that potent and
powerful energy in other ways. However, do not
make the experience of ejaculating wrong! If you do,
you will tend to feel bad about this. Feeling bad
about releasing can create an unhealthy and
addictive cycle. Do not go there.

If you ejaculate, great. Celebrate the times when you

don’t and bring more purpose to the times when
you do. Relax peacefully in the moment and
carefully observe what your needs are to be able to
stay with your experience longer. Often men will
push and push and push to the edge until they fall
over. They call this edging. STOP this for now. You
want to first be relaxed, not edgy. No longer seek
out the pleasure in the experience either for her or
yourself. Seek connection, intimacy, light-
heartedness and a willingness to speak your needs.

Action: “Can we simply enjoy feeling our bodies

together without moving much?” Ask for what you
need, remove the goal of orgasm and focus on
connection. Enjoy sex for the sake of connecting
more often than for the goal of orgasmic release.

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 Number 6

Platonic Genital Touch

This may sound unheard of or impossible, but you

are here to make the impossible possible. Touch,
by either you or your partner, MORE OFTEN with
NO GOAL, stimulation or need for arousal, can
make a significant impact on the programmed
response of your penis. Your penis has been
programmed to get up and get off. Many times, your
penis will ejaculate quickly to “reject the situation”.
When you are not ready for sexual stimulation this
can be a way for the body to finish what is going on.
Assess your true needs in the moment.

Platonic touch is a great way to reprogram your

response to new levels of relaxation. It is no longer
about feeling like the penis is only of value if it
is hard and functional. NOT TRUE. Just holding the
penis on a regular basis in a loving manner can
make you last longer simply because you are
feeling loved.

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Action: Platonic touch means you or your partner
are NOT trying to get your penis erect or aroused in
any way. If it does get aroused, that is ok. Stop and
wait for it to go soft again, then reconnect. Learn
how to touch so that you are not stimulated. There
are many ways. Some men need a very light touch,
some strong pressure. Some men need to avoid the
penis gland altogether. Learn the uniqueness of
your body and honor it’s needs so that you can
receive touch without goals.

Start by touching near but not on the genitals or just

touching the balls and perineum. This can be alone or
with a partner, without the goal of stimulation. Be
light-hearted in the activity. Ask for what you
need. Discover this magnificent part of your body in
a whole new way.

In addition, exercising the penis for health purposes is

a great way to incorporate new forms of touch.
There are many types of penis exercises, stretches,
and massage that can be done to improve penile
response. Non-pleasure-based massage, such as
Karsai Nei Tsang, is an excellent relaxation practice
that will ultimately contribute to overall genital
health.

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 Number 5

Get Rock Hard and Do Nothing!

Yes, you got it. Just allow it to stay hard on its own
for as long as it needs. Most men treat their hard
penis as if it’s some sort of problem. “I need to do
something with this!” No, you don’t! Learn to be
with your intensity. The more you are able to be
with your intensity the longer you will be able to
last in bed and the more you can be with your
woman’s intensity as well.

If you get “early morning wood,”. let it be. Let your

body know it’s ok to be this way and nothing needs
to be done. Hard erections are a great measure of
overall health. An erect penis is a good thing. Some
mornings I will allow my penis to stay hard for
several hours before getting up to do practices that
bring the energy down. After just doing this for a
few days, your body will register that longer
lasting erections are possible.

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There is a difference between “semi-hard” and
hard erections. Can you feel the difference?
Sometimes I am so hard it feels sore. Consider it an
isometric form of working out. Like doing plank in
yoga, the more you do it, the longer you will be able
to stay in the position. This is what you are teaching
your body to do, is to have STAYING POWER!

Action: Make love only half the time you usually do.
Just be sure it is a non-stimulated hard on.
Meaning, the hard-on came on its own or with no
effort from physical stimulation. It is a completely
different energy when the hard-on comes on its own
than when you have to make it happen. This will
significantly change the energy and feeling of love-
making.

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 Number 4

LOVE IS THE ANSWER!

This is a big one far too many teachers miss. When I

coach men, I find a pretty clear pattern around not
being stable in love and their ability to last in the
bedroom. If you are getting together with
someone for the first time, the risk of
ejaculating quickly is VERY HIGH! If you are in a
new or rocky relationship and are trying to “win her
over” the risk of ejaculating quickly is VERY HIGH! If
you are deeply in love and feel safe and connected
to your partner who is head over heels in love with
you, your ability to last longer will increase greatly!

I have 3 keys to long-lasting sex and for them to

really work LOVE must be in the mix. Meaning – You
must have a great deal of love for yourself. What
that means is, it does not matter how well you can
specifically last in the sexual act in that moment.
Whatever happens, you feel happy about who you
are and how your body chooses to show up in
that moment. You are fully aware that your body is

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capable of greatness. AND you are loving your
body’s natural response to ejaculate for procreation.
NOW, you are learning to HONOR that part of you by
listening to your bodies needs in order to go beyond
its natural response LOVINGLY! Not by force or
frustration or demand, ONLY with love.

The same thing goes for the woman you are

choosing. It is exceptionally important that she is
showing up with love for you and for herself. I find
most women I engage with don’t really care about
what I can do in bed. It is more of a joyful surprise for
them and they are grateful. However, being able to
make love with a woman for HOURS EVERY DAY,
that alone, will not make a woman stay with you.
ONLY LOVE will make a woman stay. So, focus on
the love all the way around. This, my friend, is the
answer to transforming your sex life.

If she is lovingly engaging with you for the first time

without the need or expectation of you being this
great lover, this takes a huge load of stress off. No
stress = great sex. Good hard on’s are much easier
to have and maintain when you feel loved.

Action: Once love is in the air, apply these 3 keys:

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Communication - I cannot emphasize
this enough... Communicate your needs! I still
have a challenge with this one where many times I
find I will communicate AFTER all is said and
done. I lost it, blew it too soon and I felt like crap.
It does not feel good to THEN have to explain
myself and my needs.

Some men may say: “She is not

understanding and still moving in ways that make
me ejaculate too fast. How do I get her to stop
this?” Communicate. “Dear, I would love to be
inside of you for much longer. Can I share with
you what I need to make that happen?” If she
loves you and is on your side, she will do what it
takes to embrace the changes for better
lovemaking, then the next part is possible:
Collaboration.

Collaboration means you are in it

TOGETHER. She is helping you and you are helping
her. There is a choice both of you are making to
transform the lovemaking. You both are in sync,
engaged and devoted to the art of lovemaking. You
can now drop any source of ego-driven idea that
good sex is about the man giving his woman
a good pounding whenever she wants it.
Nonsense! The best sex is always a collaborative
effort. In order to do that, we need to slow

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down and see what our bodies want in order for
us to connect deeper and create beautiful
lovemaking. That brings us to the last important
process: Calibration

Your penis is an instrument of love. When

having sex, consider your partner’s vagina as a
place your penis needs time to “tune into.” What
this means is going in and STOPPING! Do not
move. Kiss her, look into her eyes. Massage her
body. Just don’t move the genitals. Yoni is a
Sanskrit word for vagina which means Sacred Space.
For you to Calibrate your instrument to the
vibrations of her sacred space, stay still, breath
and feel beyond the physical sensation into the
depths of her being.
She may want to move. Hold her. Let her feel your
desire to stay still and just be. Give time for the
penis to get to know its environment. This was
HUGE for me with getting past not ejaculating
within the first 10 seconds. Simply stopping and
giving my penis time to feel good inside of her made
a huge difference. Then, after a minute or two,
slowly moving and discovering what movements are
good for my partner and for me.

Apply these three keys and you will undoubtedly have

longer lasting sex.

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 Number 3

Know the Difference between Orgasm and the

Function of Ejaculation

When the ejaculation process begins you will

feel the balls pulling up into the body. You will
feel a constriction in the urethra. You will feel the
desire to start contracting your PC muscle
automatically. These are all signs that your body
is moving into the function of fluid release. You
want to pause way before this begins. Really
take the time to differentiate between the
orgasmic feeling and the function of ejaculation.

Many teachers have tried to teach me to stop, pull out,

contract the PC, open eyes wide, stick your tongue
out, go upside down and do all kinds of techniques
based on the level of orgasmic pleasure. These do
not solve the real underlying challenges.
Ultimately, you can end up hurting yourself if the
techniques are done improperly. I remember having
so much anxiety in trying to use these techniques
that my body literally started ejaculating BEFORE
ORGASM! My penis eventually gave up and
stopped working. NO ERECTIONS FOR AN ENTIRE

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MONTH! I implore you to take the previously
described steps into strong consideration
BEFORE doing any form of technique.

Action: Put your focus on how your

body ejaculates, not how much pleasure you
feel per say. This means slowing down the process
and really sensing what happens when you begin
to feel the desire to ejaculate. Study this very
carefully. The reason you cannot base learning
how to last longer on orgasmic pleasure is
because the pleasure can grow and be quite
different at times. Once you master the art of
pausing and playfulness, the pleasure can grow
and grow and grow to more than you have ever
experienced! This is a good indicator that you
are on your way to being multi-orgasmic. You
can go into full feelings of rich orgasmic
pleasure without going into the function of
ejaculation.

I have a whole process that specifically

shows men and women how to make men multi-
orgasmic. Here, you are learning the foundation
needed to be a multi-orgasmic man.

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Details and techniques about becoming a multi-
orgasmic man are shared in my private coaching,
retreats and online courses.

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 Number 2

Her Satisfaction is NOT Your Responsibility!

Take this off your mind! Come to the

lovemaking with confidence KNOWING you
are not responsible for her ability to orgasm.
She is! We are designed to get in, blow and go. We
have the power to overcome this, but it is not on
her terms! It is not about if you can last long
enough for HER, or be strong enough to deal with
what she wants and how she wants it.

I have made love with women who have infinite

orgasms. There is no way to satisfy them even
after three hours of lovemaking! She still wants
more. That is the nature of the woman. Dropping
the need and obligation to satisfy her will make a
huge difference in your ability to last longer for
YOU! Not for her! Don’t make your lasting longer be
about her.

Many women (like most men) can orgasm within

seconds of entering into intercourse! And I have
experienced women like this. If a woman is not
reaching climax, do not make it your fault. It is not
her fault either. It is just a process of learning how

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to feel deeply again, which you are both learning
together. When we make her pleasure our
responsibility we objectify the woman. We make
her our property to manipulate and have our way
with. Careful with this unconscious
misunderstanding and give way to freedom and
space for her to find her own pleasure potential.
The woman is not designed to orgasm every
single time she enters into sex. We are. She has the
power to change her body to be very multi-
orgasmic every time she has sex no matter what the
sex is like, while you have the power to be long-
lasting in bed and overcome the need to ejaculate.

Another very important subtlety to understand

when we try to make a woman “peak” as a
man does, we are masculinizing the sexual
experience for her. Trying to “finish her” is
something men want in lovemaking. Many women
have been influenced by thinking they are supposed
to have peak experiences every time they make
love. NO! Drop this, please. There are many times
when this is not what their body needs. The same
goes for men. Your body does not always want to
ejaculate. However, we make that the goal or get
lost in the orgasmic pleasure so it happens every
time. Slow down and really feel what the body
wants.

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Action: “May I see how you pleasure yourself?” Learn
how she creates pleasure in her own body then
really understand, she does not need you for her
body to feel pleasure. Try to find ways to be
with her pleasure rather than being the one to
produce her pleasure. A woman’s pleasure is
mental, physical, energetic and emotional. She is
feeling the multidimensional love with you, beyond
just what she is feeling in her sex center. Be sure to
create a grander experience for her beyond the
genitals. This will easily produce longer lasting
pleasure for you both.

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 Number 1!

You Must Have a Powerful NO.

Men without good boundaries will drop into

anxiety during sex - Stress. Stress is the number
one cause of premature ejaculation and/or
impotence. I asked a question of my fellow
men, most tantra friends, about this, below is
what they shared about not being able to say no...

MEN- VITAL TRUTH

Comment if it's difficult to say NO to a woman who
wants sex when you don't want it. Especially one you
love:

Sergio - "I believe the reason it can be difficult is

exactly what you said, we’ve been conditioned to
feel like we have to always be ready to engage
regardless of how we’re feeling in the moment as
long as the woman wants to engage and that if we
don’t, we’re either not real men, impotent, or
homosexual. All labels used to create sexual shame
within us so we never learn about the true power of
sexual energy. "

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Rodolfo - "I've definitely been in this conflict.
There is always the fear of making a partner feel
rejected, and so one's own boundaries/truth at that
moment are ignored. I'm guilty of saying Yes, or
going with it and I always feel an
internal judgment afterward."

James - "It is difficult for many reasons;

- Not wanting to disappoint your lover

- Wanting to please your lover

- Socializations of virility and masculinity

- Not wanting to face distracting issues

- Past history of loveless relationship/trauma

- Facing fears of inner energy imbalances

- Intentional chi practices faced with "bratty"
feminine challenge..."

Alex - "I have had experiences of bratty,

selfish and aggressively expecting and demanding
women...Guess they were used to vibrators and little
dogs so they got confused when meeting a real
person...

But seriously...In my life, I had some difficult times

saying No as saying No was met with
insecurity, disrespect, being called gay, emotional

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blackmail, straight up aggressive behavior, silent
treatments, ...

Actually, had the worst time with these the last

three years, as her definition of “being a man” was
mostly about getting her needs met...
This triggered a lot of the usual emotional and
mental responses, like not feeling adequate, good
enough, male, suppressed female energy, ...
but that’s ok... I learned to say No from a place of
Love and self-care because of it, and as a by-
product learned to get my needs and desires
respected more...

Not in a relationship now but I feel Better than

ever now...having Nicer connections with
women...in a relationship with myself until I
am able to deeply connect in a respectful way."

Storm - "I like Alex’s comment.

Something in the past suddenly makes sense. Very
accurate description. I just mind wandered back to
my teenage years. Back then I occasionally meet girls
grabbing, insisting, arguing and pulling if I politely
said no for a dance. They simply couldn’t handle
the rejection.

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Some women brought that insisting aggressive
behavior and needy patterns with them into their
adulthood and sexuality. I can handle worse than this
so I never really gave it an analyzing thought before
now. It makes fairly good sense. This is Interesting
actually! "

Stephen – "This! Absolutely this... From childhood,

not being allowed to say ‘no’. The pattern of
tantrums and anger from women who can’t
understand that men are allowed to say no.

This question stirs a lot of old memories for me,

including a stand-off at a teenage birthday party
where my ‘no’ to a dance request from a much
older woman escalated quickly to physical violence
for politely declining her attention, to being
sexually assaulted in public by another drunk
woman while her horrified friends dragger her off
me. In addition, I recall the sullen, accusing looks of
women who waited for me to make a move and I
didn’t to women who told me they were aroused
and attracted by me then resented me not being
aware of or responsive to their subtleties.

Sadly, many of us have experienced these types of

responses as a result of lacking clear
boundaries... Being able to say ‘no’, and have that

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honored and respected is a basic principle of
consent, and it works both ways. I usually find
that role reversal is a useful sanity check. If it is
something that would be inappropriate for a man
to do, it’s probably inappropriate for a woman to
do too. "

Patrick - "In the past, I have struggled with this.

Before I really learned to speak my truth. I think
many times I have felt the “obligation” to put out.
And those times I have felt extremely disappointed
and sometimes even disgusted with
myself afterward."

Xavier - "When saying no, or not giving women what

they want, has resulted in them manipulating and
abusing me. It’s happened from more women then I’d
like to admit... Randy - Yes. I do say NO. Yes, it's often
pressuring even painful for me. Even more important
and not spoken of is women get angry even vengeful
at the word NO. It feels like a trap. I choose to
respect myself and her by saying no and I get stung by
the anger born out of what my no means to
her. Honoring, respecting, being respectful can mean
a bit of an emotional beating. "

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Mark - "I don't feel the need for a deep sharing
here, but I appreciate the subject being raised
and am happy to summarize what comes up for
me.

I have fortunately not had the experience of being

physically overpowered and forced to submit to a
sexual act, but I have felt the energy of not wanting/
being able to meet a woman in her sexual desire and
had not been able to say 'no'. Until relatively
recently, I did not have the consciousness,
language or inner strength/congruence to deal
with the situation in a healthy manner, this has
led to me being inauthentic and dishonoring my
boundaries.

What stopped me from being able to say 'no?’ A

mixture of (a) not knowing my inner signals well
which I put down to childhood conditioning (b)
mixed inner signals (c) fear of humiliation, derision
and the like, from myself, as much as, the other
person, (d) or considering myself or being ‘made’ to
feel responsible for the other person's hurt and
(e) a desire to be able to meet her wants.

I also realized not long ago that a large part of what

can hold me back from engaging with women has
been less about fear of rejection (though that
can certainly be there) and more about an

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uncertainty of being able to put the brakes
on (whether emotionally, practically or
sexually) if the woman is wanting more than I am
really ready to offer. These fears are similar to those
I've mentioned above.

There have been painful experiences which I

recognize came from a combined wounding/lack
of consciousness and which, sadly, seem to have
been necessary in order for me to heal and grow. I
fully own the part my shadow played in contributing
to my hurt (and no doubt the hurt of the other) and
lovingly leave them to be with theirs with the
hope that they find their wholeness."

Nitesh - "I can tell you so many stories of when I

have said no to women in bed and they can't accept
that. They will try everything to get into my pants,
even saying to me “I need this physical connection/
intimacy. It doesn't have to be emotional and/or
more'.” And of course, it ends up being more and
they have no respect for my boundaries. Thinking
that since they are in 'Love' with me and that is such
a pure feeling then they have the right to shower
me with their love, attention, physical/intimacy
even if I don't want anything more than
friendship.

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My last few months have been horrible as a result
since one my close female friends keep wanting
more and I don't want to 'abandon' her (cut her
off) to just be done with the constant
attention that is not welcome."

Johan - "Yes it is hard. I feel really bad after if I

agreed either verbally or non-verbally and went
into the act, feel sick afterward. I realize it's a
problem I have, probably around attachment -
rejection fear, anxious attachment, that is not
healed. I need to help out, to be of service, even
when my need of something else is present, I'm
fearing not to be a man if I don't want to engage in
sex when my partner is aroused and wants me.
Scarce worldview, if I don't take this chance, I might
not have any other... or something like that as
well. Childhood traumas not healed."

Take Action Today!

Say in the most loving and respectful/humble

way you can to your lover “Is it ok for me to say ‘no’
to you if I feel not ready, for whatever reason, to
have sex?” Ask her. Take that big bold step. If you
think she would say “Of course, dear” still ask her.
Let your mind and body hear the confirmation. Let
your body know, you are sovereign and need not be
ready for every encounter she requests.

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Check in with yourself! Is now a good time to engage
in sex? Were you already aroused or did you have to
work your way to get there? Are you afraid of
losing her if you don’t respond? If any of these
are true for you, this will destroy your ability to last
in bed. Tell her this truth. Reveal it to her. Find a way
to become authentic with what is going on inside of
you. This will create a massive amount of space for
you to be with your feelings and hers.

If you can be with your emotional feelings, you can

be with your orgasmic feelings. When you can be
with your orgasmic feelings, you can begin to learn
the art of becoming a multi-orgasmic man. It may
never happen before this. A multi-orgasmic man
must come from a calm, clear, centered state
of mind to take it to the next level.

I realize this is a strong one to end with. However, I

am dedicated to making sure all men and women
know what exactly is getting in the way of
lovemaking becoming something exceptionally
beautiful and healing. If the either person does not
have a full YES to the experience, it will
compromise the sex and compound a problem of
deeper connections for the future. Share with care
and compassion when bringing this into action.

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 Conclusion

These are the secrets to creating long-lasting sex and

eventually becoming a multi-orgasmic man. You will
become a powerful man in his own right first with
these ten methods. From a place of poise and power,
there is no reason why you cannot last for as long as
you want. Without any practice or skill, you should
be able to last much longer simply by implementing
these ten methods now. I am counting on your
integrity and action so we can get more feedback
from this and help more men in the world.

Are you willing?

I have many specific techniques to share. I can show

you how to get a woman to orgasm INTENSELY many
times over. I can show you many different ways to
knock her socks off! Her mind will be blown. She will
be speechless. But first, master the methods above,
as they are the foundation of all that comes next.

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Put everything you see here into practice and send
me some feedback.

Much appreciation for your courage and

willingness to transform your sexual experience
into that of beauty and deep love.

From this point on, I wish you happy connecting with

you and your lover!

With heart,

Déva Presence

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About the Author

After nearly a decade of study and

practice, I have finally unraveled the
secrets to being a multi-orgasmic
lover. The solutions are wild and
unknown to most, yet tangible and
effective. Sexual healing finally began
the more I just accepted my nature and listened to the
wisdom of my body. I’m here to help you awaken to your
own bodies “Sexual Healing” abilities. Learning from Grand
Master Mantak Chia, becoming the principle in the Master
Lover Online training by my Master Tantra teacher Ma
Ananda Sarita and diving deep into Tantra and many other
conscious sexuality trainings over the years has helped me
map out “pleasure principles” for you to apply and make
changes in your life now!

If you would like to go deeper with Deva, Check out his

online course programs which include live demo's and free
coaching every month at OrgasmicHeart.com

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