Effectss of Divorce On Children Social Development Project (2
Effectss of Divorce On Children Social Development Project (2
Effectss of Divorce On Children Social Development Project (2
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L40/77343/2015
2016
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DECLARATION
I declare that this Research Proposal is my original work and has not been presented for
any other award in any University.
REG.NO. L40/77343/2015
This Research Proposal has been submitted for examination with my approval as the
University of Nairobi Supervisor.
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DEDICATION
This work is dedicated to members of family who have contributed a lot to my success.
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ACKNOWLEDGEMENT
I would like to pass my heartfelt gratitude to my supervisor Ms. Lucy Wambui Mbatia for
the immeasurable advice and guidance throughout as you tirelessly and selflessly assisted
me. Your assistance shaped this project. May God bless You.
Secondly, I am so grateful to my family for the moral support you gave me throughout
my studies.
I also appreciate Ms. Njoroge and recognize the crucial role you played as I undertook
this project.
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
DECLARATION............................................................................................................... 2
DEDICATION................................................................................................................... 3
ACKNOWLEDGEMENT ................................................................................................ 4
TABLE OF CONTENTS ................................................................................................. 5
LIST OF FIGURES .......................................................................................................... 7
ABSTRACT ....................................................................................................................... 8
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3.5 Data Collection ........................................................................................................ 36
3.6 Data Collection Procedures ..................................................................................... 36
3.7 Validity .................................................................................................................... 36
3.8 Reliability ................................................................................................................ 37
3.9 Data Analysis .......................................................................................................... 37
REFERENCES ................................................................................................................ 49
APPENDICES ................................................................................................................. 53
APPENDIX 1: QUESTIONNAIRE .............................................................................. 53
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LIST OF FIGURES
Figure 1: Conceptual Framework ..................................................................................... 32
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ABSTRACT
The issue of divorce is a very crucial area of investigation due to its effects on the social
development of the pre-schoolers, adolescents and young youths. The study will survey
on the effects of divorce among 16 pre-primary schools, 55 primary schools and 3
secondary schools, where a sample size of 10 will be used for analysis, i.e. 2 pre-primary,
5 primary and 3 secondary schools. The objectives of the study would be to find out ways
in which pre schoolers social development (age nine and below) are affected by divorce,
to find out ways in which adolescents social development (age 9-13) are affected by
divorce, to find out ways in which young adults are affected by divorce (age 15-25), and
to establish ways in which parents living together influences the children’s social
development in Kangema Sub-County. The study survey will collect data through
questionnaires which will be directly administered by the researcher. The target
population comprised of head-teachers, teachers and students of pre-primary, primary and
secondary school because they were the people on the ground who encounters such
effects on their daily lives. A descriptive survey was used to give a clear picture on the
ground across Kangema Sub-County. The data was presented using charts, tables and
histograms. The study concluded that pre-schoolers (aged 0-9 years) are affected by
divorce and this is expressed by them showing distress and behavioral problems both in
school and at home. The study further concludes that divorce affects the young adults
(15-25 years) and this is shown by the choices that they make. The utilization of
mediators programs, adoption of parenting education can reduce divorce effects on
children social development during the divorce process. The study recommended
implementation of guidance and counseling to help children understand and adjust to
avoid adverse effects of their parents’ divorce. The study further recommended that
children priorities ought to be placed at the frontline during the divorce process as they
are adversely affected by divorce.
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CHAPTER ONE
INTRODUCTION
The issue of divorce in Kenya is one of the most common environmental causes of stress
view it as a complex series of transitions and adaptations, rather than a simplistic, unitary
event. Parents in divorce are concerned about the effect of divorce on their children. They
wonder whether their decision will affect the happiness and health of their children. The
effect result more from feeling of uncertainty of what is going to happen after the
divorce, from the level of the conflict between parents and how parenting after divorce is
done.
According to the Kenya report, between the year 2010 and 2015, a total of 1,246 divorce
cases were filed at the Nairobi Milimani Courts. A total of 101 cases were experienced in
2001 to 369 in 2008. The cases however declined to 106 in 2010 thereafter increasing
every year to a total of 270 in 2013. Year 2014 had 245 cases whereas the first half of
2015 saw 123 cases. Muranga has a total of 6,456 divorcees as per the Kenya Population
and Housing Census of 2009. The country has a total of 212,972 divorcess.
Consequences of a divorce for children are mostly that they have to move to a different
home and sometimes to a different school and they will not see or be with both parents at
the same time anymore. In most cases, they will live with their mothers and they will see
their father much less. To adjust to new situation takes them two years or more. The age
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of parents plays a role in how they react to divorce. Berlin (2004) puts it that “Children
who grow up in an intact, two-parent family with both biological parents present do
better on a wide range of outcomes than children who grow up in a single-parent family.
Single parenthood is not the only, nor even the most important, cause of the higher rates
we see; but it does contribute independently to these problems. Neither does single
parenthood guarantee that children will not succeed; many, if not most, children who
affects the social development of pre-schoolers, adolescents, young adults and how the
parents living together affect their social development. According to the report obtained
development in a child. Berlin (2004) about a third of all children born in the United
States each year are born out of wedlock. Similarly, about half of all first marriages end
in divorce, and when children are involved, many of the resulting single-parent
households are poor. For example, less than 10 percent of married couples with children
combination of an alarmingly high proportion of all new births occurring out of wedlock
and discouragingly high divorce rates among families with children ensures that the
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single-parent households. Moreover, research shows that even after one controls for a
household with both biological parents present seem to do better, on average, on a wide
(McLanahan and Sandefur, 1994). For example, they are less likely to drop out of school,
become a teen parent, be arrested, and be unemployed. While single parenthood is not the
main nor the sole cause of children's increased likelihood of engaging in one of these
detrimental behaviors, it is one contributing factor (Amato, 2000). Put another way,
equalizing income and opportunity do improve the life outcomes of children growing up
advantage. The researcher is interested in finding out if divorce of parents is really related
to children’s social development at the pre-schooler age, adolescence, and young adults.
1.2 Objectives
i) To find out ways in which pre-schoolers social development (age nine and
ii) To find out ways in which adolescents social development (age 9-13) are
affected by divorce.
iii) To find out ways in which young adults are affected by divorce ( age 15-25)
iv) To establish ways in which parents living together influences the children’s
social development.
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1.3 Research Questions
iii) How does divorce influence the young adults’ social development?
iv) How do parents living together influence the children’s social development?
The research will be significant to the parents since they will be in a position to know the
underlying behavior on the pre-schoolers, the adolescents and the young adults as a result
of divorce.
The study will also enlighten parents on the pivotal role played by parents living together
in the socialization of their children and at different levels. They will therefore be more
aware of the effects and therefore avoid such instances where possible.
In addition, the study will expose the actual issues of divorce that young adults of age 15-
25 face as they enter into serious romantic relationships. Moreover, the teachers will be
able to give particular attention to those affected by divorce. The aim will be to have
The study will focus on the effect of divorce among pre-schoolers, adolescents and young
adults in Kangema sub-county. The study will look into the affected children from pre-
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1.6 Assumptions of the Study
All the schools will be accessible during the period of study and all respondents will be
open and willing to share and discuss the information required. That divorce affects
The researcher is aware that not all the respondents will be willing to share all the
information openly due to fear of stigma, the researcher will assure the respondents that
The research itself may be costly especially the data collection and analysis.
Poor infrastructure may make it impossible to reach some schools within the time
allocated. The researcher will use the cheapest available means and work continuously
without break.
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CHAPTER TWO
LITERATURE REVIEW
2.1 Introduction
This section will review previous literatures related to the study. Several sources of
literature will be reviewed to gain insight into the issue related to the effect of divorce to
The Attachment theory was developed by Harlow, Bowlby and Ainsworth, which states
individual's lifetime. Attachment can be defined as the strong bond that develops first
between parent and child, and later in peer and romantic relationships (Bowlby, 1969).
Research on divorce and separation of attachment figures has yielded conflicting results.
It is often reported that children of divorce have trouble adapting to different stages of
their lives because of their experience with broken or detached attachment bonds. These
children are said to have no accurate template for successful relationships to replicate in
their lives (Ainsworth, 1977). Other research boasted results that children of divorce
adapt to life's situations and relationships within normal ranges when compared to their
peers (Summers, Forehand, Armistead, & Tannenbaum, 1998). Taking this into account,
these researchers looked to peer relations, socioeconomic status, general distress, or poor
parenting skills to explain the appearance of troublesome behavior or poor grades. The
study of all aspects of divorce and attachment is important to how parents, psychologists
and teachers approach and understand children of divorced families in order to help them
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The attachment theory has a basis in three theoretical approaches and was first related to
approach, the social learning approach and the ethological theory of attachment
(Ainsworth, 1969). Childhood attachment styles, which will be discussed later, are
clearly based on the emotional bond between the parent and child, opposed to a
biological push to become attached. A study on adopted children shows that positively
formed attachments heighten the chance for a well-adjusted life, regardless of the
biological relation of the attachment figure (Stams, Juffer, & van IJzendoorn, 2002).
"Even in a biologically unrelated group of parents and their adopted children from
al., 2002).
Harlow (1958) found that infant monkeys became attached to surrogate mothers when
away from their real mothers. The young monkeys preferred heated, cloth covered
mothers to wire mothers at any stage of their development. These infant monkeys fared
better in many aspects of their lives compared to others, who were provided with only a
wire mother. Young primates were more likely to be better adjusted physically,
psychologically and socially compared to the monkeys raised by the wire mother. Harlow
concluded from his research that the primates are better off in their lives when given
more creature comforts, attention and grooming when compared to those who were
Harlow (1958) also states that the infant monkeys form a close bond, or attachment to
their surrogate cloth mothers. These surrogate mothers are often used as a secure base
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when opportunities to venture and explore were presented. This was done in order to see
how the infants adapted to the surroundings. These infants used their emotional bond to
ensure that they would not be harmed when encountering new objects. Also, when a
threatening stimulus was presented in this lab experiment, the monkeys retreated to the
cloth mothers for safety. This correlates with Ainsworth's (1967) finding that infants in
Uganda use their mothers as a secure base to explore, occasionally leaving her sights, but
Bowlby (1969) also conducted research on attachment, recognizing the undeniable bond
between infants and their primary care givers. In a variety of cultures that have been
studied, the majority of children ranging in age from nine months to one year old have
exhibited strong attachment behavior towards their primary care giver. This trend
continues until three to four years of age, where the attachment weakens slightly.
Hopefully at this point, the child will be secure enough to briefly venture from the mother
The notion that attachment extends throughout the life of an individual is noted in
sections of Ainsworth and Bowlby's (1991) literature. Bowlby states that over time, the
attachment that infants have for their parents is subtly weakened. The degree to which it
is weakened depends on the temperament of the child, which in turn determines how
readily new attachment bonds are sought out and formed (Bowlby, 1969). Bowlby also
researched the effect that temporary loss of the mother had on human infants, and his
findings were expanded upon by the development of the Strange Situation Procedure.
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Ainsworth, Blehar, Waters, and Wall (1978) solidified Bowlby's research on infants and
developed three main attachment styles. These styles are based on Ainsworth's studies of
temporary loss of the main attachment figure within a controlled lab setting. This
research was called the Strange Situation Procedure. The results showcase the distinct
attachment characteristics for each style. Avoidant infants focus their attention mainly on
toys that are found around the research room, not directly on the mother. The children
here appear to be independent and confidant, but there is intentional avoidance of the
Once the mother is removed, these infants become detached and avoid the substitute
caretaker. When returning, the infant continues to avoid the parent (Ainsworth et al.,
1978). Secure infants are genuinely social and explorative within the environment. They
are friendly to the mother and caretaker, although can be wary of strangers. Secure
infants show signs of anger and sadness when the mother is removed, but eventually
adjust to the absence. These infants are generally excited upon the return of the mother
(Ainsworth et al., 1978). Lastly, the Anxious or Ambivalent pattern of behavior in infants
shows signs of anxiety and hostility towards the parent. The Ambivalent infant is shows
aggression toward the mother, but longs to be close to her at the same time. This behavior
occurs both before and after the parent returns to the room (Ainsworth et al., 1978).
Hazan and Shaver (1987) continued this line of research and adapted the original
same three attachment styles remain true for adjustment and behavior in adult
relationships (Hazan, & Shaver, 1987). The securely attached infants matured into adults
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that were more likely to experience balanced relationships of a desirable duration. The
Avoidant infants grew up to have a few short relationships, if any at all. Ambivalent
infants became adults who had frequent partners, but often to not allow themselves or
their partner to establish the close bond that they would like to form.
The effects of divorce on the adults who are engulfed in the situation tend to be as
stressful as those found in the children. Weiss (1976) work showed that the reaction of
couples after divorce is similar to the core set of reactions of other examples where
attachment is broken, including the reactions of children. Kobak (1999) refers to the
Weiss study and states that the availability of an attachment figure in relationships is
important to the strength of the bond. When this availability is broken, much like an
enhanced Strange Situation Procedure for adults, the security of one spouse or the other is
threatened.
Berman (1988) noticed from his study of divorced couples, that there is often a strong
sense of longing for the estranged partner, and a mourning of the loss is experienced. He
also notes that there is a seemingly illogical mix of anger, resentment, and lingering
positive feelings for the estranged spouse. Weiss (1976) explains by stating, "This
persisting bond to the spouse resembles the attachment bond of children to parents
described by Bowlby. Indeed it seems reasonable to surmise that the bond we observe to
the distress caused by divorce is great for both partners, it is easier to see how adults cope
with the broken attachment because of their life experiences, maturity, and alternate
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sources of support. In contrast, children rely mainly on few attachment figures and often
Children usually lose a degree of contact with one of their very few attachment figures
when a divorce occurs. It is a confusing and stressful time for children, regardless of
whether the divorce was amicable or not. Booth, Clarke-Stewart, McCartney, Owen, &
Vandell (2000) refer to various national studies when stating that poor school
performance, low self-esteem, behavior problems, distress and adjustment difficulties are
associated with divorce. In adolescents from divorced families they noted more instances
In contrast, there have also been comparable studies that detect no unusual behavior or
emotional distress occurring from divorce (Armistead et al., 1998). For example, one
study involved extensive questionnaires and concluded that the average scores attained
from the children were within normal ranges when compared to children of intact
families (Armistead et al., 1998). There are many factors that may play into how
children's attachments are altered after a divorce, gender and age being the two most
documented variables.
According to Freud (1961), a two-parent group constitutes the minimal unit for
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Social learning theory was founded by Albert Bandura who integrated two theories;
modeling the behaviors, attitudes, and emotional reactions of others (Bandura, 1977).
Most human behavior is learned through modeling and from observing others, gives one
Similarly, social learning theory emphasizes the importance of role models, focusing on
parents as the initial and primary reinforcers of child behavior (Bandura and Walters,
1963). Much of the research adopting this perspective centers on parent-child similarities,
analyzing the transmission of response patterns and the inhibitory or dis-inhibitory effect
of parental models. The presence of the same-sex parent is assumed to be crucial in order
for the child to learn appropriate sex-typed behavior and grow to what society deems
It logically follows that departures from the nuclear family norm are problematic for the
stage in the developmental process. Accordingly, a large body of research literature deals
learning, and conformity. This focus has pointed to the crucial importance of both
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parents' presence but also has suggested that certain causes for parental absence may
The research on the relationship between father absence and the general level of the
child's adjustment reveals that the loss of a father for any reason is associated with poor
adjustment, but that absence because of separation, divorce, or desertion may have
especially adverse effects. Some researchers suggest even more dire outcomes whenever
parental separation, divorce, or desertion occurs. Among these are vulnerability to acute
psychiatric disturbances, the child's aversion to marriage, and proneness to divorce once
they do marry (Anthony, 1974). Two general propositions are suggested; Children reared
in households where the two biological parents are not present will exhibit lower levels of
well-being than their counterparts in intact nuclear families, and the adverse effects on
youthful well-being will be especially acute when the cause of parental absence is marital
Miguel and Miguel (2013) concurred that the combination of extensive social networks
and strong social effects among teenagers have the implication that public health
approach of child-to child which have focused on teenagers have expedited social
learning. However, large differences can be observed between social effects estimates
that rely on experimental variation. They argued that the weaknesses of diverse learning
responses. The social learning theory integrates both cognitive and behavioral theories of
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Ndirangu, Ngare and Wango (2013) opine that learning is not just behavioral, but it is
rather a cognitive process which occurs in a social context. It can occur through
In essence, learning can even occur without any observable change in behavior. In
addition, reinforcement has a crucial role in learning, thereby learners are not passive
information receptors
In two other studies by Kinard and Reinherz in (1984) and in (1986) they observed
elementary school children in three different family situations: those who were never
disrupted; those who were disrupted prior to starting school; and those who are recently
disrupted. The study found that children in recently disrupted families suffered
In a controversial study of divorced families, Wallerstein and Blakeslee (1989) state that
most children have the same initial feelings. "When their family breaks up, children feel
vulnerable, for they fear that their lifeline is in danger of being cut". Wallerstein and
Blakeslee (1989) observed that little children often have difficulty falling asleep at
bedtime or sleeping throughout the night after occurrence of a divorce between the two
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parents; they have behavioral problems like throwing of tantrums which becomes more
common though the effects of parental divorce on children diminishes over time.
Clarke-Stewart, Vandell, McCartney, Owen, and Booth, (2000) conducted wide sampling
research and realized that the worst initial reactions and behaviors that occur close to the
date of the divorce were by the youngest children. In a follow-up study 10 years after the
divorce, however, the youngest children were adjusting to their new environments and
interactions better than siblings who were older at the time of the divorce.
Gender difference between children in a divorce plays a very important role in how they
adjust. This is true during the time of the divorce and has lasting effects in adult life.
Multiple studies have agreed that boys and girls react differently to the reduced contact
with a major attachment figure. Boys seem to have an especially difficult time with
divorce, causing them to have trouble at school, withdraw from social interactions, or
start fights with peers (Wallerstein, & Blakeslee 1989). However, Amato (2001) wrote a
follow up study to his earlier meta-analysis findings. In this earlier study, behavior traits
were ranked in children with divorced parents and observed negative behaviors. The
current study emphasizes that differences are not unique to either boys or girls.
Amato and Keith (1991) found that the deficit in social adjustment associated with
marital disruption was greater for boys than for girls. In the 1990s, divorce was
associated with greater conduct problems among boys than girls. But the more general
conclusion--in the earlier meta-analysis as well as in the present one--is that most of the
disadvantages associated with divorce are similar for boys and girls.
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These findings imply that the stress on the children is equal, although they may show it in
differing ways. Amato's (2001) follow up study also goes to great lengths to show that
current trends in gender differences are not as severe as they were once thought to be.
2.3.2 Ways in which Adolescents Social Development (Age 9-13) are affected by
Divorce
On the basis of her review of research conducted between 1970 and 1980, Cashion (1984:
483) concludes: "The evidence is overwhelming that after the initial trauma of divorce,
parent families." Investigations of long-term effects (Kiecolt & Acock, 1988) suggest
parental divorce or separation have only slightly lower levels of adult adjustment.
Often times, divorces end in ugly custody battles between the parents. During this time,
the parents being terribly selfish as to who is most responsible often forget they are being
observed at all times. Divorce is hard enough on a young child; suddenly the family is no
longer together, and it is a very confusing time. Attachment style can be even more
afflicted by court battles in which the child has no control over whom he or she goes
with. Not only are children seeing a terrible side of their parents, to whom they were
initially attached, but also it becomes a reality for them that they are going to lose one of
them as well
conclusions: Herzog and Sudia (1973) conclude that children's school achievement is not
affected by father absence, but Shinn (1978) concludes that father absence has a number
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30 studies that met reasonable methodological criteria, Shinn reports that "financial
hardship, high levels of anxiety, and in particular, low levels of parent-child interaction
Wallerstein and Blakeslee (1989) observed that older children may have trouble
concentrating at school, during class work. This affects their school performance making
them get low grades. Adolescents often act out and get into trouble in school as a way of
Clarke-Stewart et al., (2000) summarize their results and say that during the early and
mid stages of life, it is perhaps most important that the available parent (after the divorce)
has good parenting skills. This, they say, is more important to the outcome of the child
than the family structure, meaning that parenting practices have a greater effect on
children than marital status. They mention that lack of education, depression, low
income, and inadequate support from the mother leads to poor adjustment and behavior in
young children. Many of these factors can be brought on by a divorce, such as lack of
support or attention for children, depression and economic status. The fading stigma of
divorce is another universal factor that has been observed to change the well-being of
these children. Contrary to the past, divorce is not viewed as a degrading occurrence,
which once brought social exclusion, shame and the feeling of failure to family members.
Similarly, the current volume has increased, and current divorces are not preceded by as
much violence and anger as in the past (Amato, 2001). Taking these ideas and exploring
the further effects of divorce or "staying together for the kids" could serve to reinforce the
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Social development is a lifelong affair that continues from childhood to adulthood.
During adolescence, it is normal for the issue of gender to become much more central for
most individuals. Cross-sex interests are tolerated in adolescence as parents and peers
behavior. Normal societal progress calls for a narrowing of gender pathways in order to
move closer to awaiting adult roles. In the African setting, mixed gender interactions in
adolescence are somehow limited. Social role requirements that occur at different life
stages as well as interactions that foster personal growth and relationships are imperative
to develop adults to ensure that they progress through life stages at roughly the same pace
and sequence.
During normal social development, it is common for individuals to struggle with sense of
identity, feel awkward regarding one’s self and body, worries about whether one is
normal tend to emerge, increased conflicts with parents arise, peer group influence tend
to increase, the burning desire for self independence takes its toil, there is even a
moodiness which is coupled by rising interest in privacy (Sanson, Hemphill, & Smart,
2004).
as overall development outcomes. It has been shown that healthy positive behaviors
approaches need to be expanded with a view to support adolescents who are most
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vulnerable. The participation and support of children during their initial adolescence
phase by enabling them to have a say in programmes and activities would develop greater
competence and self confidence in diverse areas and activities. In recent years, Kenya has
experienced phenomenal growth in usage of the Internet and ICT among the young
people and adolescents. This has dim turn led to new social networking tools which have
Njoroge (2013) established that young adolescents are intensely loyal to their close peer
groups. Teens therefore tend to seek social stature within these peer groups, they even try
out new behaviors as they search for personal identity and social positions. This tender
age is also torn in between desires to conform to peer group norms in addition to having
and subtle changes which give adults vital insights as the various challenges that the
youth face in order to illuminate possible reasons for shifts in behaviors and abilities.
Kimani and Mureithi (2014) established that children self-esteem levels are not
complex interface caused by other factors like relationship type between parents and
children, teaching conditions and immediate school environment among other factors.
The study recommended that since self should be addressed from a more holistic
position, the formulation of appropriate strategies to boost self esteem would boost
children sense of self confidence. The duration lived by students in parenthood that is
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either single or dual parenthood have an influence on their interpersonal relationships
levels, self esteem and discipline. It was found that the duration of time that students
spend with their parents is crucial in that it influences their discipline, self esteem and
interpersonal relationships.
2.3.3 Ways in which Young Adults are Affected by Divorce (Age 15-25)
Short-term outcomes for children from divorced families seem to be troubled, but the
outcome becomes increasingly optimistic as the children age and mature (Wallerstein &
Blakeslee 1989). The individuals who were interviewed by Wallerstein (1989) showed a
strong desire to fix what their parents could not within their own adult lives. They wanted
to have stable families and relationships, although many viewed this dream as idealistic
and not realistic. "They fear betrayal. They fear abandonment. They fear loss. They draw
Regardless of the long term effects on these particular interviewees, Amato and Keith
(1991) concluded after their own assessment that children of highly conflicted families
who are not divorced fare worse over time than children with divorced parents. This
shows that distance from an attachment figure may be better than living in a troubled
environment. Many of the young men and women interviewed showed signs of becoming
depressed or frenetic. Some throw themselves into sexual affairs or immerse themselves
in work in a way of dealing with their losses. Many showed feared a lack of commitment
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Wallerstein and Blakeslee (1989) observed through their years of interviews with
children of divorce an occurrence known as the Sleeper Effect. It is defined as, "a delayed
reaction to an event that happened many years earlier" (Wallerstein & Blakeslee, 1989.
The Sleeper Effect is seen mostly in young women whose parents divorced while they
were young children. As previously noted, boys are more likely to act out during the time
of divorce, showing their aggression and anger at the situation (Amato & Keith, 1991).
Girls on the other hand, seem to keep this frustration inside. This pent up emotion is
theorized to show its effects later in the lives of these girls (Wallerstein, & Blakeslee
1989). Its effects are described as, "particularly dangerous because it occurs at the crucial
time when many young women make decisions that have long-term implications for their
lives.
2.3.4 Ways in Which Parents Living Together Influences the Children’s Social
Development
Amato and Keith (1991) concluded after their own assessment that children of highly
conflicted families who are not divorced fare worse over time than children with divorced
parents. This shows that distance from an attachment figure may be better than living in a
troubled environment.
Sundry factors associated with society at large are correlated with changing divorce rates.
First among these macro-level factors is that of variations in divorce laws. Whereas
divorce used to be hard to obtain because of the nature of the law itself--that one parent
had to file suit against the other and the cases filed needed to consist of an extreme
measure that made the marriage unbearable in the eyes of the courts--during the 1960s,
amendments created the "No-Fault" divorce ruling. This allowed couples with
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irreconcilable differences to end their marriages more easily. This correlates with the fact
that society has changed considerably its views and attitudes towards divorce over the
last 45 years (Nakonezny, Shull, & Rodgers, 1995). These attitudes have changed
because divorce has become more common. As divorce becomes less controversial,
unhappy couples who feel marriage might solve their problems view marriage more as a
"semi-permanent" situation and view divorce as "ending a bad decision." In other words,
if partners enter into marriage with the idea that it might end, it is more likely to do so
Divorce permanently weakens families and the relationships that exists between children
and their parents. It leads to diminished social competence, caustic conflict management
methods, early loss of virginity by teens and reduced sense of femininity and masculinity
for teens and adolescents. The adoption of diverse strategies that endeavor to mitigate
against divorce harmful effects on children should be adopted so as to place focus on the
types by offering; family mediation, legislation for parenting plans, children of divorce
support groups and adoption of parenting education programs would minimize on the
education programs that are designed to aid divorcing parents would ease both the trauma
of separation and divorce to children. The adoption of diverse programs that strive to
encourage divorcing parents to place more focus towards fulfilling children needs and
concerns as well as accordingly modify their personal behavior would reduce on the
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The incorporation of a mediator to assist conflicting parties through helping them to
identify burning issues would help to reduce misunderstandings thereby clarify priorities
and expel emotions thereby possibly exploring new areas of compromise which can lead
to possible solutions to inherent problems. This approach is ideal in that it emphasizes the
need for cooperative decision-making among parents as well as their children. The
process of mediation encourages parents to place their children priorities first during the
entire process of divorce. Through this process, parents are given the opportunity to
co-parenting after divorce thereby reducing on adverse effects to affected children and
The conceptual framework represents the relationship between the dependent variables
and the independent variable of the study. The independent variable is the effect of
adults between 15 years and 25 years and the influence both parents living together have
on children. The dependent variable looks at the social development of the children.
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Effect of divorce on Pre-
schoolers (0-9yrs)
Social Development
Effect of divorce on
Adolescents (9-13yrs) Low self-esteem
Poor
performance in
Effect of divorce on young school
adults (15-25yrs) Anti-social
behavior
Fear of getting
into relationships
Influence of parents living Behavior
problems
together
Dependent Variable
Independent Variable
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2.5 Operational Framework
Low self-esteem
Poor school
Pre-schoolers
performance
(0-9yrs) Adjustment
difficulties
Difficulty in sleeping
Anti-social behavior
Adolescents (9- Low self esteem
Social Development Poor school
13yrs)
performance
Social behavior Abuse of drugs
Early sexual activities
School
performance
Fear to start
Self-esteem relationship
Strong desire to fix
Young Adults life
(15-25yrs) Exhibit weird sexual
behavior
Desiring stable
families and
relationships
Highly social
Longer concentration
Parents living period
together Always happy
Perform well in school
Majority of their needs
catered for
Reduction of Mediation
Effects Social Usage of children
divorce support groups
Dependent Variable
Development Adoption of parenting
education programs
Co-parenting after
divorce
Independent Variables
Parameter
3.1 Introduction
This chapter will focus on the research design to be used, the target population of the
study, the sampling design, and data collection methods, validity and reliability and data
analysis.
The study will employ descriptive survey design. This will involve using a survey design
as a strategy for collecting and analyzing data to answer research questions, to gather
information, summarize, present and interpret data for the purpose of classification.
According to Bryman (2008), a research design provides a framework for collecting and
analyzing data.
produce statistical information about the aspects of population that interest policy makers
data.
Target population is the list of all the elements from which the sample is drawn Cooper
and Schinder (2003). The target population will be 27 secondary schools, 55 primary
distribution of the population of the schools in different categories is shown in Table 3.1.
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Table 3.1 Population of schools
School Category Number of Schools Population
Pre-primary 16 880
Primary 55 19,250
Secondary 27 13,500
Total 98 33,630
Source: Ministry of Education, Kangema Sub-county office.
The targeted schools will be classified into three strata. They include pre-primary,
collected. The various strata in the population will be grouped as in the table below. A
population is divided into sub groupings called strata and sample collected from each
strata. The sample size will be 10 schools which will represent 10% of the total
In each school the respondents will be drawn from the school administration (Head
teachers), Teachers and Students. From each stratum the study will select one head
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Table 3.3 Selection of Respondents
Stratum Target Population
Head-teachers Teachers Students
Pre-primary - 20 8
Primary 12 120 193
Secondary 15 550 135
Total 27 690 336
Primary data will be collected using questionnaires. The questionnaires will comprise of
questions which seek to answer questions related to the objectives of this study. The
questionnaires would be both closed to enhance uniformity and open ended to ensure
My research will get authorization in form of an introduction letter from the Board of
student of the university. I will book on appointment with the management of the sample
schools and explain the purpose of his study. Assurance on confidentiality of information
will be given and questionnaires will be left for three days for the respondents to fill. I
3.7 Validity
According to Litwin (1995) validity is the degree to which an instrument measures what
it is intended or the degree to which results obtained from data analysis present the
phenomena under study. The research will use content validity to measure the degree to
which data obtained from the research instrument will be meaningful and accurate.
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3.8 Reliability
Mugenda and Mugenda (2003) define reliability as a measure of the degree to which a
research instrument yields consistent results or data after repeated trial. Test-retest
method will be used to test reliability of the instrument used. The test involves
Results will be analyzed using qualitative and quantitative methods. The quantitative data
generated will be subjected to the descriptive statistics. Descriptive statistics will include
Statistics package for social sciences (SPSS) will be used, to aid analysis. Descriptive
method will explore the various factors on the relationship between the variables. The
qualitative data will be analyzed by attaching significance to the themes and pattern
observed. Data will be presented in form of tables, pie charts and bar graphs to facilitate
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CHAPTER FOUR
4.0 Introduction
This chapter presents the data collected from the field, analysis and interpretation. The
Kangema Sub-County. To achieve this; the study was guided by four objectives: ways in
which pre-schoolers social development (age nine and below) are affected by divorce;
ways in which adolescents social development (age 9-13) are affected by divorce; ways
in which young adults are affected by divorce (age 15-25) and to establish ways in which
parents living together influences the children’s social development. Data was collected
interpretation is given below through the use of a frequency distribution tables, mean and
returned to the researcher resulting in 825 response rate. Mugenda (1999) opine that a
response rate above 70% is perfect for generalization since it is adequate and
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4.2 Personal Information
findings revealed that 28% of the respondents were head-teachers in Primary and
Secondary school; teachers were 32%, students were 19% and parents accounted for 21%
school. The research findings showed that majority of the respondents had associated
with the school for 2-5 years at 33%; less than 1 year was 21%; 6-9 years at 19% and at
10 years and above at 27% indicating that they had enough information on the social
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The respondents agreed to a great extent that divorce affect pre-schoolers as shown by
behavioral problems at a Mean of 4.8905 and Standard Deviation of 0.6422 and it also
Deviation 0.5608.
The pre-schoolers had difficulty falling asleep at bedtime in cases of divorce was agreed
at a great extent with a Mean of 4.7211 and Standard Deviation of 0.9063; they also
showed difficulty sleeping through the night at Mean of 4.6341 and Standard Deviation
of 0.8762.
The respondents agreed to some extent that divorce led to shaken trust in dependency on
parents by the pre-schoolers at a Mean of 4.1276 and Standard Deviation of 0.3412 and
they showed decline in the standard of living in the custodial household at Mean of
4.4 Ways in which Adolescents Social Development (Age 9-13) are affected by
Divorce
The study sought to know how divorce affected the social development of adolescents
who are aged between 9-13 years. The research findings are as shown on Table 4.3.
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The respondents agreed to a great extent that divorce affected adolescents; they strongly
agreed that divorce led to the adolescents aged 9-13 years to have low self esteem at a
Mean of 4.9876 and a Standard Deviation of 0.9363 and it also led to early loss of
Divorce also affected their social development by influencing their decision to abuse
drugs at a Mean of 4.7452 and Standard Deviation of 0.5644 and to a great extent it led to
poor performance in school at a Mean of 4.5632 and Standard Deviation of 0.9231 and it
was also evident that divorce to some extent caused anti-social behavior like withdrawal
at a Mean of 4.3389 and Standard Deviation of 0.9564. It was also found that divorce
causes wanting self discipline to a great extent among adolescents at a mean of 4.1264
and Standard Deviation of 0.9925. In addition, it was found that divorces worsen
of 0.8954.
4.5 Ways in which Young Adults are affected by Divorce (Age 15-25)
The research study sought to understand the effect of divorce on the social development
of young adults aged 15-25 years; the findings of the study is as shown on Table 4.4
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The respondents agreed to a great extent on the statement that the young adults showed a
strong desire to fix what their parents could not within their own adult lives with a Mean
of 4.9784 and Standard Deviation of 0.7268. They also agreed to a great extent that the
young adults had a desire to have stable families and relationships at a Mean 4.8735 and
They equally agreed to some extent that the youth from divorced families showed
delayed reaction to an event at a Mean of 4.3459 and Standard Deviation of 0.7127 and
they had a fear getting into relationships at a Mean of 4.5423 and Standard Deviation
0.3451. Some youths may exhibit weird sexual behavior due to the influence of divorce at
4.6 Ways in which parents living together influences the Children’s Social
Development
The study sought to establish the influence of parents who are living together on the
children’s social development and the findings are as indicated on Table 4.5
Table 4. 5: Ways in which parents living together influences the Children’s Social
Development
Mean Std. Dev
Longer concentration period 3.5674 1.0456
Good performance in academics 4.7865 0.9864
Highly social 4.7634 0.2365
Are always happy 3.6789 0.8763
Have majority of their needs catered for 4.1768 0.1984
Have a friendly nature 4.0156 0.1247
High intelligence levels are realizable 4.3621 0.3254
levels of anxiety are managed 4.1258 0.2154
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When asked about the ways in which parents living together influenced he children’s
social development, the respondents agreed to a great extent that it had an impact.
Deviation of 0.9864 and led to the children being highly social at a Mean of 4.7634 with
The respondents agreed to some extent that majority of their needs are catered for with
parents living together at a Mean of 4.1768 and standard Deviation at 0.1984. The
respondents also argued that the children were always happy at a Mean of 3.6789 and
Standard Deviation of 0.8763 and social development of children living with parents to
an extent made the children to have longer concentration period at a Mean of 3.5674 and
Standard Deviation of 1.0456. The study found that children staying with their parents
realizable high intelligence levels at a mean of 4.3621 and Standard Deviation of 0.3254.
Lastly, it was found that levels of anxiety are managed when parents live together with
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Fulfillment of children needs and concerns 4.1884 0.6288
When asked about the ways that can be used to reduce the effects on social development.
The respondents indicated that there has been utilization of the services of a mediator to a
great extent at a mean of 4.2351 and a Standard Deviation of 0.9185. It was also shown
that that there has adoption of parenting education programs to a great extent at a mean of
4.3258 and a Standard Deviation of 0.1648. The respondents agreed to a great extent that
The respondents held the view that usage of children divorce support groups reduces
effects to great extent at a mean of 4.8916 and a Standard Deviation of 0.8219. It was
also shown that there is proper communication during the divorce process to a great
extent at a mean of 4.3952 and a Standard Deviation of 0.6147. There was also
fulfillment of children needs and concerns to a great extent at a mean of 4.1884 and a
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CHAPTER FIVE
5.1 Introduction
This chapter discusses the summary of key data findings and draws conclusions from the
findings based on the objectives. The Chapter also presents the recommendations made
from the findings. The purpose of this study was to the effect of divorce on children’s
social development.
affected the social life of children differently as grow up. The pre-schoolers at ages 0-9
years are affected by divorce and they express this by showing distress and behavioral
problems; some show difficulties in falling asleep and sleeping throughout the night.
There performance is school work becomes poor as they have adjustment difficulties.
The study established that adolescents (ages 9-13) were affected socially by divorce and
this was expressed by them in poor performance in school; some engage in early sexual
activities and abuse of drugs due to low self esteem faced by the effects of their parents’
divorce. Some acted out and showed anti-social behavior like withdrawal and lack of
The respondents agreed that young adults (aged 15-25) were affected by divorce, as they
showed a strong desire to fix what their parents could not within their own adult lives and
majority had a strong desire to have stable families and relationships. On the flip side
some of the young adults feared getting into relationships and commitment while others
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Further findings showed that the parents who were living together equally influenced the
social development of the children. This is evidenced by children being highly social
beings and happy most of the time. Many of had better and longer concentration periods
making them perform well in their academics as majority their needs are catered for by
both parents.
The research findings showed that there are various ways that can be used to reduce the
effects of divorce on children social development. It was revealed that utilization of the
divorce support groups and proper communication during the divorce process can
5.3 Conclusion
The study concludes that pre-schoolers (aged 0-9 years) are affected by divorce and this
is expressed by them showing distress and behavioral problems both in school and at
home. The children have difficulties in falling asleep during their bedtime and they have
difficulties sleeping throughout the night. On the schooling there performance is school
The study undertook to understand the effect divorce has on adolescents who are aged 9-
13 years and the study concluded that these children are affected to a great extent as it is
exhibited by their poor performance in school, low self esteem making them anti-social to
their peers and some withdraw completely. Some of the adolescents engage in sexual
The study further concludes that divorce affects the young adults (15-25 years) and this is
shown by the choices that they make. They express a strong desire to fix their parents
problems and seek strong, stable relationships and families. Alternatively the study
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concludes that these young adults due to divorce may be afraid to start relationships for
fear of it ending and some may find solace in weird sexual behaviors.
When looking at the influence of parents living together and the children’s social
development; a positive correlation was drawn as such children showed a health social
life, were happier and did perform well in their school work.
programs, usage of children divorce support groups and proper communication can
reduce divorce effects on children social development during the divorce process.
sensitive matter. And talking about the experience to the parents and children wasn’t very
easy. There is also a fact that social development of the children is affected by many
other factors including financial status, culture, and religion. This challenge was handled
It was also difficult to access data because some respondents failed to give adequate
information. However, the researcher assured them that the information was confidential
and would be used only for academic purpose. Time limitation posed a great constrain in
carrying out this study. This challenge was handled through rescheduling of the time plan
5.5 Recommendations
The study found out that divorce as a great influence on the social development of
children at all ages and it does even to young adults and the choices that they make.
Therefore the study recommends guidance and counseling to help children understand
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and adjust to avoid adverse effects of their parents’ divorce. For children exhibiting
adverse negative social behavior then therapy either individual or with the parents to help
the children cope with the changes. The study further recommends that children priorities
need to be placed at the frontline during the divorce process as they are adversely
affected by divorce. Parents after divorce need to carry out co-parenting so as to ensure
that children social development is not adversely affected after the painful process of
divorce.
study therefore recommends that future studies on the effects of divorce can cover a
The study looked at influence of divorce on social development; further study should
look at the influence of divorce on other aspects of the human being namely
Further study should be conducted covering a large sample size in order to bring out a
more relevant and reliable results that will reflect the Kenyan society as a whole.
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APPENDICES
APPENDIX 1: QUESTIONNAIRE
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Decline in the standard of living in the custodial
household
6) Kindly identify the various ways that children aged (9-13) years social developments
are affected by divorce.
________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________
7) Below are several common ways that divorce affected children aged (9-13) years.
Kindly indicate the extent to which these have been felt among children in this
situation. Use a scale of 1-5 where 1= no extent, 2 = little extent, 3= moderate extent
4= great extent and 5= very great extent.
1 2 3 4 5
Early loss of virginity
Decision to start abusing drugs
Low self-esteem
Poor performance in school
Anti-social behavior (withdrawal)
Wanting self discipline
Interpersonal relationships worsen
8) Kindly identify the various ways that children aged (15-25) years are socially affected
by divorce.
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________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________
9) Below are several common ways that divorce have socially affected children aged
(15-25) years. Kindly indicate the extent to which these have been felt among young
adults in this situation. Use a scale of 1-5 where 1= no extent, 2 = little extent, 3=
moderate extent 4= great extent and 5= very great extent.
1 2 3 4 5
Strong desire to fix what their parents could not
within their own adult lives
Desire to have stable families and relationships
A delayed reaction to an event
Fear to get into relationships
Exhibiting weird sexual bahaviour
10) Kindly identify the various ways that parents living together influence children’s
social development.
________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________
11) Below are several common ways that parents living together influence children’s
social development. Kindly indicate the extent to which these have been felt among
young adults in this situation. Use a scale of 1-5 where 1= no extent, 2 = little extent,
3= moderate extent 4= great extent and 5= very great extent.
1 2 3 4 5
Longer concentration period
Good performance in academics
Highly social
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Are always happy
Have majority of their needs catered for
Have a friendly nature
High intelligence levels are realizable
levels of anxiety are managed
12) Kindly identify the various ways that can be used to reduce divorce effects on
children’s social development.
________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________
13) Below are several common ways that can be used to reduce the diverse effects of
divorce on children’s social development. Kindly indicate the extent to which these
have been applied among reported divorces instances. Use a scale of 1-5 where 1= no
extent, 2 = little extent, 3= moderate extent 4= great extent and 5= very great extent.
1 2 3 4 5
Utilization of the services of a mediator
Adoption of parenting education programs
Implementation of Co-parenting responsibilities
after divorce
Usage of children divorce support groups
Children prioritization during and after divorce
Proper communication during the divorce process
Fulfillment of children needs and concerns
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