Developing effecTIve
communication
skills
Presented by: Linda Mendoza
USC Kortschak Center for Learning and Creativity
Learning objectives for
communication skills
• To build active listening skills that improve lines of
communication with others.
• To be aware of our own communication barriers.
• To learn different phrases/strategies that improve how we
respond to others.
• To improve email etiquette and learn the do’s and don’t’s of
communicating with professors, advisors, etc.
The laws of
remembering
• Recently: we remember best what we heard last.
• We repeat the most important part of a message especially in
conversation.
• Frequently: we remember what we hear most often.
• Things we come into contact with everyday (ex: people we see
regularly)
• Impact: we remember most of the things that are presented
dramatically.
• Ex: famous movie lines
• Application: we remember most of the things we have use for.
• Ex: social security numbers and passwords
Common barriers
(listening)
• Jumping to conclusions
• Thoughts easily wander
• Filter out unimportant parts of a conversation
• Prematurely having a response before the person is done speaking
• Arguing and debating
Common barriers
(communicating)
• Fear of offending
• Feeling uncomfortable about expressing your emotions
• Messages are misinterpreted by listener
• Lack of knowledge about a subject/topic being discussed
• Nonverbal behavior
Improving
communication (1 of 2)
• Active Listening Skills – 5 Key Elements
1. Pay attention
• Look at the speaker directly
• Put aside distracting thoughts
• Don’t mentally prepare a rebuttal
• “Listen” to the speaker’s body language
2. Show That You’re Listening
• Nod occasionally
• Smile and use other facial expressions
• Note your posture – important!
• Encouraging the speaker
Improving
communication (2 of 2)
3. Provide Feedback
• Your role as a listener is to understand what is being said.
• Reflect on what has been said by paraphrasing:
• Example: “What I’m hearing is” or “Sounds like you’re saying”
• Summarize the speaker’s comment periodically
• Helps you stay focused
4. Defer Judgment
• Allow the speaker to finish each point before asking questions.
• Don’t interrupt with counter arguments.
5. Respond Appropriately
• Active listening is a model for respect and understanding.
• Be candid, open and honest in your response
• Assert your opinions respectfully
• Treat the person in a way he or she would want to be treated.
references
• http://www.mindtools.com/CommSkll/
ActiveListening.htm
• https://www2.cortland.edu/dotAsset/c1a635f6-
a099-4ede-8f15-79b86e315088.pdf
• https://owl.english.purdue.edu/owl/resource/694/01/