Table of Contents

Title Page

Copyright Page

Dedication

Acknowledgements

SPECIAL ACKNOWLEDGEMENT

EDITORIAL BOARD OF ADVISORS

Introduction

PREFACE

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XYZ

GLOSSARY OF TERMS

APPENDIX OF SUPPLIERS

BIBLIOGRAPHY

INDEX
 
 WARNING
The author and publisher do not advocate
practicing any of the activities listed herein.
Many are dangerous and some lethal.
People who choose to engage in these activities
do so at their own risk.

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 DEDICATION

This book is dedicated to Mark, Matilda, Martin, Linda,

Peter, Alex, Aaron, Joseph, Adrian, and Nelson, the special friends
who helped me survive both the earthquake and the death
of my mother while trying to complete this book.
 ACKNOWLEDGEMENT
 

A special thanks goes to the people who helped me compile

information for this book. In addition to my editors they are Diego,
Michael, Tanith, Joe, Grant, Vinci, Bruce, Ron, Enrique, Janet,
Russ, Cheryl, MD, Jamie, Doug, Stephen, Angela, Erich, Crimson,
Robert, Wayne, Jay, Pete, Mark, Jim, Barry, David, Ted, Robert,
Jonathan, Dan, Katheryn, Phil, Allen, Steve, Tim, Steve, Mark,
Karen, Bernie, Michael, John, Ann, Bruce, Brad, Dwight, Susan,
Paul, Lorna, David, Israel, Joseph, Hal, John, Nawana, Rick, Walter,
Pat, Jack, Dwight, Carol, Tim, Chaz, Joanna, The Society of Janus,
The Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, Skin II,
Mad Dog Tattoo, Platinum Films, Fetish Times, Back Drop Club,
Club Mud, British Museum Library, Mother Goose Productions,
QSM, Katharsis, San Francisco Sex Information Switchboard,
Stanford Lane Medical Library, The Gauntlet, Mr. S,
Romantasy Boutique, Desmodus, Inc.
 SPECIAL ACKNOWLEDGEMENT
 

Many of the terms in this encyclopedia were coined by

Dr. John Money and this special acknowledgement is
given to him in gratitude for the many accomplishments
he has made in the science of sexology. A list of
his terms can be found under “Sexology.”
 EDITORIAL BOARD OF ADVISORS
 

DISCLAIMER Members of the Editorial Board have generously agreed to review selected entries relating to areas in which
they have personal expertise. They do not in any way endorse the material presented here or guarantee its accuracy. The
opinions expressed in this book are the author’s and do not necessarily reflect the opinions or values of individual
advisors.

KIMBERLEY RUFER-BACH is a freelance writer, editor, and literary consultant based in Boulder Creek, California. She
writes for magazines, newspapers, and businesses. Her work includes the text of The First Men in the Moon Math, a best-
selling educational computer game. Egyptology is one of her main interests and she contributes to KMT, A Modern
Journal of Ancient Egypt. Kimberley is currently writing a novel which is set in ancient Egypt.

BRAD BUNNIN has practiced law in the San Francisco Bay Area since 1966. For more than a decade, he’s concentrated
exclusively on publishing law, representing hundreds of writers and over three dozen publishers throughout North
America. Brad is principal author of The Writer’s Legal Companion (Addison-Wesley, 1988), and he’s taught publishing
law at the Graduate School of Journalism, University of California, Berkeley.

MICHAEL DECKER is a vice president of the National Leather Association, Seattle Chapter. He lectures nationally on the
S/M circuit and is thoroughly committed to sexual education. He is currently gathering material for a comprehensive
compendium for psychologists interested in his particular field of expertise.

J. PAUL FEDOROFF, M.D., F.R.C.P.(C), is a staff psychiatrist in the Forensic Division of the Clarke Institute of Psychiatry,
Associate Psychiatrist with the Neuropharmacology Division of the Toronto Western Hospital, and Assistant Professor in
the Department of Psychiatry, University of Toronto, Canada. He has published and lectured extensively in the areas of
neuropsychiatry and sexual disorders.

FLASH GORDON, M.D., F.A.C.E.P. Dr. Gordon is a San Francisco physician. He worked with the Haight Ashbury Free
Medical Clinic from 1978 through 1990, and was Medical Director of the Medical Section there from 1985 through 1990.
He was the Emergency Medicine Residency Director at San Francisco General Hospital from 1978 through 1980, and was
active in emergency medicine from 1976 through 1988. He is a columnist in CityBike Magazine, the Northern California
Motorcycle monthly, and recently compiled a selection of his columns into a book entitled Blood, Sweat, and Gears. Dr.
Gordon founded the San Francisco Bay Area Chapter of Doctors Ought to Care, better known as D.O.C. He also founded
H.E.A.R. (Hearing Education and Awareness for Rockers). He is Chairman of the Board of the Haight Ashbury Switchboard,
and hosts the Medical Conference on the W.E.L.L., an electronic community based in Sausalito. Dr. Gordon’s personal
interests are diverse.

CONRAD HODSON is a “kinky” blacksmith, a native of Oregon, and has been an S/M player for 18 years. He lives in Eugene
with his lover of 25 years, who was also his first play partner. He feels strongly that no one else should have to take as
long as he did to find out how S/M really works, and is committed to education and outreach about safe, sane, and
consensual play. He is the president of the Oregon Guild Activists in S/M and has served two terms on the Council of the
National Leather Association.

 
JOHN JOSS is an experienced television and radio broadcaster, director, writer, and author of several fiction and
nonfiction books. John graduated from the Royal Naval College, Dartmouth. He was also an actor in London’s theaters
and today writes teleplays and scripts. John’s interests are diverse. He flies everything from gliders to fighter jets, races
motorcycles, and devotes time to assist writers with grammatical editing.

H. MARTIN MALIN, PH.D., FACCS, is Associate Professor of Clinical Sexology at the Institute for Advanced Study of Human
Sexuality and Consulting Clinical Sexologist at the Johns Hopkins Hospital Sexual Disorders Clinic. He is President of
Sexology Associates, Inc., a private practice specializing in the diagnosis and treatment of paraphilic sexual disorders and
gender identity/role concerns. Dr. Malin is a Diplomate of the American Board of Sexology, a Board Certified Sex
Therapist and Clinical Supervisor, and a Life Clinical Fellow of the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists, a member of
AASECT, SSSS and numerous other professional societies.

KAREN MENDELSOHN came out as an S/M player in 1986. She has been coordinator of the Society of Janus and an officer
of the National Leather Association. In 1989 she founded QSM which gives classes in San Francisco on all aspects of
domination and S/M play. QSM has also held art exhibits, readings, and video screenings of S/M artwork.

LORNA MEYER holds advanced degrees from Vanderbilt University and Stanford in religious studies with minors in
anthropology and art history. Lorna has extensive knowledge of foreign cultures.

JAMES DAVID-PETER MURPHY, PH.D. Dr. Murphy holds a doctorate in psychology, and specializes in the field of
psychopathology. He has training in massage therapy, Chinese acupuncture and acupressure. He founded and directs
Night-Thunder, Incorporated, a centre for intense internal transformational therapy. There he practices as a
psychoneuroimmunologist.

FAKIR MUSAFAR is known worldwide for his forty plus years of research and for his personal practice of primitive body
decoration and rituals. Fakir’s views have been expressed in the 1986 film Dances Sacred & Profane (released on home
video as Bizarre Rituals), his own book Body Play, Re/Search Publication’s Modern Primitives (Fakir coined this term in
1979 to describe himself and a few kindred spirits), in Mark Thompson’s Leatherfolk, and in numerous issues of Piercing
Fans International Quarterly (PFIQ) magazine. He currently publishes his own magazine Body Play & Modern Primitives
Quarterly for those who view their bodies as living canvases to decorate and living clay to sculpt. A shaman, master
piercer and body modifier, Fakir played a significant part in the revival of body piercing, branding and other body-related
practices for purposes of spiritual exploration, rites-of-passage, healing and reclaiming the body.

Born Roland Loomis in 1930, Fakir was born a depression baby in Aberdeen, South Dakota. He studied electrical
engineering and has a B.S.E. degree from Northern State University (South Dakota), plus an M.A. degree in Creative
Writing from San Francisco State University. For many years he held executive positions in San Francisco advertising
agencies and operated his own agency where he specialized in high-tech advertising and marketing for Silicon Valley
industries. Currently, Fakir is a popular speaker at universities, colleges and to special interest groups. He is Director of
the Insight Institute and publishes unusual books and periodicals as Insight Books. In addition, he conducts workshops on
Ecstatic Shamanism and offers private shamanic journeys, body piercings, or brandings in a ritual context. Fakir also likes
to do ritual performance in galleries and theaters. He is married to French-born Carla who is also a collaborator in his
workshops and performances.

 
JOAN A. NELSON, M.A. (PSY.), ED.D. (Human Sexuality), is a sex educator and clinical sexologist in private practice in San
Francisco. Her published research attempts to describe the phenomenon of intergenerational sexuality—including
nonproblematic as well as problematic relationships. Ms. Nelson’s relevant publications include: “The impact of incest:
factors in self-evaluation,” a chapter in the book Childhood Sexuality, New Findings/New Perspectives (1981); “A new
look at incest,” Forum Magazine (Aug. 1980); “Incest: self-report findings from a nonclinical sample,” The Journal of Sex
Research (Nov. 1986); “Fear of sexual intimacy: an integrative clinical approach emphasizing learned inhibition as an
etiological factor,” Journal of Sex Education and Therapy (Vol. 13, 1987); and “Intergenerational sexual contact: a
continuum model of participants and experiences,” Journal of Sex Education and Therapy (Vol 15, 1989).

MICHAEL PERRY, PH.D. is a licensed therapist with a private practice in Encino, California. He specializes in sexual concern
therapy, relationship counseling and surrogate therapy, has a number of teaching credentials and is Board Certified by
the American College of Sexologists. He is past president of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sex, Los Angeles
Chapter, and now serves on the National Board. He produces audio and video programs on sexuality. Michael’s most
recent project, Sex: A Lifelong Pleasure is a complete sexual self-help video series now in international distribution,
produced by Lenox Holding of Amsterdam. Michael is also an author, an international speaker, and a radio and television
personality. Michael has appeared on Geraldo, Sonya Live, Larry King Live, Hard Copy, and the Playboy channel. He has
written many articles on sexual issues, including the G-spot, female sexual health, sex and drugs, and sex education. He
has co-authored the book Marriage and the Family in the Year 2020 and was an editor for Handbook of Sexology,
Volume VII, “Childhood and Adolescent Sexology.” Michael, before becoming a sexologist, spent 11 years studying for the
priesthood.

VIRGIL PLACE, M.D. has specialized in Internal Medicine, Endocrinology, and Pharmacology. After receiving his M.D.
degree from Johns Hopkins, he did his internship and biochemical fellowship at Presbyterian Hospital, Chicago, and
completed his training at the Mayo Clinic. Private practice gave way to clinical pharmaceutical research at Lederle, Syntex,
and ALZA. Key involvement in developing hormone skin patches for women and men brought focus to the sexual
problems related to hormone deficiency. He has emphasized treatment of male impotence by noninvasive pharmacologic
therapy for the past five years. He has formed a new company, VIVUS, Inc., whose sole focus is optimizing therapy of
impotence. Such efforts emphasize need for both partners to achieve maximal satisfaction through peak male
performance.

GRANT C. RIDDLE is a technical manager by vocation and a writer by avocation. His articles on social/sexual subjects have
been published in the medical journal Sexuality & Disability (1988), Fascination (1985), and OverGround (1991). His
book Amputees & Devotees (1989) broke through the socially correct “conspiracy of silence” which surrounds the
social/sexual concerns of disabled people specifically as they apply to amputees. His recent effort was co-authoring the
autobiography of a woman parole officer who had been involved in the tumultuous events which surrounded the parole
of the rapist/mutilator Lawrence Singleton in 1987, but it seems that, due to the extreme revulsion of the nature of that
crime, he has encountered difficulties in locating a publisher willing to produce the book.

JAMES M. RODRIGUES, JR. has been a police officer with the San Jose Police Department in California for the past ten
years. He worked as an investigator assigned to the Child Exploitation Detail for three and one-half years. As part of his
assignment Detective Rodrigues worked undercover contacting and identifying pedophiles and child molesters involved in
the sexual exploitation of children. Detective Rodrigues had occasion to work undercover and be contacted by a person
interested in making a “snuff film,” where a young boy was to be kidnapped, sexually assaulted, and ultimately murdered
on film. These acts were never completed; however, the ensuing investigation lasted ten months and gave Rodrigues in-
depth background in this area. Detective Rodrigues’ experiences have given him unique insight into this sub-culture from
which he has given the author guidance in this topic.

 
K.C. ROURKE has always been interested in people. She has explored herself and her fellow humans physically,
emotionally and sensually through several “adult-oriented” occupations; she reads extensively about how people think,
feel and act; she has learned much from thousands of assorted personal encounters. In the late 1960s she joined
BackDrop Club and explored the role of power dynamics in sex and in life. She has since found great satisfaction in
becoming the slave of a skilled and understanding Master. She has also found a compatible husband, and spends her time
creating a comfortable discreet space where people with fetish/fantasy interests can play.

ED SARGENT, M.D. is a family physician in Oregon who has in the course of his practice provided medical care to some in
the S/M community.

GREG SAWIN is a medical editor at ALZA Corporation (Palo Alto, CA) and has a B.A. in psychology from San Francisco State
University (1979). He is also a director of the International Society for General Semantics (Concord, CA) and writes the
“Dynamics of Thought and Behavior” feature in the ISGS quarterly journal Et cetera. One of his other interests is
anthropology.

KRISTINA STONE, M.F.C.C. received her Masters in Counseling from the University of San Francisco and has studied in the
field of Human Sexuality. She is presently in private practice as a licensed Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in Los
Gatos, California. She and her husband, Steve Stone, reside in Saratoga, California.

STEVEN STONE has a background in engineering and law and is presently practicing law in California, specializing in
patent, trademark and copyright matters, primarily in the medical, pharmaceutical and biotechnology fields. By virtue of
their different backgrounds, Steve and Kristina were able to provide the author with some unique insights during the
evolution of this work.

In addition to the above mentioned consultants there were many people who made contributions to the book, only some
of whom are listed in my acknowledgements.

ILLUSTRATORS

PHOEBE GLOECKNER, M.A., Biomedical Communications, is an illustrator of medical texts, as well as a painter and
cartoonist. Some of her other work may be found in The Atrocity Exhibition by J.G. Ballard (Re/Search Publications), and
Twisted Sisters, A Collection of Bad Girl Art (Penguin). Born in Philadelphia, she was moved at the age of twelve to San
Francisco, where she continues to reside (as do all the artists who contributed to this book). Her chosen profession leaves
absolutely no time for hobbies or amusing pastimes of any sort. Fortunately, she is able to glean satisfaction from her
work. She has inadvertently become known as an artist who provides pictures for texts of salacious content. This book
may represent a departure from past work, since its intent is, of course, to educate, rather than to inspire prurient
feelings.

 
JAKUB KALOUSEK, originally of Prague, Czechoslovakia, is a painter as well as a rap musician and film producer. His most
recent recording is titled Slickety-Lick. He is known in some circles for his films, remarkable for their atmosphere of
concrete ambiguity.

PAUL MAVRIDES is an artist of unbounded enterprise who is fluent in a variety of media. His work may be found in various
cultural tidepools.

JULIE NEWDOLL, currently engaged in the demanding discipline of computer-generated medical art, cools her heels at the
easel whenever time permits and inspiration insists.
 INTRODUCTION
 

BY MICHAEL PERRY, PH.D.

It can be said of very few books that they are unique. But this one certainly is. Its original title, BEYOND FANTASY: 500
UNUSUAL SEX PRACTICES has been eclipsed. This encyclopedic work has gone beyond the original 500 listings, beyond the
unusual to the truly bizarre and beyond fantasy to the outskirts of reality itself. It carves a path through sexual history and
cultures and practices, both local and foreign. It will take you down byways whose very existence will amuse and possibly
delight you. It will carry you into dark backwaters that will repulse and may even sicken you.

The nature of the book is truly encyclopedic and so is its format. Each entry is self-contained so you can start anywhere or
you could start with Acrotomophilia (being sexually aroused or attracted to an amputee) and end up somewhere around
Zelophilia (being aroused by jealousy). It is a readable commentary on all things sexual. Well, nearly all; look for the
sequel. It will enable you to distinguish Pediophilia (sexual attraction for dolls) from Pedophilia (sexual attraction of an
adult toward a child). There are listings for sex conferences both scientific and hedonistic; clothing-optional hotels and
obviously more games, devices and concepts than even the most sexually adventurous could ever try in many lifetimes.
Perhaps this is the ultimate “how-to” marriage manual to put spice back into a wilting relationship.

Brenda Love birthed this encyclopedia after four years of gestation. The seeds of this book are international with research
accumulated from S/M lectures in San Francisco, West coast sex conferences, counselor training for the San Francisco Sex
Information Switchboard, 19th century literature at the British Museum Library, street interviews in Amsterdam, and
discussions with consultants from around the world. Many types of sexual behavior have recently been defined by Dr.
John Money and these have been included, among others, in this book. Dr. Money brought prominence to the term
paraphilia (a love for or an attraction to something outside the usual). He also named and defined many of the -philias
contained here. (See Sexology /John Money)

Brenda Love and I met as volunteer counselors on the San Francisco Sex Information Switchboard, S.F.S.I. to those of us
who know it well. S.F.S.I.’s non-judgmental spirit together with the compassion we both felt for distraught callers helped
to further develop an interest in understanding the multi-faceted expressions of human sexuality.

THE ENCYCLOPEDIA OF UNUSUAL SEX PRACTICES is more than an encyclopedia with over 700 entries. Ms. Love’s root
theory, her philosophy and psychology of sexuality is best elucidated in two entries: “Paraphilias” and “Love.” A careful
read here reveals that “deviance” merely means “not usual,” “away from the norm,” a non-judgmental “paraphilic”
classification. By dissecting neurological cycles, imprinting, primal needs and compensation, Brenda explores how
different people form their own “lovemaps” (term coined by John Money) and how certain stimuli may engender a flight
or fight reaction in one person and love or attraction in another. This may also explain why actual pain inflicted by an
attractive person can generate arousal. Ask a dental technician! This theory delineates how elevation of energy, or stress
necessarily leads to fight, flight, or love/sex in order to properly arrive at conflict resolution and homeostasis. The
reactions are enmeshed. Resolution is necessary otherwise disease lingers and deepens.

THE ENCYCLOPEDIA OF UNUSUAL SEX PRACTICES will be a reference for the serious sexologist, a curiosity and source of
amazement for those interested in sex and all its variations and damning proof for the puritanical that we are truly going
to Hell in a handbasket—bound and flogged.
 PREFACE
 

“The World is full of apparent contradictions, and every highest truth is the union of opposites.”
—HAVEILOCK ELLIS

The fantasies people create in their imaginations know no bounds. Those things that two or more consenting adults do
are no longer limited by arbitrary and often cruel rules based on religious beliefs. Nevertheless, there remain two
immensely important constraints on human sexual behavior. First, one human being should not coerce another into
sexual activities. In particular, older individuals must never use their physical or emotional power over children and
adolescents, either to obtain sexual services, or to initiate habits which, although pleasurable, may diminish a young
person’s personal freedom of choice later in life. Second, people must not be led by their sexual drives to dangerous or
mutilating practices that they subsequently regret. THE ENCYCLOPEDIA OF UNUSUAL SEX PRACTICES documents a wide
range of sexual activities. Many are behaviors which are enjoyed by the vast majority of individuals while others have
been associated with injury or death. It is the aim of the encyclopedia to provide objective information about how human
beings behave; where you draw the line must be your own informed choice.

I have attempted to write without bias. Believing that individuals and groups engaging in certain activities are entitled to
explain their own conduct, I have consulted or quoted from the practitioners themselves wherever possible. I next sought
to corroborate the information I received from the practitioners with input by respected sexologists, psychologists,
physicians, biochemists, anthropologists, attorneys, and law enforcement personnel.

Given the diverse backgrounds of my sources and editorial board, there were several obstacles to gaining a consensus of
opinion. The medical community views unusual sex practices from a health standpoint, psychologists view paraphilias as
compulsives, and many in the S/M community don’t feel they fall into either category since they only engage in activities
for experimentation. You the reader will need to keep in mind that almost any activity in this book can be engaged in for
reasons that vary from coercion from a partner, religious ritual, experimentation, supplementing penis/vagina sex,
building self-esteem, reducing stress, revenge, or it may be an exclusive act which the person feels unable to control.

The information contained within THE ENCYCLOPEDIA OF UNUSUAL SEX PRACTICES is only as accurate as its sources.
These include other authors and practitioners, individuals whose lectures I have attended, sometimes with
demonstrations by people whom I have interviewed. I have not knowingly included any false information.

A major dilemma has been how much detailed instruction to include in the text. Knowing people’s tendency towards
experimentation, I have felt that it is my obligation to provide enough safety precautions to forestall unnecessary injury.
At the same time, it is not my intent to write a user’s manual, or to endorse experimentation or specific sex groups. My
purpose is to educate readers, and to do so without censorship.

I have used the acronyms B.C.E. (before common era) and C.E. (common era) instead of B.C. (before Christ) and A.D.
(Anno Domini—in the year of the Lord of the Christian era) purposefully. My book has been written for a world audience
of all religions and I prefer not to offend my non-Christian readers with Christian dates. I have also used poems on a few
occasions because poems express the intensity of experiences and emotions in a way that I cannot in my writing.

I would like to extend an invitation to anyone interested in giving me their comments or sharing their experiences for a
possible revised edition and videotaped slide show to do so by writing me care of my publisher, Barricade Books, Inc., 61
Fourth Avenue, New York, NY 10003.
 A
 

ABDUCTION Bondage, struggle, and intimidation are often involved in abduction play just as in ancient times when men
abducted future brides from other tribes, afterward keeping them in bondage to prevent escape. Bride capture existed in
various forms until the 19th century in parts of Europe. (The ritual of a husband carrying his bride over the threshold
stems from this tradition.)

Today some people use abduction as part of a negotiated sex scene that involves a mock capture of a hostage, prisoner,
slave, or rape victim. The scene is acted out in the privacy of the home using a bedroom, closet, or garage as a jail cell.
Others are more daring and stage their abduction scenes in a public place. The amount of physical resistance in this case
is limited because potential observers may not know that the abduction is consensual. Costumes and uniforms are used in
scenes, particularly for military or police arrests. Couples also make use of handcuffs, thumbcuffs, rope, tape, blindfolds,
and other types of bondage paraphernalia. CAUTION: Physical resistance during abduction sometimes leads to accidental
injuries.

(See also BONDAGE, FANTASY PLAY, INTERROGATION and SLAVES)

ABRASIONS (Carpet burns—on carpet) People create abrasions by using metal emery files, brushes, or other items that
are rough to the skin but that do not leave residual particles of any type. Abrasions are generally less severe than rug
burns. Nipples are sensitized by sanding lightly with a file and the glans penis or labia is brushed with a fingernail or an
artist’s oil brush to accomplish the same effect. This type of torture builds in intensity as time passes and most stop short
of creating pain. The desired effect is simply to make the area much more sensitive to normal touch. CAUTION: Locations
on the body are selected that will not be rubbed by clothing nor have pressure on them. Non-sterilized instruments can
cause infections.

(See also BITING, BLOOD SPORTS, CUPPING, DEPILATION, PYROPHILIA. PHLEBOTOMY, SCRATCHING, SENSORY
ENHANCEMENT, TICKLING, TOUCH and URTICATION)

ACOUSTICOPHILIA (Melolagnia-music) An acousticophile (acoustico: sound; phile: person with attachment) becomes
aroused by sounds. Sounds preferred may be in the form of music, song, love poems, verbal abuse, sexual commands,
comments in a foreign language, screaming, panting, moaning, groaning, sighing, heavy breathing, as well as any other
natural sounds people make during sex.

People who do not normally vocalize feelings of arousal—but who would like to develop this skill—do it during
masturbation by concentrating on sounds that express ecstasy. Sounds don’t need to be loud and are preferred when
natural and spontaneous. These sounds not only stimulate the person making them but also serve as a very effective
method of communicating pleasure with a particular caress, position, or act. This helps the partner learn the techniques
needed to keep them aroused.

Group sex can be very exciting for people because of the variety of sounds in close proximity. Some duplicate similar
sounds by making a recording (or video) of their love-making and orgasms to play during the next interlude. Others are
aroused by hearing or speaking curse words.

Certain music has become associated with sex. One concert pianist said he was capable of eliciting various emotions in his
audience by different notes, using “middle c” for sexual arousal. “The Spanish Flea” is used for stripping, and “Bolero” is
popular as an accompaniment to sex. Other classical pieces are Wagner’s “Tristan and Isolde,” Beethoven’s “Kreutzer
Sonata,” Stravinsky’s “Rite of Spring,” and Berlioz’s “Symphonie Fantastique.” People who enjoy lying in front of fireplaces
on rainy nights purchase recordings of rain storms or the sound of ocean waves. In a similar way, music such as dirges or
funeral hymns are used to help the mood for some necrophiles. Hard rock music triggers a sexual response as well,
however in an altogether different manner. Michael Koss, who is the president of Koss Stereo Headphone Corporation, is
cited by Jillyn Smith in her book, Senses and Sensibilities, where she says, “... the excitement that people, especially
teenagers, get from high-decibel music results from activation of the peripheral nervous system by low frequency sound
waves beating against the body.” Koss contends that “people can get ‘high’ from this feeling, because it switches on the
body’s fight or flight mechanism, bringing a rush of adrenalin (a reason for battle music?)” (p. 39).
(See also AGREXOPHILIA, CONFESSIONS, COPROLALIA, ECOUTEURISM, EROTOGRAPHOMANIA, FANTASY PLAY,
HOMILOPHILIA, HYPNOSIS, JACTITATION, LOVE POTIONS, NARRATOPHILIA, OBSCENE PHONE CALLS, PHONE SEX,
SERENADES and TEASING)

ACROPHILIA Acrophilia (Acro: highest point; philia: attachment to) refers to a person who is sexually aroused by heights.
Sky diving and bungy cord jumping are high altitude activities that elevate one’s adrenalin. This excitement can then be
transferred to passion and sex. Both of these activities include a form of bondage, vertigo, and suspension.

S/M partners who suffer from acrophobia are sometimes blindfolded and made to climb ladders. If this is done often the
phobia seems to dissipate and along with it the sexual charge it first produced. (“Terror,” QSM lecture by J. C. Collins,
November 28, 1990)

Another popular form of acrophilia is having sex at a high altitude. This is humorously referred to as becoming a member
of the “Mile High Club” and is done in airplanes or other aircraft. (Conversely one wonders if there is a “Mile Low Club”
for submarines.) There was a group of pilots in New York that had their own version of a Mile High Club. The
requirements were that the pilot and passenger went up in an open cockpit bi-plane, and when they reached an altitude
of 6,500 feet, the passenger would disrobe, climb out on the wing and into the back seat, returning to the front seat after
having sex with the pilot. All without falling off the wing! (Personal communication, 1980)

Aerobatics can be sexually arousing for a few people. Stunts in a small plane offer 4-5 negative G-forces and 3-4 positive
Gs. These affect the body by pushing the blood into either the head or the lower body, and result in feelings of
lightheadedness, floating, or sinking, depending on the maneuver. There is a tremendous adrenalin ‘rush’ and a
simultaneous sense of power over the airplane and submission to it. The feeling of being bound is greater in stunt flying
than with other sports because the belts have to hold both body weight and chute through every maneuver. There are
very few sensations that compare with hanging upside down while one’s weight pulls them toward the glass bubble that
separates the pilot from the rapidly approaching ground. This feat provides enough sexual stimulation to cause at least
one female pilot to experience spontaneous orgasm. (Personal communication.)

Finally, there are people who claim to have been captured by creatures from outer space and impregnated while aboard
flying saucers. Their stories have provided many with a sexual fantasy, one that is acted out with the aid of readily
available space costumes.

(See also AGORAPHILIA, CLAUSTROPHILIA, FANTASY PLAY, PHOBOPHILIA and SUSPENSION)

ACROTOMOPHILIA (Amelotasis—attraction to the absence of a limb) An acrotomophile (Acro: extremity; -tomy: to cut;
philia: attachment to) is a person who is aroused by the thought of having sex with an amputee or by fantasizing about it.

Acrotomophiles sometimes convince a consenting partner to wrap a hand or foot in bandages. Dr. Eustace Chesser tells of
a man who used a form of pseudoacrotomy by having his wife limp across the bedroom with crutches before engaging in
sex. He became impotent if she didn’t comply (Strange Loves, p. 40).
 

People may become attracted to amputees for many reasons. These include fetishes, vicarious sadism, low self-esteem, a
legitimate excuse for poor performance, respect for an amputee’s adjustment to a handicap, need to rescue and care for
an amputee, and fear that this loss could happen to them.

People in any of these categories have apparently developed an amputee attraction through a previous childhood
experience. They may have escaped possible injury themselves or saw someone else injured. They were introduced to the
concept of amputation at an early age. The fear or compassion which they felt at that time could have made such a strong
impression that they may experience an erotic reaction when they next see an amputee. Those persons can be male or
female, straight or gay. That initial erotic arousal then becomes the key to their adult sexuality.

Others may react by taking solace in the knowledge that someone else has worse problems than themselves. For some
men the preference of an unusual sex object or practice is due to sexual repression and guilt imposed by parents. They
select safe objects onto which to direct their lust. They may select a prostitute because she cannot be violated, or a
handicapped person because the request for sex is compensated for by nurturing of the individual.

Conversely, a person with a low self-esteem may feel that someone with a handicap would provide a secure relationship
as no one else would compete for them. They may also feel that the amputee could not afford to be too critical or
demanding. This false sense of security and arrogance may lead a few into abusive behavior in their relationships with
amputees. Men who have been constantly criticized by parents sometimes feel that if they had been amputees they
would have been nurtured more and criticized less, therefore the amputee possesses a quality that this person feels he or
she needs. They gain that quality by vicarious association. Their sexual inhibitions are lowered.

Clubs exist that provide introductions or referrals for amputees, and literature exists that provides written materials and
photos. Fascination magazine features only photos and stories about female amputees. There is a book, Amputees &
Devotees by Grant C. Riddle, which provides a detailed study of this phenomenon.

(See also APOTEMNOPHILIA, AUTOMASOCHISM, BINDING/FEET, COUVADE SYNDROME, DYSMORPHOPHILIA,

HARMATOPHILIA, MASOCHISM, PSYCHROCISM, SADISM and VICARIOUS AROUSAL)

ACUPRESSURE Acupressure is the art of stimulating the self-healing or pleasure centers of the body by direct pressure on
specific areas. It is widely used in India for holistic care. Not only are the person’s muscles manipulated, but so is their
energy flow. Yoga masters are said to have the ability to use acupressure to give or take away knowledge, spiritual
enlightenment, and energy. Sex is only a small part of this complex form of healing and spirituality.

The two areas most responsive to acupressure are the hands and feet. Twenty minutes of acupressure applied to them
can result in increased sexual energy. Every square inch of the feet and hands is given individual attention by using firm
pressure and a rotating mo-tion. This should not create pain when done correctly.

Sensual acupressure points also include the ears and big toes, which are particularly sensitive to being sucked or fellated.

Other pressure points are on a person’s torso. These areas are on the nipples, inner collar bone, center of chest between
nipples (of small breasts) just under the navel, at the top line of pubic hair, at the base of the spine, and around the anus.
The exact spots will vary slightly from person to person, and some spots may not provide stimulus at all.

Acupressure is also used to delay ejaculation in men. These pressure points are listed by David and Ellen Ramsdale as
follows in their book titled Sexual Energy Ecstasy, A Practical Guide to Lovemaking Secrets of the East and West.

PROSTATE POINT—midway between scrotum and anus, pushed frequently and firmly before ejaculation is imminent.
Some men are able to tighten the anal/Pubococcygeal muscle enough to pump the prostate.

SOLAR PLEXUS—pit of stomach right below breastbone, pressed with fingertips of both hands.

SACRUM—inverted triangle of bone at base of spine, fingertip or thumb pressure used.

PUBIC BONE JUST ABOVE PENIS—pressed with third finger.

TESTES—putted to keep them from rising up toward body.

In keeping with acupressure therapy, Ramsdale and Dorman also include a list of genital pressure points and their
corresponding list of organs that receive rejuvenation (i.e. lungs, heart, spleen, liver, and kidneys). The inside wall of the
vagina has similar pressure points with the heart being the organ stimulated by the deepest penetration. The lungs are at
the second deepest point. This acupressure theory suggests that there is a definite health advantage related to regular
intercourse or masturbation.

(See also AXILLISM, BINDING, BITING, CLAMPS, CORSETS, CUPPING, GENU-PHAL-LATION, LIGHTING. MASSAGE, PINCHING,
SCRATCHING, SENSORY ENHANCEMENT and TICKLING)

ADOLESCENTILISM-PARAPHILIC (Ephebophilia—attraction to adolescents) Paraphilic adolescentilism refers to people

who find sexual pleasure in dressing like a teenager or acting out this role.

(See ANACLITISM, GERONTOPHILIA, INFANTILISM, NYMPHOPHILIA, PEDIOPHILIA and TRANSVESTITES)

ADULTERY (Apistia, Affair, Open marriage—consensual, Nonmonogamy—tifestyte that does not restrict number of
partners) Adultery is the sexual union between people when at least one of them is married to someone else. It is rarely
used to describe a man who frequents prostitutes or for a wandering partner in a homosexual marriage. Most often the
reason for engaging in adultery is an unbridled desire for ecstasy or passion; second is the opportunity to fulfill basic
needs that are not met elsewhere; and third is the inability to say “no.”

Adultery, or nonmonogamous sex, was probably common among clans of primeval man and resembled the social system
in some American Indian tribes. Adultery for women may have offered a few of the same advantages we find in some
animals. Bachelor bands, such as the langur monkeys, are one example. These clans are ruled by a dominant male and are
often raided by the younger outcast males. During raids these males rape straggling females and kill their young. The
female is sometimes able to avert this fate by slipping away from the clan and having sex with several of the male
outcasts. Her reward is that neither she nor her young are attacked during the raids. They are in fact protected by her
adulterous partners, all of which consider themselves the father of her young. Females in other primate clans use
adulterous liaisons to guarantee babysitters for their young. The mother signals one of her lovers to watch her young
while she enjoys a few hours of leisure and again each male assumes this to be his responsibility as ‘the father’. Thomas
Gregor, in his book Anxious Pleasures, The Sexual Lives of an Amazonian People, seems to attribute the continued
survival of small Amazonian tribes to the cohesion created by the numbers of members who engage in adultery. Lovers,
especially men, tend to give presents of food. This type of support, or exchange, balances their economic system. The
love bonds and the presence of children by various women deter a young man or widower from leaving to marry
someone from another tribe.

In modern societies, adultery became a threat to the family unit. It was still tolerated, but most often in the form of
prostitution. The Bible provided one of the first restrictions against adultery for women, but even then women were
rarely punished. Numbers V tells of a ritual used to expose adulterous women. Most people, unfamiliar with Jewish
history, interpret this adultery test as unfair, chauvinistic, and cruel. In reality, no guilty woman’s stomach ever swelled
and caused death as the law warned. The test consisted of simply dissolving the ink inscription of god’s name off a
parchment with water. The intention of the rabbi or priest was to restore the husband’s faith in his wife and therefore
discourage divorce or retribution. This was done without regard to her guilt or innocence. The test eventually lost its
credibility because all the women proved innocent by the application of this test.

Adultery continued to be tolerated by societies that practiced pre-arranged marriages or that enforced laws against
divorce. Catholicism did not campaign to stop adultery but had its influence by primarily condemning the sex act; for
them adultery did not carry much more stigma than carnal lust in marriage. The first real campaign against adultery came
from the Protestant reformation. The Protestant leaders thought it wiser to discourage arranged marriages and to
sanction sex within a marriage. Their hope was that families would be bonded more closely if couples married for love. In
turn, the Protestant ecclesiastical courts demanded chastity until engagement, and fidelity forever after. This law was for
the economic protection of a society that did not have a welfare system or a job market for women.

The English Puritans, upon relocating to the Colonies, abolished the ecclesiastical courts and made sex offenses capital
crimes in civil courts. There are still many states that have statutes and penalties against adultery. Enforcement, however,
has become impossible due to increased anonymity in metropolitan areas and a lack of motivation by neighbors or
relatives to report offenders, among other factors.

The Puritans must have been appalled when they were first exposed to the open sexuality of the adjacent Indian culture.
John D’Emilio and Estelle Freedman, in their book Intimate Matters, A History of Sexuality in America, discuss the sex
habits of Puritans and American Indians during this time. The Indians unabashedly practiced homosexuality, adultery,
polygamy, transvestism, and zoophilia. Likewise, being human, not all of the Puritans remained pious and many of those
who settled in Plymouth openly adopted these Indian customs, even reviving some of the pre-Christian religious fertility
ceremonies. The leader, Thomas Morton, was eventually deported to England for a while, and only returned shortly
before his death. In time, the majority of Puritans prevailed and forced all settlers in the new colonies to follow the
Puritan code of morality.

This intolerance, however, was not restricted to their fellow colonists; it was imposed on the surrounding Indian tribes as
well. In Women and Colonization: Anthropological Perspectives (quoted in Intimate Matters), a Jesuit, confronting a
Montagnais Indian, said, “It is not honorable for a woman to love anyone else except her husband,” for this sexual
promiscuity meant that a man “was not sure that his son...was his son.” The Indian, pointing out the cultural differences
of the intruder, replied, “You French people love only your own children, but we love all the children of our tribe.” This
attitude made unwanted pregnancies and split families less of a psychological burden. Women and children were also
recognized as valuable and their contributions to the success of the tribe were viewed as equitable and necessary. The
Indians, unlike the Europeans, did not use wages, sexual fidelity, and closed educational institutions to suppress women.
Colonists later used the promiscuity and cultural differences of the Indians as proof of the latter’s racial inferiority. This
helped the colonists to justify their extermination program.

Adultery was also tolerated by societies when the ratio of men to women was disproportionately high, or when the
offense was by a man against a lower status slave, servant, or prostitute.

Today, there seem to be differences between male and female affairs. Men usually are not looking for a replacement for
their wives. They use adultery to relieve stress, alleviate boredom, get revenge, remedy a lack of affection from a spouse,
temporarily escape responsibility, boost their ego, increase their sexual knowledge and proficiency, or to ease the
transition period between being a promiscuous bachelor and being married. Many men also marry for practical reasons
and not because the one chosen was the most sexually appealing. Women have affairs for many of the same reasons, but
tend to fall in love with their new partner much more often. This can be a problem, because, unlike men who may also fall
in love, women are less likely to separate sex from responsibility and often do not give up their lovers simply to keep
peace in the family.

Affairs are often painful for the single partner. While they may feel a high level of self-esteem initially, it is depleted when
the adulterer goes home every night to someone else. Often in the end the person who was the center of the adulterer’s
world becomes an embarrassment, a mistake, or a scapegoat, so that breaking up becomes the only remedy.

Spouses desiring an open marriage may be able to negotiate for what they feel is necessary for their emotional survival.
However, much depends on the value their partner places on fidelity. Statistics show that most people don’t file for
divorce on a first offense, but one can expect spouses who feel helpless and betrayed to go through a stage of wanting to
control or know about all their partner’s activities. This is temporary and necessary for some to reestablish trust in a
partner’s fidelity. Others may seek revenge by having an affair with a close friend or relative of their spouse.

Married partners who accept an open marriage will generally negotiate for things such as secrecy, discretion, restriction
on gifts, time allocated, locations for sex, type of person selected, type of sex, safe sex, etc. Some couples use group sex
with strangers as an equitable compromise because both parties are present and there are very few emotional liaisons
established in this environment. Nonmonogamous marriages, whether consensual or undiscovered, are thought to take
longer to break up because the adulterous partner is usually happy and rarely takes out their frustrations on their spouse.
There are exceptions, for while some adulterers will feel guilty and treat their partners with more respect, others turn
guilt into hostility and false accusations against their spouses.

Adultery involving homosexuality can be traumatic to the spouse who has a limited interpretation of human sexuality,
thereby adding more guilt and shame to the event. Counseling is beneficial for most people who find themselves in this
predicament. The book by Jean Schaar Gochros, Ph.D., entitled When Husbands Come Out of the Closet, may be of
benefit for those facing this particular problem. CAUTION: An assumption of implied consent regarding open marriages or
use of deceit may have severe consequences. Diseases and unwanted pregnancies can also create problems.

(See also CANDAULISM, CUCKOLDRY, GROUP SEX, FESTIVALS, HAREMS. HETAERAE, ILLEGAL SEX, LOVE POTIONS,
MARRIAGE, MENAGE A TROIS, PROSTITUTION and WIFE SWAPPING)

AGALMATOPHILIA (Galateism, Pygmalionism, Statuophilia) Pygmalion was a mythical Greek sculptor who fell in love with
Galatea (one of his female statues). At his request, the goddess Aphrodite brought her to life. Today this term refers to
people with a statue or mannequin fetish.

Several historical cases of agalmatophilia have been documented. Clisyphus evidently “violated the statue of a goddess in
the Temple of Samos, after having placed a piece of meat on a certain part. In 1877 “a gardener fell in love with a statue
of the Venus of Milo and was discovered attempting coitus with it” (Psychopathia Sexualis, by Richard Von Krafft-Ebing,
p. 351).

The practice of having sex with a statue was common among worshippers of the god Priapus where virgins were to first
be penetrated by him. This practice was later relegated to a priest or magistrate. However, even in our own century,
young Indian virgins have been known to use sacred phalluses to break their hymens before marriage.

A few ancient statues had removable penises to facilitate their use as dildos. Several statues of Catholic fertility saints,
including among others St. Foutin, St. Guerlichon, St. Gilles, and St. Rene were equipped with a large phallus. The
Protestants demolished a church at Orange in 1562 to find a large wooden phallus that had been covered with leather
and 23 years later at Embrun found people still worshipping the statue of St. Foutin by pouring wine onto his penis (Sex in
History, by G. Rattray Taylor, pp. 269-270).

Today some men still prefer the multidimensional aspect of these forms to two-dimensional printed erotica. One case
was reported of a man who as a 12 year old boy became enamored of a life-size statue at a museum when his mother
called it obscene. Later, he spotted two small statues in a store window and purchased them. He began using them while
masturbating and at the age of 34 had not broken the habit even though he was married. Another case was that of a
window dresser who felt compelled to masturbate whenever he saw a nude manikin. His first sexual experience was at
the age of 14 when he was forced to perform fellatio on his supervisor as they sat on manikins. He developed the desire
to not only rub against a manikin to masturbate but to have another man watch (The Sexual Fetish, by Robert Tralins, pp.
27, 46).

A few people in today’s S/M community use a psychological form of restraint where the person, like a statue, is not to
move or respond to the fondling actions of their partner. And people everywhere seem fascinated with the royal guards
at Buckingham Palace for their statue-like imperviousness.

(See also AMAUROPHILIA, ANDROIDISM, EROTOMANIA, FETISHES. FORNICATORY DOLLS, FROTTAGE, HEIROPHILIA,
PEDIOPHILIA, PHALLOPHILIA and PORNOGRAPHY)

AGONOPHILIA (Pseudo-rape) Agonophilia (agon: struggle; philia: attachment to) refers to those who enjoy engaging in a
pretended struggle before overpowering their sex partner.

(See also FANTASY PLAY, HARPAXOPHILIA, RAPE and WRESTLING)

AGORAPHILIA (Bushie mall—sex in open park) Agoraphilia (agora: public place or assembly; philia: attraction to) refers to
arousal from being in public places. People who desire to have sex in their back yard, a park, or other exposed area more
than likely experience an unusual level of excitement from being outdoors. Agoraphiles experience sexual excitement
from being outdoors just as agoraphobics experience fear.

One of the parks in San Francisco is a popular meeting place for gays who enjoy semi-public sex. The city tried to
discourage their activity by having many of the shrubs cleared away. This simply resulted in the gays having sex without
the protective covering of shrubs.

(See also ACROPHILIA, CLAUSTROPHILIA, EXHIBITIONISM, HODOPHILIA and PHOBOPHILIA)

AGREXOPHILIA Agrexophilia refers to those who become aroused by the knowledge that others may become aware of or
hear their lovemaking. This can occur in hotels, group sex scenes, outdoors, or during visits with friends or relatives.

(See also DOGGING, ECOUTEURISM, EXHIBITIONISM, GROUP SEX and JACTITATION)

ALGOPHILIA (Doleros) Algophilia (algo: pain; philia: attachment to) refers to sexual arousal gained by pain sensations. An
algophile may be involved in S/M, however it seems the majority are not. Kinsey, in 1953, reported that about 50% of the
people he surveyed admitted feeling sexual arousal from being bitten.

Primitive tribes, with their painful rituals for entering adulthood, valued their ability to endure pain as a prerequisite for
marriage. The hostile and formidable environment hunters and gatherers lived in made this an essential qualification.
Paul Bohannan, an anthropologist who wrote a paper on his field work in Nigeria between 1949 and 1953, reports a
conversation he once had with a group of the Tiv tribe:

The aesthetic of beauty, insofar as it is represented by scarification and chipping of teeth, is involved with pain. I once
asked a group of Tiv with whom I was discussing scarification whether it was not exceedingly painful. They turned on me
as if I had missed the entire point—as, indeed, I had. ‘Of course,’ one of them said, ‘of course it is painful. What girl would
look at a man if his scars had not cost him pain?’ The effort to ‘glow’ must be obvious; the effort to be dressed up must
involve expense and trouble; scarification, one of the finest decorations, is paid for in pain. The pain is the proof positive
that decoration is an unselfish act, and that it is done to give pleasure to others as well as oneself (Marks of Civilization,
Beauty and Scarification Amongst the Tiv, edited by Arnold Rubin, p. 82).

Tribes also used the pain of these scarifications to induce passion, and thus fertility, in much the same way as people
today use biting.

The registration of pain is caused by the release of chemicals such as bradykinin, substance P, and prostaglandins and can
be divided into two types, somatic and visceral. Somatic pain occurs most often in the muscles or skin. This pain is
relatively mild compared to visceral pain which radiates from internal organs, causing nausea and weakness. The testes
are part of the visceral system and injury to the testicles is traumatic.

We detect somatic pain by stimulation of the free nerve endings that lie near the surface of the skin. Once activated they
transmit a signal to the brain, however, this is not a guarantee that the sensation will be perceived as painful. The
message may be thwarted in several ways. First, certain nerves, the ones that transmit sensations of deep pressure,
vibration, heat and cold, can override pain signals. This is why cold compresses, heating pads, and chemicals seem to help
reduce discomfort. Second, a person’s mood affects this process and if he is anxious the pain will be sharper, whereas if
he is sexually aroused, feels safe, in control, and submits to the partner, the sensation may even seem pleasant. In a study
conducted by Drs. Miczek, Thompson, and Shuster it was discovered that in mice it was not the amount or length of
painful stimulus that triggered the analgesic response but rather the mouse’s resignation to defeat (“Analgesia Following
Defeat in an Aggressive Encounter: Development of Tolerance and Changes in Opioid Receptors,” Annals of the NY
Academy of Sciences, Stress-Induced Analgesia, Vol. 467, p. 16). Extroverts are thought to require stronger tactile and
mental stimulation than introverts and will not register pain as quickly. Once pain has been registered the body will try to
adapt in various ways. Steady pain requires rapid firing by our nervous system and the body’s tendency is to adapt to
constant stimulus by slowing this process, meaning that the intensity of pain dissipates accordingly. Once pain has been
registered for 20-40 minutes the body will begin to produce opiate-like chemicals to reduce pain sensations.

People playing with pain normally desire to create enough to trigger the release of these chemicals with their anesthetic,
euphoric, and trance-like qualities. The pain game is precarious because the pain/pleasure threshold is not constant and
can be unintentionally crossed over, bringing an end to one’s hard earned sexual euphoria. Gene Bylinsky, in his book
Mood Control, explains: On the surface, the effects of stress, fear, and arousal on pain perception look paradoxical.
Moderate anxiety increases the response to pain, whereas high levels of anxiety, including terror or fear, decrease the
response to pain. But in terms of survival such a response makes a great deal of sense. Perception of pain depends on
environmental situations and on the state of arousal at a particular moment. As one scientist explains it, “Thus, being hit
in the mouth by a mugger, in a perhaps life-or-death situation, may cause little or no immediate pain, while the slightest
touch by a dentist of a patient’s tooth may readily elicit wincing” (Mood Control, by Gene Bylinsky, p. 35).

An additional aspect of pain is that it can trigger a reaction from the autonomic nervous system causing an increased rate
of breathing, heart rate, and blood pressure; all of which can enhance sexual sensitivity or experience.

Modern society views pain as an affliction and does everything possible to inhibit its effects. We may someday have a
better understanding of its biochemical properties and pain may prove to have more therapeutic value for our ability to
recuperate from emotional trauma than we realize. Most of the twelve-step programs, and many psychologists, advise
people to recognize psychological pain, feel it, and cope with it rather than suppressing it with chemicals before a natural
resolution has been reached.

Some people consciously hold onto emotional pain after the dissolution of a relationship, sometimes for years. The pain
appears to be the only thing remaining of their love affair and they are unwilling to completely let go of it, turning instead
into romantic masochists. CAUTION: Pain produced from activities that harm the body can cause serious health problems.
If blood is involved it would also be considered unsafe sex.

(Refer also to AUTOMASOCHISM, CICATRIZATION, FLAGELLATION. MASOCHISM, ORGASMS, PARAPHILIAS, SADISM.

TORTURE and TOUCH)

ALLORGASMIA Allorgasmia refers to those people unable to orgasm without fantasizing about a more desirable partner
than the one with whom they are having sex. The condition in heterosexual females or gay men is called alloandrism and
in heterosexual men or lesbians is known as allogynia.

(See also ADULTERY, FANTASY, FANTASY PLAY and SEX MAGICK)

AMAUROPHILIA (Lygerastia—arousal only in darkness) Amaurophilia (Amaurosis: blindness; philia: attachment to) refers
to those who are aroused by a sex partner who is unable to see them and does not apply to two blind partners.
Amaurophilia usually manifests itself by an inhibition of sight with either one or both sex partners using a blindfold or
having sex in total darkness. This may be caused by reasons such as religious guilt about nudity and sex, low self-esteem,
or feelings of inadequacy.

Other amaurophiles may have become conditioned to respond sexually only when a partner is asleep or has his or her
eyes closed. They may have had childhood experiences of sex with siblings who were either sleeping or feigning sleep.
Necrophiles also may be aroused by their partners keeping their eyes closed, but would further require a lack of
movement.

There is also a natural physical condition that causes people discomfort when attempting sex under bright lights. This
discomfort can be great enough to interfere with some people’s sexual performance.

An advantage of darkness is that tactile stimulation can reach the greatest sensitivity when all other senses are inhibited,
particularly sight.

(See also BLINDFOLDING, FETISHES, PARAPHILIAS, SENSORY COMPENSATION and SOMNOPHILIA)

AMPUTEES See ACROTOMOPHILIA and APOTEMNOPHILIA

ANACLITISM Anaclitism is the act of achieving adult sexual arousal by activities or objects one was exposed to as an
infant. These may include breast sucking, enemas, toilet training (urophilia and coprophilia), soiled clothing (mysophilia),
bondage (womb confinement), spankings, humiliation, biting, nudity or exhibitionism, circumcision, submission, being
bathed, nurtured, throwing temper tantrums, wearing infant apparel, having the penis slapped for masturbation, or
playing with dolls.

Similar activities were ritualized by the ancient Greeks, who believed that is was necessary for any man who had fallen
fatally ill to undergo a rebirth upon recovering. He was passed through a woman’s lap, washed as a newborn, dressed in
in-fant’s clothing, and nursed.

Fetish objects can be very arousing when introduced into sex play. Most often these items include rubber pants, rubber
aprons, shoes, fur, and stuffed animals. Partners usually know which items they find erotic. The fetish value of some
objects originates during the period before a baby sees well. These are tactile and the person may only respond to them
by touch. An example of this was the woman who noticed a sense of nurturing when a dental hygienist or nurse leaned
over her, brushing her uniform against her skin. The mere sight of uniforms had no effect; the stimulus had to be tactile. A
history of the woman revealed that she had been born two months premature and had spent the first months of her life
being cared for by nurses in uniform. (Personal communication.)
 

Some people interested in this type of sex play have formed adult baby clubs that provide contacts, photos, and
paraphernalia for others who want to experiment with this form of erotic play. CAUTION: Anaclitism in which a partner is
exposed to body secretions is not considered safe sex.

(See also BONDAGE, EXHIBITIONISM, FETISHES, HUMILIATION, INFANTILISM, KLISMAPHILIA, LACTAPHILIA and UROPHILIA)

ANAL SEX (Sodomy, Buggery, Coitus analis, Arsometry, Anocratism, Anomeatia —female partner, Androsodomy and
Catamite—mate partner) The male prostate, similar to the female G-spot, can have an orgasmic response to pressure or
manipulation. The prostate is about two inches up the front wall of the rectum and is shaped like a small firm disc.

Anal sex has been practiced throughout history for pleasure, birth control, and to avoid breaking a virgin’s hymen. While
common in some cultures, others put restrictions on this type of intercourse just as they did with abortion or birth
control. Rules concerning birth control either ensured an adequate supply of soldiers or servants for the country or
prevented overpopulation, which was a strain on economies that didn’t have welfare programs or a stable agricultural
base.

The anus, in addition to its response to tactile stimulation, is a sensory area that produces a pleasure response in the
brain when stimulated. Primal man evolved so that a pleasure sensation would occur in the brain whenever he engaged
in a life sustaining body function. This encouraged men to eat until full, drink, sleep, urinate, defecate, and so forth. An
example of this reaction is the kiss. Men have discovered that stimulation of the mouth during sex produces a euphoric
chemical reaction for what our body thinks is eating. The nipples and ears are also utilized in this manner without much
guilt or shame; however, using the anus in sexual activity is taboo in some cultures, ours included. Clinically there is no
difference between stimulation of the mouth, ears, nipples, feet, or anus in the production of pleasure sensations to the
brain. None of these activities have a direct role in reproduction so it seems inconsistent for people to accept some and
not all points of arousal in sexual activity.

In 1990 there were still seventeen states with statutes that made consensual anal sex or sodomy illegal. Playboy
reported the case history of one Indiana husband who was imprisoned for having anal sex with his wife. The husband’s
letter to Playboy in part read:

I want to express my appreciation to the Playboy Foundation for helping me fight for my liberty. I have been in prison since
August 1965 for having had anal intercourse with my wife. Your readers may find it difficult to believe that a person can be
imprisoned for a form of sexual expression performed within the privacy of the marriage bed, but I ruefully can testify that
it is true.

These are the facts: My wife and I were married in 1953 ... Whatever quarrels we had were always made up amicably
after we’d had a chance to cool off. Even though we were having a particulary difficult time of it during the spring of 1965,
I was nonetheless shocked to learn one day that my wife had signed an affidavit accusing me of committing “the
abominable and detestable crime against nature” with her. To this day, I do not know for certain why she did
this—although during subsequent conversations, I have gathered that at the time she was particularly angry with me,
following an argument, and that a meddlesome friend had goaded her into trying to “put me away” for a while. I do know
that whatever my wife and I did in bed was as much her wish as it was mine.
Even though his wife changed her mind and wanted to drop the charges she was informed that she no longer had the
legal right to withdraw her allegation; the state of Indiana became the plaintiff.

The trial took place and to his amazement the judge sentenced him to “not less than two nor more than fourteen years.”
Fortunately, an attorney from the Playboy Foundation became interested in his case and assisted him in filing an appeal
attacking the constitutionality of the Indiana sodomy statute. Mr. Cotner spent almost three years in prison before
receiving a retrial (From Playboy: Sex American Style, Edited by Frank Robinson and Nat Lehrman, pp. 247-250).

There are many types of sex that involve the anus. The following subsections are variations of anal play.

ANOLINCTUS (Anophilemia—kissing anus, Hedralingus—ticking anus, Proctotitillia—tickling anus) Anolinctus is the act of
licking the anus. Some people prefer their partner to clean the area first, and others prefer the natural state. The tongue
is run along the inner buttocks and the anus is licked or tickled with the tongue. In another form of anolinctus, a person
uses the tongue like a penis, thrusting it between the buttocks, and ramming it against the anus. (See also COPROPHILIA
and FLATULANCE)

ANOLINGUS Anolingus, or rimming, is similar to analinctus but refers to actually inserting the tongue into a partner’s
anus. This activity can transmit diseases such as AIDS, hepatitis, and giardia unless a dental dam or plastic barrier is used.
Another reason precautions should be taken is that there are also indigenous parasites living in the lower intestine that
can cause disease when ingested and relocated to the upper intestine of the one who does the licking.

AUTOPEDERASTY Autopederasty refers to a man inserting his penis into his own anus. This is not physically possible for
all men, but can be pleasurable for those who achieve it. The anus is lubricated, the testicles are pushed to one side and
the semi-erect glans penis is pushed into the anus. Ejaculation is not considered possible due to the position and
detumescence of the penis.

FELCHING Felching is a term used to describe the act of sucking semen out of a partner’s vagina or anus. Felching gives
pleasure to some sex slaves as an act of submission even when the semen belongs to previous lovers. The woman
sometimes squats over the face of her slave and lets the semen drain into his mouth, others assume the usual positions
for cunnilingus. The term felching may also be used to describe the use of a live animal in anal or vaginal sex. (See
ZOOPHILIA)

FISTING Fisting involves inserting the hand, fist, or forearm into the rectum or vagina. See the section on FISTING for
additional information.

PEDERASTY (Proctophallism, Sotadism, Corephallism—with young girl) Pederasty refers to the act of penetrating a
partner in anal intercourse. It is also used interchangeably with pedophilia. Pleasure is sometimes increased for the
pederast by pressing together their partner’s buttocks to squeeze the shaft of the penis. CAUTION: Anal play carries with
it the potential of disease and bacterial infections because the rectal epithelium is thinner and more easily damaged than
the vaginal wall. New or nonmonogamous partners often use a latex or rubber barrier to prevent direct contact between
the anus and the penis or instrument and they avoid switching from anal intercourse to vaginal intercourse without
properly cleaning the penis or instrument. Men who do not use condoms often wash after anal penetration to prevent
breaking out with a possible bacterial rash the next morning (this is often mistaken for herpes—which takes at least two
days for initial infection to appear). Some people use presex enemas to reduce the amount of fecal matter in the lower
rectum. The cell wall in the rectum is very thin and can be easily torn. Foreign objects, toys, fingers, and fingernails are
checked to make sure they are free of any rough edges. Nylon hosiery run across an object can test its smoothness.
Condoms and latex gloves are also used. The four basic rules observed before engaging in anal sex include the following:

Communicating with partners, not surprising them.

Lubricating well with a water- based lubricant and using a condom.

Relaxing and pushing out with the anus muscles—some find that lying on their side is the easiest position for entry.

Objects are not poked into the partner, but rather held in place as partner slowly pushes back onto them.

People experimenting with anal play begin by using one of their fingers or a small dildo or butt plug. Anything inserted
into the anus has a flange or is securely anchored to prevent the internal sphincters from sucking it out of the fingers and
up into the intestine. People have actually used light bulbs and other glass or plastic instruments that have broken once
inside, causing tissue damage that required surgery. (Refer to section on GENITAL/ANAL INSERTS for additional
information.) The following symptoms of injury are watched for and reported to a physician:

Sudden change in number of times defecation occurs

Abdominal pain

Pain with bowel movement

Black or bloody feces (internal bleeding)

Discharge of mucous from rectum (other than semen)

(See also BIRTH CONTROL, COCKTAILS, COPROPHILIA, FLATULENCE, GENITAL /ANAL INSERTS, KLISMAPHILIA,
PARAPHILIAS, SAFE SEX and SHOWERS)

ANASTEEMAPHILIA Nanophilia—short partner) Anasteemaphilia (anasteema: height; philia: attraction to) refers to
people who are attracted to a person because of their difference in height. This preference is most likely to be noticed
when the man is shorter than his female companion. Our society accepts the preference women have for taller men but
not the reciprocal desire some men have for taller women.

Some men are attracted to small women because they say it makes them feel more significant as a protector, and that
the small women are more feminine because of this difference. The opposite is true for the women.

Men who are enamored of tall women often tend to be short themselves. One such man stated that the attraction for his
six foot companion was because when they walked into a room together everyone noticed her beauty and this boosted
his self-esteem. The flaw to his reasoning was that his girlfriend was not beautiful by the standards of other people, but
she was over a foot taller than he and undoubtedly did attract attention when they walked into a room together. Short
men may feel that the height of a partner in some way compensates for their stature.

(See also ACROTOMOPHILIA, CHUBBY CHASERS, DYSMORPHOPHILIA, FETISHES and GERONTOPHILIA)

 

ANATOMY Male and female embryos have the same sex organs. It is only after testosterone, the male hormone, is
released that the clitoris grows, becomes elongated, and forms a penis. The testicles and ovaries are formed in the
abdomen and once the infant’s sex is determined by hormone production a male’s will descend into the scrotum. The
scrotum is formed from the labia on either side that join to encase the area that later holds the testicles. What would
have been a female’s vagina and uterus shrinks and ends up near the male’s prostate gland.

The glans penis and the clitoris have the same number of nerve endings and similar sensations, as do the other genital
areas:

Both the length of an average erect penis and the average depth of the vagina is 6”. Penises, however, can vary
considerably. The circumference of the penis, vagina, and urethra also vary, with individuals commonly being smaller or
larger than what is considered average (Fundamentals of Human Sexuality, by H. A. Katchadourian and D.T. Lunde, p.
28).

The G-spot, named after the gynecologist Ernst Graefenberg, is not shown but it is approximately I” inside the front wall
of the vagina. It is the size of a dime and feels like a disc of fatty tissue. Women have variations in the size and shape of
the inner labia as well as the distance between the clitoris, urethra and vagina. The vagina changes in size according to
the stage of arousal; it begins in a constricted state and then lubricates and relaxes allowing for deeper penetration and
deposit of the sperm near the cervix. The vagina, after orgasm, returns to its original shape, forming a type of spoon-
shaped pocket at the base of the cervix. This function holds the sperm against the canal to facilitate their travel into the
uterus.

People often get their impression of a “normal-size” penis from erotic movies; this is misleading and can damage many
male egos. The porn industry intentionally hires men with penises and stamina that others will envy; therefore, these
movies are not the place to take a random sampling of normal-sized penises.
 

Many books are available that elaborate further on the subject of anatomy. These brief explanations and diagrams are
included in this encyclopedia only to provide the reader with basic information and to act as a reference for the
vocabulary used herein.

(See also DYSFUNCTIONS)

ANDROIDISM Androids (andro: male or human, eidos: a form) is used to describe robots or programmable machines that
resemble humans. Movies such as Barbarella, Flesh Gordon, Alien, Westworld, Futureworld, and The Stepford Wives
have depicted or implied sexual activity between humans and androids.

Pseudo android-ism is practiced in sex play. An example is the woman behind the “Back Drop” booth (a fantasy and fetish
club) during the 1990 San Francisco Exotic Erotic Halloween Costume Ball. She wore a g-string, silver wig, glasses with
small flashing lights, and a coating of silver on her body, patterning her mannerisms to resemble the movement of a
robot.

Fantasy magazines that feature seductive poses of half naked female androids are popular. However, this fascination is
not restricted to men. The character ‘Data’ on the television series Star Trek: The Next Generation is reported to receive
more fan mail from women than any other male cast member.

(See also ANTHROPOMORPHIC CARTOONS and AGALMATOPHILIA)

ANDROMIMETOPHILIA Andromimetophilia, coined by John Money, refers to those who are sexually aroused by females
who imitate males.

(See also ANDROGYNY, GYNEMIMELO-PHILIA, TRANSVESTITES and TRANSSEXUALS)

ANISONOGAMIST An anisonogamist is a person attracted to a partner who is either much older or younger than
themself.

(See also CATAMITES, GERONTOPHILIA, MARRIAGE, NYMPHOPHILIA and PEDOPHILIA)

 
ANTHROPOMORPHIC CARTOONS Anthropomorphism (anthropos: human, morphosis: change of form) means attributing
human characteristics to other entities, particularly animals. The sexual aspect of anthropomorphism involves cartoon
characters that are part animal, object, etc., and part human. These are portrayed in print as engaging in sexual activity
with each other. One reason for the popularity of these cartoons in the United States and Europe is that, although it is
illegal to depict humans in photographs of zoophilia, sadism, homosexuality or other activities, it is legal for cartoon
characters to be shown engaging in these activities. Another advantage of using cartoons is that one is able to draw
scenes that would be physically impossible for humans to perform.

Two magazines featuring such cartoons are titled FurNography and FurVersion.

ANTHROPOPHAGY (Anthropophagolagnia—includes rape) Anthropophagy (anthropo: man, and phagy: the practice of
eating) is the act of cannibalism. Cannibalism has been practiced by many cultures throughout history, the first record
being that of the Peking Man who lived 500,000 years ago and whose fossils where discovered in 1927 in Choukoutien
China. The remains indicated that one group had killed and eaten another group.

Many lust murderers, including Jack the Ripper, were suspected of anthropophagy, often carrying away part of the female
organs to eat later. In a different part of the world, Montezuma was said to have eaten the same type of young boys with
whom he preferred to have sex (The Homosexual Matrix, by C. A. Tripp, Ph.D.). The Aztecs are reported to have
sacrificed and eaten no less than 15,000 victims a year. According to one theory, the reason for such an exaggerated
number of victims was that it controlled the population, as did many infant sacrifices in ancient Europe and the Middle
East.

Cannibalism was used by cultures to terrorize intruders, or to acquire desirable traits of a victim. Males among many
tribes would not consume females for fear of emasculation. Tribes in New Guinea suffered from Kuru, a slow virus,
carried in the brains of deceased relatives that were consumed as a ritualistic practice. This caused shivering and led to
eventual death.

Cannibalism was also used in magical and ritualistic ceremonies. These ancient rituals required that a person consume a
small amount of blood or flesh from the sacrificed victim. The Greeks sacrificed a priest who symbolized god and by
eating his flesh these congregates were to become one with their god. This custom very closely resembles the rationale of
the sacrament of the Eucharist.

People who have consumed human blood and flesh reportedly claim to experience an intoxicating euphoric effect. This
reaction is similar to that experienced by anyone who satisfies a strong sexual craving that is not considered normal
(exhibition, necrophilia, rape, etc.). However, in this case, it must have reinforced the beliefs of worshippers that indeed
their god was present in the victim. Reports indicate that cannibalism is still practiced as part of ancient religious and
magical rituals.

Cannibalism was also practiced by the medical profession. The famous first-century Greek physician, Galen, compiled a
reference of all known medical remedies; these included potions consisting of human brains, livers, flesh, and burned
bones.

We find sexual cannibalism in spiders, scorpions, crickets, praying mantises, empis flies, and some grasshoppers.
However, it is doubtful that this act ever existed in humans as any sort of natural reaction. In a society that doesn’t
practice cannibalism, those who kill their own victims are assumed to suffer from sociopathy.
Three other varieties of anthropophagy are autophagy, necrophagy, and parthenophagy.

AUTOPHAGY Autophagy refers to ingesting one’s own flesh. Krafft-Ebing recorded the case history of a man who at 13
became infatuated with a young white-skinned girl. However, instead of desiring intercourse, he was overwhelmed by the
urge to bite off a piece of her flesh and eat it. He began stalking women, and for years he carried a pair of scissors with
him. He was never successful in accosting a woman, but when he came close he would cut off and eat a piece of his own
skin instead. This act produced an immediate orgasm for him.

NECROPHAGY Necrophagy (necro: corpse, death, and phagy: the practice of eating) is the act of cannibalizing a corpse,
usually one whose death the molester did not cause. Many cases of reported necrophilia include cannibalism or other
forms of sadism and it is believed that many others fantasize about doing it. One of the more bizarre cases was in the
southern United States. A woman repeatedly invaded the caskets of her family vault and ate the genitals of her deceased
husband, son, and brother (Perverse Crimes in History, by Masters/Lea, p. 118).

PARTHENOPHAGY Parthenophagy (parth-enos: a virgin, and phagy: the practice of eating) is the act of eating young girls
or virgins. Several lust murderers were known to consume the flesh of their victims. Fritz Haarmann (England, died 1924)
and his male companion ate away the throats of 24-50 victims. Albert Fish (Washington, D.C., died 1935) confessed to
having cannibalized 8-15 children by cutting them up and using the meat in stews. Fish claimed to be the Christ who had
come to take vengeance on a depraved society and prided himself on never having penovaginal sex with his victims; he
would masturbate instead. Another cannibal, Menesclou (1880), was convicted of murdering a four-year-old girl and
removing part of her body to be eaten later.

CAUTION: Anthropophagy is illegal and, because it involves body fluids, is dangerous. Certain diseases carried by ‘slow
viruses’, such as kuru and Creutzfeldt-Jakob disease, can be transmitted by cannibalism.

(See also COPROPHAGY, LUST MURDER, MUTILATION, NECROPHILIA, ORGIES, RITUAL SEX, SITOPHILIA, VAMPIRISM and
ZOOPHILIA/BESTIALSADISM)

APHRODISIACS An aphrodisiac is a chemical that increases or enhances sexual desire and stamina. The term comes from
Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of love and beauty.

Authorities generally agree that the best aphrodisiac is found in good health, supplemental vitamins, meditation,
exercise, and rest—not in recreational drugs. Orgasms use a lot of stored energy. If a person’s energy level is low, they
may not be able to achieve the orgasmic intensity they would like. A person who is ill, physically exhausted, on certain
prescription medication, caffeine, nicotine, or who is under stress may not have the energy required for a dynamic
orgasm and should not expect it.

Narcotics and alcohol are not recommended for sex play, with the possible exception of the small quantities some people
need to feel relaxed and loosen inhibitions. When a person uses a depressant to make them feel relaxed they may
compromise the intensity of their sensations during the sexual experience. Drugs and alcohol are never recommended for
sex and a particular warning applies for any type of sex play that requires mental, verbal, or physical skills.

A natural aphrodisiac is that of prolonging the courtship phase of a relationship. Time is needed to build anticipation,
affection, and respect for a partner. People who have casual or spontaneous sex with a fairly new acquaintance may
compromise the intensity of the act and may feel they need artificial methods to elevate arousal. The first episode may
have the excitement of something novel and daring, but that fades in successive episodes. Strangers or casual
acquaintances tend to be much more critical of sexual performance than a long-term friend; therefore, with strangers
there is more emphasis on performance, perfect bodies, and the overall rating of how a partner compares to a fantasy
lover. This situation makes the use of an aphrodisiac seem more necessary than it would be ordinarily.
Many people use aphrodisiacs to compensate for feelings of inadequacy, to build the intensity of passion in a partner to
match that of a fantasy model, to overcome exhaustion, or to create desire for a person who otherwise wouldn’t be of
interest. There are two variations of aphrodisiacs: dietary and drugs. Each will now be discussed separately.

DIETARY

BLOOD: Many cultures have believed in the power of blood to increase vitality but some attributed sexual potency to
blood. Historians wrote of Romans rushing into the arenas to drink the blood of slain gladiators with the hope of restoring
their sexual libido.

TESTES: Throughout history people have eaten all types of animal testes for virility. These contain testosterone, the male
hormone, and may have had some positive effect for that reason.

KOREAN GINSENG: This is taken as a supplement and acts as a stimulant. People take this daily for no more than two
consecutive months.

DAMIANA TEA CONCENTRATE: People add a drop to their drink 15-30 minutes before they have sex.

VIGOREX FORTE: This product is extracted from oats and, in studies conducted by the Institute for the Advanced Study of
Human Sexuality, it seemed to enhance sexual performance for the majority of men. Blood samples showed an increase
in the level of testosterone for those who had low or normal levels prior to taking the extract. The recommended dose is
300mg per day.

VITAMIN B-6 (NIACIN): A dose of 50- 100mg is taken at least 1/2 hour before sex.

VITAMIN C: People begin with a 1,000mg dose every day and build to a dose they can tolerate. Vitamin C is also thought
to improve the immune system and to restore collagen to aging skin, but this is not proven.

VITAMIN E: The highest levels of this vitamin are found in the testes, adrenal glands, and the pituitary. Some people claim
that it restores not only sexual vitality but fertility in men. The recommended daily dosage is about 25mg, but a person
can take as much as 1,000mg a day without serious complications. Vitamin E is found naturally in asparagus, wheat germ,
sunflower seeds, almonds, peanuts, and olive oil.

DRUGS In general, drugs, even when taken in moderation, will lower inhibitions and have a slight analgesic effect, making
it possible for some premature ejaculators to last longer; however, many make orgasm impossible. Drugs do not initiate
sexual arousal, but enhance the feeling if it is already present.

ALCOHOL: Champagne, beer, and wine are used in small to moderate amounts. However, too much is a depressant and
can have negative results. Heavy use can lead to impotence later in life.

AMPHETAMINES: These create a sudden burst of energy that the body will have to replace later. The drugs speed up a
person’s cardiovascular system—an effect similar to that of adrenalin. Some people are able to have sex in this condition
and some aren’t. A danger is that amphetamines are psychologically habit forming.

AMYL NITRITE: (Also called poppers.) This drug is used by heart patients to dilate arteries, thus decreasing blood pressure
and giving a sense of slow motion and light-headedness. This makes the orgasm seem to last longer for some people.

BARBITURATES: These are depressants (or “downers”) and are sometimes used to induce sleep or to counteract the effect
of amphetamines. They are likewise addictive and an overdose can kill.

COCAINE: For some, this drug increases sex drive and loosens inhibitions. There is an immediate increase in heart rate and
blood pressure; people report feelings of contentment, exhilaration, relief from fatigue and depression. It also has a local
numbing effect. It can be eaten in its natural leaf state, used intranasally, smoked, injected, or used topically. The long-
term negative effects are fatigue, restlessness, and irritability. It can damage the nasal passages if snorted, and can do
irreparable damage to the penis if injected directly into that region. It is extremely psychologically habit forming and its
use can be fatal.
ICE: Ice is methyl amphetamine, and when smoked it has effects similar to cocaine but with an action that lasts for 12-24
hours instead of the regular 20 minutes for crack cocaine. Ice is new in the United States. It also is extremely addictive.

KETAMINE: This is either injected or snorted, with the effects lasting 10-20 minutes. The person loses sense of everything
around them until the drug starts wearing off. This produces an effect of slowly becoming aware of oneself as having a
body, followed by an emerging recollection of one’s memory or identity, also known as a ‘rebirth’ experience.

LSD: This is a hallucinogen that may intensify any mood of the user. Its effect is like the altered state of consciousness that
mystics achieve by fasting, deprivation, or flagellation. There may be a transposition of sight and sound, that is, people
report seeing music and hearing objects move. Another possible effect is depersonalization; the person loses the sense of
having a separate body and seems to dissolve into part of a liquid or flowing universe. (See ORGASMS /ALTERED STATES)
LSD is an unpredictable drug.

MARIJUANA: This drug is smoked or eaten in food to create an increased awareness of body sensations, analgesia, and
euphoria. A person may have the sense of being able to think clearly and have faster reflexes, although research has
proven that the opposite is true. It is a hallucinogen and may also compromise the immune system. Regular use may
destroy a person’s ability to cope with stress and weaken their ambitions for the future.

MDA: This is an amphetamine that has a mild psychedelic effect. It speeds up the cardiovascular system but slows
reflexes. It also has a euphoric effect that can last up to eight hours.

MDMA: Known as “ecstasy” or the “hug drug,” it is an amphetamine and empathogen similar to MDA and is reported to
induce the desire to give and receive affection or to caress a partner. The first-time user often reports retaining a long-
term attraction for the person or object they interacted with on this drug.

MESCALINE: This is a derivative of the peyote cactus. Its effects are similar to a higher dose of marijuana, but supposedly
without loss of mental acuity. Mescaline is not thought to be addictive; however, what is sold on the streets is usually a
substitute or mixture of other drugs.

NITROUS OXIDE: Also known as “laughing gas,” it produces light-headedness and acts as an analgesic. Prolonged use or
overdose can cause brain and liver damage.

QUAALUDKS: These are depressants that induce a state of euphoria and confidence. They can become addictive and fatal
with even a small overdose.

SPANISH FLY: This drug is made from the wings of the Cantharis vesicatoria beetle. It causes dilation of blood vessels that
can produce prolonged erections. It also causes the genitals to itch intensely when the drug passes through the urethra.
People are driven to sex as a method to relieve the itching this drug causes. A dose of more than .06 grams can be fatal
and, therefore, until recently was used only in breeding animals. Anal electrical probes now replace this drug in large farm
animals.

TRAZONDONE: This drug is prescribed for depression and is known to cause priapisms (erections that may last several
hours) and has recently been documented as causing an increased libido in three women. In one case the patient began
masturbating and initiated sexual relationships with three men. After ending the therapy, her sex drive, to her
disappointment, slacked off to what it had been before treatment. Two other cases were similar. (Nanette Gartrell, M.D.,
“Increased Libido in Women Receiving Trazodone,” American Journal Psychiatry 143:6, June 1986, p.781)

YOHIMBINE: This chemical originally came from the bark of a tree that was considered part of the pepper family. It is a
CNS agent that raises blood pressure and, like Spanish fly, creates itching or irritation of the urethra. Its use for impotence
is controversial, but it does cause castrated rats to mount female rats. It has sometimes had serious side effects when
mixed with some medications.

CAUTION: There are many issues involved in a decision to use alcohol or drugs to improve sexual arousal. Some drugs are
extraordinarily destructive. A self analysis would involve questions about one’s emotional security, fear of impotence,
sexual boredom with current partner, fear of intimacy with casual partners, risk of chemical addiction, and performance
anxiety. A person who insists on using drugs to enhance the sex act may also risk damaging the partner’s self-esteem by
making him or her feel sexually inferior or inadequate.
(See also CHARMS, FERTILITY RITES, LOVE POTIONS and RELICS)

APOTEMNOPHILIA (Amelotation—loss of limb) Apotemnophilia (apo: away from; temp: to pull; philia: attachment to)
describes people who are aroused by the idea of themselves losing a limb or having a body part surgically removed. Such
people will occasionally injure themselves to an extent that requires amputation by a surgeon. However, most are
content to fantasize about the loss as they masturbate. A few men crossdress as females and fake some sort of disability.

There are many theories for this behavior. One explanation is similar to that for why men cross-dress. As children, these
men felt that females and amputees received special compensations. As adults, they prefer an unusual sex object or
practice due to early-life sexual repression and guilt imposed by parents. They select safe objects for their lust. These may
be prostitutes or a handicapped person. CAUTION: Actual removal of body parts causes personal disability and if it is done
under unsterile conditions serious infections may result.

(See also ACROTOMOPHILIA, AUTOMASOCHISM, CICATRIZATION, DYSMORPHOPHILIA, MASOCHISM, MUTILATION,

NECROPHILIA and TRANSVESTITES)

ARACHNEPHILIA Arachnephilia (arachne: spider; philia: attachment to) refers to those who are aroused by sex play
involving spiders. Spider scenes utilize a person’s fear of spiders to increase adrenalin. The bottom may be tied down and
the spider either brought close to them or placed on their body to crawl around. CAUTION: Poisonous spiders are
dangerous because there is a chance that the bottom will be bitten.

(See also FORMICOPHII.IA)

AUCTIONS Slave auctions were common until a hundred years ago in the United States. The New Orleans bordellos were
among those who bid for fair-skinned young female slaves. Interbreeding was so common at this point that some slaves
had blue eyes and blond hair. Other slaves were white children who were either abducted from northern farms by the
slave brokers or were bastard children purchased from slave women in whose care the unwed mother had left them. The
slave brokers often kept the fairest for their own sleeping companion business, in which a man was able to lease a fair
skinned slave for one night, a month, a year, or whatever he wished. Two of President Thomas Jefferson’s educated
auburn-haired daughters (born to him by Sally Hemings or “Black Sal,” an octoroon) were sold upon his death in 1826 and
taken to New Orleans for this fate. The youngest escaped and committed suicide. They weren’t the only slave daughters
of an American President; twenty years later President Tyler’s mulatto daughter tried to elope with her white fiance to
another country, and upon being caught, her father commanded that she likewise be sent to New Orleans and sold on the
slave block (Sex and Race by J. A. Rogers, p. 197).
 

A few European men sold their wives in lieu of divorce (a total of 387 cases reported in England between the 16th and
19th centuries). Some of these were sold to the wife’s lover in order to gain some recompense (Untying the Knot by
Rodrich Phillips, Cambridge Press, p. 85).

Although auctions of women for prostitution no longer exist, there are still those who illegally barter with the future of
those under their control. Now they use a facade such as an international employment agency for models or entertainers.
Once in a foreign country without government assistance, money or friends, many will end up working in the sex industry
for their abductors.

The pseudo-slave auctions found in America today are legal and consensual. Often a popular charity will sponsor an
auction to raise money. Men are used and the item bid on is the date rather than sex with the man, although women
often let fantasies cloud their expectations. Local businesses donate dinners for two, theatre passes, and so forth. The
money bid by the winning women goes to the charity.

The other type of auction is sponsored by S/M clubs; at these events consenting dominants and submissives are
auctioned off for S/M play. The Society of Janus has an annual event with an auctioneer and a crowd of 200 bidders. The
Back Drop Club in Richmond, California has a slave auction every Friday night where people introduce and auction
themselves for the type of activity in which they want to participate. Typical of most S/M participants, these people use
the drama and intrigue surrounding the original auctions to set the stage for sex play. These auctions are legal because
only play money is used and there are house rules against genital penetration. The following is an account of a female
who was auctioned at one of these parties:

What does one wear to a slave auction; would I have the nerve to buy a man and what would I do with him? These
questions occupied my thoughts for a week. The evening approached and I had rationally decided to take a slave collar
and dog leash with me in case I rallied the nerve to bid. I entered the older San Francisco home and paid my $20 cover
charge to the club that gave most of their proceeds to an AIDS organization. I was given $10,000 of privately printed S/M
buckaroos to use as play money during the bidding. I immediately entered the auction hall to check out the participants
and get instructions on bidding. The auctioneer was handing out forms to the participants. Many people were getting into
costume and others had begun to barter for buckaroos. It seems that an hour is spent before the auction, engaging in
every sort of negotiation. This is apparently necessary if a woman is to be purchased. Everyone begins with the same
amount of money, $10,000, and bidding for a female starts out above that amount. A man on the corner of the stage was
collecting $2,000 a minute for letting others suck on his lover’s nipples. At this point, I was overcome with the desire to get
into costume myself I stripped off the remnants of my chaste persona leaving only black garters, hose and panties. I
studied myself in a wall mirror and decided that the outfit looked out of balance, so I placed the black leather collar
around my neck. The time for the bidding came closer, and with the encouragement of others, I decided that in order to
get the fullest benefit from the event I should allow myself to be auctioned. Without deliberating further I asked the
auctioneer for a form. I gave my name, experience (none), sexual preference, and S/M role preference (top, bottom or
switch) and then waited in terror. I looked around the room, selecting those I most wanted to have bid on me and then
those I worried about winning and how they might want me to perform. These fears quickly subsided as the first slave
walked on stage and the bidding began. The room was now packed with what must have been over 200 people. Soon
there was a good-looking male slave in his late 30s and without caring about his particulars I jumped into the bidding and
won. He came over and collected the amount and we agreed to get together after the auction to negotiate on the type of
play in which we wanted to engage. Then another good-looking guy was up for bid, a brunette from Los Angeles, I bid, but
soon lost to a female friend. However, not one to accept defeat, I bartered with her for access to her new slave for 20
minutes in exchange for the balance of my buckaroos. She graciously accepted. The bidding continued as 10 or 15 more
slaves were sold. The best of the show was a couple of bi-sexual females who were auctioned as a pair, just before me.
They waited until they were on stage to simultaneously expose their breasts, immediately driving up the bidding. Now it
was my turn, I didn’t expect to still be apprehensive or have stage fright, but I did. The auctioneer began the bidding for
what I think he called a virgin; the bidding continued for 20 minutes or more as the room divided into competing factions.
All were willing to donate money at this point because there was no reason left to save it. Soon people were obviously
bidding more money than it was possible to have and the auctioneer stopped the bidding. One gentleman in the back of
the room suggested that everyone put their money together and buy me. The auctioneer then sold me to the whole room.
I doubt that many people have had to make decisions while in a state of shock. My concern was to be fair to all those who
seemed intent on winning, therefore I suggested that they get into a line and I would spend four minutes with each. One
man volunteered to be the time-keeper and we began. Most men wanted to be massaged, to have their nipples squeezed,
or to be kissed. One gorgeous man asked me to simply run my finger down the front of his latex vest for the full four
minutes. A transvestite, who told me that as a male he was a bottom and as a female he didn’t know what he wanted to
be yet, asked to run his long, red, manicured fingernails down my body while we stood in front of the mirrored walls. One
older male had me switch in a spanking scene and when the time-keeper’s turn came, he pinched my shoulder and tried to
make me submit to his dominant commands. Unfortunately, I became overwhelmed and exhausted before everyone had
their turn and after apologizing, got dressed and drove home with memories of what will probably be the most unique
experience of my life.—K.H.

(See also PEDOPHILIA, PROSTITUTION and SLAVES)

AUTAGONISTOPHILIA (Exhibitionism) Autagonistophilia (autos: self, agonistes, dramatic actor, philia: attachment to)
refers to those who are aroused by being on stage or performing for a cameraman.

(See also EXHIBITIONISM and HOMILOPHILIA)

AUTOASSASSINOPHILIA John Money coined the phrase autoassassinophilia which refers to “stage-managing the
possibility of one’s own masochistic death by murder.” Money cited an example in Lovemaps:

The masochistic drama of erotic death and atonement may be enacted not as an autoerotic monologue, but as a dialogue
with a coopted partner in collusion. The partner is not necessarily a paraphilic sadist, but rather a dare-devil hustler or
mercenary given to trying almost anything for kicks, or for profit. This was the type of hustler whom a young man with a
paraphilia of homosexual masochism would pick up, one or more at a time, on the waterfront. With his beguiling brand of
macho, he would cue the hustlers into their roles in his masochistic drama. First he would supply them with squeeze
bottles of mustard or catchup and a spray can of shaving cream to squirt on him as he lay naked, masturbating. Then he
would direct them to bind him with rope, urinate on him, degrade and abuse him verbally, hit him, and kick him with their
heavy boots, harder and harder, until he would ejaculate, not knowing whether a blow on the head would wound or kill
him (p. 43).

People engaging in this activity do not appear interested in dying but rather find the mortal fear itself arousing.

(See AUTOHROTIC ASPHYXIA, HARPAXOPHILIA, HYBRISTOPHILIA and MASOCHISM)

AUTOEROTIC ASPHYXIA (Asphyxiaphilia, Hypoxyphilia, Autoerotic Strangulation—strangulation for arousal, Scarfing

—use of scarf for autoerotic strangulation) Autoerotic asphyxia refers to self-induced strangling or suffocation during
masturbation. This is estimated by some to take the lives of 250 to 1,000 men every year.

This practice appears to be ancient. Professor Leopold Beitenecker, Director of the Institute of Forensic Medicine at the
University of Vienna “claimed that the technique had been practiced by Eskimos and by Asians before it was introduced
to Europe by French Foreign Legionnaires returning from war in Indo-China, where the technique was performed by
prostitutes to increase the client’s sensation of ejaculation” (Michaldimitrakis, M., “Accidental Death During Intercourse
by Males.” Am J Forensic Med Pathol 1986; 7:74. Cited in “The Pathology and Medicolegal Aspects of Sexual Activity,” by
William G, Eckert, M.D., Steve Katchis, and William Donovan. The American Journal of Forensic Medicine and Pathology
12(1):3-15, 1991, p. 12). Sexual asphyxia was also portrayed in the Japanese movie In the Realm of the Senses which was
based on the true story of a couple during the 1930s.

Very little is known about people who practice asphyxia because most do not seek therapy and do not otherwise come to
the attention of the medical profession unless they die. Two leading authorities on this subject, Ray Blanchard and
Stephen J. Hucker, both of Toronto’s Clark Institute of Psychiatry, have collected a vast data bank of coroner’s reports and
other materials to try to understand this phenomena. They have found a correlation between this practice and other
paraphilias in their study of 117 males who died of autoerotic asphyxia. “This study investigated the relationships
between: asphyxiator’s ages; two paraphilias commonly accompanying autoerotic asphyxia, bondage and transvestism;
and various other types of simultaneous sexual behavior...Data concerning sexual paraphernalia at the scene of death or
among the deceased’s effects were extracted from coroner’s files using standardized protocols. Anal self-stimulation with
dildos, etc., and self-observation with mirrors or cameras were correlated with transvestism. Older asphyxiators were
more likely to have been simultaneously engaged in bondage or transvestism, suggesting elaboration of the masturbatory
ritual over time. The greatest degree of transvestism was associated with intermediate rather than high levels of
bondage, suggesting that response competition from bondage may limit asphyxiators’ involvement in a third paraphilia
like transvestism” (“Age, Transvestism, Bondage, and Concurrent Paraphilic Activities in 117 Fatal Cases of Autoerotic
Asphyxia”; The British Journal of Psychiatry, September 1991, Vol 159, pp. 371-77).

People have different reasons for engaging in this activity. However, these can only be guessed at because most cases are
only learned of after the victim’s death. We do know that asphyxiation itself creates excitement and eventual euphoria
because of the adrenalin produced when the body perceives a life-threatening condition. Suffocation also causes light-
headedness. Scarves or ropes can be part of an auto-bondage game which develops a simultaneous fear of death, control,
and submission. A person builds a feeling of power or control by bringing themselves to the edge and then releasing the
device. Fear is one of the strongest effects and it is usually enhanced either by using bondage with asphyxia or by having
another person control the scene. This is similar to bondage, as in the case of one woman who took strangers home to tie
her up. She was not interested in submitting to people she knew because that lacked the risk or fear element. John
Money has written an entire book, Breathless Orgasm, based on one asphyxiaphile’s case history. It appears that this man
became fixated on the idea of asphyxiation as a child in the same manner others have become acrotomophiles (attracted
to partners without a limb). This man specifically writes, “And then the girl who I thought was my sweetheart hopeful
drowned while swimming at the beach; and then my fascination of the word asphixia [sic] came into play. I used to sit and
try to imagine her nude body drowning underwater, and I wondered what it was like to drown; and I started having
dreams while sleeping about swimming underwater and drowning, and then swimming like a fish where I didn’t need any
kind of air tank. But I could swim and watch other people drown, mostly girls. Then I started to masturbate...” (Lovemaps,
Clinical Concepts of Sexual/Erotic Health and Pathology, Paraphilia, and Gender Transposition in Childhood, Adolescence,
and Maturity by John Money, p. 246, pub. Prometheus Books). This man eventually used strangulation techniques on
himself. CAUTION: Autoerotic asphyxiation is of particular concern because of the frequency of deaths associated with it.
(“Breath Control and Carotid Artery Play” by Michael Decker, QSM lecture, January 11, 1992)

(See also BONDAGE, OXYGEN REGULATION and PHOBOPHILIA)

AUTOMASOCHISM (Deliberate self-harm syndrome, Borderline self-mutilator, Sergeism—infliction of injury to suppress

arousal, Munchausen’s syndrome—reopening a wound, Traumaphitia—arousal from trauma) Automasochism is the
conscious act of inflicting pain or injury on oneself as a means of stimulating orgasm, an altered state, or an emotional
release that would act as a substitute for orgasm.

Examples of automasochism are lying on a bed of nails, flagellation, cutting, piercing, burning, sun dancing, bell dancing,
binding, corsetting, and tattooing. Many cultures have used forms of mutilation as part of their tribal or religious rituals. A
physical mark was used as verification of an adult’s ability to conquer pain.

People who engage in any of these acts to relieve stress or for subliminal sexual gratification are referred to as self-
mutilators. The fundamental reasons for automasochism and self-mutilation may be similar. Many mutilators have low
self-esteem, feelings of guilt and self-denigration, depression, difficulty in expressing or verbalizing emotions, are from
broken homes, or have emotionally distant or physically abusive parents. The more serious mutilators (e.g. removal of
penis) are considered psychotic or schizophrenic.

Motives for self-mutilation vary. It can be done to gain attention and love, control aggression, reduce tension, or end a
state of depersonalization or emotional numbness. Events that often lead to an episode are arguments with family or the
threat of losing a lover.

Some people sabotage their health with the goal being surgery and afterward they may reopen the wound. This is
referred to as Munchausen’s syndrome.

People who compulsively injure themselves seem to follow a consistent five stage pattern: “(1) the precipitating event
(such as loss of a significant relationship), (2) escalation of the dysphoria, (3) attempts to forestall the self-injury, (4) self-
mutilation, and (5) the aftermath (for example, relief from tension)” (“The Inner Experience of the Borderline
Self-mutilator,” by E. Leibenluft, DL Gardner, RW Cowdry, Journal Personality Disorders, 1987; 1317- 1324).

Automasochism has the same neurological effects as discussed in the Masochism section. These range from sexual
arousal, euphoria, depersonalization, and altered states. People who perform self-mutilation to end the
depersonalization phase of the stress cycle may be subconsciously effecting a speedier recovery. People who suffer
physical injuries after a disaster “often fare better ultimately than those who escape unhurt” (“And Now, Emotional
Aftershocks,” by Anastasia Toufexis, reported by Andrea Dorman/New York and Joseph J. Kane/Atlanta, Time magazine,
October 30, 1989, p. 46). Speculation based on historic remedies involving acupuncture, bloodletting, cupping, electric
shock, slapping someone who becomes hysterical, etc. suggests that post-traumatic infliction of pain or injury triggers the
neurological recovery cycle or immune system of a patient.

Self-mutilation is common in hospitals, prisons, and asylums. This is logical because of the extra stress felt by patients or
prisoners who are separated from their family, and who have a new strict routine imposed that severely limits their
personal freedom. People naturally go through a normal stress cycle when experiencing trauma: fear, avoidance
behavior, anger, compulsiveness, depression, depersonalization, and numbness. Scientists have observed that “practically
all known reports of self-injury in macaques [a primate] have been recorded when the animal is physically restricted and
usually when isolated” (“Self-injury: toward a biological basis,” by I. Jones, Perspect Biol Med, 1982; 26:p37- 150).

People who engage in automasochism may find professional therapy, self-help groups, or guidance in communicating
emotions and anxiety beneficial. Medication such as “dopamine antagonists, serotonin reuptake inhibitors, and opiate
antagonists may be of value” in some cases (“Self-Injurious Behavior: A Review of the Behavior and Biology of Self-
Mutilation,” by Ronald M. Winchel, M.D., and Michael Stanley, Ph.D., Am J Psychiatry 148:3, March 1991, pp. 306-315).
CAUTION: Cutting can damage nerves and arteries which can lead to serious health complications.

(See also ACROTOMOPHILIA, ALGO-PHII. IA, CICATRIZATION, HUMILIATION, MASOCHISM, MUTILATION, SADISM and
SLAVES)

AXILLISM (Hircusophilism—preference for underarm hair, Maschalophilous—arousal from armpits) Axillism (axilla:
armpit; ism: act) refers to the use of the armpit for sex. This is more common in Europe, where women allow their armpit
hair to grow. This area is very sensitive to the flicker of a tongue or the warmth of a penis. Unshaven hair is also said to
retain pheromones, the sex hormones that cause arousal when inhaled.

The advantages of axillism for men are that of a tight fit, friction against the penis, close proximity to the breasts, and no
risk of pregnancy or disease. Axillism, when engaged in within a day of shaving, produces more sensation but later
underarm stubble can cause irritation of the penile skin.

(See also COITUS A INTERFERMORIS. COITUS A MAMMILLA, GENUPHALLATION, HEAD STANDS and PYGOPHILIA)
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BATHS Baths have been used throughout history for personal hygiene, health, religious rituals, luxury, socializing,
distraction, sexual arousal, and meeting prostitutes.

The importance of a tradition can sometimes be determined by the extravagance some use in their indulgence. For
example, the Japanese Funabara Hotel allows guests to bathe in a solid gold tub that is carved in the shape of a chicken.
The ancient Roman Baths of Caracalla were a mile in circumference and could hold 1,600 bathers. In Bath, England the
baths were part of worship. Here the Romans built a temple to the goddess Sulis Minerva over natural hot springs.
Worshipers believed that hot springs were a gate to the fiery underworld and one could petition the gods’ favor by
bathing there or by throwing coins or valuables into the water. People still throw coins in fountains but usually without
the knowledge of its religious significance.

Public baths lost their popularity during the Dark Ages when Christians, particularly those of the ascetic movement,
condemned bathing with perfumes as self indulgence and nudity as immoral. They managed to convince others that a
dirty body was a proper method of mortifying the flesh as a penance for sin. Public baths did not become popular again
until the crusaders returned from the Arab countries enthused about the Turkish baths they had seen. Public baths
became popular as social gatherings with wine and music being provided for the bathers. Brothels soon began to use
these baths as a way to increase their business. This continued until the bubonic plague caused their extinction in the
15th century.

Public baths in the United States now consist of hot tubs, spas, steam baths, and jacuzzis. They may be part of an
apartment complex, private club, or house party. There are establishments that specifically cater to sexual encounters,
sometimes providing private rooms that can be rented. Their clientele will usually consist of either gay and bi-sexual men
or heterosexual couples. Group sex houses often have hot tubs on the premises. Some individuals have formed private
pseudo-swing social groups. They have weekly potluck dinners where guests may undress and relocate to the hot tub or
bedroom after eating.

Most of the gay baths have been closed as a result of the campaign against AIDS. There is serious doubt that AIDS is
spread through chlorinated water but the sexual activity engaged in before gays became aware of AIDS and safe sex
practices did put many at risk.

(See also COITUS A UNDA and SHOWERS)

BED OF NAILS Lying on a bed of nails is a passive form of masochism. A bed of nails is an apparatus which consists of a
rectangular piece of wood the length and width of the body, that has 4-5” long, 2 gauge or larger nails driven through at
1/2-1” intervals.

This bed has been used in Eastern religions to create intense sensations, possibly sending the person into an altered state
of consciousness. Today it is done in India, primarily as a tourist attraction. Some American S/M communities have
adopted it and use it as it was originally intended.

The pain felt while lying on the bed directs attention to the body and its sensations. This helps one to ignore the
emotional pressures from the rest of the day. It becomes a ‘stress purgative.’ The sensation is painful for the first few
minutes but becomes dull and decentralized after about 20 minutes. Physical pain that one has control over stimulates a
person’s immune system and people who engage in this type of activity may regenerate the immunity that long term
stress compromises. The experience leaves the user feeling invigorated in much the same manner as jogging or tennis.
(For more discussion on the effects of pain please see the sections on ALGOPHILIA and MASOCHISM).

Placing the nails close to each other reduces the risk of pain or accidental piercing. The tips are also uniform with a level
top surface. People who construct these beds modify them to their own body.CAUTION: The greatest risk of being injured
is when the person gets on or off the bed. Men will wear a pair of leather briefs or jock straps and most use a firm pillow
to support their head. The person next straddles the bed, squats into a push-up position, and lowers himself or herself
onto the bed so that the torso of the body receives even and level support. They next bring their legs into position and
place the pillow under their face. The body remains still because moving around or twisting can cause nails to puncture
the skin. However cautious a person is who uses a bed of nails, there is always a risk of being accidentally pierced and
people rarely lie on the bed while alone. Additionally, if blood contaminates the nails it can be a transmitter of blood
borne diseases such as AIDS or hepatitis.

(See also ALGOPHILIA, AUTOMASOCHISM, BELL DANCING and FAKIR MUSAFAR)

BEE STINGS (Melissophilia; Entomocism—use of insects, Entomophilia—arousal from insects, Formicophilia —arousat
from ants)

Bee stings are used to extend the duration of orgasm, enhance sensations of the penis, and increase its circumference.

Bee stings were once used as a folk remedy by arthritis sufferers. The insects were captured and held on the affected
joint until they stung. The poison and swelling it caused alleviated much of the pain in their joints.

One male, having observed his grandparents use bees for this purpose and later having a female friend throw a bee on his
genitals as a joke, discovered that the sting on his penis extended the duration and intensity of his orgasm. Realizing that
the bee sting was almost painless, he developed his own procedure. This procedure consisted of catching two bees in a
jar and shaking it to make the bees dizzy to prevent them flying away. They were then grabbed by both wings so that they
were unable to twist around and sting. Each bee was placed just below each side of the glans penis and pushed on to
encourage it to sting. (Stings to the glans do not produce desired swelling and the venom sack tends to penetrate the skin
too deeply, causing difficulty in removing them.) Bees leave their stinger in the penis and are not able to sting other parts
of the body. Stingers have a small venom sac that pumps the remaining poison into the flesh before removal. Stings on
the penis, unlike other areas, resemble the bite of a mosquito. The primary discomfort is produced by subsequent itching,
although the penis will also become tender and swell. A thick twine or leather strip tied around the base of the penis,
allowing enough space to insert two fingers between the penis and string, restricts the swelling in the penis from
dissipating into the body but will not cut off circulation. In this case the circumference of the man’s penis increased from
6 1/2 inches to 9 1/2 inches. Swelling is greatest on the second day. There are two unexpected effects, however. The
swollen outer skin may restrict blood flow into the penis and the swelling can become lopsided or uneven if pressure is
applied on only one side. CAUTION: Poisonous venom can have serious effects on about 5% of the populace. Any of the
following symptoms of anaphylactic shock following a bee sting require emergency medical care:

difficulty breathing
chest pain
dizziness
nausea or vomiting
edema or general swelling
blue coloration of lips
weak pulse

(See also FORMICOPHILIA and ZOOPHILIA)

BELL DANCING (Ball dancing—balls or fruit hanging from skin hooks) Bell dancing is a form of ritualistic self flagellation
where the dancer pierces the body to hang ornaments by strings into his or her flesh. Flagellation was one of the various
methods shamen used to achieve an altered state. Other forms were fasting, drugs, and dances. Bell dancing combines
the festive dance ritual with self flagellation. This combination seems to speed up the neurological process of obtaining an
altered state of consciousness.

Bell dancing is performed by religious sects using bells, balls, lemons, or other fruit. These are usually attached to sutures
at one end and sewn into the skin on the other. Enough ornaments are sewn on so that they eventually form a necklace
or belt around the person. The person then dances to percussion instruments or possibly a flute. The dance or swirling
causes the dangling objects to beat against the person’s body and to pull against the pierced skin where each strand is
attached. The dancer’s primary desire is to experience an altered state.

Bell dancing is a mixture of spiritual and sensual sensations and, like other types of masochism, it can give the dancer a
sensation similar to but much more intense than a normal orgasm. CAUTION: This is considered a blood sport and
unprotected contact with a partner is not considered a safe sex practice.

(“Rituals,” by Fakir Musafar, Society of Janus lecture, November 30, 1989)

(See also ALGOPHILIA, BED OF NAILS, CHOREOPHILIA, CORSETS, FLAGELLATION, MASOCHISM and SAFE SEX)

BELLY DANCING (Danse du ventre—fertility dance) Belly dancing is a modern version of an ancient religious dance
signifying sex and childbirth. It can be traced throughout history in countries such as Phoenicia, Turkey, Egypt, Africa, and
Greece. It was introduced into the United States by Sol Bloom as an exhibit in the 1893 Chicago World’s Fair.

One of the earlier forms of the belly dance was called the “awalem” and was used as sex education for newlyweds in
Egypt. The dancer(s) would stand in one spot and imitate the different sexual movements required for coitus. The belly
dance still consists of various body contortions performed in a restricted space. The dancer changes positions only to give
the audience a different perspective of the movements.

A second ancient dance, the “ghaziyeh”, had only dancers with a scarf or piece of cloth that they would swirl around and
pull back and forth against their genitals until orgasm. The dancers were females who had clitoridectomies performed
while young and therefore had to stimulate their genitals by intense and prolonged rubbing. Unlike the silent belly
dancers, these women would scream and moan like wild beasts until orgasm was reached; it was not until then that the
dance ended and the orgy began (Cradle of Erotica by Allen Edwardes and R.E.L. Masters).

Jacobus X wrote of another dance, one performed by African Senegals. “In the anamalis fubil, the dancer in his
movements, imitates the copulation of the great Indian duck. This drake has a member of a corkscrew shape, and a
peculiar movement. The woman, for her part, tucks up her clothes, and convulsively agitates the lower part of her body
by the motion of her haunches; she alternatively shows her partner her vulva, and hides it from him, by a regular
movement, backwards and forwards, of the body” (Untrodden Fields of Anthropology by Jacobus X, 1898). Victor
Robinson, a turn of the century medical doctor, documented the verbal instructions given by a village priest for an African
Dance of the Bride-Elect:

1.Prepare your skin (vibration). Go to your place.

2.Walk (with hip swings) as though to Huge Sacred Phallus.

3.Vibrate your body. Ardently wish the phallus was entering you.

4.Behold! It is standing to greet your wish, royally erect like the rising sun.
5.Vibrate your body. The power of your ancestors is concealed within you.

6.Wonder of wonders! My depths are entered by the Royal Phallus.

7.Ah! What glorious sexual union has come to me.

8.Let us clamp our bodies together—tighter and tighter—closer and closer.

9.Lean to the left side.

10.Lean to the right side.

11.Ah!!! What glorious sexual union has come to me. Ah...(ejaculation).

12.We tremble at the knees.

13.He becomes like sawdust: I am breathless: we collapse.

14.Soon he boasts to me—he will rise again soon.

15.We close together in another glorious sexual union.

16.Still closer and closer—he will fill me with great progeny.

17.Ah, ah, behold! Great and Royal generations will arise (from this union).

18.Again we tremble at the knees.

19.We salute our posterity (swing to the left).

20.(Swing to the right). Soon we will clamp our bodies together again.

21.Hurrah! he has risen again: he goes down my path: I dance with joy.

22.He moves closer and closer, deeper and deeper into me.

23.Still closer—still deeper.

24.Hurrah—he goes down my path—I dance with joy.

25.I groan as he presses closer and closer, deeper and deeper.

26.He cleaves me royally—I am amazed how gloriously he cleaves me.

27.Behold he (his life) gushes forth again.

28.I let go the juices of my loins.

29.I give up every drop.

30.I will soon return to him—restored and refreshed.

31.Now my eyes are full and my throat swollen.

32.I am forced to my knees—I collapse.

33.My navel and chest sink inwards.

34.I open and shut my mouth with hugh breaths.

35.I long for the Sacred Phallus again —strong, erect, glorious. Ah! I faint with longing—I sleep (Encyclopaedia Sexualis,
by Victor Robinson, M.D., pp. 166-7).

Belly dance motions are no longer overtly sexual. Instead they have become an art form that allures, teases, and promises
an exotic experience that is more fantasy than reality. The dancer must also express strong emotions such as happiness,
sorrow, love, and anger. These humanize the dancer and if done well can create a bond that is emotionally and sexually
stimulating.

The belly dance follows a basic routine. It begins with the dancer entering, moving with the grace of a serpent hypnotized
by the sound of a flute. The music then gains in tempo to become a folk dance. The dancer shakes and rolls her shoulders,
head, stomach, and hips to the new rhythm. The music becomes deeper and as emotions intensify the dancer moves
around the floor. She selects a spot on which to go down to her knees and lean back into the floor routine. The dance
ends as it began and she shimmies her way back into the harem or Turkish street whence she came.

There are books and classes where men and women can learn this erotic art form. Belly dancing, while gaining in
popularity in the rest of the world, has seriously declined as an occupation among women in Egypt. In November, 1989
there were only 50 licensed dancers remaining in that country. CAUTION: Belly dancing can cause back problems for some
people.

(See also CHOREOPHILIA, SEX SHOWS and STRIPPING)

BESTIALITY See ZOOPHILIA

BI-SEXUALISM (Ambisexual, Amphisexual, Androgynophilia, Sexoschizia) Bi-sexuals are attracted to either sex as
partners. This predisposition is thought to be based on biological (genetic, hormonal, and neurological) factors. Harry F.
Harlow, who led the research into primate psychology, stated in his book Learning to Love that “Bisexual potential is a
fact in humans and monkeys, and judgment of any sex-role behavior as normal or abnormal is only in relation to some
manmade standard, real or fictitious” (p. 93). In tests, more than 50% of females in a group sex scene responded to same
sex intimacy compared to only 1% of the males. However, when anonymity is guaranteed the ratio of male bi-sexuals
increases to an almost equal level.

Bi-sexuals may have dating relationships with men and women at the same time or may be serially monogamous with
either. Some married bi-sexuals have affairs with others of the same sex, but rarely with the opposite sex. This is because
they separate love from lust and do not consider passionate sex with same sex partners a threat to the love and
commitment they feel for a spouse.

There are various reasons for bi-sexual attraction. Some feel that all people are the same (i.e., a body is a body). Others
find a distinct energy that uniquely characterizes each sex. Bi-sexuals may be nurturing or passionate with either sex.
However, they usually separate the two, being only nurturing with one sex and passionate with the other. Famous bi-
sexuals in history include Julius Caesar, who was said to be every woman’s husband and every man’s wife, and the
Emperor Hadrian.

Bi-sexuality can offer a person who only responds to their partner with passion or nurturing an opportunity to enhance
and complete their sexual and emotional needs. At the same time such a person may benefit from therapy to help them
discover the reason for this emotional dichotomy and to enable them to get both nurturing and passion in a single
relationship.

(See also GAYS, HETEROSEXUAL and HOMOPHOBIA)

BIASTOPHILIA (Raptophilia) Biastophilia (biasto: rape or forced violation; philia: attachment to) refers to those who are
only aroused when sexually assaulting an unwilling victim. The rapist loses interest if their victim submits. They need to
see fear or tension in the partner.

(See also DACRYPHILIA, LUST MURDER, RAPE and SADISM)

 
BINDINGS Binding restricts movement and may include an area such as the genitals, feet, face, breasts, or all of the body,
as in the form of mummification. Mummification requires that a person totally submit to their partner, however with
binding one only relinquishes control of a certain area, usually the genitals or breasts, but not always. Binding is
pleasurable to some due to the sensation of compression. It may also be included with other types of bondage.

Any area of the body can be bound but the following will only describe breasts, face, feet, penis, and mummification.

BREASTS Breasts are bound with soft rope, scarves, Saran Wrap, Ace bandages, soft leather strips, etc. They can be
partially bound, so that the base is squeezed and the front area is left exposed for. nipple play, or they may be completely
bound for sensation from pressure. This type of breast binding is used by transvestites for crossdressing purposes.

FACE Occasionally people enjoy having their face or head restricted. A person’s head is bound with scarves, soft thin
rope, leather straps, or latex hoods. These can be lethal if they slip out of place. Most tops don’t leave the room while
their partner is bound. Latex also causes perspiration and the partner’s discomfort determines how long the hood
remains in place. CAUTION: Closing off the mouth and nose together or using the throat area as an anchor can be
dangerous and even fatal.

FEET Foot binding was originally practiced in 950 A.D. among dancing girls of the Chinese T’ang dynasty. It spread
throughout the different levels of society and continued until the emancipation of women in the 1911-12 revolution.
There are several theories related to its popularity. The binding of a wife’s feet made her more subservient and more
dependent. The binding of feet and the resulting effort required to walk was thought by some to aid in the tautness or
development of muscles in the vagina. This theory is controversial and the bindings may have become popular simply
because men are aroused by frailty, pain, or discomfort suffered by the opposite sex, especially when it is done for sexual
reasons. This handicap was also a status symbol in the same way as the aristocratic Chinese male’s incredibly long
fingernails, both being symbols of wealth and leisure.

Today many women wear high heels that are uncomfortable or cause a similar slow delicate gait. Women seem to wear
this type of shoes as much for themselves and their own sense of what makes them feel sexy as to please men. (See also
ACROTOMOPHILIA, APOTEMN-OPHILIA, DYSMORPHOPHILIA, MASOCHISM, PODOPHILIA and SADISM)

MUMMIFICATION Mummification involves wrapping the whole body. The ancient Egyptians preserved their dead in this
manner. Today it is used in the S/M community as a form of bondage. If the bound partner prefers to play during the time
they are encased, the genitals, nipples, or anus are left exposed. Negotiation is very important and a safeword is always
agreed upon between partners before they play. (See NEGOTIATION)

The materials used for mummification are bandages, scissors, a ceiling hook that can support the weight of their partner,
a chain, panic snap, a head harness, padding for between the person’s knees and ankles, material for wrapping, duct tape,
a large towel, and their partner’s favorite sex toys. Wrapping materials consist of Saran Wrap, Ace bandages, or latex
strips. Once the person is wrapped they are ready to be entertained.

Head harnesses are used to give maximum support under a person’s chin and the back of their head. The top of the
harness has a ring with which to attach the panic snap and chain. These are not designed to support the weight of the
person, only to assist their balance while standing.

The typical mummification scene proceeds by a person undressing, having the head harness fitted and then hooked to
the chain that attaches to the ceiling. This is done to make sure the person is comfortable and has the proper support
before the wrapping begins. Next the padding is placed between the ankles and knees and the wrapping then begins at
the ankles and moves upward. The person wrapping watches to make sure that he has not left any exposed skin between
the wrapping to which the duct tape might stick. Many prefer not to wrap the person with their legs or arms touching
other skin because of the discomfort. The wrapping is continued, leaving the genitals or breasts exposed, and finished by
loosely wrapping the neck. Duct tape is applied to secure the wrapping material, and a blindfold is occasionally
used.When the game is over, bandage scissors are used to cut the mummy out of the wrapping. The material may be cut
loose while the person is still suspended or afterward. Head harnesses are not unsnapped unless the partner is strong
enough to support their body weight because many people are unable to stand on their own after mummification.
Cutting is begun at the bottom between the back of the ankles and continued to the neck. The mummy is usually
perspiring and has to be wrapped in a large towel or blanket. A simpler type of mummification is done with restraint type
body or sleeping bags.

Another form of mummification is the wrapping of one’s partner in toilet paper as they stand. They are next sprayed
(using a water pistol or bottle spray) with a favorite liquid. The partner or partners then proceed to lick the wet paper off
their body. This game is called “squirt and lick.” CAUTION: It is psychologically important to the mummy to be touched
and talked to by their partner. The mummy is much more likely to panic without constant reassurance. Many people have
died attempting mummification while alone or with a partner who wasn’t aware of proper precautions.

PENIS Many methods are used to bind the penis. There are prefabricated leather harnesses with rings, snaps, and even
attachable vibrators. Some have a ring that can accommodate a leash which is used to lead naked men around at S/M
parties.

The penis is also bound or wrapped with 6 feet of rope, thin leather boot laces, strips of 1/2” garment leather, or Ace
bandages. Bandage scissors are kept in an accessible location in case of an emergency. A sample wrapping beginning with
the center portion of the strand being anchored gently under the scrotum, both ends brought up, crossed at the top front
of the scrotum, brought up and across the top of the penis, and from there continues until the desired effect is achieved.
CAUTION: It is dangerous to wrap the binding too tightly. Penis binding is restricted to no longer than 10 minutes and
shorter if a tingling sensation develops. Safewords are used to signal the need for immediate release. If the bottom is
gagged, an obvious gesture is agreed on in the event of any discomfort, nausea, or pain. Serious damage can occur if not
done safely.

(See also BONDAGE and CONSTRICTIONS)

BIRTH CONTROL Documented efforts to prevent pregnancy are ancient. The Jews first recorded coitus interruptus as a
form of birth control in Genesis. Efforts at birth control are also found in Egyptian papyri as early as 1900 B.C. The
Egyptians used many different methods. One was a barrier of lint that was covered in acacia powder, another was a
mixture which included crocodile dung, both being used by females. More recently the 18th century Casanova used half
lemons which must have acted as an acidic spermicide and cervical cap. Abortion and sterilization are also types of birth
control that are ancient.

Historically, governments have had the most control over sex, abortion, birth control, adoption, or the number of males
and females allowed per family. These restrictions were usually based on a country’s need for additional soldiers and
workers. Most cultures had little or no provision for welfare, therefore, their only solution in preventing hunger was to
control the birth rate or population of their citizens. A woman who accidentally became pregnant had the option of
aborting before delivery, abandoning, selling, or killing the child after its birth.

Religions eventually became involved with restriction on birth control and, in some cases sex in general. Europeans and
Americans alike found that after the censorship of sexual information during and following the 19th century period of
Victorianism birth control information was not available to the general public. A few notable people fought to bring
women this information. People such as Francis Place, Richard Carlile, Annie Besant, John Stuart Mill, Charles Knowlton,
Dr. Aletta Jacobs, and Dr. Marie Stopes fought for people’s right to choose birth control. Even the management of Syntex
Labs had a struggle in bringing the first birth control pill to the market.

One of the last great social reformers was Margaret Sanger, who in 1914 spearheaded a movement to educate women on
this subject. She was a nurse who had not only seen first hand the agony unplanned children had on poor families but had
tended a patient who died of an illegal abortion. It was she who first coined the term ‘birth control’ and began writing
literature on the subject. She soon found herself indicted under the directive of Anthony Comstock, the special agent of
the Post Office and lobbyist for the Comstock Act, which made obscenity a felony. Comstock especially felt that birth
control was a major evil. Mrs. Sanger left the country to avoid prosecution and this angered Mr. Comstock. To get
revenge he set up her husband just as he had unsuspecting physicians in the past to provide information about birth
control to a supposed couple who were desperately in need of it. Mr. Sanger mailed the information, was convicted, and
imprisoned. Mrs. Sanger founded the American Birth Control League in 1921 which consolidated with another agency in
1942 and became the Planned Parenthood Federation of America. Even with her intense lobbying to undo the harm
accomplished by Comstock there were statutes against birth control information being distributed through the mail or
devices being sold until 1970. Many voters do not realize that some evangelical lobbyists today not only want anti-
abortion laws but are just as adamant about wanting to rescind people’s right to use birth control. (See also ANTHONY
COMSTOCK)

The governments of many countries now recognize the need to control their own birth rates, some even giving incentives
to restrict the number of children in a family. When family planning is made available, the birth rate has fallen in many
third world countries two to four times as quickly as it did in the West at a similar stage of development.

ABORTION Ancient methods used to induce miscarriage were often concoctions of herbs. The Hottentot women drank
hot badger urine, which when ingested for several days, often caused the fetus to abort. Australian women had the
abdomen beaten with large stones or a stick; or might also lean against a tree and have two men roll the stick down
across her stomach. The pushing was not only hard enough to cause the death of the fetus but sometimes that of the
mother as well. In the Middle East slaves who were well endowed were sometimes used to abort pregnancies in their
master’s harem. This was accomplished with violent thrusts of the slave’s penis.

Abortion had been practiced throughout history without much restricting legislation because it was not considered
murder at that stage of prenatal development. That is, not until Tertullian interpreted Exodus 21:22, which refers to legal
action being taken against a man who injures a pregnant woman, as encompassing a mother, doctor or midwife who
performs an abortion. This Church doctrine later became incorporated into secular legislation. Women in the United
States receive 1.5 million abortions a year. World-wide the number is estimated at 50 million with 200,000 related
deaths. The number of abortions always rise with the inability to obtain other forms of birth control.

Abortion clinics are currently operative in most of the United States although often under protest and harassment by
“right-to-life” groups. A woman checks into these clinics, is interviewed, and has several expandable sticks of seaweed
(laminaria) inserted into the opening of her cervix, causing it to stretch open overnight. The patient goes home and
returns the next day for a vacuum aspiration (a tube is inserted into the womb and the suction removes fetal tissue). This
procedure is effective for up to fourteen weeks into pregnancy. Small underground groups of women have formed to
learn of alternative methods if abortion becomes illegal.

 
ANAL SEX Anal sex is today considered a high risk activity for contracting AIDS, although in the past it was used in some
cultures both in preventing pregnancy and loss of virginity before marriage.

CERVICAL CAP A cervical cap fits over the tip of the cervix and is made of rubber, metal, or plastic. They cannot be used
by all women because of the difference in individual shape of cervixes. The cap is similar in appearance to the diaphragm
but smaller and more difficult to get into the proper position. They are manufactured in England and more popular in
Europe than in the U.S. The estimated success rate is 75-95%.

COITUS INTERRUPTUS This refers to withdrawing the penis from the vagina before ejaculation and is one of the oldest
methods of birth control. It is used by approximately 35 million people in the world today. Its success rate is 70-95%.

CONDOM Condoms have also been used throughout history. Goat bladders, lemon halves, sheep intestines, fish
intestines, seed pods, linen, silk, and leather have all been used to create a barrier between the penis and vagina.
Condoms are available in different shapes, textures, and sizes. The diameters begin at 1 1/4” but can be larger (Mentor’s
Magnum, and Fourex). However, most condoms are between 1 1/4” to 1 1/2” in diameter, and are 7 1/2” long. The body
of the condom stretches but the ring at the base can cause discomfort if it is too tight. There is also a new condom on the
market that only covers the glans penis.

Proper placement of a condom requires several steps. First, the tip of the penis is lubricated with a water based lubricant
(an oil based lubricant will cause the latex to deteriorate). Next, the reservoir tip is held closed as the condom is rolled
onto the glans penis. Men who are not circumcised pull the foreskin back to expose this area. The condom is then rolled
over the rest of the penis taking care not to catch the hair at the pubic region. Some men find that by using a lamb skin
condom first and then putting a latex condom over it they create more sensation for both them and their partner.
Additional water based lubrication can be added to the outside of the condom if the man feels it is necessary. Caution is
taken before withdrawing the penis after ejaculation by holding the bottom base of the condom tightly to avoid it slipping
off as it is pulled out. One condom manufacturer, Mentor, has adhesive added at the base to help prevent this from
happening. A condom is 80-95% effective against pregnancy.

In addition to birth control, condoms protect people from many sexually transmitted diseases. A way to increase the
safety factor is to use a spermicide with nonoxynol-9 in conjunction with the condom, although latest tests reveal that
this is not a guarantee for avoiding infection from the AIDS virus. Some condoms already contain a small amount of this
ingredient in the lubricant. CAUTION: Condoms do sometimes break. The ratio is 1 in 165 for vaginal sex and 1 in 105 for
anal sex. The risk can be minimized by only using fresh condoms and additional water based lubricants.

A new female condom, WPC 333, has been developed by the Wisconsin Pharmacal Company. It is now scheduled for
clinical trials with no expected marketing date. The device has two rings, one that is inserted internally, in a similar
manner as a diaphragm, and the other end lies against the outsid of the vagina. Its efficacy has been rated as superior to
the male condom and can be used without the necessity of a sustained male erection to hold it in place. It also has the
potential to reduce the possibility of herpes transmission (The Helper, by the American Social Health Association, p. 9).
The female condom appears to be adaptable to sex play as a receptacle for stuffing food or drinks into the vagina. (See
STUFFING) Names selected for this device are Reality and Femidom.
 

There is a patent held by Ricardo J. Esqueda for a facial prophylactic that protects the wearer from transmission of
diseases while engaging in oral sex. The mask covers the person’s face from the top of the nose to under the chin. The
person breathes through a shaft that passes from the nostrils to the top of the mask.

CONTRACEPTIVE IMPLANT This product was introduced into 17 countries in 1991 and has approximately 500,000 users.
Small silicone rubber capsules are inserted under the skin of a woman’s arm to provide protection against pregnancy for
about five years. These may be removed at any point in time. The implant is almost 100% effective and lasts about five
years

DIAPHRAGM The diaphragm was invented in 1882. It is a half-ball-shaped thin rubber device with a metal rim. A
spermicide is placed into the cavity and the top rim is pinched together in the center for insertion into the vagina before
sex. The diaphragm, when in place, covers the cervix and prevents sperm from entering through the opening. The
spermicide is only effective for 12 hours and needs at least 6 hours to kill sperm after intercourse.

The diaphragm can slip during intercourse and for this reason it is rated as only 80-95% effective.

DOUCHE A douche is the flooding of the vagina by a liquid, usually water, but it may have another additive such as
vinegar. Disposable plastic bottles with nozzles (douche bags) are available at drug stores. Sperm can enter the cervix in
as little as one minute after release of pre-ejaculate and for this reason douching is rated as being the least effective form
of birth control, falling behind the rhythm method.

HOME OVULATION DETECTOR A home ovulation detector is under development by a California firm. This unit provides a
convenient method for women to monitor the progesterone level in their urine. A rise in progesterone signals the end of
ovulation for a particular monthly cycle. This product may be available by 1993. If used properly, this method should be
100% effective. The disadvantage is that sex without risk of pregnancy can only be guaranteed for 10 to 14 days a month.

IMMUNOCONTRACEPTION Immunocontraception is currently under research. This method works by using a vaccine to
build antibodies to bind proteins onto the surface of the woman’s egg, thus making it impossible for the sperm to
penetrate its surface. Another method vaccinates the woman against sperm. The immune period lasts for up to five years,
afterward dropping to a level that permits fertilization. (“Have it your way,” by Margo Schneidman, Stanford Medicine,
Spring 1992, p. 23)

IUD Intrauterine Devices have been used intermittently since the nineteenth century. The idea was conceived from the
observance of female camels having their fertility period delayed by the insertion of a stone into the uterus before long
trips across the desert. In 1930 E. Grafenberg began using a coiled silver wire with success, however, due to controversy
among gynecologists the device did not gain popularity. In 1959 two more physicians, W. Oppenheimer and T. Ota
documented a success rate of over 97.5% with no significant complications and the device became a popular birth control
method. Two million Indian women were wearing these IUDs within 4 years after introduction. IUDs have lost popularity
in the United States due to complications involving infections among women exposed to sexually transmitted diseases.
However, they are still popular in China and safe for most any female in a monogamous relationship.

IUDs seem to work by interfering with the ability of the fertilized egg to implant itself in the uterine wall. An inflammation
can occur for the first few days after insertion, but will usually disappear. Women may have later complications resulting
in infertility. Therefore, they are only recommended for women with established families.

Two IUDs are currently marketed in the United States. One is GynoPharma’s Paragard and the other is the Progestasert.
Both look similar. The Progestasert was invented by Dr. Alejandro Zaffaroni in 1976 and marketed by ALZA Corporation.
This IUD differs from others in that it releases progesterone to the uterus over a period of one year. This low dosage of
hormone does not produce the same side effects found in contraceptive pills and seems to have fewer complications than
other types of IUDs.

The Progestasert is about 97.5% effective against pregnancy.

MENSTRUAL EXTRACTION Menstrual extraction, or suction of uterine contents, is done soon after a woman discovers
her menstrual cycle is late. This particular technique has been endorsed by a few women’s groups for almost 20 years but
has only recently gained attention due to new laws threatening a woman’s choice to obtain a legal abortion. Menstrual
extraction is used by some every few months as a precaution against possible pregnancy. This home health technique is
performed on women by other women through support groups. The technique itself requires a special skill and most
practitioners are trained by other women. The actual suction device consists of a syringe with a by-pass valve, a cannula,
tubing, a mason jar, and other attachments. CAUTION: Infections and serious injury are possible, especially when the
procedure is performed by women not trained in menstrual extraction.

PILL—CONTRACEPTIVE Scientists discovered in 1934 that ovulation could be inhibited through administration of
estrogen or progesterone but the doses needed were too large to be practical in humans. Then in 1951 Dr. Carl Djerassi
succeeded in synthesizing steroids that were more potent and thereby practical for administration in pill form. Further
testing was done by Gregory Pincus and the first contraceptive pill was marketed by Syntex in the early 1960s.

There are an estimated 65 million users of the contraceptive pill. These are taken for 20 to 21 consecutive days beginning
with the fifth day after the menstrual cycle begins. There can be side effects for some, however, the rate of effectiveness
when the pill is taken properly can be 100%. Some women are able to take 100 mcg of estrogen within 24 hours after sex
and repeat that 12 hours later to prevent pregnancy. The continual use of the pill for several years greatly reduces a
woman’s risk of ovarian or endometrial cancer.

A male pill is being researched. One method suppresses the gonadotropin-releasing hormone which in turn inhibits the
production of testosterone and sperm production. To prevent a loss of sex drive, men are given a bi-weekly injection of
synthetic testosterone. The other method requires a weekly injection of testosterone which blocks the pituitary secretion
of hormones and the production of sperm. The level of testosterone in the bloodstream remains normal. There are many
more psychological factors involved with a male’s decision to use the pill than exist for a woman. If a male pill is
introduced it may not be until around the turn of the century.

PILL—CONTRAGESTIVE RU 486 is the only contragestive pill on the market and as of 1992 was available in France, China
and England. This pill can be taken after conception and up to nine weeks during the gestation period. It is called a “death
pill” by antiabortionists. The dosage of three 200mg pills, followed by a small amount of prostaglandin 48 hours later, is
administered by a physician. The success rate of embryo expulsion is 96% within the first day of receiving the
prostaglandin. Some physicians fear that this drug might be sold on the black market where, without medical supervision,
a woman might take the pills after the nine week limit, potentially causing her death as a complication of hemorrhaging.

RU 486 was developed by Etienne-Emile Baulieu in the late 1970s while consulting for Roussel-Uclaf. Boycotts were
threatened by both opposition and supporters of the new pill. It was not brought to the market by Roussel until French
health minister Claude Evin said that the pill was the moral property of all women and threatened to transfer the patent
to another pharmaceutical company. FDA approval for RU 486 has not yet been filed in the United States (“News and
comment,” by J. Palca, SCIENCE (Vol. 245), Sept. 22, 1989, pp. 1319-1324).

RHYTHM METHOD (Natural Family Planning) Women have different fertility cycles and the purpose of this method is to
restrict sex to the cycle during which the woman is not able to conceive. The number of days from ovulation to
menstruation is fairly consistent at 13-15 days, however, the number of days from the first sign of menstruation to
ovulation varies greatly. Problems also arise with differences in cycles between women and irregularity in the same
woman brought on by stress or illness. Sperm can also live up to 5 days inside the vagina and some women can ovulate
twice. The rate of effectiveness is 65-85%. This is the only type of birth control approved by the Roman Catholic Church,
who adopted St. Augustine’s belief that sex other than to produce children was a sin. Judaism differs from Christianity in
that the scripture that tells one to reproduce and fill the earth is interpreted as only applying to men. Women therefore
are given authority over their own bodies and can practice birth control if they choose. The form of birth control,
however, cannot be something that depends on the male (condoms or vasectomy).

SPERMICIDE Spermicides kill sperm on contact and come in the form of gels, creams, foams, suppositories, and sponges
which act as repositories for the chemical. These have to be inserted before intercourse and are all available without
prescription in drug stores. Spermacides have a rating of 70-90% effectiveness.

STEROID INJECTIONS Injections of steroids are popular in Asia and Latin America. A 150 mg dose of
medroxyprogesterone acetate is injected to prevent pregnancy. The body absorbs this steroid for up to 90 days and the
woman during this time remains infertile. Side effects are reported by as many as 36% but the effectiveness rate is
greater than 99%.

TUBAL LIGATION Women sometimes choose sterilization by having their fallopian tubes severed. This is a surgical
procedure and is done in a hospital and is completely effective against future pregnancies.

Surgical reversal has become possible, but the success rate is very low. If a woman chooses to reverse this procedure,
locating a micro surgeon with a high success rate is recommended. In 1988 the expense of physician and hospital for a
reversal was approximately $5,000.

VAGINAL RING A vaginal ring is under development that emits steroids in the vagina to prevent ovulation. Like the birth
control pill, it is used for three weeks and then discontinued for one week to permit menstruation. The ring is shaped like
a small thin donut and has only minor side effects. The advantage over other methods is that the woman has only the
date of insertion and removal with which to be concerned. This device may be on the market by 1997.

 
VASECTOMY This surgical procedure for sterilization has been done on about 45 million males. The physician is able to
perform the procedure in his office. First anesthetizing the scrotum, he makes a small incision, locates and ties both vas
deferens in two spots, cuts out the section between, and the procedure is over. Birth control needs to be practiced for an
additional 12 weeks or 20 ejaculations to guarantee that all remaining sperm are no longer potent. Hormone secretion
continues as usual. The only detectable difference is in the milder flavor of his ejaculate. Reversal of vasectomies is also
sometimes possible.

(See also ILLEGAL SEX and SACRIFICES)

BITING (Odaxetagnia—arousal from biting) Biting and nibbling is used by some to sexually excite their partner. It is done
on the neck, ears, lips, nipples, back, buttocks, genitals, inner thighs, etc. The pressure one uses depends on their
partner’s pain tolerance. Biting can be very light or can leave marks and be painful. Novices usually begin with light
nibbling, having their partner signal when it becomes intense. They start with ears and work their way down the back to
the thighs and back up, alternating bites, nibbles and licking. A few men respond to firm biting of the shaft of the penis
just below the glans.

Biting is one of the easiest and most accepted methods of light S/M play. The increased sensation brings some individuals
who are emotionally stressed out of their physical numbness, back into touch with their bodies.

Biting was recommended for lovers in the Kama-Sutra. Vatsyayana first listed the types of bites as follows:

The hidden bite leaves on the skin only a passing redness. The swollen bite occurs when the skin has been seized and
pulled, as though with pincers. The line of jewels is formed by a bite involving all the teeth. The broken cloud is a broken
line of points undulating around a curve, due to the space between the teeth. The bite of the boar is imprinted on the
breasts and the shoulders and consists of two lines of teeth marks, one above the other, with a red gap.

One can convey one’s desire to a woman by making nail or teeth marks on the following objects which she wears or owns;
any ornament of the forehead or ears, a bunch of flowers, and a betel or tamala leaf.

When a lover bites his mistress hard, she must, with feigned anger, bite him back twice as hard...If she is very excited, and
because of his passionate condition starts a kind of fight with her lover, she will take him by the hair, pull his head towards
her and bite his lower lip; then, in her delirium, she will bite him all over his body, with her eyes closed.

Kinsey reported that about 50% of people surveyed showed sexual arousal from being bitten during sex. A more sadistic
type of biting was portrayed in two scenes in the 1960’s movie Barbarella. The first was when she was tied to a column
and dolls with metal teeth were unleashed on her. The second was when she was thrown into a glass cage and parakeets
swarmed over her body, supposedly biting off bits of flesh before she was rescued. Marilyn Monroe was known to draw
blood by biting the lips of her partners.

Animals such as cats, horses, and turtles use biting to arouse their partners to the high levels of passion necessary for
ovulation or ejaculation. CAUTION: Bites that draw blood are considered unsafe sex.

(See also CLAMPS, CUPPING, PINCHING, SAFE SEX, SCRATCHING, SENSORY ENHANCEMENT and TICKLING)

BLINDFOLDING Blindfolding, or manually impairing the vision of a partner accomplishes several results. A person who
temporarily loses their sight develops an increased awareness of their other senses, such as touch. The person
blindfolded can also experience a sense that their mind is detached from their body. Blindfolding releases some from
their inhibitions and can have a depersonalizing effect on both partners. Blindfolding is used to reduce the power of the
bottom and give it to the top. An example is that of a dominant husband who wants to temporarily submit to his normally
timid wife.

Blindfolding makes it possible for a top to act out the role of anonymous serial lovers in a scene without the
inconvenience of changing costumes. It is used in group sex for the reverse effect.
The blindfold used most often because of its comfort and restricted vision is the adjustable leather blindfold that is lined
with padding or fur. CAUTION: Contact lenses can cause injury if worn with blindfolds of any type. A slight mental
disorientation can occur after any extended period of blindness and caution is taken when removing the blindfold. If the
person is under any other type of restraint, the blindfold is removed first.

(See also AMAUROPHILIA, BONDAGE and LIGHTING)

BLOOD SPORTS Blood sports are those sex activities in which skin is broken. This would include activities such as cutting,
phlebotomy, cicatrization, piercing, carpet burns, abrasions, shaving, scratching, vampirism, flagellation, caning, branding,
burning, etc.

Cutting the skin or drawing blood creates an adrenalin rush, trust for partner, and a sense of personal conquest for the
participant. It may also help relieve stress in some people.

People involved in blood sports only use shallow cuts on certain padded areas of the body, like thighs, upper arms, and
shoulders. This type of scene is performed only by those in the medical profession or those who have a vast amount of
cutting or piercing experience.CAUTION: Activity involving unprotected contact with the blood of a partner is considered
unsafe sex and cutting areas that have a concentration of nerves, arteries, veins, tendons, ligaments, or bone can be
dangerous.

(See also ABRASIONS, BITING, CUPPING, DEPILATION, FLAGELLATION, PHLEBOTOMY, SAFE SEX and SCRATCHING)

BODY PAINTING Body painting probably had its beginning with prehistoric hunting tribes and is still a ritual art form in
Africa where natives decorate themselves to resemble wild animals or sacred spirits. American Indians used face painting
when they went to battle so their gods wouldn’t recognize them and hold them responsible for the injury or death of
other humans. This philosophy is successfully used by those who feel guilty about experimenting with sex. It is also simply
a sensuous way to savor the contours and crevices of one’s partner. Many begin preparation by giving the partner a full
body massage using oil which acts to seal dry porous skin. The music and location is then selected to match the desired
mood. The paint is then applied along the contour lines of the person’s body with particular attention being paid to
sensitive areas such as hands, feet, face, ears, nipples, and genitals. Body paints come in an assortment of colors and
some even glitter. Motif transfers of birds, snakes, and roses are added to enhance basic designs. Some people prefer to
simply use a dry brush or warm massage oil instead of paint which needs to be washed off later.

Body painting is not limited to two people; it is sometimes modified (adding a g-string) to become entertainment at a
party. Here some people substitute various edible love oils and let guests experiment by brushing one of these onto the
model and then licking it off. CAUTION: Body painting may block the sweat glands, resulting in a potentially dangerous
compromise of the body’s ability to regulate its own temperature. For this reason, covering the entire body with paint
should be avoided. Also, some people may have an allergic reaction to toxins in the paint.

(See also CICATRIZATION and TATTOOING)

 
BONDAGE (Vincilagnia—arousal from bondage) Bondage refers to the act of restricting the movement of a person.
Bondage can be physical or symbolic and may involve many different methods. Primitive cultures used bondage on stolen
brides to prevent their escape. This form of restraint eventually evolved into symbolic bindings around the waist, legs,
wrist, and, according to some, the finger. The tradition of carrying the bride across the threshold also comes from this
custom. There was a strange twist to sex and bondage during the 19th century when parents were encouraged to bind
the hands of their sons behind their backs to prevent them from masturbating. Adult men were not exempt and were
often expected to have the same thing done to them.

Today television programs are full of abduction and bondage scenes. Children play cowboys and Indians using rope
bondage. And in 1989 over 40% of the patients in American nursing homes were put into restraints. Regardless of the
popularity of bondage, it is not always socially acceptable for adults to utilize it for sex play.

The benefits individuals receive from bondage vary. Simple solitary bondage is like meditation for many practitioners. The
brain seems to release more alpha waves, causing a floating or hypnotic state similar to when one drives on a highway
late at night.

Other people prefer to pull against the restraints, building a rush of adrenalin and euphoria. Men who are much stronger
than their partner, but still want a passionate reciprocal exchange of physical power, benefit from partial bondage. This
handicaps the man so that the woman appears to have equivalent or superior physical strength. Some build up immense
confidence and self esteem by being able to work their way loose from the restraints. Many find that bondage relieves
them of always having to sexually perform. This allows them to relax and not feel guilty about enjoying the sensations
their partner is creating.

Bondage often serves as simple support. Secure and comfortable bondage allows the bottom to relax completely, without
worrying about balance or other practical distractions. Imaginative sexual positions may move from ridiculously awkward
to fun with such support.

A major effect of bondage, when used during sex, is the release of normal inhibitions. A prisoner or victim does not feel as
personally responsible when obeying commands, especially ones they have fantasized about but didn’t have the courage
to try. The person performing the bondage experiences a similar release of inhibition due to the tremendous increase in
feelings of personal power. However, sexual etiquette requires that the top not use the situation to exclusively fulfill their
own fantasies, particularly· ones that the bottom doesn’t find arousing.

Bondage scenes are negotiated ahead of time which enables both people to determine what type of scene they want to
act out and what paraphernalia might be needed. A safeword guarantees that the sexual limits of the bottom will be
expanded but not violated. The safeword is also a command to end the game, whether it is because the bottom feels
discomfort, boredom, or their limit has been reached. Regardless of why the safeword was used, it is the responsibility of
the top to get them out of bondage within a few seconds.

Bondage also creates trust and appreciation for the top. Those bound are for the first time not able to reciprocate acts of
affection and stimulation received from a partner. They become fully aware of the role their partner plays in expressing
affection and controlling sexual arousal. Many bottoms become extremely grateful and submissive upon finally being
released.

Bondage, like other sex games, will generally not produce an erotic effect unless one is sexually attracted to their partner
or has an overpowering lust for bondage, in which case the partner is of lesser importance. In addition, most safety
conscious people do not play with people they don’t know.

Bondage, unlike other types of sex, may require a long period of time, up to 48 hours. This necessitates the partner being
diverse and having the physical and mental stamina required to keep the game intense, focused, and progressive. The top
is often more exhausted than the bottom at the end of the bondage scene. CAUTION: Bondage, like mountain climbing,
skydiving, body building, and car racing can be dangerous if not done properly. People who practice bondage read about
the safety of new equipment or positions they can use on their partners. Positions are selected according to the length of
time in which the partners have to play. Many positions seen in magazines are extremely uncomfortable and would not
work for more than a few minutes. Pulling a person’s arms upward while they are bound behind their back (strapado
torture position) can easily dislocate their shoulders. A person is never left unattended while bound. Furthermore, the
person who is bound is constantly monitored for breathing, circulation, skin tone, and temperature of the fingers and
toes. Nothing is put near the neck except properly fitted collars. Ropes, blindfolds, hoods, or other restraints can slip out
of their original position and cause suffocation. The restrictive cuffs or ropes match on each side of the body in order to
produce the proper sensations. Those learning bondage add additional paraphernalia slowly, avoiding gags, latex hoods,
impaling, lacing, and crucifixion.

The following are specific examples of common bondage play.

BARS Spreader bars are used in conjunction with leather cuffs, and sometimes chains. They are designed to alleviate the
need of anchoring a person to a chair or bed. A leg or knee spreader also keeps the bottom from closing their legs to
protect or hide their genitals. This type of vulnerability is particularly exciting for, women who enjoy being exhibited.
Spreader bars, as opposed to tying someone to the bed posts, allows the legs to be raised into different positions and for
the person to easily be flipped over on their stomach.

CAGES Cages are used to imprison partners without the need of additional restraints. Cages are made to resemble wire
chicken coops, coffins, or wooden boxes. The type of cage one selects is determined by the feelings one wants to
produce. If the fantasy involves an interrogation of a prisoner, bars are often used. If the slave is impersonating a pet, the
chicken wire pen or kennel sets the proper mood. Necrophiles and vampires prefer coffins. Wooden boxes with holes for
ventilation are versatile in most cases and claustrophiles (people who are aroused by being trapped in small areas) enjoy
being placed in them.

Cages may or may not be large enough to permit the slave to stand or lay fully stretched out. The size of the cage
determines how long a person is left inside. Cages are used as beds, for punishment, or during a recess in S/M play. Some
tops have anchored male prisoners wearing Prince Albert penis rings (metal ring that pierces the urethra and exits near
the frenulum) to the cage bars by wrapping his penis around a bar and fastening the Prince Albert to a cockring at the
base end of his penis.

People practicing long term bondage who need to leave the house for a couple of hours often leave their partner in a
cage. This is considered safe, on the assumption that the chances of the house catching fire or the top getting into a car
accident are extremely slim.

CHAINS Chains are used for suspension or attaching one restraint to another. They are also used for ornamentation or to
connect various ring piercings on the body. Chains, because they rattle and feel cool, add tactile and auditory sensations
to the bondage scene.

Chains are preferred by some for suspension because they are heavy duty and various items can be hung from the links. A
3” or 4” panic snap is added to provide for immediate release. The disadvantage to using chains is their weight and bulk if
people take sex toys with them on a trip.

COLLARS Collars are worn by slaves and bottoms. They act as a visible and physical reminder of their submissive state.
The collar is often black leather with a buckle and some include chrome studs as decoration. It is either worn alone or
with a leash attached to a “D” ring. Others use an ordinary necklace with some type of charm or emblem to signify their
commitment. Pet slaves sometimes have personalized dog tags attached to their collar.
Wrist restraints are occasionally attached by a chain to the “D” ring with the arms in front of the body or to the sides. This
is dangerous if done from the back because it can cause self-strangulation.

CRUCIFIXION Crucifixion consists of suspending a person by the wrists and ankles from a stake. It was originally done by
Phoenicians, Assyrians, Egyptians, Persians, and Romans as a method of execution. Nailing the wrists and feet usually
meant a fast death from blood loss while using ropes meant that the person would live several hours before suffocating.
Death could take several days if their weight was supported by something. The Carthaginians used crucifixion as a form of
ritual sacrifice. Malcus, in order to ensure himself victory in battle, dressed his son, had a crown placed on his head, and
then crucified him as a sacrifice to the god Baal. Once dead, the victim was usually burned with the cross. The Romans
developed four more types of crucifixes: the Y, X, T, and H. The latter involved hanging a person horizontally by one leg
and one arm.

Leather cuffs are preferred for most, but people also wrap their ankles and wrists with ropes using Ace bandages to give
some protection underneath the binding. The rope binding is to be secure but not too tight.

A few people find crucifixion games arousing and powerful because of its religious association with pain and sacrifice.
CAUTION: There is a danger that setting the restraints too loosely may cause permanent crushed nerve damage. Constant
monitoring of the extremities for circulation is done by all who play with restraints.

Some choose to have an orgasm during suspension. However, the body tolerates more pain before orgasm than
afterward and they risk experiencing increased pain.

Positions that require one’s arms to be separate and support their weight will put stress on the lungs and can cause
suffocation. The least painful position is one where both hands are hung together above the head and the ankles are
spread but still have support. This can be tolerated by some for as long as 10-15 minutes, depending on the person, their
weight, and the type of bondage (Dungeon Master, No. 11, July 1981, “When in Rome,” by Fledermaus, pp. 41-43).

CUFFS Leather cuffs are 2-3” wide leather strips that fit around the wrists or ankles. They have buckles, latches, or
padlocks and may be lined with fur for comfort. Cuffs are simpler to use, more restrictive than rope, and can be removed
faster. Chains, leather straps, or spreader bars are sometimes used to attach cuffs to each other.

ENCASEMENT Encasement is a type of bondage that also involves sensory deprivation. The Sadhus of India used this
method as one way of preventing orgasms while trying to achieve an altered state of consciousness. It is also used as a
type of chastity device (“Fakir Musafar” by V. Vale and A. Juno, Modern Primitives, p. 20).

Encasements of heads were used in the form of hideous helmets or metal masks during the Middle Ages as a form of
humiliation. This type of torture was portrayed in the movie “Man in the Iron Mask” with Richard Chamberlain, and if this
had a similar effect on the head as it does the penis, we can only imagine the psychological torment it could cause.

A man usually encases his penis in a metal ball or other material that will not come into constant contact with the penis.
Both of these have a small hole for urine to pass. Encasements make it impossible for the person to achieve an orgasm
and there is no sensation in the penis while encased. However, after several days have passed and the ball is removed the
penis becomes extremely sensitive to the touch.
 

(See also BONDAGE/HOODS, ORGASMS /ALTERED STATES, and PENIS MODIFICATION /NEGATION)

GAGS Gags are used to render people speechless, which has a great psychological impact. Some bottoms prefer gags
because they muffle their screams of ecstasy. Those using gags establish an alternative signal to replace the safeword.
Some have their partner hold a marble and drop it if they want the game to end.

There are many types of gags. They include bridles, ball gags, mouth covers, muzzles, adhesive tape, stuffers, dildos, and
bar gags.

Most movies depict adhesive tape placed across the mouth. This, like any gag that does not restrict movement of the jaw,
is technically ineffective. Removal can also be painful.

Ball gags are effective and safe as long as they are anchored or strung onto a strap that is wide enough to be comfortable.

Penis or dildo gags are available with the penis mounted on the inside of the mouth, the outside, or both. Penis gags are
used for humiliation, sex, punishment, and teasing. People strap on the gag with the dildo that protrudes outward and
then mount it. They also have the option of sitting on the partner’s gag and sucking on their genitals. Head harnesses are
available in Japan with a high-heel shoe attached to the front so that the toe penetrates the mouth.

Muzzles or head harnesses are used by many because they are comfortable, generally anchor the jaw, permit breathing,
and do not chafe the lips. The person is not rendered completely speechless but the sound is muffled. CAUTION: There is
a risk of the person not being able to breathe adequately through their nose, gagging on saliva, damaging their teeth on
hard objects put in their mouth, swallowing or choking on vomit or stuffings that can be bitten off or come loose from the
mouthpiece, or the mouth becoming uncomfortably dry. Many only use gags for two minutes at a time.

HANDCUFFS Handcuffs are adjustable and when applied correctly it is impossible for the victim to escape. They are easy
to apply and are a convenient form of restraint for those wanting to move their partner to another location.

Generally mitts, socks, or boots are used to protect against the discomfort caused by the metal pressing against the skin.
Good quality handcuffs with built-in safety locks that keep them from tightening after being locked are used in the S/M
community. Those who have more than one set usually have them all keyed the same and keep extra keys readily
available during bondage play as a safety precaution. Handcuffs are applied so that the key hole faces away from the
body, making them more accessible and easier to remove. CAUTION: For safety, handcuffs are carried closed. This
guarantees that the key is available before play begins and padding (gloves or Ace bandage) is used on the wrists to
protect them from abrasion.

HANGING Pseudo-hanging in S/M games is done to keep the partner restricted to one location. This is accomplished with
a knotted rope noose or a chain that is attached to an ‘o’ ring on a leather hood and connected to a supporting hook on
the ceiling. Others use a string that breaks if the bottom slips and falls. CAUTION: Hanging with a rope is very dangerous
because the person who is bound can not catch themselves if they lose their balance. Those who use hanging must be
physically strong enough to support the bottom’s weight until the noose is removed. Do not leave the bound partner
unattended.

(Sec also AUTOEROTIC ASPHYXIA and OXYGEN REGULATION)

HARNESSES Body harnesses are used for decorative attire, suspension, and to anchor onto other restraints. Decorative
harnesses are made of rope in bondage scenes and of leather for costumes.

Harnesses used most for suspension are parachute harnesses which are available for purchase in many Army Navy surplus
stores. (See also BONDAGE/ROPE)

HOODS Hoods are used to depersonalize a partner. This anonymity gives the top more power, both parties fewer
inhibitions, and focuses the bottom’s sensations entirely on their body.

Hoods are made of soft or hard leather, latex, silk scarves, or wooden boxes. The sensations, smell, and sound effects
obviously differ. Some opt for pin holes that allow restricted vision. Others are specifically designed for oral sex and the
only opening is over the nose and mouth.

The wearing of hoods is not limited to use by bottoms. Frightening effects are also created by only the top wearing a
hood or mask. These have eye and mouth openings. CAUTION: Latex hoods having only a few holes under the nostrils
have been known to accidentally slide around and cut off the person’s oxygen supply.

IMPALING Criminals were often executed by being sat on the sharp point of a stake. Their weight drove the stake up into
their torso, causing a slow death. Ancient Assyrians developed this into a form of torture where the victim could live a day
or more before expir-ing. Impalement has since evolved to include any penetration of the body that restricts a person’s
ability to move.

Impalement for sex play purposes is accomplished by any of several methods. It may be done by hammering a stainless
steel needle through the webbing between the fingers in a crucifixion, a nail through the soft area of the glans penis and
into a piece of wood, or through a woman’s breast into a wooden chair back. Impaling is done more for psychological
effects rather than pain. A person bound in this manner does not pull against the restraints as they would with other
devices; submission is immediate and complete.
 

The other type of impalement used to immobilize people is to nail a dildo to the floor or other object and bind the victim
so that the dildo penetrates the vagina or anus. CAUTION: People follow the same sterilization techniques as for any type
of piercing. In addition, the tip of the nail or needle going through the wood is cleaned with alcohol before pulling it back
through the skin. This is a blood sport and therefore considered an unsafe sex practice.

LACING Lacing, when used in bondage, is similar to impalement. It involves piercing the skin with a needle, tying a string
around the needle, and then attaching it to an immobile object. Macrame designs are sometimes woven between
needles. It is less dramatic than using a hammer to pierce the skin, but safer and more versatile. CAUTION: Lacing is a
blood sport and is considered unsafe sex by those who practice it. Sterilization techniques are followed. (Refer also to
SUTURING)

MITTENS Mittens are put on a bottom to prevent them from using their fingers to untie rope, loosen buckles and so
forth. Mittens also provide skin protection from metal, rope, or unlined leather restraints. They are available in lengths
extending to the shoulder with zippers to facilitate easy removal. Others are masonite cardboard or made of leather and
shaped like ping pong paddles to prevent the grasping or curling of fingers. Bottoms lose a lot of their perceived power
when they are unable to use fingers and hands for fighting or protection. Mittens are also being used more by Nursing
Homes in the United States in place of the more restrictive forms of bondage to keep patients from pulling out IVs.

PADLOCKS Padlocks are used on chains, metal extensions, and the O-rings on leather restraints. Some have been used
around the top of the scrotum, and small decorative ones are sometimes used through permanent piercings in place of
jewelry. People. who use more than one padlock usually have the locks all keyed the same. This is not only for
convenience but an important safety feature. Searching for a key when a partner wants to be released is awkward and
potentially dangerous. There is also the hazard of mistaking the wrong key for the padlock and not being able to find the
correct one. Because of this a man in Texas had to drive a long distance to a hospital emergency room to have a padlock
around his genitals removed with a hacksaw. (Personal communication.)

 
RAPE RACKS (Romantic chairs—special Chinese rape chair) A Rape Rack is designed to position and immobilize a person
so that their genitals are accessible. These are often used by scientists to aid male animals in breeding with
noncooperative females.

The 18th and 19th century Chinese had ‘romantic chairs’ that were used by outlaws and certain landlords. The chair was
designed with clasps that would automatically snap in place around an unsuspecting woman. The chair then unfolded into
a bed.

Today a bed, table, or saw horse is used for this purpose, the most popular rape rack being the saw horse. It is modified
by padding the top for comfort and mounting eye screw bolts that act to anchor the wrists and ankles to the bottom of
the legs. This position can be humiliating to the bottom as well as making them very vulnerable. CAUTION : There is a
danger of the partner being injured by loose splinters.

ROPES Ropes are often used for bondage. They offer a technical challenge to the top and are versatile in their application
and effect. Rope is inexpensive and can be purchased in hardware stores. People often use silk curtain sashes, soft nylon
rope, or the magician’s rope found in magic shops. Rough ropes are used for those into punishment or cowboy scenes.

Erotic rope play is done by pulling a long rope very slowly across the genitals and breasts, or wrapping it between the
fingers and toes. The rope essentially takes the place of caressing hands. Once the person has used all the rope, the
bottom is then slowly released in the same manner. The whole process may take an hour or longer.

Thorough planning of a scene is done ahead of time. If the bottom wants to be spanked or have their partner play with
their genitals they make sure that hands and rope don’t obstruct the area. Arms are bound separate from the body to
facilitate occasional movement or relocation which prevents much discomfort as time passes.

Rope is washed after use if a person has more than one partner. It is usually put in a pillow case or laundry sack to
prevent tangling and dried at the highest temperature to kill bacteria. CAUTION: Knots are not placed on areas where
veins or arteries come close to the surface: near the joints, the inside wrists, upper arms, elbows, upper thighs (femoral
artery), behind the knees, above the ankles, and the front sides of the neck. Pressure on the lower rib cage is also
dangerous. The ankles and knees may need additional padding and are not bound together unless the person is lying
down, sitting, or supported by a harness while standing.

There are many other safety precautions used with rope. The bottom is placed in a comfortable position, unless the game
dictates otherwise. The diameter of rope is usually 1/4-1/2”. It is always applied doubled or in twos, which decreases the
risk of cutting off circulation because it broadens the area of pressure. The correct pressure for rope is discernable by a
slight indentation in the skin. A person’s body swells during the application of rope and takes about five minutes to return
to normal. The rope can slip out of position after this time and can be dangerous if it ends up around a partner’s neck or
another area that could cut off circulation. The top constantly monitors the rope for tautness and their partner’s
extremities for circulation (warmth) comparing the color of the fingers with what they looked like before the bondage
scene began. The top also requests that the partner move their hands and toes to check for numbness because many
people don’t notice it until they move. A pair of bandage scissors is always kept near to cut a person loose if their
circulation is cut off or if they use the safeword. The partner does not leave the room while the bottom is in bondage.

(“Bondage with Ropes,” Society of Janus lecture, October 12, 1989, and “Rope Harness and Other Simple Bondage
Techniques,” QSM lecture by Hal, October 13, 1990)

SHACKLES Shackles are restraints made of metal strips that cuff the ankles, neck, or wrists. They have a loop that allows
the attachment of chain or a locking mechanism. Shackles are popular in authentic medieval dungeon scenes but are
uncomfortable and can cause injury if not padded for a fantasy scene. The strong psychological impact of shackles
overrides the concern for comfort for many who use them.

SPECULUM The speculum, otherwise fondly referred to as the “cold spoon,” is the dilating device commonly used by
physicians when doing pelvic exams. These are also used for medical bondage play where the partner does such things as
look at the cervix, insert fingers, food, or urinate into the vagina. Couples who are concerned about STDs are able to
examine the female for genital warts with this device. This is done by bathing the vagina in diluted white vinegar and then
conducting a thorough exam of the accordion-like skin. The vinegar turns the tiny grass-shaped warts white in color,
making them easier to detect. Physicians do not always have the time required for this tedious task, but once a person is
diagnosed with genital warts the physician can find and alleviate them.

Physicians sometimes use disposable speculums and will often let the patient keep one if asked. CAUTION: Mucous tissue
is sensitive and it may cause yeast infections if these items burn or contain sugars or oils.

STOCKS Stocks were often used in colonial America and Europe to restrain people as part of public humiliation, discipline,
flagellation, and confinement.

Stocks or similar apparatus were also used by the Spanish conquistadors in South America to punish slaves. The victim
was put in stocks for several days, being vulnerable in many instances to rape during the night. European townspeople
often tortured the female victims of stocks to death by beatings, mutilations, burnings, and forcing feces into their
mouths and wounds.

There were several types of stocks, including those in which the person stood while their head and hands were bound,
and those where the person sat with their legs bound. Others were disk shaped, binding the person’s head and wrists in
the center, but allowing them to walk. There are modified vise-like stocks that restrain the male genitals and there are
those placed across the chest to pinch the breasts together.

STRAIGHTJACKETS Straightjackets are used in bondage play and have been patterned after those used in prisons and
mental hospitals. They are constructed of sail-cloth or coarse fabric and have strips of leather or metal. This allows a
patient or prisoner to fight and work off energy without harming anyone else. At the same time it makes them aware of
the futility in resisting authority.

Houdini thrilled crowds with his ability to escape from this symbol of power. Many suits designed for S/M have
modifications that make escape even less likely. They are available in all leather but for some this can become
uncomfortable due to the additional weight and body heat. The chance of having a partner escape from one of these is
lessened by adding straps. One also secures the bottom of the jacket by passing the strap under the crotch area. A strap is
placed on each wrist over the jacket sleeves and one is used to cinch the elbows and lower arm to the body to prevent
forward or side movement. (“Bondage Equipment—Non Rope,” by Mark, Society of Janus lecture, November 9, 1989)

SYMBOLIC BONDAGE It is easier to play bondage and discipline games with a visible symbol of restraint. Symbolic
bondage can be achieved by either loose-fitting restraints or restraints that fit on wrists and ankles but which are not
anchored. An example would be silk scarves, ties, and hosiery. These are not used in serious bondage scenes because the
knots tend to tighten and may cut off circulation. This often requires having to cut an expensive silk scarf. The Flash knot
is the only one recommended for fabric of any sort. This begins as a cow’s head knot; the rope is folded, the two sides
held together six inches below the fold, the top loop dropped down, and the two rope lengths pulled through to form a
noose. One of the sides of the noose is then given an extra twist. A hand or foot is then put through both loops and the
two ends are pulled taut. The advantage is that the knot will rarely slip tight enough to cut off a person’s circulation.

A dog collar and leash is used to symbolize bondage and submission. Another method includes having the bottom sit
without moving or having the bottom hold his or her hands together above their head with a coin between their fingers.
They are then told that the game is over if they drop any of the coins.

THREE LEGGED BLOOMERS These are found in Europe and are used to restrict or focus a person’s attention on their
partner’s genitals. They may be permitted to perform oral sex and will probably at least have their hands placed in
restraints. The fabric is either made of thin material or latex with holes punched on the sides to make it safe for
breathing. These garments resemble regular pants or panties which have been modified by a slit in the crotch. Around
this slit a hood is attached with a corresponding opening over the face. The opening is placed slightly forward in the
male’s crotch-less latex pants.

(See also BINDING, GROPING APPARATUS, KNIVES, SAFE SEX, STAPLING, SUTURING, TAPHEPHILIA and TOURNIQUET S)

BORDELLO (Brothel, Ficaro, House of Prostitution, Red light district, Whorehouse; Floating hog ranches and Flower
boats—bordellos operated from boats, Green bower—establishment used for sex but which does not supply partners) A
bordello is a structure where prostitutes conduct their business. Bordellos have been sponsored and managed by
religions, government, business investors, and by prostitutes themselves.

Bordellos gained popularity once temple priestesses were no longer available and when polygamous societies permitted
wealthy men to have private harems. Poor men had a similar although temporary arrangement at the bordellos. The cost
per visit was very reasonable in comparison to the overhead of a private harem.

The Greeks and Romans had many bordellos. They viewed them as necessary to keep men who were not sexually
satisfied in their marriages from breaking up those of others. Roman bordellos provided entertainment for clients as well
as a wide variety of sexual pleasures such as geese for avisodomy, glass floors for coprophilia, males for homosexual acts,
virgins, and infants for fellatio and coitus interfermoris.

The Chinese were infamous for their Hoa-Things, or flower boats. These varied in size, with the largest being up to eighty
feet long and fifteen feet wide. The large boats were often lavishly decorated with expensive carpets and crystal which
hung from the ceiling. One could listen to professional musicians or indulge in drugs, drink, delectable meals, and
beautiful young girls. The females were purchased from parents or a merchant while the young were trained bin much
the same way as the Japanese geisha or Yoshiwara. These girls were dressed in expensive silks and trained to enhance
their appearance with cosmetics. Like the geisha, they entertained their guests with socially polite conversation before
retiring to one of the small boats anchored to the main flower boat.

The American West had a less illustrious version of the flower boats. These were called Floating Hog Ranches. Madams, as
they travelled west with their entourage, would purchase boats and conduct business from the river while enroute.

At one time assignation houses were used by lovers for clandestine meetings. They differed from bordellos in that women
were not on staff. Men brought lovers with them. The decor and exterior were plain so as to avoid suspicion.

Bordellos became popular in the 19th century United States, both in the West where the male to female ratio was high
and in the South among slave brokers who provided out call or sleeping companion services.

The red lights used to symbolize houses of prostitution appear to have originated with the Chinese who used red silk
bamboo lamps outside their “wine houses” (bars where illegal prostitution often occurred). Chinese emigres appear to
have brought the tradition of red lights with them to California (Sex in History, by Reay Tannahill, p. 191).

Bordellos today are usually managed and owned by a madam. Often she is an experienced prostitute who brings her own
clients with her, although a list of clients may be purchased from other prostitutes or madams. A retiring California
madam in 1980 sold her list, which included a personal introduction to the buyer, for $50,000.

A madam recruits her working prostitutes from former girlfriends, street prostitutes, bored housewives, bars, and group
sex parties. Lesbians are said to do well financially because of their lack of romantic involvement with male customers.
The madam instructs her new employees in the type of sex she plans to offer her clients and in the standard of conduct
and hygiene she expects from them.

The basic protocol followed in a bordello begins with the customer selecting a partner, sometimes after a conversation
with several prostitutes. The couple then adjourns to a private room. The client may be asked if he is a police officer,
although in California entrapment is now legal and an officer may respond with a ‘no’ and arrest a woman who he
propositions; a simple smile can be construed as an affirmation on her part. (In some cases, an officer has gone to group
sex houses and engaged in sex with a woman on several occasions. Then one night he offers her money and arrests her if
she accepts or is not explicit with her refusal.) Bordello clients negotiate to determine which fantasy the prostitute is
willing to perform and for what price. Next the money is exchanged and a visual inspection of the male genitals is
conducted. If a yellow discharge, herpes, venereal warts, syphilitic lesions, scabies, or crabs are discovered the customer
will be asked to return after he is cured. (Sex workers themselves are often required to be inspected weekly by
physicians.) The customers who pass inspection either shower or are washed by the prostitute before getting onto her
bed. Kissing is not usually engaged in by prostitutes due to the feeling of intimacy it elicits, and because it spreads
diseases that can decrease the number of hours she earns money. Once the sex act is over it is possible to either
negotiate for more time, leave, or take a break and choose another partner later. Respect must be mutual. If the client is
courteous the workers are much more likely to reciprocate.

Bordellos sometimes have a menu from which a client can select. A sample menu from the Salt Wells Villa Ranch in Fallon,
Nevada offers the following:

1.Binaca blast

2.Peppermint French

3.Emotion lotion

4.Alka-seltzer

5.Movie & party

7.Doubles

8.Trip

9.Around the world

10.Bubble bath

11.Champagne party

12.Salt & pepper

13.Having fun now

14.Frenzy explorations

15.Sweet preserves

16.French sensations

17.Socrates pleasures

18.The apparatus drive

19.S&M (B&D)

20.Uninhibited free for all

21.The wind the rain the lava (The Official Guide to the Best Cat Houses in Nevada, by J.R. Schwartz, p. 46)

The selection of bordellos is limited in comparison to what could be found in the past or in other countries. Some do
specialize in things such as offering gay males, minors (illegal), the obese, podophilia, S/M, infantilism, coprophilia, and
urophilia. One bordello was recently publicized because they had their workers dressed to impersonate famous movie
stars. A bordello that cannot fill a client’s request is usually able to refer them to one that does.

(See also AUCTIONS, DUNGEONS, ESSAYEURS, GEISHAS, GROUP SEX, HAREMS, HETAERAE, ILLEGAL SEX, PIMPS,
PROFESSIONAL DOMINATRIXES, PROSTITUTES and SLAVES)

BOTTOMS (Masochist, Sex servant, Sex slave, Submissive) People who play the passive role in sex play are referred to as
bottoms. Those who orchestrate the sex games are referred to as tops. Bottoms are not always masochists because many
sex games do not involve pain or degradation. The S/M community prefers the term bottoms because it is indicative of
the broader and more diverse roles that are used for sexual pleasure.

(See also SWITCHES and TOPS)

BRADYCUBIA Bradycubia (bradyr: slow; cubare: to lie down) refers to a sex technique where the male slowly thrusts in
and out of his partner’s vagina or anus. This is usually done at the beginning of the sexual encounter.

(See also KABAZZA, SEX POSITIONS and TANTRA)

BRANDING Branding is done by burning a symbol onto a person’s skin and was used by governments, religions, and
among various tribes. The Egyptians, Greeks, Romans, French, English, and Americans used it to mark their slaves.
Government penal systems also used branding as a judicially prescribed way of identifying which crimes were committed
by an individual, thus marking him for life.

Others brand themselves for social or religious reasons. A Christian sect in Russia called the “White Doves” used a
branding iron to mutilate their genitals as a ritual in a convert’s baptism by fire. Political branding is now illegal in most
areas, but is still practiced on prisoners in some countries. One African tribe brands themselves by taking a small section
of dried plant, tying it against their skin, lighting it, and letting it burn out. This leaves a design in the desired location.

People who use consensual branding today are either involved in “modern primitive” movements or S/M. Branding is
permanent and one chooses this for similar reasons as others choose to be tattooed. People with dark skin have
traditionally used scarification and branding for marking or decorative purposes because tattooing does not provide the
needed color contrast.

The design of the brand is made of simple lines or curves. The brand can not have closed circles, triangles or squares
because this will cause the skin in the middle to react and perhaps fall off. The width of the brand lines expand to four
times that of the original burn, therefore, thin lines are always used. A pattern of small brands are often repeated for any
desired distance. A popular brand is that of arrow heads: <<<>>>.

People select flat locations such as the chest, back, thighs, calves, stomach, buttocks, or shoulders.

Chosen designs often have life-long meaning to the person. People who have been branded with their partner’s initials
and later split up found that the brand was at the very least an embarrassment. The brand is more prone to resentment
by a new partner than a tattoo because the brand is often done by the former lover and can symbolize ownership.

The burn takes 2-6 weeks to heal, depending on the size, depth, and natural ability of the person’s body to heal. The skin
may also shrink as it heals and this is allowed for in the design and placement of the brand. If a person’s scars normally
tend to darken, they wear a sun block on the area for six months.

There is one professional piercing studio in San Francisco which recently began offering branding to its clientele. CAUTION
: This activity causes unnecessary scarring and possible infection if the correct procedures are not followed. (“Branding
and Burning”, QSM lecture by Fakir Musafar, November 18, 1989)

(See also BODY PAINTING, CICATRIZATION, FAKIR MUSAFAR, PENIS MODIFICATION, PYROPHILIA, RINGING, SAFE SEX,
SLAVES and TATTOOING)

BREAST SHAPING Women have sought to alter the shape of their breasts for several thousand years. The women of
Africa’s Nandi tribe wore two wire plate-shaped disks around their neck, hanging just low enough to press against the top
of their breasts. Over time these would flatten their breasts so that they hung like pancakes against their body. Flat
breasts were symbols of motherhood and were much more respected among the tribe than full round breasts. Most
other cultures preferred augmentation.

AUGMENTATION Breast augmentation, artificially enlarging the size of breasts, has been done throughout history. The
priestesses of Aphrodite wore breast shields made of wood and inlaid with jewels to enhance their form. Women
continued utilizing different types of padded bras until recently when surgeons have made it possible to increase the size
and improve the shape of their breasts with silicone implants. Implants are only recommended for women who need
breast reconstruction after a mastectomy.

One study has emphasized the importance of immediate reconstructive breast surgery in these cases. “Patients who had
reconstructive breast surgery at the time of mastectomy (immediate) or within 1 year (early) had significantly less
recalled distress about their mastectomy than those who had it more than 1 year later (delayed)...The wish to wear a
wider range of clothes and the wish to be rid of the external prosthesis were common motivations for reconstructive
surgery. The desire to improve sexual relations or one’s marital state was less common and should be viewed with
caution when presented as the primary motivation for this procedure” (“The Sooner the Better: A Study of Psychological
Factors in Women Undergoing Immediate Versus Delayed Breast Reconstruction,” Wendy S. Schain, Ed.D., David K.
Wellisch, Ph.D., Robert O. Pasnau, M.D., and John Landsverk, Ph.D., American Journal of Psychiatry 142:1, January 1985,
pp. 40-46).

Those whose self esteem has seriously been impaired by having small breasts and topless dancers who use augmentation
for professional reasons risked accidental severing of nerve endings during surgery. These nerves make it possible to
detect light pressure, deep pressure, pain, cold, and heat and a person can lose any or all of these sensations with nerve
damage. Partners of women with augmentations should be aware that she may only be able to feel one or two of the
normal sensations and may want to adjust their tactile stimulation accordingly.

Silicone implants are a recent medical development and there remains concern as to whether possible leakage from the
silicone bag could damage healthy tissue. Many women have needed secondary surgery due to a build up of scar tissue or
silicone leakage years later. More important, there is also concern that one type of implant may increase the risk of
cancer.

A woman having augmentation surgery has it performed under a local or general anesthesia by a plastic surgeon. The
woman is allowed to select the size of the silicone implants she desires within the constraints determined by the current
size and elasticity of her breasts. A woman who begins with a natural bust size of 32A cannot become a 40D. Rather she
will end up with about a 32B or 32C bust.

The normal surgical procedure is done by cutting a two to three inch incision underneath the bottom outside edge of
each breast or under each armpit (some will cut around the areola). The surgeon then separates the frontal breast tissue
from the ribs and pushes the silicone sack inside and then stitches closed the incision.

There is a period after surgery when the woman will not be permitted to raise her arms or lift any heavy objects. This is
followed by a period of time where the breasts have to be massaged to prevent scar tissue from forming and distorting
the natural shape of the breasts.

Silicone implants are used by some transsexuals who are not happy with the size of their breasts after hormone therapy
and some transvestites elect to only have the breast augmentation performed without taking hormone therapy.
CAUTION: The United States FDA, concerned with possible carcinogenic effects, have recently restricted breast implants
to only those females in need of reconstructive surgery following a mastectomy.

REDUCTION Woman of all ages have breast reduction surgery. Large breasts create aesthetic problems, tissue damage
where the bra straps rub, back pain, bad posture, and inability to participate in many sports. Reduction can also be used
to correct natural sagging as the woman grows older.

Breast reduction is more complicated than augmentation and always requires general anesthesia and a short hospital
stay. In 1989 the cost ranged from $10,000 to $15,000. The surgeon reshapes the entire breast by making several
incisions, usually six for each breast, and enough tissue is removed to reduce the size of the breast. Many woman need to
have the areola relocated and made smaller so that it remains in proportion to the rest of the breast. To accomplish this
some surgeons use a device resembling a cookie cutter on the areola. This ensures correct roundness. So far no woman is
known to have requested any alternative shape for the areola.

(See also PENIS MODIFICATION)

BREASTS See BINDING, BREAST SHAPING, COITUS A MAMMILLA and LACTIPHILIA

BULL FIGHTING The bull fight is a surviving remnant of ancient fertility rituals and of Roman games.

The conquest and slaughter of a wild beast by a human is prehistoric and documented by early cave drawings. Religions
celebrated the mating of animals, germination of crops, slaughter of an animal, and anything else that meant production
of food; thereby ensuring the survival of their tribe. Many tribal rituals have required that a boy kill an animal as part of
entry into manhood. The American Indians had to kill a buffalo, bear, or other feared animal. The Roman and Cretan
fertility rituals or orgies of Dionysus may have had similar roots. People also practiced phallomancy, fortune telling by
reading a bull’s penis.

The Moors brought bull fighting to Spain during the 8th century. The muleta (red cloth supported by a stick) was not
introduced until the 17th century; before that men used an animal skin on their backs as camouflage and protection. As
time progressed the bull was killed by a nobleman on horseback. The bull was often baited by dogs, pikes, knives, and the
cape.

The people of Rome used the fights and death of animal or man as an emotional stimulus. For many, this meant sexual
arousal and orgasm in the stadium during the performance. Today bull fights offer the only legal arena in which to watch
the violent death and mutilation of man, bull, and horse. (Death in the Afternoon by Ernest Hemingway)

(Refer also to EXECUTIONS, PHOBOPHILIA, and VICARIOUS AROUSAL)

BUNDLING (Shunammitism, Lectamia —caressing in bed without coitus) Bundling refers to the practice of a dating couple
sleeping together fully clothed, sometimes separated by a board. This was an ancient Nordic practice that competed with
the Christian tradition of bridal virginity. It provided for the need teenagers had to experience recreational sex before
they committed to establishing a family. The general custom was for the couple not to become married until the woman
became pregnant. This custom stems from farming and fishing cultures that were more egalitarian. Women were viewed
as important to the survival of the social system and family unit just as were the men. Both were expected to enjoy sexual
freedom before marriage. The male ownership philosophy did not exist, therefore no judgments were made of women
who chose their own sex partners. A Christian compromise of this original tradition was the practice whereby two or
more people slept together, nude or clothed, for the purpose of exchanging sexual energy. As a general rule it did not
include penetration of any sort and, to ensure this, some mothers tied their daughter’s legs together. Certain cultures
were allowed to engage in penetration if orgasm did not occur.

Bundling was also used by some for health purposes. This is the reason King David and other older men hired virgins to
sleep beside them when they were tired or ill. Catholic monks engaged in this practice from about 400 to 1500 C.E.

Ramsdale and Dorman, in Sexual Energy Ecstasy, describe bundling during the 18th century:

Young knights offered “courtly love” to women who were not only married but wedded to a nobleman or other male
power figure. This was known as a donnoi relationship. Again history is vague as to the details, but in addition to sleeping
together in the nude, nude caresses, nude embraces and ravishing the naked noble-woman’s body for hours with eyes, the
young knights may have also practiced coitus reservatus on occasion or even frequently... According to their own reports,
these relationships fired their imaginations and lifted their psyches to planes of feeling much higher than ordinary sexual
relations usually did. In fact, the knight’s “courtly love” relationship is probably the predecessor of our contemporary
romantic love ideal.

This romance also seems to be reached in affairs when the two parties refrain from consummating the union.

Bundling fills a basic physical and psychological need to be held or touched. Studies have shown that orphaned infants
who were held did much better than those left alone in nurseries, the latter suffering from autism and in some cases
death. All humans function better with a proper amount of intimacy, nurturing, and touch from others. Even a sincere
smile or acknowledgement from another person can make people feel better.

(See also MARRIAGE, TOUCH and TROUBADOURS)

BURNING See BRANDING and PYROPHILIA

BUTT PLUGS See GENITAL/ANAL INSERTS

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CANDAULISM Candaulism refers to a group of three people where only two of them engage in sex and the other
watches, sometimes from a closet. In early 20th century France, men would take their wives to brothels to watch special
stage shows where a cast of prostitutes acted out a performance. Females playing the roles of men wore “artificial phalli.”
Afterward men would persuade their wives to have sex with another male customer while they watched. Those who
didn’t have obliging mates would often resort to befriending a gentleman and offering to pay for a prostitute of his
choosing, in exchange for being permitted to watch.

At the beginning of the century people considered the viewing of explicit films to be similar to that of engaging in orgies.
Men who watched films of couples engaging in sex were dubbed perverts; while curiously the young women who
venturedinto these theaters were merely said to have been out for a ‘thrill.’

Swing clubs often have several men who enjoy watching their wives with other men. One man was extreme in that he
was actually incapable of having sex with any woman unless he had first seen her be penetrated. A swing house in
southern California once had benches around the group room until some of the women complained to the owner that
they didn’t like the men watching them perform. The owner kindly removed the benches and soon found that he lost
most of his guests. It seems that many of the men were only interested in coming to a group sex house if they could
watch their wives. The benches were reinstalled. These same men were said to get extremely excited if they saw their
wife being propositioned by a regular guest, who happened to be black and very well endowed; this seemed to be the
ultimate experience for the husbands. (Personal communication, 1990.)

(See also GANG BANGS, GROUP SEX, MENAGE À TROIS, ORGIES and TROILISM)

CANNIBALISM See ANTHROPOPHAGY

CASTRATION (Ablation, Emasculate, Evirate, Geld; Atestus—testes, Ederacinism—tear out sex organs by the roots,
Penectomy—penis only, Shave—penis and testicles)

Castration is defined as the removal of the testicles, scrotum, penis, clitoris, or ovaries. Castration, both consensual and
nonconsensual, has been used throughout history for political, religious, economic, medical, and sexual reasons.

The most feared form of castration among men is the complete removal of both the penis and testicles. Charles Panati, in
his book Panati’s Extra-ordinary Endings of Practically Everything and Everybody, describes the ancient surgical
procedure for this type of castration. It began by placing the victim on a table, immobilizing him, tying a cord around his
penis and scrotum that cut off the circulation, slicing the genitals off with a razor, and cauterizing the open wound with a
hot poker. The victim was not allowed to eat or drink for several days and then was given water so that the urine flow
would open the urethral passage. Only about 20% survived this surgery. Other methods were similar, except the slave
was given alcohol and a hot bath to decrease the pain. After the penis and testicles were tied off and severed, alum and
antiseptics were applied. A feather quill was then inserted into the urethra to prevent its healing shut. Those undergoing
this procedure had a 40% survival rate. Castration may also be a tragic result of battle. The Romans in about the third
century used a bronze castration clamp. “The penis was drawn through the oval ring to keep it out of harm’s way, while
the scrotum and testes were pulled through between the arms of the clamp, so that when everything was locked in
position the serrated edges gripped the folds of the skin joining the scrotum to the body. It took only a single stroke of the
knife to cut away scrotum and testes, and the cut edges were then either sewn up or cauterized” (Sex in History by Reay
Tannahill, p. 251—cited from Transactions of the Royal Society of Medicine (January 1926) by Alfred G. Francis).

Soldiers in World War I sometimes suffered gun shot wounds in the genital region. The slang term for this injury was
D.S.O. (dick shot off). One California policeman discovered during riots that militant men dropped their weapons much
faster if he pointed his gun at their genitals rather than their head. (Personal communication, 1985.)

The effect of testicle castration on a prepubescent male is weight gain, increase in height and length of limbs, reduction
of body hair, and retention of prepubescent voice and demeanor. The testicles produce the largest amount of
testosterone, the male hormone, with the adrenal gland producing the second highest level. Historically short men were
assumed to have increased sex drives because additional height was associated with the castrated eunuchs.

Castration due to disease or trauma to the testicles after pubescence may produce a decrease in mental acuity, physical
vitality, aggressiveness, desire for social interaction, appetite, and sex drive. The effects can take several years to develop
or may not at all if the adrenal gland functions properly. If side effects do occur a hormone replacement therapy is
required to keep the prostate gland functioning. Many men who have only had their testicles removed lead an active sex
life. The orgasms may feel different and be more difficult to achieve, but they are not impossible. This applies to men who
have undergone penectomies as well. As long as the prostrate remains intact for tactile stimulation an orgasm is
theoretically possible.

PROFESSIONAL EUNUCHS Castrati were popular in the 18th century. They were used in choirs for the church and as
actors in plays that didn’t yet permit females. Their voices remained prepubescent but grew in strength, creating unique
and highly prized sopranos.

The eunuch castrated before puberty was preferred by some men for use as guards due to their additional height, low sex
drive, and submissive behavior.

Eunuchs, castrated after pubescence, were occasionally used to sexually satisfy their shiek’s wives due to their inability to
father children. These men needed prolonged stimulation before they could orgasm, therefore they were able to satisfy
many women. Intruders who sneaked into harems were at great personal risk. While sex with a eunuch chosen by the
master was permissible, a stranger was not tolerated. Many of these uninvited guests soon found that wives and
concubines would sadistically attempt to tear off their testicles during sex.

MEDICAL Romans and Greeks as early as the 5th century B.C.E. performed castration on young boys (probably those with
partially descending testicles) to prevent the occurrence of hernias later in life. The French used castration to cure
rheumatism, leprosy, and gout. Earlier this century castration was routinely done in the United States on the insane and
epileptics. In discussing the value of this procedure one physician in Havelock Ellis’ book, Studies in the Psychology of Sex,
states:

It is often forgotten that the physical and psychic qualities associated with and largely dependent on the ability to
experience the impulse of detumescence, while essential to the perfect man, involve many egoistic, aggressive and
acquisitive characteristics which are of little intellectual value, and at the same time inimical to many moral virtues (Vol. II,
I, p. 184, 1936).

In other words,this physician believes the mentally, or physically, handicapped should not be permitted the same
pleasure the ‘perfect’ man derives from erection and masturbation because it embarrasses, threatens, and offends their
prudish caretakers. Castration also slows the patient’s mental, sexual, and physical capacities; making control easier for
their wards. Other physicians recommended castration for homosexuals, alcoholics, Jews, and others, considering them
to be social misfits. Castration is done today for health reasons due to disease, such as cancer of the prostate,
unrepairable traumatic injury to the genitals, and as part of the surgical procedure for either hermaphrodite or
transsexual conciliation.
Human and ram testicle implants were used for experimentations at San Quentin prison beginning in 1918 by Leo L.
Stanley, M.D. and his associates. They performed over 600 implants and injections of testicle tissue, uncovering much of
what we know today about the effects of testosterone. The prison was an excellent field for research. The doctors were in
a position to use the testicles of executed and unclaimed prisoners (about 3 a year) and to procure willing volunteers
from the prison inmates. This research ended when the government restricted the use of humans for unsafe medical
experiments.

POLITICAL A few states in the 18th century permitted castration of black slaves for raping white women. However, most
suspected of this crime were hanged.

Use of castration was again advocated by some physicians in the early 20th century for rape, sodomy, zoophilia,
pederasty, and even habitual masturbation. Castration was used for a short time as a punishment for sex offenders but it
was soon discovered that when done nonconsensually it caused an already emotionally unbalanced person to develop
even more anti-social and criminal activities (Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Vol. II, III, pp. 612-4).

PSEUDOCASTRATION Pseudo or mock castration is often used in S/M play due to its being one of the greatest of men’s
fears. Pseudocastration is done with verbal threats or different types of modified and consensual genital torture. It is used
in fantasy play to reinforce cross-gender play, male rape, or humiliation scenes. It may also be done symbolically with
instruments, piercing, stretching, restraints, a modified chain saw, biting, or sucking. Some men consider anal penetration
to be demasculinizing and therefore a form of castration. Prior consent is obtained before attempting any type of anal
penetration. Men react in various ways when faced with anal sex; they can feel indifferent, lose an erection, become
emotionally traumatized, feel liberated, assume their partner is immoral, or become extremely aroused. If this is his first
experience he may not know how he will react himself until it’s too late.

PSYCHOLOGICAL Psychological castration occurs when one becomes convinced that they lack sexual desirability or the
social criteria that determines one’s feminine or masculine identity. This is often imposed on someone else, as the term
“castrating bitch” implies.

RELIGIOUS Castration was at one time believed to have been performed as a religious ceremony on young boys. The
extracted genitals were then sacrificed on an altar to the gods. Sacrifice may have had the added benefit of supplying the
upper classes with docile non-militant servants. Religious castration among Christians is usually symbolic and is
accomplished through a vow of chastity. However, an early monk named Origen had himself castrated to prove his
commitment to celibacy and to provide an example of pure chastity for others.

SEXUAL AROUSAL Some women seemed to enjoy watching the castration of men as a means of sexual arousal. Emperor
Justinian’s wife, Theodora, was reported to enjoy masturbation while watching men being castrated. A prostitute from
Kabul, Afghanistan had her lovers seized and castrated after coitus.

The Roman emperor, Nero, had a lover castrated so he could pass as a female. The two had an elaborate wedding
ceremony and Nero presented Sporus, his new bride, with a dowry and a wardrobe of feminine apparel.

Castration is common during anthropophagy and mutilation murders. The genitals of the victim are eroticized in different
ways. One person may want to consume genitals they consider sexually stimulating, while others only want to remove or
discard the part of the anatomy they consider evil, immoral, and responsible for either their own unrighteous lust or that
of the victims, particularly in the case of prostitutes. Insects also engage in castration of lovers. Hy Freedman in his book
Sex Link tells of the following two examples of castration during the mating processes of insects. A new queen bee leaving
the hive to start one of her own will be followed by 200 males. While in flight one will mount her, copulate, fall to the
ground, and bleed to death. His severed penis now acts as a plug to hold in the sperm which will fertilize 2 million eggs
over the next 5 years. The rest of the male bees return to their hive where, no longer serving any purpose, they soon
starve to death. In a different type of ritual, the female bristle worm, after watching a courtship dance, will bite off her
partner’s genitals, and swallow the enclosed sperm. This fertilizes her eggs as the sperm passes through her digestive
tract.

(See CIRCUMCISION, CLITORIDECTOMY, EUNUCHS, PENIS MODIFICATION, STAPLING, SUTURING and TESTICLES)

CAT FIGHTING Cat Fighting is a fight between two women without rules. They scratch, bite, gouge, pull hair, and rip
clothing. Cat fights appeal to men who hope to catch a glimpse of forbidden flesh as fighters tear clothing. Fighting also
provides vicarious thrills similar to when one watches professional male boxers and wrestlers. However, the difference
between them is that men do not want to see serious injury or nose bleeds on the women. They want the abuse to be
verbal, preferably squabbling over a man or undergarments and the physical violence restricted to ripping clothes or
pulling hair. A description of a cat fight was given by a female participant in an adult newspaper, Fetish Times (No. 191):

Some people say I’m a bossy dom but the way I see it is I just don’t like to be pushed around. When my roomie took my
best black bra without asking for it I blew my stack. Ripping it off her tits I gave her a hard slap across the face. She
grabbed my hair and yanked and the fight was on. Tripping her with my foot I dived on top of her and got her in a tight
wrestling hold. Just as I thought she was beaten the little bitch slipped free and smacked my ass. Rolling over to protect
myself I let myself open for a shiner. Seeing stars I grabbed out blindly and grabbed her by the pussy hairs. She screamed
and I pulled. Then I caught ...

Cat fights between saloon girls and even the leading lady seemed to be more common in western movies before the
1980s. Today mail order video tapes are available of cat fights, female boxers, and males and females engaged in hand to
hand combat. Live performances are also staged for gamblers in the United States. The women and their sponsors travel
to different locations setting up events that are evidently similar to that of a cock fight (both being illegal). (Personal
communication.) Mud wrestling is a similar sport that became popular in the 1970s.

(See also ABDUCTION, DEFILEMENT, INTERROGATION, PHOBOPHILIA, QUEENING and WRESTLING)

CATAMITES (Bardajes, Pathicus) Catamites were boys that were used as personal lovers for older men. An example in
mythology was that of Zeus taking Ganymede as his lover and appointing him water bearer in his court. The early Greeks
followed Zeus’ example and boys often left home with their parents’ permission to be a companion for an older man. The
man took great care in seeing that he received an education, relieving the parents of this financial obligation.

The Mayas had a custom where a young man’s parents would provide him with a slave boy to be used for sex. He was
forbidden to select his own or to have sex with women until he was married. This strategy was designed to protect other
men’s wives from overly anxious young males (Sex in History by Reay Tannahill, p. 290).

(See also GAYS, HETAERAE and PEDOPHILIA)

 
CATHETERS (Catheterophilia—arousal from catheters) Catheterization has been practiced for at least 4,000 years. Ivory
and jade catheters have been found in ancient Chinese tombs and ritualistic catheterization scenes decorate Mayan
pottery.

Today catheters are used in sex play as a symbol of total control over a partner. This type of sex play is similar to the
catheterization found in health care facilities. The sterilized catheter is inserted up through the urethra and into the
bladder which allows the flow of the urine to be controlled by the dominant partner. The stimulation seems to trigger the
brain’s pleasure center that ordinarily responds to urination or ejaculation.

Catheters are available in different styles. A Foley has a blow up bulb at one end which allows it to stay inside the bladder
without having to be held in place. The Robinson has a straight tip on both ends and has to be held in by hand or taped at
the end to the submissive’s genitals. The tip of the catheter is sometimes clamped to prevent urine from dripping out.

The instruments used for catheterization are also sterilized. If the catheter is used again by the same person it can be
washed in soap and water and then boiled for 30 minutes. The partner is prepared by washing the genitals with soap and
water and rubbing with Betadine. Sterile surgical latex gloves are used to insert or spread a water based lubricant,
Surgilube, onto the catheter. Most people purchase small tubes or bottles of lubricant to prevent contamination. If the
bottle has been used before they squeeze out and dispose of the first small portion, then they squeeze the amount
needed onto a sterile surface and roll the catheter in it. Dipping fingers into the jar of lubricant contaminates the whole
jar. The top next inserts the lubricated catheter into the partner’s urethra. The partner feels like they want to urinate or
orgasm as the catheter passes through the canal. If the catheter does not insert easily, it is not forced but is instead
removed. If there are no obstructions the procedure is continued until the tip reaches the sphincter of the bladder. The
tip is never forced in, but rather held in position with slight pressure until the sphincter opens on its own. At this point
urine will flow out the end of the tube. Those using the Foley will push the catheter an additional three inches and then
inflate the tip by injecting about 5-10 ccs of sterile water or sterile saline solution. The amount of liquid injected is
measured to guarantee release of that same amount before they withdraw the catheter. Some men are able to ejaculate
while urine flows through the tube. Their semen passes between the catheter and the wall of the urethra. This practice is
not considered safe because if there is not adequate space left in the urethra the violent force of the semen at ejaculation
is thought to increase the risk of internal injury. The amount of urine drained from a bladder is also measured for safety.
There is danger of potential complications if the bladder is forced to hold over 1,000 ccs or one quart. Likewise, a person
who starts with a full bladder is not made to hold it for very long. Catheters, after deflation, are removed by simply letting
them slide out. The urethra is often sore and burns for 1/2 an hour afterward. (Society of Janus lecture on “Water
Sports,” dated June 8, 1989 and “You are going to put a what up my what??” Dungeon Master, by La Farge, pp. 17-20)

There is a type of noninvasive catheter available that is called either a Texas catheter or an External Male Catheter. These
resemble a thick condom with a large reservoir tip that has a nozzle to facilitate the attachment of a tube. People use
these to control a partner’s urine flow without having to go through the ordeal involved with sterilization procedures.

A national club exists for people who share an interest in catheterization. CAUTION : This type of play is potentially
dangerous and is usually done by people who work in the medical profession. Even nurses have been known to accidently
injure hospital patients. Not everyone can be catheterized, since some people have scar tissue or strictures on the sides of
their urethra which can tear if a catheter is forced past them. Most people begin with the smallest sized catheter
available. Symptoms of possible damage to the urethra are a change in frequency of urination, the color of urine (orange
or brown), or the presence of pus. If strict sterile technique is not followed, there exists a significant chance of bladder
infection, kidney infection, sepsis, kidney failure, or death.

(See also BONDAGE, COCKTAILS, GENITAL /ANAL INSERTS, KLISMAPHILIA, MEATOTOMY, PHALLOPHILIA, RINGING,
SCROTAL INFUSION, SHOWERS and SOUNDING)

CELIBACY (Abstinence, Aphallatia, Chastity; Agenobiosis—couple who lives together without sex, Asceticism—religious
self-denial, Lagnocolysis—inhibition of sex urge)

Celibacy refers to sexual abstinence or the state of not being married. Celibacy is encouraged by various institutions,
governments, and religions for different reasons.

At one time celibacy was the only recourse for women who chose not to submit to a marriage that would place them in
servitude to a man. Others, out of necessity, used celibacy to protect their reputations. Conversely, those in arranged
marriages took advantage of the pious admonitions of the Church by using it as an excuse not to have sex with their
spouse (agenobiosis). Many people chose to remain celibate during the absence of their lovers. Others chose it out of fear
or hate from having been sexually or emotionally abused. And many were forced into celibacy due to a lack of available
partners. This was true for early male Chinese immigrants in California.

Government has imposed celibacy on people throughout history as a method to control population, disease, and for
economic reasons. The U.S. military in World War I, prodded by moral reformers and concerned over potential loss of
manpower due to venereal disease, encouraged the celibacy of their troops by using propaganda which portrayed
sexually responsive women as spies, prostitutes, and disease carriers. Military police were stationed in areas where local
women and prostitutes frequented. Sexually active women came to be viewed as prostitutes with many being arrested en
masse. Ironically, those who were less permissive were often viewed by the men as the spoils of war. None of these
attitudes created respect for women and their sexuality in a soldier’s mind.

Religious homosexuals who have wanted to remain in a favorable standing with their church have chosen celibacy.

Abstinence can be seen as character building. However, it can also be seen as sexual repression with definite negative
consequences. The occupants of convents and monasteries were known for their sadistic propensity and, like the
accusers during the European and Salem witch hunts, reveled in the sexual expose’s of others’ deviances. Religious
celibacy also serves the purpose of focusing the follower’s attention on a god, looking only to Him for love and approval.
This may bond a person to the church but at the same time destroys any chance they have of learning to look to each
other for nurturance, support, and unconditional acceptance. Not everyone accepted the Church’s stance on celibacy. In
1061 a number of Lombard bishops and nobles organized a rebellion, marched on Rome, captured it, and appointed
Cadalus, Bishop of Parma, as Antipope, naming him Honorius II. This revolt ended two years later due to internal politics.

Eighteenth century Shakers practiced celibacy in communal groups. This religion gained popularity during a time when
there was no social welfare. Many followers joined for financial assistance, health care, or companionship needs. The
Shakers imposed many social restrictions on themselves to avoid erotic stimulation. The members were not allowed to
have pets because these might mate in front of them, nor were they allowed to touch, speak, or walk with someone of
the opposite sex. Members were permitted only one covert sexual release, that of frantic ritual dancing which led some
into an altered state orgasm.

There are many others who practiced celibacy in order to experience altered states. St. Augustine and St. Thomas
Aquinas, early men who formed the doctrines of the Catholic church, were influenced by this method rather than by
flagellation. St. Augustine was also a major instigator in transforming sex from something sacred to something sinful. The
Victorians and their views on sex were influenced, not by religion, but by the medical scare of the 18th and 19th
centuries. The physicians of this time taught that the loss of semen caused a wasting away of all the vital energies to the
point of insanity and death. Therefore, the only justifiable and necessary type of orgasm was that done to propagate the
species. This meant that any type of sex other than penis/vagina was viewed as unhealthy. Claude-Francois Lallemand, in
1939, published a book that cited a report from the Massachusetts State Lunatic Hospital which showed that out of 407
patients 55 had become insane due to excessive masturbation. In the early 1900s certain writings of the medical
profession claimed that fellatio and cunnilingus could cause cancer and anal coitus would have a worse consequence.
Masturbation was considered more dangerous than homosexual coitus because of the frequency in which a solitary
person could indulge.
Two famous celibates and anti-orgasm advocates during this time were Sylvester Graham and John Kellogg. It was their
belief that spicy foods could excite the sex centers and this led them to invent the then-tasteless crackers and cereal.
Their successors later added sugar to increase sales.

Celibacy is no longer considered a medical prophylactic or cure-all. However, it is still sometimes recommended for
psychological reasons. The 12-Step Program support group called Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous recommends it as a
necessary process to recognize and control an ‘addiction’ to sex. Mystics use abstinence to reach altered states of
consciousness and Witches, yoga masters, and religious leaders use celibacy to maintain a high level of concentration on
a desired thought or activity.

There is no documentation on the long term physical effects of total abstinence but one might be concerned about
atrophy of the pubococcygeus muscles, which serve to control the spasms during orgasm. There is some concern whether
it is possible for a woman to orgasm after ten or twenty years of not using this muscle properly.

(See also CASTRATION, CHASTITY DEVICES, CHOREOPHILIA, EUNUCHS, INFIBULATION, ST. AUGUSTINE, SUPPORT GROUPS
and VICTORIANISM)

CHAPERONS Chaperons were popular in the 19th century. It was their responsibility to protect and supervise the
behavior of young women, couples, or groups. Most often it was the young woman’s mother, aunt, or a paid matron of
respectability. In addition to guarding the maiden’s virtue, the chaperon might also investigate young men as to their
character, intentions, and wealth. Once satisfied with the findings she would arrange a formal introduction to the young
lady. If either person found the other unsuitable during the evening it was socially acceptable to return to the chaperon
and part company on friendly terms.

Most chaperons performed their duties admirably but there were those who couldn’t hold their liquor at parties or who
fell into lascivious conduct themselves.

The young wards soon learned evasive strategic maneuvers. Couples would go sailing hoping that the chaperon would
spend more time hanging over the stern than watching them. They also rollerskated through park paths and walked
briskly up hills trying to wind the older matron. Then came the invention that propelled ladies into lasting freedom; the
bicycle. Corsets and petticoats which had created the frail feminine image soon became a burden and were discarded for
all but formal wear.

Today we still see mothers chaperon their daughters in small towns in Central and South America. Town parks sometimes
have benches around the edge facing outward toward the streets. Here the parents sit and talk as their teenagers
socialize inside the park. In a small coastal town in the Mexican state of Sonora mothers take their daughters to what
appears to be a modern disco. They then line up outside along a four foot high wall in the front that looks through a large
window. Above this wall one can see the heads of a dozen five foot tall mothers who resemble solemn nuns in their black
head scarves and dresses as they watch to make sure their daughters conduct themselves appropriately.

Women of all ages in Moslem countries are required to have chaperons. Many other European and Middle Eastern
countries also expect a lady to be accompanied if she ventures out in the evening, the exception of course being for
prostitutes. Female tourists can save themselves embarrassing moments by inquiring about local customs when traveling
abroad.

(See also COURTSHIP)

CHARMS (Good luck pieces, Talisman) Charms refer to chants, objects, or gestures that are believed to have magical
powers. Belief in charms has been commonplace throughout man’s history. The advent of science seems to have freed
many people from their former reliance on superstitions, magic, and charms. Yet many people still consider certain items
lucky.

Charms were used to increase fertility, improve virility, ensure the attraction or fidelity of a partner, determine the sex of
a child, to ease childbirth, or to break spells. Female genitals were also believed to hold great powers. A woman could
break evil spells or control weather by simply exposing them. It was at one time common for Roman women to wear
amulets of genitals around their neck and for them to be found on the entrances of many temples. These later came to
resemble a ring or open circle. The upside down horseshoe found above doors for good luck is a surviving remnant of this
tradition. Some lesbians use this above their doors as a sign of their sexual preference.

Ancient Romans used amulets of penises or symbols of both sexes to ward off the evil eye. The current gesture of “giving
someone the finger” is a remnant of that early custom. Many Roman homes had phallic replicas above their doors with an
inscription underneath that read “Hic habitat fehcitas—Happiness dwells here.” Others used figures of a satyr or the
phallus alone in their gardens to protect their crops. The middle finger was also used by Roman gays as an invitation to
others as well as by men in battle as a signal of surrender. The Roman emperor Caligula was known for making this sign
with his hand as he stretched it out for subjects to kiss. The Trobriander men believed that those who possessed a
“charmed finger” could seduce women by inserting it into their vaginas.

It was also thought that one could increase one’s virility by wearing the right testicle of a donkey on a bracelet or holding
seeds that resembled testicles in one’s hand during sex. Chinese eunuchs, hoping for regeneration of their lost sexual
organs, would eat the warm brains of newly decapitated criminals (The Illustrated Book of Sexual Records, by G.L.
Simons, p. 26).

(See also APHRODISIACS, FERTILITY RITES, LOVE POTIONS, PHALLOPHILIA and RELICS)

CHASTITY DEVICES (Day belts, Florentine Girdle, Girdle of Venus; Fibula—stitching of skin, Vertugadin—wire—looped
skirt) Chastity belts are similar to a jock strap that is worn around the waist to prevent a person from having intercourse.
The chastity belt designed for women makes it impossible for a male lover to insert an erect penis into the vagina or anus.
The male chastity belt has either a small hole or metal guards in the front to prevent the pulling of an erect penis through
the device. These belts are more common in Europe than in the United States.

Homer’s Odyssey, in which Hephaistos forged a girdle to ensure the fidelity of Venus after she had an affair with his
brother, may be the source of chastity belts during the 16th century. Two nuns that were known for wearing chastity
belts and other forms of self mortification were canonized as St. Rose and St. Marina. Older styles of chastity belts
evolved into the 19th century “Day Belts” that were used on young girls by their mothers as insurance of the former’s
virtue during unchaperoned day excursions. Husbands, often with the wive’s blessings, locked their wives in a chastity
belt when traveling through dangerous territory or when their area was invaded by soldiers as a protection against rape.
The belts were not designed for long term wear.

Women in several cultures, including Borneo, kept their husbands chaste during trips away from home by inserting a
large (4” diameter) penis ring through the husband’s penile piercing. This stayed welded together until he returned home
(Modern Primitives, by V. Vale and A. Juno, p. 20). These were also used on Roman slaves. The holy men of the
Mussulman sect in Africa wore these rings as a symbol of their chastity and were honored by women who would kiss the
ring in worship.

Later years brought changes to the chastity device concept. The Spanish and French used wide crinoline skirts that were
reinforced with whalebone. The name “vertugadin” (virtue guard) suggested that its purpose was primarily one of
protecting virtue, rather than only being a current fashion.

Parents during the Victorian era devised a cage, some with spikes, that fit and locked around the penis of their sons to
prevent masturbation. This was during a time that wasted semen was believed to cause poor health and possible insanity.
Boys who showed intellectual promise particularly had to be dissuaded from this dangerous practice (History of Sexual
Customs, p. 20).

Belts may be ornamental or symbolic. They are sometimes used in fantasy play and available with attachable vibrators
and dildoes. Spare keys are kept for all locking belts as a safety precaution. Like all types of sexual activity, the decision to
wear a chastity device is consensual and never imposed on a partner.

(See also BONDAGE, CASTRATION, CELIBACY, EUNUCHS, INFIBULATION, RINGING, STAPLING and SUTURING)

CHEMISE CAGOULE A chemise cagoule (cagoule: separate and combine) was a heavy night shirt used by Catholic men
during the Middle Ages. It ensured that they would not derive any unnecessary tactile pleasure while impregnating their
wife. The chemise had a hole cut in the front to allow the erect penis access to the vagina. There were also additional
regulations as to the position a couple might use to avoid other sinful stimulation (The Mysteries of Sex, by C.J.S.
Thompson).

(See also CHASTITY DEVICES, GLORY HOLES, ENDYTOPHILIA, NORMOPHILIA, ST. AUGUSTINE, SEX POSITIONS and
VICTORIANISM)

CHEVALIER D’EON Chevalier d’Eon or d‘Eon de Beaumont was one of the first controversial cross dressers in Europe and
the person from whom the phrase Eonism was coined. He lived from 1728 to 1810 in France and during this time no one
was positive of his true sex. His father held a prominent position in government and d’Eon was educated in law and
received his post upon graduation. He became skilled in fencing and was appointed by King Louis XV to carry out special
missions such as a trip to Russia in the guise of a female. Later, he was appointed as an envoy to England and after
confiscating secret documents that indicated Louis XV’s plan to invade England, he was pursued by both the French and
the English. D‘Eon once again dressed as a woman to escape detection. King Louis finally prevailed upon d’Eon to
relinquish some of the secret documents in exchange for financial compensation and a political position. He once again
found himself in good standing with the upper echelon of society. However, his cross dressing escapades began to cause a
stir. His friends began waging bets on his true sex and although he denied being female, the gossip continued. A reputable
envoy of the French government came to believe the story and told the King and his court that d‘Eon was female and had
disguised himself as male when in France. The King was shocked but believed his source. Upon the King’s death d’Eon
asked permission to return to his homeland and after some negotiation he was permitted only if he lived out his life
dressed in female attire, as befitting his sex. D‘Eon, having been unsuccessful at convincing people otherwise, resigned
himself to this fate and returned to France. Marie Antoinette soon took an interest in him and had her designer create an
extravagant dress for him. D’Eon wrote his feelings about this effort. “Mile. Bertin undertakes to turn me into a passably
modest and obedient woman. Only my extreme desire to appear irreproachable in the eyes of the King and my protectors
could impart to me the strength I need to conquer myself and adopt a mildness of disposition in conformity with the new
existence which has been forced upon me. It would be easier for me to play the part of a lion than that of a lamb.” He
found life intolerable because of the notoriety he was receiving and left for England where he gave public fencing
performances dressed as Joan of Arc to support himself. He died in poverty at the age of 81. A surgeon was immediately
appointed to identify his true sex and end speculation forever. Those who wagered on his being male won.

(See also TRANSVESTITES)

CHOREOPHILIA Choreophilia (choreo: choral dance, and philia: attachment to) refers to people who are sexually aroused
by dancing.

One of the first ritual dances was done as worship to fertility gods. The Hawaiian hula dance is a modern day example.
Melodies and dance have often been combined for erotic excitement and were often prohibited during times of
repressive religious rule. Calvin was quoted as saying, “Dauncyng, the cheefe mischeefe of all mischeefes, dauncers are
mad men, dauncyng stirreth up lust.” It is “vnpossible that dauncyng should bee good.” It was often thought that people
who danced in festivals were possessed by demons.

Many of the ancient festivals, such as Dionysia, Bacchanalia, May Day, Saturnalia, Feast of Fools, and Carnival, encouraged
people to dance until they reached a state of euphoria. Catholic clergy often condemned dancing and other forbidden
games in their churchyards during these festivals. (It seems that missionaries made a practice of building their churches
over pagan altars, therefore during festivals people would naturally gather to these sites.)

The Arab Sufis, or whirling dervishes, Wiccans, American Indians, various African tribes, and the Sadhus of India all use
dancing to induce a euphoric trance. Christian groups such as the Quakers and Shakers did this as well.

Dance halls were started in the United States by bar owners who hired females to dance with their clients, thus attracting
larger numbers. Some of the women were prostitutes who seized the opportunity to offer men other services. In the
early 20th century female wage earners began frequenting dance halls, amusement parks, and theaters that were away
from the watchful eye of parents and neighbors. Single men quickly opted for sexually integrated establishments as
opposed to all male clubs and the popularity of mixed dancing began in America.

(See also BELL DANCING, BELLY DANCING, FESTIVALS, FLAGELLATION and LAP DANCING)

CHREMATISTOPHILIA Chrematistophilia refers to those who are aroused by being charged for sex or robbed. Payment
for some men may give them a feeling of power because the partner is now obligated to do their bidding and there is no
guilt in not reciprocating.

(See also AUCTIONS, AUTASSAINOPHILIA, HARPAXOPHILIA, HYBRISTOPHILIA, PHOBOPHILIA and VICARIOUS AROUSAL)

CHUBBY CHASERS A chubby chaser is the nickname for someone who is sexually aroused by an obese partner. The term
Chubby Chaser is shortened to Chaser and the term Chubby is used here to refer to the obese object of their love.

Ford and Beach, when investigating sexual preferences from many different societies, discovered that the majority
preferred women who were plump. Holmberg tells of the Siriono of Eastern Bolivia:

 
Besides being young, a desirable sex partner-especially a woman—should also be fat. She should have big hips, good sized
but firm breasts, and a deposit of fat on her sexual organs. Fat women are referred to by the men with obvious pride as
ere’N ekida (fat vulva) and are thought to be much more satisfying sexually than thin women (Patterns of Sexual Behavior,
by Cellan S. Ford, and Frank A. Beach, Ph.D., pp. 88-89).

There are several theories as to the reason for this preference; however, no single pattern fits everyone.

A small majority have at least one parent or close family member that is obese.

Reasons may be similar in some cases to those of acrotomophiles.

This preference is often developed at an early age and could have a complex hormonal, genetic, and environmental
cause.

The chaser may feel nurtured by the size difference (i.e. parent/child) just as others seem attracted to tall partners.

The chaser prefers the physical sensations of being with a large, soft, pillow-like body. One chaser describes contact with
a chubby as a “mountain of flesh enveloping one, as lying on a sack of pudding with flesh oozing between the fingers and
gushing over arms and legs, and being enveloped or consumed alive as one sinks into those silky depths” (BUF, February
1990, p. 40).

Cleopatra was assumed to have been rather obese. But in 1988 it was discovered that the statue that was thought to be
of her was of another queen. Obesity has always been a sign of affluence in Africa and young girls are still sent to special
farms to be fattened into marshmallow physiques before marriage. The school also gives them instruction in maintaining
a household. The Japanese seem mesmerized by their obese Sumo wrestlers but I have not seen data to suggest that their
fascination is a fetish.

There are several erotic magazines that cater to this taste in lovers, both heterosexual and gay.

People interested in meeting others attracted to chubbies have a bulletin board that accepts personal ads.

(See also ACROTOMOPHILIA, AGALMATOPHILIA, AMAUROPHILIA, ANASTEEMAPHILIA, ANDROIDISM, DYSMORPHOPHILIA,

GERONTOPHILIA and INFANTILISM)

CICATRIZATION Cicatrization or scarring has probably been practiced much longer than can be documented. The first
evidence was found on 4,200 year old Egyptian mummies. These were women from the neighboring country, Nubia, who
were associated as either priestesses or dancers for the fertility gods. They bore a series of lines across their abdomen,
these being made by an ancient method of tattooing (dyeing freshly cut skin). The abdomen symbolized childbirth, and
therefore a woman’s sexuality.
 

Women in certain African tribes used scars to increase their fertility until the early 20th century. The explanation for
efficacy is that the scars create some level of mild pain for a period of three to four years. When this sensitive area is
touched by her husband and the brain releases neurotransmitters in response to the pain, the woman becomes aroused
by the stimulus and has sex with her husband. The more sexually active the woman is, the more likely she is to conceive,
thus validating the ancient claim that scars can increase one’s fertility. Cicatrization was and is done for many other
reasons as well. Pubescent girls had to prove their ability to endure the pain of childbirth by rites of passage that involved
painful scarification. Young boys also had to show courage and endure a similar rite of passage, proving their ability to
withstand the hardships of hunting and providing for a family. Those not choosing to be marked were viewed by the tribe
as cowards, unwilling to suffer for a loved one, and not worthy of marriage. The scars represented one’s inner qualities of
beauty and their physical constitution.

Strategically placed scars provided historical documentation of one’s position, accomplishments, bravery, and tragedies
during a time when they had no written language. Multiple scars on a person were respected in much the same way as
the stars of a military general are today (Marks of Civilization, by Arnold Rubin).

Cutting has always been a basis for emotional healing. Today many people in mental institutions, hospitals, and prisons
engage in cutting as a form of self-mutilation. The reasons given for this behavior vary, but most feel it puts them back in
touch with their bodies so they feel human once again.

Cutting for facilitation of the healing process after a traumatic event was not only prevalent in primitive societies but can
be seen in the fairly recent practices of cupping, phlebotomy, bleeding with leeches, and acupuncture.

Cicatrization is also used as an art form and reported to be less painful than tattooing. The person desiring the body art
selects a design and has a professional cicatrist cut it into their skin. Cutting requires a special knowledge of where and
how deep to cut the skin as well as an artistic flair. The chosen design has a personal significance to the individual. Some
people prefer this form of cutting for self healing rather than random mutilations, saying that it is more empowering. An
example of this are those who were raped or were abused and who use cutting to overcome that memory. People are
programmed or conditioned by stimulus that has a strong emotional impact. People can reprogram phobias much faster
by creating a strong emotional state and, at this point, using positive affirmations to reprogram past messages. For
instance, if a father had always referred to his child as stupid, the child would now think or do something that gave him an
adrenalin rush and state to himself, “I am intelligent, I am a good, kind, respectable person worthy of love.” Cutting
creates an intense moment and display of personal power over the person’s fate. The person’s cicatrix acts as a constant
affirmation of their new found power over pain and tragedy. (“Cutting,” by Raelyn Gallina, QSM lecture, January 6, 1990)
CAUTION: Activities that expose one to another’s blood are considered unsafe. Cutting also requires a knowledge of the
cardiovascular system and neurology to prevent serious injury.

(See also AUTO MASOCHISM, BODY PAINTING, MASOCHISM, MUTILATION, PARAPHILIAS, SAFE SEX and TATTOOS)

CIGARS (Capnotagnia—arousal from watching others smoke) Cigars are used as tools of arousal. There is a club called
“Hot Ash” where men interested in cigar play can contact each other. There are also films available such as “Red Dog
Saloon” that feature men smoking cigars, blowing smoke at others, rubbing a victim’s face in an ash tray that contains
cigar butts and ashes, removing a cigar from someone’s mouth, replacing it with a penis, and using a cigar as a dildo.
 

There are specific cigar fetishes where men collect the discarded cigar butts of men they find appealing, and later
masturbate while holding the cigar to their lips.

Cigars are used by women on stage and in nude modeling for magazines. Some performers are able to blow smoke rings
after placing a cigar in their vagina. CAUTION: Using a cigar as a dildo is very dangerous if the rectal wall absorbs the
nicotine or if the cigar slips out of the top’s fingers into the rectum. Tobacco can also be irritating to vaginal tissue.

(See also FETISHES, HOT WAX, ICE, KNIVES, POWER TOOLS and PYROPHILIA)

CIRCUMCISION (Acucullophallia, Apellous, Peritomy, Posthetomy) Males are circumcised by cutting away the foreskin
that covers the glans penis and females by cutting the hood that covers the clitoris. Women who are only sexually
aroused by circumcised males are referred to as acucullophiles.

Circumcision of the hood of the clitoris was traditionally done on young girls among the Moslems. They felt that the hood
would restrain the clitoris from enlarging, the removal of the hood then exposed the clitoris to more direct stimulation
during vaginal penetration. This surgery is occasionally done on women in the United States who cannot orgasm because
the hood occludes the clitoris.

The practice of circumcision is quite ancient as evidenced by a prehistoric stone carving of a circumcised penis. The
Egyptians sacrificed the foreskin to a fertility god by burning it. Some feel that Abraham modified one of the existing
religious customs that required the first fruits of sex, either the first born infant or a genital sacrifice, to appease the
fertility gods. Circumcision came to be a symbolic sacrifice of one’s life force and reproductive power. Americans often
have circumcision done on baby boys before they leave the hospital by a technique that involves crushing the foreskin
with a clamp and then cutting it off after about 10 minutes. Jews have a special ceremony (berith or briss) when the boy is
eight days old. A professional mohel slices the foreskin off an infant in a couple of seconds while he is held by his father.
The Moslem tradition is to perform circumcision when the boy reaches thirteen years old although today it is becoming
acceptable to do it years earlier. Arabic Bedouin tribes would circumcise the male the day before he was to marry and
during this operation the groom was to sing, thus proving his conquest over pain to the surrounding crowd. This was his
initiation into manhood. Other cultures, such as the Nandi, circumcised their boys with a glowing iron that burned off the
foreskin as another held it out-stretched; afterward the fat from the udder of a cow was applied to the wound. This
technique was called circumbustio. The Kikoyu tribes only cut away the top half of the foreskin, leaving a flap that hung
off the bottom tip of the penis.

Circumcision became popular among Christians during the early 19th and 20th centuries when doctors and religious
leaders believed tight foreskins led young boys to masturbate.

Male circumcision may have some medical advantages later in life. There are diseases that afflict only the uncircumcised,
such as penile carcinoma, posthitis, phimosis, and balanitis. In addition, there is ten times the risk of getting urinary tract
infections. It is reported that nine out of ten uncircumcised men have difficulty or experience pain in getting the foreskin
to pull backward upon erection. The smegma or secretion that is produced from the glands around the bottom of the
corona or rim of the glans penis is thought to be carcinogenic for women, as there is a lower rate of cervical cancer
among women who are married to circumcised men. This secretion is also known for rapidly developing an unpleasant
odor. There appear to be some recent indications that infection with the AIDS virus is more prevalent among
uncircumcised men in Third World countries. This does not hold true in Western countries where the standard for
hygiene is often higher.
The United States has the highest number of circumcised men but that figure is dropping. This is primarily due to some
insurance companies dropping their medical coverage for this procedure.

Foreskins vary in size. They range from long and loose to short and tight. The short tight foreskins are very similar in
appearance of those circumcised. Some men resent having lost their foreskin and may blame their parents or even suffer
from depression. If this happens it is good to talk to the person(s) one feels was responsible, replace the foreskin if
possible, or seek counseling. (For more information on penis reconstruction, see section PENIS SHAPING—Foreskin
Restoration)

Men sometimes incorporate their fear of circumcision into sex play as a means for arousal. They fake a circumcision by
having their partner blindfold and bind them, placing a reservoir tipped condom and then slicing off the tip with a knife.
Some do this as part of a hospital scene. Their partner dresses like a doctor and goes through a convincing sterilization
procedure.

Sometimes men who were never circumcised use their foreskins in sex play by doing such things as putting a clothespin or
electrode on it, stretching it over another man’s glans penis, or putting ice inside and tying it closed with a string.
Masturbation techniques can differ greatly between circumcised and uncircumcised men.

(See CASTRATION, CLITORIDECTOMY, EUNUCHS, FESTIVALS and NYMPHOTOMY)

CLAMPS Clamps are small devices that are placed on nipples, genitals, or any other part of the body. The throat and
lactating breasts are unsafe areas. The amount of tension varies according to the user’s wish. Clamps can be part of highly
developed sex play used to induce more severe pain, or to apply mild tactile sensation to the nipples while leaving the
partner’s hands free to arouse and stimulate other parts of the body. The most widely used clamps are those with an
adjusting screw where the person sets their own tension.

Clamps that are used to increase mild sensation have a weaker bite than others. While they are slightly painful when
attached they are designed to provide extra sensitivity while being worn. If clamps are left on over a few minutes the area
becomes painful when removed. People reduce some of this pain by using their fingers to pinch the tissue as the clamp is
removed and then slowly releasing the tension to allow blood to gradually enter back into the area. This method is
especially used when wooden clothespins are applied to the inner labia. Here also the moisture of the mucous membrane
tends to be absorbed by the wood, causing it to stick to the skin.

People who want to reach the upper limit of the pain-pleasure barrier do things like joining two tit clamps together by a
cord or chain and pulling on it slowly. They may add small weights, pierce the nipples, or drip hot wax on them. This is
sometimes referred to as tit torture and can be dangerous if engaged in by novices. Other locations used for clamps are
under the arms, on the penis, scrotum, labia, and on the anal sphincter. Plastic clothespins are often used on mucous
membrane areas because in addition to not sticking to the skin they can be soaked in a solution of water and 10% bleach
to disinfect.

Clamps are used on the testicles in several different ways. The scrotum is sometimes separated and stretched with
several clamps placed at strategic points. Clamps may also be placed on the scrotum in symmetrical lines. Most scrotums
can hold 40 to 50 clothespins. Excessive stretching is avoided because it can cause small vessels to break, although this is
not usually serious. Pinching the upper scrotum is serious, however, because it can damage the vas deferens.

Body art includes things ranging from clamp-on nipple jewelry to temporary body markings and live puppets. Clothespins
are most often used for body art. These are carefully selected to ensure against defects such as rough edges, breaks,
twisted wire, or uneven edges. They are next painted or dyed to the color preferred, black being the most common. Bird
representations are done with combinations of black, deep red, and white. Clothespins are placed down each arm, across
the chest, abdomen, and sometimes on the back until one finally has a form representative of a bird. Skin markings are
different in that the shape of the design is not evident until the clothespins are removed. A common mark is called a
zipper and is made by placing clothespins side-by-side in a line. These are usually joined by a leather string run through
the center of the wire spiral and at the designated moment the group of pins is pulled off with one swift stroke. Various
effects are created by placing clothespins at different angles so that the lines curve and by using clamps that have
distinctive bites. A few people have endured over 300 clothespins on their body. The placement of the clamps is done
from the bottom of the torso and worked upward. Those who start at the top and work down for some reason find that
their partner becomes lethargic.

Human puppets are made by running a string through clothespins placed on the person’s legs and arms. They are then
gently pulled on to make the puppet walk or move. Some people prefer threading these strings through an eye bolt in the
ceiling for a similar effect. CAUTION: As with any type of play that involves tactile pain there are special precautions that
are taken. Neither person uses drugs that would desensitize the pain to the extent that the bottom doesn’t recognize
their physical limit. Stress or distrust of a partner can increase the sensation of pain. Orgasm is often avoided before
clamps are removed because this almost always intensifies the pain. Clamps themselves may leave blood blisters or cuts if
not enough skin is placed between the tips or if the tension is too tight. There are subtle changes made in the flow of
blood through the veins and fainting may occur. Alligator teeth clamps are not safe for use on more than one partner
unless they can be sterilized. It is dangerous to clamp normal skin tissue for over six hours or muscle for longer than a few
minutes. The lack of oxygen causes tissue to die. (“Clothespins: The Scene from the Corner Store,” by Joseph W. Bean,
QSM lecture, July 13, 1990)

(See also AUTOMASOCHISM, BINDINGS, BONDAGE, JEWELRY, PINCHING, RINGING and SENSORY ENHANCEMENT)

CLAUSTROPHILIA Claustrophilia (claustrum: place shut in, philia: attachment to) refers to those sexually aroused by being
confined in small compartments.

People who are claustrophobic experience anxiety from being confined. Some individuals take advantage of this fear to
create arousal in their partner. This is done by putting partners who are claustrophobic in confining surroundings. The
types of compartments or equipment used includes closets, boxes, caskets, cages, and straightjackets. A partner with a
more severe case of claustrophobia may be aroused by simply taking them on a crowded elevator ride, through an
amusement park’s “house of horrors,” or by having sex with them in a walk-in closet, a lower bunk bed, or a cave. It is
also possible that a person who starts playing with this phobia can become desensitized after a while and along with
losing their fear of enclosures they will also lose the sexual arousal associated with it. Conversely, the partner is never
pushed very far beyond what they think they can handle.

(See also PHOBOPHILIA)

CLITORIDECTOMY (Exmuliebrate, Spay, Thelectize) A clitoridectomy is the name of the surgical procedure used in
removing the clitoris. Clitoridectomies were performed on American women as late as the early 20th century to prevent
habitual masturbation.

The clitoridectomies used by other cultures were not designed so much to inhibit female orgasm as in the States, but
rather to enhance vaginal orgasm by male penetration and thus discourage the lesbianism practiced in harems. The
surgery was usually done by a woman who held the protruding clitoris between her thumb and forefinger until it stiffened
and at this point she sliced it off with a razor. The girls of the Nandi tribes had their clitoris inflamed with nettles and then
burned out with a glowing coal held on it with a wooden “spoon” until it became charred. Clitoridectomies were taken
seriously because it was believed that children of a girl not undergoing this surgery would die. Because of this infants born
to these mothers were strangled by pushing cow dung down their throats. The girls in the Nandi tribe were confined for
four months in a hut and at the end of that time a strange ritual was performed. Several matrons would go into the
woods to find a lion. One of the matrons dressed in a fur garment then began stroking and binding it, and then brought it
to the hut of the girls. There it was tied to a stake outside their hut.
“The girls, who can hardly distinguish the contours of the beast of prey in the dark, are so frightened that they urinate.
Now they must eat all the insects off the lion, then the lion urinates, and its urine is sipped up by all the newly-circumcised
girls... The girls must eat still other such repulsive delicacies. Women bring them fleas and lice in the leather of their
clothing; they also lick clean a ring dipped in the mucous of the vagina” (Voodoo Eros, by Felix Bryk, p. 141).

(See also CIRCUMCISION, INFIBULATION and NYMPHOTOMY)

COCK RINGS A cock ring is one of the oldest mechanical sex aids used for sustaining an erection for a longer than
ordinary period.

One of the oldest cock rings was called a hairy ring (also happy ring or goat’s eyelid). This dates back to the Orient in the
13th century and was made from the eyelashes of slain goats. These were chemically treated and inlaid in rings that fit
over the glans penis. Today’s version has soft bristles or blunt points—all designed to provide extra stimulation of the
vagina during coitus. Powders and rings can have bad effects for some and most people use them with caution until they
are certain the item is safe.

Another device similar to the hairy ring is the rubber beaded erection ring that doubles as a cock ring and vaginal or anal
massager when worn at the base of the glans penis. The Japanese have a sulfur ring that fits around the neck of the glans
penis, desensitizing the penis while at the same time acting as an astringent to tighten the vaginal walls.

Metal or plastic cock rings are placed in position by first inserting one testicle through the ring, followed by the second
testicle, and finally the flaccid penis is pulled through. The penis must be flaccid when putting on a metal ring. Rubber
rings are occasionally used under the glans for penile stimulation but are removed for intercourse.

Rings are available in sizes of approximately 1 1/2-2” in diameter and are designed to fit at the base of the penis below
the testicles. A simple method used in measuring for the size is that of tying a string around the appropriate area while
erect and using that measurement to determine the circumference.

Leather snap-on cock rings are placed around the base of the penis below the testicles and are adjustable in size because
of the selection of strategically placed snaps. This type of cock ring is fairly safe because it’s easy to remove. Metal rings
have special uses in sex games; they hold their shape when cords or ropes are passed through for bondage purposes, and
they conduct electricity for cock torture games. Gates of hell are used in S/M play. These are cock rings that have several
leather straps or metal rings that fit at intervals along the shaft of the penis. They may also have spikes on the inside to
discourage erection. This type of device is safest when it can be unsnapped. CAUTION: A cock ring is removed if the penis
begins to tingle or burn. If the cockring is metal this may create a complication because an erect penis must become
flaccid before it can be removed. This is normally accomplished by either wrapping an Ace bandage around the penis or
placing cold compresses on it. If neither of these methods work a physician is consulted as soon as possible. Prolonged
venal constriction can cause thrombosis of the veins.

(See also BINDING, BONDAGE, GENITAL /ANAL INSERTS, PENILE MODIFICATIONS, RINGING, TESTICLES and TORTURE)

COCKTAILS (Coprophilia—arousal from feces, Mysophilia—arousal from soiled objects, Urophilia—arousal from urine)

The word cocktails is a term used in sex play to describe the drinking of body fluids such as blood, semen, urine, and
enema contents from a glass or chalice. CAUTION : These body fluids may carry bacteria and viruses and therefore
cocktails are not considered safe sex.

BLOOD AND SEMEN COCKTAIL The mixture of blood and semen was used to symbolize human life and was common
among ancient goddess rituals. Today salt water or mixtures of herbed teas or wine are used in witchcraft ritual. Some
also dip the athame (knife) into the contents of the chalice to symbolize sexual union.

Blood and semen, or other body secretions, are used in symbolic goddess worship sex games. In these the worshipper
drinks secretions from the sex goddess to prove his devotion.
 

ENEMA COCKTAIL An enema cocktail is made with the liquid expelled from the rectum after a water or wine enema. This
fluid is collected or poured into a cocktail glass for one of the partners to drink.

GOLDEN COCKTAIL The golden cocktail is comprised of urine. This drink may be used as part ot a goddess sex ritual
where the submissive drinks, or as part of a formal group dinner where everyone imbibes prior to an orgy.

(See also COPROPHAGY, CUM ETIQUETTE, FLATULENCE, HYGROPHILIA, KLISMAPHILIA, LACTAPHILIA, MUCOPHAGY,
MYSOPHIA, OCULOLINCTUS, SALIROPHILIA, SITOPHILIA and TOILET TRAINING)

COITUS A CHEVAL Coitus à cheval, or sex on a horse, has been practiced in many cultures throughout history. The Turkish
soldiers, while invading villages, would capture women and children, place the victim in the rider’s lap, and rape them
while riding away on horseback. The loping horse provided a rhythm that was used during penetration.

Lovers also utilized the rocking rhythm during journeys on a horse, camel, or elephant. Lord George Herbert wrote of such
a love story in A Night in a Moorish Harem:

We were borne along at an unflagging gallop. Hasan held me in front of him like a baby in his arms, often kissing me, his
kisses constantly growing more ardent; and then I felt his stiff shaft pressing against my person. He suggested that I ride
astride for a while and rest myself by a change of position. I obeyed his suggestion, turning with my face towards his and
putting my arms around his neck, while my thighs were spread wide open over his own. He let the bridle drop over the
horse’s neck, whose headlong pace subsided into a gentle canter which was like the rocking of a cradle.

Hasan put his arms around my loins and lifted me a little, and then I felt the crest of his naked shaft knocking for entrance
between my naked thighs. I was willing to yield to Hasan anything he wished; but no sooner had the lips of my sheath
been penetrated than I involuntarily clung more tightly around his neck and, sustaining myself in that way, prevented him
from entering further. Hasan’s organ seemed adapted to the place and excited a sensation of pleasure. I offered my mouth
to Hasan and returned his passionate kisses with an ardor equally warm. A desire to secure more of the delightful intruder
overcame my dread of the intrusion...

There are several types of sex drama using coitus à cheval. One consists of a slave who prefers to be worked like a horse
on a farm. He is made to plow the field naked, stabled at night in the barn, and whipped if he enjoys flagellation as
punishment.

Less intense forms of sex play include having the bottom wear a special bridle (wrapped in leather for comfort), a harness,
and possibly blinders, a saddle, or ornamental head feathers. The top then mounts the stallion and saddlebreaks it by
sometimes slapping its flanks or using a riding crop on the more spirited animal. The horse isn’t supposed to speak,
therefore, a specific sound is selected during negotiation to signal the end of the game or to indicate a desire for the
partner to dismount. After the ride, the horse is sometimes watered, fed, given sugar cubes, or groomed. Grooming
involves body worship. A stallion is flattered on their strength, beauty (their mane is fondled), long muscular legs, and
told how sexually aroused the rider got with the rocking motion against their thighs, and the enormous size of their
genitals. Those who remain in role to have sex with their stallion do not use the missionary position, but rather the horse
remains on their knees or all fours. CAUTION: A human’s back is not designed to withstand this type of weight.
 

(See also ANDROIDISM, CAT FIGHTING, COSTUMES, DOMINANCE/SUBMISSION, FANTASY PLAY, SEX POSITIONS, SWINGS,
SYBIAN and ZOOPHILIA)

COITUS A MAMMILLA (Mammagymnophilia—arousal from female breasts, Mazophallate—penetrating between breasts)

Coitus a mammilla is the act of ejaculating between breasts. This is particularly exciting for men who have a breast fetish.
The woman generally leans backward

as the man places his penis on the sternum between her breasts and thrusts. The woman controls the pressure by
pushing her breasts together. The slang term for this is “a pearl necklace.” Two women engaging in sex may masturbate
against the breasts and nipples.

(See also AXILLISM, COITUS INTERFERMORIS, FROTTAGE and GENUPHALLATION)

COITUS A UNDA (Albutophilia, Undinism; Coitobatnism—in bath tub) Coitus a unda refers to sex in water as opposed to
water sports which generally involve urine or enemas. People are often fond of masturbating or having sex in the shower,
rain, ocean, swimming pool, and jacuzzi. Fellatio, during which the partner holds hot water in their mouth, is another
form of water sex that is sometimes mentioned.

Tiberius Caesar was inventive with aquatic sex sports. He had young boys trained to swim after him and come up from
below to suck and nibble on his genitals. He called these boys his “minnows” (Perverse Crimes in History). Some women
used the water flow from their bidet (a basin that sprays water upward for a woman to clean her vagina) for
masturbation. This is called bidetonism.

Bars sponsor entertainment such as naked women swimming in a large aquarium and wet t-shirt or jock strap contests. In
bath tubs soap is often used as a lubricant to insert fingers, toes, and toys into openings. Gloves, brushes, or chemical
scrubs are used for body massage and some people bind their partner’s wrists with rope or blindfold them. Those
involved in infantilism may run a bubble bath for their partner and add their favorite rubber duck or toy boat for the
baby’s entertainment. CAUTION: Electric or battery operated devices are dangerous near water as is sex in a swimming
pool or outdoor body of water during a storm. Nudity in ocean water has led to some men having had their uncovered
genitals stung by jellyfish.

(See also BATHS, INUNCTION and SHOWERS)

COITUS INTERFERMORIS Coitus Interfermoris consists of penetration between the thighs of a person, sometimes a child
or infant of either sex. This does not include vaginal or anal sex; therefore, it was used by many as a form of birth control
before marriage.

This practice is quite ancient. The Jewish Talmud mentions neighboring tribes “who rub their rods between the legs of
children; i.e. those who practice masturbation by way of limbs.” The distinguishing evidence of a child having been
assaulted in this manner is of inflamed inner thighs or perineum (Perverse Crimes in History, p. 193).

Penetration of the thighs is done one of four ways. Ancient Greek pedophiles used the younger males’ thighs for
penetration while they stood or reclined. Middle Eastern tribes would place the person on the lap of the male with their
back toward him, the penis was then thrust between the legs and against the perineum. Another method was that of
laying the person on a bed or chair on their back, raising their legs in the air, and crossing them to form a small cavity
between the upper thighs and perineum into which the penis was thrust. The fourth was to hold a young child upside
down by the ankles or knees and penetrate between the legs in this position.

This type of sex is used more as a form of masturbation because it creates more intense sensations of abrasion and
pressure than vaginal entry. It is much less common in the United States than in some Eastern countries.

(See also AXILLISM and COITUS A MAMMILLA)

COMPUTER SEX (Teledildonics) Computer sex refers to computer user networks or bulletin boards where people
exchange information about sexual subjects, jokes, personal ads, fantasies, and sexual graphics between two on-line
operators. Sex toys and other paraphernalia can be ordered through on-line catalogs. Computer networks are also used
as introduction services for singles, swingers, gays, and sadomasochists. A few are set up to enable couples to engage in
private communication that lead some to masturbate. These messages are referred to as “one-handed postings.” The
process is awkward because one has to type in order to keep communication open. A few have not only mastered this but
are able to do it at their desk during work hours.

Most user groups either have a questionnaire or ask for a short biographical description. Networks that are explicitly
sexual may ask personal information such as sexual preference, body measurements, amount of body hair, length of
penis, and best physical attributes.

Similar to most other user networks there is a monthly fee and long distance charge when applicable. The computer has
to be equipped with a modem, communication software, and a phone line.

Future technology includes the ability to create tactile sensations from three dimensional video projections called virtual
reality. Some think this will lead to X-rated programs of female film stars performing fellatio on the computer user, etc.
This has led to the term ‘teledildonics’.

There are computer software games such as Leisure Suit Larry Sexxcapades, and a version called MacPlaymate that is
designed to allow the player to make special requests of a model who performs these on screen. Other services provide a
catalog of color photos that can be viewed on individual monitors. (“Computer Erotica,” by Adele Aldridge, Ph.D., and Eve
Gregory, Mensa Sexyg Gathering Conference in San Francisco, February 17-18, 1990)

(See also ANDROIDISM, DATING SERVICES and PORNOGRAPHY)

ANTHONY COMSTOCK Mr. Comstock (1844-1915) was appointed by President Grant as Special Agent of the Post Office
Department. His responsibility was to prevent ‘obscene’ material from passing through the U.S. mail. Comstock had very
little education and came from a family of 14 children. His mother died young. But instead of coming to appreciate the
horrors women endured because of the lack of birth control, he saw his mother as a martyr in his fight against it.
Comstock worked as a porter, shipping clerk, and salesman until he became involved in a Y.M.C.A. campaign to suppress
pornography where he was successful in obtaining the arrest of a publisher. He continued his affiliation with the Y.M.C.A.
and soon helped to form the N.Y. Society for the Suppression of Vice. He came to the attention of President Grant when
he successfully lobbied for passage of postal legislation preventing pornography from being sent through the mail. His
campaign included raids on the Knoedler’s New York Art Gallery that was displaying reproductions of Paris Salon Prize
Winners and the American Art Student’s League to confiscate their male nude artworks. He also had nude manikins
removed from New York clothing stores, filed charges against George Bernard Shaw’s Mrs. Warren’s Profession (1894),
“protested against photographs of athletes exercising in trunks,” and had many physicians arrested for sending
information about birth control to their patients. (See section on BIRTH CONTROL.) Comstock was proud to have
accomplished the destruction of 175 tons of ‘obscenity’, nearly 4,000 arrests, and over $237,134 collected in fines. The
most disturbing figure, however, was the number of suicides among those he had arrested. This totalled 15 after only five
years and the next 37 years of his career brought many more. Yet, despite many protests, he remained in his capacity as
Special Agent of the Post Office Department until his death in 1915 (Encyclopaedia Sexualis by Victor Robinson, M.D., pp.
144-147).

(See also BIRTH CONTROL, ILLEGAL SEX, PORNOGRAPHY and ST. AUGUSTINE)

CONDOMS See BIRTH CONTROL /CONDOM

CONFESSIONS Confessions, in the Catholic Church, enable people to be absolved of their ‘sins.’ But they also produce
sexual torture for many priests.

Peter de Rosa, a former Jesuit priest, explains in his book Vicars of Christ that new priests were susceptible to
temptation after being trained in a seminary for years away from all women. Between 1215 and 1614 these priests
suddenly found themselves alone in the same room with attractive women at their feet confessing in detail to every type
of sex they experienced, desired, or even fantasized about. Many priests succumbed to temptation under this strange
form of sexual seduction.

The sexual temptations of priests were not restricted to young maidens but included married women, nuns, men, and
boys. A few priests would demand that a female disrobe and be whipped as penitence, some having the woman flog
them in reciprocation.

The Church invented the confessional box and made its use compulsory in 1614, hoping to alleviate the former
temptation. A urologist in 1841 reported that the priests had a dramatic increase in the number of seminal losses after
hearing confessions. Therefore the confessional box evidently helped, but did not provide a solution for the young priest
trying to remain chaste under this type of sexually stimulating environment. The confessional box also came to be used by
laymen who were able to pose as the priest and get women to confess details of their sex lives. The Church only
considered this to be a serious offense if the laymen gave absolution to the women.

The penitents were at times asked to divulge explicit information about their sex lives because the Church suspected
certain groups of perversions. The following set of questions was used in 1697 for the Tarascan tribe in Western Mexico:

Are you a married woman, or a widow, or a virgin, or have you lost your virginity?

How many times?

Did you want anybody?

Are you relatives?

In what degree are you relatives?

Have you sinned with a woman?

Were they your relatives?

Did you commit sin with some woman using both parts?

Have you kissed any woman?

Was she your mother, the one who gave you birth?

Have you committed sodomy?

Have you touched the lower parts of a man with pleasure, wishing to commit a sin?

Have you committed sin with any beast?

Have you committed sin with a woman while she was lying down like an animal on four feet, or have you put her like that,
wanting to sin with her?

And how many have sinned with you?

And was one your father, the one who begat you?

And was one your elder brother?

And was one your younger brother?

And have you sinned with another woman as if you were man and woman?

Manual de administrar los Santos Sacramentos a los espanoles y naturales de esta provincia de Michoacan (1697) fols.
150-54. by Angel Serra—cited in Sex in History by Reay Tannahill, pp. 299-300) .

Confessions and a commitment of trust have strong aphrodisiac qualities for both parties. The person confessing can give
details of their sexual exploits, cry about being abandoned and used by a lover, and about their current relationship status
(usually available), with intense emotions of guilt, sadness, or anger. All of this can be very emotionally stimulating for the
person whose shoulder they are crying on, bringing out in them a need to nurture the victim. Both men and women
replace old lovers with this covert seduction routine.

(See also AGREXOPHILIA, COPROLALIA, HIEROPHILIA and NARRATOPHILIA)

CONSTRICTIONS (String bondage) Constrictions are used to induce a trance-like state or simply to create different body
sensations than one normally experiences with sex. Constrictions are done by wrapping string around the body. Each
strand is made into a slip knot, wrapped three times around an area, and tied. CAUTION : Wrapping the neck area can be
dangerous. String constrictions can be left on for several hours. However, if an area begins to tingle or turn blue the string
is removed immediately.

COPROGRAPHY (Graffiti) Coprography (copro: feces, graphy: written) literally means to write with feces but is used here
to describe someone who writes vulgarities on the walls of public toilets.

Here I sit,
Waiting to ....

This irresistible urge has been felt by people for as long as there were public latrines. The Romans resorted to having
symbols of their gods painted on latrine walls to prevent frustrated poets from ruining them. The Romans shared a
common wiping stick, the “bum swab,” which might have been used to write on the walls as people wiped the stick to
clean it off; thus the literal translation “written feces.” Aristocrats wiped with disposable feathers.

Public toilets entice people into writing vulgarisms on their walls more so than any other location. This may be due to the
anonymity it offers, the ability to outwit the last guy, the urge to educate others, brag about sexual exploits, or because
one’s mind is focused on the genitals. Dr. Georges Valensin, in A Complete Guide to the World of Sex, Sex From A to Z,
refers to the author of graffiti as being “momentarily liberated from tension by his scriptural ejaculation.” These semi-
public bulletin boards have also served a political purpose in cultures where the people were repressed and could not
express their discontent by any other method.

Another form of coprography is used by many sex criminals. They write descriptive letters to the police or parents of their
victims describing in gross detail the form of torture they used for their last murder. This is not only a popular form of
excitement for the murderer himself, but also for many others who write to the police claiming credit for the same crime.
Sex offenders very often document their crimes with photos, film, or in the case of Gerald Thompson, a convicted sex
murderer, a diary. This diary and several hundred photos were later used as evidence against him in court.

Vulgar letters may be sent to public figures as well. A popular television talk show host, Geraldo Rivera, mentioned having
received threatening letters from viewers containing feces (July 30, 1991 Geraldo program).

(See also ANTHROPOMORPHIC CARTOONS, EROTOGRAPHOMANIA, JACTITATION, NARRATOPHILIA, STATIONERY and

TATTOOING)

COPROLALIA (Cunnilatia—talk about vaginas) Coprolalia is the act of using words that are considered obscene, usually
during sex, to arouse the person speaking and/or their partner.

Words, especially those involving humiliations, are negotiated with the partner before the sex act. While some men or
women may become extremely aroused by the sound of rarely used obscenities, it can make others lose their interest in
sex. Negotiation is specific; a partner may say they enjoy hearing or using dirty words during sex but fail to mention that
the word “tramp” does nothing while “slut” brings them to orgasm.

Some people enjoy having their partner speak obscenities, but would never use obscenities themselves. Likewise, one can
have a partner that loves to use dirty words during sex, but if one responds in a like manner, they pass judgment.

Fantasies offer a much broader selection of sexual exploits than is humanly possible; the use of dialogue increases one’s
potential for safe sexual diversity and experimentation.

(See also ACOUSTICOPHILIA, CONFESSIONS, JACTITATION, OBSCENE PHONE CALLS. PHONE SEX and NARRATOPHILIA)

COPROPHAGY Coprophagy (copro: feces; and phagy: to eat) is the act of eating feces for sexual arousal.

Coprophagy has a long history, losing its popularity only within the last three centuries. The use of feces had many
applications. John Money, in Love and Love Sickness, tells of Eskimo mothers who at one time licked their soiled infants
clean, which is also a natural maternal action among many animals. An ancient aphrodisiac consisted of a formula of
semen mixed with the feces of hawks. Human feces was also a common medical remedy used to cure a wide variety of
diseases. As late as 1905 the February 19th issue of Journal de Medecine of Paris carried an article by Dr. Schurig
wherein he listed coprophagy along with various other medical lore of the past 200 years. Specific types of feces were
also used in medicine for different ailments. The following list from John Bourke’s book, Scatologic Rites of All Nations,
lists the type of feces recommended for each ailment:
 

People have not only used feces to cure ailments under the direction of the medical profession, but it has been found in
common rituals and religious services throughout history. The prophet Ezekiel was told to bake his bread with human
dung:

And thou shall eat it as barley cakes and thou shall bake it with dung that cometh out of man, in their sight.—Ezekiel 4:12

God’s admonition to Ezekiel is surprising because of the fastidiousness of the Jews in matters governing excrement. The
Code of Jewish law (by K.S. Arulch) explicitly lists many of these regulations, including not thinking of holy things while in
a latrine, making sure that there is not even a small particle of excrement on the anus before entering the house of
prayer, and not praying in the vicinity of a soiled infant or child.

Some cultures included feces in their festivals. “In Thuringia a sausage is stuck in the last sheaf at threshing and thrown
with the sheaf on the threshing floor. It is called the “barrenwurst” and is eaten by all the threshers” (Scatologic Rites of
All Nations, by John Bourke, p. 466).

The ancient followers of the deities Baal-Phegor were all trained to eat feces. The Christian church only dropped their
coprophagy requirement in the last couple of hundred years. The Church used it as a means by which an ascetic was to
prove symbolic self-mortification. In March, 1904 Brenier de Montmorand wrote an article titled “Ascetisme et
Mysticisme” in Revue Philosophique where he quoted Madame Guyon and Marguerite-Marie’s description of their
experience and the repugnance they were forced to overcome. He also said that “the Christian ascetics are almost all
eaters of excrement.” Havelock Ellis, in quoting Mr. de Montmorand, assumed his last statement to be an exaggeration.
G. Rattray Taylor, in his book Sex in History, cites more ecstatics who engaged in similar activities. “The Alacoque, for
instance, dwelt on these ideas with an irresistible compulsion. In her diaries she describes how once, when she wished to
clean up the vomit of a sick patient, she ‘could not resist’ doing so with her tongue, an action which caused her so much
pleasure that she wished she could do the same every day” (p. 48).

Reasons given today by people engaging in coprophagy vary. First is that of latent defiance toward their mothers who
commanded them not to play with it while young. Second, this strange substance comes from their own body and
complete examination has never been permitted. Third, eating feces can represent one’s total and unconditional approval
of and submission to a partner; showing love for anything that comes from their body. And fourth, it can be a form of
masochism or self abasement when one experiences a low point in their life.

Coprophagy may be the primary intent of the individual or may be a secondary result of analingus, or fellatio after anal
penetration. ‘I’he threat of coprophagy is also used by a top to intimidate or frighten a bottom. Some mistresses, after
using a butt plug on a slave will, without his knowledge, put a new condom on it and place it in his mouth demanding that
he lick what he thinks is his own feces.
People sometimes substitute food for feces. Dominatrixes train slaves by using beef hash and insert it into the anus
before defecating it onto a plate. A rapist nicknamed the “Peanut Butter Kid” would smear peanut butter on the genitals
of his victims and lick it off. (For those interested, feces supposedly has a charred or sour flavor but otherwise tastes
similar to whatever was consumed.)

Movie videos and magazines are available from Europe that feature coprophagy (usually with a squatting woman
defecating directly into the mouth of a male), enema cocktails, or smearing feces on the face of a partner. CAUTION:
Eating anyone else’s feces is considered a risk because of AIDS, hepatitis, giardia, amebiosis, and many other diseases.
Even one’s own feces must be kept away from cuts due to the risk of infections from dangerous organisms and bacteria.
For these reasons some people use cellophane as a protective barrier.

(Sec also ANAI, SEX, ANTHROPOPHAGY. COCKTAILS, COPROPHILIA. CUM ETIQUETTE. FLATULENCE, HYGROPHILIA,
KLISMAPHILIA, MUCOPHAGY, MYSOPHILIA, OCULOLINCTUS, SAFE SEX. SALIROPHILIA, SITOPHILIA, TOILET TRAINING and
WORSHIP/GODDESS)

COPROPHILIA (Coprolagnia, Scat; Chezolagnia—masturbating while defecating, Coproscopist—person watching,

Defecolagnia—arousal from defecating) Coprophilia (copro: feces; philia: attachment to) refers to one who is sexually
aroused by feces. This person may or may not be a coprophagist or mysophile. The reasons for playing with feces,
however, may be similar.

One type of coprophile will tend to want to play with feces in a similar manner as a child who has not been taught that it
is “disgusting and filthy.” Some people consider it psychologically healthy to analyze one’s childhood and act out all the
things that one wanted to do as a child but was prohibited from by overprotecting parents. This was one rationale behind
a private club in San Francisco (before AIDS) that comprised of men who would save their excrement in baggics and bring
it to the meeting where they removed it and used it as finger paint or modeling clay. John Money gives an example of a
coprophilic “plumber” who collected feces from public toilets after turning off the water supply. He later used the feces
to eat or smear on his body (lovemaps, p. 48). Another woman liked to rub feces on a dildo and then use it on herself. A
San Francisco man who couldn’t find women willing to engage in coprophilia was able to get several to smear panties
containing chocolate frosting on his face. Others have sent soiled panties to pen pals in the mail.

One form of behavioral conditioning was described by Havelock Ellis in the case history of a man from the 19th century
who as a young boy was allowed to stay in the same room with the maids while they defecated in a portable toilet. He
gradually began to eroticize the female buttocks and the act of defecation. As an adult, he was caught masturbating over
a similar portable toilet containing the feces of a woman to whom he was attracted. In this case, his own feces had no
appeal, nor did feces of those to whom he was not sexually attracted. This holds true in the case of many fetishes.

Some people become aroused by having a bowel movement. This can be explained because the anus is one of the areas
abundant with nerve endings. Therefore, like the nipple, mouth, and genitals it is one of the primal body functions that
releases opiates in the pleasure center of our brain.

There are those who love the feel and texture of feces and some couples will rub it between their bodies during sex for
the slippery effect it produces. Some enjoy watching their partner defecate, although they have no desire to touch the
feces itself. These people have devised gimmicks such as lying under a glass coffee table while their partner defecates
from above, or using a glass plate in lieu of the table. Romans too seemed to have no compunction against using feces.
Bordellos sometimes had a glass floor that was designed for this purpose. Practical use was also made of feces. Roman
charioteers rubbed the dung of boars onto their bodies hoping that the odor would keep the horses from trampling them
if they were thrown from their chariots (Those About to Die, by Daniel Mannix). Until as late as the early 20th century
African Semihamitc tribes used cow dung instead of soap for washing hands and polishing metals.

A small bi-annual newsletter, titled Religion of the Month Club, is published in California. One month it featured the topic
of feces. It came complete with illustrations, a centerfold, famous quotes, and a Scratch ‘n’ Sniff strip.

(See also ANAL SEX, ANTHROPOPHAGY. COCKTAILS. COPROPHAGY. CUM ETIQUETTE, DEFILEMENT. FLATULENCE.
HYGROPHILIA, KLISMAPHILIA MUCOPHAGY, MYSOPHILIA. OCULOLINCTUS. SAFE SEX, SALIROPHILIA, SHOWERS. TOILET
TRAINING, UROPHILIA and WORSHIP /GODDESS)

CORSETS (Girdles—usually restricts lower abdomen or designed only to hold up hosiery) Corsetting refers to a restriction
placed around the waist, the effect of which creates difficulty in breathing deeply and decreases the size of the waist. It is
thought to have originally been a form of bondage used on women who were captured to prevent them being able to run
away, but still allowing them to perform assigned tasks. Women in Crete wore large rings around their waists to make
their waists smaller. Westerners began wearing corsets as a result of Christianity’s use of abrasive clothing as a form of
penance. Men and women began by wearing abrasive shirts, next they used tight bands of cloth on their arms, and
eventually wore corsets on their waists. Corsets may also have gained popularity among women because a small waist
signals males that she is not pregnant and therefore worth his investing time in trying to mate with her.

Many materials were used as corsets evolved, including iron, cloth with wooden supports, whale bone, metal strips, and
finally plastics. Mid-l8th century women wore daggers in the front of their corsets which were often tied with a ribbon.
They would give these as relics to their favorite beaus who then sewed the string of lace on his hat; thus evolved the
modern hat band. When garment styles dictated the wearing of full skirts, corsets were essential in lending basic support
needed to carry the weight. Clothing became so layered that at times a woman’s complete apparel could weigh up to 35
pounds. In the late 19th century a few women actually had surgery to remove their lower ribs so that they could corset
their waists more tightly. Corsets began losing their popularity during World War I, but are again resurfacing. There is now
a national corset club headquartered in San Francisco.

Old fashioned corsets not unlv restrict breathing but push the internal organs up and in, all of which is necessary to
decrease one’s waistline. This technique can reduce a normal waistline down to 19” within six months. A few women
have been able to shrink their waists to 13”, however this can create internal problems and the shape created becomes
almost too exaggerated to be considered flattering. (“Corsets,” by B.R. Creations, Outcast lecture, San Francisco, August
18, 1989)

The reasons people use corsets in sex play vary. Theoretically, the restriction of the waist would force a woman to
breathe with her chest and would make some women become aroused and reach orgasm easier; it might also cause them
to experience euphoria and light-headedness during sex play. One woman enjoyed them because after exercise, such as
dancing, she would automatically experience an orgasm upon its removal. Male transvestites use corsets to shape and
contour their torso. Submissive homophobic men and lesbians are made to wear corsets during sex play as a form of
humiliation. Many simply find the binding sensation or the full rounded breasts protruding over the bra to be erotic.

(See also BINDING, BONDAGE. COSTUMES and OXYGHN PECULATION)

COSTUMES Costumes can play an important role in sex scenes. They create an illusion of sexual variety, a different sense
of oneself, and provide the proper visual effects for a theatrical sex scene.

People who use costumes to maximize or minimize their power during a theatrical scene choose costumes to aid in acting
out their role. These are characters that tend not to be too commonplace or offensive, nor so obscure as to simply
confuse one’s partner. Examples of commonplace costumes are business suits, regular military uniforms, school teacher
outfits, or construction worker gear. Religious costumes can offend some people. Costumes that are most popular in sex
play are those of Indians, cowboys, police, nurses, doctors, maids, harem girls, slaves, fetish attire, belly dancers, cross-
dressers, infantilism, nuns, priests, the renaissance era, witch trials, animals, or aliens.

People who have studied a certain period of history or particular event have an advantage in being able to set the stage
and be convincing in their portrayal of a character from that time. Knowledge of a foreign language can be beneficial as
well.

Finding or making an authentic costume can take a lot of time, research, and skill. The real authority on costumes will be
able to tell if a military uniform has the wrong buttons or insignia.

If one’s preference is for military or American western costumes, traveling gun shows are excellent resources for
information and material. They also advertise rendezvous campouts that sponsor target shooting and other contests of
skill and courage. Proper attire, weapons, and gear for that period is required. (“Clothing and Costumes,” by Karen W.,
Society of Janus lecture, September 28, 1989)

Role playing does not have to be restricted to the home. It may be done for social events that encourage costumes, such
as parades, gun shows, some sexually oriented conventions, S/M lectures, group sex houses, transvestite clubs, leather
bars, or midnight showings of The Rocky Horror Picture Show.

(See also COITUS A CHEVAL, DRAG QUEENS, FANTASY PLAY, FEMALE IMPERSONATORS, INFANTILISM and PETTICOAT
DISCIPLINE)

COURTSHIP Courtship is the act of showering attention on someone in order to receive love and/or marriage in return.
This attention often comes in the form of writing letters, staring, caressing, kissing, hand-holding, dancing, baby talk,
giving gifts, using pet names and cute phrases, and stroking the hair or face.

Courtship is the period that allows each person time to discern the sincerity of the other as well as their ability and
willingness later to commit to possible child rearing efforts. Adherence to a schedule of spending time to get to know
each other and to bond often alleviates one night stands that leave the abandoned partner feeling hurt and confused.

In the West, the romantic interest in women developed in the 12th century during the Crusades. Husbands left their
wives in charge of large estates and these women reaped the respect and admiration formerly only known to powerful
men. Women became the benefactresses of travelers, among whom were the singing minstrels or troubadours. Many of
these troubadours rewrote their ballads to express affection for matrons. The sentiment spread rapidly and rooted itself
in many European cultures.

A view of how courtship is used in nature might heighten our understanding of human behavior. One function courtship
serves is to excite both partners, providing the stimulus necessary to release the hormones that prepare the reproductive
organs for coitus and impregnation. Another function is discussed by Edward O. Wilson, in his book Sociobiology.

Pure epigamic [attracting the opposite sex during the breeding season/ display can be envisioned as a contest between
salesmanship and sales resistance. The sex that courts, ordinarily the male, plans to invest less reproductive effort in the
offspring. What it offers to the female is chiefly evidence that it is fully normal and physiologically fit .... The courted sex,
usually the female, will therefore find it strongly advantageous to distinguish the really fit from the pretended fit.
Consequently, there will be a strong tendency for the courted sex to develop coyness.... Males invest relatively little with
each mating effort, and it is to their advantage to tie up as many of the female investments as they can. This circumstance
is reversed only in the exceptional cases where males devote more effort to rearing offspring after birth. Then the females
compete for males .... At each point in time there will be a temptation for the partner with the least accumulated
investment to desert the other. This is particularly true of the male immediately following insemination (pp. 159, 162,
163).

Humans, with their intelligence, have devised legal procedures to ensure a commitment from both parties and for
financial support if the contract is broken. A dissolution is often a result of one or both partners misrepresenting
themselves, their intentions, interests, or needs.

Today, courtship can serve to build intimacy and bonding between a couple before there is a risk of pregnancy. It creates
a foundation of love that can be built on as a relationship progresses. A woman who has even once been charmed by a
romantic display of quaint courtship knows its virtues (A History of Courting, by E.S. Turner).

(See also BUNDLING, CHAPERONS, FANS, LOVE, LOVE ADDICTION, LOVE POTENTS, PERSONAL ADS, ST. VALENTINE,
SERENADES and TROUBADOURS)

COUVADE Couvade is the custom of the male joining his wife in experiencing symbolic labor and delivery during the birth
of a child. In some cases, the father would even be required to stay in bed or be isolated for a period of time after the
delivery.

This custom is widespread and of ancient origin. Early man was not always aware of the role he played in fertilization. This
ritual seems to have served in bonding him to the infant. It is also assumed to be a ritual that symbolically transferred the
wife’s pain and susceptibility toward evil spirits onto the husband. Couples exchanged clothing for the same purpose (J. G.
Frazer, 1910, Toternism and Exogamy, Vol 4, London, Macmillan).

COUVADE SYNDROME (Chipil) Men rarely practice couvade rituals today. However, many do have sympathetic
psychosomatic symptoms during the period of their wife’s pregnancy and childbirth. Many men have taken it upon
themselves to assist their wives during labor and to be present during their child’s birth. Lennart Y. Bogren, M.D. reported
that in recent studies as many as 20% of husbands suffer some type of sympathetic pain during a wife’s pregnancy. These
men tend to be those who identified more closely with their mother (“The Couvade Syndrome,” by Lennart Y. Bogren,
M.D., International Journal of Family Psychiatry, Vol 7, 1986, No. 2, pp. 123-135). Another study done in 1985 by the
University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee School of Nursing estimated that 90% of men had symptoms such as cravings for
food, weight gain, nausea, or swelling stomachs during their wives’ pregnancies.

(See also COUVADE)

CROSS DRESSING See ADOLESCENTILISM, ANDROIDISM, CORSETS, COSTUMES, DRAG QUEENS, FANTASY PLAY, FEMALE
IMPERSONATORS, GYNEMIMETOPHILIA, INFANTILISM, TRANSSEXUALS, TRANSVESTITES and VICTORIAN LACE

CUCKOLDRY This Renaissance term derives its name from cuckoo birds who select males other than their mates to father
their young. As in eugenics this practice allows them to benefit from the highest quality genes available. Women
occasionally prefer a male other than their husband to parent a child. This may inadvertently improve the gene pool but is
more often the result of a simple desire to be with or have a child by a particular lover. The “cuckold” is the hapless
husband.

(See also ADULTERY and EUGENICS)

CUM ETIQUETTE Ejaculate or vaginal secretion’s (ungation) consistency, flavor, and quantity varies from person to
person. The quantity seems to be genetic and age related. The consistency of male ejaculate changes almost immediately
after release by becoming thicker. This evidently functions as a plug to keep the sperm from dripping out of the vagina
before insemination.

The flavor of ejaculate varies and is determined primarily by the factors listed below:
BITTER: Cigarette or marijuana intake, alcohol

SHARP: Red meats, sperm, asparagus, broccoli, spinach, and some vitamins

MODERATE: Having only one or two of the Sharp ingredients and none of the Bitter ones

MILD: Vegetarian, lots of celery, no sperm

SWEET: Borderline diabetic or diabetic

A man who has ejaculated several times within a couple of days will have increasingly milder ejaculate. Partners that have
difficulty swallowing ejaculate sometimes separate it into smaller portions and swallow it a little at a time. Some people
have satisfied their curiosity about its taste by dipping their finger in their emissions and inserting it in their mouths. This
is also done while french kissing with consenting partners.

The odor of the genitals can play an important factor in flavor. The male and female both have an area around the base of
the glans penis or clitoris that produce a cheesy substance called smegma. If the foreskin and clitoral hood are not pulled
back periodically and cleaned the smegma can produce a very potent smell.

A small percentage of woman have an ejaculate from the Skene glands that surface on each side of the urethral opening.
The ejaculate is similar to the consistency of urine but has been proven through chemical analysis to be different. The
female who ejaculated in this manner was until recently considered incontinent. The amount of her ejaculate varies from
a few drops to a couple of teaspoons which shoots from the openings in the same pulsating manner that semen shoots
from the penis.

Genital secretions are used in sex games for brushing or rubbing cum onto the breasts, face, buttocks, and stomach.
People playing a dominance game occasionally ejaculate into a glass and have their partner drink it, either alone or mixed
with another liquid or food. Men are often forced to ejaculate in their own mouth for the amusement of their dominant
partner. CAUTION: Allergies to semen can cause a rash in a few people. Consumption of a partner’s secretions is not
considered a safe sex practice.

(See also CUNNILINGUS, FELLATIO and SHOWERS)

CUNNILINGUS (Clitorilingus, Gamahucheur ; Oral sex—fellatio or cunnilingus) Cunnilingus (cunnus: vulva, and lingus:
tongue) is the act of licking the female genital area and is very common throughout cultures in history.

“Empress Wu Hu, who ruled during the great Tang Dynasty (700-900 CE.), created a peculiar sexual custom designed
symbolicallv to elevate the female and humble the male...Consequently, all governmental officials and visiting dignitaries
were obliged by royal decree to pay homage to her Imperial Highness by performing cunnilingus upon her. Old paintings
depict the beautiful empress standing and holding her ornate robe open, while a high official or kuan is shown kneeling
humbly before her and lavishly applying his lips and tongue to her protruding clitoris” (The Cradle of Erotica, pp. 319-
320).

Cunnilingus is often used as a tool for men to control premature ejaculation due to the length of genital contact it takes
before their partner can orgasm, which may be twenty minutes or more.
Some prefer to clean the clitoris before engaging in cunnilingus. This is done by pulling the hood of skin back by using the
fingers to press in an outward direction or on both sides of the head until the clitoris protrudes. The area is then wiped
clean with a wash cloth or cotton swab. Caution is taken not to pull the hood back too far because like the foreskin, it can
become caught behind the corona of the clitoris. If this happens one side of the upper labia is stretched and a finger used
to gently press down on the top of the protruding clitoris.

Communication with the woman is important to learn the appropriate amount of pressure to be used against the clitoris.
Some women prefer not to have direct or firm stimulation on the clitoris until they are near the peak arousal stage. Some
find it easier to have the women demonstrate exactly how she masturbates.

Insertion of an object into the vagina or anus is not usually necessary but can enhance the sensations for some. Not all
women can have orgasms by cunnilingus, just as all men are not able to orgasm with fellatio.

The G-spot is a secondary point of stimulus. It is just inside the front wall of the vagina and feels like a round raised area
of fatty tissue about the size of a dime. About 15% of the women who have G-spot orgasms ejaculate liquid from the
Skene glands which lay on each side of the urethra. The following is a description of cunnilingus by a heterosexual male.

MALE TO FEMALE It is important to first convince some women that you love cunnilingus, the aroma and flavor of their
genitals. This can be done by telling her you love it, moaning during cunnilingus, showing her by being comfortable, with
performing cunnilingus on her while watching TV, or at other times when there is no expectation of reciprocation.
Partners may both feel less inhibited if they bathe before oral sex. If this is not done and you have a concern about the
secretions of smegma under the hood of the clitoris, the odor can be taken care of by five seconds of licking. You may
hold your breath for the five seconds, as smegma has an odor but no obvious taste. Some women have a stronger flavor
or larger amount of lubricant. Relax and enjoy getting her juices all over your face. Wiping it off, being timid, or lack of
movement will send her a negative signal. Another suggestion for etiquette involves inconspicuously getting a strand of
pubic hair out of your mouth. This can be accomplished by licking her thighs and leaving the hair there.

If your goal is to bring the woman to orgasm plan on spending five minutes to two hours. Prepare for the marathon
scenario by learning to conserve the muscles in your tongue, and using a variation of pressure and types of licking. Licking
with the relaxed flat position of your tongue is also pleasurable to your partner. You aren’t in a race. Keep your neck
supported by resting your head on the inside of her thigh as you are both on your sides. You may also switch positions
and have her squat or sit above you. You don’t have to isolate your activity to the genitals in the same way as you would
for a man. Women enjoy nongenital stimulus as well, so move around, lick the inside of her thighs, perineum, buttocks,
anus, abdomen, etc.

Begin cunnilingus with foreplay, and gradually work your way down to the genitals. Unlike many men, women enjoy being
teased by lingering on her waist, around the top of the mons pubis, and down the inside of the thighs; don’t feel you have
to immediately proceed to the clitoris. When she is ready for direct clitoral stimulus she will either tell you or signal by
pressing her clitoris toward you.

You will now be able to locate the clitoris by finding the small protrusion to the front of the genital area. Many females
will direct you by their body movement; however, ask her to put her finger on it if you can’t locate it yourself. Next, move
your tongue slowly around the vagina and into it, lick softly around the clitoris, slowing bringing the tongue closer to the
protruding clitoris, increasing pressure as your tongue comes into direct contact with it. Move your tongue in a circle
around the clitoris then rapidly go up and down or across it. If she backs away you will need to slow down. Women vary in
the amount of pressure or direct stimulus they can tolerate. For those who are extra sensitive you will need to only apply
pressure to the sides of the clitoris. Alternate licking with sucking or use a combination of the tongue and lips by following
the tongue with the lower lip and vis-a-vis. Some women enjoy being nibbled on in the genital area; however, avoid the
clitoris. You may want to delay orgasm as long as possible. Women respond to being built up by peaks of arousal in the
same manner as a man. A woman will move as long as she is stimulated. If she becomes bored or overstimulated she will
either say something or you will notice her once protruding clitoris disappear. Many women prefer to have vaginal
penetration before they orgasm rather than continued cunnilingus. The woman will usually let you know at this point, by
telling you she wants you inside or by pulling you into position. Otherwise, you will find that her clitoris swells more at
orgasm and this is the time to suck, being careful not to use the tip of your tongue as the clitoris will be extremely
sensitive at this point, and for some this is true after orgasm also.—Contributed by Pete Pappas

(See also CUM ETIQUETTE and FELLATIO)

 

CUPPING Cupping refers to placing a suction device on the skin, the purpose of which is to draw blood closer to the
surface. This was a form of bloodletting (similar to leeches) that was used in Europe, Turkey, and China as late as the 18th
century as a leading form of medicine in the treatment of a wide variety of diseases. Glass inspirator cups were placed
against a person’s oiled skin and then the inside air was heated with a small torch, creating a vacuum effect, drawing
blood to the surface in about 30 minutes. Some people in the S/M community use a mild form of cupping with the
purpose of increasing the sensitivity of the skin. Sometimes this produces such sensitivity that running a feather across
the area will produce orgasm.

The most popular cupping devices are the rubber suction cups from small Cutter snake bite kits. A larger cupping device is
sometimes made from a transmission fluid funnel. The edges of this funnel flare outward and therefore do not cut or dig
into the skin. It is adapted for sex play by putting a 3” long soft rubber tubing over the nozzle. The skin area is licked to
ensure a good seal. The funnel is placed on the area, usually a breast, and the air is sucked out through the rubber hose.
Once this is accomplished the hose is pinched shut and a flat binder clip is placed on the tip to keep in the suction. Some
hook a chain or rope onto the clamp and lead the person around the room, but the primary benefit is nipple sensitivity.
There are special cupping devices sold through S/M catalogs. These have a nozzle that is equipped with a one-way shut
off valve that leads to two plexiglass cups. Extreme pressure such as that caused by hooking up artificial vacuum devices,
like a fish tank pump, to a cup is dangerous. CAUTION: This is a blood sport and therefore not considered a safe sex
practice. Welts are common. (“Branding and Cupping,” by Fakir Musafar, Society of Janus lecture, August 8, 1991 )

(See also BITING, MASOCHISM, PHLEBOTOMY, PIERCING. PYROPHILIA and SAFE SEX)

CUTTING See CICATRIZATION and MUTILATION

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DACRYPHILIA (Dacrylagnia) Dacryphilia refers to people who become aroused by seeing tears in the eyes of their partner.
One man described his pleasure in seeing a young Asian prostitute cry as he thrust his penis into her small vagina. He had
met her at a bar earlier and she had seduced him even though he had had sex only a short time before.

(See also SADISM)

DATING SERVICES Marriage brokers have been used for centuries by parents seeking suitable alliances for their children
and now have become popular in countries where the young make their own marriage decisions. The age of computers
has made collation and matching of thousands of questionnaires simple. Some will send a club member photos of several
matches a month and a few services have video-taped interviews of members that can be viewed before making a
selection. There is usually at least one televised dating show such as the “Love Connection” where one person interviews
and selects a partner.

Special interest groups have their own services. There are interracial dating services, younger male and older female, The
Big Board in Danville California for the obese, herpes groups such as New Friends in Santa Cruz, California, bi-sexual
groups, and specific Christian or pagan dating services. There are quick and inexpensive telephone services where a
person dials a 900 number, is asked personal questions by a computer, presses the keys on the phone pad to answer, and
then is immediately matched and given several people’s phone numbers.

The clubs that offer private parties or socials can have an advantage over others since they allow people to actually meet.
This presents a distinct advantage over services which rely on matching compatible questionnaires; sexual chemistry will
only become evident in a personal meeting.

Japanese men tend to be more formal and normally family friends provide introductions, however this is not always
successful. A man named Satoshi Noguchi started a modern marriage school that teaches businessmen how to look sexy
and what to say to impress the women they meet. Armed with this knowledge and self-confidence they are sent to
compete with other men at dances and singles bars.

The common guidelines for women using dating services is that their home address is not given prior to the first date. The
first meeting is arranged in a public place and both partners should keep the appointment. Many do not.

(See.: also COURTSHIP and PERSONAL ADS) MARQUIS DE SADE Donatien-Alphonse-Francois Comte de Sade (1740-
1814) was a French nobleman and author of pornographic novels such as La Nouvelle Justine, ou les Malheurs de la
Vertu, Juliette, ou la suite de Justine, La Philosophie dans le Boudoir, Les Crimes de l‘Amour, ou le Delire des Passions, Les
120 Journées de Sodome, ou l’Ecole du Libertinage, and others.

His novels of Justine and Juliette chronicle the lives of two sisters who were separated and had to leave a convent
because of their father’s death. Justine was an innocent and naive 14 year old girl who was thrown into the clutches of
evil, being raped or violated by all those from whom she sought refuge and safety. Conversely Juliette, her older sister,
revels in vice. When they finally meet years later Juliette has led a noble and gratifying life while Justine has lived in
poverty, been tortured, and barely escaped death on numerous occasions. The moral is then divulged by a cavalier who
says: “There you see the Misfortunes of Virtue! And, my friends, the Fortunes of Vice!” as he pointed to Justine and
Juliette respectively.

De Sade was an avid reader and managed to exhaust an innumerable volume of literary works. It was through historical
records, 18th century literature, and personal contacts that he was able to compile a complete record of sexual deviances
and characters with which to fill his novels. He dramatized the sex acts by portraying them as part of a nonconsensual
torture scene ending in murder, and casting many victims as close relatives or children. One example of sexual deviance
was his story of Justine who one day while sitting on the bank of a pond:

saw a child thrown into the water. She saved it but was surprised by the angry murderer who threw the child back into the
pond and led Justine to his castle, where this monster lived alone. He had the peculiar mania of abusing each woman only
once for the sole purpose of child-rearing. The children were raised until 18 months and were then thrown by him into the
pond. At the moment he had thirty girls in his castle. He was a vegetarian and anti-alcoholist and also gave the girls plain
fare so that they would be better fit to bear children. He also bound them to a machine before coition and had them
afterwards lie in a bed for 9 days with their heads bent and feet high. That was his method of aiding conception. He
conducted his own operations and took especial pleasure in the Caesarean. Just as the choice fell upon her she was freed
by Coeur de Fer whom she had let into the castle and who gave her her freedom” (Marquis de Sade, His Life and Works,
by Dr. Iwan Bloch, p. 181).

The Marquis de Sade himself was schooled in one of the finest French colleges, and was devoted to fine arts, music,
dance, and literature. He then joined the king’s regiment in a war against Germany and rose to the rank of captain of a
cavalry regiment. It was undoubtedly during this time that he was exposed to pederasty, sexual torture, and masochism.
Flagellation was learned from his early school years and persisted as one of his sexual preferences. Once out of the
military he was forced into an arranged marriage by his father. The eldest daughter of a prominent military leader was
chosen, despite the fact that he and her younger sister had fallen in love and pleaded with both families to allow their
marriage. His mother-in-law exiled the love-struck younger daughter to a convent for the next nine years. His attempt to
locate her was not successful and he apparently turned to extreme forms of sexual diversions which resulted in a prison
sentence at 23 years of age. Of his remaining 51 years he spent 27 incarcerated, during which time he became a prolific
writer. When de Sade finally did become reunited with his original love he choreographed a death sentence and threat of
suicide to gain her sympathy and convince her to escape with him. They fled to Italy where as misfortune would have it
she died of an illness only a few months later. He was again imprisoned but later was sent to an insane asylum at
Charenton at the request of his wife and mother-in-law. The conditions here were superior to prison, and according to
letters written by the resident physician, de Sade managed to engage in unbridled perversions, became a favored poet
and dinner guest of the asylum director, and was allowed to establish and direct theatrical comedies, concerts, and balls
until near his death. He was described during this time and the periods when he was free as being charming, polite,
solemn, well groomed, handsome, and sympathetic to attractive women. While incarcerated he, like many other
prisoners, became hostile, violent, and misogynistic. It was the need to vent anger and revenge that found expression in
his novels.

De Sade’s alleged crimes consisted of sodomy, accidental poisoning of prostitutes with bonbons laced with spanish flies
(cantharis beetle), flagellation, and the cutting of a woman named Rosa Keller. His greatest offense was of a political
nature and it is thought by some historians that this was the true reason for his constant imprisonment. His insolent
political pamphlets undoubtedly provoked Napoleon who was notorious for sending even the slightest offenders to
prison without a trial.

DEFILEMENT (Anophelorastia—arousal from defilement, Mysophilia—arousal from soiled clothing) Sexual defilement
involves polluting, destroying, violating a fetish object, sex partner, or oneself (known as automysophilia). The stimulus is
similar to a mother who sees her child track mud on her new carpet; however, in this case the anxiety is transferred into a
sexual response.

Hirschfeld and Ellis cite cases of men who were sexually aroused to the extent of orgasm by cutting, burning holes with a
cigar, throwing ink, acid, or other defiling liquids onto women’s white skirts as they passed on the street. It also brings
some men pleasure for a partner’s hand to be dirty while manipulating their penis.

Urination onto a victim is a more common form of defilement. Boys become fascinated at a young age and begin by
urinating on pets, flies, or anything else within range. Adult men sometimes continue this practice and have been known
to secretly urinate on their partner while showering. Others have been caught urinating onto strangers on the street in
much the same manner as an exhibitionist.

A consensual form of erotic defilement is mud. Mud wrestling gained popularity because of the anxiety of seeing
someone getting dirty mixed with two virtually naked women groping each other. There are actually three major taboos
violated in this case (getting dirty, fighting, and pseudo-lesbianism).

Club Mud was formed in California for people who get aroused by seeing their fetishes being defiled. Boots, jeans, and
leathers are featured in the films with defilement by mud, water, crankcase oil, or urine. There is also a 900 number for
those wanting to listen to descriptions. Specific material is available for separate groups, i.e., sexual, nonsexual, and gay.
Similar clubs exist in other areas. Flint Michigan has one called Wet & Muddy Clothing Club and San Diego’s is called Mud
Buddies. More serious enthusiasts are depicted in X-rated videos where the dominant male urinates on his partner in a
barn and makes him roll in the mud and squeal like a pig.

Other types of defilement involve food. Small groups sometimes advertise for new members who are sexually aroused by
having pies thrown in their faces and for those not aroused by pies or mud, video tapes are available of women wrestling
in jello. CAUTION: Exposure to body secretions of a partner is not considered a safe sex practice.

(See also COCKTAILS, COPROGRAPHY, COPROPHILIA, MYSOPHILIA, PIE THROWING. SHOWERS, TOILET TRAINING,
UROPHILIA and WRESTLING)

DENDROPHILIA Dendrophilia refers to those aroused by trees. Trees were ancient symbols of fertility and men on certain
holy days would go into the fields and ejaculate onto the trees. Thomas Gregor, an anthropologist, spent time with the
Mehinaku tribe of South America during the 1960s and told of one folk tale involving a man with a tree: I have been able
to find only two other stories of masturbation, and in both, men are the principal actors. In one tale, we learn of a man
who discovered a remarkably gratifying hole in a tree, which he began to use to the exclusion of his wife and girlfriends. In
the second story, a man made an artificial vagina of leaves to which he became similarly attached. In both myths, the
culprits were seen by other villagers who hacked away the hole with an ax and tore the leaf vagina to shreds. In both
stories, the masturbators behaved as if their leafy companions had been real women. They wailed for the deceased plants,
cut their hair short, and took off their belts as a symbol of mourning (Anxious Pleasures, The Sexual Lives of an Amazonian
People, by Thomas Gregor, p. 67).

(See also FESTIVALS/MAY DAY, FETISHES and MARRIAGE/MOCK)

DEPILATION (Electrolysis, Shaving, Waxing; Acomoclitic—arousal from hairless genitals, Medocure—dipping or

perfuming of penis)

Depilation is the removal of hair by cutting, shaving, electrolysis, pulling, or using wax and creams. People in other
cultures have used shaving as a way to control lice. However, many types of depilation have had erotic undertones.

Shaving or removal of pubic hair was practiced in Rome, the Middle East, Japan, China, India, and North Africa. Sex in
many of these countries began during pre-pubescence before either partner had developed pubic hair. The male and
female often became conditioned to respond sexually to bald genitals. Some later in life even became impotent at the
sight of pubic hair on a partner. A few women have been known to become frigid if their partner has a hairy chest. This
problem was sometimes solved by having the man wearing a t-shirt during sex.

The act of pulling out clusters of pubic hair was used to produce an orgasm in some men. This was a service offered in
Moorish baths by women who were skilled at this art. Physicians in France during the late 16th century revived this
practice and used it as a cure for hysteria in women. Hysteria was thought to stem from sexual dysfunctions and this type
of depilation must have had what appeared to be a sobering effect.

Sex was associated with the cutting of hair in the Biblical case of Samson and Delilah. According to Jewish history Samson
was abducted by the Philistines after losing the power associated with his long hair. Delilah, a Philistine lover, cut it off
during his sleep. Samson was then used as a stud to breed strength and courage into the progeny of the Philistines. The
reason given for the Philistines having blinded Samson was to enhance his sexual response and to keep him from
discriminating between attractive and ugly women. God supposedly allowed him to commit suicide to prevent the further
parenting of a new and stronger breed of Philistine soldiers.

Depilation was used as a deterrent to sexual arousal as well. Ancient tribes often shaved the heads of wives to discourage
other men from capturing married women. The Phoenicians required any woman with an unshaven head to act as a
temple prostitute during certain seasonal rituals. Jewish women practiced head shaving upon marriage and would wear a
scarf or a wig. The Catholic Church continued to require this type of depilation for nuns as a symbol of their marriage to
Jesus.

There are case histories of men who have cut off hair of strangers in public and either had an orgasm then, or used the
hair to masturbate with later. A man in Chicago was arrested during the late 19th century for having clipped off the
tresses of over fifty women. Some paid; a woman in Paris earned money by letting men caress her long hair but had to
constantly watch the men to guard against it being clipped.

Today depilation or shaving is used in sex play as part of body worship and bondage. It may also be necessary for
aesthetics in infantilism, body painting, or transvestism. Shaving plays a practical role in wearing chastity belts or strap-on
dildos, in branding, and in piercing. A top will sometimes shave their slave to put them into a psychological role of
submission, exposure, humiliation, and shame. It may also be done to elicit fear as in the case of areola or breast shaving.
The application of lotion and baby powder prevents itching for some people. Others alleviate discomfort by using
Hibiclens, Neosporin, or apricot scrub, or shaving in the same direction as the hair grows. Cotton underwear is preferred
by some women because it reduces the sticking problem. The contrast of sensations before and after shaving is
substantial and many people consider the added sexual pleasure to be worth the effort of shaving.

The three methods used to accomplish permanent hair removal are electrolysis, thermolysis, and blend modalities which
over the period of one to two years will destroy all the hair follicles. Each method involves some type of pain and for this
reason sessions are limited to 15 to 60 minutes. The current can also be lowered to cause less pain, but then needs to be
left on each follicle longer. The old method of electrolysis took up to five minutes of current on each follicle. The blend
methods can accomplish the same effect in three seconds to a minute. Thermolysis uses alternating current and the heat
produced cauterizes the tissue, whereas electrolysis uses direct current that produces a sodium hydroxide that
decomposes the tissue. The blend modality uses a combination of the two other methods. Treatments have to be
repeated for up to two years because many hair follicles are dormant and take that long before the hair emerges. The
expense for these treatments is usually just under $60.00 an hour.

Movies and magazines are available for those interested in seeing men or women shave part or all of their bodies. There
is also an international club that is open for membership to people with this interest. CAUTION: Shaving is considered a
blood sport and therefore an unsafe sex practice. Safety razors and sterile techniques are used. Straight razors are
generally only entrusted to professional barbers.

DEVIANCE See PARAPHILIAS

DILDOS See GENITAL/ANAL INSERTS

DIPPOLDISM (Sadomasochism by proxy—arousal from watching others disciplined) Dippoldism refers to those who
become sexually aroused by beating or flagellating children. The term came into use during the early 1900s when a
notorious German tutor by the name of Andreas Dippold caused the death of one of his students. Dippold had been
entrusted with two young boys aged 10 and 14. He was reported by Magnus Hirschfeld as having tied the boys in their
beds and beaten them with rods until they broke, accusing the boys of masturbating. At other times he would grab their
genitals and squeeze until they bled; They were made to write confessions of sexual conduct and to appear naked for
different functions. One of the boys fell ill and Dippold made him rise early, take a cold shower, and do strenuous
exercises until he became unconscious and later died.
Corporal punishment has since been phased out of most schools but during the times when caning was practiced there
were numerous cases of sexual misconduct by both men and women. Children were made to strip naked, were tied
down, hands of the adult wandered down against or near the child’s genitals, and young men were sometimes allowed to
put their hands or faces against the breast of a female assistant as they were flagellated. In one instance a headmistress
allowed a banker to watch as her female students were lined up, skirts raised, and disciplined for various infractions. She
was paid weekly for this favor (Sexual Anomalies and Perversions by Magnus Hirschfeld, pp. 349-375).

Today parents are the primary disciplinarians. While few deliberately cane their children to become sexually aroused,
there are those who sometimes unconsciously become aroused. While most people would not recognize this impetus,
John Money became aware of its existence in several case studies and in a 1982 Money and Werlwas paper coined the
phrase, sadomasochism by proxy. Couples who confessed to having extremely passionate sex after whipping their
children considered their sex lives normal and would never have considered engaging in consensual S/M games.

(See also FLAGELLATION, INCEST, PARAPHILIAS, PEDOPHILIA and SADISM)

DISCIPLINE Discipline is a term used in S/M to describe rules for obedience training, and may also refer to the forms of
punishment used to enforce them. A person can not technically be a slave without some form of restriction. They must be
given regulations. These may or may not be obeyed, but the rules must be there along with an authority figure to enforce
them.

The type of punishment is determined based on the severity of the disobedience and the type of sex play that the bottom
enjoys or wants to experience. This is a game designed to create anxiety or fear and transfer it into sexual arousal and
passion. The types of punishment are also selected with this in mind. (Many S/M players, however, try to avoid games
that cause fear or anger in a partner.)

The top or master may imitate anger while disciplining their partner but will not feel it. S/M play is NOT used to work out
the top’s aggression on a victim. The top is, in reality, the servant that does everything in their power to provide the
conditions and tactile stimulation needed for the sexual pleasure of the bottom. The severity of any verbal or physical
punishment is, or should be, negotiated ahead of time. The bottom also has a safeword they can use to immediately stop
the game. (See NEGOTIATION)

Many bottoms use sex play in order to feel secure; they revert back to the relationship role of parent and child. The
bottom makes none of their own decisions, regardless of whether they are playing butter, slave, pet dog, or maid.

Other bottoms use these games to build their self esteem. This is done by flawless implementation of strict regulations
and complex instructions. They receive gratification from this accomplishment as well as by an immediate reward for
their endeavor. This type of bottom is rarely punished or likely to have an orgasm from this encounter.

Light physical punishment, if the bottom wants any type of tactile stimulation, is used with an unlimited amount of
threats. Verbal threats are the top’s best tools if they are ones that can be enacted. An example would be that of telling a
partner they have until the count of five to orgasm and if they don’t succeed the sex act is discontinued. Threats to throw
a person off a cliff are not realistic and would not be perceived as a danger by the bottom.

There are discipline organizations that train servants. Ireland has a club for women that offers Victorian domestic
discipline to maids and school girls. CAUTION: People who use humiliation spend a cooling down period at the end. For
instance, if one called their partner a slut they compliment them on their fidelity, if they said their partner was repulsive
they give an honest and flattering appraisal of the partner’s value as a person, and so forth. The wise top doesn’t use an
insult that comes too close to the truth. (“Discipline,” by Peter Fiske, QSM lecture, November 15, 1990)

(See also ALGOPHILIA, BLINDFOLDING, BONDAGE, CHASTITY DEVICES, DEFILEMENT, DOMINANCE/SUBMISSION,

HUMILIATION, INTERROGATION, PETTICOAT DISCIPLINE, PROFESSIONAL DOMINATRIX. TORTURE and VICTORIAN I.ACE)

DISEASES A French doctor named Jacques de Bethencourt named syphilis “morbus venereus” or the sickness of Venus,
goddess of love. With time the term venereal diseases (VD), came to include all sexually transmitted diseases. Today the
term VD has been changed to Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD) to reflect a broader scope of transmission. There are
currently 32 organisms and 26 syndromes that are thought to be transmitted sexually.

The following information is brief because it is not intended to be used for self diagnosis. Many other diseases have
similar symptoms and only a physician is qualified to make a diagnosis.

Diseases are transmitted primarily through an exchange of blood, genital secretions, and skin to skin contact with an
infected area. Pathogens such as viruses and bacteria do not normally penetrate through outer skin, but we are more
susceptible to sexually transmitted diseases because mucous membranes are involved. Due to the normal enthusiasm
experienced during sex, genital tissue can easily be abraded or torn. This is what makes it easier for the pathogens to
enter our bodies during sexual contact.

There are many STDs and individuals vary in the types or severity of symptoms they will suffer. Any change in the amount,
odor, or color of discharge, and inflammation or texture of the skin may indicate an infection. Physicians recommend that
people examine themselves thoroughly to determine a standard or baseline appearance in tissue and discharge. There is
a surprising number of small bumps and color variations on the genitals that seem okay now but which can cause
sleepless nights if a sex partner confides that they have been seeing someone else and they don’t have this baseline
reference.

The paramount problem in the transmission of many STDs is that they are asymptomatic (the person will have no
symptoms). This is why asking one’s partner if they are “clean” or “safe” is not a guarantee of safety. This is also why its
important to notify sex partners that may have been exposed to the disease. Most of these diseases are not fatal to an
adult and it is easy to justify avoiding the embarrassment of calling old lovers; however, they can cause sterility and other
serious complications. It is impossible to foresee how many people an ex-lover can expose to the disease.

It is everyone’s individual responsibility to practice safe sex if one is sexually active outside of a primary relationship. In
working for a national switchboard dealing with sexually transmitted diseases, I discovered that the majority of people
contracted these diseases from ‘monogamous’ partners. This is because most people let down their guard in what they
believe are monogamous relationships and therefore are at more risk when their partner strays than people who practice
safe sex in open relationships.
 

Safe sex includes things like massage, body rubbing, dry kissing, self masturbation, consensual voyeurism, exhibitionism,
or anything else where body fluids are not exchanged. Possible safe sex practices include the use of condoms, french
kissing, external water sports, and masturbating one’s partner (one can check for undetected cuts by first rubbing
peroxide on the skin). The proper use of condoms (refer to section on Birth Control—Condoms) cuts down risks, but only
if the condom covers the infected area and does not break. Spermicidal foam, cream, or jelly that has Nonoxynol 9 listed
as an ingredient can provide additional protection, although it poses a risk for some women as it can destroy bacteria and
cause vaginal yeast infections and it does not completely protect against the AIDS virus. Minimal precautions such as
washing with warm soapy water and urinating after sex will reduce the risk of other bacterial infections. Some wash a
partner’s genitals with a warm wash cloth after sex as a special way of showing affection. Douches are not recommended
for a prevention for STDs because the water can push the pathogens farther back into the vagina.

Herpes is often spread during oral sex if a partner has a history of cold sores or during unprotected genital contact with a
person who has had outbreaks. The majority of diseases are spread by people who are either not aware that they have
the disease or by ones who think they are only contagious when they have an outbreak.

The National STD Hotline provides operators who are available to answer questions and refer people to clinics or
physicians. That toll-free number is: 1-800-227-8922. People who have specific questions about AIDS may contact
operators at: 1-800-342-2437.

(See also DYSFUNCTIONS, HANDICAPS and SAFE SEX)

DOCKING Docking is a form of masturbation that involves two people, usually men. The foreskin of one partner is pulled
back and the other’s foreskin is stretched over the tip of his penis. The two penises, after being locked into place, are then
stroked so that the skin is moved back and forth over the two glans. It may not be considered docking, but a few women
have substituted a dildo for the second penis.

(See also BEE STINGS, BINDINGS, CASTRATION, CHASTITY DEVICES, CIRCUMCISION, COCKRINGS, PENILE LIGATION, PENIS
MODIFICATION, PHALLOPHILIA, SACOFRICOSIS, TESTICLES and WEIGHT TRAINING)

DOGGING (Amomaxia—sex in parked car) Dogging is the English term for a sport where people watch couples having sex
in parked cars. The couples in the cars perform for those who gather around outside their car. There are specific parking
areas that have become known for this activity and the couples identify themselves as willing to be watched by turning on
a colored interior light. Much of the same social etiquette applies here as does at group sex clubs. Touching of the
performing couple is not appreciated without their invitation, as is unnecessary noise. Those asked to leave are expected
to politely obey.

Other couples engage in oral sex or nudity on the highway for the purpose of attracting attention from truck drivers.

(See also CANDAULISM, EXHIBITIONISM and GROUP SEX)

DOMINANCE/SUBMISSION (Cataphilist and Pageism—male submitting to female, Passivism—submission, Top/

Bottom—Dominance/Submission) A role of dominance or submission is used in sex play to increase the intensity of
emotions and bonding of partners. Dominance in any arena usually involves control which is reinforced by threat of
emotional or physical pain.

Dominance and submission both seem to fall into a human’s need for security. Clans of primates or groups of animals
usually have a dominant figure who regulates the behavior of others. Nature seems to have designed the brain of most
species to produce a pleasure response to either type of behavior if engaged in by parties who trust and care for each
other. Submission may be induced primarily by accompanying forms of stimulus such as a loss, restriction, or humiliation.
Laboratory tests on mice revealed that in a fight endorphins (pleasure response) are released in the injured mouse only at
the point of submission. Thus submission, rather than pain, was the critical factor in creating a euphoric response. (See
ALGOPHILIA)

Dominance can produce euphoria because it is associated with attainment of a goal, or an object of security. A person
who loses control over one facet of their life often tries to compensate for it by overcontrolling in a different area. This
behavior may manifest itself in abused children with something as simple as consistent and compulsive placement of
shoes in a closet. However, in an adult relationship this compulsive behavior is often acted out through demands and
manipulation of another person. Here dominance serves to re-establish a feeling of security or self esteem for the person
under stress.

Sexual dominance and submission are used to enhance the role of the characters in fantasy play. Costumes are often
used to reinforce each role and makes physical or verbal abuse less necessary. Costumes that project power include
policemen, military, doctors, and black leather. Accoutrements used to enforce submission are diapers, feminine lingerie,
whips, slave or dog collars, and bondage equipment. A dominant who is only experienced in corporal punishment would
not be a match for a submissive who follows orders perfectly and is not into pain. Alternately, a submissive who enjoys
punishment for misbehaving or verbal warfare is not a match for a dominant who can’t handle competition for control.

The submissive controls the intensity and direction of the game. People often select roles because it provides a change
from the ordinary. People who have inhibitions or guilt associated with sexual experimentation find that this seems to
relieve them of personal responsibility for their actions. Total sexual submission is used by some as a way to express love.
A person who lets a partner put a dog collar on them feels they are expressing love in a way that words never will. This is
perhaps why submissives can sometimes appear to go to extremes.

Dominant sex play is also often engaged in as an entertaining way to refine the management skills needed in all types of
professions.

(See also ALGOPHILIA, BLINDFOLDING, BONDAGE, CHASTITY DEVICES, COITUS A CHEVAL, DEFILEMENT,
DOMINANCE/SUBMISSION, HUMILIATION, INTERROGATION, PETTICOAT DISCIPLINE, PROFESSIONAL DOMINATRIX,
TORTURE and VICTORIAN LACE)

DOMINATRIX, PROFESSIONAL A professional dominatrix, or mistress, is a woman who is paid to act out an S/M scene
with a client. It is much less common to find women who will play the submissive role as this entails much more risk to
her health. Those who do submit or bottom rarely work alone. Professional dominatrixes are not considered prostitutes
and remain legal so long as they do not engage in sex. The fee for a session ranges between $100- 150 an hour depending
on the location, type of equipment, whether photos are taken, and the dominatrix’ reputation. The woman learns her
profession by either having been involved in S/M previously, having an S/M friend teach her, or by beginning work in an
established “dungeon” or organized S/M house that hires and trains dominatrixes. The house gets approximately half of
the fee and the professional dominatrix the balance, including tips. One can make a substantial income with a full
schedule, although most see only one or two clients a day and spend a lot of time waiting on no-shows. A good
dominatrix is intelligent, quick witted, and creative. She has to be good at improvisation to keep clients aroused,
submissive, and entertained for an hour. This is much more demanding and difficult than sex.

Europe has many attractive, skilled, and well known dominant professionals. The United States seems to have fewer
women enter the profession and fewer still that remain. One reason is that many are unwilling to participate in the
variety of practices for which Europeans are known to engage. There are only a few American dominatrixes that have
gained a national reputation.

Mistresses find clients by referrals and advertising in fetish magazines or newspapers. Mistresses as well as clients come
from all social and professional groups. The only prerequisite for the client is that they pay, obey the no sex, drugs, or
alcohol rules, and inform the mistress of acts or humiliation they do not find erotic. The dominatrix should have some
knowledge of S/M, bondage and discipline, and safety. In addition, a safeword is assigned that will immediately end the
game. The dominatrix has to appear or sound authoritative and in control of the submissive client. A professional can
develop such an expertise at dominance and aloofness that often clients complain that she doesn’t seem to enjoy the
session. Costumes are important to set the proper tone. Black leather, latex, or a whip symbolizes authority and restraints
placed on a client ensure submission. It appears that the largest percentage of clients engage in bondage, corporeal
punishment, anal play, and cross dressing during the sessions.

Men who are not able to visit professional dominatrixes are provided with optional methods to experience this type of
arousal including audio tapes and personal letters. Regular phone sex businesses may have women experienced in
domination and some may specialize exclusively in these types of fantasies. (Personal communication with Lady Tanith,
California, June 8, 1991.)

Gini Graham Scott, Ph.D., a sociologist-anthropologist, documented her study of dominant women and submissive men in
her book titled Erotic Power, An Exploration of Dominance & Submission. In this book she interviews professional
dominatrixes and their clients as well as non-professionals who find this lifestyle fascinating.

(See also DISCIPLINE, DOMINANCE/SUBMISSION and WORSHIP)

DORAPHILIA (Hyphephilia—arousal from touching skin, hair, leather, fur or fabric) Doraphilia (dora: skin, philia:
attachment to) is the love of fur or skin. This attraction is usually for animal skin or leather, which has been used as
clothing throughout human existence. It is considered a fetish when it has to be present during sex. Human skin holds a
fascination for some people. The 1950s sex criminal, Edward Gein, who derived pleasure from skinning female corpses he
exhumed from local graves and then wearing them like a garment, is reported to have become fascinated with the idea of
changing himself from male to female. There have been cases where people have used human skin to make purses, lamp
shades, belts, and upholstery. This was apart from similar things done to men with tattoos during the Holocaust. Captain
John Bourke wrote of human flesh being used as girdles or mummies that were worn by pregnant women to assist them
in labor.

The feel and smell of leather gives many people a feeling of power. Some explain this as subconsciously taking on the
character of the animal with whose skin they cloak themselves. This was a common belief of holy men during their
ancient religious ceremonies. The Roman emperor Nero dressed in an animal skin and then emulated the beast’s
ferocious behavior as he sexually assaulted the people he had tied to stakes.

An explanation for the continued appeal of leather or fur is that some people feel secure and nurtured by being wrapped
in skin, a sort of surrogate mother effect. Clinical studies showed that rhesus monkeys who had their mothers replaced by
inanimate objects responded better or clung to the ones that were wrapped in some type of fur.

Many people who use leather for erotic feelings or as a symbol of their sexual power prefer the color black. The motives
behind this preference are not clear. Historical facts regarding the color reveal that the ancient Egyptians revered the
color as a sign of fertility because black was the color of the rich soil along the Nile. This may also be the origin of the
black gowns used in witchcraft or other ancient religions. The Japanese, some Egyptians, American Indians, Christians,
and Hindus saw it as a sign of destruction or death. Europeans dressed in black garments to attend funerals so that they
would not be recognized as human and harmed by ghosts. Conversely, black Africans dressed in white clothing at funerals
for the same reason. Today black is perceived as a symbol of evil, elegance, authority, and religion (Stories Behind
Everyday Things, by J. Polley, ed., Reader’s Digest).
Erotic leather apparel can be purchased at some lingerie and leather shops or ordered from Europe. Leather jock straps
(some with chrome studs), bikini panties with zippered crotches, body suits, bras, corsets, dresses, skirts, pants exposing
the rear, costumes, and accessories are all available.

(See BINDINGS, BULL FIGHTS, FETISHES and ZOOPHILIA)

DOUCHES A douche is a jet of liquid that penetrates into the vagina or rectum. Douches are used for hygiene, birth
control, and sex games.

ANAL Anal enemas are often referred to as douches by gay men. These are done for hygienic purposes prior to anal
intercourse. This differs from klismaphilia (enemas) which is part of the sex play and is administered by a partner.

GOLDEN DOUCHE This is another type of douching used in sex play. It is the act of urinating directly into the vagina or
anus after ejaculation. The partner has the sensation of being filled with semen for a second time. This is mechanically
difficult and something very few men accomplish. CAUTION : Golden douches are not considered safe sex.

VAGINAL There are sex games where people insert the top rim of a champagne bottle into a partner’s vagina and drain
the contents. The champagne is then sucked out of the vagina. Vaginal douching is most often used as a method of birth
control. This is often not effective because it takes as little as two minutes for sperm to enter the cervical canal. CAUTION:
Frequent douching is not recommended by physicians as the vagina cleans itself by a natural flow of lubricants. The
vagina also has a regulated amount of bacteria and chemicals that can be thrown out of balance by spermicides, alkaline,
and deodorant douches. Women wearing an IUD are particularly discouraged from this practice. Commercial deodorants
and douches have been known to prevent conception in otherwise fertile women. A more serious risk is that of having
the liquid, under high pressure, enter into the uterus, Fallopian tubes, and eventually the peritoneum, where it can cause
serious damage and possibly require surgery.

(See also BIRTH CONTROL, KLISMAPHILIA and STUFFING)

DRAG QUEENS (Cross-dressing—wearing clothing of the opposite sex or age group, Gynemimesis—female impersonation
in male who is unable to become sexually aroused by females) Drag queens vary in style and purpose. There are gays who
dress as women, male prostitutes who are trying to pass as female, and others who find the character change cathartic,
challenging, amusing, or entertaining.

Drag queens who enjoy entertaining frequent bars, parades, fairs, or other events where they can perform. One San
Francisco area drag queen had developed several characters and used them according to which event and statement he
wanted to make. He attended the gays’ protest demonstration against a group of fundamentalists as an omnisexual that
was half feminine and half masculine (i.e. corset and jock strap). This was a character that could flirt with any sex and did.
He attended the Folsom Street Fair as Mrs. Trauma Flintstone, who being recently divorced from an abusive husband,
didn’t care at all about sex but loved to sing and perform for the crowd.

Male prostitutes who are attracted to heterosexual men are sometimes successful in hiding their male genitals when they
restrict their activity to fellatio and keep the partner’s hands out of their panties. Drag queens have become the rage in
Italy, where heterosexuals prefer their outrageous costumes and the fact that they can have sex with a man without
feeling particularly gay themselves. Often men who live in countries where females are expected to be virgin upon
marriage are more tolerant of prostitutes and drag queens. A man in these cultures is not considered gay unless he takes
the receptive role.
Gays are divided on whether they want a partner to dress in female attire. A gay male in Utah enjoyed preparing candlelit
dinners for his date and meeting him at the door in women’s lingerie. His dates had reactions that ranged from pleasure
and amusement to indifference or disgust.

(See also TRANSVESTITES)

DUNGEONS A dungeon is a room that is specially furnished for sexual activity.

The room is designed to offer complete privacy and some have additional sound-proofing. Equipment and toys may or
may not be displayed. People decorate their dungeons to look like medieval torture chambers, stages, barns, child’s
rooms, guest bedrooms, special fantasy scenes, or they just take a room and hang a collage of their favorite equipment
on the walls.

Dungeons may be used exclusively by the owners and their guests, rented to friends, the public, or clubs for play parties
and lectures. The basic rental dungeon will include hooks and chains in the ceiling for suspension, a 6”x6” beam for
standing bondage (probably wrapped with rope for comfort), a mattress, wall mirrors, a chair, and bathroom. Extra items
may include a hanging chair swing, rape rack, body harness, cage, box, stocks, gynecological exam table, hospital gurney,
dental or barber chair, and stereo. People usually supply their own costumes, flagellation equipment, or toys.

The two sketches of dungeons show the diverse range of possibilities. One dungeon displays an array of S/M equipment,
such as a mask, cane, riding crop, ostrich feather, candle, lubricant, puppet, mirror, scarf tie, 4 bed posts, razor and basin,
brush, hooks for suspension, bridle, slave collar, leash, bull whip, penis whip, and horse. The other dungeon has a wall
mirror, hanging chair sling, 6”x6” beam with chains, and wrist straps.

(See also BONDAGE, FANTASY PLAY, FLAGELLATION, GENITAL/ANAL INSERTS, KNIVES, MEDICAL SCENES, PROFESSIONAL
DOMINATRIX and SWINGS)

DYSFUNCTIONS Sexual dysfunctions are either physical or psychological. A few are listed as follows:

 
AZOOSPERMIA Azoospermia is the partial or total absence of spermatozoa in ejaculate. It is caused by a blockage
between the testicles and urinary tract or can be caused by testicles that do not produce spermatozoa. Azoospermia
sometimes responds to treatment or surgery.

CRYPTORCHIDISM Cryptorchidism is the failure of one or both testicles to descend after a male is born. If the testicle fails
to drop into the scrotum before puberty, it will be sterile and will eventually atrophy. Surgery is usually successful when
done early. Later, plastic testicles can be surgically implanted into the scrotum for aesthetic purposes. Hitler was thought
to have had only one descended testicle, although his close friends denied this as propaganda.

EPISPADIAS Epispadias occurs if the urethra opens up on the upper surface of the penis instead of extending through the
center to the tip of the glans penis. This condition is called hypospadias when the urethra opens on the underside of the
penis. Both conditions can be corrected by surgery.

FILARIASIS This is commonly referred to as elephantiasis and is an enlarging of an arm, leg, or scrotum caused by a
prolonged obstruction of circulation in the lymphatic vessels by filarial worms. It is common in tropical countries and is
carried by mosquitoes. The scrotum of some men becomes so large that they have to be carried in wheel barrows.

GYNECOMASTIA is the condition where a male will have enlarged breasts. It is caused by fatty deposits and can occur in
eunuchs or men being treated with female hormones to arrest prostate cancer. This condition is also common in boys
during puberty but will usually disappear itself within a few months. Male hormone treatments are available for those
who become concerned with their condition.

PENIS DEVIATIONS This deviation refers specifically to bent penises. One may be born with this or it can be caused later
due to an injury. It can be sustained during sex by the penis being bent into a crooked position, occur as a result of natural
hardening of the corpora cavernosa when a man grows older, or due to an illness such as Peyronie’s disease. Most
deviating penises curve toward the body when erect but a small percent curve forward, sometimes making entry and
thrusting painful for a partner. The direction a penis curves in this case may simply be due to the position the man kept
his penis in as a child. For example, a forward curving penis can sometimes be caused by a boy tucking his penis back
between his legs. A urologist can be consulted if the bend seems abnormal.

PRIAPISM Priapism is the condition where the penis stays erect. This is often painful and can be caused by acute cases of
gonorrhea, leukemia, prostate problems, spinal injuries, or an overdose of drugs that treat impotence. At one time
leeches were used to suck out the blood. Today common treatments include wrapping with elastic bandages, cold baths,
and sometimes surgery.

RETROGRADE EJACULATION This is an ejaculation where the sperm is pushed into the bladder instead of out of the
urethra. It occurs when the internal bladder sphincter opens and the external urethral sphincter closes, causing the
semen to enter the bladder. This condition may be caused by injury, diabetes, use of some tranquilizers, or prostate
surgery. For couples wishing to have children it is possible for a physician to immediately remove semen from the bladder
with a tube and insert it into the female partner’s vagina.

SIAMESE DEFORMITIES Daniel P. Mannix, in his book, FREAKS: We Who are Not as Others, mentions a man named
Frank Lentini who had two complete sets of genitais. Lenuni was born in 1889 as a partial siamese triplet. The only
portions of the parasitic brothers that attached themselves to Lentini were a set of genitals, a leg, and two feet. Lentini
joined the circus at a young age and earned a fortune with his performances. There is no information as to whether both
penises were functional, however, he did marry and father four children.

SPERM DEFECTS Sperm itself can be defective and not capable of fertilization. They can become two-headed, tailless,
small or large headed. None of these conditions facilitate the rapid movement necessary to enter and reach a waiting
egg. The mucosal plug that blocks the entrance of the cervix likewise acts as a screening mechanism, allowing only
healthy and well formed sperm to enter. (How to Get Pregnant by Sherman J. Silber, M.D.)

(See also DISEASES and HANDICAPS)

DYSMORPHOPHILIA (Morphophilia-arousal from person with a different physique) Dysmorphophilia (dys: abnormal,
morphe: form, philia: attachment to) refers to those who are sexually aroused by deformities in their partners. These may
include things such as club feet, scars, dwarfs, mastectomies, hunchbacks, etc. There are bordellos that cater to these
tastes and recently a London fashion magazine featured photos of models with long fake noses or ears.

The attraction to people who possess these features is similar to the attraction of those who find amputees appealing.
For some the strong sense of compassion or fear may condition them to overreact later and possibly confuse this
excitement with sexual arousal. Others feel emotionally secure or in control when their partner does not have the
perceived ability to leave them for someone else. Others need to nurture or rescue a sex partner to feel love or bonding
and some are simply attracted by novelty.

(See also ACROTOMOPHILIA, APOTEMNOPHILIA, CASTRATION, CHUBBY CHASER, HERMAPHRODITE, PARAPHILIAS,

PODOPHILIA and TRANSSEXUALS)
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ECOUTEURISM Ecouteurism is similar to acousticophilia in that sounds arouse the person. However, ecouterism is
nonconsensual and the stimulus comes more from this fact rather than from what is heard. This is similar to the
kleptophile who is aroused by the danger and courage involved in stealing rather than by the object they steal. This is also
true of a peeping Tom, exhibitionist, or obscene phone caller. Similarly, an ecouteurist will use the stimulus from
eavesdropping as an aid for masturbation.

Sexual ecouteurism involves intentionally listening to someone else’s personal conversations or sexual exploits through
doors, walls, telephone lines, and with special electronic listening devices. Some of these devices look somewhat like a
megaphone and are capable of picking up low level noise from 100 feet away. An ecouteurist may be a voyeur as well, but
the two do not always occur simultaneously.

Many people are aroused unintentionally by overhearing a couple engaging in sex from an adjoining bedroom or when
attending a group sex function. This is a normal reaction for most people.

(See also CANDAULISM, COPROLALIA, JACTITATION and VOYEURISM)

ELECTRIC SHOCK (Electrophilia-arousal from electricity)Electric shock is used as a form of titillation or light torture
depending on the amount of voltage chosen by the recipient. This type of sex play always elicits some type of excitement;
however, technical knowledge of the apparatus and a partner’s physical safety is essential. Many scientists have
accidently been executed while experimenting with electricity. Benjamin Franklin was probably the first to deliberately
use it to take life as he experimented with animals. A century later, in 1886, a scientist employed at Edison’s laboratory
patented the electric chair. After demonstrating the chair to a government commission by electrocuting a cow and a
horse, he took this act on the road to entertain crowds throughout the United States.

This contraption was endorsed by the government and prisoners began being executed in this manner, soon rendering
hangings obsolete. Humans electrocuted in these chairs were given 1,700 volts of alternating current for 30 seconds.
Unconsciousness was almost immediate and death came in 2- 3 seconds. The approach was merciful when the system
functioned correctly; of course, there were prisoners that had to be electrocuted twice.

Shock as a form of sex play is a modified and safe version of the types of electrical shock government officials used in
different countries to interrogate political prisoners and by American prison guards to control their prisoners.

Most devices used in sex play are inconsequential by comparison. They are small battery operated gadgets that resemble
a flashlight. Other devices, such as the titolator, two-celled cattle prods, used medical machines, and telephone magnetos
(which are used to make shock units that feature a hand crank and wire contact) can be purchased or modified. The
lubricant or solution used on the electrodes that touch the body have a salt content; some simply add salt to KY-gel or
aloe vera.

It is dangerous to place the electrical contacts above the waist. The reason for this is that electric current travels from one
contact point directly to the other. Therefore, to avoid the risk of the current passing near or through the heart the
contacts are never placed on the chest, arms, or nipples. Both people take time before the shock treatment to make a
final safety check for liquids or metal objects that could be touching their bodies.
House current with isolation or GFI (ground fault interrupters) and transformers are mandatory. DC batteries are safer
but many complain that they create skin burns and the person usually only feels the power come on and go off. Human
tissue varies in the amount of resistance (measured in ohms) it gives to electrical current; therefore, what is safe for one
person may cause injury to others. Some tops prefer to give the control of the rheostat to the bottom. This makes the
person responsible for their own decisions (“The shocking art of electrical torment” by Fledermaus, Dungeon Master No.
8, January 1981, p. 18).

The Japanese use a special battery operated device to induce orgasm in men. This box has two wires with electrodes, one
is attached to the end of the penis and the other is inserted into the rectum. The man then regulates the current with a
rheostat until orgasm. This device is used by physicians to eject sperm from impotent men to use for artificial
insemination and similarly by veterinarians for breeding livestock. American inventors sold an electrical device in the early
20th century making boasts, backed by a guarantee, that it not only cured impotency and nocturnal emissions, but could
increase the size of men’s organs as well. (EROS, by R. Ginzburg, Spring, 1962) CAUTION: People have died from
miscalculating voltage and time restrictions while masturbating alone. (“Electrical Applications,” by J. Bruce, QSM lecture,
December 2, 1990)

(See also ALGOPHILIA, GENITAL/ANAL INSERTS, INTERROGATION, POWER TOOLS, SAFE SEX, SENSORY ENHANCEMENT and
TORTURE)

EMETOPHILIA (Roman shower) Emetophilia (emein: to vomit; philia: attachment to) refers to those who are aroused by
vomit or vomiting. These people usually ingest wine or urine and then vomit it out; sometimes onto their partner. A few
men have deliberately encouraged their date to overeat and drink. Afterward, using this condition to stimulate vomiting
by using their penis during fellatio to start a gag reflex in their partner.

(See also SHOWERS)

ENDYTOPHILIA (Endytolagnia) Endytophilia refers to people who prefer their sex partners to be dressed rather than
naked. (See CHEMISE CAGOULE, FETISHES and TRANSVESTITES)

ENEMAS See KLISMAPHILIA

EROTIC BALLS There are several world renowned erotic balls. The San Francisco Exotic Erotic Ball is held every year for
Halloween and New Year’s Eve. Thousands of people with exotic costumes crowd into large warehouses near the wharf.
Constance Enterprises hosts an annual Fall fetish costume ball and fashion show in New York. The author of The Safer Sex
Maniac’s Bible, Miss Tuppy Owens, sponsors an annual Sex Maniac’s Ball in London as a fund-raiser for people with
disabilities. Guests wear costumes from their favorite fantasies. The Eccentric Fashion Show attracts people to
Switzerland every year and Melbourne Australia hosts an annual Hookers and Deviants Ball.

Many of the sex oriented symposiums such as Lifestyles and the National Sexuality Symposium have a Saturday evening
erotic ball for attendees.

The San Francisco Exotic Erotic Ball has been compared to an indoor Rio Carnival; however, the Latins wear more
revealing costumes. Attendance at this Halloween ball begins with waiting in line outside the building for up to an hour.
At least, unlike theatre lines, this one is quite entertaining—or enough so that crowds of spectators gather around all
evening to catch glimpses of what people are wearing under their trench coats. People finally enter the gigantic rooms
already filled with thousands of excited voices and music from live bands. Most people either take photos or model.
Photographers often convince women to pose in an erotic fashion for them or with them. People wear costumes of
vegetables, vampires, witches, monsters, cave men, half naked brides, human dildos, robots, doctors, and priests. The
S/M and leather people attend in their regular playwear. One year a dominatrix gave a whipping and fisting
demonstration with her slave, but this is a rare event. Ordinarily the most one sees is an occasional couple discreetly
engaging in fellatio or lap dancing. The crowd begins to thin at midnight and those remaining are often inebriated.

(Sec also SEX CLUBS, SEX CONFERENCES, SEX HOTELS and SEX SHOWS)

EROTICA Erotica is a term that currently refers to literature or photography that depicts sex in a more subtle or socially
redeeming manner than does pornography.

(See also PORNOGRAPHY)

EROTOGRAPHOMANIA Erotographomania refers to a strong desire to write love letters or poems. This was more
common before the invention of the telephone.

(See also COPROGRAPHY, COURTSHIP, JACTITATION, OBSCENE PHONE CALLS and PHONE SEX)

EROTOMANIA (De Clerambault’s syndrome, Groupies, Old Maid’s Insanity, Psychose passionelle)

Erotomania (abnormally strong sexual desire) is a term that has come to refer to someone who develops an
“overwhelming conviction, amounting to a delusional belief,” that someone with whom he or she has little or no actual
contact is deeply in love with him or her (“De Clerambault’s Syndrome,” by Joyce L. Dunlop, MA, MB, BCh. BAO,
MRCPsych, DObst. RCOG, British Journal of Sexual Medicine, August 1989, pp. 306-7). This person’s love objects are often
prominent figures who are not even conscious of their existence other than the fan’s repeated letters and appearance at
stage doors waiting for autographs or souvenirs. Some may throw underwear at their love object as they perform on
stage. Gloria Estefan is said to have at least twelve pairs of men’s underwear thrown at her feet per performance. (Of
course, not everyone throwing underwear at a performer has the delusion that the performer returns their admiration.)
P. Ellis and G. Mellsop listed eight criteria for this syndrome:

delusions of amorous communication which have not been initiated by the patient

higher rank of love object as perceived by the patient

perceived approach by the other person

sudden onset

single unchanged object

explanations of paradoxical behavior given by the patient

chronic course

absence of hallucinations

(“De Clerambault’s Syndrome—A Nosological Entity?”; by Ellis P., Mellsop G., Br J Psych, 1985; 146: 90-93).

People who suffer from erotomania have a similar background to those who are attached to fetishes. They generally
experience some type of isolation or emotional distancing from parents while young. A normal relationship is difficult and
each has replaced their need for love with a fantasy object.

Problems not only arise from the fan’s efforts to spend time with the celebrity but also when the fan’s love turns to
revenge because of perceived rejection. Several movie stars have been assaulted and some murdered due to this
psychosis. The erotomaniac does not always return the affection they think the other person gives them. Jonathan H.
Segal, M.D. included an example of one of these cases in the October 1989 issue of American Journal of Psychiatry
146:10:

Ms. B, a 65-year-old retired clerk, was admitted for psychiatric treatment following her attack on an elderly bank manager
who lived in her apartment building. She claimed that although he had never spoken to her out loud, he had been
contacting her telepathically for months with romantic messages; she ‘hinted’ that these messages contained sexual
overtones. She said that she could tell he was interested in her by the way he looked at her. After she accosted him several
times to protest, he denied any interest in her and obtained a restraining order barring any contact between them. Unable
to restrain her indignation, she followed him to his office, leaped at him across his desk, and allegedly tried to strangle
him. Later, however, she admitted only to having touched his tie... (Erotomania Revisited: From Kraepelin to DSM-III-R, p.
1264).

(See also FETISHES, LOVE, LOVE ADDITION and PARAPHILIAS)

ESSAYEURS Essayeurs were men whose services were retained by Parisian brothels. It was their responsibility to fondle
the prostitutes and engage in overt sexual behavior in front of timid male clients. This relaxed the clients enough for them
to participate themselves. This is the same psychology used by some casinos when they employ shills to encourage others
to gamble.

(See also BORDELLOS, CANDAULISM, PIMPS and PROSTITUTION)

EUGENICS Eugenics refers to the philosophy that offspring should be controlled for genetic purity. This has been
attempted throughout history by several methods. Nature usually destroys its weak or diseased by spontaneous abortion
or miscarriage. Deformed infants who escaped nature’s selection process were often disposed of after birth.

There are several men who have gained notoriety for their belief in eugenics. A respected lawyer in ancient Greece,
Lycurgus, favored preconception selection and encouraged weak or old men to let younger men impregnate their wives in
order to improve the race. Much later, John Noyes, founder of the late 19th century Oneida Community, implemented
the practice of propagation by scientific selection. A limited number of healthy men in this community were allowed to
impregnate women, although all were allowed to perform a type of coitus reservatus with consenting women.
Conjugation could last an hour with the purpose of letting the woman have as many orgasms as possible during this
period of time. However, the man himself was not allowed to ejaculate even after withdrawal and masturbation was
forbidden.

The Nobel Sperm Bank was founded in 1980 by Robert Graham in Escondido California. Graham believed that for a Nobel
winner or other notable achiever to die with only a few heirs, or perhaps none, was a sad waste of genes.

There is controversy about whether intelligence and achievement is genetic and concern over the pressure some parents
put on children who are conceived for this purpose.

(See also BIRTH CONTROL, CUCKOLDRY, LESBIANS and SPERM BANKS)

EUNUCHS A eunuch is a man who does not have functioning testicles, or whose testicles and/or penis have been
removed.

The worshipers of Aphrodite, the Goddess of Love, had an annual ceremony where a young priest was sacrificed and in
the ensuing frenzy other men would cut off their penises and splatter the blood on her statue as their personal sacrificial
offering. Those surviving then joined her service as eunuch priests.

The eunuch priests of Cybele conducted similar rites, offering their severed penises on her altar and afterward adopting
women’s clothing, and dedicating themselves to temple service which often included prostitution. The Catholic Church
has a law that no pope may rule who has been castrated or whose genitals are otherwise deformed. Cardinals at one time
acted as inspectors and would walk past the pope, who sat in a special chair exposing his genitals, confirming their
approval by chanting “testiculos habet et bene pendentes.”
 

It became common for slave traders to castrate male slaves. These were then sold throughout the Middle East as guards,
servants, and managers. The orient commonly used castrated men as servants, cooks, musicians, guards, executioners,
and torturers. The use of slaves in harems began in the 7th century and still exists in parts of Africa and Saudi Arabia.

Middle Eastern eunuchs were able to gain political power within the confines of the harem and many acquired great
wealth and status. A black Turkish eunuch, Kislar Agha, came to exercise supreme power and when he died, left a sum of
30,000,000 piasters along with many other riches. He had been purchased for 30 piasters. Other eunuchs led revolutions,
deposed sultans, or were given respectable titles and very high ranks. As late as 1877 a head eunuch, Hafiz Beheram, was
said to have more power than the Grand Vizier or Prime Minister. The hiring of eunuchs in the Church was finally
forbidden by Leo XIII in 1878; primarily to end the misuse of castrati.

(Refer also to CASTRATION, CELIBACY and HAREMS)

EXECUTIONS Some people experience vicarious stimulation through watching others face death by execution. Once a
person becomes anxious it is possible to transpose any of the basic emotions caused by the fight, flight, sex response. The
spectators at a public execution who might have been angered by the crime of the victim may also feel avenged by the
death; sympathy is absent.

Casanova and Hirschfeld were only two who wrote about women who masturbated while viewing or waiting for the finale
of an execution and the orgies that followed. Englishmen knew that to break down a woman’s resistance or scruples he
simply had to get her to attend a public execution. This was said to work much more efficiently than wine.

The Romans mixed violence and lust at their Theatre on a much grander scale. The games involved rape of children by
men and beasts, followed by mutilation and murder. Even the Empresses Messalina and Theodora masturbated and had
sex in the stands while watching the events. Daniel Mannix, in his book Those About to Die, told of young boys who
learned to position themselves next to unescorted women and when they became overly ecstatic at the sight in the arena
the boy seized the opportunity to grab and fondle them. Prostitutes worked below the stands and lined the roads leading
out of the arena to service the numerous men who as yet had not relieved themselves. The Romans were not all mere
spectators; there were those who enjoyed molesting and taunting prisoners as they were marched into the arena to face
death. Mannix, in addition to describing the Roman lust for executions, cited an example during the 20th century of the
wife of an officer at Buchenwald, who would in a similar fashion fondle prisoners on their way to the gas chamber.

Castrations, tortures, and hangings were public spectacles in the States until quite recently. In 1936 20,000 people
gathered to watch the hanging of a 22 year old who had murdered an elderly woman in Kentucky. Once “pronounced
dead, souvenir hunters fought over the hood that covered his head, ripped off pieces of his clothing and even tried to cut
chunks of flesh from his hanging body” (The Encyclopedia of American Crime, p. 241). R.E.L. Masters and Allen
Edwardes, in their book Perverse Crimes in History, wrote of the Arab-Israeli conflict when scores of stripped and
castrated Haganah men were photographed by Muslims. These photos of dead and mutilated Jews were reproduced and
sold. The public purchased them “like hotcakes.”

Military leaders were usually aware of the death/sex phenomenon among soldiers in action and provided prostitutes,
permitted rape, slavery, and marriage of the conquered. At other times military leaders, influenced by religious zealots or
Victorian physicians, imposed severe penalties for those who engaged in any form of immorality or sex.

(See also BULL FIGHTS, LUST MURDER, MORTALITY, NECROPHILIA and PARAPHILIAS)
 

EXHIBITIONISM (Peodeiktophilia—arousal from shocking others with exposure of genitals) An exhibitionist or scopophile
is one who derives erotic pleasure from the display of genitals or other body parts that are normally considered taboo.
Exhibitionism is common among primates and humans as foreplay. The exhibitionists, however, usually expose
themselves without the consent of their audience or the intent of consummating the act.

Historically exhibitionism has been an essential part of certain fertility rites or worship service to gods who themselves
were represented with exposed organs. Fertility gods are still worshiped in parts of the world. East Indian priests during
the early 20th century would walk through the streets naked ringing bells to call out female devotees from their homes.
The women would then pay reverence to the priest’s reproductive organ by embracing it. Women, in a few societies, use
the exposure of their genitals to catch the eye of a favored male. Ford and Beach wrote of the West African Dahomean
women using this method. Those belonging to a serpent cult wore a short shirt and would drop it to expose their genitals
to any man catching their eye. Blackwood describes a method used by females of the Kurtatchi [Solomon Islands]:

A woman desiring sexual intercourse with a man who does not make advances to her will, when opportunity arises, lie
down in his presence with her legs apart, a position otherwise regarded as indecent.... If a woman exposes her genitals,
even unwittingly, as in sleep, the situation is liable to be taken advantage of by any man whose passions may thereby be
aroused (Both Sides of Buka Passage, by B. Blackwood, p. 125).

There are many degrees of exhibitionism and reasons or benefits obtained therefrom. The act may be consensual or
nonconsensual ; however, it must provide enough perceived ego boost, novelty, embarrassment, defilement, or other
discomfort to produce the high level of stimuli needed to create the physical sensations necessary for orgasm. If the
display or act does not produce the amount of adrenalin and hormones needed for a psychic or genital orgasm, the
individual will supplement with masturbation, sex with a partner, or end the experience with whatever level of arousal
was produced.

A certain amount of preliminary anxiety or arousal is present with exhibition, as with many other forms of anticipated sex.
An exhibitionist will become stimulated as they plan what to wear, where to flash, and to whom or what type of person
they want to flash. Coordinating the right sequence of events and location can add to the tension. The exhibitionist will
get some level of excitement from the experience whether they are successful in exposing themselves or not. Some men
walk around with their penis protruding from their zipper but hidden beneath an overcoat.

Most exhibitionists feel at some level that the stimulation is mutual. It is an adult game of “I’ll show you mine, if you show
me yours.” The fact that they generally select the young indicates that they may be fixated on a childhood experience.
This type of voyeur/exhibitionist is generally found on jogging trails, around swimming pools, or ladies restrooms. The
exhibitionist sometimes feels their exposure is reciprocal due to either the revealing swimsuit of the victim or to the
previous type of genital activity in which the women engaged while in the toilet.

Other exhibitionists derive pleasure from assumed defilement of the religious or innocent. This type would not be
stimulated or risk exposing themself to anyone who might give any response other than horror. This exhibitionist chooses
to expose themselves at churches, in school yards, and to children from inside their cars.

Comedian exhibitionists love the shock effect. This is probably the only type who doesn’t mind laughter. This group
usually “moon,” or expose naked buttocks to victims of their own age group and because the excitement comes from
shock rather than sexual fantasy. Their victims can be of either sex. An example of this type of exhibitionism taken from
another culture is that of the Egyptians in Portside City. Ships, after the end of World War Il (1948), would travel along the
Suez Canal and as they passed a desolate area as many as 20 naked native men would line up along the shore. Each man
had a drum that he would thump with their erect penises in rhythm to a song that sounded much like: “Hubba Hubba -
thump thump - Hubba Hubba - thump thump.” (Personal communication.)

The exhibitionist does not always have to be present to experience the thrill; some men mail nude photos to women they
assume will be shocked. This practice is common among people responding to personal ads. Swinger magazines that
allow photos to accompany personal ads seem to afford exhibitionists the opportunity of consensually exposing
themselves to hundreds of readers. Some of these people, including couples, eventually mail each other photos on a
regular basis. The common stereotype is that of a stalking male in an overcoat; however, many couples participate in this
form of excitement by having sex in public where there is a risk of discovery. This is done at nudist camps, in cars, parks,
elevators, backs of theaters, hot tubs, swimming pools, or in a guest bedroom during a party. Some hosts are aware of
this proclivity and provide a bedroom for this purpose by placing a sign on the door that identifies its inevitable function,
such as: “For Participants Only,” “Voyeurs Permitted,” or “By Invitation Only.”

Some people get excited by exposing their intentions to others, as in the case of those who purchase magazines or books
with explicit sexual photos or titles when there is a person at the register to whom they are sexually attracted, hoping
that person will initiate a conversation with them.

Exhibitionists also consist of those who don’t expose themselves but rather get a vicarious thrill from having their partner
do it. Women are encouraged to go without underwear and to expose their genitals to other men during excursions. They
may also be requested to undress in a place where there is a risk of discovery.

Women rarely get accused of exhibitionism even when they wear short skirts and no underwear. A man, on the other
hand, is judged much more harshly and no place is found in a formal social gathering for revealing and seductive attire.
One of the reasons for this is that of implied consent and power. Men are much more willing to give consent to a display
of nudity by a woman (other than their wife or daughter) than to one by a man. A woman almost always feels threatened
by the difference in physical strength and potential aggression between the sexes. A woman does not consider herself
capable of stopping a man who might decide to extend this type of teasing foreplay into a nonconsensual sex act. Women
are socialized to be prudish and are offended more by the nudity; however, when the threat of aggression and social
mores are lifted women have the capacity of becoming overtly aggressive. Women who attend professional male strip
shows often unleash their passion because they feel they are in a safe environment.

Women engage in partial exhibitionism in the form of revealing clothing. This began in America when arranged marriages
became obsolete and women were thrown into competition with each other for suitable mates. Personal appearance in
both sexes gained significance. The ads that previously displayed women as matronly and dowdy now exhibited young,
pretty, and fashionably dressed women. Women began selecting their own mates; it was no longer an arrangement made
between the father and future husband. The courtship period gave many women power over men for the first time,
power being in the hands of the possessor of something someone else wants. Therefore, a woman who was attractive
and/or exposed herself just enough to titillate a man without sacrificing her reputation created an advantage in marriage
negotiations for herself. Conversely, men during this time lost the power they previously enjoyed. They could no longer
barter for a wife, they had to win her heart by showing compassion, respect, charm, bravery, social status, and so forth.
Letters written between betrothed couples changed in content from a discussion of friends, relatives, and marriage
arrangements to love, affection, grief due to separation, and sex. Many men felt frustrated, inept, and sometimes
resentful over this new role reversal. For the first time in American history, they began to use whistling, cat calls, or verbal
propositions to humiliate attractive women on the street. For some this was a way of venting anger for the power women
now had over their egos. Other men, similar to the exhibitionist, used these verbal insults and compliments as a way of
saying: “Look at me, aren’t I desirable, aren’t I worth your attention” (Intimate Matters, A History of Sexuality in America,
by John D’Emilio and Estelle B. Freedman).

Nudist colonies, group sex houses, and S/M play parties allow people to indulge in legal nudity or exhibitionism. Many
people find exhibitionism to be arousing, whether the excitement comes from strutting one’s physique, defying taboos,
being placed in bondage and put on display, teasing or seducing a potential partner, or having sex with a partner while
others watch.

A person who uses nonconsensual and illegal exhibition as their primary sexual outlet would benefit from professional
assistance and support. CAUTION: Police and psychologists consider exhibitionists to be relatively harmless. In any case, it
is potentially dangerous for a woman to go near a man in an isolated area, whether he is exposing himself or not.

(See also AGORAPHILIA, AGREXOPHILIA, BODY PAINTING, BONDAGE, CANDAULISM, DOGGING, DRAG QUEENS,
ENDYTOPHILIA, EROTIC BALLS, EROTOGRAPHOMANIA, ESSAYEURS, GROUP SEX, HANDKERCHIEF CODES, HOMILOPHILIA,
JACTITATION, NUDITY, PHOTOGRAPHY, SACOFRICOSIS, SEX SHOWS and STRIPPING)
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FAINTING Hyperventilation is a common cause of dizziness and fainting during sex. People, as they become overly
excited, breathe quickly, lowering the carbon dioxide in the blood and changing its acidity. Breathing into a paper bag can
stop hyperventilation. If a person faints they will return to consciousness without any assistance; this is not usually
considered a medical emergency.

There are also other reasons people pass out. People who get involved in sex play learn their partner’s medical history in
order to determine whether they fainted out of ecstasy, a pacemaker quit, insulin shock, a seizure, new medication, or
haven’t slept for three days. If a person has a medical condition that may cause them to pass out, the exact procedure
and who needs to be called is written out for their partner ahead of time.

Fainting can be caused by an injury that occasionally results from suspension, or blood sports; this requires immediate
attention. The person’s pulse and breathing is monitored for a couple of minutes and they are not moved unless they
aren’t breathing in which case it is necessary to open an airway or to give CPR. A person gaining consciousness may be
dizzy and in need of assistance. A person may experience headaches for up to a week after a head injury. An ambulance is
called for major bleeding wounds, after having a clean compress held against them. The exception to this is a wound
caused by sharp foreign objects (broken glass) that may still be in the skin. This will require pressure on vessels around
the wound if the amount of blood loss demands it. Embarrassing sex equipment is not moved from the room because the
emergency crew needs to get a visual impression of how far the person fell, what they may have fallen onto, whether the
marks on their body were due to the fall or flagellation. A person who gets injured often goes into shock and therefore
many automatically treat them for shock. Symptoms of shock appear as a feeling of weakness, nausea, thirst, dizziness,
coolness, trembling, weak and rapid pulse, shallow breath, pale moist cool skin, sweating, or dilated pupils. A person is
made to lie down, with feet slightly elevated (exception is when there is severe bleeding above the hips). Their clothes are
loosened to make it easy for them to breathe. They are covered with a blanket if they feel cool but not if it is hot. The
person is also calmed and made to feel safe. If a person can walk, and is not actively bleeding, weak, dizzy, or short of
breath, it is often appropriate to simply drive the person to an emergency room.

(See also ORGASMS and SAFE SEX)

FAKIR MUSAFAR Fakir Musafar is the pseudonym of a genteel and quite amiable San Francisco advertising executive who
ventured on a path of ritualistically probing and expanding the confines of the physical body with techniques used by
shamans and other early twentieth century primitive tribes while still a child. Fakir labeled himself a modern primitive but
kept his experimentations secret until his early fifties. He has gone public with his amazing feats of endurance in order to
bring the long forgotten mystical entity back into the lives of a stoic and undisciplined culture. Fakir quickly gained the
awe and respect of even the most accomplished sadomasochists. It is doubtful that any human in history has personally
experienced all the cross-cultural rituals of passage and shamanistic ordeals. There are probably very few if any Christian
mystics who have had as many out-of-body spiritual experiences.

Fakir has engaged in primitive piercings, stretchings, bindings, bandings, American Indian Sun Dancing (hanging from a
tree by a string connected to two sticks pierced through the pectoral muscles), genital encasements, tattooing,
encumberments, pinching ordeals, wearing weights hung on hooks, corsetting, gilding, hanging his whole body from flesh
hooks, lying on a bed of nails, lying on the edges of a group of six razor sharp knife blades, as well as enduring numerous
Eastern Indian Kavandi bearing ceremonies where a cage is formed from sharp spears sticking into the chest and the
shaman dances as they dig deeper into his body.

Fakir lectures, conducts international workshops, and private sessions to educate others on the value and beauty of a
dying spiritual tradition. He has recently developed a line of quality pierced body jewelry and a School of Branding and
Piercing for professionals and has published magazines with photos of his rituals.

(See also AUTOMASOCHISM, BRANDING and PIERCING)

FANS Fans were used by many 17th and 18th century ladies of Europe. This instrument proved invaluable in the art of
flirting. It was used as a shield to avoid recognition or to end a conversation, it covered blushing cheeks or the lack
thereof, it served as a weapon against roving hands, it could cover a low neckline or be lowered to expose enough breast
to tease a suitor, and of course fanning circulated the air.

Fan dances were popular for centuries among oriental dancers who used them to shield their nude bodies while on stage.
They were introduced into America during the 1930’s.

(See also MASKS)

FANTASY (Sexautism; Gendotoma—fantasizing during sex to hasten orgasm, Hemerotism—fantasizing about sex or
nudity, Oneiropornism—fantasizing about sex or prostitutes)

Sexual fantasies are illusions or day-dreams people have about specific experiences. Sexual fantasies may receive their
potency due to guilt or fear. Many fantasies begin in childhood and remain as primary sources of pleasure for some
throughout life, others change fantasies with regularity. There may be some connection between whether a person finds
pleasure in engaging in sexual experimentation and their ability to utilize new fantasies.

Men and women commonly fantasize about being overpowered by a sex partner. This entails female seduction of men in
their fantasies, and the use of physical force in female fantasies.

Certain fantasies tend toward visualizing situations they would not want to experience in real life. These are specifically
designed to increase adrenalin or excitement level to the point of being able to have sex without a partner. Some of these
fantasies can be quite sadistic or violent, as in the case of some fantasy magazines. Sadistic fantasies may serve the
purpose of relieving stress and aggression more than sexual tension.

People who feel guilty because they consider their fantasies to be extremely violent will probably find that they are docile
compared to the following sample scenario from a fantasy magazine.

“The end came however, as the funnel was filled and the cow piss spilled over the sides and ran down into his mouth and
nose. He coughed and choked as his lungs, already caked with blood, filled with the piss. Jerry shook violently, trying to
gain air and only was getting piss. Saddcheda stomped the round mound of Jerry’s belly. His weight caused it to explode,
spewing guts, body fluid, blood, and cow piss all over...Rocco’s face was nearly gone as the rats were feasting. His mouth
was gone and his teeth shown bloody... One rat was now gnawing up into the right eye socket. The mice had done in the
giant cock quickly, and now they were chewing into the lower belly through the hole they had started in the pubic hair. The
snake was wriggling out of Rocco’s ass-hole which was clenching, trying to expel it... ” (Ganienkeh, by C. Williamson, The
Magazine, Issue Thirty-Eight by Katharsis, pp. 106-107).

Katharsis, a distributor for a huge variety of fantasy magazines, offers a selection of fantasies ranging from sex with aliens,
gladiators, and slaves to castration, beheading, sacrifices, executions, bondage, women luring men to their deaths, selling
and trading them, using them for furniture, food for their pets, etc. Many of their contributing writers are priests,
ministers, movie screen writers, and one is a former military interrogator.

There is a Transformation Salon in New York where people can pay someone else to dress them in a favorite fantasy
costume and to assist with appropriate makeup. Photos are provided upon request. CAUTION: People who fear that they
are beginning to act out fantasies that would harm others are encouraged to seek professional counselling.

(See also ALLORGASMIA, FANTASY PLAY and PARAPHILIAS)

 

FANTASY PLAY Fantasy play involves people symbolically acting out their sexual fantasies. Acting out a scene broadens or
enhances the sexual experience by including intellect and emotions that may not be stimulated in ordinary sex. It is the
equivalent of adding a plot to an X-rated movie.

Of course, fantasies such as hanging from the chandelier, cross gender experiences, and sex crimes cannot be physically
acted out. However, many of these types of fantasies can be done symbolically. An example would be the cross gender
fantasy where a male lover decides he wants to act out a lesbian scene. It is not only necessary for him to dress in female
attire for the role, but to psychologically prepare himself. He may be put through a mock castration scene with his partner
verbally reiterating that he is no longer male and describing his new female organs to him. He would be pampered,
complimented, degraded, or in general treated in the manner he feels a sexy female would be under the same
circumstance. Mirrors help reinforce his new role but only if he is in costume. Of course, a name change is often used.
This same scenario could as easily turn another man off; therefore, the fantasy scene is discussed or negotiated prior to
enactment.

Contrary to what most believe, it is not advisable to act out a person’s favorite masturbation fantasy. This is because
reality with its physical limitations can never match the diverse activity and timing possible in the mind. A person can
easily come to have unrealistic expectations in regard to their favorite fantasy and will often be disappointed, or perhaps
even blame their partner for a sloppy performance. People find it more advantageous to create new fantasies that lend
themselves to physical reenactment. Some of the most popular are abduction, burglary, sex slave, rape, military games,
prison, pirates, college fraternity initiations, police arrest, Indian capture, and space ships.

Pseudo-group sex scenes might include Bo-peep searching for her missing sheep. The sheep are symbolic and with the
exception of the partner are made of a sheep drawn on a sealed paper bag, each of which has a different sex toy inside.
The sex partner hides all of the bags and himself. Bo-peep then begins her search. The same type of scene is acted out
with an Easter egg (sex toy) hunt. The player inevitably finds a woman in a bunny costume. Game rules vary, but usually
the hunter has to find a minimum of two toys and if they don’t choose to use one of them they have to replace it with
two others, making a total of three. One does not have to use toys, some prefer using written sexual suggestions instead.
A similar fantasy includes a seduction of Santa Claus. In this fantasy sexy lingerie or toys are put into gift wrapped
packages.

A sample pseudo-group sex scene, and one that is more difficult to act out, is of male who is captured by a wicked queen
and taken to her dungeon to be tortured by her servants while she watches. The prisoner is blindfolded and bound
(unless one changes costumes several times) to a table or bed. The queen then instructs a woman called the French
tickler to slowly titillate every inch of the captive’s body. He finally screams for release and promises to perform any type
of sex the wicked queen wants. She rewards him by commanding one of the women from her harem to give him a
sensual warm oil massage. As the wicked queen watches, she tells him exactly what she wants. Horrified, he refuses. She
expected this and now commands her guardian of ice

to take a piece in her mouth and slowly glide it over the most sensitive areas of his body. After 10 minutes he has failed to
surrender. The tyrant queen next orders her favorite slave, Marquita de Sade, to punish him until he promises to submit
himself totally to her passions. Marquita is ruthless, but he still refuses to surrender. At this, the queen becomes furious
and condemns him to the ultimate torture. She turns and offers the first woman who can fill a cup with his love juices
their immediate freedom.

A simple but entertaining game played at parties requires everyone to anonymously write out their favorite fantasy or
sexual experience on a piece of paper, drop it in a box, and once everyone’s fantasy is in the box, they are read aloud to
the group.

There are several books that list fantasies to give couples ideas. One is titled Fantascenes: Games Lovers Can Play from
Lady Tanith, P.O. Box 7925, Berkeley, CA 94707-0925.

(See also ABDUCTION, COITUS A CHEVAL, DRAG QUEENS, PHONE SEX, SLAVES and TRANSVESTITES)

FECES See COCKTAILS, COPROPHILIA, COPROPHAGY and SHOWERS

 

FELLATIO (Blow, Corvus, Irrumation, Penosugia; Oral sex—fellatio or cunnilingus) Fellatio (fellare: to suck) refers to the
ancient practice of mouth to penis sexual contact. This form of stimulus is quite common in the animal kingdom. The
book Sex Link tells of the dragon fly that demands a form of fellatio before coitus. He joins his partner during flight and
bangs her head against his primary sex organ until he decides to finally turn around and mate.

The ancient Phoenician and Egyptian prostitutes were the first to wear lipstick which was used to advertise their
specialized talents of fellatio and cunnilingus. Cleopatra, while not a prostitute, was known for her love of fellatio. Her
enemies spread rumors of the queen fellating huge numbers from among her army in one night.

The following sections describe techniques involving autofellatio, female to male, and male to male fellatio. (See also
CUM ETIQUETTE and CUNNILINGUS)

AUTOFELLATIO Autofellatio is performed by a male on himself. G. L. Simons writes of hermaphrodite gods who had
penises as long as their torso because some primitives thought these gods reproduced by inserting their penis into their
own mouths. Others believed in their god’s ability to insert its penis into its own vagina (Sex and Superstition, p. 21,
reproduced with permission of Blackie & Son Ltd.).

Kinsey reported that 2-3 males in a thousand practiced autofellatio. In order to perform autofellatio the man has to be
limber and have a rather long penis. The position that offers the deepest penetration is upside down on a couch with the
head and shoulders resting on the bottom cushion, the backbone against the back of the couch, and the knees resting on
either side of the shoulders. The penis is then in front of the mouth at this point and if the man’s proportions are right he
can reach up with his mouth and take hold of the tip. Some men enjoy ejaculating into their mouths, and others like the
feel of it on their skin, or the sound of it as it shoots past their ear. One man who engaged in autofellatio as a teenager
claimed that most of the sensation occurred in the mouth rather than the penis. This is logical because there is a higher
concentration of nerves in the tongue and lips than in an erect penis. Therefore, the primary sensation is more like that of
giving fellatio to someone else and the secondary sensation like that of receiving it.

The following are contributions describing fellatio made by individuals who enjoy this type of sex.

FEMALE TO MALE “Men’s sexual response occurs in cycles. The more times they are brought close to an orgasm the more
intense it is when they release. Therefore, when performing fellatio remember to watch for signs of his nearing climax or
better yet ask him to signal. The areas that are the most sensitive, in order, are the frenulum, corona, glans penis, urethra
opening, shaft, and scrotum. If one uses anal play with fellatio the prostate can provide extreme sensitivity.

“Now, to set the mood, think of yourself as a toothless carnivore, and forget expressions like giving head, sucking, licking,
eating and caressing. Think of teasing, devouring and consuming. In addition to the techniques mentioned here a person
wants to constantly think of new sensations and techniques to try on their partner.

“Tell him what you are going to do to his penis and ravage his ear with your tongue. Slowly work your way down his neck,
armpits, nipples, torso, buttocks, and to the groin area using varying degrees of pressure and movement with your tongue.
Men vary in the amount of pre-genital contact they desire for fellatio; be aware of whether his emotional intensity is
increasing.

“Make sure you are in a position to be able to move freely so that eventually you end up in a position where you are facing
toward his feet. This allows the natural curve of his penis to match the curve in your mouth for easier penetration.

“Use very light fingertip strokes around the whole groin area and say your last words. Next begin at the base of his penis
or testicles and very gently flick your tongue up and down the shaft several times, getting it wet. Then blow up and down
on the wet area to make it cold and next alternate with exhaling warm air. Lift the penis gently. As you tease and tickle
with your mouth wide open, hold his penis in position with your lip and tongue just below the glans penis. You don’t want
to touch the tip yet. Use your fingertips to gently tap or tickle the shaft. Your lips and tongue can be used to lightly
massage his shaft as you move the penis deeper into the throat, still trying not to put pressure on the glans penis.

“Moan as if you can’t stand the teasing yourself and firmly grip his penis at the base with your hands and pull it toward
you. Hold the penis and then with your tongue very gently tickle the urethra entrance and release the tension of your grip
on the shaft. Now retighten your grip and push your tongue firmly into the tip of the urethra. This time work your mouth,
tongue and lips down his penis massaging it with more pressure. The light touch should coincide with his approaching
orgasm to forestall it and the harder pressure is used to rebuild intensity. Some penises have obvious indications of strong
arousal: they throb, spasm, increase in temperature, have lots of pre-ejaculate emissions, and the testicles rise toward the
body; however, others show very little indication of inevitable orgasm.

“If the partner’s penis is flaccid and not fully erect you will be able to place your mouth firmly around the base of the glans
penis and by working with the loose skin you can keep it in place against your lips but have the penis slip back and forth
beneath the extra skin. You then suck the tip of the penis swiftly back and forth in and out of your mouth. Take your hands
and roll the shaft of the penis between them as though you were rolling a small ball of cookie dough. Next devour his
testicles and perineum. You may want to hum while they are in your mouth to create a slight vibration. Once the penis is
erect, move back up to the glans penis and cover it with your mouth (no teeth). Use your tongue to gently tickle the
underside of the corona. With your mouth over his penis insert an index finger into your mouth so that the fingertip can
rub back and forth on the frenulum as you lower your mouth and tickling tongue as far down on his shaft as possible. Get
your hands back into the flat rolling position and this time when you roll the penis between your hands, hold your lips over
the glans penis and make the tip bounce off the insides of your mouth.

“In order to deep throat a penis, get into the position facing toward his feet and slowly glide the penis as far back as you
can without gagging. Then take a deep breath and swallow. This will allow you to hold the penis in your throat longer and
for many stops the gag response. Many women also find that the closer they are to orgasm the less of a gag reflex they
experience. The man should also know before ejaculation that he needs to pull his penis back slightly so that the woman
can breathe and swallow, preventing a gag reflex from occurring if the ejaculate squirts directly into the throat. You may
place your hand around the base of the penis and pull toward you during the man’s orgasm, but because the penis
becomes extremely sensitive immediately after ejaculation, all pressure on the penis should end at this point. You may tell
him you are going to suck out every drop, but don’t. If you want to maintain intimacy either place your head and hand on
the abdomen near the penis or stretch out beside him and cuddle. At orgasm, the sensation of hot squirting semen from
an undulating penis can be so powerfully intimate that it is possible to orgasm yourself. Semen varies in taste, quantity,
and speed at which it is expelled, all of which can effect the palatability. Semen, like all strong flavored foods, is an
acquired taste. If you have not yet acquired the taste it is better to either dilute it with water before swallowing or
discreetly rinse the mouth and discard it back into the glass. (Keep two glasses in case he wants a drink.) Men can feel
rejected or hurt if a woman immediately spits the ejaculate out or refuses to take it into her mouth.

“Anal play can be introduced at any point. Make sure that if you plan on using your fingers your fingernails are short and
smooth. If you have a plug make sure that it has a,flange on one end to prevent the sphincter muscle from sucking it into
the rectum.

“You may experiment with creating extra sensations by using a variety of substances in your mouth. For example: warm
water, ice chips, mint flavored toothpaste, cool soothing action cough drops, champagne, Pop Rocks (candy that fizzles),
or lotions made specifically for oral sex. Do not use anything too hot, like deep heat rub, some menthol cough drops, or hot
liquids.”—Anonymous Contributor

CAUTION: The exchange of body fluids is not considered a safe sex practice.

 
MALE TO MALE “Fellatio is begun, after preliminary washing, by selecting a kneeling position near the edge of the bed to
allow extended performance without physical discomfort. The exception would be if you are playing with bondage or
acting out an interrogation scene.

“It can be very intriguing for your partner if you hide the condom in your mouth without their knowledge. It can be kept
between the teeth and cheek without notice. Place the glans penis in your mouth and with your tongue locate the condom
and position it over the tip of the penis. Begin rolling it down with your lips and tongue (4-5 strokes). This creates a
grabbing or squeezing sensation he doesn’t expect. Avoid getting hair caught in the condom or your mouth by stroking the
hair downward with one hand as you take the penis deeper into your mouth. Learn to enjoy the flavor of latex so that it
won’t distract you.

“Take your tongue and tickle inside the crease at the top of the thighs and under the scrotum. Next lick up to the top of the
penis. Circle the head with the tongue, quickly taking one gulp. The man will gasp and at this point have him take hold of
your hair and guide your head as you begin the rapid bobbing motion. Men with longer penises can be easily handled by
keeping one hand wrapped around the base of the penis as an extension of the mouth. It is important to keep the penis
and hand lubricated well with saliva to make this work. The hand will also need to stay against the lips and to follow the
motion of the mouth. You may stroke the penis with the right hand, but try to use the left to hold the condom in place. This
hand position also protects you from having the person shove his penis too far down your throat; it puts you in control of
how much you take into your mouth. You can also create more pressure with your hand than your mouth (lips should be
kept over teeth at all times, never bite). Flick the frenulum with your tongue repeatedly. Another technique is to hold the
penis in your mouth and create an airtight seal with your lips, suck all the air out of your mouth, and hold your tongue
tightly against the penis. Next roll the tongue muscle from the tip to the back so that it feels to your partner like you are
milking or swallowing his penis.

“Delay his orgasm by holding your fingers together like a cup and slowly pulling the testicles back down into the scrotum.
Some men enjoy having their testicles squeezed, but not all. If your partner is safe and is not wearing a condom you can
take the penis out of your mouth and coolly blow up and down the shaft, then follow it by warming it with your breath. If
you want to intensify these sensations you can alternate small ice cubes and hot chocolate or coffee. Carbonated liquids
create a strange sensation for the partner.

“If your partner has dificulty reaching orgasm, lubricate your finger and insert it into his anus to massage his prostate.
Hold his ejaculate in your mouth until you get next to his ear and swallow with a big gulp. Pull back and show him how
much you loved the experience by a satisfied and lustful smile.

“If your jaw ends up feeling sore, massage it behind the ear where the jaw ends before you go to bed. This will help ensure
it not being as sore in the morning.” “—Contributed by Mike Bergen, San Francisco

CAUTION: The exchange of body fluids is not considered a safe sex practice.

(See also CUM ETIQUETTE, CUNNILINGUS, DOCKING and PHALLOPHILIA)

FELCHING Felching (fellare: to suck, fell: animal hide) refers either to stuffing animals into the vagina or anus, or to a
partner sucking semen out of one of these orifices.

(See ANAL SEX, OPHIDICISM, SAFE SEX, STUFFING and ZOOPHILIA)

FEMALE IMPERSONATORS (Cross- dressing) Female impersonators refers to those men who perform or entertain in front
of an audience while dressed in women’s clothing. Females were not permitted in many European and Asian stage plays
until the last couple of centuries; their roles were filled by young male actors dressed in appropriate garb. Rewards for
impersonators are financial rather than sexual. Many do not crossdress for any other occasion; in this way they differ
from transvestites. Drag Queens, however, perform on stage for personal gratification and for money and will crossdress
on other occasions as well.

Most large cities have a restaurant or theatre featuring this type of performance. Las Vegas probably has the most
elaborate performances and most expensive wardrobes. Portland, Oregon has a comedy show with many of their
performers pantomiming famous vocalists. Here there is a combination of all ages and sizes among the performers. The
owner of the club is often invited to prestigious civic functions with the only condition being that he attends in costume.
(Sec also DRAG QUEENS, INFANTILISM, PETTICOAT DISCIPLINE, TRANSSEXUALS, TRANSVESTITES and VICTORIAN LACE)

FERTILITY RITES Fertility, or the bearing of children, has always been important. The early religions were based on
people’s needs for fertile crops, animals, and progeny. The first two were essential for immediate survival and the third
for survival of the species. Thus, man celebrated when the crops germinated and the animals mated.

Sex became sacred and at one time was part of Temple worship in most cultures. The Egyptians at Mendes considered
goats as sacred and able to increase virility and fertility. The goats lived in the temple and during their fertility rites the
priest let the goats out of their stalls to run among the worshipers who quickly tried to touch and kiss them. Many of
them were successful in coitus. Other worshipers, not fortunate enough to catch a goat, settled for cohabiting with
another human. In some temples the priest began temple orgies by deflowering a virgin or offering some other sacrifice.
Today’s counterpart of this priest, at least in name, is “reverend.” This title has its roots in the ancient worship of the sex
goddess Venus (venery, venereal, venerate, revere). Sex, love, and worship were once all part of religion, as the
definitions of these words indicate.

The penis came to be worshipped as a symbol of fertility in many religions. Virgins believed that if they broke their hymen
on the phallus of the stone god that they would be guaranteed fertility. The practice of defloration by stone statues or
priests still survives in parts of India. The Indians also had a ritual in honor of fertility gods whereby a horse was
slaughtered and a woman laid with him under an opaque sheet where, according to Tawney (1924) “She performed a
very obscene act with the horse symbolizing the transmission to her of its great powers of fertility” (Sex and Superstition,
by G.L. Simons, p. 60, reproduced with permission of Blackie & Son Ltd.). The Romans wore amulets of penises as jewelry
and until recently the Holy Prepuce, foreskin of Jesus, was not only revered but in the French diocese of Chartres
worshippers believed it to have the power to restore fertility in women. (Several churches in Europe claim to be
proprietors of the same foreskin.)

Fertility rites were used for animals and crops by many ancient cultures. People in parts of medieval Europe sought to
ensure the fertility in their herds of cattle by having naked men build two fires between which they drove the herd.
Monks performed this rite for people; however, instead of cattle, they held up a phallus.

People in farming communities during the 20th century in both North and South America are reported to have sex in their
newly plowed and seeded fields to ensure germination. This practice is thousands of years old.

(Refer also to APHRODISIACS, CHARMS, FESTIVALS, LOVE POTIONS, ORGIES, RITUAL SEX, SEX MAGICK, and
PHALLOPHILIA.)

FESTIVALS Most of our present day holidays are remnants of ancient festivals. These festivals served as a temporary
relief from the burdens of a repressive, laborious, or tedious life. People were permitted to switch partners, cross dress,
or go against any sexual taboo that controlled their behavior the rest of the year. Ancient moralists condoned this
temporary outlet of energy as necessary. It was believed that if a person didn’t let their negative energy out in this
manner it would surface in a more heinous or violent form.

The following are synopses of several of the more notorious historical festivals, most of which are described in detail in B.
Z. Goldberg’s book, The Sacred Fire.

APHRODITE—DAY OF BLOOD Aphrodite was the hermaphrodite goddess of life and sex. She was a virgin mother who
bore a son, Attis, by holding a pomegranate between her breasts. Attis was later compelled to castrate himself, which he
did while leaning against a palm tree (symbolic of virility). This proved fatal for Attis and, just like nature, he began a cycle
of death in the winter and rebirth in the spring.

Each winter the worshippers of Aphrodite mourned for Attis by fasting and abstaining from sex. The Spring “Day of Blood”
began with the cutting of a palm tree. It was decorated with flowers and wrapped with cloth to resemble a corpse. A
young priest was tied to the tree and sometime during the night was mysteriously stabbed to death. The next morning
other priests gathered around and symbolically shared this death by cutting themselves and spattering their blood on the
altar of Aphrodite. Music and dancing ensued, building the crowd into a frenzy which resulted in some male worshippers
castrating themselves and beating their severed penises against her statue. These eunuchs then became temple priests.
The festival continued throughout the day until the tree was again erected. A tomb was opened to symbolize Attis’ rising
from the dead and a new priest resembling the sacrificed one now worshiped at the altar. As morning broke people
dressed in disguises and were able to do whatever they pleased. The festival ended with the palm tree being taken to the
brook and washed, decorated with roses, and returned to the temple in a procession.

BAAL Baal was one of the early gods. He died during the winter and resurrected himself in the spring. People mourned
his death in the winter by fasting, women baring their breasts, abstaining from sex, and shaving their heads. Women who
did not cut their hair in the winter had to offer themselves sexually during the spring festival. As the first day of spring
arrived worshippers would travel to the Sacred Hill, bringing with them the first fruits of their crops and first born of their
animals. These were offered to Baal by the priests and then were used to provide a feast for the worshippers. Finally the
last sacrifice, a lamb, was brought to the altar. Music would sound to summon a priestess who would walk to the altar
with her eyes closed. The priest would dip his finger into the blood of the lamb and place it in her mouth. She now
opened her eyes, plunged her hand into the open cavity, tore out the heart, and placed it on a platter. Dancing
priestesses entered and as the passions rose the worshipper chose a priestess by touching her navel and giving her a coin.
She followed him to a tent and together they consummated a prayer of love to their god.

CARNIVAL This international festival is one of the surviving versions of the Dionysus and Saturn festivals. The word
carnival is taken from the Latin word carnelevarium (caro: flesh, and levar: to put aside), thus the abstinence from meat
during Lent. People wear masks, have parades, indulge in drink, music, dancing, and sex.

DIONYSIA This was a festival in honor of Dionysus, the god of wine, women, and song. The festival began at sunset with a
procession led by a chariot, torch bearers, then followed by worshipers carrying wine and fruit, with the musicians and
phallus bearers at the rear. All wore masks and scanty costumes of nymphs, satyrs, or other creatures. They wore phallus
symbols or carvings either on their heads or dangling from their waists. Their songs and dialogue were deliberately sexual.
When they reached the woods a pig was sacrificially roasted and a feast began. The statue of Dionysus was brought out of
its chest and soon all were disrobed and the orgy of men, women, and children began. This Greek festival was later
introduced into Rome but became so violent that the Senate banned it in 186 B.C.

MAY DAY The Maypole is a form of tree worship that survived into the 20th century. In some cultures the men would
wander through plantations naked to fertilize the trees with their semen. The Maypole symbolizes the penis and is
decorated with flowers just as the palm tree in the worship of Aphrodite. Worshipers of May Day entered the woods the
night the pole was to be cut and are rumored to have passed the night in a revelry of unbridled sex. The next morning the
worshipers brought the decorated Maypole into town, paving its path with flowers and branches. Once the Maypole was
in place they ended the festival with ceremonial dancing.

(See also DENDROPHILIA)

MOLOCH Moloch was the Phoenician’s masculine god of bounty. He had the head of a bull and the body of a man. The
pedestal of his statue served as a furnace where all sacrifices offered to him were burned. This fire was prepared at
sunset and male worshipers would bring sacrifices to throw into the flames. At this time women were not allowed to
attend the dancing or the male orgies that occurred during the night. Here eunuch priests and trained temple dogs could
be purchased for the worshiper’s sexual pleasure.

The high priest eventually decided to permit women but required them to remain separate from the male worshipers.
The women installed their own prostitute priestesses and offered sacrifices to Moloch for his blessing. The level of
passion was concomitant to the value of the sacrifice and some of these women began throwing their infants into the fire
as a sacrifice. This produced enough stimulus to allow them to experience the maximum level of sexual passion.

SATURNALIA This is the ancient Roman festival in honor of Saturn, the god of agriculture. It began on December 17th and
lasted for 7 days. People unwrapped the woolen swathing that was kept on the statue of Saturn for the rest of the year
and began the festival. They exchanged places with their slaves, or at least invited them to share in a feast as social
equals, gifts were exchanged, and moral restrictions were relaxed. A ritual king was chosen each year at the beginning of
the festival and an idol of him was symbolically burned at the end to signify Saturn’s death.

(See also FERTILITY RITES, ORGIES and RITUAL SEX)

FETISHES (Crurofact—leg, Genofact—genitals, Mastofact—breast, Morphophilia—arousal from person with a different

physique, Organofact—part of body) A fetish is an object that replaces another human as the primary love object. The
fetish may be partial (such as breasts, feet, hair, buttocks, obesity, or navel) or inanimate (such as shoes, fur, latex,
leather, hats, gloves, panties, lace, jock straps, or used condoms). The fetish can be sense specific. The person may be
aroused when they see the object, feel it, smell it, hear it, taste it, or any combination thereof. Fetishes tend to involve
objects which give a feeling of nurturance. For example, it would be unusual to find a spider or scorpion fetish.

The selection of the fetish involves conditioning or learned behavior and requires a strong stimulus for it to register.
Conditioning of a fetish occurs from infancy to preschool and again during puberty when the child’s sex drive emerges a
second time. (Judd Marmor, in Modern Views of Human Sexual Behavior, states that this sexual latency in children
seems only to occur in societies that enforce sexual repression by threats of punishment, loss of affection, and
indoctrination that sex is a sin.)

A fetish can require progressively increased intensity in order to achieve orgasm. A hair fetishist may first experience
orgasm by fantasizing about hair; soon he will want to see it, watch the woman comb it, touch it, masturbate into it, and
possess it by cutting it off (or stealing it from) a nonconsenting stranger. The fetishist is also often polygamous: a shoe
fetishist is not satisfied with only one shoe throughout his life but rather continuously seeks new shoes and often keeps a
‘harem’ of such.

There are occasionally disadvantages involved with partial fetishes. For example, if a man marries a woman primarily
because of a fetish, and then she cuts her hair, loses weight, or has to have a mastectomy, the sexual attraction can
disappear overnight, sometimes even causing total impotence within the marriage. The worst scenario for a married
fetishist is to have their fetish rejected by their spouse; this only alienates them more and creates more dependence on
the fetish object.

Men appear more apt to rely on fetish objects than females.

There are fetish newsletters or magazines available that have personal ads of people selling photos of feet, hair, shoes, or
sports scenes. Those not interested in photos can custom order specific worn or used underwear.

It is impossible to list all of the fetish objects people use but some of the common ones are as follows:

BOOTS OR SHOES (Altocalciphilia—high heels, Retifism—shoes) This fetish is most likely selected and conditioned during
early childhood. A shoe is the first thing a crawling child sees before its mother picks them up to nurture them. It
becomes their cue for being cared for and loved. The shoe may need to be a certain style and color or can remain
nonspecific. They may prefer to have a person to which they are attracted wear them but not always. The appeal of the
shoe has a long history and is not limited to humans alone. There was a case of a male chimpanzee who was raised in
captivity. He developed a boot fetish and would masturbate by rubbing on the boot of the caretaker.

Hirschfeld counseled a priest whose fetish was for a set of man’s and woman’s shoes together. He often stopped outside
doors where people had left their shoes and would kiss, smell, and caress them. He even paid hotel employees to let him
clean guest’s shoes.

High heels are the most appealing type of shoe and are said to have their beginning with Catherine de Medicis, a 16th
century Italian who married Henry II of France (their son married Mary Queen of Scots). Catherine was very petite and
brought with her shoes that were custom designed to give her height. This started a fashion rage among the aristocratic
ladies. The first heels must have been extremely difficult to maneuver in because male escorts often had to carry these
dainty ladies up and down stairs. The majority of Americans were not exposed to high heels until a French prostitute
brought several pairs with her to an elite New Orleans brothel during the mid-nineteenth century. The madam, Kathy,
noticed that men were willing to pay more for this girl and quickly ordered French heels for all the women in her brothel.
Other brothels did the same and men soon ordered them for their wives, creating enough demand that in 1880 a
Massachusetts shoe factory opened to supply their needs (The Sex Life of the Foot & Shoe, pp. 141-143).

The shoe fetish is not always limited to the sight or touch of the shoe. One case history taken from Moraglia, Archivio di
Psichiatria, vol. xiii, p. 568, refers to a man who would reach orgasm by following women whose shoes creaked. This
phenomenon was the result of being conditioned at age 17 by hearing the sound of his partner’s shoes creaking as they
had sex on a staircase.

Men in the S/M community often have a different reason for being in awe of a shoe. Several have commented that the
extremely high and spiked heel is arousing because of the potential danger if a woman decides to use it as a weapon
against them. It is true that many S/M magazines feature photos of a woman’s spiked heel resting against the genitals of a
submissive male. The greatest height for a heel is about 9”, this being almost impractical for walking and is used
exclusively for fetish play.

Most men, however, are attracted to the foot or shoe due to the change in posture and the frail gait that characterizes a
woman who wears high heels. The wearer’s posture is altered with a more dramatic curve of the spine which causes the
buttocks and calves to appear to be more rounded, the bust to protrude, and the hips to have an exaggerated sway. The
frail gait widens the division of power between the man and woman and appeals to his desire to protect and possibly to
his feeling of self-esteem. People are also often aroused when they see pain in a person of the opposite sex. This could be
part of a predatorial instinct to be alert to the lame or weak. For example, sharks often attack ailing or injured fish that
are near the top of the water, and lions stalk animals that lag behind a herd. In humans, this tendency to actually prey on
the weak is usually thwarted by morals, but the initial attention remains. (Refer also to BINDING/FOOT and PODOPHILIA)

FURS Fur fetishes seem to come from the sensations or tickling produced by family pets, stuffed animals, fur coats, rugs,
feathers, or velvet chairs. The fetish is usually tactile rather than visual. Rabbit fur and ostrich feathers are often used in
sex scenes to enhance the senses, particularly if the partner is bound. (See also DORAPHILIA and TICKLING)

GODS The definition of fetish as found in Webster’s New World Dictionary (1972, p. 517) states: “Fetish - any object
believed by superstitious people to have magical power ... any thing or activity to which one is irrationally devoted ... any
non-sexual object, such as a foot or a glove, that abnormally excites erotic feelings.“ The god usually demands something
in turn from his devotee and while this makes the relationship slightly more difficult, the sacrifice serves to bond the
individual even more. A doctrine of religious celibacy contributes to emotional isolation from the intimacy of other
humans and binds the devotee even more. The vow nuns took during the Middle Ages stated ”I love Christ into whose
bed I have entered ... There in glowing love embrace your beloved (savior) who is come down from heaven into your
breast’s bower, and hold him fast until He shall have granted whatsoever you wish for” (Sex in History, by G. Rattray
Taylor, p. 42).

This form of fetish was easier to recognize among ancient fertility religions when people used the idols of their gods to
masturbate against or have sex with a surrogate priest or priestess. Christianity began a movement to repress the sexual
relationship with God, leaving only the Platonic love. The early Corinthian Christians celebrated Agape feasts in imitation
of the Last Supper, but included a Eucharistic rite that was very similar to those of fertility gods. [Author’s note: People
now fantasize an emotional intimacy with God rather than a sexual union. However, the result can be the same. Like any
other fetish it can interfere or replace the primary intimacy normally shared with other humans. The Inquisition was only
one example of what happens when people use their devotion to god to justify prejudice or religious intolerance of
others.]

LATEX AND RUBBER Many of today’s adults were exposed to rubber as infants in the form of rubber pants or sheets.
Tactile stimulation is important with this fetish. Many fetishists buy or have underwear or costumes made of rubber or
latex. These include nun’s habits, sheets, underwear, vests, skirts, whips, and hoods. Latex pants can include an anal plug
or reservoir for the penis. Latex clothing causes a person to perspire after a short time. Tight fitting latex can also be
difficult to get into and some people have solved this problem by using talcum powder on the inside.

LEATHER (Please refer to section titled DORAPHILIA.)

UNDERWEAR Underwear is a popular fetish. It can offer tactile, visual, and olfactory stimuli. Men collect women’s
underwear for several reasons. Transvestites have a collection to wear regularly, others steal or collect panties from
sexual conquests, and some men take a pair of their lover’s underwear with them when they travel. If these men use the
panties to masturbate it is usually done by associating the panties with a specific person. This is true in gay relationships
also. The true fetishist, however, will use the odor or texture of the underwear as a primary stimulus by which they
masturbate. They may fantasize about a lover but have little desire to be with them. The person with a partial or weak
fetish would only be aroused if the underwear was being worn by their lover. (See also ENDYTOPHILIA)

FIRE See BRANDING, ELECTRIC SHOCK and PYROPHILIA

FISTING (Hand balling; Brachioprotic eroticism—arm in anus) Fisting involves the insertion of the hand into the vagina or
anus. Double fisting can refer to simultaneously fisting the vagina and anus, or having two hands inserted into the anus at
the same time. The depth of penetration can be as great as 11-15 inches. This activity is practiced by heterosexual and
gay alike. Fisting is rarely mentioned in historic literature; however, there was a scene in the movie Caligula of the
Roman emperor fisting a groom after his wedding.

There are variations in the type of sensation people enjoy during anal and vaginal fisting, usually involving differences in
depth, width, and “punching.” Depth is accomplished by carefully following the vaginal cavity to the end or the anal
chamber through the rectum and descending colon to the transverse colon (which feels as though it’s lined with fur). It is
from this position that the fistor can access the spleen and descending aorta, which is what most fistors assume is the
heart because of its contractions. “Punching” refers to the slow rhythmic stroking or repeated thrusting penetration of
the fist into a cavity. Width is accomplished by rotating a fist, spreading the fingers once inside, insertion of a second
hand, penis, testicles, or dildo. CAUTION: Fisting can lead to serious physical injury and is not considered a safe sex
practice.

ANAL Fisting requires special preparation by both partners. The fistee prepares by cleaning out the lower intestine with
an enema. The fistor removes any rings and examines the hands for cuts or hangnails. Nylon hosiery is sometimes
carefully run over the hand to locate any roughness. Latex gloves are often used as a protection for both parties.

The hand and arm are generously lubricated with vegetable shortening and additional lubricant is applied to the fistee’s
anus. The fistor next inserts one, then two fingers, and when the partner’s anal muscles seem relaxed, the hand is pushed
in fingers first with the tips together in a closed ring fashion. Next the hand is slowly worked up inside. There are several
sphincters or valves that block progression and these are opened by massaging or stretching the entrance area then
pushing one or two fingers through and pulling some of the intestinal wall back through. Pain can be an indication of
improper or dangerous manipulation.

The fist is slowly removed from the anus to prevent the hand from creating a vacuum effect and pulling a section of the
intestine out with it; this is called a rosebud and is not deadly. (Ancient yogis voluntarily expelled their intestines into a
bowl of water by manipulating their muscles.)
Fisting creates an unusual sensation of pressure and fullness and may activate the brain’s pleasure center associated with
defecation and digestion. For others this intimate activity creates a tremendous level of trust and bonding between
partners. Others compare the pain and pleasure as similar to a woman giving birth. People combine fisting with other
sexual activity such as nipple play, fellatio, and cunnilingus (TRUST/THE HAND BOOK: A guide to the sensual and spiritual
art of handballing, by Bert Herrman) (“Fisting,” QSM lecture, April 24, 1991, by Bert Herrman). CAUTION: The anal wall is
very thin and if torn can necessitate surgery and the need to wear a colostomy bag. The rectal perforation rate for fisting
has been estimated at 1 per 2,000 penetrations (DungeonMaster Yearbook II). Symptoms of injury include a gradual
building of internal pain that may not be noticed for one to two days, followed by illness. There may not be a noticeable
discharge of blood. The fisting is ended if the fistor encounters red blood or feces that was not flushed out with the initial
enema. Those who engage in this activity a lot often eat yogurt or drink acidophilus milk to keep their natural intestinal
flora in balance.

AUTO-FISTING Auto-fisting is rare and those who practice it find that the angle of the hand and wrist is awkward and the
depth is naturally restricted.

VAGINAL Vaginal fisting does not require a prior douche. It differs from anal fisting in that vegetable shortening is not
used (it sticks to the inner walls and collects bacteria). Water-based lubricants are preferred instead. The hands and
fingernails are prepared so that there are no rough edges or cuts. The vagina is then opened with two or three fingers by
stretching the opening until it can accommodate all of them. These are then pushed gently into the inner cavity until the
hand is inside. There is a point at which the fingers are curved inward into a fist or cupped around the mouth of the
cervix. Vaginal chambers differ in length and this determines the depth one is able to reach with the hand. Females are
capable of being fisted anally and vaginally at the same time. However, a fist in the vagina reduces the area available in
the rectum and vice-versa. The procedure used may require inserting the fist into the anus beyond the rectum and then
pushing the hand into the vagina. For some, but not all, punching or cunnilingus during fisting can be arousing.

(See also ANAI. SEX, COPROPHILIA, GENITAL /ANAL INSERTS, KLISMAPHILIA and SAFE SEX)

FLAGELLATION (Ecorchement, Mastigothymia and Rhabdophiiia—arousal from flagellation) Flagellation, the use of
whipping to arouse passion in a sexual partner, is an ancient practice. People in other cultures seem to have understood
early on the aphrodisiac effect of pain and used it to their benefit. Vatsyayana wrote explicit instructions for striking a
partner during sex in the Kama-Sutra:

Blows are a form of love play... The parts of the body which may be struck out of passion are: the shoulders, the head, the
chest between the breasts, the back, the jagdana, the hips and the sides. Such blows may be administered with the back of
the hand, with the fingers together like a pad, with the palm of the hand and with the fist...During intercourse it is
customary to tap between the two breasts with the back of the hand, faster and faster as the level of excitement rises,
until the end of the sexual act; at that point one should repeat the sound ‘hin’, or some other preferred sound. When the
man strikes the woman’s head with the end of his fingers held tightly together, he utters the sound ‘phat’, while the
woman replies with the cooing sound.

Flagellation has also held an important position in medicine and religion. Those thought to be mentally ill were flagellated
from the 17th through 19th centuries on the advice of prominent physicians. Forms of flagellation were also used by holy
men or shamans in the earliest religions to induce a trance-like state (mystical out of body experience) in which they
believed they could commune with god. Flagellation continued to be used as part of religion and was adopted by the
worshippers of the fertility or sex gods. The goddess Diana’s religious ceremonies included contests to find the boy who
could endure the most pain. Religious floggings were also used in the fertility rites of the Roman god Lupercus, and
women during the Thessaly (Greek) festival of Aphrodite used flagellation to build their passions in preparation for sexual
orgies. Barren Greek women were stripped naked and beaten in the temple of Juno to cure their infertility.

From fertility religions, flagellation eventually found its way to Christianity. Christian monks adopted flagellation as part of
their self-mortification rites. Flagellation was appealing for celibates because it substituted for the imposed restrictions
on physical sensations or nurturing their bodies naturally needed. The strokes are capable of awakening the senses to the
point of orgasm, or can lead to the even more desirable mystical out-of-body experience.

Not all monks, priests, and bishops were satisfied with self-mortification, some were caught implementing this type of
penance on naked nuns and parishioners. The term “Cornelian Discipline” was named after a priest, Cornelius Adriansen,
who became notorious for demanding that his penitents be totally nude. Some monasteries not only humiliated their
monks by having them flogged naked, but carried out the punishment in a town square with an audience of villagers.

In 1210 a Christian sect of flagellants appeared in Italy. The monk, St. Justin of Padua, gave an account of their ritual in
Chronicon Ursitius Basiliensis (quoted from A History of the Rod, pp. 102-3):

To such a degree were they affected with the fear of God, that noble as well as ignoble persons, young and old, even
children five years of age, would go naked about the street without any sense of shame, walking in public, two and two, in
the manner of a solemn procession. Every one of them held in his hand a scourge, made of leather thongs, and with tears
and groans they lashed themselves on their back till the blood ran: all the while weeping and giving tokens of the same
bitter affliction, as if they had really been spectators of the passion of our Saviour.

By the year 1261 this sect had expanded into Germany and Poland and by the year 1349 had spread throughout Europe.

Proselytizing monks, Jesuits, and missionaries would many times convince female tribal natives of the value of Christian
doctrine by beating them until they agreed to convert. In addition, Saint Junipero Sera is said to have held the children of
potential converts hostage. Chronique Scandaleuse (quoted from A History of the Rod, p. 99)

documents an incident in 1634 in Africa when a Jesuit missionary discovered the Queen of Matamba and her attendants
carrying an idol.

...he enforced his arguments against idolatry by the application of a whip to the body of her sable majesty! It is
astonishing, he says, how the process of flagellation gradually opened her understanding, till she at length confessed
herself wholly unable to resist such sensible proofs of the excellence of his doctrine.

Conversion and obedience induced by whipping was used in Paraguay, Mexico, Africa, and probably other countries as
well.

Flagellation has of course been used by most forms of government and military. France, until 1756, sometimes punished a
prostitute by tying her on a donkey with her buttocks toward the front of the animal, a straw hat placed on her head, and
an inscription on her back. The prostitute was then whipped by the crowds as she was paraded through the towns on her
way to prison. This may be the remnant of a more ancient punishment for adulterous wives in which the donkey not only
carried her through town but she was forced into sexual union with it (Encyclopaedia Sexualis, by Victor Robinson, p. 37).

Flagellation has been common in bordellos for centuries as a method to reduce impotency in men. The English bordello
fee in the late 1960’s for caning was 1 pound per lash. One client wrote a letter to a Madam before his visit detailing the
treatment he desired as well as the price he would pay, this being regulated by the amount of blood the woman was able
to draw.

Caning became most popular in English schools and as a result sexual flagellation is more common in that country than
any other. At one time whipping clubs were common even among young people. These included games of forfeit, similar
to strip poker, where articles of clothing were lost until eventually the person ended up naked. The clothes could only be
redeemed by submitting to a set number of strokes with the rod. Today there are English diners where sexy waitresses
apply the rod to willing patrons who do not eat all the food served on their plates.

In 1671 England, a phantom spanker named “Whipping Tom” was arrested for abducting women and carrying them into a
dark side street. There he would pull up their dresses and spank them until they screamed for help, at which point he
would make his escape.

People today use flagellation in sex play because the pain awakens or focuses the mind of a stressed person onto their
senses and away from the pressures of a job. The cessation of whipping also causes the bottom to feel extremely grateful
and even more willing to please their partner.

Flagellation or pain can also sensitize a numb body. People who sustain an injury or suffer emotional pain seem to release
neurotransmitters that have an analgesic effect on the body; therefore, in order for this person to feel anything, the pain
or stimulus has to be greater than it would under ordinary circumstances.

Erotic whipping is rarely abrupt. A warmup period is common whereby the top runs their hand over the area, massages it,
pinches it, and when the whip is used, the intensity is built up slowly. Time is allowed for the person’s brain to produce
the neurotransmitters causing analgesic and euphoric states. The bottom’s ability to tolerate pain is in direct proportion
to the release of these chemicals. This is why most people are able to endure more pain as they approach orgasm. Many
prefer to end the flagellation after orgasm because these chemicals wear off almost immediately. People differ in their
preferences and therefore flagellation must be negotiated.

There are areas of the body that generate more erotic responses than others. The most erotic spot is the lower or inner
part of the buttocks. The closer the stimulation is to the center, the more erotic sensation they create. A kneeling female
may have her knees apart but for safety a male should have his knees together to protect his sex organs. CAUTION: The
physical environment for erotic flagellation is important as people respond better if the cli mate is warm and the light
dim. People wno practice erotic flagellation adhere to the following safety guidelines found in Sandmutopia Guardian 5,
Fundamentals of Flagellation, by The Quartermaster (April 1989, pp. 28-33): The wrists and ankles, if bound, are
constantly monitored. Improperly placed strokes or repeated strokes on the same area can become distracting to the
bottom and ruin the scene. Accidental pain is NOT erotic. It is dangerous to strike a person on the front or back of the
head, neck, elbows, waist, hands, knees, feet, abdomen, shins, chest, and spine.
 

It is also risky to let the end of a whip or cane wrap around the person’s body. Lashes are aimed so that the end of the
instrument lands in the center of the far buttock or shoulder. Padding is sometimes used to protect the abdomen, the
most common types being leather belts designed for body builders, pillows, or rolled up towels.

As a general rule, the thinner the whip or cane, the sharper the pain. These may also cause cuts in the skin. A paddle,
whip, or riding crop that is soft and wide at the end will create less pain and have more of a sensual feeling. If the
instrument is wide and heavy the impact with be felt deeper in the muscle tissue, like a thud. People vary in the types of
sensations they prefer.

People use bondage for the safety of the bottom as it prevents them from accidentally moving during a blow. Bondage
also draws a person’s focus toward the sensations of their body rather than trying to move or escape.

Many bottoms now provide their own flagellation equipment due to AIDS and the possibility of contamination from
anything that draws blood.

BASTINADO Bastinado is a form of foot torture that originally was used on criminals, many of whom never walked again.
Feet are sensitive and delicate, and they also have to carry the weight of the individual, which makes any injury
dangerous and, in the very least, inconvenient. Only short whips with soft leather are used in sex play and these are
applied with light strokes.

BIRCHING Birch rods or bunches of birch twigs have long been a common instrument for flagellation. Birching was not
only popular in saunas, where people whipped each other to stimulate their skin, but was also popular for sex play.

Birching had several advantages over caning or flogging. Birches can be used safely over most of the body (excluding face
and neck) and they cause only superficial effects. It takes fairly severe use of a birch to break the skin and cause bleeding,
but the wounds are very minor and, once the blood is washed away, only a few scratches are visible. CAUTION: Birch
twigs get thin toward the tips and may break off. Trimming them periodically during flagellation helps prevent the tips
from causing problems by wrapping around on the sides of a person. Those birching a partner on the shoulders have
them wear goggles, blindfolds, hoods, or masks to protect their eyes from tips that can break loose. Once a batch of birch
is used on one partner it cannot be used safely on others because of possible contamination from the scratches.

CANING Canes are made from rattan or bamboo. The domestic cane is straight and has a grip at one end, while the
school cane has a crooked handle, and the Malacca cane has a knob at one end.

Novices begin with the shorter and less flexible canes because they are easier to aim and control. Each type of cane has a
different effect and feel in addition to the sensations caused by the power, rhythm, and location of the stroke. Successful
disciplinarians are aware of all their options and are able to apply their lashes in a manner that brings the most pleasure
to the bottom. Training and knowledge of the proper location to strike and the power of each stroke is essential for
caning because without it one can cause serious injury.

A student begins training by getting the feel of swinging the rod. They stand in a room, away from any objects, and swish
the cane through the air with varying degrees of speed, up and down, sideways, and in an arc. Once the student has the
feel of the swing they work on accuracy of aim by using a pillow. Different positions are used for the pillow, laying it on a
bed or binding it in a vertical position to a piece of furniture. They replicate any position they may use for their partner, as
each height and angle requires different strokes. The novice practices until the cane hits the center of the pillow and only
three-quarters across to the other side. The next progressive step is to be able to apply strokes such that they lay parallel
to each other and are properly spaced. Once these skills are mastered, the student applies the strokes to their own
buttocks to adjust the power of the stroke accordingly.

The student next practices on a live volunteer. Safety precautions are still used and the person places a heavy towel or
pillow over them to protect against stray strokes that might land on their lower thighs, or upper or far side of the
buttocks. The strokes are kept light in order to get the most strokes out of the practice session. A powerful stinging type
of swing is usually done for punishment and is limited to two or three strokes. Regardless of the position selected, the
strokes will either be parallel or perpendicular to the floor. Strokes are applied at intervals of about 10 seconds. (The Fine
Art of Caning, by Nan)

FLOGGING Flogging is usually done on the upper back while in a standing position. The person, if bound, is positioned in a
manner that does not cause their shoulder blades or spine to protrude. Whips with wider strips of leather can have the
same effect as a good massage, and many enjoy being flogged because of this. The position is also more macho, depicting
the pirate, prisoner, or military style of punishment.

GENITAL WHIPPING Genital whipping is usually attempted only by the very adventurous. A much gentler stroke is used
as well as a special type of penis whip (6”) or riding crop. These whips only require a slight wrist action, not the full swing
common with some other types of flagellation. Intensity is built up by increasing the number of strokes in a given period,
not by hitting harder. The genitals themselves have small areas that are much more sensitive than other parts, and these
are either protected with a hand or avoided. The three most sensitive areas are the clitoris, testicles, and glans penis.
Genital whipping is enjoyed more when erotic stroking is alternated with lashes of the whip. The flagellator sometimes
holds the palm of their hand 7” opposite to where the whip lands so that on the return swing it stings their palm, thus
ensuring awareness of the intensity of the stroke given to the partner’s genitals.

PADDLING Paddling is a semi-intimate form of punishment carried out on the buttocks of an individual who is either
bending over, leaning against a wall, or lying across the lap of their partner. American schools seemed to prefer the use of
paddles over the English cane.

There are a variety of paddles used in this form of flagellation. Leather paddles, some with decorative chrome studs on
one side, make a heavy thud when they hit and like the genital whips are manipulated by wrist action alone. Slappers are
similar but are designed to make a noise. These are formed by placing two pieces of leather together and leaving them
unsewn on the paddle portion. Tawses are designed the same as the slapper except they are cut to form fingers. The
fourth type is the wooden paddle. Light weight paddles are safer but, as with any instrument, caution is still exercised.
Some people use wooden kitchen spatulas and spoons for a paddling scene. CAUTION: Heavy wood paddles can cause
physical damage. Fraternity paddles are, as a rule, too heavy for S/M play.
 

SLAPPING Slapping a partner is done more for arousal by humiliation than for pain. CAUTION: Slapping a person’s face
can be very dangerous. The technique used for slapping requires one to put their hand on the opposite side of the
partner’s face, giving support to their head and preventing damage to the vertebrae in the neck. The slap is aimed to land
just below the cheek bone, NOT on the jaw area or near the eyes. Of course, only wrist action is used, never an arm
swing.

SPANKING Spanking can be one of the most intimate forms of flagellation and is done by having the victim lie over the
lap of the disciplinarian, who then repeatedly slaps the person’s buttocks. Different psychological effects are achieved by
the type of verbal communication used, and whether the truant removes any of their clothes before submitting. The type
of clothes or fetish objects worn also plays an important role. Some disciplinarians wear latex skirts or pants that create a
slippery sensation against the penis. Cross-dressing of the truant adds a different dimension to this game. Men
experience what it would have been like to have had their dress lifted and panties pulled down for a spanking. Rubbing,
dildos, or the insertion of fingers are sometimes used to induce orgasm.

Other forms of spanking are done during intercourse, in either the missionary (the person on bottom spanks the one on
top), or doggy style (the mounting person spanks the one on bottom). Less dialogue is used for this type of spanking and
the slap is sometimes followed by grabbing the buttock and gently squeezing or massaging. Again, sporadic or sharp pain
is not erotic.

STRAPPING Strapping is done with a belt or strip of leather. This was the typical woodshed style of father/son discipline.
The same risks apply with regard to safe aim. Shorter straps are used because they give the best control. The victim is
made to stand, bend over (knees together), lean against an object, or lie down. Replicating the strap or belt used on the
victim as a child makes more of an emotional impact (this could be either a positive or negative experience).

WHIPPING Whips are designed to give increased or decreased power to the hand. Whips made of feathers, velvet, or
rubber soften the blows. Long whips made of leather with weights at the end of each strip produce the most pain and are
usually reserved for punishment. Today’s S/M punishment whips are more innocuous versions of the lethal historic cat o’
nine tails, the Roman flagellum, and the Russian knout. However, even the modified version, if not used properly, can
injure the partner. One method of swinging the whip is in a circular motion perpendicular to the person’s buttocks. If
done correctly, the tips of the whip graze the lower buttocks in the upward sweep of the circle. The lighter the strokes
given, the longer the game can last. Many novices forget that the whipping is for arousal; not punishment. When
purchasing whips consideration is given to how the handle fits one’s hand and that the grip is properly balanced with the
rest of the whip. That is, the handle is the same approximate weight as the tail. Riding shops offer a good selection of
whips, the best quality usually coming from England. There are individual craftsmen that cater to the S/M community and
create beautiful whips of excellent quality (“Slave Training,” by Lady Tanith, Backdrop Club lecture, January 26, 1991).

(See also ABRASIONS, ALGOPHILIA, BED OF NAILS. BEE STINGS, BITING, CLAMPS, DISCIPLINE, DOMINANCE/SUBMISSION,
PARAPHILIAS, PINCHING, RHABDOPHILIA, SENSORY ENHANCEMENT, TICKLING and URTICATION)

FLATULENCE (Flatuphilia, Eproctolagniac and Eproctophilia—arousal from flatulence) Flatulence refers to the passing of
intestinal gas. The French once had a stage act where a performer attracted large paying crowds merely to watch him
pass gas. Serious flatuphiles request that their partner release the intestinal gas directly into their awaiting face or mouth.
The following is an excerpt from a letter submitted to me by an anonymous flatuphile describing one of his sessions:

My audio cassette player was running during this time—it didn’t record too clearly, but you can hear her say that she had
to fart and then ask if I was ready.

I answered yes and she blew a huge fart right into my face! The fart itself is very clear on the tape.

I could smell nothing because her ass pressed against my nose and closed it. We tried a couple of times to have her fart
while on her hands and knees so I could then pull my face back and smell her farts but that never seemed to work out.

About 15 minutes after her first fart, she announced she had another one and asked again if I was ready, she then ripped
another big one right in my face!

She has a friend who lives much closer to her who she has gotten into some things she enjoys-golden showers [see
Urophilia]—which I don’t really do. Therefore, I suspect I will not be as interesting to her. But, I wrote to her last week and
suggested she meet with me on a more professional basis and I would pay her for each “full blown” fart she lets in my face
while the recorder is very close by...

People place personal ads to assist them in finding consenting partners. Here is one:

My mouth is your toilet,

Fart up my nose,

Sit on my face and let me deep sniff your love box,

Rim slave, wants master to fart in my mouth...

CAUTION: Holding a lighter to the buttocks as they release gas is very dangerous because the gas is combustible and can
create an explosive effect if the flame enters the anus, thus seriously damaging the rectum.

(See also COCKTAILS, COPROPHILIA, DEFILEMENT, DOMINANCE/SUBMISSION, HUMILIATION and SHOWERS)

FOOD/EATING See ANTHROPOPHAGY, COCKTAILS, LACTAPHILIA, MUCOPHAGY, PIE THROWING, SITOPHILIA, STUFFING,
UROPHILIA and VAMPIRISM

FOOT BINDING See BINDING/FEET and PODOPHILIA

 
FORMICOPHILIA See ZOOPHILIA/ FORMICOPHILIA

FORNICATORY DOLLS (Dame de voyage, Inflatable dolls, Pediophilia—arousal from dolls) Fornicatory dolls are those that
are produced with the specific intent of being used to accommodate genital penetration. There are several types of sex
dolls available in today’s market. Fornicatory dolls are made in Asian countries, Africa, Europe, and the United States.
They are about half the size of a human, with pliant breasts or a realistic penis. The most common type are the inflatable
dolls that come equipped with vibrating penises, breasts that can be filled with warm water, and several orifices. The
more expensive types were once popular among European sailors and had pubic hair and even a clitoris. There is also the
inflatable sheep (Luv Ewe) or pig that is equipped with an opening under the tail.

Fornicatory dolls are used as a third person for group sex, the cold partner for a necrophile, same sex partner, and
consensual partner for spanking, coprophilia, or S/M where a submissive is commanded to have sex with the doll.
However, they are most often used as jokes. The June 21, 1991 San Francisco Chronicle carried the story of inflatable dolls
being passed around among Red Sox fans at a Fenway Park baseball game. Some of the crowd became offended by the
blatant fondling of the dolls and security guards confiscated them. People occasionally use other dolls for sexual purposes
as in the June 1991 case of the stolen Ronald McDonald who, several days after his abduction, was found in an apartment
closet dressed in female underwear.

It is possible for the inflatable dolls to come loose at the seams and deflate. The plastic can also be ruined by oil based
lubricants.

(See also AGALMATOPHILIA, GENITAL/ ANAL INSERTS, PEDIOPHILIA, PENETRATION TOYS and SYBIAN)

FROTTAGE (Toucheurism, Haptosis—non-consensual touching) Frottage is the act of rubbing one’s body against another
person or object for sexual arousal. Today it is highly recommended as a safe sex practice in lieu of intercourse. There are
two common manifestations of non-consensual frottage, one is when someone rubs against a person in a crowd and
when confronted apologizes as though it were an accident. The usual cue is the obvious pressure of an erect or semi-
erect penis against the victim’s buttocks. The other type of frottaphile is the “goose and run” offender.

Robert Tralins, in The Sexual Fetish, gives the case history of several frottaphiles. One would follow women who were
endowed with particularly large buttocks up escalators and push his penis against the rails to induce orgasm. Another
followed obese women into revolving doors and was aroused by rubbing against them. Of course, not all frottaphiles are
aroused by the person they are rubbing. Men with silk or fabric (hyphephilia) fetishes will only rub women in silk dresses,
and so forth. Some podophiles, as well as other varieties of fetishists, engage in frottage almost exclusively. They not only
fondle the foot or shoe but some are actually aroused by feigning accidentally stepping on a woman’s foot in a crowd.
These usually apologize immediately.

Men are not the only offenders. For example, there are women who enjoy such things as squeezing through men packed
into gay bars and watching them jump as they suddenly realize that a pair of breasts have just brushed against their
backs.

(See also AGALMATOPHILIA, OCHLOPHILIA and TOUCH)

 
FURTLING Furtling (furtivus: stolen or hidden) refers to the once popular entertainment of manipulating one’s hand
underneath a photo that had a small area cut out where the legs, breasts, or genitals were located. Placing one’s ’s hand
behind this space gave the illusion of seeing real life genitals or buttocks. Burton Silver and Jeremy Bennett have written a
book that contains examples of this erotic art form with a history of its appeal and its demise under Victorian influence. In
their book they cited the following portion of a 19th century physician’s address to the West London Scientific Association
in defense of furtling:

AS A DOCTOR I cannot speak too highly of this book of original engravings, which, by the simple contrivance of holes
auspiciously placed, affords an entertainment most enjoyable and vitalizing. However, let me at once warrant that the
purpose of this work is not merely to amuse and entertain, but, in so doing, to assuage the sorrow of the heart, lift the
load of melancholy from the desponding mind, and restore to the wounded spirit its wonted elasticity. Indeed it has been
my pleasure to demonstrate the workings of this fine book to more than a few patients, and I can assure you that even
when a severe prudery was evident, I have never experienced a failure. The appropriate fervours have always been quickly
aroused and harmlessly released in a manner most therapeutic and becoming (The Naughty Victorian Hand Book,
Furtlirzg: The Rediscovered Art of Erotic Hand Manipulation, by Burton Silver & Jeremy Bennett, in forward).

The reason the word furtling is used is because the sketches are all of normal people who are unknowingly or
unintentionally exposing themselves to others; such as a woman watching a nude male swimmer towel dry through a
telescope, or a woman who just had the front of her skirt bitten out by a horse, exposing her genitals. There are hands
drawn on each previous page giving instructions on exactly how to hold the fingers behind the hole.

(See also KOKIGAMI, SEX GAMES and VOYEURISM)

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GANG BANGS A gang bang consists of serial sex with more than two partners. A few claim that this may possibly be the
type of sex for which our bodies are physiologically designed. This assumption is based on the difference in average time
for orgasm between men and women. Some men orgasm in two to three minutes and some women take twenty minutes.
A clan of primal humans could gain many advantages from having more than one man inseminate each woman. Sex and
suspected paternity of many of the offspring bonds members of the clan together and ensures sharing of food and
protection when necessary. It is also the type of behavior engaged in by some of our closest relatives, the primates.

Gang bangs differ from a Menage à trois (a couple with an outside lover), troilism (three lovers), candaulism (one person
watching a couple) and a “Mongolian Cluster” (simultaneous sex with multiple partners). The term is frequently used in
rape situations where there is more than one rapist. However, it can also be organized and consensual. There is a group in
the San Francisco area that allows women to select sex partners from a photo album. The coordinator then calls the men
selected and invites them to a private party. Those attending are then able to meet the woman and decide whether to
participate or to leave. Those who stay take turns until the woman is satisfied. Waiting in line has many merits according
to participants. Men sometimes find that watching others having sex is informative as well as stimulating. The tension and
anticipation is probably much higher than in ordinary group sex where everyone’s attention is either scattered or focused
on their current partner(s). (A few group sex houses cater to the wishes of women who announce that they would like
men to line up for a gang bang.)

People similarly engage in impromptu gang bangs at private parties where one person slips away and has sex with
numerous people during the evening.

A slightly different form of gang bang is the “two-minute parking lot test.” This is staged at singles bars and is designed to
ensure selection of the most competent or sexually compatible candidate for the night. One woman described her
technique as follows:

First a potential partner is screened by dancing. A close dance with a man gives me a quick answer to whether our bodies
fit together, there is sexual chemistry, compatible body rhythms, whether he caresses or gropes, and how easy or difficult
it would be to get him aroused. The dance can also reveal how long he can maintain an erection once aroused, and a
possible estimate of his critical dimensions. Once he passes the screening and intimates his desire for sex, he is given the
opportunity to take the “two-minute parking lot test.” If in that time he performs well and proves to be sexually
compatible he qualifies as a sex candidate for the rest of the evening. The advantages to this method of selection are that I
don’t end up spending the night with someone who doesn’t meet my needs. A commitment doesn’t have to be made
before sampling more of the merchandise, and my reputation stays intact because no one suspects that two people
leaving and returning to the bar within three to four minutes have had any form of sex. The rejected men are usually
content because they received a consolation prize of two minutes of phenomenal sex and left with a great story. The victor
gets an ego boost, and I leave with the best possible sex partner.

Prearranged gang bangs may have a special theme such as Santa Clauses at Christmas, men in diapers or long beards on
New Year’s Eve, valentine costumes on February 14th, or “bring a sex toy to share” party. Games such as “Little Bo-Peep”
or “Hide and Seek” add to the intrigue. (See FANTASY PLAY) CAUTION: Safe sex practices are the responsibility of each
individual. If a condom happens to break during penetration, the session ends or is restricted to a different orifice.

(See also ADULTERY, CANDAULISM, FESTIVALS, GROUP SEX, MENAGE A TROIS, ORGIES and POLYITEROPHILIA)

GAYS (Commasculation, Gay, Homophilia, Homoeroticism, Iterandria, Invert, Lung-yang, Sexual inversion, Sarombavy,
Uranism, Zwischenstufe)

A RITUAL OF JOINING

Two pairs of eyes that burn with feeling, meet And measure bodies toned from fight and flight That tense, aroused, and lift
to reach a height Which threatens each and each allows to greet Antlers thrusting, meeting antlers, hooves beat Air. And
bone caresses bone with crushing might. Heaving sides glisten bright, the source of light Bursting, twitching, shimmering.
And the heat

Of two bodies together fends off night.

When one is seen walking it seems that two
Are there. Or perhaps it’s the two seem one.
Two may be seen to rear as if to fight
A battle, an old struggle to renew.
It’s the passion, the ritual begun.

-Nelson Graff, 1991

A predisposition toward homosexuality, bisexuality, and heterosexuality is based on biological (genetic, hormonal, and
neurological) factors. Gays usually notice an attraction for the same gender at a very young age, even before they are
aware of the physical aspects of sex. The exact causes of human or animal sexual preferences are still unknown, therefore
this text will not endeavor to explain them. One recent development by a scientist at the Salk Institute, Dr. Simon LeVay,
is worth mention. Dr. LeVay found evidence of a structural difference in the brain’s hypothalamus region between
heterosexual and gay men, the latter’s being more similar in size to heterosexual females. The study is still preliminary
and no theories have been substantiated.

Homosexuality is found among other species as well. Pigeons, ravens, and dolphins are known for general acceptance of
same sex mates, some taking a mate of each sex. Most primates that become isolated from the opposite sex mate in
captivity will mate with same sex partners. G.L. Simons states an interesting observation in his book, called Sex and
Superstition. “The biblical word for sodomite, a translation of qadesh, properly denotes a man dedicated to a deity, and
so the early Jewishhostility to ‘sodomites’ may have been nothing more than opposition to a rival cult. The Sodomites, it
appears, were consecrated to the mother of gods, the famous Dea Syria, whose priests or devotees they were considered
to be. Sodomitic acts were committed with male and female temple prostitutes” (p. 121).

Throughout history about 10% of the total population is believed to have been gay. A few notable gays or bi-sexuals have
included Nero, Tiberius, Julius Caesar, Socrates, Michelangelo, Leonardo da Vinci, Alexander the Great, Hitler, and very
probably, J. Edgar Hoover.

Many people assume that gays are all effeminate because this type is easiest to recognize. However, there are many gays
who are homomasculine (“bears”). These cultivate the biker, body builder, lumber-jack, or construction worker images.

Often women will become lesbian for a short time after a traumatic experience, particularly rape. Young men who have
been violently raped by another male often become gay as well. The reason given is that it is a way to abandon identity
with the male race that he considers abusive and he becomes the passive “female” during sex encounters, sometimes
dressing the part. Not all male victims react this way.

A common explanation men give for their change to same sex partners is that of discovering sex with other men is much
more physical and passionate than with past female partners. Likewise, women will prefer the gentle nurturing and
extended foreplay other women offer. People who are confined in areas for an extended period of time with only a few
people may temporarily make a switch to whatever sex is available. Others simply prefer the common interests shared by
someone of the same sex. Many travelers practice homosexual behavior in other countries, with whatever the indigenous
race, but would not engage in it at home. J. A. Rogers, in Sex and Race, spoke of living in the West Indies, where
pharmacists had to put out an extra supply of lubricants when English sailors ported.

A current philosophy or political strategy is that of gays becoming open about their sexual identity. This is designed to
force people into recognizing the prevalence of gays and by this mass exposure cause them to respect the rights of gays
to live without persecution or disparagement. Some gays are currently forcing others into exposure by a ploy called
“outing.” This is accomplished by leaking a prominent gay’s name to the media.

Gay lifestyles are very similar to those of heterosexuals. Those who form live-in relationships divide chores according to
talents and preferences rather than social roles. A gay couple has potential to be financially more secure than a
heterosexual couple because they have a double male income and no dependents (the opposite is usually the case for
lesbian couples; however, they in turn, have an economic advantage over a single female parent). Gay couples rarely have
a problem understanding the puzzling psychological differences of the opposite sex. Not all gay men engage in sex, but
those who do anatomically have more options and no menstrual cycles with which to deal. The male-male relationships
can last through the decline of passion due to a close bonding and compatibility, but they seem to face more internal
pressure for challenge, sexual passion, and adventure. However, most of the problems gays face in a partnership arise
from the prejudice of smaller communities, families, or employers. There are support groups available for gays and their
families in larger cities and a national organization called “Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation” that unites gays
in defending themselves against bashing and prejudice. Gays are often objects of persecution. Even today, Iran’s
government executes gays by beheading, burning, or stoning. A 1990 Soviet survey conducted by the Moscow Institute of
Sociology reported that 30% of those questioned favored isolation of gays and 33% favored extermination. The majority
opinion in America most likely differs. However, gay bashing still occurs.

People who participate in sex with a same sex partner will often deny their gay status by claiming that it is only the
receptive partner who is gay, that this is only a temporary way of getting sex until the right or perfect heterosexual mate
comes along, that they were seduced while intoxicated and therefore innocent, or that the person they are involved with
is a very special friend and they wouldn’t consider having sex with any other same sex partner. Others say sex doesn’t
count if they are not emotionally involved. Everyone has the prerogative to select a label to express their own sexual
identity. A person’s label won’t always be consistent with Webster’s definition, but social etiquette dictates that the term
they select be respected. This is also true for transsexuals, transvestites, and bi-sexuals. Three examples of men who
claimed identities that seemed in conflict with their actions were 1) a man who said he was heterosexual but went on to
say that he does have five or six male friends with whom he really enjoys having sex, 2) a male prostitute who says he is
heterosexual but has only had sex with a woman once while on drugs. All of his other sexual encounters were with men
while he played the role of female, often in female attire (other transvestites accept this as heterosexual behavior), and 3)
a 40 year old virgin male who claims to be gay.

Gays rarely change their sexual preference through therapy and many therapists believe it is more valuable to simply help
them adjust to their lifestyle rather than change it. The Masters and Johnson Institute does, however, offer a “short term
intensive intervention” program for those with a strong desire to change their preference. Some feel that only bi-sexuals
are able to make these changes and the program is certainly not guaranteed to effect a change. (Masters and Johnson
Institute, St. Louis, MO)

(See also BI-SEXUALS, CATAMITES, DRAG QUEENS, HOMOPHOBIA, LESBIANS and PEDOPHILIA)

GEISHAS A Japanese geisha is a female who is taught to entertain men with contrived charm. She was at one time
purchased while young from her parents, just as were the Yoshiwara (prostitutes), except this girl became educated and
later chose her own sex partners. She began her education at the age of twelve and for the next six years she was taught
social etiquette, ancient dances, songs, rituals, and the precise hand and body movement enacted during the tea and
flower arranging ceremonies. Hendrik de Leeuw quite eloquently describes the experience of being entertained by these
professionals in the early 1900’s.

A charming hostess greeted us at the door. She was attired in a charming Japanese costume, and she moved unimpeded
by the rich cloth of her kimono. She led us into the reception room. There I saw many geisha girls in gay kimonos, their hair
dressed formally and elaborately. They crouched in little groups, chattering as usual.... As if to talk gaily of nothing at all
was one of the lessons they had learned well at school.

The tea ceremony began. It was beautiful, indeed; and a solemn thing, in a way, conforming in all its many details of
movement to a ritual conceived ages ago and by the weight of those far times still taught as an important part of
education.

The movements of the leader were captivating. She was seated on a lacquered stool. Before her was a table, richly
decorated. On it was a bronze stove and this was topped by a water vessel of brass, from which a vapor rose as the fire
heated it. As she sat solemnly at her post, two of her assistants, leaving her side with identical inclinations of the head and
graceful liftings of the hands, burned incense. Another arranged the flowers in a beautiful vase of porcelain. Each touch of
her fingers was a motion produced by long practice. It was poetry of the hands. I watched eagerly as the flowers slowly
assumed the precise position required by custom, one yearning toward the ceiling of the room as if toward the sky and the
sun, another turning gently downward, gazing into a pool that was not there. All this motion—of the burning incense, of
the flower arranging, and the solemnity of the presiding officer, flowed into a harmony of action, sound, and color. It
unfolded itself like a flower under the morning sun.

The geisha at the table rinsed the dainty tea cups with boiling water, dried them with a piece of red silk, mixed green
leaves in the cup and slowly poured the hot water over them. She paused, then took a solitary quill and brushed, although
my eye could not discern them, specks of ashes and tea dust from the shiny table. Then there was another moment of rest.
Once more she poured the precious decoction from one cup into another until, at last, one cup of true tea was prepared.
This was offered to me, because I was the guest of honor, and I tasted it. I must confess that I was not able to tell exactly
what subtle delicacy had been added to the drink by the ceremony, but I was quite willing to sip for a long time if sipping
would cause a continuation of the pretty tableau.

Also I was somehow glad when I looked about into the freshly painted faces of the geishas thut there was no need for
them to fashion their coiffures for the rude embraces of townsmen and foreigners (Cities of Sin, pp. 37- 8).

The Japanese culture during this period placed little emphasis on romantic love. A wife was a servant and mother, not
someone with whom to converse or to shower with socially unaccepted displays of affection. Therefore, the Yoshiwara
(prostitutes) served men’s need for passion and the geishas provided feminine conversation and companionship. Men,
while able to enter into a sexual relationship with a geisha, often resisted temptation due to the financial and social
responsibilities involved. It was the equivalent of committing to a mistress. Male children born to mistresses/ geishas
were generally adopted by the father and his legal wife; daughters were raised by the geisha. Today geishas choose the
profession for themselves, often coming from working or middle class families. However, the majority are daughters of
geishas or tea house owners. Western influence has lowered the status of geishas and prostitutes in Japan. Mr. de Leeuw
illustrated the polarity of moral values between the two cultures when he said, “If the Japanese can be accused of being
unmoral and cynically realistic in their official attitude toward sex, the West may be said to be outwardly sentimental and
hypocritical. Certainly to the Occidental mind, and especially to the Christian, the Yoshiwara is sinful. The Japanese think
otherwise since morality and chastity are, to them, something more than the abandonment of all sexual activity. They are
aware that a ‘chaste’ woman, as she is described in the Western countries, may be the epitome of all the established
virtues and yet be a highly immoral being.”

(See also BORDELLOS. HETAERAE and PROSTITUTION)

GENITAL/ANAL INSERTS (Bouginonia, Butt plugs, Dildos, Godemiche, Olisbos, Paraphallus) Dildos are artificial penises or
plugs that are designed to fit into the mouth, vagina, or anus and act as aids to masturbation. They have been made of
leather, stone, clay, wax, ivory, rubber, fruit, vegetables, plastic, and polyurethane. These devices are quite ancient and
even the Bible makes reference to artificial penises:

Thou hast also taken thy fair jewels of my gold and of my silver, which I have given thee, and maddest to thyself unages of
men, and didst commit whoredom with theut.—Ezekiel 16:17

ANAL INSERTS Anal plugs are specially designed for anal insertion. They are shaped like fingers or inverted cones and can
be used alone or in conjunction with penilevaginal sex. Males find the plug adds stimulus to his prostate and on the
female it fills in the rectal area which presses against the inner vaginal cavity, making it smaller and thereby giving one a
fuller sensation. Anal plugs range in length from 4” to 8”, and those longer than 4” need to be very pliable beyond the 4”
point to facilitate the curve in the rectum. An anal insert is available for the heterosexual couple that is very small in
diameter and which has a ring at the base allowing it to slide over the penis for intercourse. CAUTION: Butt plugs are
designed with a flange on the bottom to prevent these lubricated anal inserts from slipping up into the rectum. If this
does happen and the person is unable to defecate or pass the object out within a day a physician can either administer
drugs to relax the intestine and facilitate the object’s expulsion, or use other treatments.

The ancient Orient is known for having invented many types of artificial inserts. One of these is the Chinese Love Bead,
String of Pearls, or Siamese Strings. These consist of a string that has small rubber balls or pearls attached at 1/2”—1”
intervals. They are inserted into the anus and pulled out as the person ejaculates. These are only intended for use by one
person. Another device is the Ben Wa Ball which is made of steel and plated with chrome or gold. Two of these are
inserted into the vagina to produce titillation while the woman goes through the day. Most women find that Ben Wa Balls
don’t produce any type of special sensation and, worse yet, can fall out when they walk. Women who leave them inside
the vagina during intercourse say they derive pleasure this way. The original or more authentic Ben Wa Balls were
constructed differently, with one having a hollow center containing mercury that resonated with movement. Others
acted as bells to add music to the sex act. It is usually difficult for women to have an orgasm without any form of clitoral
stimulus, therefore it is doubtful the balls are adequate in themselves.

Hawk Metals has invented a similar set of toys for men known as Ass Weights or Ass Eggs. They weigh slightly over a
pound each and are shaped like eggs. Some have a small longitudinal hole through the center that allows one to pass a
string through and attach it to another egg or to use it as a handle for removal. The weight of the eggs makes them easy
to remove with mere gravity. These eggs are worn during any type of ride that bounces the wearer around. Motorcycles
are highly recommended in advertisements.

DILDOS Other early records of dildos go back to Egypt and Greece. French troops gave them to their wives before
marching off to war as masturbatory aids. Tipu Sahib, a sultan of India, allowed the 600 women in his harem to use dildos
to keep themselves sexually satisfied, thus discouraging lesbianism and adultery. Women also used a mulierre (special
strip of fabric pulled up against their genitals and fastened to a belt by straps) to create stimulation by rubbing when they
walked.

Today people purchase their own dildos which come in a variety of shapes, sizes, colors, and textures. One 10” dildo is
sold that was made from a mold of the porn film star Jeff Stryker. Some dildos include vibrators.

Dildos specially made for the purpose may be worn attached to chastity belts, latex underwear, harnesses, gags and chin
straps. Anal plugs can be added to chastity belts, and double ended dildos can be worn on harnesses. The Japanese have
face masks that are worn over the groin, the nose being very long and shaped like a penis. Dominatrixes sometimes will
have their “pets” fetch a dildo and present it to them in their mouth as part of a humiliation scene.

Some dildos have flexible shafts that rotate to stimulate the G-spot along with an external clitoral stimulant, such as the
“Pet Turtle.” Some are equipped with suction cups on the base, which are used to anchor the device, attach to a flat
headed vibrator or, as in the case of strippers in a sex show booth, to a glass window.
 

The Japanese have designed a type of dildo that slips over the penis and releases fluid at the appointed time. We have
dildos that expel fluid but they are not as elaborate. Other dildos are simple rubber sheaths that fit over a semi-flaccid or
erect penis to give the effect of a larger penis when the partner is penetrated. CAUTION: Condoms are put onto dildos
before use. If the condom breaks, the dildo is cleaned in warm soapy water or soaked in a solution of water and
nonoxynol 9 to destroy viruses. Only water-based lubricants are safe on the condom as oil dissolves the rubber. Safety
also requires that dildos and plugs have a chain in the center, rather than a dangerous nonpliable metal shaft, to prevent
pieces from breaking off inside the body.

VIBRATORS Vibrators are mechanical devices that produce vibrations (small rapid jerks) and which are placed against the
skin for a massage effect. Their power comes from either batteries or house current.

Some people use vibrators against the genitals for sexual arousal and orgasm. Dildos have been designed to house the
battery operated mechanisms so that they may be safely inserted into the vagina or rectum. Some electrical vibrators
have add-on attachments for penetration or clitoral stimulation. A few vibrators have a cup attachment for the glans
penis.

Vibrators can end years of inability to orgasm but others may find that it desensitizes the area. People respond differently
to different types of vibrators and should not assume that because a battery operated hard plastic vibrator does not bring
them to orgasm that other types won’t either.

Small vibrators are also used on nipple and clitoral clamps. (Good Vibrations, The Complete Guide to Vibrators by Joani
Blank)

(See also ANAL SEX, CHEMISE CAGOULE, CATHETERS, ELECTRIC SHOCK, GLORY HOLES, PENETRATION TOYS, POWER
TOOLS, RINGING, SAFE SEX, SCROTAL INFUSION and SYBIAN)

GENUPHALLATION Genuphallation is the act of rubbing the penis between a partner’s knees.

(See also AXILLISM, COITUS A MAMMILLA, COITUS INTERFERMORIS and HEAD STANDS)

GERONTOPHILIA (Alphamegamia—older man, Anititagnia—older women, Chronophilia—age difference,

Graophilia—older female, Matronolagnia—older female) Some people have a sexual attraction for people who are
significantly older than themselves. There are even rapists who only attack elderly women (anoraptus). Gay gerontophiles
are common as indicated by the number of personal ads requesting father figures. Personal ads of gays are usually more
direct than those of heterosexuals. The following are typical::

30 yr. into shaving, ripe crotches looking for Daddy

Boy seeks leather daddy to serve

WM wants Daddy Bear for manly sessions of safe sex

Bearded Daddy wanted to teach me the ropes and serve his needs

Gerontophiles are thought to have been conditioned to respond to older parents or relatives because they were kind to
them. It may also be an attempt to reconcile a lack of affection from a parent. Many others simply prefer the compassion,
intelligence, experience, and charm of people who have achieved their life goals and now live to enjoy and share life with
others.

Special dating clubs such as Anachron in New York cater to the needs of gerontophiles as do some bordellos. Magazines
such as Over 40 or Over 50 feature photos of older women and stories of their sexual escapades with younger men (see
Appendix). There is even a video called “Grandma Does Dallas.”

(See also ANISONOGAMIST, DYSMORPHOPHILIA, INFANTILISM and MATURATION)

GLORY HOLES See GROPING APPARATUS

GOLDEN SHOWERS See SHOWERS

GROOMING Grooming of a sex partner is most commonly found among primates but humans too, in addition to the
normal grooming one does before a date, use grooming as foreplay.

Ford and Beach found this to be true among the Siriono, Dusun, Plains Cree, and Trobrianders. Holmberg wrote of the
Siriono’s of Eastern Bolivia:

Lovers also spend hours in grooming one another—extracting lice from their hair or wood ticks from their bodies, and
eating them; removing worms and spines from their skin; gluing feathers into their hair; and covering their faces with
uruku ... paint. This behavior often leads up to a sexual bout, especially when conditions for intercourse are favorable (The
Siriono, by A.R. Holmberg, p. 182).

Sex slaves often prefer performing tasks that involve the grooming of their masters. These rituals include bathing,
manicuring their partner’s nails, and shampooing or styling their hair.

(See also COURTSHIP, and SLAVES)

GROPING APPARATUS These are devices that create a barrier between people but at the same time enables them to
have sexual contact by inserting their hand into strategically placed holes. There are grope suits made of latex or leather
where only the genitals or breasts are exposed and boxes that one person stands in and other people can reach in with
their hands. An alternate form is the glory hole (a wall or box that has a hole only large enough for the insertion of a
penis) which allows both partners to protect their anonymity. These are popular in X-rated video rental stores. The
Suaheli of Africa were said to use a hole in the fence around their yard for rendezvous with lovers.

“In the yard, near the fence, there is a gate-like board in which there is a hole about a yard from the ground. Early in the
morning the negress takes her stand there with her back to the board and facing her husband, who, though still lying in
the hut, can watch her well from his bed. Her lover comes to the gate as pre-arranged, she bends down forward, acts as if
she were washing the cooking utensils, and calls out some chance phrase to her husband, who suspects nothing, while her
lover has her through the hole in the board” (Voodoo-Eros by Felix Bryk pp. 216-7).
Latex suits are available with small rubber fingers or fibers over nipples and genitals. These create a tickling sensation as
the person moves or perspires.

There are similar groping games where one person walks between two rows of people in the dark or while blindfolded.

Humans are not the only species to use groping apparatuses. The female thread-worm pokes her vagina through the skin
of her host vegetable when she is ready for sex. The males crawl around the surface until they find one of these female
occupied holes (Sex Link, by Hy Freedman).

(See also CHEMISE CAGOULE and GLORY HOLES)

GROUP SEX (Orgy, Swinging, Wife swapping; Bigynist—one male/two females, Bivirist—one female/two males,
Martymachlia—arousal from having others watch during sex, Ochlophilia—arousal from being in crowds)

Group sex involves sex between more than two people. Humans, like other species, can experience a high level of sexual
energy from an environment where they hear, see, touch, and smell others engaged in copulation. The opportunity to
engage in sex without the usual commitment or intimacy likewise relieves pressure for many. Many ancient religions used
orgies in the worship of fertility gods. These rituals gave widows, homely virgins, and spouses of infertile mates the
chance to conceive; the offspring of such unions were considered sacred.

Today the North American Swing Club estimates the number of active swingers in the United States to be five million.
There is a diversity of establishments, individuals, or groups that support this activity. They range from sex houses, special
group sex cruise ship excursions, hot tub parties, S/M clubs, fetish clubs, gay baths, nudist colonies, gang bangs, religious
rituals, and intimacy workshops. The most common establishment is one run by a couple who open their home as a group
sex house one or more nights a week. The couple usually provides clean sheets, towels, lockers, snacks, drinks, condoms,
and lubricants. In return each person donates a small amount of money to help them cover the expenses. This
contribution does not pay for sex, and just like a singles bar one can leave without having sex. The house will have several
rooms. One is used as a room for people to socialize, usually clothed early in the evening and semi-clothed later. There is
a kitchen where people snack and socialize as well. Hot tubs are common and usually one’s first invitation is to undress
and soak in the tub. The next progression of events takes one to either a group sex room or a semi-private room. The
difference between these are in the distribution of mattresses; group rooms have them joined together to cover the
entire floor, whereas semi-private rooms have them arranged farther apart. In addition, the house rule restricts anyone
else from joining a couple in this room without their invitation. The rule for a group sex area is that people can only join a
couple or group with their permission. There is an important difference between invitation and permission. The first
requires the couple to ask another to join and the latter allows the couple to be interrupted with requests of others.
Often, being touched or caressed by others is used as a subtle substitute for the verbal request. Once this inquiry has
been made it is each individual’s responsibility to say no or gently push them away. People who refuse to take “no” for an
answer or who are too aggressive will be asked to leave and not asked back. There are house rules governing the type of
sex allowed on the premises. Often overt sadomasochism is prohibited, and generally men are not allowed to engage in
genital contact with each other, although it is often encouraged between women. Once compliance is made to these rules
the type of sex and number of participants vary.

A visitor to a group sex scene will see a few who masturbate alone, couples engaging in oral/genital sex, and groups of
three or more together using an array of positions. There are groups of three people satisfying each other with a variety
of oral, genital, anal, and overall body tactile stimuli. Mongolian Clusters consist of more than three people. These usually
have more men than women and each woman will have several men penetrating her or groping from the outside of the
cluster. Some women use the anonymity of this environment to experiment with different forms of same sex intimacy.
These may either engage in mutual titillation with each other or work together as a team to provide sexual variety (one
female may not enjoy some sex acts—cun—nilingus, fellatio, anal or vaginal penetration—and the other will cover for
her.) In addition to the Mongolian Cluster, other positions include the Rainbow, which is a cluster of people who have
different skin colors, and a Row Boat is where a female sits on a reclined male’s penis and fellates two men, one standing
on each side. Daisy Chains are the circles formed by a group of people, each performing oral sex on the person in front of
them. No one is forced to swap partners and many couples simply go to watch others have sex or to have sex themselves
while others watch.

Sophisticated group sex establishments may offer videos, mirrored ceilings and walls, grope boxes, see through glass
dance floor, fashion shows, strip tease classes, pubic hair trimming, and massage lessons. A house in Florida requires that
both partners attend a sensitivity class prior to being allowed into the club.

Group sex houses offer women many benefits. They are able to engage in casual sex in an environment where there is
little need to be concerned about rape or physical abuse. Participants are not restricted to depending on one partner to
satiate their appetite. Casual sex can help relieve the tension or frustration experienced by those who don’t have a
regular sex partner. It is a way of accepting responsibility for one’s own physical needs rather than letting an
unsympathetic socioreligious system dictate deprivation. Establishing control of one’s own life creates a feeling of
empowerment and keeps a person from directing frustration toward others, or of internalizing these feelings and
suffering from depression and low self esteem.

In addition to these types of group sex houses, there are those that cater to special interest groups such as S/M, scat,
golden showers, cross dressing, and fetishes. CAUTION: Many couples assume swinging will save a marriage. However, it
more often destroys a weak relationship. Likewise it is an activity that has to have the enthusiasm of both partners to be
successful. Sexually transmittable diseases are a major concern for many. However, it is often easier to insist that a casual
partner use condoms than it is to ask a steady lover. (“Swingers,” Mensa Sexyg Gathering Conference, San Francisco,
February 17-18, 1990; “Are You a Swinging Virgin,” by Shirley Sez, Lifestyle Conference, August 17-18, 1990; “ABC’s of
Swinging,” by John and Honey-bear, Lifestyle Conference, August 17-18, 1990)

(See also ADULTERY, CANDAULISM, FESTIVALS, GANG BANGS, MENAGE A TROIS, ORGIES, POLYITEROPHILIA, SEX
CONFERENCES and WIFE SWAPPING)

GROUPIES See EROTOMANIA

GYNEMIMETOPHILIA Gynemimetophilia (gyne: female; mimos: mime), coined by John Money, refers to those who are
aroused by a male who is impersonating a female or a male-to-female transsexual.

(See DRAG QUEENS, PETTICOAT DISCIPLINE, TRANSVESTITES and VICTORIAN LACE)

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HANDICAPS Handicaps include physical disabilities and, in this text, includes incurable sexually transmitted diseases.
People suffer from many different handicaps but only a couple were selected for discussion here. These should give the
reader a general concept of the problem and possible recommendations to facilitate adjustment.

Paraplegics cannot feel anything from the waist down, but orgasms similar to wet dreams do occur. It is possible for the
paraplegic’s partner to rub the penis, creating an erection that will enable the two to have penetrative sex. Paraplegics
become aroused from tactile stimulation done above the waist. A sex surrogate is sometimes used to train the person or
couple in adjusting to this condition and there are organizations that offer resources and support to disabled people.

Men whose genitals have been removed are still able to have pleasurable sensations by stimulating the nerves in the
prostate region. Ancient eunuch priests used this method of pederasty to continue their sex lives. Men who have lost
testicles after puberty can often have an active sex life; however, orgasm is usually more difficult to achieve. Anal
stimulation of the prostate can be of benefit for them also. A doctor is able to monitor these men to make sure their
adrenal gland is producing enough testosterone to replace what was once produced by the testicles. If this hormone is
not present the prostate can atrophy.

Multiple sclerosis and Lou Gehrig’s disease are diseases that attack the central nervous system. Sensation in the genitals
may diminish and make sustained erection and orgasm more difficult. The use of a cock ring may benefit a partner and a
urologist can be consulted if orgasms do become a problem. Support groups exist in some areas that assist in working out
many other concerns.

Support groups and clubs are available for many categories of special handicaps. People who are under five feet tall have
a club called “Little People of America” that sometimes serves as a resource for meeting others. Not everyone considers it
necessary to restrict their selection of a spouse to those with similar handicaps.

Personal ads are excellent for people who live with STD’s such as AIDS and herpes, or for people who are deaf, blind, have
colostomy bags, are amputees, etc. The person placing the ad remains anonymous and does not risk personal
rejection.One should never think one is alone in his or her suffering. For instance, 9 1/2 million people in the U.S. are
restricted to wheelchairs, an estimated 40 million have genital herpes (some reports have indicated that from sample
screenings as many as 50% of Americans carry the virus) and as of December 1991 there was a cumulative of 206,392
reported cases of AIDS.

(See also ACROTOMOPHILIA, DISEASES, DYSFUNCTIONS and DYSMORPHOPHILIA)

HANDKERCHIEF CODES Handkerchief codes are used by some S/M and gay groups. Colors denote preference for specific
sexual activities and placing the handkerchief on the left side of the body tells potential partners the wearer is a top (one
who does this to another). Colors on the right side of the body signal that the person is a bottom (one who has the act
done to them). Therefore, people look for matching colored handkerchiefs on the opposite side of the prospective
partner’s body. The following chart shows the significance of specific colors:
 

Codes are not perfectly standardized, and embarrassing mistakes have occurred. At one time right and left sites had
opposite meanings for those living on the East and West Coasts.

(See also EXHIBITIONISM and PERSONAL ADS)

HAREMS (Gynecaeum, Seraglio) Harems rose from the practice of polygamy. Keeping women sheltered was a way of
guarding wives and concubines from the sexual escapades of men in the community and possible reciprocation from the
women. The term harem is used for Moslem seraglios, where the women were kept under lock and key, but its meaning,
“that which is sacred, set apart, or forbidden,” alludes to the former religious custom of maintaining priestesses for sexual
purposes in the temples. The isolation of married women in harems was consistent with an oriental practice of purdah
(hiding women behind veils and gowns) that predates Mohammed, and of the Greek’s gynecaeum, where women stayed
at home, having servants shop and do errands. A Greek woman of social status was rarely ever seen on the streets—this
was a place for female servants, peasants, slaves, and prostitutes. This isolation doomed the women to social illiteracy,
many being condemned as superstitious and intellectually unfit to rear male children. Harems were outlawed in the early
1900’s but some still exist. The King of Morocco is reported to have over 200 women in his harem.

Ancient Chinese kings and emperors had as many as 121 women in their seraglios. Special “sex secretaries” were
employed to keep tally of whose turn it was to have sex with the king and whether she became pregnant as a result.
Finally in “the early eighth century, girls who slept with the emperor were rubber-stamped afterward” (Sex in History, by
Reay Tannihill, p. 238).

The Moslem injunction is religious and even without the locked doors of a harem the Arab women prior to the 20th
century would not choose to walk about the streets exposing themselves to strange men. Most harems consisted of only
one wife and a few concubines. The Koran limited men to four wives; however, they were permitted additional
concubines. Only the wealthy could afford this luxury because in addition to the wives the man had to support the
necessary servants or slaves needed to care for the women and children. The lives of the women were leisurely. They had
private gardens, talked, bathed and gossiped. Some engaged in alternative or illicit sexual adventures and others escaped
boredom through the use of opium.

(See also GEISHAS, GROUP SEX, HETAERAE, MARRIAGE and ORGIES)

HARMATOPHILIA Harmatophilia (harmostes: to govern or bring harmony, tomy: to cut, philia: attachment) refers to one
who is aroused by mistakes or rules being broken. Harmatophobia refers to those who are frightened of making a
mistake. A great majority of men are aroused by their partner having less sexual knowledge or competence than
themselves. This bolsters their self esteem and makes them feel more secure in the relationship. Of course, this
preference for sexually inept females can cause some women to either feign incompetence or prevent them from
wanting to experiment or learn more about sex.

(See also MASOCHISM, PlECATTIPHILIA, SADISM and ZELOPHILIA)

HARPAXOPHILIA (Chrematistophilia—arousal from being robbed) Harpaxophilia (harpax: robber, philia, attachment)
indicates sexual arousal from robbery.

Certainly there is an adrenalin rush experienced while being robbed.

Consensual sex scenes or fantasy play that utilize the stimulus produced when being robbed often consists of having the
victim retire and sometime later being awakened by a scantilvclad cat burglar crawling through the bedroom window.
The victim pretends to be asleep while the burglar searches for valuables. At some point there will be a struggle with one
person ending up bound. This person will be interrogated as to where the jewels have been hidden and then can expect
to be sexually molested.

Fantasy scenes of cat burglars seem to work because we react emotionally when we lose something regardless of
whether or not it was voluntary.

(See also ABDUCTION, FANTASY PLAY, HYHRISTOPHILIA. KLEPTOPHILIA. PARAPHILIA, PECATTIPHILIA, PHOBOPHILIA.
SACRIFICE and SYMPHOROPHILIA)

HEAD STANDS Couples may enjoy having sex with the female in a head stand position (head and hands forming a tripod-
like pose on the floor).

In one couple, the female preferred having orgasms in this position because the blood that settled in her upper
extremities created a lightheaded sensation that produced intense orgasms for her.

The exact position required that she position herself in a head stand on something soft and spread her legs. Her partner
then straddled her between the legs so that one of his feet was on each side. Bending forward he was able to insert his
penis and thrust until orgasm.

Other similar activity includes only engaging in oral sex with the partner doing the headstand or lying on a bed with the
upper body hanging over the edge.

(See also OXYGEN REGULATION and SEX POSITIONS)

HEBEPHILIA Hebephilia refers to the attraction of a person to teenagers.

(See also CATAMITES, ILLEGAL SEX. INCEST, NEPIOPHILIA, NYMPHOPHILIA. PEDOPHILIA. PORNOGRAPHY, SEX RINGS,
SNUFF FILMS and VIRGINS)

HEDONISM Hedonism (hedone: pleasure) refers to the lifestyle of those who plan their lives primarily for the
experiencing of pleasure.

(See also HODOPHILIA, PECATTIPHILlA, PHOBOPHILIA and ZELOPHILIA)

HERMAPHRODITES (Ambisexuality, Intersexuals) This is a condition where an individual has both male and female genital
characteristics due to the body producing irregular amounts of male and female hormones during prenatal development.
They may have a moditied vagina, ovaries that hang in the outer labia (labial ectopy) an enlarged clitoris, a small penis
with testicles, a developed penis with an empty scrotal sack (crytorchidism), or any number of combinations or internal
alterations of the normal. A hermaphrodite with functioning testicles or ovaries and uterus can parent children with a
partner of the appropriate sex. These variations often account for the cases reported of veteran soldiers giving birth to
children. Many ancient gods were portrayed as hermaphrodites and were thought to be able to parent children without a
partner.

Hermaphrodites in America were often hired by circuses and exhibited naked as freaks until the mid 20th century.
Chinese in the third century were warned that this was the result of bi-sexual parents. Europeans in the Middle Ages
thought that the condition could be cured by having the hermaphrodite engage in sex with a recently deceased virgin.
Today parents in India have infants with this dysfunction castrated and raised to be dancers and prostitutes. Surgery and
hormone treatments can often correct this condition if done while the child is young.

There are a few magazines and movies featuring hermaphrodites engaged in sex. They differ from pre-operative
transsexuals in that the latter still have a similar physique as to when they were male and they still have scrotal sacks and
testes with no vagina. One movie featured a couple of hermaphrodites who were feminine except for well developed
penises. They performed in various positions including simultaneously penetrating each others’ vaginas with their penises
and then each withdrawing to ejaculate. Such movies are often just farces in which females wear glued-on dildos.

(See also ANATOMY, DYSFUNCTIONS and TRANSSEXUALS)

HETAERAE (Courtesans) The Greek hetaerae were female companions and entertainers during the 4th and 5th centuries
BCE (before common era or BC). They were the highest of the three classes of Greek prostitutes. The second class were
called auletrides. These played musical instruments at feasts and used prostitution as a secondary source of income. The
lowest class was the dicteriades, whose primary talents were sexual. Most hetaeraes were originally slaves; Greek women
rarely were allowed to pursue intellectual interests. Hetaerae were comparable to the highest class of European
courtesans. These women chose to remain single and pursue an education. Although often financially supported by their
lovers they were still allowed much more freedom than other women who, after marriage, were confined to their
gynecaeum or homes.

It was extremely difficult for women to gain any type of positive recognition in Greece but several of the hetaerae are
mentioned by historians. Aspasia became the intellectual and beautiful mistress of Athenian statesman, Pericles, who
ruled Athens for many years. The infamous Thais, mistress of Alexander the Great, is credited with persuading him to
burn the city of Persepolis in Persia. Evidence exists that some of the hetaerae led campaigns to educate other women
and to improve their status.

(See also ADULTERY, CATAMITES, GEISHAS, HAREMS, MARRIAGE and PROSTITUTION)

HETEROSEXUALS (Androphilia, Heterophilia, Heterosexualism) Heterosexuality is the preference of a person for a partner
of the opposite sex. It is determined by biological factors that include genetic, hormonal, and neurological components.
Our sex preference does not seem to be determined by casual sex experiences. A large number of boys experience
homosexual contact before they settle into a heterosexual lifestyle. Furthermore, many ancient or primitive tribes
practice active homosexuality on young boys before marriage. This is socially accepted and after their marriage seems not
to effect their heterosexual role.

Society does not seem to be able to manipulate people’s sexual preferences, but can influence how people perceive
themselves in their selected role. Successful implementation of husband/wife roles usually necessitates a proper role
model by parents. Children reared in single parent homes often have difficulty in determining appropriate roles or
behavior and families portrayed on television can often create unrealistic expectations for a partner or oneself. While
having poor role models rarely leads to homosexuality, it can cause broken marriages or decisions to remain single.

(See also BI-SEXUALS, GAYS, HOMOPHOBIA and LESBIANS)

HIEROPHILIA Hierophilia (hieros: sacred or holy; philia: attachment to) refers to those who are aroused by sacred
objects. This may include such things as masturbating with crosses or while sitting in the church pews. Some have even
broken into churches at night and had sex on the altar. (Personal communication, Austin Texas, 1969.)

Many of the early goddess religions revered sex and included it as part of their worship. Statues, animals, priests, and
priestesses were all provided for congregants’ sexual gratification at one time or another.

(See also CHARMS, FERTILITY WORSHIP, FESTIVALS, PHALLOPHILIA, SEX MAGICK and YONI WORSHIP)

HODOPHILIA (Nomavalent, Ecdemolagnia) Hodophilia (hodos: path, philia: attachment) describes the sexual arousal
people feel while traveling to new or strange places. Travel often entails anxiety, pleasure, autonomy, and additional
hours for entertainment. People feel more tempted to break out of their normal routine and experience their new
environment to the fullest, especially if the country has a legal red light district.

(See also COITUS A CHEVAL, SIDERODROMOPHILIA and XENOPHILIA)

HOMILOPHILIA (Autagonistophilia—arousal by being on stage or on camera) Homilophilia (homilo: sermons, philia:

attachment) refers to feeling sexual arousal while listening to or giving sermons and speeches. Public speakers are often
dynamic and this combined with adrenalin can produce sexual arousal for both the speaker and their audience.
Religious services were once designed to arouse devotees sexually in preparation for the ensuing orgies. Today, tent
revivals still appeal to the emotions of those gathered by promising that God will forgive their sins and love them.
Occasionally people will fall on the ground in mild convulsions that are indistinguishable from some tantra practitioners
whose bodies go limp during exercises due to sudden orgasmic vibrations that last ten to twenty minutes. Spiritual
arousal at revivals, however, was not always limited to God and the individual worshiper. In 1873 D. J. Davis recorded his
experience of old time American camp-meetings.

Those who think that a camp-meeting is no place for love-making are very much mistaken. When passions were aroused
and moral restraints gave way for miles around the camp hundreds of couples could be seen prowling around in search of
some cozy spot (History of the City of Memphis, p. 173, as quoted in Sex and Race, by J.A. Rogers). Rogers continued
with this explanation: “Since the camp-meeting was a primitive affair, those human beings who were nearest to original
Nature, were the leaders, thus the chief stirrers of the sexio-religious emotions of the whites were Negroes, most of whom
could neither read nor write. Surcharged with primordial feeling, these totally illiterate blacks would whip their white
audiences to the heights of frenzy” (331).

In small towns, lacking more sophisticated meeting places, the back rows of tent revivals were popular ‘cruising’ spots for
both gay men and heterosexual prostitutes during the 1950’s and 1960’s.

Another group of speakers that seem to project sexual chemistry are trial attorneys. These people have to deliver intense
emotional pleas in defense of clients. This responsibility and strong emotional display sometimes induces erection in male
attorneys. They are often warned by their professors not to fixate on a female juror because she can pick up on the sexual
energy and feel uncomfortable.

The ability to emotionally or sexually arouse an audience appears to be necessary; without it an audience will not respond
to the desires of the speaker, whether this is to purchase an object, convert, volunteer, or change their position on an
issue.

Speeches that are about sex do not have to condone it. Often the guilt associated with a minister’s admonitions against
this ‘vile’ act can create greater arousal than a lecture discussing its merits.

(See also ACOUSTICOPHILIA, AGREXOPHILIA, COPROLALIA and NARRATOPHILIA)

HOMOPHOBIA Homophobia is defined as the fear of homosexuality and its perceived emasculating consequences. A
more appropriate word might be “femmephobia” because this feeling is generally applicable only to the fear of becoming
the passive partner. To most heterosexual men being gay means being weak, effeminate, and powerless. It means that if
a man takes the aggressive role and approaches them they lose their powerful masculine status; they are being pursued
and have to say “no” to sex, something with which most men have little experience. A feeling of helplessness then is
easily transformed into anger and aggression.

After World War II, gays became more open. But Puritan morals argued that any form of sex other than penovaginal is
deviant and that those who practice it are not capable of any type of ethical behavior. A Senate committee released a
report in December 1950 that warned that even one...

sex pervert in a Government agency tends to have a corrosive influence upon his fellow employees. These perverts will
frequently attempt to entice normal individuals to engage in perverted practices. This is particularly true in the case of
young and impressionable people who might come under the influence of a pervert... One homosexual can pollute a
Government office.

“Gays, because of this new social stigma, were considered a security risk being easy targets for blackmail by Communist
spies. The FBI was given the responsibility of investigating, exposing and dismissing anyone proven to be homosexual”
(Intimate Matters by John D’Emilio and Estelle B. Freedman, pp. 288-293).

Homophobia can have a negative effect on a man’s ability to maintain close friendships with others. Men have as much
need for close same sex friendships as do women but only a few support groups exist to provide a forum for discussion of
personal problems, fears, and goals. A person who cannot communicate their frustrations often releases their tension in
inappropriate or unhealthy ways, therefore it benefits everyone in a family to let others have time and permission to
cultivate same sex friends.
A few men have begun gathering in the form of support groups where they are making an effort to share their emotions
and fears with other men. A goal is to overcome the homophobia that keeps many from developing the type of close
supportive relationships that women seem to cultivate.

(See also GAYS, HETEROSEXUALS, LESBIANS and PHOBIAS)

HOMOSEXUALITY See GAYS

HOT WAX Hot wax in sex play is used to increase adrenalin and thus arousal. The most famous enthusiast was St. Pazzi, a
16th century nun who would have others drop hot wax on her body while she was tied to a bed post and humiliated (Very
Peculiar People, by E.J. Dingwall).

People engaging in hot wax play hold the candle over a partner and drip wax, sometimes until a large mound is formed.
Occasionally people will drip wax on their partner’s genitals or insert a long candle into the anus and let the wax run
down the sides of the candle until the anal area is obscured. CAUTION: Both partners experiment with the wax on
themselves before using it in a game. A plain wax candle, with no scents, beeswax, or metal coloring, is used. The
temperature is also regulated by the distance the candle is held above the person, becoming cooler in proportion to its
height. Ice is kept on hand for accidents or simply to alternate the sensations. Areas with dense body hair are avoided
unless depilation is desired.

(See also ALGOPHILIA, BODY PAINTING, CIGARS, ELECTRIC SHOCK, ICE, MASOCHISM, PYROPHILIA, SAFE SEX, SCRATCHING
and SENSORY ENHANCEMENT)

HUMILIATION (Asthenolagnia—aroused by weakness or humility) Verbal humiliation in sex play produces passion for
some.

Humiliation has long been a popular form of discipline for governments and religions. It was used as a form of abuse by
the Visitantines, a Catholic order of nuns formed by Francoise Fremoit de Chantal to replace chastisement with
birches.The Rev. William M. Cooper, B.A., in A History of the Rod (p. 81), states:

Novices were obliged to wear a fool’s cap, immense spectacles, or to tie heavy pieces of wood on themselves, or be laden
with stones and blocks like an ass. If a novice lay too long in bed, she had, as a punishment to carry a pillow into the
refectory; and if a similar fault was committed a second time, she was obliged to extend herself on the ground, and say to
the nuns, ‘Dear sisters, have pity on me, that I am so lazy.’ On a third offence, the delinquent was treated like a little child,
wrapped in swaddling clothes, and fed with pap, and only as a last resource would the Mother Superior give a good
birching. Some of the nuns thought the rules too mild, and left the community for a wore rigid order.

Humiliation was also used by the Scottish Puritans who sometimes placed the sinner in an iron collar and fastened them
to the wall in front of the congregation to be harangued for half an hour every Sunday, sometimes for up to a year.

Today humiliation is used in almost any form of sex play, but is consensual and something a partner can transfer to a
sexual response. There are people who do not become sexually aroused this way, and others who enjoy insults when they
are feeling well psychologically, but not when they are depressed. Therefore, a safeword is used with humiliation just as
one uses it with flagellation or bondage.

Humiliation is more effective for some when they are bound or being forced to do something menial or embarrassing. It
may also take a physical form that involves the use of urine, feces, or shaving. CAUTION: People have personal limits they
don’t want violated. A sample contract may state, “You can call me anything you want, but don’t say anything about my
mother, the size of my penis, or my tattoo.” There may be subjects from one’s childhood that are too painful to address,
while others use humiliation to reprogram negative experiences into a satisfying erotic one. A general guideline used in
humiliation is that of not using insults that one will later have trouble denying. For instance, a person would never call an
obese partner a “pathetic fat-assed pig.”

Humiliation is like bondage play in that after the game the partner has to be released. In humiliation this is accomplished
by spending time nurturing and reassuring the partner of their value and attributes. This part of the game is essential, and
not taken lightly.

(Refer also to COPROPHILIA, DEFILEMENT, DEPILATION, DOMINANCE/SUBMISSION, INTERROGATION, SLAVES, TOILET

TRAINING, UROPHILIA and WORSHIP/GODDESS)

HYBRISTOPHILIA Hybristophilia is defined by John Money as “a paraphilia of the marauding/predatory type in which
sexuoerotic arousal and facilitation and attainment of orgasm are responsive to, and dependent upon, being with a
partner known to have committed an outrage or crime, such as rape, murder, or armed robbery [from Greek, hybridzein,
to commit an outrage against someone + -philia]. The partner may have served a prison sentence as a convicted criminal,
or may be instigated by the hybristophile to commit a crime and so be convicted and sent to prison” (LOVEMAPS, pp.
263-4). Dr. Money used Bonnie and Clyde and Charles Manson’s “Family” as examples of this phenomenon. Men living in
prison often have ongoing relationships with three or four women. These men offer excitement, mystery, and intrigue to
women who usually have low self esteem, or a fear of physical intimacy. Masters and Lea wrote of a notorious mass
murderer named Vacher whose trial was attended by a large number of women, some of high social standing, who were
obviously aroused by the murderer.

Some male criminals are attractive, but that does not explain the phenomenon. Certainly, Vacher was not a man at whom
women would look twice—unless in revulsion—were he not glamorized or somehow charged with eroticism by his crimes.
Philip Lindsay (The Mainspring of Murder) describes him as having a pallid countenance, splotched with yellow. Hair
straggled down his cheeks, black and matted. He had a harelip, adding also a speech defect to his debilities. And still
additionally, as a result of a gunshot wound sustained in a suicide attempt, his right eye was damaged and suppurating;
while the right side of his face was semi-paralyzed, the consequence of the severing of a nerve (Perverse Crimes in History,
pp. 165-6).

Women would often pass suggestive notes to the defendant, flirt, and at times create such a disturbance that they were
asked to leave the courtroom.

Prisoners benefit from these liaisons by conning the women into smuggling drugs, cash, and cigarettes into the prison.
Visiting hours are usually spent fondling each woman. It is possible for relationships to evolve into marriage but most of
them end if the prisoner is released (Prisoners of Love, by Richard Cone; Pacific Northwest, May 1989, pp. 53, 102).

(See also ACROTOMOPHILIA, HARPAXOPHILIA, PHOBOPHILIA, SADISM, SYMPHOROPHILIA and VICARIOUS AROUSAL)

HYGROPHILIA Hygrophilia (hygro: wet or moisture, and philia: attachment) refers to sexual arousal attained from contact
with any type of body secretion. This includes nasolingus (nasal mucous), tears, saliva, salirophilia (perspiration),
vampirism (blood), urophilia (urine), coprophilia (feces), semen, and vaginal secretions.

People may derive their pleasure from direct contact with the secretions, prefer to find it in articles of clothing, or to
simply smell the odors or pheromones these produce.

Hygrophilia is not limited to the secretions of their partners; some have engaged animals or deceased humans for this
purpose.

(See also COCKTAILS, CUM ETIQUETTE, KLISMAPHILIA, LACTIPHILIA, SAFE SEX and TOILET TRAINING)

HYPHEPHILIA Hyphephilia (hyphe: web, and philia: attachment to) refers to those who are aroused by touching fabrics or
other garments.

(Refer to DORAPHILIA, FETISH, FROTTAGE, OCHLOPHILIA and TOUCH)

HYPNOSIS Hypnosis is a trance-like state that resembles sleep wherein the person is susceptible to suggestion by the
hypnotist. There are several degrees of hypnotic states: the lethargic state that resembles a coma, the major state
wherein one is oblivious of all outside stimuli except the hypnotist’s suggestions, and last the minor state wherein the
person obeys suggestions to a lesser degree.

There are historical records of cases where hypnotists were able to use hypnotic suggestions to facilitate intercourse.
Hirschfeld was consulted during a trial where an impotent husband filed sexual assault charges against his wife’s
physician. The doctor confessed that he ordered her to “raise her skirt, lie down, spread her legs, take out his penis,
introduce it into her vagina, then, during the act, perform parallel movements until mutual orgasm occurred.” Suspicion
was aroused when she became pregnant and a detective was then hired by the husband, who confirmed his fears (Sexual
Anomalies and Perversions, by Magnus Hirschfeld, p. 378).

Hypnotic suggestion is also used by therapists to create an aversion to particular types of sex. A case cited by C.A. Douglas
Ringrose was of a young male who developed a sexual attraction for his mother-in-law. He sought counseling and Quad
‘P’ therapy was used. This is a “combination of self hypnosis, behavior modification, biofeedback, personal acupressure,
and autogenic programming.” The patient was put in a trance to explore his past. Then his “memories were modified to
associate sexual thoughts of the mother-in-law with an unpleasant taste (castor oil) and an unpleasant aroma
(ammonia)...Post-hypnotic suggestions were given to associate any new sexual thoughts of the mother-in-law with the
aversive stimuli...During a subsequent series of three sessions, a penile self-slap was added.” The patient finally achieved
relief from his problems (“Case Report Quad ‘P’ therapy for rapid relief from Sexual Aberration,” by C.A. Douglas Ringrose,
British Journal of Sexual Medicine, May 1989, p. 194).

People who experience sexual phobias (impotence or frigidity) have sometimes been successfully hypnotised to
overcome this fear and thus can experience orgasms. Others have used autohypnotic suggestion to induce orgasms for
themselves. Cases are mentioned in the annals of hypnosis that describe hypnotist-induced hallucinations that are visual,
auditory, and tactile. These hallucinations are said to be of seductive women who sing, dance, and provide the tactile
stimulation needed for orgasm (Perverse Critnes in History, p. 181).

A Florida hypnotherapist, Michael Stivers, uses hypnosis to enlarge women’s breasts and offers a money back guarantee
if the patient fails to see results after several treatments. (KNTV, Chan. 11 News, December 30, 1991)

(See also SEX MAGICK, SUBLIMINAL TAPES and SUBPERSONALITY)

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ICE Ice is used to enhance tactile stimulation, confuse or surprise the partner, delay orgasm, as a catheter, a light form of
torture, or as first aid for mild burns.

A sample S/M ice scene is as follows:

Male: Has waiter of restaurant seat him and his date in a secluded corner. As he whispers his desires into her ear he takes
the opportunity to slowly guide his hand discreetly up her dress and along her thigh.

Female: Responds by taking a piece of ice from her water glass and hands it to him, saying, “If you want to play I make the
rules. Take the ice and run it in circles up my inner leg, pull my panties aside, and insert it. If you don’t do it right I’ll order
the most expensive item on the menu. ”

Ice can be run along the body at any time, but it is especially effective during bondage or massage. A few heavy S/M
participants will blindfold their partner telling them they are going to brand or burn them and instead use ice. The initial
sensations are very similar. They also alternate heat and cold for added intensity.

Other uses of ice include placing a few chips in the mouth as one fellates a partner. This will usually delay orgasm by
causing the penis to become flaccid. A small amount of ice is occasionally inserted into the vagina or rectum during sex or
is placed inside the foreskin and the end is then taped or held shut. Fellatio is used to speed the melting process.
CAUTION: It is unsafe to put more ice into an orifice than will dissolve within a couple of minutes. Ice catheterization
requires a special clean procedure and can be dangerous if the ice rod has rough edges or breaks before it melts.

(See also CATHETERS. CIGARS, ELECTRIC (See also CATHETERS, CIGARS, ELECTRIC SHOCK, MASOCHISM, PSYCHROCISM and
SENSORY ENHANCEMENT)

ILLEGAL SEX The government once regulated which days married couples could have sex, positions (missionary) they
could use, type of sex (penovaginal, kissing, and caressing), and denied them the use of birth control. Europeans broke
the ties between religious sanctions and civil law long ago. However, in the United States legislators stalled, fearing that
support of changes in the sex statutes would label them as immoral. Therefore, a country which is progressive in every
other way has kept its archaic civil regulations on sex between consenting adults until quite recently. The manufacture
and sale of condoms was illegal in the United States until December, 1930. This is an item that has been available in one
form or another for 3,000 years. Condoms purchased before 1930 were obtained on the black market and thus were not
subject to quality control. The American Law Institute, in 1955, wrote a new code recommending that all laws imposing
fines and imprisonment for sexual activities performed between consenting adults in private be abolished. Despite the
fact that in 1948 Kinsey released data showing that the majority of Americans engaged in illegal sexual activity, these
puritan laws continued to be enforced. (Kinsey reported that 59% of Americans engaged in oral-genital sex, 70% used
prostitutes, 37% had participated in homosexual behavior, and 17% of those raised on farms had engaged in zoophilia.)
The new Model Penal Code was not accepted by any state until Illinois reformed its laws in 1962. In 1965 a landmark
decision was rendered by the U.S. Supreme Court in the case of Griswold v. Connecticut which gave married couples the
right to use birth control devices without having their privacy invaded by the imposition of criminal sanctions, but still
arrests continued. In 1967 parents had their college student daughter and boyfriend arrested in Illinois for alleged
fornication. The father stated “I’d rather see her in jail than debauched.” In 1963 a prominent entertainer was arrested on
charges of sodomy (fellatio with two consenting females) and spent two years of a ten year sentence in prison before
attorneys were able to get him released. These were only a few of the many cases where people were convicted for
having deviant sex with a consenting adult. At the end of 1990 Idaho, Utah, Arizona, Oklahoma, Minnesota, Louisiana,
Mississippi, Alabama, Georgia, Florida, South Carolina, North Carolina, Virginia, Maryland, Massachusetts, Rhode Island,
and the District of Columbia still had statutes against heterosexual fellatio, cunnilingus, anal sex, and the use of dildos.
Adultery is illegal in some states. Recently a couple of women were arrested and convicted on the mere accusation of
adultery by their husbands. One woman had already asked for a divorce. Today most other states permit consensual sex
between adults. Sex acts most commonly prosecuted as criminal are rape, prostitution, child molestation, exhibitionism,
voyeurism, homosexual behavior, and pornography. California’s legal age of consent (adult) is 18 years. Touching a child
13 years and under is considered molestation and is a felony. If the child is 14-18 the charge is changed to “child
annoying” and is a misdemeanor. Zoophilia is a misdemeanor. Homosexual behavior is legal unless it occurs in a state
prison. Incest is illegal regardless of the age of the participants. There is also a law against child pandering which, in
addition to pimps, includes a father who talks a prostitute or friend into showing his son the ropes if the son is younger
than sixteen.

California law has made provisions for anyone who technically breaks a law but one that was obviously not intended for
their case. This law permits an attorney to inform jurists that they can nullify an unfair law if they feel it is too harsh in a
particular case. This is called Jury Nullification and the jurists use it by simply voting “innocent” regardless of the
defendant’s plea.

Americans are at risk of even greater intervention and regulation of sex between consenting couples by the government.
Within the last few years, the FBI has used the RICO law, originally designed to confiscate all of a drug lord’s property,
against video store owners and x-rated movie producers. The complainants are usually from the religious right or
originate from traps set by FBI investigators. If the investigators can get three convictions in a small religious community,
they can use the RICO act to confiscate property from people in other states; even when laws in the other state permit
them to produce the material. In addition to this type of government censorship, Senate Bill 1521 has been introduced
“which would allow victims of sexual assault to file a civil suit against producers and distributors of ‘obscene’ material.”
(Californians ACT, Vol. VI, No. 4, by Bobby Lilly, Nov. 14, 1991, p. 2). This bill was introduced despite evidence by the
President’s Commission on Obscenity and Pornography (1970) that pornography, a 20th century innovation, does not
“cause” sexual violence against women and children. This bill is serious because it could provide rapists and child
molesters possible legal defense for their criminal acts and make prosecution even more difficult. Another tragic effect of
this bill would be to potentially increase the number of sex crimes. The majority of sex offenders don’t take personal
responsibility for their violence; this is why they repeat their acts. A bill that would shift responsibility enables them to
continue in their violence without remorse once they are acquitted or paroled.

America is not the only country that is becoming more repressive with their laws against sex. The Canadian Supreme
Court recently (1992) ruled that pornography could cause violence against women. This assumption was based upon
lobbyists’ arguments that within the last few years, along with the rise in pornography, there has been a rise in sexual
harassment and rape. This assumption is not necessarily valid. It is worth noting that historically societies enduring
economic distress experienced an increase in spouse abuse, hate crimes, rape, theft, and so forth. People who undergo
stress due to loss a of livelihood either release their anger on the weaker or compensate for their loss with overeating,
sex, alcohol, or drugs. It is quite possible that instead of pornography being the cause of an increase in sex crimes, that an
increase in pornography was only one of many symptoms of a suffering economy. Another country, England, recently
(1992) used a prior ruling on fights (originally used to prohibit consensual but deadly duels) to apply to consensual sex
acts. If allowed to stand, this law makes illegal in England any consensual act that would break or bruise the skin.
Technically this includes love bites, spanking, and many other S/M activities. (“Controversy over court ruling on
sadomasochism” by Nick Cohen, London lndepertdent, February 20, 1992, pp. 1, 3).

(“Sexual Lifestyles and the Criminal,” by Norma Jean Almodovar, Lifestyle Conference, August 17-18, 1990; “Sex and
Censorship,” by Bobby Lilly, National Sexuality Symposium lecture, February 16- 18, 1991)

(See also ADULTERY, ANAL SEX, BORDELLOS, PEDOPHILIA, PORNOGRAPHY and PROSTITUTION)

IMPOTENCE (Astyphia, Asynodia, Invirility, Pareunasthenia) Impotence is the inability to sustain an erection long enough
for penetration of a partner, but orgasm usually remains possible with the right amount of stimulation. This condition
affects almost 10 million people in the United States including as many as 40% of men over 65 years old who are not in
good health.

 
Normal erection depends on many factors. It may begin with an increased level of dopamine and adrenalin in the brain or
with stimulus to the parasympathetic (involuntary) nerves of the penis. These cause the smooth internal muscles of the
penis to relax, allowing blood to enter through two main dilating arteries in the penis, filling tiny sinusoid veins with
blood. As these expand they create pressure on the veins that control blood flow back into the body. The penis at this
point becomes erect. After one eventually achieves orgasm, the two arteries return to normal, the muscle contracts, the
pressure on the veins is diminished, and the blood drains back into the body leaving the penis flaccid. A disease, injury, or
temporary debility of any of these components can cause impotence (“Impotence” by P. Church, Harvard Medical School
Health Letter, September 1989, pp. 4-6, and October 1989, pp. 3-4).

Anxiety and stress can cause temporary impotence but doesn’t seem to interfere with erotic desire. On the other hand,
depression and anger cause a decrease in sexual arousal without creating actual impotence.

If a person suspects impotence with a psychological cause, an old fashioned but simple method of testing for this is that
of sticking a row of postage stamps around the shaft of the penis before retiring. If the perforations are torn in the
morning the person has experienced normal involuntary nocturnal erections (normally 3-5 a night) and psychological
impotence can be suspected, although not proven. A urologist should be consulted if physical impotence is suspected.
This specialist will be able to test arterial blood flow, condition of sinusoids, and possible leakage of veins. The urologist
can make an initial diagnosis with an injection of papaverine. If the male gets a full erection and maintains it his problem
is probably psychological. If he only becomes semi-erect or it comes on slowly he usually has a problem with arteries that
flow into the penis. If he has an erection but it doesn’t last very long his problem may be due to the veins leading out of
the penis not closing. All these problems are now treatable with surgery and have a 50-70% success rate. The physician
may be able to diagnose certain diseases or ailments that often cause impotence, such as diabetes, nervous system
disorders or injury, atherosclerosis, or a deficiency of testosterone (male hormone). Impotence also often occurs after
surgical removal of the prostate, bladder, or part of the rectum due to cancer.

In addition to inherent physical or emotional problems a person can suffer impotence due to drug abuse, or as a side
effect from certain prescription medications (beta-blockers, tranquilizers, and antidepressants among others). Tobacco
has recently become suspect as contributing to impotence. Studies conducted on dogs that were made to inhale the
equivalent of one to two cigarettes resulted in temporary impotence. Alcohol is another cause of impotence. Autopsies
on the penises of alcoholics have revealed that many of these men had very few if any of their penile nerves remaining
(“Impotence,” lecture by Tom Lue, M.D., Palo Alto, May 30, 1990).

Some men are impotent at night but are capable of having sex at other times. Dr. Martin Blinder, in his book Choosing
Lovers (p. 211), states: “Incidentally, as men age, there is a change in the time of day when their sexual biorhythm and
consequent peak potency occurs—typically to earlier in the day. One patient who reported he could ‘barely get an
erection once the sun went down,’ proved insatiable at noon.”

Treatments for impotence vary according to its cause. Drugs like papaverine (dilates the vessels) and prostaglandin E1
(PGE1) can be injected to produce erections that will last about 30 minutes. The needle is very small in diameter and only
causes slight pain for most men. There is a risk that the drug’s effects will last too long (4+ hours) and cause further
damage. A physician needs to be contacted if this happens, in order to inject a counteracting drug. A priapism (long term
erection) that is not relieved within 6 hours causes pain, and if allowed to continue untreated for 24 hours can cause
gangrene and require surgery. A man wanting to relieve erection before the normal time has elapsed can take 30mg of
Sudafed (decongestant), assuming he did not overdose on the amount of his injection. Impotence treatment incurs an
annual expense of $1,000-5,000. The newest approach has been with a mixture of three drugs: papaverine,
prostaglandin, and phentolamine. A larger majority of men responded favorably in a test; there were no prolonged
erections, no pain, no fibrosis, and the cost was only $2.50 each (Men’s Health, “Injections That Cause Erections,” by
Mike McGrath, Vol. 6, #8, August 1990, pp. 4-13). An alternative injection device has been invented and is awaiting FDA
approval in the United States. It is a small plastic tube that is held just inside of the urethra and squeezed so that the
medication drains down into its center. This method is an improvement over needle injections because the needle
sometimes causes scar tissue to develop over time.
 

Vacuum devices are much less expensive but can be cumbersome. The vacuum device has a cylinder that is placed over
the penis; the air is pumped out, thus pulling blood up into most of the penis. Once the penis becomes fairly engorged (3-
5 minutes), the vacuum device is removed and a ring is placed around the base of the penis to prevent the blood from
flowing back into the body until after orgasm. Tissue damage can occur if the ring is left on for more than 15 minutes. A
similar semi-rigid device produced in England and called Correctaid is left on during intercourse (British Journal of Sexual
Medicine, June 1990, p. 175).

Implant devices vary slightly. The simplest, the malleable, consists of two cylinders that can be inserted into the shaft of
the penis under local anesthesia. The penis will be semirigid and can be bent forward for sex and back toward the body
the remainder of time. The penis will not increase in size or swell, but the rigidity will allow penetration and orgasm. A
more complicated implant consists of two inflatable cylinders, a pump, and reservoir. The pump and reservoir are placed
in the scrotum. The pump can be pressed to push the fluid held in the reservoir into the inflatable tubes, producing a
more natural erection. The pump is pressed again after orgasm to release the fluid from the tubes back into the reservoir.
These implants can range in cost from $10,000 to $20,000 (Mayo Clinic Health Letter, December 1989, pp. 4-5).

Sexologists or other professional health care workers are recommended for any couple attempting adjustment to the
husband’s impotence or restoration of sexual activity. Renewed sexual activity causes many women to feel jealous of
other women for the first time and they may need counseling and support in adjusting to this change.
Men suffering from impotence in other cultures have used alternative methods of achieving orgasm. Most of these
involve flagellation or some other form of sensory stimulation that leads to an altered state/orgasm. These techniques
are effective in inducing orgasm without genital contact; therefore erection is irrelevant. Prostitutes were often experts in
employing flagellation, and many bordellos specialized in this type of remedy. The man had an additional advantage with
these women as he did not have to feel guilty or embarrassed at not having an erection to facilitate penetration and
hence her pleasure, since she derived this from payment. Thomas Gregor documented cures used today by primitive
tribes in the Amazon. These include simply rubbing phallic shaped fish, turtles, or plants against the penis while chanting
or having another male blowing onto the penis as if trying to revive fading embers. The most unpopular technique was to
have the penis scarred, afterward rubbing medicine into the wounds (Anxious Pleasures, The Sexual Lives of an
Amazonian People, p. 140). The Chinese acupuncture method was used in 1989 on a group of one hundred men who
failed to respond to other forms of treatment. Of these 63 were able to have sex twice a week and ten could do so once a
week (Journal of Traditional Chinese Medicine as quoted in Sex Over Forty, Sept. 1990 issue, p. 5).

There is a self help group called I-Anon that is headquartered in Maryville, Tennessee for those needing emotional
support.

(See also CELIBACY, DYSFUNCTIONS, FLAGELLATION and HANDICAPS)

INCEST

SLEEPING BEAUTY

Laid out
Under the gauzy veil
Of sleep,
I feel the hall light strike
Me in the chest,
And I curl around it,
Roll away
Into dreams,
Away
From the creased frown
And darting, hungry eyes,
Hoping that this time
The burning incandescence will fade
To cool, empty blackness.
But when the light dies,
It leaves a stirring in the dark
That cleaves to my dreams,
Breathes into them a rising spinning life,
That smooths the wrinkles,
The eyes unchanged,
And I wish for a needle,
Immune to kisses,
To drain me for the last time
Of cursed wakefulness
And heat.

—Nelson Graff, 1992

(Fratrilagnia—brother, Matrincest—mother, Oedipus complex—repressed desire to have sex with parent of opposite sex,
Patrolagnia—father, Thygatria—father/ daughter, Sororilagnia—sister)

The taboo against incest originated for several reasons. Genetic defects in offspring has been cited most often. However,
many tribes only restricted marriage between relatives; not sex. The taboo was used to promote kinship with other tribes,
and to avoid sexual disruption or confusion of roles in the family unit. Sibling incest was once thought to produce only
female offspring. This belief might have been one reason patriarchal societies prohibited these marriages.

Incan royalty is thought to have used incestuous marriage to keep power and wealth in the family. The Egyptian royalty
used matrilineal descent in choosing successors because they couldn’t prove paternity. Royal sons could only rule if they
married their sisters. Sometimes they were married at birth. Cleopatra was one of the most notable females who
engaged in incestuous marriage. At 14 she was married to her 10 year old brother. They vied for power until, at about age
of 19, her brother mysteriously drowned in the Nile. Caesar had Cleopatra married a few years later to another young
brother as a cover, while he lobbied for a law permitting polygamy. But then Caesar was murdered before he could wed
Cleopatra. Before her return to Egypt, the second brother/husband disappeared even more mysteriously than the first
(The Nile, The Life-Story of a River, by Emil Ludwig, pp. 464-9).

Father/daughter incest is the type of incest that is prosecuted most often in court. Often, the men are religious, passive,
poorly educated, and married to wives who are usually unavailable emotionally due to illness, alcohol, or drug addiction.
The daughter often has to take over the mother’s housekeeping responsibilities. These, or other problems, can create an
environment where both the child and father crave nurturance. The father’s moral values prevent him from even
considering having an affair outside the marriage, a sin of adultery. Therefore, over a period of several years the father
and daughter may sit together on a couch and watch television, gradually becoming more physically intimate, each time
with the father reprimanding himself and swearing not to let it happen again. Of course, both have weak resistance and
eventually engage in petting, oral sex, intercourse, and so forth. A key factor involved in) father/daughter incest is often
the father who lacks parent/child bonding due to the father not having participated in diapering, feeding, and caring for
the child as an infant.

Mother/son incest, the third type of incest, may begin after a divorce when a toddler is allowed to sleep with the mother
and a few nights runs into several years; however, actual penetration is rare in this situation. Typically, the dangers are
greater when the toddler or other male child is past puberty and the mother is divorced, widowed, or not receiving an
adequate amount of affection from a husband. The young men react in different ways, including having deep feelings of
guilt. A teenager who feels guilt for seducing his mother needs to be reminded that, unless he raped her, seduction is
impossible without the mother’s consent. Teenagers are often traumatized by sexual advances made by their
mother/guardian. It is important for these mothers to know that the psychological damage could make it difficult or
impossible for their sons to trust or maintain normal relationships with women as they grow into adults.

Same sex parent/child incest can be the most traumatic for a child because it involves breaking two of society’s taboos.

All individuals need to take responsibility for their own sexuality. The adolescent should say “no” without guilt, find a
consenting person their own age, or seek professional help before incest occurs. Seeking counsel before an incident is
very important because it may prevent incest, and because counselors are required to report cases of incest, thus making
it almost impossible to seek assistance after incest has occurred without the risk of someone being arrested. Too many
parents view incest as limited to the physical act. Incest can have traumatic emotional ramifications for the rest of the
child’s life. Adults who were either sexually abused or engaged in incest as young children often suffer from low self-
esteem, guilt, shame, impotence, poor interpersonal relationships, obesity, and suicidal tendencies.

Incest is illegal but not unnatural. If it were unnatural we wouldn’t need such stringent laws. The strength of the taboo
counteracts the strength of the desire. There’s nothing wrong with having fantasies; however, as mentioned previously,
merely touching someone under thirteen in California is a felony and incest has no statute on age. Before engaging in
incest both the parent and teenager might consider the consequences involved with having a parent (father or mother)
imprisoned, and the ensuing isolation and guilt imposed on the child. The law does not acknowledge mutual consent
between immediate relatives; therefore, this defense cannot be used in court.

Family rape is very traumatic and a child in this predicament may speak to a school nurse or counselor. There are many
agencies whose purpose it is to protect children from incest and rape.

(See also ILLEGAL SEX, NYMPHOPHILIA, PEDOPHILIA and RAPE)

INFANTILISM (Autonepiophilia—arousal from playing role of infant, Infantophilia—arousal from playing role of infant)
Infantilism refers to people who prefer to remain children and who often have an aversion to their adult bodies, facial or
genital hair, or wearing adult clothing. There are cases of sexual and non-sexual infantiles. Infantilism differs from
anaclitism in that the former consists of people who want to regress or act out the role of a child and the latter is a fetish
relating to objects or acts from childhood.

There are cases of adults who act out their desires alone and without a partner. They may dress as a young boy and sit at
home all day looking at themselves in the mirror or they may take a break and go to a park and play innocuous games
with children. Others keep their body hair shaved, dress in children’s clothing, and photograph themselves. One man took
extreme pleasure in checking into a hotel and urinating in bed during the night. Infantilism was popular enough among
the general populace for Germans to participate in adult baby balls after Lent.

Other adults find willing partners and create a multitude of scenarios. An infantile scene can last for many hours and the
length is negotiated ahead of time because of this. The responsibility placed on the parent of a demanding infant can be
very exhausting. The adult is not always a parent. He or she may be a young male child being baby-sat by a teenager who
tucks them in, reads a bed time story, and tries to seduce the bashful but aroused young person. Scenes are also acted
out where each partner dresses and plays the role of a child. Games of doctor and show me yours are also used.

Infantilism is on the increase because people are able, for a time, to have burdensome adult responsibilities taken away,
and thus find it possible to “let go” emotionally (and perhaps sexually) in ways that would not be permitted the “adult.”
They are also allowed to demand nurturing and attention from their surrogate parent. They are now in total control and
can have every whim fulfilled without feeling guilt. The act of getting by with things that they were punished for as a child
creates a sense of empowerment and excitement. In addition to the emotional rejuvenation the child actor feels, a bond
of trust and love is built between partners.

Infantilism can be therapeutic for people who are only able to accept unconditional nurturing by reverting to infancy or
childhood. Others use this method to make up for the nurturing they didn’t receive from their parents.

Infantilism does not always involve nurturing. It may be used in any S/M scene. Those trying to induce fear in a partner
usually find it easier when the male is made to cross dress and to play the role of an innocent young girl.

Professional dominatrixes are often hired to act out adult roles for infantiles and there are magazines and clubs that
provide information and paraphernalia. (“Alternate Personas,” by Sybil Holiday and William Henkin, Ph.D., Society of
Janus lecture, August 24, 1989)

(See also ANACLITISM, FANTASY PLAY, FETISHES, LACTAPHILIA, PARAPHILIAS, PEDOPHILIA, PETTICOAT DISCIPLINE, and
TRANSVESTITES)

INFIBULATION (Episioclisia, Labiorrhaphy and Hymenorrhaphy—surgical closure of labia) Infibulation (in: inside, and
fibulate: that which fastens) is the term used for either the sewing or fastening of the foreskin over the penis, sewing the
labia minora or labia majora together, or sewing the scrotum around the penis. The type of penis infibulation determines
whether it prevents full erection or only penetration.
 

The Oetang ring was used as a chastity device, whereas stitching was done to prevent both coitus and masturbation.
Penis infibulation was used by European parents on their sons to prevent night emissions or masturbation during the 19th
century when this was thought to be harmful to their health. The Russian government, during a time when they restricted
many soldiers from marriage, had a wire pushed through the foreskin of the soldiers and a seal soldered onto the ends to
prevent unauthorized removal.

Infibulation, following the cutting of the labia minora, was used on young girls in parts of Africa to ensure their virginity at
marriage. The husband was responsible for first opening the scar tissue protecting her hymen. Cultures varied in their
rituals. Some only did this once, others closed it after the woman became pregnant, opened it in time for her to give
birth, and sewed the vagina closed again after she became pregnant.

Today a few people practice a temporary form of infibulation or lacing in their sex play. It is a psychological game of
having one’s partner impose chastity on them. The stitches are placed through either the labia or foreskin and can remain
there up to several days. Infibulation is only performed by people experienced with sterile techniques. They may first
shave before cleaning the genital area with Betadine or Hibiclens. The skin is pinched up and away from the body, then a
sterile suture (or needle and thread) is used to pierce the skin and sew the edges together. CAUTION: This is a blood sport
and infection can occur if the person fails to use sterile procedures.

(See also BLOOD SPORTS, BONDAGE/ LACING, RINGING, SAFE SEX, STAPLING and SUTURING)

INSECTS See BEE STINGS, FORMICOPHILIA and ZOOPHILIA

INSUFFLATION Insufflation, or blowing air into a person, has been done to almost every human orifice. The medical
profession uses it to revive an asphyxiated person with mouth to mouth resuscitation and pharmacists in 19th century
France used a form of rectal insufflation with tobacco smoke to revive or invigorate languorous patients and drowning
victims. People have used insufflation during sex play but it is never recommended. CAUTION: Air inadvertently pushed
into the rectum during enemas usually causes cramps and if a large amount of air is forced into the rectum or vagina, it
may rupture a blood vessel. It can also carry a bubble of air (embolism) to the brain or heart, causing instant death. (See
also KLISMAPHILIA and STUFFING)

INTERROGATION Forms of interrogation have been adapted by many for sex games of dominance and submission. The
“prisoner,” “rapist,” “transvestite,” “burglary victim,” or “shoplifter” is bound, humiliated, intimidated, “tortured,” and at
some point “forced” to perform sex on the interrogator.

Some of these scenes have lasted up to two days without the bottom confessing or giving information. The length of the
game is usually predetermined in negotiation and can be canceled at any time.

People speed the process by setting up the interrogation room with bright lights, a cold temperature, and an
uncomfortable position for the prisoner. A dripping faucet or some sort of distracting noise can be used, but not music.
Some men crossdress, which makes it easier for them to surrender or cooperate without losing their dignity.
(See also ABDUCTION, DISCIPLINE and FANTASY PLAY)

INUNCTION (Aliphineur—person using lotion to arouse partner) Inunction (inunetion: act of rubbing ointment, or lather)
refers to those who have their body lathered up or rubbed with an oil and then use a partner or object to slide against.
Americans during the 60 s would have Mazola parties where all participants would undress, rub their bodies with oil, and
wrestle or play on a plastic sheet. There are bath houses in Bangkok, Thailand that offer a similar service. A client has the
choice of lying on a lathered air mattress with a lady wriggling on top of him or of being lathered and lying between two
writhing women. The lather alleviates friction and produces a sensation that is drastically different from normal skin-to-
skin contact.

Rubber mitts are sometimes used that have soft pliable nubs to add more sensation to the application of oil or soap.

(See also COITUS A UNDA, LUBRICANTS and MASSAGE)

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JACTITATION Jactitation refers to those who become aroused or derive pleasure from bragging about their own sexual
exploits.

(See also AGREXOPHILIA, CONFESSIONS, COPROGRAPHY, COPROLALIA, EROTOGRAPHOMANIA, NARRATOPHILIA and

OBSCENE PHONE CALLS)

JEALOUSY (Othello’s syndrome) Jealousy is a feeling of envy or anger directed toward someone deemed as a rival for a
loved one. The fear of a loss actually creates a stronger reaction because the person has to act to prevent the loss, where
a permanent loss will create eventual depression. There are also people who use jealousy as an arousal technique for
group sex.

Jealousy increases in direct proportion to our dependency on our partner and our fear of losing them. Often people who
were in some way abandoned during their childhood or kept overly dependent on a parent will suffer more from jealousy.
They unconsciously feel they will die or not be able to function without this surrogate parent. Many people effectively
deal with this fear by building up their independence and self esteem, thus taking the burden of creating happiness or
security off their partner.

This formula for self esteem sounds simple, however a person has to be strong to overcome the critical little voice inside
that says “you can’t,” “you’re ugly,” “you’re stupid,” “I will deal with it later,” and so forth. One must learn to yell back
using honest arguments such as “I can,” “my nose is a little larger than I would like,” “I’m poor at math but I can speak
three languages,” “I will work on this project two hours every night for a week.”

It is not easy to win this battle, because most people have relied on this voice to protect them from failure or
embarrassment. One is turning a former ally into their worst enemy, but with courage and persistence victory is possible.
Salesmen, who have to deal with constant rejection, have a simple but effective slogan: “Ask for what you want, you can’t
lose something you don’t already have.” Two people who have mastered control over low self-esteem and jealousy can
live together without either party feeling burdened by the other’s overwhelming demands for something neither has the
capability of filling.

Jealousy can be healthy if it focuses a straying partner’s attention back on their spouse. The couple can use this
opportunity for honest discussion of their fears and negotiate any areas of concern.

(See also HEDONISM, LOVE, PECATTIPHILlA, SADISM and ZELOPHILIA)

JEWELRY Commercial jewelry has been specially designed for people’s breasts and genitals. (The jewelry for permanent
piercings is discussed in the section on RINGING.) Nipple rings are used by women who like the look of pierced jewelry but
who don’t want to make a permanent commitment. One type, called Sweater Bumpers, fits around the nipple in the
same manner that a ring slides over a finger. These come in many designs and can be purchased in San Francisco sex
boutiques or piercing salons, or can be ordered direct from the manufacturer. A different type is made from elastic
material and joined by a decorative chain. These are called Tit-Ilirers. Both types of nipple ornaments cause the nipple to
stand erect and feel more sensitive.

 
 

A Clit Clip was designed by Judy Kirk which slips over the labia and clitoris like a paper clip. It holds the clitoris out and cuts
off enough circulation to keep it engorged in a similar manner as a cock ring does to the penis. The clip is decorated with
crystals or bells that hang from small chains.

Cock rings are available for men that are decorative and fit around the bottom of the glans. Other men wear leather cock
rings with metallic studs.

(See also COCK RINGS, RINGING and TATTOOS)

JUVENILISM, PARAPHILIC See ADOLESCENTILISM and INFANTILISM

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KABAZZAH (Pompoir, Kegal exercises, Snapping pussy) Kabazzah is translated as “holder” and refers to the Eastern
technique where the male partner is passive and the female uses only abdominal and vaginal muscle contractions to
‘milk’ the penis. Both partners simply relax and enjoy the sensations of the union while she moves her muscles. Women
train for years before becoming proficient. It is a form of tantra designed to increase and enhance time spent with a loved
one. There are still some Eastern prostitutes who have this expertise.

KAREZZA (Male continence, Coitus reservatus) Karezza, to caress, was coined by Dr. Alice Bunker Stockham in her book,
Tokology (1883). Stockham not only recommended staying in sexual union for an hour but also saying prayers during this
time (Sexual Energy Ecstasy, A Practical Guide to Lovemaking Secrets of the East and West by David and Ellen
Ramsdale, Peak Skill Publishing, pp. 228-234).

John H. Noyes, the founder of the Oneida Community, believed in karezza for a different reason. He founded a group
marriage commune in the late 19th century based on eugenics. Here only the most fit men were allowed to impregnate
the women. Other men in the group could penetrate the women and bring their partner multiple orgasms but could not
ejaculate themselves. The act required relaxation for the male because tension could bring on the desire to ejaculate.
Noyes discovered that practicing kabazza, in addition to accomplishing birth control, improved the intimacy and love
between he and his wife.

(See also BIRTH CONTROL, EUGENICS, SEX POSITIONS, SEX SHOWS and SEXERCISE)

KISSING (Basoexia, Osculocentric and Philemamania—craving for kissing) Kissing is accomplished by a person placing
their lips against an object or another person. Kissing is a social act between persons of all ages. It is also used during sex
as additional stimulus in many, but not all, cultures.

Cultures that restricted social contact in the form of kissing or shaking hands usually did it under the auspices of
eliminating sexual temptation or desire. This restriction may also have served to prevent transmission of disease causing
bacteria during epidemics.

Cultures in which kissing is sexual often assume that it is a natural display of affection and method of sexual arousal;
however, in the biological sense this is not accurate. Our bodies are designed to produce anxiety or pain if we ignore vital
duties such as eating, sleeping, urinating, defecating, and so forth. Once we engage in an action at our body’s prompting
it produces biochemicals that create a pleasure sensation. Stimulation of any of these centers can produce pleasure
because our body is fooled into thinking that we are carrying out a necessary function. For instance, when we kiss our
body thinks we are eating, when our nipples are massaged our body thinks we are nursing, when our urethra is touched
our body thinks we are urinating, and it rewards us with a pleasure sensation each time.

The physical act of kissing takes several forms. Some pucker their lips and make a cursory smacking noise as they touch
them to the other person’s lips, cheek, forehead, or hand, each site often having a different social implication. The more
the kiss lingers, becomes repetitive, or intimate the more it is interpreted as having sexual implications. The most
arousing is the French kiss where the kisser probes their partner with their tongue. For this reason, a French kiss can
make some people feel uncomfortable when initiated in public, without foreplay, or with a person who has not expressed
reciprocal sexual interest.

Kissing is used to build intensity during foreplay and to convey unspoken desires. Females often have a specific limit on
what type of foreplay or sex in which they are willing to engage. For instance, she may allow kissing and touching on the
outside of her clothes but not underneath. She may allow cunnilingus but not vaginal penetration of any sort, etc. The
rules are not always logical to the partner but should still be obeyed. Males seem to be different than females in this
respect. They will rarely continue dating a person with whom they would not be willing to engage in sex. Compromises
can often be negotiated with partners who are not willing to be penetrated, but who want to be sexual. They may be
willing to experiment with coitus a mammilla, fellatio, or mutual masturbation instead. The following is a scenario that
uses kissing for seduction.
Seductiort begins by touching the partner’s hand followed by stroking their hair or face with the back of the hand. The chin
is then held while gently kissing their face and lips (no Frenching at this point). If the partner is responsive one hand is used
to cradle the back of their head and when the partner responds by caressing or pulling closer, the fingers of the hand can
be slowly lowered down the outside of the clothes to lightly feel the breasts. The hand is then gradually brought to cup the
full breasts with more pressure. Kissing may now progress to using the tongue to lick the other’s lips or to gently suck on
them. The partner may now give permission to slide a hand underneath her blouse and bra. Kissing and sucking are next
directed to the neck and ears. If the partner doesn’t remove their clothes, sucking on the outside over the nipples may
provide encouragement. Watch for a positive response (faster heart rate or breathing) before proceeding. When the
nipples are uncovered these may be kissed and then covered with the mouth in a sucking action alternating with the
hardened tongue probing circles around the nipple or gently flicking back and forth across it. At this point one hand may
be slowly run down the waist or up the leg toward the genitals, allowing time for the partner to adjust to the suggestion. If
the partner is not ready slow down and repeat the above procedure. Once they are receptive to genital stimulation
accelerate the intensity of kissing, position their head so that it is underneath and yours on top. At this point harden the
tongue into the shape of a penis and gently push it into the partner’s mouth while simultaneously adding pressure to their
genitals. Voice your desires and continue thrusting your tongue deep in the partner’s mouth (without the lips parting) . It is
best to get a verbal agreement at this point even if they pull you closer. Asking her if she wants you or if you can take a
second to put on a condom makes your intent clear. Foreplay is then started with French kissing and pressing the bodies
together before penetration is attempted. The whole seduction process may take anywhere from 15 minutes to an hour
depending on the people. Proper communication is strongly recommended to avoid false expectations or accusations of
rape later. A person who is not held gently or caressed for a few minutes after sex and asked for another date may assume
the partner just used them for sex, thus turning a wonderful experience into one of feeling violated. There are two
individual people, separate morals, and emotions involved in each sexual venture.

(See also CUNNILINGUS, FELLATIO and SEX POSITIONS)

KLEPTOPHILIA (Kleptolagnia; Kleptomania—compulsion to steal) Kleptophilia (klep: to steal or hide, and philia:
attachment to) is the act of becoming sexually aroused by stealing objects. This differs somewhat from the kleptomaniac
who usually has an uncontrollable urge to steal items they don’t need. The word kleptomania was coined in 1838 for
several kings who had the habit of stealing worthless goods. Kleptomania was not only practiced by kings but also by St.
Augustine, one of the founding fathers of the Catholic church. In Confessions he states: “Yet I lusted to thieve and did it
compelled by no hunger, nor poverty.”

Men and women both have participated in kleptophilia. William Stekel, in Sexual Aberrations, refers to the case of a
woman who had a doll fetish. Her husband discovered her playing with them one afternoon and destroyed her collection.
She went into a depression and later resorted to stealing replacement dolls. A man in the late 1800’s was arrested and
sentenced several times for stealing ladies’ used handkerchiefs and spent a total of 7 1/2 years in prison for these crimes.
He tried to cover the theft by buying handkerchiefs and attempting to exchange them without the woman’s detection. He
also devised a scheme whereby he threw a handkerchief down on the street in front of a pedestrian, hoping she would
step on it as she passed. This producing immediate orgasm for him.

The kleptophile prefers stealing fetish items and will have an orgasm either while stealing them or later by fondling the
objects. For instance, a person with a panty fetish will steal ladies’ underwear; one with a hair fetish may come up behind
a woman, cut her hair and flee. This also applies to fur or other articles of clothes where a piece can be cut off in a crowd
without immediate detection. Men with shoe fetishes have sometimes accosted women and fled with their shoes. One
woman only stole pencils, afterward using them to masturbate while she fantasized about “an infantile penis”
(Encyclopaedia Sexualis, by Victor Robinson, M.D., pp. 139). A kleptophile does not always have a particular fetish. They
will instead steal intimate items such as tampons, menstrual pads, bras, and hygiene sprays. Some are satisfied stealing
from stores and others only want items that have already been worn by a person. Another kleptophile category is one
where men steal a casual sex partner’s underwear as a personal souvenir.

People suffering from kleptomania may not have a direct sexual motive but in case studies that include sexual histories
there seems to be a correlation between sexual dysfunctions and stealing. Marcus J. Goldman, M.D. stated this in a
research paper: “No information was given concerning sexual preoccupations, behaviors, or dysfunction for 17 of the 26
patients in table 1. In the nine studies reporting such information, the patients reported experiences such as vaginismus,
nonarousal, promiscuity alternating with abstinence, and a preoccupation with sterility. Some reported orgasm or sexual
excitement during thefts.” Goldman continues with a description of these people. “It would appear that the average
person suffering from kleptomania is a 35-year-old married woman who has been apprehended for the theft of objects
she could easily afford and does not need. Her stealing began at age 20 and she has been caught several times. A search
of her house reveals piles of unopened packages of stockings and cans of jam. Her acts of theft bring her great relief from
tension, and she may attempt to force herself to remain indoors for fear that she will steal...She seems to suffer from a
powerfully necessary, pervasive, repetitive, and ultimately self-destructive act. A personal history reveals that she is
unhappily married, may have sexual difficulties, and has been dysphoric and moody for many years. She very likely has
had a tumultuous and stressful childhood. Furthermore, she may have a personality disorder” (Kleptomania: Making
Sense of the Nonsensical, by Marcus J. Goldman, M.D., American Journal of Psychiatry 148:8, August 1991, pp. 986-996).

Regardless, the act of stealing, with its inherent risk of detection, naturally triggers an adrenalin rush that gives one the
same physical responses they have during sex. The theft of a fetish object seems to act as an aid in turning the experience
into that of sexual arousal. Also fetishists who become desensitized to their love object may use the extra excitement that
stealing produces in order to orgasm. Kleptomania may be connected with our primeval drive to gather and collect. These
activities once ensured our survival during winter months. The kleptophile may also be trying to compensate for a lack of
parental love during childhood, similar to the fetishist. CAUTION: Stealing is illegal and an inconvenience and hardship to
those being robbed.

(See also FETISHES, PARAPHILIAS, PYROPHILIA and RELICS)

KLISNIAPHILIA (Enemas) Klismaphilia (klisma: enemas; philia: attachment to) dates back to the ancient Egyptians and was
also popular with the French, Greeks, Romans, and Americans.

The Egyptians used enemas for relief of constipation. They believed that all sicknesses were caused by a buildup of toxic
wastes in the body. Healers used laxatives, vomiting, and enemas to alleviate this disorder. The Egyptian’s sacred bird, the
ibis, when constipated used its long beak to remove feces and many of their enema tips were modeled after this bird.

The 19th century French revived this belief and used purging as often as four times a day. Enemas were thought to
improve the complexion, add vigor to one’s constitution, and cure impotence. Charles Panati, in his book, Panati’s
Extraordinary Endings of Practically Everything and Everybody, enlightens us as to the once popular customs.
“Limonadiers des posterieurs,” or pharmacists trained for giving enemas, would arrive with an assortment of herbs and
syringes. Herbs were mixed and one could chose from exotic clyster tips such as tortoiseshell, mother-of-pearl, or gold.
Tobacco enemas were popular, giving the person a rush to which they soon became addicted. These enemas led to
another form of rectal medication, the smoke clyster. The “Limonadier” used a special pipe which he inserted in his
patient’s rectum and blew tobacco smoke. This became a popular procedure in reviving fainting women. It is dangerous
to blow too much air into the rectum because this could cause a fatal embolism.

Americans have used enemas for constipation, dieting, before a date as insurance against flatulence, as preparatory
cleaning for anal sex, and for sex itself. Wine enemas and coffee enemas are popular, due to the effects of the alcohol or
the caffeine content. The slow warm stream of water into the rectum, or by the prostate, seems to enhance sex play for
some. There are clubs that cater to this interest in the United States. CAUTION: Enemas can cause damage if not done
safely. Precautions used for enemas:

Lots of lubricant is used on both the anus and nozzle. Warm water, soap, drugs, or alcohol can damage tissue if they are
not diluted with one quart of water for every 1/2 jigger of additive.
The enema bag is held no higher than the waist. This allows the water to flow gently. The sensual stimulus is caused by
the stream of water, so the flow of water is prolonged as long as possible.

Letting water pass through nozzle before it is inserted avoids getting air into the rectum, causing cramping and possible
embolisms.

Preliminary enemas are used by people who are embarrassed about expulsion of feces.

Proctitis can develop when one engages in this activity too often.

The rubber Whoopee Cushion is used in enema play for those who like enemas but find the purgatory effects to be
unpleasant. The nozzle of an enema bag is inserted. A rubber band is used to secure the nozzle in place and the hose is
attached after the bag has been filled with warm water. The cushion is rubbed with a water based lubricant and pushed
into the anus. The enema bag is next slowly raised until the cushion is filled.

Enemas have been used by rapists as well. There was one case during the 1960’s of a man who would raid a female
college dorm and tie up all the students, strip them, administer enemas to all, and then selecting the one to whom he was
the most attracted would give her a second enema before leaving.

GOLDEN ENEMAS Golden enemas use urine instead of water. This is accomplished by a man inserting his penis into a
partner’s anus or vagina and then urinating. This is physically difficult and only a few men are able to urinate while semi-
erect. Some people simply fill the enema bag with urine and administer it instead of water. CAUTION: Urine may contain
particles of blood, viruses, or bacteria and because of this golden showers are not considered safe sex.

(See also CATHETERS, COCKTAILS, LACTAPHILIA, SAFE SEX, SCROTAL INFUSION, SHOWERS, TOILET TRAINING, UROPHILIA
and VAMPIRISM)

KNIVES Consensual knife play is used in sex games to create a feeling of fear, anxiety, and ultimate trust. These passion
games usually consist of cutting underwear off a partner. Additional threats are not necessary for the majority of people.
There are a few heavy S/M players who use knives in interrogation or pseudo-torture games, but even they rarely cut
their partner. Some will rub tomato catsup on the back edge of the blade and pull it across the victim’s flesh leaving a red
line that resembles a cut.

The technique used to cut away clothes depends on the item itself. Clothing over the breasts may be cut by pinching the
fabric lying against the nipple, pulling it away from the body, twisting it, holding it across the edge of the knife, making
sure that no skin is near, and then cutting the fabric. A fairly round hole is left, exposing the breast. Underwear is cut
away by pulling the fabric away from the body, placing the knife under the fabric with the sharp edge always facing away
from the skin and slicing the fabric. Knife play may be performed with or without a blindfold and bondage, but is
negotiated ahead of time with a partner, so as not to cut away an expensive article of clothing.

Some men find it extremely stimulating to dress in ladies’ apparel and then to have their panties cut away in a pseudo-
rape scene. CAUTION: Knife play is a blood sport and can be dangerous. Care is taken not to let the blade point or sharp
edge make contact with a partner’s skin.

(See also ABRASIONS, CICATRIZATION, CIGARS, ELECTRIC SHOCK, PHOBOPHILIA, PYROPHILIA, SAFE SEX and SEX TOYS)

KOKIGAMI Kokigami (koki: a cloth worn around the waist by Japanese actors and used as a prop, gami: paper) is the art
of wrapping the penis in a paper costume. The 8th century Japanese aristocrats practiced the art of Tsutsumi, or
packaging. They wrapped their organs with silk and ribbons in complex and intricate designs and upon entering the bed
chamber offered them as gifts to their lovers. He then enjoyed the physical sensations as she carefully unwrapped her
prize. Today the authors Busch and Silver have invented a similar form of art. However, instead of ribbons, paper is used
as a disguise or costume. The lovers then act out their roles based on the type of figure selected. There are geese, fish,
squid, and dragons. Busch and Silver, in their book of Kokigami cut-outs, suggest the following dialogue and

play for the latter: “The crafty Dragon likes to breathe his fire into the dark jeweled cave. Ravaging, vengeful, sly... Where
are my precious jewels? My treasures? My trophies? Are they hidden there in your dark cave? The Reply: Come on hot
stuff! Careful the iron gates don’t snap shut and sever your burning tongue!... With arms outstretched and fingers curled
like claws, move forward warily with the knees bent. The hips may be flicked about spasmodically accompanied by the
low seductive roar of a raging furnace” (Kokigami, The Intimate Art of the Little Paper Costume, by Heather Busch and
Burton Silver, p. 18).

The Japanese also used samurai face masks over the groin region with a dildo protruding as the nose. Those not
interested in artificial phalli cut out the nose and put their own penis through it.

(See also FANTASY PLAY, MASKS and SEX GAMES)

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LACTAPHILIA (Eretithia; Erotamastia —masturbation playing with own breasts, Mastofact—breast fetish,
Tithiolagnia—orgasm while nursing, Tithioscopiaarousal from watching infant nurse) Lactaphilia (lactate: secretion of
milk, and philia: attachment to) is a term used for sexual arousal caused by lactating breasts. At one time milk from a
nursing mother was thought to have healing powers. The milk from both a mother and daughter was used as a
prophylactic against eye diseases.

A few nursing mothers will experience orgasm during infant feeding, and any orgasm will cause milk to spurt from a
lactating nipple. Orgasm during nursing (tithiolagnia) is not exclusively a female trait. Hirschfeld wrote of a man who
experienced only three orgasms during his life and these all occurred while attempting to nurse an infant. People used to
wonder why males are born with nipples since “most” are not capable of nursing. The natives of ancient Gallas (near
Ceylon) remedied this discrepancy by amputating the nipples of male infants. They feared that this female symbol would
create cowards in battle (Sex and Superstition, by G. L. Simons, p. 43, reproduced with permission of Blackie & Son Ltd.).

People can be aroused by lactation for many reasons. It may be a conditioned response from having been breast fed as an
infant or be viewed as a form of female ejaculate. Others find the scene of a woman sucking her own breast to be very
erotic. There are magazines that cater to this interest with photos of women squeezing milk out of one or both breasts.
Some have the drops of milk lying on their breasts and others fill glasses for the camera.

As mentioned in the section on SITOPHILIA, a woman can simulate lactation by pouring cream over her breast. Some men
prefer wine instead and this is referred to as oenosugia.

(See also ANACLITISM, COITUS A MAMILLA, FETISHES and SHOWERS)

LAP DANCING Lap dancing seems to be the modern creation of the Mitchell brothers. It began at their O’Farrell Theatre
in San Francisco. While a stripper performs on stage others work the audience for tips. The city ordinance forbids genital
contact with a man or exposure of his genitals, therefore lap dancing has strict regulations. A stripper dressed in sexy
apparel will approach a man in the audience, negotiate a price, and then facing him will put a knee on each side of his legs
and, lean forward enough so that his nose is between her cleavage. He is not allowed to caress her as she goes through
her pelvic thrusts.

(See also BELLY DANCING, CHOREOPHILIA, SEX POSITIONS, SEX SHOWS and STRIPPING)

LESBIANS (Cymbalism, Gynecozygous, Harem effect, Tribadism; Homophilia and Homosexualism—mate or female gays)
The name lesbian is taken from a tragic Greek account of a woman named Sappho who lived around 600 B.C. She
supervised a school for girls on the island of Lesbos. Sappho fell in love with one of her students but this girl, Phaon, was
unresponsive to Sappho’s advances. Finally in despair, Sappho drowned herself at sea. She left behind a rich collection of
love poems, almost all of which the Catholic Church later burned. The Greeks too were intolerant of lesbianism but
ironically certain types of male-male relationships were respected.

Lesbians have varying tastes in the type of partner they select. They may prefer women of a different race, those who
appear masculine (“flat shoe dykes”), those who are feminine (“lipstick dykes”), or those who are androgynous in
appearance. The type of partner selected may or may not match their own appearance.

Some lesbians would say that sex does not play a major role in their lives and others feel it does. The type of sex they do
engage in varies. Some have a phobia against any type of penetration, while others prefer mutual penetration with
fingers or dildos. Cunnilingus is engaged in by some lesbians, but not others. A lesbian couple’s sex life, if one exists, can
lose intensity after a few years because physical and emotional similarity destroys passion for many. Lesbians today have
one advantage over gay males and that is the ability to have and rear children in a homosexual marriage. This is
accomplished by either partner choosing to have children by artificial insemination (often with a turkey baster at home),
or sex with a male friend.

Lesbians have support groups and organizations that offer assistance. Larger cities have bars that cater to lesbian clientele
with special attractions such as all female strip shows, leather contests, and costume parties. Events such as the annual SF
Lesbian and Gay Freedom Day Parade and Celebration support lesbians and is usually led by a group called “Dykes on
Bikes” who seem tough enough to make even the macho “Hell’s Angels” yield right-of-way.

(See also BI-SEXUALISM, GAYS and HETEROSEXUALS)

LIGHTING Both women’s fertility and men’s virility are influenced by circadian rhythms (the body’s natural metabolic,
glandular and sleep rhythm cycles). Research has proven that an absence of light throws this system off its regular cycles.
Eskimo women do not menstruate or ovulate during the Alaskan winters and men have a decreased amount of
spermatozoa during this time. Bright light is an essential part of our sex lives, but at the same time can be uncomfortable
to the eyes. For this reason some prefer to have sex in the dark; others use blindfolds during the types of sex play that
require bright lights.

The type of light selected for romantic foreplay can be important. Ordinary light bulbs tend to tinge flesh with tones that
are not flattering, and also seem to expend a person’s energy at a faster rate. Romantic interludes require forethought if
one wants their partner to feel comfortable and eventually undress. The following chart compares an environment that is
not conducive to one that is:

The color light one chooses can also enhance one’s mood and create specific illusions. Green can slow down a man’s
erection time and red can speed it up, but may also trigger arguments. The combination of blue and green can create the
illusion of larger breasts and penises. Everyone’s favorite; candlelight and fireplaces, seem to enhance the shape and
color tone of the body and in general add to an erotic mood (Sexual Energy Ecstacy, by David Alan Ramsdale and Ellen Jo
Dorfman).

People experiment with light by using a combination of candlelight with colored glass candle holders. Dimmer switches
allow people to modify the light intensity during the evening, and timer devices are sometimes strategically set for
bedtime.

(See also COURTSHIP)

LOVE Love and sexual attraction are emotional reactions stimulated by the brain. Infantile love begins as a survival
instinct at a time when the child is dependent on parents for all its care. Although a child later develops a desire to
explore and play with peers, the need for love and nurturing at this stage is evoked more by a sense of danger, at which
time the child seeks out its mother. It is natural for both humans and animals to gradually teach their young survival skills
and if necessary to “push them out of the nest.” If parental love or protection is withdrawn too early a child may transfer
their love attachment to an inanimate object and have difficulty later in trusting a partner in a relationship. If the
detachment is done late a child may remain too dependent on their parents or others. A high self-esteem results in being
able to care for one’s own needs whereas love is perceived as a dependence on someone else to care for those needs.
The two are on a continuum, meaning that a person who doesn’t feel they can provide themselves with all their needs
will rely more on a love object for survival. A person who is independent will not be as dependent on a love object.
Nature seems to endow normal teenagers with an inflated self esteem. This probably gives them the extra courage
needed to leave nurturing parents and face the world on their own.

Adult love seems to follow a similar pattern to that of childhood, with anxiety creating a perceived need for a love object.

Several experiments have been conducted to gain insight into love. Julius Fast and Meredith Bernstein, in their book,
Sexual Chemistry, What It Is—How To Use It, cite an experiment done by Drs. G.L. White, S. Fishbein, and I. Rutstein
where they divided men into four groups. The groups then were exposed to one of the following stimuli: a boring lecture
on the anatomy of frogs, a comic routine, the story of a murdered and mutilated missionary, or just told to run in place.
The men “were next all shown a videotape of an attractive young woman talking. When asked if they’d like to date this
woman and kiss her, the three groups who had been stressed by exercising, a comic routine, or a horror story all
responded more positively than the men who had sat through the dull lecture on the frog.”

A similar study was done by a group of psychologists who conducted an experiment on men who had just walked across a
swaying bridge. A woman was stationed at the end of the bridge and stopped people to ask questions for a survey. She
gave her phone number under the pretext of making available the survey results. A large percentage of men called to
request dates. The men in this study had confused or transferred the fear and anxiety response they felt from crossing
the bridge into a feeling of attraction for the woman.

What elements then need to be present in order to trigger the love response instead of anger or fear It seems that the
primary factor is the sexual attractiveness and receptiveness of someone in the immediate vicinity. The male is generally
more susceptible to love at this point, whereas females tend to screen the man for an emotional or a financial security
potential. Next, to bond the relationship, the two partners must have complementary needs, or think they do. This is
similar to the concept of power, and in a love relationship it can place the more needy partner in a submissive role.
Mutual physical nurturing is a major need for both individuals. Other needs may be for excitement, power, security,
personality characteristics, beauty, and companionship. Someone who is constantly under stress, good or bad, is likewise
often susceptible to falling in love. Recognition of specific needs that are being gratified by a partner is important before a
commitment is made. Ask whether the needs are temporary and rational. Also, are there other methods that could be
used to satisfy them?

Bonding after a marriage is facilitated by a continued matching of needs and gratifications, compatible interests, open
communication, and compassion on the part of each towards the other. This bonding may also be influenced by other
factors such as insecurity, financial gain/loss, social pressure, and so forth.

An excellent resource for those interested in reading more about relationships and why people enter them is Dr. Martin
Blinder’s book, entitled Choosing Lovers.

(See also JEALOUSY and LOVE ADDICTION)

LOVE ADDICTION A love addiction, or more appropriately, a love compulsion is an irresistible impulse to fantasize about
a love object, expecting it to provide a solution to problems. Daydreaming itself seems to trigger opiates to numb pain.
The compulsive lover is simply a person who becomes fixated on romance or sex and tries to avoid loneliness, fear, stress,
or other basic unfulfilled needs in this manner. The negative aspect of fantasizing is that it numbs the pain everyone must
experience in dealing with life and by doing this a person destroys the incentive to work on real issues; the anxiety is
transferred instead to possessing a love object. The person makes themself more dependent on others and becomes less
capable of functioning on their own. Ironically, they become enslaved to this self destructive cycle which will inevitably
include pain.
There are many ways to battle a compulsion whether it is for love, sex, drugs, food, fetishes, working, gambling, etc. The
most common advice is to build up one’s self esteem. This means taking control of life, becoming more egotistical and self
nurturing, improving one’s appearance (if it keeps them from socializing), and avoiding harsh judgments and restrictions
on oneself. Pain is faced and resolved rather than masked or avoided. When something traumatic occurs the person tries
to first handle it alone, and not use this as an excuse to find a romantic fix. Personal goals are set as well as maintaining a
good balance of activities. A method used specifically for relationships involves analyzing the qualities that are usually
present in the people with which one normally falls in love. Once this is done a person selects one or two of these
attributes and works on making them part of themselves. This defuses some of the attraction they feel for lovers and
individuals improve their own self-esteem. They become the special person others want to date.

There are support groups that people can attend such as the twelve step program called “Sex and Love Addicts
Anonymous.” Here members, if single, are encouraged to give up sex until they gain a proper perspective on love and
relationships. It is not until sex and fantasies are given up that one realizes that the urge to do these things is triggered by
something painful in our everyday lives—things such as having a friend move away or not getting a promotion. The first
urge is often for sex. Once a person says “no” the next urge is to have a drink, eat, or anything that will distract one from
feeling the pain. The more appropriate solution for a person is to learn to deal with pain, grieve, and address the real
issue so that it can be resolved.

Not everyone agrees that people can have too much sex. The National Organization for Sex Enthusiasts (N.O.S.E.) was
founded by Roger Libby, Ph.D. and advocates sex as healthy and a natural body function.

(See also JEALOUSY and LOVE)

LOVE POTIONS Love potions are different from aphrodisiacs in that a special magic ritual is performed over the
concoction. These were popular in societies where spouses were not monogamous. “Juvenal, a first-century satirist,
reproved Roman women for dosing their husbands with love potions from Thessaly which only caused premature senility,
dizziness and loss of memory” (Sex and Superstition, by G.L. Simons, p. 67, reproduced with permission of Blackie & Son
Ltd.). The Siwans of North Africa believed that if a man could slip his semen into the food of a favored woman, this
woman would fall in love with him (Patterns of Sexual Behavior, by C. Ford and F. Beach, p. 101).

The book The Satanic Witch, by Anton LaVey, tells how the gingerbread man was once used as a popular love potion.
The gingerbread man was made as a replica of the person on which the spell was to be cast. A love-sick female usually
approached a witch seeking assistance in casting a spell on the man she wanted to be her lover. The ritual began with the
girl undressing and lying on a bench. The witch would then place a wooden board across the top of the girl’s genitals, mix
the cookie dough using ginger, a once popular aphrodisiac, mold it into the shape of a man, and place it onto a small
stove that was now placed on top of the wooden board. The cookie baked while the witch chanted and in explicit
language told the girl what type of sex she could expect from the man. The girl was to intensify her passion until she
achieved an orgasm, sometimes having to be assisted by the witch or a local male. Once the orgasm occurred, the cookie
was removed and wrapped. The girl was then instructed to deliver it to the object of her love and wait for the spell to
take effect.

The ancient witch also used liquid love potions that contained alcohol. Some of these recipes are available commercially
such as Advokaat, Chartreuse, Creme de Noyaux, Drambuie, Goldwasser, Mezcal, Parfait Amour, Sloe Gin, and Vermouth.

Spells that used visualization and goal setting were also popular. An example of one of these is when one would hang a
loving bell in an open window facing toward the west. A chant was then spoken:
Little bell of love, I hang you to whisper my need for love on the breezes and winds.

Little bell of love, speak of my need for love to your brothers and sisters.

Little bell of love, I ask you to speak softly and draw to me someone who listens.

—Earth Power by Scott Cunningham

Another method mentioned by Cunningham was a love binding where one takes a small piece of clothing from one’s
lover, ties it together with a piece of one’s own clothing, and hides it in a safe place.

(See also APHRODISIACS, CHARMS, FERTILITY RITES and RELICS)

LUBRICANTS Men and women both secrete a natural lubricant to facilitate intercourse. Male lubricant is in the form of
pre-ejaculate and the female’s is released from the walls of the vagina during arousal.

Saliva is used most often as a supplement for genital lubricants and serves to titillate the breasts, ears, mouth, and body
as well. The longest lasting but least common body lubricant is nasal mucous. This is generally used during masturbation
rather than with a partner.

Other lubricants may be purchased at sex video stores, S/M leather outlets, pharmacies, and through catalogues. The
important criteria for lubricants is that only water based lubricants are used with rubber products such as condoms or
dildos. This is because oil will deteriorate rubber and can cause a condom to break during coitus.

The most recommended water based lubricant is a polyethylene oxide called Slippery Stuff which was originally invented
for scuba divers to get into their wet suits. When used without condoms this lubricant is so slippery that it reduces vaginal
friction to the point that many men are able to stay erect for an extended period of time. Another popular water-based
lubricant is Astroglide. It is clear, odorless, and tasteless. Probe is a lubricant that was formulated to resemble our natural
sexual lubricants.

Flavored gels such as Joy Jelly are also popular; it comes in blueberry, strawberry, orange, and lemon-lime. Other gels are
available that are designed to numb the sensations of the penis so that a man can stay erect longer. However, for some
men the numbing effect causes them to lose their erection.

Some gels and lotions contain glycerin which warms up when exposed to the carbon dioxide in a partner’s breath. Sodium
hydroxide is a lye which leaves a bad taste; it is added to adjust the pH balance of the lotion. Propylene glycol also adjusts
the pH but without the bitter flavor.

Oil based lubricants are preferred for masturbation, anal sex (without condoms), and latex gloves (the latex on gloves is
thicker and can withstand the deterioration caused by oil better than condoms) because it doesn’t dry out as fast as the
water based type. Petroleum gels and mineral oil are not carcinogenic but they trap yeast and bacteria in the vagina.
Glycerine is a safe lubricant.

There are moisturizers specially formulated for older women or those who no longer produce a satisfying amount of
natural vaginal lubricant. One recommended in medical journals is REPLENS which lubricates for up to three days with
only one application. CAUTION: Some people use special chemical lubricants such as Tiger Balm or Vicks in serious sex
play to create intense sensations. These can cause tingling, burning, or numbness. People use a small portion on a small
area of mucosal tissue before proceeding to rub over the genital area. Many of these chemicals can feel pleasurable on
one person and yet cause extreme burning or itching on another. People who find the sensation is too intense often
dilute it by mixing the chemical with a plain lubricant until the desired sensation is obtained. A condom can also confine
these effects to the person who enjoys them (Communication with Wayne Cooper, Ph.D.). Soap is sometimes used for
lubrication but often abrades the delicate genital tissue.

(See also INUNCTION, MASSAGE and SAFE SEX)

 
LUST MURDER (Dacnolagnomania, Erotophonophilia, Sexual sadist killer; Lagnonector—person who kills in order to have
sex with corpse) The primary cause of most murders is anger and where some would direct it toward the person
responsible, others transfer their aggressive behavior or sadism to a stranger.

There are two famous cases of lust murder. One was of Gilles de Rais, born in 1404. He was the Marshal of France under
King Charles VII and the Lieutenant and protector of Joan of Arc. After an unsuccessful attempt to rescue Joan from
torture and burning, he became bitter and vengeful against the God who allowed her death. Gilles soon squandered his
fortune and elicited aid from alchemists and magicians in his attempt to convert base metals to gold. After many failures,
he became involved with black magic, convinced that committing gross deeds would enable him to enter into a pact with
the Devil to restore his wealth. Gilles began a reign of terror wherein he strangled and slit the throats of nearly 800 boys,
performing coitus interfermoris, mutilation, vampirism, and necrosadism. He was finally brought to trial in 1440 and
sentenced to death by strangulation. Two hundred years later the Countess Elisabeth Bathory of Hungary murdered
approximately 600 girls. She kept them shackled in a dungeon, bled them, and then bathed in their blood in the belief
that it would restore her youth. Upon finishing these baths she preferred to have her slaves lick the blood from her body
instead of using a rough towel (Perverse Crimes in History, by R.E.L. Masters and Eduard Lea, pp. 23-30).

Lust murderers sometimes have a particular fetish or ritual they perform. Recently, a fetish lust murderer was
apprehended in Oregon. This man would pick up young prostitutes, kill them, chop off their feet, and carry one foot with
him. This ritual brought about his conviction when police discovered a metal shoe buckle in his wood stove matching the
one belonging to a recent victim.

Many lust murderers begin torturing animals as children. Eventually these acts lose their original intensity and the person
begins attacking people. Some murderers pride themselves on humanely strangling their victim before proceeding with
torture or mutilation. Others photograph or tape the torture and screaming to use for their own excitement later. A lust
murderer also derives sexual release from killing and for this reason the victims are generally people the murderer finds
sexually attractive. Gays kill males, pedophiles kill children, and heterosexuals kill those of the opposite sex. Richard
Rappaport, the chief psychiatrist in the John Wayne Gacy case, reveals the following information about a lust murderer’s
victims. “The killer’s victims were usually of the same sex, in the same age group and shared many similar physical
characteristics. Theodore Bundy murdered young college women with dark hair parted in the middle; Gacy’s victims were
young men or adolescents; the Atlanta murders all involved young black children; the ‘Night Stalker’ in Los Angeles
focused on occupants of homes painted white or yellow and located near a freeway. The existence of this kind of
similarity among victims seems to indicate that the killer’s victim has been invested with a personal, intimate—and
delusional—meaning for the murderer. The victim, far from being a random encounter for the murderer, seems far closer
to being an object of his compulsive desires” (“The serial and mass murderer: patterns, differentiation, pathology” by
Richard G. Rappaport, M.D., American Journal of Forensic Psychiatry: Vol IX, No 1, 1988, pp. 39-48).

Orgasms achieved by these murderers may occur due to masturbation, frottage, or can be spontaneous. Many of these
men either carry a part of the clothing or body with them or later return to the site of the murder and masturbate.

Rappaport (cited above) explains the reason behind this compulsion. “Murder then represents a compulsive attempt to
solve an internal conflict, the repetition evidencing that there is no lasting benefit from killing as a method of resolving
the internal conflict. Some researchers maintain that the motivating force involved in these repetitive violent acts is
pleasure. The author’s [Rappaport’s] view is that the quest for relief of pain (the inner, unresolvable turmoil) is the
essential dynamic which impels the murderer to reenact his bizarre and furious crimes.”

There are those who take it upon themselves to pass judgement on gays or prostitutes and consider it their religious
obligation to rid the planet of them. Some feel that murdering their sex partner expiates their sin. In addition, passing
judgement on a victim serves to abate normal guilt. CAUTION: People can reduce the risk of becoming a victim by
avoiding close contact with strangers. Some murderers use clever tactics in abducting victims. Ted Bundy used disguises
such as wearing a cast on his leg and asking women to help him pick up books he had dropped and carry them to his car.
Others have run women off the highway at night or dressed in police uniforms.

(See also ANTHROPOPHAGY, MASOCHISM, MUTILATION, NECROPHILIA, PARAPHILIAS and SADISM)

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MAIEUSIOPHILIA (Cyesolgnia; Alvinolagnia—stomach fetish) Maieusiophilia (maieutikos: to bring forth children, as in

midwives, philia: attachment to) refers to those who are aroused by women who are going to give birth.

Our early ancestors carved innumerable statues of pregnant women and goddesses. One of the more famous was the
Earth Mother of Willendorf that is dated at about 25,000 B.C.E. These carvings were worn as amulets and buried with
people when they died. Pregnant goddesses brought forth the world, seasons, other gods, and humans. Pregnant women
evidently must have at one time held a highly esteemed position in society.

Today many women feel sexually unattractive during the last few months of their pregnancy. However, there are a
number of men who consider them extremely titillating—enough to buy magazines titled Milkin’ & Poppin’ 1, and Milky
Mamas.

(See also FERTILITY RITES, FETISHES and LACTAPHILIA)

MARRIAGE Marriage is a verbal or written contract that implies some sort of emotional or financial commitment
between two or more people. Contrary to popular belief, humans have not lived in monogamous marriages ordained by
God since the time of Adam and Eve. A study by C. S. Ford and F. A. Beach revealed that “monogamy as a compulsory
pattern of mateship...occurs in only a minority of human societies—only 16% of 185 societies studied... (Even in that 16%,
less than one-third wholly disapproved of both premarital and extramarital liaisons)” (Modern Views of Human Sexual
Behavior, p. 241). Polygamous marriages were not banned by the Church until the 6th century C.E. Consensual
monogamy, where individuals select their own marriage partner, has only existed for the last couple of hundred years in
Europe and the United States. Primal man lived in clans and even when marriage became popular adultery was common.
Monogamy was regulated when couples began to live alone away from the community. A description of the following
types of marriage should not only give a historical perspective of the evolution marriage has gone through in some
cultures but help in understanding the small contingent of people today who still practice many of these marriage forms.

ARRANGED Marriages for most of the last three thousand years were arranged by fathers. Children were betrothed and
married before they finished puberty, certainly before they were old enough to demand a freedom of choice. Marriages
were entered into for the financial and political advancement of the family as a whole and children’s preferences were
not acknowledged. Most Europeans and Americans have only been able to freely select their own marriage mates since
the late eighteenth century. Arranged marriages still exist in America among some small ethnic or religious groups.

CAPTURE This is an ancient form of marriage and in some cultures has existed until the early 20th century.

Primal men, who captured their brides from other tribes, were given a higher status due to the courage and strength
required in the feat. Customs varied and where some immediately raped the woman, others kept her in a separate house
hoping she would consent. If she didn’t, a tribunal would hear testimony and make a decision as to whether she would be
returned to her parents or forced to marry the captor. Other marriages were temporary, as in the case of some forest
tribes in the Congo where the man would capture a bride, take her into the forest while he hunted, and return her to the
village after she had given birth to a child and weaned it. The husband would then give the wife half of the game in
exchange for the child.

Bride capture was practiced in England until the end of the 15th century, in Ireland as late as the 18th century, in Crete at
the end of the 19th century, and until recently in parts of South America. In medieval France a woman was not safe even
when escorted by a knight because other knights had the right to attack her protector; if victorious they could do as they
pleased with the female. Cultures in north east and central India practiced a pretended capture of the bridegroom. It is
speculated that this tradition stems from a time when fathers captured young men from other tribes to provide husbands
for a surplus supply of unwed females (Sexual Life of Primitive People, by H. Fehlinger, p. 34).

There are several wedding rituals that have survived from capturing brides: the carrying of a bride over the threshold, the
use of groomsmen, and the honeymoon. The captured bride not only had to be carried but was often bound in some
manner to prevent her escape. Symbols of this type of bondage could still be seen in 19th century African tribes with their
use of wide metal bands that fit tightly around the waist, leg bands, and wrist restraints. These no longer serve a practical
purpose, but they have remained as part of their wedding rituals. Groomsmen were originally fellow tribesmen who
assisted in the capture of the bride because discovery meant having to fight. The honeymoon was the period of time
needed for the bride’s family (in some cases husbands) to give up their search. Brides were not only captured to become
a sex partner and mother, but were often destined to become only one of several secondary wives who were primarily
used to work the fields.

The Koryak, a tribe to the south of eastern Siberia, have a marriage ceremony with a capture symbolism. A groom, after
obtaining permission of the bride’s parents, will wait for an opportunity to capture her. The bride must not only resist but,
having been warned, has her friends sew her into a chastity garment. The groom attacks at the appropriate time and in a
struggle takes a knife and cuts enough of the garment loose to reach inside and touch her genitals as a symbol of
consummation. The struggle ends and they return to her tent as a married couple (Strange Custorns of Courtship and
Marriage, by William J. Fielding).

CHILD BETROTHAL Child betrothal has been practiced by many cultures but child marriages have been used by only a
few. A female child may be betrothed to a male child or, as is more common, to an adult male. This custom survives for
many reasons but is usually economic. In parts of Africa the older husband is financially responsible for the infant bride
and will pay the child’s mother for her care. In other areas dowries for younger girls are less expensive, and for some
financially destitute parents a daughter is their only collateral. Other factors include a possible shortage of females in a
tribe, the risk of an older unbetrothed girl eloping with an undesirable match, the cultural emphasis placed on virginity,
the existence of multiple family dwellings (a young girl is more submissive to the older female in-laws and therefore
preferred), and of course social or religious pressure.

COERCION People sometimes, perhaps often, use forms of coercion to hasten a partner’s commitment. Pregnancy at one
time had this effect because of societal mores. Impregnation could be premeditated by either partner. Couples also used
this as a method to gain their parent’s consent.

A few people today have been reported to use untreatable sexually transmitted diseases to trap a partner in a
relationship. These people assume that their desired partner will be too traumatized or embarrassed to pursue new
partners. (Of course, most episodes of transmission are due to a lack of education about the disease and its
contagiousness, or because of simple carelessness.)

CONCUBINAGE Concubinage began as a union between soldiers and women captured during battle who became
servants to the soldier and his wife. The soldier often had sexual relations with these women. Young males used for the
same purpose by a dominant male owner were called catamites. As part of the master’s property concubines could be
distributed to heirs upon his death.The Romans, in their effort to keep the blood line pure between themselves as
conquerors and the defeated, ruled that marriages were only official between free Romans. They allowed for a type of
monogamous concubinage in instances where a Roman male desired to marry a woman of lower status.

A distinction is still made between wives and concubines in Moslem countries. The Koran permits each man to have four
wives but allows as many concubines as he can support.

DOWRY Dowries are the gifts given by the bride’s family to the groom. The Greeks were expected to give the equivalent
of 1/10 of their property as a dowry. The Romans and Arabs also gave dowries. However, these were protected by law
and would revert to the daughter’s ownership if she became widowed or divorced. Dowries were often a form of
inheritance during a period when all property was left to the firstborn son.

Brides sometimes earned dowries themselves. Belly dancing was an acceptable method in some cultures and prostitution
was normal in others, including among the Natchez of Louisiana.

ELOPEMENT Couples who marry without parental consent are said to elope. This was often done when a lover did not
meet with the bride’s parents’ approval, was unable to meet the amount required for a dowry, or had been betrothed as
a child to another person. Elopements also occurred between married women and their suitors.

GROUP Group marriages were once common among members of certain tribes. Men and women were both permitted
to have multiple spouses and concubines. Couples often lived in separate quarters either alone, with parents, or in same
sex communals.

Today a group marriage consists of at least three people where each has a sex partner. The sexual preference of each
spouse is predetermined to suit the needs of the others. A heterosexual male may require that all other partners be
heterosexual. If under this arrangement anyone later discovers they also enjoy bi-sexuality, they may be asked to leave,
the converse is also true of marriages established on bi-sexuality.

Sleeping arrangements vary according to house rules. People may be left to select their own partners for the night or may
have them assigned. Others, in addition to private bedrooms, have a group bed in which anyone so inclined may retire.
There are several support groups in California for people involved in group marriages. (Expanded Family Network
meeting, February 1989.)

LEVIRATE This was the Jewish custom requiring a widow to marry her husband’s brother if the former had not provided
her with a son. The first born son of this union would then be named after the dead brother and considered to be his son.
Surviving brothers who, for different reasons, did not want to follow this tradition were required to remove their shoe
and have it spit on in public. Today Orthodox Jews sometimes go through a similar symbolic shoe ritual.

MAIL ORDER Mail order brides were the predecessors of today’s personal ads for partners. The commitments, however,
were much more serious due to the expense involved and perils of travel. Men often used this method for finding a bride
because they lived in an area that did not have eligible women from which to select; if there were women at all. New
settlers or immigrants are generally male. If they brought women with them they often died within a few years. The men
who desired companionship then had only a few options; they could marry a local female who was not of their race or
religion, become homosexual, or send for a bride from home. His parents or family often acted on his behalf in this case.

Today mail order brides are primarily used to find a bride who is from a different culture. This is generally a match
between an American male who desires more submission and loyalty from a wife and a foreign bride who prefers a less
dominant and more financially secure husband. There are magazines to which men can subscribe at a cost of over $300 a
year that display ads and photos of women from Brazil, England, Scandinavia, the Philippines, and the Orient. Some offer
a translation service for correspondence. CAUTION: Marriages between Americans and foreigners that are entered for
monetary compensation in exchange for American citizenship are illegal and carry a heavy penalty. Immigration
authorities expect the two people to have proof that they knew and spent time together within the previous two years.
Ads are not always legitimate. Women of any country responding to foreign ads for brides or models face a risk of ending
up as slaves to a prostitution ring. Likewise, men can often be defrauded by “confidence games” in which they are asked
to forward money for a bride that does not exist.

MATRIARCHAL SOCIETIES Matriarchy refers to domination of a family lineage by females. This type of rule preceded our
current patriarchal system. In matriarchal primal clans, women did most of the labor, male infants were sacrificed, girls
were educated, and males moved into the home of the bride’s family, sometimes taking their name. Often a woman or
her family could annul the marriage if they became dissatisfied with the husband. A wife could openly flaunt affairs, but a
husband could be severely punished by a legal council for the same offense. In some cultures women ruled, worked, and
fought, while men stayed at home weaving and caring for the children (When God Was a Woman, p. 36). Matriarchal
cultures such as some American Indian, African, Asiatic and Polynesian tribes have survived until today. These societies
were agricultural and are attributed with ecological conservation. They are also believed to have been defensive rather
than responsible for propagating wars.

MOCK Mock marriages were common in India among Brahman men. They were not allowed to marry until after their
older brothers took a bride. While this law seems logical all sorts of complications arose in trying to implement it. A
solution was soon devised that permitted the older brother to marry a tree, thereby freeing his younger brother to marry.
A similar form of mock marriage was practiced by the Punjab, also of India. Here a superstitious ritual was performed to
protect the third bride of a widower. The bride sat nearby while a marriage ceremony took place between the groom and
a tree or sheep that had been disguised in women’s clothing. It was believed that if the groom possessed an evil spirit that
was killing his wives it would destroy the surrogate bride instead of the human one (The Sacred Fire, by B. Z. Goldberg).

PATRIARCHAL SOCIETIES Patriarchal societies developed as people began breeding animals instead of farming, fishing or
hunting game. The care of herds took men away from in-law domination for long periods of time, breaking down the
social conditioning that required their submission to women or family. Men eventually proved they could not only
provide food, but could also capture slaves to work the fields. Men now owned possessions of their own and instead of
living with the wife’s family, men began paying their in-laws to take the brides to live with them and serve their families.
War-like patriarchal clans soon formed, eventually conquering most of the farming matriarchal groups throughout
Europe.

The true paternity of children became important under patriarchy. Now instead of the clan providing care for children
with them inheriting the mother’s possessions children were fed and educated by the father, later inheriting all his
property.

POLYANDRY Several cultures permitted women to have multiple husbands. Polyandry was common in Sparta among the
poor. Here a farm could only be left to the eldest son and there was no means of support available for his brothers.
Therefore, the eldest son would sometimes let his brothers remain on the farm and share his wife. Polyandry was also
necessary for the survival of wives and children in areas were there were frequent invasions by other tribes and the
husbands had to be away for extended periods of time. The Mongols permitted one woman to marry four brothers, one
always remaining behind to provide protection. Polyandry produced fewer children but more adult providers. It is still
practiced in parts of Nepal and Tibet where land is difficult to cultivate. The excess females either remain single or leave
their tribe for the low lands.

 
POLYGYNY Polygyny, or polygamy, is a marriage between one male and several females. Women benefitted from this
arrangement when the ratio of men to women was low. It provided women who were widowed or would otherwise have
to remain unmarried a chance to have a family. Her domestic burdens were also lightened because these were shared not
only by other women but by additional children. The polygynous unit seemed beneficial to communities where women
worked or had a skill while the converse was true of those who did not permit the wives to leave the house or to educate
themselves. Problems developed among the men in cultures where the ratio of females to males was not balanced and
only a few men were able to possess the majority of available females.

Polygyny among Indians was condemned by the American colonists, yet ironically these men justified raping the same
women they were supposedly trying to save from the abuse of polygyny. “Seventeenth-century Pueblo Indians had
petitioned the Spanish government because soldiers so often forced Indian women to have sex. Some Indians also
complained against the Catholic clergy, and at least one priest was accused of raping Indian servants...the church opposed
polygamy, and friars physically punished Pueblos who continued this custom...When white Americans became the
conquerors in western territories, they too claimed sexual access to native women and tried to obliterate Indian and
Mexican sexual customs.” Polygamist Mormons during the 19th century suffered from people’s wrath, despite the fact
that their sexual morals were rigid and fellow Mormons found engaging in adultery, zoophilia, or incest were executed
(Intimate Matters, A History of Sexuality in America, pp. 91, 118).

There are some families in Utah that practice a form of polygamy and from some reports the men and women both agree
that it is a preferred life-style. The internal criticism seems to stem more from “arranged marriages” rather than the
number of wives. Pro-polygamist Mormon women before the Woodruff Manifesto argued that polygamy gave them
freedom and equality. Utah universities have been open to women since 1850 and almost all the first female doctors
were Mormon. The feminist movement joined forces with anti-polygamist Mormons and, using condemnations of
immorality, worked up the sentiments of religious Americans to support them in stopping this practice. While Susan B.
Anthony and Elizabeth Stanton were concerned with equality rather than morals which had only been a convenient tool,
other factions of the feminist movement were never able to separate the two issues and continued on a moral campaign
directed at men and their female victims of vice.

PURCHASE The custom of giving a bride away at a wedding is a ritual that has survived for several thousand years. A form
of purchase of brides evolved with the capture marriage. A gift to the parents of a bride often kept peace between two
tribes and reduced the risk of the bride being avenged or escaping on her own after capture. It was also used during the
change from matriarchal to patriarchal societies. The groom, instead of living with his bride’s family and serving them,
gave her parents some type of compensation in exchange for their daughter.

There are tribes that, instead of giving money or animals, would exchange brides. If the father had both a son and a
daughter he would often exchange his daughter for his son’s bride. The daughter would then become a bride for one of
the groom’s relatives or a secondary wife of the father-in-law (Strange Customs of Courtship and Marriage, by William J.
Fielding).

RAPE Rape was used by some Australian aborigines to symbolize marriage. Grooms stalked neighboring tribes and,
finding a woman, hit her over the head with a club and dragged her away. Once she recovered the man forced her to
follow him to his tribe where he raped her in front of witnesses as testimony of their new bond. This union was often
short lived because attractive women were soon captured by men of other tribes and the same rape ritual repeated
(Strange Customs of Courtship and Marriage, by William J. Fielding).

ROMANTIC It was not until the late eighteenth century that marriages were entered into based on romance. Until this
time marriage had been a result of capture, purchase, or barter between parents. Romance was restricted to extramarital
affairs. A woman’s appeal quickly changed from being based on meekness and spirituality to being attractive, endowed
with large breasts, and a small waist. Letters between engaged couples no longer discussed or negotiated a division of
property and wedding arrangements but rather expressed affection. Parents who did not readily sanction a child’s
marriage could often be coerced with the announcement of pregnancy.
 

SORORATE This was the right given to a husband to take as wives all or any of his wife’s sisters. Sororal marriage was
common among many primitive tribes and has existed until recently among American, Fiji Island, Australian, and African
tribes. These tribes also often required that the eldest daughter be married first. The man marrying the eldest then had
first right of refusal on all others as they came of age. The animosity found among multiple wives in other cultures was
almost nonexistent in these families. Likewise, children fared better because an aunt made a more considerate
stepmother than did a stranger. Marriage of sisters was not always necessary for the husbands to enjoy sexual liaisons
with his sisters-in-law because many tribes granted these liberties anyway. The requirement of marriage seemed to
evolve at a later period.

The Todas of India had a reciprocal group marriage arrangement between wives and husbands. The paternity of children
was determined by order of birth, the first born of each wife belonging to the eldest brother, the second born of each
wife belonging to the second eldest brother, etc. (Strange Customs of Courtship and Marriage, by William J. Fielding).

TRIAL Pre-marriage trial periods are accepted in cultures such as those of Eskimos, American Indians, Africans, Arabs, and
Tibetans. The period of time differed; some societies expected a trial period of a year before couples could legally marry
and German communities practiced a trial night whereby the girl and her suitor could determine their sexual
compatibility before continuing a romance. An Anglo-Saxon ordinance in the 10th century permitted a seven year trial
marriage, and the Scottish permitted trial marriages until the 16th century.

Peruvians encouraged trial marriages, taking a dim view of chastity. Sexually inexperienced women whose marriages
ended were blamed for not having learned enough about sex before marriage to please their husbands.

Indian braves leaving on a long hunting trip would enter a short term marriage contract with a woman to accompany
them. She helped to cook and was their sex companion. The game was shared at the end of the trip and the contract was
terminated (Strange Customs of Courtship and Marriage, by William J. Fielding).

(See also HAREMS, LOVE, LOVE ADDICTION, WEDDINGS and WIFE SWAPPING)

MASKS Masks were popular during the 18th century in Europe. Prostitutes originally used them to hide their identity but

later they became popular among women of higher social status. These masks provided anonymity between lovers, or
from gossips and spies. Women wore masks to the theatre so that others would not see them blush and in the gardens so
that they could flirt in public. Masquerade balls were organized and the tedious requirement of proper social
introductions not only became unnecessary but at many parties it was mandatory that people not reveal their identity at
all. Flirtations and roving hands at these events provided extremely intriguing entertainment for an otherwise sexually
repressed society. It took more than a hundred years for these masquerade balls to be suppressed by disapproving
religious leaders.

(See also BONDAGE/HOODS)

 

MASOCHISM

[A fourteenth century monk] shut himself up in his cell and stripped himself naked ... took his scourge with the sharp
spikes, and beat himself on the body and on the arms and on the legs, till blood poured off him as from a man who has
been cupped. One of the spikes on the scourge was bent crooked, like a hook, and whatever flesh it caught it tore off. He
beat himself so hard that the scourge broke into three bits and the points flew against the wall. He stood there bleeding
and gazed at himself. It was such a wretched sight that he was reminded in many ways of the appearance of the beloved
Christ.

—The Pursuit of the Millennium by Norman Cohn

This is an example of extreme religious masochism which would rarely, if at all, exist among sexual masochists today. In
fact, the term sadomasochism now refers primarily to the consensual exchange of power between two people whether
the method used to achieve this is psychological or physical. Rape, lust murder, and spouse abuse for our purposes are
not considered forms of sadomasochism. They are nonconsensual and therefore will remain in categories of their own.
The term masochism was first used in the late 19th century by Krafft-Ebing, the psychologist, who wrote Psychopathia
Sexualis. Krafft-Ebing used the novels of Leopold von Sacher-Masoch to learn about men who gained sexual pleasure
from having a woman inflict pain. While the prominent writer was still alive, Krafft-Ebing labeled his acts as a sickness.
One has to wonder what influence male chauvinism had on this label because during this same period a child, wife, and
servant were all expected to endure a lashing without complaint. The similarity between these cases can be seen in the
assumption that if a wife didn’t submit to corporal punishment she was being disrespectful and rebellious. She would also
be suspected of not loving her husband. A wife who showed total submission to a tyrant was respected but a man who
wanted to submit to a woman was considered sick. However, a few thousand years earlier the opposite was true. Men
living in a matriarchal society would have found the desire to please or submit to mothers natural.

SM is a consensual and negotiated game between two or more people which may be stopped at any time by any partner.
The purpose of the game is to push the masochist to the same level of emotional and physical exhaustion found in an
extremely passionate love affair. Would the monk mentioned in the beginning of this section have felt as devoted to Jesus
if he had not suffered so much because of his love for humanity? Submission and suffering can both be components of a
strong love bond.

Men and women differ in the way they view the importance of sex in a relationship in some cultures, and it is this role
that they choose to sacrifice in masochistic games. Men value sex and tend to judge the quality of a marriage by whether
their sex life is satisfying while a woman will put sex into context with the rest of the relationship and if that seems
healthy they will not be concerned. Male masochists willingly give up all their power, masculinity, and demands for sex to
prove, by sometimes extreme methods, the intensity of their love. Conversely, female masochists tend to abandon sexual
inhibitions displaying or offering their bodies willingly; thus, sex becomes the sacrifice that proves love for a partner. The
reason people feel a need to convey love in this manner often lies in their past environmental conditioning. Many were
neglected or had emotionally distant parents. Some of these people use masochism to win the love of their partner
because, to them, love and nurturing were never given freely. In addition, these people probably only received nurturing
from their parents when they were injured or ill, therefore, they may feel that the only time they are permitted to receive
nurturing is when they are weak or injured. Similar conditioning is now considered a contributing factor for people who
become sexually aroused by piercing and cutting. These fantasies were discovered in children who underwent surgery as
infants by Dr. John Money.

Another dimension of masochism is that of physical pain. Pain is on a continuum that runs from very mild sensations, such
as tickling, to extreme levels that are produced in mutilation. People who use pain during sex often set limits to how
much and in what manner the pain is to be administered. A simple experiment that often clarifies the use of pain to
increase sensation is that of holding one’s hands up, taking notice of how they feel, and then clapping them together for
five seconds. There should be a tingling sensation that most would define as pleasurable, especially if spread throughout
their body during sex. Most people would not normally define this tingling sensation as pain, or think that clapping their
hands was a form of self-flagellation. Yet, for most practitioners, this is what masochism is all about. The level of pain is
chosen according to the desired effect: for example, relaxation, sexual arousal, to clear free floating anxiety, or to awaken
feelings in a numbed body. Masochists involved in heavy pain use it to either produce opiates in the brain for an euphoric
effect or to reach altered states of consciousness.

Masochism plays a role in creating a feeling of self empowerment or self esteem. The masochist faces fear, pain, or
humiliation and not only survives but has an orgasm or receives love as a reward. Scientists discovered that laboratory
rats took much longer to drown when thrown into a vat of water than did their captured cousins (5 minutes vs. up to 24
hours). The reason given for the laboratory rat’s survival was that until then he had always survived, no matter what
injury he might have sustained. This gave him stamina that his country cousin lacked. People are able to gain this type of
courage themselves by overcoming fear-producing obstacles. A person who learns to endure pain and conquer fear will
rarely panic or think that all fear and pain end in failure or death.

The automasochism or self mutilation that is so often seen in prisons, psychiatric wards, hospitals, cult groups, convents,
and monasteries is a manifestation of primal aggression or fear triggered by anxiety that has been turned inward rather
than acting it out toward another person. Our bodies were designed to produce relief from trauma whether we were the
aggressor or the victim in a conflict.

There are many private S/M clubs and these all vary in character. S/M clubs may be heterosexual, gay, all female (some
will allow transvestites in female attire), pan-sexual, male dominant, or female dominant. Most clubs sponsor occasional
play parties, some give educational lectures, many restrict activities to bondage, a few have a religious undertone, and
others are political in nature. Acts that look safe and simple, such as bondage, can be very risky and even cause a
partner’s death in a very short time. Therefore, the primary purpose of clubs is to provide education for novices and a
safe environment in which to practice and acquire the skills needed for play. S/M clubs are not group sex houses and
many have regulations against even a married couple engaging in genital penetration during a play party. Individuals who
sponsor private parties set their own rules. CAUTION: Masochistic play may not be safe for some types of people. Those
who may need to exercise caution include veterans who were in active combat, people who were abused as children, and
women who were violently raped. Any of these people can “flip out” if triggered by a familiar word, piece of clothing, a
certain touch, and so forth.

There have occasionally been cases of masochists who regressed into what appeared to be past lives involving torture
during play and experienced emotional stress because of this. Like others who have survived trauma, they may need
professional assistance in coping with the memories. In addition, if these people continue to play the masochist role, it is
their responsibility to inform future partners of things that set them off, enabling the partner to avoid repeating the same
mistake.

(See also ALGOPHILIA, AUTOMASOCHISM, BONDAGE, DOMINANCE/SUBMISSION, FLAGELLATION, HUMILIATION,

PARAPHILIAS and SADISM)

MASSAGE (Tripsolagnophilia and Tripsophitia—arousal from being massaged, Tripsolagnia-arousal from having hair
manipulated or shampooed) There are several types of massage that will be discussed in this section. There are basic
massages that are used to create intimacy with a partner without expectations of sex. Others are used in bondage or
torture play. A massage does not have to cover the entire body or be done while reclining. Partial body massages of areas
such as the head, face, hands, feet, legs, shoulders, neck, chest, buttocks, or genitals can feel wonderful and they lend
themselves more to spontaneity and reciprocity. Time spent on massages can vary greatly.

FACE The face is often one part of the body that gets ignored. The procedure for a basic face massage is for one person
to position themself behind the partner and, having them close their eyes, place the middle fingers softly in the center of
their forehead. The pressure is slowly increased and massaged with thumbs toward the temples followed by the use of
circular motions on them. Next the thumbs are placed one on each center corner of eyebrows and pushed toward outside
edges. The thumbs are then rubbed down the sides of the nose toward the nostrils, then placed on the sides of the nose
and pushed outward across the cheek bones. This is followed by massaging the areas above and below the lips. The chin
is then massaged by running the fingers and thumbs from the center along the jaw bone. Last, the outside edges of the
ears are gently held between the thumbs and forefingers, covering as much area as possible with the grip.
 

SENSUAL FULL BODY Those indulging in full body massages first take precautions to avoid being interrupted. Some enjoy
a warm dark room and others are able to relax and enjoy the experience out of doors. Background music is often
appropriate but sometimes takes away from the personal intimacy between partners who may prefer to hear soft sighs,
moans, or deep breathing.

A person does not have to be trained in massage if the pressure used is light or moderate. Most people plan ahead so
that everything they need is nearby. Movements are never hurried, and one hand stays on the partner at all times, even
when reaching for something. Those using vibrators make sure that the batteries are fresh and that rubber parts do not
come in contact with massage oil.

Many people use heated vegetable based oil for massage. Olive oil, light mineral oil, almond, or sesame seed oil are best
for the skin. Other common oils are baby oil and commercial massage oils. The important information needed when
selecting the latter is to know that they are often scented or have chemical additives. Scented oils often arouse a partner,
therefore some prefer not to use them if sex is not the ultimate goal. An oil that produces chemical heat may be
appropriate for a partner with sore muscles.

Several groups sponsor massage parties where couples bring a food dish to share, towels for the hot tub, and supplies for
giving a massage.

BONDAGE AND TORTURE People who prefer playing or being tortured during bondage submit to various sensory
enhancing techniques such as being tickled with an ostrich feather or fur mittens, or being rubbed with leather gloves.

Blindfolding is used in sensory play because a lighter touch can be used to give the same effects as higher intensity play.
People wanting stronger sensations have their partner nibble, scratch, run ice chips over the body, or use light biting.

FOOT Feet are either massaged with the fingers or can be caressed by the mouth to stimulate a partner in sex play. This
is done by sucking or running the tongue in and out through all the toes; some do this to each other simultaneously.

A dominant partner often demands that their servant soak their feet and give them a pedicure. A dominant partner may
also massage a slave’s back or genital area while wearing spiked heel shoes.

GENITAL Genital massages are used to become familiar with a partner’s genitals during a time when sex is not the
primary goal. Oils reduce the friction of the skin and provide visible evidence of areas not yet explored.

(See also ACUPRESSURE, BINDING, BITING, CLAMPS, CORSETS, CUPPING, LIGHTING, OLFACTION. PINCHING, SCRATCHING.
SENSORY ENHANCEMENT, TICKLING and TOUCH)

MASSAGE PARLORS Massage parlors offer people various types of massage. In addition, some for an additional fee will
massage the genitals or masturbate a client. There is usually a basic fee for the massage and time is limited to a specified
number of minutes.The foremost concern of workers in these parlors is whether new customers are involved with law
enforcement. Regular customers and those who convince the masseuse that they are trustworthy can often have the
massage finished off with manual stimulation of the genitals. A new customer uncertain of the appropriate gestures or
information to divulge usually ask the woman what he could do to prove he is not affiliated with the police. If the
masseuse provides any type of sexual service she will then give the client an idea of what is available and for how much.
Sex does not automatically come with the basic price and masseuses do not perform a wide variety of sex acts. Etiquette
for men in a massage parlor includes not grabbing or gouging the masseuse and not joking about being a policeman.
Gentlemen ask permission or attempt contact by gently stroking the masseuse with the back of a hand. These men are
much more apt to receive a favorable response. Unless additional money is received a man is not automatically entitled
to feel her body; he has only paid for a massage.

The women who work in massage parlors may be young, inexperienced, lesbian, married, or professional. Some are
masseuses because they really enjoy the work, others for the excitement, and some because it’s a quick way to make
money. Many build up a regular clientele with whom they develop a good rapport, and some have even married clients.

(See also BORDELLOS, MASSAGE and PROSTITUTION)

MASTURBATION (Ipsism, Onanism; Amatripsis—rubbing labia together, Manuxorate—mate using hand,

Maritate—female alone, Siphnianize—anal, Syntribate—rubbing thighs together, Triborgasmia—wife who masturbates
husband) Masturbation generally refers to bringing oneself to orgasm using manual stimulation. If this is accomplished
with the assistance of a partner it is then referred to as mutual masturbation, petting, or foreplay. Masturbation is
considered a “normal” process in sexual development and maturity, often beginning at a young age. Boys generally first
ejaculate between the ages of 10 and 13 years. James Weinrich states that “experiments in primates show that if this
sexual rehearsal play is interfered with, the result can be an adult who cannot or does not function sexually as well as
other individuals who were permitted such play” (Sexual Landscapes, p. 244).

The early 18th century marked the beginning of a two hundred year period where masturbation came to be viewed in
Western societies as a form of unhealthy self-abuse by the morally degenerate or mentally ill. The Puritans condemned
the practice because sex was for procreation. However, the Victorians were concerned more because of its perceived
health risks. These fears arose from books that were written warning that almost every sort of ailment could be caused by
men wasting their vital life energy. Physicians erroneously assumed that losing semen created the same effects as seen in
castrated men. John Todd wrote several books, wherein he quoted the superintendents of an insane asylum as saying
that masturbation is not only “the cause of bringing many of their patients there, but an almost insuperable obstacle in
the way of their recovery” (The Horrors of the Half-Known Life Male Attitudes Toward Women and Sexuality in
Nineteerth-Certtury America by G. J. Barker-Benfield, p. 166). This was the start of a public phobia that led many parents
to use painful penis harnesses to prevent erections in their sons. The case of a young girl was reported in an 1894-5
edition of International Medical Magazine where a doctor in Ohio decided to eliminate the girl’s desire to masturbate by
cauterizing the clitoris. When this failed to produce the desired results he infibulated the area with silver wire. These she
tore loose and in a final effort he cut out the clitoris. Adults were castrated. As late as 1897 a man was documented to
have had his penis amputated as a cure for masturbation.

Masturbation is not usually thought of as a tool for torture, but even this pleasurable experience has dreadful
consequences when overdone. Messalina, the wife of the Roman emperor Claudius, is said to have ordered men to be
masturbated until they either became permanently impotent or died. At one time several nomadic Northern African
tribes used a similar form of torture on their captives. Even today repeated masturbation is used on male rape victims or
in bondage scenes, but not to the same degree.

Masturbation is educational, prepares people for sex with partners, and allows them a safe environment in which to
experiment with methods and sensations that are stimulating. The role of masturbation in one’s life can have even more
dramatic psychological benefits. A new form of sex therapy has enabled people to replace harmful substance addictions
by forcing themselves to masturbate daily. This act transfers the pleasure stimulus to an activity that is healthy and one
that can lead to an intimate relationship with others (ESO, Extended Sexual Orgasm, by Alan Brauer, M.D. and Donna
Brauer, p. 48).

Masturbation is tolerated by most cultures except when it totally replaces a person’s desire for the opposite sex. It is easy
for people to become conditioned or reliant on one method of stimulation. If that method can be easily modified to allow
orgasm through genital penetration there is no problem. However, if the stimulus needed is one that cannot be adapted
in this manner both people will suffer. The following chart identifies a few masturbation techniques and categorizes them
according to a criteria for penile-vagina sex.

PARTNER COMPATIBLE:
Thrusting against pillow
Rubbing with fingers, towel, heel of foot
Use of lubricants, condom, fruit, liver in milk
carton, or rubber genitals
Anal stimulation
Ben-wa balls
Nipple stimulation

PARTNER INCOMPATIBLE:
Vibrators
Boudoir water spray
Rubbing against photos
Use of fetish object
Rushing through act
Watching own genitals in a mirror
Douches
Urethral stimulation
Rough handling of genitals

Some would say regular masturbation helps one’s ability to orgasm by keeping the pubococcygeus (PC) muscle in tone.
This is the muscle that covers the genital region from the mons pubis to the anus. A physician named Arnold Kegel
developed an exercise that improves people’s muscle tone thereby intensifying or adding control to orgasms. These are
named Kegel exercises. A person can exercise this muscle by simply stopping and restarting the flow of their urine. The
next step is to continue exercising this muscle from time to time throughout the day. People gradually work up to two or
three sessions of 100 contractions a day, trying to hold each one for several seconds. The improved strength of the
muscle can be tested if one is a man by hanging a towel over an erect penis and trying to raise it higher. A woman can
place a pencil or finger in the vagina and squeeze or push with her PC muscle. An improvement of muscle tone should be
noticeable within a few weeks.

There is an organized group in San Francisco that sponsors Jack and Jill Off parties. They meet almost monthly to engage
in mutual masturbation. Safe sex kits are supplied and many people add to the festivity by wearing costumes. Unescorted
men and women are permitted to attend and bi-sexuality is encouraged due to the higher ratio of men to women.
CAUTION: There is no universally accepted theory as to how often one should masturbate. Some men regularly
masturbate as often as six times a day with no apparent harm. However, men who masturbate excessively may risk
getting their penis accustomed to the stimulus of the hand, which can be much stronger than the stimulus in intercourse.
Abstaining from masturbation for a period of time can restore sensitivity. Excessive masturbation can only be determined
individually, based on the number of skin abrasions, bruises, or the time spent on this activity and whether it keeps one
from engaging in other necessary activities. In part, our desire to masturbate involves needs that may extend beyond sex
or morality. Masturbation can be seen as a thermostat for our emotional wellbeing, and can be used according to a
person’s needs.

(See also ACALMATOPHIHA. CHASTITY DEVICES, CUNNILINGUS, FELLATIO, GENITAL /ANAl. INSERTS, ORGASMS and SEX
TOYS)

MATURATION Maturation, or aging, has several effects on a person’s sexuality. These are all as normal as any other
aging process and are experienced by everyone to some degree. Many partners find that they even benefit from the
lingering effects of arousal and orgasm. Disease, boredom, or an unreceptive partner creates many more sexual problems
than does aging.
An issue of Sex Over Forty listed most of the changes that men encounter as they age. These include a longer time
before obtaining erection, the need for more tactile stimulation of the penis, some loss of firmness in the erection, a
prolonged period of erection before orgasm, and faster detumescence afterward. The force of the ejaculate may not be
as strong and period of time between erections and the desire to orgasm often increases. Men also begin focusing more
on total body intimacy with a desire to please their partner rather than on genital sensation only. Regular sexual activity is
recommended to prevent muscles from losing their tone and to keep tissue healthy (“Sexual changes in men over forty,”
by S.H. Rosenthal, June 1982).

(See also DYSFUNCTION, GERONTOPHILIA, IMPOTENCY and MORTALITY)

MEATOTOMY See PENIS MODIFICATION /MEATOTOMY

MEDICAL SCENES (Iatronudiaarousal from exposing oneself to physician) Medical scenes are arousing for many.
latronudia refers to those who are aroused by pretending to have an ailment so that they can undress in front of a doctor.

Others set up their own version of an adult sex game of “playing doctor.” This may involve any type of role play involving
a character from the medical profession and a patient. Less often it might include a dominant and submissive playing the
role of veterinarian and dog. The types of activity vary and include simply wearing costumes, taking vital signs, giving
physicals, enemas, catheterization, sounding, pap smears, cupping, prostate exams (very popular at professional S/M
houses), bindings, bondage, genital modifications, mock castration, cicatrization (scarring), coprophilia, shaving, electric
shock, phlebotomy, piercing, lacing, scrotal infusion, toilet training, defloration, suturing, or stapling.

Some dungeons come equipped with gurneys or gynecological tables to assist in making these popular games more
realistic.

Medical games are popular because they are connected with the anxiety that many people feel when visiting a physician
which leads to a natural increase in energy in a sexual experience. CAUTION: Sterile procedures are used any time the skin
is broken, along with other precautions.

(Sec also BONDAGE, CASTRATION. COPROPHILIA, DEPILATION, GENITAL MODIFICATIONS, LACING, PIERCING,
PHLEBOTOMY, SAFE SEX, SCROTAL INFUSION, STAPLING, SUTURING and TOILET TRAINING)

MENAGE A TROIS A mênage à trois is a domestic arrangement which is often confused with a 3-way erotosexual
experience. These 3-ways may technically be of any sex or sexual preference. If a heterosexual couple lives in an area
where prostitution is legal they may simply hire a third person. Singles often advertise in local swinger newspapers for
couples interested in a 3-way and couples advertise for singles. Some prefer a regular partner who is bi-sexual or willing
to engage in sex with a third person. (A woman who feels like she is being used as a pawn or pimp for her partner’s
pleasure may resent the relationship.) Unless the couple is gay, generally it is easier for the female to approach the third
party. The domestic arrangement that has potential for lasting longest consists of same sex partners, followed by two bi-
sexual women and a male or two men and a woman, and last by one male and two heterosexual females.

One’s focus is often divided between two people and if a male comes to orgasm before the female(s), the sex play may be
over, if the women are not bi-sexual. There is also the risk that if one is enjoying a particular sensation, someone stroking
or probing another part of the body becomes distracting. This often happens with two people who are excited about
experimenting with bi-sexuality for the first time. If something goes wrong it is better for someone having a poor
experience to stop immediately; no one is obligated to stay in the group until the others are satisfied. Husbands and
wives often have strong opinions about which types of sex their partner can use with the outside lover. These rules are
best discussed prior to approaching the third person, and then discussed again with the third person so that their wishes
may be taken into consideration by the couple as well.

Sexual positions used during 3-way sex vary according to the type of sex the people enjoy. People can be stimulated with
the tongue, mouth and hands—some even use their feet to gain contact with the third person. Jessica Stewart, in The
Complete Manual of Sexual Positions, includes a chapter with photos of group sex. CAUTION: Safe sex should be used in
all group sex scenes to prevent the transmission of disease.

(See also ADULTERY, CANDAULISM, FESTIVALS, GANG BANGS, GROUP SEX, ORGIES, POLYITEROPHILIA and TROILISM)

MISCEGENATION (Allotriorasty) The word miscegenation was first used in the 1860’s and refers to sex or marriage
between two people of different races.

According to a survey conducted by Louis Harris in 1971 an average of one in five Americans have dated someone of a
different race. Most interracial relationships were not entered into based on this difference but rather by similar criteria
as would apply to anyone of the same race. The couples who deliberately select a partner of another race do so for
reasons such as sexual novelty or the appeal of submissive women from other cultures. In America it is common for some
young caucasian girls to seek out black boyfriends as part of a larger pattern of breaking away from their parents’ values.
This is especially true if parents are both overcontrolling and racially prejudiced. The men they choose, who are usually
poor and uneducated, are flattered by this and consider it a mark of status. These relationships, when based on defiance
of parents and social strictures, can involve a lot of negative behavior (drugs, truancy, prostitution, etc.) to flaunt the
rebellion, and the relationships seldom work.

Societal bias may influence minority or immigrant sexual ideals with the advertising media. In the United States models,
movie stars, and dolls are often blond or fair skinned. Even ethnic magazines use women with light skin and facial
features that could pass as Anglo. These groups often develop anglo criteria for beauty and an aversion to women who
fail to meet that standard.

Some members of stigmatized minorities project anger onto members of their own group, as if disparagement is the fault
of the victim. When these people marry outside of their cultural group it is often an attempt to deny their identity as a
minority. Intercultural marriage may also be an attempt to increase social status via a spouse.

Americans have disapproved of most types of miscegenation since its colonization. Marriage or sex with Indians, Irish,
Jews, Catholics, and Chinese was discouraged. However, sex with blacks seemed to incite the greatest indignation. Blacks,
unlike slaves during other times, were discriminated against because of color. This phenomenon was due in part to
Christianity’s interpretation of Ham’s curse of his descendants being turned black and made to serve as slaves. This
misinterpretation coincidentally began in America as new labor was desperately needed in the production of molasses
(the product that was the first mainstay of the new American economy). When the theory of evolution became popular in
the 19th century it also condemned blacks to a lower status. Despite created prejudices against blacks, white slave
owners were sexually attracted to their black slaves. The legal system unfortunately supported sexual harassment and
subjugation of black women, not only during slavery, but also after their emancipation. One of these laws was passed
during the 17th and 18th centuries by the English colonists which pronounced mulatto offspring between slave and
freeman to be slaves. In contrast, the Spanish colonies granted children of mixed unions their freedom. Winthrop Jordon,
in his book White Over Black, stated “If he [white man] could not restrain his sexual nature, he could at least reject its
fruits and thus solace himself that he had done no harm...By· classifying the mulatto as a Negro he was in effect denying
that intermixture had occurred at all” (p. 178).

The legal reforms won after the 1863 Emancipation Proclamation by blacks were short lived. The right of a black woman
to sue for financial support of her half white illegitimate children was repealed. Laws that would make concubinage illegal
and force whites to marry black women with whom they lived never passed.

The 19th century saw a continuation of black lynchings. However, now instead of accusing black men of conspiracies,
insurrections, and plotting the murder of slave owners they were charged with rape. This indictment was made against
males engaged in consensual unions because “it was impossible for a white woman to freely succumb to a black man.”
The accusation of rape served the white men well because it was an act that even the most liberal supporter of equal
rights would not condone.

There are disagreements as to whether intermarriage to the point of homogeny would alleviate prejudice among
humans. If we use examples of amoebas, bacteria, viruses, or female worker bees which are genetically identical, the
answer is yes. Frank Baird, Jr., a professor of science and curator in entomology, explains that “Sex is an antisocial force in
evolution. Bonds are formed between individuals in spite of sex and not because of it. Perfect societies, if we can be so
bold as to define them as societies that lack conflict and possess the highest degree of altruism and coordination, are
most likely to evolve where all of the members are genetically identical. When sexual reproduction is introduced,
members of the group become genetically dissimilar. Parents and offspring are separated by at least a one-half reduction
of the genes shared through common descent and mates by even more. The inevitable result is a conflict of interest.”
Professor Baird goes on to state that “To diversify is to adapt; sexually reproducing populations are more likely than
asexual ones to create new genetic combinations better adjusted to changed conditions in the environment. Asexual
forms are permanently committed to their particular combinations and are more likely to become extinct when the
environment fluctuates” (Sociobiology, The Abridged Edition, pp. 155-6).

The nature of humanity, so long as we sexually reproduce, seems to embrace aggression. People who live in
predominantly homogenous societies, where skin color and facial features are similar, direct their aggression or prejudice
against members of other religions, caste systems, schools, or companies. The solution, if there is one, lies in individuals
learning to control their own aggression, to appreciate racial and cultural variety, and to cultivate compassion for those
who are different or weak.

People who choose to add racial variety to their sexual repertoire have dating services such as the Ebony Ivory Society
that cater to their needs. One will also find erotic magazines like Cocoa ’n Creme, Your National Guide to Interracial
Swinging that lists personal ads such as the following:

Hot, white couple, seeking well-hung, black men to take care of sexy wife’s needs. See picture of her first gang bang while
on vacation...

Do I look like a church secretary to you? Thank God. I live in a small town...Just dressing like a slut makes me wild with
desire....

Black Goddess accepts TVs, TSs, females, males, and couples for her slaves....

(See also ANTHROPOMORPHIC CARTOONS, CANDAULISM, EUNUCHS, HODOPHILIA and SLAVES)

MISOGYNIST This term is applied to men who hate women. This hate is often based on low self-esteem and a fear of
suffocation or abandonment by the woman-hating partner. To prevent abandonment, or soothe the feeling of inferiority,
he degrades her, accuses her of cheating or not loving him, and otherwise tries to reduce her level of self-esteem to
something lower than his. We gain self-esteem by learning to handle our own problems and becoming independent from
our parents. When this separation is thwarted or a child is abandoned early, a son’s confidence in himself suffers. He will
feel dependent on others, fear abandonment, and may be unable to handle frustrations. A misogynist resents his partner,
rather than his mother, for these feelings.

Dr. Susan Forward explains the dynamics behind misogyny. “Mother is the nurturer and the boy’s primary source of
comfort, while Father helps him to pull away from Mother so that he does not become overly dependent on her.
However, in the family backgrounds of misogynists, just the opposite occurs.... so that the boy has no other option than
to make Mother the center of his universe.” Dr. Forward’s book, Men Who Hate Women & The Women Who Love Them,
offers additional insights on this relationship.

The adult male grows up attributing the same power or needs of his mother to all women. Men will also hate women
because of mothers who emasculated them by overprotection or humiliation. Weak mothers can make sons feel helpless
by asking them to take on impossible responsibilities of care, protection and nurturing. A major part of healing comes
from learning to communicate fears or anger without blaming a partner. Society condones anger and violence as tools for
masculine power. However, anger stems from fear of being helpless and most would not consider this manly. (Some
people can relieve anger by immediately breathing deeply and asking themselves why they are feeling helpless.) Each
person is responsible for their own problems. A partner can lend support but should not be blamed or expected to mend
things. A marriage is between two adults, not a parent and small child. For people who do not have a clear understanding
of their role and what should be expected of them Dr. Susan Forward lists a “Personal Bill of Rights” for couples:

1.You have the right to be treated with respect.

2.You have the right not to take responsibility for anyone else’s problems or bad behavior.

3.You have the right to get angry.

4.You have the right to say no.

5.You have the right to make mistakes.

6.You have the right to have your own feelings, opinions, and convictions.

7.You have the right to change your mind or to decide on a different course of action.

8.You have the right to ask for emotional support or help.

10.You have the right to protest unfair treatment or criticism.

These rules are for the benefit of both people. If one person doesn’t feel they can ask them of their partner they may not
think it is fair for the other person to make the demands. The relationship works better if kept balanced. If one person
asks for a favor the other should request something in exchange (i.e., if a husband wants to spend Thanksgiving with his
family then the wife might ask for another holiday with her family—not a mink coat and a new Jaguar.) This may seem
strange or unromantic in the beginning but it will stave off a lot of resentment and feelings of betrayal in the future.
Equality prevents either person from feeling totally used.

(See also BIASTOPHILIA, LUST MURDER, PHOBIAS, ST. AUGUSTINE and SEXUAL HARASSMENT)

MORTALITY There is probably no greater anxiety than to see or face death.

Seeing mutilated or dead bodies stimulates some people. Many people driving along a highway will slow down to get a
better look at accidents. Some men have reported sexual arousal and even orgasm to their psychologist because they are
confused by this reaction to mutilated bodies.

Some couples, surviving a near miss with death themselves, find their passions aroused. Others experience an increased
sex drive after losing a close friend and in two cases women who had lost a child became nymphomaniacs. The latter
propensity would certainly contribute to the survival of a species who has historically had a high infant mortality rate.
(See also BULL FIGHTS, EXECUTIONS, LUST MURDER, NECROPHILIA and SADISM)

MUMMIFICATION See BINDING/ Mummification

MUCOPHAGY Mucophagy, consuming nasal mucosa, is done as a matter of course in nasolingus. Others may engage in
mucophagy because of the implied self degradation, or simply the novelty of it. Like consumption of other body
secretions, mucophagy can be used to demonstrate total acceptance and love of a partner.

(See also COCKTAILS, COPROPHAGY, UROPHILIA and VAMPIRISM)

MUTILATION (Colobosis—castration, Mazoperosis—of breasts, Perogynia—of females) Mutilation refers to inflicting

physical injury on someone; usually by stabbing, tearing, or cutting.

Deliberate mutilation was used by leaders and rebels in battles to evoke terror in enemies and reinforce their own feeling
of power. However, the flaw in this strategy is that often those who had been terrorized generally retaliated. Mutilation
in battle seems inhumane but is tolerated by many societies as necessary. Mutilation for the purpose of sexual arousal
concerns people much more. Jacobus X, a physician in the French army during the late 1800’s, related two examples in his
book, Crossways of Sex. One was Joseph, a young cook in the Navy, who would have erections when he slaughtered
fowls or rabbits. He would “then cut off its testicles and go outside to eat them and masturbate.” He was previously
dismissed as a goat herder after he nearly killed a he-goat for disturbing him while he was engaging in intercourse with
one of the nannies. This man’s sexual fantasies included performing pederasty on a prisoner or Chinaman and toward the
end cutting off the victim’s penis. Jacobus X refers only to Joseph’s childhood molestation by an older brother as an
explanation for his interest in mutilating male organs. The next case study was of a doctor who became aroused when
performing autopsies which included dissecting penises. He transferred to a hospital that served sailors and convicts
because he detested working on females. This doctor and his bi-sexual lover found it amusing to take these dismembered
organs and slip them into the beds of unsuspecting prostitutes who quite often suffered violent consequences when their
horrified clients discovered these under the sheets. Jacobus X did not offer an explanation as to what might have led to
this man’s strange arousal.

While rarely performing mutilation themselves, there are several examples of women who were aroused by viewing it.
During the 1919 Sparticist uprising in Berlin, Hirschfeld wrote that he “accompanied a woman to the mortuary where,
among hundreds of bodies, some of which were shockingly mutilated or had their throats slit, we discovered her son...In
the identification hall an endless stream of people, mainly women, were filing past the unidentified bodies and an
attendant who knew me called my attention to some girls who had for several days continually rejoined the queue,
evidently because they could not tear themselves away from the sight of the male bodies which lay, entirely stripped,
before them...The expression on their faces was similar to that with which I had seen the women of Madrid and Seville
watch the bull-fighters in the ring.” Then Hirschfeld compared this to an execution he had attended a few years earlier.
“Next to me stood the State Attorney’s wife, who followed the horrible scene—the condemned man screamed and
fought the executioners who were dragging him to the scaffold—with a heaving chest and ecstatic groans that sounded
almost lustful. As the axe fell the woman behaved as though she were passing through the moment of orgasm” (Sexual
Anomalies and Perversions, by Magnus Hirschfeld, p. 313).

Mutilators often begin with animals. This was particularly true in the past when many people killed their own game or
fowl. Case studies often do not include reference to prior zoophilia in these instances but this may be due to the
automatic death penalty most societies imposed and thus the victim’s understandable hesitance in admitting to it.
Another factor is that masturbation generally took place only after mutilation and without penetration of the animal,
therefore courts did not view this as falling into their normal definition of zoophilia.

Men who are homosexual will most often mutilate those of the same sex, heterosexuals mutilate those of the opposite
sex, and pedophiles mutilate children. Hirschfeld even mentioned men damaging statues but did not specify as to
whether they had a history of engaging in agalmatophilia.
Severe stress, such as the threat of losing a lover or arguments with the family, sometimes leads to the person entering a
state of mind where reason and compassion are overshadowed by a blind desire to mutilate. In normal confrontations
one animal or human will halt their attack when they see submission, pain, or injury in the same species. This may come
in the form of tears, an expression of sadness, or remorse. However, for those who either feel justified in severely
punishing the victim or who are not capable of the sensitivity required to empathize with emotional expressions of pain
or surrender, a physical manifestation of injury is necessary. These people are often physically abused as children to a
degree that leaves them emotionally numb. Expressions of emotional pain in others do not register with them because
they cannot relate to something they have no memory feeling; these people only recognize pain caused by physical
injury. Dr. Loren Roth described several characteristics that violent prisoners had in common. “The violent prisoners ...
had missing, alcoholic, criminal, or abusive fathers ... were age 12 or under at first arrest ... [and] had attempted suicide
or self-mutilation” (Clinical Treatment of the Violent Person, edited by Loren H. Roth, p. 219). A person who does not
learn to feel emotional pain cannot feel remorse or guilt for their actions.

(See also AUTOMASOCHISM, CASTRATION, EXECUTIONS. LUST MURDER, MASOCHISM, PARAPHILIAS and SADISM)

MYSOPHILIA Mysophilia refers to becoming aroused by smelling, chewing, or rubbing against a foul smelling soiled jock
strap, pair of panties, menstrual pad, bra, or other object. The most common secretions used are genital discharges,
menstrual blood, feces, and milk. Locker rooms provide abundant odors for the mysophile, who often pilfers used jock
straps. Necrophiles who prefer decaying flesh, as opposed to a fresh corpse, fall into this category also. One case involved
a male who had been almost blind since birth. He was compensated for his loss of sight with enhanced smell and touch.
He confessed to wanting to mutilate, wallow in, and eat a person. He was only able to find animals. Attempts to convince
his grandmother to leave him her body were unsuccessful. His most common behavior consisted of searching for garbage
and eating feces (Perverse Sex Crimes in History, p. 130).

It is possible that some mysophiles have increased sensitivity to pheromones that are produced in body excrements.

Underwear is occasionally taken off a partner in bondage and used in place of a gag. Fake excretions are safe when made
from things such as peanut butter, mayonnaise, or ketchup. These are smeared onto the underwear or body.

Fetish magazines carry ads that offer photos, videos, and, recently, worn and unwashed panties. CAUTION: Ingestion or
exposure to body secretions of other persons is not considered a safe sex practice.

(See also COCKTAILS. COPROPHAGY, PHEROMONES, SALIROPHILIA, SHOWERS and UROPHILIA)

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NARCISSISM (Autophilia, Ipserotic) Narcissists derive sexual gratification from their own bodies or intellect. The term is a
derivative from the mythological Greek character named Narcissus who was known for his beauty. Echo, a nymph, fell in
love with Narcissus but because he was so consumed in admiring his own reflection he was unaware of her need for him
to speak. She was only able to use the echo of his voice to express her love for him. When she died of grief, Nemesis, the
goddess of equity and retribution, avenged her death by making Narcissus unable to leave the river. He finally drowned
by falling into the water while trying to kiss himself. At the point of death the goddess turned him into a flower by the
same name. Philosophers and writers have since interpreted the myth at various times as not only symbolizing self-love,
but abstinence, morality, masochism, sadism, fetishism, and the use of dildos.

Narcissism is considered normal in the early development stages of youth, but not upon maturity. The types of activities
in which a narcissist may engage include one or more of the following: kissing oneself, prolonged use of a mirror,
excessive grooming, masturbation, collecting trophies and photos (often of own genitals), exhibitionism, homosexuality,
and attraction to partners because of similarity to oneself. A few Narcissists have gone to even more extreme measures,
such as being aroused by listening to their own stomach noises, passing gas, performing autofellatio, and drinking their
own urine or semen. CAUTION: Narcissism can cause a breakdown in bonds between family and friends. These bonds give
meaning to life, a sense of worth, security, and love.

(See also LOVE and LOVE ADDICTION)

NARRATOPHILIA (Selgolalia, Lagnolalia; Cunnilalia-talk about female genitals, Gymnocryptosis-females talking about sex
life of husbands, Medolalia—about penis, Moriaphilia—jokes, Phallolalia—talk about penis) Narratophilia (narrare:
narrate; philia: attachment to)

refers to those who are aroused by telling sexual stories or jokes or reading love poems or novels that include material
with a sexual content to a sex partner.

(See also AGREXOPHILIA, CONFESSIONS, COPROLALIA. HUMILIATION, JACTITATION, OBSCENE PHONE CALLS and PHONE
SEX)

NASOPHILIA Nasophilia (naso: nose, philia: attachment to) refers to arousal from the sight, touch, act of licking, or
sucking a partner’s nose. The reasons people are enamored with this activity varies. Eskimos rub noses when greeting
others and Sioux Indians traditionally rub noses to express affection; they do this just as other cultures kiss on the lips.

Magnus Hirschfeld related the case of a young writer who made wax noses and put them over his own, admired himself
in the mirror, and with a “slight manual manipulation he brought about an ejaculation.” Another would hire a gay
prostitute, take him home, and having placed a wooden clip on his nose had the prostitute pull on an attached string
while saying “I hope this nose is going to be so big that everybody will be surprised at it.” This was necessary to induce
orgasm. Another man became fixated on the size of female nostrils, thinking that if large enough they could be
penetrated. He drew and kept sketches of his large nosed feminine ideal. One day, while on the bus, he spotted a young
woman who had large nostrils. Infatuated, he followed her home and proposed marriage on the spot. She refused and
when he continued to come to her home she had him arrested (Sexual Anomalies and Perversions by Magnus Hirschfeld,
pp. 411, 551-2).

People sometimes use nasolingus (licking or sucking nose) as a substitute penis during intercourse, occasionally asking
their partner to blow their nose in simulation of an ejaculation. CAUTION: This is considered an activity that exposes a
partner to the body secretions of another and is therefore not considered a safe sex practice.

(See also ANAL SEX, AXILLISM, LACTAPHILIA, OCULOPHILIA, ODONTOPHILIA, PHALLOPHILiA. TESTICLES and YONI
WORSHIP)

NECROPHILIA (Necrocoitus—penetration of corpse, Necrochlesis-sex with corpse) Necrophilia (necro: corpse; philia:
attachment) is defined as an erotic attraction to corpses and is considered a rare paraphilia.

The necrophile often views the corpse as having a personality which is pure and incapable of heartless acts (e.g.
rejection). Necrophiles often choose a profession that allows them free access to their love objects. A Greek historian,
Herodotus, in writing about ancient Egypt said: “As far as concerns the noble ladies, their bodies are not immediately
given to the embalmers, especially those who were of great beauty and who attracted great attention during their
lifetime, but were given them three or four days after death. These precautions are taken because it is feared the
embalmers will violate the corpse.” At one time a fiance in India was required to deflower his future bride if she died
before the wedding. The girl could not be cremated until this ritual was carried out in front of the village priest (Perverse
Crimes in History by R.E.L. Masters, p. 174).

During war, conquering soldiers performed pederasty on their dead or dying victims in order to experience the victim’s
anal spasms which occur at death. Soldiers during the Moroccan campaigns of 1919-26 and the Russo-Turkish war were
violated in this way on the battlefield (Perverse Crimes in History, pp. 113, 204).

A current case study of a necrophile was submitted at the Eighth World Congress for Sexology in Heidelberg, West
Germany (June 14-20, 1987) by H. Martin Malin, Ph.D., FACCS. The patient was brought to his attention and that of his
colleague, Dr. Jackie Davison, after having been arrested for photographing partially nude children posing dead in a coffin.
Other photos were found with models or corpses “on embalming tables, in caskets, and in shrine-like natural settings.”
Other than children’s books of Snow White and Sleeping Beauty he was unable to find suitable pornography and had to
create his own. He also visited funeral parlors and when alone would fondle the breasts or genitals of a corpse. The
patient seemed to have a sexual interest in corpses since the age of four. He used “playing dead” as a sexual game with
another boy and in masturbation fantasies when alone. The patient explained his fascination with death and corpses thus:

“I had to find sexual expression I could live with since according to my mother real life sex was so dirty. My four-year old
mind had to find some way to do it...I had to find an escape...She practically destroyed me...I was afraid of females
altogether...so that by envisioning them as dead, they were totally passive and there was no condemnation. ”

Dr. Malin wrote, “To my mind, this case vignette bears eloquent testimony to the mechanism of the pathogenesis of at
least this paraphilia. With a native ‘love map’ severely vandalized by the forceful repression of masturbation—an early
form of juvenile sexual rehearsal play—our patient was forced to devise a strategy to reclaim his right to be erotic.” Drs.
Malin and Davison began to treat this patient with a combination of insight oriented psychotherapy and the
antiandrogenic hormone medroxyprogesterone acetate, also known by its trade name of Depo-Provera,. Dr. Malin
explained, “While we believe we are the first to use this approach with a patient suffering from necrophilia, this regimen
has been used with considerable success in treating other paraphilias, especially pedophilia, at the Sexual Disorders Clinic
at The Johns Hopkins Medical Institutions as well as other clinics. The patient was started on weekly 500mg intramuscular
injections of Depo-Provera and continued to receive intensive individual psychotherapy. Within three weeks, he reported
that for the first time in his entire life he felt that he had some chance of getting his sexuality under control, rather than
being at its mercy. Our treatment plan for him was based upon continuing his Depo-Provera as an adjunct to long-term
psychotherapy aimed at helping him make an adjustment towards a more socially acceptable form of sexual expression.
Unfortunately, our patient is being denied the therapeutic benefits of Depo-Provera which he has found to be so helpful.
He is incarcerated in a State which, despite substantial clinical evidence, considers the use of Depo-Provera in the
treatment of paraphilias to be experimental...”

There are many more people who engage only in necrophilic fantasy. Necrophilia may be triggered by performance
anxiety. B.R. Burg, a sexologist, observed that “[n]ecrophilia involving sex acts with corpses, despite Freud’s assertions to
the contrary, seems usually to be accompanied by other relatively severe psychological disorders. Rejection, alcohol
abuse, and object loss also seem more than coincidentally common among both those committing necrophilial acts and
those experiencing necrophilial fantasies” (“The Sick and the Dead: The Development of Psychological Theory on
Necrophilia from Krafft-Ebing to the Present,” by B. R. Burg, Journal of the History of the Behavioral Sciences, Volume 18,
July 1982, p. 242-254).

Types of sex practiced on corpses include kissing, fondling, cunnilingus, fellatio, pederasty, and penile/vaginal intercourse.
Others are described in the following text:

FETISHES Necrophiles, similar to the general population, often have special fetishes having to do with hair, breasts, or
eating toe nails. Some necrophiles masturbate during funeral sermons or dirges as they sit in a crowd of mourners. The
patient in the case reported by Dr. Malin included the removal of a few pubic hair, panties, and once a tampon as
trophies from corpses.

MYSOPHILIA A few necrophiles ingest body fluids of corpses, particularly urine. A mysophile may want to roll their body
in the open wounds or secreta of a corpse.

NECROSADISM Necrosadism involves sadistic acts on a corpse such as biting, dismembering, cutting, or stabbing for
sexual arousal. Those who mutilate corpses often cut away the genitals or breasts, as in the case of Jack the Ripper.
Others, such as Victor Ardisson and Jeffrey Dahmer, have been known to severe the head and keep it with them until
decay makes disposal necessary.

NOSOPHILIA (Nosolagnia) Nosophilia refers to those who are aroused from the knowledge that a partner is terminally ill.
Hirschfeld wrote of men who fell in love and married women who were thought to be terminally ill. The sexual relevance
became evident when upon the women’s miraculous recovery their husbands became impotent. CAUTION: True
necrophilia is not legal and if relatives of the deceased discovered this type of sexual violation it could make their grief
even more unbearable.

PSEUDONECROPHILIA Pseudonecrophilia (pseudo: pretended, necro: corpse, philia: attachment to) refers to sex play
where one partner pretends to be dead. The scene is occasionally· enhanced by having the acting partner lay on a
covered block of ice or dusting their body with baby powder. There was a case in Oregon of a man who would call ahead
to a bordello and request that a woman lie still waiting for his arrival and remain motionless through intercourse until he
departed. The client was a local mortician.

A case in Texas involved a patient at a nursing home who raped comatose or paralyzed victims. The man’s justification
was that he had often seen it done by the night orderlies (Personal communication). Geoff Mains spoke of a man in
California who enjoyed being mummified and temporarily buried by his friends (Urban Aboriginals, p. 90).

(See also AMAUROPHILIA, ANTHROPOPHAGY, EXECUTIONS, SACRIFICES and SOMNOPHILIA)

NEGOTIATION Negotiation, or discussion and agreement, on activities to be engaged in during sex can alleviate the
misunderstandings that otherwise often occur between partners. Successful negotiation requires that people be free to
discuss their expectations and limitations without being judged. The first difficulty many encounter is one of
embarrassment or inhibition. An effective technique in overcoming this shyness is that of using a written questionnaire.
The form is better if it is specially designed by the couple for themselves. The couple then may enter into the second
stage of negotiation.
This second stage involves looking at costumes and experimenting with toys. The negotiation becomes increasingly
complex in direct relation to the complexity of the sex acts and paraphernalia incorporated into play.

The initial questions may sound rudimentary for “vanilla” practitioners (people who only engage in penile/vaginal sex),
however they are necessary for sadomasochist games. Vanilla sex often lasts 10- 30 minutes, whereas bondage may last
from minutes to years. A misunderstanding about the amount of time can create a problem if the personwho is put into a
gag and restraints for 12 hours only expected to be there for two hours and has planned to attend a black tie dinner that
evening.

Experienced players have the option of using a safeword or signal. These are used rather than a “no” because “no” is used
in fantasy scenes; therefore, a different word is selected such as “red,” “uncle,” or “pansy.” The criteria is that it must be
easy to remember and pronounce. Two more words may be selected to let the person in control know whether to
intensify the game or to slow it down. The control words, red, green, and yellow, are popular when using this formula.
Some limit the number of times a bottom can use a safeword because excessive use means that either the chemistry
between the two people is not working or the fantasy chosen is not appropriate. At this point the two may either switch
to vanilla sex or end the scene.

Physical limitations and health are important for everyone to reveal and discuss. In addition to the normal questions
about birth control and safe sex, people need to know if their partner has any medical conditions of which they need to
be made aware. If so, they should also know the medication needed for the condition or the name of their doctor in case
of an emergency.

The next decision made involves the type of emotion or passion the individuals desire to achieve and type of play that will
fulfill their goal. The sample questionnaire is divided into categories that facilitate that choice.
The last stage of negotiation entails the selection of costumes, perfumes, lighting, music, the use of paraphernalia such as
flagellation tools, sensory devices, dildoes, vibrators, and bondage equipment. Any item that has potential to cause
discomfort is tried on both partners to determine the degree of pressure or pain that they will use.

People select their style of sex in a similar manner to which they choose food. In the same way that one would not expect
a person to eat anything that happened to be on a menu, the questionnaire is not to be used to persuade a partner into
experimenting with forms of sex that they don’t find arousing. A partner’s selection of sexual activity must never be taken
as a personal rejection.

(See also BIRTH CONTROL, HANDKERCHIEF CODES and SAFE SEX)

NEPIOPHILIA (Nepiolagnia, Nepiphtherosis) Nepiophilia (Greek, nepios: infant; philia: attachment to) refers to an adult’s
sexual attraction to an infant of the opposite sex. This was more common in the past when the care of infants was often
left to servants.

Edwardes and Masters wrote that there “was a rather extensive literature of English and European complaints about
masturbation of infants by domestic servants. The act is most often performed ostensibly for the purpose of stopping the
baby’s crying, or restlessness, although it seems obvious that the servant often derives erotic titillation from her behavior.
Later, these same servants, or their successors, frequently initiate the male children into other mysteries—copulation,
fellatio, and cunnilingus; and, sometimes, perversions” (Cradle of Erotica, p. 251).

The ancient Romans openly engaged in nepiophilia. They may have been originally influenced by the practice brothels had
of allowing their prostitutes to keep nursing infants on the premises. These brothels often kept chickens and other
animals for the pleasure of their clients. The use of infants for sexual purposes or to pass time while waiting for the
infant’s mother may have been a natural progression. This type of conduct was not restricted to brothels but found its
way to the top of the social hierarchy. Tiberius (emperor of Rome) placed infants in his lap and had them suck on his
penis.

Asian child pornography during the 1960’s included photos such as an old man sucking on the genitals of an infant.
CAUTION: Nepiophilia is illegal. It can be considered a form of child abuse that may be ruinous to the future development
of any children involved, since they are being introduced to adult sexuality long before they are ready.

(See also COITUS INTERFERMORIS, INCEST and PEDOPHILIA)

NIDDAH (Menstrual taboo, Natural family planning) Niddah is a Jewish religious observance that requires married
couples to maintain physical separation for approximately 10-14 days a month. The admonitions in Arulch’s Code of
Jewish Law can sound extremely harsh. However, Orthodox Jews today who practice niddah do nothing but praise the
tradition. Couples who have been married for twenty years describe each sexual encounter as being as exciting as their
honeymoon. Passion and desire is rekindled during the period of time they do not touch.

This law supposedly came into existence when Aaron, the compassionate brother of Moses, was approached by women
of the tribe with complaints of husbands who seemed to take them for granted, demanding sex and servitude from them
without showing sensitivity or appreciation in return. Aaron was sympathetic to their needs and as a solution
implemented niddah. Periodically doing without something we love often helps us appreciate it more. This was not a
unique strategy; Judaism has many laws pertaining to food and behavior that restrict indulgence during designated times.
Hence, the sex act became holy and mandatory during specific times and a defilement or unclean at others. Niddah was
codified by defining this period of unclean time as from the first moment a spot of menstrual blood is seen to seven days
after it ceases. A ritual immersion in water was to follow as a symbol of purity and sexual availability to her husband. The
punishment imposed on any who had intercourse during the forbidden period was exclusion from the tribe and those
who were found caressing during niddah were flogged. The Code of Jewish Law continues with detailed instructions for
conduct.

The husband in that period should not touch her even with his little finger. He is not allowed to hand anything to her, be it
even a long object, nor to receive anything from her. Throwing anything from his hand into her hand, or vice versa, is
forbidden .... He is not allowed to eat with her at the same table, unless something separates between his dish and hers .
... They are not allowed to sleep in the same bed .... they may not sleep facing one another [in parallel beds], unless there
is a big distance between them .... She is forbidden to pour water for him to wash his face and hands, and bathe his jeet,
even if the water is cold .... He is not permitted to scent her perfume, and to hear her sing (Chapter 153, pp. 21-23).

Irrespective of religious beliefs, psychologically a husband who is not permitted to touch his wife or have her serve his
needs is soon reminded of her value. Wives are thus given a reprieve once a month from being a sex object and servant.
Couples learn to express their affection through other methods. Catholics who practice natural family planning
experience a similar feeling although Catholic couples are permitted to touch.

The discipline that niddah requires is difficult to follow without the ritual and moral inducement that religion bestows.

Niddah is thought by some to have been an adaptation of primitive views of a female’s menses. This taboo was quite
common among ancient tribes who feared that some type of supernatural being was mutilating the inside of the vagina
and if they had sex during this time they too would be injured. William Stephens, in a cross-cultural study of menstrual
taboos, found “that all but fourteen of a sample of seventy-one tribal cultures have significant menstrual taboos.... Nearly
twenty-five percent of the societies in Stephen’s sample went so far as to seclude women in special dwellings for the
duration of their menstrual period” (Anxious Pleasures, The Sexual Lives of an Amazoniara People, by Thomas Gregor, p.
141).

This rule applies to members of the Nandi tribe but only for ordinary husbands and men. It seems the medicine men are
not only exempt but satisfy the sexual lusts of many of the tribal women during their menses. The one striking feature
that distinguishes niddah from other menstrual taboos is that an extra seven days was added to this period of separation
for Jewish couples. Therefore, it would seem to have a purpose other than to just allay fears of castration in men.

(See also ORGASM, PRISHA, PURDAH and TOUCH)

NORMOPHILIA Normophilia, coined by John Money, is a condition of being in sexual conformity with the standard as
dictated by customary, religious, or legal authority.

(See also HIEROPHILIA. PHOBOPHILIA and SEX POSITIONS)

NUDITY (Actirasty—exposure to sun’s rays, Alloerasty—using nudity of another person to arouse partner, Gymnophilia,
Nudomania and Omolagnia—arousal from nudity)

Nudity is taken from the Latin word nudus, meaning naked or unclothed. The historical acceptance of nudity can be
measured to some degree by the liberties a culture gave to its artists. Mass portrayal of nudes engaged in explicit sexual
acts implied a lax attitude at least among the upper classes. Ancient Greeks were probably the last European culture that
was most comfortable with nudity, even revering it as sacred. Greeks who participated in athletic games, beauty contests,
and dances often performed while in the nude. Depiction of nudes in European art was common until about the 2nd
century C.E. The Christian influence then drove it underground and it remained there until about the 15th century.

Christianity demanded that the body be covered and draped in drab clothing for almost 1,000 years. During the reign of
Napoleon III, when not even statues could be naked, sculptors rebelled against this law by depicting animals, where it was
still permissible to show every anatomical detail. Parks became filled with statues of tigers, lions, horses, and wild boars
History of Sexual Customs, by Richard Lewinshohn, MD, p. 301). Medicine likewise suffered during the Middle Ages
because physicians weren’t permitted total freedom in closely examining human anatomy; the Church forbade dissection
of cadavers.

Even recently, examples of repression around nudity are rampant. National Geographic, with its graphic depiction of
naked tribes, was one of the first sources; mail order catalogues advertising underwear was another. Kinsey’s 1953 report
showed that one-third of the women born before 1900 wore clothes while engaging in sex.

Today there is a growing interest and participation in recreational nudity. This includes excursions to nude beaches, spas,
ocean cruises, clubs, resorts, hot tub parties, and participation in intimacy workshops.

Advantages for indulging in group nudity are best explained by nudists themselves who claim that it is very relaxing, that
without clothes they relate to others in a more egalitarian way; and everyone feels vulnerability which develops into a
mutual trust. Nudity also reveals everyone else’s flaws and many feel relief in not having to compare themselves to
professional nude models or movie stars. Nude resorts rarely, if ever, permit public sex or overt cruising, the fear of which
would make many couples apprehensive of attending nude social functions.

Professional nudist clubs offer more than a place to hang clothes. They often provide tennis courts, hottubs, massage,
dances, dining, movies, and comedy acts. For example, the Ponderosa Ranch outside Dallas, Texas, has special events
such as lingerie dances, potluck dinners, mud-wrestling, and an annual Mr./Ms. Nude Texas Pageant. The contestants are
judged on evenness of suntans, public speaking ability, and their attractiveness. They first appear on stage naked, next in
swim wear, and finally in formal wear as an audience of several hundred nudists applaud and scream for their favorite
contenders. The National Ms Nude America is hosted every October in San Jose, California.

(See also EXHIBITIONISM, GROUP SEX, SEX SHOWS and STRIPPING)

NYMPHOMANIA (Andromania, Arrhenothigmophilous, Clitoromania, Coitolimia, Furor uterinus, Hyperphilia, Idiosyncrat,

Lagnoperissia, Pareunomania, Sex addiction)

Nymphomania (nympho: female; mania: abnormal craving for an act or object) is the term used for women who have an
insatiable appetite for sex.

Hirschfeld cited the case of a young man who had his marriage annulled after six weeks due to his wife’s insistence that
he perform to her satisfaction. “In fact during the six weeks of the marriage the husband had not more than an hour’s
sleep per night, as the woman always prevented him from falling asleep by various sexual manipulations... she compelled
him to engage in the sexual act for hours and when this became impossible owing to repeated discharges she demanded
that he should manipulate with his fingers for hours, until, as he says, his arms ached” (Sexual Anomalies and
Perversions, by Magnus Hirschfeld, p. 105).

Jews tried to guarantee wives sexual satisfaction while still taking the husband’s physical limitations into consideration.
The Code of Jewish law did this by regulating sexual performance according to a husband’s profession. “Men of a strong
constitution who enjoy the pleasures of life, having profitable pursuits at home and are tax exempt, should perform their
marital duty nightly. Laborers who work in the town where they reside, should perform their marital duty twice weekly;
but if they are employed in another town, only once a week. Men who convey freight on camels from distant places,
should attend to their marital duty once in thirty days” (Chapter 150, p. 15).

Common male fantasies have always included that of finding a nymphomaniac. These were often portrayed in art as
water nvmohs who floated in waves near the shore, sirens who sat on rocks and enticed sailors with their beautiful
voices, and mermaids who swam near boats; all were believed to lure men to their death. Threats of death no longer
loom in the minds of impassioned men, but seduction by a nymphomaniac is still thought to have negative consequences.
Dr. Charles Wahl reports the emotional reality of men who have found their real-life nymphomaniac: “Curiously enough,
encounters with the real thing; that is, a true nymphomania, do not live up to either literary or personal fantasies. On the
several occasions when patients have described experiences with so-called nymphomaniacs and on other occasions when
I have been told of such experiences by friends or acquaintances, they have turned out to be both unpleasant and
anxiety-producing for the men involved. The inability to gratify such women and the demands for further experience have
mobilized whatever fears and anxieties these men have had, no matter how latent, regarding their sexual
adequacy—and, in the case of patients, severe castration anxiety, not to mention an unpleasant state of physical
exhaustion” (SEXUAL) PROBLEMS Diagnosis and Treatment in Medical Practice, pp. 164-5). This warning seems
disheartening for men, but fortunately the religious vindictiveness against the female as perpetrator has somewhat
diminished in the last hundred years. At that time men were warned:
 

Chronic conditions of nymphomana are apt to weaken public morality and lead to offenses against decency. Woe unto the
man who falls into the meshes of such au insatiable nymphomanuac whose sexual appetite is never appeased. Heavy
neurasthenia and impotence are the inevitable consequences. These unfortu nate women disseminate the spirit of
lewdness, demoralize their surroundings, become a danger to boys, and are liable to corrupt girls also, for there are
homosexual nymphomaniacs as well (Psychopathia Sexualis, by Krafft-Ebing, pp. 322-3, printed with the permission of
Scarborough House.)

Nymphomania was considered even more dangerous for the woman herself, being on occasion potentially lethal. The
most extreme cases, involving “acute deadly nymphomania” were likewise cited by Richard von Krafft-Ebing, a
neurologist and psychiatrist who lived during the late 19th century.

Moreau (op. cit.) ... A young girl became suddenly a nymphomaniac when forsaken by her betrothed; she revelled in
cynical songs and expressions, and lascivious attitudes and gestures. She refused to put on her garments, had to be held
down in bed by muscular men (!) and furiously demanded coitus. Insomnia, congestion of the facial nerves, a dry tongue,
and rapid pulse. Within a few days lethal collapse.

Louyer-Villermay (op. cit.)...Miss X., aged thirty; modest and decent, was suddenly seized with an attack of nymphomania
unlimited desire for sexual gratification, obscene delirium. Death from exhaustion within a few days. Cf: three other cases
with deadly result by Muresch, Psychiatr. Centralblatt, 1871.

These cases are viewed with much skepticism and Krafft-Ebing has been criticized for citing cases that offered no proof of
validity as to the women’s cause of death being nymphomania.

More commonly the word is used by men to describe a woman who has multiple partners or a greater sexual appetite
than they themselves can handle. Most people only suffer from this condition periodically, and it is rarely considered
serious in itself. However, complications arising from adultery or an inability to form lasting bonds with a lover create
emotional problems that lead some to seek therapy. Wide variances exist in the number of times people engage in sex.
Therefore, no quantitative definition can be given to nymphomania. For example, most American adults have sex ranging
from once to four times a week, but when we compare this to other cultures we find our sex appetite is low by
comparison. Dr. Eustace Chesser revealed that primitive societies such as the “Aranda of Australia have intercourse three
to five times each night. The polygamous Chagga of Tanganyika do not regard it unusual to have intercourse ten times in a
night; and the Thonga of Mozambique copulate with three or four wives in a single night” (STRANGE LOVES, The Human
Aspects of Sexual Deviation, pp. 182-3).

(See also ORGASMS and SATYRIASIS)

NYMPHOPHILIA (Blastolagnia) Nymphophilia (nymph; young female, philia; attachment) is the love of a female
adolescent by an adult. The idea seems remarkable today, but until the last century the age of consent for common law
marriages was between ten and thirteen years of age in many countries, including the United States. Historically, early
marriages could provide children with better living conditions, and simultaneously relieve their families of economic
burdens.

Early marriage is not permitted today. Therefore, all sexual relationships between young pubescents and older people are
considered incest, molestation, or statutory rape.

Criminal labels given this sex act have caused us to scrutinize this propensity in an individual to a greater degree than
previously. Psychologists have learned that this preference for an age group is set during pubescent development.
However, the nymphophile often does not continue to mature in his sexual response as he ages. This phenomenon is
often caused by the abuser having been abused physically, emotionally, or sexually while young. As he ages he may feel
inferior or helpless around women. A child offers him emotional security and a sense of being in control. These offenders
have the same profiles as discussed in the section on incest. James Leslie McCary paraphrases them as: “.... inappropriate,
self-defeating attempts to combat feelings of inadequacy; opportunism, carelessness, or drunkenness; a general
criminality and a callous disregard for the rights of others; mental dullness or deficiency, and various degrees of mental
illness and personality disorders” (Sexual Myths and Fallacies as quoted in Modern Views of Human Sexual Behavior, p.
307).

The offender sometimes responds to therapy that educates and readjusts inappropriate attitudes about sex or the law.
For instance, they are taught to accept responsibility for their actions and learn not to transfer the blame onto the other
party. They are made aware of the harmful effects the abuse has on a victim, including themselves if they were molested
as children. Group therapy with other sex offenders often provides support and insight into their behavior. Individual
counselling for sexual dysfunctions or establishing social relationships with adults is also used. For some, additional
therapy such as behavioral conditioning and medication is needed to prevent future digression.

Nymphophiles often accuse the child of seduction. While children are not legally capable of seduction, they do have a
primal need to be held and nurtured. “Experts term this type of sensuality ‘psychobiologic’ (independent of any
awareness or judgment). For example, breast-feeding prompts physiological changes of sexual arousal in infants” (Mayo
Clinic Health Letter, “Sexual Abuse of Children,” August 1989, p. 7). A boy who is weaned at a year old may several years
later still manifest extreme anger at being refused permission to fondle his mother’s breasts. Whatever a child’s
perceived sexual advances are they never justify an adult’s acquiescence to temptation.

Molestation creates special concerns for the young victim as well. It is recommended that a child first be reassured that
the incident was the full responsibility of the other person. The child can then be encouraged, but not forced, to discuss
any details or questions in order to bring a closure to the incident. Professional therapy is particularly beneficial when the
molestation involved force or when the adult is nowhere near the age of the child.

The following symptoms may exhibit themselves in the case of a sexually abused child:

Sudden increase in sexual behavior

Emotional withdrawal or distancing

Abnormal aggressive behavior

The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children can offer additional information and may be reached at 1-800-
843-5678.

(See also INCEST, NEPIOPHILIA and PEDOPHILIA)

NYMPHOTOMY Nymphotomies are surgical procedures that cut away the inner labia. The shrinking scar tissue served to
restrict the size of the vaginal opening, making sex more pleasurable for some men. This procedure was done on some
African girls from four weeks to four years old.

(See also CIRCUMCISION, CLITORIDECTOMY and INFIBULATION

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OBSCENE PHONE CALLERS (Telephone scatologia and Telephon-icophilia—arousal from talking about sex on the phone)
An obscene phone call is one that is made to a nonconsenting victim for the purpose of sexual arousal. Female callers
differ in that they more often use these calls for revenge or excitement rather than as an aid to masturbation.

Obscene callers may deploy techniques such as immediately hanging up, breathing into the phone until the other party
hangs up, conducting a survey that often leads to provocative questions, pretending they know the victim, saying they
mis-dialed, or simply beginning with sexually explicit comments or threats. Callers often adapt to suit the situation. For
instance, if the caller places calls to public service hotlines that answer questions about sexually transmitted diseases he
will start by pretending to be naive. Typical questions are: “Can you get a disease by masturbating?” “No, well then what
do you have to do?” The questions continue until the operator becomes wise to the delayed response time and labored
dialogue.

Some callers use scenarios such as lying back on their bed with something to drink, their favorite selection of music, erotic
magazines, videos, and a telephone list. The caller may take several hours and during this time will place periodic calls as
a method of arousal maintenance. They don’t have to keep the victim on the phone to be able to orgasm, the very act of
calling someone and hearing their voice is enough of an emotional charge for some. However, most prefer to orgasm
while the other person is on the line.

Obscene callers are normally perceived as having motives of aggression, dominance, seduction of the victim, or ridding
themselves of a feeling of inadequacy. It is true that aggression, fear, and a need for power or dominance sometimes
colors the motive of a caller. However, this is just as true for many “normal” sexual encounters. In addition, the caller has
both a need for closeness and a fear of intimacy; making anonymous calls while masturbating resolves this dilemma.

The type of therapy that is recommended for those needing to end the obsession is behavioral and psychodynamic
(raising self-esteem). In addition, the twelve-step program called “Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous” provides an
inexpensive group support environment and may be the first step in reinforcing social interaction.

Females who receive these calls often feel victimized or sexually violated. The most recommended course of action when
receiving a call is to simply hang up without saying anything that might reinforce the caller. If the caller persists in
redialing the number and the victim has a “call forwarding” feature on their phone they can temporarily forward their
calls to a male friend.

(See also ACOUSTICOPHILIA, AGREXOPHILIA, COPROLALIA, JACTITATION, NARRATOPHILIA, PHONE SEX and SEX HOTLINES)

OCHLOPHILIA (Gregomutcia—to be fondled in a crowd) Ochlophilia (ochlos: a mob, populace, philia: attachment to)
refers to those who are sexually aroused by the presence of a crowd. This may include orgies where people are
surrounded by others having sex, or large gatherings where performers and revellers are semi-nude and pressed against
one another. Some feel compelled to seize the opportunity that anonymity offers in a crowd and grope those near them.
Hirschfeld wrote of the problem a few priests endured when London first opened the underground train system (tube)
causing them to uncontrollably ejaculate because they were unaccustomed to warm bodies pressing against them from
all sides.

(See also GROUP SEX, HOMILOPHILIA and POLYITEROPHILIA)

OCULOLINCTUS Oculolinctus (oculo: eye, and linctus: lick) refers to the act of licking a partner’s eyeball for sexual
arousal. This seems to be rare but there are several cases including one reported of a female who in order to orgasm
would have to lick the eyeball of her obliging male lover. CAUTION: Oral herpes (cold sores) can be transferred to the eye.
 

(See also ANAL SEX/ANALINCTUS, CUNNILINGUS, FELLATIO, LACTAPHILIA, NASOPHILIA and OCULOPHILIA)

OCULOPHILIA (Strabismus) Oculophilia (oculo: eye, philia: attachment to) refers to people who are sexually aroused by
the eyes of a partner. For instance, Descartes was primarily attracted to women who squinted.

Many people realize that a person’s pupils will enlarge when they see something or someone to whom they are attracted.
To capitalize on this European women until not long ago put chemicals (originally belladonna, which means “pretty
woman”) in their eyes to cause them to dilate so that they would appear aroused by their suitors. Today’s advertisers use
this to their advantage when photographing models.

There is one instance of a more physical sexual display and this seems to involve novelty rather than a fetish or true
attraction to the eye. A prostitute in the Philippines gained notoriety for soliciting men to penetrate her eye socket after
removing her glass eye.

(See also LACTAPHILIA, NASOPHILIA, OCULOLINCTUS, ODONTOPHILIA, PHALLOPHILIA and TESTICLES)

ODONTOPHILIA (Gomphipothic) Odontophilia (Odonto, tooth; philia, attachment to) refers to sexual arousal involving
teeth.

Marquis de Sade claimed that his works were based on the sex life of others, many of which were documented. One of
the sex acts he wrote of was tooth extraction. The passage reads,

[t]he passion of Boniface is also singular. He loves pulling out the teeth of his victims, while fucking them and being
simultaneously sodomized. One who becomes the victim of these gentlemen is Fosine, fourteen years old, with a beautiful
form and a rich family. She promises the ideal combination of lust and profit. Both Boniface and Chrysostome wish to
indulge themselves with her, and after pulling out her thirty-two beautiful teeth, she is subjected to the Superior, who
immolates her in his own fashion.

It is very doubtful that anyone today practices odontophilia in this form; however, it is possible that an occasional tooth
extraction scene occurred in 1797 when de Sade wrote his book. Nitrous oxide and ether were not used to extract teeth
until 1840 and Novocain, was not produced until the beginning of this century; therefore, people during de Sade’s lifetime
were accustomed to having their teeth removed without effective pain killers.

The pulling of teeth may be arousing even with the advent of anesthesia as noted in Erich von Stroheim’s film Greed.
Here the beautiful patient is kissed by her dentist as the blood still flows from her mouth (Sex and Superstition, by G.I,.
Simons, pp. 87- 88, reproduced with permission of Blackie & Son Ltd.).

(See also LACTAPHILIA, NASOPHILIA, OCULOLINCTUS, PHAILLOPHILIA, TESTI-CI. ES and YONI WORSHIP)
 

OLFACTION (Antholagnia—arousal from smelling flowers, Barosmia, Olfactophilia, Osmolagnia, Osphresiolagnia and
Ozolagnia—arousal from strong smells, Renifluer—arousal from smell of urine)

Olfaction (olfacto: to smell) refers to people’s ability to smell odors. Certain molecules dissolve onto hairlike cilia
receptors that extend down from the olfactory bulb of the brain and into the nasal cavity (Senses and Sensibilities, by
Jillyn Smith, p. 96). It would be difficult to imagine life without smell. Astronauts have found it so disturbing that they
carry scented chemicals with them to counteract the negative effects.

Differences in odor have sometimes been attributed a person’s race [although more likely it is their diet]. J.A. Rogers, in
his book, Sex and Race, quoted Iwan Block, noted sexologist, “who made a study of the sexual attraction and repulsion of
the odors of the various races,” and who said, “It is this strongly unpleasant odor of the black race which is one of the
chief reasons for the antipathy between Negroes and whites.... On the other hand, the same antipathy seems to be
entertained by Negroes and mixed races against white folks. Thus it has been reported that to the Masai (an African tribe)
every stranger is hateful from the start; and this hatred goes so far that upon smelling the approaching stranger such
repugnance is aroused that aromatic herbs must be held to the nose.” He then goes on to quote a white French physician
who married a Negro woman from Haiti, “who, according to his own expression, intoxicated him by her perfume. “I
cannot understand,” he says, “love with a white woman. She is insipid and odorless” (pp. 404-405).

The effect of odor can be enhanced by several methods. Fast and Bernstein claim that “the combination of scent and
massage is a heady experience. Stimulating the olfactory center under the erotic stimulus of touch can evoke an
emotional response, free a person to some degree and allow a natural chemistry to occur ... Masseurs are usually aware
of this hedonic effect, and to avoid it they will use only unscented oils during massage. ‘Scented oils arouse my patients,
men and women,’ a professional masseur told us. ‘I just can’t handle that. I use a very light mineral oil, warmed up, and I
don’t allow scents anywhere in my studio!’ ” (Sexual Chemistry, by Julius Fast and Meredith Bernstein, p. 67).

People engaging in bondage often find the use of worn underwear stuffed into the mouth as a gag to be more arousing
than the usual plastic or leather apparatus. Sensory deprivation such as blindfolding, silence, or a lack of touch also
intensify the person’s reaction. A person with a fetish often prefers the smell of one part of the body over the others. If
they have a foot fetish, they prefer the odor of feet or shoes, and men with a breast fetish prefer the odor given from the
areola glands. Other fetish odors include feces, urine, leather, hair, etc. The odor of their love object appears to be
learned along with the image of the object. It is also possible that much of what people attribute to odor is actually the
result of our being able to detect pheromones through the vomeronasal organ in our nose.

(See also PHEROMONES)

OPHIDICISM Ophidicism (ophidi: snake) refers to people who use reptiles. The snake in the form of a circle biting its own
tail has been a representation of sex since early Egyptian civilization. The snake represented the male organ and the ring
that it formed symbolized the vagina.

Today one finds magazines and movies available of women who insert snakes or eels tail first into their vaginas and
masturbate as the creature wriggles to get free. Slow moving snakes that don’t bite are used for this form of sex. Ancient
Roman women differed only in that they inserted the snakes head first. CAUTION: People can contract salmonella from
amphibians and reptiles.

(See also BEE STINGS, . FORMICOPHII.IA and ZOOPHILIA)

ORAL SEX See CUNNILINGUS and FELLATIO

ORGASMS (Acmegenesis) There is no generally accepted operative definition of orgasm. Webster’s Third New
International Dictionary defines orgasm as: “... intense or paroxysmal emotional excitement; the climax of sexual
excitement typically occurring toward the end of coitus; usually accompanied in the male by ejaculation.” According to
this definition, ejaculation, which many view as the orgasm itself, is rather an accompanying act of orgasm. A variety of
consensus on orgasm now exists among sexologists.

Lila V. Powers, Ph.D. and Michael E. Perry, Ph.D. have studied orgasm physiology in a laboratory and conducted surveys
for several years. Their studies lead them to believe that there are at least four types of orgasms: plateau, tonic, clonic,
fusion. The plateau has whole body intensity but does not include ejaculation and detumescence. Tonic orgasms are felt
in the pelvic muscles and do not include ejaculation or detumescence. The sensations for clonic orgasm are felt primarily
in the genital region, and the fusion orgasm includes plateau, tonic, and clonic and does end in ejaculation and
detumescence.

Normal (or “fusion”) orgasms adhere to the following physiological responses for each sex.
 

(Handout of the San Francisco Sex Information Switchboard training program)

Orgasm is attainable throughout most of our lives. It has been achieved as early as six months old and by the age of five
Kinsey reported that 50% of all boys could reach orgasm. Of course, this is without ejaculate because males do not
produce sperm until they are between the ages of eleven and seventeen.

Orgasmic sensations vary according to the degree of emotional, biochemical, or psychological intensity; most are within
our power to regulate. Dr. Alexander Lowen described an orgasmic experience “as the opening of a dam, with the release
downward of a flood of feeling while the body convulses as a unit in response to each involuntary forward swing of the
pelvis. Feelings of melting and streaming downward now pervade the whole body. If the acme is intense enough, the
sensation of heat increases and is perceived as a glow in the pelvis and as an overall body sensation of lumination” (Love
and Orgasm, by Alexander Lowen, M.D., pp. 197-198).

The following sections list various categories of orgasms people claim to experience along with descriptions of the
associated sensations.

ALTERED STATE ORGASMS An altered state orgasm is believed to occur when the brain’s level of serotonin is excessively
high. The effects of an altered state of consciousness or “near-death experience” have been divided into components and
a person may experience all or a combination of these. A study of 89 near-death experiences was conducted by Bruce
Greyson that computed the percentages of each of these components. “A cognitive component [15%], including time
distortion, thought acceleration, life review, and sudden understanding; an affective component [41%], comprising
feelings of peace, joy, and cosmic unity and an experience of a brilliant light; a paranormal component [?], including
enhanced vision or hearing, apparent extrasensory perception, precognitive vision, and an out-of-body experience; and a
transcendental component [47%], comprising encounters with an apparently unearthly realm, a mystical being, and
visible spirits and a barrier or point of no return that, had the subjects crossed it, would have precluded their return to
life.” Greyson further discovered that “near-death events in which death might have been anticipated (e.g., suicide
attempts, exacerbations of chronic illness, or complications of surgery) were associated rarely with cognitive experiences
but frequently with transcendental and attective ones.” People who were victims of accidents or sudden illness are more
often the ones whose life flashes before them (“A Typology of Near-Death Experiences, by Bruce Greyson, M.D.,
American Journal of Psychiatry 142:8, August 1985, pp. 967- 969).

People can enter an altered state by many different methods. Timothy Leary in a Playboy interview claimed that “In a
carefully prepared, loving LSD session, a woman can have several hundred orgasms.” In order to create this same trance-
like state there are often (but not always) two stages of preparation required. The first phase generally prepares the mind
by using such deprivations as water, food, sleep, sex, or complete inhibition of senses (sight, sound, touch, smell, and
taste). Deprivation alone can trigger hallucinations or an altered state. People who use shorter term deprivation often
induce it through physical injury or flagellation. A similar method is used by various military officials in their torture of
captives. Deprivation and pain causes an increase of serotonin and once this chemical reaches an abnormally high level,
the prisoner goes into an altered state of consciousness.

People often have an orgasm as they approach the altered state, reducing their energy and serotonin level causing the
experience to end. For this reason some have learned to negate the orgasm by physically altering their penis with
stretching or other methods to guarantee an orgasm never occurs. Shamans gave up their sex lives so that the physical
orgasm wouldn’t interfere with their ability to obtain an altered state.

The Catholic mystics used a different discipline to reach an altered state. Paul Kurtz, a scholar in this field, claimed that
religious mystics had to have two striking ingredients present. “First, there is repression and frustration, a sense that
pleasures of the flesh, especially sexual enjoyments, are evil and sinful. Second, there is an apparent form of sublimation
and some sexual gratification in the mystical encounter ... Very few, if any, of the prominent mystics led a normal married
or sexual life: the mystical life in a sense grew out of perturbation and perversion. It expressed a pathological response to
the need for sexual fulfillment, by means of a deflected discharge of the libido” (The Transcendental Temptation, pp. 99-
100, used with permission of Prometheus Books).

The sexual nature of this state is further evident by their use of the Song of Songs (or Song of Solomon) as the text for
mystical ascent and union with God. Peter de Rosa, a Jesuit, explained that this allowed “Christian mysticism to draw
upon and sublimate erotic energies ... The celibate male can turn his affection to the person of the Virgin Mary as his
‘lady’, in order to repress real sexuality with women. Spiritual eroticism is to be directed to the higher, spiritual feminine
that elevated and transformed the soul, rather than to the debasing, carnal female” (Vicars of Christ p. 147).

What does one feel or see during a mystical altered state? Individuals experience different hallucinations, several of
which are cited as follows. St Francis of Sales (died 1622) described his mystical experiences by saying they were, “as
melted balm that no longer has firmness or solidity, the soul lets herself pass or flow into What she loves: she does not
spring out of herself as by a sudden leap, nor does she cling as by a joining or union, but gently glides, as a fluid and liquid
thing, into the Divinity Whom she loves. She goes out by that sacred outflowing and holy liquefaction, and quits herself,
not only to be united to the well-Beloved, but to be entirely mingled with and steeped in Him. The outflowing of a soul
into her God is a true ecstasy, by which the soul quite transcends the limits of her natural way of existence, being wholly
mingled with, absorbed and engulfed in, her God” (The Transcendental Temptation, by Paul Kurtz, p. 96, used with
permission of Prometheus Books).

Another example of a Christian mystical experience is that of St. Theresa. She describes it as seeing “an angel close by me,
on my left side, in bodily form ... in his hand a long spear of gold, and at the iron’s point there seemed to be a little fire.
He appeared to me to be thrusting it at times into my heart, and to pierce my very entrails; when he drew it out, he
seemed to draw them out also and to leave me all on fire with a great love of God. The pain was so great that it made me
moan; and yet so surpassing was the sweetness of this excessive pain that I could not wish to be rid of it. The soul is
satisfied now with nothing less than God” (Mysticism/New York: World/ Meridian, 1972).

St. Theresa’s sadomasochist bent was evidently a common feature of medieval monastic literature. Rosamond Gilder, in
discussing Hrotsvitha, a nun and playwright from 950 C.E., says “in two plays, Hrotsvitha gives expression to a vein of
sadism, which is also associated with certain aspects of repression. She positively revels in the lurid and suggestive details
of her torture scenes ... nuns were suckled on tales of torture and martyrdom, and the more boiling oil, fiery furnaces,
severed limbs, and bleeding wounds a tale provided, the greater the thrill ... Undoubtedly also, Hrotsvitha obtained a
certain release for her own emotional suppressions by elaborating these pictures of carnal dangers and the pitfalls of the
flesh” (Enter the Actress, pp. 34- 5).

Autosadism and self-flagellation were used by religious mystics, as well as by those simply seeking an altered state of
consciousness for sexual pleasure. There were many monks who flagellated themselves with canes or whips. A Dominican
monk, Heinrich Suzo (1300-1366), wrote about his experiences in an autobiography. He began practicing extreme
asceticism and torture as a tool in overcoming temptations. He found that “he was able to achieve frequent, even daily
ecstasies. However, a time finally arrived when the bleeding saint realized he could not continue in his path and still live.
‘He was so wasted that the only choice was between dying and giving up these practices.’ At this point, he tells us, he
threw all of his instruments of torture into a stream” (The Transcendental Temptation, 1986. pp. 99-100, used with
permission of Prometheus Books).

Today, many people who practice the more ‘painful’ form of S/M do it to induce this altered state and view it as a
spiritual connection rather than explicitly sexual.

ASTRAL ORGASMS An astral orgasm refers to a person’s consciousness leaving their physical body and traveling in their
astral body. Astral projection is practiced by several occult groups. According to these people it is possible to teach steps
one can use to project oneself into an astral plane at will. However, we are referring here to the unintentional experience
of traveling through the universe or to distant areas of the earth. This experience is caused by extraordinarily intense
emotions felt during sex. The reported cases of astral projection occurring during orgasm have involved either a psychic
or an unsuspecting sex partner of a psychic. [Author’s note: This phenomenon is not the type that can be verified by
science and for that reason we can do nothing more than mention that this type of orgasm has been reported by several
people.]

EXTENDED SEXUAL ORGASMS (ESO) Many people have become interested in extending the length of their orgasms since
the 1983 publication of the Brauers’ book, titled Extended Sexual Orgasm.

In their book the Brauers detail the rewards they claim awaits those practicing this discipline. “At the highest level of
female ESO, which we call Phase II, continuous slow waves of push-out contractions of the deep pelvic muscles replace
the mixed contractions of Phase I. Each contraction lasts up to thirty seconds and there are not rest periods between.
Women experience this phase subjectively as a continuous orgasmic increase.... At the highest level of male ESO, Phase II,
a man finds himself in a continuous state of orgasmic emission for thirty minutes or more. Clear fluid issues almost
continuously, drop by drop, from his penis. His anal sphincter is relaxed and open. The ejaculation phase may involve
twenty or more intense contractions and last twenty seconds or more (ESO—Extended Sexual Orgasm, by Alan P. Brauer,
M.D., and Donna J. Brauer, pp. 3-4).

ESO emphasizes controlled masturbation techniques and sex exercises, particularly development of the pubococcygeus
(PC) muscle that cradles the lower torso from the pubic bone to the tail bone. A person eventually learns to control
muscle contractions to attain the results listed above.

One of the exercises mentioned in this book involves partial retention of semen during orgasm, this giving a man the
ability to orgasm two to six times during intercourse. The Brauers call this type of male multiple orgasm “seminal fluid
retention” and describe explicit instructions for accomplishing this feat. Part of the exercise involves holding one’s breath
and squeezing the PC muscles until ejaculation is stopped (ESO—Extended Sexual Orgasm, by Alan P. Brauer, M.D., and
Donna J. Brauer, pp. 56-7) .

FUSION ORGASMS The “fusion” orgasm is reached by stimulating two or more erogenous zones which each create a
different sensation, thereby intensifying the orgasmic experience.

People learn this technique by manually stimulating different parts of the body in various ways. Once a responsive
location is detected a person works it into their masturbation routine until orgasm can be reached by that stimulation
alone. After several locations have been orgasmically developed they are stimulated simultaneously. Care is taken not to
let one site become overstimulated into orgasm before the other. The goal of a fusion orgasm is to induce orgasm from
all areas so that they peak at the same time. For example, if one is stimulating both the nipple and penis and feels orgasm
approaching due to stimulation on the penis, he will lessen the intensity on the penis and concentrate on the nipples until
they are again equal in intensity (“Living Up To Your Orgasmic Potential,” by Dr. Herbert Otto, Sex Over Forty, IX, 2, pp. 1-
3, July 1990).

Areas of the body that respond well to stimulation are the prostate, anus, G-spot, scrotum, ears, armpits, toes, and
nipples. These areas are sensitized even more by the use of lotions, heat, and slight abrasion. The prostate can be
manipulated a couple of ways. It may be stimulated from outside the body by pressing rhythmically upward on the space
between the anus and the back of the scrotum. Others insert a finger or specially designed dildo two to four inches into
the anus and massage the prostate that lies to the forward side of the body.

PSYCHIC ORGASMS (Psychic masturbation, Psycholagny) Psychic orgasms are those induced by methods other than
genital stimulation.

The prevalence of psychically induced orgasms can be influenced by certain cultures or religious mores. Masters and Lea
spoke of Turks and Arabs as being “especially prone to psychically induced spontaneous emissions .... Arab ethicists, for
example, considering the significance of spontaneous emissions, have decided that they belong in the same category
ethically with nocturnal pollutions .... The Arabs explained spontaneous daylight ejaculations, which occurred not
uncommonly at the sight of an attractive woman, as a sacrifice made by the system in honor of beauty. However that may
be, the point is, ethically, that both nocturnal and daylight emissions of this order were held to be beyond the individual’s
control and therefore no moral blame could be assessed” (Perverse Crimes in History, pp. 180-181).

People who are able to attain orgasm or sexual arousal by excitement and nongenital stimulation are discussed by several
authorities. Cauthery and Stanway inform us that “women can experience orgasms over the phone, by fantasy ... when
combing their hair, when passing water .... rope-climbing; movement on buses, trains or ‘rides’ in fair-grounds; hearing a
man’s voice; sitting next to a man on a bus; being shouted at; being late; listening to music or poetry; dancing,” etc. (The
Complete Guide to Sexual Fulfillment, by Dr. Philip Cauthery & Dr. Andrew Stanway with Faye Cooper, pp. 44 and 122).
According to Kinsey some three or four men out of more than 5000 could ejaculate by deliberately concentrating on
sexual fantasies. However, most males, while not orgasming to non-tactile stimulus, do have erections to seemingly odd
stimuli. Activities responsible for erections in younger boys are things such as “punishment, electric shock, fast elevator
rides, fast car driving, skiing, airplane rides, sitting in church, urinating, boxing, wrestling, high dives, being scared, near
accidents, reciting before a class, tests at school, seeing a policeman, big fires, anger, marching soldiers, looking over edge
of building, finding money, watching exciting games,” etc. (Sexual Behavior in the Human Male, by Kinsey, Pomeroy and
Martin, 1948, pp. 164-165).

Practitioners of Hatha Yoga can achieve orgasm without manual manipulation. Hypnotists use auto-suggestion to first
induce excitement and erection and then orgasm. Some use fantasy alone to produce orgasm, many use tactile
stimulation from nongenital areas of the body, and others orgasm when emotionally excited. The orgasm itself may be
less intense than one experienced with a partner and men have reported them without accompanying emissions ;
consequently, these are often multiple, ending with exhaustion or final emission. Occasionally, a psychic orgasm can be so
intense that it creates prolonged orgasmic muscle spasms or renders the person momentarily unconscious as in the case
of Tantra.

SM ORGASMS There are two basic types of S/M orgasms and these can be differentiated between what the bottom
(masochist) and top (sadist) experiences.

The person engaging in a pain inducing activity or sensory deprivation may experience an altered state orgasm. They may
also experience intense exaggerated emotions or, if in bondage, a trance like state from which they gain ecstasy. It is
described as more cathartic than the one experienced when topping.

The top (dominant) experiences more of a psychic or energy charged orgasm from watching and controlling the erotic
response of the bottom. Some tops demand genital stimulation during play. However, orgasm is at times reached with a
simple touch on the surrounding area. Tops choosing not to include physical orgasm in a scene still experience a euphoric
high. This sensation has been described by people as a warmth in the stomach that radiates outward through the
extremities, comparable to a tantric orgasm, and similar to the feeling in your stomach after a fast elevator ride.

 
TANTRIC ORGASMS Tantra is an Eastern form of sexual yoga. People learn to build energy by breathing techniques and
then direct this energy by body positions and mental control. Physical effects vary according to the type of breathing
engaged in by a person. The goal is to enter an altered state where one merges not only with their partner but also the
cosmos. The path to this ultimate state abounds with diverse orgasmic experiences. These have been described as having
been invaded and filled with white light, or as energy working its way up and down the spine and then extending from the
body through the head and hovering over it like a cobra.

Many books have been written endorsing and describing numerous benefits of Tantra. The Kales wrote that “the
prolonged sex of Tantra gives you and your partner orgasms that are indescribable in their intensity. It also brings you and
your partner so close to each other that both of you will find yourselves wanting to embrace total strangers, becoming
sensually receptive to an unbelievable degree, and developing an empathy that makes you one with the whole of
burgeoning, fecunding, striving creation around you” (TANTRA, The Secret Power of Sex, by Arvind and Shanta Kale, p.
143). A further recommendation is given by Ramsdale and Dorfman in their book. “... [M]en and women report that while
making love their bodies seem to contract expand liquefy· shake burn glow melt merge they say they feel like they are
flying they feel two people become one they see brilliant colors they feel like king and queen, noble and royal they feel
really ‘high’—naturally some even say they disappear for awhile; in other words, they experience that making love
expands their consciousness these people were not on drugs they were on sex...” (Sexual Energy Ecstasy, by David Alan
Ramsdale and Ellen Jo Dorfman).

(See also MASTURBATION)

ORGIES An orgy is an antiquated term for group sex. It often referred to sex indulged in during religious festivals which
were preceded by an abundance of food and drink. Examples of these religious orgies were the Dionysian, Baal, Carnival,
and May Day festivals.

Paul Wirz documented the celebration of a religious orgy of the Ezam Secret Society of New Guinea in the early 1900’s.
Here the men and women were segregated

during which time the men played music on drums and bullroarers. There were intervals between the chants where
initiates could enter into the woods with any woman and have sex. Upon the initiate’s return he brought with him a
broken branch to symbolize his success. This ritual of free sex continued for several days and nights culminating with a
young woman being led into a hut to have sex with several men. One of these men was selected without his prior
knowledge to be a sacrifice. The other men would pull down the timbers of the hut upon the man and woman while they
were joined in intercourse. They were then immediately removed, cut into pieces, and roasted to provide a feast for the
tribe (Historical Atlas of World Mythology, Vol II: The Way of the Seeded Earth, Part 1: The Sacrifice, by Joseph Campbell,
p. 71).

Today, group sex houses in parts of Europe still begin orgies by serving a dinner during which time people become
acquainted. These often end in food fights before selecting a sex partner. Group sex houses in the United States typically
provide hors d‘oeuvres and punch for people to casually partake of during the evening.

(See also FERTILITY RITUALS, FESTIVALS, GANG BANGS, GROUP SEX and WIFE SWAPPING)

OXYGEN REGULATION Oxygen regulation is used to intensify or delay sexual arousal. We normally breathe about twelve
times a minute. If we drastically alter our oxygen intake in any way the body panics, increasing adrenalin and other
biochemical responses. A milder effect can be triggered by quick shallow breathing into the upper lungs. This produces
energy or excitement. Slowing down the rate of breathing and breathing deeper has a calming effect. Most often the
regulation of breath is instinctive or controlled by our parasympathetic nervous system; however, people have learned to
utilize techniques involving strangulation, corsetting, tantric locks, plastic bags, silicone bathing caps, gags, and gas masks
to produce sexual excitement.

Some of the techniques have potential to be lethal because a person loses consciousness within three to five minutes if
the supply of oxygen is cut off and dies immediately afterward. It is dangerous not to monitor a partner at all times.
Oxygen play attempted on anyone over sixty or who suffers from arrythmia, asthma, strokes, arteriosclerosis, or
hypertension is extremely dangerous.

People who hyperventilate (exhale too much carbon dioxide) have symptoms such as lightheadedness, drowsiness, and
tingling in the extremities. They may lose coordination, become disoriented, or even have muscle spasms. The most
common remedy for hyperventilation is to have the person breathe into a paper bag until they feel calmed. This brings
the balance of oxygen and carbon dioxide back to normal.

The other effect created by oxygen regulation is hypoxia, or insufficient oxygen in the lungs. The symptoms of hypoxia
include: drowsiness, dizziness, euphoria, a decrease in judgment, memory, alertness, and coordination, a greying of
vision; fingernails and lips may turn blue. Hypoxia can be caused by a person forgetting to breathe during sex. This is
particularly true during S/M play because the same neurotransmitters that produce euphoria seem to depress
respiration. It helps for a person just coming out of a breathless state to make a conscious effort to breathe deeply.
People can sometimes be assisted into breathing deeply with a slap on the face or a pinch on their nipples. However,
slapping someone who has gone into shock may be dangerous.

Understanding the effect oxygen regulation has on our arousal cycle requires an examination of the physiology of our
lungs. Oxygen is vital to our bodies; we use it to burn fuel. Our lungs are designed to take in oxygen for this combustion
process which in turn generates heat and energy for the functioning of the body.

The rate and rhythm at which we inhale creates different effects in the amount of energy we generate, thus we can affect
the level of passion and energy we produce during sex. Slow deep breaths gradually build and sustain energy, rapid
shallow panting generates the immediate burst of energy needed just prior to orgasm, and holding our breath depletes
excess energy.

Psychological stimulus is needed by some in addition to the decrease in oxygen. These people enjoy adding some
dimension of panic or terror. Oxygen regulation alone lacks the same intensity. This may be why many use some form of
bondage as an adjunct to asphyxia when alone; knowing this is dangerous. Others like to play with control, either giving it
to a partner or by pushing their own limits. Some people enjoy both panic and control.

Breathing techniques may also be used to delay ejaculation for men. The bottom position in missionary sex is assumed
and, before thrusting toward the partner, one breathes deeply (distending the abdomen) and holds his breath while
tightening the pubococcygeus muscle and pushing out with the anal muscles. The breath is then released as he relaxes
and pulls his body away from his partner, preparing to repeat the same cycle. This technique has the opposite effect on
women and more often stimulates them to orgasm. CAUTION: Many things can go wrong during breath control play; the
result can be permanent disability or death. People who insist on engaging in this activity plan ahead for most
eventualities, how to prevent accidents, and how to get help if needed. If the activity involves more than one person, the
one topping must also be willing to face criminal charges and/or prison if an accident occurs.

Descriptions of the various techniques used in sex play follow. (QSM lecture, January 11, 1992, “Breath Control and
Carotid Artery Play” by Michael Decker)

CORSETTING Corsetting refers to a restriction placed around the waist, the effect of which creates difficulty in breathing
deeply. Corsets are used by tops in breath control games by pushing in on the bottom’s diaphragm and holding it in.

(See CORSETS)

 
GAGS Gags are occasionally used to induce asphyxiation by blocking the mouth while the partner holds the bottom’s
nose closed. Gags and tape across both the mouth and nose carry a higher risk factor than a partner using their hand.
Even latex hoods with small holes at the nose can get twisted slightly and cut off the bottom’s air supply.

GAS MASKS Gas masks are used over the face to restrict oxygen intake. The filter system is altered so that a 3/4” hollow
tube can be inserted into the region of the mouth. The mask is tightened and when the top desires, they place a finger
over the tip to temporarily block the air supply. These masks are purchased at army and navy supply stores.

STRANGULATION (Autoerotic asphyxia—arousal from asphyxia) Strangling differs from oxygen regulation in that it
involves restricting the flow of blood through the carotid artery to the brain. This can be done with Velcro blood pressure
cuffs that have been folded over and modified with a D-ring attached on the front edge with a rope going through it that
is hung from the ceiling; if the person fails to deflate the cuff before they become unconscious, the rope pulls the collar
loose as they fall. Thick leather collars are also used by attaching a lightweight string to the ceiling, or with the assistance
of a partner. Some enjoy strangulation because it produces a euphoric and light-headed sensation. CAUTION: There have
reports of vegal nerve inhibition due to fear or lack of oxygen. A few people are susceptible to this lethal reaction and it is
impossible to predict just who they are until too late.

SUFFOCATION Suffocation refers to any form of cutting off the body’s supply of oxygen. This is done in sex games by
putting a plastic bag over the person’s head and making them breathe their own carbon dioxide. The top may hold their
hand over the person’s mouth and nose but this is more difficult and requires more physical strength if the bottom
resists. One man rigged up a basket with a plastic bag inside that hung from the ceiling. He then stood underneath and
held the bag around his head. If he passed out the bag stayed suspended while he fell to the ground, and nothing would
be left to restrict his breathing. Another method that slows a person’s breathing is holding a pillow over his or her head.
Since visual contact is lost this raises the risk level. Latex hoods or swimming caps are used by some couples. Some prefer
“queening” (sitting on a person’s face in a way that cuts off airflow) and one woman has her partner put his mouth over
her vagina and then locks her legs around the back of his head to prevent his pulling away or being able to breathe.
CAUTION: Games using gags, masks, strangulation, or suffocation can cause strokes, heart failure, blindness, brain
damage, and death. Safety precautions for any of these activities require that the people know CPR, be healthy, not have
eaten recently, or combine the activity with drugs and alcohol. Never do these activities alone or without making sure
that every conceivable contingency is prepared for and made safe. People unwisely engaging in this activity alone often
pad the area on the floor around them. This prevents head injuries if the person becomes unconscious and falls.

(See also AUTOEROTIC ASPHYXIA, CORSETS, PHOBOPHILIA, SAFE SEX and TAPHEPHILIA)
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PANDERING A panderer is a person who procures a prostitute for a third person or who convinces a person to engage in
prostitution by providing a client.

(See BORDELLOS, ILLEGAL SEX and PIMPS)

PARAPHILIA (Deviance, Divertissement, Perversion, Sexual Aberration, Sexual Anomalies) Paraphilia (Para: going beside
or beyond, amiss; philia: attachment to) is defined by John Money as “a condition occurring in men and women of being
compulsively responsive to and obligatively dependent upon an unusual and personally or socially unacceptable [sexual]
stimulus ..

. In legal terminology, a paraphilia is a perversion or deviancy; and in the vernacular it is kinky or bizarre sex.” (Gay
Straight and In-Between, by John Money, Oxford University Press, 1988.) Paraphilic disorders have several common
characteristics. These are listed in DSM-III-R as: recurrent, fixed, compulsive, sexually motivated, personally or socially
maladaptive, interferes with capacity for reciprocal affection. Sexual acts are only considered paraphilias if the person’s
internal experience matches these criteria. Only the person performing piraphilic acts can be the judge of their motivation
and whether their compulsion hampers normal relations. An important method of determining which behavior is
considered genetically coded and which is influenced by social pressure or religion is that of studying animal behavior as
well as cross-cultural behavior. If a certain behavior is found in both these instances, it is considered “natural” or
genetically coded (i.e. gays and grooming). This reasoning is not new. The 13th century church leader, St. Thomas
Aquinas, said that the sex activities of animals were natural and should be a model of how God intended people to
conduct themselves. Animals, not having been corrupted by the original sin, could only exhibit natural urges and
therefore could not be judged as evil or sinful. However intelligent and perceptive St. Aquinas was he could not have been
acquainted with the sex habits of animals when using this argument to support the Church’s view on “normal”
heterosexual sex. Animals are not considered paraphiles, as in the case of humans, but do engage in similar behaviors
such as giving gifts, extended courtships, grooming, missionary style sex, rape, incest, bondage, necrophilia, group sex,
homosexuality, bisexuality, urophilia, lust murder, anthropophagy, and sadomasochism (Sex Link by Hy Freedman). Proof
of St Aquinas’ naivete was his support of Aristotle’s account of a stallion that threw himself off a cliff upon discovering, to
his horror, that he had just committed incest by mating with his own mother.

Social rules impose restrictions on sexual behavior but despite this people still engage in different or unusual forms of
sexual behavior. There are many reasons for this variance in behavior.

The first objective is to understand how people become aroused by a seemingly non-sexual stimulus, whether or not the
person falls into the category of paraphilic. Passion can be created by emotions such as anger, guilt, jealousy, shock,
challenge, loss, humiliation, shame, surrender, fear, love, and pain. These all have one thing in common, they stimulate
the body to produce adrenalin (epinephrine) which in addition leads to the production of other neurotransmitters. Our
judgment of the circumstances or sex appeal of the other person determines how the stimulus is perceived and acted
upon. This change in bodychemistry cause things such as avoidance behavior, an increased heart rate, oxygen intake, and
blood pressure; all of the physical responses needed to fight, run, or have sex. Phrased another way; in addition to love,
anything that has the power to create fear or anger can be utilized by some people to induce passion and sexual arousal.
Thus, what might have been reacted to with anger or panic is formed into passion. If a heterosexual male was cornered
by each of the people in the illustration, all of which were seductively saying “Hello, big boy,” he would most likely
respond with anger to the weaker male, fear to the stronger male, and with arousal to the female. These reactions would
differ with a cornered gay or female heterosexual, but the three emotions would remain fairly standard. People who play
sex games use this knowledge to their advantage by creating strong stimuli and letting their bodies react. Once a fight,
flight, or sex decision is presented the players opt for sex.
 

Aggression may have a different appeal as well for some because females of most species are attracted to males they
perceive as strong enough to father healthy offspring and to protect his family. An immediate and aggressive response
was needed under primitive conditions to ward off predators and to protect food supplies. Unfortunately, the same
aggressive reaction is biologically triggered in today’s society. Sometimes this primal aggressive reaction is warranted but
most often it is not.

S/M players may use an existing emotional bond or feeling of love to generate passion, just as other people often do, only
they express it differently. The following description is from Sybil Holiday, a skilled top, as interviewed by Michael A.
Rosen:

The experience that I get from him isn’t pain; he takes me somewhere else, and I ride with it. I keep opening up and letting
go. He’s very good at what he does—whipping. He seduces you into it. He’s not vicious or cruel. He doesn’t descend on
people. He builds up intensity. He starts out where the touch of the whip is like a caress, a leather caress, and then it builds
on my body. Usually, I’ve been on my back or my stomach in some sort of bondage, and I feel very secure; I can move, but I
can’t go anyplace. And the warmth, the heat, just starts building. It gets hotter and hotter and then it dawns on me that
it’s like I’m on a roller coaster and I’m starting to go up and there’s no turning back and it starts getting more intense and
it’s very dramatic, and more intense and more intense. It’s like I’m on a roller coaster and then it starts getting really fast.
If I tighten up, resist, I lose it; it becomes no fun. There’s nothing there for me if I’m resisting. If I surrender I find myself
flying. It’s release, intensity, a hrgh; it’s like a rain of fire and I’m flying inside” (Sexual Magic, The S/M Photographs by
Michael A. Rosen, p. 58).

A second aspect of paraphilia pertains to the object to which one is attracted once stimulated. Ordinarily the advantages
of conditioning or learned behavior is that we would be sexually attracted to our own species, bond to people, or
recognize and react to repeated danger. When we bond to an inappropriate sexual object it is referred to as a fetish and
the item will usually be something that was around the person when young, such as rubber pants, plastic sheets, fur,
leather, shoes, silk, urine, and feces. For instance, John Money, Professor of Medical Psychology, and Associate Professor
of Pediatrics at Johns Hopkins University, discovered that some of his patients who had undergone early surgery for birth
defects were having fantasies about being pierced and cut now that they were adults.

For some men the preference of an unusual sex object or practice is due to sexual repression and guilt imposed on them
when they were young by parents. They select safe objects onto which to direct their lust. This may be in the form of a
prostitute because she cannot be violated, or a handicapped person because she appears less likely to abandon the man.
Even those who engage in risky activities may be using the higher level of fear caused by a risky “sex scene” to override
the fear and guilt they feel for indulging in normal sex. They may also need to generate more excitement in order to reach
a similar level of intense emotions as experienced by earlier fears imposed by parents or religion for sinful masturbation.

A third aspect of paraphilias involves compulsion and it is this aspect that makes self-control of undesirable behavior
difficult. The neurotransmitter that stimulates compulsive behavior is glucocorticoid which is triggered once a person
becomes excited. The purpose of this neurotransmitter is to force a person to focus on the stimulus until they conquer it,
resolve it, or are out of danger. A person who studies for a test at the last minute feels the effect of this chemical. In this
case, once the deadline is met, the ability to focus diminishes. The same phenomenon occurs with love or paraphilias. As
long as some type of excitement or arousal surrounds the love object or sexual activity the release of glucocorticoid
increases compulsive behavior and makes a return to normal routine very difficult.

The fourth aspect of paraphilias is related to loss compensation. The brain is programmed to create pain and anxiety to
ensure that we provide our bodies with certain items needed for survival. In return the brain produces opiates that
trigger a pleasure response. Primal needs are such things as eating, defecating, sleeping, loving, having sex, security,
energy or stimulus, communication, gathering, hunting, and using our senses. A problem arises when we cannot provide
ourselves with a balance of these things as in the case of patients and prisoners. Our body or mind compensates for this
loss by doubling up on another need, thereby using it as a source for pleasure. In essence what happens when this person
feels pain from not being loved, they eat (or satisfy one of the other needs). This is thought to cause the brain to release
opiates and the person temporarily feels gratified. Eventually the person will only feel the need to gratify their original
need for love with food. Ideally people strive for a balance in meeting all their needs.

Dr. Money divides paraphilias into six stratagems. These classifications are crucial in understanding the types that
commonly exist. “The sacrificial/expiatory stratagem requires preparation or atonement for the sin of lust by way of
penance and sacrifice [lust murder, acrotomophilia]...The marauding/predatory stratagem requires that, insofar as
saintly lovers do not consent to the sin of lust, a partner in lust must be stolen, abducted, or assaultive and violent
paraphilic rape... The mercantile/venal stratagem requires that sinful lust be traded, bartered, or purchased and paid
for, insofar as saintly lovers do not engage consensually in its free exchange [prostitution, chrematistophilia]... The
fetishistic/talismanic stratagem spares the saintly lover from the sin of lust by substituting a token, fetish, or talisman
instead. Fetishes are predominantly either smelly (olfactophilic) or touchy-feely (hyphephilic), and both are derived from
the smell and feel of parts of the human body... The stigmatic/eligibilic stratagem requires that the partner in lust be,
metaphorically, a pagan infidel, disparate in religion, race, color, nationality, social class, or age, from the saintly lovers of
one’s own social group [gerontophilia, miscegenation]... [and the] solicitational/allurative stratagems protect the saint
by displacing lust from the act of copulation in the acceptive phase, to an invitational gesture or overture of the
proceptive phase [exhibitionism and voyeurism]” (Gay, Straight, and In-Between; The Sexology of Erotic Orientation, by
Dr. John Money, pp. 136- 138).

In addition to all of the above reasons for deviating from regular sex habits, people use sex to meet many other needs,
such as to:

build self-esteem
learn trust for others
improve physical control
improve emotional control
sharpen intellect
get immediate gratification
reduce stress
obtain relief from guilt by acting punishments
relieve physical pain
nurture others or be nurtured
enhance or awaken senses
obtain revenge on parents or society
gain insight into one’s sexuality by a
gender reversal
reenact traumatic experiences to allow
victim to gain control
convey love and trust for a partner by
surrender or submission
express and understand their alternate
personas

(See also ALGOPHILIA, FETISHES, MASOCHISM, PHOBOPHILIA and SADISM)

 
PECATTIPHILIA Pecattiphilia (peccatum : a sin; and philia: attachment) is the sexual arousal one gets from sinning. This
may also display itself as a feeling of guilt.

Religious teenagers sometimes suffer from a dilemma when they masturbate because they are taught that God will
punish or perhaps kill them for this ‘perversion’. A few have grown up with a fascination for sex play that involves life and
death risks in order to recapture the same emotional intensity that this fear created.

Another type of ‘sinner’ may intensify their feelings of guilt by seducing a virgin, a member of the clergy, wearing religious
costumes, listening to hymns during sex, or breaking into a church and using the altar to engage in a form of ritual sex.
They may also have their partner say things to make them feel shame or guilt.

Those suffering from extreme pecattiphilia may feel an overabundance of guilt and try to reduce these feelings by having
their partner chastise or punish them before they orgasm. This seems to relieve their guilt feelings. Some develop a fear
of sexually transmitted diseases afterward or salve their conscience by judging their sex partner. In extreme cases, a
psychotic person will murder their victim (usually a prostitute) to expiate both their sins.

Guilt can have a positive force in our lives if it calls attention to conduct that requires more responsible action. Additional
understanding of our behavior, values, and needs help us prioritize our goals and make relevant changes. Guilt can help
us become more empathetic toward the weaknesses of others making it easier to develop and maintain relationships.
Conversely, guilt can have negative effects when people use it to judge and inflict emotional or physical pain on
themselves or others. Some psychologists believe that guilt is higher among people who have a more limited awareness
of life and who are stuck in a restrictive or repressive lifestyle. A person who imposes guilt on others is practicing a form
of sadism because they expect the person to self-inflict emotional pain.

(See also HIEROPHILIA, ILLEGAL SEX, PHOBOPHILIA and ZELOPHILIA)

PEDERASTY See ANAL SEX/PEDERASTY

PEDIOPHILIA Pediophilia refers to the sexual attraction some have for dolls. William Stekel relayed the case of a woman
who at a young age had been molested by several people, all treating her like a doll. She evidently suppressed these
memories by transferring their identity to those of dolls and toys. This came to present problems when she married and
her husband caught her playing with them. He at once destroyed her toys whereupon she grew ill and remained
depressed. She later became frigid and developed kleptomania, stealing dolls to replace those he had destroyed (Sexual
Aberrations, by William Stekel, Vision Press, 1963). However, generally men have fetishes for small statues or manikins.

One California man had a doll fetish. He shaved the hair from Barbie doll heads and then swallowed the heads to produce
sexual arousal. X-rays showed six doll heads in his intestines. Once these passed through the digestive tract he would boil
them and repeat the process. [Personal communication.]

(See also AGALMATOPHILIA, ANA-CI. ITISM, FORNICATORY DOLLS and INFANTILISM)

PEDOPHILIA (Eopareunia—sex while young, Nepirasty—arousal from handling infant felt by childless females, Pathicant-
pederast) Pedophilia (pcdo: child; philia: lust) refers to an adult being sexually aroused by a child. The adult may engage in
this type of sex exclusively, restrict it to their own children, only seek out children when they are under stress or have
been frustrated by an adult relationship, while intoxicated, or a few may be mentally retarded.

Child prostitution is still found in much of the world. Societies have always differed in their acceptance of pedophilia but
for most of the world it has only come to be prohibited within the last hundred years. Before this time a few cultures
would use children to keep dinner guests entertained from underneath their tables. The Japanese used girls as young as
five to perform fellatio in the Yoshiwaras and the Chinese had bordellos that specialized in young children. Many of these
youths were purchased from parents after a drought when the father could not feed the family and the alternative was
for the girl and family to starve. The sale of a daughter meant both survival of the girl and her family. Other girls were
captured by bandits and sold at auctions to brothel-keepers. Hendrik de Leeuw described the horrors of one of these
raids.

In the Mien‘ch district, with which the report deals at length, more than one thousand villages were looted, burned, and
the younger female population carried off ... The majority were transported to slave markets and were there sold to
procurers sent by the groups of capitalists who control, to a large extent, the brothels of the great cities.... Of course,
many of these children never reach the slave markets. Even as they sit there, whimpering in fear and sorrow, the raiders
stalk among them, drag out the least-favored among them, and attack them. This brutality continues throughout the
night. The screams of the children, half-demented by the horror of butchery in the villages and by the embraces of their
captors, ring out in the darkness .... . Morning reveals the true terror of the night and the true meaning of these childish
cries. For, since the market for these raped bodies is not good and the price for a crazy child shows little profit, those who
have been chosen by the captors to satisfy their brutality are not curried on to the next camp. No, they are put to the knife.
Then the crude meal of cold rice is gobbled and the whips are out among the train of captives, and the rifles taken up,
there are scores of naked bodies flung by the black coals of the soldiers ’ fires. They are dead girls. One may be sure that
they were happy to die, so harsh has been their fate. Their cold, small faces are bloody, beaten, and distorted (Cities of Sin,
pp. 97-8).

Laws against pedophilia certainly helped to curb these types of atrocities. However, today some laws have become so
extreme that parents have been prosecuted who, without an understanding of the new laws, had innocently turned in
film of their children bathing. Parents who let their child take a glance at a nude photo of themselves have also been
prosecuted.

Reports vary as to how many minors are molested, some statistics are as high as one in every four females and one in
every six males. The National Center for Child Abuse and Neglect estimate in 1982 19% of females and 9% of males are
sexually abused before the age of 12 years. The State of Kentucky Human Resource Cabinet received “32,643 complaints
of child sexual abuse during the last fiscal year [1987]...the indictments filed against these residents include allegations by
the children of acts allegedly committed by their mothers, fathers, uncles, grandfathers, and grand-mothers. They range
from child observation of a grandparent sodomizing younger males to a grandmother performing oral sex on a year-old
grandson.” This study also reveals that “[m]other-son sexual contact appears to be less common but is more prevalent
than many clinicians may realize” (“Child Sexual Abuse: The Abusing Family in Rural America,” by Thomas W. Miller, Ph.D.,
A.B.P.P., and Lane J. Veltkamp, M.S.W., International Journal of Family Psychology, Vol 9, 1988, No. 3, International
University Press, pp. 259-275).

Men who were themselves sexually abused when young or who come from a home where this was acceptable do not
always develop the normal social aversion to pedophilia. Young juveniles in detention centers have often experienced
molestation or abuse before incarceration and many older sex offenders began this aggressive behavior as an adolescent.
One report on 63 male juveniles revealed that 70% had been molested or raped prior to incarceration and some reports
show that a significant percentage are sexually assaulted while incarcerated. Adolescent females were responsible for
58% of the molestations and Brannon, et al “suggest there is a population of adolescent females (i.e. friends of older
siblings and babysitters) who actively victimize pre-pubescent males” (“The Extent and Origins of Sexual Molestations and
Abuse Among Incarcerated Adolescent Males,” by James M. Brannon, Billie Larson, Murray Doggett, International Journal
of Offender Therapy and Comparative Criminology, September 1989, Vol 33, No 2, pp. 161-171).

In addition, people are sometimes coerced by their partners into having sexual contact with minors. One case involved a
young man whose girlfriend talked him into taking drugs and having sex with neighborhood boys. These males ranged in
age from six to thirteen. The girlfriend was able to coax the boys into engaging in fellatio and pederasty with her lover by
promising to have sex with them afterward. More often, however, women are coerced by adult male companions.

Another concern regarding pedophilia involves courtroom testimony of child victims; the trauma for the child and
accuracy of their testimony. While victims as young as three years old have accurately identified their assailant and
described the details of the event others have fallen under the influence of parents in custody battles and have given
inaccurate testimony against the other parent. There are many factors to consider in deciding to accept the testimony of
a child. Alayne Yates, a psychiatrist, suggests that a “judge must consider whether the child can distinguish truth from
falsehood, the child’s appreciation of the need to tell the truth, and the child’s cognitive capacity.” In addition to specially
trained professionals used to interview the children Yates also recommends that a child first be “encouraged to give a
narrative report of what occurred, to establish his or her knowledge base, subsequent answers would be more easily
understood or redefined” (“Should Young Children Testify in Cases of Sexual Abuse?” by Alayne Yates, M.D., American
Journal of Psychiatry 144:4, April 1987, pp. 476-480). Goodman noted that we are unsure whether children can
differentiate between their thoughts about another person’s actions and reality. Children can project their own
interpretation of the event into the intent of the adult (“Children’s testimony in historical perspective,” by G.S. Goodman,
Journal of Social Issues, 1984; 40:9-31). Some children are traumatized by having to testify and others are helped by
sharing their horrible secret. This decision is perplexing; however, professional therapists can be valuable in making
individual determinations. In addition, the American Psychiatric Association and the American Academy of Child
Psychiatry have recommended procedures that serve to protect children from unnecessary trauma in the court
proceedings.

Therapy for pedophiles prosecuted for this type of sex offense usually consists of clarifying the person’s own
responsibility and culpability, as well as understanding of the harm that is caused to the victim (since most pedophiles
initially consider themselves the victim). Sexual dysfunctions are studied, social skills are developed to assist them in
establishing relationships with other adults, behavioral modification is used to diminish their previous pedophilic
conditioning, and sometimes pharmacological treatment is used as well.

A group named NAMBLA (North American Man/Boy Love Association) has been campaigning against harsh legislation
since 1978. Their purpose is to educate the public and advocate changing laws to both protect minors from sexual abuse
and to give them the same right to engage in consensual sex acts with a person of their choice as others have. The group
formed while trying to defend 24 homosexuals who were arrested in 1977 in Revere, Massachusetts for engaging in
consensual sex with teenage boys. There was often only one or two years difference in age between the felon and the
victim, with the victim having admitted to being the instigator. Many potential supporters for this group are often lost
because of NAMBLA’s contention that the age of consent be lowered to prepubescent and their newsletter exhibiting
photos of young boys.

Recommended reading for male victims of sexual abuse is Victims No Longer, by Michael Lew. CAUTION: Parents can
help reduce the risk of possible molestation by educating children about pedophiles, being wary of adults befriending and
giving gifts to their children, screening babysitters, and giving the child a secret code word to prevent friends or strangers
from abducting the child from school by telling them the parent sent them. Children should also be taught their name,
address, and how to dial 911.

(See also ANACLITISM, ANISONOGAMIST, CATAMITES, COITUS INTERFERMORIS, DIPPOLDISM, GEISHAS, HAREMS, ILLEGAL
SEX, INCEST, INFANTILISM, MARRIAGE, NEPIOPHILIA, NYMPHOPHILIA, PORNOGRAPHY, PROSTITUTION, SEX RINGS, SNUFF
FILMS and VIRGINS)

PENETRATION TOYS (Merkin—arti—ficial vagina used for sex by men, also a wig for the pubic area) Penetration toys are
mechanical devices that allow penetration of an object by the penis for masturbation purposes. There are cylinders that
can be filled with warm water (Super Sauna Pump), others utilize vibrators, or an air pump that creates a rubbing action
along the head and shaft of the penis (Oro-Simulator). They may be battery operated or controlled by a rubber pump.
Others, such as the artificial rubber Vaginal Pal, resemble a vagina with short hair around the labia. The interior is ribbed
to create extra sensations. This type of toy is also available with two repositories, the ribbed vagina and an anus which
has its interior wall covered with spiked rubber protrusions. Lubrication is added; however, only water based lubricants
are used because oils destroy rubber material. The Sleeve is an open ended lubricated rubber cylinder that slides over the
penis. This simple device creates strong sensations when manipulated due to the roughness inside. It is adaptable for play
with partners by rolling one end up to facilitate fellatio or by inserting it into a partner’s vagina.

 
Most of these devices can be purchased in sex video stores or through mail order.

(See also FORNICATORY DOLLS, GENITAL /ANAL INSERTS and SYBIAN)

PENILE LIGATION Penile ligation refers to binding or tying the penis. Young Athenian men used to tie a string around
their foreskin to protect the glans penis during gymnastic events in which they appeared nude. Maoris were said to keep
their foreskins tied shut out of modesty. Ligation is used in sex games today by gay men with foreskins. They join them
with a string to create a form of bondage.

Penile ligation is not restricted to the sex play of two men. A different version is used by heterosexual couples who are
involved in bondage games. This entails tying one end of the string around the foreskin and the other and to a small
weight, or a hook on the ceiling; thus restricting the movement of a man who has his hands tied behind his back. Similar
bondage techniques are used for penis rings.

(See also MEATOTOMY, PENIS MODIFICATIONS and RINGING)

PENIS MODIFICATION Penis modification refers to any permanent physical alteration that is done to the penis. The
practice is ancient and spans through recorded history. Circumcision, the oldest documented form of penis modification,
was found on a prehistoric stone carving. A penis pin was discovered on a fourth century bronze dog, and the insertion of
penis bells have been documented as early as the fourteenth century.

BIHARI A Bihari modification involves the cutting of the supporting ligament above the penis, causing the penis to drop
forward, and in effect giving the illusion of one’s being endowed with an extra inch or two of penile shaft. This is thought
to have been an ancient Chinese practice. There are only a few surgeons that offer this service. One is Dr. Long Daouchou,
a plastic surgeon in Wuhan China who in 1991 was doing an average of four a week. His procedure takes about 90
minutes with recovery expected in a month (“One Very Popular Surgeon,” by Lena H. Sun, San Francisco Chronicle,
Sunday Punch Section, January 12, 1992, p. 5). Another surgeon, Dr. Bihari from Cairo, was one of the first to successfully
perform the surgical procedure and it is thus named after him. Dr. Brown, a plastic surgeon, has also performed a large
number of these operations. He does business in Mexico (his medical license was revoked in the United States). Dr. Brown
gained his expertise from doing sex change operations. CAUTION : This is a delicate operation due to the many nerves and
blood vessels adhering to the muscle.

CIRCUMCISION Circumcision refers to the surgical removal of the foreskin that covers the glans penis. (Please refer to
CIRCUMCISION section for additional information.)

FORESKIN RESTORATION Foreskin restorations are used to either stretch the foreskin or to surgically restore this flap
over the glans penis. Foreskin restoration has been practiced throughout history to enable the circumcised male to avoid
disparagement and discrimination. Africans, who were circumcised when sold as slaves or eunuchs to the Moslems,
would secretly hang weights on their foreskin to stretch it, and thus restore their penis to its appearance prior to
mutilation. They did this despite the fact that if detected this act of defiance could cost their life. Jews, during the period
of the Roman Emperor Hadrian, (117-138 C.E.) had a heavy tax imposed upon any circumcised male. The Jews, fearing a
genocide attempt because of his laws prohibiting practice of anything Jewish, devised a bronze sheath that fit around the
existing foreskin and which would eventually stretch it to a length that covered the glans. Evidently, circumcision at this
time was not regulated and many mohels were only cutting off a small portion of the prepuce. Mark Waring, in his book
Foreskin Restoration (Uncircumcision), states that later “Jewish religious authorities introduced a method of circumcision
to ensure that it would be much more difficult to restore the foreskin. The elders of the religion were disturbed that many
Jews were abandoning their faith and recreating their foreskins. To make this more difficult they decided that a more
radical technique of circumcision was required” (p. 5). This standardization unfortunately preceded the last attempted
genocide of the Jews by Hitler’s supporters. While some attempted surgery to hide their heritage, the small remnant of
foreskin made it very difficult.

Today some men endure several years of discomfort in addition to expense to reconstruct their foreskins. The most
recommended method is that of gradually stretching the skin while making sure it is not enough to produce pain. The
slow method creates undetectable lacerations and the body responds by generating new skin cells to fill the open areas.
Thus after a period of time, one will have more skin. The presence of pain is an indication that too much pressure is being
applied. This almost always leads to a scarring of the penis tissue and is not recommended.

Mark Waring also describes the skin graft surgical method. This consists of cutting the ring of skin approximately an inch
below the glans penis, pulling the top skin forward so that it covers the glans, then cutting two parallel openings into the
scrotum that are perpendicular to the penis. The penis is then inserted into this open pocket so that the cut area on the
penis is covered, yet the tip of the glans still extrudes far enough for urination. The man is sent home and after almost a
year returns for the second surgical procedure which consists of detaching the skin surrounding the penis from the
scrotum and securing it into place. Complications with this type of surgery include scarring, disfiguring, and possible
growth of scrotal hair on the new foreskin.

There is a book called The Joy of Uncircumucision by Dr. David Bigelow and an organization named Brothers United for
Future Foreskins (BUFF) that provide essential information and referrals for those interested in foreskin restoration.

IMPLANTS (Bulleetus, Burmese bells, Chagau balls, Tinkling balls) Tribes in Southeast Asia have used bells, stones, jewels,
ivory, gold, pearls, balls, and shells to implant into the penis. “The bells ranged up to the size of a small chicken egg, and
apparently were always made of metal, with a ‘grain of sand,’ ‘dried adder’s tongue,’ or other object inside. The better
ones were ‘glided and made with great cunning.’ As many as a dozen might be inserted. Kings might remove one of theirs
to bestow it on a person deserving great honor” (The Penis Inserts of Southeast Asia, by Donald E. Brown, James W.
Edwards, and Ruth P. Moore, p. 2). This was done to enlarge the size of the penis, provide extra tactile sensation for the
female, and duplicate the penis shape of local animals; such as the rhinoceros in Africa. Paolo Mantegazza wrote about
bells he saw used in India. “Throughout the country [India] are found old prostitutes who sell little bells of gold, silver and
bronze. The women hold great store with them for when they are sewn into the skin of the man’s member they cause a
swelling of tremendous length of the entire genital parts. Hence they claim their males have greater endurance and give
them far greater pleasure than we poor Europeans. It is true that when there are a number of natives about, the woman
will invariably choose the one with a titillating member. As soon as the boys reach puberty they rush to have the bells
sewn into their members, and constantly change them for larger sizes as they grow up” (Sexual Relutions of Mankind, by
P. Mantegazza). The Chinese used a bell during intercourse but changed the design and, instead of implanting it into the
penis, they merely inserted it into the vagina.
The yakuza (Japanese mafia) still insert pearls into the area between the outer skin that slides freely over the inner core
of the penis. A small hole is cut and the pearl is inserted and bandaged until the wound heals. The men perform this
surgery as part of a tradition where they add one pearl to the penis for each year they spend in jail. The pearls make the
penis larger and gives it a different sensation. Women seem to disagree as to whether these penises are more sexually
desirable (Modern Primitives, by V. Vale and A. Juno, p. 156). Koreans and some Filipinos also insert small balls under
their penile skin. In 1984 Dr. S.S. Pareek wrote of a 48-year old Korean seaman who had four balls in his penis (“Unusual
penile swelling—bulleetus,” British Journal of Sexual Medicine, Oct 1989, pp. 395).

There are two common types of implants done on men in the United States today. Men who because of injury or
cryptorchidism (failure of the testicles to drop) do not have visible testes often have artificial testicles inserted into the
empty scrotum. The purpose is only cosmetic, saving the man from possible embarrassment. Another type of implant is a
silicone tube designed to assist in providing stiffness to an otherwise flaccid penis. (For additional information refer to
section on IMPOTENCE.) There is also a fattening operation designed to increase the circumference of the penis. The
operation is described as being the opposite of liposuction and is performed by plastic surgeons.

INCISION Incision of the penis is a practice of splitting the skin down the whole length of the penis. It is done on several
islands in the Western Pacific Ocean. The penis appears similar to a circumcised one if done while the male is very young.
“Frequently, however, only completely mature young men are circumcised; in such cases the cut foreskin hangs down as
an ugly brown flap” (Sexual Life of Primitive People, by H. Fehlinger, p. 106). Mr. Fehlinger continues with a description
of one of these ceremonies among the Hamite tribe of East Africa.

Warriors visit the hut, and take away all the boys’ clothes and ornaments. Then young girls visit the boys and give them a
part of their clothing and ornaments. After the boys have put these on they inform their relations of the forthcoming
circumcision.... After sunset they must listen to the sharpening of the operating knife. Warriors are present, and tease the
boys. Later on all undress, and a procession is formed with a moterenic at the head and rear of it. Four times they have to
crawl through a small cage, where warriors are stationed at the entrance and exit with nettles and hornets. With the
former they beat the boys in the face and on the sex organs; the hornet they set on their backs.... The operator kneels
before the boy, and with a quick cut performs the first part of the operation; the foreskin is drawn forward and cut off at
the tip of the glans penis.... Friends and relatives make merry together, while the second part of the operation begins. At
this only sterile girls may be present, and also women who have lost several brothers and sisters at short intervals. Many
boys become unconscious during this part of the operation. The wounds are only washed with cold water, and the boys
are led back to their huts.... the foreskins are taken out of the ox horn, sacrificed to their god, and then buried in cowdung
at the foot of a croton tree (Sexual Life of Primitive People, pp. 111-112).

INSERTS The use of penile inserts in the United States is normally referred to as ringing and comprises of piercings of
rings or bars that are placed into the glans penis or scrotum at different angles. (Please refer to section on RINGING for
additional information.)

Males and females in Malaysia and Singapore sometimes insert phonograph needles or metal charms into the mons pubis
area. “In modern Malaysia and Singapore their commonest purpose is to make the person in whom they are inserted
more attractive to the opposite sex (not because the needles physically alter appearance—they don’t)” (The Penis Inserts
of Southeast Asia, by Donald E. Brown, James W. Edwards, and Ruth P. Moore, pp. 10-11).

A convicted American murderer, Albert Fish (1870-1936), was reported to have had so many needles inserted into his
genital region that they were thought to have short circuited the voltage from his electric chair. Fish was executed for
having murdered and eaten fifteen children.

MEATOTOMY Meatotomy refers to an incision or tearing done to enlarge the urethra. The practice often evolves from
masturbation with an instrument that has been inserted into the urethra. People use increasingly larger implements in
the urethra to tear tissue. Others cut one or two sides of the urethra and pack the area to keep the sides from mending
together. A few men have such a large opening that they were able to insert the glans penis of another man into the tip
of their penis. (See SOUNDING for additional information.)

NEGATION Negation, or rendering the penis impotent, is primarily done for religious reasons and involves methods other
than castration. Young prepubescent boys in India of the Sadhu class hang weights on the tip of their penis to stretch it;
within a few years some hang between their knees. They also push their penis inside their body and roll their scrotum
around a rod; after some time they are no longer able to pull the penis from the body. Both techniques make it
impossible for them to have sexual orgasm later in life. This allows them to engage in self flagellation or masochistic
practices without accidently orgasming, bringing their biochemicals back to normal and preventing the attainment of an
altered state of consciousness. (See ORGASMS/ ALTERED STATES)

SPLITTING Splitting the penis from the glans toward the base was a ritual practiced by a group of Australian aborigines
who worshipped a totem lizard that had a split penis. Most men practiced a less dramatic form of subincision. One Anglo
man successfully attempted this procedure and describes the results as follows. “My decision to surgically remodel my
genitals was deliberate, of deep satisfaction to me, highly exciting, sexually adventurous, and erotically exhilarating... Full
erections are still maintained as previously, but now in two complete, separate halves. The erotic zones of my penis are
still the same, with orgasms and ejaculations functioning perfectly. Entry into the vagina requires a little extra effort for
insertion, but once my penis is inside, its opened effect on the vagina’s inner lining is more pronounced, giving better
female orgasmic feelings” (PFIQ #15, by Carl Carroll). His account was accompanied by an actual photo. The splitting
supposedly took several years to complete.
 

SUBINCISION Subincision refers to the cutting of part of the glans penis from the tip toward the base. The length of the
cut varies according to the custom of the tribes who engage in this practice. Tribes in New Guinea used to make an
incision in the glans that was up to about 3/4” in length. Some men in these tribes had two incisions that laid
perpendicular to the shaft.

The ceremony of a full subincision is described as follows:

He is lifted and carried feet foremost to the shield, upon which he is placed. The assistant circumciser immediately grasps
the foreskin, pulls it out as far as possible, and the operator cuts it off.... One of the men has lain face downward on the
ground; a second on top of him. The initiate, conducted from the pole, is placed face upward on this living altar, and while
the company sets up a great shout, a third man, mounting astride the boy, grasps and holds his penis ready for the knife,
at which moment, a fourth, suddenly appearing, slits the length of it from below. In the women’s camp, meanwhile, at the
sound of the men’s shout, the initiate’s female relatives are being slashed across belly and shoulders by his mother. He is
lifted from the altar, and while he squats over a shield into which the blood flows, one or two of the younger men, who
have been subincised before, stand up and voluntarily undergo a second operation to increase the length of their incisions.
Standing close to the sacred pole, hands behind their backs and legs wide apart, they shout, ‘Come and slit mine to the
root!’ They are pinioned from behind, and the work is done (The Way of Animal Powers, by Joseph Campbell, p. 144).

There is a genital modification club in Chicago called INIGMA.

(See also BEE STINGS, BINDINGS, CASTRATION, CHASTITY DEVICES, CIRCUMCISION, COCK RINGS, PENILE LIGATION,
PHALLOPHILIA, SACOFRICOSIS, TESTICLES and WEIGHT TRAINING)

PERSONAL ADS Personal ads are those placed in magazines or papers to advertise one’s availability. This is done to meet
people with anything in mind from dating, exchanging letters and nude photos, swapping partners, or connecting with
someone who shares unusual sex preferences. The wording of these ads may be censored by the editor of the magazine
in which they are advertised. Sample ads from various publications :

Fit, Active Blonde, W/W/F, caring, warm seeking friend and companion 59+ to share some of life’s experiences. Enjoy
walks, seaside, mountains, dining & sightseeing (Trellis Singles).

MALE VIRGINS, Very busy attractive heterosexual female. Would like discreet intimate fun with you (Swinger’s Digest).

BEEFY RUMP, White Master, seeks slaves into spanking, paddling, ball work, wax and shaving. Take it on your beefy rump
and tender testicles! (DungeonMaster).

STOCKING FEET, I am a Bi Woman of 40 who wishes to share experiences regarding emasculation of males via repeated
masturbation and foot fetish. Sperm drawing of heterosexual, passive males for parenting purposes, administering female
hormones or other ideas to assure female offspring... (Sandmutopia Guardian 5).

ALL BAREFOOT TICKLERS, S/M adorable with extremely ticklish feet seeks females, couples, and singles into prolonged
foot bondage and tickling pleasures. All foot tickling fantasies are fulfilled and welcome ...(Fetish Times #191).

SEXY AND EROTIC WIFE, Young wife loves to make VHS videotapes with super-endowed black bodybuilders. I have many
VHS tapes. I’m willing to share with others who share the same hot desires (Cocoa ’n Creme #10).

MORE THAN JUST A SNACK, My lover and I are interested in getting together with a small group of hot hung men for long
safe cocksucking sessions. I am especially interested in experienced worshippers of uncut dicks. I enjoy feeding the hungry
(Drummer #133).

There are many advantages to advertising. In addition to meeting more eligible people, one may lessen the chance of
rejection at a later date by including things such as special interests, smoking, alcohol, inability to parent, herpes, sexual
preference, financial status, profession, religion, race, age, weight, education, etc. The distribution and anonymity
advertising offers can be very important if one lives in a small town.
Social etiquette can be important in writing an ad and in responding to replies on the phone or in person. One book
available to assist people in writing straight ads, replying, and arranging meetings is Personal ADventures, How to meet
people through personal ads, by Jay Wiseman, published by Gentle Persuasion Press in San Francisco. Familiarizing
oneself with the standard protocol can alleviate much initial anxiety.

(See also COMPUTER SEX, DATING SERVICES, MARRIAGE/MAIL ORDER and PHOTOGRAPHY)

PERSONAL POWER Personal power often acts as a catalyst for partners when engaging in sex. Politicians, movie stars,
musicians, sports figures, singers, and the upper echelon of corporations have this power bestowed by virtue of their
profession. Some are able to keep a balance in their relationships while others are not.

Dominatrixes and tops learn to create a power image and control their partner with it. Power over another person can
create an inflated ego that leads the top into viewing the servant with contempt or at least without compassion. This is
also called “top’s disease.” People who play in S/M roles of dominant and submissive are aware of this phenomena and
work to avoid falling into this mode of thinking.

(See also BLINDFOLDING, BONDAGE, CHASTITY DEVICES, DEFILEMENT, DOMINANCE /SUBMISSION, FLAGELLATION,
HUMILIATION, INTERROGATION, PETTICOAT DISCIPLINE, PHOBOPHILIA, PROFESSIONAL DOMINATRIX, TORTURE and
VICTORIAN LACE)

PERVERSION See PARAPHILIAS

PETTICOAT DISCIPLINE (Petticoat punishment) Petticoat discipline refers to the discipline used on young males whereby
they are forced to wear kilts without the sporran (purse) by their mother, sister, governess, or aunt. English and Scottish
mothers both used this method for controlling an unruly boy. This ploy worked by humiliating and embarrassing the boy
so much that he was careful not to engage in any type of activity that would draw attention to himself, thus making him
easy to control in public.

The degree of modification in attire depended on the boy. For some only a bow tie, short pants, or velvet fabric was
sufficient, for others lace, bows on the shoes, shaved legs, and girl’s underwear was necessary.

Older males were sometimes subjected to this humiliation due to the power a widowed mother had over their
inheritance. An extract from a letter to The London Times sometime during the 19th century quoted a woman as saying
she had “found an effective cure for my 20 year old son’s flirting with young ladies. Since corsetting him and putting him
into a short kilt he is unable to look a girl full in the eyes, let alone ogle her. I heartily recommend this form of
correction...”

Sexual literature often relates fictional stories of fourteen to twenty year old boys who are humiliated by a female, other
than their mother. These females add frills to their shirt, shoes, or underpants. The kilt may be cut short so that lace
underwear will show if the boy bends over. As often is the custom, underpants are not worn with kilts. Most of the story
lines include embarrassment suffered from having others look up their skirt, pull their pants down for a spanking, or
having females rub against their genitals.

Petticoat discipline differs from cross-dressing or transvestism because the intent is to have the masculinity and identity
of the male remain prominent. The male is not trying to pass as female; the change in gender identity would not
humiliate him nearly as much.

(See also DOMINANCE/SUBMISSION, TRANSVESTITES and VICTORIAN LACE)

PHALLOPHILIA (Macrogenitalism; Teratophallic—targe penises)

MALE: It’s not the size of the

ship that is important, it’s the
motion of the ocean.
FEMALE: But, only a fool would take a
dinghy out on a stormy sea.

Phallophilia (phallus: swelling of genitals, philia: attachment to) implies a sexual attraction that one has for an erect penis
of either extraordinary dimensions or endurance. The Greeks and Romans worshipped a god by the name of Priapus who
was endowed with an exaggerated phallus. He was thought to be the son of Aphrodite and Dionysus with conflicting
opinions that he was sired by Pan, Hermes, or Adonis. Priapus was abandoned by both parents and raised by shepherds,
later becoming the deity affiliated with flocks, fields, and orchards. Other cultures also had their phallic gods.

Women’s fascination with large penises is claimed to have affected our current male physiology. Helen Fisher, an
anthropologist, contends this in her comments, “[b]ut sex attractants evolved not only on the female. Through female
choice, the males evolved them too. Of all the primates the human male has by far the largest penis—much larger even
than that of a gorilla, a primate three times a man’s body bulk. The width of the normal penis provides extreme sexual
pleasure to the female... It seems that the largeness of this male anatomical part has no practical function other than for
sex, and undoubtedly it evolved in size long ago because women like men with large penises” (The Sex Contract, p. 6).
Today the average length of a penis in the United States is considered to be between five and six inches.

The Romans, in their worship of the phallus, wore amulets of the male genitals much as we wear religious saints, crosses
or stars. The phallus was thought to be a charm to protect one against the evil eye and it was worn by men and women
alike. Roman men also had their grave stones carved with the likeness of only their head and their genitals. Early
Christians were slow in giving up their worship of the phallus. Some continued to carry the lingam in religious processions
and others baked breads in the shape of sex organs. The Church finally compromised on the bread by ordaining that these
buns could be accepted in Christian holidays by marking them with a cross; thus the hot cross buns. The people had
fertility saints canonized, such as St. Foutin, St. Guerlichon, St. Gilles at Cotentin, St. Rene in Anjou, and St. Guignole of
Landevenec. Their statues often had large penises and some were worshipped by pouring wine onto this member. “Men
would present their afflicted members to the priest to be anointed with oil, and 1,400 flasks of oil were consumed every
year for this purpose” (Sex in History, by G. Rattray Taylor, pp. 270-71). Christians became fascinated with the prepuce of
Jesus and as many as 12 churches claimed to have it in their possession. This prepuce was substituted by the Church for
the statues of Priapus, hoping that this would discourage his religious influence.
Today people still give undue concern to the size of their penis and its virility. Penis size that matches the length of a
partner’s vagina is of greater value. One that is longer than the vagina will pound against the cervix and posterior fornix
causing pain with possible ulcerations for many women. Vaginas vary in length as much as the penis. Penises are also
easier to manipulate during oral sex if they are not too large.

There is a dating service called the “Hung Jury” that is designed for size enthusiasts. Men must measure at least 8” in
length (measured from bottom of shaft). Conversely, there is a special club, SMALL, that was begun to offer support for
men who are not satisfied with the size of their penises; it has also grown to encompass those who are short in stature.

(See also AGALMATOPHILIA, CASTRATION, DOCKING, FERTILITY RITES, FESTIVALS and PENIS MODIFICATION)

PHEROMONES Pheromones, a series of short-chain aliphatic acids found in primates, are chemicals the body releases
that can sexually excite a partner. These enter a person through the nostrils and cling to a receptor found in the nasal
cavity (Jacobson’s organ or vomeronasal organ). Unlike molecules that adhere to the olfactory system and excite the
sense of smell, pheromones are diffused directly into the hypothalamus of the brain and have no odor of their own.
Research is currently being done to determine exactly how this system functions in humans.

A refined ability to detect pheromones is more important for finding mates than vision or sound in species that do not live
in groups. Marking trails with pheromones left in urine and feces serves to lure a potential mate. Without this ability the
odds of the two meeting during the female’s estrus would be very low. Advantages this has over sound or a visual cue is
that pheromones can linger for days in an area, darkness is irrelevant, and predators usually don’t have the ability to
detect the pheromone trail of other species. Humans, because they evolved in clans, seem to have developed a primary
dependence on vision rather than pheromones.

The aphrodisiac effect body odor has on people was fairly common knowledge in the past. Krafft-Ebing relates several
famous cases from Europe. “The case of Henry III shows that contact with a person’s perspiration may be the exciting
cause of passionate love. At the betrothal feast of the King of Navarre and Margaret of Valois, he accidentally dried his
face with a garment of Maria of Cleves, which was moist with her perspiration. Although she was the bride of the Prince
of Conde, Henry conceived immediately such a passionate love for her that he could not resist it, and made her, as history
shows, very unhappy. An analogous instance is related of Henry IV, whose passion for the beautiful Gabriel is said to have
originated at the instant when, at a ball, he wiped his brow with her handkerchief.” Krafft Ebing also cited the example of
a peasant that had seduced many virtuous women by carrying a handkerchief under his armpit at dances and once his
partner began to perspire using it to wipe her face (Psychopathia Sexualis, p. 20). Napoleon also seems to have been
attuned to the aphrodisiac effect of pheromones present in perspiration and is often attributed with the command to
Josephine, “Don’t wash, I’m coming home.”

(See also OLFACTION)

PHLEBOTOMY Phlebotomy (phlebo: vein; tomy: to cut) is the practice of bloodletting. People once used bloodletting as a
substitute for the human sacrifices required for their deities. Bleeding also came to be used with magic to rid a person of
evil spirits and as their knowledge increased they used bleeding on injuries and hematomas. These people undoubtedly
noticed that animals gained relief from stress or facilitated healing of infections by tearing the area open and allowing it
to bleed. The Greeks recorded their observations of manics who became calm and even fell asleep when seeing their own
blood flow out of a cut. English dentists during the 16th century used bloodletting on their patients. Bloodletting
remained a common medical practice of barber/surgeons until the 1850’s. The barbershop blood and bandage striped
pole with the receptacle basin served to advertise their profession.

Bloodletting was introduced into religious practices when early Catholic monks discovered Roman medical texts that
warned against celibacy because it poisoned a man’s blood. They then took it upon themselves to bleed each other to
reduce the risk of toxins in their blood. This practice soon spread to single males in the general populace as a prophylactic
for chastity. Females were not required to be bled because of their menses. However, some Puritan women used it as a
form of abortion.

The connection between bloodletting and sex has persisted and today some people still find intense sexual arousal from
either seeing blood on a partner or from bleeding themselves. This falls under the general category of blood sports;
however, unlike other activities where bloodletting may be a by-product, here it is the central aspect. People often
combine bleeding with masturbation, enjoying the simultaneous sexual relief that each offers. Techniques include making
small cuts on the skin, puncturing a vein with a hypodermic needle, or piercing of a nipple and placing a suction cup from
a snake bite kit over the area to draw and collect the blood.

(See also BLOOD SPORTS, CICATRIZATION, MASOCHISM and VAMPIRISM)

PHOBIAS Sexual phobias are prevalent and include such things as:

A sex oriented phobia may be caused by societal guilt, a negative experience with intimacy, a lack of experience in coping
with fear, temporary stress, or by separation, overprotection, or rejection by parents when young. People can feel
anything from mild anxiety when confronted with the source of their fear to an extreme panic attack. One traumatic
experience or a series of negative experiences in relationships that produce painful feelings or rejection can condition a
person to automatically react with fear in the future. A well known, and still controversial scientist, claims that “even a
single exposure to a brief stressful event—be it environmental or pharmacological—can induce extremely persistent,
cascading sensitization to subsequent stressors or related stimuli which recall the memory of the original trauma
(Antelman et al. 1980, 1987, 1988; Antelman and Chiodo 1983; Antelman 1988). We have recently proposed that such
findings may be relevant to the development of syndromes such as delayed post-traumatic stress disorder, bulimia and
panic (Antelman 1988).” (Psychopharmacology, (1989) 98:97-101).

An example of a panic attack is the case of a woman with a phobia of relationships who when asked for a second date
experiences classic symptoms such as heart palpitations, chest pain, feelings of suffocation, dizziness, and sweaty palms.
Others may experience a shortness of breath, hot flashes, cold flashes, feelings of faintness, and trembling. The body
responds so frantically that even if the person feels a strong attraction it becomes insignificant when compared to the
relief felt when the relationship is ended.A number of people, about one in 40 in the United States, suffer from obsessive
compulsive disorder. These are “haunted by disturbing thoughts, usually about contamination, violence and sexual
issues.” Scientists feel that this disorder is caused by a lower level of serotonin in the brain. Those suffering from
obsessive fears involving sexual issues can now be helped by medication. (“Angst,” by Claire Conway, Stanford Medicine,
Spring 1992, pp. 26-30) CAUTION: Phobics who are in relationships often try coping with their fear by numbing it with
alcohol or by avoiding the problem.

(See also PHOBOPHILIA)

PHOBOPHILIA (Terror Play) Phobophilia (phobo: fear; philia: attachment) refers to people who become sexually aroused
by fear provoking stimuli. This is not surprising considering many people find such things as carnival rides and horror
movies so entertaining. People who do not perceive an event as involving real or immediate danger can transfer this
anxiety to sexual arousal. (Refer to PARAPHILIAS.) Almost anything that can initiate the fight/flight response can be
transferred to sexual arousal. Our bodies respond to each of these by producing adrenalin that speeds up our hearts, and
increasing oxygen intake to prepare us for a fight, flight, or sex. The most common form of phobophilia is the type where
a couple has sex in a public place, risking discovery (agoraphilia).

SM scenes are often designed to maximize the effects of fear. The black leather and chain costumes are made to look evil,
the whips and paddles appear more injurious than in reality, dungeons look cold and menacing, and the dialogue makes
one feel inferior and defenseless.

Terror is used in S/M scenes to create passion by capitalizing on a person’s phobias. A person takes the information they
have about a partner’s fear and uses it during a scene. For instance, a person who is afraid of heights may be forced to
climb ladders, if frightened by confinement they may be locked in a closet, those who get weak at the sight of needles
might be pierced, those that are afraid of losing their temper will be pushed to the edge. The games of terror not only
produce passion, bonding, and trust, but have the benefit of desensitizing a person to their original phobia. A person who
successfully comes through these experiences often feels empowered and better able to face other fears with courage.
The technique for creating terror in a partner requires quick unpredictable action, follow-through on threats, using
blindfolding with strange sounds, and physical control by the size of a dominant partner, use of bondage, discipline, or
knowledge of pressure points and wrestling holds. Dialogue and constant challenge is important in retaining power and
control. The bottom is not given time to rest, analyze, or predict behavior. CAUTION : The top (dominant) is responsible
for the physical and emotional safety of their partner. A person who is being forced to cope with phobias may react with
hysteria, screaming, violence, silence, or fainting.

(“Terror,” by J.C.C., QSM lecture, November 28, 1990)

(See also ABDUCTION, ACROPHILIA, CLAUSTROPHILIA, HODOPHILIA, JEALOUSY and PHYGEPHILIA)

PHONE SEX (Telephonicophilia—arousal from discussing sex on telephone) Phone sex implies a dialogue between two or
more consenting adults with at least one person engaging in masturbation. (Non-consensual phone sex is referred to as
an obscene phone call.)

Couples who are not able to be together use phone sex to simulate coitus. Others find that phone sex offers more
diversity than they can obtain otherwise. Any sexual deviation or otherwise physically impossible feat becomes a reality in
verbal sex. Some of these fantasies prove educational with regard to what turns a partner on and may provide new ideas
for inventive play. Since one is absolutely safe from contracting a sexually transmitted disease, phone sex is currently
enjoying unprecedented popularity.

Special newspapers or magazines advertise professional phone sex services for interested parties. These may consist of
party lines for novices, bulletin board personal ads, a recording made by a professional, or a live professional that will
follow a person’s cue as to the type of fantasy they want to hear. The services are staffed by adult heterosexuals, gays
and lesbians. Ads usually have a provocative photograph and advertise such things as: “Bizarre Erotic Fantasies”;
“Dominant Bitch”; “Your Personal Slave”; “Forbidden Games—Foot Fetishes, Cross-dressing, Golden Showers, Enemas,”
“Infantilism”; “Wrestling”; “Black Mistresses”; and “Ultimate Telephone Torture.” The erotic phone lines in New York
during 1983 received an average of “500,000 calls daily” (Time Magazine, 1983). A new service has the capability of the
caller seeing the woman on his television screen as she obeys his special requests

(See also ACOUSTICOPHILIA, COMPUTER SEX, FANTASY PLAY and OBSCENE PHONE CALLS)

PHOTOGRAPHY (Pictophilia—arousal from pictures or photography) Many people photograph their partner or
themselves during sex for arousal, often viewing the photos later. Self-developing cameras make complete confidentiality
possible for couples.

Consensual photo sessions of nude males or females can be arousing even without any type of sexual activity or genital
display. A few married couples consent to having their spouses pose nude for others to photograph as a hobby.

There are businesses in the sex districts of major cities where men can either take photos of professional women or be
photographed with them in an erotic pose. These photos are popular with men who want to take a souvenir of their trip
back to their buddies in a small town.

(See also COMPUTER SEX, PERSONAL ADS, PORNOGRAPHY and SNUFF FILMS)

 
PHYGEPHILIA Phygephilia (phyge: flight; philia: lust) refers to sexual arousal felt from flight. The public flock to see
movies about Bonnie and Clyde, notorious mob leaders, and gunfighters of the old West, many of whom may have been
phygephiliacs.

There are many cases where men have toyed with the police, even giving them leads to keep the excitement going. One
of these was an Englishman named Neil Cream, a lust murderer and drug addict who supported his habit by performing
abortions. Cream preferred to poison his victims and then retreat to a safe place to visualize their agony. “[H]e is said to
have derived further erotic pleasure from being pursued by the police—another aspect of criminal sex deviations little
appreciated but not too uncommon” (Perverse Crimes in History, by Masters and Lea, p. 165).

This attitude carries over into the criminal’s confessions once apprehended and they often use gross details of their
mutilations to shock the police and to arrogantly display their superior intelligence because, while the police arrested the
killer from evidence on one or two cases, he had killed many more victims.

(See also HARPAXOPHILIA, HYBRISTOPHILIA, PHOBOPHILIA, SYMPHOROPHILIA and VICARIOUS AROUSAL)

PIE THROWING Pie throwing is an amusing form of defilement. Pies have been thrown at parties, in films and by couples
in private. There is even a gay pie throwing club.

One individual, “Pieface Mike” (or, the “PieMan”) began his “pie-play” at the age of 8. At 18, he started to find it sexually
stimulating, and now likes to be “pied” during intercourse. A self-proclaimed “pisexual,” he has expanded his pleasure
into a performance art.

The PieMan has found a public intrigued by “pieings.” He approaches people in clubs and art events, inviting women to
rub pies in his face. Most accept, often finding a release in pieing a willing man. Mike enjoys the giggling and comments
they make. As she slaps him with dessert, a woman might say “Here’s your pie, SIR!”—and then massage the PieMan with
pie-cream. He’s been pied by some 700 women between 1990 and 1992.

Elements of arousal associated with pie throwing include anticipation, vulnerability and humiliation. Enticement by the
pied partner and an empowerment in the assertive act of the one who “pies” contribute to a mutual thrill, and they have
the opportunity to say or do the unexpected during this intimate moment. There are also erotic “messy” videos and
magazines that include scenes of women being pied.

(See also DEFILEMENT and SITOPHILIA)

PIERCINGS (Belonephilia—arousal from piercings) A piercing in this text refers to temporarily puncturing the skin.
(Permanent piercings are referred to as ringing.)

Piercings were used by many ancient cultures in their rites of passage. The piercings used by some cultures were in fact
much more horrendous than the skin piercings used today. There are Mayan artifacts depicting a man pulling a cord with
protruding thorns through his tongue. Plains Indians have Sun Dance ceremonies where they pierce the muscle above
each breast with a stick and, tying cords to the ends, hang from a tree until either the stick or the muscle tears loose.
Hindu Indians have until recently used many ritualistic piercings. These include hanging by hooks, lying on a bed of nails,
sewing fruit to the body, and Kavandi dancing in which a cage of spears is supported by the upper body and the ends
slowly penetrate the skin as the person dances or moves. The Chinese have used acupuncture, the insertion of needles, in
medical practice for hundreds of years. A different category of user, the drug addict, sometimes fixates on the needle and
addicts have described its penetration and the drawing of their blood to be like masturbation (Howard and Borges, 1971,
as quoted in The Many Faces of Suicide, p. 271).

Others have derived a more direct form of arousal from piercings. Hirschfeld wrote of a German who posed as a physician
and visited schools and homes to examine young girls. In full sight of parents and teachers he would undress the girls and
stick needles into them, pausing periodically to make notations. It was soon discovered that he was a farm laborer and he
was imprisoned.

The most common form of piercing found in S/M play is that of simply pushing a small 25 to 18 gauge sterile hypodermic
needle through a small portion of skin. These needles are not always available so barbless fish hooks, staples, and sewing
needles are often substituted.

People are inventive with games devised to entertain the bottom when pierced. They may weave patterns with tinsel
around the needles, put clothespins over the center of the needles, connect the needles with a cord, hang ornaments
from fish hooks, and some remove needles by whipping them out. Fakir Musafar once gave a demonstration where two
people were pierced, blindfolded, and joined by a cord tied to each needle. The people were then instructed to move
around and gently tug on the taut cords. Some play darts by filling a syringe with water and, pushing hard and fast on the
plunger, to sending the needle flying through the air to its destination. Other areas that are often pierced are the nipples.
The nipple is tougher than other areas and a larger gauge needle is used. The needle is never inserted straight into the
nipple toward the body but always parallel so that the tip of the needle is visible on each side of the nipple once pierced.

The labia is often pierced following the same guidelines as for nipples.

The glans penis is pierced but piercing the shaft can lead to serious damage of the cavernosa, nerves, and vessels. The
glans tends to bleed more than other parts of the body. The scrotal sack is pierced more often. The needles are anchored
to prevent movement. Some people use something similar to a butterfly board. A square piece of Masonite is used and a
styrofoam core of the same size is cut and placed over the board with two sheets of paper glued on top. The penis and
testicles are pulled up through a round hole that has been cut in the middle and the scrotum is then stretched and pinned
at the corners. Testicles are occasionally pierced but there are risks of the needle breaking, moving and tearing tissue, or
introducing pathogens into the testicle.

Piercing of the fingernails is very rarely done due to the severe pain. There are a few people who are involved in serious
foot torture, sometimes negotiating to have their partner insert needles under their toenails.

People fascinated with piercing explain their arousal with the description of the unique sensation of feeling something cut
through their skin. It is very rarely considered a painful experience yet endorphins seem to be released almost
immediately. CAUTION: Piercing the skin is a blood sport and therefore is not safe. (Refer to SAFE SEX)

(“Piercing,” by Raelyn Gallina, Outcasts lecture, September 15, 1989; “Play Piercing as Art and Sensation,” by Celeste,
QSM lecture, September 17, 1990)

(See also BLOOD SPORTS, RINGING and SAFE SEX)

 
PIMPS (Panderer, Procurer; Jack-gagger—if it is husband, Leno—mate, Lena—female) Pimps are people who live off the
proceeds gained from soliciting clients for a prostitute. The prostitutes working with a pimp do so voluntarily. However,
the conditions are often deplorable for the women and would seem to fall into a similar category as that of abused wives.
A procurer or panderer differs from pimps in that they deceive the victim into working for a bordello for which they are
given a commission by the madam or manager of the house.

Prostitutes gravitate toward pimps for several reasons. These men, unlike most, accept their lifestyle, understand their
problems, appear to remain personally unaffected by the woman’s sexual power, and create an illusion of self confidence,
affluence, and machismo. A prostitute usually derives her self-esteem from her ability to manipulate men and earns
monetary compensation from it. A pimp profits from reinforcing this image, encouraging her to continue her work and
relying on her ability to succeed. Some women receive benefits from their association with pimps, such as protection, bail
money, an apartment, and even a savings account. However, others find that because a pimp has to remain in control at
all times he often uses violence to win an argument. He may use addictive drugs as a means to keep women from leaving
and he tears down a woman’s self confidence by not encouraging her to broaden her base skills and attributes from
which she achieves self-esteem.

(See also BORDELLOS, ILLEGAL SEX and PROSTITUTION)

PINCHING (Thlipsosis—arousal from pinching) Some people are aroused by pinching their partner during sex or by being
pinched themselves. The most common areas are the nipples, upper thighs, and the back.

(See also BITING, CUPPING, SCRATCHING, SENSORY ENHANCEMENT and TICKLING)

PLANTS See APHRODISIACS, FLAGELLATION /BIRCHING, SITOPHILIA and URTICATION

PODOPHILIA (Foot fetish) Podophilia (podos: foot; philia: attraction to) refers to the sexual arousal certain people
experience when exposed to feet. It is only considered a fetish when one either favors these in lieu of a human partner or
has to focus their attention on the feet of a partner to achieve orgasm.

The Chinese have probably had the longest romance with feet, going to extreme measures in creating erotic effects. This
culture practiced the binding of girl’s feet, and occasionally those of catamites (boy lovers), from the 10th century until
the 1930’s. Other Asian countries, such as Japan, Korea, Tibet, Indonesia, and Mongolia, sometimes did this but never to
the same degree. A Chinese girl’s feet were first bound at the age of five to seven and continued to be bound until they
quit growing at age eighteen. This resulted in a foot size of about 2” wide and 4” long. The skin on the bottom of the feet
remained soft and supple because walking was restricted. The feet were perfumed and covered by embroidered satin or
silk booties with padded soles. Women occasionally masturbated by rubbing their feet and lesbians would put their big
toe into each other’s vaginas. Males indulged in such podophilic delights as engulfing the foot in their mouth, biting,
licking, sucking, thrusting their penis between the bowed arches, being masturbated by their partner’s feet, washing her
feet in tea and drinking it, trimming her toenails, placing almonds between her toes and eating them, and performing
fellatio on her big toe (Chinese Foot Binding, by Howard S. Levy, 1972).
 

A few men cannot resist the impulse to have sexual contact with feet. The March 19, 1992 San Francisco Examiner
carried an Associated Press article that read:

TOE SUCKER CHARGED WITH SEXUAL ABUSE St. Louis—A man who allegedly knocked down girls and young women, took
off their shoes and sucked their toes was charged with sexual abuse Wednesday. “It’s kind of a humiliating thing—I think
emotionally it just degraded them,” said Maj. Ronald Henderson, a police commander. [E.,J.], 28, was charged with
assault, indecent exposure and sexual abuse in incidents from January until two weeks ago (p. A14).

There are many reasons feet are said to be arousing. Feet are often the first part of a mother or father which a toddler
touches. Likewise, parents often play with toddlers by pushing them with their feet or letting them ride one of their feet.
Another aspect involved in the sexual attraction of feet is that love objects always have a barrier or obstacle to
attainment and feet are less available to many partners than the genitals. The feet are also less threatening for those with
coital difficulty because, unlike the genitals of a partner, they do not make demands for perfect sexual performance.

The preferences for types of feet vary dramatically. Some like toe nails with a certain color polish, others focus only on
the big toe and want it painted dark burgundy with the nail long and filed to a point.

Special clubs and bordellos exist for people interested in podophilia. The prostitutes engage in acts similar to those of the
Chinese men, except that the roles are often reversed and men will sometimes insert their big toe into the woman’s
vagina. There is also a 69 position where instead of having oral sex the couples suck on each other’s feet. High heels, foot
tickling, erotic torture, and bondage are also available. There are foot fetish magazines that have articles, personal ads,
and advertisements. One may order photos or videos of a barefoot woman pumping the accelerator of several cars, trying
to start the engine, as well as many other poses of the feet. A sample ad for the Barefoot Digest Annual reads, “Full-color
photo sets: TOES, FOOT-BOTTOMS, WRINKLED SOLES. DIRTY SOLES, FOOT-KISSING, FOOT-TICKLING...AND BONDAGE.”
There is also a “Foot Fraternity” club in Ohio that sells foot fetish material for gay males.

(See also ACROTOMOPHILIA, BINDING/ FEET, FETISHES, MASSAGE and TORTURE)

POLYITEROPHILIA Polyiterophilia refers to those people who have to have a series of consecutive sex partners before
they can orgasm. John Money refers to this phenomena in love & Love Sickness:

This is the polyiterative subtype of hyperphilia, or polyiterophilia. It is fairly well documented in the activities of some
homosexual males. Its definitive characteristic is that a man or woman builds up his or her own responsiveness towards
orgasm alone or with a partner by reiterating the same activity many times with many different partners in a limited
period of time... To illustrate, a homosexual male with the syndrome of polyiterophilic fellatio will be able to reach an
orgasm with his own partner only after accumulating a dozen “blow jobs, ” that is acts of fellatio, on different men at, say,
a steam bath or sauna club. (The John Hopkins University Press, Babaltimore/ London, 1980, pp. 263-4. Reprinted by
permission of the publisher.)

In polyiterophilia the person seems unable to orgasm with a partner without first engaging in sex with others.

(See also CANDAULISM, GANG BANGS and GROUP SEX)

PORNOGRAPHY (Ordure; Graphelagnia, Iconolagny and Pictophilia—arousal from pornography) Pornography (porne: a
prostitute; and graphos: to write) originally referred to writing about prostitutes and later came to include any text that is
specifically designed to elicit sexual desire. A few feminist groups have recently modified the term to mean erotic material
that leads to violence, rape, and degradation of women. Their adherence to this belief and resultant lobbying has led to
an attack on pornography that indirectly threatens art, music, and even medicine.

A few fundamentalists and a majority of conformists can have a major influence on a society. As late as two hundred
years ago in England private societies for the suppression of vice succeeded in banning “licentious publications” such as
The Rights of Man and Age of Reason by Tom Paine. In 1820 Palmer’s Principles of Nature, and Shelley’s Oedipus
Tyrannus were prosecuted as “seditious works.” Christians were forbidden to attend the theatre or to read novels which
were “instruments of abomination and ruin.” People’s vocabulary had to change; words like sweat, pregnant, sex, and
acts of defecation had to be replaced with more delicate and evasive words. Women began describing the location of
their pain to their doctors by pointing to a similar spot on a doll. Any part of their body that was between their neck and
knees began to be referred to as the “liver.” Even piano legs had to be covered with baggy linen so as to not arouse men
because of the resemblance they had to a woman’s legs. This was a resurgence of the same type of repression found in
the 17th century when Galileo and Campanella were tortured and Descartes narrowly escaped the same fate because of
censorship by the Church.

The United States Congress passed our first anti-pornography law in 1873 as the result of intense lobbying by Anthony
Comstock, Secretary of the “New York Society for the Suppression of Vice.” This man was then appointed “a special agent
of the Post Office Department and granted the right to open any letter, package, book, or pamphlet passing through the
mails. He personally had the power to decide what was lewd or obscene, and since he was a narrow-minded, prudish
fanatic, he soon established a dictatorial reign of puritanical terror which lasted over 40 years. Many of his victims were
physicians who tried to help their patients with birth control information” (The Sex Atlas, by Erwin J. Haeberle, pp. 377-
8).

Today organizations such as the “Christian Coalition” legislate against homosexuality, abortion, and certain depictions of
sex on television. Their goal is evident from a statement made by Ralph Reed, their Executive Director. “What Christians
have got to do is take back this country, one precinct at a time.” These people fail to show the same magnanimous
attitude as our founders. George Washington made it clear in the Treaty with Tripoli (1796), that “The government of the
United States of America is not in any sense founded on Christian religion.”

Control of the majority by the censorship of the few is by no means restricted to the ploys of fundamentalists or
feminists. The Tiananmen Square protest in China led to a year of arrests, martial law and now a crack-down on
pornography. Under the new laws that became effective in November 1990, men and women arrested for selling
pornography are being given tough sentences. Sexual morals have nothing to do with the rebellion or demands that the
students made, but laws against sexual expression affect everyone and intimidation is the swiftest method a faltering
government has of re-establishing control. On the other hand, immediately upon winning their freedom the communist
block countries have begun to allow sex shops to operate more openly. Katchadourian and Lunde, Stanford professors,
relate this standard political ploy. “The totalitarian states—Fascist Italy, Nazi Germany, Spain, Russia, and China—did
control, or still do control, the purity of their art, for reasons which are political, rather than strictly artistic or moral.
Fascist and Communist dictatorships alike have insisted that art be uncomplicated, inoffensive, and ideologically correct.
Obscenity, in their view, is merely one symptom of a basic decadence. In curing the root evil, which is individual freedom,
these regimes have removed their nations from participation in the mainstream of twentieth-century art and have
granted their peoples and their artists the comforts of insularity—untroubled by erotic fantasies” (Fundamentals of
Human Sexuality, p. 354).

People worry that if they are exposed to a variety of sex practices they will lose all control and indulge in dangerous or
repulsive acts. The facts are that people rarely develop a desire for something they formerly considered repulsive simply
because of exposure.

President Reagan approved the establishment of the “Meese Commission” to investigate pornography. Marty Klein, a
prominent sexologist, elaborates further. “In 1986, Ronald Reagan created the Meese Commission with the express
purpose of destroying the pornography industry. It was widely expected that the commission would issue a report linking
pornography to sexual violence... however, things did not go exactly as planned. The Meese Commission could find no
causal link between sexually explicit materials and sexually aggressive behavior. To its surprise, the commission also
found that less than one percent of the imagery in the most popular porn magazines was of ‘force, violence, or weapons.’
And yet, despite these and other well-known findings, a surprising number of people—many of them otherwise staunch
defenders of our First Amendment rights—wish to censor pornography in the interests of some greater social good”
(“Censorship and the Fear of Sexuality,” THE HUMANIST, July/August 1990, by Marty Klein, p. 15).

Tactics employed by opponents of pornography include emphasizing the minimal amount of “kiddy porn” and lobbying
against this, as people will rarely defend this type of child abuse. The “kiddy porn” laws are then written in a way that
eliminates many innocuous types of pornography or nudity.

The repression of true child pornography seems to have merit; however, the abolition of all pornography in societies has
grave consequences that involve an even greater number of innocent children. Dr. James Weinrich, a prominent scientist
and sexologist, holds the position that “[t]here is evidence... that permitting pornography can reduce child sexual abuse.
In Denmark, for example, after legalization of hard-core pornography in the 1960’s, child sexual abuse went down by a
very substantial percentage, and stayed down—an effect not accounted for by liberalized societal attitudes, increased
under-reporting, or less diligence on the part of the police (all of which were very carefully checked out in the study)....
[A] great deat—not all—of the sexual contacts between adult heterosexual men and girls is committed by men who are
not true pedophiles... Instead, much of it is contact by shy or inept heterosexual men who would prefer sex with adult
women but are frustrated in their attempts: men who found, usually accidentally at first, that younger women or girls are
less competent in resisting their advances... much heterosexual child molestation is substitutional in nature: such men
apparently can resist contacts with girls if they substitute masturbation with pornography depicting their main interest,
adult women” (Sexual Landscapes, by James D. Weinrich, Ph.D., pp. 397-8).

(See also COMPUTER SEX, ILLEGAL SEX and SNUFF FILMS)

POWER TOOLS Power tools used in sex games include drills, hedge clippers, wood lathes, weed eaters, sanders, milking
machines, and modified electric chain saws. People who engage in many of these activities are in danger of mutilating
themselves and causing serious injury.

Drills have been adapted for urethral play by inserting a long wooden cotton swab (i.e. those used for cleaning VCR
heads) into the drill’s chuck. The protruding cotton tip has a generous amount of oil based lubricant rubbed into it. The
drill is then turned on and the tip of the cotton swab is inserted just inside the urethra. Some hold the flat side of a 10,000
rpm finishing sander that is attached to an air compressor on their clitoris. One man brings himself to orgasm by holding
the handle of a weed-eater against his genitals while trimming grass.

Drills are also used with a modified dildo. The dildo is designed so that a projection extends through the base for
attachment to the drill chuck. The dildo is lubricated and inserted in an orifice and turned on. This can be dangerous if the
projection tears through the rubber cover of the dildo. Neither of these uses for a drill are considered safe. Wood lathes
have been adapted for sex by lining the socket end with soft fabric and inserting the glans penis. Milking machines give a
different sensation. The rubber sleeve unit is placed onto the penis and the other end of the cup is either left on the teat
of the cow or closed off to produce suction. The sleeve then milks the erect penis.

Chain saws are used as part of a mock castration scene solely for the excitement of a partner. A chain saw is modified by
removing the chain or blade that rotates around the groove in the protruding oblong metal plate. The mock castration
scene is set up by restraining the partner flat on a bed or against a wall. A blindfold is used at the beginning of the scene
to prevent the partner from detecting the artificial nature of the props. The partner’s genitals are then scrubbed down
with alcohol and tied in a snug (but not tight) tourniquet fashion around the base of the penis. The patient is told that it is
time for the castration and might be given one last request. The chain saw is started and slowly lowered so that the plate
rests against the top of the genitals for a brief moment. This type of sex play is safe so long as the consenting partner has
a healthy cardiovascular system. CAUTION: A chain saw without the blade removed is extremely dangerous. It may even
cause injury without being turned on. Extreme care is used for all other power tools as well.

(See also GENITAL/ANAL INSERTS, SAFE SEX, SEX TOYS and SYBIAN)

PREMATURE EJACULATION (Ejaculatio praecox, Preblysis, Tachorgasmia) Premature is defined in many ways. These
range from ejaculation before the couple has undressed to “when the man is unable to control ejaculation for long
enough to satisfy his partner in at least 50 percent of their coital connections” (Masters and Johnson, Human Sexual
Inadequacy, Boston: Little, Brown). The easiest definition to remember is that of D. W. Hastings, who “suggests
considering the man’s subjective judgment and defines as premature any ejaculation that the man does ‘not yet’ want”
(“Common sexual dysfunctions: I. impotence, II. ejaculatio praecox, III. lack of female response.” Psychiatr Ann I (4): 10-
31). (—both cited in The Treatment of Sexual Disorders, Concepts and Techniques of Couple Therapy by Gerd Arentewicz
and Gunter Schmidt, p. 21). Primal man is believed to have had to catch and mate with a female either before she broke
free or he was displaced by a dominant male. Kinsey reported that 75% of men surveyed ejaculated within three minutes
of penetration. Other primates take about 15 seconds. This condition exists in both sexes, but society seems concerned
only with the male. Premature ejaculation is common and can stem from many reasons. One is the environment where
most teenage boys learn their sexuality. Here masturbation is usually rushed through to avoid detection, conditioning the
person to focus on the orgasm without being able to emotionally relax and enjoy intimacy with a partner. Other causes
may be a physical disorder that induces pain which acts as a stimulus, fear of intimacy, the length of time since last
encounter, a new partner, or undeveloped muscle control. There are no simple cures, however. If a urologist and
therapist have been consulted without positive results, one may want to experiment with some of the following
suggestions:

Discuss anxiety ahead of time with the partner.

Exercise the muscles while urinating by stopping the flow several times.

Try not to focus on orgasm as the primary goal.

Masturbate before having sex with a partner.

Use condoms to reduce some of the sensations.

Have a glass of wine or beer and avoid caffeine.

Stop or withdraw the penis during intercourse if it becomes too intense.

Push upward on the perineum (1/2 way between anus and scrotum) before feeling an imminent orgasm in order to
relieve pressure that is built up in the prostate gland. This may first be practiced alone during masturbation.

Pressure or slight pain on the soles of the feet may inhibit orgasm.

Tantra training or breath control is valuable for some.

Use a squeeze technique where the thumb is positioned on the frenum with the fingers on the opposite side along the
rim. This is held for about 15 seconds.

Men who overcome premature ejaculation and learn to restrain themselves for long periods of time often discover that
spouses remain inorgasmic. The wife’s problem can often be masked by her blaming the husband. There are women, who
knowing that a man ejaculates in two to three minutes, will rush to orgasm themselves, proving that timing is not always
a problem. Unfortunately some women train themselves to orgasm through masturbation techniques that do not adapt
well to penetration by a male. These include using fingers or vibrators in a rapid motion. A person that requires prolonged
stimulus is said to have dysorgasmia.

There are many excellent resource books for people wanting to improve their sex lives. One is titled The Complete Guide
to Sexual Fulfillment, Your Questions Answered, published by Prometheus Books.

(See also IMPOTENCE)

PRISHA (Ischolagny-avoidance of females to prevent arousal) Prisha is the Hebrew word used to describe the separation
of the sexes. Several of the ancient religions engaged in this practice and it is still found in places of worship among
Hindus, Moslems, South American tribes, and Orthodox Jews. Methods used to facilitate this separation include the use
of two rooms, a curtain or partition called a machetza, or simply a distance between the two sexes. Some synagogues
provide mixed seating in the middle with segregated sections to each side.

A Hindu yogi once explained this tradition to surprised Americans by saying it was as simple as separating apples and
oranges; the two sexes are merely different. Rabbis explain prisha by saying people come to the synagogue to worship
and God should be foremost on their mind, not romance. Therefore, temporarily removing temptation only allows for
better concentration in prayer. (Females are not under Biblical command to pray together in groups as are the males.)

(See also HAREMS, NIDDAH and PURDAH)

PROFESSIONAL DOMINATRIX See DOMINATRIX, PROFESSIONAL

PROSTITUTION (Harlotry, Foreign woman, Scortum, Yoshiwara; Cyprieunia—sex with prostitute, Gigolos—male
prostitute) Prostitute (pro: before; and statuere: to cause to stand) is the Latin word that refers to people who receive
monetary compensation for sex. The Romans used the following prerequisites to determine one’s status. A prostitute was
one who engaged in sex pro pecuria, palam, and sine delecta—that is for money, for the public, and without pleasure.
Prostitution is practiced by men, women, and children. (See Caution).

The original Hebrew word used for prostitute was k’deshah, which meant sacred or holy. Organized prostitution was
originally engaged in by temple priestesses and the money gained used to support the house of worship. Aphrodite’s
priestesses usually remained in her service until their death. Temple prostitution diminished with the invasion of
patriarchal tribes and later ended with the spread of Christianity.

Petrie observed that the “early prevalence of mother-right was more favorable to the sexual freedom of women than the
later patriarchal system. Thus in very early Egyptian days a woman could give her favors to any man she chose by sending
him her garment, even if she were married.” In time the growth of the rights of men led to this being regarded as
criminal, but the priestesses of Amen, being under divine protection, retained the privilege to the last. (Flinders Petrie,
Egyptian Tales, pp. 10, 48)

Prostitutes, regardless of social stigma, were used by kings, soldiers, crusaders, commoners, and even the notorious Pope
Alexander VI who in 1501 went down in history as having the most licentious orgy at the Vatican. Burchard, a papal
historian, tells how, “one evening in October 1501, the Pope ordered fifty prostitutes to be sent to his chambers. After
supper, they danced with the servitors and others who were present, at first clothed but before long naked. Then lighted
candles in candlesticks were placed on the floor and chestnuts were thrown among them, and the women were ordered
to crawl between the candlesticks on their hands and knees and to try to pick up the chestnuts. Finally a number of prizes
were produced, and it was announced that they would be given to those men who, in the opinion of the spectators,
‘should have carnal knowledge of the greatest number of the said prostitutes’ ” (Sex in History, by G. Rattray Taylor p.
141).

Ancient Romans accepted prostitution to prevent men from seducing married women and thus breaking up families. They
had a special holiday set aside on April 23rd as a festival of the goddess of prostitutes, originally for males and later for
females. Messalina, the insatiable wife of the Roman Emperor Claudius, kept a room at a bordello where she could retire
and satisfy her curiosity and lust by entertaining a multitude of clients.

Conversely, Theodora, another Roman empress and an ex-prostitute herself, decided to reform all her sister prostitutes.
She created a monastery for the rehabilitation of 500 street-walkers. There they were made to conform to strict religious
discipline, with the fatal consequence of many committing suicide by throwing themselves out windows while other
captives went insane. However, despite her obvious failure in reforming the women, Theodora did not change her
opinion as to the best strategy for their reform.

Today men who hire prostitutes may do so after a date without sex, between girlfriends, for sex that they think their
partner would not perform, wanting variety, or for sex without commitment or guilt to name just a few of the
possibilities. Some purchase the entire night to guarantee that the woman will not abandon them after sex, and some
men reason that what they pay the prostitute is less expensive than a date.

Women choose to become prostitutes for just as many reasons. The pay is greater than other types of jobs available to
women, they find it exciting, they need male attention, and for some women without job skills it may be the only job
available. Almost all of the prostitutes in third world countries and many in America are mothers who are trying to
support their family. Charging men makes some feel in control, others enjoy the variety of sex partners, and some do it
out of revenge for a philandering husband.
Many prostitutes learn to become insensitive, since she and the client are engaged in exchanging commodities, and this
can cause either to feel used emotionally. Prostitutes vary as to what type of sexual services they are willing to offer and
adjust their prices accordingly. Prostitutes who work out of their own homes usually have a regular clientele with whom
they meet. These address books are sold to another woman when the prostitute retires and the seller then contacts all
her clients and tells them she would like to introduce them to a new person. One of these address books was sold in 1975
for $40,000. The media usually glamorizes the high priced call girl and stigmatizes the street walker. The profession as a
whole is wrought with hassles from clients, pimps, the police, society, and rapists. Many people assume that this peril is
brought upon the prostitute herself because of her morals. Priscilla Alexander, a feminist, disagrees. She states that the
“countries with the most restrictive legal systems, including the United States and many countries in Southeast Asia, have
the most problems with violence against prostitutes (and women perceived to be like prostitutes), thefts associated with
prostitution, pimping (especially brutal pimping), and the involvement of juveniles. Conversely, the countries with the
least restrictive measures, including the Netherlands, West Germany, Sweden and Denmark, have the least problems. No
country, however, is totally safe for prostitutes. The stigma isolates the women, and the remaining laws still serve to
perpetuate that stigma, rather than to dispel it and truly legitimize the women who work as prostitutes” (Sex Work,
Writings by Women in the Sex Industry, “Prostitution: A Difficult Issue for Feminists” by Priscilla Alexander, Edited by
Frederique Delacoste & Priscilla Alexander, p. 196). CAUTION: Prostitution is illegal in all U.S. states with the exception of
some counties in Nevada. Prostitution is also legal in some states in Australia and in Holland and Germany. The client who
requests a prostitute (or any woman) who is inexpcrienced or not trained in a specific type of sexual activity faces the risk
of her not being aware of the correct safety precautions. This applies particularly to any time an object is inserted into the
anus, an activity where the skin may be broken, consumption of feces or other body secretions, serious bondage,
electrical shock, oxygen deprivation, and catheter play.

(See also BORDELLOS, GEISHAS. HETAERAES, ILLEGAL SEX and SLAVES)

PSYCHROCISM (Psychrotentiginosity) Psychrocism (psychro: cold, or freezing; cism: act) refers to those who are aroused
by either being cold themselves or by watching someone else who is cold.

Hirschfeld relayed the personal confession of a male patient who had a cold fetish:

The thought and sight of chilly dress or pictorial representations of it, induce in me considerable erotic pleasure. My wife
naturally has no idea of my abnormal sensations in this respect. and when I make a drawing of the type with which you
are familiar, say, a drawing representing a girl with bare arms and shoulders, and dressed only in the flimsiest of undies,
on the ice in the skating rink, she always regards it as a joke, for she naturally does not take seriously the exaggerations in
which my imagination revels. Such fantasies, accompanied by masturbation, have frequently come to me at times when
sexual intercourse with my wife has been impossible for physiological reasons. These fantasies were confined to a single
subject—immature girls wearing the lightest clothes in winter (Sexual Anomalies and Perversions, by Magnus Hirschfeld,
p. 569).

Some people have masturbated by putting a towel in the freezer and then laying it on their genitals and others have used
icicles, ice packing or frozen food. One California man has reported that on several occasions after swimming in the ocean
for 30 minutes during the winter he would obtain an erection that lasted two to three hours.

Exposure to intense cold creates a sharp sensation that is similar to other types of physical stimulus that produce tension.
The mind changes its focus from intellectual pursuits to physical awareness. Many S/M players use cold contact to
heighten awareness of skin sensations. They often alternate cold with heat; such as ice cubes and candle wax.
(See also FETISHES, ICE. MASTURBATION and THALPOTENTIGINY)

PUBIC DRESSING (Pudendacure—female, Medocure—mate) Pubic dressing refers to artistic expressions of one’s
sexuality through genital hair dying, shaving, waxing, body paint, glitter, or stickers.

People who dye their pubic hair prepare it by first bleaching it with the same creams found in drug stores for facial hair,
adjusting the time required for bleaching to their own needs. The bleached pubic hair is then dyed with either regular hair
dyes or with colored pastes that come in little pots. These bright colors are applied with toothbrushes. Most other
methods of coloring leave residue of the dye on the skin or any fabric that comes in contact with it.

Trimming, waxing, or shaving the genital area is done by people who prefer not to have pubic hair exposed along the legs
of their bikinis or g-strings. Some women trim the hair around their labia to match the shorter length found higher on the
mons pubis. Complete removal of pubic hair is sometimes done to facilitate body painting and application of stickers.

CAUTION: Shaving creates small cuts in the skin and makes it susceptible to infections, including some sexually
transmitted diseases.

(See also BODY PAINTING, PUBIC HAIR SCULPTURING, RINGING, TATTOOS and TRICHOPHILIA)

PUBIC HAIR SCULPTURING Pubic hair sculpturing is done by permanently removing hair falling on the outside of the
pattern a person has chosen. The most common shapes used in sculpturing are hearts and triangles. Shapes are more
recognizable on people who have thick pubic hair.

Three methods used to accomplish permanent hair removal are electrolysis, thermolysis, and blend modalities which over
the period of one to two years will destroy all the hair follicles. All are considered painful and can cost up to $60.00 an
hour.

(See also DEPILATION and PUBIC HAIR DRESSING)

PURDAH Purdah (pardah: a veil) refers to hiding the faces of women from strangers and is practiced by some Hindus and
Moslems.
Babs Rule, the mother of a woman who married a Saudi Arabian man, wrote of her first experience with purdah.

To them a woman with her hair and face exposed is tantamount to an American woman strolling topless down Main
Street... My indication that I would be willing to wear the veil met with wide smiles of relief... all sought at once to show
me the proper way to wear the elbays, an opaque black cape-like material which covers one from head to thigh, with a
place to tuck your hands....All this was topped with a lovely square of decorated black chiffon to cover my entire head. I
could see through this, though not clearly... I was nothing more than a tall, slim, black blob... Quite a costume for the 120-
weather of Saudi in July... Women are not allowed to go anywhere outside the wall unless accompanied by a man. I balked
at this control but was told, ‘You are much too precious to have to make your way alone. We see that you are always
protected and cared for. No one will dare to bother or insult you’ (Everyday Life in the Harem, by Babs Rule, pp. 28-9).

Many feminists would feel that this social repression of women was abhorrent and lacked any advantage for women. The
one apparent advantage was that the veil, in some instances, provided anonymity for prostitutes or adulteresses.

(See also HAREMS, NIDDAH and PRISHA)

PYGMALIONISM See AGALMATOPHILIA

PYGOPHILIA (Pygophilemania—kissing buttocks, Pygotripsis—rubbing buttocks) Pygophilia (pyge: buttocks; philia:

attachment to) refers to those who are aroused by fondling, licking, or kissing of the buttock area. Some are also aroused
by rubbing their buttocks against those of their partner.

(See also ANAL SEX, COITUS INTERFERMORIS, COITUS A MAMILLA and FETISHES)

PYROPHILIA (Incendiarism mania) Pyrophilia (pyros: fire, philia: attachment to) refers to those who are sexually aroused
by fire. Fire was one of man’s most significant discoveries and has since been adapted for use in energy, medicine,
purification rituals, branding, torture, and sexual gratification. Fire and hot liquids can cause serious injury or destruction.

Today the practice that causes greatest concern is pyrophilia or pyromania. Pyromaniacs are defined according to
standards set forth in DSM-III-R psychological tests. These describe “deliberate firesetting on more than one occasion,
tension or affective arousal before the act, fascination with fire, pleasure or relief when setting fires, witnessing or
participating in their aftermath, not setting the fire for monetary gain, to conceal criminal activity, express vengeance or
in response to a delusion.” Most firesetters are male; however, a recent study involved 13 female delinquents. This study
indicated that unconfirmed sexual abuse was a common factor in most of their histories. Saunders and Awad found that
“there was a high rate of sexual problems: promiscuity, prostitution and questions about sexual orientation. This finding
suggests that female firesetters have a history of sexual problems. However, it is not clear whether or not there is a
motivational connection between the two, namely that the firesetting behavior is an expression of, or is motivated by,
sexual problems” (“Adolescent Female Firesetters,” by Elisabeth B. Saunders, EdD. and George A. Awad, M.D., The
Canadian Journal of Psychiatry, Vol 36 No. 6, pp. 401-404).

Some pyromaniacs, when setting buildings on fire, seem to feel empowered and sexually aroused by having been the
instrument of destruction. After setting a fire, the perpetrators often position themselves where they can watch from a
distance and masturbate. Others have been found next to the building where they seem to have gone into an immediate
nympholeptic orgasmic state that left them unconscious (a similar phenomenon as experienced by some necrophiles at
grave sites). CAUTION: Setting fire to buildings or other property is illegal and can cause untold harm, including death, to
innocent victims.

Other aspects of pyrophilia fall into the S/M arena, particularly when fire creates a sense of danger or excitement. The
S/M pyrophile can feel empowered by enduring its pain or controlling its flames. Sexual games include the use of
chemicals, ‘frying’ genitals in hot oil, hot wax, okyu, peau flambé, fire dancing, fire walking, cigarette burns, throwing
matches onto pubic hair, and flagellation (tapping) with torches. Dr. Hirschfeld wrote of a respectable gentleman in the
19th century who severely burned himself by applying chemicals to his body for sexual pleasure. Today chemical
analgesic balms such as Vicks, Ben Gay, or Tiger Balm are used to create a burning sensation on the nipples or genitals.
They mav also be used on a Q-tip and inserted slightly into the tip of the urethra. Irritants are also sold that are designed
specifically for sex. An Asian aphrodisiac, Chinese Red Powder, causes burning of the penis and irritation of the vagina.
The ingredients are cinnamon, mustard, pepper, ginger, and various herbs. There are several varieties of these powders.
CAUTION: The balm or powder is tested before general application by placing a small amount on the area where it is to be
used. A balm that causes irritation is diluted with Vaseline.

Males occasionally have their genitals symbolically fried in oil. The oil is placed into a large cup and the genitals are
lowered into the oil for a few seconds. The sensation is similar to the heat of the water in a hot tub and the oil is said not
to burn the skin. The remaining oil is allowed to cool on the genitals to serve as a lubricant for some sex acts. CAUTION:
Vegetable shortening heated over 125 degrees Fahrenheit (using a candy thermometer) can cause burns. People with
penile piercings do not engage in this activity; they are particularly susceptible to injury because the metal absorbs the
heat and can burn the flesh. In addition, oil can seep into the opening of the piercing and become almost impossible to
remove.

The Japanese moxibustion medical ritual consists of gluing cone shaped moxis on to a predetermined spot (usually on the
back) and lighting them. The patient endures as the fire finally burns into their flesh leaving circular scars, although some
have discovered that placing a thin slice of garlic or ginger root between the moxi and skin reduces this risk (“Scars of
Experience: The Art of Moxibustion in Japanese Medicine and Society,” by Margaret M. Lock, Culture, Medicine and
Psychiatry 2 (1978) pp. 151-175). Moxibustion has been modified for sex play by using Tibetan incense; cutting it into
1/4” sections and gluing it to the skin with a spray adhesive. Several of these are placed on the person’s leg and lit at
intervals so that the pain is continual. A milder form consists of taking a small burning incense stick and using it to touch
the skin of the partner; this is more frightening than painful. One Eastern religion uses a type of burning ritual (cones are
placed on the naked scalp) for emotional self-healing. This recovery technique is also emulated by some in the S/M
community. This process requires the person to meditate and channel all their negative feelings and thoughts onto the
spot that is burning. When the ember has burned out they visualize brushing all these thoughts away with the ashes.
(“Branding and Burning,” by Fakir Musafar, QSM lecture, November 18, 1989)

Peau flambé is practiced in several ways. Some people rub alcohol directly onto the skin and light it, others make special
torches (wood dowel, cotton center, a Coleman mantle, and cloth cover). These are soaked in 70% alcohol, drained of
excess alcohol, and lit. The torch is then either held under a person’s outstretched arm, run along the skin, or used to
flagellate (tap) the back or legs. (“Playing with Fire,” by Celeste, QSM lecture, September 15, 1990)

There is a female artist in San Francisco whose routine begins as she carries a bowl of flames onto a dark stage placing it
on the floor where she does a dance ritual around the bowl of fire then performs slow mystical gyrations in the subdued
light of the fire. She then reaches into the bowl and removes blue flames that she raises in reverence toward the heavens.
The dance builds to a climax as she uses torches to paint parts of her legs, torso and arms with this flame. The dance
culminates in a manner reminiscent of the ending scene in the ballet “Swan Lake.” (“Dancing with the Spiritual Flames,”
by C. Rose and E. Sweet, QSM lecture, March 21, 1991) CAUTION: Fire dancing has its own precautions. The alcohol (70%
only) is left sitting in an open dish for a couple of hours to weaken its strength. The torch must be made without glue,
paint, air pockets, or excess fabric that would create a hotter flame. Excess alcohol is drained to reduce the risk of causing
a fire. All clothing and hair near skin areas to be used are removed prior to play. Perfume cannot be worn by either
person. Areas burned are monitored for redness. A knowledge of first aid and fire safety is required.

Other types of fire play involve using a cigarette or match to burn individual body hairs without touching the skin.
Matches are used by some to throw onto pubic hair. The match extinguishes itself after scorching one or two hairs. The
match must be thrown accurately so as not to land on bare skin or bedding. Some use the side of a cigarette to run along
a person’s face, chest, or penis. This does not burn but is frightening. CAUTION : Cigarettes are not used to burn the skin
because they do not create clean burns and as a result easily become infected.

Firewalking is not considered sex play but is used very effectively for stimulation. The burning sensation caused by
walking across flaming embers lasts for about two hours. Therefore, some prefer to engage in sex just prior to the event.
Firewalks that take place at midnight in the woods offer this opportunity. People easily slip away from the circle of people
dancing and singing chants around the fire. Firewalking is being used in the United States as a form of psychological
healing. People’s past traumas are reprogrammed by a new frightening event, however this event is one they have
conquered, helping them feel elated and empowered. (Firewalk Retreat, by Catherine Grace, April 22, 1989) CAUTION :
Firewalking can cause first or second degree burns on the soles of the feet.

(See also ELECTRICAL SHOCK and SAFE SEX)

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QUADOUSHKA The Quadoushka sexual teachings are part of the tradition of the American Cherokee Indians.
Quadoushka seems similar to Eastern sex tantra in that it emphasizes breathing techniques, energy balance, and whole
body orgasms. Quadoushka utilizes Cherokee ceremonies and ritual for exploring one’s sexuality. A knowledge of Eastern
tantra, yoga, and chakras are recommended to enhance this training. There do not appear to be many books written
specifically about Quadoshka; however, classes and seminars are taught in the San Francisco area.

(See also BRADYCUBIA, KABAZZA and T ANTRA)

QUEENING The term queening refers to the European practice of a dominant female using a man’s head as her throne.
The woman sits in one of several positions, either on the side of the man’s head or so that his nose is near her anus with
his eyes covered by her genitals. The object of queening is bondage or breath control, not cunnilingus. The man may wear
supplemental restraints on the wrists and ankles.

A slightly comparable American sex scene is where a stripper completely disrobes and stands over a sitting male with his
head tilted back so that her genitals are only a couple of inches above his face. She stays in this position moving her pelvis
to the music for about five minutes. The male is not permitted to touch her in any manner during this exhibition.

(See also BONDAGE/THREE LEGGED BLOOMERS, CAT FIGHTING, OXYGEN REGULATION and WRESTLING)
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RAPE Rape (rapere: to seize) is a term used to denote coercion of a person to engage in nonconsensual sex. Statutory
rape applies to sex with minors whether it is consensual or not.

Governments have used different types of punishment to discourage rapists. The Assyrians permitted the father of a
virgin to violate the wife of the rapist. The Babylonians punished both the rapist and married victims by executing them,
and the English only punished the rapist if he refused to marry the female. The Persians punished men caught in harems
by having their male slaves rape them before castration. To accomplish this they hammered on a tent spike to force the
anal sphincter open (Perverse Crimes in History, pp. 202).

A clear understanding of this word is critical for many reasons. There seems to be an ambiguity between the definition
and the types of rape that are prosecuted. In general, men who use weapons, seriously injure the victim, attack a stranger
who resists, or rape a woman in her home seem to be prosecuted more often. The victims least able to convince a jury of
rape are prostitutes, married women who charge their husbands, single women who are attacked by dates, those who
are attacked by someone they meet in a bar, and those who do not sustain serious physical injury. Society’s vague and
inconsistent definition of rape has resulted in false convictions as well as false acquittals. Diana Scully, a sociologist who
studied convicted rapists, shows the diversity in what they believe constitutes rape. One rapist remarked that “[r]ape is
when a woman’s life is in danger, without a doubt, or when she is beaten unconscious.” At the other end of the spectrum
were comments by those who had changed their interpretation after incarceration. “To dominate someone to the extent
you impose your will when they say ‘no’, to take without consent, violently or otherwise, if the victim is scared into it”
(Understanding Sexual Violence, A Study of Convicted Rapists, p. 87).

Rape does not appear to be found in all cultures. Peggy Sanday substantiates this in a study of tribal societies where she
found that rape was nonexistent or rare in 44 out of 95 groups. She attributes rape as having evolved when the group
became more dependent on men for survival than on female fertility (The Socio-Cultural Context of Rape, by Peggy
Reeves Sanday, 1979). Scully added that other social factors seem to encourage violence against women; such as those
“related to cultural attitudes, the power relationship between women and men, the social and economic status of women
relative to the men of their group, and the amount of other forms of violence in the society” (Understanding Sexual
Violence, A Study of Convicted Rapists, p. 48).

Rape may be interpreted differently by different cultures. Among certain South American tribes, women wear only
ornamental strings over their genitals. However, they are extremely modest about exposing their inner labia and vagina.
They define rape as when a victim is dragged off, laid on her back, legs spread for all the men to see her shame, and
violently raped by all the men in her tribe. This is the punishment for some religious offenses. However, a man who
catches a woman traveling down a path and forcibly leads her into the woods for sex in a sitting position is not a rapist.
The tribe has as part of their social system a strong belief in compassion that includes not only the need to provide for
those who are hungry but also those in need of sex (Anxious Pleasures, by Thomas Gregor, pp. 102-4). Therefore, here it
seems that part of the definition of rape hinges on whether it was done as a punishment or out of desire and need.
African Gusii tribesmen in Kenya also differ in their interpretation of rape as a crime. Their religious belief system teaches
that a person who breaks taboos such as rape against relatives is a victim of mysterious spirit forces. This person or his
family is either assumed to have angered their dead ancestors, or they are the victims of the evil magic of envious
neighbors. Locking a rapist away would only delay or transfer the evil acts; their answer is to find the person causing the
criminal’s behavior. “A diviner may ultimately determine that witchcraft is the root of the problem and, for example,
direct the supplicant to purchase from a sorcerer, omonyamasira, retaliative magic, or emesira, designed to eliminate
both the witch and his witchcraft. If this, the last resort, fails to alleviate the affliction, it is understood that the witch’s
magic, oborogi, is of some especially resistant sort. Accordingly, the community waits to see who will die first, the victim
or the victimizer.” The tribes then tolerate known rapists, as well as other criminals, living among them. Levine, who lived
among this tribe, also noted that rape, “while treated as criminal behavior by the British, the Gusii people regarded as
necessary for the preservation of kin-avoidance, chinsoni, and the prevention of amasangia, death following adultery”
(“Crime or Affliction? Rape in an African Community,” by Sarah Levine, Culture, Medicine and Psychiatry 4 (1980) pp.
151- 165, D. Reidel Publishing Co., Dordrecht, Holland and Boston, USA).

Statistics show that up to 25% of heterosexual men admit to using force to get the sex they want. Many date rapists share
common attitudes and behavior that may serve to alert women. Many disregard their wishes, or show uncontrolled
anger, have unreasonable prejudices (a signal of not having compassion for others). They may also make references to
other women as being weak or hysterical, and insist on meeting in isolated areas.
Diana Scully discovered that, contrary to popular opinion, the majority profile of violent rapists did not include men who
had been beaten or molested as children; 71 % of the acts were premeditated, the men tended to be less aggressive, less
independent, most had religious affiliations, disliked their father rather than their mother, and had consensual sexual
relations two to seven times a week at the time of committing rape. In addition Scully found that they had a higher ratio
of physical violence against their lover than the general public but lower than felons who did not rape; were traditional in
their view that “women need male protection and that they should be more virtuous than men, for example, by not
telling dirty jokes;” matched traditional rather than modern masculine role for themselves; were low in general feelings of
hostility toward women (the study did show that the more traditional value they placed on women the more hostile
feelings they had against them); many believed that in general violence against women was a man’s right; had consumed
alcohol prior to attack; or used rape for revenge or punishment against a lover that angered or rejected them. If these
men think at all about what the victim feels they believe that after her initial resistance she enjoys the sex.

The street rapist is often motivated by a period of stress or disagreement with a female partner or relative. He seems to
transfer his anger from the person who is the source of the pain to an emotionally non-threatening target. Anger arises
from a feeling of helplessness. In order for the rapist to re-establish control he needs a target who holds no emotional
power over him.

A date rapist often does not have this prior trauma. He merely believes, as do most of his counterparts, that it is
acceptable to use force on a woman. He justifies his act by saying women are inferior, she was teasing him, or she had an
immoral character. Rape may even be more arousing to him than consensual sex because society forbids it.

Some rapists have sex once and leave, others keep the woman captive until they act out several scenarios, and a few may
engage only in fetish behavior. Some become sadists who get caught up in a euphoria caused by watching fear or pain in
the victim and will often continue this until she expires. Unlike people who engage in S/M they do not lose enthusiasm
when they realize their partner is not aroused; nor do they have experience in how to keep this reaction from escalating.
While many of these rapists do not ejaculate it is reasonable to assume that some of these do. (See ORGASM)

Often males, children, the mentally ill, deaf, and blind are targets of rape. The effect of rape on women is often deeply
traumatic. They suffer from nightmares, may relocate, have difficultly in working or studying, or becoming intimate with
another person. A woman who was dragged by the hair up stairs by her abductor began shaving her head to ensure that
it would never occur again. Some victims become lesbian and others have had to be institutionalized. Many rapists, on
the other hand, seem to suffer no emotional trauma or guilt from the act itself. Others feel extreme remorse and even
beg for treatment that costs them their sex drive.

Advice about how women should react when attacked varies according to the type of rapist. There are rapists who say
they would let the woman free if she screamed and physically resisted, others say it wouldn’t help her, and a few say it
would make things worse. Therefore, although it provides no guarantee of safety, the odds seem to favor full resistance.
Many police departments, martial arts clubs, and women’s groups offer basic classes in self defense.

Typically, convicted rapists are reported to be from a lower income group. A man who has control of one’s income uses
that as his weapon; the man who is not able to seduce and has no control over a victim’s income uses physical force. A
woman who has no control over the victim’s income and no physical strength uses seduction. Society is tolerant of misuse
of sexual power by the affluent, harshest on the poor, and ignores the female.

The initial emotional response to homosexual rape is shock, humiliation, fear, and anxiety. The victim may later become
reclusive and feel guilt followed by anger and depression. Their trauma, as opposed to women, often includes confusion
over their sexual identity because of their natural physiological orgasmic response to anal or oral sex. Young men may
become withdrawn, feel emotionally numb, avoid contact sports, fear men, develop a quick temper, low self-esteem, and
assume that they are effeminate. Parents can help reduce the risk of rape by educating their children while they are very
young. Books, such as Alice Doesn’t Babysit Anymore, are helpful. Another recent book, titled Broken Boys/Mending
Men, Recovery from Childhood Sexual Abuse, by Stephen Grubman-Black, was written for others who have been abused.

People sometimes unjustly accuse others of rape for personal reasons. These have been listed as “assault during or after
voluntary coitus, blackmail, jealousy, fear of pregnancy or venereal disease, or revenge.” They also include claims made
by children because of “an unwelcomed stepfather, avoiding parental punishment for returning home beyond the curfew
hour, and false accusation by a known prostitute for failure to receive payment for her services” (“False Accusations of
Rape,” by J. H. MacDonald, Medical Aspects of Human Sexuality, Vol. 7, No. 5, May 1973, pp. 170-194).

Arthur Schiff, a physician working at a Rape Treatment Center in Miami, wrote of several such cases. In one a girl was
“jilted by her steady boyfriend for a new girl in the neighborhood. When the new girl moved shortly afterwards to a
distant city, the boy returned to his former girlfriend. At a school dance, she seduced him and had sexual intercourse with
him in the play-ground. She reported that she had been raped. After several hours spent untangling the various threads, it
was finally learned that she had not been raped, but had given her consent. She had wanted ‘to teach him a lesson’ for
abandoning her in favor of the new girl.” Schiff also listed an 8 year old girl who reported a false rape hoping to be taken
from her home and custody given to her grandparents, a 16 year old who afraid of being pregnant invented a rape story
to protect her reputation, and of a 41 year old news reporter who falsely claimed to have been raped to get an inside
story of how rape victims were handled inside the Rape Treatment Center (“An Unusual Case of Pseudo Rape,” by A.F.
Schiff, M.D., Journal of Forensic Sciences Vol 20, No. 4, October 1975, pp. 637-641). It is as inhumane to falsely charge
another of rape as it is to rape.

(See also BIASTOPHILIA, DACRYPHILIA, ILLEGAL SEX, LUST MURDER, SADISM and SEXUAL HARASSMENT)

RELICS (Thesauromania—arousal from collecting articles belonging to women) A relic (relike: remains) refers to an object
that serves to remind one of the past. A relic can be a body part or an object associated with a saint that is kept and used
in memorial services. Relics of loved ones were often used before photographs were common. Soldiers often carried such
things as shoe laces, rings, a bracelet of hair, feather, or garter. Men wore these in their hats, on arm bands, or over their
hearts, often pausing during the day to kiss the object that once belonged to their lover. Other men, according to
historical records quoted by Havelock Ellis, wore these relics around their genitals. “A captain told me that when they
were rifling the dead bodies of the French gentlemen after the first invasion they found that many of them had their
mistresses’ favors tied about their genitories.” Ellis continues with the accounts of women who had their husband’s
genitals cut off upon their death and kept them in small silver and gold caskets, and a man who kept the skull of his dead
mistress on his desk.

Lust murderers often collect memorabilia from their victims. These are sometimes used later during masturbation.

(See also CHARMS and LOVE POTIONS)

RHABDOPHILIA (Flagellation fetish) Rhabdophilia (rhabdos: a rod, philia: attachment to) refers to people who are
aroused by being caned, or flagellated. The caning is often combined with humiliation or fear in a fantasy scenario. In
order for pain or injury to produce the desired euphoric effects it must be anticipated, threatening, or part of a scene that
includes a person to whom they are sexually attracted. Some people engage in self-flagellation to produce a cathartic
effect without a sexual partner.

(See also ALGOPHILIA, BED OF NAILS and FLAGELLATION)

RINGING Ringing is a term used to describe permanent piercings. These are ornamented with jewelry and can be on any
part of the body where the flesh protrudes: ears, nose, nipples, penis, scrotum, labia, or navel.

Erotic piercings have been used for hundreds of years by many diverse cultures: Roman soldiers, Victorian aristocrats,
natives of Southeast Asia, and even Egyptian royalty at one time wore navel rings.
People are attracted to piercings for many reasons. It may be a commitment to a leather lifestyle, purely aesthetic,
practical for S/M play, to make a statement about one’s sexuality, to increase sensitivity to touch, or as a way to protest
the shame or stigma society has placed on the genitals by enhancing them with jewelry. Today many Europeans use
genital piercings as a symbol of marriage. A gold ring on the genitals of a partner seems to convey more of a sexual
commitment than a ring on the finger. Many in the San Francisco area think that only gays have pierced nipples. This
misconception may be due to the fact that women do not walk down Castro Street topless. CAUTION: There are several
factors involved in ringing and only an experienced person is recommended to perform this procedure. The exact location
of the piercing can be critical and sterile techniques are necessary just as in temporary piercings. Anesthetics are made
available by some but not all piercers. Pain has not prevented many from having areas such as the nipples and glans penis
pierced. Surgical stainless steel, 14k gold, platinum, and niobium are used for jewelry. People react differently to metals;
some cannot tolerate the nickel content of stainless steel, or react badly to copper in gold alloys. Substitution of other
metals often clears up the problem. The needle is one size larger than the ring or bar. A piercing may take anywhere from
two weeks to three months to heal depending on the area pierced. The labia heals fast while nipples take longer. A new
piercing has to be washed with surgical soap or salt water for about five days while rotating the jewelry. A piercing should
always have something in it to prevent it from closing. Fishing line is used because it offers partial concealment when one
chooses to use discretion. If a piercing becomes infected it is recommended that the jewelry be replaced with wire
filament because it keeps the wound from closing and allows pus an escape route. People are individual as to the type of
metal their body accepts or rejects.

CLITORIS Clitoral piercings are rare due to the initial pain and risk of severing essential nerves although one woman did
report constant intense arousal from this type of piercing. Clitoral hood (the equivalent of the male foreskin) piercings are
very attractive and if the ball of the ring hangs over the clitoral area it can provide extra stimulation.

LABIA Labia rings do not create an erotic sensation themselves. However, some women have hung strings or chains with
weights on the ends and gone dancing without underpants. The swinging weights cause the labia to rub against each
other. The labia rings, if pierced symmetrically, can be used to pull the labia apart for cunnilingus or can be tied together
for a mock infibulation. Women who have stretched the size of the piercing have been able to place a heart-shaped lock
through both labia.

NIPPLE Nipple rings were at one time worn by Roman centurions who used them as a symbol of their courage and some
used them to anchor the corners of their capes. Victorian women wore nipple rings to increase the size of their nipples
and make them more noticeable. Today men and women wear them for ornamental purposes, S/M play, or to make a
serious statement about their sexuality. Diamond studded gold rings and gold shields are available at piercing salons and
by mail order. (“Nipple Piercing,” by Jim Ward, QSM lecture, September 23, 1989)

PENIS There are many types of rings that are worn through the penis and each offers a different benefit.

The Prince Albert was originally used by Victorian men as a way to keep their penis pulled flat so as not to protrude when
wearing the tight pants that were popular at that time. The men slipped a sash through the ring and anchored it along
their inseam. This piercing is designed so that the ring enters the urethra and comes out the bottom of the frenulum. It is
claimed that Prince Albert wore one to hold back the foreskin on his uncircumcised penis, making it easier to keep clean.
This ring puts pressure against the frenulum and urethra during penetration and creates stronger sensations for men and
their partners. For this reason it is recommended by men who use condoms.

The Ampallang was once found in ancient South East Asia, chiefly among the Dayaks. It is a bar or rod that pierces
through the glans horizontally and above the urethra giving more of a feeling of firmness to the glans penis during
penetration. The procedure for this ancient custom has been described as follows.

At first the glans is made bloodless by pressing it between the two arms of a bent strip of bamboo. At each of these arms
there are openings at the required position opposite each other, through which a sharp pointed copper pin is pressed after
the glans has become less sensitive. Formerly a pointed bamboo chip was used for this purpose. The bamboo clamp is
removed, and the pin, fastened by a cord, is kept in the opening until the canal has healed up. Later on the copper pin
(oetang) is replaced by another one, generally of tin, which is worn constantly. Only during hard work or at exhausting
enterprises is the metal pin replaced by a wooden one. Exceptionally brave men have the privilege, together with the chief,
of boring a second canal, crossing the first, into the glans. Distinguished men may, in addition, wear a ring round the
penis, which is cut from the scales of the pangolin, and studded with blunt points (Sexual Life of Primitive People, by H.
Fehlinger, pp. 107-8).
These bars may be further ornamented. In the southern Philippines a ring is used that goes “completely around the penis
but held in place by a pin or bar rowel-shaped ...These inserts are also said to make intromission difficult. One report
states that a person with the insert cannot deflower a woman, so servants, without the inserts, must undertake this task”
(The Penis Inserts of Southeast Asia, by Donald E. Brown, James W. Edwards, and Ruth P. Moore, p. 3).

The apadravya is a bar placed through the glans penis vertically, being inserted just above the corona and extending down
through the frenulum. The irregular movement during intercourse causes somewhat of a vibrating sensation for the
woman.

The dydoe is a bar or ring that pierces through the upper and lower edge of the corona and is used to revive part of the
sensation that is lost due to circumcision.

The frenum ring serves a similar purpose. This ring runs through the frenulum and either hangs down to perhaps be
tugged on during sex or is flipped over the glans and used to stimulate the frenulum area and base of corona, or some use
it as a cock ring to sensitize the tip of the penis.

SCROTUM Piercing the side of the scrotum is an ancient Arab tradition done at puberty to “keep the testicles from ever
rising back into the body.” The hafada piercing is ornamental and some add expensive jewels for enhancement. Another
piercing is the guiche, which is placed slightly beneath the posterior of the scrotum along what looks like a seam running
to the anus. This ring is common in the South Pacific and is said to prolong and intensify orgasms when gently pulled
upon. The correct placement is crucial for the desired effect.

Many people worry that a physician may be critical or refuse health care to someone who is wearing sexual jewelry.
However, most are professional and will not let their personal opinions keep them from giving any patient adequate care.
Airport security alarms are rarely set to the sensitivity needed to detect a few metal rings. (“Male Piercing,” by Jim Ward,
QSM lecture, November 4, 1989)

(See also JEWELRY and PIERCING)

 

RITUAL SEX Rituals are procedures or ceremonies that are prescribed and carried out at specified times. “The word ritual
comes from rtÅ, Sanskrit for menses. Menses, literally month, is from the Latin, directly translated into English to denote
the periods of the yearly calendar. The earliest rituals were connected to the women’s monthly bleeding” (The Once &
Future Goddess, by Elinor W. Gadon, p. 2).

Religious rituals have included some very unusual sex practices throughout history. The American Indian Hopi tribes
observed a snake dance ritual where cross-dressing, zoophilia, and switching partners were common. The Roman
emperor Heliogabalus performed rituals to his god that included exotic dances, dressing in the garb of a priestess, the
slaughter and sacrifice of numerous animals and humans, and throwing the castrated members of young boys into a
sacrificial fire. Rituals of the May Games and Feast of Fools included orgies, transvestism, and the slinging of excrement.

Satanic Black Masses were celebrated as a farce in direct opposition to religious rituals that were being forced on people.
One Black Mass was described in J.A. Roger’s writings. “In the genuine Black Mass, the priest officiated at a regular altar
with bread, wine, and missal. He was nude save for a chasuble about the waist, which was lifted from time to time in
complete exposure of himself. The altar boys were nude and so were some of the women worshippers. At a certain part
of the ceremony one of the women offered herself to the priest, the rest of the congregation following his example. The
sexual excitement created an atmosphere in which the worshippers felt themselves lifted on high and saw their fondest
hopes being fulfilled.” Black Masses have been staged in some European brothels for the benefit of curious clients (Sex
and Race in the New World, by J.A. Rogers, p. 330).

One of the most notorious sex rituals was one practiced by a Christian sect that began in Russia during the late 18th
century. The Skopzis, who referred to themselves as the “White Doves,” believed that Jesus was sent to castrate men
thereby making it impossible for them to sin. However, he failed and died as a martyr instead. Jesus was then replaced by
their savior Szelivanov, who, like Joseph Smith, wrote his own holy scriptures called the “Book of the Dove” that takes
precedence over the Bible. Szevlivanov recommended a literal interpretation of passages that spoke of amputating body
parts that cause one to sin; therefore, because the original sin in their eyes was sex, it was only appropriate to castrate
themselves. Szevlivanov castrated himself by baptism with a red-hot iron and convinced many others to be baptized in a
similar fashion. Female converts who could no longer be sexually satisfied by their husbands were allowed to engage in
prostitution; the proceeds went into the church’s treasury. Some of the male converts failed in their attempt at castration
by fire and were relegated to a lower position of the Lesser Seal. Soon orgies and sadomasochism became part of
religious services. This was encouraged by those who had been successful in castration because they still retained sexual
passion and were not only excited by watching others indulge but were able to obtain sexual release by dance and
sadomasochistic activities. During these rituals a virgin was brought into the orgy to be impregnated with the savior.

She was then undressed and immersed in a tub of warm water. That her pain might be relieved, she was given an image of
the Holy Ghost to hold while the old women amputated her left breast. The bleeding virgin was then placed upon an altar,
and an almost inhuman orgy followed. The amputated breast was hacked into tiny pieces and grabbed by the worshippers
to be eaten while still warm ... Almost invariably the “God Mother” was impregnated in the course of this orgy ... On the
eighth day of the child’s life, his left side was lanced by a finely pointed spear, and the warm blood that flowed from the
wound in the infant body was drunk in the communion service. The body itself was dried and pounded into a powder ... to
be offered the worshippers on the first day of the Easter season (The Sacred Fire, by B.Z. Goldberg, pp. 259- 262).

Rituals temporarily separate the participant from his normal identity, replacing his interpretation of events and response
with prescribed behavior. Rituals dictate behavior, control thoughts, emotions, and when engaged in often can restrict
the amount and clarity of information received. These happen to be the four components necessary for any type of mind
control as reported by Dr. Steve Hassan, a former member of the Moonies (Combatting Cult Mind Control, p. 59).

Just as sex was often part of rituals that were associated with other aspects of our lives, rituals are used today in sex. One
type of ritual is used in training sex slaves. Lady Tanith, a professional dominatrix, describes its importance. “The
dominant is also expected to don a special costume and to treat the submissive in a highly ritualized manner. Enforcing
certain rituals is also helpful to a submissive in internalizing his slavery. The effect of ritual behavior on the human psyche
is age-old and well-documented, arousing emotions that tend to be religious in nature...When a slave is performing a
series of regular, required behaviors, he is completely encapsulated in the context of the ritual. He is entirely isolated
from his ‘normal’ environment. He literally loses himself and his sense of separate identity, submerging himself totally
into his role. He does not think; he performs...the ritual begins the transition between ‘normal’ and ‘slave-
Master/Mistress’ mode” (A Tangled Web: The Art of Slavery, A Training Manual for Mistresses, Masters and Slaves,
Version 1.1, by Lady Tanith, p. 5).

(See also FERTILITY RITES, ORGIES, SACRIFICES, SATAN WORSHIP, SEX MAGICK and SLAVES)

ROBOTISM See ANDROIDISM and COMPUTER SEX

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LEOPOLD VON SACHER-MASOCH Sacher-Masoch (1836-1905) was an aristocratic Austrian novelist who wrote sexual
tales of men being dominated, humiliated, and disciplined by beautiful women. His book Venus in Furs gave him the most
notoriety.

Sacher-Masoch courted many women and was able to persuade several to oblige him by acting out his fantasies. The
notoriety he received for his novels gained him the attention of Richard von Krafft-Ebing, a neurologist and psychologist,
who decided to label his popular passion as a disease; along with nymphomania, fetishes, homosexuality, and
masturbation.

Krafft-Ebing’s decision to use the term masochism was disturbing to Sacher-Masoch who was only one of many through
history who wrote of this type of sexual proclivity.

(See also DOMINANCE/SUBMISSION, HUMILIATION, MASOCHISM, PARAPHILIAS and MARQUIS DE SADE)

SACOFRICOSIS Sacofricosis refers to the practice a few men have of cutting a hole in the bottom of their front pant
pocket and then sticking their hand through to masturbate. This allows men to be able to masturbate in public places
with less risk of detection.

(See also DOCKING and EXHIBITIONISM)

SACRIFICES (Sphagia, Thusiai) Sacrifice (sacer: sacred and facere: to make) is the act of making an object sacred, by
offering it to a god. The term is also used to refer to the voluntary forfeiture of something valuable.

People make sacrifices in relationships for similar reasons as they used to do in religious worship. It may be done as a sign
of reverence, submission, a tribute, atonement for sins, a price to purchase happiness, an exchange of present pain for
future bliss, or a form of masochism.

The methodology of human sacrifice varied according to culture. C.W. Jung related an example of a legend from the 5th
century of a city near Rome where maidens were taken to “a certain cavern in which could be seen a frightful and terrible
dragon of marvelous size, a mechanical contrivance that brandished a sword in its mouth and had shining red jewels for
eyes. Every year girls were consecrated and adorned with flowers, and then given to the dragon in sacrifice. For, as they
descended with their gifts, they unwittingly touched the step to which this devilish mechanism of a dragon was attached,
and were instantly pierced through with the sword that sprang out, so that innocent blood was shed” (The Collected
Works of C.G. Jung, (Bollingen Series XX) 20 vols., 5, par. 574, quoted in Rape and Ritual, p. 117).

Males were also sacrificed. In India female devotees of Kali the Goddess of Death “hunted men in packs. Like thugs and
assassins, their aim was to spring upon the unwary traveler and sacrifice him to the Black Mother of Destruction. Torture
and sexual abuse were the usual preliminaries to a death involving genital dismemberment, disembowelment, and
decapitation. A common method of torment employed by the singhistriyan (tiger women) was that of slowly and
persistently masturbating their victim to the point of senselessness” (Perverse Crimes in History, by R.E.L. Masters and
Eduard Lea, p. 203).

The Aztecs flayed the skin from a victim which a priest then wore during the ensuing ceremonial. The victim’s remains
were later served as the main course of their religious feast.

The female worshippers of the fire god Moloch sacrificed their infants to build passion for lesbian orgies. Goldberg
describes these rites. “Thus women, too, came to serve Moloch. They had their priestesses, who prostituted themselves
to the women worshippers ... When the women came to offer their sacrifices, they cast into the devouring belly of
Moloch whatever there was upon them or within their arms ... In the heat of her ever-increasing passion, she brought the
greatest sacrifice a mother could offer. It was then that Moloch first tasted the flesh and blood of the infants thrown
within him by mothers gone mad with desire” (The Sacred Fire, by B.Z. Goldberg, pp. 150-151). It must be remembered
that infanticide was a common method of population control for many cultures and the opportunity to sanctify this act
was welcomed by many. This civilization eventually encountered the problem of overpopulation and modified their
sacrificial offerings accordingly.

Nominal human and animal sacrifice exists today among a few Satanic cults. Most of these are individuals who attribute
their lust for murder to their affiliation in a small cult. These people are responsible for an estimated 12 human deaths a
year. An example of a cult sacrifice was found in a January 1986 Penthouse article by Dr. Joel Norris and Jerry Allen
Potter. They relayed the court testimony of a woman involved in a cult sacrifice in Massachusetts. “While telling the court
about the killing, Murphy explained how the group had struck Marsden in the head with rocks, cut off her fingers to
remove her rings, stripped her, slit her throat, and severed her head and kicked it around. Drew then had sex with the
decapitated body, and carved an X on the victim’s chest while speaking ‘a strange language’. He then put his thumb in the
dead Marsden’s blood and made an X mark on Murphy’s forehead, telling her that she was now initiated into the group.”

(See also FERTILITY RITES, FESTIVALS and RITUAL SEX)

SADISM (Tyrannism; Leptosadism—mild form of sadism, Mastix—female sadist and Sapphosadism—lesbian sadism)
Sadism is the name given to the sexual practices of those who derive pleasure from dominating or inflicting emotional
and physical pain on others. The word sadism was formulated after the release of writings by Marquis de Sade to
characterize that type of sexual cruelty. Unfortunately the term was extended to encompass consensual sex play between
adults, thus causing much prejudice and misunderstanding during the next two centuries.

Consensual S/M and sadism are as different as normal sex compared to rape. True sadists are not concerned with
whether the victim has a pleasurable response; people who play consensual S/M are extremely concerned.

Sadistic tendencies are inherent in humans and animals alike. Sadism is linked to our aggressive response in protecting
ourselves and yet still preserving the group. Injuries are physical signals that alert us to the resolution of a conflict or the
surrender of an opponent. For instance, two dogs will fight over a bone until one of them submits, as evident by a
vulnerable pose or visible wound. At this point both the victor and the loser will experience euphoria due to the release of
b-endorphins. In addition, the victor will experience a sense of power and enhanced self-esteem. There appears to be
new evidence that the immune system is also stimulated when one is exposed to others suffering. Drs. Irwin, Livnat, and
Ader address this in the following quote:

Consistent with the earlier results, only those animals exposed to the environment in which animals were being shocked
(No Shock With) exhibited an increase in splenic NK /Natural Killer/ activity...It may be speculated that in anticipation of
such a threat, physiological changes occur which would prepare the organism to respond to the environmental challenge.
Consequently, the enhancement noted in NK activity may be the byproduct of increased sympathetic activation, or it may
be an adaptive response in the face of possible physical insult. Although the nature of the cues remains to be determined,
these data do indicate that the environmental context in which a stressor is applied may be an important determinant of
the immunological consequences of stress exposure. Stressor Associated Cues Influence Immune Function, by J. Irwin, S.
Livnat, and R. Ader, Queen’s University, Kingston, Canada, K7L 3N6 and University of Rochester, Rochester, N.Y., 14642

In sadism it appears that people are capable of achieving relief of free-floating anxiety by transferring their fight-flight-sex
response onto another person or object. For instance, a man who is angry at a spouse is able to humiliate, rape or
mutilate another person and relieve their stress due to the signals of defeat in their victim. The fact that the sadist does
not know or care for his victim makes it easier for him to carry the attack further than he normally would. A person who
does attack their lover may use even greater violence because a love object creates a higher level of anxiety. People who
reach these extremes of tension may lose their ability to think or behave rationally, their minds may become blank or
replay other incidents, and they may beat or mutilate their partner until they regain a conscious state. Dr. Seymour
Antelman et. al. have studied the results of repeated exposures to stress in animals and stated the following:

Even a single exposure to a brief stressful event—be it environmental or pharmacological—can induce extremely
persistent, cascading sensitization to subsequent stressors or related stimuli which recall the memory of the original
trauma (Antelman et al. 1980, 1987, 1988; Antelman and Chiodo 1983; Antelman 1988). We have recently proposed that
such findings may be relevant to the development of syndromes such as delayed post-traumatic stress disorder, bulimia
and panic (Antelman 1988). (Persistent sensitization of clonidineinduced hypokinesia following one exposure to a stressor:
possible relevance to panic disorder and its treatment, by Seymour M. Antelman, Steven Knopf, Donna Kocan, and David
J. Edwards, Department of Psychiatry, Western Psychiatric Institute and Clinic, University of Pittsburgh School of
Medicine, 3811 O’Hara Street, Pittsburgh, PA 15213, USA and Department of Physiology Pharmacology, University of
Pittsburgh School of Dental Medicine, Pittsburgh, PA 15213, USA as printed in Psychopharmacology Springer-Verlag
1989, 98:97)

There seems to be a fear among S/M practitioners of losing control of anger in consensual sex games although there has
never been any documentation of this occurring. Most injuries are accidental. War veterans may flash back to personal
experiences of being tortured. It is recommended that anyone who knows they may experience this effect avoid
situations that trigger it. Others who feel themselves becoming overstimulated may find it beneficial to focus on solving
math, logistic, or verbal problems while they simultaneously take slow deep (into the abdomen) breaths. Another
method, if practiced before the level of anxiety rises too high, is to visualize physical defeat or even an open wound on an
anonymous person. This reinforces the fact that one can be responsible for their own actions by proving their ability to
release anger without resorting to physical violence. Similar mechanisms work for those who when faced with anxiety feel
the need to mutilate themselves; however, instead of visualizing injury on another person it may be done while looking at
one’s own hand.

Some sadists see themselves as compassionate because they believe in killing the victim before they begin the mutilation
of their body. Those that are emotionally numb may only be able to elicit an emotional response through the sight of a
wound. Their pleasure comes from this and not the fear, humiliation, or torture they inflict on the victim. Others prey on
the victim’s emotional reaction to their power, perhaps because their anger comes from others having psychologically
abused them in a similar manner and they want to see their pain mirrored in the victim’s face. This is their tool for
revenge.

As intelligent humans we are able to find alternative solutions to how we achieve closure or release of anxiety. We do not
need to argue or abuse our adversary or lover to the point where they display extreme remorse, pain, or suffering. Today,
therapists are able to recommend treatments for controlling our own anxiety such as biofeedback, group therapy,
support groups, laughter, exercise, and diet change.

(See also ACROTOMOPHILIA, ALGOPHILIA. AUTOMASOCHISM, CICATRIZATION. DACRYLAGNIA, HYBRISTOPHILIA, LUST

MURDER, MASOCHISM, MISOGYNIST, MUTILATION, RAPE. SYMPHOROPHILIA and TORTURE)

SAFE SEX Each type of sex practice requires its own special precautions. We begin by learning our partner’s special needs
with a discussion of their general health. A disclosure of the types of medication one takes and its purpose is essential. A
predisposition to heart disease, diabetes, phobias, strokes, fainting, and hyperventilation should be discussed.
Instructions need to be given for action to be taken in case of an attack and who is to be notified. A regular partner, as
opposed to a stranger, is preferred when engaging in the more unusual forms of sex. Most novices will say they know
how to tie a partner to the bed but their experience comes from watching movies. A lack of credible knowledge or
experience on the part of a partner can potentially cost another’s life in a matter of minutes.

ANAL PLAY Anal play is considered a high risk activity for contracting the AIDS virus. Anal play includes licking the anus or
penetration with the penis, dildos, fingers, fist, or enema. There are several additional dangers inherent in anal play.
Feces contains many types of live bacteria and is a carrier of pathogens. The danger to a person being penetrated is of
tearing the rectal tissue. Symptoms of this injury are fever, pain in the abdominal or rectal area, and a worsening illness
the next day resulting in possible death within days. There is not always a discharge of blood to indicate tissue damage.
Water based lubricants used in conjunction with condoms, latex gloves, finger cots, veterinarian’s calving gloves, and
Saran Wrap should be used as a barrier between the object of penetration and the anus of the partner. Dildos and other
objects should have a flange that prevents the anal sphincter from sucking the object into the rectum.

BLOOD SPORTS Blood sports include any activity that breaks the skin, ranging from abrasions, burning, biting, shaving,
cupping, and caning to cutting, stapling, suturing, lacing, impalement, and piercing. All objects touching a wound must be
sterile or clean and needles that pierce the skin must be sterile and should be thrown away after only one use. Other
instruments must be sterilized before being used on anyone else (see following section on sterilization techniques). Blood
sports can pose a high risk for the transmission of AIDS and hepatitis.

 
BONDAGE The greatest dangers in bondage include suffocation, strangulation, and blocked circulation. A person can die
within three to four minutes without oxygen to the brain. Therefore, it is wise to never leave the partner alone and to
constantly monitor the extremities for circulation, temperature, color, and sensation. The circulatory system comes
closest to the surface at the joints and pressure or knots that lay against areas such as the elbows, underarm, neck, knees,
and wrists should be avoided. Ten minutes of pressure in the wrong place can easily create problems for three to six
months, if not forever. The first sign of danger is a tingling or numb sensation; however, these sensations are not always
perceived by the person unless they move the affected limb. For safety, rope is doubled with the knots placed on the back
side of joints. Padding or leather mitts beneath cords or handcuffs are beneficial for both comfort and safety. Positions
that look uncomfortable usually are and if one of these is chosen it is never recommended for more than a few minutes.
These positions may also be risky if they are designed in such a way that if the person weakens or falls their arms would
break, joints dislocate, they would asphyxiate, or strain their muscles. Many of the bondage scenes in magazines are
fantasy or based on real torture, they are not designed for consensual sex play.

BRANDING People use fabricated strips of galvanized sheet metal, copper, or tin as a brand. The skin is washed with soap
and water (alcohol is combustible); sterilization is not necessary because of the heat. The person to be branded is put in a
reclining position and the exact location for the brand is marked off with a pen. Some practice with the cold brand until
they and their partner are both comfortable with the procedure. The brander then heats the metal to a cherry red and
the partner is branded. The stroke is quick and even, lasting no longer than a second. Afterward, the burn is covered with
an antibiotic ointment and a non-stick dressing.

BURNING Burning with fire or hot objects can easily damage the skin. If precautions to prevent burns fail and a first or
second degree burn (redness, pain, or blistering) occurs, the area should be submerged in cold water until the pain
becomes tolerable. A clean bandage may then be placed over the wound or blistered area. The blister itself should not be
broken; it will slowly diminish over the next few days. Third degree burns will be white, gray, or charred, the skin burned
away, and painless. These burns have to be attended by a physician, therefore the burned area should be covered by a
clean dressing and the person immediately transported to an emergency facility. Oils or butter must never be used on
burns as these tend to hold heat and pathogens on the skin, causing further complications. People with piercings do not
engage in any activity that would allow hot oil into the area of the piercing.

ELECTRICITY People have died from miscalculating voltage and time restrictions while masturbating alone. A moderately
high electric current flowing through the body will cause tissue damage and burns. This type of burn resembles sunburn
in that there is a period of time required before one realizes the seriousness and potential pain of the injury. The person
may not feel anything but warmth during the game, but the next day the injury will be obvious from the intensified pain.
Therefore, electric shock cannot be regulated by the amount of pain the bottom feels. Precautions have to be taken not
to use high currents at all or low ones for too extended a period of time.

An even greater safety factor involves the effect electric current has on the heart. Electricity can interfere with or stop the
heart from beating.

Lower currents can be safe as long as there are no malfunctions of the equipment or human errors, and as long as the
person receiving the electric current doesn’t have a heart condition. (See also ELECTRICAL SHOCK)

FLAGELLATION A bruise or hematoma may be eased by elevating the area and applying an ice pack. All leather and latex
whips that break skin should be cleaned and dried before using on a different person. It is best if each person has their
own supply of whips.

 
HYGROPHILIA Some type of latex barrier must be used between any body secretion and the partner as protection from
AIDS and other pathogens. Those desiring to smear their own feces on their bodies should avoid cuts in the skin. Ingestion
is not recommended because feces can create problems if introduced into the upper digestive tract.

ILLEGAL ACTIVITIES Exhibitionism, frottage, voyeurism, and obscene phone calls are illegal when done in public, to
minors, or to a nonconsenting adult. The best precaution is to find a consenting partner with which to engage in these
activities, to patronize massage parlors, join a sex club where nudity is acceptable, or find a competent sex therapist who
can help people understand their motives and substitute them with ones that do not have a punitive risk.

LATEX BARRIERS The possibility of transmitting sexual diseases can be reduced by the use of condoms, dental dams,
Saran Wrap, and latex gloves. These are barriers to both pregnancy and the transmission of bacteria, and viruses. The
purpose of latex is to create a physical barrier between infected skin and body secretions. It may be necessary to provide
extra protection of the genital area by using underwear that has a slit in the crotch in addition to a condom to prevent
contact of the testicles with the vaginal region. People who have a contagious lesion on a different part of the body may
cover it with an adhesive bandage. Those who desire additional protection against viruses use a spermicide that contains
the ingredient nonoxynol 9 with the condom. However, some women are allergic to this chemical. Those practicing anal
sex sometimes use two condoms due to the fact that there is a higher risk of the latex tearing during this activity. The
primary complaint involving latex is due to the lack of sensitivity. Some of this can be restored by using a small amount of
water based lubricants (never oil because it causes rubber to deteriorate) underneath the condom near the tip of the
penis. There are also condoms that have an adhesive near the base to prevent it from slipping off during sex. Men who
tend to lose condoms can often make them secure and increase sensation by putting a rubber cockring over the condom
at the base of the penis. Condoms may also be used over dildos or other sex toys to prevent contamination and general
deterioration of the rubber when washed with soap.

PIERCING There are many safety precautions taken when playing with piercing. Latex gloves are worn by the partner who
inserts the needles, the skin is cleaned with an alcohol swab (iodine on labia), Neosporin is sometimes used on the needle
to make it easier to slide through the skin, the skin to be pierced is pinched up between the finger and thumb, and the
sterile needle is inserted at an angle (never straight in on any part of the body) so that the round hollow tip faces away
from the skin. There may be some bleeding from a piercing and care is taken to avoid obvious blood vessels. A box of
Kleenex or gauze is kept close by to dab up the excess blood. Some bleeding may be minimized by leaving the needle
inside for an extended period. Muscle tissue is never pierced because a muscle can spasm, causing the needle to break. If
for any reason a needle does break off in the skin the person is taken to the emergency room of a hospital immediately. If
symptoms of shock develop in the partner (i.e. feeling faint or nauseous, perspiring, or coldness) they must lie down
immediately with their legs raised above the level of the heart and be kept warm (not hot). If they do not improve within
a few minutes one should consult a physician. Needles are disposed of in a glass jar with a lid.

PRIAPISM: A penis that is swollen due to priapism or a cock ring (preventing the blood from flowing out of the cavernosa
and back into the body) can often be reduced by wrapping an Ace bandage around the penis. This starts with the glans
and is worked downward toward the pubic area. Wrapping the penis with an ice bag or inducing orgasm can also lead to
detumescence. If this does not work, a physician should be consulted immediately. Permanent damage can occur within
only a few hours.

SHOCK Shock is caused by reduced circulation in the cardiovascular system brought on by injury or extreme emotional
trauma. This physiological reaction keeps us from bleeding to death if we are wounded. However, because our body has
no way of discerning the severity of the injury, it sometimes overreacts. The symptoms of shock vary according to the
individual but normally include a feeling of weakness, nausea, thirst, dizziness, and coolness. These may manifest
themselves as restlessness, trembling, a weak and rapid pulse, analgesia, shallow breathing, dilated pupils and pale cool
or moist skin.
A person exhibiting any of these symptoms should be calmed, laid down so that their feet are elevated above their heart
(if conscious, the person should be able to detect an improvement as soon as the legs are raised high enough), a blanket
may be used to cover the person but only if they feel cool—do not make them uncomfortably warm. Access to fresh air is
important as well as making certain the person’s clothes are loose enough to breathe comfortably. Disruptions and
crowds should be minimized. A physician should be consulted if the person fails to improve within a few minutes.

SOUNDING The urethra has a sphincter at the entrance of the bladder and because of this a flange or cross bar is put on
the end of a sound or object to prevent items from being pulled down the urethra and into the bladder. Another
precaution people take is to make sure that anything going into the urethra is free of microscopic nicks or roughness that
might abrade the delicate tissue of the canal. And last, anything put into the urethra is sterilized to prevent infection.
Once a person is ready to insert the sound, sterile lubrication such as Surgilub is put onto the instrument. The handle is
never released because, once inserted, dropping the heavy sound can cause internal injury and so can using force to get
the sound into the desired position; the sound is merely allowed to sink.

STERILIZATION TECHNIQUES Any time the skin is broken, abraded, or burned all instruments are sterilized. Instruments
that are reusable are sterilized by placing them in an autoclave. If one does not have access to this type of medical device
the items may be placed in a pressure cooker for 1/2 hour or on aluminum foil in a conventional oven that is set at 300
degrees for 1/2 hour. Metal objects, pans, and scissors may be heated in a conventional oven. The metal for these devices
should be unplated stainless or surgical steel.

The ‘surgeon’ first washes their hands twice with soap, then dries them with a freshly bleached and laundered towel. The
‘patient’s’ skin is prepped by using prepackaged rubbing alcohol swabs or Betadine with clean cotton swabs over the area
to be cut. The swab is firmly rubbed over the skin in such a manner that it does not wipe over the same area twice. The
alcohol does not sterilize the surface skin, rather it simply removes dirt and oil and kills a few viruses. Betadine does
sterilize the area. The packaged equipment is laid onto a fresh towel and care is taken not to let anything sterile touch
fabric or other things that may be contaminated. Care is also taken not to contaminate needle tips that project through
the skin because they will at some point be pulled back through an open wound.

URETHRAL PLAY Inserting a catheter or sounding devices into the urethra require medical knowledge and use of sterile
techniques. (Please refer to these sections for details.)

ZIPPER ACCIDENTS Scrotal or penis tissue often gets stuck in between the teeth of zippers. It is advisable to keep a pair of
dikes (small wire cutters) in the tool chest. These are used to clip the front guide portion that separates the teeth as they
pass through the zipper. This one small section holds the top and bottom of the zipper together and when it is cut the
zipper falls apart and the teeth can easily be pulled apart. (“Ask the Doctor,” by F. Gordon, lecture September 19, 1990)

(Please refer to individual sections for additional discussion.)

ST. AUGUSTINE St. Augustine (354- 430 C.E.) was a North African from Tagaste (Algeria). He, along with St. Jerome and
St. Gregory (the Great), formulated the doctrines of the early Catholic Church. The Church’s position on birth control,
papal celibacy, divorce, and their loathing of women was due to their interpretation of the original sin as having been the
act of sex. They won despite a heated debate with many notable church leaders who presented arguments to the
contrary.

St. Augustine had a strong passion for women but due to the influence of the popular sex-negative religions like
Manicheanism, Stoicism, and Neo-Platonism he decided that his sexual lust was evil. Pleasure was to be spiritual, not
physical. St. Augustine was an intellectual and lived during the time that great philosophers put a value on one’s ability to
control their passions. Christians and Jews were criticized due to their more natural view of sex. Therefore, when St.
Augustine and others gained credibility among intellectuals of their day because of their endorsement of celibacy, many
Church leaders supported their effort. This gave Christianity a social respectability which to this point had been lacking.

St. Augustine was a prolific writer. In his autobiography, Confessions, he revealed his struggle with love, lust, and passion
for the Roman arena. As a Manichaean he led a normal life with a mistress and fathered his beloved son Adeodatus (died
at 18). However, after thirteen years his mother persuaded him to send his mistress back to Africa and to marry a girl of
higher social standing. This he did at a great emotional cost. He relays in his own words “The woman with whom I was in
the habit of sleeping was torn from my side on the ground of being an impediment to my marriage, and my heart, which
clung to her, was wounded and broken and dripping blood...Nor was the wound healed which had been made by the
cutting off of my previous mistress. It burned, it hurt intensely, and then it festered, and if the pain became duller, it
became more desperate.” His mistress left vowing never to give herself to another man and it is conceivable that St.
Augustine’s later vow of celibacy was made easy by his devotion and possible guilt over abandoning her. Christian
celibacy gave him an excuse not to betray her by marrying another woman. The new marriage never took place because
while he was waiting for the girl to mature he converted to a chaste Neo-platonist sect of Christianity.

He never conquered his desire for women and even forbade his sister, a nun, to speak to him without witnesses present.
The more his body desired the female touch the more he condemned sex as evil.

(See also CELIBACY, EUNUCHS, ILLEGAL SEX, KLEPTOPHILIA and VICTORIANISM)

ST. VALENTINE St. Valentine’s day is celebrated on February 14th and is the feast day of two martyrs named Valentine;
one of Rome and the other of Terni. Both these men died in about 269 CE (Common Era/A.D.). The date was only one day
before Lupercalia, an ancient Roman fertility festival that honored Juno (goddess of women and marriage) and Pan (god
of nature). One of the rituals involved in this festival included priests who walked through town striking all the women
with goat skin thongs, to ensure fertility. February 14th is thought to be the first day that birds begin their mating season
and therefore lovers during the Middle Ages used this occasion to send love notes. They were originally hand made by the
man doing the courting and left on his lady’s door step. Technology advanced and by the mid 19th century elaborate
cards were being purchased and sent by mail. Suitors were then relieved of having to write poetry and decorate cards.

The Europeans not only sent cards to those they were trying to impress but it was acceptable to send vulgar and insulting
ones to the handicapped and old maids. One such card read as follows:

If the devil step’d, old lady, from his regions just below,

He couldn’t find a picture like the one before me now:

No doubt you know the gentleman, a sable one is he,

And he’s said to be Papa of all the lies that yet might be.

Your eyes are false, your nose is false, and falser still your tongue,

Your breast is false, your heart is false, as ever poet sung;

And if disgust did not prevail, upon my present will,

I could speak of something villainous, and yet more filthy still.

(See also FESTIVALS)

SALIROPHILIA (Idrophrodisia) Salirophilia (salinus: salty, philia: attachment to) refers to people who are aroused by
tasting salty body fluids such as perspiration. Perspiration at one time was thought to have magical qualities and was used
in a potion to counteract love spells. The male wore out a pair of new shoes by walking and then drank wine from the
right shoe which naturally mixed with sweat from his foot. This reversed the spell and caused the man to feel hate toward
the enchantress.

(See also COCKTAILS, KLISMAPHILIA, LACTAPHILIA, SHOWERS, UROPHILIA and VAMPIRISM)

 

SATAN WORSHIP Satan worship as we know it today did not exist until after Christianity adopted the philosophy of the
separation of good and evil from Zoroastrianism (628-551 B.C.E.) and Manichaeanism (250-1200 C.E.). The latter was the
former religion of one of the Catholic Church’s founding fathers and proponent of this theory, St. Augustine. Satan
worship became an escape by which persecuted Christians and others vented their hostility toward the Church.

The confusion created between Satan worship and witchcraft (Wicca) seems to have been in the blending of Christian and
pagan rituals. The new Satanists used their own Christian rituals and belief of what Satan represented but in a manner
that defiled and slandered the Church. Wicca had its own loose autonomous rituals, ones that existed thousands of years
prior to organized third century religions.

The recognition of Satan is attributed to the Jews; however, the only mention of an angel named Satan representing evil
is in the book of Job. Incidently, Job was not a Jew, but his story was included in the N’veeim (Tor-ah). The Lucifer of
Genesis was a light giver, the morning star, and foremost the bearer of knowledge to humans. He opened their
consciousness to good and evil and as punishment God cast him from heaven. This event is similar to that told of the
Greek’s heroic god, Prometheus whose name means forethought or before learning. This god stole fire from Zeus and
gave it to mankind. Zeus as punishment cast him from heaven and chained him to a rock on earth where vultures daily ate
at his liver. Zeus also in retribution created the first woman, Pandora, who opened a box to let evil out among man.

The most popular Satanic ritual was that of the “Black Mass.” Many early Christians believed in the supernatural powers
of ritual and the Christian Mass was conducted by a priest who supposedly became a personal mediator or liaison to God.
The rationale of the congregants was that if God granted this priest’s supplications for the church then they could hire the
priest to use his power to petition God for personal favors. Good requests could become evil by simply inverting or
changing part of the ritual. Early priests began conducting a Mass of the Dead in which they beseeched God to cause the
death of certain enemies of paying parishioners, others ended rituals with sexual orgies and infant sacrifices. Priests that
were discovered conducting these type of rituals were excommunicated by the Church. Black Masses became popular
and these defrocked priests were hired to read the missal backward or substitute key words such as Satan or evil when
appropriate, the altar was simply a naked virgin, the room was black as were the robes and candles. The Host was made
of feces and the consecrated wine of urine or blood, or sometimes defiled by having a prostitute insert it into her vagina
or urinate on it. There were several notable figures who used these rituals for their own gain. Gilles de Rais, who originally
acted as a Marshal of France and escort of Joan of Arc, had rituals conducted to help him regain his lost wealth. In
addition to Masses with black candles and other Satanic paraphernalia he began molesting and sacrificing young boys,
eventually being reported to the authorities by his wife. The Marquise de Montespan, a mistress of King Louis XIV, used
Masses to guarantee the King’s continued sexual attraction to her. She was herself used as the altar and an infant
sacrificed and its blood drained to make into a wafer that was given to the King. After 12 years he began to look for a
younger mistress and the marquise turned vengeful and engaged in a series of Masses of Death. These were unsuccessful
but the King soon became aware of a plot against him and upon an investigation discovered 74 conspirators, many of
whom were Catholic priests.

Black Masses again became popular during the 18th century in Hellfire Clubs. These were actually sex clubs where women
dressed in nun’s habits, naked females posed as altars, Masses were performed, the nuns used sex toys disguised as stick
horses, and once everyone was sufficiently aroused the orgy began. These groups lost their popularity until the early 20th
century when reports of Black Masses again surfaced. The Hermetic Order of the Golden Dawn spawned the father of
today’s cults, Aleister Crowley. Mr. Crowley broke away from the Golden Dawn and eventually joined another cult, the
Ordo Templi Orientis of Germany and embellished it with sex acts, drugs, and animal sacrifice. Crowley died in 1947 but
left behind several cult books on magick and a legacy of followers. One OTO member was Jack Parsons (1915-52), a
prominent scientist in Pasadena, California, who was known for hosting ritual orgies including Hollywood stars. Parsons
became involved with a scheme to incarnate the “Whore of Babalon” into the womb of a female. The spell failed. Parsons
died in an explosion at the age of 37 while conducting a chemical experiment in his basement (Satan Wants You, by
Arthur Lyons, pp. 44-83).

There are only two large organized Satanic Churches recognized by the government in existence in the United States
today; The Church of Satan and the Temple of Set.

The Church of Satan was founded in 1966 by Anton LaVey. Mr. LaVey at one time worked in circuses and not only gained
insight into the abnormal and people’s fascination with it, but gained proficiency in promoting and choreographing the
unusual. He was an avid reader of the occult and this combined with his earlier career contributed to the establishment of
the Church of Satan and the direction it took. LaVey promoted his church by writing books on Satan worship and using
advertising campaigns that included photos of a nude woman on an altar. This Church has nine creeds or Satanic
Statements that describe its goals:

1. Satan represents indulgence instead of abstinence.

2. Satan represents vital existence instead of spiritual pipe dreams.

3. Satan represents undefiled wisdom instead of hypocritical self-deceit.

4. Satan represents kindness to those who deserve it instead of love wasted on ingrates.

5. Satan represents vengeance instead of turning the other cheek.

6. Satan represents responsibility to the responsible instead of concern for psychic vampires.

7. Satan represents man as just another animal—sometimes better, more often worse than those that walk on alt-
fours—who, because of his “divine spiritual and intellectual development,” has become the most vicious animal of all.

8. Satan represents all of the so-called sins, as they all lead to physical, mental, or emotional gratification.

9. Satan has been the best friend the Church has ever had, as he has kept it in business all these years.

© Anton Szandor La Vey, 1966 c.e.

The Temple of Set was formed in 1975 by more conservative members from the Church of Satan. This group revived the
worship of the Egyptian god Set. Set and Horus were originally brothers who were friendly to the dead. Horus the Elder
represented the day and Set the night. The Egyptians later changed their philosophy and attributed all that was evil to Set
and all that was good to Horus. Set was depicted as an animal with a head that is not possible to clearly identify. It has
been guessed to be that of a camel, snake, or crocodile. Egyptologists call it the “Set beast.” The exact image is
unconfirmed because most of the statues were destroyed after this period. This religion emphasizes an intellectual self
determinism and personal responsibility for life as opposed to the more common nature worshippers who maintained
security by insisting on obedience to rituals and thought. Membership for the Temple of Set is restricted to those willing
to dedicate much of their efforts to study.

Today there are many small cults throughout the United States and Europe that are autonomous, consisting of one leader
and a few friends who use rituals seen in movies. The most notorious was one led by Charles Manson during the 1960’s.
Manson led his members in blood rituals, taught them “knife throwing, throat slitting and skull boiling.” His “family” also
participated in filming human sacrifices of young girls (Rape and Ritual, A Psychological Study, by Bradley A. Te Paske, p.
60).

Satanic cults are very rarely involved in human sacrifice and those that do engage in this are often small autonomous cults
led by an individual.

(See also RITUAL SEX, SACRIFICES and SEX MAGICK)

 

SATYRIASIS (Coitolimia, Compulsive cruising, Gynecomania, Hyperphilia, Idiosyncrat, Pareunomania, Tragolimia) Satyrs
are notorious half-goat and half-men Greek mythological characters who attended the god Bacchus and were known for
their lechery and hedonism. Satyriasis is the male equivalent of female nymphomania.

There is no predetermined number of times that a person is expected to engage in sexual activity; therefore, a definition
of satyriasis that specifies a numerical component is invalid. Cultures as well as individuals differ dramatically in sexual
activity. Rather for a definition we might use similar criteria as for addictions: namely, if the activity is compulsive to the
degree that it interferes with the person’s ability to function in society and to support themselves it is a problem. A
person who finds that their sexual needs far exceeds the ability of one partner to provide, sometimes sacrifices the
affection and bonding possible with them for polite sex with a multitude of temporary partners.

A satyrist may have problems with being able to experience normal emotions so that when the temporary excitement of
the chase and conquest wears off they, unlike others, are unaware of residual feelings of intimacy, and move on to the
next person. A child who is not shown consistent love and nurturing may also be unable to trust or expect this from
others as an adult. Bonding then does not occur with one person, instead nurturing and security is restricted to the act of
sex itself. Other satyrists may simply enjoy the chase and conquest more than sex with a stable partner.

There may be a hormonal imbalance where the body produces an abnormal amount of testosterone, dopamine, or other
chemical that would increase the person’s desire for sex.

(See also NYMPHOMANIA and ORGASMS)

SCARFING See AUTOASPHYXIOPHILA

SCARRING See CICATRIZATION

SCATOPHILIA See COPROPHILIA

SCOPOPHILIA (Mixoscopia, Scoptolagnia; Allopellia—having orgasm from watching others engage in sex) Scopophilia
(skopein: looking a certain direction, and philia: attachment to) refers to sexual arousal gained from looking at people or
events. This would include voyeurism, but is broader in that the people being watched may also consent, i.e. candaulism
or group sex.

A leading television evangelist recently gained notoriety for engaging in scopophilia with prostitutes who would
masturbate while he watched.

The scopophile may be aroused by watching an activity that involves a fetish or sex object. Men may watch women
urinate, try on shoes, browse through erotic sections of a magazine rack, or ride Sybian (the mechanical dildo).

(See also YOYEURISM)

SCRATCHING (Dermographism; Amychesis—femate who scratches partner during height of passion) Scratching has been
done during foreplay and sex throughout history. The Kama-Sutra recommended that people use this method to leave
permanent love marks:

Genrally speaking marks made wilh the nails should be imprinted on the armpits, the throat, the breasts, the lips, the
jagdana or midriff and the thighs. The nails can be used to make eight marks, by scratching or pressing : sounding,
half-moon, the circle, the lines, the tiger’s nail or claw mark, the peacock’s foot, the hare’s leap and the blue lotus leaf. The
art of imprinting the marks of love is familiar to all. Nail marks may not be made ou married women; however it is
permitted to make special marks ou the hidden parts of their bodies, as a foud memory an d in order to heighten one’s
love. Even when they are old and have almost been effaced, nail marks remind a woman of previous moments of love and
revive her passion, which might otherwise be simply lost. A young woman on whose breasts such marks are to be seen can
impress even a stranger who sees her from a distance. A man who bears nail and teeth marks on his body is successful
with women, even those who resist love

Most people today are generally more cautious about leaving marks on their partner without consent.

(See also BITING, CICATRIZATION FLAGELLATION and PINCHING)

SCROTAL INFUSION (Ballooning, Scrotal inflation) Scrotal infusion is the process by which a solution is injected into the
scrotal sack. It is also referred to as ballooning or scrotal inflation, although these terms might he taken to mean
expansion by air or gas and for safety reasons that impression is best avoided by using the word infusion which denotes
expansion by fluid.

The visual effect of the scrotal infusion resembles a water balloon. Men do not report any pain from this procedure and
claim that one advantage is found the next morning when the solution filters into the penis causing it to swell to the size
of a beer can. Men claim exclusive license to this type of sex play. There is no sealed part of the female anatomy that has
a hollow sack which lends itself to expansion.

Paraphernalia used for this procedure were scissors, first aid tape, a 20 gauge angiocath or hypodermic needle, a one liter
plastic bag of saline solution, an IV pole or hook on the ceiling, plastic tubing, latex gloves and packaged alcohol prep
pads.

The saline solution was warmed to body temperature ahead of time. The bag was then held against the inside wrist to
determine a comfortable temperature. Incidentally, the temperature is not for the comfort of the patient but rather to
prevent the scrotal sack from shrinking as it normally does when exposed to cold water or ice. This shrinking would
hamper the expansion process that is essential for infusion.

The bag was hung from a hook and spiked with the tubing which was then pinched closed not contaminating any of the
ends. The scrotal area was swabbed with the alcohol prep pad, and the needle was inserted about one inch directly below
the base of the penis in the middle of the scrotum. The partner waited for a moment to make certain that he had not
pierced a vein (evident by blood backing up into the needle), the needle or angiocath was then taped flat and upright
against the top of the scrotum. The tubing was then opened and adjusted so that it drained at a rate of about 60-90 cc’s a
minute.

The male stood because gravity helps to facilitate the expansion. However, fainting is a natural response and the person
was monitored closely and had a bed or table behind him on which to lie if necessary.

Scrotal infusion is an activity that is difficult for most observers to understand. The men who experiment with this form of
body modification have explained their various motives or desire to experience different feelings, to be unique, for the
shock value, to prove that these are their genitals and they will do with them as they please, and to visually set their
genitals apart from all others.
The saline in the scrotal sack absorbs into the body within about three days. Some people inject more saline than the
scrotal sack can accommodate and this will immediately overflow through a small opening into the abdomen. CAUTION:
This is a blood sport that requires proper sterilization procedures and is therefore not considered a safe sex practice.
Improper placement of the needle may also damage local nerves.

(“Scrotal Inflation and Other Genital Modifications,” by J.B., QSM lecture, December 1, 1990)

(See also BONDAGE/LACING, PIERCING, SAFE SEX/SCROTAL INFUSION and SUTURING)

SENSORY COMPENSATION Sensory compensation is the body’s natural mechanism by which we regulate the amount of
outside stimulus to a manageable level. Our brain divides our attention between all the input available, and with this
information interprets the environmental cues. We do not need all five senses for the brain to process or interpret
external cues; we can do this with only one sensory aid. Of all our senses our strongest or most distracting is that of sight.
Sound is the second most distracting sense and smell the third. Most people are aware of a similar compensation effect
with the blind whereby they develop or become more focused on their remaining senses. This compensation does not
require a long period of time, rather it can be artificially achieved in only a matter of minutes.

Sensory compensation is used in sex games by isolating the desired sense to be enhanced, for instance touch, and
depriving the person of their ability to use the other four senses. The person is placed in a comfortable room that is void
of odors or sound and not given anything to eat or hold in their mouth. They are then either blindfolded or the room is
made dark, depending on whether the game entails activities that necessitate light. This deprivation of all senses but one
results in the person becoming focused on tactile stimulation. A feather stroked across the body becomes more intense
as does direct contact with their nipples or genitals. Their sensitivity to pain will also increase; therefore, care is taken to
avoid strong stimulus.

Sensory compensation may be used to enhance any of the five senses, achieving various effects.

(See also SENSORY DEPRIVATION, SENSORY ENHANCEMENT and SENSORY OVERLOAD)

SENSORY DEPRIVATION Sensory deprivation differs from sensory compensation in that one tries to eliminate all five
senses. Deprivation may include activities such as sensory deprivation chambers, samadhi tanks, or suspension.

Tanks, wherein people defy gravity by floating or are suspended in water, can be very disorienting. Suspension is not as
dramatic but has also produced results such as vertigo, hallucinations, and confusion. A safeword that acts to signal the
partner to end the deprivation is essential for this activity.

Long term deprivation often produces hallucinations and altered states of consciousness. Hallucinations are a risk for
almost anyone who becomes isolated; for instance, those in sensory deprivation chambers, sailors who reported hearing
and seeing female sirens, and those who get lost in jungles. Tribesmen in South America have legends of men becoming
victims of “Japujaneju,” an evil female spirit, who often appears to them as their consort luring them deeper into the
forest. People sent into space or just for a winter in Antarctica are often required to take psychological tests in advance.

A more pertinent and dramatic sexual effect of sensory deprivation is that often after only one-half hour a mere touch to
the body or genitals can produce orgasm. Also, the first visual impression experienced after one is released from sensory
deprivation can be very intense and long lasting. Many partners use this opportunity to express tenderness and love, or
otherwise present themselves in a manner in which they would like to be remembered.

Sensory deprivation may be isolated to only part of the body such as the nipples or genitals. This is done with a numbing
lotion or encasement. (“Sensory Deprivation and Bondage,” by Adashi, Society of Janus lecture, May 24, 1990)

(See also SENSORY ENHANCEMENT. SENSORY OVERLOAD and SUSPENSION)

SENSORY ENHANCEMENT Methods that enhance our senses are listed throughout this book and include techniques that
range from the use of simple lubricants and massage to the more painful form of cock and ball torture.

The natural desire to increase the amount of stimuli for sex is found in some young children when they first learn to
masturbate. One young girl would, during the summer, lay naked on burning patio bricks because it enhanced
masturbation. In a similar fashion a young boy put pieces of cloth in a freezer and then removing one would lay it over his
penis to facilitate masturbation. These methods probably intensified their sexual response because pain triggers the
body’s defense mechanisms by producing adrenalin. This may be of particular importance for youth who often do not
have the sexual experience to build arousal by the use of sexual fantasies. Even those children who do use fantasy when
masturbating don’t use visions of what we consider regular or normal copulation. One very young girl described the
thoughts she used while playing with herself. She visualized a monster, one seen in a movie, engaging in a bizarre form of
urination from his mouth. One would guess that this girl used fear as a stimulant for arousal instead of pain as in the
former cases. [Personal communications.]

Regardless of the method a person uses it is important to understand that people have different pain tolerances,
therefore, what looks like it would cause pain to one person may in reality feel pleasurable to others. People who are
under stress or who are “type A personalities” are thought to have a higher pain threshold than others.

(See also ABRASIONS, ACOUSTICOPHILIA, ACUPRESSURE, BATHS, BED OF NAILS, BEE STINGS, BITING, CLAMPS, CUPPING,
DEPILATION, INUNCTION, MASSAGE, MYSOPHILIA, PINCHING, SCRATCHING and SITOPHILIA)

SENSORY OVERLOAD Sensory overload occurs when there is more information produced from an environment than a
person can assimilate. This does not necessarily mean that more things are occurring simultaneously but rather that they
are unfamiliar or confusing. Disorientation occurs because the brain can not readily process this type of information.

Deliberate sensory overload is used by cults to accomplish a similar effect on their converts. Steven Hassan, once a high
ranking officer in the Moonie movement, and now an exit counselor and leading expert on destructive cults and their
indoctrination techniques, spoke of the risks of sensory overload in his recent book:

Put a person in a sensory deprivation chamber, and within hours he will start to hallucinate and become incredibly
suggestible. Likewise, put a person into a situation where his senses are overloaded with noncoherent information, and
the mind will go “numb” as a protective mechanism. It gets confused and overwhelmed, and critical faculties no longer
work properly. It is in this weakened state that people become very suggestible to others. The mind needs frames of
reference in order to structure reality. (Combatting Cult Mind Control, p. 47.

An example of this in a sex scene is that of a person who is not experienced with S/M walking into a play party where
various sorts of bondage, humiliation, and flagellation are being engaged in by people. This can create manifestations that
are best described as having a fog over most of the room, tunnel vision, vertigo, and minimal focus. Advantages of
sensory overload in sex play is that it makes the person become more submissive and reliant on their partner because it
strips them of the ability to sort out ideas on their own. Confusion also creates this effect and is accomplished by giving a
partner double-bind commands, those that contradict each other so that no matter what they do they can be criticized.

Awareness of the dynamics involved in all cases of controlled sensory overload by a second party is important. There are
occasions when this type of bonding and influence from the partner is advantageous and also instances when it is
inappropriate. An obvious case is that of spouse abuse where one partner constantly criticizes the other causing them to
feel unsure of their own decisions, inferior, and unable to function without the abuser.

(See also BLINDFOLDING, BONDAGE, SENSORY ENHANCEMENT, SENSORY COMPENSATION, SUSPENSION and VERTIGO)

SERENADES Serenades were popular in Europe during the 17th and 18th centuries. Young men played their violins and
sang on the streets beneath the windows of their lover. The English were quick to follow the romantic Italians’ example
but with different results. English men drank until midnight to get up their nerve, and then didn’t quit singing until near
dawn. Of course, this may well have been the quickest way to persuade a father to consent to his daughter’s marriage
simply to get her suitor to stop.
 

(See also COURTSHIP and EROTOGRAPHOMANIA)

SEX ALMANACS There are several magazines and books that provide up to date information on international activities
that are of interest to sexually active people. The Safer Sex Maniac’s Bible is a comprehensive pocket sized guide that is
published in London annually by Miss Tuppy Owens. Tim Woodward’s magazine, Skin II, provides a current world listing
of clubs, activities, publications, and shops, and San Francisco has several magazines with information about upcoming
events: Spectator, Drummer, Sandmutopia Guardian & Dungeon Journal, and Dungeon Master. Sex clubs or
organizations often keep up to date on local social functions.

(See also SEX CLUBS. SEX CONFERENCES, SEX HOTELSS and SEX SHOWS)

SEX BOUTIQUES There are several sex boutiques in the United States, most of which are owned by women. Inside, they
resemble a fine lingerie store that carries sex toys, fur mitts, erotic videos, books, and body lotions. San Francisco’s
Romantasy Boutique, owned by Ann Grogan, also has drawings and work by local artists, bondage equipment for novices,
night classes in stripping for your lover, beginning bondage, and many other topics. San Francisco is also the home of
Joani Blank’s popular book and vibrator store, Good Vibrations. Constance Ent. is the oldest and largest fantasy boutique.
Constance also sponsors the Annual Fall Fantasy Ball near New Jersey.

(See also SEX TOYS)

SEX CLUBS Sex clubs that sponsor social activities for those with unusual sexual proclivities seem to have become more
prevalent in modern times. Ancient worshippers of fertility religions engaged in their favorite ‘perversions’ openly
without being criticized by others. Of course, most of these societies did not condone the same conduct between
holidays, although there may have been secret organizations that did.

Clubs were formed in opposition to the Church’s condemnation of pagan festivals in 16th century France. Two of these
organizations, the Society Joyuse and the Society of Dijon, rescued the Feast of Fools, under the guise of its being a social
activity. People were thus able to continue this observance for a while. The Feast of Fools itself was offensive to the
Church because it included cross-dressing, complete mockery of Church rituals, flagellation, wearing masks, and the
throwing of black pudding (some say feces) into the crowds.

In the 18th century an Englishman named Sir Francis Dashwood began a brotherhood of Medmenham. He purchased and
remodeled an abbey in Medmenham for this purpose. In 1760 this group began holding their meetings there and the
once stoic abbey now displayed sexual statues and paintings with lewd inscriptions throughout the interior and exterior.
Their interest in sex was not restricted to the carnal enjoyment of art; they also had a library that contained a
comprehensive collection of erotic literature. The members entered the abbey dressed as friars and their lady guests
dressed as nuns. The Grand Master began club services at an altar with a cursory sacrament being offered to their baboon
deity. This was followed by other simple rituals. The food was elaborate and libations abundant. Once members satisfied
their initial hunger they selected a nun with whom to consummate the revelry. This brotherhood met twice a year and
survived almost 20 years.
Today we have several hundred diverse clubs around the world. International advertising is fairly inexpensive and
computerized printing of newsletters has made it simpler to form clubs. People with fetishes as obscure as large penises,
big balls, hairy bodies, mud wrestlers, shaving, cigars, used condoms, genital modification, and throwing pies have been
able to find others with similar interests willing to form Clubs. Some of the larger clubs include New York’s Eulenspiegel
Society, the Chicago Hellfire Club, and Los Angeles’ Threshold. The San Francisco area may have as many as a hundred
clubs but the most prominent are the Back Drop, Outcasts, HTVC, Mother Goose Club, and the Society of Janus.

BACK DROP CLUB The Back Drop is a fetish and fantasy club that was founded in 1966. It probably has the largest
membership and sponsors the most events. Their private clubhouse is open to members from noon until 10:00pm, seven
days a week. Classes include information on wrestling, photography, leather fabrication, slave training, cross dressing,
spanking, and water sports. The club sponsors many interesting social events as well. There are Roman Holidays with
gladiators, staves, costumes, a Roman feast, parties for transvestites, a weekly slave auction, video nights, fashion shows,
and a flea market once a month where members can exchange or sell their sex equipment.

ETVC The ETVC is a club for transvestites, transgenderists, transsexuals, their spouses, and therapists. The club has over
400 members to which it provides regular social functions, support groups, outreach programs, and a library. ETVC offers
its members the opportunity to dress up for the evening and socialize with others. Their social events include an annual
beauty pageant, outings, lingerie shows, poker games, casino nights, and more. They also offer classes on the finer arts of
passing as female.

MOTHER GOOSE PRODUCTIONS The Jack and Jill Off masturbation parties are sponsored by the Mother Goose Club.
Here people must follow simple rules pertaining to safe sex (penetration is not allowed) and the use of condoms, latex
gloves, and dental dams. Social rules require that a person asks for permission before touching another and respond
politely to anyone who says no. People must either dress in costume or wear nothing at all. The parties are open to
people of any sexual preference. Unlike group sex houses, bi-sexuality is permitted and men are not required to bring a
female in order to attend. The club provides hors d’oeuvres but some people bring whipped cream, chocolate syrup, or
kama sutra oils to enhance their sex play. Some people engage in light bondage or S/M but most people are novices
without prior group sex experience. There are usually about a hundred members at the parties and the age of the people
is slightly younger than what is found at group sex houses. There also seem to be more wet spots on the linens by the end
of the evening. The same Mother Goose Club sponsors Jack Off parties for men and Jill Off parties for females.

OUTCASTS The Outcasts is a female S/M organization that sponsors theme parties and a monthly lecture that may be
anything from discussing the politics of being a black lesbian sadomasochist to piercing and lacing demonstrations. This
group sponsors a booth at the SF Lesbian and Gay Freedom Day Parade and often catches the attention of spectators
when they, the Dykes on Bikes, lead the parade or when they demonstrate whippings at their booth.

SOCIETY OF JANUS The Society of Janus was founded in 1974 by Cynthia Slater and has grown to have approximately 450
members. Similar to other S/M clubs they sponsor play parties that have themes such as Slave Auctions, Halloween
Parties, Bondage and Beauty Pageants, Beat Your Valentine, and Costumes. One sees a variety of activities at these
parties such as bindings, foreplay, bondage, mummifications, suspension, spankings, whippings, and use of sex toys. Rules
and activities vary according to organization but they discourage genital penetration, fisting, urophilia, coprophilia, and
other more specialized interests. A description of what one would see at Janus’ Bondage and Beauty Pageant is as
follows:

Upon entry through a locked door one pays their cover charge and receives a ballot. The social room is filled with figures
clad with black leather, jeans, and a few business suits. Their faces show expressions ranging from sober, anxious, and
preoccupied, to warm, friendly and festive. Voices and rustling can be heard through a doorway that opens to a large
dungeon where people are busy placing their partners in bondage for the contest. People know one another and there
seems to be a friendly exchange of humor, advice and assistance. A woman brushes by and you turn to see her leading a
naked man by a leash attached only to his genitals. By this time many of the other participants are in different stages of
dress. A beautiful young woman wearing a wedding dress is in one corner, her bodice is pulled down and on her nipples
are rings that support small weights, and her feet are apart; being held in place with spreader bars. The front of her dress
has been raised to expose her genitals from which another weight hangs from a chain and ball that has been inserted into
her vagina. On the floor to their right is a man in black latex who has his arms and legs bound with belts, his genitals
protrude, and have a paper plate surrounding them. Spaghetti is being sensually eaten off the plate by his consort. Two
women are standing near the center, one encasing her naked partner in elaborate macrame. On stage are two people who
have been bound in a standing position and their hoods attached to the ceiling with chains. A woman is standing near
them with her hands cuffed behind her back. She is bare-chested and held in position by chains that are snapped to her
nipple rings. Along the side wall is a woman who has been placed in a cage wearing only a slave collar. Near her is a naked
man who has been cuffed onto a rape rack and his mistress is gently torturing his exposed scrotum with a riding crop. A
crowd has now gathered around a woman who has been blindfolded and tied onto a chair, her arms are pulled back and
her legs are spread to the sides. Her master displays a rather large butcher knife and reaching down slices two holes in the
front of her sweater to expose her naked breasts. There are about twenty entries in all and one must vote for the best
entry in each category. Ballots are handed in and about ten winners with a best of show are announced and brought onto
the stage to receive their awards.

European sadomasochist groups include Club Doma in the Netherlands, Club Sunrise in Sweden, DSSM in England,
Papillon in Canada, and SMil in Denmark and Norway. S/M support groups such as the New York group called the Lesbian
Sex Mafia have formed as well.

Anti-censorship groups exist to protect people’s ability to engage in safe and consensual sexual behavior. Some of these
include Californians Against Censorship Together, Committee to Preserve Our Sexual & Civil Liberties, England’s Campaign
Against Public Morals, France’s Centre du Christ Liberateur pour Sexual Minorities and, the Dutch Society for Sexual
Reform. Other organizations exist that support all personal freedoms. These are the American Civil Liberties Union,
National Coalition Against Censorship, and America’s Libertarian political party.

(See also SEX ALMANACS, SEX CONFERENCES and STRIPPING)

SEX CONFERENCES There are several sex conferences, conventions, and symposiums held each year. These are
sponsored by organizations such as the National Sexuality Symposium, the Society for the Scientific Study of Sex, the
World Association for Sexology, The Annual National Conference on Sexual Compulsivity /Addiction, National
Organization of Circumcision, the International Conference on AIDS, Mensa Sexyg, and the International World Sex
Conference. Most of these are designed for medical professionals or people with an academic interest in sexology. There
is informal entertainment and some sponsor erotic costume balls or dances. Special interest groups such as bi-sexuals,
infantilists, leathermen, extended families or polygamists, and swingers also sponsor annual conferences.

LIFESTYLES Lifestyles is an organization that hosts conferences for couples either contemplating or living in open
marriages. It was founded in 1974 by Bob McGinley, Ph.D., a psychologist who felt it was important to organize a forum
where people could exchange accurate knowledge about swinging and find emotional support in coping with other’s
resistance to their chosen lifestyle. This group has several conferences a year but its primary conference is often held
during the summer in Las Vegas. Couples have the opportunity to attend outstanding lectures by prominent
psychologists, hypnotists, writers, and workshop leaders. At night they are entertained by banquets, erotic costume balls,
and lingerie discos. Private orgies and wife swapping are informal and arranged by some individuals. The vendor booths
acquaint couples with the newest on-line computer programs for swinging, magazines, swinger vacation packages, toys,
sex jewelry, personalized stationery, lingerie, and S/M paraphernalia. Many couples outside the swinging community
attend these conferences because of their entertaining programs and the refreshing sex-positive attitude shared by
conference attendees.
 

NATIONAL SEXUALITY SYMPOSIUM The National Sexuality Symposium was founded by Katheryn Roberts in 1990 and co-
sponsored by Lifestyles, the Institute for Human Sexuality, and the San Francisco Sex Information Switchboard. In addition
to the conference, Ms. Roberts publishes a quarterly magazine and sponsors a monthly lecture and dance in the San
Francisco area. The agenda and entertainment are similar to those of the Lifestyles conferences but there are more
counselors and singles who attend with much less emphasis being placed on private parties. Lectures in 1991 included
topics such as “Alternate Personas” by William Henkin, Ph.D. and Sybil Holiday, “Communication is the Best Lubrication”
by Isadora Alman, MFCC, “Sex and Drugs” by David Coleman, “Creating Successful Relationships” by Stan Dale, “Feminist
Erotica” by Nina Hartley, “Sex and Censorship” by Bobby Lilly, “Sex Games for Couples” by Walter Shelburne, Ph.D.,
“Erotic Massage” by Kenneth Ray Stubbs, Ph.D., and “Erotic Film Making for Fun and Profit,” by Janet Taylor.

THE SOCIETY FOR THE SCIENTIFIC STUDY OF SEX This society was organized in 1957 for sexologists and professionals
such as psychologists, professors, physicians, students, or people who have made a major contribution to the study of
sex. Applications by new members are reviewed by the Board. In addition to conferences, SSSS publishes a quarterly
journal of sex research and a newsletter. They have also created a Foundation to fund scientific research in this field. The
organization was founded by Hugo Beigel, Harry Benjamin, Albert Ellis, Henry Guze, Hans Lehfeldt, and Robert Sherwin.
Prominent past presidents include Wardell Pomeroy, Richard Green, and John Money.

The lectures are clinical but anyone with a sincere interest in human sexuality could easily become engrossed with the
wealth of information provided. Past lectures have included Is it limerance or is it lust” by James Weinrich, Ph.D., “Lesbian
erotic archetypes” by JoAnn Loulan, M.A., “Gambling and sexual behaviors of older people” by Adele Zorn, Ph.D., and
“Erotic Wars: What happened to the sexual revolution?” by Lillian Rubin, Ph.D.

WORLD CONGRESS FOR SEXOLOGY The World Congress for Sexology is sponsored once every two years by the World
Association for Sexology. These congresses are five-day international events. They began in 1974 and have been held in
Paris, Montreal, Rome, Mexico City, Jerusalem, Washington, New Delhi, Heidelberg, Caracas, and in 1991 was held in
Amsterdam. The 1993 congress is scheduled for Rio de Janeiro and the 1995 for Osaka. Professionals in sex therapy and
education attend these conferences but others are also welcomed. The lectures are designed to provide attendees with a
broad variety of information. Topics in 1991 included “Psychosexual development”, “Plasticity of primate sexual and
reproductive strategies”, “Therapeutical approaches towards victims of sexual torture, ”Sex and aging“, ”Therapy of
erectile dysfunction“, ”Sexuality and chronic kidney disorders“, and so forth.

(See also EROTIC BALLS, SEX CLUBS, SEX HOTELS, SEX MUSEUMS, SEX RESTAURANTS and SEX SHOWS)

SEX GAMES A game is defined by Webster’s as “any specific amusement or sport involving physical or mental
competition under specific rules.” Sex games include board games where people use dice, pawns, and a deck of cards;
each giving explicit sex instructions. People can create their own sex games by making the prize a fantasy fulfillment for
the winner of any ordinary game. Others formulate their own game as in the case of Adult April Fool’s parties.

Adult April Fool’s parties are organized so that each participant draws their assignment for the evening from a hat.
Samples of these assignments include having to make an obscene phone call to someone at the party from another room,
asking one’s date if they mind you signing the waiting list for the midnight orgy, organizing a striptease show from
volunteers at the party, offering a dollar to five different people to spend a minute alone with you in a dark bedroom,
propositioning three people, pretending to be Dracula and having to nibble three people on the neck, kissing three
strangers, announcing that you are recently engaged and then propositioning a guest, convincing someone other than
your date to take a shower with you, and finally, talking someone of the opposite sex into letting you borrow their
underwear for a few minutes. Alternatively, everyone has to write out either their most bizarre, their favorite, or their
fantasy sex scene without signing the paper. All of these are placed in a hat and drawn out at midnight and read aloud. If
people are willing they may also be called on individually at this time to read their original assignment to the group and
relay their experience.

Many sex games are simply modifications of more common ones. The child’s game of Spin the Bottle is modified this way
so that instead of only receiving a kiss, the person who has the bottle point at them gets to request a sexual favor of
anyone else in the circle. A circus game called the Ring Toss was also adapted into a sex game. This involves having men
lie in a row and one by one the women throw a sponge ring onto the erect penis of the man they want. The owner of the
penis and the winner then engage in sex. Strip Poker is probably the most common game. Teenagers often play it with the
modification that everyone can stop when they get to underwear. Strip poker has also been modified for sex play by
letting the winner of each hand select the person of their choice to engage in sex for five minutes; they then return to the
table to play another hand.

There are numerous sex games on the market. Chippendale’s has a two sided jigsaw puzzle of their young male strippers.
There is a game called Dirty Words, where players gain points by the number of sentences they can make with the 23
cubes containing words such as “ear, touch, bite, love, moist, lips, burn, moan, cream, crotch”, and so forth. Forum
Novelties makes a game, Private Parts,, that is similar to Pin-the-Tail-On-the-Donkey. except the lost appendage is a penis.
There is a similar version for those who prefer to play with a female poster. Dirty Pictures, is a game that requires the
players to draw a picture of words or phrases such as lust and the players who guess correctly get points. Sexual Lotto, is
in the format of bingo except instead of numbers people match sexual instructions. Getting to Know You.. .Better, is
designed to give one insight into their partners by the way they answer the questions on each card. A slightly more
provocative game is Sexual Secrets, by TDC Games in which players draw a card and complete sentences such as “The first
time I touched a naked woman I..., or “The thought of making love to two men at the same time really makes me...” An
Enchanted Evening, is a board game that lists simple questions or acts for players to comply with in order to finish the
game and have their secret fantasy fulfilled. The latter is written on paper by each player preceding the game. One of the
games involving actual sex is called The Fantasy Role-Playing Card Game For Couples, by American Playtime. In this game
the cards assign and describe roles to the players such as school teacher, nurse, prostitute, novice, and dominatrix. The
instructions suggest that the players have the following props on hand before beginning the game: “blindfold, body
powder, feather, honey or whipping cream, music for dancing, oil or lotion, soft ropes, sheet or cover.” A slightly similar
game is Dirty Dare, by Baron/Scott where the object is for a player to complete two dares in categories such as physical,
messy, entertaining, and hot to the satisfaction of the other players in order to win. The props suggested for this game
are: “ice cubes, whipped cream, eggs, oil, ketchup, mustard, peanut butter, bananas, pickles, powder, flour, and honey.”

Computer board game programs such as Intersextion are available through some of the adults only networks.

(See also AUCTIONS, COMPUTER SEX, DOMINANCE/SUBMISSION and FANTASY PLAY)

SEX HOTELS Sex hotels permit swinging although most don’t actively support it. Nudist resorts sometimes have private
cabins and couples are permitted to discreetly approach others; however, some nudist resorts will ask people to leave if
they are caught soliciting. Brochures with park rules often inform new members of their preference.

A west coast hotel that supports nudity and provides an atmosphere conducive to swinging is California’s Edgewater West
Adult Resort. Hereare 80 rooms opening onto a private tropical setting with jacuzzis, swimming pools, fish ponds, and its
own night club. The management also provides exciting entertainment for holidays. For example, the entertainment for
July 4th, 1991 consisted of a Roman toga dinner party. Fruit was served by wenches (sometimes from on top of their
breasts), followed by a banquet including breads in the form of penises and breasts. Entertainment included a belly
dancer and a male stripper who removed everything but the baby oil rubbed onto his body by a mob of ravishing women.
Dessert was served from a rolling cart upon which was a beautiful nude female covered with fruit and whipped cream for
dipping. The hotel rules concerning swinging are that when couples are in their rooms they close their drapes for privacy,
leave them open if they want others to watch from outside, and leave their sliding glass door and drapes open as an
invitation for others to join them. Couples who enjoy nudity but who are not interested in swinging themselves stay at
the hotel because they find the relaxed and friendly environment refreshing.

San Jose California once had a small motel swingers frequented. Here they would leave their doors slightly ajar and place
a photo of themselves on the outside as a courtesy. This practice is sometimes seen at swinger conventions when the
whole hotel is reserved for their use. Other sex hotels include Beck’s Inn in Fayetteville, North Carolina, Eden Patio, and
the Club Amour in France. Rio de Janeiro has several sex motels as does Japan. The Japanese cater to fantasy and one
may select from one of a number of scenes.

People are encouraged to bring their own partner to sex hotels because a husband does not enjoy paying to share their
wife with ten single men without having a female partner for himself.

There are several S/M hotels throughout Europe and Japan where the hotel has a dungeon available for use by its guests.
Swinging may not be condoned by the managers. Some S/M hotels are private chalets that have equipped dungeons
(usually designed for only one couple).

(See also SEX CONFERENCES and SEX CLUBS)

SEX HOTLINES Sex hotlines are supported by charities, government, or private sponsorship. Hotlines provide answers to
questions people have about sexuality and act as a referral service to therapists or special interest organizations. They are
not there to entertain obscene phone callers. In fact, the operators (most are volunteer) are instructed to hang up or end
any conversation where they suspect the caller is trying to masturbate or become verbally abusive.

One of the more general purpose sex hotlines is The San Francisco Sex Information switchboard. The types of questions
volunteers are permitted to answer are more diverse because it is supported by private donations, fund raising parties,
and training fees. Volunteers are not usually qualified therapists. Therefore they are required to complete 50 hours of
training on subjects that range from homosexuality, diseases, S/M, zoophilia, incest, relationship counseling, surrogate
work, and transsexuality before staffing the switchboard. Once on-line the volunteers cannot counsel individuals. They
are restricted to listening, relaying information, and making referrals.

Callers typically ask questions about anal sex, S/M, cross dressing, fetishes, disease, birth control, incest, and relationship
problems. The switchboard has a large catalog with hundreds of referrals for callers interested in special sex clubs or sex
related entertainment. The hotline does not make referrals for dates, escorts, or prostitutes. The switchboard can only
recommend that the person attend social functions or answer personal ads.A few of San Francisco’s other hotlines are
Men Overcoming Violence in Their Relationships, Men Who are Violent to Women, and the AIDS Hotline. There are also
hotlines for gays, bi-sexuals, rape victims, and diseases.

(See also DISEASES and PHONE SEX)

SEX MAGICK Sex magick combines witchcraft rituals, visualization, breath control, and tantra for an ultimate sexual
experience. Wiccans who practice sex magick are rare and it is difficult to gain entry into the coven.

Covens are often formed according to sexual preference; gay, bisexual, or heterosexual. Some members have sex with a
partner and others masturbate. The rituals and chants differ from coven to coven; however, their basis in repetition tends
to be a common thread. Rituals enhance emotions by conditioning. The mind anticipates the climax of the event and
causes the body to automatically respond. Most of the rituals used in sex magick are based on Wicca and can be found in
books such as The Spiral Dance, by Starhawk or many of the others on witchcraft or Western tantra.

Sex magick requires a proficiency in visualization skills. One must be able to visualize assorted colors, to create smells,
tastes, sounds, or moods and to change them at will. One popular exercise for novices is that of visualizing an apple with
its colors, shapes, smells, and tastes; then eating it until only the core is left. Another important visualization technique,
the tree of life, teaches the student how to create and channel energy. The person sits in a comfortable position and
visualizes being connected to the floor. Next they grow roots that slowly sink into the earth, penetrating deeper and
deeper until they pass the water table, the rock, and into the core of the earth. Here they feel the heat and pull this
energy back into their body, the genitals, through the spine, past the heart, into the neck, and out the top of the head.
When a person is able to visualize the apple and the energy flow they are then able to visualize their fantasy god and the
divine powers which are used to enhance the sex act.

Two basic types of breathing are used during sex magick. Deep slow breathing has a calming effect on the body, it
prolongs arousal by creating and storing energy rather than burning it up. Rapid and shallow breathing generates and
burns energy. This type of breathing is done just prior to the sex act for a more intense orgasm. (Refer to OXYGEN
REGULATION)

Ritual items used in sex magick include a chalice, an athame (two-edged knife), a red candle, a bell, a censer (an enclosed
incense burner that swings by chains), and cauldron (incense pot).

The sex magick ritual begins with each person showering with warm water. This prepares a person physically by relaxing
the muscles and helping one focus on the subtle pleasure sensations of their body.

The incense in the censer is lit and 3 tablespoons of rock salt is dissolved into the water filled chalice. The group sits
together in a circle and does a series of deep breath meditations. The priestess brings the chalice to the center and each
person places their fingers on the rim visualizing and perhaps verbalizing the casting of their personal list of pains and
sorrows into the salty water. As this is accomplished the water symbolically turns dark and murky. The priestess then
takes the chalice, stands, holds it above her head and calls on the goddess of the moon to change the water of their
afflictions into pure crystal clear water. Everyone then joins in the chant:

She changes all she touches and all she touches she changes, she changes all she touches and all she touches she
changes...change is, touch is, touch us, change us, change is, touch is, touch us, change us...

The priestess proceeds by declaring that the water is pure as a bright white light. The goddess is asked to bless the water
and is then offered the first libation (a drop is spilled). Each person takes a sip stating that they accept this change in their
lives.

Some circles follow with a second cleansing meditation. A crystal, pentagram, or earth piece is held and used to ground
what wasn’t caught the first time. Each person lies on their back with their palms to the earth, holding on to the selected
earthly medium, visualizing that they are floating down into the earth like mud when the rain hits it, down so deep into
the earth that they reach the core, then bringing that warmth slowly back up into the body, re-energizing, and vitalizing it.
Each person feels the power rise through the body, lighting it up like a neon sign.

The circle next banishes evil spirits that may be present in the room. The priestess enters the center of the circle with an
athame and calls to the spirits of evil to be gone. All the members then respond with “We banish you, we banish you, we
banish you, begone.”

The priestess will then cast the circle by pointing to the sky with her athame and saying “Oh noon sky above, and earth
below I salute you” while she draws a pentagram with the athame. She or an assistant then takes the salt water chalice,
dipping their fingers in and flinging drops toward the East saying: “With salt and water I purify the East.” The censer is
swung back and forth before the East as the person recites: “With fire and air I invoke and charge the East. Oh guardians
of the watch-tower of the East, powers of air we invoke and call you, be here now, (a ritual bell is rung) awake, awake oh
spirits of the East.”

The priestess next takes her athame and joins the East to the South. The same ritual with salt water, censer, and the bell
is performed for the powers of fire (afterward lighting the incense in the cauldron on the altar). The priestess continues in
the same manner to the West for the powers of water and then the North for the powers of the earth. The priestess steps
once again to the center of the circle and raises her athame as she chants “The circle is cast, we are between the worlds
beyond the bounds of time where night and day, birth and death, joy and sorrow meet as one. Blessed be. Oh center
above and center below we purify you. We invoke you with fire and air (swing censer) and we call you. Awake, awake oh
center (ring bell).

All now join in a chant of:

Isis, Astarte, Diana,

Hegate, Demeter, Kali,
Inana,

Repeat four times.

Osiris, Horis, Merlin,

Monanin, Helios, Shiva,
Horned One

Repeat four times.

Coven members now lie naked on the floor with each of their bodies in the shape of a pentagram for the god identity
meditation. Here each person takes on the form of a sex divinity. In this position each point of the pentagram (head, left
hand, left foot, right foot, and right hand) is identified as a part of life’s cycles: sex, self, passion, pride, power. These
words are repeated as each person visualizes each of these processes. A second meditation is done with love, wisdom,
knowledge, law, and power. The last meditation consists of each person visualizing the life cycle: birth, initiation,
consummation, repose, and death. Each person experiences the power and energy of being a god or goddess and each
proceeds through the sex ritual in this new identity.

One person now lies down and their partner moves their hands over their body but without touching it. This pushes old
energy out of the body and is done by running the hand from waist up past the head and from waist down the legs; the
waist line is never crossed. The old energy is now replaced with positive new energy from the consort by slowly blowing
onto the goddess along the same lines which the energy was released. The partner must be able to feel the breath move
up and down their body because this is the initial stimulation that causes sexual arousal.

The couples exchange places and repeat the performance on their consort. Once accomplished, the energy is again
exchanged, but this time with a vampire suck. The couple takes turns kissing and sucking at the neck while visualizing a
flow of white energy entering into their body through their mouth. After each person is satisfied, the vampire sucking is
done to each nipple and then to the genitals.

The two now join in the sacred sex act as they continue to visualize the life cycles of the earth and their connection with it
as divine entities. The lovers remain joined until both return to a centered or relaxed state. There may be a tingling or
throbbing sensation throughout the body caused by the excess generation of energy.

The circle is finally opened as people in the group hold hands and say “The circle is open, but unbroken, blessed be.” A
kiss is then passed around the circle in a clockwise direction. (Sex magick lessons from Karaqua, 1991, San Francisco)

Adding ritual to an act creates a mystique and heightens the intensity of arousal. This is true even for those without
partners. An individual form of sex magick is practiced by an organization called the Temple of Psychic Youth (TOPY)
which operates by mail. Its members perform individual sex rituals known as the 23 ritual. This ritual is done on the 23rd
of each month at 11:23pm. The member lights a candle, focuses on a favorite sexual fantasy, has an orgasm, and then
puts some of the ejaculate or vaginal secretions on a piece of paper. Spit is then added along with a drop of blood and a
pubic hair. These are attached to the paper and then mailed back to the headquarters of the organization.
(See also RITUAL SEX, SATAN WORSHIP and VISUALIZATION)

SEX MUSEUMS There are several museums that have a collection of sexual artifacts or paraphernalia on display. The
Venus ‘I’emple in Amsterdam has in its collection a mannequin of Marilyn Monroe in the famous pose from her movie
The Seven Year Itch. It is rigged so that when one pushes a button a burst of air causes her skirt to blow upward exposing
her legs and undergarments. They also have a collection of old photographs and two phone booths where one can listen
to a recording of a typical fantasy hotline.

A Peruvian museum has an adults only section that displays ancient pottery portraying various sex acts. There are also
numerous private collections that are occasionally exhibited to the public, such as the Robert Mapplethorpe photo exhibit
and Frederick’s of Hollywood’s collection of lingerie worn by movie stars.

Although not a museum, the famous Konarak temple near the southeastern shore of India is a popular tourist attraction.
It was built by King Narashima Deva around 1250 C.E. and carved on its walls are many sex scenes presumed to have been
taken from the Kama Sutra. Sex was sacred to Indians as one of their Hindu scriptures suggests, “It is not so important to
know thyself as to be thyself; self-abandonment to desire begets freedom from the same.” Indians celebrate the festival
of Shanipuja at this temple once a year. Women who survived illnesses during the previous year lie garlands of flowers on
a stone penis which symbolizes generative power.

(See also SEX BOUTIQUES)

SEX POSITIONS People are beginning to experiment with various sex positions without the shame or guilt that has been
imposed since the Catholic Church accepted the laws of the Stoics who in 100 B.C.E. declared that couples could only
have sex in a supine position with the male on top. These patriarchal laws led to 2,000 years of inability to orgasm for
many women and sexual repression in general. Today sexual positions are engaged in to facilitate deeper penetration,
allow access to different parts of a partner’s body, and to regulate pressure on the penis or clitoris.

A man who ejaculates quicker than he would like can use a missionary position with the woman on top or any other
position that offers the least pressure and friction (in addition to using extra lubrication or a condom). Conversely, a
person who takes longer to ejaculate may select positions that increase stimulation such as from behind, missionary with
the woman’s legs raised over his buttocks, a scissor position where the penis hits the side of the vagina or where the
woman’s legs are held together.

Positions that facilitate orgasm for women who prefer clitoral stimulation are those with the man lying (spoon position)
or standing behind while simultaneously reaching around to stimulate her clitoris with his fingers. Clitoral stimulation can
be accomplished in the missionary position as well. This is done by withdrawing the penis a couple of inches so that the
tip remains in the vagina and the base rests against the clitoris. The penis is then rotated in circles or thrust up and down
or back and forth, but always remaining in contact with the clitoris.

The use of chairs, pillows, swings, day beds, and counters can help one create new sex positions.

Gay sex positions often include the 69 position for oral sex, the spoon for anal entry with one reaching around with their
hand for manual stimulation, and missionary where the bottom partner’s legs are wrapped around the buttocks of the
top male. Lesbians use the 69 position, sometimes with their legs wrapped around each other in a position that resembles
a ball. Those who use strap on dildos are able to use many of the same positions engaged in by others.

Jessica Stewart compiled an excellent book on this subject entitled The Complete Manual of Sexual Positions. It has over
200 photographs and includes positions for group sex as well.

(See also AXILLISM, COITUS A CHEVAL, COITUS A MAMMILLA, COITUS INTERFERMORIS, GENUPHALLATION and HEAD
STANDS)

SEX RESTAURANTS There are several types of sex restaurants. Some, such as the Hjarlter Dam, a Swiss restaurant, allow
dominant women to anchor their slaves to a table or chair leg. Many American restaurants and bars during the 70’s
allowed other discreet forms of sex play such as fellatio under the table or toe jobs at the table.

The Japanese have coffee shops called the No Pan Kissa that are equipped with mirrored tiles on the floor to assist
customers who may want to look up the dresses of their waitress. Incidently, the waitresses’ uniforms do not include
underwear.

London, the home of whipping enthusiasts, has School Dinners where patrons are caned by the waitresses if they don’t
finish their vegetables.

(See also SEX HOTELS, SEX SHOWS and SEX MUSEUMS)

SEX RINGS A sex ring refers to pedophilia involving several children and one or more adults. There are several types of
sex rings. “A solo ring consists of one adult who is sexually involved with small groups of children. There is no transfer of
the children or of photographs to other adults. A syndicated ring includes several adults who form a well-structured
organization for the recruitment of children, the production of pornography, the delivery of direct sexual services, and the
establishment of an extensive network of customers. In a transitional ring there may be more than one adult with several
children, but the organizational aspect of the syndicated ring is missing. The transitional rings may be moving toward the
organizational status of the syndicated ring; for example, the photographs may be sold” (“Response Patterns in Children
and Adolescents Exploited Through Sex Rings and Pornography”, by Ann Wolbert Burgess, R.N., D.N.Sc., Carol R. Hartman,
R.N., D.N.Sc., Maureen P. McCausland, R.N., M.S. and Patricia Powers, R.N., M.S., American Journal of Psychiatry, 141:5,
May 1984, pp. 656-662). The authors point out that boys were preferred most often, and in a study of 66 children 75% of
the “victims demonstrated patterns of negative psychological and social adjustment after the rings were exposed.”
Activity in one ring included as many as 17 boys going to a coach’s home after school where the boys sat “in a circle
drinking beer and smoking marijuana”, then the man dressed in a samurai outfit and signaled the boys to begin their sex
ritual. After the orgy, which the coach photographed, “one boy would be designated to have sex with the man.”

Children are less likely to report this type of sexual abuse because their friends and siblings are also involved; making it
appear more normal. Financial rewards also serves to provide additional enticement. CAUTION: Any sexual activity
between adults and children, including sex rings, is illegal. The psychological injury sustained by these children and their
parents is profound, and the punishment for the perpetrator is severe. The temporary excitement and financial gain is not
worthwhile. Children should also be forewarned about such adult activities.

(See also INCEST, PEDOPHILIA, PORNOGRAPHY, PROSTITUTION and RAPE)

SEX SHOWS (Autagonistophilia—person performing) Sex shows vary according to the laws of the hosting country,
expertise of the participants, creativity of the owners, and amount of money they are willing to spend for special effects.

Sex shows in Amsterdam consist mostly of erotic dancing where several solo females perform followed by the finale with
a heterosexual couple thrusting in time with the music. While the sex act is sensual, one is left with the impression that
they were watching a dance routine. Other clubs have women from the audience come onto the stage to fellate the male
performers. A sister city, Den Haag, features sex shows at Club DOMA, a posh private S/M club. An audience of attractive
couples and a few older men sit in black leather booths watching a stage performance of light bondage and S/M. These
are mostly women who bring each other to climax throughout the different segments of the show. Occasionally a
volunteer from the audience is brought on stage to assist in the production.
 

Dallas, Texas has a private couples only club that has sex shows provided by an elected couple each week. These two
partners then go through their routine for the entertainment of the others.

Paris has a restaurant called Les Deux Boules where couples lie in nets and engage in sex above the tables of customers
who dine below. Germany’s Mon Cheri club provides a bubble bath for customers to relax in with the female performers.

Bangkok probably has the most variety. One club has a woman pulling a 25 foot knotted cord out of her vagina. Others
insert cigarettes, blow smoke rings, and pull out a string of double edged razor blades—one by one. This is accomplished
by placing the group of blades together with paper around them as they are inserted. Their removal requires the skill of
an older performer who slowly pulls on the string and makes sure that the pressure is on the side protected by the paper.
Other women are trained to shoot baskets with boiled eggs or to insert a whole peeled banana and drop chunks into a
cup. Some have learned to break balloons by inserting a dart gun into their vagina and shooting darts with their vaginal
muscles. The bottle dance, where a woman squats and lowers herself onto the neck of a bottle, also has a long history
among prostitutes.

The Philippines has sex shows near Clark Air Force Base where women pick up a stack of coins two to three inches high
with their vagina and then release the coins one by one. Others shoot ping pong balls across the room from their vaginas,
or act out fake stabbing scenes with realistic props. One show at the Thunder Dome has two naked women in a pool of
water fighting as though one will drown the other.

The Gargoyle club in London once had an act where a man threw bowie knives at a naked woman who was bound to a
wheel.

A Vietnamese club had a woman sitting on a swing that was attached to a pulley. This allowed a man to lie on the floor
below the opening cut in the swing and raise and lower the female onto his penis.

San Francisco is the home of the internationally renowned O’Farrell Theatre. The females are college age and all resemble
beauty contestants. Performances are restricted to females using dildos or performing cunnilingus on each other due to a
city ordinance prohibiting sex with men on stage. The theatre has regularly scheduled performances throughout the day
in each of its rooms. The main theatre has a stage where there are continual strip shows and lap dancers to entertain the
audience. The Cine Stage has two female body builders that do Jazzercise and weight workouts to music and then end the
show with a dildo routine. The stage, Behind the Green Door, has showers where females stand in front of the water and
dance; soon all but two dancers leave the stage to lie on the customer’s tables giving private shows to those who tip. The
Kopenhagen Room has couches along the walls on which customers sit in the dark and watch a couple of strippers have
sex in the center of the room. All are provided with flash lights to shine on parts of the body they find the most intriguing.
The Ultra Room is rather unique. Here two dancers perform sex in a room surrounded by private booths with windows
and a small space through which to slide tips. Above the windows are metal handles that the women use to hold
themselves up with while putting a foot on each side of the booth’s window. A dildo with a suction cup is stuck to the
glass and the woman then mounts it in such a way that the person in the booth sees her open vagina thrusting up and
down on a large rubber penis. She may also fellate the dildo afterward or have the other dancer join her for a special
fisting show. A different sex theater during the late 1970’s had an additional feature. The dancers inside the room slipped
silk cords through the small slot below the window (normally used for tips), the man tied one end around his penis, and
the dancer tugged at the other end until the man ejaculated.
 

(See also EROTIC BALLS, SEX CLUBS, SEX CONFERENCES and SEX MUSEUMS)

SEX SURROGATES Sex surrogates are trained to work with psychologists in helping clients overcome sexual problems.
The surrogate normally pays $1,000 to attend a 12-week training program where they learn anatomy, human sexual
response, communication, and other subjects pertinent to surrogate work. Masters and Johnson first reported results of
treatment for sexual dysfunctions with sex surrogates. The study included 41 men and 13 different surrogates over an 11
year period. Of these men 32 recovered from their problems (Masters WH, Johnson VE, 1970, Human Sexual Inadequacy,
London: J and A Churchill, London).

The use of sex surrogates flourished during the 1970’s but thereafter sharply declined. Benefits obtained from this type of
personal therapy can be substantial. People suffering from psychological impotence, premature or retarded ejaculations,
accidents, disfigurements, and those with penis implants are trained to deal with the complication, and they often
improve when working with surrogates. Many problems are related to emotional bonding and the client is also taught to
work through ordinary dating relationships with the surrogate. Unlike a dating relationship the person is not permitted to
drop the surrogate when they feel uncomfortable or prefer someone new. The client’s therapist encourages them to
work through their conflicts so that they can survive in a normal relationship. Many clients never experience genital
penetration with their surrogate. Those who do have intercourse with the surrogate do it toward the end of the
treatment program. Once the client is able to have intercourse they are often considered cured and no longer in need of a
surrogate.

Surrogates are average looking males and females who often work with either sex. Average looks discourage abuses such
as those who might fabricate sexual problems to be able to work with attractive partners. Another reason therapists
prefer average looking surrogates is that this is a more realistic aspect of life. Middle aged men are encouraged to give up
their fantasies of only wanting to have sex with 20 year old gorgeous blonds. A surrogate teaches them to value a person
for more meaningful attributes.

Surrogates come from a variety of backgrounds. Some are from sex related fields but for whatever reason, prostitutes do
not seem attracted to this profession. Each surrogate is expected to have a personal relationship of their own. This is
designed to help prevent the surrogate from unintentionally using the client for their own emotional support.

The normal duration of treatment is once a week for 7 to 14 weeks although some older clients take 20-40 weeks. A
surrogate may see from one to 10 clients a week and will charge approximately $200 for a two-hour session. The
surrogate rarely has sex with more than one or two of these clients a week. (“Sex Surrogates”, by C. Cohen and J.
Robinson, Mensa Sexyg Gathering Conference, February 17-18, 1990)

(Sec also IMPOTENCE and SEXOLOGISTS)

SEX TOYS See ABRASIONS, BONDAGE, CLAMPS, COCKRINGS, CUPPING, ELECTRIC SHOCK, FORNICATORY DOLLS,
GENITAL/ANAL INSERTS, GROPING APPARATUS, ICE, JEWELRY, KLISMAPHILIA, KNIVES, KOKIGAMI, MEDICAL SCENES,
OXYGEN REGULATION, PENETRATION TOYS, POWER TOOLS, SEX GAMES, STAPLING, SWINGS, and SYBIAN

 
SEXERCISE Sexercise is a name for exercises engaged in during intercourse and/or those that tone muscles used for sex.

Sexercise includes such exercises as 30 or 40 deep sucking movements up and down the penis during fellatio which is
excellent for keeping facial muscles toned. Sexercise can also be in the form of push-ups or pelvic thrusts during coitus or
keeping the buttock muscles squeezed together for as long as possible. Women can practice squeezing their
pubococcygeus muscle around the penis. This is the same muscle that is used to stop the flow of urine. Once developed, a
woman can massage the penis with these vaginal muscles. This is also referred to by some as the “snapping pussy” or
kystapaza that has made some Asian prostitutes famous. Men are able to do something similar by raising and lowering
the penis. Leg muscles can be exercised by one partner squatting over the face or genitals of the other.

Partners can be creative with sexercise, even using special music as an accompaniment. Penetration is not always
necessary. A naked couple may merely decide to go through regular exercises together that require body contact.

(See also KABAZZAH and MASTURBATION)

SEXOLOGY There are many physicians and psychologists who are renowned for their understanding of and contributions
to the science of sex. The following is only a sampling.

IWAN BLOCH Dr. Bloch (1872-1922), author of Psychopathia Sexualis, Sexual Life of Our time, and Vita Sexualis, made a
major contribution to sexology. His early research on syphilis led him to conclude that sexual problems could not be
understood based exclusively on theology, medicine, law, or anthropology. He felt that “the two fundamental pillars of
sexual investigation—biologic observation and cultural research —demanded a restricted, independent rigorous science
that would unite all the various methods of observation in one” (Strange Sexual Practices by Iwan Bloch, Introduction by
Dr. Victor Robinson).

HAVELOCK ELLIS Ellis (1859-1939) was an English physician, son of a sea-captain who took him as a young boy aboard his
ship to Australia and Peru. This early exposure to different cultures later instilled in Ellis a tolerant attitude regarding
individual sexual choices. Adolescence again saw him in Australia and it was here that he studied medicine. His renowned
seven volume book, Studies in the Psychology of Sex, gained world-wide attention. Sex was only one of the subjects that
caught his interest. He wrote 17 books on politics and medical science within 44 years. Ellis led a quiet revolution to free
people of their prejudice against those whose sex lives were different.

SIGMUND FREUD Freud (1856-1939) began as a neurologist in Vienna and became the father of psychoanalysis. His
clinical work with patients who had experienced sexual trauma during childhood led him to develop theories regarding
the effect sexual development has on behavior. Although not popular among his colleagues, Freud gained a following. His
books were soon burned in Nazi Germany which banned them as representative of a “Jewish science.” He died of cancer
in England a year after the Nazi invasion of Austria. His contribution to sexology was his having the courage to take sex
seriously during a period when others evaded serious research or discussion of the subject (The Sex Atlas, by Erwin J.
Haeberle, pp. 488-489).

MAGNUS HIRSCHFELD Hirschfeld (1868-1935), like his father, was a physician, although his first studies were in
philosophy. While traveling in Africa he saw civilizations that were tolerant and accepting of sexual deviances. This made
him more tolerant and helped convince him that puritanical European society had inflicted unnecessary sexual mores on
people. He later began a movement to petition the Reichstag to remove a law in the Criminal Codes against homosexuals.
Soon he created the Institute for Sexual Science. At the Institute the clinic offered free medical advice, the university
section had lectures that were open to the public; there was also a marriage counseling center, and a library that was
available for anyone’s use. Hirschfeld wrote books such as Sappho and Socrates, Natural Laws of Love, Homosexuality,
and his 3,000 page Sexual Pathology. He was compassionate and fought in court as a medical expert to defend people
charged with sexual offenses. He was also responsible for the initial discovery that hormones played a role in sexual
behavior, and that “sexual anomalies are caused by irregularities in development.” At the end of his life he found himself
exiled, his Institute destroyed, his books publicly burned, and his colleagues imprisoned (Sexual Anomalies and
Perversions, Publisher’s Preface, pp. 17-25).

VIRGINIA E. JOHNSON Johnson (1925-) married William Masters and worked together with him to gather data from
laboratory testing of couples engaging in sex. Volunteers were hooked up to instruments to monitor their physiological
responses as they engaged in sex. Johnson and Masters also filmed many of these couples. The data collected was
published in their book, Human Sexual Response. The information they gathered also provided the basis of a treatment
program they offered to couples. (See also William H. Masters.)

ALFRED KINSEY Kinsey (1894-1956) was an entomologist who, appalled upon discovering how little scientific knowledge
was available about human sexuality, decided to launch a systematic study. In 1948 he astounded the public with the
release of his findings from 16,000 interviews in Sexual Behavior in the Human Male. His method of gathering
information has been criticized by some. But considering the almost impossible challenge of gathering random samplings
from people who are willing to be honest about their sex life, he accomplished an enormous feat.

RICHARD VON KRAFFT-EBING Krafft-Ebing (1840-1902) was a psychiatrist and neurologist. He became interested in
sexual deviancy while staying with his grandfather in Heidelberg, Germany. This grandfather was an attorney who
defended people charged with sex offenses in a Puritanical society. Krafft-Ebing studied and gained an expertise in
“hypnosis, hysteria, criminal psychopathy, geriatrics, epilepsy, menstrual psychoses, migraine, and masochism.” He is
known primarily for his book Psychopathia Sexualis (which was the first comprehensive listing of sexual aberrations), for
emphasizing “the importance of clitoral orgasm,” and bringing the scientific discussion of homosexuality into the open
(Psychopathia Sexualis, Introduction by Franklin S. Klaf).

WILLIAM H. MASTERS Masters (1915-) is a medical researcher who concentrated his studies on hormone replacement
therapy for postmenopausal women during an era when major discoveries were being made in this field. He is better
known, however, for his research in couple sex therapy. In 1971 he married his research partner Virginia Johnson. (See
Virginia E. Johnson.)

JOHN MONEY Money (1921-) has written several popular books: Straight, Gay and In-Between, Lovemaps, Love & Love
Sickness, The Destroying Angel, Traumatic Abuse and Neglect of Children at Home, and Venuses Penuses. He “is
internationally known for his clinical and research work in the new and growing science of developmental sexology. In
sexology he first formulated and defined the concept of gender role and identity. His clinical contributions include
hormonal treatment for male sex offenders, sex reassignment in transsexualism, and the psychoendocrinology of birth
defects of the sex organs” (Lovemaps jacket cover). Money has also coined many new words, giving us the tools to
communicate more precisely regarding complex gender changes and paraphilias. (For reference purposes, a complete list
of these terms follows:

Acrotomophilia, Adolescentilism (paraphilic), Androgynophilia, Andromimesis, Apotemnophilia, Asphyxiophilia,

Autagonistophilia, Autassassinophilia, Autonepiophilia, Autophilia, Biastophilia, Catheterophilia, Chrematistophilia,
Chronophilia, Displacement Paraphilia, Ephebophilia, Erotophonophilia, Exigency theory, Fetishistic/ Talismanic
Paraphilia, Formicophilia, G-I/R (gender-identity/role), Gender coding, Gender crosscoding, Gendermap, Gender Role,
Gender transposition, Gerontalism—paraphilic, Gerontophilia, Gynemimesis, Gynemimetophilia, Hybristophilia,
Hypophilia, Infantilism—paraphilic, Infantophilia, Inclusion Paraphilia, Juvenilism—paraphilic, Kleptophilia,
Marauding/Predatory Paraphilia, Mercantile/Venal Paraphilia, Morphophilia, Munchausen’s syndrome by proxy·,
Narratophilia, Nepiophilia, Normophilia, Olfactophilia, Paleodigms, Peodeiktophilia, Phylism, Pictophilia, Raptophilia,
Sacrificial/Expiatory Paraphilia, Sex adjunctive, Sex adventitious, Sex derivative, Sex irreducible, Sexosophy, Skoptic
Syndrome, Solicitational/Allurative Paraphilia, Somnophilia, Stigmatic/Eligiblic paraphilia, Stigmatophilia,
Subrogation/understudy paraphilia, Symphorophilia, Telephonicophilia, Transvestophilia, and Vandalized lovemaps. For
definitions of some of these terms see Gay, Straight, and In-Between, Oxford University Press, 1988)

WILHELM REICH Reich (1897-1957) was a psychoanalyst who studied under Freud. He brought about much of his later
misfortune by mixing sex and politics. He compiled volumes of research on human sexuality and was the first to analyze
orgasms and divided them into four phases. Several of his students went on to make great contributions as well. One
developed Gestalt therapy and another founded Esalen. He was also a scientist who discovered, among other natural
phenomena, the “bion and T bacilli, which are microscopic forms that originate from the disintegration of organic or
inorganic materials, and which lie at the border between the living and non-living worlds.” His works, in Nazi Germany,
soon brought about his expulsion from the Communist Party and in the mid- 1930’s he escaped under threat of death.
Even in America he was subject to much harassment. His books were banned and burned, and his laboratory was
vandalized. The Food and Drug Administration obtained an injunction to prevent Reich and his followers from using the
word “orgone” and Reich was later arrested on “a technical violation of an injunction, and died in prison.” Books such as
The Mass Psychology of Fascism, The Function of the Orgasm, The Sexual Revolution, and Listen, Little Man survived.
There are also institutes such as the Orgone Biophysical Research Lab, in El Cerrito, California that continue his research
on orgone energy (Natural finergy Works catalog, p. 2). His theories on orgone are not generally accepted in the
scientific community but his works on sexuality and the effects of a sexually repressive government on human health are
once again receiving attention. (Personal communication with Robert Moore and Don Eckerstrom of the Healing Dynamic
Center, in Arizona.)

There are many more physicians, psychiatrists, researchers, anthropologists, and writers who have made major
contributions to our understanding of sexuality but whose individual contributions, for space considerations, cannot be
mentioned. Today counselors and researchers can obtain a degree in sexology. One such doctorate program is offered at
the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (1523 Franklin Street, San Francisco, California 94109). They may
be contacted for referrals to qualified sexologists in one’s local area.

(See also BIRTH CONTROL, CELIBACY and ST. AUGUSTINE)

SEXUAL HARASSMENT Section 703 of Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 reads “Unwelcome sexual advances,
requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature constitute sexual harassment when (1)
submission to such conduct is made either explicitly or implicitly a term or condition of an individual’s employment, (2)
submission to or rejection of such conduct by an individual is used as the basis for employment decisions affecting such
individual, or (3) such conduct has the purpose or effect of unreasonably interfering with an individual’s work
performance or creating an intimidating, hostile, or offensive working environment....The victim as well as the harasser
may be a woman or a man. The victim does not have to be of the opposite sex.”

One difficulty in understanding sexual harassment is that similar sexual ‘communication’ made to 10 separate people
elicits 10 different reactions ranging from anger and rejection to a favorable response. Deeper understanding requires
that we look at why sexual harassment occurs and why harassees feel victimized. Almost all ‘recognized’ and reported
sexual harassment is of women by men. However, females employed in upper management have become more
aggressive and some intimidate their subordinate male workers similarly. Females lacking this power use more covert
forms of harassment. (See RAPE)

Developing males typically learn to overcome fear. They face continual pressure, such as defeat by unscrupulous
competitors. They must submit to the rage of superiors. They must often fight to get what they want or deserve. They
learn by experience that the stronger male takes what he wants, then fights to keep it. Some men have difficulty changing
from competing in their daily lives to vying for the attention of women.
There are various types of sexual harassment of women by men. Some men are merely egalitarian—they tell jokes and
discuss sex with women just as they would with men. They do not expect to be physically intimate with the woman and
may not want such intimacy. Other men need flattery or special attention; they seek the love and nurturance that sex
implies and are more prone to developing relationships. When such a man is rejected, he often becomes angry and may
seek revenge to assuage his pain. If he is unscrupulous, he may threaten the woman or try to harm her reputation or
career. Other men are insecure about whether their friends like them and will only harass women in front of such male
friends. These men realize that they are being insulting but are exhibiting acts of ‘bravery’. The same type of bravery is
observed in primitive tribes where one hunter would run ahead of a group to attack a large animal or enemy.

Females are not usually taught to overcome or work through their fears. It is considered culturally acceptable in many
societies for them to be victims, depending on a father figure to solve problems. Women often compete with peers using
appearance, wardrobe, or seduction techniques that are also part of courtship rituals designed to attract male sexual
attention.

Women grow up physically weaker than men. This creates an important psychological handicap. Females worry about
possible rape or assault any time they walk down a dark street alone. Some women experience similar fear in their own
homes. Few men can comprehend such concerns but it helps to understand because it can affect a woman’s emotions
when a man approaches her. She implicitly realizes that he could overpower her at any moment. And yet, the male is
usually oblivious to her concern.

Sexual harassment involves a ‘political’ power game between men and women (power is defined here as the control of
something someone else wants). So a woman has power, provided she says “no” to sexual advances, and a man can
usurp that power only if he gets a favorable sexual response or takes what he wants by unscrupulous tactics such as
threatening her with dismissal (his power ploy).

This subtle power struggle makes sexual harassment an important issue among feminists attempting to keep the scales
balanced. Another concern about sexual harassment noted by the heterosexual majority is the inclusion of opinions
regarding male sexuality from lesbian leaders of the feminist movement. While lesbians may be the first to notice female
repression and job discrimination, the lesbian view of male sexuality is different from the attitude of heterosexual
women. Sexual harassment between heterosexual men and women is dampened, because in any relationship a partner is
judged on over-all performance, attributes weighed against faults. Heterosexual women involved in close, loving
relationships with men can make this adjustment, but lesbians typically cannot. This is particularly true of lesbian
feminists who have been raped by men. Heterosexual women are more willing to accept men’s desires, for example
‘raunchy’ magazines, and their lust for women. Lesbians are much less likely to feel this compassion, or benefit from the
power heterosexual men bestow on women they find attractive. In this context, similar separation of the sexes led single
male clergy to support burning thousands of witches between the 13th and 17th centuries. Because they didn’t have
relationships with women, they were unable to regard them as human.

Women also differ from men in being less sexually attracted to men as a group. A female in love with one man often finds
the touch of any other male offensive, whereas monogamous men do not seem to be as threatened by flirting, sexual
conversation and casual touching.

In addition to the physical fear of rape, another major fear influencing women in their reactions to sexual harassment is
social fear of engaging in so-called ‘deviant’ behavior.

Social disapproval and repression of sex is deep seated in many cultures. Society has imposed harsh judgments against
those defying the narrow confines of ‘normal’ sex. This has endured for so many generations that people in most cultures
are no longer aware of the basis of these beliefs nor of their origins.

Considering conditions in 17th through 19th century Europe we can see the origins of many of our negative attitudes
about sex. During this time some of our ancestors were shackled to the front walls of churches and humiliated by people
in their communities for minor sex offenses. Women who taught birth control or became pregnant out of wedlock were
accused of heresy. As punishment their breasts were pinched off by a hot “Breast Ripper,” or their vaginas ripped out by
the “Oral, Rectal, and Vaginal Pear.” The latter was used on the rectum of gays, who also faced the possibility of being
sawn in half for their ‘sin’ while still alive.

Women who merely spoke up in church or against male authority were put into “Branks” or “Scold’s Bridles” (metal
masks) and staked in public squares where their fellow church members smeared them with feces or mutilated their
breasts and genitals sadistically. People who refused to attend church on Sunday regularly despite warnings, would also
be tortured for heresy.
Medical science panicked people by next reporting that loss of semen, for example in masturbation, caused insanity and
created the same abnormalities as castration. Parents began having their children’s genitals infibulated or blistered to
prevent them from this fate.

It is against this backdrop that many people of today’s generation respond to discussions of sex with fear and
apprehension. This type of unfounded, superstitious fear promotes ignorance, sexual repression and harsh judgments
against those trying to develop a more mature and rational opinion of sexual variance. This is the foundation of the
second fear that affects many people’s definition of sexual harassment—the social fear of engaging in so-called ‘deviant’
behavior.

In dealing constructively with sexual harassment, the harassee’s discomfort or fear must be communicated explicitly to
the harasser who must reply in a way showing that he or she understands the objection before the communication is
ended.

Some women assume incorrectly that a disgusted facial expression conveys disapproval. They are enraged that a man
continues in the face of such a warning. This is the thinking of a ‘trained’ victim afraid to communicate feelings to another
person. On the other hand no harasser should be held responsible for such conduct unless the offended party clearly
communicates disapproval. This disapproval should also be valid. People are not obliged to avoid sexual discussions any
more than discussions on religion or politics, which will also inevitably offend some people.

People who find their working environment intolerable have a better case when they document occurrences of
harassment, obtain witnesses, and show that they communicated their feelings to the offender and to management.
Charges of sexual harassment are reported to field offices of the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission.

(See also RAPE)

SHAVING See DEPILATION

SHOWERS (Mysophilia—arousa) from soiled clothing or foul decaying odors) Sexual showers refer to the expulsion of
natural fluids onto a partner’s body for arousal. A golden shower is comprised of urine, a milk shower of milk, a spit
shower of saliva, a brown shower from feces, semen from semen, and Roman showers from vomit.

Semen showers are the most common and certainly the most accepted. These are done between the breasts, abdomen,
buttocks, or on the face. Some are ‘forced’ to ejaculate on their own face as a form of humiliation in S/M games.
American porn actors almost always ejaculate on the buttocks or abdomen of their partners. Some showers are staged
with the assistance of a mechanical penis that ejects an egg white mixture.

Milk showers consist of a lactating woman squeezing her milk onto a partner, a non-lactating partner using commercial
milk to rub over their own breasts, or someone pouring it onto the partner. (See also LACTAPHILIA)

Spitting is most often used as a lubricant but is also done in S/M games involving humiliation. (See SPITTING)

Golden showers are common during adolescence with the ‘shooting’ of insects, animals, and friends. Some write their
names in the snow and others compete for who can shoot the longest distance. A large percentage of men questioned as
to whether they had urinated on partners in the shower indicated that they had, some doing it without their partner’s
knowledge. Golden showers are sprayed on the face, body, genitals, or mouth of a partner. Some consider this to be a
form of humiliation but others love the warm sensation, closeness, and trust it provides. (Refer to chapter on UROPHILIA.)

Brown showers refer to partners who defecate on one another. This may also be done using enemas, some of which may
consist of diluted wine or food. (Refer to COPROPHILIA and COCKTAILS)

The Roman shower, or emetophilia, is rare. In such cases people typically drink wine or urine and then vomit these
contents onto a partner or into a bowl. One form is called a chocolate mousse and consists of a combination of a Roman
and brown shower. The person swallows whipped cream and then their partner gives them an enema with chocolate
pudding. Once prepared the person defecates the pudding onto the partner and then vomits the whipped cream on top.
This creates a dessert for one or both.
 

Some may be tempted to make judgments about those who engage in this behavior. However, among practitioners are
several Christian ecstatics who were later canonized. Alacoque and later Madame Guyon both spoke of irresistible desires
to clean up the vomit of sick patients with only their tongue and St. John of the Cross found pleasure in sucking on the
sores of lepers. CAUTION: The exchange of body fluids is not considered a safe sex practice.

SIDERODROMOPHILIA Siderodromophilia (siderodromo: trains; philia: attachment to) refers to those who are aroused
by trains. Couples sometimes reserve a cabin and will have sex standing in front of the window as the train passes
through a town or a station. Others squeeze into bathrooms or sneak quickies in corners. Trains provide more privacy and
opportunity to socialize than airplanes or buses.

(See also COITUS A CHEVAI., DOGGING, HODOPHILIA and TUNNEL OF LOVE)

SIN See PHCATTIPHILIA

SITOPHILIA (Botulinonia—sex with sausage) Sitophilia (sito: food; philia: attachment to) refers to those who use food for
sexual purposes. Masturbation aids are found in the form of corn cobs, squash, cucumbers, bananas, sausages, warm
melons, liver in a milk carton, or a jar of honey.

One gastronomic game is used in bondage scenes. The male partner is first immobilized, a paper plate is cut so that a 2”
diameter hole is made off-center. The plate is held over the male genitals and these are pulled through so that the
genitals now look as though they are being served on a platter. Luke warm spaghetti

and meatballs are served onto the plate and, with fork in hand, a helpless male is told he is about to be fed his own balls.
It doesn’t matter who eats the meatballs but each strand of spaghetti is sensuously wrapped around the penis and sucked
through the lips before being eaten.

Another use of food is that of taking a plum that is slightly slit, pitted, and pushed onto an erect glans penis. Once secure
this can be inserted into a partner’s vagina, adding volume and pressure for both partners. Banana carving contests are
used as erotic teases at adult parties. A row of contestants are lined up, given a banana, and then told to compete with
each other for who can carve the most realistic penis with only their teeth. Some strippers use a cucumber in a pseudo-
castration scene where they have a man hold a cucumber between his upper thighs and then proceed to fellate the green
erection. As the audience becomes enthralled the stripper bites off the tip of the cucumber. People sometimes suck on a
lime before oral cunnilingus to make their taste buds swell, creating more texture when rubbed against sensitive genital
tissue. There are special caterers that design cakes and pastries with a sexual theme.

People also stuff objects like grapes, small tomatoes, peeled and cooled hard boiled eggs, and small pieces of ice into the
rectum for erotic pleasure. (Refer to section on ANAL SEX.)

Another use of food consists of combining it with body secretions. One couple developed a game where the wife, after
dismissing herself during a formal dinner to go to the woman’s restroom, upon returning would dip her finger in some
food and put her finger to her husband’s lips asking him to try it. People at the table, if they noticed at all, thought he was
only tasting food, while in fact she had first dipped her finger in urine. The same is done with vaginal secretions.

People aroused by lactating breasts sometimes drop cream onto a partner’s nipples and then lick it off. Sex surrogates
use food to get some clients back in touch with their body. The surrogate gets the client excited and salivating by slowly
rubbing their favorite food on their body. This reconditions their bodies to respond to touch. Food orgy parties are
organized by individuals where friends bring either an erotic arrangement of food on a dish to share, or food that feels
sensuous when rubbed onto a partner and licked off; afterward everyone soaks in a hot tub. There are all-male games
such as “Shoot the Cookie” where males stand in a circle around a cookie and masturbate. The rule dictates that the last
one who ejaculates on the cookie has to eat it.

Food can be used for a form of flagellation. A regular client of an Oregon bordello during the 1940’s would pay to have
two prostitutes watch him strip naked, put on high heels, get into a tub of bath water, and walk back and forth. His only
request was that they throw oranges at his buttocks as he paced. He would then get out, pick up the oranges, replace
them in his paper bag, dress, and leave. (Personal communication.)

(See also COCKTAILS, LACTAPHILIA, PIE THROWING and STUFFING)

SLAPPING See FLAGELLATION

SLAVES (Famulus) There is great variety in how people use sex slavery. The most famous sex slave was the Biblical
Samson who was captured by the Philistines and, according to the Talmud, used to inseminate their wives in order to
produce a race of superhumans. They blinded him so that this task would be easier.

Most do not live as slaves 24 hours a day but rather practice it for a few hours once a month or so. Slaves may serve one
master exclusively or may be passed from one master to another. One master wrapped his sex slave in a sheet and drove
her to a friend’s home to be used for his pleasure. Slaves may cook and serve guests at a special dinner or accompany
their master to a party and care for their needs there. The slave may sleep in the bed with their master or on a rug next to
the bed, in a box, or cage. ‘Captive’ slaves may have to be bound at night. Slaves usually prefer providing personal service
such as bathing, brushing hair, polishing nails, shaving, massage, and holding a dildo or vibrator. (“Slave Fantasies”,
Society of Janus lecture, July 27, 1989)

 
Slaves need a reminder of the status that renders them different from others. Sex slaves identify themselves by wearing
slave collars, an “o” finger ring, a brand, a special necklace, or chastity belt.

K. C. Rourke, a professional dominatrix and personal slave, describes the nuances of these relationships:

In order to understand the nature of Master/ slave relationships, it is important to realize that this slavery is imposed
neither by law nor by social custom; even a slave who is defiant is a slave by personal choice. However, the nature of that
choice and its implementation vary; sex slaves may be categorized according to why they chose their slavery, and how
they see themselves and their masters.

In examining this question, it is helpful to look at three pairs of personality characteristics: passive/aggressive,
dominant/submissive, sadistic/masochistic. Each pair forms a scale; every personality can be rated somewhere on each
scale. The scales are independent of one another; a person can be, for instance, aggressive, submissive and masochistic.

The first pair relates to how a person sees (him)herself in relation to her environment: does she prefer to make things
happen or let things happen? The second pair relates to how she sees herself in relation to other people: is she a leader or
a follower? The third set relates to pain: does she seek to experience it, or inflict it? (In this instance, pain may be defined
as physical andlor psychological, and many people are fairly neutral on this scale).

The first category of slave is the captive. She finds it exciting to have volition removed by another. If she has guilt feelings
about sex, the loss of control may enable her to let go and enjoy forbidden’ pleasures. She must be convinced, however,
that her freedom has indeed been taken away, and will frequently test the control of the dominant. She might even
require that she be physically captured and subdued, and only respond to the Master when she’s sure he’s in total
command. In this kind of relationship, restriction and ritual play an important part, and contracts may be negotiated in
advance.

The second category is the passive slave. This is a person who doesn’t want to take responsibility for his/her actions, and
seeks someone to take that responsibility away. This kind of slave will seek out a full-time dominant, rather than
occasional or contractual play. S/he is frequently a passive-aggressive person who forces others to make decisions so that
slhe is free to blame them when things don’t turn out to his/her liking. (“I don’t know exactly what I want, but I know this
isn’t it and it’s your fault!”) This can be very draining to a dominant, because the so-called slave is actually running the
show and putting a great deal of pressure on him.

The third category is sometimes called a SAM (Smart-Ass Masochist). This person has learned early in life that the only
way to get attention is to do something bad and get punished. The alternative, in their minds, is to be ignored completely.
In many cases they were even told by their parents that they were being punished “because I care about you...” and have
come to confuse punishment with parental and other love. Their only goal in a Master-slave relationship is to misbehave
and earn punishment. They, too, can be exhausting for a Master unless he is a committed sadist with a strong need to hurt
or humiliate others.

The fourth category of slave can be referred to as the seeker or apprentice. This is a person who feels a strong need for
guidance or direction. S/he will seek out a Master or Mistress s/he respects and admires, giving up authority in exchange
for the guidance (training) s/he desires. S/he will go to great lengths to win the approval of the Master, and show him
what s/he can do. If the Master disciplines such a slave, it is a loving affirmation of his authority and his acceptance of
their service. If he wishes to punish them, he need only express disappointment with them. In many cases this type of slave
is an aggressive and energetic person who lacks confidence and self-esteem, and needs encouragement, instruction
and/or permission from a respected person. Many are highly intelligent and imaginative, and are more needful of
validation than of actual training; others, through the training they receive, develop the confidence they need to function
better indepertdently. This kind of slave gradually becomes a great asset to a Master or Mistress.

The general guidelines for full time slave training include things like getting a written contract in which the slave agrees to
give up (store) all personal possessions and live with the master, serving him or her completely for a specified period of
time. The slave’s contact with the outside world is often restricted or forbidden during this time. A slave needs to be
made to feel that they are isolated with no one to rescue them, making them totally dependent on their new master
regardless of their character. Slaves are not allowed to make any decisions for themselves. The master provides clothes
(some go nude), food and water, and controls the times at which the slave may use the bathroom. These necessities are
often used as rewards when getting the slave to submit to something in which they wouldn’t ordinarily engage. Slaves
generally pass through emotional phases of consensual role playing to irritation, defiance, anger, and submission, before
they finally revere and bond to their master. This process is similar to spousal abuse or the Stockholm syndrome where
prisoners, such as Patty Hearst, bond to their captors. Ritual, a form of psychological bondage, causes a slave to lose their
own identity and become a willing receptor of someone else’s desires. Special forms of address are used for the top such
as Lord, Goddess, Mistress, and Master. Bottoms are called worm, Fido, slave, whore, or baby.

Slaves are sometimes taught to perform in the same manner as trained dogs. Hand signals are used to command a slave
to stand, sit, speak, kneel, fetch, or kiss their master’s feet. (A Tangled Web: The Art of Slavery, by Lady Tanith)

Lady Tanith, a professional dominatrix, also has a clientele of slaves that correspond by mail. A sample of one of the
letters written to her by a slave is as follows:

You are Queen Satanja, Queen of all the land. I have been captured by your female warriors who have selected me to be
your pleasure for the evening. My name is Tarus, General of the forces you have just defeated. My other warriors who
have lived have been sent to the House of Pleasure where they will sexually please your best warriors...you will relate this
to me. As I am brought in, you will be on your throne. You have no men in your empire...only the most beautiful women
but those men you have captured in battle are your servants ... you have a harem of men, that are at your beck and call
for all sorts of sordid sexual orgies....

In this session you will teach me how to please you and your favored warriors....you will take every liberty with me that
you want....you will:

-constantly curse at me...calling me all sorts of evil names

-seduce me as you tease and tantalize me and make me the captured animal of your royal court

-spit upon me

-continually tell me how I will be pleasing all of your female slave sluts at the orgies as you sit on the throne and watch

-make me worship your royal and beautiful body..within your royal limits...l will worship any part you wish including feet

-blindfold me for a portion of the session as you bring in your other female slave sluts to please you while I can only hear
the moans of pleasure and lust....call them by name and tell them what to do to you.

-Eventually your seductive powers overcome me.

Bottom’s disease refers to a slave whose self-esteem is so low that they consent to servitude because they prefer not to
assert themselves. Most slaves, however, find a temporary period of service to be cathartic, similar to that of returning to
childhood without the pressures of the business world. At the end of a couple of months or a year they are ready to face
life’s challenges again. Others feel it is a method by which to express their unconditional love and devotion to a partner
and to have a partner return that love to them as individuals rather than because of their job status or what they own.
(“Slave Training”, by Lady Tanith, Back Drop lecture, January 26, 1991)

(See also DOMINANCE/SUBMISSION, FANTASY PLAY, HUMILIATION, PARAPHILIAS and RITUAL SEX)

SNUFF FILMS Actors in these films kill young victims during sex scenes. Snuff films are illegal and only sold underground;
therefore, information on this subject is difficult to obtain.

One snuff film was briefly mentioned in the January 1986 issue of Penthouse in an article about Satanism by Dr. Joel
Norris and Jerry Allen Potter in which they tell of a woman who uncovered a snuff film of a child being torn apart by its
abductors. Today, most are filmed in Hong Kong and these also feature dismemberment.

An account of an American snuff film was given by a man working for an X-rated video company in England. In a personal
interview he spoke of several snuff films seen in Germany during the early 70’s. Most depicted strangulation and for that
reason he could not guarantee that what he saw was authentic. However, one movie did have a scene that would have
been difficult to stage. This movie was filmed in the Southern United States and was of a group of men driving along
highways picking up female hitchhikers. They then bound their victims and took them to a small motel. Here the men
would blindfold, gang bang, and perform sadistic acts such as ramming a broom handle up their vaginas before finally
strangling them. The last female was treated much the same. They placed different items in her mouth to fellate; the final
one being a hand gun with a silencer on the end, and as she sucked on this, the man pulled the trigger. Her naked body
slammed against the wall behind and her bloody head caved in with the impact. (Special effects artists in the movie
industry consulted by law enforcement agencies have confirmed that any mutilations can be duplicated with special
effects techniques.)

People who purchase these movies probably do so out of curiosity or because this has long been a fantasy. For some it
seems to bolster their own sense of power. Those who actually murder most often take their own photos or video of the
event. (Interview with Detective James Rodriquez.) CAUTION: The greatest harm buyers of these films do is to provide
incentive for producers to continue having innocent victims murdered.

(See also LUST MURDER, MUTILATION, PEDOPHILIA and SEX RINGS)

SOMNOPHILIA (Sleeping princess syndrome) Somnophilia (somnus: to sleep; philia: attachment to) refers to those who
are sexually stimulated by fondling or having sex with a sleeping partner.

Many case studies of somnophiles show childhood histories of having covert sex with a sibling that was either asleep or
pretending. They condition themselves to become aroused by a sleeping partner and when the circumstance changes
they become impotent or ineffective. Professional therapy is often effective in helping a couple overcome this barrier to
intimacy. CAUTION: This activity becomes unethical when done on minors sleeping in the same bed or with a partner who
would not ordinarily consent.

(See also AMAUROPHILIA, FROTTAGE and NECROPHILIA)

SOUNDING (Urethral self-instrumentation) Sounding (subondare: to submerge) is the medical term for a metal rod used
to find and dilate strictures in the urethra or other body cavities. Gonorrhea often left scar tissue that had to be removed
in this manner. The sound instrument is slowly inserted down the urethra stretching open any scar tissue that is in its
path. These instruments are purchased from medical supply houses.

People use sounding in S/M play for both increased sensation and to transfer power to the hands of the dominant. Other
people use things such as rubber fishing worms, cotton swabs, or ice. The rubber fishing worms have a smooth surface,
are flexible, and can be sterilized in a pressure cooker. Those who use ice freeze sterile water in paper straws and, once
removed from the freezer for a few minutes, slide it out of the container. Ice is much more dangerous because of the risk
of accidental breakage inside the urethra before it melts.

Physicians have found objects such as hairpins, plastic tubes, and even a small snake in people’s bladders.

The most common type of sound used is the Van Buren which is curved at one end and ranges from .20 to .28” in
diameter (the equivalent of the French sound sizes of 16 to 22). This is popular because once placed into position the end
presses in the vicinity of the prostate gland which can then be gently stimulated.
A different variety of sounding consists of using 1/4” diameter stainless steel balls. These are counted, pushed into the
urethra, and left there as the man masturbates. Upon ejaculation the seminal fluids push the balls out in a way that
resembles a machine gun. The steel balls are again counted to verify that none remain in the urethra.

A pseudo type of sounding involves the practice of a partner pushing small amounts of warm water, champagne, or chips
of ice into the very tip of the penis during fellatio. CAUTION: Sounding can cause serious injury. Signs of damage to the
urethra are a change in the frequency one urinates, orange or brown urine, or pus. A doctor should be consulted if any of
these symptoms occur. Even if treated, however, urinary tract infections can lead to kidney infections, kidney failure, and
sometimes death.

(See also CATHETEKS. MEATOTOMY and SAFE SHX/SOUNDING)

SPANKING See FLAELLATION

SPECTROPHILIA (Incubus, Succubus) Spectrophilia (spectral: phantom or ghost; philia: attachment to) refers to sexual
arousal by intercourse with spirits, ghosts, angels, or gods.

At one time many believed that nocturnal emissions were caused by spirits. The medieval Europeans named the male
spirit Incubus. He was believed to cause nightmares and to lie on top of women, seducing or raping them. This was a
delusion that was common among females without sex partners, particularly in convents. Conversely, the Succubus was
thought to be a female demon that would lie underneath and seduce men, draining them of semen at night. The
Bahylonian Lilith was even more cruel, demanding sacrifices of the male organ and sometimes a man’s life.

Most accounts of spectrophilia were documented during the witch trials from the forced confessions of innocent victims.
Nocturnal emissions, impotency, and every other sort of sexual problem was blamed on intercourse with evil spirits.

Sexual hysteria also became common during the Inquisition and men accused women of casting a glamour or spell on
them causing them to lose their penis. The men suffering from hysteria could not see their own organs. Two Dominicans,
Kramer and Sprenger, wrote of one of these cases warning people that “such members are [not] really torn right away
from the body but that they are hidden by the devil...so that they can be neither seen nor felt”:

A certain young man had had an intrigue with a girl. Wishing to leave her, he lost his member: that is to say, some
glamour /spell/ was cast over it so that he could see or touch nothing but his smooth body. In his worry over this he went
to a ttavern to drink wine; and after he had sat there for a while he got into conversation with another woman who was
there, and told her the cause of his sadness, explaining everything and demonstrating in his body that it was so. The
woman was shrewd and asked if he suspected anybody.

The man did and the woman suggested that he ask the girls to remove the spell. He left the tavern and upon finding the
girl made his demands. She refused saying she was innocent but when he began strangling her she wisely agreed to
remove the spell saying, “Now you have what you desire. ” He then touched his penis and found it to be restored.

This fear was experienced by Thai men during the Vietnam war. It was referred to as the “Thai Shrinking Penis Syndrome.”
These men felt that their penises were getting smaller and would tie a string around them to prevent their penises from
disappearing inside their abdomens. A Thai physician logged the penis sizes of Thai men and later wrote a paper on the
subject.

This hysteria recently surfaced in 1991 among people in Nigeria who believed people were casting spells on them and a
simple handshake could cost their genitals or breasts. An article in the London Observer explained:

One of the first incidents took place in the lobby of the Central Bank, when a visiting man declared that his testicles had
been snatched. Although he stripped naked, there are conflicting reports as to whether he was able to prove his loss. What
is certain is that bystanders fled. Police have arrested more than 150 people for spreading rumors of stolen testicles, and
at least three lynchings are reported to have occurred when hysterical crowds have taken alleged culprits to task....
Testicles are reported to fetch a high price in the fetish market—up to $1,000—and are in high demand at present.

The most famous instances of spectrophilia, however, are those of the Virgin Mary and God. G. L. Simons wrote of this in
his book:

Some writers, finding it difficult to believe that even God could impregnate the Virgin Mary without her losing her virginity,
developed the idea that she was impregnated through the ear by the archangel Gabriel, or by God himself .... In some
early paintings the Holy Ghost is seen descending as a dove with the divine sperm in its bill; in other pictures the seminal
words are seen passing through a lily, on their way from Gabriel’s mouth to Mary’s ear...In one early carving the sperm
come direct from God’s mouth through a tube which led under her skirts (Sex and Superstition, p. 103, reproduced with
permission of Blackie & Son Ltd.).

The number of reported Incubi and Succubi and other forms of neurosis increased during the 12th century after the
Church imposed harsh restrictions against sexual activity.

(See also CHOREOPHILIA, FANTASY, FERTILITY RITES, HIEROPHILIA, ORGASMS, SEX MAGICK and SEX RITUALS)

SPERM BANKS Sperm banks are facilities where sperm is deposited for future use in fertilization of a woman. The first
infant was born using this technology in 1953. In 1989 there were about 40 sperm banks or human semen cryobanks
affiliated with the American Association of Tissue Banks.

Men who are considering a vasectomy or those who must undergo chemotherapy or radiation therapy have a need for
this service. A donor’s semen is first checked for fitness and then frozen in liquid nitrogen tanks. The cost for freezing
sperm is around $250.00 and a five year storage fee in 1989 was $650.00.

Cryobanks also provide services such as infertility profiles, sex selection, sperm washing, cervical mucus penetration
assays, and anti-sperm antibody testing.

Some sperm banks provide sperm to be used by women for impregnation. Male donors qualify by filling out a survey form
and, once approved, provide sperm for use by anonymous recipients. This screening is important not only for genetic
consideration but because many sexually transmitted diseases can be transferred in this manner: “Neisseria, gonorrhea,
mycoplasma hominis, Ureaplasma urealyticum, chlamydia trachomatous, trichomonas vaginalis, HIV, and hepatitis B
virus” (“Micro-organisms Present in Donor Semen, Screening and Detection,” by DJL Palmer, J. Cuthbert, J. Mukoyogo, MS
Obhrai, and JR Newton, British Journal of Sexual Medicine, April 1990, p. 114). Religions vary on their interpretation of
whether this procedure is morally acceptable.

Not all women use sperm banks to secure semen. Some spouses agree to having a friend or acquaintance inseminate
their wife while others, including some lesbians, have the male ejaculate in a jar and use a turkey baster for insertion.
Women who are unable to carry an infant to term sometimes use a surrogate mother who is impregnated by the
husband. There are many more emotional and legal complications involved with this method and courts most often
uphold the birth mother’s wish to keep her child regardless of previous financial arrangements or contracts.

A listing of banks can be obtained from the American Association of Tissue Banks, 1350 Beverly Road, Suite 220A,
McLean, VA 22101.

(See also EUGENICS)

SPITTING Spitting is used during sex games both as a form of humiliation and as a fetish. Spit itself once had magical
qualities. Kirghis tribes living on the border of China and the USSR once believed they could heal the diseased by whipping
them until they bled and then spitting in their face.
Spit is often used during sex as a convenient lubricant for kissing, fellatio, and vaginal or anal penetration.

A spit fetishist is sexually aroused by having their partner dribble spit into their mouth or on their body. There have also
been women who were specifically attracted to certain men because of the masculine manner in which they could spit.

(See also FETISHES, HYGROPHILIA, HUMILIATION and SHOWERS)

STAG PARTIES Stag or bachelor parties are given by males in honor of a friend’s marriage and they vary according to the
morals of those involved. The tradition of the stag party may be a holdover of the ancient puberty rituals that preceded
mass weddings.

Typical entertainment includes a stripper or sex video and a few will relocate their party to a bordello. Others have hired
professional dominatrixes to teach the guest of honor what to expect in his new role as a husband.

This is also the occasion for pranks and a few grooms have found themselves dropped off alone in a desolate area with
only a few hours left before the wedding. One man actually awoke from a drunken stupor to find that his friends had put
him on a cargo ship that had embarked for Alaska during the night.

Females have begun having their own stag parties, to which male strippers sometimes provide entertainment. Gay
partners both attend bachelor parties and they also occasionally engage same sex strippers.

(See also SEX SHOWS and STRIPPERS)

STAPLING Stapling is done in S/M scenes as a form of control over a partner’s genitals. Surgical skin staplers with an
auto-release are preferred but a few people have used the standard office type (this is not advised due to the staples not
being sterile. They are also longer and more painful). The prongs of the surgical staples are about 1/8” long and curved
inward so that they stay in place until removed. A special surgical remover is required for this procedure.

During S/M play people may staple the edges of the scrotal skin to the thighs, the outer skin of the penis to the abdomen,
the outer labia together, the buttocks together (painful unless there is a lot of loose skin), and a few have stapled the lips
of the mouth. All of the genital staplings are considered a form of site specific bondage (i.e. the mouth stapling would
take the place of a gag) or a chastity device. The stapler is operated at a quick snap which reduces some of the pain as the
staple enters the skin (“Surgical Suturing and Stapling,” by A. Kraus, QSM lecture, August 4, 1990). CAUTION: Staple play is
considered a blood sport and therefore unsafe sex.

(See also BONDAGE/LACING, INFIBULATION, SAFE SEX and SUTURING)

STATIONERY Custom stationery is available for people of any sexual preference interested in erotic expression.
Illustrations range from romantic scenes of two clothed people in an embrace to group orgies. People use this stationery
to send to lovers, as announcements of an address change, invitations to sex parties, thank you cards, or calling cards.
Personalized cards may be ordered by sending photographs of oneself. Those desiring an improvement in physique, such
as adding a few inches to the size of the penis or breasts, may request those changes.

STIGMATOPHILIA Stigmatophilia, a term coined by John Money, (stigma: mark, philia: attachment to) refers to those
who are aroused if their partner has a tattoo, pierced jewelry, body modification, or scarring on their bodies or genitals.
(See also CICATRIZATION, JEWELRY, PENIS MODIFICATION, RINGING and TATTOOS)

STRANGLING See OXYGEN REGULATION

STRETCHING (Catatasis—penis, Kolpeuryntomania—vagina) Stretchings may be permanent or temporary. Both types of

stretching are done to modify the appearance of the genitals or nipples and may cause some discomfort.

Testicles tend to rise when one nears orgasm and forcing them to stay toward the bottom of the sac delays ejaculation.
Orgasm itself is prolonged and intensified when it does occur. Weights or other special devices are used to accomplish
temporary stretching. Metal rings or leather bands fit around the top of the scrotal sac to squeeze the testicles
downward. CAUTION: Excessive pressure can cause small blood vessels to break and too much pressure on the testicles
themselves is dangerous.

Some people have chosen to permanently stretch their foreskin, nipples, penis (causes impotence), or labia. This process
takes several years to accomplish. The skin is not stretched enough to create pain because this causes lacerations that fill
in with scar tissue. Skin that is gently stretched develops microscopic tears that fill in with normal tissue; eventually
extending the length of the desired body part. Those using an insert such as a bar or ring gradually pull on it to lengthen
the appendage. Those interested in increasing the size of a hole increase the size of the insert over time until the hole
gets to the desired diameter. This is similar to people in African tribes who stretched their ear lobes or lips.
 

The African Baganda, Bagishu, and Suaheli tribes once stretched their inner labia so that they would hang at least two
inches below the vagina. This was called the Hottentot apron or mfuli and supposedly had its origin from girls who
masturbated so often that the labia became extended. It is said that men, preferring wives with high sex drives, selected
these women first. Soon other women had to compete by stretching their labia. Men discovered that they also enjoyed
the extra sensation of having the labia engulf the penis during penetration. These preferences resulted in men refusing to
marry women who had not had this labia modification. Young Hottentot girls used two different methods for elongation.
Some took a weed and used that to rub and pull on the labia until it had stretched to the desired length. Others tied the
labia together with a string and hung a rock on the end. The effect of this was evidently less aesthetic than the former and
was described by some as resembling the crop of a turkey.

There are also men who have a compulsion to stretch a female’s vagina during penetration. They may also use sheaths for
this purpose. The stretching needs to induce discomfort or pain before the man with such a compulsion is satisfied.

(Refer also to WEIGHT TRAINING)

STRIP POKER There are many versions of strip poker, the card game based on the rules of regular poker. Some players
write out the sexual activities they are willing to perform and for what price before playing poker. Fake or play money is
divided equally and used during the game. Clothes may be bartered if one runs out of money. Once the game is over
people add up their winnings and buy the sexual activity they can afford from the other players.

The most common form of strip poker is simply playing for articles of clothing instead of money and more adventurous
players will play for specific types of sex acts. If there are more than two players the winners may be given their choice of
sex partners for five minutes after each round of poker.

Cheating makes the game more intriguing but one must be willing to face the consequences if caught by their partner.
Erotic decks of cards may be used but for those not tempted to show others their hands.
(See also COMPUTER SEX and SEX GAMES)

STRIP SEARCH Strip searches are used in S/M scenes simulating police arrests, prison riots, customs searches, prisoners
of war, or alien abductions.

The general procedure requires the captive to face a wall with their hands in the air. Their partner then pats them down
with their hands on the outside of their clothes. Next the prisoner is asked to empty the contents of their purse or
pockets onto a table for inspection, followed by all their clothing. Everything is closely inspected for drugs, microfilm,
bugging devices, weapons, or sex toys. The prisoner stands naked with their hands behind their head during this time. The
body is searched and procedure requires that every body opening is checked (bacteria collected from an anus should not
be transferred to a vagina). Once the prisoner is found to be completely clean he or she is released, seduced, or relocated
to a prison cell.

(See also HUMILIATION and INTERROGATION)

STRIPPING (Ecdyosis—arousa) from removing clothes in front of others, Gynonudomania—compulsion to rip clothes off
others) Strippers are people who voluntarily take off their clothes for an audience. Strippers may be male, female,
heterosexual, bi or gay. Private strippers advertise in local magazines in Las Vegas and will come to hotel rooms to
perform. Most professional strippers work in clubs with a few becoming celebrities who travel across the country to
appear at private clubs. Male strippers, such as the Chippendales of southern California, perform in clubs, others work for
stripping telegram companies, private parties, or for gay theaters.

There are certain general rules that strippers use when undressing. These begin with selecting music conducive to dance
and wearing easy-to-remove clothes; ones in which they feel attractive and sexy. The toes are kept pointed throughout
the routine and any part of the body that is being unveiled is protruded toward the audience; with the exception of some
teasing movements. The removal of pants, skirts, or underwear requires that the stripper bends over and slowly pulls the
article of clothing down across the buttocks, letting it drop to the floor. Hands are run along the contours of the body to
accentuate and tease. There are many other guidelines used by successful strippers. An excellent educational video was
done by Gio, titled How to Strip /or Your Man.

(See also CHOREOPHILIA and SEX SHOWS)

STUFFING Stuffing refers to the insertion of objects into the vagina or anus. This usually involves food or beverages when
done in consensual sex play. People use cherry tomatoes, boiled eggs that have been peeled, strawberries, bananas,
cucumbers, whipped cream, or whatever other food is favored by the partner.

A famous court case of a 1920’s comedian known as Fatty Arbuckle involved testimony that he had stuffed ice and then a
champagne bottle up a starlet’s vagina. She later died of complications from the lacerations, but he was acquitted after
the third trial.

Killers and rapists sometimes stuff the vagina of their murder victim with items lying around the room. One man shoved a
victim’s false teeth into her vagina without her knowledge. They were discovered a month later when she requested a
standard sexually transmitted disease test. The awareness of his actions was complicated by the fact that when he
assaulted her he broke her jaw (“Unusual Vaginal Foreign Body,” by Peter Watson, British Journal of Sexual Medicine,
September 1988, p. 294).

Not all stuffing is done by a partner. One woman inserted a rubber ball into her vagina at a party where she had been
drinking. It was not discovered until 20 years later (“Vaginal Foreign Body of Very Long Duration,” by Benjamin Piura,
British Yournal of Sexual Medicine, Nov. 1986, p. 308). CAUTION: The vaginal cavity is sensitive to foreign chemicals.

(See also BONDAGE/SPECULUM and SITOPHILIA)

 
SUBLIMINAL TAPES Subliminal refers to the part of the mind that is just beneath the conscious mind, and which is
susceptible to repetitive stimuli. Many listen to tapes designed to help them overcome smoking, overeating, low self-
esteem, stress, fear, and for slave training in the S/M community.

While scientists seem to agree that a person may perceive subliminal messages, there is little evidence that commercial
tapes of this sort effect change in a person’s behavior. Dr. Anthony Greenwald of the University of Washington did studies
where he mixed the labels on tapes given to volunteers and discovered that the subject on the label had more impact
than what was actually on the tapes. Yet a different study indicated that some people feel a higher level of security or
self-esteem after receiving subliminal messages. Nothing, however, reveals that a person would ever kill or commit
suicide because of a subliminal message as was suggested in the trial of Judas Priest, a rock band, concerning a subliminal
message in their album that said “Do it.”

An S/M audio tape, therefore, would only help a slave adjust to the idea of servitude or might help a shy or anxious slave
overcome their initial apprehension. S/M tapes are made by the slave’s master or by a hypnotist. The tape itself gives
messages about being submissive and receiving rewards for this type of behavior.

Sex therapy tapes are also available that are supposed to help people relax and improve their sex life.

(See also HYPNOSIS and VISUALIZATION)

SUBMISSION See DOMINANCE/SUBMISSION

SUBPERSONALITY Subpersonalities are similar to multiple personality disorders except that the personality change is
only temporary and awareness is never lost. The regular personality seems to be suppressed enough for it to be difficult
to respond appropriately. Multiple personality disorders seem to be caused by repetitive or ritualized abuse that is in
contrast with the rest of the child’s life; such as molestation by a parent. Subpersonalities are based on either a single
instance, or constant trauma and stress. Subpersonalities seem to surface when a person recalls this period of time. This
often occurs during therapy or for others during sex.

Therapists sometimes deliberately use childhood subpersonalities when working with a patient’s problem. It seems that
when a person remembers the pain or trauma, their consciousness shifts and the therapist is able to communicate
directly with the child. While they are in this state the therapist gives them the comfort, nurturing, or explanations not
received as a child.

This consciousness does not have to be the child personality, it can also be an angry adult. This was true for one woman
who sometimes experienced suhpersonalities during sex. She was traumatized by serious physical abuse beginning in
infancy. Sex partners who brought up subjects that reminded her of the abuse or her father caused her to shift into one
of two characters. The first was a young child who became sexually frigid, wanted to be held, and was unable to say
anything except “no” without great effort. The other character was an angry adult male rapist who pinned down the
partners and sexually assaulted them. (Persona) communication.)

A partner who regresses into a child may show signs of going physically limp, weak, withdrawing, and not being able to
verbalize the cause for this sudden response. If this occurs during sex their partner helps by simply holding and nurturing
them as they would a child. Questions that are complex or that require more than a simple answer cause frustration in
the partner suffering from this regression. This is a temporary condition which passes as soon as the old memories fade. If
this occurs often and affects a couple’s normal sex life a professional therapist may be of assistance.

(See also FETISHES and PARAPHILIAS)

SUPPORT GROUPS Support groups have recently become popular. These seem to have taken the place of close extended
families as Americans have relocated for college and better job opportunities. Support groups differ from professional
therapy in that no one person offers guidance. Everyone is there because they identify with the same problem.
Most groups spawned oft a successful Alcoholics Anonymous program started in 1935 by Bill Wilson and Dr. Robert
Smith. These men proved that association and support from a fellow sufferer was more therapeutic and successful than
the vast range of existing methods. Al-Anon, the next large support group, was started by Lois Wilson in 1951 for partners
of alcoholics.

Today there are support groups for overeaters, transvestites, drug addicts, sex addicts, gays, bi-sexuals, shoppers,
workaholics, parents of sex offenders, bereavement, parents of children who died violently, incest survivors, gamblers,
child molesters, celibates, sexual enthusiasts, women who love too much, prostitutes, polygamists, spouses who are
abused, abusing spouses, a lesbian’s pagan group, and many more.

Twelve-step programs begin their meetings with an introduction, and a short presentation, next opening the floor to
anyone who would like to share their thoughts with the group. Large groups sometimes impose a time limitation so that
as many people as possible will have the opportunity to share. The ypical opening comment is: “Hi, I’m Bill and I am a sex
addict” (or whatever is appropriate). Others reply with “Hi, Bill” and Bill then continues to tell about events or feelings
that came up since his last visit. People are not allowed to offer advice, ask questions, or criticize anyone else in the
group. Anonymity is respected and all take an oath not to repeat anything said in the meeting to others.

Women’s pagan support groups differ slightly from other twelve-step programs in that the women sit in a circle, open the
meeting with a grounding ritual to mentally detach themselves from the outside world and to focus on the meeting.
People speak only when they feel ready to share their problems and are restricted to a few minutes. The forum is much
more flexible than other groups because their bond is a religious one rather than a specific addiction. Once everyone has
had an opportunity to speak, they join hands and sing chants before breaking the circle. The added ritual creates more of
a cathartic effect than the typical twelve-step closing remarks of “It works, keep coming back.”

Therapists often encourage patients to attend one or two support group meetings between visits. This sometimes speeds
recovery and reduces the cost of therapy.

(See also SEX (CLUBS)

SUSPENSION Suspension refers to hanging someone in the air from an overhead support which allows for some
movement. Semi-suspension is when only a portion of the person’s weight is off the ground.

The most cruel form of suspension was recorded during the Inquisition where people were tortured by hanging them by
their genitals. Today’s S/M community uses suspension for pleasure.

One man is said to have masturbated by hanging upside down and banging his penis against a door. Some use boot cover
devices that fit around a person’s own boots and hang from a hoist by an eye bolt mounted in the bottom of the boot
cover. The person’s arms are left free until after they are in a hanging position. This allows them to help manipulate their
body as it is being raised off the floor. Likewise, the arms are freed before lowering the person back onto the floor.

Another method of suspension involves placing padded leather cuffs on a person’s wrists and ankles and a leather belt
around their waist. These are attached to chains hanging from a hoist or other object. A parachute harness is often used
in this type of suspension instead of the leather belt. CAUTION: Safety requires all suspension equipment and chains to be
checked before hanging a person on them. Welded chain is the safest and metal pulleys make the lifting easier. Panic
snaps are also used on the lines in case the person needs to be released immediately. A person is not left in an upside-
down position for more than a few minutes. Additional caution is also exercised with people who are near sighted
because there is a potential risk of retinal detachment due to the oblong shape of their eyeball and the extra pressure
caused by the accumulation of blood. Anyone seeing light flashes should immediately see an ophthalmologist.

A person bound or suspended with their arms above their head may faint. This is common. They are laid down and will
revive without assistance within a few minutes. Those who become nauseous or develop headaches are released at once.
Mummification used with suspension has a calming effect but can also cause disorientation. (“Suspension,” by T. DeBlase,
QSM lecture, March 23, 1990)

(See also BONDAGE and SENSORY DEPRIVATION)

 
SUTTEE Suttee (virtuous woman) is the East Indian practice of burning a widow with her husband. This is thought to have
begun over 3,000 years ago among northern Aryan tribes. One could escape this socially imposed suicide if a man took
hold of the widow’s hand as she lay on her dead husband’s funeral pyre. This gave her status as the second man’s wife
and she could live. Suttee was first justified in poor villages where if a family lost its bread winner it could not survive.
Thus, it was considered merciful to have the wife, who often could not remarry anyway, commit suicide. This freed her
children for adoption by other families. The practice continued even once these tribes became more stable. Suttee came
to be encouraged in the upper levels of society by the Brahmans who often received the couple’s wealth after the wife’s
death. It was these priests that objected the most when in 1829 Lord William Bentinck forbade the practice of suttee.
Some widows still felt compelled to join their husbands in death and to prevent this they were sometimes tied to a stake
at a distance during the burial.

Today Indian husbands who wish to marry someone else or to be free of their wives arrange an accidental fire in the
kitchen. The wife is sometimes bound or held by in-laws to accomplish this feat. Others, trying to capitalize on dowries,
will first request more money from their father-in-law. If he doesn’t pay, his daughter gets burned alive in the kitchen,
leaving the husband free to marry someone else and collect her dowry.

(See also MARRIAGE)

SUTURING Suturing (sutura: to sew) is done in S/M play as a form of pseudocastration, bondage, or infibulation of the
genitals. Sterile techniques are always used for this procedure (see SAFE SEX).

The couple decides the type of suturing scene in which they wish to engage and then gathers the items needed for the
procedure. The preferred type of suture is non-absorbable silk because it is the easiest to tie. The needles used are
cutting needles in either size 00 or 000. People without access to medical supply houses use sterilized stainless steel
needles and prepackaged white polyester thread. A sterilized thimble is also used due to the toughness of the skin and
the force needed to push the needle.

A button is sometimes used to keep the suture threads from pulling through the skin or just for decoration, particularly
on the end of the penis.

A purse string stitch is used around the front of a breast or the scrotum. It is the same as a straight stitch but it forms a
circle which is then pulled tight with the protruding ends of the suture and tied. This holds the flesh in a puckered position
until the suture is cut.

A Parker-Kerr stitch is used to hold an object such as a penis or dildo underneath the sutures. These stitches are done by
anchoring the first stitch and then lying the object (dildos are covered with a condom) on the area. The suture is pulled
over the object and the next stitch is put into the skin on that side. Next the suture is pulled over to the other side of the
object and anchored into the skin. The distance between the stitches on each side is determined by the length and weight
of the object.

Most stitches use square knots. Continuous stitches are used in suturing two breasts together down the front inseam or
sewing the labia together. Single knots are used in pseudo castration where the penis is tucked down and the scrotum
skin is pulled up around the penis. Sutures are then placed along the top to close the seam. This type of castration is only
possible with men who have loose or large scrotal sacs. The outer skin on the penis is sometimes pinched up and sutured,
but it is dangerous to go very deep because the delicate tissue beneath can be damaged. CAUTION: Please be aware that
there are vital structures, such as nerves, arteries, veins, tendons, bones, and joint spaces immediately beneath the skin
in some areas. Permanent disability can result from accidently suturing one of these structures. (“Surgical Suturing and
Stapling,” by A.K., QSM lecture, August 4, 1990)
 

(See also BONDAGIE/LACING, INFIBULATION, PIERCING and RINGING)

SWINGING See GROUP SEX and WIFE SWAPPING

SWINGS (Slings) Swings are made of fabric, leather, or wood and provide support for those suspended from the ceiling.
Sex swings appear to be an ancient Eastern invention designed for ultimate sensual pleasure.

A partner lies back in a semi-reclining position with their legs spread and raised in the air. This position offers direct
access to the genitals and the swing is at a height that allows easy penetration. This arrangement offers a feeling of
control for one partner and a feeling of nurturance and surrender to the one in the swing. Swings are also popular for
massage because all parts of the body are accessible.

(See also SEX POSITIONS, SEX SHOWS, SYBIAN and TANTRA)

SWITCHES The term switch is used by those in the S/M community for those people who alternate the role of a
bottom/submissive and top/dominant. This is usually done out of necessity because there are many more bottoms than
tops, others simply enjoy the role change. It is also often the case that people refuse to submit to a top who has not
learned the empathy and S/M techniques gained from first being a bottom.

(See also BOTTOM. DOMINANCE/SUBMISSION, HUMILIATION and TOPS)

SYBIAN Sybian is the name given to a $1,395.00 mechanical dildo device that is in a class of its own. The device is housed
in a half cylinder shaped saddle that a person rides to orgasm, after orgasm, after orgasm. The Sybian differs from other
dildoes in that it not only vibrates at different speeds and intensity but it rotates as well. These are controlled by two
regulator dials on a control box. The Sybian was test marketed at swinger conventions and modified for best results
before it was released to the public. Riders were given buttons that read

“Sybian Test Pilot.”

Some seem to become addicted to operating the control box for women. Females orgasm at different frequencies. Men
quickly learn which ones are most intense for the woman they are with and gain immense pleasure in controlling how
many orgasms she experiences and when. Men have found the device just as stimulating when they replace the dildo
attachment with a butt plug. Some bars have replaced their mechanical bronco rides with the Sybian.
 

(See also GENITAL/ANAL INSERTS and SEX TOYS)

SYMPHOROPHILIA Symphorophilia (symthoma: casualty; phoron: producer; philia: attachment), coined by John Money,
refers to one who experiences sexual arousal from creating casualties by, for example, burning down apartments,
hospitals, or orphanages. This is done for the pleasure of causing death and catastrophe rather than just watching the
flames.

One famous case between 1899 and 1930 was of Peter Kurten, also known as the Dusseldorf Murderer. He was unlike
most other sociopaths in that he varied his attacks, weapons, and victims. It did not matter whether they were female,
male, child or animal. The following poem written by Kurten will show this clearly:

In the case of Ohliger, I also sucked blood from the wound on her temple, and from Scheer from the stab in the neck. From
the girl Schulte I only licked the blood from her hands. It was the same with the swan in the Hofgarten. I used to stroll
at night through the Hofgarten very often, and in the spring of 1930 I noticed a swan sleeping at the edge of the lake. I cut
its throat. The blood spurted up and I drank from the stump and ejaculated.

Kurten admitted to 79 crimes of his own as well as finding intense pleasure in witnessing catastrophes or accidents. He
finally confessed to his unsuspecting wife, having her turn him in to the police for the reward offered on the Dusseldorf
Murderer. His confession was prompted by fear of his fantasies to burn down an orphanage.

It may be impossible to know but one wonders if politicians like Hitler, who began wars or exterminations of groups,
found sexual pleasure in doing so. Hitler did have the exterminations in concentration camps filmed.

(See also HYBRISTOPHILIA and LUST MURDER)

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TANTRA Tantra refers to the Vedic Hindu doctrine that is designed to extend sexual unity and bonding. Couples find this
brings more ecstatic pleasure than a quick orgasm. Hindus at one time only used this technique under the guidance of a
guru or other couple to ensure that the correct procedures were followed. There were sex techniques similar to tantra
among the American Cherokee Indians, Chinese, some African tribes, and sex magick, although the ritual and goals are
often different.

Tantric students fine tune their senses so that each becomes one with the universe and with their partner. Meditation
and breathing techniques are used to control and extend the arousal period so that the penis stays functional for nearly
an hour. The couple has many positions with which they can regulate the flow of energy between them. Eye contact and
matching breaths is an integral part of the exercises as well. Proficiency takes time and discipline; therefore, this is not a
technique that lends itself to casual sex between strangers.

There are many books and several organizations that teach tantra to couples. Peak Skill Publishing offers books such as
Sexual Energy Ecstasy by David Alan Ramsdale, MA and Ellen Jo Ramsdale and Intimacy & Sexual Ecstasy by Jonathan
Robinson, MA as well as videos and other tantric products (See Bibliography). (“A Taste of Tantra,” by Coleman and
McCusker, Lifestyle Conference, August 17-18, 1990)

(Sec also KABAZZAH, KARHZZA, SEX MAGICK and SEX MUSEUMS)

TAPHEPHILIA Taphephilia (taphe: burial; philia: attachment to) refers to those who are aroused by being buried alive.
Geoffrey Mains, in his book Urban Aboriginals, mentions one Los Angeles man who had his friends mummify him in
rubber or leather and temporarily bury him (p. 90).

(See also BONDAGE and OXYGEN REGULATION)

TATTOOING Tattooing involves puncturing the skin with needles and injecting indelible dyes to permanently color the
skin. The two oldest verified color tattoos were found on a 5,300 year old Stone Age man who was discovered preserved
in an Italian glacier and on a 4,200 year old Egyptian priestess of the goddess Hathor. It has been practiced by light
skinned Egyptians, Greeks, Native American Indians, South Pacific tribes, and Japanese, among others. Our early
ancestors stuck needles dipped in pigment into the skin, or else soaked thread in carbon and pulled it through the skin.
They also applied soot or pigments directly to the skin and punctured the area with needles. The designs of early tattoos
consisted of patterns of dots and simple lines. The Indonesians began using bolder geometric designs and the Japanese,
after using it as punishment on criminals between the 7th and 16th centuries, changed it to the colorful, elaborate, and
artistic work that is seen today.

 
 

Tattooing was brought back to Europe by sailors who had become fascinated with this art form. People paid to hear
sailors tell of their travels and see their tattoos.

Tattooing sometimes had sexual significance. There were tribal chieftains who had vulvas tattooed on their chests. The
Haitians, Berads, and Basivis women wore penis tattoos and others tattooed their faces as a charm against sterility.

People also tattoo their genitals. Helen Fisher, in her book The Sex Contract, tells of “Ulithian women of the western
Pacific [who] tattoo the inner lips of their vulvas to enhance their beauty.” Men have also been tattooed on their genitals
and at least one inside the urethra that had been opened with a subincision.

Havelock Ellis wrote of a man who had a tattoo fetish. The man relates his experience as “when I got a tattooist to place
the figure of a butterfly on the upper side of my penis, I experienced a few minutes after leaving the shop, the
phenomena of erection and ejaculation accompanied by a feeling of physical exaltation so great that it almost prostrated
me afterwards” (Stutdies in the Psychology of Sex, by Havelock Ellis).

Tattoo machines operate on a 12 volt battery with one to three needles being used in the sleeve of a hand gun. These
needles, like those of a small sewing machine, move up and down at a very fast speed depositing ink as they pierce the
skin to a depth of less than one millimeter. The tattooed area is rubbed with an anti-bacterial or antibiotic ointment and
covered with a sterile bandage. This is removed one or two hours later when the area is washed with lukewarm water.
The client is told to prevent the ink from dissipating by avoiding heat on the area (i.e. hot tubs, baths, saunas, sun
bathing, and swimming) for the next couple of weeks. Tattoos on the shaft of the penis are not difficult or particularly
painful but those on the glans are harder to get the ink to stick in place because of frequent bleeding and are more
painful. The labia is not very painful but, because it is a mucous membrane, lines tend to lose their sharpness and blur;
therefore, simple line drawings are preferred.

Tattooing is also used to color in the areola on the breasts of women who have had mastectomies and nipple
reconstruction.

Because of AIDS, tattoo artists have begun using fresh needles for each customer.

(See also PENIS MODIFICATIONS and RINGING)

TEASING (Tantalolagnia—arousal from teasing) Teasing is done to sexually excite a person but without the intent of
fulfilling their desires once aroused. It is an overt form of flirting. This may be done with words, sounds, promises,
provocative attire, gestures, or caresses. Creating a desire for something begins a process in the brain that creates tension
until it is either obtained or substituted by something else.

Teasing may be used to increase passion during sex by refusing to be penetrated or by threatening to withdraw if the
partner doesn’t orgasm within the time it takes to count down from ten. A gentle push against the groin as the count
approaches two or three can intensify their response.CAUTION: Teasing strangers or people with whom one has no
intention of engaging in sex is inhumane, if not dangerous.

(See also COURTSHIP and SEXUAL HARASSMENT)

 
TELEGONY Telegony was the belief that the first man to inseminate a woman would automatically be the father of any
child she bore afterward. This was an advantage as far as adultery was concerned because husbands did not worry about
bastard children. However, telegony created a tremendous problem for widows and divorcees. Men refused to marry
these women because they felt the children born would not be theirs but that of her first husband.

(See also ADULTERY, CUCKOLDRY and MARRIAGE)

TESTICLES (Gemellus, Gonads) Testicles are the male organs that hang in the scrotal sac and produce spermatozoa. They
are the equivalent to the female ovaries and begin life in the abdominal cavity before dropping to the scrotal sac.
Testicles are part of the visceral or intestinal cavity and this is why abnormal pressure or trauma induces such extreme
nauseating pain. One is usually larger than the other and they both rise when exposed to cold or when nearing orgasm.

The testicles were once so sacred that oaths were given while someone held the testicles of the man swearing in their
hand, thus the terms testimony and testify. Women once assisted their husbands in quarrels by grabbing the opponent by
his testicles and squeezing. Legislation soon passed that penalized women by cutting off the offending hand.

Testicles are often used in S/M games. They are squeezed in cock and ball torture, have weights hung on them, are
separated with straps, and held in the mouth and gently rotated. Rarely, they are pierced.

An organization called the Ball Club was founded for those who have a special interest in testicles. A quarterly newsletter
allows members to run personal ads or submit articles, erotic stories, photos, and artwork. Not all the ads are from men.
The following is extraordinary even for this newsletter.

Sadistic butch bi-female and lover/ slave into severe ball torture and the tears and suffering it can cause. Long, hard
sessions of ball crushing, beating, burning, needles and knives...

(See also TORTURE and WEIGHTS)

THALPOTENTIGINY Thalpotentiginy refers to those people who find heat or warm weather sexually arousing.

(See also PSYCHROCISM)

TICKLING (Knismolagnia and Titillagnia—arousal from tickling) Tickling involves light touching of the vulnerable areas of
our body’s defense system causing us to want to retreat. Tickling used during foreplay will cause increased stimulation in
a partner; however, this has to be transferred to sexual arousal before it is of benefit. Women of the Baganda tribe
became adept at seducing their husbands by tickling their armpits. Tickling was also used in religious worship. Goldberg,
in The Sacred Fire, wrote of a Russian sect called the Ticklers whose religious service consisted of the men tickling the
women until they passed out.

Tickling is often used with bondage in S/M games. The stimulus may at first seem pleasurable but over a long period of
time can become unbearable. The person may also become desensitized to tickling after repeated stimulation.
Instruments used for tickling are fingers, rabbit fur, ostrich feathers, and soft bristled brushes.

People advertise in personal ads for partners willing to engage in this form of sex play. Videos are available by mail, such
as “Tormentor’s Delight” which has a nude woman tied with her hands above her head and tickled by a hooded monk,
and “Tickling Senorita” that shows a coed tied to a bed and tormented with a feather by a classmate. CAUTION: Passing
beyond some people’s limits can result in choking, vomiting, or incontinence.

(See also BONDAGE and SENSORY ENHANCEMENT)

TIMOPHILIA Timophilia (time: worth; philia: attachment to) refers to those who are sexually aroused by wealth or status.
The Roman emperor Caligula, known for his carnal lusts, entertained himself by wallowing in piles of gold.
Some people take treasured objects to bed with them. Jimi Hendrix was said to have slept with his guitar and some
women will take a new fur coat, dress, diamond ring, or other prize to bed with them and touch it throughout the night. It
is said to produce a similar feeling of comfort and possession that a lover would give.

It is often difficult to discern where the desire for the power that money brings ends, and the erotic excitement begins.
Wealthy men quickly learn the aphrodisiac qualities money has for seducing the woman of their choice. This desire is not
restricted to one sex because there have also been many personal ads appearing throughout the last hundred years from
men wanting to marry wealthy women.

(See also FETISHES, MASTURBATION and PARAPHILIAS)

TOILET TRAINING Toilet training is the term used for submissives learning the art of coprophagy or urophilia. The toilet
slave may be made to lick a toilet clean, lie on their back as their partner squats above their face, or to lick their genitals
clean after they relieve themselves. Some use the portable commodes or shower chairs available for rent at medical
rental stores. One partner sits in the chair and the other lies beneath and carries out whatever orders they are given.
Some people use these chairs for cunnilingus because of the way the edges of the commode spread and expose the
genitals.

A person who has a strong desire to be a toilet slave, but who is not yet accustomed to consuming human wastes, is often
started with a substitute such as warm beer or chili. These are inserted into the vagina or anus and the person learns to
consume these substitutes before graduating to real secretions.

A few professional dominatrixes will train toilet slaves. The following quote is from a letter written to a dominatrix by a
slave after their first session:

Toilet Slave John smiled back at his Lady as he quickly removed his clothes and fell to his knees before her. He was
momentarily overwhelmed with feelings of gratitude that he had found her. He had not served a Mistress for a long time,
but the other two Mistresses whose Total Toilet he had become some years before, and with whom he had developed
almost loving Mistress-Slave relationships, had taught him that for a Toilet Slave to be completely successful in his duties,
there must be an intangible “X” factor present which enabled him to not only worship, love, and adore his Mistress, but to
worship, love and adore her shit. He must glory in, and make love to, her shit. He must desire her shit above all else,
knowing that because in a very real sense eating her shit was the ultimate act of degradation, it therefore became the
ultimate act of love, giving his Mistress ultimate feelings of pleasure and power.

As he looked up at her, Toilet Slave John felt that “X” factor with the Lady to a degree he had not felt in years. For a minute
they just smiled at each other, and there was that feeling of beginning a long journey together, and then she said, crisply,
“Okay, now, little Toilet Slave, let’s get it going!” She began working a number of globs of tissue-burning ointment and
other substances on cotton swabs as far as she could—in and out, in and out, in and out—into Toilet Slave John’s
miserable toilet-flusher worm of a cock. She called it “cock-fucking. ” Then after a quick round with her whip, she inserted
two irritant-soaked cotton swabs into his toilet flusher, leaving them there as she tied a leash around the base of his
miserable worm and balls and led him crawling through the house for the amusement of her Mistress associates before
dragging him into the bathroom

Toilet training is not for everyone but for some it brings intense pleasure and satisfaction. CAUTION: Eating feces can
spread many serious diseases, including hepatitis, shigella, amoebic dysentery, cholera, and various parasitic worms. It
may be the most dangerous kind of unsafe sex.
(See also COPROPHAGY, COPROPHILIA and SHOWERS)

TOPS The term top is used by those in the S/M community for those who choreo-graph or direct sex play with a partner.
They are the authority figure. This is a much broader term than sadist which implies arousal from seeing a partner injured
or in pain. A top may simply require that their partner attend a dinner function without underwear.

More specific titles may be used during a fantasy game such as teacher, reverend father, mistress, and goddess.

(See also BOTTOM, MASOCHIST, SADISM and SWITCH)

TORTURE Torture refers to inflicting pain to extract information from a noncooperative person. The definition has
recently broadened to include the infliction of pain without the explicit intent to gather information or a confession.

Governments have employed torture for their purposes for thousands of years. Those cultures not using torture relied on
divine intervention. Here a suspect that was accused of a wrongdoing had to endure a trial by ordeal; passing the test
proved his innocence. Neither torture nor trial by ordeal was totally successful for getting at the truth. The concept that a
person who is tortured will divulge all the information the enemy desires with accuracy is erroneous. The captors
sometimes are able to scrutinize information better when they capture several prisoners and compare their stories or
interrogate prisoners on several occasions and watch for discrepancies in their statements. The Europeans became so
calloused to torture during the witch burnings and the Inquisition that it was used for punishment for those sentenced to
death. King Charles I himself was one of these victims. Judges pronounced the following death sentence on him:

You shall go from hence to the place from whence you came, and from that place shall be drawn upon a hurdle to the
place of execution, and there shall hang by the neck till you are half dead, and shall be cut down alive, and your privy
members cut off before your face and thrown into the fire, your belly ripped up and your bowels burnt, your head to be
severed from your body, your body shall be divided into four quarters, and disposed as His Majesty shall think fit.

Other cultures used things such as the American Indian torture of slowly masturbating a man to death, the French torture
of inserting a glass tube in a prisoner’s urethra and breaking it with a hammer, or the Afridi women’s torture of prying a
man’s mouth open with wood and urinating in it until he drowned. The use of torture to obtain information is now
against national policy and a group called Amnesty International works to obliterate it in the rest of the world.

Many of the torture games used among S/M enthusiasts include techniques used by different governments. A fantasy
torture scene can be based on Romans, Inquisitors, Japanese, American Indian, Military, German SS, female Amazon
warriors, and so forth.

Genital torture techniques are the most popular. People put testicles in small vise grips, do ball crushing (twisting the sac
90, and squeezing the testicles together with the hand until the person submits), whipping the genitals, using an irritant
on the mucous membranes, rubbing the area with Dragon Skin paper (similar to a plastic sandpaper), attaching clamps or
clothespins, using alternate heat and cold, impaling the genitals with needles or a small nail, using electrical cock rings or
an elastrator clamp to put a rubber band on scrotum (used for castration of animals by veterinarians—it is not left on for
more than 5 minutes for a human). The difference between S/M torture and the political type is that the victim can end
the game at any time and serious damage is avoided at all costs. CAUTION: Chemicals can burn skin, and torture devices
can cause damage. (“Male Tit and Genitorture I and II,” by Tony DeBlase, QSM lectures, June 1 and 8, 1990; “Private
Pleasures, Intimate Pain; An Exploration of the Subtle Art of Cunt Torture,” by V.A., QSM lecture, June 1990)

(See also ALGOPHILIA, CICATRIZATION, MASOCHISM, SADISM, TESTICLES and WEIGHT TRAINING)

TOUCH (Toucheurism—arousa) from touch; Sarmassophilia—arousal from kneading flesh) Touching a person creates a
sensation from pressure placed on the skin. (Sensual arousal from tactile stimulus may include pain for some people. This
is discussed under the heading ALGOPHILIA).

Touch allows us to simultaneously receive and transmit feelings. It is the only sense that can be shared between two
people. The skin has, beneath its surface, various receptors or nerve endings that react to specific types of touch. For
instance, the Merkel’s Disk and Meissner’s Corpuscle detect light touch, the end bulbs of Krause nerves sense cold, Ruffini
Endings detect heat, free nerve endings feel pain, and the Pacinian Corpuscle senses deep pressure, and seems to
override all other sensations. These receptors are more dense in certain areas than others and because of this these
locations provide more pleasure when stimulated. There is a simple “two-point discrimination” test that one does with a
hairpin and ruler to determine the most erogenous zones on our bodies. The tips of the hairpin are spread with the points
varying from two millimeters to seven centimeters in distance and run along the surface of the skin. The objective is to
determine at which point one can feel the sensation of two pin tips instead of one. The closer the two points can be
recognized together the more sensitive the area is to touch. The following chart is an example of the variances:

The sense receptors seem to be abundant in the areas that center on body functions necessary for survival. Our bodies
are designed to trigger a production of endorphins which in turn create a pleasure response in our brain each time we
engage in one of these activities (i.e. eating, nursing, coitus, and defecation). The brain assumes we are eating each time
there is pressure applied to the lips or tongue, that we are nursing when it is applied to the nipples, and so forth. It is
because of this natural mechanism that we are able to enhance the sex act by applying touch and pressure to areas of our
bodies other than the genitals.

The desire to touch is a primal need and is genetically transmitted. One social function of touch was to keep people in
group formations. The desire for this was termed centripetal movement. Clans served many functions in enabling humans
to survive. They decreased the number of times people would encounter a predator, increased the power of the clan
through intimidation of numbers, and took advantage of the expertise of those best knowledgeable at hunting or
gathering food. Groups also increased the chances of fertility and survival of the young. The discovery of agriculture and
breeding animals alleviated this need and made it more advantageous for man to spread out into much smaller units
(Sociobiology, by Henry O. Wilson, pp. 26- 27). Touch is crucial for infants and remains important throughout our lives.
Jillyn Smith speaks of this in her book, Senses & Sensibilities:

Without touch, children die. As late as the second decade of this century, the death rale in U.S. foundling institutions for
infants under one year old was nearly 100 percent. Dr. Fritz Talbot of Boston brought the idea of tender loving care back
with him from Germany in the 1940s....lntrodttction of “mothering” regimens in institutions dramalically reduced the
mortality rates of children. Recent studies have shown that premature infants who were massaged for 15 minutes three
times a day gained weight 45 percent faster than others who were left alone in their incubators. The massaged infants did
not eat more than the others. Their weight gain seemed to be related to effects of touch on their metabolism (p. 199).

Children as they become older seek to replace the nurturing once received from parents with security objects, fetishes,
pets, and peer contact. Males often develop a socialized misconception that touch should only precede coitus. Men will
often either not engage in touching unless they feel they can follow through with sex or will instigate sex more often than
their partner would like when hugging or caressing would suffice.

There are people who are able to orgasm solely by being touched in areas other than the genitals. A recent issue of Sex
Over Forty cited the personal experience of a psychologist who unexpectedly had an orgasm when her lover caressed her
hand while she was reading a magazine. The article goes on to state that “Medical research on touch has shown that it
improves many situations by: lessening anxiety, calming fears, decreasing pain, lowering blood pressure, reducing stress,
soothing the sick and alleviating loneliness” (“How touch affects intimacy,” by E.D. Whitehead and S. Zussman,
September, 1990 issue of Sex Over Forty).

People involved in sadomasochism use mild to intense tactile stimulation to accomplish the same type of orgasm others
have with penis/vagina sex. In fact, group S/M club play parties often have a rule that genitals may not be handled and
yet many achieve orgasms.

(See also ACUPRESSURE, AXILLISM, BINDING, BITING, CORSETS, CUPPING, PINCHING, SCRATCHING, SENSORY
ENHANCEMENT and TICKLING)

TOURNIQUETS Tourniquets are used to stop the flow of blood from an artery. There are six main arterial pressure points
but only the brachial and femoral are used in sex play. People who play with tourniquets do it primarily because they
enjoy the tingling sensations produced once the tourniquet is removed.

Tourniquets are applied by first elevating the arm or leg, placing a padding directly over one of these major arteries,
wrapping 2” width fabric around the arm or leg, tying the ends, inserting a pencil or stick into the knot and twisting it like
a clock hand with just enough pressure to stop the pulse. The exact time is written down so that the tourniquet can be
loosened within 5 minutes. CAUTION: Tourniquets may cause permanent nerve damage or arterial embolization of an
atheromatous plaque (which can cause loss of a limbor death). It can be extremely dangerous.

(See also BINDING, BONDAGE, CLAMPS and CORSETS)

TRANSSEXUALS (Gender crosscoding, Gender dysphoria—person whose behavior matches the opposite sex, Gender
transposition—the changing of behavior between sexes) A transsexual is defined as a person who has had an
overwhelming desire to be the opposite sex. As children they are often confused about their true sexual identity. It is not
until at about the age of five or six they are faced with the physical evidence of being different. For many this means
growing up depressed over the fact that their genitals do not match the mental picture of themselves. Once a transsexual
goes through a sex change they are then referred to only as male or female.

The vocabulary used to differentiate among this group is not adequate. A transgenderist is said to refer to those who
begin the process of a sex change, usually breast implants and sometimes ingestion of hormones, but who has no desire
to complete the castration portion of the surgery. They prefer to be able to pass as either male or female without making
a commitment to either.

In 1952 Christine Jorgensen had the first successful sex change surgery in Denmark and since that time about 6,000
Americans have followed suit.

In order for a transsexual to qualify for surgery they have to have spent three months under the supervision of a therapist
who recommends the procedure, begin a year’s hormone treatment, and during this time the person must live as their
new sex 24 hours a day. The hormones change the bone mass slightly, cause the growth of new hair and in some female-
to-males their hair-lines may begin to recede. Men may find that they become less tense and females more aggressive.
Electrolysis is used to get rid of unwanted hair. For some this can be the most expensive portion of the sex change. If a
person takes the hormone treatment for a year and then changes their mind about the sex change before surgery the
effects of hormones will not completely reverse themselves.

The surgery from male to female costs anywhere from $5,000-15,000 not including therapy, voice lessons, hormones, and
electrolysis. Some surgeons have become experts in this procedure and most untrained eyes cannot detect a difference in
their patient’s genitalia from that of a natural female. During a typical surgical procedure the scrotal sac is cut open and
the testicles thrown away. The penis is sliced open and its contents are discarded as well. The surgeon then inserts his
fingers into the vaginal area and opens a cavity in which the penile shell is turned inside out and pushed inside to create a
vagina. In time the dry penile tissue will become mucosal and resemble an ordinary vagina in texture. The scrotum is then
used to form the labia and a piece of the penis and erectile tissue used to form the clitoris.

The surgery for female to male costs from $10,000-20,000 and has not advanced to the point where a constructed penis
is fully functional. The scrotum is formed from the labia and synthetic testes inserted to resemble the male organs. Many
prefer to live with the elongated clitoris which is as sexually functional as before. Others opt for a phalloplasty that has a
prosthetic device enabling him to insert his new penis into a vagina and orgasm himself because the other end of the
device puts pressure on the clitoris. The third option is for a phalloplasty which uses skin grafts to form a flaccid penis that
can be used for urination but often patient finds they have a problem with urinary infections and urine leaking out of the
wrong area. Ejaculation is impossible despite the alternative selected.

A support network is available for transsexuals and others called E.T.V.C. CAUTION : The sex change does not solve all of a
person’s problems; it often creates additional ones. Families and friends may ostracize the person and they may even lose
their job. Ex-men find they lose social status and that new jobs as a female often pay less.

(See also CASTRATION, DRAG QUEENS, HERMAPHRODITE and TRANSVESTI THS)

TRANSVESTITES (Acault—Burmese, Berdaches—male who performs role of wife in some tribes, Eonism,
Gynephonia—effeminate voice, Transvestophilia—arousal from transvestism, Virimimism—adoption of masculinity)

Transvestites are people who find erotic pleasure in crossdressing. This does not include women in history who have
passed as men simply to obtain better paying jobs or a higher social status. Nor does it include drag queens, female
impersonators, or those involved in petticoat or victorian lace discipline. In other words, crossdressers who are not
sexually aroused by crossdressing are not transvestites.

Crossdressing was practiced in many societies. Balboa was appalled by it among “Chiefs at Quarequa in Panama. Here he
said, was ‘the most abhominal and unnatural lechery,’ practiced by ‘the Kynges brother and many other younger men in
women apparell, smoth and effeminately decked, which by the report of such as dwelte abowte hym, he abused with
preposterous venus.’ Balboa delt summarily with the offenders, throwing forty of them to his dogs” (Sex in History, by
Reay Tannahill, p. 293, citing Anglerius’ Opera ... Oceani decas, pp. 89-90).

Crossdressing sometimes had religious significance. An American Indian tribe believed that if a man dreamed of the moon
goddess he must dress like a woman, perform those duties, and have sex with men. In other tribes the medicine men had
to crossdress as a condition of this office.

One of the more notorious transvestites was a Roman named Heliogabalus who would dress as a woman and evict
prostitutes from their bordellos, taking over their clientele. He eventually fell in love with a slave and at the wedding
dressed in a gown, afterward going through a defloration scene. Heliogabalus was assassinated by his soldiers upon
discovering his plot to abdicate and make his husband the emperor, declaring himself empress of Rome. Others included
the harem of the 17th century Queen Zingua of Angola Africa who kept her husbands dressed in female attire. Catalina de
Erauso was a 17th century Spanish nun who left the convent dressed as a man, became a soldier, and fought in South
America before being discovered. A century later two female crossdressers fought on a pirate ship until they were
captured by the Jamaican government and sentenced to death in 1720 (The Mysteries of Sex, Women Who Posed as Men
and Men Who Impersonated Women, by C.J.S. Thompson).

European men dressed in elaborate costumes, bright colors, and wore wigs and makeup until the end of the 18th century,
when they adopted dull colors and simple styles. Crossdressing allows men to at least temporarily break with this
tradition and experience some pleasure in their appearance. This is referred to by some as fashion envy.

Transvestites primarily wear opposite-sex clothes for the purposes of sexual arousal. For this reason they tend to choose
items they associate with sexy women, such as lingerie, stilleto high heels, and bikinis.

Male crossdressers often have the attitude that women are pampered. When these men crossdress they are able to
forget the stresses from the office and to relax. Their rigid male persona does not normally allow for this type of
pampering. Transvestites frequently exaggerate sex-role stereotypes by assuming very masculine roles (truck drivers or
construction workers) in their careers. One transvestite was not able to be sexually submissive to a female partner in his
male persona but insisted on being submissive in his female role. He chose to go without sex rather than submit to a
whipping in his male character; a whipping that he asked for in his female role.

A transvestite seems like the perfect date for a bi-sexual female. However, several who have attempted dating
transvestites have stated that while their date looked and acted like a female they still had strong male energy. Therefore,
instead of becoming aroused by being with a female (or male) the sexual response became confusing and dissipated
because one felt more like they were with a man who was dressed like a woman. There are many wives of transvestites
who adjust to the crossdressing in their sex lives; however, similar to fetishes a partner can often feel they do not rank in
first place.

The transvestite’s selection of female attire can become strange at times as in the following case cited by Robert Tralins:

One evening I became very blue and I decided that perhaps it would’ve been the time of the month for me, so I went down
to the pharmacy and purchased a box of sanitary napkins and a sanitary belt. I even stained the napkin with a dot of
blood from my penis and then I went out again....l wondered how it would feel if I also bought a tampon and inserted it in
my rectum (The Sexual Fetish, Case Histories of Bizarre Erotic Hangups, p. 148).

Magazines, videos, newspapers with personal ads, and businesses cater to this preference. (ETVC Anniversary Party and
Lingerie Show, May 25, 1989) CAUTION: Transvestism is illegal in America if one is found loitering or soliciting. There are
support groups for transvestites such as ETVC in San Francisco that provide social opportunities for those desiring to
crossdress away from home. Most of the S/M bars and bondage clubs also welcome crossdressers.

(See also ADOLESCENTILISM, ANDROIDISM, ANDROMIMETOPHILIA, COSTUMES, DRAG QUEENS, FEMALE

IMPERSONATORS, PETTICOAT DISCIPLINE, TRANSSEXUALS and VICTORIAN LACE)

TRICHOPHILIA (Hirsutophilia—arousal from armpit hair, Gynelophilous and Puhephilia—pubic hair fetish,
Tripsolagnia—arousal from having hair manipulated or shampooed) Trichophilia (tricho: hair; philia: attachment to) refers
to hair fetishes. Children often fixate on hair at an early age, some developing a strong preference or fetish for a certain
style, length, or color.

Female pubic hair can vary greatly from woman to woman. The Illustrated Book of Sexual Records cites an example of a
woman whose pubic hair hung to her knees and another whose hair was so prolific that locks of it rose in the front to
near the navel and behind up several inches on the buttocks. Other women are endowed with very little.

Females seem to notice chest hair, some developing an intense attraction to it. There have been women who could only
orgasm if their partner had a hairy chest; and those who could only orgasm if he didn’t.

Men with hair fetishes sometime resort to stealing hair. Many cases exist of men who have been arrested for snipping off
a stranger’s hair for their collection. Hirschfeld wrote of one man who had labelled each of the 31 pigtails in his collection
with the hour and date he had taken them. The man was repulsed by the idea of having sex with a woman and needed to
separate the hair from the individual. Men will also hire prostitutes to let them fondle and masturbate into their hair.
Krafft-Ebbing told of a man who had been married to a famous bearded lady and upon her death searched until he found
another. Lust murderers sometimes scalp the pubic area (gynelophism) of their victim to keep as a trophy. Gays also have
hair fetishes. Hirschfeld cited one in a collection of his work called Sexual Anomalies and Perversions:
When the patient (a highly placed civil servant now aged 50) was seven years old, it happened one night that when he was
ulready in bed the maid-servant, who was leaving, came up to him and embraced him. The patient still remembers quite
clearly how he pushed his fingers through her hair. At the age of puberty he begun to experience sexual excitement
whenever he saw or touched nicely dressed hair. But from then on, excitement was only induced by the hair of men; the
hair of women exercised no effect whatever on him, and even in men he was only interested in sleek, dark brown hair,
which had to be brushed right buck...He derives particular pleasure and sexual excitement from dressing other people’s
hair. He executes this operation in the following manraer: He stands behind the other man, applies hair oil, which,
together with combs, he always carries with him, then he combs the hair back. As the comb reaches the top of the head,
ejaculation takes place... the patient, whose behavior has frequently attracted atterttion, is known by the nickname of
“The Hairdresser” (pp. 548-9).

A recent article in TIME magazine referred to a judge who was arrested by state troopers. It appears that the judge
offered a “defendant leniency if he let the judge shampoo his hair. Further, suggested His Honor, the young man could
get even more leniency if he brought in friends for a wash and rinse as well...Last week the magistrate apologized and
pleaded guilty to official oppression, or misusing his office. He then resigned.” (“Miscellany, Hair Justice,” TIME, May 18,
1992, p. 26)

A small world-wide group of long hair enthusiasts exists whose members exchange photos, videos, and letters.

(See also DEPILATION, FETISHES, PUBIC DRESSING and PUBIC HAIR SCULPTURING)

TROILISM Troilism (trois: three) refers to three people having sex. This may be two men and one woman, three men, two
women and one man, or three women.

(See also CANDAULlSM, GANG BANGS, GROUP SEX, ORGIES and MENAGE À TROIS)

TROUBADOURS Troubadours lived during the 11 th to 13th centuries at which time many were killed for heresy by the
Church. These men taught birth control, that sex should be enjoyed, and that love should be considered in selecting a
marriage partner. Troubadours turned the hearts of many away from stoic tradition with their romantic ballads. Singing
minstrels were not novel, these men had long roamed through villages singing poems to impress wealthy men. In return
they received food or lodging. The Inquisition brought an important change because now the land owners left on
campaigns and minstrels soon discovered that their previous songs were of little interest to the lord’s wife, who now
controlled the funds. During the adaptation, songs began to take on the flavor of romance, unrequited, and immortal
love. These were now dedicated to the wife of the feudal lord, who perhaps for the first time had a man bestow this type
of attention upon her, and she rewarded him well. It is doubtful that too many troubadours ever consummated a liaison.
However, their philosophy of romance and courtship filtered into the upper classes who had the free time to indulge in
contemplations of titillating or torrid affairs.

(See also COURTSHIP and SERENADES)

TUNNEL OF LOVE Amusement parks up until the 1960’s often had three to four minute boat rides that passed through a
dark tunnel. Couples often took this opportunity to sneak kisses. These tunnels of love lost their popularity when
contraceptive pills became available and premarital sex became socially acceptable.

(See also CHAPERONS, COITUS A CHEVAL and COURTSHIP)

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URINE See UROPHILIA

UROPHILIA (Golden showers, Water sports, Undinism, Urolagnia, Ondinisme, Renifleurism) Urophilia (uro: urine; philia:
attachment to) refers to those who derive sexual pleasure from acts involving urine. For some their gratification stems
from engaging in an activity their mother condemned. Boys who were not allowed to fondle their penis were usually
granted permission to hold it while urinating. Boys also discovered that urination could be a powerful weapon, one that
could cause almost any target to retreat. This combination of rebellion, power, and sensuality became a potent
aphrodisiac difficult for some to resist.

A few women also found erotic pleasure in urine. A sexologist named Merzbach recorded a case in the late 19th century
of a young lady who not only masturbated by holding a bottle of men’s urine under her nose but hung around men’s
rooms so she could smell the urine and masturbate openly as she watched men leave. Men secrete androsterone, a sex
hormone, in their urine, and there is a possibility that this could have caused her attraction. It at least works for the male
guinea pig who sometimes seduces uncooperative lovers by urinating on them.

Urine at one time was thought by many to have magical powers. Captain Edward Moor in 1810 referred to an odd
superstition in his book, Hindu Pantheon:

The greatest, or, at any rate the most convenient of all purifiers is the urine of a cow. Images are sprinkled with it. No man
of any pretensions to piety or cleanliness would pass a cow in the act of staling without receiving the holy stream in his
hand and sipping a few drops...If the animal be retentive, a pious expectant will impatienly apply his finger, and by
judicious tickling excite the grateful flow.

The American Zunis danced over a bowl of urine and would occasionally ingest it as a remedy for stomach problems. The
African Nandis washed their hands in urine and then rinsed with water. They believe that if only water were used it would
kill their husbands. Germans too believed in the magic properties of this liquid. Sometimes young brides would add a little
to their husband’s coffee to cast a love spell on him. Others used human urine to cure jaundice, anorexia, gout,
toothache, colic, fevers, and insomnia. An American woman in Texas during the 1950’s used this home remedy on her
husband to cure the sore eye. The account indicated that he wasn’t as convinced as his wife because she had to hold him
down while urinating in his face. Ghandhi drank his own urine to reabsorb nutrients back into his body.

Urophiles engage in such activities as urinating on a partner’s body, genitals, face, or in their mouth. It may be used for
humiliation, punishment, or reward, depending on how the bottom feels about urine. Urine is not safe if the person has
an infection, therefore some partners substitute warm apple juice.

Bladder control is often used as a form of torture. Emperor Tiberius devised a method whereby he served his victims their
fill of wine and then before they could urinate he had a cord tied around their penis to close off the urethra.

Sex games may also include mixing the liquid with food as portrayed in the movie called “Yellow Jello” where the actress
mixes her urine with jello, stirs it, eats, and then rubs it on her body.
Finally there is a “golden enema” which is accomplished by inserting the penis into the vagina, waiting for it to become
flaccid, and then, urinating. Only a very few have mastered this technique. CAUTION: Urine may contain bacteria and
viruses and is not considered safe sex. (“Water Sports,” Society of Janus lecture, June 8, 1989)

(See also CATHETERS. COCKTAILS, KLISMAPHILIA, SHOWERS and SITOPHILIA)

URTICATION Urtication (urtica: nettle) refers to those who use stinging nettles to stimulate the skin. This was done to the
limbs of the paralyzed to bring sensation to the person.

People have modified this practice for sex games. Nettles are favored because of several natural qualities. The active
ingredients do not spread to other areas but are restricted to the site at which the plant comes into contact. Nettles have
tiny hair-like projections rather than thorns which can break and stick in the skin. The skin also becomes sensitized
without the injury that certain types of flagellation can produce.

Skin exposed to nettles will redden and in a short time produce small bumps. The person will feel a sharp hot sting that
fades to a warm tingling glow which may last several hours.

Nettles may be applied in various ways. Some lie the stems down and press the hairs into the skin, others hold them in a
cluster and tap it against the chosen area, or put them into a bottom’s underwear. Men who wear condoms have found
that briefly applying nettles to the penis before putting on the condom can compensate for the sensation lost by the latex
barrier. CAUTION: People using nettles should check each time for allergic reactions and if flagellating the person with a
cluster avoid the neck and face area.

(See also BEE STINGS and PYROPHII.IA)

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VAMPIRISM (Blood sports—sex play involving blood, Hemotigolagnia—fetish for sanitary pads, Menophilist—fetish for
menstruating women)

Vampirism refers to drinking blood. Folklore is filled with odd tales of the living dead that drain others of their blood.
Blood, similar to urine, is thought to have magical qualities and has been used in many religious ceremonies. Faustina, the
wife of emperor Marcus Antoninus, drank the blood of dying gladiators to ensure fertility and epileptics believed that
drinking the blood from a decapitated criminal would cure them.

There may be a health benefit to self-vampirism. Animals respond to wounds by licking them. They have a hormone in
their saliva that promotes the regeneration of destroyed cells. Humans also have an enzyme that destroys some viruses
and the urge some have to lick bloody wounds may be natural.

Vampirism varies and may include cunnilingus during a woman’s menstrual cycle, biting that draws blood, making a small
cut in one’s skin, or using a hypodermic to collect blood from a vein. A recent case involved an Argentinean who was
captured after attacking fifteen women in their beds and sucking blood from their necks in the period of only one week.
Many vampires, lacking a cooperative partner draw their own blood, some doing this once, adding an anti-coagulant, and
storing it in the refrigerator for the next few times they want to masturbate. Some even date partners with large veins
because looking at these is arousing.

Drug addicts sometimes develop a sexual response to drawing blood back into the hypodermic syringe, some having
described the experience as similar to orgasm. It is possible that the past generations found legends of vampires
particularly exciting because of their exposure to phlebotomy, or bloodletting. A culture that thought nothing of having a
barber surgeon drain their blood into a bowl would have less aversion to using a modified version of this in their sex play.
The caning that was popular in England may have been indirectly connected to this desire as well. Even today there are
those that get more of a pleasure from a caning if blood is drawn. The same is true for piercing or other blood sports.

Today’s sex vampires sometimes seduce drunk men in bars and talk them into letting them make a cut on their skin
during sex. It is more difficult for a male vampire to find women willing to be cut than it is for females to find willing
males. The magazine EXPOSED featured an interview by Bill Reynolds with a member of a New York vampire society. This
group makes small cuts on each other before indulging in orgies. One scene was described as starting with two sisters
being cut, and then performing cunnilingus in front of the group as blood covered their bodies. This scene was followed
by a group orgy. Another official vampire group is headquartered in Stockton, California, and there are several individual
practitioners in San Francisco.

Some people have become sexually intrigued with this practice and formed clubs, dating services, computer bulletin
boards, and commercial 900 telephone party lines. CAUTION: Vampirism is a blood sport and, as such, is considered
unsafe sex.

(See also BLOOD SPORTS and PHLEBOTOMY)

VERTIGO Vertigo refers to dizziness or disorientation. Children often twirl in circles to be able to experience this unusual
sensation. Humans as well as animals take advantage of this peculiar effect in their sex games. The African clawed frog
often grabs a female during coitus, spins her around until she becomes dizzy, and as she weakens he again mounts her
and copulates. Humans use similar tactics but add a blindfold to speed the process. They also use swings or suspension
devices. The latter creates a more complete disorientation. CAUTION: Vertigo can cause nausea in some people.

(See also OXYGEN REGULATION and SENSORY OVERLOAD)

VICARIOUS AROUSAL (Vicarphilia—arousal from exposure to behavior of others) Vicarious arousal (vicis: substitute)
refers to one who acts in the place of another, or in this case one who receives vicarious arousal from the actions of
another.

Some men derive sexual satisfaction from insisting that their lover dress in provocative and revealing clothes when they
go out into public. Others are often attracted to influential people, celebrities, those who engage in dangerous sports, or
anyone who leads an exciting life. Criminals who have to serve prison sentences often find they have a waiting list of
women who want to write to and sometimes marry them. Adrenalin is produced by our bodies when we become excited
or frightened. This in turn causes the release of sex hormones in both males and females. Some people confuse the
meaning of this type of response toward a person’s activities as sexual attraction. This reaction canoccur with each
episode and after a while a person may think they are in love with the partner. CAUTION: Mistakes can be avoided in love
affairs if an effort is made to learn more about their partner and to ask themselves whether they would still be infatuated
if this person lacked the thing that one found exciting.

(See also EROTOMANIA and HYBRISTOPHILIA)

VICTORIAN LACE Victorian lace is feminine lingerie that is often made of silk and lace. Some males find this style of
lingerie is erotic and would prefer to have their sex partner wear this rather than pantyhose.

Women who have top management jobs often wear lace undergarments to compensate for the otherwise sterile
exterior. The idea that they are wearing something sexy makes them feel more attractive and self-confident. This
preference is not exclusive to women; male transvestites also wear this type of clothing.

Victorian lace is used in S/M games to evoke a strong negative reaction from some males and lesbians. These people feel
humiliated and submissive when forced to wear sexy lace and frills. Feminine lace in this society takes away the power
one may ordinarily enjoy by dressing in leather or business suits. Therefore a person who wears this symbol of
subservience not only submits to a partner but to the prejudices of a society. For some it can be more demeaning than
wearing a dog collar and drinking out of a doggy bowl.

(See also CORSETS, DRAG QUEENS, INFANTILISM and PETTICOAT DISCIPLINE)

VICTORIANISM Victorianism is the term used to describe the sexual repression and prudery that sprang up during the
last half of the 19th century. It was named such because Queen Victoria (1837-1901) reigned during this period. Unlike
Puritans, the Victorians lacked a religious foundation for their fear of sex. Many became unduly concerned about their
children masturbating because of medical reasons. Physicians such as Dr. Boerhaave had begun writing about the physical
maladies attributed to masturbation as early as 1708. He said that “the rash expenditure of semen brings on a lassitude, a
feebleness, a weakening of motion, fits, wasting, dryness, fevers, aching of the cerebral membranes, obscuring of the
sense and above all the eyes, a decay of the spinal chord, a fatuity.” Other physicians concurred with this opinion but it
was not a topic that concerned the majority until when in 1835 Dr. John Todd made a monumental impact on readers
when referring to interviews with superintendents of two insane asylums, writing that they supported his personal views
on masturbation. They “will say, not only that this is the cause of bringing many of their patients there but an almost
insuperable obstacle in the way of their recovery.” Parents panicked and began engaging in all sorts of horrendous
preventative tactics. These included infibulation, burning the genitals of the child, circumcision, castration, chastity belts,
and cages for the penis.

Soon any type of sex came to be blamed for behavior that fell outside their conservative social mores. Clitoridectomies
were done to young children as well as women whose husbands decided that they were oversexed. In the middle 1800’s
an American doctor named Marion Sims, known for developing gynecological surgical tools, performed many of these. He
needed females to develop and test these inventions and because he did not use anesthesia he found very few
volunteers. He began experimenting on slave women and for those whose owners were skeptical, he simply purchased
the woman to use in surgery. Once he had perfected his tools he moved from his home in Alabama where he had built his
own private “hospital,” and performed surgery, to open the first Women’s Hospital in New York (The Horrors of the Half-
Known Life, by G.J. Barker-Benfield, p. 101).

Sex continued but it was not discussed in public. People became ashamed of not being able to control a natural function.
Those who did manage to suppress their desires often became intolerant and judgmental of those not suppressing their
lusts.

(See also ILLEGAL SEX)

 

VIRGINS (Aphallata, Parthenity; Hymenoclasis—surgical defloration, Hymenorrhexis—defloration of hymen, Stupprator

—man who prefers virgins) The word virgin refers to those people who have not engaged in penetration. In females the
presence of a hymen is the determining factor. Females who engaged in only fellatio or anal sex technically retained their
virginity. The hymen covers the vaginal opening but almost always has some sort of small hole in it large enough to insert
a finger. This membrane is torn with the penetration of a penis or other object and will remain this diameter until
stretched by childbirth.

Some ancient traditions required that virgin brides give themselves first to stone gods (phallus), kings, slave owners,
father-in-laws, or feudal lords. This was called the right of the first night, jus primae noctis, and is still forced onto the
Untouchables in parts of India. There were other cultures where the bride was deflowered by someone other than her
husband because of the superstitious belief that evil would befall him. Allen Edwardes and R.E.L. Masters described a
typical defloration scene following a Northern African Arab wedding:

In the evening of the betrothal or actual wedding, the little girl (ranging in age from three to nine) is led by her father-in-
law into an empty bedroom, where he strips her naked...most seigneurs are gentle and careful. Seating her on their knees,
they will kiss the child and fondle her body-especially her little vulva, until “it starts to tickle.” The man will say to the girl:
“Let me feel the little turtle you have inside your legs.” The ’alemah is reassured and does not resist; only haste and cruelty
cause the child to cry and struggle to get away. Freeing his erect organ from his clothes, the considerate seigneur will then
straddle the girl over his thighs, which he opens so that her own legs are forced or stretched as wide apart as possible. So
doing, he slowly lowers her upon his glans penis, which he works between the labia and round and round the little orifice
by holding the child by the waist and swaying her to and fro and from side to side...(The Cradle of Erotica, p. 132).

Virginity became important when men began paying dowries, some demanding that their merchandise be undamaged.
There may have been a legitimate reason for this other than morality. Marriages arranged between a father and
bridegroom might have encountered problems if the young woman had a lover before the marriage. These lovers could
assist her in escaping, become antagonistic, or continue the affair after the wedding. An unconsummated love would be
less of a threat.

Sex with a virgin is avoided by some people while others find it novel, feel honored, enjoy the feeling of power in defiling
a virgin, are relieved that they cannot be compared with anyone else, or have a religious ethic that would create prejudice
against a partner who was not virgin.

Women remain virgins due to reasons such as warnings of parents, the absence of a serious lover, fear of pregnancy and
sexually transmitted diseases, or the lack of interest in sex. Religion too had a strong influence. During the Middle Ages
young virgins under the influence of Church propaganda committed suicide rather than marry and lose their sacred
virginity.

Bordellos often catered to men who paid extra for virgins. Bordello owners discovered that they could soak alum in a
piece of cloth and insert it into a girl’s vagina for a few hours and be able to pass her off as virgin several times. Some sex
shops carry a formula called “China Shrink Cream” which is supposed to work within five minutes. One early surgical
procedure was the suturing of torn hymens of prostitutes in bordellos, so they could be “re-virginized.”

(See also BORDELLOS, GEISHAS, PEDOPHILIA and SEX RINGS)

 
VISUALIZATION Visualization is the ability to see an event, object, or person in one’s mind and is used in almost any type
of sex.

Sex magicians use visualization to see energy flow, thoughts, divinities of air, fire, water, earth, and heaven as well as
personal sex divinities. A person is able to increase the intensity of a trance (or divine identity) by visualization skills. The
objective of sex magick is to visualize oneself and one’s partner as gods that have come down to join in a fertility ritual.
Well developed visualization skills allow one to identify with the god of choice so that the sex experience becomes a
sacred and much more powerful experience.

Tantra utilizes visualization to see and direct the energy flow, breath, and to see themselves and partners as sacred.

Visualization is used in S/M play by placing a person in a blindfold or dark room and then making strange noises or threats
which cause the person to visualize scenes that frighten or arouse them. Fantasies become more vivid and more intense
under these circumstances.

People sometimes visualize having sex with a different person than the one in their arms. This is often done in the case of
fetish objects because without this substitute some are unable to keep an erection.

(See also FANTASY, FANTASY PLAY, RITUAL SEX and SEX MAGICK)

VOMIT See EMETOPHILIA and SHOWERS

VOYEURISM (Allopellia, Cryptoscopophilia, Inspectionism, Mixoscopia, Parascopism, Peeping Tom) Voyeurism involves
the act of watching other people for the purpose of sexual arousal. Often the voyeur stations himself outside a person’s
home and watches through a window. Teenagers sometimes engage in this activity out of frustration before they become
sexually active themselves. Watching people having sex while being afraid of being caught is more arousing than looking
at photos in magazines. This becomes a problem for men when it becomes their primary sexual outlet or when they are
arrested.

This activity is not limited to males. One woman would slip into her backyard every night so that she could watch through
the windows of a male neighbor. This man had the habit of wearing a t-shirt without underwear as he prepared dinner
and relaxed for the evening.

Voyeurism seems to surface in many people when it involves a celebrity and a photographer who catches them in
revealing attire. This was particularly true with Jacqueline Onassis who was stalked by photographers waiting for a bikini
shot when she thought she was sunbathing in privacy. The same is true today of Princess Diana of England. Recently a
photographer who managed to get a photograph of the princess in a bathing suit on a private yacht sold it for $135,000.
This amount indicates that there are thousands of pseudo-voyeurs who find pleasure in getting a glimpse of the forbidden
or the innocent. The embarrassment or outrage of the victim makes it all the more appealing.

(See also EXHIBITIONISM, ILLEGAL SEX and SCOPOPHILIA)

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WEDDINGS Weddings, as we know them, have evolved in the last few hundred years. Marriage between two parties was
generally carried out with a simple vow. The eventual involvement of a priest seems to have arisen from the practice of
the couple going to church to say a Bride Mass after their vows. The couple often waited in front of the church for their
friends, said their vows, and then entered the church. G. Rattray Taylor explained that “[i]t was only in the tenth century
that the priest took to supervising the marriage at the door, and not until the sixteenth that it became obligatory to
conduct the whole of the ceremony inside the church” (Sex in History, p. 28 as quoted from A History of Matrimonial
Institutions by G.E. Howard). Marriage without the participation of a priest was later condemned as illegal by the Church.
Taylor described a sample European wedding:

The bridal procession would set out from the house of the bride’s father: first, the bride, accompanied perhaps by two
pages, ... Next would come the musicians, fiddling and blowing, then a group of maidens. These would all be dressed in the
same way as the bride, in order to confuse any demons... some of the bridesmaids would be carrying... wheat sheaves on
their heads—symbols of fertility and memories of Ceres... At nightfall there would be a banquet and dancing at the house
of the bride’s father ... The married couple retire with their friends... Next comes the ceremony of throwing the stocking...
Now appears the priest, and the benediction posset ... blesses the bed, sprinkling holy water on the couple and censing the
room, to dispel the demons who will undoubtedly be attracted by the performance of the sexual act (Sex in History by G.
Rattray Taylor, pp. 29-30).

Other cultures dictated that the bride had sex with someone else prior to the husband. (See section on Virgins) The
Nasamonian custom even required that all the wedding guests take their turn deflowering the bride (The Mothers, by R.
Briffault, MacMillan Publishing).

According to Reader’s Digest’s Stories Behind Everyday Things the wearing of white wedding gowns originally signified
joy, not chastity, and for brides among other cultures colors such as red, green, or black are common. The wedding rings
were a symbol of purchase for some cultures. The designation of the third finger “probably comes from the ancient
Greeks. Their first, faulty dissections of the human body led them to believe that a particular vein, the vena amoris, ran
from that finger straight to the heart” (pp. 216-217).

Most of our other customs such as carrying a bride over the threshold, the honeymoon period, throwing things at the
bride and groom, are remnants of bride capture, which existed in some parts of Europe until the early 20th century.

Many people today have arranged weddings that were more intriguing than normal church weddings, incorporating their
favorite sport or activity into the ceremony. Couples take their vows while skydiving or in helicopters. Those in the S/M
community have weddings where the partner who is to be submissive displays this by enduring a whipping or performing
some other servile act. They may both have genital piercings done to signify their bond to each other. One male couple
threw an S/M play party during which they gathered the group around and took their vows. They were both dressed in
American Indian fantasy wear, and as a symbol of their bond the dominant cut the ponytail off his partner to keep as a
memento in his medicine bag.

A different couple of which one was a female bi-sexual and the other a post-surgical male transsexual decided to have
two ceremonies. In the first one the groom dressed according to custom and the bride wore a gown. The second
ceremony was conducted with both of them dressed in wedding gowns.

(See also MARRIAGE)

WEIGHT TRAINING Weight training refers to sex games where weights are hung from the nipples, genitals, or a piercing.

An eighteenth century writer, Andre Andrea de Nerciat, in his book Aphrodite, wrote of a male character being tested by
having a 150 pound weight hung upon his tumescent organ “which he easily carried for three minutes.” This seems an
unlikely feat and if Nerciat based this on reality it was probably from torture techniques conducted in prisons or during
the Inquisition which did include hanging people by their genitals from the ceiling.

Small weights hung on the glans are used today by some Eastern mystics to negate the function of their penis. Some have
been stretched to hang between the knees and are worn rolled up against the body.
Clamps are often attached to each nipple and small weights are gradually added to increase the sensation. This will be
more painful than merely using the clamps alone. Those who engage in this activity put the clamps and weights on
themselves before using them on others.

Labia, penis, or scrotal weights are used in the same manner as those on nipples. Weights are used to pull the testicles
down as a method to delay orgasm. Others use them as a test of endurance. The Chicago Hell Fire Club had a national
contest to see who could hold the most weight hung on the testicles. Five pound weights were added at intervals as the
men bent their knees to have them applied. Three men tied for first place with 85 pounds each; none were willing to
become sole champion by allowing the last five pounds to be added.

Weights are also hung from piercings. This is done both from permanent piercings that have jewelry inserted and from
temporary piercings where the weight is attached to a suture, a fish hook, or the needle itself. This type of weight play
would include lacing, bell dancing, or Sun dancing (an American Indian ritual where a man is pierced through the muscles
of the upper chest with a stick and hung by strings from a tree limb until the stick breaks). CAUTION: Sterilization
techniques are used any time the skin is broken in weight training. Too much weight on the testicles can do serious
damage.

(See also BINDING, BONDAGE, STRETCHING and TORTURE)

WHITE SLAVERY White slavery refers to the enticement or abduction of white women to work as prostitutes in foreign
countries. Today the term is also used for women of any race that are transported to other countries (including the
United States) under false pretenses and used for prostitution. These usually go through a training or breaking period
where they are taught fellatio, anal sex or other sexual variations which will earn a higher fee. Those who refused to
cooperate were sometimes starved to death. Foreign women were preferred by procurers because these were easier to
exploit since the girls rarely spoke the language of the country and had no friends or money with which to escape.

A late 19th century racket run by a madame from China involved hiring young female actresses and singers, particularly
those who had discreetly supplemented their income with part-time prostitution. Several women would be offered the
chance to tour other countries with a musical company and even went through rehearsals and a couple of engagements
in other countries before being left stranded without money in China. The madame, who was originally from America,
would accidently happen upon them in their hotel and befriend them. Eventually, as a favor she would offer them a
temporary job in her establishment to earn money with which to buy a return ticket. Most were stricken with syphilis
before they could make it home and died in China.

Women were easier to get into other countries by deceit because if they knew their fate it was difficult to keep them
quiet while aboard ships or through customs. A girl who thought she was to have a better life was much more willing to
cooperate by lying to government agents or sneaking through barriers. Women, even after realizing their fate, did not all
submit. Some where tortured to death because of this. One of the more recent cases of brutality occurred in 1964 in
Mexico, where three sisters were convicted of running a sex slave service. “Girls were abducted—and then branded on
the thigh or the breast with a red-hot iron; then they were locked up for months in tiny cells to break their spirits. When
the girls were thought ready—through starvation, beating, and gross sexual exploitation—to satisfy any brothel
frequenter, they were sold to establishments in Mexico or elsewhere. Some girls were beaten to death; one was burned
alive; some were buried or tied to a bed by means of barbed wire” (The Illustrated Book of Sexual Records, by G. L.
Simons, p. 102).
The other type of white slavery took place during the 19th century in America. African slaves had been so interbred with
white blood that many had red or blond hair and blue eyes. An instance of two of these was cited by J. A. Rogers:

Tower describes the sale of a slave who was “whiter than many, nay, than most of the Anglo-Saxon ladies, of medium size,
well-developed, beautiful black hair, black and sparkling eyes. The auctioneer cries, ‘Why gentlemen, she is fair enough to
become the sweetheart of a governor,’ then rudely drawing the covering from her neck and shoulders, he exhibited a bust
as plump and purely white as the snow-tinged image of Venus”...Rev. Calvin Fairbank describes the sale of a slave-girl in
Montgomery County, Kentucky, thus: “He turned his victim’s profile to that excited crowd and lifting her skirts laid bare
the beautiful symmetrical body from her feet to her waist and with his brutal sacrilegious hand smote the white flesh,
exclaiming, ‘Ah, gentlemen, who is going to be the winner of this prize?’ The girl was one-sixty-fourth Negro” (Slavery
Unmasked by P. Tower, p. 307(1856) and How the Way was Prepared by C. Fairbank, p. 30(1890); cited in Sex and Race,
pp. 205- 206).

Many of these women were sold to bordellos to work as prostitutes in the South.

The United States as well as other countries are still hosts for sex slaves. Procurers get these women into different
countries by promising them husbands or jobs and leave them at a secured bordello without hope of rescue. CAUTION: If
one can’t succeed at modeling, performing arts, or finding a husband in one’s own country it is not reasonable to think
that there is a better chance in a country where one doesn’t speak the language, doesn’t have business contacts, friends,
or the money to support oneself. Of course, many job offers are legitimate but without a backup plan there is always the
possibility of being victimized.

(See also AUCTIONS, PROSTITUTION and SLAVES)

WIFE SWAPPING (Swinging) Wife swapping is an ancient custom in several cultures. Eskimo men left their wives with a
neighbor when they ventured on hunting trips and during this time she performed wifely duties for the neighbor. This
was an essential custom in a country where a woman and children might not survive weeks of harsh cold alone. The
Chinese, not too long ago, had a custom of renting out their wives when the husband had to be away for several months.
If she got pregnant and delivered a child while being rented it belonged to the man who was renting her. The Chukchee of
North Asia practiced a wife swapping arrangement where if one of the men in a group had to travel or had some other
reason for visiting, the husband would fix him a bed and offer him his wife. These favors were of course later reciprocated
and single men were rarely permitted this hospitality. Other cultures engaging in formalized wife-swapping included
certain African tribes, natives of Hawaii, and Tibet. Many ancient cultures had religious holidays where wife swapping or
promiscuity were one of the featured attractions for the devoted worshippers.

American soldiers in World War II just after the siege on Germany are reported to have played a game of musical beds
with local women who exchanged sex for food. Each soldier started with a woman and then upon cue the women would
change beds in the dark and after a while the lights would come back on so that couples could see with whom they were
having sex.

Today wife swappers have several options available to make the experience more enjoyable. Swingers have sail boats and
yachts that are chartered for private parties. Groups reserve blocks of rooms on regular cruise ships. Of course, here,
clothing and discretion is no longer optional. Couples lacking their own friends with whom to swap are able to attend
conventions such as Lifestyles that provide opportunities for couples to travel to vacation resorts and meet others with
the same interest.

(See also CANDAULISM and GROUP SEX)

WORKSHOPS There are many sex, intimacy, or relationship workshops available. Esalen Fields in Big Sur teaches people
to accept themselves and others without judgments as do the Stan Dale’s Human Awareness Institute workshops in the
San Francisco area. The Human Awareness Institute workshops also help people work on sexual intimacy and sexual
biases. People attend several levels and have to be prepared to become more and more intimate as they continue the
training.

Karen Mendelsohn, the founder of San Francisco’s QSM, sponsors workshops on various S/M practices. These workshops
include training for bondage, whipping, piercing, and such forms of psychological play as humiliation and interrogation.
QSM offers a multi-part “Introduction to S/M” series to give novices an overview of all forms of S/M play.

There are many other workshops such as tantra, sex magick, group sex, and so forth.

(See also SEX CLUBS, SEX CONFERENCES and SUPPORT GROUPS)

WORSHIP Sex or body worship is more profound than a slave master relationship. The devotee must perform ritualized
acts of worship to their god or goddess. This may be as simple as kneeling and describing the partner’s beauty,
complimenting them on their selection of clothes, or idolizing their body, their breasts, and genitals. Worship can become
more complicated when mixed with ancient rituals. In these scenes an altar is prepared that has a goblet, knife, string,
incense, and red candle. The idolater is to kiss the goddess and drink of her urine from the goblet. She may also smear
blood or feces on a wafer and offer it for him to eat. Those interested in safe sex substitute apple juice and peanut butter
for body fluids. CAUTION: The use of body fluids is not considered a safe sex practice.

(See also DOMINANCE/SUBMISSION, HUMILIATION and MASOCHISM)

WRESTLING (Cratolagnia—arousal from strength, Sthenolagnia—arousa) from displaying strength or muscles)

Wrestling is arousing for both those who prefer . to engage in it themselves and those who watch other people perform.

Personal wrestling is similar to other physical exercising in that it produces adrenalin and creates a more intense level of
pleasure. Hirschfeld cited the case study of a 40 year old Hungarian art dealer whose sole method of inducing orgasm was
to exercise:

I had my first pollution on a train journey at the age of 12 or 13, and I was puzzled and anxious. Soon after I developed the
horizontal bar mania, and I made exercises on it until violent orgasm and ejaculation were induced...between the
twentieth and thirtieth exercise, without manual contact...I did this on average every three days...I attribute my powerful
biceps and chest muscles to this peculiar method of masturbation (Sexual Anomalies and Perversions, by Magnus
Hirschfeld, p. 131).

Most gays and some heterosexuals are able to wrestle with their partners. Those who can’t sometimes hire a prostitute
or a professional dominatrix.

Videos such as Amazon Dancers, Amazon Women and Deadly Amazons feature female body builders and are available
for those who want to watch women in different arrays of dress wrestle men. Male wrestlers can be found on television
or at public matches. Bars sometimes have female mud wrestlers that became popular during the 1970s throughout
portions of the world.

(See also BONDAGE and CAT FIGHTING)

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XENOPHILIA (Xenolimia, Xenodynamic—only potent with strangers) Xenophilia (xeno: stranger; philia: attachment to)
refers to someone who is sexually aroused by strangers. Xenophiles may feel increased passion when meeting new
acquaintances and if they are able to seduce this person they quickly lose interest, i.e. a one-night stand. Others may
frequent bordellos always asking for a different woman or wanting to try women of various nationalities. Some,
otherwise heterosexual men, will take the opportunity that anonymity offers when they travel to experiment with men or
children. J.A. Rogers, a writer who lived for a while in the West Indies said, “so fond were the English sailors of black boys
that whenever the fleet came on its annual visit, the local pharmacists had to lie [sic] in an extra supply of unguents
[lubricants] (Sex and Race, p. 129).

The use of costumes or wigs in sex play provides excitement for many people; however, not everyone is comfortable
having sex incognito and partners should never be coerced into participating.

(See also PARAPHILIAS and PHOBOPHILIA)

YONI WORSHIP The female yoni (genitals) preceded the phallus in being revered because of its power to give life. Stone
carvings of vaginas were discovered to be as ancient as 35,000 B.C.E. The yoni had magical qualities and a woman could
heal the sick or scare away storms and devils by simply exposing her genitals.

The yoni was usually carved in a round stone with three line indentations. Later it took also the form of a horseshoe that
was thought to bring good luck when nailed upside down above one’s doorway.

(See also CHARMS and PHALLOPHILIA)

ZELOPHILIA Zelophilia (zelosus: zeal or jealousy; philia: attachment to) refers to one who becomes aroused by jealousy.
This arousal may be triggered by either partner becoming jealous. Zelophiles who become aroused from their own
jealousy are reacting to the fear of loss and the adrenalin it produces. Some of these people take their lovers to a group
sex house or otherwise put them in situations that will solicit attention from rivals thereby deriving intense sexual arousal
from watching their lover approached or succumb to coitus.

(See also HEDONISM, JEALOUSY, LOVE and PECATTIPHILIA)

ZOOPHILIA Zoophilia involves sex between humans and animals and generally takes many more forms than does sex
between humans. Some of our ancestors felt that sex with animals held a magic power and their gods were able to create
offspring by these sacred unions. Herodotus mentions an ancient Egyptian temple at Mendes where goats were trained
to have sex with both sexes as part of their fertility rituals. Ancient Egyptians also used coitus with female crocodiles to
increase male virility. Certain folk-lore taught that zoophilia was a cure for venereal diseases and it was engaged in for this
reason by some.

It was assumed throughout most of history that offspring could be produced by these unions and many cultures
prohibited the act for this reason. Several males defended themselves after having been caught during the 19th century
by announcing that they practiced coitus interruptus to prevent impregnating the beast. The incidence of zoophilia
between young boys, cows, and sheep became so prevalent during the 17th century that the Catholic Church tried to ban
the employment of male herdsmen. Zoophilia often carried with it the penalty of death for both participants; however,
one exception to this rule was cited by Inge and Sten Hegeler in their book An ABZ of Love. “In 1750, Jacques Ferron
was hanged for having had intercourse with a female donkey. Several respectable citizens (including the abbot of the local
monastery) appeared as witnesses and declared that they had known the donkey for many years and that it had always
behaved itself virtuously and as a good donkey should. The court then acquitted the donkey, declaring that it obviously
must have been raped” (p. 23).

Literature and art include portrayals of zoophilia. Michelangelo painted a scene of Leda and the Swan (Zeus), and
Agostino Carracchi did an engraving titled Satyr and Nymph in 1590 of a half man/goat having explicit intercourse with a
woman. In literature, A Night in a Moorish Harem by Lord George Herbert includes a poetic account of a girl’s sexual
encounter with a stallion:

Mohammed was my favorite stallion. He was more fleet than the wind, and so gentle that he obeyed my slightest word.
He was of a bright wine color and his shape was perfect. His head was small and gracefully set on his arching back. His
brown eyes had almost human intelligence. His limbs were slender, and he walked so proud that he seemed to spurn the
ground.

He came up to me, and after I had fed him from my hand, I spent some time braiding his mane. Then, for want of
something else to do, I thought I would take a bath. A pool where the water gathered from a spring which fed the oasis
made a fine bath. it was shaded by palm trees from the sultry heat which glowed on the surrounding sands. After bathing I
threw myself at length on the short grass and stretched myself lazily on my back at full length.

Mohammed came and stood over me as if for company in our loneliness. I amused myself by making him stand with his
forefeet on either side of my chest. Nothing could have induced him to step on me, not even if a gun had been suddenly
fired. But there was nothing to startle him. We were entirely alone.

Pretty soon—as stallions will when standing in perfect repose—his shaft hung dangling out. In a spirit of mischief I put up
both my feet and took it between them and began rubbing it gently. It gradually stiffened, and its crest hung down
between my thighs and pressed against the lips there. He put his head down and touched my bosoms with his velvety
nostrils. I still continued to rub up and down his shaft. It suddenly shot out, and, stretching my sheath to its greatest
tension, penetrated me to my loins.

I was ravished with the fierce thrill and the stallion’s gushing sperm. It found no room in my distended orifice and spurted
out of it again like a fountain descending over my belly and thighs. Luckily for me, the distance between his loins and mine
was sufficient to prevent anything but the end of his shaft from entering. Otherwise I know not but that it would have
been driven through the length of my body and come out my mouth.

As it was I scrambled out from under him with my lust completely quenched. From my waist to my knees I was dripping
with the stallion’s thick milky sperm. I hastened to wash it off and to bathe and cool my smarting sheath in the pool. For
a long time I had to keep Mohammed away from me with a switch, but I did not strike him hard. I could not bear to hurt
him for the consequences of my own folly.

Regardless of the relationship of religious or civil laws some people have a preference for animal sex partners. Kinsey
reported that as many as 17% of boys raised on farms have had at least one sexual encounter with an animal. The
percentage for zoophilia in the general population was reported as 8% for males and 3% for females.

One San Francisco prostitute who publicly performed coitus with a Newfoundland dog on stage stated that any woman
who had experienced sex with a dog would never again be satisfied with a man. (The sexual preference for a dog is called
cynophilia.)

A sheepherder in South Africa evidently became so proficient that he devised a technique whereby he cut two holes at
the bottom of his jacket in which to insert the hind legs of sheep to anchor them in place for coitus. He quite willingly
offered this advice to anyone at the local town tavern. The other popular sex position with sheep was to place each of the
sheep’s hind feet into the man’s boot. True animal lovers will tell you that pigs are preferred over sheep because they are
much more willing partners.

Mexican border towns were once famous for their donkey shows. A prostitute would allow a donkey to penetrate her
vagina while on stage and a red ribbon was then placed on the penis marking the length she was able to take in. Other
prostitutes would then take their turn to see if they could break the record.

The act of zoophilia usually involves a person manually masturbating the animal, having mouth to genital (zoofellatio),
penis to anus, or penis to vagina contact. The animals used are generally dogs, horses, donkeys, cows, deer, sheep, pigs,
gerbils, snakes, turkeys, chickens, and geese. Snails or insects are used for sensory enhancement in either masturbation
or bondage games. The genital anatomy of some of these animals are depicted in the following drawings:
 

The various types of zoophilia have been divided into the following categories:

ANDROZOONS Androzoons are male animals that are trained for sex with humans. Animals trained for men are
gynezoons. Many are only trained for oral sex (zoolinction) and this is done by putting their favorite food on a person’s
genitals. There are also professionals who train androzoons for other individuals.

Two thousand years ago androzoons were used in the Constantinople Amphitheater to rape and sometimes kill victims
for the amusement of the crowds. The most common were apes, bulls, cheetahs, dogs, giraffes, wild boars, and zebras.
Theodora, the daughter of one of these trainers, married the Roman Emperor Justinian. She evidently trained some of her
own animals as she was notorious for a stage performance in which she laid on her back with her legs raised and her
genitals facing the audience. Theodora’s assistants would then drop kernels or grain into her open vagina. Her trained
geese were then allowed to come onto the stage and pick the kernels out with their beaks (Perverse Crimes in History, p.
49).

Sex with animals is not always consensual. One Englishman was convicted of sodomy and indecent assault because he
repeatedly forced his wife into coitus with his dog. There are also rumors of men wrapping gerbils with duct tape and
penetrating them anally. CAUTION: Animals used for this purpose tend to be embarrassing as they lack discretion as to
who or when they mount.

AVISODOMY Avisodomy (Avis: bird, sodomy: anal sex) is the ancient practice of having sex with a bird. As the man is
about to orgasm he breaks the neck of the bird causing the bird’s cloaca sphincter to constrict and spasm, thus creating
pleasurable sensations for the man. The ancient Chinese used geese for this purpose and the Parisian brothels provided
turkeys for their clients. Chickens are used on farms by a few young men today in the United States for this purpose. A
portion of the stimuli for a few may be due to the feeling of power derived when killing the bird.

BESTIALSADISM Bestialsadism includes people who derive sexual pleasure from torturing or mutilating animals. For
example, one San Francisco man shot a wild pig while hunting, chased away the dogs, and had sex with the dead animal.
He then returned to his campsite with the animal and repeated the performance for two of the women in the group while
they took photos. (Personal communication.) Many lust murderers and anthrophagists, some at a young age, begin
torturing animals before moving on to human victims. The animal is hurt or mutilated while the person masturbates or
has intercourse with it. Others do not harm animals themselves but orgasm when they witness fowls being killed by cooks
or by coachmen lashing their horses. There were also men who once hired prostitutes to torture and kill animals while
they watched. Professional counseling by a therapist is important if this occurs during childhood. Young children can
transfer the anger they feel to animals, just as their fear of parents can manifest itself as a phobia of insects, heights,
animals, etc. The common mishandling of animals by inexperienced children should not be confused with deliberate
infliction of pain, injury, or death. Nor is avisodomy to be included as bestialsadism, the reason being that the killing of
the bird was not out of anger, but rather for sexual pleasure.
Sexual arousal is caused by the release of specific chemicals in the brain. These are already heightened due to the anger
that triggers the act, and intensified even more from revenge, fear of being caught, and vicarious anxiety from seeing
pain, blood, or death. This combination creates sexual arousal for many people. Refer to the sections titled Masochism,
Sadism, and Paraphilias for a more complete discussion of this phenomenon.

EROTICA Bestial erotica is used by those who become sexually aroused by the sight of mating animals. ‘I’he person may
actually be repulsed by the sight but later will become aroused to the point of masturbation. One such case was a nun
who became so aroused by the sight of two flies in sexual union that each time she felt compelled to masturbate. She
estimated this as having happened over 400 times (Studies in the Psychology of Sex, by Havelock Ellis, 1900, Vol. I, p. 73).

Some children or people become fascinated at the sight of a male animal ejaculating and will sometimes take an active
role by masturbating the animal themselves. These people generally have no intention of having coitus with the animal
themselves.

Bestial erotica and fantasies that include animals are common and have no apparent harmful effects.

FELCHING Fetching (fellah: to plow or fell: fierce, cruel, causing death, animal’s hide) is the act of inserting a live animal
into the anus or vagina for the purpose of receiving sexual pleasure from their body movements. helching is done with
gerbils, rodents, or fish.

Some of the Ponape men of the Croline Islands insert a fish into a woman’s vagina and then slowly lick it out as a form of
foreplay. (Patterns of Sexual Behavior, by C. Ford and F. Beach, p. 51 )

Remains of small rodents have been found in the lower intestines and rectums of cadavers during autopsies. (Personal
communication with student at the University of California at Davis.) These animals are said to have been placed into a
plastic bag or condom and inserted into the anus after it has been stretched. The bagged gerbil is put into a lubricated
toilet paper roll which is pushed into the rectum and at the right moment the empty roll is yanked out leaving the gerbil
and bag inside. (Personal communication.) CAUTION: This form of fetching is extremely dangerous. The rectal wall is very
thin and can tear easily. It may lead to peritonitis and death.

FORMICOPHILIA (Entomocism—insects) Formicophilia (formica: ant; philia: attachment to) refers to the use of insects for
Sexual purposes. Ants, flies, or insects are used to crawl over the genitals or other portion of the body.

People use insects to tickle, to induce fear, inflict pain, or to create a sensuous feeling. Bugs are either attracted to a
specific area by the use of honey or are placed in a jar and held over a certain part of the body.

Cleopatra is said to have had a small box that could be filled with bees and placed against her genitals for a stimulation
similar to that of vibrators. A few young men have been known to remove the wings of a fly, submerge themselves in
bath water, and then allowing their penis to stick out of the water, put the fly on it to crawl around. (Personal
communication).

People who use fear select the type of insect that frightens or disgusts their partner. This insect is allowed merely to crawl
over the victim’s body which causes a rush of adrenalin that is later transferred to sexual passion for their partner.

Others are only interested in the stinging or pain that can be inflicted by insects. American Indians, Asians, and others
used insects in torturing captives. Today some governments still advocate interrogation that includes insect torture. One
such method is the stripping of a prisoner and staking him to the ground where hundreds of ants will bite him. Another is
to put ants, mosquitos, biting flies, wasps, or bees in a jar and hold the open end against his nipples, armpits, and genitals
(Physical Interrogation Techniques by Richard W. Krousher, p. 88). A slightly different torture technique is called the
“Bath of Flies” and requires the prisoner to be blindfolded and bound with their wrists above their head and their feet
together. They are next rubbed with honey or other sweet smelling liquid with special attention being given the mouth,
armpits, ears, genitals, and anus. This attracts flying insects and will supposedly cause insanity if done for over a couple of
hours. A few use stinging insects for sex play. One man would lie on the grass in his back yard during the summer and
have ants crawl over his body becoming sexually aroused as they began to bite. Another captures bees in a glass jar, puts
each on his penis just below the glans, and holds them there until they sting. (See BEE STINGS)

NECROBESTIALISM Necrobestialism (Necro: death, bestial: animals, act of) refers to those people who are sexually
aroused by having sex with dead animals. This may include the bestialsadist who kills the animal before or during the
torture, as well as those who choose to have sex with animals they already find dead. The Suaheli and Arabian fisherman
along the coast of Africa until a hundred years ago believed that unless they had anal sex with the sea-cows that they
netted or that had washed up dead they would be dragged out to sea the next day and drowned by the seacow’s dead
sister. Many locals would therefore make these fishermen swear by the Koran that they did not have sex with the seacow
they were selling at the local market.

OPHIDICISM Ophidicism (ophidi: serpent; ism: act) refers to those who use snakes for sexual pleasure. Snakes were used
by women throughout history as sexual companions and vaginal inserts. (See separate section on OPHIDICISM.)

PSEUDOZOOPHILIA Pseudozoophilia (Pseudo: pretended, zoo: animal, philia: attachment to) refers to sexual fantasy
games where a partner plays the role of an animal.

The Roman emperor Nero would play a game where he dressed in skins of wild animals and then attacked the genitals of
people who had been bound to stakes. Tiberius had young boys trained to swim after him and come up underwater to
suck and nibble at his genitals. He called them his “minnows.” He also had an island where he kept young men and
women who roamed the woods and pretended to be nymphs and satyrs. An Egyptian, Ali Goher, played a game where his
friends would squat, cackle, and lay eggs by sleight of hand. He would then yell, “Hello hens, here’s your cock” as he
began his orgy of anal sex (Perverse Crimes in History, p. 196).

Coitus à cheval is played by having one partner pretend to be a horse, dress up and have the other ride them. (See
COITUS A CHEVAL) Sex slaves sometimes take the role of a pet dog and are made to wear a leash, eat and drink out of dog
dishes, fetch newspapers, lick genitals, be toilet trained (house broken), etc.

Some people make animal noises during sex, and others wear a mask or sometimes use a partner they find unattractive
and pretend they are an animal. Stuffed animals, masks, and puppets are likewise used for fellatio or masturbation in sex
games. One of San Francisco’s leather bars has an event called the S/M Circus where people dress as different exotic
animals and are taught to perform the same as their animal counterparts. One lion tamer was brave enough to put his
head in the mouth of his large cats. The audience didn’t get to see the actual event because he turned his back to them
and spread his cape around the two squatting beasts. CAUTION: There are infections or diseases that one must consider
including rabies (rare), certain types of blood poisoning, parasites, bites, and fleas. Some androzoons scratch their
partner’s back which could lead to infection. Another risk worth considering for men is that a female dog’s vagina will
constrict and lock the penis in position during coitus. One man was reported as having gone to an emergency room, with
dog intact, to have the staff inject the dog with a muscle relaxant so that he could withdraw his penis. One boy in
Nebraska, while having a dog engage in rectal entry, was injured enough during withdrawal to need stitches (Omaha
Clinic, March 1893). A donkey caused the death of his female partner in Chicago by falling on her, and other women have
received vaginal lacerations from being unable to free themselves of the dog’s swollen penis. One woman died from
hemorrhaging after someone walked into the room and startled the dog, causing it to tear the vaginal vault trying to free
himself. Sex with a partner that has little intelligence, superior strength, and who panics easily is risky (Studies in the
Psychology of Sex, by Havelock Ellis).

(See also BEE STINGS, FORMICOPHILIA and OPHIDICISM)

 GLOSSARY OF TERMS
 

Abduction: to kidnap or carry a person away by force, also used in sex play

Abrasions: scratching or rubbing off skin

Abstinence: celibacy

Acmegenesis: orgasm

Acomoclitic: preference for hairless genitals

Acousticophilia: arousal from sounds

Acrophilia: arousal from heights or high altitudes

Acrotomophilia: sexual preference for amputees

Actirasty: arousal from exposure to sun’s rays

Acucullophallia: circumcision

Acupressure: pressure points on body that induce certain responses, some sexual

Adolescentilism: cross-dressing or playing the role of an adolescent

Adultery: having sex outside a marriage

Agalmatophilia: arousal from statues or manikins; also called pygmalionism

Agenobiosis: married couple who consent to live together without sex

Agonophilia: person who is aroused by partner pretending to struggle

Agoraphilia: arousal from open spaces or having sex in public

Agrexophilia: arousal from others knowing you are having sex

Albutophilia: arousal from water

Algophilia: arousal from experiencing pain

Aliphineur: person using lotion to arouse partner

Alloerasty: use of nudity of another person to arouse partner

Allopellia: having orgasm from watching others engaging in sex

Allorgasmia: arousal from fantasizing about someone other than one’s partner

Allotriorasty: arousal from partners of other nations or races

Alphamegamia: arousal from partner of different age group

Altocalciphilia: high heel fetish

Alvinolagnia: stomach fetish

Amatripsis: masturbation by rubbing labia together

Amaurophilia: preference for a blind or blindfolded sex partner

Amomaxia: sex in a parked car

Ambisexual: bi-sexual
Amelotasis: attraction to absence of limb

Amelotation: loss of a limb

Amokoscisia: arousal or sexual frenzy with desire to slash or mutilate women

Amphisexual: bi-sexual

Amychesis: act of scratching partner during sexual passion

Anaclitism: arousal from items used as infant

Analinctus: licking anus

Analingus: rimming or penetration of anus with tongue

Anasteemaphilia: attraction to taller or shorter partners

Androgyny: having both male & female characteristics

Androgynophilia: bi-sexual

Androidism: arousal from robots with human features

Andromania: nymphomania

Androminetophilia: arousal from female partner who dresses like male

Androsodomy: anal sex with a male partner

Anililagnia: arousal from older female sex partner

Anisonogamist: attraction to either older or younger partner

Anocratism: anal sex

Amomaxia: sex in parked car

Anomeatia: anal sex with a female partner

Anophelorastia: arousal from defiling or ravaging a partner

Anophilemia: kissing anus

Anoraptus: rapist who only attacks elderly women

Antholagnia: arousal from smelling flowers

Anthropomorphism: attributing human characteristics to half-human half-animal characters

Anthropophagolagnia: rape with cannibalism

Anthropophagy: cannibalism

Apellous: circumcision

Aphallatia: celibacy

Aphrodisiacs: drugs stimulating a sexual response

Apistia: adultery

Apotemnophilia: person who has sexual fantasies about loosing a limb

Arachnephilia: arousal from spiders

Arrhenothigmophilous: nymphomania
Arsometry: anal sex

Artificial insemination: deposit of sperm into the vagina by methods other than male penetration of the vagina

Asceticism: religious self-denial often including celibacy

Asphyxiaphilia: arousal from lack of oxygen

Asthenolagnia: arousal from weakness or being humiliated

Astyphia: impotence

Asynodia: celibacy particularly due to impotence

Auctions: public sale with item or sex slave going to highest bidder

Autagonistophilia: exhibitionism, arousal from exposing naked body or genitals to strangers while on stage or while being
photographed

Autassassinophilia: arousal from orchestrating one’s own death by the hands of another

Autoerotic Asphyxia: arousal from oxygen deprivation and sometimes risk of dying

Autogynephilia: arousal from crossdressing

Automasochism: arousal from inflicting intense sensations or pain on one’s own body

Autoerotica: self induced arousal (i.e. fantasies or other aids)

Automysophilia: arousal from being dirty or defiled

Autonepiophilia: infantilism; arousal from dressing or being treated like infant

Autopederasty: person inserting their own penis into their anus

Autophagy: self-cannibalism or eating own flesh

Autosadism: infliction of pain or injury on oneself

Avisodomy: breaking neck of bird while penetrating it for sex

Axillism: penis penetrating an arm pit

Ball dancing: bell dancing; self flagellation by hanging fruit from hooks in skin

Bardajes: young gay male lover

Barosmia: arousal from smell

Basoexia: arousal from kissing

Bath house: commercial baths, some of which allow sex on premises

Bed of Nails: lying on a bed of nails for sensory enhancement

Bee stings: the use of bees, such as to sting genitals

Bell dancing: self-flagellation with bells or other ornaments hanging the skin

Belonephilia: arousal from use of needles

Bestiality: zoophilia; sex with animals

Bestialsadism: cruelty or mutilation of animals

Bi-Sexuality: people with sexual attraction for both sexes

Biastophilia: those preferring to violently rape their victims

Bigynist: sex between one male and two females

Bihari surgery: cutting ligament above penis to make it appear longer

Bindings: wrapping feet or genitals with string or lace

Bivirist: sex between one female and two males

Blastolagnia: person aroused by young females

Blindfolding: covering the eyes

Blood Sports: sex games which involve blood Borderline self-mutilator: automasochism

Body Painting: temporary designs drawn on body

Body Worship: sex game where partner is made to adore another’s body

Bondage: physical or mental restriction of partner

Bordellos: houses of prostitution

Bottom: passive partner who experiences stimuli during sex games, masochist, slave, submissive

Botulinonia: using a sausage as a dildo

Bouginonia: female masturbation from the use of objects such as dildos that stretch open the vagina

Brachioprotic eroticism: a deep form of fisting where the arm enters the anus

Bradycubia: slow movement during penetration

Branding: burning patterns or initials into flesh

Buggery: anal sex

Bundling: partners sleeping together clothed and without sex

Bushie Mall: agoraphilia; sex in an open area

Butt plugs: anal inserts used for masturbation

Candaulism: spouse who watches partner having sex with someone else

Caning: whipping that uses a switch or cane to discipline partner

Capnolagnia: arousal from watching others smoke

Castration: removal of the scrotum, testicles, ovaries, or penis

Cat Fighting: women fighting without rules and often tearing off each other’s clothing

Catamites: young gay male lovers

Cataphilist: male submitting to female

Catatasis: stretching of the penis

Catheters: insertion of plastic tube into urethra

Catheterophilia: arousal from use of catheters

Celibacy: abstinence from sex

Chaperon: person who escorts a young couple to ensure they don’t engage in sex
Charms: objects used to bring good luck and ward off evil

Chastity: sexual abstinence

Chastity Belts: leather or metal belts used to prevent genital penetration

Chemise Cagoule: long heavy night shirt with hole for penis

Chezolagnia: masturbating while defecating

Chipil: Couvade syndrome

Choreophilia: dancing to orgasmic release

Chrematistophilia: person aroused by having to pay for sex or having sex partner steal from them (see also harpaxophilia)

Chronophilia: arousal from passage of time; arousal from older partner

Chubby Chasers: people who are aroused by obesity in partner

Cicatrization: scarring

Circumcision: the removal of foreskin on genitals

Clamps: metal, plastic, or wood fasteners used on nipples or genitals

Claustrophilia: arousal from being confined in small space

Clitoridectomy: surgical removal of the clitoris

Clitorilingus: licking a clitoris

Clitoromania: nymphomania

Cock Rings: rings placed around the base of the male genitals to maintain erections

Cocktails: drinking of body secretions from a glass

Coitobalnism: sex in a bathtub

Coitolimia: tremendous sexual drive

Coitophobia: fear of sexual intercourse

Coitus: sexual penetration with orgasm

Coitus analis: anal sex

Coitus a Cheval: couple having sex on the back of an animal or one acting out role of horse

Coitus à Mammilla: penetration of penis between breasts

Coitus à Unda: sex or sex games in water

Coitus Intrafermoris: penetration between legs

Coitus reservatus: birth control method where male withdraws penis before ejaculation

Colobosis: mutilation or castration of penis

Condoms: latex or animal intestine used as shield to guard against skin-to-skin contact with partner’s genitals

Constrictions: bondage using rows of strings

Compulsive cruising: compulsive search for sex partners

Computer sex: the use of computers for sex games, communication, and erotic photography
Commasculation: homosexuality

Concubinage: use of female slaves as sex partners; living with sex partner without being married

Confessions: admitting a sin; in some cases to arouse potential partner

Coprography: writing obscene words or phrases, usually in public toilets

Coprolagnia: arousal from feces

Coprolalia: arousal from using obscene language or writing

Coprophagy: the consumption of feces

Coprophilia: arousal from playing with feces, also called scat

Coproscopist: arousal from watching a person defecate

Corephallism: anal sex with young girl

Corsetting: body modification or oxygen restriction from using corsets

Corvus: fellatio

Costumes: the use of costumes in sexual fantasy play

Courtesans: the mistress of a king or nobleman

Courtship: the period before marriage where a person tries to entice the other into a commitment

Couvade: custom where male mimics child birth or is confined at time of wife’s delivery

Couvade syndrome: a male who experiences symptoms of pregnancy in sympathy for wife

Cratolagnia: arousal from strength of partner

Cross dressing: a person who wears the apparel of the opposite sex

Crurofact: leg fetish

Cryptoscopophilia: desire to see behavior of others in privacy of their home, not necessarily sexual

Cuckoldry: a man whose wife has sex or becomes impregnated by a man other than himself

Cunnilalia: to talk about female genitals

Cunnilingus: oral sex on a woman

Cupping: drawing blood to the surface of skin by placing heated glass jars onto the skin

Cutting: cicatrization, or scarring of skin for sexual purposes

Cyesolagnia: pregnant woman fetish

Cymbalism: lesbianism

Cynophilia: arousal from sex with dogs

Cyprieunia: sex with a prostitute

D’Eon, Chevalier: French cross-dresser from whom the term “Eonism” is derived

Dacnolagnomania: lust murder

Dacrylagnia: arousal from seeing tears in the eyes of a partner

Dacryphilia: person who is aroused by seeing their partner cry

Dame de voyage: dolls designed for genital penetration, often used by sailors

Danse du ventre: erotic or fertility dancing; belly dance

Dating services: agencies arranging for strangers to meet each other, usually for a fee

Day belts: chastity device used for short day excursions

De Clerambault’s syndrome: erotomania

Defecolagnia: arousal from defecation

Defilement: arousal from partner or self becoming dirty or wet

Deliberate self-harm syndrome: automasochism

Dendrophilia: arousal from tree or fertility worship of them

Depilation: shaving, waxing, or other type of hair removal

Dermagraphism: marks left on the skin of a partner by biting, scratching or sucking

Dermaphilia: doraphilia; sexual stimulus from skin

Deviance: paraphilia; practice that deviates from the majority of society

Dildos and Plugs: instruments used for genital penetration

Dippoldism: sexual arousal from abusing children

Discipline: punishment and control of a partner in sex play

Diseases (STD or VD): sexually transmitted diseases, also called venereal diseases

Divertissement: paraphilia

Docking: slipping one partner’s foreskin over the glans penis of another

Dogging: couples who engage in sex in their car while others watch from outside

Doleros: algophilia; arousal from pain

Dominance/Submission: power exchange between partners

Doraphilia: arousal from animal fur, leather, or skin

Douches: rinsing out the anus or vagina with liquids

Dowry: sum of money or goods paid to parents of future husband or wife

Drag queens: gay men who dress in female attire

Dungeons: rooms that are decorated for SM play

Dysfunctions: physical disorders relating to sex

Dysmorphophilia: arousal from deformed or physically impaired partners

Ecdemolagnia: arousal from traveling or being away from home

Ecdyosis: arousal from removing clothes in front of others

Ecorchement: flagellation

Ecouteurism: listening to others having sex without consent

Ederacinism: to tear out sex organs by the roots as in a frenzy or to punish oneself for sexual cravings
Ejaculation praecox: premature ejaculation

Electric Shock: using electric shock for sensory enhancement

Electrophilia: arousal from electrical stimulus

Electrolysis: an electrical method of removing hair

Elopement: hasty and clandestine marriage without consent of family members

Emetophilia: Roman shower; arousal from vomit

Endytolagnia: arousal only from partners who are clothed

Endytophilia: arousal only from partners who are clothed

Enema: the insertion and expulsion of fluids into the anus

Enema cocktail: drinking purged contents of enema

Entomocism: the use of insects

Entomophilia: arousal from insects or using them in sex play

Eonism: crossdressing

Eopareunia: engaging in sex while young

Ephebophilia: attraction to adolescent sex partner

Episioclisia: suturing of the labia majora; infibulation

Eproctolagniac: person aroused by flatulence

Eproctophilia: arousal from flatulence

Erotica: sexual literature and photos

Erotographomania: arousal from writing love poems or letters

Erotomania: people who develop an unreasonable love of a stranger or person not interested in them

Erotophobia: fear of sexual love

Erotophonophilia: lust murder

Essayeurs: men who were hired by bordellos to become sexual with women so that timid clients would follow their lead

Eugenics: belief that only the fittest should impregnate women

Eunuchs: castrated men

Executions: a legal death sentence, some people become aroused by watching executions

Exhibitionism: exposing body to inappropriate and nonconsenting people for arousal

Exmuliebrate: castration

Exophilia: neophilia. fetish for the unusual or bizarre

Fainting: passing out or losing consciousness

Famulus: slaves, family

Fantasy: mental image or illusion, sometimes sexual

Fantasy Play: acting out sexual fantasies

Felching: sucking semen out of vagina or anus; or inserting animals into anus or vagina

Fellatio: oral sex on a male

Female impersonators: men who dress in women’s clothing. often for pay

Fetishes: an object that replaces people as primary object of love

Fibula: bar that runs through foreskin of male and attaches to semi-circle device, used by Romans to prevent intercourse

Ficaro: bordello

Fisting : inserting a fist or hand into the vagina or anus

Flagellation: striking a person with an object

Flatulence: passing gas from bowels

Flatuphilia: arousal from having partner pass gas

Flirting: pretending to have affection tor another person

Floating hog ranches: boats used to transport prostitutes to the Western U.S. and from which they conducted business in
route

Florentine girdle: chastity belt

Flower boats: Chinese boats used for prostitution

Foot binding: the wrapping of feet. done by Chinese and others

Fool fetish: podophilia

Formicophilia: zoophilia; sex play with ants (see also Entomophilia)

Fornicatory Dolls: plastic blow up. rubber, or mechanical dolls used for penetration

Fratrilagnia: arousal from having sex with one’s brother

Frottage: rubbing body against partner or object for arousal

Furor uterinus: nymphomania

Furtling: the use of fingers underneath cut-outs in genital areas of photos for arousal

Galateism: agalmatophilia; sexual attraction to statues

Gamahucheur: cunnilingus

Gamophobia: fear of marriage

Gang Bangs: sex with a series of waiting partners Gay: person who prefers same sex lover

Geishas : Japanese women used as social companions

Gemellus: testicles

Gendermap: “A developmental representation or template synchronously in the mind and brain depieting the details of
one’s G-I/R. It includes the lovemap but is larger, insofar as it incorporates whatever is gender coded vocationally,
educationallv, recreationally, sartorially, and legally as well as in matters of etiquette, grooming, body language. and vocal
intonation.” (John Money)

Genitals: sex organs of either male or female (penis, testicles, scrotum, clitoris, vagina. G-spot. cervix. etc.)

Gendoloma: the use of sexual fantasies to hasten orgasm

Genofact: genital fetish

Genuphallation: insertion of penis between the knees of a partner

Gerontophilia: attraction to a partner whose age is that of different generation

Girdle of Venus: chastity belt

Glory holes: a hole in a partition that allows a person on the other side to engage in sexual activity

Goddess Worship: a toilet scene using Witchcraft rituals

Godemiche: dildo in the shape of a penis with scrotum used for masturbation

Golden enemas and Douches: urine deposited into anus or vagina

Golden showers: urinating onto a partner’s body

Gomphipothic: arousal by the sight of teeth

Gonads: testicles

Graophilia: arousal from older female partner

Graffiti: drawing or inscription on public walls, sometimes sexual; coprography

Graphelagnia: arousal from photographs of nudity or sex

Green bower: motels or establishments that catered to short-term rentals of rooms by couples to be used for sex

Gregomulcia: arousal from being fondled in a crowd

Groping: feeling of unknown or unidentified person in boxes, suits, etc.

Group Sex: sex with more than one partner or in close proximity of others

Groupies: erotomania; people who are devoted to or who follow celebrities

Gymnocryptosis: females talking about sex life of husbands

Gymnophilia: arousal from nudity

Gynandromorphous: hermaphrodite

Gynecaeum: area where Greeks kept wives at home and separated from other men

Gynecomania: compulsive desire for female sex partners

Gynecozygous: lesbians

Gynelophilous: arousal from pubic hair

Gynelophism: scalping hair on pubic area, usually done by lust murders

Gynemimesis: male-to-female cross dressing

Gynemimetophilia: person aroused by a male impersonating a female

Gynephonia: effeminate voice

Gynonudomanic: compulsion to rip clothes off others

-gyny: female or having female organs

Handkerchief Codes: color codes to identify sexual preferences

Haptosis: non-consensual sexual touching

Harem: area where Arabs kept wives at home and separated from others
Harem effect: lesbianism

Harlotry: prostitution

Harmatophobia: fear of sexual incompetence or making a mistake

Harmatophilia: arousal from sexual incompetence or mistakes, usually in female partner

Harnesses: body harnesses used in suspension or penis restriction

Harpaxophilia: arousal from being robbed or burglarized

Hebephilia: men aroused by teenage boys

Hedonism: act of indulging in pleasure

Hedonophilia: sexual arousal from engaging in pleasurable activity

Hedralingus: licking anus

Hemerotism: daydreaming or fantasizing about sex or nudity

Hemotigolagnia: arousal from bloody sanitary pads

Hermaphrodite: person who has both part female and male genitalia

Hetaerae: the highest class Greek prostitute or female companion

Heterophilia: arousal from members of the opposite sex

Heterosexualism: arousal from members of the opposite sex

Hierophilia: arousal from sacred objects

Hirsutophilia: arousal from armpit hair

Hodophilia: arousal from traveling

Homilophilia: sexual arousal from hearing or giving sermons

Homoeroticism: sexual arousal from person of same sex

Homophilia: sexual arousal from person of same sex

Homophobia: fear of same gender sex partner

Homosexuality: arousal by partners of the same sex

Hot Wax: sex game where hot wax is melted onto partner

Humiliation: degrading partner to establish sexual power

Hybristophilia: love of someone who has committed an outrage

Hygrophilia: arousal from body fluids or moisture

Hymenoclasis: surgical defloration of virgin

Hymenorrhaphy: suturing of the hymen; infibulation

Hymenorrhexis: defloration of hymen

Hyperphilia: compulsive desire for sex

Hyphephilia: arousal from touching skin, hair, leather, fur or fabric

Hypnosis: act that induces a level of sleep

Iantronudia: arousal from exposing oneself to a physician, usually by faking an ailment

-iasis: pathological condition

Iconolagny: arousal from pictures or statues of nude people

Idiosyncrat: compulsive desire for sex

Idrophrodisia: arousal from the odor of perspiration, especially from the genitals

Impotence: the inability to achieve enough tumescence to penetrate a partner with one’s penis

Incest: sex with close family member

Incubus: a spirit who was thought to lie on top of women and have sex while they slept

Infanticide: the practice of killing a newborn child

Infantilism: cross-dressing as a young child for sex play

Infibulation: closing penis/vagina with suture or ring

Inflatable dolls: plastic dolls that are designed for genital penetration

Inspectionism: voyeurism

Insufflation: blowing air into a body cavity

Intergenerational: sex between partners with 20+ years age difference

Interrogation: to ask questions, sometimes under duress

Inunction: anointing or rubbing person with oil or lather

Invert: arousal from person of same sex

Invirility: impotence

Ipserotic: Narcissism

Irrumation: fellatio

Ischolagny: avoidance of women to prevent arousal

-ism: act or abnormal condition classified by prefix (i.e., transvestism)

-ist: person expert in field or adherent of prefix (i.e., sadist)

Iterandria: arousal from person of same sex

Jack gagger: a husband that procures men to pay for sex with his wife

Jactitation: a false boast that causes harm to others, sometimes sexual

Juvenilism: dressing or acting out role of a juvenile, sometimes sexual

Kabbazah Sex: tantra sex, male passive, female active

Karezza Sex: coitus reservatus

Kegel exercises: exercise of the pelvic muscles that control orgasm

Kleptolagnia: arousal from stealing

Kleptomania: compulsion to steal

Kleptophilia: arousal from stealing

Klismaphilia: arousal from enemas

Knismolagnia: arousal from tickling

Kokigami: the wrapping of the penis in a paper costume

Kolpeuryntomania: stretching of the vagina

I.abiorrhaphy: suturing of the labia

Lacing: suturing body parts to another object for bondage

Lactaphilia: arousal from lactating breasts

-lagnia: lust, arousal

Lagnocolysis: celibacy

Lagnolalia: discussion of sexual subjects

Lagnonector: person who kills in order to have sex with corpse

Lagnoperissia: nymphomania

Lap dancing: squatting above a sitting person and rubbing against them to create arousal without touching genitals

Latex: rubber or plastic suits worn by people with this fetish

Lectamia: bundling

Lena: female panderer or procurer for prostitute

Leno: male panderer or pimp for prostitute

Leptosadism: mild form of sadism

Lesbian: woman who prefers female lover

Levirate marriage: marriage of widow without a son to deceased husband’s brother

-lingus: suffix meaning with the tongue

Love: attachment, fondness, and devotion

Love addiction: irresistible compulsion to fantasize about or to be with a partner

Love map: “A developmental representation or template in the mind and in the brain depicting the idealized lover and
the idealized program of sexuoerotic activity projected in imagery or actually engaged in with that lover.” (John Money)

Love potions: potions that are thought to increase a person’s sexual desire

Lubricants: a substance that reduces friction, often used to facilitate penetration

Lung-yang: arousal from person of same sex

Lust Murder: murdering a person one feels a sexual attraction toward

Lygerastia: tendency to only be aroused in darkness

Macrogenitalism: arousal from large genitals

Maicusiophilia: arousal from pregnant women

Mammagymnophilia: arousal from female breasts

-mania: suffix indicating an abnormal preoccupation, compulsion, or craving for an act or object
Manuxorate: male using his hand to masturbate

Maritate: female masturbating alone

Martymachlia: group sex

Maschalophilous: arousal from armpits

Masochism: ability to transfer emotions caused by pain to erotic feelings or as median in which to analyze weaknesses
and strengths

Massage: rubbing of the body to increase circulation

Massage Parlors: a business establishment that specializes in massage

Mastigothymia: flagellation

Mastix: female sadist

Mastofact: breast fetish

Masturbation: orgasm not involving penetration of partner

Matrincest: sex with one’s mother

Matronolagnia: arousal from older female partner

Maturation: the process of aging including sexual changes

Mazoperosis: mutilation of breasts

Mazophallate: rubbing penis between breasts

Meatotomy: dilating urethra with a medical dilating device, the urethra is stretched to eventually facilitate a finger or a
penis

Medical scenes: sex play that involves using medical instruments or settings as props

Medocure: the clipping or perfuming of the penis

Medolalia: talking about the penis

Melolagnia: arousal from music

Menage a trois: a husband and wife having sex with a third party

Menophilist: arousal from menstruating women

Menstrual taboo: separation of spouses during female’s menstrual cycle

Merinthophilia: arousal from being bound

Merlin: an artificial vagina used for penetration

Miscegenation: sex between races

Misogynist: a man who hates women

Misogyny: hatred of women by either sex

Mixoscopia: orgasm dependent on watching others having sex

Moriaphilia: arousal from telling sexual jokes

Morphophilia: arousal from person with a different physique

Mortality: inevitable death

Mucophagy: consuming mucous secretions as in nasolingus

Mummification: wrapping the full body in a manner that prevents movement

Munchausen’s syndrome: arousal from reopening a wound

Mutilation: tearing the skin or otherwise deforming a person’s body

Mysophilia: arousal from soiled clothing or foul decaying odors

Nanophilia: sexual attraction to a short partner

Naphephilia: arousal from touching or being touched

Narcissism: self love

Narratophilia: person who is aroused by discussing sex with others

Nasolingus: arousal from sucking nose of partner

Nasophilia: nose fetish

Natural family planning: birth control by rhythm method

Necrochlesis: sex with a female corpse

Necrocoitus: penetration of corpses

Necrophagia: cannibalism of corpses

Necrophilia: sex with corpses

Necrosadism: sadism or mutilation of corpses

Negotiation: arranging transactions for conduct with sex partner

Neophilia: arousal from novelty or change

Nepiolagnia: arousal by infants of opposite sex

Nepiophilia: arousal by infants of opposite sex

Nepiphtherosis: attempted sex with an infant

Nepirasty: arousal from handling infant often experienced by childless females

Niddah: abstaining from sex 1/3 of the time to create arousal during rest of month

Nomavalent: arousal from traveling or new places, usually impotent at home

Nonmonogamy: multiple sex partners

Normophilia: those only aroused by acts considered normal by their religion or society

Nosolagnia: arousal from knowing parnter has terminal illness

Nosophilia: arousal from knowing partner has terminal illness

Nudity (Recreational): nudity in group settings, beaches, nudist camps, etc.

Nudomania: arousal from nudity

Nymph: young woman or nature goddesses

Nympholepsy: trance state induced by erotic fantasies

Nymphomania: uncontrollable desire of woman for sex

Nymphophilia: adult males who are attracted to young females

Nymphotomy: removal of the inner labia

Obscene Phone Callers: people who become aroused by making phone calls, using vulgar language, or trying to elicit a
reaction from the other party

Ochlophilia: arousal from being in a crowd

Oculolinctus: licking partner’s eyeball

Oculophilia: eye fetish

Odaxelagnia: arousal from biting

Odontophilia: arousal from tooth extractions or tooth fetish

Oedipus complex: repressed desire to have sex with parent of opposite sex

Old maid’s insanity: erotomania

Olisbos: dildos

Olfaction: the sense of smell

Olfactophilia: arousal from odors

Omolagnia: arousal from nudity

Onanism: masturbation or withdrawing penis from vagina before ejaculation

Ondinisme: arousal from urine

Oneiropornism: dreaming about prostitutes or sex

Open marriage: adultery

Ophidicism: use of snakes, sometimes for sexual purposes

Ophidiophilia: arousal from snakes

Oral sex: contact between the mouth and genitals; use of the mouth in sex play

Ordune: arousal from photographs of nudes or sex

Orgasms: climax of sexual excitement, often accompanying ejaculation

Organofact: fetish for some part of the body

Orgies: group sex

Osculocentric: arousal from kissing

Osmolagnia: arousal from odors

Osmophilia: arousal from odors

Osphresiolagnia: arousal from odors

Othello’s syndrome: jealousy

Oxygen regulation: regulating intake of oxygen for sexual enhancement

Ozolagnia: arousal from odors

Pageism: male submitting to female

Panderer: a procurer or go-between for prostitutes and clients

Paraphallus: dildos

Paraphilia: sexual arousal to unusual or socially unacceptable object or act

Parascopism: voyeurism, especially through bedroom windows

Pareunasthenia: impotence

Pareunomania: compulsive desire for sex

Parthenity: virgin

Parthenophagy: cannibalism of young girls

Parthenophilia: sexual desire for virgins

Parthenos: virgin

Passivism: submission

Pathicus: passive recipient in gay anal sex; catamite

Pathicant: a minor who engages in anal sex with an adult

Pathophobia: phobia of contracting a sexually transmitted disease

Patrolagnia: sex with one’s own father

Pecattiphilia: arousal from sinning or possibly guilt

Pederasty: anal sex

Pediophilia: arousal from dolls

Pedophilia: sex with minors

Peeping Tom: voyeur

Penetration toys: devices used for penis insertion during masturbation

Penis ligation: the tying of the foreskin of a penis

Penis modification: physical alteration of penis

Penosugia: fellatio

Peodeiktophilia: exhibitionism

Peritomy: circumcision

Perogynia: mutilation of females

Personal ads: advertisements designed to attract sex partners

Perversion: sexual acts that differ from the majority, paraphilia

Petticoat discipline: the use of cross dressing adolescent boys by their mothers as a form of control

-phagy: practice of eating object specified by prefix Phallolalia: talking about penises

Phallophilia: large penis fetish or preference

Pheromones: natural chemicals or hormones that induce sexual response

Philemanmania: compulsion to kiss

-philia: suffix that indicates an abnormal sexual attachment to what is specified by acronym Phlebotomy: arousal from
bloodletting

Phobias: an irrational fear of an object or situation

Phobophilia: arousal from fear or hate

Phone Sex: verbal sex between partners on a phone

Phygephilia: sexual arousal from being a fugitive

Pictophilia: arousal from pictures, video or movies with a sexual subject

Pie throwing: arousal from being hit with a pie

Piercing: inserting needles into skin for arousal

Pimps: procurer for sexual partners that pay

Play: the consensual acting out of a role or game, sometimes sexual

Play room: room equipped with sex paraphernalia and used primarily for sex play

Podophilia: arousal from feet

Polyandry: one wife with multiple husbands

Polygamy: one person with multiple marriage partners

Polygyny: one person with multiple wives

Polyiterophilia: arousal only after having sex with a series of partners

Polymorphous: having several forms of arousal techniques

Pompoir: vaginal muscle control that masturbates penis when inserted

Pornography: depictions of sex that are considered unacceptable by one’s society

Posthetomy: circumcision

Power tools: electric or battery operated tools that can be used in sex play, although this was not their original function

Preblysis: premature ejaculation

Prisha: religious separation of males and females

Proctophallism: anal sex

Proctotitillia: tickling anus

Procurer: a person who solicits or provides prostitutes for clients

Professional dominatrix: woman hired to function as a top or sadist

Prostitution: sex performed for financial gain

Pseudo: pretended act

Psycholagny: orgasm induced from psychic or mental stimulation

Psychopathic: person who indulges in own pleasure without regard for hurting others

Psychose passionelle: erotomania

Psychrophilia: arousal from being cold or watching others freeze

Psychrotentiginous: arousal from cold weather

Pubephilia: arousal from pubic hair

Pubic dressing: coloring or adding ornaments to pubic hair

Pubic Hair sculpturing: removing pubic hair so that the remainder forms a pattern (i.e. a heart)

Pudendacure: pubic dressing for female

Purdah: veil used on women to hide their face

Puritans: a protestant group that became excessively strict regarding morals

Pygmalionism: agalmatophilia; statue fetishism where person rubs their body against statue

Pygophilemania: arousal from kissing buttocks

Pygophilia: arousal from contact with buttocks

Pygotripsis: arousal from rubbing buttocks

Pyrophilia: arousal from fire or of its use in sex play

Quadoshka: American Indian form of tantric sex

Queening: sitting on the side of a person’s face as a form of bondage

Rape: nonconsensual sex involving coercion, empowerment or anger

Rape rack: bondage device which leaves victim’s genitals exposed for sex or rape

Raptophilia: arousal only from raping a victim

Red light district: area with bordellos and perhaps street prostitutes

Relics: an object that has historical or special interest

Renifleur: person aroused the smell of urine or by sniffing underwear

Retifism: shoe fetish

Rhabdophilia: arousal from being flagellated

Rimming: penetration of anus with tongue

Ringing: insertion of permanent jewelry into a body piercing

Ritual Sex: sex performed with specific rules of conduct (i.e., Wicca, weddings, slave training)

Robotism: attraction to or the use of robots in sex play

Roman Showers: vomiting on partner, usually after drinking urine or wine

Sacofricosis: cutting a hole in pant pocket to facilitate masturbation in public

Sadism: empowerment and arousal derived from injuring others

Sadomasochism by proxy: arousal from watching others disciplined; Dippoldism

Salirophilia: person ingesting human sweat or saliva (fluids with a salt content)

Sapphosadism: lesbian sadism

Sarmassophilia: arousal from kneading flesh

Satan worship: religious rituals performed to Satan as a god

Satyriasis: men who have an uncontrollable desire for sex

Scarfing: the use of a scarf in strangulation for sexual arousal

Scat: arousal from using feces in sex play

Scopophilia: arousal from being stared at oneself

Scoptolagnia: arousal from seeing the genitals of the opposite sex

Scoptophilia: arousal from looking at sexually stimulating scenes

Scortum: prostitution

Scrotal infusion: infusion of saline into the scrotal sack so that it enlarges

Selgolalia: telling stories that include sex

Sensory compensation: our body’s regulation of incoming stimulus to a tolerable level

Sensory deprivation: using lack of sensations to create desire

Sensory enhancement: increasing arousal by increased body sensations

Sensory overload: inability of our body to absorb and comprehend incoming stimulus

Seraglio: the Chinese practice of keeping wives secluded at home from other men

Serenades: musical performance during courtship given outdoors at night

Sergeism: infliction of injury to suppress arousal, automasochism, based on story of Sergius by Tolstoy

Sex addiction: compulsion to have sex

Sex Magick: the use of witchcraft rituals for sexual purposes

Sex rings: organized groups of children being sexually exploited by one or more adults

Sex surrogates: people who are trained to help people overcome sexual dysfunctions

Sex toys: mechanical objects used to assist in masturbation or sex play

Sexautism: tendency to be preoccupied with sexual thoughts

Sexercise: exercises designed to improve muscles used for sex

Sexologists: people who study the science of sex

Sexoschizia: bi-sexual

Sexual aberration: paraphilia

Sexual anomalies: paraphilias

Sexual inversion: arousal from person of same sex

Sexual sadist killer: lust murderer

Shaving: removing the hair with a razor of a partner or oneself for arousal

Showers: depositing body fluids onto a partner’s body

Shunammitism: bundling

Siderodromophilia: arousal from trains

Siphnianize: anal masturbation

Sitophilia: arousal from food

Slapping: slapping partner for arousal

Slaves: person who contracts to be sex slave

Sleeping princess syndrome: those aroused by partner who appears to be asleep

Slings: swings or other forms of support for suspension from which a person may engage in sex

Smegma: secretions from gland under foreskin of penis or clitoris

Snapping pussy: constrictions of muscles used for orgasm; sexercise

Snuff films: films that portray the actual murder and mutilation of one of the actors

Sodomy: oral or anal intercourse involving penetration with male, female, or animal

Somnophilia: fondling stranger in their sleep

Sororate marriage: right of spouse to engage in sex with sisters-in-law or sometimes brothers-in-law

Sororilagnia: sex with one’s own sister

Sotadism: anal sex

Sounding: insertion of an object into the urethra

Spanking: using hand to slap partner’s buttocks for sensory enhancement and arousal

Spay: castration

Spectrophilia: either coitus with spirits or arousal from image in mirrors

Speculum: dilating device used by physicians when doing pelvic exams and in SM medical scenes

Spermatophobia: fear of semen loss

Sphagia: a sacrifice used to placate the gods, the whole offering was completely burned

Sphincter: anal or urethral muscle that closes to prevent passage of urine or feces

Splitting: splitting the penis from the glans toward the base

Stabbing: insertion of a sharp object into flesh

Stag parties: private parties where only men and possibly a female stripper or entertainer are permitted

Stapling: inserting a U-shaped wire into skin during sex play

Statuophilia: agalmatophilia; sexual attraction to statues

Sthenolagnia: arousal from demonstration of strength or muscles

Stigmatophilia: arousal from partner who is stigmatized (i.e., tattoos, piercings, scars)

Strabismus: arousal from eyes of partner

Strangulation: controlling oxygen by restricting windpipe or blood vessels in neck

Stremhing: stretching body or genitals for arousal

String bondage: constrictions; wrapping string around body at certain intervals for arousal

Strip poker: card game where the losers remove articles of clothing

Strip search: interrogation process where sex partner is stripped and searched
Stripping: removal of clothes, sometimes performed on stage in an erotic manner

Stuffing: insertion of objects into vagina or anus

Stupprator: man who is aroused by virgins

Subincision: cutting part of the glans penis from the tip toward the base

Subliminal tapes: audiotapes that give messages intended to alter habits

Submission: surrender to and trust of a partner

Subpersonality: a temporary personality or character change but one where the person does not lose all consciousness
with their current surroundings, they are often from childhood

Succubus: a female spirit who was thought to lie underneath men and have sex with them while they slept

Support groups: groups of people that find solace in discussing a common problem

Suspension: suspending body for sensory deprivation and bondage

Suttee: religious practice of killing wife upon husband’s death and burial

Suturing: stitching flesh together

Swinging: group sex or wife swapping

Swing: an object that allows a person to be suspended and move back and forth

Switch: people who play either the top or bottom role (sadist or masochist)

Sybian: a vibrating dildo that sits on top of an object that resembles a saddle

Symphorophilia: arousal from arranging a disaster, crash, or explosion

Syntribate: rubbing thighs together to masturbate

Tachorgasmia: premature ejaculation

Talisman: charm, sometimes used in love spells

Tantalolagnia: arousal from teasing

Tantra: yoga type sexual discipline

Taphephilia: arousal from being buried alive

Tattooing: tattooing for arousal and marking

Tea Room: slang term for restrooms used for hustling and fellatio

Teasing: to excite sexually but without fulfilling implied message

Teledildonics : arousal from computer sex games

Telegony: belief that first man impregnating woman will be the father of any subsequent children

Telephone scatophilia: arousal from obscene phone calls

Telephonicophilia: arousal from using phone calls for sexual conversations

Teratophallic: large penises

Terror play: sex play using terror or fear for arousal

Thalpotentiginy: arousal from heat

Thelectize: clitoridectomy

Thesauromania: compulsion to collect objects or clothing belonging to females

Thlipsosis: arousal from pinching others

Three-legged bloomers: bondage underwear garment that has sleeve for head that opens to genitals of partner

Thusiai: a sacrifice of food cooked on an altar and eaten later by priests or worshippers

Thygatria: sex between father and daughter

Tickling : light touch that sometimes causes a laughter response

Timophilia: when a person’s primary arousal comes from gold or wealth

-tion: suffix indicating a state of being

Titillagnia: arousal from tickling

Tithiolagnia: having an orgasm while nursing

Toilet Training: urinating or defecating on a partner as a form of slave training

Top: term used for partner who controls stimuli during sex games

Torture: inflicting pain to get information or for revenge, also used in sex play

Tourniquets: a device that compresses blood vessels to control bleeding, sometimes sexual

Toucheurism: touching a stranger for arousal

Tragolimia: compulsive desire for sex regardless of attraction of partner

Transsexual: person who are in the process of physically changing sexes

Transvestite: person who is aroused by cross-dressing

Transvestophilia: arousal from crossdressing

Traumaphilia: arousal from wounds or trauma; automasochism

Trial marriage: couple who lives together for a period to determine compatibility for marriage

Tribadism: lesbianism; sex by rubbing

Triborgasmia: wife who masturbates husband

Trichophilia: hair fetish

Tripsolagnia: arousal from having hair shampooed

Tripsolagnophilia: arousal from massage

Tripsophilia: arousal from massage

Troilism: arousal by being third party in sex scene

Troubadours: 11th-13th century musician poets that popularized love and chivalry

Tunnel of love: carnival boat ride that passed through a dark tunnel allowing couples a moment of privacy

Tyrannism: cruelty; sadism

Undinism: arousal from water

Uranism: arousal from person of same sex

Urethral self-instrumentation: sounding; inserting object into urethra for arousal

Urolagnia: arousal from urine

Urophilia: arousal from urine

Urtication: the use of nettles to create extra sensation

Vampirism: consuming blood of partner for arousal

Vertigo: dizziness, sometimes used to enhance sex acts

Vertugadin: large hooped skirts that also acted as chastity devices

Vibrators: tools that are inserted and which vibrate

Vicarphilia: arousal from other people’s exciting experiences

Victorian lace: sexual discipline using crossdressing as punishment

Victorianism: a 19th century English society that was notorious for bigotry and restrictive about morals

Vincilagnia: arousal from bondage

Virgin: person not having experienced penetrative sex with another person

Virimimism: adoption of masculinity

Visualization: an image formed by the mind, sometimes used in sex rituals and often in sexual fantasy

Voyeurism: arousal by watching others without their consent

Water sports: the use of urine for arousal; urophilia

Waxing: removal of body hair by a sticky substance applied to a strip laid against hair and pulled off

Weddings: marriage ceremonies

Weight training: the use of hanging weights on genitals or hooks for arousal

Whipping: striking or flagellating a partner for sensory enhancement

White slavery: the sale of one race to another for purposes of prostitution

Whore house: bordello

Wife swapping: exchanging spouses with another couple for sexual purposes

Worship: reverence of an object or person

Wrestling: a physical struggle between two or more people, used as sexual arousal by some

Xenodynamic: person who is only potent with strangers

Xenolimia: arousal from strangers

Xenophilia: arousal from strangers

Yoni worship: worship of the female genitals

Yoshiwara: Japanese prostitutes

Zelophilia: arousal from jealousy

Zooerasty: arousal from animals

Zoophilia: arousal from animals

Zwischenstufe: arousal from person of same sex
 APPENDIX OF SUPPLIERS
 

The following businesses and clubs have assisted in providing valuable information. Many have been previously
referenced in this hook, Please include a stamped self-addressed envelope if requesting literature.
 ART:
 

Fine Art Depietions of SM

by Michael Rosen
Shaynew Press
P.O. Box 11719
San Francisco.
CA 94101

Phoebe Gloeckner
Illustrator
PO Box 31682
San Francisco.
CA 94131

Mad Dog Tattoo

(body art)
43A Juniper Street
San Francisco, CA
415/552-1297

No! No! Greetings (personal

erotic drawings and
stationery)
PO Box 221
Noreo, CA 91760
 BOOKS, FILMS & MAGAZINES:
 

Adam & Eve Books &

Videos
(catalog available)
PHE, Inc.
PO Box 400
Carboro. NC 27510

Adam Film World

(monthly review of XXX
films)
8060 Melrose Ave, Los
Angeles. CA 90046

Anal Pleasures
by Jack Morin. Ph.D.
Down There Press
PO Box 2086-AP
Burlingame. CA 94011
Body Play Magazine
by Fakir Musafar
PO Box 421668
San Francisco. CA
94142-1668

Clit Clamps
(jewelry)
c/o Judy Kirk
13428 Maxella Ave.
#314C
Marina Del Rey. CA
90292

Cocoa ’n Creme, Your

National Guide to
Interracial Swinging
PO Box 811218
Chicago. II.
60681-1218

Desmodus. Inc.
(S/M magazines)
PO Box 4 10390
San Francisco. CA 94141
 

Femmm Dist. Ine.

(erotic films by C.
Royalle)
588 Broadway
Suite 1110
New York. NY 10012

Fetish Times
(newspaper)
B&D Company
P.O. Box 7109
Van Nuys. CA 91409

Gio
(“How to Strip for Your
Man” video tape)
PO Box Box 349
Orchard Hill. GA 30266

Katharsis
(Gladiators, torture. evil
women, aliens, crucifixion)
P.O. Box 2266
Daytona Beach, FL
32015-2266

Lady Tanith
(books on slave training
and S/M)
PO Box 7925
Berkeley, CA
94107-0925

The lesbian SM safety

Mannal
by Pat Califia
Alyson Publications
40 Plympton St.
Boston. MA 02118

Libido
(quarterly magazine)
PO Box 146721
Chicago. II. 60614
312/275-O842

Lifestyle Products
(sex toys)
PO Box 4022
Hopkins, MN 55343
612/443-2689

Messy Fun
(videos of women covered
with pies, food,
mud. paint, and wet
clothes)
Dept. E-S
PO Box 181030
Austin, TX 78718-1030

Milky
(Lactating women)
Parliament News, Inc.
PO, Box 3959
North Hollywood, CA
91609

Mistress Jacqueline
(dom. books, video etc.)
7095 Hollywood Blvd.
Suite 350
Hollywood, CA 90028

Multi-Focus Inc.
(educational sex videos)
1523 Franklin St.
San Francisco.C.A 94109
415/673-5100

Over 40
(40 to 60 year old nudes
magazine)
Leisure Plus
Publications, Inc.
4th Floor
New York. NY 10013
Passionate Living
(magazine)
PO Box 620123
Woodsidc, CA 94062

Platinum
(films)
4501 Van Nuys Blvd.
Suitc 215
Sherman Oaks, CA
91403

Screw
(magazine)
116 West 14th St.
New York, NY 10011

Skin II
(latex fashions)
23 Grand Union Centre
Kensal Road
London \V 10 5AX
ENGLAND
81-968-9692

S/M 101
by Joseph Bean
Haworth Press
10 Alice St.
Binghampton, NY
10001-3813

Spectator
(magazine)
Box 1984
Berkeley, CA 94701
510/849-1615

Squish Productions Club

(videos of women who
step on hugs or tiny men)
PO Box 946
Bellflower. CA
90707-0946

Sweater Bumpers
(jewelry)
PO Box 1854
Los Lunas, NM 87031

Uncircumcising Info
Dr. Jim Bigelow
PO Box 52138
Pacific Grove, CA 93950
408/375-4326

W.E.S.
(We Enjoy Shaving magazine)
PO Box 6316
Reno. NV 89513
 HOTLINES, CLUBS
 

Back Drop Club

(fetish & fantasy)
PO Box 1369
El Cerrito, CA
94530-1369

Ball Club
(large testicles)
PO Box 1501
Pomona, CA 91769

Californians Against
Censorship Together
1800 Market Street
Suite 1000
San Francisco, CA 94102
415/548-3695

Center for Support

(parents of pedophiles)
PO Box 460126
San Francisco, CA
94146

Club Ecstasy
(hotline and sex club for
females)
2336 Market St., #128
San Francisco, CA 94114
415/267-6915

Club Mud
(catalog is $3)
Box 277
Rio Nido, CA 95471

Diaper Pail Friends

(adults who dress as
babies club)
38 Miller Ave.
Suite 127
Mill Valley, CA 94941

ETVC
(transvestites &
transsexuals)
PO Box 6486
San Francisco, CA 94101

Fantasy Makers
(fetish & fantasy play
house)
Richmond, CA
510/234-7887

Foot Fetish & Fantasy

Society
PO Box 24866
Cleveland, OH
44124Girth & Mirth
(obese partner referrals)
176-B Page St.
San Francisco, CA 94102
415-552-1143

Hot Ash
(cigar sex club)
PO Box 20147
London Terrace Station
New York, NY 10011

Human Awareness
Institute
(Stan Dale intimacy
workshops)
1720 S. Amphlett Blvd.,
#128
San Mateo, CA 94402

Hung Jury
(dating service for men
with 8” +)
PO Box 417
Los Angeles, CA 90078

 
Lifestyles
(swing organization with
national events)
2641 W. La Palma
Suite A
Anaheim, CA 92801

National Sexuality
Symposium
PO Box 620123
Woodside, CA 94062
415/851-4751

New Friends
Dating Service
(for people with herpes)
PO Box 1235
Capitola, CA 95010

QSM
(S/M lectures
and classes)
PO Box 882242
San Francisco, CA
94188-2242
415/550-7776

San Francisco Sex Info.

P.O.Box 640054
S.F., CA 94164-0054
Ph: 415/621-7300
Small, Etc..
PO Box 294
Bayside, NY 11361

Society of Janus
(S/M)
PO Box 6794
San Francisco, CA 94101
415/985-7117

Tantra Workshops
c/o S. Wadel & D.
Coleman
1470 DeHaro Street
San Francisco, CA 94107
 PIERCING STUDIOS:
 

Fakir Musafar
(also branding,
cupping, and seminars)
Insight Institute
PO Box 421668
San Francisco CA
94142-1668
415/324-0543

Raelyn Gallina
PO Box 20034
Oakland, CA 94620
510/655-2855

The Gauntlet
2377 Market Street
San Francisco, CA 94111
415/431-3133
 SEX STORES, ETC.
 

Constance Ent.
590 Valley Road
Upper Montclair, NJ
07043
201/746-5466

Desmodus, Inc.
(S/M leather)
PO Box 11314
San Francisco, CA 94101
415/252-1195

Edgewater West
(nudist hotel)
10 Hegenberger Road
Oakland, CA
510/632-6262

Frenchy’s
1020 Geary St.
San Francisco, CA 94109
415/776-5940
Good Vibrations
(store)
1210 Valencia St.
San Francisco, CA
415/974-8980
(mail order)
938 Howard St., #101
San Francisco, CA 94103

Romantasy
(also catalog orders
and corsets)
199 Moulton St.
San Francisco, CA 94123
Ph: 415-673-3137

Transvestite
Transformations
by Sybil Holiday
415/558-9531
 UNIVERSITIES & INSTITUTES:
 

American Assn. of Sex

Educators, Counselors
and Therapists
435 N. Michigan Ave.
Suite 1717
Chicago, IL 60611-4067
312/644-0828

Institute for the

Advanced Study of
Human Sexuality
1523 Franklin Street
San Francisco, CA 94109
415/928-1133

Kinsey Institute
Indiana University
Morrison Hall
3rd floor
Bloomington, IN 47405
812/855-7686

Masters and Johnson

Institute
2 South Kings Highway
St. Louis, MO 63108
314/361-2377

SIECUS Library
130 W. 42nd St., #2500
New York, NY 10036
212/819-9770

Society for the Scientific

Study of Sex
PO Box 208
Mount Vernon, IA 52314
319/895-8407
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 INDEX
 
 

Abduction
 

Abrasions
 

Acousticophilia
 

Acrophilia
 

Acrotomophilia
 

Acupressure
 

Adolescentilism
 

Adultery
 

Agalmatophilia
 

Agonophilia
 

Agoraphilia
 

Agrexophilia
 

Algophilia
 

Allorgasmia
 

Amaurophilia
 

Anaclitism
 

Anal Sex:
 

Anolinctus
 

Anolingus
 

Autopederasty
 

Fellching
 
 Fisting
 

Pederasty
 

Anasteemaphilia
 

Anatomy
 

Androidism
 

Andromimetophilia
 

Anisonogamist
 

Anthropomorphic
 

Cartoons
 

Anthropophagy:
 

Autophagy
 

Necrophagy
 

Parthenophagy
 

Aphrodisiacs:
 

Dietary
 

Drugs
 

Apotemnophilia
 

Arachnephilia
 

Auctions
 

Autagonistophilia
 

Autassassinophilia
 

Autoerotic Asphyxia
 

Automasochism
 

Axillism
 
 

Baths
 

Bed of Nails
 

Bee Stings
 

Bell Dancing
 

Belly Dancing
 

Bestiality
 

Bi-Sexualism
 

Biastophilia
 

Bindings:
 

Breasts
 

Face
 

Feet
 

Mummification
 

Penis
 

Birth Control:
 

Abortion
 

Anal Sex
 

Cervical Cap
 

Coitus Interruptus
 

Condom
 

Diaphragm
 
 Douch
 

IUD
 

Pill
 

Rhythm Method
 

Spermicide
 

Steroid
 

Injection
 

Tubal Ligation
 

Vasectomy
 

Biting
 

Blindfolding
 

Blood Sports
 

Body Painting
 

Bondage:
 

Bars
 

Cages
 

Chains
 

Collars,
 

Crucifixion
 

Cuffs
 

Encasement
 

Gags
 

Handcuffs
 

Hanging
 

Harnesses
 

Hoods
 

Impaling
 

Lacing
 

Mittens
 

Padlocks
 

Rape Racks
 

Ropes
 

Shackles
 

Speculum
 

Stocks
 

Straight Jackets
 

Symbolic
 

Three Legged Bloomers

 

Bordellos
 

Bottoms
 

Bradycubia
 

Branding
 

Breast Shaping:
 
 Augmentation
 

Reduction
 

Breasts
 

Bull Fighting
 

Bundling
 

Burning
 

Butt Plugs
 
 

Candaulism
 

Cannibalism
 

Castration:
 

Eunuchs
 

Medical
 

Political
 

Pseudocastration
 

Psychological
 

Religious
 

Sexual Arousal
 

Cat Fighting
 

Catamites
 

Catheters
 

Celibacy
 

Chaperons
 

Charms
 

Chastity Devices:
 

Belts
 

Oetang
 

Spiked cage
 

Vertugadin
 
Chevalier d’Eon
 

Chemise Cagoule
 

Choreophilia
 

Chrematistophilia
 

Chubby Chasers
 

Cicatrization
 

Cigars
 

Circumcision
 

Clamps
 

Claustrophilia
 

Clitoridectomy
 

Cock Rings
 

Cocktails:
 

Blood & Semen

 

Enema
 

Golden
 

Coitus à Cheval
 

Coitus à Mammilla
 

Coitus à Unda
 

Coitus Interfermoris
 

Computer Sex
 

Anthony Comstock
 

Condoms
 

Confessions
 

Constrictions
 

Coprography
 

Coprolalia
 

Coprophagy
 

Coprophilia
 

Corsets
 

Costumes
 

Courtship
 

Couvade
 

Couvade Syndrome
 

Cross Dressing
 

Cuckoldry
 

Cum Etiquette
 

Cunnilingus
 

Cupping
 

Cutting
 
 

Dacryphilia
 

Dating Services de Sade, Marquis

 

Defilement
 

Dendrophilia
 

Depilation
 

Dildos
 

Dippoldism
 

Discipline
 

Diseases
 

Docking
 

Dogging
 

Dominance/Submission
 

Dominatrix:
 

Professional
 

Doraphilia
 

Douches:
 

Anal
 

Golden
 

Vaginal
 

Drag Queens
 

Dungeons
 
Dysfunctions:
 

Azoospermia
 

Cryptorchidism
 

Epispadias
 

Filariasis
 

Gynecomastia
 

Retrograde
 

Ejaculation
 

Penis.
 

Deviation
 

Priapism
 

Siamese
 

Deformities
 

Sperm Defects
 

Dysmorphophilia
 
 

Ecouteurism
 

Electric Shock
 

Emetophilia
 

Endytophilia
 

Enemas
 

Erotic Balls
 

Erotica
 

Erotographomania
 

Erotomania
 

Essayeurs
 

Eugenics
 

Eunuchs
 

Executions
 

Exhibitionism
 
 

Fainting
 

Fakir Musafar
 

Fans
 

Fantasy
 

Fantasy Play
 

Feces
 

Felching
 

Fellatio
 

Female Impersonators
 

Fertility Rites
 

Festivals:
 

Aphrodite
 

Baal
 

Carnival
 

Dionysia
 

May Day
 

Moloch
 

Saturnalia
 

Fetishes:
 

Boots/Shoes
 

Furs
 
 Gods
 

Latex/Rubber.
 

Leather
 

Underwear
 

Fire
 

Fisting:
 

Anal
 

Autofisting
 

Vaginal
 

Flagellation:
 

Bastinado
 

Birching
 

Caning
 

Flogging
 

Genital
 

Paddling
 

Slapping
 

Spanking
 

Strapping
 

Whipping
 

Flatulence
 

Food/Eating,
 

Foot Binding
 

Formicophilia
 

Fornicatory Dolls
 

Frottage
 

Furtling
 
 

Gang Bangs
 

Gays
 

Geishas
 

Genital/Anal nserts
 

Genuphallation
 

Gerontophilia
 

Glory Holes
 

Golden Showers
 

Grooming
 

Groping Apparatus
 

Group Sex
 

Groupies
 

Gynemimetophilia
 
 

Handicaps
 

Handkerchief Codes
 

Harems
 

Harmatophilia
 

Harpaxophilia
 

Head Stands
 

Hebephilia
 

Hedonism
 

Hermaphrodite
 

Hetaerae
 

Heterosexuals
 

Hierophilia
 

Hodophilia
 

Homilophilia
 

Homophobia
 

Hot Wax
 

Humiliation
 

Hybristophilia
 

Hygrophilia
 

Hyphephilia
 

Hypnosis
 
 

Ice
 

Illegal Sex
 

Impotence
 

Incest
 

Infantilism
 

Infibulation
 

Insects
 

Insufflation
 

Interrogation
 

Inunction
 
 

Jactitation
 

Jealousy
 

Jewelry
 

juvenilism
 
 

Kabazzah
 

Karezza
 

Kissing
 

Kleptophilia
 

Klismaphilia
 

Knives
 

Kokigami
 
 

Lactaphilia
 

Lap Dancing
 

Lesbians
 

Lighting
 

Love
 

Love Addiction
 

Love Potions
 

Lubricants
 

Lust Murder
 
 

Maieusiophilia
 

Marriage:
 

Arranged
 

Capture
 

Child Betrothal
 

Coercion
 

Concubinage
 

Dowry
 

Elopement
 

Group
 

Levirate
 

Mail Order
 

Matriarchy
 

Mock
 

Patriarchy
 

Polyandry
 

Polygyny
 

Purchase
 

Rape
 

Romantic
 

Sororate
 
 Trial
 

Masks
 

Masochism
 

Massage:
 

Face
 

Full Body
 

Bondage and
 

Torture
 

Foot
 

Genital
 

Massage Parlors
 

Masturbation
 

Maturation
 

Meatotomy
 

Medical Scenes
 

Mênage à trois
 

Miscegenation
 

Misogynist
 

Mortality
 

Mucophagy
 

Mummification
 

Mutilation
 

Mysophilia
 
 

Narcissism
 

Narratophilia
 

Nasophilia
 

Necrophilia:
 

Fetishes
 

Mysophilia
 

Necrosadism
 

Nosophilia
 

Pseudonecrophilia
 

Negotiation
 

Nepiophilia
 

Niddah
 

Normophilia
 

Nudity
 

Nymphomania
 

Nymphophilia
 

Nymphotomy
 
 

Obscene Phone Calls

 

Ochlophilia
 

Oculolinctus
 

Oculophilia
 

Odontophilia
 

Olfaction
 

Ophidicism
 

Orgasms:
 

Altered State
 

Astral
 

Extended (ESO)
 

Fusion
 

Psychic
 

SM
 

Tantric
 

Orgies
 

Oxygen
 

Regulation:
 

Corsetting
 

Gags
 

Gas Masks
 
 Strangulation
 

Suffocation
 
 

Pandering
 

Paraphilias
 

Pecattiphilia
 

Pederasty
 

Pediophilia
 

Pedophilia
 

Penetration Toys
 

Penile Ligation
 

Penis Modification:
 

Bihari
 

Circumcision
 

Foreskin
 

Restoration
 

Implants
 

Incision
 

Inserts
 

Meatotomy
 

Negation
 

Splitting
 

Subincision
 

Personal Ads
 
Personal Power
 

Petticoat Discipline
 

Phallophilia
 

Pheromones
 

Phlebotomy
 

Phobias
 

Phobophilia
 

Phone Sex
 

Photography
 

Phygephilia
 

Pie Throwing
 

Piercing
 

Pimps
 

Pinching
 

Plants
 

Podophilia
 

Polyiterophilia
 

Pornography
 

Power Tools
 

Premature Ejaculation
 

Prisha
 

Prostitution
 

Psychrocism
 

Pubic Dressing
 

Pubic Hair Sculpturing

 

Purdah
 

Pygmalionism
 

Pygophilia
 

Pyrophilia
 
 

Quadoshka
 

Queening
 
 

Rape
 

Relics
 

Rhabdophilia
 

Ringing:
 

Clitoris
 

Labia
 

Nipple
 

Penis
 

Ritual Sex
 

Robotism
 
 

Sacher-Masoch,
 

Leopold von
 

Sacofricosis
 

Sacrifices
 

Sadism
 

Safe Sex:
 

Anal Play
 

Blood Sports
 

Bondage
 

Burning
 

Electricity
 

Flagellation
 

Hygrophilia
 

Illegal Acts
 

Latex Barriers
 

Priapism
 

Shock
 

Sterlization Techniques
 

Transvestism
 

Urethral Play
 

Zipper Accidents
 
St Augustine
 

St Valentine
 

Salirophilia
 

Satan Worship
 

Satyriasis
 

Scarring
 

Scopophilia
 

Scratching
 

Scrotal Infusion
 

Sensory Compensation
 

Sensory Deprivation
 

Sensory Enhancement
 

Sensory Overload
 

Serenades
 

Sex Almanacs
 

Sex Boutiques
 

Sex Clubs
 

Sex Conferences
 

Sex Games
 

Sex Hotels
 

Sex Hotlines
 

Sex Magick
 

Sex Museums
 

Sex Positions
 

Sex Restaurants
 

Sex Rings
 

Sex Shows
 

Sex Surrogates
 

Sex Toys
 

Sexercise
 

Sexology
 

Sexual Harassment
 

Shaving
 

Showers
 

Siderodromophilia
 

Sin
 

Sitophilia
 

Slapping
 

Slaves
 

Snuff Films
 

Somnophilia
 

Sounding
 

Spanking
 
Spectrophilia
 

Sperm Banks
 

Spitting
 

Stag Parties
 

Stapling
 

Stationery
 

Stigmatophilia
 

Strangling
 

Stretching
 

Strip Poker
 

Strip Search
 

Stripping
 

Stuffing
 

Subliminal Tapes
 

Submission
 

Subpersonality
 

Support Groups
 

Suspension
 

Suttee
 

Suturing
 

Swinging
 

Swings
 

Switches
 

Sybian
 

Symphorophilia
 
 

Tantra
 

Taphephilia
 

Tattooing
 

Teasing
 

Telegony
 

Testicles
 

Thalpotentiginy
 

Tickling
 

Timophilia
 

Toilet Training
 

Tops
 

Torture
 

Touch
 

Tourniquets
 

Transsexuals
 

Transvestites
 

Trichophilia
 

Troilism
 

Troubadours
 

Tunnel of Love
 
 

Urine
 

Urophilia
 

Urtication
 
 

Vampirism
 

Vertigo
 

Vibrators
 

Vicarious Arousal
 

Victorian Lace
 

Victorianism
 

Virgins
 

Visualization
 

Vomit
 

Voyeurism
 
 

Weddings
 

Weight Training
 

White Slavery
 

Wife Swapping
 

Workshops
 

Worship
 

Wrestling
 
 

Xenophilia
 
 

Yoni Worship
 
 

Zelophilia
 

Zoophilia:
 

Androzoons
 

Avisodomy
 

Bestialsadism
 

Formicophilia
 

Erotica
 

Fellching
 

Necrobestialism
 

Ophidicism
 

Pseudobestiality