The notes for this volume of study are not mean to be a “method” – but

rather a “reference of helps” to the readers as individuals. A “bank of

encouragement” – with the Lord as our source!

DEALING WITH THE REJECTION AND PRAISE OF MAN

I. There are two ways we are healed from the wounds of past rejections:
A. Through the Sovereign Work of G___________ administered to our hearts
by the Power of the Holy Ghost.
B. Through the illuminations of T_________ to our minds. When God’s
truth finds good soil in our hearts – through His Word – it lodges within us
and renews our minds.
II. The purpose of this book is to work with the second dynamic of healing our
wounds.
A. God’s Word ministers W___________ and F__________ through truth!
B. These truths will search the depths of:
1) Your inner A____________.
2) Your inner M____________.
C. Let God’s Word (truth) set you free from:
1) The power of R___________________ woundings.
2) The entrapment of M________ praises.
D. The truths that set us free from both of these extremes are amazingly
S_____________.
1) Proverbs 4:18 – a word for ever increasing Freedom!

I. Chapter 1 – REJECTION – The Universal Malady.

A. Our world is filled with R__________________!
B. List 8 areas of rejection (4 from the book and 4 of our own):
1_________________________
2_________________________
3_________________________
4_________________________
5_________________________
6_________________________
7_________________________
8_________________________
C. Every human being knows what it is to F_______ rejection.
D. We have two basic problems in this rejection area:
1) Because of our brokenness through S_____ we are very capable of
D____________ rejection.
2) And our sinful fallenness also makes us S_________________ to
receiving rejection when none was intended.
 E. Rejection takes many F___________:
1) Hurtful W______________.
2) Withdrawn A__________________.
3) Unspoken G___________________.
4) Unreciprocated L_________________.
5) Malicious A__________________.
F. We often construct self-protection mechanisms to I______________ us
from recurrences of reject injury!
1) These W_________________ alone are evidence that we have
been injured more than we thought!
2) R__________________ with others suffer as we distance
ourselves because of past pain….
3) Then we S___________________ to find full satisfaction in the
relationship God has given us. Rejection has left a S________.
4) We make “Inner Vows” against the H_________ of rejection “We
will never be hurt like that again!”
a) This “protection” from further rejection usually traps us
into a pattern of behavior that binds us to the
B______________ of the past.
b) Once we have been wounded by rejection –
R________________ become a great risk.
c) Even M____________ become a gamble as we discover
we often suffer the greatest wounds of rejection from
those who love us more!
G. Remember, feelings of rejection are a result of broken
H_______________________, our F__________________, our
I_______________________ at relating to one another in the perfection of
Christ.
1) Also, other people may feel rejected by us for any number of
reasons and we are not aware of it initially.
H. Whatever state we find ourselves in – rejection or praise – let us be
encouraged to know we have the Holy Spirit who is here to
G________________ us into all truth. Lifting us from the pits of rejection
and saving us from the traps of man’s praise.

II. Chapter 2 – Even Jesus experienced rejection:

A. You alone know the depths of your own H_______________________.
1) The bitterness of R________________
2) Depths of MisU______________________.
3) Wounds of private P_____________.
4) S________________ silently – in ways known only to God.
 B. God’s (Jesus) rejection:
1) Mutiny of M______________.
2) Betrayal of L___________________.
3) Rejected by M__________ - Isaiah 53:3, John 1:11, John 15:18
4) Rejected by His H_______________.
a) Jesus was perfect and was still rejected!!!
5) Rejected by the religious L_______________ of His day – Luke
11:53-54.
C. Jesus & Jeremiah compared – because no Old Testament prophet suffered
R__________________ like Jeremiah! Matt 16:13-14
1) He prophesized faithfully what God gave him – as a result almost
everyone H___________ him.
2) He had wronged no one – but because He was God’s mouthpiece –
everyone C_____________ him.
3) The people of Jesus day said, “Jesus reminds us of John the
Baptist, Elijah, or J____________________.
D. The R_________ of rejection:
1) Earthly rejection, properly E____________________, is an
opportunity to gain Heavenly Treasure.
2) Don’t just share your valuable L________________ with anyone –
3) Matthew 7:6
4) Jesus does intend that we turn our P__________ to
P_____________! Acts 14:22
5) The Pearls of Great Price is the People of God – the
B___________ of Christ who came through great tribulation.

III. Chapter 3 – REJECTION: God’s Specialty Tool

A. In this life the Masters workbench holds many tools with which He forms
His S_______________ into the image of Christ!
B. The tool of rejection is one with which He A_____________ the maturity
of His chosen vessels.
C. When God destines a saint for extraordinary I____________ in the Body
of Christ, He prepares him/her through the rejection of people.
1) This will T________________ this person to the reality of
rejection.
2) It will help S_______________ this person to how easily rejection
can be inflected on others!
3) Because of this sensitivity the servant – leader will handle the
flock of God with exceptional C____________ and tenderness.
D. It is to these sensitized shepherds that God can entrust greater
I______________.
E. David’s rejections:
1) David was not in Jesse’s memory bank when the Prophet
S_____________ came to choose a King of Israel!
2) David was rejected by his B________________ when he came
with supplies to the battlefield – Eliab voiced his rejection of
David. I Samuel 17:28.
3) Kin Saul tried to K______________ David repeatedly...
4) David’s wife – M____________________, despised him. II
Samuel 6:20.
5) David’s sons, A___________________ and
A_______________________ tried to overthrow him!
6) David “handled” all this rejection by continually withdrawing to
the S________________ place where he:
a) Renewed his H__________ in God.
b) Renewed his C______________ in God.
7) Because David knew that God loved him and accepted him – he
could keep an accurate P_________________ on the rejection of
men!
F. God designs rejections for our B_________________:
1) David and Absalom are prime examples of rejection and an
individual’s response to God or against God!
2) A substantial step toward “Freedom of Soul” is made when we are
able to see God as the A_______________ of life’s rejections and
not men!
3) If we respond P_________________ to it, the rejection will be
used by God to shape and conform us to the image of Christ.
4) However, as long as we perceive men as the source of the rejection
we will S______________ in our attitude toward them.
5) We need to begin to give thanks to God who allows our rejection
for higher P_____________.
6) Those whom God loves are always rejected the
M_______________....
G. Rejection is a vital I__________________ in the training up of endtime
leaders, and after we’re trained and raised up it C_________________ to
be a necessary tool to maintain and guard our hearts in humility!
H. When people reject you, but you are F______________ on the inside with
the profound affections of your Father for you – then you are able to give
yourself to your fellow man regardless of how he treats you.
IV. Chapter 4 – The Real Source of Healing
A. Learning to respond properly to rejection is a P________________ that
takes many years.
B. Children are often W____________ most by rejection.
C. Children do not have the T______________ to handle rejection right.
D. Christian maturity is NOT an I____________________ attainment, but
rather a lifelong process – SO give yourself T________ to master the
principles of overcoming rejection.
E. If we allow it, rejection can D________ us into a place of finding God.
F. The Principles involved in responding redemptively to rejection.
1) Jesus whole M__________ was –
a) T____________ – but not offended
b) V____________ to the soul – but not embittered
c) P_________ by rejection – but not wounded
2) Rejection hurts, but in need not W_______________.
3) The Healing Balm (#1) we need IS – the unparalleled
A_____________ of our Father which operates as an internal
wellspring of love that flows from the heart of our heavenly Father
to us.
a) When we have been S_________________ by rejection,
we need to learn to retreat to the Secret Place to be renewed
and cleansed by the A______________ of our loving
Heavenly Father.
b) Rejection is a trial – BUT the acceptance of our Father is
the healing O_____________________.
4) Forgiveness (#2) – is also one of the first steps in being healed
from the ravages of rejection…by extending total forgiveness to
those who have W_____________ us.
a) Jesus model of forgiveness was stated like this, “Father,
forgive them for they K________________ not what they
do.” Luke 23:24.
b) This model shows us Jesus already forgave his tormentors
– now he was asking His F______________ to forgive
them too.
c) Stephen also gave this example, “Lord, do not
C__________ them with this sin.” Acts 7:60
d) When you R______________________ your offenders
from the judgment of their sin, you B______________ the
power of unforgiveness and fined a new release to relate in
F___________________ to others who sin against you!
 5) Accept (#3) Your Father’s Love –
a) When this L________________ really touches your heart,
it burns away the cords that rejection would bind around
your heart.
b) THE KEY is: You must B______________ - John 3:16.
God loves YOU this much….
c) Once we believe – we must R________________ His love!
When we take in His love we will find ourselves –
renewed, saturated, strengthened, sustained, lifted,
empowered by the greatest power in the Universe – His
Love
d) The devils aim is to keep us from A_____________ and
receiving God’s Love. Could God really love you that
much? Timothy 4:1 – When we doubt the Father’s Love
we are straying from the Faith!
e) Let the Holy Spirit place this deep within your
C__________________: You are wildly and irrevocably
loved and enjoyed by God!
6) Until you are E____________ on the inside in the Love of God,
you will always be susceptible to the rejection’s woundings!
(Read the paragraph of this sentence over again).

V. Chapter 5 – Your Source of Acceptance…Jesus plus nothing else!

A. When G_________ accepts me, I need acceptance from no one else.
1) When we realize we are accepted and embraced by the great God
of the universe, the acceptance of P_________________ becomes
secondary
B. If the Father is approving of our lives, the W________ can line up against
us, but it won’t be able to wound us on the inside – because on the inside
we are feeding on the Father’s affirmation.
C. This teaching does not advocate an independent S____________ or a
condescending attitude that says, “I have heard from God so scram or save
your advice.”
1) The Lord has called us to walk in inter-D_____________ with our
fellow believers in the Body of Christ! I Corinthians 12
D. We look to each other for E__________________________, for counsel,
for P___________________ support, for practical help, for wisdom, for
perspective, for correction – BUT not for our S___________ of
acceptance!
E. BALANCE – and one of the greatest challenges in Christian maturity:
1) To make myself vulnerable to your K_____________ and
A_________________.
2) While not allowing myself to be penetrated by our
R_________________!
 F. It is a sign of maturity when we can receive correction without
I________________ it as rejection.
G. SOURCE of ACCEPTANCE - We will not be healed of rejection by
A_______________ the source of your rejection, but by L___________ at
the source of acceptance. Hebrew 12:2.
1) When we yearn for others acceptance, we O______ ourselves to
their rejection.
2) When we hope for man’s acceptance, we make ourselves
V_____________ to man’s rejection!
3) When you are C________________ in your Heavenly Father’s
acceptance, you will no longer crave earthly acceptance.
H. Closing the door on rejection:
1) Remember, if man’s acceptance will build you up – man’s
rejection will D______________ you. Ecc. 7:21
2) Jesus was not touched by the praise of man and was therefore not
W_________________ by the rejection of man.
3) Jesus found His complete identity in His F___________________
acceptance and so can you and I!
I. We can not serve T_____ masters –Matthews 6:24:
1) We can not look for acceptance from B_______ God and man.
2) When we seek someone’s acceptance, we try to
P_______________ him.
3) Whomever we desire to please, we become his S_________
4) We must decide – are we trying to P_____________ God or man?
Proverbs 16:7

VI. Chapter 6 – The SNARE of Man’s Praise:

(this thought is captured in Jesus question. John 5:44)
A. Jesus denounced the religious leaders of His day because they were driven
by the N_____________ to garner men’s approval.
1) Luke 20:46 – dressed in long robes to be admired, receiving many
greetings in the market place because of their position, having the
best seats in the Synagogues and the best places at feasts, also
because of their positions.
2) Matthew 23:5 – ALL their works they do to be seen by men.
B. We would I_____________ the example of the Apostle Paul who did not
seek to please men, but to please God alone. I Thess. 2:4-6
C. Seeking the P______________ (approval) of God, is in itself an all
consuming pursuit. Matthew 25:23, I Cor.3 :12-15
D. There are two practical reasons why we should NOT seek the praise of
men:
1) #1 People are U____________________________
2) Even Christians are U_______________________
a) Take note – we will all have experience in rejection in the
Body of Christ as we have many weaknesses
 b) Take note – even Christian L_____________ with their
best and most sincere efforts are undependable.
3) We are to love one another and be faithful to one another – but to
T__________ in God alone!
4) #2 The O____________ of people are insignificant. II Cor. 10:18
a) When you stand before God’s throne – Both your opinion
of yourself and the opinions of others will be
I_______________
b) Psalms says “The Praises of Men are lighter than a
V_________________!” Psalm 62:9
c) We live for one thing – the P_____________ of God.
1) If we are overlooked or left “unnamed” – there are two reasons
God chooses to leave us anonymous:
a) To save us from the S______________ of fame….
b) To give opportunity for R______________ from the desire
for recognition.
E. Another related issues with “Man’s Praise” is this – The root of
A_________ IS THE fear of rejection! Proverbs 29:25
1) The fear of man S______________, but the fear of God
F______________!
2) Whoever T_____________ in the Lord will be safe.
3) The fear of man will freeze our A______________ to move with
God!

VII. Chapter 7 – Jesus and the Praise of Man

A. Jesus W______ over the city of Jerusalem as people were praising Him.
B. Unaffected by the praises, He felt His Father’s H________________ over
the people who would not receive Him.
C. When we are E________________ by men’s praises, we lose our
D___________________! Don’t believe your own press!!!
D. Man’s praise will cause us to loose:
1) The ability to D____________ the Father’s agenda.
2) The ability to D____________ the false M_____________ of men.
E. This is the main reason why Christians of “Higher anointing” have fallen
in various traps – the Praise of Men – from even sincere people… The
C_________ of disappointment and the lack of recognition will keep us
from self-D________________.
F. We NEED to hear the inner voice of the Holy Spirit saying to us, “You are
my B____________ child in whom I am well pleased.”
G. Receiving Honor from men:
1) Jesus said, “I do not R__________ honor from men,” Jn. 5:41
2) The Bible says this to us, “looking unto Jesus the
A_____________ and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that
was set before Him – endured the cross, despised the shame-“
Hebrews 12:2
a) Jesus joy was to please His father.
 b) And receive H__________ from His Father
3) Hold out for the H_____________ honor – Just as Jesus did.
Philippians 2:9-11 Look for God’s honor as Jesus did!

VIII. Chapter 8 – How Daniel handled the Praise of Man – Daniel 6:3
A. Daniel was told twice that he was “Greatly B________________ by God.
1. Daniel 10:11, 19
B. Daniel – the semi retired “Secretary of State” of Babylon, the “has been”
for the former King Nebuchadnezzar’s cabinet, only remembered by two
people - God and Queen Mother…turned down all offers by King
Belshazzar…The “Out to Pasture” menial task government worker
avoided being S_________ by the King’s honors, refused all
R_____________ and prestigious advancements! Thankfully, his
discernment was still very much intact…the King and his court would be
dead by morning.
C. Daniel was safe, because he lived only for the honor of G______ could
bestow!
D. When God has a man like Daniel, who is not touched by the praise of
men, He is able to A___________________ His purposes in the earth.

IX. Chapter 9 – The Critical Implications of OVERCOMING:

A. The issues at state in this subject are absolutely crucial in their
significance.
1) If we come to terms with the Praise of Man, we will be guided
toward the path of true Kingdom F_________________.
2) If we lose here, we hazard becoming C________________ in the
war that rages around us.
B. Release of K___________ Authority
1) The first issue is – Will God find worthy vessels with which He
can E________________ the higher dimensions of Kingdom
Authority.
a) There is nothing more D____________ in the kingdom
than someone who has a little bit of power flowing through
their lives, but who is T_____________ by men’s praises…
b) How can God give miracle working power to people who
F_____________ off the praise of men – they will self-
destruct.
c) Jesus P____________ was not that He looked good – but
that His Father looked good. In return the Father honored
Him with M____________.
d) God will A___________ and empower believers who seek
to capture the hearts of others for His Son – Not for
themselves!
2) The Second issue is – The “I” word (Idolatry):
a) When I am “feeding off S____________” other than Christ
– this is called Idolatry.
 b) D___________ the will of the Father was Jesus source of
nourishment and delight – John 4:34
c) Possibly the greatest stronghold in the lives of believers
everywhere – being N__________ by the approval and
honor of men.
d) God wants to be our only S_______________
3) The Third Issues is – Accuracy of Ministry
a) If we speak something from our own hearts, out of our own
resources – we are subconsciously G__________ for the
praises of men. John 7:18
b) The one who speaks the message of God has only one
C___________________ to look good in God’s eyes and
deliver God’s message as faithfully as he /she can.
c) Jesus called such a person “T_________”, or the person
who hit the bulls eye of the target! He/she will be pleasing
in the eyes of God.
4) The Fourth Issues is – Free of all Men
a) Paul said to the Galatians, “Stand fast I the
L_______________ wherewith Christ hath made us free
and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage.”
b) We only live under the D_______________ of trying to
protect what we own…when we have something to lose.
c) When we have nothing to lose (ie, The praise of men) – we
are F______! We can not be:
1) B_____________
2) B_____________
3) C_____________
d) When we no longer R___________________ the praise of
men, we are free of all men. We are free to love all men
equally and unconditionally regardless of their attitude or
action toward me.
e) This is the freedom Jesus died to give us!

X. Chapter 10 – God’s COMMITMENT to Help us Overcome

A. We must recognize that it is possible to impress people and Not have the
full P___________ of God!
B. One exercise would help us to maintain our focus in this endeavor of
“Pleasing God” – that whatever we3 do – it t is for an audience of
O______! II Corinthians 4:5
C. We need to be aware that if we are not careful in our delivery of God’s
message that the listeners can come away – with the wrong message – for
example…
1) Remembering the messenger more than C____________!
2) Becoming more focused on the vessel than even on the
M________________!
 3) We must be careful not to proclaim O______________. No matter
what our position is – Minister, Worship Leader, Youth Leader,
Christian Drama Director – you name it!
D. There is (if we are willing to admit it) something in all of us that
E______________ the attention and praises of people!
1) However, God will not E______________ His Bride to servants who
desire the Bride’s affections! Hegai is a solid example of this – No
personal desires toward Esther whom he served – Esther 2:15
E. God is P_________________ “Spiritual Eunuchs” whom He can entrust
with His Bride!
1) Leaders who will not D____________ the Bride’s affections, praise
and attention.
2) God is R_______________ the mechanism that desires the recognition
of man.
1. The King will find them W_____________ of the highest
entrustment – to feed, nurture, and prepare the Bride for her
wedding day.
F. Hegai – was a True F_______________ of the Bridegroom. John the
Baptist called himself a friend of the Bridegroom….John 3:29
1. Sincere leaders in the church desire to be a T________ Friend to
Christ.
2. A True Friend seeks to P_____________________ the Bride’s
affections for the Bridegroom alone.
3. The Bride needs to be careful not to give her attention to the True
Friend in the A_____________ of the Bridegroom!
4. How many times and ways do we praise the True Friend – instead
of the Bridegroom? And we must know that the B____________
will praise the Friend!
5. The Question then becomes – what will We do as the Friend of the
Bridegroom with this Praise – Believe it, Love it, Look for it,
D____________ in the praise? If we do, we no longer area friend,
but a competitor!
6. The Groom’s S______________ is the Bride’s affections.
G. When our flesh is gratified by the praise of the Bride, Praise of men (both
represent the Church), We should:
1. Be aware of the T______________ of our Flesh and have a sense
of alertness as to what is happening – a check, a sense of pain, a
light goes on – in our head or heart…”watch it!”
2. Now know the extent to which the E______________ of men’s
praise can lead us and pray that God will make us even more
sensitive.
3. Our aim should be as a creed – “I will not receive honor from
men.”
4. As we live in the greater light of His revelation in this arena – we
may often feel we are doing W___________________.
 5. The Victory in this area is not so much as A__________________
as a lifelong journey of Dying to Self.
6. As we give our hearts to serving Him with purer
M______________ - we should not be surprised to sense a deeper
dimension of affection from His heart to ours.

XI. Chapter 11 – HOW should I Praise Other People (three questions.)

A. The three questions are:
1. Should I P_____________ other people?
2. If so, then H______ do I do that properly?
3. And, How should I R_____________ when others affirm and
praise me?
B. Question #1 – We do not S_____________ the praise of other people, but
we DO seek to H______________ and A______________ and
E______________ other believers as much as possible.
1. Honor others in a fitting way – But we do not seek the honor of
people because we do NOT find our I________________ or
F________________ in their praise!
2. Scriptures show us we are to A____________ one another on a
continual basis in these ways:
a) L____________ others – John 13:34
b) E_______________________ others – I Thessalonians 3:2
c) Kindly A________________________ toward others –
Romans 12:10
d) R_____________________ others – Romans 15:7
e) A______________________ others – Romans 15:14
f) T____________________ towards others – Ephesians 4:32
g) C______________ and E_______________ others – I
Thessalonians 5:11
h) E_____________ others daily – Hebrews 3:13
i) C______________ others to stir them up for good –
Hebrews 10:24
j) Have C______________________ for others – I Peter 3:8
k) S____________________ others – Luke 22:32
l) E_______________ others (build up) – Romans 14:19
3. P________________, properly express and received, will
strengthen us in our walk.
a) God has made us to N_______ encouragement from one
another.
b) Praise and affirmation can B_______________ our courage
to persevere in our warfare.
c) God has intended that we H___________ on another
forward with our words.
4. Paul did not withhold his praise from the Corinthian Church (I
Corinthians 11:2) for the things that were right – but for the
 things that were A________ he did not praise them I Corinthians
11:17, 22
C. Question #2 – How should I affirm others?
1. We are to encourage others but we do not want to
F_____________ an individual’s carnality.
2. It is the “Receivers Responsibility” to H______________ the
praise, encouragement and affirmation properly!
3. HOW – Praise and Encouragement must be given with:
a) Discernment – Selectively and C____________________.
b) Strategically – not just for an E___________________
prop!
c) Jesus commended Peter by affirming the Work of
G___________ in Peter…
d) So we should affirm what God is doing in someone by His
G_____________!...even when we see their
S_______________!!!
4. The Apostle Paul always used this form of praise – always giving
God the C__________ for their growth in: obedience, giftings,
giving, faith and expressions of love.
5. In one phrase Paul did two things:
a) Praised their spiritual A___________.
b) Gave ALL the credit to G____________
6. Remember the example: I thank God for” phrase that Paul used
in affirming others.

XII. Chapter 12 – How Should I Respond when Others Praise me?:

A. Remember the first two points in this book:
1. The praise of man is a S_______________.
2. We need to get the victory over the D______________ for men’s
praise.
a) God can not entrust the higher D_________________ of
Kingdom authority and power to vessels that are nurtured
by the praises of men.
b) When we F________ off the praise of men, we are actually
succumbing to I______________ - finding our sustenance
in something other than Christ Himself.
c) It is only as we are free from wanting to
I_______________ people and seek to H__________ God
alone in our ministries that we are able to find true
accuracy in Spiritual Warfare, where our ministry truly
“Hits the mark”.
d) Those who are not touched by the praise of men become
F_________ of all men. There are F________ to love all
men equally and completely, regardless to whether they are
R__________ or loved in return. It is the place of Total
Freedom
B. What should I do – when others affirm me?
1. When others affirm you, the fire it turned high, and the true
A______________ of your heart begin to surface.
2. God will use the C________________ you receive to show you your
heart.
3. When another praises us – we do not receive the praise – we receive
T__________! Example – “Thank you for your love”. We receive the
Person and their love.
4. The Body of Christ will never come to full M________________ and
F____________________ until we receive each other as equal members
of the body! We need to receive each and every member. II Corinthians
6:11-13
C. Review the major points of this book on paged 84-86.