Knowing and Understanding Oneself During Middle and Late Adolescence
Knowing and Understanding Oneself During Middle and Late Adolescence
Knowing and Understanding Oneself During Middle and Late Adolescence
MODULE 1:
Knowing and Understanding Oneself during Middle and Late
Adolescence
Big Question: How can understanding yourself pave the way to self-acceptance and better
relationship with others?
Reading 1: SELF-CONCEPT
Imagine yourself looking into a mirror. What do you see? Do you see your ideal self
or your actual self? Your ideal self is the self that you aspire to be. It is the one that you
hope will possess characteristics similar to that of a mentor or some other worldly figure.
Your actual self, however, is the one that you actually see. It is the self that has
characteristics that you were nurtured or, in some cases, born to have.
The actual self and the ideal self are two broad categories of self-concept. Self-
concept refers to your awareness of yourself. It is the construct that negotiates these two
selves. In other words, it connotes first the identification of the ideal self as separate from
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others, and second, it encompasses all the behaviors evaluated in the actual self that you
engage in to reach the ideal self.
The actual self is built on self-knowledge. Self-knowledge is derived from social
interactions that provide insight into how others react to you. The actual self is who we
actually are. It is how we think, how we feel, look, and act. The actual self can be seen by
others, but because we have no way of truly knowing how others view us, the actual self is
our self-image.
The ideal self, on the other hand, is how we want to be. It is an idealized image that
we have developed over time, based on what we have learned and experienced. The ideal
self could include components of what our parents have taught us, what we admire in
others, what our society promotes, and what we think is in our best interest.
There is negotiation that exists between the two selves which is complex because
there are numerous exchanges between the ideal and actual self. These exchanges are
exemplified in social roles that are adjusted and re-adjusted, and are derived from
outcomes of social interactions from infant to adult development. Alignment is important.
If the way that I am (the actual self) is aligned with the way that I want to be (the ideal self),
then I will feel a sense of mental well-being or peace of mind. If the way that I am is not
aligned with how I want to be, the incongruence, or lack of alignment, will result in mental
distress or anxiety. The greater the level of incongruence between the ideal self and real
self, the greater the level of resulting distress. Personal development modules ultimate aim
is greater self-knowledge that will lead to higher alignment between these two personality
domains.
Experience includes knowledge and skills that we acquire in the process of cognitive
and practical activities.
Knowledge is required for setting goals, defining an action plan to achieve them and
risk assessment.
Skills also determine whether real actions are performed in accordance with the plan.
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If the same ability is used many times in the same situation, then it becomes a habit
that runs automatically, subconsciously. Here are some skills that will greatly increase the
efficiency of any person who owns them:
4. Managing stress. It helps combat stress that arises in daily life from the
environment and other people. Stress arises from the uncertainty in an unknown
situation when a lack of information creates the risk of negative consequences of
your actions. It increases efficiency in the actively changing environment.
5. Problem-solving skills. They help cope with the problems encountered with a lack
of experience. It increases efficiency by adopting new ways of achieving goals
when obtaining a new experience.
6. Creativity. It allows you to find extraordinary ways to carry out a specific action
that no one has tried to use. It can lead to a decrease or an increase of costs, but
usually the speed of action is greatly increased when using creative tools.
7. Generating ideas. It helps you achieve goals using new, original, unconventional
ideas. Idea is a mental image of an object formed by the human mind, which can
be changed before being implemented in the real world. For generating ideas you
can use a method of mental maps, which allows you to materialize, visualize and
scrutinize all your ideas, which in turn contributes to the emergence of new ideas.
These are just some, but the most important personal effectiveness skills which
make the achievement
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REQUIREMENTS FOR PERDEV:
You should have a journal or notebook for PERDEV, in which you will write your reflections, insights, comments and
opinions. You should also have a portfolio for PERDEV, which may be a large brown or plastic envelope, a clear book,
or an envelope bag. This is where you will store all the reflections, research outputs, journal entries, survey
questionnaires, and other written materials and artwork which you do as class work, seatwork, or homework for
PERDEV. At the end of each unit, your teacher shall collect your portfolio and give you a grade based on the
completeness and quality of your work, your class attendance and participation, and other special requirements that
you agree on in the beginning of the semester.
Reminder: Make sure that your journal entry has an INTRODUCTION, BODY, and Conclusion.
1. What have you discovered in yourself? What do you consider as your weaknesses, abilities and
talents?
2. What are the remedies you will take to improve or compensate for your weakness?
3. What are your core strength? What are the qualities you want to hone and improve on?
4. Where and how do you use it so that your strengths and talents will be useful in achieving your
dreams in life?
Reminder: Make sure that your journal entry has an INTRODUCTION, BODY, and Conclusion.