How to Analyze People

How To Read Anyone Like A Book

By Madison Taylor

Copyright 2017 by Make Profits Easy LLC

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 Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1: The Secrets to Reading People

Chapter 2: Becoming a Better Listener

Chapter 3: Reading People for Clues

Chapter 4: What Isn’t Said Aloud: Reading Facial

Expressions and Body Language

Chapter 5: Guessing Peoples’ Hidden Intentions

Chapter 6: Looking at Clues in Someone’s Life

Conclusion
 Introduction

Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to read people like

books? You could know their hidden intentions and true

feelings. You could avoid all miscommunication and
deception. The guesswork would be taken out of social

interaction. This sounds like a dream come true, right?

While it is not possible to read minds, you can get

pretty close to clairvoyance with the tips in this book.

This book is your guide to the fundamentals of reading
people like books. You will learn everything you need to

know about body language, facial expressions, nuances

of speech, and other signs that reveal what a person is
trying to conceal.

It may seem very difficult to figure out what a

person is trying to hide. People may seem like obscure,
impenetrable mysteries. But that is just because you
don’t know the cues and signs to watch for. Once you

learn them, reading people is actually very easy.

Some people make a living out of reading others.

FBI profilers, cops, job interviewers, and even dating
profile matchmakers are excellent reads of character who
are adroit at finding out who people really are without
being told. These people are not in possession of some
secret superhuman talent. Rather, they have mastered
tips and tricks that you can master yourself. This book
will help you become as good as an FBI profiler at
reading other people.

You first have to learn some of the main tells that

people exhibit. These tells not only betray when someone

is lying, but they also indicate what a person is not
saying. Tells give away what a person is hiding inside,

whether or not the person is being dishonest. One of the

best tells is any inconsistency between someone’s talk

and body language. Eye contact is another great tell.

Fidgeting can indicate nervousness.

You can glean a lot of information about people by

what they do directly say, however. People are

surprisingly open. You just have to pay attention.

Learning to read people involves learning to really listen

and absorb what someone says to you.

Furthermore, you must learn to make people want

to open up to you. You can make yourself the type of

person that people want to talk to. You want to project
an aura of caring and compassion that make others trust

you and feel comfortable around you.

There are so many different ways to read people.

From being introspective to carefully observing others,

this book will cover them all.

You may wonder why reading people is so

important. There are countless benefits to being able to

understand the people around you right off the bat. Your

understanding of people can certainly make your life

easier.

For one thing, you can become a more sensitive and

empathetic lover and friend because you understand

people better. You can read the signs of someone’s

emotions and respond appropriately. You will no longer

be clueless about what those around you feel.

You also can avoid a lot of pain and problems by

learning to identify the true intentions of people. Some

people are just bad. Most bad people are good at hiding
it, however. You can see through their ruses and protect

yourself. On the flip side, you can spot good people who
will treat you well. As a result, you can avoid bad friends
and pick good ones. Your dating life will improve as well

as you become more discerning about your partners.

Work can become easier. If you work in sales or

customer service, you will be able to read your customers

for clues about whether or not they are happy. If you

work for clients, you can understand their wants better.

You can become more empathetic and understanding of

co-workers and superiors. This can help you satisfy

people that you work with better.

In addition, you will get along better with your

family. By being able to read your family members, you

can tell what they are feeling and what they expect.

Fights over “nothing” will stop because you will be able

to spot the warning signs that a fight is coming. You will

also be more empathetic, which your family members

will appreciate.

Even on the street, you can become more

discerning about the intentions of others. You can spot

people who mean you harm and take steps to protect

yourself. This is quite important for self-defense.

The life skill of people reading is very helpful and

essential to your success in your social life. Therefore,

you should start learning today. You have started in the
right place with this book.
 Chapter 1: The Secrets to Reading
People

Free Your Judgement

There are many things that can cloud your

judgement when reading people. Biases, intimidation,

and sexual attraction are just some of the things that can
make you choose to ignore your gut and misread
someone. You may think that someone’s harsh actions

are admirable if you admire the person, while their

actions would appear despicable if you did not admire
them. Do not let anything cloud your judgement.

Men are more likely to judge pretty young women

less harshly. They let pretty young women get away with
disrespectful behavior in hopes of winning their favor. If
you are attracted to someone, you are more likely to
ignore red flags about the person. Try to look past sexual
attraction. Understand that there are plenty of attractive
people in the world, so fixating on one person’s

attractiveness is not necessary. You just need to view an

attractive person more objectively. Try to focus on his or
her character as a separate thing from his or her looks.

Status or certain jobs can also make you admire

someone. But understand that someone is not perfect
just because of his or her status. Do not let someone’s
status intimidate you or bamboozle you. In fact, they
probably got to where they are today by being cruel to
others. Read their character separately from their status

or work.

Being in your own emotional funk can really distort

your judgement, too. When you are emotionally down,

you may be harsher to judge others in your state of

bitterness. You may also be more vulnerable to kind

actions from others. Unfortunately, manipulators are

great at spotting when you are upset and offering a kind

action in order to gain favor with you. Do not let your

emotional state make you vulnerable in judgement.

Emotional wounds can make it hard for you to trust

people. This is especially true after you been through a

divorce or bad break-up. As a result, you might judge the

gender that you are attracted to unfairly. You may

instantly dislike all people of that gender. Do not be so

quick to write off people that you do not know. Use your
scars as lessons to read people who remind you of those

that have hurt you in the past, but do not make the

mistake of thinking that the entire gender is bad. Give

individuals a chance. Try to read them for who they are,

not who your ex was.

Don’t Just Base it Off of Behavior

Many people make the mistake of trying to read

people off of behavior alone. But often behavior offers an

incomplete and inaccurate picture. There is so much

going on under the surface that you cannot reasonably

read someone’s inner turmoil based on their behavior

alone. You must consider someone’s biases, mood, and

even the context of the situation. Often, you cannot know

all of this information, so don’t even attempt to read

someone based off of behavior alone.

Sometimes behavior is inaccurate because it is fake.

Many people are great at creating a façade. They appear

totally normal and upstanding, while hiding their

horrendous internal flaws. Think of most serial killers.

Often they go to work, keep nice houses, and look like

totally normal people. The world is shocked when they
are finally caught with a basement full of hacked up

bodies and torture devices. Sexual deviants who get

caught watching child porn are often politicians and

businessmen with great jobs and totally normal outside

appearances. While these examples are extreme, many

people are adept at hiding their bad personalities under

totally normal behavior. Therefore, you cannot base

judgements off of the outward behavior of others, as this

behavior can be faked and misleading.

Create a Baseline

Try to gauge a baseline of someone’s normal

behavior. Watch for unusual mannerisms that a person

often displays. Quirks and habits that you frequently

observe in someone over time form the person’s baseline.

A baseline does not take long to form once you become

more adept at reading people with practice. FBI profilers

will usually gather this information within the first

fifteen seconds of meeting a person.

From this baseline, you are able to tell when

someone is behaving abnormally. When someone is

behaving abnormally, you can determine that something

is going on. Perhaps the person is lying or is upset about
something.

It is difficult to start a baseline on someone if you

do not have a chance to observe him over a period of

time and you are not yet adept at reading people in just a

few seconds. Therefore, it is a good idea to watch for

really odd behavior. Behavior that stands out as unusual

may be a quirk or it may be a sign of something more

ominous, such as deception. You may want to ask other

people who know the person well if this behavior is

normal for him. If you can’t do that, then you simply

must rely on your gut. But do not rely too much on

behavior to form judgements about people.

You can start a baseline just by asking someone

how they are doing today. Watch how the person reacts.

From there, you can determine what his or her normal

mannerisms are. The more you talk, the more you can
gather about the person’s baseline. Does his eye tic

often? Does he often gesticulate with his hands? Does he

stutter normally, or is he normally articulate? Also gauge

the speed with which he speaks in normal conversation

and the tone and pitch of his voice.
 You must establish a baseline in order to tell when

someone is behaving inconsistently. In addition, a

baseline lets you know how a person is in normal

settings. If a person is typically nervous, you can decide if

you want to be around someone who is frequently

nervous and therefore probably insecure with social

anxiety. If a person is typically rude and blunt, you can

determine if you want to deal with that kind of behavior

in the future.

Infer Things from the Initial Reaction

Of course, strangers tend to be tense in their initial

behavior toward you because they do not know you well.

But a person’s initial reaction to you indicates a lot of

information about how he feels about himself and how

he feels about other people. This initial reaction shows

the hang-ups he may have and the guard that he puts up

to protect himself or the façade that he erects to charm

people that he meets for the first time. As a result, this

reaction says a lot about who he is as a person and the

things that you may expect from him as you get to know

him better.
 If he is initially rude, for instance, he may thaw and
become nicer toward you, but you know that at heart he

has his guard up against new people. You can then

wonder why he has his guard up. He is probably a

sensitive and insecure person with a lot of emotional

baggage; he feels that he has to act tough and careless in
order to avoid getting hurt.

Particularly articulate and charming people usually

have a lot to hide. They are great at being around people

and hiding who they really are. They have designed

behavior that is intended to hook people. Very charming
behavior is often indicative of manipulative and

deceptive personalities.

A person who is overly nervous usually has social

anxiety and is rife with insecurities. This person will

probably get more comfortable with you over time.

However, you may want to avoid trusting him too much.

As a general rule, people who are insecure are not
reliable and will act in ways that are not always

appropriate. Insecure people tend to have trust issues

and they will act out in ways that are hurtful because

they believe that they are not good enough. You are not
responsible for the insecurities of another person, so

don’t allow such a person to burden you with his

problems and doubts.

A person who acts too calm is probably also a

sufferer of social anxiety. However, he is adept at

projecting calmness to hide how nervous he is. Become

suspicious of people who are just “too chill.”

Also watch for people who only want to talk about

themselves. People who are obsessed with themselves

and don’t even try to ask you questions about yourself
are typically very selfish. This behavior will not change

with time.

Another behavior that will not change with time is

someone who is negative, even on your first meeting.

People like this are very toxic and will simply try to drag
you down.

A person who talks about others shamelessly when

he first meets you is also probably a chronic gossip. It is

not normal for someone to start gossiping when he first

meets you.

Positivity and enthusiasm are great signs in a

person that you have just met. However, if someone talks
too much of a big game and brags overly much, you can

assume that this person is trying to impress you or even

make up for something that he feels that he is lacking.

Mild positivity and enthusiasm is a great sign, but being

overly enthusiastic is not.

Confidence and assurance of one’s self is a good

sign in a stranger. A person who is willing to introduce

himself to you, look you in the eye, and talk to you is

usually secure in himself. He has developed good social

skills and hence might be a more sensitive friend, lover,
or work associate. While you want to be wary of people

who are too smooth and charming, someone who acts

normal yet confident is usually a good person to know.

Ask Pointed Questions

If you want to get to know someone, feel free to ask

him questions about himself. He will probably volunteer

a lot of the information that you want to know. You don’t
even have to ask him things to find out a lot of

information about who he is as a person, what he likes,

and what he is looking for from his association with you.

This is why you should be a good listener, which I cover

in the next chapter.
 But if he does not volunteer what you want to
know, then ask. It is best to ask pointed questions and to
not be vague. If you are vague, you run the risk of

miscommunication. As an adult, there is no use or time

for games anymore. You know that you cannot be a mind
reader and neither can anyone else. So ask what you

want to know without shame.

You do not want appear like you are interrogating

someone. Asking rapid-fire questions can really put a

person off. Asking overly personal questions about

someone’s life, family, or personality is also off-putting.

But do not be afraid to ask general, socially acceptable
questions whenever there is a break in the conversation.

Monitor a person in how he answers your

questions. Since you have already more or less

established a good baseline, you can tell when there are

inconsistences in his responses. If his gestures, tone,
pitch, or eye contact suddenly shifts away from his

baseline, then you can tell that he is not being truthful or

that a question makes him uncomfortable for some

reason. You can change the subject or pursue it more,

depending on your goal in communication with him.
 Word Choice is Important

How a person talks indicates a lot about what he is

feeling and thinking. Listen for key words that indicate

his intentions and his basic state of mind. The words that
he chooses say a lot about how he is as a human being

and what he is really feeling at the moment. If you are

meeting someone for the first time, remember that the

initial meeting speaks volumes about who a person is

inside. How he chooses to speak to you right off the bat
indicates a lot about who he is generally.

Someone who uses very harsh, aggressive language

is an aggressive person or else he is currently in an angry

mood. You never want someone to show you anger when

you first meet; this indicates that the person may have an
anger management problem.

Someone who uses very vague wording is possibly

passive aggressive and trying to skirt around a hard

subject. This type of person is not able to be direct.

Expect games and behavior like shirking responsibility.
If this person wrongs you, he will probably never admit

to it and apologize. If he has a problem with you, he will

probably never tell you to your face, but rather will hint
about it or tell everyone else how he feels except for you.

Another troubling sign is when someone repeatedly

says sorry or seems to take the blame for things. This
type of person is very sinecure and blames himself for

everything.

Someone who uses conceited language, such as

bragging about how he just won “another” award,

indicates how proud he is of himself. Watch for people

who brag too much about themselves. These people are

usually narcissistic and egotistical or else they are over
compensating for feelings of inadequacy.

A person who uses very critical language is

probably an overly judgmental person or a perfectionist.

Watch for someone who nitpicks everything. This is a

trait that will not lessen with time. If anything, it will

only grow worse with time.

Most people use “I” terms more frequently than any

other. This is not a troubling sign, but someone who uses

more “we” terms is a better team player who is looking to
collaborate with you. Someone who uses more “you”
terms is focused on you. This can be a great sign that
someone is focused on pleasing you and getting to know
you, or else it can be a worrisome sign that someone is
trying to manipulate you. Watch for other word choices

in order to tell the difference. If someone is asking you

about what you like or who you are, then that is usually a
sign that he wants to get to know you or find out how to
best please you. This is a great sign in a date, a new
friend, or a person that you are thinking about hiring for

a service. But if he seems to be fishing for pertinent

information with overly personal questions, if he keeps
trying to find ways that he can commiserate with you so
that you will confide in him, or if he is using fancy
language and flattery to make you feel ingratiated and

charmed by him, then that is a bad sign that he is trying

to get an emotional hook into you in order to manipulate
you.

A good sign that someone is being shifty is vague

language. Someone who refuses to answer yes or no
questions is probably lying. Someone who uses confusing
language is probably deliberately creating a sort of
mirage of vagueness in order to hide something.

What is Unsaid Says a Lot

 Studies suggest that ninety-three percent of human
communication is unspoken. Since this is such a huge
topic, I have dedicated an entire chapter to reading the

tonality, body language, eye contact, and other nonverbal

cues of other people for clues about what they are really
trying to say. You can gather a lot of information about
people from what they don’t directly say, so read on to
Chapter 4.
 Chapter 2: Becoming a Better
Listener

Becoming a better listener is the best thing that you

can do when you want to read people. People are not
always great at communication. Without meaning to,
they often miscommunicate their needs or wants. But if
you are very careful and astute listener, you can find out

all the clues that people leave around and create a more
complete picture of what people are trying to say to you.
By becoming a better listener, you also make people want

to open up to you. They will want to talk to you more and

tell you things. You will become the person that everyone
wants to confide in, and then you will bear a lot of

pertinent information about people.

Create an Aura of Caring

If you project that you care, people will trust you

and feel at ease around you. They will be more inclined
to talk to you and confess intimate things to you.
Creating this image that you are a caring person involves
making yourself look trustworthy and interested.

Body language is important in this endeavor. You

should also lean toward the person who is talking. Hold
eye contact. Nod now and then. You can cross your legs
to indicate that you feel comfortable, but avoid crossing
your arms as this makes you appear closed off. Try
having a more open stance instead, with your chest

facing the person that is speaking to you. Of course

always look at the speaker with a normal level of eye
contact to show your deference in listening.

You also want to show genuine interest. Nodding is

one way to do this. Frequently murmur in an assenting

or sympathetic way. You can input enough of your own

words to keep the conversation going, but it is important

to not talk too much. The focus needs to be on the other

person.

Stop talking about yourself. As a human being, you

will want to talk about yourself. It is natural. But to be a

good listener, you should keep the entire conversation

focused on the other person, at least while he or she is

talking. Not talking about yourself or constantly trying to

turn the conversation onto yourself will make you appear
like a better listener.

Mirroring is another way that you can make

someone feel at ease around you. I will cover mirroring

more in the next section.

Mirroring

You can set people at ease by mirroring their

physical movements. Basically you just want to copy

whatever someone does during conversation. If someone

leans forward, lean forward about four seconds later. If

someone leans back in his seat, lean back in your seat.

Matching your breath to the same rhythm as

someone else’s is a subliminal form of mirroring that

often will set a person at ease. The person won’t even

know why he feels so comfortable around you. But he

will and he will open up.

It may be hard to do this if you are not close to

someone. Just notice when his chest fills with air and
inhale at the same time. When his nostrils inflate with

exhalation, exhale as well.

Ask Questions
 Get a person to talk about himself. Since people

love to talk about themselves, asking lots of questions

will make people happy in conversation. Keep the

conversation focused on the other person and ask him

plenty of questions to keep him going. If he is telling you

about work, for instance, be sure to ask lots of questions

about his job. Keep your questions calm and insert them

at natural moments or lulls in the conversation to avoid

looking like you are interrogating him.

If someone is passionate about something,

definitely start asking him questions about his passion.

This is a great way to get someone to open up to you. It

also makes people want to talk to you. You can get to

know people just by finding out what they like and then
asking a few questions about it to get them talking.

Asking also is better than mind reading. If you want

to understand someone, ask him what he is thinking. Ask

him what he really means when he says something that

you don’t quite understand. Don’t attempt to play the

mind reading game because this is how

miscommunication can arise. Clear all

miscommunication by asking questions instead.

 Reduce Distractions

Nothing makes you look like you don’t care as

much as you being distracted. Put your phone away.

Don’t stare at the TV. Don’t stare out the window or try

to eavesdrop on other people. Give your full attention to

the person that you are currently speaking to. Everyone

that you speak to will feel valued and appreciated as a

result. You will become more liked.

You will also free yourself of distractions so that

you can devote all of your energy to the conversation.

This makes you a better conversationalist. You are better

able to listen and retain information. You are better able

to remember what is said. You can think of appropriate

responses to keep the conversation from going flat or

awkward.

Summarize What was Said

After a person tells you something, it can help to

offer a recap to show that you were listening and to make

sure that you got everything understood correctly. Your

summary can be brief; you don’t have to regurgitate the

entire conversation. But a brief recap can help both you

and the other party assure that you listened well and the
conversation was properly understood. It also assures

the other party that you cared enough to reiterate.

Recognize what is Unsaid

A large part of human communication is silent.

What someone does not say in person is often said in

other subtle ways, such as through sighs, long pauses,

tear-glistening eyes, raised or lowered tone and pitch of

voice, and tense body language. Notice when someone is

not saying and ask if everything is OK. If the person

doesn’t want to talk about what he is not saying, then

don’t press the issue. But carefully watch his body

language and eye contact to try to gauge what he is not

telling you. I will cover using body language to read

people more in Chapter 4.

Don’t Think Ahead

You may race to think ahead about what to say

next. You think that you know how the conversation will

go and what the person will say next, so you think that

you can decide what to say ahead of time. Unfortunately,

you are not a mind reader. Your predictions will often

prove inaccurate. Prevent confusion or embarrassment

by holding your tongue. Only decide what to say when it

is your turn to speak. Then you know what was fully said
and you are able to make an informed and suitable

response.

Be Careful about Interrupting

Typically, it is wise to never interrupt. When you

interrupt someone, you invalidate what he is saying. You

can insult and even anger people by interrupting them. It

is best to just wait your turn to speak.

However, there are times when you must speak out

of turn. One good time is when the person you are
speaking to begins to get overly emotional. You should

interrupt politely to offer him reassurance and tell him

that he should not be so upset. Another time is when
someone is talking about making a very foolish mistake.

You can interrupt to offer cautionary advice. But be sure

to only pick times when it is necessary to interrupt.

Otherwise, avoid doing so, no matter how excited you are

to jump in with what you have to say.

Determine if You Should Add Input

Sometimes, it is OK to just sit there and listen. Few

people ever do this, so you will stand out as a good

listener should you do this. By being silent, you allow the

person you are speaking to the opportunity to

unabashedly open up. He can vent and tell you all and
you will absorb it all.

Other times, your input is required. People rely on

for advice, for instance, or they need you to offer some

words to show your interest. Wait for certain pauses in

conversation when the person seems expectant. This is

when you should add input.

A friendly conversation or a conversation where

you are trying to get to know someone is usually a back
and forth. This is when your input is absolutely required.

You seem like a stick in the mud if you don’t contribute

to such conversations. A conversation where someone is

explaining something to you or venting about his life is

when your silence is required.

As a human being, you have certain social instincts.

You should follow these instincts. You also know the

person that you are speaking to and the nature of your

conversation the best. Listen to your gut about when to

speak and what to say.

Remember Things
 Remembering what people say to you is a crucial

part of listening. If you can reiterate what someone says

to you later on, you can prove that you were listening.

You can continue the conversation where it was left off if

you get cut off. You can also retain important
information that someone imparts to you about him- or

herself.

It is easier to remember everything when you

genuinely care about it. But what if you don’t care? Or

what if you have a lot on your mind so you have trouble
retaining information in the short term? The human

mind chooses to dump any information that it does not

find relevant and important to your overall life. Let’s face

it, a lot of the conversations you have are not that

relevant or important. Therefore, it is hard to remember
what you hear in conversation all of the time. Shocking

or really important things might stick with you, but other

details quickly fade away. You can certainly improve

your ability to remember conversations by using some of

the following tricks.

One trick to remembering what is said to you can

be to think that you will narrate this whole conversation

to someone else later on. While this may not be true, it
tricks your mind into remembering what someone says
to you better.

Another trick is to memorize important images that

stand out to you in the conversation. If someone talks

about what she expects from a lover, assign images to the

things she says. You can assign flowers to romance, for
instance. Then, you will be able to remember a series of

images better than a long string of words.

The mind is often good at remembering emotions

above all else. Therefore, you should try to remember the

emotional textures of the conversation. What made the
speaker very sad? What made you sad? Adding

emotional charges to the conversation can help you

remember its main themes better.

Now what about little details when you are getting

to know someone? Things like birthdays are easy to

forget. You are welcome to note these things down in a

notebook or a notepad app on your phone while the
details are still fresh in your mind. You can even whip

out your phone and ask someone their birthday. This is

one time when getting on your phone will make your
conversation partner feel valued. He will love that you
are trying so hard to remember a simple detail like his
birthday.
 Chapter 3: Reading People for
Clues

First Impressions

First impressions are typically accurate. You should

listen to your gut. Your subconscious mind is adept at

picking out clues about people that your rational mind
cannot possibly pick up on. Your gut will tell you the
most accurate information about someone right off of the

bat.

After you make a first impression, you may try to

rationalize it. You may try to explain away negative

feelings as poor judgement or jealousy. You may think

that you read a person wrong. While these are vaguely
possible, you will usually find out that your first
impression was right in the end.

A good example is when you first meet a woman

that you would like to be friends with. But your gut
reaction to her is that she is not very nice. You decide to
give her a chance since everyone else likes her and you
get along after a while. After a while, however, you
realize that all she does is say mean things about other
people. Or she may betray you after years of friendship.

Your first impression is often all you have in

business and situations like speed dating. So trust it.
Your first impression is most likely correct, so act on it if
you do not have time to get to know the person further.

Red Flags

There are some major red flags that automatically

tell you that someone is toxic. When you observe these
traits or habits in someone, you know that someone is

not good to be around. Run away when you spot these

red flags. Do not try to somehow rationalize or justify

these traits, as they are serious signs of underlying

emotional issues or sociopathy.

Easy to Anger

A person who is easily ignited has anger problems.

One day you will probably be the victim of his anger if

you are not careful. Therefore, you should avoid people

who are angered easily.
 A history of violence is one sign that a person is
easy to anger. Another sign is if he seems to demonstrate

an angry posture. He will talk about fighting people or

getting angry. He will immediately appear angry over the

tiniest setbacks, such as his food being late at a

restaurant.

Blaming Others

Right off the bat, you will notice if someone

frequently blames others for what is wrong in his life. He

will tell you all about how he is a victim. He will

complain about how his ex-spouse cheated on him and

brought about the divorce, he will blame getting fired

recently on the fact that his former boss is just a huge

jerk, and he will blame his recent car accident on the

other stupid driver. Nothing will ever be his fault. He will

claim that everyone else is responsible for his problems.

And he will have plenty of problems to talk about. He

will always be a victim.

Someone who plays the victim will probably one

day accuse you of doing something wrong to him. He will

never see how he is at fault. He will certainly never own

up to his own bad actions or offer you any kind of

apology.

Constant Complaining

A person who is very negative will just ooze that

negativity through his speech. He will constantly

complain about everything. It will appear as if the world

is against him and nothing in life is good or worth doing.

Just being around this person too long will make you feel

depressed.

Sadly, many people are like this. They only see the

bad in life. You can assume that a person like this will
only bring you down. You will never be able to lighten

someone like this up because he chooses to stay in a

depressed mood.

Gossiping and Two-Facing

Some gossip is just human nature. Once you know

someone well, a little bit of gossip now and then is

normal. It is not a warning sign.

But when you first meet someone, the first thing

you hear should not be a bunch of gossip about other

people. A person who sits there talking about everyone

else has a gossiping problem. He is obviously two-faced.
Don’t be fooled and think that you are the only one that

he gossips to. Once you leave the room, he will start

gossiping about you.

If someone gossips a lot, you want to watch what

you say around him. You do not want to reveal too much,
or it will become public information in two seconds. You

also do not want to let his negativity sour you against

other people. He will try to make you hate everyone else

with the juicy, horrible details that he shares, but

remember that gossip is rarely true. Even if it is, you do

not have to be a part of this gossip’s drama.

Women have the worst reputations as gossips. But

men can be just as bad. Anyone who talks about other

people a lot is a gossip. Be careful around such people.

Lacking Compassion

Have you ever met someone who laughs when

other people fall? He seems to get some sick satisfaction

from the suffering of others. Even if he doesn’t snicker at

other people, he never demonstrates any remorse or

compassion. When he speaks about other people, he uses

very callous and cold language. When you point out

someone’s bad luck, for instance, he will snort and say

that it is the person’s own fault. This is the sign of a

sociopath or psychopath. This person is very dangerous

and certainly not the type of person that you want in

your life.

The average person is capable of at least some

compassion in conversation. He will feel bad when you

mention that you are going through tough times or when

someone falls, for instance. Someone who does not show

any compassion and just ignores you or offers a callous

remark when you say something that calls for

compassion is not someone that you should associate

with. If you do associate with this person, never expect

him to show you compassion when you need it.

Things to Read

What He is Driven By

People are driven by various things. They will

usually show what drives them by talking about it. For

example, someone might say that he wants to go out to

pick up chicks. Obviously sex drives him. Someone who

frequently talks about money and making money is

driven by financial security and wealth. Someone who

talks about socializing a lot is an extrovert who is driven
by having social interaction.

What drives a person can indicate what he wants

from you. Read a person’s language to gather clues about

what he wants in life. His drive can indicate why he is

seeking any sort of relationship with you, either

professionally or personally. It also indicates what is

important to him. If your goals align with his, then a
relationship is a great idea. Otherwise, you may want to

steer clear of this person.

What Feeds His Ego

Watch a person’s ego to find out what feeds it. A lot

of people are fed by accomplishments, such as making
money or finishing a tough marathon. Some people are

fed by flattery and being the object of desire. Some

people are fed by sex and interactions with the opposite

sex. What feeds someone’s ego is apparent by what he

talks about the most and what makes him smile.

Also, watch his responses to life situations. If a

member of the opposite sex flirts with someone and his
or her ego blossoms, you can assume that he or she has

low self-esteem and requires lots of sexual attention to

feel good. If he brags about his boat and other material

possessions, you can tell that material success is what

makes him feel complete.

If someone has a fragile ego that is fed by

superficial things like material possessions and sexual

attention, you can be sure that he has little confidence.

The issues that come with insecurity are thus probably

prevalent in this person. He will also do things to satisfy
his own ego, and will chase after things and make stupid

decisions just to keep his ego buoyed. Expect vices in

someone like this.

But if someone’s ego is fed by more solid things,

such as his own accomplishments or the love of his

family, then he is probably a secure and reliable person

with healthy confidence and wholesome interests. You
can trust someone like this to be a more solid companion

in business or in your personal life.

What Stresses Him Out

Watch out for someone’s stressors. Everyone has a

source of stress. What a person complains about the
most usually indicates what causes him the most

emotional stress. If he complains about family,

communication, commitment, and not always getting his

way or not feeling loved may cause him stress. If he

complains about work, his line of work and the tasks that

he must do are probably not well-suited to his

personality. If he seems to get quiet or upset in large
crowds, you can assume that large crowds are not his

forte.

Knowing what stresses someone out is very useful

information. You can learn what to avoid doing around

someone. You can become more sensitive to what
someone does not like and also to situations that a

person does not function well in. This is great

information to know if you hire someone to work for you

or if you begin dating someone.

What Pleases Him

People will go on and on about what makes them

happy. You will most likely find out what makes
someone happy relatively early in conversation. But you

can also look for clues in what makes someone smile or

what someone fixates on with dilated pupils.

This is also useful to know. You learn what you can

do to please someone. This can make you a better lover,
friend, or even employer and co-worker.

How Does He Behave Under Stress

How someone handles stress says a lot about how

he will treat you when things get hard. Life can throw a
lot of challenges your way, so you usually want people

around who can handle stress well. If a stressful situation

arises and someone literally falls apart or gets fiercely
angry, just know that he is probably not a reliable friend

during times of stress. He is also not a good prospect in a

stressful line of business. On the other hand, if he is able

to remain calm and collected under stress, he is someone

that you can rely on in the future.
 Chapter 4: What Isn’t Said Aloud:
Reading Facial Expressions and
Body Language

Leaning

People lean forward to things that they like or feel

attracted to you. It is a good sign when someone leans
toward you. If someone is really listening to you or really
likes you, he will lean toward you or position his torso to

face you.

However, if someone leans his torso away from

you, that indicates that he is going through some type of
stress. Either he does not like what you are saying, or he
is having some sort of negative reaction to you as a

person. This reaction is also not always directed toward

you. You may also notice someone pulling away from you
and leaning away from you if he receives bad news in a
text message or phone call or sees something that
distresses him.

Hands
 Really watch someone’s hands. What he does with
his hands indicate a lot about what he is feeling. His
hand movements are an even better indicator of
deception than his eye contact.

Fidgeting or constant hand movements indicate

intense nervousness. If someone tries to make
smoothing gestures with his hands, he is probably lying.
If he is balling his hands into fists, that indicates

aggression.

Fidgeting and Pacifying Gestures

Fidgeting is a sign of nervousness and emotional

distress. Picking at one’s nails, rubbing one’s thighs or

forehead, and scooting around in one’s seat are some of

the forms of fidgeting that indicate that someone is

experiencing some sort of emotional duress. This

emotional duress may be related to the conversation. It

may be because he is lying to you and feels guilty and

nervous about getting caught. It may even be because he

is going through something bad in his life and it is

manifesting even though he is trying to focus on talking

to you.
 Especially watch for pacifying gestures. This is any
kind of rubbing or smoothing motion that a person

performs on his own body. When someone rubs himself

in any way, he is trying to soothe himself. Consider what

he may be trying to soothe himself about. If you are

talking about his job and he starts rubbing his forehead

while telling you that everything at work is stellar, you

can assume that there are problems in his work life. If he

repeatedly rubs his thighs while bragging about what a

great guy he is, you can safely assume that he is thinking

of all the ways that he has been a bad guy and he is trying
to soothe his guilt. When you bring up a subject such as

divorce, you can tell that someone is distressed by the

topic by his sudden influx of pacifying gestures. A person

who is constantly trying to pacify himself during a

normal conversation is probably socially anxious.

If someone touches the crook of his neck, this is a

gesture of discomfort and even fear. The throat is

vulnerable, so when a person grabs at it or touches the

crook of it, this is a self-defensive gesture. This gesture

can show that a person feels threatened by you or

someone else that he is talking to. Also, this gesture is

most common in women rather than men. Watch for
women who perform this fidgety gesture around their

husbands or boyfriends as a clue about abuse.

Facial Expressions

Facial expressions essentially leak someone’s

internal emotions. This leakage is very hard for people to

control. Most people can’t control it and their initial

reactions to things will flash across their faces before

they regain control and put on their normal social mask

of a smile or serious frown.

If you bring up a subject and you notice that

someone suddenly clenches his jaw or furrows his brow,

you can assume that the subject upsets him in some way.

A person who attempts to act serene or happy yet keeps

clenching his jaw is probably either an aggressive person

at heart or has something upsetting on his mind that he

is not telling you about. Tense facial expressions in

someone’s baseline often indicate that someone is

naturally tense and aggressive, insecure, or often

depressed.

If you notice a brief smile, you can tell that

something brings someone great pleasure. Watch for

brief flashes of mirth when you are talking about

upsetting or serious subjects. This can indicate that a
person gets sadistic pleasure from the upsetting subject

matter. This is a troubling sign of sociopathy or

psychopathy. Alternatively, if someone can’t hide his

mirth at a serious matter, you can assume that he doesn’t

take things seriously and lacks proper respect.

Facial expressions tend to leave their marks on

people’s faces. Most people adopt a general mood based

on their outlook on life. This general mood is reflected in

a general facial expression. As people wear certain

expressions over time, these expressions carve

permanent wrinkles or grooves into their facial tissue.

People who are often depressed will have frown lines in

their brow and on either side of their mouths. People

who are generally jovial will have laugh lines and

dimples from smiling. People who are often angry will

have tense lines around their eyes and a hard gaze. Lines

along the top of the nose can indicate someone who is

frequently wrinkling up his nose in disgust and hence is a

very critical and judgmental person.

Silence
 If someone takes a long pause, clears their throat,

or falls silent, then they are trying to think of what to say.

They may be stalling for time as they manufacture the

best response. They may just be waiting for you to offer

guidelines about where the conversation should go.

Silence is not always bad. You should listen to your

gut about it. If there is an uneasy vibe with the silence,

then you can safely assume that the silence is not natural
and easy. If there is a comfortable vibe, don’t doubt that

and make yourself nervous. You can enjoy silence with

someone if it feels right to you.

Eye Contact

Eyes are considered windows into the soul because

of the wealth of information that they provide about a

person’s emotional state and feelings toward you. Eye

contact helps maintain emotional connection between

people. Changes in eye contact can break the connection

or show problems within it.

When someone closes his eyes, this is a sign that he

is thinking really hard about his response and is stalling

for time. This does not necessarily mean that he is

thinking of a lie. But it can mean that this subject is

difficult for him to talk about, either emotionally or
mentally, and he needs time to think of the perfect

words.

A lack of eye contact can indicate that someone is

not comfortable in what he is telling you. This is not

necessarily a sign of deceit. It could just be a sign of

nervousness or shyness. It can also be a sign that

someone feels ashamed of something. A lack of eye
contact is often cited as an accurate way to spot

deception, but in fact good liars are perfectly able to

maintain normal eye contact while lying. Eye contact is
not the best gauge of deception.

Piercing eye contact can make you uncomfortable,

and for good reason. Someone who looks into your eyes

too piercingly is likely searching you for information. He

may be trying to force a connection on false grounds. Too

much eye contact is a better indicator of deception than

lack of eye contact, as a matter of fact.

Pupils

Another clue that eye contact can offer is pupil

dilation. If someone’s pupils dilate around you, that is a

sign that he likes you or likes what you are saying.

During a business meeting, you may notice that your

client’s pupils dilate when he hears that he is about to

make bank on a new product if he chooses to invest.
When you are trying to sell something, pupil dilation

indicates that someone is interested. Watch for pupil

dilation in your dates, too, to tell if they really like you.

Pupil constriction means the opposite. When

someone’s pupils constrict, he isn’t happy with what he
sees. He is displeased and pulling away emotionally. He

may be upset and bothered or seriously offended. Watch

for pupil constriction in people when you bring up

unpleasant subject matter or when a gruesomely violent

scene occurs during a movie.

Breath

Someone’s breathing rates indicates his heart rate.

His heart rate indicates his emotional state. Someone

who is calm will have normal, level breathing, while

someone who is upset will have more rapid breathing.

Do not read too much into breath, however. Some

people have health issues that affect their breathing
rates. Exercise, high wind, allergies, and other factors

can all make someone breathe heavily around you.

However, you cannot ignore things like heavy exhales or

sharp inhales. These indicate someone’s immediate

emotional response to something.

A sharp inhale often shows that someone is

shocked or surprised. A long, heavy exhale means that
someone feels defeated and is under intense emotional

distress. Often a liar will make this exhale when he has

been caught in a lie.

Walking

How a person walks suggests a lot about his

confidence and what he is feeling. A confident person

walks with big, firm gestures and keeps his spine straight
and his head held up straight. You want to deal with

confident people, as they know how to take care of

themselves.

Less confident people will shrink into themselves.

Their shoulders will be hunched, their heads will be held
down, and their spines will be slouched. They will

probably shuffle along, trying to avoid attracting too

much attention.

A person who is sad may also walk like this. A

happy person will bounce along, showing his joy in big
movements. An angry person will usually be tense, with
his fists balled up and his shoulders forced up.
 Chapter 5: Guessing Peoples’
Hidden Intentions

Deceit

Wouldn’t it be nice if you could tell when people

are lying to you? Your lie detector will become much

stronger if you watch for these signs in people. Once you
are able to determine when people are lying, you possess
a great deal of power. You can really encourage honesty

and you can offer consequences to the liars in your life.

Most people do lie. The worst liars in your life are

probably people that you actually know quite well. Your

significant other is shown in studies to be the most likely

to lie to you. From little white lies to keep the
relationship healthy to big lies about where he or she was
last night, you can expect your lover to lie. But family
members and friends and business partners are all
equally capable of lying as well. Many people use
deception as a means for survival; lying is shown to start

as early as infancy. You don’t have to tolerate lying,

however. Demand that people respect your intelligence
and treat you with integrity and honesty.

Difference from the Baseline

Marked differences in someone’s behavior from his

usual baseline is a good indicator that deception is going
on. His gestures, body language, eye contact, and tone
will differ from the usual. You will wonder why he is
acting so strangely. The likely answer is that he is being
less than truthful with you.

Quavering Voice

Someone who is nervous and suffering from a lot of

emotional tension will have a quavering voice. It is

difficult for most people to tell bold, direct lies. So when

they do, they have a lot of trouble talking to you directly.

They won’t want to speak in a normal, confident tone

because they lack confidence in what they are saying.

Sweating

Lying takes a lot of effort. The thought of getting

caught is quite scary. Therefore, a liar is often under

intense emotional stress while lying. He will start

sweating. You will notice beads of sweat forming on his
face, particularly along his brow and temples. If he
frequently wipes at this sweat to hide it from you, that is

an even greater affirmation that he is lying.

Grooming and Cleaning Gestures

A liar can feel dirty from his lies if he has a

conscience. Therefore, he will try to placate his sense of

dirtiness by performing grooming gestures. He may

smooth out his tie or the wrinkles in his pants. He may

pick at his nails, inspecting them for cleanliness. He may

even groom his hair or facial hair. The key to watch for is
when he does these things while talking to you. His

grooming habits will interest him much more than

looking right at you.

In addition, neatening or organizing things while

talking to you also indicates deception. A liar will

straighten out stacks of paper on the desk in front of him

or will preoccupy himself with cleaning things while

avoiding looking at you. A lie can make someone feel

disorganized, as someone attempts to straighten out his

story. Therefore, his efforts to create a neat and tight

story will manifest in him organizing things around him.

Mismatched Cues
 His gestures and body language will not match his

words. He may be saying that he is happy, but the

unhappy droop in his shoulders will alert you otherwise.

He may be saying that he is not lying to you, but

meanwhile he is hiding his hands from you.

Usually people are consistent between their

nonverbal and verbal communication. Inconsistencies

are cause for alarm. When an inconsistency exists,

someone is experiencing a mismatch between what he

says and what he feels. This is a good sign that he is not

telling the truth. You can spot even tiny white lies this

way.

Mismatched Verb Tenses

Most people tell their stories in a specific order:

back story, main content, and aftermath. Most people

will use the past tense, since the story occurred in the
past. If at any point during the story someone switches to

a different tense, namely the present tense, then you

have a good indication that something is not entirely

truthful in the story that he is telling.

A person will switch to the present tense because

his mind is busy manufacturing details in the present as

he tells the story. Therefore, the present tense often
indicates that a story is not truthful. Rather, it is made

up on the spot.

Descriptive Vagueness

Remember how I said liars have a tough time being

direct? A liar will be very vague in his language because

he has trouble being direct due to his lack of honesty.

Therefore, watch for intentionally vague language and

word choice.

For instance, if you are accusing an employee of not

locking the doors to your store last night, she may lie and

say, “But I swear that the door got locked.” Notice how

vague that statement is. She doesn’t directly say that she
herself locked the door. She uses the passive term “got

locked.”

A liar will try to remove himself from blame or

from a situation that he does not want to be implicated

in. He will do this with more passive language. A person

who is being honest will usually use more direct and

non-passive language.

Lessening the Impact

 A liar will try to lessen the impact of what he is

being accused of by choosing words that carry softer

connotations. Someone who is lying may choose a word

like “taken” over “stolen,” or “stepped out” instead of

“cheated.” He will pick words that make what he did

seem less offensive. This is his way of trying to lessen the

impact of what he did and trying to convince you that

what you are upset about is not that big of a deal. He is

essentially trying to take the heat off of himself. But don’t

fall for this.

Defensiveness

A liar will get defensive if you confront him. Instead

of just saying that he is being honest, he will try to

manipulate you into feeling bad for doubting his honesty.

He will say things like, “Why wouldn’t you believe me?”

or “Would I lie to you?” He may also act angry and ask

why you have the nerve to question his integrity.

Some key terms to watch out for include:

“Why would I lie?”

“Would I ever lie to you?”

 “You know me. I’m not a liar. And I hate the
accusation.”

“Have I ever lied to you?”

“Why wouldn’t you believe me?”

“You can believe me or not. It’s your choice.”

“I swear to God/I swear on my mother’s grave.”

“You won’t believe me, I know, but I wouldn’t lie

about this.”

An honest person may get defensive too. But this is

because he is desperate to get you to believe him. He will

probably say things more like, “I am being honest,” or “I

am an honest person. Please believe me.”

Sharp Exhale

A sharp exhale can indicate when someone has

been caught. If you confront someone about something

and he sharply exhales, you can assume that he is

probably guilty. An exhale is an automatic reaction that

many people have to getting caught in some sort of lie or

other action. It is a sign of emotional distress, often guilt.

Clusters of Actions
 Often, a single action does not offer very much

information about someone. But clusters of actions can

really tell you if someone is lying. A liar will usually have
more than just one tell. Watch for several aberrations in

behavior to clue you in on his honesty.

Manipulation

Have you ever met a seemingly really nice person,

then find out that he or she is just using you? After a

while, you start to notice that you are being manipulated.

You get that yucky feeling that you don’t matter to the
person. Well, you can avoid that yucky feeling altogether

by recognizing when someone is manipulating you.

Manipulators are typically emotionally stuck in

childhood. They have never developed the proper adult

skills of communication. Because of how they were
raised, they found that playing games were more

effective at getting them what they wanted than just

asking. But they never outgrew this and adjusted to

normal adulthood. Now, they feel that they must play

games.

On the other hand, some manipulators are

sociopaths. They have literally no empathy or

compassion for others. They view other people as tools

that they can use to their own ends.

No matter why someone is manipulative, you do

not deserve that kind of treatment. You are not a pawn

for someone to use. You should learn to identify this
behavior to avoid a lot of problems and hurt in the

future. Remember that you can never change a

manipulator. Besides, it is not your job to heal or change

a manipulator.

Flattery

A manipulator will be great at making you feel like

you need him in your life. He gets an emotional hook
into you by first making you feel like you depend on him

for your happiness. He will flatter you and charm you

until you just can’t get enough.

However, this flattery is all fake. Somewhere in

your gut you will probably feel that is fake. Whether you
feel that eerie sense that something is not right or not,

just be very wary of someone who is too nice.

Lots of Small Favors

 Watch out for someone who is extremely generous
right after meeting you. Usually a stranger is not so nice.
Therefore, a lot of small favors is a bad sign. It means

that someone is trying to put you in his debt. He is doing

you a lot of favors to get you to feel like you must do
things for him in return. He is essentially collecting

favors to call on for later.

Threats

The other trick that a manipulator uses is getting

you to feel too scared to do anything without him in your

life. Whether he is a romantic partner or a business

partner, he will use threats to make you feel like only he
would want to be around you. He will make it seem like

you are a horrible person and only he is able to put up

with you. He will do this so that you feel as if you cannot

do anything without him. You feel that he is the only one

who will tolerate you, so that you never leave the
situation with him.

A manipulative person will start doing this

relatively quickly after meeting you. He knows that in

reality he is a terrible person with little to offer you.

Therefore, he will want to ensure that you never leave
him and move on to someone better for love, business,
friendship, or anything else.

Drama

A manipulator will try to create a lot of drama in

your life. By creating drama, his aim is to get you to

relent to what he wants just to end the drama. He tries to

make your life miserable until you give in.

He may also try to create drama in order to drive

away your loved ones and friends. That way, he can

isolate you. When you are isolated, you are vulnerable.

You have no one to protect you or tell you that you are
being treated wrongly. A manipulator likes to have you in

this spot so that he can exploit you.

Guilt

One of the most powerful human emotions is guilt.

Guilt will make you do things just to escape the feeling.
Manipulators understand this fact. As a result, they love

to use guilt to make you feel bad so that you do what they
want. They are fantastic at making you feel guilty just for

being alive.
 If someone frequently makes you feel guilty or
ashamed, then you are being manipulated. No one who

cares about you will make you feel this way. A stranger
certainly has no right to make you feel this way. Watch
for people that frequently bring up your mistakes, tell

you that you are a bad person, or tell you that you are
somehow inadequate. Watch for people who act put

upon when you ask them to do things, so that you feel

guilty just for asking. These are all signs of manipulation
and you should run far away when you encounter them,

especially in people that you just meet.

Behaving Unbearably

Another form of manipulation is when a person

throws a childish fit rather than acting like an adult. He

will sulk, pout, yell, or otherwise act like a jerk until you
do what he wants. He gets his way by making you
miserable. You finally do what he wants just to get him to
stop.

An example of this is when you want to go to a

certain restaurant to meet someone. He doesn’t really
want to go there. But instead of telling you that, he

comes along to the restaurant and then pouts the entire

time. He makes you so miserable that you finally just
want to leave the restaurant.

He Won’t Tell You Things to Your Face

If a manipulator is unhappy about something, he

will not have the strength to tell you to your face.
Instead, he will tell everyone else in the world but you.
He will make sure that it gets back to you through other
people how unhappy he is. In this way, he tells you how

unhappy he is without having to tell you himself. He

avoids confrontation in a very chicken way.

For example, someone might tell you that he is

happy to work for you late. But then he complains to the
entire office about how you shoved off your workload on
him. You find out how unhappy he is to work for you
from everyone in the office. He could have just told you

no to your face.

Lying

A manipulator is usually also a liar. If you

frequently catch someone lying to you, you should watch
out. You do not need liars in your life. But usually a liar

brings loads of other problems along with him.

 Refusing to Take Blame

If someone does something bad to you, you will

naturally want to confront him. But if he immediately
twists what he did to you to seem like your fault, then he
is manipulative. He will be adept at making you feel as if

everything is your fault. He will have an amazing way of

always escaping blame. Also, he will never, ever admit to
wrongdoing and he will never say that he is sorry for
anything.
 Chapter 6: Looking at Clues in
Someone’s Life

When it comes to reading people, sometimes you

cannot learn a lot about a person based just on how he
acts on a first meeting. Behavior can be extremely
deceptive, especially during a first meeting when
someone is putting on the charm for you. But watching

someone’s behavior over time and observing someone’s

past for clues about their general behavior can give you a
lot of clues about a person’s real personality.

Past Behavior

You should get to know a person the best that you

can. That way, you can observe patterns in his general
behavior. You can also hear more and more stories about
his past, as well. Generally, someone will open up to you
and tell you about his past. From his past behavior, you
can gather a lot of clues about who he is.

A long string of bad relationships or several

divorces are one warning sign that he is unable to be a
sensitive and communicative lover. It is likely that he is
unable to learn from his mistakes, as well. If he has a lot
of enemies, that suggests that he is a hard person to get
along with and he may be a traitorous personality. A
history of spending money frivolously, large amounts of
debt, poor financial decisions, and gambling indicate
poor planning and an inability to handle his life.

Someone who frequently gets into trouble with the law

by fighting or other behavior has poor impulse and poor
emotional control. If he frequently bails on plans and
doesn’t demonstrate any follow-through, then he is

probably not someone to trust with any serious

commitment in business or even romance and family.

One thing to really watch out for is someone who has

kids with many different people. This shows a huge lack

of responsibility and an inability to commit.

It is true that people can change. Just because

someone screwed up when he was younger does not

mean that you should judge him for the rest of his life.

However, repeated behavior indicates that he never

learned from his mistakes. This is very troubling. Even if

he says that he has learned his lessons, his repetition of

the same mistakes is living proof that he has not. Watch
for repeated mistakes or very recent mistakes that show
that he has not really changed.

Earlier I mentioned that you should never judge

someone based off of behavior only. While this holds

true, repeated behavior is something that you can safely

judge. A person who does the same things over and over

is likely rooted in such behavior. Watch how someone

frequently acts around you. Watch for patterns in

behavior. Patterns should never be ignored.

Reputation

What other people say is not always reliable. You

can’t believe everything that you hear on the rumor mill.

Sometimes, people will have a vendetta against someone

and will spread vicious rumors. Sometimes, just one

person is able to spread enough false information about

another person to create his bad reputation.

But usually, a large number of people don’t

conspire against one person. If you hear several people

say the same thing about someone, you might want to

listen. It is probably true. A person gains a reputation

over time by doing the same thing to many people. A

reputation is a good thing to pay attention to. The odds
are that if someone is repeatedly bad to other people, he

will be bad to you.

Meanwhile, a good reputation is an encouraging

sign. Someone who gains a reputation as being honest or

nice is usually really that way. However, don’t rely on

reputation alone. Someone may be good at pulling the

wool over everyone’s eyes. You might be able to read bad

things in him that no one else can. Trust your gut in this

scenario. Just because everyone else likes someone does

not mean that you should, too. Sometimes the most

upstanding citizens are hiding very dark secrets and

underneath their honest reputations they have dirty

souls.
 Conclusion

Now you know how to read people like a book. Your

life will become so much easier now that you have

finished this book and learned the critical life skill of
reading other people.

You can become a better person by knowing how to

read people. Reading people allows you to develop

empathy. You can tell what others are feeling and

respond accordingly. Your sensitivity will make you a
more responsive and caring lover, parent, friend, and

family member.

You can also protect yourself better from the harm

of people with bad intentions. When you are able to read

people, you are consequently able to spot people that will
not benefit you. Before you get too far into a relationship
of any nature with someone harmful, you can see what
the person is about and prevent further harm from

happening.

When it comes to choosing a good friend or lover,

you are now better able to pick people that are good for
your life. You can spot those that actually care for you
and have the capability of treating you well. You can pick
lovers and friends that have good track records.

All of these benefits are now yours. Thanks for

reading.