Questions
1. How does your spouse respond when you try to show affection?
2. On a scale of 0–10, how full is your love tank?
3. Can you pinpoint a time in your marriage when “reality” set in?
How did this affect your relationship, for better or worse?
4. What would you most like to hear your spouse say to you?
5. What in your marriage detracts from spending quality time?
6. Reflect on ways to give gifts even if finances are tight.
7. Many acts of service will involve household chores, but not all.
What are some non-chore ways of serving your mate?
8. Recall some non-sexual “touching times” that enhanced intimacy
between the two of you.
9. Do you think by now you have a good sense of what your
spouse’s love language is? How about them for you? What more
could you do to explore this?
10. A key thought here is the idea of speaking our mate’s love
language whether or not it is natural for us. Why is this so
fundamental to a healthy marriage?
11. What does your spouse do to make you feel more “significant”?
How about what you do for them?
Recommended Reading
If you like The 5 Love Languages, you may also enjoy the following
books:
Awaken The Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of
Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny by
Anthony Robbins
Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He
Desperately Needs by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in
Personal Change by Stephen R. Covey