CHAPTER I

Self-Awareness

A. Objectives:
1. Define self-awareness and Self-Concept.
2. Discuss the importance of the development of social self.
3. Practice concepts of self-awareness in their daily lives.
4. Imbibe values as key to good citizenship.
5. Be aware of the values that will aide them in being empowered as NSTP students

SELF-AWARENESS AND VALUES DEVELOPMENT

B. Self-Awareness and Personal development Through Human and Basic Values

Introduction
Many of us have pretty low level of self-awareness. With the busy schedules, it might be difficult to
find time to think about our strength and weaknesses, drives and personalities, and habits and values.
Besides, many of us are just not inclined to spend much time on self-reflection. Even when feedback about
ourselves is presented to us, we are not always open to it, because honest feedback is not always flattering.
Self-awareness opens doors to our spiritual growth. We have all the answers to the questions about
our lives and what we have to do is to learn how we can have an access to our wisdom.
It begins with self-awareness by paying attention tour many senses, thoughts, feelings and intuition.
We should going deep into our emotions to tap their sources. We should see our thinking and how it creates
our reality. Then we can discover our deepest essence.
Increasing our level of self-awareness therefore, empowers us to make different choices. Not that it
will automatically do things differently. After all, some habits can be avoided. But over time, as we build up
our levels of catching ourselves doing wrong things, we will have the choices to alter our behavior, eventually,
before the next decision making comes.
So, in order to assess what you do, you must first become aware of where you place your inner
intention, what you are feeling and thinking about. The more frequently you do this, the more natural and
habitual it will become, and the more you will give yourself a chance to truly change your behavior.
C. Durations : 4 hours
D. Materials
Crayon
Bond paper
Pentel pen
Glue
Manila paper
Scissors
Masking tape

E. Methodologies:
a) Self-learning study
b) Exercises
c) Practice tasks
d) Post test evaluation

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PART I
Inputs:
Self Awareness
What is self-awareness?
According to Goleman, perhaps the most important emotional competence is self-awareness-knowing
ones internal state, preferences, resources and intuitions.
The great philosopher Aristotle said that knowing and understanding one’s self is the key to true
knowledge.
What is true knowledge then?
It is knowing who you are, what you are in this earth for, where you are going, and how you can get
there. (Herrera, M.M., Coloma, T.M.)
Life will not be meaningful unless we know and understand what our reasons are for being in this
world.
Sometimes people become irrational individuals. We are not aware of what we are, we are not aware
of what we have, we are not aware of the persons surrounding us, we are not aware what are happening in
this world, we are not even aware of the persons who care for us.
It has been said that self-awareness is very important to an individual in knowing himself.
Webster’s medical dictionary defines self-awareness as an awareness of one’s own personality or
individuality. The American heritage dictionary defines self-awareness as the awareness of oneself, including
one’s traits, feelings and behaviors. Stedman’s medical dictionary states that self-awareness is the realization
of oneself as an individual entity or personality.
Self-awareness offers a sure sue rudder for keeping our career decisions in harmony with our deepest
value. The less aware we are of what makes as passionate, the more lost we will be. (Daniel Goleman)
According to Tao Tzu, “knowing others is wisdom but knowing yourself is enlightenment.” Awareness
is the first step in the creation process. As you grow in self-awareness, you will better understand why you
feel what you feel and why you behave as you behave. That understanding then gives you opportunity and
freedom to change those things you would like to change about yourself and create the life you want. Without
fully knowing who you are, self-acceptance and change become impossible.
Having clarity who are you and what you want (and why you want it) empowers you to consciously
and actively make those wants a reality. Otherwise, you will continue to get “caught up” in your internal
dramas and unknown beliefs, allowing unknown thought processes to determine your feelings and actions.
If you think about it, not understanding why you do what you do, and feel what you feel is like going
through your life with a stranger’s mind. How do you make wise decisions and choices if you don’t understand
why you want what you want? It’s difficult and chaotic way to live never knowing what this stranger is going
to do next.
When we want good, solid information, we turn to the experts. So whom are you going to turn to for
information about yourself? Who’s the expert? Does a friend, a therapist, your hero, your spouse, your
parents, know more about you than you do? They can’t. You live in your skin and mind 24 hours a day, 7
days a week, and 52 weeks a year. Day in and day out. No one’s closer to you than you.
Self-awareness includes recognition of our personality, our strengths and weakness, our likes and
dislikes. Developing self-awareness can help us to recognize when we are stressed or under pressure. It is
also often a prerequisite for effective communication and interpersonal relations, as well as for developing
empathy for others.

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 In our experience, self-awareness is the key that unlocks the riches of life. We have all the answers
we need to the questions of our lives right inside of us. All we have to d is to learn how to access our own
wisdom. This begins with self-awareness. Paying attention to our many senses, thoughts, feelings and
intuition. Diving deep into our emotions to tap their sources. Seeing our thinking and how it creates our reality.
Discovering our deepest essence. They all begin with self-awareness.
Another psychotherapist outs it as “bringing to the conscious mind of understanding of the compulsion
that pushes us around”
Marilyn vas Savant, simply calls it, “the art of waking up”, or realizing what you really are and why you
do the things you do, in the way you do them.
The following poem illustrates the continuing search of man for himself: (palispis). Asses how you
picture out yourself in this concern.
WHO AM I?
Who am I? Who am I?
My Clothes? My look? My mode?
Am I just a thing?
No!
Am I my parents? Brothers? Friends?
Am I they?
I think I am different from them
Just who am I? Am I my name?

My face? My bones? My breath?

My feelings? My thoughts? And memory?
Each of them is part of me.
But not me.

Who am I really? What is the truth?

I’m alive, enthusiastic, free and unique
Above all, like God, I live.
All this I am – my innermost being.
Who am I? Who am I?

Process Questions:
1. What the poem is all about?
2. What is the tone of the poem?
3. To whom the speaker is speaking, or in other words, who is the audience?
4. What is the purpose of the poem?

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Key Areas of Self-Awareness
Human beings are complex and diverse. To become self-aware, we should develop an understanding
of ourselves in many areas which includes the following:

1. Personality
An understanding of our personality can help us find situations in which we will
Thrive/survive, and help us avoid situations in which we will experience too much stress.
2. Values
Values are qualities that we cherish as reference for our actions and behaviors in particular
situations.
3. Habits
These are the behaviors that we repeat routinely and often do automatically.
Although we would like to use them to help us interact effectively with and manage others, we can
probably identify at least one of our habits that decreases our effectiveness.
4. Needs
(connect Maslow’s hierarchy of needs and other psychologists’ psychological needs)

Needs cause motivation, and when needs aren’t satisfied, they can cause frustration, conflict and
stress. One of the advantages of knowing which needs exert the strongest influence in our own
behaviors is the ability to understand how they affect our interpersonal relationship.

5. Emotions
Understanding your own feelings, what cause them, and how they make an impact to your
thoughts and actions are indications of emotional self-awareness.

From the journal of rehabilitation, does self-consciousness affect how a person thinks or behave in
different situations? Social scientist and psychologists have studied this question for over a century and many
have said, “yes, it does.”
For instance, giving a presentation, interviewing for a job, and inviting someone on a date are common
situations that will likely cause a person to feel more aware and sometimes self-critical. After such an event,
the person may feel quite negatively about his or her appearance and performance. “I was terrible” “Now they
will never hire me!” “I looked foolish!”
It has been exhaustively discussed among scholars that inherent to such self-concious events lies a
“fulcrum” of awareness that balances a person directly between the anxiety provoking experience of self as
both object and subject.
One of the things in knowing yourself is being aware of who you are and what you are to your
community. You can improve your characteristics and personality to make yourself become an asset to your
family and the nation.
Your image of who you are is called self-concept. It is composed of feelings, thoughts, strengths and
weakness, abilities and limitations. The self concept develops from three sources as presented by Chaun
(2002): a) other’s images, b) social comparisons and c) interpretations and evaluations:

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Other’s images

How do significant others see me?

Self-Concept

Interpretations/ evaluations Social Comparison

IMPORTANCE OF SELF-AWARENESS

Understanding the way your self-concept develops increases your self-awareness. The more you
understand why you view yourself as you do, the better you will understand who you are. One way to gain
self-awareness is by using the Johari Window of the self as noted by Chaulan, (2002).

The Johari Window was invented by Joseph Luft and Harrington Ingham in the 1950’s as a model for
mapping personality awareness. By describing self from a fixed list of adjectives, then asking friends and
colleagues to describe you from the same list, a grid of overlap and difference can be built up.

There are four (4) selves that represent each human person:

Know to self Not known to self

Know to others OPEN SELF BLIND SELF
Not known to others HIDDEN SELF UNKNOWN SELF

 The Open Self – represents all the information, behaviors, attitudes, feelings, desires, motivations,
ideas and so on, that you know about yourself and that other also know about you.
 The Blind Self- represent information about yourself that others know about you do not.
 The Unknown Self- represents those parts of yourself about which neither you nor others know.
 Hidden Self – contains all that you know of yourself but keep hidden from others.

THE IMPORTANCE OF THE DEVELOPMENT OF SOCIAL SELF

The development and molding of an individual usually begins in the family. The kind of people around
you and your environment where you grew contribute to what you become.

Generally the human infant is born helpless, ignorant and without any sense of self. The self arises
in a process of social interaction and social activity. This start from birth when parents hold their baby and
attend to his needs. Normally, the child becomes the center of family, warmth affection and care and so that
he becomes egocentric or self-centered. If love and warmth are not sufficiently given, emotional deprivation
results (Perucci and Knudsen, 1983:150). The baby learns that certain gestures like crying, smiling and
reaching out will elicit responses from those around him. He is, initiated into learning the language of the
group. He can feel the love and warmth of the people around him as much as others like negative or positive
attitudes.

Within two years, the child develops a kind of crude self-awareness. Aiding him in acquiring a sense
of self is his being named and singled out from other persons (Lidesmith, Strauss, Denzin, 1977:312). At an
early age among the most significant socialization activities are those that have to do self. Through his contact
with mother, father, brother, sister or the yaya, he gradually sees himself as an object. In this relationship,
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the parents apply certain cultural expectations or standards that child has to internalize as he matures. He
then discovers that some of his demands are met while others are not. In the course or his more extensive
and complex social relations with his family, and later with his playmates, the child becomes more aware of
the points of view of other persons. He finds out that other points of view are often at variance with his own
and must be taken into account.

Children playfully imitate the role others like those father, mother, brother, sister, teacher, and
playmate. As they play home (bahay-bahayan), school (skwela-eskwelahan), or selling and buying (tinda-
tindahan), they develop the ability to see themselves from the points of view of others. A child’s playing the
roles of others has parallel in actual life in his interactions with parents, relatives, playmates and schoolmates
and gradually he adjusts his own behavior to the expectations of others. Often, he identifies himself with
persons who have been influential or important in shaping his self-image. These are sometimes called
“significant others”. They become models of behavior for the child. When the child has developed the ability
to grasp the role and attitudes of other persons and visualizes himself through the eyes of others, he has
already acquired a social self.

This is what Cooley (1952) calls the “looking glass self.” Cooley wrote: As we see.., our face, figure
and dress in the glass, and are interested in them because they are ours, and pleased or otherwise with them
according as they do or not answer to what we should like them to be. So, imagination we perceive in
another’s mind some thoughts of appearance, manner, aims, deeds, character, friends, and so on, and are
variously affected by it.

Three elements that are involved in this looking glass self:

1. Our imagination of our own appearance to other person.

2. Our imagination of his judgment of that appearance.
3. Some sort of self-feelings such as pride or mortification.

This means that things one sees, experiences and perceives affect the social development of his
being an individual.

THE DEVELOPMENT OF EMOTIONAL COMPETENCE

Emotional competence in the workplace spells the difference between the outstanding performer and
the poor or mediocre performer.

Emotional competence builds one’s emotional intelligence. Cooper and Sawaf (1997) define
emotional intelligence as the ability to recognize emotions and use these as source of human energy,
information, connection and influence.

FIVE BASIC ELEMENTS OF EMOTIONAL COMPETENCE

(Goleman, 1998)

1. Self-awareness – knowing what the feelings are at the moment and using preferences to guide our
decision-making having a realistic assessment of our own abilities, and well-grounded sense of
confidence.
2. Self-Regulation – handling our emotions so that they facilitate, rather than interfere, with the task on
hand, being conscientious and delaying gratification in order to pursue goals or recovering well from
emotional distress.
3. Motivation – Using deepest preferences to move, guide us toward our goals, to help us take initiative
and strive to improve, and to persevere in the face of setbacks and frustrations.
4. Empathy – Sensing what people are feeling, being able to take their perspectives and cultivating
rapport and attunement with broad diversity of people.
5. Social Skills – Handling emotions well in relationship, accurately reading social developments and
lead in disputes for cooperation and teamwork.

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Goleman points out that our emotional intelligence determines our potential for learning the practical
skills. To excel in the workplace, a person has to develop emotional competencies. Emotional
competence is a learned capability based on emotional intelligence that results into outstanding
performance at work. Emotional competence shows how much of that potential we have translated into
day-to-day activities and on-the-job competence based on self-regulation, or handling impulses and
emotions as well. Both customer service and trustworthiness are competencies that can make people
outstanding in their work.

In knowing oneself, there is a prerequisite of honestly and courage; some people are not prepared to face
the truth about themselves. For example, a student may use his perceived self-image as a fun-loving
person as an excuse for doing poorly in his school grades. In reality, he is a procrastinator, and puts off
doing his homework or studying for the exams till the last minute.
When you know you who you are, you may have to change and some people just do not want to change
because changing demands effort. Self-awareness requires honesty and courage to get in touch with
what we are thinking and feeling and to face the truth about ourselves.

There are benefits of self-awareness: the better you understand yourself, the better you are able to
accept or change who you are. Being in the dark about yourself mean that you will continue to get caught
up in you own internal struggles and allow outside forces to mold and shape you. As we move toward the
21st century, knowledge based economy demands that we upgrade our knowledge and skills to keep up
with ever-changing society. However, the starting point should be knowledge of oneself as unique
individual and how one relates to this new economy. The clarity with which you can answer these
questions: “Who am I” “Where have I been?” “Where am I going?” determine your capability to chart your
own destiny and realize your innate potentials.

In the realistic view of self-awareness, do not think of yourself more highly than you should. In other
words, don’t adapt the attitude of superiority. Rather, have a realistic view of both our strengths and
weakness if we are to know our true selves. How we see ourselves may be clouded by the feedbacks we
receive about ourselves from others. But how could anyone know about you more than you? They do not
face the issues that you wrestled with. No one could know you better than you! Therefore, do not let
others lookdown upon you?

Some people may not be prepared to face the truth about themselves. Therefore, everyone must be
prepared to listen to others, especially the significant others. Allow them to re-examine your own
perceived self-image. There are no perfect couple and there are no perfect parents. Nevertheless, from
a practical viewpoint, our parents who gave us life have the opportunity to observe us at close quarters
over many years, would have a clearer insight of our character more than anybody else. You don’t have
to accept their view but at least listen to them.

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Name: ______________________________ Date: _________________
Course/Year&Section: ________________ Score: ________________
Activity No. 1
Telling you Who You Are
TASK A
1. Draw your favorite item that is valuable to you in 3 min.
2. In another two (2) minutes each, share to your group what your drawing means to you.
3. Talk about your positive and negative experience likes and dislikes, and aspirations related to what
you have drawn.

Task B
Direction: Draw your left right hand: on each finger put a label that best describes yourself.

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Name: ______________________________ Date: _________________
Course/Year&Section: ________________ Score: ________________

Activity 2
A Journey to a Good Life
Instructions:
A. On the activity page make a drawing that would show and Ideal Day in life you would like to have 5-
10 years from now. Be as creative and imaginative as you can. Consider the following questions in
your drawing.

a. Who are you?

b. Where are you?
c. Whom do you live with?
d. What are you doing?
e. How do you feel about your life?
B. Creatively/ artistically fill up the following circles using any coloring material and pencil.

What made
me aspire me
for such life.

What kind of What made

life do I like me aspire me
to have?. for such life.

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Name: ______________________________ Date: _________________
Course/Year&Section: ________________ Score: ________________

Activity 3. Pick the five or six words that you feel best describe you, from the list below.

Able Accepting Adaptable Bold Brave

Calm Caring Cheerful Clever Complex
Confident Dependable Dignified Energetic Extroverted
Friendly Giving Happy Helpful Idealistic
Independent Ingenious Intelligent Introverted Kind
Knowledgeable Logical Loving Mature Modest
Nervous Observant Organized Patient Powerful
Proud Quit Reflective Relaxed Religious
Responsive Searching Self-Assertive Self-conscious Sensible
Sentimental Shy Silly Spontaneous Sympathetic
Tense Trustworthy Warm Wise Witty

a. Now that you’ve picked five or six words, choose a partner from among your classmates and share
honestly your responses on the given instructions.
b. A volunteer may share his responses to the whole class.

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Name: ______________________________ Date: _________________
Course/Year&Section: ________________ Score: ________________
Activity 4:

1. Using the activity sheet, complete the statement that start with I am… in 10 different simple answers.
2. Ask for volunteers to share their most important answers.
3. Let them focus on the question: “Do I have the freedom to change myself?”

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Name: ______________________________ Date: _________________
Course/Year&Section: ________________ Score: ________________

Activity 5: SELF AWARENESS QUESTIONS ON IDENTIFYING OWN SELF

(Use the activity sheet for your answer)

1. What are my strengths? What are my weakness?

2. How do my friends describe me? Do I agree with their descriptions? Why or why not?
3. What specific elements were present when you felt that way?
4. How can I be a better person?
5. What of my personal and unique gifts have I taken for granted?

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 CHAPTER II

VALUES DEVELOPMENT

Objectives:

At the end of the chapter, the students should be able to:

1. Cite different values and their application.

2. Discuss values in the light of one’s own experience
3. Conceptualize values and their importance.
4. Discuss common values and their importance to one’s life.

Values are personal perceptions of one’s own future, relatively of the family, works, friendship,
group, community and nation as a whole. They converge in on culture and form sets of attitudes and
behaviors observed among members. Traditionally, these are practices which have become part and
parcel of our culture.

Values sprout anywhere as living example of one’s culture and tradition. In the Philippines, values
for things held dear are sources of status symbol, like; wealth, economic status, authority, politics,
and even personal ambition. With these in the background, self-enhancement should be live and
observed with strong sense of honor and pride.

Our values are behind all our human goals. They are linked with all human and basic needs. They
emerge in the course of time through our exposure to people and different life conditions. We may be
driven by unexpressed and unconscious of our values, regularly reflecting them or, we may be offer
short term benefits or driven by momentary desires. Or we may be purposely choosing the values
that propel our growth. The choices we make determine the quality of the life that we go through.

THEORETICAL FRAMEWORK FOR VALUES DEVELOPMENT

Various theories and perspectives are utilized in this chapter to provide a framework for values
development. These concepts include:

1. Human values as ideals which determine our priorities and direct our behaviors.
2. Human ideals as they reflect different levels of needs. (The goals that we pursue relate to the
satisfaction of these needs.)
3. Human pursuit for the ultimate and highest values as they relate to the spiritual nature of man.
4. Human desire much of which is unconscious desires be subjected to reflective thought.)
5. Human ideals as pursued individually and collectively.

HUMAN VALUES, PRIORITIES AND BEHAVIORS

On what concerns do you spend considerable amount of time and energy?

The decisions that we make automatically and consistently reflect the things that really matter to us.
Our values can be identified by the priorities that drive our choices and behaviors. We recognize our priorities
by the patterns which indicate those concerns on which we act repeatedly and consistently.

According to psychologist Brian Hall (1994) who has been doing research on human values for more
than 25 years, human values cover a spectrum of ideals which comprise the basic elements that stand behind

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all human behavior. Hall defines values as, “the ideals that give significance to in our lives and reflected
through the priorities that we choose and that we act on consistently and repeatedly”. These ideals are what
we consider to be important and desirable. These ideals mediate between our inner world images, hopes
and dreams, on one end and the external world of what can be observed everyday in our behavior, on the
other. These values, therefore, determine our priorities in the decisions we make and the actions that we
choose. Since we pursue these values as priorities, we act on them, repeatedly and consistently.

At this point, it is important to make a distinction between cognitive values and active values. It is a
reality that majority f use share common value ideals with others like honesty, integrity, kindness, being
others-oriented and many more. But we may not be pursuing these as our priorities such that these ideals
do not take shape as part of our distinguish characteristics. These are cognitive values that we hold on to.
These may be spiritual values like faith, hope and love. Or these may be moral values concerned with human
welfare, justice and fairness. On the other hand, the values that determine our priorities in the decisions that
we make and the actions that we choose repeatedly and consistently are active values. Our active values
direct our choices and are, therefore, evident in our day-to-day life.

HUMAN IDEALS REFLECT DIFFERENT LEVELS OF NEEDS

What levels of needs do your priorities reveal? Do you pursue values that satisfy booth foundation
and ultimate needs?

The ideals that give significance to our lives reflect different levels of needs. According to Moslow
(1993), there are at least five (5) sets of goals related to the basic needs of a person: physiological, safety,
love and belongingness, esteem and self-actualization

MASLOW’S HIERARCHY OF NEEDS

 Physiologic needs. Primary needs for food, water, rest, sleep and other biologic requirements to keep
the body healthy and fit.
 Safety needs. A broad concern for safety and stability in the world, security from environment hazards,
assault, tyranny, etc,:, being assured of adequate provisions such as having a job with tenure,
retirement and other privileges, savings, insurance f various kind, being in a predictable and familiar
environment, and so on.
 Love and belongingness needs. Being in a mutual relationship of affection, caring and nurture with
one’s significant others.
 Esteem needs. Self-respect that is firmly based on capacity, achievement and respect from others.
Satisfaction of the self-esteem needs leads to feeling of self-confidence, worth, strength, capability
and affirmation of being useful and necessary in the world.
 Self-actualization. Becoming more and more what one is, and what one is potentially capable of
becoming. The person is basically satisfied in all his or her needs, and functions to the fullest and
healthiest creativeness. He or she pursues ultimate values and timeless principles based on a
discerned, unique purpose in life.

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MASLOW’S HIERACHY OF NEEDS

SELF-

ACTUALIZATION

ESTEEM

LOVE AND BELONGINGS

PSYCHOLOGICAL / SAFETY NEEDS

PSYCHOLOGICAL / BIOLOGICAL NEEDS

Figure 1: Maslow’s Theory of Human Needs in a hierarchy.

We may then classify values into two levels: foundation values and the ultimate values.

Foundation Values
The foundation values relate to the satisfaction of the basic or fundamental for life to be sustained
and to achieve a relative state of health. The foundation needs which are classified as physiologic, safety,
love and belongingness and esteem must be met to attain health. Health is multi-dimensional; it involves the
biological, physiological, social and spiritual realms and it is essential to self-actualization. Thus, a very basic
expectation for getting an employment is to earn a living to meet our biological needs. We strive harder at
securing material provisions and safe physical environment. We build or nurture meaningful relationships
with significant others. We fulfill certain religious obligations. We gain proficiency in various areas and assume
multiplicity of roles.
Ultimate Values
There have always been people through the ages who have paused, pondered and asked questions
like: what is life all about? What are we here for? Are we here for our own sake? What is human life meant
to be? People who seek to answer such questions move on to the ultimate matters of life. They are concerned
with ultimate values. They recognize that foundation needs are means to an end. Maslow (1971) described
self-actualizing people as those who work at something they have been destined for, which they work on and
which they love, so that the work-joy dichotomy in them disappears. The being or ultimate values which are
intrinsic are the meaning of life for them. One devotes his life to the law, another to justice, another to beauty
or truth. These “being” “values include self-actualization, truth beauty, goodness, perfection, simplicity,
comprehensiveness among others. These values taste and feel better than the lower ones and these are
those that self- actualizing people seek. With “being” values, the order of priority is determined by each
individual in accordance with his own talents, temperament, skills, capacities, etc. and not arranged in a
hierarchy of prepotency. As pointed out by Maslow, it means experiencing life fully, vividly, selflessly, with full
concentration and total absorption. Self-actualization is both a process of actualizing one’s potentialities and
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an end state. As a process, the person looks within himself/herself honestly. One finds out who she/he likes
does not like, what is good for him/her, what is bad, where is she/he is going. He/ she takes responsibility to
be one’s own self and finds the courage to give up defense. He/she allows the self to emerge, progressively
making choices that are constitutionally right for himself/herself, considering his/her temperament, and
biochemical balances, and so on. One must listen to the impulse voices and let the self emerge. It is about
making each of the many single choices about whether to lie or be honest, to steal or not to steal. At each
point, there is progression choice and regression choice. There may be choices towards defense and safety,
but generally, choices made are growth choices. The process of actualizing one’s potentialities can occur at
any time, in any amount. It may mean going through an arduous and demanding period of preparation in
order to realize one’s potentialities. It means working to do well the thing that one wants to do, to be good as
one can be.

LIVING VALUES

1. Cooperation – one who cooperates receives cooperation. The method to give cooperation is to use the
energy of the mind to create vibrations of good wishes and pure feelings for others and for the task.
By reaming detached, objective and influence by innermost values and not external circumstances,
subtle cooperation in the form of wisdom emerges.

Human achievement is like a mountain range with cliffs, crags, slopes, and valleys. To aim for
excellence in collective achievement is to climb to the crowning point. The endeavour require each
climber to be equipped with essential skills and knowledge and good amounts of determination and
will power.

2. Freedom - Full freedom functions only when rights are balanced with responsibilities and choice is
balanced with conscience. The most potent power to put an end to internal and external wars is the
human conscience.

Freedom is a precious gift which promises an experience of liberation and the feeling of no limits as
if the earth, the skies, and the seas are at one’s service!

The concepts of freedom and liberty have fascinated human beings. One of the greatest aspirations
in the world is to be free. People want the freedom to lead a life of purpose, to select freely a lifestyle
in which they and their children can grow healthy and can flourish through the work of their hands,
heads and hearts.

3. Happiness – Through the power of truth there is wealth, and through the power of peace there is health
together they give happiness. Happiness is earned by those whose actions, attitude and attributes
are pure and selfless. Paradise, Heaven, Aquarius, El Dorado, the Garden of Eden, the Garden of
Allah, Utopia, the Fields of Osiris and the Golden Age are names by which a world of peace, purity
and prosperity has been remembered. In such a place, each human being is like a flower, a country
like a bouquet of flowers, and the world like a garden of flowers. The sun the sustainer, shines upon
the garden with golden rays, flooding it with newness and mobility. The Gate of Happiness stands
open, welcoming the human family to the Golden Garden. In the past, the world was such a garden.
It will become that again. Simply to have the faith is cause for celebration.

4. Honesty – is a clear conscience “before myself and before my fellow human beings”. Honesty is the
Awareness of what is right and appropriate in one’s behaviour, and one relationship. With honestly,
there is no hypocrisy or artificiality which creates confusion and mistrust in the minds and lives of
others. Honesty makes for a life of integrity because the inner and outer selves are a mirror image.
Honesty is to speak that which is thought and to do that which is spoken. Some think “I am honest,
but no one understands me”. That is not honest. Honesty is as distinct as flawless diamond which
can never remain hidden.

5. Humility – is found in a vast ocean of still waters which run very deep. At the bottom lies self-esteem. At

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 first, going within ocean is like journeying into an unknown area of immense darkness. But, just as
exploration can lead to buried treasures, one who is searching his or her inner world can find jewels
buried into depths. And the jewel buried deepest which shines the brightest and gives the most light
is humility. At the darkness moments, its rays penetrate the darkness. It removes fear and insecurity
and open up the self to universal truths.

6. Love – is not simply a desire, a passion, an intense feeling for one person or object, but a consciousness
which is simultaneously selfless and self-fulfilling. Love can be for one’s country, for cherished aim,
for truth, for justice, for ethics for people, for nature, for service or for God. Love flows from truth, that
is, wisdom. Love based on wisdom is real love, not blind love; and to discover the secrets of love is
to watch the secrets of life unfold.

7. Peace - The challenge to peace normally presents itself in the question “ Are human beings by nature
violent or nonviolent?” If the answer is violent, then the concept of peace becomes non-existent.
Peace has become a popular cliché. Peace consist of pure thoughts, pure feelings, and pure wishes.
When the energy of thought, word, and action is balanced, stable and nonviolent, the individual is at
peace with the self, in relationship, with the world.

8. Respect - begins within the individual. The original state of respect is based on awareness of the self as
a unique entity, s life force within a spiritual being, a soul. The elevated conscience of knowing “who
I am” arises from an authentic place of pure worth. Which such insight, there is faith in the self and
wholeness and completeness within. With self-realization, one experiences the self-respect.

9. Responsibility - a responsible person fulfils the assigned duty by staying true to the aim. Duties are carried
out with circumstances, necessity ,and choice of people in particular situations and roles. Moral
responsibility means accepting what is required, to honor the role which has been entrusted, and to
perform conscientiously and to the best of one’s ability.

10. Unity – is harmony within and among individuals in the group. Unity is sustained by concentration, energy
And focusing thought, by accepting and appreciating the value of the rich array of participants and
the unique contribution each can make, and by remaining loyal not only to one another, but also to
the task. Unity is built from a shared vision, cherished hope, an altruistic aim, or cause for the common
good. Unity gives us sustenance, strength, and courage to make the impossible possible. Combined
with determination and commitment, unity makes the biggest task seem easy.

How does self-awareness make an individual more effective?

Self-awareness helps individuals identify gaps that promote skills development. Identifying these gaps, the
following can be improved and enhanced:

1. Skills development
2. Knowing ones strength and weakness
3. Developing intuitive decision-making skills
4. Stress management our coping with stress effectively
5. Self-motivation
6. Leadership

You can become more self-aware by using or applying the following means:
1. Seeking feedback from the people who know you
2. Completing self-assessment surveys like questionnaires
3. Hiring an expert like professional counselor or executive coach

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 The Maka-Diyos Cluster
FAITH IN GOD ALMIGTHY
1. Objectives

 To help participants recognize their unique faith in God as part of their unique Filipino culture;
 To help participants recognize the important role of Faith in their history as a people;
 To allow participants to appreciate their own personal faith;
 To help participants reflect on the blessings of God I their lives; and
 To affirm the participants unique gift of faith, and illustrate to them how they can continue to
live a life of faith in God.

Jesus said to them “Have faith in God. Whoever says to the mountain, “Be lifted up and thrown to the sea”,
and does not doubt in his heart but believes that what he says will happen, it shall be done for him” (Mark
11:22-23)

In all circumstances, hold faith as a shield, to quench all flaming arrows of the evil one. (Ephesians 6:16)
Immediately Jesus stretched out His hand and cought him, and said to him, “o you with little faith, why did
you doubt?” (Matthew 14:31)

“For just a body without a spirit is dead, so also faith without work is dead.” (James 3:26)

Faith will not always get for us what we want, but it will get what God wants us to have. (Vance Hawnwer)

The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today; let us move forward with strong and
active faith. (Franklin D. Roosevelt)

Faith is to believe what we do not see. The reward of this faith is to see what we believe. (St. Agustine)

2. Materials
 My personal Faith Evaluation and Reflection sheet
 Short bond papers
 Coloring materials
 Scotch tape
 CD/cassette player
 Reflection song: I Believe, Believe etc.

2. Introduction

A. Activity

 Have a brief introduction/ discussion of the significance of the EDSA People Power experience
to Filipinos. Describe the practical benefits of the experience (e.g. Defeat of tyranny, deposing
of corrupt leaders, etc.) Initially, avoid mentioning the aspects of God, faith and religion, as
these will be drawn from the participants themselves.
 Ask participants to creatively draw on a piece of bond paper a symbol of the EDSA People
Power Experience, or a symbol of the success of EDSA based on their own personal
perceptions or knowledge regarding the event (e.g. rosary, dove, etc.)
 Post drawings on the board and ask the participants to observe the work of their colleagues.
Allow them to reflect and identify the commonalities and messages of their chosen symbols.

B. Activity Processing Points

 Ask the participants how they arrived at their chosen symbols.
 Discuss and enumerate the significance of their symbols.
 Write salient “shared points” on the board.
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  After providing a synthesis, encourage participants to reflect further by asking the following
questions:

1. What do your illustrations tell you?

2. What qualities emerged when we united a people during our EDSA People Power
Experiences?
3. What are the effects of Faith and Prayer in our lives?
4. Do we continue to profess the same faith in God and appreciate the value of prayer
in ordinary times when there is no conflict or imminent danger to our lives and nation?
5. Do we give enough time each day to thank God for being faithful to us despite of our
unfaithfulness to Him?

4. Deepening Points
• Comments on the above quotations.
• Facilitator may distribute copies of anecdotes included in the module.
• If faith in God worked miracles for us during our EDSA I experiences, it can also
work in our everyday lives.
• The kind of faith we professed at EDSA I was one that drove us into action (faith in
action). Our faith, which moved us to act, was the single biggest factor that made
EDSA I work, one that indeed “moved mountains”.
• Faith in the Almighty is an innate trademark Filipino value. All of us have it… it is
even in the preamble of our Constitution! (Cite Filipino culture and attitudes/ history
that ae testaments to this fact).
• Example: when the country was plunged into shock and misery brought about by
the devastation of the 1991 earthquake, Filipinos consoled themselves and lifted
each other’s spirit by crying sincere tears, a symbol of their bearing each other’s
pains, and by praying together with an extraordinary faith to get through such a
calamity. Such an attitude clearly defines the Filipinos’ unique regard for the value
of Faith in the Almighty.
• We should take pride in our faith and use it to improve our lives. More than ever,
our faith as people has proven to be stronger and be meaningful. We even face
the prospect of sharing our faith with those who actually introduced it to us in the
first place (cite “empty churches” in pre-dominantly Catholic/Christian western
countries like Spain).
• Our faith is a call to conversion: turning away from graft and corruption, indolence,
our desire for convenience rather than hard work, growing and our sense of
helplessness when confronted with adversity.
• We should learn how to pray from our hearts, not merely by our lips. We pray for
more God-centered leaders who assume authority in the context of genuine
service. We pray because without God we can do anything.

5. FAITH IN GOD ALMIGHTY in action

Participants may choose to integrate and enhance the value of Faith in God in their
subject areas/lessons, in their family life through the arrangement of stronger faith practices
in the home (e.g. praying before having meals, praying of the rosary, encouraging children to
develop a habit of prayer and reflection especially when faced with moral discernment,
attending prayer sessions/Bible sharing and going to Sunday masses), and in their daily lives
by always attributing one’s efforts to God and making Him part of the choices and decisions
that one makes.

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6. Personal Resolution
Considering the significance of prayer in my life and in my country’s history, I am more
fully aware of the things I can accomplish when I live a life of Faith. I have in me the desire to
do the right things, make moral decisions, and work to the best of my God-given gifts. I shall
strive to hold my moral ground when I am confronted with things that undermine my values
and those which may injure the well-being of others.
My faith is a gift that strengthens me in times of crisis and helps me arrive at
conscientious decisions. I am aware of its manifold benefits and I shall strive to nurture this
gift through prayer and reflection. I also understand that my faith in God can bring me to
appreciate myself, my family, friends and colleagues, my job and my people better. Thus, I
will do my best to be a discerning individual with God as my source of wisdom in everything
that I do. With a deep resolve to be a better person, I can go further by putting my faith into
action. I shall live a life that is based on the right values and serve as an inspiration to others
who may be struggling in their own faith life.

MY BUKAS PA
Rico J. Puno
Huwag damdamin ang kasawian
May bukas pa sa iyong buhay
Sisikat din ang iyong araw
Ang landas mo ay mag-iilaw

Sa daigdig ang buhay ay ganyan

Mayroong ligaya at lumbay
Maghintay at may nakalaang bukas

May bukas pa sa iyong buhay

Tutulungan ka ng Diyos na may lalang
Ang iyong pagdaramdam
Idalangin mo sa may kapal
Na sa puso mo ay mawala ng lubusan

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 MY PERSONAL FAITH EVALUATION AND RESOLUTION

Statement Yes No Resolution

1. I believe in the power of

Faith and Prayer.

2. My faith in God is one of my

greatest strengths and
priorities.

3. I maintain a strong prayer in

life.

4. My family maintains a
strong prayer life.

5. By my example, others are

inspired to live of faith and
prayer.

6. I encourage others (my

family, friends and
colleagues) to be in faithful
and turn to prayer in times
of personal set-backs and
when faced with oral
questions.
7. I continually seek for ways
to strengthen my own faith.

8. My choices and decisions

are fruits of prayerful
reflections and
discernment.
9. I believe that my blessings
are brought by God’s
providence and not merely
by my own works.
10. I live out my faith everyday.

My Personal Prayer:

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 Faith Alone
Bro. Andrew Maria, MMHC

A devout widow who was known to be living saint was crossing a bridge with her child when an
accident happened. Her son fell off the bridge and plunged into the deep water below. At this, some men got
ready to jump into the water to save the child. However, the widow forbade them.
“Do not move,” she told the men, “my faith alone can save the child.”
After she has said this, the widow knelt on the bridge and prayed with great faith. In a short while, the
child drowned and died. The widow wept.

Moral: Faith alone, without work, is useless.

BELIEVE

You won’t be alone, God will be with you

You won’t be alone, though you’re lonely
The night may be dark, the storm all around you
Believe and you won’t be alone.
For He never made you to fear for tomorrow
It’s only the doubters who dread the unknown
Have faith in his wisdom, make Him your companion
Believe, and you won’t be alone.

You may be a shepherd away on a mountain

You may be a stranger so far from your home
You may be in trouble, forsaken, forgotten
Believe, and you won’t be alone.

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 THE RESCUE BOATS
By Fr. Bel San Luis, SVD

Mang Juan was a devout Christian but rather bull-headed. When the flood hit their town, he climbed
to the roof of his house. A rescue boat came by but Mang Juan begged off their help. “No, thanks. I have
faith in the Lord. He will save me.”
The waves rose and Mang Juan climbed to the tip of the roof. Another boat came by to save him, but
he waved it off professing his faith for the Lord.
When the waves began slapping at his feet, he clambered up the chimney. A helicopter swooped
down to save him, but he still begged off, trusting in God’s providence. You can guess what happened
afterwards. Poor Mang Juan drowned.
When he stood before the Lord, he complained, “Lord, I had such faith in you. Why did you fail me?”
To which the Lord said reprimanding him, “What more did you want? I sent two boats and a helicopter! But
you did not use them.”

Reflection: Are we using enough our God-given talents, our natural resources to succeed as a nation
and as an individual? “God helps those who help themselves"

I BELIEVE
I believe for every drop of rain that falls,
A flower grows.
I believe that somewhere in the darkest night,
A candle glows.
I believe for everyone who goes astray,
Someone will come to show the way.
I believe, I believe.

I believe above the storm the smallest prayer

Will still be heard.
I believe that someone in the great somewhere,
Hears every word.

Every time I hear a new born baby cry

Or touch a leaf, or see the skies
Then I know why, I believe.

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RESPECT FOR LIFE

1. Learning Objectives

 To rouse participants’ awareness of social issues that challenge their personal conviction about
the value of life.
 To give participants a renewed sense of appreciation for the gift of life;
 To enable participants to realize the relevance of human dignity in their lives;
 To inspire participants to be stewards of life.

God created man in His image; in the divine image He created him; male and female he created them.
Genesis 1:27

Do you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God, and that you
are not your own? For you have been purchased at a price. Therefore glorify God in your body.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20

I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.
John 10:10

A long life may not be good enough, but a good life is long enough.
Benjamin Franklin

Life is raw material. We are artisans. We can sculpt our existence into something beautiful, or debase it into
ugliness. It’s in our hands.
Cathy Better

2. Materials

 Personal Reflection Sheet

 Pictures/Illustrations of social issues indicated on the Reflection Sheet

3. Introduction

a. Activity

 Give participants enough time to complete their reflection sheets

(Appendix 2: Personal Reflection Sheet)
 Post pictures/illustrations of abortion, prostitution, smoking, murder, war and others that
underline the non-preservation of Life.
 Focused Group Discussion. Divide participants into seven (7) groups. Each group will discuss
and share their reflection on a particular assigned social issue.
 Assign a documenter who will make a summary of the views of the members of the group and
a reporter who will present and share the summary to the main group.

b. Activity Processing Points

a. Am I a steward of life in my own personal stand in many issue that tend to destroy and
degrade the value of life?
b. Do I have habits and vices that may lead to destroy my own health and life in the
process

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 c. Do I treat my fellowmen (family, colleagues, friends, others) well and accord them the
worth and dignity due them as human beings?
d. Am I patient in my dealings that I never think of violence or inflicting physical harm to
others as a course of action?
e. Do I value my elders? Do I recognize their special role in my life? Have I done enough
to help them have meaningful and dignified lives?

4. Deepening Points

 Comments on the above quotations.

 Start off with an anecdote/actual accounts wherein respect for life in stressed.
 Every person’s life is a precious gift, no individual has the right to harm or destroy it.
 Terrorism is to be condemned in the most absolute terms because it shows complete contempt
for human life and can never be justified. (Social Doctrine of the Church #514).
 Human life must be respected, protected and preserved from the moment of conception.
 “Our body is Gods temple”, we should take care of it and regard it as sacred.
 We should uphold and recognize each other’s dignity as person and grow to appreciate each
other’s worth because there exist in human person sufficient qualities and energies, a
fundamental goodness.
 God’s decision to make man in His image and likeness gives the human being a unique dignity
that extends to all generation and throughout the entire earth. (social teaching of the Church
#428)
 Every person is a gift in himself and deserves the opportunity to realize and share his own
giftedness to society without of harm and persecution.
 Every person is safeguarded by basic human rights and is responsible for the rights of others.
 A just society can became a reality only when it is based on respect for the transcended dignity
of the human person.
 Every person should be given the opportunity and freedom to lead a values based and
purpose-driven life.

5. RESPECT FOR LIFE IN Action

Participants may choose to integrate the value of respect for life in their subject,
areas/lessons, in their family life through a deeper personal reflection and consciousness of
practices in the home (e.g. instilling of discipline, recognition of the uniqueness and worth of
each member; role modeling of parents so that their children may grow in dignity and right
values; in stressing the importance of health and personal development, and their daily lives
and communities by always recognizing the dignity of others and appreciating the value of life
of every person. Participants may choose to make a personal pledge to consciously uphold
life in every circumstances and shun violence as a means of achieving an end.
6. Personal Resolution

I am a person of worth and dignity. My own humanity is a gift from God. I am aware that my life is
sacred and that I ought to take care of it. As my natural human rights protect me from anything that
may endanger my life and well-being, I should also be responsible for upholding the right of others. I
recognize the value of every person. Hence, I will keep an open mind and charitable attitude that I
may able to appreciate their own giftedness and special roles in my life and society. I shall not be an
advocate of violence or any means that may harm that life and dignity of others.

 Life is precious, it has to be developed and protected;

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  I am responsible for taking care of my body and to be mindful of how I affect the health of
others around me because I am aware that it is through my body that I am able to appreciate
my gift of life;
 Recognizing the dignity of others is a way of respecting life in itself;
 I am responsible for the rights of others as they care of mine;
 Any form of violence defiles the sanctity of life.

Personal Reflection: “How Much Is Life Worth To Me?”

Instructions: Objectively go over the statements indicated below. If you agree with a particular statement,
mark with an X the box in the column marked Agree. Otherwise, mark with an X the box in the column marked
Disagree. For every issue, kindly give a brief insight of your answer on the spaces provided.

Issue Agree Disagree

1. Death Penalty/ Capital Punishment is a good deterrent against crimes.
Thus, it should be regarded as an acceptable punishment.

2. Abortion should be a choice accorded to every woman.

3. Drugs are a menace to society.
4. Military and rebel offensives in Mindanao are justified by the goals and
aspirations of both groups.
5. Parents should inflect physical harm on their children to properly
discipline them.
6. Prostitution is an acceptable profession.
7. It is acceptable to have our elders cared for in nursing homes and other
institutions.

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 The House of Life
Bro. Andrew Maria, MMHC

The crowd said to the Mystic, “We found a big and beautiful house called LIFE. Without giving any
thought to whom the House of Life might belong, we rushed inside it. Yet, to our dismay, the House of Life
was empty and there was nothing in it. Life is empty, Life has no meaning.”
The Mystic went to the House of Life to see if it really was empty. He knocked on the door before
entering and someone from within opened it. He stayed inside the house for quite sometime while the crowd
waited outside. It was already evening when the Mystic went out.
“Is the House of Life empty as we told you?” the crowd questioned him.
The Mystic answered the crowd, “the House of Life is not empty. When I was inside, I saw the most
beautiful rooms with golden chairs, silver tables, and jeweled walls. Above all these, I dinned and conversed
with the Master of Life himself.”
“How can that be? The crowd insisted. “When we were inside the House of Life, it was empty, yet
now you tell us that it is not.”
The Mystic rebuked the crowd, “You found the House of Life empty because you did not knocked
before you entered it. You rushed into life without even knocking, as if the house belonged to you. The Master
of Life, seeing that you lacked respect for life and reverence for it, took away its beauty because you would
not know how to use it. You are proud and vain to act as if you are a master of your own life. For this reason,
the Master of Life gave you the house to look at but not to live in. if only you had knocked before you entered,
then you would have seen the beauty I saw and conversed the Master of Life himself.
“Tell us, please,” the crowd begged the Mystic, “what does it mean to knock on the Door of Life?”
The Mystic solemnly spoke, “to knock on the door of Life is to be humble enough to accept that the
house does not belong to you but to the Master. To knock on the door of Life to seek the Master of the House
and not the treasure in the House. To knock on the Door of life is to wait with patience for the Master to open
it from within and not force it from the outside. To knock on the Door of Life is to follow the statutes and
commandments of the Master of Life.”
“To knock on the Door of Life is to pray to the Master of Life that you ay love him since he not only
owns the house but your very selves as well.”
They left the Mystic after they heard this. The crowd returned to the House of Life and they knocked
before entering. The Master of the House of Life opened it from within. Once inside, the crowd saw beautiful
things the Mystic had seen. But most of all, they were able to dine and converse with the Master of Life
himself.
Life after all, is not empty.
Moral: treat life with respect, and life itself will reveal its beauty to you.

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Dear all,
I hope all our minds are clear on abortion. Here below is a story sent to me and I think it is interesting for
everybody to know. There are no buts on abortion! Read and think about it. “A lady goes to a doctor the
doctor with a baby in her arms. The doctor asks her what he could do for her and she says: Please doctor, I
need your help. This baby I have in my arms is not yet a year old now I am again pregnant. I came for help.
Do you think you can interrupt my pregnancy so I won’t have two babies in one year?
The doctor started thinking about it then he said to the lady: So what you want is not have two babies in such
a short time.
Yes, the lady smiled and said: So you will help me doctor?
The doctor replied: Yes, I will certainly help you. Why don’t we kill this baby in your arms? It is much simpler
and much easier than an abortion and you, the mother, won’t go into any risks. An abortion always is a risk
for mother too, you know.
Then the mother flabbergasted said: How dare you even suggest to kill my baby. What you’re saying is
horrible and it is a big crime.
The doctor then said: I agree I think so too yet you came for help and you said you did not want to have two
babies in such a short time. If we kill the baby in your arms you will have enough time until you give birth to
the baby in your womb so I am giving you the best solution. To kill the baby in your arms is exactly the same
horrible crime as to kill the baby in your womb.
As the doctor saw the mother’s reaction to what he said he realized that he convinced the mother that there
is no difference in killing a baby already born that killing a baby who is still to be born and is alive in his
mother’s womb.”

THE CRIME IS EXACTLY THE SAME! I HOPE THAT THIS ANECDOTE WILL HELP US ALL TO THINK
MORE, GET CLEARER MINDS IN THIS MATTER AND TO ABHOR ABORTION.”

RIC S. PASCUA, SR.

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 SINO AKO?

Hiram sa Diyos ang aking buhay.

Ikaw at ako tanging handog lamang.
Di ko ninais na ako’y isilang.
Ngunit salamat dahil may buhay.

Ligaya ko na ako’y isilang.

Pagkat tao ay mayroong dangal.
Sinong may pag-ibig, sinong nagmamahal.
Kundi ang tao Diyos ang pinagmulan.

Kung di ako umibig, kung di ko man bigyang halaga,

Ang buhay kong handog,
Ang buhay kong hiram sa Diyos.
Kung di ako nagmamahal, sino ako?

TAO
Bawat tao nabuhay sa hapis.
Bawat patak ng luha’y pagdama
Bawat pintig ng puso’y tamis.
Bawat puso’y mayroon simula.

koro:
Ang buhay mo’y hindi sa’yo.
Napag-isip-isip mo na ba?
Ilang taon ang lumipas na, lumipas na, lumipas na?
Bawat tao’y simula, bawat simula’y hangganan.
Magpasya ka, saan ka pupunta?

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ORDER

1. Learning Objectives
 To be able to identify the significance of the value of Order in the lives of the
participants and in nation-building;
 To identify ways by which the participants can establish the value of Order in the
conduct of their personal lives.

Then Jesus entered the temple area and proceeded to those who were selling things, saying to them, “It is
written, ‘My house shall be a house of prayer, bit you made it a den of thieves”.
Luke 19:45-46

He woke up, rebuked the wind, and said to the sea: “Quiet! Be still!” The wind ceased and there was great
calm. Luke 4:39

God is not the God of disorder but of peace. 1 Corinthians 14:33

We do not help the outward form of order, where there is deep disorder in the mind.
William Shakespeare

Order is the sanity of the mind, the health of the body, the peace of the city, the security of the state. As the
beams of the house, as the bones of the body, so is order to all things.
Southey

He who has not taste of order, will be often wrong in his judgment, and seldom considerate or conscientious
in his actions.
Kaspar Lavater

Order means light and peace, inward liberty and free command over oneself.
Henri Frederic Amiel

Most people believe in law and order as long as they can lay down the law and give the order
Roy B. Zuck

2. Materials
 The Order of Your Life Hand-out
 Newspaper clippings and illustrations that illustrate the value of Order

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3. Introduction

a. Activity
 The facilitator can start off by asking the participants to share their own
understanding/definition of the word Order before giving his own (Recommended
contextual definition found in the Glossary).
 Give participants enough time to read through and reflect on the hand-out, The Order
of Your Life.
 While the participants are reflecting on the hand-out, post on the blackboard
newspapers clippings/illustrations that deal with the value of Order.
 Focused Group Discussion. Divide the group into sub-groups of five. Assign a
documenter who will take down the meaningful points raised during the group
discussion and a reporter who will sure these with the big group.
 The following may be used as guide questions during the FGD:

1. Will I be able to deal with my life better if things are in order or when my
priorities are properly set?
2. Based on my personal reflection, is my life in order?
3. If so, how is it helping me? If otherwise, what are the things that prevent me
from having an orderly life?
4. What do I need to do establish order in my life and set my priorities well?

b. Activity Processing Points

1. Do I recognize the benefits of living an orderly life?

2. Have I sorted out my priorities in life?
3. Do I do my best to live a life of order each day?
4. Do I encourage others to live orderly lives, by my example?

4. Deepening Points

 Comments on the above quotations.

 Start off with an anecdote/actual accounts wherein the value of Order is
highlighted.
 Learn to prioritize: do first things first.
 Order is putting everything in its right place.
 God is our number one value, foremost priority, and source of all our
motivations and inspirations.
 Some simple ways of prioritizing or putting things in order include the following:
cleanliness and proper arrangement of things, belongings, living quarters and
work place, time management (faithfully following an established routine/
schedule), budgeting and expense allocation, resources management,
prioritization/sorting of activities according to level of importance or urgency,
and goal setting.
 In doing first things first in the light of effecting change in our country,
change/transformation should begin with us before it can proceed to a broader
scale. The determination to develop the value on a wider scale towards national
development should then evolve into a collective resolve by every citizen to live
out the value and allow it to pervade into our people’s consciousness and
culture.
 Learn to be orderly in your work by establishing system and routine.

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  One of the advantages of being disorderly is that one is constantly making
exciting discoveries (A.A. Milne)
 The value of Order ensures all citizens of security ( in the form of order
established by laws), peace ( when order is maintained by the law enforcement
agencies of the government and other sectors of society), harmony (as a result
of the social contract borne out of the implications of the law and basic
understanding of ethics and values) and progress (as the value of order
constantly seeks to promote efficiency and effectiveness in a person’s work,
job or routine).
 Disorder triggers situations of panic, unrest, confusion, havoc chaos, and
anarchy.
 Order is so essential to us that we have to follow particular order in loving (God,
Country, Family…).
 Basic values like diligence and cleanliness stem from the value of orderliness.
 Order entails the discipline of the mind, emotion and action. Some
virtues/values that may be required when one wish to develop the value of
Order are prudence, temperance, discipline, humility, diligence, patience and
resilience.
 God follows order in the first story of creation (Cf. Gen. 1).

5. Order in Action
Some examples of how participants may cultivate and encourage the value of Order in their area of
concern.
a. Teachers:
1. Encourage students to pass quality work on time.
2. Prepare your lesson plans syllabi religiously and earnestly.
3. Teach your students the value of cleanliness and the habit of relying on time and resources
management, budgeting, organization as well as other values that promote the value of order
in the conduct of their daily lives/routines.
b. Barangay Officials:
1. Design the efficient system in the delivery of basic community services (tanod/security,
garbage disposal, youth development, “greening of the community help desk, health care).
2. Encourage barangay servants to maintain clean and orderly work areas manageably daily
work routines that will enable them to serve the community more efficiently.
3. Sort/prioritize community projects and set up an effective financial system so that the
resources of the community are well-accounted for.
4. Set up a system of accountability among barangay servants and officials.
c. Students:
1. Develop a good set of study habits and zealously follow through everyday.
2. Develop your organization skills and train yourself to always practice good grooming and
gentlemanly/ lady-like conduct.
3. Learn to manage your resources, studies and extra-curricular activities well. Learn to
identify your priorities. Remember that your main priority a sa student is to study well and work
towards developing and perfecting your talents anf gifts.
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 4. Follow and respect rules and regulations in and outside the school. Know that the rules are
meant to keep things in order so that you may be properly formed into a good citizen and a
person of worth.
6. Personal Resolution
As a good citizen, I understand that the value of order is important in my quest to improve myself as
a person and as a citizen. I shall strive to arrange my life in a certain way that will allow me to be a more
effective and productive citizen. I shall inspire others by my example to live peacefully and more meaningfully
by living the value of order everyday.

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The Order of Your Life
Below you will find a list of roles that you carry out everyday. On those that apply most significantly to
you, identify by writing on the spaces provided, at least three (3) priorities which you feel are most important
among others. Afterwards, reflect on the priorities that you have indicated for each role. Evaluate whether
you have remained steadfast to your order of priorities and if you have exerted an equivalent amount of effort
to fulfill them.
This sheet is meant to serve as your personal evaluation and reminder of The Order of Your Life. May
you be inspired always to remain faithful and hopeful while you constantly put your life in order.
I. A as Spouse
a.
b.
c.

II. As a Parent
a.
b.
c.

III. As a Child
a.
b.
c.

IV. As a Sibling
a.
b.
c.

V. As a Boss/Subordinate/Employee
a.
b.
c.

VI. As a Student/ Teacher

a.
b
c.

VII. As a Public Servant

a.
b.
c.

VIII. As a Filipino Citizen

a.
b.
c.

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 Your Own Heart First
Bro. Andrew Maria, MMHC

Cassius the Zealot entered the monastery because he wanted to atone for the sins of men. As a
monk, he practiced all sorts of rigorous penances and sacrifices for this single purpose.

“Lord, “he often prayed, I offer my life for the atonement of the sins of the world.”

One night, Cassius had a dream. He saw himself in a certain village where all the houses were
dilapidated. Driven by his zeal and kindness, Cassius Started rebuilding one houses after the other. After he
had rebuilt all the houses, Cassius was approached by the Lord.

“Cassius, “said the Lord, “I mean to stay in your house.”

Cassius pointed to his house while he walked with the Lord. “Master,” he said,
“That is my house.”

The Lord stopped when he saw how dilapidated Cassius’ house was. “I cannot stay in such a house,”
the Lord told him. “Your house is ready to fall down.”

“But my Lord,” Cassius defended himself, “I was not able to fix my house because I spent all my time
rebuilding other people’s houses.”

“The Lord said to Cassius. “ Before you build my dwelling place in others men’s hearts, be sure that I
have one in yours,”

With that, the Lord disappeared.

Moral: Charity begins at home.

HE

He can turn the tide and calm the angry sea.

He alone decides who writes a symphony.
He lights every star that makes our darkness bright,
He keeps watch all through each long and lonely night.
He still finds the time to hear a child’s prayer.
Saints and sinners call and always find Him there.
Though it makes Him sad to see the way we live.
He’ll always say, “I forgive.”

He can grant a wish or make a dream come true.

He can paint the clouds and turn the gray to blue.
He alone knows where to find the rainbow end.
He alone can see what lies beyond the bend.
He can touch a tree and turn the leaves to gold.
He knows every lie that you and I have told.
Though it makes Him sad to see the way I’ve lived.
He’ll always say, “I forgive.”

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WORK
1. Learning Objectives

 To highlight the significance of work and labor in one’s life;

 To enable the participants to appreciate the value of work;
 To inspire participants to have a more positive outlook towards work;
 To stress the importance of setting one’s priorities, identifying one’s work motivation and living
without one’s means;
To provide participants with an outline of core work values that will help them become more
responsible and productive citizens
Six days you shall labor and do all your works; on the seventh day you shall rest.
Exodus 20:9-10

On the seventh day God rested from all his work…

Genesis 2:2
If a man will not work; he shall not eat.
2 Thessalonians 3:10

Sleep is sweet to the laboring man…

Ecclesiastes 5:11
Give fish to a man and he will have food to eat for a day; teach him how to fish and he shall have food
to eat throughout his lifetime.
Confucius
God gives every bird its food but does not drop it into the nest.
Danish proverb
When you work; work hard. When you play, play hard.
Theodore Roosevelt
It is enough for good people to do nothing, for evil people
to succeed. Jose Rizal

2. Materials

 The Million Peso Question Reflection Sheet (appendix 3)

3. Introduction
a. Activity

 Have a brief introductory discussion on how the participants view their work.
 Facilitators may raise the following questions to serve as preliminary reflection points:
1. What is your single biggest motivation for working at this point in time?
2. Do you feel a sense of personal accomplishment with your work?
3. Are you working to the best of your abilities in your work/profession?
4. Are you living within your means?
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  Briefly discuss the critical views that emerge from the discussion.
 Give participants enough time to complete their reflection sheets (appendix 3: The Million Peso
Question Reflection Sheet).
 Focused group will discuss and share their reflection derived from the Reflection Sheet.
 Assign a documenter who will make a summary of the views of the members of the group and a
reporter who will present the summary to the main group.

b. Activity Processing Points

1. Why am I working?
2. Am I a committed worker who delivers quality work?
3. Do I have a good motivation for working?
4. Have I wisely sorted out my priorities in life?
5. Do I have well-defined personal goals as to why I’m working?
6. What are the things that prevent me from attaining my work goals?
7. What are my strengths that can help me attain my work goals?

4. Deepening Points
 Comments on the above quotations.
 Start off with an anecdote/actual accounts wherein the value of Work is highlighted.
 The family is simultaneously a community made possible by work and the first school of work within
a home, for every person.
 Man is destined to work, it is in his nature. But he must see to it that he works to make a life not just
a living. He must find time for relaxation.
 Discuss the Filipino culture of, and with regard to the following: kapit sa patalim, ningas-kugon,
mañana habit, pwedeng pwede na, bahala na.
 Job and work (hanap buhay) must be defined and differentiated.
 Hindi mahirap ang taong masipag. Kung isinilang tayong mahirap hindi natin kasalanan! Pero kung
mamatay tayong mahirap baka kasalanan natin! (sin of omission).
 Achievement is getting things done well while activity is a matter of merely staying busy. Avoid acting
like busy bodies doing nothing (St. Paul)
 Our country will progress if every Filipino puts value in honest hard work. Our character is our fate.
 Every Filipino should strive towards self-reliance.
 Learn to invest your God-given talents in your work, for work is God’s provision to prosperity.
 ”Don’t settle for mediocrity, aim for excellence”.
 Well done is better that well said – Benjamin Franklin
 Pray and work: Pray as if everything depended on God and work as if everything depended on you.
 “Living within your means is spending less than what you earn”.
 Living without one’s means is a key element of success and progress as it encourages the values of
discipline, frugality, prudence and the virtue of temperance.
 Things done in haste will usually end in waste. Small deeds done are better than many things planned.
 What counts in the end is not the volume of work but the love that we put into our work.

5. WORK in Action

Participants may reflect as to how they value work each day. They may begin to make a sincere
personal commitment to strive to work hard and have the right values and attitudes towards their work and
dealings. Participants may also opt to evaluate their actual work attitudes, motivation and priorities. This will
allow them to direct themselves towards performing their work with a sounder disposition, clearer
understanding of their priorities and more meaningful motivations. Teachers may inculcate the value of work
– hard work, honest work and quality work in their students by being more affirming, inspiring and appreciative
of their students’ efforts toward achieving quality results in their schoolwork. Community leaders may develop
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a more positive outlook and attitude towards the value of work among their peers and subordinates by
highlighting the importance of each other’s unique community function or assignments as well as the integral
role each plays in the success of community undertakings.

6. Personal Resolution

I am a person that has been endowed with gifts that allow me to work for a better life. I shall continually
strive to develop my talents and gifts and learn to be self-reliant. I am a productive member of society and I
do my share in improving the quality of life of the people I serve and those whom I indirectly affect. I believe
in the value and benefit of hard work, quality work, and honest work. Hence, I shall strive to always use sound
moral principles in my dealings and apply my God-given gifts in my work and settle for nothing less than
excellent results. I am a discerning individual where my priorities are concerned and my work-related actions
are steadfastly governed by an unwavering faith and conviction in doing what is moral, honest and just.

The 1 Million-Peso Question:

“Where will I put my million?”

Below you will find a list of items that people normally consider when planning for their future. These items
may also be some of the reasons why people are moved to work. If you’re given a MILLION PESOS, how
will you go about dividing your million on all these things?

On the spaces provided, write the amount you wish to allocate for the items you consider most important to
you. You may choose to assign an amount on all items or on just several provided that you don’t spend over
your allotted one million pesos.

_______________________ 1. Life Insurance Plan

_______________________ 2. House and Lot
_______________________ 3. Educational Plan
_______________________ 4. Travel
_______________________ 5. Shopping (clothes, jewelry, house ware)
_______________________ 6. Time Deposit
_______________________ 7. Business Investment
_______________________ 8. Health (medical care, medication)
_______________________ 9. Charity Work
_______________________ 10. Social Life/Leisure
_______________________ 11. Others (specify)

_____________________
_____________________
_____________________
_____________________

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 Anecdotes of the Great That Help Build a Better Life
Compiled by J. Maurus

Norman Vincent Peale was waiting to see Herbert Hoover. He asked the secretary how Hoover was
getting on. “Well,” she answered, “he’s in there working hard. He works about seven or eight hours a day.”
“But he’s 85,” protested Peale.
“Yes,” the secretary agreed, “but he doesn’t know that.”

Moral: Work is a timeless occupation. It is both for the young and old.”

Seventy-five drafts of Thomas Gray’s poem “Elegy written in a Country Churchyard” may be seen in
the British Museum. The poet did not like the way he wrote it the first time nor the second nor the third. He
was satisfied only when he had written the poem over and over 75 times.

Moral: Don’t settle for mediocre work. Instead, aim for excellence in everything you do.

When someone was lauding his intellectual brilliance and ability in dealing with the most complex
problems, Lord Louis Mountbatten, the last Viceroy of India, explained: “The truth is I am very ordinary person,
and if I have any success it is only due to hard work.”

Moral: Great men are ordinary persons who work extraordinarily well.

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 IN HIS TIME
In His time, in His time
He makes all things beautiful, in His time.
Lord, please show me everyday
As You’re teaching me your way
That you do just what you say in your time.
In Your time, in Your time
You make all things beautiful in your time.
Lord, my life to You I bring
May each song I have to sing
Be to you a lovely thing in Your time.

KUNG KAYA MONG ISIPIN

Joey Ayala

Kung kaya mong isipin, kaya mong gawain

Isa-isang hakbang lamang at ika’y makakarating
Tulad ng puno na galing sa binhi
Ang mga dakilang gawa’y nagmumula sa guni-guni.

Kung ang nais mo’y maging Malaya

Sa mundong puno ng panunupil
Buhayin sa sarili ang malayang paraan
At sa araw-araw na pakikitungo sa tahanan at lipunan
Buhayin sa sarili ang malayang paraan.

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 CONCERN FOR THE FAMILY AND FURTURE GENERATIONS

1. Learning Objectives

 To enable the participants to have deeper appreciation of the value of family;

 To allow participants to assess their own family values;
 To highlight the important role of the family in a person’s life and his personal development;
 To be able to illustrate prevalent social realities affecting the Filipino family today.

From the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female’ and said ‘for this reason a man shall leave his
father and mother and be joined with his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’. So they are no longer
two but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no man put asunder.

Matthew 19:4-7
When His parents saw Him, they were astonished, and his mother said to Him, ‘Son, why have you done to
us? Your father and I have been looking for you with great anxiety…’ He went down with them in Nazareth,
and was obedient to them; and His mother kept all these things in heart.
Luke 3:48-49, 51-52
Pilipino na sino man ang hindi marunong lumingon sa pinanggalingan ay hindi makakarating sa paroroonan.
Francisco Balagtas
There is no other place sweeter than our home. Homer
A happy family is but an earlier heaven. Sir John Bowring
A family that prays together, stays together. Fr. Patrick Peyton

2. Materials

 The Family Angle: A reflection of Modern-Day Family Realities Activity Sheet

 Newspaper clippings on Family issues and articles
 Scotch Tape
 CD / Cassette Player
 Suggested Reflection Songs: Laud songs, Stella Maris, Family Jubilee songs
3. Introduction
a. Activity

 Have a brief introduction discussion of some major issues the Filipino family face today:
a. “Broken Families” (separated parents, etc.)
b. Teenage pregnancies
c. Vulnerability of the youth to drug addiction and other vices
d. Threats of technology and unrestricted media
e. Declining family morals and values among Filipinos
 Give participants enough time to complete their reflection sheets (appendix 4: The Family
Angle: A reflection of Modern-Day Family Realities Activity Sheet).
 Focused Group Discussion. Divide participants into eight (8) groups. Each group will discuss
a particular family issue and will share their reflection on a particular assigned social issue.

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  Assign a documenter who will make a summary of the views of the members of the group and
a reporter who will present and share the summary to the main group.
 Post on the blackboard newspaper clippings, and other illustrations representing the
occurrence of such family issues.
b. Activity Processing Points
1. What do you think are the biggest sources of danger our families face nowadays?
2. What are the most pressing issues or families face today?
3. What are some values / strengths of the Filipino family that will allow it to survive
amidst challenging circumstances?
4. Is your family currently affected by social issues mentioned?
5. Have you developed a strong personal conviction and resolve to value the well being
and unity of your family in the midst of growing threats against it?
4. Deepening Points

 Comment on the above quotations

 Start off with an anecdote / actual accounts wherein the value of Concern for the Family and
Future Generations is highlighted.
 The future of humanity passes by way of family.
 Our family is threatened daily by many issues that tend to destroy its sanctity, unity and
harmony.
 We should be vigilant and possess the resolve to always value our family as our most precious
gift after our own lives.
 A family is strengthened by the love, understanding and mutual respect among its members.
 A family is the best place of refuge, strength, inspiration, example and source of love for
today’s youth at risk and couples whose values and virtues are challenged daily by the ways
of the world of covetousness and materialism.
 Moore than ever, as parents, we should work harder to teach and guide our children in the
ways of good values and responsibilities as they are more vulnerable to negative influences
brought about by the advent of high technology and materialism which, gives them freer
access to activities that potentially undermine their good values and virtues.
 Giving due respect to our elders and caring for them is a testament of our enduring value of
respect for our family as a people and confirms our love and deference to the people whose
lives and labor we owe our own;
 Our family is worth more than any worldly gain
 Make it a point to spend “quality time” with your family as this will unite you more closely and
bond you in understanding and love.
 The family can survive the challenges of the times only if it is armed with sound principles and
values that promote love and life; responsible parenthood.

5. CONCERN FOR THE FAMILY AND FUTURE GENERATIONS in Action

Participants may choose to evaluate their own family life more deeply. They can
specifically look into how their own family cultivates love, understanding and mutual respect.
They can also assess and appraise their role in the family (e.g. as a spouse, parent, or child)
and devise ways to be better family members.
Teacher may conduct classroom practices that stress the value of respect for elders,
parents and siblings. They can also encourage parents to assume more active roles in their
children’s development by formulating activities (e.g. projects and assignments, father and
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 son camp-out, etc.) that promote direct parents’ involvement and participation. Teacher may
also encourage their students to form peer groups and arrange for the school to have regular
family counseling wherein students can obtain good advices and maintain a channel where
they can exchange views on how to become good and responsible children and/ or siblings.
Community leaders may encourage projects and programs that encourage the
development of unity, harmony, sharing, love, and work in the family. They can also establish
a channel where family members of the community can express their family concerns and
obtain quality advice.
6. Personal Resolution
My family is my great source of strength and inspiration and I understand that in the midst of
a harsh world, it is constantly confronted with things that tend to destroy its values and sense
of unity. I also know that my family is fragile. An uncaring and unloving parents or an
irresponsible children can easily destroy it; the temptation presented by a world obsessed with
material gratification and convenience can just as easily obliterate its values and virtues; and
that my own complacency and indecision to be a better family member can lead to the
destruction of unity, harmony and the prospect of prosperity for my family. I shall make it a
point to spend quality time with my family, enjoying the beauty of the love, unity and faith that
binds us as we face the challenges of the world together.
I hereby make a personal promise to be a loving and responsible family member and work
towards the strengthening the bonds that unites my family. As a parent, I shall strive to be a
paragon of good values worthy of my children’s emulation. I shall work hard to assure them of
a good future and arm them with strong sense of moral conviction so that they may grow to
be persons worth and integrity. As a child, I shall strive to be responsible to my studies and in
my role as a member of my family. I shall give my elders due respect and appreciate their
sacrifices by exhibiting hard work in my task. I shall be prudent in my ways and discerning
when I face the realities of the world. I shall honor my parents and elders in their old age and
continue to be inspired by their example. As a person, I shall be an advocate of life and
vanguard of its preservation. I shall resist any proposal or intent that potentially undermines
the sanctity and value of the family.

 The family is constantly challenged by the demand, trends, and ills of the world, every
person should strive to defend and preserve it;
 The family is a person’s best refuge, source of love and good values in a world
constantly assailed by immorality, violence and materialism;
 Every member of the family has a role to play, the duty and right to give and receive
love and respect;
 The strength of the family lies in its values and the commitment of its members to
responsibility, hark work and morality.

The Family Angle: A Reflection of Modern-Day Family Realities

Instruction: Below you will find some situations that families nowadays experience. For each situation,
imagine yourself as the actual person involved. Cite some effects and implication of every
situation and some other scenarios that you think may arise from each issue.

1. You are the family breadwinner and you decide to work abroad so you can earn more for your family.
2. You are a child whose parent(s) are working abroad.
3. You and your spouse decide to separate.

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4. Your parents are separated
5. You decide to put your aging parents in a nursing home/home for the aged.
6. As a parent, you deeply believe in the principle of liberalism and the advantages of allowing your children
to have full access to the internet and the media.
7. You are engaged in an extra-marital affair.
8. You are a parent and you are engaged in illegal activities (electricity and water pilferage, jueteng,
smuggling, corruption, etc.)

Father’s Mistake – No time

Fr. Bel San Luis, SVD
One night, a father came to a parent-teacher conference in a city high school. During a talk with one
of his son’s teacher, the father broke down and began to cry.
After he regained his composure, the father apologized, saying, “My son no longer lives with me. But
I still love him, and I want to know how he’s doing in school.”
The father the told the teacher how his wife and four children had left him that afternoon.
He was a building contractor and sometimes worked 16 hours a day. Naturally, he saw little of his
family, and then slowly grew farther and farther apart.
Then the father said something sad. He said: “I wanted to by my wife and kids all those things I had
dreamed of giving them. But in the process, I got so involved in working that I forgot about what they needed
most: a father who was around at night to give the love and support”.
Moral: We can get so involved in what we are doing that we forget why we are doing it. We get so involved
in living that we forget the purpose of living. We can get so involved in pursuing the things money can buy
that we forget about the things that money can’t buy. We should not forget the basic.

WELCOME TO THE FAMILY

Welcome to the family, We’re glad that you have come

To share your life with us as we grow in love and
May we always be to you what God would have us be
A family always there to be strong and to lean on.
May we learn to love each other
More with each new day.
May the words of love be on our lips, in everything we say
May the spirit melt our hearts and teach us how to pray
That we might be a true family. (Repeat all)

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 WISH YOU COULD HEAR ME
LM Collado, RSCJ
For the first time, allow me to thank you for all the love that you have given me especially when I was a child,
sickly and difficult. I remember you coming from your factory work, dead tired, but you still managed to go to
the market, cooked and cared for me. I always saw you because I was just there playing with my friends. I
saw you coming home with vegetables and fish which, when cooked, I ate with a sour face because I wanted
something more delicious.
I don’t remember the day without a single complaint about you or about the life that we lived. But I also do
not remember any word of gratitude from me for all that you are doing for us. My other brothers and sisters
tried their best to help. They sold things and engage themselves even in contractual jobs to help you survive
the family. It was hard not having a father around. I could still remember the day when he left us for another
woman. You were trying to be brave, you talked to each one of us with the appeal to make things work out
and do our best to keep the rest of us together. The family became incomplete without Tatay, but you tried
to serve as mother and father. You were there to make a family among us. You were never bitter, you were
never hard on us. But you were so hard in yourself in terms of not having even a little luxury buying a new
blouse for you. You were always bought things to us first. And there I was, still complaining because I wanted
more expensive things for me. And yet, you did not express any hurt feelings even if I knew deep inside you
were crying. You encouraged us to go to school, like my other brothers and sisters who were working
students. I refused vehemently, I just wanted to hang around and have an easy life. I was lazy. Probably, I
did not know what goodness was because I did not know how to grateful. I wanted a better life but did like to
work for it.
A month ago, you came home chilling with fever from a forced overtime work. I attended to you for a while
but went back across the street where I was playing basketball with friends. I hardly looked at you when you
were there lying in one corner of the house. After four days of sickness, you got up and prepared for work. I
did not even ask you if you were already well. I did not even help you carry the pail of water for your bath.
You went back to work just to come back home in the evening pale and almost without life. You did not like
to go to the doctor. You said that the money that you had was for the next semester, in case I want to enroll
for school. You said that you will be alright.
The next day, you did not get up. My older sister cooked breakfast. Afterwards, she asked me to see if you
were already awake. As I approached you, there was a strange feeling. You were sleeping quietly. Very quiet.
I looked at you and you were lying down calmly and peacefully. As I got near you, I felt a pounding on my
chest. For the first time, I prayed for you, that God will open your eyes and say the usual morning greetings
to me with the loving reminder that I should eat breakfast on time. With bended knees, I touched you, and
called you, but you did not seem to hear. I embraced you but you did not seem to feel. I whispered to you
that I wanted to take care of you but no response at all. Deep within me, I knew why you cannot hear, speak
or feel me anymore. All that I saw was a body, with a face that was calm but still could not hide the pains and
struggles of a woman who tried her best to give us a family in spite of her limitations.
As you lie down in peace before we bring you to your final rest, I would like to tell you, for the first time how
grateful I am to you for being a mother to me, for giving us a taste of a family. Thank you for all the love that
you have given me and us all. For the first and last time, I want to tell you I LOVE YOU and THANK YOU.
The sad thing that it does not matter anymore whether it is my first or last time to say those words to you…
Wish you could hear me say those words to you, wish I was able to say them to you a long time age…
NANAY, I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH AND THANK YOU VERY MUCH.

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 HINDI KITA MALILIMUTAN

Hindi kita malilimutan,

Hindi kita pababayaan.
Nakaukit magpakailan man
Sa’king palad ang ‘yong pangalan

Malilimutan ba ng ina
Ang anak na galing sa kanya?
Sanggol sa kanyang sinapupunan,
Paano n’ya matatalikdan?
Ngunit kahit na malimutan ng ina
Ang anak n’yang tangan

Hindi kita malilimutan kalian ma’y di pababayaan (2X)

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 Anak
Freddie Aguilar
Nang isinilang ka sa mundong ito
Laking tuwa ng magulang mo
At ang kamay nila ang iyong ilaw
At and nanay at tatay mo’y
Di malaman ang gagawin
Minamasdan pati pagtulog mo
At sa gabi’y napupuyat ang iyong nanay
Sa pagtimpla ng gatas mo
At sa umaga nama’y kalong ka
Ng iyong amang tuwang-tuwa sa iyo
Nagyon ay Malaki ka na
Nais mo’y maging Malaya
Di man sila payag
Walang magagawa
Ikaw nga ay biglang nagbago
Naging matigas ang iyong ulo
At ang payo nila’y ay sinuway mo
Di mo man lang inisip na
Ang ginagawa’y para sa iyo
Pagkat ang nais mo’y
Masunod ang layaw mo
Do mo sila pinapansin
Nagdaan pa ang mga araw
At ang landas mo’y naligaw
Ikaw ay nalulong sa masamang bisyo
At ang un among nilapitan
Ang iyong inang lumuluha
At ang tanong,”anak, ba’t ka nagkaganyan”
At ang iyong mata’y biglang lumuha ng di pinapansin
Nagsisi at sa isip mo’y
Nalaman mong ika’y nagkamali
Nagsisi at sa isip mo’y
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Nalaman mong ika’y nagkamali
Nagsisi at sa isip mo’y
Nalaman mong ika’y nagkamali
Nagsisi at sa isip mo’y
Nalaman mong ika’y nagkamali

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Name: _________________________ Date: ___________
Course/Year&Section: ___________ Score: __________

Exercise No. 6 Areas of Self Awareness

Directions: Draw a typical flower with five (5) petals and two (2) leaves. For the petals, indicate the areas of
self-awareness that describes you. Put your own description per area identified. For the leaves, write your
attitude to be improved on the left leaf and how you could improve it on the right leaf. Be creative.

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Name: _________________________ Date: ___________
Course/Year&Section: ___________ Score: __________

Exercise No. 6 Maka- Diyos Cluster

Direction: We all know that the Bible is the best book for a believer like you. Draw symbols that best represent
the values under Maka-Diyos Cluster. Put your own interpretation and color it add meaning to your work.

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