Verbal Abuse Is Much More Destructive Than Physical Abuse
Verbal Abuse Is Much More Destructive Than Physical Abuse
Verbal Abuse Is Much More Destructive Than Physical Abuse
ABUSE….
Before I start my speech I would like share about what is VERBAL ABUSE??
Verbal Abuse is “the excessive use of (negative) language to undermine
someone’s dignity and security through insults or humiliation in a sudden or
repeated manner”. This is also known as emotional abuse.
How many of you has ever been told something about yourself that was not
true? Then when you tried to explain how you feel about it, you were
considered being soft or told to toughen it up?? In fact, I would argue that
verbal abuse is always more destructive than physical abuse. Even when you’re
being physically abused, it is preceded by, verbal abuse. The actual physical
abuse causes physical injuries. That’s it. Those injuries almost always heal, with
little or no physical evidence that they were ever there. However, the
psychological effects of abuse almost always last forever. For instance, if you
are hit by a runaway baseball during a game with your friends, it will leave an
ugly bruise and you’ll probably cry. Then, before too long, you’ll be back to
playing baseball with your friends. There are the differences in how others view
the two and, thus, how it’s handled while you’re being abused. If you have cuts,
bruises, broken bones, or the clearly expressed threat of physical injuries, you
are much more likely to be helped by those in charge. Likewise, the average
person is much more likely to support you later.
When most people hear the word "pain", they automatically assume that it is
physical pain that is being dealt. Yet most of the pain in the world is emotional,
which is caused mainly by just a few words arranged in such a way that it will
actually send a bolt of emotional distress straight through that individuals' heart
and soul. Everyone has experienced this whether they were the victim, the
attacker, or just a witness, if not all three. Most people think physical violence is
more dangerous than verbal abuse in a relationship, but this is a misconception.
It's why we often hear well-meaning advice such as, "If an abuser's behaviour
turns violent, it's time to leave." But what if the victim is child or a kid?
I will probably always remember a young Mother in the grocery store telling
her child how stupid he was for putting a can of food she had sat next to him in
the cart into his mouth. Parents usually lack the awareness of verbal abuse
towards their children, causing lifelong psychological damage.
Like any area of human action, it begins in the mind and heart. A Proverbs
says, "For as he thinks within himself, so he is." What a person thinks in his
mind and heart will be reflected in his words and actions. Verbal abuse tends to
get worse over time, and can have long-term mental and physical effects on the
victim. However, verbal abuse is often not taken as seriously as physical abuse,
because an abuser may act like a completely different person in public than he
or she is at home. Further, it may be difficult or even impossible to prove that
someone is being verbally abused. I will share some examples of verbal abuse
which is
Accusing/blaming
Name-calling
Ordering the victim around
Judging/criticizing
Abusive anger
Discounting or minimizing the victim’s experiences
Threatening