Practice Guide

For each of the eight modules, you will have a practice section where you'll be doing a hypnotic
exercise.

What is the recommended protocol for listening to the hypnosis recordings?

Here's the thing, your mind learns by repetition.

Optimal results: It takes the mind a minimum of 10 days and a maximum of 21 days to
completely let go of an old belief, and to lock onto a new one.

However, if you decide you loved one of these recordings so much, you can play that along with
another one. You can play one in the morning and one at night. You can never play them too
much.

But, I don't want you to stress about this. One hypnotic recording once a day is fine. If you
happen to want to play one twice a day, that's absolutely fine, too. First thing. Last thing.
Whenever you want to play them is great.

Remember: "I'm not asleep. I'm not deep enough." I want you to forget all about that. It's really
not important. The depth of trance is not linked to results at all. So don't worry about it. Just
know that it is effective.

It's repetition that's really going to help you because what your mind is doing is saying, "Oh
yeah. I remember this. This is what I listen to every day." Your mind learns by repetition so
playing that recording every single day will make it work. And don't get all caught up with, "Am
I deep enough?" Just tell yourself, "This is working." And it will absolutely work.

Module 1 Training Session

This is designed as a lecture for you to understand and apply the principles of this module.

The training section is comprised of two parts:

 Module 1 Workbook Part 1 [Training Insights]

 Module 1 Training Session [Video]
 Module 1 Training Session [Audio]

The Module 1 Training Session is presented in both video and audio recorded formats.
Please print out the workbook before viewing the training session. The workbook is designed to
follow along with the training session.

Module 1 Workbook Part 1 [Training Insights]

Please print out the workbook before listening to the session below. The workbook is designed
to follow along with the training session.

We suggest keeping all the workbooks from the program in a binder in order to track progress
and for easy access to information and exercises.

Module 1 Training Session [Video]

When we're speaking of the mind, know that it's multiple layers deep. In this module, we're
going to overwrite old, ill-serving paradigms that exists in the deeper layers of your mind with
new empowering models that fully align with your goals and desires so you get the results you
want effortlessly.

Training Session Transcript

Marisa Peer: Hi. I'm Marisa Peer, and I'm excited about asking you to join me today on Module
One. Module One is called "Your mind does what it thinks you want it to do." So I'm going to
give you 30 years of therapy in under an hour. And you know when I was training to be a
therapist, I was really rather alarmed when my teacher said to me, "The mind is really
complicated, really complex, and it takes a lifetime to understand and it takes a lifetime to
master." I thought, "Well, how is that going to work then? No one has got a lifetime to master
their mind." So who here is prepared to wait a lifetime to master their mind? Who here thinks I
could possibly help them? A lifetime? So when you're 80 you've finally got your mind worked
out? That is not helpful. And guess what? It's actually not true either.

I've been very lucky in that I've got an extraordinary plan. So I have Olympic athletes. I have
CEO's of major international companies. I have rock stars and super models and royalty. And I
noticed very quickly that they do a few things just a little bit differently. Not too much, but they
have... The way they dialog with their brain is just a little bit different, and that little bit makes
the most phenomena difference. I noticed very quickly that when I saw what they did
differently and I began to teach that to my other clients they would get extraordinary results.
So here is the thing you need to remember more than anything else. Your mind does what it
thinks you want it to do. In fact your mind does what you tell it wants. So you better start telling
your mind extraordinary things. Then guess what? You're going to have an extraordinary life.
So we come onto the planet. We come onto the planet, and our mind's got one job. Make sure
we live a long life. The only way your mind can make sure you live a long life is by always
looking for what causes you pain. You eat it, and it makes you sick. You'll never eat it again. You
touch something that hurts you or burns you, and then you're more careful. So our mind is
wired to find out what causes my owner pain and makes sure they avoid it at all cost for the
rest of their life. Which is why you'll meet someone who says, "Yeah, a dog bit me when I was
two. And I'm 52. I'm terrified of dogs." "I was made to eat this disgusting liver at school, and
unto this day I can't bear liver."

Because when you give your mind instructions -- I'll never eat that again as long as I live. I'll
never do that again -- your mind's number one job is to move you away from it. But what do
you think happens when you're driving to work, and you're saying things like, "This commute is
killing me. This traffic is a nightmare. My boss is stressing me out. I'm dying under the
pressure." You see, the only way your mind can move you away from pain is by working out
what pain is, and it must listen to your language. Because the words you use to tell your mind
what's going on. So if you're driving in the car to work going, "Oh, this traffic is hell. This is a
nightmare, and I'm going to be late. My boss is going to kill me. And I've got to meet this client
who is just hell, and this paperwork is killing me."

Your mind is listening, going, "What? Hell, nightmare, torture. Your job is killing you. This
commute is driving you insane. Oh, no, no, no, no, no. I am your mind, and my job is to keep
you alive by moving you away from pain. And this job seems to be very painful because you
keep talking about hell and nightmare and at your maximum bandwidth and stressed out going
up the wall. So I'm going to have to get you away from that job any way I can. I think I'll just
make you sick." That may sound far-fetched. But who here has done this? Who here has said,
"Oh, my God. I'm so stressed. What I would give for a week off in bed just lying around?"

Your mind listens. You want a week off in bed just lying around? Oh, I can do that for you. Next
week you wake up with the flu, and your mind is like, "See how cool I am? You told me you
wanted that week off in bed lying around doing nothing. Now I've given you the week off in
bed. You're lying around doing nothing. In fact, this flu is so disgusting no one is even going to
come near you." But that isn't what you wanted. And you see we do that all the time. We
sometimes say, "Why did I volunteer to give that meeting next Wednesday? Why did I say that I
would stand up and lead the group? Or oh, God, I've got to go and give an interview. I'm just
dreading it. I'd give anything not to go."

Your mind says again, "Leave that with me." Next Wednesday you wake up with a migraine or
an upset stomach so bad you can't even leave the house. Your mind is like, "I did what you told
me you wanted to do." We've all done that. So you've got to be very clear about what you tell
your mind. It isn't just these really descriptive words like hell, torture, nightmare. This is killing
me. I'm dying. It makes me want to die. Even if you say, "I've got to do my paperwork all
weekend. Oh, my God, it's so boring. It's really dull." Your mind thinks, "Why don't I get you to
procrastinate?" Because it listens to what you say. And believe me your mind doesn't care of
what you tell it is right or wrong, good or bad, healthy or unhealthy. It simply believes it.
So some of you are sitting listening now thinking, "This is all great. It won't work for me.
Nothing works for me. I've done all this stuff before, and it doesn't work." Some of you are
saying, "Well, this is all great, but I don't have any motivation to change." You see, you've got to
be very careful because first you make your beliefs and then your beliefs make you. Then you
go out in the world, and the world tends to honor and match whatever beliefs you're thinking
because your body will act in a way that absolutely matches your thinking.

So I'm going to show you how your mind believes whatever you tell it. I want you to just do this
fun little experiment. I want you to put your arm up in front of you exactly like that, and just
watch what I do. All I'm going to do is swing my arm behind, and I'm going to push it as far back
as it will go. I'm going to bring it back. So I want you to do that with me. Just point your arm
towards me, and take your arm as far back as it will go. Push it as far as it will go. Turn around
and look at where it is. My arm is kind of lined up with that flower. Bring it back. I want you to
close your eyes and just keep your eyes closed. You can hear my voice just fine. In a minute
you're going to tell your arm to go further. Your mind does what you tell it to do. So with your
eyes closed I want you to say to your mind, "When I repeat this exercise you will go a third
further. You will move a third further because I'm telling you to."

And I want you now to imagine all the muscles in this arm are like Play-Doh. You're like Barbie
or Ken, and your arm is super flexible. You're like an athlete. You're like a gymnast. See your
arm going further. Tell your arm, "You will go a third further." Open your eyes, point your arm
out, and just watch as it goes a whole third further. Do it again, telling your arm you will go a
third further. You will go a third further. You will go a third further. And see what happens. That
will happen over and over again. So you can play with this by saying, "Nothing works for me.
Nothing works for me. Nothing works for me." And then you can go, "Everything works for me.
Everything works for me. Everything." Your arm will go further when you say these words.

So I'm going to show you another experiment, and I'm going to use one of my camera men only
because they are very strong. I'm going to show you what happens when you use really, really
negative words. So if you don't have anyone in the room with you to do this, you can try it at
home. But I want you to make a fist for me. Just use this arm. What I'm going to do is I'm going
to push down on his arm, and I'm always going to push at the same spot just in front of his
watch. So I want you to... As I start to push down, I want you to push back up. Resist me with all
your strength, all the strength that you have. I want you to say now, "I love my job, and I'm
amazing at it."

Just say it three times. I love my job...

Man: I love my job, and I'm amazing at it. I love my job, and I'm amazing at it. I love my job, and
I'm amazing at it.

Marisa: Resist me with all your strength. Now I want you to say, "My job is killing me, and I can't
cope with the hours."
Man: My job is killing me, and I can't cope with the hours. My job is killing me, and I can't cope
with the hours. My job is killing me, and I can't cope with the hours.

Marisa: Resist me with all your strength, and you see what's happened. I want you to say it
again. My job is killing me.

Man: My job is killing me.

Marisa: I'm stressed out.

Man: I'm stressed out.

Marisa: And resist me. What is happening to your arm?

Man: It is going further down.

Marisa: But what is happening to the strength in your arm?

Man: Yeah, it's just tightened a bit.

Marisa: I want you to say, "My commute is a nightmare, and my job is hell."

Man: My job is hell. My commute is a nightmare.

Marisa: See what happens. You see how you can't resist me even though you are way stronger
than me, and I'm just using one arm. Now I'm going to do it with two. I want you to say, "I love
my job, and I'm phenomenal at it."

Man: I love my job, and I'm phenomenal at it.

Marisa: Resist me with all your strength. Now I want you to say, "I can't even do my job. I'm a
loser."

Man: I can't even do my job. I'm a loser.

Marisa: See what happened? The head does what it wants then. You see how you can't stay
strong when you say that even though you should be? Now say, "I'm awesome at my job."

Man: I'm awesome at my job.

Marisa: You see the difference. Thank you very much for being a great model.

Man: You're welcome.

Marisa: So you can do that with your eyes open or closed. Of course you need someone to do it
with you. It's just about showing you what happens when you tell your mind the wrong things.
But if you want to do this by yourself at home, do that with your fingers. I want you to start
pulling against your own fingers just to see that you're very strong. I'm pulling and resisting. I
want you to do the same thing. "I'm super successful and extraordinary. I'm super successful
and extraordinary."

Now I want you to say, "I'm loser, and I mess everything up. I'm loser. I mess everything up."
You see what's happening as you say I'm loser. I'm a loser. I mess everything up. It's that you're
losing even your grip. Then you go back to saying, "I'm extraordinary. I'm successful. I'm
awesome." Every muscle in your body is responding to the words you make and the thoughts
you think.

So I'm going to repeat myself probably more than you'd like me to because the mind learns by
repetition. Your mind does what it thinks you want it to do. You better tell it really good things.
So if you have anything in your life, any habit that you don't want, if you procrastinate, if you
lack motivation, if you can't speak in public, if you can never keep a job for more than six
months, somewhere, somehow your mind thinks you do want that habit, and it's helping you.
On the other hand if that habit you'd love to have, like getting up earl, going to work early,
giving 100%, even being really committed to working out and eating healthy, your mind thinks,
"No, you don't really want that." Because somewhere, somehow you've told it the opposite.

So here is an example. Let's imagine you want to have a really great diet, eat healthy food, and
go to the gym, and yet you constantly sabotage that. The only reason that's happening is
because you're not communicating with your mind properly. So let's imagine this is a menu,
and you're in a restaurant. I'm going to show you a good way to communicate and a bad way to
communicate. Then you're going to see how simple this is. So let's imagine you're in a
restaurant or even at home with a take out menu going, "Look, they have pizza. I love pizza.
That's my favorite thing in the world."

Your brain is going, "Eat the pizza. Eat the pizza. You love pizza." But you're, "No, no. I'm on a
diet, and I'm going to have salad." And your brain is like, "Salad? Why do you want salad? That's
never given you intense pleasure. I don't remember you ever saying salad is better than sex."
But of course then you go, "Oh, my God! This is much better than sex. This is amazing." Of
course you've told your mind, "I love pizza or ice cream or candy. It makes me happy." And now
it's on the menu, and you're going, "Oh, I love that. Yeah, it's my favorite. But I'm going to have
salad." Your mind is dialoging back, "No! You don't want salad. Someone else is paying the bill,
and look at your favorite pizza with salami on top of it." And you're going, "Yeah, I know. I
know. But I'm going to have the salad."

So you order the salad. Your friend orders pizza. You eat all of his pizza and go, "I feel terrible
when I eat the pizza." And your brain goes, "Eat more!" That's why we call it comfort food. And
now you go, "I feel even worse." And your brain goes, "Eat ice cream. That makes you happy."
Because you're not telling it the right stuff.
Here is the right way to do it. Same situation, same menu. Oh, they have pizza. Yeah, I like
pizza. But you know what I really like? I like being my perfect weight. I like being fit and healthy
and slim. I could eat that pizza, and when I'm 85 I will. But right now I want to look great in my
clothes. When your brain starts to go, "Oh, you love pizza." You go, "Yeah? I love being my
perfect weight better." Here is three little words that would change your life. I am choosing to
do this and choosing to feel greater.

When you say, "I am choosing to say no to pizza, and I'm choosing to feel great about it," you're
sending your mind a very clear message. So when you say, "Oh, I love it, I want it, but I can't
have it," the desire actually goes up and up and up until it's almost irresistible. When you say, "I
can have that every day for 50 years, but I'm choosing not to. I'm choosing to feel great about
not having it because I'm choosing to be slim, fit, healthy," the desire actually goes down. So
you can make that desire unbearable going, "I want it, but I can't have it. I want candy, but I
mustn't have it." You can make that desire go out of control by repeating those words. Or you
can say, "Yeah, candy is the cheapest food in the world. It's going to be there everyday. I'll have
it later, many years later, or maybe just occasionally." The desire goes down.

I want you to do exactly the same thing. It works. So let's imagine you've got your own
company. It's your dream come true to have your own company. But having your own company
means that you really have to put in all the hours. And it's a weekend, and you know that
you've got to spend all weekend writing out business plans or dealing with clients emails. And
you're sitting at your desk, and you're going, "I've got to work all weekend. It's so unfair. My
friends are out socializing, and my family is going out, and here I am stuck at home having to
work." What do you think your mind does? Your mind hears you saying, "It's not fair. I've got to
do this. I wish I was out with my friends." Your mind starts to make you procrastinate and think
about other things. Because you've told it, "I've got to do this, but I don't want to." So when
you go, "I've got to," your brain goes, "You don't want to do that. Leave it to me. I'll distract
you."

When you say, "Same situation. I'm working all weekend because it's my business. But hey, I'm
choosing to do this. This is my business. I am choosing to be successful. I'm choosing to work all
weekend. You know what? There is nowhere else right now I'd rather be." Your brain goes, "Oh,
that's what you want?" Yeah, it's what I want. Let me make sure that my mind knows by using
words like it thrills me to spend this weekend working. It makes me happy. It makes me feel
good when I put these hours into my business.

When you describe that to your mind, your mind goes, "Oh, well I can help you out by giving
you more energy or passion. I can keep you awake for hours to do this." Everything has to do
with how you dialog with your mind. And you know I didn't learn this from a book. I certainly
didn't learn it at psychology school. I learned it from my client. So many years ago I was taking
very overweight, very famous celebrities to train with marines to see what happened. And of
course what happened is that the marines were running in rain, in the dark. It was cold. They
had miners' lights strapped onto their forehead. They were carrying weights in the backpack.
And of course as marines do that they sing the marine song. They sing a song like this song...
[music 17:57 - 18:08]

Marines: Up in the morning to the rising sun. Up in the morning to the rising sun. Gonna run all
day 'til the run is done.

Marisa: That says to their brain, "I'm a marine. I want this. I've chosen this. Bring it on." But
when it was a celebrity's time they went, "If you think, I'm going out in the rain with a miner's
light strapped in my head you're out of your mind. If you think I'm running up that hill in the
dark with weights in the backpack you're insane." Of course they told themselves, "I don't want
to do this." And the brain came up with massive resistance. Whereas the marines said, "I love
doing this." And the brain shut down all the resistance.

I also learnt this when I was working with clients. Many years ago I got asked to work with an
actress who was filming a part that just wouldn't eat. The director called me in, and he said,
"You know, we've had a bit of a crisis." And he told me what happened. He said, "Now our
insurance is invalid. We've got to shut down the set." So what had happened is this girl who
was playing a part of a model with a beautiful body was on set. But she didn't want to be
around the food ever, so she would shut herself in the trailer every time the food came out for
the crew and the other cast. But one day she had to rehearse while the food was all out, and
that made her want the food. So she ran back to her trailer and started eating cotton wool as
much as she possibly could. But of course she was eating so quickly she started to choke, and
they had to kick down the door. Security had to pull all this cotton wool out of her mouth.

When they called me in, she says in a low tone, she said, "I'm not going to quit. I would rather
die than be fat. I will do anything to be thin." You see what she said to her mind? Do you know
how hard it is to eat cotton wool even though you might soak it in water? To swallow balls and
balls of cotton wool is really hard unless you say to your mind, "I'll do anything to be thin."
Because that was the anything she told her mind she wanted to do, and she could do it. I've
worked with other clients, bodybuilders who will inject themselves with steroids that are going
to take 15 years off their life. They go, "I don't care. I just want to look that way." Or clients who
inject themselves with substances. They never think about the pain. Even people who are going
to have a tattoo don't think, "Oh, the needle is going to really hurt." They go, "Yeah! I'm going
to have a whole sleeve of tattoos, and I just can't wait."

So you're beginning to see that you always have a choice. When you have a brilliant brain, and
believe me you have a brilliant brain, here is your choice. Rationalize why you feel so bad, or
talk yourself out of it. Even a simple thing like going, and you go, "Oh, the traffic is a nightmare.
Oh, my God. This traffic is killing me." Then you've got to stop and think you have a car. You're
in the warmth, or you've got the air conditioning on you. You can listen to great music. Or you
can listen to this recording, and you can choose to feel great about having what you always
wanted, an hour to yourself. Or you can bitch and mourn about it all the time and then feel
worse.
I've got an experience of trying this for myself. About six years ago I broke my arm. I fell in the
snow on New Year's eve, and I broke my arm quite badly. I went to hospital and it was New
Year's Eve and it was packed there and they set it rather badly. When I went back and they took
off my cast, my arm was like that. And they went, "Oh, dear. Actually your arm should have
been set down there, and it's been set up there." I said, "Well, okay. How do I set it straight?"
And they went, "Well, you can't." I'm like, "No, I can. I don't want to walk around for the rest of
my life with my arm like that. I must have straight arm. I must have a straight arm."

They went, "Well, you know, okay. We can put you into surgery, re-break all the bones. But it
might make it worse. There is no guarantee it will work. You're going to have physio, and it
might go from there to there, but that's the best it can be." I said, "No. You don't understand. I
will have a straight arm." So I left the hospital.

Because I'm so good at my job, I'm very connected to the best of the best in a medical field. I
made some calls and said, "Who is the best physio for broken arms?" They all said the same
person. I went to see him, and I said, "Look, I want my arm to be straight." He said, "I can do it.
It's extraordinarily painful. It requires a lot of commitment. You have to turn up in my office
three times a week. I have to manually pull your arm and break all the little capillaries that have
grown around the bone. And it hurts. Of course when I start to pull your arm you're going to
pull backwards. That's going to make it harder."

I went, "No, I'm not going to lean backwards. I'm going to do it." So I assumed he must be
telling the truth when he said it really hurts. He said, most people never finish my course
because it's too painful. But if you want it, I can get your arm straight. So I booked my three
appointments a week. I know it's going to hurt. What I did was I started to play the song by The
Black Eyed Peas, Let's Get It Started. I listened to these lyrics.

[music 23:18 - 23:37]

Black Eyed Peas: Let's get it started. Hot! Let's get it started. In here! Let's get it started. Hot!
Let's get it started. In here!

Marisa: I felt these lyrics were saying something to my mind. I want this. I've chosen this. I've
chosen to feel great about it. I'm now like a boxer. I can't wait to get into the ring. I felt I can't
wait to get into the room and begin this. So I'm lying down. He's got my arm. He was not
kidding when he said it really, really hurts. But I know what to do.

I'm saying to my mind, "I want it." My mind's like, "Really? You want this pain?" I'm like, "Yes. I
want the pain. I want a straight arm. Let's get this started, I want it." My brain was still saying,
"Really?" I'm like, "Seriously, this is what I want!" Very quickly my brain understood. Okay, you
want the pain. In the same that masochists like pain. I didn't like it, but I told my mind I wanted
it. I was determined to have no resistance. And my brain was so confused that I actually started
laughing as it got more and more painful. I didn't resist him at all. I went back three times a
week for quite a few weeks, and in record breaking time my arm was straight. When it was
straight my physio said, "I don't know how you did that because all my patients give up, and
they go, 'Okay, that's enough. I don't need to do this. I've had enough of the pain. I'll just settle
for half measures.'"

I said, "No. You do know how I did because you saw me three times a week, listening to that
music, talking to my mind saying 'I want it. Bring it on. I want it.'" I even started to say I like it. I
was mostly saying I will do whatever it takes to have a straight arm. I said to him, "Why don't
you teach this method to the 90% of your patients who give up?" He went, "Yeah, I think I will."
And he wrote to me later to say that playing that music and telling them about the choice they
have to go I want it or I hate it has massively increased his success rate. So I invite you to
understand that when you give yourself the wrong information, you get the wrong results.

This is not positive thinking. It's nothing like positivism. This is direct, specific, up to date
communication with your mind. So I want show you some of the words that people use. How
many of you use these words? This is making me insane. This is driving me crazy. This is pushing
me to the limit. This is killing me. This is destroying my house. This makes me want to die. I
can't cope. I'm stressed out. You see these words send a very powerful message to your brain,
and when you want better a result stop using those words.

So if you use these type of words here is how to change. Just take a sheet of paper and write
the words you use. This is a nightmare. This is hell. This is torture. And on the other side just
change that to. This is a challenge. This is an opportunity. All you're doing is understanding.
When you use painful words your brain decides to move you away from that pain. When you
change that pain to... It doesn't have to be pleasure. No one loves doing their accounts. But
when you say, "I've chosen to spend all weekend doing this, doing my accounts, because then
I'll feel amazing afterwards," your brain stops linking pain to it.

So let me help you with this. I've noticed I have clients that go into three categories. Category
one is the person who is going to speak in an assembly at school when suddenly they're in front
of the whole class. They go bright red. They get really embarrassed. They stutter over the
words. Everyone laughs, and they go, "I'll never, never, never do that again." Or they've gone
for an interview, and when they went to speak they got it all wrong and everybody laughed at
them. Or they got told off for turning up unprepared.

In that instance the brain is searching for what's caused it's owner so much distress, and it's
very clear. Speaking to a group of people, drawing attention to yourself, it's going to happen
when you're 4, when you're 5, when you're 10, when you're 12. But once the brain has locked
onto this belief, all that pain was caused because you put yourself in a position where you drew
attention to yourself, they'll never do that again. And of course the owner of those thoughts is
saying, "I'll never do that again. As long as I live, I will never, never, never, never stand on stage
and speak to a group. I will never put my hand up and draw attention to myself."

Of course may years pass, and that same person wants to go for an interview, wants to chair a
meeting, wants to give a presentation to a team at work. But as that day approaches they will
start to feel more and more nervous, more and more scared, and then start to say things like,
"I'm so terrified of giving that talk. I know that I'm going to open my mouth and go 'Uh, uh.' I'm
going to dry up, and I just don't want to do it. I wish I had never volunteered." And as the day
approaches they usually will pull out. They'll get sick and they can't go in, or they'll make an
excuse because they're telling their mind, "I don't want to do it. I wish I hadn't done it. I never
want to do this again."

So type one will get ill or sick, and they will give up. Type two is very interesting, because they
have exactly the same thinking, but their mindset is, "I am going to give that talk. I am giving
that presentation. I'm chairing that meeting. I'm going for that interview." And they feel just as
scared as type one, but they keep going. Their mind starts to go, "What are you doing? Don't
you remember when you said you would never do that? Now you're about to do what you said
you'd never do. You seem to be about to go on stage. I don't want you to go on stage. I'm
coming up with all these illnesses to get you off the stage, and you're ignoring me. Now I'm
going to have to give you a panic attack or an ulcer."

So type two will put themselves in that situation. Their health really suffers. They get sick. They
get a flu. They carry on, but they really don't like it.

But type three, that's the type you want to be. Type three says, "I love speaking on stage. Wow!
I'm going to show everyone how good I am. I'm going to get a promotion. I'm going to get
noticed. I'm going to great job because I love talking on stage. I'm eloquent. Everything I have
to say makes sense. People get me. They like me." See type three understands the mind is
doing its job, moving you away from pain. So type three does their job. They make sure the
mind knows it's not pain. It's pleasure. They use pleasurable words. I love doing this. I'm great
at this. You want to be type three. You always have a choice.

The first time I spoke on camera I was so nervous. I had to have podium. I was holding onto that
podium for dear life. My legs were shaking. I was really scared, but I kept telling myself, "No,
I'm excited. I'm excited." I wouldn't allow myself to use the words scared or nervous. Because I
know that your mind cannot tell the difference. If you watch a little fan-fare going around a
ride, and they are all screaming. Are they screaming because they're terrified or thrilled? Who
knows. It doesn't matter. The experience is the same, but you can change the wording. And
now I love speaking on stage. It does phase me. But still when I'm about to go on, when they
call out my name, I do feel that adrenaline. It's very easy to go, "Oh, my God. I'm so scared." But
I always go, "I'm excited."

So you have three choices. Here is another great choice. Your mind is like the best PA. The best
employee you could ever have. If you tell it what to do, it will do it. So if you say to your mind, "I
love this, I want this. I've chosen it. This makes me happy. This makes me feel like a winner."
Your mind goes, "Okay. Well, I can help you out here by giving you more energy. You are a
winner." If you say, "I'm terrified. God, what if I choke in front of people? What if I go bright
red? What if, what if?"
I was sitting in a green room recently, waiting to go on to a television to talk about one of my
books. Next to me was another author. I'm sure his book was wonderful too, but he kept
saying, "I'm so scared. I feel like having a heart attack here. I'm having a panic attack." The
makeup they put on him was sliding off his face. In the end he couldn't even go on. I was very
lucky. I got his slot and mine. I would have liked to have helped him, but I didn't even know
until two minutes before when he was saying, "I can't do it. I'm freaking out. I'm freaking out.
This is like terrifying." I was thinking, "This is really exciting. I've written a book. I have been
invited on television to talk about the book. People are going to buy it." But it is interesting
when you step out into a live studio, and you have to keep saying, "I've chosen it."

Not long a ago a television network called me and they said; can you come and talk about this
thing? I'm like, sure. This is on BBC radio. So I got up. It was like 7:00 in the morning. They sent a
car. I turned up. Then they went, "You know what? This stuff is so fascinating. Forget the radio.
We're going to put you on the news." They started to run me across to a newsroom. I'm like,
"Well, I haven't even got any makeup, and I haven't brushed my..." They went, "Oh, who cares?
This is amazing. We'll put you on the live news talking about this stuff." And the camera was
over there. My mind was going, "Oh, my God. Why did I agree to do this? I haven't thought
about it. I haven't even comb my hair. I've got no makeup on." I knew I had 10 seconds, and as
the camera came in I just had to go, "I love it. I love it. I love it. This is amazing. This is amazing.
This is the best thing ever."

Of course the camera came in. I did the whole show. It was really easy. When it was all over I
thought, "Why on earth did I even start with that negativity?" But I had 10 seconds to keep
saying, "I love it, love it. Want it, want it, want it. Amazing, amazing, amazing." If I said, "Oh, my
God. Why have I done this?" and the camera came in, I would have been terrible. And I was not
prepared to be terrible. I wanted to be great.

You all know that if you want to make it in business, one of the skills you've got to be really
good at is communication. But I bet no one has told you that the most important
communication skill you must have to make it is the ability to communicate with yourself. And
when you communicate with yourself in a precise detailed, specific, relevant way it makes
complete sense to your mind. Your mind will absolutely assist you and help you to move
towards your goal so much more quickly than it will if you're using the wrong language which is
just confusing you.

We all update our software. I update my phone and my computer constantly. But what about
updating your thinking? The most brilliant software in the world is no good if the software up
here is outdated, old fashioned, and full of bugs. You want to update your software by dialoging
with yourself in a very, very particular way that really works. So if you're studying and you say
to yourself, "This is boring. This is draining. This is hard work," all you do is procrastinate.

When I was 25 I was given an amazing advance to write a book. I didn't even know how to write
a book. It was like, "Wow! That's going to be so lonely. It's really going to be isolating to write a
book." And I did not want to do it. When I was 30 I was given an even bigger advance to write a
book, and by then I had a child. I had the same thinking, "Oh, it's so isolating. I have to shut
myself away." My friend came and took my daughter out for the whole day so I could write. I
found myself doing my emails, tiding up my sock drawer, doing anything except write my book.
Because I kept saying, "This is so boring. All my friends are out having a great lunch, and stuck
here writing this book."

At 4:00 o'clock, having wasted eight hours, I finally sat down and started to write and thought,
"Wow! I love this. This is engrossing and absorbing." And of course in no time my daughter was
back. Then I learned to say to myself, "I love writing. There is nowere else I'd rather be than
writing. Writing is rewarding. It's thrilling. It's engrossing." Because I said it, it became true, and
I found myself getting up at 6:00 o'clock in morning and writing, writing all the time, saying, "I
love this. This is so fulfilling. This makes me happy." Then I go to meet my publisher, and I think,
"Oh, I'll have a little shot when I finish this meeting." Then I kind of think, "No, I'm going to go
straight home and write more," because I made myself addicted to writingby telling myself I
love it.

If you have to study for anything at all, don't even use those words like boring, lonely, hard
work, repetitive. Say "I love it. Right now there is no where else I'd rather be and nothing else
I'd rather do." Even though that seems so far from the truth, it will actually become your truth.
Because you can fool your mind. You can trick your mind. Why wouldn't you do that? When the
opposite is to say, "God, I hate this. I'd rather be anywhere than doing this." So first you make
your beliefs and then your beliefs make you. First you make your habits and then your habits
make you. Very successful people think, "I don't like this, but I'm going to do it, and I'm going to
tell myself I like it." That's a great habit to get into. Those that don't succeed say, "I don't like
this, and I don't want to do it, and I've got to do it," without realizing how the mind works.

The mind is not complicated. It's not complex. It's job is move you towards pleasure and away
from pain. Its job is if you tell it something is painful to do everything, to make sure that you
don't do it. So your job, and it's a great job, is to say to your mind, "I love doing this." When we
go to the gym we don't always love it. Sometimes I feel I'll just go for 10 minutes. I'm not in the
mood. But when I get there I go, "Actually, I do like it." If I don't like it I say my body likes it. I am
in like all these crunches, all these particular classes, and my body likes it. When I do that I'm
bypassing the part of my mind that says let me shut down anything you tell me you don't like.
And instead, I am saying to my mind increase all the things I'm telling you I love.

You can make yourself like anything. Some people like pain. Some people like things that we
find it extraordinary. I have people who link pain to pleasure and pleasure to pain. So I have a
family member who I bought a first class ticket to go on the train to Paris, and they were like,
"Oh, I'm not going because it's underwater and I might die." So they actually told their brain
that something wonderful, a first class train journey all expenses paid to Paris, that they didn't
want it. So you get to choose all the time. Make great choices. So remember the more you tell
your mind, "I like it. I want it. I've chosen it," the more your mind understands. Instead of
saying, "Oh, those fries looks so nice," you say, "Fitting into my clothes looks nice. Getting on
the scales and always weighing the same looks nice and feels nicer than any fries could feel.
Yeah, it looks lovely outside. The weather is great. I could be out there playing, having fun, but I
want to work on this project because I want to be successful."

And just be aware all the time that you can choose every minute of everyday, how to dialogue
with your mind. It's easy to get it right. It's easier to get it right than it is to get it wrong.
Because remember when you tell your brain, "I don't like it. I hate it. It's boring. It's hard work.
It's dull. It's repetitive," your mind has now got a job to do. Make you ill, make you distracted,
make you anxious, get you away from what you are telling it you don't want to do. But you're
going to keep going back to that because it's your job or it's your goal or it's your dream. So
you're making your mind work harder.

When you're doing that job and you go, "Wow! I love this. I'm really happy here. This is
engrossing. This is rewarding. I feel such a sense of accomplishment doing this," your brain
doesn't have any work to do. It doesn't have to make you come up with a resistance or
distraction. It doesn't make you fall asleep or get ill or tired. Instead your brain goes, "Well,
great! I understand very clearly by the language you use. You like this. you've chosen it. All I
have to do is give you a bit more energy, a bit more enthusiasm." and now you're working as
fantastic team.

You and your mind are a team. You want to be the best team. You want your mind on your side
all the time. You want it to help you, motivate you, inspire you. All you have to do is use these
words. I've chosen to do this .I've chosen to feel great about it. I want it. I like it. It excites me. It
thrills me. It makes me happy. It inspires me. And never use these words. It's killing me. It's
depressing me. It's stressing me. It's tiring me out. It's exhausting me. It's hell. It's nightmare. Or
even simple words like it's just so desperately dull. Stop all of that, shut down that and increase
the good words, and you will be amazing.

So I don't even like the word homework. Homework is a negative word. But I'm going to get you
to do a little bit of just additional stuff that's fun. I want you to maybe even record yourself or
get a family member to record you talking about your commute, your day, your job. Then I
want you to notice the words you use all the time. We use the same words. I want you to write
those words down, all the negative words. And I want you to change them. So maybe your goal
is to have a really fit body, to eat a great, healthy diet. Maybe your goal is to open your own
business or to stay in the job you're in, but to get promoted, to get a pay rise. If you're a vegan,
a vegan never says, "Oh, it's so hard not eating bacon. It's so difficult not eating meat. It's such
torture not having chicken." They say, "I've chosen not to eat meat. I've chosen to feel great
about that." And they welcome it.

So look at the words you use. Focus on where you want to go in life. Is it your business? Do you
want to have a beautiful relationship? Do you say, "Well, I can't ask that person out. They're
bound to dump me. Or I haven't got enough money to take someone on a great date." And just
change those words. I've chosen to go up to someone amazing and chat to them and spend
time with them because I'm amazing too. Look at the words you say. Look at the thing that you
want to have in your life. Be very aware of the words you're using, the negative words to
describe where you want to go.

You want to go over there, and the words you're using are making you come back here. When
you change these words you will sow and fly and take off and go over there, and you'll stay
there too. So that's all you have to do. Write down the words you use that are negative. Find
some better ones. It's easy. You don't have to love putting in long hours, but you do have to say,
"I've chosen to do this." So don't search hard for really, really positive words. The words are
very simple. I want this. I've chosen this. This is what I want. This makes me feel good. It makes
me feel great about, as if I'm a winner when I do this.

And finally I'm going to give you an amazing audio download that you're going to listen to. It's
going to wire your brain to be different. Something happens in the brain when you're
hypnotized that does not happen when you're not hypnotized. Your brain starts to let in better
suggestions. It starts to lock onto really exciting words. Then maybe you want to play "Let's Get
it Started" or "I've Got the Power" or "I'm Bulletproof" or my favorite, "This Girl is on Fire." And
that can be this guy is on fire, because you're going to sing it in your head. This guy is on fire.
This girl is on fire. I'm bulletproof. Let's get it started. I got the power. Or I'm having the time of
my life. Hum that, sing it, and I promise you you're going to be extraordinary, and you're going
to do extraordinary things.

Guess what? It's happened so quickly. You can make those changes happen in 20 minutes or
less. So start now, and I can't wait to talk to you again next week. And thank you so much for
going on this journey with me. It's really an exciting journey. But the destination is amazing. It is
you better than you ever thought you could be. So I'll see you in the next stop, and thank you so
much for listening.

Module 1 Practice
The practice section is comprised of two parts:

 Module 1 Workbook Part 2 [Module One Exercise and Homework]

 Module 1 Hypnotic Exercise [Audio]

Module 1 Hypnotic Exercise [Audio]

This hypnotic exercise gives you direct mental commands that program and condition you to
feed your mind with better, more empowering words. In return, your mind will feed you better
behaviours.

If you need a reminder on how to perform this exercise, you can see the practice guide here.
Module 1 Group Coaching
This is designed as a Q&A that tackles practical problems that you might face during this
module's process, offers more in-depth explanations and alternative solutions to everyday
situations.

The group coaching section is comprised of two parts:

 Module 1 Group Coaching Session [Video]

 Module 1 Group Coaching Session [Audio]

The Module 1 Group Coaching Session is presented in both video and audio recorded formats.

Module 1 Group Coaching Session [Video]

During this session, Marisa will give an overview of this module, show a mind exercise you can
do at home, and answer many questions, including:

 What is the recommended protocol for listening to the hypnosis recordings?

 How does do I know that I'm doing this right, and how soon do you see results?
 Does hypnosis have the same effect on us if our primary language is not English?
 How can I help my kids on this?

 Group Coaching Session Transcript

 Hi. This is Marisa Peer, and thank you so much for coming on board to do a live Q and A
with me today. Congratulations for just listening to your first module. Your mind does it
thinks you want it to do. And I hope now you're beginning to understand that your mind
is not some complicated organ that you have to spend a long time studying. When you
break down the workings of the mind, and just remember how simple it is, you can have
whatever you want. So every day I want you to keep remembering your mind is always,
always, always, doing what you it thinks you wanted to do. What it believes is in your
very best interest. And the only reason it's doing that is because somewhere, some time
ago you told it that.
 So I know I might repeat myself a lot, but that's because the mind learns by repetition.
Your mind is always doing what it thinks you want it to do. Because some time ago you
told it you wanted that, and now, all you have to do is to tell it what you want now. You
know, we're always updating software. I update my mobile phone and my laptop all the
time because I want the most up-to-date stuff. But guess what? You really need to
update the software in your mind. And you tell it what you want right now, today. You
know, I want to be a phenomenal business person, and I'm prepared to do whatever it
takes. I want to have an amazing relationship, and I'm prepared to work on myself to
make myself the kind of person I want to be with, the person they want to be with. So
 just every day when you wake up, check in, "Okay, today I'm going to go to work, and
I'm going do this, and I'm going to do that."
 And I'm going to just tell my mind very quickly, "I want to go through today feeling
confident, and well, and successful." And the more you dialogue with your mind using
really specific words, using really detailed words that make sense, that are completely
up-to-date and relevant, the more your mind will go, "Yeah, I get it. You're telling me
very clearly what you want." And the best analogy, of course, is always when you go to
the gym. When you go to the gym, you don't go, "Oh God, this boring class. Oh, I hate it
here."
 Because you know, if you do that, you will leave. And I learned this from Olympic
athletes. They don't get ready for the Olympics and go, "Oh, this is so dull. Oh, training
again. Oh, I'd rather be at home." They go, "I love working out at 4 a.m. in the morning. I
love pushing myself into peak state." And because they dialogue with their mind very
precisely, the mind goes, "Yeah, I get that. You tell me that every day, and I know my job
is to give you more energy." But you see, an athlete who doesn't do that, will find they
start to resist the training.
 So think of yourself as an Olympic athlete. You got an Olympic athlete's attitude to your
job. You've got an Olympic athlete's attitude to your relationship. And you got an
Olympic athlete's attitude in your relationship with your body, and your health, and how
you eat, and going to the gym because you really can apply this to anything at all. So just
remembered your mind does what you tell it you want it to do. And if you're not getting
what you want out of life, then you're not telling it the right things. So I hope you're on
board with that, and I'm ready to answer any questions you have.
 And this is really exciting. So let me have a look at some of the questions. 
 So Alexander has said, "What is the recommended protocol for listening to the
hypnosis recordings? When? How often?" Well, here's the thing, your mind learns by
repetition. And it takes the mind a minimum of 10 days and a maximum of 21 days to
completely let go of an old belief, and to lock onto a new one. So I always say someone,
"Really, you want to play those recordings for 21 days without a break because you
know you've gone past the guaranteed time." Of course, every week I'm giving you a
new download.
 So in this instance, you play the first download until you get the second one. However, if
you decide you loved the first one so much, or maybe the third one, you can play that
along with the next one. You can play one in the morning and one at night. You can
never play them too much. But don't make it a chore, "Oh my God. Now I've got for
downloads to listen to and I can't fit it into my day." I don't want you to stress about
this. One download once a day is fine. If you happen to want to play one twice a day,
that's absolutely fine, too. First thing. Last thing. Whenever you want to play them is
great. 
 And now here's a question from Rebecca, "Will I have to use the tools repetitively,
overtime to align my goals and desires, if get the results I want effortlessly?" Well, yes
you do have to do it over time. But the beautiful thing about hypnosis is it starts off
being what you do. And then you know what? It becomes who you are. So you start off
stopping yourself saying negative things like, "Oh, this is boring, or this is hard," and go,
 "No. This is a challenge." And when you do that over time, very quickly, it just becomes
who you are. And so it's a bit like when you put contact lenses in.
 First, you have to remember how to do it, and then eventually you just pop that thing in
your eye without even thinking about it. It's not work. You do it. It feels like work, and
then it isn't work at all. 
 So here's Puja who said she tried my exercise and fell asleep somewhere in between.
How does she know that I'm doing this right, and how soon do you see results? A lot of
people say to me, "Marisa, I always fall asleep when I listen to your hypnosis recording,
and I wake up right at the end when you tell me to." And you know what that means?
 It means you're following instructions so well, that when I say, "Go deeper," you go
deeper. And even if you think you are asleep, your subconscious mind never, ever
sleeps. Your conscious mind may be sleeping, but your subconscious will still take it all
in. So just have faith that you're doing it right. If you're really think that you're going to
sleep when you're listening to the recordings, don't lie down in bed. Sit up. Sit up
straight with your back against the wall, and that will keep you slightly awake. How soon
do you see results? With some people, instantly.
 But for others, there's something called lag-time where you don't even realize you're
changing until you look back. So you think, "Oh wow! Yeah, I don't do that anymore."
And some people notice the changes kind of creep up on them. It's called cumulative. So
you may change immediately. You may change bit by bit. You may look back and think,
"Wow, do you know I do feel different. I feel so much more confident. I don't do that
negative self talk anymore."
 So you'll see results and just keep believing that you're going to see them. And you'll
also find that other people are going to start saying to you, "Wow. You're different. You
seem so much happier." Expect the results. I promise you, you will get them. 
 And so here's another question from Carmen, "Does hypnosis have the same effect on
us if our primary language is not English?" Yes, it does actually. But I would say that if I
was using particular words repetitively, you can actually use those words in your own
language, as well. I hypnotize lots of people.
 And I recently hypnotized 2,000 people in a room using a translator in Slovenia. And
even though I've never done that before, and I had to keep stopping so the translator
could translate every sentence, actually it was amazing. Every single person in that room
when into deep hypnotic trance, and reported back outstanding results, so don't worry
about that. But by all means, translate the words I'm using into your own language and
say them back to yourself, little kind of affirmations and it will help you, too. 
 From Ishwari, I hope I'm spelling your name correctly. "I'm having difficulties being
hypnotized with the audios. Will they still be effective, as in changing subconscious
programming?" See, a lot of people get very caught up with, "I don't feel hypnotized.
 I'm not asleep. I'm not deep enough." I want you to forget all about that. It's really not
important. Depth of trance is not linked to results at all. I hypnotize tiny children, always
wriggling and moving around, in the lightest of all trances. And yet, they still get
outstanding results. And other people go really, really deep, but it doesn't mean the
results are any better. So don't worry about the depth of trance. Just know that it is
 effective. It's a repetition that's really, really going to help you because what your mind
is doing is saying, "Oh yeah. I remember this.
 This is what I listen to every day." Your mind learns by repetition so playing that
recording every single day will make it work. And don't get all caught up with, "Am I
deep enough?" Just tell yourself, "This is working." And it will absolutely work. 
 So here's Alexandre from Malling. "During the webinar, I wasn't able to lose control to
let go, so I had no new memories coming back to me, but I worked on other situations."
That's very clever. Well done for thinking about that. "How can I go deeper into
hypnosis? How can I make sure those sessions worked?" You see, when you're dealing
with the subconscious mind, here's the thing, the greater the conscious effort, the less
the subconscious response.
 So when you're consciously trying to remember something, your subconscious doesn't
take over. When you're consciously trying to relax, or trying to sleep, doesn't really
work. You must let your subconscious come to the fore, by stopping all conscious effort.
So next time, just say, "I'm letting this work. I'm letting it work. I'm letting it work." Don't
try to come up with scenes because the more you're trying with your conscious mind,
the less you're working with your subconscious mind.
 However, if you're thinking, "Well, actually nothing has come up," it's absolutely fine to
go, "Well, I'm just going to choose a memory. I remember in my childhood, a day at
school when I was really unhappy," or, "When I loved my grandparents, and they left."
And you can look at old scenes, or you can look at issues you have and think, "I'm going
to work on those anyway." Even if you think you're faking it with connecting with the
younger child and changing them, the weird thing about faking it is that faking it is still a
desire to go along with the therapist.
 And science has shown that, that desire to go along with the therapist actually means
you get great results. So don't try. Don't worry. Just go with it. When I trained to be a
hypnotherapist, I always say the same thing, "Deal with what emerges." That's the
advice I give to my students all the time. And for you, Connie, just deal with what
emerges. If there's no scene, put one in there, or just focus. But you'll find that you will
come up with scenes. Even if your scene is a photograph from your childhood, it's still a
message. They're all messages from your subconscious. And also just give yourself time
to get used to it. I promise you it will work.
 So I'm ready for another question. "How can I help my kids on this? As you've
explained, bad thoughts are established early, but there's no reason to let them grow
old. How do I identify and remove the kids and teenagers?" That's a great question,
Connie, because of course no matter how much you trying to help your children, you
will have situations where they go to school and they may have a friend, or a babysitter,
or even some friend's parents who are very, very negative. And so with your children at
home, what I do every day...well, my children have grown up now, is to say...I used to
say to my little girl, "You're enough and you're smart. "
 And I try at home, to install her with extraordinary self-belief, "You're so clever. You're
lovable. You're a smart kid. People like you." And every time I sit her on my knee, "You
know, I love you so much," I'd say, "You know what? You're going to find so many
people who love you because you are lovable." And every time she came home with a
 friend. I'd go, "Yeah, it's great you have friends because you're friendly." So I try to build
her self-esteem at home as much as I possibly could. At night, I'd say to her, "Well, what
do you like about yourself?" Some days it would be like, "I'm kind.
 Well, what was good today? Well, I gave my friend my lunch because she forgot hers."
And I was always trying to install in her strong self-esteem which meant that when she
went to school and other people said mean things, she would be able to deal with that.
And when she came home and said, "Mommy, my teacher was so mean," or, "My best
friend was mean." I'd just say, "You know, baby. Sometimes people have bad days. It's
not about you." So when your kids come home and say, "Somebody was mean to me,"
you need to make them realize that's not about them. They had a bad day.
 And if your kid comes home and says, "Mama, I was mean. I was really horrible to my
friend." You say, "That's okay, darling. You had a bad day." Fix it up. So you have to arm
your children to deal with real life. And real life is about people sometimes being
negative including us, the parents, and our children. So just help your children to believe
in themselves, and to fix up things that they get wrong, and to give other people a break
when they have a bad day. And they'll cope better. But tell them all the time that they
are enough. That they're smart. Praise them for effort rather than results. And that
really helps them, too.
 Next question. So Adam is saying, "Your mind responds to what you tell it. What if the
surroundings speak louder and your ears are open? How do you shield yourself? I say
this in reference to children who are in an environment that puts them down. How
does a parent protect such children?" Well, that is true, that the greatest, most positive
mindset is going to be somewhere where the environment is negative. But you see, your
mind is stronger than the environment. You know, human behavior is quite patterned.
You can look at someone on a plane and if that plane was to crash, you could almost
predict how most people are going to react. And we have natural leaders who react
better because they have self-belief.
 So if your children are in negative surroundings, you haven't got enough money, you're
living in a violent area, the neighbors are not very nice, all you can do is give your
children extraordinary coping skills. Let them know that where they are now is not
where they are in their lives. So I'll give you an example. My daughter, we moved, and
she had to start her school late. And of course, that's horrible for kids. She had no
friends. She was the new girl. She was 11. She felt very different. I had to keep saying to
her, "Baby, this is your life today. It's not your life.
 In a month's time it won't be like that." Because what happens with children is they live
so in the moment, that if they have no friends, they feel like that's their life. If they're in
pain, they feel that's their life. If they're in trouble, they feel that is their life. Because
they live in the moment. And that's why when you get on a plane they go, "Are we there
now?" after five minutes. They live in the moment. So you've got to say to them, "I know
this is your life today, and you're lonely, or you haven't got friends, or you're in trouble,
but it's not your life forever."
 And next month, well maybe next year if you're living in a very poor, unhappy situation
of your home, "This won't be your life forever." Just make them believe it will get better,
and they'll do fine because you've got to arm them again with great coping skills. And
 help them to look at what is good, they have a loving family. Even if they've just got one
person who believes in them, you, that's still a bonus, and that's still a good thing. So
next question. It's from Madge, "How can we apply this concept in week one to our
health if we feel tired all the time and unwell? What can we say to ourselves that is
helpful to raise our energy and improve our well-being when we have a little physical
energy to do the things we enjoy?"
 Well, actually yeah, this is really important. What you have to say every day is to say,
"You have a fantastic immune system." So if you suffer with poor health, or you're
always tired or stressed, you probably are saying things like, "Oh God, I can't cope with
this" or, "I'm so tired," or, "I haven't got enough sleep," or, "I didn't eat enough good
food." And what I want you to do is to say, "I have a great immune system. Yes, I only
got four and a half hours sleep last night, but tonight I'll sleep more. And I can cope with
this." Whatever you're doing, you keep saying to your mind, "I've got a great immune
system. I can function well with less sleep. Yeah, I'm under pressure, but I have great
coping skills. I can deal with this." Think of yourself as rather like a battery.
 A battery runs out, and then you recharge it. And then it picks up again. In the same way
you recharge your phone, as long as you get enough sleep, you can recharge yourself.
What a lot of people do is that they run on empty. They're stressed. They come home
and instead of relaxing, going to bed early, eating some good food, just going to sleep,
they watch TV, they do more work. You do need to take yourself off to bed and to shut
down. And think of yourself like a battery. As long as you recharge, then you can
function all day. So for your health remember that. But also you've got to take some
action. If you're always eating rubbish food at work, start to take some tuna fish and
some sweet corn with you.
 Start to take some fruit with you. You know, you are responsible for what you eat. So if
you're stressed all the time and grabbing junk food. Every day, but a packet of almonds,
a banana, an apple in your bag, and when you go to the shop, don't buy one packet of
almonds or nuts, buy 20, so you've always got some better food. Nuts and seeds are
really nature's food. They contain everything you need. And if you can have that with a
bit of fruit or an avocado, you're really nourishing your body. So as long as you eat
better food. Not amazing, but better, sleep better, and drinking enough fluid, you'll be
great. And all doctors say that it's the sleep, and the diet, and the hydration that affects
you.
 Most people that are sick all the time are not eating enough good food, not drinking
enough water, and not sleeping enough. Pay attention to those three things by telling
your mind, "I'm choosing to do this. I'm choosing to have the right food with me. I'm
choosing to get enough sleep. I'm choosing to feel great about it. I'm choosing to make
it a priority." Then the mind goes, "Oh, I get it. You want that. I'm going to remind you,
and inspire you, and motivate you to put your health first." So go ahead Madge, and do
all of that. 
 Next question, from Ella, "I'd like to ask you whether there's a reason between telling
your mind what to do, and being aware of your emotions and your intuition guiding
you to whether something is good for you or not?" I love that question.
 Our instinct is very important. You know, I spent a lot of time around tribes in Africa,
and they live by their gut, their gut instinct. And in our country in the West, we kind of
ignore that. And I think you should always listen to your intuition. If you're on a date
with a guy, and everything says, "He's not right." We don't think, "I'm going to override
that because he's good-looking," or, "He's funny," or, "You know he's got money." If
your gut says something is wrong, then often times it is wrong. But listen to your gut a
bit more and say, "Why is that?"
 So let's imagine, you meet someone and everything in your gut says, "I don't like this
person." Ask yourself why that is, and you'll probably find they remind you of someone
that didn't have great qualities. If you're in a situation and everything in your intuition
says, "This is wrong." Then you probably should leave because your instinct is usually
right. So I don't think you should override it at all. Unless, of course it's a work situation
where you maybe don't like your boss or a client.
 And in that case, you have got to get on with them, and therefore you do tell your mind,
"I'm going to look for some good qualities in this person. I have to work with them. I'm
going to get on with them." I had to work with the Olympic bobsled team who frankly,
they couldn't stand each other. And of course, when you're a team in the Olympics,
you've got to move together and even get onto the same brainwave. So I had to make
them override that and choose to like each other during the Olympic Games because
they wanted to win.
 And they did. So trust your instinct, but when you have to override it, remind yourself
why you're doing that, and then you'll know whether something is good for you or not. I
think we're going now to a group exercise. So let me show you how your mind does
what it thinks you want it to do. Or your mind does what you tell it to. I want you all to
stand up. Actually, sorry I have another question first. We'll come back to that in just a
minute.
 If you just stand up, ignore me. Sit down, again. So here's Elle, "Does using headphones
while listening to hypnosis help, hinder or make no difference?" Actually, makes no
difference at all unless they're kind of squashing your head and making you feel really
uncomfortable. Use the little earbuds, it's fine. It really doesn't matter if you fall asleep
and wake up in the morning and they're still there. But do not have your tablet plugged
in all night into the power supply. That isn't good. Don't fall asleep with earphones in
and your phone plugged in, too.
 Okay, so we're going to do some group exercise now, which is really exciting. So I want
you all to stand up and just put your hands by your side. And just put your feet together.
This is really simple. It's really fun. I just want you to stand up. Hands by your side, arms
dropped, feet together. And I want you to close your eyes. And I want you to simply
imagine, right in front of your chin is the most enormous magnet. The most powerful
magnet. A huge magnet. And this magnet is pulling you forward from the chin. So right
in front your chin is a powerful, powerful magnet. And this magnet is pulling you
forward.
 Straightaway as I speak, your chin is starting to move forward. Your body is starting to
lean forward. You are hinging forward. You are being pulled forward. A powerful
magnet is pulling you, and pulling you, and pulling you, so much so that you are starting
 to lock your knees. Your knees are locking. You really, really, really want to come up on
your tiptoes as that magnet pulls you, and pulls you, and pulls you. So you are leaning,
tilting, tipping, and hinging forward because that magnet is so strong, so irresistible, so
powerful, so forceful, that you have to go with it as it pulls you, and pulls you, and pulls
you forward.
 And now, I want you to imagine that magnet has gone just to the back of the back of
your head. And now that magnetic force is behind you. It's right at the back at the back
of your head. And straightaway, your head is being pulled backwards. You're leaning
backwards. Your shoulders are being pulled backwards. Your head is pulled backwards.
Your shoulders are pulled backwards. You are leaning, and tipping, and tilting,
backwards , backwards, backwards.
 And as you move backwards, you're locking your knees, and this time, your toes want to
come up into the air, your knees are locking. You're being pulled backwards, drawn
backwards, moved backwards by this powerful magnetic force. And just be aware of
how very effective that is. That magnet is pulling you back, drawing you back, making
you lean backwards. And now, that magnetic force has gone just to the left of your left
shoulder. And just like a willow tree in a storm, you are being pulled over to the left.
Your ear is moving to the left. Your head is drawn to the left. Your shoulder is being
pulled over to the left.
 Your whole body is arching, moving, tipping, leaning, tilting to the left. And that
magnetic force pulling you to the left is so strong, you're now actually, really wanting to
go right onto the side of your left foot as that magnet pulls you, and pulls you, and pulls
you all the way over to the left. And now you can just open your eyes. And straighten
yourself up and understand that, of course there's no magnet. But you see what
happened? Your mind began to believe there was a magnet. You listened to me telling
you there was a magnet, and because your mind is never going to disagree with you,
you started to respond to a magnet that existed in your imagination.
 And that's how the mind is. Whatever you tell it, it doesn't go, "Oh come on, this is silly,"
or, "I don't believe this," or, "this is crazy." And even when you do, it still responded to
those words and images. And now, you've got that proof. Just remember every day, that
if you can hear the words, "There's a magnet in front of you, beside you, behind you, to
the left of you, and you're moving to something that you had told yourself, now you
know that you are 100% responsible for everything that you tell yourself.
 So let's go onto some more exciting questions. So I'm ready now for the open session.
I'm ready to answer more questions. 
 And so here is one that says, "Is it okay to work on multiple goals at once, fitness,
money, writing, cleaning?" Actually, I would say no. Not straight away. It's much better
to pick one goal. Just one goal. Let's say fitness. And just start with that because if you
give yourself four goals all at the same time, your mind may just pick one at random. It's
too much to give it all those goals. Just start with one, fitness. But of course, what
happens is first of all, this is what you do. And then it becomes who you are.
 And then after maybe two weeks you can add in your money goal, that's fine. Because
what will happen is that as you're fitter, you will have more energy, anyway. So then you
can add in your money goal. And then you can go into doing your writing. Writing at
 night. Writing in the morning, because when you're fit, you actually have more energy.
When you eat better, you have more energy, which means you have more time to shop
better. And you can put cleaning your house into part of your fitness regime. "Okay,
now I've got energy. I can work out a bit more by cleaning the house. But also doing
some summer crunches as I clean. Doing some leg lifts as I clean."
 So you can make it all segue together really nicely, but I would never say, "Yeah, take
five goals, do all of them." Start with one. Two weeks later, introduce a second. Another
two weeks later, introduce a third. And then another two weeks later, introduce the
fourth. If you find that's too much, slow it down, and do one goal, and introduce a new
one every month. The mind loves goals. Our mind is actually a goal seeking mechanism.
Our mind is a bit like a SCUD missile. It likes to go towards goals.
 We are happier with goals. But don't get yourself too many all at once. So here's David.
"In the homework, in the workbook, I didn't seem to have difficulty with negative words.
It was more that I was using procrastination language. How can I address this?" Well,
stop using procrastination language. Change it. You see, whatever negative words you
up, you flip it over, there will be a positive word. So I'm tired, I'm energized. I'm bored,
I'm interested. I'm lazy, and I'm energetic. So if you are using procrastination language
that isn't negative, it's just like, "Oh, this is dull, this is tiresome, this is tedious." I don't
actually know the language you are using because you haven't told me.
 But I can tell you right now, flip that word over. Find the opposite and use that instead.
So if you're doing something that makes you procrastinate, that's because, guess what?
You have told your mind, "I want to procrastinate," when you say, "I don't really want to
do this," or, "I wish I was doing something else," or, "Their job's much more fun than
mine," or, "I need to really finish this so I can start to enjoy myself," guess what you're
telling your mind? I don't want to do this. I don't like this. This isn't enjoyable. And so
you say to your mind, "I want to do this. I'm going to make it enjoyable. And even if it
isn't my favorite topic, I'm going to give it 100%."
 And that's a good thing because you can't go through life just doing the great bits. A lot
of my patients have real problems because they have been very indulged, and they
think they can only do, "I only want a job that I like. I only want to do something that's
fun." That's not reality you know, it's like having a baby, and saying, "I don't want any
diapers, or babysit. I just want the good bit." Well, to get the good bit, you have to do
the ungood bit, too. So when you're doing the un-good bit, just say, "Yeah, I'm applying
myself. And I've got great skills. I can commit to something that isn't my favorite
choice." And that's a good thing to tell your mind, "I'm so committed, I'm also
committed to things that aren't my favorite and I give them the same passion and
dedication."
 And the people that employ you will see that in you, and you'll get promoted. So here's
the next question, which is, "How do I know the difference between something in my
life that I need to change? I need to change my perspective or change the words I'm
using. How do I know the difference between something I need to change?" Well,
usually your gut instinct is a good thing, and if you don't know, ask the people around
you, "Is there anything about me that I should change?" I promise you, they'll give you a
 list. So you want to know the difference between something that you must change...and
you know, sometimes we don't even know the words we're using.
 My little girl came home one day and said, "Mommy, how does Philippa get on the
ceiling?" And I said, "What do you mean?" She goes, "Philippa?" This is my best friend
who was the mother of her best friend. "How does she get on the ceiling?" And of
course Phillipa's words, "This is driving me up the wall. I'm going up the wall. If you
make a mess, I'll go up the wall." And of course, she didn't even know she was using that
word, until my daughter told me. So sometimes we are not aware that we use the same
words all the time, "This is stressing me out, this is driving me crazy, this is making me
go insane." Ask your friends, "What words do I use all the time?
 What perspective do I have that maybe, isn't working for me?" Or just, yeah, just ask
your friends. It's too hard to record yourself. Ask your friends. Ask your colleagues. But
when they tell you, don't get defensive. Listen and go, "Oh, I use that word all the time.
Wow, I didn't know that." You know, when had a little kitten years ago, I had no idea
that I was always tapping my feet, and drilling my fingers on the table, until my little
kitten started to leap on my feet that I was tapping all the time, which is nervous
behavior, and I stopped. First time I ever saw myself on live TV, I was twiddling with my
ring finger, and I had to train myself to keep my hands completely still on television
because it's not a good image. So sometimes we have to look at ourselves from the
perspective of others, and then we get the perspective. And don't feel defensive at what
someone is asking you to change. See it as feedback. Inbound feedback is a great thing.
 Someone is giving you a gift when they give you feedback. Take it and use it and it can
only enhance who you are. So here's Ann, "Is it common for there to be a rush of
emotion that emerges as you're in the hypnotherapy scenarios? Oh, yes. Some people
are surprised by the fact that they have huge amount of tears. Some people actually
laugh, and some people cry. And some people cry afterwards. So here's the thing, when
I was training to be a therapist, I was taught the most important words in the whole
world are, "Let go." I recently did a live hypnotherapy training , and one woman in the
room was crying for about 20 minutes afterwards, and thought that was very negative.
And then I said, "Well, when did you last cry?" She said, "I never cry." I said, "Never say
never." Well, there you go.
 Your mind wants to let go. If you have a rush of emotion when you're in the hypnosis,
you are letting go. You're letting go of pain, and hurt, and negativity. And just remember
this, your feelings are in or out. You always want them to be out. And here's another
thing, when you start to let go in your mind of stuff, the body will always copy. The body
will always mirror, and copy what is going on in the mind. So as you let go mentally, the
body will start to let go to with crying, weeping, sometimes you'll find yourself peeing a
lot, or sneezing, because you're letting go. It's all good. So that rush of emotion is a great
sign that you are responding. Emotions are good.
 You want your emotions, and you need to let go. So here's a question that I answer a lot
from Senaya, "How can I help a child that's being severely bullied, and formed really
negative beliefs?" Well, the thing is bullies don't like themselves. Bullies will always pick
on someone that they can bully because bullies are very unhappy. And with your child,
you need to tell them that they have been a victim of this, and it's a terrible thing, and
 it's completely wrong, but they will get over it. The bullies actually have a harder time
getting over what they've done because they've done a really bad thing, and they have
to live with that.
 Whereas your child has had a bad thing done to them. You do need to arm children
though, because bullies pick on children who are weak, or pick on children who find it
hard to fight back. So you need to really build your child's self-esteem. Tell them they're
a great kid. It's such a sad thing that we go out into the world with certain beliefs, and
just like animals who pick up what we're thinking, other children know if a child is
nervous or insecure. And bullies very rarely pick on really confident, self-assured
children. So somebody wrote to me from Dubai, actually and said she read my book,
"Optimum Confidence," and she started to say to her little boy every day, "I'm enough.
I'm enough.
 You're good enough. You're smart enough. You're wonderful enough." And she said,
"Within a week," because he was being bullied children who lived in the compound they
lived in, "he was standing up to those bullies, and actually found completely different
friends, and it was just fine." So with your child who is being severely bullied, build their
self-esteem . Show them how to fight back, not with fists, but with words. And one of
the best things you could say to a bully is, "Oh, you don't like yourself, do you?" Believe
me, that shocks bullies. "You're not a happy person. You're having a bad day." Because
bullies don't like themselves. My daughter was bullied briefly.
 And I got her to say to the bully, "You don't really like yourself, do you? You must be
very unhappy." Unfortunately, the bully looked at my daughter and thought, "Wow, this
is someone that gets me." This bully tried to become her best friend. Wasn't quite what
I had in mind, but she certainly stop being bullied. So Senaya, please do that with your
child straight away. Here's Leanne, " I was a negative parent with a terrible temper with
my child when he was younger. Now, he's an adult. How do I undo that damage to his
self-esteem?"
 Well, you know what? You must be a pretty good parent, even to care about that and to
own that. So you need to go back to that child, and you need to apologize. And go,
"Baby, I'm so sorry. Now, I look back and I was such an angry parent. I feel terrible about
that. I really want to apologize." Your first step is to own it, and then you say to him,
"That was never about you. It was about me." Don't try justify, "You know I was working
so hard and…" Just say, "You know, whatever I was doing I shouldn't have done it. I was
wrong to do it. You deserved better. I wish I could have given you what you deserved, a
calm loving parent. I do love you. What can I do to make that up to you? Is there
anything I can do to help you? Can we talk about it?" Just keep owning it and
apologizing. Don't justify it.
 And tell him what an amazing kid he was because that's what happened to his self-
esteem. When a parent shouts, the kid thinks, "I'm making my mom unhappy. I'm
making my mom angry. It's my fault." And even as an adult, it's never too late to go back
to that kid and say, "You know what? It was never your fault. You were an amazing kid.
You were so funny. You were so clever. You were so lovely. You were so sweet. Even in
my anger, even with my tyrannical temper, I was always so grateful I had you. And I still
 am." So praise him. Remind him of all the great qualities. Tell him some good stories
from his childhood, and apologize for what you did.
 And don't think, "Well, how long have I got to apologize for?" You apologize until he
says, "Mom, it's okay." If you had to do that every time you see him, "Baby, you do
know that I'm really sorry. I just want to tell you again. I'm sorry." He'll tell you when
he's heard it enough. And write him a letter, too, and own it and just say, "I'm really,
really sorry." You cannot even know how much kids want to hear that the parent is
sorry, and it was never their fault, even when they're 50 years old. So do that as soon as
you can. Today would be a great time. Lelah, "How do you apply conscious focus when it
comes to building a better relationship?" Oh, Lelah, I love your question, conscious
focus. Well here's the thing, a relationship is where you go to give.
 It's not actually what you go to receive. In a relationship, you don't give 50%, and then
have the other person give 50%. You give 100%. So think about what you want to get it
from a relationship. Let's imagine you want a great guy to praise you, and tell you that
you're amazing, and make a fuss of you, and make you feel great about yourself, you
need to make them feel great about themselves. You know, obviously, it has to be real.
So just little things like telling someone they're good company, that they're really
interesting to talk to, or that they're funny. Men love to know that they're funny. And
when you're in a relationship, focus on that. Say, you're going out on a date, you have to
do this, "What do I want the outcome of this date to be? Well, I want to have a great
time." You don't need to talk a lot.
 And also it's very important when you're on a date. Just touch someone on the
shoulder. Touch their hand. Build up that connection. But every time you're dating,
focus on what you want the outcome to be. When you're in a long term relationship,
focus on the outcome. Here's an interesting example of that. I might be going to visit my
mother with my husband, which isn't necessarily a great day for him because it's not his
mother. But if we both, "What is the outcome? Well, my mother's not very well. And
she's very old. And we're going to see her to give her a great day," and we focus on the
outcome instead of moaning about it. We think, "Okay, we're going to have a good day."
When I take my daughter to visit her grandparents, we do the same thing, "What's the
outcome of this day?"
 Well, we want to give the grandparents a nice day instead of moaning, and complaining,
and thinking, "Oh God, this is a bit boring and there's not a lot to do here." We tend to
focus on them. So apply conscious focus, ask yourself the question, "What is the
outcome I want from today, this weekend away, this dinner we're having tonight?" And
if you keep focusing on the outcome, you'll give more. "What if you can't sleep? How do
you program your mind for deep sleep?" Well, first of all, never say, "I am going to
sleep," Because guess what? There's nowhere to go. You don't go to sleep. Secondly,
you don't fall asleep. You never fall asleep. Sleep comes to you. So with babies, you'll
find that they fall asleep in their high chair.
 They fall asleep sitting up in the sand box. They can fall asleep in noise, and light, and
heat, and the problem is that we get into bed, we try to sleep, and there's that
conscious mind again, "I'm trying to sleep. I must fall asleep." If you want to sleep,
here's what to do. Get into bed, roll up your eyes, just the way you did with that first
 session. If you missed that, let me tell you. Lie down with your hands and feet not
touching. Roll your eyes up as if you're trying to look into your eyebrows. Keep your
eyes rolled up, and strained up, breathe in and out three times, and on the third
exhalation keep your eyeballs up, close your eyelids down. Drop your chin, and just say
to yourself, "Sleep is coming into me. Sleep is coming to me. Sleep is descending upon
me." But don't try.
 When you roll up your eyes, you go into the brain wave that brings on sleep. And so if
you keep your eyes up, close down the lids, and say to yourself, "Sleep is coming to me.
Sleep is descending upon me," you will go to sleep. Of course, you know that there's a
download that also helps you sleep. And even though I just said, "You will go to sleep,"
don't focus on going, or falling. Sleep comes to you. It descends upon you, it's such a
natural state. We're all born able to sleep anywhere, anytime, and you can retrain
yourself. So listen to that recording. It's an amazing recording. It's more effective than
sleep labs. I've had sleep labs buy my recording because they can't get people to sleep.
But that's because again, they keep telling them to fall asleep, or go to sleep.
 And even on an airplane, you don't go to sleep. You get yourself in a position, and you
allow sleep to descend upon you, to drop down like a mist to cover you like a blanket,
and you will sleep. People tell me my voice sends them to sleep all the time, and I take
that as a complement. Listen to that recording, and you will sleep. So Kat's saying, "How
do we break away from the money scarcity mindset?" That's a great question, Kat
because people who have always had money see it as energy. They don't worry about it
running out. They don't hold onto it really tight, and go, "I can't afford that. I haven't got
the money for that." So I want you to start saying every day, "I'm abundant. I'm rich."
When my little girl was little, she said, "Mommy, are we rich?"
 I went, "Oh baby. We are so rich." We really were not rich at all. I said, "We're so rich,
we've got so much. We've got a home. We've got heating. And we've got food. And we
are really, really rich." And I said that to her so much, and then we became really rich.
Not quite as simple as that, but it does work. So when the children haven't got enough,
we can't afford it, and that's too much, and we haven't got the money for that, you are
programming yourself to live in scarcity. So if you see something that you can't buy,
instead of saying, "We don't have the money for that, you say, "I'll have that one day
because I'm becoming rich. I'm already rich. I'm abundant. I have so much that I need
and I'm constantly getting more, and more, and more."
 And when you have to pay a bill, just say, "I'm giving that money away, and more money
is coming back to me." Try to see money as energy. I know that sounds odd, but people
who've always had money see it as energy that they have, and people who've never had
money get very caught up in, "I don't have enough, and we haven't got enough, or we
can't make these bills, and it's going to run out." And they live in scarcity, and they have
a fear about money. So even if you have no money in your bank account, I want you to
start saying, "I'm abundant. I'm rich. I'm wealthy. I have so much." And keep looking at
all the things that you do have. You know, I took my little girl to feed homeless people
one Christmas, and we came home to my house. I just felt like a billionaire because,
"Wow, I've got a house, I've got heating, I've got sheets."
 Once you feed the homeless who live on the street, you realize how much you really do
have. But when you keep yourself in that mindset, you will attract more money because
instead of fearing it, you're attracting it. Then you start to manage it better, too. So I
hope that helps you, Kat. Just keep telling yourself you are abundant, wealthy, and rich
in so many ways. And money will just become another one of those ways. "How can you
deal with a strong, negative belief about someone if it interferes with the hypnosis?" I'm
assuming from that, let's guess that you're having a negative belief about a relative.
Okay.
 Well, first of all, even people that really do terrible, terrible things to their children,
don't wake up and think today is the day that I'm going to ruin my child's life. Today I'm
going to be a monster. I'm going to be violent. I'm going to hurt my kid. I'm going to ruin
his life. Most people who do that, do deeply regret it, and they usually are incredibly
unhappy. I worked with people who were violent towards their children, and abused
their children in every way you can imagine. And they usually had horrific lives
themselves. They hated themselves. And all I can tell you is your punishment and
reward in life are exactly the same. Your punishment in life and reward are the same.
You get to wake up every morning, and go to bed every night with yourself.
 When you like yourself, it's actually great. You wake up and think, "I like myself. I like my
life." And you wake up and you hate yourself, which people who are violent always do.
When you hate yourself, it's very hard to be lovable to your children because you don't
like yourself. So try to forgive that person if you can, and if you can't forgive them, and
you certainly don't have to, just remind yourself they hate themselves. They're unhappy.
If you would not change places with that person, even for five minutes, you've already
won. So I want you to think, "Would I be that person? Would I want to be them? No. I
wouldn't. Are you a better parent than them? Are you a better person?" Because if you
are, you've already won. And if you can't forgive them, just try to understand that they
are a victim, probably not a happy childhood, but definitely they're a victim of what they
did. And they have to live with that.
 And their self-hatred will be much harder than any feelings you have about them. So
we're going to take three more questions. One is, "How can I overcome the fear of
change?" Well, change is great. Imagine if you never changed? Imagine if today
someone said, "You're never changing. Whatever you're wearing, you're going to wear
every day for the rest of your life. Whatever you're eating, you'll eat that every day for
the rest of your life, and whatever you're doing, you're going to do that every day now,
for the rest of your life." And, you know, when I go to some countries, like in Africa or in
Yemen for instance, and you look at cultures where especially for women, you can see
the life of their children it's exactly like their grandparents.
 They do the same thing, and there is no change. And actually, not changing is scarier.
We have to change. And you see, we fear and resist change in case we're worse off. You
got to embrace change and tell yourself, "I welcome change." And remember, the only
way you cannot change is if you're ill. If you were ill or handicapped, you're kind of
stuck. You can't change. You're none of those things, so welcome change. Get excited
about change. And the more you embrace change and welcome it, the better it is. That's
why when you go to places like Dubai, they love it if it rains because they don't have
 that. Change is good. Welcome it, embrace it, and that is how you overcome the fear
and recognize that not changing is much scarier than changing. "What is the very best
thing to do when you get fearful thoughts?"
 That's a great question. You see, when you have negative thoughts, you're filling your
mind with images of what you don't want to happen. That plane is going to crash, that
car is going to crash, that dog's going to attack me, I'm going to mess up this
presentation, I'm going to get fired, that person's going to dump me, when you do that,
you are filling up your mind with what you don't want to happen. Until your mind begins
to react as if it is actually happening. And the way to overcome that is to put what you
want to happen into your mind. Amazingly, only 4% of the things that we dread really
only have happen, 4%. So instead of focusing on the worst possible outcome, focus on
the best possible outcome.
 Your mind cannot hold conflicting thoughts. That is the rule of the mind. You can't say,
"Oh, I'm terrified of these heights," or going, "Wow, this is wonderful. I love this. I'm
excited. Look at the view from up here." So if you keep your mind full of a positive
thought, and a fearful thought can't come in, and you have to replace the fearful
thought with a negative thought. Instead of going, "I'm so scared, I'm so nervous." You
go, "I'm super excited. This is exciting me. This is thrilling me." Even if it's not true, it
becomes true. Again, this is my favorite question of all, "I'm unable to develop self-love.
How do I generate self-love?" Well, people that say that are not used to love.
 Love is unfamiliar to them. So first of all, you write on all your mirrors, "I'm enough. I'm
lovable." Write it, write it, write it. Say to yourself every day, "I am lovable." You know,
the common denominator for all of our issues is that we don't think we are lovable. We
don't think we're enough. So I want you to say, "I'm lovable." And you have to start to
love yourself. And you see, the best way to love yourself is look in the mirror and go, "I
love you." It sounds really cheesy, but it works. So look in the mirror when you're
cleaning your teeth and go, "I love you. I love you. I love you. You are a good person.
You're a nice person." Start to say things like, "I'm kind. I'm nice to people. I have time
for people." And then, do little loving things like when you put moisturizer on your skin
go, "I'm doing that because I love myself." When you eat better food, say, "I'm doing
that because I love myself."
 If you go onto my website, marisapeer.com, I give away one of my favorite, favorite
recording called, "Love Ability." You can all take that. It's completely free, no strings
attached. It makes you feel lovable. You know, to love another person, you have to love
yourself. You can only love another person to a degree that you love you. So I want you
to tell yourself, "You're lovable." And just do a few loving things. Every time you eat
some nice food. And praise yourself. The best way to boost self-esteem is through self-
praise. So I want you to say, "I'm a good person." Every day just noticing that. Even if
you let someone in the traffic, you might even go, "That was a nice thing to do, but not
unusual because hey, I'm a nice person. That was a good thing I did, but of course it is,
because I'm a nice person."
 And a lot of people find that they can't say, "I'm lovable." They start to go, "I'm likable."
I'm teaching my own self-hypnosis school, and I've got everyone that calls, from
policeman, to firemen, to pilots, to major traders who now want to become the
 hypnotist, and they all have the same problem, even the millionaires don't feel lovable.
You know, you can look at someone like Philip Seymour Hoffman. We can look at
Michael Jackson. We can look at Amy Winehouse, and Robin Williams and say they all
had the same problem. They could give love but they couldn't accept it. You've got to
love yourself. It's the beginning of a lifelong romance. So I want you to start now. Just
say, "I'm lovable." Write it on your mirror, look at it, let it in.
 Even though you resist it, let it in. And every day just say, "I'm a lovable person." And
give the things you want to get back. Praise, confidence, niceness, kindness, you're not
being a doormat. Just give, but also receive. If you only give that, you have no balance.
You give and receive, you have perfect balance. I want you to promise me you are going
to do that. And of course, what's going to happen next week is that I'm teaching you
something different, which is I'm teaching you how to change the pictures and the
words that you have in your head. And next week, you're going to learn even better how
to love yourself. So just let me look at another question.
 So I wanted to thank you so much. I think that we've run out of questions. We've got so
many, so many questions but many of them are a variation of the ones that I've
answered. I want to thank all of you that submitted your questions that have not yet
been answered or recorded. But they will be part of the next session. So just a reminder,
please go to marisapeer.com and take that lovability because it will help you. And use
the four free downloads you've got, the confidence, the…There's one called, "Attracting
a Loving Relationship." That's really important. And So I'm sorry if I couldn't answer all of
your questions, but do come on every week because I will answer your question.
 So next week we're going to do something really exciting. You might think, "Well, that
sounds a bit similar." Your mind only responds to two things . This is an absolute
scientific fact. Your mind responds to just two things, and I'm going to tell you next week
what those two things are, I'm going to show you how to run your mind because when
you are running your mind, no one else is running it. Unless you take control for what's
going on in your head, it's going to be run by something else.
 And all the things that people have come up with today, how to find love, how to get rid
of negativity, how to sleep better, how to attract and maintain money, how to be
confident, how to feel good about yourself, all of that and so much more is coming up
next week. And next week I'm doing another live hypnotherapy session with you, taking
you back, removing wrong things that are in your head, and laying the foundation for
you to respond just to those two things. And we're going to do some fantastic live
hypnosis next week. So I'm really excited. I can't wait to see you next week. Thank you
so much for coming on board with me today. I hope you've enjoyed it. I've loved every
minute of it, and I will see you next week. Thank you. Bye.