Teenagers Say The Darndest Things
Teenagers Say The Darndest Things
Teenagers Say The Darndest Things
the Darndest
Things
By
Irwin M. DaGuru
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Contents
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Teenagers’ Quotes
Introduction p.9
My mother told me to never get married. p.13
You’ve never had a drink? You’re lying! p.20
I’ve got to stop downloading porn… p.33
Vincent’s talking about stuff he shouldn’t. p.44
Being a virgin is not cool! p.53
Everyone’s doing it. p.75
Abstinence is cool. p.77
You’re a baby killer! p.79
Oral sex isn’t sex. p.83
It’s okay to have sex if you wrap it up. p.87
Your first time should be special. p.92
Porn star is a cool job. p.94
Playboy’s not pornography it’s just appreciating p.99
beauty.
Hugh Hefner is my idol! p.103
Lesbians are cool! p.116
People aren’t born gay. p.123
If two people love each other, then they should get p.127
married.
My mother would kill me if I told her I was gay. p.130
There is no God. p.136
Religion is stupid. p.142
Boys are stupid. p.150
You should live together before you get married. p.152
I’m going to be divorced because everyone in my p.156
family is divorced.
Conclusion: The perfect little family. p.158
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As an educator, Mr. DaGuru encourages students to
augment their vocabulary. Words that are underlined
throughout the book can be quickly referenced in the
glossary found on page 161.
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Teenagers Say the Darndest Things
Introduction
Often when I hear what the kids today think and do,
I am saddened. I wish all of our young people came
from good homes with solid values; unfortunately,
that is not the case. That is why I felt the need to
write this book. So many young people need
guidance and leadership on life’s most important
issues but can’t find it in our modern society.
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―My mother told me to
never get married.‖
1. Educate yourself
2. Get married
3. Raise children
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In his career he has reached the apex of his field,
but even he knows fame and fortune don’t mean
much compared to fulfilling your principal mission
here on earth.
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If most teens intend to marry and have kids, why
not plan and prepare to successfully achieve these
goals in life?
Defining Success
According to a USA Today headline the goal of
Generation Y (people born since the early 1980s) is
―wealth and fame.‖3 Who could blame them? This
is how the world defines success, and no one wants
to be a failure. Realistically, most people will never
achieve great wealth or fame. So, here we will
define success within the context of your three life
goals.
Goal Success
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1. Educate yourself
2. Get married
3. Raise children
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begins long before you have your first child.
The decisions you make in your youth influence
who you will become and will set an example
for your future kids to follow. What you do or
say as a parent matters much less than who you
are as a person. Raising good and capable
children will be a challenge, but making the
correct choices throughout your life will make it
easier.
Order Matters
It should be noted that the sequential order of the
life goals matter. I don’t need to detail how mixing
up the life goals will negatively impact your
chances of success; that seems obvious.
Nevertheless, people seem to put the cart before the
horse all of the time. As a result, success becomes
that much more elusive.
I’ll bet for every person you can name that has
married only once, you can name someone who
hasn’t. Doing the marriage and children thing isn’t
easy.
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I often hear people say, when you are on your death
bed, all the worldly success you have achieved will
mean very little if you were unsuccessful in your
family life. I believe this is true, but let’s reverse
that notion. Let’s assume that like most people you
never actually achieve much of anything in your
worldly career. Looking back on your life, how do
you think you would feel if you had a great family
that loved and respected you? To accomplish that
would be much more satisfying than making
millions of dollars or getting on television.
Remember:
The purpose of life is to marry and
procreate. Prepare now to take these
steps properly.
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―You’ve never
had a drink?
You’re lying!‖
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If somebody tells me that we are going to do
something because ―it will be fun,‖ I am
immediately turned off by the idea. If I thought I
would enjoy it, I wouldn’t need to be encouraged to
participate in the first place. I cite this only to
demonstrate that ―fun‖ is a subjective and relative
term.
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What shouldn’t you do and why?
Many of the things that we shouldn’t do are what
society calls vice. Vice can be defined in many
ways: something immoral, wicked, or corrupt.
Drinking
Smoking
Drugs
Tattoos
Pornography
Premarital sexual activity
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you that the answer is no on both counts. Engaging
in vices isn’t necessary to educate yourself, marry,
or raise good children.
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people to be fatalistic and hold a world view that
events in life are beyond their control. In fact, I
have had many students tell me that they don’t have
much control over their lives because, ―Stuff just
happens.‖
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individual will blame him or herself for allowing
their own greed to cloud their good judgment.
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Why do people drink in the first place?
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Alcohol serves as the lowest common denominator
for many people. People will rally around it to have
friends, even if the ―friendship‖ is based on nothing
more than drinking. I have met people whose entire
social network is based on drinking. They have a
lot of drinking buddies and all you have to do to
join the network is drink.
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directionless people who likely are not working
towards the life goals.
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focused friends that are working to fulfill their
threefold mission here on earth.
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What’s wrong with tattoos?
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One Internet blogger sarcastically suggests the
following will occur if you choose to get a tattoo:
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The vices I have discussed up to this point typically
attract the followers in society. If you want to be a
responsible individual and take control of your life
you will avoid them.
Remember:
Short-term fun impedes achievement of
long-term goals.
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―I’ve got to stop
downloading porn
because I’m getting too
many viruses on my
computer.‖
Pornography
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What is the problem with pornography?
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pornography and that every guy he met in jail was
afflicted by it too.6
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Why then had her husband not slept with her in two
years? The answer was that he had performance
anxiety. If you don’t know what that means, let’s
say he couldn’t maintain an erection long enough to
achieve an orgasm for himself or his wife.
For two years he had put off his wife, all the while
engaging in his self-indulgent self-gratification on a
regular basis. Is that anyway to treat your spouse?
What would a woman conclude if her husband
never wanted to have sex?
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with his wife for sex with himself? The message to
the woman is: ―He doesn’t love me.‖ Once again,
you can see how pornography leads to the
destruction of healthy relationships.
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Here was the perfect all-American girl. And yet, in
her husband’s mind, she was no match for
pornography and masturbation.
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Why expend mental energy to fantasize
when you can get someone to act one out for
you?
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the Viagra pill alone won’t get the job done. You
have to put in some required work in the form of
―foreplay or fantasizing.‖
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True sexual intercourse is anything but a visual
experience. Society puts much emphasis on visual
stimulation such as lingerie, strip clubs and porn.
However, the best lovers understand that sex is
mental and tactile.
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How did they do it? The truth is none of those
things are needed and are in fact distractions from
really great sex done the old fashioned way.
Remember:
Pornography weakens your brain’s
ability to fantasize which will lead to
performance problems.
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―Mr. DaGuru,
Vincent’s
talking about
stuff he
shouldn’t.‖
Pornography Masturbation
Impotence
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As I have also mentioned previously, using
pornography will disrupt your ability to perform
your marital sexual duties.
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I have always wondered why young men are so
eager to share pornography with others. I’d be
willing to bet that pre-Internet, most men did not
see porn for the first time because they bought it at
the corner store. No, most youngsters where likely
exposed to it by a friend.
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The third caveat against masturbation is that it can
be done everyday.
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the world; it is not. There is one thing worse than
sexual tension and that is no sexual tension.
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My final caution regarding this topic is the use of
the word itself. I have a couple of reasons why I
think the very word itself should not be used or
discussed in public settings.
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or it could be used in a less than wholesome
conversation for the purpose of arousal.
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This, then, is why I say masturbation is the lower
law. Depending on your station in life, you may not
be hurting anyone but yourself. However, someday
you will likely be married and will need to have sex
with a real woman. Sex in a married relationship is
in harmony with Jesus’ command to live a higher
law. The higher law requires you to sacrifice your
wants and serve someone besides yourself.
Remember:
There is one thing worse than sexual
tension, that’s no sexual tension.
Learn now to keep your sexual urges in
check.
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―Being a
virgin is not
cool.‖
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that it is the most powerful of all the appetites
because it appeals to all five senses:
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question, I’m trying to convey that teenagers are in
fact too young for sex.
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Having sex doesn’t validate you or prove anything.
Some of the most unattractive girls in school have
gotten pregnant.
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Teacher: Do your parents know
about this?
Student: They know I’m
having sex, but they
don’t know about the
abortions, they would
be crushed.
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1. My number one reason is you’re too young.
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Most adults couldn’t honestly answer these
questions either.
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To identify those that were able to delay their
gratification, a marshmallow was placed in front of
some kids and they were given a choice. They
could either eat it and be done, or if they waited a
few minutes, the researcher would give them a
second one.
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By the time the subjects had reached middle
adulthood the study found the 18-year-old virgin
group:
Completed an average of one
additional year of higher education.
Had incomes that were 20 percent
higher than the non-virgin group.
Had half the risk of divorce as the
other group.
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Learning to control your sexual impulses will
greatly benefit you, your future spouse, and kids.
Sexual indulgence serves no purpose in
accomplishing your long-term goals. There is no
better time to learn to discipline oneself than at a
young age.
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and thus cheat time and again. Simply put, men
find chasing women fun.
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conquests will re-emerge. The desire to hunt will
return. Don’t fall into this trap.
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But what if I decide to wait and he does
leave?
Saving sex for after marriage is a weeding-out
process, and this is yet another reason to wait. Just
because a guy wants to have sex with you does not
mean that he loves you. A much better sign that he
loves you is his willingness to commit long-term
through marriage.
Saving sex for after marriage will help you lose the
losers.
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and choose, but I’m not that pretty or don’t have
that kind of self-esteem.
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Self-esteem is linked to happiness and healthy
relationships.
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don’t mean sexual needs-are effective means of
building your self-esteem.
5. Sex is overrated.
I must confess the first few times I made this
statement in public I had no idea how it sounded to
other people. I quickly came to find out that such a
statement may be offensive to one’s spouse, in my
case, my wife. So let me explain myself.
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had it, you realize there really isn’t much to talk
about.
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How then does one cope with the abstinent life?
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Woman: I heard police work is dangerous.
Officer: It is, that’s why I carry a big gun.
Woman: Aren’t you afraid it might go off
accidentally?
Officer: I used to have that problem.
Woman: What did you do about it?
Officer: I just think about baseball.
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Dating takes up a lot of time and requires you to
focus your free time and money on someone else.
Only when you are out of high school should you
begin to think about dating. At that point, it is okay
to date because should you find the right person you
can also begin to think about marriage. Marriage of
course, is the real goal anyway.
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would qualify here. These zones are very powerful
and touching them can quickly arouse both male
and female. Make sure they are always clothed and
that your hands never go under the clothing.
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3. Set a date for marriage.
If you really think you have found the one, then get
married. Setting a date will give you a goal and a
finish line to work towards. Abstaining is much
easier when you can see the light at the end of the
tunnel.
Remember:
The sexual appetite is tough to control because
it is the one appetite that appeals to all five
senses; however, it can and should be controlled
for the sake of your marriage and family.
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―Everyone’s
doing it!‖
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Another survey showed that not only are many
young people abstaining from sex, but the numbers
that are refusing to date in high school are also on
the rise.25 This is a very positive trend, because you
can’t fall into the sex trap alone.
Remember:
More kids are not doing it than are. You
should be part of the majority.
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―Abstinence is
cool.‖
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students in the world at Harvard have taken it upon
themselves to mock the abstinence group. One
student said his friends ―take pleasure in loudly, and
graphically, discussing their sex lives just to taunt
him [for practicing abstinence].‖28
Remember:
Abstinence may not be the ―cool‖ thing
to do, but it is the right thing to do and
will be worth it.
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―You’re a baby
killer!‖
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usually in the form of blurting them out. After we
have heard the various viewpoints, eventually
someone will want to know where I stand, ―Are you
for abortion or against it?‖ Being the moderator of
the discussion, I typically try not to choose sides.
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women I can think of that didn’t have a choice.
Everyone else actually gets choices.
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procreation, has been reduced to frivolous
recreational entertainment. Conservatives can’t
stand the idea that society would allow the
elimination of nascent life just to maintain the
liberal fantasy of free love without consequences.
Permitting consequence-free sex has inarguably
deteriorated the nuclear family which should be the
cornerstone of society.
Remember:
Everyone, except rape victims, gets choices
prior to conception, use them wisely.
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―Oral sex isn’t
sex!‖
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the male and female at the same time. Sodomy, in
either of its forms, is about the pleasure and
domination of one partner over another; that’s why
it’s out of bounds.
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Sometimes I wonder where these girls’ parents are.
But we live in a different world. Many parents
don’t address these topics due to awkwardness or
ignorance. I believe the majority of normal adults
don’t do this; therefore, it is possible that they just
don’t believe this stuff is going on.
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No one asks their pastor if copulation in marriage is
okay. Everyone knows that it is, and that it serves a
God given purpose.
Remember:
Sodomy used to be against the law of
God and man. It has no place in a
healthy relationship or marriage.
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―It’s okay to have
sex if you wrap it
up.‖
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student. Usually the answer is ―sometimes.‖
―Sometimes‖ sure defeats the purpose of the
condom doesn’t it?
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Instead of trying to convince these adulterers to
simply remain faithful to their wives, the health
workers promoted condoms as the solution. The
prostitutes were all for it because I’m sure they
didn’t want to get AIDS. Plus, sex with paying
customers was just a job for them; they weren’t
really in it for the pleasure anyway.
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we even did it, so don’t count on this being a long-
term thing.
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has trust and marriage potential. Then, after you’re
married, you can consummate the deal with
pleasurable risk-free sex.
Remember:
Condoms take the fun out of sex. Real
sex is flesh on flesh and skin on skin.
This is another reason to wait until
marriage and do it right.
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―Your first
time should be
special.‖
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Sex is unbelievably complicated for the novice.
Many guys think that because they have read
Maxim articles and seen pornography they know all
they need to know to execute the mission
successfully. This would be like saying that
because you read Sports Illustrated and watch
SportsCenter you can play quarterback in the NFL.
Remember:
Your first time likely won’t be special.
In fact, it may take some time for you to
figure it out, so no need to rush into it.
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―Porn star is a
cool job.‖
Real sex:
Is done mostly in the dark or dimmed
lighting.
Lasts only minutes.
Is done in relative silence.
Is done with a man on top of a woman in the
oddly named missionary position.
Pornographic sex:
Is done under bright lights-it has to be if
you’re going to film it.
Seems to go on forever-it has to if you’re
going to sell it. Who would pay for a two-
minute video?
Involves exaggerated moans and shouts-they
actually hirer people to do voiceovers and
then edit them in to make this stuff sound
more exciting than it really is.
Involves unrealistic positions that most
people couldn’t pull off or sustain for more
than ten seconds.
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What makes movies interesting?
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One economics website explains it like this:
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Remember:
The law of diminishing marginal utility
applies to every aspect of life, not just
economics. You can have too much of
a good thing.
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―Playboy’s not
pornography,
it’s just
appreciating
natural
beauty.‖
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The interviewer went on to ask if Mr. Hefner
believed pornography existed, to which he replied,
―Yes, and there's beauty, too…what somebody else
likes is pornography and what you like or I like is
erotica. It's like beauty, it's very subjective.‖36
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Beauty is addictive?
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your mind will begin to create its own fantasy the
way nature intended.
Remember:
Playboy is pornography and you’ll
know it when you see it.
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―Hugh
Heffner is my
idol!‖
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him, the media seem to love him as well. Everyone
wants an interview and no one challenges him on
anything. Unfortunately, the media are complicit in
perpetuating the Hugh Hefner charade.
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Let’s look at Hefner’s words from a 2007 NPR
interview.
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married to her. Then the American public wouldn’t
be expected to believe over the last decade that he
has had three, four, or seven girlfriends at a time.
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By the way, after his divorce Hugh Hefner did the
right thing and provided his ex-wife and their two
children living quarters on the Playboy Mansion
property. He says the reason is: ―In the best of all
worlds, children should be raised by both parents."47
Of course the media never talk about Hugh Hefner
the father or family man because it’s just not good
for business.
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His brand of absolute candor
precludes disclosure…I decided I'd
rather hear his fascinatingly polished
rendition of the truth then to go
rooting around for some other
version.‖49
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Let’s make a couple of points here. First, the very
wording of her account makes her story sound
fabricated. Notice how she begins ―one time.‖
That is awfully close to ―once upon a time,‖ which
is how fairy tales begin. And, I believe this account
is an adult fairy tale.
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I was expecting that. I stayed in the
guesthouse, and I was like, I’d better
lock my door because you never
know who’s going to knock on it.
Maybe they want to have an orgy
here! But it wasn’t as wild as I
thought. I would go every day into
the hot tub after my shoot, and I was
kind of waiting. Let’s see, what’s
going to happen? Nothing!53
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She clearly didn’t sleep with him to get in the
magazine. She admits that she turned him down a
couple of times months after her work was done. It
wasn’t until months later that they even went on a
date.
3. Hefner is a revolutionary
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Let’s breakdown the marketing genius of the
revolutionary Mr. Hefner here.
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―Playboy was rooted in the notion that nice girls
like sex too.‖
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Playboy and pornography in general, should be
viewed as a threat by women. Anything that
competes for the time, attention, money, and sexual
pleasure of your mate is a threat to all women and
their relationships.
―Sir, you’re a
man, you can’t
tell me that
you don’t like
that stuff.‖
Remember:
When the cameras aren’t rolling, Hugh
Hefner is a family man and a romantic
looking for a soul mate.
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―Lesbians are
cool!‖
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Another appeal of the girl-on-girl fantasy is that the
women are acting or behaving in a sexually
aggressive manner. For example, think about how
many movies or TV shows insert scenes of a
woman seducing a man.
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As you can see, the so-called ―lesbian fantasy‖ is
anything but. In reality, it is the most male-
centered, superficial, heterosexual fantasy there is.
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―Threesome‖ fantasies are just that, fantasy. Acting
this out would be impractical and a let down. Also,
any girl that would agree to such a thing must really
have no self-respect and likely isn’t good wife and
mother material anyway. Not to mention, such an
arrangement would be impossible if you subscribe
to the notion that sex is for married people.
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Doug Heffernan, wanted to buy a stripper pole for
his wife to entertain him. In the end, he regrets it as
he realizes she can’t match in reality what he had
been imagining in his mind.
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Remember:
Sexual thoughts occur naturally, which is
another reason you don’t need
pornography.
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―People
aren’t born
gay!‖
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If gays are born that way, then what’s wrong with
homosexuality?
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monogamous, no such commandment would have
been given.
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The same idea can be applied to homosexual
sexuality. I believe the family bonds one could
create by denying one’s homosexual urges and
embracing the traditional nuclear family would be
worth much more than just pursuing sexual
relations with someone you think you want.
Remember:
Lesson
Gay people probably are 18
born that way. So
what? They can still marry and enjoy
procreation.
Gays are IAlready
believe thatAllowed
would be more
to
satisfying than a life devoted to your sexual
Marry
orientation.
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―If two people
love each other
then they
should be able
to get married.‖
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If you’re not okay with that idea, then you, like me,
must believe that love is an action. You choose
when, where, and to whom you will give it, as well
as from whom you’ll receive it. Like most actions,
it only happens if you allow it happen. Love is a
choice, not a destiny.
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people to declare that in this world, there should be
more people like their partner. If you don’t feel that
way about someone, don’t marry them and don’t
have sex with them.
Remember:
Love is a choice not a destiny. Marriage
has nothing to do with recognizing love
and everything to do with recognizing
dual ownership of the children that will
be produced.
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―My mother
would kill me if
I told her I was
gay!‖
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What makes a family?
Why is this?
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For an example of these powerful genetic links,
let’s look at some cases of children from sperm
donors. With Internet technology, many kids who
did not know their genetic families can now satisfy
some of their curiosities by connecting with their
half siblings and fathers that are scattered around
the country.
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Again, biological family ties never break and are
never forgotten. Biology does matters when it
comes to family.
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Remember:
Although love enriches family life,
love doesn’t make families, biology
and gender do.
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―There is no
God!‖
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Of course, much of their hope is based on a belief in
a continued existence beyond death.
137
If you believe God or a force greater than you runs
the world and your life, then for you it’s true and
you will act accordingly. On the other hand, if one
refuses to recognize or submit to a higher authority,
then for those atheists there is nothing greater than
themselves.
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Some scientists have already tried to explain why
humans believe in God. They got out their MRI
machines and provided explanations about
chemicals and neurons in the brain. A couple of
researchers concluded that people believe in God
because they are biologically programmed to do
so.64 To that my response would be: Why?
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God vs. Science
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monkey.‖ A lot of people refuse to believe that we
came from a monkey or apes or chimps.
Remember:
Science can explain your body but not
your soul.
141
―Religion is
stupid!‖
142
destination without any of the delays that I find on
my normal weekday commute to work.
143
Rabbi Kushner is saying that at its most
fundamental level, religion isn’t to put people in
touch with God, but to put people in touch with
people.67 Religion helps us overcome loneliness
and isolation while at the same time reinforcing our
moral belief system.
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Life Expectancy
145
Service
146
She’s right that serving other people does make us
happy. It’s great to teach about serving your fellow
man, but much more rewarding to actually do it. A
church that includes service opportunities will be
able to claim it practices what it preaches.
Sacrifice
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Self-Improvement
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Twain: The basic principles are no
different from anything that respects
the Ten Commandments. Good
principles about living a healthy,
positive life…I was always in search
of self-improvement. That’s what
Sant Mat does for me.72
Remember:
Religion is a key ingredient to being
healthy and happy.
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―Boys are
stupid!‖
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How much more mature and knowledgeable about
life will you be if you are out of mom’s house and
earning your own way in the world?
Why is this?
152
To be clear, I’m not suggesting that cohabitation
leads to divorce; it is not the cause, but there is a
correlation.
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have not lived under the terms of the
month-to-month rental agreement.
They begin their relationship
assuming that they are in this thing
for life, and all their habits usually
reflect that commitment.75
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experimenting with sex will be of little use in
choosing a good marriage partner.
Remember:
Living together doesn’t help your
future marriage. Instead, it fosters
casual views toward sex and
commitment.
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―I’m going to be divorced
because everyone in my
family is divorced.‖
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These factors include the following:
Remember:
Following the guidance in this book will
reduce your risk of ending up divorced.
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Conclusion
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We’ve mapped out the course for success and
happiness, now it’s up to you to implement it.
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For men, once you’re married, put your wife
first. Sex is your opportunity to serve your
wife. Remember pornography and sexual
experimentation have nothing to do with real
sex.
Have children, and when you do you’ll
realize that you never really understood love
until they came along.
Reread this book often if you need strength
to resist the temptations of this world.
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Glossary
Introduction
Augment (and p.117)-to increase or make bigger
Broach - to open up a subject for discussion
Empirical - based on observation or experience
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Fortitude (p.46) – strength, backbone, determination
Aural (p.51) – relating to the sense of hearing or ear
Innate (p. 53) – an essential part of you that you’re
born with
Philanderer (p. 62) – said of a man who has casual
or illicit sex with a woman
Insatiable (p. 63 and 124) – incapable of being
satisfied
Provident (p.64)-preparing for the future
Succinct (p. 65) – a precise expression without
wasted words or concise
Fidelity (p. 68) – state of being faithful
Double entendre (p. 71) - a word or expression
capable of two interpretations with one usually
risqué
Erogenous (p.72) – sexually sensitive or producing
sexual excitement
Carnal (p. 73) – relating to the body or relating to
lower bodily pleasures and appetites
Circumvent (p. 80) – to get around or go around, to
avoid
Nascent (p. 82) – recent or new
Delineate (p.85) – to outline with detail or accuracy
Copulation (p.86 and p.122) – sexual intercourse
Brothel (p.88) – house of prostitution
Consummate (p.91) – finish or complete or make a
marriage official through intercourse
Novice (p.93) – beginner
Vicarious (p.96) – performed by one person for the
benefit of another
Adage (p.97) – a saying
Sophistry (p.99) - subtly deceptive reasoning or
argumentation
162
Myriad (p. 100) – a great number
Nadir (p. 100) – the lowest point
Perpetuate (p. 104) – continuing forever
Charade (p. 104) – deceptive act
Epilogue (p. 105) – the concluding section of a
work
Hedonistic (p. 100) – doctrine that pleasure or
happiness is the sole good in life
Repress (p. 111) – to prevent the natural or normal
expression of something
Exploit (p. 113) – to take unfair advantage of
Innocuous (p. 115) – harmless
Futile (p. 126) – useless or serving no purpose
Dissuade (p. 142) – to advise against
Salubrious (p. 144) – promoting health or well
being, healthy
Demean (p. 148) – to lower in status, character or
reputation
Vicissitudes (p. 149) – a hardship in life beyond
one’s control
Equilibrium (p. 151) – a state of balance between
opposing forces or balance
163
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