From one of our lovely mentors at the Embodied Feminine Woman Institute:

Member in this facebook group asks: "Whenever I "lean back", guys get angry and complain that I'm not interested
anymore, and then it's usually over."
Our mentor's answer: It could be that you’re attracting men that are more in their feminine and don’t enjoy
leading —- or it could be that you’re confusing leaning back with being emotionally guarded and following rigid
rules instead of being attuned to the overall energetic dynamic you have with a man."
Spot on!
Masculine Energy in a Man: 3 Levels
===========================
===========================
Developed Masculine Energy In Men
===========================
Pursuing What He Desires
Clear on what he wants
Protective of his freedom
Self-defining / Self determining
Community presence and leader
Strong need to protect women and children
Goal Targeted
Adventurous
Progressive and forward Moving
Directed
Achieving his Vision
Leading
Solving
Resourceful
Stamina
Will power
In movement
Non-Passive
Responsive, non-reactive
Non-threatened by his woman's power, seeks to empower and support her.
Masculine Energy Out of Balance and Exaggerated in a Man/ Shadow Masculine
==============================
Coercive
Easily Violent
Argumentative
Controlling
Intrusive
Rigid/Inflexible
No empathy
Vindictive
Chauvinistic
Punitive
Judgmental
Paranoid
Represses & controls his woman
Masculine Energy Undeveloped/ More Feminine Energy
==============================
Aimlessness
Indecisive
Fear of going forth and achieving
Lives in the "present", never plans for the future
Fearful of discrimination
Paralyzed by rejection
Uncertain
Up and down
In and out
Non-committal in life
Emotionally imbalanced/mercurial/reactive
Passive Aggressive
Passive
Financially unstable, undirected, unclear for long periods of his life.
Unable to hold down a job
Irregular in paying bills
Reactive
Emotionally explosive
Competes with his woman

MNLOP

M anfunnel
N o longer respond at all to low investment (not rejecting him, refocusing on you)
L etting him really go and making yourself happy.
O nly responding to high value investment
P etty aside, be open and warm when with him.

"Happy Monday morning ... I want to share one of the biggest tools I’ve learned from EFW. First is that all a man
wants from you is your feminine energy (which includes a lot of things - being in touch with your heart, freedom,
sensuality, appreciation for him, etc). He really doesn’t want you to “do” anything for him. One of the most helpful
tools I have from my time here is to know that, when what I’m “doing” with a man isn’t working, I take a step back
and ask, “WHAT DO YOU NEED FROM ME, BABE?” or “That sounds really hard; WHAT CAN I DO FOR YOU?” Just ask
that very sweetly and watch his heart melt.
Example -
My husband was stressing about work. I tried to comfort him by giving examples in soothing tones of how it can all
work out. He was holding me and I could feel his body tense. Whatever I was saying wasn’t helping him; it was
stressing him out. So I took a deep breath, took a big step back and dropped that tactic. I used my EFW tool and
asked, “That sucks ... What can I do for you, sweetie?”
I instantly felt the tension leave his body. He relaxed and hugged me tighter. He said,
“Nothing. I just need your love. I don’t want you to do anything but be YOU.”Not even reassuring words. Just be
there and be open to him. SO simple and yet SO powerful."
"How do I know if a man is emotionally available?"
"1. The first step to recognizing emotional availability in a man is his relationship status - is he committed, married,
separated or recently divorced? If so- there's a chance he's not emotionally available, we help you get super clear
on your man at the EFW institute.
2. The second step is in how he pursues, leads and plans:
-A quick and easy example, there are many more:
Does he text/call when he says he will? Or are you constantly left guessing and looking for hints such as how
recently he was on FB messenger?
And after long stretches of absence he comes back with phrases like "I can't live without you! I just want to be with
you all the time!" If it's the latter, lean way back from him. This does not include a man's healthy need for space - it
means his words of interest don't match up with his actions.
3. The third is in how he shows up - Is he steady or in and out?
Example: Does he give over-the-top proclamations of his love for you on date one or ask for commitment
prematurely and then come in and out of interest or pursuit? Meaning he isn't consistent?
Or does he pace slowly, consistently, stedaily moving the relationship forward.
Does he ask questions about you, wanting to know about you, listening carefully when you answer the tougher
questions or talk (like - you see his ears perk up).
And when you ask him solid questions about his thoughts on marriage/family/future, does he get serious, steady
himself and think for a moment before he replies? Or avoid he questions and move in quickly to others things, like
over-repssurng you for sex?
An available man won't take decisions like commitment lightly and he'll pay close attention to the tougher topics
(he'll even ask you about them.)
He'll also be consistent in his pursuit of you.
And while he may not go all-in quickly or put you in front of family / work / his means of providing, before you've
shown him over time you're compatible, over time he will steadily move the relationship forward and bring you
into his life. Xox

Let the men pursue, hunt, chase and claim you

By this, I mean, not expressing to a man when he’s doing something right. A man absolutely LOVES making a
woman happy.
When he knows he’s done something to put a smile on your face, he will keep doing whatever he can do light you
up.
But how can he know when he’s on the right track if you don’t tell him?
For some reason, it seems easier to express when something is wrong (he’s late, he didn’t call, etc.), than to
vulnerably express to him everything he does right! After a while, in a situation like this, a man will start believing
he’s not doing anything right and just give up.
That’s why it’s so important to jump on every single thing a man does right.
Like this:
• It feels so good when you pick me up for a date.
• I love when you rub my back.
• I feel like a woman when you open the door for me.
• Thank you for planning such an amazing night.
• Your “Good night” texts always make me smile.
You don’t need very many words, just a big smile, and sincere, lit up, sparkling eyes - and he'll feel like your hero
and want to do more and more.
You are always loved,
Gio

Softness, an incredibly alluring and ABSOLUTELY IRRESISTIBLE feminine energy trait- men conquer Kingdoms and
go slay dragons for it....
Show me an irresistible woman swarmed by quality men wanting to claim her and I'll show you many things, but
one will be sweet softness...
Softness, as a healthy feminine energy trait-comes from one place and one place only- a heart that is in a healthy
state- with healing available to it.
Hardness- which repels attraction with men, comes from unhealed pain in our heart.
Like scar tissue forms around an improperly healed wound, as the body is trying to create another form of
protection, so scar tissue forms around painful wounding in our heart unhealed.
This is when women don't understand the difference between cold guardedness and healthy, strong feminine
boundaries.
Softness will come and flow naturally from you, in an irresistible manner, when your heart heals enough to
breathe again into it's natural, authentic radiance.
Prioritize heart healing, it will change everything in your life.
You are always loved,
Gio