You Only Respond To Two Things

Welcome to Module 2!

In this module, you will master one of the most powerful ways to run your mind. It is so fast,
quick, easy and is life changing. The way you feel about anything is only down to two things: the
pictures you make in your head and the words you say to yourself.

By the end of this module, you will know exactly what words and pictures you should use to
feed your brain.

Let's get started.

Module 2 Training Session

This is designed as a lecture for you to understand and apply the principles of this module.

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 Module 2 Workbook Part 1 [Training Insights]

 Module 2 Training Session [Video]
 Module 2 Training Session [Audio]

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Module 2 Workbook Part 1 [Training Insights]

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Module 2 Training Session [Video]

Understand the two triggers of powerful mind control and how to effectively use them to
transform your self-image and self-esteem.

Once you're done with this module, you'll carry with you an unshakable attitude that helps you
cut through all the unwanted distractions and focus on what matters most.

Hi. Welcome to session two and I'm so glad you're back with me here again. I know I told you in
our last session that you would achieve success to the degree that you understand how to run
your mind and very, very, very successful people understand and take full responsibility to
running their minds. So I'm going to show you today one of the most powerful ways to run your
mind that is so fast, so quick, so easy and is life changing. And here it is. The way you feel about
anything at all ever is only down to two things: the pictures you make in your head and the
words you say to yourself. That probably sounds really simple to you but that's how the mind
works. Your mind responds to only two things: the pictures you make, the words you say to
yourself. There is nothing else. And that is actually very, very good news because it means that
you can control the pictures you make in your head and the words you say to yourself.

So people who are very, very successful take full responsibility every day for the pictures they
make in their head and the words they say to themselves. And let me give you an example of
how simple this is. I was queuing up last year to take a flight to Spain to work with a client. I was
at the front of the queue and a woman in front of me couldn't board. She was crying and
weeping, and shaking and her husband was begging her and pleading her, "Please, baby, please
get on the plane." "I can't, I can't, I can't." Meanwhile, ground staff were saying, "Well, there's
no way you can go on the plane like that. She's hysterical. We are not boarding her. We've
already called the crew to come and take her bags off the plane." So I knew immediately when
they said, "We're taking her luggage off the plane," that we would miss our slot and we are not
going to be taking off for several hours. But I wanted to help her anyway, so I said to her, "Look,
can I help you? What is wrong?" And she went, "I'm just so scared of flying. I can't go on the
plane. I'm terrified of flying." I'm like, "Okay. What is that about?" She went, "Look at that
plane. That looks like a flying coffin. When I get on, I can't go off and I feel trapped, and I think
I'm going to die."

And she said all of that pointing to our plane that you could see out of the window. And so I
said, "That could give anyone a fear because you're calling the plane a coffin." I said, "But last
night did you do all your laundry and clean your house?" She went, "Did you know that?" And I
went, "Well, that's what who with a fear of flying do. They clean the house in case they die." I
said, "But you know? You don't have actually have a fear of flying, you have a fear of not being
in control because I bet you never clean your house and do your laundry before you go out to
lunch or before you go to the store." She was like, "No, of course not." I said, "But that's just as
dangerous as getting on a plane. But of course, when you get in a car, go out to the store, go
out to lunch, you don't make the pictures in your head 'I could die, that is a flying coffin.' When
you get on a plane the pictures you make are 'I might never come back, I could die, I'm not in
control here.'" Which is exactly what she was doing.

I said, "Look, I can help you in five minutes to be completely comfortable about flying." And I
was telling her this story that I took my daughter to Disneyland and we got on a ride, and I
thought that the ride is just going to be round and round, rather lovely. In fact, up like that,
down like that and the drop was so fast and so high my brain felt like it was been scrambled in
my head and I can't even tell you how much I hated it. And my little girl also hated it, but it was
so noisy, and she was getting very upset and I couldn't really placate her because it was so loud.
So, instead, I started shouting, "I love this. Yay, this is amazing. Whoa, this is fantastic." I could
see her looking at me, looking rather puzzled, and I kept it up until the ride ended.

And then she, "Mommy, did like you like that?" I went, "No, no. I actually hated it but I knew I
had a choice and I wanted to confuse my brain by saying I love it, love it, love it, because if I said
I hate it, hate it, hate it, it would be worse." And she went, "Yeah, but Mommy, you confused
my brain because half way through I liked it and I started to think it was fun." And you see, if
you ever go to a fun fair and look up one of the rides that's going round like that and people are
screaming, you have no idea are they screaming because they love it, are they screaming
because they hate it? Are they excited or terrified?

And here's a great thing to remember, your mind can't tell the difference when you're scared or
excited. It's almost identical, the adrenaline, the feeling in your stomach. And when you learn
every time you're nervous to go, "I'm excited," it has a tremendous impact on your life. So if
you say, "I'm so nervous. I'm going for this interview. I'm going on this date and I'm just really a
bag of nerves." If you go, "I'm excited, I'm excited, I'm excited," it changes everything. You
change one word, nervous to excitement, fear to excitement, dread to excitement, that totally
changes the pictures in your head and it changes everything.

So, I persuaded this lady within minutes that I will sit next to her on the flight and I'm promising
her she is going to love it. So we sat down, held her hand and I said, "You know, when we take
off, we are going to tell your mind you're at Disneyland." And she went, "Do you want me to lie
to my brain?" And I was like, "Yes, indeed. I want you to lie to your mind. Not only that, you're
going to lie, cheat and steal." Now she started to get really puzzled. I said, "Yeah, this is what
you do. You lie to your brain, and then you cheat fear, and then you steal back the phenomenal
confidence you were born with. Look at all these babies and two year olds on the plane. They
don't know what fear is. They haven't learned to fear flying. So you're going to lie to your brain
which means you completely cheat fear, which means you steal back the confidence that is
your birth right." She went, "Okay, I'm ready."

So we took off and we were going, "Yay, whoa, this is like being at fun fair." We went to cruise
and she looked to me and she went, "Wow, I didn't know that was so easy. Why does no one
teach this stuff? I've had a fear of flying for 12 years. I haven't been on holiday with my husband
and children. It's been the bane of my life. Why didn't I know that five minutes would change?"
I went, "Well yeah, this is why I'm dong these programs to help people take control." So the
truth is you respond to only two things, the pictures you make in your head and the words.

If I had a syringe right now and said, "Look, here's a needle," you can chose immediately what
that needle means. If you're a heroin addict, you go, "Oh yay, I want to plunge that in my arm
and get high, and I can't wait." Someone else would go, "Ooh, that's really painful. I don't like
shots. I hate the needle going in." Third person would think, "Well, I'm in so much physical pain
I really want that shot, I can't wait for that shot. It's going to take all my pain away." Fourth
person will say, "Yeah, when I take that Botox it's going to make me look 10 years younger, so I
want it." Fifth person might be saying, "When I take that steroid it's going to make me have
more muscles and I'm going to be a better bodybuilder." So, you see, in every situation it is only
the pictures and the words. Of course your words make your reality, and if you're not
succeeding, you're using the wrong words. And if you're succeeding, you're using the right
words.

So, I had a patient ring me up and go, "Please help me. I have a terrible problem. I can't merge."
And I didn't actually know what that meant. He went, "Well, I live in London, but I have
factories and offices in the north of England and I have to drive to them every week but I can't
go on the freeway because I can't merge. I can't join traffic, I can't overtake. So I have to go on
all the little B roads. It takes me seven hours to do a three-hour journey and people keep on
asking me for lifts, and I can't take anyone in my car because I'm too embarrassed to say I can't
merge."

I'm like, "Okay, come next week and within an hour I promise you, you'll be merging like you've
done it all your life." So the next day, I had to drive to the north of England and I'm driving my
car, it's very dark, it's raining, my husband is asleep in the seat next to me, and I'm thinking
about this patient. "Wow, what that must be like when you can't merge," how that must limit
his life, being unable to do what I'm doing, driving along. And in that instance I went to
overtake a massive lorry and I forgot how to merge. It was like, "Oh wow. This is pretty scary
because I'm half way through a maneuver and I've forgotten how to do it. And I understood
immediately. I was thinking his thoughts, using his words and now I'd completely gone into his
reality.

Because I understand this stuff, I knew what to do. So I said, "Come on. This is silly. You have
been merging for 20 years. You just put your foot on the pedal, follow the curve of the road,
pass that lorry and get back into lane." Which I did, and I was almost tempted to wake up my
husband and go, "You need to drive the car now," because it so shocked me. And then I've had
to merge into a parking lane, so I just kept going and I changed the pictures, and I changed the
words. And of course, it was easy. But when you use the wrong words, you have the wrong
reality. Your brain will only look at the words and pictures to work out what's going on.

So, I had a client who is a major, major music executive. He said, "This is so embarrassing. I can't
pitch. All I have to do is sit in an office and go, 'This is a new band from North London. They are
called Coco and we've just signed them.'" He said, "I went to that. I opened my mouth and
went, 'Um, uh, this is a...' I had to get my PA to introduce him. It was so embarrassing." But of
course that was because the pictures he used and the words he used were completely wrong.
And I have patients every week who say I can't sell, I can't pitch, I can't merge. I had one who
said, "I've got to give a speech at my boss's funeral. I'm so terrified, I'd actually rather be in the
coffin frankly, than giving that talk." I said, "But that's just because you're making the wrong
pictures. Why don't you say, "I'm excited, I'm ready, I can do this?" And when you do that, it
changes everything. When she spoke to me on the phone, she was crying so much I wasn't even
actually sure if she could do it. But she came along and she spent the whole session crying. But
she rang me back and said, "It was amazing. I gave this fantastic talk and I kept saying I'm
excited, I'm excited."

So, I'm going to show you today how to change the pictures, change the words. That one little
thing, I promise you, is going to change your life. So, I worked with a wonderful man last year
who was billionaire and he was very, very sick and he simply could not go in MRI scanner. Every
time he went in it, he would say to himself, "I just feel like I'm in a coffin and this is a
premonition of my death." And he'd pressed the buzzer and have to come out. He did this
seven times. I said, "Look, you've got to do 45 minutes in the scanner." He said, "I can't do it."

So he came to see me, and I said, "What happened?" And he said, "The minute it closes, I felt
like I'm in a coffin and I keep saying I can't do it. I feel like I'm going to die and I'm
claustrophobic, and I'm trapped." I'm like, "Okay, now you understand that you're responding
to those words and pictures, yes?" I said, "Well, change them. Next time you go in that scanner
you say to your mind, "I'm in my bed at home. I'm lying here. I'm so chilled and I can lie here
completely still for hours. I'm still, I'm strong, I'm relaxed."

He went, "Okay." And I said, "No, really. If you tell your brain you're in your bed, you feel..." I
said, "I sleep in a bed that big. And every time I get out of it, I always sleep in that space and I
don't really move." He went, "Okay. I'm going to this." So I prepped him, he understood. Off he
went and he said it was the most amazing thing. The drawer shut and instead of saying, "I'm in
a coffin and I feel like I'm dead," he said, "I'm in my bed and I'm strong, and I'm still, and I'm so
calm. I can do this for two hours." When he finished his 45 minutes, he came out, all the nurses
cheered. He said it was better than winning the lottery because he felt such a failure because
he couldn't do something so simple.

So, last year I had to have MRI scan and I was fine because I know how to run my brain. So I'm
lying in this drawer and it's all beeping and whirring and you can't move. I said, "Okay, I do this
for living. I'm strong, I'm still. I was fine. I'm strong, I'm still, I'm calm, I'm in my bed." After half
an hour I thought, "I'm a bit bored now. Why won't I play with it and see what happens?" So I
started to say, "I feel really trapped. This feels like a coffin. I don't like it," and straight away
they started to say on the loudspeaker, "You're moving. You got to be really still." I didn't even
know I was moving. But when I decided to say, "I'm trapped, I don't like it, I'm claustrophobic,"
my body had such an intense reaction. I started to pump out adrenaline.
So I very quickly I went back again to, "This is fine, this is calm." When I came out, the nurses
said, "Can you hypnotize this young man who's about to go in after you because he is
completely freaking out?" And so I was sharing with the whole nursing crew. I said, "Look, it's
really easy. It's not even hypnosis. It's just telling them to change the words and change the
pictures. I can do it as opposed to I can't do it." And they reported back incredible results simply
by getting all of their patients to go, "This is just like being in bad. I'm so relaxed, I'm blissed out
and I can lie here for hours."

So, you see, when you're possibly having a review and you go, "I'm terrified about the review,
that review is terrifying. I'm dreading it. I'm bag of nerves," what you're doing is you're making
the words so intense, you're making the pictures so intense, and then you start to react as if it
is absolutely terrifying. Having a review is not terrifying. It might be uncomfortable, it might be
a challenge. It is not terrifying unless, guess what? You tell yourself it's terrifying by using those
words.

So one of my clients who's a model was saying, "When I get on a plane, men talk to me. That's
terrifying." I said, "Well, not really terrifying, is it? I mean you could put on a baseball hat,
sunglasses and immerse yourself in a book or just say 'Actually I don't want any company.' It is
not actually terrifying. And maybe when you're 70 and no one does that, maybe you'll miss it."
But my client, see, would have huge issues. Always use words like, "This is terrifying, this is a
disaster." So I recommend you stop using those words because that's what you respond too.
When you change the words to "This is a challenge," you don't respond. When you say, "Going
for a review is terrifying," you respond as if you're experiencing terror and you want to get out
of there. When you say, "Well, it's a challenge, it's an issue," there is no response.

So I had to work with a patient who'd been in a mental home and when she came to see me I
noticed that every word was, "I can't cope. I can't cope with the traffic, I can't cope with noise,"
she couldn't hope with life. She asked when she came to see me if I'd have no harsh light in my
office, just dim light because she couldn't cope with light. She can't cope with noise, she
couldn't cope with my mobile phone pinging. That had to be switched off. And I said to her, "Do
you know how much you say I can't cope?" And she went, "That's my mother. My mother
couldn't cope with a packet of potato chips being opened. She was hyper sensitive to sound
and noise and we could never go to the cinema or even a supermarket."

And I'm like, "Right. You know what you've done, don't you? You're using your mother's words.
She couldn't cope, you can't cope. She said I can't cope, you say I can't cope. Why don't we
change that to I cope perfectly? In fact, I want you to say every day, 'I have phenomenal coping
skills.' It is such a great message to give your brain." So she came back and she said, "You know,
it's really interesting because I have to go to this group therapy every week. We sit in a circle
and we have to say something. Most people say, 'I like daffodils' or 'today the sun made me
happy' or 'Flowers made me feel calm.'"

And she said, "I thought about you. So, when it was my turn, I said, 'I have phenomenal coping
skills.' The next week I said the same thing. By the third week, the nurses said, 'Penny, can we
write that on the wall because we love that, I have phenomenal coping skills.'" She's like,
"Sure." And then they said, "A lot of the other patients want to say your sentence." "It's okay. I
don't own it." So all the patients began to say, "I have extraordinary coping skills. I have superb
coping skills, I have phenomenal coping skills." And they had the fastest discharge from that
clinic of anybody, because saying I love daffodils doesn't really signal very much to your brain.
But saying, "I have phenomenal coping skills," gives your brain a picture and a word. You use
those words, "phenomenal coping skills," the mind makes a picture of you with phenomenal
coping skills, and then you become the picture.

So, you see, Penny understood from one session with me that when you say "I love daffodils,"
or, "I like the smell of the flowers," or, "Today the sun was shining," that is very nice, but it's not
powerful enough. When she said, "I have phenomenal coping skills," that word made such an
impact on her and it made an impact for picture too that she copes perfectly. And of course,
she did cope perfectly and that clinic, that group had the fastest discharge ever. And now that
one hospital has got that written all over their mental health wards, I have phenomenal coping
skills, because it makes an impact. If we respond to the words and pictures in our head, then
why wouldn't you say, "I have amazing coping skills," instead of, "I can't cope, I'm falling apart,
this is too much."

So, when you say, "My children are stressing me out, my children are driving me crazy," you
start to react if they really are driving you crazy instead of saying, "My children are an issue, my
children are challenge." Because we respond to words and pictures, driving me crazy is such a
powerful word that it makes you want to leave the scene you're in, which is with the children
that you chose to have that's saying, "Yeah, they're challenge, they're kids. They're age
appropriate. This is what they do and I cope with it beautifully." And you make a completely
different picture.

But you see, the pictures you make becomes the responds you have. And when you have a
brilliant brain, and every single one of you has a brilliant brain, you have a choice every day.
Make terrible pictures, make amazing pictures, make negative pictures, make positive pictures.
Use really negative words like terrified, out of my mind, or say, "I have phenomenal coping
skills. I can do this." So your words and your images tell your mind what you're feeling. And
negative words tell your mind that you're feeling really, really bad and that you can't cope, and
the positive words tell your mind that you're feeling great and this is a walk in the park.

So when my merger man came in I told him what I'd done, and he was really amazed that I
could use his words and have...he was amazed that when I used his words, I had his response.
When the man who couldn't merge came to see me the following week, I told him what had
happened, that I'd used his words and I'd actually had his experience and it really shocked me.
As I said, "But now today you're going to start using my words." He left that day and a week
later he drove to Manchester. He's been taking the freeway ever since because he knows now
he is 100% responsible for the words he uses, the pictures he uses, and of course, the reaction
he gets. We're all responsible.
So, let me give you an example of this because I know that we like to see things more than we
want to hear them. I'm going to use my lovely assistant and show you something about the
power of words and images. So, I'm going to use my very lovely assistant Rosie to show you
how much you respond to the pictures and words. So I want you all to do what Rosie is doing.
Just stand with your feet together and put your arms by your side. Just let them hang by your
side just like that, and I want you all to close your eyes just like Rosie is doing. And with your
eyes closed, I want you to imagine that right in front your chin is the most powerful magnet in
the world. It's a huge magnet, a powerful magnet. This magnet is pulling you forwards,
forwards, forwards. Your whole body is hinging forwards. Your knees are locking.

You really, really want to come up onto your tiptoes as that magnet pulls you, and pulls you,
and pulls you further and further forwards. Your head, your shoulders, your waist are leaning.
That magnetic force is pulling you, forcing you, drawing you forwards, forwards, forwards, so
you're hinging, leaning, tipping, tilting forwards. Now, the same magnet has gone just to the
back of your shoulder blades, about here. And now you can feel the power of that same
magnet pulling you backwards, your head is being pulled backwards, your shoulders are being
pulled backwards, your knees are locking again. This time your toes really want to come up into
the air as that magnet pulls you backwards, backwards, backwards. You're leaning back, hinging
back, arching back, being pulled back. That magnetic force is pulling you backwards, drawing
you backwards. You're leaning back, arching back, pulling back.

Now, I want you to imagine tat this magnet has gone to the left of your left shoulder and this
magnetic force is pulling your whole body all the way over to the left. Your ear has moved to
the left, your shoulder is moved to the left. You're like the leaning tower of Pisa, leaning, being
pulled all the way over to the left. That magnetic force is pulling you, drawing you, forcing you
to lean to your left. You're like a willow tree in the most powerful, strong wind, being pulled
and moved and twisted to the left. In fact, this magnetic force is so powerful, you really, really
want to go right onto the side of your left foot as this magnet pulls you further and further and
further to the left. And now you can just open your eyes and you see responded to just two
things, the picture of the magnet, the words of me telling you that magnet was pulling you.

We all need proof. Proof is a great thing. If you can respond to a magnet that does not exist
except in your mind, you can understand that changing terror or nervousness to excitement will
completely change your reaction. Thank you Rosie. When you tell your mind, "I can do this. This
is easy. This is a walk in the park," what you want to use is simple words like, "I can manage
this. I have great coping skills." You're telling your mind it is all manageable. There is no fight or
flight response. There is no adrenaline, there's no cortisol. There's just you feeling I can do this.
And you see, even if you don't believe it, when you start to say to your mind over and over
again, "I have phenomenal coping skills. Whatever life throws at me, I manage it," even if you
don't believe it, when you tell it enough, you actually start to believe it.

Your beliefs are yours to change, your thoughts are yours to change, your mind is yours to
change. The thing about changing your pictures in your head and the words are because that is
the only control that exists. A lot of my clients go, "I need to control my nerves, I need to
control my stress, I need to control my fear of flying or my fear of speaking in public." Well,
here is the truth. Your thoughts control your feelings, your feelings control your actions and
your actions control your events. There is no control. We can't control the weather, we can't
control the traffic, we can't even really control our bodies or we'd never get sick. But when you
take control of the words you put in your head and the pictures you put in your head, you
absolutely do have phenomenal control. And the more you make those pictures positive, the
more you make those words positive, the more extraordinary your life becomes.

And the one percenters, they do that naturally, they do it all the time. We all start off doing
that. We all come into the world believing everything is great. A three year old sees a puddle,
they jump right in. A two year old sees leaves in the garden and they want to jump up and
down, and lie in them and play with them. Whereas an adult goes, "Uh, look at the rain, this
weather. This is horrible, this is the worst day." No one starts like that. Babies has no concept is
rain good or bad, is snow good or bad. They love everything, and you came into the world able
to do that. And the one percent who have everything have never actually lost that ability. You
don't need years of therapy, you don't need to read piles of books and listen to hours of audio.
You just need to take responsibility for the words and pictures.

And sometimes that isn't automatic. So if you were lying on your sofa in the middle of the
afternoon, and somebody...you heard footsteps coming to your front door and someone
knocked on your door, that wouldn't alarm you at all. But if you were lying in bed in three in the
morning and the same thing happened, you would have a different reaction. When the phone
rings at three a.m. we tend to think, "Oh, that must be bad news. Who is ringing me at three in
the morning?" It's so easy to get into the negative pictures and the negative words. Someone
who's a nurse on call or a pilot would never think those thoughts if their phone rang in the
middle of the night. Someone who had lots of friends all over the world, like me, would never
think that when their phone rings. Someone who has a grown up daughter like me is quite used
to the phone ringing at three a.m. going, "Mom, can you get me a taxi? Mom, can you send me
a cab?" or "Mom, I haven't got my keys." But you see how easy it is to not take responsibility
for the images and the words.

So, let's do some hypnosis and get you to change in the most wonderful way so that this just
becomes who you are. So, let's do some transformational, empowering, amazing
hypnotherapy. Remember, all you have to do is look up like that, keep your eyeballs up, close
them down. So just make sure your phone is off and no one is going to disturb you, and do this
in a private room if you can. So lying or sitting with your hands and feet not touching and
preferably with your hands in that position. I want to roll your eyes up as if you're trying to look
into your own eyebrows. Keep your eyes glued to a real or imagined spot overhead and just
breathe in and breathe out.

And again, breathe in and each time you blink, that's hypnosis coming upon you, breathe out.
And just one more time, breathe in. Keep your eyeballs up, and as you exhale, the trick is to
keep your eyeballs up. At the same time, just close your eyelids right down, all the way down.
And as your eyelid shut down, you can feel that fluttering sensation going on in your eyelids,
and that's a good sign. So you can forget all about the position of your eyeballs now. You don't
need to hold that anymore. Just let them go whatever they want to. Just drop your chin just a
fraction, so you really just feel that same looking down feeling that you might get as you look
over a balcony or down a flight of stairs.

And as I count, you're going to see your feet, hear your feet and feel your feet treading each
step. You're looking down 10 steps, you're moving on to step 10 as each muscle, every nerve
turns loose, lets loose and you go deeper. You're taking step nine as a wave of relaxation
washes over you. You're taking step eight, you can see your feet, hear your feet, feel your feet
treading each step as you move down, drift down, travel down. To an even deeper level, you're
taking step seven, going deeper with every heartbeat, you're taking step six as each sound or
noise around you carries you deeper, further in your hypnosis which is not asleep. It's the sleep
of the nervous system, a sleep that you're going into beautifully, perfectly, right now.

You're taking step five, you are halfway down going deeper. You're taking step four as you
gently, calmly, easily move on over to an even deeper level, you're taking step three. Just go
deeper. You're taking step two, going deeper and deeper into an awareness of yourself, you are
taking step one. Just go deeper. Drift deeper, sink deeper every time I click my fingers and say
the words sleep deeply. Just sleep deeply, go deeper, drift deeper, just go deeper, drift deeper
and sing deeper. And every time I do that, you can just feel yourself going deeper and deeper,
and deeper. And as you hear my voice, you continue to go deeper, drift deeper, sing deeper. As
you hear my voice, deeper and deeper hypnosis is just coming upon you and you are just letting
it happen. You don't go to sleep or fall asleep. It comes to you. And hypnosis is coming to you,
descending upon you, it is staying with you.

So in this wonderful stage of healing hypnosis, I want you to imagine you are going back in time.
You're going right back to your childhood home, the home you lived between the age of two
and nine, and if you moved a lot it doesn't matter. You can just pick one. In fact, your mind will
pick one for you. You are traveling back to that childhood home. You are being drawn back,
pulled back, you are moving back in time, going back and back, and back, all the way back to
that childhood home. And suddenly, you're outside that home. You're walking to the front
door, you're walking in to the front door and you're seeing you as a little kid, a cute little kid.
You were like a little puppy, effervescent and full of life.

You also see the people that raised you in that home. Mom and Dad, if that's who raised you,
grandparents, whoever raised you, they are in that home with you. And you're looking at this
effervescent little child who woke up very day and loved rain because it was exciting and would
run out in the rain and get wet, and thought that it was a great fun. Who would jump into a
puddle without a minute's hesitation and find that exhilarating. Who'd run out in snow and
slide on ice and find that delightful, who would jump up and down amongst dead leaves, who
even found mud exciting. That little kid who every day, having a bath was an event and you
loved it, because you see, you came into the world only full of positive pictures, only full of
positive words.
No baby gets on a plane and learns to link pain to it, or gets in a car and worries about traffic.
No baby looks at a cookie and goes, "Oh god, if I eat that, I'll get so fat and I mustn't have it." To
small children everything is good, everything is an adventure. Then, somewhere, somehow you
went from only having positive words and images to negative ones. And I want you to think,
who taught you this? Who said words like, "This would all end in tears? Look at that weather,
it's horrible out there. Everything is ruined. It's all gone wrong." Who said that when they
looked at the weather? "It's all ruined. Picnic's ruined, holiday's ruined. This is going to be a
terrible day."

I want you to let your ears open as I count to three and click my fingers. You can hear the
people that gave you these negative habits. One, two, three. Your ears are open, wide open
and you can hear somebody saying those kinds of words. "This is a disaster. It's all been ruined.
Look at the weather. Look at the traffic. Look at the time. We are never going to make it.
Everything's been spoiled. That meal is ruined. That's not right." And I want you to understand
of course we learn what we live, but when you have a parent who uses words like, "This is a
disaster, it's all gone wrong, this is spoiled. Because you're five minutes late for dinner or tea,
it's all ruined now. It's all spoiled. You should have got here on time." I want you to look at how
much of an impact they had on you. And what do they know anyway, the people who said,
"We're going to have a terrible day, it's all going wrong." What do they know? And also, who
did they learn that from?

See, I had family members who spoke like that about everything, every holiday, every trip,
every car ride, every meal was always a disaster. Something had always gone wrong. Even if
they went to the bathroom and came back, and the pause had come off on the film they'd
paused, disaster. "I've missed that bit." But you see, here is your choice. You don't have to use
those words. You don't have to think those thoughts, you don't have to believe anything they
told you. They were acting off their stuff. It is not your stuff. So I'm going to count back to three
and you're going to count back to a scene where someone, a teacher, a parent, an authority
figure was telling you something negative and you're powerless to have any impact except to
let it in.

So on the count of five you're drifting back to a vivid, vital, crucial, significant scene that is all to
do with you as innocent child having to learn negativity. On the count of four you're becoming
younger, on the count of three, you're becoming smaller, on the count of two you're becoming
lighter, shorter. On the count of one, years, months, weeks, days are peeling away from your
body as you go right back, right now. Do a vivid, vital scene that is all to do with you getting this
negative message. You're going right back, right now just be there. And now, you're back in a
scene. Your ears are wide open and you can hear somebody telling you something.

You're hopeless. You were never amount to anything. You get sick if you do that. If you go out
in that rain, you'll get a cold. If you go out without a coat, you'll get ill. If you eat that, you'll get
fat. If you do that, it will all go wrong. If you go there, something bad will happen. If you walk
there by yourself, you might get attacked. If you play that game, climb that tree, you might get
hurt. You see, well meaning parents say that, "You'll get hurt if you do that, you'll hurt yourself,
you'll fall." And parents not well meaning do even worse stuff. "You're useless. That won't work
out. You're never going to do that. You're no good at that." So stay in that memory of who,
what, where and when told you these things. Who told you those things and what did they
know, and who told them?

And let's go back to one more scene again all to do with someone in authority giving you
negative messages, putting negative words and negative images into your head. So again, on
the count to five you're going again to another vivid, vital, crucial, significant scene. Again, on
the count to four you're becoming younger, smaller, lighter, shorter. On the count of three,
years, months, weeks, days are peeling away from your body. On the count of two, you're being
pulled back, drawn back. On the count of one, just be there. And right now it's as if a picture is
coming in to your mind. Rather like when you switch on your computer, the picture comes into
focus.

In that picture, your ears are wide open again. You can hear someone saying, "You'll get sick if
you do that, you'll get ill if you do that. That won't work. You can't do that. Don't eat that. It will
make you fat. Don't do that. You'll hurt yourself. Don't go there. It will all go wrong. This will
end in tears. What a horrible day it is. It's all ruined. Everything's spoiled." And just give yourself
a few minutes to really hear that voice. A teacher who told you you were hopeless, useless,
maybe even stupid. Even the siblings who said, "Well, you're just a kid. You're too little. What
do you know? You're stupid. You're the baby. You're not important." Just look at that and I
want you to say out loud, "That's not me." Say that right now. That is not me. I want you to say,
"That is not my world," out loud. That is not my world. And I want you to really recognize that
you have the power to change those words.

So my mother, bless her, anytime someone is ill, will go, "Well, my friend came around and she
had a cold. Now I'm going to get sick. Your niece came around and was streaming with cold.
Now, I'm going to get ill." But you see, I do the opposite. I can lie in bed next to my husband
with a cold or my daughter and she was little, and I would tell myself, "My immune system is so
strong." I stay well. You see, there is a choice. When you're climbing a tree and your parents,
"You're going to fall and hurt yourself." There is a choice of saying to your children, "Look
where your hands are, look where your feet are and you'll be safe." When your children are
going out on their bike or scooter and you keep shouting, "You're going to fall off and hurt
yourself," of course they're going to fall off and hurt themselves. You're putting that image in
their head.

When you say, "Keep hold of the handle bars, look straight ahead and peddle," they'll be safe.
So I want you again just one more time, to remember who taught you, trained you, educated
you in putting those negative words in your head, and putting those negative images. Who told
you you can't do math, you can't add up, you're hopeless at reading out loud, you can't draw?
No baby ever says, "I just can't get to grips with this feeding. Every time I try to feed myself, it
goes in my hair, or my eyebrow or my ear. I think I'll just give up." No baby ever says, "You
know, this walking, I can't do it. I just keep falling over." You come into the world wired to
succeed. You come into the world wired to believe that you can do anything. Babies are little
kamikaze pilots. They don't have a voice going, "Be careful. You're going to fall down the stairs,"
or, "Oh my God, be careful or you're going walk into the fire." That's why you have to have fire
guards and stair gates, because they are fearless.

Now, you don't have to be fearless, but you need to shut down all of the words that said you
can't do that or you shouldn't do that. "I wouldn't do that if I was you, I wouldn't go there."
Because I want you to think of all the things you heard as a little kid, and now I want you to
think of how much you say, "I'll get fat if I eat that, I'll gain weight if I look at that. I can't ask
that person out. They might not like me. I can't go for an interview. I might fluff it. I can't do
that." And I want you to understand you're listening to someone else's words. And here is the
thing, your believes are yours to change, your thoughts are yours to change. The words you put
in your head are yours to change, and the pictures you put in your head are yours to change.
My teacher told me I'd never amount to anything. And I believed that and then when I grew up
I thought, "Well, that was her belief, wasn't mine. I don't have to believe that anymore." I
changed my beliefs, changed my entire life.

So I want you to do one more thing. I want you to think of something you have a challenge
with. Is it asking for a pay rise, is it asking someone on a date? Is it believing that you can lose
weight and keep it off permanently? I want you to think of one challenge you have. Is it getting
up and getting to work feeling full of energy? Is it coping with your workload? And I want you,
as you think about that one challenge to be completely aware of the words you use and the
pictures you put in your head. Is it your health, because if you say things like, "I'm going to get
sick now because someone in my office had a cold," or, "I ate that food and I know I'm going to
get a stomachache now because I ate too much or it doesn't agree with me." I want you to be
really aware of your particular challenge. The words you use, the pictures you use, remember
what I said at the beginning. The way you feel about anything at all without question is down to
two things, the pictures you make in your head and the words you say to yourself.

And guess what? Those pictures and words are yours to change because they are not yours.
They were given to you by someone else and someone else gave them to them. So, change the
words, change the pictures, take a few minutes, and I want you take that little kid. I want you to
put that little kid on your knee, hold them in your arms. I want you to say, "You have been given
the wrong information for too long and I'm here to give you the right information. You live in
my world." I want you to take that sweet little kid who loves leaves, rain, bath, who finds
everything in life an adventure. I want you to take that little child back to your life, put them in
your home where you live in and I want you to remember every day that you should try to be
more like them, rather than making them like you.

So I want you to show that little child they live in your world. It's all different. You're upgrading
the pictures, you're upgrading the words, you're upgrading that child. And just take a few
minutes and really enjoy that showing them your apartment, your computer, your phone, your
television, none of which you had when you were a kid. And just as you've upgraded your
appliances, you're upgrading the beliefs that your grandmother or grandfather, or babysitter, a
carer, a teacher, a parent gave you because you grew out of those long ago.
So just take a few minutes and really do that. In just a minute I'm going to bring you back to
your full awareness. You're going to remember something powerful. To underachieve, you have
to fill your mind with negative thoughts and negative pictures. To overachieve, to super
achieve, all you have to do is fill your mind with positive images and positive words. So
underachievers have negative images and negative words in their heads and super achievers
have positive words and positive images in their head. So you can choose right now, you can
choose every minute of every day the words and pictures. And I know you're going to choose
better ones because we are wiring this into you right now, Right now as I speak, your brilliant,
brilliant mind is literally reactivating, re-manifesting and regenerating the enthusiasm and the
positivity you had as a little kid when the world was new and exciting and you could do
anything.

Even as I speak, I'm commanding, instructing and directing your brilliant mind to go ahead,
reactivate, regenerate, re-manifest and recreate that natural, positive state that you were born
with, and your mind is doing that right now. And while your brilliant, subconscious mind
remembers how you came onto the planet, it is reactivating, re-manifesting, regenerating and
recreating all of it. And at the very same time your conscious mind is forgetting all of that old,
negative stuff, those habits that someone else gave you. You're leaving them behind, you're
letting them go. They are like water in the shower you took earlier today and you can't run
home and collect up that water. Even if you want to it's gone. Other people's negative words
and images are gone too. One part of your mind is forgetting the old, negative stuff. The other
part is reactivating, regenerating and recreating. Remember, your subconscious mind is
remembering everything it needs to remember. Your conscious mind is forgetting everything it
needs to forget. Your conscious mind is remembering that you were born loaded with
confidence and your subconscious mind is letting go of giving up those old believes were never
yours anyway. You're letting them go, you're erasing them, they are being erased, eradicated,
disappeared, gone.

And as you breathe out, I want you to just imagine you're breathing out a mist, the kind of mist
you see coming out of horses' mouths on a cold day. And as you exhale this mist, you're
exhaling all of those negative words and images and instead, you're replacing them with
positive ones. You're imprinting back into your mind. You're imprinting the enthusiasm for life
you were born with, that unstoppable self-belief that you were born with. One more time,
you're reactivating, regenerating, recreating, re-manifesting everything good, everything
positive and just choosing to leave the negative behind.

So when you're ready, you can slowly, calmly, easily just come back to your full awareness. You
can just take deep breath on the count of one, two, three, four and five. Just open up your
eyes, just fill up your lungs. Take a deep breath. And I want you to know if you've gone back to
some scenes that are sad and traumatic, it's okay. You can't heal what you don't understand. I
love healing people but you can't heal what you don't recognize. If you feel a little sad, a little
teary, don't try to fight that. The most important words in the whole world are let go. Today
you've let go of some habits that were holding you back. You've let go and it's a great thing to
let go. The opposite of let go is to hold on. Who wants to hold on to negativity? You're letting
go. And if in the letting go you cry a bit, weep a bit, feel sad a bit, it's okay. You're leaving all of
that behind. This is all new and exciting.

So I'm going to give you just a tiny bit of homework to do. I'm going to give you a brand new
audio download to listen to. And when I see you next week, I'm going to hear about all the
amazing changes you made because today you did something so simple that has an
extraordinary effect on your life forever. You took control. You took responsibility for the
pictures you make in your head, the words you say to yourself, and that will, I promise you,
change your life. Thank you.

Module 2 Practice
The practice section is comprised of two parts:

 Module 2 Workbook Part 2 [Module Two Exercise and Homework]

 Module 2 Hypnotic Exercise [Audio]

Module 2 Hypnotic Exercise [Audio]

In this hypnotic exercise you will learn how to project beautiful and positive images in your
mind. In return, you will live the extraordinary life that you deserve.

If you need a reminder on how to perform this exercise, you can see the practice guide here.

Group Coaching Session Transcript

Hi and welcome to a live Q&A with Marissa who is up at 3:00 a.m. in the morning in England.
I'm talking to you and this is very exciting for us. So we're going to summarize what our session
two was all about, which is the pictures you make in your head, and the words you say to
yourself. And I'm really all about trying to make the mind as simple as it possibly can be. And a
lot of people in mental health would have you believe that it's very, very complicated to
understand yourself.

And that's usually the old model of you having to go to a therapist for 10 weeks or 20 weeks
within a year in order to get to understand yourself. And we know that simply isn't true. The
mind is not complicated. And once you can understand your mind, you can pretty much have
whatever you want. And the quickest way to understand your mind is to understand two things
because that's what your mind responds to every day, the pictures you make in your head, or
the words you say to yourself. There's nothing else.

So I might repeat myself a lot because one of the things I do know is that the mind learns by
repetition. If you have small children, you'll see how much they repeat something until they get
it. So your mind responds to the pictures you make in your head, and the words you say to
yourself. And that's it. And that's actually a very, very good news because that means that you
can change the pictures in your head, and you can change the words you say to yourself all the
time as you start to take responsibility for those words and for those pictures. It actually
changes your whole life.

So for instance, I got up at 3:00 a.m. to do this live Q&A with you. And I could have said, "Oh,
I've got to get up at 3:00. I wouldn't get up in the middle of the night." Or I could have said,
"Well, this is really exciting." What a quality of problem it is perhaps. So when people in
England were saying to me, "Wow, you've got to get up at 3:00. Gosh, you're brave," or "I don't
envy you." I follow up by saying, "Well, you should envy me. It's a great situation to be in."

And so at 3 o'clock this morning when I had to get up, I just reminded myself what that was like
when I was a kid on Christmas Day, when my parents couldn't keep me in bed. And when my
little girl was a little girl, I found it very hard to get her up to school. She wouldn’t want to wake
up, except on Christmas morning when she was up at 2:30, running around the house, waking
everyone up. Because on Christmas Day, the pictures in our head were, "Wow, there are
presents downstairs." And the words, "Well, I can't wait to see them."

And so I know that you understand this because it's so, so simple. Your mind responds to the
pictures and the words. And actually if anything, it's more important, the words are more
important than the picture. Some people say, "Look, I'm not visual." That's not true. Others
would say, "I can't visualize. I don't know how to put pictures in my head." You know if you
weren't visual? You would never worry about anything in your life ever, ever.

If people say to me, "I can't visualize," I go, "You know? That's amazing. Lucky you, you must
never have a day to worry in your life." They go, "Oh no, I worry about everything." Well, that's
because you're visual. You can't worry if you don't put pictures in your head. You can't even
actually find your car in the car park if you don't put pictures in your head of where it was.
When you go to the store to do your weekly shop, it's the pictures in your head that make you
go there on autopilot.

If I had to break down those two things, I would say that the words are actually even more
important than the pictures. So change the words in your head. And I've been showing you how
easy is to change the word from, "This is a nightmare. This is a disaster. "This is hell," to "This is
exciting. This is a challenge." Even the word "This is interesting." So you could go, "Ugh, this is
so difficult and this is so hard," you just change that to, "This is interesting."

And I'm sure you've heard of these studies where a couple of schools took some teachers and
said, "Well, you know, we've been looking at you and realize that you actually are exceptional
teachers. You have extraordinary gifts with children. And we're going to give you the most
gifted children, and then we're going to see what you do."
So for a whole year, these teachers who were told that they were gifted and extraordinary, and
they've been given gifted and extraordinary children, you know what happened. They got
extraordinary results because their mind was saying all the time, "I'm a gifted, extraordinary
teacher and I've been given this gift, the extraordinary students." And of course, at the end of
the year, they got extraordinary results.

And they went, "You know what? It was random. We picked random teachers and we gave you
random pupils. But because every day they responded to those words, "You are a gifted
teacher with gifted students," they got extraordinary results.

And you can do that to yourself every single day by when you wake up in the morning, look at
the pictures you're making in your head. Do you wake up and go, "Ugh, look at the traffic. Oh, I
look terrible. I'm having a bad hair day. Oh, I forgot to charge my phone. What an idiot I am," or
"I forgot to bringing up for the meter," or "I forgot to bring the sat nav, I don't know the way to
work. I'm just a loser."

Or do you say, "Gosh, that's interesting. I will never do that again. I'll keep a charger in my car."
When you make a mistake, you learn something, and you are allowed to make a mistake. What
you're not allowed to do is to go, "I'm useless. I'm an idiot. I'm a moron. I shouldn't have done
that," because you're setting yourself up for a terrible day, instead of saying, "I made a mistake.
It wasn't the smartest thing I've ever done. But you know what? That's taught me I'll never do
that again."

And so I know I use the funfair analogy a lot because it's a great analogy. We've hosted a
funfair, watching an overhead ride go thunder past, and watched people screaming. And you
have no idea why. Well, they're screaming because they're having an amazing time and they're
delighted. Are they screaming because they're terrified? We don't know because guess what,
being terrified and being excited is so similar, and you can decide to say, "I'm excited. I'm
excited."

Every time I go to speak on stage, I still get that tingling in my hands and in my feet. And I know
it's adrenaline. And I could go, "Oh, I'm so nervous. My hands are tingling and I'm really, really
scared." Or I could say, "I'm really, really excited."

And many years ago, someone who was interviewing a rock star on television, and they said,
"What's it like to go on stage?" They went, "Oh my god, it's amazing. I get adrenaline and I start
to shake, and I start to perspire, and I'm just so jazzed. It's the best feeling in the world. It's
actually better than sex. That feeling is amazing."

And then very clever, they interviewed another rock star and said, "What's it like to go on
stage?" And that one said, "I don't go on stage anymore because what happened is every time I
was due to go on the stage, my hands would start to tingle. I'd start to perspire. I'd start to
shake, and I knew I was having a massive panic attack, and I have to stop performing live."
And I love that because two rock stars, almost identical responses, and yet the interpretation
was so different. The first one said, "It's better than sex. It's the best feeling in the world." The
second one said, "I'm having a massive panic attack that I cannot stop, so I have to stop
performing."

So I want you to remember that little story to remember that you have a choice. Every minute
of every single day, you can choose the pictures you make in your head, and you can choose the
words you say to yourself, and even when you're under pressure. I know I told you when I went
to go on a live radio show and they decided to run me across the lot onto a live television show
and I wasn't prepared, and I was thinking, "Oh god, I don't want to do a live TV show." I haven't
even combed my hair, because at 4:00 in the morning on radio, you don't have to.

And as the gurney was coming right into my face, I have 30 seconds to choose to go, "Oh no, I
shouldn't have done this. Oh god, I don't want to do this." Or to go, "No, I love it, love it, love it.
This is great, great, great. I want it, want it, want it," and I really didn't, when I start to say that
to myself, "I love this. I want this. This is great. I can do this," it changed the way I felt, and I did
the live TV, and it was great. And after, as I thought, "Why did I even worry about that? It was
easy." So even when you're right up against the wall, you still have time.

And if you're taking small children for shots, the same thing, you change the picture in their
head. You talk about funny things. I had to have a period of having to have an injection in my
stomach everyday for a month, and it was a very stingy injection. And I notice that if I sang to
myself or got my husband to say something funny to me while it was going on, it didn't even
hurt. Because when you're singing, or laughing, or telling yourself a joke, you're changing the
way you feel.

So change the pictures in your head. Change the words. And if you have to do something under
pressure, sing a little ditty, hum to yourself and keep saying, "I love this, I love this, I love this."
You are lying to your mind and that's a great thing. And then you're cheating fear, and that's a
great thing. And now you're stealing back all the confidence you were born with as a kid. So you
can lie, cheat, and steal fear by changing the pictures in your head, and particularly changing
the words you say to yourself. Because you've put those words there, and you can change them
like that. And I want you to do that.

So let's go on. This is my favorite thing, answering some of your questions.

And we've had some really interesting questions this week. So let me have the first question
and I'm going to start answering it for you. So, this lie, cheat, and steal to yourself, people find
that rather confusing.

You said, "Lie to your brain," and so Matthew has asked me, "What do we do when we have
this chattering mind that keeps on saying, 'This isn't true' and the feeling of nervous is
running in my body. How do I handle this? You said, "Lie to your brain," and so Matthew has
asked me, "What do we do when we have this chattering mind that keeps on saying, 'This isn't
true' and the feeling of nervous is running in my body. How do I handle this?" Well, how you
handle it is very interesting. You say, "It's not nerves, it's excitement." In fact, don't even say,
"It's not nerves." Just say, "It's exciting." Because saying it's not nerves is putting the very
images and pictures of nervousness into your head. So you say, "This feeling is excitement. I'm
excited, I'm excited, I'm excited."

I know you're not excited, you're nervous. It doesn't matter. When you choose to keep saying,
"I'm excited, I'm excited, I'm excited," your brain will very quickly start to believe that you are
excited, and it will change the interpretation from nervousness to excitement.

And so the chattering in your head, well, again, you can slow that down. You have to put in
some calming words, "I'm focused. I'm excited. I'm focused. I'm excited." Keep repeating it over
and over again. And as you do that, what will happen is the chattering will start to slow right
down. You speak slowly, you speak calmly.

It sometimes helps to imagine that you've got two speakers in your mind, and you've got two
controls, and you turn the chattering control down, and down, and down, until it's so far away,
it's not even there. You're not aware of it. It's like turning down your stereo, and you turn up
the other speaker that says, "I'm calm. I'm confident. I can do this. This is easy." That is what
you do with a chattering mind, you turn the volume down. And if you think you're nervous, you
just say, "I am excited. I'm wired. I'm jazzed. I'm ready," any words that you like.

And of course, the easiest thing about this is you always flip it over. I'm nervous, I've got this
chattering in my head . What's the opposite of that? I'm calm. I'm focused. I'm ready. I'm
composed. I'm at ease. So every time you have something, flip it over and find the opposite of
that, positive that, and do that instead.

And let's go on to our next question.

And our next question is from Joyce who said, "I never considered myself critical until I noticed
how I'm been communicating with my subconscious mind. I'm pushy. I'm demanding. I'd love
it if you could give some more tips on how to effectively make statements to the
subconscious mind."

Well, you know, one of my clients said something amazing to me. She said, "I never thought I
was a bully until I noticed how I talked to myself. I get up and I say things like, 'Oh, you're
useless. You're hopeless. You can't do that right. You never do anything right. You get
everything wrong.' Or I say things like, 'You've got to make this perfect. You better do that
really, really well. Don't you dare get that wrong.'"

So I want you to imagine that you are your best friend. And if you say to your best friend in the
morning, "Oh god, you look terrible. Why on earth did you think of that suit? You look awful in
that," or "Well, you look like you haven't had enough sleep." And then if you start to make
breakfast and your best friend said, "You've ruined that. You haven't got the right ingredient.
You're an idiot. Why did you forget to get milk?"

And then on the way to work you said to your best friend, "You haven't left enough time to get
there. You're going to be late. Idiot. You'll never going to find a parking space. Stupid." And then
when you got to work, he'll still be over your shoulder all day, "Well, you've ruined that. That's
terrible. You haven't given enough time to that. Oh, you could've done so much better. Ugh,
your colleague over there is better than you."

If you talk to your best friend like that, you know they would not be your best friend for very
long at all. They'll go, "Well, I don't need this friend in my life. All they do is put me down and
criticize me."

So be your own best friend. Notice how critical you are, and then remember a truth – criticism
withers your spirit and praise builds it up. And if you wouldn't talk to your best friend like that
because you know they would kick you out of their life really fast, be your own best friend.
Don't do that.

So if you're pushy and demanding with yourself, be encouraging instead. Instead of going, "Oh,
you haven't left enough time to do this, and now you're going to rush it and ruin it," say "I've
got a great brain. I can do this in the amount of time I've got." If you're going to be late, instead
of going, "Oh, I'm going to be late, late, late, late, late," just say, "Well, I prefer to be on time,
but I can still do this. I can still get there. It's going to be fine."

So just imagine you are your own best friend and encourage yourself. Or imagine you're the
parent you'd have loved to have had who everyday said, "You're a smart kid. You can do this."
It's the way I try to talk to my daughter. Of course, I didn't get it right everyday, but on good
days I'd encourage her, and help her, and tell her how much I believed in her. And she did a lot
better.

So be your own best friend. Be your own praising parent. See your mind just like a child that
needs encouragement and guidance, not bullying and pushing, and criticizing, and diminishing.
And that's how you do it.

So here's Greg, "How can I use this course to help get over an addiction to pain medication?
And how can you help me deal with constant pain and the feeling of being depressed?
Sometimes I feel like I don't want to be here anymore, and I don't want to do things."

So in session five, I'm going to be doing some particular healing, and that healing is really going
to help you. So please hold on, Greg, to session five where I'm going to show you how to heal
yourself, how to help yourself. I know it's hard when you get addicted to pain medication, but
I'm also going to show you how to get off that pain medication.
And interesting, in England, they've noticed that if you give a person a pain medication then
make them sniff something like peppermint or lavender, and then give them pain meds and
make them sniff lavender, and then do that fourth and a fifth time, by the sixth time, if you
simply sniff the lavender, you start to react exactly as if you are taking the pain meds because
smell and memory are so wired together.

So Greg, every time you take your medication, I want you to smell something really healing like
lavender, and particularly keep smelling the lavender. And eventually quite quickly you'll find
that without the pain meds and with the lavender, you can actually get the same results. And I
want you to start saying to your brain, "Release all of the healing compounds."

You see, we will have a physician that lives within us, and that physician can release any
medication at any time. That's what placebo means, it means the physician that lives in you
that can dispense any medication you need at any time. So I want you to tell yourself that your
body can give you all the meds you need, better meds, with no side effects.

And with depression, depression is very, very often to do with harsh, hurtful, critical words that
you say to yourself over and over again. Depressed people are incredibly hard on themselves.
And depressed people have a feeling, which is there's no help available to me, and I don't
deserve help. I promise you, Greg, that is not true. There is so much help available to you. And
you do deserve help.

And you can helped. I work depressed people who say, "Nothing works for me. I can't be
helped." That's not true. This program will work for you. And please stay with me until session
five, and I promise you I'm going to do some really powerful healing. In the meantime, take
your meds, sniff lavender over and over again, and tell your body to start making its own
medication that's far more effective for you, with no side effects at all. And I'm here for you.

And now here's Deborah. Deborah says, "When I'm in a state of hypnosis, you start talking
about your experience, and so you talk about others. And surely when in the state of hypnosis,
it's about reprogramming my mind. It's about the person in the state of hypnosis, not about
other people's experience. Can you please explain this? Thank you."

Well, that's a great question, Deborah. And you are absolutely right. The hypnosis session
should be about you. However, when I tell people stories, I tell them for a reason. When I tell
you a story, I'm getting onto your brain waves and you're getting onto mine, or try to view
stories to get a message to people. We tell people stories because in the storytelling, you start
to remember.

And I never want to say to people, "The mind does this because of this, and then it does that
because of that." I like to say, My client Alice did this and then that happened." Because I know
that you'll remember the stories. So the session is all about you, but the story is there so that
you will remember a key fact, a key way the mind works, and you will use it for your benefit. So
I hope that makes sense. It's all about you, but the stories are actually there to help you.
And now we have the next question, which is from Rose, "When I give my mind words and
pictures that align with my goal, sometimes old negative thoughts or pictures enter my mind,
and I'm left with conflicting beliefs. How can I release those negative beliefs or overcome
them so that new positive beliefs could become my new reality without resistance?"

Well, yeah, that is normal, the way you're giving yourself these brand new great beliefs, while a
little word going, "No, you can't do this." So that happens to me. I'm going, "Yes, I'm going to go
on stage and I'm going to give this great talk. I'm going to get up at 3:00 in the morning and do
this live Q&A." And part of mind will go, "You're not going to be very good at that. You won't be
winded waking up. You might look terrible." And I just ignore them. I just pay no attention to
those words, and I just keep repeating the good words," can do this. I love doing this. This
makes me happy."

And sometimes when you get old words, you just have to turn them into cartoon characters,
make them sound like Tweetie Pie or Donald Duck, and that way, you can laugh at them. So if
some negative words or pictures come in, and if it's negative words, I just laugh at them and go,
"What do you know?" And I keep putting the positive words. And if it's negative pictures, I just
put in positive pictures. I am responsible every minute of every day for the pictures in my head
and the words I say to myself.

And the same way if I'm reading the newspaper and I start to see something about torture. I'm
not going to read that because I don't want to put those pictures in my head, and I turn the
page. And if I watch something really terrible on television, I sometimes turn off, "Oh no, I don't
want to look at that." So the same way that you can turn the page, turn the television off, shut
the radio off.

If you listen to the radio and there's a song that comes on that you hate, or an advert that's
really annoying, you turn it off. And you can turn those pictures off. You just have to first
understand that you're responsible for them and that then helps you to think, "I'm going to
shut that picture down by putting in a better picture, and I'm going to shut those words down
by replacing them with better words." That's all you have to do because it works.

So let's go on to the next question which is Al, "What if I can't change the images and the voice
in my mind? No matter how hard I try, some negative images won't change. Well, they change
for second and then they go back. It's the same with some messages. I keep hearing my
mother's and my father's voice telling me negative things that I heard as a child."

Well, that is actually very common. We often do have a critical parent are heard going, "Oh, you
can't do that," or "Your sister's so much better than you are," or "Your friend is so much
smarter than you." I want you to make that parent's voice into a cartoon. A high-pitched,
squeaky Tweetie Pie, Minnie Mouse voice or a kind of slow, silly Donald Duck voice. You can do
that. Make it into a silly cartoon character.
And in fact when you hear it, instead of trying to shut it down, make it even more squeaky,
make it even more high-pitched, and then start to laugh and go, "What do you know? You don't
know. You're not right. You're not correct." You can argue with that voice when that voice says,
"You're never going to matter." And then you go, "Yeah? You just watch me. I'm going to show
you. I'm going to prove it to you."

You see, as a parent when your mother said, "You're hopeless at Math, everyone on our family
is." No child would go, "Mom, you're so wrong. I'm going to show you just how wrong you are.
I'm brilliant at math." A small child can't do that, and they don't do that. But a grown-up you, Al,
you can do that. You go, "You just watch me. You watch what I can do."

So answer that critical parent back, laugh at them. Make them silly. Tell them that they don't
know what you know, that you are smarter than them. And that's how you do it. Because
you're simply going into an old pattern. Your parents always put you down, you've got used to
hearing their voice, and you are indulging yourself and hearing that voice. When if you argue
with that voice, if you laugh at that voice, if you tell that voice that you know better, it will lose
all its power.

So you have to now start to be the loving parent that you didn't have, and you have to start
praising you, guiding you, believing in you. It's never ever too late to get those parenting skills
that you didn't have, but the only person who's going to give them to you now is you. So start
right now. Imagine if you'd have a great parent, what they would have told you, what they
would have said.

And it's all the same stuff, "You can do that. You're so smart. I believe in you. Wow, you're so
clever. Look what you just did." You become a better parent than the one you had. And you
know much better than I know what you wanted to hear, and you start telling yourself what
you wanted to hear, and what you deserved to hear, and soon it will become more and more
automatic. First, you have to make yourself do it and then it's automatic. Start right now.

And now we have Joan, "Is it better to use short sentences when making affirmations that are
affirmative? Or is it all right to use two, or three longer sentences to describe an ideal
situation? Can I describe others' attitude towards me, or should I mostly use statements?"

Well, I like statements, they're very easy to remember. I think short statements are good
because you remember them. If you can remember long statements, that's great too.
Personally, I would write out longer statements on a mood board, and I put that above my bed.
I might put some little statements on the screensaver of my computer. I might write them on
my mirror. I might put them in my phone contacts, alerts, my phone alerts, they would ping
twice a day.

But I would give myself shorter statements because I want to remember, and I want to say it
out loud, "I have amazing coping skills. I'm brilliant to what I do. This is my area of excellence.
I'm really, really good at managing people." And I would repeat that to myself. I would never
want to think, "Oh, I forgot the next. But what's the next bit? You see, I can never get this quite
right." So don't do anything where you are going to criticize yourself for not remembering. It's
short, simple, concise, to the point. Make affirmations. It is simple.

But I don't call them affirmations. I call them statements of truth. An affirmation, they
sometimes get very bad press because we say, "Life's a walk in the park." Well, we know that
isn't true. And sometimes the work in the park is rainy and muddy. So forget about affirmations
and call them statements of truth about me. "I'm a good person. I'm kind. People like me. I'm
so lovable. I'm good enough. I'm great at my job. I'm a wonderful parent. I'm a really caring
friend. I'm interesting and fascinating. I'm funny. I'm nice. I'm beautiful." Statements that you
can remember.

And when you call them statements of truth, remember, your mind will let them in. I worked
with somebody once who said, "I've been telling myself that I'm a goddess. I'm a rock star." And
my brain goes, "I don't think you're a goddess because you're driving around in this old beaten
up car, and you don't really look like a goddess."

But when she said, "I'm a beautiful person," her mind would go, "You sure are." When she said,
"I am enough," it went, "Of course, you're enough." So when you give yourself statements of
truth, don't say, "I'm a rock star." Say something that your mind is going to let in, "I'm an
amazing, interesting, lovable person." Your mind will never ever argue with that.

So let's have the next question and that is from Olga, "What would be the most effective
formula for the one, two-minute daily exercise of planting, write pictures and words in my
head, one or two short phrases, how to link them with the pictures, and make me emotional
and exciting?"

Well, Olga, you need to think about what it is that you want. What do you want? Is it that you
want to be amazing in your job? Do you want to be noticed and promoted? If that's the case,
then the pictures you are making, the words are, "I'm so good at my job, I'm so diligent, I'm so
committed, I'm so disciplined that my boss notices me. They like me, they believe in me, they
promote me. They're looking for someone just like me."

If you want to attract a beautiful relationship into your life then you say, "When I walk down
the street, I have this magnetic charisma. People like me," guys or girls, men or women,
whatever sex you're looking for, "They like me. They're attracted to me. When I talk to people,
they like me. They see me as warm and friendly, and interesting. I make people feel good about
themselves, and I feel so good about myself that I have a magnetic ability to attract an amazing
partner that gets me, that chose me. I'm the most important person in the world."

You see, when you're using pictures like that, there isn't any room for, "Oh, they're going to
reject me. I'm not rich enough, interesting enough." And if you're working on having a great
body, you say, "I love going to the gym. I find it compelling. It's engrossing. I can't wait to get
there. And when I get there, I give 100%. And because I'm so disciplined in the gym, I'm also
disciplined about eating the right food. I like healthy food. I prefer fruit."

Do you see, again, that you are giving yourself the right questions? And when you give yourself
the right questions, you cannot give yourself the wrong questions. When you put the right
pictures in your mind, you can't put in the wrong ones.

So here's Chen, "How do we tell the kids to not do something dangerous by not giving them
trauma or rejection?" That is a great question from someone who is potentially a great parent.
So imagine your child is climbing a tree and you go, "You're going to fall. Oh my god, you're
going to fall and hurt yourself." Or your child on a bike and you go, "You're going to fall off and
you're going to hurt yourself," or "Don't go out late at night because someone's going to attack
you."

What you do is when your child is climbing the tree, you'll go now, "Keep looking at your hands.
Don't look at me. Don't look at the ground. Look at your hands. Look at your feet. When you're
riding the bike, look straight ahead at where you're going. And if you're going out at night," you
say them, "You are a smart kid. And I already know that you know this, travel in a group, walk
facing the traffic, keep your headphones off so that you can hear what's going on behind you.
Be aware." So instead of saying, "Oh, it's so dangerous doing that, you could get hurt," you tell
them other things, "Be aware."

When my little girl was very little, and their teacher, they're singing in the park called "Stranger
danger," I say, "You know baby, if a person comes up to you and grabs your arm, you scream
out loud. This person is a stranger." And I used to practice her. I say, "If somebody came up and
grab you, what would you do?" She said mommy, "I would kick them, and I would hit them, and
I would shout at them." And I'd have to rehearse that with her going, "No, you shout out, this
person is a stranger."

When I used to bathe my daughter I'd say, "You know, darling, you wash your bits and pieces.
No one else touches you there." Because all you can do with your kids is arm them. I didn't
scare her. I didn't terrify her. I empowered her. And that's what a good parent does. I got lots of
things wrong, but I was very pleased of the things I could do right.

And the same thing when she was coming home late. I'd always give her advice. "If someone is
too close to you, cross the road, walk in lit areas." But I didn't go, "Oh my god, there's so many
people out there that are going to attack you, and rob you, and mug you, and hurt you." I didn't
want her to operate out of fear, so I empowered her the very best I possibly could. And I was
very glad I could do that. And you can do it, too.

So now we have Mary, "Any suggestions for people who don't see visual images consciously?
How do you rate the importance of words, pictures and keen aesthetics?" Well, I would say the
words are the most important things. Some people do say, "I'm not visual. I can't see it," and
they'll say things like, "I didn't see it," or "I can't see how that could work." And other people
would go, "Well, that doesn't feel right to me and I can't feel how that's ever going to work. I
don't get that."

So if you're not a visual person, first of all, don't worry about it. It's not important. Some people
really aren't. Stick to the word. You see, if I said to you, "Okay, Mary, you must not see a black
cat sitting on a purple blanket on green grass. You're not allowed to see that. Do not under, any
circumstances, see a black cat sitting on a purple blanket on green grass," those words have just
made you do that.

If I say to you, "You are not allowed under any circumstance to visualize pink snow. Don't
imagine the Alps becoming pink. Don't see people skiing down the Alps that are now pink." You
have to now see the pink snow even if you don't want to because the words decide what you
are going to see.

So I would say forget about the images. Focus on the words. Give yourself a little while to think
about what is that you want in your life, and think about the words. So if your words are, "I'm
so panicky. I'm so nervous. I'm so worried." Your words are, "I'm calm. I'm composed. I'm
focused. I feel great. I have phenomenal coping skills." And those words will take responsibility
for the pictures. And if there's no pictures, it doesn't matter.

So now, we're going to move on to group exercises. And you might have done this before, but
let's do it again because it's showing you very much about the pictures, and words in your head.
So I want you to put your arms out just like that as if you're holding a pair of reins. As if you're
holding the handle bars of a bike, put your arms out at shoulder height.

And I want you to imagine that you are holding in your hand a bucket, and a balloon. So in your
left hand, you are holding a red-fire bucket, a red-fire bucket that is full of heavy, wet sand.
Close your eyes. Keep your hands out at shoulder height, keep your hands closed. And in your
left hand, I want you to imagine that you are holding a red-fire bucket, and that red-fire bucket
is full of 80 pounds of heavy, wet sand.

And straight away you're going to notice that your left arm is becoming heavier, and heavier,
and heavier. And while your left hand is getting heavier, you're going to notice the weight of
that bucket in your wrist. And your fingers, it's now going right up into your elbows. It's
traveling up into your shoulder. Your left arm is becoming so incredibly heavy. As you try to
keep that bucket up, the 80-pound weight is pulling your arm down, and down, and down. Your
left arm is heavy, almost painfully heavy as the weight of that bucket pulls it down, and draws it
down, and pulls it down.

And when your left arm is becoming heavier, and heavier, and heavier, I want you to imagine,
in your right arm you are holding a huge helium-filled balloon. A bright blue balloon full of
helium that's actually bigger than you. And of course, helium is weightless. And so straight
away, that weightless balloon is pulling your arm up. It is lifting your right arm up. It is moving
your right arm up. Your right arm feels as if it's attached to a pulley, and it is pulling your right
arm up, and up, and up.

And your right arm is moving up, floating up, traveling up. Your right arm is becoming lighter,
and lighter. You feel as if your right arm, it's attached to a pulley, and someone is pulling on
that pulley. And your right arm is traveling up, and up, and up, and up.

And as your right arm gets lighter, and lighter, and lighter, and more and more weightless, I
want you to now notice your left arm which is so incredibly heavy. It feels like it's made of lead.
It feels like it's attached to a lead weight that is pulling it down, and down, and down.

And just notice one arm is absolutely weighed down, and one arm is weightless. One arm is
being pulled up and the other is being pulled down. And I want you to notice that if you even
try to lift up the heavy arm, it feels that if it's being encased in concrete. The harder you try to
lift that left arm up, the more it feels as if it's encased in concrete. And the harder you try to
push that right arm down, the more it feels that as if you're trying to push a balloon
underwater. It just insists on popping up again. It's like trying to push a beach ball underwater,
it just insists on staying up because it's weightless.

So one arm is weightless, one arm is weighed down because of your ability to accept a
suggestion. And you respond to just two things – the pictures you make in your head about the
bucket and the balloon, and the words you say to yourself.

Now, I want you to just open your eyes and just look at the position of your arms. For many of
you, that's happening. For some of you, that's happening. For some of you, that's happening.
It's all good. You see, if you put your arms out like that and leave it, what will happen is
eventually both your arms really, really, really want to move down. The very fact that one arm
was going up like that, or maybe even like that, or like that is a sign to you that you respond to
two things – the pictures you make in your head and the words you say to yourself.

So how was that for you? What was that like noticing that one arm really did become heavy and
the other arm really did become weightless? We'll talk about that a little bit more at the end,
but I want you to think about how that was. And I want you to remember that if you can make
yourself react to an imaginary balloon, and an imaginary bucket full of sand, then you can
choose all the time the pictures.

So we're going to go back to some live questions in a minute, but you can also, within those live
questions, tell me, share your thoughts about how that was. What was it like imagining there
was a bucket and a balloon in your hand. And if you're a parent, I really recommend that you do
this with your children. Show them. Empower them. If you're a boss, get all your staff to get
that, line them up and do the bucket and the balloon. Or if you're an employee, do it with some
colleagues, do it with your friends, excite yourself.
Because people think hypnosis is magic. People think I have some extraordinary gift. I just
understand how the mind works and I like to make it simple, simple, simple because I want
everyone to be in charge of their mind. Because if you're not, someone else is. And that
someone is usually a company that wants to sell your stuff, or someone who's invested in
putting you down and belittling you, and you don't need that.

So let's go on to a live question from Nicole, "It was intense for me doing the exercise." Well, it
is intense, but it's also incredibly exciting. You see, intense can be a good word or a negative
word, but you can make something intense in a good way. But you can see what happens.

And now Dorothy said, "My left arm went down really quickly, but the arm with the balloon
didn't move." Dorothy, it doesn't matter. You know what? I'm taking you through this exercise
really probably a little bit too quickly because there's so much I want to do with you, and I want
to give you so much value. So your left arm went down, the other one didn't. It doesn't matter.
Do it yourself at home. On the next session, on session three, I'll do this with you, and so you'll
have more time to do it again.

Kat said, "That was amazing. It was so real. My left arm is still kind of sore from all this weight."
Well, that's a great thing because you did that. I didn't do that. You did it. You let in the words.
You let in the images and you did it. And now you know it works. You can never again go, "Oh, I
don't know why I do that. Why do I tell myself negative stuff? Why do I feel bad?" Because you
let in negative words. And now you know that you are suggestible, you're responsive, give
yourself better suggestions.

Julie said, "My back began to ache from the weight of the bucket." Great. You're a suggestible
person. Thea said, "That bucket and balloon was such fun, and really empowering. I did the
giant magnet yesterday with my one-year-old daughter, and she giggled. She was so excited."

You see, when you're a suggestible person, and you are all suggestible, here's your choice – give
yourself dreadful suggestions, "I'm going to get sick now because I haven't had enough sleep.
Oh, I'm going to get ill because I don't think I cooked that chicken through. Someone at work
has flu, I bet I'll get it." Or you can say, "My immune system is so brilliant. I'm well." You have a
choice. We always have a choice. And when you're suggestible, and you give yourself negative
suggestions, you're choosing to feel bad. And when you give yourself great suggestions, you're
choosing to feel amazing.

Tracy said, "That was an amazing exercise. This showed me how powerful my mind is." You see,
I work with a lot of rock stars and a lot of actors. Maybe you're going, "What's wrong with
them? They have a great life." Actors are very, very, very suggestible. So the ones that go, "Oh,
I'm great at my job. I go on stage, I know my lines," they do well. The ones that go, "Oh, that
other actor is better than me. Ugh, the pressure of being on a set. Oh god, I've got to do this so
well. I need some drugs to cope."
A suggestible person, it's a two-edged sword. Give yourself great suggestions, have a great life.
Give yourself negative suggestions, and be negative. You are all suggestible. I did that bucket
and balloon to prove it. And now take that proof. Give yourself great suggestions. I promise
you, your life will be so much better.

So let's go on to Fran, "When hypnotherapy causes blocks and negative beliefs to dissolve, can
the body show any discomfort, headaches, itching?" You know, that is a great, great question.
When you let go, here's a fact about the mind, your body mirrors and matches what is going on
in your head. What's going on in here is often married here. So people who can't let go often
have interesting habits, and people who hold on are often very tense."

So when you're doing the hypnotherapy, when I'm talking about letting go, you're letting go of
old negative stuff, you're letting go of old imprint and impressions and beliefs and thoughts.
And in the recordings as I say, "You are letting go of that old stuff," it's very normal to find after
that you need to pee all the time, or you itch, or you have a weird discharge, or your eyes run a
bit, or you feel different, you might even get a headache. Because your body starts to let go
with your mind. It's actually a great sign. It isn't a great feeling to have a headache, but as the
mind lets go, the body lets go. That synchronicity is amazing.

And so any symptoms you're having are a huge letting go. If you're sneezing, even if you feel
like you've got a cold, if you're constantly running to the bathroom, your body is mirroring your
mind and letting go. And that's a great thing. And a lot of people have itch and they go, "Oh, I
feel itchy now, and I'm just itching everywhere," because you're letting go of something that's
irritated you and got under your skin, and it's all coming out.

So any symptoms, any symptoms you feel are good. Don't think, "Now, what's going wrong
with me now? Now, I've got an itch. I'm getting rid of all of this great mental negative stuff, but
now my body is itching." Your body is mirroring your mind. You are letting go. The most
important words in the whole world are "Let go." And as the mind lets go, the body is letting
go. You let go up here, you start to let go here. It's all good. See those symptoms as a sign of
massive letting go. And congratulate yourself because you are doing great work. I promise you.

And now here's another one, "Can you say something about repressing emotions versus shifting
the words and pictures?" Well, you see, I'm a great believer that when you repress something,
it starts to run you. You shouldn't repress something. We know that with anger, anger is
actually only damaging when it's repressed to such an extent that it starts to erupt. So you can
shift words and pictures. If you repressed tremendous anger, it should come out.

Let me give you a great example. Let's say you're at work and you're doing a great job, and a
colleague says something really mean to you and really horrible. And that colleague is someone
who's superior. You can't say to them actually, "You were really out of order when you said
that, and I didn't like it," and now that feeling is in.
What you do, you lock yourself in the bathroom, you run the taps, and you say to that person in
your head, "What you said to me was really rude and I didn't like that, and you shouldn't have
done that, and I'm not comfortable with what you said, and it's not acceptable." And then you
switch the taps off and go back to work.

Because feelings are in or out. And they're always better out. And it's always better to say to
somebody when you can, "You know? You hurt my feelings when you did that. I didn't like what
you just did. That wasn't good for me." But sometimes you can't. Sometimes it's your mother-
in-law, it's your boss, it's someone who you can't say, or someone who is just going to go, "I
don't care." You can still say it.

So when something is in you and it's unexpressed, it does its damage. When you can say out
loud, "That hurt me. My feelings were hurt," it doesn't do its damage. And even though you
can't always say to the person, "You hurt my feelings," or "I was very hurt when you did that,"
you can still say it. When you're driving home in the car, you say out loud to that person, "You
hurt my feelings," or "I felt hurt when you did that." And then it isn't repressed. It isn't in you
for 10 years waiting to come out.

One of the ways you diagnose someone who is mad is how long it takes them to express hurt,
and they will say to someone, "You know, 15 years ago, when we went out for lunch, it was
your turn to pay and I paid you 15 years ago." I don't even remember, because they can
navigate a resolution.

But when you can bring out, you're going to go, "Look, you're my best friend, I love you. I'll
always love you, but it really hurt me when you didn't turn up on my birthday," or "cancelled
the last minute," or "didn't show up. But you're still my best friend. But I don't want to hold on
to this, so I need to tell you how I feel, and I'm going to let it go." There's that great word again,
"Let go."

And so I recall to some, would you give someone a compliment? Look, you know I love you or I
care about you or I respect you as my colleague, but it really bothers me that you're not pulling
your weight, and I'm having to do some of your work. And I need to tell you that because I like
you and respect you. And that's how you do it. Don't keep it in. Express it to them face to face.
Do it in an imaginary conversation. Let it out. Don't keep it in and that's how you don't repress
and keep in negative emotions.

So Jeff is saying, "How can I be fully present with the experience without reacting to the
experience?"

That's an interesting question. How can I be fully present? Well, I'm imagining that you're
talking about remembering a scene. So someone will say, in the hypnosis I'm remembering a
scene where my mom hit me or my teacher was really mean to me. I was doing a session recent
with someone who is remembering being in his crib while his mother actually really hit him
hard. The thing is you've been in that experience. It's already happened.
When you go back in hypnosis, you don't relive it. You review it. It's completely different.
Reviewing a situation is not reliving it. If someone slapped you and you remember that you
don't feel like you're being slapped. You can remember what that was like, but you're not going
to relive it. You're simply reviewing it.

So Jeff, when you are present with an experience, remind yourself, I'm reviewing this
experience. So I'm looking at it objectively to understand what it did to me, and to see how I
can now change the interpretation.

Because here's the thing. Experiences don't affect us. Events amazingly don't affect us, but the
meaning we attach to that event, that is what affects us, the way we interpret an event. My
mom didn't love me. She hit me. I deserved a better mom. That was horrible because my mom
did hit me, and that I didn't deserve that, but she was really stressed, and she had a horrible
childhood herself. And even though she hit me, I was the most amazing kid and I still am, and I
didn't deserve that.

So you look at scenes. You review them, you don't relive them. And then you understand of,
and then you change the meaning. You change the interpretation. You don't go, "Well, let's
pretend it never happened." You change your interpretation of what happened and that will
change your whole life. And that's what you do Jeff.

So Christian is saying, "In speaking to your mind, are there any difference between doing it
with intention, positive emotions, instead of doing it without them?"

Well, it's always better to have positive emotions. Of course when you're speaking to your mind
and saying, I'm going to go to the gym, and I'm going to do an hour on the StairMaster. So I'm
going to give 100% and when I'm on the StairMaster. And then I go, "I can do this. I love this.
My muscles are strong. My lungs are strong and I got great energy. I already see my body
changing shape."

It's better to do that. Let's imagine you're going to go for an interview and you go, "I'm going
for that interview and when I speak I'm so fluent. I make eye contact. I know exactly what to
say. I ask the right questions. I answer the right questions. The examiner likes me. I'm exactly
what they're looking for."

You put the intention in your voice. You don't want to go, "Well, I'm going for the interview and
I'm quite good, and I'm not bad, and it's all okay." You use words with good intention to make
more powerful pictures. I'm just what they want. They get me. When they will ask me a
question, they're so pleased they ask me because my answer makes so much sense, and I
deliver it in just the right way, witty, interesting, amusing, or maybe not. You can always make
your words have more intention.

So I would always put good intention into your words. People like me. They understand me.
They get me. I have skills that are unique to me and whoever I meet, they pick up my skills.
They see that I'm good at my job. Put the intention in and you'll get better results. So whatever
words you're using, make the words have more intention.

Here's another thing. Words in front of words. You could go I'm amazing. You could go I'm
completely amazing. I'm absolutely amazing. I'm really amazing. You could say I'm powerful.
You could say I'm super powerful. I'm massively powerful. So you put powerful words in front
of words and you double your intensity, and that's a great thing. You could even use the F
word, I'm effing awesome. It's better than saying I'm awesome because that's why we use
swear words to increase the intensity. And it's good if you're doing it in a positive way.

And here's Jean. "How is it possible to overcome resistance? I've experienced no

improvements from meditation, hypnosis, NLP, firewalks, seminars, subliminal tapes, nothing
seems to work."

You see, I occasionally have clients and I'm not saying that you're one Jean, and they're very
proud of the fact that nothing works. I've done everything and nothing works because they
have an underlying belief, nothing works. And you know how I told you before that your mind,
your body will mirror what's going on in your mind. If you say that firewalk won't work. The NLP
won't work. Meditation doesn't work. You are setting yourself up to make it not work. And that
isn't your fault. It's very likely you've had a parent who said the same thing, "Oh, nothing works.
All of these pills don't work. I can't get any pain relief because nothing works for me."

And so for you, you need to go back and start saying this works, this works. We know that
placebo works, a drug will work to the effect that you believe it's going to work. The
effectiveness of a drug on a person has more to do with what they think of that drug than what
the drug is, which is why some people can get high on nothing.

Some people can take sleeping pills, think they're amphetamines and stay up all night, and vice
versa. Because everything comes back to what you're thinking. So if nothing works for you,
please start saying it works, it works. I'm making it work. It will work. I believe in this. I will
make it work. Keep saying it. Keep saying it and it will work.

But here's another thing, we change in three ways. Some people change like that. They have
hypnosis, they go, I'm a different person. I just changed so much. A second type of change is
that it creeps up on you. It's what we called cumulative. You don't even know you're changing.
It's a bit like having a headache and thinking, "Oh, it's gone," but we don't really notice it going.

And the third change is retroactive. You look back and think, "Oh wow, I didn't do that
anymore. I didn't feel like that anymore." And other people want the first change, and they
think this isn't working, I can't see a change. There is something called lag time. Like putting on
your heating, your house may not warm up for 40 minutes, but it's getting warmer. And you
may not notice these changes but I promise you they are taking place. Don't compare your
change to anyone else's. Believe you are changing bit by bit. You have lag time.
Tell yourself it's working and it will work, and don't compare it to other people because we all
change differently. Remember this, it doesn't matter how long it takes you to get to the top of a
mountain. It's when you get to the top your view is the same as the people who've got there
before you. It's all the same.

So here's Rosalyn. "Is it important to know what triggering negative fearful thoughts before
we try to replace them with positive thoughts and pictures? It seems like if we don't
acknowledge and open up to the negative cause is we're repressing our feelings and not dealing
with them."

I would say actually no, Rosalyn. It's really not that important to know. You can spend a lot of
time trying to work out why. Why am I having this negative fearful thoughts. I mean sometimes
when you know why, you could think, "Oh, that's great. I know why now and now I can stop."
But you see, no baby gets on the plane and thinks, "Oh my god, this plane's going to crash." No
baby gets on a motor and thinks, "Oh, I going to have an accident. That traffic is going so fast."

They have no idea what negativity is. They'll put their fingers in electric sockets. They'll put their
fingers in the mouth of an animal. They'll pick up roaches and put them in their mouth, if you
let them because they don't know fear. So you know you came on to the planet without fearful
thoughts. You didn't stand over the top of the stairs and think I'll fall. You would have fallen.
Your mom had to put a stair gate there because babies are kamikaze pilots. They only have one
fear and that's being dropped.

So I wouldn't spend so much time working out where you got your negative thoughts from. I
would simply focus on replacing them. Because someone gave you those thoughts, a parent, a
teacher, a babysitter, and if you really want to do more, you just go, "Well, what do they know?
Who were they anyway? What if my babysitter, what if my teacher, and my teacher told me
that I was stupid or never amount to anything. And now I think, well, what did you know?"
Some teachers are great and some teachers really aren't, but it's okay. Don't spend too much
time stressing about that. Just focus on changing.

And here's another one. "Are there any daily practices that you recommend to make these
changes more permanent?" Yes, there are. I think a great little song. I love that song. I'm
having the time of my life from "Dirty Dancing." This girl is on fire. I'm bulletproof. I am
titanium. Let's do it. I've got the power. Think of a little song that you love and start to sing it to
yourself. You can change the words. If you got to go for an audition, if you're going for a review,
if you're going for an interview, if you're pitching, if you're selling, if you're going to ask
someone for a date, have a little tune in your head with really positive words.

I'm having the time of my life. This is great. I'm the greatest and just sing that to yourself
because that song is actually changing the pictures and the words in your head. Why do you
think politicians that run, play music? A change is going to come. That's what Barrack Obama
did. Tony Blair played "Things can Only Get Better" because they understand the power of
words. Boxers go into the ring to Tina Turner, I'm simply the best, better than all the rest.
So think of a song you love. Hum those lyrics in your head. Change them if you want to. I told
you about how I use the Black Eyed Peas, "Let's Get It Started." So many people say to me now,
I play the Black Eyed Peas in my head. It's on my alarm clock, and I jump off it, "Let's Get It
Started." I'd go into meeting singing, "Let's Get It Started." I pitch to clients singing "Let's Get It
Started." So a little song that you love, that you can hum to yourself. Make it your ringtone. It's
going to remind you all the time of being positive, taking charge of the words, and the pictures
in your head. That's a great daily practice.

And here's, Cheyenne, have I said your name right? "I say positive things to myself all the time,
but it seems like those positive words don't last. Doubt always creeps into my mind. How can
I eliminate it down?"

Well, I would say that you're not saying words that are positive enough. You see, you will have a
little bit of doubt. We always have moments of doubt. You can go to have a shot and go, "Right,
I'm not going to feel a thing. I'm not going to feel a thing." And then get actually that did hurt
because some people think that that's positive. I'm not going to worry. I'm not going to be
scared. I won't feel nervous. But you see, those words that you respond, you are worried and
nervous.

So, Cheyenne, you need to say more positive things and make them super positive. You need to
make them so positive. When Muhammad Ali said, "I'm the greatest. I'm the best." He didn't
leave any room for doubt to creep in. And if it did creep in, he would layer about "No, I'm the
greatest. I'm the best. Nobody is better than me." And so you need to make your words more
positive, and you too need to make a little song, a little ditty, have a new board, have some
positive images on your computer, make your screensaver have a positive statement of truth
about you.

Put something on your phone alerts that goes off twice a day that says something about you.
I'm enough. That's my favorite. I'm good enough. I can do this. I have some really great skills.
I'm phenomenal at my job. I'm a lovable person. People love me. It doesn't matter what it is but
put it on your phone alerts, on your screensaver, sing it in your head.

The more you layer, and layer, and layer positive ways that making yourself feel great, the less
you can let those doubts creep in. And start in the morning. I'm a great believer even when I'm
having the shower saying, "Oh, I love this water. I love this smell." I try to look for pleasure in
the most simple things. I love this first cup of coffee because I'm training myself from the
minute I wake up to look for pleasure, to say something positive. This tea is amazing. I love this
hot tea. I love this sound on the radio and when I do that, it sets me up for the whole day.

So thank you so much for all the questions. We've got around 140 questions and comments for
this session. And a lot of questions were picked. They're the ones that the variations on the
ones that were answered. Some we got answered in the first session and some belong to topics
of the future, because I'm trying to keep these Q&As; on topic with each session like we've
done. And so some of the questions we're going to save for the next Q&A and the next Q&A
too, but please don't forget the power of the group. Continue these conversations with me and
with fellow students on the uncompromised life.

So communicate with each other. Communicate with me. I'm here for you all the time and keep
tuning in. Keep listening to your downloads. Keep doing what I told you, and remember, very
soon this wouldn't be what you do. It's who you are. So stay with the group, commit to each
other, support each other, and I'm always here to support you too.

I want you to share some thoughts about the session. I want you to tell me what's been your
biggest insight today? What has been your biggest insight? What have you learned today? And
just take a few minutes to write there. I'm here for you. You've got plenty of time. But while
you're writing just think about what have you learned today, and how are you going to use that.
Are you going to use that with your children? And even if you don't have children, you might
have godchildren, or nieces, or nephews, or younger siblings. You're going to use this in your
relationship to communicate better, so that you express hurt instead of holding on to
resentment.

Are you going to use this in your job? Are you going to, instead of going, "Oh god, look at all the
papers I've got to write." Just say, "Well, I'm a great writer. I can get through this. My mind
knows how to do it once I start, it would be easier." And do you remember you respond to
words and pictures, the words and what it would be? A wordy wordsmith.

So Kendra said that the awesome power of words and pictures is what she responds to. And it
is awesome because we can have great pictures and great words. We can go, "It's raining." Or
we can go, "Well, it needs to rain, it's good to rain." And there is no bad weather, there's only
inappropriate clothing. Aslan said, "I learned that we're the creatures of our life. We can shape
up our present and our future." And you are so right because our words are our reality. The
words you use. The pictures you put in your head. They become your reality and negative
words give you a negative reality. And positive words give you a positive reality, and your mind
can't tell the difference.

So tell a great stuff. Have a better life. Why wouldn't you do that? Sheila said...sorry, Diana. "I
love the idea of being my own parent." To encourage myself, yeah, I love it too and it's never
too late to be the parent you wanted, and you deserved. And it makes you a better parent
when that comes around too. And you could be your own best friend too. My biggest insight is
that I'm suggestible and I can change my thoughts. I love the song I did. I'm going to find a
positive song to keep positive words in my head.

Well, Sheila, this girl is on fire. That's a brilliant song. I would take that, but you choose. It's not
for me to tell you and there's so many great things. Mariah Carey, "Make It Happen." That's a
great song and Mariah just reminded me of that one. She came on and said, you have made
understanding the mind simple. Well, that's my brand. That's what I do. It's always been my
ambition and my drive to break down the mind, to make it so simple, because I want you to get
great results. And I don't want this to be work. It isn't work. It's just changing yourself in a really
easy beautiful way. So, thanks Mariah for reminding me about Mariah Carey. "Make It Happen,"
download that song. It's incredible.

Daniel said, "We all change in different ways, I think I'm a cumulative changer." Yeah, you see,
you know what I hate the most? I shouldn't say hate. Occasionally, a client comes and they go,
"Oh my god, you saw my friend last week, and they said it was amazing. And they left, and
they'd never even looked a candy since they left you. They're just having these amazing times.
And here I am, do it to me."

And I think, "Okay. Now there's some pressure because their friend was an instant changer and
this one might be a cumulative changer." They might be a retroactive changer. They are
expecting to change like their friend. But it's good pressure. I just have to tell them at the end
that they may change a little differently, while I'm making them believe they're changing
straight away. And some of you do all three. You change a bit straight away, and another
change is creeping up. And then you look back and think, "Oh wow, I don't do that anymore.
Yay."

And now we have Laura. "Just how amazing will become just using our minds and words. I'm
going to use these with my husband, and family, and business. Thank you." Well, thank you and
lucky husband, family, and business of you because you are now going to be such a great role
model for them. And I salute you for that, because we can't change the world. That's far too
hard on us. But if you change people that changes the world. If you are happier, if you have
happier kids, and happier kids go to school and are nicer to other kids, and in your little way.
You are changing the world by being positive and helping the people around you do the same
thing.

Roger said, "Start with thoughts. Develop the picture. Visualize driving emotion to bring about
change." Yeah, that's a beautiful summary and you got that just right. Thank you for sharing
that with me.

Mary said, "I'm now enjoying exercising regularly. Looking forward to it. Thanks to new words
and pictures. Thank you." You know when I used to go to the gym, I didn't know what it's like it.
But what I would say to myself is my body loves it. I'm doing my 30th sit-up, I go, "My body
loves this." If I'm on the Pilates machine and it's really hard. It's the weights are going up. I
would say, "My body loves this. My body likes it. This is helping my body so much." And it's true
because even then my mind was thinking I'm a bit tired now.

By saying my body loves it, I trained myself to exercise longer and harder. And when I go to the
gym I go, "I love this, I love this, I freaking love this, I effing love this." And actually you know
what? It became true. I started to love it, even doing really complicated maneuvers. You can
make yourself love anything. Junkies love shoving a needle in their arm because the first thing
they say is I like this. You don't have to like that but when you go for shots, when you go for
painful procedures you can go, this is cool. I'm fine. I'm assured. You can even say I like it. So,
Mary, thank you so much for loving your exercise.
And then let me tell you a little bit about week three. I love week three. This is the thing that
therapist come up against over and over again. Our brain is hard-wired to keep trying to go
back to what is familiar. It's taken scientists a long time to work out, but some people really do
resist success. Some people really do resist becoming wealthy, and some people really do resist
the love. If it is unfamiliar because we are tribal people.

We have a brain left over from being a cave person and when we lived in tribes, familiar was
safe. Unfamiliar was dangerous and we still do that. We keep trying to go to what's familiar and
avoiding what's unfamiliar. To be successful, I'm going to show you how to make what is
familiar but negative completely unfamiliar, and what is unfamiliar, but positive so familiar that
it becomes your life. So next session is all about how to make something you want really
familiar, and how any habits that you've got that you don't want unfamiliar.

So it's all about training your brain. Scientists are right. We do resist what is unfamiliar, but
here's something. You just have something enough that it becomes familiar. If you run every
day, it's unfamiliar, but after five weeks it's completely familiar. And scientists have said two
things. Let me call it the "10 day." If you do something every day for 10 days, it's familiar. Other
people say 30 days. If you wake up and drink water every morning for 30 days it's wired into
you.

I'm going to show you next week how to fast-track that and how to start doing that in just one
day, in one session. I can't wait to see you there, and I can't wait to show you something else
that's going to change your life, that is simple and fun, and really, really rewarding.

Thank you for listening to me. Thank you to all the Brits who got up at 3:00 in the morning to
listen to me. I really appreciate your commitment, and everyone all over the world. Thank you,
thank you, thank you. I can't wait to see you next week.