Embracing Diversity: Toolkit for Creating
Inclusive, Learning-Friendly Environments
Specialized Booklet 1
Positive Discipline in
the Inclusive,
Learning-Friendly
Classroom
A Guide for Teachers and
Teacher Educators
Embracing Diversity: Toolkit for Creating
Inclusive, Learning-Friendly Environments
Specialized Booklet 1
Positive Discipline in
the Inclusive,
Learning-Friendly
Classroom
A Guide for Teachers and
Teacher Educators
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Foreword
For children in many countries, corporal punishment is a regular part of the
school experience; it is also a form of child abuse. Corporal punishment is
deliberate violence inflicted on children, and it takes place on a gigantic
scale. Legal defenses for teachers who hit or beat children still exist in
most countries of the world. Corporal punishment, however, has not been
shown to be effective, especially in the long-term, and it can cause children
shame, guilt, anxiety, aggression, a lack of independence, and a lack of
caring for others, and thus greater problems for teachers, caregivers and
other children.
One of the major reasons why corporal punishment persists is that teachers
do not understand that it is different from “discipline.” While corporal
punishment seeks to stop a child from behaving in a certain way, positive
discipline techniques can be used to teach a child learn new, correct
behaviours without the fear of violence. Another major reason is that
teachers are often not taught why children misbehave and how to discipline
them positively based on those behaviours. Many times, when a child feels
his or her needs are not being met, such as the need for attention, he or
she misbehaves. The frustration that a child’s misbehaviour causes, and a
lack of skills to handle it, leads some teachers to strike out at their children
and use corporal punishment or humiliating forms of emotional punishment.
This guide for teachers and teacher educators enriches the UNESCO
publication “Embracing Diversity: A Toolkit for Creating Inclusive,
Learning-Friendly Environments” (ILFE Toolkit). It is a specialized
booklet intended to help teachers, school administrators, and education
officials to effectively manage students in the classroom by giving non-
violent ways to deal with behavioural challenges positively and pro-actively.
It presents positive discipline tools that are concrete alternatives to such
punishment practices as caning, spanking, pinching, threatening, pleading,
bribing, yelling, commanding, name-calling, forced labour, and other even
more humiliating actions.
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This guide is truly a collective product. It was first drafted and then
revised by George Attig of the Institute of Nutrition, Mahidol University,
who has also served as a UNESCO consultant on inclusive education and
gender, as well as a consultant to UNICEF East Asia and Pacific Regional
Office (EAPRO) and Save the Children for the development of child-friendly
schools. This guide also benefited from the comments and suggestions of
educators around the world. UNESCO Bangkok would like to thank all of
them for their contributions. Every single input was thoroughly considered
and contributed to the enrichment of this guide, as well as to the ILFE
Toolkit. Ochirkhuyag Gankhuyag, as Programme Assistant at UNESCO’s
Asia and Pacific Regional Bureau for Education, coordinated the process.
Sheldon Shaeffer
Director
UNESCO Bangkok
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Contents
Foreword . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . iii
Overview . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1
Our Challenge . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1
What is an “Inclusive, Learning-Friendly Classroom”? . . . . . . . 2
Why is This Document Needed? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 4
What Will You Learn? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5
Understanding Punishment versus Discipline . . . . . . . . . 7
Children Past and Present . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7
The Meaning of Punishment . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .10
The Meaning of Discipline . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 20
Positive Discipline in the Classroom . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 25
Avoiding the Discipline Dilemma . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32
Building Positive Teacher-Student Relationships . . . . . . . 34
The Basis of a Teacher-Student Relationship . . . . . . . . . . . 34
Why Children Behave as They Do . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 35
Why Children Misbehave . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 38
Learning about Your Students . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 42
Understanding the Context of Your Students’ Lives . . . . . . . 45
Learning about Your Students’ Families . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 55
Parent-Teacher Communication . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 58
Encouragement Strategies . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 62
Creating a Positive and Supportive Learning Environment . . . . 64
Classroom Management in an ILFC . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 64
Making the Learning Environment Comfortable . . . . . . . . . . 65
Developing Classroom Routines . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 69
Developing Classroom Rules with Students and Parents . . . . . . 70
Standards for Behaviour and Good Management . . . . . . . . . 75
Providing Positive Reinforcement . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 80
Dealing with Challenging Students . . . . . . . . . . . . 84
Improving the Effectiveness of Positive Discipline Techniques . . 84
Positive Discipline Tips . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 85
Positive Classroom Teaching Tips . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 89
Using Appropriate Consequences, Positive and Negative . . . . . .91
Use Caution in Using a “Timeout” . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 93
Conflict Resolution . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 95
Age-Specific Teaching and Positive Discipline . . . . . . . . . . 98
Assisting Children with Special Needs . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 102
Suggested Readings . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 106
“
This booklet is dedicated to the UN
Secretary General’s Study on Violence
against Children (UNGA Resolution 57/190)
that is rooted in children’s human right to
protection from all forms of violence. The
booklet aims to promote action to prevent
and eliminate violence against children in
schools and education settings.
”
Positive Discipline in the Inclusive, Learning-Friendly Classroom 1
Overview
Our Challenge
Children come into this world helpless and unable to fully develop without
us. As teachers, our job is to nurture them and to teach them how to live.
This is no easy task. On some days, our classes are exciting, fun, and joyful
places to learn for our students and ourselves. On other days, we may feel
tense and uncertain about our ability to do our job. Being a teacher is rarely
dull; but being a teacher is also the most important work we’ll ever do.
We know how tough teaching can be. We also know how much you care for
your students. But children don’t come with instructions. Unlike parenting,
you are responsible for many children at once, not just a few, and all are
unique in many ways. They also don’t always behave in the way you want them.
It seems that just as you figure out what works with one class, they’re gone,
replaced by a new set of faces with a whole new set of joys and challenges.
All teachers should want the best for their students and should be
concerned with fostering confidence in their abilities and raising their
self-esteem. But when your students don’t listen to you, refuse to do what
you ask, defy or ignore you, it is easy to become annoyed and frustrated.
When this happens, or better yet before, turn to this document for help.
It will give you ways to deal with this challenge positively and pro-actively
by preventing misbehaviour before it starts, by dealing effectively with
unexpected challenges, and by encouraging your students to listen and
cooperate within an inclusive, learning-friendly classroom. The positive
discipline tools presented here are concrete alternatives to such punishment
practices as caning, spanking, pinching, threatening, pleading, bribing, yelling,
commanding, name-calling, forced labour, and other even more humiliating
actions.
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What is an “Inclusive, Learning-Friendly
Classroom”?
When we walk into our classrooms, we see the faces of the children we are
to teach. But we need to remember that these children may not be the only
ones who are supposed to be in our classrooms. There may be others who
are not included because they are not able to get to school. Still others,
who are physically there, may feel that they don’t belong there, and may
not truly “participate” in class or may misbehave.
An inclusive, learning-friendly classroom (ILFC) welcomes, nurtures, and
educates all children regardless of their gender, physical, intellectual,
social, emotional, linguistic, or other characteristics. They may be gifted
children or children with physical or learning disabilities. They may be street
or working children, children of remote or nomadic peoples, children from
linguistic, ethnic or cultural minorities, children affected by HIV/AIDS,
or children from other disadvantaged or marginalized areas or groups.1
An ILFC is thus one in which the teacher understands the value of this
diversity in the classroom and takes steps to ensure that all girls and boys
come to school.2
But getting all children into our classrooms is only half of the challenge. The
other half is in meeting all of their different learning and behavioural needs
so that they want to stay in our classrooms. All classrooms are diverse in
terms of the types of children we teach and the ways that they learn. We
need to consider what each child needs to learn, how she or he learns best,
and how we – as teachers – can build positive relationships with each child
so that they want to actively learn from us. Equally important is that we
need to discover how to get all of the children to want to learn together.
Children behave and learn in different ways because of hereditary factors,
the environment in which they live, or their own personal or psychological
1
UNESCO. Embracing Diversity: Toolkit for Creating Inclusive, Learning-Friendly
Environments. Bangkok, 2004.
2
UNESCO. Booklet 3: Getting All Children In School and Learning. Embracing
Diversity: Toolkit for Creating Inclusive, Learning-Friendly Environments. Bangkok,
2004.
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needs.3 Many times, when a child feels his or her needs are not being met,
such as the need for attention, he or she may misbehave. Consequently, we
need to understand why children behave as they do so that we can try to
prevent misbehaviour before it happens and use a variety of different ways
to guide their behaviour in a positive manner. Classrooms can then become
inclusive, welcoming, and enjoyable places for all children to learn, and ones
in which misbehaviour is rare. We can thus spend more time teaching and
learning with our students.
At first, this can be a frightening idea. Many of you may be working in
large classrooms, or even multi-grade ones, and may wonder, “How can I
use different teaching and disciplinary methods to suit individual children
when I have over 60 children in my classroom?” Actually, the frustration
that this situation causes, and our lack of skills to handle it, may lead
some of us to strike out at our students and use punishment to try to stop
misbehaviour, such as using corporal punishment or humiliating forms of
emotional punishment. In our frustration, we often forget that children
misbehave for many reasons. Some of these reasons may be personal;
others may result from the way they are being taught, such as when they
become bored with the lesson or constant lecturing; still others come from
external factors associated with the family and community that may cause
the student to be frustrated and unhappy. Furthermore, in some cases,
and particularly among new teachers, an incident may be interpreted as
a discipline problem when it is not; for instance, when a child’s question
is interpreted as challenging our authority or knowledge, but, in fact, the
child simply had difficulty in phrasing the question properly and politely.
That misidentification – or miscall – often creates anger among students,
thus causing a real discipline problem.4
In any case, the temptation is always there to take the “quick way out”
through severe punishment to try and stop – but not necessarily correct
– the child’s misbehaviour. But fortunately, misbehaviour and the use of
punishment can be prevented when you create a well-organized learning
environment in which your students are interested and active in their
learning.
3
UNESCO. “Booklet 4: Creating Inclusive, Learning-Friendly Classrooms”. Embracing
Diversity: Toolkit for Creating Inclusive, Learning-Friendly Environments. Bangkok,
2004.
4
Know When to Discipline! Wire Side Chats. http://www.educationworld.com/a_
issues/chat/chat020.shtml [accessed online on 10/4/2005]
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The goal of an inclusive, learning-friendly classroom is active students.
Students who actively and enjoyably participate in classroom learning
have fewer disciplinary problems.5 They want to be there, and they will do
whatever is necessary to stay there.
Why is This Document Needed?
The purpose of this document is to help you reach this goal. You may be
an experienced teacher who wants to adopt positive disciplinary practices,
but who needs guidance in how to do it. You may be a student enrolled in a
teacher-training institution who is learning how to manage the behaviour
of students effectively. You might be a teacher-trainer who is giving
instruction in positive discipline within pre-service and in-service teacher
training programmes. This document will be especially useful for those
of you who are working in schools that are beginning to change into more
child-centred and learning-friendly environments. In many countries, such
schools are being called “Child-Friendly Schools,” ones in which the inclusion
of all children in school and the prevention of violence against them are core
principles, but, in many cases, the techniques to do so need strengthening.
Some of you may also be working in large class settings with many students.
A class is “large” whenever it feels large to you. While a class of more
than 50 students is usually considered a large class, to those teachers
who normally teach 25 or fewer students, a class of 35 can be large and
overwhelming. The tools and resources cited in this document will help
you to effectively manage your students, no matter how many you have
in your classroom, and with as few behavioural challenges as possible.
Most of all, the tools in this document will be valuable for those of you
who are facing policy reforms introduced by a Ministry of Education, and
especially in countries where policies have been set, or are being set,
against the use of corporal punishment. In support of these policies, many
publications exist that advocate a ban on corporal punishment and its
benefits in terms of ensuring all children’s rights to a good quality basic
education in a safe, healthy, and participatory environment, as noted in the
United Nations’ Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC). Unfortunately,
5
Caught in the Middle: A Perspective of Middle School Discipline. http://people.uncw.
edu/fischettij/david.htm [accessed online on 10/6/2005]
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however, many teachers have very limited access to resources on how
to actually go about it, that is, how to positively discipline children and
eliminate violence against them in schools and classrooms. For those of you
involved in this reform process, beginning teachers and their instructors,
or those who simply want to abandon corporal punishment altogether, this
document will be a valuable tool for helping you to learn about and adopt
positive discipline in your classrooms.
What Will You Learn?
Experience has shown that one major area of concern for teachers is their
feeling of inadequacy in managing student behaviour.6 This is not surprising.
Although many recommendations exist, there is no magic formula that will
automatically give you the skills you need to undertake this important task.
These skills are learned and improved upon over time. Yet, every teacher
knows that the right skills and strategies can make the difference between
a calm classroom and a classroom in chaos. Teachers in well-organized ILFC,
in which all children are actively learning and follow clearly defined rules
and routines, spend less time disciplining and more time teaching.
This document has five major sections. Each section contains tools that
you can use to create an active, positive learning environment for your
students, one in which you guide their behaviours effectively, rather than
simply react to them negatively. These tools are ones that teachers and
education specialists have developed through experience and have used
successfully in actual classroom settings among both younger and older
aged students. You are also encouraged to explore the references cited in
this document for more information. They are excellent sources for ideas
and are gratefully acknowledged here.
In this section, you have learned about the challenges of teaching, what
an “inclusive, learning-friendly classroom” is, and what is its goal. In the
following sections, you will explore the process of positive discipline. This
process has four essential elements, each of which is the topic of a specific
section in this document.
6
Classroom Management, Management of Student Conduct, Effective Praise
Guidelines, and a Few Things to Know About ESOL Thrown in for Good Measure.
http://www.adprima.com/managing.htm [updated April 3, 2005] [accessed online on
10/5/2005]
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(a) An understanding of the difference between punishment and
discipline. In this section, you will learn about the true meanings
of “punishment” and “discipline,” the nature and consequences of
corporal punishment, and the power of positive discipline.
(b) A positive and supportive relationship between a teacher and
a student, one based on understanding and emphathy. In this
section, you will learn why your students behave as they do and
why they may misbehave. You will learn about your students from
their perspective, how the context from which they come may
affect that behaviour and your interpretation of it, as well as how
important it is to involve each child’s family in developing his or
her behaviour. You will also learn some important encouragement
strategies.
(c) Creating a positive and supportive learning environment for your
students and yourself. Proper behaviours must develop within well-
organized and managed classroom learning environments. In this
section, you will learn about managing your classroom’s physical
environment so it is comfortable for learning and promotes good
behaviour even if your class has many students. You will also learn
the importance of setting routines and standards of behaviour
for your students, as well as involving parents in their children’s
behaviour management. Since you are an important role model for
your students, you will also gain insights into your management
style and how to improve upon it, as well as ways to provide positive
reinforcement for your students.
(d) Knowledge of constructive ways to stop misbehaviours when they
arise, as well as to prevent them. All children misbehave at some
point in time. As they test their limits, it becomes an important part
of developing their self-control. In this document’s final section,
you will learn a variety of ways to deal with challenging behaviours,
including ways to prevent them and how to resolve conflicts. You
will also learn some age-specific positive discipline techniques, as
well as those for children with special needs.
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Understanding Punishment versus
Discipline
What You Will Learn:
Children Past and Present
What is “Punishment”
The Perils of Corporal Punishment
What is “Discipline”
Positive Discipline: What It Is and How It Works
Children Past and Present
The Past
“Children now love luxury, they have bad manners, contempt for authority,
they show disrespect for their elders, and they love chatter in the place of
exercise. Children are now tyrants, not the servants of their households.
They no longer rise when elders enter the room. They contradict their
parents, chatter before company, gobble up dainties at the table, cross
their legs, and tyrannize over their teachers.”
This statement was made by Socrates, an Athenian philosopher who lived
from 469-399 BC.7 Do you think anything has changed?
7
Classroom Management. http://www.temple.edu/CETP/temple_teach/cm-intro.html
[accessed online on 10/20/2005]
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The Present: The Case of Ramon8
“I’m not going to that man’s class! I don’t have to do what you say!”
“I’m not even supposed to be in this class; my momma says I’m supposed
to be in a special education school. They said I’m learning disabled and
have ADHD, whatever that is.” [ADHD is Attention Deficit Hyperactivity
Disorder.]
He runs down the hallway bumping into other children and teachers,
walks into the classroom in the morning stating what he isn’t going to
do, and yells or runs around the room whenever he feels like it. He calls
classmates members of the “dumb club” and swears other sixth graders
are committing acts that I hadn’t even heard of until I was in my third
year of high school. …
This is my homeroom student, “Ramon.” I feel angry about his behaviour.
I’m tempted to hate him, but most of all, I’m frustrated with him, my
lack of skills, and the system. … I left school that day in tears, sick to
my stomach because of this child.
What Would You Do?
Ramon’s case, though to an extent extreme, is not uncommon. Virtually all
of us have experienced students who have challenged our authority or who
have disrupted our classes and upset our students in many ways. Ramon is
in desperate need of discipline, but what alternatives are there?
Reflection Activity: How Were YOU Disciplined?
Think back to when you were in primary school. If you or one of your
classmates had misbehaved like Ramon, what disciplinary methods would,
or did, your teachers use? Write these methods down in the table below.
8
This case study is adapted from the diary of Ellen Berg, a language arts teacher
in Turner Middle School, St. Louis, Missouri, USA. http://www.middleweb.com/
msdiaries01/MSDiaryEllenB6.html [accessed online on 10/6/2005]
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Then, write down how you felt about these methods, as well as whether or
not you thought they were effective in the long-term. How do you think
the child felt? Did you see or experience a lasting change in behaviour?
Next, ask yourself, “If I had a student like Ramon, what would I do, and
why?” Do you think it would be effective in stopping future misbehaviour?
Write your thoughts down as well. Are your methods similar to those of
your teachers?
Disciplinary Why was this Was the method
Method method used? always effective,
especially in the
long-term? How did
the child feel?
Your
Teachers’
Actions
Your
Actions
In many countries and classrooms, Ramon would have been physically
punished for his misbehaviour, most likely by being beaten with a cane
or another object. What methods would your teachers have used? What
methods might you have used?
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In completing the table above, it would not be surprising if many of you
answered “To punish the child for misbehaving” or “to stop his misbehaviour”
under the column on “Why was this method used?” Likewise, under the last
column on “Was the method always effective, especially in the long-term?”
many of you – if you thought long and hard – probably answered “No”. Sooner
or later, the same child misbehaves again, often in the same way. Why? The
answer lies in the difference between punishment and discipline.
The Meaning of Punishment
Punishment is an action (penalty) that is imposed on a person for breaking
a rule or showing improper conduct. Punishment aims to control behaviour
through negative means. Two types of punishment are typically used with
children:
1. Punishment involving negative verbal reprimands and disapproval;
this type of punishment is also known as negative discipline.
2. Punishment involving severe physical or emotional pain, as in
corporal punishment.
Unfortunately, both forms of punishment focus on the misbehaviour and may
do little or nothing to help a child behave better in the future. Moreover,
the child learns that the adult is superior, and the use of force – be it
verbal, physical, or emotional – is acceptable, especially over younger, weaker
persons. This lesson can lead to incidents of bullying and violence in school,
where older children dominate younger ones and force them into giving the
bullies money, food, homework, or other valuable items.
Furthermore, rather than leading to a child with inner control, such
punishment makes the child angry, resentful, and fearful. It also causes
shame, guilt, anxiety, increased aggression, a lack of independence, and
a lack of caring for others, and thus greater problems for teachers,
caregivers, and other children.9
9
Positive Guidance and Discipline. http://www.ces.ncsu.edu/depts/fcs/smp9/parent_
education/guidance_discipline.htm [accessed online on 10/10/2005]
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Verbal Punishment and Dealing with Anger
Negative discipline is a form of punishment meant to control a student’s
behaviour, but oftentimes it involves only short verbal commands or
statements and does not lead to an outright, often severe penalty, such
as being hit or painfully humiliated. Teachers who do not use corporal
punishment may use negative discipline approaches instead. But like corporal
punishment, these also can cause children to become angry and aggressive
or have low self-esteem. Negative strategies include:
Commands – “Sit down and be quiet!” “Write 100 times, ‘I will not
waste my time on meaningless tasks’.”
Forbidding statements – “Don’t do that!”
Explosive, angry statements – “You’re in more trouble than you know.”
Criticizing statements – “Is that the best you can do!”
Threatening statements – “If you don’t stop talking, I’ll send you to
the Principal’s office.”
Belittling statements – “When will you ever learn to write well?”
Often, we use these negative strategies, as well as corporal punishment,
when we are angry or frustrated. Yet, there are a variety of positive ways
to deal with anger and frustration. Some teachers tell their children, “I
need a moment to calm down; I am very angry right now.” Others calm down
by counting to 10 or by leaving the room for several minutes. Some teachers
describe their feelings to their students to help them understand what
annoys them. The children then learn what not to do and why. They might
do it again, but they are responsible for their actions and will have to deal
with the consequences. What would work best for you?
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Action Activity: “ D O N ’ T ” – How Negative Am I?
Most of us naturally give “don’t” commands to students as a form of
negative discipline: “Don’t talk in class. Don’t run around the room.” We
may not know ourselves how often we give these negative commands; they
just come naturally; but our students know. If you want to find out how
often you give “don’t” commands, select a student in your class (or ask a
teacher’s aide for help) and give him or her a box of small stones or shells
and a cloth or plastic bag. Ask the student to listen to you throughout the
week. Whenever the student hears you give a “don’t” command, ask him or
her to take one of the stones or shells out of the box and put it in the bag.
At the end of the week, count how many stones or shells are in the bag.
Were you surprised?
Instead of constantly giving “don’t” commands (although sometimes they
are necessary), learn to rephrase in a positive way while clearly stating
the desired behaviour. Instead of saying, “Don’t run in the classroom,” for
example, try saying, “Walk in the classroom.” This states clearly how you
want your students to act. Sometimes you may want to give reasons for
the rule, especially when you state it for the first time. Explaining a rule
might sound like this: “Walk in the classroom. If you run, you might trip
over a chair and hurt yourself; then you might have to go to the doctor.”
Corporal Punishment
In dealing with students like Ramon, many teachers probably would
have resorted to some form of severe punishment. Two types of severe
punishment that can occur separately or together are corporal punishment
and emotional punishment. Both are forms of violence against children that
violate their rights as human beings to respect, dignity, equal protection
of the law, and protection from all forms of violence.
Corporal or physical punishment, and the threat of it, occurs when a teacher,
parent, or caregiver intends to cause physical pain or discomfort to a child,
usually in order to stop a child’s misbehaviour, to penalize him or her for
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doing it, and to prevent the behaviour from being repeated.10 Increasingly
around the world, corporal punishment is illegal – and is not conducive to
better “learning”. What constitutes corporal punishment varies across – and
within – cultures, and it includes, for example:
hitting
the child with the hand or with an object (such as a cane,
belt, whip, shoe, book, ruler, etc.);
kicking, shaking, or throwing the child;
pinching or hair pulling;
forcing a child to stay in uncomfortable positions,
forcing a child to undergo excessive physical exercise or forced
labour;
burning or otherwise scarring the child; and
forcing the child to eat foul substances (such as soap).
While corporal punishment is meant to cause physical pain, emotional
punishment is meant to humiliate the child and cause psychological pain.
Similar to negative verbal punishment, but much more severe, it can include
public ridicule, sarcasm, threats, name-calling, yelling, and commanding, or
other humiliating actions, such as denying a child clothing or food or forcing
them to stay in undignified positions for everyone to see and comment on.
While corporal punishment is more visible, emotional punishment is more
difficult to identify. Nonetheless, punishing a child by sending him or her
outside to stand in the sun for hours, to undermine a child’s self-esteem
through public ridicule, or to deny a child food or clothing is as damaging
as different forms of corporal punishment.
Moreover, there is no clear line between corporal punishment and emotional
punishment. Very often, children perceive corporal punishment as also being
humiliating or degrading.11 In this document, therefore, we use the term
“corporal punishment” to include both physical and emotional punishment.
10
Durrant, Joan E. “Corporal Punishment: Prevalence, Predictors and Implications for
Child Development,” in: Hart, Stuart N (ed.), Eliminating Corporal Punishment: The
Way Forward to Constructive Child Discipline. Paris: UNESCO Publishing, 2005.
11
Ending Corporal Punishment of Children in Zambia. Save the Children Sweden,
Regional Office for Southern Africa, Arcadia, 2005.
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Action Activity: Is This Corporal Punishment?
Read the following actual case study. Think about – and maybe discuss with
your colleagues – whether this is an example of corporal punishment and if
the penalty is actually teaching the child a lesson.
Shireen’s Lesson
Shireen goes to school every day and, for the most part, she enjoys it;
all except her spelling lessons. The days she dreads the most are spelling
test days. For every word she or her friends spell incorrectly, her teacher
makes them climb the hill behind the school and carry down five bricks.
The bricks are being used to build a wall around the school. Shireen doesn’t
understand how carrying bricks will help her to learn to spell, but she has
no choice but to do the labour. Sometimes when she finishes, her clothes
are very dirty, and then she gets scolded at home, as well.
How Prevalent is Corporal Punishment and Why?
Think back to your own schooling. Were you or any of your friends ever
physically or emotionally punished? Chances are you will say “Yes” because
corporal punishment is a common practice throughout the world. Only 15 out
of the 190-plus countries in the world have banned the corporal punishment
of children. In the many remaining countries, parents and other caregivers,
including teachers, retain the “right” to hit and humiliate children.12
While most of us would condemn violence in general – and violence
towards adults, especially – few people in the world have given any
serious attention to violence against children. Why? Longstanding
traditions and cultural beliefs exist that perpetuate the use of corporal
punishment in many societies. “Spare the rod and spoil the child” is a
very popular one. Others include the beliefs that corporal punishment:
(1) is effective; (2) prevents children from getting into trouble;
12
Newell, Peter. “The Human Rights Imperative for Ending All Corporal Punishment
of Children,” in: Hart, Stuart N (ed.), Eliminating Corporal Punishment: The Way
Forward to Constructive Child Discipline. Paris: UNESCO Publishing, 2005.
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(3) teaches them right from wrong; (4) instills respect, and (5) is different
from physical abuse. Research has shown, however, that corporal punishment
does none of these and is, in fact, a form of violent abuse against children.13
Other related myths and facts about corporal punishment follow.14 Have
you ever heard anyone using one or more of these to justify his or her use
of corporal punishment? Have you ever done so, or at least thought so? Be
honest.
Myth No. 1: “It happened to me and did me no harm.”
Fact: Though they may have felt fear, anger, and mistrust from being hit
by parents or teachers, people who use this argument often do it to reduce
the guilt they have for using corporal punishment on their children today. In
their minds, they are defending their violent actions against their children.
However, their actions reveal that corporal punishment did, in fact, do
them harm: it perpetuated the cycle of violence that they now inflict upon
children, and similarly these children are more likely to perpetuate the
violence for generations to come.15 In addition, many things that former
generations managed to survive are no longer common practice now. For
instance, the fact that some people may not have received vaccinations
when they were children does not mean that they would prefer this NOW
for their own children.
Myth No. 2. “Nothing else works!” or “They ask for it!”
Fact: While positive discipline requires developing a trusting, mutually
respectful relationship between a child and his or her teacher, inflicting
pain on a child is really a lazy way out. It is an admission that we have failed
to do what it takes to help the child to learn and internalize good behaviour.
If we regularly use corporal punishment, it will take time and effort for
13
Durrant, Joan E. “Corporal Punishment: Prevalence, Predictors and Implications for
Child Development,” in: Hart, Stuart N (ed.), Eliminating Corporal Punishment: The
Way Forward to Constructive Child Discipline. Paris: UNESCO Publishing, 2005.
14
Adapted from: From Physical Punishment to Positive Discipline: Alternatives to
Physical/Corporal Punishment in Kenya. An Advocacy Document (Draft Two) by
ANPPCAN Kenya Chapter, January 2005. http://kenya.ms.dk/articles/advocacy%20
document%20ANPPCAN.htm?udskriv+on%5D [accessed online on 9/29/2005]
15
Durrant, Joan E. “Corporal Punishment: Prevalence, Predictors and Implications for
Child Development,” in: Hart, Stuart N (ed.), Eliminating Corporal Punishment: The
Way Forward to Constructive Child Discipline. Paris: UNESCO Publishing, 2005.
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new methods to work. If we have been nagging, yelling, threatening, or
physically punishing our students for a long time, it is difficult to build an
effective, trusting relationship with them overnight. This may in turn create
the feeling that nothing else works, or that the children are “asking” to be
beaten; but the problem is the disciplinary approach, not the misbehaviour of
the children. Justifying that a child has asked for violence is really intended
to make the perpetrator feel less guilty: blame the victim. Besides, do you
normally hit your boss, employee, spouse, or best friend when it appears
that “nothing else works”? Hopefully not!
Myth No. 3: “Corporal punishment works best. Other methods
don’t.”
Fact: Getting your students to behave through fear of punishment is not the
same as discipline. Corporal punishment seems to work only if you look at it
superficially and in the short-term. Corporal punishment teaches children
to do what you say, but only when you are around. In effect, it teaches
them to be sneaky, as well as to lie about misbehaviour to avoid being hit or
punished in some other degrading manner. By creating a sense of distrust
and insecurity in the child, it destroys the teacher-child relationship.
Children become angry at why someone who is supposed to teach and care
for them is instead threatening, beating, or insulting them. While a single
act of corporal punishment may seem to be effective, it only temporarily
frightens a child into submission.
Myth No. 4: “Corporal punishment teaches obedience.”
Fact: In the past, it may have been the practice to teach children never
to question authority, but times have changed. Many teachers are adopting
child-centred learning techniques that encourage children to explore, to
think for themselves, to ask questions, and to learn the joy of finding
answers as a major way of learning. Corporal punishment, however, stops a
child from questioning, thinking critically, and achieving personal goals; yet
these are qualities that both adults and children need in order to excel in
a dynamic, competitive, and innovative society. Enforcing blind obedience
through the threat of corporal punishment greatly stifles initiative and
creativity in children (and adults).
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Myth No. 5: “I only do it as a last resort. I had no choice.”
Fact: This excuse rationalizes for us, and teaches our students, that the
use of violence as a last resort is justified. This argument is not acceptable;
for example, is a husband justified in hitting his wife as a last resort? It
should be no more acceptable when it comes to our students. Besides, it is
quite common for parents and teachers to result to physical punishment at
the first instance – not as a last resort – and for very minor misconduct.
Myth No. 6: It’s the only way I can control the children in
my class. I have too many!
Fact: This excuse is common among teachers who face large classes,
sometimes around 100 children all in one class. It usually arises because
the classroom has no set rules or routines; the children do not know what is
expected of them and the consequences for misbehaving; and the teacher
did not take the time to build a positive relationship with the children so
they would want to be good. This may be due to his or her authoritative
classroom management style, one that says, “I’m the teacher and we’ll
do things my way!” In trying to maintain control, the teacher may also
use corporal punishment not just to stop misbehaviour in one child, but
also to put fear into the hearts of the other children so, hopefully, they
won’t misbehave as well (but they do). Like Myth 4 above, enforcing blind
obedience through threats of physical violence does not encourage children
to learn from the teacher, only to fear him or her. As a result, they don’t
want to learn, which makes our job harder, and they don’t learn well, which
reflects poorly on our performance as a teacher.
Myth No. 7: “Corporal punishment is a part of our culture.”
Fact: Corporal punishment is sometimes defended as a part of growing
up in one’s society, and the idea of promoting alternatives to physical
punishment is a “Western” imposition that doesn’t consider Asian values.
Asian societies depend upon age-related status hierarchies and the idea
that the young should respect, serve, and obey older people including
teachers. Although physical punishment is widespread in Asia, there is
no necessary connection between traditional belief systems and violence
against children through corporal punishment. On the contrary, two core
values of Asian societies are maintaining social harmony and learning to use
mental abilities to discipline the body, especially in terms of maintaining
self-control in the midst of chaos. Violence through corporal punishment
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actually goes against these traditional Asian values. It destroys the social
harmony in the classroom in terms of student-teacher and student-student
relationships, and it threatens any future relationships that the child will
have. It erodes children’s confidence and self-esteem, and it legitimizes
the lack of self-control as an acceptable way to dominate others. Rather
than corporal punishment, traditional ways can be used as alternative forms
of discipline that do not include violence;16 for example, when respected
adults model good and non-violent behaviour, which is then imitated by their
children.17 Moreover, individual and cultural belief systems that perpetuate
the use of corporal punishment can be changed in a relatively short time.18
Does Corporal Punishment Work?
What Are The Consequences?
Corporal punishment persists largely because teachers believe that it works;
it’s effective. But is it? Research spanning over two decades has shown that
the only positive outcome of corporal punishment is immediate compliance,
while its negative consequences far outweigh this outcome.19 The use of
corporal punishment rarely produces the desired result, that is, positive,
lasting behaviour change in the student. On the contrary, it can have very
dire, negative consequences for the child and for you.
16
Save the Children. “How To Research the Physical and Emotional Punishment of
Children.” Bangkok: Southeast, East Asia and Pacific Region, 2004.
17
Information provided by Elizabeth Protacio-de Castro, Head of the Programme
on Psychosocial Trauma and Human Rights, Centre for Integrative Development
Studies, the University of the Philippines, and documented in: Power, Clark F. and
Hart, Stuart N. “The Way Forward to Constructive Child Discipline.” in: Hart, Stuart
N (ed.), Eliminating Corporal Punishment: The Way Forward to Constructive Child
Discipline. Paris: UNESCO Publishing, 2005.
18
Durrant, Joan E. “Corporal Punishment: Prevalence, Predictors and Implications for
Child Development.” in: Hart, Stuart N (ed.), Eliminating Corporal Punishment: The
Way Forward to Constructive Child Discipline. Paris: UNESCO Publishing, 2005.
19
Ibid.
Positive Discipline in the Inclusive, Learning-Friendly Classroom 19
When we use corporal punishment, the results are unpredictable.
They include sadness, low self-esteem, anger, rage, aggressive
behaviour, desire for revenge, nightmares and bedwetting, disrespect
for authority, higher states of depression, anxiety, drug use, sexual
abuse, child abuse, spousal abuse, child delinquency, and, of course,
more corporal punishment.20
In the long term, children who have been physically punished have
been shown to develop anti-social behaviour and are likely to resort
to violence quickly, thus creating a continuum of physical abuse from
one generation to the next.21 By using violence, we teach violence.
As teachers, we are responsible for improving the growth and
development of our students. Corporal punishment can seriously
harm a child’s development and result in educational as well as social,
interpersonal, and psychological adjustment problems. For example,
studies have shown that some victims of corporal punishment are
forced to drop out of school because they fear being beaten or
humiliated. Once out of school, they are likely to resort to using or
selling drugs or other socially unacceptable activities.22,23
Even when we are successful at stopping inappropriate behaviour
for the moment, our use of corporal punishment still doesn’t foster
appropriate behaviour in the child. Why? The child doesn’t know,
or learn, what to do; what behaviour he or she is supposed to adopt
except only to stop doing what he or she is doing. It’s similar to
telling you not to use corporal punishment, but then not teaching
you what alternative disciplinary methods you can use.
20
Ibid.
21
From Physical Punishment to Positive Discipline: Alternatives to Physical/Corporal
Punishment in Kenya. An Advocacy Document (Draft Two) by ANPPCAN Kenya
Chapter, January 2005. http://kenya.ms.dk/articles/advocacy%20document%20
ANPPCAN.htm?udskriv+on%5D [accessed online on 9/29/2005]
22
Ibid.
23
Cotton, Katherine. Schoolwide and Classroom Discipline. School Improvement
Research Series. Iclose-Up #9. http://www.nwrel.org/scpd/sirs/5/cu9.html
[accessed online on 10/6/2005]
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Our use of corporal punishment can sometimes back-fire; that is, it
can become unintentionally reinforcing. For instance, when it brings
attention from teachers and peers, something that the misbehaving
child, like Ramon, may be seeking.
Corporalpunishment often creates resentment and hostility, making
good teacher-student and student-student relationships and trust
harder to create in the future. It thus makes our work harder, less
rewarding, and immensely frustrating. We begin to dread going to
class and teaching. Our students may sense our displeasure and
regret coming to class, too.
Children who are victims of corporal punishment may end up with
injuries that need medical attention, leave permanent damage, or
cause death. Even threatening to use corporal punishment can cause
damage; for instance, when a teacher threatens to use a cane, and
in raising it, he or she unintentionally pokes a student’s eye out.
(Unfortunately, this incident has actually occurred.)
The Meaning of Discipline
Discipline is an often misused word, especially when it is mistakenly equated
with punishment. To many teachers, discipline means punishment. “This child
needs disciplining” translates into “This child needs spanking or caning.”
This is WRONG!
Discipline is the practice of teaching or training a person to obey rules
or a code of behaviour in both the short and long terms.24,25
While punishment is meant to control a child’s behaviour, discipline is meant
to develop a child’s behaviour, especially in matters of conduct. It is meant
24
Kersey, Katharine C. Don’t Jime It Out On Your Kids: A Parent’s and Teacher’s Guide
to Positive Discipline. http://www.cei.net/~rcox/dontake.html [accessed online on
10/10/2005]
25
Welker, J. Eileene. Make Lemons into Lemonade: Use Positives for Disciplining
Children. http://ohioline.osu.edu/hyg-fact/5000/5153.html [accessed online on
10/10/2005]
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to teach a child self-control and confidence by focusing on what it is we
want the child to learn and what the child is capable of learning. It is the
basis for guiding children on how to be in harmony with themselves and get
along with other people. The ultimate goal of discipline is for children to
understand their own behaviour, take initiative, be responsible for their
choices, and respect themselves and others. In other words, they internalize
a positive process of thinking and behaving that can last a lifetime. For
instance, when you think of a “disciplined person,” what do you think of? An
Olympic gymnast, someone who has given up a bad habit, such as smoking,
someone who remains calm in the midst of chaos. All of these require self-
control, which is the goal of discipline.
Discipline shapes a child’s behaviour and helps them to learn self-control
when it provides encouragement, not painful, meaningless consequences. If
you are a parent, or your friends have children, think back to a child’s first
year or two of life. How was he or she taught to clap hands, to walk, or to
talk? You or your friend probably used teaching techniques like showing
through example (also known as “modelling”), as well as giving praise and
opportunities to practice; not yelling, spanking, insulting, or threatening.
This encouragement is a type of reward that stimulates the child to work,
learn, and achieve. It builds self-esteem because the child learns that
he or she was directly responsible for earning his or her praise or other
reward. Children can choose to earn it, or not to earn it. This gives them
a feeling of control over their lives, which is a key ingredient for healthy
self-esteem. Likewise, not giving encouragement for misbehaviour – such
as ignoring attention-getting behaviours like temper-tantrums or being
late for class – will, over time, teach the child self-control if he (or she)
doesn’t get the attention he is trying to obtain through his misbehaviour.
He learns that he only gets attention when he behaves calmly or arrives
promptly; that is, when you catch him being good.
Let’s turn once again to Ramon and how his teacher disciplined him and
learned from him.
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A Case Study: Ramon’s Change 26
The new week started off much as the week before had. Ramon was
continuing his disruptive, unruly behaviour and was driving everyone crazy.
But I had thought a lot about Ramon over the weekend. I began to think
about how he was making me feel, and the overwhelming emotions that
surfaced were anger and irritation. According to the book Cooperative
Discipline, the way we feel when a student acts inappropriately gives us
clues about the student’s goals for the misbehaviour. Once we understand
why the student is doing what he is doing, it is easier to find appropriate
ways to deal with him.27
Feeling angry is a clue that the student is seeking power, and irritation
is a clue that the student is seeking attention. As I thought about it, I
understood that most of Ramon’s irritating behaviour was done in front of
peers and adults in as loud and wild a manner as possible in order to get
attention. Once he had our attention, he sought power by directly refusing
to comply with our requests to stop, causing most of us to become extremely
angry. I then realized that I had willingly been giving Ramon control over
me and my classroom. I can’t blame him; after all, I am responsible for my
own actions. I began to understand that although I could not control him,
I could control what I did and said. A new plan and attitude were created.
I resolved on Wednesday morning that no matter what Ramon did, I would
not give him the attention that his misbehaviour was demanding. I would
ignore him. When he came to class ten minutes late, I pretended he hadn’t
entered. I gave the teacher’s aide a piece of paper and asked her to record
everything Ramon did, but not to interfere with his behaviour in any way.
Ramon did everything but get naked during that class period. He ran up and
down the aisles, played with another student’s hair, put the aide’s glasses
on, inched towards the door as if he was going to walk out, and even climbed
behind the aide on her chair. We said nothing. The rest of the class looked
at me like I was crazy. I explained to them that our business was much too
26
This case study is adapted from the diary of Ellen Berg, a language arts teacher
in Turner Middle School, St. Louis, Missouri, USA. http://www.middleweb.com/
msdiaries01/MSDiaryEllenB7.html [accessed online on 10/6/2005]
27
Albert, Linda and Desisto, Pete. Cooperative Discipline. American Guidance Service,
1996.
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important to be interrupted by those who were not interested in learning,
so we were going to go on as usual. I could have kissed every one of those
students who, although they occasionally giggled to themselves, completely
ignored his antics, even when he would try to bother them.
Ramon’s behaviour intensified. Throughout the period, Ramon continually
asked me to go to the bathroom, to go to the Assistant Principal’s office,
and to go to the security guard’s desk. I continued to ignore him.
Then, an amazing thing happened. Instead of walking out, he sat down. By
the end of the class as I was dismissing students by name, he came up to
me and said, “Can I go too, Mrs. Berg?” He waited and waited as I called
every other student’s name, asking to go but not leaving until I gave him
permission.
I wondered what would happen the next day. Would there be any change,
or would I have to endure another round of Ramon’s horrible behaviour?
On Thursday, Ramon came on time, complete with paper, pencil, and book.
He sat down quietly and raised his hand to ask questions. For the entire
period, he didn’t get out of his seat or talk without permission. He was a
little squirmy, but I know what a hard time he has staying still. He didn’t
do any of his assigned work, but I think controlling his own behaviour was
work for Ramon.
What have I learned? It is not good enough to rely on what we have “always
done.” If I had continued with the same old strategies that supposedly
had worked for me in the past, I know there would have been no change in
Ramon’s behaviour. I know some teachers believe that students should simply
act appropriately because we tell them to, but the reality is that many will
not. We are the adults, and we have the responsibility to change what we
do to meet the needs of all students, not just the ones who sit still, behave
appropriately, or understand a concept the first time we explain it to them.
Ramon taught me that I cannot make anyone do anything, but I can change
my classroom conditions to try to influence their decisions. The school
librarian once told me that the real teaching begins when a student is
having problems.
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We also cannot control everything, and we certainly cannot control anyone
else, but we do have some power in the classroom. It is the power of what
we, as professionals and human beings, choose to do in response to difficult
situations.
Understanding that point has made all the difference in the world to Ramon.
The following table summarizes some of the positive features of discipline
as opposed to what a punishment-oriented environment is like.28 Which
features did Ramon’s teacher use in disciplining him? Which are common
to your classroom?
Discipline is: Punishment is:
Giving children positive Being told only what NOT to do
alternatives
Acknowledging or rewarding Reacting harshly to misbehaviour
efforts and good behaviour
When children follow rules because When children follow rules because
they are discussed and agreed upon they are threatened or bribed
Consistent, firm guidance Controlling, shaming, ridiculing
Positive, respectful of the child Negative and disrespectful of the
child
Physically and verbally non-violent Physically and verbally violent and
aggressive
Logical consequences that Consequences that are unrelated
are directly related to the and illogical to the misbehaviour
misbehaviour
When children must make amends When children are punished for
when their behaviour negatively hurting others, rather than shown
affects someone else how to make ammends
28
From Physical Punishment to Positive Discipline: Alternatives to Physical/Corporal
Punishment in Kenya. An Advocacy Document (Draft Two) by ANPPCAN Kenya
Chapter, January 2005. http://kenya.ms.dk/articles/advocacy%20document%20
ANPPCAN.htm?udskriv+on%5D [accessed online on 9/29/2005]
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Discipline is: Punishment is:
Understanding individual abilities, Inappropriate to the child’s
needs, circumstances, and developmental stage of life;
developmental stages individual circumstances, abilities,
and needs are not taken into
consideration
Teaching children to internalize Teaching children to behave well
self-discipline only when they risk getting caught
doing otherwise
Listening and modelling Constantly reprimanding children
for minor infractions causing them
to tune us out (ignore us; not listen
to us)
Using mistakes as learning Forcing children to comply with
opportunities illogical rules “just because you
said so”
Directed at the child’s behaviour, Criticizing the child, rather than
never the child – your behaviour the child’s behaviour – you are
was wrong very stupid; you were wrong
Positive Discipline in the Classroom
Children need to be taught so that they understand and follow social rules.
But it is not necessary, and can be quite damaging, to hit or otherwise abuse
a student. Evidence shows that girls and boys respond better to positive
approaches, including negotiation and systems of rewards, rather than
punishment through verbal, physical, or emotional abuse.29
29
Save the Children. How To Research the Physical and Emotional Punishment of
Children. Bangkok: Southeast, East Asia and Pacific Region, 2004.
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Read the following classroom scenes and see if you can identify the positive
and negative ways in which the teacher handled a student’s misbehaviour.30
Scene 1
Lek walks into her Grade 4 class ready to start a mathematics lesson. As
she begins the lesson, her students are continuing to talk to each other
and are not listening to her. She says loudly, “Everyone stop talking, please.
We are starting our lesson now.” Everyone quiets down except Chai. Chai is
still talking to his friend about the soccer game he saw on television last
night. Lek screams, “Chai, why can’t you shut up? Stand in the corner with
your face to the wall. You’re in more trouble than you know. You just wait
until class is over!” Passing by the class, the headmaster asks, “Do you want
me to show him who’s boss?” Crying, Chai goes and stands in the corner,
fearing for his fate and wishing he wasn’t there. Maybe tomorrow he won’t
come to school.
Scene 2
Lek walks into her Grade 4 class ready to start a mathematics lesson. As she
walks in she says, “Everyone quiet down now, please. We are going to start
our mathematics lesson and everyone needs to listen closely.” After the
class quiets down, Lek hears Chai still talking to his friend. Lek asks, “Who
is still talking? I guess someone can’t remember the rules around here.”
The passing headmaster overhears Lek’s comment, and he angrily asks if
there is a problem and, if so, he knows how to take care of it quickly. Lek
thanks him, and tells him that she can handle the situation for now. After
the headmaster leaves, Lek looks in Chai’s direction and asks, “I wonder
why the headmaster would say that? Do you have any ideas?” Guiltily, Chai
replies, “Well, I was still talking after you asked the class to be quiet.” Lek
asks, “When can we all talk without disrupting others and their opportunity
to learn the lesson.” Chai says, “When class is over.” Lek nods and asks Chai
to tell her what 100 divided by 2 equals. He answers 50. Lek smiles and
30
This section is an adaptation of one originally developed for parents in: Doescher,
S. and Burt, L. You, Your Child, and Positive Discipline. Oregon State University
Extension Service, March, 1995. http://eesc.orst.edu/agcomwebfile/edmat/
ec1452-e.pdf [accessed online on 10/12/2005]
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says, “Very good.” Chai paid extra attention during the entire class and did
not talk to his friend until after class was over.
Scene 3
Lek walks into her Grade 4 class ready to start a mathematics lesson. As
she walks in she says, “Everyone quiet down now, please. We are going to
start our mathematics lesson and everyone needs to listen closely.” After
the class quiets down, Lek hears Chai still talking to his friend. Lek picks
up an infraction slip and writes down “Failure to follow classroom rules” and
then she asks Chai to fill in the top with his name, grade, teacher, time,
and date. Lek says, “Chai, I will put this infraction slip here on the corner
of your desk. If it is still there when class ends, you may throw it away. If
you continue to talk without being given permission, I will pick it up and it
will be turned into the office for the headmaster to see.” At the end of
class, Chai threw away the infraction slip.
If discipline techniques are negative, they may discourage and frustrate
students. If they are positive, however, they will help students to adopt
and maintain good behaviours.
In Scenes 1 and 2 above, negative situations between Lek and Chai can be
seen. Can you identify them?
Answer: In Scene 1, both Lek and the headmaster show explosive anger.
They threaten Chai: “You just wait until class is over!” and “Do you want
me to show him who’s boss?” Lek also uses unreasonable, meaningless
punishment in ordering Chai to stand in the corner with his face to the
wall. In Scene 2, Lek belittles Chai with sarcasm: “I guess someone can’t
remember the rules around here.” How do you think Chai feels after Lek
and the headmaster’s angry responses?
Scenes 2 and 3, however, contain examples of positive situations between
Lek and Chai. In Scene 2, Lek enters the room and asks for a specific
behaviour to occur (quiet down), as well as the reason why (starting the
mathematics lesson and everyone needs to listen closely). In response
to the headmaster’s comment, she asks the question, “I wonder why the
headmaster would say that?” This question helps Chai think about the
reasons for the headmaster’s actions and how his behaviour may have upset
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the headmaster, Lek, and his fellow students. Lek also nods to show Chai
that he is correct about when is the right time to talk with friends. She
also reinforces his behaviour by giving him a chance to answer a simple math
question correctly, and she praises him and smiles. This tells Chai that Lek
still likes him. It was his behaviour that was the problem, not he, himself.
In Scene 3, Lek is gentle yet firm in dealing with Chai’s misbehaviour. She
offers him a choice in directing his behaviour. This gives Chai the chance
to be responsible for his own behaviour and what happens next.
Seven Principles for Positive Child Discipline
1. Respect the child’s dignity
2. Develop pro-social behaviour, self-discipline, and character
3. Maximize the child’s active participation
4. Respect the child’s developmental needs and quality of life
5. Respect the child’s motivation and life views
6. Assure fairness (equity and non-discrimination) and justice
7. Promote solidarity
Source: Power, F. Clark and Hart, Stuart N. “The Way Forward to Constructive
Child Discipline,” in: Hart, Stuart N (ed.), Eliminating Corporal Punishment:
The Way Forward to Constructive Child Discipline. Paris: UNESCO Publishing,
2005.
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Positive Discipline Steps
While punishment is a single act, positive discipline is a four-step process
that recognizes and rewards appropriate behaviour in the following manner.31
1. The appropriate behaviour is described: “Everyone quiet down
now, please.”
2. Clear reasons are provided: “We are going to start our mathematics
lesson and everyone needs to listen closely.” This means that
quieting down quickly will show respect for others. It is a good
example of treating others as you would like them to treat you.
3. Acknowledgement is requested: “Do you see why quieting down
is so important?” Or, as in the case of Chai, “When can we all
talk without disrupting others and their opportunity to learn the
lesson.”
4. The correct behaviour is reinforced: eye contact, a nod, a smile,
an extra five minutes of play time at the end of the day, extra
credit points, having a success mentioned in front of the class or
school (social recognition is the greatest award). When rewards
are used, they should always be immediate and small, yet gratifying
This process is effective for individual children. Moreover, for those of
you who are working in large classes, it can also be effective for groups
of children. The “trick” is to make the children feel they are on a “winning
team” (the class as a whole) and to praise each child’s efforts in being a
good team member.
Remember: Catch students doing the right thing and reward them
immediately. This is the core of positive discipline.
31
Adapted from: Positive Discipline: An Approach and a Definition. http://www.
brainsarefun.com/Posdis.html [accessed online on 12/2/2005]
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Note: Positive discipline can fail if:
1. The student, or the entire class, is not rewarded quickly enough.
2. The emphasis is put on tasks rather than behaviours. For instance,
“It’s good you closed your mouth and stopped talking” as opposed
to “It’s wonderful that you were very considerate of others and
quieted down quickly.”
3. The emphasis continues to be on what the student is doing
incorrectly, rather than correctly.
In using positive discipline, try to keep in mind a 4:1 ratio. Catch a student,
or a class, doing something correctly four times for every one time you find
them doing something incorrectly. Be consistent. By using this four to one
ratio consistently, you show your students that you really are serious about
catching them doing something correctly and rewarding them immediately.32
To see if you’re achieving this ratio, keep a diary, and at the end of each
class period, or day, think back to how many times you caught your students
being good compared to how many times you found them doing something
incorrectly. You can also ask a student or teacher’s aide to monitor you
until praise becomes routine and criticism becomes rare.
Teachers who use positive discipline believe in their students’ abilities and
communicate affection and respect for their students. When teachers
are willing to observe their students and respond in ways that encourage
positive behaviour, they help their students become responsible for their
own behaviours, and they reduce the likelihood of misbehaviour.
Reflection Activity: Learning and Applying Positive Lessons
Many opportunities occur each school day for teachers and students to
relate to one another positively. Think about a recent situation where you
and one of your students related well to one another, maybe during individual
instruction. Describe your experience in the space below. How can you use
this information to work better with other students and avoid the use of
negative discipline?
32
Ibid.
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What did your student do?
What did you say or do?
How did your child respond?
How did you feel?
How can you use this experience with other children?
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Avoiding the Discipline Dilemma
This section has been about the discipline dilemma, that is, deciding upon
whether to control a student’s behaviour for your sake, or developing the
student’s behaviour for their benefit. This dilemma rests on the mistaken
idea that discipline and punishment mean the same thing, that the actions
undertaken for each are the same, and that the results will be the same. To
avoid this dilemma, and clear up the confusion, we have learned about the
difference between punishment and discipline, the nature and consequences
of punishment versus positive discipline, and the positive discipline process.
Hopefully, you’ve discovered many new things, developed some useful ideas,
and learned about how our disciplinary actions affect children’s behaviour
and encourage (or harm) its development in the long-run. Below is one last
exercise to test your knowledge about the difference between positive
and negative discipline.
Action Activity: Positive or Negative Discipline
Which disciplinary actions in the table below are positive and which are
negative? Place a check mark () in the appropriate column. Next, place a
check mark in the last column for each action that you have ever used, or
might use, to correct a child’s misbehaviour. Be honest!!
Action Positive Negative Have you
() () ever used
this action?
Yes / No
1. Getting the student’s attention
before you begin class
2. Using direct instruction (tell them
exactly what will be happening)
3. Making assumptions
4. Making accusations without proof
5. Getting up and walking around the
classroom
6. Using physical force
7. Commanding
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Action Positive Negative Have you
() () ever used
this action?
Yes / No
8. Acting in the way that you want
the children to act (modelling)
9. Generalizing about a student’s
behaviour
10. Publicly comparing one child to
another
11. Enriching your classroom
environment
12. Anticipating problems
13. Insisting that you are right and
acting superior
14. Establishing clear and consistently
enforced rules
Answers: Actions numbered 1, 2, 5, 8, 11, 12, and 14 are positive.33 Actions
numbered 3, 4, 6, 7, 9, 10, and 13 are negative.34 How did you score? How
many of the negative and positive methods have you used?
33
McDaniel, Thomas R. “A Primer on Classroom Discipline: Principles Old and New.” Phi
Delta Kappan, September 1986. Abstract available at http://www.honorlevel.com/
techniques.xml [accessed online 10/6/2005]
34
Albert, Linda. A Teacher’s Guide to Cooperative Discipline. Circle Pines, Minnesota:
AGS, 1989.
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Building Positive Teacher-Student
Relationships
What You Will Learn:
The Basis of a Teacher-Student Relationship
Why Children Behave As They Do
Why Do Children Misbehave
Learning About Your Students From The Inside
Understanding Your Students’ Lives
Learning About Your Students’ Families
Parent-Teacher Communication
Encouragement Strategies
The Basis of a Teacher-Student Relationship
Teachers who use positive discipline respect, nurture, and support their
students. They understand why a child behaves – or misbehaves – as he
or she does, as well as how the child sees him or herself, which may cause
misbehaviour. They also empathize with the child’s abilities and his or her
situation in life. The teacher’s expectations of the child are realistic, taking
the child as he or she is, and not on what he or she should be. The teacher
understands that misbehaviour is a constructive learning event, both for
the child and for his or her teacher, and that it is an important, natural
part of the child’s development, not a threat to a teacher’s authority.
By building such a positive relationship on understanding and empathy,
students come to trust their teachers and to value their approval. As
students respond to the positive nature of the relationship and consistent
discipline, the incidence of misbehaviour decreases, and the quality of the
relationship improves even further. Towards this end, the best teachers
are ones who are good role models and about whom children care enough
to want to imitate and please.
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Why Children Behave as They Do
Making Choices
Miss Samina, a Grade 4 science teacher, was always having trouble with
Hari. They were constantly at odds. Whatever Miss Samina wanted Hari to
do – such as come to class on time or turn in his homework every day – Hari
just wouldn’t do it. What she didn’t realize, and finally another teacher
saw, was that Miss Samina always phrased what she wanted Hari to do as
a question; for instance, “Hari, would you please come to class on time?”
and he always said “No!”
No one and no situation can make a child behave in a certain way. For Miss
Samina, she was inviting Hari to adopt a good behaviour, but he always
rejected the invitation. Why? Behaviour is based on choice, and your
students choose what behaviour they want to adopt. You cannot force
them, which is why punishment doesn’t work in the long-run. However, as
Ramon’s teacher learned in the previous section, you have the power to
influence a student’s decisions about how to behave, but the change must
start with you, the teacher. For Ramon’s teacher, she needed to learn how
to interact with Ramon – and her other students, as well – so that he would
want to choose an appropriate behaviour and comply with classroom rules.
You face the same challenge. Your role is to identify the reason for these
bad choices and to develop strategies to help the student make better
choices about his or her behaviour.
As we learned in the first section of this document, children learn – and
behave – as a result of hereditary factors, the environment in which they
live, and their own personal and psychological needs. We cannot change their
heredity, and we may have limited control over their environment, especially
if we don’t work well, or at all, with parents and community leaders. Yet by
understanding that each of your students is making choices about how he or
she behaves, you are provided with strategic leverage for influencing them.
Remember: Behaviour is understandable and purposeful. Our students do
what they do for a purpose, however little they may be aware of it. When
you can begin to see the world – or just your classroom – through their eyes,
you can respond to them rationally, confidently, and effectively.
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Action Activity: Same Student, Different Behaviour
Choose one student in your class whose behaviour worries or frustrates
you. Watch this student regularly for one week, especially outside your
classroom. Does she (or he) act the same way in other classes, with other
teachers, or with other students as she does in your class? If she behaves
quite differently in a variety of other situations in school, why do you think
she is choosing to behave as she does in your classroom? Consult teachers
who are not having a problem with her behaviour. What are they doing
differently from you? Are you phrasing your requests in terms of a question
(as with Miss Samina above)? Have you punished her so she doesn’t want to
come to class? Are other teachers giving her choices and allowing her to
deal with the consequences? How can you work towards helping her become
more responsible in her behaviour in a positive manner?
If we believe that each student is making choices about his or her behaviour,
we must also apply this approach to our own reactions in the classroom and
all other dealings with students. We must ask ourselves about the choices
we are making in our own actions, and why we make these choices, and then
take greater care about how we express ourselves both in voice and gesture.
The Need to Belong
The ultimate goal of student behaviour is to fulfill the need to belong.35
This desire to belong is a fundamental need, one that is shared by children
and adults alike. Each one of us continually strives to find and maintain a
place of significance, a place to belong. In our search, we select beliefs,
feelings, and behaviours that we feel will gain us significance. Most students
spend several hours a day in school, so their ability to find their place in the
classroom group, and the school at large, is of major importance. Moreover,
whatever method each student chooses to use in achieving the goal of
belonging – either through proper behaviour or misbehaviour – this method
is selected early in life and becomes the lifestyle that characterizes that
person. This is why you are a very important actor in helping each child to
choose a method that is socially acceptable. It will last a lifetime!
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Democratic Approaches to Classroom Management. http://www.educ.sfu.ca/courses/
educ326/chapter3.htm [accessed online on 10/6/2005]
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Students need to satisfy three C’s in order to experience a sense of
belonging.36
They
need to feel CAPABLE of completing tasks in a manner that
meets the needs of the classroom and school;
Theyneed to feel they can CONNECT successfully with teachers
and classmates; and
They need to know they CONTRIBUTE to the group in a significant
way.
The three factors that affect students’ abilities to satisfy the three C’s,
and which require action on your part, are:
1. the quality of the teacher-student relationship, one based on
trust, mutual respect, and understanding (not fear);
2. the strength of the classroom climate for success (for instance,
all children feel that they are included, that they are valued, and
that they can work together cooperatively and effectively);37
3. the appropriateness of the classroom structure (how it is managed,
the topic of the next section in this document).
By finding ways to satisfy these three C’s along these three lines, you can
fulfill your students’ need to belong and therefore prevent misbehaviour
that may arise in their search to satisfy this need. You will also be well on
your way to inspiring both well-behaved and passive students to actively
participate in your class. In all cases, one of the strongest tools you have
is encouragement, without which your students cannot develop the tools to
succeed and achieve their sense of belonging.
36
Albert, Linda and Desisto, Pete. Cooperative Discipline. American Guidance Service,
1996.
37
Many techniques for improving your classroom’s climate are included in: Embracing
Diversity: Toolkit for Creating Inclusive, Learning-Friendly Environments, Bangkok:
UNESCO, 2004. http://www2.unescobkk.org/ips/ebooks/documents/Embracing_
Diversity/index.htm
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Why Children Misbehave
Don’t worry; your students don’t intentionally set out to misbehave. In fact,
children usually misbehave for a reason. Some of the most common reasons
that are believed to contribute to misbehaviour are:
The work may be too easy or too hard for the student.
The work is not interesting and the student is bored.
The teaching methods may not fit the student’s learning style.
The student may not be prepared.
The expectations are unclear or unreasonable.
Thestudent has poor social skills, cannot communicate well with
you or others, or has low self-esteem.
All of these reasons may cause students to become discouraged, and
misbehaving students are discouraged students. They do not believe they can
belong in useful ways. Therefore, they seek to belong through misbehaviour.
In addition to the above reasons, it is also believed that children misbehave
to reach four goals, namely:
1. Attention
2. Power
3. Revenge
4. Avoidance of Failure or Inadequacy38
Think again about a student whose behaviour worries or frustrates you. To
learn the reason behind this misbehaviour, ask yourself how you feel when
this student misbehaves. For example, if you feel annoyed when this student
disobeys, the student is probably seeking attention (like Ramon). Do you
feel angry? Then power is the child’s ultimate goal. Do you feel hurt by the
student’s behaviour? Then the student’s objective is revenge. Frustrated
to the point of wanting to give up as a teacher? Then the student believes
they are inadequate and misbehave to confirm their feelings. Let’s look at
each of these goals more closely and what can be done about them.39
38
Dreikurs, Rudolf. Children: The Challenge. New York, NY: Duell, Sloan, and Pearce,
1964. Dreikurs, Rudolf and Soltz, Vicki. Children: The Challenge. Toronto: McClelland
& Stewart, 1987. Albert, Linda and Desisto, Pete. Cooperative Discipline. American
Guidance Service, 1996.
39
The following four sections on attention, power, revenge, and failure are adapted
from: Dealing with Behaviour. http://www.kidsgrowth.com/resources/articledetail.
cfm?id=119 [accessed online on 10/12/2005]
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Seeking Attention
Every healthy child demands attention, and most misbehaviour is due to
the child’s need for attention. An important goal of teaching is to supply
the attention that students need to develop healthy self-esteem. However,
some students choose misbehaviour to get extra attention. They want
to be centre stage and constantly distract you and their classmates to
gain an audience. They need some way of confirming their existence and
significance: “Hey! Notice me! I’m here and I’m important!” If students
can’t get attention through achievement and cooperation, then they’ll get
it any way they can. They may disrupt the class, but they know that they’ll
get the attention that they crave.
Denying attention in such situations usually stops the misbehaviour, such
as in the case of Ramon. If a teacher is constantly having to cope with
attention-getting behaviour, however, ignoring it may not always be enough.
Actually, being ignored may be the reason for the problem in the first place.
For students who require a lot of unnecessary attention, you may be
tempted to scold, bribe, or use other negative discipline techniques. But if
you remember that the student’s goal is to get attention, it is easy to see
that scolding or bribing only encourages more misbehaviour. In a child’s
mind, attention from an angry teacher is better than no attention at all. If
you only notice a student’s misbehaviour, then the student will misbehave
in order to get attention.
Following is a list of positive disciplinary actions that you can take to guide
students whose misbehaviour is demanding attention.
Catchthem being good; praise them when they are not seeking
attention and misbehaving.
Ignore the behaviour when possible, giving the child positive
attention during pleasant times.
Teach them to ask for attention (for instance, make “notice me,
please” cards that they raise when they have a question).
Give them a stern “eye” (look) but do not speak.
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Standclose by rather than far away (there’s no need for attention-
getting behaviours if you are standing next to them).
Target-stop-do; that is, target the student by name, identify the
behaviour to be stopped, tell the student what he is expected to
do at that moment, let him make the decision about what he does
next and its consequences; for example, read Scene 3 between Lek
and Chai in the previous chapter.
Dothe unexpected, such as turn the lights off, play a musical sound,
lower your voice, change your voice, talk to the wall.
Distractthe student, such as ask a direct question, ask a favour,
give choices, change the activity.
The general principle for responding to attention-seeking students is:
Never give attention on demand, even for useful behaviour. Help students
become self-motivated. Give attention in ways they don’t expect. Catch
them being “good.”
Power
Children are constantly trying to find out how powerful they are; Ramon is
a good example of this. Some students feel that they are only a significant
part of the class when they are running the show. Power-seeking students
feel that they are important only when they challenge your authority, resist
rules, and do not follow instructions. They mistakenly believe that they
belong in the classroom only when they are in control. They’ll defy you to
see how far you can be pushed, or they’ll do just enough to appease you,
since they sense that you don’t want to keep fighting.
Our natural response during such power struggles is to feel provoked and
angry. The temptation is to stop these struggles altogether through the
use of some form of corporal punishment, but this will only provide a brief
respite. During power struggles, you need to take kind, but firm, action.
Talking will do little good, and it only feeds into the power struggle. You
need to decide what you will do, not what it will take to make the student
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do it. The general guideline for dealing with power-seeking students is to
withdraw from the conflict. Remember: it takes two to quarrel. Be calm,
give choices, and let the consequences of the student’s behaviour occur.
You might even win their cooperation by enlisting their help. For instance,
“Ok, you don’t want to come to class on time. I understand. But could you
please help me by taking attendance as students arrive?” Instead of seeking
power over you, you put the student in a position of responsibility and grant
him or her legitimate power.
Revenge
Dealing with the mistaken goal of revenge takes patience. A student who
hurts others, and you, feels that they have been hurt (either real or
imagined), and they have to take revenge. They feel mistreated, defeated,
and unhappy, so they knowingly or unknowingly seek revenge. Revenge can
be pursued physically, verbally, or passively through inactivity. It can also
be entirely silent, such as through hateful looks and gestures. The student
can also seek revenge against you indirectly, such as by picking on other
students or writing on a desk.
When a student is allowed to take revenge, they establish a painful cycle
of relating to people through hurting and being hurt. Remember that the
revenge-seeking student is troubled and deeply discouraged. To break the
revenge-seeking pattern, you should avoid feeling hurt, and you should
never retaliate. Don’t go seeking your own revenge. Instead, try to build
a caring, trusting relationship with the student while improving his or her
self-esteem. This can be easily done by placing the student in situations in
which he or she cannot fail. When a student has a better opinion of himself
or herself, they rarely misbehave to seek revenge. Also teach the student
– and all of your students – how to express their feelings appropriately.
Rather than taking revenge for being hurt physically or emotionally, teach
the children to “talk it out,” to tell each other how hurt they were, and to
try to determine the cause and how to avoid it in the future.
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Avoidance of Failure or Inadequacy
Some students fear failure or feel that they are inadequate and cannot live
up to their own, their parents’, or their teachers’ expectations. This feeling
of inadequacy is an escape for the discouraged child. In other words, since
they feel bad, they act badly. They will not try to do well in your class if
they think they are stupid. It’s a lot easier to give up rather than to try
and fail again. To compensate for their feelings of inadequacy, they may
choose withdrawal behaviours that make them appear inadequate: “I just
can’t do these math problems.” “I’m no good at science.” “This book is too
hard for me.” Negative discipline tactics, such as ridicule and sarcasm (“Can’t
you do better than that!”), make these children feel even more worthless.
Alternatively, students who feel that they are inadequate, unpopular, or
cruel may brag, boast, or fight. They may also turn into bullies in an attempt
to make other students feel fear and inadequacy.
When your students feel inadequate, you have a difficult task. Start where
they are (not what they are supposed to be), develop realistic expectations,
eliminate all criticism of their work, encourage their slightest effort, and,
above all, don’t pity them. You must restore their faith in themselves and
encourage them by praising whatever successes they achieve, no matter
how small. Intentionally arrange for them to succeed in easy tasks and find
opportunities to compliment them on their behaviour and positive efforts.
Remember, children are not miniature adults with bad judgment; they make
mistakes because they are always learning.
Learning about Your Students
Building a trusting and caring relationship between you and your students,
one that promotes good behaviour and prevents misbehaviour, can be
challenging, but it can have its rewards as well, such as making your teaching
more enjoyable and improving your students’ learning. Their positive
achievements reflect how well you are performing and how well your students
see you as a “role model.”
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Whether you have many children in your classroom or a more manageable
number, your challenge is to learn as much as you can about each of your
students. For those of you working in large classrooms, initially focus your
efforts on that small number of students who may need special attention,
either because they are misbehaving now or because you suspect that their
personal or family situation places them at risk of misbehaviour. Focus
your efforts on understanding how they see themselves, as well as on what
external factors – possibly in the family – may be affecting their behaviour.
Remember: Each student is an individual. Each student brings a different
history, a different way of responding to and learning from the world,
and a different dream for the future. By taking time to learn about your
students as individuals and by getting to know their families, you show
that you care about them and respect their uniqueness.
In a respectful environment, all students feel safe and valued. The teacher
has a friendly and open rapport with students, but the teacher is always an
adult. Giving thoughtful attention to a student’s work demonstrates caring
and respect. Rather than just saying “good work,” tell the student why the
work is good.
A teacher needs to know the interests and dreams of each student as well
as what they know and are able to do. It is important that you develop some
activities for getting to know about your students. Here are three activities
that teachers have used successfully.40 Can you think of any more?
Action Activity: Who Am I?
At the beginning of the school year, have your students fill out a card similar
to the one below. Use this information to talk with your students, develop
lesson plans, and design learning activities. At the end of the first term,
ask your students to fill out the card again, and then look for any changes,
particularly in terms of what each student believes he or she is good or
not good at doing, as well as when they are happy or uncomfortable in class.
40
Classroom Management. Rapport With and Knowledge of Students. http://www.
temple.edu/CETP/temple_teach/cm-know.html [accessed online on 10/20/2005]
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Using this information, what new learning activities can your students do
that will improve their confidence and make your class a more enjoyable
place to learn?
If you are a teacher who can follow your students for several years, keep
the cards in a card file and review them for changes. Revise your lesson plans
and activities accordingly. If you’re working in a school with teachers who
teach different subjects, share your information with them and encourage
them to use it in preparing their lessons.
Student Name: __________________________________________
I want to be called _______________________________________
One thing you need to know about me is _______________________
_____________________________________________________
I would like to work with __________________________________
I’m really good at ________________________________________
I’m not very good at______________________________________
I’m happiest in class when _________________________________
_____________________________________________________
I’m uncomfortable in class when ____________________________
_____________________________________________________
Action Activity: Sharing Time
Set aside 10 to 15 minutes during the day, or at least once a week, for
your students to share in small groups how they are feeling, bad things and
good things that are happening in their lives. A group can elect to share
information they feel is important with the teacher or the class.
Other similar sharing activities could include asking the children to keep
a private diary and sharing parts of it with you and the other students. In
teaching them to write essays, ask them to write one on what is happening
in their lives, both good and bad.
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For students who are experiencing especially difficult circumstances, try
some of the encouragement strategies mentioned at the end of this chapter.
Praise them whenever possible and appropriate. Ask if there is anything
special they would like to do or learn about.
Action Activity: Fill in the Blanks
Develop a form or worksheet with fill-in-the-blanks like,
“After school I mostly ________________________________
My favourite food is __________________________________
My favourite activity is _______________________________
My favourite subject in school is_________________________
I want to be like_____________________________________
I want to be a ______________________when I finish school.”
In classrooms where there are a lot of new students, you can use this activity
at the beginning of the school year as an opportunity for students to get to
know each other, especially in classrooms containing children with diverse
backgrounds and abilities. On the sheet of paper with this information,
add a column on the right side of the paper, but leave it blank. After your
students have filled in their blanks, ask them to find other students with
the same response to each statement and to write each student’s name in
the column.
Understanding the Context of Your Students’
Lives
When you understand why your students misbehave, such as through the
four goals above, you can more easily choose a positive discipline tool that
will reduce the misbehaviour or prevent it entirely. Yet the four goals
discussed above centre solely on the child fulfilling his or her own emotional
and psychological needs. What is missing is understanding the context from
which each child comes.
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We are not the only ones who affect a child’s behaviour. Each child is
a product of his or her total learning environment. This environment
encompasses not only your classroom and school, but also includes the
child, the child’s family, and his or her community. For instance, how many
times have you heard, “He acts just like his father” or “He acts just like
his older brother”? Understanding this broader environment probably will
be a new challenge for many of you, especially for those who usually work
only within the confines of their classroom and school.
How a student behaves in your classroom may reflect his or her frustration
in himself, in his home life, or in dealing with other difficult circumstances
inside and outside of school. We need to be careful in interpreting a child’s
behaviour. What we think is misbehaviour may not be a disciplinary problem
at all; for instance, a child may be seeking extra attention from you because
he is not getting it at home. It may be the child’s reaction, or frustration,
to problems at home or elsewhere that carry over into the classroom. Thus,
it’s not the child’s behaviour that is the problem, it’s the situation in which
the child is caught. This frustration, fueled by its causes, may also help to
explain sudden behaviour changes in students who usually don’t misbehave.
In any case, if we discipline the child for his or her misbehaviour, we make
a “miscall.” We may be blaming the child for something that is not his or
her fault, and we may confuse the child even more. In this case, punishment
will definitely not work, and it may severely harm the child’s behavioural
development.
To guide the child’s behaviour in a positive manner, we need to
understand his or her total learning environment and the factors that
may affect his or her behaviour at a personal level, a family level, and
a community level. When a child misbehaves, we need to take these factors
into account just as much as the four goals discussed above. We need to
ask ourselves if he or she is having difficulty with the classroom situation
or whether it is something outside of the classroom and school that may be
causing the problem. Finally, solving these problems rests not only with us.
We also need to form strong partnerships with parents, community leaders,
and local organizations to identify and solve any very difficult conditions
that a child is facing and that his or her misbehaviour is reflecting.
Following is a list of factors that may affect whether or not one of your
students wants to attend and achieve in your class, and whether or not he
or she may misbehave. Also included are some actions that can be taken
Positive Discipline in the Inclusive, Learning-Friendly Classroom 47
to try and overcome these factors, and especially actions involving the
participation of families and communities.41 This list is not exhaustive.
Talk with your colleagues about what other factors in your locality may be
affecting your students’ behaviours and what actions can be taken to solve
them when they arise.
The Child
Need to work. Children who feel that they should be home, or elsewhere,
helping their families to earn a living may not want to be in your class and
may use misbehaviour as a means of escape. Their interest is on providing
their families with immediate assistance, rather than viewing their education
as a long-term way to ensure their families’ economic future. For these
children, they need to be shown how their learning and good behaviour may
actually improve their work prospects. They also can be given opportunities
to earn as well as learn, such as through in-school, livelihood skills training
programmes, where the products that they make can be sold with the profits
going to the child. Another good strategy is to invite parents or respected
community members with special knowledge or skills to be resource persons
in the classroom. They can teach the children about their specialty, how
it relates to what they are learning in class, and the value of education in
the long-run.
In addition, some children – and girls, especially – may have many household
duties to perform before school starts, such as caring for younger siblings,
cleaning the house, collecting fuel, preparing food, and tending animals.
Thus, they may have very little time to do homework, may come to school
late, and may sleep in class. These are not behavioural problems, but
responses to their family situation. Consequently, discipline probably will
not correct the child’s behaviour. Rather, other strategies will need to be
pursued to try and help the child work in the home as well as learn, such
as giving extra attention during class time; giving little to no homework
and, if given, providing time to complete it in school; encouraging students
to help each other in completing assignments (peer-to-peer learning); and
giving additional time for tutorials, possibly in the home.
41
UNESCO. “Booklet 3: Getting All Children In School and Learning,” Embracing
Diversity: Toolkit for Creating Inclusive, Learning-Friendly Environments. Bangkok,
2004.
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Illness and hunger. Children do not learn well if they are ill, hungry, or
malnourished. Usually these children are from poverty-stricken families
who are fighting on a daily basis just to survive. Illness and hunger reduce
a student’s attention span and drastically affect his or her achievement
levels. Low achievement levels can lead to feelings of inadequacy and failure,
which can lead to misbehaviour. The actions that are needed to help these
children go beyond your classroom, reaching out from the school and into
the community. The first action is to establish school feeding for learning
programmes that provide regular, nutritious lunches or snacks. These
may benefit girls, in particular. Community women’s groups or other local
organizations can prepare these lunches or snacks. In addition, we need to
work with local health service providers to establish regular health, dental,
and nutrition screening and treatment programmes.42
Fear of violence. Fear of violence when going to and from school, as well
as at school and in the classroom (in the form of corporal punishment
or bullying), may cause some students to become withdrawn and to not
participate in class. It also takes a heavy toll on their self-esteem and
raises their sense of inadequacy. What actions can you take to understand
your school’s situation better? Assist children and community members to
map where violence occurs on school grounds, as well as in returning to or
coming from home. You can also work with community leaders and parents
to establish “child watch” activities, where responsible teachers, parents,
or other community members watch over areas of potential or high violence
within and outside of school. This may include escorting children to safe
areas when needed. You can also ask your students to complete anonymous
questionnaires that ask them about whether or not they have been bullied
or were subjected to corporal punishment, and in what ways.43 Your school
will also need firm and enforceable policies for violence against children,
including the use of corporal punishment, and suitable codes of conduct for
teachers and school staff.
42
For additional ideas, see: UNESCO. “Booklet 6: Creating a Healthy and Protective
ILFE,” Embracing Diversity: Toolkit for Creating Inclusive, Learning-Friendly
Environments. Bangkok, 2004.
43
UNESCO. “Booklet 4: Creating Inclusive, Learning-Friendly Classrooms,” Embracing
Diversity: Toolkit for Creating Inclusive, Learning-Friendly Environments. Bangkok,
2004.
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Disabilities and special needs. Most children with disabilities or special
needs are not in school, especially when our schools and education systems
have no policies or programmes for including children with physical,
emotional, or learning impairments. However, some of these children ARE
in school and may be in your class. They are the ones whose disabilities are
more “hidden,” such as those with sight and hearing impairments and those
with such disorders as ADHD, such as Ramon. If these impairments are
not detected, the children’s behaviour – such as not paying attention, poor
learning performance, or hyperactivity in the classroom – may be wrongly
identified as misbehaviour. Schools need screening programmes to identify
these conditions early and refer the children for assistance so that they
can fully learn and participate in our classes. Your students can even do
some simple sight and hearing tests themselves.44
44
UNESCO. Booklet 6: Creating a Healthy and Protective ILFE. Embracing Diversity:
Toolkit for Creating Inclusive, Learning-Friendly Environments. Bangkok, 2004.
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The Family and Community
Families and communities should be the first line for protection and care
of a child, for understanding the problems a child may be confronting,
and for taking action to address these problems in sustainable ways. The
most effective means to prevent misbehaviour is through strong, caring,
and productive families and communities. Below are some of the major
considerations associated with the family and community that may determine
whether your students attend school or how they behave within it. Are there
any other family or community factors in your community, country, or
culture that could affect children’s attendance and behaviour in school?
Poverty and the Practical Value of Education. Directly related to the
“need to work” factor above, poverty often affects a child’s performance
and behaviour in school. Because of their financial burden, poor parents are
often pressed to provide even the basic necessities of life. Hence, children
must help to earn the family’s income at the expense of their education and
future life. This occurs especially when families do not feel that education
is meaningful for their daily lives; thus, they do not understand why their
children should attend school and do not take an interest in how their
children behave in school (or sometimes at home, as well). Parents also may
feel that the local school cannot provide a good quality education, and the
skills their children will learn in certain jobs are more valuable than those
they will learn in the classroom.
Since the root cause of poverty is economic, effective strategies to reach
poor children, get them in school, and help them to learn actively often
must be based on short- and long-term economic incentives for the child
and his or her family.
Inadequate Caregiving. Because of the need to earn money, some parents
may have little time to care for their children. Sometimes, they may be
forced to migrate away from home either temporarily or for long periods
of time. As a result, they may put their children in the care of elderly
grandparents or others. These parents or guardians may not have the
knowledge, experience, or resources to provide suitable child care, which
can lead to illness and hunger. They also may not value education when
money is needed so badly, and they may not care how the child behaves in
class. What are some of the actions that can be undertaken to help these
children?
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On
special days, invite parents and other caregivers to visit the
school. Show them the children’s work, and give informal talks or
participatory learning sessions on improving children’s health and
behaviour through better caregiving.
Asabove, invite parents and caregivers with special knowledge to
talk about their skills with your class so they can also learn that
their knowledge is valuable for their children.
Encourage regular “teacher-parent/caregiver” conferences to
discuss children’s learning progress and how better caregiving can
improve children’s learning, self-esteem, and behaviour.
Obtainchildcare materials from government agencies and non-
governmental organizations, especially those dealing with health
and nutrition. Use them in school health or family life education
programmes with children, and regularly send them home with
children to read to their family members.
Establish
parenting skills training programmes in which the school
and other local organizations can help parents and other caregivers
to improve their parenting and caregiving practices.
Developpartnerships with local social welfare agencies and
refer children who are experiencing especially difficult family
circumstances.
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The Family and Community: A Strategy from Thailand
In Thailand, child-friendly schools are using information about children’s
learning achievements and their family backgrounds to identify those
children who are learning poorly, frequently absent, not interested in
learning, and are most likely to drop out, often because their families
have little money and value their children’s labour over their education.
These children are given priority for livelihood skills training in such areas
as silk and cotton weaving, sewing, woodworking, agricultural production,
typing, computer training, and the like. This training increases family
income while the children are in school, and it provides the children
with skills that they can use throughout their lives. It also raises their
self–esteem, confidence, and sense of accomplishment. Some of these
children have even received national and regional awards for their work.
In some schools, family members of these children serve as “teachers” in
teaching the children time-honoured skills, such as how to dye silk thread
and weave it into traditional patterns. Such participation increases the
value of the school in the eyes of parents and community members through
improving livelihoods and stressing the value of maintaining important
cultural traditions. It also increases communication between parents and
children about the children’s work and behaviour in school, as well as what
the future—and the children’s education—can bring to the family. Can a
similar strategy become a part of your school’s curriculum?
Conflict. Some parents, caught in an argument over money or other problems
(such as drunkenness or drug abuse), may lash out at their children, thus
leading to violence and abuse, as well as a strong sense of inadequacy in
the child. This may contribute to irregular attendance and misbehaviour,
or even encourage children to run away from home and school. During the
1997 Asian economic crisis, for example, one Thai boy was caught in the
middle of his parents’ quarrels about money and was beaten. His home
life was very poor, and soon he began to be withdrawn in class and would
not participate. He also would not complete his assignments on time, if at
all. Rather than punishing the boy, his teacher asked him to describe his
home life, and the truth about his situation came out. He divulged that he
didn’t understand why he was beaten; he had nothing to do with his family’s
money problems. After that, his teacher went out of her way to praise the
child, to give him opportunities to excel, and to give him even a little extra
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“tender loving care” and attention. Whenever possible, she also asked him
to help her before and after school so he could be in class rather than in a
destructive home environment. Quite rapidly, his behaviour changed and he
began to excel in his studies. After his parents solved their differences,
they also saw that he was doing well in school, and they complimented him
during a parent-teacher conference.
Discrimination. Children who come from families that are different from the
community at large in terms of language, religion, caste, or other cultural
features are especially at risk of being the targets of bullying, ridicule,
teasing, and the like. Also at risk are those children affected by HIV/AIDS.
Negative, discriminatory attitudes towards such children are perhaps the
biggest single barrier to including these children in school and to allow
them to participate equally, actively, and happily in the learning process.
Negative attitudes can be found at all levels: parents, community members,
schools and teachers, government officials, and even among marginalized
children themselves. Fears, taboos, shame, ignorance, and misinformation,
amongst others, all encourage negative attitudes towards such children and
their situations. These children may develop low self-esteem, hide away and
avoid social interaction, misbehave in class, and become invisible members
of their communities. For such children, we need to put special emphasis
on reducing discrimination and embracing the value of diversity.
Workwith parents and community members to modify class lessons
and materials to represent the diverse cultures and languages of
the community. This will help ensure that the community will find
the materials authentic and useful, and it will encourage all children
to attend to school and work together cooperatively.
Use
local stories, oral histories, legends, songs, and poems in
developing class lessons.
Forchildren who do not speak the language of instruction in your
classroom, work with bilingual teachers or others who speak the
child’s language (even family and community members) to develop an
appropriate language-training curriculum for the classroom.
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To reduce bullying, you will need to take a range of actions, such as:
conducting exercises to help children to relax and reduce tension;
increasing
the amount of cooperative learning within the classroom
(children helping each other to learn);
improvingthe assertiveness of children by giving all students
more power, such as by allowing them to make class rules and take
responsibility within a student committee;
increasing
responsibility within the class by establishing committees
and working more closely with parents and the local community;
developing
child-to-child strategies to deal with conflict, such as
teaching conflict resolution skills like negotiation and mediation
(discussed below); and
allowing
your children to identify what disciplinary measures should
be taken towards those who bully others.
Within the curriculum, teachers can use drama or puppets to explore the
extent of bullying and its causes, as well as to find solutions to it when
it occurs in and outside of school. For example, teachers in Guyana made
puppets and developed short plays to illustrate aspects of racial bullying.
They then developed action steps that they could take to help children
caught in these situations.
Discussions or debates on sensitive issues can also be used along with stories
or role playing to allow children to try out how to say ‘No!’ assertively as
well as to find the right language to use against bullies and abusers.45
45
UNESCO. “Booklet 4: Creating Inclusive, Learning-Friendly Classrooms,” Embracing
Diversity: Toolkit for Creating Inclusive, Learning-Friendly Environments. Bangkok,
2004.
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Learning about Your Students’ Families
In many schools in Asia and the Pacific, teachers are developing student
profiles as a means to learn about the families from which their students
come. A student profile:
helpsteachers to recognize the reasons why a student may not
come to school, may misbehave in class, or is at risk of dropping out;
shows the diversity of children in the community in terms of their
individual characteristics and those of their families; and
helps
to plan programmes to overcome factors that exclude children
from school and encourage misbehaviour.
A student profile can be created by using the steps below.
Step 1: Brainstorm with your colleagues about what are the major
misbehaviours seen in your students and the factors within the family or
community that may cause them (such as those discussed above). Be sure
to include any factors that you think might cause a child to be absent or
to come late.
Step 2: Using these factors, create a list of questions that, when answered,
may give you some insights into why a child may not be behaving well in
class. Below is an example of a list of questions that is being used in Child-
Friendly Schools in the Philippines and Thailand to understand the situation
of children with diverse backgrounds and abilities who do not learn well and
may feel inadequate.46 You can develop your own list of questions based
on the barriers you feel are common in your community.
Discrimination
What is the child’s sex?
What is the child’s age?
What is the child’s nationality or ethnic affiliation?
What is the child’s religion?
46
Examples of the Child Profile from other countries such as El Salvador and Uganda
can be found in: Toolkit for Assessing and Promoting Equity in the Classroom,
produced by Wendy Rimer et al. Edited by Marta S. Maldonado and Angela Aldave.
Creative Associates International Inc., USAID/EGAT/WID, Washington DC. 2003.
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What is the child’s mother tongue?
Where is the child’s home located with respect to the school
(distance, travel time)?
What mode of transportation does the child use and is it safe?
Child level factors
Doesthe child work either in or outside of the home to earn an
income or help with family chores?
What is the child’s health and nutritional status?
Does the child have any disabilities that affect access to school
facilities or his or her performance in the classroom?
Caregiving; Conflict
How old are the child’s parents?
Areboth of the child’s parents still alive; if not, which parent is
deceased?
What level of education does each parent have?
Has any member of the family ever dropped out of school? Why?
Are the child’s parents still married?
With whom does the child live?
How many people reside in the household?
How many children are in the child’s household (especially very
young children)?
Who is the primary child caregiver for these children?
Has either parent ever migrated for work?
Poverty and the Practical Value of Education
What is the primary (main) occupation of each of the child’s parents?
Does the family own land for income generation; if yes, how much
land?
Does the family rent land for income generation; if yes, how much
land?
What is the household’s average monthly income?
Doesthe family borrow money for income generation? If yes, how
much, how often and during what time(s) of the year?
Is the household a member of any community development group?
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Step 3: Develop a questionnaire to collect answers to these questions.
This questionnaire can be the list of questions above for which answers
are noted, or it can be a more formal Student Profile form.47 Once the
questionnaire is completed, it can then be: (a) sent to the children’s homes
to be filled out and returned to the school or a community leader; (b) filled
out by a teacher during home visits; or (c) filled out based on interviews
with the children themselves, or with their parents when they come to pick
up their children from school, at parent-teacher conferences, or during
Parent-Teacher Association meetings.
Step 4: After the questionnaires are completed and returned, create a
descriptive case study for each child that incorporates answers to the
questions above. This case study will help you to identify, link, and analyze
the factors that may affect children’s behaviour and learning.
Step 5: After the case studies are completed, look at them closely to see
what factors may be affecting each child’s ability to learn fully in your
classroom as well as their behaviour. Underline them to make them stand out
and help you to link them. For the case of Aye below, these might be cultural
differences that cause her to feel discriminated against and inferior,
poverty, inadequate caregiving, no access to resources outside the family,
and poor health/nutritional status. Use these factors as starting points to
develop positive actions to address the causes of children not coming to
school or misbehaving in class. Work actively with your colleagues, school
management committee, parents, community leaders, and local organizations
to plan, undertake, monitor, and evaluate each action.
47
UNESCO. “Booklet 3: Getting All Children In School and Learning,” Embracing
Diversity: Toolkit for Creating Inclusive, Learning-Friendly Environments. Bangkok,
2004.
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A Student’s Family: The Case of Aye
AYE belongs to the Hmong ethnic group living in Northern Thailand.
She is believed to be 9 years old. Her father is deceased. Her mother
is 30 years old and has not remarried. Aye’s mother is illiterate. Her
primary occupation is upland rice farming on a small plot of land. Aye’s
grandmother takes care of Aye and her five year old brother who does
not attend pre-school. Aye’s family is very poor, earning less than 500
baht per month. During the non-farming season, Aye’s mother migrates to
work in Bangkok as a labourer. Aye’s family does not belong to any village
development group and has no access to community resources. Half of
Aye’s absences from school were excused because she needed to help her
mother or grandmother, while the other half were due to illness. She is
commonly affected by acute respiratory infections (ARI) and has mild
iodine deficiency. When Aye is in class, she often sleeps and does not
turn her homework in on time. Many times she seem preoccupied and not
interested in the lesson or her classmates.
Note: For those of you working in large classrooms, start by building
student profiles for that small number of children who may need special
attention, either because they are learning poorly or are misbehaving
now, or because you suspect that their personal or family situation places
them at risk of misbehaviour. Later on, expand to your other children.
Parent-Teacher Communication
Building a positive teacher-student relationship, one that promotes good
behaviour and prevents misbehaviour, also requires involving parents in
their children’s education. Two factors that place a student at risk of
misbehaviour and dropping out of school are no parental involvement and
low parental expectations.48 Parental involvement has a positive effect on
children’s achievement and is the most accurate predictor of a student’s
success in school. Some of the benefits of family involvement are:
Studentsachieve more, regardless of their socioeconomic status,
ethnic/racial background, or parents’ educational status.
Students have better attendance.
48
Wells, S.E. At-risk Youth: Identification, Programmes, and Recommendations.
Englewood, Colorado: Teacher Idea Press, 1990.
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Students complete homework more consistently.
Students exhibit more positive attitudes and behaviour.49
However, for you to be able to get parents involved in their children’s
education, you must show an interest in the child. Research suggests that
parents use a teacher’s knowledge of a particular child’s personality or
interests as a screening device. They are more willing to hear a range
of feedback about a child if they feel the teacher knows what is special
about the child.50 This is one of the important reasons why getting to know
the child and his or her family is so critical in developing parent-teacher
partnerships. Moreover, and especially among children who chronically
misbehave in class, a parent-teacher-student conference often puts an
end to students who play the school against the home, and parents against
the teacher.
Usually, a parent-teacher or parent-teacher-student conference is held
for at least one of four reasons:
(a) to discuss a specific academic issue requested by the school, such
as the child’s learning performance (good or poor) or a request for
parental assistance in the classroom or school;
(b) to discuss the child’s attendance or disciplinary issues;
(c) to discuss an issue brought up by parents, themselves;
(d) to hold a regular conference as set in the school calendar.
Over time, experienced teachers usually develop their own style and
procedures for holding such conferences. However, for beginning teachers,
it is important to develop a conference plan. This plan should include
what resources you will need, what limitations might affect how well the
conference proceeds and how will they be overcome, and what key issues
exist that are common to all students versus those that are specific to a
student.51
49
Parent-Teacher Communication. Professional Development Academy.
http://www.mcps.org/iss/Portfolio/Communication/Conferences.ppt [accessed online
on 12/1/2005]
50
Reforming Middle Schools and School Systems. Changing Schools in Louisville, Vol. 1,
No. 2 - Spring/Summer, 1997.
Parent-Teacher Communication. Professional Development Academy.
51
http://www.mcps.org/iss/Portfolio/Communication/Conferences.ppt [accessed online
on 12/1/2005]
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Resources might include:
Who should attend, and what are their schedules?
What space is available?
Ifa parent will be bringing younger children, what can you provide
for them during the conference to keep them occupied?
What information is available from guidance or attendance records
that might be helpful in talking with parents, and that you can request
in advance of the conference? Some teachers keep “Behavioural
Incident Logs” to keep track of incidents of misbehaviour, and
they use these in discussions with parents. They can also be used
to identify if a child misbehaves regularly and in what way(s). These
files contain: (a) the child’s name; (b) date and time of incident; (c)
brief description of behaviour; (d) action taken; (e) name of the
person to whom the incident was reported, as well as the time and
method of reporting (written, verbal); (f) name of persons witnessing
the behaviour; (g) name of person completing this log/report and
date; (h) any contributing factors and/or changes to be made that
might have affected the child’s behaviour; and (i) signatures of the
principal, witnessing teacher, and parent, as well as date.
Important limitations or barriers include those that might hinder the
conference process, and which you should try to solve before inviting the
parents. These limitations could include the following. Can you think of any
more?
Issomeone available to watch your class if you have to have a
conference during the day?
How do you get in touch with families that do not have a phone?
What if separated parents refuse to come to the same conference?
Someparents may not have transportation or have work obligations.
What arrangements can be made to help these parents attend a
conference, or can you go to them?
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Important issues may include such questions as:
To what degree should the student be involved in the conference?
How do you involve the parent in creating solutions to problem areas?
What documentation is necessary?
Whatdo you discuss with the parent of a student who is gifted, one
who is showing signs of a learning impairment, or one who is having
behavioural problems?
A well-prepared conference will not only make your work easier, it will
also show parents that you are a well-organized person and have taken the
time to be prepared to discuss their child’s situation. In preparing for the
conference, some important procedures include:
Letterto parents to request a conference. The request should be a
positive one, even if it is for discussing about a child’s misbehaviour.
(For instance, “Johnny is a very challenging student to teach. Would
you be free on [date, time] to discuss his progress?”]
Checklist of materials to have available at the time of the conference.
Checklist of people that need to be invited to the conference (if
needed).
Agendafor the conference itself (for each student; the agenda
should be shared with parents when they come for the meeting).
Instrument to record results of conference and plan for follow-up.
Follow-upplan for individual student. If possible, this plan – or at
least major points – should be discussed with the student’s parents,
especially if some parts of the plan require parental monitoring and
feedback.
Note: Parent-teacher conferences can be either formal or informal. For
teachers working in large classes, where there is no time to meet all of
the parents on a single day, hold formal conferences with the parents
of children who are having difficulties. For other students, hold periodic
informal discussions at convenient times (for you and the parents). These
can include meetings in the classroom or on school grounds, such as
when parents come to pick up their children; meetings at home, if you
conduct home visits; or meetings on days when there are special school
or community events.
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Encouragement Strategies
This section has been about building a positive relationship with your
students, one based on understanding and emphathy. Some of the conditions
that are especially important in encouraging positive student behaviour as
part of the relationship building process are:52
Maintaininga positive emotional tone in the classroom. How you
treat and react to your students will be reflected in their behaviour.
Providingattention to the student to increase positive behaviour.
For older children, attention includes being aware of and interested
in their home life, in their school activities, and in any other
activities that interest them.
Providing consistency in the form of regular routines for daily
activities and interactions to make unexpected, negative experiences
less stressful.
Respondingconsistently to similar behavioural situations – both
positive and negative – in order to promote more harmonious
teacher-student relationships and more positive student outcomes.
Beingflexible, particularly with older children and adolescents.
Listen to their reasons for complying or not complying with your
requests or classroom rules and negotiate a solution. This shows
that you value your students’ viewpoints, which can reduce future
instances of misbehaviour. Moreover, involving the student in
decision-making has been associated with long-term enhancement
in moral judgment.
Making
mistakes okay. Tell your students, “We only learn by making
mistakes. I make mistakes everyday. So let’s make some now!” This
creates a partnership for learning, one based on mutual respect.
Buildingconfidence. Promote positive self-talk. Ask each of your
students to talk about what they think they are good at, no matter
what. Then apply their answers to your lessons; get them involved
in helping you to teach.
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Adapted from: The American Academy of Pediatrics. Guidance for
Effective Discipline. http://aappolicy.aappublications.org/cgi/content/full/
pediatrics;101/4/723 [accessed online on 12/2/2005]
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Focusingon past successes. For a student who tends to feel
inadequate or fears failure, praise him or her for their last
examination grade (no matter what it was), and encourage him or her
to do better. Offer to give them special tutoring or extra credit
work, and follow-up on it.
Makinglearning meaningful. Modify your instructional methods.
Instead of a lecture on geometric shapes, divide your children into
small groups and ask them to find as many different shapes around
the school or community as they can in 15 minutes. The winning group
gets a small prize!
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Creating a Positive and
Supportive Learning Environment
What You Will Learn:
The Importance of Classroom Management
Making the Learning Environment Comfortable
Developing Classroom Routines
Developing Classroom Rules and Involving Parents
Adopting a Management Style Conducive to Creating Good Behaviours
Providing Positive Reinforcement
Classroom Management in an ILFC
In order for your students to develop good behaviours, they must be in a
classroom environment that is well-managed and well-organized. When we
think of classroom management, many of us may think of controlling student
behaviour or wondering how we are going to control a class. Actually, our
reaction to student behaviour, or misbehaviour, should be the last action in
a plan for classroom management. In a well-managed classroom, this action,
hopefully in the form of a positive discipline technique, will take little time
and will only slightly break the flow of a lesson. To get to this point, you will
need to plan for classroom management that has several elements. Some
of these elements have been discussed in Booklets 4 and 5 of the Toolkit
for Creating Inclusive, Learning-friendly Classrooms, produced by UNESCO
Bangkok. We will discuss others here.
The first step in the planning process is to decide what we really mean by
“classroom management.” When we use the term “classroom management,”
we mean the procedures, strategies, and instructional methods that
teachers use to create a classroom environment that promotes learning,
as well as to develop and manage the behaviours and learning activities
of individual students and groups of students within this environment.
Effective classroom management, therefore, creates an environment
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that is conducive to teaching for us and to the learning and behavioural
development of all students. Ineffective classroom management often
creates chaos; our students don’t know what we expect of them, they don’t
understand how to behave or respond, they don’t know the limits, and they
don’t know the consequences that will arise for misbehaving. Effective
classroom management is the most important – and the most difficult –
skill a new teacher must master. Even experienced teachers often find
themselves faced with a student – or an entire class – who challenges their
longstanding management skills and forces them to find new ways of dealing
with classroom situations. A classroom is a place where students gather to
learn. Creating a safe and orderly environment in the classroom is, thus, a
survival skill for teachers that optimizes the learning environment for all
students.
Making the Learning Environment Comfortable
Have you ever been in a crowded room, either crowded with many people
or with many objects, like furniture? How did you feel at first? After a
while, did your feelings change? Upon entering the room, many of us might
have been initially surprised, but when we had to start actually working in
the room and interacting with others, we may have begun to have negative
feelings. We may become frustrated or angry, or we may retreat to a
corner and try to avoid others or avoid falling over or bumping into the
many objects in the room.
In classrooms where the physical space is not managed well, our students
may also have these same feelings. They may misbehave as a reaction to their
being frustrated or fearful. A well-planned classroom space, therefore, can
help us to prevent misbehaviours that might arise. It also greatly affects
what can be accomplished during a lesson.
As with all aspects of classroom management, how a classroom is organized
depends upon your preferences as well as those of your students. What
makes you feel comfortable may not be the same as what makes your
students feel comfortable. At the beginning of the year, organize your
classroom, and then ask your students if they are comfortable with it. Better
yet, divide them into groups and ask each group to look around the room and
its contents, and then to draw or map how they would like the room to be
organized, especially if your class has many students. Use ideas from all of
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their maps or drawings to design your students’ “personal” classroom. Try
the arrangement for one or two weeks, and then ask your students if they
are comfortable. Change the classroom arrangement if they feel a new one
would be more comfortable. Moreover, change it whenever you sense that
your students are becoming bored with sitting in the classroom and learning.
Here are some things to think about as you and your students organize your
classroom space.53 This list is not exhaustive. Can you think of other items?
Seeing everyone. You must be able to see all of your students at all times
in order to monitor their work and behaviour. You will also need to be able
to see the door from your desk. Your students must be able to see you
and the area from which you are teaching without having to turn around
or move a lot.
Seating everyone (avoiding the feeling of being crowded). In classes with
many students, space is often a luxury. To make the best use of what space is
available, consider trying three main strategies. First, remove unnecessary
furniture. Use mats instead of desks. Use shelving fixed on walls and off
of the floor for materials that students do not need to reach for regularly.
If your classroom has a cabinet to hold students’ belongings, place it just
outside the door of the classroom. If possible, keep your belongings, lesson
materials, and any other items that you do not use during class time in the
teacher’s lounge or in another safe place outside of the classroom. If you
really don’t need a large teacher’s desk, ask for a small one.
The second strategy is be creative in your teaching approach and make the
classroom interactive to reduce the feeling of crowdedness. Try lecturing
for only a portion of a lesson period, such as 20 minutes out of one hour,
and focusing on one to two important topics or concepts (for instance,
talking about geometric shapes), rather than giving a lot of information
all at once. This is the maximum time that you will keep your students’
attention anyway. Thereafter, divide the children into small groups where
they only have to look at a few faces, rather than many. Use mixed sex
groups whenever possible, rather than boys versus girls. Give each group a
53
Adapted from: Classroom Management – Managing Physical Space. Collaborative for
Excellence in Teacher Education (CETP), National Science Foundation.
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10/20/2005]
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complimentary activity, such as one group trying to think of as many round
objects as they can, while another group tries to think of as many square
objects as they can. Near the end of class, bring them back together and
have each group present what they have learned.
Similarly, the third strategy is use space outside of the classroom as often
as possible. School grounds can be a rich resource for formal learning;
they are outdoor classrooms that can be explored by children as part of
their learning, and they can serve as much more enjoyable compliment to
crowded classrooms. They are important sites for children to develop both
social and cognitive skills. School grounds give you a chance to diversify
the children’s learning environment and to develop important lessons on
cooperation, ownership, belonging, respect, and responsibility.54 Different
areas of the school grounds can be used as activity centres to support what
is being learned about a subject in the classroom. In the example about
geometric shapes, for instance, students can be asked to explore the school
grounds and identify as many geometric shapes as possible. Then sit under
a tree and write down as many as they found. Monitor their progress! Ten
minutes before the class is to end, bring them all together, either in the
classroom or outside, to present their findings.
Furniture. If your classroom has adequate space, consider arranging
student desks in a variety of ways, such as circles or “U” shapes for
discussion, grouping desks in squares for group work, and rows for test
taking or individual work. Think about facilitating movement between these
arrangements. Areas that are used frequently and “traffic lanes” (walking
areas, such as aisles) should be unobstructed and easily accessible for
everyone. Consider using bookshelves, tables, or carpets to create special-
use areas. If the room needs to be divided or it needs more “wall space” to
display your students’ work, consider low-cost options such as the backs of
bookshelves, or tall upright screen mats that are woven of palm leaves or
bamboo and made by your students or their families. These mats can even
be used to divide classrooms in schools where there are no dividing walls.
Centres. Activity centres offer a student, or small groups of students,
the opportunity to work on projects or activities at their own pace. Within
classrooms, a centre needs to be created so it has a work space, a place
54
Malone, Karen and Tranter, Paul. “Children’s Environmental Learning and the Use,
Design and Management of Schoolgrounds,” Children, Youth and Environments, Vol.
13, No. 2, 2003.
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to store tools and materials, and a place to post instructions. In crowded
classrooms, activity centres can be located in different areas on the school
grounds. Children bring with them what they need to conduct an activity
at the centre.
Instructional materials and teaching resources. Books and other
instructional materials need to be stored so they can be obtained and put
away easily. Tools, such as chalk, rulers, paper, paint, and scissors, need
to be placed so students have access to them without disturbing other
students. Like instructional materials, teaching tools such as portable
chalkboards, easels, chart paper, and work tables need to be stored so
they can be used but are not in the way, and, in crowded classrooms, they
do not take up valuable space.
Student work. Collecting and storing student work can very quickly become
overwhelming if a plan is not in place. Some teachers use individual file
folders to do this. Files might be created for each student, and by each
student, for each subject or for groups of students. A space is needed to
display student work as well. This space can be wall space or even strings
onto which each student’s work is attached with clips, tape, or even blunt
thorns. Decorating the room with student’s work will also help add to the
attractiveness of the room and make it more welcoming, even if there are
a lot of children in the classroom.
Student involvement. Students can be very helpful in managing the
classroom’s physical space, and it helps them to develop a sense of
responsibility. They can hang up student work, create bulletin boards, and
put away instructional materials at the end of each lesson. Students can
also be helpful in solving space problems. When a problem occurs, such as
students bumping into each other or not enough adequate seating space,
ask them to suggest solutions.
Remember: Good discipline and the creation of positive student behaviours
is much more likely to occur if your classroom and its activities are
structured or arranged to enhance cooperative behaviour between your
students and yourself.
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Developing Classroom Routines
When we develop classroom routines, the opportunity for misbehaviour is
lessened because our students know what is expected of them and what
they are expected to do. They also help us to avoid “miscalls,” that is,
misinterpreting a child’s behaviour as a misbehaviour; for instance, when
a child does not know that she (or he) is to sharpen her pencil after the
lesson is over, rather than during it, or at least raising her hand and asking
for permission. Moreover, if students know the steps necessary to get a
particular job done, they are more likely to complete it in an orderly manner.
Develop plans for these activities that work for your physical space and your
management style (we’ll discuss this below). If a routine is not effective,
involve your students in redesigning it. Here are some classroom routines
that you and your students can plan.55 Can you think of any others?
Movement. Develop plans for entering and exiting the classroom, as well as
changing the classroom set up depending on what is being taught, such as
moving from a whole class arrangement for test taking to small groups for
art or science lessons. Also plan so that your students’ individual needs can
be met, such as when they need to sharpen their pencils or to get personal
supplies for learning, such as art supplies.
Non-instructional tasks. These tasks include activities such as taking
attendance, collecting permission or absenteeism slips, and keeping the
classroom neat. When allowable, students can assist with these tasks, and
especially those students who feel they need attention. Some of these
tasks can be used as instructional activities as well, such as calculating the
percentage of students who came to class that day during a math lesson.
Materials management and transitions. If routines are developed for
distributing, collecting, and storing teaching and learning materials, student
helpers will be able to complete them quickly. If instructional materials
are prepared and organized in advance, you can transition (move) between
activities smoothly and take little time. Necessary materials might be listed
on a daily schedule so students will know what they need and can prepare
for one activity, while materials for the previous activity are stored or
collected.
55
Adapted from: Classroom Management – Classroom Rountines. Collaborative for
Excellence in Teacher Education (CETP), National Science Foundation.
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10/20/2005]
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Group work. Group work promotes cooperative learning. It teaches students
to work together, and they learn the value of teamwork. Each team member
within a group should have a job, and, over time, each student should have
an opportunity to do each job. With your students, develop job descriptions
and routines for assigning the jobs. Jobs might be facilitator, time-
keeper, reporter, recorder, encourager, questioner, materials manager, or
taskmaster.
Developing Classroom Rules with Students and
Parents
All classrooms need rules to function effectively. These “rules” are
sometimes called “expectations” or “standards of behaviour.”
The nature of classroom rules, and routines, and how they are developed
varies according to a teacher’s belief system. How we work with students in
the classroom, including establishing rules and routines, is shaped mainly by
our beliefs about how students learn how to behave. At one extreme, some
of us may believe that students are passive receivers of knowledge, and
they need to conform to the system and to see a clear pay-off or benefit
for their learning. As a result, we may emphasize firm, standard rules and
routines. At the other extreme, some of us may believe that students are
active, positive, motivated, and unique problem-solvers. Consequently, we
may emphasize giving our students choices.56 When we develop classroom
rules and routines with the involvement of our students, we can take a more
“middle of the road” approach that is flexible to meet the different, and
often changing, circumstances in our classrooms.
We often develop rules as a way to anticipate and prevent behavioural
problems or difficulties that may arise in the management of the classroom.
General guidelines for developing rules include the following.
Make only a few rules that emphasize appropriate behaviour; neither
you nor your students will remember a long list. Post these rules in
the classroom for everyone to see.
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Mayeski, Fran. The Metamorphosis of Classroom Management. Mid-continent
Research for Education and Learning. http://www.mcrel.org/pdfconversion/
noteworthy/learners%5Flearning%5Fschooling/franm.asp
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Consider making rules or setting expectations for the following
issues in order to create a smoothly functioning classroom: (a)
beginning and ending the period or day, including how attendance
will be taken and what students may or may not do during these
times; (b) use of materials and equipment; (c) how to ask permission
for unexpected needs (such as going to the toilet or sharpening a
pencil); (d) seatwork and independent group work procedures; and
(e) how students are to ask or answer questions.
Choose
rules that make the classroom environment orderly and that
promote successful learning. Some behaviours, such as gum chewing
or fidgeting, probably do not significantly impede learning, unless
they are noisy or distracting.
Do
not develop classroom rules that you are unwilling, or are unable,
to enforce consistently.
Makethe rules as clear and understandable as possible. They should
be stated behaviourally: “Keep your hands and feet to yourself” is
clearer, and sends a more positive message, than “no fighting.”
Select
rules that are unanimously agreed upon or abided by everyone
in the school. If students learn that they can’t behave in a certain
way in your classroom, but can do so in other classes, they will test
the limits to see how far they can “get away with” a misbehaviour.
Above all, involve your students in developing classroom rules! You
might start with the principle that “you may do what you want in this
classroom, unless what you do interferes with the rights of others,
such as your classmates and your teacher.” Using this “rights-
based” approach, ask your students to identify what behaviours are
acceptable and what behaviours are not acceptable because they
violate the rights of others. Develop rules to fulfill these rights
and penalties for violating the rules. Remember that these penalties
should help the child to learn and they should be consistent with the
nature of the misbehaviour; that is, they are in the best interest
of both the child and the class. Then ask your students to develop
a “classroom constitution” or “classroom policy board” that can be
prominently displayed in the classroom. Ask them to sign it so that
they agree to adhere to the rules and, if they break them, they
will abide by the consequences. Misbehaviour is less likely to occur
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if a student makes a commitment to avoid breaking the rules and
to engage in other, more desirable behaviours.
Revisitclassroom rules regularly to see if some are no longer
necessary. If there are, praise your students, and then ask them
if other rules are needed.
Parental Involvement
Rules are most effective when teachers, parents, and students are equally
committed to upholding them. In some schools, a “compact” is made between
all of these parties. A “compact” is simply a formal agreement or contract
that clearly states the specific responsibilities of each party and is signed
by each of them. The text of one such compact might take the following
form.57 It can be discussed with parents at the first parent-teacher or
parent-teacher-child conference. Can you adapt it and use it as a way
to involve your students and their parents in promoting good classroom
behaviour?
As a parent/guardian, I will:
Show respect and support for my child, the teachers, and the school.
Supportthe school's discipline policy and the rules of my child’s
classroom.
Provide
a quiet, well-lit place for study and supervise the completion
of homework.
Partipate
in formal and informal parent-teacher or parent-teacher-
student conferences.
Talk with my child each day about his or her school activities.
Monitormy child's TV viewing, or other activities that might detract
from study time.
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Techniques. http://www.education-world.com/a_curr/curr155.shtml [accessed online
on 10/6/2005]
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Assist with at least one school or classroom activity each term.
Read
with my child for at least 10 minutes each day or let my child
read to me.
As a student, I will:
Always try to do my best work.
Be kind and helpful to my classmates.
Show respect for myself, my teacher, my school, and other people.
Obey classroom and school rules.
Show respect for property by not stealing or vandalizing.
Come to school prepared with my homework and my supplies.
Believe that I can and will learn.
Spend at least 15 minutes each day studying or reading at home.
Talk with my parents each day about my school activities.
As a teacher, I will:
Show respect for each child and for his or her family.
Make efficient use of learning time.
Providea safe and comfortable environment that's conducive to
learning.
Help each child grow to his or her fullest potential.
Provide meaningful and appropriate homework activities.
Provide
necessary assistance to parents so they can help with
assignments.
Enforce school and classroom rules fairly and consistently.
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Supply students and parents with clear evaluations of progress and
achievement.
Use special activities in the classroom to make learning enjoyable.
Demonstrate professional behaviour and a positive attitude.
Now, together, we will work together to carry out this contract.
Signed:
______________________________
Parent signature/date
______________________________
Student signature/date
______________________________
Teacher signature/date
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Standards for Behaviour and Good Management
Classroom rules set the standards of behaviour for our students, but we,
as teachers, must also have standards. After all, we are important role
models for our students.
We should tell our students how we expect everyone to behave in
class (our students and ourselves) and discuss these expectations
regularly.
We must inform our school’s administrators, other teachers, and
parents about our classroom rules, so they can help to monitor them
and avoid conflicting with them.
Therules we develop with our students must be applied consistently
with no favouritism.
We must constantly be aware of what is going on in and outside of
our classrooms, and our monitoring must be subtle and preventative.
We cannot get angry or lose self-control, but be role models for
good behaviour, and following the rules, for our students.
When discipline is necessary, it focuses on the student’s behaviour,
not the student. The student’s dignity is maintained.
We need to encourage students to monitor their own behaviour,
such as by keeping diaries of activities with others. They also need
to monitor each other’s behaviour with respect.
In
teaching, we should not use ambiguous or vague terms. Activities
should be sequenced clearly and with as few interruptions as
possible.
Some of the characteristics students appreciate in a teacher, and should
form a core part of monitoring our own behaviours, are:58
58
Adapted from: Important Traits for Teachers. Collaborative for Excellence in
Teacher Education (CETP), National Science Foundation. http://www.temple.edu/
CETP/temple_teach/cm-trait.html [accessed online on 11/28/2005]
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Fairness. Students see this as the most important trait of teachers.
It means being fair in activities such as making assignments, settling
disputes, giving help, and choosing students to be assistants or to
participate in special activities.
Humour. The ability to respond lightheartedly to students.
Respect. This means showing regard for the rights and feelings of
the student.
Courtesy. This is another sign of respect.
Openness. Students need to see the teacher as a real person.
The teacher needs to explain clearly his or her feelings and the
circumstance that caused the feelings.
Active Listening. This means responding when a student speaks. You
need to show that you have heard the student and to give him or
her a chance to correct a misunderstanding or interpretation. You
might try restating what has been said or a use of body language to
show empathy.
How well we are able to abide by our own standards of behaviour often
depends upon our own management style within the classroom.
Action Activity: Classroom Management Profile?59
Your classroom management style will determine how well you can interact
with your students, how well you can build a positive relationship with
them, and how well they will learn from you. It can also affect how your
children behave (or misbehave) and how you discipline your students, that
is, whether you are more prone to using negative discipline rather than
positive methods to help your student learn proper behaviours. To start
determining your management style, read each of the statements in the
table below carefully. Then answer whether or not you agree or disagree
with the statement or, better yet, if it is actually what you do.
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Characteristic Agree Disagree
1. I believe the classroom must be quiet for students to
learn.
2. I believe assigned seating in a structured
arrangement (such as rows) reduces misbehaviour and
promotes learning.
3. I do not like to be interrupted when I am teaching.
4. Students should learn to follow directions and not ask
why.
5. My students rarely initiate activities. They should
concentrate on what I am teaching them.
6. When a student misbehaves, I punish or discipline him
or her immediately, without further discussion.
7. I do not accept excuses for misbehaviour, such as
being tardy or not doing homework.
8. Depending upon what is being learned, my classroom
may have many different arrangements.
9. I am concerned about both what my students learn
and how they learn.
10. My students know that they can interrupt my lecture
if they have a relevant question.
11. I give praise when it is warranted, and I encourage
students to do better.
12. I give students projects as a learning exercise, or ask
them to develop their own project. Afterwards, we
discuss what they have learned, and what more they
still need to learn.
13. I always explain the reasons behind my rules and
decisions.
14. When a student misbehaves, I give a polite, but firm,
reprimand. If discipline is needed, I carefully consider
the circumstances.
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Characteristic Agree Disagree
15. I believe students learn best when “they can do their
own thing,” that is, do what they feel they can do well.
16. The emotional well-being of my students is more
important than classroom control. It is important that
my students see me as their friend.
17. Some of my students are motivated to learn, while
others don’t seem to care.
18. I don’t plan in advance what I will do to discipline a
student. I just let it happen.
19. I don’t want to monitor or reprimand a student
because it might hurt his or her feelings.
20. If a student disrupts the class, I give him or her
extra attention because he or she must surely have
something valuable to add.
21. If a student requests to leave the room, I always
honour it.
22. I don’t want to impose any rules on my students.
23. I use the same lesson plans and activities year after
year so I don’t have to prepare in advance for my
classes.
24. Field trips and special projects are not possible.
I don’t have the time to prepare for them.
25. I may show a film or slideshow instead of lecturing.
26. My students tend to look around the room and out of
the windows a lot.
27. If the lesson ends early, my students can study
quietly or talk softly.
28. I rarely discipline my students. If a student turns in a
homework assignment late, it is not my problem.
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Next, add up the number of “Agrees” for statements 1-7, then 8-14, then
15-21, and then 22-28. For which set of statements do you have the highest
number of “agree” responses? This is your preferred management style,
though don’t be surprised if you also have characteristics of the other
styles.
In the above table, statements 1-7 reflect an authoritarian style; “I’m the
teacher and we’ll do things my way.” This style is good for making a well-
structured classroom, but it does little to increase achievement motivation
or encourage the setting of personal goals. Students in this class are likely
to be reluctant to initiate activity, since they may feel powerless.60 They
must obey the teacher at the expense of their personal freedom.
Statements 8-14 reflect an authoritative style; “Let’s work together.”
Though limits are placed on student behaviour, the rules are explained,
and students are also allowed to be independent within these limits. An
authoritative teacher encourages self-reliant and socially competent
behaviour. Moreover, he or she encourages students to be motivated and
achieve more. Often, he or she will guide the students through a project,
rather than lead them.61
Statements 15-21 reveal a laissez-faire style; “Whatever you say.” The
laissez-faire teacher places few demands or controls on students. This
teacher accepts a student’s impulses and actions and is less likely to monitor
a student’s behaviour. He or she may strive to not hurt the student’s feelings
and has difficulty saying no to a student or enforcing rules. Although this
type of teacher may be popular with students, his or her overindulgent style
is associated with students’ lack of social competence and self-control.
It is difficult for students to learn socially acceptable behaviour when
the teacher is so permissive. With few demands placed upon them, these
students frequently have lower motivation to achieve.62
Finally, statements 22-28 reveal an indifferent style; “Do whatever you
want.” The indifferent teacher is not very involved in the classroom. This
teacher places few demands, if any, on students and appears generally
uninterested. The indifferent teacher just doesn’t want to impose on the
60
http://education.indiana.edu/cas/tt/v1i2/authoritarian.html
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http://education.indiana.edu/cas/tt/v1i2/authoritative.html
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http://education.indiana.edu/cas/tt/v1i2/laissez.html
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students. As such, he or she often feels that class preparation is not worth
the effort. Also, classroom discipline is lacking. In this aloof environment, the
students have very few opportunities to observe or practice communication
skills. With few demands placed on them and very little discipline, students
have low achievement motivation and lack self-control.63
If you’re still not sure which of the four classroom management styles
is closest to your own, ask a colleague, a teaching assistant, or an older
student to watch you for a day or two. Then ask them to read through the
list of characteristics and management styles above and help you to decide
which one is the closest to your own. Does this style affect how much your
students are motivated to learn? Does it affect their behaviour? Does it
affect how you discipline your students, and how your students react to
you? Do you think there is any room for improvement? Try changing your
style, or one of the characteristics above, and watch to see if your students
become more motivated and easier to teach. Keep a diary of what changes
you make and whether or not your classroom is now easier to manage and
your students are practicing good behaviours and interpersonal skills.
Providing Positive Reinforcement
Positive discipline is a way to reduce misbehaviour by rewarding positive
behaviours. It is based on the premise that behaviour that is rewarded
is behaviour that will be repeated. The most critical part of positive
discipline involves helping students learn behaviours that meet our (adult)
expectations, are effective in promoting positive social relationships, and
help them develop a sense of self-discipline that leads to positive self-
esteem. The behaviours that you value and want to encourage need to be
known to your students, and you need to make a concerted effort to teach
and strengthen these behaviours. Some strategies that you can use to help
your students learn positive behaviours include the following:
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Give positive statements – “Look how many answers you got right.
Let’s try to get even more of them right the next time!”
Listen carefully and help them to learn to use words to express their
feelings, not destructive actions.
Provide your students with opportunities to make choices and help
them learn to evaluate the potential consequences of their choices.
Reinforce emerging desirable behaviours with frequent praise and
ingnoring minor misdeeds.
Model orderly, predictable behaviour, respectful communication,
and collaborative conflict resolution strategies (a topic that will be
discussed later).
Use appropriate body language – nod, smile, and look directly at the
student.
Lower your body position – especially for younger children, bend,
kneel, or sit at their level.
Restructure the environment – remove objects that invite misbehaviour;
for example, if games or toys are used as teaching aides, remove them
when you are finished.
Redirect behaviour positively – a student bounces a soccer ball around
the classroom. “You can bounce your ball outside on the playground
where there is more space to play.”
In summary, hopefully you have learned a lot from this section, and have
decided to try some new things in your classroom. We have learned that
an effectively managed classroom, one that creates and support positive
behaviours, is one in which:
1. You know what you want and what you don’t want.
2. You show and tell your students what you want.
3. When you get what you want, acknowledge it.
4. When you get something else, act quickly, appropriately, and
positively.
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In the process, however, you need to make sure that:
1. Your expectations are clear.
2. Instruction is interesting for your students.
3. Your students see a purpose and value to what is being taught.
4. Instruction relates concepts and skills to a student’s experience
and is meaningful within his or her daily life.
5. Your teaching strategies are varied. Students can become bored,
even if the topic is interesting, if you constantly use the same
teaching methods.
Some important ways that you can begin creating an environment conducive
to developing positive behaviours in your students include the following:64
1. Hold and communicate high behavioural expectations for your
students and yourself.
2. Establish clear rules and procedures, and instruct students in how
to follow them; give primary-level children, in particular, a great
deal of instruction, practice, and reminding.
3. Make clear to students the consequences of proper behaviour and
misbehaviour.
4. Enforce classroom rules promptly, consistently, and equitably from
the very first day of school.
5. Work to instill a sense of self-discipline in students; devote time
to teaching self-monitoring skills.
6. Maintain a brisk instructional pace and make smooth transitions
between activities.
7. Monitor classroom activities and give students feedback and
reinforcement regarding their behaviour.
8. Create opportunities for students to experience success in their
learning and social behaviour.
9. Identify students who seem to have low self-esteem and work to
help them achieve better and be more confident.
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10. Make use of cooperative learning groups, as appropriate.
11. Make use of humour, when suitable, to stimulate student interest
or reduce classroom tensions.
12. Remove distracting materials from view when instruction is in
progress.
13. Make the classroom comfortable, attractive, and welcoming for
your students, their parents, and yourself.
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Dealing with Challenging Students
What You Will Learn:
How to Improve the Effectiveness of Positive Discipline Techniques
Positive Discipline Tips
Positive Classroom Teaching Tips
Using Appropriate Consequences, Positive and Negative
Use Caution in Using a “Timeout”
Conflict Resolution
Age-specific Positive Discipline Techniques
Assisting Children with Special Needs
Improving the Effectiveness of Positive
Discipline Techniques
If a student misbehaves, positive techniques to reduce or eliminate
that behaviour are needed. As we have learned, misbehaviours are those
undesirable behaviours that place the child or others in danger, do not
comply with our expectations or classroom rules, and interfere with positive
social interactions and self-discipline. In this final section, we will talk
more about what specific techniques can be used to reduce misbehaviour,
and even prevent it. Whatever technique is chosen, its effectiveness can
be increased:65
when both you and the student clearly understand what the problem
behaviour is and what consequence the student can expect when
this behaviour occurs;
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when you respond by providing a strong and immediate initial
consequence when the undesirable behaviour first occurs (if a rule
is broken, enforce it now, don’t wait);
whenyou consistently provide an appropriate consequence each time
a targeted problematic behaviour occurs;
when you deliver instruction and correction calmly and with empathy;
and
whenyou provide a reason for a consequence for a specific behaviour,
which helps students to learn the appropriate behaviour and improve
their overall compliance with requests from adults.
Positive Discipline Tips
Actually, the need for discipline does not necessarily need to arise. A great
deal of good discipline simply involves avoiding problem situations or dealing
with situations before they get out of control. How? Here are ten valuable
tips. Some are new, while some were mentioned earlier, but let’s look at
them in more detail.66,67
1. Be sure of yourself; don’t make a miscall. As discussed above,
true misbehaviour occurs when a student chooses to behave
inappropriately. Before you take action, ask yourself the following
questions:
A. Is the student doing something truly wrong? Is there a real
problem here, or are you just tired and out of patience?
Ifthere is no real problem, release your stress away from
the student and class.
If there is a problem, go to the next question.
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B. Think for a moment. Is your student really capable of doing
what you expect here?
If you are not being fair, re-evaluate your expectations.
If your expectations are fair, go to the next question.
C. Did your student know at the time that he or she was doing
something wrong?
If your student did not realize she (or he) was doing something
wrong, help her understand what you expect, why, and how
she can do that. Offer to help her.
Ifyour student knew what she was doing was wrong, and
she deliberately disregarded a reasonable expectation, your
student misbehaved.
If the behaviour was an accident, it was not a misbehaviour. If
the behaviour was not an accident, ask your student to tell you
the reasons she has for doing what she did. Listen carefully and
assess before you respond.
2. Point out the positive. Whenever a student does something helpful,
caring, cooperative, or shows improvement, let them know you’ve
noticed and give words of appreciation. For example, “Somsak, I
was impressed with the way you solved your homework problem.”
Even in an incident, don’t just find fault, identify what was OK
and what wasn’t. For example: “Nath, it was noble of you to stand
up for your friend. Being a loyal friend is important. However, I
can’t allow you to hit others. How else could you have handled the
situation?”
3. Interact respectfully with students. Treat them as you would like
to be treated. Help them to do better. Be a guide, not a boss. Be
the type of teacher you remember fondly from your school days.
4. Communicate your expectations to your students clearly and
respectfully. Remind them of your expectations frequently, before
the situation and during the situation. For example, at the start of
the school year, tell your students: “When class time finishes for
today, and every day, I want you to remain seated until I call your
name. That way, everyone can leave the room safely and without
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bumping into each other, and I can learn your names and faces
more quickly.” Remind your students every day until their orderly
departure is a natural part of your class routine.
5. Use humour or distraction. Not every misbehaviour that a
student commits needs disciplining. Children, like adults, get tired,
frustrated, or bored. Disciplining may not work in such situations.
Try using humour during your lesson to keep everyone interested,
not bored. For example, during a science lesson, ask your students
to solve a riddle in order to introduce the lesson. The riddle could
be: “What begins life on all fours, lives life on two, and ends life
on three?” The answer: a human. A baby crawls on all fours, then
learns to walk on two legs, and, when elderly, some people use a cane
as well; they have three legs! This riddle would be an interesting
way to introduce the topic of how the human body develops or to
talk about aging. For pre-school children, use distraction: “Look
at the butterfly!” can divert attention from whining, flailing, and
tantrums, and can lead to good developmental activities, such as
asking the children to draw the butterfly. Use your imagination!
6. Use proactive cooperation. Give a direction that you know they
will enjoy following before you give them directions that they
might hesitate in doing. Get them in the cooperative mood first.
For instance, say: “Everyone draw a capital ‘I’ in the air.” “ Hey,
Maria, that was great!” “Everyone hold up your pointing finger.
Now, stick it in the book where you think page 108 must be.” Then
tell them to open their books to page 108 and write the answers
to the six questions on that page.68
7. Offer options or limited choices, and encourage group decision-
making. Most students hate to be bossed around; giving choices
helps them to feel some control – although not too much. When
examination time comes, you can say, “On Tuesday, we will have a
reading test. Who would like to have a written test, and who would
like to have an oral test? You can choose whichever one you want.”
This will give your children a feeling of control over the situation.
If you only want to give one type of test, ask them to discuss what
are the advantages and disadvantages of the two types of tests,
and then vote on which they would prefer. The majority wins.
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If there are some students who become upset because they didn’t
get their choice – for instance, they wanted a written test, and
the class voted for an oral test – on examination day, give written
extra credit questions as well.
8.
Allow for natural consequences, but safe ones. If a child
repeatedly comes to class late, don’t become upset. It is the child’s
responsibility to come to class on time. Tell him (or her) that if
his tardiness continues, then you will have to send a note home to
his parents. If he continues to be late, send the note home and
let him face the consequences. He learns that he is responsible
for his behaviour and its consequences.
9. D on’t take a student’s willful disobedience personally. Children
need to express disobedience, and they need to test limits as
part of their development. Don’t feel that this is a threat to
your authority. React in a calm fashion, applying discipline that
will enhance self-control. Do you remember the case of Ramon at
the start of this section? In the beginning, his teacher took his
misbehaviour personally, and it made her very upset. But when
she stopped taking Ramon’s behaviour personally and understood
when and why he was misbehaving, she could develop an effective
strategy to deal with him, and with positive results.
10.
Recognize effort, not correctness. If a student is giving you
his or her best, you should be happy. Trying is the first step in
learning. If a student doesn’t want to attempt a hard task, talk
about the times when his or her effort brought success. Encourage
that display of effort again. Remember to tell him or her that as
long as he or she tries hard, you are pleased. Let them know that
you have faith in their ability.
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Positive Classroom Teaching Tips
Positive discipline needs to be supported by positive teaching. There are
many other positive ways that you can prevent misbehaviour when you’re
teaching, or at least deal with it effectively and without disrupting your
class. Below are six tips.69 Can you think of any more?
1. Focusing and being soft spoken. Be sure you have the attention of
everyone in your classroom before you start your lesson. Wait to
start class until everyone has quieted down. Experienced teachers
know that silence on their part is very effective. They emphasize
waiting by extending it 3 to 5 seconds after the classroom is
completely quiet. Students soon realize that the more time the
teacher waits for their attention, the less free time they have
at the end of the hour. After the waiting time, begin your lesson
using a quieter voice than normal. A soft spoken teacher often
has a calmer, quieter classroom than one with a stronger voice.
Her students sit still in order to hear what she says.
2. Direct instruction. Uncertainty increases the level of excitement
in the classroom. Begin each class by telling your students exactly
what will be happening. Outline what you and your students will be
doing this period. You can set time limits for some tasks. You can
combine direct instruction with focusing to include time at the
end of the period for students to do activities of their choosing.
You may finish the description of class time activities with: “And
I think we will have some time at the end of the period for you
to chat with your friends, go to the library, or catch up on work
for other classes.”
3. Monitoring. Circulate; get up and walk around the room, especially
when students are doing written assignments or working in groups.
Check on their progress. Don’t interrupt or try to make general
announcements unless you notice that several students have
difficulty with the same thing. Use a quiet voice and your students
will appreciate your personal and positive attention.
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4. Non-verbal cueing. In some classrooms, teachers have a small bell
on their desk. When they ring it, even softly, they have everyone’s
attention. Other teachers have shown a lot of ingenuity over the
years in making use of non-verbal cues in the classroom. Some flip
light switches. Others keep clickers in their pockets. Others tap
the chalkboard with a piece of chalk or pencil. Non-verbal cues
can also be facial expressions, body posture, and hand signals.
Care should be given in choosing the types of cues you use in your
classroom. Take time to explain what you want the students to do
when you use your cues.
5. Sharing. Just as you should want to know about your students,
young people often want to know about you and your interests.
Include personal items in your classroom. A family picture or a few
items from a hobby or collection on your desk will trigger personal
conversations with your students. As they get to know you better,
you will see fewer problems with discipline.
6. Low-profile interventions. An effective teacher will take care that
a student is not rewarded for misbehaviour by becoming the focus
of attention. He or she monitors the activity in her classroom,
moving around the room and anticipates problems before they
occur. The approach to a misbehaving student is inconspicuous.
Others in the class are not distracted. For example, while lecturing
to a class, this teacher makes effective use of name-dropping. If
he or she sees a student talking or not participating, he or she
simply drops the student’s name into his or her dialogue in a natural
way. “And you see, Chai, we carry the one to the tens column.” Chai
hears his name and is drawn back on task. The rest of the class
doesn’t seem to notice.
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Using Appropriate Consequences, Positive and
Negative
An important aspect of learning is experiencing the consequences of
our actions. If those consequences are good, we are likely to repeat the
behaviour. If those consequences are bad, we are less likely to repeat the
behaviour.
Many times when we set rules, we automatically decide what disciplinary
action will be taken if the rules are broken. Yes, students who violate the
rules must always receive appropriate negative consequences. But actually,
there should be positive consequences or rewards for students who abide
by the rules, even for older students. Below are examples of positive and
negative consequences. These suggestions apply to a wide range of ages.
Some may be better for one age group than another. The consequences
found below are in no particular order of priority. All consequences should
be developed with and agreed upon by your students and approved by
the Principal. Work with your colleagues, students, and parents to find
other positive and negative consequences.70
Positive Consequences. In classrooms, the most common positive consequences
centre around student satisfaction and building students’ confidence and
self-esteem. Students need to know and be praised for following the rules,
as well as for their successes and accomplishments in learning. There are
many simple ways to praise a student, such as a pat on the shoulder; an
“I’m proud of you!” statement; selection as class leader for a day; selection
as “teacher assistant” for a day; selector of a group activity or project;
praising the student in front of other teachers or the school Principal; or
asking the student to assist others. Can you think of any others that might
work in your classroom?
Negative Consequences. Monitor yourself, as well as your students. The
frequent use of negative consequences reflects poor classroom management
and generally should be avoided. Monitor your students carefully and
frequently so that you can detect misbehaviour before it becomes a
big problem and maybe involves several students. To stop inappropriate
70
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behaviour so that you do not interrupt your teaching or call excessive
attention to the student, try: (a) moving close to the offending student
or students, making eye contact and giving a nonverbal signal to stop the
misbehaviour; (b) calling a student’s name or give a short verbal instruction
to stop the behaviour; and (c) redirecting the student to the appropriate
behaviour by stating what the student should be doing (don’t give a “don’t”
command), and citing the rule that he or she should be following.
But despite our best efforts, sometimes it is necessary to discipline a
student. Make sure that whatever action is taken, it focuses on the student’s
behaviour, not on the student; is a logical consequence of the misbehaviour;
and is never done in haste or with anger. Depending upon the nature of
the misbehaviour, some mild disciplinary methods could be among the list
below. Can you think of any more that would be suitable for your classroom
and students? Make sure that you do not choose a penalty that publicly
humiliates a student!
Loss of break period or play time with others
Detentionafter school to discuss misbehaviour, why it arose, and
what should be done to correct it
Clean up the mess created
Student apology to those offended
Seating assignment changed
Request student to repeat rule and to follow rule
Notes home to parent(s) or home visits
Removal to the Principal’s office, especially for more serious,
disruptive behaviours, such as fighting, continuous interruption of
lessons, stealing, bullying, possession of drugs or other restricted
substances, and possession of weapons.
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Use Caution in Using a “Timeout”
One of the more popular, and controversial, disciplinary methods is known
as the “timeout”. During a timeout, the student must sit in one place and
not play and not be allowed to talk to others. The only entertainment is
watching the clock until the seconds of each minute have passed.
Timeout should not be a first choice, but a last resort technique for
a student who is harming another or in danger of harming himself or
herself. Used infrequently and for brief periods of time, timeout may give
a student the opportunity to calm down and regain self-control after a
frustrating situation. Used often or inappropriately, timeout may not only
be ineffective, it may be damaging to the student, such as by increasing
anger and aggression rather than controlling it or using timeout as a form
of corporal punishment to induce psychological/emotional pain.
How long a timeout should last is a point of debate. Some experts say no
longer than two to three minutes, while others recommend one minute for
each year of a child’s age, up to twelve. One minute per year of age was
decided by trial and error. It appears to be just enough to accomplish good
behaviour without the student feeling resentful.71
Before you give a student a timeout, make sure of the following:72
Avoidusing timeouts for very young children who should not
be isolated, nor should they be ignored or left without proper
stimulation.
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Consequences should immediately follow the student’s behaviour.
When students experience immediate repercussions for harming
others, they understand more clearly why you are disciplining them.
Whenever possible, you should offer students positive alternatives
to their actions (asking a student to clean up a mess that he or she
has made is more productive than removing him or her from the
area entirely).
Timeout should not be humiliating, nor should it make a student
feel threatened or afraid. There should NOT be a special chair or
area assigned for the timeout because this reinforces the idea that
timeout is a punishment and may cause undue anxiety. You should
NEVER make a student feel ridiculed or isolated during timeout
periods.
The student should not be left alone, unless he or she wants to be.
Students, and especially younger ones, need the support of adults
to work out their feelings. If you show your students that their
feelings count, they will be more likely to respect the feelings of
others.
A timeout should not last longer than it takes for the student to
calm down. After the student calms down, explain clearly what is
appropriate and inappropriate behaviour. It must be absolutely
clear to the student why you disciplined him or her, otherwise the
student is more likely to repeat the undesirable behaviour.
Avoidthreats. Never say: “If you do that again, you will get a
timeout.” This is confusing to a student and is a form of negative
punishment that is rarely effective.
Tailorthe method of discipline to the individual student. Children
develop their abilities to control themselves at different rates.
Take into consideration the needs of the particular student involved.
No single technique will work with every child every time. Timeout
is not used as a punishment. Timeout is an opportunity for the
student to clear his or her mind and rejoin the group or activity in
a more productive state. Teach a student how to solve his or her
own problems with care and support, and timeout may no longer be
necessary.
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Conflict Resolution
Despite your efforts, as well as those of your students and their parents,
many disruptions in the classroom and school environment will arise from
conflicts among students, and this issue is a common reason for holding
parent-teacher meetings (though it is by no means the only one). These
conflicts may take the form of put-downs (insults), teasing, fights, turn-
taking problems, and conflicts regarding playground opportunities, access
to or possession of materials, and even academic work. These conflicts arise
especially from bullying, and the conflicts can escalate rapidly if they are
not negotiated or mediated.
A good way to minimize disruptions and misbehaviour is to teach students
how to resolve their own conflicts. In addition to solving classroom
management problems, this approach teaches students useful skills that
will serve them outside the classroom.73
Research on conflict resolution among students has uncovered the following
important points:74
(a) conflicts among students do occur frequently in schools (although
the conflicts rarely result in serious injury);
(b) untrained students usually use conflict strategies that create
destructive outcomes, and these students ignore the importance
of their ongoing relationships with others;
(c) conflict resolution and peer mediation programmes do seem to be
effective in teaching students integrated negotiation and mediation
skills;
(d) after training, students tend to use these conflict negotation
skills, which generally leads to constructive outcomes, and
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(e) students’ success in resolving their conflicts tends to reduce the
numbers of student-student conflicts referred to teachers and
administrators, which, in turn, reduces the need to use severe
disciplinary actions.
The basic procedure for teaching your students to be peacemakers consists
of three steps:
1. Teach children negotiation skills that enable them to:
(a) define their conflict (“what are we arguing about; why and how
did the issue arise”),
(b) exchange positions and proposals (“I think it should be this
way because …”),
(c) view the situation from both perspectives (through role-
playing, for example),
(d) decide on options where both children gain (“win-win” solutions,
such as “we’ll try it your way today and my way tomorrow to
see which is best”), and
(e) reach a sensible agreement.
2. Teach students how to mediate constructive resolutions of their
classmates’ conflicts. Mediation is the process of using another
person’s services or abilities to help settle the dispute. To teach
mediation, choose an issue that might arise, or has arisen, between
two of your students. Have two students role-play the issue,
and ask a third student to help her (or his) friends come to an
agreement using her knowledge about her friends, about the issue,
and what she thinks would be a good compromise.
3. Once all students have learned the skills of negotiation and
mediation, two students each day (preferably one girl and one
boy) are designated to serve as official mediators (peacemakers).
These roles are rotated throughout the entire class, and these
mediators mediate any conflicts that cannot be solved by the
parties involved.
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As a teacher, your role is to support these processes by teaching, modeling,
and offering advice. A conflict resolution programme in your classroom not
only reduces the amount of time you must spend resolving student-student
conflicts; it also enables your students to develop skills that they can
apply throughout the rest of their lives. Developing and practicing these
skills continuously as part of your classroom management plan will result
in “overlearning,” which is good. In this case, the skills of negotiation and
mediation become automatic, so that students naturally resort to them to
solve or avoid problems.
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Age-Specific Teaching and Positive Discipline
Understanding how children develop will help you know what to expect.
Children constantly change and develop as they grow. Researchers have
found that young children pass through specific stages of development
along the way. The idea behind these “ages and stages” is that certain
behaviour is normal or appropriate at certain ages and not at others. The
following table describes the development of children at certain ages and
what teaching or disciplinary methods can be used for that age.
The Ages and Stages Approach to Discipline75,76
Age Development Teaching/Disciplinary Tips
5 years Tends to be calm, quiet, well- Let them know what is and
balanced. Usually tries only what is not reasonable to expect.
she (or he) knows she can do, so Many things teachers
is comfortably well-adjusted. consider bad are often simply
Friendly, loving, appreciative, immaturities. Prevention is
wants to please and do the right much better than giving a
thing; wants and means to be negative consequence. If you
good; not yet able to admit to do so, however, do it calmly.
wrongdoing and, as much as she The student’s wish to be
tries, does not always tell the good and do the right thing
truth. is strong. With luck, there
should be relatively little need
for negative consequences.
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Age Development Teaching/Disciplinary Tips
6 years Highly emotional. Loves one Patience. Ignore refusal or
minute, hates the next. Much be impersonal when student
confusion and trouble between answers with “I won’t” or “I
self and others. May demand, can’t”. Praise - it may not be
rebel, argue, or fight. When in a easy to find something to
good mood, is cheerful, energetic, praise, but try hard; avoid
and enthusiastic. Needs much resistance and confrontations;
praise, but behaviour often avoid sensitive issues if
merits criticism. This only makes possible; give in on occasion,
behaviour worse. Not able yet to especially if it will lead to a
tell the difference between mine positive behaviour or learning
and yours. experience.
7 years Quiet, rather negative emotions. Obedience problem may be
May be serious, self-absorbed, because student is distracted.
moody, worrisome, or suspicious. To have the student do a
Very sensitive to others’ emotions. simple activity, tell him or her
May feel disliked by others and in advance and make sure he
that they are critical or making or she heard the directions.
fun of them. Procrastinates, has Remind the student before
a short memory, and is easily he or she forgets and does
distracted. something else. Give small
rewards for successes.
8 years Vigorous, dramatic, curious, Give instructions in ways
impatient, and demanding. Not acceptable to the student.
as moody as age 7, but still Time, attention, and approval
sensitive. Wants time, attention, are good motivators. Use
and approval; beginning to think problem-solving activities as
abstractly; interested in and a means to develop abstract
concerned about own possessions. thinking. Give small rewards
for successes.
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Age Development Teaching/Disciplinary Tips
9 years Quieter than at age 8. Seems Promote responsibility
to be independent, responsible, through assigned (requested)
dependable, and cooperative. May tasks. Use cooperative
sometimes be temperamental, learning, but monitor
but is basically reasonable. Will interpersonal activities.
take criticism fairly well if Use guided learning through
carefully phrased; great interest projects, rather than
in fairness; group standards may constantly lecturing.
be more important than adult
standards. Very involved with self
and may not hear when spoken
to. May appear absent-minded or
indifferent. May show concern for
others.
10 Emotionally direct, simple, clear- Involve the student’s ability
years cut, usually well-balanced, yet to distinguish good from bad,
still childlike. Less anxious and right from wrong, truth from
demanding than at age 9. Most untruth; best technique is
often good-natured and pleased to know what is reasonable
with life. But may show sharp, to expect. Involve students
violent temper. Can be very in developing classroom
affectionate. Not a worrying age, committees, including
yet a few earlier fears remain. disciplinary committees. Use
Enjoys own humour, which may not humour in your teaching.
be very funny to others. Happy
age
11-13 Early adolescence, time of rapid Let your students know that
years changes. Developing his or her you care. Arrange “sharing”
own identity and becoming more sessions or activities (such as
independent. Need for privacy essays) concerning student’s
increases and may be very experiences and feelings.
sensitive to teasing. Moody. Model mutual respect. Limit
Importance of friends increases. criticism and nagging. Do
not allow teasing or tolerate
insults.
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Age Development Teaching/Disciplinary Tips
14-16 Middle adolescence. Increasing Encourage positive
years independence, sexual development, relationships through
and self-centredness. Very body sharing. Give ideas of
or appearance conscious. Thinking creative things to do with
is less childlike; they consider their friends as part of
facts and can make good decisions. learning. Set reasonable
limits and be consistent and
fair in enforcing rules. Make
sure they know the rules
and negotiate meaningful
consequences. Give praise and
recognize positive behaviour
and accomplishments. Share
your own beliefs, concerns,
and values about the world.
Encourage your students to
call a respected adult friend
when they need advice.
Continue to give praise.
17-21 Late adolescence. Becoming more Continue the actions for 14-16
years independent and self-reliant; year olds above. Regularly ask
less influenced by peer groups; your students what they think
developing adult-thinking capacity. and believe. Respect their
Generally easier to handle than uniqueness and encourage such
those experiencing early and respect for others. Encourage
middle adolescence. Exploring independent decision-making.
more long-term relationships. May Continue to give praise
have an opinion on everything.
Self-consciousness about their
appearance lessens.
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Assisting Children with Special Needs
Providing for Emotionally and Behaviourally Challenged
Students.77
The following techniques can be especially effective with students exhibiting
emotional and behavioural challenges.
1. Planned ignoring. Behaviours aimed at attention getting, and
do not spread or interfere with safety or class functioning, are
most effectively stopped through planned ignoring (such as in
Ramon’s case). This technique should never be used with aggressive
behaviours. The class may need to be taught to do this as well, since
peer attention can be even more powerful than adult attention for
some students.
2. Signal interference. If a student is calm enough to respond,
has a positive relationship with the teacher, and is free from
uncontrollable pathological impulses, a non-verbal signal may be
all that is necessary to assist him or her in regaining focus. See
the section on non-verbal cueing presented above.
3. Proximity and touch control. Moving closer to a student in
distress or placing a hand on the shoulder can be effective
in showing support in a non-threatening way. When using this
technique, refrain from pointing out inappropriate behaviour.
Comment positively on anything that the student does that shows
compliance.
4. Interest boosting. Change the tempo or activity, comment on the
student’s work, or inquire about a known interest related to the
assignment if a student shows signs of restlessness.
5. Strong affection. Express genuine affection for, or appreciation
of, a student to assist the student in regaining self-control.
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6. Easing tension through humour. As noted above, humour can often
stop undesirable behaviour if it is used in a timely and positive
manner. Sarcasm, cynicism, and aggression are not appropriate
uses of humour.
7. Hurdle help. Before a student begins to misbehave, assist him
or her with a difficult section of an assignment or task. Reassure
him or her that you are willing to help, and together you can solve
the problem.
8. Regrouping. Change the seating arrangement or the small-group
assignments of students to avoid specific problems. Do this in a
non-punitive and, if possible, undetectable way. See the section
on “making the learning environment comfortable” earlier in this
document for ideas.
9. Restructuring. If an activity is not successful, change it as quickly
as possible. It is important to always have a backup plan. Sometimes
it is best to move from an interactive game to one that requires
no interaction. This can be done smoothly and non-punitively when
a group is becoming over-stimulated. At other times, offering a
choice might be more effective. Students could choose to cover
information orally through discussion or copy notes from an
overhead, for example.
10. Direct appeal. If a student or group has a positive relationship
with the teacher, it is sometimes effective just to ask that
a behaviour stop due to the problems that it is creating. No
consequence or reward is intended or implied. This is a simple,
straightforward request from one person to another.
11. Prevention. Remove a student from a distressing situation before
inappropriate behaviours occur, such as asking him or her to assist
you in distributing papers or taking attendance. Be careful not to
inadvertently reward a student who is instigating a problem.
12. Support from routine. As we learned earlier, schedules and
routines are important behaviour management interventions.
Knowing what to do and when to do it provides structure, security,
and predictability in the lives of students who may not experience
such support in other areas of their lives.
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Simple Ways to Help Children with “Special Needs”78
Tips for Teachers
To Improve Attention
Seat student near the front
Seat student near good role model who can be a "peer study buddy"
Cut
assignments into segments giving a student one segment at a
time (for instance, rather than giving a full page of math problems,
which might discourage a student, cut the paper in half and ask
the student to complete one half, and then turn it in; then give the
student the other half.)
Use
cueing to regain student’s attention (for example, holding up
brightly coloured paper, tapping on desk, touching shoulder)
Establish eye contact before giving instructions
Give
short direct instructions using both visual and oral cues when
possible
To Reduce Impulsiveness
Ignore minor inappropriate behaviors
Give immediate reinforcements or consequences
Supervise transition between classes or activities
Acknowledge positive behaviors when possible
Set up contract for behaviors that need monitoring
Help child learn self-monitoring techniques
To Deal with Hyperactivity
Allow student to stand at times
Allow to run errands
To Improve Academic Success
Provide extra time to complete work
Shorten assignments
Use multi-sensory methods of teaching (visual, oral and tactile)
Remind student to check work to see if it is completed
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Help student learn self-monitoring techniques
Use daily assignment sheets
To Improve Organizational Skills
Enlist parents help
Use daily assignment sheets
Use one notebook for everything
Check notebook often and positively reinforce good notebooks
Classroom Management and Teaching Modifications
Other useful techniques include the following:
Reduce or alternate assignments
Extend time lines for when work is to be completed
Use
special materials that encourage and enhance abilities, such as
graph paper, felt tip markers, special lined paper, etc.
Use more visuals
Read a test orally
Use
multiple choice or true/false versions of tests in lieu of essay
completion
Ask for oral reports (as opposed to written)
Accept special projects in lieu of reports
Provide a multiplication matrix and other matrices
Provide a list of commonly misspelled words
Develop a performance contract between teacher, child, and parent
Give credit for class participation
Give one-step, short, simple directions
Call
a student’s name to remind him/her that he/she will answer
next question
Usehighlighting and colour coding to help a student get the main
point of information
Above all, use frequent, positive reinforcement! Its benefits can
last a lifetime!!
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Suggested Readings
In addition to the many excellent publications and Internet resources
mentioned in the text, you are encouraged to explore the following sources
for more information.
Publications
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Guidance Service, 1996.
Albert, Linda. A Teacher’s Guide to Cooperative Discipline: How to
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Boostrom, Robert. “The Nature and Functions of Classroom Rules,”
Curriculum Inquiry, Summer 1991, 193-216.
Coloroso, Barbara. Kids Are Worth It! Giving Your Child the Gift of
Inner Discipline. Avon Books, 1995.
Curwin, Richard. Am I in Trouble: Using Discipline to Teach Young
Children Responsibility. Santa Cruz, CA: Network Publications, 1990.
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1980.
Dinkmeyer, Don and Dreikurs, Rudolf. Encouraging Children to Learn.
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Dreikurs, Rudolf. Maintaining Sanity in the Classroom; Classroom
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Dreikus, Rudolph and Chernoff, Marvin. “Parents and Teachers: Friends
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M.E. Classroom Management for Secondary Teachers. (2nd Ed.).
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Alliance for Transforming the Lives of Children (www.atlc.org)
American Academy of Pediatrics (www.aap.org)
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Attachment Parenting International (www.attachmentparenting.org)
Aware Parenting Institute (www.awareparenting.com)
Behaviour UK (www.behaviouruk.com)
Center for Effective Discipline (www.stophitting.com)
Child and Family Canada (www.cfc-efc.ca)
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Children’s Rights Information Network (www.crin.org)
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Empathic Parenting by the Canadian Society for the Prevention of
Cruelty to Children (www.empathicparenting.org)
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Fight Crime: Invest in Kids (www.fightcrime.org)
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UNICEF (www.unicef.org) (www.unicef.org/teachers)
UNESCO Bangkok Office
Asia and Pacific Regional Bureau for Education
Mom Luang Pin Malakul Centenary Building
920 Sukhumvit Road, Prakanong, Klongtoey
Bangkok 10110, Thailand
Email:
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