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 Before YOU Start Training:
This information could be sent out as an information leaflet before
the course to help participants nominate themselves for training,
explained on the phone or in meetings to potential participants, or
presented at the beginning of the training course.

Materials needed for this course:

Essential:
Ball of Wool
Masking Tape
Post Stick Notes
Flip Chart Paper
Flip Chart Pens (Enough for each small group)
Participants
Optional:
Over Head Projector & Slides/ Power Point Projector & Lap Top
Felt Tip Pens/ Coloured Pencils
One Pack of A4 White Paper
Certificate

Part 1:

Thoughts for the Day…

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There are a number of essential activities that should b e completed
at the beginning of any training course. These are:
 introductions of participants,
 expectations and fears
 and ground rules.

By the end of day one you should have a clear idea on:
 the levels and experience of the group,
 areas of the training that may require more focus and time,,
 who are the more challenging, more active, more passive
members of the group
 how you may need to adapt your training style or training
content to ensure everyone is included and gets as much as
possible from the training.

Alternative Introduction Ceremony

Mapping:
Explain to participants that you want to know the
following four things:

1. The name of the participant

2. The organisation that they work
3. The participant’s specialism.

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Think of an innovative way to make sure that participants sit next to
someone who they haven’t met before or who they have the least
contact with.

Positive Statement Clapping:

This exercise is also a good way of getting participants to know a little

more about each other and explore diversity within the group.

Say This:

I will read out a number of statements. If this

statement applies to you then I want you to stand
up. (If you have physically disabled people who
can’t stand then ask them to raise their hand) All
other participants must clap their hands and/ or
cheer the people standing. You may then sit down and then I will
shout another statement and we will repeat the process.

(We used the following statements but feel free to make up your own
and make sure they are relevant to the group!)

1) Stand up if you have done direct work with clients in the last 3
months
2) Stand up if you have done direct work with any client under the
age of 19 in the last 3 months.
3) Stand up if you have done direct work with elderly people in the
last 3 months.

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 4) Stand up if you are here for a holiday.
5) Stand Up Who believes that clients are the experts on their own
lives

Coffee Break!

The What and Why of Communication Skills Training

Say This!

This training course is about meeting your needs and improving your
skills. There are key skills that we will be examining and practicing
throughout this training.
It is then important that you go through the programme and talk
about each activity briefly. It is important that you are confident and
familiar with each session so that you an answer any questions about
the training.

Ground Rules
Say This:
Every society and community develops rules to govern it’s own
behaviour. It is a way of setting boundaries which enables people to
feel like they belong and that they are part of a collective. It is also a
way of ensuring that everyone has a focus and a group is productive
and not deviant. Therefore we have developed some rules that we
expect you to stick to throughout the course. We realise that you are

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reasonable people and therefore are able to stick to these very basic
rules that we have devised.

(Read out the Mock Ground rules and the explanations underneath.
Use the power point presentation or an overhead slide or flip chart so
people have a visual aid. You may want to read one ground rule each
as this shows a strength and consolidation in the training team. This
needs to be done in a very strict way with an authoratitive voice and
body language)

Ground Rules

1. Put your hand up if you want to speak

This is important because we can’t listen to everyone at the same
time and so it helps us to choose who should speak next.

2. Address us appropriately
Because we are trainers that makes us experts and therefore you
should call us Sir or Madam, or respected person.
3. Speak only when you are spoken to
It can be very distracting for trainers if participants speak too much
during training. Therefore please only speak when you are spoken
to.
4. Don’t question facilitators – we know best
As we mentioned already we are the experts – so there will be no
need to question our training methods or knowledge.
(Leave a brief pause and let participants think about this for a
few seconds.)

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Say This:
Does everybody agree with these as working groundrules? (Get
feedback from the group. Hopefully some people may say that the
rules are unfair and too strict etc. If they don’t say this then ask them
if they feel that the rules are fair / too strict etc. Have a small
discussion about this.)

Say This:
Of course these rules are not acceptable to the group. They do not
value the group as skilled professionals and it suggests that as
trainers we are better and have more knowledge than you. These
rules also set up power differences and enable trainers to feel
superior to participants. Sometimes this is how clients feel when
they receive services from professionals. They feel that they need to
be very respectful, not speak unless they are asked to and never
question the judgement of the specialist. All of these are barriers to
open communication and building good relationships with clients.
Power should be shared, decisions should be made together and
specialists should communicate clearly and honestly with clients on
all issues.

Ground Rules 2 (The real ones)

1. Turn off mobile phone
It is very important that everyone turns off their mobile phone.
We need your full attention in this course. It is also very difficult
for clients when they are talking about difficult issues in
consultations if a specialist phone rings. It makes clients feel
unimportant and under valued. Therefore it is always good

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 practice to turn off mobile phones when seeing clients, in
meetings and in training.

2. Be responsible for our own learning

As trainers we will do our best to give you quality information
and training. However, you will only learn if you put effort and
time into your learning. Please tell us if you don’t understand
anything so we can explain more clearly. Also continuously
reflect on your practice and look for opportunities to improv

3. Confidentiality
During this course you will be sharing personal information or
work information. Please ensure that all information shared in
the group remains within this training course. Also if one
individual shares information with you personally please check
if that is confidential so that you know whether you can share
that in feedback or not. This is standard practice with clients.
You should always have a confidentiality agreement with clients
so that they know who you will share information with.
Personal information about clients should be shared with as few
people as possible.
4. Support the learning of others
As well as being responsible for your own learning it is also
important to support others learning. You can do this by
sharing your experiences, listening to others and giving
feedback and fully participating in the course.

Ask participants how these rules feel. If they are acceptable or if

anyone would like to clarify the rules, change them or add any. Make
necessary changes.

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Say This:
Thank you very much for your participation this morning and the way
you have listened attentively. After lunch, we’d like to use the time to
practice and learn ice-breaking skills. Ice breakers are a useful training
tool, which helps to re-engage participants after breaks. We’d like
volunteers to run the ice-breakers throughout the rest of the course.
So anyone who knows a fun ice breaker, please see us during lunch.
Please enjoy your lunch and use it as opportunity to get to know
people you don’t already know and network. Please come back
promptly after lunch at: (Specify time.)

Lunch

Icebreaker: to be led by participant(s)

The Basics : Non Verbal Communication

Say This:

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Non-verbal communication conveys feelings, emotions or attitudes. It
can have more impact than verbal communication and always
provides a larger picture to how the client is feeling. At the same time
we need to be very aware of our own non verbal communication as
that may help or hinder building a relationship with the client.

Emotions Role Play

With the emotions cards already prepared explain the

following task.

Say This:

Clients may often minimise or try and hide how they are feeling. This
is understandable and can be for many reasons. But it is often crucial
to be able to understand emotions if you are trying to demonstrate
empathy with a client and help a client move on from a difficult
situation. There are six main emotions that can be detected through
non verbal communication. We will now do a small game to see if
you can find out what these six main emotions are.

First of all can I have a volunteer (This is the first time you have asked
for a volunteer so you may need to encourage somebody to be brave
enough to try – reassure them that the game is quite easy.)

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Ok thanks a lot for volunteering. I want you to read the emotion that
is written on this card and without using verbal communication I want
you to act out this emotion to the rest of the group, just through non
verbal communication. The group participants then need to shout
out and guess which emotion you are demonstrating. Is that clear?
Ok off you go.

(Make sure that only non verbals are used. Give the group time to
guess. Once a person has guessed correctly ask them to come out
and demonstrate the next emotion. Continue this until all have been
completed.)

Say This:

Ok so we have six main emotions that can be observed when

communicated non verbally. To recap these are:

1. Happiness
2. Sadness
3. Boredom
4. Surprise
5. Anger
6. Disgust

As a specialist it is important to be attentive to your clients’ emotions

and respond appropriately.

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Distance

Say This:

Ok find yourself a partner and stand opposite your

partner in two lines. (For this partners should be
facing each other and there should be two clear lines
of participants. If you have an odd number of
participants then one of the trainers should join in.)

This side is line A and this side is line B. Ok line A move back as far
away from your partners as possible. (wait a few seconds until they
have done this.)
Ok now person A walk towards your partner and stop when you feel
you are at a close enough distance. (Give them a few seconds to do
this.)
Person B how does it feel for you? Is your partner too close – or too
far away to talk comfortably? Do you feel happy at this distance? Do
you feel it compromises any cultural or gender barriers? (Take
feedback and facilitate small discussion)

The distance you are from your client is very important. Some clients
find it very oppressive if you sit to close to them or try and touch
them. Other clients may need you sit very close to them (e.g. old
person who has problems with hearing) and this may be out of your
comfort zone. There may be cultural or gender issues that impact on
appropriate distance for the client and you should be sensitive to
these. However, good practice is always to allow the client to

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determine the comfortable distance for them. If you see a client
leaning back in a chair in order to create more distance, move your
chair away slightly. If you see your client getting agitated it may also
be appropriate to move slightly away to give them the feeling of more
space. Equally if a client is showing that they would like a closer
distance, by leaning forward and sitting on the front of their chair
then move slightly closer. However, usually clients will adjust the
distance themselves, often unconsciously. Allow this to happen and
be led by their wishes.

Posture/ Chairs/ Eye Contact

Say This:

Closely related to the issue of distance is that of posture, chair

positioning and eye contact.

A good postural position involves:

(As you are explaining the following demonstrate it)

 Sitting with your body facing the other person although

not exactly opposite as this may be seen to be
confrontational.
 Hands are either on your lap, or loosely clasped,
occasionally being used to indicate what is being
communicated verbally,
 Your shoulders and rib cage open, showing that you are
open to communication and interested.

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  Being responsive facially, for example, smiling
spontaneously, or nodding your head in agreement or
when understanding, or frowning when you do not
understand
 an erect but not rigid body, occasionally leaning toward
the
client.

Chair Positioning:

Say This:
Chairs should be at a comfortable distance for the client and although
facing each other should not be directly opposite each other. The
chairs should be facing very slightly to opposite sides (demonstrate)
as this is again less intimidating for the client. There should be no
obstacles between the chairs ie. tables, furniture etc. The chairs
should be of equal height. Often tables and chairs of different heights
can be used by specialists as a way of establishing status with a client.
However, this creates a power imbalance and symbolises that the
specialist is more important than the client, which is what we want to
avoid. Chairs should also be comfortable, with good back support as
clients may be sat for quite some time. The clients chair should be
the closest to the door as this enables the client to leave easily if they
feel very distressed or get angry. If your chair is blocking the exit the
client may feel unable to leave or “hemmed in” and may be more
likely to get frustrated and or aggressive.

Eye contact

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Say This:
Eye contact like distance is a very personal thing. Some people like
lots of eye contact whilst other people find it intimidating and
uncomfortable. Again you need to be sensitive regarding eye contact
with clients and judge what they are responding to in a positive way.
There are however, some general rules that may be useful.

 Look at the client whilst s/he is talking to you, or you

are talking to him or her - it shows you are interested and
open.
 Maintain eye contact by spontaneous glances which
express interest and a desire to listen and respond.
 Too intense eye contact (staring) may be intimidating
therefore glancing away for short periods may be more
comfortable
 Look at the whole client, not just at their face or eyes
and this gives the client a feeling of interest without
uncomfortable intensity.
 Note that in some cultures, maintaining eye contact
may be offensive

Dress

Say This:

How you present yourself to a client is very important. First

impressions count and dress is a large part of this. If you are dressed

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too expensively or smartly ie. suit and tie, then this may make your
client feel uncomfortable and inferior. Equally if you are wearing
casual and untidy clothes your client will feel disrespected. It is
important to have a power balance and dress can help you achieve
this.
Punctuality and Reliability

Say This:

A client will form an opinion about you based not only on your dress
but also your behaviour. It is important to be punctual and reliable
with clients. If you need to cancel an appointment this may have a
big impact on a client who has been waiting to see you. Therefore
cancelling appointments should be a last resort and clients should be
provided with reasons and explanations and a rearranged
appointment as soon as possible. Equally lateness also conveys a lack
of respect or interest in the client. If you are unavoidably late make
sure that you call and let your client know if possible or ensure they
get a message. Being late or cancelling appointments may happen
but should be rare in occurrence. Plan your diary well so that his
does not happen frequently.

Other Environmental Factors

Say This:

You must also always remember other environmental factors:

 Room Layout

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 The room should be comfortable and welcoming. Be aware of
pictures/ posters on the wall and ensure that they are
representative, positive and not distracting.

 Photo’s on Desks
Many specialists like to have photographs of their families or
partners displayed at work. When meeting clients, this can be
difficult if they do not experience the same positive family
experiences that you have and can cause resentment. In
addition to this if you are working with dangerous clients it may
provide them with information about your family that you
would not want them to know. It may be better therefore not
to have personal photo’s displayed in areas where you meet
clients.

Bad Communication Role Play

Say This:

So now we (the trainers) are going to do a short role play. We want

you to identify examples of bad non verbal
communication skills and we will ask you to share
your thoughts with the group at the end.

One trainer plays the client, the other trainer plays

the specialist. It is the second meeting for the client and the
specialist. Things that should happen in the course of the role play
are:

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 The specialist asks the client to wait a while because she is late
and still seeing another client
 The specialist forgets the clients name
 The specialist sits behind the desk in a good chair, whilst the
client has a small old chair and is at the other side of the des
 The specialist takes a call on their mobile phone
 The specialist leaves the room which allows the client to steal
some confidential documents from the desk
 The specialist clicks their pen on and off
 The specialist is inattentive, no eye contact and is constantly
writing or doodling
 The specialist has inappropriate body language, crossing arms,
pointing finger etc.

At the end of the role play ask the participants what was bad
about the way the specialist conducted the consultation. If not all
examples are mentioned by the participants you must add in the
additional ones they missed.

Say This:

So although non verbal communication may sound easy in practice

there are many mistakes that are commonly made. Each mistake
makes an impact on our clients and so we should strive to improve
our non verbal communications.
Let’s summarise the key points again for non verbal
communication.

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(Read visual aid: power point, OHP slide, Flip Chart)
Non Verbal Communication

Environmental factors: interpreting symbols

Receptionist

Waiting area

Interview room

Desks

Chairs

Pictures/photographs

Clothes

Punctuality and reliability

The non verbal minefield

Distance
Posture

Touch

Lunch

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 Say This:

Often we have our own personal barriers about working with

“difficult” groups. These may be:

 Fear of Violence
 Previous ‘bad’ experiences
 Lack of Knowledge
 Disgust of clients appearance/ behaviour
 Our own weaknesses.

Consequently we need to work hard on developing a non

judgemental attitude and skilling ourselves up with knowledge and
conflict resolution strategies to help us cope better. Remember that
as a specialist you have no control over changing a client’s behaviour
but we can look at the things that we do and how we can change
our thinking and working practice to make things easier.

Anger Exercises

Ask the participants to sit quietly, and think about the last time they
were really angry.

Say this:

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Think about where you were. Who were you with? What was the
situation that made you angry? How did you feel? What did you do?
How did things end? Just spend a couple of minutes thinking about
the feelings and thoughts that you experienced.

Ask participants to sit in pairs. They should explain

what the situation was that made them angry, and
what thoughts and feelings they had. When both
participants have described their angry situations,
join the pairs together to make three or four small groups. Give each
group a piece of flipchart paper and marker pens, and ask them to
draw the outline of a body. Once this is done, ask them to draw the
physical feelings that are associated with anger. (churning stomach,
increased heart rate, clenched fists, wide eyes etc). Once completed
ask each group to explain their picture to the large group.

Say this:

So, there seems to be common agreement about what we physically

feel when we get angry. Some of the physical feelings are very visible,
others are more hidden. The visible signs can be very useful for us as
workers. People rarely ‘explode’ without giving us signs that an
explosion is coming. If we pay attention to their body language we
can intervene to dissipate the anger. Let’s have a go:

Role Play

Divide participants into groups of 4. Ask them to role play an angry

client visiting his/her social worker. Tell them that the
client has arrived late, and the social worker cannot

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see him/her, because s/he has a meeting arranged. The role play
should last about 4 minutes. After the role play, participants should
discuss what strategies the social worker used to try to manage the
anger. Then re-do role play with the other 2 members of the small
group. Then, generate a discussion about the strategies they have
identified. Write them up on a flipchart.

(Read visual aid: power point, OHP slide, Flip Chart)

Working with Angry Clients

Working more positively with these clients means in practice that we:
Understand what anger is and where it comes from
Position ourselves in the room so that client always has an “out”
Considering back up
Think about where we meet – our territory or theirs
Dress appropriately
Demonstrate a non threatening and understanding but assertive
posture
Plan our diaries
Be punctual – even if the client is not
Be honest, explain, and don’t promise
Admit your faults

Say This:

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Thank you so much for your participation and time. As you can
understand we have a very difficult decision ahead of us. A very
difficult decision. We will leave you for some time so that we can
discuss and decide. Please use this time to have a coffee and think
about what has just happened and what you want from your future.

Verbal communication/reflection

Say this:

Yesterday we looked at non verbal communication. We agreed that

how you set up the room is important. We’ve also looked at how our
own body language can give messages to the client, and we can be
encourage clients to talk by carefully paying attention to our own
body language. The clients body language can also give us clues as to
how they may be feeling, which can help us to respond appropriately
to them.

Of course we also need to speak with clients. In this

introduction to communication skills, I’d like to start with
just one key concept. It’s the most important skill that
you can learn, infact it should be the basis of all your
communication. It’s what we call reflection. Reflection,
at its simplest level, is repeating back what the client has said. It’s a
way of listening to the client and repackaging their statements. It’s
presenting what they have said back to them. So, let’s have a go.

Parroting exercise

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Ask participants to get into pairs. One participant should talk for 2
minutes on the best day of their life. The other participant should
simply repeat every sentence the other says (like a parrot).

Say this:

That’s not reflection. Reflection is more than simply repeating what

the client is saying…but it’s similar! Reflection is saying what the
client has said, using slightly different words, but conveying the
same meaning. Reflecting back is one of the most important
communication skills we can learn. Reflecting back what the
client has expressed encourages the client to continue talking.
There are two types of reflection. The reflection of fact and the
reflection of feelings.

Reflection of fact.
This shows you are interested and listening carefully. It also allows
you to clarify whether you have understood the client correctly.
Reflection of fact is an accurate restatement of what the client
says. For example if the client tells you:

‘I was in such a state, I walked out of work and went straight to my

sister’s house’

an accurate reflection of fact would be:

‘You left work immediately, and went to your sister’s.’

Reflection of feelings

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Here, you need to try to reflect the emotional rather than the
factual content.

For example,

‘I was scared last night, when my partner came home’ can be

reflected as:

‘You were frightened when your partner came home last night’.

Reflections are important because they:

1. Show you are listening

2. Make you listen
3. Allow the client to correct you if you’ve misunderstood
4. Encourage the client to continue talking
5. Leave the choice of topic largely open to the client: thus
encouraging self-exploration.

Modeling reflection:

Put 2 chairs at the front of the group. You will need to model
reflection to the group with your co-facilitator. For example:

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Co facilitator 1: ‘ I feel so tired all the time. All I want to do is sleep!’
Co facilitator 2: ‘You feel so exhausted, you just want to be in bed’.

Co facilitator 1: ‘I feel so confused, I have so many choices I don’t

know what to do’.
Co facilitator 2: ‘You feel so overwhelmed by the choices you have.’

Check that participants have grasped the basic idea of reflection.

Then…

Divide participants into triads. Participants choose

who will be the client, who will be the social
worker and who will be the observer. The client is
to talk for 4-5 minutes on ‘the best day of their
life’. The social worker is to try to reflect back what
the client is saying. The observer must try to make a note of
every reflective statement the social worker makes. Also try to
decide whether the statement is a reflection of fact or a
reflection of feeling. After 4-5 minutes, ask the observers to
feedback. Then everyone swaps roles. Continue the exercise until
everyone has had the opportunity to play the social worker,
observer and client.

Questions

Say this:

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Reflection is a key communication skill. Questions can, however, also
be useful. It is certainly important to ask clients questions during the
interview, but we need to be very careful. Questions are more
intrusive than reflection, and we don’t want the client to ‘shut down’
or feel like they are being interrogated. Questions can be more or less
intrusive, depending on how we ask them.

Open questions: these questions encourage a broad range of

responses.

Closed questions: call for a ‘yes’, ‘no’ or number answer.

There’s also a third type of question, which we call the ‘why?’

question
Open questions, therefore, give the client some control over the
direction of the conversation. Social work is about empowering
individuals, and a good starting point is to allow them to control the
direction of the interview.
It is therefore important to try to ask as many open questions as
possible, and limit the number of closed questions we ask.

Open questions:

In the English these start with the words: What? Could? Would? or
How?

Thus: ‘How do you spend your evenings?’ or ‘Would you tell me

about your family?’ are good open questions. Of course, any question

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should follow the subject that is already under discussion. So, if the
client was talking about feeling lonely, or bored, or stress, it might be
wholly appropriate to ask how he spent his evenings. It would be
wrong, however, to ask ‘How do you spend your evenings?’ if the
client is talking about the impact of his mother’s death.

Closed questions:

These questions usually get 1 word responses, followed by silence,

where the client waits for the next question. In English these start
with the words: Is? Are? Do? Did? How many? Examples could be:

‘Did you tell your girlfriend what happened?’ or ‘How many brothers
and sisters do you have?’ These questions aren’t really very helpful
for the client. They tend to close paths down rather than open them
up. In our interviews we are trying to encourage self-exploration. If
we are hoping that the client will explore themselves, the client must
exercise choice over what to express. Ultimately the decision for
action and the decision to make changes must come from the client.
The desire to change must come from the client. The path which
takes them to that decision must be created and followed by the
client

Encourage participants in small groups to write down

any three questions. Groups take it in turn to read the
question to the group to their right. The other group
must identify whether the question is open or closed.

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Focus

Say this:

It’s important to be aware of the focus of any statements you make.

We can divide the term focus into 5 easy categories:

You: focus on client

I: focus on SW
We: focus on client and social worker
They: Focus on others
It: Focus on main theme

You focus

Obviously, because the client and the client’s problems are the reason
for the interview the majority of statements should begin with the
word ‘YOU’. Thus:

‘You were talking about the problems in your family’. (This statement
is a reflection, with a focus on the client).

‘I wonder how you are feeling at the moment?’ (Open question, focus
on he client- even though the social worker is included in the
statement).

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I focus

Occasionally, it is appropriate to focus on yourself. For example, if you

make a mistake:

‘I’m sorry, I’m afraid that I had forgotten that you had an older
brother’

or, in response to a personal question:

‘In my experience, I don’t find it helpful to talk about myself, so I’ve

made it a rule not to’ .

We focus

This can be a good way to talk about the relationship between the
social worker and the client.

‘I’m glad we’ve been able to talk about some of the things that are
important to you’

They focus

The client may have raised issues about their family.

‘You’ve told me a lot about your mother and brothers. Is there

anything more you’d like to say about your family’.

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It focus

These statements are used when the focus is on an overall subject. Be

careful with ‘it’ statements! They can lose the immediacy in the social
worker client relationship. Such statements can also de-personalise a
topic, (although used sparingly this may help ‘unstick’ the client when
s/he hits issues which are too overwhelming.

Tense

This bits nice and easy!

‘How are you feeling now?’ is (obviously) PRESENT tense

‘How did you react when your boyfriend told you what had
happened?’ (PAST)

‘ Have you thought about how you will break the news to your
mother?’ (FUTURE)

Carry out the same exercise as above, but this time

the receiving group must say whether the question is
open or closed, it’s focus and its tense.

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Summarising:

Say this:

Another key skills area is summarising. It’s a bit like reflection, but
instead of reflecting back the small bits of what the client has been
saying, here we are trying to give an overview. We are trying to show
that we are listening, and checking that we have understood the main
points. It’s also a way of gently bringing subjects to a close, or
allowing a change of emphasis or direction.

Ask for a volunteer from the audience to read the

pre-prepared script.

Script:

My boyfriend asked me to g home with him after the dance. I was

glad because I like him very much, but I didn’t think my mother would
approve.

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But then I thought, other people will be there. So it will be alright.
When we got there I asked him if anyone else was in the house, and
he said ‘No!’

He took me with him to another room, and he started to touch me. At

first I tried to stop him, but then I let him do a little more.

By the time I left the house, I was feeling rather frightened. I started
to think that I might have become pregnant. After a few days, I
decided to tell my mother what had happened’.

Then read out the following ‘bad summary’.

So, after the dance you went to your boyfriends home, even though
you didn’t know whether you would be alone or not, and you knew
that your mother wouldn’t approve. You allowed him to make sexual
advances to you, and it was only after you left that you began to
worry about the consequences. Then you waited a while before you
told your mother.’

Say this:

Why is this a bad summary? (Invite responses from participants). It’s

wrong because the tone and implication is accusatory. You have failed
to encapsulate the ambivalence and anxiety of the speaker. We’ll now
try a good summary:

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‘I understand that after the dance you were pleased that your
boyfriend asked you to go to his home, because you liked him very
much. You thought it would be alright because you expected other
people to be there. When you realised you were alone, he made
some sexual advances. You first tried to stop him, but then you let
him go on for a bit. By the time you left you became frightened, and
began to think that you were pregnant. After a few days of anxiety
you decided to tell your mother what had happened’.

This is a better summary, because it tries to capture the tone and

feelings of the client, without being accusatory or judgmental.
Summaries can be a useful way of checking that you understand what
the client has been saying.

Lunch

Icebreaker: As usual, encourage one of the participants to

lead the ice-breaker.

(Powerpoint) Use the powerpoint verbal communication slide as a

summary of the learning you covered in the morning.

Verbal communication: interrogation or support

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Closed questions
Open questions
Indirect questions
Probing questions
Accented questions
.
(The last 3 ‘questions we haven’t covered, but explain to participants
there are other types of questions they could use as their skills
develop: refer them to the handbook).

Verbal communication: showing you understand

Reflection and clarification

Conveying empathy
Focussing
Summarising

Avoiding advice and holding feelings (Practicising

verbal skills)

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Divide participants into 3’s. Ask them to choose who will play the role
of social worker, who will play the client, and who will be the
observer. Give out case studies (below). The social workers should try
to practice reflecting back, and summarising, without giving advice.
Observers to remain alert for ‘advice giving’. After 4 minutes,
everyone should swap roles, until everyone has played the role of the
social worker.

Roles:

1) You are a mother with two young disabled children aged 6 and 3.
Your husband has left you: he blames you for producing disabled
children. Your mother helps you look after the children as much as
she can, however her own health is not very good, and at times she is
absent minded. You feel under a lot of pressure, and you do not think
that you can cope much more.

2)You are a 9 year old boy, who has started to sniff glue with friends.
You like the feeling the glue gives you, but you know that sniffing glue
is bad for your health. You have started to miss school regularly, and
you are falling behind in your schoolwork.

3)You are a fifteen year old girl. You have not had a period for two
months now, and you are worried that you might be pregnant. You
have not told your parents because you know that they will be really
angry with you. You are no longer with your boyfriend, and do not
wish to have a baby.

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4) You are an 8 year old girl. Your father has come into your bedroom
at night for last 6 months. He has started to sexually abuse you. He
says that if you tell anyone you will be in serious trouble. You have
decided to tell the social worker because you want the abuse to be
stopped.

The big role play!

Ask for volunteers. As each 1 comes up, give them their role,
introducing the characters name to the whole group.

Characters:

Inga:

Your name is Inga, and you are aged 50. You live with your husband
Boris, your daughter Aleeya (28 years old) your granddaughter
Svetlana (3), and your sister in law Medina. Your daughter works full
time on a market stall, whilst your sister in law is a nurse in a local
polyclinic. You suffer from depression. There are many arguments
within the family home. The arguments centre around your drinking
(4 bottles of beer per day) and the family not having much money.
You think that your husband is having an affair.
There are many times when you feel that life is so awful that you stay
in bed for two or three days at a time.

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Boris

Your name is Boris and you are 52 years old. You life with your wife
Inga, your daughter Aleeya, your granddaughter Svetlana (3) and your
sister Medina. You are very close to your sister, and you wish that
Inga was more like her. You have bee married to Inga for 22 years. You
work in a local factory, and money is a struggle. Often when you come
home, you can smell alcohol on your wife’s breath. You feel angry
that your wife is wasting money on alcohol after you work so hard for
it. Sometimes your wife doesn’t even get out of bed for days at a
time, leaving your sister to do all the housework. You have been
faithful to your wife all of your married life, however there is a
woman at work who you have become very close to.

Aleeya

Your name is Aleeya, and you are 28 years old. You have a daughter
called Svetlana, and you live with your mother (Inga), father (Boris),
and Aunt (Medina). Your husband left you for another woman last
year. Your father, mother and Aunt are always arguing. Your mother
drinks during the day, and often does not get out of bed for days on
end. You feel sorry for your mother because she looks so unhappy a
lot of the time. You do as much housework as possible to help out.
You don’t like Boris, you have seen him walking with an attractive
female colleague, and you suspect he is having an affair.

Medina

Your name is Medina. You are 42 years old, and work as a nurse in a
local polyclinic. You never married, and you live with your brother

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Boris, his wife Inga, their daughter Aleeya and her child Svetlana (3).
Your brother has always supported you, and you feel that he should
never have married Inga. You think that she is lazy, and her daughter
takes after her too. You strongly disagree with the way Aleeya is
bringing up Svetlana. You think that the child lacks discipline.
You use the meetings with the social worker to criticise Inga. You can
make up as many lies as you want about her!

Svetlana

Your name is Svetlana. You are 3 years old. You like playing with dolls.
You are unhappy when your family argue. You love your mummy and
granny very much.

Give out the social worker role to the remaining participants.

Social worker role

You are a social worker. Your task is to interview members of the

family, decide what the problems are and draw up a plan of
action. YOU CAN INTERVIEW EITHER 1 OR 2 FAMILY MEMBERS
AT A TIME. The family members are:

Inga (50)
Boris (Inga’s husband)
Aleeya (28, daughter of Inga and Boris)
Medina (Boris’ sister)
Svetlana (Aleeya’s daughter, aged 3

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Scatter family members around the room(s). Tell the social workers
that they must try to interview all the family members. They can only
interview one or two members at a time. Tell the social workers to
remember their communication skills (try to listen and hold feelings
rather than giving advice). After 10 minutes of interviews, you will
need to call ‘time’, and ask the social workers to find new family
members to interview. You will need to control things very tightly.
Some social workers may find that there isn’t a family member
available to interview. Advise them that this can happen in real life:
(clients miss appointments), and they could use the 10 minutes to
plan their next interview. If a family member is left uninterviewed, tell
them to put their feet up! You will need to keep a close eye on family
members to make sure they are ok.

Coffee break!

After coffee, let participants finish off interviews if there are some
remaining.

Feedback:

First: ask the social workers for feedback.

How did it go? What communication skills did they use? What did
they find out? What are the problems in the family? Was there
anything that didn’t make sense? What work could be done with the
family? Emphasize the difficulties of distinguishing between gossip,
fact and needs.
Then, ask the social workers to derole.

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Next, ask the family members for feedback. How did it feel to be
interviewed. What did they say that was helpful or not helpful? The
family members are likely to be very upset and angry. They should
say that they felt that they were asked two many questions, were
told what to do, and that few people listened to them. This is fine!
The exercise is designed to create this. Don’t worry!
Ask family members to derole.

Say this:

Ok, so I think that exercise highlighted a number of issues. It’s really

important not to ‘push clients’ by asking too many questions. We
need to ‘stay with the client’, and try to hold their feelings, rather
than trying to find out as much information as possible in order to
reach a solution. It’s been a long day, and we’d like to thank you for all
the hard work you’ve put in. To finish we’d like you to share with the
group something that we call a ‘feedback sandwich’. A feedback
sandwich is a way of giving constructive feedback. So, we start with
the bread: we say something that we thought was good. Next we
have the filling, let’s say it’s Kalbasa. The kalbasa is something that
perhaps could have been done better. We then finish with another
piece of bread, and say something that was good overall. We’d like to
go around the room and hear your feedback sandwiches about your
own work today.

Go around the room, and ask for participant’s feedback sandwiches

on their own work.
Don’t forget to remind people to do their reflective diaries. Thank
everyone for all their hard work.
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Day 3

Thoughts for the day…The aim of today is to revisit the key learning
points of the last 2 days, and for participants to practice
communication skills. It takes things a step further in terms of
introducing the goldfish bowl exercise. Some of your participants will
be nervous about this: colleagues will be directly observing their
practice. Hopefully, as the group have been together for 3 days now,
they should be more comfortable with each other. Stress to the group
that although the goldfish bowl may be nerve wracking it’s a great
way to demonstrate our skills, and learn from each other! You will
also need to make sure that all the certificates are stamped and
signed ready for the certificate presentation at the end of the day.

Icebreaker: As usual, encourage one of the participants to

lead the ice-breaker.

Participants Feedback:

Give the participants three stickies each. Ask them to

write three constructive comments about three
individuals in the group, and stick them on their name sheets.

Reflective Diaries:

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Ask three participants to read out their reflective diaries. Praise them
in front of everyone! Remind everyone that although this is the last
day, it is important to continue keeping reflective diaries. It’s
important to take responsibility for our own learning and
development, and one way of doing this is to keep a reflective diary.
Personally, reflective diaries will provide you with a record of your
progression, as well as a wealth of memories!

Say this: Yesterday was a very difficult day. We heard some very
powerful things from those playing the role of clients in the roleplay.
They felt as if they were being asked too many questions, that they
were given too much advice, and that they didn’t feel listened to.
Don’t worry! Today we’re going to revisit and practice the skills that
we’ve been looking at over the last 2 days. We’re going to try and pull
everything together. Firstly, we’d like to revisit reflection. Remember
reflection is not telling the client what to do, and not asking too many
questions. Reflection tries simply to restate either the content or the
feeling of what the client is saying. Let’s have a practice:

Practicing reflection:

Give each participant a piece of paper and a pen.

Tell them that you are going to read out 9
statements. After each statement you would like them to individually
write down a reflective response to it (either fact or feeling). After you
have read out all nine, go through each statement again picking
people at random to give their answers. Encourage others to add if
they feel that their response is better/significantly different.

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1. ‘I just can’t stop thinking about drinking alcohol. When I wake up
in the morning I start thinking about when I can have my first
drink’.
2. ‘There’s no point in going to school! I don’t understand anything,
and the other children make fun of me’.
3. I lie awake at night listening to my parents arguing. Sometimes
when thy shout I hide my head under the pillow’.
4. Taking drugs is cool! They help me to forget about my problems –
so I don’t need to think anymore’.
5. The other children’s parents buy them new clothes. I have to make
do with my sisters clothes. It’s just not fair!’
6. There’s a boy at school who fancies me. He’s always staring at me.
It makes me feel uncomfortable.’
7. I don’t understand it. I feel so moody all the time. Sometimes I
lose my temper at the smallest thing!’
8. Everything changed when my grandmother died. No-one laughs
anymore, and my parents argue over the smallest thing.

Scenario: Divide participants into triads. (Client, social

worker and observer). Ask them to each take different
roles for 5 minutes each. Give the scenario (below) to
the client. When they are the social worker they
should practice all communication skills they have
learnt over the last 2 days. Observers should feedback on feedback
sheets (see back of manual).

Scenario: You have been drinking 2 bottles of vodka a day for 2 years.
You used to work in the factory, but the factory has now closed. Your
wife is now the main breadwinner of the family. You feel powerless

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and helpless because you cannot find work. You find that alcohol
helps you to forget your problems. You know that drinking this
amount of vodka everyday is not good for you, but you don’t think
you can face life without it.

Don’t forget to de-role participants!

Coffee break!

Goldfish bowl exercise: Get all participants sitting in a

large closed circle. Place two empty chairs in the
middle. Ask for someone to volunteer as the client.
Ask them to sit in one of the empty chairs.

Say this: Thank you very much for volunteering for this role. I think it
takes a lot of guts to take on a role infront of everyone, so well done.
I’m now going to get you into role. You are a woman aged 63. Do you
want to give yourself a name? Ok. So, you are 63. Last year your
husband sadly passed away. You had lived with him all of your adult
life. He was everything to you. You cooked and cleaned for him
everyday, you were always there for him, listening to his moans about
work, supporting him, loving him. He’s gone now. Money is very tight,
but you manage to go to the bazaar twice a week to get your
vegetables and a little meat for soup. Most days you sit at home,
watching television. Not that you take much of it in. It’s more just on
in the background. I guess it’s a bit of company for you. No-one calls

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round. Your family don’t seem to want to know you. Things were very
different before. The house always seemed to be full, what with the
children and your husbands work colleagues. Back then, you longed
for a time when you could simply put your feet up, and have a bit of
peace and quiet. Well, you’ve certainly got that now.

Now ask for another volunteer to play the social worker.

Say this: Once again, thanks. I’m really pleased that you are prepared
to let all your colleagues watch your practice. It shows an openness
and commitment which everyone needs to become competent social
workers. Well done! Now you are a social worker. You’ve been asked
to come around and visit Mrs XXX, by her family Doctor. He’s
concerned because he hasn’t seen her for a good seven months. Your
task is to speak to her. Try not to give her advice, what she needs
more than anything is just to be listened to, and to be understood. Try
to reflect back what she is saying in a sensitive way. Try to show that
you are really understand what it is like to be her, and the problems
that she faces. Okay?

Let the role play start. If participants seem to get

stuck, stop the role play, and discuss with the
group/characters what they thought was useful
or good, or what was less good/could be improved. Then ask for
people watching to take over/develop the roles. WARNING!!! If the
social workers are absolutely dreadful (not listening, giving advice,
being oppressive) you will need to model a good role play. There’s no
point people spending a long time trying to absorb bad practice!

Whether you do the next bit depends on where you feel that
participants skills are at. If you think that they have grasped the basic

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skills, and that they are demonstrating them, move on! If not: it’s
okay: stay with the goldfish bowl, and keep practicing!

The Optional bit:

Developing communication exercises with children and young people:

Divide participants into pairs. Randomly give out the case studies
(below). They are pretty self-explanatory! Ask participants to use the
Methods of Communication planning sheet (back of manual) to
record their session plans.

Group 1

You are going to talk to Akbota for the first time. Akbota is 4 years old
and lives with her grandmother after her mother died. Her
grandmother is also ill and you have been asked to work with the
family to look at future accommodation options for Akbota. Her
grandmother has told you that Akbota is worried about talking to you
and has asked many questions about you – Who you are? Why you
need to see her? What is your family is like? What nationality you
are? What work you will do with her? You want your first meeting
with Akbota to be as stress free as possible and to start to build a
relationship with her so that you can work with her in the future in a
positive way. In order to do this you need to put her mind at rest
about your role and you as a person. Develop a 45 min exercise that
you will do with Akbota in order to start to achieve this aim

Group 2

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Baglan is 5 years old. His family came to live in Astana 2 years ago.
They are repatriates from China and at home the language they use is
Kazakh and they don’t speak Russian. You have been asked to work
with this family as there are some concerns about violence between
the parents and Baglan has been seen trying to cut his sister aged 3
with a knife, whilst playing outside in the street. You have worked
with Baglan for a few weeks already and feel that now is the time to
look at a session on Anger and Fear. Develop a 45 min exercise that
would help you explore Baglan’s feelings on anger and fear about his
life.

Group 3

Irina is 14 years old. Her mother and father have recently been
divorced and this has meant that Irina and her mother have moved to
another smaller town to be closer to her mother’s relatives. Irina has
therefore lost much of her existing support system, her friends and
school, in addition to how she feels about losing her father. Her new
school is concerned because Irina has lost weight and is refusing to
eat and seems depressed. You know Irina likes to write down her
feelings as she has told you she keeps a diary. You think that using a
more directed approach might be a way of starting communication
with Irina and exploring her feelings deeper. Develop an “Unfinished
Questions” exercise to explore issues of loss and grief and fear with
Irina.

Group 4

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Sasha aged 8 has some mild learning disabilities but after
rehabilitation centre sessions will be starting mainstream school in 1
week. Sasha has already shared his many worries and fears about
starting school with you. He has talked about fear of:
 Being bullied
 Not having any friends
 Not being able to complete the work
 Going to school on the bus.

This is your last session with Sasha before he starts school and you
want to do an exercise with him that enables him to feel positive
about himself and helps him develop coping strategies. You also
think it would be nice that he could take something away (like a small
present/ reminder) from this session so that when things feel tough
in school he can remind himself of the positive things you talked
about.
Develop a 45 min session with Sasha to achieve this aim.

Group 5

You have worked with Erlan aged 15, for the past 6 months on issues
with recreational drug and alcohol use. Although you feel that he is
ready and wants to stop sniffing glue and using alcohol, you know he
finds it difficult to say no when his friends are there. Erlan has low
self confidence and wants to fit in with his friends. Develop an
exercise using role play and coping strategies to help him explore how
he may do this.

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Group 6

Nastya at the age of 17 has little sense of stable family life. She has
not lived with her birth family since the age of 2 and has experienced
a number of different children’s homes and internats. She has some
emotional and developmental delay and asthma. After working as a
prostitute she became pregnant when she was 16 and was persuaded
at the maternity house to offer the baby for adoption, and now has
no contact with her son. After completing some grief and loss work
with Nastya you want to now start looking at future options for her.
Develop a 45 min exercise with Nastya helping her examine what she
wants from the future.

Group 7

Rustam is aged 9 and Janara is aged 7. Their mother has been

diagnosed with symptomatic AIDS and has approached your
organisation for support in helping to plan for her children when she
becomes seriously ill and in the event of her death. The children are
aware of the issue although will not speak about it with their mother.
When the mother tries to talk to them about it they leave the room
or become naughty and difficult to communicate with. Develop an
exercise that enables you to address the concerns that you know the
children have:
 What is happening?
 Why it has happened?
 What will happen next?
 What will happen to their mother after she has died?

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  Who will take care of them and meet their needs? (ie who
will give them lunch money?)
 How they and (other people) will cope and survive?

Group 8

Dima is aged 14. The school have raised concerns about him as he is
very demonstrable in his behaviour with other boys. One of his
school mates complained that Dima had tried to kiss him whilst
walking to school together. Dima is now being bullied by other boys
in the school for being gay. You have already met with Dima once and
he expressed fear and confusion about his sexuality and other
people’s response to him. You agreed in the last session with Dima
that you would do some work with him around his feelings. Develop
a 45 min session that enables you to do this.

Group 9

Dariah is aged 10. She has been presenting major difficulties for her
teacher within the classroom. She is very disruptive and can become
abusive and violent when reprimanded by the teacher or when
receiving bad marks. On occasion she has threatened to throw
herself out of the window or has cried so much that she was sick. You

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are aware that her parents have high expectations of their daughter’s
achievement. Develop an exercise that explores these issues.

Group 10

You have worked with Aida aged 12, for the past 12 weeks after she
was sexually abused by a neighbour. This is your last session with
Aida and you know that she is upset and worried about not working
with you anymore. You want to say goodbye in a positive way and
ensure that Aida recognises that she has a good support network in
place. You also want to provide information on how Aida can contact
your NGO if she feels she needs further support later on, but don’t
want to create dependency. Develop a final exercise to work with
Aida

If you have time (unlikely!), you could always ask for volunteers to
demonstrate their session plans: with 1 volunteer playing the social
worker and the other the client.

Powerpoint checklist:

Read the following checklist to participants. It serves as a summary of

what we have covered over the last 3 days, and is a handy do’s and
don’ts checklist for future practice. Advise participants that they may
find it useful to complete the checklist after they have interviewed

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clients in their day to day work. This will ensure that they ‘keep on
track’ in terms of developing effective communication skills.

Do's and Don'ts checklist

Environmental factors

Don't:

 Meet the client in a room that isn’t private

 Interview over a desk
 Sit directly opposite the client
 Allow interruptions
 Have your mobile phone on
 Forget to think about pictures and personal belongings
 Wear inappropriate clothing
 Sit on a chair that is higher/bigger than the clients chair
 Leave confidential papers on display
 Cancel/be late for appointments

Do:

 Be prepared with suitable materials for different client

groups

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 Have a comfortable interview environment
 Have a friendly receptionist to greet the client
 Have an area for the client to wait in, if they are early
 Use a diary and arrange appointments carefully

Body language

Don’t

 Stare too much at the client

 Have a closed body posture
 Slouch or sit too upright
 Fidget!
 Sit with your legs wide open
 Express disgust or shock
 Condone inappropriate behaviour
 Forget to use your intuition! Different clients have different
needs.

Do:

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 Use appropriate eye contact
 Sit a ‘comfortable’ distance away for the client
 Hold your hands loosely in your lap
 Use facial expressions to show that you are listening
 Be attentive and responsive to the clients body language

Verbal communication

Don’t:

 make assumptions
 make accusations, criticise or blame anyone
 argue with the client
 tell client what to do
 minimise or dismiss client's experience
 stereotype or generalise
 make decisions for client.
 pass on information without permission from client.
 Ask closed, direct questions
 make promises you can't deliver
 Change the subject

Do:

 Ask open questions

 Ensure that the client speaks more than you do

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 Reflect both facts and feelings
 Use summarising skills
 Be sensitive and encourage client to talk about his/her
feelings
 Encourage client to make his/her own decisions
 Use the "I" statement when expressing personal opinions
 Provide information on community resources and
services.
 Respect confidentiality at all time
 Empower through widening support systems/decreasing
isolation

Programme Evaluation/peer feedback

Get all participants to sit in a circle. Ask them to think about their
responses to the following questions/statements:

What is the most important thing that I have learnt over the last 3
days?
Think of 1 thing you would like to say to another participant
How will you take your learning forward?

Go around the circle, and ask each participant in turn to speak.

Presentation of certificates

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This is the nice bit! The certificates have more value if you only award
certificates to those people who managed to attend the whole
programme. When we did this training, we celebrated a colleagues
birthday immediately afterwards. If it is anybody’s birthday in your
group this can be a good way of developing group bonds and good
humour! You’ve finished the training course. Well done!
Power Point Slides/ Forms and other Useful Materials

Ground Rules 1
• Put your hand up if you want to speak
• Address us appropriately
• If you cannot attend a session we need a
written note
• Speak only when you are spoken to
• Don’t question facilitators – we know
best
• No alcohol consumption in the evening

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Ground Rules 2 (The real ones)

• Arrive on time and keep to time

• Attend all sessions
• Turn off mobile phone (box penalty)
• Respectful Challenge
• Participate in activities
• Listen when others are speaking
• Be responsible for our own learning
• Confidentiality
• Support the learning of others

Reflection
 Reflection of fact

 Reflection of feelings

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 Reflection – Why is it
important?
 It shows that you are listening
 It makes you listen
 Allows client to correct you
 Encourages client to continue talking
 Encourages self exploration
 Encourages self awareness on all
levels

Questions
• Questions are important but if not
used well may be intrusive
• Open questions – encourage a broad
range response
• Closed questions call for a yes or no
answer
• Open questions give the client
control.
• (Why? May seem like open question
but is it closed in disguise?)

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 Open Questions
What?
Could?
Would?
How?

Closed Questions
 Usually get one word answers
followed by silence
 Worker dominates
 Is? Are? Do? Did? How Many?
 E.g. Did you tell your girlfriend what
happened?
 How many brothers or sisters do you
have?

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 Focus
You
I
We
They
It

Tense

 How are you feeling now?

 How did you react when your

boyfriend told you what happened?

 Hove you thought about how you will

tell your mother?

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 Communication skills

Non-verbal and verbal

communication

Environmental factors:
interpreting symbols
• Receptionist
• Waiting area
• Interview room
• Desks
• Chairs
• Pictures/photographs
• Clothes
Non verbal communication
• Punctuality and reliability
Sutton (1979):

‘the music behind the words’

Sutton C (1979) Psychology for Social Workers and Counsellors,

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 The non verbal minefield

• Distance
• Posture
• Touch
• Eye contact
• Facial expression

Verbal communication:
interrogation or support?

• Closed questions
• Open questions
• Indirect questions
• Probing questions
Verbal communication:
• Accented questions
showing you understand

• Reflection and clarification

• Conveying empathy
• Focussing
• Summarising
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 Barriers to effective
communication
• Environment
• Interruptions
• Overload
• Unchecked assumptions
• Preoccupation
• Stereotyping
• Past Experience
• Translation

Working with Angry Clients

Working more positively with these clients means in practice
that we:
• Understand what anger is and where it comes from
• Position ourselves in the room so that client always has an
“out”
• Considering back up
• Think about where we meet – our territory or theirs
• Dress appropriately
• Demonstrate a non threatening and understanding but
assertive posture
• Plan our diaries
• Be punctual – even if the client is not
•Be honest, explain, and don’t promise
•Admit your faults

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 Methods of Communication
Planning Sheet

Participants in session
Child:
Worker:
Other?

Methods of Communication/ Language

Length/ Duration of Session

AIM

OUTCOMES

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OUTLINE OF SESSION PLAN

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Resources Materials Required

Symbolic/ Environmental Factors – Room requirements etc:

Verbal Communication Skills necessary:

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How session will be recorded for child, family and file?

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 Training Practice Feedback Sheet

Case scenario: ____________________________________________

Helper:__________________________________________________
_

Client:___________________________________________________
_

Observer:
_________________________________________________

Observer Feedback:

Positive comments (Examples of which skills were demonstrated –

including quotes):

Environmental

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Non Verbal

Verbal

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Constructive comments (things to work on, improvement needed,
where skills were not demonstrated):
Environmental

Non Verbal

Verbal

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Feedback from Client

Feedback from Helper

Signed (Observer) ____________________________________

Date _________________

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 Signed (Client) ______________________________________
Date ________________

Signed ( Helper) _____________________________________ Date ________________

REFLECTIVE DIARY

DATE:

Brief description of significant event

What was I feeling at the time?

How did I react and why? What was informing my decisions?

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On reflection I achieved/learned ...

And I could have done differently ...

My future learning needs are ...

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