CONTENTS

SPEECH OUTLINE 2

1.0 INTRODUCTION 3

2.0 4-8

3.0 CONCLUSION 9

4.0 REFERENCES 10

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 SPEECH OUTLINE

QUESTION / TITLE

Parents have no right to control the lives of their children above 16?

(You need to decide whether to agree or disagree.)

1.0 INTRODUCTION
1.1 Define the means of parenting
Parenting or child rearing is the process of promoting and supporting the physical,
emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to
adulthood.

2.0 ISSUES :
DISAGREE WITH THE STATEMENT, PARENTS HAVE NO RIGHT TO CONTROL
THE LIVES OF THEIR CHILDREN ABOVE 16.
 all children above 16th still need parents guidance.

 Children are to be nurtured.

 Cultivate children to gain a bright future.
 To help our children to contribute in our country.
 Improve moral values
 To cultivate an excellent level of community.

2.0 CONCLUSION
The conclusion is, we have to know that there is no wrong for the parents to control the
children above 16th. Ultimately, parents play an important role in educating and nurturing
children, especially at the age of 16th nowadays.

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1.0 INTRODUCTION

Parenting or child rearing is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional,
social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. Parenting refers to
the intricacies of raising a child and not exclusively to the biological relationship. But, the most
common caretaker in parenting is the biological parent’s of the child, although others may be
an older sibling, a grandparent, a legal guardian, aunt, uncle or other family member or a family
friend. Governments and society may also have a role in child-rearing. Parenting is more like
gardening. You provide the right conditions like security, caring, nurturing, protecting and
providing safety. I guess it's not about control but guidance, especially for the children above
16th. It is also defined that, parenting can be simply defined as "the process or the state of being
a parent". Once you have a child, you are involved in the process of parenting. However, it is
not that simple and (Morrison 2016) defined parenting as "the process of developing and
utilising the knowledge and skills appropriate to planning for, creating, giving birth to, rearing
and or providing care for offspring". This definition implies that parenting starts when there is
a plan for it and it involves not just bringing up the children but also providing care for them.
There are several characteristics of parenting. First of all, with the advance of medical
knowledge and technology, parenting becomes a choice in life. Secondly, being a parent is a
life-long commitment. Thirdly, it involves responsibilities as parents are responsible to take
good care of their children physically as well as psychologically. Lastly, parenting involves not
just the couple but all the family members since the birth of a child affects the whole family.
So, the conclusion is, it is very important for the children above 16 to guide or control their life
to make it better for the goodsake in future for children. Even some of parents ignored that
parenting children above 16th is over already. But for me, children above 16th are categorised
as they just start to know themselves, so it is very important for the parents to guide them to be
a good person in the future.

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2.0 DISAGREE WITH THE STATEMENT PARENTS HAVE NO RIGHT TO
CONTROL THE LIVES OF THEIR CHILDREN ABOVE 16.

2.1 I disagree with this statement because, all children above 16th still need parents
guidance.

As we can see teenagers and adolescents in today's era have been too free with their outside
world. Including the criminal cases they always being highlight in our society. Parents need to
give early education to their children so that they can learn good things like respecting others,
fears of older people and not wanting to do bad things. Otherwise, if we see teenage crime now
is very high and the range of crimes they make in unexpected. If we as parents do not care
about this problem then, the children will be neglected and continue to make mistakes in future.
We see teens who sniff the glue, giving birth to child out of wedlock, steal and so on at a young
age and mostly in newspapers we will see most of them are in the age of 16th and above. From
that example, we as an adults are saddened by the fate they have experienced at their young
age as they have been trapped and the children will face dark future. As a parents, we need to
know that children are just like tiny plants that need to develop and nurtured regularly and they
love and more attention. Water and sunlight nourish a plant and stimulate healthy growth and
stability. Similarly, as a parents who shower their children with verbal and physical expressions
of love will nurture their children’s mental and emotional growth and stability. So that, it is
very important for the parents not to neglect their children at the age of 16th above nowadays
as we can see many problem the children will face if they walk on their own way. In terms of
Christian religious, we can see here in The Bible states simply: “Love builds up.”
(1 Corinthians 8:1) Parents who are generous in expressing love to their children are, in effect,
imitating their Creator, Jehovah God. The Bible relates that on the occasion of Jesus’ baptism,
he heard the voice of his Father expressing approval and love for him as His Son. How
reassuring, even for Jesus as an adult. Luke 3:22. The affection you show, the bedtime stories
you read, and even the games you play are crucial elements of your child’s development.
‘Everything the child is doing,’ says Dr. J. Fraser Mustard, ‘is an experience that he develops.
If a child is learning to crawl, how you give encouragement and respond is important.’ Parental
love and attention lay a firm foundation for your child to develop and to become a responsible
and mature adult.

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2.2 Children are to be nurtured.

Secondly, they have to be taught, hence check and balances are essential. Life is not an
algorithm nor does a child grow up with a default plan, he stumbles the parent helps, he
overshoots and we must correct, he looses track it’s are duty to redirect him; and then if this is
what is meant by control and yes it is needed. Yet, we must allow for freedom of thought and
expression for the child, be a good listener, understand the child point of view and act in the
child’s interest only. Parents are not infallible too hence we must introspect as parents to check
if are overdoing things and modify and change gears as the situation demands. Parents should
control their children because children are oblivious to the way this world works. They need a
definite amount of training, nurturing and all that stuff. Should the parents have no control over
their children, it will eventually lead to chaos, disrespect etc. Their minds could be easily
tampered with and they will end up walking on the bad paths of life. Control within limits is a
very healthy thing. For example, eventually, as children get older, a sort of pruning takes place.
The body appears to discard synaptic wiring that may be unnecessary. This could have a
profound effect on a child’s potential. “If a child does not get the right kind of stimulus at the
right age,” says brain researcher Max Cynader, “then the neurological circuits will not develop
properly.” According to Dr. J. Fraser Mustard, the result can be lower IQ, poor verbal and
mathematical skills, health problems as an adult, and even behavioral problems. So it seems
that the experiences a person has as an infant can have a definite effect on his adult life. Whether
the person is resilient or fragile, whether he learns to think in abstract terms or is lacking in this
ability, and whether he becomes empathetic or not can be influenced by his early childhood
experiences. So the role of parents is especially important for their children especially when
they start to reach at the age of 16th above. “One of the most critical aspects of this early
experience,” notes a pediatrician, “is a sensitive parenting figure.” That may sound simple
enough. Nurture and care for your children, and they will prosper. Unfortunately, parents know
that understanding how to care for children properly is not always so simple. Effective
parenting is not always intuitive. According to one study, 25 percent of parents polled did not
know that what they did with their child could enhance or hamper his or her intelligence,
confidence, and love for learning. So, it is very important for the parents or parents to be
nowadays to be train and well educated in nurturing their children.

2.3 Cultivate children to achieve a bright future.

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Controlling our children above 16th is actually, the things that compulsory for parents to make
their children being a good person and excellent in moral values in future. Everything actually
starts from home that parents guide their children to cultivate moral values deep in their heart.
For examples, praise them correctly. If you haven’t explored the exciting work regarding
mindset from Carol Dweck, a professor of psychology at Stanford University, then I suggest
that you immediately do so. It’s greatly influenced me as an entrepreneur. According to Dweck,
a fixed mindset believes that talent and skill are innate and can not be changed you're only as
good at something as you were born to be. A growth mindset, however, believes that talents
can be developed over time and skills learned with sufficient effort. This idea applies to how
to praise your kids. When they earn a high score on a science test or win a soccer trophy, praise
them for their hard work and effort instead of telling them they are smart or talented. Although
we mean to compliment our kids, praising them for innate qualities encourages a fixed mindset
that can undermine their confidence when they try and don't succeed at first. Praising children
for effort encourages a growth mindset. We want our kids confident in their ability to learn and
solve problems besides to train them being a good person. So, when this things happen, it will
not effect for the children or parents to control or not the for them respectively. Another
example, as a parents he or she should treats the children to control their use of everything.
That’s what parents are for. A child comes to this world with a blank slate and has to be taught
how best and beautifully should he fill this slate so as to experience pure bliss when he looks
back at the slate. To do so he has to have the tools, the medium, the material, various textures,
and eraser, few rules, symmetry, balance a focal point, a surprise element and so on. We as
parents facilitate in proving these requisites and that is the primary role, with the focus being
the experience of happiness and satisfaction on completing the picture right track make the
relationship between parents and children become strong and better. Then, we may see here
that there is no terms for controlling children if parents play their role well while parenting
their children from the start until their children reaching the age of 16th or above.

2.4 To help our children to contribute in our country.

I disagree with the statement that parents have no right to control the lives of their children
above 16th, this is because if the children being nurture by their parents correctly it also will
help the children to contribute whether small or big contribution for our country in future. For
example, as a student you play a crucial role in the future of humanity and in our country. The
more you learn about a human the more you will know about his condition right now and how

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he should be in future. Because you are the future, you can design it as your wish. If your
design of future gets acclaimed among others, they will adopt yours. Thus whole humanity
may come under your idea. Humanity is running like hell right now for blood and money. you
can come up with a lively idea to help the society and humankind to live life efficiently in most
possible ways. ignite your intellect. If you learn now what is what, you'll get an idea whether
this society is going upstairs or downstairs, and which one is a better choice for human to live
a better life. If something is going right or wrong in a positive or negative way note it down in
your memory right now. So that you can act accordingly in changing the humanity if you think
it is not good. As a teenager, one thing you should know first of all, 'learning' means to know
something and to have a knowledge of it and 'learning' doesn't mean to adopt something and
have some prejudices, judgements and conclusions about something or someone. Develop
yourself thoroughly, in terms of knowledge, outlook, wisdom etc. Through reading good books
enormously, watching good movies, observing, talking, travelling etc and cultivate great values
in yourself like simplicity, humbleness, trustworthiness, truthfulness etc. So that you will be
able to grow gracefully and contribute more good for the society while growing up. But, all
this things will not happen by depending only on their own but it must be by guidance from
their family, especially from parents. It is very huge role for the parents to be a part in their
children life. Another examples, parents can do anything to their kids as long as it's legal.
Especially for the children above 16th where they start to learn themselves, they really need
guidance from their parents to avoid them from any unhealthy activities such as smoking, drug
abuse and skip from classes.

2.5 Improve moral values

Parents compulsory control their children, at the age of above 16th this is because we can help
the teachers at school to encourages the learning of certain values such as help our children to
being more discipline, respectful and many more moral values. For examples, as we can see at
school, teachers should show students the important of punctuality, good manners and
language, cleanliness and neatness, responsible, consideration and truthfulness in word and etc.
So, to make the children do it as a routine, parents should take part to make their children
practise this moral values at home, so that it will be easy for the children to be more practical.
This kind of thing indirectly teach the students to love themselves and to be a good person in
the future. For example, parents also play a role in monitoring children while using the internet.
This virtual world has no limits, so the internet has its ugliness. Parental monitoring actually
avoids children from accessing pornographic websites, or cyber crimes such as pirating media

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materials, provocative or hacking websites. The actions of the parents are also unknowingly
able to save the home entertainment industry which is often "robbed" by irresponsible people,
including reducing the number of hackers and provocative triggers on the internet that are
becoming increasingly widespread. The children are also saved from being caught in cyber
crimes, which is also one of the offenses that will be subject to crackdown on the criminal acts
of the state. It is therefore obvious that the actions of parents in monitoring children while using
the internet facility can educate them in making use of the internet.

2.6 To cultivate an excellent level of community.

This can be seen when children aged 16th and above are nurtured or guarded by parents with
greater caution, they will be an example of a very brilliant society in the future who are highly
sympathetic in their morality. Parenting supervision is very important for children so that they
are not deflected away from the right track in their daily lives and in the future. For example,
parents need to make exposure to their children in social activities such as community service
activities that being organized by the Ministry of Youth and Sports, this community service
activities if they can continue, it will be the best platform to foster friendship, collaboration and
cultivate hygiene care. According to Dato 'Hj. Mohd Zolkafly bin Hj. Aaron, this kind of
activities can not be held on a seasonal basis but should be regularly organized so that good
relationships between communities remain preserved. "In addition to being environmentally
clean, it can also foster a sense of unity and cooperation among all parties," he said. Therefore,
if parents give exposure to their children about such activities, they can instill a high moral
values a little bit in themselves and if this kind activities it will be indirectly avoid them to join
any bad activities that are unhealthy and if this continuous, they are no longer involved in any
bad activities and will alleviate the unhealthy socials problem nowadays. Community activities
and healthy living practices should be held on an ongoing basis as it can be the best platform
to foster friendship, collaboration and cultivate hygiene care. As a result, the role of parents is
very important in the lives of their children to nurture the children's personality, whether they
are below 16th or above 16th.

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3.0 CONCLUSION

The conclusion is, we have to know that there is no wrong for the parents to control the children
above 16th. Ultimately, parents play an important role in educating and nurturing children,
especially at the age of 16th today. However, it all depends on the parents themselves, whether
wise or not educating children in helping children to be useful people in the future in their daily
lives. Nevertheless, we should not expect the role of parents alone because clapping of hands
will not sound. Therefore, the government's actions take various steps in ensuring that various
activities or programs are to be carried out to attract teenagers to help parents in addressing
social issues in a way that is not widespread and should be given more attention today.
Preventing it is better than treating it, if all parties start to act from the beginning, the problems
among adolescents can be overcome and indirectly create a society that is not problematic in
the future and indirectly, our country will be filled with generations useful and forward thinking
generation.

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