Shmirat Halashon and Digital Media Use
Shmirat Halashon and Digital Media Use
Shmirat Halashon and Digital Media Use
Goals:
USYers will examine Shmirat Halashon and Lashon Hara from a different
angle, through social interaction online
USYers will recognize the power of speech through digital media use and
examine the importance of the Jewish value of Shmirat Halashon from a
digital media standpoint. (it’s is what you say but also HOW it is said).
Objectives/Enduring Understanding:
USYers will understand that Shmirat Halashon applies to all forms of
communication
USYers will understand that the negative things they “say” (Lashon Hara),
while online are permanent. Words can be forgotten but anything online
can be traced and never retrieved.
USYers will understand that the mitzvah of Shmirat Halashon must also
be translted into today’s terms through “Shmirat Ha’etzbaot,” as what you
type is the same as what you say but even worse as it can reach millions
of people and can often never be retrieved
Read to Kadimaniks (not that they can’t read, it’ll just go smoother!)
Once upon a time, there was a man who said unkind things to his neighbors about the town's
rabbi. Later, he felt very sorry for what he had done. He begged the rabbi for forgiveness. The
rabbi agreed … if the man would cut open a feather pillow and shake its contents into the
wind. The man did as the rabbi asked and, as he did, the feathers scattered everywhere. Some
went over the houses. Others were carried down the street by the wind. Some were tossed into
bushes and still others seemed to disappear entirely. "Now will you forgive me?" asked the
man. "Yes, I will forgive you," answered the rabbi, "as soon as you gather up all of the
feathers." "But that's impossible!" cried the man, pointing to rooftops and streets and bushes
and trees. "Exactly,” responded the rabbi. “When we speak badly about someone, the damage
spreads just like the feathers, far and wide. It is impossible to fully take back what we have
said."
Riddle: What are some of the most dangerous words in the English language
today? Send, Reply all, post or click
Lashon Hara can be translated as: ‘Improper speech.’ But what types of speech
can be considered “improper” in terms of communicating with others?
Ask for a 6 volunteers to come up and each read one of the following statements with
expression:
“Daniel did the dumbest thing today in gym class” – These types of comments
are derogatory statements
“Shira’s in a mad mood because her parents are getting a divorce” – This is
considered a damaging statement
“my dad is the president of his company and can get us any concert tickets
we want because he’s really important.” -telling a lie or falsehood
“He’s not going to go out with her. He’s smart and she’s so dumb.” -Belittling
How many of you have said and heard remarks like this? (likely on a daily basis)
These are typical statements teens make when talking about others. They’re
hurtful and harmful but can have even greater effects when made online.
What does Judaism have to say about remarks like the above?
Hand out source packets and turn to the page entitled: Watch ‘Yo
Mouth/Watch Those Fingers!
Go through each text as a group and the discussion questions. Focus on the first
text to keep the discussion within the framework of digital media usage.
Lashon hara isn’t just about gossip or slander- it’s any improper or negative
speech that could be hurtful or harmful. And in today’s world, it’s not just what is
verbally expressed but also what can be typed.
While online, we need to be very aware of Lashon Hara and practice the mitzvah
of Shmirat Halashon or guarding the tongue. In terms of internet usage, we can
translate guarding our tongue to guarding our fingers. What you type is the
same thing as what you say but even worse because it get spread like fire
and can never be retrieved.
Split the group into 4 smaller groups. Assign a scenario to each group.
Instructions are to figure out:
a) identify the issues
b) how it applies to Lashon Hara and Shmirat Halashon and
c) to imagine yourself in the situation in front of the computer and act out
your response.
Shmirat Halashon Scenarios
Tear along the dotted line and give one to each group
Two girls from your chapter/region were placed on your USY on Wheels bus Bus.
One of your group members starts a Bus A Facebook page prior to the summer
so the group can “meet each other” and post messages before the trip. One
night, you’re online and you see that one of the girls has posted nasty rumors
about the other one on the message board. Everyone has been responded either
laughing it off, in support of the arguments or general comments.
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You can home from a party where inappropriate behavior was taking place (could
be anything). You saw someone you know really behaving badly. You come
home, it’s past midnight, but you want to email you friend to tell him about your
night and share some cell phone shots you took- he’ll otherwise never believe
you!
You could take two approaches to this situation. What are they?
One approach could be okay and keep you and people involved safe. The
other could have really negative consequences. Choose one to act out to
demonstrate what could be done or what should be done
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Situation 3:
Your chapter/region has a Facebook page. Following convention, your
communications VP asks for submissions of stories, pictures and memories to
submit to the regional FB page. You have tons of great pictures so you upload an
album and send it in. What you didn’t realize was there were some very
embarrassing and inappropriate photos of you and your friends that were just on
your digital camera. The communications VP didn’t notice them, so now they’re
online!
Although they can be instantly removed, they may have already been
viewed by others and saved. Therefore, you’re receiving messages from
others commenting on the photos. What can you do to stop or prevent the
Lashon Hara and ask your friends to practice Shmirat Halashon?
How can you prevent common mistakes like this? Or another one like
sending a text message to the wrong person?
Situation 4: Terrible Texting
You don’t get along with a girl who goes to your school. You’re not sure why, but
she seems to have a problem with you. She starts sending you mean text
messages and slowly but surely, the text messages become as frequent as all
hours of the day and night. She’s driving you crazy and keeping you awake at
night. Cyberbullying has taken over your every thought as she torments you
without a single other person knowing.
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Kadima on next page… (3 groups)
Shmirat Halashon Scenarios (Kadima)
Group 1:
You were invited to a friend’s birthday party and received a MASS email from
someone you all know badmouthing the birthday girl and saying things like “don’t
go to her party, it’s going to suck…” It goes on and says more negative comments
about the person and her house.” You have a number of choices of what to do with
this email. What are they are what makes you think twice about what you would
do?
● How can you apply Shmirat Halashon to what you do online?
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Group 1:
There’s a new social networking site and you’re excited to use it. You set up a fake
persona and decide to completely “reinvent” yourself as someone new. You take
pictures of yourself in silly costumes, dressed up in makeup or in different “roles,”
make up creative stories but post your own email address and phone number, You
start getting weird phone calls but don’t think anything of it.
● What is the danger here? What could you do?
● If you want to express yourself creatively online, how could you do it safely?
Should you parents see everything you post about yourself? Should teens have
privacy online or should there be supervision of some kind? Would you let you
mom/dad see what you post about yourself or would it embarrass you? How can
you apply Shmirat Halashon to what you do online?
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Group 3:
You make a new friend in chat room and he seems really cool- he’s the same age as
you, also plays tennis like you do and even likes the same bands as you. You live
near each other and decide to hang out after school one day. You tell your mom
about this and she freaks out. What’s the big deal about making new friends?
You’ve become really close and have shared a lot about each other. You’re excited
to finally meet and hang out and your mom is being a “party pooper.”
● What could be your mom’s “problem?” What issues or dangers could there be
here?
● You share a lot of information in a chat room you would never normally share
with a stranger. Online, it is unusual to practice Shmirat Halashon- we usually let
it all out because we are in the comfort of our own homes. Once people find out
information about you though, it’s out there for all to see and know. Knowing
this, how would you respond to the situation and your mom?
Step 6: Discuss the Activity
Reassemble as a large group and present the scenarios
Discussion questions:
First of all, do any of these situations sound familiar? Have any of you
ever been in any sort of situation dealing with “Lashon Hara” online?
Who is affected by online Lashon Hara? What are the consequences
Reiterate the text from the Talmud: “It has been said that Lashon Hara
(disparaging speech) harms three people: the person who speaks it, the person
who hears it, and the person about whom it is told.”
How is online Lashon Hara different from disparaging speech that is said
in the hallways at school?
How can you prevent the consequences of online Lashon Hara? How can
you practice the mitzvah of “Shmirat Ha’etzbaot” (guarding your fingers-
ie. Watching what you type), a new form of Shmirat Halashon while still
enjoying social networking and digital media use?
As you go through each scenario, make sure to reinforce what steps could
be taken to deal with the situation and what could have been done to
prevent it.
Reiterate any suggestions made. Make a list of ways to be cautious with our
words while online with the group. Ask them to really think about taking these
steps
It is indeed still human nature to gossip, we know that. Teens in particular say
and do terrible things to each other online because they don’t see the direct
effects of their actions (security by ambiguity). So what should you do if you’re a
victim? What should you do to prevent being a victim or perpetrator of digital
Lashon Hara and practice Shmirat Haslashon/Shmirat Ha’etzbaot, this new form
of watching what we say but also watching what we type while online to minimize
consequences, hurt feelings and painful consequences?