STIR UP: BUILDING THE BEST SELF ONE STEP AT A TIME

SESSION ONE: ME, MYSELF AND I Outline and Instructional Module

Materials Needed:
THEME 1. Speaker
The theme of this module is self-discovery. This is 2. Microphone
first of a series of module for Character Building. 3. Projector
Character is not built without first knowing one self. 4. Laptop/Tablet/Iphone
5. Audio-Visual Presentation: Just the Way
OBJECTIVES You Are (B. Mars)
Through this learning experience, we aim to:
1. Allow the participants to reflect and look at Key Note:
themselves, listening to what others say 1. Facilitators should get the attention of the
about them, thus exploring themselves students.
from how they and others see his or her 2. This part should set and prepare the mood of the
self.; students.
2. Allow the participants to appreciate and
value themselves as who they are; Procedure:
3. Discover and learn more about their 1. ORIENT the students regarding the schedule
strengths and weakness through knowing and the house rules.
their temperaments and personality types; 2. WELCOME the students by singing the song
4. Allow the participants to understand that JUST THE WAY YOU ARE by Bruno Mars.
they are created according to the image 3. OPEN the activity through a prayer. Ask the
and likeness of God. student to be silent and assume meditative
position. Facilitator leads the prayer.
SESSION ONE AT A GLANCE 4. ANIMATE the group through action songs.
1:00PM – Animation, Welcome, Orientation,
Expectation and Contributions,
Introduction and Individual Reflections
1:15PM – PART I: The Me I Never Knew
PART 1: THE ME I NEVER KNEW
1:45PM – PART II: Who Am I 1:15PM
2:30PM – PART III: Self Battle
3:00PM – PART IV: My Self and Others ACTIVITY 1.1 HEART CUT-OUTS 5 MINUTES
The participants are invited to reflect on their life
ENVIRONMENT experiences as they discover what they think and
The environment for this afternoon should be very what others think of themselves.
simple and set a prayerful tone before the session
ends. Classroom set up will be observed inside the Materials needed:
area. 1. AVP: Just the Way You Are
2. Heart Cut-Outs broken into two with paired
numbers written at the back.

GATHERING STEP Key Note:

1. Discover what you think of yourself.
ORIENTATION 1:00PM 2. Discover what others think of you.

Objective: Procedure:
The objective of this activity is to orient the 1. Pass around heart cut-outs to the
participants on what will happen in the activity and participants.
allow them to recognize their acquaintances. 2. Go around while the song is playing.
Whenever the music stops, find a partner,
exchange heart cut-outs and write your first

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 impression. (Note: positive impression.) Do INPUT 1.1 JOHARI’S WINDOW
this seven times. 15 MINUTES
3. After seven impressions are listed in the
heart cut-out, let the participants check the In this part, the participants are encouraged to be
attributes they think is true and asterisk the aware of themselves by starting to sense and
attributes they don’t expect that they have. experience their true nature. One of the major
4. Find the other half of your heart cut-out obstacles to experiencing the true nature is our
and share the attributes that you don’t unawareness of certain unconscious thought and
expect you have. habit patterns that keep us feeling separate from
life and from our true source.
PROCESSING 1.1 THE ME I NEVER KNEW
7 MINUTES Materials:
1. SLIDESHOW: The Johari’s Window
Materials needed:
1. Projector Outline:
2. POWERPOINT: The Me I Never Knew I. Johari’s window was developed by
Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham with the
Song Lyrics: idea of:
THE ME I NEVER KNEW a. Allowing the individuals to build
Scott Walker trust between themselves by
disclosing information about
The me I never knew themselves, and
Begin to stir sometime this morning. b. Learn about themselves and come
The me I never knew to terms with personal issues with
Appeared without a word of warning. the help of feedback from others.
You smiled and you uncovered, II. THE JOHARI’S WINDOW
What I have not discovered.
You made me, seethed me
I never knew.

The me I never knew

Has learned to love and love the feeling.
The me I never knew
Can see a world I’ve been concealing.
Today a new song’s playing
The words are simply saying,
“From now, I’ll be the me, I never knew.”

Procedure:
1. Flash the song lyrics on the screen and
allow the participants to identify the
word/line/phrase/sentence in the song that III. The OPEN/PUBLIC ARENA relates to
stuck them most. Why? things known to myself and others. For
2. Let them share it with their partner, each example a person’s height, eye color
for 30 seconds. and occupation all fall under the open
3. Ask two participants to share their insights area. The more you know about
to the group. yourself and the more you reveal to
others, the larger your open arena.
Communication is open, with minimal
defensiveness.
IV. The BLIND SPOT is the window showing
the things other people know about
me, but which I don’t know about
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 myself; it is sometimes called the “babd
breath” window. Also included here
may be such things as physical
PART 2: WHO AM I
mannerisms and certain personality 1:45PM
characteristics (ex person who gets
angry quite easily but sees him/herself ACTIVITY 2.1 I AM
as a calm individual). 5 MINUTES
V. The FAÇADE/HIDDEN AREAN relates to
things I know about myself, but other Materials needed:
people don’t know, which means I wish 1. I AM CHECKLIST
to keep them hidden; this is the
“skeleton” in the closet window. It has Procedure:
to do with our personal, private self, 1. Give each participant a copy of I AM
and includes our opinions, attitudes and Checklist.
biases. How much we keep hidden 2. Shade the circle beside the word that best
depends on how close we are to people describes you.
we trust. Included in the façade window CHURCH ⃝ ⃝ MALL
may be such things as previous bad SPECTATOR ON THE SIDE ⃝ ⃝ PLAYER IN THE GAME
school or work, bad experiences, TINY CANDLE ⃝ ⃝ POWERFUL SPOTLIGHT
unwanted personality traits and HOMEBODY ⃝ ⃝ NEVER AT HOME
LIBRARY ⃝ ⃝ AMUSEMENT PARK
negative reactions towards other THINKER ⃝ ⃝ TALKER
person. FLOWER VASE ⃝ ⃝ LARGE TREE
VI. The UNKNOWN WINDOW relates to AUDIENCE ⃝ ⃝ PERFORMER
things neither I nor the other person BEAR IN A CAVE ⃝ ⃝ GOAT IN A HERD
know about me – things which are LESS INTERACTION ⃝ ⃝ FRIEND OF ALL
WRITE TOTAL INSIDE → ⃝ ⃝
usually hidden in the unconscious exists
because we occasionally act out certain 3. Count the circles you made in column A and
behaviors and have trouble tracing back in column B. If you have a higher score in
the reasons for them. CHANGE IN THE column A, you are most probably an
BLIND AND HIDDEN AREAS IS POSSIBLE Introvert. If your column B has more
THROUGH REVELATION AND FEEDBACK. choices, you are most probably an
Extrovert.

INPUT 2.1 INTROVERT, AMBIVERT, EXTROVERT

15 MINUTES

Materials needed:
1. SLIDES: Introvert, Ambivert, Extrovert

Input:
1. Introverts
a. Introverts get their energy from
being alone – that does not mean
they have no friends.
b. They feel drained by a lot of social
interaction or crowd. Hates noise,
interruptions and big groups.
c. Prefer quiet solitude, time to think
before speaking or acting and
building relationships and trsut one-
on-one.
d. Between 33% and 50% of us are
more introvert than extrovert.
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 e. Have the tendency to sit in a corner 3. Share to the big group these features and
and ponder on things thoroughly tell them the reason why it is the ideal
before making a decision. feature you wish to have.
2. EXTROVERT
a. They get their energy from being ACTIVITY 2.3 MAGIC BOX
around with other people but does 10 MINUTES
not mean that they “love people.”
b. Qualities of self-confidence in social Materials:
settings, assertiveness and social 1. Two (2) boxes with cover and mirrors inside
involvement. 2. AUDIO: Blossom dance instrumental music
c. Extrovert tends to smile and wave,
doesn’t mind being the center of Keynote:
attraction. 1. Each of us was created perfectly by God and
d. An extrovert may be incredibly you don’t need to change something in you out
difficult to know because their of God’s creation because you are who you are.
“public face” is different from their 2. We will only change for better and stop doing
“intimate face” something that ruins God’s creativity.
3. AMBIVERT
a. They are inward-looking and Procedures:
outward-looking persons. They 1. Introduce the Magic Box to the participants.
enjoy being themselves and being 2. Invite two participants to volunteer and
with others. open the box to see their perfect “ME”
3. Once the participants a have seen their
ACTIVITY 2.2 THE ME THAT IS NEVER ME perfect “ME” inside the box, let them cover
5 MINUTES the box again and let them go back to their
seats silently and don’t let them share what
Materials needed: they have seen until all the participants
1. Paper doll cut out were able to see what is inside the box.
2. Ballpen
Processing (Input):
1. I am the most perfect person because I was
created by God.
2. God made me unique and he has given me
something (talents, skills, etc) because He is
all-good.
3. Most of the time I cannot appreciate my
own giftedness because I always focus on
what others have that I don’t have and I
wish to have.

Procedure:
1. Choose a paper doll cut out according to
your sex.
2. With the paper doll cut out, draw or write
on it the physical or internal features or the
name of the person with the physical or
internal features ideal for them. Example,
hair = curly, face = Brad Pitt, stomach = abs,
mind = Einstein.

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 ourselves, we shall find it hard to make
friends with others and even with God.
PART 3: SELF BATTLE 3. Our challenge to achieve the best of us can
2:15PM be summarized in three great commands:
a. KNOW YOURSELF
ACTIVITY 3.1 I AM i. Self-knowledge means:
10 MINUTES - Knowing what one can
do
Materials needed: - Knowing what one
1. AUDIO: Reflective Music cannot do
2. AVP: Tale of Two Wolves - Knowing what one can
3. Strips of paper with written examples of ought to do
negative characteristics b. ACCEPT YOURSELF
i. Self-acceptance comes
Procedure: next. Don’t wear a mask! Be
1. Scatter the strips of paper where weak yourself. When we accept
characteristics are written, example bully, ourselves, we are not afraid
easily frustrated, low self-esteem, etc. of what others may sasy
2. Let the participants approach the negative about us. Remember the
characteristics and list down top three Heart cut outs? How many
negative characteristics they have. Audio is of us willingly accepted the
being played until end of sharing. comments of our
3. Once all participants have listed three, they companions? It is certainly
have to go back to their partner and share helpful that we learn to be
why they think they have those open to our inner and
characteristics. outer experiences, to our
4. After the activity, play the video Tale of past, present and future, to
Two Wolves. our strengths and
weaknesses.
INPUT 3.1 UNDERSTANDING AND VALUING c. BE YOUR SELF
SELF i. Self-fulfilment is the result
15 MINUTES of growth. We must grow
and become the best of
Materials: what we are. Don’t let our
1. SLIDESHOW: Understanding and Valuing physical features hinder the
Self growth of our abilities. We
should look ahead to do our
Outline: best to become the best.
1. We are experiencing all types of changes: In
our bodies, our feelings, our mind or
intelligence, our relationship with others,
and also in our friendship with God.
2. Because of all these different changes, we
are often lost and confused. We realized
that we no longer understand ourselves.
This is a good time to start knowing
ourselves better. When we are able to
discover, that is, our self-identity (who I am,
my true self), then, we can more easily
accept, develop and master ourselves. Then
we are assured of living our lives to the full.
But if we are not able to know and accept

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