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Dharma so they would live well in a challenging modern era.
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Swami Chidananda Saraswati the individual reader to live up to it. ¶I warmly con-
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Society, Rishikesh, India for this gift to 21st-century mankind and wish the
All the Hindus of our global book the widest possible circulation that it richly de-
Hindu brotherhood are verily serves. May God bless you. Aum Namah Sivaya.
indebted to Satguru Sivaya Su-
bramuniyaswami for his super Karan Singh, Ph.D.
compendium of Hinduism, so Member of Parliament
(Rajya Sabha), former Indian
carefully compiled, classified, carefully arranged, ed-
Ambassador to the US,
ited and published. Today it can be unhesitatingly Chancellor of the Banaras
proclaimed that he is a genius of Hinduism. He has Hindu University and son of
put millions under a deep debt of gratitude by his un- Kashmir’s last Maharaja,
precedented literary work. This marvelous practical New Delhi, India
guidebook is a most comprehensive and almost com- With the publication of Living with Siva, Hinduism’s
plete summary. True, books have been produced to Contemporary Culture, Sri Sivaya Subramuniya-
present to the public knowledge of our religion, but swami has completed a remarkable trilogy which
most of them have been limited in scope. ¶This sec- includes Dancing with Siva and Merging with
ond edition of Living with Siva is a super publication Siva. These three volumes taken together comprise
which will doubtlessly girdle the globe. Once upon a rich and invaluable source of inspiration for Hin-
a time the saying that was current declared, “The dus around the world. Written with great depth of
sun never sets upon the British Empire.” Even so, the thought, clarity of exposition and based upon his
light of Hinduism will never stop shining all over the personal experience, these volumes should find an
world as long as this great book remains in circula- honored place in Hindu homes around the world.
tion. The very praiseworthy feature of this book from In addition, they are a valuable source material for
the Hindu Monastery of Kauai is the interesting way studies in Hinduism and comparative religion and
it has been presented in four parts and in the form will, therefore, be of considerable value for universi-
of 365 lessons for a systematic perusal which makes ties, academic institutions and public libraries around
for easy reading. Satguru Sivaya Subramuniyaswami the world. I warmly commend this book to all seekers,
has broken new ground and become a pioneer in the students and sadhakas around the world.
field of religious and socio-cultural literature, even as
Sir Edmund Hillary and the renowned Sherpa Tensing Swami Asimatmananda
Norkay in the field of mountaineering and scaling of for Srimat Swami
Ranganathanandaji,
unscaled peaks. Nevertheless, inspite of the greatness
President of the Belur
of this achievement, it is inspiring to note his great Ramakrishna Math and Mission,
humility as a chela, or disciple, of his worshipful guru, West Bengal, India
Satguru His Holiness Sri Siva Yogaswami of Jaffna, Sri
Lanka, who was a living guru even till the year 1963
when he attained mahasamadhi. ¶What greatly en- Maharaj found the praise of Siva presented in the
hances the value of Living with Siva is that its pages book very inspiring. He himself has been a devotee of
do not merely constitute a learned dissertation upon Siva from his boyhood days when he regularly used
a subject, but rather they address themselves to the to visit the beautiful cave temple of Siva in the village
reader, i.e. the devout religious minded Hindu indi- of his birth. Maharaj hopes that Living with Siva will
vidual living his life in the framework of Hindu society inspire many people in their devotion to Siva. Maha-
as well as human society as a whole and carrying on raj conveys his love to Satguru Sivaya Subramuniyas-
his daily duties and activities as a brahmachari, or a wamiji as also to all other mathavasis of the Hindu
grihastha, or a retired vanaprasthi, or as a monas- Monastery at Kauai. He remembers his meeting with
tic sannyasin even, in the true spirit of Saivism and Satguru Yogaswami, whom he had visited along with
of Hinduism. The ideals of all four of these stages, or the late Swami Prematmanandaji, the then Head of
ashrams, just mentioned are brought and presented the Ramakrishna Mission, Colombo, during one of his
in a nice manner so as to constitute a guideline for visits to Jaffna, many years ago.
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Cover Art: Artist S. Rajam depicts life in a South Indian riverside village. Under Lord Íiva’s
blessed gaze, children play near a tulsi tree shrine, a cowherd brings his animals from the forest,
women draw water at the well, and families carry on their household duties.

Ga∫eßa Dancing: Famed Indian artist Indra Sharma paints a gleefully dancing and somewhat
portly Lord Ga∫eßa to bless the book’s opening, mimicking in earthy tones the stone carving
style of images found on temple walls throughout India.

Half Title Page: S. Rajam takes us inside a shrine room where husband and wife are worship-
ing a crystal Íivaliˆga. He passes the flame and will soon set the Liˆga on a metal base, as she
prepares to bathe Íiva with fresh water. Both have Íiva alive in their hearts.
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Dedication
Samarpa∫am
samapa*Nama<
URSTING FORTH ON THE POWER OF DIVINE INSPI-
RATION, LIVING WITH ÍIVA WAS WRITTEN FOR THE
BENEFIT OF THE HIGHEST ATTAINMENT, PARAÍIVA,
FOR ALL OF ÍIVA’S FOLLOWERS. WE DEDICATE THIS
PROCLAMATION OF CULTURE TO SATGURU SIVA YO-
gaswami (1872-1964) and to all who preceded him in the holy Kailâsa
Paramparâ. We have received the blessings and authorization from Lord
Ga∫eßa to proceed at a very special time in a very special way. We have
received the power, the lightning flash, from Lord Murugan and His per-
mission to proceed. May all souls live in the Grace of our Supreme God
Íiva—creator, preserver and destroyer of all that is good, bad, confused
and indifferent, the source of grace, the author of dharma, the giver of
all good things, the light and love of the world—who has always, does
always, will always spread His goodness and glory everywhere. The spirit
of Living with Íiva was succinctly conveyed 2,200 years ago by weaver
saint Tiruvalluvar in the following verses from his famed ethical scripture,
the Tirukural:
Attach yourself to Him who is free from all attachments. Bind your-
self to that bond so that all other bonds may be broken (350).
It is said that all good things are natural to those who know their
duty and walk the path of perfect goodness (981).
Love, modesty, propriety, kindly look and truthfulness—these are the
five pillars on which perfect goodness rests (983).

Indra Sharma captures the powerful grace of Satguru Siva Yogaswami of Jaffna, Sri Lanka
(1872-1964). He is proudly bearing the three lines of holy ash that every Íaivite honors and a
simple, hand-woven cloth which he always wore.
TABLE OF CONTENTS vii

Contents
Vishayasûchî
ivaSayasaUcaI
Dedication—Samarpa∫am . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . v
Author’s Introduction—Granthakâra Bhumikâ . . . . . . . . . . . . xiii
The Master Course—Pradhâna Pâ†hyakrama˙. . . . . . . . . . . . . xix
Hindu Family Life—Hindu G®ihastha Dharma˙ . . . . . . . . . . xxv
For World Peace, Stop the War in the Home . . . . . . . . . xxxix
PART ONE: DANCING JOYOUSLY
chapter . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . page
1 See God Everywhere . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3
2 Noninjury and Truthfulness . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17
3 Nonstealing and Other Virtues . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 29
4 Compassion, Honesty and Diet . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43
5 Purity and Remorse . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 55
6 Contentment and Giving . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 69
7 Faith and Worship . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 81
8 Scriptural Study and Cognition . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 95
9 Vows, Incantation and Austerity . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 109
10 Celibacy and Fidelity . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 121
11 Physical, Mental, Emotional Foods . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 133
12 Chemical Chaos . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 145
13 Discipline for Self-Transformation . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 157
14 The Meditator . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 171
15 Obstacles to Meditation . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 183
16 Harnessing Willpower . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 195
17 Life Is Meant to Be Lived Joyously . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 207
18 The Power of Penance . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 221
PART TWO: LIVING DHARMICALLY
19 The Hand that Rocks the Cradle Rules the World . . . . . . . . . . 239
20 Her Power, Her Domain . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 251
21 Marriage and Family Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 263
22 Family Togetherness . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 275
23 The Wisdom of Early Marriage . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 289
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24 Modern Matchmakers . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 303

25 Divorce and Abuse . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 315
26 Bringing Up Children . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 327
27 Positive Discipline . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 339
28 Teenage Trials . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 353
29 Language that Hurts . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 367
30 Bribery and Bad Money . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 381
31 What about Computers?. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 393
32 Adultery and Pornography . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 405
33 Birth, Abortion and Suicide . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 417
34 Old and Gray . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 429
35 Beyond Death, Astral Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 443
PART THREE: MERGING COURAGEOUSLY
36 The Joys of Hinduism . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 461
37 Duty and Destiny. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 473
38 The Wheel of Karma . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 487
39 To Do No Harm . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 499
40 War and Peace . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 513
41 The Power Called Forgiveness . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 527
42 Nurture Gratitude, Be Considerate . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 539
43 Zero Tolerance for Disharmony . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 553
44 Why We Need Religion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 567
45 Palaces of the Gods . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 579
46 Sending Prayers to the Gods . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 591
47 The Spirit of the Guru . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 603
48 Íiva’s Monastics . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 617
49 Passing On Our Heritage . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 631
50 Íaivite Culture. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 645
51 Hindu Solidarity . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 659
52 Stand Strong for Hinduism . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 675
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PART FOUR: HINDUISM’S NANDINÅTHA SËTRÂS

Introduction . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 693
Section 1: Right Living
sûtras . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . page
1-5 The Purpose of Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 698
6-10 Facing Life’s Challenges . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 699
11-15 Yoga in Action . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 700
16-20 The True Values of Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 701
21-25 Spiritual Disciplines . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 702
26-30 Personal Disciplines . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 703
31-35 The Nature of God . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 704
36-40 The Nature of Souls and World . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 705
41-45 Evil and Expressions of Faith . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 706
Section 2: Ethics
46-50 Yamas: Ten Classical Restraints . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 710
51-55 Niyamas: Ten Classical Observances . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 711
56-60 Ahiμsâ, the Foremost Discipline . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 712
61-65 Regrettable Exceptions to Ahiμsâ . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 713
66-70 Reverence for the Environment . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 714
71-75 Self-Control . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 715
76-80 Worldly Activities . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 716
Section 3: The Family Path
81-85 Instructions for Men . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 720
86-90 Instructions for Husbands . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 721
91-95 Instructions for Women . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 722
96-100 Instructions for Wives . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 723
101-105 Instructions for the Widowed . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 724
106-110 Instructions for the Unmarried . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 725
111-115 Arranging Marriages . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 726
116-120 Sustaining Marriages . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 727
121-125 About Divorce . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 728
126-130 Hospitality . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 729
131-135 Household Ethics. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 730
136-140 Raising Worthy Children . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 731
141-145 Preserving Family Unity . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 732
146-150 Preparing Youth for Adult Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 733
151-155 Duties of Young Adults . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 734
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156-160 About Wealth. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 735

161-165 God’s Money . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 736
166-170 Guidelines for Business . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 737
171-175 Politics and Vocation . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 738
176-180 Edicts for Parliamentarians . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 739
181-185 Edicts for Scientists . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 740
Section 4: Personal Life
186-190 Diet and Food . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 744
191-195 Health and Exercise . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 745
196-200 Tobacco and Drugs . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 746
201-205 Alcohol . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 747
206-210 The Four Stages of Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 748
211-215 Approaching Death. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 749
216-220 Death’s Aftermath . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 750
Section 5: Spiritual Interaction
221-225 Respect for Saints and Dignitaries . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 754
226-230 Social Injunctions . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 755
231-235 Interfaith Harmony . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 756
236-240 Avoiding Alien Influences . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 757
241-245 Devotion to the Satguru . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 758
246-250 Working with the Satguru . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 759
251-255 In the Satguru’s Presence . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 760
Section 6: Religious Culture
256-260 Temples and Priesthood . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 764
261-265 Weekly Gatherings . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 765
266-270 New Members . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 766
271-275 Coming Home to Íaivism . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 767
276-280 Detractors and Adversaries . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 768
281-285 Raising Sons for the Monastery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 769
286-290 Sacred Scriptures . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 770
291-295 Temple Worship . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 771
296-300 Symbols, Mantras and Names . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 772
301-305 Cultural Accomplishments . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 773
306-310 Spiritual Study . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 774
311-315 Occultism . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 775
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Section 7: The Monastic Path

316-320 Monastic Holy Orders . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 778
321-325 Monastic Mission . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 779
326-330 Monastic Spirit . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 780
331-335 Monastic Attitudes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 781
336-340 Monastic Restrictions . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 782
341-345 Monastic Personal Care . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 783
346-350 Monastic Travel and Retreat . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 784
351-355 Monastics and the World . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 785
356-360 Instructions for Swâmîs . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 786
361-365 Instructions for Åchâryas . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 787
RESOURCES
Ha†ha Yoga . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 791
Religion’s Dues . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 819

Conclusion—Samâpanam . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 843
Glossary—Íabda Koßa˙ . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 845
Sanskrit Pronunciation—Uçchâra∫am Saμsk®ita . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 895
Index—Anukrama∫ikâ . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 897
Scriptural Bibliography—Íâstrîya Sandarbhagranthasûchî . . . . . . . . . 923
Index of Inspired Talks—Preraka Vârtânukrama∫î . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 925
Colophon—Antyavachanam . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 933
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Author’s Introduction
Granthakâra Bhûmikâ
g‰nTak[ar BaUimak[a
OST PEOPLE THINK OF THEMSELVES AS REMOTE
FROM GOD, BUT THE HIGHEST SOULS ARE LIVING
WITH HIM EVERY DAY, NO MATTER WHAT THEY ARE
DOING. THEY ARE LIVING WITH GOD, WHOM WE
CALL ÍIVA, WHILE WORKING, WHILE DRIVING OR
performing ordinary chores. Íiva is, for these remarkable devotees, closer
than their breath, nearer than their hands and feet. This is the true spiri-
tual life, which recognizes that there is nothing that is not Íiva. Living
with Íiva is Íiva consciousness. The reconciled past releases conscious-
ness into the eternal moment in which we see Íiva as the life and light
within everyone’s eyes. Living with Íiva is living with everyone—every
reptile, fish, fowl, animal and creature, to the very smallest—in a con-
sciousness of the one life force within all of them that sustains this perfect
universe. Truly, God Íiva is everywhere. He is the energy within our mind
manifesting thought. He is the thought thus made manifest. He is the
light within your eyes and the feel within your fingers. God Íiva is the
ignorance which makes the One seem as two. He is the karma, which is
the law of cause and effect, and He is the mâyâ, which is the substance of
evolution in which we become so deeply immersed that we look upon the
outside world as more real than God. God Íiva is all this and more. He is
the Sun, the Earth and the spaces between. He is the revealed scriptures
and those who have scribed the scriptures. He is all who seek the wisdom
of scripture, too.
Íiva dances in every atom throughout this universe. Íiva dances ener-
getically, ceaselessly, eternally. Íiva is perpetual movement. His mind is
all-pervasive, and thus He sees and knows everything in all spheres simul-
taneously and without effort. Íiva is the Self, and He is the energy we
put forth to know the Self. He is the mystery which makes us see Him as
separate from us. He is the energy of life, the power in the wind. He is the
dissolution called death, the peace of motionless air. He is the great force
of the ocean and the stillness on a calm lake. Íiva is All and in all.
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Our great God Íiva is beyond time, beyond space, beyond form and
form’s creation, and yet He uses time and causes form. He is in the sky, in
the clouds, in the swirling galaxies. Íiva’s cosmic dance of creation, preser-
vation and dissolution is happening this very moment in every atom of
the cosmos. Supreme God Íiva is immanent, with a beautiful human-like
form which can actually be seen and has been seen by many mystics in
visions. Íiva is also transcendent, beyond time, cause and space. Such are
the mysteries of Íiva’s being.
Read the holy scriptures and contemplate their description of our
great God Íiva. They explain who Íiva is. They tell us that Íiva has three
perfections: Paraßiva, Satchidânanda and Maheßvara. As Paraßiva, He is
the Self, beyond time, form and space. As Satchidânanda, He is all-perva-
sive love, light and consciousness flowing through every atom of existence.
As Maheßvara, He is the Primal Soul, the Supreme Being who creates, pre-
serves and destroys what we term existence. They tell us that our Supreme
Being has a body of light and a mind and will that reigns over His cre-
ations. They tell us that Supreme God Íiva created our individual soul,
which is a body of light in which His uncreated mind resides. Lord Íiva’s
mind is called Satchidânanda. It is the all-pervasive, inner state of mind
inherent in every person on this Earth, but to be realized to be known.
In chapter 45 I urge all Íaivites, devotees of God Íiva, to worship Him
as the God of Love and in doing so to become beings of love. The great
saints of our religion were Íiva bhaktas. They changed the world through
their love of God. They did not need vast institutions to spread their mes-
sage. They did not need riches or carts filled with books to spread their
message. They did not need radio, television or the Internet. Their mes-
sage spread because their minds and hearts were filled with direct knowl-
edge, direct experience of God Íiva. Their message spread far and wide,
though some perhaps never left their native village. They just evolved
within it. You, too, are emissaries of God Íiva, and your love for Him is
your greatest message. Simply love God Íiva and let that love radiate out
into the world.
In those days, Íaivites, well schooled in knowledge of God Íiva, did
not fear alien religious influences entering their minds. They were so
knowledgeable that no amount of adverse propaganda could sway them
away from Íiva. Rather, they converted the Jains back to God Íiva. They
converted the Buddhists back to God Íiva. Such was the strength of the
love of devotees in the old days. In this century, too, Íaivites strong in the
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love of God Íiva are bringing those Íaivites who have strayed into alien
religions back to Íiva’s feet. They are drawing back into Íaivism those
who have been enthralled with Western notions or ensnared in atheistic,
existential doubt. So strong is their adoration for God and their compas-
sion for their fellow Íaivites.
From a psychological point of view, when the subconscious is at odds
with soul qualities, with the basic laws of how we intuitively know what we
should be doing, when the past of unsoulful deeds carries into the pres-
ent, we are not able to live with Íiva. Instead, we are living with humans,
living with problems, living with the conflicting forces of the world.
At this time in the Kali Yuga, ignorance is equally distributed world-
wide, and wisdom has become an endangered species. People are con-
fused as to the performance of their duties, and too often duty is no
longer even taught. It is to liberate seekers after Truth from this confusion
that this book has been written. Forbearance, tolerance and compassion
are not as popular today as they once were and perhaps may be at some
future time when the darkness of ignorance is removed from the hearts
of all people. Therefore, Living with Íiva and its 365 Nandinâtha Sûtras,
translated into many languages for seekers living in various countries,
will play an important part in bringing the best of traditional Hinduism
forward in these modern times.
The first edition of Living with Íiva was addressed to my followers
and did not contain the more than 800 pages of inspired talks that form
the main body of this second edition. It was a book of aphorisms only, an
in-house book of 365 sûtras, written for the large number of Tamil Íaiva
followers from Sri Lanka who had, due to civil war, dispersed all over the
world. As their hereditary guru, it was my duty to revive the standards
that my satguru, Sage Yogaswami, worked so hard to maintain among
their parents and grandparents.
Soon, however, we noticed that Living with Íiva began circulating
among people of all religions and persuasions. The Tamils called it the
“modern Tirukural,” and non-Hindus took it as a lifeline from the past
into the present to hang on to for a better and more productive life. Hav-
ing realized that Living with Íiva had acquired its own identity and gained
its own following of devotees and readers, we added many chapters about
Hindu culture to this second edition.
These 365 sûtras make up Part Four in this second edition, and Parts
One, Two and Three are drawn from my inspired talks, dictations and
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writings given since my international ministry began in 1957 to bring forth

and clarify the dharma, and discuss the issues and problems faced all over
the world in bringing Hinduism, particularly Íaivism, into the techno-
logical age as a system of knowledge, strength and solace to individuals
and families in daily life. Especially potent in dealing with the challenges
facing the modern Hindu were the series of talks I gave in the United
States, Canada, Mauritius, India and Sri Lanka on Renaissance Tours from
1979 to 1983. In the past two decades, excerpts from this collection of talks
on culture have touched the hearts and minds of thousands of seekers
through my Publisher’s Desk column in our international magazine, HIN-
DUISM TODAY. All that is now captured in this book.
Today, and in every era, people young and old do want to discuss
matters of the family. But all too often when questions arise, answers
are avoided or, if given, are irrelevant. It was this urgent need for prac-
tical insights on family-oriented subjects that inspired this book. Here
we frankly answer the eternal inquiries, openly discuss the problems and
boldly show the noble path of dharma for those seeking insights into tradi-
tional ways of life that can and should be lived in these contemporary times.
Many things in the world are wrong, certainly, but they do not have
to be that way, since Hindus do have a traditional, proven way to follow.
We do. It is the ancient Hindu path of the wise ®ishis, so well articulated,
though sometimes too well hidden, in our sacred scriptures. It is not
always easy to discover where this path begins, in what direction it leads
and where it will take us. But once we find the path, we also find answers
to many family-related questions that have troubled us, about which the
old cultures had not only generations of knowledge, but also practical,
sensible solutions. So, we hope you enjoy this modern look at the ancient
Hindu path and find here much to emulate in your own life.
Of course, now, as in ages past, there are those dedicated to being non-
conformist, committed to noncommitment, who discipline themselves
to avoid a disciplined life. This book may confound them, for they do
not understand discipline’s place on the spiritual path. Ardent, convinced
seekers must be tolerant and understanding of the woes and wants of less-
disciplined souls. In the final analysis, it is up to each individual to culti-
vate soul qualities that are already resident within. This is done in a way
similar to how a garden is nurtured along into bud, blossom and beauty.
The weeds and harmful insects must somehow be kept away. There must
be proper light and shade, water and sun. When conditions are right, the
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intended results manifest of their own accord. The teachings expounded

in the pages of Living with Íiva and succinctly codified in the Nandinâtha
Sûtras are similar to what a gardener needs to know to raise his plants
successfully, for the soul is a bud that blossoms, blooms and shines out
its beauty, but only if the conditions are right.
Proceed with confidence. Don’t look back. Fear not what others say
or do. There is a new world tomorrow, and you are a vital part of it. The
yesterdays cannot be adjusted or corrected until we meet them with a new
attitude born of knowledge and wisdom in the tomorrows of our future.
We are bound together by bands of steel, as are all worshipers of our
Supreme Lord Íiva. Following the culture, protocols and admonitions
found in Living with Íiva will keep this bondage happy and rewarding,
thus avoiding the tugs and pulls of impropriety, thus averting the pitfalls
of humanness which can so often bring pain and remorse.
We feel that anyone of any culture, creed or belief can benefit from
reading Living with Íiva, and will in his or her heart of hearts recognize
the valid wisdom herein that has matured through the millennia. We feel
this book will be especially appreciated by the elders of all communities
where a few families are the central, functioning hub, where the head of
the family looks to his kulaguru for advice, to the family priest for cer-
emony and sacraments, where children are raised as dependents until
fully matured, well educated to eventually inherit the family wealth to
maintain the traditions, culture and proprieties as they have been duti-
fully taught.

Love and blessings to you from this and inner worlds,

Satguru Sivaya Subramuniyaswami

162nd Jagadâchârya of the Nandinâtha
Sampradâya’s Kailâsa Paramparâ
Guru Mahâsannidhânam
Kauai Aadheenam, Hawaii
Satguru Pûr∫imâ, July 4, 2001
Hindu year of V®isha, 5103
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The Master Course

Pradhâna Pâ†hyakrama˙
p‰Daana paaQ<ya}a[ma:
RAWN FROM A LIFETIME OF WISDOM GIVEN FORTH
TO SATISFY THE THIRST OF THOUSANDS OF SEEK-
ERS, LIVING WITH ÍIVA, HINDUISM’S CONTEMPO-
RARY CULTURE IS THE SECOND BOOK OF A REMARK-
ABLE TRILOGY. THE FIRST BOOK IS DANCING WITH
Íiva, Hinduism’s Contemporary Catechism, and the third
is Merging with Íiva, Hinduism’s Contemporary Metaphysics. These three
make up a Master Course to be studied daily, 365 days a year. It was in
1957 that the first edition of The Master Course was developed to serve
the needs of devotees who worshiped at our temple, the first Hindu
temple in America. Since then it has taken many forms: as lessons for
personal study, a correspondence course and a series of tape recordings,
twelve in all, recorded in the Guru Pî†ham at Kauai Aadheenam in 1970.
A beautiful children’s course on the Íaivite religion came out of it in
1993; and now, in the year 2001, after two decades of effort, The Master
Course has emerged in its final form as three textbooks, Dancing with
Íiva, Living with Íiva and Merging with Íiva, each with 1,000 or more
pages of information, insight and sâdhanas. The Master Course trilogy is
a detailed summary and explanation of ash†âˆga yoga according to the
traditions of our lineage, the Nandinâtha Sampradâya’s Kailâsa Param-
parâ. Ash†âˆga yoga, also called râja yoga, has eight successive steps, each
one dependent upon the one that precedes it. These eight successive steps
are yama (restraint), niyama (observance), âsana (posture), prâ∫âyâma
(breath control), pratyâhâra (sense withdrawal), dhâra∫â (concentration),
dhyâna (meditation) and samâdhi (contemplation).
Often the uninformed prefer to start on their spiritual path at steps
seven and eight, ignoring the other six, and more than often wonder why
no immediate and lasting results are obtained. Drawing upon over half a
century of teaching and explaining, the trilogy articulates in no uncertain
terms why you must begin at the beginning, with a firm foundation of
philosophical clarity and good character, and proceed from there.
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Dancing with Íiva, the first book of the trilogy, lays out the philoso-
phical, Vedic-Ågamic beliefs, attitudes and expectations of the Íaivite
Hindu religion, which are so necessary to understand, adopt and uphold
in order to make true progress in the areas discussed in the other two
books. Living with Íiva, the second book of the trilogy, concerns itself
with Íaivite lifestyle, culture, family life, character-building and the over-
coming of uncomplimentary habits that disturb others as well as oneself.
It focuses on yama, niyama and, in a lesser way, âsana and prâ∫âyâma
(ha†ha yoga). For the entire system of ash†âˆga yoga to work, a firm phil-
osophical-cultural foundation, as found in Dancing with Íiva and Living
with Íiva, must be subconsciously accepted by the devotee as his own way
of looking at and living life, relating it to experience, solving problems,
approaching worship and so forth. Merging with Íiva, the third book of
the trilogy, encompasses steps five, six and seven, leading to eight, all of
which is personally experiential once we learn to dance with Íiva and live
with Íiva. This means having a good philosophical understanding, a solid
commitment, as well as good character, and living the religion. Upon such
a foundation, the yogic and metaphysical experiences described in Merg-
ing come naturally and are sustainable.
The Master Course trilogy is a daily, lifetime study for my devotees
worldwide to be explored year after year after year, generation after gen-
eration. Through great effort we have summarized this entire study of
more than 3,000 pages into 365 Nandinâtha Sûtras of four lines each that
make up Part Four of Living with Íiva. The Master Course is a life-trans-
forming study organized in 365 daily lessons. Devotees may begin at any
time—and whatever time lesson one is begun is the most auspicious
time—then continue right around the year until 365 lessons are complete.
If you are ready to change your life, begin The Master Course today. If not,
then perhaps tomorrow. There are three ways to study The Master Course:
1) Internet Study; 2) Home Study; and 3) Formal Correspondence Study.
1. INTERNET STUDY: The Internet Study can be begun immediately
at any time. The current lesson of the day is found on the Internet at
www.gurudeva.org in the The Master Course Daily Lesson section. Or
you can receive it via e-mail by sending a message to gurudeva-master
[email protected] The lessons begin on the first day of the
Tamil calendar year, in mid-April, but can be commenced on any day
during the year. You need not wait for day one of the year to roll around.
Start with the current lesson, which might be number 132—and consider
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your year complete when you reach lesson 131. You will find the lessons
filled with philosophical, practical and soul-stirring information potent
enough to inspire even a skeptic to change his ways of thinking about life
and the ultimate goal of existence on this planet. Begin now. Today is the
most auspicious time.
2. HOME STUDY: The Master Course Home Study requires the own-
ership of the three books of the trilogy. Begin your daily reading on any
Monday with Dancing with Íiva, ßloka one and its bhâshya. Then open
Living with Íiva and read Lesson 1. Next, turn to the Nandinâtha Sûtras
in Part Four of Living with Íiva and read the first sûtra. Lastly, open Merg-
ing with Íiva and read the first lesson. Reading each day’s lesson from
the three books takes about twenty minutes. Because there are only 155
lessons (ßlokas and bhâshyas) in Dancing with Íiva, when you complete
lesson 155 of this book, begin again at the beginning. Then, when you
complete the second reading, totalling 310 days, begin again with lesson
one, and continue reading until lesson 55, to coincide with lesson 365 of
Living with Íiva and Merging with Íiva. If you study these lessons each day
for a year, you will have completed a profound sâdhana, a personal odys-
sey into the interior of you and on into the depths of Hinduism, a prac-
tice sufficient to transform your life by transforming the way you look at
life itself. The Master Course trilogy of Dancing, Living and Merging with
Íiva can be enjoyed by the entire family year after year after year, studied
personally and read aloud at breakfast, dinner or in the shrine room after
the morning pûjâ. Proceed with confidence and without delay.
3. FORMAL CORRESPONDENCE STUDY: The Master Course Corre-
spondence Study is for those who seek a personalized, supervised
approach. This is a service offered by Himalayan Academy since 1957. It
requires formal enrollment and qualification, openly describing the goals
one wishes to accomplish and the details of one’s background, education
and experience. Correspondent students are required to purchase the
color edition of all three books. They have access to regular e-mail news
reports, discounts on Innersearch Travel-Study Programs and special
attention when visiting the monastery in Hawaii. E-mail mastercourse@
hindu.org for more information.
A word of advice: There is a strong tendency when a student first
begins meditation to want to give up external things, to give up work
and devote more time to making his meditation the perfect thing. But
this is not the spirit of The Master Course. Many more forces that are
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negative would result from his turning away from the world as possibly
already occurred in his work in the exterior world prior to his ever hear-
ing about meditation. The thrust of The Master Course Correspondence
Study is to improve all aspects of one’s life. Step one is for the student
to prove to himself that he can work positively in the world, performing
his duties with full energy, intuiting how the whole mechanism of life is
constructed—the exterior world, his mind, himself. Then ten, fifteen or
twenty minutes of good, dynamic meditation a day and The Master Course
studies to guide the mind along in a step-by-step manner are more than
sufficient. It comes down to readjusting our thinking and making our
point of reference the reality within ourselves instead of the reality and
permanence of the external world of things, forms and fancy. Once our
whole philosophical structure is in line with Íaiva Siddhânta thinking, it
is easy to throw the mind into meditation. Then when we are working in
our daily life, involved in external things and material affairs, the point of
reference is that the energy within and the core of the energy and the Self
itself are real.
The key is to put more energy into each activity you are engaged in.
Rather than renouncing it, really work at it. Put your whole self in it. Get
enthusiastic about it. Then you are flooding more life force through the
body, right from the center of life itself. Having the Self as a point of
reality reference and not the material things, with the life force constantly
flooding through these nerve currents, you are actually seeing what you
are doing as part of the cosmic dance of Íiva, as the energy of Íiva flows
in and through you. Through this practice you can cut through many of
your deep-rooted subconscious hang-ups that were provoked in past lives
without having them come to the surface, simply by creating a new habit
pattern of facing and looking at yourself as a divine being performing
your dharma in God Íiva’s perfect universe. You create the new habit pat-
terns by doing everything as best you can, with as much forethought and
as much energy as you can command. This approach will bring steady
progress on the path of personal spiritual realization and transformation.
Write or e-mail us for an application to begin the supervised sâdhanas of
The Master Course Correspondence Study. We welcome you. It won’t be
easy, but anything worthwhile is not easy.
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HINDU FAMILY LIFE xxv

Hindu Family Life

Hindu G®ihastha Dharma˙
ihnduga&hsTaDama*:
EADERS OF THE UNITED NATIONS DEDICATED 1994
AS THE INTERNATIONAL YEAR OF THE FAMILY. THEY
WERE SEEKING TO COUNTER A GLOBAL FAILURE OF
THE FAMILY UNIT AND THE BY-PRODUCTS OF SUCH
A BREAKDOWN: CRIME, DELINQUENT YOUTH, DIS-
obedient children, divorce and other household miseries, in other words
the basic problems of social instability. They decided to inquire of the
major religions of the world as to what their views were and are today
on family life, all planned for a multi-lingual United Nations publica-
tion, Family Issues as Seen by Different Religions, a unique vision of family
from the point of view of Jews, Christians, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus
and Baha’is. The UN approached us at HINDUISM TODAY magazine to
define and describe the traditional family values of the Hindu. They also
asked us to describe, honestly, the difficulties Hindus face and how the
Sanâtana Dharma is helping families in these difficult times. In creating
the Hindu chapter to the UN book, we joined forces with two of our HIN-
DUISM TODAY correspondents, Archana Dongre of Los Angeles and Lavina
Melwani of New York. Their comments provide the “voices” of personal
experience interspersed throughout the text. We are happy to include the
resulting article here as an apt prologue to Living with Íiva.

The Hindu View of Family

Here, now, are voices of Hindus sharing their vision of family. Not as
family was lived by their ancestors for three-hundred generations (Hindu
family history extends beyond most, 6,000 years and more). Here we en-
counter the Hindu experience as it exists today in many nations, under
agreeable circumstances and adverse. Here we broadly survey threats to
family integrity in the Hindu community. Then we summon the spiritual
Satguru Sivaya Subramuniyaswami speaks to 1,200 spiritual leaders at the United Nations Mil-
lennium Peace Summit in New York on August 25, 2000. He asked all to “Stop the war in the
home.” Gurudeva holds his UN U Thant Peace Award.
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values which continue to sustain the traditional household and offer a

pledge of well-being for family members and a promise of perpetuation
of cultural ways and wisdoms.
Hindu families all over the world are struggling—some failing, most
succeeding. Our experience is that those most rooted in their Hinduness
cope better and are the better survivors. Hindu households, sheltering
one-sixth of the human race, are being threatened. What if the concept
of family itself were dying? What if the very institution, the cauldron of
our cultural and spiritual consciousness, were struck by some fatal disease
and perished? Who could measure such a tragedy? Who could weep suf-
ficient tears? Yet, that is precisely the path which we are semiconsciously
following, a path leading to the demise of the traditional Hindu family,
the source of our strength, the patron of our spirituality, the sole guaran-
tor of our future.
Is it our fault that the family is disintegrating? Perhaps. Does it por-
tend uncertainty? Be certain that it does. Is it inevitable? Probably not. A
final eulogy for the Hindu family may be premature. Yet this appraisal of
problems may usefully be taken as a warning, a glimpse of the future in
the making that all must heed so none may have to face it. With that in
mind, let us embark on an exploration of some of the Hindu family’s truly
remarkable strengths, some of the most destructive forces arrayed against
it and some of the hopeful signs we have seen of its ability to survive.
A typical case in point: Ramesh is a 25-year-old man from Bangalore,
studying engineering in the US. While at the university, he fell in love with
an American student and would soon marry her. The mother and father
were torn apart by their only son’s decision to marry an “outsider.” To
them it was the undoing of centuries of continuity, a break in the stream
of tradition, a social calamity. Their friends would not understand. Their
life would surely change. Their grandchildren would “be different” in
color, in caste, in culture. Furthermore, the new wife came from another
faith, and the couple declared, “We plan to raise our children in both
faiths and allow them to make their own choices as young adults.” To the
strict-casted parents, this was not a welcome sign of interfaith harmony.
Rather, it was a warning signal ringing to mourn a break in their lineage, a
potential loss of their grandchildren to another religion, another country,
another culture.
There are countless Rameshes and their female counterparts scattered
about the globe. They are part of a growing Hindu diaspora which has
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brought with it the very real threat that many families may not persist,
that in one or two generations all that Ramesh’s grandfather knew and
hoped to pass on would have been discarded and in its place would be
other values or no values, other beliefs or disbeliefs, other ideals, ideolo-
gies and histories. This is a serious concern of millions of families, espe-
cially those living in the West or in urban India. The Hindu community
in Texas told me that eighty percent of its young women are marrying
outside of the Indian tradition, outside of Hinduism.
Or, consider this: Shanti was raised in America as an American, but
her parents were from India. They used to go visiting there when she was
young, but not anymore. Shanti is not comfortable leaving her American
friends to go to a place where she feels she no longer fits in. At the same
time, she feels bad for her father and mother and does not want to hurt
them. In her Texas community, Shanti is frequently mistaken as Hispanic
and has been dating a Mexican American named Juan. One day Shanti
suddenly announced, “Father, I have met someone, and he is wonderful.
We are going to get married.” Father was startled. He yelled, “You are?
Just like that? Married? How long have you been seeing that guy?” Shanti
answered, “Well, I have been meaning to tell you, it’s been over a year.”
The father said, “We had always agreed that you would marry an Indian
boy of good breeding, from a proper family and caste.” “But, Daddy, Juan
and I love each other,” Shanti cried and ran off to her room. She could
be heard weeping softly. Her father sat in a dejected mood. His life was
shattered. He knew only too well what was to come!
The Western materialistic goal is personal fulfillment, while the East-
ern religious ideal is fulfillment of duty—duty to one’s parents, one’s soci-
ety and one’s country, which includes tradition. But when the children of
Eastern families are raised up with Western values, personal fulfillment
overrides duty, passion overrides society, personal freedom overrides tra-
dition and sometimes even country.

Voices: My grandma never tired of reminding us that the Hindu

religion always glorified sacrifice. It was considered heroic to make
sacrifice for the family members. Hindu epics like Râmâya∫a and
Mahâbhârata purport that even great beings like Lord Râma and
noble kings like the Pa∫∂avas had to endure trying circumstances and
make sacrifices. “So what’s wrong if ordinary folks had to make some
sacrifices?” she would say. Parents often make great sacrifices to give
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a good education to their children. Many Hindu parents have gone

hungry to afford quality education for their children. The children
in turn curtail their freedom and luxury when parents grow old and
infirm and need support from the younger generation. A Hindu never
pities a sacrifice, but glorifies it with appreciation. Grandma made
a big point to us about hospitality. She took it as a spiritual duty to
serve guests as if they were God. This helped a lot in tying her com-
munity together and gave the family a loving way to greet the outside
world. If a guest comes to a family, even unannounced, he is invited in
warmly and asked about his well being. He is also served the best food
in the house, even to the extent that family members may go hungry
to ensure that the guest is well fed. Hinduism taught us the love of all
living creatures. At lunch time, my mother would say a silent prayer
and set aside a portion to be fed to the cows. If a hungry man came to
the door at mealtime, he was fed and given a few coins.

It is now too late for the parents to say no to the Shantis and Rameshes
who are driven by youthful emotions, know little about their religion and
are impelled to live in a land where sex is a symbol of prowess, indepen-
dence and esteem. Of course, Shanti and Ramesh did not want to hurt
their parents, but they both did so nonetheless. Their parents are hurting
and so are relatives and friends. These moms and dads will continue to
hurt until they realize that they, without realizing it, relinquished their
parental authority somewhere in the process of raising their children.
Shanti did marry Juan, but not without a lot of trouble, almost too much
for her to bear. First, mother threatened suicide. Her brother started a
fast, though it ended at breakfast a few days later. Dad all but ordered her
out of the house, but stopped short because he really did love her. Slowly,
the parents adjusted, a quiet marriage took place, and with the first child
came a softening of feelings.
Unlike Ramesh’s wife, Shanti’s husband was not affiliated with any
religion. Because of this, he took great pride in attending the nâmakâra∫a,
name-giving sacrament, for his first child. It was a boy! Her grandparents
came from India, and his from Iowa, and all oo’d and awe’d over the beau-
tiful child. Yes, the resulting family was different than all had expected, but
as one insightful youth confronted his parents, “If you didn’t want me to
become an American, why did you bring me to the States?”
There are over 32,000 Indian nationals attending universities in the US
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today. Many are from wealthy families and know little about their religion,
even though their parents may know quite a lot. This is what happened
to Shanti and Ramesh. They know more about rock-and-roll, modern art
and pop superstars than most Westerners, because they are struggling to
fit in. Hindu families continue to leave Indian, Sri Lankan, Nepalese and
other homelands for political, economic and educational reasons. Then,
deprived of traditional support systems, they are faced with profoundly
disturbing problems: teenage crises, violent games, divorce, abortion, sui-
cide, mothers-in-law, dowry, drugs, free sex, paid sex, pornography and
the growing challenges of cross-national marriages like those of Ramesh
and Shanti.

Voices: Growing up a Hindu in India, I found that pleasure and pil-

grimage, religious rituals and daily life were intricately intertwined.
My earliest memories are of sitting with the aged family cook, lis-
tening to tales from the Râmâya∫a and Mahâbhârata. Listening
spell-bound to tales of demons and devas, we absorbed the values
of right and wrong, good and evil. Religion was always associated
with joy and pleasure, never moralistic teaching. Every weekend we
were taken to the beautiful sandstone Birla Mandir—cold marble
below bare feet, the softness of the marigolds and rose petals in our
hands, the smiling faces of K®ish∫a, Íiva and Vish∫u, the harmonium
and cymbals and the sheer faith of hundreds of devotees. Afterwards,
there were joy rides in the temple complex, trinkets and holy pictures
and a cold soda. For us, it was a spiritual Disney World.

Hindus are not free of the crimes of abuse to women and children.
There are thousands of reported cases each year of not just wife abuse,
but of what are called dowry murders. These are cases where a wife is
killed, frequently by burning to make it appear to be a kitchen accident,
when she cannot procure more dowry. Children, too, are needing better
protection in many Hindu communities, from physical battering, sexual
abuse, forced labor, verbal badgering from parents and fellow students,
and corporal punishment at home and in school. And the selective abor-
tion of female fetuses is still practiced in cultures where male children are
preferred for economic and cultural reasons. These problems seriously
threaten the Hindu family in many nations and must be addressed in the
decade ahead.
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Voices: Where I grew up, mothers ruled the house, even though they
did not go out in the olden days to earn. Sisters were respected and
given gifts on at least two religious occasions. The rituals like Râksha
Bandhan and Bhau Bîj are woven around pure love between a brother
and a sister and bonding of that relationship. In the former, the sister
ties a specially made bracelet around her brother’s wrist requesting
him to protect her if need be, and in the latter, the sister does âratî
(a worshipful expression of love and devotion through a tiny lighted
ghee lamp) to her brother, wishing him long life and prosperity. The
brother gives her gifts and sweets on both occasions. The Hindu reli-
gious principles emphasize that women should be respected. A San-
skrit saying goes, “Yâtrâ naryâstu pûjyante, ramante tatra devatah.”
It means that wherever the women are honored, those are the places
where even the Gods rejoice.

How is the Hindu concept of family experienced differently from that

of other faiths? Only in the faiths of India does one encounter the tenet
that we all experience a multitude of families in our journey toward God.
In birth after birth we evolve, our tradition assures. In family after family
we grow and mature and learn. Thus, in the Hindu family we find that the
past and the future are intricately bound together. How intricately? We
know a Sri Lankan family who is certain that their daughter, now nine, is
the father’s deceased grandmother. In this community it is considered a
very great blessing—especially if one has the privilege of being part of a
fine, noble family—for a departed relative to be born again into its midst.
There is a profound intuition that when relatives pass they will return,
perhaps soon and perhaps in the very same home. So, everyone watches
for the telltale signs. How wonderful, the family feels, to care for grandma
as she once cared for us!
Thus, the spiritual insight into rebirth extends the family concept
beyond the present, binding the present to the past, and promising further
continuity with the future. Many Hindu families are aware of such rela-
tionships. Many others will consciously seek to be born into a particular
family, knowing that life there will be fulfilling, secure and high-minded.

Voices: When a married daughter visits her parents’ family, she is re-
vered like a guest but showered with love like a daughter, with bless-
ings and all the nice clothes as well as food the family can give. I had
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such a wonderful homecoming in India after I had lived for many

years in the West. Such a homecoming of a few days is an emotionally
gratifying, soul-satisfying event for the girl, who carries those fond
memories for life.

As an example of the ability of spiritual commitment to help families

endure and do well, consider the experience of Saiva Siddhanta Church,
our relatively small but widespread international Hindu fellowship. For
every 500 families who are devout, practicing members of the fellowship,
there have been only two divorces in the last forty years! In the US, the
norm would have been forty percent, fully 200 fractured families. What
kept those 198 families together when statistically they should have dis-
integrated? In my fifty years of ministry and counseling among Hindu
families, I have concluded that it is their faith, their shared spiritual expe-
rience and goals, their ideals. Husbands and wives will stay together when
they believe the rewards and human potentials are greater than if they
split. And they will remain a kindred unit even more often when their
joint or extended family is open to advice and counsel from one tradition,
when they are firmly committed to one guru, one temple and one body
of scripture.
Hinduism teaches a constellation of principles which, if followed by
husband and wife, make the bold assertion that preserving the marriage
and the integrity of the family holds rewards that far outweigh benefits
they might expect from separation. We work with families on a daily
basis, solving their problems, helping them to individually follow their
path and to mutually work together. Hinduism teaches them the ideals of
dharma, which includes duty, selflessness, virtue and faith. When dharma
is the shared ideal of every family member—as opposed to self-fulfill-
ment or social-economic objectives—it is easier to navigate troubled
waters, easier to persist in seasons of loss or lack, in times of emotional
or mental difficulty.

Voices: Looking back to my early years, it was the scriptures that tied
our family together. I would hear father and grandfather chanting
the Vedic mantras together in the early hours of each day. Everyone
I know held the highest esteem for the Vedas, the very voice of God,
elders would say. I knew they were old, and everyone said they were
profound. But it was not until I was in my teens that I really discov-
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ered the Upanishads. Such beauty, such profundity, such humor and
insight I had never before or since known. I would spend hours with
the texts, talking with my parents and friends, wondering myself how
these men, so many thousands of years ago, had gained all that wis-
dom—more, it seemed to me then, than people had today. Through
the years I have seen so many families whose lives revolve around the
sacred texts. While all honor the Vedas, for some the heart is moved
by the Gîtâ, the epics, the Tirumurai or maybe their own family gu-
ru’s writings composed only decades ago. Whatever texts they are, it’s
quite clear in my experience that sacred texts do much to bind a fam-
ily together in thought.

Then there is faith in karma. The Hindu family believes, in its heart,
that even life’s difficulties are part of God’s purpose and the fruition
of each member’s past karmas. To go through things together is natu-
ral, expected, accepted. Breaking up, divorcing, separating—such reac-
tions to stress don’t resolve karmas that were brought into this life to
go through. In fact, they make things worse, create new, unseemly kar-
mas and thus further need for perhaps even more sorrowful births. The
belief in karma—the law by which our thoughts, words and deeds reap
their natural reactions—helps hold a family together, not unlike the crew
of a storm-tossed ship would never think of jumping overboard when
the going gets rough, but work together to weather the crisis, with their
shared goal lying beyond the immediate difficulty.
Thus, difficult experiences can be serenely endured by the practicing
Hindu. Knowing this in her heart, a Hindu wife in Kuala Lumpur can find
solace in the midst of the death of a child. Knowing this in his heart, a
Hindu father in Bangalore can sustain periods of privation and business
failure. Each finds the strength to go on.

Voices: There is a beautiful word in the Hindi language, shukur,

which means acceptance. Sometimes it’s very hard to accept the cards
life deals one, yet the Hindu belief in the acceptance of God’s will
makes it possible to bear incredible hardships. A young friend of my
husband went into a coma after going in for preventive surgery. They
gave him too much chloroform, and he never came out of the coma.
He was a young man, his children were young. In the beginning his
wife was frantic, weeping all the time. Yet, her beliefs were solid as a
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rock within her, gradually calming her. It’s now five years later, and
she’s picked up the pieces of her life. Yet she never forgets to have her
pûjâs; her husband’s picture is always there in the ritual ceremonies.
His presence is there in the family. She seems to know that the soul
cannot die, that his spirit lives on. Every year on his death anniver-
sary we all gather for the ritual ceremonies. Everybody feels the grief,
and each religion teaches you to cope in a different way. Her belief
in the undying soul gives her a little solace. She constantly has the
prayers and the satsaˆgas at home, and they help her in the changing
patterns of her life.

There are many other ideals that help a family survive in Hinduism.
An important one is that father and mother are the children’s first guru,
first teacher of things of the spirit. This brings a deep honoring to the
parent-child relationship. Such a tie transcends the physical, emotional,
intellectual relationship that is the sum of some family bonds. It brings an
air of sacredness into the interactions, a deeper reverencing which power-
fully connects a daughter or son to his mother and father. One sees this
expressed so beautifully in the traditional family when young ones gen-
tly and lovingly touch the feet of their parents. They are worshiping the
Divine in their parents and thus being prepared to see God in everyone.
In the strict Hindu family there is a clear and well-understood hierar-
chy, based fundamentally on age. Younger members are taught to respect
and follow the directions from their elders, and to cherish and protect
those younger than themselves. Even differences of a few months are
respected. Many problems that could arise in less structured families—
and do, as proven in the modern nuclear family—simply never come up.
There is less vying for attention, less ego conflict, less confusion about
everyone’s role and place. With the lines of seniority known to all, reg-
ulations, changes and cooperative exchanges flow freely among family
members.

Voices: In the family life, today as well as in the times when Indian
epics like Mahâbhârata and Râmâya∫a were written, thousands of
years ago, a Hindu was told, “Mât®idevo bhava,” “Pit®idevo bhava”
and “Åchâryadevo bhava.” The Sanskrit dictums mean, “Be the one
who respects his mother as God, his father as God and his guru or
teacher as God.” Such an ultimate reverence for the elders creates a
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profound, serene feeling and certainly prepares the mind to receive

the good and loving advice from them in the proper spirit. Bowing
down before the elders in respectful salutation and touching their feet
is an exclusively Hindu custom. When such a deep respect is accorded
to family members, no wonder the family bonds are strong and they
remain unified.

Daily worship in the home is a unique Hindu contribution to family

sharing. Of course, faith is a shared experience in all religious households.
But the Hindu takes it a step further, sanctifying the home itself with a
beautiful shrine room—a kind of miniature temple right in the house.
The father or oldest son is the family’s liturgist, leading others in daily
ritual. Others care for the sacred implements, gather fresh flowers for the
morning rites and decorate for holy days or festivals. In Hindu culture,
family and spirituality are intimately intertwined.

Voices: Every Hindu family in our village had a home shrine where
the family members worship their Gods. Even the poorest set aside
a place for this. Rituals are periodic celebrations which are religious
and spiritual in character, and they address the inward feelings rather
than outward. Such pûjâs and rituals give an individual a chance to
pause, look inward and concentrate on something more meaningful,
more profound, than mere materialism and the daily drudgery of life.
Worships and rejoicings in the name of God, fasting and observances
of special days enable people to look beyond the day-to-day life to a
larger scheme of things. In the best homes I know, the father performs
the rites daily, and the family joins and assists. I guess it’s like the old
adage, “The family that prays together stays together.” Even in the
busy rat race of life in cosmopolitan cities like Mumbai or Los Angeles,
there are many Hindus who perform at least a mini pûjâ daily. They
claim that even the small ritual of a few minutes a day makes them
concentrate, feel elevated spiritually, brings their minds on an even
keel, enabling them to perform better in their line of work.

Another family tradition is the kulaguru. Though it is not required that

every member of a Hindu family have the same guru, it often happens that
way. This gives all members a shared spiritual point of reference, a voice
whose wisdom will be sought in times of decision, difference or unclarity,
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a voice that will also be listened to, its advice followed. That means that
there is a kind of outside counselor, a mediator to work out deadlocks,
a referee to arbitrate and settle disputes. Thus, the family need never
be stuck in some irresolvable impasse. The kulaguru’s counsel can be
trusted to transcend the personalities involved, to be impersonal and just.
And that simple practice can bring a family through many a quandary.

Voices: The greatest beauty of Hinduism, for me at least, is that it’s

such an elastic religion. Thousands of years old, with scores of de-
tailed rituals and mantras and texts, hundreds of holy days and fasts,
countless Gods and Goddesses and saints, Hinduism still can be as
young and uncomplicated as each individual wants it to be. It’s really
more a state of mind. You don’t have to be a very ritualistic Hindu.
Although having a guru or guide is the accepted way of reaching God,
Hinduism allows you to follow your own path. You feel you can talk
straight to God. When I go in the morning to drop my children to
school, and there is no one in the car to hear me, I sing devotional
songs at the top of my voice. At those moments, I feel I’m communi-
cating straight to God. Many people feel it’s essential to have a guru
to show one the path to heaven, yet others feel they can deal directly
with God, without any middlemen. It’s very elastic. It’s a well from
which you can drink and replenish your creativity. It’s a very loving
relationship. One day if I don’t light the incense, I feel God will un-
derstand. We do these rituals to please ourselves that we are serving
God. Hinduism is a guiltless religion—God will forgive and He will
understand because He knows what’s in your heart. There is no fire
and brimstone and no punishment. It’s liquid love and forgiveness.

Hindu heritage gives a strong definition to the growth and matur-

ing of family members, through the application of the âßramas. Every
member in a family is expected to spend the first twenty-four years or
so in the brahmacharya, or student, stage. It’s a time of learning, study-
ing, serving and growing up. Then comes the stage of the g®ihastha, or
householder, and with it marriage, children and social responsibilities.
These stages are informally defined in nearly every culture, but in Hin-
duism the definitions are elaborately detailed beyond raising the family.
Sometime around fifty, every member enters the vânaprastha âßrama, a
stage of advisor and elder. By formalizing this stage, the Hindu family
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gives a place of prominence and usefulness to its senior citizens. They do

not just retire, and they certainly are not sent off to a retirement home.
Rather, their advice is sought, their years of experience drawn upon. Thus,
Hinduism gives a place to those who have served the family in their youth
but, with age, can no longer serve in that same way. They have a new place.
Far from being a lesser function, it is a place of greater honor. This is one
of the greatest gifts that the traditional Hindu family offers, thus averting
one of the greatest tragedies: depriving elders of due recognition.

Voices: My mother-in-law, right up till she died in her seventies, was

the head of the household. She could do anything with my children,
and I wouldn’t have the guts to tell her no. She would put kohl, mas-
cara, adorning their eyes and oil in their hair and their eyes would be
black and their hair greasy, but I wouldn’t say anything to her. She
would bribe the kids with candy, and they loved her for it. It’s a lov-
ing relationship because you do something for someone and they do
something for you. The blessings do come on you because she felt very
wanted and happy. She taught me the sanctity of the family unit and
respect for elders.

Dowry is another threat to the Hindu family. Its economic and social
costs are extraordinary, weighing down the wage-earner in a way hardly
to be believed. Many Hindus have abandoned the practice of dowry on
moral grounds, but the vast majority follow its well-worn ways. Take the
case of Vasanti, a village girl in India. Her father, Ravi, told me of his lot—
five daughters, all requiring huge dowries if they are to enjoy a good mar-
riage, which roughly translates to buying a good husband. Even families
that see the wrongfulness of the practice will seldom diminish demands
for their sons, for they fear others in the community will presume some-
thing must be wrong with the boy if his price is nominal. Ravi tells of how
he and his wife have scrimped and saved for nearly twenty-five years, gone
without many things so that their daughters could have a good life. No
vacations for them. No car. No new clothes not absolutely needed. Ravi
works two jobs, and saves each month more than some of his associates
make, for each of his five daughters will require over 50,000 rupees, more
than a year’s salary. Many Hindu families are bent and even broken by this
social burden. Hindus reflecting on the future of the family tradition will
be well advised to curb this onerous custom.
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Voices: A daughter is pampered and protected, not necessarily spoiled,

in a traditional Hindu family. She is married and sent to a suitable
family with whatever gold jewelry and other assets her family can
afford. In the old days, the dowry was not something to be forced,
but was considered an honor to give. The Hindu rules of conduct
also stated that women always deserved protection from men. Manu
Sm®iti, an ancient treatise on religion and householder’s duties, said,
“Pita rakshati kaumare, bharta raskshati youvana, putra˙ rakshati
varddhakye, na strî svatantryam arhati.” “A woman is protected by
father in childhood, her husband protects her in youth, and in old age
she should be protected by her son. At no stage in life should a woman
be left alone and destitute.” She deserves protection by man at every
stage in her life. When women are cared for, they can perform well
their roles of creators, nourishers, educators of children and inspirers,
so the society becomes happy.

It is significant that Hindus, numbering over one billion today, consti-

tute sixteen percent of the human race. One out of every six people on the
planet is a Hindu. So, the ability of that large community to preserve its
strengths, to pass on its values and cultural treasures, to protect its mem-
bers and keep them well and fulfilled is important. Important does not
suffice. Crucial, really. On the optimistic side, as much as eighty percent
of Hindus live in rural India, in the 700,000 small villages which remain
less affected by outside influences and thus retain the promise of carrying
on the traditional ways, including language, religion and custom. As all
the foregoing amply indicates, the Hindu concept of family is unique in
many ways. The very definition, a rich one, is highly informative for those
seeking to better comprehend the interactions of family members. Here’s
a detailed definition from Dancing with Íiva, Hinduism’s Contemporary
Catechism:
Joint family: ku†umba or kula. The Hindu social unit consisting of
several generations of kindred living together under the same roof or in a
joining compound. Traditionally, joint families live in a large single home,
but in modern times accommodations are often in individual, nuclear
homes within a shared compound. The joint family includes the father
and mother, sons, grandsons and great-grandsons with their spouses, as
well as the daughters, granddaughters and great-granddaughters until
they are married—thus often comprising several married couples and
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their children. The head of the joint family, called ku†umba mukhya
(also mukhya or kart®i), is the father, supported by the mother, and in
his absence, the elder son, guided by his mother and supported by his
spouse. From an early age, the eldest son is given special training by his
father to assume this future responsibility as head of the family. In the
event of the father’s death, sacred law does allow for the splitting of the
family wealth between the sons. Division of family assets may also be
necessary in cases where sons are involved in different professions and
live in different towns, when there is an inability for all to get along under
one roof, or when the family becomes unmanageably large. The main
characteristics of the joint family are that its members 1) share a common
residence, 2) partake of food prepared in the same kitchen, 3) hold their
property in common and, 4) ideally, profess the same religion, sect and
sampradâya. Each individual family of husband, wife and children is under
the guidance of the head of the joint family. All work together unself-
ishly to further the common good. Each joint family extends out from
its home to include a second level of connections as an “extended family.”
Extended family: b®ihatku†umba or mahâku†umba. One or more joint
families plus their broader associations and affiliations. Unlike the joint
family, whose members live in close proximity, the extended family is geo-
graphically widespread. The extended family is headed by the patriarch,
called b®ihatku†umba pramukha (or mukhya), recognized as the leader by
each joint family. He, in turn is under the guidance of the kulaguru, or
family preceptor. It includes the following, in order of their precedence:
priests of one’s faith; elder men and women of the community; in-laws
of married daughters; married daughters, granddaughters, great-grand-
daughters, and the spouses and children of these married girls; members
of the staff and their families and those closely associated with the joint
family business or home; maternal great-grandparents and grandparents,
parents, uncles and their spouses, aunts and their spouses, children and
grandchildren of these families; very close friends and their children;
members of the community at large.
There is a more cosmic definition taught by every grandma and village
elder, that in truth all of us on Earth are the creation of the One Great
God; thus, in the broadest sense, we belong to a single family. Vasudhaiva
ku†umbakam—“The whole world is one family.” That’s not an innovative
notion derived from New Age insights or Gaia ecology. It’s been part of
Indian folk culture for thousands of years.
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Voices: I was always taught that we as Hindus must have a magnani-

mous attitude, that our Hindu religion visualizes the entire Earth
as one family. But while looking at all human beings as one family,
I also saw that elders deeply considered the smaller family unit, the
dynamism of its members’ relationships with one another, and the
pivotal role the institution of family plays in building the society.

Leaving the womb, we enter another complex system of support, pro-

tection and nurturing. The family is an intricate web of relationships in
which we grow from birth to maturity and old age, from ignorance to
knowledge and from the cycles of death to immortality.

For World Peace,

Stop the War in the Home
A talk given by Satguru Sivaya Subramuniyaswami to 1,200 delegates at the United
Nations Millennium Peace Summit of Religious and Spiritual Leaders in New York,
August 30, 2000. A few days earlier, on August 25, in the Dag Hammarskjöld
Auditorium Gurudeva received the prestigious U Thant Peace Award.

WAS ASKED BY THE UNITED NATIONS LEADERS HOW

HUMANITY MIGHT BETTER RESOLVE THE CON-
FLICTS, HOSTILITIES AND VIOLENT HAPPENINGS
THAT PLAGUE EVERY NATION. MY ANSWER WAS
THAT WE MUST WORK AT THE SOURCE AND CAUSE,
not with the symptoms. That is what we do in ayurvedic medicine—focus
on the causes, on establishing the body’s natural balance and health. That
way we are not always working with illness and disease; we are spending
time and resources instead to establish a healthy system that itself fights
off sickness.
To stop the wars in the world, our best long-term solution is to stop
the war in the home. It is here that hatred begins, that animosities with
those who are different from us are nurtured, that battered children learn
to solve their problems with violence. This is true of every religious com-
munity. Not one is exempt.
In Asia, in the United States and among Hindus all over the world,
there’s a war going on in every home. Few homes are exempt from the
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beating of children. This is a global problem, in all communities, but I

believe that Hindus have the power to change it because our philosophy
supports a better way. If we can end the war in our homes, then perhaps
we can be an example to others and this will lead to ending war in the
world. People will choose a different path.
In our homes when we strike our children, we teach everybody to beat
everybody else, and the beating goes on, right on down the line, until they
are a soldier or a gang member or rebel, and then they are fighting to kill.
That’s how all the religious wars have trained religious people to create
the wars and to disturb the planet. The hitting and the hurting begin in
the home. We should all be vowed to bring peace into the homes and stop
the war within the home. Why? Because our neighborhoods and com-
munities will not come up, the nation will not come up, the world will
not come up until there is harmony within the home, until problems are
solved before bedtime, until children are not abused and pushed down
into fear, into a condition where they’ve lost all self-respect.
The children are amazingly intelligent these days, different than twenty
or thirty years ago. These bright children are watching television. They
see on TV that those people whom people like are loved and hugged,
appreciated, lifted up, and nice things are said to them. They see on TV
that other people whom people do not like, that they hate, are put down,
told they’re stupid, made to feel they’re worthless and no good, they’re
hit and sometimes maimed or killed. Therefore, children will know with
the first slap that they are hated, no longer wanted. Where are they to go?
They can’t, at a young age, go make a living. They can’t run away from
home, though some of them do and join gangs which will give them the
only belonging, the only love and friendship that they have, to share their
suffering with other people who have been suffering because of parental
abuse, verbal abuse and physical abuse.
Sadly, in this day and age, beating the kids is just a way of life in many
families. Nearly everyone was beaten a little as a child, so they beat their
kids, and their kids will beat their kids, and those kids will beat their kids.
Older brothers will beat younger brothers. Brothers will beat sisters. You
can see what families are creating in this endless cycle of violence: little
warriors. One day a war will come up, and it will be easy for a young per-
son who has been beaten without mercy to pick up a gun and kill some-
body without conscience, and even take pleasure in doing so.
I’ve had Hindus tell me, “Slapping or caning children to make them
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obey is just part of our culture.” I don’t think so. Hindu culture is a cul-
ture of kindness. Hindu culture teaches ahiμsâ, noninjury, physically,
mentally and emotionally. It preaches against hiμsâ, hurtfulness. It may
be British Christian culture—which for 150 years taught Hindus in India
the Biblical adage, “Spare the rod and spoil the child“—but it’s not Hindu
culture to beat the light out of the eyes of children, to beat the trust out
of them, to beat the intelligence out of them and force them to go along
with everything in a mindless way and wind up doing a routine, uncre-
ative job the rest of their life, then take their built-up anger out on their
children and beat that generation down to nothingness. This is certainly
not the culture of an intelligent future. It is a culture that will perpetuate
every kind of hostility.
In some Asian countries, if children ask a question, they’re answered
with a slap across the face. How brutal can people be? These are mean
people, vicious people. The working mother slaps her children at home
when they add stress to her already stressed-out nerve system. Father has
a tough day on the job and takes it out on his son’s back or face with the
hand, strap or cane. Does it give him a sadistic joy to hear young chil-
dren cry in pain? Does it enhance his feeling of “I’m in charge here! You
are not!’’? How do I know all this is happening inside the Hindu home?
Hotmail. Young kids are getting into Hotmail. They all have their own
account. They all have their own computer, and they are writing to me,
“Gurudeva! Gurudeva! My father beats me and I’m beaten in school and
if I tell anybody I’m beaten in school my mother will strike me. At least
three to five times a week, a knock on the head, a pinch, a cane across the
back or the legs.”
Is this the way of tomorrow? We hope not. But this is the way of today.
It can be corrected by all of you going forth to bring peace within every
family and every home, no matter what faith you belong to. If you know
about the crime of a beating of a child or a wife, you are party to that
crime unless you do something to protect that wife or to protect that
child. Similarly, if you are driving with a friend in the car and he says,
“Stop at this service station. I’m going into the convenience store.” You
stop and he goes into the convenience store, pulls out a gun, robs that
store and jumps back into the car, you are an accomplice to the crime,
whether you know it or not. You’re an accomplice to the crime. All of a
sudden, you become a criminal, unless you do something about it. That
is taking on spiritual responsibility.
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So, knowing that so much child abuse is happening behind a wall of

silence, what do we do? Call one of our attorneys, call one of our mis-
sionary families and say, “Call the police. Have them watch this family
very closely, to protect this child.” We had one child put in a foster home
and the father put in jail. He took the discipline a little too far. The child
had burns all over his body, plus scars from earlier beatings. How do we
know? Pictures were taken and sent to us by someone who cared enough
not to ignore what was happening. In Canada, the teachers in school tell
Asian kids, “If your parents hit you, you call this number.” It happens to
be 911. The police come to the house. Canadians want to stop the war in
their homes.
In the past 85 years we’ve had two world wars and hundreds of smaller
ones. Killers come from among those who have been beaten. The slap and
pinch, the sting of the paddle, the lash of the strap, the blows of a cane
must manifest through those who receive them into the lives of others.
But there is a price to pay. The abuser one day becomes the abused. This
is a law of life seen manifesting every day. It is called karma. Action gives
an equal or more intense reaction, depending on the intent and the emo-
tion behind it. Corporal punishment is arguably a prelude to gangs on
the streets, those who will riot on call, and others who suffer in silence
and hide behind a desk or in a routine profession, fearing reprimand and
punishment, never talking back or offering an opinion.
We do know a few families who have never beaten their children or
disciplined them physically in any way. We ask them “Why? “They say,
“Because we love our children. We love them.” “So, how do you train them;
how do you discipline them?” “Well, we have them go into the shrine
room and sit for ten minutes and think over what they did wrong, and
they come back and we talk to them. We communicate. We encourage
them to do better rather than making them feel worse.” Then we ask,
“What about TV? Aren’t your kids watching TV all the time?” “No. We
can’t watch a lot of TV with children. Personal time with them is our
family’s way.”
Holding the family together can be summed up in one word: love.
Love is understanding. Love is acceptance. Love is making somebody feel
good about his experience, whether the experience is a good one or not.
Love is giving the assurance that there is no need to keep secrets, no mat-
ter what has happened. Love is wanting to be with members of the family.
When harmony persists in the home, harmony abides in the community,
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and harmony exists in the country. When love and trust is in the family,
love and trust extend to the local community, and if enough homes have
this harmony among members, the entire country becomes stronger and
more secure.
Sânanda Nartanam
saanand nata*nama<

part one
Dancing
Joyously
 Sarvatra Íivam Paßya
sava*}a ixavama< pa≈Y

See God Everywhere

He who knows God as the Life of life, the Eye of

the eye, the Ear of the ear, the Mind of the mind, he
indeed comprehends fully the Cause of all causes.
Íukla Yajur Veda, B®ihadâra∫yaka Upanishad, 4.4.18. upp, p. 179
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My satguru, Íiva Yogaswami, was a great siddha, a mas-

Monday ter and a knower of God. He would say, “Liberation is
LESSON 1
within you.” He would order his seekers to “See God in
Awakening
Comes Slowly everything. You are in God. God is within you. To realize
the Supreme Being within you, you must have a strong
body and a pure mind.” He was a powerful mystic from Sri Lanka, near
India—perhaps the greatest to live in the twentieth century. His words
drove deeply into the hearts of all who heard them. “God is in everyone.
See Him there. God is overwhelmingly present everywhere. Regard every-
thing as a manifestation of God, and you will realize the Truth” were his
words. Simple words for a simple truth, but very, very difficult to prac-
tice. ¶As we go on through life, we see only parts of life. We don’t see the
whole. We can’t see the whole. Yogaswami said, “How can a part see the
whole?” So, we live with a small part, our small part. We seek to avoid the
painful areas and attract to us the joyous ones. Most people live in this
duality life after life, bound in the forces of desire and the fulfillment of
it. Occasionally a more mature soul breaks away from this cycle of desire-
fulfillment-pleasure-loss-pain-suffering-and-joy and asks questions such
as: “Who is God? Where is God? How can I come to know God?” ¶God
has no names, but all names are the names of God. Whether you call Him
this or that, He remains Who He is. But in our tradition we call God by
the loving name Íiva, which is only one of His 1,008 traditional names.
Supreme God Íiva is both within us and outside of us. Even desire, the
fulfillment of desire, the joy, the pain, the sorrow, birth and death—this
is all Íiva, nothing but Íiva. This is hard to believe for the unenlightened
individual who cannot see how a good, kind and loving God could create
pain and sorrow. Actually, we find that Íiva did not—not in the sense that
is commonly thought. God gave the law of karma, decreeing that each
energy sent into motion returns with equal force. ¶In looking closely at
this natural law, we can see that we create our own joy, our own pain, our
own sorrow and our own release from sorrow. Yet we could not even do
this except for the power and existence of our loving Lord. It takes much
meditation to find God Íiva in all things, through all things. In this striv-
ing—as in perfecting any art or science—regular daily disciplines must
be faithfully adhered to. ¶Íiva is the immanent personal Lord, and He is
Against the San Francisco Bay, with its Golden Gate Bridge, a devotee practices seeing God in
everyone. He understands that Lord Siva is living in people of all races, all colors, all cultures.
All the chapter art that follows is by Indian artist Tiru A. Manivelu.
6 LIVING WITH ÍIVA

transcendent Reality. Íiva is a God of love, boundless love. He loves each

and every one. Each soul is created by Him and guided by Him through
life. God Íiva is everywhere. There is no place where Íiva is not. He is in
you. He is in this temple. He is in the trees. He is in the sky, in the clouds,
in the planets. He is the galaxies swirling in space and the space between
galaxies, too. He is the universe. His cosmic dance of creation, preserva-
tion and dissolution is happening this very moment in every atom of the
universe. God Íiva is, and is in all things. He permeates all things. He is
immanent, with a beautiful form, a human-like form which can actually
be seen and has been seen by many people in visions. He is also transcen-
dent, beyond time, cause and space. ¶That is almost too much for the
mind to comprehend, isn’t it? Therefore, we have to meditate on these
things. God Íiva is so close to us. Where does He live? In the Third World.
And in this form He can talk and think and love and receive our prayers
and guide our karma. He commands vast numbers of devas who go forth
to do His will all over the world, all over the galaxy, throughout the uni-
verse. These are matters told to us by the ®ishis; and we have discovered
them in our own meditations. So always worship this great God. Never
fear Him. He is the Self of your self. He is closer than your own breath. His
nature is love, and if you worship Him with devotion you will know love
and be loving toward others. Devotees of God Íiva love everyone. ¶This
is how God Íiva can be seen everywhere and in everyone. He is there as
the Soul of each soul. You can open your inner eye and see Him in others,
see Him in the world as the world. Little by little, discipline yourself to
meditate at the same time each day. Meditate, discover the silent center of
yourself, then go deep within, to the core of your real Being. Slowly the
purity comes. Slowly the awakening comes.
Does this seem too difficult? Can you just contemplate
Tuesday what it would take to seek the all-pervasive Íiva from
LESSON 2
hour to hour, throughout the day? One would have to
Spiritual
Retreat be detached from all worldly responsibilities to a great
extent in order to begin to bring this natural internal
process through and into the external mind. The external mind is built
up by an intellect formed from other people’s knowledge and opinions.
This borrowed knowledge shrouds the soul, and the natural, childlike
intelligence often does not filter through. Therefore, a period of detach-
ment and regular spiritual retreat or separation from the external world
is necessary. ¶On a pilgrimage we strive to see God around us, to intuit
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Him in the events that happen. During worship in the temple, we strive
to feel Him, to experience Him more profoundly than during our normal
activities. Eventually, as our spiritual efforts progress, we bring that same
attention, that same one-pointedness, right into the everyday experiences
that life presents to us, whether seemingly good or bad, whether causing
pleasure or pain. This is the experience of the mature soul who performs
regular sâdhana after taking certain vows strong enough to cause a detach-
ment of the intellect from seeing the external world as the absolute real-
ity. All seekers hope for an occasional glimpse of Íiva during their yearly
pilgrimage at some venerable temple. If they develop that little glimpse, it
will grow. ¶Many have asked me whether everyone should worship Íiva
both inside and out. Yes, that is the ideal according to our Íaiva Siddhânta
philosophy, but which of these two comes more naturally depends on the
nature of the disciple. The more introverted will meditate on Íiva within
through their yogas, and the more extroverted will be inclined to worship
in a temple or through music or religious service. The most awakened of
seekers will do both with equal joy and ease. ¶God Íiva is within each and
every soul. He is there as the unmanifest Reality, which we call Paraßiva.
He is there as the pure light and consciousness that pervades every atom
of the universe, which we call Satchidânanda. We also know that He is
Creator of all that exists, and that He is His creation. All this we know.
Yes, all this we know. Thus, we intellectually know that Íiva is within and
without. This is yet to be experienced by the majority of people. ¶The
nature of the worshiper develops through sâdhana and tapas, performed
either in this life or in previous lives. We must worship Íiva externally
until compelled—as were the great ®ishis of yore—to sit down, to settle
down, to turn within ourself, to stop talking, to stop thinking and thus
to internalize our great energy of bhakti, devotion. This is how we evolve,
how we progress along the path toward Íiva, diving deeper and deeper
within. Everyone must worship Íiva externally prior to internalizing that
worship fully and perfectly. We cannot internalize the worship that has
not first been mastered externally. ¶When problems come in the family or
workplace and emotions arise, it is only natural to forget Íiva. It’s so much
easier to be involved in twoness rather than oneness. It takes a lot of inner
strength to remember Íiva all of the time, to keep the love for Íiva flow-
ing. We forget. We get involved in ourselves and others. It is impossible
when our ego is attacked or our feelings hurt. So it’s easier, much easier,
to forget Íiva and even regard Him as a God to be feared; whereas it is
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our own instinctive mind and our preprogrammed, nonreligious intellect

that should be feared. That’s the demon in our house, the mischief-maker
who causes all the trouble. If you want to remember God, then first learn
to forget yourself a little.
A family provides toys for the children to make them
Wednesday happy. Íiva provides karma and dharma to all of us to
LESSON 3
make us happy, to bring us closer to Him. He created
By Experience
We Evolve an expanding and contracting universe and eventually
absorbs all in the great dissolution of the cosmos. He
gave birth to all souls, our ®ishi-saints tell us; and we are evolving back
into His image and likeness, they further explain. The toys of experience
help us in our evolution, keeping us entertained so that we can learn and
grow and experience our karma, dharma and other basic cosmic laws. Just
as the children can laugh joyously as they play with their toys, or break
them and cry or throw them at one another, hitting and hurting each
other, we too can avoid duty and dharma, make karma, hurt ourselves
and others, or help ourselves and others as we play with our own evolu-
tion, strengthening ourselves, learning and growing wise. ¶It is natural to
forget about God, but there are many helpful ways that we can avoid dis-
traction, that we can remember to keep seeing God Íiva everywhere. One
of the practical ways to bring God Íiva into the midst of all this is to keep
repeating His name. Do japa when you find yourself forgetting, when you
just can’t see God at all, let alone everywhere. Repeat “Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.”
When life becomes difficult or strained, say to yourself “Íiva Íiva” or “Aum
Íivâya” or “Nama˙ Íivâya.” Mentally put it all at His feet. See Him in
everyone that you meet or confront, regardless of the circumstances. He
is there as their life force, but you just need to quiet the mind to see. Smile
when you feel unhappy with someone and say to yourself, “How nice to
see you, Íiva, in this form.” Animals, beggars, princes, politicians, friends
and enemies, holy men, saints and sages are all Íiva to the soul that loves
God. He smiles and thinks to himself, “How nice to see you, Íiva, in this,
another of your many forms.” ¶Nobody can think of Íiva in His formless-
ness. This, above all, has to be realized, and then the realizer has to realize
that he has realized the Formless. The truth is that precious few will realize
Paraßiva, though many can and will realize Satchidânanda, even in their
later years or at the moment of death. The fullness of lives of experience
experienced, the performance of prior goals perfected, would lead a soul
to the burning desire to accomplish the ultimate goal. For each person on
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the planet, the immediate pattern is clear. Once it is fulfilled, the next step
appears naturally. It is the same force of desire that accomplishes all of
this. The desire of a mother to take care of her children and to be a good
wife, the desire of the father to support his family, the desire of a scientist
to discover, the desire of an athlete to excel, the desire of the yogî to merge
in oneness with Íiva—it is the same force of desire, transmuted through
the chakras as they awaken, as the soul evolves. It is that same desire that
finally draws the seeker to know That which is timeless and formless, That
which is spaceless and causeless. Be patient. It comes in the course of time
to all. It comes. It will come. Be patient.
In the earlier stages, before sâdhana is undertaken, the
Thursday mind is agitated by current karmas and perhaps discour-
LESSON 4
aged by its inability to know or to fulfill dharma. In this
Knowing
Self by Self agitated state the world looks bleak and terrible, and it
would be inconceivable to him for God to be any place
but in the temple. “Certainly God could not reside within myself,” the
unenlightened concludes. ¶In the second stage, when the mind rests peace-
fully in the fulfillment of a life’s pattern, dharma, when it has sufficient
maturity to control and to dispatch past and current karmas through med-
itation, prayer and penance, then indeed God is seen as a helping hand
within, but most potently felt within His temple. ¶In the third stage, the
helping hand within becomes more than an aid to the troubled mind; it
becomes pure consciousness itself. Rather than seeking God outside, God
is enjoyed as a vital, integral dimension of the person, the Life of life, the
power and radiant energy of the universe. The calm within is greater than
the outside disturbance. In this stage of bliss-consciousness, it is clearly
seen and exuberantly experienced that God is indeed within us. The
experiencer’s perceptions become acute, and in his daily life he becomes
a witness, observing that others do not see God within themselves. He
has a secret that he has discovered. God within becomes soul-realized as
Truth-Knowledge-Bliss, Satchidânanda, the pervasive energy that glues all
things together. Mind becomes serene, peace is seen to be everywhere, and
the bliss so strong. A deeper inner eye opens at this stage, and it is truly
perceived that this same presence of Íiva is in each and every living being,
permeates every atom of the universe as the great, sustaining substratum
of all that exists. Only when this is experienced can one truly say that God
is within man and man is within God. ¶To know philosophy without
experience is like going on a vacation to a distant and wonderful place by
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simply reading a book about the destination, hearing what others claim
is to be enjoyed there. It is not true experience at all. The only spiritual
experience is personal experience. My satguru, Siva Yogaswami, made it
clear that “You will not attain jñâna, wisdom, even if you read a thousand
scriptures. You must know your Self by yourself.” ¶How can we with our
finite mind come to understand Infinity, come to understand God? How
can we intellectually encompass something as great as God? Our scrip-
tures tell us that God Himself is Íaˆkara, the author of all knowledge,
creator of the intellect. He is the great architect of the universe. Then if
God created the intellect, how can the intellect understand Him? Well, it
is possible. It has been done. The intellect has to expand, and awareness
has to transcend the rational mind and see directly from superconscious
knowing. That is why we worship Íiva in His highest form, symbolized by
the Íivaliˆga, the simple elliptical stone. ¶It is good that you are trying to
see Íiva everywhere. Keep trying. It will come. Who else can give your Self
to you? The unfoldment of the Self within you is but Íiva. He can give you
wealth. He can give you health. He can bestow everything that you would
ever need or even desire. But to worship Him as formless, as we are doing
tonight, carries the mind into infinity. Mind can only encompass what
it identifies with. Mind cannot identify Truth in this subtle form which
represents Íiva as beyond the mind—formless, timeless and spaceless.
Yet, within you this very instant, only shrouded by your ignorance, only
shrouded by the ego, which is the sense of personal identity and separa-
tion, is Íiva. He is there right now, not at some fictitious future time. Just
get rid of the mâyâ, the â∫ava and resolve the karma, and there He will
be. The ego is the last thing to go. It is the last bond to break. ¶Once the
bondage of personal ego is broken, it is seen that this mysterious God is
all-pervading. He is what He has created. Think about that. It is very deep.
Íiva pervades His creation constantly as ever-present Love and Light of
the mind of everyone, as Intelligence and Being; and yet God also has a
form. ¶In the subtle worlds, Íiva has the most beautiful form, not unlike
a human form, but an absolutely perfect human form. He thinks. He talks.
He walks. He makes decisions. We are fortunate to worship such a great
God who pervades everything and yet transcends it, who is both form and
beyond form, who is the Self within your very self at this very moment. So,
all of you seekers of nondual Truth, you have a truly great path that offers
God experience in form and beyond form. How fortunate you are!
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Seekers more than often ask, “Why has Íiva given us

Friday karma to go through? Could He just have made us per-
LESSON 5
fect from the beginning and avoided all the pain?” My
Working with
Your Karma answer is: accept your karma as your own, as a healing
medicine and not a poison. As you go through your self-
created experiences in daily life and seed karmas awaken, as your actions
come back through your emotions, even in this life, not in a future one,
resolve each and every experience so that you do not react and create new
cycles to be lived through. Whether it is happy karma, sad karma, misera-
ble karma or ecstatic karma, it is your karma. But it is not you, not the real
you. It is the experience that you go through in order to evolve, in order
to grow and to learn and to attain, eventually, wisdom. This is all Íiva’s
mysterious work, His way of bringing along devotees, His way to bring
you close and closer to Himself. ¶The great Vedic ®ishis have explained
that Íiva has created the body of the soul, permeated that body with His
being, His essence. All souls are evolving back to His holy feet, and there
are many lessons to be learned along the way. The lessons learned in the
karma classroom are part of the process of evolution, the mechanism
of evolution, the tool of evolution. Why did He do all of this? The ®ishis
give no reason. They call it His dance. That is why we worship God Íiva
as Na†arâja, the King of Dance. Why does one dance? Because one is full
of joy. One is full of life. Íiva is all life, God of life, God of death that
brings new life, God of birth that brings through life. He is all life and He
is everything. He danced with the ®ishis. He is dancing for you. You are
dancing with Íiva. Every single atom in this room is dancing His dance.
He is every part of you this very moment. By seeing Him, you see yourself.
By drawing near to Him, you are drawing nearer to yourself. Our great
satguru, Íiva Yogaswami, made a most perceptive remark. He said, “There
is one thing only that God Íiva cannot do. He cannot separate Himself
from me.” He cannot separate Himself from you, because He permeates
you. He is you. He created the soul, the Vedas and Ågamas tell us. He
created your soul, and your soul is evolving, maturing through karma,
through life, on its way back to Him. That is the goal of life, to know Íiva,
to love Íiva and to find union in Him, to dance with Íiva, live with Íiva
and merge with Íiva. This is what the oldest religion on the Earth teaches
and believes. ¶Íiva is the God of love and nothing else but love. He fills
this universe with love. He fills you with love. Íiva is fire. Íiva is earth. Íiva
is air. Íiva is water. Íiva is ether. Íiva’s cosmic energy permeates everything
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and gives light and life to your mind. Íiva is everywhere and all things.
Íiva is your small, insignificant worry, the concern that you have been
holding in your mind for so many years. See God Íiva everywhere and His
life energy in all things. First we dance with Íiva. Then we live with Íiva.
The end of the path is to merge with Íiva, the Self God within.
The Self: you can’t explain it. You can sense its existence
Saturday through the refined state of your senses, but you cannot
LESSON 6
explain it. To know it, you have to experience it. And the
The Self
God Within best you can say about it is that it is the depth of your
Being, the very core of you. It is you. ¶If you visualize
above you nothing; below you nothing; to the right of you nothing; to
the left of you nothing; in front of you nothing; in back of you nothing;
and dissolve yourself into that nothingness, that would be the best way
you could explain the realization of the Self. And yet that nothingness
would not be the absence of something, like the nothingness inside an
empty box, which would be like a void. That nothingness is the fullness
of everything: the power, the sustaining power, of the existence of what
appears to be everything. ¶After you realize the Self, you see the mind
for what it is—a self-created principle. That is the mind ever creating
itself. The mind is form ever creating form, preserving form, creating
new forms and destroying old forms. That is the mind, the illusion, the
great unreality, the part of you that in your thinking mind you dare to
think is real. What gives the mind that power? Does the mind have power
if it is unreal? What difference whether it has power or hasn’t power, or
the very words that I am saying when the Self exists because of itself? You
could live in the dream and become disturbed by it. You can seek and
desire with a burning desire to cognize reality and be blissful because of it.
Man’s destiny leads him back to himself. Man’s destiny leads him into the
cognition of his own Being; leads him further into the realization of his
True Being. They say you must step onto the spiritual path to realize the
Self. You only step on the spiritual path when you and you alone are ready,
when what appears real to you loses its appearance of reality. Then and
only then are you able to detach yourself enough to seek to find a new and
more permanent reality. ¶Have you ever noticed that something you think
is permanent, you and you alone give permanence to that thing through
your protection of it? ¶Have you ever stopped to even think and get a
clear intellectual concept that the Spirit within you is the only permanent
thing? That everything else is changing? That everything else has a direct
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wire connecting it to the realms of joy and sorrow? That is the mind. ¶As
the Self, your Effulgent Being, comes to life in you, joy and sorrow become
a study to you. You do not have to think to tell yourself that each in its
own place is unreal. You know from the innermost depths of your being
that form itself is not real. ¶The subtlety of the joys that you experience as
you come into your Effulgent Being cannot be described. They can only
be projected to you if you are refined enough to pick up the subtlety of
vibration. If you are in harmony enough, you can sense the great joy, the
subtlety of the bliss that you will feel as you come closer and closer to your
real Self. ¶If you strive to find the Self by using your mind, you will strive
and strive in vain, because the mind cannot give you Truth; a lie cannot
give you the truth. A lie can only entangle you in a web of deceit. But if
you sensitize yourself, awaken your true, fine, beautiful qualities that all
of you have, then you become a channel, a chalice in which your Effulgent
Being will begin to shine. You will first think that a light is shining within
you. You will seek to find that light. You will seek to hold it, like you cher-
ish and hold a beautiful gem. You will later find that the light that you
found within you is in every pore, every cell of your being. You will later
find that that light permeates every atom of the universe. You will later
find that you are that light and what it permeates is the unreal illusion
created by the mind.
How strong you must be to find this Truth. You must
Sunday become very, very strong. How do you become strong?
LESSON 7
Exercise. You must exercise every muscle and sinew of
Every Temple
Made of Brick your nature by obeying the dictates of the law, of the
spiritual laws. It will be very difficult. A weak muscle
is very difficult to make strong, but if you exercise over a period of time
and do what you should do, it will respond. Your nature will respond,
too. But you must work at it. You must try. You must try. You must try
very, very hard. Very diligently. How often? Ten minutes a day? No. Two
hours a day? No. Twenty-four hours a day! Every day! You must try very,
very hard. ¶Preparing you for the realization of the Self is like tuning up a
violin, tightening up each string so it harmonizes with every other string.
The more sensitive you are to tone, the better you can tune a violin, and
the better the violin is tuned, the better the music. The stronger you are
in your nature, the more you can bring through your real nature; the
more you can enjoy the bliss of your true being. It is well worth working
for. It is well worth craving for. It is well worth denying yourself many,
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many things for—to curb your nature. It is well worth struggling with
your mind, to bring your mind under the dominion of your will. ¶Those
of you who have experienced contemplation know the depth from which
I am speaking. You have had a taste of your true Self. It has tasted like
nothing that you have ever come in contact with before. It has filled and
thrilled and permeated your whole being, even if you have only remained
in that state of contemplation not longer than sixty seconds. Out of it
you have gained a great knowing, a knowing that you could refer back
to, a knowing that will bear the fruit of wisdom if you relate future life
experiences to that knowing, a knowing greater than you could acquire
at any university or institute of higher learning. Can you only try to gain
a clear intellectual concept of realizing this Self that you felt permeating
through you and through all form in your state of contemplation? That
is your next step. ¶Those of you who are wrestling with the mind in your
many endeavors to try to concentrate the mind, to try to meditate, to try
to become quiet, to try to relax, keep trying. Every positive effort that you
make is not in vain. Every single brick added to a temple made of brick
brings that temple closer to completion. So keep trying and one day, all
of a sudden, you will pierce the lower realms of your mind and enter into
contemplation. Then you will be able to say: “Yes, I know, I have seen.
Now I know fully the path that I am on.” Keep trying. You have to start
somewhere. ¶The Self you cannot speak of. You can only try to think
about it, if you care to, in one way: feel your mind, body and emotions,
and know that you are the Spirit permeating through mind, which is all
form; body, which you inhabit; and emotions, which you either control
or are controlled by. Think on that, ponder on that, and you will find you
are the light within your eyes. You are the feel within your fingers. “You
are more radiant than the sun, purer than the snow, more subtle than the
ether.” Keep trying. Each time you try you are one step closer to your true
Effulgent Being.
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 Ahiμsâ-Satya
Aih\saa-satya

Noninjury and
Truthfulness

Ahiμsâ is not causing pain to any living being at any

time through the actions of one’s mind, speech or body.
Atharva Veda, Íandilya Upanishad, 1.3. upa, p. 173
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Religion teaches us how to become better people, how

Monday to live as spiritual beings on this Earth. This happens
LESSON 8
through living virtuously, following the natural and
How to Live
With Íiva essential guidelines of dharma. For Hindus, these guide-
lines are recorded in the yamas and niyamas, ancient
scriptural injunctions for all aspects of human thought, attitude and
behavior. In Indian spiritual life, these Vedic restraints and observances
are built into the character of children from a very early age. For adults
who have been subjected to opposite behavioral patterns, these guide-
lines may seem to be like commandments. However, even they can, with
great dedication and effort, remold their character and create the founda-
tion necessary for a sustained spiritual life. Through following the yamas
and niyamas, we cultivate our refined, spiritual being while keeping the
instinctive nature in check. We lift ourself into the consciousness of the
higher chakras—of love, compassion, intelligence and bliss—and nat-
urally invoke the blessings of the divine devas and Mahådevas. ¶Yama
means “reining in” or “control.” The yamas include such injunctions
as noninjury (ahiμsâ), nonstealing (asteya) and moderation in eating
(mitâhâra), which harness the base, instinctive nature. Niyama, literally
“unleashing,” indicates the expression of refined, soul qualities through
such disciplines as charity (dâna), contentment (santosha) and incanta-
tion (japa). ¶It is true that bliss comes from meditation, and it is true
that higher consciousness is the heritage of all mankind. However, the
ten restraints and their corresponding practices are necessary to maintain
bliss consciousness, as well as all of the good feelings toward oneself and
others attainable in any incarnation. These restraints and practices build
character. Character is the foundation for spiritual unfoldment. ¶The
fact is, the higher we go, the lower we can fall. The top chakras spin fast;
the lowest one available to us spins even faster. The platform of char-
acter must be built within our lifestyle to maintain the total content-
ment needed to persevere on the path. These great ®ishis saw the frailty
of human nature and gave these guidelines, or disciplines, to make it
strong. They said, “Strive!” Let’s strive to not hurt others, to be truthful
and honor all the rest of the virtues they outlined. ¶The ten yamas are:
1) ahiμsâ, “noninjury,” not harming others by thought, word or deed;
A boy has broken a clay flower vase and is hiding the mischief from his sister. Mother watches,
hoping her son will learn the value of satya, telling the truth. Inset: A man is beating a small
boy, while an onlooker intervenes to enforce noninjury, ahiμsâ.
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2) satya, “truthfulness,” refraining from lying and betraying promises;

3) asteya, “nonstealing,” neither stealing nor coveting nor entering into
debt; 4) brahmacharya, “divine conduct,” controlling lust by remain-
ing celibate when single, leading to faithfulness in marriage; 5) kshamâ,
“patience,” restraining intolerance with people and impatience with cir-
cumstances; 6) dh®iti, “steadfastness,” overcoming nonperseverance, fear,
indecision, inconstancy and changeableness; 7) dayâ, “compassion,” con-
quering callous, cruel and insensitive feelings toward all beings; 8) ârjava,
“honesty, straightforwardness,” renouncing deception and wrongdoing;
9) mitâhâra, “moderate appetite,” neither eating too much nor consuming
meat, fish, fowl or eggs; 10) ßaucha, “purity,” avoiding impurity in body,
mind and speech.
The niyamas are: 1) hrî, “remorse,” being modest and
Tuesday showing shame for misdeeds; 2) santosha, “contentment,”
LESSON 9
seeking joy and serenity in life; 3) dâna, “giving,” tith-
Twenty
Disciplines ing and giving generously without thought of reward;
4) âstikya, “faith,” believing firmly in God, Gods, guru
and the path to enlightenment; 5) Èßvarapûjana, “worship of the Lord,”
the cultivation of devotion through daily worship and meditation; 6) sid-
dhânta ßrava∫a, “scriptural listening,” studying the teachings and listening
to the wise of one’s lineage; 7) mati, “cognition,” developing a spiritual
will and intellect with the guru’s guidance; 8) vrata, “sacred vows,” fulfill-
ing religious vows, rules and observances faithfully; 9) japa, “recitation,”
chanting mantras daily; 10) tapas, “austerity,” performing sâdhana, pen-
ance, tapas and sacrifice. ¶In comparing the yamas to the niyamas, we
find the restraint of noninjury, ahiμsâ, makes it possible to practice hrî,
remorse. Truthfulness brings on the state of santosha, contentment. And
the third yama, asteya, nonstealing, must be perfected before the third
niyama, giving without any thought of reward, is even possible. Sexual
purity brings faith in God, Gods and guru. Kshamâ, patience, is the foun-
dation for Èßvarapûjana, worship, as is dh®iti, steadfastness, the founda-
tion for siddhânta ßravana. The yama of dayâ, compassion, definitely
brings mati, cognition. Årjava, honesty—renouncing deception and all
wrongdoing—is the foundation for vrata, taking sacred vows and faith-
fully fulfilling them. Mitâhâra, moderate appetite, is where yoga begins,
and vegetarianism is essential before the practice of japa, recitation of
holy mantras, can reap its true benefit in one’s life. Íaucha, purity in body,
mind and speech, is the foundation and the protection for all austeri-
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ties. ¶The twenty restraints and observances are the first two of the eight
limbs of ash†âˆga yoga, constituting Hinduism’s fundamental ethical code.
Because it is brief, the entire code can be easily memorized and reviewed
daily at the family meetings in each home. The yamas and niyamas are the
essential foundation for all spiritual progress. They are cited in numerous
scriptures, including the Íâ∫∂ilya and Varâha Upanishads, the Ha†ha Yoga
Pradîpikâ by Gorakshanatha, the Tirumantiram of Rishi Tirumular and
the Yoga Sûtras of Sage Patanjali. All of these ancient texts list ten yamas
and ten niyamas, with the exception of Patanjali’s classic work, which
lists just five of each. Patanjali lists the yamas as: ahiμsâ, satya, asteya,
brahmacharya and aparigraha (noncovetousness); and the niyamas as:
ßaucha, santosha, tapas, svâdhyâya (self-reflection, scriptural study) and
Èßvarapra∫idhâna (worship). ¶In the Hindu tradition, it is primarily the
mother’s job to build character within the children, and thereby to con-
tinually improve society. Mothers can study and teach these guidelines
to uplift their children as well as themselves. Each discipline focuses on a
different aspect of human nature, its strengths and weaknesses. Taken as
a sum total, they encompass the whole of human experience and spiri-
tuality. You may do well in upholding some of these but not so well in
others. That is to be expected. That defines the sâdhana, therefore, to be
perfected.
The yamas and niyamas and their function in our life
Wednesday can be likened to a chariot pulled by ten horses. The
LESSON 10
passenger inside the chariot is your soul. The chariot
Your Divine
Chariot itself represents your physical, astral and mental bod-
ies. The driver of the chariot is your external ego, your
personal will. The wheels are your divine energies. The niyamas, or spiri-
tual practices, represent the spirited horses, named Hrî, Santosha, Dâna,
Åstikya, Èßvarapûjana, Siddhânta Írava∫a, Mati, Vrata, Japa, and Tapas.
The yamas, or restraints, are the reins, called Ahiμsâ, Satya, Asteya, Brah-
macharya, Kshamâ, Dh®iti, Dayâ, Årjava, Mitâhâra and Íaucha. By hold-
ing tight to the reins, the charioteer, your will, guides the strong horses
so they can run forward swiftly and gallantly as a dynamic unit. So, as we
restrain the lower, instinctive qualities through upholding the yamas, the
soul moves forward to its destination in the state of santosha. Santosha,
peace, is the eternal satisfaction of the soul. At the deepest level, the soul
is always in the state of santosha. But outwardly, the propensity of the
soul is to be clouded by lack of restraint of the instinctive nature, lack
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of restraint of the intellectual nature, lack of restraint of the emotional

nature, lack of restraint of the physical body itself. Therefore, hold tight
the reins. ¶It is important to realize that the yamas, restraints, are not
out of the reach of the lowliest among us. No matter where we are in the
scale of life, we all started from the beginning, at the bottom, didn’t we?
This is our philosophy. This is our religion. This is the evolution of the
soul. We improve, life after life, and these guidelines, yamas and niyamas,
restraints and practices, are gifts from our ®ishis, from God Íiva Himself
through them, to allow us to judge ourself against these pillars of virtue
as to how far we have progressed or strayed. In the early births, we are
like children. We do not stray from anything. We run here and there and
everywhere, disobey every rule, which when told of we cannot remember.
We ignore any admonishment. As adolescents, we force our will on society,
want to change it, because we don’t like the hold it has on us. Wanting to
express themselves in most creative ways, rebellious youths separate them-
selves from other people, children and the adults. They do make changes,
but not always for the best. As an adult, we see both—the past and the
impending future of old age—and, heads down, we are concerned with
accumulating enough to see life through to its uncertain end. When the
accumulations have become adequate, we will look back at the undisci-
plined children, the headstrong, unruly adolescents and the self-possessed,
concentrated adults and try to motivate all three groups. In our great reli-
gion, the Sanâtana Dharma, known today as Hinduism, twenty precepts,
the yamas and niyamas, restraints and observances, are the guidelines
we use to motivate these three groups. These are the guidelines they use
to motivate themselves, for each group is mystically independent of the
others; so it seems.
The first yama is ahiμsâ, noninjury. To practice ahiμsâ,
Thursday one has to practice santosha, contentment. The sâdhana
LESSON 11
is to seek joy and serenity in life, remaining content with
Ahiμsâ:
Noninjury what one has, knows, is doing and those with whom he
associates. Bear your karma cheerfully. Live within your
situation contentedly. Hiμsâ, or injury, and the desire to harm, comes
from discontent. ¶The ®ishis who revealed the principles of dharma or
divine law in Hindu scripture knew full well the potential for human suf-
fering and the path which could avert it. To them a one spiritual power
flowed in and through all things in this universe, animate and inanimate,
conferring existence by its presence. To them life was a coherent process
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leading all souls without exception to enlightenment, and no violence

could be carried to the higher reaches of that ascent. These ®ishis were
mystics whose revelation disclosed a cosmos in which all beings exist
in interlaced dependence. The whole is contained in the part, and the
part in the whole. Based on this cognition, they taught a philosophy of
nondifference of self and other, asserting that in the final analysis we
are not separate from the world and its manifest forms, nor from the
Divine which shines forth in all things, all beings, all peoples. From this
understanding of oneness arose the philosophical basis for the practice
of noninjury and Hinduism’s ancient commitment to it. ¶We all know
that Hindus, who are one-sixth of the human race today, believe in the
existence of God everywhere, as an all-pervasive, self-effulgent energy and
consciousness. This basic belief creates the attitude of sublime tolerance
and acceptance toward others. Even tolerance is insufficient to describe
the compassion and reverence the Hindu holds for the intrinsic sacredness
within all things. Therefore, the actions of all Hindus are rendered benign,
or ahiμsâ. One would not want to hurt something which one revered.
¶On the other hand, when the fundamentalists of any religion teach an
unrelenting duality based on good and evil, man and nature or God and
Devil, this creates friends and enemies. This belief is a sacrilege to Hin-
dus, because they know that the attitudes which are the by-product are
totally dualistic, and for good to triumph over that which is alien or evil,
it must kill out that which is considered to be evil. ¶The Hindu looks at
nothing as intrinsically evil. To him the ground is sacred. The sky is sacred.
The sun is sacred. His wife is a Goddess. Her husband is a God. Their
children are devas. Their home is a shrine. Life is a pilgrimage to mukti,
or liberation from rebirth, which once attained is the end to reincarna-
tion in a physical body. When on a holy pilgrimage, one would not want
to hurt anyone along the way, knowing full well the experiences on this
path are of one’s own creation, though maybe acted out through others.
Ahiμsâ is the first and foremost virtue, presiding over
Friday truthfulness, nonstealing, sexual purity, patience, stead-
LESSON 12
fastness, compassion, honesty and moderate appetite.
Noninjury for
Renunciates The brahmachârî and sannyâsin must take ahiμsâ, non-
injury, one step further. He has mutated himself, esca-
lated himself, by stopping the abilities of being able to harm another by
thought, word or deed, physically, mentally or emotionally. The one step
further is that he must not harm his own self with his own thoughts,
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his own feelings, his own actions toward his own body, toward his own
emotions, toward his own mind. This is very important to remember.
And here, at this juncture, ahiμsâ has a tie with satya, truthfulness. The
sannyâsin must be totally truthful to himself, to his guru, to the Gods
and to Lord Íiva, who resides within him every minute of every hour of
every day. But for him to truly know this and express it through his life
and be a living religious example of the Sanâtana Dharma, all tenden-
cies toward hiμsâ, injuriousness, must always be definitely harnessed in
chains of steel. The mystical reason is this. Because of the brahmachârî’s
or sannyâsin’s spiritual power, he really has more ability to hurt someone
than he or that person may know, and therefore his observance of nonin-
jury is even more vital. Yes, this is true. A brahmachârî or sannyâsin who
does not live the highest level of ahiμsâ is not a brahmachârî. ¶Words are
expressions of thoughts, thoughts created from prâ∫a. Words coupled
with thoughts backed up by the transmuted prâ∫as, or the accumulated
bank account of energies held back within the brahmachârî and the san-
nyâsin, become powerful thoughts, and when expressed through words
go deep into the mind, creating impressions, saμskâras, that last a long
time, maybe forever. It is truly unfortunate if a brahmachârî or sannyâsin
loses control of himself and betrays ahiμsâ by becoming hiμsâ, an inju-
rious person—unfortunate for those involved, but more unfortunate for
himself. When we hurt another, we scar the inside of ourself; we clone the
image. The scar would never leave the sannyâsin until it left the person
that he hurt. This is because the prâ∫as, the transmuted energies, give so
much force to the thought. Thus the words penetrate to the very core of
the being. Therefore, angry people should get married and should not
practice brahmacharya.
The second yama is satya, truthfulness. It seems that
Saturday little children are naturally truthful, open and honest.
LESSON 13
Their lives are uncomplicated, and they have no secrets.
Satya:
Truthfulness National studies show that children, even at an early age,
learn to lie from their parents. They are taught to keep
family secrets, whom to like, whom to dislike, whom to hate and whom
to love, right within the home itself. Their minds become complicated
and their judgments of what to say and what not to say are often influ-
enced by the possibility of a punishment, perhaps a beating. Therefore,
to fully encompass satya and incorporate it in one’s life as a teenager or
an adult, it is quite necessary to dredge the subconscious mind and in
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some cases reject much of what mother or father, relatives and elders had
placed into it at an early age. Only by rejecting the apparent opposites,
likes and dislikes, hates and loves, can true truthfulness, which is a qual-
ity of the soul, burst forth again and be there in full force as it is within
an innocent child. A child practices truthfulness without wisdom. Wis-
dom, which is the timely application of knowledge, guides truthfulness
for the adult. To attain wisdom, the adult must be conversant with the
soul nature. ¶What is it that keeps us from practicing truthfulness? Fear,
mainly. Fear of discovery, fear of punishment or loss of status. This is the
most honest untruthfulness. The next layer of untruthfulness would be
the mischievous person willing to take a chance of not being caught and
deliberately inventing stories about another, deliberately lying when the
truth would do just as well. The third and worst layer is calculated decep-
tion and breaking of promises. ¶Satya is a restraint, and as one of the
ten restraints it ranks in importance as number two. When we restrain
our tendencies to deceive, to lie and break promises, our external life
is uncomplicated, as is our subconscious mind. Honesty is the founda-
tion of truth. It is ecologically, psychologically purifying. However, many
people are not truthful with themselves, to themselves, let alone to oth-
ers. And the calculated, subconscious built-in program of these clever,
cunning, two-faced individuals keeps them in the inner worlds of dark-
ness. To emerge from those worlds, the practice of truthfulness, satya, is
in itself a healing and purifying sâdhana. ¶What is breaking a promise?
Breaking a promise is, for example, when someone confides in you, asks
you to keep it to yourself and not to tell anyone, and then you tell. You
have betrayed your promise. Confidences must be kept at all costs in the
practice of satya. ¶There are certainly times when withholding the truth is
permitted. The Tirukural, Weaver’s Wisdom, explains that “Even falsehood
is of the nature of truth if it renders good results, free from fault” (292).
An astrologer, for instance, while reviewing a chart would refrain from
telling of a heartbreak that might come to a person at a certain time in
his life. This is wisdom. In fact, astrologers are admonished by their gurus
to hold back information that might be harmful or deeply discouraging.
A doctor might not tell his patient that he will die in three days when he
sees the vital signs weakening. Instead, he may encourage positive think-
ing, give hope, knowing that life is eternal and that to invoke fear might
create depression and hopelessness in the mind of the ill person. ¶When
pure truthfulness would injure or cause harm, then the first yama, ahiμsâ,
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would come into effect. You would not want to harm that person, even
with the truth. But we must not look at this verse from the Tirukural as
giving permission for deception. The spirit of the verse is wisdom, good
judgment, not the subterfuge of telling someone you are going to Mum-
bai when your actual destination is Kalikot. That is not truthful. It would
be much better to avoid answering the question at all in some way if one
wanted to conceal the destination of his journey. This would be wisdom.
You would not complicate your own subconscious mind by telling an
untruth, nor be labeled deceptive in the mind of the informed person
when he eventually discovers the actual truth.
Some people use the excuse of truthfulness to nag their
Sunday spouse about what they don’t like about him or her,
LESSON 14
or to gossip about other people’s flaws. This is not the
Honesty with
Your Guru spirit of satya. We do not want to expose others’ faults.
Such confrontations could become argumentative and
combative. No one knows one’s faults better than oneself. But fear and
weakness often prevail, while motivation and a clear plan to correct the
situation are absent. Therefore, to give a clear plan, a positive outlook, a
new way of thinking, diverts the attention of the individual and allows
internal healing to take place. This is wisdom. This is ahiμsâ, noninjury.
This is satya, truthfulness. The wise devotee is careful to never insult or
humiliate others, even under the pretext of telling the truth, which is
an excuse that people sometimes use to tell others what they don’t like
about them. Wise devotees realize that there is good and bad in every-
one. There are emotional ups and downs, mental elations and depressions,
encouragements and discouragements. Let’s focus on the positive. This is
ahiμsâ and satya working together. ¶The brahmachârî and the sannyâsin
must be absolutely truthful with their satguru. They must be absolutely
diplomatic, wise and always accentuate the good qualities within the san-
nyâsin and brahmachârî communities. The guru has the right to discuss,
rebuke or discipline the uncomely qualities in raising up the brahmachârî
and sannyâsin. Only he has this right, because it was given to him by the
brahmachârîs and sannyâsins when they took him as their satguru. This
means that brahmachârîs and sannyâsins cannot discipline one another,
psychoanalyze and correct in the name of truthfulness, without violation
of the number one yama—ahiμsâ, noninjury. ¶Mothers and fathers have
rights with their own children, as do gurus with their ßishyas. These rights
are limited according to wisdom. They are not all-inclusive and should
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not inhibit free will and well-rounded growth within an individual. This
is why a guru is looked upon as the mother and father by the mother and
father and by the disciple who is sent to the guru’s âßrama to study and
learn. It is the guru’s responsibility to mold the aspirant into a solid mem-
ber of the monastic community, just as it is the mother’s and father’s duty
to mold the youth to be a responsible, looked-up-to member of the fam-
ily community. This is how society progresses. ¶The practice, niyama, to
strengthen one’s satya qualities is tapas, austerity—performing sâdhana,
penance, tapas and sacrifice. If you find you have not been truthful, if you
have betrayed promises, then put yourself under the tapas sâdhana. Per-
form a lengthy penance. Atone, repent, perform austerities. You will soon
find that being truthful is much easier than what tapas and austerities will
make you go through if you fail to restrain yourself. ¶Truthfulness is the
fullness of truth. Truth itself is fullness. May fullness prevail, truth prevail,
and the spirit of satya and ahiμsâ permeate humanity.
 Asteya-Brahmacharya-Kshamâ-Dh®iti
Astaeya-b‰Âcaya*-#amaa-Da&ita

Nonstealing and
Other Virtues

Behold the universe in the glory of God: and in all that

lives and moves on Earth. Leaving the transient, find joy in
the Eternal. Set not your heart on another’s possession.
Íukla Yajur Veda, Èßa Upanishad, 1. upm, p. 49
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The third yama is asteya, neither stealing, nor covet-

Monday ing nor entering into debt. We all know what stealing
LESSON 15
is. But now let’s define covetousness. It could well be
Asteya:
Nonstealing defined as owning something mentally and emotionally
but not actually owning it physically. This is not good.
It puts a hidden psychological strain on all parties concerned and brings
up the lower emotions from the tala chakras. It must be avoided at all
cost. Coveting is desiring things that are not your own. Coveting leads
to jealousy, and it leads to stealing. The first impulse toward stealing is
coveting, wanting. If you can control the impulse to covet, then you will
not steal. Coveting is mental stealing. ¶Of course, stealing must never
ever happen. Even a penny, a peso, a rupee, a lira or a yen should not be
misappropriated or stolen. Defaulting on debts is also a form of stealing.
But avoiding debt in principle does not mean that one cannot buy things
on credit or through other contractual arrangements. It does mean that
payments must be made at the expected time, that credit be given in trust
and be eliminated when the time has expired, that contracts be hon-
ored to the satisfaction of all parties concerned. Running one’s affairs on
other peoples’ money must be restrained. To control this is the sâdhana of
asteya. Brahmachârîs and sannyâsins, of course, must scrupulously obey
these restraints relating to debt, stealing and covetousness. These are cer-
tainly not in their code of living. ¶To perfect asteya, we must practice
dâna, charity, the third niyama; we must take the dâßama bhâga vrata,
promising to tithe, pay dâßamâμßa, to our favorite religious organization
and, on top of that, give creatively, without thought of reward. Stealing
is selfishness. Giving is unselfishness. Any lapse of asteya is corrected by
dâna. ¶It is important to realize that one cannot simply obey the yamas
without actively practicing the niyamas. To restrain one’s current ten-
dencies successfully, each must be replaced by a positive observance. For
each of the yamas, there is a positive replacement of doing something
else. The niyamas must totally overshadow the qualities controlled by the
yamas for the perfect person to emerge. It is also important to remember
that doing what should not be done—and not doing what should be
done—does have its consequences. These can be many, depending upon
the evolution of the soul of each individual; but all such acts bring about
Two boys break the principle of asteya by stealing a book while distracting a merchant. Insets:
kshamâ is shown by a mother’s coping with her many duties : a brother protects his sister’s pu-
rity, brahmacharya, from a rogue; workers display steadfast persistence, dh®iti, in their craft.
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the lowering of consciousness into the instinctive nature, and inevitable

suffering is the result. Each Hindu guru has his own ways of mitigating
the negative karmas that result as a consequence of not living up to the
high ideals of these precepts. But the world is also a guru, in a sense, and
its devotees learn by their own mistakes, often repeating the same lessons
many, many times.
I was asked, “Is borrowing money to finance one’s busi-
Tuesday ness in accord with the yama of nonstealing? When can
LESSON 16
you use other peoples’ money and when should you not?”
Debt, Gambling
And Grief When the creditors start calling you for their money
back, sending demand notices indicating that they only
extended you thirty days’, sixty days’ or ninety days’ credit, then if you
fail to pay, or pay only a quarter or half of it just to keep them at arm’s
length because you still need their money to keep doing what you are
doing, this is a violation of this yama. ¶There are several kinds of debt
that are disallowed by this yama. One is spending beyond your means
and accumulating bills you can’t pay. We are reminded of Tirukural verse
478 which says that the way to avoid poverty is to spend within your
means: “A small income is no cause for failure, provided expenditures
do not exceed it.” We can see that false wealth, or the mere appearance
of wealth, is using other peoples’ money, either against their will or by
paying a premium price for it. Many people today are addicted to abus-
ing credit. It’s like being addicted to the drug opium. People addicted to
O.P.M.—other people’s money—compulsively spend beyond their means.
They don’t even think twice about handing over their last credit card to
pay for that $500 sârî after all the other credit cards have been “maxed out.”
When the bill arrives, it gets added to the stack of other bills that can’t
possibly be paid. ¶Another kind of debt is contracting resources beyond
your ability to pay back the loan. This is depending on a frail, uncertain
future. Opportunities may occur to pay the debt, but then again they may
not. The desire was so great for the commodity which caused the debt
that a chance was taken. Essentially, this is gambling with someone else’s
money; and it is no way to run one’s life. ¶Gambling and speculation are
also forms of entering into debt. Speculation could be a proper form of
acquiring wealth if one has the wealth to maintain the same standard of
living he is accustomed to even if the speculation failed. Much of business
is speculation; and high-risk speculations do come along occasionally;
but one should never risk more than one can afford to lose. ¶Gambling
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is different, because the games are fun, a means of entertainment and

releasing stress; though even in the casinos one should not gamble more
than he could afford to lose. However, unlike speculation, when one is
in the excitement of gambling and begins to lose, the greed and desire
to win it all back arises, and the flustered gambler may risk his and his
family’s wealth and well-being. Stress builds. The disastrous consequences
of gambling were admonished in the oldest scripture, the Âig Veda, in the
famous fourteen-verse “Gambler’s Lament” (10.34. ve, p. 501). Verse ten
summarizes: “Abandoned, the wife of the gambler grieves. Grieved, too,
is his mother, as he wanders vaguely. Afraid and in debt, ever greedy for
money, he steals in the night to the home of another.” This is not fun;
nor is it entertainment. ¶These are the grave concerns behind our sûtra
that prohibits gambling for my ßishyas: “Íiva’s devotees are forbidden
to indulge in gambling or games of chance with payment or risk, even
through others or for employment. Gambling erodes society, assuring
the loss of many for the gain of a few” (sûtra 76). Everyone really knows
that the secret to winning at gambling is to own a casino. ¶Compulsive
gambling and reckless, unfounded speculation are like stealing from your
own family, risking the family wealth. More than that, it is stealing from
yourself, because the remorse felt when an inevitable loss comes could
cause a loss of faith in your abilities and your judgment. And if the loss
affects the other members of the family, their estimation and respect and
confidence in your good judgment goes way down. ¶Many people justify
stealing by saying that life is unfair and therefore it’s OK to take from the
rich. They feel it’s OK to steal from a rich corporation, for example: “They
will never miss it, and we need it more.” Financial speculation can easily
slide into unfair maneuvering, where a person is actually stealing from a
small or large company, thereby making it fail. The credibility of the per-
son will go down, and businesses will beware of this speculative investor
who would bring a company to ruin to fatten his own pockets. Entering
into debt is a modern convenience and a modern temptation. But this
convenience must be honored within the time allotted. If you are paying
a higher interest rate because of late or partial payments, you have abused
your credit and your creditors. ¶At the Global Forum for Human Survival
in 1990 in Moscow, the participants began worrying about the kids, the
next generation. “What are they going to think of us?” they asked. Is it fair
to fulfill a need now, spoil the environment and hand the bill over to the
next generation? No, it is not. This is another form of stealing. We can’t
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say, “We have to have chlorofluorocarbons now, and the next generation
has to face the consequences.” The yamas and niyamas are thus not just a
personal matter but also a national, communal and global matter. Yes, this
takes asteya and all the restraints and observances to another dimension.
Brahmacharya, sexual purity, is a very important
Wednesday restraint among the ancient Íaivite ethical principles
LESSON 17
known as yamas and niyamas, because it sets the pat-
Brahmacharya:
Sexual Purity tern for one’s entire life. Following this principle, the
vital energies are used before marriage in study rather
than in sexual fantasy, e-pornography, masturbation, necking, petting
or sexual intercourse. After marriage, the vital energies are concentrated
on business, livelihood, fulfilling one’s duties, serving the community,
improving oneself and one’s family, and performing sâdhana. For those
who do not believe in God, Gods, guru or the path to enlightenment, this
is a difficult restraint to fulfill, and such people tend to be promiscu-
ous when single and therefore unfaithful in marriage. ¶The rewards for
maintaining this restraint are many. Those who practice brahmacharya
before marriage and apply its principles throughout married life are free
from encumbrances—mentally, emotionally and physically. They get a
good start on life, have long-lasting, mature family relationships, and
their children are emotionally sound, mentally firm and physically strong.
¶Those who are promiscuous and unreligious are susceptible to impulses
of anger, have undefined fears, experience jealousy and the other instinc-
tive emotions. The doors of the higher world are open to them, but the
doors of the lower world are also open. Even the virgin brahmachârî who
believes firmly in God, Gods, guru and the path to enlightenment and
has a strict family must be watched and carefully guided to maintain his
brahmacharya. Without this careful attention, the virginity may easily be
lost. ¶Brahmacharya for the monastic means complete sexual abstinence
and is, of course, an understood requirement to maintain this position in
life. This applies as well to any single individual who has taken the celibacy
vow, known as brahmacharya vrata. If brahmacharya is compromised by
the brahmachârî, he must face the consequences and reaffirm his original
intent. Having lost faith in himself because of breaking his vrata, his self-
confidence must be rebuilt. ¶It should be perfectly clear that it is totally
unacceptable for men or women who have taken up the celibate monastic
life to live a double standard and surround themselves with those of the
opposite sex—be they fellow âßramites, personal aides, secretaries or close
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devotees—or with their former family. Nowadays there are pseudo-san-

nyâsins who are married and call themselves swâmîs, but, if pressed, they
might admit that they are simply yoga teachers dressed in orange robes,
bearing the title “swâmî” to attract the attention of the uninformed public
for commercial reasons. ¶There is great power in the practice of brahma-
charya, literally “Godly conduct.” Containing the sacred fluids within the
body builds up a bank account through the years that makes the realiza-
tion of God on the path to enlightenment a reality within the life of the
individual who is single. When brahmacharya is broken through sexual
intercourse, this power goes away. It just goes away.
The observance of brahmacharya is perhaps the most
Thursday essential aspect of a sound, spiritual culture. This is why
LESSON 18
in Íaivism, boys and girls are taught the importance of
Brahmacharya
In Family Life remaining celibate until they are married. This creates
healthy individuals, physically, emotionally and spiri-
tually, generation after generation. There is a mystical reason. In virgin
boys and girls, the psychic nâ∂îs, the astral nerve currents that extend out
into and through their aura, have small hooks at the end. When a boy
and girl marry, the hooks straighten out and the nâ∂îs are tied one to
another, and they actually grow together. If the first sexual experience is
premarital and virginity is broken, the hooks at the end of the nâ∂îs also
straighten out, but there is nothing to grow onto if the partners do not
marry. Then, when either partner marries someone else, the relationship
is never as close as when a virgin boy and girl marry, because their nâ∂îs
don’t grow together in the same way. In cases such as this, they feel the
need for intellectual stimuli and emotional stimuli to keep the marriage
going. ¶Youth ask, “How should we regard members of the opposite sex?”
Do not look at members of the opposite sex with any idea of sex or lust in
mind. Do not indulge in admiring those of the opposite sex, or seeing one
as more beautiful than another. Boys must foster the inner attitude that all
young women are their sisters and all older women are their mother. Girls
must foster the inner attitude that all young men are their brothers and
all older men are their father. Do not attend movies that depict the base
instincts of humans, nor read books or magazines of this nature. Above
all, avoid pornography on the Internet, on TV and in any other media.
¶To be successful in brahmacharya, one naturally wants to avoid arousing
the sex instincts. This is done by understanding and avoiding the eight
successive phases: fantasy, glorification, flirtation, lustful glances, secret
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love talk, amorous longing, rendezvous and finally intercourse. Be very

careful to mix only with good company—those who think and speak in
a cultured way—so that the mind and emotions are not led astray and
vital energies needed for study used up. Get plenty of physical exercise.
This is very important, because exercise sublimates your instinctive drives
and directs excess energy and the flow of blood into all parts of the body.
¶Brahmacharya means sexual continence, as was observed by Mahatma
Gandhi in his later years and by other great souls throughout life. There is
another form of sexual purity, though not truly brahmacharya, followed
by faithful family people who have a normal sex life while raising a fam-
ily. They are working toward the stage when they will take their brahma-
charya vrata after sixty years of age. Thereafter they would live together
as brother and sister, sleeping in separate bedrooms. During their mar-
ried life, they control the forces of lust and regulate instinctive energies
and thus prepare to take that vrata. But if they are unfaithful, flirtatious
and loose in their thinking through life, they will not be inclined to take
the vrata in later life. ¶Faithfulness in marriage means fidelity and much
more. It includes mental faithfulness, non-flirtatiousness and modesty
toward the opposite sex. A married man, for instance, should not hire a
secretary who is more magnetic or more beautiful than his wife. Meta-
physically, in the perfect family relationship, man and wife are, in a sense,
creating a one nervous system for their joint spiritual progress, and all of
their nâ∂îs are growing together over the years. If they break that faith-
fulness, they break the psychic, soul connections that are developing for
their personal inner achievements. If one or the other of the partners does
have an affair, this creates a psychic tug and pull on the nerve system of
both spouses that will continue until the affair ends and long afterwards.
Therefore, the principle of the containment of the sexual force and mental
and emotional impulses is the spirit of brahmacharya, both for the single
and married person.
For virtuous individuals who marry, their experiences
Friday with their partner are, again, free from lustful fantasies;
LESSON 19
and emotional involvement is only with their spouse. Yes,
Rules for
Serious People a normal sex life should be had between husband and
wife, and no one else should be included in either one’s
mind or emotions. Never hugging, touching another’s spouse or excit-
ing the emotions; always dressing modestly, not in a sexually arousing
way; not viewing sexually oriented or pornographic videos; not telling
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dirty jokes—all of these simple customs are traditional ways of upholding

sexual purity. The yama of brahmacharya works in concert with asteya,
nonstealing. Stealing or coveting another’s spouse, even mentally, creates
a force that, once generated, is difficult to stop. ¶In this day and age, when
promiscuity is a way of life, there is great strength in married couples’
understanding and applying the principles of sexual purity. If they obey
these principles and are on the path of enlightenment, they will again
become celibate later in life, as they were when they were young. These
principles persist through life, and when their children are raised and the
forces naturally become quiet, around age sixty, husband and wife take
the brahmacharya vrata, live in separate rooms and prepare themselves for
greater spiritual experiences. ¶Married persons uphold sexual purity by
observing the eightfold celibacy toward everyone but their spouse. These
are ideals for serious, spiritual people. For those who have nothing to do
with spirituality, these laws are meaningless. We are assuming a situation
of a couple where everything they do and all that happens in their life
is oriented toward spiritual life and spiritual goals and, therefore, these
principles do apply. For sexual purity, individuals must believe firmly in
the path to enlightenment. They must have faith in higher powers than
themselves. Without this, sexual purity is nearly impossible. ¶One of the
fastest ways to destroy the stability of families and societies is through
promiscuity, mental and/or physical, and the best way to maintain sta-
bility is through self-control. The world today has become increasingly
unstable because of the mental, physical, emotional license that people
have given to themselves. The generation that follows an era of promiscu-
ity has a dearth of examples to follow and are even more unstable than
their parents were when they began their promiscuous living. Stability for
human society is based on morality, and morality is based on harness-
ing and controlling sexuality. The principles of brahmacharya should be
learned well before puberty, so that the sexual feelings the young per-
son then begins to experience are free of mental fantasies and emotional
involvement. Once established in a young person, this control is expected
to be carried out all through life. When a virgin boy and girl marry, they
transfer the love they have for their parents to one another. The boy’s
attachment to his mother is transferred to his wife, and the girl’s attach-
ment to her father is transferred to her husband. She now becomes the
mother. He now becomes the father. This does not mean they love their
parents any less. This is why the parents have to be in good shape, to cre-
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ate the next generation of stable families. This is their dharmic duty. If
they don’t do it, they create all kinds of uncomely karmas for themselves
to be faced at a later time.
The fifth yama, patience, or kshamâ, is as essential to the
Saturday spiritual path as the spiritual path is to itself. Impatience
LESSON 20
is a sign of desirousness to fulfill unfulfilled desires, hav-
Kshamâ:
Patience ing no time for any interruptions or delays from any-
thing that seems irrelevant to what one really wants to
accomplish. ¶We must restrain our desires by regulating our life with
daily worship and meditation. Daily worship and meditation are difficult
to accomplish without a break in continuity. However, impatience and
frustration come automatically in continuity, day after day, often at the
same time—being impatient before breakfast because it is not served on
time, feeling intolerant and abusive with children because they are not
behaving as adults, and on and on. Everything has its timing and its regu-
larity in life. Focusing on living in the eternity of the moment overcomes
impatience. It produces the feeling that one has nothing to do, no future
to work toward and no past to rely on. This excellent spiritual practice
can be performed now and again during the day by anyone. ¶Patience
is having the power of acceptance, accepting people, accepting events as
they are happening. One of the great spiritual powers that people can
have is to accept things as they are. That forestalls impatience and intol-
erance. Acceptance is developed in a person by understanding the law
of karma and in seeing God Íiva and His work everywhere, accepting
the perfection of the timing of the creation, preservation and absorp-
tion of the entire universe. Acceptance does not mean being resigned to
one’s situation and avoiding challenges. We know that we ourselves cre-
ated our own situation, our own challenges, in a former time by sending
forth our energies, thoughts, words and deeds. As these energies, on their
cycle-back, manifest through people, happenings and circumstances, we
must patiently deal with the situation, not fight it or try to avoid it or be
discouraged because of it. This is kshamâ in the raw. This is pure kshamâ.
Patience cannot be acquired in depth in any other way. This is why medi-
tation upon the truths of the Sanâtana Dharma is so important. ¶It is
also extremely important to maintain patience with oneself—especially
with oneself. Many people are masters of the façade of being patient with
others but take their frustrations out on themselves. This can be corrected
and must be corrected for spiritual unfoldment to continue through an
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unbroken routine of daily worship and meditation and a yearly routine of

attending festivals and of pilgrimage, tîrthayatra. ¶Most people today are
intolerant with one another and impatient with their circumstances. This
breeds an irreverent attitude. Nothing is sacred to them, nothing holy. But
through daily exercising anger, malice and the other lower emotions, they
do, without knowing, invoke the demonic forces of the Narakaloka. Then
they must suffer the backlash: have nightmares, confusions, separations
and even perform heinous acts. Let all people of the world restrain them-
selves and be patient through the practice of daily worship and medita-
tion, which retroactively invokes the divine forces from the Devaloka. May
a great peace pervade the planet as the well-earned result of these prac-
tices. ¶The next time you find yourself becoming impatient, just stop for
a moment and remember that you are on the upward path, now facing a
rare opportunity to take one more step upward by overcoming these feel-
ings, putting all that you have previously learned into practice. One does
not progress on the spiritual path by words, ideas or unused knowledge.
Memorized precepts, ßlokas, all the shoulds and should-nots, are good, but
unless used they will not propel you one inch further than you already
are. It is putting what you have learned into practice in these moments
of experiencing impatience and controlling it through command of your
spiritual will, that moves you forward. These steps forward can never be
retracted. When a test comes, prevail. ¶Sâdhakas and sannyâsins must be
perfect in kshamâ, forbearing with people and patient under all circum-
stances, as they have harnessed their karmas of this life and the lives before,
compressed them to be experienced in this one lifetime. There is no cause
for them, if they are to succeed, to harbor intolerance or experience any
kind of impatience with people or circumstances. Their instinctive, intel-
lectual nature should be caught up in daily devotion, unreserved wor-
ship, meditation and deep self-inquiry. Therefore, the practice, niyama,
that mitigates intolerance is devotion, Èßvarapûjana, cultivating devotion
through daily worship and meditation.
The sixth yama is dh®iti, steadfastness. To be steadfast, you
Sunday have to use your willpower. Willpower is developed easily
LESSON 21
in a person who has an adequate memory and good rea-
Dh®iti:
Steadfastness soning faculties. To be steadfast as we go through life, we
must have a purpose, a plan, persistence and push. Then
nothing is impossible within the circumference of our prârabdha karmas.
¶It is impossible to be steadfast if we are not obeying the other restraints
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that the ®ishis of the Himalayas laid down for us as the fruits of their
wisdom. All of these restraints build character, and dh®iti, steadfastness,
rests on the foundation of good character. Character—the ability to “act
with care”—is built slowly, over time, with the help of relatives, precep-
tors and good-hearted friends. Observe those who are steadfast. You will
learn from them. Observe those who are not, and they, too, will teach you.
They will teach what you should not do. To be indecisive and changeable
is not how we should be on the path to enlightenment, nor to be success-
ful in any other pursuit. Nonperseverance and fear must be overcome,
and much effort is required to accomplish this. Daily sâdhana, preferably
under a guru’s guidance, is suggested here to develop a spiritual will and
intellect. ¶In the Íândilya Upanishad (upm, p. 173-174), dh®iti has been
described as preserving firmness of mind during the period of gain or
loss of relatives. This implies that during times of sorrow, difficult karmas,
loss and temptation, when in mental pain and anguish, feeling alone and
neglected, we can persevere, be decisive and bring forth the dh®iti strength
within us and thus prevail. One translator of the Varuha Upanishad used
the word courage to translate dh®iti. Courageous and fearless people who
are just and honest prevail over all karmas—benevolent, terrible and con-
fused. This virtue is much like the monk’s vow of humility, part of which
is enduring hardship with equanimity, ease of mind, which means not
panicking. The Tirukural reminds us, “It is the nature of asceticism to
patiently endure hardship and to not harm living creatures” (261). And
we can say that dh®iti itself is a “hard ship”—a ship that can endure and
persevere on its course even when tossed about on the waves of a turbu-
lent sea. ¶Some might wonder why it is good to passively endure hardship.
To persevere through hardship one must understand, as all Hindus do,
that any hardship coming to us we ourselves participated in setting into
motion in the past. To endure hardship and rise above it in consciousness
is to overcome that karma forever. To resent hardship, to fight it, is to have
it return later at a most inconvenient time. ¶An essential part of stead-
fastness is overcoming changeableness. Changeableness means indecision,
not being decisive, changing one’s mind after making a deliberate, posi-
tive decision. Changing one’s mind can be a positive thing, but making a
firm, well-considered decision and not following it through would gain
one the reputation of not being dependable, even of being weak-minded.
No one wants a reputation like this. ¶How can we discriminate between
this and the strength of a person who changes his or her mind in wisdom
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because of changes of circumstance? A person who is changeable is fickle

and unsure of himself, changing without purpose or reason. Dh®iti, stead-
fastness, describes the mind that is willing to change for mature reasons
based on new information but holds steady to its determinations through
thick and thin in the absence of such good reasons. Its decisions are based
on wise discrimination. A person who is patient and truthful, who would
not harm others by thought, word or deed and who is compassionate and
honest has the strong nature of one who is firm in dh®iti, steadfastness.
He is the prevailer over obstacles. One firm in dh®iti can be leaned upon
by others, depended upon. He is charitable, has faith in God, Gods and
guru, worships daily and manifests in his life a spiritual will and intellect.
In relaxed moments he experiences santosha, contentment, not being pre-
occupied by feelings of responsibility, duty or things left undone. ¶The
spiritual path is a long, enduring process. It does not reach fruition in a
year or two years. The spiritual path brings lots of ups and downs, and
the greatest challenges will come to the greatest souls. With this in mind,
it becomes clear that steadiness and perseverance are absolutely essential
on the spiritual path.
 Dayâ-Årjava-Mitâhâra
dyaa-Aaja*va-imataahar

Compassion,
Honesty and Diet

Therefore, he who knows this, having become

peaceful, controlled, detached, patient and concen-
trated, sees the âtman in himself and sees all in the
âtman. Evil does not overcome him, but he overcomes
all evil; evil does not consume him, but he consumes
all evil. Free from evil, free from passion, free from
doubt, he becomes a knower of Brahman.
Íukla Yajur Veda, Brihadâra∫yaka Upanishad 4.4.23. ve, p. 718
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The seventh yama is dayâ, compassion. Sometimes it

Monday is kind to be cruel, and at other times it is cruel to be
LESSON 22
kind. This statement has come forward from religion to
Dayâ:
Compassion religion, generation to generation. Compassion tempers
all decisions, gives clemency, absolution, forgiveness as
a boon even for the most heinous misdeeds. This is a quality built on
steadfastness. Dayâ comes from deep sâdhana, prolonged santosha, con-
tentment, scriptural study and listening to the wise. It is the outgrowth
of the unfolded soul, the maturing of higher consciousness. A compas-
sionate person transcends even forgiveness by caring for the suffering of
the person he has forgiven. The compassionate person is like a God. He is
the boon-giver. Boons, which are gifts from the Gods, come unexpectedly,
unasked-for. And so it is with the grace of a compassionate person. ¶A
devotee asked, “What should we think about those who are cruel toward
creatures, who casually kill flies and step on cockroaches?” Compassion
is defined as conquering callous, cruel and insensitive feelings toward all
beings. A compassionate person would tell a plant verbally if he was going
to pick from it, intuiting that the plant has feelings of its own. A compas-
sionate person would seek to keep pests away rather than killing them. A
callous person would tear the plant up by its roots. A cruel person would,
as a child, pull one wing off a fly and, unless corrected, mature this cruelty
on through life until he maimed a fellow human. Compassion is just the
opposite to all this. ¶When we find callous, cruel and insensitive people
in our midst, we should not take them into our inner circles, but make
them feel they must improve before admittance onto the spiritual path.
Compassion is the outgrowth of being forgiving. It is the outgrowth of
truthfulness, and of noninjury. It is a product of asteya, of brahmacharya
and of kshamâ. It is, in fact, higher consciousness, based in the vißuddha
chakra of divine love. ¶One can’t command compassion. Before compas-
sion comes love. Compassion is the outgrowth of love. Love is the out-
growth of understanding. Understanding is the outgrowth of reason. One
must have sufficient memory to remember the various points of reason
and enough willpower to follow them through to be able to psychically
look into the core of existence to gain the reverence for all life, all living
organisms, animate or inanimate. Compassion is a very advanced spiri-
At a village cafe two men are eating a traditional meal on banana leaves. One follows mitâhâra,
while the other overeats. Insets: The man beating a dog has little compassion, dayâ; students are
cheating on a test in a classroom while a peer admonishes them to follow ârjava, honesty.
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tual quality. When you see it exhibited in someone, you know he is very
advanced spiritually—probably an old soul. It really can’t be taught. Dayâ
goes with ânanda. Compassion and bliss are a one big package. ¶What
is the difference between ahiμsâ and dayâ, compassion, one might ask?
There is a distinct difference. Not harming others by thought, word or
deed is a cardinal law of Hinduism and cannot be avoided, discarded,
ignored or replaced by the more subtle concept of compassion. Ahiμsâ,
among the yamas and niyamas, could be considered the only explicit com-
mandment Hinduism gives. Compassion comes from the heart, comes
spontaneously. It is a total flow of spiritual, material, intellectual giving,
coming unbidden to the receiver. ¶Compassion by no means is foolish-
ness or pretense. It is an overflowing of soulfulness. It is an outpouring of
spiritual energy that comes through the person despite his thoughts or his
personal feelings or his reason or good judgment. The person experienc-
ing compassion is often turned around emotionally and mentally as he
is giving this clemency, this boon of absolution, despite his own instinc-
tive or intellectual inclinations. This is a spiritual outpouring through a
person. Rishi Tirumular used the word arul for this yama. Arul means
grace in the ancient Tamil language. ¶A devotee once e-mailed me, say-
ing, “Recently I was going through some suffering and had bad thoughts
and bad feelings for those who caused that suffering. Now that I’m feeling
better, can I erase those bad thoughts and feelings?” Thoughts and bad
feelings you have sent into the future are bound to come back to you. But,
yes, you can mitigate and change that karma by being extra-special nice
to those who abused you, hurt you or caused you to have bad thoughts
and feelings against them. Being extra-special nice means accepting them
for who they are. Don’t have critical thoughts or try to change them. Have
compassion. They are who they are, and only they can change themselves.
Be extra-special nice. Go out of your way to say good words, give a gift
and have good feelings toward them.
The eighth yama is ârjava, honesty. The most important
Tuesday rule of honesty is to be honest to oneself, to be able to
LESSON 23
face up to our problems and admit that we have been the
Årjava:
Honesty creator of them. To be able to then reason them through,
make soulfully honest decisions toward their solutions,
is a boon, a gift from the Gods. To be honest with oneself brings peace
of mind. Those who are frustrated, discontent, are now and have been
dishonest with themselves. They blame others for their own faults and
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predicaments. They are always looking for a scapegoat, someone to blame

something on. To deceive oneself is truly the ultimate of wrongdoing.
To deceive oneself is truly ignorance in its truest form. Honesty begins
within one’s own heart and soul and works its way out from there into
dealing with other people. Polonius wisely said in Shakespeare’s Hamlet,
“This above all: to your own self be true, and it must follow, as the night
the day, you cannot then be false to any man.” ¶The adage, “Say what you
mean, and mean what you say” should be heard again and again by the
youth, middle-aged and elderly alike. Sir Walter Scott once said, “Oh what
a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive.” Mark Twain
observed, “The advantage of telling the truth is that you don’t have to
remember what you said.” Another philosopher, wise in human nature,
noted, “You can watch a thief, but you cannot watch a liar.” To be decep-
tive and not straightforward is thieving time from those you are deceiv-
ing. They are giving you their heart and mind, and you are twisting their
thoughts to your own selfish ends, endeavoring to play them out, to take
what they have, in favors or in kind, for your personal gain. ¶Deception
is the cruelest of acts. A deceptive person is an insidious disease to soci-
ety. Many parents, we are told, teach their children to be deceptive and
cunning in order to get on in the world. They are not building good
citizens. They are creating potential criminals who will eventually, if they
perfect the art, ravage humankind. To be straightforward is the solu-
tion, no matter how difficult it is. To show remorse, be modest and show
shame for misdeeds is the way to win back the faith, though maybe not
the total trust, and a smidgen of respect from those who have discovered
and exposed your deception. Årjava is straightness with neighbors, fam-
ily and with your government. You pay your taxes. You observe the laws.
You don’t fudge, bribe, cheat, steal or participate in fraud and other forms
of manipulation. ¶Bribery corrupts the giver, the taker and the nation. It
would be better not to have, not to do, and to live the simple life, if brib-
ery were the alternative. To participate in bribery is to go into a decep-
tive, illegal partnership between the briber and the bribed. If and when
discovered, embarrassment no end would fall on both parties involved in
the crime, and even if not discovered, someone knows, someone is watch-
ing, your own conscience is watching. There is no law in any legal code
of any government that says bribery is acceptable. ¶There are those who
feel it is sufficient to be honest and straightforward with their friends and
family, but feel justified to be dishonest with business associates, corpora-
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tions, governments and strangers. These are the most despicable people.
Obviously they have no knowledge of the laws of karma and no desire to
obtain a better, or even a similar, birth. They may experience several abor-
tions before obtaining a new physical body and then be an unwanted child.
They may suffer child abuse, neglect, beatings, perhaps even be killed at
a young age. These two-faced persons—honest to immediate friends and
relatives, but dishonest and deceptive and involved in wrongdoings with
business associates and in public life—deserve the punishment that only
the lords of karma are able to deal out. These persons are training their
sons and daughters to be like themselves and pull down humanity rather
than uplift mankind.
We can say that sâdhakas, yogîs and swâmîs upholding
Wednesday their vows are the prism of honesty. The rays of their
LESSON 24
auras radiate out through all areas of life. They are the
Honesty in
Monastic Life protectors, the stabilizers, the uplifters, the consolers,
the sympathizers. They have the solution to all human
problems and all human ills, or they know where to find those solutions,
to whom to go or what scripture to read. To be a sâdhaka, yogî or swâmî,
honesty is the primal qualification, yes, primal qualification—honesty,
ârjava. No satguru would accept a monastic candidate who persists in
patterns of deception, wrongdoing and outright lies and who shows no
shame for misdeeds. ¶Human relations, especially the guru-disciple rela-
tionship, derive their strength from trust, which each shares and expresses.
The breaking of the yama of ârjava is the severing of that trust, which
thereby provokes the destruction or demise of the relationship. When
the relationship falls into distrust, suspicion, anger, hate, confusion and
retaliation, this gives birth to argument. ¶Countries that have weak lead-
ership and unstable governments that allow wrongdoing to become a way
of life, deception to be the way of thinking, are participating in dividing
the masses in this very way. People begin to distrust one another. Because
they are involved in wrongdoing, they suspect others of being involved in
wrongdoings. People become angry because they are involved in wrong-
doing. And finally the country fails and goes into war or succumbs to
innumerable internal problems. We see this happening all over the world.
A strong democratic country is constantly showing up politicians who
take bribes and presidents who are involved in deception and wrongdo-
ing, who set a poor example for the masses as to how things should be.
Higher-consciousness governments are able to maintain their economy
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and feed their people. Lower-consciousness governments are not. ¶Even

large, successful corporate monopolies deem honesty as the first necessary
qualification for an employee. When his deception and wrongdoing are
discovered, he is irrevocably terminated. There are many religious orga-
nizations today that have deceptive, dishonest people within them who
connive wrongdoings, and these religious groups are failing and reaping
the rewards of failing through loss and confusion. It is up to the heads
of those organizations to weed out the deceptive, corruptive, virus-like
persons to maintain the spirituality and fulfill the original intent of the
founders. ¶Årjava could well be interpreted as simplicity, as many com-
mentators have done. It is easier to remember the truth than remember
lies—white lies, gray lies or black lies. It is easier to be straightforward
than conniving and deceptive, dishonest. A simple life is an honest life.
An honest life is a simple life. When our wants which produce our needs
are simple, there is no need to be deceptive or participate in wrongdoing.
It’s as simple as that. Årjava means not complicating things, not ramifying
concerns and anxieties. This is to say, when a situation occurs, handle the
situation within the situation itself. Don’t use the emotion involved in the
situation to motivate or manipulate for personal gain in another situation.
Don’t owe people favors, and don’t allow people to owe you favors. Don’t
promise what you can’t deliver, and do deliver what you promise. This is
the Sanâtana Dharma way. If the neo-Indian religion is teaching differ-
ently, pay no attention. It is all political, and it has no kinship to dharma.
The tenth yama is mitâhâra, moderate appetite. Simi-
Thursday larly, mitavyayin is little or moderate spending, being
LESSON 25
economical or frugal, and mitasâyan is sleeping little.
Mitâhâra:
Moderate Diet Gorging oneself has always been a form of decadence in
every culture and is considered unacceptable behavior. It
is the behavior of people who gain wealth and luxuries from the miseries
of others. Decadence, which is a dance of decay, has been the downfall of
many governments, empires, kingdoms and principalities. Marie Antoi-
nette, Queen of France, made the famous decadent statement just before
the French Revolution: “If the people have no bread, let them eat cake.”
Nearly everyone who heard that imperious insult, including its author-
ess, completely lost their heads. Decadence is a form of decay that the
masses have railed against century upon century, millennium after mil-
lennium. ¶All this and more shows us that mitâhâra is a restraint that we
must all obey and which is one of the most difficult. The body knows no
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wisdom as to shoulds and should-nots. It would eat and drink itself to

death if it had its way, given its own instinctive intelligence. It is the mind
that controls the body and emotions and must effect this restraint for its
own preservation, health and wellness of being, to avoid the emptiness of
“sick-being.” ¶According to âyurveda, not eating too much is the greatest
thing you can do for health if you want a long life, ease in meditation
and a balanced, happy mind. That is why, for thousands of years, yogîs,
sâdhus and meditators have eaten moderately. There is almost nothing,
apart from smoking and drugs, that hurts the body more than excessive
eating, and excessive eating has to be defined in both the amount of food
and the quality of food. If you are regularly eating rich, processed, dead
foods, then you are not following mitâhâra, and you will have rich, finely
processed, dead, dredged-up-from-the-past karmic experiences that will
ruin your marriage, wreak havoc on your children and send you early to
the funeral pyre. ¶For the twenty-first century, mitâhâra has still another
meaning. Our ®ishis may have anticipated that the economy of mitâhâra
makes it a global discipline—eating frugally, not squandering your wealth
to overindulge yourself, not using the wealth of a nation to pamper the
nation’s most prosperous, not using the resources of the Earth to satiate
excessive appetites. If all are following mitâhâra, we will be able to better
feed everyone on the planet; fewer will be hungry. We won’t have such
extreme inequalities of excessive diet and inadequate diet, the incongru-
ity of gluttony and malnutrition. We will have global moderation. The
Hindu view is that we are part of ecology, an intricate part of the planet.
Our physical body is a species here with rights equal to a flea, cockroach,
bird, snake, a fish, a small animal or an elephant.
By following mitâhâra you can be healthier, and you can
Friday be wealthier. A lot of money is wasted in the average
LESSON 26
family on food that could go toward many other things
Diet and
Good Health the family needs or wants. If you are healthier, you save
on doctor bills, and because this also helps in sâdhana
and meditation, you will be healthy, happy and holy. Overeating repels
one from spiritual sâdhana, because the body becomes slothful and lazy,
having to digest so much food and run it through its system. Eating is
meant to nourish the body with vitamins and minerals to keep it func-
tioning. It is not meant for mere personal, sensual pleasure. A slothful
person naturally does not have the inclination to advance himself through
education and meditation, and is unable to do anything but a simple,
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routine job. ¶We recently heard of a Western science lab study that fed
two groups of rats different portions of food. Those who were allowed to
have any amount of food they could eat lived a normal rat life span. Those
who were given half that much lived twice as long. This so impressed the
scientists that they immediately dropped their own calorie input and lost
many pounds, realizing that a long, healthy life could be attained by not
eating so much. ¶People on this planet are divided in two groups, as delin-
eated by states of consciousness. The most obvious group is those ruled
by lower consciousness, which proliferates deceit and dishonesty and the
confusion in life that these bring, along with fear, anger, jealousy and the
subsequent remorseful emotions that follow. On the purer side are those
in higher consciousness, ruled by the powers of reason and memory, will-
power, good judgment, universal love, compassion and more. A vegetar-
ian diet helps to open the inner man to the outer person and brings forth
higher consciousness. Eating meat, fish, fowl and eggs opens the doors to
lower consciousness. It’s as simple as that. A vegetarian diet creates the
right chemistry for spiritual life. Other diets create a different chemistry,
which affects your endocrine glands and your entire system all day long.
A vegetarian diet helps your system all day long. Food is chemistry, and
chemistry affects consciousness; and if our goal is higher consciousness,
we have to provide the chemistry that evokes it.
There is a wonderful breathing exercise you can perform
Saturday to aid the digestion and elimination of food by stimulat-
LESSON 27
ing the internal fire. Breathe in through your nose a nor-
Take Charge
Of Your Body mal breath, and out through your nose very fast while
pulling the stomach in. Then relax your stomach and
again breathe in naturally and then out quickly by pulling the stomach in
to force the air out of the lungs. Do this for one minute, then rest for one
minute, then do it again. Then rest for a minute and do it again. About
three repetitions is generally enough to conquer indigestion or constipa-
tion. This prâ∫âyâma amplifies the heat of the body and stimulates the
fire that digests food and eliminates waste. It is especially good for those
who are rather sedentary and do a lot of intellectual work, whose energies
are in the intellect and may not be addressing their digestive needs ade-
quately. ¶Take charge of your own body and see that it is working right, is
healthy and you are eating right. If you do overindulge, then compensate
by fasting occasionally and performing physical disciplines. Most people
have certain cravings and desires which they permit themselves to indulge
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in, whether it be sweets or rich, exotic foods or overly spiced foods. Dis-
covering and moderating such personal preferences and desires is part of
the spiritual path. If you find you overindulge in jelly beans, cashew nuts,
licorice, chocolate, varieties of soft drinks or exotic imported coffee, mod-
erate those appetites. Then you are controlling the entire desire nature of
the instinctive mind in the process. That is a central process of spiritual
unfoldment—to control and moderate such desires. ¶The ®ishis of yore
taught us to restrain desire. They used the words restrain and moderate
rather than suppress or eliminate. We must remember that to restrain and
moderate desire allows the energy which is restrained and moderated
to enliven higher chakras, giving rise to creativity and intuition that will
actually better mankind, one’s own household and the surrounding com-
munity. ¶The ®ishis have given us great knowledge to help us know what
to do. Study your body and your diet and find out what works for you.
Find out what foods give you indigestion and stop eating those things.
But remember that eating right, in itself, is not spiritual life. In the early
stages seekers often become obsessed with finding the perfect diet. That
is a stage they have to go through in learning. They have to find out what
is right for them. But it should balance out to a simple routine of eating
to live, not living to eat.
Vegetarianism has for thousands of years been a prin-
Sunday ciple of health and environmental ethics throughout
LESSON 28
India. Though Muslim and Christian colonization radi-
Reasons for
Vegetarianism cally undermined and eroded this ideal, it remains to
this day a cardinal ethic of Hindu thought and practice.
A subtle sense of guilt persists among Hindus who eat meat, and there
exists an ongoing controversy on this issue. The Sanskrit for vegetarian-
ism is ßâkâhâra, and one following a vegetarian diet is a ßâkâhârî. The
term for meat-eating is mânsâhâra, and the meat-eater is called mân-
sâhârî. Åhâra means “food” or “diet,” ßâka means “vegetable,” and mânsa
means “meat” or “flesh.” ¶Amazingly, I have heard people define vegetar-
ian as a diet which excludes the meat of animals but does permit fish and
eggs. But what really is vegetarianism? It is living only on foods produced
by plants, with the addition of dairy products. Vegetarian foods include
grains, fruits, vegetables, legumes, milk, yogurt, cheese and butter. The
strictest vegetarians, known as vegans, exclude all dairy products. Natural,
fresh foods, locally grown without insecticides or chemical fertilizers are
preferred. A vegetarian diet does not include meat, fish, shellfish, fowl or
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eggs. For good health, even certain vegetarian foods are minimized: fro-
zen and canned foods, highly processed foods, such as white rice, white
sugar and white flour; and “junk” foods and beverages—those with abun-
dant chemical additives, such as artificial sweeteners, colorings, flavorings
and preservatives. ¶In the past fifty years millions of meat-eaters have
made the decision to stop eating the flesh of other creatures. There are
five major motivations for such a decision. 1) Many become vegetarian
purely to uphold dharma, as the first duty to God and God’s creation as
defined by Vedic scripture. 2) Some abjure meat-eating because of the
karmic consequences, knowing that by involving oneself, even indirectly,
in the cycle of inflicting injury, pain and death by eating other creatures,
one must in the future experience in equal measure the suffering caused.
3) Spiritual consciousness is another reason. Food is the source of the
body’s chemistry, and what we ingest affects our consciousness, emotions
and experiential patterns. If one wants to live in higher consciousness, in
peace and happiness and love for all creatures, then he cannot eat meat,
fish, shellfish, fowl or eggs. By ingesting the grosser chemistries of animal
foods, one introduces into the body and mind anger, jealousy, fear, anxiety,
suspicion and a terrible fear of death, all of which are locked into the flesh
of butchered creatures. 4) Medical studies prove that a vegetarian diet is
easier to digest, provides a wider range of nutrients and imposes fewer
burdens and impurities on the body. Vegetarians are less susceptible to all
the major diseases that afflict contemporary humanity, and thus live lon-
ger, healthier, more productive lives. They have fewer physical complaints,
less frequent visits to the doctor, fewer dental problems and smaller medi-
cal bills. Their immune system is stronger, their bodies purer and more
refined, and their skin clearer, more supple and smooth. 5) Finally, there is
the ecological reason. Planet Earth is suffering. In large measure, the esca-
lating loss of species, destruction of ancient rainforests to create pasture
lands for livestock, loss of topsoil and the consequent increase of water
impurities and air pollution have all been traced to the single fact of meat
in the human diet. No single decision that we can make as individuals
or as a race can have such a dramatic effect on the improvement of our
planetary ecology as the decision to not eat meat. Many conscious of the
need to save the planet for future generations have made this decision for
this reason and this reason alone.
 Íaucha-Hrî
xaaEca-îI

Purity and Remorse

That disciple is considered to be pure, capable

and eligible for receiving the Íiva initiation who
never feels unhappy or annoyed, who is nonvio-
lent, merciful, ever vigilant, egoless, wise, devoid
of jealousy, sweet-tongued, simple-hearted,
soft-spoken, pious, modest, decisive, neat and
clean, humble, righteous and devoted to Íiva.
Chandrajñâna Ågama, Kriyâpâda, 2.78-81. bo cj p. 22
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Purity, ßaucha, number ten of the yamas, is the outcome

Monday of restraining ourselves in all the other nine. Purity is
LESSON 29
the natural heritage of men and women disciplined in
Íaucha:
Purity mind and body, who think before they speak, speak-
ing only that which is true, kind, helpful and necessary.
People whose thoughts are pure—and this means being in line with the
yamas and niyamas—and whose bodies are free from incompatible alien
obstructions, are naturally happy, content and ready to perform japa.
Japa yoga lifts the spiritual energies and annihilates pride and arrogance
by awakening within the superconscious areas of the mind an extraterres-
trial intelligence, far surpassing the ordinary intellect one would encoun-
ter in the schools and universities of the present day. To be pure in mind
means to have a bright, luminous aura filled with the pastel hues of the
primary and secondary colors under every circumstance and life situa-
tion. Those who practice this restraint have realized that thoughts create
and manifest into situations, actual physical happenings. Therefore, they
are careful what they think and to whom they direct their thoughts. ¶A
clean personal environment, wearing clean clothes, bathing often, keep-
ing the room spotless where you meditate, breathing clean air, letting
fresh air pass through your house, is all very important in the fulfillment
of purity. Íaucha also includes partaking of clean food, which ideally is
freshly picked food, cooked within minutes of the picking. There are
creative forces, preservation forces and forces of dissolution. The pres-
ervation force is in the continued growing of a fruit or a leafy vegetable.
It reaches its normal size and if not picked remains on the plant and is
preserved by the life of that plant. As soon as it is picked, the force of
dissolution, mumia, sets in. Therefore, the food should be cooked and
eaten as soon after picking as possible, before the mumia force gets strong.
Mumia, as it causes the breakdown of the cells, is an impure force. When
we constantly eat food that is on the breakdown, the body is sluggish, the
mind is sluggish and the tongue is loose, and we say things we don’t mean.
Many unhappy, depressed situations result from people eating a predomi-
nance of frozen foods, processed foods, canned foods, convenience foods,
which are all in the process of mumia. ¶Clean clothing is very important.
One feels invigorated and happy wearing clean clothing. Even hanging
Tears on the boy’s face show his remorse, hrî, at having kicked a soccer ball into a neighbor’s
home. Inset: A man has encountered his friend at an X-rated theater and is warning him to
follow the ways of ßaucha, and not get ensnared in pornography and low-minded sensual life.
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clothing out in the sunlight for five minutes a day cleanses and refreshes
it. An incredible amount of body waste is eliminated through the skin and
absorbed by the clothing we wear. It is commonly thought that clothing
does not need to be cleaned unless it has been dirtied or soiled with mud,
dirt or stains. Very little concern is given to the body odors and wastes that
are exuded through the pores, then caught and held by the fabric. Small
wonder it’s so refreshing to put on clean clothing. The sun and fresh air
can eliminate much of the body waste and freshen up any garment.
Cleaning the house is an act of purifying one’s immedi-
Tuesday ate environment. Each piece of furniture, as well as the
LESSON 30
doorways and the walls, catches and holds the emana-
Keeping Pure
Surroundings tions of the human aura of each individual in the home,
as well as each of its visitors. This residue must be wiped
away through dusting and cleaning. This regular attentiveness keeps each
room sparkling clean and actinic. Unless this is done, the rooms of the
home become overpowering to the consciousness of the individuals who
live within them as their auras pick up the old accumulated feelings of
days gone by. Small wonder that a dirty room can depress you, and one
freshly cleaned can invigorate. ¶In these years, when both mother and
father work in the outside world, the house is often simply where they
sleep and eat. But if a home receives all of the daily attentions of clean-
ing it sparkly bright, both astrally and physically, it becomes a welcoming
place and not an empty shell. The devas can live within a home that is
clean and well regulated, where the routine of breakfast, lunch and dinner
is upheld, where early morning devotionals are performed and respected,
a home which the family lives together within, eats together within, talks
together within, worships together within. Such a home is the abode of
the devas. Other kinds of homes are the abodes of asuric forces and dis-
incarnate entities bound to Earth by lower desires. ¶It is very important
that the saμskâras are performed properly within a ßaucha abode, par-
ticularly the antyesh†i, or funeral, ceremonies so as to restore purity in
the home after a death. Birth and death require the family to observe a
moratorium of at least thirty-one days during which they do not enter the
temple or the shrine room. Such obligatory ritual customs are important
to follow for those wishing to restrain their desires and perfect ßaucha in
body, mind and speech, keeping good company, keeping the mind pure
and avoiding impure thoughts. ¶Purity and impurity can be discerned in
the human aura. We see purity in the brilliancy of the aura of one who
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is restraining and disciplining the lower instinctive nature, as outlined in

these yamas and niyamas. His aura is bright with white rays from his soul
lightening up the various hues and colors of his moods and emotions.
Impure people have black shading in the colors of their aura as they go
through their moods and emotions. Black in the aura is from the lower
worlds, the worlds of darkness, of the tala chakras below the mûlâdhâra.
It is unfortunate that at this time in the Kali Yuga there
Wednesday are more people on the Earth in important positions
LESSON 31
who have risen into physical birth from the Narakaloka,
Wholesome
Company the world of darkness, than have descended from the
Devaloka, the world of light. Therefore, they are strong
as they band together in anger, corruption, deceit and contempt for
the Devaloka people, who live in the chakras above the mûlâdhâra. It is
important for the Devaloka people to ferret out who is good company
and who is not. They should not presume that they can effect any sustain-
able changes in the Narakaloka people. And they need to know that the
asuric people, bound in anger, greed, jealousy, contempt, covetousness
and lust, can make and sustain a difference within the devonic people,
bringing them down into their world, torturing and tormenting them
with their callous, cruel and insensitive feelings. To sustain ßaucha, it is
important to surround oneself with good, devonic company, to have the
discrimination to know one type of person from another. Too many fool-
ish, sensitive souls, thinking their spirituality could lift a soul from the
world of darkness, have walked in where even the Mahâdevas do not tread
and the devas fear to tread, only to find themselves caught in that very
world, through the deceit and conniving of the cleverly cunning. Let’s not
be foolish. Let’s discriminate between higher consciousness and lower
consciousness. Higher-consciousness people should surround themselves
with higher-consciousness people to fulfill ßaucha. ¶Changing to a purer
life can be so simple. You don’t have to give up anything. Just learn to
like things that are better. That is the spirit of purity. When you give up
something because you think you should give it up, that creates strain.
Instead, search for a better life; search for ßaucha. From tamasic eating
we go to rajasic eating, and because sattvic food tastes better and makes
us feel better, we also leave much of the rajasic food behind. Are not all
persons on this planet driven by desire? Yes, indeed. Then let’s redirect
desire and let our desires perfect us. Let us learn to desire the more tasty,
sattvic foods, the more sublime sounds, the most perfect things we can see,
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more than the gross, exciting and reprehensible, the desires for which will
fade away when we attach ourselves to something better. Let our desires
perfect us. The ultra-democratic dream of life, liberty and the pursuit
of happiness we can use as a New-Age goal and pursue the happiness of
something better than what we are doing now that is bad for us. Let’s go
forward with the spirit of moving onward. ¶A devotee told me, “I gave
up coffee because coffee is a stimulant and a depressant. I stopped eating
meat because meat is a cholesterol-creating killer and forest decimator.”
Another approach would be to give up coffee because you have found a
beverage that is better. Test all beverages. Some have found that coffee
gives you indigestion and green tea helps you digest your food, especially
oily foods and foods that remain in your stomach undigested through the
night. It also tastes good. Others have found that freshly picked, nutritious
vegetables, especially when cooked within minutes of the picking, give
more life and energy than eating dead meat that has been refrigerated or
preserved. Still others have found that if you kill an animal and eat it fresh,
it has more nutritive value than killing it, refrigerating it, preserving it,
then cooking it to death again! ¶Be mature about it when you give some-
thing up. The immature spiritual person will want everyone else to give it
up, too. The spiritually mature person quietly surrenders it because it is
simply his personal choice and then goes on with his life. The spiritually
immature person will make a big issue of giving anything up and want
everyone to know about it.
Hrî, the first of the ten niyamas, or practices, is remorse:
Thursday being modest and showing shame for misdeeds, seeking
LESSON 32
the guru’s grace to be released from sorrows through
Hrî: Remorse
And Modesty the understanding that he gives, based on the ancient
sampradâya, doctrinal lineage, he preaches. Remorse
could be the most misunderstood and difficult to practice of all of the
niyamas, because we don’t have very many role models today for mod-
esty or remorse. In fact, the role for imitation in today’s world is just the
opposite. This is reflected in television, on film, in novels, magazines,
newspapers and all other kinds of media. In today’s world, brash, pre-
sumptuous, prideful—that’s how one must be. That’s the role model
we see everywhere. In today’s world, arrogant—that’s how one must be.
That’s the role model we see everywhere. Therefore, to be remorseful or
even to show modesty would be a sign of weakness to one’s peers, family
and friends. ¶Modesty is portrayed in the media as a trait of people that
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are gauche, inhibited, undeveloped emotionally or not well educated.

And remorse is portrayed in the world media as a characteristic of one
who “doesn’t have his act together,” is unable to rationalize away wrong-
doings, or who is not clever enough to find a scapegoat to pin the blame
on. Though modesty and remorse are the natural qualities of the soul,
when the soul does exhibit these qualities, there is a natural tendency to
suppress them. ¶But let’s look on the brighter side. There is an old say-
ing, “Some people teach us what to do, and other people teach us what
not to do.” The modern media, at least most of it, is teaching us what
not to do. Its behavior is based on other kinds of philosophy—secular
humanism, materialism, existentialism, crime and punishment, terror-
ism—in its effort to report and record the stories of the day. Sometimes
we can learn quite a lot by seeing the opposite of what we want to learn.
The proud and arrogant people portrayed on TV nearly always have their
fall. This is always portrayed extremely well and is very entertaining. In
their heart of hearts, people really do not admire the prideful person or
his display of arrogance, so they take joy in seeing him get his just due.
People, in their heart of hearts, do admire the modest person, the truth-
ful person, the patient person, the steadfast person, the compassionate
person who shows contentment and the fullness of well-being on his face
and in his behavioral patterns. ¶We Hindus who understand these things
know that hrî, remorse, is to be practiced at every opportunity. One of
the most acceptable ways to practice hrî, even in today’s society, is to say
in a heartfelt way, “I’m sorry.” Everyone will accept this. Even the most
despicable, prideful, arrogant, self-centered person will melt just a little
under the two magic words “I’m sorry.” ¶When apologizing, explain to
the person you hurt or wronged how you have realized that there was a
better way and ask for his forgiveness. If the person is too proud or arro-
gant to forgive, you have done your part and can go your way. The burden
of the quandary you have put him into now lies solely with him. He will
think about it, justify how and why and what he should not forgive until
the offense melts from his mind and his heart softens. It takes as much
time for a hardened heart to soften as it does for a piece of ice to melt in
a refrigerator. Even when it does, his pride may never let him give you the
satisfaction of knowing he has forgiven you. But you can tell. Watch for
softening in the eyes when you meet, a less rigid mouth and the tendency
to suppress a wholesome smile.
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There is another way to show remorse for misdeeds. That

Friday is by performing seva, religious service, for persons you
LESSON 33
have wronged. Give them gifts, cook them food. Some
Body Language
And Conscience people are unreachable by words, too remote for an
apology, which might even lead to an argument, and
then the wrong would perpetuate itself. Be extra polite to such people.
Hold the door open as they walk through. Never miss an opportunity to
be kind and serve. Say kind words about them behind their back. The
praise must be true and timely. Mere flattery would be unacceptable. This
kind of silent behavior shows repentance, shows remorse, shows that you
have reconsidered your actions and found that they need improvement,
and the improvement is shown by your actions now and into the future.
¶Often people think that showing shame and modesty and remorse for
misdeeds is simply hanging your head. Well, really, anyone can do this,
but it’s not genuine if the head is not pulled down by the tightening of
the strings of the heart, if shame is not felt so deeply that one cannot look
another in the eye. When the hanging of the head is genuine, everyone
will know it and seek to lift you up out of the predicament. But just to
hang your head for a while and think you’re going to get away with it in
today’s world, no. In today’s world, people are a little too perceptive, and
will not admire you, as they will suspect pretense. ¶There is an analogy
in the Íaivite tradition that compares the unfolding soul to wheat. When
young and growing, the stalks of wheat stand tall and proud, but when
mature their heads bend low under the weight of the grains they yield.
Similarly, man is self-assertive, arrogant and vain only in the early stages
of his spiritual growth. As he matures and yields the harvest of divine
knowledge, he too bends his head. Body language has to truly be the lan-
guage of the body. It’s a dead giveaway. Body language is the language of
the mind being expressed through the body. Let there be no doubt about
this. To cry, expressing remorse—the crying should not be forced. Many
people can cry on cue. We must not think that the soul of the observer
is not perceptive enough to know the difference between real tears and
a glandular disturbance causing watering of the eyes. ¶Hrî is regret that
one has done things against the dharma, or against conscience. There are
three kinds of conscience—one built on right knowledge, one built on
semi-right knowledge and one built on wrong knowledge. The soul has
to work through these three gridworks within the subconscious mind to
give its message. Those who have been raised with the idea that an injus-
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tice should be settled by giving back another injustice might actually feel
a little guilty when they fail to do this. Those who are in a quandary of
what to do, what is right and what is wrong, remain in confusion because
they have only semi-right knowledge in their subconscious mind. ¶We
cannot confuse guilt and its messages with the message that comes from
the soul. Guilt is the message of the instinctive mind, the chakras below
the mûlâdhâra. Many people who live in the lower worlds of darkness
feel guilty and satisfy that guilt through retaliation. This is the eye for an
eye-for-an-eye, tooth-for-a-tooth approach. This is not right conscience;
it is not the soul speaking. This is not higher consciousness, and it is
certainly not the inner being of light looking out of the windows of the
chakras above the mûlâdhâra. Why, even domesticated animals feel guilty.
It is a quality of the instinctive mind. ¶True conscience is of the soul, an
impulse rushing through a mind that has been impregnated with right
knowledge, Vedic, Ågamic knowledge, or the knowledge that is found in
these yamas and niyamas, restraints and practices. When the true knowl-
edge of karma is understood, reincarnation, saμsâra and Vedic dharma,
then true remorse is felt, which is a corrective mechanism of the soul. This
remorse immediately imprints upon the lower mind the right knowl-
edge of the dharma—how, where and why the person has strayed and the
methodology of getting quickly and happily back to the path and pro-
ceeding onward. There is no guilt felt here, but there is a sense of spiritual
responsibility, and a driving urge to bring dharma, the sense of spiritual
duty, more fully into one’s life, thus filling up the lack that the misdeeds
manifested through adhering to these twenty restraints and practices and
the Vedic path of dharma, which is already known within the bedrock of
right knowledge, firmly planted within the inner mind of the individual.
The soul’s response to wrong action comes of its own
Saturday force, unbidden, when the person is a free soul, not
LESSON 34
bound by many materialistic duties—even while doing
Compensating
For Misdeeds selfless service—which can temporarily veil and hold
back the spontaneous actions of the soul if done for the
expectant praise that may follow. The held-back, spontaneous action of
the soul would, therefore, burst forth during personal times of sâdhana,
meditation or temple worship. The bursting forth would be totally unbid-
den, and resolutions would follow in the wake. For those immersed in
heavy prârabdha karmas, going through a period of their life cycle when
difficult karmic patterns are manifesting, it will be found that the soul’s
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spontaneity is triple-veiled even though the subconscious mind is impreg-

nated with right knowledge. To gain absolution and release, to gain peace
of mind, one should perform pilgrimage, spiritual retreat, the practice
of mauna, recitation of mantras through japa, deep meditation and, best
of all, the vâsanâ daha tantra. These practices will temporarily pierce the
veils of mâyâ and let the light shine in, bringing understanding, solutions
and direction for future behavior. ¶Having hurt another through wrong-
doing, one has to pay back in proportion to the injury, not a rupee less
and not a rupee more. The moment the healing is complete, the scar will
mysteriously vanish. This is the law. It is a mystical law. And while there
are any remaining scars, which are memories impregnated with emotion,
much work has to be done. Each one must find a way to be nice if he has
been not nice, say kind words if previous words have been unkind, issue
forth good feelings if the feelings previously exuded were nasty, inharmo-
nious and unacceptable. Just as a responsible doctor or nurse must bring
the healing to culmination, so the wrongdoer must deal with his wrong-
doing, his crime against dharma, his crime against right knowledge, Vedic-
Ågamic precepts, his crime against the yamas and niyamas, restraints and
practices, which are in themselves right knowledge—a digest of the Vedas,
we might say. He must deal with his wrongdoings, his errors, within him-
self until rightness, santosha, returns. ¶There are no magic formulas. Each
one must find his own way to heal himself and others until the trouble-
some situation disappears from his own memory. This is why the practice
called vâsanâ daha tantra, writing down memories and burning them in a
fire to release the emotion from the deep subconscious, has proven to be
a solution uncomparable to any other. Only in this way will he know that,
by whatever method he has applied, he has healed the one he wronged.
True forgiveness is the greatest eraser, the greatest harmonizer. It is this
process of misdeeds against dharma, followed by shame and remorse, as
people interrelate with one another, that moves them forward in their
evolution toward their ultimate goal of mukti. ¶The Japanese, unlike most
of the rest of the world, have a great sense of loss of face, and a Japanese
businessman will resign if he has shamed his family or his country. This
is hrî and is very much ingrained in the Japanese society, which is based
on Buddhist precepts. Buddhism itself is the outgrowth into the family
community from a vast monastic order; whereas Hinduism is a conglom-
erate of many smaller religions, some of which are not outgrowths of a
monastic community. Therefore, hrî is an integral part of the culture of
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Japan. They have maintained this and other cultural precepts, as the Bud-
dhist monastic orders are still influential throughout Asia. ¶A materialist
who loses face smiles and simply puts on another mask and continues as
if nothing had ever happened. The saying goes, “Change your image and
get on with life.” No shame, repentance or reconciliation is shown by such
people, as is so often portrayed on American television, and much worse,
as it actually happens all the time in public life.
The Hindu monastic has special disciplines in regard to
Sunday remorse. If he doesn’t, he is an impostor. If he is seen
LESSON 35
struggling to observe it and unable to accomplish it
Humility, Shame
And Shyness all the time, he is still a good monastic. If he shows no
remorse, modesty or shame for misdeeds for long peri-
ods of time, even though he continues apparently in the performance
of no misdeeds, the abbot of the monastery would know that he is sup-
pressing many things, living a personal life, avoiding confrontation and
obscuring that which is obvious to himself with a smile and the words,
“Yes, everything is all right with me. The meditations are going fine. I get
along beautifully with all of my brothers.” You would know that this is a
“mission impossible,” and that it is time to effect certain tests to break up
the nest of the enjoyable routine and of keeping out of everybody’s way,
of not participating creatively in the entire community, but just doing
one’s job and keeping out of trouble. The test would bring him out in
the open, into counseling sessions, so that he himself would see that his
clever pride had led him to a spiritual standstill. A monastery is no place
to settle down and live. It is a place to be on one’s toes and advance. One
must always live as if on the eve of one’s departure. ¶Another side of hrî is
being bashful, shy, unpretentious. The undeveloped person and the fully
developed, wise person may develop the same qualities of being bash-
ful, shy, unpretentious, cautious. In the former, these qualities are the
products of ignorance produced by underexposure, and in the latter, they
are the products of the wisdom or cleverness produced by overexposure.
Genuine modesty and unpretentiousness are not what actors on the stage
would portray, they are qualities that one cannot act out, qualities of the
soul. ¶Shyness used to be thought of as a feminine quality, but not any-
more, since the equality of men and women has been announced as the
way that men and women should be. Both genders should be aggressive,
forceful, to meet and deal with situations on equal terms. This is seen
today in the West, in the East, in the North and the South. This is a façade
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which covers the soul, producing stress in both men and women. A basi-
cally shy man or woman, feeling he or she has to be aggressive, works his
or her way into a stressful condition. I long ago found that stress in itself
is a byproduct of not being secure in what one is doing. But this is the
world today, at this time in the Kali Yuga. If everything that is happen-
ing were reasonable and could be easily understood, it certainly wouldn’t
be the Kali Yuga. ¶If people are taught and believe that their spiritual
pursuits are foremost, then, yes, they should be actively aggressive—but
as actively passive and modest as well, because of their spiritual pursuits.
Obviously, if they are performing sâdhanas, they will intuitively know
the proper timing for each action. Remorse, or modesty, certainly does
not mean one must divorce oneself from the ability to move the forces of
the external world, or be a wimpy kind of impotent person. It does mean
that there is a way of being remorseful, showing shame, being humble, of
resolving situations when they do go wrong so that you can truly “get on
with life” and not be bound by emotionally saturated memories of the
past. Those who are bound by the past constantly remember the past and
relive the emotions connected with it. Those who are free from the past
remember the future and move the forces of all three worlds for a better
life for themselves and for all mankind. This is the potent Vedic hrî. This
is true remorse, humility and modesty. This is hrî, which is not a weak-
ness but a spiritual strength. And all this is made practical and permanent
by subconscious journaling, vâsanâ daha tantra, which releases creative
energy and does not inhibit it.
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 Santosha-Dâna
santaaeSa-dana

Contentment
And Giving

The liberal man is he who gives to the beggar

who wanders in search of food, lean and forlorn;
the one who helps the passerby, when asked,
makes of this same a friend for days to come.
Âig Veda 10.117.3. ve, p. 850
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Contentment, santosha, is the second niyama. How do

Monday we practice contentment? Simply do not harm others
LESSON 36
by thought, word or deed. As a practitioner of ahiμsâ,
Santosha:
Contentment noninjury, you can sleep contentedly at night and expe-
rience santosha then and through the day. Contentment
is a quality that everyone wants, and buys things to obtain—“Oh, if I only
had my house redecorated, I would be content.” “A new wardrobe would
content me, give me joy and serenity.” “To be content, I must have a vaca-
tion and get away from it all. There I can live the serene life and have
joyous experiences.” ¶The dharmic way is to look within and bring out
the latent contentment that is already there by doing nothing to inhibit
its natural expression, as santosha, the mood of the soul, permeates out
through every cell of the physical body. Contentment is one of the most
difficult qualities to obtain, and is well summed up within our food bless-
ing mantra, from the Íukla Yajur Veda, Èsa Upanishad invocation, “That
is fullness. Creation is fullness. From that fullness flows this world’s full-
ness. This fullness issues from that fullness, yet that fullness remains full.”
This joy we seek is the joy of fullness, lacking nothing. ¶Life is meant to
be lived joyously. There is in much of the world the belief that life is a
burden, a feeling of penitence, that it is good to suffer, good for the soul.
In fact, spiritual life is not that way at all. The existentialist would have
you believe that depression, rage, fear and anguish are the foremost quali-
ties of the human temper and expression. The communists used to have
us believe that joy and serenity as the outgrowth of religion are just an
opiate of the people, a narcotic of unreality. The Semitic religions of the
Near East would have us believe that suffering is good for the soul, and
there is not much you can do about it. The Íaivite Hindu perspective is
that contentment is a reflection of centeredness, and discontentment is a
reflection of externalized consciousness and ramified desire. ¶Maintain-
ing joy and serenity in life means being content with your surround-
ings, be they meager or lavish. Be content with your money, be it a small
amount or a large amount. Be content with your health. Bear up under
ailments and be thankful that they are not worse than they are. Protect
your health if it is good. It is a valuable treasure. Be content with your
friends. Be loyal to those who are your long-time, trusted companions.
Santosha, contentment, is shown by three generations living at home, enjoying one another,
happy and fulfilled in their simple life. Inset: A well-to-do woman takes joy in giving clothing
to her poorer neighbors in a selfless act of dâna.
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Basically, contentment, santosha, is freedom from desire gained by redi-

recting the forces of desire and making a beautiful life within what one
already has in life. ¶The rich seeking more riches are not content. The
famous seeking more fame are not content. The learned seeking more
knowledge are not content. Being content with what you have does not
mean you cannot discriminate and seek to progress in life. It doesn’t mean
you should not use your willpower and fulfill your plans. ¶It does mean
you should not become upset while you are striving toward your goals,
frustrated or unhappy if you do not get what you want. The best striving
is to keep pushing along the natural unfoldment of positive trends and
events in your life, your family life and your business. Contentment is
working within your means with what is available to you, living within
your income, being grateful for what you have, and not unhappy over
what you lack. ¶There are many frustrated souls on the path who torment
themselves no end and walk around with long faces because they estimate
they are not unfolding spiritually fast enough. They have set goals of Self
Realization for themselves far beyond their abilities to immediately obtain.
If people say, “I am not going to do anything that will not make me peace-
ful or that will threaten my peace of mind,” how will they get anywhere?
That is not the idea of santosha. True santosha is seeing all-pervasiveness
of the one divine power everywhere. The light within the eyes of each
person is that divine power. With this in mind, you can go anywhere and
do anything. Contentment is there, inside you, and needs to be brought
out. It is a spiritual power. So, yes, do what makes you content. But know
that contentment really transcends worrying about the challenges that
face you. Santosha is being peaceful in any situation. The stronger you are
in santosha, the greater the challenges you can face and still remain quiet
on the inside, peaceful and content, poised like a hummingbird hovering
over a flower.
Santosha is the goal; dharma, good conduct, remains the
Tuesday director of how you should act and respond to fulfill
LESSON 37
your karma. This goal is attainable by following the ten
Keeping Peace
In the Home Vedic restraints: not harming others by thought, word or
deed, refraining from lying, not entering into debt, being
tolerant with people and circumstance, overcoming changeableness and
indecision, not being callous, cruel or insensitive to other people’s feel-
ings. Above all, never practice deception. Don’t eat too much. Maintain
a vegetarian diet for purity and clarity of mind. Watch carefully what
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you think and how you express it through words. All of these restraints
must be captured and practiced within the lifestyle before the natural
contentment, the santosha, the pure, serene nature of the soul can shine
forth. Therefore, the practice to attain santosha is to fulfill the yamas.
Proceed with confidence; failure is an impossibility. ¶I was asked by a
cyberspace cadet among our Internet congregation, “Where do we let off
steam? Mom works, dad works, the kids are in school, and when everyone
comes home, everyone lets off a little steam, and everyone understands.”
My answer is don’t let off steam in the home. The home is a sanctuary
of the entire family. It should have an even higher standard of propriety
than the office, the factory or the corporate workplace. When we start
being too casual at home and letting off steam, we say things that perhaps
we shouldn’t. We may think the rest of the family understands, but they
don’t. Feelings get hurt. We break up the vibration of the home. Young
people also let off steam in school, thus inhibiting their own education.
They behave in a way in the classroom that they would not in a corporate
office, and who is hurt but themselves? It’s amazing how quickly people
shape up their behavior when they sign a contract, when they get a job in
a corporate office. They read the manual, they obey it and they are nice to
everyone. This is the way it should be within the home. The home should
be maintained at a higher standard than the corporate office. ¶The won-
derful thing about Hinduism is that we don’t let off steam at home; we
let our emotions pour out within the Hindu temple. The Hindu temple is
the place where we can relate to the Gods and the Goddesses and express
ourselves within ourselves. It’s just between ourselves and the Deity. In a
Hindu temple there may be, all at the same time, a woman worshiper cry-
ing in a corner, not far away a young couple laughing among themselves
with their children, and nearby someone else arguing with the Gods. The
Hindu temple allows the individual to let off steam, but it is a controlled
situation, controlled by the pûjâs, the ceremony, the priesthood. ¶So as
to not make more karma in this life by saying things we don’t mean, hav-
ing inflections in our voice that are hurtful to others, we must control
the home, control ourselves in the workplace, keep the home at a higher
vibration of culture and protocol than the workplace, and include the
temple in our lives as a place to release our emotions and regain our
composure. ¶It is making a lot of really bad karma that will come back in
its stronger reaction later on in life for someone, the husband or wife or
teenager, to upset the vibration of the home because of stress at school or
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in the workplace. It is counterproductive to work all day in a nice office,

control the emotions and be productive, and then go home and upset
the vibration within the home. After all, why is someone working? It’s
to create the home. Why is someone going to school? It’s to eventually
create a home. It is counterproductive to destroy that which one works
all day to create. That’s why I advise the professional mother, the profes-
sional father, the professional son and the professional daughter to use in
the home the same good manners that are learned in the workplace, and
build the vibration of the home even stronger than the vibration of the
workplace, so that there is something inviting to come home to. ¶We have
seen so many times, professionals, men and women, behave exquisitely in
the workplace, but not so exquisitely at home, upset the home vibration,
eventually destroying the home, breaking up the home. And we have seen,
through the years, a very unhappy person in retirement, a very bitter per-
son in retirement. No one wants him around, no one wants to have him
in their home. Therefore, he winds up in some nursing home, and he dies
forgotten. ¶The Sanâtana Dharma and Íaiva Samayam must be alive in
the home, must be alive in the office, must be alive in the temple, for us
to have a full life. Where, then, do we vent our emotions, where do we let
off steam, if not in our own home? The answer is, within the temple.
Giving, dâna, is the third great religious practice, or
Wednesday niyama. It is important to remember that giving freely
LESSON 38
of one’s goods in fulfilling needs, making someone happy
Dâna:
Giving or putting a smile on his face, mitigates selfishness, greed,
avarice and hoarding. But the most important factor is
“without thought of reward.” The reward of joy and the fullness you feel
is immediate as the gift passes from your two hands into the outstretched
hands of the receiver. Dâna is often translated as “charity.” But charity in
modern context is a special kind of giving by those who have to those who
have not. This is not the true spirit of dâna. The word fulfillment might
describe dâna better. The fulfillment of giving that wells up within the
giver as the gift is being prepared and as the gift is being presented and
released, the fulfillment of the expectancy of the receiver or the surprise
of the receiver, and the fullness that exists afterwards are all a part of dâna.
¶Daßamâμßa, tithing, too, is a worthy form of dâna—giving God’s money
to a religious institution to fulfill with it God’s work. One who is really
fulfilling dâna gives daßamâμßa, never goes to visit a friend or relative
with empty hands, gives freely to relatives, children, friends, neighbors
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and business associates, all without thought of reward. The devotee who
practices dâna knows fully that “you cannot give anything away.” The law
of karma will return it to you full measure at an appropriate and most
needed time. The freer the gift is given, the faster it will return. ¶What is
the proportionate giving after daßamâμßa, ten percent, has been deducted?
It would be another two to five percent of one’s gross income, which
would be equally divided between cash and kind if someone wanted to
discipline his dâna to that extent. That would be fifteen percent, approxi-
mately one sixth, which is the makimai established in South India by the
Chettiar community around the Palani Temple and now practiced by the
Malaka Chettiars of Malaysia. ¶If one were to take a hard look at the true
spirit of dâna in today’s society, the rich giving to religious institutions for
a tax deduction are certainly giving with a thought of reward. Therefore,
giving after the tax deductions are received and with no material benefits
or rewards of any kind other than the fulfillment of giving is considered
by the wise to be a true expression of dâna. Making something with one’s
own hands, giving in kind, is also a true expression of dâna. Giving a gift
begrudgingly in return for another gift is, of course, mere barter. Many
families barter their way through life in this way, thinking they are giving.
But such gifts are cold, the fulfillment is empty, and the law of karma pays
discounted returns.
Hospitality is a vital part of fulfilling dâna. When guests
Thursday come, they must be given hospitality, at least a mat to
LESSON 39
sit on and a glass of water to drink. These are obligatory
Hospitality
And Fullness gifts. You must never leave your guest standing, and you
must never leave your guest thirsty. If a guest were to
smell even one whiff from the kitchen of the scented curries of a meal
being prepared, he must be asked four times to stay for the meal. He
will politely refuse three times and accept on the fourth invitation. This
is also an obligatory giving, for the guest is treated as God. God Íiva’s
veiling grace hides Íiva as He dresses in many costumes. He is a dancer,
you know, and dancers wear many costumes. He will come as a guest to
your home, unrecognizable. You might think it is your dear friend from
a far-off place. That, too, is Íiva in another costume, and you must treat
that guest as Íiva. Giving to Íiva Íiva’s own creation in your mind brings
the highest rewards through the law of karma. ¶Even if you think you
are giving creatively, generously, looking for no rewards, but you are
giving for a purpose, that karma will still pay you back with full interest
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and dividends. This is a positive use of the law of karma. It pays higher
interest than any bank. This is not a selfish form of giving. It is the giving
of the wise, because you know the law of karma, because you know the
Sanâtana Dharma—the divine, eternal laws. If you see a need that you
can fill and have the impulse to give but recoil from giving, later, when
you are in need, there will be someone who has the impulse to give to you
but will recoil from giving. The wheels of karma grind slowly but exceed-
ingly well the grains of actions, be they in thought, emotion or those of
a physical nature. So, one can be quite selfish and greedy about wanting
to practice dâna to accumulate the pu∫ya for the balance of this life, the
life in-between lives, in the astral world, and for a good birth in the next
incarnation. The practice of dâna is an investment in a better life, an
investment that pays great dividends. ¶We are not limited by our poverty
or wealth in practicing giving. No matter how poor you are, you can still
practice it. You can give according to your means, your inspiration, your
ability. When the fullness has reached its peak within you while preparing
the gift, be it arranging a bouquet of freshly picked flowers, a tray of fruit,
counting out coins, sorting a pile of bills or putting zeros on a check that
you’re writing, then you know that the gift is within your means. Gifts
within your means and from your heart are the proper gifts.
The virtue of dâna deals with the pragmatic physical
Friday transference of cash or kind. It is the foundation and the
LESSON 40
life blood of any other form of religious giving, such as
The Selfish
And Miserly giving of one’s time. Many people rationalize, “I’ll give
my time to the temple. I’ll wash the pots, scrub the floor
and tidy up. But I can’t afford to give of my limited wealth proportionate
to what would be total fulfillment of giving.” Basically, they have nothing
better to do with their time, and to ease their own conscience, they volun-
teer a little work. There is no merit, no pu∫ya, in this, only demerit, pâpa.
No, it’s just the other way around. One who has perfected dâna in cash
and in kind and is satisfied within this practice, this niyama, will then be
able and willing to give of his time, to tithe ten percent of his time, and
then give time over and above that to religious and other worthy causes.
Shall we say that the perfection of dâna precedes seva, service? ¶What can
be said of someone who is all wrapped up in his personal self: concealing
his personal ego with a pleasant smile, gentle deeds, soft words, but who
just takes care of “number one”? For instance, if living with ten people,
he will cook for himself and not cook for the others. He gets situations
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confused, entertains mental arguments within himself and is always wor-

ried about the progress in his religious life. We would say he is still trying
to work on the restraints—compassion, patience, sexual purity, moderate
appetite—and has not yet arrived at number three on the chart of the
practices called niyamas. Modern psychology would categorize him as
self-centered, selfish, egotistical. To overcome this selfishness, assuming he
gets the restraints in order, doing things for others would be the practice,
seeing that everyone is fed first before he eats, helping out in every way
he can, performing anonymous acts of kindness at every opportunity. ¶In
an orthodox Hindu home, the traditional wife will follow the practice of
arising in the morning before her husband, preparing his hot meal, serv-
ing him and eating only after he is finished; preparing his lunch, serving
him and eating after he is finished; preparing his dinner, serving him
and eating after he is finished, even if he returns home late. Giving to
her husband is her fulfillment, three times a day. This is built into Hindu
society, into Íaivite culture. ¶Wives should be allowed by their husbands
to perform giving outside the home, too, but many are not. All too often,
they are held down, embarrassed and treated almost like domestic slaves—
given no money, given no things to give, disallowed to practice dâna, to
tithe and give creatively without thought of reward. Such domineering,
miserly and ignorant males will get their just due in the courts of karma
at the moment of death and shortly after. The divine law is that the wife’s
ßakti power, once released, makes her husband magnetic and successful in
his worldly affairs, and their wealth accumulates. He knows from tradi-
tion that to release this ßakti he must always fulfill all of the needs of his
beloved wife and give her generously everything she wants.
There are so many ways of giving. Arising before the Sun
Saturday comes up, greeting and giving namaskâra to the Sun is
LESSON 41
a part of Íaivite culture. Dâna is built into all aspects of
Many Ways
Of Giving Hindu life—giving to the holy man, giving to the astrol-
oger, giving to the teacher, giving dakshi∫â to a swâmî
or a satguru for his support, over and above all giving to his institution,
over and above daßamâμßa, over and above giving to the temple. If the
satguru has satisfied you with the fullness of his presence, you must sat-
isfy yourself in equal fullness in giving back. You can be happily fat as
these two fullnesses merge within you. By giving to the satguru, you give
him the satisfaction of giving to another, for he has no needs except the
need to practice dâna. ¶Great souls have always taught that, among all
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the forms of giving, imparting the spiritual teachings is the highest. You
can give money or food and provide for the physical aspects of the being,
but if you can find a way to give the dharma, the illumined wisdom of
the traditions of the Sanâtana Dharma, then you are giving to the spirit
of the person, to the soul. Many Hindus buy religious literature to give
away, because jñâna dâna, giving wisdom, is the highest giving. Several
groups in Malaysia and Mauritius gave away over 70,000 pieces of litera-
ture in a twenty-month period. Another group in the United States gave
away 300,000 pieces of literature in the same period. Many pieces of that
literature changed the lives of individuals and brought them into a great
fullness of soul satisfaction. An electric-shock blessing would go out from
them at the peak of their fulfillment and fill the hearts of all the givers.
Giving through education is a glorious fulfillment for the giver, as well as
for the receiver. ¶Wealthy men in India will feed twenty thousand people
in the hopes that one enlightened soul who was truly hungry at that time
might partake of this dâna and the ßakti that arises within him at the peak
of his satisfaction will prepare for the giver a better birth in his next life.
This is the great spirit of anna yajñâ, feeding the masses. ¶Along with
the gift comes a portion of the karma of the giver. There was an astrolo-
ger who when given more than his due for a jyotisha consultation would
always give the excess to a nearby temple, as he did not want to assume
any additional karma by receiving more than the worth of his predic-
tions. Another wise person said, “I don’t do the antyesh†i saμskâra, funeral
rites, because I can’t receive the dâna coming from that source of sadness.
It would affect my family.” Giving is also a way of balancing karma, of
expressing gratitude for blessings received. A devotee explained, “I can-
not leave the temple without giving to the hu∫∂i, offering box, according
to the fullness I have received as fullness from the temple.” A gourmet
once said, “I cannot leave the restaurant until I give gratuity to the waiter
equaling the satisfaction I felt from the service he gave.” This is dâna, this
is giving, in a different form. ¶Children should be taught giving at a very
young age. They don’t yet have the ten restraints, the yamas, to worry
about. They have not been corrupted by the impact of their own prârab-
dha karmas. Little children, even babies, can be taught dâna—giving to
the temple, to holy ones, to one another, to their parents. They can be
taught worship, recitation and, of course, contentment—told how beauti-
ful they are when they are quiet and experiencing the joy of serenity. Insti-
tutions should also give, according to their means, to other institutions.
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It is very important for sâdhus, sannyâsins, swâmîs,

Sunday sâdhakas, any mendicant under vows, to perform dâna.
LESSON 42
True, they are giving all of their time, but that is ful-
How Monks
Fulfill Dâna fillment of their vrata. True, they are not giving daßa-
mâμßa, because they are not employed and have no
income. For them, dâna is giving the unexpected in unexpected ways—
serving tea for seven days to the tyrannical sâdhu that assisted them by
causing an attack of â∫ava, of personal ego, within them, in thanks to
him for being the channel of their prârabdha karmas and helping them
in the next step of their spiritual unfoldment. Dâna is making an unex-
pected wreath of sacred leaves and flowers for one’s guru and giving it at
an unexpected time. Dâna is cooking for the entire group and not just
for a few or for oneself alone. ¶When one has reached an advanced stage
on the spiritual path, in order to go further, the law requires giving back
what one has been given. Hearing oneself speak the divine teachings and
being uplifted and fulfilled by filling up and uplifting others allows the
budding adept to go through the next portal. Those who have no desire
to counsel others, teach or pass on what they have learned are still in the
learning stages themselves, traumatically dealing with one or more of
the restraints and practices. The passing on of jñâna, wisdom, through
counseling, consoling, teaching Sanâtana Dharma and the only one final
conclusion, monistic Íaiva Siddhânta, Advaita Èßvaravâda, is a fulfillment
and completion of the cycle of learning for every monastic. This does not
mean that he mouths indiscriminately what he has been told and memo-
rized, but rather that he uses his philosophical knowledge in a timely way
according to the immediate needs of the listener, for wisdom is the timely
application of knowledge. ¶The dâna sâdhana, of course, for sâdhakas,
sâdhus, yogîs and swâmîs, as they have no cash, is to practice dâna in kind,
physical doing, until they are finally able to release the Sanâtana Dharma
from their own lips, as a natural outgrowth of their spirituality, spirit,
ßakti, bolt-of-lightning outpouring, because they are so filled up. Those
who are filled up with the divine truths, in whom when that fullness is
pressed down, compacted, locked in, it still oozes out and runs over, are
those who pass on the Sanâtana Dharma. They are the catalysts not only
of this adult generation, but the one before it still living, and of children
and the generations yet to come.
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Aaistakya-W◊rpaUjana

Faith and Worship

The Gods, led by the spirit, honor faith in their

worship. Faith is composed of the heart’s intention.
Light comes through faith. Through faith men come
to prayer, faith in the morning, faith at noon and at
the setting of the sun. O faith, give us faith!
Âig Veda 10.151.4-5. ve, p. 180
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Faith, âstikya, is the fourth niyama. Faith is a substance,

Monday a collection of molecules, mind molecules, emotion
LESSON 43
molecules—and some are even physical—collected
Åstikya:
Faith together, charged with the energies of the Divine and
the anxieties of the undivine, made into an astral form
of shape, color and sound. Being a creation built up over time, faith can
just as readily be destroyed, as the following phrases indicate: crisis of
faith, loss of faith, dark night of the soul, and just plain confused dis-
appointment leading to depression. Because of faith, groups of people
are drawn together, cling together, remain together, intermarry and give
birth, raising their children together in the substance of faith that their
collective group is subconsciously committed to uphold. ¶Anyone can
strengthen another’s faith through encouragement, personal example,
good natured humoring, praise, flattery, adulation, or take it away by
the opposite methods. Many people with more faith than intellect are
pawns in the hands of those who hold great faith, or of those who have
little faith, or of those who have no faith at all. Therefore, we can see
that a clear intellectual understanding of the philosophy is the bedrock
to sustaining faith. Faith is on many levels and of many facets. We have
faith in a person, a family, a system of government, science, astronomy,
astrology. Faith in philosophy, religion, is the most tenuous and delicate
kind and, we must say, the most rewarding of all faiths, because once it is
sustained in unbroken continuity, the pure soul of the individual begins
to shine forth. ¶Faith has eyes. It has three eyes. The seer who is looking
at the world from the perspective of monistic Íaiva Siddhânta and sees
clearly the final conclusions for all mankind has faith in his perception,
because what he sees and has seen becomes stronger in his mind as the
years go by. We have the faith of those who have two eyes upraised. They
look at the seer as Dakshi∫âmûrti, God Himself, and gain strength from
His every word. There is also the faith of those who have two eyes lowered.
They are reading the scriptures, the teachings of all the seers, and build-
ing the aura of faith within their inner psyche. Then there are those who
have faith with their eyes closed, blind faith. They know not, read not and
are not thinking, but are entranced by the spiritual leader in whom they
have faith as a personality. They are nodding their head up and down on
Hands held above her head during a pûjâ, a devotee venerates Lord Ga∫eßa in an act of
Èßvarapûjana, worship. Inset: A man’s car has stalled on the tracks just as a train approaches.
He keeps his faith, âstikya, despite the ordeal, and Íiva is nearby to guide him to safety.
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his every word and when questioned are not able to adequately explain
even one or two of his profound thoughts. ¶And then we have the others,
who make up much of the world population today. They are also with
eyes closed, but with heads down, shaking left and right, left and right.
They see mostly the darker side of life. They are those who have no faith
at all or suffer a semi-permanent loss of faith, who are disappointed in
people, governments, systems, philosophies, religions. Their leaders they
condemn. This is a sorry lot. Their home is the halls of depression, dis-
couragement and confusion. Their upliftment is jealousy and anger.
Faith extends to another level, too, of pleasure for the
Tuesday sake of pleasure. Here we have the jet-set, the hedonists,
LESSON 44
the sensualists, the pornographers and their customers.
Faith Is on
Many Levels All these groups have developed their own individual
mindset and mix and interrelate among themselves, as
the astral molecules of this amorphous substance of thought, emotion
and belief that we call faith creates their attitudes toward the world, other
people and their possessions. ¶The Hindu, therefore, is admonished by
the sapta ®ishis themselves to believe firmly in God, Gods, guru and the
path to enlightenment, lest he stray from the path of dharma—for faith is
a powerful force. It can be given; it can be taken away. It is a national force,
a community force, a group force, a family force. And it is more than
that, as far as the Sanâtana Dharma is concerned, which can be trans-
lated as the “eternal faith,” the most strengthening and illuminating of
all, for it gives courage to all to apply these twenty yamas and niyamas,
which represent the final conclusions of the deepest deliverers of eternal
wisdom who ever resided on this planet. ¶Some people have faith only
when things are going right and lose faith when things go wrong. These
are the ones who are looking up at their leaders, whom they really do
not know, who are looking up at the scriptures, which they really do not
understand. Because their eyes are closed, they are seeking to be sustained
and constantly uplifted by others. “Do my sâdhana for me” is their plea.
And when some inconsistency arises or some expectation, unbeknownst
to their leader and maybe never even recorded in the scriptures, does not
manifest, a crisis of faith occurs. Then, more than often, they are off to
another leader, another philosophy, to inevitably repeat the same experi-
ence. Devotees of this kind, who are called “groupies” in rock and roll,
go from group to group, teacher to teacher, philosophy to philosophy.
Fortunately for them, the rent is not expensive, the bhajanas are long
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and the food is good. The only embarrassing situation, which has to be
manipulated, is the tactic of leaving one group without totally closing the
door, and manipulatively opening the door of another group. ¶When that
uplifted face with eyes closed has the spiritual experience of the eyes open-
ing, the third eye flashing, he or she would have then found at last his or
her sampradâya, traditional lineage of verbal teaching, and now be on the
unshakable path. The molecules of faith have been converted and secured.
They shall never turn back, because they have seen through the third eye
the beginning and ending of the path, the traditional lineage ordained
to carry them forth generation after generation. These souls become the
articulate ones, masters of the philosophy. Their faith is so strong, they
can share their molecules with others and mold others’ faith molecules
into traditional standards of the whys and wherefores that we all need
on this planet, of how we should believe and think, where we go when
we die, and all the eternal truths of the ultimate attainments of mankind.
Faith is the intellect of the soul at its various stages of
Wednesday unfoldment. The soul comes forth from Lord Íiva as an
LESSON 45
embryo and progresses through three stages (avasthâ)
Stages of
Evolution of existence: kevala avasthâ, sakala avasthâ and ßuddha
avasthâ. During kevala avasthâ, the soul is likened to a
seed hidden in the ground or a spark of the Divine hidden in a cloud of
unknowing called â∫ava, the primal fetter of individuality, the first aspect
of Lord Íiva’s concealing grace, tirodhâna ßakti. Sakala avasthâ, the next
stage in the soul’s journey, is the period of bodily existence, the cyclic
evolution through transmigration from body to body, under the addi-
tional powers of mâyâ and karma, the second and third aspects of the
Lord’s concealing grace. ¶The journey through sakala avasthâ is also in
three stages. The first is called irul pâda, “stage of darkness,” where the
soul’s impetus is toward pâßa-jñânam, knowledge and experience of the
world. The next period is marul pâda, “stage of confusion,” where the
soul begins to take account of its situation and finds itself caught between
the world and God, not knowing which way to turn. This is called paßu-
jñânam, the soul seeking to know its true nature. The last period is arul
pâda, “stage of grace,” when the soul yearns for the grace of God. Now it
has begun its true religious evolution with the constant aid of the Lord.
¶For the soul in darkness, irul, faith is primitive, illogical. In its childlike
endeavors it clings to this faith. There is no intellect present in this young
soul, only primitive faith and instinctive mind and body. But it is this
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faith in the unseen, the unknown, the words of the elders and its ability
to adjust to community without ruffling everyone’s feathers that matures
the soul to the next pâda—marul, wherein faith becomes faith in oneself,
close friends and associates, faith in one’s intellectual remembrance of the
opinions of others, even if they are wrong. ¶It is not very quickly that the
soul gets out of this syndrome, because it is here that the karmas are made
that bind the soul, surround the soul, the karmas of ignorance which must
be gone through for the wisdom to emerge. Someone who is wise got
that way by facing up to all the increments of ignorance. The marul pâda
is very binding and tenacious, tenaciously binding. But as the external
shell of â∫ava is being built, the soul exercises itself in its own endeavor
to break through. Its “still small voice” falls on deaf ears. ¶Yoga brings the
soul into its next experiential pattern. The soul comes to find that if he
performs good and virtuous deeds, life always seems to take a positive
turn. Whereas in negative, unvirtuous acts he slowly becomes lost in a
foreboding abyss of confusion. Thus, in faith, he turns toward the good
and holy. A balance emerges in his life, called iruvinaioppu. ¶Whether he
is conscious of it or not, he is bringing the three malas—â∫ava, karma
and mâyâ—under control. Mâyâ is less and less an enchanting temptress.
Karma no longer controls his state of mind, tormenting him through bat-
tering experiences. And â∫ava, his self-centered nature, is easing its hold,
allowing him to feel a more universal compassion in life. This grows into
a state called malaparipakam, the ripening of the malas. ¶This will allow,
at the right moment in his life, arul to set in. This is known as the descent
of grace, ßaktinipâta. The internal descent is recognized as a tremendous
yearning for Íiva. More and more, he wants to devote himself to all that
is spiritual and holy. The outer descent of grace is the appearance of a
satguru. There is no question as to who he is, for he sheds the same clear,
spiritual vibration as that unknown something the soul feels emanating
from his deepest self. It is when the soul has reached malaparipakam that
the Lord’s tirodhâna function, His concealing grace, has accomplished its
work and gives way to anugraha, revealing grace, and the descent of grace,
ßaktinipâta, occurs. ¶At this stage, knowledge comes unbidden. Insights
into human affairs are mere readings of past experiences, for those experi-
ences that are being explained to others were actually lived through by the
person himself. This is no mystery. It is the threshold of ßuddha avasthâ.
Lord Íiva is at the top, Lord Ga∫eßa is at the bottom, and Lord Murugan
is in the heart of it, in the center.
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The intellect in its capacity to contain truth is a very

Thursday limited tool, while faith is a very broad, accommodating
LESSON 46
and embracing faculty. The mystery of life and beyond
Faith in
Tradition life, of Íiva, is really better understood through faith
than through intellectual reasoning. The intellect is a
memory/reason conglomerate from the lower nâ∂î/chakra complex. Its
refined ability to juggle information around is uncanny in some instances.
Nevertheless, the intellect is built upon what we hear and remember, what
we experience and remember, what we explain to others who are refined
or gross in reasoning faculties. What we remember of it all and the por-
tions that have been forgotten may be greatly beneficial to those listen-
ing, or it may be confusing, but it is certainly not Truth with a capital
“T.” ¶There are two kinds of faith. The first kind is faith in those masters,
adepts, yogîs and ®ishis who have had similar experiences and have spoken
about them in similar ways, unedited by the ignorant. We, therefore, can
have faith that some Truth was revealed from within themselves, from
some deep, inner or higher source. The second aspect of faith is in one’s
own spiritual, unsought-for, unbidden flashes of intuition, revelations or
visions, which one remembers even stronger as the months go by, more
vividly than something read from a book, seen on television or heard
from a friend or a philosopher. These personal revelations create a new,
superconscious intellect when verified by what yogîs and ®ishis and the
sâdhus have seen and heard and whose explanations centuries have pre-
served. These are the old souls of the ßuddha avasthâ, being educated from
within out, building a new intellect from superconscious insights. Their
faith is unshakable, undaunted, for it is themself. It is just who they are
at this stage of the evolution, the maturation, of their soul in the ßuddha
avasthâ. ¶One of the aspects of faith is the acceptance of tradition rather
than the questioning or doubting of traditions. Another is trust in the
process of spiritual unfoldment, so that when one is going through an
experience, one always believes that the process is happening, instead of
thinking that today’s negative experience is outside the process. However,
it is not possible for souls in the irul pâda, stage of darkness, to trust in
the process of anything except their need for food, a few bodily comforts
and their gaining the abilities to adjust transparently into a community
without committing too many crimes for which they would be severely
punished. They gain their lessons through the action-and-painful-reac-
tion ways. ¶It is difficult and nearly impossible for those in the marul
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pâda, stage of confusion, to have faith in the process of spiritual unfold-

ment and trust in tradition, because they are developing their personal
ego, manufacturing karmas, good, bad and mixed, to sustain their physi-
cal existence for hundreds of lives. They will listen to sermons with a deaf
ear and, after they are over, enjoy the food and the idle chatter the most.
They will read books on philosophy and rationalize their teachings as
relevant only to the past. The great knowledge of the past tradition, even
the wisdom their grandparents might hold, is an encroachment on their
proud sovereignty. ¶It is only when the soul reaches the maturity to enter
the arul pâda, the stage of grace, that the ability will come from within
to lean on the past and on tradition, perform the present sâdhanas, live
within dharma and carve a future for themselves and others by bringing
the best of the past, which is tradition, forward into the future. This tran-
sition is a happy one. Truth now has a capital “T” and is always told. The
restraints, the yamas, truly have been perfected and are a vital part of the
DNA system of individual living beings. Now, as he enters the arul pâda,
the niyamas, spiritual practices, stand out strongly in his mind. ¶The San-
skrit word âstikya means “that which is,” or “that which exists.” Thus, for
Hindus faith means believing in what is. Åstikya refers to one who believes
in what is, one who is pious and faithful. We can see that these two words,
faith and âstikya, are similar in nature. Faith is the spiritual-intellectual
mind, developed through many superconscious insights blended together
through cognition, not through reason. The insights do not have to be
remembered, because they are firmly impressed as saμskâras within the
inner mind. ¶There is an old saying favored by practical, experiential
intellectuals, “Seeing is believing.” A more profound adage is “Believing
is seeing.” The scientists and the educators of today live in the marul pâda.
They see with their two eyes and pass judgments based on what they cur-
rently believe. The ®ishis of the past and the ®ishis of the now and those
yet to come in the future also are seers. There is a thin thread through
the history of China, Japan, India, England and all of Europe, Africa, the
Americas, Polynesia and all the countries of the world connecting seers
and what they have seen. This seeing is not with the two eyes. It is with
the third eye, the eye of the soul. One cannot erase through argument or
coercion that which has been seen. The seer relates his seeing to the soul
of the one who hears. This is sampradâya. This is guru-ßishya transference.
This is Truth. This is ßuddha. This is the end of this upadeßa.
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Worship, Èßvarapûjana, is the fifth niyama. Let us declare,

Friday in the last analysis, that human life is either worship or
LESSON 47
warship, higher nature or lower nature. We need say no
Èßvarapûjana:
Worship more. But we will. The brief explanation for Èßvarapû-
jana is to cultivate devotion through daily worship and
meditation. The soul’s evolution from its conception is based solely on
Èßvarapûjana, the return to the source. In the irul pâda, the stage of dark-
ness, its return to the source is more imminent than actual. The burning
desire is there, driven by the instinctive feelings and emotions of living
within the seven chakras below the mûlâdhâra. There is a natural seeking
on the way up. People here will worship almost anything to get out of
this predicament. Bound in blind faith, with the absence of a coherent
intellect guided by reason, and the absence of a matured intellect devel-
oped by superconscious experience, they struggle out of their shell of
ignorance, through worship, to a better life. The small thread of intuition
keeps assuring them it is there, within their reach if they but strive. They
call God, they fear God, seek to be close to Him and see Him as oh-so-
far away. ¶When they are matured and stepping into adolescence in the
marul pâda, where confusion prevails, worship and the trappings and
traditions that go with it seem to be primitive, unreasonable and can all
well be dispensed with. It is here that a young lady looks into the mirror
and says, “What a fine person! I am more beautiful than all the other girls
I know.” A young man may likewise be conceited about his looks or phy-
sique. Worship still exists, but is tied closely to narcissism. It is only in the
stage of grace, arul, and on its doorstep that true worship arises, which
is invoking and opening up to the great beings, God, Gods and devas, in
order to commune with them. ¶Faith, âstikya, creates the attitudes for
the action of worship. We can see that from the soul’s conception to its
fullness of maturity into the final merger with God Íiva Himself, wor-
ship, communication, looking up, blending with, is truly monistic Íaiva
Siddhânta, the final conclusions for all mankind. We can conclude that in
Sanâtana Dharma faith is in What Is, and in the Abrahamic religions faith
is in What Is Yet to Be. ¶Worship could be defined as communication on
a very high level: a truly sophisticated form of “channeling,” as New-Age
people might say; clairvoyant or clairaudient experience, as mystics would
describe it; or heart-felt love interchanged between Deity and devotee, as
the ordinary person would describe it. Worship for the Hindu is on many
levels and of many kinds. In the home, children worship their father and
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mother as God and Goddess because they love them. The husband wor-
ships his wife as a Goddess. The wife worships her husband as a God.
In the shrine room, the entire family together worships images of Gods,
Goddesses and saints, beseeching them as their dear friends. The family
goes to the temple daily, or at least once a week, attends seasonal festivals
and takes a far-off pilgrimage once a year. Worship is the binding force
that keeps the Hindu family together. On a deeper level, external wor-
ship is internalized, worshiping God within through meditation and con-
templation. This form of worship leads into yoga and profound mystical
experiences.
Many people are afraid to do pûjâ, specific, traditional
Saturday rites of worship, because they feel they don’t have
LESSON 48
enough training or don’t understand the mystical prin-
Rites of
Worship ciples behind it well enough. To this concern I would
say that the priesthood in Hinduism is sincere, devout
and dedicated. Most Hindus depend on the priests to perform the pûjâs
and sacraments for them, or to train them to perform home pûjâ and
give them permission to do so through initiation, called dîkshâ. However,
simple pûjâs may be performed by anyone wishing to invoke grace from
God, Mahâdevas and devas. ¶Love and dedication and the outpouring
from the highest chakras of spiritual energies of the lay devotee are often
greater than any professional priest could summon within himself. Devo-
tees of this caliber have come up in Hindu society throughout the ages
with natural powers to invoke the Gods and manifest in the lives of tem-
ple devotees many wondrous miracles. ¶There is also an informal order of
priests called pa∫∂ara, which is essentially the self-appointed priest who
is accepted by the community to perform pûjâs at a sacred tree, a simple
shrine or an abandoned temple. He may start with the mantra Aum and
learn a few more mantras as he goes along. His efficaciousness can equal
that of the most advanced Sanskrit ßâstrî, performing in the grandest tem-
ple. Mothers, daughters, aunts, fathers, sons, uncles, all may perform pûjâ
within their own home, and do, as the Hindu home is considered to be
nothing less than an extension of the nearby temple. In the Hindu religion,
unlike the Western religions, there is no one who stands between man
and God. ¶Years ago, in the late 1950s, I taught beginning seekers how to
offer the minimal, simplest form of pûjâ at a simple altar with fresh water,
flowers, a small candle, incense, a bell and a stone. This brings together
the four elements, earth, air, fire and water—and your own mind is âkâßa,
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the fifth element. The liturgy is simply chanting “Aum.” This is the generic
pûjâ which anyone can do before proper initiation comes from the right
sources. People of any religion can perform Hindu pûjâ in this way. ¶All
Hindus have guardian devas who live on the astral plane and guide, guard
and protect their lives. The great Mahâdevas in the temple that the devo-
tees frequent send their deva ambassadors into the homes to live with the
devotees. A room is set aside for these permanent unseen guests, a room
that the whole family can enter and sit in and commune inwardly with
these refined beings who are dedicated to protecting the family generation
after generation. Some of them are their own ancestors. A token shrine
in a bedroom or a closet or a niche in a kitchen is not enough to attract
these Divinities. One would not host an honored guest in one’s closet or
have him or her sleep in the kitchen and expect the guest to feel welcome,
appreciated, loved. All Hindus are taught from childhood that the guest is
God, and they treat any guest royally who comes to visit. Hindus also treat
God as God and devas as Gods when they come to live permanently in the
home. ¶But liberal sects of Hinduism teach that God and devas are only
figments of one’s imagination. These sects are responsible for producing
a more materialistic and superficial group of followers. Not so the deep,
mystical Hindu, who dedicates his home to God and sets a room aside
for God. To him and the family, they are moving into God’s house and
living with God. Materialistic, superficial Hindus feel that God might be
living, sometimes, maybe, in their house. Their homes are fraught with
confusion, deceptive dealings, back-biting, anger, even rage, and their
marriages nowadays often end in divorce. ¶They and all those who live in
the lower nature are restricted from performing pûjâ, because when and
if they do pûjâ, the invocation calls up the demons rather than calling
down the devas. The asuric beings invoked into the home by angry people,
and into the temple by angry priests, or by contentious, argumentative,
sometimes rageful boards of directors, take great satisfaction in creating
more confusion and escalating simple misunderstandings into arguments
leading to angry words, hurt feelings and more. With this in mind, once
anger is experienced, thirty-one days should pass to close the door on the
chakras below the mûlâdhâra before pûjâ may again be performed by that
individual. Simple waving of incense before the icons is permissible, but
not the passing of flames, ringing of bells or the chanting of any mantra,
other than the simple recitation of Aum.
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The ideal of Èßvarapûjana, worship, is to always be liv-

Sunday ing with God, living with Íiva, in God’s house, which is
LESSON 49
Living in
also your house, and regularly going to God’s temple.
God’s Home This lays the foundation for finding God within. How
can someone find God within if he doesn’t live in God’s
house as a companion to God in his daily life? The answer is obvious. It
would only be a theoretical pretense, based mainly on egoism. If one really
believes that God is in his house, what kinds of attitudes does this create?
First of all, since family life is based around food, the family would feed
God in His own room at least three times a day, place the food lovingly
before His picture, leave, close the door and let God and His devas eat in
peace. God and the devas do enjoy the food, but they do so by absorbing
the prâ∫as, the energies, of the food. When the meal is over, and after the
family has eaten, God’s plates are picked up, too. What is left on God’s
plate is eaten as prasâda, as a blessing. God should be served as much as
the hungriest member of the family, not just a token amount. Of course,
God, Gods and the devas do not always remain in the shrine room. They
wander freely throughout the house, listening to and observing the entire
family, guests and friends. Since the family is living in God’s house, and
God is not living in their house, the voice of God is easily heard as their
conscience. ¶When we are living in God’s house, it is easy to see God as
pure energy and life within every living form, the trees, the flowers, the
plants, the fire, the Earth, humans, animals and all creatures. When we
see this life, which is manifest most in living beings, we are seeing God
Íiva. Many families are too selfish to set aside a room for God. Though
they have their personal libraries, rumpus rooms, two living rooms, mul-
tiple bedrooms, their superficial religion borders on a new Indian religion.
Their shrine is a closet, or pictures of God and Goddesses on the vanity
mirror of their dressing table. The results of such worship are nil, and
their life reflects the chaos that we see in the world today. ¶The psychology
and the decision and the religion is, “Do we live with God, or does God
occasionally visit us?” Who is the authority in the home, an unreligious,
ignorant, domineering elder? Or is it God Íiva Himself, or Lord Murugan
or Lord Ga∫eßa, whom the entire family, including elders, bow down to
because they have resigned themselves to the fact that they are living in
the âßrama of Mahâdevas? This is religion. This is Èßvarapûjana. ¶It is
often said that worship is not only a performance at a certain time of day
in a certain place, but a state of being in which every act, morning to night,
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is done in Íiva consciousness, in which life becomes an offering to God.

Then we can begin to see Íiva in everyone we meet. When we try, just
try—and we don’t have to be successful all the time—to separate the life
of the individual from his personality, immediately we are in higher con-
sciousness and can reflect contentment and faith, compassion, steadfast-
ness and all the higher qualities, which is sometimes not possible to do if
we are only looking at the external person. This practice, of Èßvarapûjana
sâdhana, can be performed all through the day and even in one’s dreams
at night. ¶Meditation, too, in the Hindu way is based on worship. It is
true that Hindus do teach meditation techniques to those who have West-
ern backgrounds as a mind-manipulative experience. However, a Hindu
adept, ®ishi or jñânî, even an experienced elder, knows that meditation is
a natural outgrowth of the charyâ, kriyâ and yoga paths. It is based on a
religious foundation, as trigonometry is based on geometry, algebra and
arithmetic. ¶If you are worshiping properly, if you take worship to its pin-
nacle, you are in perfect meditation. We have seen many devotees going
through the form of worship with no communication with the God they
are worshiping or even the stone that the God uses as a temporary body.
They don’t even have a smile on their face. They are going through the
motions because they have been taught that meditation is the ultimate,
and worship can be dispensed with after a certain time. Small wonder that
when they are in meditation, their minds are confused and subconscious
overloads harass them. Breathing is irregular, and if made regular has to
be forced. Their materialistic outlook on life—of seeing God everywhere,
yet not in those places they rationalize God can never possibly be—con-
tradicts their professed dedication to the Hindu way of life. ¶Yes, truly,
worship unreservedly. Perfect this. Then, after initiation, internalize that
worship through yoga practices given by a satguru. Through that same
internal worship, unreservedly, you will eventually attain the highest goal.
These are the Íaiva Siddhânta conclusions of the seven ®ishis who live
within the sahasrâra chakra of all souls.
 Siddhânta Írava∫a-Mati
isaÎanta˛vaNa-maita

Scriptural Study
And Cognition

O self-luminous Divine, remove the veil of ignorance

from before me, that I may behold your light. Reveal
to me the spirit of the scriptures. May the truth of the
scriptures be ever present to me. May I seek day and
night to realize what I learn from the sages.
Âig Veda, Aitareya Upanishad Invocation. upp, p. 95
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Siddhânta ßrava∫a, scriptural study, the sixth niyama, is

Monday the end of the search. Prior to this end, prior to finding
LESSON 50
the satguru, we are free to study all the scriptures of the
Scriptural
Listening world, of all religions, relate and interrelate them in our
mind, manipulate their meanings and justify their final
conclusions. We are free to study all of the sects and sampradâyas, all
denominations, lineages and teachings, everything under the banner of
Hinduism—the Íaivites, the Vaish∫avites, the Smârtas, Ga∫apatis, Ayyap-
pans, Íâktas and Murugans and their branches. ¶Scriptures within Hin-
duism are voluminous. The methods of teaching are awesome in their
multiplicity. As for teachers, there is one on every corner in India. Ask a
simple question of an elder, and he is duty-bound to give a lengthy res-
ponse from the window he is looking out of, opened by the sampradâya
he or his family has subscribed to, maybe centuries ago, of one or another
sect within this great pantheon we call Hinduism. ¶Before we come to
the fullness of siddhânta ßrava∫a, we are also free to investigate psycholo-
gies, psychiatries, pseudo-sciences, ways of behavior of the human species,
existentialism, humanism, secular humanism, materialism and the many
other modern “-isms,” which are so multitudinous and still multiplying.
Their spokesmen are many. Libraries are full of them. All the “-isms” and
“-ologies” are there, and they beckon, hands outstretched to receive, to
seduce, sometimes even seize, the seeker. The seeker on the path of sid-
dhânta ßrava∫a who is at least relatively successful at the ten restraints
must make a choice. He knows he has to. He knows he must. He has
just entered the consciousness of the mûlâdhâra chakra and is becoming
steadfast on the upward climb. ¶Have full faith that when your guru does
appear, after you have made yourself ready through the ten restraints and
the first five practices, you will know in every nerve current of your being
that this is your guide on the path through the next five practices: 1) sid-
dhânta ßrava∫a, scriptural study—following one verbal lineage and not
pursuing any others; 2) mati, cognition—developing a spiritual will and
intellect with a guru’s guidance; 3) vrata, sacred vows—fulfilling religious
vows, rules, and observances faithfully; 4) japa, recitation of holy man-
tras—here we seek initiation from the guru to perform this practice; and
5) tapas, performing austerity, sâdhana, penance and sacrifice, also under
A sage blesses a young boy, bestowing upon him mati, insightful cognition and spiritual under-
standing. Inset: A teacher passes along the gift of siddhânta ßrava∫a, scriptural learning, to four
young boys through recitation of holy texts. All wear the white holy ash in three stripes.
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the guru’s guidance. ¶Siddhânta ßrava∫a is a discipline, an ancient tradi-

tional practice in satguru lineages, to carry the devotee from one chakra
in consciousness to another. Each sampradâya defends its own teachings
and principles against other sampradâyas to maintain its pristine purity
and admonishes followers from investigating any of them. Such explora-
tion of other texts should all be done before seeking to fulfill siddhânta
ßrava∫a. Once under the direction of and having been accepted by a guru,
any further delving into extraneous doctrines would be disapproved and
disallowed. ¶Siddhânta ßrava∫a is more than just focusing on a single
doctrine. It is developing through scriptural study an entirely new mind
fabric, subconsciously and consciously, which will entertain an explana-
tion for all future prârabdha karmas and karmas created in this life to be
experienced for the duration of the physical life of the disciple. Siddhânta
ßrava∫a is even more. It lays the foundation for initiation within the fabric
of the nerve system of the disciple. Even more, it portrays any differences
in his thinking, the guru’s thought, the sampradâya’s principles, philoso-
phy and underlying practices.
Siddhânta ßrava∫a literally means “scriptural listening.”
Tuesday It is one thing to read the Vedas, Upanishads and Yoga
LESSON 51
Sûtras, but it is quite another to hear their teachings from
Transmitting
Tradition one who knows, because it is through hearing that the
transmission of subtle knowledge occurs, from knower
to seeker. And that is why listening is preferred over intellectual study.
¶Because sound is the first creation, knowledge is transferred through
sound of all kinds. It is important that one listen to the highest truths
of a sampradâya from one who has realized them. The words, of course,
will be familiar. They have been read by the devotee literally hundreds
of times, but to hear them from the mouth of the enlightened ®ishi is to
absorb his unspoken realization, as he re-realizes his realization while
he reads them and speaks them out. This is Íaiva Siddhânta. This is true
sampradâya—thought, meaning and knowledge conveyed through words
spoken by one who has realized the Ultimate. The words will be heard,
the meaning the satguru understands as meaning will be absorbed by
the subconscious mind of the devotee, and the superconscious, intui-
tive knowledge will impress the subsuperconscious mind of the devotees
who absorb it, who milk it out of the satguru himself. This and only this
changes the life pattern of the devotee. There is no other way. This is why
one must come to the guru open, like a child, ready and willing to absorb,
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and to go through many tests. And this is why one must choose one’s guru
wisely and be ready for such an event in one’s life. ¶Sampradâya actu-
ally means an orally transmitted tradition, unwritten and unrecorded in
any other way. True, satgurus of sampradâyas do write books nowadays,
make tape recordings, videos and correspond. This is mini-sampradâya,
the bud of a flower before opening, the shell of an egg before the bird
hatches and flies off, the cocoon before the butterfly emerges. This is mini-
sampradâya—just a taste, but it does lay a foundation within the ßishya’s
mind of who the guru is, what he thinks, what he represents, the begin-
ning and ending of his path, the sampradâya he represents, carries forth
and is bound to carry forth to the next generation, the next and the next.
But really potent sampradâya is listening, actually listening, to the guru’s
words, his explanations. It stimulates thought. Once-remembered words
take on new meanings. Old knowledge is burnt out and replaced with
new. This is sampradâya. ¶Are you ready for a satguru? Perhaps not. When
you are ready, and he comes into your life through a dream, a vision or a
personal meeting, the process begins. The devotee takes one step toward
the guru—a simple meeting, a simple dream. The guru is bound to take
nine steps toward the devotee, not ten, not eleven or twelve, only nine, and
then wait for the devotee to take one more step. Then another nine ensue.
This is the dance. This is sampradâya. ¶When a spiritual experience comes,
a real awakening of light, a flash of realization, a knowing that has never
been seen in print, or if it had been is long-since forgotten, it gives great
courage to the devotee to find that it had already been experienced and
written about by others within his chosen sampradâya. ¶If all the temples
were destroyed, the gurus would come forth and rebuild them. If all the
scriptures were destroyed, the ®ishis would reincarnate and rewrite them.
If all the gurus, swâmîs, ®ishis, sâdhus, saints and sages were systematically
destroyed, they would take births here and there around the globe and
continue as if nothing had ever happened. So secure is the Eternal Truth
on the planet, so unshakable, that it forges ahead undaunted through the
mouths of many. It forges ahead undaunted through the temples’ open
doors. It forges ahead undaunted in scriptures now lodged in nearly
every library in the world. It forges ahead undaunted, mystically hidden
from the unworthy, revealed only to the worthy, who restrain themselves
by observing some or all of the yamas and who practice a few niyamas.
¶Coming under a satguru of one lineage, all scripture, temple and home
tradition may be taken away from the eyes of the experience of the newly
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accepted devotee. In another tradition, scripture may be taken away and

temple worship allowed to remain, so that only the words of the guru are
heard. In still another tradition, the temple, the scripture and the voice
of the guru are always there—but traditionally only the scripture which
has the approval of the satguru and is totally in accord with his principles,
practices and the underlying philosophy of the sampradâya.
Life is long; there are apparently many years ahead. But
Wednesday time is short. One never knows when he is going to die.
LESSON 52
The purpose of sampradâya is to restrict and narrow
One Focus
Per Lifetime down, to reach out to an attainable goal. We must not
consider our life and expected longevity as giving us the
time and permission to do investigative comparisons of one sampradâya
to another. This may be done before making up one’s mind to follow a
traditional verbal lineage. After that, pursuing other paths, even in pass-
ing, would be totally unacceptable. ¶But it is also totally unacceptable
to assume the attitude of denigration of other paths, or to assume the
attitude that “our way is the only way.” There are fourteen currents in the
spine. Each one is a valid way to escalate consciousness into the chakra at
the top of the skull and beyond. And at every point in time, there is a liv-
ing guru, possessing a physical body, ordained to control one or more of
these nâ∂îs, currents, within the spine. All are valid paths. One should not
present itself as superseding another. Let there be no mistake about this.
¶The yamas and niyamas are the core of Hindu disciplines and restraints
for individuals, groups, communities and nations. In fact, they outline
various stages of the path in the development of the soul, leading out of
the marul pâda into the arul pâda, from confusion into grace, leading
to the feet of the satguru, as the last five practices indicate—siddhânta
ßrava∫a, mati, vrata, japa and tapas. ¶Since the sampradâyas are all based
on Hinduism, which is based on the Vedas, any teacher of Indian spiri-
tuality who rejects the Vedas is therefore not a Hindu and should not be
considered as such. Anybody in his right mind will be able to accept the
last section of the Vedas, the Upanishads, and see the truth therein. One
at least has to accept that as the basis of siddhânta ßrava∫a. If even that
is rejected, we must consider the teacher a promulgator of a new Indian
religion, neo-American religion, neo-European religion, neo-New-Age
religion, nonreligion, neo-sannyâsî religion, or some other “neo-ism” or
“neo-ology.” This is not sampradâya. This is not siddhânta ßrava∫a. This
is what we speak against. These are not the eternal paths. Why? Because
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they have not been tried and tested. They are not based on traditional lin-
eages; nor have they survived the ravages of time, changing societies, wars,
famine and the infiltration of ignorance. ¶For sâdhakas, yogîs, swâmîs and
mendicants who have freed themselves from the world, permanently or
for a period of time according to their vows, these yamas and niyamas
are not only restraints and practices, but mandatory controls. They are
not only practices, but obligatory disciplines, and once performed with
this belief and attitude, they will surely lead the mendicant to his chosen
goal, which can only be the height that his prârabdha karmas in this life
permit, unless those karmas are burned out under extreme tapas under
the guidance of a satguru. ¶Some might still wonder, why limit oneself
to listening to scripture of one particular lineage, especially if it has been
practically memorized? The answer is that what has been learned must
be experienced personally, and experience comes in many depths. This
is the purpose of disregarding or rejecting all other sampradâyas, -ism’s,
-ologies and sects, or denominations, and of limiting scriptural listening
to just one sampradâya, so that each subtle increment of the divine truths
amplified within it is realized through personal experience. This and only
this—experience, realization, illumination—can be carried on to the next
birth. What one has merely memorized is not transforming and is forgot-
ten perhaps shortly after death. Let there be no mistake that siddhânta
ßrava∫a, scriptural listening, is the only way; and when the seeker is ready,
the guru will appear and enter his life.
Cognition, mati, is the seventh niyama. Cognition
Thursday means understanding; but deeper than understanding,
LESSON 53
it is seeing through to the other side of the results that
Mati:
Cognition a thought, a word or an action would have in the future,
before the thought, word or action has culminated. Mati
is the development of a spiritual will and intellect through the grace of
a satguru, an enlightened master. Mati can only come this way. It is a
transference of divine energies from the satguru to the ßishya, building a
purified intellect honed down by the guru for the ßishya, and a spiritual
will developed by the ßishya by following the religious sâdhanas the guru
has laid down until the desired results are attained to the guru’s satisfac-
tion. Sâdhana is always done under a guru’s direction. This is the worthy
sâdhana that bears fruit. ¶Mati, cognition, on a higher level is the awaken-
ing of the third eye, looking out through the heart chakra, seeing through
the mâyâ, the interacting creation, preservation and dissolution of the
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molecules of matter. Mati is all this and more, for within each one who is
guided by the guru’s presence lies the ability to see not only with the two
eyes but with all three simultaneously. The spiritual intellect described
herein is none other than wisdom, or a “wise dome,” if you will. Wisdom
is the timely application of knowledge, not merely the opinions of others,
but knowledge gained through deep observation. ¶The guru’s guidance is
supreme in the life of the dedicated devotee who is open for training. The
verbal lineages of the many sampradâyas have withstood the tests of time,
turmoil, decay and ravage of external hostility. The sampradâyas that have
sustained man and lifted him above the substratum of ignorance are actu-
ally great nerve currents within the spine of the awakened satguru himself.
To go further on the path of yoga, one will encounter within his own
spine—within one of the fourteen nâ∂îs within it—a satguru, a guru who
preaches Truth. He will meet this guru in a dream or in his physical body,
and through the guru’s grace and guidance will be allowed to continue
the upward climb. These fourteen currents, at every point in time on the
surface of the Earth, have a satguru attached to them, ready and waiting
to open the portals of the beyond into the higher chakras, the throat, the
third eye and the cranium. ¶To say, “I have awakened my throat chakra,”
“I now live in my third eye” or “I am developing my sahasrâra chakra,”
without being able to admit to being under a guru, a satguru who knows
and is personally directing the devotee, is foolishness, a matter of imagi-
nation. It is in the heart chakra, the chakra of cognition, that seekers see
through the veils of ignorance, illusion, mâyâ’s interacting preservation,
creation and destruction, and gain a unity with and love for the universe—
all those within it, creatures, peoples and all the various forms—feeling
themselves a part of it. ¶Here, on this threshold of the anâhata chakra,
there are two choices. One is following the sampradâya of a satguru for
the next upward climb into the vißuddha, âjñâ and sahasrâra. The other
is remaining guru-less, becoming one’s own guru, and possibly delving
into various forms of psychism, astrology, some forms of modern science,
psychic crime-detection, tarot cards, pendulums, crystal gazing, psychic
healing, past-life reading or fortunetelling. These psychic abilities, when
developed, can be an impediment, a deterrent, a barrier, a Berlin Wall to
future spiritual development. They develop the â∫ava, the ego, and are
the first renunciations the satguru would ask a devotee to make prior to
being accepted. ¶Coming under a satguru, one performs according to the
guru’s direction with full faith and confidence. This is why scriptures say
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a guru must be carefully chosen, and when one is found, to follow him
with all your heart, to obey and fulfill his every instruction better than he
would have expected you to, and most importantly, even better than you
would have expected of yourself. ¶Psychic abilities are not in themselves
deterrents on the path. They are permitted to develop later, after Paraßiva,
nirvikalpa samâdhi, has been attained and fully established within the
individual. But this, too, would be under the guru’s grace and guidance, for
these abilities are looked at as tools to fulfill certain works assigned by the
guru to the devotee to fulfill until the end of the life of the physical body.
¶It is the personal ego, the â∫ava, that is developed through the practice
of palmistry, astrology, tarot cards, fortunetelling, past-life reading, crystal
gazing, crystal healing, prâ∫a transference, etc., etc., etc. This personal ego
enhancement is a gift from those who are healed, who are helped, who
are encouraged and who are in awe of the psychic power awakened in the
heart chakra of this most perfect person of the higher consciousness who
doesn’t anger, display fear or exhibit any lower qualities.
The three malas that bind us are: mâyâ, the ever-perpet-
Friday uating dance of creation, preservation and dissolution;
LESSON 54
karma (our prârabdha karma, brought with us to face
Untying
The Bonds in this life, along with the karma we are creating now
and will create in the future); and â∫ava, the ego, igno-
rance or sense of separateness. Mâyâ can be understood, seen through and
adjusted to through the heart-chakra powers of cognition, contentment
and compassion. Karmas can be harnessed through regular forms of dis-
ciplinary practices of body, mind and emotions, and the understanding of
the law of karma itself as a force that is sent out through thought, feeling
and action and most often returns to us through other peoples’ thought,
feeling and action. But it is the â∫ava mala, the mala of personal ego, that
is the binding chain which cannot be so easily dealt with. It is the last to
go. It is only at the point of death, before the greatest mahâsamâdhi of the
greatest ®ishi, that the â∫ava mala chain is finally broken. ¶If we compare
this â∫ava mala, personal ego, to an actual mâlâ, a string of rudrâksha
beads, the purpose on the path at this stage, of mati, is to begin eliminat-
ing the beads, making the chain shorter and shorter. The mâlâ should
be getting shorter and shorter rather than our adding beads to it so that
it gets longer and longer. A warning: if the â∫ava mala—symbolically a
garland of rudrâksha beads—has thirty-six beads and it steadily grows to
1,008 because of practices and the adulation connected with them within
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the psychic realms of the pseudoscience of parapsychology—such as

bending spoons, telepathy, channeling and ectoplasmic manifestations—
this 1,008 strand of rudrâksha beads could become so heavy, so dangerous
to the wearer, that eventually he would trip and fall on his nose. The wise
say, “Pride goes before a fall.” And the still wiser know that “spiritual pride
is the most difficult pride to deal with, to eliminate, to rise above in a life-
time.” The spiritually proud never open themselves to a satguru. The mys-
tically humble do. ¶Mati has also been interpreted as “good intellect, acute
intelligence, a mind directed toward right knowledge, or Vedic knowledge.”
Good intellect, in the context of a Hindu seer, would be right knowledge
based on siddhânta ßrava∫a, scriptural study. Acute intelligence, of course,
means “see-through” or panoramic intelligence which cognizes the entire
picture rather than only being aware of one of its parts. “A mind directed
toward right knowledge or Vedic knowledge” refers to the intellect devel-
oped through siddhânta ßrava∫a. The study of the Vedas and other scrip-
tures purifies the intellect, as belief creates attitude, and attitude creates
action. An intellect based on truths of the Sanâtana Dharma is intelligent
to the divine laws of the universe and harnessed into fulfilling them as a
part of it. To this end, all the prârabdha karmas of this life and the action-
reaction conglomerates formed in this life are directed. The intellect, like
the emotions, is a force, disciplined or undisciplined, propelled by right
knowledge or wrong knowledge. It, of itself, processes, logically or illogi-
cally, both kinds of knowledge or their mix. What harnesses the intellect
is siddhânta ßrava∫a, study of the teachings and listening to the wise of
an established, traditional lineage that has stood the test of time, ravage
and all attempts at conversion. ¶The intellect is a neutral tool which can
be used for bad or for good purposes. But unlike the emotions, which are
warm, and also neutral, the intellect is cold. It is the fire of the ku∫∂alinî
force—impregnating the intellect, purifying it, burning out the ignorance
of wrong concepts, thought forms, beliefs, connected attitudes, causing an
aversion to certain actions—that forges the purified intellect and spiritual
will of cognition, known as mati. Mati, in summary, is the harnessing of
the intellect by the soul to live a spiritual life.
There are many things which have their claim on peo-
Saturday ple’s minds. For many it is the physical body. The hypo-
LESSON 55
chondriac thinks about it all the time. Then there is the
Purifying
The Intellect employer who has bought the intellect of the employee.
The emotions consume the intellect with hurt feelings
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and the rhetorical questions that ensue, elated feelings and the continued
praise that is expected. And then there is television, the modern vißvaguru
that guides the intellect into confusion. As a dream leads only to waking
up, television leads only to turning it off. Yes, there are many things that
claim the intellect, many more than we have spoken about already. ¶The
intellect is guided by the physical; the intellect is guided by the emotions,
by other people, and by mechanical devices. And the intellect is guided by
the intellect itself, like a computer processing and reprocessing knowledge
without really understanding any of it. It is at the stage when anger has
subsided, jealousy is unacceptable behavior and fear is a distant feeling,
when memory is intact, the processes of reason are working well, the will-
power is strong and the integrity is stable, when one is looking out from
the anâhata chakra window of consciousness, when instinctive-intellec-
tual thought meets the superconscious of the purusha, the soul, that the
inner person lays claim on the outer person. ¶There is a struggle, to be
sure, as the “I Am” struggles to take over the “was then.” It’s simple. The
last mala, the â∫ava “mâlâ,” has to start losing its beads. The personal ego
must go for universal cosmic identity, Satchidânanda, to be maintained.
This, then, is the platform of the throat chakra, the vißuddha chakra, of a
true, all-pervasive, never-relenting spiritual identity. Here guru and ßishya
live in oneness in divine communication. Even if never a word is spo-
ken, the understanding in the devotee begins to grow and grow and grow.
¶Some people think of the intellect as informing the superconscious or
soul nature, instructing or educating it. Some people even think that they
can command the Gods to do their bidding. These are the people that also
think that their wife is a slave, that children are their servants, and who
cleverly deceive their employers and governments through learned arts
of deception. ¶These are the prototypes of the well-developed ignorant
person, even though he might feign humility and proclaim religiousness.
It is the religion that he professes, if he keeps doing so, that will pull him
out of this darkness. When the first beam of light comes through the
mûlâdhâra chakra, he will start instructing his own soul as to what it
should do for him, yet he still habitually dominates his wife, inhibiting
her own feelings as a woman, and his children, inhibiting their feelings in
experiencing themselves being young. ¶But the soul responds in a curi-
ous way, unlike the wife and children, or the employer and government
who have been deceived through his wrong dealings. The soul responds
by creating a pin which pricks his conscience, and this gnawing, antago-
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nistic force within him he seeks to get rid of. He hides himself in jealousy,
in the sutala chakra, until this becomes unacceptable. The confusion of
the talâtala chakra is no longer his pleasure. He can’t hide there. So, he
hides himself in anger and resentment—a cozy place within the vitala
chakra—until this becomes unbearable. Then he hides himself in fear, in
the atala chakra, fear of his own purusha, his own soul, his own psyche,
his own seeing, until this becomes intolerable. Then he hides himself in
memory and reason, and the being puts down its roots. The change in
this individual can only be seen by the mellowness within his eyes and a
newborn wisdom that is slowly developing in his conversations among
those who knew him before.
Willpower is a prâ∫ic force which exudes out of the
Sunday ma∫ipûra chakra. This energy, when directed downward,
LESSON 56
can be used up through excessive reason, excessive mem-
Transmuting
Willpower orization, fear and amplification of fears, anger, the per-
petuation of resentment without resolution, amplified
by instinctive jealousies, all of which eventually dissipate the semi-divine
energy of willpower and eventually close the ma∫ipûra chakra. But when
this same energy of willpower is upwardly directed, it pulls memory into
a purified memory, making it forget what has to be forgotten, namely
wrong knowledge, and remember what has to be remembered—sid-
dhânta, the final conclusions of the ®ishis who live within the sahasrâra
chakra, the siddhas who are contacted through great tapas. ¶There is no
reason to believe that developing and unfolding the ten petals of the
ma∫ipûra chakra comes easily. To develop an indomitable will capable of
the accomplishments needed as a prerequisite to make the upward climb
to the anâhata, vißuddha, âjñâ and sahasrâra chakras, and to sustain the
benign attitudes of humility, is certainly not an easy task. But it comes
naturally to one who has attained such in prior lifetimes, an older soul,
I would say. Fulfilling each task one has begun, putting the cap back on
the toothpaste tube after squeezing the toothpaste on the brush, the little
things, and perfecting the yamas and the niyamas, especially contentment,
austerity, giving, faith and regular worship, builds this indomitable will.
These are mini-sâdhanas one can perform on his own without the guid-
ance of a guru. Yes, it is the little things that build the indomitable will that
dominates the external intellect, its memory and reason abilities, and the
instinctive impulses of fear, anger and jealousy. Doing this is just becom-
ing a good person. ¶Willpower is the muscle of the mind. We lift weights,
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exercise, run a mile, all to develop the muscles of the physical body. The
more we perform these practices, the more muscular we become. The
process of strain reshapes the cellular properties and the structure of the
muscles. Intermittent rest allows them to build up double. Strong muscles
appear on the body as a result. The ma∫ipûra chakra is the sun center of
the physical body and of the astral body, the place where all nerve currents
of these two bodies meet and merge. It emanates the power of life. It is the
seat of fire, the agni homa. It is the bridge between the ultimate illumina-
tion and a prolonged, ongoing, intellectual processing of ideas, coupled
with instinctive willfulness. Let there be no mistake, we must get beyond
that by transmuting this tool, willpower, into mati, cognition, where its
energies are usable yet benign. Therefore, the more you use your personal,
individual willpower in your religious service, in your business life, your
personal life, your home life, your temple life, in fulfilling all the yamas
and niyamas, the more willpower you have. It is an accumulative, ever-
growing bank account. ¶Of course, you can lose some of it through lapses
into fear, anger and jealousy, just as in an economic depression one loses
money. But you can also court an inflation by seeking higher conscious-
ness in the vißuddha chakra of divine love through the anâhata chakra of
direct cognition, through understanding the oneness of a well-ordered,
just universe, both inner and outer.
 Vrata-Japa-Tapas
v‰ta-japa-tapasa<

Vows, Incantation
And Austerity

By austerity, goodness is obtained. From goodness,

understanding is reached. From understanding,
the Self is obtained, and he who obtains the Self
is freed from the cycle of birth and death.
K®ish∫a Yajur Veda, Maitreya Upanishad 4.3. upr, p. 810
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Vrata, taking of sacred vows, is the eighth niyama and

Monday something every Hindu must do at one time or another
LESSON 57
during his lifetime. The brahmacharya vrata is the first,
Vrata:
Sacred Vows pledging to maintain virginity until marriage. The
vivâha vrata, marriage vows, would generally be the
next. Taking a vow is a sacred trust between yourself, your outer self,
your inner self, your loved ones and closest friends. Even though they
may not know of the vow you may have taken, it would be difficult to
look them straight in the eye if you yourself know you have let yourself
down. A vow is a sacred trust between you and your guardian devas, the
devas that surround the temple you most frequent and the Mahâdevas,
who live within the Third World—which you live in, too, in your deep,
innermost mind, in the radiant, self-luminous body of your soul. ¶Many
people make little promises and break them. This is not a vrata, a sacred
trust. A vrata is a sacred trust with God, Gods and guru made at a most
auspicious time in one’s life. Vrata is a binding force, binding the external
mind to the soul and the soul to the Divine, though vrata is sometimes
defined generally as following religious virtues or observances, follow-
ing the principles of the Vedas, of the Hindu Dharma. There are vratas
of many kinds, on many different levels, from the simple promise we
make to ourself and our religious community and guru to perform the
basic spiritual obligations, to the most specific religious vows. ¶Vratas
give the strength to withstand the temptations of the instinctive forces
that naturally come up as one goes on through life—not to suppress
them but to rechannel them into a lifestyle fully in accord with the yamas
and niyamas. The yamas should be at least two-thirds perfected and the
niyamas two-thirds in effect before vratas are taken. ¶We must remember
that the yamas are restraints, ten clues as to what forces to restrain and
how to restrain them. Some people are better than others at accomplish-
ing this, depending on their prârabdha karmas, but the effort in trying
is the important thing. The practices, niyamas, on the other hand, are
progressive, according to the perfection of the restraints. Commitment
to the first yama, noninjury, ahiμsâ, for example, makes the first niyama,
remorse, or hrî, a possibility in one’s life. And satya, truthfulness, brings
santosha—contentment, joy and serenity in life. The first five practices,
A Hindu woman chants her mantra on a mâlâ of holy beads, performing japa or repetitive
incantations. Insets: A couple voice their wedding vows, vrata, in one of life’s most sacred rites
of passage; religious austerities, tapas, include various yogic ordeals and physical challenges.
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niyamas, are tools to keep working with yourself, to keep trying within
the five major areas they outline. ¶If one wants to progress further, he
does not have to take on a guru—to study scriptures or develop a spiritual
will or intellect—that would come naturally, nor to take simple vratas, to
chant Aum as japa and to perform certain sâdhanas and penance. These
are all available. But a guru naturally comes into one’s life when the last
five yamas—steadfastness, compassion, honesty, a moderate appetite, and
purity—give rise to the last five niyamas—siddhânta ßrava∫a (choice of
lineage), mati (cognition and developing a spiritual will with the guru’s
guidance), vrata (sacred vows before a guru), japa (recitation after initia-
tion from guru) and tapas (austerities performed under the careful guid-
ance of a guru). We can see that the last five practices are taken on two
levels: guru involvement, and community and personal involvement.
Many people get together with modern-day gurus and
Tuesday want to rush ahead, and with feigned humility seek to
LESSON 58
“get on with it” and “be their own person,” but feel they
Types
Of Vows need an initiation to do so. The gurus and swâmîs from
India following a traditional path put initiation before
them. Most gurus and swâmîs are dumbfounded by the devotion they
see in these souls, perhaps not realizing they are stimulated by drugs and
the desire to get something without earning it. The gurus presume they
are already performing the yamas and niyamas and have dropped out of
some higher inner world into Earth bodies. So, the initiations are given
and vows are taken, but then when the reaction to the action comes within
the mind of the devotee, and the swâmî begins to teach on a different level
to this chosen group, because after initiation a new form of teaching and
dissemination of inner knowledge occurs, and since it was only the initia-
tion that was sought for (and he or she does not believe in God and the
Gods and is not even part of the Hindu religion), once the devotee feels
the pressure of responsibility, he or she responds by leaving, and even
defaming the guru. ¶Many people think that initiation is like a graduation,
the end of study. This is not true. Initiation is the beginning of study, the
beginning of sâdhana, the beginning of learning. Therefore, think well
before you become initiated, because your loyalty is expected, and you
are expected to adhere to the teachings of the sampradâya, of the lineage,
into which you are initiated. This does not mean you can’t attend temples
or other religious activities of other sampradâyas occasionally, such as
festivals, or listen to music or chants of other traditions occasionally, but
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this should be minimized so that your focus and concentration is upon

what you were initiated into, because you are expected to advance on the
path of that particular lineage. ¶There are certain simple vows in Hindu-
ism which are easy to take and often are taken, such as, “If I’m successful
in this business dealing, I will give twenty percent of the profits to my
temple.” Or, “If my spouse comes back to me, I shall always obey the strî
dharma principles (or purusha dharma), be dedicated and devoted always.”
“If my dear mother, who is so devoted to my children, lives through her
cancer operation (and Lord Ga∫eßa, the doctors have said the chances are
not good), you will see me at the temple every Friday without fail. This is
my vrata, Lord Ga∫eßa, and I say no more.” We take vows to change our
ways, vows to meditate daily, vows to desist from lying, vows to not eat
meat, vows to remain celibate, vows to obey the guru and his tradition,
vows to follow these yamas and niyamas. ¶Perhaps the most obvious and
important vow, which can be taken most readily and renewed once a year
on a day which you consider your most sacred day—such as Íivarâtri,
Ga∫eßa Chatûrthi, Skanda Shash†hî or Dîpâvalî—is the yama and niyama
vrata. These twenty restraints and practices are easy to memorize. Com-
mit them to memory. The vrata should go like this: “O Lord Ga∫eßa, open
the portals of my wisdom that I might take this vrata with open heart and
clear mind. O Lord Murugan, give me the will, fortitude and renewed
strength every step of the way to fulfill the vrata that I am taking. O Lord
Íiva, forgive me if I fail, for these twenty restraints and practices are truly
beyond my ability to perfectly uphold. So, this first year, Lord Íiva, I vow
to fulfill these lofty ideals, to the best of my ability, at least fifty percent. I
know I am weak. You know I am weak. I know you will make me strong.
I know that you are drawing me ever patiently toward your holy feet. But,
Lord Íiva, next year I will faithfully renew this vrata, this sacred vow, to
these rules, these observances. And if I have succeeded in fulfilling my
meager fifty percent according to my conscience, that shall increase my
dedication and devotion to you, Lord Íiva, and I shall determine to fulfill
the yamas and niyamas in my life and soul seventy-five percent or more.”
Many people feel that when they don’t fulfill their vrata
Wednesday they have failed. One practical example to the contrary
LESSON 59
is Mahatma Gandhi, who took a vow to be celibate but
Success
And Failure broke it many times, yet continued the effort and ulti-
mately conquered his instinctive nature. In taking a vrata,
at the moment it is heard by priests, elders and all community members,
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when one hears oneself taking it, and all three worlds rejoice, a balanced
scale has been created. Success is on one side, failure on the other. One
or the other will win out. This is where the unreserved worship of Lord
Murugan will help overbalance the scale on the success side. But if the
scale teeters and wavers, the blessings and knowledge of the elders of the
community should be sought: the mothers and fathers, the old aunties
and uncles, the priests, the pandits and sages, the ®ishis and gurus. This
and this alone will steady the balance. But if actual failure occurs, Lord
Ga∫eßa Himself will catch the fall in His four arms and trunk. He will
hold the devotee from going into the abyss of remorse of the darkness of
the lower worlds. He will speak softly into the right ear and encourage
that the vrata be immediately renewed, lest time elapse and the asura of
depression take over mind, body and emotion. Yes, the only failure is that
experienced by the one who quits, gives up, turns his back on the path
and walks the other way, into the realms of darkness, beyond even the
reach of the Gods. As Tiruvalluvar said, it is better to strive to fulfill great
aspirations, even if you fail, than to achieve minor goals in life. Yes, this is
very true. ¶On the everyday level there are vratas or contracts made with
people of the outside world whom you don’t even know. Buy a piece of
property, and once you sign the contract you are bound to fulfill it. But
a religious vrata is a contract between yourself, the religious community,
the devas and the Gods and your guru, if you have one, all of whom know
that human failure is a part of life; but striving is the fulfillment of life,
and practice is the strengthening effect that the exercise of the human and
spiritual will have over the baser elements. ¶Vows before the community,
such as those of marriage and celibacy and other vows where community
support is needed, are very important. Other, more personal vows are
taken before the community, a temple priest, pandit, elder, swâmî, guru,
or satguru if help is needed to strengthen the individual’s ability to ful-
fill them. For a certain type of person, a vow before Lord Ga∫eßa, Lord
Murugan, Lord Íiva or all three is enough for him to gain strength and
fulfill it. A vow is never only to oneself. This is important to remember. A
vow is always to God, Gods and guru, community and respected elders.
¶One cannot make one’s vow privately, to one’s own individual â∫ava,
external personal ego, thinking that no one is listening. This would be
more of a promise to oneself, like a New Year’s resolution, a change in
attitude based on a new belief, all of which has nothing to do with the
yamas and niyamas or religion. ¶In speaking about the yama and niyama
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vrata, there is no difference in how the family person upholds it and the
celibate monastic upholds it. The families are in their home, the monks
are in their ma†ha, monastery. In regards to the vrata of sexual purity, for
example, the family man vows to be faithful to his wife and to treat all
other women as either a mother or sister and to have no sexual thoughts,
feelings or fantasies toward them. Sadhâkas, yogîs and swâmîs vow to look
at all women as their mothers or sisters, and God Íiva and their guru as
their mother and father. There is no difference.
Now we shall focus on japa, recitation of holy mantras,
Thursday the ninth niyama. Here again, a guru is essential, unless
LESSON 60
only the simplest of mantras are recited. The simplest of
Japa:
Recitation mantras is Aum, pronounced “AA, OO, MMM.” The AA
balances the physical forces when pronounced separately
from the OO and the MMM, as the OO balances the astral and mental
bodies. The MMM brings the spiritual body into the foreground. And
when pronounced all together, AA-OO-MMM, all three bodies are har-
monized. Aum is a safe mantra which may be performed without a guru’s
guidance by anyone of any religious background living on this planet, as
it is the primal sound of the universe itself. All sounds blended together
make the sound “Aum.” The overtone of the sounds of an entire city
would be “Aum.” In short, it harmonizes, purifies and uplifts the devotee.
¶One might ask why a guru is important to perform such a simple task as
japa. It is the ßakti of the guru, of the Gods and the devas that give power
to the mantra. Two people, a civilian and a policeman, could say to a third
person, “Stop in the name of the law.” The third person would only obey
one of them. The one who had no authority would not be listened to. In
this example, the policeman had been initiated and had full authority.
Therefore, his mantra, “Stop in the name of the law,” seven words, had the
desired effect. The person who had not been initiated said the same words,
but nobody paid any attention to him. Now, this does not mean one can
choose a guru, study with the guru, become accepted by the guru, feign
humility, do all the right things and say all the right words, become initi-
ated, receive the mantra and then be off into some kind of other activities
or opt for a more liberal path. The guru’s disdain would diminish if not
cancel the benefits of the initiation, which obviously had been deceptively
achieved. This is why siddhânta ßravana (choosing your path carefully)
and mati (choosing your guru carefully, being loyal to the sampradâya, to
your guru and his successor or successors and training your children to be
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loyal to the sampradâya) are the foundation of character that the first fif-
teen restraints and practices are supposed to produce. ¶Mantra initiation
is guru dîkshâ. Traditionally, the family guru would give mantra dîkshâ to
the mother and the father and then to the young people, making the guru
part of the family itself. There is no way that mantras can be sold and be
effective. There is no way that the dîkshâ of mantra initiation, which per-
mits japa, could be effective for someone who was not striving to fulfill
the first seventeen of the yamas and niyamas. Any wise guru would test
the devotee on these before granting initiation. There is no way a mantra
can be learned from a book and be effective. Therefore, approach the
guru cautiously and with a full heart. When asked if you are restraining
yourself according to the ten yamas, know that perfection is not expected,
but effort is. And if you are practicing the first seven niyamas, know that
perfection is not expected here either, but regular attentiveness to them is.
You, the guru, your family and your friends will all know when you are on
the threshold of mantra dîkshâ, which when performed by an established
guru is called guru dîkshâ.
The tenth and final niyama is austerity, performing sâd-
Friday hana, penance, tapas and sacrifice. All religions of the
LESSON 61
world have their forms of austerity, conditions which
Tapas:
Austerity one has to live up to—or which individuals are unable
to live up to who are too lazy or too dull-minded to
understand; and Hinduism is no exception. Our austerities start within
the home in the form of daily sâdhana. This is obligatory and includes
pûjâ, scriptural reading and chanting of holy mantras. This personal vigil
takes about half an hour or more. Other sâdhanas include pilgrimage
to a far-off sacred place once a year, visiting a temple once a week, pref-
erably on Friday or Monday, attending festivals and fulfilling saμskâras,
rites of passage, for the children especially, but all the family members
as well. To atone for misdeeds, penance is obligatory. We must quickly
mitigate future effects of the causes we have set into action. This is done
through such acts as performing 108 prostrations before the God in the
temple. ¶Tapas is even more austere. It may come early in a lifetime or
later in life, unbidden or provoked by râja yoga practices. It is the fire
that straightens the twisted life and mind of an individual, bringing him
into pure being, giving a new start in life, awakening higher conscious-
ness and a cosmic relationship with God and the Gods, friends, relatives
and casual acquaintances. Tapas in Hinduism is sought for, feared, suf-
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fered through and loved. Its pain is greater than the pains of parturition,
but in the aftermath is quickly forgotten, as the soul, in childlike purity,
shines forth in the joys of rebirth that follow in the new life. ¶Tapas is
walking through fire, being scorched, burnt to a crisp, crawling out the
other side unburnt, without scars, with no pain. Tapas is walking through
the rain, completely drenched, and when the storm stops, not being wet.
Tapas is living in a hurricane, tossed about on a churning ocean in a small
boat, and when the storm subsides, being landed on a peaceful beach
unharmed but purified. Tapas is a mind in turmoil, insane unto its very
self. A psychic surgery is being performed by the Gods themselves. When
the operation is over, the patient has been cut loose of the dross of all past
lives. Tapas is a landslide of mud, a psychic earthquake, coming upon the
head and consuming the body of its victim, smothering him in the dross
of his misdeeds, beneath which he is unable to breathe, see, speak or hear.
He awakens from this hideous dream resting on a mat in a garden hut,
smelling sweet jasmine, seeing pictures of Gods and devas adorning the
mud walls and hearing the sound of a flute coming from a distant source.
¶Truly, tapas in its fullest form is sought for only by the renunciate under
the guidance of a satguru, but this madness often comes unbidden to
anyone on this planet whose dross of misdeeds spills over. The only dif-
ference for the Hindu is that he knows what is happening and how it is to
be handled; or at least the gurus know, the swâmîs know, the elders know,
the astrologers know. This knowledge is built into the Hindu mind flow
as grout is built into a stone wall.
Sacrifice may be the least-practiced austerity, and the
Saturday most important. It is the act of giving up to a greater
LESSON 62
power a cherished possession (be it money, time, intel-
A Lesson
In Sacrifice ligence or a physical object) to manifest a greater good.
There are many ways to teach sacrifice. My satguru taught
sacrifice by cooking a great feast for several hundred people, which took
all day to prepare. Their mouths were watering. They had not eaten all
day, so as to prepare their bodies to receive this prasâda from the satguru.
The meal was scheduled to be served at high noon. But Satguru Yoga-
swami kept delaying, saying, “We have not yet reached the auspicious
moment. Let us sing some more bhajanas and Natchintanai. Be patient.”
At about 3PM, he said, “Before we can partake of our prasâda, I shall ask
eleven strong men here to dig a deep, square hole in the ground.” They
stepped forward and he indicated the spot where they should dig. Shov-
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els were obtained from homes nearby, and the digging commenced. All
waited patiently for his will to be fulfilled, the stomachs growling, the
mouths watering at the luscious fragrances of the hot curries, the rasam
and the freshly-boiled rice, five sweet-smelling curries, mango chutneys,
dal, yogurt and delicious sweet payasam. It was a real feast. ¶Finally, just
before dusk, the pit was completed, and the great saint indicated that it
was time to serve the food. “Come, children, surround this pit,” he said.
Two or three hundred people stepped forward and surrounded the ten-by-
ten-foot hole. Women and children were sitting in the front and the men
standing in the back, all wondering what he was going to say and hoping
he would not delay any longer with the feast. He said, “Now we shall serve
our prasâda.” He called forward two of the huskiest of the eleven men, the
strongest and biggest, and commanded, “Serve the rice. Bring the entire
pot.” It was a huge brass pot containing nearly 400 pounds of rice. By this
time, many had left, as they had been cooking all morning and singing
all afternoon. Only the most devout had remained to see the outcome.
When the day began, 1,000 had come. The preparations were for a very
big crowd. ¶Now he said, “Pour the rice in the middle of the pit.” Banana
leaves had been laid carefully at the bottom of the pit to form a giant serv-
ing plate. The crowd was aghast. “Pour it into the pit?” “Don’t hesitate,”
he commanded. Though stunned, the men obeyed Yogaswami without
question, dropping the huge mass of steaming rice onto the middle of the
banana leaves. He told one man, “Bring the eggplant curry!” To another
he said, “Go get the potato curry! We must make this a full and auspicious
offering.” ¶As all the curries were neatly placed around the rice, everyone
was wondering, “Are we to all eat together out of the pit? Is this what the
guru has in mind?” Then the kulambu sauce was poured over the middle
of the rice. Five pounds of salt was added on the side. Sweet mango and
ginger chutneys were placed in the proper way. One by one, each of the
luscious preparations was placed in the pit, much to the dismay of those
gathered.
After all the food had been served, the satguru stood up
Sunday and declared, “People, all of you, participate. Come for-
LESSON 63
ward.” They immediately thought, finishing his sentence
Giving Back to
Mother Earth in their minds, “to eat together this luscious meal you
have been waiting for all day as a family of ßishyas.” But
he had something else in mind, and directed, “Pick up the eleven shov-
els, shovel some dirt over this delicious meal and then pass your shovel
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on to the next person. We have fed our Mother Earth, who has given so
generously of her abundance all these many years to this large Íaivite
community. Now we are sacrificing our prasâda as a precious, heartfelt
gift. Mother Earth is hungry. She gets little back; we take all. Let this be
a symbol to the world and to each of us that we must sacrifice what we
want most.” ¶In this way, our satguru, Íiva Yogaswami, began the first
Earth worship ceremony in northern Sri Lanka. He taught a lesson of
tapas and sacrifice, of fasting and giving, and giving and fasting. By now
the hour was late, very late. After touching his feet and receiving the mark
of Íiva from him in the form of vibhûti, holy ash, on their forehead, the
devotees returned to their homes. It was too late to cook a hot meal, lest
the neighbors smell the smoke and know that mischief was afoot. We are
sure that a few, if not many, satisfied themselves with a few ripe bananas,
while pondering the singular lesson the satguru had taught. ¶Let’s worship
the Earth. It is a being—intelligent and always giving. Our physical bod-
ies are sustained by her abundance. When her abundance is withdrawn,
our physical bodies are no more. The ecology of this planet is an intricate
intelligence. Through sacrifice, which results in tapas and sâdhana, we
nurture Mother Earth’s goodwill, friendliness and sustenance. Instill in
yourself appreciation, recognition. We should not take advantage of all of
this generosity, as a predator does of those he preys upon. ¶Yes, austerities
are a vital part of all sects of Hinduism. They are a call of the soul to bring
the outer person into the perfection that the soul is now, has always been
and will always be. Austerities should be assigned by a guru, a swâmî or a
qualified elder of the community. One should submit to wise guidance,
because these sâdhanas, penances, tapas and sacrifices lift our conscious-
ness so that we can deal with, learn to live with, the perfection of the
self-luminous, radiant, eternal being of the soul within. Austerity is the
powerful bath of fire and bright rays of showering light that washes the
soul clean of the dross of its many past lives, and of the current life, which
have held it in the bondage of ignorance, misgiving, unforgivingness and
the self-perpetuating ignorance of the truths of the Sanâtana Dharma.
“As the intense fire of the furnace refines gold to brilliance, so does the
burning suffering of austerity purify the soul to resplendence” (Weaver’s
Wisdom/Tirukural, 267).
Brahmacharyam Pâtivratyam cha
b‰Âcaya*ma< paaitav‰tyama< ca

Celibacy and Fidelity

The brahmachârî moves, strengthening

both the worlds. In him the devas meet in
concord; he upholds Earth and Heaven.
Atharva Veda 11.5.1. avg, p. 55
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Every culture acknowledges the power of relationships

Monday between men and women and seeks to direct it toward
LESSON 64
the highest good, both for individuals and for society.
The Power
Of Purity The masculine and feminine forces, partly sexual but
more broadly tantric, can either create or destroy, bring
peace or contention, foster happiness or misery, depending on how con-
sciously they are understood and utilized. ¶Hindu ideals of manhood and
womanhood and their interaction are among the most subtle, insightful
and graceful in all the world. When followed, these principles strengthen
man and woman, sustain a joyous and balanced marriage, stabilize the
family and assist husband and wife in their mutual spiritual and worldly
goals. Of course, such high ideals are rarely followed to perfection. But
the soul’s inner perfection is naturally revealed in the attempt. ¶What
is religious life? It is the balance of two forces, the odic force and the
actinic force. In married life this means that there is a prevailing harmony
between the man and the woman. This guides and governs the inner cur-
rents of the children up until the age of twenty-five. For the single person
living a celibate life and performing sâdhana, this means balancing those
same forces—the masculine/aggressive force and the feminine/passive
force—within himself or herself. ¶Brahmacharya, the yoga of celibacy,
is a traditional practice in Íaivite Hinduism. It allows the adolescent or
young adult to use his vital energies to prepare for a rewarding life, to
develop his mind and talents for his chosen vocation. The first of the
four stages, or âßramas, of life is actually called the brahmacharya âßrama.
Love, including sex, is one of the legitimate four goals of life, according
to our religion. Sex is not bad. Its place, however, is properly within the
confines of a sanctified marriage. Nor are sex drives unnatural. The goal
of the brahmachârî and brahmachâri∫î is not to become fearful of sex, but
to understand sex and the sexual impulses in a balanced way. During the
time of brahmacharya, the goal is to control the sex urges and transmute
those vital energies into the brain to gain a great mental and spiritual
strength. Yes, this vital life force must be focused on studies and spiri-
tual pursuits. Brahmacharya maintained until marriage, and faithfulness
thereafter, helps enable the devotee to merit a good wife or husband, a
happy, stable marriage and secure, well-adjusted children. ¶The spiritual
Deep in an Indian forest a couple enjoy a private moment, their love and faithfulness to one an-
other framed by the private, protected and pristine forest. Among a lasting marriage’s strengths
are togetherness, dedication, mutual respect, honesty and shared spiritual goals.
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value of celibacy has long been understood in the Hindu tradition. Most
religions also provide a tradition of monastic life in which young men
take lifetime vows of celibacy. Many of our greatest spiritual lights were
celibate throughout their entire life, including Íiva Yogaswami, Sankara
and Swami Vivekananda. Others, such as Buddha, Gandhi and Aurobindo,
became celibate after a period of marriage. For the individual preparing
for monastic life, brahmacharya is essential in harnessing and transmuting
the powerful sexual life energies into spiritual and religious concerns.
It is said that when man first killed a kinsman, great
Tuesday strength came into the nerve system of the animal body
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Psychic
of all upon this planet. Normal seasonal cycles of mat-
Tubes ing turned into promiscuity. The population increased
and is increasing even now with this intensification of
ku∫∂alinî fire through the sexual nature of men and women. ¶Through
the ancient traditions of Íaivite monasticism, the inner laws of brahm-
acharya have been preserved down through the centuries to help guide
humanity through the Kali Yuga. This knowledge records the methods of
how to preserve the vital energy within the body of men and women so
that Íaivism, the remembrance of Íiva and His crystal clear ßakti, can be
passed through the darkness of the Kali Yuga in unbroken continuity. For
only through the power of the tapas of brahmacharya can His ßakti be
passed on from one to another until the individual’s ßakti finally accrues
enough intensity so that the brahmachârî becomes as Lord Íiva Himself.
¶It is when fear pervades a country or the planet that the impulses of the
animal nerve system cause desires for mating to intensify for the prolon-
gation of the species. During intercourse, the astral bodies of the man
and woman merge together, and conception may occur, as a person in
the Devaloka gains a body from the woman to enter this world. The con-
nection formed between a man and a woman during intercourse makes
a psychic, astral, umbilical-cord-like tube in the lower astral-plane world
which lasts for twelve years or more. Providing no other connection with
the same or other individual occurred in the meantime, the tube would
slowly wear away during the ensuing years. This is provided that, at the
same time, sâdhana or tapas is performed and regular pilgrimages and
visits to Íaivite temples are made. ¶Brahmacharya is holding the power
of the Divine within the core of the individual spine so that, as Lord Íiva
sends His power through the five great winds of the astral body within
the physical body, the winds adjust among themselves and emanate a
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ßakti strong enough to adjust the five great psychic fluids within every-
one around. This power of brahmacharya is accrued and disseminated
through sublimation, then transmutation, of the sexual force. Transmu-
tation occurs automatically through regular daily sâdhana, the rigors of
positive living and adherence to the ceremonial customs of our religion.
Ideally, brahmacharya begins at puberty for virgins and continues on until
marriage. Otherwise, brahmacharya sâdhana begins after the last sexual
encounter with a member of the opposite sex has occurred and when a
conscious decision is made to begin the practice of brahmacharya. ¶While
“in the process” of brahmacharya, those who have had sexual encounters
with one or more members of the opposite sex experience times of trial.
Great temptation may occur on the physical plane as the astral matter of
the animal nerve system and systems of fluids and odors that attract the
opposite sex store up in great abundance. This creates a magnetism which
attracts those of the opposite sex. Especially attracted will be those of a
similar nature and deportment as those of past encounters. ¶Each person
is born in a full state of brahmacharya. Upon reaching puberty, those boys
and girls who remain virgins maintain the inherent state of brahmacharya.
They are able to ward off, and may not even notice, many emotional and
sexual temptations that would be troublesome to the nonvirgin. This is
because the psychic shield surrounding the virgin’s aura has never been
penetrated. They are the ones “who walk in the rain without getting wet,
sit long in the sun without getting burned.” They are the ones for whom
reading about worldly experiences nurtures only their curiosity, whereas
had they established psychic tubular connections with a member of the
opposite sex, the reading would nurture a much deeper sexual desire. It is
the virgins performing brahmacharya sâdhana since puberty who can, if
they persist, live in “Brahm,” or God consciousness, most of the time, even
without performing intense sâdhanas. This is because they have never
consciously entered into worldly consciousness. Instead they look out
into it as if through a veil.
The force of ku∫∂alinî flows as a river through men and
Wednesday women. Sexual intercourse gives that river an outlet,
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creates a channel, a psychic-astral tube between their
Astral
Magnetism mûlâdhâra chakras. After the first intercourse, awareness
is turned outward into the external world and the man
or woman is more vulnerable to the forces of desire. The ramification of
the intellect can now be experienced more than ever before. If the force is
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contained within the marriage covenant, with blessings from the Devaloka
and Íivaloka, rays similar to the astral tube established between the cou-
ple are established between each of them through the higher chakras
with the Mahâdevas and their devas. A holy state of matrimony has been
entered into. Dancing with Íiva, Hinduism’s Contemporary Catechism
states: “When a young virgin man and woman marry and share physical
intimacy with each other, their union is very strong and their marriage
stable. This is due to the subtle, psychic forces of the human nerve system.
Their psychic forces, or nâ∂îs, grow together, and they form a one body
and a one mind. This is the truest marriage and the strongest, seldom
ending in separation or divorce. Conversely, if the man or woman has had
intercourse before the marriage, the emotional/psychic closeness of the
marriage will suffer, and this in proportion to the extent of promiscuity.”
¶The higher rays and lower astral-psychic tubes that are created between
husband and wife can contain the forces of desire within them. They also
control the instinctive curiosities of the intellect, allowing its full power to
manifest and create a productive and abundant life for the family which
has continuity and consistency. A life of dharma can be lived. ¶The release
of the sacred seed into the woman during sexual intercourse establishes,
through the first chakra, a connecting psychic astral tube which can be
clearly seen on the astral plane. It is through this psychic tube that desires,
feelings and even telepathic messages can be passed from one to another.
This connecting tube is generally about six inches in diameter. ¶Nowadays,
because of promiscuity, masses of people are connected one to another
in this way. A great bed of astral matter envelops them as they go from
one partner to another. This causes the forces of intense fear to persist.
From an inner perspective, their soul bodies are obscured by this astral
matter, and it is most difficult for those living in the Devaloka to contact
anyone on the Earth plane who is thus involved. Such individuals must
fend for themselves, with little or no protection from the Devaloka or
the Íivaloka, as do the animals, who do not have benefit of the intellect
to guide their actions. ¶Any two people touching in other ways—kissing,
embracing—also establishes a temporary connecting link of astral mat-
ter which penetrates their auras and completely covers their forms. This
is sometimes called the great magnetism, for it appears in the Second
World as a psychic mass connecting the two of them as wide as the length
of their bodies. This astral matter is created from the diverse expulsion of
emotional energies, blending their auras together. The psychic connec-
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tion is magnetic enough to repeatedly pull them back together or cause

emotional pain if they are separated. But unless the encounter is repeated,
the astral matter will wear away in three or four days, a month at the most.
In this way, touching or caressing someone causes an abundant release of
magnetic force to occur.
It is the brahmachârî’s duty to be the channel of the
Thursday three worlds. In this way he can help stabilize humanity
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through the Kali Yuga so that the forces of promiscu-
The Path
To Perfection ous desire do not blot out our culture, creativity and all
connection with the Íivaloka. This is why the sâdhana
of brahmacharya is so extremely important for each unmarried Íaivite to
understand and observe. ¶As a brahmachârî or brahmachâri∫î, you must
endeavor to hold the force of the Íivaloka and the Devaloka in line with
the higher forces of the Bhûloka, the Earth plane. This happens natu-
rally through the transmutation process and living a contemplative life.
Regular personal sâdhana and noninvolvement in the emotional nature of
others is the practice to be observed. ¶A great aid to the accomplishment
of this is to invoke Lord Íiva daily. Then the higher chakras open within
your psychic body. Peace of mind comes unbidden, and bliss flows forth
from your aura for all to feel. Regular pûjâ invoking the assistance of Lord
Murugan will also greatly aid in a premature banishing of connections
with the external world and in severing the tubular connections with
inhabitants in it. When Lord Murugan is reached through your pûjâ, He
will also give wisdom and the divine understanding of the transmutation
process. ¶An occasional loss of the reproductive fluids does not “break”
or interrupt brahmacharya sâdhana, though this should be avoided and
is minimal when the brahmacharya sâdhana takes hold. If one does have
a “wet dream,” this should not cause undue concern. Rather, this should
be regarded as simply the natural release of excess energy, of which the
vitality, or prâ∫a, goes up into the higher chakras as the physical fluid
goes out. This does not happen during masturbation. ¶Those who have
resolved to follow the path of brahmacharya, but are troubled by sexual
fantasies and nightly encounters during their dream state, should not
despair. These are simply indications that their creative energies are not
being used to capacity. The brahmachârî or brahmachâri∫î should simul-
taneously resolve to work more diligently in guiding the flow of thought
through the day. They should work harder, mentally and physically, get up
early in the morning and do sâdhana, go to bed early and seek the more
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refined areas of consciousness during the dream states. How can you seek
these more refined areas during sleep? This is done through chanting and
meditating before going to sleep, and through praying for guidance from
Lord Ga∫eßa. ¶There is a simple remedy or penance, self imposed, that
we recommend for one who indulges briefly in a sexual fantasy: to have
just rice and dal for lunch, rather than a full meal. If he indulges longer in
such fantasies, he fasts for that meal with his empty plate before him to
remind him of the need to control his inner forces. The instinctive mind
will eventually get the idea that if you persist in these visualizations in
moments of careless fascination you don’t get to eat. And what’s more
important?
It is only sexual intercourse between a man and a woman
Friday that breaks brahmacharya sâdhana, causing an astral
LESSON 68
umbilical-like psychic cord about six to twelve inches
Psychic Ties
With Parents wide to form in the inner ether between them. It is within
this psychic tube that the forces of energy and desire
flow from one to another. These are the same forces between mother and
father which culminate in the birth of a child and surround and protect
him or her through earthly consciousness until age twenty-five. The psy-
chic connection between mother and father emotionally stabilizes all chil-
dren of the family. But if there are other tubes involved due to pre-marital
promiscuity, or new ones being created with members of the opposite
sex outside of the marriage, the children suffer emotionally while grow-
ing up. The unleashed forces of instinctiveness may often cause them to
be disturbed or frustrated. ¶As a child grows to maturity, he gradually
detaches himself, year by year, from the connection between his father
and mother. The detachment is complete by the age of twenty-five. But if
the son, or daughter, develops a psychic, astral tube with a member of the
opposite sex before this age, he disconnects from his father and mother
immediately at that point. From that time onward he no longer relates
to them in the same way as he once did. Through the sexual act, he now
has “left home” and entered the world. The mother and father can feel
the difference, and so can the son. ¶Virgins also have strong temptations
with the opposite sex from time to time, especially if they meet former
spouses from past lives. Unless a strict understanding of brahmacharya
is observed, these encounters with past-life lovers may move their fluids
and emotions to the point of intercourse. All parents should explain to
their children at an early age the importance of remaining virgin until
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married. They must be taught that the elations and the depressions that
follow from disciplining oneself are a part of life on this planet. They
can be gently but firmly taught the practice of mentally and physically
“walking away” from temptation. ¶Learning to walk away from a situation
in dignity is more effective than almost anything else in protecting the
brahmachârî and the brahmachâri∫î from the overpowering temptation to
allow their sacred power to flow out to those of the opposite sex. Walking
away from temptation, mentally, emotionally and physically, is so easy to
remember, so easy to practice. Teach it to the children. Practice it yourself.
And through the grace of Lord Íiva a new generation of knowledgeable
people will walk the path to His holy feet.
Brahmacharya literally means Godly conduct, which
Saturday in practice and by tradition means celibacy, complete
LESSON 69
abstinence from sexual relations. Brahmacharya is prac-
Redirecting
Sexual Desire ticed traditionally by: 1) monastics; 2) young persons
living at home with parents prior to entering marriage
or a monastery; 3) single persons living alone in the world; and 4) mar-
ried couples who observe celibacy in later life, generally after age sixty. In
our traditional and strict organization, the formal title brahmachârî (or
brahmachâri∫î) is used only by single men (or women) who have taken
lifetime vows of celibacy under the auspices of our Íaivite Hindu Church.
¶To aid in fulfilling the principles of purity, the devotee commencing this
discipline is encouraged to take a vow of celibacy and purity, known as
brahmacharya vrata. In fulfillment of this solemn oath, the individual
vows to value and protect purity in thought, word and deed, and chas-
tity in body, and to sublimate and transmute the sexual energies and the
instinctive impulses of anger, jealousy, greed, fear, hatred and selfishness.
In our Hindu Church, all young persons take such a pledge and promise
to remain virgin until such time as they are married, preferably to another
Íaivite Hindu by arrangement of the parents of both families and with
the blessings of the satguru. The sacred cord is worn around the waist
to betoken this solemn oath. The formal study of the Íaivite religious
teachings is begun under an authorized catalyst and with the supervision
of parents. The parents share in his oath and accept full responsibility
to see that it is fulfilled. As the fourth yama, or restraint, brahmacharya
is emulated in married life in the sense of fidelity, confining all sexual
thoughts and expressions to one’s spouse. ¶Brahmacharya is transmu-
tation—the changing of a grosser form or force into a finer one. It can
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be likened to the boiling of water into steam to give a greater power. As

the fluids are reabsorbed by the bloodstream, the actinic force of them
feeds each of the seven chakras in turn. The Tirumantiram states, “If the
sacred seed is retained, the body’s life does not ebb, and great strength,
energy, intelligence and alertness are attained” (1948). Transmutation of
the sacred fluids does not mean to suppress, repress or inhibit. ¶Just lift
your arm. It took energy to lift it. If you were tired, it took even more
energy than usual. This energy does not come from a power plant outside
you. It comes from within you, of course. Your stamina, the actinic glow
in your eyes, the radiance of your personality—these are all manifesta-
tions of energy, of your creative life force. And so are the male and female
reproductive fluids. They comprise aggressive and passive forces drawn
from the piˆgalâ and the i∂â currents within the soul body. They are
sparked with pure spiritual force from the door of Brahman, at the core of
the sahasrâra chakra. When correctly channeled, the subtler forms of this
creative energy are the essence of artistic, intellectual and spiritual expres-
sion. Those who practice transmutation awaken many latent talents from
within. It becomes second nature for them to create and express, being in
tune with the essence of creative energy.
The goal of perfect brahmacharya is the continual re-
Sunday channeling of sexual desire. This is also the practice, for
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one does not suddenly reach a point where desire goes
Inner-Plane
Education away. Desire is life. Desire can be directed according to
the personal will. Living life according to basic spiritual
principles is your sâdhana. Through sâdhana you can gain mastery over
all the forces of your mind and body. As man leaves his instinctive-intel-
lectual nature and unfolds spiritually, the forces of that nature must be
brought under his conscious control. ¶We hope that you have been able
to set aside half an hour a day, or at least fifteen minutes, for the study of
these lessons. If not, don’t be discouraged. Keep trying. If nothing more,
please try to read a little from your daily lesson each night before you
retire to sleep. These holy teachings will then draw you naturally into the
more spiritual areas of the Devaloka while you sleep. Many inner-plane
people are there to help you. You are not alone in your study and desire
for spiritual unfoldment. It is known by all mystically minded people that
“As we think, so we become.” Thinking of the great Mahâdevas and Deities
of high evolution stimulates our own evolution. Our spiritual unfold-
ment is hastened. ¶Each night you are taught many wonderful things
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on the inner plane during sleep. You may not realize this upon awaken-
ing or even remember what you have learned. This is because the astral
brain functions at a much higher rate of vibration than the physical brain.
Most nights, you probably spend several hours learning from gurus and
guides in Íaivite schools within the spiritual areas of the Devaloka, the
astral world. Sometimes dozens, even hundreds, of devotees with similar
interests gather together to learn. They are all in their astral bodies, on the
astral plane, while their physical bodies are asleep. When one is firm in the
practice of brahmacharya, it is possible to remain for long periods of time
in inner-plane schools and absorb much more of the teaching being given
there. Those who are not strong in brahmacharya are often seen appear-
ing and then disappearing from among the group as they are drawn back
to their physical bodies by emotions and desires. ¶Remember, your own
soul knows the reasons why you were born in this life. It knows what you
need to accomplish in this birth. As a soul, you know what obstacles and
challenges you need to face and overcome to grow stronger and conquer
past karmic patterns through fulfilling your chosen dharma. These and
other matters are examined by you and your teachers in the Devaloka
schools while your physical body sleeps. The more fully established you
are in bramacharya, the more religious you become and the more able to
face the world with a positive mental attitude.
Íârîrika Mânasika Râgâtmaka Åhâra
xaarIirk[ maanaisak[ ragaatmak[ Aahar

Physical, Mental,
Emotional Foods

When nourishment is pure, nature is pure. When nature

is pure, memory becomes firm. When memory remains
firm, there is release from all knots of the heart.
Sâma Veda, Çhândogya Upanishad, 7.26.2. upr, p. 489.
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Each day that we live, we are striving for the middle

Monday
LESSON 71
path, the balanced life, the existence which finds its
Examining strength beyond joy and sorrow, beyond pleasure and
Your Total Diet pain, beyond light and darkness. But in order to arrive
at this state of contemplative awareness, we must begin
at the beginning, and this week our study is diet: physical, mental and
emotional foods. According to the ancient science of âyurveda, nature is a
primordial force of life composed in three modes, qualities or principles
of manifestation called gu∫as, meaning “strands” or “qualities.” The three
gu∫as are: sattva, “beingness;” rajas, “dynamism;” and tamas, “darkness.”
Sattva is tranquil energy, rajas is active energy and tamas is energy that
is inert. The nature of sattva is quiescent, rarefied, translucent, perva-
sive. The nature of rajas is movement, action, emotion. The nature of
tamas is inertia, denseness, contraction, resistance and dissolution. The
tamasic tendency is descending, odic and instinctive. The rajasic tendency
is expanding, actinodic, intellectual. The sattvic tendency is ascending,
actinic, superconscious. The three gu∫as are not separate entities, but var-
ied dimensions or frequencies of the single, essential life force. ¶The food
we eat has one or more of these qualities of energy and affects our mind,
body and emotions accordingly. Hence, what we eat is important. Sattvic
food is especially good for a contemplative life. ¶Tamasic foods include
heavy meats, and foods that are spoiled, treated, processed or refined to
the point where the natural values are no longer present. Tamasic foods
make the mind dull; they tend to build up the basic odic energies of the
body and the instinctive subconscious mind. Tamasic foods also imbue
the astral body with heavy, odic force. ¶Rajasic foods include hot or spicy
foods, spices and stimulants. These increase the odic heat of the physi-
cal and astral bodies and stimulate physical and mental activity. Sattvic
foods include whole grains and legumes and fresh fruits and vegetables
that grow above the ground. These foods help refine the astral and physi-
cal bodies, allowing the actinic, superconscious flow to permeate and
invigorate the entire being. ¶People who are unfolding on the yoga path
manifest the sattvic nature. Their path is one of peace and serenity. The
rajasic nature is restless and manifests itself in physical and intellectual
activities. It is predominant in the spirit of nationalism, sports and busi-
At a roadside market in India a typical merchant is selling fresh fruits, vegetables and grains
from a simple cart. He stocks no preserved or packaged foods, but provides only fresh, whole-
some fare which he gets that same day from farmers tending fields nearby.
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ness competition, law enforcement and armed forces and other forms of
aggressive activity. The tamasic nature is dull, fearful and heavy. It is the
instinctive mind in its negative state and leads to laziness, habitual liv-
ing, physical and mental inertia. As it is by cultivating the rajasic nature
that tamas is overcome, so it is by evolving into the pure sattvic nature
that the continual ramification of rajas is transcended. It is important to
maintain a balance of our several natures, but to attain toward the expres-
sion of the rajasic and sattvic natures in as great a degree as possible. ¶As
you examine a menu closely, you will find that you may allow your inner
guidance to tell you what is most appropriate to eat. The desire body of
the conscious mind may want one type of food, but the inner body of the
subsuperconscious may realize another is better for you. It is up to you
to make the decision that will allow a creative balance in your diet. This
awakens the inner willpower, that strength from within that gives the
capacity for discrimination.
I call our diet “nutrition for meditation.” We watch what
Tuesday we eat. Each type of food taken into the body tends to
LESSON 72
make us aware in one or another area of the nerve system.
Moderation Is
The Keynote When we eat gross food, we become aware in the gross
area of the nerve system, and less aware in the refined
area of the nerve system. When we eat refined foods, such as fruit and
vegetables that grow above the ground and absorb sunlight, this then
makes us aware in the refined areas of the nerve system. When we are
aware in the gross areas of the nerve system, over time the cells of the
physical body begin to reflect this and cause the body to become gross in
appearance. When we are aware in the refined areas of the inner nerve sys-
tem predominantly—the psychic nerve system, the superconscious nerve
system—the cells of the body also respond and we begin to look more
refined. Therefore, âyurvedic nutrition for meditation and the practice
of ha†ha yoga âsanas are an aid in refining the physical body by allowing
awareness to travel through the perceptive areas of the nerve system that
are inner, refined and blissful. ¶However, we do not want to put too much
emphasis on the consciousness of food, lest our entire nature become
wrapped up in our stomach, and our subconscious and its astral body
constantly involved in eating. To allow this would not only be detrimental
to our own diet, but it would be an unnecessary disturbance as well to
those about us, since we would be held in a strange emotional mold. ¶In
deciding what foods you will buy and eat, listen to the voice of your intu-
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ition, which knows best what your current physical body needs are. It is
possible that your forces might become too sattvic, too delicately refined,
for the kind of activity and responsibilities you are engaged in. If this is
the case, perhaps you should have a little rajasic food for balance. Likewise,
you may become overstimulated from time to time through eating spicy
foods, or foods with too high a concentration of sugar. In this case, you
may need more fruits in your diet to raise the vibratory rate of your physi-
cal and astral bodies. Should your inner consciousness tell you that you
are too rajasic, refrain from eating tamasic foods, those with lower rates
of vibration. Eat more of the foods that grow naturally above the ground.
¶Of course, we have an emotional diet as well. Emotion is a condition or
color of the mind. Emotions will always be with us as long as we have a
physical body, but there is a difference between having emotion and being
emotional. We have to balance our emotional activity. Our entertainment,
our cultural pursuits, our social activities should be balanced and blended
with everything else that we are doing. It would be a good idea to plan an
entire month’s emotional diet along with your physical diet. Decide ahead
of time what music you wish to hear, what plays, movies or concerts to
attend. Think of your reading, the people you plan to be with, the travel-
ing that may be involved. Make a list of those things which you conceive
to be beneficial to your emotional diet, but proceed along the middle path,
not too much to one side, not too much to the other. Look for a balanced
emotional color in your life.
Have you ever given thought to the diet of your mind? Of
Wednesday course, our physical diet and our emotional diet are also
LESSON 73
diets of the mind, because they affect our consciousness.
Choosing Your
Mental Diet But let’s now consider the intellectual processes. How
much information, how many facts is it necessary and
healthy for us to ingest in a single day? It’s a good idea for a devotee to
budget his reading, to choose and discriminate what he wants to make
a part of himself through the process of mental digestion. We have to
discriminate to the nth degree whether or not we will have the time and
the capacity to digest everything that we desire to place in our minds.
For instance, quickly reading an article in a newspaper might stir your
mind and emotions. If it is not properly digested, it could conceivably
upset your whole day. In the realm of intellect, the commonsense rule
“Don’t eat when you are already full” also applies. ¶You may read a book
of philosophy, and if you have time to digest it, well and good, but many
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people don’t and suffer from philosophical indigestion. They have read
so many things and only digested a small part of what has passed through
the window of the mind. Then again, it is one thing to digest something,
and it is still another to assimilate it and make it a part of you, for when it
becomes fully a part of you, you have a hunger and room for something
more. ¶Many people come to lectures and then tune themselves out and
simply benefit from the vibration created by the teacher and others in
the room. They tune themselves out so that what is said is not absorbed
consciously, but rather subconsciously. This is a good method for those
who are still digesting material received from previous lectures. Another
practice that makes for a very good mental indigestion pill is that of open-
ing a spiritual book and allowing your eye to fall upon a random sentence
on the page. Often you will find it will accent ideas that you are currently
concerned with. ¶Just as you would participate in a seminar, gaining from
the interpersonal relationships, so can you learn from the intrapersonal
relationship established between your perceptive state of mind and the
conscious and subconscious states of mind. When you awaken to the
point where your inner mind teaches your personality, you are involving
yourself in the “innerversity” of your own being. But this will not occur
until you have balanced your physical and emotional bodies to the point
where they are functioning at a slightly higher rate of vibration. ¶Add to
your contemplative lifestyle a hobby or craft. Working creatively with your
hands, taking physical substance and turning it into something different,
new and beautiful is important in remolding the subconscious mind. It
is also symbolic. You are remolding something on the physical plane and
by doing so educating yourself in the process of changing the appearance
of a physical structure, thus making it easier to change the more subtle
mental and emotional structures within your own subconscious mind.
Energy, willpower and concentrated awareness are needed for both types
of accomplishments—hard work, concentration and concerted effort to
produce an effective and useful change in either the physical substance or
the mental substance.
Observe your life objectively for a minute and decide
Thursday how much of a working balance actually exists between
LESSON 74
your physical, emotional, mental and actinic aspects.
Balance and
Discrimination Know that you have the power to begin to readjust this
balance if you find you are taking in too much “food” at
one time or another. Apply the concept of diet to all the areas of your life.
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Every experience that we ingest is going to produce its own reaction. In

surveying our own internal balance of tamasic, rajasic and sattvic tenden-
cies, we need to apply the power of discrimination so that everything we
take into our mind and body can be easily and harmoniously digested
and assimilated. Life becomes more beautiful in this way, and we become
the master of our forces, because we have given the guiding power of our
lives to actinic will. But no diet is of much value to anyone unless it can be
consistently applied through the power of decision. ¶Life becomes overly
complicated, a series of self-created and unnecessary involvements, when
we live too much in the tamasic and rajasic natures. It is necessary to slow
down the activity of everyday life by entering into sattvic awareness as a
matter of practice. Life is tiring and overactive in the conscious, physical
plane when it is not balanced and tempered by the sattvic nature. The
greater the sattvic activity, the greater the activity of the spiritual being
that man is. ¶Here is an internal concentration exercise. Allow the activity
of your brain to relax. Let the muscles of your body relax. Let your eyes
relax and easily shut. Visualize in your mind’s eye a menu with three pan-
els. On the left panel of the menu are all the prepared and cooked foods
of the tamasic nature, which are instinctive, heavy and often indigestible.
These are the foods which would satisfy the purely instinctive man. In
the middle panel are the rajasic foods, such as spices, garlic and onions,
which provide physical energy and stimulation. On the right panel of
the menu are the sattvic foods, such as fruits, vegetables, grains and nuts,
which calm, balance and prepare the body to hold the actinic vibration of
a higher consciousness. Let’s examine the three parts of this menu and see
where our consciousness is guided from within. ¶Let us visualize another
menu now—which is the menu of our emotional diet. On the left panel
are the instinctive, sensual pleasures of the moment and the more raucous
forms of entertainment. On the middle panel are the routine emotional
experiences of everyday life with family, friends and work associates. On
the right panel are high cultural and artistic expressions. Fill in your own
list of specifics and see where your consciousness leads you. ¶Visualize
now another menu in three panels. On the left side of this menu are books,
magazines, newspapers or websites that lead us into our tamasic, instinc-
tive nature, be they novels, stories, articles or Hollywood exposes. On the
middle panel are those intellectual studies, items of current interests and
news which stimulate our rajasic mind and therefore require the close use
of discrimination. At certain times, some of these readings might offer just
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the required understanding and intellectual clarity to elucidate important

areas of your conscious-mind existence. ¶On the right side of this menu
are the sattvic writings and studies, the scriptures of East and West, the
great philosophical ideas of Socrates or Emerson, the dissertations of Plo-
tinus or Kant, the sayings of Lao-tzu and Confucius, Tiruvalluvar or the
Upanishads, Adi Sankara, Ramakrishna or Gibran. Compose your own list
and then balance out your mental diet by studying this menu from your
inner consciousness.
It is wise to have a free mind, a clear, serene and relaxed
Friday attitude toward life before partaking of food. That is why
LESSON 75
people on the inner path traditionally meditate for a
Diet and
Consciousness moment, chant a mantra or say a prayer before a meal. A
simple practice is to intone “Aum.” This harmonizes the
inner bodies with the external bodies and frees awareness from entangled
areas. If you find yourself in a situation where you cannot chant Aum
aloud, then chant it mentally. Take several seconds before you begin your
meal to recenter yourself in this way. You will find that your food profits
you very well. There are many traditional Hindu âyurvedic guidelines for
eating. A few rules that we have found especially important include giv-
ing thanks in a sacred prayer before meals; eating in a settled atmosphere,
never when upset, always sitting down and only when hungry; avoiding
ice-cold food and drink; not talking while chewing; eating at a moder-
ate pace and never between meals; sipping warm water with meals; eat-
ing freshly cooked foods whenever possible; minimizing raw vegetables;
avoiding white flour and refined sugar; not cooking with honey; drinking
milk separately from meals; including a balance of protein and carbo-
hydrates in all meals; cooking with ghee or olive oil only; experiencing
all six tastes at least at the main meal (sweet, sour, pungent, astringent,
bitter and salty); not overeating, leaving one-third to one-quarter of the
stomach empty to aid digestion; and sitting quietly for a few minutes after
meals. I might add that ginger root is a magical potion. Our âyurvedic
doctor has taught us, and experience confirms, that fresh ginger can settle
your stomach, relieve a headache, help you sleep if you are restless and
keep the agni, fires of digestion, strong, especially while traveling. Grate
two inches of fresh ginger, then hold the mash in your hand, add slowly
an ounce of warm water and squeeze the juice into a glass. Repeat three
times. Drink this extract fifteen or twenty minutes before meals. It is also
quite necessary to drink at least eight glasses of water each day. Inad-
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equate water intake results in dehydration, giving rise to many common

ailments. ¶Let us realize this law in our consciousness: we don’t want to
place anything into our physical, emotional or mental being that cannot
be digested, assimilated and used to the best advantage in giving birth to
our highest consciousness. Let every second be a second of discrimination.
Let every minute be a minute of realization. Let every hour be an hour
of fulfillment. Let every day be a day of blessing, and every week a week
of joy. Then, in a month’s time, look at the foundation that you have laid
for those who will follow you. Let the past fade into the dream that it is. It
is only experience, to be understood as such in the “now.” In keeping life
simple through our powers of discrimination, we give our greatest gift to
community, loved ones, country and the world, because we are beginning
to vibrate in the superconscious realms of the mind. Your very presence is
a blessing when you live in the eternal now, in full command of your life’s
diet through the process of discrimination.
Television provides so much of the mental diet of so
Saturday many people today that it deserves special attention, lest
LESSON 76
it become a deterrent to a balanced, contemplative life.
Restraining
Television Television at its best is the extension of storytelling. We
used to sit around and tell stories. The best storyteller,
who could paint pictures in people’s minds, was the most popular per-
son in town. Television is also the extension of the little theater, and as
soon as it became popular, the little theater groups all over the country
became unemployed. It is the extension of the stand-up comedian, of
vaudeville, drama, opera, ballet, all of which have suffered since television
has become a popular mode of entertainment. In every country, at every
point in time, humans have sat down and been entertained, and entertain-
ers have stood up and entertained them. ¶Today, television has become
an instrument to convey knowledge and bring the world together, set
new standards of living, language, styles of dress and hair, ways of walk-
ing, ways of standing, attitudes about people, ethics, morality, political
systems, religions and all sorts of other things, from ecology to pornogra-
phy. This vast facility unifies the thinking—and thus the actions—of the
peoples of the world. Today, at the flick of a finger with the magic wand,
one can change the mental flow and emotional experience of everyone
watching for the entire evening. ¶Íaivites know that our karmas are forces
we send out from ourselves—creative forces, preserving forces, destroy-
ing forces, and a mixture of either two or the three—and they usually
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come back to us through other people or groups of people. Television has

afforded us the ability to work through our karmas more quickly than we
could in the agricultural age. On TV, the “other people” who play our past
experiences back to us, for us to understand in hindsight, are actors and
actresses, newscasters and the people in the news they broadcast. Íaivites
know nothing can happen, physically, mentally or emotionally, but that it
is seeded in our prârabdha karmas, the action-reaction patterns brought
with us to this birth. Therefore, on the positive side, we look at television
as a tool for karmic cleansing. ¶Íaivites know that the object of life is to
go through our experiences joyously and kindly, always forgiving and
compassionately understanding, thus avoiding making unseemly kriya-
mâna karmas in the current life which, if enough were accumulated and
added to the karmas we did not bring into this life, would bring us back
into another birth, and the process would start all over again. The great
boon that television has given humanity, which is especially appreciated
by Íaivites, is that we can soften our prârabdha karmas very quickly by
analyzing, forgiving and compassionately understanding the happenings
on the screen, as our past is portrayed before us, and as we work with
our nerve system, which laughs and cries, resents, reacts to and avoids
experiences on the TV. ¶Television can be very entertaining and helpful,
or it can be insidiously detrimental, depending on how it is used. There-
fore, fortify your mind with a thorough understanding of what you are
watching. Television works on the subconscious mind. This is an area of
the mind which we are not usually conscious of when it is functioning,
but it is functioning nevertheless, constantly, twenty-four hours a day.
Television works strongly on the subconscious minds of children. If they
watch TV for long periods of time, they begin to think exactly as the pro-
grammers want them to think. Responsible parents have to choose just
what goes into their children’s minds, as well as into their own minds. It
is advisable to prerecord the shows you wish to watch, avoiding sexual
scenes, obscene language and excessive violence; and even then be ready
to fast-forward through inappropriate scenes that are found today even
on PG-rated programs.
Astrology explores the stars and planets as they move
Sunday in the heavens and their subtle effects on our physical,
LESSON 77
mental and emotional condition, mapping the ebb and
Insights from
Astrology flow of our karma. Astrology plays a very important part
in every Hindu’s life. An established family is not com-
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plete without their master of jyotisha. Guided by the stars from birth to
death, devout Hindus choose a ßubha muhûrta, auspicious time, for every
important experience of life. Astrology has been computerized through
the efforts of brilliant jyotisha ßâstris of both the East and West. In our
âßrama, we use jyotisha quite a lot to determine the best times to travel,
meditate, begin new projects or just rest and let a harsh time pass. Expe-
rience assures us that astrology is a reliable tool for maintaining a bal-
anced life and flowing with the forces of nature. ¶We take a metaphysical
approach to the “good” or “bad” news or predictions that astrology brings
from time to time. When unfavorable times arise which have to be lived
through, as they all too frequently do, we do not carp or cringe, but look
at these as most excellent periods for meditation and sâdhana rather than
worldly activities. Just the reverse is true for the positive periods. However,
spiritual progress can be made during both kinds of periods. Both nega-
tive and positive times are, in fact, positive when used wisely. A competent
jyotisha ßâstrî is of help in forecasting the future, as to when propitious
times will come along when advancements can be made. A positive men-
tal attitude should be held during all the ups and downs that are predicted
to happen. Be as the traveler in a 747 jet, flying high over the cities, rather
than a pedestrian wandering the streets below. ¶For raising offspring, an
astrological forecast can be of the utmost help. A baby predicted to have
a fiery temper should be raised to always be kind and considerate of oth-
ers’ feelings, taught to never argue with others. Of course, good examples
must be set early on by parents. This will soften the inclination toward
temper tantrums. Fighting the child’s natural impulses will just amplify
them. A child of an independent nature should be taught early on to care
for himself in all respects so that in the life ahead he will benefit society
and bring honor to the family. So much can be gained by reading the
chart when approached with the attitude that all that is in it is helpful
and necessary to know, even if it seems to be bad news. Difficulties need
not be bad news if they are approached as opportunities to grow in facing
them. ¶We have for years in our monasteries lived by the Hindu calen-
dar and system of time divisions known as Lahiri Ayanâμßa Pañchânga.
All pûr∫imâ, amavâsya and ash†ami days (full moon, new moon and the
eighth day of the fortnight) are days of retreat. They are our weekends. To
be in harmony with the universe, at least our little galaxy, it is important
to observe these days for happy, healthy, productive living.
 Râsâyanika Avyavasthâ
rasaayainak[ AvyavasTaa

Chemical Chaos

If I totter along, O wielder of thunder, like a

puffed-up wineskin, forgive, Lord, have mercy!
If by ill chance in the dullness of my wits I went
straying, O Holy One, forgive, Lord, have mercy!
Âig Veda 7.89.2-3. ve, p. 517
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In the early ’60s I became conscious that more and more

Monday of the people who came to me for counseling wanted
LESSON 78
to talk over aspects of their experience in higher states
Chemical
Consciousness of the mind, states of the mind that had been opened
through psychedelic experience. Their interest was in
relating these experiences to yoga and the consciousness attained through
meditation. These people were highly enthusiastic about their new world,
for it seemed like sort of a canned meditation, something they could get
very quickly without entering into the sometimes tedious yoga training
that may take years to open the individual to the within of himself. Peo-
ple all over the nation now are becoming awakened to the world within.
¶Around the same time, we had a seminar in San Diego attended by many
seekers and LSD users. It seemed to us that the LSD people are almost like
a new race, a race of people that have been reborn in bodies that already
existed. Those who use psychedelics are different in many respects from
those who have had no psychedelic experience. Their feelings are dif-
ferent. Their relationships are different. They are closer to some people,
but at the same time they have created a gap between themselves and
society. It is a gap of loneliness, because the breach between the inner
consciousness and the external world has become so great that they have
only themselves to depend upon. The degree of success of this depen-
dence is another story, which brings us into the subject of yoga. We can-
not say that the psychedelic experience in itself is either good or bad. It
is enough to say that it is an experience that has occurred to thousands
of people. ¶These ideas I am sharing with you are not so much for the
psychedelic people as for those who have not had the psychedelic experi-
ence. I do not encourage you to go through it. Rather, I would encourage
you to continue with the slower process of yoga. But I want to awaken
you to the fact that there is this new group of people living with us. Their
approach to life is entirely different from the one which you may have.
Their perception generally is entirely different. Some of these people can
look into your mind and even read your thoughts. Those who have not
had psychedelic experiences will have to learn to adjust to the psyche-
delic consciousness. Likewise, those who use these drugs, if they ever stop,
will have to learn to adjust their thinking again to the normal conscious-
At the end of the day, two businessmen discuss matters of mutual interest while enjoying a glass
of wine. They know the wisdom of indulging in beer and wine in moderation and avoiding the
harder liquors and all drugs of abuse.
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plane way of doing things. ¶I believe that the gap which has been created
between “turned on people” and “turned off people” can best be bridged
through meditation, gaining control of the mind so that the individual
can become master of himself. When you become master of yourself, you
truly stand alone in completeness, not in loneliness. In doing so, you are
able to bring forth knowledge and wisdom from yourself through the
process of meditation, through being able to sit down and think through
a problem, ultimately seeing it in full, superconscious perspective and
bring forth an answer, a workable answer filled with life. Meditation is a
dynamic process. It is much more than just sitting around and waiting. It
creates a highly individualistic type of mind.
There are young souls in this world, and there are old
Tuesday souls. The young soul shows you how you can’t do
LESSON 79
something. The old soul shows you how you can. But a
Young and
Old Souls young soul can evolve in this very life in the same way
that a weak, skinny man can go to a gym and become
a husky bundle of muscle. ¶Spiritual unfoldment and the growth and
development of the subtle nerve system are the same thing. Most of us
are familiar with the structure of the body’s muscles, but how many of
you are familiar with your nerve fibers? The life force flows through you
along these nerve channels in a degree directly proportionate to the con-
dition of your mind. We call this actinic force or cosmic force. This actinic
force flowing out into the muscle and skin structure produces prâ∫a, or
magnetism. The magnetic force in nature we call odic force. Have you
ever had somebody suddenly call you up and say, “Come on, let’s go to a
party,” when you feel tired and lacking in energy, and suddenly your ner-
vous system floods a new force through you, rejuvenating your magnetic
response? This is an involuntary response, a subsuperconscious release
of actinic force. ¶The nervous system in a young soul is, shall we say,
immature. The many, many incarnational experiences of the old soul have
instilled in the subtle nervous system a strength of fiber, a spiritual matu-
ration. Therefore, the older soul entering into meditation can sustain the
force and unfoldment that one meditation carries over into another. This
process is a steady building, an opening up, until finally, in a contem-
plative moment of cosmic consciousness, one opens to Self Realization,
beyond the experience of the mind, and is able to sustain it because the
nerve structure is very powerful. ¶So, this is the unfortunate aspect of psy-
chedelic experience as I see it. It is especially damaging to the young soul
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and leads the older soul off track. If the individual taking LSD or some
other psychotropic drug is an old soul, it has perhaps awakened him so
that he is able to face the new situation of his consciousness with intel-
ligence. But the reaction inhibits further spiritual unfoldments because
lower chakras are wrenched open, causing severe mood swings. In the case
of the young soul, he has not yet developed the nerve fiber to adjust to the
awakening, to the intensity of the psychedelic experience, and his mind
very often “turns off.” ¶I have interviewed seekers who have had a few
psychedelic experiences and have come through them more vibrant, more
alive, and more ready to face the challenges of a new world. I have met
others who only stand and look at you blankly, who have lost their desire,
even their self-respect. They have lost, shall we say, the structure through
which their mind force previously flowed, and it has not been replaced.
¶What happens to a Hindu yogî when he enters a superconscious state
of bliss in which his mind opens up, turns to light, and he sees the world
revolving below the state of his suspended consciousness? He has arrived
at this state through many years of practice in concentration, medita-
tion and contemplation, many years of building strong nerve fiber. But
in a momentary high on LSD or any other powerful psychedelic, such as
mushrooms, peyote, ecstasy or DMT, the nerve structure is strained, in
a sense which we can best describe as abnormal, to allow the individual
to reach this exalted consciousness. Coming out of it, the result is often a
kind of shock in which the person has a great difficulty in readjusting to
any kind of normal routine. Because these drugs are illegal, the conscious-
ness of fear also has been awakened within the seeker. Fear is the first step
down into the lower worlds of darkness. The next is anger.
I don’t want to see a nationwide or worldwide movement
Wednesday built around a little bit of “acid.” I don’t want to see this,
LESSON 80
because of the young souls for whom this would be dev-
Maintaining
Control astating. Some young souls who have been opened up
without preparation stumble into psychic ability. They
may read thought forms, see auras or travel astrally. In yoga we would say
that this path of psychism must be avoided until you have attained Self
Realization. This is because in opening up the mind to higher forces and
beautiful experiences, we also open ourselves up to the unpleasant expe-
riences of the shadow world of the chakras below the mûlâdhâra center
at the base of the spine, areas of consciousness which we cannot control
without preparation and training. In yoga, the guru knows how to protect
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his students in the opening-up process by closing off the lower realms as
the higher ones open. He knows how to do this, but it is a steady train-
ing and does require time. I have met people who have had the psyche-
delic experience who but cannot walk down the street past certain houses
because they have become so sensitive to the contention, the negative
force field, emitted from a certain home. Some of these people are opened
up to the more subtle forces of the lower mind. ¶The old soul, in wisdom,
enters into the experience of meditation. Here he learns to control the
lower forces even while he is awakening the higher forces. Therefore he
can sustain himself in a higher state of consciousness. He has the strength
of nerve fiber to do it. ¶So, I am asking the leaders of the LSD move-
ment, the psychedelic movement, to stop it, for the sake of protecting
souls on the path against the too abrupt awakening, against being opened
up to obsession or possession. Most people who take drugs are follow-
ers. They’re not leaders, they’re followers. A leader takes a stand. A leader
stands for what he believes and believes what he stands for. We need to
train our children to be leaders and to stand up against that which they
know is wrong and dangerous. ¶When a person is opened up, in a some-
what defenseless position, as in an LSD experience, he can be possessed or
obsessed by an accumulation of thought power and impelled to do things
that he would otherwise have no intention of doing, simply because his
nervous system has become sensitive and open to the lower mind forces
of hate, greed, mistrust, fear and malice that ooze out of some people
who have no control. ¶If you have not been opened up in this manner, if
you are just going along in an ordinary state of consciousness, you might
feel, “I don’t like so-and-so and I won’t see him anymore,” and you place
a mental barrier between yourself and this person. You are able to shut
your mental door against people whose vibration does not blend with
yours. But a prematurely opened soul cannot do this. He remains open to
all influences. Therefore, I plead to the innate intelligence of the intellec-
tuals and the old souls who can appreciate what is happening, to stop the
indiscriminate use of dangerous drugs, to bring this movement to a halt.
The youngsters in their late teens and early twenties who
Thursday are going into LSD and other drugs are going to meet
LESSON 81
their karma in an unnatural sequence. The upset of their
Tapping the
Superconscious nervous system, if it continues, will be drastic and will
even affect others’ personal lives, whether they have had
LSD or not. I have traveled through India and the Orient where there are
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no laws against narcotics, and the people who live on narcotics there are
absolutely deplorable. They have no spiritual impetus. They just sit and
say, “Well, if I have food, that’s fine. If not, then I’ll probably die. So, let’s
see, if I reincarnate, where would I like to go?” Whereas when the spiritual
force, the actinic force, floods through your nervous system, permeating
you with magnetism, and you see the light of your mind, you don’t have
time for rationalizations like that. ¶When we are dealing with the nervous
system, we are talking about three states of mind at the same time. The
conscious, subconscious and superconscious all exist, alive and vibrant,
within you at this moment. You could be “turned on” superconsciously
without drugs at any instant. It is all there waiting for you. Your brain is
basically an acid structure. When you learn to concentrate your mind,
to concentrate the thinking force, you are turning on the “acid” of your
brain. LSD is an acid, too, but it can do nothing for you that you cannot
do for yourself. When you learn the subtle arts of meditation, you will
learn how to tap into your spiritual force, your always-existing actinic
power which transmits its energy through body and mind into the mag-
netic currents. This magnetic force can be stimulated also through food,
through breathing or through the quality of thought. ¶Now is a marvel-
ous time for people to tap their latent potential to unfold these higher
states of consciousness. All of the activity and discussion of outer space
contributes to this unfoldment, too, because every time you mentally
project yourself with a rocket or a spaceship, your consciousness touches
back on the Earth again, having undergone a definite change. ¶What is
going to be the reaction over a period of time to the psychedelic move-
ment? Meditating yogîs have found that even in the integrated process
of meditation, one’s karma is intensified, and experiences come to you
thick and fast to work through. Under LSD and similar drugs, the wheels
are spinning faster and faster until some drug takers will be spinning in
consciousness completely away from any kind of stable living. I believe
that with the continued use of LSD, the forces will slip over to the other
side, past the point of no return. The spiritual unfoldment of the human
soul can no more profitably be forced than can the growth of a plant in
a hot house. Yoga is the path of control. If you go at it through yoga, you
will be so much better off, and through your new radiant energy you will
be able to help so many people.
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Many are the karmic consequences of using, selling and

Friday encouraging others to use illegal drugs, such as mari-
LESSON 82
juana, cocaine, heroin, methamphetamines, barbiturates
The Power
Of Decision and psychedelics like LSD and mushrooms. The karmic
chain works like this. Suppose someone sold drugs to
another and that person overdosed and killed himself. The karma would
be murder. Maybe the law wouldn’t call it murder, but the karma would
be murder. This means that the person who sold the drugs would be killed
in his next life. One act creates another act and that act comes back on
those who helped create it. Similarly, if movie actors cause others to hurt
themselves or kill another person, commit robbery, anything like that,
because of what they’re acting out, that karma comes back on them, as
well as the director, as well as the writer. It’s pretty messy business to fool
around with the law of karma. ¶I tell young people who are tempted to
use drugs that the power of decision is a very great power. Very few people
know how to use this power, but everybody has the power of decision. It
takes a little bit of willpower, it takes a little bit of research, and we are
going to give you some ammunition to help you make the decision to be
free from drugs. ¶The consequences of illegal drug use are that the drug
user becomes a criminal. His home or car can be confiscated under drug
assets seizure laws. His parents’ home or car can be seized. He can be
arrested for driving under the influence of controlled substances. People
may steal drugs from him, putting him and his family in danger. Eventu-
ally, he can’t earn enough to buy the drugs he needs. He can’t even steal
enough. He has to deal, to sell drugs, to support the habit. And to deal,
he must recruit new users. Drugs make him meet people he would never
meet otherwise, not-so-good people—sellers, dealers, junkies. It puts him
into a lower realm of life. He may become violent. He has to get a gun to
protect himself. More danger follows. The government has to deal with
him, as he has become a criminal. It’s very expensive for society. He can’t
behave normally. He does harm to his body. He does harm to his mind.
He becomes paranoid, always looking over his shoulder, fearful that bad
things are going to happen. As a student, he can’t study well anymore, and
he probably won’t graduate—he gets no education, therefore no career
and no steady job. He does things he never thought he would do: rob,
steal, lie, forge, pull away from and humiliate his parents, pull away from
his teachers, create abnormal relationships with friends, girlfriends, boy-
friends, ruin his reputation, even go into prostitution. ¶I warn youths,
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you might think it won’t happen to you. Well, everybody who takes drugs
says, “That won’t happen to me. I can handle it.” Every junkie on the
street has said that at one time or another. Why do we have groups talking
about how to handle drugs and drug rehabilitation centers, which are very
expensive for states, counties and private organizations to run? Because
you cannot handle it. No one can handle it. It all starts with that first puff
of a joint, the first time you cross the line into what’s not legal. One drug
leads to the next, which leads to the next and the next. It’s the Narakaloka,
active every day in the lives of the people on this planet who use illegal
substances. So don’t get started. ¶Drugs may seem like an escape from the
problems of life, but it is not a solution to them. In Hindu, Jain and Bud-
dhist thinking, all this adds up to bad karma, then a bad birth. You can’t
escape from karma. It will always catch up with you—if not in this life
then in the next. But we can’t just say no because somebody has told us
to say no. We need to meditate, we need to think upon the consequences,
of what will happen to us, of using these terribly dangerous, illegal sub-
stances. ¶Talk to young people in your community. Tell them, “Think
about it. Only you can make the decision. No one else can make it for you.”
You can’t convince a young person here on the island of Kauai to surf on
a fifty foot wave. Youths also don’t drive a hundred miles an hour down
the winding mountain road from Kokee. Why? Because they know the
consequence. They are well educated. They know the consequence and,
be they 12 years old, 16 years old, 20 years old, 24 years old, they make the
proper decisions about such things. ¶The issue is training people to make
the proper decisions so that they are law-abiding citizens because they
have decided to be law-abiding citizens, so that they do not take drugs,
because they do not want to alter their mind, because they do not want
to lose their standing in the community, because they do not want to lose
the functioning of their physical body. The power of decision is a great
power to pass on to the next generation.
Alcohol is a very misunderstood substance. Its original
Saturday use in many cultures was limited to the priesthood, to
LESSON 83
enliven consciousness by restricting the activities of the
Alcohol in
Moderation conscious mind, so that the superconscious knowledge
within the individual can flow freely, uninhibited by
daily thought and concerns. In Japan, sake, a rice wine, is considered the
potion of the poets and is served in Buddhist and Shinto monasteries
to enhance the spiritual nature and diminish worldly attachments. The
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drinking of sake goes along with certain other practices of controlling the
mind, based on a well-understood philosophy. In other cultures—Aztec,
Mayan, Hindu, Christian and Jewish—wine is considered a holy sacra-
ment. ¶Beer is a lesser potion, a drink for the common man, and does
not fall into this category. Both beer and wine are produced from natural
ingredients and through natural fermentation processes, whereas hard
liquors are distilled. Another important difference is the concentration
of alcohol. In beer the alcohol content is from 3 to 8 percent, and in wine
from 9 to 18 percent, compared to hard liquors which are from 25 to
nearly 100 percent. The latter our scriptures admonish us to not imbibe.
¶Man’s religious traditions provide different answers to the consump-
tion of alcohol. The Muslim faith considers it the mother of all evils, the
most basic of human sins. The Jews, Christians and others consider it
acceptable in moderation, and, in fact, provide wine as sacraments in their
places of worship. In Asian societies, propaganda against alcohol is severe,
primarily directed toward hard liquors, meaning those of high alcohol
content, which tend to quickly craze the mind, punish the body and let
loose the lower emotions. These include distilled home brews, such as
arrack, bathtub gin, homemade rum and vodka. ¶In Hinduism there are
traditions that are strictly abstemious, and there are traditions that are
open to the use of alcohol. Especially the Íaivas and Íâktas are more
lenient in this matter and have no objection to the moderate, wise use of
alcohol. In North India, for example, it is traditional in certain orders for
Íaiva sannyâsins to drink alcohol. This is the tradition that our particular
paramparâ has adopted and it is the custom that we follow today. If you
are in a tradition which has a heritage of complete abstention, then you
should follow it. If you are in a tradition which does not look down on
drinking wines or beers, then you should feel free to follow that tradition.
¶Hindus of the Jaffna community explain that hard liquor, known as kal
in Tamil, are the intoxicants prohibited in the Tirukural and Tirumanti-
ram and which are to be totally abstained from, and that beer and wine,
including honey wine, are referred to in the Vedas and âyurveda texts as
beneficial for spiritual and religious life under the restraint of mitâhâra.
The time periods allotted for drinking wine and beer
Sunday should be during a meal (lunch or dinner), or to relax
LESSON 84
after the day’s dharmic duties are fulfilled. Obviously,
Alcohol in
Íaiva Tradition one should not drink during the work day, in the office,
during pûjâ or in the early morning hours. ¶Of course,
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this hardly need be said, but drinking and driving don’t mix. This extends
also to other potentially dangerous activities. One would never drink
while on the job, especially using industrial equipment, such as saws and
drills, as alcohol slows down the reactions of the physical body and the
conscious mind. While enjoying a glass or two of wine, one should be in
good company. Drinking should bring up the higher nature, of creativity,
good ideas, conversation, philosophy, intuitive solutions to the problems
of the world, healthy encounters of all kinds. One should not drink when
depressed, troubled or with a group that enters into confrontation, argu-
ment, contention and criticism, personal, mental and emotional abuse.
Therefore, we emphasize good company, good conversation, creativity,
relaxation, toward the advancement of humanity and of spirituality. That
is what these two substances, wine and beer, have been created on Earth
by Lord Íiva Himself to produce. Of course, imbibing even wine and
beer falls under the restraint of mitâhâra. To overindulge would be unac-
ceptable. ¶One should not drink alone, not even a glass of wine or beer
at a solitary dinner. All the social harnesses are absent when you drink
in isolation. Then it becomes a subconscious instead of a subsupercon-
scious experience. Additionally, there are those who by their constitution
or genetics cannot drink even moderately without catastrophic effects:
physiological, psychological, sociological difficulties. Even a single beer
can provoke extreme responses. When these reactions come, they suf-
fer physically, their families suffer, their professions suffer, their spiritual
unfoldment suffers. Therefore, these individuals must, under all circum-
stances, completely avoid alcohol for a healthy, happy life. Statistically it
is estimated that some seven percent of people are in this category. A clear
indication that an individual falls into this category is that his friends
don’t want to drink with him because it inevitably becomes an unpleas-
ant event for all. Friends and associates are duty-bound to monitor and
sanction him. In such cases insisting on moderation is not sufficient. Total
abstinence must be required. ¶In a similar vein, I am often asked about
tobacco. My answer is, do you want to live a happy, healthy, productive
and long life, or do you want to die early and suffer all the diseases that
have been documented that smoking, the world’s worst health hazard,
can bring up in your body to destroy it? If the answer is “I don’t mind
dying early and I’m looking forward to all the diseases that are promised,”
then go ahead and smoke. I should say here that not one of my sincere
devotees smokes.
 Sâdhanâ
saaDanaa

Discipline for
Self-Transformation

Find a quiet retreat for the practice of yoga, sheltered from

the wind, level and clean, free from rubbish, smoldering
fires and ugliness, and where the sound of waters and the
beauty of the place help thought and contemplation.
K®ish∫a Yajur Veda, Ívetâßvatara Upanishad, 2.10. upm, p. 88
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When we study and practice our religion, we are not

Monday necessarily performing deep sâdhana. We are simply dis-
LESSON 85
patching our religious duties. These duties are concisely
Sâdhana and
The Five Duties outlined in the pañcha nitya karmas, the five minimal
religious obligations of Hindus. The first duty is dharma,
proper conduct, living one’s life according to the teachings of the Tiru-
kural and atoning for misconduct. The second duty is upâsana, worship,
performing a personal vigil each day, preferably before dawn, includ-
ing a pûjâ, followed by the performance of japa, scriptural study, and
meditation. The third duty is utsava, holy days, observing each Friday (or
Monday) as a holy day, as well as the major festival days through the year.
On the weekly holy day, one cleans and decorates the home altar, attends
the nearby temple and observes a fast. The fourth duty of all Hindus is
tirthayâtrâ, pilgrimage. At least once each year, a pilgrimage is made to a
Hindu temple away from one’s local area. Fifth is saμskâras, the obser-
vance of traditional rites of passage, including nâmakara∫a, name-giving;
vivâha, marriage; and antyesh†i, funeral rites. ¶Another vital aspect of
Hindu duty is service. The Vedas remind us, “When a man is born, who-
ever he may be, there is born simultaneously a debt to the Gods, to the
sages, to the ancestors and to men” (Íukla Yajur Veda, SB 1.7.2.1. ve, p. 393).
Service to the community includes helping the poor, caring for the aged,
supporting religious institutions, building schools and upholding the
lofty principle of ahiμsâ in raising one’s children. Hinduism is a general
and free-flowing, relaxed religion, experienced in the temple, in the âßra-
mas, the aadheenams, at festivals, on pilgrimage and in the home. ¶The
performance of personal sâdhana, discipline for self-transformation, is
one step deeper in making religion real in one’s life. Through sâdhana we
learn to control the energies of the body and nerve system, and we experi-
ence that through the control of the breath the mind becomes peaceful.
Sâdhana is practiced in the home, in the forest, by a flowing river, under a
favorite tree, in the temple, in gurukulas or wherever a pure, serene atmo-
sphere can be found. A vrata, vow, is often taken before serious sâdhana
is begun. The vrata is a personal pledge between oneself, one’s guru and
the angelic beings of the inner worlds to perform the disciplines regularly,
conscientiously, at the same time each day.
A Malaysian, whose home is near the Petronas Towers in Kuala Lumpur, has just concluded his
morning Ga∫eßa pûjâ and is reading from Merging with Íiva. Angelic beings, devas, bless his
striving by showering baskets of flowers on him in the inner worlds.
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Many of you here today have studied with me for some

Tuesday time and understand how a good religious life can be
LESSON 86
lived in this technological age. You have learned how
Establishing
Your Sâdhana to pass the knowledge of Íaiva Dharma on to the next
generation, the next and the next. But you may not yet
feel fully confident to teach Íaiva Dharma outside your home and imme-
diate family. All of you are preparing yourselves to be teachers of Íaiva
Dharma, so that the Íaivite who has not had the benefits of knowing a
lot about his religion may know more, so that the Hindu who does not
have the benefit of knowing whether he is a Íaivite, a Vaish∫avite, a Íakta
or a Smârta may learn the difference and then fully practice one of these
four great religions of our heritage. In order to teach with confidence,
you must train yourselves. Since this is an inner teaching, you must train
yourselves inwardly through the regular daily practice of sâdhana. ¶Who
sets the course of sâdhana? The course of sâdhana can be set by an elder
of the Hindu community. It can also be set by one’s satguru. Your mother
and father, who are your first gurus, can also set the course of sâdhana
for their children. Or, it can be set by yourself, from a book. There are
many fine books available, outlining the basics of yoga, sâdhana and med-
itation. ¶Where does sâdhana begin? It begins within the home, and it
begins within you. This is ancient wisdom recognized not only in India,
but among many great civilizations of history. Thus upon the wall of a
famous ancient Greek temple and oracular center at Delphi was inscribed
“Know thyself.” The religion of the Greeks, which was in many respects not
unlike Hinduism, is long since gone, but remaining temple ruins testify to
its magnificence. By disciplining your mind, body and emotions through
sâdhana, you come more and more into the inner knowing of yourself.
¶You will first discover that when the breath is regulated, it is impossible
for the thinking mind to run wild, and when the breath is slightly held, it
is impossible for more than one thought to remain vibrating in the mind
at a time. You will experience that when the nerve currents are quieted
through diaphragmatic breathing, it is impossible to be frustrated, and it
is possible to absorb within yourself, into the great halls of inner learning,
into the great vacuum within you, all of your problems, troubles and fears,
without having to psychoanalyze them. ¶Through the regular practice of
scriptural study, which is a vital part of your daily sâdhana vigil, you will
soon find that it is possible to touch into your subsuperconscious mind
and complement that study with your own inner knowing. After you are
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well established in your sâdhana, you will enjoy a greater ability to dis-
cipline your body, your breath, your nerve system and your mind. ¶We
first have to learn that in order to control the breath, we have to study and
understand the breath, the lungs, how the body is constructed and how
the prâ∫as move through it. This enables us to understand the subtle sys-
tem within the body that controls the thinking mind. Then we are ready
to study the mind in its totality.
In Merging with Íiva we embarked on a great study of the
Wednesday mind in its totality. Here we shall review the five states
LESSON 87
of mind. The conscious mind is our external mind. The
The Five
States of Mind subconscious mind contains our memory patterns and
all impressions of the past. The sub of the subconscious
mind holds the seeds of karmas that are not yet manifest. The subsuper-
conscious mind works through the subconscious mind, and intuition flows
daily as a result. Creativity is there at your bidding. Your superconscious
mind is where intuitive flashes occur. The accomplished mystic can con-
sciously be in one country or another instantaneously, according to his
will, once he has, through the grace of Lord Íiva, attained a full inner
knowing of how to remain in Satchidânanda, the superconscious mind,
consciously, without the other states interfering. ¶Yes, sâdhana begins in
the home, and it begins with you. It must be practiced regularly, at the
same time each day—not two hours one day, one hour the next and then
forgetting about it for three or four days because you are too busy with
external affairs, but every day, at the same time. Meeting this appointment
with yourself is in itself a sâdhana. In the technological age nearly every-
one finds it difficult to set one hour aside in which to perform sâdhana.
This is why in your sâdhana vrata you promise to dedicate only one half
hour a day. In the agricultural era, it was easy to find time to perform
sâdhana two to three hours a day. Why? The demands of external life were
not as great as they are now, in the technological age. Half an hour a day,
therefore, is the amount of time we dedicate for our sâdhana. ¶Brahma-
chârîs and brahmachâri∫îs, celibate men and women, in their respective
gurukulas dedicate their time to the performance of sâdhana. They rise
together early in the morning, perform their sâdhana as a group, and
then are off to their daily work. The regular practice of sâdhana, they
have found, enables them to get along admirably well with one another
because of their newly acquired abilities of absorbing their difficulties,
thus avoiding argument and confrontation. In these gurukulas, found
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worldwide, various kinds of sâdhanas are performed, such as scriptural

study, chanting the names of the Lord on the japa beads, group chant-
ing of bhajanas, the singing of Devarams and the yogic concentration of
holding the mind fixed on one point and bringing it back to that one
point each time it wanders. The more disciplined gurukulas religiously
administrate group sâdhana at the same time each day, every day without
fail. Daily life revolves around this period of sâdhana, just as in a religious
Íaivite home life revolves around the shrine room and each one’s daily
personal vigil. ¶Ask yourself what you put first in your daily life. Do your
emotions come first? Does your intellect come first? Do your instinctive
impulses come first? Does your striving to overcome worries and fears
and doubt come first inside of you? Does your creativity, your love for all
humanity, your search for God and peace within yourself come first inside
of you? What are your priorities? The pañcha nitya karmas outline our
basic religious priorities. Your inner priorities in implementing these five
duties must be just as well defined, and you must define them for yourself
and therefore, come to better “Know thyself.”
When you first begin your daily sâdhana, it is likely to
Thursday begin in an awkward way, and you may come to know
LESSON 88
yourself in a way that you don’t want to know yourself.
Questions and
Challenges Don’t be discouraged when the mind runs wild as you
sit quietly and are unable to control it. Don’t be discour-
aged if you find that you are unable to even choose a time to sit quietly for
one half hour on a regular daily basis. If you persist, soon all this will be
overcome and a firmness of mind will be felt, for it is through the regular
practice of sâdhana that the mind becomes firm and the intellect pure. It
is through the regular practice of concentration that awareness detaches
itself from the external mind and hovers within, internalizing the knowl-
edge of the physical body, the breath and the emotions. Concentration
of the forces of the body, mind and emotions brings us automatically
into meditation, dhyâna, and into deeper internalized awareness. ¶The
spiritual practice should be reasonable, should not take up too much
time, and should be done at the same time every day. Often seekers who
become associated with Hindu sâdhana go to extremes and proceed with
great vigor in an effort to attain results immediately. Sitting two or three
hours a day, they wear themselves out and then stop. Here’s a formula for
beginners: Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, twenty min-
utes to a half an hour of sâdhana at the same time every day; Saturday
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and Sunday, no sâdhana. ¶The keys are moderation and consistency. Con-
sistency is the key to the conquest of karma. If you go to extremes or are
sporadic in your sâdhana, you can easily slide backwards. What happens
when you slide backwards? You become fearful, you become angry, you
become jealous, you become confused. What happens when you move
forward? You become brave, you become calm, you become self-confident
and your mind is clear. ¶It is often feared that meditation and religious
devotion cause a withdrawal from the world. The practice of sâdhana I
have described does not detach you from or make you indifferent to the
world. Rather, it brings up a strength within you, a ßakti, enabling you to
move the forces of the world in a positive way. What is meant by “mov-
ing the forces of the world”? That means fulfilling realistic goals that you
set for yourself. That means performing your job as an employer or as
an employee in the most excellent way possible. That means stretching
your mind and emotions and endurance to the limit and therefore getting
stronger and stronger day by day. You are involved in the world, and the
world is in a technological age. ¶The sâdhana that you perform will make
your mind steady and your will strong so that you can move the forces
of the physical world with love and understanding, rather than through
anger, hatred, antagonism, cunning, jealousy and greed. Daily sâdhana
performed in the right way will help you overcome these instinctive bar-
riers to peace of mind and the fullness of being. If you have children, the
rewards of your sâdhana will help you educate your children properly in
fine schools and universities and see that all of their physical needs are
met through the flow of material abundance that automatically comes as
you progress in your inner life. ¶Through daily sâdhana we shall come to
know the body, we shall come to know the emotions, we shall come to
know the nerve system, we shall come to know the breath and we shall
come to know the mind in its totality. Each one of you will soon be able
to mentally pick up all of the dross of your subconscious, throw it within,
into the great cavity of inner knowing at the feet of the Gods, there to
be absorbed, dissolved and disappear. All this and more can be unfolded
from within each one of you through your daily practice of sâdhana.
Sâdhana is one of the great boons given to us in our religion.
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When the devas within your home see you performing

Friday your sâdhana each day, they give you psychic protection.
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They hover around you and keep away the extraneous
Guardian
Angels thought forms that come from the homes of your neigh-
bors or close friends and relatives. They all mentally
chant “Aum Nama˙ Íivâya,” keeping the vibration of the home alive with
high thoughts and mantras so that the atmosphere is scintillating, creating
for you a proper environment to delve within yourself. The fact that the
devonic world is involved is one more good reason why you must choose
a specific time for sâdhana and religiously keep to that time each day, for
you not only have an appointment with yourself but with the devas as well.
¶By performing the pañcha nitya karmas, living the yamas and niyamas
to the best of your ability and performing your daily sâdhana, your reli-
gion becomes closer and closer to you in your heart. You will soon begin
to find that God Íiva is within you as well as within the temple, because
you become quiet enough to know this and experience that Lord Íiva’s
superconscious mind is identical to yours; there is no difference in Satchid-
ânanda. From this state, you will experience the conscious mind as “the
watcher” and experience its subconscious as the storehouse of intellectual
and emotional memory patterns. In daily life you will begin to experience
the creativity of the subsuperconscious mind, as the forces of the First
World are motivated through love as you fulfill your chosen dharma in
living with Íiva. ¶Thus our religion is an experiential religion, from its
beginning stages to the most advanced. You have already encountered the
magic of the temple, and you have had uplifting experiences within your
home shrine. Now, as you perform your sâdhana, you will enjoy spiritual
experiences within yourself on the path of self-transformation. ¶It is up
to you to put your religion into practice. Feel the power of the Gods in
the pûjâ. If you don’t feel them, if you are just going through ritual and
don’t feel anything, you are not awake. Get the most out of every expe-
rience that the temple offers, the guru offers, the devas offer, that your
life’s experiences, which you were born to live through, offer. In doing so,
slowly the ku∫∂alinî begins to loosen and imperceptibly rise into its yoga.
That’s what does the yoga; it’s the ku∫∂alinî seeking its source, like the
tree growing, always reaching up to the Sun. ¶It is up to you to make the
teachings a part of your life by working to understand each new concept
as you persist in your daily religious practices. As a result, you will be able
to brave the forces of the external world without being disturbed by them
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and fulfill your dharma in whatever walk of life you have chosen. Because
your daily sâdhana has regulated your nerve system, the quality of your
work in the world will improve, and your mood in performing it will be
confident and serene. ¶When your sâdhana takes hold, you may experi-
ence a profound calmness within yourself. This calmness that you experi-
ence as a result of your meditation is called Satchidânanda, the natural
state of the mind. To arrive at that state, the instinctive energies have been
lifted to the heart chakra and beyond, and the mind has become abso-
lutely quiet. This is because you are not using your memory faculty. You
are not using your reason faculty. You are not trying to move the forces
of the world with your willpower faculty. You are simply resting within
yourself. Therefore, if you are ever bothered by the external part of you,
simply return to this inner, peaceful state as often as you can. You might
call it your “home base.” From here you can have a clear perception of
how you should behave in the external world, a clear perception of your
future and a clear perception of the path ahead. This is a superconscious
state, meaning “beyond normal consciousness.” So, simply deepen this
inner state by being aware that you are aware.
A great flow of prâ∫a is beginning to occur among the
Saturday families of our congregation worldwide because each
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one has decided to discipline himself or herself and the
Control of
The Prâ∫as children to perform sâdhana. That brings the prâ∫a
under control. If the prâ∫a is not under the control of
the individual, it is controlled by other individuals. The negative control
of prâ∫a is a control, and positive control of prâ∫a is a control. That’s
why we say, “Seek good company,” because if you can’t control your prâ∫a,
other people who do control their prâ∫as can help you. The group helps
the individual and the individual helps the group. If you mix with bad
company, then the prâ∫as begin to get disturbed. Once that happens, your
energies are like a team of horses out of control. It takes a lot of skill and
strength on the part of the individual to get those prâ∫as back under
control. ¶The control of prâ∫a is equally important on the inner planes.
When you leave the physical body, you are in your astral body, your subtle
body. It is not made of flesh and bones like your physical body—as the
Buddhists say, “thirty-two kinds of dirt wrapped up in skin.” The astral
body is made of prâ∫a. It floats. It can fly. It’s guided by your mind, which
is composed of more rarefied prâ∫a, actinic energy. Wherever you want
to go, you’ll be there immediately. And, of course, you do this in your
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sleep, in your dreams and after death. Many of you have had astral experi-
ences and can testify how quickly you can move here and there when your
astral body is detached from the physical body. However, if you don’t have
control of your prâ∫a, you don’t have control of your astral body. Then
where do you go when you drop off your physical body at death? You are
magnetized to desires, uncontrollably magnetized to fulfilling unfulfilled
desires. You are magnetized to groups of people who are fulfilling similar
unfulfilled desires, and generally your consciousness goes down into lower
chakras. Only in controlling your astral body do you have conscious con-
trol of your soul body, which is, of course, living within the astral body
and resonating to the energy of the higher chakras. ¶My satguru, Siva
Yogaswami, spoke of Íaivism as the sâdhana mârga, “the path of striving,”
explaining that it is a religion not only to be studied but also to be lived.
“See God everywhere. This is practice. First do it intellectually. Then you
will know it.” He taught that much knowledge comes through learning
to interpret and understand the experiences of life. To avoid the sâdhana
mârga is to avoid understanding the challenges of life. We must not fail to
realize that each challenge is brought to us by our own actions of the past.
Yes, our actions in the past have generated our life’s experiences today. All
Hindus accept karma and reincarnation intellectually, but the concepts
are not active in their lives until they accept the responsibilities of their
own actions and the experiences that follow. In doing so, no blame can
fall upon another. It is all our own doing. This is the sâdhana mârga—the
path to perfection. ¶The sâdhana mârga leads us into the yoga pâda quite
naturally. But people don’t study yoga. They are not taught yoga. They
are taught sâdhana, and if they don’t perform it themselves—and no one
can do it for them—they will never have a grip strong enough over their
instinctive mind and intellectual mind to come onto the yoga mârga, no
matter how much they know about yoga. So, we don’t learn yoga. We
mature into it. We don’t learn meditation. We awaken into it. You can
teach meditation, you can teach yoga, but it’s all just words unless the
individual is mature and awake on the inside. ¶To be awake on the inside
means waking up early in the morning. You woke up early this morning.
That may have been difficult. But you got the body up, you got the emo-
tions up, you got the mind up, and your instinctive mind did not want to
do all that. Did it? No! Spiritual life is a twenty-four-hour-a-day vigil, as
all my close devotees are realizing who have taken the vrata of 365 Nandi-
nâtha Sûtras. It means going to bed at night early so you can get up in
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the morning early. It means studying the teachings before you go to bed
so that you can go into the inner planes in absolute control. It means in
the morning reading from my trilogy, Dancing with Íiva, Living with Íiva
and Merging with Íiva, to prepare yourself to face the day, to be a strong
person and move the forces of the world.
Devotees who are doing sâdhana and who are in the
Sunday g®ihastha âßrama, between age twenty-four and forty-
LESSON 91
eight, should move the forces of the world rightly,
Sâdhana and
Life’s Stages dynamically, intelligently, quickly and make something
of their lives. Such devotees should not be stimulated
by competition. In today’s world most people have to be stimulated by
competition to produce anything worthwhile, even if that means hurting
other people. They have to be stimulated by conflict to produce anything
worthy of producing in the world, and that hurts other people. They have
to be stimulated by their home’s breaking up, and that hurts other people.
And they have to be stimulated by all kinds of other lower emotions to
be able to get enough energy to move the forces of the world to do some-
thing, whether it be good or bad. Those who perform sâdhana draw on
the forces of the soul to move the forces of the world and make a differ-
ence. ¶It is during the latter stages of life that family devotees have the
opportunity to intensify their sâdhana and give back to society of their
experience, their knowledge and their wisdom gained through the first
two âßramas. The vânaprastha âßrama, age forty-eight to seventy-two, is
a very important stage of life, because that is the time when you can
inspire excellence in the brahmacharya students and in the families, to
see that their life goes along as it should, according to the Nandinâtha
Sûtras, which have the entire ideal life pattern embedded within them.
Later, the sannyâsa âßrama, beginning at seventy-two, is the time to enjoy
and deepen whatever realizations you have had along the way. We are all
human beings, and every one of us—including the sapta ®ishis, seven great
sages who help guide the course of mankind from the inner planes—is
duty-bound to help everyone else. That is the duty. It must be performed
by everyone. If you want to help somebody else, perform regular sâdhana.
¶Traditionally, a Hindu home should be a reflection of the monastery that
the family is attached to, with a regular routine for the mother, the father,
the sons, the daughters, so that everyone is fulfilling their rigorous duties
and sâdhanas to the very best of their ability. We had a seventeen-year-
old youth here as a guest in our monastery from one of our families in
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Malaysia that performs sâdhana. That sâdhana enabled him to come here
to perform sâdhana. If his parents had not been performing sâdhana in
their home regularly, he would not have been inclined to come here and
perform a more strenuous sâdhana with us. ¶I was asked recently what to
do about all the things that you cannot avoid listening to and seeing on
the TV and news and reading about—atrocities, crime, murders, poverty,
unfairness—which may tend to disturb one’s sâdhana. To perform good
sâdhana, we have to have a good philosophical foundation, which is found
in Dancing with Siva, Living with Siva and Merging with Siva—The Master
Course trilogy. A good philosophical foundation allows us to understand
why we have the highest and the lowest human expressions here on planet
Earth. Philosophers and mystics have for centuries said, “Only on planet
Earth in a physical body can you realize the Self, because only here, in
this world, do you have all twenty-one chakras functioning.” You need
the lowest in order to realize the highest. Some people are born peaceful
because of merits attained in past lives. They are born helpful, and they
are the uplifters of mankind. Others are born angry, scheming, conniving,
resentful, and they are the doubters, the detractors, of mankind. But all
have an equal place here on planet Earth. All are going through a similar
evolution up the spinal column to the top of the head, through the door
of Brahman and finally out. ¶From the Western religionist’s point of view,
God is doing it all. He is punishing mankind. He is helping mankind. And
many Hindus who were raised in Christian schools hold that perspec-
tive. But from the perspective of Sanâtana Dharma, the oldest religion
in the world, we do it all. By our karmas we are creating our future this
very moment. So, as you proceed in your sâdhana, disconnect from the
lower and proceed into the higher. As a family person, it is your dharma
to serve society, uplift mankind and help relieve human suffering within
your sphere of influence. But do not try to fix, or even entertain the desire
to fix, that which you cannot fix, which is the karma, the action and reac-
tion, of individuals who are going through the lower phases of life and
must experience what they are experiencing and which you read about
and hear about daily in newspapers, on TV and on the Internet.
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 Dhyânî
DyaanaI

The Meditator

One should meditate on his own guru, his tradition

and God Íaˆkara after bathing and assuming a suitable
sitting posture in a sanctified place. He should purify
the five elements of his body with deep concentration.
Chandrajñâna Ågama, Kriyâpâda, 8.52-53. cj p. 80
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Meditation is a long journey, a pilgrimage into the mind

Monday itself. Generally we become aware that there is such a
LESSON 92
thing as meditation after the material world has lost its
Turning
Inward attraction to us and previous desires no longer bind us
to patterns of fear, greed, attachment and ramification.
We then seek through philosophy and religion to answer the questions,
“Who am I? Where did I come from? Where am I going?” We ask others.
We read books. We ponder and wonder. We pray. We even doubt for a
while that there is a Truth to be realized, or that we, with all our seem-
ing imperfection, can realize it if it does exist. Oddly enough, this is the
beginning of the meditator’s journey on the path, for we must empty
ourselves fully before the pure, superconscious energies can flow freely
through us. Once this state of emptiness and genuine searching is reached,
we soon recognize the futile attempt to find Truth on the outside. We viv-
idly begin to know, from the depth of ourselves, a knowing we could not
explain or justify. We simply know that Reality, or the Self God, resides
within, and we must go within ourselves to realize it. Of itself, that know-
ing is not enough. Even great efforts to meditate and vast storehouses of
spiritual knowledge are not enough. Many have tried to find the Truth
this way. The Truth is deeper and is discovered by the resolute devotee
who dedicates his life to the search, who lives a balanced life according
to the yamas and niyamas, the Vedic spiritual laws, who willingly under-
goes change, who finds and obeys a spiritual teacher, or satguru, and who
learns precisely the disciplined art of meditation. This, then, outlines the
destination of the meditator’s journey and his means of travel. ¶One of
the first steps is to convince the subconscious mind that meditation is
good for us. We may want to meditate consciously, yet maintain fears
or doubts about meditation. Somewhere along the way, a long series of
events occurred and, upon reaction to them, awareness became external-
ized. We became geared to the materialistic concepts of the external world.
As we begin to feel that urgency to get back within, the old patterns of
thought and emotion, cause and effect, naturally repeat themselves. For
a while, the contents of the subconscious may conflict with our concepts
of what it is like to fully live spiritually. Our habits will be undisciplined,
our willpower ineffective. Quite often the subconscious seems almost like
Íiva’s blessings pour from His coiled hair upon two men. One is an advaitin, meditating on a
mountain. The other is a siddhântin, finding Divine Grace through devotional surrender in a
modern temple. Both the bhakta and the yogî receive Íiva’s Love in full measure.
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another person, because it is always doing something unanticipated. ¶In

these early stages, we must mold the areas that are different into a new life-
style so that there will be nothing in the subconscious that opposes what
is in the conscious or superconscious mind. Only when all three of these
areas of consciousness act in harmony can meditation be truly attained
and sustained. For us to be afraid of the subconscious is unwise, for it
then holds a dominant position in our life. The subconscious is nothing
more than the accumulation of vibratory rates of experience encountered
by awareness when it was externalized, a storehouse containing the past.
Externalization of awareness results in one layer upon
Tuesday another layer of misunderstanding void of an inner
LESSON 93
point of reference. We have to reprogram the subcon-
Remolding the
Subconscious scious to change it, and not worry over the old impres-
sions. We have to make this change in a very dynamic
way by always remaining positive. You have heard many people say, “It
can’t be done,” and then go right ahead and prove it by failing. ¶Never
use the word can’t, as it becomes very restrictive to the subconscious. If
often used, it becomes almost an incantation. This is not good. As soon
as we say, “I can’t,” all positive doors subconsciously close for us. The
flow of pure life force is diminished, the subconscious is confused and
we know we are going to fail, so we don’t even try. The solution to sub-
conscious confusion is to set a goal for ourselves in the external world
and to have a positive plan incorporating meditation daily as a lifestyle
within that goal. Through this positive initiative and daily effort in medi-
tation, awareness is centered within. We learn how to disentangle and
unexternalize awareness. ¶As soon as strong initiative is taken to change
our nature toward refinement, a new inner process begins to take place.
The forces of positive accomplishment from each of our past lives begin
to manifest in this one. The high points of a past life, when something
great has happened, become strung together. These merits or good deeds
are vibrations in the ether substance of our memory patterns, because
each one of us, right now, is a sum total of all previous experience. All of
the distractions of the external area of the mind begin to fade, and posi-
tive meditation becomes easily attainable. It is not difficult to move our
individual awareness quickly within when distractions occur. ¶This new
pattern of setting goals and meeting them strengthens the will. One such
goal is to perform sâdhana every day without fail during a morning vigil
period of worship, japa, scriptural study and meditation. Daily medita-
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tion has to become part of our lifestyle, not just a new something we do
or study about. It must become a definite part of us. We have to live to
meditate. This is the only way to reach the eventual goal on the path—the
realization of the all-pervasive Íivam. Deep meditation takes the power
of our spiritual will, which is cultivated through doing everything we do
to perfection, through meeting the challenges of our goals, and through
its constant expression as we seek to do more than we think we can each
day. So, set your spiritual goals according to where you are on the path. Set
goals for deeper, more superconscious meditation, for a change of your
personality or outer nature, for better service to your fellow man, and for
a totally religious lifestyle. ¶Goals are generally not used in spiritual life,
because the inner mechanism of goal setting is not clearly understood.
Dynamic, successful people who go into business for themselves have to
have a positive, aggressive plan and keep their lives in a good routine to
achieve success. The most prominent among them begin and end each
day at a certain time in order to sustain the pressure of the business world.
We can and should approach the practice of meditation in a similar way.
Like the businessman, we want to succeed in our quest, the only difference
being the choice of an inner goal as opposed to the choice of an outer goal,
the fulfillment of which entangles us and further externalizes awareness.
If we plan our meditation goals unrealistically, we create
Wednesday unnecessary problems. For example, it might be unreal-
LESSON 94
istic to say, “I am going to realize the all-pervasive Sivam
Setting
Inner Goals in two months.” The seeker setting this goal for himself
may be far too externalized to face the resultant reac-
tion in the short period of two months. Ten years, however, may be a
more realistic goal for him, providing time is spent regularly every day
in meditation as he directs awareness in and in and in, day after day after
day, until all of the forces of the nerve currents of the inner body begin
to respond. ¶As they respond, something new happens. He gains firm
confidence in his own abilities to fulfill positive goals by using his will-
power. As each inner goal is established then met, the pattern of his life is
changed and refined. The conscious mind, the subconscious mind and the
superconscious areas of the mind come together, and a spiritual dynamic
occurs. All aspects of his nature work together to strengthen and deepen
his meditations. Doubts and fears loosen their hold on him, allowing
awareness to penetrate to the core of mind substance. The mind becomes
quiet enough to turn back upon itself. ¶In the early stages of meditation,
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it’s very difficult to sit without moving, because that has not been part
of our lifestyle. The subconscious mind has never been programmed to
contentedly sit quietly. We didn’t see our families doing that. Perhaps we
haven’t seen anybody doing that. No example has been set. Therefore, we
have to be patient with ourselves and not sit for too long in the beginning.
Start by sitting for ten minutes without moving. In a few weeks extend
it to twenty minutes, then a half hour. Thus we avoid being fanatical
and allow the subconscious to make its necessary adjustments. ¶These
adjustments are physical as well as emotional and intellectual. The nerve
currents rearrange themselves so that prolonged stillness and absence of
external activity is comfortable. Similarly, the philosophy of the path of
enlightenment fully penetrates every layer of the subconscious, adjusting
previous erroneous concepts of ourselves and enabling us to consciously
intuit various philosophical areas and know them to be right and true
from our personal experience of superconsciousness. This, then, may take
a few years. ¶If we plant a tree, we have to wait for it to grow and mature
before we enjoy its shade. So it is in meditation. We make our plans for
beginning the practices of meditation, then give ourselves enough time,
several years, to fully adjust and remold the subconscious mind. Living
as we do in the externalized culture of the West, we are conditioned to
be in a hurry to get everything. When we try to internalize awareness too
quickly through various intense and sometimes fanatical ways, we reap
the reaction. Meditation goes fine for a brief span, but then externalizes
again according to the programming of our family and culture. ¶To per-
manently alter these patterns, we have to work gently to develop a new
lifestyle for the totality of our being—physically, emotionally, intellectu-
ally and spiritually. This we do a little at a time. Wisdom tells us that it
cannot be done all at once. We have to be patient with ourselves. If we
are impatient on the path, failure is in view. We are going to fail, because
instant spiritual unfoldment is a fairy-tale concept. It is far better that
we recognize that there will be difficult challenges as the subconscious
looms up, with all of its conflicts and confusions, heavy and strong. When
it does, we must face them calmly, through spiritual journaling, vâsanâ
daha tantra. If our eventual goal is clearly in mind and we have a positive
step-by-step plan on how to reach that goal, then we won’t get excited
when something goes wrong, because we view our mental and emotional
storms in their proper and temporary perspective.
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Not only does the subconscious create barriers in our

Thursday own minds, it also draws to us the doubts and worries
LESSON 95
of other people for us to face and resolve. There is such
Dealing
With Doubt a vast warehouse of negative conditioning against medi-
tation that it is almost useless to begin if we believe any
of it at all. We have all heard a few of the fears: “Something terrible must
have happened to you as a child if you want to go into that.” “You don’t
love me anymore. That’s why you meditate—you’re withdrawing.” “You’re
just afraid of society and responsibility. It’s an escape from the real world
that you can’t cope with.” “You’re going to be poor if you meditate. Every-
one who meditates is broke, you know.” And so it goes, on and on. ¶We
do have to answer these objections for the subconscious and thus settle all
doubts within ourselves. Of course, the results of meditation will them-
selves convince the subconscious of the benefit of inner sâdhana as we
bring forth perceptive insights, renewed energy, a happy and balanced life
and spiritual attainment. Negative conditioning breaks down as we prove
to ourselves according to our own experience that it was wrong. Such con-
ditioning is inhibiting to some and has to be corrected. To counteract it,
we can ask ourselves, “Why? What is it all about? How did I attract these
problems? Do I still have such doubts in my subconscious, consciously
unknown?” We can further ask, “Who has done the conditioning? What
was their life like? Were they happy people?” Finally, from our own posi-
tive efforts to cognize, we actually remold the subconscious, erase false
concepts and become free. ¶The mind in its apparently endless confusion
and desires leads us by novelty from one thing to the next. The reaction
to this causes the miseries of the world, and miseries of the world hap-
pen inside of people. But occasionally we have to call a halt to the whole
thing and get into ourselves. That’s the process of meditation. It’s an art.
It’s a faculty we have within ourselves which, when developed, gives a
balance and a sense to life. And everyone, whether they know it or not, is
searching, trying to find out what life is all about. ¶So many people tell
me, “Oh, I would like to study yoga, but I just don’t have the time,” “I can’t
get quiet enough,” or “The kids make too much noise,” or some excuse
like that. They don’t realize that you don’t become quiet automatically.
Becoming quiet is a systematic process. You become quiet systematically.
It might take you two weeks of practice before you can sit down and feel
that you’ve made any progress at all, or even feel like sitting down and
trying to become quiet. But it’s one of those things you eventually have to
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do. You get up and cook breakfast because you have to eat. You are hungry.
And when you become hungry enough to get quiet within yourself, you
will do so automatically. You will want to. And then what happens? You
will sit down, and your mind will race. Say, “Mind, stop!” and see how fast
you can make your mind stop and become quiet. Say, “Emotions, you are
mind-controlled,” and see how quiet you become.
We now come to the practical aspects of meditation. In
Friday the beginning, it is best to find a suitable room that is
LESSON 96
dedicated solely to meditation. If you were a carpenter,
The Right
Conditions you would get a shop for that purpose. You have a room
for eating, a room for sleeping. Now you need a separate
room just for the purpose of meditation. When you find it, wash the walls
and ceiling, wash the windows. Prepare a small altar if you like, bringing
together the elements of earth, air, fire and water. Establish a time for your
meditations and meet those times strictly. There will be days when you
just don’t feel like meditating. Good. Those are often the best days, the
times when we make strong inner strides. The finest times to meditate are
six in the morning, twelve noon, six in the evening, and twelve midnight.
All four of these times could be used, or just choose one. The period of
meditation should be from ten minutes to one-half hour to begin with.
¶By sitting up straight, with the spine erect, we transmute the energies of
the physical body. Posture is important, especially as meditation deepens
and lengthens. With the spine erect and the head balanced at the top
of the spine, the life force is quickened and intensified as energies flood
freely through the nerve system. In a position such as this, we cannot
become worried, fretful, depressed or sleepy during our meditation. But
if we slump the shoulders forward, we short-circuit the life energies. In a
position such as this, it is easy to become depressed, to have mental argu-
ments with oneself or another, or to experience unhappiness. So, learn
to sit dynamically, relaxed and yet poised. The full-lotus position, with
the right foot resting on the left thigh and the left foot above, resting on
the right thigh, is the most stable posture to assume, hands resting in the
lap, right hand on top, with the thumbs touching. ¶The first observation
you may have when thus seated for meditation is that thoughts are rac-
ing through the mind substance. You may become aware of many, many
thoughts. Also the breath may be irregular. Therefore, the next step is to
transmute the energies from the intellectual area of the mind through
proper breathing, in just the same way that proper attitude, preparation
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and posture transmuted the physical-instinctive energies. Through regu-

lation of the breath, thoughts are stilled and awareness moves into an
area of the mind which does not think, but conceives and intuits. ¶There
are vast and powerful systems of breathing that can stimulate the mind,
sometimes to excess. Deep meditation requires only that the breath be sys-
tematically slowed or lengthened. This happens naturally as we go within,
but can be encouraged by a method of breathing called kalîbasa in Shûm,
my language of meditation. During kalîbasa, the breath is counted, nine
counts as we inhale, hold one count, nine counts as we exhale, hold one
count. The length of the beats, or the rhythm of the breath, will slow as
the meditation is sustained, until we are counting to the beat of the heart,
h®idaya spa∫∂a prâ∫âyâma. This exercise allows awareness to flow into an
area of the mind that is intensely alive, peaceful, blissful and conceives the
totality of a concept rather than thinking out the various parts.
Control of the breath, to be learned properly, might take
Saturday months or even years. That’s all right. If you were learn-
LESSON 97
ing to play a musical instrument, it would take months
Control
Of Breath or even years to perfect the basic principles of making
chords and putting chords together into a melody. There
is no hurry. Hurry is the age we want to bypass when we meditate. The
control of the breath is exactly the same as the control of awareness, so
it is good to be patient in the early stages and perfect each element of
practice. ¶As we learn to breathe rhythmically and from the diaphragm,
we also release tensions in the solar plexus. We learn to be spontaneous
and free on the inside, and life force runs through us in an uninhibited
way. We achieve and learn to maintain contentment, santosha. All of these
things come through the simple techniques we practice while in medita-
tion. But the practice of meditation is not the end. It is the total being of
man that is the end to be sought for—the well-rounded, content, spon-
taneous being that is totally free. ¶After you have quieted the body, and
the breath is flowing regularly, close your eyes. Close your ears and shut
off the external sense perceptions. As long as you are aware of sights and
sounds on the outside, you are not concentrated. It is a fallacy to think
you have to find a totally silent place before you can go within. When your
senses are stilled, you don’t hear any sounds. You’re in a state of silence.
You don’t hear a car that passes, you don’t hear a bird that sings, because
your awareness has shifted to different perceptions. It helps, but it’s not
necessary, to have a totally silent place. This is not always possible, so it
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is best not to depend on outer silence. We must discover silence within

ourselves. When you are reading a book that is extremely interesting, you
are not hearing noises around you. You should be at least that interested
in your meditations. ¶Having thus quieted the outer forces, we are pre-
pared to meditate. Just sitting is not enough. To meditate for even ten or
fifteen minutes takes as much energy as one would use in running around
a city block three times. A powerful meditation fills and thrills us with an
abundance of energy to be used creatively in the external world during
the activities of daily life. Great effort is required to make inner strides.
We must strive very, very hard and meet each inner challenge.
When we go into meditation, what do we meditate upon?
Sunday What do we think about during meditation? Usually the
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sincere devotee will have a guru, or spiritual guide, and
Four Steps
To Meditation follow his instructions. He may have a mantra, or mys-
tic sound, which he concentrates upon, or a particular
technique or attitude he is perfecting. If he has no guru or specific instruc-
tions, then here is a râja yoga exercise that can enhance inner life, making
it tangibly real and opening inner doors of the mind. Use it to begin each
meditation for the rest of your life. Simply sit, quiet the mind, and feel the
warmth of the body. Feel the natural warmth in the feet, in the legs, in the
head, in the neck, in the hands and face. Simply sit and be aware of that
warmth. Feel the glow of the body. This is very easy, because the physical
body is what many of us are most aware of. Take five, ten or fifteen min-
utes to do this. There is no hurry. Once you can feel this warmth that is
created by the life force as it flows in and through the body’s cells, once
you can feel this all over the body at the same time, go within to the next
step. ¶The second step is to feel the nerve currents of the body. There are
thousands of miles of nerve currents in each of us. Don’t try to feel them
all at once. Start with the little ones, with the feeling of the hands, thumbs
touching, resting on your lap. Now feel the life force going through these
nerves, energizing the body. Try to sense the even more subtle nerves that
extend out and around the body about three or four feet. This may take
a long time. When you have located some of these nerves, feel the energy
within them. Tune into the currents of life force as they flow through
these nerves. This is a subtle feeling, and most likely awareness will wan-
der into some other area of the mind. When this happens, gently bring it
back to your point of concentration, to feeling the nerves within the body
and the energy within the nerves. ¶The third step takes us deeper inside,
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as we become dynamically aware in the spine. Feel the power within the
spine, the powerhouse of energy that feeds out to the external nerves and
muscles. Visualize the spine in your mind’s eye. See it as a hollow tube or
channel through which life energies flow. Feel it with your inner feelings.
It’s there, subtle and silent, yet totally intense. It is a simple feeling. We can
all feel it easily. As you feel this hollow spine filled with energy, realize that
you are more that energy than you are the physical body through which it
flows, more that pure energy than the emotions, than the thought force.
Identify yourself with this energy and begin to live your true spiritual
heritage on this Earth. As you dive deeper into that energy, you will find
that this great power, your sense of awareness and your willpower are all
one and the same thing. ¶The fourth step comes as we plunge awareness
into the essence, the center of this energy in the head and spine. This
requires great discipline and exacting control to bring awareness to the
point of being aware of itself. This state of being totally aware that we are
aware is called kaîf. It is pure awareness, not aware of any object, feeling
or thought. Go into the physical forces that flood, day and night, through
the spine and body. Then go into the energy of that, deeper into the vast
inner space of that, into the essence of that, into the that of that, and into
the that of that. As you sit in this state, new energies will flood the body,
flowing out through the nerve system, out into the exterior world. The
nature becomes very refined in meditating in this way. Once you are thus
centered within yourself, you are ready to pursue a meditation, a mantra
or a deep philosophical question.
 Dhyâna Vighnâ˙
DyaanaivaGnaa:

Obstacles to
Meditation

Born along and defiled by the stream of qualities,

unsteady, wavering, bewildered, full of desire, dis-
tracted, one goes on into the state of self-conceit.
In thinking, ‘This is I’ and ‘That is mine’ one binds
himself with himself, as does a bird with a snare.
K®ish∫a Yajur Veda, Maitrî Upanishad, 3.2. uph, p. 418
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Throughout your inner investigations in meditation,

Monday cling to the philosophical principle that the mind
LESSON 99
doesn’t move. Thoughts are stationary within the mind,
Taming
Distraction and only awareness moves. It flows from one thought to
another, as the free citizen of the world travels through
each country, each city, not attaching himself anywhere. When you are
able, through practice, to sit for twenty minutes without moving even
one finger, your superconscious mind can begin to express itself. It can
even reprogram your subconscious and change past patterns of existence.
That is one of the wonderful things about inner life. That’s why it’s inner
life—it happens from the inside. ¶If you just sit and breathe, the inner
nerve system of the body of your psyche, your soul, begins to work on
the subconscious, to mold it like clay. Awareness is loosened from limited
concepts and made free to move vibrantly and buoyantly into the inner
depths where peace and bliss remain undisturbed for centuries. However,
if you move even a finger, you externalize the entire nervous system. Like
shifting gears from high to low, you change the intensity of awareness,
and the outer nerve system then is active. Superconscious programming
ceases, awareness returns to the body and the senses, and the external
mind takes over. By sitting still again at this point, it is just a matter of a
few minutes for the forces to quiet and awareness to soar in and in once
again. Sitting quietly in this state, you will feel when the superconscious
nerve system begins to work in the physical body. You may feel an entirely
different flow through your muscles, your bones and your cells. Let it
happen. ¶As you sit to meditate, awareness may wander into past memo-
ries or future happenings. It may be distracted by the senses, by a sound
or by a feeling of discomfort in the body. This is natural in the early
stages. Gently bring awareness back to your point of concentration. Don’t
criticize awareness for wandering, for that is yet another distraction. Dis-
tractions will disappear if you become intensely interested and involved
in your meditation. In such a state you won’t even feel the physical body.
You have gone to a movie, read a book or sat working on a project on
your computer that was so engrossing you only later discovered your
foot had fallen asleep for a half hour because it was in an awkward posi-
tion. Similarly, once we are totally conscious on the inside, we will never
Seated by a river in the yogic pose, a seeker tries to meditate. As he quiets his mind, obstacles
arise from within. He thinks of this morning’s patient. He feels hungry. He recalls a moment of
anger and dwells on money worries and recalls past bouts with alcohol.
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be distracted by the physical body or the outside. ¶If distractions keep

coming up in meditation over a long period of time, then perhaps you
are not ready to meditate. There has to be a point where distractions stop.
Until then you are hooked very strongly into the instinctive or intellec-
tual area of the mind, and the whole idea of meditation won’t inspire you
very much. Therefore, you need something to spur you on inwardly. In
Hinduism when this occurs, the grace of the satguru is sought. By going
to your guru openly, you receive darßana, a little extra power that moves
awareness permanently out of the areas of distraction. You are then able
to sit in inner areas for long periods of time. Distractions become fewer
and fewer, for he has wrenched you out of the instinctive and intellectual
areas and changed the energy flow within your body. ¶After the medita-
tion is over, work to refine every attribute of your nature. Learn to work
and work joyfully, for all work is good. Learn to be happy by seeking
happiness, not from others but from the depths of the soul itself. In your
daily life, observe the play of the forces as they manifest between people
and people, and people and their things. Don’t avoid the forces of the
world, for the meditator lives fearlessly, shying away from nothing. The
“out there” and the within are his playground, his kingdom. He becomes
vibrant and confident in himself. He learns to lean on his own spine and
not on any other person, teacher, book, organization or system. Answers
begin to become real and vibrant, hooked onto the end of every ques-
tion. His body radiates new grace and strength. His mind, disciplined
and uncluttered, becomes one-pointedly agile. His relationships take on
new, profound meanings. His emotions are stabilized and reflect his new-
found tranquillity. These and many more are the dynamic rewards of the
sincere aspirant who searches within through meditation.
Get into the habit of meditating before sleep each night.
Tuesday If you catch yourself dropping off to sleep while sitting
LESSON 100
for meditation, know that your meditation is over. The
Sleep and
Dreaming best thing to do is to deliberately go to sleep, because the
spiritual power is gone and has to be invoked or opened
up again. After getting ready for bed, sit in the lotus position and have a
dynamic meditation for as long as you can. When you feel drowsy, you
may deliberately put your body to sleep in this way. Mentally say to your-
self, “Pra∫a in the left leg, flow, go to sleep. Prâ∫a in the right leg, flow, go
to sleep. Prâ∫a in the left arm, flow, go to sleep. Prâ∫a in the right arm,
flow, go to sleep. Torso prâ∫a, flow, go to sleep. Head filled with inner
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light, go to sleep.” The first thing you know, it’s morning. ¶The whole
dream and sleep world is very interesting. Often we go into inner planes
of consciousness at night. How do you know if you have been in medita-
tion all through the night, studying at the inner-plane school in higher
states of mind? You will wake up all of a sudden with no interim period
of sleepiness. You wake up invigorated. There you are, as if you came out
of nowhere back into external consciousness. Otherwise, you wake up
through the subconscious dream world. You feel a little off-key, and you
know that you have been in the dream or astral world or the realms of
intellectual aggressiveness much of the night. Striving yoga students do
go into inner-plane meditation schools for short periods of time during
their sleeping hours. This occurs when the mind is a well-trained mind, a
keen mind, a crystal-clear mind. ¶Perhaps by this time you have seen the
clear white light, or less intense inner light, and you have seen how crys-
tal clear and sharp it is. Each thought, each feeling, each action has to be
crystal clear and sharp to maintain and bring through a balance of your
consciousness to the external world. When this happens, you have con-
trol over these states of consciousness, so much so that you are your own
catalyst, and you can slide into higher states and out to external states of
consciousness without being disturbed by one or the other. ¶When we act
and react in daily affairs, we dream at night. We are living in the external
or the aggressive magnetic force, called piˆgalâ. Thus, we dream in pic-
tures. Should a yogî live in the passive force, the magnetic indrawn force,
called î∂â, he feels and emotes on the astral plane. He would have a fret-
ful, eventful night, an emotional night. He would not dream in pictures
as much as he would in feeling. When one is living in the pure spiritual
force, sushum∫â, the primary life force, he flows from sleep into medita-
tion. The meditator should strive to put his body to sleep consciously and
deliberately, after balancing the external and internal magnetic forces. So,
whether he is lying down in his body or sitting in the lotus posture, he is
in deep meditation, going to schools of learning and schools of spiritual
unfoldment within his own mind. In the morning, many of my students
remember inner-plane class activities which occurred during the night,
not as a dream but as their own experience. So, you can meditate while
you sleep, but don’t sleep while you are meditating!
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After you have practiced meditation for some time, your

Wednesday inner vision will become keen and clear. For a while there
LESSON 101
may be the feeling of arrival, that you have at last con-
Clearing the
Subconscious quered life’s cycles, that you are pure now and free at last.
But soon, layer by layer, your past will begin to unfold
itself to you as your subconscious mind shows you in vivid, pictorial form
all the vibratory rates you have put into it in this life. Like a tape recorder,
it begins to play back the patterns and vibrations of previous cause and
effect. ¶Since some of these memories and actions may not have been
complimentary, you may try to avoid looking at them. The more you
avoid facing them, the more apparent they will become. You might think
that everyone is seeing them, but they are not. This natural phase of spiri-
tual unfoldment can be a pitfall, for these associations and attachments
of the past seem temporarily attractive as they pass before the mind’s eye.
Old desires, old friends, old and comfortable habits you thought were
gone now come up to tempt awareness, to pull it back into a seemingly
desirable past. This event should not be taken too seriously. It is natural
and necessary, but you must avoid a fear of the process, which, in order
to stop the unpleasant feedback, often brings people to stop their efforts
at meditation. This is not the time to stop meditating. Nor is it the time
to avoid the past. It is the time to fully review each year of your life that
led you to where you are now. ¶As you remain inwardly poised, watch-
ing the images of life but remaining detached, they gradually fade away,
leaving awareness free to dive ever deeper into superconscious realms.
This sometimes intense experience brings you into renewed desire to live
the kind of life that does not produce distorted images. You become reli-
gious and consciously shape up your lifestyle according to the yamas and
niyamas, so that the reverberation of each action is positive in the sub-
conscious. You have seen the uncomplimentary results of living according
to the moods and emotions of the instinctive mind and the senses, and
that experience has taught a great lesson. In reviewing life according to
this new guideline, you may change your profession, your address, your
diet and values. You will undoubtedly find new friends, for it is essential
to associate with people that are of good character. Choose your friends
carefully, but don’t get too closely attached. People clinging to people is
one of the biggest deterrents to the life of meditation. ¶Generally as soon
as someone gets on the path and starts meditating, he wants to tell every-
one else how to do it even before he has learned himself. This socializing
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never produces inner results. Keep your meditation abilities and activi-
ties to yourself. Don’t talk about inner things with anyone but your guru.
When it comes others’ time to turn within, they will do so naturally, just
as you did. That is the law.
Good interpersonal relationships help the meditator a
Thursday great deal, and meditation helps keep those relations
LESSON 102
harmonious. When we get along nicely with others,
Conflicts with
Other People meditation becomes easy. If we have problems with other
people, if we argue or disagree mentally and verbally, we
must work exceedingly diligently in order to regain the subtlety of medi-
tation. Poor interpersonal relationships are one of the biggest barriers,
for they antagonize awareness, causing it to flow through the instinctive
and intellectual forces. This puts stress and strain on the nerve system
and closes inner doors to superconsciousness. ¶If we cannot get along
with our fellow man whom we watch closely, observing the expressions
on his face and the inflections of his voice, how will we ever get along
with the forces of the subconscious, which we cannot see, or the refined
superconscious areas of the inner mind when we face them in meditation?
Obviously, we must conquer and harmonize all our relationships—not
by working to change the other person, but by working with that other
person within ourself, for we are only seeing in him what is in us. He
becomes a mirror. We cannot allow the unraveling of the relationship by
attempted outer manipulation, discussion or analysis to become a barrier
to deeper meditation. Instead, we must internalize everything that needs
change, work within ourselves and leave other people out of it. This helps
to smooth interpersonal relationships, and as these relationships improve,
so does our ability to meditate. ¶Our nerve system is just like a harp. It
can be played by other people. They can cause many tones to be heard
in our nerve system. All styles of music can be played on a harp, but no
matter what kind of music is played, the harp remains the same. People
can do all sorts of things to our nervous system, and make patterns of
tone and color appear. This does not hurt the nervous system. It, like the
harp, remains the same. The same nervous system can be played by our
superconscious or by our passions. We can experience beautiful knowl-
edge from within, which is the outgrowth of good meditation abilities, or
experience a mental argument with another person. All tones are played
at different times through the same nervous system. We want our nervous
system to be played from the inside out through the beautiful rhythm of
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superconsciousness. This is bliss. We do not want to allow other people

to affect our nerve system in a negative way, only in a positive way. That
is why it is imperative for those on the path to be in good company.
Beginning to meditate can be likened to starting a long
Friday journey. The destination and the means of travel must
LESSON 103
be known before setting out. Meditation is an art, a defi-
The Journey
Within nite art, and well worth working for to become accom-
plished. Meditation is not easy, and yet it is not difficult.
It only takes persistence, working day after day to learn to control and
train the outer as well as the subtle, inner forces. We must realize that
meditation is the disciplined art of tuning in to the deepest and most
subtle spiritual energies. It’s not a fad. It’s not a novelty. It’s not some-
thing you do because your next-door neighbor does. It is sacred, the most
sacred thing you can do on this planet, and it must be approached with
great depth and sincerity. At these moments, we are seeking God, Truth,
and actually controlling the forces of life and consciousness as we fulfill
the very evolutionary purpose of life—the realization of the Self God.
Unless we approach meditation in humility and wonder, we will not reach
our goal in this life. ¶Now we are in a new age. Everything is changing.
Everything is different. We must believe that we can change by using our
powers of meditation, for we are here, on the surface of this Earth, to
value and fulfill our existence. Value yourself and your fellow man. Say to
yourself again and again, “I am the most wonderful person in the whole
world!” Then ask yourself, “Why? Because of my unruly subconscious?
Not necessarily. Because of what I know intellectually? Not so. I am the
most wonderful person in the world because of the great spiritual force
that flows through my spine, head and body, and the energy within that,
and the That within that.” ¶Know full well that you can realize the very
essence of this energy in this life. Feel the spine and the power within it
that gives independence, enthusiasm and control. Then say to yourself,
over and over, “I am a wonderful person,” until you can fully and unre-
servedly believe it. Lean on your own spine. Depending on the greatness
within is the keynote of this new age. Get your willpower going. If you
find an unruly part of your nature, reprogram it, little by little, using the
yamas and niyamas as your guideline. Live a dynamic, God-like life every
day. Dance with Íiva, live with Íiva and merge with Íiva. Get into this
area of the mind called meditation. Make it a fundamental part of your
life, and all forms of creativity, success and greatness will find expression
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in your life. Everyone is on this planet for one purpose. That purpose will
be known to you through your powers of meditation, through seeing and
then finally realizing your Self at the very core of the universe itself.
I would like to tell you about one of my students and
Saturday his experience with the discovery of the superconscious
LESSON 104
state of the mind. When I first met him, this young man
Inspiration
Unbridled told me that he wanted to be a composer, to write music.
He wanted to compose more than anything else in the
world. He had just graduated from a university with a degree in music,
and he had learned all the accepted, intellectual rules for the compo-
sition of music. But he wasn’t entirely satisfied with being told how to
compose according to certain mechanical laws. He wanted his music to
flow through him without a thought. One day I said to him, “Sit over
here at the piano and get in touch with your superconscious through
diaphragmatic breathing. Now, find a chord with your right hand. Write
it down. You are a composer aren’t you? You are a composer now, not fifty
years from now. The superconscious mind that you are contacting works
in the eternity of the moment, not tomorrow. Subconscious is yesterday,
superconscious is immediate, now.” So he wrote down the chord that his
fingers found. “Now write another chord,” I said, “and then another and
then another.” ¶We finished a page of music with the right-hand staff, and
I asked him, “What about the left hand? You don’t have a complete piece
of music with only the top bars filled in. “Well,” he said, “I would have to
work out the left hand according to what I have already written with the
right hand.” “No you don’t,” I replied, “Let the superconscious work it out
for you. Make your first chord with your left hand now, without refer-
ring to what your right hand has done.” He exclaimed that the sound of
the two hands together might be terrible, but I insisted that he continue
writing the chords with the left hand until the entire page was finished for
both hands. When I asked him to play what he had written, he laughed
and put his hands over his ears but obliged, “All right, if you insist….” “I
do,” I said. He played what he had written. It was a difficult piece of music,
but there was no discord whatsoever. I congratulated him, “Now you are
a composer. You created that piece superconsciously, without consciously
knowing how you put the tones together. But you had sufficient faith in
yourself to do it. In the same way, you must always depend upon yourself
in the eternity of the moment to be able to accomplish whatever you set
out to do.” ¶The next day, he was right on time for his appointment, and
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he wanted me to help him compose from his superconscious again. “No,”

I said, “I am not going to be a composing machine for you; you will have
to find your inspiration from within. It is time you put your yoga laws into
practice now and attain concentration and meditation.” He tried and he
tried, but somehow his subconscious kept getting in the way. It told him
he wasn’t a composer anymore. Then I realized that his present condi-
tions were a little too easy, and he was finding too much security in the
conscious mind. Since his next step was to stabilize himself as a composer
and find the ability at will to create inspirationally, I sent him on a very
difficult mission: to resolve the negative karmas in his subconscious that
were blocking his superconsciousness. As his major tool, I gave him the
mahâ vâsanâ daha tantra. I told him that he could not come back until
he fulfilled all the conditions of the mission and began to compose again
as he wished. He was reluctant, because he would have to leave all of his
current friends for a time. But being a sincere and determined student, he
went out and successfully fulfilled his mission. In the process, he had to
suffer through all of the things in his subconscious mind that had been
bothering him since he was a small boy. In doing so, he lifted many of the
blocks that had been a part of his subconscious for years, until one day
his higher faculties completely opened to him, and music poured through
him almost as fast as he could write it down.
There are many faculties of the superconscious mind
Sunday just waiting to be tapped by you. Only by tapping into
LESSON 105
and opening your superconscious, creative powers will
Exercising
Concentration you ever come to know and realize your real Self. It is
not difficult, but in order to open the higher or inner
consciousness, you have to gain a perfect control of the thinking faculties
of your mind. ¶Concentration has to be practiced and perfected before
meditation can begin. If you find that you are sitting and trying not to fall
asleep for a half hour, you have only accomplished sitting and trying not
to go to sleep for half an hour—and perhaps refraining from scratching
your nose when it begins to itch. But that cannot be called meditation.
Meditation is a transforming state of mind, really. A person once said
to me, “Well, I concentrate my mind by reading a book, and when I’m
reading, I don’t hear a thing.” This is not concentration, but attention,
the first step to concentration. Concentration is thinking about one defi-
nite thing for a given length of time until you begin to understand what
you are thinking about. What should we concentrate upon? Start with
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any solid object. Take your watch, for instance. Think about your watch.
Think about the crystal. Think about the hands. Let your mind direct
itself toward the mechanism of your watch, and then observe how your
mind, after a few moments, begins to wander and play tricks on you. You
may start thinking about alarm clocks or a noise in the street. ¶Each time
your concentration period is broken by a distraction, you must start all
over again. Breathe deeply and coordinate all the energies of your body
so that you are not distracted by an itch or a noise. Direct your awareness
once again to your watch. Before you know it, you will be thinking about
a movie you saw four weeks ago and living through all the fantasies of
it again without realizing that ten minutes of your time has gone by. Be
careful and gentle with your awareness, however. Bring it back to the
object of your concentration in a firm, relaxed manner and say to yourself,
“I am the master of my thought.” Eventually, your awareness will begin to
do just what you want it to. ¶Once you are able to direct your awareness,
without wavering, upon one object, you will begin to understand what
you are concentrating upon, and you will find that this state of under-
standing is the beginning of your meditation. You are more alive in this
state than you were in the noisy condition of your mind before you began
to concentrate, and you come forth from your meditation a little wiser
than you were before you went in. ¶The next state of consciousness, which
is attained when meditation has been perfected, is contemplation. In the
contemplative state of awareness you will feel the essence of all life pour-
ing and radiating through your body and through the object you have
been meditating upon. When contemplation is sustained, the final step is
samâdhi, and that is finding or becoming your true Self, which is beyond
all conditions of your mind, all phases of consciousness. Only after you
have attained samâdhi can you answer the question “Who am I?” from
your own experience. Only then will you know that you are all-pervasive,
and finally, in the deepest samâdhi, that you are causeless, timeless, space-
less and that you have been able to realize this through a balance of your
awakened inner and outer consciousness, a bringing together of the forces
of your mind in yoga, or union.
 Saˆkalpa Íakti Vardhanam
sa\k[lpaxai†vaDa*nama<

Harnessing
Willpower

O All-Knowing God, that powerful strength with

which sacrifice endows you, the strength of the sun,
the strength of the elephant, King among men—may
the two Spirits, garlanded with lotus, vouchsafe that
to me! Behold the elephant, best of all creatures to
mount and to ride! I anoint myself with his share of
strength, with his elephant splendor!
Atharva Veda 3.22.4; 6. ve, p. 344
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The primal life force ever resident within the body,

Monday emotions and mind of man is, when used or allowed to
LESSON 106
function, what I term willpower. Now we can see that
Awareness, Will
And Life Force the ever-present persistence of life force gives an over-
abundance of willpower and with it the ability to direct
it from deep within. This ability to direct the willpower is the jñâna, the
wisdom we seek. We have but two choices: to gain jñâna through learn-
ing the tried-and-tested, set patterns for living and conducting ourself
or, through assuming a relaxed approach of ignorance, be guided by the
“good” and “bad” and mixed emotional forces of the wills of others. There-
fore, the devotee seeks to gain the conscious control of his own willpower,
to awaken knowledge of the primal force through the direct experience
of it, and to claim conscious control of his own individual awareness.
¶Thus we can begin to see that our individual awareness, willpower and
the primal life force deep within body, emotion and mind are, in fact, one
and the same—that willpower, individual awareness and life force, their
habits and usages, are but various aspects. ¶You will notice that, through
our study together, these three aspects are referred to time and time again,
individually as well as collectively. However, in the study of yoga it is
important to keep in mind the totality of their sameness in order to fully
identify your personal and continued experience of yourself as a being
with unlimited will, constantly and fully aware of the primal life force
flowing through body and emotions, as you, awareness, travel through
the mind. This is the goal of the jñânî, the one who has attained to wis-
dom, to the acquisition of divine knowledge and the personal experience
of what he has learned. ¶A child in his early years becoming acquainted
with living with his family on this planet will show tendencies toward a
quiet, peaceful will or a provocative willfulness. The wise parent teaches
the culture and etiquette of the household and the community at large,
ever endeavoring to bring forth the inner knowledge within the child as
to the wise use of his willpower, guiding him carefully away from impul-
sive, willful behavior so that, little by little, he becomes responsible for
the action he causes, as well as its reactions. The unwise parent with no
particular cultural heritage, completely vulnerable to his own instinctive
impulses, overlooks this area of childhood training. Therefore, impulsive
Enlightenment takes enormous willpower. A yogî has moved into a forest among the animals.
Living simply, intent on realizing Paraßiva, Absolute Reality, he ardently performs his inner
disciplines, balancing the i∂â and piˆgalâ energies, symbolized by the sun and moon.
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willfulness bursts forth from within the children, cultivating abilities to

hurt themselves as well as others, and to upset the home, with no par-
ticular remedy in view. ¶This of course is the opposite to what we have
in mind to obtain for ourselves. It is the attainment of that ever-collected
mastery over our faculties through holding our inner perspective of them
that keeps a heavy reign over the aspect of awareness called willpower,
maintaining an even balance between the emotional-instinctive, the intel-
lectual and the spiritual aspects of our being. It is through the study of
râja yoga, while always holding a silent overview as to what you are learn-
ing and how it relates to your particular life patterns, that you will come
to know that an inner change is taking place. Harness the powers of your
will in the ways indicated. The reward is simultaneous with the effort
employed. The results are immediate.
There are basically two aspects to the force of willpower.
Tuesday One controls our external life in the world and with those
LESSON 107
about us. The other controls our internal life, strivings
Inner and Outer
Willpower and personal spiritual disciplines, or sâdhanas. The exter-
nalized individual, who throws his force totally into the
outer aspect of willpower, inwardly suffers nervousness, confusion and
the lack of self-mastery. The devotee who throws his force totally into the
inner aspect of willpower suffers total withdrawal from being able to face
and cope with the forces of the world at large. ¶It is the total willpower,
through both these two aspects of will, the inner and the outer, that the
devotee seeks to develop within himself, with an emphasis on the inter-
nalized, spiritual processes of his being, for he full well knows that only
in this way is he able to serve effectively in the world without being of the
world in any way. ¶Willpower developed in this way brings forth the com-
plete being of man to the foreground of himself. He no longer feels he has
to sit and meditate to leave one area of the mind, through detaching him-
self from that area because of his sense of dislike of it, in order to go into
another more desirable area. His free flow of awareness from the inner to
the outer is but a short distance, so to speak, when the fulfillment of his
sâdhana has equalized the forces of the totality of his willpower. ¶Only
the more evolved souls, through acute perceptions, can understand these
analogies without confusing them into prior conceptions they may have
had about the force of will. We must always try to grasp the totality of
what is being said, from the overview, rather than endeavor to hassle with
one individual concept or another. It is only through sâdhana performed
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regularly over a long period of time that any of this knowledge becomes
experiential reality in one’s life. The first sâdhana, therefore, is to always
hold the overview and cling in your memory to the intuitive flashes that
come as a result. These intuitive flashes come from deep within and are
the only thing that should be remembered, for this is your jñâna, your
insightfulness, your own wisdom, breaking through. ¶It is only when one
identifies his willpower as separate and a tool unto itself that he is able to
move into the next phase, of discerning the difference between the primal
life force within him and what it manifests. Then he can separate aware-
ness from these manifestations, for he has gained the intuitive knowledge
that he is the all-pervading life force in the universe. Once awareness
has attained individuality and the devotee becomes the onlooker rather
than identifying with what he looks upon, then he becomes full of the
substance of the totality of the primal force which he experiences as will-
power and is able to use this willpower in his daily life, which he experi-
ences as awareness flowing through the mind. This shows the evolution
of this awakening on the inner path.
In the beginning stages on the path, you will surely expe-
Wednesday rience your mind wandering. This is what “the mind
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wandering” means, that awareness is totally identified
Harnessing
Willpower with everything that it is aware of. This gives us the sense,
the feeling, that we are the mind, or that we are the emo-
tions or the body. And so, when you are sitting for meditation, myriad
thoughts bounce through the brain, and it becomes difficult to even con-
centrate upon what is supposed to be meditated upon—in some cases,
even to remember what it was. That is why the sâdhana of the practices
of yoga given in Merging with Íiva must be mastered to some extent in
order to gain enough control over the willpower and subtle sense organs
to cause the meditation to become introverted rather than extroverted.
¶The grace of the guru can cause this to happen, because he stabilizes
the willpower, the awareness, within his disciple, as a harmonious father
and mother stabilize the home for their offspring. If one has no guru, or
has one and is only a part-time disciple whose guru is a picture on the
wall, then he must struggle in his efforts as an orphan in the institution
of external life. I feel some of the basic tools to struggle along with are
clearly explained in this book, and every effort made toward the Divinity
of oneself only serves to bring forth blessings, which may not immedi-
ately be seen, but will manifest in years to come. ¶It is the regular practice
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of sâdhana that really counts, for the habit patterns of the subconscious
mind must be gently guided into new channels of expression. It is only
when this begins to occur that some results will be visibly seen. ¶Will-
power is first identified through the processes of self-control when the
devotee finds himself impelled by instinctive impulses into directions that
he has long since passed through and experienced. Thus, self-control, of
the appetite, the fantasies, the reactions, is diligently sought for through
performance of his sâdhana—chanting on the beads, performing regu-
lated religious routine and ritual during the day and various other more
personal disciplines given to him by his satguru. It is not without great
effort that this control of the little “self ” is attained. ¶The next challenge
then is the use of the willpower to control the intellect. A precisely con-
trolled intellect pierces deeply beyond the veil of words into the threshold
of spiritual experience. The noble devotee uses his willpower to discrimi-
nate philosophically as to the nature of his quest. It is the elimination of
words and thoughts, which are the intellect, that is his goal. He already
has a great deal of self-discipline through having conquered, somewhat,
the emotions and passionate instincts of his past. Now comes the more
advanced practice of prâ∫âyâma, the control of breath and inner direc-
tion of prâ∫a in transmutation toward the highest goal, of realization of
the Self, that he hopes one day to attain.
When one looks at the Earth and the Sun, one thinks
Thursday more of the Earth than of the Sun, which is so far away.
LESSON 109
Traveling through space toward the Sun, the Earth fades
Merging into
The Self God into a distant speck and one contemplates the Sun as it
looms larger and larger as he draws nearer and nearer.
There is no intellect here, you see, for the intellect is connected to the
Earth in its exterior ramifications of worldliness. The devotee’s path is
to merge into the Sun. The devotee’s path is to merge—in the totality of
his awareness, willpower and life force—into the Self, God, Íiva. Íiva is
the ancient name of the Self, God. Mystically, Íi is the Absolute state. Va
is the All-Pervading Self flowing through the mind. It is only when the
devotee, through yoga disciplines under the direction of his satguru, tra-
verses the thought strata of his mind that he begins to experience what
he has been learning philosophically. Then the Sun, his Íiva, the Self God,
blooms paramount before his vision. Earthiness, worldliness, humanness,
instinctiveness fade into a speck within his memory patterns; and like the
astronaut hurtling through space toward the Sun, awe-struck as to the
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impending annihilation of the remnants of his identity, the devotee pierc-

ing his inner depths awes at the magnificence of Íiva. ¶This then brings
willpower into its crowned usage. The transmuted force of the divine
will of the devotee compellingly guides the last remnants of intellect and
passions, and in total surrender, when confronted to respond, he voices,
“I know not. Íiva’s will be done.” The will of Íiva—the totality of all force
that is active, quiescent force and nonforce as found in Íi and Va—begins
to take over the dharma and the karma and floods through the being of
the devotee on the threshold of Reality. And so, while in a dual state of
assuming some personal identity, he states, “Íiva’s will be done,” as his
new and most refined sâdhana of giving up the last of personal worldli-
ness to the perfect timing of the infinite conglomerate of force and non-
force within him. This he says as a mantra unto himself when he sees and
hears in the external world. But when eyes and ears are closed, through
the transmuted power of his will he merges into the samâdhi of Va and Íi
and Íi and Va, experiencing Reality as himself and himself as Reality.
It is important to gain an intellectual concept of what it
Friday is like to experience through a prolonged term the deep,
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inner will of Íiva—for, granted, we are always experi-
The Two Great
Transmutations encing something. Therefore, it is easy to categorize in
one of three departments just where the impulses are
coming from that cause our motivations. Number one: the instinctive
impulses are from us and from others, and mainly concern our body and
baser emotions. These are easy to distinguish, as these impulses provide
most of the daily activities. Number two: the impulse to speak and to
think, begun through one’s own efforts or those of another. This is gen-
erally based on recurring knowledge accumulated in the past, churned
up through present observations and conjecture about the future. This
is also easy to distinguish, as these impulses generally fill any gaps that
the instinctive impulses have made in a typical day. We can easily see that
unless some break occurs, there is absolutely no room for number three,
which is simply for Íiva’s will to occur. ¶Therefore, the process is one of
breaking up the patterns of instinct and intellect, separating the impulses
of them both, through regular and regulated periods of sâdhana and med-
itation, so that the divine will, spiritual energy and infinite awareness can
filter in and cause a new intellect to form. Beginning the sâdhana, and
the continued practice, is the first sign that Íiva’s will is being done in the
aspirant’s life. New energy abides within him because of the transmuta-
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tion from the base to the Divine. New knowledge comes forth from within
him as he builds upon it through remembering his accumulated inner
experiences as if they occurred but a moment ago. ¶Should you wish to
separate number one from number two and experience the dominance
of number three, Íiva’s will, simply begin to say to yourself, “Íiva’s will be
done,” throughout each day as the occasions arise. Be careful to categorize
each impulse, so that it is clear to your intellect which category you are
aware in, just as by being more aware of the Sun than the Earth you begin
to forget the Earth and come to know the Sun. Íiva’s will is being done
always. By being more aware of the inner processes and impulses of will-
power than the outer configurations of other people, their thoughts and
feelings, you will soon live in the world contentedly and come to know the
Íi, the Absolute Self beyond all form, time and causation, and the Va, the
All-Pervading Self, as actinic energy permeating all form, and you will rest
blissfully in this new knowledge on your new intellectual threshold. “Íiva’s
will be done”—the first sâdhana on the path. “Íiva’s will be done”—the
last sâdhana on the path, after all others have been perfected.
You have, of course, comprehended something at one
Saturday time or another. You have a certain power of compre-
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hension latent within yourself, the power to grasp, to
Conscious
Comprehension encompass with the mind. It is an all-knowing state.
In spiritual unfoldment, thinking is not enough. You
have to comprehend the yoga path and the steps on the path. You have to
comprehend your own nature. That is why in the study of yoga we work
to clear the subconscious mind as one of the first steps. Then you can
comprehend the subconscious state of your own mind. When the sub-
conscious is comprehended, it no longer holds power over you. It does
not have the ability to influence your life by itself. Many people think
they comprehend things which they do not comprehend at all. Others do
comprehend, but they do not maintain a consciousness of their power of
comprehension, or a consciousness of what they have comprehended. By
not doing so, they become vulnerable again to the instinctive states of the
mind. By holding a consciousness of comprehension, on the other hand,
the higher states of mind, the realms of intuition and perception, remain
open while living in the everyday world, even while facing some of the
reactions of the subconscious. ¶There is a story told about a great spiritual
teacher, a satguru, who lived in India many years ago. In his small group of
disciples, two were in perfect harmony with the mind of their gurujî. They
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could easily comprehend everything that he had to say. The yoga master
used to send them on long trips, traveling all over India doing good for
other people. When they returned, they found they were able to grasp and
master even deeper actinic controls and laws and powers. The continuity
of consciousness does not stop. In other words, the continuity of spiritual
unfoldment for the chelas did not stop in the satguru’s absence. ¶How-
ever, other disciples who were not in absolute actinic harmony with their
teacher, even when they were with him, found that when they were away
from him for a few hours they would quickly lose their comprehension of
the spiritual path and teachings that were quite natural to them while they
were in the radiance of his vibrations. ¶Have you ever been with someone
and found yourself able to understand things of a deeper nature better
in his presence than when you are away from him? His actinic vibration
opened your actinic force field, harmonizing and quieting your odic forces.
Such people unfold in you a certain power of comprehension. But unless
it opens up your own actinic force field permanently, the power is really
temporary, and when you are away from the vibration, it closes up again.
Just so, the students who were in harmony with their Indian satguru trav-
eled all through India maintaining their consciousness of comprehension.
They were in full control of that power, for a jñâna yoga master, or satguru,
can effect a permanent actinic awakening for his chelas.
Students functioning odically and out of actinic har-
Sunday mony with their satguru found that they did not have
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control of the actinic power and had difficulty in main-
Continuity of
Consciousness taining the continuity of consciousness of the yoga path
and its teachings. Something went wrong. In realizing
this, these students wondered what they could do to regain and maintain
this awakening. They knew the laws of the disciplines, the practices. They
entered into concentration and meditation, and yet they were not able
to maintain their power. They discovered that it was the law of actinic
harmony in effect between themselves and their satguru that maintained
them as actinic force channels through a deeper state of comprehension.
By working with the law of harmonious flow of actinic forces, they would
have been able to enter into complete harmony with all states of their
own mind and those of their satguru, whether or not they were in his
presence. ¶This particular yoga master had gained a cumulative power
of actinic force within himself through his yoga unfoldment, enabling
him to hold the vibration of comprehension for his students. Because his
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actinic yoga students were in harmony with him, they were tuned into
his actinic force reservoir. The odic yoga students analyzed themselves
and found that much of the time they were not in harmony with the
satguru, that they were mentally criticizing him on worldly matters or
debating with him in a way which they did not think would make much
difference. And they did not use their actinic power to resolve these dif-
ferences. In discovering this, they went to the guru and said, “We have
realized something about the necessity of being in harmony with you.”
The guru said, “Yes, you have realized your own actinic force, and now I
am going to start testing you.” In his testing he showed them consciously
that they had been attached to their personalities and had not been able to
attain any realization at all, because of this attachment. ¶There are some
people who go after a job with the idea of working for advancement. But
after they are settled into the routine for awhile, they begin to lose their
impetus, their self-reliance. They begin to feel, “Oh, it’s too much trouble;
there are too many blocks in the way.” In their mind they keep working
for promotion, but never really get around to doing anything to advance
themselves. These yoga students were in the same predicament. They had
started their yoga training, and then became settled and comfortable in
it. They began to lose their impetus for unfoldment subconsciously. In
other words, they began to live instinctively, using only the odic force. ¶To
demonstrate the difference between the use of odic and actinic forces, this
Indian satguru began to test his students, asking them to do different tasks.
He would start them on one thing, and when they were in the middle of it
and personally attached to the doing, he would ask them to do something
different. The students found it very hard to drop one thing and go into
another because, involving themselves in odic power, they had become
egotistically attached to what they were doing, instead of just enjoying
the action. When the guru showed them how they were more interested
in and attached to material things than to awakening an actinic cognition
and comprehension of the truths within themselves, they were able at that
time to comprehend what he was saying. But the comprehension was pro-
jected to them from the guru, maintained by his own actinic vibration at
the moment of their harmony. They had yet to awaken this ability on their
own. ¶It is the actinic continuity of comprehension that is the important
ability to be awakened and maintained in this study. For instance, if you
comprehend formlessness, and then you find that you comprehend the
form of a particular experience, you have to maintain that comprehen-
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sion while you are going through your everyday-world experiences in the
external mind. In other words, you must become conscious of having
actinically comprehended something that is out of the realms of the lower
states of consciousness. ¶By holding your mind to one particular physical
object and seeing how long you can maintain this one-pointedness, you
are mastering the art of concentration, controlling the odic forces. You
will discover the consciousness of comprehension that encompasses an
entire principle, and eventually all the great yogic laws of life. Comprehen-
sion is superconsciousness, the actinic force flowing through the mind;
and maintaining the consciousness of comprehension is having conscious
control of the superconscious mind.
 Ånanda Jîvanam
AanandjaIvanama<

Life Is Meant
To Be Lived Joyously

Instill in us a wholesome, happy mind,

with goodwill and understanding. Then
shall we ever delight in your friendship
like cows who gladly rejoice in meadows
green. This is my joyful message.
Âig Veda 10.25.1. ve, p. 302
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Stress is a consequence of the technological age, and

Monday these days everybody is talking about stress. Stress and
LESSON 113
strains of a fast-paced and demanding modern age
Living
In Spirit affect every organ of the body. A calm mind, a peaceful
mind, is needed to encompass changing times. Times
are changing very rapidly. To cope with these changes, we have to rely on
ourselves to keep a balance of physical, mental, emotional and spiritual
life. Our religion has ways to combat stress and the diseases it causes,
ways to avoid the mental anguish which this fast-paced world brings
about. These pressures did not exist in the agricultural age. Things were
more relaxed then. All we had to do was plant our crops and wait for the
harvest. Plant and wait. Plant and wait. And in-between there was plenty
of time for religious activities. ¶But life in the technological age is a life
of constant work, constant activity, all of the time. So, we tend to set reli-
gion aside just when we need it the most. We have to rely on our religion
to keep a balance in our life. It is a proven fact that religious people can
cope with stress and strain better than nonreligious people. The answer
to stress is not to take a pill to be able to relax. The answer is not to give
up the temple, not to give up the culture, not to give up the scriptures
which put everything into perspective, not to give up the art of medita-
tion and the practices of yoga. ¶Spiritual things you must understand
with your heart, with your feeling. Feeling and thinking, working together,
give you that deep understanding that you need to cognize the wisdom
of the spirit. All you can do in living your life every day is to make today
just a little bit better than yesterday was. You will then have confidence
in yourself, so that tomorrow will be all right, too, and you won’t fear
the tomorrows. Why? Because in striving to make today the perfect day
of your lifetime, you bring through your spirit. You allow the spirit, God,
to permeate through all layers of your mind. ¶At our sunrise pilgrimage
this morning to the top of Mount Tamalpais we had over thirty devotees.
It was a beautiful, inspiring time. Let me explain to you just a little bit
what we were researching together on the mountaintop. Your thoughts
sometimes literally flood your body or flow through your body. Some-
times you find your thoughts spinning and jumping from here to there.
You don’t know where they come from, and they confuse you as they flow
Two devotees are take great joy in celebrating a village festival. Adorned with rudrâksha beads,
they walk bare-chested past homes with quaint tile roofs and elaborate pillars, one sounding a
silver-inlaid conch and the other playing the traditional South Indian m®idaˆga drum.
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through your body or your brain. Just as thought can flow through the
body, so can spirit, or God, flow through the intuitive, the intellectual and
the instinctive mind. When your thoughts flow through the body, your
body becomes either dejected and heavy, or light and happy, depending
upon the nature of your thinking. Affirmations can help you to improve
the patterns of your thought and feeling. You have to repeat certain affir-
mations for certain lengths of time to produce a certain result. Every
word—and the meaning of each word if you know the meaning—has
a certain vibration. As a thought goes into motion, it permeates your
nervous system and gives you a particular feeling. Just as your thoughts
and your words can make your body feel a certain way, in the very same
way the spirit, or God, flowing through the mind, can illumine and does
illumine the mind and purify it. ¶In facing your past, if your past is not
exactly what you would like to look at, and you look at it and still react
to it, you will create today as a day much worse than yesterday. You will
not be living the spiritual life. But if you seek first the spirit within you
each day, and make the day a little bit better than yesterday, you flood the
spiritual being of you, the real you, through the mind. And you wipe away
and clarify much of the past and bring much understanding through your
mind. ¶What is responsible for negative reactions of the subconscious
mind? Simply the transgressions that you have caused against the natural
laws of the mind, that’s all. If you transgress the laws of the physical body,
eat the wrong things, behave in the wrong way, your physical body will
suffer because of it. If you transgress the natural laws of the mind, hurt
another instead of help another, discourage instead of encourage another
person, then your mind will suffer. A part of the mind goes out of control,
and that is called being emotional. The emotions are a part of the mind
out of control. They gain a momentum of their own and eventually take
over the entire mind. But when the will of the spirit comes up and con-
trols the emotional nature, the emotions subside for a period of time until
they gain momentum again. This goes on sometimes all through life.
When you control your emotions, you are bringing
Tuesday through your spiritual being. It is only your spiritual
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being, your soul in action, bringing through the spirit,
Are You
Ready? or bringing through God, that can control the mind.
When you are living in an emotional state, you are only
experiencing the mind temporarily out of control. And like anything that
gains its own momentum, even if you do not control it, it will subside
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automatically after a period of time until it builds up again. This is all

caused by subtle transgressions of natural laws of the mind, in this life
and in previous lives. ¶There are many subtle laws. For instance, if you
are planning to do something for someone and then you decide for some
reason that you won’t, all of the spiritual power that you had previously
brought through from your spiritual being will be coagulated and blocked
by your hesitation. Then tomorrow will not be as good as today was. It
will be worse. ¶To keep your spirit flowing, always allow yourself to be in
the line of understanding. In other words, do not allow misunderstanding
to arise in your mind. Should misunderstanding arise, sit down, be quiet
and do not get up until you understand the problem. You might have to
sit for an hour. Instinctively your animal nature will not allow you to do
that, but if you use willpower and persist, tomorrow will be a perfect day.
Now, this is easy to talk about, and also easy to understand, but it takes
a very discerning mind, utilizing the power of discrimination, to master
these laws of the mind. ¶Train your mind to awaken the spiritual being.
This is as difficult to do as it is to train a person to dance or to swim, or to
accomplish any athletic feat requiring a highly trained body. You have to
always be the master, and be attentive to your goals in life. ¶What is your
goal in this life? Is your goal to sit and wallow in the emotions? Is it to
memorize a lot of things that different people have said so you can quote
from them? Or is your goal in life to find first your Infinite Being within
yourself? If you could only once gain just a glimmer of your true Being—
the spiritual Being flowing through the mind which you always thought
was you. Instead, you have things that you have to do that you haven’t
done, things that you will do, and things that you will not do, things that
you haven’t made up your mind to do as yet and things you thought you
would like to do but decided you wouldn’t do. All of this is going on as
a process within yourself, and it keeps you nicely confused. ¶A confused
mind creates the form to which you give a name, and you become Mr. or
Mrs. Somebody from Somewhere. You go along like that for years and
years until all of a sudden you drop dead and give up the physical body.
Then what happens? What happens to this mind that is so concerned
about “What will my friends think?” All of these various concepts that
make up your personality, when you lay down your physical body and die,
just what happens to them? Are you ready for that experience of death?
You should always be ready, especially nowadays when the opportunities
are so great. Always be ready, spiritually ready. ¶Are you spiritually ready?
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Have you done your duty to your family? Have you done your duty to
your temple? Have you done your duty to yourself? Or do you shirk some
of your responsibilities? It’s not up to your swâmî to know all those things
about you. Somebody once said, “Well, Gurudeva just knows everything
about me.” What good does that do? It’s up to you to take a running total
on yourself, daily, through feeling. You can’t do it through thought; you’ll
get all mixed up. Are you ready to become a spirit, a spiritual being, an
illumined mind, at the moment of death? Or at the moment of death are
you ready to become a completely confused, congested mass of gaseous
matter, which is what a confused mind looks like? These are vital religious
questions that the individual must face and find the answers to.
Ask yourself, “Have I followed all the good advice given
Wednesday me?” You come to hear my upadeßa. Your coming is the
LESSON 115
asking for advice. You get advice, and many of you ignore
You Must
Purify Yourself it and you have your own opinion. If you have your own
opinion, why come? Opinions are just of the instinc-
tive and intellectual mind. Most opinions are only moldy concepts! You
come to have your opinions changed. You come to have them changed
from within you through your own spiritual insight. But if you come with
the armor of your opinions, then you are very foolish. You might as well
stay home and live with your opinions, because there will be no spiritual
progress or unfoldment for you for many, many years, maybe many lives.
¶Ask yourself these vital questions. What are you going to do with the
past that keeps bothering you and sometimes makes today a hell on Earth
for you? It is really easy to transcend this state of mind. Just remember
and try to understand that the spirit within you flows through you, flows
through the mind, like water flows through the Earth. If you build bar-
riers, then you fight your own spiritual Being flowing through you. You
develop qualities of jealousy, hatred, anger, revenge, and malice. Negative
qualities are just congested masses of mind-stuff that are temporary and
do not allow the spirit to flow through. If you have negative qualities as
boulders in your mind, the spirit cannot flow through you; but as it tries
to flow through, it will automatically set a part of your mind out of con-
trol, and you will be emotional. You can’t help it. ¶So, you must purify
yourself. You purify yourself by being kind to others, being generous until
it hurts, being benevolent, being ready to serve at all times until you are
strained in serving. Put a smile on the faces of other people. Gain your
happiness and your positive states of mind by making other people happy.
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Negative people are always worried about themselves. Positive people are
concerned with the happiness of others. Be strong enough to understand,
and do not allow yourself to sleep at night until you have understood the
problems of the day. If you go to sleep with problems on your mind, you
will go into a confused state of mind, and you will toss around and later
say, “That is just the dream world” or “I had a nightmare.” All you did was
lose your consciousness in a troubled subconscious state. But if you prac-
tice yoga, and you sit and master each problem before falling asleep, even
if it takes you several hours, you will gain enough rest for the next day,
for you will have made this day a perfect day. ¶If you refuse to do what
you should do when you have the chance to do it, what hope is there for
anybody else who does not even know what he should do? If you resist a
spiritual life, possibly the responsibility for others falls on your shoulders,
because everything starts with the one and multiplies into the many. It
behooves you to understand very acutely and discriminatingly these basic
principles and immediately put them into action in your life. Seize every
spiritual opportunity you have to advance your soul, because when you
do, the reaction is glorious on you. But when you resent and when you
fight within yourself, the reaction is disastrous unto yourself, because you
lose the battle when you begin to fight your own inner Self. You win the
battle when you begin to express yourself spiritually, when you begin to
live with Íiva.
Shall we all close our eyes for just a moment and think
Thursday and feel what living with Íiva really means? When you
LESSON 116
are tired of playing in the emotions, that will indicate
Daily Mental
Maintenance that your soul is ready to take over and control the lower
states of mind. Íiva is always within you, always there.
Through silence, quieting your mind, you can become That which you
truly are and shine out through that which you thought you were. Your
experience will have a healing effect upon the mind and burn away the
past. Intensify the spirit within you and heal any wounds that the mind
may have. As Mother Nature heals the body, so does Íiva, the Self, heal
the mind. Give yourself in to the real you. Turn your mind inward. Turn
your will inward and live that glorious spiritual life and be ready as a spiri-
tual being to meet the experience of death. ¶Morning pûjâs are excellent
opportunities for you to practice self-discipline, to offer yourself oppor-
tunities to change, to alter the habit patterns that have been built into
your mind during the year. In these early morning meditations, you may
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learn to cease criticizing yourself and begin having a greater understand-

ing of yourself. When you learn to stop criticizing yourself, you are able
to appreciate the many experiences that you have been through during
the year, rather than regretting them. Regret possibly is an experience
more harmful than the experience you have been regretting. Some people
actually live by a righteous code of ethics which offers a justification for
constantly hurting themselves through regret, guilt or related emotions.
Through your meditation you will appreciate your experiences for what
they are—good or difficult. Simply make a resolution not to repeat the
difficult ones and have faith enough to correct what your experiences
have caused in the world as a result of your going through them. The first
step in learning to rejuvenate your mind is being able to look objectively
at your experiences. You will find this difficult to do, because you are
so closely associated and identified with your mind. The mind claims
you, and therefore you think that your experiences are the real you, but
they are not. ¶After your morning pûjâ, take five minutes to write down
on a piece of paper those things which disturb you. Write concisely and
honestly, without reason or justification, what is burdening your subcon-
scious mind. In doing so, you will release yourself from the reactions to
those experiences. Burn the paper in a fireplace or garbage can (not in
your shrine room), and realize that the experience is complete, finished,
except for the wisdom which you have now derived from it. You will find
that this practice, known in Sanskrit as vâsanâ daha tantra, does much to
make your subconscious transparent and give you a greater power and
control over your mind. Making the subconscious mind transparent is a
basic religious practice. Only when this is first done is it possible to make
progress in seeking God. Try now to find Íiva within you, the permanent
Reality that never changes. ¶Sri Ramakrishna, the great Indian saint, com-
pared the mind’s turning inward, seeking to connect itself to God, with
the image of a little boy holding on to a rope tied to a post. The little boy
swings on the rope and it winds him around and around the post. Then
he swings the other way, still holding on to the rope, and the rope wraps
him around the post again. The little boy represents man simply having
fun and enjoying the experiences of life. He is perfectly safe as long as he
holds on to the rope and the rope is connected to the post, for the post
is God, and That doesn’t move. The little boy we would call mind. The
rope connecting mind to God is the soul, the indomitable will. And so,
Sri Ramakrishna went on to say, if man turns his mind inward and keeps
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his mind looking within, he will see the reality of Spirit and the transient
nature of all of the mind’s activity. He may live in and enjoy the activity
of the mind and never be hurt or harmed so long as he holds on to that
rope, maintains his inward vision constantly and holds himself connected
to the permanence of his own Being.
When you have nothing in your subconscious that par-
Friday ticularly bothers you, it is easy to turn the mind inward.
LESSON 117
But if you are bothered or disturbed, the subconscious
To Realize the
Spirit Within acts as a barrier and makes it difficult to turn within.
When you try to do so, up from the subconscious come
all the remnants of the experiences which you hold on to through regret.
If this is the case, you will have one more experience to go through before
your mind does turn within. You will have to experience the understand-
ing of all your experiences—not through analysis, not through reason
(although the “whys” may come to you intuitively), but through the higher
experience of pure understanding. You will find it is possible to have an
understanding of yourself without going through the process of analysis.
¶A disturbed mind which is not permeated with Íivaness is strong in a
negative sense, strong in that it will keep you from the realization of God.
When the mind is disturbed, it is outwardly strong. The mind that is not
disturbed is inwardly strong. Your inner strength is always more depend-
able than your outward display of strength. When you have gained your
inner strength, you will be able to sit in meditation for at least a half hour
every day and practice being the guardian of every thought and the ruler
of every feeling within your body. If you do this, you will realize That
which is the center of your Being. You will be uplifted, elevated, through
the purification that you have brought to your mind. ¶Hold your con-
sciousness high, keep your mind alive and alert so that your soul is alive
and alert. You have heard me say many times, “Observation is the first
awakening of the soul.” If your observation is intense and accurate, your
mind is not bothered and you are not regretting things that have hap-
pened to you in the past. But people who have poor observation often
do hold on to their regrets, and they rationalize most of what happens
to them, putting the blame for their own experiences on someone else.
It is so much easier to close the door on these reactions and live more
like on a spring day rather than in the dead of winter. Life is meant to be
lived joyously. The awakened soul is a joyous soul with a positive mind.
The practice of observation will bring you closer and closer to this state
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of consciousness. ¶If you feel that your observation is not keen, begin
observing things more closely. Observe the different colors in a store win-
dow. Study the shadows and the shades of color in one tree. Listen to the
sounds of the city. How many can you distinguish? What do they mean to
you? If your observation is already good, you can participate more fully in
life and find yourself living above the dreary happenings of the day. ¶Rec-
ognizing that all experience is but a fading dream, you are closer to the
permanence within you that never changes. You can sense it. It is God. It
is Íiva. It has never changed. It will never change. You have all felt this per-
manence at one time or another, but then perhaps you find that you lose
this feeling, this consciousness, and you drift out into the mind and find
yourself thinking again that the mind is real. But then, maybe tomorrow,
you will face it again. And as soon as you have found it, you leave it again,
for the mind cannot bear the intensity of God, and you forget all about it.
But then, a little later, you face that permanence within you yet again. And
little by little you find that you are turning inward, opening up the inner
channels more and more each day, making a greater and greater contact
with God by turning within, drawing yourself ever closer to the pole at the
center, the core of your Being. You will go through many different tests to
prove your own realization to yourself. Face each test graciously. Welcome
each test, and welcome each temptation that shows you the strength of
your will over the chaotic senses. You have only to quiet all things of the
mind to realize your identity with the eternity of God Íiva, the spirit, the
Eternal Self within you.
When you die, you are freed from your senses. While you
Saturday are living, you are caught up in your senses and react-
LESSON 118
ing to memories of things you wish you had or had not
Overlapping
Reactions done. Many people live in a constant state of overlapping
reactions. They try to find peace of mind on the outside,
externally. Reactions are caused by what we have placed in the subcon-
scious mind that we have not fully understood. Reactions are packed away
in the subconscious mind, influencing our everyday life, attracting our
successes and failures to us. We keep meeting blocks because of our reac-
tions in the subconscious mind that we set up in the past. Overcome these
reactions, and opportunities will open up and we will begin to succeed.
Reaction is a natural thing, either positive or negative. If we are reacting
in a negative way, that is because of lack of understanding; if in a positive
way, that gives us more understanding, and we become our own teacher
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or psychologist. ¶If you do not understand your reaction to something,

wait until it subsides emotionally, so you will not be upset, then try to
understand it by writing about it in a quiet moment. Then burn the paper
in an inauspicious fire, such as in a garbage can. This vâsanâ daha tantric
process releases or detaches the emotion from the memory. This means
that the memory of the experience no longer harbors the emotion that
was previously attached to it and vibrating twenty-four hours a day. You
will still have the memory, but without a reaction or emotional charge
attached to it. ¶There are many individuals who get their security from
their reactions, who make themselves disappointed and keep themselves
in a constant state of emotional vibration. Peace of mind is not a blank
state. It is not having emotion attached to the memory patterns within the
subconscious. These memory patterns, once freed from emotion, remain
at peace, and then pure contentment resides through the entire mind. A
negative reaction can be likened to a fog over the city. You cannot see
clearly because of the fog. ¶When we react to something, how long does
it take before it subsides? How can we guide our lives so as to have only
positive reactions? We have to awaken a certain control over our nature.
We have to anticipate what is going to happen to us. Whether we admit
it or not, we attract everything that happens to us. What we react to, and
what we have reacted to in the past, we will create in our future. If we face
experience with understanding, we will free ourselves from recreating past
unpleasant experiences. Experience is man’s greatest chain. It holds him
in a certain pattern. The chains of experience get stronger and stronger
until man enters spiritual life through the realms of understanding. Every
man must decide whether he wants to be caged in by experience or be
freed by understanding the cause of the experience. ¶A negative reaction
may have been set up in the mind many years ago. How long does it take
to subside? In a person with some understanding, the initial reaction will
subside in a few hours, but it takes five to seven days before it subsides
enough for him to get a complete understanding. The average man reacts
to something every day. That’s what makes him average. A reaction today,
another one tomorrow, another one the day after tomorrow, then those
reactions are overlapping. To stop these overlapping reactions, we have
to sit down and face everything that we have created for ourselves in the
past and control our circumstances until the reaction subsides. ¶Be on
your guard. Control your circumstances and your life. Guard your weak
points with understanding, and don’t allow yourself to be put into a posi-
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tion where you will react. Then you can become fully conscious of what
is within you and within your fellow man.
Life must become positive. In reactions, man is not his
Sunday best friend. He is seeking outside for something to quiet
LESSON 119
his nature. He is carrying his reactions with him, keep-
How to Face
Yourself ing old habit patterns going. For a person to renovate his
subconscious mind, he must be willing to move out for
awhile, redesign, rebuild, redecorate, then move back in. This is a form of
spiritual discipline. Overlapping reactions are dangerous. Living in over-
lapping reactions and understanding nothing of how to get along without
them, because of no discrimination, makes man give up. ¶Overcoming
reaction is easy. You can wipe it out of your life and realize the benefit of
having done so. Sit down and think. Look at your life. Look at the ten-
dencies within your nature which created your habit patterns and which
formed your subconscious mind and gave it the foundation for many
more of the same old situations. The tendencies will be greater in each
succeeding situation unless you apply the brakes of understanding. If you
sit down and realize the law of cause and effect and live according to the
basic laws of life, you will overcome the reactions within you. You will be
able to overcome old reactions by understanding them. More realization
will burst forth from within you, and you will live a more spiritual life.
You can either walk through a city full of fog, or climb above it. ¶Think-
ing and believing clearly are only possible when a man knows that he
knows. When you realize something, you only know of your realization
after you have realized it, not before. Realization is your teacher. Realize
something every day, or something will block the subconscious mind.
The reactionary nature must subside. Its death gives birth to a greater
understanding. If you can live for three weeks without reacting to any-
thing, you will attain a realization. ¶If you simply remember this without
practicing it, you will not be helping yourself or anyone else. But if you
take the law and put it into practice, you will be doing something for
yourself and your fellow man, because you will realize a greater spiritual
power, a greater humility, and be the person you should be. Then don’t
react again. Discriminate as to each move you make, each word you say,
and decide whether there will be a reaction. If you can see ahead that you
will not react, proceed. Dictate to yourself, face yourself, face your mis-
takes and don’t make them again. Breaking spiritual laws creates reactions
in the subconscious, and man loses spiritual power. We can find actual
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peace of mind in a certain place, right here and now, within ourselves,
when we overcome reactions. ¶Let us look within and see if we are react-
ing to anything right now, holding any resentment, holding any fear. Let
us know that that is just a gauge of experience of the instinctive nature.
Loosen it and let it go. Mentally look ahead to the future and know that
everything we do and say will have a reaction. Let us give birth to good,
positive, controlled reactions, and be sure that if they overlap, they are
transparent—that they create a light growing brighter. Overlapping nega-
tive reactions bring darkness, depression, and make man nervous. ¶We
have been delving into our consciousness. If you have understood all this
about your reactions, your subconscious mind has been impressed. Look
into your mirror. Your reflection is your subconscious mind objectified.
Find out what is holding you back. Face yourself and find out what is
keeping you from expressing the great things which are within you here
and now. After all, life is meant to be lived joyously.
 Prâyaßchitta Íakti
p‰ayaiç{axai†

The Power
Of Penance

Vâsanâ is divided into two, the pure and the impure.

If thou art led by the pure vâsanâs, thou shalt
thereby soon reach by degrees My Seat. But should
the old, impure vâsanâs land thee in danger, they
should be overcome through various efforts.
Íukla Yajur Veda, Mukti Upanishad, 2. upa p. 7
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Vitalized by bhakti’s grace, a devotee’s conscience is

Monday aroused, bringing the desire to confess, repent and
LESSON 120
make up for misdeeds. Through divine sight, the soul
Means of
Atonement perceives unwise actions, performed when in the lower
nature, as a hindrance to spiritual progress. Tantras are
many to release the soul from these burdensome bonds. Penance well
performed propels the soul into its natural state of bliss. ¶Chakras look
like lotus flowers. There are four petals on the mûlâdhâra chakra, which
is situated at the base of the spine. These petals unfold one after another
as a person’s consciousness emerges upward from jealousy, anger and fear
into memory, reason and willpower. Only then awakens the conscious-
ness of religiousness and the ability to admit the existence of God and
angelic beings. This new humility causes the devotee to admit that grace
is needed to progress on the spiritual path and resolve unwholesome
karmas of the past, to admit that wisdom is needed to avoid making new
unwholesome karmas in the future. The four petals of the mûlâdhâra
can be described as unrestrained remorse, confession, repentance and
reconciliation. ¶All help is given by the divine devas to those who admit
their mistakes and are seen performing a sincere penance. These devas
that oversee those in a penitent state of mind are similar to doctors and
nurses gathered to help their patient become well again. The angelic help-
ers surround their “patient,” assisting in the relief of mental and emo-
tional illness caused by transgression of dharma and the guilt that follows.
When the penitent is undergoing penance, it is a form of tapas, described
by some as psychic surgery performed by the devas working together to
bring the soul from darkness into light. It truly is a happy event, but only
long after it is over. ¶When penance is given, it must be fulfilled, especially
when requested. Otherwise, the life of the penitent is vulnerable to the
company of asuras. Penance is given after a certain degree of remorse is
shown and the urgency is felt by the devotee to rid his mind of the plagu-
ing matter. Admitting a transgression, I have discovered, is often preceded
by one of three forms of denial: casual denial, soft denial or hard denial.
Say a boy steals some candy from a store. Casual denial is making little
of the matter, “Big deal! Why is everyone so upset?” Soft denial is ratio-
nalizing, “Yes, I took the candy, so what? It was only two dollars’ worth!”
The Hindu practice of penance is called prâyaßchitta. A wrongdoing has brought great suffer-
ing to a devotee. He confesses it to his satguru. After performing kavadi, carrying a special arch
with milk attached in small pots to a Murugan shrine, he gains karmic release.
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Hard denial is to say, “I didn’t do it. They have me mixed up with another
boy!” ¶We all know the refined, uplifting feeling of bhakti. Every religious
person in the world has experienced this at one time or another. It is the
total surrendering of oneself to God and the Gods. As the soul emerges
out of the lower aspects of the instinctive mind, the mûlâdhâra chakra
begins to unfold because of the bhakti that has been awakened through
daily worship and sâdhana. Admission and honest confession then bring
up repentant feelings through the subsuperconscious mind quite unbid-
den. When this happens within the devotee, it is truly a boon, marking
progress on the spiritual path. Confession, the voice of the soul, can now
be heard. As the intellect clears, the honest truths of experience, formerly
hidden to oneself as well as to others, are revealed. The soul, the con-
science, emerges in all honesty and remorsefully confesses the burdens it
has been carrying. Yes, confession is truly the voice of the soul. Nothing
is hidden to oneself when dharma supersedes adharma.
As a mature being in the higher nature, above the mûlâ-
Tuesday dhâra chakra, ever seeking higher plateaus through
LESSON 121
sâdhana, the Íaivite seeks peace whenever the mind is
Confession
And Penance troubled. How does such a Íaivite confess? How does
one tell of the reactions to misdeeds performed in all
innocence when but a child in the lower consciousness, living in the lower
nature, below the mûlâdhâra chakra? How and whom does one tell of mis-
deeds performed during a lapse of conscience, even when living a life of
dharma? A Íaivite confesses to God Íiva, the Gods or his guru. To confess
to God Íiva, go to His temple and mentally, psychically place your burden
at the holy feet of the mûrti in the sanctum sanctorum. To confess to Gods
Murugan or Ga∫eßa, go to their temple and place your confession at their
holy feet. Or go to your satguru and tell him of your inner plight, holding
nothing back. This is how a Íaivite confesses inner burdens as he emerges
out of the instinctive mind of the lower nature into the purified intellect
of the higher nature. ¶Yes, reconciliation is food for the soul. After the
soul has unburdened itself of the dross of the lower mind through honest
confession, a resolution must be made not to reenter the lower states or
rekindle the flames of the chakras below the mûlâdhâra. To achieve recon-
ciliation by apology for hurts caused another, or to atone by performing
acts of penance if a long time has passed since the apology could have
been made and received, is truly food for the soul. ¶There are many forms
of penance, prâyaßchitta, such as 1,008 prostrations before Gods Ga∫eßa,
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Murugan or Supreme God Íiva, apologizing and showing shame for mis-
deeds; performing japa slowly 1,008 times on the holy rudrâksha beads;
giving of 108 handmade gifts to the temple; performing manual chores at
the temple for 108 hours, such as cleaning, making garlands or arranging
flowers; bringing offerings of cooked food; performing kavadi with min-
iature spears inserted in the flesh; making a pilgrimage by prostrating the
body’s length again and again, or rolling around a temple. All these and
more are major means of atonement after each individual confession has
been made. ¶The keynote in serious cases is asking one’s satguru to give
a specific penance once the problem has been revealed. Once the satguru
is asked for penance, the penance must be performed exactly according
to his instruction. It should be done with full energy and without delay.
Deliberate delay or refusal to perform the penance shows the devotee has
rejected the assistance of the satguru. Further advice and guidance will
not be forthcoming until the instruction has been fulfilled. Therefore, a
devotee in such a condition does not approach the satguru. He may, how-
ever, beseech the guru’s assistance and continued guidance if he is in the
process of fulfilling the penance over a period of time.
The inner process of relieving unwanted karmic burdens
Wednesday occurs in this order: remorse and shame; confession (of
LESSON 122
which apology is one form); repentance; and finally rec-
The Esoterics
Of Penance onciliation, which is making the situation right, so that
good feelings abide all around. Therefore, each individ-
ual admission of a subconscious burden too heavy to carry must have
its own reconciliation to clear the inner aura of negative saμskâras and
vâsanâs and replenish the inner bodies for the struggle the devotee will
have to endure in unwinding from the coils of the lower, instinctive mind
which block the intellect and obscure spiritual values. When no longer
protected by its ignorance, the soul longs for release and cries out for sol-
ace. Prâyaßchitta, penance, is then the solution to dissolve the agony and
bring ßânti. ¶The guru has to know the devotee and his family karma over
a long period of time before prâyaßchitta is given. Otherwise, it may have
the wrong effect. Penance is for religious people, people who practice daily,
know the philosophy and have a spiritual head of their family, people who
genuinely want to reach a state of purity and grace. It is not for nonreli-
gious people. Just as in the Catholic Church, penance, to be most effective,
is given to you by the spiritual preceptor. It is not a “do-it-yourself,” New-
Age kind of thing. Those who try to do it alone may overdo it. It takes a
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certain amount of talking and counseling to gain an understanding of

what is involved. Before undertaking any of the physical prâyaßchittas, I
have devotees do the mahâ vâsanâ daha tantra—“great purification of
the subconscious by fire”—writing down and then burning ten pages
of memories, called saμskâras, good and bad, for each year of their life
to the present day. ¶Anything can be written down that concerns you:
friends, home, family, relatives, sports, TV shows, vacations, work, pas-
times, indulgences, anything that is in your mind. This may automatically
clear up events of the past. The idea is to remove the emotions from the
experience and bring yourself to the eternal now. Forgetting the past, con-
cern yourself with the now, move with life day to day and create a glorious
future for yourself and others. Also, I’ve experienced that sometimes just
making the confession to the satguru is a sufficient prâyaßchitta and noth-
ing else is necessary. What the troubled conscience thought was bad may
not have been bad at all, just normal happenings, but the conscience suf-
fers until that fact is known. ¶It is important to note that the vâsanâ daha
tantra must be done by hand, with pen and paper. Various devotees have
tried it on the computer and found it not effective. Writing is uniquely
effective because in the process the prâ∫a from the memory flows from
your subconscious through your hand, through the pen and is embed-
ded in the paper, bringing the memory out in the open to be understood,
defused and released when the paper is burned. Some devotees have also
tried sitting and pondering the past, meditating on it and even visualizing
themselves writing down their recollections and burning them. This often
does more harm than good, as it only stirs up the past.
Anger, I have observed, is the most difficult fault for peo-
Thursday ple to overcome, because it comes in so many different
LESSON 123
forms: pouting, long silences, shouting, yelling, swearing
Suitable
Prescriptions and more. Psychotherapist Ron Potter-Efron says in his
book, Angry All the Time, that there are eight rungs of
anger on the “violence ladder:” sneaky anger, the cold shoulder, blaming
and shaming, swearing, screaming and yelling, demands and threats, chas-
ing and holding, partly controlled violence, and blind rage. Some people
are just angry all the time because they live in the lower nature, con-
stantly engaged in mental criticism and arguments. Anger can eventually
be controlled by putting a sum of money—five dollars, for example—in
a jar each time one becomes angry and then donating that money to an
orphanage. It soon gets too expensive to get angry. However, for devotees
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who are wealthy, that doesn’t work. For them, I’ve found the penance of
fasting for the next meal after they get angry works. ¶The “flower pen-
ance” has proven useful especially to young people who have been beaten
and abused by their parents. They put up a picture of the person who
beat them—father, mother or teacher—and every day for thirty-one days
place a flower in front of the picture. While doing so, they sincerely for-
give the person in heart and mind. Some are able to see the experience as
their own karma. They forgive their parents and experience a great deal
of freedom. Others have so much hatred and resentment toward their
parents that they can’t do it at all. This penance has also worked for those
who have a mental conflict with their employer. There is a severe penance,
too, for one who beats his children. It involves private self-punishment
and giving public lectures against corporal punishment, as well as teach-
ing classes on Positive Discipline to the public many times throughout
the years. ¶For wife-beating, adultery and various collections of smaller
transgressions, I advise the traditional, age-old penance of kavadi, putting
small spears in the body, at least fifteen, and circumambulating the tem-
ple many times during a temple festival with the supervision of trained
priests. Wife-beating and adultery are very serious matters; they break up
homes astrally and often physically and create for the perpetrators a rot-
ten birth in the next life. To atone for all that is very difficult. ¶Without
resolve and remorse, no penance will work. People have an internal ego
and an external ego, and for many, one is quite different from the other.
For instance, someone may be smiling and joking all the time, but inside
himself be angry and critical of those around him, though he lets no one
see that he is. There are also those who are smiling and sociable on the
outside but crying on the inside over hurts and memories of things that
have happened in the past. The mahâ vâsanâ daha tantra—writing down
and burning all the emotion out of the memories of the past, the hurts
of the past, the good things and the bad things that have happened to us
since birth—harmonizes the internal and external ego so that we are the
same person on the inside as on the outside. When we write down our
hurts and fears and misunderstandings, as well as all the happy times, our
loves and losses, our joys and sorrows—and then crumple up the paper,
light it with a flame and watch it burn, thinking of it as the garbage of
yesterday—we detach the emotion from the memories. Almost magically,
the emotion that had held the memory vibrating within the subconscious
mind, perhaps for years, goes away in the flame. There is nothing left but
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the quiet memory. As a result, finally the soul begins to shine forth within
the person as the memory patterns of the deep past no longer bind aware-
ness. The inner and outer become one and the same. ¶It is very easy to
read the external personality of an individual by listening to what he says,
looking at what he does and observing his various forms of communica-
tion. The internal personality of the person can be read by observing body
language, facial expressions, movements of the eyes, movements of the
feet and hands, the way a person walks, the hesitancy before he answers a
question. All of this shows the workings of the internal ego, which gener-
ally blocks the natural joyousness of the soul. So, the first step in spiritual
unfoldment is for the individual to harmonize the internal and the exter-
nal ego so that he is a complete, integrated person twenty-four hours a
day, and nothing is hidden, even to himself.
The older we get, the more memories we have, and those
Friday memories contain emotion—both positive emotion and
LESSON 124
negative emotion. Emotion takes many forms. We can
Releasing
The Past have happy emotions, we can have sad emotions, we can
have emotions of depression, we can have emotions of
elation, we can have emotions of discouragement, we can have emotions
of encouragement. As you go over your life, reliving it year by year, writ-
ing it all down from year one to the present, ten pages per year, you are the
author of your own script. You are the star upon the stage of your own life.
You may run into happy emotion, discouraging emotion, encouraging
emotion. It’s good to get rid of it all. If you uncover a period of your life
that makes you depressed, then you have been carrying that depression
around with you for many, many years. Reliving the depression and the
unhappy feelings as you write about the experiences in detail and burn the
paper unwinds and releases the prâ∫ic emotional energy from each mem-
ory. You especially want to deal with the traumatic areas of the inner mind
and release the discouragement, the regret, the depression, the loss of faith
in humanity, the loss of faith in yourself and all those negative emotions
that you’ve been carrying for so many years. They will go away like paper
dragons. They will disappear. ¶You have three kinds of prâ∫a inside of
you: spiritual, intellectual and instinctive. When you think, you make or
cause a motion in that prâ∫a and create a form of prâ∫a. You speak, laugh,
cry, think and interact with others; all this is the use and movement of
one kind of prâ∫a or another, or a mixture of the three. In the inner mind,
the subconscious prâ∫ic forms have a color and a corresponding sound
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when they vibrate with emotion, not unlike a Technicolor production.

The purpose of this ancient tantra is to remove the color/sound from the
memory pattern so that the memory would appear as a black-and-white
silent movie when revisited, without the vivid, vibrating emotion. Your
life, in moving and creating with the prâ∫a inside of you, can be like
writing on water. An experience happens and it just goes away, without
residue, without attachment, without lingering emotion. Or your life can
be like carving in stone; each experience remains with you, embedded in
memory by the impact of emotion. As you look back through the pages
of your life, you want to melt the stone, break it up and make it go away.
That’s the whole idea, regardless of what the motion is of the mind. The
stones in your past are generally the surprise things that come along in life.
Living a routine life—you go to work and you come home, and one day
is pretty much the same as another—does not produce memories with
emotions so much. But then you come to a major change, such as moving
to a new home, or some new person coming into your life. That makes a
big impact, and you have to deal with it. Like many people, you may deal
with these things by packing them away: “I don’t want to think about that
anymore.” “I don’t like that person” or, “I like that person,” but you are
married so you can’t like him or her too much; so you just pack it away
and try not to think about it anymore. Those are some of the things you
want to dig up and discharge, to break up the patterns. ¶Each of us has a
story. You are the major actor on the stage of your life, playing the script
that you wrote. You are the director and you are the lighting engineer, the
stage manager, costume designer and make-up artist. When a particular
experience or pattern of experience is repeated over a long period, it cre-
ates in the sub of the subconscious mind a latent tendency or propensity
in that same direction. This is a vâsanâ, which may be positive, ßubha,
or negative, aßubha. A negative vâsanâ is like a subconscious motor that
makes you do things you later wish you had not done. A positive vâsanâ
brings success and good fortune. Through the vâsanâ daha tantra, we
withdraw the energy from the memories, and in so doing weaken, even
destroy, the pathways or vâsanâs that led us to the experiences that created
the negative memories and leave in place the pure, positive vâsanâs that
will continue to create a positive future.
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The mahâ vâsanâ daha tantra, a once in a lifetime experi-

Saturday ence, is the practice of writing down ten pages of memo-
LESSON 125
ries on lettersize lined paper (about ten words per line,
Spiritual
Journaling twenty-eight lines, totaling 250-280 words per page)
for each year of your life to date and burning them in
an ordinary, nonauspicious fire. To begin, put together a collection of
ten blank pages for each year of your life. Each page must be carefully
marked with the page number, the year and your age at that time. Then
set aside at least fifty pages for each of the other four parts of this tan-
tra. As you proceed in your journaling, you will find it necessary from
time to time to backtrack or jump ahead to a year when memories pop
up related to a certain period. In other words, it’s okay to write about
years out of order, especially when old memories arise naturally, but do
so on the designated pages. This is the reason for numbering each page
in the way suggested above. Each time a page on one of the years has
been completed, it must be immediately burned. ¶After your journaling
of ten pages per year is complete, there are five more steps, making six in
all. Step two, the “spot check,” is to scan back through the years of your
life and see if there are memories you missed in your previous journaling.
These, of course, would be the happy and unhappy experiences, and any-
thing else that comes to mind. The mere remembrance of an experience
coming unbidden proves there is still color/sound emotion attached to
it. Pay close attention to times when you did not apply the eternal laws of
karma, reincarnation and the acknowledgment that Íiva is everywhere
and in all things. Note the times when you blamed others for what hap-
pened to you, when you did not acknowledge all happenings in life as
your own creations accomplished in one life or another in the past. Be
honest here. It is important to acknowledge when we do and do not put
Sanâtana Dharma into action in our lives. Be honest; no one is looking.
You are the actor on the stage of your own experience, having written the
script yourself. Write down those experiences and burn them up as gar-
bage. ¶Step three is the “people check”—to write about each person who
had an influence in your life, including family, friends, neighbors, teach-
ers, co-workers and casual acquaintances. Write about your interaction
with them, happy times, misunderstandings, upsets and apologies. Ask
for forgiveness, forgive and give best wishes for a long life and positive
future. Call each face before you and write a letter expressing apprecia-
tion, dismay, hatred, anguish, misunderstanding. Get it all out. Don’t hold
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anything back. No one will read it. It is a letter you do not mail, e-mail
or leave lying around. Just burn it as garbage. The effect of the “people
check” is to harmonize the prâ∫as that flow from one to another. We are
all connected, for we are a one human race. Those we know and whose
faces and names we can remember are the closest, whether they be friends
or enemies. Sometimes enemies are closer, because they are thought about
more than friends. During the “people check,” bring up the love, the for-
giveness, the acceptance that whatever happened in the relationship was
part of the birth karmas, the prârabdha karmas, of each of you. Once the
letter or series of letters has been written, the memories fade into the
silent, colorless past. Then you should truly be able to bring up each face
in your mind and mentally say the six magic words, the magic mantra, “I
love you. You love me.”
Step four is “sex check”—to go over any past sexual expe-
Sunday riences, including visual images such as pornography in
LESSON 126
adult movies, on the Internet, television or in magazines,
Three More
Steps to Clarity dreams and fantasies. This is quite an obsession for some
people, often called an addiction. Also be sure to write
about youthful experimentation and, yes, masturbation and the thoughts
before, during and afterwards. Include sexual repressions, regrets that you
have had throughout your life up to the present day, especially any that
are currently bothering you, then write them down and burn the emotion
out of the memories as the garbage of the mind. This area is very impor-
tant, as repeated experiences that have produced guilt or ended in sadness,
and those that no one knows about but you and your partner—and happy,
satisfying, longing-to-be-repeated experiences—do leave colorful memo-
ries. Some are brightly colored and sing happy songs in the memory pat-
terns, while others are bathed in darkness and resound with dull tones.
Both need to be reduced to black-and-white pictures. The modern notion
of “Let’s put this behind us and go on with life’’ is held hostage here as
color/sounds pile up in the inner aura and inhibit creativity, productivity,
energy flows and even health. The “sex check’’ should be written in many
pages of explicit detail, including letters to the partner or partners, which
are not saved or mailed, of course, but immediately burned. Be open and
honest with yourself; you may be writing the best porno novel of all times.
Include on your last page of “sex check” some new resolves for the future
in regard to sexual matters. ¶Step five, the “teacher check,” is to write
about your relationship with your satguru, teachers, mentors or advi-
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sors, including your first meetings, initiations, encounters, instructions

and any misunderstandings, large or small. Again, letters may be written,
descriptions in detail, about whatever need be said. Of course, the per-
son’s face and name should always be present in your mind when writing,
as if a conversation were being held. Appreciation can be shown that was
never shown, misunderstandings settled and hurts on both sides healed.
As you complete each writing session, burn the pages as garbage. ¶The
sixth stage is the “penance check.” Penance, prâyaßchitta, is of three kinds:
mental, emotional and physical. In completing parts one through five of
this tantra, you have completed the mental and emotional prâyaßchitta.
Now we must deal with the physical in a different way. There will be a
few emotional memories that writing will never cause to go away, such as
not paying full taxes several years ago, stealing something, killing birds or
animals for sport, or beating children, wives or husbands. These and other
transgressions require resolution through actually physically doing some-
thing to mitigate these karmas made in this life. You can not write them
away. Should there be in your life any of these kinds of experiences that
require a physical prâyaßchitta, tell your spiritual teacher about them, and
if ordained to do so, he or she will give you a penance to perform to put to
rest those specific karmas. If I, or a satguru successor of my lineage, hap-
pen to be your satguru, write a letter of rededication and mail or e-mail
it to [email protected] before beginning this sixth and final stage of the
mahâ vâsanâ daha tantra. ¶After these six steps of the mahâ vâsanâ daha
tantra have been completed, rejoice. Now you are ready to begin the seri-
ous practice of traditional meditation, as you dance with Íiva, live with
Íiva and merge with Íiva. ¶The mahâ vâsanâ daha tantra is a once-in-a-
lifetime experience. Thereafter, you continue your subconscious spiritual
journaling, vâsanâ daha tantra, when needed to maintain the clarity and
inner freedom that you have achieved. I encourage everyone to write at
least ten pages at the end of every year about the just-completed year in
the same way, ten pages for the year, followed by the other steps, includ-
ing the sixth one. This annual journaling is called the vatsarika vâsanâ
daha tantra. ¶Those who have performed and continue to perform this
lifetime, yearly and when-needed sâdhana have testified to remarkable
transformations. They find that they are free of burdens, clear of mind,
joyously alive in the eternal now, eager to serve and able to enjoy sublime,
penetrating meditations. Unlike before, their past is now small and their
future, once limited, looms large and inviting. They enjoy new-found har-
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mony with family and friends. They find it easy and natural to fulfill the
Hindu restraints and observances, the yamas and niyamas. Why? They are
not burdened by vâsanâs created by past experiences that have not been
understood, resolved and released. ¶Of course, at the time of death it is
the memories of all the emotional happenings that pop up before one’s
inner vision, and which have the power to bring you back in a future birth
to be faced. Those that have been resolved and released in understand-
ing are no longer strong in the mind. So, you are effecting a near-death
experience, in a sense, upon yourself by doing this tantra, because you
are putting to rest the memories of the past that you might not otherwise
face until you actually die. This doesn’t mean that you forget your past.
It just isn’t bothersome to you anymore. It seems almost as though it all
happened to someone else.
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When the soul gradually reduces and then stops altogether its
participation in darkness and inauspicious powers, the Friend of the
World, God, reveals to the soul the limitless character of its knowledge
and activity. M®igendra Ågama, Jñâna Pâda 5.a1. ma, p. 138

O God, grant us of boons the best: a mind to think and a smiling love,
increase of wealth, a healthy body, speech that is winsome and days that
are fair. Âig Veda 2.21.6. ve, p. 191

O self-luminous Divine, remove the veil of ignorance from before me,

that I may behold your light. Reveal to me the spirit of the scriptures.
May the truth of the scriptures be ever present to me. May I seek day
and night to realize what I learn from the sages.
Rig Veda, Aitareya Upanishad, Invocation. upr, p. 95

O earthen vessel, strengthen me. May all beings regard me with friendly
eyes! May I look upon all creatures with friendly eyes! With a friend’s
eye may we regard each other! Íukla Yajur Veda 36.18. ve, p. 342

There are five great sacrifices, namely, the great ritual services: the
sacrifice to all beings, sacrifice to men, sacrifice to the ancestors,
sacrifice to the Gods, sacrifice to Brahman.
Íukla Yajur Veda, Íatapatha Brâhma∫a 11.5.6.1. ve, p. 394

The world of Brahman belongs only to those who find it by the practice
of chastity and the study of Brahman. For them there is freedom in all
the worlds. Sâma Veda, Çhândogya Upanishad 8.4.3. ve, p. 638

What people call salvation is really continence, for through continence

man is freed from ignorance. And what is known as the vow of silence,
that too is really continence. For a man through continence realizes the
Self and lives in quiet contemplation.
Sâma Veda, Çhândogya Upanishad 8.5.1. upp, p. 123

Maintaining the austerity of silence, facing east or north, having full

control over the system of inhalation and exhalation and the air of
prâ∫a, he should recite the Pañchâkshara hymn and meditate.
Chandrajñâna Ågama, Kriyâpâda 8.54-55 cj, p. 80
VERSES FROM SCRIPTURE 235

O Agni, since we are kindling the fire of the Spirit through tapas, may
we be dear to the Veda, long-lived and bright in intellect.
Atharva Veda 7.61.1. bo hv, p. 71

Like butter hidden in milk, true knowledge dwells in all that lives; ever
with mind as the churning rod, everyone should churn it out in himself.
Using the whirling rope of knowledge, one should obtain, like fire by
friction, that partless, stainless silence; “I am Brahman,” as it’s said.
Atharva Veda, Brâhmabindu Upanishad 20–21. upb, p. 690

Say not, “This poor man’s hunger is a heaven-sent doom.” To the well-
fed, too, comes death in many forms. Yet the wealth of the generous
giver never dwindles, while he who refuses to give will evoke no pity.
Âig Veda 10.117. 1. ve, p. 850

In vain the foolish man accumulates food. I tell you, truly, it will be his
downfall! He gathers to himself neither friend nor comrade. Alone he
eats; alone he sits in sin. The ploughshare cleaving the soil helps satisfy
hunger. The traveler, using his legs, achieves his goal. The priest who
speaks surpasses the one who is silent. The friend who gives is better
than the miser. Âig Veda 10.117. 6–7. ve, p. 851

Against fear, against anger, against sloth, against too much waking, too
much sleeping, against too much eating, not eating, a yogin shall always
be on his guard. Atharva Veda, Am®itabindu Upanishad 27. upb, p. 696

Lightness, healthiness, steadiness, clearness of complexion, pleasant-

ness of voice, sweetness of odor, and slight excretions—these, they say,
are the first results of the progress of yoga.
K®ish∫a Yajur Veda, Ívetâsvatara Upanishad 2.13. upr, p. 723

The word Nâma˙ should be put first, then the word Íivâya. This is
called the knowledge of Pañchâkshara, the greatest among the hymns
of the scriptures. In short, the wisdom of Pañchâkshara is the matrix
of all ßabda (word). This wisdom, which emanated from the mouth of
Íiva, expresses the very nature of Íiva Himself.
Chandrajñâna Ågama, Kriyâpâda 8. 5-6 cj, p. 72-73
Dhârmika Jîvanam
Daaima*k[ jaIvanama<

part two
Living
Dharmically
Ya˙ Kara˙ Dolâμ Châlayati, Sa˙ Eva Jagat Pâlayati
ya: k[r: daelaa\ caalayaita M sa: /va jagata< paalayaita

The Hand that

Rocks the Cradle
Rules the World
May there be the woman at home with husband
and children. May there be born to the worshiper
heroic youths with the will to victory, the best
of chariot-fighters, fit to shine in assemblies.
Yajur Veda 22.22. hv, p. 161
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Anbe Sivamayam Satyame Parasivam! “God Íiva is

Monday Immanent Love and Transcendent Reality!” This morn-
LESSON 127
ing we are going to talk about a vast subject, one that
Women’s
Liberation is important to every Hindu family: strî dharma, the
dharma of the Hindu wife and mother. In Sanskrit strî
means “woman.” Dharma is a rich word which encompasses many mean-
ings: the path to God Íiva, piety, goodness, duty, obligation and more.
Strî dharma is the woman’s natural path, while purusha dharma, we can
say, is the man’s. ¶There is much controversy about the role of the woman
in society these days. In the West, a strong women’s liberation movement
has been at work for many years, and now there has arisen an equally
vigorous opposition which defends traditional values. The struggle for
women’s liberation has affected women the world over—in India, Iran,
Europe, Japan and elsewhere. In North America, I began a campaign
informally called the Hindu Women’s Liberation Movement. It is not
what you might expect. Its purpose is to liberate our Hindu women from
the liberators, to save them from worldliness and to allow them to fulfill
their natural dharma as mother and wife. ¶For a religious woman, being
liberated starts with resigning from her job and coming home. Once she
is home, she is liberated and liberated and liberated. Working in the world
keeps her in the outer dimensions of consciousness, while being at home
allows her to live in the depth of her being. I have seen this work many
times. There are so many distractions and influences in the world today
that divert women away from being a wife and mother. In the West a
woman is a wife first and a mother second, but in the East her traditional
duties as a mother are foremost. She is trained from early childhood
in the arts of homemaking, trained by her mother who was trained in
exactly the same way by her mother, and so on right down through his-
tory. It’s an old pattern. ¶The Hindu woman is looked upon as most pre-
cious. Two thousand years ago Saint Tiruvalluvar observed: “What does a
man lack if his wife is worthy? And what does he possess if she is lacking
worth?” (Tirukural 53) There is more respect in the East for women and
for their role in society. Here in the West, the woman is not fully appreci-
ated. Her contribution is underrated and misunderstood. In fact, this is
one of the reasons she seeks fulfillment and recognition in other spheres,
An infant rests safely in an Indian-style wooden cradle, swinging on ropes suspended from
above. His mother’s hand rocks him to sleep. Loving maternal hands around the world, in every
culture, quietly mold the future of the human race.
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because Western society has become oblivious of her unique and vital role.
Abused by neglect and disregard, she seeks other avenues where she may
be appreciated, recognized and rewarded.
Don’t forget that in the East the ties of the extended fam-
Tuesday ily are traditionally very close. Women live in a commu-
LESSON 128
nity, surrounded by younger and older women, often
Masculine
And Feminine living in the same house. They enjoy a rewarding life
which includes helping the younger ones and being
helped by those who are more mature. Several generations work together
in sharing the joys as well as the burdens of household culture. It is differ-
ent in the West. Women here usually do not have the advantages of close
association with other family members. Naturally, they become a little
lonely, especially if they do not have a religious community of friends.
They get lonely and want to get out in the world and enjoy life a little. This
is another reason women leave the home. It is very unfortunate. ¶In the
East there is a better balance of the masculine and feminine forces. In the
West the masculine is too strong, too dominant. The feminine energies
need to be allowed greater expression. But that does not mean women
should start doing what men do. No. That only confuses the forces more.
A better balance must be found. In Asia the woman is protected. She is like
a precious gem. You don’t leave it unattended. You protect it, you guard
it well because you don’t wish to lose it. Hindu women are guarded well.
They are not allowed to become worldly. They are not exposed to the looks
and thoughts of a base public, nor must they surrender their modesty to
contend in the tough world of business affairs. She can be perfectly femi-
nine, expressing her natural qualities of gentleness, intuitiveness, love and
modesty. The home and family are the entire focus of a Hindu woman’s
life. ¶Many of you here this morning are too young to know that this was
also the prevalent pattern in America up to World War II, which started
in 1939. Before World War II, Western women were very much reserved
in public appearances and were nearly always chaperoned. It was that war
that broke down the ancient roles of men and women. The men were
taken away from industry by the army, and women were forced out of the
home into the factories and businesses so that production could continue.
Earlier they had been protected, seldom seen unaccompanied in public.
Throughout history, women had been the caretakers of the home and
the defenders of virtue. They valued their purity, their chastity, and were
virgins when they married. Many people don’t know that the old values
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were upheld quite strictly until 1940 or so. Then the Second World War
broke up the family and disturbed the balance between men and women.
For the first time, women were seen alone in public. For the first time,
they left the home and competed with men for their jobs.
I speak often of the change humanity is going through
Wednesday in moving out of the agricultural era and into the tech-
LESSON 129
Society in
nological age. This change has affected the dharma of
Transition the woman and the dharma of the man in an interesting
way. During the tens of thousands of years of the agri-
cultural age, families lived and labored mostly on farms or in craft guilds.
The entire family worked on the farm. The men all worked in the fields;
the women and children mostly worked in the home. Children were a
great asset. More children meant more help, a bigger farm, more wealth.
There were many chores that a young boy or girl could do. When harvest
time came, everyone joined in. It was a one team, and everyone contrib-
uted. When the crop was sold, that was the income for a combined effort
from all members—men, women and even children. In a very real sense,
everyone was earning the money, everyone was economically important.
¶With the onset of the technological era, only the man of the house earns
the family income. Everyone else spends it. The husband goes to work in
a factory or large company office while his wife and children stay at home.
There is not much they can do to help him during the day with his work.
His work and his wife’s are not as closely related as in the old days. He
is the provider, the producer now; she and the children are consumers.
Because the children cannot help much, they have become more of an
economic liability than an asset. This, coupled with the population prob-
lems on the Earth, devalues the economic importance of the woman’s
traditional role as wife and mother. Whereas raising children and taking
care of the farmhouse used to be a woman’s direct and vital contribution
toward the family’s livelihood and even the survival of the human race,
today it is not. Whereas they used to be partners in a family farm business,
today he does all the earning and she feels like a dependent. The answer
is not to have women join their men in the factories and corporations.
The answer is to bring traditional religious values into the technological
era, to find a new balance of karma that allows for the fulfillment of both
the man’s and the woman’s dharma. ¶When young couples marry, I help
them write down their vows to one another. He must promise to support
her, to protect her, to give her a full and rewarding life. She must promise
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to care for him, to manage the home, to maintain the home shrine and to
raise fine children. I ask them each to respect the other’s realm, to never
mentally criticize the other and to make religion the central focus of their
life together. I ask the young bride to stay at home, to be a little shy of
involvement in the world. I instruct the young husband to provide for her,
throughout her life, all that she needs and all that she wants.
A mother’s place is within the home and not out in the
Thursday world working. When she is in the home all day, she
LESSON 130
brings love and security to the children, sensitivity and
Working in
The World stability to the husband. By raising her children, she
changes the course of history. How does she do that? She
raises strong children, good and intelligent children. They will grow up to
be the great men and women in the community, the leaders of the nation.
They will be the worthy farmers, artists, businessmen, the teachers, the
doctors, the lawyers, the architects, the presidents and, most importantly,
the spiritual leaders. They will be the good mothers, the homemakers
and child-raisers, scientists and inventors, pioneers and poets, artists and
sculptors and creators in all dimensions of life. It is such men and women
who change the course of human history. This is the great power held by
the mother and by no one else: to properly mold the mind and character
of her children. And she trains her daughters to do the same by exam-
ple and gentle guidance. ¶Of course, she also holds the opposite power,
expressed through neglect, to allow her children to grow up on their own,
on the streets where they will learn a base life. Such children will as surely
change society and human history, but negatively. They will be the com-
mon men and women, or fall into mental and emotional abysses, there to
express the instinctive nature and become the exemplars of violence and
lust, of dependence and crime. The very direction of mankind is right
there in the early years, to be turned toward a great potential through
love and attentiveness or allowed to decay through neglect. The mother
is the child’s first guru, and she alone can shape the mind in those impres-
sionable years. So, you can all see the truth in the old saying: “The hand
that rocks the cradle rules the world.” ¶Take the case of a mother who is
at home every day, morning and night, attending to her children. As she
rocks the cradle, her love and energy radiate out to the infant, who then
feels a natural peacefulness and security. She has time for the child, time
to sing sweet lullabies and console when the tears come, time to teach
about people, about the world, about the little things in growing up, time
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to cuddle for no reason except to express her love. On the other hand, the
working mother has no time to do extra things. When the infant cries, she
may, out of her own frustrations of the day, become impatient and scold
him, demanding that he keep quiet. “I told you to be quiet!” she shouts.
The infant doesn’t even understand the language yet. You can imagine
this helpless child’s feelings as he receives an emotional blast of anger and
frustration directed toward his gentle form. Where is he to turn? He can-
not find refuge even in his mother’s arms. ¶What will the next generation
be like if all the children are raised under such circumstances? Will it be
strong and self-assured? Will it radiate kindness to others, never having
had kindness given to it? Will it be patient and understanding? No. It is a
proven fact that most prison inmates were seriously neglected or beaten
as children. It is also a proven fact that nearly all parents who mistreat
their children were themselves mistreated by their parents. Unless moth-
ers care for and love their children, society will inherit an entire genera-
tion of frustrated adults who were once frustrated children. These will
later be the people who rule the world. Then what happens? They in
turn raise their children in the same manner, for that is the only example
of parenthood they have. They will think that neglect is natural, that
children can get along on their own from an early age or be raised by
a governess or nurse or at a day-care center. It’s a circle: a childhood of
neglect produces a bitter adult life; a childhood of love and trust produces
a loving and happy adult life.
We learn so many important things from the mother.
Friday This learning is not just from the things she explains to
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us, but from the way she lives her life. If she is patient,
The Psychic
Force Field we learn patience. If she is angry and unhappy, then we
learn to be angry and unhappy. How wonderful it is for
a mother to be in the home and give her children the great gifts of life
by her example. She can teach them so many things, bring them into
profound understandings about the world around them and offer them
basic values and points of view that will sustain them throughout their
life. Her gift of love is directly to the child, but indirectly it is a gift to all
of humanity, isn’t it? A child does not learn much from the father until he
is older, perhaps eight or nine, or ten years of age. ¶We have a book in our
library which describes a plan made by the Christians to destroy Hindu-
ism in Sri Lanka and India. One of their major tactics is to get the Hindu
women out of their homes and working in the world. They knew that the
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spiritual force within the home is created by the unworldly woman. They
knew that a secure woman makes for a secure home and family, a secure
husband and a secure religion. They knew that the Hindu woman is the
key to the perpetuation of Hinduism, as long as she is in the home. If the
woman is in the home, if she is happy and content and the children are
nurtured and raised properly, then the astral beings around the home will
be devonic, friendly and beneficial. But if she is out of the home and the
husband is out of the home, the protective force-field around the home
disintegrates, allowing all kinds of astral asuric beings to enter. Such a
neglected home becomes inhabited by base, asuric beings on the lower
astral plane. You cannot see these beings, but they are there, and you can
sense their presence. Things just don’t feel right in a home inhabited by
negative forces. You have the desire to leave such a home as soon as you
enter it. The children absorb these vibrations, these feelings. Children
are open and psychically sensitive to such influences, with little means of
self-protection. They will become disturbed, and no one will know the
reason why. They will be crying and even screaming. They will be con-
stantly disobedient. Why should they become disobedient? Because there
is no positive, protective force field of religion established and upheld by
the mother. This leaves the inner force field vulnerable to negative and
confusing forces of all kinds, especially in modern, overpopulated cities
where destructive psychic influences are so strong. These negative vibra-
tions are penetrating the inner atmosphere of the home, and the children
are psychic enough to pick them up and suffer.
Religion begins in the home under the mother’s influ-
Saturday ence and instruction. The mother goes to the temple to
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get strong. That is the reason Hindus live near a temple.
People Caring
For People They go to the temple to draw strength from the ßakti
of the Deity, and they return to the home where they
maintain a similar vibration in which to raise the next generation to be
staunch and wonderfully productive citizens of the world, to bring peace
on Earth, to keep peace on Earth. There is an ancient South Indian prov-
erb which says one should not live in a city which has no temple. ¶If a
child is screaming in its cradle, and the babysitter is yelling at him and
couldn’t care less about his feelings, and the mother is out working, that
child is not a candidate for keeping peace on Earth. That child is going
to keep things confused, as they are today. So, it’s all in the hands of the
mother; it’s not in the hands of the father. Religion and the future of soci-
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ety lie solely in the hands of the mother. It is in the hands of the father
to allow or not to allow the mother to be under another man’s mind out
in the world. ¶Just as World War II took women out of the home, so
did another change affect mankind. When the automobile came along,
people forgot about breeding, because it replaced the horse, which they
cared for and learned to mate with other horses to strengthen the genet-
ics. The automobile did one terrible thing: it made people forget how
to breed and how to take care of one another. When people kept horses,
horses were a part of the family. People had to care for their horses, and
in the process learned to care for one another. People also had to breed
their horses, and in that process learned about the value of intelligent
breeding. In those days you often heard of the “well-bred” person. You
don’t hear of the well-bred person anymore. Although among biologists
there is much talk about heredity, ordinary people no longer consider
that humans, too, are involved in the natural process of breeding. They
have become forgetful of these important laws, and this has led to lack of
forethought and discipline, to bodies indiscriminately procreating more
bodies. Who is living in them nobody quite knows, and too many sim-
ply don’t care. That’s what we as a society forgot when the automobile
replaced the horse. When you had a horse, you had to feed and water it.
You had to train it, you had to harness it, curry it, stable it and breed it. In
breeding, you had to choose a stud for your mare or find a suitable mare
for your stallion. The qualities of both the sire and the dam were closely
observed, and the resultant combination of genetics was consciously
planned. It was therefore natural for people in those days to seek proper
mates for their children, and the results were the vital, creative and indus-
trious children of the children. As a civilization, we are slowly forgetting
such basic things, being more and more careless about our children’s
future, about their lives and their mates.
Television has not helped society to raise its children.
Sunday In fact, it has virtually stopped the proper education of
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the child in those communities where it is watched for
The Impact
Of Television hours each day. Instead of developing an active curios-
ity by adventuring for hours through a forest or climb-
ing a tree, instead of discovering the wonders of nature and art, music,
literature and conversation, instead of becoming involved in sports and
hobbies, children are mentally carried along by television stories through
positive and negative states of mind. They become uncreative, passive,
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inactive, never learning to use their own minds. Admittedly, not all tele-
vision is negative. Some of it can be quite educational; but hours and
hours each day of passive absorption is not good for a child’s mental and
emotional development. Children need to be active, to involve themselves
in a wide variety of experiences. ¶If the mother is there, she can intel-
ligently guide their television, being careful that they do not get in the
habit of watching it for hours on end, and watching that bold sex, casual
and brute violence, raw language and other bad influences are not a daily
experience. When the program is over, she can send them out to play. Or,
better still, she can take a few minutes to explain how what they just saw
on TV relates, or often does not relate, to real life. Of course, if she is gone,
they will watch anything and everything. For the young, television is one
of the most senseless pastimes there is, carrying the mind further and
further away from the true Self. ¶I think you will all agree that our values,
the values found in the holy Vedas, Tirukural and other sacred scriptures,
are rarely found on television. Instead, TV, at this time in our history,
gives our children a brutal, romantic and unbalanced view of life which
distorts in their minds how life really is. These are very serious issues. It
is the mother who protects her children from negative influences, guiding
their young minds into positive channels of expression. ¶Take the case
of a farmer who raises livestock, who milks cows and goats. He works
hard. He gets up early and takes care of his animals. He cannot succeed
if he is also working part-time in the grocery store downtown. Those
animals need attention. There is no sensible man who would run a farm,
with cows and goats and chickens, and not be there to take care of them,
because those animals need a lot of help. He stays there and takes care of
his business. He is a farmer and that is his duty, and he knows it. ¶Well,
what’s more important than the child? He needs twenty-four-hour-a-day
care. He is learning to walk, to speak, to learn, to think. He falls down and
needs consoling. He catches the flu and needs to be nursed back to health.
It is the mother’s duty to provide that care. No one else is going to do it
for her. No one else can do it for her. She brought that soul into a physi-
cal body, and she must prepare that child for a positive and rewarding
life. ¶If the farmer neglects his animals, he creates a serious karma. The
animals suffer. The farm suffers. The community suffers when the farm
fails, and the man himself suffers. There is a grave karma, too, for the
woman who neglects her strî dharma, who goes out into the world and
does not nurture the physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual needs
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of her children. She knows this within herself, but she may be influenced
by ill-advised people, or by a mass movement that tells her that she has
only one life to live and that she cannot find fulfillment in the home, but
must express herself, venture out, seek her own path, her own fortune.
You have all heard these ideas. I tell you that they are wrong. They spell
the disillusionment of the mother who heeds them, then the disintegra-
tion of the family that is sacrificed by her absence. Finally, they result in
her own unhappiness as she despairs at the loss suffered by her family
and herself.
 Strî Íakti, Strî Dhâma
s}aIxai† s}aIDaama

Her Power,
Her Domain

Be a queen to thy father-in-law, a queen to thy

mother-in-law, a queen to thy husband’s sisters,
and a queen to thy husband’s brothers.
Âig Veda 10.85.46. hv, p. 139
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From the point of view of the Second World, or astral

Monday plane, the home is the family temple, and the wife and
LESSON 134
mother is in charge of that spiritual environment. The
Sanctity of
The Home husband can come into that sanctum sanctorum but
should not bring the world into it. He will naturally find
a refuge in the home if she is doing her duty. He will be able to regain
his peace of mind there, renew himself for the next day in the stressful
situations that the outside world is full of. In this technological age a man
needs this refuge. He needs that inner balance in his life. When he comes
home, she greets him at the entrance and performs a rite of purification
and welcome, offering âratî to cleanse his aura. This and other customs
protect the sanctity of the home. When he enters that sanctuary and she
is in her soul body and the child is in its soul body, then he becomes con-
sciously conscious in his soul body, called ânandamaya koßa in Sanskrit.
He leaves the conscious mind, which is a limited, external state of mind
and not a balanced state of mind. He enters the intuitive mind. He gets
immediate and intuitive answers to his worldly problems. ¶How can he
not be successful in his purusha dharma in the outside world when he has
the backing of a good wife? She is naturally perceptive, naturally intuitive.
She balances out his intellect, softens the impact of the forces which dash
against his nervous system from morning to night. Encouragement and
love naturally radiate out from her as she fulfills her strî dharma. With-
out these balancing elements in his life, a man becomes too externalized,
too instinctive. ¶If a woman is working, she cannot provide this balance.
She has to start thinking and acting like a man. She has to become a
little tougher, create a protective shell around her emotions. Then the
home loses its balance of the masculine and the feminine forces. Take for
example the situation in which the wife rushes home from work fifteen
minutes before the husband. She’s upset after an especially hard day at
work. The children come over from Grandmother’s house or she tells
the babysitter to go home. She scurries to prepare something for dinner
before he comes home, then rushes to get herself looking halfway decent.
Emotionally upset, she tries to calm herself, tries to relax and regain her
composure. Her astral body is upset. The children’s astral bodies are
upset. The husband enters this agitated environment—already upset by
A mother sings a traditional lullaby as her child plays with a small Earth, signifying the global
impact all mothers of the world have by passing along religious culture and values to their chil-
dren. She is raising him near the Nallur Murugan Temple in Jaffna, Sri Lanka.
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being in the world—and he becomes more disturbed. He was looking

forward to a quiet evening. But is he going to get it? No. He begins to feel
neglected, disappointed, and that leads him to become distraught, to say
angry words that make everything even worse. The prâ∫ic forces are spin-
ning out of control. It seems like a totally impossible situation for both
of them. Furthermore, it’s not going to get better, but exceedingly worse,
as the days wear on.
The situation I have just described is one of the main rea-
Tuesday sons that marriages today have become less stable, that
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so many married couples—sixty to seventy percent, I’m
The Wife’s
Special Power told—are experiencing difficulties and breaking up. But
couples never get married with the intent of breaking
up. Never. The pra∫ic forces do it. You put two magnets together one way
and they attract one another. Turn one around, and they repel each other.
The same force that brought the people together, when it is not handled
right, makes them pull apart and hate each other. They can’t see eye to
eye. Then to make up, they go out to dinner to talk it over—in another
frustrating, asuric situation, as far out in the world as they can get—to try
to make up. When that doesn’t help, they come home still frustrated. If
they went to the nearby temple and worshiped the family Deity together,
that would help. They would return home in a different state of mind
and discover that their vibration had changed. Why does it help to go
to the temple? Because the God is in the temple, the Deity is there to
adjust the forces of the inner nerve system, to actually change the forces
of mind and emotion. ¶In the home, the mother is likened to the Íakti
Deity. She is the power, the very soul of the home. None other. So she has
to be there. She has to be treated sensitively and kindly, and with respect.
She has to be given all the things she needs and everything she wants so
she will release her ßakti power to support her husband, so that he is suc-
cessful in all his manly endeavors. When she is hurt, depressed, frustrated
or disappointed, she automatically withdraws that power, compromising
his success in the outside world along with it. People will draw away from
him. His job, business or creative abilities will suffer. This is her great
siddhi, her inborn power, which Hindu women know so well. ¶It is the
man’s duty, his purusha dharma, to provide for her and for the children.
The husband should provide her with all the fine things, with a good
house which she then makes into a home, with adornments, gold and
jewels and clothes, gold hanging down until her ears hurt, more bracelets,
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more things to keep her in the home so she is feeling secure and happy.
In return she provides a refuge, a serene corner of the world where he
can escape from the pressures of daily life, where he can regain his inner
perspective, perform his religious sâdhana and meditations, then enjoy
his family. Thus, she brings happiness and peace of mind to her family,
to the community and to the world.
This working together of the home and the temple brings
Wednesday up the culture and the religion within the family. The
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family goes to the temple; the temple blesses the family’s
The Home
As a Temple next project. The mother returns home. She keeps an oil
lamp burning in the shrine room on the altar to bring
the ßakti power of the God and devas into their home. This is only one
of the beautiful practices of her religious strî dharma, so sensitive and so
vital to the furtherance of the family and its faith. All this happens because
her astral body is not fretted by the stresses and strains of a worldly life,
not polluted by the lustful thoughts of other men directed toward her,
causing her to live in the emotional astral body to ward them off, or be
tempted by them. She is not living in the emotional astral body. She is
living in her peaceful soul body of love, fulfilling her dharma and radiat-
ing the soulful presence called sannidhyâ. She was born to be a woman,
and that’s how a woman should behave. ¶If she does not do her dharmic
duty—this means the duty of birth—then she accrues bad karma. Every
time she leaves the home to go out to work, she is making kukarma. Yes,
she is. That negative karma will have its affect on her astral body and on
her husband’s astral body and on the astral bodies of their children, caus-
ing them to become insecure. ¶The Judaic-Christian-Islamic idea of just
one life, after which you either go to heaven or to hell gives the impres-
sion that time is running out. Some even think “you have to get every-
thing out of this life, because when you’re gone, you’re gone, so grab all
the gusto that you can.” This has given the modern Western woman the
idea that she is not getting everything she should, and therefore the man’s
world looks doubly attractive, because she is just passing through and will
never come back. So, living a man’s life is very, very attractive. She doesn’t
want to stay home all the time and not see anything, not meet anybody,
go through the boredom of raising a family, taking care of the children.
She wants to be out with life, functioning in a man’s world, because she
is told that she is missing something. Therefore, you can understand her
desire to get out and work, start seeing and experiencing life and mix-
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ing with people, meeting new people. ¶The traditional Hindu woman,
however, does not look at life like that. She knows that she was born this
time in a woman’s body—this soul has taken an incarnation for a time in
a woman’s body—to perform a dharma, to perform a duty, for the evolu-
tion of the soul. The duty is to be a mother to her children, wife to her
husband, to strengthen the home and the family, which are the linchpin
of society. She knows that the rewards are greater for her in the home. She
knows that all she is missing is a man’s strenuous work and responsibility,
that her strî dharma is equally as great as a man’s purusha dharma, even
though they are quite different by nature. Because she knows these things,
she fulfills her dharma joyously.
Now, a woman may wonder, “If I don’t work, how are
Thursday we going to pay the bills?” The stated reason that most
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women work is economic. The economy of the world is
Mother in
The Home becoming more and more difficult, and the first answer
to money problems, especially in the West, where the
family unit is not too strong these days, is to have the wife go to work.
This is an unhappy solution. Much too often the sacrifices are greater
than the rewards. It is a false economy. Many times I have told young
wives to stay home with their children. They worry. Their husbands worry.
But with the wife at home, working to strengthen her husband, he soon
becomes confident, creative, energetic and that makes him prosperous.
He is reinspired and always finds a way to make ends meet. ¶As long as the
mother is home, everything is fine. There is security. Without this security,
a family begins to disintegrate. Just think how insecure a child is without
its mother. When the mother is there, security reigns in the home. As long
as the mother is home, doing whatever she naturally does as a mother—
she doesn’t even have to read a book about how to do it—the husband
has to support the home; he feels bound to support the home. Of course,
religion must be the basis of the home to make it all work. When women
leave the home to work in the world, they sacrifice the depth of their reli-
gion. Their religious life then simply becomes a social affair. This is true
of both Eastern and Western religions. As long as the mother is home, the
celestial devas are there, hovering in and around the home. ¶How many
of you here this morning were raised with your mother staying at home?
Well, then you know what I mean. Now, what if she wasn’t at home when
you were a child? You had to fix your own snack in an empty house. You
didn’t feel much cared for. You were alone in an empty house, perhaps
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frightened, and you went around seeing if someone was hiding in the
closet. You didn’t feel that motherly, protective feeling. ¶When mother
finally does come home, she has other things on her mind. She is tired.
She has worked hard, and now she has to work even more. She is not
thinking about the helpless kid who can’t take care of himself. She may
get home and think to herself, “I just can’t forget about that good-looking
man I met at the office. I even see him in my dreams. I have a husband
and I shouldn’t be thinking about such things, but…” And on and on
and on. Arguments begin to happen for the first time in the home. What
do you do? You worry for awhile. You cry a little. As soon as you can, you
start fending for yourself. You work out ways to take care of yourself, or
even to get away from the unhappy situation as soon as you can. You end
up out on your own in the world at a young age, before you are mature
enough to cope with it.
The Hindu woman knows that she is born in a woman’s
Friday body to fulfill a woman’s dharma, to perform her duty
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and not to emulate the men. The duty is to be a mother
A Feminine
Incarnation to her children and a wife to her husband, whom she
looks to as her lord. She performs that duty willingly, as
does the man perform his duty which arises out of being born in a man’s
body. The Hindu woman is trained to perform her strî dharma from the
time she is a little girl. She finds ways to express her natural creativity
within the home itself. She may write poetry or become an artist. Perhaps
she has a special talent for sewing or embroidery or gardening or music.
She can learn to loom cloth and make the family’s clothing. If needed,
she can use her skills to supplement the family income without leaving
the home. There are so many ways for a Hindu wife and mother to fully
use her creative energies, including being creative enough to never let her
life become boring. It is her special blessing that she is free to pursue her
religion fully, to study the scriptures, to sing bhajana and keep her own
spiritual life strong inside. ¶Then there is the situation in which the wife
is working for her husband in the home. This is not ideal, but it is far
better than having her out away from her husband, under another man’s
mind. At least the family is working together toward a single goal, and the
mother is there to care for the child and answer questions. Of course, if
working in the home does not allow for closeness of mother and children,
then it is to be avoided—if, for instance, the work is so demanding that
the mother is never free to play with the young ones or is so pressured
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by her other duties that she becomes tense and upset. Otherwise, it is a
positive situation. From the child’s point of view, mother is home. She
is there to answer questions, to make a dosai or say, “Go make yourself a
nice dosai and I will help you.” She is there with a kiss and a band aid for
a scratch. She is there to explain why the grass is green, to tell a story, to
teach a simple lesson in why things are the way they are. Mother is home,
and that is very important for a young child. Yes, her prâ∫a in the house
makes the house a home. ¶We are nowadays witnessing a big wave of
change rushing to the shores of Hinduism in Colombo, Chennai, Mum-
bai, New Delhi, Kuala Lumpur, New York, Durban and London. I have
seen it coming. Hindu women no longer feel they have to adhere to the
old traditions. They are changing traditions. They adopt new ways these
days. Now a Hindu woman can go out and work, especially if she lives
in the city, and she is encouraged by family and friends to do so. She can
neglect her family, and that is deemed all right, too. She doesn’t have to
fulfill her strî dharma. Staying home is old-fashioned, they say. I have been
told that eighty percent of all Hindu women living in the West work in the
world. Eighty percent! Apparently those who have worked for the demise
of Hinduism have done their work quite well. Still, I am not worried. I
know the nature of waves, and this one will ebb as soon as it reaches the
height of its power, replaced by the greater power of returning to tradition.
Let’s look at the word tradition. Webster defines tradition
Saturday as “a story, belief, custom or proverb handed down from
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generation to generation, a long-established custom or
Why Respect
Tradition? practice that has the effect of an unwritten law.” We all
know human nature, because we are people living on
this planet. We are fickle; we are changeable. We are always curious to
try new things. Change is a wonderful part of life, within certain bounds.
We do not want to be too restrictive, yet we do want to be strict. Be strict
without being restrictive, and life will be balanced between discipline and
freedom. This has always been the Asian way. Take a look back into his-
tory, back to the time of Saint Tiruvalluvar, who lived 2,200 years ago. He
would not have written the Tirukural if people were perfect, if they were,
as a whole, strong, steady and self-disciplined. He wrote those sparkling
gems of wisdom and advice for fickle, changeable people, so that they
could keep their minds controlled and their lives in line with the basic
principles of dharma for men and women clearly set forth in the Vedas
six to eight thousand years ago. ¶Tradition adapts itself to culture and
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climate. The Hindu women raised in Western countries will not be able
to follow all the traditions of the East. But they have to fulfill enough
of those traditions to fulfill their strî dharma. And, of course, they will
have to adjust slowly. ¶Scriptural advice is just as pertinent today, thou-
sands of years later. Why? Because people are human, because they are
little different today than they were then. Societies change, knowledge
changes, language changes. But people do not change all that much.
That is exactly the reason that traditions do not change much or change
very slowly. They still apply. They are still valid. They are the wisdom of
hundreds of generations assembled together. The wise always follow the
ways of wisdom, always follow tradition. Does that mean they cannot be
inventive? No. Does that mean they cannot use their mind and will to
advance themselves and humanity? No. Does that mean they must avoid
being creative, original, individualistic? No. It simply means that they
express these fine qualities within the context of religious tradition, thus
enhancing tradition instead of destroying it. Tradition, with its spoken
and unspoken ways, is far too precious to throw out or tear down. The
unwritten laws and customs of tradition are what has developed and
proved out to be best for the peoples on this planet for centuries. We can-
not casually change tradition. It takes centuries to build a tradition. We
cannot sit at a meeting and arbitrate a change like that. ¶Take all of this
that has been said into your meditations. Think deeply about the natu-
ral balance of masculine and feminine energies in the world and within
yourselves. You will discover a new appreciation for the woman’s role and
for the traditions which allow her to fulfill it.
By way of illustration I will ask you now to read a fine
Sunday message we received from a Íaivite lady in Sri Lanka
LESSON 140
who follows beautifully the spirit of strî dharma. ¶“I am
A Personal
Testimony a Hindu wife and take pride and pleasure in being one.
I am a graduate of the London University and was a
teacher in a girls’ school before I got married in 1969. I belong to an
orthodox Íaivite Hindu family, and when I reached age twenty-six my
parents proposed a marriage. My future husband, too, hailed from an
orthodox Íaivite family and was thirty years of age. After our parents
discussed and decided upon details, an opportunity was afforded to us
to meet. The venue was a Ga∫eßa temple, and the time was 7am. As each
of us stepped into the temple from different directions almost simulta-
neously, the temple bells started ringing to herald the 7:00 pûjâ. ‘A good
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omen,’ both of us thought independently. After the pûjâ was over, we were
introduced to each other by my mother. Out of inborn shyness and a
certain amount of fear of meeting a stranger, I was hardly able to look up
and even see the color of the man who was going to be the lord of my life.
I heard him talk and even noticed him gazing meaningfully at me all the
time. The ‘confrontation’ lasted about ten minutes, and we parted. Each of
us approved the selection so carefully made by our parents and, to make
a long story short, our marriage was solemnized in due course. ¶“From
the date of marriage, I resigned my job as teacher because my duties as
a housewife appeared more onerous and more responsible. My husband
earned enough to maintain a family, and we started setting up a home of
our own. I brought in some money by way of a dowry, and this helped us
to furnish our home with all essential requirements. We loved each other
very much and lived like Íiva and Íakti. The most important corner of our
house is the shrine room where our day-to-day life starts every morning.
¶“I get up from bed at 5am every day. After a wash, I enter the shrine room
and clean up the place. Remnants of flowers from the previous day’s pûjâ
are removed, the brass lamps and vessels are polished, water is sprinkled
on the floor and the place kept ready for the day’s pûjâ, performed by my
husband. Then the kitchen is swept and the pots and pans washed. Water
is kept on the gas to boil, and I go for a bath. Returning from the bath, I
do a short prayer and pick flowers for my husband’s pûjâ. By now it is
6am—the time my husband awakens. I go to the bedroom and wait there
ready to greet him for the day. He looks upon me as the Lakshmî of the
home, and it pleases him a lot to wake in my presence—all gleaming with
holy ash and kumkum pottu on my forehead. As soon as he gets up, he
goes out for a half-hour walk and is back home by 6:30. A cup of coffee
is now ready for him. He takes this and, after five minutes’ rest, enjoys a
fine bath. He then makes the necessary preparations for the pûjâ. I could
do this myself, but my husband feels these preparations are also a part of
the pûjâ. Sharp at 7am, the pûjâ starts. I join him and so do our children
(we now have two boys and a girl). It is a pleasure to watch my husband
at pûjâ, which he does very piously and meticulously. At 7:30 we come
out of the shrine room for our breakfast. I personally serve my lord and
the children meals prepared by my own hands and then get the two elder
children ready for school. By 8:30 all the three are out of the house on
their respective missions. I then clean up the house, put my little three-
year-old son to sleep and by 9:30 I am back in the kitchen preparing lunch.
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¶“In the evening I am dressed up and ready for an outing with my hus-
band and children. Almost every day he takes us out, but occasionally he
comes home tired and prefers to remain indoors. At 6pm I start cooking
the dinner and at 7:00 we have a joint prayer in the shrine room. Din-
ner at 7:30, then a little bit of reading, listening to the radio, some chit
chat and off to bed by 9:30. This has been my routine for the last eleven
years, and I have enjoyed every minute of it. ¶“In the house, I give first
place to my husband. It has never been my custom to find fault with him
for anything. He understands me so much and so well that he is always
kind, loving, gentle and compassionate towards me. I reciprocate these
a hundredfold, and we get on very well. My husband is the secretary of
a religious organization, and I give him every help and encouragement
in his work. My household duties keep me fully occupied, and so I don’t
engage myself in other activities. I respect my husband’s leadership in the
home, and so life goes on smoothly.”
 Vivâha, G®ihastha Dharma
ivavaah ga&hsTaDama*

Marriage and
Family Life

Have your eating and drinking in common. I bind

you together. Assemble for worship of the Lord,
like spokes around a hub. Of one mind and one
purpose I make you, following one leader. Be like
the Gods, ever deathless! Never stop loving!
Atharva Veda 3.30.6-7. ve
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Marriage is an institution, a business, a spiritual part-

Monday nership, a furtherance of humanity and a contract—a
LESSON 141
three-level contract involving body, mind and emotion.
The Ideals
Of Marriage Marriage is a necessary commitment not only for the
continuation of the human race but also for the fur-
therance of each individual soul’s spiritual unfoldment. The interaction
on all levels between the couple, and later their children, molds the good,
bad and confused karmas into new dimensions. Íaivite marriages involve
not only the bride and groom but also their parents, their priest, guru,
astrologer, relatives on both sides and the entire community. The feeling
of responsibility to the community is ever present. The community’s feel-
ing of responsibility to make each of its marriages work out well is also
always present. ¶Why are Íaivite marriages different from other kinds
of marriages? It is because of the ever-abiding belief in the ever-present
oneness of God Íiva within each one. God Íiva is within you, and you
are within God Íiva. God Íiva is the Life of our lives. This and more the
Íaivite saints sang. To forget that Íiva is within the wife, to forget that
Íiva is within the husband is to forget Íaivism itself. This basic Íaivite
belief lays the psychological foundation for the husband to see the wife
as a Goddess and the wife to see the husband as a God. All other behav-
ior comes out of this belief. Belief creates attitudes, and attitudes cre-
ate actions. ¶The knowing that each one has come into life to work out
certain karmas they brought with them in this birth, and that karmas
are generally worked out through other people, gives a challenge and a
goal—to resolve these karmas and receive the reward of mukti, freedom
from rebirth. Because of this belief, this understanding, the husband and
wife blend their energies more constructively. Their attitudes are naturally
more generous, forgiving and understanding, their actions and interac-
tions more harmonious and mutually supportive. A woman gives her
prâ∫a, spiritual energy, to her husband, making him strong. Children give
their prâ∫a to their parents, because to them the parents are Íiva-Íakti,
the first guru. The wife, always attending to her husband’s needs, sets the
pattern for the children. By focusing her energies within her family, she
builds up a great spiritual vibration in the home. In fulfilling his purusha
dharma, the husband gives his prâ∫a, love and loyalty to his family, and
A bride and groom, one an Indian, the other of Oriental descent, are living in Hawaii, where
volcanos are still active. They offer flower garlands to one another on the day of their wedding,
as God Íiva, in the Third World, cradles them mercifully in His hands.
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he benefits the community through his service. He never, ever raises his
voice in the home; nor does he show anger in any way. He is the model for
the entire family. When his sons come of age, they join their prâ∫as with
his, and as a result, the family, the community and the country flourish.
¶Believing in reincarnation, the parents know that their relatives—and
they themselves—will be born back into their family again and again to
work out their unfinished karmas. A Íaivite home is a karmic factory, a
recycling of souls, a mill that grinds exceedingly fine the seed karmas of
this and past lives.
The Íaivite Hindu lifestyle is very special, very binding,
Tuesday strengthened by: the pañcha nitya karmas; the Monday
LESSON 142
family home evening and the daily family meetings; the
Mysticism
In the Home knowing that each child is and has been totally a part of
the family, maybe for hundreds of years; the knowing
that there is karma to be worked out within the family—feelings of hap-
piness, unhappiness and misunderstandings, all to be resolved; and the
knowing that there is a purpose for them all being together and that they
may all be together until mukti, liberation from the cycle of rebirth. All
this and more distinguishes the Íaivite family from all other families on
the planet. ¶It is on the astral plane, the inner world of this world, that
twenty-four-hour life takes place. Beings there do not have to sleep. The
positive activity of the astral world within the house or the apartment
transforms it into a home, or if negative into a hotel room. To stabilize
this astral activity and make sure it is positive, the home pûjâ is performed
by every Íaivite family daily. Scriptures are read, the yamas and niyamas
are fulfilled and all difficulties, large and small, are resolved before sleep.
Divine ancestral devas are coaxed to live in the home, as well as devas
from nearby temples where the family frequently worships. This magic
makes the home into a spiritual abode, not unlike a temple itself. ¶Chil-
dren are always treated with great respect and awe in a true Íaivite home,
for one does not always know who these young ones were in past lives.
They may be incarnations of a grandmother, grandfather, aunt or uncle,
dearly beloved mother, sister, brother, respected father, distant related yogî
or ®ishi. Who are they? What is their destiny to fulfill in this life? ¶The
answers lie in the voice of the universe, the mystical Íaivite astrological
system laid down by the ®ishis of yore. The family’s astrologer carefully
explains the nature of each child, and how it will develop, flourish and
unfold year after year. This gives the parents knowledge and hope, cour-
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age and understanding, tolerance and forgiveness, and all the other fine
qualities that all Íaivites want to cultivate within themselves. In raising
the children and simultaneously realizing that each is a part of Íiva’s well-
ordered universe and has entered the family with his or her own prârab-
dha karmas to be lived out, the parents are neither excited nor dismayed
when the predicted characteristics begin to manifest within the child.
Yes, the Íaivite home is a factory, an intricate mechanism manufacturing
spiritual unfoldment for every member of the family.
Many families look at their children as intruders, as
Wednesday strangers. Íaivites don’t. There is great power and wis-
LESSON 143
dom in the knowledge of astrology in bringing the nec-
Bringing
Up Children essary information to the parents to know the nature
of their new arrival. Non-Hindu families generally do
not have this kind of insight into the nature and future of their offspring
and are generally at a loss to understand or know how to deal with pat-
terns and developments as they arise. ¶Hindu parents view each child
as an adult in a very young body, growing up into the fulfillment of its
potential. Using the knowledge gained through astrology, they work to
strengthen the strong character traits and never aggravate the weaker or
antagonistic ones. This is to say that should the child have a propensity
toward anger, jealousy and argumentativeness, and another propensity
toward generosity, creativity and acquisition of knowledge, the wise par-
ents will, of course, never argue with the child, because they do not want
to awaken and strengthen this quality; they would carefully refrain from
angering the child and quickly quell the anger when it flares up. In order
to avoid strengthening the tendency toward jealousy, they would seek to
secure the child’s relationship with friends and things so that he never
felt unloved or disadvantaged. They would praise his creativity, generos-
ity and acquisition of knowledge. For all this he would be rewarded with
kind words and gifts, because once these tendencies are strengthened,
the negative ones will fall aside. ¶This example is given to explain the
way in which mother and father must work together to formulate pat-
terns of positive discipline that they will understand and implement in
the same way, so as to bring out the best qualities within the child. When
these best qualities are brought up and become a part of the child’s daily
life, the worse qualities will naturally be subdued by the best qualities.
It is an interactive mechanism within the child himself that brings him
closer to perfection. Non-Íaivite families often bring up the worst within
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their child, and the child has to, for his own salvation, leave home to be
with people of a higher nature, a more expanded consciousness, who will
strengthen his finer qualities, or be drawn to those of a lower nature, who
will strengthen his lesser qualities. Everyone is on the path to perfection,
and they are instinctively and superconsciously seeking out those who
are capable and able to help them progress. Íaivites want this to happen
within the home itself, and hence welcome the involvement of the guru,
the swâmîs and the entire community. ¶Because people are human, differ-
ences arise. If everyone were the same, humanity would be called a herd,
with the instinctive nature the predominant functioning intelligence. But
humans are not a herd; they are individuals, each and every one of them.
Each has a destiny and on the path to fulfill that destiny must go through
an intricate series of unique experiences. Íaivites appreciate the differ-
ences. If any sameness exists, it is because of the shared understanding
of the Íaiva Dharma and each one’s ability to live up to it in his own way,
helped or restricted by his prârabdha karmas. In our own Íaivite orga-
nization—a worldwide family it has been called—a pilgrim can visit a
mission in Canada, California, Malaysia, Singapore, Mauritius or India,
and experience his brothers and sisters, fathers and mothers, aunts and
uncles. This worldwide extended family exists because of their shared,
basic Íaiva beliefs and attitudes, and their striving to live up to the culture
and sâdhanas in their own way, only being helped or inhibited by their
prârabdha karmas.
Is there anything unique in the Íaivite marriage that
Thursday helps in dealing with the roles that men and women
LESSON 144
traditionally play? Are women always to be meek and
The Roles of
Man and Wife dependent and men aggressive and in charge? Some-
times an aggressive woman marries a passive man. How
does Íaivism deal with this?” This totally depends on the education of
both the husband and the wife. This has been my experience. When the
modernization of education occurred, which taught people how to live
in the world, run a business or work for someone else, family life began
to evolve out of the village consciousness and into the technological age.
In this change, traditional roles also changed. ¶Today there are five basic
patterns of marriage. In an agricultural community, women take care
of the house, and men take care of the farm, the business and industry;
or in some other societies where women are stronger, they work side-by-
side with the men. There, for a man to have his wife work side-by-side
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with him in the field is a sign of status, better meals for the family and
more attention to himself. Also we must understand that in these mar-
riages both husband and wife share a similar educational level, a similar
understanding of how the world works. This is the first and oldest pattern.
¶However, as society changes because of technology and industrializa-
tion, people change and their relationships change. I have found that a
Western-educated man who marries an Eastern village-educated girl will
always be head of the house, and she will allow this. Basically, she does
not understand the ways of urban life. This is the second type of marriage.
The educated man marrying an uneducated girl will not expect her to
understand what he is thinking about or feeling. And she would probably
not understand even if he explained it all to her. She would naturally be
submissive; he would be aggressive. ¶It has been my experience that it
works exactly the same the other way around in cases where the woman is
more highly educated than the man. The intellectually educated lady mar-
rying an uneducated man would most likely be the principal wage-earner,
and he would be submissive. She will naturally make the major decisions
about how to spend her money. He will naturally concur. Or, they will
fight. This third, more difficult, relationship will demand a leader and a
follower, especially if she earns more money than he and has more job
security and greater benefits, such as medical insurance and retirement.
¶The second and third types of marriage share a common factor. A vil-
lage girl has no way of earning her own living, should her husband die or
leave her, and would have no recourse but to return to her family, unless
he left her a substantial bequest or alimony. A nonprofessional village
man would have no other recourse than to seek his own level of income
should his educated wife die or leave him without providing a generous
support or inheritance.
The fourth type of marriage, like the first, is between
Friday those of similar educational backgrounds. Here, though,
LESSON 145
each is sophisticated, has professional skills and could be
Special Types
Of Marriage a wage-earner in his or her own right. Within these mar-
riages, even though the skills may not be used, they are
a potential source of income and security. This fourth rule book, which
has been written more recently by the actions and experiences of various
couples and the societies in which they live, is most important to elabo-
rate on. Two fairly equally educated people should work in unanimous
agreement, in partnership, in all things regarding raising of the children
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and management of the home. ¶The first three rule books are fairly well
set, and society understands them. They have been functioning for hun-
dreds and thousands of years. In the fourth type of marriage, men and
women meet in equality through intelligence developed and cultivated
through Western education, Western experience and the equal ability to
be wage earners. The intellect, intelligence, has no sex; it is equal. To apply
agricultural village traditions to these marriages would be to foster con-
tention, misunderstanding and feelings of rejection, leading to possible
separation. Two potential wage earners living together must themselves
reach consensus on every issue. ¶The fifth type of marriage is more reli-
gious, more spiritual. Here the couple has blended together for the pur-
pose of fulfilling religious aspirations, for ministry, producing sons for
the monastery or future priests and pandits. These lofty marriages have
definite guru involvement and swâmî involvement. The couple is intent on
practicing yoga and serving their religion selflessly as missionaries, exem-
plars and teachers. My Saiva Siddhanta Church encourages each couple
to write a two-part marriage contract. Part one is the mutual agreement,
laying out the overall purpose of the marriage and the aspirations and
goals that the union hopes to fulfill. The other part is a statement of the
duties and responsibilities of each of the partners. This semi-corporate
approach has proven successful in stabilizing many marriages, as each
partner clearly understands his or her role. ¶Any couple following any of
the other four types of marriage could move to the fifth at the right time.
They would ultimately take the brahmacharya vrata, later in life, after a
decision was made to have no more children, and then live together as
brother and sister. This is traditional within Íaivite culture and consistent
with community expectations.
One might ask about the traditional role of the husband
Saturday as guru of the wife, whether he should give in equally
LESSON 146
to her views when difficulties arise or expect most of
Marital
Harmony the compromise to come from her. In the ideal of the
husband’s being the guru in the family, the word guru
simply means teacher. So, to be a guru in the household means that he
is a very religious, knowledgeable, understanding, humble husband who
is kind, honest and respected in the community as an exemplar. Other-
wise, the ideal of family guru does not apply, and more of a partnership
arrangement between spouses is the default in today’s world. ¶People
are held in bondage in many ways—physical bondage, emotional bond-
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age, intellectual bondage. In India’s Hinduism, unfortunately, as in many

other societies on the Earth, disproportionate numbers of women are
still not educated, while the men more often are. Therefore, the woman
is held in intellectual bondage, sometimes not even being able to count to
a hundred and only being able to, and expected to, gossip in the market-
place and bargain for food. Naturally she would follow the religion of her
husband. Naturally she would also depend on him fully for guidance in
all other matters, financial and otherwise. ¶But times have now changed,
and many Hindu women have been educated and can formulate their
own opinions through the reasoning processes of their own minds, talk
intelligently among themselves and arrive at pragmatic conclusions. The
guru-disciple relationship does not exist in marriages of this kind. She
does not need to learn anything from her husband. In most cases she has
sufficient skills to be financially independent. Therefore, the relationship
is not that of a guru and student, but is more like a business partner-
ship, the fourth type of marriage. ¶Their business is birthing children
and raising them to be good citizens, maintaining a harmonious home
by reconciling differences before sleep, even if they are reconciled a few
hours after dawn, maintaining the family budget, paying all of the bills
on time, saving for their children’s higher level of education, seeing to the
children’s being settled in a life of their own, paying off the mortgage on
the house, preparing for retirement, seeing to the spiritual upliftment of
the community by contributing to the local temple society, maintaining
a shrine room in their home, and hiring a local priest to perform house
ceremonies and certain saμskâras within the home. To fulfill all of this, a
fair, professional attitude toward one another must be maintained. ¶Pro-
fessional people in large corporations do not argue endlessly before rec-
onciliation, nor do they undermine each other, lest they soon find them-
selves looking for another place of employment. Divorce in this modern
time is like being dismissed, fired, and then the search is on for another
partner with whom the same unresolved karma will finally mature. This
is because we are born with certain prârabdha karmas to be lived through,
if not with one person, then with a surrogate. The way to avoid creating
new kriyamâna karmas is to face up to the karmas with the first spouse
rather than with a second, third or fourth, which would create a kukarma,
or bad karma, mess along the way to be later cleaned up, if not in this life,
then hopefully in the next life. ¶It is said that the wife should see the hus-
band as Íiva and he should see her as Íakti, which is often misconstrued
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as putting him in a superior position. The only up-down situation is the

educated husband married to an illiterate wife, yet even here the relation-
ship should be one of love and mutual respect. Íiva and Íakti are totally
and equally interrelated as far as Íaiva Siddhânta philosophy is concerned,
and cannot exist without one another. Therefore, is the husband Íiva, and
is she Íakti? It’s a yes and no answer. In Íaiva Siddhânta, Íiva and Íakti are
two aspects of a one Being, Íiva being the unmanifest Absolute and Íakti
being the manifest Divinity. ¶If the wife is as capable as the husband in the
external world and the intellectual world, emotional world and physical
world, there is no up-down relationship between them, and they are Íiva
and Íakti, absolutely equal. The old system of male dominance originated
in early human societies when physical strength—for war, hunting and
heavy muscular effort—was a prime survival factor. It was perpetuated as
the way of life in villages of preindustrial India, Europe and early America,
where the man received the education and the woman, as a rule, did not.
To apply this system in today’s sophisticated technological societies would
be to plant the seedlings of the destruction of the marriage.
Traditionally, every Hindu family should have a fam-
Sunday ily kulaguru, a preceptor who knows the flow of karma
LESSON 147
within all the family connections and the birth dharma
Commitment
To Harmony of the family itself. To be without a kulaguru is likened
to a child being without its parents. ¶One of the greatest
disruptive forces in a marriage is the amateur psychiatrist or psycholo-
gist practicing on his or her spouse. This tactic for solving problems is
totally unacceptable. Such efforts, however well-intended, to straighten
out a spouse through subconscious analysis are antagonizing, disruptive
and hurtful emotionally and mentally. All these psychiatric games are
based on the principle, “Something is wrong with you, and I’m going to
straighten it out. Come to me. I have all the solutions.” Íaivism is different.
It is based on the principle that you are perfect. The only problem is that
you don’t know it. Let’s talk ourselves into our own perfection through
reading scripture, praying, doing Íivathondu together, doing japa together,
to lift our consciousness into the perfection that is always there. ¶If your
spouse is trying to hurt you, protect yourself in the Sanâtana Dharma as
your first line of defense. Recognizing that this is your karma, fulfill your
dharma fully, be it strî dharma or purusha dharma, the best you under-
stand it. The Vedas assure us that truth always wins over evil (Mu∫∂aka
Upanishad 3.1.6). It is the wife’s duty to uplift the husband, the husband’s
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duty to uplift the wife. A husband bent on hurting his wife could not out-
last—his hurtfulness could not survive—the wife’s chanting “Aum, Aum,
Aum” all day long and placing spiritual vibrations into his food. In this
way, good overcomes evil, ahiμsâ overcomes hiμsâ, dharma overcomes
adharma. This is why we are born on this planet, to evolve through such
challenges. We are here for no other reason. But should the husband ever
become physically violent, the wife should take the children and run to
safety. She should stay in a safe place until he has undergone counseling,
made amends to her and to the congregation, asked the family guru to
prescribe a penance and fully performed that penance. ¶When families
who are trying to meditate and unfold spiritually go through times of
internal or external violence they should not practice râja yoga or other
forms of meditation. This will only aggravate and worsen the situation.
Yoga practices are not for them. What they should do is Íivathondu, or
karma yoga, bhakti yoga and simple japa yoga. That is all. If a disharmoni-
ous situation comes up between husband and wife, they must resolve it
before they go to bed, even if they must stay up all night into the light of
day. ¶Sleep puts the problem to rest over a period of two or three nights,
and it will eventually fade into the memory patterns of forgetfulness over
a longer period of time. Having sex does not solve the problem. It puts
the problem into seed, into the memory patterns of current forgetfulness,
and these will definitely materialize at another time. Sex and sleep are not
solutions to marital disputes. One is immediate postponement and the
other is a slower postponement. To resolve a conflict between husband
and wife, lest it affect the lives of the children by being postponed into
forgetfulness, it must be done before sleep. There is no other way. This is
the way husbands and wives catalyze their spiritual unfoldment on the
path and develop themselves. Another reason sex is not a solution to dis-
harmony is that babies that are conceived in a union that is supposed to
settle a squabble are more often than not invoked from the Narakaloka.
Such children might harass the family for the rest of their lives.
 Ku†umba Maitrî
ku[qumbamaE}aI

Family Togetherness

May you two, waking up in your pleasant chamber,

both filled with laughter and cheer, and enjoying
mightily, having good sons, a good home, and
good cattle, pass the shining mornings.
Atharva Veda 14.2.43. hv, p. 141
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How to strengthen family ties is a very important ques-

Monday tion these days. It is said that Jawaharlal Nehru was
LESSON 148
instrumental in breaking up the extended family struc-
What Is a
Real Family? ture in his attempt to industrialize India. After that, once
tightly-knit families really suffered as age-old family ties
became loosened. The wealth of extended families dispersed in many
directions as nuclear families formed and money was unnecessarily spent
to maintain the ever-increasing needs of a multiplicity of households.
¶Let’s explore what a family actually is. People seem to have forgotten.
In America before the First World War there were wonderful, well-estab-
lished and large joint families, with twenty, thirty or more people all liv-
ing as one unit, often in one home. Everyone had chores. And they all
knew their place within the family structure. They loved and cared for
each other, and mother was always in the home. We may be a long time
in rebuilding family togetherness to the point where the extended family
is back in vogue, but meanwhile we are still faced with maintaining fam-
ily unity. Hindus around the world are working hard to rediscover their
roots and strengthen family values. Our staff of HINDUISM TODAY had
many inspiring interviews with bright young Asian Hindus in America
who are working in their communities to make a difference and reestab-
lish the old culture of caring for one another. We congratulate them and
welcome their efforts, for they are the leaders of tomorrow. ¶I tell parents
who seek my advice that one way to keep a family together is to show all
members that you want to be with them, that you need them in your life.
Not: “Get out of my life, you are bothering me. I have other things to do.
I have goals in life that don’t include you.” This hurtful attitude is based
on the belief that when children reach age eighteen they should leave
home and support themselves. In the West, this pattern is the result of
two world wars, when every able-bodied young man left home to join
the armed forces. This callousness on the part of parents leads to alien-
ation from their children, who then begin leading independent lives. That
leads to the first step in leaving home: keeping secrets from the parents.
¶With each secret kept, a small distance is created. A large distance is cre-
ated when five or ten secrets accumulate and deception becomes a habit.
When too many secrets mount up, parents and their children don’t talk
Here’s a mom who made a decision to stay at home to raise her family in Sydney, Australia,
known for its modern Opera House. Raising children well requires constant attention, nurtur-
ing and positive discipline that only a loving, full-time mom can provide.
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to each other much anymore. Why do secrets create a distance? Because

every secret must be protected. This requires cleverness, sneaking around
to keep the matter hidden, even lying. Secrets give rise to angry outbursts
to keep others away, such as, “I’m insulted that you would even suspect
me of that!” Arguments erupt that go unresolved, and an impenetrable
barrier is established. ¶Mom and Dad are heard confiding to one another,
“They’re so different now. I can’t reach them anymore.” Of course, the
children have been taught to be cautious, in a sense forced into keeping
secrets, lest unloving parents curse them or physically punish them with-
out mercy for transgressions large and small. Many are afraid of the wrath
of mothers and fathers who rule their families by fear. In today’s world it
is so easy to leave home. It is so easy for the family to break up. It’s even
expected. Husbands’ and wives’ keeping secrets, similarly, creates a dis-
tance between them. The final divorce decree started with the first secret.
¶In an ideal family, children should be able to tell their mother and father
anything and everything. The parents should want to understand and
realize that if they don’t understand but misunderstand, they participate
in the break-up of their own family. Of course, it might be hard for them
to deal with certain experiences their children are having, but all they have
to do is look back at their own life, actions and private thoughts to know
that their children are living out the same fantasies. The children repeat
the still-active karmas of their parents. Children are born into families
with karmic patterns that are compatible with their own. I can predict
what young people are going to do in their future, and the temptations
that will come up, if I know the karmic patterns of their parents. With this
knowledge, it is easy to guide them through life, helping them avoid temp-
tations and unwholesome experiences that their parents lived through. All
of these experiences are set into motion by the individual himself, by his
own past actions.
Every experience, no matter how difficult or embar-
Tuesday rassing, is a good experience, providing the lesson to
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be learned is extracted from it. Experiences that are
The Magic
Of Love unresolved and repressed can be very burdensome for
the individual. Living Íaiva Dharma makes us our own
psychologist, psychiatrist, counselor and problem-solver. This is because
one slowly becomes the watcher of his mind thinking, the watcher of his
emotions feeling, acting and reacting. ¶Holding the family together can
be summed up in one word: love. Love is understanding. Love is accep-
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tance. Love is making somebody feel good about his experience, whether
the experience is a good one or not. Love is giving the assurance that
there is no need to keep secrets, no matter what has happened. Love is
wanting to be with members of the family. A father who is eager to hold
his family together rushes home from work. He doesn’t think to him-
self, “Why should I go home to all their problems when I can continue
working at the clinic for awhile longer.” Loving parents, father or mother,
want to be with their children, and they let them know this in so many
ways. They face up to problems with love, trust and understanding. They
know that problems are only problems because of lack of understand-
ing. They also know, through living Íaiva Dharma, that love and trust
bring understanding and acceptance of the lessons of the experiences,
which are natural manifestations of individual birth karmas and collec-
tive family karmas. This approach keeps the family strong and cohesive.
In a home where dharma is lived, no one has a private life. No one has
a secret life. ¶When harmony persists in the home, harmony permeates
the community, and harmony permeates the country. When love and
trust prevail in the family, love and trust extend to the local community,
and the country becomes stronger and more secure. Making strong dis-
tinctions between good and bad does not help youths understand their
desires and temptations. The only path through their lives is one experi-
ence after another. They evolve into better people through understanding
their experiences. ¶Children and young adults who have been holding
secrets and now feel that it is time to become close to their family again
should tell their parents they want to be completely open and disclose
what they have been hiding. Then give parents a few days to adjust and
prepare to listen. Once reconciliation takes place, hugging and talking
will begin again, and the warm, loving feeling of family will take over the
home. Something magical happens when secrets are brought out in the
open among loved ones. Many youths have told me that when secrets
were divulged, their parents were surprisingly understanding. Secrets are
psychic burdens, and releasing them, youths tell me, gives a great sense
of upliftment, like a balloon dropping its counterweight and soaring sky-
ward. They feel instantly closer to their parents, free of guilt, happier, less
stressful, no longer defensive and more interested in helping others. ¶One
of the biggest areas of secrecy is sex. It is important that parents give their
children an education in sexual behavior early on. This will also bring
and keep the family togetherness. Many parents find it difficult to talk
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about sex, pornography, drugs and the various other kinds of temptations
the world offers today. If this is the case in your home, it is best to seek
community or professional help. Not talking leaves children unprepared.
Parents force their children into secrecy by showing that these are areas
that cannot or will not be faced in the light of day. All begin wishing that
conditions will improve, but they never do. ¶We can now see that the first
secret is the crucial issue, for it leads to many, many more, be it on the
part of children keeping secrets from their parents, wives from husbands,
husbands from wives, students from guru, and on and on. The solution is
to follow the yamas and niyamas, the dos and do nots of Hindu Dharma.
These are the natural laws of Sanâtana Dharma. These are the human eth-
ics that hold families together, marriages together, communities together,
countries together. These eternal Vedic precepts are for everyone, no mat-
ter who they are.
What is it that makes a house a home? A home is a place
Wednesday of companionship with people in it who love each other,
LESSON 150
who are harmonious and closer inside with one another
What Makes a
House a Home? than they are outside with associates in the workplace
or with classmates at school. A home is a place that’s so
magnetic that it’s difficult to leave. In a home there is love, kindness, shar-
ing and appreciation, and the inhabitants help one another. It’s a place
of selflessness and togetherness, where everybody has time for everybody
else. In a home, the guests are treated like Deities or devas coming to the
temple. That is the spirit of hospitality in the Hindu framework. It is the
same spirit of sublime energy flowing to the guest that also flows within
the household. And a righteous household that worships every morning
together as one family is like a temple. That’s a home, and everything
else is just a house or a hotel lobby. ¶If you were to look at a harmonious
home with your astral vision, you would see the three primary colors—
pale pink, pale blue, pale yellow—and white, all intermingling in a big
prâ∫ic force field. Moving over to another house, you might see a conges-
tion of various colors, with dark and light shades and strange astral forms,
and you would know that house was not much different from a hotel
lobby. ¶I was once asked about the desperately poor, homeless families
living on the street in America and what can be done for them, when so
many other families have large, luxurious homes. I, too, have seen families
on the street. But if they live together, if they sleep together, if they talk
together, if they eat together, they are a family, even if they are destitute.
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Such a family is at home wherever they are. You don’t need a roof to make
a family. You don’t need a roof to make a home. The truly homeless are
some of the rich people who build multi-million-dollar houses and are
too busy to really live in them. The truly homeless are those who have
turned their home into a hotel lobby. The husband works. The wife works.
The children are delinquent. There’s no companionship. They don’t talk
together every day. They don’t eat together every day. They rarely see each
other. The truly homeless people are those with babysitters, caretakers,
gardeners and maids, but who don’t spend quality time with the family
in their house. Babysitters often abuse their children. Parents are unaware,
too busy making money outside the home that they don’t live in. This is
another way of looking at the rich and the homeless. Who is to be pitied?
¶Control of the computer and the Internet is also important to make a
house into a home. If the computer is on all the time, the house turns
into an office, even if everyone is at home. Many homes these days are
just offices. Human communication has stopped. The computer eats up
the time that one should be giving to others within the home. Using the
computer moderately gives us time for gentleness, play and communica-
tion, not with a screen, but with a human being. And that is the vibration
needed in a home.
There are too many dysfunctional families in the world
Thursday today. What is a dysfunctional family? A dysfunctional
LESSON 151
family is a discouraged family, a family that has no
Discouraged
Families home. True, they may have a million-dollar house, but
it would take a lot of constant, magnetic love and kin-
ship to turn that house into a home. Many million-dollar homes are
just houses, totally impersonal. ¶The guests are not God in those homes;
guests are seen as business potentials and social obligations. The father
works late in his profession so he can avoid his wife and family. When he
comes home, he sits down in front of the television while eating his din-
ner. The kids are running here and there; the mother comes home tired
from her equally demanding profession and begins yelling at them. Verbal
abuse becomes a way of life. The youngsters come and go unchaperoned.
Nobody knows what anybody else is doing. Girls are getting pregnant out
of wedlock. Boys are swearing, getting involved in gangs and experiment-
ing with drugs. That is the hotel lobby home of a definitely dysfunctional
family, a discouraged family. ¶No wonder that in discouraged families
teens want to leave home as quickly as possible—as soon they’re able to
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get a job and rent an apartment. That is not quality living, is it? Sorry to
say, but most dual-professionals’ homes, where husband and wife both
have high-paying jobs, are more like a hotel lobby with a snack bar than
like a home with a hearth, which is home with a heart. Think about your
home. Is the guest God? Is your house a home? What kind of astral vibra-
tion does it actually have? Be honest with yourself. Evaluate! ¶The astral
prâ∫as or energies radiating out from the hotel lobby kind of home make
the occupants frustrated people. They make people around them uncom-
fortable, because they live in an uncomfortable place. Yes, the prâ∫as that
emanate from an empty house make one an empty person. All Hindus
in the world should reverse this situation for a stable, well-adjusted com-
munity for the new and coming generations of Hindus in the West, as
well as in the East. This is the next step which those of the diaspora have
to heartfully take. It is only intelligence that can reverse a negative situ-
ation and turn it into a positive, encouraging situation. ¶It is important
for the mother to be mother, and for the father to allow her to be mother,
so that together they can nurture the astral atmosphere within the house
and make it vibrate with spiritual energies into a real home. To make the
house into a home is the next step. You will know if it is a home when
you want to hurry back to it. You won’t want to stay away too long, and
you will find it difficult to leave. That’s because you enjoy the vibration
that you have created from your soul body. And your focus for whatever
you are doing will be exquisite. It won’t get divided. ¶It is a slow process
for a mother and a father to turn a house into a home. They have to be
spiritually present in the home. The auras of the mother and father and
each of the children have to permeate the walls of the house. The Gods
and guardian devas and ancestors have to be worshiped and invoked in
the home. That turns a house into a really prâ∫ically viable home, build-
ing up the vibration so that you never want to leave.
A spiritual vibration in the home can be initiated or
Friday renewed by having a priest come and perform a purifi-
LESSON 152
cation ceremony. That makes the prâ∫as flow correctly
What Is Real
Prosperity? in the home, which when carried out to the community
make you a full person. Another key is to have Mon-
day evenings at home. Monday home evening is practiced by many reli-
gions, including the Hindus. On Monday evening, Íiva’s day, the family
members get together, prepare a wonderful meal, play games together
and verbally appreciate one another’s good qualities. It’s an evening when
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the television is not turned on. They don’t solve any problems on that
day. They just love each other, and everybody has a voice, from the lit-
tlest child to the oldest senior. It’s a family togetherness, one day a week
when everyone will look forward to having mom and dad at home. That
doesn’t mean it will be on Tuesday or any other day if Monday is missed.
Family home evening is always on Monday, and everyone’s life has to
adjust to that. ¶Many families find even this is impossible because of their
careers. Nowadays people think that they have to have two incomes, three
incomes, to be comfortably well off. Money is gained and lost, sometimes
rather quickly. As quickly gained, often as quickly lost. But what is wealth?
Wealth is a diamond with many facets. One facet of wealth is money, but
it is not the only one. A happy family that enjoys each other—that is a
great wealth. Doing things together and enjoying doing things together is
another great wealth. Rushing home to be with one another—if you can
create that in your family, you are wealthy. Wealth is growing your own
food, making your own furniture, sewing your own clothing, picking
oranges off the tree the family planted together several years ago. Another
great wealth is living within your income. Even multi-millionaires are
poor if they do not live within their income and always worry about debts,
payments and responsibilities. They often are very lonely people, because
in all their efforts to gain those millions, they have had to sacrifice their
family, their children and their own happiness. Many content themselves
with building big multi-million dollar mansions—but to benefit whom?
A gardener? Maybe a cook, a maid or two who get to live there all the time
while the owners are traveling around the world, coming home late and
leaving early. That’s not wealth. That’s also not wisdom. That’s a good way
to die young. ¶To have a maid take care of the children while the parents
both work and come home late is not a substitute for a mother; nor are
grandparents, though they may be a better choice. A surrogate mother
cannot replace a real mother and a real father for children growing up,
because children model themselves more than you know upon what they
see adults do, what they hear adults say to each other, what they feel
adults are feeling. That shapes who they are and what they are going to
do in their future. There is no substitute for a real mom and a real dad in
a real home with a vibration of a family, the vibration of loving and the
vibration of sharing. A mother’s place is in the home ¶What is a mother?
A mother is a person who loves her children, who is calm, serene, doesn’t
become angry, doesn’t become frustrated with children, realizing that a
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child goes through many stages of development. One must not expect a
child to behave like an adult or expect too much of a child too early. A
mother knows of all this intuitively; but for her intuitive mind to work,
she has to be free from the worries of the outside world, of bills and bill
collectors, of travel, of TV and various other concerns, so that she can
raise up the next generation strong enough to meet the challenges of the
impending new age of peace and prosperity for all mankind. ¶Now, if
mothers beat their children, the children will beat other kids, and later
on in life they will become warriors and fight all through life, emotion-
ally, mentally, because they’re taught right in the home that solutions are
reached through violent means. We don’t want that. That won’t bring
in the New Age. That is bringing back the Old Age. Those methods of
raising children have to go. A mother must be a real mother. For many,
it’s not a popular idea for a mother to stay at home. During the Second
World War in the United States, mothers left their homes and never went
back, because they were needed in airplane factories and shipyards, as the
men were all off to war. But before the Second World War and before the
First World War, mothers remained home. Juvenile delinquency was not
a phrase in anyone’s vocabulary. If a teenager made some mischief, the
family was held responsible by the community. Such things were regu-
lated in those days, but went out of balance when mother left home and
never went back.
When devotees speak with me of their experiences with
Saturday family togetherness, the mother-in-law is a common
LESSON 153
concern. Mothers-in-law on both sides are often even
Mothers-
In-Law the cause of separation or divorce. They often have the
attitude, “This girl is not good enough for my son,” or
“This boy is not good enough for my daughter.” That constant harass-
ment—emotional harassment, mental harassment and even physical
harassment—can cause the couple to separate, just for their own peace
of mind. When we are asked to ascertain astrological compatibility for
marriage, we not only check the compatibility between the boy and the
girl, but also between the girl and the boy’s mother. ¶It is important to
be aware that all mothers-in-law of the world—and every daughter may
eventually be one—have their own insecurities in giving sons and daugh-
ters over to a spouse they don’t know deeply. Social security and pension
plans are relatively new, and only exist in certain parts of the world. In the
absence of these, worries about the future naturally arise. Every society
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has evolved solutions to the in-law issue, mothers-in-law, fathers-in law,

but in today’s world it’s even more difficult. Young people need to be
aware of their needs, their feelings, their insecurities, and have compas-
sion when behavioral patterns that are the by-products of insecurity show
themselves, such as being overly dominant, proud, extremely critical and
unrelenting. In America there is a sad saying, “Old and gray and in the
way.” The solution used all too often is to put bothersome elders away
in nursing homes, rest homes or “paradise retreats.” ¶The major focus
of the problem is the authority of the mother-in-law and her occasional
abuses. But consider also that in modern cultures the authority of elders
is all too frequently usurped by both the son and the daughter-in-law,
who then wield the power and make life-and-death decisions about their
parents. The tables are turned. This causes an even greater instability. One
has to ask which is the preferable culture—to allow the elderly to remain
in charge of their lives and have a strong say and respect in the family or
to deny their contribution and condemn them to a life of helplessness
and dependence, which is what happens all too frequently in the West.
Obviously, a harmonious balance is needed. ¶First of all, I suggest that
the myth that mothers-in-law are unable to adjust or learn anything new
should be thrown out. Second, I hold the husband, the mother-in-law’s
son, totally responsible for bringing about harmony in the home so that
his wife is happy and not at odds with his mother, and that his mother
does not make his wife miserable. As in all family conflicts, each inci-
dent must be resolved before sleep. Issues or problems can be put on an
agenda, as described in our system of positive discipline, and brought up
in a calm manner at the daily family meeting, just as is done nowadays by
children in many school classrooms. ¶Anyone, including mothers-in-law,
can change if they want to. A problem mom is a discouraged mom, just as
a problem child is a discouraged child. A young bride told me her mother-
in-law was totally transformed when she changed her attitude toward her,
when she began to consider what it would be like to be in her place and
looked for ways to win her love and trust. Without a single confrontation,
a single harsh word, their relationship improved and they actually began
enjoying each other and working together with enthusiasm.
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The mother-in-law has much to offer. A strong, kindly

Sunday mother-in-law will see that divorce does not happen for
LESSON 154
her son by helping to hold the family together. A strong,
Striving for
Teamwork loving mother-in-law will see that an untrained wife
becomes trained in various household skills and the
human arts of nurturing and education. A strong, understanding mother-
in-law will care for the children and give occasional rest and freedom
to the busy young homemaker. The mother-in-law is a precious artifact.
Whatever her qualities are, likeable or unlikeable, they are also the quali-
ties of the son, since she raised him. She is a library of useful knowledge
for the young bride. If the young homemaker takes the attitude that she
is in school and the mother-in-law is her teacher, and adopts that rela-
tionship, then it will be a positive learning experience for the daughter-
in-law, and she will become a better, more accomplished, more refined
person as positive qualities awaken in her. The mother-in law teaches
the ins and outs of the whole family, and if there are dozens of members
of the extended family, there is a lot to share and know. She should lis-
ten carefully. ¶Many families are not patient and persistent enough to
bring about harmony in the home. Often they resort to splitting apart.
When the mother-in-law living with her son and daughter-in-law is not
kindly, loving or understanding, one common solution that works when
the going gets tough for the bride is for the son to get an apartment for
himself and his wife next door to his mother and father’s home, or at
least not too far away. After the first baby is born, mom-in-law may soften.
¶Another solution is a condominium with members of the extended fam-
ily living in separate apartments in the same building. This happens in
many parts of the world where ancestral compounds provide closeness,
but also separateness. Within this independence enjoyed by each nuclear
family, there is yet a valuable dependence on the extended family as a sup-
port in marriage, crises, births and deaths. Here, without too strict a rein,
the elderly mother may reign supreme. Honor her, respect her when she
visits and realize that each in turn may be a mother-in-law or father-in-
law one day. Thus we set a new karmic pattern in families where Eastern
values and those of the West merge for a happy elderly experience among
Hindus in today’s world. With this in mind, shall our motto now be “Old
and gray and here to stay”? ¶Still, we must admit that to move across town
to avoid the mother-in-law is to cause new karmas to be worked out in a
future birth. To conquer the home situation in love and trust leads us to
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deepen our religious commitments through sâdhana, to quell the flames

of fight within us. When this is done, a better person emerges. The family
dharma is a very important part of Hinduism today. We must reaffirm
that we are born into a family to merge our prârabdha karmas with those
of others and endeavor to work them out with all family members. ¶It is
best to take a positive attitude. Mothers-in-law are not going to go away.
They have always been with us; they will always be with us. Many, if not
most, are not going to adjust to being retrained. Most will have a hard
time accepting suggestions or hearing about a better way of doing things.
They are who they are. If the wife receives pleasure from her husband,
simultaneously she can bless his mother for bringing him into a physical
body. Let’s be kindly. Let’s be tolerant. Let’s be accepting. Let’s be nice to
the aged. Let’s work out issues at the daily family meeting as they come
up. If all else fails and the situation becomes unbearable, let’s get an apart-
ment a few minutes away, and treat Mom as an honored guest when she
comes to visit, which will probably be twice a day.
 Yuva Vivâha Prajñâ
yauvaivavaahp‰$a

The Wisdom of
Early Marriage

Unite, O Lord, this couple like a pair of

lovebirds. May they be surrounded by
children, living both long and happily.
Atharva Veda 14.2.64. bo ve, p. 259
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We are now entering the dawning of a new age in which

Monday everyone is becoming more and more conscious of life
LESSON 155
and the inner laws of life in their investigation of the
Traditions of
Early Marriage inner man. Child marriage is one of the most interesting
and least understood practices of ancient India, which
has a very real basis in spiritual law. I thought you would be interested
this morning to hear of some of the intricacies of this ancient custom.
¶For many thousands of years, India has practiced early marriage in a
variety of forms, making the Indian home through the centuries strong
and stable, losing much of its power and stability only in more recent
times as some of the ancient practices such as early marriage have begun
to fall away from common use. But still, in thousands of homes through-
out Asia today, families practice the betrothal of their children no later
than the age of puberty. Such a practice is continued in many homes
surrounding our âßrama in the northern part of Sri Lanka. In a typical
home, the father and mother begin to take a great interest in finding the
proper mate for the child when he or she arrives at the age of six or seven
years. In the most traditional communities, many matches are proposed
when a boy is five and six years of age to a girl who is just born, because
the family wants a happy life with the other family and it seeks to protect
the youthful life of the children who are raised together with this vision
in mind. Such matches are fulfilled in holy matrimony at age sixteen or
later. The principle of such a match is considered to be much the same
as the grafting of one kind of an apple tree upon another kind of apple
tree, producing a tree which will then bear different kinds of apples. The
children are matched by their parents according to an intricate system
of character delineation which allows the parents to know the respective
basic tendencies of their children. ¶Sometimes a betrothal is made several
years before the marriage takes place. In such cases, the little boy or the
little girl is told, perhaps at the age of six or seven, who will one day be
his wife or her husband. From that day on, the child’s mind is constantly
directed towards the person he or she will one day marry. The father
talks about it, the mother talks about it, the older brothers and sisters
are constantly filling the child’s mind with thoughts of the husband- or
wife-to-be; and the betrothed child begins to anticipate the approaching
Lord Murugan blesses a Íaivite home where a couple dances playfully with their children.
When two virgins marry young, they grow especially close and are themselves youthful as their
children arrive, making for a close-knit family.
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marriage as a sacred and permanent lifetime contract. From the moment

of decision, the parents and relatives in both families are quite happy and
content with the arrangement, and eventually it is sanctified with the
aid of the temple priest. Generally it is when the two children reach their
mid-teens that they become actually married. Then the little girl packs
her bag and is taken to the house of the boy, where she lives with him, but
just like any one of the rest of the family. ¶In some cases in India, prior
to the marriage ceremony, the bride and groom may not even have met;
but as soon as they begin to live together, they come to know one another
slowly in the security of his family’s home. Gradually, their minds, which
have long been directed toward one another, come together in a natural
and harmonious way. When they begin living together, the emotions of
each blend one with another, and this is really the marriage of the emo-
tions. First occurs the marriage of the soul. Then the two minds become
married. Then the emotions become married or interblended. Finally, the
physical consummation of the marriage takes place when both bodies are
mature enough for this to happen. The physical bodies continue to grow,
and the marriage is a continuing growing together of the physical bodies,
emotional bodies and mental bodies, just as you would mold together
two pieces of clay until finally you could not tell where one began and the
other stopped. Ideally such a marriage is as perfect and complete as the
harmonious grafting of one limb upon another.
Now, you might ask, suppose a young married couple
Tuesday find that they don’t like one another. Suppose they are
LESSON 156
not suited to one another? Well, they are, assuming the
Marriages
Of the Spirit match was carefully determined according to the basic
tendencies in the nature of each child, according to
harmonious and compatible character delineations and not as a forced
marriage. The two children, being of the same basic tree, actually grow
together in growing up together. This is an ancient ideal among Hindus
and other peoples. Though it is not widely practiced in today’s world, it
may be in the future when society regains the inner understanding that
dispels the misconceptions surrounding the subject. ¶One of the most
compelling aspects of a compatible child marriage is that divorce never
even enters into the consciousness of these husbands or wives. In such a
relationship, to think of divorce would be like thinking of cutting off your
arm. You don’t even consider cutting off your own arm to solve a problem.
Nor do children who have grown up together in marriage consider divorc-
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ing each other. They have their children at an early age, and they grow up
with their own children, so the whole family is closely knit. ¶The success
of a good early marriage is due to the fact that it is a marriage of the spirit.
It is not simply an emotional, impulsive pairing or a sexual mating. When
the family elders, the mothers and fathers, consult with the family jyotisha
ßâstrî and make the betrothal at the very early age of perhaps seven, the
destinies of the children are fully directed in the mind of each member of
the family. There is no doubt, uncertainty or suspense. ¶We might think
that children should not have their lives determined for them in this way
by other people, that they should be given free will to make their own
mistakes, to find their own happiness. But think for a minute, how much
free will do we really have in our Western culture? Without even knowing
it, we buy what manufacturers and advertisers determine we should buy,
our minds are filled with what the media presents to us, and we date and
marry those we contact by chance circumstance. Our existence in all ways
is dependent upon our surroundings more than we would like to admit.
¶Now, I am only giving you one view of early marriage. You will have to
arrive at your own conclusion on this subject. Certainly, there are abuses
of the practice of arranged marriage in general. For instance, in response
to such abuse, in 1999 England passed a law forbidding forced marriages
of young girls. ¶The responsibility for the marriage of youths lies with
the parents, just as they were responsible for their children’s conception.
After both families have agreed upon the betrothal, it is the duty of the
parents in each family to thoughtfully direct the minds of the children
toward one another. The parents and all the elders of the family watch
carefully to see that the children do not form any other romantic alliances.
They may have other close friends, but first and foremost in the mind of
each is the husband- or wife-to-be. In this way, a slow amalgamation of
the souls of the two children is made; and looking within, it is possible
to see the process of interweaving which takes place on the higher planes
of consciousness.
I have observed that children born in such early mar-
Wednesday riages are spiritually inclined. They are religious and
LESSON 157
intuitive by nature. Intellectual education does not con-
Advantages of
Early Marriage cern them too much. Nor are they concerned with the
worldly pursuits of Western people who are suffering,
basically, from frustrated sex emotion, or of those unhappy, incomplete
people of the West who live in the frustrations of intellectual ramifica-
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tion and who arrive at the end of their lives and suddenly ask themselves,
“Who am I, where did I come from and where am I going?” for unless they
have a particularly strong memory, most of their study will have left them.
Just as the memory of each detail of your yesterday has flowed through
you, so does intellectual knowing eventually flow through the life of the
person who contains it, as a thing of only temporary value. ¶The custom
of early marriage in Asia does not stop with the marriage ceremony. The
mothers and fathers enter into an unwritten contract together to support
the son and the daughter and set aside a certain amount of money for
them, so that they can eventually have their own house. The boy usually
follows along the line of business of his father, and in this way, spiritually,
socially, culturally and economically, the youthful husband and wife are
taken care of until the young man is old enough to assume his full fam-
ily responsibilities. If the young man exhibits special aptitude that might
warrant it, and if the parents are sufficiently well off, perhaps they will
send him to the university. If not, he follows happily and usually success-
fully in his father’s trade. The result of such stable early marriage is to give
the nation a solidarity and to bring forth, as well, spiritually strong chil-
dren. ¶You may enter a home in which such marriages have taken place
and find ten people living in the same small area so harmoniously and so
well adjusted that you would hardly know that more than one or two are
living there. Very large families may live in close contact with each other,
and because they are so well adjusted and have such inner respect for
each other, there is no contention, no feeling of being crowded. This inner
respect for the moods and feelings of another is only possible because the
soul qualities are awakened at an early age in the children. Without all of
this, we would not, in all wisdom, recommend such early marriage.
The further a culture strays from the basic laws of early
Thursday marriage, the more difficulty do its people have mentally
LESSON 158
and emotionally, and the more difficult it is for them
Drawbacks of
Late Marriages to awaken spiritually. They have to struggle to internal-
ize and utilize the laws of willpower, concentration and
meditation; whereas in a spiritually adjusted Asian home, inner knowl-
edge and inner peace are more or less second nature. ¶Now let us consider
marriage the way we know it today in the West. Boys and girls grow up
and may not enter into marriage until eighteen, twenty, twenty-five, thirty
or later. Along the way they enter into various relationships, and each
time they wonder, “Is this the right one?” They compare one experience
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with another, and each experience they have in this line makes them more
unsure of themselves than the last. When marriage finally does happen,
instead of the wife going to the husband’s home and looking to him com-
pletely for her security, she goes to him with reservation. ¶Prior to many
Western marriages, the years of looking around, wondering, investigat-
ing, experimenting and dating only build up an unnatural conscience,
because during the crucial, early years, the young men and women are
going against the natural inclinations of their own soul, and the resulting
states of uneasy conscience only make them insecure. The man who does
marry with a foundation of such insecurity can no longer depend fully
upon himself, and he finds himself depending upon his wife. She, in turn,
is only half depending upon him. They are like two rickety posts leaning
up against each other. Jar them a little bit, and they both fall down. By
contrast, a well-raised man who marries early develops, with the support
of his family, a natural reliance upon his own inner being, and the wife
depends upon her husband. ¶Perhaps you wonder what this force is that
amalgamates a husband and wife at their early age. It is an inner force of
the nervous system. Perhaps you are somewhat familiar with the central
nervous system and the sympathetic nervous system. The arms and legs
could be likened to the gross projections of our nervous system which
can be seen with the two eyes. But there is also a subtle projection of
man’s nervous system composed of millions of tiny nerve currents which
radiate out from his body and which form an aura about him. When you
are close to someone, it is through this subtle nerve force of the aura that
you can feel how that person feels. ¶Before a young boy or girl reaches
puberty, the nervous system is pure and strong and vital in its growth,
providing the child is not beaten or abused and lives in a harmonious
home. If you could see psychically the subtle nervous system that perme-
ates the physical body and extends beyond it, you would find that it has
little hooks at the end of the nerve force. In an early marriage, these little
hooks come together, connecting the boy and the girl like interlocking
fingers, and thus the subtle nervous system of each grows together. ¶The
soul brings the boy and girl together, the mind brings them together, and
finally the nervous system in this manner binds them closer and closer
together in an actual amalgamation. Once the subtle forces are completely
intertwined, they cannot be torn apart. This is why children scheduled
for an early marriage are watched very closely, because until the marriage
actually takes place, the power to properly amalgamate the subtle forces
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and projections of this nervous system may be lost. This virginal power
may be dissipated in an instant, never to be regained until a new birth.
The children are watched so that they do not have any sexual experience
with another of the opposite sex before their intended marriage. If they
do, the pristine amalgamating power of the subtle nervous system is lost;
and though they could still come together in marriage, there would not be
the same binding force to hold their lives together. Thus, early marriage as
described above is the ideal only when both boy and girl are virgins.
When a marriage takes place after the boy or girl have
Friday already dissipated their sex energy in one way or another,
LESSON 159
the main force that holds the two together is one which
Marriages and
Social Problems the woman emanates from within herself in order to
stabilize her own security. This is a psychic force which
projects subconsciously from her solar plexus. To psychic vision, this force
looks like a long, translucent white rope, about six inches in diameter and
up to fifty yards in length, which is manifested by the woman’s desire for
security and is sent out from herself to “hook” onto the frame of a man
and wind round and round his spinal column, thus binding him to her,
even at times against his conscious will. This is why you find so many
weakened men over whom women have gained an inner, psychic control,
holding them in lower states of consciousness. Some mothers exert this
kind of control over their sons, too, from time to time, when they do not
have their husbands. When a man feels “edgy” and “peculiar” without
knowing why, he may well be under the psychic domination of a woman.
¶When this is the only binding force of a marriage, it is not a marriage
at all. Women are inwardly very unhappy in using this force, because it
leads them into a lower, instinctive plane of consciousness as well. Until
they renounce the use of it, they are never able to contact the faculties of
their own soul or to find the Divinity within. Until a man frees himself
from these psychic forces, he can never realize freedom within himself or
realize his true Divinity. Yet this is the basis upon which our new culture,
or nonculture, in the West has formed. ¶Even in Asia today, which is now
tending toward later marriage, the boys and girls are making up their
own minds about marriage. But basically they aren’t making up their
own minds at all. Instead of the soul forming the marriage, it is done
the other way around. First the body makes the marriage, then the emo-
tions make the marriage, then the couple become intellectual partners
in marriage and spend all their time and energy trying to see eye to eye
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on many subjects which they can’t see eye to eye on. When the intellect
makes such a marriage, it never becomes a spiritual marriage. It can’t be,
because the power of the spirit, which was not harnessed in chastity at an
early age, is gone. As man loses the power of a spiritual marriage, his life
depends more and more upon his instinctive nature, upon his instinctive
drives, and fulfilling his instinctive drives becomes popular, becomes the
cultural way of life, the social custom. ¶The news media are now making
us aware of the terrible social problems being created by the tradition
of late marriage in America. Child marriage is not considered modern,
and yet each day the percentage of children engaging in intercourse, and
of teen pregnancy out of wedlock, is increasing, especially with the help
of the Internet’s pornographic enticements. Hotmail is not only e-mail!
What proper guidance, what dharmic fulfillment, is given to the Western,
and now Eastern, boy and girl at the age of puberty? Very little, very little.
¶In 1962 someone gave me an article telling about the many families in
the United States who were considering entering their children into early
marriage with the consent and support of the two families through a
legal contract and agreement. Even in our own state of Hawaii, the law
sets the age of consent for intercourse, and hence marriage, at a youthful
fourteen. This is a basic social issue for us to think about and consider.
If you know two people who were married at an early age without prior
sexual experience, compare their lives with a couple who married later
in life after many affairs and experiences. Early marriage has long been
practiced by many cultures and civilizations of the world, including the
early Jews, Christians and Muslims. Such practices are not thought out
intellectually but are arrived at through observation and the intuitive
knowing of the tremendous forces in the instinctive nature of man.
Now let us suppose that a young boy and girl are pushed,
Saturday even forced, into marriage together who are not astro-
LESSON 160
logically, intellectually and spiritually compatible. That
Growing Up
Together would be like trying to graft a pine tree upon an apple
tree, which just would not work. The chemistry of the
inner forces of this boy and the girl simply would not mix, and naturally
the marriage would not be a happy one. This is often the case when two
different types of people, who are basically not suited to one another,
marry at a later age and thus do not have the chance to grow and mature
together. In this case, they are only “glued” together, and when the circum-
stances of their companionship become too intense, the glue melts and
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they fall apart. ¶This indicates why we see so little of early match-making
for youths today. There is simply not sufficient knowledge widespread in
our society to make proper matches between children. This sophisticated
knowledge must be present in both families. Furthermore, both must
necessarily be mature and traditional religious families. Similarly, where
there is no proper experience in grafting, trees never get grafted. ¶Among
my initiates, we arrange marriages at a slightly later age, such as twenty-
one for the boy and seventeen for the girl, and we always require the
blending of the two families as a one family and the unequivocal consent
of the young man and woman, as well as a written agreement between
the couple. There is a lot to be said for marriages that are arranged at
these formative ages, because after age twenty-five, personal patterns are
already set, and it is more difficult for anyone to adjust to a marriage part-
ner and be guided by community elders. ¶Years ago in the West, before
the two World Wars, it was looked down upon, even unheard of, if there
was not at least a three- to five-year difference between the groom and
the bride. And to keep genetics strong, cousins never, ever married. The
boy was always older, of course. It has been my observation that there is
more strain and misunderstanding in marriages when the woman is of
the same age or older than the man. When younger, he may feel like a boy,
and she like a mother. Whenever the husband is older, his masculinity and
sense of protective caring is stimulated, as his wife is younger than he and
therefore depends upon him, as eventually do the children. ¶In today’s
world the new trend is to marry when the professions are well established
and earning power is up—enough to support a nuclear family. But what
about the children? The generation gap is humongous, or at least very big,
for them. The mom who marries as a child herself, around sixteen or even
earlier and having a baby ten months later, would be only about sixteen or
seventeen years older than her first child. By the time she and her husband
are fortyish and in the stressful throes of male and female menopause
(yes, men go through it, too), their children will be in their early twenties
and totally able to help handle their parents’ traumas. ¶Compare this to
a young woman of twenty-five marrying a man who is thirty or older.
Mom will be fortyish and dad, too, when the children are in puberty. Hot
flashes for mom, while dad is wondering whatever happened to his youth
and resisting having an affair. In the midst of all this, the children are
demanding their freedom as they experience their own budding pow-
ers of procreation. Under these circumstances, the emotional ups and
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downs in the home can be almost unbearable for everyone, including the
neighbors, who sometimes have to listen to loud, high-pitched voices and
banging of doors. ¶Many nuclear families blow up because of the simul-
taneous release of the biological forces of bodily change experienced by
both generations, which inevitably happens in families who marry late
in life—father going through middle age crisis while his teenage son is
coping with “testosterone poisoning,” mother going through menopause
while her adolescent daughter is transforming into an estrogen-powered
woman. Of course, the generation gap of twenty-five to thirty years or
more between mom and dad and their offspring also contributes to
deeper misunderstandings. ¶What price profession, a well-established
financial plan and enough income to maintain a nuclear family? The
divorce lawyers get their share, and so do the marriage counselors and
psychiatrists—and, oh yes, the doctors, the druggists and the hospitals all
take a cut. So, there is a lot to be said, in contemporary Hindu families, for
marriage beginning around sixteen for girls and twenty for boys. By this
age such children are practically young adults, which even present-day
laws recognize.
One suggestion is for marriageable youth to give up
Sunday those summer vacations and study around the year to
LESSON 161
get through school and into a profession so they can
Not Growing
Up Together wed and establish a family while they are still young,
rather than delaying the completion of education and
the time of marriage. ¶Can you tell this to the young people of today? No.
They will say, “We will deal with it when it happens.” To delay marriage
until age thirty or later and go into a situation with no plan of how to
deal with the problems when they come up is flying blind, isn’t it? We
don’t even buy our automobiles like that. Will youth listen to such advice
from elders? No, not any more. “It’s not cool,” they say. Well, it won’t be
cool when emotions get hot and the family has to live through the seven
teenage years of puberty simultaneously with the five or more fortyish
years of menopause. Think about it. ¶Here’s a story: Little Jyoti got inter-
ested in sailing when his father purchased a boat. Dad was reliving his
youth, but had no time to take Jyoti out on a sail, except once, and that
was the time they nearly capsized. Dad was forty-seven, and Jyoti was
seventeen. There were thirty years between them. Imagine! It certainly
didn’t used to be that way, but it is now. All their lives the father and the
son lived in different universes, seldom communicating. Even when they
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thought they communicated, they didn’t. The distance between the ages
of Jyoti and his parents contributed to the breakup of the family. ¶Jyoti
went to live with mom after the divorce. They were all happier, now that
the fights about the cost of the boat were over. Mom thought the money
spent on the boat would be better spent on a new wing built on their
house for her mother, who was getting old. Now mom and Jyoti live in
her mother’s house, which is big enough for all three of them. Jyoti and
dad have finally become friends. Dad sees Jyoti whenever he comes over.
Jyoti does not visit dad’s place too often and only when dad’s “significant
other” is at work and it’s dad’s day off. It’s all too true that this story is
the tale of many families in today’s world. ¶Another story: Rani’s mom
was married at seventeen to a boy who was twenty. They were both vir-
gins and grew together as they discovered each other physically, emotion-
ally, intellectually and spiritually. Then came little Rani, then Kumar and
then Krishna. Mom, dad and the kids were all children together, and they
are still together. Mom stays home. She has never held a job. Dad makes
enough for the whole family; they live simply. Mom is always there for
her family, laughing and smiling. She is rarely tired and never stressed
out. Dad has mutual-interest projects going in the attic, the basement
and the garage for the two boys. Mom is teaching her daughter how to
sew, cook, sing and serve. Mom, dad, Rani and the boys enjoy each other
because they are not so far apart in age. Are those days gone? Are there
going to be no more happy times when the entire family enjoys each other
without too much distance between their age and interests? Dad doesn’t
have to worry about giving quality time to his family. He is there with
them—there for them—and so is mom. They have no marriage counsel-
ing bills to pay; no problems, really. ¶The moral to these stories is simple.
There is a wisdom in the old ways of marrying early, which is exactly what
happened in tribes and cultures for thousands of years prior to World
Wars I and II. That is the natural way, the way that avoids frustration and
promiscuity, marriage failure and unhappy families.
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 Ådhunika Vivâha Gha†aka
AaDauinak[ivavaahGaqk[

Modern Matchmakers

May the suitor, O Agni, win our friendship by

choosing this maiden and bringing us good
luck. Liked by the wooers, lovely in assemblies,
may she have good fortune with her husband.
Atharva Veda 2.36.1. hv, p. 123
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Marriage is a union not only of a boy and girl, but of

Monday their families as well. Not leaving such crucial matters
LESSON 162
to chance, all family members participate in finding the
Arranged
Marriages most suitable spouse for the son or daughter and there-
after commit hearts and minds to assist in times of need.
Marriage is a sacred covenant which all relatives take up the responsibility
to care for and protect. It is one of the most sacred events of life. Through
the homa rite at the marriage ceremony, the priest invokes the Gods. The
elders, the priests, the Gods, the devas, the planets and even cows witness
the couple vow themselves to holy, harmonious matrimony for the rest of
their lives. Thus, divorce or annulment are considered out of the question.
The Âig Veda intones: “United your resolve, united your hearts, may your
spirits be one, that you may long together dwell in unity and concord”
(10.191.4. ve, p. 863). ¶While not all marriages must be arranged, there is
wisdom in arranged marriages, which have always been an important part
of Hindu culture. Their success lies in the families’ judgment to base the
union on pragmatic matters which will outlast the sweetest infatuation
and endure through the years. Compatibility of culture and education is
also taken into consideration. A spouse is generally sought from within
the same religious community. The man and woman should at least be
of the same religious sect for long life and a happy marriage. This may
not seem important if both are not religiously active, but conditions will
tend to change in future years, especially after children are born, and the
disparity can lead to separation and divorce. Most families begin early in
finding the proper mate for their children among families they know and
esteem for the kinship bonds the marriage would bring. Those involved
ponder whether the two families can blend into a one family harmoni-
ously with benefits to both. Stability is enhanced if the groom has com-
pleted his education, established earnings in a profession and is at least
three years older than the bride.
In arranging a marriage, the families consult astrologers
Tuesday regularly until a match is found. Sometimes the boy and
LESSON 163
girl are allowed to get to know each other long before
Seeking the
Best Match they are aware that a marriage is being arranged for them.
Of course, if they do not get along well, the matter is
With temple spires on the horizon, a modern matchmaker in Bali uses a computer to assess the
astrological compatibility of a young couple considering marriage. Hindus know that harmony
of the two natures is one key to a successful marriage.
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dropped and the search is on again. If one match is not agreeable, another
is sought. The inner-world devas also help to arrange the best matches.
Most traditional astrologers have one or more devas assisting them to
provide knowledge from the âkâßic records and insight into the planetary
powers that impel karmas. ¶Astrological compatibility is also sought for
and acquired between the girl and her prospective mother-in-law. The
results are taken especially seriously if they will be living in the same home,
because in this case the bride will be under the guidance of the mother-
in-law and may spend more time with her than with her own husband.
In marrying the son, she becomes the daughter of his mother. ¶Once a
potential spouse is selected, discreet, informal inquiries are made by a rel-
ative or friend. If the response is encouraging, the girl’s father meets with
and presents a proposal to the boy’s father. In some communities it is the
boy’s father who presents the proposal. In these modern times, with the
worldwide diaspora of Hindus from India and other countries, the fathers
must take an aggressive role in helping their sons and daughters become
well settled in life. If fathers do not fulfill this obligation, it becomes the
duty of the mothers. This pattern differs from the tradition of well-settled
village communities where only the father of the girl makes the overtures.
In today’s widely dispersed global Hindu village, it becomes everyone’s
duty to help in the task of matchmaking for the next generation. ¶Once
the union has been tentatively agreed upon, the families gather at the girl’s
home to get further acquainted and allow them to meet and discuss their
potential life together. Of course, mutual attraction and full consent of
the couple are crucial. After all the input from the community is in place,
it is the couple themselves who must make the final decision whether to
spend their life together, based on their own personal sensibilities and
judgments. They do have the right to say no. In recent years, we have
found that an excellent way for a young prospective couple to gradually
get to know each other before committing to marriage is through corres-
pondence by e-mail over a period of several months. The first and the last
important factor for a good match is that the boy and girl must be happy
and comfortable in each other’s company.
Love marriages that are not arranged by the parents
Wednesday are also fully acceptable if the astrology is excellent, the
LESSON 164
parents on both sides agree and the young lady and the
Pledges and
Blessings young man are of the same religious denomination. Of
course, these ideals cannot always be met, and if not,
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more support will be needed from family and friends to make the mar-
riage a success. ¶Before the wedding, the bride and groom each writes out
a covenant by hand, pledging loyalty to one another and formalizing their
promises, ideals, expectations and love. The couple share and discuss
these documents together, read them carefully and make necessary revi-
sions until 100 percent agreement is achieved. Like a ship’s chart, these
detailed vows can be referred to if the relationship gets off course. Each
of the two families makes a written pledge as well, signed by the mother
and father of the groom and the mother and father of the bride, stating
what they promise to do and give toward supporting this marriage in the
areas of artha, kâma, dharma and moksha. Also most welcome are written
testimonies in support of the marriage from grandfathers, grandmothers,
uncles and aunts, sisters and brothers, as well as from other members of
the religious community. This is also a time when anyone among family
and friends may, in deepest confidence, even anonymously, share with
the family preceptor any obstacles to this marriage that should be known
and understood. A full, honest disclosure of the boy’s life and the girl’s
life, including sexual experiences, should be made to both families and
to the kulaguru. ¶From the time of inquiry into a match, several months
should be allowed for the jyotisha âchâryas and ßâstrîs to assess com-
patibility. The whole process of arranging a proper match for a son or
daughter often takes two or more years. There should never be a sense
of urgency for this or any other lifetime commitment. As Jnanaguru Siva
Yogaswami so wisely said, “No hurry. No worry. No sorry.” Nor should
the arrangements ever be forced on the boy or girl. They remain free to
cancel the process at any time if the match does not seem suitable to them.
¶When all agreements have been reached, the boy’s mother adorns her
new daughter with a gold necklace. Generous gifts are exchanged between
the members of both families to bind the two families together in love
and loyalty. Rejoicing begins with the formal engagement party, when
the boy and girl exchange gifts, such as engagement rings. Later, they
read their pledges to each other in the presence of elders. All arrange-
ments and ceremonies culminate on the wedding day, when members
of both families join to wish the couple a righteous, prosperous, happy
life leading to the ultimate goal of enlightenment. During weddings or
related ceremonies, the vegetarian diet should in no way be compromised.
Meat and other nonvegetarian foods should not be served, even to please
guests of other religions or communities. All Hindus attending should be
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requested to dress in formal Hindu attire.

Once a marriage has occurred, both families are relied
Thursday upon to hold it together through the years. It is the
LESSON 165
duty especially of the husband’s parents to support and
Supporting
The Marriage make the marriage work and to offer a home to their
new daughter. But it is unacceptable in modern Hindu
society, and especially in our fellowship, to follow the oppressive tradi-
tion in which the girl becomes the total charge of the boy’s family and is
seldom allowed to see her family of birth. It is the duty of the bride’s par-
ents to monitor her protection and observe the couple’s abilities to dwell
in unity and concord, while allowing them freedom to work things out
together in their new home. ¶If she is abused physically, they must open
their doors to receive her back, to be sheltered, comforted and consoled.
It then becomes their duty and that of all ßishyas in the community to try
to patch things up, restore harmony and obtain trustworthy promises
from the husband that this will never happen again. The bride should
receive no blame for her husband’s violence, for it is he who has broken
his promise to adore her and protect her from harm. ¶The blending of the
two families as a one family gives both the son and daughter two families
to support them in good times and bad. It is the responsibility of both
families to work toward assuring an endearingly enduring marriage, as
well as to guide the raising of the progeny, so that they may become good,
productive, dharma-aware citizens, contributing to society at large. If the
two families fail in this mutual effort, society fails. ¶To build solid mar-
riages, some Hindu institutions provide a family evening for fellowship
and discussion with a trained counselor. Once a year during the holy time
of Pañcha Ga∫apati, the couple take out their marriage agreement and
together study where they have been lax or derelict. They trace back in
their minds to incidents that are still vibrating as negative saμskâras, and
apologize humbly and seek forgiveness and total resolution. They renew
their commitment to each other. This is a wonderful key for setting the
tone for the coming year—of harmony and peace, which leads to abun-
dance and happiness. We call this anâha†a yoga, cleansing the heart chakra,
bringing up that true love for one another. It is the process of bringing
up all those things that were not settled before going to sleep, to retrieve
those seeds before they get ploughed under and produce another crop of
sorrow in the coming years. It is bringing up little things that each one
said or did that hurt the other and were not resolved. It is bringing up
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incidents of anger, any physical violence, which should never be but may
have been. It is time to extend apologies, talk with your kulaguru, and
make promises and New Year’s resolutions to set the course of the future
on the path of dharma, which is based on ahiμsâ.
Many are the cross-national marriages happening today,
Friday marriages between members of different nations, reli-
LESSON 166
gions, cultures or races. Times have changed. It is com-
Cross-National
Marriages munication that has done it. With no communication,
there is no change. When information flows freely, inde-
pendent thinking is the result, and change is inevitable. Yes, inevitable,
and that is what we are seeing today. The younger generation are thinking
for themselves, no longer relying on elders to advise. This is unfortunate,
for now they will have to learn from their own mistakes. What a way to
learn! But this is what is happening, and it is happening faster than we
would like to see. Much faster. ¶Any kind of marriage can survive if true
love is there as its glue. True love is the kind of love that gives the couple
the ability to give and take from each other without serious conflict, to
go through the ups and downs together in trust, to support each other
without fail and to reign as benign king and queen strong enough to
bind all members of the family together. Even the ®ishis said that when
true love is there, any kind of astrology is good and the marriage will be
lasting. Love overrides all bad influences and softens incompatibilities.
Love is the sum of the law. But how would a young couple know if theirs
is true love or magnetic love? By giving the love a test. That is how. Test
it with time. Magnetic love weakens and all but disappears over time.
True love grows stronger, much stronger, with time. True love mellows
through the years. ¶Cross-national marriages are essential to the Hindu
thought that avant-garde thinkers are sharing today, “All the world is one
family,” Vasudhaiva ku†umbakam. Citizens of the world bound in love
can survive the torrents of the upheavals that naturally come as lives are
lived through together and individuals grow ever closer and closer in
body, mind and spirit. ¶Every marriage needs a support of some kind or
another built into it. True love is the best support of all, but support from
the parents on both sides is a necessary help, too, especially for couples
who were drawn together only by magnetism. It is when the magnetic
love fades away, and all that’s left are the children, that support from
parents and friends is essential for the marriage to last without violent
outbursts of released stress which was once undying passion. ¶Shall we
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have a look into the future? Since cross-national marriages have hap-
pened, are happening, and will continue to happen, there must be some
sensible way for them to happen without undue strain on the families of
the couple. Wisdom is supposed to fix things, heal conditions, and settle
problems. But first we have to admit that there is a problem. And, yes,
cross-national marriages are a problem to many people of the old school.
The old school only became old just ten years ago. Before then it was a
school sharing standards of how things should be to maintain a growing
and stable society.
When an Asian girl marries a black boy, should she
Saturday be banished from the kingdom? Yes, according to the
LESSON 167
old school, the old standard. No, according to the new
When It’s Too
Late to Say No school, the new standard. The banishment method
of parental punishment is outdated and bizarre today.
Today’s girls think. They understand. They do not intend to be the ill-
treated servants of the mother-in-law. The days of Cinderella have long
since passed when the mean old stepmother made her cringe beneath her
wrath. Boys, too, think for themselves. They read, they listen and evalu-
ate. Theirs is an ever-changing world ahead. They are busy preparing for
it. But then along comes love, of one kind or another, to complicate their
lives. ¶When Karen falls in love with Shan and elopes to his country, go
visit them and bring her home in your heart. “I love you, therefore, I love
whom you love.” That should be the attitude. When Kumar announces his
undying love for Carmen, his lover from Mexico, and informs you that her
father has a place for him as senior partner in his business, accept it. Enjoy
Mexico City. It is a great place, because Kumar and Carmen are there. ¶Yes,
hands across the ocean are loving hands. Hands across the ocean are bind-
ing continents to continents, businesses to businesses. This and more is
what all Hindu elders are seeing happening around them today. Today’s
world is a happening world. Cross-national marriages are inevitable as
the peoples of the world become more and more a global village. This is
the real, earthy expression of our belief in one God and one world. The
soul has nothing to do with nationalism, social restrictions, ethnic taboos
or restrictive, prejudicial upbringing. Two souls joining in dharmic mat-
rimony transcend all such boundaries. ¶My advice has always been that
families should arrange marriages for their children. That’s part of their
purusha and strî dharma. This is a process they should begin early on. But
if they don’t do that, obviously their young people will start arranging
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their own marriages. And very often when they do arrange a marriage for
themselves, the family objects. They have no right to object, because they
didn’t perform their duty in the first place. ¶The dilemma is that matches
are not being arranged, and yet parents also want strict control over their
youth, and youths are going to find partners, one way or another. Girls
especially should be chaperoned. It’s very easy in today’s world to meet
the wrong kind of people. As one solution, though not the ideal, I recom-
mend in such cases that mature young ladies double-date and chaperone
each other. Then they can talk together about the young men they are
dating, and bypass the families who’ve neglected their duties, and arrange
a good marriage for themselves that will be lasting, and in the future raise
the next generation by doing their duty by arranging a marriage accord-
ing to tradition for their own children early on. ¶We cannot stand in
front of progress, lest we get run over by it. But we can sit by the side of
progress and guide it so it doesn’t run off the track. This cannot be done
when we break off communications and refuse to talk to the youth when
they don’t obey the old standard. It is communication that is catalyzing
the changes in the first place, so we all must guide the young by keeping
the channels of communication open. Don’t let them go. Go with them.
Love them and gently guide them.
I tell young ladies, if you are planning on getting mar-
Sunday ried, do not do what the average mother might tell you,
LESSON 168
“Get the husband under your thumb right at the begin-
Interfaith
Marriages ning. Otherwise you might have a terrible time, because
it’s harder to do it later on.” Don’t do that. Go into your
marriage for better or for worse and live up to your vow. Be to your
husband like melted butter is on toast; it is absorbed. Be one. You will
have a very happy old age. ¶It might be rough at the start, but don’t hold
divorce over his head to force him into various preconceived ideas that
your girlfriend has put into your mind, as so many do, or that you’ve seen
on television or in the movies. You have seen the results that Hollywood
marriages have played upon the lives of those who have had them as they
have gotten older through the years. They are not happy people, though
they are advertised as glamorously as they make their living. That is not
the way. The way is, when you take your vow, think about it first, and
then stick to it for better or for worse. ¶I tell young men, Gentlemen, if
you are thinking about getting married, do not marry a young lady who
won’t be one with you in your religion, who will not be willing to stay at
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home and take care of and raise your family, one who doesn’t respect you
as a man and starts, right off the bat, by telling you what to do. Don’t do
that, because if you do you will be miserable and you will lose your man-
hood and be nothing but a puppet on the strings of your wife. And you
will both be unhappy, but she especially, in older age. Rather, choose a girl
who will blend with you for better or for worse. And whether you are suc-
cessful or not, she will be happy to eat what you eat and go where you go.
A Roman ideal pronounced by the bride at weddings was “Where you are,
there I will be.” It might be difficult in the beginning years, but it will be
much better later. ¶A seeker wrote to me saying, “I’m in love with a Chris-
tian girl but she wants me to give up my religion and accept Jesus Christ.
How can I explain to her that Hinduism is my path and I want to stay with
it, but I love her very much? What should I do, Gurudeva?” I responded
that you have to think of the children and how you want to raise them.
Obviously you want to raise them to be good Hindu children. Since there
is very little connection between Hinduism and Christianity—because
Christianity does not accept karma or reincarnation, the existence of an
all-pervasive God or our temples and ceremonies—there will be serious
problems. If she remains a Christian and you remain a Hindu, the children
are going to be very confused. If your beloved doesn’t want to go along
with you intellectually and spiritually, maybe your love is only physical;
that is called carnal love—love of the flesh. That is a very limited type of
love, and it is not long lasting. Don’t be guided by your carnal, instinctive
emotions. Be guided by your spiritual intellect, or by my good advice. Go
shopping. Find a good Hindu girl, or let your parents find one for you,
so you can raise a good new generation of high souls. ¶I’ve seen many
cases of Hindus marrying outside of their own religion, and I’ve seen the
young couple be very happy for a while. But after the children come and
the sensuality of the marriage has cooled off, then there arises a tension
between the husband and wife. Generally one becomes more religious
than the other. The non-Hindu spouse argues, “You should be religious
in my religion,” and the Hindu insists, “You should be religious in my reli-
gion.” The victims of this conflict, which generally goes on throughout life,
are the children. It is a couple’s shared allegiance to a religious tradition
that is the most important common ground.
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Vivâha Vicçheda˙ Pî∂anam cha
ivavaahivacCed: paIznama< ca

Divorce and Abuse

Dwell in this home; never be parted! Enjoy

the full duration of your days, with sons and
grandsons playing to the end, rejoicing in
your home to your heart’s content.
Âig Veda 10.85.42. ve, p. 256
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There is a breakdown that has been under way among

Monday Hindus for some time all over the world. Complaints as
LESSON 169
well as suggestions come in daily to my publisher’s desk.
Marriage
Is Forever These are some of the typical problems: mothers are no
longer teaching righteousness, Vedic Dharma, worship
and pûjâ to their children, for fear their little ones won’t fit into the alien
cultures in which they are living. That’s one. Fathers are no longer taking
their sons into the family business or profession, but giving them choices
of their own, for fear of being regarded as the “dominant” parent figure
and not fitting in with the society in which they are living. That’s another.
There are more. ¶Children are orphaned in their own homes because the
minds of both mother and father are in the work-a-day world in which
the children play no part. Kids content themselves within the asuric
realms of video arcades and TV. Families have given up dharma and even
the hope of moksha, liberation from rebirth. Instead, they are immersed
in the insatiable search for artha (wealth) and kâma (enjoyment) and
the many other magnetic pulls, so that they, too, are able to blend into
modern society. ¶Hindu people, we are told in many e-mails, have almost
all become passive followers, with few active leaders among them. No
one wants to stand out over another, lest he be harshly criticized and put
down. Many moderners fear openly affirming the dharma if it conflicts
with modern society. Society as we know it today is the doctrine of mate-
rialism governed by anarchy. Lay down a rule, and someone will break
it, no matter what it is. Are we in the Kali Yuga? ¶There is one institu-
tion that there is still hope in saving. It has been cherished in scripture,
in living cultures, in all the major religions for thousands of years. It is
the precious institution of marriage. It is the binding, contractual agree-
ment between a man and woman who have come together to take on the
responsibility of birthing, raising and educating a new generation. How
are we going to have a brave new world, a new world order, a new age,
based on anarchy within the family itself? Yet, here, too, Hindus are taking
their examples from those who do not understand or observe dharma;
they are seeing divorce as a solution instead of a problem. ¶When the
institution of marriage breaks down, everyone suffers. We see this hap-
pening all around us. A husband and wife bound by holy sacraments are
Divorce is a growing problem today. Here a judge guides the proceedings of a family that is
breaking up, listening to allegations of the husband and wife. The real victim here is the boy,
who cries as he realizes he will no longer live together with his mother and father.
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psychically attached to each other. To separate for a month, a week or even

for a day can be painful on the part of one or both. They reach out to one
another during the time of physical absence in dreams and longing. How
painful then is their permanent separation? How much anguish does it
bring to their beloved children, whose wounds never really heal? And
how is it that only the priest, a person who invokes God and the Gods,
can sanctify a marriage, and that a court judge, a man of the world, can
cancel that divine contractual agreement? Impossible. Only in the Kali
Yuga. ¶A long and joyous life is theirs who remain firmly on the fault-
less path of the control of the five senses. There are still a few elders left
today who speak out, whether listened to or not. Their fire of righteous
indignation, their love for dharma, is making an impression upon the
younger generation and their parents alike. We appeal to these elders to
take courage and proclaim the ancient values, whether their children and
grandchildren listen to them or not. Some part of them will be hearing.
Preach the dharma. There is little to lose and much to gain. We appeal to
elders to speak against divorce, to patiently work to harmonize matrimo-
nial tensions and diffuse difficult family situations.
Divorce only begins new problems. Is a divorce similar
Tuesday to going out of business? Or bankruptcy? Yes, because in
LESSON 170
both cases everyone is the loser. The employees are losers,
Drawbacks
Of Divorce the children are losers, the suppliers are losers; everyone is
a loser, and everyone takes sides. In the case of the failing
business, the employees take sides, the partnership breaks up, the partners
take sides, and their friends take sides. In case of a marriage, the friends
of a husband take his side, the friends of a wife take her side, and there is
a permanent division. Sometimes the courts take the side of the children,
and the children are divided. It is the breakdown of the community, it is
the breakdown of society, and it is the creation of a lot of kukarma that
has to be worked out in this or probably in a future life. There’s another
great loss in the case of a marriage that breaks up or a business that breaks
up, and the loss is trust in the individuals concerned. They lose their abil-
ity to trust each other, to trust themselves; and, of course, no one trusts
them. ¶Couples have been taught to look to psychiatrists, psychologists,
family counselors and attorneys for solutions to marital problems. But
who can give better solutions than our qualified elders who know the
karmas, who know the adharma involved in divorce? Their experience
has great value. Find a swâmî, sâdhu, guru, a jyotisha ßâstrî, someone who
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can help tighten the bonds of family love and trust and make this person
an integral part of your family. Every family needs its spiritual preceptor
to strengthen the support group, who in turn hold the family together
when hard times come. The plea is to hang on to one thing: the family
life. Marriage is forever. ¶Indian culture has within it all the solutions to
maintain proper relationships of a man being manly and a woman being
womanly. Today men are confronted by women who have, often out of
necessity, nurtured their masculine qualities. Naturally, such couples will
fight, compete and suffer. In my life-long ministry, those who are not
getting along well in marriage come occasionally for advice. We work it
out according to ancient ßâstric principles that transcend the immediate
problems. Marriage is like a voyage by ship. Sometimes the going is easy
and sunny, and sometimes there is bad weather to endure. But at all times
it’s advisable to stay with the ship and not jump overboard. My experi-
ence is that the bad karmas, or kukarmas, as well as harsh astrology and
difficult attitudes, are always finally overcome, so long as no one gives
up the hope and the effort. The marriage continues. The word divorce is
never uttered or seen as a solution in the hundreds of extended families
who look to me as preceptor. ¶Those who don’t take such advice are over-
whelmed by the tugs and pulls of prâ∫ic forces between them stimulated
by hatred and confusion, tears, remorse, unresolvable misunderstandings
which have gone on unattended for fifteen or twenty years. Couples who
did not listen to my advice to not end their marriage ten years ago still
speak to me today of their separation as though it all happened a week
ago. They admit that divorce was no solution, only a postponement of
problems that still linger, which could have been solved and still have to
be. Those who have gone through the experience know that divorce and
remarriage is just trading one set of problems for another. We have seen
that divorcees remarry others with the same traits, temperament, faults,
failings and even looks as their previous spouse. No one, however clever
they may be, can run away from their birth karmas. No, divorce is no
solution. Separation, though better, is still not the solution. Both are only
the beginning of new problems.
In Hinduism marriage is still highly respected, and so
Wednesday divorce is a sign of failure, because life is a spiritual jour-
LESSON 171
ney and failing to fulfill that journey is a weakness. In a
Unofficial
Divorce sense, it is a crime against one’s own karma and dharma
in this life. It is like saying, “I can’t do what I came here
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to do.” Divorce brings loss of social position and respect in the commu-
nity. By getting divorced, one betrays a sacred covenant, a betrayal that
weakens the whole of society. ¶There is divorce, and there is divorce. I
have observed through the years that a modern form of Hindu divorce
has become a part of Indian culture. It is a clever way to not hurt the feel-
ings of elders, parents and relatives, or to avoid incurring the community
stigma of divorce. A modern form of Hindu divorce, it seems, has cleverly
been conceived in the following way. The husband is under great stress,
a stress that is not natural for a human being, a stress based on living up
to materialistic expectations. He comes home psychically wounded, tired,
worried. If things do not go well at home, he may verbally or even physi-
cally abuse his wife and family, blaming her for everything bad that hap-
pens to him. Sensing his failure to cope with all of this, he secretly wishes
he did not have to face his weakness. ¶He learns from compatriots that
the Big Solution to the marriage problem is to get away from the wife and
the kids. He is advised to accept a job in another part of the world, know-
ing that his association with his family will become distant and tenuous,
and he will no longer have to confront his wife, who has become his con-
science. He knows he will hardly have to speak with her, rarely visit her
and will be able to avoid, most of the time, the challenges the marriage
has brought to him which he is unwittingly unable or unwilling to resolve.
He knows, too, that he won’t have to face the community’s disdain that a
formal divorce would bring, and that he can avoid the financial pains of
alimony. ¶After reorganizing his professional life, the husband takes a job
in a far-off land. He returns home for brief periods and only occasion-
ally, thus effecting a separation without the expensive inconvenience and
social stigma of formal divorce proceedings. He assures everyone, mostly
himself, that this is the right thing to do, since he is making more money.
Of course, money will never make up for his absence, never buy the chil-
dren their childhood back. Lacking in fatherly guidance, the children are
running wild, turning promiscuous, later to repeat the example of neglect
that dad is teaching them. No one wins. ¶Husband and wife should always
be together. If there is an unavoidable separation, he should call her daily,
ask how her day was, inquire about the children. After all, it is the harmo-
nizing of their prâ∫as that will create through their children a brave new
world, a new world order and a new age.
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HINDUISM TODAY ran a quiz about divorce on the wom-

Thursday en’s page. The subject struck a nerve among readers.
LESSON 172
Here’s a question that a young Hindu asked about cop-
Whom to Hold
Responsible? ing with divorce. ¶Question: My mother and father got
a divorce, and I really resent it. It happened seven years
ago when I was sixteen, and almost every day I regret what I missed
by not having my mom and dad together in a loving home. How can I
deal with the resentment, Gurudeva? ¶Answer: It’s not easy experienc-
ing the separation and divorce of one’s mom and dad, at any age—six,
sixteen or thirty-one. There is a feeling of emptiness; something is lost,
never to be regained. The feelings and thoughts of blame grow, they do
not diminish, as the years go by. But look at it this way. Any marriage,
yours maybe, needs a loving, strong support group that wants to help
the young couple, or the older couple, work out their problems rather
than avoid them through separation and finally divorce. Basically, when
there are children involved as a result of a marriage, there really is no
divorce—only separation. Every marriage is truly irrevocable, carved in
the âkâßic records when the first child’s umbilical cord is cut. Thereafter,
there can be no separation without a great deal of pain and unforeseen
karmic repercussions. ¶Upon whom should the children put the blame?
Put it where it truly belongs. Put it on the support groups—the mothers,
the grandmothers, the grandfathers, the aunts, the uncles, the cousins,
the next-door neighbors, the business partners and friends of the family.
Everyone in the community shares the tragedy of the home’s breaking
up—the members of the temple society, the marriage counselor, psychia-
trist, psychologist, the hairdresser, the gym instructor and the attorney
were all responsible to become part of the solution rather than part of the
dissolution of the marriage. Put the blame on them, not on your mom
and dad. ¶An extended family that loves one another and looks out for
the good of all, a religious group of loving souls who pride themselves
on low percentage of divorce in their community or congregation—these
and more are all the people who can or should see the tension growing
between husband and wife and who have the ability to diffuse it at the
early stages. Don’t blame your mother and father. If blame is to be cast,
blame all those people that surrounded your family who were not alert
enough, good souls that they may be, to help diffuse the tension between
your parents. ¶Obviously, the support group has failed their marriage.
You must admit that failure, lest it drag you down to its own depth. Be
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part of the solution. Don’t perpetuate the problem. Don’t make them feel
guilty. For your own peace of mind, transfer the blame, the hurt feelings,
the pain and resentment over to the relatives, the community and national
value system. Become an agent of goodwill. Have kind words to say about
dad to mom and kind words to say about mom to dad. Resist the impulse
to criticize one to the other and cause an even greater separation within
the family. They are not to blame. Society is. ¶If you take sides, you are
creating bad karma, kukarma, for yourself, to be faced later. So treat each
one the same. Don’t make deals, don’t deceive them or keep secrets from
them, lest you psychically alienate yourself from the home. Maybe, just
maybe, you can help them to understand and reconcile their differences
if you follow this advice. Maybe, just maybe, time and the forces of nature
will all come to your aid, and your parents will remarry and you will all
become a family again. Don’t perpetuate the problem. Be part of the solu-
tion. Work with it. You, their child, may be their very best hope.
When the tensions of the burdens of life begin to build,
Friday if friends, relatives and community begin to pull away
LESSON 173
rather than come forward to help, mom and dad are
Support at
Crucial Times rendered helpless, absolutely helpless. Certain crises are
predictable in the course of a marriage. When the first
child is born, everything changes. This is the first crisis in their life. He lost
his sweetheart and lover when she gave birth to her first child and became
a mother. She lost her lover, too, when he became a father. Their roles first
began to change during the time of her pregnancy. He had to watch very
closely his thoughts toward other women, while feeling neglect because
she was thinking about their baby soon to be born more than she was
thinking about him. She used to think only of him. ¶Moving into another
home is another crisis time. It’s easy for dad because he is involved in
new employment and new friends, but hard for mom because she has to
adjust to the change of her entire environment. Is this a time for her to
be emotionally upset? Yes it is. ¶At middle age, around forty, mom goes
through menopause—another big crisis. Dad doesn’t admit it—no man
ever does—but he goes through a corresponding change at that time, too.
At that time they both begin to think how it would have been if they had
married somebody else. Dad, maybe, especially is ready for one last fling.
They both have a desire to return to the surroundings of their youth. This
is another intense crisis time. If dad reaches fortyish first and mom later,
then they experience two crisis times instead of one. When their daughter
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entered puberty, another crisis time occurred for the family. They didn’t
know what she was going to do next, and they often blamed themselves
and each other for her erratic and sometimes erotic behavior. Another
crisis time. ¶Grandma, Grandpa, great aunts and uncles, the neighbor
next door, even the deliveryman, can help in times of crisis. The temple
community, the church congregation, the priest, the minister, friends,
Rotary Club members, executive at the office, if they don’t help, are all
negligent. We can blame them for the failure. Don’t blame mom and
dad. They are helpless. Do we blame somebody who is sick for being ill?
Of course not. Do we blame a person who is emotionally distraught for
being emotionally distraught? Of course not. We try to understand. We
try to help. If the help is offered or is not offered, we blame those who do
not help. ¶Therefore, I tell troubled youth, for your own peace of mind,
dear child, love your mother and your father. Keep them as one in your
mind. Don’t separate them in your mind. You yourself are the greatest
marriage counselor. It is only you who at this juncture can become a
binding force for the family. Rise above the accepted standards of the
nonculture of today, which advise divorce to solve the problem. Remem-
ber, don’t take sides.
Though divorce is not an acceptable solution to fam-
Saturday ily problems according to Hindu Dharma, there is one
LESSON 174
regrettable exception to maintaining a divine union,
The Dreadful
First Slap and that is in the case of domestic violence. We’ve
encountered much talk lately in Time, Newsweek, Hin-
duism Today and on TV about the taboo subjects of wife beating, date
rape and even sexual abuse of children. Things once not even whispered
about behind closed doors are now out in the open. No more secrets.
¶Of course, domestic violence never was much of a secret, for all those
involved knew: husbands and wives, their friends, the kids, close relatives
and neighbors. Knew but said nothing. If the neighbors are making too
much noise at a party, no one hesitates to complain. But if that same
neighbor is beating his wife and she is screaming and crying, nothing is
done. No knock on the door. No call to authorities. We never allow a fist
fight in a public place, but we do permit, by our silence, such heinous
violence in the home. ¶In the spirit of standing for ahiμsâ and not per-
mitting violence, when you see a man slapping his wife or a parent hitting
his child, call the police! Don’t protect the wrongdoer. Don’t be a party
to the crime by remaining passive. Don’t think that no karma is attached
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to inaction. It is no longer acceptable to turn up the TV to drown out the

screams and sobs of a wife being beaten. ¶Recently, the California case of
O.J. Simpson released an immense outpouring of sympathy for abused
women. It took a world-famous athlete to bring forward an infamous
worldly behavior. It is an admirable trait that an uncensored press can
come forward to awaken a nation’s conscience. In a way, the images and
stories that are appearing are not unlike Indian epics or Greek stage plays
that seek to establish morals by depicting tragic happenings, or Italian
operas which conceal morals in melodrama. All in all, the world has not
changed that much. ¶As hard as it is to discuss wife abuse and why it hap-
pens, people are discussing it openly and without shame. We see graphic,
real-life pictures of this violence and battered wives speaking out in maga-
zines and on television. The big question is, will it ever end? Maybe not,
but we can end the cultural sanction of the sport where father and mother
watch their son slap down his wife and then drag her across the room
by her hair. ¶A man who strikes his wife in an effort to make her cower,
to control her, actually karmically does the opposite. His brutality turns
against him, becomes his disadvantage. Her love and dependence weaken,
and her psychic bonds to him unravel. After that, she has the spiritual
upper hand, is more free from him than ever, less under his control than
before that first slap. Yes, it all begins with the first slap. ¶It does not mat-
ter as much when they fight with words—the name-calling, insinuations,
insults and arguments. That’s all part of the play of married life and may
be fairly intense when their astrological compatibility is not as perfect
as it might be. But that first slap changes everything! It is that first slap
that brings dire kukarma, that degrades and demeans, that makes her his
enemy and not his friend. This is not acceptable. Kids cannot accept it.
Wives will never forgive it. Families should not endure it, even to defend
beloved sons. It is not less violent just because it happens behind closed
doors, just because we know the people so well. All who know of this
crime and who do not speak up for dharma, for ahiμsâ, are accomplices.
Like a thief or rapist, they are enemies of a stable society.
“What can I do about domestic violence?” you may ask.
Sunday You can refuse to remain silent. You can object, as I did
LESSON 175
recently upon finding in my own community three cases
What Can
Be Done? of wife abuse. Imagine, if devotees performing sâdhana
can succumb, how easy it must be for others. There is
help available. Peer pressure, elders, police, counselors and shelters are
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there, and much more. It’s like the olden days when people first started
objecting to slavery. Everyone knew in their heart it was wrong, but no
one dared go against the conventional wisdom that it was “necessary.”
Finally, mankind came to its senses and stopped it. It was no longer
acceptable. In that same way, we are now coming to our senses about
spouse abuse and child abuse. ¶What is the difference between beating a
woman and raping her? Not much, really. Violent harm is done. Her body
has been violated, moved by his body against her will. A sin has been
committed, equally as psychologically serious. Kukarma for the man, bad
consequences, results from that first slap. Prâyaßchitta, penance, must be
performed to mitigate the backlash of his actions, lest they seriously affect
his next birth. ¶The first push, bruised wrist, pinch without mercy, slap
or bleeding lip tells her nerve system that “this is no place for me to be.”
Her fear takes over, and the process of breaking up the family nest begins.
His future is jeopardized as she instinctively withdraws her ßakti. Perhaps
he struck her to show that he’s the boss and that she cannot control him.
But, in fact, he thereby appointed her as another boss that may well tor-
ment his consciousness the rest of his life and bring to him sorrows to
equal her own, now or in his next birth. ¶Of course, it is the birth dharma
of Hindu elders to rule society with a firm hand and demand of their
younger male generation that they never defile themselves by giving that
first slap. When a domestic situation is brought before me that involves
violence, my immediate response is to advise the wife to run for safety.
Unless counseling, if ever accepted, brings about an actual change in the
offender, and there are actual apologies, remorse and genuine efforts to
mend ways and transform that are acceptable to relatives and the congre-
gation at large, I know it is my responsibility to step in and advise sepa-
ration. Yes, this may lead to divorce, unless, of course, a deeply sincere
correction has taken place and a new marriage covenant has been written
by the couple. Continued physical violence is the singular justification
for divorce in modern Hindu culture—a regrettable exception to the life-
long covenant of marriage. This is comparable to an abortion performed
to save the life of the mother, which is dharmically permissible because
it is an even worse kukarma for a child to kill his mother. All concerned
will accept the wisdom of these exceptions, both of which save the life of
the mother.
 Bâla Posha∫am
baalapaaeSaNama<

Bringing Up Children

I will utter a prayer for such concord among

family members as binds together the Gods,
among whom is no hatred. Be courteous, plan-
ning and working in harness together. Approach,
conversing pleasantly, like-minded, united.
Atharva Veda 3.30.4-5. ve
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There is an old saying: “If you can’t beat them, join

Monday them,” and this is wise in certain respects. We are think-
LESSON 176
ing of the young adults who will not follow the tradi-
Be Patient
And Caring tional family patterns of their well-raised Hindu parents.
Admittedly, they can be made to fear their parents and
be forced to obey for a time. The problem with such an approach is that
it usually ends up with the sons or daughters losing respect for them and
leaving home as soon as they are able. Often parents take the authoritar-
ian approach, not realizing there are alternatives, well-proven techniques
of a more positive discipline. In actual practice, it is more useful to work
with children little by little as they grow and mature. They can be rea-
soned with and will be very open if the parents show a definite interest
in their cross-cultural way of life and their natural inclinations, one of
which is to keep in with their peers. To lament the modern young adult’s
behavior, to merely criticize it, is not going to help, and may cause, in
the case of sensitive children, irreparable damage. ¶My advice to parents
has always been to stay close to their children, but at the same time give
them some space to grow and mature in today’s world. Today’s world is
not all that bad. But children must be taught how to live in it—what to be
wary of, whom to trust, whom to befriend and marry, how to proceed in
business, social life, education, career upscaling, religious life and on into
the raising of their own family. So, keep the communication lines open.
¶True, today’s world has its challenges, its temptations and definite draw-
backs, but it is today’s world and the world of tomorrow. We can’t ignore
that fact. We cannot recreate yesterday’s world or wish for the return of
olden days. We have to move forward and teach the children to move
the forces of the outside world for a better world in the tomorrows that
are to come. So, be wise and pass your deeply profound Hindu culture
and wisdom along to the children so they can make proper decisions for
themselves. This is what they will do anyway, make their own decisions,
so they might as well be trained early on how to do it right. Who better
to teach them this than their own parents? True, times have changed, and
things may never be as they were, but the religious and cultural traditions
of the former generation are still valid and must be passed on gently yet
firmly to the modern children, educated to think for themselves rather
Three generations in a modern Hindu home—with television and computers. Yet they find
time for closeness and sharing. Mother is decorating her daughter’s hair. Grandfather helps the
son with his homework. Grandma is playing with the baby.
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than simply carry out orders from elders. Don’t close the doors on them.
This will not help society or the family unit. Nor will it fulfill the dharma
of parenthood. ¶Parents of all ages and all cultures have always worried
about their teenagers, so take heart. Don’t give up on them. They are the
future. Some must learn by their own mistakes, while others, more sensi-
tive, thoughtful and loving, who are polite enough to at least listen, can
learn by the mistakes and successes of their parents. So, communicate
your wisdom to them; whether they listen or not makes no difference for
the time being. Your message, given with conviction but without anger or
resentment, sinks deep into their subconscious mind, making a positive
saμskâra. To accomplish this best, give it just before bedtime, when they
are more open and less defensive. It will be their last thought before sleep.
Don’t rant and rail during the day. That will simply sow the seeds of long-
lasting animosity and create division within the family. At night before
sleep—this is the key to getting your message through. Also, before sleep,
all differences must be resolved, lest they become unwanted vâsanâs to be
worked through later in this life or the next.
Another way to communicate is when mom serves her
Tuesday children meals. While they are eating their favorite food
LESSON 177
served by their favorite person, she gently speaks some
Training in
Energy Use loving advice for their deportment, or a gentle correction,
in the right ear, not the left. These timely suggestions,
well implanted at that very human psychological moment, are absorbed
in the subconscious as the meal digests. Five decades ago in Sri Lanka,
I learned of this shrewd Hindu ingenuity by which women have been
known to turn an election by whispering in their husband’s ear whom he
should vote for, just as he is putting into his mouth his favorite morsels
of food. This wisdom is one of the positive laws behind Nandinâtha Sûtra
99, which requires the wife to serve her husband food, enjoying her own
meal only after he and the children have been well satisfied. Politicking?
Well, yes! of the highest womanly order. She has her ways. Yes, the clever
wife is indeed the queen of her castle. The ®ishis tell us there are eighty-
four ways a woman can influence her man and keep him on—or lead
him off—the path of dharma. Some call these wiles; others know them
as the feminine siddhis. ¶It is the parents’ duty to provide a sound educa-
tion in the use and misuse of the life forces, the sexual energies, and teach
their children how to control them as they grow into adulthood. Only
in this way will they have the knowledge required to face the challenges
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of their own instinctive/intellectual nature. ¶There are two main areas

that parents can feel free to speak about with their boys and girls as they
are growing up from a very young age. These are prâ∫a and the chakras.
Once your children have a clear idea of what prâ∫a actually is and what
the chakras actually are, they will be confident in lifting up the sexual
prâ∫as into the higher chakras when puberty is upon them. ¶You who are
parents know that this prâ∫a will increase within your physical body until
you are about forty years of age. After that, the prâ∫a increases in power
within the mental body until you are about the age of seventy. Then the
prâ∫a continues to increase within the spiritual body of the soul. Care-
fully explain time and time again to your children that it is up to them
to control their prâ∫a, their life force, which is the total energy of their
body. Until forty years of age, this is done through education, exercise
and hard work. After forty until seventy, this is done through study, car-
ing for those younger than themselves, community service and additional
education. After seventy this is done through worship, sâdhana, tapas and
deep meditation. ¶When explaining the chakras to your children, refer
to these force centers as lovely flowers within them that need to be fed
by their vital energies. Teach them to breathe deeply and lift the sexual
energy from the lower chakras to the higher ones and hold it there, as if
to feed and water these flowers. Teach them that chakras are also rooms
of consciousness, and the energy we put into the chakras awakens this
consciousness and makes us very alert and intelligent. ¶In other words,
as soon as your children can understand, you can begin teaching them
about their energies. In this way, you give them the tools to handle their
sexual nature so that their forces do not run away with their mind during
puberty. In this way, you will open channels to talk freely with them about
sex when the time comes. Many parents give absolutely no guidance in
this area to their children, who then have to learn from other children or
from the Internet, alone in a room, about this natural function of their
life. So, be a wise parent and begin early. Remember, there are only two
basic areas to cover: prâ∫a and chakras. Your own intuition will guide you
as to how to proceed.
Children respond well to correction, discipline, talking
Wednesday and explaining, and being treated like the intelligent
LESSON 178
beings that they are. Many parents these days are afraid
Be Firm
But Kind of their children and dance around them, as if they were
things to be avoided. They bribe them with toys and
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sweets, bow before their every whim and appoint them, by default, the
head of the house. Truly, children these days like to be told what to do,
but also to be told the reasons why. ¶The “Obey me because I said so”
stance will not work anymore for the Western-educated child. What will
work is, “Obey me because this is what our family needs and wants you
to do, because we love you and want you to remain a member of this
family, and these are the reasons why.…” This approach even a truant
kid will accept, because he or she still needs to eat, still wants a roof over
head, clothes to wear and, in the future, maybe a paid-for education. Less
obstinate children will conform because they love their family and intui-
tively know how to fit in when they are urged to and have been given clear
directions, explanations and expectations. Yes, there are children in the
Western world who do not throw temper tantrums at home, who are still
nice to their elders, who will turn off the TV when asked and even show
appreciation for all that their parents have done for them. ¶Who are the
mentors of the home, the kids or the parents? Children raised on brib-
ery or raised in fear will in their future bribe others, subjugate others by
instilling fear of their wrath and unruly ways. If you are ambivalent and
insecure, your children will not listen to you. This may be embarrassing,
but nonetheless true. It is not necessary to let your children go headlong
into Western ways. It is not necessary or even helpful to leave them alone
to find their own values in life, from the streets, from peers, from people
more confused than they are. What is most helpful is for you to share with
them the Eternal Path, with all of its values, all of its insight into humanity
and Divinity. What is most helpful is for you to spend lots of time with
your children. Many parents these days minimize the hours they spend
with their kids and don’t even have time for an in-depth conversation
anymore. Just “Hello” and “Good-bye” and “Why did you get a low grade
on your report card?” Kids need more, more of you, more of your time,
more direction and more guidance. Don’t be afraid to give to them what
they need most—all of you, not just a token part. Teach them traditional
religious and cultural values at an early age. Don’t be afraid that they will
be different from the other children. They are already different. They are
Hindus, inheritors of India’s fountainhead of mystery and Truth. ¶An
all-pervasive mental disease has come to the planet. It started in the West
and is spreading worldwide. It is the modern way that parents talk to their
children, by stating a question when actually giving direction or instruc-
tion, such as, “Why don’t we all get in the car now?” “Why don’t you put
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on your coat?” “Don’t you think it’s time for you children to turn off the
TV and go to bed?” These kinds of phrases are used in the family homes
and in offices throughout the modern world. Children given the choice
“Why don’t you?” before the instruction of what to do are disadvantaged.
They are forced to make a yes-or-no decision before complying with the
request, and sometimes it might be “no.” When undecided, children com-
ply reluctantly. Giving these kinds of choices to young people, which is
being done today even at the five-year-old level and younger, is a new
way of raising them which puts parents at a disadvantage. They become
beholden to their child’s every mood, thought and preference.
It does not take long for even very young children raised
Thursday in the “why don’t you” method to catch on and under-
LESSON 179
stand that they are permitted, indeed expected, to make
The “Why Don’t
You” Approach a personal choice in all that happens in family life. An
aggressive few of these children will take over the home
and begin giving orders to the parents, unkindly, abusively. Most often,
when choices are given, they take the opposite point of view. When you
ask a child, “Why don’t we turn off the TV?” he may answer, “No, I’m
not turning off the television, because the program I’m watching has
not ended yet.” When you suggest, “Shall we all get into the car?” he will
respond, “I am not getting in the car. You all go. I’m staying home.” If you
then force him to change his decision after asking him to make a choice,
you are considered unreasonable. When this happens, respect is lost and
is hard to regain. ¶Is the child being disobedient? Well, yes! And well, no.
Yes, by responding in opposition to the expected answers, and no because
the question itself invites them to decide, and one possible response is
to refuse. Such questions from adults tell the child that each one in the
household is an independent entity, free to go his or her own way. The
child is being taught how to do this by the parents themselves, by the
way they phrase their directions. Some parents want their kids out of the
home, on their own, supporting themselves. Others don’t. ¶There are
only two ways: teach dependence or teach independence. Independence
should be taught when the child has become an adult and is educated
well enough to make it on his own, not before. Then he is responsible
and will do right by his parents when they are older, because he under-
stands dharma, duty, because he depended upon and flourished under
their direction, their love and their wisdom for oh-so-many years. Don’t
let them leave home too early and then continue to learn by their own
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mistakes. What a sad and often painful way to learn. Don’t let them face
up to this. Protect them while you can. Simply don’t give choices. They
will never notice the change in your approach and will appreciate the
security of positive direction: “Let’s all get into the car. Come along.” “It is
time now to turn off the TV. We are all going to bed.” Keep affirming that
“Our family is a team. We move together. We are loyal to each other and
tell each other everything, keeping no secrets. We will always stay together
and care for one another.” This should come up at every opportunity, at
least three times a week. ¶What is the binding force that keeps youths in
the home? Love. If you love your children completely, they won’t want to
leave. You won’t be able to force them out of the house, even if you try.
You are bound together by bands of steel made of love. Within this loving
relationship, you can guide them and watch over them and help them
to live a good life without getting into trouble. Three hugs a day keeps
trouble away. How can you apparently practice Hindu bhakti, which is
love of God, Gods and guru, and not have enough love in your heart for
your son or daughter to make them want to be close to you? If you don’t
love your children, they will find someone else to love them.
In summary, Hindu parents should make decisions for
Friday their children and refrain from giving them choices until
LESSON 180
they are educated and about to leave the home. Offering
Financial
Independence children freedom with money has similar problems. By
giving adolescents financial independence too soon, par-
ents breach the protective atmosphere of the home and invite exploration
of who knows what in the world. It begins with an allowance that they
can squander any way they want. They soon learn that by putting heavy
demands upon parents they can get more. Then parents add gifts for good
behavior, a form of bribery not recommended. In training adolescents,
any money they handle should be accounted for and the change returned
to and counted by the caring parents. This teaches honesty, accuracy and
cooperation with the core group, the parents. ¶Many times I have seen an
allowance lead to a desire for a summer job or to work after school, more
independence, more time away from home and family. The summer job
taxes the child when he or she should be playing, resting, going to school
or doing wholesome extracurricular reading. The early-morning paper
route or the job after school takes precious time away from education.
Adolescents should not be allowed to handle their own money or to earn
an income until their high school education is nearly complete. Then any
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money earned, the full amount, should be given to the parents, and all
spending money accounted for. This will mold the young adult into a fru-
gal, income-producing person. ¶One choice young people can and must
participate in is their profession. A jyotisha ßâstrî, Vedic astrologer, will
help in this. In principle, the karma of the child is to accept the profession
of the parent. He had a choice and could have been born into another
family. He chose you. So, don’t compromise him or her, and be sure that
you have unanimous agreement with all members of the family when the
choice of profession or occupation is made. The ideal, of course, is for the
children to work in the family business and develop the wealth that can
be passed along to others in the family, generation after generation. This
is the way Hinduism has persisted through trial and tribulation, siege
and battle, oppression and subjugation for the past 10,000 years. Let’s not
allow it to stop now. It is all up to you, the mom and dad, and how you
phrase your direction, how you discipline with love and patience as their
growing-up process continues. Raise your children right, and you will be
rewarded by the justly fair law of karma when you are on the other side
of life, about to experience moksha. Don’t raise your children correctly,
and you will be born again into an unwholesome, adharmic household
and learn by feeling how they felt under your neglect.
I described the importance of chaperoning in Nand-
Saturday inâtha Sûtra 149: “Íiva’s followers accept the serious
LESSON 181
responsibility of guiding the private and social life of
Responsible
Chaperoning their children. They chaperone and monitor friendships
to help ensure that young ones grow up safe and celi-
bate.” An Indian lady once told me what she considered to be her most
important duty in life: that she would never, ever let her daughter out of
her sight until she was married and well settled. Someone asked, “Don’t
you trust her?” The lady’s answer was, “No.” ¶Why do swâmîs of tradi-
tional orders like ours go out only in pairs? Is it because we don’t trust
them? We trust the soul and we trust them individually, but we don’t trust
worldly people they might encounter who would love nothing more than
to deter them from their dharma. We follow the ancient traditions so that
problems don’t arise. ¶Many parents are faced with the dilemma of send-
ing children off to college for a higher education at the risk of their expo-
sure to undesirable influences. I tell my devotees, if you want your son
and daughter to attend the university, you should, if at all possible, move
into a home near that campus so you can be close to them and keep them
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from getting into trouble, share meals with them, monitor their friend-
ships. You will be investing a lot of money to put them through school,
and if you are not there, you will be investing a lot of worry. ¶If sending
them to a far-off school is unavoidable, and you cannot move to a home
nearby, remind them to at least perform simple pûjâ every day and tune
into a picture of you, and of the family guru and the Gods of our beautiful
religion. The object of going to college, you can explain, is to learn what
they need to learn and come out the other side as a professional, able to
make their way in the world. So, explain to them that they are not going
to college to make friends, to join sororities or fraternities, or to get side-
tracked in any way by the temptations of the world as it is today. Encour-
age them to treat everyone the same, with a happy smile, to not take sides,
to not like one person more than another. ¶There is a wonderful lady
from the Tamilian community who sent her two sons off to the Univer-
sity of California, and every day, to stay close, she cooked a meal for them,
packaged that meal and sent it by courier to their apartment 400 miles
away. Another pattern that has worked in our congregation is for young
people to marry and then, as a married couple, move near a university
for the husband to attend school. Then he is naturally chaperoned by his
wife as they grow up together. ¶Many children don’t follow their parents’
religion, don’t want to be sheltered or restricted and want to leave home
in their teens and go off on their own. I say that if you have really made
the religious teachings a part of your life, you will naturally be able to
convince your family and friends of those wonderful truths. Your youth
will see the wisdom of not going out without a chaperone, be it an adult
or a trusted peer. If you can’t convince your family of the teachings, that
shows that they are just intellectual thoughts that in practice don’t mean
anything to you. ¶I watch for those in my international congregation who
can do this, who are deeply involved, active and committed members who
can bring others along the path that they themselves have trod. And I
watch for those, indifferent and apathetic, who can’t and are just hanging
on because of the social benefits or the mystique.
All of the young people here today, each and every one of
Sunday you, must be proud that you are living the Íaiva Dharma.
LESSON 182
You must be proud to be Íaivites, proud that you know
Our Young
Missionaries this great God personally. Now, this is not an egotisti-
cal kind of pride which sets you apart from everyone. It
is a pride of humility which makes you very compassionate toward all.
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Stand strong for Íaivism. It is your duty to help spread the Íaiva Dharma
throughout the world, to let each one hear about Íiva, about the great
Mahâdeva Ga∫eßa, about the great Mahâdeva Murugan. Let them accept
or reject, as they choose, but first they must hear your message. You are all
the young missionaries of our religion, the young missionaries of Íaivite
Hinduism. You must study this religion most diligently. Study hard so
that you can turn the minds of others toward goodness, toward selfless-
ness, toward Godliness. You must study very, very hard, very diligently,
committing the Íaiva Dharma to memory so that when you are asked
questions about your religion you have a ready and convincing answer
and can give forth that answer with confidence. You must be strong, for
there are many more temptations in the world today than when your
parents and grandparents were raised. Those who are young nowadays
face far more temptations than ever before, especially from the Western
world. ¶Proceed with confidence and with courage, and your life will be
a strength to others who are waiting and longing for your message. I ask
each of you young adults and children here tonight to grow up tall and
proud of our Íaivite religion. How do you do this? Through discipline
and obedience. Nothing was ever accomplished on this Earth without
these two qualities. Be self-disciplined, cultivate self-control. Obey your
gurus. Obey your mothers. Obey your fathers. Obey your elders. Obey
your Íaivite teachers. Don’t be influenced by Western ways. Western ways
are based on a Christian belief structure. If you do all of this, you will
become the leaders of the Íaivite Hindu temple tradition. ¶Religious
learning is the greatest learning, the only permanent learning. All else is
transitory and changing. Religion is the knowledge of the soul. God Íiva
created your soul. Your mother and father created your body, brought
you into this world. But you create your own experiences in this life from
the sum total of experiences in your past lives. You came to this Earth
for one purpose: to learn of your religion. You are on this Earth for the
evolution of your soul. You are not here to earn money. You are not here
to gratify yourself through excesses. You are not here to fight with each
other. You are not here to accumulate material conveniences. You are here
to learn of and then to fulfill your religion. It is knowledge of religion in
your life that makes the soul evolve. So, learn your religion fully, properly,
intelligently, and it will guide you through this life into a better birth or
on into moksha, liberation from earthly existence.
 Saprema Vyavahâra˙
sap‰emavyavahar:

Positive Discipline

Disputes, worldly associations and quarrels should

be avoided. Not even spiritual disputations should be
indulged in, whether good or bad. Jealousy, slander,
pomp, passion, envy, love, anger, fear and misery
should all disappear gradually and entirely.
Devâkâlottara Ågama, Jñâna Pâda, 77-78. rm, p. 116
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The whole world is reevaluating how we treat women,

Monday children, the aged and infirm. Ways of behaving toward
LESSON 183
our fellow human beings that were normal and accept-
The Bane
Of Battering able a hundred years ago are no longer acceptable. We
now comprehend, as never before, the tragedy of a bat-
tered wife or an abused infant. Shamefully, we do not always live up to
the Hindu ideal in these areas. ¶What is that ideal? It is this: Never injure
others. Hindu children are always treated with great respect and awe, for
one does not always know who they are. They may be incarnations of a
grandmother, grandfather, aunt or uncle, dearly beloved mother, sister,
brother, respected father, a yogî or ®ishi returned to flesh to help mankind
spiritually. We must ask, “Who are these souls? What is their destiny in
this life? How can I help?” ¶Parents love their children, or at least they
should, and the principle of ahiμsâ, nonviolence and nonhurtfulness—
physically, mentally or emotionally—does apply in the parent-child rela-
tionship, as well as in the husband-wife relationship. Children must be
nurtured prenatally without being hurt in the process. Children must be
allowed to develop physically, emotionally and mentally without being
hurt in the process. We know they are sometimes mischievous and can
get on your nerves, but the religious parents who are avowed to ahiμsâ
are in truth more mature than their children and are able to handle situ-
ations as they come up without recourse to pinching, hitting or verbal
abuse. Only in an ahiμsâ home can we bring children from one stage of
physical, emotional, mental growth to another and still nurture spiritual
qualities. ¶To hurt a child in any way is to drive that child into fear and
cause the development of anger and resentment at an early age. Parents
are supposed to lift their offspring into the higher nature, of love, forgive-
ness, friendliness and security, not to drive them into the lower nature, of
hate, mistrust, resentment, offishness and insecurity. Obedience through
fear is not a desirable obedience. ¶Psychologically, parents breed guilt
by telling their children they sacrificed everything for them, gave them
so much, saying, “Look what we are getting in return. You are worth-
less and ungrateful.” Guilty people are not creative, often not reasonable
and are lacking willpower, for their inspiration has been destroyed. Their
self-image is at the bottom of the bottom, like rust on the soul. “I’m
Two Hindus from different cultures are raising a child in Chicago, famed for its elevated trains.
Mother is placing holy ash on the infant’s forehead for protection and blessings. They have
vowed to raise the child using the principles of positive discipline.
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nobody, I’m nothing. She is right. I don’t appreciate anything, I’m worth-
less.” These are the thoughts of those who live in this state of mind. True,
this is the Kali Yuga in which mothers give birth and then destroy their
young. They do it through beating them when they are young and later
through defamation of character through cutting insults to keep them “in
their place.” ¶Conformity through threats does not build a loving fam-
ily or a strong society. To bribe children into submission with sweets or
promises that are never meant to be fulfilled is to engender in them an
eventual mistrust of their parents and foster rebelliousness coupled with
selfish expectations about life. To anger a child at an early age is to place
him on the path of retribution toward others later in life. To strike or
pinch a child may seem expedient in the confusion of the moment. It
may provide a short-term solution. But never forget the long-term karmic
price that must be paid. The “I own you, you owe me” attitude is no lon-
ger acceptable, and is being replaced by “I love you, you love me,” in the
homes of righteous Hindu families who realize that the hurtful methods
do not bring positive results.
I have been asked, “Should parents never spank a child?”
Tuesday Of course, one should never spank children, ever. Those
LESSON 184
who are spanked are taught to later punish their chil-
The Sad Truth
Of Hurtfulness dren, and this is a vicious cycle. Have you ever seen an
animal in its natural habitat abuse its offspring? Does a
lion cause blood to flow from its cub, a bird brutally peck its own chick, a
cow trample its calf, a whale beach a disobedient calf? How about a dol-
phin, a dog, a butterfly, a cat? It is only humans who become angered by
and hurtfully, sometimes lethally, aggressive toward their offspring. ¶The
wife-husband relationship is where it all begins. The mother and father
are karmically responsible for the tenor of society that follows them. An
ahiμsâ couple produces the protectors of the race. Hiμsâ, hurtful, cou-
ples produce the destroyers of the race. They are a shame upon human-
ity. It’s as simple as that. It’s so crucial that it needs to be said more than
once. “Hiμsâ, hurtful, couples produce the destroyers of the race. They
are a shame upon humanity.” ¶A five-foot-ten-inch adult beating on a
tiny child—what cowardliness. A muscular man slapping a woman who
cannot fight back. What cowardliness! Yet another kind of cowardliness
belongs to those who stand by, doing nothing to stop known instances of
harm and injury in their community. Such crimes, even if the law does
not punish, earn a lifetime of imprisonment in the criminal’s karma,
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because they always know that they watched or knew and said nothing.
This sin earns lifetime imprisonment in their own mind. Beating a child
destroys his or her faith. It destroys faith in humanity and therefore in
religion and in God. If their father and mother beat them, whom are
they going to trust throughout their whole life? Child beating is very
destructive. ¶Innocent children who see their father beating their mother
or their mother spitefully scratching their father’s body after she emo-
tionally shattered his manhood by provocative insinuations, threats and
tongue lashing have at those very moments been given permission to do
the same. Of course, we can excuse all of this as being simply karma—the
karma of the parents as taught by their parents and the karma of the
children born into the family who abuses them. But the divine law of
karma cannot be used as permission or an opportunity to be hurtful.
Simply speaking, if hurtfulness has been done to you, this does not give
you permission to perform the same act upon another. It is dharma that
controls karma. It is not the other way around. In Hinduism, the parents
are to be the spiritual leaders of their children, not the mental, emotional
and physical abusers of their children. ¶Those sensitive children who see
their mother and father working out their differences in mature discus-
sion or in the shrine room through prayer and meditation are at that
moment given permission to do the same in their own life when they are
older. They become the elite of society, the pillars of strength to the com-
munity during times of stress and hardship. These children, when older,
will surely uphold the principles of dharma and will not succumb to the
temptations of the lower mind.
There is no greater good than a child. Children are
Wednesday entrusted to their parents to be loved, guided and pro-
LESSON 185
tected, for they are the future of the future. However,
Instilling
No Fear children can be a challenge to raise up into good citizen-
ship. There are many positive ways to guide them, such
as hugging, kindness, time spent explaining, giving wise direction and set-
ting the example of what you want them to become. Most children were
adults not so many years ago, in previous births. The mind they worked
to develop through the great school of experience is still there, as are the
results of their accomplishments and failures. They have been reborn
to continue to know, to understand and to improve themselves and the
community they are born into. Parents can help or inhibit this process of
evolution. They have a choice. ¶There are six chakras, or centers of con-
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sciousness, above the mûlâdhâra chakra, which is the center of memory,

at the base of the spine. Above the mûlâdhâra lies the chakra of reason.
Above that is willpower. There are seven chakras below the mûlâdhâra,
the first being fear, below it anger and below that jealousy. The choice
of each individual parent is to discipline the child to advance him or her
upward into reason, willpower, profound understanding and divine love,
or downward into fear, anger, distrust, jealousy and selfishness—personal
preservation without regard for the welfare of others. ¶Children have an
abundance of energy, and sometimes it can make them rather wild, and
this can be extreme if they are consuming too much sugar. How should
this be controlled by the parents? When children run around excitedly,
refer to their energy as Íiva’s prâ∫a within them. Congratulate them each
time they exercise control over it, but don’t punish them when they don’t.
Instead, explain that it is important that they learn to control and use
their energies in positive ways. Have them sit with you and breathe deeply.
Teach them to feel energy. Go into the shrine room and sit with them
until their prâ∫as become quiet, and then help them observe the differ-
ence. To hit them or to yell at them when they are rowdy is only send-
ing more aggravated prâ∫a into them from you. Another technique is to
withdraw your prâ∫a from them and tell them you are retiring to another
room until they calm down. ¶Beating, spanking, pinching, slapping chil-
dren and inflicting upon their astral bodies the vibration of angry words
are all sinfully destructive to their spiritual unfoldment and their future.
Parents who thus force their child to fear and hate them have lost their
chance to make him or her a better person by talking, because they have
closed the child’s ears. Those who beat or pinch or hurt or slap or whip
their children are the enemies to religion, because they are pushing the
next generation into lower consciousness. Is that religious society? No!
Such behavior is not even common in the animal kingdom. It’s below the
animal kingdom. But that is what we face in the world today. That helps
explain why there are so many problems in this modern age. ¶Sadly, in
this day and age, beating the kids is just a way of life in many families.
Nearly everyone was beaten as a child, so they beat their kids, and their
kids will beat their kids, and those kids will beat their kids. Older broth-
ers will beat younger brothers. Brothers will beat sisters. You can see what
families are creating in this endless cycle of violence: little warriors. One
day a war will come up, and it will be easy for a young person who has
been beaten without mercy to pick up a gun and kill somebody without
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conscience, and even take pleasure in doing so. What kind of society do
we have? In the US today, a murder is committed every thirty-three min-
utes, an assault every five seconds, a rape every ninety seconds. A man
beats his wife every fifty-one seconds. A woman beats her husband every
five and a half minutes. A 12- to 15-year-old child is assaulted every thirty-
one seconds, and one is raped every eight minutes. Will the violence ever
stop? No. It can’t, unless a radical change is made. We must stop the war
in the home. It is as simple as that. ¶I recently attended a ceremony in
which criminals being released from the Kauai jail gave testimony before
leaders of the community that they would not repeat their crime. With
tears in their eyes, all said they had been beaten by their family in early
life, driven out of the home, into drugs, excessive alcohol and into crime
and finally jail. Each one had the same sad story to tell. ¶I instruct the lay
missionaries of my international Hindu church: “Talk to the children. Ask
if their parents beat them, and then talk to the parents. At first they will
say, ‘Oh, once or twice,’ but if you persist, you may find it’s much worse
than that.” Think about it, even if a child is only hit once a month, that
adds up to nearly two hundred beatings over fifteen years. I challenge
child-beaters, “Would you beat somebody your same weight and your
same height with the same readiness?” They would say no, because that’s
against the law. It’s called assault. But hitting a little kid, is that also not
against the law? More and more, it is.
In England, in 1996, a twelve-year-old boy who had been
Thursday caned by his stepfather made headlines in a human rights
LESSON 186
court by challenging British laws that permit parents to
Laws Against
Child-Beating “use corporal punishment, but only to the extent of rea-
sonable chastisement.” Hundreds of children marched
through central London on April 15, 2000, to demand an end to smack-
ing. They ended their protest at 10 Downing Street, the residence of the
Prime Minister, where they handed in a letter urging him to ban all physi-
cal punishment of children. ¶Smacking children under any circumstance
has been banned in Norway, Sweden, Denmark, Austria, Finland, Croatia,
Latvia, Italy, Israel, Cyprus and Germany. Progress toward legal reforms
are underway elsewhere: in the UK, Switzerland, Poland, Spain, Scot-
land, Canada, Jamaica, New Zealand, Mexico, Namibia, South Africa, Sri
Lanka, the Republic of Ireland and Belgium. In India battering is widely
considered perfectly acceptable and is encouraged in homes, as well as
in schools, âßramas and gurukulas, among all castes and classes. However,
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the Supreme Court of Delhi has recently banned physical punishment

of children in the state. In the US, all states except Minnesota permit
parents to use “reasonable” corporal punishment on children, and the
law for schools, institutions, foster care and day care facilities varies from
state to state, with even caning still allowed in some. ¶In schools, happily,
the trend is away from corporal punishment. Almost every industrialized
country in the world, and many pre-industrial countries as well, now
prohibits it in school. See www.endcorporalpunishment.org for an up-to-
date list. In the US, twenty-seven states plus the District of Columbia have
bans, with legislation underway in many more. The national newspaper
USA Today wrote in 1990, “As millions of children across the USA prepare
to go back to school, teachers are laying down their weapons—the paddles
they use to dole out corporal punishment. A teacher does best armed only
with knowledge. Corporal punishment is a cruel and obsolete weapon.”
In Canada, only the provinces of British Columbia, New Brunswick and
the Territory of Yukon have banned corporal punishment in schools. ¶In
London, in response to a move to reinstitute beating, public school teach-
ers said they would not cane even if lobbying by conservative members
of parliament was successful, while Christian bishops and priests are try-
ing very hard to reinstitute beating in their schools. Abolition of corpo-
ral punishment in African schools is also quickly spreading. A high-level
Zambian court declared corporal punishment in schools to be unconsti-
tutional, and the Kenyan Minister of Education, in March, 2001, discarded
sections of the law that permitted corporal punishment. Laws, however,
are no guarantee of protection. Consider the nation of Mauritius, where
laws have prohibited battering of children since 1957 but have never been
enforced, and children are mercilessly abused in schools to this very day.
¶I’ve had Hindus tell me, “Slapping or caning children to make them obey
is just part of our culture.” I don’t think so. Hindu culture is a culture of
kindness. Hindu culture teaches ahiμsâ, noninjury, physically, mentally
and emotionally. It preaches against hiμsâ, hurtfulness. It may be Brit-
ish Christian culture—which for 150 years taught Hindus in India the
Biblical adage “To spare the rod is to spoil the child”—but it’s not Hindu
culture to beat the light out of the eyes of children, to beat the trust out of
them, to beat the intelligence out of them and force them to go along with
everything in a mindless way and wind up doing a routine, uncreative job
the rest of their life, then take their built-up anger out on their children
and beat that generation down to nothingness. This is certainly not the
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culture of an intelligent future. ¶Nor is an overly permissive approach. A

senior sâdhu from the Swaminarayan Fellowship’s 654-member order of
sâdhus, who visited us recently echoed our thoughts on child-beating and
emphasized the need for firm, even stern, correction and teaching right
from wrong. “Parents these days fail to impart what is good and what is
not good,” he said. “As a result, a very crude society is being developed.”
¶I advise parents: if you are guilty of beating your children, apologize to
them, show remorse and perform the child-beating penance, bâla tâ∂ay-
ati prâyaßchitta, to atone. Gain their friendship back, open their heart and
never hit them again. Open channels of communication, show affection.
Even if you never beat your children, be alert in your community to those
who do and bring them to your understanding that a happy, secure family
is free from violence.
Those who have been physically abused are as much in
Friday need of penance to mitigate the experience as are those
LESSON 187
who abused them. The penance, or prâyaßchitta, for
Penance and
Reconciliation abusees is called the flower penance, or pûshpa prâyaß-
chitta. It has been successfully performed by many chil-
dren and adults to mitigate the hate, fear, resentment and dislike toward
the parents, teachers or other adults who beat them, by hitting, pinching,
slapping, caning, spanking or other methods of corporal punishment.
This penance is very simple to perform, but often very difficult to carry
out. Each person—child or adult—who has been beaten at any time, no
matter how long ago, is enjoined to put up in the shrine room a picture of
the person or persons by whom they were beaten, be it a father, mother or
teacher. Then, every day for thirty-one consecutive days, without missing
a single day, he or she must place a flower in front of each picture, and
sincerely forgive the person in heart and mind. If no picture is available,
then some symbol or possession can be substituted, or even a paper with
his or her name written on it. ¶When it becomes difficult to offer the
flower of forgiveness, because hurtful memories come up from the sub-
conscious mind, the abused individual must perform the vâsanâ daha
tantra, writing down the hurtful memories and burning the paper in a
trash can. This tantra releases the deep emotions within the individual
who finds that he or she does not like or deeply resents the parent or
other relative, school teacher or principal. After writing about these expe-
riences, expressing in words the emotions felt on many pieces of paper,
the area of the subconscious mind holding the suppressed anger and
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resentment gradually disappears as the papers are seen burning to ashes

in a garbage can. ¶Upon recognizing and admitting their fear or hatred
of their abuser, they must deal with the pangs of pain that arise each day
by mystically turning the slap, beating or spanking into a beautiful flow
of prâ∫a by placing a flower before the picture with a heart full of love.
Each day while performing the “flowers of forgiveness prâyaßchitta,” the
individual should mentally approach the tormentor—the person or per-
sons who beat him or her—and say, “I forgive you. I don’t hold anything
against you, for I know that you gave back to me the karma that I set in
motion by committing similar misdeeds at a prior time.” If possible, this
act of verbal forgiveness should be done in person at least once during the
thirty-one days, ideally face to face, but at least by phone, if the person is
still on this Earth plane. ¶Of course, for most it’s much easier to pass on
the slap or beating to someone else. Parents often hit their own child, or
abuse another person in order to “get it out of their system.” That slap has
to go someplace, and turning it into a flower is very, very difficult. This
prâyaßchitta brings up all those awful memories. This discipline brings up
all the pain. It brings all the injustice to the surface of the mind. Neverthe-
less, this tantra, or method, has been a great help to many. It is difficult to
forgive, and some had to work very diligently within themselves to face
up to being able to place that little flower lovingly before the picture of
a parent or a teacher. Many have tried and failed again and again when
deep-seated resentment emerged, but finally succeeded in true forgive-
ness, whose byproduct is forgetfulness. They all feel so much better today.
Now they are responsive, creative and happy inside. Yes, hitting people is
wrong—and children are people, too.
There is an old saying in Tamil that is often recited
Saturday before or after slapping or beating a child: moa[k; cija[k;
LESSON 188
cjt[tJ nghy; mz;zd; jk;gp cjt khl;lhq/ Adium
In Defense
Of Battering! uthaium uthavu vathu pol annan thambi uthava mad-
dar. It means, “Even the help of one’s younger and older
brothers cannot compare to the benefit of being kicked and beaten.” It
seems this proverb, printed in certain school books, is taught to students.
¶This makes me ask the Hindu community worldwide: What fearful
expectations are we nurturing in young minds by repeating such a cruel,
stupid edict? Study until midnight to avoid a plastic rod across the back?
Obey the teacher or get hit with a strap or cane, then slapped in the face
at home for getting beaten in school? Are there more ßlokas promoting
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hiμsâ, violence, in the home, more guidelines for corporal punishment?

Is it our intention to pass this despicable attitude from generation to
generation? Unfortunately it seems to be so. My young Asian monks
can recite the above verse from childhood memories. Parents seeking to
defend corporal punishment of children will also quote a saying from
Manu Dharma Íâstra (7.198), “Sama, dana, bheda, da∫∂a,” which means
“using kind words (or negotiation), bribery, sowing dissension, and pun-
ishment (or striking).” These are the four successive steps in achieving
success against an enemy of the realm. It is advice for kings, not parents.
I, for one, hope the rules will change in this nuclear-family age, for there
are more seeming reasons to hit and fewer places where a beaten child
can find solace and love, without the presence of grandma, auntie and
others. ¶The working mother slaps her children at home because they
add stress to her already stressed-out nerve system. Father has a tough day
on the job and takes it out on his son’s back or face with the hand, strap
or cane. Does it give a sadistic joy to hear young children cry in pain and
humiliation? Does it enhance the feeling of “I’m in charge here; you are
not!’’? ¶In the past century we’ve had two world wars and hundreds of
smaller ones. Killers come from among those who have been beaten. The
slap and pinch, the sting of the paddle, the lash of the strap, the blows of
a cane must manifest through those who receive them into the lives of
others. But there is a price to pay. The abuser one day becomes the abused.
This is a law of life seen manifesting every day. It is called karma. Action
gives an equal or more intense reaction, depending on the intent and the
emotion behind it. Corporal punishment is arguably a prelude to gangs
on the streets, those who will riot on call, and others who suffer in silence
and hide behind a desk or in a routine profession, fearing reprimand and
punishment, never talking back or offering an opinion.
Is there a covert consciousness that accounts for the fact
Sunday that for forty-eight years, until early 1996, I didn’t even
LESSON 189
know that children of my international congregation
Time Out
And Time In were being beaten? Perhaps. Hindus know it’s wrong in
their heart of hearts, but are blindly obeying the cultural
attitude expressed in this hiμsâ, violent, senseless proverb, and thought-
lessly reacting to their own stress and anger. They don’t even look for a
better way. Well, there is a better way. ¶It has been over fifty years since
my ministry started, way back in 1949. Now, in its maturity, there are
uncounted encounters to rely upon, much experience to guide the fel-
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lowship and much energy to march into the future of futures. Among the
concerns, one has become crucial to parents, who ask, “Are there better
ways to raise our children? We are entirely dedicated to ahiμsâ, nonin-
jury, physically, emotionally and mentally. But how is this lofty ideal pos-
sible to follow when troubled by emotions that are too easily released by
taking them out, in the fire of the moment, on those we love? How can
misdeeds that happen in the home be absolved, and examples set that
prevent their repetition generation after generation?” ¶For parents seek-
ing effective nonviolent alternatives, they are readily available today in
excellent books. One strategy educators recommend is called time out,
one minute for each year of the child’s age; hence ten minutes for a ten-
year-old. This tells the child that if he doesn’t behave in a reasonable
way, he will be separated from other people. Time out, sitting quietly in
a room, works best in conjunction with its opposite, time in. Time in is
quality time spent with the child in an activity he enjoys, and just being
together. Time in includes letting children share their feelings, positive or
negative, with parents lending a receptive, understanding ear. ¶There are
new methods and new principles, such as in Nandinâtha Sûtra 138: “Íiva’s
followers never govern youth through fear. They are forbidden to spank
or hit them, use harsh or angry words, neglect or abuse them. They know
you can’t make children do better by making them feel worse.” This goes
along with the innovative approach being taken by psychologists, sociolo-
gists and educators, in consideration of the turmoil that engulfs today’s
world. The truth is being accepted that methods that rely on what experts
call “punishment power”—scolding, taking away privileges, spanking—
do not elicit more desirable behavior in children or adults. Rather, they
produce hostility, resentment and the desire for retaliation. In commu-
nities around the world, our family missionaries are conducting study
groups on Dr. Jane Nelsen’s Positive Discipline as a public service to help
parents raise their children without violence.
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 Yuva Kleßa
yauvaÒexa

Teenage Trials

Be one to whom the mother is a God. Be one to

whom the father is a God. Be one to whom the
teacher is a God. Be one to whom the guest is a God.
K®ish∫a Yajur Veda, Taittirîya Upanishad 1.11.2. upr, p. 537-8
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The more things change, the more they stay the same, it
Monday seems. Children are perfect devas until puberty, when
LESSON 190
so many changes come, when prârabdha karmas—the
Keep Teaching,
Keep Loving results of past actions they bring with them to live
through in this birth—begin to manifest and the grow-
ing-up process intensifies. Is there a set way, a rule book, for raising
Hindu children in our contemporary society? I think not. But the basic
principles of Hinduism have not failed. No, not at all. Teach the young
adults to look ahead mentally into the future before making a decision,
and to base their decisions for life on the value judgments of Sanâtana
Dharma as well explained in Dancing with Íiva, Hinduism’s Contemporary
Catechism, here in Living with Íiva, Hinduism’s Contemporary Culture and
in Merging with Íiva, Hinduism’s Contemporary Metaphysics. This Master
Course trilogy is all that’s needed for a fine future for young adults. What
are these values? Peace; harmony within the home; tolerance for others;
appreciation of the wisdom of those who have gone before us and of
those who are older; purity of thought, word and deed; chastity until
marriage; and, above all, cooperation and patience in choosing the right
partner in life, for marriage is actually the joining of two families. ¶Mar-
riage is not merely an individual decision between two people who are
sexually attracted to each other. No, not at all. A marriage, to be successful,
needs the support both of the young man’s family and the young lady’s.
The days are going away very fast when, through the dowry system, the
girl buys herself a husband or the boy commands a price to take her into
his home as a servant girl for his mother. ¶All this should be explained
time and time again to children who are growing up with mixed values.
After all, they spend more time with their peers than they do with their
parents in today’s world! This means that the parents have to actively
teach them as well, and talk and talk and talk on well-rehearsed subjects
to keep their children in the home, out of harm’s way and guided into a
substantial, happy marriage in which the bride and the groom’s parents
get along famously. It is a circle of love when two families marry along
with their children. ¶These matters must be discussed when children are
young, before puberty. Give many examples from your life and the suc-
cessful lives of others they and you know. Later, when they reach the stage
A group of teens gather to talk and share, not far from the Seattle Space Needle in Washington
state. Positive peer groups are essential to young men and women, taking them through the dif-
ficult teenage years protected and unscathed.
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of puberty, watch out, for they may reject everything they have heard. But
the knowledge is in there, deeply buried in their subconscious mind, just
waiting to burst out when the right moment comes. So, even when they
are not inclined to listen or discuss, you can know they are hearing. And
you can be sure they are listening when you gossip about someone who is
experiencing a similar problem they are facing—a high school senior you
read of in the paper who is in dire circumstances, or a story with a moral
that you have creatively thought up to put across the point that you are
trying to make. Yes, they are listening, because who is it on planet Earth
that does not just really, really love to hear a good story. Your well-placed
parable will lift up the vâsanâs you implanted early on.
When your adolescents make the decision that you
Tuesday want them to make, never, ever say, “I told you so.” Just
LESSON 191
bow your head and say, “Darling, you are making a wise
Tapas of the
The Teen Years decision.” Believe it or not, when they are not listening
and you are talking, they are hearing, and what you are
saying is going deep into their subconscious state of mind, which never
sleeps. So, be tactful in what you say, and say it always with a smile and
plenty of healthy âyurvedic sweets (not made with white sugar, but with
jaggery or honey, or raw sugar if these are not available). We don’t want
tooth decay and diabetic conditions from highly processed white sugar.
It is too expensive and time-consuming to treat these home-created ail-
ments. Don’t you agree? Good health—mental and physical—begins or
ends in the home. ¶Teenagers are suffering the pangs of sex, desire and
distrust, independence and all sorts of other things. They are as if sick
during this time. In Moscow one cold 1990 winter, astrophysicist Carl
Sagan once told me they are poisoned by their own hormones. This is
nothing new. Over two thousand years ago, the Greek philosopher Plato
lamented, “What is happening to our young people? They disrespect their
elders. They disobey their parents. They riot in the street, inflamed with
wild notions. Their morals are decaying. What is to become of them?” Not
much has changed, has it? So, be the mother, father, nurse, and doctor.
Talk together and work out a strategy for the seven years from age thirteen
to nineteen. It will be over in only seven years. Does this seem like a long
haul? Does getting through it seem like an impossible dream? It surely
does, but teenage trials are a natural part of the extended family, the joint
family, the nuclear family and even of the no-family-at-all. Most of all,
realize that you will surely win out if you persist in love and understand-
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ing. Before long, they will be raising their children in the very same way
and loving you for how you had the patience, willpower, forbearance and
love—mainly love—to see them through. Proceed with confidence. Get
a strategy, a battle plan, if it’s all that bad. Stand up straight, be willing to
take insult, disobedience and be shamed in the very home in which you
have raised them. Similarly, a nurse does not pay all that much attention
to the ranting and raving of a patient who is delirious. Reason does not
rank that high as a quality for the teenager. But to tell them that would be
to alienate them, for in their view they are so, so much more intelligent
than you are in the ways of the world. And that may well be true, as they,
we must never forget, spend more time with their peers than at home. You,
the parents, bear the handicap of this and must in all fairness compensate.
¶When you have successfully performed your seven-year tapas of bearing
up under the pain of the teenage trials, truly you will enjoy great satisfac-
tion and be able to sit back and smile. Remember and be assured that it
won’t last forever. It truly won’t. Have compassion and give some leniency,
for during this time they are all mixed up inside; they are, they surely are.
They are facing an uncertain future in an unsure world, becoming adults,
keeping in with their peers, keeping in with their parents, facing marriage,
job, career and community expectations. No wonder so many kill them-
selves because their parents just did not understand and were not there
for them at a time when they truly, truly needed them. Such a death of a
child is on the heads of the parents. Don’t let this happen in your family.
Please don’t. Be a mom. Be a dad. Be a nurse. Be a doctor. And, most of all,
be a friend—their friend, their closest friend—during this tumultuous,
turbulent, troublesome time called teenage.
Here is a letter a discouraged Malaysian Hindu girl
Wednesday wrote to her parents just before she attempted to end
LESSON 192
her life at age eighteen. One of the main reasons she
A Story of
Heartbreak cited for this attempt was too much pressure coming
from her parents. It was published in the Malaysia edi-
tion of HINDUISM TODAY. ¶“Dear Mom and Dad: You’ll never understand
why I did this. Never. In your opinion, you always did what was best for
me. You always knew what was best for me. You always believed I was
your naive, irresponsible little girl who always needed your hand to hold
on to. You thought it was necessary to use the sharp edge of your tongue
to keep me on the right track. ¶“But that was the biggest problem—you
were the ones who chose that track for me. I never had any say in my own
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life. Did you realize that that right track became a psychological prison
for me? That your leading hand became a set of chains for me? That the
sharp side of your tongue got to be a barbed wire that was continuously
lashing out at me? No, you never did. ¶“You have said many things to me
when you were angry, and you always excused yourself by saying that you
weren’t in your senses when you said them. But did you realize how much
those things could have hurt me? No. You never even thought about it.
How about if I called you a b . . . . when I was angry? Would you excuse
that with the same reasoning? I think not. ¶“Didn’t you ever stop to think
that maybe I should have some say in what I wanted to do with my life?
You decided which college would be the right one for me to attend and
what academic field I should go into. The college, of course, had to be the
most prestigious and elite one, so you could brag to your friends about
it. You never thought that maybe I wanted something more than school
and books, but that was never important to you. You only wanted me to
achieve academically so your friends would be duly impressed. That was
the same reason that you wanted me to become a doctor. I didn’t want
anything to do with it. ¶“You never realized that maybe I had wanted a
social life, to make real friends for once in my life. When I told you that,
you scoffed at me and told me that we Indians were so much superior that
we didn’t need to deal with them. There was never anything in my life that
you let me have any control over. When I finally met someone who meant
something to me, you two couldn’t handle the fact that maybe someday I
would learn to control my own life and rid myself of your manipulations.
So, then you decided who it was that I was going to see and who it was
that I didn’t. You forced me to break the first real relationship that I ever
had in my life. I was constantly harassed by you about him. You told me
that I was disgracing the family name. ‘…what would everyone say?’ You
destroyed everything for me. This ‘relationship’ between us is nothing but
a farce. And there is no reason to continue it. I have searched for some way
to escape you, but I have come up empty handed. And now, unable to do
anything else, I want you to understand the meaning of ‘empty handed.’
Always remember that you can only control someone for so long. Now
you must live with this guilt. I hope you will never be able to forgive your-
self.” ¶Isn’t that sad? Yes, very sad. Fortunately, the young woman lived
through this ordeal. In contacting the editors, knowing her letter would
strike a chord in many youth, she cautioned that she now knows suicide
is not the way out. She firmly believes that all things, no matter how bad
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they seem at the time, can be lived through. She allowed the publication
of this very personal letter in the hope that her battle with suicide would
help others—parents and children—deal better with problems before
they reach hopelessness.
Many parents hesitate teaching Hinduism to their chil-
Thursday dren as they do not want to make them different than
LESSON 193
their school chums. But it is only a “storybook Hindu-
Keep the
Doors Open ism” that would do that. We do not need stories these
days that were created for a society that no longer exists.
We do need the philosophical, metaphysical and psychological Truths
which are as eternal as space, time and gravity. These should be well
implanted into their minds. One is never too young or too old to learn
the Eternal Truths that never fail. World thinking is built on only a few
Truths and more than a few false concepts. Never give up on your young
adults, whatever the problems that arise. They will be just fine with you,
their parents, by their side all along the way. ¶Yes, your children need
both of you as friends, someone to come home to when the going gets
rough, someone who accepts and loves and, in heartfelt tolerance, tries
to understand. It is possible, you know, to close the door on them in
your hearts and minds, especially when they are not obeying. Remember
that there are others out there who will take them in and may lead them
even further astray. Be a friend. Don’t force them out of your hearts and
minds. Always keep the doors of a compassionate heart, loving arms and
an understanding mind open. Listen to their problems and come forward
for their needs, even when you may not agree with them or approve of
what they are going through. Remember, three hugs a day keeps trouble
away. This is modern Hindu Dharma. This is ancient Hindu Dharma.
This is living Íiva’s contemporary culture. ¶Young people have to prove
for themselves the basic principles of Sanâtana Dharma. Some go at it in
a straightforward way and others go about it in a roundabout way, trying
to disprove everything, and therefore proving it. What is the straightfor-
ward way? Accepting it as it is and trying to prove it also by relating it
to your own life experience. We should not be discouraged with young
people if we find they reach a certain age and pull away a little bit. They
can come to understand the law of karma by going through a few expe-
riences and finding out how they themselves created those experiences.
They have to have those basic realizations in this life if they didn’t have
them in a previous life. If they had these basic realizations in a previous
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life very, very strongly, their confidence in the teachings would be very
strong. Those things carry over from life to life, and in the end the soul
builds on them. ¶The new breed of swâmîs that have come up in the
past three decades relate well to the young adults who were born as Hin-
dus but raised as modern youth with little knowledge of their hereditary
religion. These swâmîs know the problems, the pitfalls and some of the
solutions. They, too, were raised “modern” and by their own conviction
learned Eternal Truths and now preach them with a vigor and practical
clarity that is unsurpassed. Introduce your young adult to them, and he or
she will find an understanding friend and religious mentor. ¶When we are
young, the old ways can seem stiff, old-fashioned or just plain silly. Help
your young adult see into the reasons and discover the meaning in our
culture, philosophy and religion. Then the Sanâtana Dharma will belong
to them, too, never to be lost, but to be preserved and passed along to their
children when the time comes and the cycle begins again.
Many youth are pushed into professions by their family,
Friday even if they are not suited to that profession. They gradu-
LESSON 194
ate and ask themselves, “What do I do next? Do I get a job
Education
And Career near my family home? Do I go to a far-off country and
seek employment?” Family pressure is on, and comments,
sometimes hurtful, are made to motivate the youth. But in today’s world
youth have to think on their feet, take their life into their own hands and
make their own goals for their future, especially if they have been abused
by senseless beatings from angry parents whose cruel hearts drive them
from their home. ¶The long-term goals of education and career should
be planned out ahead of graduation. Ideally the planning takes place
with the family, but only if it is a cooperative, reasonable family that has
enough love to foresee their youth fulfilling happy lives with productive
futures. As we saw earlier, too harsh an upbringing can lead to their taking
their life with their own hands. ¶In the United States before the First and
Second World Wars, people were committed—committed to their family,
to their community, to their country, to the growth of the nation and to
their business. Everyone knew what they were going to do with the rest
of their life by the time they were eighteen or nineteen years of age. They
went forward and lived out their life as planned. When I was seventeen,
I knew what I would be doing right now. That is commitment, clarity of
mind, the ability to see a direct path into the future and then to have the
character and the willpower to live to make that path manifest. Society
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was stable, society was strong, and there were simpler problems. ¶After
the First World War and Second World War, the family unit began to
break up, and people were no longer committed. The word of the times
was not commitment, but one that also started with a “c.” It was choices.
“I’ll make a choice and see where it leads me. Then I will make another
choice and see where that leads.” People didn’t stick with one occupation
and perfect it. They dabbled half-heartedly at ten occupations which they
didn’t perfect, and the quality of work suffered as a result. The opportu-
nities of choice were so grand. Parents would encourage their children
“Make your own choice of what you are going to do with your life. We
just want you to be happy.” The same child was not allowed to make his
own choice about what clothes to wear or what foods to eat. But he was
allowed to make the really important choices, including: “What are you
going to do with your entire life?” and “Whom are you going to marry?”
Of course, to buy a car he was taught by his parents to read Consumer
Reports and pick just the right one. But he could take up any career and
marry anyone he wanted to, just on a whim and fancy.
Society drastically changed after the two world wars,
Saturday and the country’s crime rate went up. Mental institu-
LESSON 195
tions became overpopulated, hospitals overcrowded.
So Many
Choices People who have no commitment to family, friends,
community and religion end up making the wrong
choices in life. And today we have a new group called the New Age which,
ironically, is totally committed to being uncommitted. ¶Many people are
not committed to anything. They take a vow, they take a pledge, but it
doesn’t mean anything. Even a marriage vow or pledge doesn’t mean
anything anymore. But that is not religion. That may be secular human-
ism. That may be existentialism. That may be just a big nothingism; but
it is not religion. Religion is the acceptance of spiritual laws that guide
our life. We have to make decisions and make commitments, and live up
to those commitments so that we can look in the mirror every morning
and say, “You did a good job with yesterday. Now what about today?” This
is the ethic we need to instill in teenagers. Then the strength of the soul
comes forward. When the strength of the soul comes forward, it perme-
ates the intellectual mind. Creativity comes forth. New, inspiring, insight-
ful thoughts that you didn’t even know you were able to think come into
your mind from your superconscious, and many wonderful things begin
to manifest in your life. ¶Nowadays the mind seems to be confused for
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young people and older people alike. There is too much television, too
much surfing, too much input, and not enough planning, not enough
talking, not enough camaraderie to sit down and plan out what you are
going to do this year, next year, the year after and the year after that. But
that’s how you keep your karma under control: short-term goals and long-
term goals planned out according to Íaiva Dharma. ¶Families have been
asking me about careers for their maturing youth. What courses should
they pursue in college? Higher education should prepare a youth for what
he is going to do in life. This applies to women as well. That is why we are
educated, to prepare ourselves for our future. There is no other point of
being educated but for that. If a young lady is going to be a homemaker,
it would be wise to be educated to be a homemaker. Many women these
days are married and can’t cook, don’t know how to put on a band-aid,
don’t know how to take care of the children when they come, because
they’ve never been educated to be a wife. Women who foresee another
kind of life for themselves should choose an education that will prepare
them for that. It is also wise these days for a woman who is a homemaker
to have an education in a profession, such as nursing, that she can fall back
on in case misfortune befalls the family, a death or a divorce, so she can
get a job to support the children and herself. Education is for the future
career, whether it be a homemaking career or another kind of career. That
is the purpose of it. There is much education now available that is just
general education. It goes on and on and on. You go in wanting to know,
and you come out confused at the end of it. We see this happening all the
time. This type of education should definitely be avoided. ¶It is through
prenatal experience and influence during year one, year two, year three,
year four, year five, that a youth is absorbing the knowledge from the cells
of his father’s body into his, from the emotions of the father into his, from
the mind of his father into his. If the child is a girl, she learns mostly from
her mother. These vibrations, in the very same way, enter her inner psyche.
Thus children establish the foundation on which they will later build their
adulthood. They are their father’s and mother’s children. It was no acci-
dent that they incarnated into their family. They had a choice before they
were born. Every family is an expression of such choices.
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Nowadays many people believe that somehow it was an

Sunday accident that one was born in a family of a certain pro-
LESSON 196
fession and that the youth deserves a so-called better
The Family
Profession profession than that of the parents. But the traditional
wisdom is that a person is born into a family to fulfill
the profession of that family, and ideally to stay within that family busi-
ness. Being raised in the family business, the person learns from a young
age, even prenatally. Going into another profession, he leaves the fam-
ily dharma and goes into worldly adharma. It then takes two or three
generations to establish a new family dharma in that profession. ¶Now,
of course, if the father and mother do not have a formal profession or
business when their offspring are babies, from prenatal to six, whatever
they are doing is absorbed and becomes the children’s habit pattern of
how they should live their lives on Earth. In such conditions, the chances
for the son or daughter to follow the father’s or mother’s footsteps in a
formal profession at a later age, such as at puberty, lessens because the
children have already been programmed, from ages one to six, to live
from day to day without a goal, without strong material security, without
a profession, as their mother and father did, as casual, temporary employ-
ees or students, often unemployed or seeking employment. ¶Obviously,
there is no greater boon to a youth than to enter the family business or
profession, that is, provided this is his inclination as well. Occasionally,
however, there comes into a family a child who is to become a leader in
another field, not a follower of the family profession. Perhaps he shows
special aptitude as a religious leader, a swâmî, a community leader, a poli-
tician, a social organizer, an activist, an investigative genius, a scientist
or a scholar. Such a child will identify himself at an early age and must
be especially carefully nurtured, for he was born with a mission. ¶Then
there are others who will shy away from the family profession, whatever
the rationale. There are many reasons that youth reject the family profes-
sion, but the point is that it is the duty of the family to make that profes-
sion available to them, knowing this can stabilize them throughout life.
Therefore, we should encourage the traditional family ideal in any case,
at any age. There is great mental, emotional and physical security for the
son or the daughter to follow the family vocation. Such children have
observed their parents, learned from them, slowly become partners with
them in life. It is not always wise to allow your children to make the deci-
sion of what they want to do, allowing them to leave the home and make
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a stranger wealthy in another profession because of their service to him.

Lovingly encourage them to do what you do and to become an extension
of yourself. The ideas of “do your own thing,” “satisfy your own desires,”
“wander into a career,” “move from one career to another midway in life”
are modern adharmic concepts. It may work out, but there is a fifty per-
cent chance of failure and crippling debt. Then, too, the family has lost a
great asset. The children have lost half their family connection, as they no
longer have a shared interest in what mom and dad are doing, and vice
versa. And the stranger, way out there, benefits. A family should not end at
the puberty of its children, who then go off into other spheres of interest.
It should continue and mature into father-and-son corporations, father-
and-daughter corporations, with mother and father, sons and daughters
all sharing the same interests, all working to increase the family assets.
¶The dharma of the householder is to build up wealth and knowledge,
and to pass these on to the children, generation after generation. If they
are in the jewelry profession, the wealth should go to the jewelers of the
next generation, not to the musicians or computer programmers. Fam-
ily wealth equals community wealth. Community wealth equals national
wealth. National wealth equals global abundance. Hindu elders say that
by following the occupation of the father and mother one will never go
hungry, even if the occupation is a meager one. This is what I learned in
Jaffna, Sri Lanka, at an early age. One might not become rich, but security
is virtually assured. ¶So, don’t be afraid to bring your sons and daughters
into the family business deliberately. Get them interested. Get them work-
ing with you. Your business or occupation is what feeds them. Naturally
they should be interested in it. The simple answer for modern Hindu
families following the traditional g®ihastha dharma is to form a family
corporation and bring sons and daughters at an early age into what mom
and dad are doing. Educate them in the family occupation from age six
to thirteen and then engage them as partners all through life. What better
partners could one have? Who would be more honest and loyal than your
own children? Need we say more? You have caught the idea.
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 Hiμsâkarî Bhâshâ
ih\saak[rI BaaSaa

Language that Hurts

Of one heart and mind I make you, devoid of hate.

Love one another as a cow loves the calf she has
borne. Let the son be courteous to his father, of one
mind with his mother. Let the wife speak words that
are gentle and sweet to her husband. Never may
brother hate brother or sister hurt sister. United in
heart and in purpose, commune sweetly together.
Atharva Veda 3.30.1-3. ve, p. 857
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Many people, even those who consider themselves reli-

Monday gious, go through life using profane language to express
LESSON 197
their frustrations at each difficulty they meet. Do they
The Curse
Of Profanity know the effect of these negative mantras? Apparently
not. People who swear—even if it’s just under their
breath—are cursing themselves. What does that mean? It means they
are holding themselves back in life. They are demeaning themselves and
making themselves unsuccessful. Their lack of success will create more
frustrations within the home, and more swearing. Even thinking a swear
word is a mantra. ¶Why do people repeat mantras? To generate a posi-
tive force for successful life. Why do people swear mentally, under their
breath, or verbally, or at their children, or at their wives, or wives at their
husbands? To vent their anger, spite or sarcasm, or just by mindless habit.
But in the process they unleash a negative force that will ruin their lives
and break up their homes. Every time you swear, that swearing goes into
your subconscious and hooks up with all the other swear words you’ve
said since you were a kid. ¶Many people habitually say, “I’ll be damned,”
“Damn you,” or “Damn it” as emphatic figures of speech. But all speech
has its effect. Such mantras block their future and bind them to what
they wish on others or crassly blurt out. This is a good way to curse one-
self, to be sure—to build up a big balloon of negative energy. Under that
negative force, they will never be able to relax or enjoy a vacation. Many
people live together as a family, but their home is broken, their lives are
broken, because they broke their own heart and forfeited their own cour-
age simply by swearing a repeated mantra. Using profane language is a
curse upon the system we call life. ¶What is even worse is knowing you
shouldn’t do something and then doing it anyway, even knowing why
you shouldn’t do it and doing it anyway—knowing why you shouldn’t
swear, why you shouldn’t be abusive to the children, why you shouldn’t
be abusive to the spouse, and then doing it anyway! It has a triple impact
of negative force on the subconscious mind of the individual if he knows
what he is doing to himself and to the minds of others, if he knows the
law and yet ignores the law, the divine karmic law that he accepted. ¶Now,
having heard this, if you continue to break the law, you bring a triple
curse upon yourself! That is the built-in prâyaßchitta, the automatic pen-
The child above is nurtured by a kindly, religious father whose wholesome life and abundant
provisions give love and security to his son. Below, a cruel father’s ways and words have the op-
posite effect, giving his son a sense of helplessness and despair.
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ance or penalty. Those of you who know how the subconscious mind
and the sub of the subconscious mind work can see the negative impact
very, very clearly. And if you continue knowingly doing what you know
is harmful to you, you will earn a bad birth. Do you want that? Maybe
you do. Or maybe you don’t believe in reincarnation. Well, it’s going to
happen anyway. ¶I was on a United Airlines flight. A stewardess spilled
something. She didn’t use the “d” word or the “s” word. She kept a smile
on her face and cleaned up the mess! Why didn’t she swear? Because if
you’re an employee on a United Airlines flight you don’t swear, or else
you don’t take the next flight! That’s why. This shows there is an integrity
built within everyone by which they can break a habit cycle if it means
some benefits to them. In this case it was financial benefit, also avoiding
the embarrassment of losing her job. ¶The motivation to change isn’t
that clear when, for example, someone is working at a construction site
where everyone else is also swearing. But the motivation to stop swear-
ing should be clear, because it takes its toll even if you don’t realize it. It
is simply taking longer to lose your job, because swearing will make you
less productive, less efficient, less liked by others. You’ll be cheated, you’ll
make wrong financial decisions, and your income will go down. Your
inspiration will go down. You can count on it, because you are repeating
mantras to destroy everything that you have. You won’t be able to appreci-
ate that sunset. You will be so confused on the inside that all you’ll see is
your own mind. Avoiding all that should be the motivation; but the effect
of swearing is slow, insidious, and in most cases not appreciated.
It’s up to the individual to stand on his own two feet, take
Tuesday his life in his own hands, his karmas in his own hands, to
LESSON 198
bear his karma cheerfully and work with it. Nobody else
The Courage
To Change can do that for you. Gurus and swâmîs can point the way
and give certain sâdhanas, but they cannot do it for you.
They won’t do it for you. If they did do it for you, it wouldn’t do you any
good! ¶People who are cynical are expressing their anger and contempt
with snide remarks. They may seem to be joking, but their sharp feelings
come across anyway, which stimulates that lower chakra until one day
their cynicism will turn into really good anger. Then they build up new
karmas they never had before, which they will live with until they are faced
with those karmas. ¶Some devotees take pride in saying, “I’ve been with
Gurudeva for forty-five years.” “I’ve been with Gurudeva for thirty years.”
But if you ask them, “Do you still get angry?” “Yes,” they say. “What have
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you realized?” “Well, that I shouldn’t get angry.” “Do you still get angry?”
“Uh-huh, yes, sometimes.” Those people haven’t been with Gurudeva at
all! They’ve just been hanging around. Because the results of everything
we have been teaching have not taken hold. Results have to manifest in
the lives of each of you. Otherwise, you’re just bodies, sitting there listen-
ing to me talk, living your own private life, living a double standard. Just
bodies. So, there can be a lack of sincerity. I want my ßishyas to do a job,
do it right, and be on to the next one, not this insincerity of playing with
me, playing with my mind. I don’t like that. ¶You can’t work at correct-
ing something. You either do it or you don’t do it. You don’t work at not
falling off a cliff, a big precipice that drops off a hundred feet. You just
don’t step forward; that’s what you don’t do! When you come to the point
where you hear about the Self, and you get interested in the Self, you’re at
a point where you can break the cycle of certain karmas through sâdhana.
You’re either going to do it or you’re going to think, “Oh, that’s kind of
silly, you know. It’s really nice to listen to Gurudeva, but to actually take
these teachings seriously and make changes in my life, well…ho hum.”
That kind of attitude, that kind of ho-hum, lazy attitude, also results
in making new karmas, because others look at you as an example and
take up your example. It’s living a double life that I am talking about. It
depends on the strength of the person’s soul whether he actually makes
some definite changes in his character or not.
It’s one thing to hurt yourself through swearing, but it’s
Wednesday a double hurt of yourself if you hurt another person.
LESSON 199
We wrote quite extensively on the widespread problem
Verbal Abuse
Of Children of corporal punishment and child abuse last year in
HINDUISM TODAY. We explained that those who abuse
their children, their spouse—even husbands get abused and hit and
scratched—are hurting themselves five to ten times worse than if they
simply hit themselves once instead of hitting their child. We find that
in some homes the advice to stop was taken very seriously. Scaring chil-
dren by threatening them has also ceased, at least in the homes that I am
aware of in the broad Hindu community. But verbal abuse of children
has increased, calling children bad names in order to put them down,
expressing anger by viciously badgering them: “You’re stupid!” “You’re
worthless!” There’s a long list that apparently nearly every mother and
every father has memorized. It goes on and on and on, this constant
downgrading and demeaning, expressed in the name of discipline, start-
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ing at five or six years of age and continuing until youths are old enough
to leave home on their own. ¶The verbally abused child’s self-image is
terrible, but the pain and humiliation is locked away in his subconscious.
He covers it up and forgets it, but it continues festering there, and one
day bursts forth. If he is a kind-hearted child, he will protect his own
children in the future from verbal abuse. If he is a mean-spirited child,
he will release what his parents put upon him and into his mind, all of
that hatred, upon his children. So, the verbal abuse continues generation
after generation. Its pain and hurt long outlast that of a slap or a beating.
¶In some parts of the Hindu community we hear a lot about curses. The
more intellectual, Western-educated Hindu doesn’t believe in curses at
all. But what is a curse? A curse is negative energy gathered together and
pointed at someone you don’t like. Those priests who are able to conjure
up a curse—and are often paid for it—take careful precautions to protect
themselves from being cursed by their own curse! Sometimes that protec-
tion doesn’t work, and they become ill, occasionally even die, or become
tremendously confused as long as the curse is working. ¶To freely hurl
mental harassment and abuse at a child who can’t talk back—lest he be
slapped down, dragged across the floor and slammed against the wall—is
cursing the child as well as oneself. It is also cursing the home, as well as
the entire family, because this tremendous force of negative, angry energy
that has been suppressed leaches out and fills the room and the entire
house. Call a child one bad name and you are calling yourself ten bad
names. And that goes into your subconscious mind, because the perpetra-
tor of the crime also hears what he has said. ¶Many people verbally abuse
children in order to motivate them, to make them courageous, to make
them stand up straight, to make them do better in school. Any psychiatrist
or psychologist will tell you that to tell a child he’s stupid is no motiva-
tion to do better in school! To tell him that he’s a pig, he’s a dog—and
then there are the four-letter words, the “f ” word and the “b” word—is
no motivation whatsoever. But the children have to take it, because they
are dependent for housing, clothing and food. The verbal abuse goes into
their subconscious mind. But it goes double, triple, quadruple into the
subconscious mind of the mother—and the father also if he hears the
mother cursing the kid—and on and on until finally the whole family
has cursed itself, become filled with the hatred, the scorn and the filthy
meanings of the words they have spoken to one another a thousand times.
¶Will that family be successful? Never. Will that family enjoy vacations?
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No way. Will they be totally frustrated on the inside? Yes. Will disease
come to that family? Of course! They are creating disease by the disease
they are putting into their own subconscious mind, and the harm to the
astral body will eventually affect the physical body.
Of course, parents who curse their children can’t hug
Thursday them, can’t show the same love for them. That would
LESSON 200
be counterproductive! In fact, many families think it’s
Making Up
For Abuse weakening to the child to hug a child and to show love
or to congratulate the child. Thus we have whole soci-
eties and entire countries that hold themselves down, generation after
generation and do not flourish, and therefore are held down by other
communities who are doing the same thing, and that are held down by
other communities. ¶What is the prâyaßchitta, what is the penance, for
foul or abusive language—for language that hurts? If you call a child stu-
pid, or call him a little bastard, counteract it by telling him he is intel-
ligent, wanted in the family, loved. Counteract the abuse by saying five
good words for every bad word. Otherwise, the parents will have a bad
birth. What is a bad birth? Being born diseased. A bad birth is being born
without parents. A bad birth is being born in a land that has no room
for children. There are lots of suffering kids these days who abused their
children in a past life without mercy, taking out their frustrations on
them. Which is worse, beating the child physically or berating him with
words? The pain of the beating will go away, even the memory, some-
how. But the words will ring deep in the mind of the child throughout
his lifetime. ¶Now, if the child performs certain sâdhanas and is able to
forgive the family for the verbal beatings, what then happens? It breaks
the curse. Then what happens? The whole force of that curse goes back
on the mother and the father. The child walks away free, healed, and his
parents take the impact of their impropriety. They take the impact of
their bad words. To young people who are cursed by your families, I say
take your life in your own hands and plan for your own future. After all,
why would parents curse and call bad words and put down a child but to
control him, use him as a meal ticket, social security, make him so afraid
that he can’t talk to them! ¶In many homes parents are not beating their
children anymore, but they still raise their hand in the threat to hit them!
The child knows that if he persists, he’s going to get it right in the head.
Physical threats and verbal abuse turn a child into a person who is weak,
discouraged, without courage—without courage enough to have a con-
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versation with his mother, without courage enough to have a conversation

with his father, without courage enough to have a conversation with him-
self, to develop any initiative, to stand on his own two feet, to be a leader.
If your kids cannot or will not talk to you and have a conversation with
you, you have probably hurt those kids and scared those kids so much
that they don’t want to be hurt by you anymore. It’s as simple as that.
¶There are awful stories we hear about slavery, how slaves were brought
to America, Europe and all over the world, beaten and whipped to bring
them down to abject servitude so they wouldn’t cause any problems lest
they be beaten without mercy for the slightest thing—beaten even if they
did nothing wrong, just to keep them in their place. That’s what verbal
beating does, too. It keeps kids “in their place” so they become useless
slaves in the family, earning money to give to parents who still curse them,
and then feigning love toward the parents lest they get more verbal abuse.
We see this happening all the time. I hear and receive by e-mail desper-
ate testimonies from children and young adults on how they have been
abused, physically and with words, in their own home. From the many
experiences I know about, I can assure you that words can hurt a child as
much or more than a bamboo switch, a belt or a fist.
We want to talk to the next generation that’s coming up.
Friday Fourteen-year-olds, eighteen-year-olds, twenty-year-olds,
LESSON 201
stand on your own two feet! Make your decisions accord-
Advice for
Abused Youth ing to dharma. What is the book of dharma? Weaver’s
Wisdom, the famous Tirukural. It gives you all the tools
you need to live a very good life. If your parents are verbally abusing you,
don’t let their words affect you. Try to have compassion by appreciating
what led them to the point where they could say these cruel things to
you; but realize that they can offer you nothing but more abuse, because
they are in the process of cursing themselves. The message is to “stand
on your own two feet, take your life in your own hands, claim your inde-
pendence,” once you realize that life at home is not going to get any bet-
ter. ¶In certain shops in Asian cities, parents can buy bamboo switches,
belts and other instruments of torture made just for punishing kids. Few
realize that their mean words can cause just as much hurt, if not more.
Parents have developed long lists of words used to demean and belittle. It
has become an unspoken rulebook of how to bring their child down to
feeling like he’s a big nothing, willing to do anything you say, because he
inwardly begs: “Don’t hurt me anymore. Don’t hit me with your words.
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Don’t hurt me with your long silences and by turning your head away
from me. Don’t hurt me that way anymore. I’ll do anything. I’ll get a
dumb job and work at it fourteen hours a day to give you some money, to
pay you for not hurting me anymore.” That’s what we have in the Hindu
community around the world. And that’s what we don’t want to have in
the Hindu community around the world. ¶What can a child of eight, ten
or twelve do who is being verbally and physically beaten at home and
in school? Nothing. It’s a sad situation. I’ve received lists of abuses from
children of that age, just exactly what their mothers have said and what
their fathers have said. It’s a tremendous pain in their mind. We’ve given
young people the prâyaßchitta, the remedy, of putting a flower in front of
their parents’ picture for thirty-one days. Most can’t do it. They just can’t
do it. We ask them to say each day, “I forgive you for playing my karma
back to me,” but they just can’t do it. The hate, the mistrust, the disap-
pointment, the hurt, is so great, they’ve been put down so low, that they
just cannot do it. ¶My counsel to Hindu families is: Stop the physical
abuse. Stop the verbal abuse. Stop the war in the home. Use positive dis-
cipline. Praise your children. Discover the good things that they do and
tell them how well they have done. Celebrate their Divinity. Enjoy them
and enjoy good times with them. This is the family tradition and the ideal
of Sanâtana Dharma, the Hindu Dharma of the past, before the Church
of England reigned over India for 150 years and changed education to
their way of thinking, making beating a must in schools and homes in
accordance with the many biblical verses that highly recommend “not
to spare the rod,” and the theological rationale to “beat the devil out of
them.” Hindus of today’s world have begun working together to stop the
abuse, passing and enforcing laws to bring us back to the true meaning of
discipline, which is to teach, train and patiently guide. We must remember
that ahiμsâ, nonhurting, physically, mentally or emotionally, is the bed-
rock of Sanâtana Dharma. ¶My advice to verbally abusive parents: stop
tearing them down by telling them they’re stupid, that they’re too small,
too fat, too lazy, too ugly or too naughty. If you constantly tell a child he
is naughty, he will become naughtier. If you constantly tell a child he’s
nice, he will be nicer. It just works like that. All the psychiatrists agree
with this approach, to be sure, as do mothers and fathers who really love
their children and take an interest in their children.
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There are two very great religious laws, and you have
Saturday heard me talk about them before, and if you follow them
LESSON 202
and obey them, you will have the spiritual protection
Backbiting
And Gossip of your own intuitive mind. Your intuitive mind will be
available to you all of the time. ¶One of these great laws
is the law of daßamâμßa, tithing, and the other great law is ßaucha kriyâ,
doing good. Now, what is doing good? Doing good is controlling your
mind, really, because when the mind is out of control or when you allow
it to be out of control, you are really under the control of the instinctive
mind of other people. You are more or less like a puppet in their hands.
Therefore, we teach, “Think before you speak, and speak only that which
is true, kind, helpful and necessary.” This is very, very difficult for most
people to do. If you carry each thought on the tip of your tongue, quite
often it won’t be your thought at all. It may be what is seething in the
instinctive mind of people around you. That’s what makes for backbiting
and gossip. Like those who swear, those who gossip do not think. They
pick up the low, seething vibrations of the instinctive mind of everyone
around and, like stovepipes, emanate the smoke of the fire that is burn-
ing or smoldering or fuming or raging underneath. Many undeveloped
people believe and repeat the last thing they hear spoken by someone
they consider higher than themselves. They gossip freely, hurt freely and
are often the pawns of strong-minded, unscrupulous individuals who
use their ignorance and weakness to further their own selfish ends. ¶Do
you know what gossiping is like? It’s like scratching an itch. Something
is antagonizing your mind, so you gossip, and you go on and on and
on until somebody changes the subject for you, or until somebody does
something else that you can gossip about. Shall we say that backbiting and
hurtful gossip are the dissipation of the creative, spiritual force? That’s all
they are, dissipation of your great, God-given inner power. Anyone will
tell you that to dissipate your energy is bad for you, but you do that when
you gossip. By doing that, you are only the chimney, the dirty smokestack,
of the seething instinctive mind, the ugly state of mind, of other people.
You are not in control of your own mind. Have I painted a picture that is
bad enough, hideous enough, gruesome enough, for you all to stop gos-
siping and control your mind a little bit? Gossip invokes the asuric beings
on the lower astral plane and makes new karmas for the gossiper, who
will be gossiped about in the future when the karmas return. ¶Let’s paint
another picture. When you defile others, mentally and verbally, through
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backbiting gossip about the happenings in their lives, you are hurting
them. You are actually making it difficult for them to succeed, to even
persist where they are. They sense, they feel, the ugliness that you are
projecting toward them. Many women gossip about their husbands over
the telephone to other women while their husbands are at work. How can
the husband be successful with the wife’s mind, in which he presumably
trusts, working and plotting against him in such a chaotic condition?
Gossip and backbiting, like verbal abuse, hurt another. You know what
happens according to spiritual law when you hurt another. You are only
hurting yourself in the future. Of course, you don’t meet the hurt right
away, but in a few months you will find that it will come to you. You are
hurting yourself in the future if you hurt another in the present. ¶It takes
great sincerity in life to control the mind. And the power to be sincere is
based on honesty. Honesty, ârjava, gives a great boon to you. It gives you
stability. It makes you strong. It makes every atom in your being vibrate
with an inner power. It gives you perspective; it gives you the eye to jus-
tice. But you must first be honest with yourself. Then the next time you
see something happening in the life of another person that you would
just love to sit down and gossip about, stop the menacing wheel of your
mind and think about the experience and feelings the other person is
going through.
Each thought and each word has a form, an etheric form.
Sunday That is why when a room is happy and you walk into it,
LESSON 203
you feel joyous. When a house is sad and you walk into
Thoughts
Have Power it, you can sense that misery, for every thought you think
and every word you speak takes form and shape in the
ether. ¶Prâ∫a is mental energy. When you use mental energy, you make
mental creations. When you use physical energy, you can create physi-
cally. With your hands, you can build a house, you can cook a dinner;
you can do many things with your physical energy and your physical
body. With your mind, through the use of prâ∫a, you can also create for
yourself. How many understand the meaning of the words prâ∫a and
mental energy? You would be surprised at the power that you have in your
mind as an individual. ¶Every positive thought that you have manifests
in a subtle world and remains there for the length of time that it took
you to generate it. Everything that you make with your physical energy
on the physical plane will remain on the physical plane in physical form
according to the time and effort that you took to generate it. If you have
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done a very fine job, it may remain over a hundred years. If you didn’t put
much effort into it, it will not remain long on the physical plane. ¶Let’s
think about the mental world for a moment. Suppose you are generating a
thought for something good to happen, a positive circumstance you want
to come your way. You concentrate upon it, and you generate it and you
make the picture just the way you want to see it. Then you are happy and
joyous. You feel as if it has already happened. Now suppose you drop into
a lower state of consciousness. You begin to gossip. You use foul language
and backbite. You lose control of your mind. You don’t put your intui-
tive mind first. You put the instinctive mind first and begin to think: “Oh,
that can’t possibly happen because of this…” or “I can’t possibly do this
because of that.…” You are building a negative pattern of fear, worry and
doubt that covers up the beautiful picture and snuffs it out. Then, when
it does not manifest, you say: “My prayers were not answered. God was
too busy helping somebody else. He couldn’t help me.” But you were the
creator. You preserved it on the mental plane for as long as you could,
and without knowing it you destroyed it before it manifested physically.
That is one way you can go on through life, as so many, many Hindus
do—blaming others for their own self-created failures. ¶Do you know
what all of that is? Confusion of the mind! So, we have two alternatives:
confusion or control. And we have all the spiritual laws to follow that help
you control your mind. When the external mind is controlled, then the
spirit or inner being, the Reality of you, can shine forth. Shall we say that a
confused mind is like a cloud the sun cannot shine through? A controlled
mind is like clear ether which the radiance of the sun can shine through.
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 Utkocha, Dushkarma Dhanam
otk[aeca duSk[ma*Danama<

Bribery and
Bad Money

O Lord, lead us along the right path to prosperity.

O God, You know all our deeds. Take from us our
deceitful sin. To you, then, we shall offer our prayers.
Íukla Yajur Veda, Èßa Upanishad, 18. ve, p. 831
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My satguru, the venerable Sage Yogaswami, discrimi-

Monday nated between good money and bad money and taught
LESSON 204
us all this lesson. Money coming from dharma’s hon-
Good Money,
Bad Money est labor was precious to him to receive, and he used it
wisely in promoting the mission of the mission of his
lineage. Money coming from adharmic activities was distasteful to him.
He warned that such gifts would, when spent, bring the demons from the
Narakaloka into the sanctum sanctorum of our shrines to create havoc in
the minds of devotees. This has been the unsought reward for receiving
bad money—funds gained through ill-gotten means—for many âßra-
mas this last century. One day a rich merchant came to Yogaswami’s hut
with a big silver tray piled with gold coins and other wealth. Yogaswami,
knowing the man made his money in wrongful ways, kicked the tray on
the ground and sent him away without accepting it. ¶Yes, there is such a
thing as good and bad money, because after all, money is energy. Why is
money energy? Money gives energy. Money is power. Money is a form of
prâ∫a, captured in paper, in silver and most importantly in gold. Actually,
gold is the real money, the basis of all paper money, coinage, checks and
bank drafts. All the money in the world once fluctuated in value accord-
ing to the price of gold. Mystically, if you have gold in your home or your
corporation—I mean real gold—your real wealth will increase according
to the quantity of gold that you have. ¶Good money is righteous money,
funds derived from a righteous source, earned by helping people, not
hurting people, serving people, not cheating them, making people happy,
fulfilling their needs. This is righteous money. Righteous money does
good things. When spent or invested, it yields right results that are long
lasting and will always give fruit and many seeds to grow with its interest
and dividends from the capital gains. On the contrary, bad money does
bad things—money earned through selling arms or drugs, taking bribes,
manipulating divorces, performing abortions, fraud, theft, riches gained
through a hundred dark and devious ways. Bad money issues from a
bad intent which precedes a wrongdoing for greed or profit. That is bad
money. When spent or invested, it can be expected to bring unexpected
negative consequences. Good money is suitable for building temples and
other institutions that do good for people. ¶Bad money is sometimes
Here we see examples of good money and bad money. Below, a father and his son are earning
an honest living running a juice shop in Europe. Above, two gamblers are at a casino, hoping to
make money at the slot machines, a form of legalized gambling in some regions.
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gifted to build temples or other social institutions, but often only to ease
the conscience of the person who committed sins to gain the money.
Nothing good will come of it. The institution will fail. The temple will be
a museum, its darßana nil. Its ßakti, though expected to be present, will
be nonexistent. Bad money provokes bad acts which are long lasting, and
it sours good acts within a short span of time in the lives of the people
who receive it. In 1991 I composed an aphorism to guide those who have
sought my opinion on this matter. It says, “Íiva’s devotees, knowing that
bad money is cursed and can never do good deeds, refuse funds gained
by fraud, bribery, theft, dealing arms or drugs, profiting from abortion
or divorce, and all dark, devious means.” ¶Some postulate that using bad
money for good purposes purifies it. That is a very unknowledgeable and
improper concept, because prâ∫a, which is money, cannot be transformed
so frivolously. Many among this group of misguided or naive individuals
have lived to witness their own destruction through the use of tainted
wealth. Also, this brings them into the illegality of laundering money.
Money cannot be laundered by religious institutions. Money cannot be
legally laundered by banks. Money cannot be laundered by individuals.
Further, we know that those who give ill-gotten money to a religious insti-
tution will subtly but aggressively seek to infiltrate, dilute and eventually
control the entire facility, including the swâmî, his monastic staff, mem-
bers and students. If bad money is routinely accepted in abundance and
depended upon, it will bring an avalanche of adharma leading to the
dissolution of the fellowships that have succumbed, after which a new
cycle would have to begin, of building back their fundamental policies to
dharma once again.
My own satguru set a noble example of living simply,
Tuesday overnighting only in the homes of disciples who live
LESSON 205
up to their vows, and accepting only good money. He
Refusing
Soiled Funds knew that accepting bad money brings in the asuras
and binds the receiver, the âßrama or institution to the
external world in a web of obligations. How does one know if he has
received bad money? When feelings of psychological obligation to the
giver arise. This feeling does not arise after receiving good money that
is given freely for God’s work. Bad money is given with strings and guilt
attached. ¶Our message to religious institutions, âßramas and colleges is:
Don’t take bad money. Look for good, or white, money, known in Sanskrit
as ßukladâna. Reject bad, or black, money, called k®ish∫adâna. If you don’t
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know where the money came from, then tactfully find out in some way.
How does the donor earn his living? Did the money come from perform-
ing abortions, from gambling, accepting bribes, adharmic law practices or
shady business dealings? Is it being given to ease the conscience? ¶Even
today’s election candidates examine the source of donations exceeding
US$10,000—investigating how the donor lives and how the money was

gotten—then either receive the gift wholeheartedly or turn it back. When

the source is secret, the source of gain is suspect. When the source is freely
divulged, it is freed from such apprehension. In the Devaloka, there are
devas, angels, who monitor carefully, twenty-four hours a day, the sources
of gain leading to wealth, because the prâ∫ic bonds are heavy for the
wrongdoer and his accomplices. ¶Imagine, for instance, an arms dealer
who buys his merchandise surreptitiously and then sells it, secretly or
in a store—shotguns and pistols, machine guns, grenades and missiles,
instruments of torture and death. Money from this enterprise invested
in a religious institution or educational institution or anything that is
doing good for people will eventually turn that institution sour, just like
pouring vinegar into milk. ¶The spiritual leader’s duty is to turn his or
her back to such a panderer of bad money and show him the door, just
as an honest politician would turn back election donations coming from
a subversive source, gained by hurtful practices, lest he suffer the cen-
sure of his constituency at a later time, which he hopes to avoid to hold
his office. A politician has to protect his reputation. The spiritual leader
will intuitively refuse bad money. He doesn’t need money. When money
comes, he does things. If it doesn’t come, he also does things, but in a dif-
ferent way, perhaps on a smaller scale. ¶In Reno, Nevada, for many years
the gambling casinos gave college scholarships to students at high schools.
Then there came a time of conscience among educators when they could
no longer accept these scholarships earned from gambling to send chil-
dren forward into higher studies. They did not feel in their heart, mind
and soul that it was right. Drawing from their example, we extend the
boundaries of religion to education and to the human conscience of right
conduct on this Earth. ¶Humans haven’t changed that much. Over 2,200
years ago, Saint Tiruvalluvar wrote in his Tirukural, perhaps the world’s
greatest ethical scripture, still sworn on in Indian courts of law in Tamil
Nadu: “A fortune amassed by fraud may appear to prosper but will all too
soon perish altogether. Wealth acquired without compassion and love is
to be cast off, not embraced. Protecting the country by wrongly garnered
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wealth is like preserving water in an unbaked clay pot” (283, 755, 660).
Let me tell you a true story. A young man is riding his
Wednesday motor scooter in busy Kuala Lumpur. His tail light is out
LESSON 206
and he knows it. Hearing a siren behind him, he slows
Three Kinds
Of Bribery and is pulled over by a motorcycle policeman. In Malay,
the officer informs him of the infraction, and pulls out
his ticket book, then indicates through well-known gestures that a small
bribe would take care of the matter. Heart pounding, palms sweating,
the boy musters up his courage and says, “Officer, are you asking me to
bribe you? I’m not paying you anything. What is your badge number?
Take me to your superior!” Visibly shaken and seeing that the youth is no
easy mark, the policeman spins around, mounts his bike and speeds away.
There was a bad feeling about this real-life incident. The cop knew he was
committing a crime. The youth was tempted to become the accomplice,
but resisted, sidestepping for the moment one of society’s most sinister
problems. ¶Yes, briber and bribed are bound together in their dishonest,
dark deed. Reluctance, resignation, efficiency, disdain—none of these sen-
timents relieve a person from the guilt, the ever-accumulating kukarma,
the bad karma, of the crime. There are three kinds of bribery. The first is
the most common—withholding services one has been paid to perform
until that additional, secret compensation is paid. The second kind is a
little more subtle. Favors—contracts, concessions, legal immunity, etc.—
are given to those who pay a bribe in cash or kind. The briber offers
money, saying, “I am giving you this money, and this is what you can do
for me,” and if the party accepts it, that is what he must do. It’s a purchase
of secret, unauthorized use of influence, position or authority. The third
form of bribery, even more subtle, is to provide a paid service and then
exact an additional reward. This is, however, the most easily detected of all,
because when asked for further service, it will be delayed or denied—that
is, if the gift expected after the first service was performed was not given
or was not large enough. ¶Bribe comes from an Old French word, mean-
ing a morsel of bread given to a beggar. Says Webster’s Dictionary, a bribe
is “1) anything, especially money, given or promised to induce a person to
do something illegal or wrong; 2) anything given or promised to induce a
person to do something against his or her wishes.” Bribery money when
received, in cash or kind, is bad money, because it is wrongly gotten—in
whatever of the three ways—by psychological force, the arousal of greed
or by devious coercion. ¶In many countries, bribery has become a way
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of life. Bribes are demanded, and usually paid, for most anything, from
getting a contract signed to buying a train ticket. A prominent politician
in India told me he finds it impossible, simply impossible, to get any-
thing done without it. Most, but not everyone, would agree. A successful,
sophisticated Bangalore businesswoman, now in her forties, swears she
has never, ever paid a bribe in her entire life.
Spiritual people and institutions sometimes feel com-
Thursday pelled to accept or pay bribes because the alternative
LESSON 207
is so frustrating or because their sense of mission is so
Bribery Is
Corruption strong, and they want it to go forward at all costs. Still,
it must be remembered that it is not only what you do
that is important, but how you do it. Bad money cannot be purified by
spending it on good projects. Rather, bad money sours and fails them.
¶In our spiritual fellowship, we have a rule that we do not engage in brib-
ery, even when it means great sacrifice. In our efforts to carve a granite
temple in Bangalore to be shipped to Hawaii—for which we established
a village of a hundred workers and their families—we have been called
upon time and time again to hand over a bribe. Yes, even a giant project
can be hampered by a small bribe. We had to ask ourselves, shall we pay
the petty pittance to keep the electricity on and the phones working? It
was hard sometimes not to submit, but now it is well known that we don’t
pay, and the bribe takers no longer ask. One previous bribe seeker actu-
ally apologized for his earlier demands. ¶By neither accepting nor paying
bribes, my devotees are telling the community that bribery is unaccept-
able and ultimately unnecessary. If enough people follow this principle
in any society, then bribery will go away. If enough people do not, then
bribery becomes the accepted way of doing business, and everyone will
accept bribes as a source of additional income, and pay bribes as a means
of getting things done. The acceptance of a bribe is an affirmation of
the practice. Every time a family, an individual, a community, a nation
disavows or rejects the practice of bribery, then bribery is diminished.
To walk away from a bribe, to reject a bribe or to refuse to pay is to fulfill
Hindu Dharma. ¶Where does bribery begin? The same place as every-
thing else—at home, often at a young age. Mothers bribe their children
to behave and earn good grades. Fathers bribe youths to marry accord-
ing to their race and financial position. Dowry, we could say, is another
form of bribery. If it’s not given, the marriage does not take place. If it
were really a gift, that would not be the case. Those who take bribes and
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pay bribes raise a corrupt family. ¶Mercy, through personal prâyaßchitta,

sincere penance, can help relieve the bad karma, but that, too, is all for
naught unless one stops the practice. The power of decision rests on the
character of each person in the family. If that power is used rightly, the
kukarmas clear. If not, the family and all members go down and down
and down, for bribery is stealing and being stolen from. It is similar to
walking into someone’s house late at night, opening their cash box and
taking money. Bribery has the same emotional and psychological impact.
He who pays a bribe is an accomplice to the person who demands it. He
who accepts a bribe proffered to buy his favors is likewise bound to his
crafty benefactor. There are two criminals in each case, he who accepts
and he who pays. Inwardly, karmically, astrally, they are bound together
as one. Those who pay bribes for the sake of efficiency or accept gifts
without examining the intent may deem themselves innocent, but they
are not. Karmic law spares no one.
Bribery breeds an educated criminal generation. It blocks
Friday the free flow of business. Bribery disrupts positive proj-
LESSON 208
ects. Bribery diverts creative energies to worries about
Steps Against
Bribery who, if not paid, will disrupt the progress, cut the phone
lines, turn off the electric power or otherwise cause delay
after delay after delay. Bribery is devastating to a nation’s economy. No
one knows how much anything really costs; and since it is illegal money,
black money, the recipients don’t pay taxes on it. Two sets of books have to
be kept. Honest companies are put out of business by dishonest competi-
tors who give and accept bribes. ¶What can be done about bribery? On
the governmental level, there are instructive examples from recent history.
Twenty years ago in America, undercover FBI agents approached various
politicians and offered them bribes to help a fictitious Arab company
gain American business. A few politicians accepted the bribes and quickly
found themselves jailed. Every politician got the message. A few years ago,
New Orleans hired a new police chief to reform its notoriously corrupt
police force. First he demanded and got the officers’ pay doubled. Then
he arrested, prosecuted and fired the next sixty-five officers caught taking
bribes. The rest, it’s said, no longer risk their now well-paying careers for
bribe money. ¶Internationally, only the United States has a law prevent-
ing its companies from bribing foreign officials. As far as we know, other
countries—including all of Europe—have refused to pass similar statutes
on the excuse that it would put their business communities at a disad-
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vantage. In fact, the bribes so paid are even tax-deductible. Yet, the same
companies’ paying a bribe in their own country can result in prosecution.
One organization, Transparency International in Berlin, is attempting to
end this global double standard which makes it so difficult for individual
countries to root out the scourge of bribery. ¶From a psychological point
of view, bribery is a criminal consciousness of deceit, cheating, on the
darker side of life. Guilt is always involved, secrecy, fear of being caught
for extorting funds, fear of what might happen if bribes are not paid and
worry over obligations incurred by accepting bribes. Such surreptitious
dealings create an erosion of trust in society. ¶Bribery is basically stealing
through intimidation. The able-bodied beggar demanding alms on the
street is no different from the able-bodied businessman who withholds
his services. The beggar shirks his legitimate work, and the businessman
uses his position to exact payments not due. Both reap bad karma that
will reflect on every generation in the future and a few in the past.
A healthy society is based on honesty, openness, love,
Saturday trust and goodwill. It is at the grass roots level, in the
LESSON 209
home, in schools, in the marketplace, office and factory,
Bribery and
Tipping that bribery should first be stopped. Hindu Dharma is
the law enforcer. Simply don’t bribe. It really is OK not
to bribe. More and more, not bribing is becoming acceptable behavior.
It is difficult to step back from this practice, but you can live your whole
life and not pay a one rupee bribe, even in a place where everyone pays
bribes. ¶One might wonder if tipping is a form of bribery. It is legal in
nearly every country to tip a waiter, busboy, carhop, valet, cab driver, mai-
tre d’, and no one has ever been arrested and prosecuted for giving such a
gratuity. True, a tip is expected, but services can’t be withheld if it is not
given, lest the individual lose his or her job. Giving tips, or gratuities, is
not bribery when it is the custom for paying waiters in restaurants, bell
boys in hotels and valets who will get your car from the parking lot and
drive it up to the door. Tips are expected, and because they are receiving
tips, their salary from the hotel or restaurant is often very low. The giving
of gratuities is an accepted custom. But the employees would be bound by
the hotel or restaurant to perform the same service even if tips were not
forthcoming. This is not to be extended to areas where this custom does
not exist, such as to paid government servants who have a salary much
higher than those who live by being tipped. ¶Similarly, the giving of gifts
on auspicious occasions to anyone who has been of service is spreading
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goodwill, but is not expected and is completely voluntary. The service

would not diminish if the gifts were not given. Our giving gifts to the ßil-
pis several times a year at our temple worksite in Bangalore is an example.
Even if we did not honor our carvers by a gift, they would still have to do
their work up to specifications. This is the pure vibration we want to work
into Iraivan Temple—the vibration of dharma, not the vibration of giv-
ing something to someone for fear they will in the future withhold their
services or do us some harm. ¶There are many other wrongs, too, such as
prostitution, paying for sex—that’s sex without love, which is lust—that
create kukarmas, that are also against the law. Then, we might ask, why
don’t some countries in which bribery and prostitution have become part
of the national culture make these practices legal, at least to protect the
lawmakers, who would then pass legislation to control them? ¶There is
small time bribery and big time bribery. In the Western world, bribery
is big time. It’s at the top, involving millions of dollars. We’ve seen cases
where a senator will put his family, his reputation or his life in jeopardy
by accepting a $10,000 bribe—which is about seven percent of his yearly
salary—and lose his office, lose his reputation. In India, bribery comes
down to a few pennies to facilitate the little chores of life. We have heard
of unspoken rules in different parts of India as to how bribery should be
done if you want to get anything done, even buying a train ticket. ¶Why is
it that people are willing to live in fear of being found out? Why is it that
politicians who accept great bribes often finally bribe their way out of the
situation with those who brought about their indictment? And why are
they caught, but maybe to siphon off some of the wealth that they had
garnered from bribery, which could be quite lucrative for law-enforcement
people? Even after their punishment, those who have become wealthy
through receiving bribes often maintain a higher standard of living than
they would have before they mastered the art of bribery.
Then there is bribery of children: “I’ll give you a sweet if
Sunday you do what I want you to do. I’ll take the sweet away if
LESSON 210
you don’t.” Some call this discipline, but true discipline
Bribery in
The Home is training and teaching, learning to uphold a known
rule. Anything else is punishment, which closes the lines
of communication between the elder and the child. The child has to be
clearly taught what the rules are and who is in charge. The child has to
know what he is going to get and not get, according to his or her mis-
deeds. But to bribe the child who has not been educated in this way, to
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awaken his desire for something and not give it to him, that is a form of
corruption. The child will carry that out into the community. He will
not be a good citizen, and his kukarma will reflect upon the family and
several generations back and several generations in the future. The blame
is upon the father and the mother, because children follow the example
of the parents. Bribing and beating go hand in hand. When it becomes
a way of life, children are bribed to behave, to get good grades, to go to
bed on time. ¶There is still another, even more insidious, form of brib-
ery that happens within the home. This is emotional bribery: “I shall be
unhappy unless you please me,” “I shall be happy to include you in my
will if you do what I want, but if you don’t, you’re out of my will.” That
is bribery. It inhibits the freedom of the individual. “Marry this girl and
you will please your family. After all we have done for you, you have to
marry the way we want you to marry, and you have to give up the girl
you really, really love.” Even if the boy has been having an affair with that
girl, even if she is pregnant, his family will bribe him to marry someone
else by threatening exclusion from the family, disrespect and the ruin
of his name in the community. Oh, that is a favorite form of bribery: “I
shall blacken your name in the community, make up stories about your
character. I shall ruin your reputation. Your name will look like mud in
the minds of an ever-increasing group of people unless you buckle down
and do what we say.” That is a form of intimidation or blackmail that is
used quite often in today’s world. Blackmail is a kind of reverse bribery.
While a briber demands money to do something for you, a blackmailer
demands money to not do something against you. The blackmailer says,
“Give me what I want or I’ll expose the secrets I know about you.” This
demand for hush money is an ominous form of reverse bribery, but brib-
ery nonetheless. There is serious karma involved in all forms of bribery,
which are part of the negative culture which tears down a nation, which
tears down a community, which tears down a family, which the younger
generation, hopefully, will not put up with.
 Saˆga∫aka Yantra
sa\gaNak[yan}a

What about
Computers?

With earnest effort hold the senses in check.

Controlling the breath, regulate the vital activi-
ties. As a charioteer holds back his restive horses,
so does a persevering aspirant restrain his mind.
K®ishna Yajur Veda, Ívetâßvatara Upanishad, 2.9. upp, p. 192
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You have all met the new, cool, calculating computer

Monday generation, about which I have an observation. And it is
LESSON 211
truly the human right of every soul on the planet, at this
The Computer
Generation time in the Kali Yuga, to make observations and com-
ment on them. Furthermore, it is the duty of concerned
men and women to speak out on what they observe, to thus reaffirm the
dharma. My observation is that learning from computers is taking youth
in the opposite direction from sampradâya, the imparting of wisdom per-
son to person, heart to heart, mind to mind, teacher to student, satguru to
ßishya. The teacher passes on not only information, but the mature refine-
ments of attitude and behavior through personal guidance and healthy
association. ¶Young people used to love and respect, honor and extol
their teachers. They would work to qualify to get into prestigious schools
and vie with one another for the privilege of sitting before an Einstein or
a Bose. Now they can buy advanced teachings on a CD or order them up
freely on the World Wide Web. Maybe soon they will be able to download
their diploma, to sign, frame and hang on the wall! ¶In 1993, Prodigy,
one of the largest producers of computer educational material, said that
300,000 of its two million online users are children. There they find ency-
clopedias, games, chat forums and interactive books and magazines, such
as NOVA, National Geographic and more. There are several “homework
helpers” that can access volumes of data at the click of a mouse. The
Software Publisher’s Association, a research group based in Washington,
D.C., says the market for CD-ROM educational software is skyrocket-
ing. For example, entranced before the computer, a child can explore
every inch of an eighteenth century warship, displayed in cross-sectional
views, meet the crew, study navigational tools and search for the young
stowaway hidden somewhere in the hull. ¶“What’s wrong with that?” you
might ask. In itself, nothing. I am not against computers. We have dozens
of them in our monasteries. My concern is that the student who learns
predominantly from the computer receives too little person-to-person
nourishment, and is not even obliged to express human feelings anymore.
The feelings of love and appreciation, respect and adulation, of thankful-
ness, acceptance and responsibility can all be suppressed or, worse, never
developed during the formative years of life. ¶Since the computer craze
A youth living in London is doing his weekly karma yoga on a computer. Outside his window,
with the Big Ben Clock Tower behind, a British couple greets the youth’s religious teacher, a
swâmî from Africa, who meditates here in the park.
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began, when Apple produced the Macintosh and Microsoft began mar-
keting software, I have observed the impact on youths of learning mainly
from computers rather than people. The outcome is a cool, calculating,
almost robotic individual with a blank look in his eyes. He can just turn
the computer off anytime and be the smartest one in the family. Does
anyone really yet know what registers in the objective and subjective mind
of a youth being educated by the computer, who spends nearly all of his
waking hours glued to a computer screen? Does anyone care?
A human teacher would know the student’s state of mind
Tuesday and special gifts or needs, and society would guide him.
LESSON 212
While teaching English, French, German or any of the
Robotic
Learning fourteen major languages of India, all the teacher’s good
qualities go into the student, enriching and blessing him,
along with the experience the teacher has gained through the years. When
the magic happens, a certain amount “rubs off,” and a life is transformed.
This is real education. This is training through sampradâya—people to
people, heart to heart, mind to mind, soul to soul. This is how it used to
be and how it still can be. ¶In a student-teacher relationship, the novice
must deal directly with a human, talk to a human, be with a human, and
love or hate this human, as the case may be, depending on the student’s
evolution or spiritual development, not to mention that teacher’s own
personal qualities. But school classes, from the lower grades to the highest
are tending to dispense with human contact by replacing humans with
machines. These are not just machines to write letters on, design build-
ings with or do the many other things this remarkable technology can
do, but machines of learning that do not have a heart, machines which
the child has total control over, machines which parents and teachers
sometimes use to subdue or occupy a child for hours, and thus simplify
their own duties. ¶That’s the big problem—the complete isolation. He
can turn it on. He can turn it off. He can disagree with what is being
taught or totally misunderstand, and no one ever knows. These children
are deprived of life’s most precious gift, the passing down of knowledge,
with respect and love for the knowledge imparted, at certain psychological
moments in a child’s life. These children are deprived of the fulfillment
gained by learning from a person with a heart, a person yearning to fulfill
dharma and pass on his knowledge and, most importantly, his knowing
earned through experience and his passion about the subject he ardently
wishes to convey to youthful minds. This can never, ever be programmed
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into any software on the Internet or burned into a CD-ROM. ¶The Infor-
mation Highway is an uncensored, unsupervised world. In all previous
methods of conveying knowledge to children, there was a responsible
adult involved, be it a teacher or librarian or parent. But the Internet’s
vast spectrum of information is equally available to every individual
with access—at last count hundreds of millions. Sadly, we are develop-
ing a generation—or two generations, for one is already established—of
heartless children, deprived of love: an unhugging, cool, calculating, com-
puter generation exposed to worldly sights that even most adults did not
encounter ten years ago. Where will it all lead? That is a question Hindu
families around the world are beginning to ask.
Nintendo—it’s a toy, but it’s not a game. Toys have real
Wednesday influence in shaping young minds and emotions, more
LESSON 213
than parents realize. When kids play in an open field or
Games
That Kill in the woods, they are experiencing nature and learn-
ing how to relate to natural things. So many messages
are going into their minds, so much information is being absorbed. It’s
very different when our kids spend their hours alone with popular video
games like Nintendo, which work within the subterranean stratum of
the subjective mind, aligning vâsanâs in the chitta to kill, kill, kill. ¶Nin-
tendo—it awakens the desires to succeed through intimidation and force.
Nintendo—it teaches kids that the world is full of enemies to be slayed,
opponents to be conquered, attackers to be attacked first. Nintendo—it
complements a strategy to develop a nation of terrorists within every
home that harbors this asuric mechanism. For those who don’t know,
Nintendo is a Japanese-produced video computer system that plays a vari-
ety of arcade-type games. And there are many other such games that you
can buy on CD-ROM or play interactively on the Internet. ¶To develop
sattvic youth for a brave new world, we have recently asked moms and
dads and the youths themselves to disarm themselves of toy guns and
knives, and of Nintendo and all other kinds of computerized killer games.
Among the families in our fellowship, this has been accomplished. Lots
of seven-year-old children have burned their guns and dismantled or
sold their Nintendos in the name of ahiμsâ, the dharmic principle of not
harming others—even in one’s mind, even in one’s dreams—physically,
mentally or emotionally. The big games, Nintendo and Genesis, and all
the similar computer and video games and toy guns and knives and can-
nons have been taken out of my followers’ homes and thrown into the
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garbage cans. ¶Instead of learning the “us-versus-them” world, our chil-

dren are learning about the “us-helping-them” world of civilized society.
It took a little courage, because these games are amazingly popular, and
children become attached to them, even addicted. But our homes have all
been disarmed, with no more violence masquerading as fun. What about
your home? These video and computer games, as well as toy guns and
knives and other weapons of death and destruction, educate children that
this is the way to live on planet Earth. They learn that to solve a problem,
it’s “bang, bang, bang, you’re dead.” You don’t have to reason with anyone,
negotiate, compromise or use any form of intelligence. “Bang, bang, bang,
you’re dead” solves the problem. Is that what we want them to learn?
Playing like this hour after hour teaches children that life is cheap, mean-
ingless. Those with the bang-bang-you’re-dead subconscious mind, how
will they ever learn that life is precious? How will we ever teach them that
living with asuras is different from living with Íiva?
The subconscious mind consists of all of our memory
Thursday patterns. Especially potent are those that are bound to
LESSON 214
emotions. It is a rather dumb state, for it records and
War Toys
And Real War holds only that which is put into it. These memory banks
are like a recordable CD or DVD, which for a baby freshly
born has nothing upon it at first. But with that first cry, the subconscious
is activated and begins to record all the impressions. Those that get there
first shape the experiences of later life. ¶Of course, there are positive and
creative computer games, but not that many. More are needed. Perhaps
there are among our readers programmers who could develop a series of
games based on dharma. That would be nice. In the meantime, we may
think a Nintendo game or a toy gun is harmless because it does not actu-
ally kill anybody. But what it does do is give permission to kill and makes
psychological preparations to kill, and that is very dangerous. Survival
and conquest by ruthless elimination of competitors become the inner
goals. As their vocabulary develops, little ones are speaking of invasion,
commandos, assault, combat, war, battle, destruction, using all the words
of hurtfulness and violence. No wonder they argue and fight with sisters
and brothers instead of getting along. That’s what they learned from their
heroes. ¶A Sri Lankan citizen told me a story that shows how war toys
and real-life conflicts are not unrelated. For generations there were no war
toys in the Hindu communities of northern and eastern Sri Lanka. But
when the ethnic clashes began in 1983, guns became popular among kids.
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They played soldier in the streets, like the big boys, and when they grew
up, moved on to real guns. Toy imports from Europe supplied the need,
and soon many homes had a toy gun collection. ¶When the Sinhalese
army moved through Tamil homes looking for hidden weapons, they
were sometimes fooled by the realistic plastic guns. This caused them
so much trouble, they took to beating the men of households that had
toy guns. Soon the toys became less popular. The world of toys and the
world of real war are not always separated. ¶Technology today, especially
computer technology, the Internet, can enhance everything you want to
do. It is not unlike the âkâßic memory banks of the inner world. Tuning
in to the Internet, you can find out almost anything you want to know
within a split second. We are communicating electronically and instanta-
neously with âßramas in the Himalayas and the jungles of South America.
It used to take a letter one month to arrive, and we would sometimes wait
two to three months to get a reply, if any ever came. Now we are com-
municating with Rishikesh, high in the Himalayas, and receiving e-mail
back within a day, sometimes within minutes. The e-media has enhanced
communication tremendously. ¶It has also enhanced pornography. It has
enhanced terrorism. It will enhance anything that you want. It is up to
you and your powers of decision to decide what you want to put into your
subconscious mind and live with, perhaps for the rest of your life. We are
not in the agricultural era anymore. We are in the technological age. We
are in the communication age. It’s the age of the mind, where the mind is
in technology, working through technology. We can’t change that. It’s not
going to go away. It is up to each individual to decide within himself how
he wants to use the technology available to him. ¶The computer is just
like the mind. It has memory, a certain amount of reasoning ability, a cer-
tain motivation. But it doesn’t have the controls that you, as a human, are
able to exert within yourself, such as willpower and the power of viveka,
discrimination, which is so central to our religious tenets. Therefore, ask
yourself, what is spirituality to you? What is important to you? What do
you want to impress in your inner mind to perhaps manifest in this or
your next life? You can use these tools to enhance what is important to
you, and thereby benefit not only your own life but the lives of others.
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http://www.hinduismtoday.com/ No, that’s not a typo-

Friday graphical error or a foreign language. It’s HINDUISM
LESSON 215
TODAY’S World Wide Web address. If you have access to
The Web’s
Vast Potential a computer, you can read our Hindu family magazine
from any of Earth’s hundreds of millions of Internet
nodes, for free. True, you would not get all those wonderful photos or art,
but the text is there for anyone searching the net for dharma. Years ago,
before the Internet really took off, I meditated on what it would mean for
Sanâtana Dharma and could see a time when Hindus would all be con-
nected on the Internet. An âßrama in Fiji could download explanations
for saμskâras. A yoga society in Orissa would be able to locate graphical
information about chakras for a public slide show. A pilgrim could call
up a home page with all the sacred sites, temples, tîrthas and âßramas his
family can visit on their way back to Bhârat, complete with maps, train
schedules and cost of A/C rooms. I saw more, much more. A pañchân-
gam, sacred Hindu calendar, we all use together, would be available, list-
ing the holy days and festivals. I noted that our own timeline of Hindu
history, from Hinduism’s Contemporary Catechism, was already on the
Net. It has stirred historians to write us many letters and discuss the new
way India’s history is being understood. Even now you can access it and
search for when Ramakrishna was born, when the Vedas were written
down or when South Indian Chola kings set sail for Indonesia. ¶I foresaw
interactive courses. A teacher in South Africa could download wonder-
ful resources to enrich the lessons she prepares for her students—photos,
maps, Vedic verses, illustrations and sounds, all the things that interest
children. How about an encyclopedia of Hinduism online? How about a
library of dharma graphics which anyone could log onto, find that perfect
piece of art for illustrating a brochure, download it and never leave their
desk? The possibilities are endless. ¶Say your daughter just had a new
baby and you want a special name. What to do? Search for Hindu names
on the Net, through thousands of names on numerous sites, for the per-
fect name, with the meaning and the right pronunciation. Need a good
time to start a business, sign an important contract or leave on a trip? Just
call up the WWW home page on astrology for a computer analysis of the
auspicious moment.
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The World Wide Web is difficult to say fast, all those w’s
Saturday one after another. It comes out “wurlwyewep.” The pros
LESSON 216
just call it the Web. But what is it? I have been learning a
Hinduism
On the Net little about the Web. It took me a while to get the Inter-
net connection on my Power Macintosh working right,
and the monks had to install some special software for me. But soon I was
out there on the Infobahn, in the slow lane. I found that the Web is the
first user-friendly, interactive global information medium. It extends any
individual’s reach, facilitating everything from the sharing of information
to finding it. Soon, we hope, all the religionists of the Global Forum for
Human Survival and Parliament of World Religions will communicate
their thoughts, programs and knowledge on the Web. I remember when
in Moscow and Rio de Janiero, at Global Forum gatherings of political
and religious leaders, the former US Vice President Al Gore unveiled his
vision to expand the Internet, previously only available to the government
and universities, into an Information Highway to tie the world together.
Congratulations, Mr. Gore. Just three years later your vision of a digital
superhighway adds four new users every minute, and we are among them.
¶From HINDUISM TODAY’s home page, by a click of a button you can bring
up a page that allows you to write an instant, postage-free letter to the
editor. Another click sends you into the vastness of cyberspace. It’s that
easy, and easy to get lost, too. Give it a try. They say the Web has changed
things completely. The old Internet was OK for physicists, but it was an
unfriendly, type-only, black-and-white technical world. The Web added
images, color, a variety of typefaces, pictures, designs, animation and but-
tons that lead to the next destination. Now it’s everybody’s tool. Click
on a button and go to a home page of Vedic verses in Bangalore. Click
a button there about astrology and suddenly you’re in San Francisco or
browsing a London database on âyurveda. Click again and you’re reading
a page on Sanskrit studies in Durban. It’s called hyperlinking. I learned
how to make bookmarks yesterday—links to connections you have made,
kept by a program in case you want to return but don’t recall the address.
Just click and you’re there again. Easy. Another nice thing is the Web is so
democratic. Whether you are Birla Pvt. Ltd., IBM or Mrs. Bhatt, a poetess
from Pune, everyone is equal on the Web. ¶Electronic mail is like having
the post office in your house. Messages come and go through the phone
lines and can be read almost immediately anywhere in the world. Our
institutions use the Web to connect the missions we oversee in several
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countries. We put new information on the home page in Hawaii, and

members in Mauritius, India, Malaysia, Singapore, Sri Lanka or Germany
can access it instantly. Not only that, it’s nearly free. Most of those big fax
and phone bills are gone. Hindu institutions are working hard to upgrade
to the Web, driven by an amazing group of Hindu engineers who have
become a driving force in the Internet world. These cyberspace networks
are all interconnected, but totally disorganized and decentralized, just like
Hinduism, so everyone will feel at home there! Let’s meet on the “wurlw-
yewep” and share our experience, vision and tools. ¶The editor of a Jain
magazine in London once asked, “Gurudeva, how do you feel about using
all this modern technology to promote religion?” I said, we marvel at our
ancient handwritten scriptures. The stylus and the olai leaf were modern
technology at one point in time, the pen and paper at another, as was the
old typewriter at yet another point in time. Now we have computers and
the Internet—modern technology capable of bringing the spiritual beings
and all religious people of the world closely together wherever they live.
This one thing the typewriter could not do, the pen and paper could not
do, the stylus and olai leaf did not do.
Building up the spiritual vibration in the home requires
Sunday a control of the computers. Here at our Íaivite Hindu
LESSON 217
monastery in Hawaii, all of the monastics have a com-
Harnessing
Technology puter. When they take their vows, they are given their
robes, their beads, their staff of tapas and their Macin-
tosh! This enables us to serve the very best that we can from our tiny little
island. At this âßrama we look at our technology as our tools. We control
these tools. They do not control us. We use these tools to enhance our
religious work, to amplify the Sanâtana Dharma and bring it out into the
Western world and throughout the world through written publications
and on the Internet. Our tools do not dominate our life. We turn them on
at a certain time. We turn them off at a certain time. At twelve noon they
are turned off and not turned on again until 3:00pm. At 6:30pm, they’re
turned off again and not turned on until after worship and intense guided
meditation the next morning. On retreat days—two days each week—we
don’t use them at all, except possibly for an hour on rare occasions and
only for very important things. What does this do? It allows everyone to
talk with everyone else, to communicate, to share, to appreciate each other,
to work together for the good of all. It allows us to live a balanced life, a
human life in which the spirit within us can shine through and we have
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time to enjoy the sunset on our 459-acre spiritual sanctuary on the Gar-
den Island of Kauai, to listen to the song of a bird, to meditate and enjoy
the company of one another, even in this technological age. ¶Perhaps the
most prevalent electronic media is television. A family watching television
together is a togetherness, provided the program is a wholesome choice
that everyone enjoys. You can laugh and talk together and discuss what
you watched afterwards. But there should be an afterwards and a before.
That balances the mesmerizing capacity of television. Television shouldn’t
consume all of the family’s time. Before the TV is turned on in the eve-
ning, the family should sit together, talk about the day, acknowledge or
praise each other and mutually decide what will be viewed. Afterwards,
some time should be taken to discuss what was watched and to explain
it to the children, especially if they are young, allowing them to partake
of the wisdom of the parents. Especially if they see a program you don’t
approve of, sit them down afterwards and talk it over with them, discuss
the values portrayed in relation to our Íaivite values. Let them be aware
of other points of view. This is your duty. ¶Treat the television like you
would going to a movie: the whole family gets in the car as if they are
going to a big event. They drive to the movie house, buy the tickets, some
popcorn and soda, have a wonderful time and come home and enjoy one
another’s company. ¶Children should not be allowed to watch TV con-
stantly, but made to live a balanced life that includes exercise, games and
outdoor activities. Some children can and do watch TV for many hours
each day, filling their minds with all kinds of ideas and neglecting their
studies. It is up to the parents to set wise rules for TV and to enforce those
rules for the benefit of the child’s mind. One such wise rule is to limit
daily watching to one or two hours. ¶Use television if you wish, but use
it wisely and you will avoid these problems. Learn to control television.
Realize that it is a great instrument for entertainment, but a dangerous
instrument if it overcomes you, if it fills up your subconscious mind, if
it brings alien thoughts into your home and upsets your family. ¶While
TV has enormous negative potential, music does as well. The type of
music played in the home and the message it delivers is crucial. Ideally, it
should be beautiful Hindu music played on traditional instruments by
Íaiva souls. Great care should be exercised to exclude the crass music and
lyrics of lower consciousness. Whatever you listen to brings you into one
state of consciousness or another.
 Vyabhichâra, Lampa†atva
vyaiBacaar lampaqtva

Adultery and
Pornography

Sin of the mind, depart far away! Why do you utter

improper suggestions? Depart from this place! I do not
want you! Go to the trees and the forests! My mind
will remain here along with our homes and our cattle.
Atharva Veda 6.45.1. ve, p. 489
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There are three kinds of adultery: physical (the worst);

Monday emotional (very distressing); and mental (the secret
LESSON 218
kind). Physical adultery breaks up marriages, destroys
Controlling
The Forces homes and creates distraught children. Even if it is for-
given and the couple reunites, it is not forgotten. There
is always wondering, “Will it happen again? Did it happen last night?”
Emotional adultery is quite common. In the workaday world, husbands
often become more attached to their female employees and associates
than to their wives. Working wives become more emotionally attached to
their boss and fellow workers than to their husbands. It is understandable.
After all, she spends more waking hours with men at work than with her
husband. ¶I was asked, “How should a Hindu man relate to women in the
workplace and maintain his religious life?” Very carefully, very carefully.
It’s important that you remember that you have a path to follow and you
are in the workplace to do your job, be friendly to everyone equally, not
having favorites nor any likes or dislikes. Behavior should be professional.
Professional behavior is detached behavior yet friendly behavior. The
Tirukural reminds us, “The chivalry that does not look upon another’s
wife is not mere virtue—it is saintly conduct” (148). ¶Mental adultery—
that’s the secret culprit. Who knows what anyone is thinking? But the
feeling is one of drifting away into a fantasy world, of deciding to become
or not become emotionally or physically involved with someone other
than one’s spouse. ¶But most devastating, most insidiously devastating,
is mental adultery through pornography. The visualizations, the fantasies,
the changes in sexual habits it produces and the secrecy all bundled into
one creates a distance between spouses, unless of course they are enjoying
the same pornographic episodes. A verse in the Atharva Veda implores,
“Sin of the mind, depart far away! Why do you utter improper sugges-
tions? Depart from this place! I do not want you! Go to the trees and the
forests! My mind will remain here along with our homes and our cattle”
(6.45.1. ve, p. 489). It is hard to believe such verses were composed thou-
sands of years ago. Human problems haven’t changed that much, have
they? ¶The Sanâtana Dharma is the oldest religion in the world. There-
fore, its followers are the oldest people in the world, having fully explored
sex (the Kâma Sûtra is the oldest known erotic text) and learned how to
We are in Singapore, as the lion monument shows, where a wife has just come from her garden
with a basket of vegetables. Returning earlier than expected, she is hurt and shocked to see a
strange woman leaving her house and her husband waving good-bye to his mistress.
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control it; established a system of sanctified marriages and found out how
to keep interpersonal relations going unhindered. India’s culture spread
all through Asia, and because of it one rarely sees any affection shown in
public—kissing, hugging, hand-holding, touching or feeling. One might
wonder how such a large population can be accounted for! ¶Hindus know
that the sexual force is an energy, either under control or out of control.
When controlled, it creates peace, well-being and health and provides a
mental, emotional, physical balance. When out of control, just the oppo-
site is the case: confusion, secrecy, stress, fear of discovery, lingering guilt,
which creates misunderstandings and unresolvable situations.
Adultery is in the news today, not only in national but
Tuesday also international scandals. Television plots give permis-
LESSON 219
sion for “sneaking around.” It is not uncommon, and
The Psychic
Ties of Intimacy many don’t give it a thought, for husbands to visit “ladies
of pleasure” and pay for their services during their wife’s
monthly retreat or many months of pregnancy—and, of course, on busi-
ness trips. Yes, those business trips! ¶The South Indian ethical masterpiece,
Tirukural, advises, “Among those who stand outside virtue, there is no
greater fool than he who stands with a lustful heart outside another’s gate.
Hatred, sin, fear and disgrace—these four will never abandon one who
commits adultery” (142, 146). ¶The adulteress has a karma to bear that
affects many generations of her relatives and friends, for she is psychically
connected to every man with whom she has had intercourse. A mystic
could see a fog-like psychic tube connecting their astral bodies that will
not disintegrate for many years. The adulteress may have many of these
tubes, especially if she is a woman for hire. A man is connected in the
same way to all women he has been with. It is through these psychic tubes,
which are like the umbilical cord connecting a baby to its mother, that the
energies flow, and the karmas as well—good, bad and mixed. ¶A husband
and wife who were both virgins at marriage have only a singular psychic
tube through which energies pass between them. If their relationship is
pure and they are intellectually and emotionally compatible, they auto-
matically control their karmas of dharma, artha, kâma and moksha. Their
children are lovingly raised, because they are never entangled in family
feuding. There is no fight involved, because no intruder has established a
new psychic umbilical cord with either spouse, which would cause disrup-
tion between them and impending havoc to the children. ¶Once an astral-
psychic tube is established between a man and a woman through sexual
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encounters, it becomes a telepathic channel, conveying thoughts, feelings

and emotions. This is an important connection for married couples, tying
them intimately together. Those who are married and stay faithful to their
life companions know that it is possible to feel the spouse’s moods and
emotions and even read his or her thoughts, all of which are conveyed
through this psychic laser beam or subtle astral prâ∫ic channel. For those
who have had sexual encounters with several of the opposite sex, the
psychic connections become confusing. Small wonder they experience
stress of which the cause eludes even the best psychiatrists. It would be
like watching four, five or more TV programs at the same time, all day
long and especially during the night.
Now imagine a married woman working with men in
Wednesday a hospital or an engineering firm and a husband work-
LESSON 220
ing as a computer programmer among women. Each
The Costs
Of Adultery is attracted to someone of the opposite sex, maybe
because of karmas from a past life. Their emotional
prâ∫as move out of their bodies and connect with their workmates. Com-
patibility is established. Talking and laughing together become easy. When
the “big happening” happens, as affairs so often do, the physical-mental-
emotional-prâ∫ic exchange of energies forms an astral tube (nâ∂î) which
connects the two for a period of at least twelve years. ¶Through this nâ∂î,
the information conveyed is as subtle as: she sneezes and he coughs; he
gets angry and she becomes pensive and sulks for no reason. Certainly no
high-minded telepathic communication is happening as it maybe once
did when the prâ∫as were just forming a connection. Now, because they
are psychically attached and pulling on each other in their secret affair,
they become antagonistic toward each other. That’s why they say sexual
intercourse outside wedlock ruins a relationship. They still have to work
in the same office together and attend the same meetings, which were
quite different when the flirting first began. Then when one, or both,
turns a roving eye toward someone else, a feeling of jealousy comes up,
and rejection. A good TV script, perhaps, but a disaster in real life. ¶Now
let’s think of the adulterer’s wife, at home doing her daily chores, taking
care of the children. How does she begin to feel? She becomes listless,
uninspired, as he draws on her energies to feed the adulteress. The home
becomes an empty place. She and the children are alone in a barracks,
between walls that do not hold in love and compassion and kindness.
¶Indeed, adultery is one of the great wreckers of human relationships.
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Don’t dismiss it as irrelevant on the spiritual path, the path to liberation,

or at least to getting a better birth in the next life. What is the healing
when adultery has happened? It is necessary to perform some kind of
penance that will sever the psychic tubes: maybe walking on fire or sleep-
ing on a bed of nails for three days and nights, or performing kavadi with
fifteen spears pierced through the flesh—three well-known public pen-
ances. One of Hinduism’s ancient lawbooks, the Manu Dharma Íâstra,
prescribes intense fasting, which in modern times would be fifteen to
thirty-one days, under professional care. In the absence of true reconcili-
ation, the best resolution is to live with the spouse like brother and sister
under vows of celibacy. Those who don’t do something to mitigate the
kukarmas and break the astral ties of adultery will suffer through the lives
of their children, who will follow the patterns that they secretly set. ¶Adul-
tery can be stopped on the mental plane. In fact, if it is not stopped there,
watch out. It can be stopped on the emotional plane. Husbands, beware
of secretaries more beautiful than your wife. Wives, beware of employers
who may be more exciting than your husband. Pornography adulterers,
you can turn off that computer and stop the pornography on the mental
plane. ¶Finally, beware of the siren, the professional seducer, who is there,
always there, when the wife is incapacitated or when the husband is on
a business trip. They appear in many forms. There is always a price to
pay. They may break up the marriage. Children may lose their mother or
father. Guilt supersedes and far outlasts all temporary pleasure. Fidelity
and infidelity are part of the human experience. The choice is yours which
part of the human experience you want to experience.
Live and learn, live and learn. We learn something every
Thursday day, and it is not always what we want to learn. Some-
LESSON 221
times it is good for us to know, and other times not so
The Abyss of
Pornography good. It is difficult for us to speak of certain subjects.
They are too sensitive, taboo, delicate and private, and
so we avoid them. But it is necessary to understand and cope with these
matters; and if father and grandmother are not speaking about them, then
others must. Pornography is one. Not that it is bad in the sinful sense.
Hinduism is too tolerant of sexuality to make such pronouncements. We
can say it is neither good nor bad, but we can also say it does place big
obstacles in relationships, including unexplainable misunderstandings
leading to arguments. And it certainly can and does interfere with serious
spiritual effort and progress. Those on the path of sâdhana are admon-
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ished not to indulge in graphic, explicit sexual imagery, and if they are
involved already, to give it up, just give it up. The porno path is a down-
hill path to be avoided. It is ever enticing but never fulfilling. I recently
was told that pornography is addictive. I always understood that alcohol,
tobacco and certain drugs are addictive, but to find out that pornography
is addictive, that was something new for me. ¶Veterans on the porno path
say it is more fun, more stimulating, more exciting and more satisfying
than the wife waiting in the other room. This lonely life of low self-esteem
centered around pornography slowly becomes habitual, an addiction that
is difficult to overcome. Looking at the results in a porno addict’s life,
we can see that sex on the Internet is engrossing, all consuming. They
become reclusive, tight lipped, secretive, drawing away from humanity.
After a cybersex session and expenditure of energies, the voyeur becomes
sharp, even demanding, with his wife and the children. Guilt manifests in
numerous ways. It has been my observation that addicts develop chronic
lower back problems that cannot be cured by chiropractors or even be
rightly diagnosed. When the lust, which is sex without love, takes over, the
lower nature is unnaturally stimulated, not unlike a plague that has fallen
upon us. I am told that one-third of those who use the Internet do so to
view pornography, have phone sex and visit lewd chat rooms. “What is
this world coming to?” elders exclaim. Well, cybersex has arrived for adults,
young adults, children and, yes, some elders, too. ¶An even more serious
problem is with sons and daughters who become addicted to this kind
of vicarious stimulation. Most parents in the modern Hindu community
work and get two paychecks every payday. They have little or no time at
all to give to their children. The duty of watching after the children is
often delegated to a baby-sitter, and the older children baby-sit when
they are able. What goes on behind those closed doors, when the shades
are down and the computer is on, nobody knows, and nobody is telling.
“Don’t ask, don’t tell” seems to be the policy in most homes. Pornography
is a secret thing, but all that is seen is carried forward in the mind as vivid
images and then recreated in dreams and daytime fantasies long after the
computer has been turned off.
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During this past year, I have been delving into the lives
Friday of those among my international congregation who
LESSON 222
are addicted to blue movies, Internet sex sites and all
Seductive
Fantasies the artificial modern means of stimulation. To say the
least, interesting discoveries were made. The most hurt-
ful of them all is a mature and sexually experienced man, accustomed
to pornography, marrying an innocent virgin girl who absolutely can-
not perform the way he expects and who is then humiliated, beaten or
burned, divorced and traded in for another. This crisis is often blamed
on dowry. Or it’s claimed she really wasn’t a virgin, so he had to send her
back to her family. One would only know the truth about his actions from
an unabashed and totally honest confession by the young man. There
is much to be said for early marriage, before the boy is exposed to the
sexual fantasy world and all its temptations, before he develops habit pat-
terns that absolutely cannot be broken by the seven matrimonial steps
around the sacred fire. Parents should question their children’s personal
life before arranging a marriage. ¶Psychologically, pornography is closely
linked to adultery. Maybe the other woman is not warm flesh and bones,
but she is an unforgettable, reoccurring image within his mind, taking up
the mental real estate. She appears quite alive in his dreams—more beau-
tiful, more accomplished, more seductive, more enchanting, more allur-
ing than his wife. ¶Dad never shares his pornographic books, magazines
or World Wide Web addresses with his teenager, and neither does mom.
But the children are allowed to become addicted on their own, with free,
unchaperoned time at the keyboard. Does this make any sense to you? It
certainly doesn’t make sense to me.
I was told, and didn’t want to hear it, that pornogra-
Saturday phy is here and there and everywhere on the Internet.
LESSON 223
Its advocates rationalize that it helps boys and girls
Breaking the
Addiction establish their sexual identity even at a very young age.
That, to say the least, is a very much debatable point. It
robs them of their innocence, their childhood. That is for sure. Men and
women, men and men, women with women, trois, quatre, cinq, how to
kiss and how to do many other things—it’s all there. Question: do you
know what your children are doing at home when you are both at work or
out receiving an award for some social outreach beyond your family? Are
they surfing porno sites on the Web? Even in the highly ethical families
of my international congregation, this is sometimes happening. ¶In the
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old days, pornography was available in the big cities only. Separate areas
with sex shops and prostitutes were called red light districts, areas decent
people would never be seen in, and this alone kept pornography under
control. During the First World War, soldiers were made to feel at home
with posters of pin-up girls. These were girls in bathing suits, well cov-
ered up by today’s standards, but healthily endowed. In America before
the turn of the century, the skirts did not show the ankles. Then they did.
A big uproar! Moralists said showing ankles made women more sexually
attractive to the men. Then up and up went the skirts, to way above the
knees. Have you ever looked at knees? Some say they are the ugliest part
of the human body. ¶I could go on and on. My job as satguru to so many
souls in many countries is to break up addictions. It’s a dirty job, but
somebody has to do it. The phenomenon of porno addiction was very
new to me, and we needed a prâyaßchitta, penance. So, we asked Sri Sri Sri
Pramukhswami’s senior sâdhus the remedy to be used. His Swaminarayan
Fellowship is one of the strictest orders in the world, if not the strictest.
They said to look at a girl and follow her movement for five seconds as she
walks would require a fast for twenty-four hours. This is a self-imposed
penance among their 654 sâdhus which can be applied to pornography.
They well know, as our wise scriptures say, that sex manifests in eight
levels, each one leading to the next: fantasy, glorification, flirtation, lust-
ful glances, secret love talk, amorous longing, rendezvous and intercourse.
So if the brothers see someone not eating breakfast, lunch and dinner for
one or two days, they know he is trying to get control of the sexual forces
and transmute them into tireless creativity.
When your husband seems distant, preoccupied, not at
Sunday home even when he is there, sits pensively in his shrine
LESSON 224
room, won’t eat his dinner, breakfast or lunch for several
Regaining
Perspective days while consuming a sattvic diet of fruit and yogurt,
do not live under the illusion that he is going to become
a sâdhu. He may just be trying to break the cycle of his addiction to por-
nographic viewing, thinking and dreaming. Know that he still loves you,
and never, ever question him about his self-imposed sâdhana. Rather,
choose the best of fruits. And if you find all those unspeakable pictures
in the garbage can, along with a couple of X-rated videos and CDs, don’t
throw your findings up in his face, even if you are perturbed and angry
with him. That might become his excuse to again pursue his addiction
and perverse enjoyment, possibly without you in his life. ¶Pornography
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is not only on the Internet. In hotels, we are told, four- and five-star, there
are channels on cable TV that guests buy to watch hard- and soft-core
pornography. Is this fun for the whole family? No, it is not. The cable
channels on regular TV also bring all this into every home. It even flows
through the telephone. Watch the bills. They might be telling a story of
buying fantasy sex. ¶It may be argued that Hindus invented pornography,
considering the compromising images carved in certain ancient temples.
But this is out in the open. The whole family can stand and see—the
six-year-old, the ten-year-old, mom and dad. Recently the Spice Girls, a
famous band from the UK known for their sassy, sexy ways, planned to
perform in front of India’s Khajuraho Temple, known for its erotic imag-
ery. Hindu activists responded that this was unthinkable because “Eroti-
cism without spirituality is nothing but pornography.” ¶Defenders of free
expression say pornography is a disease-free diversion. There is no danger
of venereal disease. We might agree, but must say that the consequences
mentally are even more devastating, bringing “dis-ease” that no doctor
can cure, for which there are no quick remedies, no drugs. Enough said.
A word to the wise is sufficient, but a thousand to the fool is not quite
enough.
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Janma, Bhrû∫ahatyâ, Åtmahatyâ
janma B‰UNahtyaa Aatmahtyaa

Birth, Abortion
And Suicide

A slayer of an embryo is
like the slayer of a priest.
K®ish∫a Yajur Veda 6.5.10
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I am often asked, “What is the point at which a soul

Monday enters into a new incarnation?” Many advanced souls
LESSON 225
choose their parents long before conception, electing
Conception
And Birth to live in their homes, especially if the parents worship.
Especially if they were relatives in a past life, they want
to be born back into those families to work out their karmas. Therefore,
a soul may become connected with his mother-to-be long before con-
ception. An unreligious couple that does not seek the inner forces at the
moment of conception or slightly before, depending on wherever they
are—in a hospital or hotel—may attract and draw into the process of
incarnation anybody who is magnetized to them. I call this “potluck off
the astral plane,” even the lower astral. Someone could die in a hospital
and, in a motel three blocks down the street, be immediately conceived. If
the husband and wife had been fighting and arguing, this could magne-
tize a child that would not help the family, but instead would disrupt the
household. The difference between the two situations is that one family
is thinking of the Divine at the time of conception and the other is liv-
ing an ordinary life with no contact with the inner, spiritual forces. ¶In
either case, when the fetus starts to move in the womb, the soul simulta-
neously enters and occupies physical life, fully incarnates, or enters flesh.
That’s when the soul is totally “hooked in,” around three or four months.
It’s there before, hovering near the mother, but not fully connected. The
2,200-year-old Tirumantiram of Rishi Tirumular tells us in verses 453-455
that from the moment of conception a soul is associated with the grow-
ing physical form of the infant. He says that at the instant of conception,
as vital fluids are released and flow from both parents, the embryo is
formed; the twenty-five tattvas rush in and lie concealed within its third
eye, âjñâ chakra. At this point, life begins. For nine months, the embryo,
then fetus, develops physically, and the soul that will inhabit the physical
form gradually awakens to First-World embodied consciousness, becom-
ing more or less fully conscious of its new physical form at birth. ¶It is
good to understand that the soul exists in the macrocosm within the
microcosm. It has no need of traveling to or from; it is where its aware-
ness is. Outward forms, even physical bodies, do not depend on the soul’s
awareness being present constantly, just as you are not dead when you
A mother cradles her newborn infant moments after birth, holding her child close to her breast
with two midwives nearby. Hindu religious ethics hold that all life is sacred, and therefore
Hindu scriptures stand opposed to abortion.
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are asleep. As you might say, “I was not in my body,” after you find your-
self day dreaming, in the same sense, the soul is not constantly in the
infant body while it is growing in the womb. ¶The life of the body is odic,
and it runs on by itself. The spiritual energies and presence of the soul
dominating the physical, emotional and mental elements is what makes
us human. As Rishi Tirumular says, the moment life departs the body,
the cherished friend becomes merely a bad smell. The soul’s association
with the body—the “nine-holed bag of skin”—is life. It begins at concep-
tion and continues until the moment of death. In summary, the soul is
psychically connected and increasingly aware of its physical body in the
womb throughout the pregnancy, just as the soul is connected with the
physical body outside the womb until the moment of death. ¶At the time
of birth, the previous astral body is still there. The new astral body grows
within the child, and the old astral body is eventually sloughed off. It’s not
immediate. Like moving into a new house, it takes time to get settled. A
newborn baby sometimes looks like an old person right from the begin-
ning. This is because it has an old astral body. As the child gains its new
identity, a new astral body is formed from the i∂â of the mother and
the piˆgalâ of the father, and that development is enhanced by harmony
between the parents. It is a slow transition. ¶Just as the former physical
body finally disintegrates, its old astral body does also. It takes time for
these things to happen. For older souls it takes a shorter time. Still, it’s a
gradual transition. As one astral body develops, the other goes. Once in
Virginia City I inwardly saw a young girl running around dressed in the
old Western style clothing as an adult, and I knew that this was her old
astral body. A child may be able to remember who he was in his last life
until the old astral body dissipates.
The question of when human life begins is often asked
Tuesday with the modern-day controversy over abortion in mind.
LESSON 226
In speaking of this delicate subject with my devotees, I
When Does
Life Begin? have explained that conceiving a child is like planting a
seed in the ground. Although you may not see anything
for a while, there are life forces building which will one day appear before
your physical eyes, emerging out of the microcosm into the macrocosm,
or First World. If you interrupt or cut off that process, for whatever rea-
son, the consequences fall to you, according to the law of karma pro-
pounded by our Íaiva faith. ¶Abortion is definitely a concern, not only to
wives and daughters but to husbands as well. The aborted child, if allowed
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to live, may have become the husband’s heir, a preeminent member of

society, and tenderly cared for him and his wife in their elder years. But
they will never know and will always wonder, wonder. ¶Abortion is a
concern all over India, where it is legal. Doctors there and elsewhere have
developed an inexpensive version of the French “abortion pill.” Many
see this as a blessing for India’s population problem and a safer alterna-
tive to the thousands of surgical abortions performed each month, from
which many women die or suffer infections. It is perhaps a good time to
reflect on another side of this issue, on the karma and on dharma. ¶Wives
often please their husbands by aborting an unwanted girl—which she is
blamed for, when, in fact, it is the male sperm that determines the child’s
gender—but secretly wonder, “Who is she? Who was she in her past life?
Will she find another womb to incarnate through? Would she perhaps
have become a Florence Nightingale, Madame Curie or Anandamayi Ma,
a saint like Auvaiyar or Mirabai?” The subliminal subjective sadness that
abortion brings, with all the “maybes” that lie unanswered, in itself is a
sign from the soul that abortion is wrong; a new bad karma, a kukarma-
phala, has been created. It did not have to be, but it was. After all, the still,
small voice of the soul sometimes speaks loudly when a wrong is com-
mitted, and doesn’t stop talking until a counterbalancing pu∫ya, merit, is
achieved and solace sought for.
Built within the great Hindu religion is the process of
Wednesday atonement. What is the prâyaßchitta, the penance, to be
LESSON 227
Atonement done to atone for abortion? One that works very well in
For Abortion this modern age is to adopt a child, raise it with tender
loving care, believing this soul is akin to the aborted
soul who sought to take refuge within one’s family. This, then, atones.
Mahatma Gandhi utilized this principle when one day he counseled a
Hindu man who said he had slain a Muslim in revenge for his son’s killing
at the Muslim’s hands. He was deeply troubled about his crime. Gandhi
advised him to adopt and raise a Muslim boy as penance for the deed.
¶One becomes his own psychiatrist by utilizing the psychology that when
something has gone wrong, it has to be fixed. Why would it have to be
resolved? Because the persons involved don’t feel good about the action,
or karma. Resolution is not only mending and healing, it is eradicat-
ing the memory of the event—not actually a total forgetfulness, but the
emotions that come up with the memory are eradicated. This can be
done in various ways. Write to the person who was aborted and burn the
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letter in a fire. Explain how sorry you are, how miserable you are feeling,
and attest that you will never do it again. This is a great way to unload
a subconscious mind that is filled with guilt. ¶Accepting reincarnation,
punarjanma, we acknowledge souls existing in subtle form in astral bodies
waiting to incarnate through a womb. When that womb is disturbed, this
is recorded as a sense of eviction for the conscious fetus; and it has simi-
lar empty effects on the potential mother’s life and all those connected
to her in the family. It is a kukarma that affects all, is felt by all and must
be paid for by all. ¶So, we can see the consequences. This does not mean
that anyone is cursed or that there is any “mortal sin” involved. Hindu-
ism is a free-flowing religion. It threatens no everlasting hell; it preaches
no mortal sin, as a transgression that, if unexpiated in this one and only
life, would deprive the soul from closeness to God for eternity. Hinduism
accepts life the way it is, even its flaws and frailties. It teaches us the right
path but knows we may not always follow that path and thus gives the
remedies to correct whatever bothers us at every stage of the great jour-
ney to moksha, liberation from rebirth. ¶Abortion brings with it a karmic
force of destruction that will come back on the mother and father who
set it in motion. They may be denied a dwelling. They may be denied a
noble child. They may beget a child who will persecute them all the days
of their life. The parents, the abortionist and the nurses will suffer diffi-
culties in attaining another birth, perhaps by experiencing as many abor-
tions as they participated in while on Earth. The price is high for abortion,
much higher and more costly than giving birth, raising and educating the
child and establishing him or her in life. ¶Life must go on. It is said that
children often bring great fortune to their parents. They pay their own
way. Nevertheless, abortions do happen, have happened and will happen
in the future. Men and women who have participated, and their doctors
and nurses, are involved in the deep kukarmic consequences. The action’s
reaction, which is karma, must be resolved in some way for a peace of
mind, a quiescent state, to persist. The Hindu religion forbids abortion
because of the laws of personal dharma, social dharma and ahiμsâ—non-
injury to any living creature, physically, mentally or emotionally.
The Sanâtana Dharma states that abortion is sanctioned
Thursday only if the life of the mother would be lost by the birth
LESSON 228
of the child. Hindu scripture speaks strongly against the
Difficult
Issues deliberate attempt to kill a embryo/fetus, telling us life
starts at conception, when the astral body of the newborn
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child-to-be in the Antarloka is hovering over the bodies of the mother

and father. The Kaushîtaki Upanishad (3.1) counts abortion among such
heinous sins as killing one’s parents. The Atharva Veda (6.113.2) lists the
fetus slayer, brûnaghni, among the greatest of sinners. ¶Our research
among scholars and swâmîs tells us there is nothing within Hinduism
that opposes contraceptives or birth-control methods. However, if con-
ception occurs, the man and woman have already taken on the karmic
responsibility. It is dharma’s path to then open the doors of their hearts
to receive the incarnating soul. A miscarriage is something different—an
unintentional action of nature, shall we say. Try again and the same soul
may come through. ¶What about rape, incest, adultery or premarital
pregnancies? Mothers are the life-givers of the planet. Even in these most
terrible conditions, scripture gives no permission to injure, and certainly
not to kill. However, it would be a sin upon the child to be born and kill
his mother in the process. This is why abortion to save the life of the
mother is the one and only exception which tradition allows. Yet, even
that exception must not be resorted to lightly by some clever doctor or a
husband falsely saying, “She might die,” or “My wife’s life is in peril,” or
by a devious wife herself claiming, “I am going to die if I don’t abort this
child.” It must be an honest and competent diagnosis, not for the sake
of money, not for the sake of saving face in the community, not for the
sake of repudiating an infant girl. It must be an honest diagnosis made
by compassionate, dharmic doctors. ¶The central principles at work here
are: ahiμsâ, noninjury; the energy of God everywhere; the action of the
law of karma; the strict rules of dharma defined in our holy scriptures;
and the belief in reincarnation. These five make a Hindu a Hindu and
make not committing abortion an obvious decision.
Another very serious issue faced today in every society
Friday is suicide. The percentages are too high to ignore the
LESSON 229
problem that exists in far too many Hindu communi-
Questions
On Suicide ties. Well, we can advise, as many elders do: “Don’t kill
yourself.” After all, they became elders by avoiding such
extreme solutions. But do those who are all wrought up with emotion
and confusion listen to such advice? No. Many die needlessly at their own
hand. How selfish. How sad. But it is happening every day. Suicide does
not solve problems. It only magnifies future problems in the Antarloka—
the subtle, nonphysical astral world we live in before we incarnate—and
in the next life. Suicide only accelerates the intensity of karma, bringing
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a series of immediate lesser births and requiring several lives for the soul
to return to the evolutionary point that existed at the moment of suicide,
at which time the still existing karmic entanglement that brought on the
death must again be faced and resolved. Thus turns the slow wheel of
saμsâra. To gain a fine birth, one must live according to the natural laws
of dharma and live out the karma in this life positively and fully. ¶Suicide
is termed prâ∫atyâga in Sanskrit, “abandoning life force.” It is intention-
ally ending one’s own life through poisoning, drowning, burning, stab-
bing, jumping, shooting, etc. Suicide has traditionally been prohibited
in Hindu scripture because, being an abrupt escape from life, it creates
unseemly karma to be faced in the future. ¶However, in cases of termi-
nal disease or great disability, religious self-willed death through fasting,
prâyopaveßa, is sometimes permitted. Hinduism is not absolutely black
and white in this matter. Rather, it takes into account the broader picture.
How will this affect the soul? How will it affect humanity? How will it
affect one’s future incarnations? All that must be taken into account if
a wise and compassionate, right decision is to be made on so serious a
matter. ¶There are very few extraordinary situations in which self-willed
death is permitted. It is not enough that we are unhappy, disappointed,
going through a temporary anguish, such as loss of loved ones, a physi-
cal injury, a financial loss or the failure to pass an exam and the fear of
an angry thrashing from parents when they find out. That is called life.
It is not enough that we are filled with sorrow. None of these reasons is
enough to justify suicide, and thus it is in such cases an ignoble act. It is
not necessarily even enough we are suffering a serious, terminal illness,
one of the thousands that beset human beings on this planet.
In their love, their wisdom of the meaning and purpose of
Saturday life, the ®ishis, the divine lawmakers, provided an alterna-
LESSON 230
tive for extraordinary human suffering. They knew that
Expiring
By Fasting excruciating suffering with no possible end in view is not
conducive to spiritual progress and that it is best to have
a fully conscious death in a joyous, religious mood, meditating or listen-
ing to scripture and sacred songs to the Gods. So, the Vedic ®ishis gave, in
rare circumstances, the anguished embodied soul a way to systematically,
nobly and acceptably, even to loved ones, release itself from embodiment
through fasting. They knew, too, that life is more than a body, that the soul
is immortal, that a proper exit can, in fact, be elevating. Death for Hindus
is a most exalted human experience, a grand and important departure,
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mahâprasthâna. ¶The person making such a decision declares it publicly,

which allows for community regulation and distinguishes the act from
suicide committed privately in traumatic emotional states of anguish and
despair. Ancient lawgivers cited various stipulations: inability to perform
normal bodily purification; death appears imminent or the condition is
so bad that life’s pleasures are nil; and such extraordinary action must be
done under community regulation. ¶The gradual nature of prâyopaveßa
is a key factor distinguishing it from sudden suicide, svadehaghata, for
it allows time for the individual to settle all differences with others, to
ponder life and draw close to God, even to change his mind and resume
eating, as well as for loved ones to oversee his gradual exit from the physi-
cal world. One begins this highly ritualized practice by obtaining forgive-
ness and giving forgiveness. Next a formal vow, mahâvrata mara∫a, “great
vow of death,” is taken before one’s guru, following a full discussion of
all karmas of this life, especially confessing one’s wrongdoings fully and
openly. Thereafter, attention is focused on scripture and the guru’s noble
teachings. Meditation on the innermost, immortal Self becomes the full
focus as one gradually abstains from food. At the very end, as the soul
releases itself from the body, the sacred mantra is repeated as instructed
by the preceptor. ¶To leave the body in the right frame of mind, in the
right consciousness, through the highest possible chakra, is a key to spiri-
tual progress. The seers did not want unrelenting pain and hopelessness
to be the only possibilities facing a soul whose body was failing, whose
only experience was pain without reprieve. So they prescribed a kindly
way, a reasonable way, especially for the pain-riddled, disabled elderly and
the terminally diseased, to choose a righteous release. What wonderful
wisdom. No killer drugs. No violence. No involvement of another human
being, with all the karmic entanglements that inevitably produces. No
life-support systems. No loss of the family wealth for prolonged health
care or into the hands of unscrupulous doctors. No lapsing into uncon-
scious coma. No loss of dignity. No unbearable anguish. And no sudden
or impulsive decision—instead, a quiet, slow, natural exit from the body,
coupled with spiritual practices, with mantras and tantras, with scriptural
readings, deep meditation, reflection and listening to favorite religious
songs, with joyous release, with all affairs settled, with full self-awareness
and with recognition and support from friends and relations. But don’t
try it unless you meet up to the qualifications and, above all, have com-
munity support.
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From our cyberspace congregation through the Inter-

Sunday net came a question about the thirty-one-day period of
LESSON 231
seclusion that a family observes following a death or a
Thirty-One-
Day Retreats birth in the family. The traditional practice is to not go
to the temple, to not visit swâmîs and gurus, and to put
white cloth over the Deities in the shrine room. An understanding of
the esoterics behind traditions is very important in order to fulfill them.
When someone is born or dies, a door, to either the higher or lower inner
worlds, is opened for all who share a psychic bond, depending on where
the soul has come from or has gone. For thirty-one days a psychic passage-
way of vulnerability persists, which is particularly magnetic in instances
of death. “Still,” the devotee asked, “isn’t a birth especially a happy, sacred
event? If so, why can’t we go into the shrine room? Why can’t we go into
the temple?” ¶Yes, birth is a very sacred and happy event for the entire
family and should be regarded as such. However, it is also a very inner
time for the family. Inner worship, meditation, singing songs, doing japa
are totally acceptable. A primary reason behind this tradition is to protect
the health and well-being of the newborn. Secondly, it is observed so that
the baby can become adjusted to the big experience of birth, which is a
tremendous experience for the soul, to come into a physical body. During
this first month, the astral body of the child is getting accustomed to its
tiny new physical body and is experiencing leaving that body and reen-
tering that body. This is an important time of astral, physical adjustment
for the newly born. Often when a baby is crying uncontrollably, we can
assume that the astral body is out of the physical body, trying to reenter.
Also, to bring a newborn child during his first month to a temple would
be unwise, as everyone would crowd around, relatives and strangers and
friends, breathing into his face, and the baby could contract a disease.
Thirty-one days is given to keep the child protected from disease and
allow him or her full entrance into the physical body. ¶The observance
of the thirty-one day period immediately after a death in the family is
the same traditional practice: closing up the shrine room, putting white
cloth over all the Deity pictures and refraining from visiting temples, and
from approaching swâmîs or other holy persons. Cases of a birth and a
death are mystically very similar, in that the door of the inner world is
open. We want to help that door close, not keep it open by worshiping in
the shrine or going to the temple. Spiritual practice is curtailed to avoid
the pitfalls that could result in inadvertently drawing forth the energies
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of beings of the lower worlds rather than the higher. ¶Visiting the shrine
room at this time would also open the door for uncontrollable crying
by members of the family. Crying upsets the astral body of the departed
one, because he or she is still connected to the loved ones, and yet is
having happy experiences. So, during this particular time of thirty-one
days after a birth or death, slowly the inner doors of the higher world as
well as the lower worlds are allowed to close. ¶This does not restrict rela-
tives and friends from bringing food to the family, which is very helpful,
because the natural routine of the home has been disrupted. Especially
in the event of the death of a dear family member, there are many, many
things to do—funeral arrangements, disposing of clothing and belong-
ings, attending to wills—so it helps if the family is free from its usual
chores and religious duties. After the period of retreat, which does not
exclude, of course, personal meditation and japa, worshiping within, nor-
malcy may recommence.
 V®iddha
va&Î

Old and Gray

Attain your prime; then welcome old age, striving

by turns in the contest of life. May the Ordainer,
maker of good things, be pleased to grant you length
of days! Keen of mind and keen of sight, free from
sickness, free from sin, rich in children, may we see
you rise as a friend, O Sun, till a long life’s end!
Âig Veda 10.18.6 &10.37.7. ve, p. 609; 319
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Growing old. Let’s talk about it. There is a false concept

Monday that stops people from living the long, full life described
LESSON 232
in the Vedas. Old age is as much a state of mind as of
Some Truths
About Aging body. Today young people are taught that when you
become old and gray, you are in the way. Not a nice
thought! It is the older folk, the wiser folk, the experienced elders, who
have lived longer and therefore can see further, to whom youth should
be listening. But in our present times, young people have become the
spokesmen, and they are allowed to learn by their own mistakes. What
a perverted way to learn! They should be learning, if they ever become
open to it, from the mistakes of their elders, that is if elders are willing
to admit them. There is no excuse for ignorance. Yet, looking around, we
find it to be all pervasive, like the Hindu God, equally distributed all over
the world. ¶We are not getting old. True, the physical body does change.
It has done so from birth, but it has a future. It really does. We live in it
like we walk in our shoes. My satguru said, “Live in your body as loosely
as your wear your sandals.” It is not wise to accept the forebodings that
we are headed toward a doomsday, end of the world, end of the physical
body, absolute, total oblivion, and that is that. Think no more about it.
¶Aging is an interesting process. Even though we are told that all the cells
in the body change and renew themselves every three or four years, aging
can be really scary, especially for those who identify themselves as their
body. But not for those of us who know that we are not the body, we only
live in it. It is our Earth suit in which to function on this planet. In fact,
we don’t live in it twenty-four hours a day. At least eight hours, while we
are sleeping, we are living in our astral suit, traveling here and there in the
Devaloka. ¶When we correctly look at aged people, we look at minds that
have been developed year after year after year. We look at souls that have
matured because of their sojourn on Earth. We see them having gone
through many birth karmas, prârabdha karmas—those we bring with us
to live through—and prevailed. We look upon their situation as wonder-
ful and enlightening, their wisdom as useful and worthy to make part of
our lives. After all, if we hear from them, it is in our prârabdha karmas to
have had that knowledge passed on to us. Only the ignorant would object.
And they usually do. ¶The mind never gets old, though the brain may.
In the foreground the daughter lovingly sews a button on her aged father’s shirt, demonstrating
a dharmic way to care for aging family. Across the street we see another daughter wheeling her
feeble father into a retirement home where strangers will look after him.
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The mind never deteriorates. Consciousness was never born and never
dies. The mental body, which works through the astral body and the Earth
suit, does not age, does not get weak, as modern people think of aging, as
weakness, disability. It becomes stronger and stronger, more mature and
more expansive, as do the emotions if they are understood and controlled
from stage to stage. Age is not an obstacle; it is a legacy. The most senior
among us should have faith in the future, not be led to think that turn-
ing fifty or sixty or eighty is some morbid milestone. It’s not. Take heart.
When I met Satguru Yogaswami, spiritual king of Jaffna, he was seventy-
seven, still walking twenty miles a day, still meditating hours a day, and
he would go on dynamically for another fifteen years. Some die young, of
course. Sankara was just thirty-two and Vivekananda thirty-nine. Others
die old. Sri Chandrasekharendra passed on in his hundredth year, and we
recently read of the passing of a 116-year-old yogî. The US Census Bureau
reported that from 1900 to 2000, the number of people in the United
States 85 and over grew tenfold, to four million, while the overall popu-
lation grew less than fourfold. The bureau projects that the 85-and-over
population will exceed 13 million by 2040. The number of centenarians
is expected to grow to more than 834,000, from just 63,000 in 1900. And
many live surprisingly active and healthy lives, even remaining in their
careers after age 100.
There is no requirement to die at any established time,
Tuesday even if your doctor tells you that you have only two years
LESSON 233
to live, even if your astrologer predicts it, even if your
Secrets to
Longevity enemies hope for your early demise. I was told that in
Africa if a powerful medicine man tells a person he is
going to die, the fear and belief are so strong that within hours he suc-
cumbs. Mind over matter? It’s not much different when everyone around
us is chanting the senility mantra—when your wife, kids, friends and
boss keep saying, “You’re not getting any younger, you know.” ¶There are
high laws to invoke as age advances, to sustain the prâ∫as, to strengthen
the force of life within. Those who know wisdom’s ways have overcome
the “I’m getting old” syndrome, a mantra no one should ever repeat, even
once. They know how the mind works, and by applying the laws, they
have lived long, useful, happy and healthy lives. The redundancy system
of one part of the body failing and another part taking over, especially
within the brain, should be understood by the aging person, to know
that all is not lost. If memory loss is experienced, things can often be
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memorized again and shifted over to another part of the brain. These are
simple techniques that are based on the truth that the mind is constantly
maturing; so are the emotions, and so is the intelligence and accumulated
knowledge. Most importantly, the wisdom of how to use the knowledge
and to judge whether it is worthwhile at all—that, too, is maturing from
decade to decade and life to life. ¶The psychological secret is to have a
goal, actually many goals, in service to humanity to accomplish. People
helping people, people serving people, that is what the Hindu Dharma
is and has been proclaiming for some 8,000 years or more. Good goals
and a will to live prolong life. It is even more life-giving when the goal of
human existence, in helping people to fulfill dharma, is strengthened by
daily sâdhana. When pre-dawn morning pûjâs, scriptural reading, devo-
tionals to the guru and meditation are performed without fail, the deeper
side of ourselves is cultivated, and that in itself softens our karmas and
prolongs life. ¶Life is eternal on the inner planes, in the refined bodies
of the soul. But a physical body these days is hard to obtain. We have to
go through the embarrassment of birth, being slapped on the bottom,
talked to in baby talk, and learning to walk, read and write all over again.
It takes years and years before we get back to, if we ever do in the new life,
the wisdom years that we attained in the previous birth. ¶So, take care
of your physical body. No need to know too much about it, for it knows
what it needs. Listen to its messages, respond quickly, find an âyurvedic
doctor who can help you through the many changes the body will natu-
rally go through, and face each one positively. This body is impermanent,
true, but it is the only one you have, so make the best use of it. You have
good work to do, and knowledge born of experience to pass along to the
coming generation. ¶The older you get, the more disciplined you should
get, the more sâdhana you should perform as you drop off the extrane-
ous things of the world. If your children leave home and cultivate other
interests, find new eager children to teach, new ways to serve. Be useful
to others. Keep planting the seeds of dharma. Maybe they will be annuals
instead of perennials, but keep planting for the future. Others might be
saying, “old and gray and in the way,” but we say, “old and gray and here
to stay.”
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When the body reaches middle age, a change of pace

Wednesday occurs. One feels like sitting rather than walking, sleep-
LESSON 234
ing more than one did before, and it is more difficult to
Renewing
Life’s Plans make long-term plans, ten, twenty, thirty years ahead.
At middle age, the question “What am I going to do
with my life?” has long been answered but still should be asked, because
at middle age, around forty, there is still a long life ahead. It should be
planned out as carefully as the lifespan that has already been lived, based
on the experiences gained from it. Many people plan out their lives at
eighteen or twenty, and others don’t. Nevertheless, when the change of
life at middle age comes, both for men and women, it is only wise to
regroup one’s thoughts, analyze one’s desires, motivations and educa-
tional skills, physical, mental and emotional abilities. It is time to plan
another forty years ahead with as much enthusiasm and dynamism as can
be mustered up. After all, they say life begins at forty. A lot of people die
at fifty or shortly afterwards because they feel that everything is breaking
down. That is because they misinterpret what is happening. They think
the death experience is coming, whereas only a change of life, of life expe-
rience, has occurred, which began at forty. If they took it as a new pas-
sage in life, they could be on smooth sailing until eighty. ¶Forty years of
age is well known as a change of life. Seventy years of age is the prime
of life. Eighty is the fulfillment of that prime. An eighty-year-old person,
who has fulfilled the prime of life, holding a new-born infant makes a
complete circle of life. As one nears eighty years of age, this is again time
to revamp one’s life, motivations, desires, and to plan for the next forty
years, which recognizes a natural life span of 120 years. It is interesting to
note that the muscular structure of the physical body does not start to
deteriorate until after age seventy-two, and then only slightly, unless one
neglects to exercise. Mystics say that eighty years of age is a difficult time
to get through psychologically, physically and emotionally, because it is
definite that you are old when you are eighty. Therefore, a new plan for
motivation for the future should be made well in advance, at least at age
seventy-two, so that when eighty rolls around it is well impressed in the
subconscious mind that this might be time to start slowing down and
preparing for life after the life of the physical body. ¶It is at this juncture
that one should give one’s wisdom to the younger generation, be dedi-
cated to and interested in children and their welfare, manage orphanages,
set up endowments and scholarships for educating the young, see into the
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lives of promising people and encourage them to greater heights. This

is the time also to perform sâdhana and intense tapas. This is where the
yoga mârga naturally comes in a lifetime. The physical forces are fading,
the muscular structure diminishing. Great spiritual progress in burn-
ing out the last prârabdha karmas, even those that did not manifest in
this life, can be accomplished at this time. If retirement is thought of, it
should be at eighty-one, eighty-two, eighty-three, eighty-four, around
that time. This should be the slowing-down period, yet still being active
in the mental, emotional, sociological, political, ecological arenas. Here,
now, is a time to practice ha†ha yoga and pay close attention to âyurveda.
¶There is another forty years before the natural life span of 120 is reached,
plenty of time to fulfill the Sanâtana Dharma, to get out there and give
of the wisdom that has been accumulated through the past eighty years.
This is the real fulfillment of a life well lived. Or if your life was not well
lived, you can teach people, from experience, what they should not do,
and explain if they don’t follow that advice, things won’t work out right.
If you did do what you should, you can teach people that you did and
how it worked out well. Nine times nine is eighty-one; eight and one are
nine. This is the beginning of the final cycle toward the fulfillment of the
Sanâtana Dharma—toward mukti.
Society in the Western world has no tolerance for the
Thursday aged, only for the young. Therefore, the aged and the
LESSON 235
aging must look out for themselves and guide society
Mentalities
On Aging into a new and mature outlook as to their value to soci-
ety as senior citizens within society. In the Western world,
the elderly are not respected. They are shoved aside, considered useless,
as they interfere with the pursuit of the life and liberty of the younger
people by giving advice and direction based on their experience. That’s
why Western people have to learn by their own experiences, because they
have relegated the older generation to obscurity. It has become part of
the culture. Not so in Asia. In Asian cultures traditionally the aged are
venerated more and more each year for their knowledge, their guidance,
their wisdom, their compassion, their existence. So much are they vener-
ated in life, that when they have given up their Earth suit they are still
venerated and invoked for their guidance, because of their accumulated
wisdom and their new-found powers in the inner world, so that the fam-
ily, which makes up society, moves forward uninterrupted by chaos or
contention, wars and famine. These ancestors in the inner world guide
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and correct and hopefully are born again into the same family as a fresh,
knowledgeable influence. This is how Asian families progress as institu-
tions from one stage of development to another because of ancestor wor-
ship. ¶It might not surprise you to hear this, but everyone is getting older.
A three-year-old will soon be a six-year-old; a twelve-year-old will soon
be eighteen. There is a great difference between the eighteen-year-old and
the six-year-old, and it all happened in twelve years. Society and parents
are adjusted to the differences between a six-year-old and an eighteen-
year-old. But Western society, and even modern Asian society, is dearth
in adjustments to understand the differences between the forty-year-old
and the eighty-year-old, their needs, their wants and their desires. ¶West-
ern psychology says the older you get, the less planning you should do
for the future; you should make short-term plans. This philosophy does
not take into account that no one is ever too young to die, no matter how
long-term his plans have been. “Agedness” is a state of consciousness of
settling down, giving up and having nothing ahead in the future more
than six months or one year. At seventy-five, I myself have a ten-year
plan. I’m going to have another ten-year plan, then another one and still
another one. Life is willpower. Life is not only physical. Death can be
foreseen as an astrological time of trauma, and if given into, hey, you lose
your Earth suit—no doubt about it! But if anticipated and known about,
that and other lows in the cycles of the energies of life can be overcome
with a strong mind and indomitable will, both of which never age, never
weaken and are constantly, day by day, month by month, year by year,
accumulating in strength and power. ¶Anyone who passively gives in to
old age simply does not understand the process. He looks at his physical
body and it looks different. But the twenty-year old looks different than
he did when he was ten, and that was only ten years ago, and he is happy
to look different. If the twenty-year-old is aloof from the world, having
fun, and is frivolous and absents himself from the responsibility of the
reality of the material world, he is forgiven, coached along. If the seventy-
year-old were to be frivolous and absent himself from the realities of the
world, he’d be dubbed senile. That would be the end of him.
Society does not adequately explain the transitions that
Friday one goes through in life. Children are smart at the age
LESSON 236
of four, five or ten, and should be told what will happen
Fears and
Preparations through their whole life, as a picture book. When they
are going through adolescence, the changes they experi-
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ence should be explained to them. When they are forty and are experienc-
ing the withdrawal of the vitality of the physical forces into a keenness
of mind and shorter-term physical goals, this should also be explained.
Before fifty your goals are simply for the future, not knowing what that
is. When the forces turn around at fifty, you start to withdraw. The body
does not throw off the toxins like it used to. It does not heal itself like it
used to. It does not regenerate itself like it used to. Then at sixty the forces
tend to even out. Two things people are often worried about and need to
firm their minds against are the youthful fear “Who is going to take care
of me?” and the aged fear “Who is going to take care of me?” These fears
are very similar. ¶The truth is, if you are not driven to fulfill dharma, you
get old. You get old attitudes. You get set in your ways—bigoted, opinion-
ated, communal, divisive. You seek division rather than amalgamation,
become racist, basically self-centered and old by clinging onto your old
ideas and not keeping up with the changing times. And, having perfected
grossness and subtlety of selfishness, you become ignorantly dominant
as an elder, manipulating sons, daughters and relatives for travel, com-
forts and other kinds of considerations. This is not the Sanâtana Dharma.
This is the “asanâtana dharma” of the lower nature. Elders beware! You
cannot hide behind your old age. The mind does not get old. Nor do the
emotions. The astral body does not deteriorate. Neither does the body
of the purusha, the soul. It is only the physical body that is slowly dis-
solving into the essences from which it came. ¶It is well known that even
certain advanced souls on the planet may do well when they are young
but at their still unperfected stage of evolution have the propensity of
deterioration in spirit, mind, emotions as the body sinks, through age,
into the substances from which it is created. This is not Sanâtana Dharma
as emulated by spiritual, devotional, happy, religious men and women
who have experienced the frailties of the physique and added greater zeal,
power and joy to the now dominant energies of the intellect and the soul.
Let there be no mistake that admittance to old age is to admit failure on
the path to enlightenment. Admittance to old age is to invoke another
birth. Admittance to old age means being set in one’s ways, not wanting
to be interfered with by the young, unable to learn anything more or new,
holding an inflexibility that cannot be challenged. ¶In the West, growing
old is something people take for granted, something they do not look
forward to, and yet it happens. And since it does happen and they don’t
look forward to it, they try to squeeze everything out of what presents
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itself to them. In the East they look at growing old in a different way, more
in the line of becoming full, becoming mature, becoming satisfied. ¶But
very few people become satisfied in the West. They are too self-centered.
And the balance between husband and wife is reversed. The woman is try-
ing to live the part of a man, and the poor man, he doesn’t have a chance.
Consequently, old age sets in very quickly, and nothing is left to do but sit
and grumble about the instinctive nature: “She didn’t bring my food in on
time” “Somebody made a noise and I couldn’t sleep” and all the various
things that people, as they get older and older, find to complain about.
There is nothing profound, which is too bad, because each and every one
has profundity within them.
A short while ago I had the privilege of visiting a rest
Saturday home for elderly ladies. Being experienced in looking
LESSON 237
at people and discerning the type of lives they had lived,
Growing Old
Gracefully seeing these ladies who sat grumbling, I could see the
types of lives they lived in their marriages. I would say
that all but two in the entire group had hung divorce over their husband’s
head all through life. That is how they got their way: “If you don’t give
me what I want, I will divorce you!” But there were two souls sitting there
who were also suffering, but they were happy. They had an inner joy. The
conditions weren’t too good—they never are in such places—but these
two souls sat happily observing, and I could see that they were under-
standing what they observed. That is the secret of growing old, being
able to understand what you observe. ¶To grow old gracefully—and to
get away from the habit of just growing old naturally and thus physically
and emotionally losing the spirit entirely—you have to plan ahead. You
have to know where you are going. Everyone who goes on in life is going
to get old, believe it or not. But we can pass through those years beauti-
fully, providing the balance is right. You get that right balance by follow-
ing good advice and conquering the mistakes that you have made in the
past and making them right. ¶When we are selfish, self-centered and flare
up and lose control of ourselves, we are like animals. When we reflect
understanding, have control of ourselves and use our will to conquer our
lower nature, we are using the Godly part of our mind. That’s why I say
people do just exactly what they want to do. It is either the spiritual being
that is stronger, or the animal within them that is stronger. If they control
the animal nature, then what happens? The spiritual being automatically
takes over. ¶If they live according to the rules of the animal nature, then
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what happens? They snuff out the spirit, they snuff out life, and they
decay. Decay immediately sets in. It is terrible to think about, but that’s
the rule. That’s what happens. That’s why we have basic laws and basic
principles to live by. If we live by them, automatically good things will
happen. You don’t even have to wish or hope. Good things will just auto-
matically come along. And if you don’t live by the laws, automatically
things that aren’t too palatable present themselves before you, and you get
entangled in them quite automatically. ¶So, let’s think about the years to
come. Let’s see if we are laying the foundation for our mature years to rot
away, or to become beautiful and content and happy with ourselves. Look
into your home right now. Look at your life. What are you doing now?
What have you done? What are you going to do? Do you have a foun-
dation for a future that is real and permanent and full and joyous and
happy? Or is your life like a child’s sandbox? These are the things we have
to face as we look ahead to our own advanced age. ¶So, don’t come to me
this morning and say, “You gave a very nice upadeßa, Gurudeva. I really
got so much out of it.” Rather, come back in ten years and let me see by
your radiant face how much you got out of it. That will make me happy.
Let me see by your tomorrows and how you meet challenges—when vari-
ous things come up that you should do and you are given advice on what
to do—how you face them, how polite you are, how kindly you are, how
understanding you are. That will show your sincerity, your reality, your
character as individuals.
It is a fast-moving age. Many people are now either on
Sunday tranquilizers, alcohol, anti-depressants, nicotine, stimu-
LESSON 238
lants or high-powered vitamins of one kind or another
Real Security
Lies Within to stabilize their emotions enough to get by, just to get by,
to get through all the various things that present them-
selves that they can’t cope with due to the rickety foundations that they
have in their home. What they really want and need is to get within, to
get quiet enough to get an answer within themselves that will give them
a little security. But there is no narcotic, no stimulant, no tranquilizer, no
high-powered vitamin that is going to take you within. The only way is to
sit down and become quiet, and not throw your energy into concentrat-
ing on how you are going to out-do or out-smart somebody else, get a
little bit better control over your husband’s finances or anything like that.
That is not going to do it. That will bring sure misery, a fine hell on Earth,
really. That’s where the only hell is anyway. No, the way to true security is
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getting in touch with the divine spirit within you. ¶Try to feel it permeat-
ing you. Find out what life is. You are going to give up this physical body
someday. Find out what’s going to happen to you when you die. You can
find out. Find out whether you are immortal or not. You will be able to
go within yourself and find that out if you become quiet enough. Then
you will not fear death. Then you will be somebody within yourself. A
great new life force will permeate you. At first you won’t know where it
comes from or where it’s going, but it will be there, and you won’t have to
try to be positive or think positively or make affirmations about this and
that. You will be Mr. or Mrs. Positive. That is spiritual life. ¶There comes
a time when you have to buckle down and do the right thing, because
we are all faced with growing old. Growing old can be decay or it can be
full, joyous and beautiful. Think about that. Where are you headed? Are
you headed for decay and misery, to drop back into the animal mind and
complain about how little the five senses have to offer when you get old?
Are you headed for complaints, suffering over old memories that pop
up through the subconscious mind that you no longer have the will to
even try to penetrate and understand but still have to live with? Or are
you going to become full and beautiful by adjusting your life right now
so that you will have an alive, alert mind to the end? The choice is yours.
You must start now. ¶Aging is inevitable. The years go by. They go by so
quickly, we hardly notice them. We can go on in our old habit patterns,
becoming stronger and stronger in the negative ones; and the positive
ones eventually will turn to negative ones, too. That’s a certainty of evolu-
tion we don’t want to look forward to. But there is another way. Become
a spiritual being. That is your goal, your liberation, for as the years go by
you can live in heaven, or you can live in your own self-created hell, and
you don’t want to do that. Think about it and create a heaven right now
by living with Íiva.
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Atim®ityu, Sûkshmadeha Jîvanam
Aitama&tyau saU#madehjaIvanama<

Beyond Death,
Astral Life

Just as a caterpillar, having reached the end of a

blade of grass and approaching another one collects
itself, even so this âtman, having discarded the body
and overcome ignorance, approaching another one
collects itself. That to which the heart is attached,
toward this the subtle body moves together with
its action which still adheres. Attaining the goal of
whatever actions he performed here on Earth, he goes
once more from that world to this world of action.
Íukla Yajur Veda, B®ihadâra∫yaka Upanishad, 4.4.3&6 ve, p. 759
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There is a lot to be said about death and reincarnation.

Monday Most people are afraid of death because it is the most
LESSON 239
dramatic experience that has happened to them during
The Doorway
Called Death a lifetime, as it put a stop to a lot of aggressive prâ∫a
going out through a physical body. At transition, this
prâ∫a has to contract immediately and go to seed. What is death? The
realization is that nobody dies. You can’t say a human dies because he
must now live in his astral body rather than his physical body. We live
in our astral body twenty-four hours a day and in our physical body
only sixteen hours a day. That means for eight hours each day we are
already “dead.” When the soul departs the physical body at death, one
chapter of life has ended and another chapter of life has begun. It is a
total continuum, except that after departing the physical body the being
is full-time awake, because on the astral plane we don’t have to sleep.
¶There are helpers in the inner world who assist those who have departed
their physical sheath through their new adjustments, as well as assist with
preparations for their reentry into flesh—reincarnation. These helpers
are well trained, efficient, courteous and kindly. They are similar to those
found performing the same services in this physical world, the doctors,
nurses, psychologists, religious workers—aiding souls as they enter or
exit the earth plane. In the physical world, hospitals now even help you
to die. Or accidents may occur or old age simply comes. In any case, the
assistance is there through the medical profession, the mortuaries and
so forth to care for the dying and take care of the remains. These are all
well-trained, kindly people doing their jobs. The soul meets them again
at birth when reentering the flesh, in the hospital and in the home. It is
the loving care of such workers that assists the mother through the many
years ahead until the child is fully grown. ¶A doctor or nurse will perform
the same professional duties when disembodied, continuing along, doing
the same kind of things they did during their last physical life. The pro-
cess of reincarnation is a revolving cycle. Those who abide permanently
in their astral body are not alone. They are with other people, some who
remain on the astral plane permanently, some who are just visiting. It is
a fuller life, not lesser. People die on the astral plane, too. When they take
a birth, their old astral body has to be disposed of. Those on the astral
A husband applies holy ash to his wife’s forehead at the moment of her Great Departure. In her
astral body, she consciously leaves the physical body through a high chakra—shown by a ray of
light—and is being received by her guardian devas in the higher astral world.
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plane have to “die” there to come here, and later they have to “die” here to
go there. ¶The mind does not need a physical body to function properly.
Nor do the emotions. Nor does the soul. A disembodied person is totally
functional in every respect. Suppose a seamstress dies. On the astral plane,
she may keep making dresses, but with a difference: she would now have
all the fabric she ever wanted. But she would probably continue this same
activity. She would not become a carpenter. However, it is not possible to
experience the karmas of this physical world in the inner worlds. For this,
a physical body is needed. When the time comes for acquiring and enter-
ing a physical body, proper parents must be chosen, an environment and
country. This can be time-consuming and is sometimes disappointing
on the occasion of miscarriage or abortion. But negatives aside, when the
first cry and mother’s gentle hug is experienced, this is reincarnation.
People wonder about their past lives, but it doesn’t really
Tuesday matter who you were in your past lives. It is the cumu-
LESSON 240
lative creation of what you’ve done in the past which has
Mourning and
Fear of Death manifested in what you are in this life that should con-
cern you. Knowing how these things are going to mani-
fest in the future is a forewarning that can improve the quality of the next
life. Therefore, though possible, it is irrelevant to know what nationality,
station in life or occupation one was in the past. What is relevant is the
knowledge of accumulated deeds of all the past lives, especially those that
will manifest in this life. ¶People who don’t truly understand reincarna-
tion fear death. Fear of the unknown is part of the human psyche. To
understand reincarnation, you have to understand and accept the exis-
tence of the astral body and have an intuitive knowledge of the soul. Then
you understand that reincarnation is as natural as a child becoming a
teenager and a teenager becoming a young adult. Reincarnation records
are kept in the sahasrâra chakra of every individual. They are readable by
inner-plane helpers and by trained psychics. The sahasrâra chakra is in
the âkâßa. Every soul is packing his dossier right along with him. ¶Devo-
tees ask, “When someone dies, what should be the attitude of loved ones?”
Because the fear of death is so much a part of social consciousness today,
as ignorance prevails in these matters, sorrow rather than joy is often
experienced. In not understanding life in its fullness, many cannot help
but misunderstand death. The attitude should be one of joy based on
beliefs that come from the knowledge of karma and saμsâra. Experience
of joy and a total release of the loved one would come from a pure under-
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standing of the processes of life. ¶A better word than death is transition,

passing into a new form of life—life into life. It is similar to moving to
a new country, having completed all of one’s tasks. Death is a closing of
the door on deeds well done, on all beneficial karmas. Karmas performed
in ignorance will be faced at a later time. Death is also the opening of a
new door to a place where the good and the bad, the happy and the sad
experiences are forgotten. Should we not be cheerful and joyous that
our loved one has earned a new start, having completed another step
on the path? ¶Inordinate grief, sorrow and loss are felt by those who do
not understand the Sanâtana Dharma. They are dwelling in the world
of darkness. Those who live in the worlds of light understand intuitively.
They are happy that the person’s karmic cycle has ended. You have to
realize that the person who is dying is going on a joyous journey, and he
knows it. He is still going to see his loved ones who are still connected
to their physical bodies when they sleep at night, and he is not losing
anybody. So, one or two close loved ones in the vicinity at the time of
death is enough consolation. Even if no one is with him, he is fine. He is
going on a journey. He has the fullness of everything. Why should you
mourn for the person who is, at the death experience, having the highest
moment of his life? ¶Mourning at death, for example, is not a part of the
Chinese culture. They send money and paper houses and write letters to
the departed through the fire ceremony. Morbid mourning is not a part
of every culture, as it is among those heavily influenced by Christian
beliefs. We must remember that Hindus are often so influenced. Dying is
not a super traumatic experience anymore, as people move around the
world so much, wives are working and families are not that close. But the
fact is that the departed person does not go away, has two bodies besides
the physical—astral and soul—and is always there, existent. Whether he
is living in his astral body, his purusha body or is in San Francisco or Paris,
he is always there.
Ancestor worship is a form of communicating with
Wednesday departed ancestors, seeking to be guided by their advice
LESSON 241
because they have a broader vision, a superconscious
Ancestor
Worship vision. They are not bothered by the mundane affairs
of eating and sleeping and family intrigues. They know
how to bring the collective family along to its next phase of development.
They will eventually, of course, seek to reincarnate in the same family to
work out their prârabdha karmas. One reason for the Hindu ßrâddha cer-
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emonies is to help the departed soul be reborn in the same family. Simi-
larly, we would want our monks to come back to the same monastery and
keep coming back until they fulfilled their highest aspirations. The Hindu
wants to be born back into the same family, even in the same house, and
families want to bring relatives back as well, so the karmas can be worked
out consistently, lifetime after lifetime. This is one reason that on the
nakshatra of the death, certain rites are performed to court the departed
person back. ¶In many Hindu traditions, after the death of a loved one,
ßrâddha ceremonies are performed on the death anniversary for twelve
years. Therefore, each family that shares in ancestral worship or ancestral
communication is, in a sense, a tribal group within a sectarian portion
of the religion. Who better would know the solutions within a family
than someone who has lived in it? If the ancestor has already reincar-
nated, the whole family would intuitively know it. Then they would seek
advice from another ancestor, perhaps through a psychic channeler. If an
ancestor reincarnated outside the family, they would also be told. Those
who practice ancestor worship generally seek for channelers outside their
community, from those who don’t know their family. ¶In the fifty years
of our Íaiva Church, we have documented birth to death to birth again
within the lives of our devotees and close initiates. A continuum of birth
to death to birth to death, a continuum of karmas in unbroken continu-
ity—that makes up a spiritual, alive religious organization. ¶The greater
the maturity of your soul, the longer you can stay in the inner planes.
Some world-of-darkness people come back immediately. They die in one
end of the hospital and are born in the other end. The average person
would usually reincarnate somewhere within the twelve-year cycle. If the
family realizes the person is coming back and prays for that to happen, he
or she would have to come back within twelve years. Once they realized
the person is back, they would stop doing the ceremony and be off doing
other things. ¶At this time in the Kali Yuga, the races of the world are
relocating to improve genetics and to recreate families with better genes
by intermarrying between races and in different localities. It is a time of
breaking up, a time of destruction. But the new race coming out of this
into a good genetic body will be the industrious spiritual leaders for a
better world which will recreate itself around them.
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The world is quite blissful from the perspective of some-

Thursday one who has reached a high stage of maturity, and life
LESSON 242
on the inner planes for him is even more blissful. This
Life in the
Inner Worlds is because all of the lower chakras, the instinctive and
lower natures, are totally inoperable. So, it is a wonder-
ful, self-perpetuating time, a time of rest and healing, of meeting others
known on the Earth who have experienced the same level of bliss. For
some it may be a time of communicating with those on the Earth, learn-
ing how to channel messages to them. This sojourn in the in-between
is similar to sleep, which is an earned time of rest for the physical body.
After death is a cosmic sleep for all the inner bodies. ¶Even someone who
has committed the most heinous sins and played the part of the destruc-
tive element of Íiva’s great dance would, after death, experience the Nara-
kaloka only for a limited period, until he again enters flesh and continues
his mischief or repents, performs sâdhanas and lifts himself up into the
Devaloka. However, by no means should death necessarily be taken as a
form of liberation from rebirth. It is for the vast majority an in-between
period of preparation for the next life, a time to gain faith and strength to
face the impact of the already-developed good, bad and mixed karmas of
previous lives. ¶Within the inner worlds, there are realms far more subtle
than the astral plane. Advanced souls residing on the astral plane are able
to access those higher worlds at will, there to learn from and receive bless-
ings from ®ishis and great devas. For most, in order to do this, the astral
body would not “die,” but simply be left behind temporarily. Similarly,
here on the physical plane, you can go into meditation and get “beamed
up” into the higher world in your purusha body. Your physical body and
astral body are temporarily left behind. However, there are beings in the
inner world who reside fully in these higher planes in their mental body,
having dropped off their lower astral body long ago. But the law is that
after death you won’t be able to go any higher in the inner worlds than
the level you had attained in a physical birth, because it is only in physi-
cal birth that all twenty-one chakras are available. In physical birth, the
lowest ones become attainable, and the highest become attainable as well.
Whatever your attainment on Earth is, you carry that with you into the
astral worlds unchanged. Whatever your accomplishments are of living
in the gamut of the chakras, lower or higher, you can’t go lower and you
can’t go higher in the inner planes. That is why you need a physical birth.
¶I was once asked about âtura sannyâsa, renouncing the world at the
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moment of death? Personally, I think that is like icing a stale cake. People
do it, it is possible, and it may quiet a person’s mind if he wanted to do
that, but it does not mean a lot. Perhaps he will be a sannyâsin in his next
life, but maybe he will not. If you are going to be a sannyâsin, you have to
try to live the life. ¶Occasionally a great soul will know before his grand
departure, his death, that he will not be reincarnating again. In this case
the astral body has to be totally absorbed by the causal body while he is
alive in his physical body. That means all the lower chakras have to be
closed off. When this has occurred, the soul body takes over the physical
body and there is very little astral body present, just a shell. Eliminating
the astral body and the chakras it is attached to is accomplished through
yoga and tapas in a physical birth. This is a process that goes on in the
First World. To fulfill these various laws relating to the chakras and the
soul’s unfoldment, it is very important that we have a physical planet at
a certain distance from a sun, with edible vegetation, fertile soil, breath-
able atmosphere, a benign climate and gravity, all suitable for human life.
You have seven chakras below the mûlâdhâra in the world of darkness.
Through dharma and following the principles of Íaivism, they are to be
slowly closed off and systematically put to rest. The nature of the chakras
is what makes one individual different from another, other than the per-
sonal vibratory rate.
The astral plane is within this world as its etheric coun-
Friday terpart, and when you drop off the physical body, you
LESSON 243
are in it. You are in it now but are not aware of it as yet. It
Creating on
The Astral Plane is a world just like this one. You can travel from country
to country on the astral plane. While I was studying in
Sri Lanka in 1948, my teacher living in America used to come and visit me
in the astral body. When I returned to America, people from Sri Lanka
used to come on the astral plane and visit me in America, and I would see
them in their astral bodies. While I was in Sri Lanka, I introduced a yogî
from the Himalayas to my teacher in America, and they met on the astral
plane. The next day, the yogî came back and described my teacher per-
fectly and told me of their conversation. After I returned to America, one
day my teacher asked, “Who was that yogî that I met on the astral plane?”
and then described him perfectly, and told of the same conversation as
well. ¶If we did not use the astral body on a daily basis, we could not move
the physical body. It is not the physical body that moves; it is the astral
body that moves within it. When we step out of the physical body in the
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astral body, we cannot move the physical body until we get back inside it.
While conscious in the astral body, we are more on the astral plane than
on the physical plane. Only when the astral body and the physical body
are connected do we seem to be in a physical world. ¶Because the astral
plane is of a higher rate of vibration, or a more intense rate of vibration,
prâ∫a flows within it a little freer and faster. We have everything there
that we have on the physical plane. However, things there are manifested
by the mind quickly, whereas on the physical plane they are created more
slowly. This is because the physical body needs the mûlâdhâra chakra in
order to function, and this brings us into a different dimension of time.
The first chakra is not so dominant on the astral plane. Therefore, we are
in reason and in will. If we want to build a house, we just think about it,
and a house becomes constructed within a matter of minutes; whereas it
takes a matter of months on the physical plane. ¶On the astral plane, we
see other people—other people that have died and do not have a physi-
cal body and people that do have a physical body but have just left it for
a time. They have left their physical body sleeping and they are traveling
on the astral plane. Therefore, it is a more populated plane than this
Earth, but there is more room in it, being of a lighter substance. Then, too,
uninhabited land on Earth and the oceans are used on the astral plane.
¶Why do we sleep? The mental body, which we dream in, is within the
astral body and functions through the astral brain of that body. Through
certain hours of the day during the waking state, the astral body uses
the physical body, and the mental body works through the astral-body
brain and the brain of the physical body. There is also another body to
be considered, and that is the soul body. This body is what we touch into
at least once through the sleeping state, and that gives not only a release
of the karmas, often karmas that have been concluded, but also a new
flush of energy into the astral, mental and physical bodies. So, we touch
into the Divine through sleep. We must remember that the astral body
doesn’t need sleep; nor would the physical body need as much sleep if the
Divine hookup were always perpetuating or flooding through the energy.
¶It is a twenty-four-hour cycle of consciousness. Our individual aware-
ness simply moves from physical consciousness into mental, emotional
or astral body consciousness, or soul consciousness in the case of deep
sleep, where nothing is ever remembered. People wonder why they don’t
recall their dreams. It is as difficult to recall a dream that happened last
night as it is to recall what you were thinking about between 12 noon and
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4PM three days ago. Now, should the dream last night have been a fantastic
departure from your personal reality, you would recall it. If your thoughts
three days ago between 12 noon and 4PM were a fantastic departure from
your personal reality, you would certainly recall that. It is the process of
recall that is being challenged, not the connection between the sleep state
and the waking state. ¶We do not usually remember our astral experi-
ences, because the astral brain and the physical brain are of two different
rates of vibration. Therefore, when we return to the physical body after
being in the astral body during sleep, any knowledge that we have gained
on the astral plane begins to seep through into the physical plane during
a period of four days afterwards. This knowledge accumulates, and we call
it an inner knowing. Ideas seem to come to us from within, but actually
we did learn and discuss them previously on the astral plane.
Reading and analyzing dreams from the shûmîf perspec-
Saturday tive, of awareness flowing through the mind—the inner
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mind being stationary, and awareness being a mercury-
Awareness,
The Traveler like substance that is aware in various states—will keep
the aspirant emotionally and intellectually detached
from areas of consciousness, or mind, which he becomes conscious in
as he travels here, there and everywhere, as he does through the day. We
therefore know that we need not be emotionally or mentally attached
within our dreams to everything that happens. In the very same way we
are not mentally and emotionally attached to even two-thirds of what
we see and experience in our waking state on television or when we are
walking about in public. Therefore, the shûmîf perspective, once it is well
set within the subconscious, aids in understanding dream consciousness
juxtaposed to waking consciousness and seeing them as one and the same.
Pure awareness, nîf, never sleeps. This mercury, mirror-like substance
travels here and there, guided by the will of the perceiver. It is the vener-
able eye of the purusha. It is constantly aware, from the moment of the
creation of the soul; and at the soul’s final merger into Íiva it experiences
super, super, super, superconscious totality. Most people who meditate
do not enter the astral plane during sleep. When they sleep at night, they
go deeper within than the astral, into superconsciousness, in the beauti-
ful body of the soul. There they communicate with other people who
are also in their body of the soul. ¶On the astral plane, talking is done
through thoughts. It is the world of thought. On the inner plane of the
soul, intelligence is transferred from one to another through light vibra-
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tions. This is a beautiful form of communication. The body of the soul

can also appear on the astral plane and communicate with those who are
functioning in their astral bodies, even though the body of the soul is a
more refined body. It is these two bodies that are predominantly used on
the astral plane. The intellectual body is used primarily through the day
when we are awake, as is the physical body. Man carries his intellect into
the astral as well. ¶Modern man does not use his physical body as much
as his ancestors used to. He sits and walks and occasionally exercises, and
that is about all. That is why much of his energy has been transmuted
into the intellect. Our astral body, body of the soul and intellectual body
all are very definite forms in the inner ether. They are used most by the
evolved, educated, modern man. To understand these bodies, we have to
forget the way we usually think about things and think about them dif-
ferently, from a new perspective. Then insights are gained. ¶Some people
do at times see what we call ghosts and wonder what they are. They are
astral beings without a physical body. Only rarely are they able to have
any effect on anything in our world and are generally harmless. A ghost
is a person, a soul just like all of us, that has lived in a human body and
died, and is now in the part of the astral plane called the Pretaloka. ¶The
word ghost generally has unfavorable connotations attached to it, such as
scary, haunting, perhaps even fear, for most people do not fully under-
stand what a ghost is. From the ghost’s point of view, he feels very much
alive, living in the inner world which this outer world mirrors. Ghosts,
more often than not, see us, but we don’t see them, except very rarely, and
they feel hurt when not included in family gatherings, and sad at being
mourned for. Often the realization that they have “departed” comes to
them slowly, but comes especially when they find they can now walk
through closed doors, even walls. ¶There are certain astrological times,
such as Halloween, when ghosts are most easily seen. I was in Singapore
on one of those days when all the Chinese people were in the street send-
ing prayers through fires to the inner world. The prayers were printed
and purchased and then burned in piles on nearly every street. The astral
doubles of the prayers were collected by astral helpers trained for the job,
then given to the departed relatives to be read by them. When we asked
about the event, we were told that this was the time of year when ghosts
make their visitations. And, actually, in the early morning, upon awaken-
ing in our hotel, the ma†havâsis and myself saw ghosts walk through the
walls, stare at us in our beds, then pass on through a wall into another
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room to investigate the other guests. This was a shared experience, for we
all saw the same ghosts. We talked about it at breakfast. Some found it a
little bit scary, as the astral beings were all draped in white, which was, of
course, their prâ∫ic body covering their astral body. They looked white
because they still maintained an odic body made of ectoplasmic substance.
Ghosts are mysterious, unknown and not understood by
Sunday most people and therefore feared. They usually stay close
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to a familiar place in the physical world and are occa-
Possession and
Mediumship sionally seen or felt by people who knew them, espe-
cially if they have just recently passed on. At the time
of passing, their astral body hovers over their physical body until they
become aware that they have died. Inner-world helpers eventually explain
to them the facts of death and take them deeper into the Devaloka to do
what they have to do to prepare for another physical birth. In unusual
cases, the astral person remains in a favorite area of the physical world
for an extended length of time, making his presence felt by people in the
Bhûloka. This is what is meant by the word haunting. ¶On rare occasions,
we may experience one or more ghosts in our presence. When this hap-
pens, we must project love, while visualizing pink and light blue. This will
help them, and they will eventually realize that all is well with the life they
left, and be able to continue their evolution, released from the static state
they have been experiencing. This is the great siddhi of love. Everyone
has this power. Few use it. ¶In one sense, we could say that the devas of
the Devaloka are also ghosts, for they are discarnate entities, too, the dif-
ference being that they are helping the Gods of our religion and are fully
functioning at their duties in-between physical births, completely aware
of who and what they are. The places they inhabit most frequently are
the hundreds of thousands of great temples of our religion, the homes
of the Gods. ¶When an Earth-bound soul claims a body of a physical
person, this is known as possession. In most cases, that soul is very upset
at not having a physical body, because he has things to do, desires. Such
a soul finds somebody who is susceptible, who is on drugs or half out
of his body for some reason, takes over that body and uses it for a while
to satisfy his desires. In Asia they have dances, songs and temple rituals,
and in America they have electrical shock treatment, to get rid of the
unwanted astral entity. It’s the same primitive process, called exorcism.
¶Mediumship is another matter. There is no conflict. It is communication
by arrangement and can be accomplished on many different levels. One
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is clairvoyantly, where pictures and impressions are received. Another

is clairaudiently, where actual words are heard. Still another is vocally,
where the entity temporarily uses the voice of the medium to speak out
a message. Mediumship is a temporary arrangement and, to be safe, it
should be a definite arrangement. This is to protect the medium from
astral, Earth-bound entities who might do harm to him or, through him,
to others. Even once that arrangement is set up and certain inner codes
are established, communication does not happen all the time, or even
at will. My advice for those who are intrigued with channeling is, if you
want to channel something, channel your own superconsciousness. Any
channeling without the code and the authorization from your teacher
is a sure road to the asylum. Without such precautions, if some trauma
were to come up in your personal life, some emotional disorientation,
you could have lower-plane people talking to you twenty-four hours a
day and not be able to turn it off. The first person comes talking to you,
then the next—people trying to talk you into committing suicide because
they want to see you fully on the other side. Precautions are always taken
by psychically trained occultists to protect themselves and others from
such intrusions.
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May happiness await you with your children! Watch over this house as
mistress of the home. Unite yourself wholly with your husband. Thus
authority in speech till old age will be yours. Âig Veda 10.85.27. ve, p. 255

O Lord, lead us along the right path to prosperity. O God, you know all
our deeds. Take from us our deceitful sin. To you, then, we shall offer
our prayers. Íukla Yajur Veda, Èßa Upanishad 18. ve, p. 831

The spirit of man has two dwellings: this world and the world beyond.
There is also a third dwelling place: the land of sleep and dreams.
Resting in this borderland, the spirit of man can behold his dwelling in
this world and in the other world afar; and wandering in this border-
land, he beholds behind him the sorrows of this world, and in front of
him he sees the joys of the beyond.
Íukla Yajur Veda, B®ihadâra∫yaka Upanishad, 4.3.9. upm, 134

To them belongs yon stainless Brahman world in whom there is no

crookedness and falsehood, nor trickery.
Atharva Veda, Praßna Upanishad 1.16. upr, p. 380

May this woman, Agni, find a husband, then, verily, King Soma will
make her happy. May she, bearing sons, be the queen of the home, and
fortunate, hold the sway, united with her husband. Even as the lair, O
bounteous Ones, is a loved, charming, happy retreat of wild animals,
so may this woman, Fortune’s darling, be loved by her husband, being
never at variance with him. Atharva Veda 2.36.3-4 hv, p. 125

Righteousness [dharma] is the honey of all beings, and all beings are
honey for righteousness. He who is the resplendent, immortal Person
in righteousness and who, with reference to oneself, is the resplendent,
immortal Person consisting of obedience to righteousness, He indeed is
that which is the âtman, the immortal, Brahman, the all.
Íukla Yajur Veda, B®ihadâra∫yaka Upanishad 2.5.11. ve, p. 716

When a person causes abortion in pregnancy by striking, by medicine,

or by annoyance, the highest, middle and lesser punishments shall be
imposed respectively. Kau†iliya’s Arthaßâstra 229. ka, p. 277
VERSES FROM SCRIPTURE 457

O learned people, may we with our ears listen to what is beneficial,

may we see with our eyes what is beneficial. May we, engaged in your
praises, enjoy with firm limbs and sound bodies, a full term of life ded-
icated to God. Âig Veda 1.89.8. rvp, p. 287

They acquire a plenteous store of food; they come united to the altar.
Their rewards never lessen. They do not wander from the Gods or seek
to hide their favors granted. Thus they acquire great glory. With sons
and daughters at their side, they live a good long span of years, both
decked with precious gold. Devoted to sacrifice, gathering wealth, they
serve the Immortal and honor the Gods, united in mutual love.
Âig Veda 8.31.6-9. ve, p. 265

The resplendent Self, through the ecstacy of spiritual joy, inspires all
virtuous thoughts among men of divine nature.
Âig Veda 8.32.28. rvp, vol 9, p. 3,025

Having reached the last order of life, one should sit in a solitary
place in a relaxed posture, with pure heart, with head, neck and body
straight, controlling all the sense organs, having bowed with devotion
to the master. Atharva Veda, Kaivâlya Upanishad 5. ve, p. 442

For a hundred autumns may we see, for a hundred autumns may we

live, for a hundred autumns may we know, for a hundred autumns
may we rise, for a hundred autumns may we flourish, for a hundred
autumns may we be, for a hundred autumns may we become—and
even more than a hundred autumns! Atharva Veda, 19.67. ve, p.303

If he should desire, “Let me be born here again,” in whatever family he

directs his attention, either the family of a brahmin or the family of a
king, into that he will be born.
Sâma Veda, Jaiminîya Upanishad Brâhma∫a, 3.28.3-4. vo, p. 115

Pursuit of the duties of the stage of life to which each one belongs—
that, verily, is the rule! Others are like branches of a stem. With this,
one tends upwards; otherwise, downwards.
K®ish∫a Yajur Veda, Maitrî Upanishad 4.3. bo upr, p. 810
Dhairyapûrvakam Vilayanam
DaEya*paUva*k\[ ivalayanama<

part three
Merging
Courageously
 Hindu Dharma Sukhâni
ihnduDama*sauKaaina

The Joys of Hinduism

All the Gods in the heaven of Brahman adore

in contemplation their Infinite Spirit Supreme.
This is why they have all joy, and all the worlds
and all desires. And the man who on this Earth
finds and knows atman, his own Self, has all his
holy desires and all the worlds and all joy.
Sâma Veda, Çhândogya Upanishad 8.12.6. upm, p. 126
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Tonight we want to speak on the joys and happiness

Monday found in Hinduism, our ancient religion which brings
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forth the wonderful feelings of a belief in the cosmic
Knowledge of
Reincarnation processes of reincarnation coupled with knowledge of
the laws of karma and the wisdom of dharma in which
everyone has his rightful place and purpose in life. It brings the broad-
mindedness of total acceptance of all other religions as expressions of the
One God’s creation, the blessing of a complete devotional path revolving
around powerful temples, the fulfillment of a profound mystical teach-
ing founded on yoga and brought forth by the seers and saints and gurus,
and so much more. Our religion is so strong, so rich and varied that very
few can claim to understand it in its completeness. It is immense, an
immense religion, so immense that we have difficulty sometimes explain-
ing it to those who hold to a simpler doctrine, especially if they have
been subjected to erroneous concepts about our religion promulgated by
invaders and missionaries of a score of alien religions. It is time that the
world knew of the greatness of Hinduism, knew it as it is. Of course, we
cannot explain it in an evening. My satguru, the great Siva Yogaswami of
Columbuthurai, would say, “The time is short and the subject is vast.” But
we can have a look at some of the aspects of Hinduism that bring such
joys and happiness to over a billion devotees around the world. ¶Each
Hindu’s belief in reincarnation is so strong that it totally eliminates the
fear and dread of death. No true Hindu really fears death; nor does he
look forward to it. The word death in the vocabulary of the Hindu holds
a different meaning. He does not take death to be the end of existence;
nor does he look upon life as a singular opportunity to be followed by
eternal heavenly existence for those souls who do well, and by unend-
ing hell for those who do not. Death for the Hindu is merely transition,
simultaneously an end and a new beginning. Over two thousand years
ago, Saint Tiruvalluvar wrote, “Death is like falling asleep, and birth is
like awakening from that sleep” (Tirukural 339). In one of the ancient
languages of our religion, the physical body had a name which literally
meant “that which is always dropping off.” ¶The Hindu’s knowledge of
reincarnation gives him the hope of attaining a future birth and in that
birth making further progress toward the perfection that he intuitively
A Hindu youth spreads his arms joyously, knowing that his religion provides for his every need,
every resource for a rich, rewarding spiritual life. Lord Íiva, with the Ganges flowing from his
hair and wearing traditional gold bracelets, cradles the devotee in His interlaced hands.
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knows is his âtman, his soul. He is working in this life to gain enough
good merit, enough pu∫ya, to deserve welcome into a fine religious family
as a good soul that will not upset the family but add to its love and har-
mony and productivity. That is one aim ever on the mind of the devout
Hindu, to live well that he may live even more perfectly in a future life
on this planet. That is our aim; and our other beliefs, our accumulated
knowledge and the many facets of our religion, give us the strength and
the wisdom to believe in such a far-reaching way, to look beyond the
immediate day-to-day concerns into our ultimate objective, which is real-
ization and liberation, moksha. ¶Nor is this belief in the cycles of earthly
existence, in reincarnation, merely a belief. It is a certain knowledge for
those who have had even a tiny glimpse into their origins, to the point
of remembering another life or just intuiting that the soul did not come
into existence just before one’s birth. The Hindu believes that the soul
undertakes many sojourns on the planet. We see the wisdom in this cycle
of birth, death and rebirth.
We see reincarnation as an explanation for many of the
Tuesday apparent inequalities observed in life. Thus we under-
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stand the fairness even in a bad birth, say a birth as a
Karma Is
Always Just cripple or a child who dies in infancy. To the Hindu this
is not an accident, but is a natural event brought forth
by the soul itself through the karma of unseemly acts and desires in a
previous life. To the Hindu there is not one force in the universe at work
to make all things good and an opposing force trying to destroy the soul.
No. All is God’s work. All karma is natural and worthy of the soul to
which it comes. ¶The Hindu knows that it is the younger souls who lack
understanding, who cannot live in harmony with others and who shun
the higher forms of culture and faith. Rather than inheriting eternal suf-
fering for their acts, they earn instead another opportunity for experi-
ence, for learning, for evolving. The ideas of sin and evil are different
in Hinduism from the concepts held by Abrahamic religions. If there is
such a thing as sin to the Hindu, it is the breaking of the natural laws, a
lapse in the patterns of karma and dharma, and that transgression brings
its own punishment in the form of an additional karma created to then
be worked out. Thus the Hindu does not live in fear of sin or under the
notion of original sin. We do not look upon humanity as inherently sinful,
but inherently perfect and striving to unfold that perfection from within.
The Hindu knows that we will have as many opportunities as needed to
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refine and evolve our nature—a thousand lives or more if needed. We

don’t have to think that we only have a single chance, a one life in which
everything must be accomplished and all desires must be fulfilled. There-
fore, we are not in a hurry. We are patient. We exhibit more patience with
circumstances than do those who believe in a one life, and we are more
forgiving of ourselves when we fall short. Thus it is that Hinduism offers
a great joy to its followers—a blessing of fearlessness in the face of death,
an assurance of the continuation of consciousness after physical death,
another assurance that each soul creates its own karma and that such
karma is just and right, even when it seems that some people are less
fortunate than others and that fate has unfairly given all the advantages
to a few. All these things are bestowed on Hindus simply because they
understand the doctrine of reincarnation. ¶Hinduism is a hopeful and
comforting religion. Hope for a future life makes this life worthwhile,
joyous, contented and happy, because the Hindu can live and deal with
current problems, knowing that they are transitory problems, that they
will not last forever; nor will they affect us forever. They are problems; we
cannot deny that. But they are problems to be worked out with a positive
attitude and a high energy and a helping hand from our Gods.
The Hindu also wants to improve conditions in the
Wednesday world, in the physical world. We do not look upon all
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that happens to us as unreal. That is a misconception.
The World as
Our Teacher It is real. Life is real. It is through life that we progress.
Life is the means provided by the Primordial God for
finding Reality. True, it is mâyâ. But it is mâyâ in the form of mind, in
the form of form. Mâyâ, or form, or mind, is created for a purpose, to
help man evolve, not to bind him in illusion. The Hindu understands
this. We want to help humanity, and simultaneously we know that we
may well return in another physical body. So we are working not only for
ourselves, but for our loved ones, not only now, but in the future as well.
We are improving the world for future generations in which we will play
a part. ¶Through our knowledge of reincarnation, we have a great love
and understanding for every human being, for they have been our moth-
ers, our fathers, our sons and daughters, our grandparents and compan-
ions in many past lives, or perhaps will be in a future incarnation. This
expanded knowledge of the interrelatedness of humanity brings with it
a deepened appreciation, helping us to understand why it is that some
people seem so close to us though we hardly know them and others are
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strangers or even enemies after years of close association. To the Hindu,

everyone younger is his brother or sister. Everyone older is his mother or
father, and he maintains a deep respect for others. We have this knowl-
edge by having lived through many hundreds of lives on this planet and
having been associated with many thousands of people. We know that in
our current pattern in this life we often attract those to us whom we have
been with in past lives. So we have a great joy and happiness in meet-
ing them again and a deep knowledge of our relationships, our psychic
relationships, with them in past lives. ¶The Hindu believes in the law of
karma, the ability to earn one’s rewards as well as punishments. All this
we can do ourselves with the help of our Gods and our personal relation-
ship with our Ish†a Devatâ, the individual God that we have chosen, or
rather that God who has chosen to love, guide and protect us through
an incarnation. ¶In Hinduism there is no priest standing between the
devotee and God. The priest is a servant of the God, just as is every other
devotee. Even the satguru, the spiritual teacher, does not stand between
the disciple and God, but seeks instead to strengthen the devotee’s direct
experiential relationship with the Divine. The Hindu thus finds a great joy
in his relationship with God and the Gods. It is his relationship, and he
alone is able to perpetuate it. No one can do this work for him or on his
behalf. There is a great happiness there between the devotee and the God
resident in the Hindu temple, which is the communication point with the
God, as is the sacred home shrine.
In our religious life, one of the most fulfilling aspects is
Thursday pilgrimage. We have a joy in looking forward to a spiri-
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tual journey, and we experience a contentment while on
The Joy of
Pilgrimage our pilgrimage and later bask in the glowing aftermath
of the pûjâs. It is like going to see a great friend, a devo-
tee’s most loved friend—the Ish†a Devatâ. We travel to the far-off temple
where this great friend is eminently present. At that particular temple,
this personal God performs a certain function, offers a specific type of
blessing to pilgrims who make the pilgrimage to that home. In this way,
different temples become famous for answering certain types of prayers,
such as requests for financial help, or prayers for the right mate in mar-
riage, prayers to be entrusted with the raising of high-souled children, or
help in matters of yoga, or help in inspiring bhakti and love. ¶The Hindu
does not have the feeling of having to take a vacation to “get away from
it all.” We don’t lead a life of mental confusions, religious contradictions
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and the frustrations that result from modern hurried living. We lead a
moderate life, a religious life. In living a moderate life, we then look at
our pilgrimage as a special moment, a cherished time of setting ordinary
concerns aside and giving full stage to our religious longings. It is a time
to take problems and prayers to our personal God. ¶Unlike the proud
“free thinkers” who deem themselves emancipated, above the religious life,
we Hindus feel that receiving the darßana from the Gods and the help that
comes therein invigorates our being and inspires us to be even more dili-
gent in our spiritual life. Unlike the rationalists who feel confident that
within themselves lie all the resources to meet all needs, and that praying
to Gods for help is a pathetic exercise in futility, the Hindu wisely submits
to the Divine and thus avoids the abyss of disbelief. ¶All in life that one
would want to “get away from” the Hindu takes with him on a pilgrimage
to the temple, to the feet of his personal God, to the inner-plane being
or Mahâdeva, who needs no physical body with which to communicate
with people—to the God who has a nerve system so sensitive and well
developed that as it hovers over the stone image, which looks similar to
how the Deity would look on the inner planes, this being of light can
communicate with the pilgrims who visit the temple. This being of light,
this Mahâdeva, can and does absorb all of the dross the devotees have
to offer, and gives back blessings which bring happiness and release to
them. Thus, the pilgrimage is not travel in the ordinary sense of travel,
but rather going to see a personal friend, one who is nearest and dear-
est, but does not live in a physical body. ¶The Hindu has another great
joy—the certainty of liberation. Even in difficult times, we are solaced
in the knowledge of our religion which tells us that no soul that ever
existed or ever will exist in future extrapolations of time and space will
ever fail to attain liberation. The Hindu knows that all souls will one day
merge into God; and he knows that God, who created all souls, slowly
guides our maturing into His likeness, brings us back to Himself, which
is not separate from ourselves. The Hindu, through striving and personal
development in this life on this planet, knows that liberation into God
is the final goal. This knowing and this belief release us from any ego,
from any superiority by which one person considers himself or herself
as especially meriting God’s grace while others are lost. For the Hindu,
there is an assurance that all souls will eventually enjoy liberation, and
that includes ourselves and all of our friends and family. We need never
fear otherwise.
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Then there is the joy of the mysticism of Hinduism. It is

Friday the world’s most magical religion, offering worlds within
LESSON 250
worlds of esoteric discovery and perception. The inner
The Joy of
Mysticism worlds are what Hindu mystics tell of in the greatest
richness and freedom of expression that exists on the
planet. Mysticism in Hinduism is more out-front than in all the other
religions of the world. As a result, it is enjoyed by more of the people in
our religion. Mysticism is discussed more broadly and not limited to a
few great souls or a handful of pandits. The mysticism of Hinduism is
for all the people; yet, too, in its esoteric aspect it is protected at its core
and kept sacred by being kept secret. How grand is the Hindu mystical
tradition, with its sâdhanas and yogas, with its wealth of understanding
of the etheric bodies, of the nâ∂îs and the chakras, of the aura and the
prâ∫as, of the various states of consciousness and levels of existence, and
so much more. No other religion on the Earth can ever begin to equal
Hinduism’s mystical teachings; all that wealth is the rightful inheritance
of each Hindu. ¶The Hindu enjoys all the facets of life as transmuted into
a religious expression in art. The Hindu’s art is a religious art—drawing,
painting and sculpture of the Gods, the devas, and the saints of our reli-
gion. The music is devotional and depicts the tones of the higher chakras,
echoes the voices of the Gods; and the dance emulates the movements
of the Gods. We are never far away from sights, sounds and symbols of
our religion. A mountaintop represents Lord Íiva; a hill represents Lord
Murugan, Kârttikeya; and sugar cane fields represent Lord Ga∫eßa. Every-
thing that one sees on the planet represents something religious. Art is
not merely for egotistical and existential self-expression, but for spiritual
expression, done consciously in service to the Divine. That is why one
seldom sees or even knows the name of the artist of the great Hindu
artistic creations. The artist is not creating in order to become famous
or rich. He is surrendering his talents, serving his Gods and his religion
through his art, and his art takes on a certain sacredness. ¶One great joy
that the Hindu has is the appreciation for all other religions. Hinduism
is theocentric, that means God-centric, whereas most other religions are
prophet-centric, revolving around the personality of some living person
or some person who once lived in history and interpreted religion to his
culture in his time. Hinduism has no founder. It was never founded. It
has neither a beginning nor an end. It is coexistent with man himself.
That is why it is called the Sanâtana Dharma, the Eternal Path. It is not
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one man’s teaching or interpretation. It is not limited to a single facet of

religion, but consists of the entire spectrum, seen in its various compo-
nents as if through a prism. It does not say that this religion is wrong and
this one right. It sees God everywhere, manifesting all the great religions.
The Hindu can appreciate Buddha without becoming a Buddhist. He
can understand Jesus without becoming a Christian. Therefore, the joys
of all the religions of the world become the joys of the Hindu. ¶But as
Hindus, we must first think of the joys and happiness within our own
religion. Consider our blessings. Come closer to the Gods of our religion.
The many Gods are in the Western world now and have circumferenced
the planet with their ßakti of radiant rays that penetrate with spiritual
power, bringing harmony and culture, balancing out the dharma of the
planet. ¶Hinduism is such a great religion. All practicing Hindus are very
proud of their religion. Unfortunately, these days too many born into the
religion are not all that proud to be Hindus, but this is slowly changing.
Hindus are now welcoming into their religion others who are, of their
own volition, adopting or converting into the Sanâtana Dharma. They
are proud enough of their faith to want others to share its wisdom, its
mysticism, its scriptures, its broadmindedness, its magnificent temples
and its final conclusions for all mankind. To all Hindus, who today are
found in every country on the Earth, I say: Courage! Courage! Courage!
Have the courage to know beyond a doubt that Hinduism is the greatest
religion in the world. We must be proud of this.
It is false to think that one has to be born a Hindu in
Saturday order to be a Hindu. That is a concept postulated by cer-
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tain caste-based Hindu lineages and reinforced by the
Hinduism Can’t
Be Destroyed Christians in their effort to hinder the growth of our
religion, to deprive it of new life, to hold it down while
they in turn try to convert Hindus en masse to their religion. Swami Vive-
kananda (1863‒1902), a Hindu monk and missionary who wrote exten-
sively on the Hindu Dharma, when confronted by this same issue in the
West would explain how Hindus who have been converted by force should
not be denied an opportunity of returning to their ancestral religion. As
for the case of those not born into Hinduism who might be interested
to join it, he simply said, “Why, born aliens have been converted in the
past by crowds, and the process is still going on.” Dr. S. Radhakrishnan
(1888‒1975), the distinguished Hindu philosopher who became the second
president of India, confirms this view in writing, “In a sense, Hinduism
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may be regarded as the first example in the world of a missionary religion.

Only its missionary spirit is different from that associated with the prose-
lytizing creeds. It did not regard as its mission to convert humanity to one
opinion. For what counts is conduct and not belief. The ancient practice
of vrâtyastoma, described fully in the Ta∫∂ya Brâhma∫a, shows that not
only individuals but whole tribes were absorbed into Hinduism.” ¶Dur-
ing the era of India’s domination by alien religions, when Hinduism was
scheduled to be destroyed, the attack was to be carried out in three ways.
The first strategy was to convince the women to abandon their age-old strî
dharma—of maintaining the home, its purity and ways of worship—thus
drawing them away from the household in order to receive a so-called
“higher education” or to teach in alien religious schools, thus denying
future generations the mother’s religious counsel and grounding in the
dharma. The second strategy was to overtly break down the various castes
of temple priests by enticing them to accept other, often higher-paying,
occupations, thus leaving the temples unattended. ¶The third strategy was
to convince Hindus that they had inherited a crude and outdated religion.
This last attack was accomplished mainly through ridicule, by ridiculing
every aspect of the religion that could possibly be ridiculed. For example,
those who slandered Hinduism claimed it has no sacraments. Why, Hin-
duism has more sacraments, more sacred rites and ceremonies for its
members, than perhaps any other religion in the world. These sacraments
include the nâmakara∫a saμskâra, name-giving sacrament; annaprâßana,
first feeding; kar∫avedha, ear-piercing; vidyârambha, commencement of
learning; vivâha, marriage; and many others. ¶Though India was politi-
cally dominated for generations by adherents of alien faiths, and though
every attempt was made to discourage, weaken and crush the native reli-
gion, the carefully calculated, systematic assault failed to destroy Hindu-
ism. Hinduism cannot be destroyed. It is the venerable eternal religion,
the Sanâtana Dharma. But it was an effective campaign that has left in
its wake deep saμskâric patterns, deep subconscious impressions, which
still persist in the minds of the Indian people. It is going to be difficult to
completely eradicate these impressions, but with the help of all the mil-
lions of Hindus throughout the world, in adhering to and extolling the
benefits and joys of Hinduism and the gifts which it holds for mankind,
this is possible and feasible, within the range of accomplishment, perhaps
within this very generation.
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Hindus should freely welcome sincere devotees into

Sunday their religion, not those who already have a firm reli-
LESSON 252
gion and are content, but those who are seeking, who
Bringing In
Ardent Seekers believe, as millions in the West already believe, in the
laws of karma and reincarnation and the existence of
the ever-present God that permeates this planet and the universe. Hin-
dus should freely embrace those who believe in the Gods and all we
have been speaking about earlier, for whom other religious avenues have
proved empty and fruitless. There are certain matured souls for whom
the Sanâtana Dharma can be the only true religion, who have no other
religion and who will seek and seek until they come upon its profound
truths, perhaps in an old scripture, or in a temple sanctum during pûjâ
or in the eyes of an awakened siddha yogî. These souls we must help. We
must teach them of our religion and allow them to fully accept or reject
it, to accept it because they know it, or to reject it because they know it
and are not ready to meet Mahâ Ga∫apati and humbly sit at the feet of
this most profound Lord. ¶There are many lost souls on the planet today
who die in the physical world—lose their physical body—wander on the
astral plane a short time and are caught up immediately in another womb.
They have no knowledge of other states of existence or of the workings of
reincarnation. They have no time for the bliss of these in-between, astral
states. They have no time for assessing their last life and preparing for the
next, which they could then enter with new knowledge, no time for inner
attunement with the Gods in the inner worlds between death and birth.
Instead, they are caught in a constant cycle of flesh, making flesh and liv-
ing in flesh, with the soul being immersed in ignorance and the darkness
of the consciousness of flesh. Hinduism eradicates this cycle by offering
knowledge of the states between life and death and then life again. It cre-
ates deep impressions within the mind of these individuals, which then
bring them out of this syndrome so that they can enjoy months, years,
in fact, of education and knowledge in the inner planes of consciousness
between births, so that they can come back into a physical body a more
awakened soul than when they left their last physical sheath at death.
¶We must not be reluctant to welcome these sincere Hindu souls and to
assist them in finding the answers they seek and do not find elsewhere. It
is our dharma to help them. Hinduism has always welcomed adoptives
and converts. Bring in new people to the religion. Teach them. Help them.
Counsel them. Proceed with confidence. Have courage, courage, courage.
 Dharma Niyatißcha
Dama* inayaitaç

Duty and Destiny

Let there be no neglect of Truth. Let there be no

neglect of dharma. Let there be no neglect of welfare.
Let there be no neglect of prosperity. Let there be no
neglect of study and teaching. Let there be no neglect
of the duties to the Gods and the ancestors.
K®ish∫a Yajur Veda, Taittirîya Upanishad, 1.11.1. bo upr, p. 537
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One of the great joys of Hinduism is dharma. What is

Monday dharma? Dharma is to the individual what its normal
LESSON 253
development is to a seed—the orderly fulfillment of
What Is
Dharma? an inherent nature and destiny. Dharma means merit,
morality, good conduct, religious duty and the way of
life of the wise person. When people fulfill their dharma, they fulfill the
very purpose of their life; and when they act against their dharma, they
create new karmas. Just as we are born in a physical body with a certain
outward appearance, our dharma is a certain accumulated pattern. We
are expected to live through this dharma during a lifetime, understanding
that all persons can be in their rightful place, doing their rightful dharma
at the right time. The Hindu has this understanding. It’s inbred. It offers a
certain contentment in knowing that there is a rightful place for each soul
in this vast universe. ¶Dharma is determined by the accumulated patterns
of karma, the saμskâric reactions to the experiences of karma throughout
all the past lives, the sum of impressions that make up the seeds yet to
be sprouted, which must be worked out through prayer, meditation, sâd-
hana or tapas if they are not beneficial, but allowed to sprout if they are
beneficial. These seeds, all collected together, make up the dharma of each
individual. There are some who do not yet have a precise dharma. They
have not collected up into themselves enough merit or demerit. Their
options are great. They are still making—through their actions—impres-
sions within their own minds in order to gather them together, to firm
up their own mind to form a dharma, to fall into a certain kind of pat-
tern. ¶Dharma is the heritage of all Hindus. It is working for the divine
beings in the Second World and the Gods within the Third World. Hindu
Dharma is working for the Gods, as opposed to working and living for
our own personal wants and needs. Performing one’s dharma properly
is working in harmony with the divine plan of the universe, as laid out
by the Gods. ¶Working for the Gods, being their employee, their servant
or their slave, and not working for one’s personal self, must be the prime
occupation in life, whether the Hindu is a farmer, merchant, soldier or a
king, a peasant, a sâdhu or a ®ishi. All work done in the right conscious-
ness, performing the right dharma, is in service of the Gods and is work
of the Gods by the servants of the Gods. Working for one’s religion, for
A man rakes banyan leaves on the temple steps in Nepal, a humble task which brings him deep
fulfillment. In Hinduism a part of everyone’s duty is seva, selfless service, which includes help-
ing with festival and temple duties, or volunteer work in an âßrama or other holy institution.
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the Deities and the devas, should be our occupation twenty-four hours
a day, every day, during our waking hours on the physical plane and on
the inner astral plane and higher mental planes at night. We should con-
tinue this work with an unbroken continuity. ¶To better understand the
vast concept of dharma, look upon it as the natural process by which the
inherent perfection of the soul is unfolded and realized. An acorn’s natural
pattern is to grow into a mighty oak, but the pattern for a rose is different.
An acorn will never try to become a rose bush. Our good friend, Sita Ram
Goel, once said, “Now I was made to see dharma as a multidimensional
movement of man’s inner law of being, his psychic evolution, his spiritual
growth and his spontaneous building of an outer life for himself and the
community in which he lives.” In contrast, by performing an incorrect
or adharmic pattern in life, the soul0 reaps more karma and is retarded
for perhaps an entire lifetime. We call it righteousness and goodness and
virtue when the dharma of a particular lifetime is performed correctly.
The dharma of a person’s life is set prior to birth accord-
Tuesday ing to the accumulated impressions of all previous lives.
LESSON 254
It is set as the most perfect path toward spiritual perfec-
Unfolding a
Clear Pattern tion in this life. A life spent in creating a new karma
through not fulfilling the ordained pattern of dharma
temporarily retards the soul’s evolution. This retardation may not appear
until future births, seemingly bypassed but not actually bypassed. ¶To
avoid the potential catastrophes of karma, each Hindu must perform
his dharma, live according to the natural Godward path. By following
this important pattern of spiritual unfoldment, the devotee benefits and,
in turn, benefits all others and, most importantly, serves the Gods and
earns good merit, earns their grace and then deserves their boons. When
spiritually awakened, the Hindu offers his every thought, word and deed
in a consciousness of the Divine. All work is done for that high pur-
pose. ¶To know one’s dharma is a clear path. To be uncertain is a path of
confusion. There is one God who knows the patterns of all humankind,
whose superconscious mind is so intricate, encompassing and spanning
the yugas of time, that each path for each individual is known, memo-
rized and recorded indelibly in the inner ether of the âkâßic matter of
His mind. Through the worship of this God, Lord Ga∫eßa, the venerable
pope of the Hindu religion, the individual’s dharmic pattern in this life
is unfolded from within. It becomes clear. It becomes known. It is dif-
ficult for the modern, twenty-first-century Hindu to consciously know
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the correct dharma, but this can be made known to him through the
worship of Lord Ga∫eßa. ¶If someone is not fortunate enough to have
been born into a family that perpetuates the Sanâtana Dharma, then he
must perform sâdhana and offer repeated prayers to this first God, Lord
Ga∫eßa, whom all Hindus invoke before the other Gods and before any
task is undertaken, this God whose knowledge remains supreme, pen-
etrating most deeply through every avenue of the devotee’s mind. Once
the dharma is clear, is known, it must be faithfully performed throughout
the life most willingly, thus destroying the seeds of karma through living
out the pattern without creating a new karma, through performing good
service, accruing good merit in fulfillment of the totalities of all of our
multiple life patterns. This then makes the next life and the one after that
joyous, brings good births well earned and well lived, through the graces
of Mahâ Ga∫apati, Lord Ga∫eßa, who sits upon the four-petaled lotus
mûlâdhâra chakra within the spine of every person. ¶As the divine being
rises within and consciousness expands, a ku∫∂alinî coil is released and
a certain power awakens from deep within. At the same time, conscience
awakens, and the mind emerges into the mûlâdhâra chakra, there to meet
Mahå Ga∫apati, Lord Ga∫eßa, through whose eyes and mind the devotee
enters into the joys and happinesses within the Hindu religion, the birth-
right of all humans. This is how the Sanâtana Dharma perpetuates itself
and progresses from generation to generation, from age to age. Of course,
once well settled into dharma, through Lord Ga∫eßa, we will meet the
other Gods. They will help maintain and fulfill our life in all avenues of
culture and appreciation of that culture. It is only when each individual
finds his own particular pattern in life, and clings to this pattern, that
good future births are assured.
What is a bad birth, one might wonder. It is being born
Wednesday into an area of the mind below the mûlâdhâra chakra
LESSON 255
where the instinctive nature reigns supreme, where the
Help From
The Gods intellectual nature runs amuck by pursuing dead-end
sequences of thought and desire. This is considered a
bad birth. It is where no consciousness of God or of the Gods exists,
where there is no known pattern for life, no dharma, and where little or
no knowledge of the laws of karma and reincarnation survive. This is a
bad birth when within the chakras of our being, the centers of nerve force,
thought and emotion, values of external existence remain supreme, and
the many, many pitfalls of suffering, anguish, confusion, tears and sor-
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row all exist. These areas of consciousness in the lower chakras below the
mûlâdhâra can reap birth after birth and are considered by the Hindu as
births to be avoided. They are avoided through finding and then following
unrelentingly one’s dharma life after life. ¶The Hindu dharma is the clear
pattern within the mind, earning the right to see the cumulative patterns
of the karmas and the impressions of all past existences molded into a one
pattern to be lived out in this life to the benefit of all patterns. Such a life is
the fulfillment of all previous efforts and thus erases the uncompliment-
ary deeds and adds beneficial ones, so a next birth can be most reward-
ingly great and useful to the whole of mankind. This is the evolution of
the soul, and the duty of the great God Ga∫eßa and of the Mahâdevas who
protect the soul, of the devas who guard and guide the soul and of the
®ishis and seers, saints and satgurus who are the guardians of mankind in
this First World existence. ¶They assure that, little by little, this pattern
unfolds through the performance of good dharma, through earning good
karma. It does not take a deep understanding or a tremendous intellect
to find one’s perfect pattern among the many patterns of life. For Hindu
souls, it does require being born into or gaining formal entrance into
the Hindu religion, being properly introduced to the Gods and bearing
the name of one of the Gods as one’s own legal name. Then authority is
given to make clear the pattern for this life, to receive the blessings and the
protection of the benevolent God Ga∫eßa, protector of human evolution.
This is one of the most basic benefits for all Hindus, for then we can serve
the Gods well and work through our karma toward a greater dharma
through working for the Gods. ¶We have one duty to perform, which is
to pass our religion on to the next generation, the next and the next. And
how do we do this? How is this done? It is done by causing the children
to memorize the precepts of our scriptures. Our Íaivite scriptures are the
heritage of the children. They own those scriptures. It is our duty to give
them the scriptures. Among others, we now have the Tirukural in the Eng-
lish language, entitled Weaver’s Wisdom. It must be memorized by them,
by each and every one of them, along with the hundreds of Vedic verses
in Hinduism’s Contemporary Catechism, Dancing with Íiva. The teachings
of our other scriptures should be familiar as well. That establishes them
in their dharma. The sooner we get our scriptures into the minds of the
children, the better we build the children into fine citizens. Crime is very
expensive for any nation. Crime is very expensive for any family, for they
suffer and the individual suffers. Nothing is gained by crime. Good citi-
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zenship comes from a good religious education. A good religious educa-

tion starts with memory, and it is fulfilled in the realms of reason when
the child is older and able to discuss his religion with his elders. We must
educate the youth. We must educate them well in the Íaivite Hindu reli-
gion. Start with the Tirukural. Lord Murugan will help you. God Ga∫eßa
will open doors and give you wisdom of how to proceed. Lord Murugan
will give you the willpower—He is the God of Will—to perform this one
supreme duty, and duty is also dharma, to pass our Íaivite religion on to
the next generation, the next and the next.
We all have our dharma to perform, each and every one
Thursday of us. The child has his dharma to perform as a child.
LESSON 256
Unless the child has early training in his religious life, his
Forces of
Adharma religious patterns are not set firmly. It has to be taught
to respect the dharmic mother and father as the first
gurus. Parents teach mainly by example, and sadly some only teach what
not to do rather than being religious models for their young. They don’t
understand that example is the most powerful and lasting lesson a parent
can give to a child. Later the schoolteacher is the guru, and still later the
satguru is the guru in the strict sense. The satguru more than often has
to undo the erroneous, often angry and violent, examples given by par-
ents and schoolteachers to the young ones, who thus learn of hurtfulness
and anti-religiousness and immoral practices. It is up to the satguru to
help heal the minds of the young of the fear and suppressed anger they
naturally hold against parents who have inflicted emotional and bodily
injury on them until they were physically big enough to resist. ¶There
are a lot of influences in the world which deny dharma, which deny the
Gods and which ignore the temples. You must never allow these worldly
forces to affect you or your family, now or in the future. Don’t let anyone
take your religion away from you. We have to keep developing religion
in our mind. We have to keep learning the language of our soul, which
is one definition of religion. When religion leaves our mind, something
comes in to replace it. What comes into our mind to replace the vacuum
when religion goes? Greed, jealousy, hatred, anger, past regrets, despair,
self-condemnation. We cease to feel good about ourselves. We are always
discontented and restless, and we are always unhappy, jealous, angry and
fretful. These are some of the lower emotions that replace religion when
we allow religion to leave our mind. ¶There are many people in the world
today intent on taking your religion away from you. Íaivites have the
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greatest and philosophically most comprehensive and deeply experiential

religion in the world. Íaivites have moved their religion forward for five to
ten thousand years. At no time in history has the Íaivite religion not been
on this planet. The Tamil people especially have moved the Íaivite religion
forward, year after year after year, through bhakti. And it is your religion.
It is in your DNA, and no one can take that religion away from you. But
you must steel your mind, make your mind strong through knowledge,
through religious education.
When we set our dharma through the personal course of
Friday selecting a profession, we have to be very sure what we
LESSON 257
want to do through life; and it has to be in accordance
Charting
A Course with either strî dharma or purusha dharma to the best
of our knowledge, and all of our family and relatives
have to agree. For when we follow dharma, we are content; everyone in
the community is happy. ¶Now, in this technological era, we have many
choices of dharma. What would be some of them? To become a doctor
would be a dharma, which is helping people, healing people mentally,
emotionally and physically. To perform the dharma of a doctor, not just
eight hours a day, but twenty-four hours a day, we have to be healing.
Then the great healing forces from the great Gods of our religion come
pouring through us, whether we are a medical doctor, an âyurveda healer,
a nutritionist, a surgeon, a psychiatrist, a neurologist, or whatever we
choose in that field as our dharma. This becomes our total pattern to be
lived out in this birth. ¶What upsets dharma and makes karma? When we
make karma, we either make negative burdens for ourselves, or we make
helpful and useful karmas that bring us merit. For a youth to choose to be
a doctor and then, in the middle of his career, decide he doesn’t want to
do that anymore, and make another choice in the middle of his life that
he is going to now be a businessman and run a drugstore because it is
more profitable to go into business—that would be abandoning dharma
and making karma, karma which would have to be lived through, perhaps
in another life. When that doctor made his decision to become a store-
keeper, he started a new dharma, or a new karma, for which he was not
trained from youth. He is, therefore, vulnerable to making many mistakes,
because he has wandered off the pathway of dharma. ¶Why is the world
in such a mess? Because people are not following dharma. They are adhar-
mic. They are not following the path of dharma. They are following the
path of karma, both bad karma and good karma. So, in our religion, the
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Íaivite Hindu religion, we are bound to follow the path of dharma the
best that we can understand it. We know it is unwise to do otherwise. And
who teaches the wisdom of following the path of dharma? The grandfa-
ther, the grandmother, the father, the great uncle, the elders of the com-
munity, the family guru, the temple priest—they know how the dharma
should be followed for a healthy, thriving society. When we make our
choices in life, those choices should have the support of the family and
the community. Then we are in the path of proper dharma, and it is easier
for us to become successful in it since everyone is behind it. It is a difficult
world in which we live, but we can go through it without being harmed by
it by following the path of svadharma, the perfect personal pattern of an
individual’s life. ¶Dharma is something that only the Hindu religion, the
Buddhist religion, the Jain religion, the Sikh religion and other Eastern
religions know about. They know about the path of dharma. The other
religions don’t know too much about that path. But we know about the
path of dharma—our duty to be fulfilled in this life, for family, friends,
relatives, deceased relatives, community, guru and temple. We have, each
and every one of us, a duty to this temple we are sitting in this morn-
ing, to see that it is cared for, supported and kept clean. That is one of
the duties of our dharma. We have a duty to the community. We have a
duty to our mother, duty to our father, duty to our guru, a duty to the
world also. And good, religious people make good citizens of the world.
¶We hear a lot about human rights these days. It was in Sri Lanka in 1949
that I encountered the Eastern vision of human rights, learned that duty
is greater than privilege, service is superior to security. Hindu Dharma
is religion, duty and justice woven together, I discovered. I sometimes
explain it as a simple box of controls which holds the actions of this life
and those that preceded it and their corresponding reactions. Just what is
the Hindu view on human rights? It is the right of all humans to be free
enough to experience their experiences and learn from their ability to
overcome, without holding resentments or indulging in anger, giving out
harsh words, their misdeeds, sins and other wrongdoings and reactions
to their former actions. From a mystical point of view, what happens
to us is important, but not as important as how we react and respond
to things, good or otherwise, that happen to us. The human rights of
Gandhi, Sri Aurobindo, Martin Luther King and Nelson Mandela were
terribly abused, yet they were not destroyed. Let us work for the most
humane of human rights, but also teach that their absence in life need
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not destroy us. Greatness is in accepting whatever comes with open arms.
All this abuse—which does exist despite the wishes of so many that it did
not—can be a blessing when embraced by a pure soul. And we each have
within us the power to accept, a power no one can deprive us of under
any conditions.
I am often asked about var∫a dharma—the social struc-
Saturday ture of four classes and hundreds of subgroups—com-
LESSON 258
monly known as the caste system, established in India in
The Caste
System ancient times. Is the caste system still valid today? Caste—
or at least discrimination on the basis of caste—has been
thrown out of the culture of India, but people still hang on to it as an
ego structure. The high caste people love to hurt the low caste people, so
to speak, by ignoring them, treating them roughly. That’s not the way it
should be. In many areas of the world the caste system is distorted, and
also very strong. If you find the high caste people in your society ignor-
ing and not wanting to speak with and associate with the lower castes,
those are nasty people, and those are people you should avoid. Spiritual
people, even ordinary kindly people, would never think of behaving that
way. ¶The original caste system was based on behavior, as it is now in
countries where there is no overt caste system in effect. Those who beat
their children, those who become angry and jealous, those who live in
fear and those who feign humility are all of the lowest caste. Those who
value memory and reason and use their willpower to benefit others—who
control themselves and run an orderly home, support the temples and
are respected by the lowest castes—are of the business caste. Those who
protect the dharma and preserve the scriptures—who protect the temples
and all the people, those who are respected by the other castes—are of
the princely caste. Those who commune with the Gods and are priests in
the temples—who are the disseminators of the highest knowledge and
respected by all the other castes—are the priestly caste. These four groups
make up a complete society anywhere in the world and at anytime in his-
tory. ¶The original caste system had these four divisions. The divisions
were all based on the ability of the individual to manage his body, his
mind and his emotions properly. If he stopped fulfilling the dharma of
his caste, society would recognize that he had moved from one caste and
was now in another. The original caste system was based on self-discipline
through education and through personal sâdhana. The original caste
system was based on the unfoldment of the consciousness within each
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individual through the fourteen chakras. ¶People everywhere naturally

divide themselves up into castes. We have the workers. You go to work,
you work under somebody else—that happens all over the world—that’s
the ßudra caste. We have the merchants, who are self-motivated. That’s
the vaißya caste. We have the politicians and the lawmakers and the law-
enforcement people. That’s the kshatriya caste. And then you have the
priests, the ministers, the missionaries. That’s the brahmin caste. Every
society has these four castes working within it in one way or another. In
today’s world, if one is not fulfilling the dharma of his born caste, then he
changes castes. For instance, if a brahmin husband and wife are working
eight to fifteen hours a day in a hospital under others, they are no longer
of the brahmin caste, because they are not performing the duties of the
dharma of that caste. They are workers, in the ßudra caste. ¶We can see
around us the deterioration of the system which has been abused beyond
the point of recognition. Members of the brahmin caste are now beat-
ing their children, abusing their wives. Members of the kshatriya caste
disrespect the laws of the land. Members of the business caste are decep-
tive and dishonest. All are confused, living in anger and in jealousy. No
wonder their families break apart and their businesses fail. In the eyes of
the Gods, most of those who adhere to the caste system that exists today
are low caste. This is because they live in lower consciousness. They look
at the world through the windows of the chakras below the mûlâdhâra.
These undeveloped humans are struggling through the lower chakras, try-
ing to get out of the dark worlds of the mind. Let us not be deluded about
what the sapta ®ishis had in mind when they casted humans according to
the soul’s unfoldment in one or more of the fourteen chakras. We should
totally ignore the Hindu caste system as lived in India today and, through
example, show a better and more wholesome path for modern society.
What happens if we follow dharma? The Gods, like our
Sunday Supreme God Íiva, Lord Murugan, Lord Ga∫eßa and
LESSON 259
all the great Gods, reward us by giving us a good birth
Dharma’s
Rewards in the next life. A good birth is to be born into a family
that follows dharma, that is loving and secure. We are
also rewarded by being able to stay in the blissful Devaloka for a long
time between births. We remain in that heaven world, in our etheric body,
to enjoy, learn and gain knowledge and gain advancement for our soul
as we prepare for the next birth on Earth. ¶So, there are great rewards
for following the path of dharma, and there is equally great suffering for
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us if we follow the adharmic path, the path of adharma which creates

kukarma. When we abandon dharma, we open ourselves to confusion,
to self-condemnation. We are open to low-minded feelings, to jealousies
and antagonisms and uncontrollable emotions. Dharma helps us to con-
trol our emotions, and our mind also. Do you want to live in these lower
emotions, out of insecurity, to arouse hatred, jealousy, greed and all the
negative states of mind? Of course not. By following the ancient path of
dharma, we avoid all this suffering and mental pain and bring ourselves
into positive, creative and productive states of consciousness, bringing
us ever closer and closer to the holy feet of God Íiva. ¶We are in a tech-
nological age now. This technological age is fast moving. There are many
temptations. There is television. There is the Internet, and soon things
beyond Internet. There are things to see that children should not perhaps
see at a young age. We must get hold of their minds early, at five years old,
at six years old, at seven years old and cause them to memorize, even if
they do not understand, the couplets of the Tirukural and the ßlokas and
Vedic verses of Dancing with Íiva. Later on, they will be grateful to you
as parents and as elders. Still later on, these children will bless you, and
the blessings of the children will be very comforting in your old age. ¶We
must teach our children that the soul is immortal, created by Lord Íiva
and destined to merge into Him in its absolute fulfillment. We must teach
them about this world we live in and how to make their religion strong
and vibrant in a technological age every day and tomorrow in their life.
This is especially important for those Íaivite families who live beyond the
borders of India and Sri Lanka. Those of you assembled here this morning
are heirs to a rich and stable religious culture. If you stay with your reli-
gion, the future of your children is less uncertain. They will go to universi-
ties in other parts of the world. They will be exposed to the influence of
other religions. They must be so sure of their religion, so knowledgeable
in its tenets, that they can explain it intelligently to anyone and allow them
to accept or reject the tenets of the Íaivite Hindu religion. Send them
as missionaries out into the world, fully informed about Íaivism, our
great God Íiva, Lord Murugan and Lord Ga∫eßa, and you will be doing a
great benefit for the entire world. ¶All Íaivites throughout the world, the
united Íaivites of the world, are linked together in a bond of love—Íiva-
sambandham. God Íiva is immanent love and transcendent reality. Our
religion tells us that the mature soul must lift up and take care of the
young soul. Our religion tells us that we must go through the natural
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experiences of life and be responsible for our actions. Our religion tells
us that there is no mortal sin, only experience. Our religion tells us that if
we have bad experiences, they are the result of previous actions we have
caused. Our religion tells us that if we cause an action toward another
that hurts another, we can atone by doing penance and cure the agonizing
mind. Our religion tells us that we come back into physical bodies again
and again until we are the master of our mind, body and emotions and
realize that we are a brilliant soul filled with light. Our religion tells us
that because we love God Íiva, we love one another, for God Íiva loves
all of us. Our religion tells us that God Íiva is like a father and a mother,
not a vengeful God, but a God of love who helps us. Always come closer
to Him. Right now among the young Hindus in Malaysia, India and Sri
Lanka there is a big spiritual revival of the great love of God Íiva. They
know that they need their religion to help them on through life.
 Karma Chakra
k[ma*ca}a[

The Wheel of Karma

According to one’s deeds, according to one’s behavior,

so one becomes. The one who does good becomes
good, the one who does evil becomes evil. One becomes
virtuous by virtuous action and evil by evil action.
Íukla Yajur Veda, B®ihadâra∫yaka Upanishad, 4.4.5. ve, p. 759
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Every action that we perform in life, every thought that

Monday we think, has its reaction. We may or may not be con-
LESSON 260
scious of the reactions that will result from what we are
We Mold Our
Own Future doing or thinking. Many people spend a great deal of
time acting only with the purpose of covering up the
reactions to prior unsatisfactory actions of their own making. Hurt or
puzzled, they often ask, “Why is this happening to me? What did I do
to attract that? What did I do to cause that? Do I really deserve this? It
doesn’t seem fair!” ¶Were they to become enlightened and find the abil-
ity to live in their own intuitive, superconscious mind, they would see
in that expanded state of consciousness all of the ingredients that came
together out of the forgotten past to create the conditions through which
they are passing in the now. They would observe that every action is like
planting a seed. The fruit of that seed, harvested perhaps years later, is
reaction. Like the seed, actions remain vibrating in the mind until ful-
filled. It is not possible to trace past causes to current effects through
analyzing or through the ordinary processes of reason, which result in
uncertain conjecture. Only superconscious insight can accurately portray
the chain of cause-and-effect relationships as a picture of what is. ¶Thus
the wheel of karma continues, on and on and on, creating and recreating.
The wheel of karma is simply the mechanism of the mind’s action—your
mind, everyone’s mind. Through the study of the wheel of karma, which
is a meditative study, you realize that you have created everything that
is happening or has already happened to you. Everything that is coming
your way in the future you will have created. Everything you will acquire
your own wants will have brought into being. You are right now a sum
total of millions of thoughts, feelings, desires and actions—all of them
yours. Circumstance is not responsible for your condition, for you have
made your circumstances consciously and unconsciously. There are no
outside forces imposing themselves upon you. Whatever you attract to
yourself of the world, though it seems to be external, is but a manifesta-
tion of your own inner nature. You are the author of all of your creations;
and yet in the inner recesses of your being you are already the finished
product at the same time. To understand this fully, you need yoga. ¶The
study of yoga is reserved for the few who have the courage to seek the
After an accident in which she has broken her leg, a woman does not blame God. Though in-
jured and confined to a wheelchair, she knows that this is her self-created karma and trusts that
Lord Íiva will guide her through the experience toward greater maturity and understanding.
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depths of their being, for the few who can overcome their experiences
and their desires in deep meditation. Now, you may meet in your own
subconscious, as soon as you sit down to practice meditation, all of the
worldly desires latent within you, including several of which you perhaps
have no conscious idea. If your meditation is successful, you will be able
to throw out the unnecessary experiences or desires that are consuming
your mind. When you do this and you travel past the world of desire, you
will begin to break free of the wheel of karma which binds you to the spe-
cific reaction which must follow every action. To break free of this wheel
of karma, you must have a strong, one-pointed mind. Your only key to
help you attain this one-pointedness, this steadfastness, is your devotion
to God, your devotion to the realization of the Truth. Few people remain
steadfast enough under all circumstances and tests that life offers to real-
ize the many causes and effects that are linked together in their lives. It is
easy to study the law of karma and to appreciate it philosophically, but
to realize it, to apply it to everything that happens to you, to understand
the workings of it as the day goes by, requires an ability to which you
must awaken. ¶Attachment, desire, craving, fear of loss—these are the
self-created ropes that hold man in bondage to his lower states of mind.
It is because man chooses to live in the ignorance of unfulfilled craving
and unsatisfied desire that he suffers. How many of you have suffered over
something that was anticipated and may never have taken place? You will
remember then waking up out of the dream of your suffering and find-
ing that things were all right after all, and that through your experience
something within you remained the same.
Somewhere the idea was born that man should live in
Tuesday states of happiness and joy all of the time. But, in the
LESSON 261
first place, happiness and joy depend upon unhappi-
The Cause of
Joy and Sorrow ness and sorrow, even to be recognized or appreciated.
If man would only know that whatever emotion tran-
spires within him foreshadows its opposite. Secondly, suffering is a greater
intensity, a higher vibration, than happiness. You do not learn much from
your happinesses; you learn from the states of suffering, which awaken the
higher consciousness of your soul. But suffering has no value for its own
sake. When the mind recognizes it is suffering over something or other, it
is time to practice meditation, to see into the causes, to expand your con-
sciousness a little bit more so that you will grasp the workings of life and
its karmic laws. Then you will attain to a greater intensity than either joy
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or suffering has to offer. You will view the wheel of life, of cause and effect,
objectively. And you will not so quickly identify yourself with the lower
emotions or the objects of your own mind’s creation. ¶Then there are the
people who, like a fish caught by a fisherman, grasp onto the hook, who
step on the spiritual path, but spend their time flip-flopping in the water,
tugging at the line, swimming first one way then the other, never really
approaching the surface. Why? They live in their ego, that’s all. Their con-
sciousness is limited. The ego is just a trifle dumb. Have you observed an
egotistical person? He is just a little dumb, isn’t he—not aware of the lay-
ers and layers of wisdom within him. ¶It is the wise man who recognizes
the importance of controlling the forces of his mind. His life is a struggle
to make his philosophy real, to gain control of the cycles of experience
which have tied him to the wheel of karma. You don’t escape the chain
of cause and effect by just sitting with your eyes closed, trying to keep
awake, trying to meditate. The genuine practice of yoga involves meet-
ing new challenges each day, having new realizations each day, becoming
the boss of your mind, not allowing it to flop around at the end of the
line. This type of diligent concentration will definitely change you from
the inside out. You will begin to realize, more and more, that you are the
creator of your life and every aspect of it. ¶But your incarnation on this
planet is not complete until you have exhausted the wheel of karma, and
it will not exhaust itself unless you gain control of it. The wheel of karma,
of cause and effect, the world of form, is apparent only when you look
at it. You only attain the natural state of your radiant inner being when
you step off the wheel of karma. It is not natural for man to live bound
to the lower states of mind, ignorant of the fact that God dwells within.
But the hearing and understanding of this truth is only the first glimmer
of the dawn, a preliminary awakening. The rest, the final realization, is
up to you. It is up to you and you alone to penetrate the veil of illusion
and realize the Self, the Absolute, beyond desire, beyond the experiences
of the mind. It is up to you to realize God.
If difficult things are happening to you and your mind
Wednesday is disturbed because of them and you have mental argu-
LESSON 262
ments within you because you can’t accept your own
How to Face
Your Karma karma, go to the feet of Lord Íiva in your mind, go to
the feet of Lord Íiva in the temple with your physical
body, and beg for the intelligence to place yourself firmly on the path
of Sanâtana Dharma. ¶Though it is true that we must work through all
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aspects and phases of past actions, there are ways of becoming excused
from the punishments that drastic actions of the past impose upon the
future. These ways are grace, sâdhana, tapas and atonement through pen-
ance and the performance of good deeds, thus acquiring merit which
registers as a new and positive karma, alleviating the heaviness of some
of our past karma. Through seeking grace and through receiving it by
performing sâdhana and tapas and the doing of penance, the karmas are
in themselves speeded up. The going through and meeting and reaping
of rewards as well as displeasures embodied in past karma in the present
is accelerated through these self-imposed actions. Therefore, the sages say,
“Bear your karma cheerfully.” And as the seeking of Self commences, the
karma unfolds in all of its hideousness and glory, to be seen before the
single eye and not reacted to by even a tremor within this physical and
astral nerve system. The yoga must be that strong. Each time you blame
another person for what has happened to you, or cast blame in any way,
tell yourself, “This is my karma which I was born to face. I did not come
into a physical body just to blame others for what happens to me. I was
not born to live in a state of ignorance created by an inability to face my
karma. I came here to spiritually unfold, to accept the karmas of this and
all my past lives and to deal with them and handle them in a proper and
a wonderful way.” ¶Humility is intelligence; arrogance is ignorance. To
accept one’s karma and the responsibility for one’s actions is strength. To
blame another is weakness and foolishness. Let’s begin by not advertising
our ignorance. If you must blame what happens to you on your friend,
your neighbor, your country, your community or the world, don’t adver-
tise it by speaking about it. Keep that ignorance to yourself. Limit it to
the realm of thought. Harness your speech and at the same time work to
remold your thinking and retrain your subconscious to actually accept
this basic premise of Íaiva Siddhânta.
If you take responsibility for all that happens to you, then
Thursday you will have the power to deal with your karma through
LESSON 263
the grace of Lord Íiva. He will give you the intelligence
Take Full
Responsibility to deal with it as you worship Him in the Íiva temple,
contact Him within as the Life of your life and find Him
in meditation. Let’s take an example. Say I am holding a plate of rice and
curry and I pass it to you. All of a sudden the plate drops on the floor
between us. I blame you, and you blame me. I don’t want to be respon-
sible for dropping the rice and curry, and you don’t want to be responsible
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either. So, we blame each other. The rice and curry is scattered there on
the floor. No one is going to clean it up until one of us takes responsi-
bility and says, “I’m sorry I dropped the plate of rice and curry,” and
gets down on hands and knees and cleans it up. In the same way, only
by taking responsibility, by recognizing what we have done as our own
doing, can we begin cleaning up the results of our actions. Those who
do take responsibility for their own karma have all the help in the world.
¶Pride, arrogance and an ungiving nature are characteristics of those who
don’t believe in the law of karma. These are qualities of those who do not
take responsibility for their actions. They blame everything on someone
or something other than themselves. This includes their mistakes and
every unpleasant thing that has ever happened to them, is happening to
them or may happen to them in the future. They live in the fears and the
resentments born of their own ignorance. ¶Only through being born in
a physical body can you experience certain kinds of karmas which cannot
be fulfilled or experienced in your etheric/astral body. Therefore, between
births those physical-body karmas live in seed form. Only in a physical
body do you have all of the chakras functioning that will allow those kar-
mas to manifest and be dealt with. Each birth is thus a precious window
of opportunity. For heaven’s sake don’t blame your karma on somebody
else and seek to escape from what you were born to deal with. That is
the height of foolishness. Stop blaming and criticizing others, and take a
good look at yourself. Stop excusing yourself and trying to make yourself
look good in the eyes of others. Then a sense of strength will come up
within you, a sense of independence and peace. Mental arguments will
stop. Arrogance will vanish. Pride won’t be there anymore. You will be a
full person. All of your chakras will function properly. Your nerve system
will quiet down, and intuitively you will be able to bear up under your
karmas and deal with them positively. If it is your karma to be poor in this
life, you will be rich by living within the income that you have. You will be
content by having desires that you can afford. We make ourselves discon-
tented, we make ourselves unhappy, we make ourselves useless creatures
on this planet by allowing ourselves to live in an ignorant state.
What do we mean when we say there is no good and
Friday no bad, only experience? We mean that in the highest
LESSON 264
sense, there is no good and bad karma; there is self-cre-
Good and Bad;
Like Attracts Like ated experience that presents opportunities for spiritual
advancement. If we can’t draw lessons from the karma,
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then we resist or resent it, lashing out with mental, emotional or physical
force. The original substance of that karma is spent and no longer exists,
but our current reaction creates a new condition of harsh karma to face
in the future. As long as we react to karma, we must repeat it. That is
the law.¶Good or bad is just a door, going one way or the other. So I say,
“There is no good, there is no bad; there is just a swinging door.” Good
deeds siphon the collective good deeds of other good deeds. When the
door swings the other way, mistakes siphon the results of past mistakes.
Hatreds, the accumulated results of hating, are pulled up from way down
there. Thus, one of the major keys to understanding the importance of
good conduct relates to the release of seed karmas. Performing dharma—
acting with correct thought, word and deed—siphons the results of previ-
ous patterns of behavior from the past and causes those seeds to sprout
in this life. Like attracts like. These patterns then aid the individual by
bestowing clarity of mind and a life in which yoga can be performed
and truth sought. In the practice of yoga, the negative seed karmas can
actually be burned up without ever having to be lived through. ¶Con-
versely, adharma—wrong thought, word and deed—siphons the results
of past misdeeds, like attracting like. These seed karmas begin to bear
bitter fruit, resulting in a miserable life and state of mind. The individual
is immersed in confusion, wrong patterns of thought and is, of course, in
no position to practice yoga, follow dharma or realize truth. He is simply
immersed in saμsâra. ¶In His own way, Íiva is bringing you into realiza-
tion, into knowledge of yourself and of Him. He has given you the world
of experience. Study your experience. Learn from your experience. If it is
painful, that is also good. In the fires of experience, which are both pain
and pleasure, you are being purified. It is Íiva’s duty to bring you forward
into the fullness of yourself. In doing so, you must go through much
pain, through much joy. Both register on the scale as the same intensity
of emotion. It is what caused it that makes one more pleasurable than
another. Don’t be afraid of experience, and don’t be afraid to go through
your karma. Go through it with courage. ¶Of course, you can minimize
reactions to unhappy experiences by performing selfless service, which
will create good karma. This is what you have to do to progress your spir-
itual life. Moksha—enlightenment and liberation from rebirth—is the
ultimate goal of all souls. The exit is through the crown chakra. Go for-
ward without fear.
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Karma is threefold: sañchita, prârabdha and kriyamâna.

Saturday Sañchita karma means “accumulated actions.” It is the
LESSON 265
sum of all karmas of this life and our past lives. Prârab-
Three Kinds
Of Karma dha karma means “actions begun; set in motion.” It is
that portion of sañchita karma that is bearing fruit and
shaping the events and conditions of the current life, including the nature
of our bodies, personal tendencies and associations. Kriyamâna karma
means “actions being made.” It is the karma we create and add to sañchita
in this life by our thoughts, words and actions, or in the inner worlds
between lives. While some kriyamâna karmas bear fruit in the current
life, others are stored for future births. Each of these three types can be
divided into two categories: ârabdha (“begun, undertaken;” karma that
is “sprouting”), and anârabdha (“not commenced; dormant”), or “seed
karma.” ¶In a famed analogy, karma is compared to rice in its various
stages. Sañchita karma, the residue of one’s total accumulated actions, is
likened to rice that has been harvested and stored in a granary. From
the stored rice, a small portion has been removed, husked and readied
for cooking and eating. This is prârabdha karma, past actions that are
shaping the events of the present. Meanwhile, new rice, mainly from the
most recent harvest of prârabdha karma, is being planted that will yield
a future crop and be added to the store of rice. This is kriyamâna karma,
the consequences of current actions. ¶Prârabdha karma determines the
time of birth, which dictates one’s astrology, which in turn delineates the
individual life pattern by influencing the release of these karmas. Three
factors are fundamental: the nature of one’s birth, the length of life and
the nature of experiential patterns. Dormant sañchita karma, while not
directly being acted upon, is a weighty and compelling force of potential
energy, be it benign or gross, good or bad, slothful or inspirational. It
is this dormant karma that explains why two people born at the same
moment, and who thus have the same astrology, differ in their talents and
tendencies. It is this held-back force of sañchita karma that the yogî seeks
to burn out with his ku∫∂alinî flame, to disempower it within the karmic
reservoir of ânandamaya koßa, the soul body. ¶Astrologers who under-
stand karma well emphasize that one can influence his or her dormant
sañchita karma. Further, one does have power over karmas being made, kri-
yamâna. But karmas set in motion, prârabdha, are binding. They form the
gridwork of life and must be lived through. Facing them positively is the
key to their resolution. Fighting them through resentment and the release
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of other negative emotions only creates more unseemly sañchita karma for
the future. The law is: we must accept and bear our karma cheerfully.
On resolving karma, our friend Tiru M. Arunachalam
Sunday wrote, “Nonattachment to the fruits of action stops kri-
LESSON 266
yamâna from accumulating. Prârabdha is experienced
Intricacies
Of the Law and ceases with this birth; and sañchita is burnt away by
the dîkshâ of the guru.” It is the satguru who holds the
power to mitigate and redirect a person’s karma. The guru always sees
the good in a person and encourages that goodness. With his author-
ity, this automatically mitigates the detrimental areas the person could
fall into because of his past actions. ¶Naturally, karma also determines
the circumstance of one’s life in the Antarloka after death. The infallible
law of karma continues for disembodied souls between births, though
many karmas can only be fulfilled in physical incarnation. Thus, Earth is
called Karma-kshetra, “arena of karma.” Karma is also binding, to vary-
ing degrees, for those who have attained moksha and are living in the
Antarloka and for those who have attained residency in the Íivaloka until
vißvagrâsa, ultimate merger in the Primal Soul, Parameßvara. ¶Prârabdha
karmas fructify in a given lifetime, fortified by the ripe karmas that are
experienced in the in-between. Some of what is learned in the Antarloka
is used in the next birth, to know how to best face the prârabdha karmas as
they manifest. Some of what is learned will only be used in future births.
Karma made in the Antarloka, positive or negative, is added into the big
sañchita basket; and, of course, some of it also bears fruit. ¶All karmas are
either ripe or unripe, ready or unready. Of the prârabdha karmas that one
is born with, some are immediately released, and others will be ready only
in later years of life. This is why if a person commits suicide, the repercus-
sions are drastic, because he has blocked and interrupted the fulfillment
of the prârabdha karmas that he had set about to consume in this birth.
Then it is like a string hopper in the inner worlds that must be unraveled
when he arrives there unexpectedly. ¶The prârabdha karmas, as they ripen,
open up as you go on through life. Similarly, of the kriyamâna karmas cre-
ated, some are ripe and some are not ripe. Some immediately bear fruit
and are consumed in this life. Others go to seed and enter the big sañchita
karma bank to be experienced in future births as prârabdha karma. What-
ever is not experienced and resolved in the current life is taken by you to
the inner world as a basket of seeds. A mystical person who knows he is
going to incarnate again can work on these seeds consciously.
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 Hiμsâ na Kartavyâ
ih\sa na k[ta*vyaa

To Do No Harm

Peace be to earth and to airy spaces! Peace be to

heaven, peace to the waters, peace to the plants and
peace to the trees! May all the Gods grant to me peace!
By this invocation of peace may peace be diffused!
By this invocation of peace may peace bring peace!
With this peace the dreadful I now appease, with this
peace the cruel I now appease. With this peace all
evil I now appease, so that peace may prevail, hap-
piness prevail! May everything for us be peaceful!
Atharva Veda 19.9.14. ve, p. 306
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Hindu wisdom, which inspires humans to live the ide-

Monday als of compassion and nonviolence, is captured in one
LESSON 267
word, ahiμsâ. In Sanskrit hiμsâ is doing harm or caus-
The Hindu Way:
To Do No Harm ing injury. The “a” placed before the word negates it.
Very simply, ahiμsâ is abstaining from causing harm
or injury. It is gentleness and noninjury, whether physical, mental or
emotional. It is good to know that nonviolence speaks only to the most
extreme forms of forceful wrongdoing, while ahiμsâ goes much deeper
to prohibit even the subtle abuse and the simple hurt. ¶In his commen-
tary on the Yoga Sûtras, Sage Vyasa defines ahiμsâ as “the absence of
injuriousness (anabhidroha) toward all living beings (sarvabhuta) in all
respects (sarvatha) and for all times (sarvada).” He noted that a person
who draws near one engaged in the true practice of ahiμsâ would be
freed from all enmity. Similarly, Patanjali (ca 200 bce) regards ahiμsâ
as the yogî’s mahâvrata, the great vow and foremost spiritual discipline,
which those seeking Truth must follow strictly and without fail. This was
not meant merely to condemn killing, but extended to harm caused by
one’s thoughts, words and deeds of all kinds—including injury to the
natural environment. Even the intent to injure, even violence committed
in a dream, is a violation of the principle of ahiμsâ. ¶Every belief creates
certain attitudes. Those attitudes govern all of our actions. Man’s actions
can thus be traced to his inmost beliefs about himself and about the
world around him. If those beliefs are erroneous, his actions will not be
in tune with the universal dharma. For instance, the belief in the existence
of an all-pervasive Divinity throughout the universe creates an attitude
of reverence, benevolence and compassion for all animate and inanimate
beings. The natural consequence of this belief is ahiμsâ, nonhurtfulness.
The belief in the duality of heaven and hell, the light forces and the dark
forces, creates the attitude that we must be on our guard, and that we are
justified in inflicting injury, physically and emotionally, on others whom
we judge to be bad, pagan or unworthy for other reasons. Such thinking
leads to rationalizing so-called righteous wars and conflicts. We can sum
this up from the Hindu, Buddhist and Jain traditions: ahiμsâ is higher
consciousness, and hiμsâ, hurtfulness, is lower consciousness. ¶Devout
Hindus oppose killing for several reasons. Belief in karma and reincar-
A hunter has stalked a few wild deer in the forest and is preparing to kill them for sport. His
friend grabs the rifle, urging him to honor the life in these beautiful animals and to desist from
the hunt, letting the deer live in peace.
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nation are strong forces at work in the Hindu mind. They full well know
that any thought, feeling or action sent out from themself to another will
return to them through yet another in equal or amplified intensity. What
we have done to others will be done to us, if not in this life then in another.
The Hindu is thoroughly convinced that violence which he commits will
return to him by a cosmic process that is unerring. Two thousand years
ago South India’s weaver saint Tiruvalluvar said it so simply, “All suffer-
ing recoils on the wrongdoer himself. Thus, those desiring not to suffer
refrain from causing others pain” (Tirukural 320). A similar view can be
found in the Jain Acharâˆga Sûtra: “To do harm to others is to do harm to
oneself. You are he whom you intend to kill. You are he whom you intend
to dominate. We corrupt ourselves as soon as we intend to corrupt others.
We kill ourselves as soon as we intend to kill others.”
So many today are wondering how we might move from
Tuesday violence to nonviolence, how mankind might transform
LESSON 268
itself from approval of killing to opposition to it. There
From Violence
To Nonviolence are millions of Hindus who are born into the Hindu
religion because their parents and forefathers profess that
faith, but who are not educated in the beliefs that will produce proper
attitudes. Because they are Hindus, their desire to pursue the depth of
their religion wells up often in later life. Through soul-searching, self-
examination and psychological overhaul—not without a lot of mental
pain attached—the old beliefs are replaced with new ones. A conversion
has taken place within the subconscious mind. The computer program
within the mûlâdhâra chakra, which contains the memories of the deepest
past, has been updated. Through this process, the meat-eater becomes a
vegetarian, a hurtful person becomes kindly, hiμsâ becomes ahiμsâ. ¶The
Hindu knows that at this time on this planet those of the lower nature,
unevolved people, are society’s antagonists. Being unevolved, they are of
the lower nature, instinctive, self-assertive, confused, possessive and pro-
tective of their immediate environment. Others are their enemies. They
are jealous, angry, fearful. Many take sport in killing for the sake of killing,
thieving for the sake of theft, even if they do not need or use the spoils.
This is the lower nature, and it is equally distributed among the peoples
of the world, in every nation, society and neighborhood. Those of the
higher nature—ten, fifteen or twenty percent of the population—live in
protective environments. Their occupation is research, memory, educa-
tion, which is reason; moving the world’s goods here and there, which
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is will. Those of yet an even higher nature delve into the mysteries of
the universe, and others work for universal peace and love on Earth, as
groups and individuals. The Hindu knows that those of the lower nature
will slowly, eventually, over an experiential period of time, come into the
higher nature, and that those of the higher nature, who have worked so
hard to get there, will avoid the lower nature and not allow themselves
to be caught up in it again. Hindus believe in the progress of human-
ity, from an old age into a new age, from darkness into a consciousness
of divine light. ¶Humans are essentially instinctive, intellectual and
superconscious, or soul, persons. The instinctive nature is based on good
and bad, mine and yours, up and down, pairs of opposites. The soul
nature is based on oneness, humility, peace, compassion, love, helpful-
ness. The intellectual nature is based on trying to figure out both of these
two. It juggles knowledge from the lower nature to the higher nature and
from the higher nature to the lower nature. It works out formulas, finds
solutions and processes knowledge. The key is yoga, yoking the energies
of the soul with the energies of the physical body (the instinctive nature)
and yoking the energies of the soul with the energies of the mind (the
intellectual nature). Then, simply, one becomes consciously conscious in
the soul. This is an experience to be experienced, and for the Hindu it is
personal experience of God, which is essential for liberation. The Hindu
strives to be consciously conscious of his soul. When those soulful quali-
ties are unfolded, he is filled with a divine love and would not hurt a flea
if he could help it. The Yajur Veda exclaims, “May all beings regard me
with friendly eyes! May I look upon all creatures with friendly eyes! With
a friend’s eye may we regard each other!” (36.18. ve, p. 342)
What’s the best way to teach peace to the world? The best
Wednesday way is to first teach families to be peaceful within their
LESSON 269
own home, to settle all arguments and contention before
Peace Begins
In the Home they sleep at night, even if they stay up for three days, so
the children can see that peace can be attained and then
maintained through the use of intelligence. Humans do not have horns
or claws; nor do they have sharp teeth. Their weapon is their intelligence.
Children must be taught through the example of parents and by learning
the undeniable facts of life, the basic tenets—that an all-pervasive force
holds this universe together, that we create with this force every minute,
every hour, every day, and because time is a cycle, what we create comes
back to us. Therefore, because we create in a physical universe while in a
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physical body, we must return to a physical body, in a new life after death,
to face up to our creations, good, bad or mixed. Once they learn this,
they are winners. It is up to the parents to create the peacemakers of the
future. It is always up to the parents. And remember, we teach children
in only one way—by our own example. ¶Parents must teach children to
appreciate those who are different, those who believe differently; teach
them the openness that they need to live in a pluralistic world where oth-
ers have their unique ways, their life and culture; teach them the value of
human diversity and the narrow-mindedness of a provincial outlook; give
them the tools to live in a world of differences without feeling threatened,
without forcing their ways or their will on others; teach them that it never
helps to hurt another of our brothers or sisters. The Atharva Veda intones:
“Peace be to the Earth and to airy spaces! Peace be to heaven, peace to
the waters, peace to the plants and peace to the trees! May all Gods grant
to me peace! By this invocation of peace may peace be diffused” (19.9.14.
ve, p. 306). ¶When the injustice of killing happens no more, then and
only then will the next yuga or human epoch commence in its fullness.
The far-seeing ®ishis of our religion have predicted what we see today, so
today is no worry to us. But the Hindu is bound by his intelligence to pass
along to the next generation methods of improvement, pointing out the
errors made in the past and outlining better directions for the future. A
Hindu’s method of saving the world is lifting up each individual within
it and putting an end to the war in the home between parent and parent
on the one hand, and parents and their offspring on the other. Ending
the war in the home is the solution to ending the conflict in surrounding
communities and, finally, wars between nations. A home where ahiμsâ
abides is truly a home.
An individual can find total peace within himself, not
Thursday through meditation alone—though peaceful actions
LESSON 270
must follow introspection—not through drugs, not
Finding
Personal Peace through psychology or psychiatry, but through control.
Peace is the natural state of the mind. It is there, inside,
to be discovered in meditation and then radiated out to others. How do
we bring individuals to this point? Let them go for one year without expe-
riencing confusion in their thinking, covetousness of another’s goods,
even the urge to be hurtful to solve a problem, and not experiencing fear,
anger or jealousy. After that year, they will be very peaceful persons. This
is because of the soul knowledge they will have gained in overcoming
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these base instinctive forces, which will release their consciousness to the
natural peace of the higher mind. ¶If the educational system promotes
it in every community, the greatest potential for peace will be achieved.
The educational system is controlled by the adults, so they have to come
to terms with the fact that they must not be hurtful, physically, mentally
or emotionally, and they must accept the basic principles of the Sanâtana
Dharma: all-pervasive energy, cause and effect, and coming back in a
physical birth until all scores are settled. Once the adults accomplish this,
these basic principles of life will naturally be passed on to the next gen-
eration. ¶But the fact is that even though mature souls may have achieved
peace, others are coming up through the instinctive nature. In a complete
humanity, there are always those of higher consciousness and those of
lower consciousness. At this time on the planet it is the intrinsic duty
of higher-consciousness people to be more self-assertive, let their voices
be heard and take up the banner in a heroic way, join committees, enter
government, while at the same time maintaining the peace within their
own home and holding a benign reverence for all living beings. As the
vibration of planet Earth changes, the mood of the people will change.
¶Ahiμsâ begins in the home, in the bedroom, in the kitchen, in the gar-
den, in the living room. When hiμsâ, harmfulness, arises in the home,
it must be settled before sleep, or else those v®ittis, those waves of the
mind, which were disturbed by the creation of the situation will go to
seed, to erupt at a later time in life. We cannot expect the children to
control themselves if the parents do not control themselves. Those who
attain a personal peace by controlling their instinctive nature become the
spiritual leaders of human society. People who do become these lead-
ers retroactively control the masses because of their spirit, their soul
force—not because of their mind force, their cleverness, their deceptions,
their political power, their money or contacts. They are the people in the
higher consciousness who control lower consciousness by lifting up the
masses, as parents are supposed to uplift their children. ¶Achieving a
nonviolent world would simply mean that all individuals have to some-
how or other reconcile their differences enough that the stress those dif-
ferences produce can no longer take over their mind, body and emotions,
causing them to perform injurious acts. Again, this would begin in the
home. Peaceful homes breed gentle people. Gentle people follow ahiμsâ.
Furthermore, the belief structure of each individual must allow for the
acceptance of the eternal truths—returning to flesh to reabsorb back the
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karmic energies released in a previous life, and of course, the belief in the
existence of an all-pervading power. As long as our beliefs are dualistic,
we will continue to generate antagonism, and that will erupt here and
there in violence. ¶At an international and national level, we must become
more tolerant. Religious leaders and their congregations need to learn and
teach tolerance for everyone and everything, and for other faiths. First
this must be taught to the religious leaders themselves, the ministers, rab-
bis, imams, ®ishis, swâmîs, âchâryas, bhikkus, sants and priests. Tolerance
and intolerance are basic attitudes found in our belief systems. These are
things that one can learn. In our various nations, in the United Nations
and other world organizations we can promote laws which recognize and
take action against crimes of violence. The world must as a body come to
the conclusion that such crimes are totally unacceptable. To abhor vio-
lence is a state of higher consciousness.
What is it that causes someone who was previously
Friday violent to become nonviolent? It is a matter of realiz-
LESSON 271
ing what life is really all about and how harming others
Avenues of
Transformation violates our own inner being. When an injurious act is
committed, it makes a mark deep within the mind of
the violator. Those individuals who become penitent bring higher ener-
gies into themselves, and these energies slowly heal this mark. But there is
more to it than this. Certain kinds of spiritual therapy must go along with
the penitent mood for a total healing to occur, which would be absolution.
This therapy is finding a way to pay back society for the harm caused in
that act of violence. It may be working as a nurse’s aid or as a volunteer
to help in the healing of people who have been victimized by the violent
acts of others. The modern laws of community service are good, but for
a total healing and change of heart, the service to the community should
be directly related to the actual crime the person committed. Finally, over
a long period of time, if the matter is totally resolved in the mind of the
person and those who know him, then he would be as much a nonviolent
person as he was previously a violent person. ¶Personal revelations or real-
izations can also bring about a transformation. One example that people
are familiar with is the experience of astronauts who have orbited Earth.
From their cosmic perspective they saw no borders, no divisions, only a
one small planet, and this has tended to make them peacemakers. Their
journey in space has been called “the overview effect” and would indeed
be a revelation of higher consciousness. In deep states of consciousness
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such visions also happen and do change peoples’ lives. But contempla-
tive experiences come, for the most part, to contemplative people. And if
we are referring to meditation and yogic practices here, they should not
be performed by angry people, jealous people, confused people, lest the
uplifted energies plummet and intensify the anger and other aspects of
the lower nature. The better way would be for the angry, violent person to
become religious and consistently do small religious acts, for these despi-
cables will get their solace through remorse, repentance, reconciliation
and finally absolution. Even the Gods will not, unless invoked, interfere
and penetrate the sunken depths in which they live, in the chakras below
the mûlâdhâra, in the lower part of the body, down to the feet, chakras
which spin counterclockwise. ¶Many people do have life-transforming
mystical experiences, such as a soldier on a battlefield or someone who
nearly dies. These experiences can also change our view of the universe.
But transforming experiences generally come to really nice people, people
endowed with love and trust. Maybe they are not too intelligent and get
drawn into situations where they are overtaken by a fit of temper. But
their remorse is immediate. A contrite or penitent reaction to hurting
others is the sign of a higher-consciousness person. Maybe the karma
the person caused is heavy, but his soul goes to work on the situation,
and the healing process starts within his mind. Possibly the intensity of
the violent mishap, which we might say is an uncontrolled mishap, itself
creates a deep remorse which catalyzes the big awakening into higher
consciousness. ¶We Hindus would look at that as a grace from the guru or
a boon from the Gods, coming unbidden in the form of an inner revela-
tion, bringing with it more permanent contact with inner-plane beings.
This inner contact with greater beings, and the revelation they bestow,
shortens the time sequence of the act and the absolution, which in some
cases might take years, if someone was penitent, seeking atonement and
absolution.
Ahiμsâ, nonhurtfulness, is the essence of dharma, and
Saturday the mûlâdhâra chakra sets the pattern of dharma. The
LESSON 272
mûlâdhâra chakra is a very interesting chakra, because
The Evolution
Of Humanness it is the base center of energy and consciousness, and
consciousness is energy, ever creating, preserving and
absorbing. Karma is the self-perpetuating principle of cause and effect,
shaping our experiences as a result of how we use our energies, mentally,
verbally or physically. So, once we narrow down the individual awareness
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from freedom without responsibility, which is the lower nature, into the
consciousness of freedom with responsibility, which is the higher nature,
the individual awareness, or consciousness, must pass through the portals
of the mûlâdhâra chakra and rest comfortably within the energies of its
four petals. Four petals, of course, form a square. Three dimensionally,
two squares put together with a space between can well be defined as a
box. This box is defined as dharma. ¶Briefly, at this point on the path to
enlightenment we put our cumulative karmas into a box called dharma.
Once encased within dharma, the various karmas may fight each other.
As the individual progresses on the path, the box lightens and rises. The
box of dharma is the base from which the aspirant must live at this point.
Strictly contained, he may rise through the hole in the top of the box in
consciousness, or open a hole in the bottom of the box and seek freedom
without responsibility in the world of darkness. To seek freedom in the
chakras above is the San Mârga. To seal off the hole at the bottom of the
box is his sâdhana, penitent tapas, japa, bhakti and Sivathondu, all of
which is eloquently explained in Merging with Íiva. ¶Who holds the lid
on the box? Community, community pressures, both religious and secu-
lar. There are certain things you can do and certain things you can’t do.
The stronger ahiμsâ becomes at the family level, the more subtle it gets,
and the violence gets more subtle, too. A careless word can cut the heart
of someone you love, but someone not loved may not be wounded by
anything less sharp than a knife. ¶Someone asks, “I am trying to seal off
the chakras below the mûlâdhâra, but whenever a trying situation comes
up, the feelings of resentment and retaliation are paramount. What can
I do?” When the feelings that come up amplify resentment, squelch rea-
son and paralyze memory, we must assume that the box of dharma is
empty and does not contain the cumulative sukarmas and kukarmas of
this and past lives (the kriyamâna and prârabdha karmas), and that he
is not bound by dharma at all, or that it has no influence in guiding his
future karmas. There are no excuses on this path. This means that the
person has really not yet come to Lord Ga∫eßa’s feet. Therefore, vrata—he
must take a vow and live up to it. ¶Ahiμsâ is a vrata. Rishi Patanjali called
it the mahâvrata, or great oath. When it is not lived up to, there are con-
sequences. Remorse must be felt, apologies made, penance endured and
reconciliation accomplished. The ego experiences embarrassment. All this
and more occurs, depending on the individual’s sincerity, steadfastness
and resolve never to reenter the lower nature of hiμsâ, hurtfulness, again.
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¶Those who have found it necessary to take the mahâvrata of ahiμsâ

and are prepared to make amends if they do not live up to it are well on
their way to entering the mûlâdhâra and svâdhish†hâna consciousness.
Being penitent is rising to reason and remembering the dharma. Being
belligerent is lowering to selfishness and, through confusion and anger,
attaining his wants. To proceed further, he has to listen to the wise, listen
to the swâmîs, read scripture, perform bhakti and do Sivathondu, selfless
service. Those who remain prone to anger should not do râja yoga or
any form of intensive mantra, japa, or prâ∫âyâma amplification of the
energies into higher chakras—lest that collective energy plummet into
the corresponding lower chakras and be vented through fear, anger and
jealousy. ¶The fourteen chakras have been described as a pole one must
climb. The pole is heavily greased with ghee. It’s a slippery pole. There-
fore, the helping hand of our loving Ga∫eßa, who reaches down from the
mûlâdhâra, is needed to lift up the aspirant. It’s the helping hand of Lord
Murugan that reaches down from the anâhata chakra, grabbing and lift-
ing the devotee up. It is the helping hand of Íiva that reaches down from
the âjñâ chakra and lifts one up. One cannot do it alone. Total surrender
to the Gods is the only way. Karma yoga, bhakti yoga, japa yoga is the way
to attract their attention. The guru keeps the path in view, but he does
not walk it for you.
Nonviolence should be clearly defined to include not
Sunday only killing, but also causing injury physically, mentally
LESSON 273
or emotionally—even in the most subtle ways. We can
The Urgency of
Vegetarianism injure ourselves, we can injure our environment, we can
injure nature’s other creatures and thus be a source of
pain and sorrow. Or we can live a harmless life and be a source of healing
and joy. My satguru instructed, “Do good to all. God is there within you.
Don’t kill. Don’t harbor anger.” ¶Vegetarianism is a natural and obvious
way to live with a minimum of hurt to other beings. Hindu scripture
speaks clearly and forcefully on vegetarianism. The Yajur Veda (36.18. ve,
p. 342) calls for kindliness toward all creatures living on the Earth, in the
air and in the water. The beautiful Tirukural, a widely-read 2,200-year-
old masterpiece of ethics, speaks of conscience: “When a man realizes
that meat is the butchered flesh of another creature, he will abstain from
eating it” (257). The Manu Saμhitâ advises: “Having well considered the
origin of flesh and the cruelty of fettering and slaying corporeal beings,
let one entirely abstain from eating flesh,” and “When the diet is pure, the
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mind and heart are pure.” In the yoga-infused verses of the Tirumantiram
warning is given of how meat-eating holds the mind in gross, adharmic
states: “The ignoble ones who eat flesh, death’s agents bind them fast and
push them quick into the fiery jaws of the lower worlds” (199). ¶Vegetari-
anism is very important. In my fifty years of ministry, it has become quite
evident that vegetarian families have far fewer problems than those who
are not vegetarian. The abhorrence of killing of any kind leads quite natu-
rally to a vegetarian diet. If you think about it, the meat-eater is partici-
pating indirectly in a violent act against the animal kingdom. His desire
for meat drives another man to kill and provide that meat. The act of the
butcher begins with the desire of the consumer. When his consciousness
lifts and expands, he will abhor violence and not be able to even digest the
meat, fish and eggs he was formerly consuming. India’s greatest saints have
confirmed that one cannot eat meat and live a peaceful, harmonious life.
Man’s appetite for meat inflicts devastating harm on the Earth itself, strip-
ping its precious forests to make way for pastures. The opposite of causing
injury to others is compassion and love for all beings. The Tirukural (251)
puts it nicely: “How can he practice true compassion who eats the flesh
of an animal to fatten his own flesh?” ¶If children are raised as vegetar-
ians, every day they are exposed to noninjury as a principle of peace and
compassion. Every day they are growing up, they are remembering and
being reminded to not kill. They won’t even kill another creature to feed
themselves. And if you won’t kill another creature to feed yourself, then
when you grow up you will be much less likely to injure people. ¶There
are other ways that we as individuals or institutions can responsibly pro-
mote nonviolence. Make a list of all the things you have purchased in the
last six months that bring harm to humans, animals, fish, fowl and other
sentient beings. Read the labels on simple things like glue or soap and
scratch off the list all the things that contribute to violent acts or aid in the
destruction of the planet. Then find the willpower to not, for convenience
sake, fall back into purchasing these things again. This is something you
can do in the next twenty-four hours.
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 Yuddha˙ Íântißcha
yauÎ: xaaintaç

War and Peace

Let us have concord with our own people, and

concord with people who are strangers to us; Aßvins,
create between us and the strangers a unity of hearts.
May we unite in our midst, unite in our purposes, and
not fight against the divine spirit within us. Let not
the battle-cry rise amidst many slain, nor the arrows
of the War God fall with the break of day.
Atharva Veda 7.52.1-2. hv, p. 205
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Nonviolence has long been central to the religious tra-

Monday ditions of India—especially Hinduism, Buddhism and
LESSON 274
Jainism. Religion in India has consistently upheld the
Teaching of
Life’s Sanctity sanctity of life, whether human, animal or, in the case of
the Jains, elemental. There developed early in India an
unparalleled concern for harmony among different life forms, and this
led to a common ethos based on noninjuriousness and a minimal con-
sumption of natural resources, in other words to compassion and sim-
plicity. If Homo sapiens is to survive his present predicament, he will have
to rediscover these two primary ethical virtues. ¶In order to understand
the pervasive practice of nonviolence in Hinduism, one must investigate
the meaning of life. Why is life sacred? For India’s ancient thinkers, life is
seen as the very stuff of the Divine, an emanation of the Source and part
of a cosmic continuum. The nature of this continuum varies in Hindu
thought. Some hold that the individual evolves up through life forms,
taking more and more advanced incarnations which culminate in human
life. Others believe that according to one’s karma and saμskâras, the pro-
cess can even be reversed, that is, one can achieve a “lower” birth. Even
those Indians who do not believe in reincarnation of an individual still
hold that all that exists abides in the Divine. They further hold that each
life form—even water and trees—possesses consciousness and energy.
Whether the belief is that the life force of animals can evolve into human
status, or that the opposite can also take place, or simply that all things
enjoy their own consciousness, the result is the same—a reverence for
life. ¶The human mind is exactly like a computer. Programs that go in are
the beliefs. Their performance is the attitude, and the knowledge or the
impetus that passes through both determines the output or the action.
Children will learn the basic attitudes from their mothers and fathers by
absorbing the beliefs that their mothers and fathers have placed into their
subconscious mind, even prenatally. This is the first stage of writing the
code, as a programmer would do in creating a new application. Later the
child learns through observation, through seeing what the parents do and
how they solve their problems, either reverently in the shrine room or
hurtfully through arguments, contention, back-biting and getting one’s
way through emotional blackmail. By the age of six, the program is fin-
Mahatma Gandhi is shown on his famed Salt March, walking with supporters to a distant
beach where he plans to collect sea salt in defiance of British tax laws. He is blocked by the Brit-
ish controlled Indian army, which intends to arrest and imprison him and the marchers.
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ished, application complete, and beta testing begins. Children today face
the world at this early age. Need we say more? Look at your own families.
¶Talk about peaceful means of dealing with problems, not allowing even
your words to promote injury and harm. Let your words bring peace into
others’ lives and hearts. Work on your own consciousness. Purify your-
self so that you are free from anger, free from hatred, free from wanting
anyone to suffer, either at your own hand or in any other manner. Don’t
buy endangered plants, animals or products from exploited species, such
as furs, ivory, reptile skin and tortoise shell. Volunteer your time to help
groups who are sincerely working for a peaceful world. Learn more about
other cultures and philosophies so your appreciation of them is genuine
and deep. Work to strengthen your community and the people near you.
Reduce stress in your life. Be joyful. Do all this and you will do much
to bring peace and tranquility to your part of the world. This is what
Mahatma Gandhi did, and look what a difference he made. ¶One person
who lives ahiμsâ truly can be an instrument of peace for many. And you
can make a difference, too, by affirming within yourself the vow not to
injure others either physically, mentally or emotionally. Remember this
one thing: peace and the choice to live the ideal of noninjury are in your
own hands. ¶There is no longer a rural community or a national commu-
nity. It is an international community. That change was well rooted in the
planet a decade ago. When the Vietnam War stopped—the last big war of
the twentieth century—that marked the beginning of the new era. People
started using their minds to solve problems, and using their weaponry
only for defensive measures.
In Gandhian philosophy ahiμsâ means nonviolent action
Tuesday which leads to passive resistance in order to put a point
LESSON 275
across. Basically, he taught, don’t hit your opponent over
Peace and
Righteous War the head. If he tells you to do something, stall and don’t
obey and don’t do it and frustrate him into submission.
And yet, on the other hand, when a gang of tribals came in and raped the
women in a village, Gandhi said there should not have been a man left
alive in the village. They should have stood up for the village and pro-
tected it with their lives. ¶So, to me, that means if an intruder breaks into
your house to rape the women or steal things, you have the right, even
the duty, to defend your own, but you don’t have the right to torture him.
Ahiμsâ needs to be properly understood, in moderation. Ahiμsâ in the
Jain religion has been taken to extremes. To explain nonviolence, you have
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to explain what violence is, as opposed to protecting yourself. Is it violent

to own a dog who would put his teeth to the throat of a vicious intruder?
I don’t think it is. If nonviolence is to be something that the world is
going to respect, we have to define it clearly and make it meaningful. ¶Not
all of Earth’s one billion Hindus are living in a perfect state of ahiμsâ all
of the time. Sometimes conditions at hand may force a situation, a regret-
table exception, where violence or killing seems to be necessary. Hindus,
like other human beings, unfortunately do kill people. In self-defense or
in order to protect his family or his village, the Hindu may have to hurt
an intruder. Even then he would harbor no hatred in his heart. Hindus
should never instigate an intrusion or instigate a death; nor seek revenge,
nor plot retaliation for injuries received. They have their courts of justice,
punishment for crimes and agencies for defending against the aggressor
or the intruder. Before any personal use of force, so to speak, all other
avenues of persuasion and intelligence would be looked into, as Hindus
believe that intelligence is their best weapon. In following dharma, the
only rigid rule is wisdom. My satguru, Siva Yogaswami, said, “It is a sin to
kill the tiger in the jungle. But if he comes into the village, it may become
your duty.” A devout Hindu would give warnings to scare the tiger or
would try to capture the tiger without injury. Probably it would be the
most unreligious person in the village who would come forward to kill
the tiger. ¶Many groups on the planet today advocate killing and violence
and war for a righteous cause. They would not agree with the idea that
violence, hiμsâ, is necessarily of the lower nature. But a righteous cause
is only a matter of opinion, and going to war affects the lives of a great
many innocent people. It’s a big karmic responsibility. Combat through
war, righteous or not, is lower consciousness. Religious values are left
aside, to be picked up and continued when the war is over, or in the next
life or the one after that. It is said that in ancient India meat would be
fed to the soldiers during military campaigns, especially before combat,
to bring them into lower consciousness so that they would forget their
religious values. Most higher consciousness people will not fight even if
their lives depend on it. They are conscientious objectors, and there have
been many in every country who have been imprisoned or killed because
they would not take up arms against their brother and sister humans.
This is the strictest expression of Hinduism’s law of ahiμsâ.
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One of the most famous of Hindu writings, the Bhaga-

Wednesday vad Gîtâ, is often taken as Divine sanction for violence.
LESSON 276
It basically says that for the kshatriya, or soldier, war is
Justification
For Conflict dharma. Lord K®ish∫a orders Arjuna to fight and do his
kshatriya dharma in spite of his doubts and fears that
what he is about to do is wrong, despite his dread of killing his own kins-
men. Arjuna says, “If they whose minds are depraved by the lust of power
see no sin in the extirpation of their race, no crime in the murder of their
friends, is that a reason why we should not resolve to turn away from such
a crime—we who abhor the sin of extirpating our own kindred? On the
destruction of a tribe the ancient virtue of the tribe and family is lost; with
the loss of virtue, vice and impiety overwhelm the whole of a race. …Woe
is me! What a great crime are we prepared to commit! Alas that from the
desire for sovereignty and pleasure we stand here ready to slay our own
kin! I would rather patiently suffer that the sons of Dhritarash†ra, with
their weapons in their hands, should come upon me and, unopposed, kill
me unresisting in the field.” ¶K®ish∫a gradually convinces Arjuna to fight,
beginning with the following argument. “Death is certain to all things
which are born, and rebirth to all mortals; wherefore it doth not behoove
thee to grieve about the inevitable. …This spirit can never be destroyed
in the mortal frame which it inhabiteth, hence it is unworthy for thee to
be troubled for all these mortals. …Thine enemies will speak of thee in
words which are unworthy to be spoken, deprecating thy courage and
abilities; what can be more dreadful than this! If thou art slain, thou shalt
attain heaven; if victorious, the world shall be thy reward; wherefore, son
of Kunti, arise with determination fixed for the battle. Make pleasure and
pain, gain and loss, victory and defeat, the same to thee, and then prepare
for battle, for thus and thus alone shalt thou in action still be free from
sin” (from Chapter 1, Recension by W. Q. Judge, Theosophical University
Press). ¶Hindus for a long time have taken this text as justification for
war and conflicts of all kinds, including street riots and anarchy. It is
indeed unfortunate that this particular composition has been champi-
oned to represent Hinduism rather than the four Vedas. At the turn of
the twentieth century, the Bhagavad Gîtâ was not yet a popular book in
America and Europe, but the Upanishads and Vedas were. When I was
growing up in Hinduism, at about fifteen years of age, the Gîtâ was being
slowly introduced in America and became an embarrassment in meta-
physical circles throughout the country, as something to explain away.
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“How could a religion based on ahiμsâ and such high ideals promote as
a major scripture a story based on ruthless internecine war and violence?”
Arjuna could be considered history’s first conscientious objector. ¶Mysti-
cal seers, both Hindus and Western teachers, at that time, in an attempt to
justify the Gîtâ as scripture, explained that K®ish∫a represented Arjuna’s
higher self, and Arjuna himself was his lower self, or the external ego.
K®ish∫a encouraged Arjuna to kill out attachments to family, friends and
foes, to become a yogî and realize Parabrahman. Teachers attempted to
satisfy the minds of their followers that, in fact, the Bhagavad Gîtâ was an
allegory of man’s struggle within himself toward the highest realizations.
Unconvincingly, contemporary swâmîs and astute commentators tried
to justify God K®ish∫a’s urging his devotee to kill his friends, his relatives
and his guru, that all would be well in the end because the soul never dies.
I was never satisfied with this and found no alternative but to reject the
book altogether, despite its many lofty chapters. I agree fully with those
awakened Indian swâmîs who have called it kolai nul, the “book of car-
nage,” a book that gives divine sanction to violence. ¶The Bhagavad Gîtâ
was also known at that time as a historical poem, not a divinely revealed
scripture at all. It is sm®iti, specifically Itihâsa, meaning a man-made his-
tory, a poem excerpted from the Mahâbhârata epic. But all that aside, no
matter how it is interpreted, whether it is revered by millions of Hindus
or not, let us not be mistaken that the Bhagavad Gîtâ gives permission
for violence. The Mahâbhârata itself says, “Ahiμsâ is the highest dharma.
It is the highest purification. It is also the highest truth from which all
dharma proceeds” (18.1125.25). An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth
is definitely not a part of true Hindu doctrine.
In every country there is the army, the navy, air force,
Thursday police, the protectors of the country, the collective
LESSON 277
force of citizens that keep a country a country. This is
No Sanction
For Terrorism dharma. In protection of family and nation, in armies
and police forces which give security, it is indeed dhar-
mic for kshatriyas to do their lawful duty, to use necessary force, even
lethal force. But for this collective force of protectors, of peacemakers, of
peacekeepers—which includes the law courts and the central adminis-
trative authorities who oversee the courts, the armies, the navies, the air
force—would the priests be able to function? Would the businessmen be
able to acquire and sell their goods? Would the farmers be able to plant
their crops and harvest them? Could the children play fearlessly in the
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streets and countryside? No. The answer is obvious. ¶Those who take law
into their own hands in the name of dharma, citing their case upon the
Mahâbhârata, are none but the lawbreakers, anarchists, the arsonists, the
terrorists. The Mahâbhârata gives no permission for anarchy. The Mahâ-
bhârata gives no permission for terrorism. The Mahâbhârata gives no
permission for looting and diluting the morals of society through pros-
titution, running drugs and the selling and buying of illegal arms. The
Pâ∫∂avas, the heroes of this ancient epic, were not rabble rousers. They
were not inciting riots. Nor were they participating in extortion to run
their war. Nor were they participating in the sale of drugs to finance their
war. Nor were they participating in prostitution to win their war. Nor
were they participating in enlisting women to help them fight their war.
Nor were they having children learn to snare their victims. ¶Yes, dharma
does extend to protecting one’s country. But does it extend to taking a
country from another, or to stealing lands? Were the Pâ∫∂avas trying
to do this? No, of course not. They were only protecting the status quo
to remain sovereign over their kingdom. Let us not presume to take the
Mahâbhârata and Râmâya∫a as permission to do whatever one wants to
do, for any cause whatsoever. Simply because it is said in certain Hindu
texts that K®ish∫a lied, stole some butter and dallied with the maidens
does not give permission to the ordinary person to lie anytime he wants
to, steal anytime he wants to or be promiscuous anytime he wants to and
perhaps make all this a way of life. This definitely is not dharma. It is law-
lessness, blatant lawlessness. In the modern age, to create a nation or even
a business enterprise upon the death of another, upon lands confiscated,
stolen, illegally acquired, usurped from another’s realm, is definitely not
Hindu dharma, and this is not Mahâbhârata.
I have often been asked how it is that some people work
Friday for peace and others seem always to work for conten-
LESSON 278
tion. There are two kinds of children or souls that are
Two Kinds
Of People born on this planet and are spoken of in our Vedas and
other scriptures. Some come to Earth from up down and
others from down up. This means that the children who come to Earth
from up down come from a place in the inner world of higher conscious-
ness, and the children who come to Earth from down up come to Earth
from a place in the inner world of lower consciousness. We call the place
of higher consciousness the Devaloka and the place of lower conscious-
ness the Narakaloka. The Devaloka is a heaven world and the Narakaloka
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is not. ¶The Narakaloka exists wherever violence and hurtfulness take

place, whether in the inner or outer world. We see such things in action
on television. On the astral plane the terrible deeds perpetrated by Nara-
kaloka people are much worse than in the physical world. Children who
are born into Earth consciousness from the Narakaloka will not respond
to meditation, yoga or any kind of quieting controls. They are strangers
to self-discipline and enemies to their own parents. The parents of these
offspring do have a challenge, to be sure, and are bound by the karmic
implication of neglect to face up to it and make every effort to reform,
lift up and thus enhance the learning of the young souls whose forces of
deception, anger and resentment are stronger than their responsibilities
to parents and society. Many such parents wisely direct their difficult
offspring into agriculture, farming and nurturing nature, thus allowing
them to blend with the forces of nature and rise into higher conscious-
ness as they learn from the slow processes of nature. Some well-meaning
but mistaken families demand of them a high education and suffer the
results of their upbringing for a lifetime. ¶In contrast, children who are
born into Earth consciousness from the Devaloka do respond to medita-
tion, yoga and all kinds of methods of self-control. These are the gentle
people. Self-control and personal advancement are the reasons they have
taken a birth. There are ways to tell the difference between these two types
of people. The mere fact that someone becomes penitent would show us
that he is really a Devaloka person. This is because Narakaloka people
don’t become penitent. There is another way to tell the difference, and
that is by looking into the eyes of the person. Narakaloka people generally
have dull or sullen eyes, whereas Devaloka people have bright, clear, wide-
open eyes. The former come from the world of darkness, the latter from
the world of light. It is difficult to tell the difference at times, because the
Narakaloka people are very cunning, and they will try to appear in the
way they feel they should to measure up to your standards. They must
be tested. ¶Peace will only come when the Narakaloka people are lifted
up and made to obey the new standards in the world, standards which
must be set by the Devaloka people. It is when the Devaloka people are
in charge that peace will truly come; it can come in no other way. So, if
the Devaloka people really desire to have peace on Earth, they should not
be shy but take charge.
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The problems of conflict reside within this low-minded

Saturday group of people who only know retaliation as a way of
LESSON 279
life. To antagonize others is their sport. They must be
Curbing the
Lower Natured curtained off and seen for what they are. Improvement
has to come through their own self-effort. But they are
always overly stimulated by doing so many mischievous acts and misdeeds
that self-effort toward any kind of improvement is never even thought of.
Yet, they must learn from their soul’s evolution, and their own mistakes
will be the teacher, for they are in the period of their evolution where they
only learn from their own mistakes. ¶People of the lower nature cannot
be made peaceful. They are not open to persuasion. They are sovereign in
their own domain. There are many doors into lower consciousness, and if
the Devaloka people get too involved with people of a lower nature, they
may have violence awakened within them. Lower-consciousness people
are always looking for recruits to bring into their world. This sounds like
a sad story, but it is true nonetheless. You see it happening around you
every day. ¶It would, of course, be wonderful to think that all people in
this world are on the same level—and certainly they are in the deepest
sense. But our sages and ®ishis, and wisdom itself, tell us that we cannot
expect the same of everyone in this birth. By recognizing the differences in
each soul’s maturity, we also recognize the process of reincarnation, which
gives us young souls and old souls. ¶People ask me from time to time,
from the Hindu point of view, how to curtain off the lower-nature people.
My answer is that people are curtained off from each other through their
beliefs and the attitudes that they hold. Believing beyond a shadow of a
doubt that a person is of the lower nature and is incorrigible in this life
would create the attitude of avoiding his company, not antagonizing him,
and this is the best protection. Societies all over the world are trying to
control these people who have come to Earth from the world of darkness.
This is one of the great concerns of all governments. ¶However, the prob-
lem is not only with people of the lower nature, it is also with people of the
higher nature. They tend to be lazy. The more conscious a person is, the
more responsible he or she should be. Therefore, the people of the higher
nature should carry most of society’s responsibility and not leave it to
others. If the high-minded people really want peace, they have to all get to
know each other and then join hands in love and trust and work together.
In every religious organization on the Earth an emphasis to help people
is put forward as a duty and a fulfillment. Many of the groups reach out
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for membership and bring people from the Narakaloka into their midst.
It is not long before the lower-natured people turn their once-sincere and
happy religious community into a devil’s playground. They always begin
by pitting people within the group against each other. If that is success-
ful, then they pit their religious organization against another one. So, you
can see that the Devaloka people have to join together, break down the
barriers between themselves, work together, love and trust one another
and protect their groups from this kind of intrusion. This is the first
big doing. Once this is done, the rest will take care of itself quite natu-
rally. ¶National and international peace movements are beneficial in that
they keep the decision-making governments of the world aware of what
the people want. They help the higher-consciousness people to become
acquainted and to forge new principles for a global dharma.
I was once asked for my insights on applying ahiμsâ
Sunday in the business world. Ahiμsâ in business is taught in
LESSON 280
a reverse way on American television: Titans, The West
Ahiμsâ in
Business Wing, Dynasty, Falcon Crest, Dallas, LA Law—popular
shows of our time. Their scriptwriters promoted hiμsâ,
injuriousness, in business—“Save the Falcon Crest farm at any cost, save
South Fork, save the corporation.” Now the national news media reports
attempts to save Microsoft, save the tobacco industry, save the hand gun
manufacturers. The fight is on, and real-life court battles have taken the
place of TV sitcoms which have long since been off the air. In both the
TV and the real-life conflicts, whatever you do to your competitor is OK
because it’s only business. The plots weave in and out, with one scene
of mental and emotional cruelty after another. ¶The Hindu business
ethic is very clear. As the weaver Tiruvalluvar said, “Those businessmen
will prosper whose business protects as their own the interests of oth-
ers” (Tirukural 120). We should compete by having a better product and
better methodologies of promoting and selling it, not by destroying our
competitor’s product and reputation. Character assassination is not part
of ahiμsâ. It reaps bad benefits to the accusers. That is practiced by many
today, even by Hindus who are off track in their perceptions of ahiμsâ.
Hindus worldwide must know that American television is not the way
business should be practiced. As some people teach you what you should
do and other people teach you what you should not do, the popular tele-
vision programs mentioned above clearly teach us what we should not do.
The principles of ahiμsâ and other ethical teachings of Hinduism show
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us a better way. ¶Many corporations today are large, in fact larger than
many small countries. Their management is like the deceptive, deceitful,
arrogant, domineering king, or like the benevolent religious monarch,
depending on whether there are people of lower consciousness or higher
consciousness in charge. Cities, districts, provinces, counties, states and
central governments all have many laws for ethical business practices,
and none of those laws permit unfair trade, product assassination or
inter-business competitive fights to the death. Each business is dharmi-
cally bound to serve the community, not take from the community like a
vulture. When the stewardships of large corporations follow the law of the
land and the principles of ahiμsâ, they put their energies into develop-
ing better products and better community service. When the leadership
has a mind for corporate espionage, its energies are diverted, the prod-
ucts suffer and so does customer relations. The immediate profits in the
short term might be gratifying, but in the long run, profits gained from
wrong-doings are generally spent on wrong-doings. ¶Ahiμsâ always has
the same consequences. And we know these benefits well. Hiμsâ always
has the same consequences, too. It develops enemies, creates unseemly
karmas which will surely return and affect the destiny of the future of the
business enterprise. The perfect timing needed for success is defeated by
inner reactions to the wrong-doings. A business enterprise which bases its
strategies on hurtfulness cannot in good judgment hire employees who
are in higher consciousness, lest they object to these tactics. Therefore,
they attract employees who are of the same caliber as themselves, and
they all practice hiμsâ among one another. Trickery, deceitfulness and
deception are of the lower nature, products of the methodology of per-
forming hiμsâ, hurtfulness, mentally and emotionally. The profits derived
from hiμsâ policies are short-term and ill-spent. The profits derived from
ahiμsâ policies are long-term and well spent.
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 Kshânti Íakti
#aaintaxai†

The Power
Called Forgiveness

If we have injured space, the earth, or heaven,

or if we have offended mother or father, from
that may Agni, fire of the house, forgive us and
guide us safely to the world of goodness.
Atharva Veda 6.120. ve, p. 636
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The Vedas are full of verses which speak of the Divine

Monday within man, and therefore Hindu Dharma today
LESSON 281
implores us to let go of grudges, resentment and espe-
The Art of
Forgiveness cially self-contempt. Most people today are working
harder to correct the faults of others than they are their
own. It is a thankless job. It truly is. Most are trying to recreate the rela-
tively real world into being absolutely real. Another thankless job. The
wise implore us to accept things as they are, to be happy and content at
every point in time. They tell us: do not be discouraged in seeing the fail-
ings of others. Rather, let it help awaken your understanding of them as
to where they are in consciousness and the suffering they must be going
through. If others harm you in thought, word or deed, do not resent it.
Rather, let it awaken compassion, kindness and forgiveness. Use it as a
mirror to view your own frailties; then work diligently to bring your own
thoughts, words and deeds into line with Hindu Dharma. ¶The secret
is that we have to correct all matters within ourselves. We have to bear
our karmas—the reactions to our actions—cheerfully. And what are the
apparent injustices of life but the self-created reactions of our own past
actions in this or a former life? The person of perfect understanding
accepts all happenings in life as purposeful and good. We must be grate-
ful to others for playing back to us our previous actions so that we can
see our mistakes and experience the same feelings we must have caused
in others. It is in this way that we are purified and trained not to commit
the same adharmic acts again. ¶All the great ones have preached the art of
forgiveness. First we must learn to forgive ourselves, to accept ourselves
as we are and proceed with confidence. Many people live their whole
lives immersed in guilt. It’s a way of life passed on from generation to
generation. It’s like a passive fear, different from a threatening fear. Cer-
tain religions push people into fear and guilt. Therefore, if they don’t feel
guilty, they don’t feel that they are being religious. Mary Baker Eddy once
said God is love and was viciously attacked for it by the Christian com-
munity of her day, who believed with a vengeance that God is wrathful,
fear invoking. Families who live in guilt pass it on to their children. People
who live in a state of guilt don’t give a lot, they don’t produce a lot, and
they don’t move forward spiritually very far. ¶New energy is released for
In a modern hospital a surgeon attends a patient under operating room lights. Losing his composure, he
harshly and unfairly scolds his nurse. Without reacting, she seeks a forgiving attitude, knowing this is
today’s karma and that the doctor is stressed by long hours and difficult cases.
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a healthy future when we forgive ourselves. Yes, forgiveness is a powerful

force. We must start with ourselves, for as long as we hold self-contempt,
we are unable to forgive others, because everyone else is a reflection of
ourself. We react to what we see in them that we are not ready to face up to
in ourselves. ¶It is a great power to be able to look beyond ourselves and
see others as they really are, how they really think and how they really feel.
When we are wrapped up in our own individual ego, this is hard to do.
We surmise that those we know are exactly like us, and we find fault with
them when they are not. But eventually we break the shell of the ego—an
act symbolized by smashing the rough, dark brown coconut in the temple,
revealing the beauty of the pure, white fruit inside which represents our
pristine spiritual nature. It takes a hard blow to subdue our ego, and this
is never without pain. But we can remove the ego’s hard shell painlessly
through absolute surrender to Hindu Dharma, absolute surrender to our
own soul, to God within us. External worship and internal worship, exter-
nal surrender and internal surrender, bring about the softening of the ego
and the unveiling of spirit.
What is resentment? Resentment is prâ∫ic force, subtle
Tuesday energy, that is congested. What is love? Love is prâ∫ic
LESSON 282
force that is flowing and uncongested. When someone
Congested
Energies performs an injustice toward us, he is giving us a con-
glomerate of congested prâ∫a. If we were able to look at
it in the astral world, we would see it as a confused mass of disharmonious
colors and shapes. If we are unable to remain detached, we become upset
and resentful. Instinctively this prâ∫a is held by us and only released when
we find it in our heart to forgive the person. At the moment of true forgive-
ness, the congested prâ∫a is transferred back to the person who harmed
or insulted us. ¶Now we can see that when we resent or hold something
against someone, we are actually astrally connected to him and, in fact,
holding back the karma that will automatically come to him as a result of
his harmful act. If we forgive the offender, we release the congested energy.
Then the unfailing karmic law begins to work. In other words, his actions
will cause a reaction back on him, and we won’t be involved in the process
at all. That is why the Tirukural, a wonderful book written 2,200 years
ago, tells us, “Though unjustly aggrieved, it is best to suffer the suffering
and refrain from unrighteous retaliation. Let a man conquer by forbear-
ance those who in their arrogance have wronged him” (157-8). ¶However,
it would not be wise to accept the transgressor back in your life until
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true remorse is shown and resentment on his part is dissolved through

apology and reconciliation. Otherwise, wisdom indicates he might just
commit the same hurtful acts again. I was asked recently what we mean
in sûtra 270 which says monastics forgive hurts quickly and inwardly,
but not outwardly until the offender reconciles. The devotee who asked
the question said he has taken a lot of physical and emotional abuse, as
well as verbal abuse, from his family. He had forgiven them inwardly
but wanted to know what their relationship should be, now that he had
reached middle age. We forgive inwardly because we know the experience
is the result of our karma that we have put into motion in the past. But
we hold a friendly, firm wall between ourselves and the offenders, which
means a friendly distance, because we know that it is their kukarma, too,
which must be reconciled with apologies and with the assurance that the
offense won’t happen again. ¶To be affectionately detached—that is a
power. That is a wisdom. But detachment does not mean running away
from life or being insensitive or passively accepting harm to yourself or
loved ones. When we have the ability to let go, through forgiveness, we
are warmer, more friendly, more wholesome, more human and closer to
our family and friends. ¶Just the opposite happens if we remain attached
by resenting what happened in the past. Take the example of a teenager
who sees a promising future ahead of him, then experiences begin to hap-
pen in his life, some of which are unpleasant. If these are not resolved,
negative prâ∫a begins piling up within his subconscious mind, vâsanâs
are made, and the future begins to diminish from view. Year after year, as
he grows older, the past gets bigger and bigger and bigger, and the future
gets smaller and smaller and smaller. Finally, there is so much resentment
that the once joyful adolescent grows into a depressed and bitter adult.
Eventually he develops cancer and dies lonely and miserable. ¶To have a
happy future with your family and friends, don’t ignore difficulties that
come up between you. Sit down with them and talk things over. Stand on
your own two feet, head up and spine straight and bring it all out in the
open. Let them know how you feel about what they said or what they did.
Especially in Asia, so many things are swept under the carpet, not talked
about and left to smolder and mold there. But now, in today’s world, we
must clean up the mess in order to go along into a happy future. The basic
foundation of Sanâtana Dharma is ahiμsâ, nonhurtfulness, physically,
mentally and emotionally. We must always remember this.
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We recently learned that the oldest person in the world

Wednesday is a 118-year-old lady in Canada, who happens to be veg-
LESSON 283
etarian. She is quite up in the news and in the Guinness
Forgiving Is
Health Giving Book of Records. In a study of her life and that of several
others over age 110 it was asked, “How have they lived so
long? Why are they still living? What is their secret?” The answer is that
these elderly folk are optimistic. They see a future, and that keeps them
living. They are easy-going, good-humored, contented and have a phi-
losophy of forgiveness toward what anybody has done to them along the
way. They are successful at flowing with the events of life and do not hold
on to a lot of resentment or congested prâ∫as. It is when hate and resent-
ment become a way of life that we begin to worry and wonder what life is
all about. Forgiving others is good for your health. ¶The wise have given
a remedy, an effective penance, prâyaßchitta, that can be performed to get
rid of the bundle of past resentment and experience forgiveness and the
abundance of divine energy that comes as an aftermath. Write down in
detail all the resentments, misunderstandings, conflicts and confusions
that you are still holding onto. As you complete each page, crumple it
up and burn it in a garbage can or fireplace. When the mind sees the fire
consuming the paper, it intuits that the burden is gone. It is the emotion
connected to the embedded experience that actually goes away. ¶Resent-
ment is a terrible thing. It affects the astral body and then the physical.
When there is a health problem, there may well be a forgiveness problem.
Resentment is crippling to the astral body and the emotions, because when
we resent others, we can’t get them out of our mind—we are definitely
attached to them. Resentment is equally distributed worldwide. Workers
resent their bosses. Bosses resent the owners. Owners of companies resent
the government. This is modern society today. This is all-pervasive igno-
rance, and ignorance added to ignorance makes ignorance stronger. One
resentment adds to another in the subconscious mind. ¶We must begin
the healing by first forgiving ourselves, by claiming our spiritual heritage,
gaining a new image of ourselves as a beautiful, shining soul of radiant
light. Then we can look at the world through the eyes of Hindu Dharma.
The Yajur Veda expounds, “He who dwells in the light, yet is other than
the light, whom the light does not know, whose body is the light, who con-
trols the light from within—He is the soul within you” (B®ihadâra∫yaka
Upanishad 3.7.14,ve 708). ¶When this vâsanâ daha tantra, subconscious
purification by fire, is complete, you will never feel the same again. After
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this spiritual experience, religion, Hindu Dharma, will be foremost in

your life. All other activities—business, social and family life—will circle
around your newly found ideals. Many of the wealthiest people on our
planet have kept their religion first, their family and business second and
other activities third. Their timing was always right. They were magnetic
and happy. Others were happy to be near them.
Everyone has willpower. It is inherent to the makeup
Thursday of the physical-astral-mental-emotional body. The cen-
LESSON 284
ter of willpower is the ma∫ipûra chakra, located at the
Well-Directed
Willpower solar plexus. Unlike other energies, the more willpower
we use, the more willpower we have to use. Actually,
by exerting our willpower, we store up new energy within the ma∫ipûra
chakra. This happens when we work a little harder than we think we
can, do a little more than we think we can do. By putting forth that extra
effort, we build up a great willpower that we will always have with us,
even in our next life, the next and the next. Willpower is free for the using,
actually. ¶When we relate willpower to actions and compare actions to
dharma or adharma, we find that adharmic, or unrighteous, actions bring
uncomfortable results, and dharmic actions bring comfortable results. If
we act wrongly toward others, people will act wrongly toward us. Then,
if we are of a lower nature, we resent it and retaliate. This is a quality of
the instinctive mind: “You strike me once, I’ll strike you back twice. You
make a remark to me that I don’t like, and I will put you down behind
your back. I will make up stories about you to get even and turn other
people’s minds against you.” This is retaliation—a terrible negative force.
When we use our willpower to retaliate against others, we do build up
a bank account of willpower, to be sure, because we do have to put out
extra effort. But we also build up a bank account of negative karma that
will come back on us full force when we least expect it. When it does, if
we remain locked in ignorance, we will resent that and retaliate against
the person who plays our karma back to us, and the cycle will repeat
itself again and again and again. ¶Those living in the higher nature know
better. Belief in karma and reincarnation are strong forces in a Hindu.
South India’s Saint Tiruvalluvar said it so simply, “Worthless are those
who injure others vengefully, while those who stoically endure are like
stored gold. Just as the Earth bears those who dig into her, it is best to
bear with those who despise us” (Tirukural 155-151). ¶Nevertheless, we
see society tearing itself apart through retaliation. Respectable organiza-
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tions retaliate against their leader, against each other. Countries divide
and retaliate. Political parties retaliate. Vindictive law cases are profes-
sionally handled retaliation. To retaliate means to pay back injury with
injury, to return like for like, evil for evil, an eye for an eye, a tooth for a
tooth. It seems to be a part of humankind, though it is a negative part of
humankind. It does not have to prevail. It is not spiritual. We would say
it is demonic. We would say it is asuric. We would say it is unnecessary
behavior, unacceptable behavior, a wrong use of willpower. People who
have a lot of will can, if they wish, retaliate very, very well. They can ruin
another person. But remember, the force will come back on them three
times stronger than they gave it out, because their strong willpower will
bring it back with vigor. This is the law.
The wise person chooses his actions according to dharma,
Friday which is quite specific as to how we must behave. Those
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who connive to retaliate after a misunderstanding comes
Deciding on
A Better Way up should know they are carving a destiny of unhap-
piness for themselves by digging a pit of remorse, self-
condemnation and depression. They will fall into it in the far-off future.
¶Some might ask, “Does nonretaliation mean that one should not pro-
tect himself, his family, his community?” We are talking about revenge,
not self-defense. To oppose the actions of an intruder to one’s home or
community at the time of the intrusion is very different from tracking
him down later and vandalizing his home in retaliation. We cannot hurt
another without getting hurt back in the future through some other way,
generally through other people not even associated with the person we
hurt. Those who offend us or commit crimes against us, we can be sure,
will receive justice in an unerring manner through the law of karma. If the
matter is a serious one, we can seek reconciliation through the laws of the
land. In criminal cases, justice can be sought through the courts. It is not
wise to take matters into our own hands and be the instrument of punish-
ment, for by doing so we reap the same negative karma as the offender.
Retaliation on a wide scale can be seen in cases of mob violence, terror-
ism and guerrilla warfare. ¶Therefore, it is wise to cultivate the powerful
force of compassion, of righteous response, forgiveness, of admitting our
own mistakes, of not lying our way out of a situation just to make ourself
look good or putting others down so we can stand taller, so that we can
save face. That is a face you would not want to save. It is a face not worth
saving. ¶Those who accept the truth that retaliation is not the proper
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way to live, but are unable to stop trying to get even, are on the road
to correcting themselves, especially if they feel remorseful about their
impulses and actions. Through divine sight the soul perceives unwise
actions, performed when in the lower nature, as a hindrance to spiritual
progress. Penance received from a guru or swâmî and well performed by
the devotee propels the soul into its natural state of bliss. All help is given
by the divine devas to those seen performing a sincere penance. Gurus
of every lineage receive the verbal confession of devotees and give out
the appropriate penance, prâyaßchitta. They recognize divine absolution,
knowing the penance has been fulfilled, when the inner aura is as bright
as a new-born child’s, the face happy and the testimony about the results
of the penance discloses true atonement.
Speaking of nonretaliation, the peace-loving Dalai Lama,
Saturday exiled leader of Tibetan Buddhism, is setting an extraor-
LESSON 286
dinary example of not striking back at antagonists. He
The Dalai
Lama’s Example has campaigned relentlessly for political assistance for
his people’s cause since 1959, when at age fifteen he fled
across the Himalayas and into India for help. Even today he approaches
the Chinese with care and respect, though he never forgets China’s armed
takeover of his nation in 1957 and the extermination of 1.2 million Tibet-
ans by 1972. This humble being has never failed to exemplify the dharma
of compassion, advocating “the kind of love you can have even for those
who have done you harm.” He once wrote: “My enemy is my best friend
and my best teacher, because he gives me the opportunity to learn from
adversity.” ¶If there were anyone who could justifiably lash out in a vin-
dictive way, it would be the Dalai Lama; but he has chosen a higher path.
We listened to him appeal for Tibetan autonomy over the years at inter-
national conferences in Oxford, Moscow, Rio de Janeiro and Chicago,
where he never deviated from his posture of love, trust and compassion,
with full confidence that the divine law will finally manifest a righteous
outcome, an agreeable solution. He also acknowledged that this perse-
cution is a karma that his own people set in motion in the past. He is
setting a noble pattern in the international arena, where spiritual people
can forge, and are forging, new principles for a global dharma. ¶On an
individual level, all can strive to give up the urge to “get even,” heeding the
Vedic admonition, “Here they say that a person consists of desires. And as
is his desire, so is his will. And as is his will, so is his deed; and whatever
deed he does, that he will reap” (Íukla Yajur Veda, B®ihadâra∫yaka Upani-
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shad 4.4.5. upr, p. 272). Every belief creates certain attitudes. Our attitudes
govern all of our actions. Belief in karma, reincarnation and the existence
of an all-pervasive Divinity throughout the universe creates an attitude of
reverence, benevolence and compassion for all beings. The Hindu or Bud-
dhist who is consciously aware within his soul knows that he is the time
traveller and may incarnate, take a body of flesh, in the society he most
opposed in order to equalize his hates and fears into a greater understand-
ing which would result in the release of ignorance. The knowledgeable
Hindu is well aware of all these possibilities. The mystery is no mystery to
the mystic. ¶Ahiμsâ, which the Dalai Lama exemplifies so courageously,
is certainly not cowardice; it is wisdom. And wisdom is the cumulative
knowledge of the existing divine laws of reincarnation, karma, dharma
and the all-pervasiveness and sacredness of things, blended together
within the psyche, the very soul, of the Hindu.
Íiva is Love and Love is Íiva. People often ask, “How can
Sunday I worship God if I can’t see God?” There was a young
LESSON 287
man who had formed an intense dislike for his father
Realize That
God Is Love because his father disciplined him strongly when he was
growing up. Every time the young man thought of his
father, it was through feelings of resentment and confusion. Whenever
his father was around, the son avoided him, and sharp words were often
exchanged. However, his father put him through college, paying all the
expenses. When the young man broke his leg playing football, the father
visited him in the hospital every few days and paid the medical bills. But
still the young man resented his father for what had happened years ago.
He could not see that his father really loved him. His inner sight, feeling
and emotion were blinded by his bitterness about the past. This story
illustrates how mental barriers disable us from seeing people as they really
are. And if we cannot correctly see the people around us, how can we
expect to see God? We are often blinded by our “ignore-ance”—our great
ability to ignore. ¶People who question the existence of God because they
cannot see God must take the word of those who do see God. When they
cannot do even this, they are obviously lost in their own delusions and
confusions, unable to even see the love or accept the love of those who
are closest to them. They most likely misjudge everything through their
limited vision, clouded by resentments built up over the years. ¶We all see
people with our two eyes, and we see into people with our hearts. When
our heart is pure, holding no resentment, we can then see with our third
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eye. Someone having problems in seeing God should begin by worship-

ing his mother and father as divine. He can see them with his eyes and
within his mind. This sâdhana will clean up the person’s heart and bring
his thoughts, speech and actions into line with dharma. Then one day
he will see that God Íiva truly is the Life within the life of everyone—of
the whole universe, in fact. ¶The word love describes the free-flowing
interchange of spiritual energy between people, between people and their
things, between people and God and the Gods. Our scriptures clearly tell
us that “Íiva is love, and love is Íiva.” Therefore, our free-flowing love,
or bhakti, is our own Íivaness in manifestation. Expressing this love is
a profoundly auspicious and beginning form of living with Íiva that is
complete, in and of itself.
K®itajñatâμ Pâlaya; Samabhâvo Bhava
k&[ta$taa\ paalaya samaBaavaae Bava

Nurture Gratitude,
Be Considerate

As from a tree covered with blossoms, the fragrance

wafts far off, so also in the same way, the fragrance
of a good deed blows its fragrance far off. Just as a
juggler, when he steps upon an edge of a sword laid
over a pit, speaks: “Softly! Softly! Or I shall come to
harm and fall in the pit,” so also one should keep
himself away from an untruth!
K®ish∫a Yajur Veda, Mahâ∫ârâya∫a Upanishad. upb, p. 253
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Much of life today is based on depreciation and denigra-

Monday tion of public leaders, groups, governments, religions,
LESSON 288
corporations and even family members. This is nega-
Half Full or
Half Empty? tive living, always pointing out faults in no uncertain
terms and ignoring the virtues. A Hawaiian civic leader
lamented to us recently that people are cruel in their complaints. “It’s OK
to criticize,” she said, “but they should be kindly when doing so!” ¶A story
I was told decades ago relates. A guru was sitting with two disciples under
a sprawling banyan tree in India. The older student inquired, “Gurujî, how
long must I wait until I realize God?” The teacher responded, “Enlighten-
ment is not something that can be predicted, but since you have asked,”
he leaned over and spoke in the right ear, “It will be twenty more lives.”
“Oh, no!” the youth cried in dismay, “I don’t know if I can wait that long!”
The other follower, naturally curious, asked of his own future. The guru
whispered, “Liberation will come after you live as many lives as this ban-
yan has leaves!” Hearing this, the seeker jumped to his feet and began to
dance. Why? He was suddenly overcome by the assurance that he would
ultimately be liberated. Ecstatic with appreciation, he transcended the
mind and attained his liberation that very moment. ¶The first student
was on the path of depreciation. For him the pot was half empty. The
second followed the path of appreciation and was immersed in thank-
fulness. For him the pot was half full. “Some people complain because
God put thorns on roses. Others praise Him for putting roses among the
thorns.” ¶Appreciation is a beautiful, soulful quality available to everyone
in every circumstance—being thankful for life’s little treasures, grateful
for the opportunity to begin the day where you are, appreciating the per-
fect place your karma and God’s grace have brought you to. Appreciation
is life-giving. Depreciation without appreciation is heartlessly destructive.
Yet, it is the all-too-common way of our times. When something is done
that is good, helpful or loving, it is often overlooked, treated as something
expected. No acknowledgement is shown, no gratitude expressed. But if
a shortcoming is seen, everyone is swift to point it out! ¶The Vedas, the
Tirukural and our many other holy texts indicate a better way. The wise
ones knew that all people possess freedom of choice and the willpower to
use it. Today that freedom is usually used, unwisely, to downgrade others,
Being grateful for God’s gifts is a sign of spirituality. A sage tells two seekers they will live as many
lives as there are leaves on the banyan tree. One rushes away in dismay, while the other dances,
knowing that liberation is assured, and at that moment experiences freedom from saμsâra.
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as well as oneself. Ignorance seems to be almost as all-pervasive as God.

We find it everywhere and within every situation. It does not have to be
this way. ¶Gratitude is a quality of the soul. It does not depend on how
much we possess. Its opposite, ingratitude, is a quality of the external ego.
When we abide in soul consciousness, we give thanks for whatever we
have, no matter how little or how much. When in ego consciousness, we
are never grateful or satisfied, no matter how much we have.
I have faith in human integrity, in that unfailing “still
Tuesday small voice of the soul” which each who listens for can
LESSON 289
hear. We are essentially pure souls temporarily living in
The Power
Of Appreciation a physical body. We can and should use our God-given
gift of free will encased in love to make a difference in
the world today, even if it is in a small way. All of us making the same
difference together do so in a big way. Íishyas should be grateful to their
gurus, husbands to their wives, wives to their husbands, parents to their
children, children to their parents, students to their teachers and teachers
to their students. It’s far more effective to praise others and appreciate
what we have than to find fault and complain about what we don’t have!
¶Gratitude and appreciation are the key virtues for a better life. They are
the spell that is cast to dissolve hatred, hurt and sadness, the medicine
which heals subjective states of mind, restoring self-respect, confidence
and security. Shall we review them one at a time and consider a practice,
a sâdhana, for each? ¶First, gratitude. It is a feeling within the heart that
we cannot suppress for long when overcome with abundant memories of
all the good that has come into our lives. Most often, people remember
the bad happenings, perhaps because they make the deepest impressions
in the subconscious and are not expected. Good happenings are expected
and therefore tend to be overlooked. ¶The sâdhana here is to take out
paper and pen and list all the good that has come into your life during
the past five years. The list will grow as memory is stimulated. Should it
not be possible to think of even one good thing, then write the affirma-
tion several times, “I am a spiritual being of light maturing in the ocean
of experience.” Soon a good memory will come up, followed by more.
Feelings of loving appreciation will begin to flow toward those who par-
ticipated in the good times. Forgiveness then wells up for the bad times.
Amazingly, on the day I was writing down these thoughts about gratitude,
a Kauai islander handed me a paper on which was written the following
wisdom from the Catholic mystic, Meister Eckhart: “If the only prayer
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you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough.” ¶Now let’s
look at appreciation, turning our thanks toward the people in our lives.
The sâdhana of appreciation is to approach those you are grateful to and
tell them, to their face, while looking deep into their eyes, how much you
esteem and value them. Be specific. Find details to share so they know
this is not a shallow compliment. Explain what each one has done to
inspire this loving confrontation and convince each in turn that you are
sincere. The look of a full smiling face, eyes shining and heart full of love,
perhaps followed by a big hug, is convincing enough in itself. Words of
appreciation are words people do not often hear. These loving confronta-
tions do not happen nearly often enough among friends and relatives in
today’s world. ¶Loving appreciation is a life-changing force just waiting
to be used. Express appreciation to community leaders, business associ-
ates, spiritual mentors, family members and friends as often as you can.
Loving appreciation is a magic formula that works both ways. When we
commend another, we are automatically uplifted.
Here’s a true story to show how effective a timely expres-
Wednesday sion of appreciation may be. A young man tried the
LESSON 290
above practice on his rather gruff employer, whose heart
You Can Make
A Difference melted when he heard the words, “One of the things that
I appreciate most about you, sir, is your brilliance as an
inventor. You have so much to teach me.” After saying that and more, the
youth urged the astonished elder to pass on the voicing of appreciation
to another person. The man sat with his only son that same evening and
awkwardly told him how much he appreciated his many fine qualities. “I
never take time to say such sentimental things,” he said, “but rather tend
to keep to myself and be demanding and harsh because of the pressures
of work. But please know that I do love you.” The youth began sobbing
and confessed, “Father, thank you so much. You can’t imagine how glad
and relieved I am to hear that. I was planning to commit suicide tomor-
row because I thought you didn’t care about me any more, or even like
me. Now I won’t.” You never know how much difference your apprecia-
tion will make. ¶To prepare yourself for this sâdhana, stand before a mir-
ror and look at your face, right into your eyes, and say aloud, as if talking
to another person: “I am grateful to you and appreciate your being in my
life.” Then describe to yourself in many sentences all the good you have
done during the past five years. You can jog your memory by reading from
your list of goodness that you made earlier. You will soon see the reflec-
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tion in the mirror soften and begin to smile as it absorbs the happy feel-
ing of your appreciation. Once this art is perfected between you and you,
you can begin to appreciate others in the same way. Don’t be shy. No one
is shy when angry. Why be shy when we are happy and lovingly grateful?
¶There is a brave new world on the horizon for followers of dharma, one
in which we are kindly to each other, trusting and aware of one another’s
feelings, a world in which we acknowledge our debt to others and express
our thanksgiving, first in our silent heart and then outwardly. Gratitude
is one of life’s richest resources, containing the power to change people’s
lives. Its opposite is a disease that erodes all contentment and fills our life
with emptiness and despair. Take heart. These sâdhanas on gratitude and
appreciation have worked wonders for many. Yes, each one of us can make
a difference. The world is changing, and we can make it change for the
better, or we can leave it in the hands of those who make changes for the
“badder.” It’s our choice. ¶I appreciate you, our reader of Living with Íiva,
you and other men and women, boys and girls who are strengthening
Hinduism in hundreds of remote communities, upholding the Sanâtana
Dharma, being a beacon light to others on the path. It is you who are
inspiring us to produce this series of books on contemporary Hinduism,
giving us so many ideas and cheering us on. You are making a great dif-
ference by simply living the dharma, aspiring for self-transformation and
speaking on these high principles that are so important to us all and to
the future of humanity. ¶Just a little bit of kindness is so easy to express.
Just a little bit of kindness heals the mind. And in this day and age, when
so many are frustrated, troubled and need a little bit of help, appreciation
and encouragement, your kindness can help. Your criticism, your gossip
about them, hurts them and also hurts yourself. But the kindness that you
express in what you do is healing unto you, too. So, see yourself as a being
that always expresses kindness. What you think about, you become.
Look in the mirror. You have created your face through
Thursday your many thoughts that have accumulated through this
LESSON 291
lifetime. Ask yourself, “Am I happy, or am I looking for
How to
Be Happy others to make me happy?” Allow yourself to be kind;
allow yourself to express the qualities, the beautiful qual-
ities, of your soul. Your happiness then will come from within yourself,
along with a deep contentment and inner peace and joy. Only a moment
of thinking kindly about someone, and making a plan that will enable
you to help your fellow man, even just a little bit, will awaken from your
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soul that deep, inner satisfaction, that depth of security you are really
seeking. On the other hand, if you allow your mind to dwell in the realm
of critical thinking, in the realm of gossiping, without the thought of
helping others, you will feel insecure, unhappy. Nothing that could hap-
pen will bring you an inner satisfaction. You will be constantly desirous
of acquiring, and that which you do acquire will not be satisfying to you.
Why? Because there will be no love in your heart. If you find yourself
in that state of mind, turn the energies around and find the quietness
within you through being kind, being generous, being helpful. The doing
brings its own reward. Only in the accomplishment of being big enough
to understand the experiences of life that others go through, being tall
enough to overlook the many, many things that you could take issue with
and perhaps retaliate for, only in acquiring that depth which comes from
your soul, can you truly find inner happiness and peace. ¶Go out into
the world this week and let your light shine through your kind thoughts,
but let each thought manifest itself in a physical deed of doing something
for someone else. Lift their burdens just a little bit and, unknowingly
perhaps, you may lift something that is burdening your mind. You erase
and wipe clean the mirror of your own mind through helping another.
We call this karma yoga, the deep practice of unwinding, through service,
the selfish, self-centered, egotistical vâsanâs of the lower nature that have
been generated for many, many lives and which bind the soul in darkness.
Through service and kindness, you can unwind the subconscious mind
and gain a clear understanding of all laws of life. Your soul will shine
forth. You will be that peace. You will radiate that inner happiness and be
truly secure, simply by practicing being kind in thought, word and deed.
¶A sure indication of the manifestation of the soul nature on the physi-
cal plane is consideration for other people’s feelings, consideration for
other people’s state of mind, which means appreciating their good quali-
ties and overlooking their qualities that need improvement. Someone
who is considerate is understanding. Those who are not considerate don’t
understand and don’t understand that they don’t understand. They don’t
understand, and they are not considerate and not appreciative, because
they are wrapped up in their individual ego. Yet they expect everyone to
be considerate of them.
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Consideration deals with the knowing principle. The

Friday opposite of consideration deals with the thinking prin-
LESSON 292
ciple. “I know what he means, and I know it is the best
Consideration
For Others thing for me, but I don’t think that it is right for me to do
right now.” That is how the thinking principle conflicts
with the knowing principle within us. What does that create? It creates the
individual, egotistical personality. ¶Consideration is a great principle to
understand, and even a greater principle to unfold within yourself. If you
can’t be considerate of someone else’s feelings, your soul is as if locked up
in a little cage; and it can’t get out, although it may be crying to express
itself and hitting against that wall of the thinking mind which knows
nothing at all about the qualities of the soul. ¶Knowing is the manifesta-
tion of your spiritual will. Consideration is also a manifestation of your
spiritual will. When your spiritual will is awake, you have consideration
for other people’s feelings. When your spiritual will is awake, you give in
on little things, and you have the power to hold firm on big issues, like
keeping the twenty restraints and observances of the ancient Sanâtana
Dharma. You have an inner culture awakened within you. ¶Have you ever
asked somebody to do some little thing, and he says “no”? He refuses to do
it because he didn’t think of it first, because he considers within himself
that if he did do it, he would be falling under your domination? Why does
he feel that way? It is because he has very little control over himself and is
caught up in the thinking mind. But if you ask another type of individual
to do something, it is done almost the minute you ask, he is so in tune
with you. He has consideration for your feelings. He has consideration to
the point where he doesn’t want to upset the vibration around himself or
around you by creating a situation. ¶By using the power of the thinking
principle alone, we create situations for ourselves to face at another time,
because each situation is of the subconscious mind and will manifest itself
in life at a later date. Consideration is born of knowing, and knowing is
a manifestation of your spiritual will, and your will shines forth when
your soul begins to unfold itself. So, in order to be considerate, you have
to exercise this knowing principle until it becomes manifest in your life
every minute of every day. This is how to cultivate consideration. ¶How
do we exercise our power to know? We have to look at people and ask
ourself, “What do I know about my friends? What do I know about the
depth of them? How deep are they?” We ponder, “What do I know about
what I am reading—not just what I think about what I read? What do I
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really know about anything that I pick up and hold in my hand?” The
knowing principle is very, very great. We study our mind: “If my intu-
ition is working, do I know it is my intuition? If my subconscious mind
is influencing my actions, do I know that I am attached to that state of
mind?” What do you know? What do you not know? That is very impor-
tant to know. ¶Going against what we know is a great pitfall. It is born
from lack of consideration, lack of the ability to live in harmony with
others, to fit into situations. Lacking consideration, we fail to fulfill the
basic law of spiritual unfoldment: “Never miss an opportunity to serve.”
When we deliberately go against what we know, we create a burden that
we don’t want in our life, and we suffer under it. Then we ask, “Why do I
feel so uninspired? I was doing so fine. I was so spiritual. I was feeling just
wonderful. I felt all the life forces flowing through me, and all of a sudden
it all stopped. Why did this have to happen to me? I thought I was doing
fine. I was feeling so good.” That’s what I call a negative slump.
Everybody falls into negative slumps at one time or
Saturday another when they deny the God principle within them-
LESSON 293
selves, when they deny their knowing power, absolutely,
Emotional
Slumps deliberately deny it, by allowing their thinking princi-
ple—what they themselves think as a little ego—to take
hold and cancel off, just like an eraser on the blackboard of life, the soul’s
attempts to express itself. ¶For example, you are going along fine, just
wonderful, you are feeling great, and a little opportunity to serve comes
up and you miss it. You know you should, but you don’t think it is quite
the time, when it would be just as easy to fulfill whatever you know you
should fulfill. But you think, “Well, this isn’t exactly the best time for
me.” You have very good reasons to say no, excellent reasons, because
the thinking mind is always filled with excellent reasons. They are won-
derful for the time, but they wear out. That is why we don’t exercise our
memory and remember all the reasons we had for our actions. ¶If I asked
why did you do this and that and those unseemly actions, you might say,
“Yes, I know what you’re thinking. I had a very good reason at the time,
but I can’t recall it just now.” You don’t want to remember the reason,
because you know it was only an excuse sufficient for a time. Yet the
action remains, along with the reason, which was a weak one, vibrating
in the subconscious mind. If you accumulate two or three such incidents,
pretty soon you fall into a negative slump, where you don’t feel like doing
anything and nothing seems to make sense to you in the spiritual world
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or any other world. You just drag along and say, “Oh my, the burdens of
life are getting pretty heavy.” Eventually that condition wears out, too, and
you swing back and get a little light in you. That is why people turn to
stimulants, excesses of chocolate, sugary yum-yums (the junk food busi-
ness makes millions on the negative slumpers) and various innervating
beverages, such as coffee and soft drinks, to pep up the physical body. But
the body can take only so much of these negative slumps before it reacts
and, in its reaction, becomes unhealthy. Finally it succumbs to disease; it
is not at ease within itself because the subconscious mind is not at ease.
¶When you refrain from denying that soul source within you and fulfill
what you know you should do, then you are filled and thrilled with life
force. Your soul is shining out in the material plane. You don’t go into
negative slumps. You become like the people who don’t just get up to do
things, they jump up and are happy to do anything they have an opportu-
nity to do. But deny your knowing principle, and it becomes an effort to
do anything—even an effort to remember how you should respond and
what you should do. ¶Many people know they should do certain things to
help out, to help their families, their relatives and friends. But as the weeks
go by, what they know they forget, because they really didn’t want to do
it in the first place. They didn’t think they had time; they didn’t think they
could help; they didn’t think they could afford it. They have so many limi-
tations. They put their poor old soul into a cage. Excuse me, I am going
to rephrase that. They put their poor young soul into a cage, because old
souls manifest consideration. Young souls are just learning how. And this
poor young soul climbs right into this little cage and sits, like a newborn
baby, waiting for the subconscious mind—which has been filled with
negative activity, negative thoughts and a negative approach to life—to
unwind itself. But the soul within has to first watch itself wind up—and
it winds up through the many lives, with all its negative creations, all of
its thinking versus knowing, and thinking winning out every time. Then
it has to unwind, and when it does unwind, pretty soon knowing gets
stronger than thinking. Then we notice a spiritual unfoldment. Then we
know that observation is taking hold. ¶Do you know how I can tell when
someone is spiritually unfolding? When I suggest something, and he takes
me up on the suggestion and observes and thinks of the next step before
I think of it, I know that he is spiritually unfolding, because through his
observation he is producing knowing, and through his knowing he is
being considerate of his fellow man, just as he expects everyone to be
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considerate of him.
Those who are not considerate get very hurt when some-
Sunday one does not consider their feelings. Why? Because their
LESSON 294
feelings, their personality, are sticking out like antennas
Getting Hold
Of Your Mind all over them, ready to be kinked up and twisted up when
somebody is not considerate or loving toward them. Yet
they don’t show others the same consideration which they expect for
themselves. ¶That is what creates the negative dream—everyone expect-
ing everyone else to be very considerate of their feelings. And that is why
we have etiquette books, to teach people to be considerate of other peo-
ple’s feelings—to teach those who really don’t want to be considerate, but
have to learn to be because they are out to build careers and make money,
and they know they won’t do so well unless they learn to be considerate,
so they have to intellectually know how. But it is all surface. The word
insincere describes the person who doesn’t fulfill what he knows he should
fulfill, but pretends that he does. We call him insincere. ¶That insincerity
doesn’t hurt anybody but himself, because you can’t send out anything
out into the world but that it comes back. When does it come back? It
comes back later in life. He may get along fine when his body is young
and healthy. He can be just as insincere as he wants to be, but later on in
life he won’t get along so fine, because the karmic rebounds start coming
back, the reactions start coming back. They start coming back from other
people, who become insincere with him. They also start coming back
from deep within himself, from his conscience, when he learns that the
way he had been was not right. Someday, unless he is fortunate enough
to study yoga and clear it all up—perhaps through burning up the emo-
tional memory patterns using the vâsanâ daha tantra—he will suffer over
it. And he will suffer over it a great deal. ¶The art of consideration is a real
art, because it is a constant study. It really is a constant study. And it is a
creative study. It is the art of learning how not to just get by; it is the art of
learning how to fulfill your destiny through following the knowing prin-
ciple inside you. ¶When you are in for the realization of the Self, you have
to stop the cycles of hurt feelings and regrets. Just stop! You have to learn
by exercising your knowing power and realize, “If I do this, it is going to
have that kind of result. If I do that, which opposes my knowing of what
I should do, I also have to know what kind of result that is going to create.”
Everything we do does have its consequences. It is up to you to sit down
and meditate on such matters. That is what meditation is for. Meditation
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in the beginning stages is for getting a grip on your lower states of mind,
so that the lower states of mind come under your control, so you learn to
use your brain and don’t loan it or rent it out. ¶When somebody causes
you to do something that you don’t feel that you want to do, or that you
know is not the right way for you to behave, you are loaning out your
brain to him. If somebody can make you feel antagonistic all day long
because he didn’t treat you right in the morning, he is using your brain,
because he put that feeling into motion. He started something in you that
you cannot conquer. But if, at the time of the incident, you straighten out
the vibration with the person who made you feel antagonistic, by being
considerate of his feelings, then you would be using your brain, and that
is what you have to do. Maybe he is a young soul who will not learn to
be considerate for a long, long time, and we couldn’t expect that of him.
That is why you have to meditate; that is why you have to get these things
figured out—who’s who on the scale of evolution. ¶Remember these three
principles: 1) Your thinking is going to fight what you know. It is going to
fight it all the time. You know you should do certain things, but you may
not do them, because you have other reasons, and your other reasons will
be good reasons, which you quickly forget because they are only good for
the moment; 2) If you allow your knowing to dominate, you will be exer-
cising your spiritual will. You will be alive. You will be dynamic. Spiritual
forces will flow through you; 3) If you exercise your spiritual will, you
will have a great power of observation and a great power over your own
mind. No one will do your thinking for you. ¶After you have awakened
your power of observation, your soul shines forth, and after meditation
you will go into contemplation. You may think you are attaining high
states of spiritual consciousness, but for real progress, your soul will have
to manifest itself in what you do on the Earth all the time. So, these are
your steps. Don’t allow the thinking to fight the knowing. Don’t allow the
thinking to rule your willpower. Then you will be spiritual.
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Vaishamyaμ Prati Asahish∫utvam
vaESamya\ p‰ita AsaihSNautvama<

Zero Tolerance for

Disharmony

United your resolve, united your hearts, may

your spirits be at one, that you may long
together dwell in unity and concord!
Âig Veda 10.191.4. ve, p. 863
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We are told that hundreds of years ago in the city of

Monday Madurai, known as the Athens of India for its cultural
LESSON 295
pre-eminence, there was constructed at the Meenakshi
Philosophers’
Magic Barge Somasundareßvara Íivan Koyil, within the vast temple
tank, a magic boat called the Philosophers’ Barge. Âishis
came from the Himalayas, pandits from all corners of India and humble
bhakta siddhas from the South to sit together and discuss life, illumi-
nation and release from mortality. This boat’s singular magic was its
extraordinary ability to expand to accommodate any number of people
who conversed with an attitude of respect and harmony. But, miracu-
lously, it grew smaller when discussion turned rancorous, and those who
brought about the contention suddenly found themselves in the water,
swimming to shore in embarrassment. In Íiva’s temple, it seems, only
nonargumentative discussion was allowed. ¶We have no magic boats
today, …or perhaps we do. During a recent pilgrimage to India, I spoke
to several large groups of devotees, including hundreds of sâdhus of the
Swaminarayan Fellowship, about zero tolerance for inharmonious con-
ditions. Everyone found the message pertinent, yet difficult to practice,
for there is no group of people on Earth for whom living in harmony
is not a challenge at one time or another. But it is true that among my
monastics we have zero tolerance for disharmonious conditions of any
kind. ¶Harmony is the first and foremost rule of living in all spheres, but
particularly in spiritual work, where it is an absolute must. Striving for
harmony begins within the home and radiates out into all dimensions
of life, enhancing and making joyous and sublime each relationship for
every devotee. Thus, each strives to be considerate and kindly in thought,
word and deed, to unfold the beautiful, giving qualities of the soul, to
utter only that which is true, kind, helpful and necessary. The great Tamil
saint, Tiruvalluvar, offers the following sage advice in Tirukural verse 100:
“To utter harsh words when sweet ones would serve is like eating unripe
fruit when ripe ones are at hand.” Yes, this is the ideal. I was asked by
the swâmîs in Gujarat, time after time, “But what if conflict and conten-
tion do arise?” My answer was that in our fellowship all work stops and
the problem is attended to at once. It is each one’s responsibility to fol-
low this wisdom. Nothing could be more counterproductive and foolish
A spiritual family has zero tolerance for disharmonious conditions. A Hindu couple argue, with
the towers of Meenakshi Temple behind, but later settle their differences before sleep. Their
regained harmony is shown by their clasped hands.
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than to continue work, especially religious work, while conflict prevails,

for demonic forces have been unleashed that must be dispelled for any
effort to be fruitful and long lasting. Any breach in the angelic force field
of the home, monastery or workplace must be sealed off quickly. ¶Our
approach is simple. We are all committed to the shared sâdhana that all
difficult feelings must be resolved before sleep, lest they give rise to mental
argument, go to seed and germinate as unwanted, troublesome vâsanâs,
subconscious impressions, that cannot be totally erased but only softened
and neutralized through the mystic processes of atonement. Disharmony
is disruption of the harmonious prâ∫ic flow: anger, argument, back-biting,
walking out of meetings, painful words and hurt feelings. The Vedas pray,
“May our minds move in accord. May our thinking be in harmony—com-
mon the purpose and common the desire. May our prayers and worship
be alike, and may our devotional offerings be one and the same” (Âig Veda
10.191.3. ve, p. 854). One of the principles of harmony is that the commit-
ment to harmony has to be greater than any commitment to any par-
ticular issue or problem. Problems change, but the strength of harmony
has to be the ultimate priority. This is a conceptual tool to use whenever
differences arise.
If a disruption is not resolved before sleep, then a
Tuesday kukarmaphala, fruit of wrongdoing, will be created. The
LESSON 296
hurt feelings and mental arguments continue to fester
The Sâdhana
Of Resolution until the matter is brought up and openly faced to be
resolved. If not resolved within 72 hours, the problem
germinates, and elders must take action under spiritual guidance to rec-
tify the matter. The fact that all have chosen to avoid facing the difficulty
shows that more serious remedies are required. ¶Resolution in all cases
is accomplished through the h®î prâyaßchitta: apology, the showing of
remorse, talking together in small groups and giving gifts as tokens of
reconciliation. Humility is the keynote. Sincere apology is offered for par-
ticipating in argument or confusion, even if one was not necessarily to
blame; the karma was there that attracted the situation. Harmony is rein-
stated by honestly accepting apologies, by forgiving and forgetting with
the firm resolve to never bring up the matter again. Zero tolerance is based
on the shared understanding that by working together on the firm foun-
dation of love and trust all will progress in religious service and worship.
Through these efforts, a sukarmaphala, fruit of right doing, is deliberately
created. When two ßishyas sit to settle a disharmony, it is sometimes help-
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ful for an uninvolved third party to be present, even silently, to balance

the energies. ¶Sâdhana—personal transformation through self-effort—is
the magic balm that soothes the nerve system, giving strength for each
ßishya to have forbearance with people and patience with circumstances.
When sâdhana is neglected, problems close in. Families find it difficult to
see eye to eye. Hard feelings arise in even the simplest and well-intended
encounters when the individuals have become too externalized. ¶There is
a natural harmony within our monasteries, which families seek to emu-
late. Rarely is much discussion required when daily activities are being
carried out, for the lines of authority based on seniority are always clear.
This is the first boon for maintaining harmony among a group. Ours is a
traditional hierarchical system of governance, upheld within our family
and monastic communities, established when the Vedas were created. It
is a system whereby the elders, in a loving manner, guide those younger
than they. So, there is always an atmosphere of respect, loving harmony
and meeting of minds. Never is scolding heard or feelings hurt or argu-
ments provoked or sincere questions left unanswered. Here “love is the
sum of the law,” and the heartfelt feelings going out from the elders pro-
tect and support those who will one day themselves be elders. We create a
secure and loving society in which intelligence overrides controversy and
the only rigid rule is wisdom. Thus the prâ∫ic magnetism of the family or
monastery is maintained and kept ever building for sustainable success
and spirituality. ¶Yes, I can tell you from experience that zero tolerance
for inharmonious conditions is a workable law and sâdhana that can and
should be adopted by all spiritual groups and individuals. My satguru,
Siva Yogaswami, used to say, “It takes a lot of courage to be happy all the
time.” Most people, it seems, would rather be miserable. Think about it.
They go through life getting their feelings hurt, resenting this or that and
hurting the feelings of others in an endless cycle of unresolved emotion,
asking a torrent of unanswerable rhetorical questions. Take today’s aver-
age family: it’s a composite of troubled individuals.
Today, more than ever, parents everywhere are con-
Wednesday cerned about keeping the family together. I have found
LESSON 297
that the key is to keep the prâ∫as flowing harmoniously.
Maintaining
Magnetism A true family is a clan of individuals who love each other,
which means they are bound together by positive prâ∫ic
magnetism. When sons-in-law and daughters-in-law join the family, their
prâ∫ic magnetism intermingles, and the family extends itself harmoni-
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ously, especially if the jyotisha compatibilities are good between the bride
and her husband and the bride and her mother-in-law. This magnetism
is maintained through the principle of zero tolerance for disharmonious
conditions, to keep the prâ∫as flowing within their homes in a positive,
loving way. This means that if there is a disruption of the prâ∫as, caused
by interpersonal conflict—argument, angry words or worse—the matter
must be settled among those involved before they retire to sleep, even if
it means staying up all night. ¶What is prâ∫a? Prâ∫a is vital energy. There
are three phases of the mind: instinctive, intellectual and superconscious.
They comprise three different kinds of prâ∫a in every human being:
instinctive prâ∫a, intellectual prâ∫a and refined, superconscious prâ∫a,
also known as actinic energy. Instinctive prâ∫as digest our food and main-
tain the functions of the physical body. They also give rise to the emotions
of fear, anger, jealousy and other base instincts. The instinctive energies
affect the mind, emotions and behavior. Without well-developed intellec-
tual prâ∫as, the mind is ruled by the lower nature and is easily influenced
by others, often in a negative way. This is why children must be closely
watched and guided during their formative years until their intellectual
prâ∫as develop in the form of good memory, discernment and willpower.
The superconscious prâ∫as bring through creativity, inspiration and intu-
ition. These are the energies to be sought after and nurtured through
various kinds of religious devotion and sâdhana. ¶In nearly every home,
all three kinds of prâ∫a are at work. Little children are functioning mainly
in the instinctive prâ∫as. Students are in the intellectual prâ∫as. Parents,
hopefully, are functioning in the spiritual prâ∫as, at least part of the time,
drawing into the home the cosmic, actinic rays of the soul, while balanc-
ing all three forms of prâ∫a within themselves. ¶It is the duty of the head
of the house and his wife to take charge of all the three prâ∫as within the
home and keep them flowing harmoniously day after day after day after
day. How do they do that? By prayer and regular, early-morning daily
sâdhana, bringing wisdom and other refined, actinic prâ∫as through from
the superconscious mind. When everyone is bound together with love,
everything goes along fairly smoothly.
The older children and young adults in the family must
Thursday be taught that it is their responsibility, too, to see that
LESSON 298
the prâ∫as are all flowing nicely in the home, so the little
Keeping Peace
With Yourself children and babies are protected. Young adults, having
just come out of the instinctive mind themselves, are
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breaking the barriers into the intellect, experiencing these new prâ∫as and
beginning to think for themselves. This is the time when elders can guide
them into the zero-tolerance-for-disharmonious-conditions philosophi-
cal outlook. Youths who have accepted the concept are most respectful
of loving relationships. They tried it out and found for themselves that
“Yes, we do have control over the instinctive mind” and “No, we won’t
allow it to run wild within our home, among our friends or in our asso-
ciations with the community.” They will be the ones to keep the flow
of prâ∫as harmonious. ¶Then the next step unfolds from within most
naturally: zero tolerance for disharmonious conditions within our own
self. This brings us back to my guru’s wisdom: claim the strength to stop
being miserable, to stop tolerating turmoil inside yourself. How is this
accomplished? We have to boldly affirm, “I will not allow the instinctive
mind that I experienced as a child to control me in any way. I will not
allow anger to come up. I will not allow jealousy to dominate my think-
ing and make me feel inferior or superior to someone else. I will not
allow fear to permeate my aura.” ¶Then, each day before bedtime, settle
any unresolved matters within yourself by performing the vâsanâ daha
tantra, “subconscious purification by fire.” Vâsanâs are sub-subconscious
traits, complexes or subliminal tendencies which, as driving forces, color
and motivate one’s attitudes and actions. Vâsanâs are conglomerates of
subconscious impressions, saμskâras, created through repeated or pow-
erful experience. Daha means to burn, consume by fire, and a tantra is
a method or technique, and the method here is to write out clearly all
problems as well as emotional happenings, unhappy or happy, that are
vibrating in the subconscious, instinctive-intellectual mind. When the
eyes, through the intellectual mind or conscious mind, see the problem
written down, the emotion attached to the memory begins to diminish.
Then crumple up the paper and burn it in an ordinary fire, such as in
a fireplace, urn or garbage can, to totally release some of life’s burdens
from the subconscious and dispel the suppressed emotions as the fire
consumes the paper. ¶This simple tantra removes the vâsanâs from the
memory and emotional recesses along with the emotion, resentments,
hurt feelings and misunderstandings. Soon the superconscious prâ∫as
will begin to flow, and our natural, peaceful self emerges, and we may
be left wondering, “Why was I ever bothered about that trivial incident?”
¶What happens if we don’t resolve inharmonious or congested matters
within ourself before sleep? The condition will go to seed, and those
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v®ittis, waves of the mind, which were disturbed by the experiential cre-
ation of the situation, will form a vâsanâ to germinate at a later time in
life, perhaps many years in the future, or even in another lifetime. This
daily mental maintenance, of course, requires discipline. It may be easier
to simply drop off to sleep feeling angry, jealous, guilty, dejected or sorry
for oneself. ¶Yes, zero tolerance for disharmonious conditions can be
applied within oneself as well as among a family or any group of people.
This practice can be established in one of two ways. Start with yourself
and then carry it out to others. Or start with your relationships with oth-
ers, smoothing out the prâ∫as when they go a little crazy, and then finally
apply it to yourself when you are convinced that this is the way life should
be lived. Zero tolerance for disharmonious conditions is clearly the only
way once one fully accepts the basic principles of the Sanâtana Dharma:
all-pervasive energy, cause and effect, and coming back in a physical birth
until all scores are settled. ¶Remember the inspiring words of the Atharva
Veda, “Let us have concord with our own people and concord with people
who are strangers to us. Aßvins, create between us and the strangers a
unity of hearts. May we unite in our midst, unite in our purposes and not
fight against the divine spirit within us” (7.52.1-2. hv, p 205).
When an inharmonious condition arises in a seeker’s life,
Friday it forms a deep, dark veil within his mind, inhibiting the
LESSON 299
progressive process of seeking inwardly. Shall he store
Heal All Hurts
Before Sleep it away and forget it, put it behind him and get on with
life? That is a temporary relief, to be sure, only temporary
insofar as retaliatory karma will come back in full force at another time as
an even deeper, darker veil that will effectually stop the seeking. Only at
this second round will the seeker, now knowing the effect of past causes,
begin to perform japa, do prâ∫âyâma and strenuous religious practices,
such as penance and kavadi, beseeching Lord Íiva to lift the veiling doom.
¶The wise seeker obviously will endeavor to lift the dark veils once he real-
izes they never go away but always persist when he stores problems away.
At the same time, he realizes that certain obstacles in his progressive life
pattern are beginning to show. Thus, the super-wise seeker will not store a
problem away when it arises, but handle it adroitly and magically heal all
wounds before they fester. To be super wise on the path to enlightenment,
one must have the siddhi of humility. ¶When an argument flares up in
the home between mother and father, it affects all of the children. They
feed on the i∂â and piˆgalâ prâ∫as of the mother and father. Super-wise
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parents heal their differences before they sleep at night, even if they have
to stay up all night to do it. Failure to heal differences before sleep means
that a first separation has occurred. ¶Domestic abuse is a difficult issue,
but one we must confront openly. I urge you all to stand up and say it is
no longer acceptable for a man to abuse his wife or for either the husband
or the wife to abuse their children. This must stop. In order to heal the
differences that arise within a marriage from time to time, both partners
have to give in. The best place to do this is at the feet of their Gods in the
temple or shrine room. There is no other solution. This is the only way.
The method of giving in, yes, is to talk it over. A major emphasis is to see
the other’s point of view, finding points in the disturbance both can agree
with. Agreement is the key word. The relationship between the husband
and wife, who are also a mother and father or potential mother and father,
has more lasting influence than their opposing opinions. Some relation-
ships are easy and some are difficult. But resolving disagreements before
nightfall is the aim. Some couples need to work harder at it than others.
¶Habits are formed through the repetition of the same events over and
over again. No matter what you have seen or heard from parents, relatives,
neighbors, friends or society itself, heal your differences before sleep, even
if it takes all night. By doing this repeatedly, a new habit will be created.
Don’t go to sleep in anguish, holding on to anger, fear, confusion or ill
feelings. The inconvenience of this wise remedy will cause each one to be
careful of his or her words, thoughts and actions.
Those wondering how they could ever live with zero
Saturday tolerance for all discord and disharmony need only
LESSON 300
realize that people are naturally tolerant with those
The Many
Levels of Love they love. The good mother tolerates all the little prob-
lems her beloved infant brings into each day. The lov-
ing wife tolerates the faults and actions of her husband. A true friend
tolerates another friend’s foibles and even rough words. If we learn to
love, we automatically learn to have perfect tolerance for those we love.
The ancient Tirukural reminds us, “When friends do things that hurt
you, attribute it to unawareness or to the privileges of friendship” (805).
¶Love comes in many forms. There is physical love, magnetic attraction.
This is dualistic love, because if the other person responds, you feel very
good, and if he does not respond, you don’t like him. That is not the
kind of love that is all encompassing. It is a very narrow form of love.
It broadens a little bit with emotional love, which is the second kind of
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love. You love someone because he makes you happy, or you express love
to make other people happy. But if someone doesn’t make you happy or
you are trying to make someone else happy and he just won’t be happy,
then you don’t like him anymore. That is also a dualistic form of love. It
is not all encompassing. Physical love and emotional love are companions.
¶Then there is intellectual love, which comes in and breaks it all up. In the
intellect, if you love somebody and he doesn’t agree with you, then you
don’t like him. That interrupts the physical love and the emotional love.
Arguments start, sarcasm begins to well up. These are all forms of partial
love. People experience this every day. ¶Spiritual love is the fourth kind.
Somewhat hard to come by, it is the love from the soul body. Spiritual love
transcends physical love, emotional love and mental love. It transcends
all kinds of feelings. It has a feeling of its own, which is called bliss—the
ever-flowing energy from Íiva out through your body, the ever-flowing
energy from Íiva out through your mind, the ever-flowing energy of Íiva
out through your emotions. Caught up in that ever-flowing energy, you
can truly say to everyone, “I love you.” And what does you mean? You
means Íiva, because you are seeing Íiva in each one. What are you looking
at when you say that? You are not looking at the body. You are not appre-
ciating or depreciating the intellect. You are not even bothered about the
emotions, whether you are liked or not liked, because you are seeing Íiva
emanating out through the eyes, emanating out through the aura, ema-
nating out through the skin. Íiva is there, and you are living with Íiva.
¶This great, Supreme God of all the Gods is limited in one respect: He
cannot take Himself out of you or anyone else. So mentally say, “I love
you,” then ask yourself the question, “What does you mean?” Does you
mean you like the body of the person? No. Does you mean you like the
emotions of the person? No. Does you mean you like the intellect of the
person? No. Does you mean you like somebody as long as they are always
pleasing to you, always agreeing with you, never upsetting you, never pull-
ing away from you? No. It means that you love their soul. It means that
you love Íiva inside of them. The light within their eyes is Íiva’s light. The
light that lights up their thoughts is Íiva’s light, and that is what you love.
That love is all encompassing. That love is not partial love, half love or just
a little bit of love given when it pleases you. It’s not magnetic love; it’s not
intellectual love. You are not putting any demands on the other person
at all. You are not expecting anything back. It is love for the sake of love.
¶There should be a unique English word for spiritual love, but there is not.
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In Sanskrit we do have a word for divine love: prema. Therefore, we have

to adjust our thinking when we say, “I love you,” to this all-encompassing,
beautiful love that radiates throughout the universe—the perfect universe
where everything is in harmony and order. And even if it is seemingly out
of harmony, you know it actually is in harmony because you are in the
state of consciousness where harmony is, where peace is, where bliss is.
Therefore, your Íaiva Siddhânta religion can work in your daily life.
Your Íaiva Siddhânta religion can be lived every minute
Sunday of the day and all through the night. All you have to do
LESSON 301
is decide whether you are going to expect anything back
The Hope of the
World Is Love from anyone. All you have to decide is what part of the
person you love. If you love the soul, you love the whole
person, no matter who the person is, no matter what he does, what he says,
whether you know him or whether you don’t know him, because he is the
light of Íiva, the energy of Íiva, the love of Íiva walking around in human
form. This is the kind of love that keeps you in harmony with everyone.
¶Love is expressed in so many different ways. It is a force, a vibration that
you have to work at to keep it flowing. Everyone has human emotions,
instinctive emotions. Love controls those emotions. Love is appreciation,
which can be expressed through gratitude, kind words, and especially
through kind thoughts, because unkind thoughts create unkind words
which create unkind actions, and everything begins with a thought. Love
is an inner happiness which you want to cultivate in someone else, and if
you begin to work at cultivating an inner happiness in someone else, you
will have it yourself. If you work to cultivate an inner happiness in your-
self, it doesn’t work so well. That’s a selfish approach, and you are likely
to bring up instinctive emotions and memories of the past, especially of
the bad things that happened in the past. In expressing love, one has to
be very careful to know that it is a building situation, and be very careful
not to indulge in unkind words, unkind thoughts and sarcasm. Sarcasm
is the first breakdown in relationships. Trying to change another person’s
character is also disastrous to a relationship. You have to accept everybody
as they are. People change by the example of other people. Children learn
first by the example people set for them. They follow that example—they
don’t learn by mere words in the beginning—and that carries out all
through life. Everyone admires a hero; everyone needs a role model. So
if you want to change someone else, be a role model for him. Then he
will become like you eventually, but it takes time. Be forgiving, because
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love is also forgiving. And be compassionate, for love is also compas-

sionate, along with showing gratitude and expressing appreciation. ¶Love
says, “I’m sorry.” Love says, “Thank you.” Love is also generosity, because
whomever you love you are generous toward. You have generosity; you
give and you give and you give and you give. And according to the great
law of karma, you can’t give anything away but that it will come back to
you. If you give love, it comes back to you double, and then you don’t
know what to do with that, so you give that away, and that comes back
double, and again you don’t know what to do with that, so you give that
and it comes back double, and your whole family begins to flourish. The
community begins to flourish. ¶Out of all the philosophies, out of all the
psychological maneuverings and the psychiatric analyses, the hope of the
world is love. It will be a wonderful day when all of us see that the hope
of the world is love. You will discover ways yourself to express love. Love
is decorating the home, bringing flowers into the home, arranging flowers
in the home. It is cooking a wonderful meal and serving it properly. Love
is cleaning and tidying up the home, bringing fresh air into the home so
that those who come into the home are uplifted simply by being in the
home. Love is taking care of the shrine room, bringing fresh water, fresh
flowers and lighting incense, polishing the Deities, keeping them bright
and shiny and dressing them in new clothing so that those who see and
receive the darßana are uplifted. There are many physical ways we can
express love. Love is bringing the whole family to the temple at auspicious
times. Love is meeting with the family daily, solving all the little problems,
sharing and talking and understanding each other’s minds and where they
are in their consciousness. Love is being patient with people who have
problems until the problems go away by talking them through. Love is
respecting the elders. Love is also respecting yourself, because unless you
have self-respect, unless you respect yourself, which means having a good
self image, you will find it difficult to respect others. And unless you love
and respect others, you will definitely have a hard time living in harmony
with the world around you.
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 Saddharmâvaßyakatâ
saÎmaa*vaxyak[taa

Why We Need Religion

By means of the hymns one attains this world, by the

sacrificial formulas the space in-between, by holy chant
the world revealed by the sages. With the syllable Aum
as his sole support, the wise man attains that which is
peaceful, unageing, deathless, fearless—the Supreme.
Atharva Veda, Praßna Upanishad, 5.7. ve, p. 775
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As we progress on the spiritual path, we must have a

Monday clear intellectual understanding of the map leading to
LESSON 302
the eventual destination, as well as what is required to
Vedânta, the
Mountain Peak prepare ourselves and to take with us to complete the
journey. To begin, we shall discuss Vedânta and Sid-
dhânta, monism-pluralism, advaita-dvaita and the traditional part that
yoga plays within the midst of Hindu Dharma. ¶Vedânta is a philoso-
phy and an ideal. It sets its sights on the mountain peaks and declares
emphatically these heights as man’s true abode. Life as we normally live
it, says Vedânta, is based on ignorance of our true nature. We are like
pedigreed animals wallowing in the mud, believing we are swine, divine
beings thinking ourselves to be mere humans. But once we recognize our
true nature, we will rise up from the mud and leave behind, forever, our
previous ignorant ways. Vedânta does not budge from its vision. It sees
no excuse for the nonattainment of its ideals. No human weaknesses are
recognized as reasons for falling short of the goal. They are but chal-
lenges. ¶Vedânta sees all men as equal. It makes the same declaration of
truth to all men, regardless of their varying capabilities. Vedânta tells the
instinctive man, the intellectual, the spiritual man, the man at the gal-
lows and the man speaking from the pulpit each the same message—that
he himself is the Truth that all men seek, that this world of experience
and the role he is playing in it are based on ignorance of his true nature,
that he is himself God, the Absolute. ¶Vedânta is the word of sages who
have spoken out their realized truths, not based on needs of individual
disciples or attached to a practical means of reaching followers. Vedânta
is simply the goal, the final truths that man can attain to. The lofty Himal-
ayan peak rises far above the surrounding country, breaking through the
clouds, standing alone in silent declaration of its majesty. We may see
this peak from a distant valley. We may know and learn much about it.
Perhaps we even desire to reach this peak ourselves. Yet it remains so
distant, giving us no clue of the path which could lead us to it. This is
Advaita Vedânta in its purity—a mountain peak truly majestic, but so far
aloft that for most it can only serve to inspire awe and deference toward
heights that are out of our reach. ¶Vedânta, as an ideal and philosophy,
can and perhaps should leave us just where it does, with a vision, a grand
A sister and brother are growing up in Germany, with the Berlin skyline behind them. While
nonreligious youth run wild and vandalize property, they are grateful for their Hindu upbring-
ing, which provides values and moral direction, teaching them the merits of a peaceful life.
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vision, a grand vision of our potential, but a vision without a practical

means of reaching it. The practical means, the carefully thought out and
guided approach, belongs to another field of experience. And this we
would call religion. It is the duty and purpose of religion to recognize the
lofty goal, recognize the realistic capabilities, potential and present state
of those seeking the goal, and provide a sensible and safe path toward that
goal—a path that can take the strong to the final heights and yet not leave
the weak on treacherous precipices along the way. Religion is the path, the
only true path.
The idea of a shortcut that transcends religion and brings
Tuesday one quickly to the peak is a fallacy. We hear and read
LESSON 303
many stories of sages who have seemingly leapt from the
There Are
No Shortcuts valley to the peak on the power of tremendous austeri-
ties or rigorous mental control. Some of us may have
heard of Ramana Maharshi or Rama Tirtha, great sages of India’s recent
past. We may recall that both of them climbed to the heights of Vedântic
truths while young, apparently unencumbered by traditional religious
performance. Or at least this is the way we hear of them. True, they were
both young when they reached great spiritual illumination. But their
relationship with traditional religion needs clarification. In fact, each of
these sages passed through religion, not around it. ¶For the would-be
Vedântin to shirk his religion, thinking he is following Ramana Maharshi
or Rama Tirtha, is like the college dropout thinking that he is following
the example of a graduate. The dropout and the graduate are similar in
that they both have left college. But whereas the dropout was unable to
absorb and fulfill the teachings of a college, and is unfit for anything
that requires more than a high school diploma, the graduate has not only
mastered the teachings but is the living fulfillment of the teachings. We
could say that both Ramana Maharshi and Rama Tirtha were “A” students
of the Hindu religion. How many people, as a fifteen-year-old child, like
Ramana Maharshi, would walk each day to their village temple and pros-
trate before the image of God, weeping for the Lord’s grace that he be
able to live a pure and spiritual life as exemplified by his religion? How
many of us could, as Rama Tirtha did from his earliest years, daily attend
temple services, chant incessantly the holy words of his religion, read fer-
vently his scriptures, become so enraptured with love of God that his pil-
low each morning would be soaking wet from tears of devotion inspired
by his silent prayers? These are men of religion who dove so deeply into
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their religion that they became the very fulfillment, the very proof, of
the power of religion. ¶And so it is with all the world’s religions and the
saints they have produced. There is no true path that leads away from
religion. Hard work, diligence and perseverance in religious practices will
be found as the spiritual foundation in the lives of all the world’s great
saints. In Hinduism, the word we use to denote religion, its theology
and practices, is Siddhânta. Siddhânta is the path that one follows which
leads to the mystic vision of Vedânta. When we read of the yogas of bhakti,
karma and râja, discipleship to a guru, the fulfillment of spiritual dharma
and temple worship, these are all part of the path, part of Siddhânta.
In the West, we first received from India the philosophi-
Wednesday cal teachings of Vedânta as if they exist separate from
LESSON 304
religion. There were, of course, some religious practices
Vedânta and
Religious Unity of Hinduism spoken of as methods to reach the Vedânta
realizations. But it was all very low key, presented in a
way that would not seem challenging or offensive to Western religions.
This was fine and as it should be. But it also created misconceptions in
the minds of those who earnestly did want to reach toward the Vedântic
truths. The West was given the impression that Vedânta was a mystic path
which was independent of religion. Yoga was the word used to describe
this “trans-religious” spiritual path to God. And this yoga could be
adopted by anyone regardless of former or current religious involvement.
The problem lies in the fact that many were left with the misconception
that religion was unnecessary and perhaps unenlightened; whereas, in
truth, yoga is an integral part of our ancient religious tradition. It is not
now, nor was it ever, separate from the religious tradition that gave birth
to it. Yoga is an advanced part of the Hindu religion, a religion which sees
realization of the Vedântic truths as the goal of man. ¶There is an impor-
tant reason why many in the West were attracted to yoga and Vedânta
philosophy. The idea of a spiritual path separate from religion comes very
close to an ideal that many were, and still are today, seeking. This ideal
is unity of world religions. This ideal is promoted by many swâmîs who
declare that there is much in common between all religions, that there
is, in fact, a meeting ground where all agree on certain basic spiritual
truths. So, it would seem that the less important areas of difference could
be overlooked and the commonly accepted truths proclaimed in unison.
Yoga and Vedânta are said to be the answer, the meeting ground. ¶But in
the final analysis, a spiritual path separate from religion neither fulfills
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the ideal of religious unity, nor is it really a spiritual path. It remains

only a philosophy, a mental concept. Why? Because, for one, each reli-
gion knows all too well the true importance of the many seemingly less
significant practices and rituals of their religion. They know that for most
people the dutiful performance of these practices helps stabilize them
in their spiritual lives. For some, any type of theology or philosophy, let
alone mysticism, is beyond their realm of thinking. But what they can do,
and need to do, are simple religious performances, the fruits of which
will, later in life or in future lives, uplift them into deeper stages of spiri-
tual life. To set aside this aspect of religion would be to destroy the reli-
gious life of millions. ¶Secondly, even those who are seemingly beyond
the need for external religious practice, who would be inclined to accept
a nonreligious spiritual path as their way, will eventually find themselves
on unstable ground, and for many reasons. Each religion has a hierarchy
of saints, angels and archangels which assist all of its followers from the
inner planes, helping them through their difficult times, answering their
prayers and supplications. When we leave the fold of religion, we remove
ourselves from the benign influence of these great beings and actually
open ourselves to much lesser, base influences which can disrupt our lives.
Spiritual life, especially as one progresses into stages of mystical experi-
ence, is a very delicate process. Powerful forces are awakened in us that we
may or may not always be able to perfectly control.
If we return to our analogy of the mountain peak, the
Thursday path to it, religion, would be likened to a well-trodden
LESSON 305
trail. There are many people all along the way to assist in
Unity at the
Mountaintop times of need. There are also those few in each religion
who have walked the entire path, reached the summit
and can lead others along the way. Those pursuing yoga, philosophy or
mysticism separate from the foundation of day-to-day religion are like
lone climbers treading through unknown territory, up unknown slopes.
Theoretically they too can reach the summit. But realistically they do not.
Mountain storms, unforeseen precipices, dead ends and untold other
dangers and detours eventually claim such would-be seekers. Many fall
into the crevice of intellectual rigidity and arrogant argumentativeness.
¶The path of dharma, which is India’s word for religion, is the sure and
proven path. They call it the eternal path, Sanâtana Dharma. True religion
does not discount mystic experience. Every true religion has produced its
mystics. And it is here where religious unity is realized. The Zen master,
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Christian mystic, master of Kabala, Sufi mystic, Shinto shaman, Hindu

sage and Taoist recluse can all speak of unity. They can all look into each
others’ eyes and see no differences, but only oneness of spirit. For there
is but one mountain peak that rises above the clouds. And all true seek-
ers, regardless of their religion, must find their way to this one summit
within themselves, sometimes transcending the religion of their birth. In
mystic experience lies the unity of all religions. ¶Vedânta is an attempt
to describe the experiences of the mystic. But how many actually attain
to these final heights of realization? Many speak of them, but in the final
analysis, too few ever reach them, for very few are willing to go through
the rigorous efforts of purification. Few are willing to face each fault and
weakness in their nature. Few are willing to take their scriptures, their
spiritual leader’s words and their own intuitive knowing to heart and
apply and practice their religion every day, every hour, every minute. But
this is what it takes. It takes this kind of dedication, this kind of unrelent-
ing effort. ¶The mystic whom we see poised on the peak of God Realiza-
tion is the man who once faced each experience that you now do. He
didn’t skip them or go around them. He had to deal with the same doubts,
the same fears and the same confusions. He had those same experiences
where all seems against you, and you seem so alone and ask, “Why am I
the one who has these unsolvable problems, these totally confusing situ-
ations?” He didn’t give in to that abyss of doubt. He threw himself at
the feet of God when all seemed beyond hope. And hope appeared. He
persevered, tried his best, made the decisions that made the most sense
in spite of unclarity—and all the while continued his sâdhana, continued
his spiritual practices, until one by one the veils of confusion faded and
clarity became constant. He is the man who strived so hard on the little
things in life, as well as on the great challenges. He simply did—not spoke
of, but did—what you know you should do. We are the carvers of our own
future. God’s grace, His love, is always blessing us in our efforts.
In India’s spiritual traditions there have been for ten
Friday thousand years or more two major streams of thought,
LESSON 306
one called advaita in Sanskrit, or monism in English,
Monistic
Theism and the other called dvaita or theism. Our own tradi-
tion, known by many names—monistic theism, Advaita
Siddhânta, monistic Íaiva Siddhânta or Advaita Èßvaravâda—embraces
them both fully. I discovered that the path of monism and theism is the
whole of life. As my satguru explained, it is the entire path. He compared
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it to an orchestra and an audience. Playing in an orchestra and being

in the audience are two different experiences. The audience without the
orchestra is not complete. They would be just sitting hearing nothing. The
orchestra without the audience is not complete. They would be entertain-
ing no one. So it is in the plane of duality. We have to practice duality in
an intelligent way. Satguru Yogaswami had the full advaitic realization
of the Self, Paraßiva, but at the same time he had the fullness of dvaitic
devotion toward God, the Gods and his guru. ¶There was a Vedântin in
Jaffna, Sri Lanka, who was very pompous and looked down his nose at
duality and temple worship. He did not have a great relationship with
Íiva Yogaswami, who was always having fun with him in one way or
another. One day Yogaswami saw the Vedântin in the marketplace and,
coming up from behind, tapped him on the shoulder. The man spun
around and asked, “Who’s there?” Yogaswami exclaimed, “What do you
mean, ‘Who’s there?’ Didn’t you say there was only one!” Yogaswami had
shown the Vedântin that he could not keep the top of the mountain—
the highest realizations of truth—separated from the bottom of it, the
day-to-day world. He was making the point that the man had reached
the summit only intellectually, through reasoning out the Vedic truths.
Therefore, according to the same reasoning process, he had to reject the
bottom of the mountain to maintain his arguments. This is the simplistic
Vedânta philosophy, sometimes called the path of words, the vâk mârga,
expounded by people who can eloquently explain Vedânta but have had
no personal spiritual experience. They have attained the power to live a
completely ordinary life as philosophically perfect â∫ava mârga adepts.
¶By the example of his own life, Satguru Yogaswami showed that, hav-
ing reached the top through realization, the seer cannot reject any part
of the mountain, because he remembers his experiences at the bottom,
his experiences in the middle and his experiences at the top. Yogaswami
taught that we cannot reject direct experience. No one can take that away
from us. It is recorded in the âkâßa forever. Therefore, realization is not
synonymous with the word understanding. ¶When a musician is playing
an instrument in an orchestra, he is having the experience of moving his
fingers, arms and hands. The musician is hearing what he is playing and
what everyone else is playing as well. Each player is realizing the unity of
the entire orchestra. This is the experience of monism—that wonderful
oneness. A member of the audience listening to the orchestra is not hear-
ing just one instrument, but all playing together in unison. But he is only
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experiencing through his ears. That is the experience of theism—that

wonderful twoness. ¶The orchestra can exist without the audience, but
the audience cannot exist without the orchestra. That is why the monist
can go on with his practices even if there is no temple close by to worship
in. He can go on with his practices even without an image of God. The
theist cannot do this. Without the image of God or a temple to worship
within, he is lost. ¶Monistic theists are practical philosophers. They put
the orchestra and the audience together. They have the grand experience
of the fullness of life. They enjoy the top of the mountain and its bottom.
They put monism into theism and bring theism into monism. They are
the full persons on this planet. All the great yogîs and sages wandered
from temple to temple worshiping externally, and in their internal wor-
ship realized God and the Gods within themselves.
Every monist, in deep or superficial conversation, will
Saturday occasionally admit that the Gaˆgâ is a sacred river and
LESSON 307
Mount Kailâsa is a sacred mountain. In admitting that,
Monism
Without Theism? he is also somewhat of a theist at the time. Hindus
believe that the Gaˆgâ and Kailâsa are the ultimate tem-
ples. Most monists want to have their ashes put in the Gaˆgâ when they
die. Every Ågamic priest will tell us that Mount Kailâsa is at the top of the
head and at the top of the world. He will explain this is where God is, in
and above the sahasrâra chakra. This knowledge is right within the pûjâ
liturgy he chants. Therefore, when we find a monist who hides the fact
that he is somewhat of a theist, we must question if his monistic outlook
is sustained only by his intellectual abilities, clichés and cogent arguments.
¶Yes, following monism without theism makes it rather difficult to rec-
oncile all life’s experiences. But there are very few true monists. Many
monists will not pass by a temple without a silent pause, even though they
will argue that no one is home there. For the rare, nonreligious monist
who goes deeply into monism and truly experiences it, theism comes up
from within as a reward. This happened to Swami Vivekananda, who
denied the reality of the Gods and Goddesses all his life, then changed
his belief when he had a vision of the Goddess, Íakti, in the last days of
his life. ¶To truly understand theism and monism, each should be taught
separately, by the same teacher. The student is never given permission
to make a choice between them. When each has been understood and
there are no more questions, the teacher will blend them together in the
mind of the devotee by requiring the practice of external and internalized
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worship. The theistic discipline is the external worship, and the monistic
is the internal worship. ¶We are on the safe path of yoga when we are
able to internalize the external worship. Otherwise, without this ability,
devotees often just perform intellectual, mental gymnastics which result
in no attainment whatsoever. Their nature begins to harden rather than
soften. Their philosophical discussions become more rigid and unyield-
ing. By blending monism into theism and theism into monism, the nature
of devotees becomes soft and loving, as the spiritual unfoldment begins.
They become wise and helpful to others as the maturing of their spirit
progresses. Such persons have compassion for another’s point of view,
and all of the fine qualities of the soul come forward to be enjoyed and
seen by others. ¶Monistic theism is a very detailed map of consciousness
which has broadness and philosophically accepts all states of conscious-
ness. The monistic theist does not turn away from the external world.
He knows that Íiva’s perfection lies everywhere within it. He attempts
to expand his consciousness into the perfection within all three worlds.
He attempts to experience the harmony of all of nature. He attempts to
be one with Íiva’s perfect universe, to live with Íiva. The monistic theist
is the perfect Hindu in all respects. ¶Most Vedântins are able to totally
describe the country, or area of consciousness, in which they are residing.
But because they do not practice much yoga, they are not all-pervasive
enough in consciousness to understand the other countries on the planet,
or other areas of the mind. For this reason their maps of the mind are
relatively incomplete. Some draw lines into squares and shut out what
they don’t understand. Monistic theists draw lines into circles and take in
the entire universe, including everything within everything.
A human being has a dual and nondual component.
Sunday He has belief. He has faith. He has love. But all of these
LESSON 308
fine qualities can be taken away through discourage-
Freedom and
Responsibility ment. His faith is faith in the unseen. His belief is belief
in things that are not always intellectually rational. His
love is love of all that is tender and beautiful. All of these fine qualities
and many more work together in lifting up consciousness toward the
ultimate reality of timelessness, causelessness and spacelessness. There is
not one human being on the planet who will not eventually understand
the monistic theist approach. This is because it is an intrinsic part of
the human psyche. Everyone is a monistic theist in one way or another.
¶Historically, there have always been monists on one side and theists on
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the other. The one path that is made up of these two camps is monistic
theism. It encompasses both. And, yes, it is the solution to many of the
problems people face today. Íaiva Siddhânta is the final conclusion of
the adepts, and it includes the true precepts of Vedânta. There can only
be one final conclusion, and that is monistic theism. ¶The problem is
that Vedânta as taught today gives privilege without the disciplines, cre-
ating jñânîs of intellect rather than realization. This privilege is taken as
a boon by those of little spiritual attainment. Freedom without respon-
sibility is another privilege given. This is also taken advantage of by the
undisciplined; whereas discipline and responsibility should be taught
and mastered before higher philosophy is delved into and practiced with
any seriousness. The beginner should not be taught to rationalize on the
nature of man and the universe from what he has memorized. He should
be brought into the culture and community of Hinduism and establish a
religious, fully committed, disciplined life before proceeding onward. We
must become aware that the neo-Indian approach to Vedânta is very new,
indeed. The true Vedântists—those who have reached the ultimate real-
izations—have reached them by following the path of monistic theism.
Modern Vedânta gives privilege without discipline, and the modern New
Age movement gives freedom without responsibility. Is there a difference?
¶Monistic theism does not give privilege. It preaches a more pragmatic
approach to life. Íaiva Siddhânta builds character within the individual—
spiritually, socially, culturally, economically, karmically and dharmically.
Aspirants have to meet a series of daily, monthly, yearly fulfillments. Truly,
monistic theism is the path to mukti and merger. ¶The monistic Íaiva
Siddhânta bhaktar can understand and appreciate the point of view of
anyone, because his love of Íivaness in all extends his communication
faculties. He is able to talk with each philosopher on his own level. When
this happens, the feeling of sharing and giving exists. The bhaktar is wise
enough to know that the other person may not understand his point of
view. This ability is a great barometer for judging the attainment of any
bhaktar, whether he can or cannot actually be one with—in empathy
with, in heart and mind, in love and trust—rich man, poor man, beggar
man, thief, doctor, lawyer, temple priest and in his heart make no differ-
ences. This is the true Íiva bhaktar; this is the true monistic theist; this is
the true Íaiva Siddhântin; this is the true Advaita Èßvaravâda adept, who
lives the statement, “Lord Íiva is the Life within the life of everyone,” as
a fact, not a metaphor.
 Devâlayâ˙
devaalayaa:

Palaces of the Gods

The rites of oblation, O lovers of truth, which the sages

divined from the sacred verses, were variously expounded
in the threefold Veda. Perform them with constant
care. This is your path to the world of holy action.
Atharva Veda, Mu∫∂aka Upanishad, 1.2.1. ve, p. 414
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Good evening! It is wonderful to be in Mauritius and

Monday see how strong Íaivism is here. You have the advantage,
LESSON 309
not enjoyed in countries like Sri Lanka and Malaysia,
Angelic
Helpers that Hindus form the majority of the population of this
beautiful island nation. This makes it possible for you
to set a fine example to all the world, to courageously and dynamically
teach and preach the Íaiva faith through your temple society and other
fine institutions. I hope you will do this, and by doing so bring Íaivism
positively into the technological age. ¶Tonight I want so speak about the
great Gods of our ancient religion and the holy temples where we com-
mune and communicate with these spiritual beings. A Hindu temple
such as this one is filled with millions of devas. When someone is born
into the Hindu religion, or formally accepted into the religion later in
life, guardian devas in the unseen worlds are assigned to automatically
protect and guide him through his Earthly life. These guardian devas
in the heaven world cannot be seen by you with your physical eyes, but
they can be seen and are seen by those who know how to use the psychic
vision of their third eye. Nevertheless, you can feel their presence in your
home. They surround you, they help you and they communicate with
the great Gods of our religion to guide you through life. ¶There are three
worlds of existence. The Third World is where the highest beings, such
as Lord Ga∫eßa, Lord Murugan and our Great God Íiva, exist in shin-
ing bodies of golden light. This Third World is called the Íivaloka. The
Second World of existence, or astral plane, is called the Devaloka. The
great Gods have millions of helpers in the Devaloka who help each and
every one of us. One or more of them is assigned to personally help you
in this First World, which is the world of material or physical existence,
called the Bhûloka. When we leave our physical body at night, we go into
the Devaloka, the Second World, and commune with the devas there and
with the Gods of our religion in the Íivaloka, the Third World. ¶Íaivism’s
most sacred substance, the holy ash, is the symbol of our religion, and we
wear it across our forehead as a symbol of purity. But even more so, the
devas in the Devaloka, in the Second World, can actually see this sacred
substance on our forehead. They can actually hear the chanting of your
sacred devotional hymns, your Devarams. They can actually see the flame
Hindu temples are homes of the Gods and the source of culture. This one lies in the Himalayan
hill forest and houses a Íivaliˆga in the main sanctum and in nearby forest sanctuaries. Below
are enshrined Na†arâja, Ga∫eßa, Kâlî, Vish∫u and Brahmâ.
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that is passed before the image that represents the Deity. This is why we
wear this pure white ash, to alert the devas that we are members of this
religion. This vibhûti is a sign, a way of saying, “We seek your help, and
we seek your blessings.” And by seeing the ash, they can distinguish your
face. When they look into this world, it is like looking through a veil. They
cannot see us too clearly. So we have signs and symbols to attract their
attention, to earn their grace and their blessings. This is why it is impor-
tant, especially when you come to the temple, to wear the sacred ash, so
that you can be seen by the great beings in the inner worlds and attract
their attention. They will respond. They will heal the aching mind.
Why do we wear the pottu, the red dot between our
Tuesday eyes? The dot worn on the forehead is a sign that one is
LESSON 310
a Hindu. It is called bindi in the Hindi language, bindu
The Hindu
Forehead Dot in Sanskrit and pottu in Tamil. In olden days, all Hindu
men and women wore these marks, and they both also
wore earrings. Today it is the women who are most faithful in wearing
the bindi. The dot has a mystical meaning. It represents the third eye of
spiritual sight, which sees things the physical eyes cannot see. Hindus seek
to awaken their inner sight through yoga. The forehead dot is a reminder
to use this spiritual vision to perceive and better understand life’s inner
workings—to see things not just physically, but with the “mind’s eye” as
well. With our third eye, we can see into the future. With our third eye, we
can see into the next world, the Devaloka. With the third eye, we can see
into the Third World, the Íivaloka. With our third eye, we can see into the
past. It is an eye that we were born with and which is eternally awake, but
we are usually unaware of its many functions. In most people it is clouded
over with intellectual ignorance and disuse. When we are in a state of
meditation and our entire mind is concentrated in the area of the third
eye between our eyebrows, we see a red light begin to form. When we put
a red dot between our eyebrows, the pottu, or bindu, as we are taught to do
in the temple and at home, this enhances the use of the third eye, just as
eyeglasses enhance the use of our two eyes. ¶There are many types of fore-
head marks, or tilaka, in addition to the simple dot. Each mark represents
a particular sect or denomination of our vast religion. We have four major
sects: Íaivism, Vaish∫avism, Íâktism and Smârtism. Vaish∫ava Hindus, for
example, wear a V-shaped tilaka made of clay. Elaborate tilakas are worn
by Hindus mainly at religious events, though many wear the simple bindi,
indicating they are Hindu, even in the general public. By these marks we
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know what a person believes, and therefore how to begin and conduct
our conversations. ¶For Hindu women, the forehead dot is also a beauty
mark, not unlike the black beauty mark European and American women
once wore on the cheek. The red bindi is generally a sign of marriage. A
black bindi is often worn before marriage to ward off the evil eye. The
bindi is sometimes used as an exotic fashion statement, its color carefully
chosen to complement the color of a lady’s sârî. Ornate bindis are some-
times worn by actresses in popular American TV shows. ¶It is common
in many religions to identify one’s beliefs by wearing distinctive religious
symbols. Often these are blessed in their temples, churches or synagogues.
Jewish men wear the round skull cap, yarmulka. Christians wear a cross
or medal on a necklace or coat lapel. In some countries, Muslim women
still cover their face with a veil. ¶So, do not hesitate to wear the bindi on
your forehead in the United States, Canada, Europe or any country of
the world. It will distinguish you from all other people as a very special
person, a Hindu, a knower of eternal truths. You will never be mistaken
as belonging to another religion or to no religion at all. For boys and
girls, men and women, the dot can be small or large depending on the
circumstance. Recently a Canadian TV documentary distinguished the
bindi by calling it a “cool dot.” Times are changing, and to proudly wear
the symbols that distinguish and define us is totally cool!
The most important teaching of God Íiva is that He
Wednesday has three perfections. He is not only timeless, formless
LESSON 311
and spaceless. That Absolute Reality, Paraßiva, is but one
The Nature
Of God Íiva of God Íiva’s perfections. He also has an all-pervasive
form which flows through all things—Satchidânanda.
He pervades all form. There is no place that Íiva is not. And He has yet
another perfection, which is a golden body of light in the Third World, a
perfect body in which He is our Lord and Creator, the most wonderful
and loving and perfect Being we can imagine. In the temple, when we
invoke God Íiva, He comes in this golden body of light and blesses the
people. He can see you. He can hear your prayers. He has created all the
souls on this planet and all other planets in our universe, our holy scrip-
tures tell us. ¶God Íiva is in all things and everywhere simultaneously,
at every point in time. And yet, Íiva as Maheßvara, the Divine Dancer,
Na†arâja, has a body not unlike yours or mine, a body in which He can
talk, a body in which He can think, a body in which He can see you and
you can see Him, a body with legs, a body with arms. In this body He
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dances the eternal dance. I had a vision, once, of Íiva Na†arâja dancing.
I could hear the bells on His ankles. I could see His feet and legs. He is
a beautiful dancer, and He dances in the Third World. ¶God Íiva is so
close to us. He is closer than our breathing, nearer to us than our hands
or feet. Yes, He is the very essence of our soul, and yet He has a body just
like ours that lives in the Third World. In this body of light He can come
into the inner sanctum of the temple, and He can look at us, and we can
feel His ßakti, His power and presence. He is our great God, the ruler of
this universe. ¶Sometimes we hear the misconception that if you worship
God Íiva He will take everything away from you. That is not true. That is
anti-Íaivite propaganda. It is not true at all. God Íiva gives you everything,
because He is the universal God described in the Vedas as the Life of your
life. This unfavorable propaganda, which exists primarily in the north of
India, but elsewhere, too, postulates that Íiva is only Rudra, the Destroyer.
It makes people afraid of Íiva. There is never a reason to fear Íiva. He is
a God of love, of compassion for all He has created. ¶Nothing has ever
been destroyed by God Íiva but that He creates, constantly changes the
form of and absorbs back to Himself His creations. For is not the ultimate
absorption, after eons of time, the ultimate destruction of what was once
created? This is the goal, is it not, for all to merge in oneness with our
God Íiva? We are not destroyed by doing this. We are fulfilled! He does
not take anything away from us, but that which would harm us. God Íiva
takes from us greed and gives abundance. God Íiva takes from us lust and
gives contentment. God Íiva takes from us anger and gives love. God Íiva
takes from us jealousy and gives self-confidence and security. God Íiva is
an ever-fulfilling God.
Our Supreme God Íiva has created the Mahâdevas, the
Thursday Gods, to help us, to protect us, to inspire us—such as
LESSON 312
Lord Murugan, Lord Ga∫eßa and many others. Ga∫eßa,
Temple
Metaphysics above all others, is the God, the great Mahâdeva, to be
invoked before every act and especially worshiped and
prayed to when changes occur in our lives as we move from the old estab-
lished patterns into new ones. Lord Ga∫eßa is always there to steady our
minds and open the proper doors as we evolve and progress. He never,
ever fails. He is always there for us when we need Him. Lord Murugan was
created by God Íiva’s ßakti and given a vel of spiritual discernment, a lance
of divine intelligence. Pray to Lord Murugan to unravel the great myster-
ies of the universe. Pray to Lord Murugan to make you a spiritual person.
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Pray to Lord Murugan to release you into the arms of Lord Íiva by teach-
ing you more about your Íaivite religion. ¶The understanding of the
reality of God and the Gods may help you to appreciate the importance
of prayer and worship. Take, for instance, our hymns and chants—our
Devarams and bhajanas, our japa and the many other ways we express
the praises and love of God Íiva that we feel in our hearts. These hymns
are actually heard by the subtle beings. Devas in the Second World come,
hover around and near us and rejoice in our singing. If we are deeply
devoted and inspired, then even the Mahâdevas of the Third World will
hover above the devas in their magnificent bodies of light, showering
blessings to those who are singing or chanting prayerfully. ¶You may not
be able to see these subtle beings, but you can feel their presence, feel a
holy atmosphere around you. I’m sure that many of you here have felt
this, perhaps while chanting Aum Nama˙ Íivâya. As long as somebody
is saying “Aum Nama˙ Íivâya,” the Íaivite religion exists on the planet
in full force. Wake up in the morning saying “Aum Nama˙ Íivâya, Aum
Nama˙ Íivâya.” Go to sleep at night saying “Aum Nama˙ Íivâya, Aum
Nama˙ Íivâya,” and through the night you will leave your physical body
and travel in the celestial spheres, where we are all together, learning,
meditating and advancing ourselves spiritually. ¶On this Earth plane the
Gods have a special home, and that is the holy temple. It is in the sancti-
fied temple, where regular and proper pûjâ is being performed in a pure
way, that the Gods most easily manifest. You can go to a Hindu temple
with your mind filled up with worries, you can be in a state of jealousy
and anger, and leave the temple wondering what you were disturbed
about, completely free from the mental burdens and feeling secure. So
great are the divine psychiatrists, the Gods of our religion, who live in
the Third World, who come from the Third World to this world where
our priests perform the pûjâs and invoke their presence over the stone
image. ¶Hindus do not worship stone images. Don’t let anyone ever con-
vince you of that. It is absolutely false. Those who say such things simply
do not understand the mystical workings of the temple, or they seek to
ridicule our religion because they feel insecure about their own. Hindu
priests invoke the Gods to come and manifest for a few minutes within
the sanctum of the temple. The Deities do come in their subtle bodies of
light. They hover in and above the stone image and bless the people. If
you are psychic and your third eye is open, you can see the God there and
have His personal darßana. Many of our ancient Íaivite saints, as well as
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contemporary devotees, have seen such visions of the Gods. They know
from personal experience that God and the Gods do exist. ¶When we go
to the temple, we leave with our mind filled with the ßakti of the Deity. We
are filled and thrilled with the ßakti of the temple in every nerve current
of our body. When we return to our home, we light an oil lamp, and that
brings the power of the temple into the home. This simple act brings the
devas in the Second World right into your home, where they can bless the
rest of the family who perhaps did not go to the temple. With a little bit
of study of the mysticism of Íaivism, we can easily understand how the
unseen worlds operate in and through us.
Many have wondered what the priest is saying when he
Friday is chanting in the Sanskrit language, which is the lan-
LESSON 313
guage of the devas, the celestial beings. When he is in the
Talking to God
During Pûjâ shrine chanting and performing pûjâ with water, flowers
and other offerings, you may wonder about the meaning
of those very complex rituals. The priest’s craft is very important to the
proper working of the temple in our lives. He must be pure and follow
strict disciplines so that the Gods will be drawn to the sanctum. Through
his chanting, he is speaking to God and the Gods, saying, “O God, I am
going to perform this pûjâ at such-and-such a temple located in such-
and-such a place in your universe of forms, and this pûjâ will be for the
purpose of such-and-such. I hope that you will consider this worship
auspicious and grace it, and that you will grant our needs and our wishes
and bring good things into the lives of everyone in this community. I pray
that we will please you with our worship, making no errors and forget-
ting nothing that should be done. But if we do, Lord, please forgive us
and make the blessings of this pûjâ just as powerful as if we had done it
perfectly, without error. We beseech you to come to this temple and hover
over the stone image with your body of light and bless the people. Thus,
I am offering you rice. I am offering you fruits and flowers. I am offering
you all the fine things that we have, so that you will come and stay for
awhile.” ¶The priest’s initial chants are basically letting God know the
place and purpose of this day’s worship. He intones, “We hope we are pure
enough in our performance of the pûjâ that we sanctify the atmosphere
here, so that you will come and be our honored guest in this temple.” Then
he bathes the Deity image, dresses the Deity in fine clothes, and worships
the Deity so that the God from the Third World will come into this finite
body in the First World, this body made of stone. Our bodies are made
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with bones, but we are not our bones. The God’s body in the temple is
made of stone, but He is not that stone body. His Third-World form is
a body of light. He is a great soul, just as we are also souls. ¶During the
height of pûjâ, the God comes with all of His devas, His celestial help-
ers. They take the problems or concerns out of your mind, harmonize
the currents of your body and dissolve all the problems for you. When
that happens, you walk out of the temple feeling you have been blessed,
having forgotten the concerns that you went in with. ¶If you arrange for
an archana—an optional personal pûjâ generally held in-between the
main pûjâs of the day—the priest pronounces your name. He intones
the name of your birth star, or nakshâtra, and presents you to the God in
a proper way. He says, “O Lord, this devotee humbly requests blessings
for a particular problem or a special event. Please hear his prayers as he
places them at your holy feet in the knowing that you will assist with the
best possible outcome.” “Would this work just as well if the priest chanted
in English?” you might wonder. Yes, it would! In your mind you can talk
to the God in English or in any other language, and He will understand.
But the Sanskrit language has its own power, a spiritual vibration. It is a
most ancient language, and far more subtle in its ability to communicate
spiritual ideas and meanings. That is why it gives a good feeling to hear
the ancient mantras, even if we don’t understand them.
Devotees ask, “Why do we circumambulate the temple?”
Saturday When we come to the temple out of the world, off the
LESSON 314
street, we are often shrouded by negative vibrations,
Approaching
The Temple which can actually be seen in our aura. Our nerve sys-
tem may be upset, especially now, in the technological
age, when we often suffer from stress and strain, the insecurity of so many
changes and the rapid pace of life. In order to prepare ourselves to enter
the sanctum sanctorum of the temple, the great ma∫∂apa inside, we walk
clockwise around the temple very slowly. In this way we prepare our mind.
We consciously drop off worldliness, letting the sufferings go, letting all
disturbances leave our mind the best we can, and trying to reach deep
inside of ourselves where peace exists eternally. We become as celestial as
we can during the time we are walking around the temple, so that we can
communicate with the celestial beings within the temple. ¶A Íiva temple
marks an agreement between God Íiva and the people on the Earth as
a meeting place where the three worlds can consciously commune. It is
the home of Lord Íiva and many of the other Gods. Specifically sancti-
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fied, it possesses a ray of spiritual energy connecting the First World with
the Íivaloka. My satguru, Siva Yogaswami of Sri Lanka, proclaimed, “O
Lord, O Primal One who gives blessings to devotees, who has become the
embodiment of Love, O Supreme Lord, Transcendent One who dwells in
the temple, make me to live here like a God. In this world we may acquire
a multitude of siddhis, but never stray from bhakti’s path, nor disobey the
words of bhaktars.” A holy Íiva temple must be approached with great
reverence and humility, as God lives in the temple. Go into the temple as
you would approach a great king, a governor, a president of a great realm,
anticipating, with a little trepidation, your audience with Him. ¶The wor-
ship in the temple creates the culture in the land. The worship in the tem-
ple creates the wealth of the land. The worship in the temple creates the
obedience to the divine law of God Íiva, the Íaiva Dharma. The ancient
Tirumantiram conversely warns, “When in Íiva’s temple worship ceases,
harm befalls the ruler, scanty are the rains, theft and robbery abound in
the land” (518). The greatest temples in the world are the homes of God
Íiva, and within them there are private rooms and sanctums for Lord
Ga∫eßa, Lord Murugan and others of the 330 million Gods of our Íaivite
Hindu religion. Pray to God Íiva. Flock to the Íiva temples, and God Íiva
will reward you, each and everyone of you, abundantly, as you perform
His worship. ¶We just visited the great temple of Chidambaram, where
God Íiva dances. The priests at the temple had their inner sanctum, the
garbhag®iha, scientifically tested. Scientists from the West came, made cer-
tain measurements and found that the inner sanctum was not only radio-
active, but it also had the highest level of gravity on the planet. Yes, things
are very heavy in the inner sanctum, much heavier than any other place
in the temple or the surrounding area. And it was radioactive. This great
power has been built up by thousands of years of worship there. ¶Why are
Americans converting to the Íaivite religion? Because they have actually
seen these mystical things happen, even in the new temples that are being
constructed in the West or in their own meditations. They have actually
seen the God come and hover over His First-World image. They have
actually felt the rays of ßakti coming out of the sanctum, cutting through
their body, cutting through their aura, and their mind being cleansed and
their whole life, even the atoms of their body, being inwardly changed.
Therefore, the Americans, who want everything, also want the greatest of
all things—the blessings of God Íiva.
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Worship God Íiva and you will be filled with love.

Sunday Become a member of the united Íaivites of the world,
LESSON 315
who love one another, who take care of each other in
Emissaries
Of Lord Íiva England, in South Africa, in Nepal, in North America,
in South America, in Mauritius, in Malaysia, in Java, in
Fiji, in Trinidad and Tobago, in Guyana, in Suriname, in Sri Lanka and
in India. It is this Íivasambhandam, this inner association of Íaivites the
world over, that is the strength for Íaivites wherever they find themselves.
In this technological age this must become an outer association as well. ¶I
urge all Íaivites, devotees of God Íiva, to worship Him as the God of Love
and, in doing so, to become beings of love. The great saints of our religion
were Íiva bhaktas. They changed the world through their love of God.
They did not need vast institutions to spread their message. They did not
need riches or carts filled with books to spread their message. They did
not need radio, television or the Internet. Their message spread because
their minds were filled with direct knowledge, direct experience of God
Íiva. Their message spread far and wide, though they perhaps never left
their native village. They just evolved within it. You, too, are emissaries
of Lord Íiva, and your love for Him is your greatest message. Simply love
God Íiva and let that love radiate out into the world. ¶We cannot forget
that Lord Íiva is the uncreated God. He is the closest to you. He is nearer
than your breathing. He is nearer than your heartbeat. He is the very Self
of you, each and every one of you. Íaivites love Íiva in that very way, as
the Self of themselves. Being in all things simultaneously, at every point
in time, God Íiva is in your fingers, He is in your eyes, He is in your heart,
He is in your mind. As our great satguru, Íiva Yogaswami, said, “There
is one thing that Lord Íiva cannot do. He can do everything, but there is
one thing He cannot do. He cannot separate Himself from me.” That is
the only thing that God Íiva cannot do. He cannot take Himself out of
you. ¶There are three things we must do: perform or attend pûjâ every
day in the home, attend a temple once a week and make a pilgrimage
once a year. These three are the foundation of our Íaiva Siddhânta. Plus,
for those who are able, meditation and certain sâdhanas are part of this
worship. External worship builds a vibration within us, and that vibra-
tion is taken within, into deep meditation—internalizing the worship in
worshiping God and the Gods within you and contacting them within
the higher chakras until you realize that you also have always been the
all-pervasive energy that pervades the universe.
 Daiva Prârthanâ Presha∫am
dEvap‰aTa*naap‰eSaNama<

Sending Prayers
To the Gods

All set for the kindling of the sacred fire, we hymn you,
O Lord, with our verses, invoking your powerful grace.
In your praise, O Lord, who reach highest heaven, we
compose our song, eager to obtain your treasure divine!
Âig Veda 5.13.1-2. ve, p. 853
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Shortly after the Kadavul Na†arâja Deity arrived from

Monday India at Kauai Aadheenam, our monastery-temple
LESSON 316
complex on the Garden Island of Kauai, we received
The Boon of
Prayer Writing the wonderful boon of communicating with the inner
worlds through written prayers. With this six-foot-tall
bronze image of the Lord of Dance came tens of thousands of devas. It
was revealed to us that these devonic helpers, though unseen to the physi-
cal eyes, are skilled in the art of fulfilling prayers. We were delighted to
know that written prayers could be offered into their hands through the
sacred fire that burns perpetually at Lord Na†arâja’s holy feet. In those
early days of the beginning of the first Íiva temple in the United States,
we felt blessed that this magical boon had come to us. Written prayers
were offered up through the sacred temple fire and soon answered. The
faith began to build among the devotees. The temple yantra was now
fully activated. ¶But there was a problem. Sometimes, in devotees’ emo-
tional fervor, prayers were hastily scribbled out and could not be easily
read. Seekers assumed that their requests and pleas for help or solace
would be known by the Gods and devas who know them personally, and
therefore they were not careful enough in composing their prayers, some
even forgetting to sign their name or note the date. We soon learned that
if prayers were not answered, it might be simply due to incompleteness
or illegibility. We also became aware that sufficient explanation must be
given for the inner-plane helpers to provide adequate assistance. ¶Here is
why absolute clarity is necessary in each written prayer. The astral image
of each prayer that arrives in the Second World, or astral plane, is an exact
duplicate of its physical-plane counterpart, but not quite as clear—more
like a carbon copy. So if the physical-plane original is not clear, its astral
counterpart will be even less clear. It will be blurred, like trying to read a
letter without one’s eyeglasses. Even the astral counterparts of typewrit-
ten documents prepared in small type are difficult to read in the inner
worlds, we were told. ¶To solve the problem of illegibility, the devas them-
selves gave a new script, which came through from the inner sky in Paris
in the early ’70s. The devas called this script Tyêîf. It is designed to look
like bamboo leaves, arranged in an intricate pattern to form 135 charac-
ters or “images,” the first twenty-six of which correspond to the English
Our loving Ga∫eßa, the rotund Deity honored by all Hindus, is approached with prayers and supplica-
tions by four traditionally dressed devotees, each from one of Sanâtana Dharma’s four primary denomi-
nations. Left to right, they are Íaivite, Vaish∫avite, Smârta and Íâkta.
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alphabet. Here is the word Tyêîf written in the devas’ script: tyeif
¶Writing and delivering prayers to the Devaloka through the sacred fire
is an ancient Nâtha Sampradâya practice. Today this method of commu-
nication is still employed in Shinto and Taoist temples in Japan, China,
Singapore, Malaysia and other areas of Southeast Asia. The prayers are
written down and placed in the temple fire. As the paper burns, the astral
double of the prayer appears in the Devaloka. The prayer is then read by
the devas, who proceed to carry out the devotee’s requests. These temple
devas are fully dedicated to assist all who come through the temple doors
with their emotional, mental and physical problems. ¶It was made very
clear to me, however, that prayers may only be sent to the Devaloka in
a sanctified havana ku∫∂a where special arrangements have been made
with the devas.
In our own Kailâsa Paramparâ, there is a similar but
Tuesday uniquely different example of direct communion
LESSON 317
between the inner worlds and the outer. My guru’s guru’s
Tantras of
Communication guru’s guru, known as the Rishi from the Himalayas, sat
for meditation in a tea shop in Bangalore, South India,
for seven years, never speaking a word or moving a muscle. Devotees
flocked to this extraordinary sage, and with them came the normal quota
of problems, questions, prayers and needs. Though they only spoke these
needs in their own private thoughts, they were mystified by the way that
answers came floating down on twisted-up slips of paper, from an unseen
source above the ®ishi’s head. Devotees would open up these messages to
find the exact answers to their unspoken questions. Our prayers burned
in the sacred fire are going in the opposite direction, and the answers are
coming in more subtle, indirect ways that become obvious as satisfaction
is experienced. ¶The knowledge of reincarnation, astral travel, channel-
ing messages from the departed, auras and oh-so-many other psychic
mysteries of the soul are an intrinsic part of the Western world in this age
of communication, just as these phenomena have been an acknowledged
part of life in the East since the dawn of mankind. Communicating with
the Gods and their devas, invoking, courting and keeping happy angels
and devas in home shrines has been at the core of nearly every religion in
the world ever since religions have existed. ¶Methods of communication
with one’s guardian devas, their friends and associates and the Gods they
so faithfully serve are many: the Ouija board, automatic writing, material-
ization seances, swinging pendulums, extracting knowledge from crystals,
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sending letters and gifts through sacred temple fires, clairvoyance, clairau-
dience, early-morning dreams, messages and predictions from entranced
mediums, the readings of subtle signs, interpreting the sounds of lizards
and crows, visiting psychic mentors, fortunetellers, palmists, astrologers,
priests and shamans, exorcism, revelation of knowledge from deep medi-
tation, and more. All of these are tantras of communication. A tantra is a
method, preceded by learning, which often requires an initiation, but not
always. ¶It is no accident that you and I are together and you are reading
this book and have gotten this far. A great thought form and several devas
accompany this book which you are now holding. They have guided you
to it and are now with you, their inner mind and your inner mind com-
municating as you continue to read. This highly charged book is itself a
doorway into the inner planes. Put it under your pillow when you sleep
at night. Study it through the day and absorb the inner knowledge.
The Gods, their devas and your own guardian devas are
Wednesday ever ready to respond to requests for help and guidance.
LESSON 318
You may well ask, “How are prayers answered?” It is well
How Prayers
Are Answered known that religious people have guardian devas, or
angels, helping them through their Earthly experience.
Established families who have kept the continuity of togetherness genera-
tion after generation court the same devonic beings century after century
in their home shrines. In our technological age it is difficult to maintain
this kind of togetherness or to attend properly to the home shrine. There-
fore, other means of communication with the devonic guardians must
be used. ¶Those who worship in Íiva temples slowly gain acceptance
into the devonic realms of the Gods, and one or two of the uncount-
able numbers of devonic intelligences often return with the devotee to
his home. When this happens, the home immediately has within it the
feeling of fullness. It is these guardian devas who are the first to receive
the devotee’s written prayers when they are transferred to the Devaloka
through the sacred fire. They read each prayer carefully. If they cannot
immediately respond, the prayer is given to a waiting dispatcher along
with some personal advice about the individual or the family from their
guardian deva. The dispatcher carries the prayer, along with the guard-
ian deva’s advice, to the group of devonic helpers who can best fulfill
the request. ¶There are many groups of devas who sit in saˆgam circles,
communicating with one another through thought transference. When
they receive a prayer, read and understand it, through the power of con-
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sensus their group mind begins the process of fulfillment. After the prayer
has been read and understood by each one present, it enters their inner
minds. When this happens, the solution, karmically proper, is revealed to
all. One or several of the devas is then seen to vanish from the group, on
their way through inner space to execute the request. Because Earth time
and astral time are different, the entire process takes about three Earth
days from the time the prayer is offered until the time that it is fulfilled.
¶These saˆgams of devas configure themselves in circles of six, twelve,
twenty-four and thirty-six. They dispatch many kinds of requests, some
business, some health, some personal, some creative, some marital, some
mental and others emotional. There is a saˆgam circle of devas for literally
every department of life. These saˆgams service the needs of devotees in
many temples and shrines in China, Japan, Southeast Asia, Hawaii, India,
Africa, North America, Europe and other areas of our planet. ¶Before the
Gods and devas can respond to your request, they must examine a time
line extending ninety-nine years into the past and ninety-nine years into
the future. Then they divide the possible decisions into nine groups to
choose their course of helpfulness to your karmic pattern. Their duty is
not to alter time or experience or to manipulate karmas, but to assist you
in going through your natural karmas and to mitigate, nullify and soften
the effects of karmas of the past that touch you in the present, whether
they be good, mixed or bad. Therefore, it is important to delineate your
state of mind as you write your prayer. ¶The devas surrounding all Nâtha
temples and shrines respond best to written requests. The Gods and
devas do not normally read your thoughts—only the thoughts directed
to them—and they never interfere in the natural karmas of individuals
who come into these places of worship. Hindus often say, “God knows my
need. He will fulfill it.” This is generally true for those who have sufficient
mental prowess and intensity of thought, the inner fire burning in the
ma∫ipûra chakra, in the heart chakra and in the head. But in our day-to-
day states of consciousness, it is most fruitful to clearly and precisely let
our thoughts be known through the written word. This is the great boon
the Nâtha temples have to offer—the direct, intricately concise, two-way
communication between this and the higher inner world.
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You may be wondering if you can send written prayers

Thursday in Tyêîf to loved ones who have passed on to the inner
LESSON 319
world. The answer is, yes, you can. Your guardian deva
Messages to
Loved Ones will hand the prayer to the loved ones, relatives or close
friends. They can be communicated with. Through
such prayers, many devotees who are feeling badly about their behav-
ioral patterns toward a departed member of their family apologize for
misdemeanors performed during their relative’s Earthly life. They make
the apology by writing a letter in the magical Tyêîf script. It is received
by a guardian deva and promptly delivered. Everything happens quite
efficiently and rapidly in the inner world. In Japan and elsewhere in Asia
not only are letters sent to the departed, but many gifts as well are placed
in the sacred fire—gifts such as automobiles made of cardboard, money,
food and more. The cardboard car and other items, when burned, will
reappear in the astral world. ¶Those who have recently given up their
physical bodies are easy to reach, because more often than not they are
still close to Earth consciousness and enjoy receiving communication
from loved ones in the form of written prayers. Souls who are well settled
in the inner world but who are nearly ready to reincarnate are also easy to
contact in this way. Souls who have attained mukti, freedom from rebirth,
but who are not yet ready to enter into higher planes where they will no
longer be involved with or communicate with those in Earth conscious-
ness—because they have not yet finished helping their devotees to attain
their highest potential in this lifetime—will also receive friendly messages
from their loved ones on Earth. Many chelas communicate with their
departed gurus in this way. ¶There is a vast inner network of devonic
helpers, ever working, never sleeping. They are nourished on the prâ∫as
of the most refined morsels of Íiva consciousness. They never take time
out even to eat a meal. There is a continuity of consciousness in the
Devaloka that we do not experience in our earthly bodies. It is in the
world of the Gods and their devas that the mass consciousness is guided
through its evolution—the evolution of the mâyâ of the constant, inter-
laced action of creation, preservation and dissolution. This mighty group
of soldiers of the within, preceptors of dharma, lords of karma, is ever
active, available and ready to serve those who seek. ¶Sending prayers into
the inner world through the sacred fire is simply a means of communicat-
ing with those powerful beings who do not possess a physical body. Using
the Tyêîf script is as simple as writing then mailing a letter, sending an
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e-mail or a fax. Through this means, you can even communicate in Tyêîf
with someone living in a physical body in a far-off place. They will receive
your message from a dispatcher at night when they are out of the physi-
cal body during sleep and conscious on the astral plane. This is truly a
magical way of reaching into the inner world and contacting friends and
relatives asleep at night in a far-off place. ¶You are also an inner soul and
can be seen by the devas in their world. They see you in your soul body.
Psychic persons living in physical bodies can often see the devas.
You may ask if the devas perform only good for us, and
Friday if they test us or punish us. All devas are under one of
LESSON 320
the Gods. When you write prayers to Lord Ga∫eßa, some
The Dharma
Of Prayer of His devas go to work in finding a solution for you. It
is the same for Lord Murugan. Lord Íiva is creator, pre-
server and destroyer of all that exists, but He also has tens of hundreds of
thousands of devas who serve His devotees. All Íiva temples are ahiμsâ,
benign. The temple devas who answer prayers are those who represent
only two of Íiva’s powers: that of creation and that of preservation. The
innocent requests, void of malice toward others, are considered benign
and acceptable. No request is fulfilled for a bad thing to happen—the
death of an enemy, the failure of one person so that another can suc-
ceed, the displacement of a neighbor, the fall of business competitors, the
injury of those who have injured us, the death of an infidel, equal retalia-
tion for hurts received (the eye-for-an-eye, tooth-for-a-tooth philosophy).
Any such retaliatory, hurtful, hiμsâ request is automatically placed into
another sacred homa fire in the inner world by the first deva who reads
it and sent back to the sender in tongues of fire to his heart to stimulate
the fire of tapas, to soften his heart and to lift this young soul into higher
consciousness, out from the asuric realms in which he lives. No, the Íiva
temple’s sacred fires can never be used for black magic, gray magic or the
manipulation of other lives for the personal benefit of one’s own. Hurtful-
ness, hiμsâ, is to be avoided, lest it stimulate the fires of tapas within the
hiμsâ advocate and begin a process of purification that one might not be
quite ready for. ¶There is no need to fear tapas, though it can be painful
to see the malice wished on another come back to oneself. This is Íiva’s
mode of dissolution, a grace that burns away ill will and brings about a
softening of the heart. It is one’s own malice that must be faced and over-
come and destroyed. When tapas begins, it will burn off the accumulated
dross from the wrongdoings of many past lives and eventually lift the
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soul to higher consciousness. This is why we call higher consciousness

“Íiva consciousness.” But tapas is a painful process, one to be avoided by
not wishing harm on another through the sacred fire. ¶You can gently
purify yourself, while avoiding the burning fire of tapas, by following the
disciplines of Íaivite religious life and sâdhana such as the yamas and
niyamas, the pañcha nitya karmas, scriptural study and other personal
disciplines given by the Kailâsa Paramparâ satgurus. These keep the fires
of tapas only warm, not burning hot, and accomplish the same purpose
over a prolonged period of time.
Several years ago we created a Tyêîf font for the com-
Saturday puter, to make it easy to write legible prayers in Tyêîf.
LESSON 321
On our website‚ at www.HimalayanAcademy.com/fonts/,
The Bamboo
Tyêîf Font you can download the font and also find out more about
writing prayers. It is good for your powers of concentra-
tion to learn to read the Tyêîf script, but if you are using a computer, this
is not really necessary, unless you want to write Tyêîf by hand, which many
do. The easiest way to compose your prayer on a computer is to type in
an English font, such as Geneva, and then select the text and change it to
the Tyêîf font. Prayers written in Tyêîf have built-in confidentiality. You
might leave a prayer to the devas on your desk. As few people read the
Tyêîf script readily, confidentiality is ensured. ¶Should you be traveling
and not have your computer with you, you can always write your prayers
in Tyêîf the old-fashioned way, by hand. It is artistic to use a soft flow
pen, and even more artistic to use a Japanese ink brush. If you want to
be really modern, use a black, sharp-pointed pen. The Tyêîf script looks
good coming from whatever plume you choose. Many devotees enjoy
writing Tyêîf by hand in vertical columns from top to bottom. When
writing by hand, this is quite acceptable. Always use black ink, never col-
ors. Black translates to white or gray in the inner world, where the prayer
appears reversed. The paper that is white becomes black, and the letters
that are black become white. It is only by two or three devas holding
it and putting their prâ∫as into it that the prayer again becomes black
on white as it appeared when it was sent. They do this only when they
want to keep the document to study it. Many prayers are so simple that
they can be easily memorized as they appear on the black background in
white ink, and it is not worthwhile energizing them into a durable form.
¶If you use colored paper and colored ink in writing your prayers, your
words could be unreadable, even using the Tyêîf script. Colored paper
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appears dark purplish-blue in the inner world, somewhat like the ashes
of burned paper, still intact, but barely legible, ready to disintegrate at the
first touch. Therefore, just sit down and write your prayer in Tyêîf with a
black pen on white paper. ¶Typed documents—on one side of the page
only—are acceptable and easily read in the inner world, as long as the
size of the type is not too small. Typewritten prayers (again, on one side
of the page) in English or any language are also acceptable to the devas,
as are hand-printed prayers that are written with well-rounded, clearly
formed letters. Be sure to sign the prayer and also include the date. ¶The
writing of prayers can be done in several ways. Each devotee can write his
or her own prayer about personal questions, needs or problems. One can
pray for another person, for a group of people, or for a situation to clear
up within a group or community, even for solutions to national or world
problems. Every prayer received is answered in some way, however myste-
rious. Not one is neglected, ever. ¶The Gods and devas look very carefully
into the karma of the devotee before taking any action. Because of this, it
is always best to describe two or more alternatives that you would be satis-
fied with in each prayer, rather than insisting on only one solution. This is
because your first preference may not be possible in your karmic pattern
or, without your knowing, it may actually be the worst possible thing that
could happen to you. In this case, your prayer would be answered with a
non-answer. Therefore, it is wise to suggest two or more alternatives when
making a request. For example, in seeking help in finding employment,
you might suggest three places you would be content at, indicating first
choice, second and third.
We are reminded not to ask for services that the devas
Sunday would normally provide, such as “Please help me,” or
LESSON 322
“Please bless me, devas.” These services are automatically
Guidelines
For Prayers performed by the guardian devas of each devout indi-
vidual without asking. When not responding to requests,
the devonic saˆgams send their prâ∫as, with thoughts of help and healing,
through the guardian devas of the devotee. They literally flood the guard-
ian devas with prâ∫as to be used by them to glorify the home and protect
their wards in daily life in the physical world. This is a service given with-
out asking. It refers to the flow of prâ∫ic energy to the devotee, as opposed
to getting permission. To receive such blessings for yourself and to receive
blessings to start a project are two different things. ¶Devonic helpers often
do know what a devotee needs, but they are admonished by the dharmic
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law that requires that they must be asked before steps toward fulfillment
can be taken. They are controlled by the worthy law of noninterference
in the lives of those who do not pray. Prayer simply means politely asking.
This ancient law is: “The devotee must first take one step toward the guru.
Then the guru will take nine steps toward the devotee.” Many guardian
devas connected to the saˆgam groups of devas are inner-plane gurus of
karma, and when asked they will fulfill their nine steps quite willingly
and abundantly. ¶Clarity is essential for the devas to fulfill the petitions
to the lasting satisfaction of each devotee. For complex issues, the expla-
nations may need to be lengthy. Names and addresses of the various par-
ties involved should be included. Along with your prayers, you can send
typed documents, copies of contracts, etc., to clarify the subject. In this
way you can make sure that the Gods and their devas are aware of the
details of your prayer and understand your need fully. ¶Mail or fax your
prayers to a temple that knows how to handle prayers through its sacred
fire. At our temples we receive and accept prayers for the sacred fire from
members of the Hindu religion, for they have Hindu guardian devas who
are prepared to help with their needs. Non-Hindus have guardian devas
of other traditions and are not encouraged to write prayers to the Hindu
devas. Prayers for the sacred fire can be sent to Kadavul Hindu Temple,
107 Kaholalele Road, Kapaa, Hawaii, 96746-9304 USA. Write “prayer” on
the outside of the envelope. All prayers are confidential, never read by the
priests. It is traditional to give a gift of gratitude if a prayer is answered to
your satisfaction, but not before. If you feel inclined to send a love offer-
ing with your prayers, for previous prayers answered, be sure to keep it
outside the sealed envelope containing your prayers, as that will be placed
into the sacred fire unopened. Kadavul Hindu Temple has its own rules
for accepting prayers to be burned in the sacred fire. Please email for
more information if you wish to send a prayer. ¶One word of caution: it
would be weakening to depend entirely on the inner-world devas to do
everything for you. There are many, many things that you can do yourself
to overcome difficulties and carve a positive future. They say, “When the
will rises and commands, even the Gods are willing to obey.” You have to
use your willpower first, and try your very best to do the very best that
you can. Then you get all the devonic help available. Don’t just send in
prayers and say, “Live my life for me, inner-world beings. I am not going
to do anything. I will just sit back, put my feet up and let you do every-
thing for me.” It does not work that way.
 Guru Íakti
gaufxai†

The Spirit of the Guru

There is no one greater in the three worlds than

the guru. It is he who grants divine knowledge and
should be worshiped with supreme devotion.
Atharva Veda, Yoga-Íikha Upanishad, 5.53. yt, p. 26
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In a traditional Íaivite family, the mother and the father

Monday are the first teachers, or gurus, of their children, teach-
LESSON 323
ing by example, explanation, giving advice and direction
The Guru
Tradition until their children are old enough to be sent to their
next guru, in the arts, sciences, medicine and general
education. Families that have a satguru will often choose the most prom-
ising religious young son to go to his âßrama, to study and learn the reli-
gion and become a sannyâsin or a family pandit in later years, depending
on how his life works out. In this case, the mother and father, the first
gurus, turn the entire direction of their son over to the satguru, the second
guru, who then becomes mother and father in the eyes of the son, and in
the eyes of his parents as well. ¶Hindu children are traditionally brought
up respecting their parents. They follow certain in-house protocols of cul-
ture and conduct. Therefore, it is not difficult for an Asian man to live in
an âßrama and follow the protocols of respect that monastic life demands.
True bhakti, devotion, starts with your mother and father. You have to
start there if you want a relationship with God and the Gods. Once the
problems with mom and dad are resolved, then that love for the mother
and father is transferred or extended to God, Gods and guru. It certainly
doesn’t mean that you no longer love your mother and father. It’s just the
opposite. You have more love, a deeper love, for everyone. Transferring
the love of your family to your guru doesn’t mean they no longer have
your love, but that you’ve included your guru in the family. Love is inclu-
sive, not exclusive, on the spiritual path. ¶To the traditional Íaivite, the
guru is everything. As Satguru Siva Yogaswami sang, “Mother and father
are Íiva. Sisters and brother are Íiva.” Therefore, the guru is Íiva; and
that is everything, because Íiva is everything. But the satguru is not your
business partner, not your psychiatrist, not your psychologist, not your
older brother, as Western persons may regard him. Western people who
do not follow any protocol in their homes satisfactory for harmonious
living should be careful not to transfer to the guru any disobedience and
antagonism that they might have had for their parents. Many Western
homes, in teaching by example, do so through reverse psychology, teach-
ing what you shouldn’t do rather than what you should do. Relating to a
traditional guru is difficult for those brought up in this way. Respect for
A child’s first gurus are his parents, whose feet he touches in respect. Later he will find a satguru,
a teacher of Sanâtana Dharma, to guide him spiritually. Great gurus receive inspiration—shown
by the ray of light—from Lord Íiva, seen as Dakshi∫amûrti beneath a Himalayan banyan.
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elders is not there. Neither is responsiveness. ¶From my monastic devotees

especially I expect the razor’s edge of attentiveness. I expect anticipated
responses. This means that the ßishya should read the mind of the guru,
give the answer without forethought when a question is put. He must be
sensitive and anticipate. It is not a schoolhouse relationship: five hours of
study and then homework. It is a twenty-four-hour relationship. I expect
to see the monastic in my dreams. The relationship with the g®ihastha
devotees is different. My expectancy is that they will maintain the Íaiva
Dharma as it is understood to be in the eyes of the community they are
associating with. I also expect each of their male offspring to serve for at
least six months, up to two years, at Kauai Aadheenam, in preparation for
adult life. And I expect all members to perform four hours of karma yoga
per week throughout life. ¶We are all involved in the Nandinâtha Sûtras,
which are the combined effort of all the gurus of our paramparâ, with
blessings from Maharishi Nandinatha himself. These aphorisms reflect
the patterns of belief and behavior of every aspect of life for all those on
the Kailâsa path. Nandinâtha’s great disciple, Rishi Tirumular, shows us
in the Tirumantiram how well he was taught by his guru and how well he
fulfilled his mission by going to South India to revive the monistic theism
of Íaiva Siddhânta. The vast amount of knowledge in the Tirumantiram,
which digests the Ågamas and Vedas and weaves them together in such
an ingenious way, indicates a lot of deep meditation, training and yoga
practice. It also indicates a great spirit, because he actually did what he
was sent to do, so we actually have that great treatise today, over 2,200
years later. That shows us an unbroken continuity of what? Intellectual
knowledge? No. Of spirit, the spirit of the guru.
Before books were invented, the traditional way of con-
Tuesday veying information was through the spoken word. This
LESSON 324
is called sampradâya. Sampradâya, verbal teaching, was
Continuity
Of Spirit the method that all satgurus used. A satguru can only
give his ßishya as much as the ßishya can hold in his mind
at any one time. If the ßishya comes with an empty cup, the cup is filled by
the guru. But if the ßishya comes with a cup that is already full, nothing
more can be added by the guru. ¶Many satgurus work with their devo-
tees in unseen ways. They have the ability to tune into the vibration of a
devotee anywhere his physical body might be on the planet, feel how he
is feeling and send blessings of protection and guidance. The guru-ßishya
system of training is personal and direct. Much is unspoken between
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them, so close is the mental attunement. The traditional observance of

brahmacharya helps to stabilize this relationship. ¶An advanced ßishya
is one whose intuition is in absolute harmony with that of his satguru.
This harmony does not occur in the beginning stages, however, when the
devotee is probing the subject matter of the guru’s teachings for answers.
Only after he has conquered the fluctuating patterns of the thinking mind
does an inner flow of harmony begin to become apparent to both guru
and ßishya. The ßishya is expected to cultivate his inner life as well as his
outer life. The more sincere and consistent he is with his inner work and
his inner friends—God, Gods and guru—the more safe and secure and
blessed he will be. Your relationship with your guru is growing stron-
ger even now as you come to better know yourself and proceed in your
study of these daily lessons. ¶Hindu temples sustain Hinduism around
the world. Scriptures keep us always reminded of the path we are on and
the path we are supposed to be on, but only from the satguru can you
get the spirit, the ßakti, the sustaining spirit, to make it all come to life in
you, to make the temple meaningful and to complement the scriptures
with your own sight, your own third-eye sight. Otherwise, it’s just words.
¶Nâthas are not on the path of words. The Âishi wandered down from
the Himalayas to Bangalore. What did he say? Nobody knows. Whom did
he talk to? Nobody knows. Did he influence crowds of people? Perhaps,
but he only had to influence one individual, Kadaitswami, to speak out
to the world. Kadaitswami caught the spirit of the Rishi, who had caught
the spirit of the previous ®ishi, the previous ®ishi and all the ones that
preceded him. It is that spirit of sampradâya that makes the traditional
teachings meaningful, that gives you the power to discriminate between
what is real within those teachings and what is superfluous or just plain
nonsense, that gives you the power to blend Siddhânta with Vedânta,
Vedas with Ågamas. ¶The irreversible spirit of the guru carries through all
of the ßishyas. It is basically the only gift a guru can give—that sustaining
spirit. He doesn’t have to give knowledge, because that has already been
written down. He doesn’t have to build temples, because there are more
than enough temples for everyone. The rare and precious gift that he
can convey is the inner spirit of his religious heritage. That is his unique
gift to the world. ¶Nâthas do not follow the way of words. Kadaitswami
spoke to a lot of people. Who knows what he said? They didn’t have tape
recorders in those days, and doubtless he never wrote anything down, but
the spirit carried through him to Chellappaguru, who didn’t say an awful
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lot. He wasn’t following the way of words either. He spoke only divine
essences of the philosophy. He didn’t write 3,000 verses like Rishi Tirumu-
lar did. Nor did he give lectures to crowds like Kadaitswami did. His spirit
was passed on to Satguru Siva Yogaswami, who passed his spirit on to a
lot of devotees. ¶We must remember that during the time of the British,
all gurus had to keep a very low profile and that Yogaswami’s great work
started to flourish publicly only after the British left Sri Lanka. He passed
his spirit on to lots of devotees, including me. If I had not journeyed
to the northern part of Sri Lanka and gone to Íiva temples, worshiped
there and received initiation from Yogaswami, would I have returned to
America and built a Íiva temple or helped found over fifty other Hindu
temples scattered around the world? No. Would we have a monastic com-
munity? No. Would we have an international Saiva Siddhanta Church?
No. Would we have a Himalayan Academy? No. Would we have a Hindu
Heritage Endowment? No. Would we have a HINDUISM TODAY magazine?
No. Would we have family missions all over the world? No. Would we be
sitting here right now? No. Only because of the existence of one satguru
in this venerable line of gurus, I caught the spirit; and through this spirit
the words manifest, the activities manifest, the devotees maintain that
straight path, the disciplines bear fruit, the inner sight comes, and after it
comes, it stays. Without satgurus, we would only have temples and scrip-
tures. Without satgurus, we wouldn’t have the spirit, and people would
stop going to temples and stop reading the scriptures.
A satguru doesn’t need a lot of words to transmit the
Wednesday spirit to another person; but the ßishyas have to be open
LESSON 325
and be kept open. The little bit of spirit extends like a
Sustaining the
Connection slender fiber, a thin thread, from the satguru to the ßishya,
and it is easily broken. A little bit more of that associa-
tion adds another strand, and we have two threads, then three, then four.
They are gradually woven together through service, and a substantial
string develops between the guru and the ßishya. More strings are created,
and they are finally woven together into a rope strong enough to pull a
cart. You’ve seen in India the huge, thick ropes that pull a temple chariot.
That is the ultimate goal of the guru-ßishya relationship. ¶Upon the con-
nection between guru and ßishya, the spirit of the paramparâ travels, the
spirit of the sampradâya travels. It causes the words that are said to sink
deep. They don’t just bounce off the intellect; the message goes deep into
the individual. Spiritual force doesn’t just happen. It’s a hand-me-down
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process, a process of transmission, just as the development of the human

race didn’t just happen. It was a hand-me-down from many, many fathers
and mothers and many, many reincarnations that brought us all here.
Paramparâ is a spiritual force that moves from one person to another. I
am not talking about the modern idea of bestowing ßakti power, where
somebody gets a little jolt and pays a little money and that’s the end of
the association with the teacher. Paramparâ is like giving a devotee one
end of a tiny silk thread. Now, if the devotee drops his end of the thread,
the experiences are stopped and only words are left, just words, one word
after another, another and another. The devotee then has to interpret the
depth of the philosophy according to the depths of his inherent igno-
rance. What other measurement does he have? The relationship with the
guru is a constant weaving in and out of one fiber of the thread added to
another fiber, added to another fiber, added to another fiber, just like this
khadi kavi robe we wear in our Order was woven. Each fiber is attached
to another fiber, attached to another fiber, attached to another fiber, and
finally we have a thread. Between the guru and ßishya many threads are
all woven together, and finally we have a firm rope that cannot be pulled
apart or destroyed even by two people pulling against one another. That is
sampradâya. That is paramparâ. That is the magical power of the Nâthas.
¶As we look at this great line of satgurus—coming from Lord Íiva Him-
self through Nandinâtha and countless ones before Nandinatha, to Rishi
Tirumular and countless ®ishis after him to the Rishi of Bangalore, to
Kadaitswami, Chellappaguru and Yogaswami—we see the same spiritual
force flowing. We see an undaunted, rare succession of individuals who
considered adversity as a boon from the Gods, wherein all the accumu-
lated karmas to be wiped away come together in one place to be taken
care of all at once. Nâthas don’t run from adversity; nor do they resent it.
They take it within themselves in meditation and deal with it, dissolve it
in the clear white light within themselves, every tiny little bit of it. They
consider it a boon from the Gods that it all came at one time rather than
strung out over a period of many years. The mysterious Nâthas have their
own way of handling almost everything, and much of that is revealed in
the Nandinâtha Sûtras. These sûtras have within them, summarized in
short stanzas, all the knowledge that’s within our catechism and creed,
all the knowledge that’s in our monastic Holy Orders, all the knowledge
embodied in our Íaiva culture, in our brahmacharya course, and all the
other books and lessons we have published and distributed throughout
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the years. They give codes of behavior, conduct, ways of living, ways of
moving, ways of thinking, as well as the basic core of the monistic Íaiva
Siddhânta taught by our Kailâsa Paramparâ for eons and eons of time.
Many of you have been studying with me for ten, twenty
Thursday or thirty years. I want you to think and think through
LESSON 326
the rest of the day about the spirit of the satguru. Sup-
Why a Guru
Is Necessary pose you didn’t have a satguru. You would be guided by
the spirit of your intellect, or the spirit of your instinct,
or the energies of confusion. The satguru only has one job, to keep his
devotees on the right track. We do not follow the way of words, which
is repeating from memory verses and stanzas of scripture with meager
mental interpretations of their meaning. We follow the way of transfor-
mational spiritual unfoldment. We follow the mârga of sâdhana and tapas.
Íishyas move from one stage to another in spiritual unfoldment as they
progress through the different petals of the higher chakras and come into
one or more inner awakenings, one after another. They are not to settle
down in any one or several of the chakras and consider, “This is a nice life.
I like this part of my unfoldment, so I won’t strive further.” They can’t do
that, because the spirit of the guru drives them onward. He is constantly
thinking and saying, “This is not good enough; you can do better.” ¶Did
Chellappaguru ever say to Yogaswami, “OK, now we’ve done enough. Let’s
just be ordinary”? No, he kept walking him around and feeding him, walk-
ing him around and feeding him, walking him around and feeding him,
walking him around and feeding him, until finally Satguru Yogaswami
was walking around and feeding everybody, walking around and feeding
everybody, and eventually everybody was doing the same thing. Passing
on that spiritual quality, we don’t have any problems. We don’t have to
solve problems with words. Problems are tackled with words when you
are following the path of words. This can be a long, long, tedious process.
But when spiritual awakenings are there, problems are solved by lifting
consciousness. The problem goes away, just automatically goes away. It is a
do-it-yourself process, a mystical tantra not to be ignored. ¶Every Hindu
needs a satguru, a preceptor. The satguru is as much a part of Hinduism
as are the temples, as are the Vedas and our other great scriptures, because
not everyone can see for themselves. They need someone to see ahead a
little bit for them and to keep them on the right track and in the right
mood. Because people are tribal, they need a guide. I’ve heard prominent
swâmîs all through the years remark, “You all need a spiritual guide. If
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you don’t want me, find somebody else, but you need someone to guide
you through life.” It could be a grandmother, it could be a grandfather,
it could be your astrologer, a temple priest, a visiting yogî or a resident
swâmî in your community, a sâdhu, a pandit or a rare satguru—somebody
that you will listen to and follow. The choice must be made after much
consideration, after talking with parents, consulting elders and searching
the heart. Once the choice is made, don’t change your mind. Be loyal and
give him or her all the love and devotion you have to give and more. Take
advice and admonition as golden offerings and proceed in confidence.
Many benefits will come from their guidance on the path of dharma for
a fruitful and fulfilling life. ¶A heavy burden falls upon the preceptor, too.
He or she must produce results and continue to do so. Preceptors are not
entertainers, content to be lauded or bowed down to in adulation. Rather,
they must benefit their followers’ lives, lessen their karmic burdens and
strengthen the family, hold marriages together, as well as seek out poten-
tial religious leaders and train them well. They must follow the karmas of
each individual and each family year after year, and they must be there for
devotees when needed most. They must demonstrate their ßânti and bask
in the bliss of attainment. They must be spirit, for spirit lives on.
When people do not have a guide, they wander around
Friday bumping into each other. They can’t see the conse-
LESSON 327
quences of their actions. They perform good, bad and
Guidance
And Growth mixed actions and don’t keep on the right track and
therefore end up wandering around in circles. They
don’t listen to their mothers. They don’t listen to their fathers. They don’t
listen to their spiritual guides. They don’t listen to their local religious
mentors. But they do listen to the hottest rock star, to their drug dealer
and their gang leader. They do listen to the Miranda reading from the
police officer before they have to listen to the local judge and later to
their parole officer. Some have to listen to their AIDS or cancer coun-
selor and make plans for an early departure. So, they can listen. Yes, lis-
tening is still functional. Am I communicating? Are we communicating?
¶Unfortunately, many children are raised by their parents these days to
not listen to anyone. “Don’t ask me. Make up your own mind,” they are
told, “I just want you to be happy.” Children are raised to be confused.
They are raised to be loners in a complicated world. They are raised to
be lower-consciousness people. And in many schools they are raised to
become educated criminals. Let’s get back to the basics of raising children
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properly, giving them proper guidance. It is the dharma of the parents to

raise their children properly, as it is the duty of the satguru to see that they
do it. ¶It is the duty of the ßishya to be responsive to the satguru and not
resistive. I was impressed at an âßrama in India we visited recently with
how responsive everybody was to their guru. The guru there merely looks,
and devotees ask, “What can I do to serve?” The guru speaks, and every-
one immediately responds. No resisting: “I have something else to do. You
already gave me ten things to do. How can you possibly want me to stop
now and do something else? Isn’t there somebody else around here who
can do it?” I saw none of that there. Maybe everybody was just on their
good behavior because we were there, but it certainly took a lot of practice.
They must have been practicing to be on their good behavior for about
five years before we arrived. Wonderful responsiveness. Because of such
responsiveness, the connection between the ßishya and the guru maintains
a systematic growth, and the spiritual life comes up within the individual
which breaks all routine and yet works within routine, is beyond all intel-
lectual and reasoning abilities yet works within the intellect and through
reason, is unpredictable yet predictable in that it is consistently unpre-
dictable. ¶However, we must remember that blind obedience is never the
spiritual way. It is intelligent cooperation that is the binding force in a
well-run âßrama. Intelligent cooperation means obtaining an extremely
clear understanding of what is requested to be done before proceeding.
Often this requires asking questions, discussing the direction or project,
as one would do in a modern corporation, then, once all is understood,
making the leader’s direction your own direction. This is intelligent coop-
eration, not blind obedience. Those are the spiritual qualities that I see
in all of you here at Kauai Aadheenam and which are manifesting in my
ßishyas all over the world.
Responsiveness is the spiritual quality I look for in my
Saturday devotees. Without that quality in life, nothing really
LESSON 328
works right. People settle down to an ordinary, routine
The Mission
Of the Nâthas job and begin the process of hate, jealousy and revenge,
hate, jealousy and revenge, hate, jealousy and revenge
with their employer and with employees who work close to them. Nowa-
days even with their mothers and fathers and brothers and sisters this kind
of competition goes on. Such negatively competitive people never make it
to the top in any modern corporation or make much out of their lives. ¶In
the Nandinâtha Sûtras I make it very clear that competition—competitive
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games, competitive sports, competitive activities of all kinds—should not

be stimulated within young people, or old people, because the winner-
loser consciousness keeps the lower qualities active. I tell my devotees, be
helpful to everyone; don’t compete with anyone. Do the very best you can
and appreciate others’ doing the best that they can. You all have a lot to
think about when you read the Nandinâtha Sûtras and consider that the
foundation of wisdom within them originated from deep within, 2,200
years ago, when Maharishi Nandinatha sat with his ßishya, Tirumular, and
said, “Go down to South India and teach about the glories of Lord Íiva.
Teach that He is within you and you are within Him, that He is the Life
of your life, and your soul was emanated from Him. Keep our monistic
philosophy moving along down there. I can see that they have gotten a
little bit confused.” He didn’t go to the airport and buy a ticket on a jet
plane to South India. He had a long and arduous journey, probably on
foot for the most part, and by bullock cart. Many, many things could have
happened to him on the way. He could have faced many temptations. He
could have been tempted by pretty girls bathing at the rivers. He could
have been robbed. He could have been assaulted. He could have been
killed, but because of his tapas and the good karma he had accumulated
by being carefully obedient to his guru, the connection with his guru, the
spiritual force, carried him like a magical carpet to where Chidambaram
is today. He started his mission and he fulfilled his mission, and his mis-
sion is being fulfilled to this very day, right here in this room, and will
continue to be fulfilled 2,200 years from now. ¶Nothing can stop the
spiritual force. Death cannot stop it. The intellect cannot stop it. Once
it begins, it continues. The instinct cannot stop it. Adversity cannot stop
it. In the future, we envision pictures of our Nandinâtha line of satgurus
all the way around this room, then around, and then around, and then
around. We can see ahead another 2,200 years. It’s the same spiritual
force, ßakti of Íiva, flowing through the Nâthas. There are many Nâthas
being born again as Nâthas to move things along, to improve conditions;
and when things aren’t going very well, more Nâthas will come to put a
spiritual force into the world through such media as HINDUISM TODAY.
This public service of our Nâtha order has united the Hindus of the world,
educated the Hindus of the world, so they can talk to one another in
one voice, in one common forum, and look in the same way at karma,
dharma, reincarnation, the Vedas and Ågamas and all these wonderful
things that we are writing about in our international magazine. Hindus
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can now freely and knowledgeably speak about their religion and the four
major denominations within it, understand one another in Asia, England,
throughout the continents of Europe and Africa, North America, South
America, and have better appreciation for their very great religion, which
is put forth in HINDUISM TODAY in a simple, pragmatic way. This is all the
work of the mysterious Nandinâtha lineage.
If you ever become discouraged and wonder about the
Sunday path, remember that there are three pillars of Hinduism
LESSON 329
that will keep you on the path: the satguru, the temple
Inner Bands
Of Steel and the scriptures. Go to the temple, strengthen your
relationship with your guru and begin studying the
scriptures. Discouragement will go away and courage will come. Dark
hours will go and bright hours will come. Problems will bend down as the
intelligence from the spiritual force begins to come up. This is the way of
the mysterious Nâthas, who don’t follow the way of words. ¶Nâthas don’t
have any hype. We are not beating a drum or selling a mantra or selling a
seminar or selling a promise. We just are who we are, doing what we are
doing, and if anyone comes along to help, that is our karma at that point
in time. We do the very best that we can with the facilities that we have.
We don’t sell healing. We make no promises. Nâthas do their job on a
very broad scale and pay attention to every small detail at the same time.
That’s the working of the spiritual force that has come from Sage Yogas-
wami, Chellappaguru, Kadaitswami, the mysterious Âishi and those that
preceded him, back to Tirumular and Maharishi Nandinatha and those
that preceded them and those that preceded them and those that preceded
them, for as long as people have walked on this planet. ¶Yes, there are
three pillars of our great religion: satgurus, temples—Íiva temples, Muru-
gan temples, Ga∫eßa temples—and the oldest scriptures in the world. But
it’s the spiritual force of the satguru that makes the religion come to life
in the individual. Would we all be sitting here today if when I went to the
Jaffna Peninsula to find my guru he wasn’t there, and I just worshiped
in a few temples for awhile and came back to the United States? No. We
would not all be sitting here today. The temples don’t give you that kind of
spiritual force. The scriptures don’t give you that kind of spiritual force. It
is only the satguru that gives you the sustaining, spiritual force that makes
life on this planet worthwhile and gives you the ability to prevail over
all challenges and make a lasting difference, not only in yourself but in
the lives of others. ¶Now we are all working together to bring Hinduism,
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especially Íaivism, into the twenty-first century. It is going to take all of

our energies collectively to make that next big step, because there will be
many changes. It is our job to bring the best of tradition into the twenty-
first century, with clarity of thought and, most importantly, with the
spirit and mysticism that go along with it. ¶Spirit expressed in a simple
example would be, “I want to do my ha†ha yoga! I want to get up in the
morning and meditate!” Lack of spirit is, “I have to do my ha†ha yoga. Oh,
do I really have to? Maybe just today I won’t get up and meditate.” That’s
the instinctive mind talking. That’s not the superconscious mind talking.
“I want to”—that’s the spiritual force. “Do I have to?” or “I should”—
that’s the instinctive-intellectual force. ¶Sitting here today thinking about
our wonderful lineage of gurus, about what they said and what they didn’t
say, you will find that we don’t know what some of them said and what
they didn’t say. But what they did, that’s the important thing. And how
did they do it? Through continuity of the spiritual force—one thread and
then another thread, one fiber and then another fiber and another fiber,
until a rope was built up that was stronger than any humans could pull
apart. Bands of steel, generation after generation, that’s the Nandinâtha
way, unbreakable bands of spiritual force. ¶It is important that newcom-
ers to the Hindu faith, the young people especially, realize that in ancient
times as well as today the family unit is complete only when it includes
an ordained spiritual mentor, a guru or pandit. It is to him or her that the
family turns in times of joy and celebration. It is to him or her that the
family goes when karmas are heavy, when difficulties and confusions are
encountered on the path and the proper course is unclear. This mentor’s
firmness and clarity are a stabilizing influence in the family’s year-to-
year life. For most, but not all Hindus, a family temple is also a necessity,
as is a collection of sacred writings or scripture, often the teachings of
contemporary masters. ¶We encourage all to receive, with enthusiasm, as
one would a God, all Hindu religious leaders, when they come to your
community. Show the proper protocol, rush forward, garland them with
flowers, lay gifts at their feet in humble obeisance. They are the mainstay
and powerhouse and source of all expressions of our beloved Sanâtana
Dharma and its followers.
 Íaiva Ma†havâsî
xaEva maQvaasaI

Íiva’s Monastics

Having transcended the desire for sons, the desire for

wealth, the desire for worlds, they go about as mendi-
cants. For the desire for sons is the desire for wealth, and
the desire for wealth is the desire for worlds. All these are
nothing but desires. He, the âtman, is not this, not this.
Íukla Yajur Veda, B®ihadâra∫yaka Upanishad, 4.4.22. ve, p. 717
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Monks of every Hindu order are guided and guarded

Monday by unseen beings who look after their lives as if they
LESSON 330
were their own. Families are blessed who share in and
Monastic
Communities support the renunciation of their sons born through
them to perform a greater dharma than the g®ihastha
life could ever offer. It is the monastic communities worldwide, of all
religions, that sustain sanity on this planet. It is the monks living up to
their vows who sustain the vibration of law and order in the communi-
ties and nations of the world. This is how the devonic world sees each
monastic community worldwide. This is how it is and should always be.
This is how humanity balances out its experiential karmas and avoids
destroying itself as it passes through the darkness of the Kali Yuga. The
monastic communities that surround the planet, fulfilling their dharma,
compensate for the adharma that is so prevalent, thus ensuring that
humanity does not self-destruct in these trying times. We must, for the
sake of clarity, state here that monastic communities are either strictly
male or strictly female. Coed mixed-group âßramas are not monastic
communities, but classed traditionally as communes. ¶Our Holy Orders
of Sannyâsa introduce monastic life in the following passages: “The two
fundamental objectives of sannyâsa, renunciation, are to promote the
spiritual progress of the individual, bringing him into God Realization,
and to protect and perpetuate the religion. Renunciation and asceticism
have been an integral component of Hindu culture from the earliest days,
the most highly esteemed path of the Sanâtana Dharma. Sannyâsa life has
both an individual and a universal objective. At the individual level, it is a
life of selflessness in which the sannyâsin has made the supreme sacrifice
of renouncing all personal ambition, all involvement in worldly matters,
that he might direct his consciousness and energies fully toward God Íiva.
Guided by the satguru along the sâdhana mârga, he unfolds through the
years into deeper and deeper realizations. Ultimately, if he persists, he
comes into direct knowing of Paraßiva, transcendent Reality. At the uni-
versal level, the sannyâsins foster the entire religion by preserving the
truths of the Sanâtana Dharma. Competent swâmîs are the teachers, the
theologians, the exemplars of their faith, the torchbearers lighting the
way for all. Paramaguru Sage Yogaswami sang: ‘Hail, O sannyâsin, thou
Five vignettes capture the life of Íiva’s ma†havâsis at Kauai Aadheenam in Hawaii. Their life of medita-
tion and worship, shown by the homa ceremony conducted by Gurudeva, is balanced by computerized
art and web work, philosophical seminars, publishing and gardening.
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who know’st no guile! Establish in thy heart and worship there the Taint-
less One—Pañchâkshara’s inmost core. Thou that regard’st all others as
thyself—who in this world can be compared with thee?’ ”
A legacy of devas from the entire paramparâ accompanies
Tuesday our monastic order, providing silent, unseen inner guid-
LESSON 331
ance and protection for old and young alike. As long as
The Mission
Of the Mission at least one person within the entire group of ma†havâsis
is going into and coming out of Paraßiva once a day, the
doorway to the Third World remains open to the hereditary entourage of
devonic forces that has been building up for over two thousand years. This
is because the brahmarandhra, the door of Brahm at the top of the head,
remains open when Paraßiva is daily experienced within a ma†havâsi com-
munity. It could be within the oldest monk or within the youngest. This
great realization occurring time and time again within someone day after
day keeps the door of Brahm open for the entire prâ∫a chakravâla of
monastics, keeping vibrantly strong the inner, actinic connection with all
gurus of our paramparâ, as well as with other sâdhus, ®ishis and saints who
have reached these same attainments, and with the sapta ®ishis themselves
who guide our order from deep within the inner lokas. ¶My Íaiva swâmîs,
or Nâtha swâmîs, are distinguished by their orange robes, gold Nâtha ear-
rings and three strands of rudrâksha beads. They are the Saiva Siddhanta
Yoga Order, known as the Saiva Swami Sangam when they gather in eccle-
siastical conclave. The saˆgam does not follow the protocol of unani-
mous decision. Rather, it works in intuitive one-mindedness to carry out
instructions from the Kailâsa Pî†ham, our spiritual seat of authority, to
better the Íaivite mission and the individuals dedicated to its success.
¶These sannyâsins are not looked upon as individuals so much as an inte-
grated council, assembled and working in unison to perform a holy work
as Sivanadiyars, servants of God Íiva. Guided by the satguru, the Saiva
Swami Sangam forms the ecclesiastical body of our Hindu Church which
works in a humble way to protect the purity of the faith among all Hindu
sects, through inspiring publications and other means of encouragement.
Specifically, our order’s mission is to protect, preserve and promote the
Íaivite Hindu religion as embodied in the Tamil culture, traditions and
scriptures of South India and Sri Lanka. ¶Our monastic order follows
the cenobitic pattern in which monastics live in community and work
together toward common objectives. Sannyâsins of this order are not wan-
dering sâdhus or silent contemplatives, known as anchorites, rather they
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are members of a brotherhood working closely and industriously with

their satguru and with their brother monastics. At the time of sannyâsa
dîkshâ, each has accepted the mission of the Kailâsa Paramparâ as his
own: to protect and perpetuate Íaivism; to serve Hindus the world over;
to provide, teach and disseminate scripture, religious literature and prac-
tical instruction; to promote temple construction and to exemplify the
dignity and enlightenment of our Nandinâtha Sampradâya. Living under
lifetime vows of renunciation, humility, purity, confidence and obedience,
these sannyâsins are bound to fulfill their unique role in the Íaiva culture
of religious exemplars and staunch defenders of the faith. Their ideal is to
balance outward service (Sivathondu) and inward contemplation-realiza-
tion (Íivajñâna) for a rich, fulfilling and useful life. ¶There are two other
groups of monks within our monasteries: the yellow-robed yogî tapasvins
and the white-robed sâdhakas, living under renewable two-year vows of
humility, purity, confidence and obedience.
Sannyâsa is the life, way and traditions of those who have
Wednesday irrevocably renounced duties and obligations of the
LESSON 332
householder path, including personal property, wealth,
An Order of
Renunciates ambitions, social position and family ties, in favor of the
full-time monastic quest for divine awakening, Self Real-
ization and spiritual upliftment of humanity. Traditionally, and in our
order, this dharma is available to men under age twenty-five who meet
certain strict qualifications. Some orders are more lenient and accept
men into sannyâsa after age twenty-five. The rules pertaining to home-
less anchorites are, for obvious reasons, more lenient. Other orders will
accept widowers, and a few initiate women, though Hindu custom prefers
that women who wish to follow the monastic path take simple vows of
brahmacharya and not take sannyâsa. ¶Women in today’s liberal Hindu
orders who do take sannyâsa should wear white. Women donning orange
robes is a new, very new, fashion. My perception over the past decades is
that this generally does not work out well in the long run. Those women
of history who have been recognized and honored as celibate seekers, as
great souls, even as gurus, have worn the color white. This was then and
is still the order of the day and will be far into the future for many very
good esoteric reasons. ¶The householder naturally comes into the sanny-
âsa âßrama, stage of withdrawal, at age seventy-two, having lived through
life’s three prior stages: student (brahmacharya), householder (g®ihastha)
and elder advisor (vâ∫aprastha). This fourth stage is a time of turning
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inward, devoting oneself more fully to worship, introspection, scriptural

study and meditation. This step for householder men and women may be
ritually acknowledged in a home blessing but is not in any way construed
as sannyâsa dîkshâ, which is a monastic initiation. While traditions vary,
after commencing the fourth stage of life, the elder husband and wife, now
as brother and sister, turn more fully to religious pursuits while continu-
ing their associations with the family, though they may seek accommo-
dations that offer more privacy for their meditations and worship. ¶An
elder man whose wife has passed on and whose children are grown may
upon reaching age seventy-two take up the mendicant life fully and then
diligently pursue his spiritual sâdhana in a state of genuine renunciation
and not in the midst of his relatives. This is expressed in sûtra 210: “Íiva’s
unmarried men and widowers may renounce the world after age seventy-
two, severing all ties with their community and living as unordained, self-
declared sannyâsins among the holy monks of India.” Sannyâsins who were
formerly married are not generally afforded the same respect as sannyâsins
who never entered the family dharma. ¶Though it is sometimes done, it
must be noted that it is against dharma for a householder to abandon his
wife and children on the pretext of renouncing the world. Becoming a self-
declared sannyâsin after age seventy-two is also not traditional, for one
who has been divorced and whose former spouse is still living. Marriage
is a lifetime commitment, and once taken cannot be rescinded.
Monastics are the religious leaders of Hinduism. Con-
Thursday tinuing this noble renunciate monastic tradition is
LESSON 333
essential for the perpetuation of the faith. Therefore,
Disciplined
Leadership when a young boy expresses the desire to become a
monk, parents should never discourage that inclination,
but strongly encourage it in all ways. It is a great blessing for the family
to have a son become a sannyâsin. Each father should guide his sons who
express an inclination toward monastic life into learning more of san-
nyâsa by teaching them of the lives of great yogîs and swâmîs, encouraging
them in the arts of meditation, ha†ha yoga and personal purity, having
them read and study the Vedas, and bringing them to receive the darßana
and advice of the satguru and swâmîs whenever possible. They regard
any son destined for the monastery not as their own child, but as the
satguru’s spiritual progeny in their trusted care. They work closely with
the satguru in guiding his training so as to cultivate skills and character
traits that will enhance his future as a monastic. Many devout families
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seek to birth a son for the monastery. Prior to conception, they mix with
the swâmîs and pray to the Gods to bring through a soul destined to
perpetuate the holy lineage. ¶Once a brahmachârî has entered the mon-
astery under vows, he is a very special person living a very special life.
He should be treated by everyone, including his own family, as a holy
person. He now stands apart from family and former friends. Parents
when visiting respect his chosen path and keep family problems from his
knowledge. They exclude him from news of marriages, divorces, illness,
deaths and other householder events. They should show great interest in
what he is learning and speak of high philosophical matters. ¶A life of
discipline is not an easy life, but it is a joyous one, with many soul-satis-
fying rewards. Monastics follow their rigorous twenty-four-hour protocol
even in their dreams. Those who are born to perform this service are to
be respected and not distracted by family pulls or the desires of former
friends. They should be tested, yes, in their beginning years, to be assured
that their commitment is firm, their energies secure and their loyalties
well understood. Traditionally, at this time family and friends play an
important role by bringing temptations to them and valid reasons why
they should renounce renunciation. But when their robes turn to yellow
or when in white the rudrâksha beads are worn, their path is clear and
a new protocol on both sides must be firmly kept. All relationships have
now changed. ¶The power of brahmacharya makes the monks very mag-
netic, and the temples they serve in powerful. Monastics are therefore
careful to keep their distance and not become involved with devotees
who attend the temples. In turn, the cultured devotees keep a respectful
distance from the monks—physically, emotionally and psychically, not
even thinking of them, let alone psychically pulling on them, even in their
dreams. Nothing should happen to distract a monk from his chosen path.
This code of nonintervention is even more strict for the monk’s parents,
who share in his renunciation of worldly life for the life of selfless service
to the Sanâtana Dharma.
The Íaiva sannyâsin states at the time of his initiation,
Friday “All that I have and all that I am I now give unto my
LESSON 334
God, my Gods and my guru. I have no family except
The Ideals
Of Sannyâsa the Divine Father Íiva and Mother Íakti who dwell in
Kailâsa, and on Earth the saˆgam of Íaivite devotees.”
This is the ideal of not only the swâmî, but of all monastics. Therefore,
a state of aloofness from blood ties must be maintained on the part of
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each monastic. This is reflected in the protocol of the monk’s not refer-
ring to relatives as “my father,” “my brother,” “my mother,” but by formal,
impersonal names and common courtesy titles, such as Mr. Sivanesan, etc.
This is an affectionate detachment, a lovingly detached attitude, from the
g®ihastha community. It is a detachment from joint or extended family,
which includes former friends, seeing guru as mother and father, and fel-
low monastics as family, aadheenam devas as dear relatives, and Gods as
close, not far away. Each family learns to respect this renunciate attitude.
This is the fabric of monastic life, both for sannyâsins and postulants, for
in our community, all monastics are on the path of renunciation. Some
have received sannyâsa dîkshâ and others are preparing for it by fully liv-
ing the life of the one who has renounced the world in one-pointed quest
for service and God Realization. Because training must be given when the
nature is still young and pliable, I do not accept candidates for monastic
life who are over the age of twenty-five. ¶All must always remember that it
is a family’s greatest blessing for a son to become a sannyâsin. But a word
of caution must follow. Though a young man may be raised and trained
to one day become a monastic, it is he himself who must have the burning
desire for ultimate, transcendent realization of Paraßiva. It is he who must
have a heart full of selfless service and vairâgya, the spirit of renunciation.
It is he who must have the prârabdha karmas that would allow him to be
the ideal sannyâsin his parents would hope for. Becoming a monk is not
simply a matter of moving from his family home into a monastery. Vari-
ous tests must be met and passed. The entire monastic community has to
be convinced of the young man’s sincerity and strengthened by his pres-
ence. Such potential sannyâsins are watched closely and expected to dis-
sociate themselves from g®ihastha impulses such as claiming “my things,
my space, my career, my advancement and my exclusive duties.” They are
examined for the qualities of true sannyâsa, tested often as to their flex-
ibility, their ability to instantly renounce attachment to position and job
security without residual resentments, the fluidness to release awareness
and move transparently from one area to the next as needs arise. ¶How
does a monastic serve his guru in daily life? He must take every opportu-
nity to be open. At the first level, that of a young aspirant, the mom and
dad give him over and say, “The guru is now your mother and father. Go
and be with him.” Then it is up to the young man to think of his guru as
mother and father and not think of them as his parents anymore. That
is what they expect. They are thrilled that they could produce a son who
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could be a spiritual man, thrilled that their son might be accepted. The
next step is on the part of the son himself. In living in the âßrama the
son only sees the guru in his mind. He doesn’t see anybody else. When
he starts seeing others, finding fault and liking some more than others,
that’s when the trouble begins. Rather, he serves the guru’s mission exclu-
sively, in his whole mind, even while he is working with others. He treats
everyone equally, with kindly, affectionate detachment. He fulfills each
duty wholeheartedly and harbors no preferences for one type of service
over another. He doesn’t use the facility as a trade school to improve his
skills, just in case monastic life doesn’t work out. Finally he attracts the
guru’s attention, and the third stage begins. He is given special small tasks
to accomplish by the satguru, and when successful given larger and more
difficult tasks, as the guru guides him in strengthening his willpower.
From that point on, his life unfolds from stage to stage as he purifies
himself and brings forth his Divinity in his service and striving.
Wouldn’t we have a wonderful world of living with Íiva
Saturday if two thirds of the people on this planet were spiritual
LESSON 335
lights and had nothing on their mind but to spread the
The Way of
Old Souls dharma of right thought, right speech and right action?
It truly would be a global village, a haven, a wonderland.
But during this yuga, it may not be possible, because younger souls inhabit
the planet in abundance, and their only method of discipline among
themselves is with the fist, the hatchet, the whip and harsh, insulting
words. In this way they accrue much karma to be worked out in another
birth. This makes a lot of sense, for if they did not make new karma they
would not reincarnate and never become older souls. It is the tragedies,
the hurts, the fears, the arguments that remain unresolved that goad the
young souls onward. They learn by their own mistakes, but very slowly,
taking the lessons out of their experiences and always blaming on others
what has happened to them. This and most of the above is how we come
to distinguish an old soul from one in the intermediate grade and those
who are unverified. ¶The intermediate souls struggle with their emotions;
they hurt themselves more than others. Misunderstanding is not their
enemy. It is their teacher of new discoverings. Theirs is the never-end-
ing search. Theirs is the never-ending, not-being-able-to-reach-the-end
search. Unlike the young souls, their desires are well-defined. Unlike the
young souls, their intellection has some development, maybe not keen but
usable. For them, religion is an acceptable solution. They are not supersti-
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tious, meaning believing in what they do not understand, as are the young
souls. They must be satisfied with adequate reasons of why, how and what
the future holds. The intermediate souls all have to learn not to drag the
past through life with them in the form of resentment, unforgivingness
through unforgettability. This one lesson and this alone distinguishes
them from their older examples. But they do look to the older souls for
help and for solace, seeking to hold their hand, lean on their shoulder
and share with them some of their experiential burdens. ¶Taking up san-
nyâsa as a young man and fulfilling the goals and disciplines of monastic
life is for the older souls. These forgiving, intelligent beings rely on their
memories of their past when they were young souls. They rely on their
memories of the past when they were intermediate souls. They rely on
their superconscious abilities to look through and see into every situation,
every happening, of past, present and future. Their test, their supreme test,
is to balance their inner and their outer life. So, they renounce the world,
and in their renouncing, the world they renounced renounces them. Their
humanness is still there, their striving is still there, and their seeking for
elucidation is still there. But what is not there is the sense of their small
self. The sense of the little I’go. The sense of “me and mine” is replaced by
“us” and “ours.” ¶Not all old souls are ready for holy orders of sannyâsa,
but some of them are, and these rare few have special qualities. Loyalty
to their lineage is one of the most important, and another is love in their
will. This means that they do make happenings happen in the external
world. They do effect change, but they do not claim reward or recogni-
tion. They do not sulk if appreciation is not forthcoming. They move on,
ever impelled by their spirituality, that ever-moving force of inspiration
that does good rather than harm, that ever-moving spiritual force that
quells the external ego and gives credit to others. That rewarding ability
to see into the future, prepare for it and to guide others into it is theirs to
develop. ¶Young souls merge with each other. Intermediate souls merge
with projects and learning new things, merging with the mind and the
intellect. Older souls, seeking the Self beyond the mind, merge with the
Spirit and with things spiritual. For them, a pure and nearly perfect life
calls. They intuitively know that the profound merger of jîva in Íiva is no
easy task, to be accomplished in a weekend seminar or yoga class. So they
go farther, they renounce, they take up the ideals of the four Vedas—not
to parrot them, but to live them, just as did the ®ishis of yore. That leads
to the path of the renouncer, to the sannyâsin in the Indian tradition.
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¶Though it may not be your dharma to formally renounce the world,

you can benefit your search immensely by knowing how the great ones
seek to live and respond to life. You can find ways in the midst of your
life to follow their example. ¶Realize that the sannyâsins, the sâdhus and
the host of nameless mendicants from the traditional orders of Hinduism
do have built within them the spiritual, social, cultural structure that has
survived siege and pestilence within the countries they serve. But most
importantly, these three million soldiers of the within have survived the
siege of their lower self, the pestilence of their own mind, and risen above
to the heights. This book, Living with Íiva, contains within it the wisdom
which, once read and understood, becomes knowledge to make the con-
quest of all conquests, the victory over the instinctive-intellectual mind
and all that it contains. All this and more is summed up so eloquently in
the “Song of the Sannyâsin,” in Sunday’s lesson, a stirring poem by Srila
Sri Swami Vivekananda Maharaj (1863-1902), composed in July, 1885, at
Thousand Island Park, New York. I advise my monastic followers to live
it, just live it, and try to fulfill in your life these high ideals. To all readers
of this book, I say, proceed with confidence along the path of sâdhana,
through which dancing with Íiva, living with Íiva and merging with Íiva
is assured and certain. That’s the way it is, and that is the way it is.
Sunday
LESSON 336
Song of the Sannyâsin

Wake up the note! the song that had its birth

Far off, where worldly taint could never reach,
In mountain caves and glades of forest deep,
Whose calm no sigh for lust or wealth or fame
Could ever dare to break; where rolled the stream
Of knowledge, truth and bliss that follows both.
Sing high that note, sannyâsin bold! Say
“Om Tat Sat, Om!”
Strike off thy fetters! bonds that bind thee down,
Of shining gold, or darker, baser ore—
Love, hate; good, bad; and all the dual throng.
Know slave is slave, caressed or whipped, not free;
For fetters, though of gold, are not less strong to bind.
Then off with them, sannyâsin bold! Say
“Om Tat Sat, Om!”
Let darkness go; the will-o’-the-wisp that leads
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With blinking light to pile more gloom on gloom.

This thirst for life forever quench; it drags
From birth to death, and death to birth, the soul.
He conquers all who conquers self.
Know this and never yield, sannyâsin bold! Say
“Om Tat Sat, Om!”
“Who sows must reap,” they say, “and cause must bring
The sure effect: good, good; bad, bad; and none
Escapes the law. But whoso wears a form
Must wear the chain.” Too true; but far beyond
Both name and form is âtman, ever free.
Know thou art That, sannyâsin bold! Say
“Om Tat Sat, Om!”
They know not truth who dream such vacant dreams
As father, mother, children, wife and friend.
The sexless Self—whose father He? whose child?
Whose friend, whose foe, is He who is but One?
The Self is all in all—none else exists;
And thou art That, sannyâsin bold! Say
“Om Tat Sat, Om!”
There is but One: the Free, the Knower, Self,
Without a name, without a form or stain.
In Him is mâyâ, dreaming all this dream.
The Witness, He appears as nature, soul.
Know thou art That, sannyâsin bold! Say
“Om Tat Sat, Om!”
Where seekest thou? That freedom, friend, this world
Nor that can give. In books and temples, vain
Thy search. Thine only is the hand that holds
The rope that drags thee on. Then cease lament.
Let go thy hold, sannyâsin bold! Say
“Om Tat Sat, Om!”
Say, “Peace to all. From me no danger be
To aught that lives. In those that dwell on high,
In those that lowly creep—I am the Self in all!
All life, both here and there, do I renounce,
All heavens and earths and hells, all hopes and fears.”
Thus cut thy bonds, sannyâsin bold! Say
“Om Tat Sat, Om!”
Heed then no more how body lives or goes.
Its task is done: let karma float it down.
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Let one put garlands on, another kick

This frame: say naught. No praise or blame can be
Where praiser, praised, and blamer, blamed, are one.
Thus be thou calm, sannyâsin bold! Say
“Om Tat Sat, Om!”
Truth never comes where lust and fame and greed
Of gain reside. No man who thinks of woman
As his wife can ever perfect be;
Nor he who owns the least of things, nor he
Whom anger Chains, can ever pass through mâyâ’s gates.
So, give these up, sannyâsin bold! Say
“Om Tat Sat, Om!”
Have thou no home. What home can hold thee, friend?
The sky thy roof, the grass thy bed, and food
What chance may bring—well cooked or ill, judge not.
No food or drink can taint that noble Self
Which knows Itself. Like rolling river free
Thou ever be, sannyâsin bold! Say
“Om Tat Sat, Om!”
Few only know the truth. The rest will hate
And laugh at thee, great one; but pay no heed.
Go thou, the free, from place to place, and help
Them out of darkness, mâyâ’s veil. Without
The fear of pain or search for pleasure, go
Beyond them both, sannyâsin bold! Say
“Om Tat Sat, Om!”
Thus day by day, till karma’s power’s spent,
Release the soul forever. No more is birth,
Nor I, nor thou, nor God, nor man. The “I”
Has All become, the All is “I” and Bliss.
Know thou art That, sannyâsin bold! Say
“Om Tat Sat, Om!”

“Song of the Sannyâsin” by Swami Vivekananda is quoted, with written permission, from Inspired
Talks, My Master and Other Writings; copyright 1958 by Swami Nikhilananda, trustee of the es-
tate of Swami Vivekananda; published by the Ramakrishna-Vivekananda Center of New York.
 Íaiva Saμpradâya Íiksha∫am
xaEva sa\p‰daya ixa#aNama<

Passing On
Our Heritage

I know not how to stretch the threads or weave

or discern the pattern of those who weave in the
contest. Whose son will be the one to speak so well
as to surpass, advancing from below, his father?
Âig Veda 6.9.2. ve, p. 331-332
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Education is a major issue in religious communities

Monday around the world today, including our own Hindu com-
LESSON 337
munities. Those who value their traditions everywhere
Tools for
Education are worried. They see all too clearly that children are
learning another culture, or a nonculture, instead of
absorbing the precious things in the various heritages. Elders, mothers
and fathers, teachers and spiritual leaders are all wondering the same
thing about traditional values: “How are we going to pass them along,
assure that they will survive?” ¶The Swaminarayan Fellowship has one
good answer: involvement of youth at all levels. They know the impor-
tance of inculturalization. Individual families have another answer: keep
kids out of public schools, use home-schooling systems, of which there
are many these days. India is seeking answers, too, and is striving for a
balance that incorporates Western knowledge and Eastern wisdom—not
an easy goal to accomplish, and as yet unaccomplished for India’s 250
million school children. It’s even hard to offer them wholesome Hindu
literature, since so many books for children and other educational tools
are heavily slanted toward violence. Many will excuse it when a God slays
a demon or when an indignant sage destroys some evil person, but to
my thinking that is also violence, making such stories unacceptable for
the minds of our young ones. Presenting violence as a good thing, even a
somehow holy thing, definitely causes problems in today’s society, where
hurtfulness is seen as a simple and legitimate solution to many problems.
Many parents are at a loss as to how to solve the problems that surround
the education of their youth. One solution they turn to is sending them
off to boarding school. This is not a great answer. This is not even a good
answer. ¶Íaivites of the world are now uniting in one common cause: to
pass on the knowledge of Íaivism to the next generation. They are pro-
tecting the minds of their children, saturating the minds of their children,
educating the minds of their children, penetrating the minds of their
children with the knowledge of our great God Íiva, with the knowledge
of Lord Ga∫eßa, Lord Murugan, the devonic worlds, the powerful temples
of our religion in which God Íiva in His etheric body comes personally
and blesses the devotees. ¶Where is religion preserved? It is preserved in
the minds of children, recorded in the brain cells of our youth, stored
Each of us has a duty to pass our heritage on to the next generation. Here a teacher is shar-
ing the ancient philosophy with a young class. On the blackboard she has outlined the ancient
Hindu ethical principles we must follow to be good human beings and high-minded Hindus. In
the background a young girl protects her brother from violence on TV.
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there for the future. We must teach the Íaiva Dharma to our children. For
this we need more Íaivite courses, more Íaivite schools and more Íaivite
parents willing to teach the young ones. We owe it to the next generation,
the next, the next and the next. Share your knowledge with them. Have
them memorize a consistent and logical approach to Íaivite Hinduism.
Then their life experiences are imprinted intelligently as they draw upon
those memories to control their karma and dharma. ¶In the ancient days,
the Íaivite kings, the mahârâjas, were responsible for the religion. They
saw to it that the priests performed their duties, that the pandits added
to the store of knowledge, that the temples were built and maintained
and that religion flourished throughout the land and remained alive in
the minds and hearts of the people. This was the dharma of the kshatriya
caste, headed by the kings, their ministers and heads of state. When the
Íaivite kings fell from power, the entire caste system was, for all practical
purposes, left there on the battlefields. Decades have passed, and now we
are in a technological age where computers and machinery replace more
burdensome work, where caste is a matter of choice, not birth, where the
common man and woman have replaced the royal powers as the protec-
tors of Íaivism.
There are no more mahârâjas to defend the Íaiva
Tuesday Dharma for the people, and therefore the people them-
LESSON 338
selves have taken up the scepter. Together they have to
The First
24 Years work to preserve and publish scriptures. Together they
have to found Íaivite schools and universities in which
the knowledge of their forefathers will be safeguarded and disseminated.
It is not enough to be born into a Íaivite home. Education and training
are now more essential than ever before if Íaiva souls being born today
are to grow up into the fullness of the Íaiva Samayam. ¶In our efforts to
preserve Íaivism, we have but one paramount duty to perform, and that is
to pass Íaivism on to the next generation. How do we do this? By captur-
ing and holding the minds of our youth for their first twenty-four years,
holding them close, as was done in the traditional gurukula, exposing
them to a broad yet specific knowledge and immersing them in the most
wonderful impressions of our great religion. Children during the brah-
macharya âßrama, we could say, are on the ku†umba mârga, the stage of
being trained by their parents, of being educated, of developing into use-
ful members of society. After age twenty-four, they can be freely released
with the confidence that they will contend well in a demanding world,
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that they will always have their faith to guide and strengthen them when
karmas become intense or alien influences encroach. ¶We of the older
generation are already set in our ways. Our patterns were established
years ago when early impressions impregnated and influenced our minds.
We can still learn, we can study, but our formative years are largely past.
It is now the children who must be thought of, for they will be here when
we pass away. We can devise ways to let them benefit from our experi-
ence, good and bad. To do this, we must hold them firmly for twenty-four
years as they go through two natural twelve-year cycles of life, impressing
on them the intricacies of the Íaiva Samayam before they are exposed
to any alien faith or belief. Having done that, our duty is complete, and
we can rest assured that Íaivism will be perpetuated by our children, by
our children’s children and on into the future of the world, on into the
new age of space. ¶However, it must be said, and said boldly, that not all
Íaivites are performing this important duty. Rather than becoming the
first gurus, as mother and father, as is traditional, they send the youth off
to school, away from home, without chaperoning, and make the world
his guru. From there he falls naturally into â∫ava mârga, the path of
being his own person, looking out for “number one.” ¶If we fail and let
a single generation slip by, the entire religion will be threatened. It only
takes one generation to let our religion begin a fall into disuse. I gave
this message on Íaivite education to over 300,000 devotees during a 1981
tour of Sri Lanka and India. It was an important message at the time,
well received, and today is no less relevant. I pointed out in no uncertain
terms that for many decades Hindus have been sending their children to
Catholic schools. They do this because the Catholics run very fine edu-
cational institutions and programs throughout India and Sri Lanka and
elsewhere, and each family naturally wants its children to have the best
education. The children do get a good discipline and education, but it is
a Catholic education, an education ultimately designed to bring young
boys and girls into the Catholic religion, designed to persuade them of
the Christian view of life, of the Christian view of God and salvation, and
of all the Christian beliefs. ¶Hindu parents should not send their children
to Christian missionary schools, nor to schools founded in the name of
any other religion who seek to influence them, even in subtle ways, such
as through symbols and peer missionaries who chide and taunt Hindu
children about their culture, their beliefs, their dress or their symbols.
These schools have a detrimental effect on the subconscious minds of
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the children, steadily turning them away from Hindu beliefs. When they
slowly absorb the attitudes of another faith, slowly their belief structure
is altered, and gradually their actions at home reflect this change.
We know from modern psychology how important
Wednesday early impressions are. The first impressions that go into
LESSON 339
the minds of young people mold and influence their
Contradictory
Teachings entire life. While a child is learning history in a Catholic
school, learning geometry, learning mathematics, he is
also being taught the teachings of the Catholic Church. The teachings
of the Catholic Church are not the Íaiva Dharma. They are drastically
different, in some ways even opposite, from the Íaiva Dharma. What has
happened? In order to gain an education for their children so they can
grow up and earn money, so they can compete with their peers in the
West, the parents have sacrificed the soul of the child and prepared him
for a poor birth in his next life. ¶It happens in this way. The child goes to
school each day and listens to the teachings of the Catholics about God
and Jesus and Mary. He learns from the Catholic Catechism that the soul
goes to heaven or to hell after one birth on this Earth, that those who do
not accept Jesus as their savior suffer eternally in hell, where the physical
body burns forever without being consumed, that one must not worship
idols, that other religions are not God’s true path. ¶Then the child returns
home, and his parents try to undo these impressions by telling him that
there is no eternal hell and no original sin, that non-Christians do not
suffer in hell, that Íiva is a God of love, that karma does exist and souls
do incarnate many, many times upon the Earth. This young mind, not
having matured into reason as yet, simply becomes confused. At school he
hears that his parents just don’t understand, and he should therefore not
listen to them about religious matters. At home his parents tell him that
in certain matters he should not listen to the nuns, should not believe the
good fathers, that Íaivism is his religion, and is a wonderful religion, that
it is all right to wear holy ash. Imagine a child who goes to school and is
taught all day, six or eight hours a day, that he should believe the Catholic
beliefs. He is taught that there is no reincarnation, that there is no karma,
that Hinduism is a pagan religion, that the Catholic religion is the only
true religion in the world, that his parents are wrong, that his forefathers
were wrong, that the ®ishis and satgurus are also wrong. And then, for
an hour or so at night, if he is lucky, the parents teach that the Catholic
Church is wrong, that he should go there only for the secular education,
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that he should disregard all the other instruction, not listen to the holy
fathers and nuns but ignore them when they talk about their religion. ¶A
true story was related to me by Pundit K.N. Navaratnam, Jyotisha Shastri,
a close devotee of my satguru. “As a young boy growing up in Jaffna, I
received my primary school education in a Christian school. The teacher
impressed upon me in religious classes that the Hindu Gods were all evil
devils. We were told when passing the Hindu temples to spit and swear
at these evil images. Many times I followed my teacher’s instructions and
indeed did these inappropriate deeds—until one day I spat at an image
of Lord Ga∫eßa and immediately fell to the ground and suffered a serious
head wound. My cousin was studying in a Catholic convent with many
other students who were born as Hindus. Every morning they were taken
to the church for prayers. On the way the students passed a Hindu temple
where they were told to spit and swear in the direction of the temple.
This was a cruel and dishonest attempt at conversion to a different faith.”
What happens to a child who receives such contradic-
Thursday tory training? He doesn’t know whom or what to believe.
LESSON 340
He pulls away from the Christian religion he learned
Neglecting
The First Duty at school. He pulls away from the Íaivite religion he
learned at home. He grows up without a religion. He
does not have the good Catholic fathers to turn to; nor can he turn to his
parents’ religion when in need of spiritual advice, for Íaivism has been
discredited in his mind. He is thus denied a religion in this life. As one
Catholic Father confided, “The Hindu children in our school may never
become Catholics, but they also will never be good Hindus.” The child
who once attended home pûjâ with joy and respected the visiting swâmî
no longer shows him pra∫âmas, resists pûjâ time, challenges parental deci-
sions and slowly takes over the home, relegating the parents to second-
class citizenship within it. All in the home are consigned to dance around
the contrary feelings of such children in order to avoid their threats of
unchaperoned dating, leaving home, even suicide. As a result, these spiri-
tual orphans are growing up without a religion and turning to drugs,
turning to crime, turning to existentialism and Western rationalism, even
terrorism, for some semblance of security, turning to divorce and even
suicide in increasing numbers when life becomes difficult to face. Their
lack of religious life is creating a very serious karma, taking them into the
consciousness of the seven lower worlds. This karma is the responsibility
of our Íaivite community, of each and every one of us. We will all reap
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the bad karma generated by our neglect. ¶Those who have been educated
in Christian schools have little respect for the swâmîs, pandits and gurus
of Íaivism. They don’t respect the sanctity of our temples. They may go
into a temple to fulfill the social customs, but in their hearts they don’t
believe that the Gods live in the temple, because they have been told in
school that the stone Deities are just stones, that pûjâs are just primitive
rituals. You love your children and you should not sacrifice their minds
for an education, for a little money. That money will be ill-gotten, for
you played the Christians for fools in order to get it. Do the Christians
believe our beliefs? No. Do the Jews? No. Do the Muslims? No. They do
not believe a single one of our central beliefs, which are karma, reincarna-
tion, the existence of God everywhere, the absence of an eternal hell and
the assurance that every soul, without exception, will attain liberation.
¶All religions are not the same. They are not equal. They have different
spiritual goals and, therefore, different attainments reached by their fol-
lowers. We must not forget this, especially these days when it is fashion-
able to ignore the differences and to claim that all religions are one. We
must not be taken in by those who make such claims. The religions of the
world are all great, but they are not all the same. Their beliefs are different,
and since beliefs create attitudes, they hold different attitudes toward life
and death, and toward the soul and God, too. Our collective beliefs create
our collective attitudes and thus perpetuate the culture. ¶Yes, we have but
one duty to perform: to pass our religion on to the next generation, the
next, the next and the next. How is this done? Through Íaivite education,
building more schools. We must educate our youth well. The alterna-
tive is to allow Íaivism to be conquered by atheism, to be conquered by
Christianity, to be conquered by Islam, to be conquered by existentialism
and Western rationalism, materialism and secular humanism, and to be
conquered by the liberal neo-Indian postulations which seek to cut the
roots of tradition. Our only hope lies in educating the children, the young
minds which are open and eager to learn, but which are being enticed
away from their heritage. Hold them close, protect them, love them dearly
and give them the treasures of Íaivism. That is the greatest gift you can
offer them. Everything else will perish. Everything else will decay. ¶You
can remember this next time a Christian missionary comes to your door.
Welcome him with “Namaste.” Tell him or her, “We are Hindus. We have a
catechism of our own. We have a creed and an affirmation of faith in our
religion, too. We have our scriptures, our Holy Bible of the Íaivite Hindu
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Religion. We have religious leaders and institutions, and a tradition that

is vastly more ancient than any other. We have our holy temples and our
great Gods. We are proud to be Íaivites. We are proud to worship God
Íiva and the Gods. We have all this and more. Thank you very much.’’
And then close the door!
Behind many past wars and before us today we find
Friday unconscionable conversion efforts that infringe on the
LESSON 341
rights of not only the individual, but of groups and
What to Teach
The Youth nations. When religions set out with a consciousness of
conquest and make inroads on each other, this natu-
rally becomes a major concern to families, communities and nations. Is
it not the right of each of the world religions to declare dedication to
their incontestable lawbooks of shoulds and should nots, holy texts tell-
ing us how to pray, meditate and behave? Freedom to choose one’s reli-
gion as well as freedom to leave it if one wishes is a fundamental human
right, and it is a human wrong to deny or even limit it. This may seem
obvious, but it is not a freedom many people of the world fully enjoy.
¶Because they love their children, devout Íaivites do not put them into
Christian schools but provide Íaivite schooling which fills young minds
with Íaivite lore, Íaivite history, Íaivite art, knowledge of the Vedas and
the Íaiva Ågamas. Such children, nurtured from birth in their religion
and taught the sacred scriptures and songs from an early age, grow into
the great ambassadors of Íaivite Hinduism and joyfully carry it out into
the rest of the world. This is the plan and the thrust of the devotees of
God Íiva in 1981, 1982, 1990 and on beyond the year 2000. They know
that there is no place where we can go but that God Íiva is there ahead
of us—there already. They know that nothing has existence except that
God Íiva created it. These Sivathondars are vowed to protect, preserve
and promote the Íaiva Dharma on this planet. ¶In Dancing with Íiva,
Hinduism’s Contemporary Catechism all of this that I have been speaking
about is neatly explained through short questions and answers which are
easy to understand, to commit to memory and to teach to children and
adults alike so that they can talk intelligently in foreign countries about
their religion and benefit themselves as well as others. ¶A child’s mind is
like a computer disc or a recording cassette. It is a blank tape, capable of
recording confusing sounds or beautiful melodies. It is up to us to make
those first and lasting impressions. That tape is very difficult to edit later.
What should we teach to our young boys and girls? What do we record
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in their mental computer? Dancing with Íiva—beautifully illustrated

because children also learn through their eyes—contains a foundation
of religious study to be memorized by boys and girls from six to sixteen
years of age, to be discussed by the family, to be expounded upon by the
father and explained by the mother. ¶This book answers the question,
“What should I teach my children about Íaivism?” We must teach the
children about our purpose on this Earth, our relationship with God, our
ultimate destiny—all according to the Tirumantiram, Tirukural, the Vedic
and Ågamic scriptures of monistic Íaiva Siddhânta. We must teach our
children, as did mahâsiddha Tirumular 2,200 years ago, that the soul is
immortal, created by God Íiva and destined to merge back in Him. We
must teach our children about this world we live in and about the other
belief structures they will encounter throughout life. We must teach our
children how to make their religion strong and vibrant in a technological
age. These instructions are important for all Íaivite families. ¶Those of
you here in Asia have a rich and stable religious culture. Therefore the
future of your children is less uncertain. In other parts of the world, Íai-
vite children are not benefiting from a temple in the village, from a grand-
mother who can explain things or a grandfather to expound. Yet, though
children here have all these advantages, still the temptations are there to
adopt wayward Western ways and Christian attitudes. We must work to
overcome such magnetic forces by educating our children, both those who
are living here in Sri Lanka and India and those who are citizens of other
nations in the world. They will then grow up to teach their children and
thus perpetuate the Íaivite Hindu religion into the next generation, the
next and the next. ¶Yes, united Íaivites of the world, we need to pass on to
the next generation the importance of dharma and of good conduct, espe-
cially ahiμsâ, fundamental principles of the Hindu faith. Ahiμsâ means
noninjury physically, mentally and emotionally. We need to explain to
them the secret of the mysteries of the holy Íiva temple. We need to take
them often to the kovils, mandirs, shrines, âßramas, aadheenams, ma†has,
sacred places and rivers so they become well grounded in their devotion.
We need to carefully explain to them the purpose of, and the results that
can be obtained through, home pûjâ, having archanas, abhishekas and
homas performed in their behalf in Íiva temples. We need to teach them
how to pray to God and the Gods. We need to foster in them a deep rever-
ence for our scriptures and our saints and sages.
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Very importantly, we must inculcate in youth a respect

Saturday for family life, for marriage as a sacred union under-
LESSON 342
taken for the mutual spiritual advancement of husband
Preparation
For Adult Life and wife. They have to be counseled and counseled well
in how married life is to be faced, what attitudes they
should hold toward sex, how to keep a marriage strong and joyful, how
to combat the pressures they will face in this modern world, especially
if they come to live beyond the borders of our holy land. We must also
inculcate in them a knowledge of monastic life, so they may understand
and revere the satgurus and swâmîs of Íaivism. Íaivite monasticism was
a powerful spiritual force in the world when the mahârâjâs supported
the monastics, and it will continue to be so through the support of the
families, their children and their children’s children. All this is accom-
plished through religious education. We call upon the youth of India, the
youth of Sri Lanka, the youth of Malaysia and all other countries where
Íaivites are living to consider the two paths. We call upon those rare few
to accept the dharma of the Íaivite monastic and serve their God and
religion through a selfless life, preaching and teaching throughout the
world. There is a great need here. Too many Asian families relinquish
their children to become Catholic priests and Protestant ministers and
not enough encourage them to become Hindu sâdhakas, yogîs and swâmîs.
¶The youth must be taught that Íaivism is not only the oldest religion
in the world, but a vibrant and dynamic religion in this technological
age. They must come to know its wisdom is for the farmer as well as for
the computer programmer, for our ancestors and for our descendants.
Íaivism is the Eternal Path, the Sanâtana Dharma. The youth working
in science, working in space exploration, working in electronics, work-
ing in business, working closely with members of different religions, will
encounter many challenges. They must be carefully taught how to remain
within the bounds of their religion and their beliefs without being dis-
suaded, without accepting ridicule from those who have yet to compre-
hend Íaivism. We must teach the Íaivite youth who are now growing up
around the world about the Hindu festivals and holy days, making these
auspicious days vibrant and alive in their memories. We must explain to
them the meanings behind every observance so they are not just follow-
ing blindly. ¶Symbols are an important part of bringing Íaivism into the
hearts of the youth. Symbols carry great significance, and young people
love and understand symbols. We should have Íaivite symbols abun-
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dantly around us, in the shrine room and throughout the home. The
Prâ∫ava Aum, swastika, Íivaliˆga, tripu∫∂ra and pottu, aˆkußa, tiruvadi,
nâga, vel, kalaßa, va†a, rudrâksha, seval, trißûla, kama∫∂alu, triko∫a, bilva,
sha†ko∫a, konrai, homa, kuttuvilaku and mankolam. ¶We should have a
kuttuvilaku, or oil lamp, in our shrine room. We should have pictures of
the Deities and their vahanas, Nandi, peacock and mouse, in our home,
sacred flowers and trees in our garden. We should, of course, wear the
holy ash and pottu, our sacred jewelry and prayer beads, and see that
our young people do also. All Íaivites should become initiated into the
Pañchâkshara Mantra and chant it daily upon a mâlâ of rudrâksha beads.
Sights, scents, sounds, tastes and religious symbols—it is through these
ways our religion is understood by the next generation.
I spoke on global education in January of 1990 at the
Sunday Global Forum for Human Survival, Development and
LESSON 343
Environment in Moscow. My message to the 700 reli-
Affirming Basic
Human Values gious and political leaders there was that we need, in the
century ahead, to teach all children tolerance, openness
to different ways of life, different beliefs, different customs of dress and
language. We need to stop teaching them to fear those who are different
from themselves, stop teaching them hatred for peoples of other colors
and other religions, stop teaching them to see the world as a field of con-
flict and instead instill in them an informed appreciation and a joyous
reverence for the grand diversity we find around us. Modern education
can do that, provided the approach is changed. ¶Basic human Vedic val-
ues should be taught to every child and every student. These eternal val-
ues have nothing to do with race, creed, caste, politics or ethnic culture.
Learning how to read and write is not the ultimate goal. The ultimate
goal of education is also knowing what to read and what to write, as well
as how to live in tune with nature, in harmony with the universe and at
peace with oneself and one’s fellow man. A great Hindu saint once wrote,
“Those who cannot live in harmony with the world, though they have
learned many things, are still ignorant” (Tirukural 140). ¶The big question
today that spiritual and political leaders are facing is how the peoples of
the world are to live on this planet in harmony, and how to correct the
errors of the past and the resentments that still linger, to ensure survival
of humankind in the future. Education, they know, will play a key role,
but only if educators focus first on human values which make us all better
people, and secondly on technical know-how. ¶The human values we are
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speaking of here are known by all the tribal peoples, as they are inwardly
a part of the knowledge within each of us. These principles must be cul-
tivated, however, to manifest in any society, community, village or family.
Global education must reach all the peoples, including the tribals, in our
worldwide global village. It cannot be one-sided on the part of those
who have the resources teaching others what they think they need to
know. Rather, all voices must be heard, of the tribal and the industrialist.
But will they be heard? Perhaps yes! The intelligentsia of industrialized
societies are realizing that they don’t really have all the answers and that
traditional tribal communities have something to teach after all. We have
simple problems on this planet—food for survival, water, air, shelter and
health care. The tribals are well aware of each of these and had them
under control before they were conquered. In the same spirit that the
modern pharmacologist journeys into the Amazon forests to discover
medicines used for centuries that he can apply to world health care, so we
in our various spheres of knowledge need to more and more rediscover
the old ways and bring them forward. ¶In Russia, some bright young
students asked me, “What can Hinduism offer in contributing to world
peace and global education?” I explained that Hinduism offers a unified
vision of man and nature in which there is reverence, not dominion or
carelessness. Mother Earth, sustainer of life, is a key Vedic idea. Respect
for Earth, for life in its many forms, is found in the American Indian
nations, in the Hawaiian religion, the African tribes and the many other
indigenous peoples. It was lost by many in recent centuries, but now its
depth is being discovered again. ¶While the family is suffering a lot in
many parts of the world, I explained, it is still very strong in Hindu soci-
ety. We have to keep it that way, and teach the world by our example that
it is the family that nurtures the individual and stabilizes the religion and
hence the nation. Only by keeping a strong sense of family can human-
kind hope for a secure future.
 Íaiva Saμsk®iti
xaEva sa\sk&[ita

Íaivite Culture

May the Goddess of culture, associated with the models of

other cultures, may the Goddess of wisdom in company
with men, ordinary and intellectual, may the fire divine,
and may the Goddess of divine speech with masters of
language come to bless us and enshrine our hearts.
Âig Veda 7.2.8. rvp, p. 2,355
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Good evening, everyone! Vanakkam. Anbe Sivamayam

Monday Satyame Parasivam. God Íiva is Immanent Love and
LESSON 344
Transcendent Reality. The American devotees of our
Íaivism Has
Everything great God Íiva are very happy to be here today at this
beautiful temple in Sri Lanka. It is so inspiring to see
this temple being well maintained, improved, managed in a responsible
way and filled with Íaivite souls. Your open and lovely faces remind me
of beings in the Devaloka. We feel blessed here. ¶Íaivism is the great-
est religion in the world, and we are all very fortunate and proud to be
Íaivites. Why is it great among all the world’s great religions? It has the
most ancient culture on the planet. It has scriptures that are utterly pro-
found. It has sacred hymns that stir the soul. It has unparalleled disci-
plines of yoga and meditation. It has magnificent temples that are truly
holy. It has devoted sages and holy men and women to guide our life and
lead us to Lord Ga∫eßa, who leads us to Lord Murugan and finally to the
Supreme God, Íiva. Íaivism has God and the Gods. It has charyâ, kriyâ,
yoga and jñâna. It has so many enlightened beliefs, including karma and
reincarnation. That is why I call our religion the greatest in all the world.
¶I believe that this oldest religion of the farthest past is also the religion
of the future, the religion best suited to the technological age. I think we
should present Hinduism as it is today, as a vibrant religion of the pres-
ent. Then it will survive into glorious futures. We need inspired people
to serve Íaivism with a strong will and a positive mind. In this effort,
all differences must be set aside so we can work together on powerful
programs that will bring progress; and that progress will inspire others,
make them enthusiastic, show them that Íaivism can be brought into the
technological age for the good of the next generation, the next and the
next. ¶What happens when a religion is lost in yesterday and not brought
forward to guide its followers today and on into the future? All kinds of
problems arise. The youth begin to think religion is obsolete, abandon it
and become immersed in worldliness, often in activities that are adhar-
mic. They leave the Íaivite path, the Íaiva Neri. Families break up, friends
argue, and people fight within themselves and with one another. Poor
citizens are raised in the absence of ethics. Unrest and discontentment
reign, and the entire nation suffers. So many problems arise when reli-
Here a vî∫â player is seated in the granite-pillared outer chambers of a local temple, playing for
her God. Her music is a spiritual art which draws her close to Lord Íiva, whose Holy Foot in the
subtle world blesses her with His divine touch.
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gion is lost, when people don’t know the right things to do. They become
unhappy, restless, unstable. They have nothing to lean on, no place to turn
in difficult times. This leads to abuse, to divorce, to suicide, to disease, to
murder and dozens of sad experiences and hellish states of mind. ¶People
who do have a religion live a very different life. Recently a large sum of
money was spent to conduct a vast survey on the effects of religion in
people’s lives in America. Thousands of people from every walk of life
were interviewed throughout the United States as to their religion, their
jobs and their family life. It was found that those with a religion and who
really followed that religion were happier, wealthier and healthier than
those who had no spiritual life. The researchers concluded that nonre-
ligious people were less happy in their home life, less successful in their
businesses and personal relationships, and more prone to anxiety, stresses
and strains. We have to take that information seriously and determine to
live our spiritual life fully, in all its dimensions. We have to realize that
there are serious problems awaiting us if we are half-hearted and live a
double standard. Therefore, it is important, both for the individual and
the country, that we preserve the Íaiva Dharma and bring it forward into
the technological age.
Many years ago I was given a beautiful description of
Tuesday Íaivism. I was told that Íaivism is like ghee. The cow
LESSON 345
eats grass all day and from it produces gallons of white
A Religion
Of the Future milk. The dairyman separates out the rich cream. The
cream is then churned into sweet butter. Finally, the but-
ter is boiled to produce a tiny amount of ghee, the essence of milk. Like
ghee, Íaivism is the essence of religion. ¶In the past decades I have found
that instead of preserving and enjoying this ghee, people are pouring it
into a brass pot and diluting it with Western rationalism, diluting it with
liberal Hinduism, diluting it with unorthodox practices and beliefs of all
kinds. That precious ghee has been turned into a greasy water which is
not fit for anything except to be thrown out. Therefore, I call upon the
united Íaivites of the world to protect, preserve and promote the Íaiva
Samayam by bringing a stop to this dilution of our religion. This dilution
is caused by Western influences, by the efforts of alien religions to convert
our members, by liberal-Hindu thinking which seeks to destroy the tradi-
tions of temple worship and sectarian customs and, most importantly, by
our own neglect. ¶Only the united Íaivites of the world can solve these
problems. It is not enough to understand these problems or to complain
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about them. Objecting is not enough. We have to have a plan, a purpose,

persistence and push. We have to put that plan forward with a positive
mind, a practical approach and a dynamic will in order to make Íaivism
the religion of the future, bringing it out of the agricultural era and into
the technological age. ¶Here in Sri Lanka there is a misconception that in
order to progress, in order to move into the age of technology, we have to
abandon our religion, give up our culture. That is a false concept. Religion
does not conflict with technology, but enhances it, gives it balance and
purpose. As soon as a young man or woman gets a Western education, he
or she assumes that the old traditions don’t apply anymore and becomes
ashamed to worship God and the Gods. Where are the spiritual leaders
who can explain that this need not be so? It is too bad that our religious
leaders aren’t teaching the fact that Íaivism is the one religion on the
planet best suited to this great age, which agrees most closely with the
most advanced postulations of modern science, yet it is itself even more
advanced. ¶In Bali, the technological age did not conquer religion. Rather,
Íaivite religious leaders harnessed technology to serve their distinct way
of life. There the Íaivite traditions have been valued and protected. On
American national television a few months ago, a beautiful program on
Bali’s Íiva festival, Ekadaßa Rudra, was shown—a massive celebration
held for ten days only once every hundred years. A Balinese high priest
was interviewed. He was proud to be a Íaivite and told the reporter, “We
use technology here in Bali. We are not overcome by technology.” I am
afraid to say that technology is overcoming many of us here in Sri Lanka.
It is a dangerous trend. Unless we reverse it through education, it will
gather momentum, and changes will come more and more quickly, not
positive changes, but negative ones that destroy the religious character of
people and nations.
Devout Hindus have a hard time dividing life into the
Wednesday sacred and the profane. It is life, and it is all divine
LESSON 346
expression. Thus, Hindu art is sacred art, Hindu music
Double
Standards is devotional music. Even business, for the devout Hindu,
is not just livelihood but a way of serving God, the com-
munity and helping mankind. ¶But we must admit that not all Hindus
live the life as fully as they might. There has evolved a double standard in
the modern world. There are those who are consistent as Hindus in the
temple as well as at home, whose home life is consistent with their behav-
ior in the temple, whether they live in Europe or in an Indian village.
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There are also those who are Hindus when it is convenient and something
else when it is not. A good, hard look at oneself once in a while is ben-
eficial, especially at the time of year when many Hindus send Christmas
cards. Do they send greetings to acknowledge the holy days of Islam or
Judaism? No. But, having been educated in Christian schools, they feel it’s
all right to send Christmas cards. Christian on the inside and Hindu on
the outside—it’s a double standard. Rice and curry at the temple, a Big
Mac beef burger on the way home. Of course, we would always encourage
friendly gestures of goodwill and polite exchanges of good wishes with
school mates, neighbors, colleagues, business and professional associates
or customers who are members of another community, but that can be
done without compromising our Hindu identity. There are perfectly neu-
tral and secularized season’s greetings cards, devoid of religious expres-
sion. ¶Fortunately, the duplicity is changing. Hindus are getting more
confident about living their culture, even in the West. A recent speaking
tour in Canada and California brought to my attention an awakening in
the older generation (for the sake of their children, they explained), and
that is to be one hundred percent Hindu all the time, living the culture
at home, in the workplace, the temple and even in dreams. One temple I
visited in Toronto had set up a dress code for the devotees: elegant Hindu
attire for ladies—no shorts, slacks, skirts, etc., and only traditional attire
for men. Those who don’t comply are not admitted. Yes, there was at first
some reaction, management told me. Even now, there are some who just
won’t come to the temple if they can’t worship the Lord in T-shirts and
tight jeans. But so many others who don’t appreciate the double stan-
dard and previously would stay away—because worshipers were dress-
ing so immodestly—have since replaced the dropouts. The strictness has
brought other boons along with it, such as a one-hour, absolutely silent
meditation by two or three hundred people prior to the evening pûjâ.
The management prides itself on cleanliness, decorum and discipline.
My group arrived there shortly after a feeding of several thousand. The
kitchen was immaculate. So was the dining room. Similar efforts to bring
forward the whole of our tradition are underway in other communities
as well. ¶There is an old saying, “Clothes make the man.” And it must
be equally true that clothes make the woman. Dress codes are a growing
issue in many temples throughout the world, and in âßramas and ma†has,
too. This is being discussed not only in Hinduism but in other religions
as well. ¶In international airports all over the world we see so many kinds
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of clothing. Airports are beginning to look like backstage at the opera—a

flamboyant array—not of actors pretending to be who they are not, but
an array of people whose clothing declares who they are. A materialist
wears his shirt and tie. The Muslims are elegantly dressed. The colorful
African tribals, stately Japanese Shintoists and modest Buddhists are in
their traditional garb. Catholics dress demurely; Protestants informally.
You can spot an existentialist just like that. And of course, you can never
miss the punk rockers or the hippies. A kurta shirt, shawl and loosely fit-
ted pants are definitely Hindu, and go well with the wife’s wearing a sârî
or puñjâbi.
The clothing we wear shapes our attitudes, cultural
Thursday behavior and the friendships we hold. Clothes do affect
LESSON 347
our moods and emotions and make a declaration of
Upholding
Your Faith who we are. My recommendation is to be who you are
and let the world know it, even in the workplace, unless
a dress code does not permit this, of course. This includes wearing the
sacred forehead marks and Hindu jewelry, wedding pendant, toe rings,
earrings and beads. The message is: don’t be afraid to be a Hindu, which
includes dressing like a Hindu. ¶Boldly proclaim your faith to the world.
Others proclaim theirs. I will never forget seeing the many spiritual and
parliamentary leaders in Moscow at the Global Forum on Human Sur-
vival in January of 1991. Many were dressed in Western suits and ties, and
it was hard to tell who among them were from the West, or from Africa or
India, and harder still to tell who was a religious person and who a poli-
tician. But at the Millennium Peace Summit of Religious Leaders at the
United Nations General Assembly Hall in New York in 2000, there were
so many, perhaps most, who wore their native dress. I knew instantly who
they were, where they were from and what they represented. They carried
the stronger message and showed by their clothes that they were proud of
their tradition, and that they intended to preserve it. That kind of strength
is good to see in a world that has mistaken drab uniformity for security.
¶This is what temple societies and elders and swâmîs and gurus are all
thinking deeply about—“Should my aßrama look like a hippie commune,
or a serious place of yoga? Should our temples look like advertisements
for Levi-Strauss acid-washed jeans?” Many say, “Well, God in the temple
doesn’t care how I’m dressed. It’s how I am on the inside that counts.”
This is a weak excuse. We cannot be one way on the inside and another
on the outside. It’s all us, inside and out. Even in elegant restaurants, a
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coat and tie is required. They will lend these to you at the door. Just as is
done today at temples in Bali, we loan wrap-arounds and shawls to those
who walk into our temples wearing T-shirts and shorts. Perhaps the way
things are heading, one day the Gods in the temples will have the dress of
the day: a baseball cap turned backwards, a T-shirt, baggy pants. Perhaps
that would satisfy the issue and end the controversy. What do you think?
¶Women say that they think and act and move differently when they are
dressed in a sârî than in Western casual clothing. Another point—men
look nicer in the traditional Indian outfit than they do in Western coats,
shirts and trousers. But many are shy to wear Hindu clothing, especially
the men. They need not be. Last summer a girl we know was scared to
death to go to college in her puñjâbis. But she tried it. Within four days
some of the American coeds came up and asked, “What do you call that
outfit? We want one like it, too. It’s so beautiful.” So much for our fears!
¶Swami Vivekananda noted, “The sârî of our women and the choga and
turban of our men defy comparison as regards beauty in dress. The tight
dresses cannot approach in loveliness the loose ones that fall in natu-
ral folds.” Hindus dressed like Hindus behave like Hindus. Don’t under-
estimate the power of our dress, how it influences our attitudes, feelings
and even the company we keep. This is food for thought, isn’t it? Think
about it.
Every nation, village, organization, society and even small
Friday group has certain goals to accomplish, ideals to live by
LESSON 348
and a mission it seeks to fulfill. But every organization
Beware of
Detractors and group, large or small, has something else as well:
detractors. They are usually friendly, kindly, sociable and
fun to be with. They’re often intellectually bright and more sophisticated
than most. They can be the life of the party, the ones who get things going,
serve the prasâda and talk a mile a minute. They are often popular, wel-
comed onto every committee and board of trustees, because people feel
their energy and inspiration will implement the objectives of the organi-
zation, be they building a temple, promoting a publication, saving the rain
forests or reorganizing Hindu society into traditional ways of life, culture
and arts. ¶Their special social skills promote them quickly through the
ranks. Once in an influential position, they speak wisely on subjects irrel-
evant to the central purpose of the organization. Given the chance, they
can turn a not-so-wealthy âßrama into an up-and-coming business, thus
diluting the original holy impulse of selfless, humble service. Of course,
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they do perform worship, but in most cases it is not genuine, and just
enough to keep them in with a religious group. Given a project, they
may balk or procrastinate—delaying a mailing to the point that when
it arrives it is useless, or refraining from doing it at all. They are never
without a good reason for their actions, having been educated in the ven-
erable “Book of Excuses.” At meetings they are quite competent to tell in
compelling terms why a project that all wish to manifest is not possible.
They are equally capable of making everyone question the mission of the
organization and their part in it. They politic to redefine the group’s char-
tered purpose, to make it fit into their own ideas. These râjas of reason
have many ruses to discourage others from fitting in, and will go to great
efforts to bring up irrelevant alternatives and possibilities which cloud
the group’s thinking and undermine its commitments. All this may seem
overstated, perhaps over-generalized, but from my experience I assure
you that it is not. ¶These, my friends, are detractors. Though they may
appear to be allies, they are not. The worst of them, I would say, are
guided by asuric forces which seek to undermine, erode and create con-
fusion. Detractors also endeavor to control and then stifle the religious
leaders—the swâmîs, pandits, priests and the guru—by setting schedules
as to whom they should or should not meet, what they should and should
not say. If they can, they will cleverly edit a religious institution’s written
works into oblivion and relegate the founder to being a feeble figurehead,
a mere picture hanging on the wall. ¶Detractors are something to be
deeply concerned about. Don’t hope that they will one day turn around
and be defenders of faith. They won’t. By divine, dharmic law, devotees
who are dedicated to the goals of their group are wrong to associate with
detractors, who often seek to replace the religious agenda with a social
one. Rather, they must be dissociated from and seen as foes to the forces
of dharma, antagonists who do not allow others to preserve the thrust of
the founder’s goals. Every group should rigorously test each one within
it to determine who is vowed to fulfill the goals of the organization and
who will hamper them every step of the way, resist and refuse to fit in
fully, and politic to cause others to do the same. Their favorite mode of
operation is the erosion method, continually taking up time, even if it’s
only five minutes today and eight minutes tomorrow. Their presence is
always a burden, as they deter, delay and inhibit the mission by their
remarkable irrelevancies and intolerable subtle obstinacy. Asuric inva-
sion comes through such detractors, who rely on anger, pouting, gos-
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sip, backbiting and emotional upheavals to get their way. Once having
been admitted into the central fold, they employ these means of motiva-
tion even more openly than before, to the utter distress of devotees who
are humbly striving to follow dharma and to fulfill the stated mission
of the organization. Now, I am not saying these are all necessarily bad
people, though some are definitely there to intentionally infiltrate, dilute
and destroy. Others may have, in their own minds, perfectly good inten-
tions and may be entirely unaware of their negative effect on the group.
But that does not excuse them. It is important to stress that for religious
service to be effective, there must be absolute group harmony. For words
to go deep and lives to be changed for the better, everyone’s prâ∫as must
be flowing together on an equal wavelength. All must be kindred in their
vows and unified in their determination to fulfill the goals of the âßrama,
society, temple or mission. ¶The big question remains: how to get rid of
detractors once they are discovered. Quite probably they have made many
friends, are tied into key projects, have contributed a great deal of money
and gained a position of control. If detractors are discovered, don’t con-
front them. Don’t accuse them. Don’t try to persuade or convince them
to be different. Don’t expect them to change. Be persistent in maintaining
the original goals of the institution. Uphold the dharma and be unified
with those who are loyal. Quietly let the detractors go their way, or into
another group that is more suited to them. Without them, the mission will
soar. Religious organizations must not tolerate domination by wealthy or
influential patrons or members who do not support the shared goals. An
indigent widow’s single rupee in the hu∫∂i and a billionaire’s one million
should have equal weight in the minds of the trustees.
In the past months, we have talked to many groups about
Saturday the abuse of women and children, of animals and our
LESSON 349
environment. And there is yet another kind of abuse
Respecting
Temple Priests whose victims have silently suffered without our con-
cern, without our intervention, and mostly without our
even knowing about it. I’m speaking of our temple priests, who are being
mistreated and abused all over the world. This is a distressing problem
that I hear about nearly every week and am working steadily to solve. ¶It
is time that we talked about this atrocity. Hindu priests, known as pujârîs,
are being mistreated, humiliated and bashed—emotionally, mentally and
even physically—by temple managers, trustees and sometimes even devo-
tees. We all know that this is not right. Still, with few exceptions, no one
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is objecting, except of course the priests themselves. Their objections and

efforts to provide for their own security go largely unheard, as they are
looked down upon by management as uneducated, simple people who
merely perform rote rituals. In truth, they are a noble army of soldiers of
the within, who are the heart of Hinduism’s spiritual leadership. ¶Priest
bashing is a popular sport outside of India. Back in India, priests have
their saˆga and elders to stand up for them. Outside India, when a priest
falls into disfavor, the slightest infractions are used against him, and seri-
ous accusations are quickly levelled to blacken his name, hurt him and
force him out. Accusation of wrongdoing in handling money is a favorite
ploy and usually the first to be used. The list goes on, giving management
the license to yell at him, push him, ignore his needs, embarrass him in
front of his peers and humiliate him in public. In Australia, a priest spent
two weeks in the hospital following an incident of severe and traumatic
public humiliation. There have been too many cases for us to take lightly
the hiμsâ hurts inflicted upon priests serving in foreign lands. With a
sympathetic attorney’s help, one priests’ group in California formed their
own organization for protection, but this is still the exception. ¶It is bad
enough inside India, but even worse outside. At least in India the priest is
on home ground, knows the rules of the region and has moral, emotional
and even legal support available. And, of course, he has his extended fam-
ily to turn to. Outside of India, many priests have none of these support
systems. Many priests are isolated and vulnerable in so many ways—often
living alone, with only a temporary visa. Many don’t know the laws and
customs of the country they serve in, and may not know the language too
well, so they are often at the mercy of the temple managers for everything.
They are disadvantaged in another way, too: if a priest has to return to his
village, he will face a second humiliation as elders and peers make him
answer up to the gossip, insinuations and accusations that have accumu-
lated against him. ¶Yes, bashing Hindu temple priests is a worldwide trag-
edy, and those who perpetrate these acts are also bashing the Sanâtana
Dharma. But abusing priests is not to be taken lightly. Those who can
invoke blessings from the Gods can also invoke curses from asuric forces
of this planet for their own protection when angered, embarrassed and
deeply hurt. Hindu temple priests deserve respect for the richness of their
holy profession, the dignity of their office and the importance of their
function. They should not be mistreated or interfered with. They have
earned the same respect that any professional in “the real world” enjoys.
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When swâmî bashing was in vogue years ago, swâmîs took it seriously.
They got to know each other better, stood up for each other and put a
stop to the nonsense. ¶Women today are taking such a stand against their
own husbands who take sadistic joy in battering them repeatedly. When
these transgressions are brought before the public, changes are often set
in motion. Attitudes change. Soon the media changes its ways of report-
ing on abuse. Laws eventually change. We have seen this happen with
child abuse, with racial abuse, with sexual abuse. The time has now come
for us all to change our attitudes about abusing temple priests. This will
require temple managers to adjust their thinking. It will also require the
international priesthood of Sanâtana Dharma to take a firm stand against
their molesters and refuse to meekly submit, day in and day out, to harass-
ment or to being relegated to janitorial work and the handling of shoes.
Some priests work fourteen hours a day and more. They are treated like
servants of the manager rather than servants of the temple Gods. Let’s put
an end to this shameful mistreatment and the bad karma that it creates.
Let’s honor, love and respect our priests. Let’s make our priests happy.
Happy priest, happy temple, happy Gods, happy devotees. That’s the way
it works.
Commitment is a big word and a very scary word to many
Sunday people nowadays. The word commitment means respon-
LESSON 350
sibility. The word commitment brings up our willpower.
The Path of
Commitment Many people think the word commitment is too limiting.
We can sum up commitment in one word, dharma. The
path of dharma is the path of one commitment after another commit-
ment. In between the commitments is fulfillment of the commitment,
which is another word for duty. We are here to realize God Íiva within
ourself. We are here to resolve all the karmas we put in motion in past lives.
We are here to manage our affairs so properly that eventually we do not
have to come back into a physical body anymore. This takes tremendous
commitment, and our great Hindu religion gives us the knowledge of how
to be committed. ¶If your religion is not manifesting daily in your life,
then basically you don’t have a religion. You just have some sort of Indian
culture which will eventually go away and be replaced with another kind
of a culture, because it doesn’t really matter to you. Someone asked me
recently, “How do I know what to be committed to?” The answer: “What
do you believe in?” Belief is a magical thing. It’s like a vitamin; it perme-
ates your whole system. A belief can be taken away and another belief can
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replace it, or the belief can be strengthened through commitment. Be

committed to your beliefs, or find beliefs that you can be committed to,
then build on them. Then you will leave your footprints on the San Mârga
of time. Otherwise, you are just sitting in one place, making no progress.
Nothing is happening in your life. The karmas aren’t working right, and
you are not able to face life. ¶If you feel, day after day, that you are in the
right place at the right time, doing the right thing, then I would say you
are a being who is fully committed to the spiritual path. If, day after day,
you feel you don’t know whether you are in the right place or not, and
things are always “happening to you,” that you are like a little boat on the
great ocean of life being tossed around, here and there, then you should
look within yourself and find out where you stand on the scale of life
itself. What are your basic beliefs? What are your basic commitments?
Ask yourself. ¶There are many things to be committed to. Youths should
be committed to an education that prepares them for what they plan to
do in the future. Mothers should be committed to raising their children,
making them good citizens, though some mothers don’t care whether
their children are good citizens or not. They just don’t care. They are not
even committed to raising their own children. They give them over to
somebody else to raise: “Here, you do it.” Day-care centers are opening up
all across the nation, though statistics show that children educated in day-
care centers are terrible students when they get into school—discouraged,
undisciplined, unruly students. Husbands should be committed to raising
up their family, taking care of their wife and children. That is a commit-
ment that they have to fulfill. If they don’t fulfill it, they are making an
unworthy karma. But many husbands are not even committed to that.
¶Commitment and dharma are just about the same. Dharma brings law
and order into life, gives us rules to follow and guides us along. Where
does commitment come from? Commitment comes from the soul. The
intellectual mind is going this way and that way all the time, controlled
or antagonized by other people’s opinions most of the time and by how
society is thinking. Commitment comes from the soul. It is a quality of
the soul which you can teach to the next generation. Another quality
of the soul is observation. Still another intuitive quality of the soul is
creativity, which should be encouraged in every child. Through commit-
ment, the soul dominates the intellect and the intellect dominates the
instinctive mind. This is religion in action. This is living with Íiva.
 Hindu Ekatâ
ihndu /k[taa

Hindu Solidarity

Gather together, converse together! Your minds

be of one accord, just as in harmony the Gods
of old took their ritual shares of oblation! United
be your counsel, united your assembly, united
your spirit and thoughts! A single plan do I lay
before you; a single oblation do I offer!
Âig Veda 10.191.2-3. ve, p. 854
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Namaste to each and every one here at this Cultural

Monday Center tonight in California. We invoke Lord Ga∫eßa’s
LESSON 351
blessings to guide us through our evening together. We
Hinduism
In America are glad to see you all sitting on the floor on these beau-
tiful carpets in the traditional way. You are obviously
taking pride in bringing more and more of the great heritage of India to
America. ¶Tonight we are going to discuss an issue that is essential to the
future of Hinduism in America, I would even say in the world. It is a com-
plex matter, but in brief it may be defined as the relationship of Hindus
to Hindus, of Vaish∫avites to Íaivites, of northern traditions to southern.
I call it Hindu solidarity, and I can assure you that there is no single more
challenging or significant lesson that we as members of the world’s old-
est religion have to learn. If we can achieve this, and we can, many of our
problems will be solved, and Hinduism will take a new place of pride in
North America. ¶Hindu solidarity is not a new idea. Mahatma Gandhi
literally gave his life to religious unity. Of course, his greatest efforts were
focused on the more serious conflicts between Hindus and Muslims, but
he was a man for whom unity—but not uniformity—among Hindus was
the rock upon which harmony between members of all religions must be
based. To him this goal was considered a prerequisite for freedom and for
prosperity. Gandhi took religious harmony so seriously that it became for
him the fulfillment, the “ultimate triumph of Truth.” Of course, from the
1982 film shown in major cities around the world, you know that Gan-
dhi faced many disappointments, many setbacks. Yet he never despaired.
Though we, too, encounter obstacles in this effort, we must not lose heart,
but carry on with courage and determination. ¶Gandhi did not force his
will on others, but used humility, penance, prayer and purity to convey
his ideals to others, to awaken in them the same love, the same tolerance,
the same dependence on God. Gandhi followed Swami Vivekananda in
impressing America with principles of tolerance, understanding, for-
bearance and nonviolence—all Hindu ideals. While Swami Vivekananda
became known to relatively few here in the West, Gandhi captured the
imagination and hearts of all Americans, if not the whole world. He
is really a hero in this country, and our own freedom fighters, Martin
Luther King and others, took their guidance from him. When he failed,
Hindu solidarity is shown by the respect for forms of worship of the Divine. Devotees of one
lineage, whether followers of Íiva, Vish∫u or Durgâ, honor the followers of other other denomi-
nations. Below a devotee of Lord Íiva is tying a flower garland around a stone Íivaliˆga.
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Gandhi would say, “Let us ask for help from God, the All-Powerful, and
tell Him that we, His tiny creatures, have failed to do what we ought to
do. We hate one another. We distrust one another. We fly at one anoth-
er’s throat, and we even become assassins. Let us ask Him to purge our
hearts of all hatred in us. Let us ask God in all humility to give us sense,
to give us wisdom.” ¶The people of America sincerely want the Hindu
religion here. And all the Asian Hindus who have come to America, now
numbering in the millions, also want the Hindu religion here. They are
not all in agreement as to what it is; nor do they even understand the
deeper tenets of Hinduism. But the general feeling among them is, “We
want Hinduism here in America.” In a recent publication, I believe it
was U.S. News and World Report, statistics were given showing that in
American today one person in twenty-five is associated with Hinduism,
yoga or meditation. Of course, we have millions of other Americans who
are atheists, born without any religion at all. There are tens of millions
who are Jews, Muslims and Buddhists. Buddhism is very popular in the
United States, and Islam is the fastest growing religion. You can see that
we are not really a Christian country. We are a mosaic of all races, all
religions. The Founding Fathers of America arrived seeking a new world,
a new hope, freedom from unenlightened European monarchies. They
consciously did not create a Christian nation. Their freedom of religion
policy was for all the religions of the world. Much of their symbolism and
thinking was derived from the Masonic Lodge and the Deist movement
of the times. ¶Thomas Jefferson himself said that the freedoms were to
extend to the Hindus, the Muslims and others. He wrote in his autobiog-
raphy, “[When] the [Virginia] bill for establishing religious freedom... was
finally passed, a singular proposition proved that its protection of opinion
was meant to be universal. Where the preamble declares that coercion is
a departure from the plan of the holy author of our religion, an amend-
ment was proposed, by inserting the words Jesus Christ, so that it should
read ‘a departure from the plan of Jesus Christ, the holy author of our
religion.’ The insertion was rejected by a great majority, in proof that they
meant to comprehend within the mantle of its protection the Jew and the
Gentile, the Christian and Mahometan, the Hindoo and infidel of every
denomination.”
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Those who followed in the decades after the US Con-

Tuesday stitution was ratified were divided one from another
LESSON 352
because of language, religion and culture. They spoke
Sectarianism
Is Healthy different languages, followed many different customs
and promoted many different religious beliefs. In spite
of all this, they worked with and solved the problems. They set their dif-
ferences aside through the separation of church and state and created
friendships by not entering into discussions of church and state, busi-
ness and politics. They solved the problems and decided not to talk
much about religion and decided to work together for a new world, a
new nation, a new democracy that the entire world is now beginning to
emulate. This is because they came to the conclusion that they must be
united to exist, and that working together was imperative for survival in
the new world. And this is how the American people work together today.
They don’t speak about religion or politics in corporations or businesses.
¶There are good lessons for Hindus in these historical happenings, for the
founding fathers of this nation did not destroy their heritage. The Luther-
ans coming over here from Germany and Denmark did not forsake the
traditions of the Lutheran religion; rather, they strengthened them. The
Baptists strengthened their religion. The Methodists became strong. The
Catholics from Ireland and Italy became very strong here. That’s what
they did. What they did not do is just as important. They did not create a
liberal Christianity in which everyone was expected to blend with other
creeds for the sake of unity. They did not dismantle or dilute their reli-
gion. They did not compromise all their culture so they could “fit in.” Nor
did the Buddhists, the Taoists, the Shintoists or the Confucianists seek to
combine all the sects of their faiths into one. They did not do this. They
did not take an axe to that tree. They did not chop away at its roots. They
didn’t do that. They knew that individual ways of worship are important,
that individual customs are important, important enough to preserve.
¶Many Hindus wrongly believe there is just one Christianity which all
Christians support. This is simply not true. There are 33,500 sects within
Christianity in this country alone, as published by the highly regarded
Dr. David Bartlett. Imagine that! More than 33,500, each having its own
separate identity, its own individual beliefs, creeds, doctrines and ways of
worship. This is very important to remember. Of course, they are in the
ninth and tenth generation now, and everyone speaks English. ¶Recently,
while dedicating Flint’s Paßchimâ Kâßî Írî Vißvanâtha Temple, Congress-
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man Riley of the state of Michigan and I were on the same platform and
he told the gathered crowd, “America is often called a melting pot. But
that’s not exactly true. It is more of a mosaic, where everyone fits together
and nurtures their own individuality.” Here we have the great cultures of
many countries, and we appreciate all the cultures of every country and
want the best of each culture from each country. ¶Now we come to Hindu
solidarity. I call it “solidarity in diversity.” Solidarity in diversity is really
a better term than unity in diversity, just like the mosaic is more accurate
than the melting pot. In America we have Íaivite Hindus, Vaish∫ava Hin-
dus, Íâkta Hindus, Smârta Hindus, liberal Hindus, agnostic Hindus and
anti-Hindu Hindus, all working together for Hindu solidarity, a grand
Hindu front competent to master and reform Hinduism today. ¶There
are different theologies, different philosophies and different scriptures for
each of the various Hindu sects. We do not have 33,500 divisions to deal
with like the Christians, but we do have a few major ones. Some liberal
Hindus would like to get rid of these, but there is no reason why in Amer-
ica and the other countries of the world the major Hindu sects cannot
live in harmony. Many swâmîs join with me in this thinking, as do other
Hindu leaders. They know that unity does not mean sameness. Sameness
in religion is not healthy, not natural. Sameness is a most common, dull,
uninspired and unenlightened solution, for it reduces that which is vital
with differences, rich in philosophical interpretation and background, to
a common denominator. Such a solution would be very harmful to Hin-
duism in the world, and many of us are firmly against that idea. Hinduism
has always taken pride in its broadness. All of history proclaims this to
be true. In this most advanced age of civilization shall we abandon that
lofty view? Shall we take a sumptuous feast with its rich variety of curries
and chutneys and dals and stir it all together into an unappealing stew?
Certainly not. I certainly hope not.
Hindu solidarity is not an original idea. It has become
Wednesday very popular in India itself. Whatever our background,
LESSON 353
we can and we must maintain our sectarian roots and
Solidarity,
Not Sameness heritage, cultivate our differences and become strong
within them, as the Christians did. There exists a com-
mon bond between all Hindus. What is that bond? Number one, it is
the belief in karma and dharma. The Íaivites and the Vaish∫avites, the
Íâktas and the Smârtas all believe in karma and dharma. Number two
is reincarnation. Number three is the all-pervasiveness of God and the
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sanctity of the Vedas. If we accept these three basic beliefs—along with

tolerance for all the religions of the world coupled with the belief that all
people, whatever their spiritual path, will one day attain to knowledge
of God—then we can say, “Yes, we are Hindus.” ¶Though the branches
of Hinduism are many and different, the roots are common to us all. We
share so much, and we can never forget this. Sharing a common heritage,
we can then, with confidence, follow our own path. If that path is lib-
eral Hindu, fine. If that path is Íaivite Hindu, Vaish∫ava Hindu or Íâkta
Hindu, fine. Let each follow his own path. Let each perfect himself and
purify himself within the context of his individual way. We must know
and get the strength from the heritage of our roots. That is a real strength;
that is a genuine Hindu solidarity. It is not strength for us all to call out
for others to be exactly as we are. A tree has one trunk, one root system,
but for survival its branches must reach in many directions. The different
directions are not a weakness in the tree. In fact, its very life depends on
this diversity. The very life of Hinduism has always depended on a simi-
lar diversity. That is why I say it is not uniformity or sameness that we
seek together. It is solidarity, the strength which comes from appreciating
and cultivating our differences, not denying them or trying to restrain or
even destroy them altogether. ¶It is a strange fact that there are temples
today that enshrine three Supreme Gods within them—Íiva, Vish∫u and
Íakti. This never used to happen, because people were secure and firm
in their beliefs. Imagine, three Supreme Gods in one temple. Who can
understand such a thing? This is a new phenomenon. It is not Ågamic.
It is not traditional. It is like having three prima donnas on one stage,
and the only result will be confusion, strife and unhappiness. What are
the children going to think about this? As they are growing up, they will
say, “When you make up your mind, Mom and Dad, who is Supreme
God, let us know. In the meantime, we are going to live, have fun and be
Americans. Hey, when you decide, let us know.” ¶First we need to know,
deep inside ourselves, who is the Supreme God. Is He Íiva? Is He Vish∫u,
K®ish∫a, or is She Durgâ? Having made that determination, we can gather
like-minded people together to design and build a temple to our Supreme
God. There is no power in a temple to more than one Supreme God,
no power at all. Better not to build such a place, which will just be a
social hall. That is not religion. That is opportunistic compromise. That
is politics trying to run religion. Rather, build a temple to Íiva and wor-
ship there with your whole heart. Build a temple to Vish∫u and worship
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there with your whole heart. Build a temple to Íakti and worship there
with your whole heart. But don’t compromise, don’t confuse yourselves
and your children by trying to please everyone in every temple. Let there
be good, strong temples to Íiva and good strong temples to K®ish∫a and
to Vish∫u and to Íakti. Each devotee can then worship God or Goddess
properly, with full commitment and devotion.
There have been civilizations that have become ashamed
Thursday of and then abandoned their religion and their tem-
LESSON 354
ples because of Christian and Communist propaganda.
The Demise
Of Pagan Faiths Where is the Greek religion today? Their temples are
mere monuments. Where is the Native American religion
today, with all of its mysticism? And where is the religion of the Native
Hawaiian people today? They practiced a profound religion that was in
many respects very similar to Hinduism. They worshiped Lord Ga∫eßa,
and called Him God Lono. They worshiped Lord Subrama∫ya and they
called Him God Ku, who is our Kumâra. Their Goddess Pele was Pârvatî,
whom they feared. Their Supreme God, our Lord Íiva, was called God
Kane, represented by a single upright sacred stone, much like our liˆga.
¶Then, about a hundred and fifty years ago, Christians came in force to
Hawaii. They set about to convert all of the “pagan” Hawaiians. They set
up printing presses and schools. They convinced the queens and kings to
close the temple doors, which they did. What followed is a sad history of
decline and fall. The 1,500-year-old Polynesian culture dwindled and died.
Intermarriage began. Today, 200 years later, the language, the culture, the
religion, the worship and the race are nearly gone. Of the 500,000 Hawai-
ians that Captain Cook encountered in 1772, only about 500 are left today.
There are virtually no pure Hawaiians anymore, all because the temple
doors were closed. Such is the vulturism that the Christians, in their com-
mercial, colonial, imperial expansion, perpetuated on the Hawaiian peo-
ple. We live in Hawaii. We know all of this. ¶We do not want Hinduism in
mainland America to suffer that fate, and so we urge all of you to protect
yourselves from the forces that may try to demean and destroy our Hindu
temples. By protecting the temples, we protect the religion. Proceed with
confidence. With a united will, a solidarity, a Hindu front, we are a loving
fortress unto ourselves. ¶You are all to be commended for your efforts
to open the temple doors in this community. I ask each and every one of
you to bring your heritage, the best you understand it, all of it, here to the
United States of America. Don’t try to create a new religion here, a Neo-
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Indian religion. The one you have is perfectly fine, the best in the world.
Those of you who have been educated in Christian schools, your minds
have been turned against Hinduism at a young age by the clever teach-
ers in the school, and thoughts have gone into the subconscious mind
that are there militating against your bringing up temples and bringing
the culture here, thinking it may be not quite right to do. Release those
thoughts from the subconscious mind and realize that we are all in a
country that grants us religious freedom through its constitution. It is our
privilege and duty to claim that religious freedom, to enforce that reli-
gious freedom, to implement it and not be shy about our faith. This is not
a shy country. ¶I visited the Hindu temple in Flint, Michigan, a few days
ago. Someone had written in the sand in front of the temple, “Jesus Saves.”
I inquired, “How long has that been there?” They said a few days. I asked,
“Why didn’t you take your foot and rub that out? No one has the right to
come on this property and write such things in front of a Hindu temple.”
Everyone was too shy. We need strength, not shyness when these kinds
of things happen. We rubbed it out. ¶How do we show that strength? We
have to go to the Christian ministers in that community and tell them
politely but firmly that their children are desecrating our temple and
demand that this stop. We have to ask them to talk to their congrega-
tions, to explain Hinduism to their congregations and tell them that we
are not putting up with this sort of nonsense and harassment. If one of
the children of the Hindu community went to the Baptist church and
wrote “Hare K®ish∫a” or “Íiva Íiva” on the sand in front of the church,
you would hear about it from the Baptists. They would come right over
here saying, “I would like to talk to the spiritual leader of this organiza-
tion about a very important subject.” Then you would have to tell your
children not to antagonize the Christians or desecrate their property. ¶We
also have to question our children as to any and all badgering by Chris-
tians in their school. This taunting in public schools violates the First
Amendment of our Constitution, which guarantees the right to religious
freedom. Such abuse should not be allowed in the schoolyard, in the halls,
before or after class, in the cafeteria or in the bathrooms. When a child
threatens another child, saying his soul will perish or burn forever in Hell,
is that not a serious crime? After all, the soul is more important than the
body, and if it’s a crime to threaten to harm someone’s body, should it
also not be considered a crime to threaten harm to another’s soul, a crime
which starts with the priest or minister’s speaking out hatred and bigotry
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from behind his pulpit? ¶These are called hate crimes, and more laws are
being passed to prevent them. But until the laws are clear, parents should
know that complaint is a great power. Hindus, Jews, Muslims, Jains and
Buddhists are rising up in one voice and speaking with parents, parish
priests, ministers, school teachers, principals and boards of education to
give children release from the religious taunting and badgering which
they have to put up with day in and day out. How is it possible to study
and receive a good education under such unhealthy, antagonistic condi-
tions? We cannot let fear paralyze us. Go to the Christians and state your
case. Proceed with confidence. You will prevail.
What is our strength? One Supreme God and many
Friday Gods. First we have to decide who is the Supreme God.
LESSON 355
Are you a member of the Íaivite Hindu religion? The
Strength of
Commitment Vaish∫avite Hindu religion? The Íâkta Hindu religion?
The Smârta Hindu religion? Having made that decision,
you will have hope and peace of mind. You will have solace when you
need it, and something to pass on to your children. Knowledge is strength.
Commitment is strength. Knowing where you stand and what you are,
that is strength. Worshiping many Gods is our way, but they are not all
the Supreme God. They are His helpers, His creations. There is only one
Supreme God, though we call Him by various names. The many Gods,
the Mahâdevas, will help us. They are specialists created by God. ¶Hin-
duism today is a religion of today and tomorrow. It is not just a religion
of history books and yesterday. Our religion gives us strength today. It is
a religion which worships one Supreme God, with vast scriptures that
prescribe the worship and illumine our minds with knowledge about the
one Supreme God. Never forget this. Never forsake your Vedic Hindu
Dharma, but fulfill it, and you will be rewarded, generation after genera-
tion after generation. ¶There is a movement from within Hinduism itself
which poses yet another threat to our religion, a threat to all the sects. I
call it “liberal Hinduism.” Liberal Hinduism is a “Chellappa stew,” a con-
fused mixture of many things thrown into a one bowl. This movement
was started by your forefathers, and it has to be corrected by us through
being good Íaivites in this life. ¶What does liberal Hinduism teach? It
teaches that it is not necessary to go to the temple, that yoga is not nec-
essary, that all religions are one, that we need not listen to the swâmîs,
and that sectarianism is wrong. What the followers of liberal Hinduism
don’t seem to realize is that if they destroy the temples, the sects and the
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swâmîs, they will be destroying Hinduism itself. ¶Liberal Hindus hold

an idea that all religions are one. They must not have studied the vari-
ous religions, or they would have to conclude, as we did in America after
years of comparative research, that all religions are not one, not at all alike.
I was told that all religions are fundamentally one when I was young,
and I believed it until I found out years later that it is a lie. All religions
are good insofar as they teach devotion and good conduct, but they are
not one. The Christians know that their religion is totally different from
Hinduism. They live under no illusions, because they know that the very
foundations of Íaivism—namely, karma, reincarnation, yoga, God’s exis-
tence in all things and the soul’s ultimate merger in God—these beliefs
are not their beliefs. Did you know that for a Christian to believe in any
of these things is heresy? Absolute heresy. There is very little beyond a
belief in a Supreme God and some good moral laws that is common to
nearly all religions, but there are many, many differences. ¶As Íaivites, we
love everyone. We appreciate and encourage all religious paths. That is
our way. But that does not mean that we should abandon our beliefs and
practices to embrace Islam or Buddhism. That does not mean that we
should put Jesus on the altar in our shrine room, which is exactly what
the liberal Hindus do. I was at a Íaivite institution the other day and was
shocked to find that Jesus, K®ish∫a and Buddha were there together on
the altar in the prayer room. There was no image of Ga∫eßa or Murugan
or Íiva, yet they called themselves Íaivites. I asked what it meant. They
explained, “We believe in all religions, Swâmî.” They were worshiping
every God except their own! That complacent syncretism is the result of
faulty, liberal Hindu thinking. ¶The Christians don’t have Lord Ga∫eßa
presiding over Sunday services. Of course not. It would be unthinkable.
For Íaivites to put Jesus or Mary on the altar is an invitation to every
Christian missionary to enter your home, to enter the minds of your
children. It is the first sign of the breaking of your faith. That is certainly
how the Christians take it. They will see you as a prime target, and they
will say among themselves, “It won’t be long now.”
Liberal Hindus preach against sectarianism—against
Saturday Íaivism, Vaish∫avism, Íâktism and orthodox Smârtism.
LESSON 356
They teach that sectarianism is some kind of antiquated
Liberal
Hinduism evil, an unenlightened view of life, a thing of the past.
They are absolutely wrong. Sectarianism is the strength
of religion. If you ask a liberal Hindu what he is, he will tell you, “I am
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everything. I am a Christian. I am a Jew. I am a Buddhist.” Of course, the

Christians know full well that he is not a Christian. The Jews are certain
that he is not Jewish, and the Buddhists will tell you that he does not fol-
low the Buddha’s path. In the West they think he sounds stupid. ¶The
liberal Hindus are out to destroy sectarianism, to break down Íaivism,
Vaish∫avism and Íâktism—all in the name of modernization or to unite
the people for some political reason. The same thing is happening in
America, where liberal Hindus are trying to coax everyone away from
their sect into a one group so they can have more political power in their
lobbying in Washington. It is a sad thing that people go right along with
this line of thinking, giving up thousands of years of beautiful tradition
for no reason at all. It is totally insidious. So, here we have the Christian
forces working against Hinduism, the Muslim forces working against
Hinduism, the atheistic forces working against Hinduism and now, worst
of all, the liberal Hindu forces working against Hinduism, which is worse
because they are working from within the religion itself. ¶What is the
solution? We have to define the boundaries of each sect in order to pro-
tect and preserve this most ancient of all the world’s religions. We have to
realize that the liberal Hindus are just creating another sect, and we must
refuse to join their modern sect. We want nothing to do with those who
call for the end of sectarianism. Those who abandon Íaivism to embrace
this liberal Hindu path will later take the next natural step and give up
Hinduism altogether, calling themselves nothing, or calling themselves
everything, which amounts to the same thing. ¶To understand how liberal
Hinduism fits in, it is helpful to use the Western terms orthodox, reform
and liberal, because this is a problem that all of the great religions have
had to face. Íaivism is the orthodox and original form of the Sanâtana
Dharma, the eternal path. Vaish∫avism and Íâktism are the reform sects
which developed later but retained most of the ancient patterns of prac-
tice and belief. Liberal Hinduism is the liberal branch which postulates a
form of the religion which is entirely unorthodox and diverges from the
path set down by our Gods, by our scriptures, by our ®ishis and other holy
men. ¶The Tamil people should take a lesson from the fate of the Jewish
religion. The liberal Jewish movement is bringing about the end of the
race, which means the end of the religion. It is doing this through its mod-
ernistic concepts, through its sweeping compromise of the duties and dis-
ciplines set down for Jews to follow, through its disregard for Jewish ethics,
values and practices. We have to take heed. It is happening in India and
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in Sri Lanka, too. ¶What is not well understood here is that in America
traditional, sectarian religious people and groups are respected, provided
they are firm in their convictions and are really leading a religious life
and not harming others. It is human to respect strength and conviction.
Íaivites who are firm and proud of their religion will be respected wher-
ever they go throughout the world. But people do not respect those who
don’t know what they believe or those who will say they believe one thing
in order to get something, in order to fit in, or for whatever reason, while
in their heart they believe something entirely different. Liberal groups do
not receive the same respect. They are not looked up to but are ignored
and then absorbed back into society. ¶The American Íaivites want the
true Íaiva Samayam, not a watered-down, intellectual concoction created
by a few discontented Hindus in order to get along with Western scholars.
People are becoming more educated, more enlightened, and they realize
that the orthodox Íaiva Dharma is far more profound and rewarding
to their soul. They love and want to worship Lord Íiva. They love Lord
Ga∫eßa and go to Lord Murugan for help. What is the solution? We have
to preserve scripture and temple worship.
We approach the temple in a much different way, a hum-
Sunday ble way. We believe that the Deity lives in the temple,
LESSON 357
that He comes from the inner worlds, hovers over the
Realities
Of Worship stone image in His golden body of light and, as the priest
invokes Him, blesses those present. Everyone is elated.
Everyone feels His holy presence, and an advanced soul may even see
Him there. So, we approach the Deity with a pure mind. We approach
Him in trepidation. We want to look our best, for when He takes over
the stone image in the sanctum and sends forth His rays of blessing, we
don’t want to look disrespectful in His eyes. We therefore prepare the
body and the mind before going to the temple. We get our aura looking
just right. The aura is the sum of vibrations that emanate out around the
body. The colors of the aura are dark or light depending on the nature
of our thoughts and emotions. We prepare our aura by chanting man-
tras, hymns and prayers. We prepare our body by bathing and dressing
simply and properly, not in the sexy way that young girls are dressing
nowadays. Then we go to the temple, and the Deity actually comes on the
inner planes and blesses us, listens to our prayers, clears our minds and
calms our emotions. ¶We take that holy vibration home, back into the
community, where we respect our elders and they guide us wisely. Then
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culture flourishes, because culture has its source right there in the temple.
When culture is flooding out of the temple, our actions are productive
and our minds are creative, our speech is pure, our hearts rejoice and we
become good citizens. Religion makes us good citizens, because we are
peaceful inside and want peace in our land. Peace comes first from the
individual. It is unrealistic to expect peace from our neighbors unless we
are peaceful first, unless we make ourselves peaceful through right liv-
ing, right worship and right religious culture in the home. ¶How can we
destroy all of this? It’s simple. Stop going to the temple. Culture will begin
to go. Refinement and love will begin to go. Arguments will be heard
in the homes. Divorces will fill the courts. Stress and mental illness will
become the common experience—all because we stopped that one, great,
mystical practice—temple worship. ¶The temple is the great psychiatrist
of the Hindu religion. When we forget that, we suffer the consequences of
our neglect, personally and as a nation. The temple has mystical powers
that surpass the greatest psychiatrists on the planet. Our priesthoods have
the tools to invoke and perpetuate this power. The temple can not only
analyze your problem, it can give absolution. You can leave the temple
wondering what it was that was bothering you on the way to seek the help
of the Deity—so complete is the power of the temple. ¶We are proud to
say that we worship God and the Gods. We object to the liberal Hindu
propaganda which denies the existence of our Gods and installs its limited
knowledge in their place. We object to the notion that all religions are one,
and we believe that for us Íaivism is the greatest religion on the Earth
and has no equal. I think that Íaivite leaders should rise up against liberal
Hinduism and remove it from the minds of the children and the general
population. It is a cancer for which there is no miraculous cure, so it has
to be surgically removed to preserve Íaivism. That is the only solution
available. ¶Well, you can see that our religion is faced with a lot of serious
problems. Yet, there are good, sensible solutions if we, the united Íaivites
of the world, all pitch in and work together and have a little selfless sac-
rifice to offer. I feel the spirit coming up among Lord Íiva’s devotees. But
it is not enough. More has to be done. We need religious leaders to come
forward from among the g®ihastha community, tens of thousands of men
and women who have something to offer, who can serve and teach the
Íaiva Dharma. We need Íaivite schools of a fine caliber to be built and
managed by devout Íaivites. We need all of you to spread the religion to
the next generation, many of whom are not receiving proper religious
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training. We need field workers and teachers and missionaries to serve

Lord Íiva in His work. This is necessary in the technological age, neces-
sary in order that Íaivism will be the religion of the future, not of the
past.
Hindu Dharmârtham Íakto Bhava
ihnduDamaa*Ta*\ xa†ae Bava

Stand Strong
For Hinduism

May the mid-region free us from all fear, and both

Heaven and Earth make us secure. Let there be
for us no fear from behind, no fear from in front,
no fear from the north or the south. Let there
be no fear from friend, no fear from foe, no fear
from the known, no fear from what lies before us
unknown, let there be no fear for us from night, no
fear from day. Let all the quarters be my friends.
Atharva Veda 19.15.5–6. hv, p. 105
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This afternoon we had a nice visit with a fine young man

Monday here at my âßrama in Sri Lanka. During the conversation,
LESSON 358
I encouraged him to stand strong for Hinduism. “When
Are You
A Hindu? you stand strong for your religion, you are strong,” he
was told. Today there are many Hindus from India and
Sri Lanka in the United States and Europe who when asked, “Are you a
Hindu?” reply, “No, I’m not really a Hindu. I’m nonsectarian, universal,
a follower of all religions. I’m a little bit of everything, and a little bit
of everybody. Please don’t classify me in any particular way.” Are these
the words of a strong person? No. Too much of this kind of thinking
makes the individual weak-minded. Religion, above all else, should bring
personal strength and commitment to the individual. When a Hindu is
totally noncommittal, releasing his loyalties as he goes along through life,
disclaiming his religion for the sake of so-called unity with other people
or for business or social reasons, he can easily be taken in, converted to
other people’s beliefs. Even when it is just a way to get along with others,
by seeming uncertain of his path, he opens himself to alien influences
of all kinds. ¶In America the beautiful, the land of the money, anything
is possible. It is possible to get money. But to get it at the expense of
disclaiming one’s religion to the public is a very great expense. Young
adults hear their parents disclaiming their religion by saying, “Oh, I am a
Christian. I am a Muslim. I am a Buddhist. I am a follower of all religions.
All religions are one.” All religions are not one. They are very, very dif-
ferent. They all worship and talk about God, yes, but they do not all lead
their followers to the same spiritual goal. The Christians are not seeking
God within themselves. They do not see God as all-pervasive. Nor do
they see God in all things. Their religion does not value the methods of
yoga which bring Hindus into God Realization. Their religion does not
have the mysticism of worshiping God and the Gods in the temple. Jews,
Christians and Muslims do not believe that there is more than one life
or that there is such a thing as karma. They simply do not accept these
beliefs. They are heresy to them. These are a few of the basic and fore-
most beliefs that make our religion and theirs very, very, different indeed.
¶Many Asian Hindus traveling to America, Europe or Africa for business
reasons think that in order to fit in, to be accepted, they must deny their
A traditional temple vocalist, oduvar, sings a Devaram hymn by Saint Sambandar. Holding
wooden cymbals, he stands before the Kumbhalavalai Ga∫eßa Temple in Alaveddy, Sri Lanka,
near Gurudeva’s Sri Subramuniya Ashram. Ga∫eßa blesses his song with a shower of flowers.
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religion. The Jews, Christians and Muslims did not deny their faith when
they found themselves in alien countries, yet their businesses flourish.
But too many Hindus say, “I am a Muslim. I am a Jew. I am a Christian.
I am a Hindu. I am a universalist.” These are very naive statements. The
Muslims do not think these Hindus are Muslim. The Jews do not think
that they are Jewish. The Christians know they are not Christians. And
the Hindus know they were born Hindu and will die as Hindus, and that
they are disclaiming their own sacred heritage for the sake of money and
social or intellectual acceptance. How deceptive! How shallow! The mes-
sage should go out loud and strong: Stand strong for Hinduism, and when
you do you will be strong yourself. Yes! Stand strong for Hinduism. Stand
strong for Hinduism. Religion is within your heart and mind. ¶If there
were no humans with thinking minds on the planet, there would be no
religion at all. Religion does not exist outside of a person’s mind and spirit.
Religion lies within the human mind. If we want to preserve the world’s
oldest religion, the Sanâtana Dharma, which goes back in time as far as
man himself, then we must preserve it within our minds, protect it in
our hearts and then slowly, steadily spread its great wisdom out into the
minds of others. The dignity of the Hindu people must be preserved, not
surrendered on the altar of material gain.
Every Hindu has but one great obligation, and that is
Tuesday to pass his religion on to the next generation of Hin-
LESSON 359
dus. That’s all he has to do, pass his religion on to the
One Duty
To Perform next generation. Then that generation passes it on to
their next generation. If we lose a single generation in-
between, the whole religion is lost in an area of the world. How many
religions have existed on this planet? Thousands of them. What happened
to the Zoroastrian religion? It barely exists now. What happened to the
religion of the ancient Greeks? They must have missed several generations.
The ancient Mayan, Hawaiian, Druid and Egyptian religions are all virtu-
ally forgotten but for the history books. ¶The great men and women in
our history have withstood the most severe challenges to our religion and
sacrificed their energies, even their lives, that it would not be lost to invad-
ers who sought to destroy it. It is easy to be courageous when an enemy
is on the attack, because the threat is so obvious. Today the threat is more
subtle, but no less terrible. In fact, it is really a greater threat than Hindu-
ism has ever had to face before, because an enemy is not destroying the
religion. It is being surrendered by the Hindus themselves through neglect,
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through fear, through desire for land and gold, but mostly through igno-
rance of the religion itself. If Hindus really understood how deep into
their soul their religion penetrates, if they knew how superior it is to
any other spiritual path on the Earth today, they would not abandon
it so easily but cherish and foster it into its great potential. They would
not remain silent when asked about their religion, but speak out boldly
its great truths. They would not hesitate to stand strong for Hinduism.
¶How can Hindus in the modern, mechanized world pass their religion
to the next generation when they are not proud enough of it to announce
it openly to business associates and all who ask? When the Muslim seeks
employment, he is proud to say, “I worship Allah.” The Christian is proud
to say, “I worship Jesus Christ.” But too often the Hindu is not proud to
say, “I worship Lord Ga∫eßa.’’ In our great religion there is one Supreme
God and many Gods. The average Hindu today is not proud of this. He
feels others will reject him, will not employ him, will not like him. Of
course, this might be true. It might be very true. Then he should seek out
people who do respect Hinduism. These are the people to associate with.
Tens of thousands of America’s and Europe’s younger
Wednesday generation have come to believe in the basic tenets of
LESSON 360
Hinduism. There are hundreds of thousands of the
Vedânta and
Christianity older generation who believe in reincarnation and the
laws of karma. These two beliefs have pulled them away
from the Abrahamic religions. But unless the Hindu organizations in
every country who teach reincarnation and karma take these fine, dedi-
cated half-Hindu people one step further and convert them fully into the
Hindu religion, a disservice through neglect has been committed. ¶Yes,
native-born Americans want to know more about karma and reincarna-
tion and God’s all-pervasiveness. They have not been satisfied with the
postulations taught by the Abrahamic faiths. They do not believe in a
wrathful God who punishes souls in Hell for eternity. They do not believe
that non-Christians will suffer forever for their “wrongful beliefs.” Many
Americans are adopting the Hindu view of life. Even scientists are looking
to Hinduism for deeper understanding as to the nature of the universe.
Ironically, born Hindus are trying to be like Western people just when
Westerners are appreciating the beauties of Hinduism. Yes, hundreds of
thousands of sincere seekers in the United States, Europe, Canada, Aus-
tralia and elsewhere are turning toward Hinduism, pulling away from
their former religions and finding themselves in an in-between state,
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an abyss which offers them no further guidance from Indian swâmîs or

community acceptance by Hindu groups. ¶It is postulated by some that
Vedânta makes a Christian a better Christian. Because of that postulation
Vedânta has been widely accepted throughout the world. “Study Vedânta,”
seekers are told, “and it will make you a more enlightened Christian.” This
is simply not true. When you study Vedânta, you learn about karma and
reincarnation, you begin to understand that God is within you and within
all things, and that the immortal soul of man is one with the Absolute
God. These are not Christian beliefs. These beliefs are a strong threat to
Catholic and Protestant Christian doctrine, so strong, in fact, that in 1870
the First Vatican Council condemned five beliefs as the single most sensi-
tive area threatening the Catholic faith of the day, and even in recent times
the Vatican has described their encroachment as a grave crisis. Among
those condemned beliefs is the belief that God exists in the world, in
all things. To believe that God is everywhere and that all things are His
Sacred Being makes an individual an apostate to his religion, according
to the mandates of the Catholics and most Christian churches. ¶Isn’t that
interesting? Certainly the Catholics do not agree that studying Vedânta
makes one a better Catholic. Certainly the Methodists, Baptists, Lutherans
and evangelicals do not hold that the study of Vedânta makes one a better
Christian. Quite the opposite, the study of Vedânta will make a Christian
a heretic to his own religion. So successful were the Vedânta swâmîs in
promulgating the notion that Vedânta can be studied by people of all
religions, that they have become a threat to the existence of the Catholic
and Protestant churches. That is how different Christianity is from tradi-
tional Hinduism. ¶Hinduism has come a long way in North America and
Europe through the tireless efforts of the Vedânta swâmîs, the Sivananda
swâmîs and others. They are to be commended for their efforts and insight,
and for succeeding in putting the precepts of Hinduism on the map of the
world’s consciousness. However, one step further must be taken.
Only if we bring seekers into Hinduism properly through
Thursday the nâmakara∫a saμskâra, our name-giving sacrament,
LESSON 361
will they truly become a part of this time-honored tra-
Welcoming
Newcomers dition and be able to raise their children as Hindus. If
we do not, they will have nothing to offer their children
but an empty, negative abyss to slowly fall into when they grow up. We
owe it to the next generation, the next, the next and the next to take these
sincere Hindu souls in Western bodies fully into our religion, train them
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and help them to become established in one sect or another. It should be

insisted upon that their children do not grow up without a religion, for
that would prove harmful both to the individual and to Hindu society as
a whole. ¶Societies which do not foster religion foster crime by default.
Crime is very expensive for an individual, for a community and for a
nation. When we neglect religious training, we allow crime to gain a foot-
hold on the youth, and we pay for that neglect dearly. Therefore, I say that
this next step must be taken, and taken fully, by all the swâmîs throughout
the United States, Canada, Europe and around the world. ¶We beseech
all Hindu organizations worldwide to open their hearts and doors to
these fine souls. This is a very serious situation. There are hundreds of
thousands of people who have been dislodged from their parents’ religion
through their belief in reincarnation, karma and the knowledge of God’s
all pervasiveness, and yet they have not been fully taken into the Hindu
religion or its community of devotees. Why? Because of color? Yes, that
is partly true. Many Indian people say, “You have to be born a Hindu to
be a Hindu. You cannot adopt the Hindu religion. You have to be born a
Hindu to be a Hindu.” This, of course, is not true. Other Indian Hindus
say, “You have to be born in India and in a caste to be a Hindu.” This
also is not true. What about all of you who were born and live here in Sri
Lanka? What about the Hindus in Bali, those in Malaysia or the Hindus
born in Trinidad, Nepal, Europe, Guyana, Suriname and elsewhere? Are
they not Hindus? ¶We did some research on this erroneous statement:
“You cannot convert to Hinduism.” We studied dozens of books and noted
down all of the quotes that we could find that said, “You have to be born a
Hindu to be a Hindu” or “You have to be born in India to be a Hindu.” We
found that these two quotes were only in the books authored by Chris-
tians. These statements, we concluded, were nothing more than Christian
propaganda against the Hindu religion. Presumably, the Christians knew
that if they could stop or at least slow down the growth of Hinduism
through conversion, they would make more progress in their own con-
versions and in a few generations perhaps destroy Hinduism. We did not
find these statements in a single book written by a Hindu author. ¶In
fact, eminent Hindu authors have said that you can convert to Hinduism.
Swami Vivekananda proclaimed, “Born aliens have been converted in the
past by crowds, and the process is still going on.” Even if you only adopt
Hindu practices, believe in reincarnation and karma and do a pûjâ once
a day, you are a Hindu and will be accepted by Hindu society. Unfor-
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tunately, a minority of Hindus of Indian origin, educated in Christian

schools, and even a few Western-influenced swâmîs and pandits and one
or two Íaˆkarâchâryas, echo this misinformation with conviction. We
can now see how the Christian propaganda has negatively influenced the
growth of Hinduism worldwide. Their propaganda has infiltrated, diluted
and destroyed the Hindu’s faith in his own religion.
This confusion about Hinduism, what it is and is not and
Friday who is a Hindu and who is not, occurs in San Francisco,
LESSON 362
New York, Chennai, Mumbai, New Delhi and in London.
A Crisis
Of Identity It is mainly in the larger cities in India, the United States
and Europe that people are not upholding the Sanâtana
Dharma anymore and are surrendering it, the most precious thing in their
life, to adopt an ecumenical philosophy. The sad thing is that no one is
objecting. Yes, no one is objecting. It doesn’t seem to bother anybody at
all. No one bothers when a Hindu denies his religious heritage in order
to be accepted into a place of employment, or while working with fel-
low employees. No one bothers when that same Hindu returns home
and performs pûjâ in the closet shrine among the shoes. The shrine is
in the closet so the door can be quickly closed in case non-Hindu visi-
tors arrive. Isn’t this terrible? ¶But these same Hindus expect their sons
and daughters to believe in the religion that they are publicly denounc-
ing. They expect their sons and daughters to worship in the closet shrine
they hide at home. The children today just will not accept this decep-
tion. Modern education teaches people to think for themselves. They will
soon reject Hinduism and maybe their parents, too. Yes, youth do reject
it, and they are rejecting it more and more each year that this deceptive
attitude continues on the part of the elders. Having rejected their Hindu-
ism, the young people are not adopting another religion. What then are
they doing? They are living as nonreligious people. ¶When the pressures
of mechanized industrial society get too difficult for them, when they
need God and need the strength of their childhood faith, they will have
no place to turn—not even to their parents. They may even seek escape
in committing suicide, by hanging themselves, poisoning themselves. It’s
happening now, happening more and more as the years go by. And now
divorce is widespread among Hindus. The elders sit in judgment and
proclaim, “Divorce is wrong. Therefore, you shouldn’t get a divorce. You
are breaking the rules by getting a divorce.” Too many elders have already
broken the rules by not standing strong for their religion, and they are not
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listened to. Our fellow Hindus should not be harshly judged and cast out
when things go wrong in their life. The elders should offer gentle advice
and help in as many ways as possible to make up for any wrong that has
been done. When the younger generation fails, the elders must share their
strength with them to make them succeed, drawing on the wisdom of
Sanâtana Dharma. ¶But it is never too late to stand strong for Hinduism.
Hindu societies have to provide marriage counselors, people who go to
the homes and counsel the couples before the relationship comes to the
point of planning for divorce. Yes, we must provide professionally trained
men and women to help a troubled couple before they go to the attorney,
and others who can counsel our troubled youth, our elderly and our poor.
Every Hindu who needs help must be able to find it somewhere within
his own religion. Who can provide that help? The elders can and must.
There are many professions that emerged in India during
Saturday the Râj: the profession of the attorney, the profession of
LESSON 363
the engineer, the profession of the modern businessman,
Ministers
Are Needed the scientist and more. However, the most respected
profession, that of religious minister, was not allowed
to develop. Under the British rule the profession of the religious ministers
was not made popular. Why? We can assume it would have made Hindu-
ism strong and its people self-sufficient. It would have increased its self-
respect. Slowly the Anglican Christian government drew devotees away
from the temple and philosopher, and teachers away from the religion
into the secular world. Slowly they drew the women out of the homes
into jobs, and the priests out of the temples into better-paying profes-
sions. ¶A law student has no authority in the courts. He cannot approach
the judge. He can sit in the courtroom and listen. But as soon as he passes
his bar examination, he gains authority. He can then wield his authority
in the courts. There is a parallel to this in religion. The average follower
does not have religious authority, but the appointed or ordained minister
has been given authority by all the members and other ministers. The
Muslims have ministers with authority, the Buddhists have priests with
great authority, and so do the Christians. They all have their churches,
temples and houses of worship where the ministers and priests do their
work. The modern church system is a social, economical, cultural and
religious structure. A minister of a church or of a Muslim mosque, Bud-
dhist temple or Jewish synagogue has a certain well-defined authority and
can effectively help the members of his congregation, much more so than
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can the ordinary person. ¶The modern church system gives authority
to well-educated people, to the most devout and committed people, to
perform their ministry. Once Hindu men or women have this kind of
authority, it is possible to approach the president of a country, the Pope
in Rome or any other important person in government as representatives
of the religion. They can freely communicate with other religious lead-
ers: a Muslim imam, a Christian minister, a Buddhist priest on an equal
basis. They can lecture around the world and do much more than they
could before being ordained. This is because they have been given the
authority by their congregation and other clergy persons. Hindus of all
sects need their religious leaders in every country to serve the community,
to teach and represent the religion at local and international venues, to
stand strong for Hinduism on equal footing with all major religions of the
world. Hindus need their religious leaders to perform the rites of passage,
to manage the temples, to counsel and console, to uphold family values,
to stop the suicides, to stop the divorces, to stop the murders, to stop the
wife and child abuse, so that the community is strong and stable.
There are hundreds of thousands of sannyâsins, Hindu
Sunday monks, throughout North India. But where are the san-
LESSON 364
nyâsins that have been produced by the Hindu com-
Sannyâsins
Are Needed munity of northern Sri Lanka? Where are they? The
community produces attorneys. The community pro-
duces businessmen. The community produces freedom fighters. Why not
produce a swâmî also? Is that too much to ask? It’s not too much to ask. It
is part of Hindu culture to dedicate a son to religious orders. This same
community, however, has given many, many of their young men to the
Catholic Church to become its priests. This is difficult to understand. It
really is. ¶A young man before the age of twenty-five should be allowed
to make a personal decision whether he wants to follow the path of the
sannyâsin or the path of the householder. He should never be forced into
employment to earn a big dowry in order to marry off his sisters. It is a
sin if he is forced to work in the world if his calling is to find God and
serve his people through Hinduism. It is a sin, when the calling of his
soul is to realize God, to force him into a marriage. The best thing for the
family, for the community and for all of humanity would be to let those
rare souls seek out God, take their holy vows of sannyâsa and bring light
and love back into a hurting world through their awakened being. ¶The
Hindu community in Sri Lanka should produce spiritual leaders from
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among its young men. It has quite enough of all the other kinds of pro-
fessions. It should again produce great swâmîs, as well as many g®ihastha
missionaries and ministers. We asked this young man sitting here before
me an hour ago, “How many people of your age go to the religious meet-
ings and events?” He said, “Very few of us do.” The parents should bring
their young men with them by the hundreds to listen to visiting swâmîs
and participate in other functions. Hindus around the world have to
stand up for Hinduism, support it by their efforts, their interest, their
resources of time and money and talent. ¶Last week while in Chennai,
Swami Chinmayananda, a friend of mine for over twenty years, and I
were talking together. A young man came in during our conversation and
told Swami that he was preparing to go to school and then asked Swami
for his blessings. Swami inquired of him what he would do after finishing
with schooling. He said, “Then I will be married.” Swami inquired, “Then
what?’’ “Then I’ll raise the children.’’ Swami asked again, “Then what?’’ “I
will go on with my profession.” Swami persisted, “Then what?’’ He went
on like that until finally the young man said, “Well, then I will die.” Swami
then said to him. “You should do some useful service and help me in my
mission before you marry. There are enough children being born in India
today—that can wait a little. Come to me after your schooling and we
will do some useful work for God and our people together.” ¶The point is
that all things in life must be centered around religion. Only the spiritual
matters of life live on. Everything else in life is destined to perish. This
body will perish. This personality will perish. But our religion will live
on and grow inside of us as we evolve from life to life. It is the duty of
each Hindu, young or old, to help the religion progress from generation
to generation. We help Hinduism live on by serving and guiding others.
For true and lasting happiness, religion must be the basis of everything in
life, around which all other interests and desires revolve. So many people
are against religion these days. It is up to religious people to make it
popular again. ¶India and Sri Lanka are in between being agricultural
countries and technological countries. We have to bring Hinduism into
the technological age. It has to be reiterated, reedited and reexplained. We
must teach how the worship of Lord Ga∫eßa can help people run their
computer better, help them become a better typist, help them handle
the stress and strain that come from dealing with traffic and coping with
people of all kinds. Hinduism has to be retranslated, updated into this
industrial and technological era. Who can do that? Only the intelligent
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older people like yourselves. Intelligent older people can take this on and
help me in this reformation, and then we will together pass it to the next
generation. Soon the Hindus of all sects will become strong and proud of
their religion. ¶Let us now affirm: “Lord Íiva loves and cares for all of His
devotees. He always has and He always will.” “Lord Íiva loves and care for
all of His devotees. He always has and He always will.” Let’s work together,
and let’s begin now.
It is important that all of you here with me tonight band
Monday together and do what you can to make a difference. It is
LESSON 365
important that you immediately refrain from following
You Can Make
A Difference the patterns taught to you or your parents by the Brit-
ish Christians. One such pattern is that if one person
in the community comes up, cut him down, malign him, criticize him
until all heads are leveled. In the modern, industrial society everyone
tries to lift everyone else up. People are proud of an individual in the
community who comes up, and they help the next one behind him to
succeed as well. They are proud of their religious leaders, too. Not so here,
because if anyone does want to help out spiritually they have to be quiet
and conceal themselves, lest they be maligned. Nobody is standing up to
defend the religion; nobody is allowing anybody else to stand up, either.
This has to change, and change fast it will. ¶Yes, the tide has to change. It
has to change, no matter how painful it might be to praise people rather
than criticize them, and to support and to protect them. The tide has to
change. It has to change no matter how painful it might be to admit that
we worship many Gods as well as one supreme God. The time has come
for Hindus to be openly proud of their religion—the oldest religion on
the planet. The time has come for Hindus to proclaim their beliefs and to
defend their beliefs. The time has come for Hindus to stand up for Hin-
duism, no matter what the cost. The results will be a younger generation
which respects the older generation again. The results will be a younger
generation proud to be called Hindu. The results will be a younger gen-
eration eager to pass the tenets of Hinduism on to the next generation in
a proud and a dynamic and a wonderful way. The time is now—begin!
¶Western nations are becoming truly pluralistic. These are days of truth.
They are days of correction of wrongdoing, days of Self Realization, which
cannot be hidden under a cloak of deception. Believe me, no Christian
or Muslim looks at the Vedic-Ågamic goal of âtmajñâna, Self Realization,
in the same way Hindus do. The days are gone when it is necessary to
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observe Christmas in the âßrama and sing non-Hindu hymns at satsaˆga.

There was a time to hide the Vedic Truth beneath a basket and behind a
cross, but now is a time to shout Self Realization from the rooftops. Self
Realization is, in fact, what all people on the planet have come here to
experience. ¶The Self within all is the sustainer of all, yet it acts not in
that sustaining and is itself unsustained. It sustains our thoughts, our
emotions, our physical universe, yet it lies mysteriously beyond them all,
perfectly obvious to the knower, perfectly invisible to most. It is and yet
it is not. Hindus need nothing else to hide behind than this Paramâtman.
Certainly we no longer need to define ourselves in a Christian or a Mus-
lim way, or any other way but our own. So, no need to send out Christmas
cards this year or have a tree in the âßrama, right? ¶In looking back on all
the wonderful aspects of Hinduism that have been spoken of tonight on
the beautiful island of Sri Lanka, it is clear that Hinduism is the answer
for the future generations on this planet. It is the answer for the New Age,
for the dawning Sat Yuga. The gracious Sanâtana Dharma, our great reli-
gion, has all the answers. It has always had all of the answers in every age,
for there was never an age when it did not exist. The time has now passed
for many and is quickly passing for everyone when they can deny their
Hindu heritage, when they can be afraid to admit their belief in Hindu-
ism or even the simple fact that they are a Hindu. The time has come for
Hindus of all races, all nations, of all cultures, of all sects to stand up and
let the peoples of the world know of the great religion of which they are
one of the staunch adherents. Take courage, courage, courage into your
own hands and proceed with confidence. Stand strong for Hinduism.
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The soul is born and unfolds in a body, with dreams and desires and the
food of life. And then it is reborn in new bodies, in accordance with its
former works. The quality of the soul determines its future body; earthy
or airy, heavy or light.
K®ish∫a Yajur Veda, Ívetâßvatara Upanishad, 5.11-12. upm, p. 94

There is nothing higher than dharma. Verily, that which is dharma is truth.
Íukla Yajur Veda, B®ihadâra∫yaka Upanishad 1.4.14. bo uph, p. 84

Whatever world the man of purified mind desires, whatever desires he

wishes to fulfill, all these he attains. Therefore, let whoever is desirous of
prosperity worship the man of Self Realization.
Atharva Veda, Mu∫∂aka Upanishad 3.1.10. eh p. 178

Now, there are, of a truth, three worlds: the world of men, the world of
the fathers, and the world of the Gods. The world of the Gods is verily
the best of worlds. Íukla Yajur Veda, B®ihadâra∫yaka Upanishad 1.5.16. uph, p. 89

Many are the lovely flowers of worship offered to the guru, but none
lovelier than nonkilling. Respect for life is the highest worship, the
bright lamp, the sweet garland and unwavering devotion.
Tirumantiram v. 197. tm

May noble wisdom come to us from all sides, undeceived, unhindered,

overflowing, so that the devas may always help us onward, unceasing in
their care, our Guardians day by day. Ours be the blissful love of devas
who desire straight life; about us may the grace of devas lie. We have
approached the devas for friendship; may they prolong our life to the
full, so that we may live. Âig Veda 1.89.1-2. hv, p. 109

Having realized with mind and heart, having become wise, you will no
longer move on the path of death. Therefore, they call renunciation the
ardor surpassing all others.
K®ish∫a Yajur Veda, Mahâ∫ârâya∫a Upanishad 537–8. ve, p. 439

Of lords the Lord Supreme, of kings the King, of Gods the God, Him
let us worship—transcendent, Lord of all worlds and wholly worthy
of worship. K®ish∫a Yajur Veda, Ívetâsvatara Upanishad 6.7. ve p. 156
VERSES FROM SCRIPTURE 689

Those who in penance and faith dwell in the forest, peaceful and wise,
living a mendicant’s life, free from passion depart through the door of
the sun to the place of the immortal Person, the imperishable Self.
Atharva Veda, Mu∫∂aka Upanishad 1.2.11. ve p. 415

Mind is indeed the source of bondage and also the source of liberation.
To be bound to things of this world—this is bondage. To be free from
them—this is liberation. K®ish∫a Yajur Veda, Maitrî Upanishad 6.34. upm, p. 104

If you have doubt concerning conduct, follow the example of high

souls who are competent to judge, devout, not led by others, not harsh,
but lovers of virtue. K®ish∫a Yajur Veda, Taittirîya Upanishad 1.11.4. bo upr, p. 539

The rites of oblation, O lovers of truth, which the sages divined from
the sacred verses, were variously expounded in the threefold Veda.
Perform them with constant care. This is your path to the world of holy
action. Atharva Veda, Mu∫∂aka Upanishad. 1.2.1. ve, p. 414

Let him approach with humility a guru who is learned in the scriptures
and established in Brahman. To such a seeker, whose mind is tranquil
and senses controlled, and who has approached him in the proper
manner, let the learned guru impart the science of Brahman, through
which the true, Imperishable Being is realized.
Atharva Veda, Mu∫∂aka Upanishad 1.2.12–13. eh, p. 157

Yes, may the man who within his home pleases you all his days with
songs and with offerings receive a rich reward, be loaded with your
gifts! To him be happiness! This is our prayer. Âig Veda 4.4.7. ve 845

Like the cry of watchful birds swimming in water, like the loud claps
of thundering rain clouds, like the joyful streams gushing from the
mountain, so have our hymns sounded forth to the Lord.
Âig Veda 10.68.1. ve, p. 812

Without regard for themselves, without urges and efforts, absorbed

in contemplation and established in the higher Self, they endeavor to
remove evil deeds and surrender their bodies by renunciation.
Íukla Yajur Veda, Jâbâla Upanishad, 6. ve, p. 441
 Nandinâtha Sûtrâ∫i
naindnaaTasaU}aaiNa

part four
Hinduism’s
Nandinâtha
Sûtras
THE NANDINÅTHA S¨ TRAS, INTRODUCTION 693

UCCINCTLY, BOLDLY, THESE NANDINÅTHA SËTRAS

DESCRIBE HOW PEOPLE LIVED AND INTERRELATED
WITH ONE ANOTHER WHEN LIFE WAS SIMPLER,
WHEN FAMILIES AND VILLAGES WERE CLOSE-KNIT,
AND LOVE AND PEACE, RESPECT AND WISDOM PRE-
vailed. There is no new knowledge contained herein. Each sûtra pro-
claims an ancient wisdom and protocol which, when followed, brings that
same simplicity, community support, peace, harmony and refinement of
enduring relationships into daily life. Each of these sûtras, one to be read
each day of the year, is a thread of purity, many from the historic past
into the present, some from contemporary times. Even today, in the fifty-
second Hindu century, these precepts define the daily life of hundreds of
millions of well-bred and well-raised Asian people. These 365 sûtras are
a distilled summation of The Master Course, a profound 3,000 page tril-
ogy of Dancing with Íiva, Living with Íiva and Merging with Íiva, which
contain the traditional Íaiva philosophy, culture and ways of meditation.
They are the venerable ghee of our lineage.
While they are law, these sûtras are not commandments. They simply
describe what devout Hindus do. Naturally, my expectations are that my
close followers will heed and earnestly try to put into practice all 365
sûtras. However, eighteen of the aphorisms speak against practices that
are, in wisdom, always avoided. In fact, I have used the word forbidden
in each of these character-building, character-maintaining precepts to
distinguish them from the rest. Fulfilling them, we have found, allows for
inner freedom that is unsurpassed. Stress, often a by-product of guilt, has
no home in individuals who never allow themselves to participate in any
of these unwholesome areas. “It is wise to fear that which is to be feared.”
Many who read these sûtras will wonder to themselves or even among
friends, “Why do we need to follow such strict traditions and disciplines?
Aren’t they a bit old-fashioned?” My answer is: before the two world wars,
many traditions similar to these were followed even in the United States,
regarding raising of children, man-and-wife relationships, women rarely
working outside the home, and thus not neglecting their children, etc.
It was during World War II, when women began working in the world,
that the breakdown of traditional culture occurred, setting a trend that
is now being followed in almost every nation. The nonculture, or the
destruction of culture which is nonculture, has become the “culture”
which everyone follows. Hence the avalanche of promiscuity, divorce,
694 LIVING WITH ÍIVA

suicide, various excesses and abuses—murder, theft, wife-beating, drug

abuse, unstable, ever-shifting cohabitation as a substitute for marriage and
the shameful neglect of children. Everyone’s security is threatened.
When my satguru, Sage Yogaswami, was asked half a century ago why
we should follow the old ways, he answered simply, “The railway engine
pulls many coaches. Can it do so if it runs off the track? No. Great people
have shown the path. We must follow it.” Though perhaps challenging,
the disciplines and guidelines described here create happy individuals,
harmonious families and secure nations. Sage Yogaswami, the venerable
satguru of the Tamil people of the island nation of Sri Lanka, made still
another observation that points to the first reason for these sûtras: “Because
of worldliness, the light in the faces of the young has become less bright
these days. The way is very long, and you must go forward slowly, keeping
to the path, not walking on the thorns by its sides.” These sûtras define
the path and the thorns that lie on either side of it. There is a second
reason for these sûtras. When you take them as a total whole, you will
glimpse the ideal community. Such a community is able to work together,
love together, trust together, create together, serve Íiva together, worship
together, live together in a productive harmony and ongoing creativity, as
they each experience birth, life, death and birth again.
Thirdly, Hindus have spread throughout the world, relocating them-
selves because of employment opportunities, ethnic disputes, violence
and economic deprivation within their homelands. Because of this dias-
pora, it has become necessary to restate the law of the culture, the protocol
and modes of behavior that their forefathers knew and lived so well. At
this trying time in history, these Nandinâtha Sûtras came forth as a boon
from the Gods to followers who, in their time of need, in the serious-
ness of their search, were asking for advice and guidance as to how they
should behave with one another, how they should relate and interrelate
with their husbands and wives, children, with fellow devotees, widows,
widowers, divorcées and divorcés, and with satguru, âchâryas, swâmîs,
yogîs and sâdhakas, brahmachârîs and brahmachâri∫îs.
In reading the sûtras, you will notice that the vast majority are
addressed to “All Íiva’s followers,” “Devotees of Íiva,” etc. These are uni-
versally applicable to all Íaivites. A smaller number of sûtras, addressed
to “My followers,” are specific disciplines for those who look to me as
their guru. A few sûtras, even more specific, are addressed to members
of my Saiva Siddhanta Church or to my initiates. You will also notice
THE NANDINÅTHA S¨ TRAS, INTRODUCTION 695

that about one-seventh of the sûtras are addressed to monastics, and

may wonder why they are included here. The answer is that it is impor-
tant that families understand my expectations for the monastics, and
the other way around—and that all be continually reminded of the lofty
monastic dharma. It is the balance between the monastic community and
the family community that stabilizes spiritual life in the physical world, in
matters of marriage, business, politics, money and health.
I have articulated these sûtrâs in clear, simple English so that they can
easily be translated and unambiguously understood. However, obscurities
do arise with the interpretation and application of even basic, straight-
forward precepts, and this will also happen with these sûtrâs. They shall
be upheld, enforced and simply explained by my order of âchâryas and
swâmîs, by senior sâdhakas and by elders. But all final interpretations and
deductions, clarifications of apparent contradictions, settling of disputes
and unraveling of subtle questions shall be made only by myself and my
âdi âchâryas of our Íaiva Siddhânta Yoga Order. These four âdi âchâryas
are duly ordained and authorized to give interpretations of these sûtras.
While I live, my word shall be absolutely final. Future satgurus of our
paramparâ, lineage, will progress the understanding of these precepts
from century to century.
And now I shall address ardent seekers who have become acquainted
with me through dreams, visions, publications, lectures, the Internet,
personal encounters or hearing of me from others. I challenge you to
boldly go forth in your spiritual quest with firm determination. These 365
sûtras give the protocol and practices, as well as the attainments—the end
in view. Live up to each one of them. Within these sûtras are restraints,
encouragement, admonitions, enlightened coaching, even reprimands.
There is much nourishment here for the intelligent soul who is push-
ing forward into peace and tranquility, having conquered the trials and
tribulations of the yesterdays, and is now willing to bear his or her karma
cheerfully and push onward. Study these sûtras that I have unfolded and
adjust your life accordingly. Be unwavering in your commitment. You
know the rightness of these guidelines for good conduct in your heart of
hearts, soul of soul. Your inner ear hears and your inner eye sees the truth
of each one. To adjust your life to their wisdom is the discipline toward
being able to come close to and then truly dance, live and merge with Íiva.
In applying these principles to your life, remember, above all, the only
rigid rule is wisdom, for wisdom is the timely application of knowledge.
 Dhârmika Jîvanam
Daaima*k[ jaIvanama<

Section One
Right Living

Saμsâra, the transmigration of life, takes

place in one’s own mind. Let one therefore
keep the mind pure, for what a man thinks,
that he becomes: this is a mystery of Eternity.
Maitrî Upanishad 6.34. upm, p.103

Spiritual evolution is achieved by yoga and striving. Devotees perform tapas, holding pots of
fire, meditating for long hours, rolling around the temple in hot sand and carrying kavadi.
Devas bless their efforts from the inner planes, while the baser worlds remain below and apart.
698 LIVING WITH ÍIVA

The Purpose of Life

sûtra 1: life’s highest purpose
Íiva’s followers strive for God Realization as the first
and foremost goal of life. They learn to dance with Íiva,
live with Íiva, merge with Íiva. Deep within, they dis-
cover their eternal, immortal oneness with God. Aum.

sûtra 2: four noble goals

Íiva’s followers are ever mindful that life’s purpose is
to wholeheartedly serve God, Gods and guru and fulfill
the four traditional Hindu goals: duty (dharma), wealth
(artha), love (kâma) and liberation (moksha). Aum.

sûtra 3: seeing ßiva’s energy in all

Íiva’s devotees bask contentedly in Íiva consciousness,
seeing the pure life energy in every person, animal,
bird, reptile, fish, insect, plant, tree and even micro-
scopic intelligence as Supreme God Íiva Himself. Aum.

sûtra 4: oneness with the satguru

Íiva’s devotees strive to be inwardly one with their sat-
guru, acknowledging the paramount need for a spiri-
tual preceptor to guide them on the upward climb, the
straight path that leads to Lord Íiva’s holy feet. Aum.

sûtra 5: seeking while strong

Íiva’s devotees heed the ancient wisdom: “The physi-
cal body does not last forever. Age prowls like a leop-
ard. Before the limbs lose their vitality, one should take
to the auspicious path to the Self.” Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
NANDINÅTHA S¨ TRAS: SECTION 1, RIGHT LIVING 699

Facing Life’s Challenges

sûtra 6: living contemplatively
Íiva’s devotees cultivate a contemplative nature by
meditating daily, seeking the light, drawing the lesson
from each experience and identifying with infinite in-
telligence, not with body, emotion or intellect. Aum.

sûtra 7: accepting our karma

Íiva’s devotees accept all experiences, however difficult,
as their self-created karma, without cringing or com-
plaining. Theirs is the power of surrender, accepting
what is as it is and dealing with it courageously. Aum.

sûtra 8: flowing with the river of life

Íiva’s devotees live vibrantly in the eternity of the mo-
ment and flow with the river of life by giving up neg-
ative attachments, releasing the pains, injustices, fears
and regrets that bind consciousness in the past. Aum.

sûtra 9: purpose, plan, persistence and push

Íiva’s devotees approach each enterprise with deliber-
ate thoughtfulness, and act only after careful consid-
eration. They succeed in every undertaking by having a
clear purpose, a wise plan, persistence and push. Aum.

sûtra 10: moving the forces of the world

Íiva’s devotees, by remaining steadfast on the path, up-
holding the yamas and niyamas and relying on their
indomitable will, move the forces of the world, and are
not moved or affected by them. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Yoga in Action
sûtra 11: the lion-hearted ones
Those who live with Íiva fulfill life’s purposes by plac-
ing heavy demands on themselves from within them-
selves, never shirking their duty to religion, family, com-
munity or planet. Jai, they are the lion-hearted. Aum.

sûtra 12: excellence and noncompetitiveness

Those who live with Íiva endeavor to be their best in
whatever they do, to excel and make a difference. Even
so, they remain apart from the demeaning and conten-
tious “winners and losers” spirit of competition. Aum.

sûtra 13: teaching the five precepts and practices

Those who live with Íiva teach children the five pre-
cepts: God as All in all, temples, karma, reincarnation/
liberation, scripture/preceptor; and five practices: virtue,
worship, holy days, sacraments and pilgrimage. Aum.

sûtra 14: guiding and nurturing children

Those who live with Íiva personally guide their chil-
dren’s spiritual and secular education. They teach and
model respect, share what happens each day, have fun
together and shower love and hugs upon them. Aum.

sûtra 15: zero tolerance for discord

Those who live with Íiva have zero tolerance for dis-
harmonious conditions. In the home and beyond, they
settle differences when others can only disagree. Jai,
they are all instruments of peace. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
NANDINÅTHA S¨ TRAS: SECTION 1, RIGHT LIVING 701

The True Values of Life

sûtra 16: giving and gratitude
Those who live with Íiva render to those in need help
that is loving, selfless and free from all expectation of
repayment. They are constantly grateful for all they have,
never complaining about what they don’t possess. Aum.

sûtra 17: beings of joy and compassion

Those who live with Íiva are honorable, cheerful, mod-
est and full of courtesy. Having removed the darkness
of anger, fear, jealousy and contempt for others, their
faces radiate the kindly compassion of their soul. Aum.

sûtra 18: seeking inner light and stillness

Those who live with Íiva attend close to His mystery.
While others seek “name and fame, sex and money,”
they seek the clear white light within, find refuge in the
stillness and hold Truth in the palm of their hand. Aum.

sûtra 19: guarding against instincts and intellect

Those who live with Íiva keep the mountaintop per-
spective that life on Earth is an opportunity for spiritual
progress. They never lose sight of this truth by becoming
infatuated with instinctive-intellectual pursuits. Aum.

sûtra 20: directing the power of desire

Those who live with Íiva know the great power of desire
and thought, and choose theirs wisely. They also know
the infinitely greater power of those who conquer de-
sire by desiring only to know God. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Spiritual Disciplines
sûtra 21: holding a daily vigil
Worshipers of Íiva perform a one-hour daily vigil, ide-
ally before sunrise, in a clean, quiet place, after bathing
and donning fresh clothing and holy ash. This vigil is
optional on weekends and when traveling or ill. Aum.

sûtra 22: morning sâdhanas

Worshipers of Íiva, during their daily sâdhana vigil,
conduct or attend pûjâ, chant the Guru Mantra and
108 repetitions of their mantra, study scripture and per-
form ha†ha yoga, concentration and meditation. Aum.

sûtra 23: yoga as a lifelong effort

Worshipers of Íiva practice basic yogas (bhakti, karma,
ha†ha and japa) as their guru instructs, throughout life
and more as life goes on. They know self-mastery yokes
the fire within with That which quells the fire. Aum.

sûtra 24: caution with advanced yogas

Worshipers of Íiva who qualify may perform advanced
yogas (kriyâ, râja and ku∫∂alinî), but only with their gu-
ru’s guidance, for unless harnessed, ku∫∂alinî can mani-
fest base desires, disease, egotism and joylessness. Aum.

sûtra 25: warnings against anger

Worshipers of Íiva who are victim to anger or hatred
refrain from meditation, japa and ku∫∂alinî yoga. They
confess sins, do penance and engage in bhakti and kar-
ma yoga to raise consciousness. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Personal Disciplines
sûtra 26: sharing rice with others
Lovers of Íiva, before preparing any meal, place in a
vessel one handful of uncooked rice. This modest shar-
ing is offered at their satguru’s tiruvadi each full-moon
day to be shared by him with the less fortunate. Aum.

sûtra 27: daily offerings for the temple

Lovers of Íiva keep a box in their shrine into which
they place a few coins each day for their favorite tem-
ple. They bring or send this love offering to their Íaiva
temple each year during its Mahâßivarâtri festival. Aum.

sûtra 28: kavadi and other penance

Lovers of Íiva so inclined may perform kavadi during
Murugan festivals where custom allows. They may also
lie on beds of nails, walk on fire and undertake other-
penances to build character and atone for sins. Aum.

sûtra 29: keeping clean surroundings

Lovers of Íiva keep their home and work environment
clean and uncluttered to maintain a spiritual vibration
and not attract negative forces. They seek fresh air and
sunshine and surround themselves with beauty. Aum.

sûtra 30: instructions for sleep

Lovers of Íiva sleep with the head placed south or east
after chanting and meditating to prepare for a great
journey to the inner worlds. If awakened, they sit up and
meditate before returning to sleep. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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The Nature of God

sûtra 31: a philosophy worthy of pride
Íiva’s followers take pride in the fact that the philoso-
phical basis of their peerless lineage lies in the unity of
Siddhânta and Vedânta. This mysterious dance of du-
alism and nondualism is called monistic theism. Aum.

sûtra 32: living and preaching ßiva’s path

Íiva’s followers of my lineage study, live and preach to
the world our peerless theological doctrine, called by
various names: monistic theism, Advaita Èßvaravâda,
Advaita Siddhânta and Íuddha Íaiva Siddhânta. Aum.

sûtra 33: god’s unmanifest reality

Íiva’s followers all believe that Lord Íiva is God, whose
Absolute Being, Paraßiva, transcends time, form and
space. The yogî silently exclaims, “It is not this. It is not
that.” Yea, such an inscrutable God is God Íiva. Aum.

sûtra 34: god’s manifest nature of love

Íiva’s followers all believe that Lord Íiva is God, whose
immanent nature of love, Parâßakti, is the substratum,
primal substance or pure consciousness flowing through
all form as energy, existence, knowledge and bliss. Aum.

sûtra 35: god’s immanent nature as personal lord

Íiva’s followers all believe that Lord Íiva is God, whose
immanent nature is the Primal Soul, Supreme Mahâdeva,
Parameßvara, author of Vedas and Ågamas, creator, pre-
server and destroyer of all that exists. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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The Nature of Souls and World

sûtra 36: ga∫apati, first among the gods
Íiva’s followers all believe in the Mahâdeva Lord Ga-
∫eßa, son of Íiva-Íakti, to whom they must first sup-
plicate before beginning any worship or task. His rule is
compassionate. His law is just. Justice is His mind. Aum.

sûtra 37: murugan, lord of yoga and harmony

Íiva’s followers all believe in the Mahâdeva Kârttikeya,
Son of Íiva-Íakti, whose vel of grace dissolves the bon-
dages of ignorance. The yogî, locked in lotus, venerates
Murugan. Thus restrained, his mind becomes calm. Aum.

sûtra 38: god creates souls who are one with him
Íiva’s followers all believe that each soul is created by
Lord Íiva and is identical to Him, and that this identity
will be fully realized by all souls when the bondage of
â∫ava, karma and mâyâ is removed by His grace. Aum.

sûtra 39: the gross, subtle and causal planes

Íiva’s followers all believe in three worlds: the gross
plane, where souls take on physical bodies; the subtle
plane, where souls take on astral bodies; and the causal
plane, where souls exist in their self-effulgent form. Aum.

sûtra 40: karma, reincarnation and liberation

Íiva’s followers all believe in the law of karma—that one
must reap the effects of all actions he has caused—and
that each soul reincarnates until all karmas are resolved
and moksha, liberation, is attained. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Evil and Expressions of Faith

sûtra 41: the four progressive stages of the path
Íiva’s followers all believe that the performance of charyâ,
virtuous living; kriyâ, temple worship; and yoga, leading
to Paraßiva through the grace of the living satguru, is ab-
solutely necessary to bring forth jñâna, wisdom. Aum.

sûtra 42: the illusion of evil

Íiva’s followers all believe there is no intrinsic evil. Evil
has no source, unless the source of evil’s seeming be igno-
rance itself. They are truly compassionate, knowing that
ultimately there is no good or bad. All is Íiva’s will. Aum.

sûtra 43: temple worship connects three worlds

Íiva’s followers all believe that religion is the harmonious
working together of the three worlds and that this har-
mony can be created through temple worship, wherein
the beings of all three worlds can communicate. Aum.

sûtra 44: ßaivism’s most powerful vedic mantra

Íiva’s followers all believe in the Pañchâkshara Mantra,
the five sacred syllables Nama˙ Íivâya, as Íaivism’s fore-
most and essential mantra. The secret of Nama˙ Íivâya
is to hear it from the right lips at the right time. Aum.

sûtra 45: ßiva is in all and beyond all

Íiva’s followers hold as their affirmation of faith Anbe
Sivamayam Satyame Parasivam, “God Íiva is immanent
love and transcendent reality,” a perfect summary of
Íaiva Siddhânta’s exquisite truth. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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 Nîtividyâ
naIitaiva¥a

Section Two
Ethics

Only by a tranquil mind does one destroy all

action, good or bad. Once the self is pacified, one
abides in the Self and attains everlasting bliss. If the
mind becomes as firmly established in Brahman
as it is usually attached to the sense objects,
who, then, will not be released from bondage?
K®ish∫a Yajur Veda, Maitrî Upanishad 6.34. ve, p. 422

The ethical path defined by the yamas and niyamas takes this seeker step by step toward his goal.
At first he is agitated and distracted, then learns of discipline, advancing into his internal yogas
and worship of the Gods. All the while, he inwardly stands apart as a witness to his own life.
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Yamas: Ten Classical Restraints

sûtra 46: noninjury and truthfulness
All devotees of Íiva practice ahiμsâ, not harming oth-
ers by thought, word or deed, even in their dreams. Ad-
hering to satya, truthfulness, they do not lie, deceive,
betray promises or keep secrets from loved ones. Aum.

sûtra 47: nonstealing and sexual purity

All devotees of Íiva uphold asteya, never stealing, covet-
ing, cheating or entering into debt. They practice sex-
ual purity, brahmacharya, controlling lust by remain-
ing celibate when single and faithful in marriage. Aum.

sûtra 48: patience and steadfastness

All devotees of Íiva exercise kshamâ, restraining intol-
erance with people and impatience with circumstances.
They foster dh®iti, steadfastness, overcoming nonper-
severance, fear, indecision and changeableness. Aum.

sûtra 49: compassion and straightforwardness

All devotees of Íiva practice dayâ, compassion, con-
quering callous, cruel, insensitive feelings toward all be-
ings. Maintaining ârjava, they are straightforward and
honest, renouncing deception and wrongdoing. Aum.

sûtra 50: moderate appetite and purity

All devotees of Íiva observe mitahâra, moderation in
appetite, not eating too much or consuming meat, fish,
shellfish, fowl or eggs. They uphold ßaucha, avoiding im-
purity in body, mind and speech. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Niyamas: Ten Classical Observances

sûtra 51: remorse and contentment
All Íiva’s devotees, upholding the expression of hrî, re-
morse, are modest and show shame for misdeeds. They
nurture santosha, seeking joy and serenity in life. Thus,
theirs is a happy, sweet-tempered, fulfilling path. Aum.

sûtra 52: charity and faith

All Íiva’s devotees practice dâna, tithing and giving
generously, creatively, without thought of reward. They
sustain an unshakable faith, âstikya, believing in God,
Gods, guru and the Vedic path to enlightenment. Aum.

sûtra 53: worship and scriptural study

All Íiva’s devotees cultivate bhakti and family harmony
in daily ritual and reflection, Ißvarapûjana. Upholding
siddhânta ßrava∫a, they hear the scriptures, study the
teachings and listen to the wise of their lineage. Aum.

sûtra 54: cognition and vows

All Íiva’s devotees acquire mati, divine cognition and
an indomitable will and intellect, under their satguru’s
guidance. They observe vratas, religious vows, rules and
observances, and never waver in fulfilling them. Aum.

sûtra 55: incantation and sacrifice

All Íiva’s devotees do japa daily, counting recitations on
rudrâksha beads. Embracing tapas through simple aus-
terities, they sacrifice often, carry out penances as need-
ed and perform sâdhana regularly. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Ahiμsâ, the Foremost Discipline

sûtra 56: noninjury
Íiva’s devotees do not intentionally kill or harm any
person or creature. Nonviolence, physically, mentally
and emotionally, is their highest code. Full of compas-
sion, they are never a source of fear or hurtfulness. Aum.

sûtra 57: suicide

Íiva’s devotees are forbidden to escape life’s experience
through suicide. However, in cases of terminal illness,
under strict community regulation, tradition does al-
low fasting as a means of mors voluntaria religiosa. Aum.

sûtra 58: abortion

Devout Hindus all know abortion is, by Vedic edict, a
sin against dharma fraught with karmic repercussions.
Scripture allows it only to prevent the mother’s death,
for it is a greater sin for a child to kill the mother. Aum.

sûtra 59: pornography

Íiva’s devotees are forbidden to speak of, listen to or
look at exhibitions of pornography. This adharma is
addictive, erodes self-esteem and teaches that degrading
women, men and children is acceptable behavior. Aum.

sûtra 60: purity of speech

Íiva’s devotees speak only what is true, kind, helpful
and necessary. They never use profane language, bear
false witness, engage in slander, gossip or backbiting, or
even listen to such debasing talk. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Regrettable Exceptions to Ahiμsâ

sûtra 61: exceptions to ahi˜sâ
Íiva’s devotees, when unable to observe ahiμsâ perfect-
ly, may claim three exceptions to preserve one life over
another. But these must be used sparingly, reluctantly,
after the noninjurious options have been tried. Aum.

sûtra 62: self-defense and law enforcement

Íiva’s devotees faced with imminent danger may elect
to injure or kill to protect their life or that of another,
or to defend the community as a soldier or a law officer
in the line of duty. This is ahiμsâ’s first exception. Aum.

sûtra 63: preserving life and health

Íiva’s devotees may elect to preserve the life and health
of a person or animal under their care by forfeiting the
life of organisms, such as worms or microbes, that pose
a threat. This is the second exception to ahiμsâ. Aum.

sûtra 64: predators and pests

Íiva’s devotees may elect to protect the home, the vil-
lage and the nation by eradicating predators, pests, bac-
teria and disease-carrying creatures that threaten health
or safety. This is ahiμsâ’s third and last exception. Aum.

sûtra 65: noninjurious solutions

Íiva’s devotees uphold the principle not to kill even
household pests, but to stop their entry, not to kill gar-
den insects or predators, but keep them away by natural
means. This is the highest ideal. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Reverence for the Environment

sûtra 66: protecting creatures, defending rights
All Íiva’s devotees are stewards of trees and plants, fish
and birds, bees and reptiles, animals and creatures of ev-
ery shape and kind. They respect and defend the rights
of humans of every caste, creed, color and sex. Aum.

sûtra 67: honoring the values of others

All Íiva’s devotees think globally and act locally as in-
terracial, international citizens of the Earth. They hon-
or and value all human cultures, faiths, languages and
peoples, never offending one to promote another. Aum.

sûtra 68: preserving this divine abode

All Íiva’s devotees honor and revere the world around
them as God’s creation and work for the protection of
the Earth’s diversity and resources to achieve the goal
of a secure, sustainable and lasting environment. Aum.

sûtra 69: respecting earth’s plants and animals

All Íiva’s devotees refuse to acquire or condone the use
of endangered plants, animals or products from exploit-
ed species, such as furs, ivory, reptile skin, tortoise shell,
or items produced using cruel animal testing. Aum.

sûtra 70: conserving the gifts of nature

All Íiva’s devotees are frugal and resourceful, avoiding
waste and conserving nature’s precious resources. They
wisely store a three-to-twelve-month supply of food
according to the family’s means. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Self-Control
sûtra 71: sexual faithfulness
Devout Hindus observe the eightfold celibacy toward
everyone but their spouse, renouncing sexual fantasy,
glorification, flirtation, lustful glances, secret love talk,
amorous longing, rendezvous and intercourse. Aum.

sûtra 72: accepting praise and blame

It is well known that all Íiva’s devotees can absorb any
amount of praise. But those who can withstand mental,
emotional persecution, even physical torment, with the
same infinite capacity are Íiva’s truest devotees. Aum.

sûtra 73: living in traditional surroundings

Íiva’s devotees, in their homes, endeavor to surround
themselves with Íaiva images, music and song. In the
world they may enjoy the arts of other cultures but
strictly avoid lower-world artistic expressions. Aum.

sûtra 74: wise use of television

Íiva’s devotees may watch television and other media for
recreation and to keep informed about the world, limit-
ing viewing to about two hours a day. They avoid nudity,
foul language, crudeness and excessive violence. Aum.

sûtra 75: computers

Íiva’s devotees know computers and the Internet are
boons from the Gods and approach them as tools, not
toys. They moderate leisure use, minimize Web brows-
ing and never play violent games. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Worldly Activities
sûtra 76: gambling is forbidden
Íiva’s devotees are forbidden to indulge in gambling or
games of chance with payment or risk, even through
others or for employment. Gambling erodes society,
assuring the loss of many for the gain of a few. Aum.

sûtra 77: the curse of bad money

Íiva’s devotees, knowing that bad money is cursed and
can never do good deeds, refuse funds gained by fraud,
bribery, theft, dealing arms or drugs, profiting from
abortion or divorce, and all dark, devious means. Aum.

sûtra 78: bribery is forbidden

Íiva’s devotees are forbidden to accept bribes; nor do
they offer bribes to others, no matter how seemingly
necessary, expedient or culturally accepted this practice
may be. Jai, they fight for the mercy of honesty! Aum.

sûtra 79: guarding against pride

Íiva’s devotees treasure humility. They never boast,
point with their index finger or assume prideful pos-
tures, such as with arms folded and chin held high, or
with one foot resting on the knee when sitting. Aum.

sûtra 80: avoiding low-minded company

Íiva’s devotees avoid thieves and addicts, those who are
promiscuous, who feign devotion, who are ungrateful,
against religion, selfish, abusive, ill-tempered, vicious
or who possess many impurities. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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 G®ihastha Dharma˙
ga&hsTaDama*:

Section Three
The Family Path

Earth, ether, sky! May we be proud possessors

of fine children, proud possessors of fine
heroes, and be well nourished by fine food.
Yajur Veda, 8.53. hv, p. 91

A husband and wife are seen through the wooden doorway of their home, which they have
decorated traditionally with auspicious symbols: tripu∫∂ra, kolams and fresh mango leaves on
a string. Their infant plays near the family’s shrine where Lord Ga∫eßa rules and resides.
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Instructions for Men

sûtra 81: modesty with women
Devout Hindu men speak to and associate mostly with
men. Conversation with women, especially the wives of
other men, is not prolonged. To avoid intimacy, one’s
gaze is directed at the hairline, not into the eyes. Aum.

sûtra 82: respect for women

All Íiva’s men devotees go out of their way to express
respect, bordering on reverence, for women. They never
demean them in speech, watch vulgar or erotic shows,
or associate with lustful or promiscuous women. Aum.

sûtra 83: kindliness toward women

Íiva’s men devotees never argue with women, antago-
nize, disrespect, tease or abuse them in any way. They
are always kindly, protective, helpful and understand-
ing, honoring the mother spirit within women. Aum.

sûtra 84: wearing traditional clothing

Íiva’s men devotees dress, whenever appropriate, in im-
peccable traditional Hindu attire, always at home, in
the temple and at religious/cultural events. Their outer
elegance is equaled only by their inner dignity. Aum.

sûtra 85: the home as refuge

Íiva’s men devotees, on arriving home from work, im-
mediately bathe and enter their shrine for the blessings
of Gods and guru to dispel worldly forces and regain
the state of Íiva consciousness. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Instructions for Husbands

sûtra 86: caring for one’s wife
Each of Íiva’s married men devotees loves and cares for
his wife, despite any shortcomings. He is forbidden to
strike or speak harshly to her or ignore her needs. If he
does, he must seek family and professional help. Aum.

sûtra 87: restraint with other women

Íiva’s married men, in the workplace and in the world,
hold a courteous aloofness toward all women, wheth-
er young, older, single, married, divorced or widowed.
They reserve their affections for wife and family. Aum.

sûtra 88: communicating daily

When away from home, each of Íiva’s married men
devotees contacts his wife every day to express his love
and inquire about her day. He avoids rowdy company
and never visits another woman’s home alone. Aum.

sûtra 89: fulfilling all her needs and wants

Íiva’s devotees who are husbands practice the mystical
law of caring for and giving the wife all she needs and all
she wants, thus releasing her ßakti energy from within,
making him contented, successful and magnetic. Aum.

sûtra 90: family togetherness

Each of Íiva’s devotees who is a husband spends time
with his wife and children daily. Monday is a family eve-
ning at home. One night monthly is devoted to the wife
alone in an activity of her choice. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Instructions for Women

sûtra 91: women’s attire
Íiva’s women devotees wear, whenever appropriate, tra-
ditional Hindu attire, always at home and in the temple,
adding rich jewelry for cultural events. Ever modest
and elegant, they never expose breasts or thighs. Aum.

sûtra 92: modesty with men

Devout Hindu women associate mostly with women.
Conversation with males, especially married men, is by
custom limited. Intimate exchange of energies is avoid-
ed by looking at the hairline, not into the eyes. Aum.

sûtra 93: her monthly retreat

Íiva’s women devotees, by custom, rest and regenerate
physical forces during menses, refraining from heavy
or demanding work. On these days they do not enter
temples or home shrines, or approach holy men. Aum.

sûtra 94: upholding feminine dharma

Devout Hindu women are fulfilled in living and passing
on the dharma to the youth as their special duty, unlike
those who, swayed by feminist thinking, feel unfulfilled
and criticize Hinduism as being male dominated. Aum.

sûtra 95: not controlling men emotionally

Íiva’s women devotees never become angry with a man,
maliciously belittle or verbally abuse him, or use other
emotional controls, such as disdain, accusation, crying,
or prolonged pouting or silence. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Instructions for Wives

sûtra 96: she worships her wedding pendant
Each of Íiva’s married women devotees each morn-
ing worships her wedding pendant, for it betokens her
dear husband, whom she reveres as Íiva Himself, and
the spiritual bond and goals she shares with him. Aum.

sûtra 97: being modest with other men

Íiva’s married women maintain a kindly and modest
reserve toward all men, be they young, older, single,
married, divorced or widowed. They shower all their
love and attention on their husband and family. Aum.

sûtra 98: fulfilling morning duties

Each of Íiva’s married women devotees observes the
custom of arising before her husband, to bathe, ready
the shrine and prepare his morning beverage. First up
and last to retire, she is in charge of her home. Aum.

sûtra 99: mealtime customs

Each of Íiva’s married women devotees joyously ob-
serves at mealtimes the ancient custom of serving her
husband and family first. When they are satisfied, she is
fulfilled and only then sits down for her own meal. Aum.

sûtra 100: taking action if abused

Each of Íiva’s married women loves and serves her hus-
band, despite any shortcomings. But if he ever strikes
her or the children, she is duty-bound to seek help from
family, friends and community. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Instructions for the Widowed

sûtra 101: remarrying after widowhood
Íiva’s widowed followers may remarry, provided it is
a spiritual union, astrologically compatible, blessed by
their preceptor and their religious community. If they
remarry, they are no longer considered widowed. Aum.

sûtra 102: pursuing the path of sâdhana

Íiva’s widowed devotees who choose not to remarry
practice strict continence. They dedicate their lives to
God and transmute sexual forces into the higher chakras
through sâdhana, worship and brahmacharya. Aum.

sûtra 103: widows’ simple dress

Íiva’s widowed devotees choosing not to remarry tradi-
tionally wear unprovocative white clothing, not yellow
or orange. They wear no cosmetics, marriage pendant
or elaborate jewelry. Their deportment is demure. Aum.

sûtra 104: widowhood’s inner opportunity

Íiva’s devotees who are widows or widowers happily
throw themselves into yoga practices. Though their loss
is great, so too is their opportunity for religious service
and the attainment of the highest spiritual goals. Aum.

sûtra 105: signs of the widowed’s intent

Íiva’s widowed devotees not intending to remarry wear
holy ash and the forehead mark of sandalpaste, but not
red powder. Those wishing to remarry may wear jewel-
ry, cosmetics and colorful clothing. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Instructions for the Unmarried

sûtra 106: chastity and marriage to a ßaivite
Íiva’s young devotees take the celibacy vow and remain
virgin until marriage. For lasting happiness and mutual
spiritual purpose, they seek to marry a Íaivite wisely
chosen by their parents, satguru and themselves. Aum.

sûtra 107: living virtuously when single

Íiva’s unmarried adolescent and adult devotees are all
considered brahmachârîs or brahmachâri∫îs, bound to
the wise restraints of chastity that tradition prescribes,
whether they have taken a celibacy vow or not. Aum.

sûtra 108: the brahmachâri∫î path

Íiva’s women devotees electing not to marry may live the
brahmachâri∫î’s celibate life, keeping simple vows and
always wearing white. By this the world knows they are
unavailable, having chosen the path of devotion. Aum.

sûtra 109: the brahmachârî path

Íiva’s men devotees choosing not to marry may take up
celibate life, keeping simple vows and wearing white. To
be a swâmî candidate, they must begin an 8-to-12-year
period of monastic training before the age of 25. Aum.

sûtra 110: the first step of renunciation

Íiva’s young men devotees inclined to throw down the
world and enter the monastery should read and accept
the Holy Orders of Sannyâsa and adjust themselves to its
ideals before requesting training. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Arranging Marriages
sûtra 111: considerations for matchmaking
Íiva’s followers arrange the marriages of their children,
seeking sameness of lineage, astrological compatibility,
harmony of the two families, total consent of both boy
and girl and, foremost, their satguru’s blessings. Aum.

sûtra 112: forced marriage is prohibited

Íiva’s followers are forbidden to force any marriage
arrangement that overrides astrological incompatibil-
ity, the couple’s feelings or the guru’s advice. To do so
would bind them to a life of unsolvable problems. Aum.

sûtra 113: keeping wedding costs reasonable

Weddings are spiritual events among Íiva’s followers.
Ceremonies must never burden the families financially
and, while the bride may bring wealth to the marriage,
families are forbidden to demand or pay dowries. Aum.

sûtra 114: the written marriage covenant

Íiva’s followers compose a written promise to one an-
other before marriage, defining the duties, responsi-
bilities and expectations of their life together. At key
junctures in life, they rewrite this vital agreement. Aum.

sûtra 115: the all-important support group

Each marriage within a Íaivite community enjoys sup-
port, strength and encouragement from the satguru and
all of Íiva’s followers, and counsel from elders when
needed, especially in times of trial. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Sustaining Marriages
sûtra 116: the purpose of marriage
Íiva’s followers look upon their marriage as a spiritual
partnership for the purpose of uplifting each other and
bringing through higher souls. It is a union not only
of a man and woman, but of two entire families. Aum.

sûtra 117: supporting religious observances

Íiva’s married followers all encourage their spouses to
ardently fulfill sâdhana, religious service, meditation,
yoga, ritual worship, festivals and pilgrimage. They nev-
er discourage such noble expressions of dharma. Aum.

sûtra 118: traditions of conjugal life

Íiva’s followers who are married regulate their sex life
according to traditionally accepted standards. They
confine their affectionate looks to one another and do
not hold hands, embrace, caress or kiss in public. Aum.

sûtra 119: adultery and fidelity

Íiva’s followers are forbidden by Sanâtana Dharma to
commit adultery or even steal the affections of another’s
spouse. They treasure fidelity and know that transgres-
sions are rewarded with pain, guilt and remorse. Aum.

sûtra 120: celibacy in married life

Íiva’s followers who have raised their family may, by
mutual consent and with satguru’s blessings, choose to
live in celibacy, as brother and sister, and thus transmute
their vital energies into the Divine. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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About Divorce
sûtra 121: valid causes for separation
In marriages of Íiva’s followers, adultery, severe neglect,
verbal abuse and abandonment may be valid causes for
separation but not divorce. Spiritual law recognizes no
divorce, and separation is hoped to be temporary. Aum.

sûtra 122: the only reason to divorce

In marriages of Íiva’s followers, divorce by man’s law
may be resorted to in cases of persistent physical abuse
to protect the abused spouse. This is the singular regret-
table exception to the permanence of marriage. Aum.

sûtra 123: remarriage is discouraged

Any of Íiva’s followers who is divorced is by tradition
encouraged to not remarry but rather adopt the path of
celibacy. They know that marriage is a Godly covenant
ideally made with only one spouse in a lifetime. Aum.

sûtra 124: not attending rites of passage

Íiva’s traditional priests require that divorced and wid-
owed followers protect auspiciousness by not attending
rites of passage, except funerals. However, they may help
with preparations and participate in receptions. Aum.

sûtra 125: divorce and ßaiva church membership

In divorce cases in my Church, except when caused by
chronic abuse, the spouse initiating the divorce process
is no longer a member. He or she is kept apart and urged
to seek out a more lenient lineage. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Hospitality
sûtra 126: the guest is god in ßaiva homes
Hospitality flows from Íiva’s followers like sweet music
from a vî∫â. Guests are treated as Gods. Friends, rela-
tives, acquaintances, even strangers, are humbled by the
overwhelming, ever-willing attention received. Aum.

sûtra 127: serving the holy ones

Íiva’s followers serve holy men and women of all lin-
eages, providing food, money and clothes according to
their means. They lovingly care for these living archives
of Sanâtana Dharma and treat them amicably. Aum.

sûtra 128: closeness with other families

Íiva’s followers who are householders joyously visit one
another’s homes and grow together in Godliness. Some
religious ceremony or karma yoga is a part of their ev-
ery gathering. They live as one spiritual family. Aum.

sûtra 129: respecting elders, nurturing the young

Íiva’s followers honor elders for their wisdom, guid-
ance and compassion. Those who are younger, whatever
their age, never disrespect those older than they. Those
older nurture and encourage all who are younger. Aum.

sûtra 130: helping one another

Íiva’s followers see that the spirit of helping and taking
care of one another prevails between family and family,
monastery and family. The group helps the individual,
and the individual helps the group. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Household Ethics
sûtra 131: the husband’s dharma
Each of Íiva’s married men followers strives to fulfill
male dharma, safeguarding the integrity of society and
the family through protecting and providing abun-
dantly for his beloved wife, children and parents. Aum.

sûtra 132: the wife’s dharma

Each of Íiva’s married women followers strives to fulfill
female dharma, perpetuating the race, family and the
faith through remaining in the home to nurture, guide
and strengthen her dear husband and children. Aum.

sûtra 133: the strength of the extended family

Íiva’s followers know the most stable societies are based
on the extended family. They often merge individuals
with families and families with families in one home or
complex, for economy, sharing and religiousness. Aum.

sûtra 134: caring for elders

Íiva’s followers who are householders care for their
parents and close relatives all through life. The elderly
especially must be comforted, honored at auspicious
times and never left alone for extended periods. Aum.

sûtra 135: limiting the stay of guests

Íiva’s householder followers, to protect family sanctity
and avoid magnetic entanglements, do not allow adult
guests in their home for more than three nights who are
not part of their extended family. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Raising Worthy Children

sûtra 136: nurturing children, meeting daily
Íiva’s followers use astrology, tradition and wise counsel
to cultivate each child’s inherent talents and higher na-
ture. They hold family meetings daily to share, plan, ex-
press love and discuss issues with mutual respect. Aum.

sûtra 137: taking time to train the youth

Íiva’s followers who are parents take time to train boys in
technical skills, girls in homemaking, and both in music,
health, cooking and home management. They celebrate
improvements instead of focusing on mistakes. Aum.

sûtra 138: not governing through fear

Íiva’s followers never govern youth through fear. They
are forbidden to spank or hit them, use harsh or angry
words, neglect or abuse them. They know you can’t make
children do better by making them feel worse. Aum.

sûtra 139: teaching and modeling good conduct

Íiva’s followers love their children, govern them in a
kind but firm way and model the five family practices:
proper conduct, home worship, religious discussion,
continuous self-study and following a preceptor. Aum.

sûtra 140: timely observance of sacraments

Íiva’s followers provide their children the essential sac-
raments at the proper times, especially name-giving,
first feeding, head-shaving, ear-piercing, first learning,
rites of puberty and marriage. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Preserving Family Unity

sûtra 141: logical, positive discipline
Íiva’s followers direct children through affirmations,
meaningful chores and rules that are clear and under-
stood, teaching that mistakes are opportunities to learn,
and focusing on solutions instead of punishment. Aum.

sûtra 142: inspiring belonging and dignity

Íiva’s followers encourage and inspire children so they
always feel they belong and are significant. If upsets oc-
cur, parents use loving, positive strategies such as time-
out, logical consequences and denial of privileges. Aum.

sûtra 143: training youth in money management

Íiva’s followers who are parents preserve family unity
and teach responsibility by not granting youth finan-
cial independence. Money is given only for approved ex-
penses, and change is returned with accounting. Aum.

sûtra 144: pooling incomes for family unity

Íiva’s followers require unmarried progeny living with
them who have finished school and are employed to
submit, after tithing, all earnings to the family fund.
Once betrothed, they manage their own earnings. Aum.

sûtra 145: disciplining with love

Íiva’s followers, knowing that misbehaving children
are discouraged, take time for play and encouragement,
and ensure that discipline is respectful, reasonable and
not based on blame, shame or pain. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Preparing Youth for Adult Life

sûtra 146: growing up in the family occupation
Íiva’s followers abide by the tradition of bringing sons
and daughters into the family skills, profession or busi-
ness by involving them from a young age. This is fam-
ily dharma, family bonding, family perpetuation. Aum.

sûtra 147: providing early sex education

Íiva’s followers teach their sons and daughters, between
ages four and ten, about the cycles of life and the prin-
ciples of virtue, and when puberty arrives, require them
to take the sacred vow of celibacy until marriage. Aum.

sûtra 148: cherishing chastity

Íiva’s young followers are taught to protect their chas-
tity as a treasure and to save sexual intimacy for their
future spouse. If a premarital affair does occur, a mar-
riage of the young couple is seriously considered. Aum.

sûtra 149: responsible chaperoning

Íiva’s followers accept the serious responsibility of
guiding the private and social life of their children.
They chaperone and monitor friendships to help en-
sure that young ones grow up safe and celibate. Aum.

sûtra 150: youth entering my ßaiva church

My devotees require children to decide before age twen-
ty whether to enter Saiva Siddhanta Church of their
own volition or to choose another path. If they go away,
they are always welcome back. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Duties of Young Adults

sûtra 151: bringing others to the ßaiva path
Íiva’s followers who are adolescents use their youthful
aggressiveness to teach the Íaiva Dharma, inspire and
uplift others, bring seekers into their lineage and wel-
come strayed members back into the Hindu fold. Aum.

sûtra 152: bringing joy to their parents

Íiva’s young adult followers realize they have a debt to
their parents for their birth, early raising and educa-
tion, which they repay with obedience and affection,
giving joy, practical assistance and satisfaction. Aum.

sûtra 153: the ideal youth-parent relationship

Íiva’s young adult followers esteem their mother and
father. In respecting their parents, they respect them-
selves and keep the doors open to parental aid and ad-
vice on the churning sea of adolescent experience. Aum.

sûtra 154: never bending to peer pressure

Íiva’s adolescent followers hold their own among their
peers and are leaders. To bend to peer pressure and
offend the dharma shows weakness of character and
parental neglect. Nothing but shame can follow. Aum.

sûtra 155: path choosing for young men

Íiva’s young men followers are free to pursue their
born destiny of either renunciation or family life. This
choice of two traditional paths is their birthright. Fol-
lowing either, they follow dharma. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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About Wealth
sûtra 156: true wealth
Devout Hindus remain dignified in deprivation and
humble in prosperity. Knowing that one can be spiri-
tually rich in poverty and spiritually impoverished in
affluence, they live bountifully in either world. Aum.

sûtra 157: building economic security

Íiva’s householder devotees strive to own their home
and save for retirement. They live within their means
in dwellings suitable to their wealth and are regular and
completely honest in paying their tithe and taxes. Aum.

sûtra 158: responsible money management

Íiva’s devotees keep a monthly budget and regulate ex-
penses according to their revenues. They never abuse
credit or indulge in extravagant buying, for they know
that spending in excess of income invites misery. Aum.

sûtra 159: handling money wisely

Íiva’s devotees keep a regular monthly and yearly ac-
counting of income and expenses, and accurate records
of all transactions. In every business deal, they make
sure that all parties are benefited and are content. Aum.

sûtra 160: endowments and wills

Íiva’s devotees dutifully save for their future through
Hindu Heritage Endowment and prepare a formal, fi-
nal will and testament, even when young, that provides
funds for their family and temple. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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God’s Money
sûtra 161: one-tenth belongs to ßiva
Íiva’s close devotees take a vow and joyously tithe ten
percent of their gross income to their lineage monthly.
This is God’s money. Using it otherwise is forbidden—a
karma reaping loss exceeding all anticipated gain. Aum.

sûtra 162: tithing is the first obligation

My close devotees consider tithing their first expense.
They provide a written reconciliation each April, in-
cluding with it all unremitted tithing. Those behind in
tithing are counseled to help them fulfill the vow. Aum.

sûtra 163: tithing’s many blessings

Íiva’s close devotees delight in the unfailing law that by
tithing freely and wholeheartedly, with a consciousness
of plenty, they become receptive to God’s blessings and
draw to them abundance and happy experiences. Aum.

sûtra 164: dharmic uses of money

Íiva’s close devotees of means utilize their wealth to
strengthen their community and their lineage, to sup-
port temples, publish books, establish endowments and
scholarships, and to sponsor elaborate rituals. Aum.

sûtra 165: annual monetary gift to the satguru

Íiva’s close devotees observe the tradition of expressing
appreciation to their satguru by giving an annual love
offering at Guru Pûr∫imâ in July-August, thus enabling
him to help others on the path. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Guidelines for Business

sûtra 166: business among members
My Church members may employ other members, pro-
vided payment is made promptly each Friday. They may
receive blessings to go into business with one another if
their relationships are harmonious and spiritual. Aum.

sûtra 167: contracts and arbitration

My worldly-wise devotees never enter into business
transactions without a written contract. In cases of dis-
pute, they avoid courts of law and seek judgment from
an arbitration board within their community. Aum.

sûtra 168: not borrowing or giving credit

My devotees, to safeguard harmony, never borrow or
lend money among themselves or give credit to one an-
other, even for interest. They may do business together,
but only through immediate cash transactions. Aum.

sûtra 169: treatment of employees and servants

My devotees treat servants and employees honorably,
as they would members of their own family, never ne-
glecting or taking advantage of them. They provide
conditions that are safe, healthful and uplifting. Aum.

sûtra 170: borrowing from others

My wise devotees never borrow from a monastery or
temple. They may borrow belongings from other devo-
tees, provided objects are returned within twenty-four
hours after the purpose is fulfilled. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Politics and Vocation

sûtra 171: serving community and country
Íiva’s devotees are patriotic to their nation and con-
cerned about ecology. They strive to give to, advance,
support and defend their community and country, nev-
er living as outsiders or as predators upon them. Aum.

sûtra 172: entering politics

Íiva’s devotees who qualify may, with vigor and in-
domitable will, enter into politics, overcome opposition
and rise to the top to shower good fortune, peace, jus-
tice, interracial harmony and care on all people. Aum.

sûtra 173: rules for political activism

Íiva’s devotees freely pursue the politics of their choice,
but never subscribe to doctrines that advocate violent
revolution or deny religion. My followers do not or-
ganize among themselves for political purposes. Aum.

sûtra 174: pursuing benevolent vocations

Íiva’s devotees conscientiously choose professions that
are helpful and beneficial to all, never destructive, divi-
sive or exploitive. Yea, they are ministers of the Divine,
missionaries of a future tranquility yet to be seen. Aum.

sûtra 175: migrating for spiritual security

In the event of famine, invasion, tyranny or extreme
conditions threatening wealth or life, my devotees may
migrate to a place free of harassment where their spiri-
tual life can continue unhindered. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Edicts for Parliamentarians

sûtra 176: maintaining fairness and integrity
Íiva’s devotees who are parliamentarians live in full con-
formity with the sacred scriptures, extend protection
to all the people as they would to their own children
and never bend to bribery, graft or corruption. Aum.

sûtra 177: promoting spiritual values

Íiva’s devotees who are parliamentarians take pains to
spread lofty religious tenets and tolerant human values
among their constituents. They commission competent
people who will enhance all the great world faiths. Aum.

sûtra 178: justice and impartiality

Íiva’s devotees who are parliamentarians have as their
platform justice for all and enmity toward none. They
know that to show favoritism for one group over an-
other is to sow the seeds of their own downfall. Aum.

sûtra 179: political perseverance

Íiva’s devotees who are parliamentarians face and work
through each challenge that comes and are never forced
to abdicate. They maintain their office for as long as
possible, then seek for the highest next position. Aum.

sûtra 180: nurturing all faiths equally

Íiva’s devotees who are parliamentarians grant equal
boons to each spiritual sect under their aegis as if it
were their own. They know a society is only as free as the
freedom enjoyed by its minorities. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Edicts for Scientists

sûtra 181: keeping science ethical
Íiva’s devotees who are scientists are protectors of hu-
manity and stewards of the Earth. They must never
compromise their ethics for financial rewards or re-
lease inventions before proven safe and beneficial. Aum.

sûtra 182: harnessing science with religion

Íiva’s devotees who are scientifically and alchemistically
inclined naturally approach each investigation in awe,
consider themselves servants of the Divine and subju-
gate themselves to the guidance of their preceptor. Aum.

sûtra 183: noninjurious science

Íiva’s devotees who are scientists or medical researchers
refuse to participate in product testing that is harmful
to the subject. They are forbidden to take part in any
enterprise that promotes death or destruction. Aum.

sûtra 184: guardians of earth and her people

Íiva’s devotees who are scientists concentrate their ener-
gies on bettering the world, conserving its resources and
enabling humans to live in harmony with nature and
one another. They are noble examples to mankind. Aum.

sûtra 185: protecting scientific discoveries

Íiva’s devotees who are scientists must resist the urge to
share everything they discover. Certain knowledge has
proven dangerous and hurtful to mankind, especially
in the hands of the unscrupulous. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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 Vyakti Jîvanam
vyai†jaIvanama<

Section Four
Personal Life

What is needful? Righteousness and sacred

learning and teaching; truth and sacred learning
and teaching; meditation and sacred learning
and teaching; self-control and sacred learning
and teaching; peace and sacred learning and
teaching; ritual and sacred learning and teaching;
humanity and sacred learning and teaching.
K®ish∫a Yajur Veda, Taittarîya Upanishad 1.9. upm, p. 109

An aspirant reads from the ancient scriptures of his lineage and chants on his holy rudrâksha
beads as part of a daily sâdhana. Lord Ga∫eßa hovers nearby, holding His noose in one hand
and blessing the seeker’s inner efforts with His other hand, held in the “fear not” abhaya mudrâ.
744 LIVING WITH ÍIVA

Diet and Food

sûtra 186: the âyurvedic vegetarian diet
Íiva’s devotees cook and eat in the balanced, varied,
vegetarian, Indian âyurvedic manner, enjoying healthy,
unprocessed, freshly cooked foods. Occasionally, they
may partake of cuisine from other world cultures. Aum.

sûtra 187: mealtime traditions

Íiva’s devotees eat with their fingers to energize food.
They chew well and include the six tastes daily (sweet,
salty, sour, pungent, bitter and astringent) and a bal-
ance of protein and carbohydrates at all meals. Aum.

sûtra 188: good eating habits

Íiva’s devotees adhere to the âyurvedic principles of eat-
ing at regular times, only when hungry, always seated,
at a moderate pace; never between meals, in a disturbed
atmosphere or when angry or emotionally upset. Aum.

sûtra 189: unfanatical vegetarianism

Íiva’s devotees are forbidden to eat meat, fish, shellfish,
fowl or eggs, but they may regard as regrettable excep-
tions unseen traces of nonfleshy ingredients, such as
eggs and gelatin, in packaged or restaurant foods. Aum.

sûtra 190: good food for good health

Íiva’s devotees know that a good diet is the best medi-
cine. They drink two liters of water daily, minimize
fried foods and avoid junk foods, white rice, white flour,
processed sugar and degraded oils. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Health and Exercise

sûtra 191: not eating too much
Íiva’s devotees eat in moderation. Meals seldom exceed
what two hands cupped together can hold. If hunger
persists, another handful may be taken. Eating right
extends life and maintains higher consciousness. Aum.

sûtra 192: fasting for health and penance

Íiva’s devotees may fast for twenty-four hours on water,
herb teas or fruit juices each Friday or twice a month
on pradosha. Longer fasting, such as a festival penance,
is done only with the guru’s or a doctor’s sanction. Aum.

sûtra 193: choosing appropriate healing arts

Íiva’s devotees know wellness is balance. If the imbal-
ance called illness occurs, they apply self-healing, then
resort as needed to such arts as âyurveda, acupuncture,
chiropractic, allopathy, prâ∫ic healing or massage. Aum.

sûtra 194: wearing the body like a sandal

Íiva’s devotees do not indulge in inordinate concerns
about food, undue physical worries or extensive per-
sonal health studies other than âyurveda. They avoid
extreme diets, except under medical supervision. Aum.

sûtra 195: exercising daily

Íiva’s devotees keep strong and healthy by exercising at
least one half hour each day through such activities as
brisk walking, swimming, dancing, salutations to the
sun, ha†ha yoga and vigorous work. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Tobacco and Drugs

sûtra 196: forbidding tobacco
Íiva’s devotees are forbidden to smoke, chew tobacco
or inhale snuff. They know nicotine’s deadly, addictive
power and value health and longevity as primary to ful-
filling good karmas and serving the community. Aum.

sûtra 197: not using dangerous drugs

Íiva’s devotees are forbidden to use drugs of abuse, such
as cocaine, heroin, amphetamines, barbiturates, psyche-
delics and marijuana, unless prescribed by a licensed
physician. They know their devastating effects. Aum.

sûtra 198: children say no to drugs

Íiva’s devotees educate their children to say no to any
and all known or unknown illicit drugs offered to them,
whether by friends or strangers. Pure and well inform-
ed by caring parents, children avoid these dangers. Aum.

sûtra 199: chemical chaos

Íiva’s devotees know that drugs may awaken simulta-
neously the chakra of divine love and those of fear, con-
fusion and malice, producing vast mood swings and a
stunted intellect. They dread this chemical chaos. Aum.

sûtra 200: the demonic drug culture

Íiva’s devotees stand against drugs and never mix with
those who use them or listen to talk extolling them. The
drug culture and its demonic music erode the very fab-
ric of human character and culture. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Alcohol
sûtra 201: moderation with alcohol
All strong and intoxicating distilled alcohols are forbid-
den to Íiva’s devotees. They may moderately partake of
the family of wines and beers, including honey mead,
for these are wholesome when properly enjoyed. Aum.

sûtra 202: not drinking alone or when upset

Even in moderation, Íiva’s devotees do not drink al-
cohol in solitude, when depressed, angry or under ex-
treme stress. When one is emotionally unstable, alcohol
inhibits the ability to confront and solve problems. Aum.

sûtra 203: monitoring drinking among peers

Íiva’s devotees gently enforce temperance among peers
whenever necessary. They know that those unable to
observe moderation may have to abstain entirely and
restrict themselves to nonalcoholic beverages. Aum.

sûtra 204: women do not drink in public

All Hindu women, respecting customs of decorum and
demureness, refrain from drinking alcohol in public.
During pregnancy, they abstain completely to protect
the health and well-being of their unborn child. Aum.

sûtra 205: total abstinence for some

Íiva’s devotees know that if, despite the help of peers or
elders, alcohol becomes a spiritual obstacle or a burden
to family or community, the preceptor is duty-bound
to deny the privilege altogether. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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The Four Stages of Life

sûtra 206: life’s four seasons
Íiva’s ardent souls honor and conscientiously fulfill the du-
ties of each of life’s four progressive stages of dharma: stu-
dent (age 12–24), householder (24–48), respected el-
der (48–72) and religious solitaire after age 72. Aum.

sûtra 207: two psychological junctures

Íiva’s ardent souls recognize that the natural human life
span is 120 years. They confidently plan ahead at each
40-year juncture. Elders counsel, as needed, persons in
life transitions, around 40 and 80 years of age. Aum.

sûtra 208: aging with dignity

Íiva’s ardent souls grow old gracefully, without fear,
knowing that the soul is immortal and the mental body
does not age, but becomes stronger and more mature,
as do the emotions, if regulated stage by stage. Aum.

sûtra 209: selfless duties after retirement

Íiva’s ardent souls intensify religious disciplines after
retirement, give guidance to younger generations, teach,
encourage, uplift, serve the community in various ways
and support endowments to educate the young. Aum.

sûtra 210: renunciation after age 72

Íiva’s unmarried men and widowers may renounce the
world after age 72, severing all ties with their commu-
nity and living as unordained, self-declared sannyâsins
among the holy monks of India. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Approaching Death
sûtra 211: facing the past to prepare for death
Íiva’s devotees give spiritual counseling to the termi-
nally ill who are blessed with the knowledge of death’s
approach, showing ways to resolve the past so that Íiva
consciousness is their bridge during transition. Aum.

sûtra 212: forgiving and seeking forgiveness

Íiva’s devotees facing death perform vâsanâ daha tan-
tra, reconcile with and seek forgiveness from anyone
they have offended, lest they leave unresolved kukarmas
to go to seed and bear bitter fruit in future births. Aum.

sûtra 213: drawing within, releasing the world

Íiva’s devotees who are dying concentrate on their man-
tra and find solace in the holy Vedic teachings on the
soul’s immortality, ever seeking the highest realizations
as they consciously, joyously release the world. Aum.

sûtra 214: seeking a natural death at home

Íiva’s devotees welcome life-saving medical interven-
tions, but in their last days avoid heroic, artificial per-
petuation of life and prefer not to die in a hospital but
at home with loved ones, who keep prayerful vigil. Aum.

sûtra 215: the moment of grand departure

Íiva’s devotees strive at the moment of death to depart
the body through the crown chakra and consciously
enter the clear white light and beyond. A perfect transi-
tion culminates in God realization. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Death’s Aftermath
sûtra 216: cremation and dispersal of ashes
Devout Hindus always cremate their dead. Burial is for-
bidden by tradition. Embalming is never permitted, and
no autopsy is performed unless required by law. Ashes
are ceremoniously committed to a river or ocean. Aum.

sûtra 217: the mystical benefit of cremation

Íiva’s devotees arrange swift cremation, ideally within
24 hours. The fire and accompanying rites sever ties to
earthly life and give momentum to the soul, granting at
least momentary access to superconscious realms. Aum.

sûtra 218: funeral rites and remembrances

At the death of a Íiva devotee, family and friends gather
for funeral rites in the home. They prepare the body
and arrange for cremation. On the seventh day, the de-
ceased’s picture is honored, and food is offered. Aum.

sûtra 219: memorial rites for the departed

Family and friends of a deceased Íiva devotee hold
amemorial on the thirty-first day after the transition
and again one year later, cleaning the home and making
food offerings to ancestors and to the departed. Aum.

sûtra 220: joyfully releasing the departed

Knowing that the soul is deathless, Íiva’s devotees nev-
er suffer undue or prolonged sorrow for the departed,
lest they bind these souls to Earth. They rejoice in the
continuing journey of loved ones. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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 Ådhyâtmika Pârasparyam
AaDyaaitmak[

Section Five
Spiritual Interaction

Íiva is knowledge, and knowledge is the satguru. Thus

the same result is obtained by worshiping Íiva, knowl-
edge and the guru. The guru is the abode of all divine
beings and all mantras. Hence man should bow down
and obey the instructions of the guru with all humility.
Chandrajñâna Ågama, Kriyâpâda, 2.9. bo cj, p. 12

Seven ßishyas gather in the forest at their satguru’s feet. The great radiance of his illumination
shines out in a glowing nimbus, or auric halo. The swâmî’s words are empowered by a psychic
inner ray which touches the core of each seeker, awakening in them the same light and love.
754 LIVING WITH ÍIVA

Respect for Saints and Dignitaries

sûtra 221: greeting the guru and his monastics
All Íiva’s devotees prostrate before their satguru, rev-
erently touch the feet of his âchâryas and swâmîs, and
greet yogîs and sâdhakas with their palms pressed to-
gether and head slightly bowed. This is tradition. Aum.

sûtra 222: hosting a visiting swâmî

Hearing of a venerated swâmî’s arrival, Íiva’s devotees
joyously rush to the outskirts of town to welcome him.
On his departure, they accompany him there and, with
gifts, money and good wishes, bid him farewell. Aum.

sûtra 223: venerating worthy leaders

Devout Hindus honor a satguru, a head of state, a re-
spected elder, a learned scholar, a renunciate or ascetic
of any lineage. Upon his entrance, they stand, rush for-
ward, bow appropriately and offer kind words. Aum.

sûtra 224: ßiva is most easily seen in the satguru

Íiva’s devotees know that God exists equally in all souls
but is most apparent in the enlightened master. Thus,
they revere their own satguru as Íiva Himself, but do
not worship anyone as an incarnation of Íiva. Aum.

sûtra 225: touching the feet of holy ones

Sincere Íiva devotees never fail to bow down or gently
touch the feet of a satguru or holy person of any order
dressed in monastic robes. They prostrate only to their
own satguru. This is the tradition. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Social Injunctions
sûtra 226: restraining gestures of affection
All Íiva’s adult devotees refrain from touching adoles-
cents or adults of the opposite sex, other than near rel-
atives or older persons. They do not embrace or shake
hands except when required by social etiquette. Aum.

sûtra 227: modesty between genders

All Íiva’s devotees who are no longer children remain
apart from the opposite sex when attending temples
and public gatherings. Upon entering, women always
sit on the left side, and men occupy the right side. Aum.

sûtra 228: guidelines for garlanding others

Devotees of Íiva do not garland members of the op-
posite sex, other than their spouse or blood relatives.
Women never garland a swâmî, yogî or sâdhaka, but
may freely and lovingly garland their own satguru. Aum.

sûtra 229: family retreat after a birth or death

Íiva’s devotees observe a thirty-one-day retreat after the
birth or death of a family member, not entering temples
or home shrines, not attending pûjâ or religious events,
but continuing their japa, study and meditations. Aum.

sûtra 230: casting aside the caste system

Íiva’s devotees are forbidden to perpetuate the restric-
tions and abuses of the Indian caste system. Instead,
they base respect and status on attainment, knowledge,
behavior and spiritual maturity. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
756 LIVING WITH ÍIVA

Interfaith Harmony
sûtra 231: interacting with other faiths
Íiva’s devotees properly respect and address virtuous
persons of all religious traditions. They may support
and participate in interfaith gatherings from time to
time with leaders and members of all religions. Aum.

sûtra 232: not demeaning other sects or religions

Íiva’s devotees do not speak disrespectfully about other
Hindu lineages, their beliefs, Gods, sacred sites, scrip-
tures, or holy men and women. Nor do they disparage
other religions. They refuse to listen to such talk. Aum.

sûtra 233: restraining involvement with other faiths

Íiva’s devotees avoid the enchantment of other ways, be
they ancient or modern. They remain friendly toward
but apart from other religions, except when their mem-
bers sincerely approach Hinduism for its wisdom. Aum.

sûtra 234: maintaining a hindu solidarity

Íiva’s devotees know that for eons our religion has come
forward to recreate a Hindu unity. Therefore, they are
dedicated to building whenever necessary, and keep-
ing strong always, an invincible Hindu solidarity. Aum.

sûtra 235: harmony between denominations

Íiva’s devotees, with hearts as big as the sky, love and
accept Smârta, Íâkta and Vaish∫ava Hindus as brothers
and sisters, even if not accepted by them, and keep har-
mony by not discussing differences. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Avoiding Alien Influences

sûtra 236: safeguarding one’s beliefs
Íiva’s devotees, one-pointed in striving on their chosen
path, do not join or study with any esoteric, religious,
secular humanist, atheist, existentialist or self-improve-
ment group that might undermine their beliefs. Aum.

sûtra 237: dealing with detractors

Íiva’s devotees never listen to talk intended to deter
them from their commitment, devotion or duty unless
willing and able to turn the detractor’s mind around by
debating the truths of the Íaivite Hindu religion. Aum.

sûtra 238: not sending youth to other faiths’ schools

Íiva’s devotees never educate their children in institu-
tions that would instill or force on them the teachings
of alien religions. They know that the early impressions
of youth go deep and can never be totally erased. Aum.

sûtra 239: keeping good, religious company

Íiva’s devotees do not mix with dogmatic or militant
Hindus, or with anyone who would infiltrate, dilute
and destroy their faith. They associate closely with de-
vout people whose beliefs are similar to their own. Aum.

sûtra 240: truth in the palm of their hand

My devotees know that everything they need to fulfill
their quest for liberation is found in our consummate
Nandinâtha Sampradâya. With the final conclusions in
their grasp, they look no further. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Devotion to the Satguru

sûtra 241: protocols for honoring the satguru
Íiva’s devotees daily offer fruit or flowers in love and
prostrate before their satguru, or to his sandals or the
direction in which he abides. They chant the Guru Man-
tra when approaching any satguru for darßana. Aum.

sûtra 242: the satguru and ßiva are one

Íiva’s devotees look upon their satguru as the embodi-
ment of Íiva, offering service and reverence equally to
both, making no distinction between the two. So live
His truest devotees. This is pure Íaiva tradition. Aum.

sûtra 243: seeking inner unity with the satguru

Íiva’s devotees meditate each morning upon their sat-
guru’s inner form, striving earnestly to know his tem-
perament, the contents of his heart and his essential
nature, which is eternal, peaceful and unattached. Aum.

sûtra 244: blessings from and service to the satguru

Íiva’s devotees hasten to receive their satguru’s food leav-
ings and the sanctified waters from his holy feet or san-
dals. They know that in serving the enlightened master,
the whole world is served and dharma is fulfilled. Aum.

sûtra 245: seeking satguru darßana and initiation

Íiva’s devotees emulate the awakened qualities they
see in their satguru, seek initiation and daily strive to
fathom his realization of Paraßiva, which is his priceless
gift, attainable by no other means. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Working with the Satguru

sûtra 246: nurturing the guru-ßishya relationship
Íiva’s devotees seek their satguru’s blessings, act in har-
mony with his will, trust in his supreme wisdom, seek
refuge in his grace and rush forward to rededicate them-
selves each year during the month of the guru. Aum.

sûtra 247: obey your guru, obey your guru...

Íiva’s devotees obey their satguru, carrying out his direc-
tions, expressed or implied, with intelligent coopera-
tion, without delay. They keep no secrets from him, nor
advise others how to manipulate his decisions. Aum.

sûtra 248: ...obey your guru

Íiva’s devotees trustingly heed their satguru’s counsel
without even subtly attempting to change his mind. If
he declines to give blessings for an endeavor, they ac-
cept that as his blessing and proceed no further. Aum.

sûtra 249: seeking sanction for severe austerities

Íiva’s devotees regularly perform spiritual practices on
their own, but undertake serious penance and rigorous
austerities only with their satguru’s express permission,
guidance, empowerment and spiritual protection. Aum.

sûtra 250: customs for receiving the satguru

Íiva’s devotees, upon the satguru’s entrance or arrival,
cease worldly activity and conversation. They rise, rush
forward to greet him, offer him a seat of honor and
expectantly await his instructions. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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In the Satguru’s Presence

sûtra 251: never criticizing or contending
Íiva’s devotees are forbidden by tradition to criticize
their satguru, even behind his back, or to argue with him,
contradict or correct him. They may, however, request
clarification and offer additional information. Aum.

sûtra 252: showing respect to the preceptor

Íiva’s devotees never stand or sit above their satguru,
walk or drive ahead of him, take a place of authority
or instruct others in his presence unless invited. All
Hindus are sensitive in a guru’s lofty company. Aum.

sûtra 253: unseemly behaviors to avoid

Íiva’s devotees never utter words of falsehood or con-
tempt before their satguru. Nor do they deceive him, ad-
dress him as an equal, imitate his dress or deportment
or speak excessively or pridefully in his presence. Aum.

sûtra 254: honoring the satguru’s presence

When with the satguru, devotees do not initiate conver-
sation or ask questions unless he gives permission. If
he prefers silence, silence is the message, the pure nec-
tar from the deep well of his ineffable attainment. Aum.

sûtra 255: no tolerance for slander

Íiva’s devotees never listen to criticism of their satguru.
If slander is heard, they extol the guru and warn the
trespasser of his encroachment. If he persists in igno-
rance, they leave in eloquent silence. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
NANDINÅTHA S¨ TRAS: SECTION 5, SPIRITUAL INTERACTION 761
 Dhârmika Saμsk®iti
Daaima*k[ sa\sk&[ita

Section Six
Religious Culture

May Earth on which men offer to the Gods the sacri-

fice and decorous oblations, where dwells the human
race on nourishment proper to the requirements of
its nature—may this great Earth assure us life and
breath, permitting us to come to ripe old age.
Atharva Veda 12.1.22. ve

A contemporary priest, complete with t-shirt, performs âratî to our global and cosmic God, in-
dicated by Earth and stars. Lord Ga∫eßa’s reality is shown by the mûrtî’s transformation from
inanimate bronze at the bottom to living flesh at the top.
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Temples and Priesthood

sûtra 256: our holy gathering places
My devotees revere Kauai Aadheenam’s San Marga Ir-
aivan Temple as their center of the universe, our Íaiva
dharmaßâlas as sites of learning and service, and mission
houses as places of study, worship and assembly. Aum.

sûtra 257: four vehicles of service

My devotees give full energy and dedication to Saiva
Siddhanta Church, Himalayan Academy, HINDUISM TO-
DAY and Hindu Heritage Endowment. These four form
a mighty, unified force for Sanâtana Dharma. Aum.

sûtra 258: our sacred priests

My Church honors our ma†havâsis as its official priest-
hood. For samskâras and special festivals we may engage
closely devoted Tamil priests, as well as hereditary Íivâ-
châryas, who preside at all temple consecrations. Aum.

sûtra 259: the vedic science of temple building

My devotees perpetuate in our temples the architecture
set forth in the Íaiva Ågamas and Vâstu Íâstras, and
exemplified in the sanctuaries of South India, to create
holy places where even the stones have sanctity. Aum.

sûtra 260: appropriate places of worship

My devotees worship at their home shrines, dharmaßâ-
las, Kauai Aadheenam and all Íaivite temples. They do
not attend temples of other denominations except on
pilgrimage or as required socially. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Weekly Gatherings
sûtra 261: the importance of family missions
My congregation is organized into local missions to
nurture religious life through shared worship, extended
family gatherings, sacraments and community service,
in accordance with the Íaiva Dharma Íâstras. Aum.

sûtra 262: connecting with the inner worlds

My devotees rush to family gatherings for bhajana, ha-
vana satsaˆga and fellowship, to worship devoutly and
sing loudly in praise of God, Gods and guru. They at-
tend Íaivite temples weekly and during festivals. Aum.

sûtra 263: expressing devotion with song

At gatherings among themselves, my devotees sing from
our Íaiva Church hymnal, primarily Sage Yogaswami’s
Natchintanai. When with devotees of other sects, they
enthusiastically join in their devotional songs. Aum.

sûtra 264: decision-making by consensus

My devotees abide by “consensualocracy.” All involved
in a decision must unanimously agree and obtain the
guru’s blessings before proceeding. No votes are taken
based on the majority superceding the minority. Aum.

sûtra 265: edicts from the seat of authority

My devotees never apply the principle of unanimous
agreement to sovereign edicts issued from Kauai Aa-
dheenam’s seat of power. Such proclamations are the
uncontestable law of the satguru. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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New Members
sûtra 266: sharing the teachings with others
All my devotees reach out for new members by enthusi-
astically printing and distributing Hindu literature and
putting sacred texts of our lineage into libraries, book-
stores and educational institutions worldwide. Aum.

sûtra 267: an elite and steadfast association

All within my Saiva Siddhanta Church are stalwart and
dedicated. Not one is half-hearted or equivocal. Each is
a jewel, important to me and to each other. Thus, strict-
ness is necessary when accepting new members. Aum.

sûtra 268: embracing newcomers

All within my Saiva Siddhanta Church accept newcom-
ers as part of their own family. They care for, teach,
gently guide and prepare these souls for their first in-
itiation. Yea, they too were once new members. Aum.

sûtra 269: the probationary first year

All within my Íaiva Church who sponsor new members
are responsible for their strengths and failures during
the probationary year, their study for initiation and
their merger with others as milk poured into milk. Aum.

sûtra 270: the quest for monastic candidates

All my devotees search for souls ripe to enter the mon-
astery, realizing that the core of my Íaiva Church is its
Íaiva Siddhânta Yoga Order, and many old souls are be-
ing born to perpetuate our lineage. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Coming Home to Íaivism

sûtra 271: reaching out to ßaivite souls
My ardent devotees relentlessly search for Íaivite souls,
finding them, drawing them to Íiva and their satguru
and, when necessary, helping them convert to Íaivism
from the faiths or philosophies they have rejected. Aum.

sûtra 272: special attention to ardha-hindus

My ardent devotees reach out to seekers who, half-con-
verted, bear a Hindu first name. Gently they assist them
through a full and ethical conversion from any and all
former faiths, then accept them wholeheartedly. Aum.

sûtra 273: severing former religious ties

My ardent devotees of other religions or lineages who
seek to enter my Íaiva Church must, with authorized
guidance, formally sever all loyalties by talking with
former preceptors and gaining a written release. Aum.

sûtra 274: conversion from other hindu sects

My ardent devotees affirm that even seekers from with-
in the Hindu fold must convert to enter our strict Íaiva
Church. All former commitments and memberships
must be dissolved before new ones can be made. Aum.

sûtra 275: the transformation called conversion

My ardent devotees well know that conversion means a
change of one belief structure into another and is never
without some degree of fire and pain. Counseling is nec-
essary in this soul-searching time. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Detractors and Adversaries

sûtra 276: shunning enemies
My devotees abide by the custom of shunning those
who oppose, criticize or attack their lineage. By not
interacting with detractors, they forestall conflict and
thus protect their lineage as well as themselves. Aum.

sûtra 277: the meaning of shunning

My devotees realize that shunning means tactful avoid-
ance, exclusion, ignoring and ostracizing. Thus a firm,
protective wall of silence is built between our lineage
and its detractors, whether individuals or groups. Aum.

sûtra 278: when to stop shunning

My devotees who refuse to shun those who should be
shunned should themselves be shunned. But none shall
shun those who have reconciled with the preceptor and
been publicly welcomed back into association. Aum.

sûtra 279: welcoming back those who reconcile

My devotees extend every effort to welcome and bring
back into the lineage those seeking to reenter its fold,
having formerly left, provided they show grief, remorse
and repentance, and reconcile with the satguru. Aum.

sûtra 280: withdrawing from errant monastics

My devotees know that any monastic who abandons his
sacred vows and leaves the monastery or is dismissed
should be shunned and treated as an outsider until he
rights himself with his preceptor. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Raising Sons for the Monastery

sûtra 281: conceiving sons for the monastery
Each Saiva Siddhanta Church family prays to birth a
son for the monastery. Prior to conception, parents mix
with the swâmîs and beseech the Gods to bring through
a divine soul destined to perpetuate our lineage. Aum.

sûtra 282: nurturing monastic inclinations

My devotees with sons inclined toward monastic life
wholeheartedly encourage these noble aspirations. Fa-
thers and young sons live as monastery guests periodi-
cally to nurture monastic patterns and tendencies. Aum.

sûtra 283: satguru guides the life of dedicated sons

My devotees regard any son destined for the monastery
not as their own child, but as the satguru’s progeny in
their trusted care. All details of his upbringing, training
and education are to be guided by the preceptor. Aum.

sûtra 284: parents of monastics expect no privileges

My devotees with a monastic son never claim special
access or privileges based on blood ties. They dissociate
from him and do not involve themselves in his life or
seek to influence our Íaiva Church through him. Aum.

sûtra 285: serving two years in the monastery

My family devotees raise their sons to be worthy of en-
tering my monastery for two years to serve, study and
grow in character as they live the monk’s selfless life.
This is the ideal for all young men. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Sacred Scriptures
sûtra 286: our scriptural bedrock, vedas and âgamas
All my devotees recognize that the primary scriptural
authority of our Nandinâtha lineage derives from the
Íaiva Ågamas and the four noble Vedas, which include
the Upanishads. Ours is a Vedic-Ågamic tradition. Aum.

sûtra 287: our ßaivite hindu bible

All my devotees revere as scripture The Holy Bible of the
Íaivite Hindu Religion—which includes excerpts from
the Vedas, the Ågamas, Tirumantiram, Tirumurai and
Tirukural—and guide their lives by its wisdom. Aum.

sûtra 288: the teachings of pristine tamil saints

My Hindu Church decrees as true Tamil Íaiva saints the
great ones who upheld dharma, ahiμsâ and monistic
Íaiva Siddhânta through the ages. We revere their words
as scripture and bestow our heartfelt pra∫âmas. Aum.

sûtra 289: sage yogaswami’s profound hymns

All my devotees revere as sacred scripture the songs and
sayings of Satguru Siva Yogaswami, called Natchintanai,
which embody the teachings of our lineage, command-
ing one and all to “Know thy Self by thy self.” Aum.

sûtra 290: my trilogy and other legacy works

All my devotees revere as sacred scripture Dancing with
Íiva, Living with Íiva, Merging with Íiva, Lemurian
Scrolls and my other authorized texts and discourses,
including Íaiva Dharma Íâstras. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
NANDINÅTHA S¨ TRAS: SECTION 6, RELIGIOUS CULTURE 771

Temple Worship
sûtra 291: the dedicated home shrine room
All my devotees must have an absolutely breathtaking
home shrine, used solely for meditation and worship of
Íivaliˆga, Na†arâja, Murugan, Ga∫eßa and the satguru’s
tiruvadi. This is the home’s most beautiful room. Aum.

sûtra 292: authorization to perform worship rites

My initiated devotees perform the Íaiva âtmârtha pûjâ,
but only in home shrines, not in temples. Unless for-
mally, traditionally authorized, they are prohibited to
learn, teach or perform the parârtha temple pûjâ. Aum.

sûtra 293: living near ßaiva temples

My devotees wisely settle in areas where Ga∫eßa, Muru-
gan or Íiva temples exist for their frequent pilgrimage,
worship and spiritual security. None should live farther
than a day’s journey from such sacred sanctuaries. Aum.

sûtra 294: pilgrimage to ßiva’s special abodes

My devotees hold as most sacred and pilgrimage to each
at least once: Íiva’s San Mârga Iraivan Temple on Kauai,
His Himâlayan and Gangetic abodes, His five elemen-
tal temples and the Madurai Meenakshi citadel. Aum.

sûtra 295: visiting shrines to gods and gurus

My devotees all revere and pilgrimage to Nallur and-
Murugan’s six South Indian temples, Ga∫eßa’s many
temples and shrines, especially Kumbhalavalai, and the
samâdhi shrines of our lineage. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Symbols, Mantras and Names

sûtra 296: wearing the emblems of ßaivism
All Íiva’s devotees, men and women, boys and girls,
wear holy ash and the proper forehead mark for reli-
gious events and in public when appropriate. They wear
a single rudrâksha bead on the neck at all times. Aum.

sûtra 297: benedictions for greeting and parting

All my devotees greet others by saying Aum Nama˙
Íivâya, Aum Íivâya or the more general benedictions
vanakkam, namaste or namaskâra. These, or the sweet
expression Aum, Aum, also serve when parting. Aum.

sûtra 298: ßaivism’s affirmation of faith

Just before sleep, all my devotees utter: “Anbe Sivamay-
am Satyame Parasivam,” while pondering the great
depths of this affirmation. Upon awakening, their first
words are “Anbe Sivamayam Satyame Parasivam.” Aum.

sûtra 299: sacred mantras for meals and gatherings

All my devotees chant the Bhojana Mantra before each
meal, offering thankful praise to God, Gods and guru.
They chant the Vedic Íânti Mantra to begin and end all
meetings, invoking peace and one-mindedness. Aum.

sûtra 300: proudly using one’s ßaivite name

All my devotees bear and legally register their Íaivite
Hindu name, first and last, and use it proudly each
day in all circumstances, never concealing or altering
it to adjust to non-Hindu cultures. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Cultural Accomplishments
sûtra 301: developing a useful craft
All my devotees are encouraged to learn a skill requiring
the use of their hands, such as pottery, sewing, weaving,
painting, gardening, baking or the building arts, to man-
ifest creative benefits for family and community. Aum.

sûtra 302: music, art, drama and the dance

All my devotees are encouraged to perfect a cultural
accomplishment, be it a form of art, singing, drama,
dance or a musical instrument of Íiva’s ensemble—vî∫â,
m®idaˆgam, tambûra, cymbals and bamboo flute. Aum.

sûtra 303: using our mystical languages

All my devotees are encouraged to embrace Sanskrit as
their language of ritual worship, Shûm Tyêîf as their
language of meditation and the Tyêîf script for offering
prayers to the devas through the sacred homa fire. Aum.

sûtra 304: hinduism’s sacred calendar

All my devotees are encouraged to use the South Indian
lunar calendar as a daily guide to auspicious planning
for travel, business, innovation, ceremony and major life
events. Our year begins with the month of Aries. Aum.

sûtra 305: living the sublime tamil ßaiva culture

All my devotees are encouraged to adopt the gestures,
attitudes, customs, ways of worship, dress and refine-
ments of Tamil Íaiva protocol. They learn by living and
studying with traditional Íaivites. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Spiritual Study
sûtra 306: the master course as daily guide
My devotees avidly study The Master Course as their life-
time sâdhana, allowing its mystical and practical teach-
ings to light their inner path. In these profound lessons
they discover the meaning of life’s many lessons. Aum.

sûtra 307: self-mastery through introspection

My devotees study the five states of mind: conscious,
subconscious, sub-subconscious, subsuperconscious
and superconscious. They let go of negative attachments
and become master of mind, body and emotions. Aum.

sûtra 308: remolding the subconscious

My devotees succeed by remolding subconscious mag-
netic forces. They purge the dross through vâsanâ daha
tantra—writing and burning past transgressions and
current problems—then use positive affirmations. Aum.

sûtra 309: râja yoga, the royal path to realization

My devotees learn and perfect the five steps to enlight-
enment: attention, concentration, meditation, contem-
plation and finally samâdhi, wherein they realize the
unspeakable Truth known only by the knower. Aum.

sûtra 310: fathoming our subtle nature

My devotees study these three to discover the mysteries
of being: the subtle bodies of man, the aura, which is
a rainbow of thought and feeling, and the twenty-one
chakras, or centers of consciousness. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Occultism
sûtra 311: avoiding the advice of psychics
My devotees do not counsel with trance mediums,
clairvoyants, past- and future-life readers or psychic
mentors. Nor do they consult astrologers or palmists
other than those approved by their preceptor. Aum.

sûtra 312: caution against dabbling in the occult

My devotees may spontaneously experience but do not
practice clairvoyance, clairaudience, astral projection,
lucid dreaming, trance mediumship, mind-reading, for-
tunetelling, magic or other distracting occult arts. Aum.

sûtra 313: shielding from astral forces

My devotees are under the satguru’s psychic protection
and remain untouched by negative occult forces. Those
who are as yet susceptible to such afflictions should
seek relief through pûjâ, prayer and penance. Aum.

sûtra 314: dreams are to be forgotten

My devotees do not indulge in remembrance or inter-
pretation of dreams, unless as a special discipline from
their guru. They intentionally forget their dreams and
positively concern themselves with waking life. Aum.

sûtra 315: sending prayers to the inner worlds

My devotees practice the ancient rite of sending prayers
to the devas and Gods through the sacred fire, but only
during auspicious times at Church missions and tem-
ples designated by the preceptor. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
 Sannyâsa Dharma
sa\nyaasaDama*

Section Seven
The Monastic Path

The ascetic who wears discolored robes, whose

head is shaved, who does not possess anything,
who is pure and free from hatred, who lives on
alms, he becomes absorbed in Brahman.
Íukla Yajur Veda, Jâbâla Upanishad 5. ve

A sannyâsin is a Hindu monk, one who has thrown down worldliness, renounced name and fame,
possessions, family and desires of all kinds, to find the Self within. The swâmî is walking pensively
along the trails of the high Himalayas. Two mâlâs of ruddy rudrâksha beads adorn his neck.
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Monastic Holy Orders

sûtra 316: monastic life’s fourfold purpose
Íiva’s monastics lead a joyous, contented, steadfast,
humble life. Their purpose is contemplation upon and
love of Íiva, to maintain Íiva consciousness, realize the
Self and uplift others while serving their satguru. Aum.

sûtra 317: vows for contemplative living

Íiva’s monastics who are sâdhakas and yogîs uphold,
and renew every two years, the four vows of humility,
purity, confidence and obedience. Swâmîs uphold for
life these four and a fifth vow of renunciation. Aum.

sûtra 318: holding fast to the truest treasures

Íiva’s monastics never fail to take refuge in their God,
their guru and their Great Oath. This is the highest path
they have chosen, the culmination of numberless lives,
perhaps the last in the cycle of reincarnation. Aum.

sûtra 319: their past is small, their future is large

Íiva’s monastics walk bravely into the future, letting go
of the past and letting what is be. Through yoga their
ku∫∂ali∫î rises, expanding consciousness, changing val-
ues and creating magical happenings around them. Aum.

sûtra 320: living in the spirit of togetherness

My Íaiva monastics embrace a selfless life in which all
work their minds together to keep the monastery strong.
They never follow an individual path, remaining remote
or aloof from brother ma†havâsis. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Monastic Mission
sûtra 321: preserving the three pillars of ßaivism
Íiva’s monastics valiantly bring Íaivism into the future
of futures. The fullness of their mission lies in our faith’s
three pillars—temples, scriptures and satgurus—which
they are vowed to protect, preserve and promote. Aum.

sûtra 322: remaining above corruption and control

Íiva’s monastics never compromise their ideals or rules
for material or political gain, nor come under the control
of the rich or influential. Vows prohibit them from being
told what to think, say or do except by their order. Aum.

sûtra 323: fearless defenders of hinduism

Íiva’s monastics are unfettered and fearless, whole-
heartedly and boldly supporting the ancient Sanâtana
Dharma against all who would infiltrate, dilute and des-
troy it. Yea, they are defenders of all Hindu sects. Aum.

sûtra 324: selfless service leads to self-mastery

Íiva’s monastic disciples regard themselves as the full-
time slaves of Íiva, servants of the servants of the Lord.
They are masters of mind, body and emotion, divine
rulers of their instinctive and intellectual forces. Aum.

sûtra 325: pure vessels for the divine

My monastics strive to keep Lord Íiva foremost in their
mind and heart, seeking pure emptiness, kâîf. Having
mastered the Shûm-Tyêîf language of meditation, they
are vessels for God’s gracious will. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Monastic Spirit
sûtra 326: râja yoga in action
Íiva’s monastics—âchâryas, swâmîs, yogîs and sâdha-
kas—are precise, concentrated, serenely centered, eager
to serve and tireless in every task, held back to rest only
by others. Jai, they carry their yoga into action. Aum.

sûtra 327: serving dynamically since time began

Íiva’s monastics are strong-willed, gentle in intellect,
rushing forward in youthful, happy ways. Every desire
they have is for the welfare of others. Yea, this group is
the religion’s core and has been for eons of time. Aum.

sûtra 328: the whole world is their family

Íiva’s monastics who have separated themselves from
family to pursue a divine life do so in a spirit of love.
They look upon this not as losing their dear family of
a few but as gaining all of humanity as their kin. Aum.

sûtra 329: first things first

Íiva’s monastics tread the path of experiential yoga.
They never allow intellectual studies or interests to over-
shadow their inner life. They are men of God and the
Gods first, teachers, scholars or artisans second. Aum.

sûtra 330: facing karma in wisdom

Íiva’s monastics, knowing the law of karma, accept as
their own karma all that comes. They forgive others of
all offenses inwardly at once, but outwardly only after
transgressors sincerely reconcile. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Monastic Attitudes
sûtra 331: encouraging other qualified monastics
Íiva’s monastics support sâdhus, yogîs, swâmîs and gu-
rus of other orders, male or female, even if their beliefs
differ, as long as they promote the Vedas, the Hindu
religion and the renunciate ideals of monasticism. Aum.

sûtra 332: remaining apart from the unqualified

Íiva’s monastics restrain their support for sannyâsins
in saffron robes who are married, who have personal
income, live with birth family, deny or dilute Hinduism,
have left their guru or are known philanderers. Aum.

sûtra 333: supporting hindu priests and pandits

Íiva’s monastics honor and support the good causes of
Hindu lay ministers, priests and pandits of all lineages
to create a dynamic solidarity in diversity to carry Sa-
nâtana Dharma to each succeeding generation. Aum.

sûtra 334: humility is their hallmark

Íiva’s monastics never boast of their accomplishments,
knowledge, position, equipment, money they han-
dle, places they have been or people they know. Self-
effacement—yea, self-erasement—is their hallmark. Aum.

sûtra 335: overcoming the four obstacles

Íiva’s monastics regard sex, money, food and clothes as
the prime challenge to their spiritual quest, harboring
the potential to reinvolve them in the world. Thus, they
restrain themselves accordingly. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Monastic Restrictions
sûtra 336: never indulging in sexual fantasy
All Íiva’s monastics strictly avoid sexual fantasy, know-
ing that it opens the door to the progressive stages of
glorifying sex, flirting, desirous glances, love talk, pin-
ing, deciding to have sex and finally intercourse. Aum.

sûtra 337: reserve toward women

All Íiva’s monastics honor all older women as their
mother and younger women as their sisters. Intensely
renounced, modest and reserved, they avoid extended
conversation and exchange of subtle energies. Aum.

sûtra 338: their likes are their dislikes

All Íiva’s monastics firmly uphold the spirit of non-
ownership, never adopting the householder attitudes of
claiming their own space, timing, tools, friends, ambi-
tions, likes and dislikes. Yea, they are unattached. Aum.

sûtra 339: the problems of today end today

All Íiva’s monastics treasure harmony as their way of
life. They stop work, attend to and resolve before sleep
any inharmonious conditions that may arise, knowing
that creativity lies dormant while conflict prevails. Aum.

sûtra 340: qualification to perform temple pûjâ

All my Íaiva monastics who qualify may perform the
parârtha pûjâ in their temples. Should they not renew
their vows or be dismissed, they are prohibited to per-
form or teach this pûjâ thenceforth. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Monastic Personal Care

sûtra 341: simple clothing for simple ma†havâsis
Íiva’s monastics wear robes of cotton or wool—hand-
spun, hand-woven and unsewn. Other clothing should
be made of simple, unadorned cotton, wool or synthet-
ics, in traditional North or South Indian style. Aum.

sûtra 342: lunar retreats from guests and the public

Íiva’s monastics observe the full, new and half moons
and the day after each as retreats for sâdhana, study, rest,
personal care and âßrama upkeep, plus a fortnight’s re-
treat at the end of each of the year’s three seasons. Aum.

sûtra 343: disciplines for sleep

My monastics sleep six to eight hours a day for reju-
venation and astral duties. They refuse a soft bed and
sleep on a firm floor mattress, ideally on a neem plank.
This custom may be relaxed when ill or traveling. Aum.

sûtra 344: keeping little, owning nothing

Íiva’s monastics have no more personal belongings
than they can easily carry in two bags, one in each hand.
By tradition, they have little, and even these few things
they do not own. Yea, they are true mendicants. Aum.

sûtra 345: nurturing new monastics

Íiva’s monastics look upon newcomers to the monas-
teries as their potential spiritual heirs, to care for, ten-
derly nurture and train. They know it is their duty to
pass on the wisdom of their years. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Monastic Travel and Retreat

sûtra 346: receiving no personal gifts
My Íaiva monastics do not accept personal gifts of any
kind, but they may receive offerings on behalf of the
monastery and support during pilgrimage, including
fruit, flowers, food, lodging and travel expenses. Aum.

sûtra 347: overnight stays when traveling

My Íaiva monastics while traveling may reside and take
meals in âßramas, temples, hotels or homes of worthy
initiated families of our Saiva Siddhanta Church. Their
sojourn in homes must never exceed three nights. Aum.

sûtra 348: males serve my ma†havâsis

My Íaiva monastics are all males, our ancient tradition
ordains. When they visit homes, temples or âßramas, all
service to them, such as meals, travel assistance, laundry
and visitor hosting, shall be carried out by males. Aum.

sûtra 349: food guidelines for traveling monastics

My Íaiva monastics when traveling may partake of food
prepared at home by devout families and delivered to
them. They may also cook for themselves, or enjoy meals
in restaurants, whether served by men or women. Aum.

sûtra 350: the tradition of moving in pairs

My Íaiva monastics, whether in or outside the monas-
tery, perform ministry only in pairs. They never travel
alone. Exceptions are made in dire emergencies and for
those on the nirvâ∫a sâdhaka path. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Monastics and the World

sûtra 351: remaining aloof from intrigue
My Íaiva monastics stand apart from intrigue, corrup-
tion and cunning. They never act as go-betweens, spies,
agents or bearers of false witness and cannot be bought,
influenced, or obligated by the rich or powerful. Aum.

sûtra 352: staying out of social service and politics

My Íaiva monastics are assigned to religious work alone
and, except to bless, advise and counsel, do not involve
themselves with secular events or social service. Nor do
they vote in elections or seek to influence politics. Aum.

sûtra 353: circumstances requiring a second monk

My Íaiva monastics follow the tradition of not holding
serious or lengthy private conversations in person or by
telephone without another monk present. Gracious, im-
personal small talk in public is, of course, allowed. Aum.

sûtra 354: the tradition of not touching

My Íaiva monastics maintain a strict nontouching pol-
icy. They do not shake hands or embrace. However, if
someone unaware of their protocol initiates such con-
tact, they do not recoil, but respond appropriately. Aum.

sûtra 355: demureness in conversations

My Íaiva monastics, in respect, stand no closer than an
arm’s length during conversations. When speaking to
men and women together, they direct their attention
mostly to the men, as is traditional. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Instructions for Swâmîs

sûtra 356: upholding yogaswami’s and my teachings
My swâmîs know there is strength and guidance in or-
thodoxy and avoid adopting the new for its own sake
or because the old seems an arduous path. They uphold
traditions that have survived the trials of time. Aum.

sûtra 357: preserving the autonomy of our lineage

My swâmîs rigidly maintain the Nandinâtha Sampra-
dâya as independent and absolutely separate from the
Smârta daßanâmî orders and all other lineages. Yea, this
autonomy shall endure until the end of time. Aum.

sûtra 358: my swâmîs do not speak of their past

My swâmîs never speak of their past or the personal self
they have renounced. Those who know tradition do not
ask, for one never looks for the source of a ®ishi or a
river. These always remain shrouded in mystery. Aum.

sûtra 359: remaining apart from family matters

My swâmîs do not participate in births, weddings or
other intimate householder events, always remaining
aloof from such activities. Nor do they attend funeral
rites, except those of brother monks and satgurus. Aum.

sûtra 360: the brotherhood of renunciates

All those in saffron robes who have braved death to the
world are the brethren of my swâmîs, who appropriate-
ly honor authentic male swâmîs older than themselves
and touch their feet in homage. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
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Instructions for Åchâryas

sûtra 361: the sacred duty of my âchâryas
My sannyâsins who are âchâryas are the supreme archi-
tects of our sampradâya’s future and the fulfillers of
these Nandinâtha Sûtras. They carry this responsibility
on top of their head. Yea, they are chosen ones. Aum.

sûtra 362: taking responsibility for church karmas

My sannyâsins who are âchâryas realize that they are
not beyond the laws of the land, but must work within
them, even to the point of apologizing should miscon-
duct occur on the part of Saiva Siddhanta Church. Aum.

sûtra 363: never demeaning others

My sannyâsins who are âchâryas nurture each devotee
equally. They never make others their servants, order
them about, shout at them, snap their fingers, clap their
hands, nor strike or demean them at any time. Aum.

sûtra 364: my âchâryas spread love and light

My sannyâsins who are âchâryas, filled with love and
helpfulness, promote joy and harmony among the con-
gregation. They never anger, incite fear or take advan-
tage of a person’s health, wealth or well-being. Aum.

sûtra 365: the end is only the beginning

Numberless successors of the Nandinâtha lineage have
gone before me. Numberless shall follow. I have woven
these 365 threads of wisdom, but there is infinitely more
to know of the mysterious Nâthas. Aum Nama˙ Íivâya.
Ådhâra Granthâ˙
AaDaar g‰nTaa:

Resources
 Ha†ha Yoga
hQyaaega

resource one
Ha†ha Yoga

I∂â is the Gaˆga of the lower world, piˆgalâ the

river Yamunâ, and between i∂â and piˆgalâ is
sushum∫â, the subtle river Sarasvatî. It is said that
to bathe in the confluence of the three rivers leads
to the Great Result.
Íukla Yajur Veda, Trishikhi Brâhma∫a Upanishad, 316-317
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AÊ HA YOGA IS A SYSTEM OF BODILY POSTURES, OR

ÅSANAS, CREATED AS A METHOD FOR THE YOGÈ
PRACTICING YOGA FOR LONG HOURS EACH DAY,
PERFORMING JAPA AND MEDITATION, TO EXERCISE
AND KEEP THE PHYSICAL BODY HEALTHY SO THAT
his meditations could continue uninhibited by disease or weakness. That
is how it was explained to me long ago. The great, fully illumined ®ishis
of old, in order to serve mankind, completely inwardly motivated the
external world for good upon good upon good, as do the great ®ishis of
India today as well. They sat in their caves, in forests or on river banks
to think upon the karma of the masses and take it into their minds by
understanding mankind’s predicaments. The impact of the cause-and-
effect actions would affect their physical body. Outside of meditation,
they would perform their routine of âsanas to untie the knots of these
karmas they had taken onto themselves, and the villages and the coun-
tries and the individuals within them would improve. These great yogîs
were, indeed, not unlike the Gods. The purpose of ha†ha yoga today again
is the same—to keep the physical body, emotional body, astral body and
mental body harmonious, healthy and happy so that awareness can soar
within to the heights of divine realization.
Ha†ha yoga has come along with advaita yoga from the Sanskrit
®ishis, and has been on Earth thousands of years. Each teacher of ha†ha
yoga teaches from the perspective of where he is in consciousness. For
example, the advaitist, or pure monist, uses techniques of ha†ha yoga
to nurture the advaita philosophy within his students. The dvaitist, or
dualist, uses the techniques of ha†ha yoga to make somebody healthy, to
heal kidney problems and for general limbering up of the individual.
In 1969 we performed ha†ha yoga in the Himalayas above Darjeel-
ing, at 13,000 feet, on India’s Tibet/Nepal border. It was there that I was
blessed with a very great unfoldment of blending all the major ha†ha
yoga techniques and practices into a concise system captured in Shûm,
our language of meditation. This took place in the presence of over sev-
enty-five devotees who had gathered from several countries, the largest
such group to ever pilgrimage to India, we were told at the time.
Ha†ha yoga as it is generally being taught now in the Americas and
On the edge of a rock cliff, a limber yogî performs ha†ha yoga alone in the stillness of morning.
Behind him, near the border between Canada and the United States, the famed Niagara Falls
cascades over the rocks, dwarfing the tourist boat below which keeps a respectful distance.
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in Europe is quite different than it originally was. The presentation of

ha†ha yoga in Shûm molds it into its original simplicity. The Shûm lan-
guage perspective of ha†ha yoga is of the Nandinâtha Sampradâya. It is a
more mystical perspective than ordinarily seen today. In our ha†ha yoga
we work with color, we work with sound and with the subtle emotions
and feelings of the body when going from one âsana to another. That
is the difference. Each âsana carefully executed, with regulated breath-
ing, the visualization of color and the hearing of the inner sound, slowly
unties the knotted vâsanâs within the subconscious mind and releases
awareness from there to mountaintop consciousness. Ha†ha yoga opens
up the consciousness, because when the height of the energy, the zenith,
is reached in each posture and we change to the next posture, a small or
large adjustment occurs within the physical and astral nerve system.
True, there are those who regard it as a means of health, longevity,
fitness, stamina or disease abatement. Ha†ha yoga, or banasana as we
call it in Shûm, is a harmless way of exercising the body, and it does
produce all of these results. The results come more readily to those who
have a subconscious foundation of Vedânta and a background of Sid-
dhânta, temple worship. By this I mean the born Hindu who was raised
in a religious home, worshiping in the home shrine, going to the temple
with his parents, which is Siddhânta, and if fortunate, learning Vedânta.
Ha†ha yoga blends Vedânta and Siddhânta in the psyche of the devotee,
as does japa, laying the foundation for deep meditation on Siddhânta
and Vedânta. European and American devotees, even without having had
these privileges, when practicing ha†ha yoga become healthy and experi-
ence a certain mental peace. These are my observations over the past fifty
years. Ha†ha yoga and the basic techniques of prâ∫âyâma should not be
overdone. They are totally safe in moderation. And japa with the univer-
sal mantra Aum is beneficial to those of all religions and faiths and beliefs
and nonreligions and all ism’s.
Traditionally, ha†ha yoga, or âsana, is the third step in the eightfold
yoga system outlined by Âishi Patanjali in his Yoga Sûtras. It is preceded by
yama and niyama, the moral restraints and spiritual observances. Many
people practice it today without having been established in the yamas
and niyamas. Yet, the results, obtained slowly, bring them into the yamas
and niyamas, which are the foundation of yoga in Hinduism.
The great gurus, ®ishis and swâmîs who came from India and taught
ha†ha yoga at the turn of the twentieth century, guided the inquiring souls
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in a traditional way. At the turn of the ’60s those who came from India
teaching mantras and high-powered prâ∫âyâma techniques led them
astray. The yamas and niyamas, as well as ha†ha yoga, should precede
mantra yoga. You need the ha-†ha, meaning “sun-moon,” before mantra
japa should be done. And you need the yamas and niyamas before japa
should be done. Once the yamas and the niyamas and the ha and the †ha
are all functioning properly, then we can begin performing japa.
Twenty-four âsanas are taught in our Himalayan Academy. Though
there are many more in complex ha†ha yoga systems, I chose these as an
adequate number to be gone through in succession to transfer aware-
ness from the external areas of the nerve system to the inner areas of the
nerve system and give a general exercise to the physical body through the
performance of them each day. Each position holds awareness in one
area of the mind or another. The names given to these positions in the
Shûm language name not only the physical position, but also the area of
the mind in which awareness is held.
There are two phases in performing ha†ha yoga. The first is physical,
learning to loosen up the body and to properly attain the posture. Once
the body can assume the various postures, the second phase can be mas-
tered, moving rhythmically from one âsana to another when the energy
flow within the âsana itself is at its high point. Thus the building of the
energy within the body feeds the astral body and brings mental, emo-
tional and physical health. It takes about a half an hour a day to perform
the series of twenty-four âsanas well, or just ten minutes as a minimum.
Group ha†ha yoga is also good.
The kriyâs, such as the cleansing of the mucous membranes of the
sinuses and of the digestive tract, are an integral part of ha†ha yoga for
many people. This is beneficial for the health, preservation and longevity
of the physical body, as is âyurveda, which is actually a part of this form
of yoga. From the Nâthas came ha†ha yoga. And from it came these vari-
ous disciplines, which enable you to go into the prâ∫âyâmas, then into
concentration and meditation. But you should prove to your guru that
you are disciplined first. Truly, ha†ha yoga is the beginning of all yogas. It
is the ideal exercise for human beings.
Ha†ha yoga is an excellent preparation for meditation. Though medi-
tation can be performed without doing ha†ha yoga âsanas, it is an aid,
a great helping hand, especially for the beginning student. One of the
greatest benefits is that it makes the devotee aware of his nerve sys-
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tem—first that he has one, second that it has three or four sections, and
third that the nerve feelings within his feet are different from those of his
hands and again different from those in his head, and so on. Through
this study, he learns that the nerve system and awareness and energy are
all synonymous. He becomes aware that he is aware, that he can move
awareness from one area to another. Therefore, in daily life he begins to
do just that—move awareness out of unhappy conditions of the mind
into happy ones, deliberately and at will, for when man equates aware-
ness with the nerve system and with energy, he has, therefore, willpower
and can become aware of what he wants to be aware of at will.

Singling Out Seeds of Desire

There is a classic question, “What way is there to control our desires and
thus stay balanced?” Years ago, in 1950, I answered this concisely in an
aphorism of Cognizantability, which you can read in Merging with Íiva.
Here is that aphorism: “The seed of desire is a false concept in relation to
corresponding objects. The conscious mind throws into its subconscious
a series of erroneous thoughts based upon a false concept. This creates a
deep-rooted desire or complex. Single out the seed of desire by disregard-
ing all other corresponding erroneous thoughts. Then destroy that seed
through understanding its relation in itself, and to all other correspond-
ing thoughts. The deep-rooted desire or complex will then vanish.”
Our deep-rooted desires or complexes—which are the battle within
everyone during certain periods of life—must be defused first. But in
order to defuse them, we have to find them. In other words, we have to
bring our mind to a point where we can concentrate without any effort,
where our mind is so calm and so quiet that we have effortless concen-
tration. In other words, we have to bring our mind to a point where the
subconscious mind itself is concentrated, giving birth to an inner peace
which surpasses all understanding. In order to do this, the system of
ha†ha yoga was unfolded to very great teachers many thousands of years
ago and handed down from teacher to teacher; and one of my teachers
handed it down to me.
Ha†ha yoga is a system of handling the physical body so that you quiet
it through the subconscious mind. Ha†ha yoga is founded on the prin-
ciple of holding the body in a traditional posture until the nerve currents
figuratively speaking, get tuned up to a perfect pitch. It is like tuning the
strings on a vî∫â. If you tune the vî∫â just right, each string will be in
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harmony with the others. In ha†ha yoga we remain in each posture, each
âsana, until the whole nature is tuned up to that posture. Change into
another position and the whole nature will get tuned up to that position,
therefore bringing calmness by tuning up the body.
For instance, I extend my right arm out to the side and hold it there.
For the first thirty seconds the arm may feel very comfortable , and I will
feel all the nerve currents adjusting themselves to that position. After
thirty or forty seconds, the arm will begin to feel heavy, and the part of
the subconscious mind that controls the body will say, “All the nerve cur-
rents have been tuned up to this position. It is time to move to another
position.” At this point, I move into another position, while visualizing
the corresponding color. I again feel the nerve currents readjusting and
tuning up to that position. Then the corresponding part of the sub-
conscious mind will again inform me that the arm has been there long
enough, and I should move into another position. After going through
three positions, this arm feels entirely different from the other arm. It
feels alive and vibrant, like a well-tuned vî∫â, while the other arm feels
ordinary, like any old vî∫â that has been lying around.
This is how ha†ha yoga works: no stretching, no straining, no pulling,
no stressing, as the whole body is tuned up to a perfect pitch. You will
find that if you practice this series of âsanas regularly over a period of
time, you will be able to concentrate without any effort whatsoever. In
other words, you will be in an automatic state of concentration. You will
be alive consciously and much more alive subconsciously than you have
ever experienced if you practice this form of ha†ha yoga consistently and
live a balanced, dharmic life in keeping with the yamas and niyamas.
When the body is tuned up through the correct practice of ha†ha
yoga, systematically over a long period of time, the mind becomes so
acute that the student is able to single out the seed of desire by disre-
garding all other corresponding erroneous thoughts. In other words, in
the practice of this alone, he is beginning to burn out the seeds of desire
from within. When a student practices ha†ha yoga past the elementary
stages, he is watched by his teacher, who observes the progress by eval-
uating his vibrations, the effect on the skin, etc. Ideally, the student is
becoming more spiritual by perfecting the physical body. Through this
practice, the physical body will become supple, healthy and good look-
ing. If a person is too heavy, the metabolism will adjust itself. If a person
is too light, it will adjust accordingly. Through this practice, the body is
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becoming a perfect vehicle for the soul to live in. The tensions that have
been built up through the years become fleeting, the mind becomes alive
and he is able to single out the seed of desire and, in the light of under-
standing, destroy it. What does that do? That gives birth to a great wis-
dom through the subconscious mind. In other words, you don’t have to
think to know. You know, and thinking is a result. Then you are able to
become affectionately detached in all of your relations and find a greater
love through understanding.

Health and Longevity

Ha†ha yoga, coupled with âyurveda, regulates the heat of the body, and it
is the heat of the body that prevents and wards off disease and all health
problems. Therefore, Ha†ha yoga and âyurveda, which balance the ener-
gies of the entire body, should be practiced throughout one’s lifetime for
health and well-being. Satguru Siva Yogaswami, knowing all this, often
said a fever is a blessing. From the ha†ha yoga perspective, it is the heat
that destroys, or fries, the germs. It also relaxes the muscle tissue and har-
monizes the central and sympathetic nervous system, not unlike taking
a very hot bath.
Ha†ha yoga and âyurveda also produce heat in the body. They work
together. There is a formula for increasing the heat of the body in winter
and reducing it in summer. When people are discouraged or depressed,
the heat of the body goes down. When they are angry and excited, the
heat of the body goes up. This is an unregulated heat, guided by emotion.
When we eat certain foods, the heat of the body goes up. Other foods
make the heat of the body go down. This fluctuation has its correspond-
ing effects on the moods and emotions. It is the regulation and balance of
this heat that ha†ha yoga and âyurveda seek for a healthy and productive
life. Ha†ha yoga can cure diseases that can be cured through the balancing
of the i∂â and the piˆgalâ, which often brings a diet change, eating good
foods according to the guidelines of âyurveda.
Acupuncture and massage are also a part of ha†ha yoga, a part of the
same science of ha and †ha. Acupuncture, which also works directly on
the nervous system, is a refinement of it, as is moving the pra∫as of the
body through tai chi chuan. Ha†ha yoga does not end with the ha†ha yoga
âsanas. All the rest are part of it, as are hot and cold baths, mineral baths,
hot sand and proper foods. Ha†ha yoga takes in âyurveda and âyurveda
takes in ha†ha yoga. They are all of a one interrelated system, just like
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dance. Dance is not only the movement of the body; it is exercise, rhythm,
drama, the knowledge of music, knowledge of timing and more. It’s an
all-inclusive art. Similarly, âyurveda does not stand alone. It’s a part of
ha†ha yoga. It is the science of life. I would recommend chiropractic to
also be a part of the practice of ha†ha yoga. The tendons are the inhibit-
ing factor. There is no greater healing to be released into the body than
through ha†ha yoga, âyurveda, acupuncture and chiropractic.
When i∂â and piˆgalâ are balanced, the sushum∫â is activated. Ha†ha
yoga balances the i∂â and the piˆgalâ because it balances the entire body
in which the i∂â and piˆgalâ run. When the i∂â and the piˆgalâ are bal-
anced, the devotee is very present. He is very present. He is not conscious
of the past, not conscious of the future. Many take the activation of the
sushum∫â as the cultivation of ku∫∂alinî. Sushum∫â is the spiritual force.
It is also the healing force, the primal energy, not only within the physi-
cal body, but the astral and mental bodies as well. All self-healings are
done through the sushum∫â current. It is neither hot nor cold. It is of
itself, unto itself, ever present. It gives the all-pervading feeling of the
now consciousness. It is râja yoga practice that awakens the ku∫∂alinî
and guides its journey through the chakras. The ku∫∂alinî permanently
alters consciousness by slowly expanding it into superconscious realms.
It is the hot fire that burns cold, that cuts through the force centers which
the sushum∫â holds together and energizes.
It is the fire which burns hot, through the i∂â and piˆgalâ, if it has
been forced into action through premature râja yoga practices. But it
burns as a cool fire through the sushum∫â, altering consciousness all the
way, if the devotee has been properly prepared for many years. This prep-
aration is done by performing charyâ, which is karma yoga; kriyâ, which
is bhakti yoga, unqualified surrender; and japa yoga, unceasing repeti-
tion of mantras; with a firm Íaivite Hindu religious-cultural background
firmly implanted in the subconscious mind and followed as a way of life.
That is why ha†ha is the basis of yoga which all the swâmîs teach. Then
from that you go to karma yoga, to bhakti yoga, japa yoga, râja yoga and
finally to jñâna.
When the i∂â and piˆgalâ —the ha and the †ha—are balanced, the
spiritual force is there, the pure life energy, sushum∫â, and it actually
seems to rise up the spine, because the i∂â and piˆgalâ balance from the
base of the spine up to the nape of the neck. A great peace pervades the
seeker, a feeling of nowness, happiness, contentment—but there is no
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altering of consciousness.
Through the sushum∫â current, the energy continually flows down
through the top of the head to the base of the spine. It carries with it the
karma of this life, determining the character of the person, the form and
shape of the body. It is the life force that is in tune with the entire uni-
verse, feeding through not only the i∂â and piˆgalâ but all the organs of
the astral body and mental body. It is this current that one goes into in
deep sleep and wakes up energized.
Now, this has nothing to do with the ku∫∂alinî force. The sushum∫â is
not an altering-of-consciousness force. It is a sustaining-of-consciousness
force. It is the force of sanity. Therefore, performing ha†ha yoga, especially
in the modern age, when we can become so externalized through emo-
tional upheavals and overt mental activity, brings one back to oneself. We
could say the sushum∫â is the purusha force, the soul force. It is where the
jîva lives in the physical body.

Untying Karmic Knots

God Íiva created the soul perfect, but the mischievous actions of the jîvas,
embodied souls, manifest various entanglements, karmas, actions and
reactions. Fresh karmas are embedded in the sympathetic nerve system,
and if serious, in the central nerve system. Ha†ha yoga is the healer, the
first-aid kit, for the results of mischievous actions of Íiva’s jîvas.
I∂â and piˆgalâ are the tools of the jîva to express its creativity and
work through its various karmas of each birth. The nervous system is
the vehicle for the soul’s experience of karma, the back-and-forth bat-
tle within the physical, sensual universe. Therefore it needs to be strong.
Ha†ha yoga is exercise for the nervous system, the only science for this
purpose, reaping a strong network in which the soul can go through
these experiences. Ha†ha yoga balance brings the sushum∫â into promi-
nence, keeps the system healthy by being balanced and being fed by the
sushum∫â. It is the ku∫∂alinî force rising through the nervous system that
builds a new nerve system.
Ha†ha yoga can also be of psychological, mental benefit. It is a do-it-
yourself psychological tool, a harmless antidote to physical, mental and
emotional diseases. It is a harmless remedy for uneasiness. Ha†ha yoga
exercises the physical body and the emotional body, which is the astral
body, in a controlled and a systematic way. A byproduct of this is a cer-
tain amount of benefit to the mental body. Its conscious and subcon-
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scious states of mind become quiescent. Superconsciousness temporarily

prevails. That makes it the first of the yogas and the last of the yogas. The
jñâni will practice ha†ha yoga, the râja yogî would, so would the bhakti
yogî, so would the karma yogî, as would all who own a physical body. It
is all-inclusive and will amplify the results of all the other yogas that are
going on. It would lead one to the Hindu temple, to the Gods. They are
the great psychologists and psychiatrists for the Hindu. Because ha†ha
yoga really does stimulate the ku∫∂alinî ßakti, Lord Ganeßa is stimulated
within the mûlâdhâra chakra, and one is drawn to Lord Ga∫eßa in a tem-
ple, or to a picture of Him.
If we are flowing through an area of the mind where we are aware
of the emotional area of the nerve system, if we are having mental argu-
ments with ourselves and we sit down and begin to practice the ha†ha
yoga âsanas, we become aware of energy in its natural state. We cease
being aware of energy in its mirage of vibrations of the external nerve
system. We have, in effect, shifted gears from the external to the internal
after doing a few âsanas. This does not mean that after we finish our
ha†ha yoga session that we cannot get up and go into another room and
continue the argument with ourself, or go back into the confused area of
the mind of fears, worries or doubts.
If you have a negative experience with someone, ha†ha yoga can help
you regain a balance. If someone antagonizes you, you feel it in your
solar plexus and nervous system. You can either swim ten laps, run a
mile or perform ha†ha yoga to regain your inner balance. It harmonizes
the forces of the physical and emotional bodies. It does not erase the
incident from the mind. Nor does it resolve the matter. That requires
other practical steps, such as sitting down and talking it over with the
person or performing vâsanâ daha tantra. You still remember the situa-
tion, and if you start recollecting it, you stir up the memory in the solar
plexus. You can swim ten laps, run a mile or perform ha†ha yoga to again
regain your poise. So, we can clearly see that ha†ha yoga is a yoking of the
physical, emotional and mental bodies. As its name indicates, the yoga of
ha and †ha, sun and moon, piˆgalâ and i∂â, creates a unified body.
Karmas manifest in the nervous system, be they good, bad or mixed.
This is all most desirable for the individual, in that it compels him to use
his self-propelling force. All small and large tensions in the body are the
result of mixed karmas and bad karmas that have not been resolved. Pos-
itive karmas create no tensions within the body. They dispel disease, har-
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monize the nerve system and keep the muscles relaxed. Karmas are forces
leading to fulfillment, set in motion by the individual himself somewhere
in his past. The performance of ha†ha yoga, balancing of the ha and the
†ha, untangles the nerve system and regulates the timing of these karmas,
so that they do not, in their fulfillment, reentangle the nerve system.
Congested, unresolved, seeking-to-be-dissolved karma manifests as
knots in the nerve system which can be seen as darkness or redness in the
aura. You can carefully work with them through ha†ha yoga, âyurveda,
massage, chiropractic and acupuncture. With this union of approaches,
results will be obtained that will be very satisfactory. Resolution can be
stimulated through loosening the karmas through ha†ha yoga. Then,
when they come up in the mind or in interpersonal relationships, the
use of spiritual journaling, vâsanâ daha tantra; the use of bhakti yoga
techniques, putting the problems at the feet of the Deities and sending
prayers to the devas; the practice of karma yoga, selfless service; and of
japa yoga will eventually resolve these karmas by dissolving the emotion
connected to the memory patterns.
Young people, before the age of twenty-five, in the brahmacharya
âßrama, are generally more consistent with their ha†ha yoga practices
than older people. This is not just because they are young, but because
few of their prârabdha karmas have manifested. From twenty-five to fifty,
the prârabdha karmas of this life manifest in their fullness. This is the
time when ha†ha yoga is most beneficial. Some of the karmas created
in past lives manifest first in the astral body, then in the physical body.
Through ha†ha yoga and simple prâ∫âyâma, they can be conquered in
the astral body itself. However, if they are persistent karmas, manifest-
ing in the physical body as tensions, ha†ha yoga becomes a total life- and
environment-changing process.
Often people give up ha†ha yoga to stop the process of change. Oth-
ers persist and finally dissolve the karmas systematically, one after the
other. We often see people begin on the spiritual path and then abruptly
leave it, burying themselves in their moods and emotions. The regular
practice of ha†ha yoga is self-discipline, which is a basic aid in character
building. A good character and strong willpower are essential to advance
oneself spiritually. Ha†ha yoga may be done all through life. If a person
gives it up, he suffers the consequences. It is the most perfect form of
exercise. But it is certainly not the yoga of all yogas. It is a physical, men-
tal, emotional, intellectual harmonization. When you have taken unto
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yourself many responsibilities and divided your awareness, ha†ha yoga

often becomes one of your last priorities and you may neglect it and, in
a sense, sacrifice your body for your duties. But that does not mean that
you are going to be rewarded with a lot of health or longevity. You will
have to compensate by doing a lot of walking. I think that ha†ha yoga is
the overlord of all exercises. Each posture affects a certain organ and a
state of mind connected to that organ.
Karma can be experienced externally, or internally in a softened way,
through ha†ha yoga. It is according to the nature of the karma that the
devotee experiences one kind of release or another. Small karmas can
be totally dissolved within oneself. Large, negative and mixed karmas
would return, and if there is a lesson to be learned will be experienced
in the outside world but mitigated or softened through ha†ha yoga and
the vâsanâ daha tantra, which if practiced regularly do bring flashes of
superconsciousness into the person’s understanding mechanism.
There is still another kind of karma that people carry, and that is the
karma of other people. Certain people are parasitic and want someone
else to live their life for them. These kinds of karmas can be very heavy
on the nerve system. But they can be resolved and thrown off immedi-
ately through ha†ha yoga. We cannot help but help our loved ones with
their karmic experiences. Therefore, the ha†ha yoga and basic prâ∫âyâma
techniques and all that we have explained so far keep the motherly and
fatherly people of this world helpful but unburdened.

Western Seekers
The millions of people who practice ha†ha yoga just to stay limber and
beautiful are also on the path of mitigating mixed and negative karmas.
Even the time that they use performing ha†ha yoga keeps them out of mis-
chief. Anyone who is practicing ha†ha yoga, no matter what his basic belief
system is, is exposed to basic tenets of Hinduism. He becomes attracted
to books on ha†ha yoga, written in India, which are full of Hinduism.
Ha†ha yoga has come to be a basic household yoga in the modern world.
This is a break-away from tradition, but it has worked out well.
Many seekers delve into elaborate, high-powered prâ∫âyâmas, breath-
ing practices. But you don’t need elaborate or high-powered prâ∫âyâmas
for effective ha†ha yoga. The simplest are the best. There are two ways to
practice prâ∫âyâma. One is to control and regulate the breath, which in
turn regulates the prâ∫as. The other is to use the breath and the prâ∫as to
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awaken the ku∫∂alinî fire. This is râja yoga, not ha†ha yoga. Ha†ha yoga is
balancing the heat and cold that already exist within the body. Râja yoga
is awakening the fire to deliberately burn out karmas that have not yet
manifested in this life—good, bad and mixed—or which may not mani-
fest until another life. There is a great difference here. Many other yogas
have to be gone through and perfected before râja yoga should be prac-
ticed. A university medical school does not put a scalpel in the hand of a
novice. In râja yoga, the patient is himself. He must be well prepared.
What is the phenomenon of spontaneous, uncontrollable move-
ments and shaking of the body that seekers sometimes display? These
“kriyâs” are similar to other emotional releases, like laughing and crying,
depression and demobilization of physical functions through the loss of
the will. They come spontaneously, often unbidden, and are more often
experienced by those who do not have a firm philosophical Sanâtana
Dharma foundation within their subconscious mind. These actions are
wrongly thought to be desirable signs of spiritual progress, but in reality
they are unnecessary shaking and jerking of the body. In Íaiva Siddhânta,
this is not a part of spiritual practice, but is considered a fairly primitive
release, as is speaking in tongues, the primal scream and incomprehen-
sible trances which, as described by the ®ishis, one goes into as a fool and
comes out of as a fool. None of these are transforming to consciousness;
they are emotional releases.
A regular regime of ha†ha yoga can help harmonize and stabilize those
kinds of outbursts. It harmonizes the heat and cold, which harmonizes
the ups and downs of emotion. The full intent of a developing society is
to foster controls. Ha†ha yoga is a control. So are the basic prâ∫âyâmas.
They add to a flourishing society. We are not in favor of going back to
primitive, uncontrolled outbursts and fostering departures from society
by individuals with no structure whatsoever to sustain themselves. This
is the cultish nuisance which society deplores today.

The Nerve System

In ha†ha yoga we are moving our awareness from an external part of the
nerve system to an internal part of the nerve system. In doing so, the
physical cells adjust. It takes time for the physical body to change. There-
fore, ha†ha yoga and âyurvedic nutrition for meditation should be worked
on consistently over a period of time for positive results to manifest—at
least one year or a year and a half.
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As we move awareness into the internal nerve system, the physical

body begins to respond. It begins to become lighter. The muscles begin
to relax. There have been people who have experienced states of super-
consciousness which enabled them to immediately to sit in lotus posi-
tion, padmâsana; whereas previously they couldn’t sit in that position at
all. The superconscious system completely dominated the external nerve
system with a rush of bouncing energy, and that internal nerve system
took over the physical body temporarily.
This is what we want to accomplish. We want to be living in the inner
nerve system and have it motivate the forces of the physical body, rather
than living in the external nerve system, which should basically take care
of the functions of elimination, keeping the blood circulating and the
other instinctive functions of the body. Because we become conscious
of the nerve system as being the physical body, we relinquish our con-
sciousness of skin and bones as being the physical body. That’s also what
we do when we learn to dance. It is the nerve system that dances. The
physical body’s movement is only a reaction. Therefore, one could dance
sitting still, not moving at all.
From a mystical perspective, the nerve system is the area of the mind
within man’s body through which energy bounces. It is through the
nerve system that we become aware of three worlds: the external world,
objects, things, people; the world of thought, concepts, precepts, light;
and the world of rarefied space, of inner space in the internal areas of
the mind. Energy bounding through the nerve system is encased in an
energy sheath which disseminates highly charged actinic energy into
another type of energy called actinodic force, and then into odic force.
The subtle nerve system is unseen by any type of physical mechanism,
in the same way electricity is unseen. This is called the psychic nerve
system. The physical nerve system can be seen, as this energy becomes
translated into odic force. These nerve systems in depth in the external
working together cause man to be what he is as man.
A good way to portray the inner nerve currents would be with the
example of an onion. You have one skin on top of another skin on top of
another skin on top of another skin—or like a gem stone, for instance a
diamond. You have one layer on top of another layer on top of another
layer on top of another layer. Esoterically, nerve currents are not like
a bunch of little wires. That is only seeming. That is the way it looks
when you look from the external world in, but when you look from the
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inner world out, you see them in sheaths or layers, completely covering
the entire being of man, one vibratory rate to another that awareness is
moving through. It’s not flowing out one little channel and another, so
to speak. Nerve currents are like great rooms of a house rather than the
hallways. Try to experience for yourself this new way of looking at nerve
currents. Visualize yourself as an onion.
The practice of ha†ha yoga âsanas makes us aware of the totality of the
nerve system, both the inner realms of the nerve system and the external.
Man in everyday life is only aware of his external nerve system. He is not
aware of the internal, and he is not aware that he is unaware of the inter-
nal areas of the nerve system. He is only aware of the external, of what he
sees and what is in the immediate range of his feeling mechanism, his
emotional mechanism and intellectual mechanism, and he generally is
programmed to feel and see more or less the same things all the time.
That’s why he wishes to go on a vacation, so he can see and feel differ-
ent, or exercise other areas of the nerve system. The practice of ha†ha
yoga brings awareness of the other areas of the nerve system which are
active all the time, and thus brings a certain improvement in physical
health and emotional relaxation, simply because awareness is transferred
from one area of the nerve system into another, and mental peace is felt
because he is aware of the area of the nerve system which is peaceful.
Ha†ha yoga âsanas loosen the muscles around the bones and increase
the circulation of the blood, causing man to be aware of the nerve sys-
tem as it flows through the physical body only. Man in everyday life is
aware of the nerve system as it flows through the emotions or through
the intellect. A new, challenging idea comes to him, and he begins to go
into the thinking area of the mind. If he becomes confused in that area, it
reacts back emotionally on him. Many, many hours of the day, he is not
aware of the physical body or the energies flowing through it. Ha†ha yoga
brings awareness right to the physical body, right into the spine, where
energy begins flowing through the physical body, the emotions and the
mind. He studies these energies and becomes what is called perceptive, or
he becomes aware in the area of the mind that is refined.

Threefold Purpose
In summary, the purpose of ha†ha yoga as taught in the Himalayan Acad-
emy is threefold. 1) First is self-discipline. To regulate the study into a
daily practice, the seeker has to actually perform this discipline with his
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physical body each day. This regulates his time and builds a good habit
pattern for his approach to meditation. 2) Second is control of aware-
ness. Immediately the seeker gains the ability to detach awareness from
that which it is aware of and fulfill the first step of the basic philosophy.
3) Third is mastery of the nerve system and preparation for meditation.
Ha†ha yoga makes the seeker aware of the inner nerve system as opposed
to the outer nerve system. Thus it sets the stage for him to begin his
meditations in the correct area of the nerve system. In one area of the
nerve system we approach daily life. In another area of the nerve system
we approach meditation. Awareness travels between the two. The mature,
unfolded mystic is fully conscious of both areas of the nerve system and
therefore is within himself while doing his daily duties.
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Twenty-Four Ha†ha Yoga Åsanas

A System of Body Tuning and Preparation for Meditation

RESENTED HERE ARE EIGHT SETS OF THREE POS-

TURES TO BE PERFORMED IN SERIES. THESE RELA-
TIVELY EASY ÅSANAS CONSTITUTE A BALANCED SYS-
TEM FOR DAILY USE. EACH POSE IS TO BE HELD IN
RELAXED STILLNESS FOR 30 TO 120 SECONDS, WITH-
out straining. As maximum stretch and flexibility are achieved, subtle
stimulation of the physical and psychic nerve system occurs.
Perform the postures daily in the privacy of your own room, without
drawing attention to yourself. Naturally, they should not be performed
after meals. Don’t worry if you can’t perform the poses perfectly, or if
some are difficult for you. Do the best you can. Progress at your own pace.
With practice, you will find the body becoming more supple, reflecting the
mind’s flexibility, alertness and freedom from subconscious repressions.
By controlling breath we control thought and life energy, or prâ∫a. Yogîs
call this prâ∫âyâma. The prâ∫âyâma for these âsanas is simple: breathe
in for nine equal counts (ideally counting with the heartbeat), then hold
one count, breathe out nine counts, hold one, and so on.
Each set includes a color visualization to quiet the mind and intensify
healing. The color described at the top of each page is the color to visual-
ize while in the poses on that page. Mentally fill your body with that color,
from your head to your toes; or imagine yourself suspended in space,
surrounded on all sides by the color. If you discover tensions in the body
or mind, visualize them flowing away as you exhale. At the end of your
yoga session, sit quietly and plunge into meditation. Tradition sets the best
times for ha†ha yoga at dawn, noon and twilight. Minimally, only twelve
minutes of time is needed.
Cautions: Anyone with neck or back problems should abstain from
poses that place strain on the spine, such as the headstand and the shoul-
der stand. For best results, ha†ha yoga should be taught by a qualified
teacher. The instructions given here are a rudimentary aid.
At dawn a devotee practices an advanced ha†ha yoga âsana as part of a series that will pre-
pare him for meditation. Each day in his shrine room, where Lord Ga∫eßa has been installed
in a stone wall, he follows a one-hour spiritual routine of yoga, worship and meditation.
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Set One Visualize deep, ruby red for physical vitality.

1. Bend the right leg back around the

thigh and tuck the right foot along
the contour of the buttocks. Bring the
left leg in front of the torso, tucking
it close to the groin. Hands are on the
knees, in the âkâßa mudra, palms up,
thumb and index fingers touching.
Keep the spine, the powerhouse of the
body, straight and the head erect and
balanced at the top of the spine.

2. Assume the same posture as in

âsana one, but with the leg positions
reversed. Remember to keep the spine
erect and the head balanced atop the
spine. Become aware of the breath,
equalized as nine counts in, holding
one count, and nine counts out. Flood
your mind and body with ruby red
throughout this set. Do not strain; try
to relax into the pose, letting go of all
anxieties.

3. Tuck the right leg into the groin

area, then place the left leg in front
of it. This is a variation of the
accomplished pose, siddhâsana,
⁄–ØÛŸÛ –≤. If possible, keep both legs
resting fully on the floor. Try to sense
the energy of the inner and outer
nerve system building up to a high
point as you sustain each pose. When
this peak is felt, gracefully shift during
the out-breath to the next âsana.
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Set Two Visualize marigold orange for pure, selfless service.

4. From the last pose of set

one straighten the left leg,
lean forward and grasp the
left foot with the thumb and
index fingers of both hands.
This is the jânu ßîrshâsana,
úŸ≤‹À¤ŒŸ@–≤, head-to-knee
pose. Relax into the posi-
tion, letting the head drop
lower and lower. In full flexibility the head rests on the knee, elbows
lower to the floor, and the torso rests on the leg.

5. Perform the same pose

on the right side. Do not
strain; rather relax into the
pose, letting all anxieties
depart. Remain conscious
of your breath and mentally
surround yourself with the
color orange. Be perfectly at
ease, one with Íiva’s perfect
universe.

6. Extend both legs into

the forward bend, paßchi-
mottânâsana, ¥⁄ÀºË%Ÿ
≤Ÿ–≤. Grasp the toes with
the thumb and index
fingers and let the head
gently lower to the knees.
In the ideal pose, the legs
are straight and elbows will
lower to the floor.
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Set Three Visualize sun-glow yellow for purified intellect.

7. Lying face-up on the floor, raise the

legs and—with the hands in the mid-back
region to support the body—raise the
torso until the entire body is vertical over
the shoulders. This is the shoulder stand,
sarvâˆgâsana, –ΔŸ@óŸÓ –≤. Keep the spine
straight, feet together, torso perpendicu-
lar to the floor. Visualize yellow. ¶As you
perform the ha†ha yoga âsanas, put out of
your mind all thoughts relating to your
work, family, friends, associates, problems
and challenges that normally concern
you. Relax. Relax. Relax. Be completely at
peace with yourself and fully enjoy this
contemplative art.

8. Lower the legs slowly

over the head until the
toes touch the floor. Then
lower the arms, palms
down. This is the plough
pose, halâsana, “ƒŸ–≤.

9. End the set with the corpse pose, ßarvâsana, ÀΔŸ@–≤, by lowering the
legs to the floor in front of you. Let the hands rest loosely by the sides,
palms down.
Every muscle is
relaxed. Imagine
you are float-
ing in the ocean,
without a worry
in the world.
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Set Four Visualize emerald green for physical/emotional health.

10. Kneel and spread the feet apart, and

sit between the ankles, hands on the
knees, palms down. This is the heroic
pose, vîrâsana, Δ¤¿Ÿ–≤. Visualize emerald
green. In all poses, breathe deeply, fully
and diaphragmatically. Let go of tensions
in the solar plexus until you are breath-
ing as a baby breathes—not by moving
the chest, but by allowing the diaphragm
to lower and expand naturally. Think
of the action of a bellows which, when
expanded, creates a vacuum and allows
air to enter. Do not force the breath; relax
the body and quiet the mind.

11. Still kneeling, arch

back as far as possible until
the head touches the floor
behind you. This is the
couch pose, paryaˆkâsana,
¥æ@óŸÏ –≤. Hold the palms
together over the chest in
namaskâra.

12. When you reach the

height of energy, bring the
torso up (ideally without
aid from the arms) and
bend forward until the
forehead touches the
floor, palms down near
the head, buttocks on the
floor between the ankles.
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Set Five Visualize bright royal blue for peace of mind.

13. Move the upper body

forward, inhale, arch the
back slowly and extend
the arms until straight, in
the cobra pose, bhujaˆg-
âsana, ∫‹úóÓŸ–≤. Hold
the pose for two or three
breaths, then lower the
torso gracefully, one ver-
tebrae at a time starting at
the base of the spine.

14. Bring the legs up, reach back

and clasp the ankles. Inhale as
you pull the legs up and raise the
head and upper body into the
bow pose, dhanurâsana, ∞≤‹¿Ÿ–≤.
Look up and back. Hold for two
or three rounds of breathing.
Visualize royal blue. Exhale as you
release the legs and lower to the
full prone position.

15. Rise into a kneel-

ing position, buttocks
on the ankles, and
lower the upper body
to the floor, in the
pañchâˆga pra∫âmâsana,
¥ZŸŸóÓ¥®˘ ŸºŸ–≤, “five-limb
prostration,” forehead
touching the floor, arms
forward, palms down.
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Set Six Visualize purple for the outpouring of spiritual knowledge.

16. From the last âsana, move the body

forward and form a triangle of fore-
arms and head, hands clasped behind
the head, fingers interwoven. The hair-
line touches the floor. Raise the body
slowly, keeping the knees bent. Pause,
then extend the legs vertically into the
headstand, sâlamba ßîrshâsana, –ŸƒΩ∏
À¤ŒŸ@–≤. Keep most of the body weight
on the arms, not the head.

17. When ready to come down, bend

and tuck in the knees and carefully
lower into the curled pelvic pose.
Remain for at least eight cycles of
breath to allow the blood to equalize.
Fill your mind with purple.

18. Slowly rise into the upright pelvic

pose, hands on knees, palms down.
Keep the head down momentarily
against the chest in a bandha, or lock,
and then straighten the neck.
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Set Seven Visualize lavender to purify karma through divine sight.

19. Sit on the left hip and place the

right foot over the left knee. Insert
the left arm under the bent right knee.
Extend the right arm behind the back
and clasp the left hand with the right,
or, as an easier alternative, grasp the
right knee with the left arm. Keep the
spine as straight as possible. This is
the spinal twist, matsyendrâsana,
º´—æ‰≥Æ˙Ÿ–≤. Turn the head slowly to
the left each time you inhale, and back
to the right as you exhale.

20. Repeat the spinal twist pose on the

opposite side, visualizing lavender. In
each âsana, be totally at ease. Harness-
ing the breath’s three phases (inhala-
tion, retention and exhalation) directs
the flow of calming and relaxing body
and mind.

21. Coming out of the twist, bring the

soles together and hold the feet with
both hands in the bound-eagle pose,
baddha ko∫âsana, ∏ØÛéË®Ÿ–≤. Let the
knees lower to the floor. Free the mind
of thoughts and tensions, and you
will be more aware, more alive, more
serene.
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Set Eight Visualize white for purity in thought, word and deed.

22. Extend the right leg and

place the left ankle high
on the right thigh. Stretch
forward and clasp the right
foot with the thumb and
index finger. Visualize white.
This is a variation of the
head-to-knee pose, janu ßîr-
shâsana, úŸ≤‹À¤ŒŸ@–≤.

23. Repeat this same pro-

cedure on the left side,
with the right foot on the
left thigh. Åsanas elon-
gate, tone and strengthen
muscle tissue, massage
the organs, stimulate the
nerves and balance the
piˆgalâ and i∂â nâ∂îs.

24. Finally, assume the lotus posture, pad-

mâsana, ¥Æ˜Ÿ–≤. The right foot is already
on the left thigh. To complete the lotus,
carefully place the left foot on the right
thigh. Spine straight with the hands resting
in the lap, palms open, right hand on
top, with the thumbs gently touching in
dhyâna mudra. When physical tensions are
released through ha†ha yoga, mental-emo-
tional tensions are automatically dissolved.
This is a great secret and a wonderful tool
that you can use every day of your life.
 Daßamâμßa
dxamaa\xa

resource two
Religion’s Dues

When a man is born, whoever he may be, there

is born simultaneously a debt to the Gods, to the
sages, to the ancestors and to men.
Íukla Yajur Veda, Íatapatha Brâhma∫a, 1.7.2.1 ve, 393
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OW WE SHALL EXPLAIN HOW THE SPIRITUAL PRAC-

TICE OF TITHING, PAYING MONTHLY RELIGIOUS
DUES OF TEN PERCENT, CREATES WEALTH OVER
TIME FOR INDIVIDUALS AND FAMILIES ALIKE—A
WEALTH THAT IS BLESSED TO NEVER GAIN LOSSES,
but to perpetuate itself generation after generation. Read on and learn!
Tithing is giving ten percent, not a dollar more, not a dollar less; not a
rupee more, not a rupee less; not a pound more, not a pound less; not a
lira more, not a lira less.

God’s Money
Everything—from a lump of carbon to a dazzling diamond, a molecule of
oxygen to the galactic explosion of a star gone supernova—is of the Being
of God. We place lesser and greater value upon things usually dependent
upon our interests. Ultimately, we would have to say that everything is
God’s, including what we manufacture from native elements. Indeed, if
all the trillions of dollars, rupees, yen, pounds, rubles, Deutschmarks and
francs, and all the precious metals and gems were gathered and com-
pressed together into one giant cube, any Hindu would readily have to
admit that man’s money and the planet’s minerals are really God’s.
So, in the first sense, God’s money is the sum of all monetary val-
ues. Connecting this idealistic perspective to a practical one, where we as
individuals are engaged in the dharmic pursuit of wealth, God’s money is
what we dedicate to God, as our religious dues, to perpetuate His greater
spiritual design for our planet. This is also true for our personal use of
time. God’s time is what we dedicate, as roughly ten percent of our time,
toward service that furthers our religion. This is outside of the time spent
in our personal spiritual practices: home pûjâ, scripture reading, japa,
sâdhana and meditation.
This resource is about joyously returning each month ten percent
of our earnings and gifts to God for our own spiritual upliftment and
economic welfare, and for the support and perpetuation of our Hindu
religion, the Sanâtana Dharma, the “Eternal Path.” This is the spiritual
practice, the unfolding process, of daßamâμßa. In the West it is known as
tithe, which means “a tenth.” Among the world’s religions and faiths, it is
Knowing that all of life’s bounty and abundance comes from God, Hindus take joy in giving
back a generous portion. Here men, women and children bring baskets of fruit, cloth, jewelry,
foods and money to lay at Lord Íiva’s Holy Feet for Íaivism to flourish on the Earth.
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an ancient common denominator. In the earliest known historical civili-

zations, Egypt, Sumeria (Mesopotamia) and the Indus Valley, all of which
were theocracies, or “God-governed,” the totality of the annual produce
of the land was, in principle, pledged to the Gods in their temples, then
redistributed to the populace.
Imagine the phenomenal results if the ancient practice of daßamâμßa
were fully revitalized today. There are over a billion Hindus worldwide.
Some 940 million live in India. A large percentage of those, say 600
million, are financially poor—the per capita annual income in India
is around us$444. Yet, even if each offered one dollar (which is only a
little more than two thousanth’s of one percent) as God’s money every
year, that would total $600 million annually for Hindu institutions from
the poor sector alone. If a full ten percent were paid, the amount would
be $26.64 billion each year. The remaining 330 million Hindus in India,
being mostly in the newly formed middle class (paying, say, an average
of $400 tithe per year), would provide an additional annual fund pool
of $132 billion. This does not take into account over sixty million Hin-
dus living outside India, some of whom, especially in Western countries,
make very high salaries, many as doctors or engineers, and even dot com
founders making hundreds of millions. This ancient spiritual levying of
daßamâμßa, religion’s dues, would give Hinduism some $150 billion dol-
lars each year. Since daßamâμßa is paid by each individual to the institu-
tion of his choice, the distribution of the money would be fairly evenly
widespread.
Hinduism, having fully entered the 21st century, urgently needs this
monetary strength. Hinduism is incalculably rich in religious knowledge,
mystic ceremony and spiritual experience. This inner treasure house of
Hinduism will never diminish. But the great periphery that touches every
Hindu’s life does need constant sustenance. Our temples should look
like exquisitely wrought jewelry, worthy earthly abodes for God and the
Gods, spiritually uplifting for devotees. Our monasteries and lecture halls,
schools and cultural centers should glow with inviting beauty and radi-
ate the best the Hindu mind can offer to the world. All Hindus should be
well educated in their faith and have every facility available for advancing
spiritually, socially, economically and culturally. In the past, the present
and into the future, the practice of daßamâμßa has no equal in instilling
closeness to God through our dharma of gaining wealth, and in a steady
provisioning of our religion. It is a proven system needed now.
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In this brief presentation, we also outline the benefits an individual

or an organizational body will gain from giving God’s money. Saiva Sid-
dhanta Church has been managed for almost fifty years on a tithing basis.
It achieves results of people’s lives unfolding into a greater spirituality,
financial security and religious fellowship. These are day-by-day rewards,
not easily summed up in a few sentences. But they distill down to the
fact that members, largely because they practice daßamâμßa, are happy,
healthy, at peace within themselves and among themselves and energeti-
cally enthusiastic about advancing their religion. They have cultivated a
deep sense of selflessness that recognizes God in all dimensions of their
lives. The practice of giving God’s money, religion’s dues, has become a
doorway into tangible inner experience.
Hinduism has always celebrated the merits of giving, both of wealth
and knowledge. The householder gives to the children, the poor and the
sâdhus, the children give to the parents in old age, the elderly give to the
community, the student and sâdhus give to the guru, and the guru gives
to all. It is so much a part of our soul nature to give. Every time we give,
more of our soul nature is expressed. Yet, when it comes to our hard-
earned money, which in Hinduism we call artha, “wealth,” it is some-
times difficult to give, especially on a regular basis and to a society or
institution we may not have a voice in governing. Nevertheless, it is our
dharma to give of our artha. Only by our generous contributions, indi-
vidually and as a group, will Hinduism flourish and grow from strength
to strength. On that the scriptures are unequivocal.

The powerful man should give to one in straits;

let him consider the road that lies ahead!
Riches revolve like a chariot’s wheels,
coming to one man now, then to another.
Âig Veda, 10.117.5. ve, p. 850-851

To not give generously and regularly is to be unduly self-interested, a

condition that will cloud our divine nature and make us feel guilty and
stressful. The practice of tithing will do just the opposite: create posi-
tive karma of abundance and financial opportunity, cultivate family and
community bonding and enhance healthy states of mind. And a group
that is jointly paying religious dues will enjoy a fulfillment, accomplish-
ment and spiritual joy that is collective.
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Examples
An excellent example of the practice of tithing is a group of devotees
of Lord Murugan who, to support His temple, generously gave an even
larger portion of their income than ten percent. They are the Chettiar salt
merchants of Tamil Nadu, South India, who 400 years ago began dedicat-
ing one-eighth or 15 percent of their earnings to Lord Palani of the Palani
Hills Temple. Recorded testimony of the merchants states that, because
of the payment of religious dues, their businesses prospered to the extent
that even the mahârâja took favorable notice. In the Hindu traditions
of South India, donating to charity a fixed percentage of one’s income is
called makimai in the Tamil language.
A contemporary example of tithing is the Swaminarayan Fellowship,
whose leader, Sri Sri Sri Pramukh Swami Maharaj, was accorded the
Renaissance Award by HINDUISM TODAY and named 1995 Hindu of the
Year. His congregation of hundreds of thousands all pay their religious
dues through daßamâμßa. With so many dedicated Fellowship devotees
paying their tithe to their guru, and on top of that giving gold each year
in measure equal to his weight, plus selflessly contributing vast quanti-
ties of their time and encouraging their children to do the same, that all
adds up to a truly powerful force in the world. On the strength of a tith-
ing membership, they built a $4 million temple in the middle of London,
inaugurated in August of 1995. They support a strict monastic order of
over 650 sâdhus, run numerous social services and are single-handedly
educating millions of people all over the world in the cultural sophis-
tication of India’s wonderful Hindu traditions. If more Hindus were to
follow their tithing example, Hinduism would be even stronger than it is
today. We look forward to an abundant future in the decades to come.

Hindu Children
Here is a story that demonstrates the spirit of daßamâμßa. A businessman
in Texas had made several large gifts to the temple and to local charities.
Few calls to him for contributions ever failed to receive a willing response.
His generosity to community causes was well known to many people who
were identified with the organizations he supported. One evening he was
introduced as the key speaker at a banquet. The chairman told of a num-
ber of instances when the man’s generosity had helped to make financial
campaigns successful. When the Texas businessman arose to begin his
address, he was evidently embarrassed. “I want to make it clear that I do
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not deserve credit for what I give to my temple or to any cause in our
community,” he said. “The way I look at it is that I have contributed none
of my own money. The money all belongs to God; for, you see, I am a
tither, having in early childhood taken my tithing vow, my daßama bhâga
vrata.” Most long-time tithers are humble about their regular habit of
setting aside a tenth of their income, especially if they started the habit
at an early age. For they truly have come to feel that they are but the
stewards of God’s money and pay their religion’s dues with a heart full of
gratitude for their abundance, whether large or small.
A California financier related the story of how he began the habit of
tithing. He was one of four boys, all about twelve years of age, who were
received into membership of a Hindu society. At the conclusion of the
pûjâ, an observer remarked to a respected temple elder, “That was cer-
tainly a very auspicious event, wasn’t it, Sir?” “To what do you refer?” the
trustee inquired. “Why, those four boys coming forward into member-
ship and surrendering themselves to our Gods,” the man replied. “Yes, it
was,” the trustee commented, “but they did not bring fruit and flowers as
an offering, nor did they give anything to the hu∫∂i.”
One of the boys (the financier) overheard the conversation. Later he
approached the elder and asked what he would traditionally be expected
to give when coming to pûjâs and for the support of the temple. The elder
explained that every Hindu should bring fruit and flowers when coming
to a pûjâ and that it is a spiritual privilege to pay one-tenth of one’s income
to God in appreciation for His blessings. The elder asked how much the
boy was earning. He replied that his part-time wages were only $35.00
each week. The elder suggested that the lad think of $3.50 a week as his
contribution for the support of the temple and that he should take the
daßama bhâga vrata before he begins to set aside his daßamâμßa. In San-
skrit, vrata means vow or pledge, daßama means tenth, and bhâga means
part or share, the elder told the boy. Daßamâμßa means tithe, and tithe
means a tenth. Immediately setting aside the tithe as soon as money is
received sanctifies the remaining balance. Once the money has thus been
blessed, it would be difficult to use it for a profligate, adharmic purpose.
The elder explained to the boy that this is a custom as old as our
Hindu religion and that many other religions practice it as well. Thus, the
taking of the daßama bhâga vrata and then beginning to pay daßamâμßa,
religion’s dues, can be a very important part of every modern Hindu’s
life. The lad was pleased to hear that daßamâμßa was an ancient religious
826 LIVING WITH ÍIVA

practice of giving one-tenth of one’s income back to God and the Gods
to perpetuate their work on Earth. At the next auspicious occasion in the
temple, the boy prostrated before God, Gods and a picture of his guru
and took his vrata without hesitation. A few elders witnessed the event,
smiled and signed his certificate. All were pleased to see the brightness on
his face as he put the envelope with the $3.50 into the hu∫∂i before he left
the temple. He was now truly one of the congregation in his heart and in
the hearts of all.
Now the pattern was set and the boy began the life-long habit of set-
ting aside one-tenth of his income for God’s work. Years later, as a sea-
soned businessman, he declared that he had never ceased to tithe. He felt
that he was helped personally more by tithing than by any other habit he
had observed throughout his life. It is important to note that the finan-
cier began tithing as a boy. Many of the men and women who tithe in this
generation say that they also began the practice in their early youth.
Tithing ought to begin in childhood. If boys and girls have the exam-
ple of their parents to encourage them, the decision to tithe will not be a
difficult one to make. Devout children who have been raised in a kindly
manner readily respond to the suggestion that God has given us so much
that it is only right that we should set aside a portion of all we receive and
bring it as an offering to the temple for its support. This is one way of
thanking God and the Gods for their goodness. And this is the only way
that we truly bless the remaining nine-tenths. Yes, the pattern of a life-
time can best be set by carefully teaching a young person to begin tithing
with the first money he or she is given or earns.

Paying Religion’s Dues Monthly

Many Hindus have never learned to give systematically. They follow no
plan in facing their responsibility to the temple they worship in, the soci-
ety they belong to or the community they live in. Tithing provides a spiri-
tual plan for meeting these responsibilities. The key is to regularly, on a
monthly schedule, set aside in a special saving account or envelope one-
tenth of one’s income as soon as it is received; then, again on a monthly
schedule, to give that sum to a religious organization of one’s own choosing.
Most Hindus give if they are specifically asked for a contribution and
their name is published. Others give generously if they hear the temple
needs an extra amount to pay a deficit. Many such persons feel virtuous if
they are enabled to pull the temple out of what they think is a “financial
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hole.” They fail to consider that the deficit would never have occurred if
they, and others, had voluntarily and regularly contributed their share
during the first week of each month. Some Hindus give only if they like
the priest, others if they are supporting some phase or all of a special
festival. Still others only give out of a sense of appreciation for prayers
being answered.
We were acquainted with a negligent Hindu in London who never
failed to boast about how he had helped to erect a temple, even though
he had not attended a pûjâ for many years. Yet, he often bragged that
he had helped build the temple. We came to believe he had given a very
substantial sum for the building. He had left such an impression with
so many people. But one day someone took it upon himself to look into
the past financial records of the temple and discovered that the man
had contributed the “magnanimous” total of $101! All this time he had
avoided his responsibilities to the Gods and to their temple by giving
the false impression that he had given so much that he should not be
expected to contribute any more.

The Rediscovery of Tithing

Our young generation of modern Hindus are awakening to an awareness
of the need for a fuller and more dedicated life in God consciousness.
The trends in current civilization in this technological age indicate that
we must go deeper into our faith and into ourselves if we are to spiri-
tually unfold and experience the bliss that is ours to enjoy. Thoughtful
contemporary Hindus are made aware every day of the conflicting forces
which war in the world during this time in the Kali Yuga. They know that
it is a time which cries out for a more complete surrender of money, time
and talents to the will of God and our Gods. They are also well aware that
it is the religious institutions that keep the knowledge of Hinduism alive
in the world and that the temples provide open doors for devotees. Many
Hindus conclude that they must teach their children the spiritual merits
of tithing from their gifts and later from their earnings.
Money has assumed a place of increasing importance in the life of
everyone this century. With each passing year fewer people live the kind
of existence in which they themselves produce the basic necessities of
life. Money has become the buying power to satisfy almost every physi-
cal demand. Even the farmer has come to rely upon money. Only a few
decades ago the tiller of the soil raised the food which met the needs
828 LIVING WITH ÍIVA

of his family. The power to work his fields came from animals which
themselves had their subsistence in the land. But now he needs money to
operate a farm. He buys rather than raises much of his food. Money pays
for the electric power to operate his machinery and for the fuel to run his
tractor. His clothing is bought at a store, and his recreation is purchased
by the investment he makes in a radio or television.
What has happened in recent years to the farmer has long been the
experience of millions of workers who earn their livelihood in the fac-
tory or the office. For many people the possession of money has become
an end in itself in life. The growing importance of money has turned
the focus of attention from the true source of the world’s goods. The
man who worked the fields to produce the necessities for sustenance was
in a position to observe the creating and sustaining power of God and
the Gods in his life. When he was dependent upon the rainfall, the sun
and the fertile earth for his well-being, it was natural to recognize loving
Gods. But such recognition becomes more difficult when money is the
source of one’s physical and psychological satisfaction. It is harder to see
God and the Gods at work in the product of a machine or a factory. Then
man is tempted to give his worshipful devotion to a pay envelope or a
checkbook. That means money to him. It is the source of his personal
comforts and pleasures.

A New Standard Is Needed

In this technological age people are tempted to believe that their skills
and ingenuity which produce material commodities come from them-
selves alone. They either assume the absence of God’s power in the world,
or God and the Gods are pushed back so far in their mind that no vital
contact is felt with these great beings or even their own Divinity. A new
standard is needed to put God consciousness first.
When Hindu children recognize God’s creative gifts by setting aside a
tithe from their gift or income immediately upon receiving it, before any
money is spent for themselves or others, they express their conviction that
God is the giver of all that they have. Each young person inwardly admits
that the product of the mine or the fertile field can only be explained by
the long creative process which is the direct result of the existence of God
and the Gods that Hindus gratefully acknowledge. The money that the
computer engineer, the baker or the manufacturer earns has its ultimate
source in those elements which man did not and could not create. Each
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occupation or profession engaging the efforts of mankind deals with fac-

tors beyond the range of man’s ability to make.
Children who pay their tithe learn that God continues to be the
owner of the material possessions entrusted to them. They know that
the final title to property or money does not rest with the individual, but
with God. They learn that people may be stewards of worldly possessions
for many years; yet, inevitably they must surrender that stewardship at
the end of their earthly life. The trust is then transferred to some other
person. They slowly come to realize through experience that people do
not own the material world; they are merely its stewards.

Honoring God by Sharing

American-born entrepreneur William Colgate was a tither throughout
his long and successful business career. He gave not merely one-tenth of
the earnings of Colgate’s Soap Products; he gave two-tenths, then three-
tenths and finally five-tenths of all his income to the work of God in
the world. During the latter days of his life, he revealed the origin of his
devotion to the principle of tithing. When he was sixteen years old, he left
home to find employment in New York City. He had previously worked
in a soap manufacturing shop. When he told the captain of the canal
boat he was traveling on that he planned to make soap in New York, the
man gave him this advice: “Someone will soon be the leading soap maker
in New York. You can be that person. But you must never lose sight of the
fact that the soap you make has been given to you by God. Honor Him by
sharing what you earn. Begin by tithing on all you receive.” William Col-
gate felt the urge to tithe because he recognized that God was the giver of
all that he possessed, not only of opportunity, but even of the elements
used in the manufacture of his products.

QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS ON RELIGION’S DUES

How can tithing help eliminate debt? My finances are a mess. Tithing
helps to establish order in mind and affairs; and when order exists, debt
is vanquished. All conditions that are not in order are eliminated. New
avenues of supply open up. Intuition is strengthened. Giving opens the
door for receiving.

Shall I tithe before my debts are paid? Yes, tithing is the best-known and
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most practical method of consecrating all your finances to God. You can
tithe your way out of debt if you do it through prayer and in the spirit of
love and understanding. Practiced properly, tithing will help solve the
conditions that create debt. This has been accomplished by thousands
of others; it can be done by you. The tithes that you lay at God’s lotus
feet in loving consecration may be likened to drops of water that, drawn
up by the sun, form rain clouds and descend again to Earth in refreshing
showers.

Should I tithe on the money I borrow to consolidate debt? No. Nor should
you use borrowed money for any purpose other than that for which it
was secured.

If I am tithing and my debt becomes heavy, should I stop? A few do tithe for
years and, when their expenses become heavy, stop in order to meet their
bills. In stopping tithing their desires increase and debts are piled so high
that there seems to be no way out. This also leads to a worldliness that
causes a distance between themselves and their religious institutions.

Would it be wiser for me to wait before deciding to tithe? If you feel an in-
ner urge to tithe, now is the time to make a start. Those who wait until
they feel they have abundance to spare usually never begin.

Won’t tithing change my accustomed standard of living? In Hinduism,

one’s standard of living is measured by the four aims: dharma (virtu-
ous conduct), artha (wealth), kâma (enjoyment) and moksha (liberation).
Dharma governs artha and kâma so that they are not overly self-centered.
Tithing is a dharmic act. Your standard of living will be spiritually higher,
and in many cases the tither’s standards are raised culturally and finan-
cially as well.

Will my income improve if I depend totally on God to help? As you tithe

faithfully and your affairs become established in divine order, your vis-
ible supply will increase. You will be able to avoid debt and to learn to
live as befits a child of God. The tithe always returns to you, the tither, as
further prosperity and abundance for you and for your loved ones. You
can’t give anything away but that it eventually comes back to you, even
God’s money.
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Then tithing is an act of faith. Is this correct? Yes, tithing is an act of faith.
When you give love with your religious dues, you become receptive to
God’s blessing of love. Tithing is a positive use of the law of karma. When
you give freely and joyously with the consciousness of plenty, you draw
back to yourself abundance and many happy experiences. This spirit of
giving magnetizes the unseen devas of the inner worlds who then can
give to you by opening opportunities for you.

Will I be convinced once I experience the positive effects of karma in my

life as a result of tithing? People are most aware of the negative karmic
effects in their life. But when they become free in their giving, they expe-
rience more in return. In conforming to the divine law of karma, won-
derful things occur in their lives. Karmic effects (being either positive,
negative or mixed) are created unknowingly by most Hindus and know-
ingly by some. To use this law to your best advantage, ask for divine guid-
ance and wisdom in spending your money. You will be delighted to see
how much more you can do with it and all the benefits that will return
to you.

Tithing for the Self-Employed

Is there one key to successful tithing for the self-employed? Yes. It is to

separate one’s business finances from one’s family finances. This is done
by maintaining two checking accounts, one for the business and one for
the family.

How do the self-employed calculate their tithe? An owner or partner

tithes on the income he receives from the business. Firstly, he tithes on
his monthly draw from the business. Secondly, he tithes on his share of
any net profits earned for the year which exceed his monthly draw.

Please give an example to illustrate this concept for someone who owns his
own business. Firstly, a theoretical owner of a sole proprietorship draws
$2,500 a month from the business by writing a check on his business
account, depositing it in his personal account, then he writes a tithing
check for $250. Secondly, in January the year-end financial statements for
the business are completed and show a net profit after taxes of $45,000.
Since he has already drawn $30,000 during the year, the net profit exceeds
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his monthly draw by $15,000. Therefore, he needs to tithe $1,500 on this

amount. To do this he draws an extra $1,500 from the business, deposits it
in his personal account and writes a tithing check for the full $1,500.

If my business is not earning a profit, should I still tithe? It is even more

important to be tithing on one’s family income if one’s business is not
doing well.

I know this is rather technical, but how do I adjust my tithe if the amount
I have drawn from the business during the year exceeds my share of the
business’s net profit? This is carried forward and adjusted from one year
to the next. For example, say in 1995 your year’s draw exceeds your share
of the net profit by $10,000. In 1996 your profit share exceeds your draw
by $8,000, and in 1997 your profit share exceeds your draw by $15,000.
The extra tithe at the end of 1995 is zero, 1996 is zero and 1997 is 10 percent
of the $13,000, or $1,300.

Tithing and the Hindu Institution

I have not even given a dollar or a rupee to the temple for a long time. Now
I am being encouraged to tithe? When you ceased to give, did you not
feel as though you had closed an inner door? Many devotees give a little
something as a means of opening the way into a larger measure of loving,
living and giving, even if they do not tithe.

How do I decide where to pay my religious dues? The most obvious choice
is the Hindu leader or institution that is most relevant to your spiritual
life and represents the tradition you find solace in. This benefactor could
be in your community, or 10,000 miles away. Or there may be a tem-
ple in your community that you and your family worship that would
be strengthened and encouraged by your support. If you are not blessed
with such an association and do not know exactly where your religious
dues would best be used to promote Sanâtana Dharma, you can begin by
giving to one or more Hindu Heritage Endowment funds of your choice,
or create a new fund to benefit one or more institutions of your choice.
HHE is a very special foundation designed to support India’s diverse spir-
itual paths and traditions. Begin right away paying ten percent of your
income to HHE. Then in the months ahead find the exact institution or
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project that you feel most inclined to strengthen by your strength.

With this in mind, should I look carefully into each institution? Yes! Tith-
ing should be approached much like investing in the stock market for a
secure return. Religious leaders have a duty to perform in spending the
money wisely, as do corporate presidents. Choose an institution that will
grow and bring spiritual dividends.

Is there a responsibility on receiver as well as the giver? Yes! Both are stew-
ards of God’s money. Wisely choose a worthy temple, Hindu church or
institution that you feel good about paying your tithe to.

Ways and Means of Giving

My tithe will not be much to begin with. Will the leaders judge me be-
cause of this? A religious leader does not or should not judge the offer-
ings of devotees. Hindus give according to their means. If a devotee’s
circumstances dictate a small tithe, then that tithe is worth great value to
God, for the wealthy can easily afford to tithe. Tithing is totally fair; for
each one is paying his religious dues of ten percent of his income, small
or large. Someone earning $300 a month or someone earning $300,000
dollars a month are giving the same proportionate amount.

Is tithing a gift? The religions of the world don’t look at the tithe that they
receive as a gift. They look at it as a payment. More than often, those who
cannot pay their tithe also do not pay their creditors.

Is it appropriate to give more than ten percent? After the dues of tith-
ing are paid, further religious giving can take place, such as sponsoring
temple construction and supporting other religious endeavors. There is
a big difference between daßamâμßa, which is an obligation or payment,
and religious giving from the remaining 90%. Many tithers give five to
ten percent above and beyond their tithe for building funds and other
inspiring projects. This is especially frequent in the case of single men
and women.

Does tithing include produce grown on one’s property for non-commercial

purposes? Yes, give a tenth of any food you grow: one coconut for every
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ten, one banana for every ten. This is only proper, for the one coconut,
one banana are not your own. They belong to God and the Gods.

What about tithing of one’s time? Tithing can and should also be ap-
plied to time, skills and talents. For example, if a devotee is a carpenter
or seamstress, those skills may help a local Hindu institution. Everyone,
no matter what their skills, can and should give ten percent of their time
each week in service to their religious institution. We calculate it as four
hours a week, which is ten percent of a forty-hour work week, which
amounts to 208 hours a year. It is also acceptable to tithe one’s time in
intense projects all at once, rather than each week. For example, many
of the devotees who helped build the Swaminarayan temple in London
took time off from their professions for a full month and labored twelve
hours a day to build that magnificent edifice. It has been our experience
that those who tithe openly, honestly, spontaneously also give 10 percent
of their time in service. Those who live beyond their means, juggle their
income and manipulate don’t have time to give 10 percent of their time
for religious service. That has been our experience.

Shall I tithe on my monthly social security check? Yes. As the amount of

your social security check has no direct relationship to the amount of
social security withholdings over the years from your paychecks, it is best
to look at what was withheld as a tax that you paid to the government for
the privilege of receiving social security in your retirement years. Your
employers have also contributed to the social security program based on
the wages they paid to you. It is even possible that the amount of your
total social security withholdings is only a small fraction of what you
receive back from social security in monthly checks.

What is the difference between gross and net income? Gross income is your
salary or wages before any deductions are taken. Net income is the amount
after deductions which, of course, is the amount of the paycheck. Deduc-
tions are withholdings for federal and state taxes, social security and other
such items. The tithe is calculated as ten percent of the gross income.
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The Proper Spirit of Tithing

What are some of the abuses of tithing? Many clever people who are in
business create “tithing shelters.” They only pay themselves a little bit
out of their own business, and the rest of the profits go toward business
expenses, like the rent, the food and everything. In other words, they
establish a tithing shelter, so they won’t have to give much tithe. Finally,
their conscience will come up and hurt and they will straighten out their
methodology. Others are happy to tithe because they save on taxes. They
figure out right to the penny, right to the rupee, how much tax they save
by how much they tithe. That is also not the spirit of tithing. There are
those who have taken a pledge to tithe who, instead of tithing monthly,
actually use God’s money for two or three months to get interest or
to pay debts, then finally regather the funds together and tithe with a
great effort. Bargaining and manipulating in that way is not the spirit of
daßamaμsa.
Devotees of our organization tithe freely, wholeheartedly, without
thought of such matters. The Singaporeans or the Malaysians get no tax
benefits from tithing. They tithe because of their heart, and therefore,
pu∫ya, good merit, comes back to them. So, we can see it as a spiritual
practice, not an intellectual practice. Tithing is a very simple practice,
giving the first payment first—giving one-tenth of God’s money back to
God. Someone gives you ten dollars; one dollar goes to God, and the rest
is for you. If you get a paycheck for $1,000 before deductions and $700
after deductions, you don’t say to yourself, “Well, I can’t give $100 of the
$1,000, because some was deducted for social security and other benefits.”
No, tithing is on gross income and the right way is to give the full $100.

What is the best attitude to keep in mind to avoid such abuse? Tithing,
giving one-tenth of one’s income, possessions or time, is a deeply reli-
gious commitment. It is not a business proposition. It is a religious com-
mitment, based on the principle that 100 percent of one’s energy comes
from God, 100 percent of one’s belonging comes from God, 100 percent
of one’s activity and creativity comes from God. God gives back 90 per-
cent. And God and the Gods keep 10 percent for their work. What is their
work? Uplifting humanity through religious organizations of all kinds.
There is a great swâmî in India who began his entire organization
largely on income from coconuts. Of every thirty coconuts that religious
growers take off their trees, they give him three. They don’t give excuses
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and say, “Swâmî only needs two out of every thirty coconuts, because I
am saving one coconut out of that batch for my social security.” They
don’t look at all the coconuts and say, “I’ll give Swâmî the smallest ones,
the ones that I cannot sell.” No. Because they are true devotees, they take
three of the best coconuts and give them to the swâmî. The swâmî sells
those coconuts to help support his religious institutions. And through
this practice the entire community has come up.
There is another Guru Mahâsannidhânam in South India. His local
devotees give 10 percent of the rice they harvest. They don’t count each
grain. They simply take a 10 percent portion and present it to the swâmî.
We have been at his âßrama and seen rice piled twelve to fifteen feet high
in the great hall.

Begin Tithing, Then Take Your Vow

If you, as an adult, have not already taken the tithing vow yourself, there
is no better time than now. But first begin tithing for six months or more
to set the pattern in your own mind that, “yes,” you can in the long run
actually fulfill this commitment. Once you have convinced yourself, then
set an auspicious date to take the vrata.
Include your children. If they believe in the divine laws of Sanâtana
Dharma and have faith in the principle of daßamâμßa, they may be ready
to begin tithing. Once they also feel comfortable and fulfilled with this
ancient religious practice and you feel they are ready, let them take their
daßama bhâga vrata. Those taking the vow should repeat the following
paragraph in the home shrine or temple before God and the Gods, fam-
ily, guru or a respected elder. Repeat the daßama bhâga vrata, the vow to
pay religion’s dues, three times and create a covenant to tithe. We have
enclosed here a vrata certificate to document the vow taking. It can be
photocopied and enlarged, signed and then framed or kept safely with
other valuable papers.

O Divine beings of all three worlds, let us bring our minds to rest in the
darßana of Him who has one tusk. Let us meditate on Him who has the
form of an elephant with a curved trunk. May He guide us always along
the right path. I, ________________ [name of devotee], believe in you,
the one Supreme God, Lord Íiva, and the Gods of our Íaivite faith, and
in the Íaiva Dharma. In love and trust I recognize your goodness in pro-
viding for my every material and spiritual need. I accept the principle
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of daßamâμßa (giving one-tenth of my gross income) as the method

by which I may acknowledge my gratitude to you, Lord Íiva, and share
in helping you fulfill and perpetuate your work on Earth. As an act of
dedication, I am resolved this day to begin (continue) the regular prac-
tice of tithing.

Announce Your Intent to Tithe

After you have made your vrata, tell the trustees of your temple, Hindu
church or society about the decision to pay your daßamâμßa, your reli-
gious dues, to their organization during the first week of each month.
They will be pleased that they have been chosen by you and be able to
plan your contributions into their yearly budgets.

SOUND FINANCIAL PRACTICES

Once you have been inspired to tithe regularly, there are a few finan-
cial practices that will assist you. These have been developed over several
decades of tithing experience.

1. Make Tithing Your First Budgetary Expense

Put tithing at the top of your household budget list. We suggest that you
purchase a book on household budgeting from your local bookstore and,
if you don’t already have one, purchase a household budget program for
your computer. Putting our daßamâμßa first creates a fine feeling and
presence of God in our home and lives. We know that our income, as it
goes toward home, food, clothing, education, entertainment and culture,
is sanctified because ten percent was dedicated to God. As we enjoy our
home, its furnishings and the bounty of our life style, we can also feel
content that God’s work, the welfare of Hinduism and our local Hindu
institution are well provided for.
Everybody dreads the time near the beginning of the month when
they sit down to pay the bills. Try not to treat the setting aside of God’s
money as paying one of the bills. Why not create a separate time at the
beginning of the month when God’s money is calculated and the check
is written or cash placed in an envelope? This will help create the proper
spirit and attitude. While calculating your daßamâμßa, think how it is
helping your religion, your fellow Hindus, yourself and your family now
and in the future. Try to sense how you are both a steward of God’s
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money and a partner with God Íiva and the Gods in earning and provid-
ing for the family, the community, the nation and the religion.

2. Complete a Formal, Written Reconciliation Annually

For your and the institution’s records, it is important to execute a
“daßamâμßa reconciliation” once a year. We have provided two sample
forms for this procedure, one for individual use and one for self-employed
businesses or partnerships (you may photocopy and enlarge these for
actual use). These reconciliations give tithers a clear record of their tith-
ing for the year and enable benefiting institutions to create realistic finan-
cial plans based on the tithing of its members.

Nandinâtha Sûtras on God’s Money

sûtra 161: one-tenth belongs to ßiva
Íiva’s close devotees take a vow and joyously tithe ten percent of their gross
income to their lineage monthly. This is God’s money. Using it otherwise
is forbidden—a karma reaping loss exceeding all anticipated gain. Aum.
sûtra 162: tithing is the first obligation
My close devotees consider tithing their first expense. They provide a
written reconciliation each April, including with it all unremitted tithing.
Those behind in tithing are counseled to help them fulfill the vow. Aum.
sûtra 163: tithing’s many blessings
Íiva’s close devotees delight in the unfailing law that by tithing freely and
wholeheartedly, with a consciousness of plenty, they become receptive to
God’s blessings and draw to them abundance and happy experiences. Aum.

Tiruvalluvar’s Tirukural on Earning and Utilizing Wealth

kural 81:
The whole purpose of earning wealth and maintaining
a home is to provide hospitality to guests.
kural 85:
If a man eats only after attending to guests’ needs,
what further sowing will his fertile fields require?
kural 87:
Charity’s merit cannot be measured by gifts given.
It is measured by measuring the receiver’s merits.
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Personal Tithing Reconciliation

JANUARY TO DECEMBER, YEAR: ________
Member completing this form:
Name: ______________________________________________________________________
Address: ______________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________

Beneficiary organization:
Name: ______________________________________________________________________
Address: ______________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________

1. Regular Gross Income 1.________________

Your salary (before any taxes are deducted) plus interest and dividend
income from bank accounts and investments
2. Business Income
a. The amount of funds drawn out of the business during this period 2a._______________
(line 2 of your Business Tithing Reconciliation) if applicable
b. Cumulative net profit less drawings (line 4 of your Business Tithing 2b._______________
Reconciliation) if applicable
3. Special Income 3.________________
Such as inheritance or cash gifts at birthdays or other times
4. Capital Gains 4.________________
Gains on investments, the sale of a house, car or other possessions (For
example, on a house sale the tithe is 10% of the difference between your
sales price and the original price—this is referred to as the “capital gain.”)
5. Total Income 5.________________
Add together lines 1, 2(a), 2(b), 3 and 4 and enter the total here.
6. Tithe Due 6.________________
Divide the amount on line 5 by 10 and enter it here. This is the amount
of tithe due on your income for this period.
7. Previous Overpaid Tithing 7.________________
Enter the amount of any tithe overpaid from last year here.
8. Tithe Paid 8.________________
List the tithe you actually paid on the current period’s income here.
9. Total Underpaid (or Overpaid) 9.________________
Subtract lines 7 and 8 from line 6 and enter the amount here. Place the
number in parentheses if it is a negative number and you have overpaid.
Check one box below.
Line 9 is zero (0) and shows my tithe due and the tithe paid to the organization are equal.
Line 9 shows my tithe paid exceeds the tithe due by the amount shown.
Please carry this forward to the next reconciliation.
Line 9 shows my tithe is underpaid. I am enclosing the underpaid tithing.

Signature: ____________________________________________ Date: __________________

I took my daßama bhâga vrata on (date): _____________________________________________

Note: Please make one copy of your completed form for your records
and send the original to the beneficiary organization.
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Business Tithing Reconciliation

JANUARY TO DECEMBER, YEAR: ________

Member completing this form:

Name: ______________________________________________________________________
Address: ______________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________

Beneficiary organization:
Name: ______________________________________________________________________
Address: ______________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________

1. Net Profit 1.________________

If a sole proprietorship, write the total amount of net profit earned by
the business during the year. If a partnership, write the share of net profit
earned by this partner.
2. Funds Drawn 2.________________
Write the amount of funds drawn out of the business by this owner/partner
for personal use during the year. (Enter this amount on line 2a of your
Personal Tithing Reconciliation.)
3. Drawings Exceeding Net Profits 3.________________
Subtract line 2 from line 1. If a negative number, your drawings exceeded
your share of net profits for the year.
4. Carry-over from Previous Year 4.________________
If at the end of the previous year your cumulative drawings exceeded your
cumulative net profit share, enter the amount on this line. (This amount, if
any, is found on line 5 of last year’s Business Tithing Reconciliation and is
to be entered only if it is a negative number.)
5. Cumulative Balance 5.________________
Add together lines 3 and 4. This is the cumulative balance between your
share of net profit and funds actually drawn at the end of this year. Check
one box below.
Line 5 is negative and shows I have a credit to forward to next year’s Business Tithing Reconciliation. (En-
ter zero on line 2b of the Personal Tithing Reconciliation.)
Line 5 is positive and shows I have undrawn income on which tithe is owed. (Enter this amount on line
2b of the Personal Tithing Reconciliation.)

Signature: ____________________________________________ Date: __________________

I took my daßama bhâga vrata on (date): _____________________________________________

NOTES:
1. Individuals who are self-employed complete both this Business Tithing Reconciliation and the Personal
Tithing Reconciliation and submit both together to the beneficiary organization.
3. Please make one copy of your completed form for your own records and send the original to the benefi-
ciary organization.
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Conclusion
Nirvaha∫am
inava*hNama<
LL THAT IS ELUCIDATED IN LIVING WITH ÍIVA IS
THE TRADITIONAL PATH OF DHARMA FOLLOWED
NOT ONLY BY HINDUS BUT, IN LARGE PART, BY ALL
ASIAN PEOPLES. IT SHOWS THE WAY OF WISDOM,
PAINTS A PICTURE OF AN IDEAL, CULTURED LIFE TO
be lived when the spiritual nature illumines the intellect and dispels
ignorance, when the mind holds the instincts in check and overcomes
brutality, when striving for perfection brings the soul to realization of
the Self within. Íaivite Hinduism is the greatest religion in the world. It
has the Vedas. It has the Ågamas. It has the Devarams. It has the mysti-
cal knowledge of yoga, methods and techniques to help everyone find
God within themselves. It has the wisdom of its swâmîs, âchâryas and
®ishis of yore, from the Himalayas to the South of India. It has Nirgu∫a
Brahman and Sagu∫a Brahman, transcendent God and immanent, per-
sonal God. It has the world’s oldest and largest active temples, the lit-
urgy and science of invoking the Gods to enter the inner sanctum, and
it has the great aadheenam tradition of venerable masters to sustain the
temples, the pandits, the scriptures and populace. It has happy festivals
and holy sacraments. It has mantra and tantra and yantra. It has charyâ,
kriyâ, yoga and jñâna, in that order, the order of the progression of the
soul. It has karma and reincarnation. It humbles itself by recognizing
and honoring all other paths as part and parcel of the human experience
toward God. All this and more make Íaivism exceedingly great. It makes
us humble to be a small part of so great a spiritual tradition, to have the
joy and privilege of living with Íiva. We end with the conclusive words of
my satguru, Sage Yogaswami:
When your body and mind become attuned to the
spiritual laws, your soul will be freed to contemplate on
the blissful Self. Vedânta and Siddhânta are not separate
paths, but are essential facets of the Luminous One.
GLOSSARY 845

Glossary
Íabda Koßa˙
xabdk[aexa:
aadheenakarthar: MjPdfqj;jq The aa- while observing brahmacharya sâdhana, these special-
dheenam head, or pontiff, also called ly ordained swâmîs are the acknowledged examples
the Guru Mahâ san ni dhâ nam. See: for younger monks. —âdi âchâryas: Four âchâryas of
aadheenam, monastery. the Saiva Siddhanta Yoga Order ordained as an ongo-
aadheenam: MjPdk; “Ownership ing, self-perpetuating group chosen from among the
possession, dependence; endowment, âchâryas to determine the course of the future of the
foundation, institution,” Íaiva monastery. A Íaivite Order and lay membership of Saiva Siddhanta Church.
Hindu monastery and temple complex in the South Their major duty is to exemplify the Íaiva ideals and
Indian Íaiva Siddhânta tradition. The aadheenam keep the teaching programs and publications purely
head, or pontiff, is called the guru mahâsannidhânam in line with those of the paramparâ and sampradâya.
or aadheenakarthar. See: monastery. actinic: Spiritual, creating light. Adjective derived from
abjure: To give up or renounce, often under oath; to the Greek aktis, “ray.” Of or pertaining to conscious-
abstain from. ness in its pure, unadulterated state. Actinic force is
abortion: Any deliberate procedure that removes or the superconscious mind and not a force which comes
induces the expulsion of an embryo or fetus before from the superconcious mind. Commonly known as
it is viable. Not condoned in Hinduism except to save life, spirit, it can be seen as the light in man’s eyes; it
the mother’s life. is the force that leaves man when he leaves his odic
Abrahamic religions: The religions descending from physical body behind. It is not opposite to odic force,
Abraham, a biblical patriarch regarded by Jews as the it is different than odic force as light is different than
founder of the Hebrew people through his son Isaac water but shines through it. Actinic force flows freely
and by Muslims as the founder of the Arab people through odic force. See: koßa, odic.
through his son Ishmael; thus, Judaism, Christianity acupuncture: An essential component of traditional
and Islam. Chinese medicine consisting of the practice of punc-
Absolute: Lower case (absolute): real, not dependent turing the body with very thin needles, or applying
on anything else, not relative. Upper case (Absolute): consistent massage pressure (called acupressure) at
Ultimate Reality, the unmanifest, unchanging and specific points along established pathways of subtle
transcendent Paraßiva—utterly nonrelational to even energy, called meridians, to cure disease, balance en-
the most subtle level of consciousness. It is the Self ergies or relieve pain. Åyurveda has its own system of
God, the essence of man’s soul. See: Paraßiva. acupuncture. See: meridian.
absolution (to absolve): Forgiveness. A freeing from adharma: Ç∞º@ Negative, opposite of dharma. Deeds,
guilt so as to relieve someone from obligation or pen- thoughts or words that transgress divine law. Unrigh-
alty. —atone: to compensate or make up for a wrong- teousness, irreligiousness; demerit. See: dharma, sin.
doing. Atonement can only be done by the person adultery: Sexual intercourse between a married man
himself, while absolution is granted by others, such or a woman who is not one’s own wife or husband.
as a family head, judge or jury. Exoneration, the taking Adultery is spoken of in Hindu ßâstras as a serious
away of all blame and all personal karmic burden, can breach of dharma. See: sexuality.
only be given by God Íiva. Society would naturally advaita: Çظʙ “Non dual; not twofold.” Nonduality or
acknowledge and accept this inner transformation by monism. The philosophical doctrine that Ultimate
forgiving and forgetting. See: penance, sin. Reality consists of a one principal substance, or God.
abstinence: Voluntary restraint from something unde- Opposite of dvaita, dualism. See: dvaita-advaita, Ve-
sirable or harmful. dânta.
âchârya: ÇŸòŸæ@ “Going toward;” “approaching.” A Advaita Èßvaravâda: Çظʙ Ñ@ÕΔ¿ΔŸÆ “Nondual and Per-
highly respected teacher. The wise one who practices sonal-God-as-Ruler doctrine.” The Sanskrit equiva-
what he preaches. A title generally bestowed through lent of monistic theism. A general term that describes
dîkshâ and ordination, such as in the Íivâchârya the philosophy of the Vedas and Íaiva Ågamas, which
priest tradition. In the context of this book, a senior posits simultaneously the ultimate oneness of all
swâmî of the Saiva Siddhanta Yoga Order, founded by things and the reality of the personal Deity. See: Ad-
Satguru Sivaya Subramuniyaswami in 1949. Having vaita, Advaita Siddhânta, monistic theism.
completed at least 24 years of service under Gurudeva Advaita Siddhânta: Çظʙ ⁄–ØÛŸ≥™ “Nondual ultimate
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conclusions.” Íaivite philosophy codified in the Åga- verses, inner and outer. Esoterically, mind, the super-
mas which has at its core the nondual (advaitic) iden- conscious strata holding all that potentially or actually
tity of God, soul and world. This monistic-theistic exists, wherein all transactions are recorded and can
philosophy, unlike the Sankara, or Smârta view, holds be read by clairvoyants. It is through psychic entry
that mâyâ (the principle of manifestation) is not an into this transcendental âkâßa that cosmic knowledge
obstacle to God Realization, but God’s own power and is gathered, and the entire circle of time—past, pres-
presence guiding the soul’s evolution to perfection. ent and future—can be known.
While Advaita Vedânta stresses Upanishadic philoso- all-pervasive: Diffused throughout or existing in every
phy, Advaita Siddhânta adds to this a strong emphasis part of the universe. See: Satchidânanda.
on internal and external worship, yoga sâdhanas and amends: Recompensation, making up for injury or loss
tapas. Advaita Siddhânta is a term used in South India caused to another. This is done through sincere apol-
to distinguish Tirumular’s school from the pluralistic ogy, expressing regrets, contrition, public penance,
Siddhânta of Meykandar and Aghoraßiva. This uni- such as kavadi, and ample gifts. See: penance.
fied Vedic-Ågamic doctrine is also known as Íuddha anabhidroha: Ç≤⁄∫Æ˙Ë“ “Absence of injuriousness.”
Íaiva Siddhânta. It is the philosophy on which this ânanda: ÇŸ≤≥Æ “Bliss.” The pure joy—ecstasy or en-
text is based. See: Advaita Èßvaravâda, dvaita-advaita, stasy—of God-consciousness or spiritual experience.
monistic theism, Íaiva Siddhânta. See: God Realization, Satchidânanda.
Advaita Vedânta: Çظ Ê ™ Δ‰ Æ Ÿ≥™ “Nondual end (or es- ânandamaya koßa: ÇŸ≤≥ƺæéËÀ “Bliss body.” The
sence) of the Vedas.” The nondual final conclusions body of the soul, which ultimately merges with Íiva.
of the Vedas. Commonly names the various Indian See: soul, koßa.
monistic schools, most prominently that of Sankara, Anandamayi Ma (Ånandamâyî Mâ): ÇŸ≤≥ƺŸæ¤ºŸ
that arose from the Upanishads and related texts. See: Godly yoginî and mystic Bengali saint known for her
Vedânta. purity and sâdhanas, including not eating unless fed
affectionate detachment: The power and wisdom of by her devotees (1896-1982).
love born of understanding. Not becoming engrossed â∫ava: ÇŸ®Δ “Fragment; atom; minuteness, individual-
in the problems or negative attachments of others. As ity.” God’s veiling power that provides individualness,
opposed to “running away” from the world or being or individual ego, to each soul, making the soul seem
insensitively aloof, affectionate detachment allows for apart and distinct from God and the universe. See:
more genuine, wholesome relationships with people â∫ava mala, evolution of the soul, grace, mala, soul.
and things. â∫ava mala: ÇŸ®Δºƒ “Impurity of smallness; finitizing
affirmation: D®idhavâchana. “Firm statement.” A posi- principle.” The fetter or individualizing veil of duality
tive declaration or assertion. A statement repeated reg- that enshrouds the soul. It is the source of finitude
ularly while concentrating on the meaning and mental and ignorance, the most basic of the three bonds
images invoked, often used to attain a desired result. (â∫ava, karma, mâyâ) which temporarily limit the
affirmation of faith: A brief statement of one’s faith soul. The presence of â∫ava mala is what causes the
and essential beliefs. See: Anbe Sivamayam Satyame misapprehension about the nature of God, soul and
Parasivam. world, the notion of being separate and distinct from
Ågama: ÇŸíº The tradition that has “come down.” An God and the universe. See: â∫ava, evolution of the soul,
enormous collection of Sanskrit scriptures which, grace, mala, soul.
along with the Vedas, are revered as ßruti (revealed â∫ava mârga: ÇŸ®ΔºŸí@ “Path of ignorance.” The path
scripture). Dating uncertain. The Ågamas are the pri- of egoity, separateness, self-indulgence, self-interest
mary source and authority for ritual, yoga and temple and selfishness. See: â∫ava mala.
construction. See: Íaiva Ågamas, ßruti. Anbe Sivamayam Satyame Parasivam: md;ng rptkak
agni: Ç⁄ì≤ “Fire.” 1) One of the five elements, pañcha- rj;jpank gurptk; Tamil for “God Íiva is Immanent
bhûta. 2) God of the element fire, invoked through Love and Transcendent Reality.” The affirmation of
Vedic ritual known as yajña, agnikâraka, homa and faith which capsulizes the entire creed of monistic
havana. See: havana, homa. Íaiva Siddhânta. In Sanskrit it is Premaiva Íivamaya,
ahiμsâ: Ç⁄“Ä–Ÿ “Noninjury,” nonviolence or nonhurt- Satyam eva Paraßiva˙.
fulness. Refraining from causing harm to others, anchorite: “Hermit.” A monk or aspirant who lives
physically, mentally or emotionally. Ahiμsâ is the alone and apart from society, as contrasted with ceno-
first and most important of the yamas (restraints). It bite, a member of a religious order living in a monas-
is the cardinal virtue upon which all others depend. tery or convent. See: monk.
See: yama-niyama. animate-inanimate: From the Latin animatus, “to make
âjñâ chakra: ÇŸ◊Ÿòé˚ “Command wheel.” The third-eye alive, fill with breath.” These terms indicate the two
center. See: chakra. poles of manifest existence, that which has movement
âkâßa: ÇŸéŸÀ “Space.” The sky. Free, open space. Ether, and life (most expressly animals and other “living” be-
the fifth and most subtle of the five elements—earth, ings) and that which is devoid of movement (such
air, fire, water and ether. Empirically, the rarefied as minerals and, to a lesser degree, plants). From a
space or ethereal fluid plasma that pervades the uni- deeper view, however, all existence is alive with move-
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ment and possessed of the potent, divine energy of artha: Ǩ@ “Goal” or “purpose;” wealth, substance, prop-
the cosmos. erty, money. See: four traditional goals.
aˆkußa: ÇÄéÀ ‹ Goad, symbol of Lord Ga∫eßa’s power to artificial perpetuation of life: See: heroic measures.
remove obstacles from the devotee’s path, and to spur arul: mUs; “Grace.” The third of the three stages of the
the dullards onward. sakala avasthai when the soul yearns for the grace
anna dâna: Ç≤ÙÆŸ≤ “Giving food.” The Hindu tradi- of God, ßaktinipâta. At this stage the soul seeks pati-
tion, also called yajña, of holding mass feedings for jñânam, knowledge of God. See: pati-jñânam, sakala
guest and for the poor. It is a source of great merit, avasthâ, ßaktinipâta.
especially if an exceptionally great soul happens to âsana: ÇŸ–≤ “Seat; posture.” In ha†ha yoga, any of nu-
partake of the meal and his hunger is satisfied. See: merous poses prescribed to balance and tune up the
yama-niyama. subtle energies of mind and body for meditation and
annaprâßana: Ç≤Ù¥Ÿ˘ À≤ “Feeding.” The childhood sacra- to promote health and longevity. See: ha†ha yoga, râja
ment of first solid food. See: saμskâras of childhood. yoga, yoga.
Antarloka: Ç≥™ƒË@ é “Inner plane,” or “in-between ascetic: A person who leads a life of contemplation and
world.” The astral plane, or Second World. See: astral rigorous self-denial, shunning comforts and pleasures
plane. for religious purposes. See: monk.
Antoinette, Marie (1755-1793): Queen of France from ash†âˆga yoga: Ç{ŸóÓæËí “Eight-limbed union.” The
1774, wife of Louis XVI, and daughter of Maria The- classical râja yoga system of eight progressive stages
resa and Francis I of Austria. During the French Revo- or steps as described in the Yoga Sutras of Sage Pa-
lution she and her husband were accused of treason. tanjali (often termed râja yoga) and in numerous
She was guillotined on October 16, 1793. Hindu scriptures including various Upanishads and
anugraha ßakti: Ç≤‹í˘“À⁄# “Graceful or favoring pow- the Tirumantiram by Saint Tirumular. The eight
er.” Revealing grace. God Íiva’s power of illumination, limbs are: restraints (yama), observances (niyama),
through which the soul is freed from the bonds of postures (âsana), breath control (prâ∫âyâma), sense
â∫ava, karma and mâyâ and ultimately attains libera- withdrawal (pratyâhâra), concentration (dhâra∫â),
tion, moksha. Specifically, anugraha descends on the meditation (dhyâna) and contemplation (samâdhi/
soul as ßaktipâta, the dîkshâ (initiation) from a sat- Self Realization). See: râja yoga, yoga, yama-niyama,
guru. Anugraha is a key concept in Íaiva Siddhânta. It âsana, prâ∫âyâma, samâdhi.
comes when â∫ava mala, the shell of finitude which aspirant: A person who strives for some high achieve-
surrounds the soul, reaches a state of ripeness, mala- ment.
paripâka. See: â∫ava, grace, Na†arâja, ßaktinipâta. aspiration: A desire for some high achievement.
aphorism: A terse and well-qualified, easy-to-remem- âßrama: ÇŸÃ˘º “Place of striving.” From ßram, “to ex-
ber statement of a truth placed in the subconscious ert energy.” Hermitage; order of the life. Holy sanc-
mind. tuary; the residence and teaching center of a sâdhu,
âratî: ÇŸ¿™¤ “Light.” The circling or waving of a lamp— saint, swâmî, ascetic or guru; often includes lodging
usually fed with ghee, camphor or oil—before a holy for students. Also names life’s four stages. See: âßrama
person or the temple Deity at the high point of pûjâ. dharma, sâdhana.
The flame is then presented to the devotees, each pass- âßrama dharma: ÇŸÃ˘º∞º@ “Laws of life development.”
ing his or her hands through it and bringing them to Meritorious way of life appropriate to each of its four
the eyes three times, thereby receiving the blessings. successive stages (âßramas), observing which one
Åratî can also be performed as the briefest form of lives in harmony with nature and life, allowing the
pûjâ. See: archana, pûjâ. body, emotions and mind to develop and undergo
arbitrate: To give a judgment or decision in a dispute; their natural cycles in a most positive way. The four
mediate. stages are: —1) brahmacharya: Studentship, from age
archana: Çò@≤ A special, personal, abbreviated pûjâ 12 to 24. —2) g®ihastha: Householder, from 24 to 48.
done by temple priests in which the name, birthstar —3) vânaprastha: Elder advisor, from 48 to 72. —4)
and family lineage of a devotee are recited to invoke sannyâsa: Religious solitary, from 72 onward. See:
individual guidance and blessings. Archana also refers dharma, g®ihastha dharma, sannyâsa dharma.
to chanting the names of the Deity, which is a central asteya: Ç—™‰æ “Nonstealing.” See: yama-niyama.
part of every pûjâ. See: pûjâ. âstikya: ÇŸ⁄—™èæ “Faith.” See: faith, ßraddhâ, yama-
ardha-Hindu: Ç∞@⁄“≥Æ‹ “Half-Hindu.” A devotee who niyama.
has adopted Hindu belief and culture to a great extent astral body: The subtle, nonphysical body (sûkshma
but has not formally entered the religion through cer- ßarîra) in which the soul functions in the astral plane,
emony and taking a Hindu first and last name. Also the inner world also called Antarloka. The astral body
refers to Easterners born into the faith who adopt includes the prâ∫ic sheath (prâ∫amaya koßa), the in-
non-Hindu names. stinctive-intellectual sheath (manomaya koßa) and the
ârjava: ÇŸú@Δ “Honesty.” See: yama-niyama. cognitive sheath (vijñânamaya koßa)—with the prâ∫ic
Arjuna: Çú‹@≤ A hero of the Mahâbhârata and the cen- sheath discarded at the death of the physical body.
tral figure of the Bhagavad Gîtâ. See: Bhagavad Gîtâ. astral entity: Any being in the astral plane. See: astral
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plane. ond sound of this mantra, “oo,” vibrates within the

astral plane: From the word astral, meaning “of the throat and chest chakras, the realm of Lord Murugan,
stars.” Belonging to the subtle, non-physical dimen- or Kumâra. The third sound, “mm,” vibrates within
sion also known as the Antarloka, or Second World. the cranial chakras, âjñâ and sahasrâra, where the Su-
“Astral forces” exist in the Second World but can be felt preme God, Íiva, reigns.
psychically in the First. See also: loka, three worlds. aura: The luminous colorful field of subtle energy radi-
astral projection: The practice of consciously direct- ating within and around the human body, extending
ing one’s activities when out of the physical body and out from three to seven feet. The colors of the aura
functioning in the astral body, including the ability to change constantly according to the ebb and flow of
direct attention to and visit other people who are also one’s state of consciousness, thoughts, moods and
in their astral body, or visit a remote location, experi- emotions. Higher, benevolent feelings create bright
encing the activities there and retaining knowledge of pastels; base, negative feelings are darker in color.
such experiences after returning to the state of wake- The aura consists of three aspects, the prâ∫a-aura, the
ful, physical consciousness. See: astral plane. outer aura and the inner aura. The prâ∫a-aura is the
astral shell: The odic astral form which a soul leaves reflection of the physical body, the life force. The outer
behind in the astral plane when it enters into a new aura extends beyond the physical body and changes
physical birth. The astral shell soon disintegrates continuously, reflecting the individual’s moment-to-
as creative forces generate a new physical and astral moment panorama of thought and emotion.
body. Aurobindo Ghosh: A prolific Bengali writer and poet,
astrology: Science of celestial influences. See: jyotisha. pantheistic philosopher and yoga mystic, widely
aßubha: ÇÀ‹∫ “Inauspicious,” “gloomy.” See: ßubha. known as Sri Aurobindo (1872-1950). He perceived
asura: Ç–‹¿ “Evil spirit; demon.” (Opposite of sura: the modern global crisis as marking a period of transi-
“deva; God.”) A being of the lower astral plane, Naraka. tion from a dark age to a more enlightened one, when
Asuras can and do interact with the physical plane, Hinduism will play a preponderant role. He founded
causing major and minor problems in people’s lives. the Auroville community in Pondichery, based on
Asuras do evolve and do not remain permanently in pur∫a (integral) yoga and contributed much to this
this state. See: Naraka. century’s Hindu revival.
asuric: Of the nature of an asura, “not spiritual.” auspicious: Maˆgala. Favorable, of good omen, fore-
atala chakra: Ç™ƒ òé˚ “Bottomless region.” The first boding well. One of the central concepts in Hindu
chakra below the mûlâdhâra, at the hip level. Region life. Astrology defines a method for determining times
of fear and lust. See: chakra, Naraka. that are favorable for various human endeavors. See:
atheism: The rejection of all religion or religious belief, jyotisha.
or simply the belief that God or Gods do not exist. austerity: Self-denial and discipline, physical or mental,
See: materialism. performed for various reasons, including acquiring
âtman: ÇŸ´º≤Î “The soul; the breath; the principle of life powers (siddhis), attaining grace, conquering the in-
and sensation.” The soul in its entirety—as the soul stinctive nature and burning the seeds of past karmas.
body (ânandamaya koßa) and its essence (Parâßakti Ranging from simple deprivations, such as foregoing a
and Paraßiva). One of Hinduism’s most fundamental meal, to severe disciplines, called tapas, such as always
tenets is that we are the âtman, not the physical body, standing, never sitting or lying down, even for sleep.
emotions, external mind or personality. See: Paramât- See: penance, tapas.
man, koßa, soul. Auvaiyar: xsitahh; A woman saint of Tamil Nadu (ca
âtmârtha pûjâ: ÇŸ´ºŸ¨@ ¥ › ú Ÿ “Personal worship rite.” 800 ce), a contemporary of Saint Sundarar, devotee
Home pûjâ—Sanskrit liturgy performed in the home of Lord Ga∫eßa and Kârttikeya, or Murugan, and one
shrine. See: pûjâ. of the greatest literary figures in ancient India. (See
âtura sannyâsa: ÇŸ™‹¿–~≥柖 “Renunciation while suf- Chapter 17.) Among the most famous are Atti Chudi,
fering.” See: sannyâsa. Konrai Ventan, Ulaka Niti, Muturai and Nalvali. Her
attachments: That which one holds onto or clings to Tamil primer is studied by children to this day. An
with the energy of possessiveness, which is a natural earlier traditional date for Auvaiyar of 200 bce is from
function of the inner and outer ego of an individual. a story about her and Saint Tiruvalluvar.
As one unfolds through the chakras, the force of at- avasthâ: ÇΔ—¨Ÿ (Tamil: avasthai.) “Condition or state”
tachment naturally diminishes through sâdhana, tapas of consciousness or experience. 1) Any of three stages
and the grace of the guru. of the soul’s evolution from the point of its creation
Aum: F or Ç˺ΠOften spelled Om. The mystic syllable to final merger in the Primal Soul. 2) The states of
of Hinduism, placed at the beginning of most sacred consciousness as discussed in the Mâ∫∂ûkya Upani-
writings. As a mantra, it is pronounced aw (as in law), shad: jâgrat (or vaißvânara), “wakefulness;” svapna
oo (as in zoo), mm. Aum represents the Divine, and (or taijasa), “dreaming;” sushupti, “deep sleep;” and
is associated with Lord Ga∫eßa, for its initial sound turîya, “the fourth” state, of superconsciousness. A
“aa,” vibrates within the mûlâdhâra, the chakra at the fifth state, “beyond turîya,” is turîyâtîta. See: kevala
base of the spine upon which this God sits. The sec- avasthâ, sakala avasthâ, ßuddha avasthâ.
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avatâra: ÇΔ™Ÿ¿ “Descent.” A God born in a human (or bhakti yoga, devotee, guru bhakti.
animal) body. A central concept of Íâktism, Smârtism bhakti: ∫⁄# “Devotion.” Surrender to God, Gods or
and Vaish∫avism. See: incarnation, Ish†a Devatâ. guru. Bhakti extends from the simplest expression of
awareness: Sâkshin, or chit. Individual consciousness, devotion to the ego-decimating principle of prapatti,
perception, knowing; the witness of perception, the which is total surrender. Bhakti is the foundation of all
“inner eye of the soul.” The soul’s ability to sense, see sects of Hinduism, as well as yoga schools throughout
or know and to be conscious of this knowing. When the world. See: bhakti yoga, darßana, prasâda.
awareness is indrawn (pratyak chetana), various states bhakti yoga: ∫⁄#æËí “Union through devotion.” Bhakti
of samâdhi may occur. Awareness is known in the yoga is the practice of devotional disciplines, worship,
Ågamas as chitßakti, the “power of awareness,” the in- prayer, chanting and singing with the aim of awaken-
ner self and eternal witness. See: consciousness. ing love in the heart and opening oneself to God’s
ayanâμßa: Çæ≤ŸÄ À “Portion” (aμßa) of the solstice grace. Bhakti may be directed toward God, Gods or
(ayana), meaning the deviation of the zodiac from guru. Bhakti yoga is embodied in Patanjali’s Yoga
the equinoctial position of zero degrees Aries—or the Darßana in the second limb, niyamas (observances),
amount of the precession of the equinoxes since the as devotion (Èßvarapra∫idhâna).
zero degrees Aries vernal equinox, which defines the bhikku: A Buddhist monk, or any of the first disciples
difference between the Vedic and Western (or tropical) of Buddha.
zodiacs. The Western system marks zero degrees Aries Bhojana Mantra: ∫Ëú≤ º≥& “Food-blessing chant.” As
at the vernal equinox. The Vedic system adjusts for the each meal is served, reciting the food-blessing chant,
precession and marks the (current) vernal equinox at silently or aloud as a group, is an expression of grati-
about 6 degrees of the sign of Pisces, or roughly 23 de- tude, an acknowledgement of food’s ultimate source
grees. The exact ayanâμßa is not known, so a number and an invocation of spiritual benefits. Its recitation
of ayanâμßas are put forth by various astronomers prepares one for partaking of the Supreme Lord’s
and well known astrologers. Lahiri created the offi- abundance, which should occur in the right state of
cial ayanâμßa approved by the government of India. mind and emotion. Food, the magical source of prâ∫a,
It counts the beginning of the zodiac as exactly 180 is an umbilical connection to the cosmos, the lifeline
degrees opposite the star Chitra (Alpha Virgo in the of embodied souls, nature’s means of nourishment.
Western system, the star Spica). Most older ayanâμßas This chant is given in the spirit of a beggar humbly
are Revati-paksha, or relating to the star Revati. seeking alms. Water—a prâ∫ic bridge between the
âyurveda: ÇŸæ‹ΔÆ ‰@ “Science of life,” “science of longevity.” subtle and physical universes—is used in four ways in
A holistic system of medicine and health native to an- preparing to eat. First the mouth is rinsed. Then water
cient India. The aims of âyurveda are âyus, “long life,” is used to rinse the banana leaf or plate. Water from
and ârogya, “diseaselessness,” which facilitate progress one’s drinking cup is poured into the right hand to
toward ultimate spiritual goals. Health is achieved by rinse it, as food is, whenever possible, taken with the
balancing energies (especially the doshas, bodily hu- hand, rather than with chopsticks or fork and spoon.
mors) at all levels of being. Finally, water is sprinkled in a circle around the food
with the right hand, creating a force field of purifica-
Being: Upper case: God’s essential tion and protection and invoking harmony of all five
divine nature—Pure Consciousness, bodily prâ∫as. In the South of India, a little bit from
Absolute Reality and Primal Soul each food item is placed on the upper left corner of
(God’s nature as a divine Person). the plate as an offering to Ga∫eßa before taking one’s
Lower case: the essential nature of first bite.
a person, that within which never bilva: ⁄∏≈Δ Wood-apple (or bael) tree, Aegle marmelos,
changes; existence. See: Íiva. sacred to Lord Íiva. Its leaves, picked in threes, are
beta testing: The final testing of new computer software, offered in the worship of the Íivaliˆga. The delicious
performed by persons other than software developers, fruit when unripe is used medicinally.
before it is released for sale. bindu: ⁄∏≥Æ‹ “A drop, small particle, dot.” Small dot
Bhagavad Gîtâ: ∫íΔÆÍ í¤™Ÿ “The Lord’s Song.” One worn on the forehead between the eyebrows, or in
of the most popular of Hindu writings, a conversa- the middle of the forehead, made of red powder
tion between Lord K®ish∫a and Arjuna on the brink (kuˆkuma), sandalpaste, clay, cosmetics or other sub-
of the great battle at Kurukshetra. In this central epi- stance. The bindu is known as pottu in Tamil, and as
sode of the epic Mahâbhârata (part of the Sixth Book), bindi in Hindi. Bindu is also a term for semen. See:
K®ish∫a illumines the warrior-prince Arjuna on yoga, tilaka.
asceticism, dharma and the manifold spiritual path. blackmail: Payment extorted to prevent disclosure of
See: Mahâbhârata. information that would bring disgrace or ruin if made
bhajana: ∫ú≤ Spiritual song. Individual or group sing- public.
ing of devotional songs, hymns and chants. boon: Varadâna. A welcome blessing, a gracious benefit
bhakta: ∫# (Tamil: Bhaktar.) “Devotee.” A worshiper. received. An unexpected gift or bonus. See: grace.
One who is surrendered to the Divine. See: bhakti, brahmachârî: ∏˘“˜òŸ¿¤ An unmarried male spiritual
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aspirant who practices continence, observes religious Brâhma∫a of the Yajur Veda. Ascribed to Sage Yâj-
disciplines, including sâdhana, devotion and service ñavalkya, it teaches modes of worship, meditation and
and who may be under simple vows. Names also a the identity of the individual self with the Supreme
young man in the student stage, age 12-24, or until Self. See: Upanishad.
marriage. See: âßrama dharma, monk. Buddha: ∏‹ØÛ “The enlightened.” Usually refers to Sid-
brahmacharya: ∏˘“˜òæ@ See: yama-niyama. dhartha Gautama (ca 624-544 bce), a prince born of
brahmacharya âßrama: ∏˘ “ ˜òæ@ ÇŸÃ˘ º See: âßrama the Íâkya clan—a Íaivite Hindu tribe that lived in
dharma. eastern India on the Nepalese border. He renounced
brahmacharya vrata: ∏˘“˜òæ@ Δ˘™ “Celibacy vow.” The the world and became a monk. After his enlighten-
verbal pledge given before members of one’s religious ment he preached the doctrines upon which followers
community to remain chaste until marriage, for a later founded Buddhism. See: Buddhism.
specified period of time, or for life. It also includes Buddhism: The religion based on the teachings of Sid-
restraining the base instincts of anger, jealousy, greed, dhârtha Gautama, known as the Buddha (ca 624–544
selfishness, etc. bce). He refuted the idea of man’s having an immortal
brahmachâri∫î: ∏˘“˜òŸ⁄¿®¤ Feminine counterpart of soul and did not preach of any Supreme Deity. In-
brahmachârî. stead he taught that man should seek to overcome
Brahmadhvara: ∏˘“˜±Δ¿ The door to the seven chakras greed, hatred and delusion and attain enlightenment
and the Narakaloka just below the mûlâdhâra. In or- through realizing the Four Noble Truths and follow-
der for the higher chakras to come into power, this ing the Eightfold Path. See: Buddha.
door must be shut, making it impossible for fears,
hatreds, angers and jealousies to arise. Sâdhana and caste: A hierarchical system, called
right thought, word and deed are among the aids in var∫a dharma (or jâti dharma), es-
this accomplishment. See: Naraka. tablished in India in ancient times,
Brahman: ∏˘ “ ˜≤Î “Supreme Being; Expansive Spirit.” which determined the privileges, sta-
From the root b®ih, “to grow, increase, expand.” Name tus, rights and duties of the many oc-
of God or Supreme Deity in the Vedas, where He is cupational groups, wherein status is
described as 1) the Transcendent Absolute, 2) the all- determined by heredity. There are four main classes
pervading energy and 3) the Supreme Lord or Primal (var∫as)—brâhmin, kshatriya, vaißya and ßûdra—and
Soul. These three correspond to Íiva in His three per- innumerable castes, called jâti. The four var∫as are as
fections. Thus, Íaivites know Brahman and Íiva to be follows. —brâhmin (brâhma∫a): “Mature, evolved
one and the same God: —Nirgu∫a Brahman, God soul.” Scholarly, pious souls of exceptional learning.
“without qualities” (gu∫a), i.e., formless, Absolute Real- Hindu scriptures traditionally invest the brâhmin
ity, Parabrahman, or Paraßiva—totally transcending class with the responsibility of religious leadership,
gu∫a (quality), manifest existence and even Parâßakti, including teaching and priestly duties. —kshatriya:
all of which exhibit perceivable qualities; —Sagu∫a “Governing; endowed with sovereignty.” Lawmakers
Brahman, God “with qualities;” Íiva in His perfec- and law enforcers and military, also known as râjanya.
tions of Parâßakti and Parameßvara—God as super- —vaißya: “Landowner, merchant.” Businessmen, finan-
conscious, omnipresent, all-knowing, all-loving and ciers, industrialists; employers. Those engaged in busi-
all-powerful. The term Brahman is not to be confused ness, commerce and agriculture. —ßûdra: “Worker,
with 1) Brahmâ, the Creator God; 2) Brâhma∫a, Vedic servant.” Skilled artisans and laborers.
texts, nor with 3) brâhma∫a, Hindu priest caste (Eng- Catholicism: The doctrine, system and practice of the
lish spelling: brâhmin). See: Parâßakti, Paraßiva. Catholic Church; a major Christian denomination.
Brahmarandhra: ∏˘“˜¿≥∞˘ See: door of Brahman. celibacy: Complete sexual abstinence. Also the state of
brâhmin (brâhma∫a): ∏˘Ÿ“˜® “Mature or evolved soul.” a person who has vowed to remain unmarried. Celi-
The class of pious souls of exceptional learning. From bacy is abstinence from the eight degrees of sexual
Brâhman, “growth, expansion, evolution, develop- activity: fantasy (smara∫a), glorification (kîrtana),
ment, swelling of the spirit or soul.” See: caste. flirtation (keli), glances (preksha∫a), secret talk (guhya
bhâshya: ∫Ÿœæ “Speech, discussion.” Commentary on bhâshana), longing (kâma saμkalpa), rendezvous (ad-
a text. Hindu philosophies are largely founded upon hyavâsâya) and intercourse (kriyâ niv®itti). See: brah-
the interpretations, or bhâshyas, of primary scripture. machârî, ojas, tejas, transmutation, yama-niyama.
Other types of commentaries include: v®itti, a brief cenobite: A member of a monastery community.
commentary on aphorisms; tippani, like a v®itti but cenobitic: Belonging to a monastery community.
less formal, explains difficult words or phrases; vârt- ceremony: From the Latin caerimonia, “awe; reverent
tika, a critical study and elaboration of a bhâshya; and rite.” A formal rite established by custom or authority
tika or vyakhyana, an explanation of a bhâshya or ßâs- as proper to special occasions.
tra in simpler language. chakra: òé˚ “Wheel.” Any of the nerve plexes or centers
birthstar: See: nakshatra. of force and consciousness located within the inner
B®ihadâra∫yaka Upanishad: ∏‡ “ ÆŸ¿©æé Ü¥⁄≤ŒÆÍ bodies of man. In the physical body there are cor-
One of the major Upanishads, part of the Íatapatha responding nerve plexuses, ganglia and glands. The
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seven principal chakras can be seen psychically as pradâya’s Kailâsa Paramparâ. Lived on Sri Lanka’s
colorful, multi-petaled wheels or lotuses. They are Jaffna peninsula near Nallur Kandaswâmî Temple in a
situated along the spinal cord from the base to the small hut where today there is a small samâdhi shrine.
cranial chamber. The seven principle chakras, from Among his disciples was Sage Yogaswami, whom he
lowest to highest, are: 1) mûlâdhâra (base of spine): trained intensely for five years and initiated as his suc-
memory, time and space; 2) svâdhish†hâna (below cessor. See: Kailâsa Paramparâ, Nâtha Sampradâya.
navel): reason; 3) ma∫ipûra (solar plexus): willpower; Chettiar: brl;oahh; The name of the merchant caste of
4) anâhata (heart center): direct cognition; 5) vißud- South India and Sri Lanka.
dha (throat): divine love; 6) âjñâ (third eye): divine Chidambaram: rpjk;guk; “Hall of Consciousness.” A
sight; 7) sahasrâra (crown of head): illumination, very famous South Indian Íiva Na†arâja temple. See:
Godliness. ¶Additionally, seven chakras, barely vis- Na†arâja.
ible, exist below the spine. They are seats of instinc- chiropractic: A modern health system which holds that
tive consciousness, the origin of jealousy, hatred, envy, disease results from a lack of normal nerve function
guilt, sorrow, etc. They constitute the lower or hellish and which employs adjustment of body structures,
world, called Naraka or pâtâla. From highest to low- such as the spinal column, as the means of restoration,
est they are 1) atala (hips): fear and lust; 2) vitala thus relieving pain, discomfort and disease which re-
(thighs): raging anger; 3) sutala (knees): retaliatory sult from improper skeletal alignment.
jealousy; 4) talâtala (calves): prolonged mental con- chlorofluorocarbons: A substance used in refrigeration
fusion; 5) rasâtala (ankles): selfishness; 6) mahâtala and air conditioning appliances that is known to de-
(feet): absence of conscience; 7) pâtâla (located in plete Earth’s stratospheric ozone layer and is, in some
the soles of the feet): murder and malice. ¶Seven countries, now illegal and being phased out.
chakras, or conglomerates of nâ∂îs, exist within and choga: (Bengali) A long loose men’s shirt, similar to the
above the sahasrâra, as the seven levels of the rari- kurta or kafni.
fied dimensions of paranâda, the first tattva and the Christ: See: Jesus Christ.
highest stratum of sound. From lowest to highest they Christian-Judaic: See: Judaic-Christian.
are: 1) vyâpinî: “all-pervasive;” 2) vyomâˆga: “space- circadian rhythm: The natural cycle of biological activ-
bodied;” 3) anantâ: “infinity;” 4) anâthâ: having “no ity or function over an approximate 24-hour period,
master;” 5) anâß®itâ: “independent;” 6) samanâ: as well as the movement of subtle energy throughout
“uniform, synchronous;” 7) unmanâ: “ecstatic, trans- the body as it is influenced by the rising and setting
mental.” See: Naraka (also: individual chakra entries). of the sun. Traditional Chinese medicine establishes
chakravâla: òé˚ΔŸƒ “Circle,” “an assembly.” A circle that chi, or vital energy, moves from one major me-
or gathering of devotees, seated clockwise according ridian to another every two hours, repeating every 24
to age or seniority in their fellowship. This clear ac- hours: 11pm-1am: gall bladder; 1-3am: liver (during the
knowledgement of heirarchy by all parties helps keeps time of deepest sleep, the liver is most actively cleans-
associations and interactions harmonious, as the lines ing the blood); 3-5am: lung (in traditional cultures,
of responsibility, respect or elders and nurturing of people wake up and take the first breath of the day
those young are clear. When such a group sit together, during this period); 5-7am: large intestine (depend-
they send their prâ∫as, positive energies, clockwise ing upon the quantity of food taken during the day,
around the circle for the upliftment of all. the first bowel movement usually occurs during this
Çhândogya Upanishad: öŸ≥ÆËìæ Ü¥⁄≤ŒÆÍ One of the period); 7-9am: stomach (breakfast is usually taken
major Upanishads, it consists of eight chapters of the during this period); 9-11am: spleen; 11am-1pm: heart;
Çhândogya Brâhma∫a of the Sâma Veda. It teaches 1-3pm: small intestine (lunch is usually digested during
the origin and significance of Aum, the importance this period); 3-5pm: bladder; 5-7pm: kidney; 7-9pm:
of the Sâma Veda, the Self, meditation and life after pericardium; 9-11pm: san jiao (“triple warmer”). See:
death. See: Upanishad. acupuncture, meridian.
channeling: the practice of serving as a medium clairaudience: “Clear-hearing.” Psychic or divine hear-
through which a spirit guide communicates with liv- ing, divyaßravana. The ability to hear the inner cur-
ing persons. rents of the nervous system, the Aum and other mystic
charyâ: òæŸ@ “Conduct stage.” Stage of service and char- tones. Hearing in one’s mind the words of inner-plane
acter building. See: pâda, Íaiva Siddhânta, Íaivism. beings or earthly beings not physically present. Also,
chat room: A virtual place to participate in a real-time hearing the nâdanâ∂î ßakti through the day or while
computer-to-computer teletype conversation over a in meditation.
network. clairvoyance: “Clear-seeing.” Psychic or divine sight,
chelâ: ò‰ƒŸ “Disciple.” (Hindi.) A disciple of a guru; syn- divyad®ish†i. The ability to look into the inner worlds
onym for Sanskrit ßishya. The feminine equivalent is and see auras, chakras, nâ∂îs, thought forms, non-
chelinâ or chelî. physical people and subtle forces. See: âkâßa, clairau-
Chellappaswami: bry;yg;ghRthkp “Wealthy father.” dience.
(Also known as Chellapaguru.) Reclusive siddha and clear white light: See: light.
160th satguru (1840-1915) of the Nandinâtha Sam- clemency: A disposition to show mercy or leniency, es-
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pecially towards an offender or enemy. quarrelsome.

cloistered: Secluded, as in a monastery. Cook, Captain James: British navigator and explorer
cognition: Knowing; perception. Knowledge reached (1728-1779) who commanded major voyages exploring
through intuitive, superconscious faculties rather and claiming many islands of the Pacific Ocean for
than through intellect alone. England in her Christian Colonialist campaign.
cognizant: Informed or aware of something. cosmic: Universal; vast. Of, or relating to, the cosmos
cognize: To take notice of something. or entire universe.
communism: The social and economic system which Cosmic Soul: Purusha or Parameßvara. Primal Soul.
emerged around the turn of the 20th century in pres- The Universal Being; Personal God. See: Parameßvara,
ent-day Russia as “a hypothetical stage of socialism, as Primal Soul, purusha, Íiva.
formulated by Marx, Engels, Lenin and others, to be cosmos: The universe, or whole of creation, especially
characterized by a classless and stateless society and with reference to its order, harmony and completeness.
the equal distribution of economic goods and to be See: loka, three worlds.
achieved by revolutionary and dictatorial, rather than creation: The act of creating, especially bringing the
gradualistic, means” (Webster’s Dictionary). Commu- world into ordered existence. Also, all of created exis-
nism is proudly atheistic and seeks to liberate man- tence, the cosmos. Creation, according to the monistic-
kind from superstition and “spiritual bondage.” theistic view, is an emanation or extension of God, the
complacent: Self-satisfied and unconcerned. Creator. It is Himself in another form, and not inher-
conception: Power to imagine, conceive or create. Mo- ently something other than Him. See: damaru.
ment when a pregnancy is begun, a new earthly body Creator: He who brings about creation. Íiva as one of
generated. His five powers. See: creation, Na†arâja, Parameßvara.
confession: An admission, acknowledgement; as of guilt creed: Íraddhâdhâra∫â. An authoritative formulation
or wrongdoing. of the beliefs of a religion. See: conscience.
Confucius: Chinese philosopher and teacher (552-479 cremation: Dahana. Burning of the dead. Cremation is
bce), founder of the Confucianist faith, whose Ana- the traditional manner of disposing of bodily remains,
lects contain a collection of his sayings and dialogues. having the positive effect of releasing the soul most
His teachings on social ethics are the basis of Chinese quickly from any lingering attachment to the earth
education, and religion. plane. Note that the remains of enlightened masters
conscience: The inner sense of right and wrong, some- are sometimes buried or sealed in a special tomb
times called “the knowing voice of the soul.” However, called a samâdhi. This is done in acknowledgement
the conscience is affected by the individual’s training of the extraordinary attainment of such a soul, whose
and belief patterns, and is therefore not necessarily a very body, having become holy, is revered as a sacred
perfect reflection of dharma. It is the subconscious of presence, sânnidhya, and which not infrequently be-
the person—the sum total of past impressions and comes the spiritual seed of a temple or place of pil-
training—that defines the credal structure and colors grimage. See: reincarnation.
the conscience and either clearly reflects or distorts crown chakra: Sahasrâra chakra. The thousand-petaled
superconscious wisdom. See: creed, dharma, mind cranial center of divine consciousness. See: chakra, sa-
(individual). hasrâra chakra.
conscious mind: The external, everyday state of con- crux: The essential, deciding or difficult point. Latin
sciousness. See: mind. “cross.” Originally a mark indicating a difficult textual
consciousness: Chitta or chaitanya. 1) A synonym for problem in books.
mind-stuff, chitta; or 2) the condition or power of crystal: A mineral, especially a transparent form of
perception, awareness, apprehension. There are myr- quartz, having a crystalline structure.
iad of gradations of consciousness, from the simple crystal-gazing: An occult practice for divining the fu-
sentience of inanimate matter to the consciousness of ture by gazing into a crystal ball.
basic life forms, to the higher consciousness of human culminate: To bring to the highest point, to the greatest
embodiment, to omniscient states of superconscious- intensity, or to completion.
ness, leading to immersion in the One universal con- Curie, Madame (Marie Sklodowska Curie, 1867-1934):
sciousness, Parâßakti. See: awareness, mind. a Polish chemist and physicist, born in Warsaw. In
consensualocracy: Government or management by France, she and her husband Pierre discovered po-
intelligent cooperation, based on a shared vision and lonium and radium, jointly earning the 1903 Nobel
adherence to dharma. Ahiμsâ, nonhurtfulness—spir- prize in Physics. In 1911 she received the Nobel Prize
itually, physically, emotionally and mentally—is the in Chemistry, becoming the first person to be awarded
keynote of this tribal/family system of rule. a second Nobel Prize.
consummate: Perfect; complete in every way. cyberspace: the electronic medium of computer net-
contemplation: Religious or mystical absorption be- works in which online communication takes place;
yond meditation. See: râja yoga, samâdhi. the Internet or Web.
contention: Strife, dispute, quarrel. cynical: Scornful of others’ motives or integrity.
contentious: Likely to cause or involving intense debate;
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dakshi∫â: Æ⁄’®Ÿ A fee or gift to a Daßanâmî: ÆÀ≤Ÿº¤ “Ten names.” Ten monastic orders
priest given at the completion of any organized by Adi Sankara (ca 800): Åra∫ya, Vâna, Giri,
rite; also given to gurus as a token of Pârvata, Sâgara, Tîrtha, Åßrama, Bhârati, Pûrî and
appreciation for their spiritual bless- Sarasvatî. Also refers to sannyâsins of these orders,
ings. each of whom bears his order’s name, with ânanda
Dakshi∫âmûrti: Æ⁄’®Ÿº›⁄™@ “South- often attached to the religious name. For example,
facing form.” Lord Íiva depicted sitting under a pîpala Râmânanda Tîrtha. Traditionally, each order is asso-
(bo) tree, silently teaching four ®ishis at His feet. ciated with one of the main Íaˆkarâchârya pî†has. See:
Dalai Lama: The traditional high priest of Tibetan Bud- Sankara, Smârtism.
dhism, or Lamaism, a spiritual and political authority. dayâ: ÆæŸ “Compassion.” See: yama-niyama.
The term is Mongolian: dalai, ocean + blama, chief, death: The soul’s detaching itself from the physical
“preceptor with oceanic wisdom.” An honorary title body and continuing on in the subtle body (sûkshma
bestowed by the Mongolian prince Altan Khan on the ßarîra) with the same desires, aspirations and activities
third head of the Gelukpa school in 1578. as when it lived in a physical body. See: reincarnation.
dâna: ÆŸ≤ Generosity, giving. See: yama-niyama. decadence: Decay. A condition, process or period of
Dancing with Íiva: The first book in Gurudeva’s Mas- declining morals.
ter Course trilogy. Subtitled Hinduism’s Contempo- deceit (deception): The act of representing as true what
rary Catechism, Dancing is a remarkable sourcebook is known to be false. A dishonest action.
expounding the Íaivite Hindu outlook on life in the degraded oils: See: oils, degraded.
form of questions and answers. It covers every sub- Deism: From the Latin, Deus, “God.” A rationalist tradi-
ject on Íaivism, especially the philosophical depths, tion dating back to English Lord Herbert of Cherbury
answers seekers’ questions on the nature of God and (d. 1648), who defined the Five Articles of English
the Gods, the soul, dharma, life’s ultimate goal, Hindu Deists as: belief in a single supreme God; humanity’s
denominations, theology, the satguru, temple worship, duty to revere God; linkage of worship with practical
karma, spiritual unfoldment, the inner worlds, good morality; that God will forgive us if we repent and
and evil, the duties of family life, monastic life and abandon our sins; good works will be rewarded (and
more. It is clearly written and lavishly illustrated, ex- punishment for evil) both in life and after death. De-
pertly woven with 600 verses from the Vedas, Ågamas ism rejects reliance on revealed religion, on religious
and other holy texts, 165 South Indian paintings, 40 authority and on the infalibility scriptures such as the
original graphics, a 40-page timeline of India’s history Bible and the Koran. Deism has no special places of
and a 190-page lexicon of English, Sanskrit and Tamil. worship, no priesthood and no heirachy of authority.
Released in 1997. Deism was greatly influential among politicians, sci-
darßana: ÆÀ@≤ “Vision, sight.” Seeing the Divine. Be- entists and philosophers during the later 17th century
holding, with inner or outer vision, a temple image, and 18th century in England, France, Germany and
Deity, holy person or place, with the desire to inwardly the United States. Many of America’s founding fathers
contact and receive the grace and blessings of the ven- were Deists, including John Quincy Adams, Benja-
erated being or beings. Even beholding a photograph min Franklin, Thomas Jefferson, James Madison and
in the proper spirit is a form of darßana. Not only does George Washington. Deists were instrumental in cre-
the devotee seek to see the Divine, but to be seen as ating the principle of separation of church and state,
well, to stand humbly in the awakened gaze of the and the religious freedom clauses of the First Amend-
holy one, even if for an instant, such as in a crowded ment. Source: www.religioustolerance.org/deism.
temple when thousands of worshipers file quickly past Deity: “God.” The image or mûrti installed in a temple
the enshrined Lord. Gods and gurus are thus said to or the Mahådeva the mûrti represents. See: pûjâ.
“give” darßana, and devotees “take” darßana, with the delinquent: Failing to do what law or duty requires.
eyes being the mystic locus through which energy is demon: See: asura.
exchanged. This direct and personal two-sided appre- deterrent: Something that prevents or discourages ac-
hension is a central and highly sought-after experi- tion; frightens away.
ence of Hindu faith. Also: “point of view,” doctrine detractor: One who takes away from the positive quali-
or philosophy. ties of a group.
daßama bhâga vrata: ÆÀº∫ŸíΔ˘™ “One-tenth-part vow.” deva: Æ‰Δ “Shining one.” An angelic being living in the
A promise that tithers make before God, Gods and higher astral plane, in a subtle, nonphysical body.
their family or peers to tithe regularly each month, Deva is also used in scripture to mean “God” or “De-
for a specified time, or for life. See also: daßamâμßa. ity.” See: Mahâdeva.
daßamâμßa: ÆÀºŸÄÀ “One-tenth sharing.” The tradi- Devaloka: Ɖ Δ ƒËé “Plane of radiant beings.” A syn-
tional Hindu practice of tithing, giving one-tenth of onym of Maharloka, the higher astral plane, realm of
one’s income to a religious institution. It was formerly anâhata chakra. See: loka.
widespread in India. In ancient times the term maki- Devaram: njthuk; The collected devotional hymns
mai was used in Tamil Nadu. See also: daßama bhâga composed by Saints Tirujnana Sambandar (ca 600)
vrata. Tirunavakarasu (Appar), a contemporary of Samban-
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dar, and Sundaramurti (ca 800). These make up the munication. Pronounced dee-fee. See: Shûm, Shûm
first seven books of the Tirumurai. See: Tirumurai. perspectives.
devonic: Angelic, heavenly, spiritual. Of the nature of dîkshâ: Ƥ’Ÿ “Initiation.” Solemn induction by which
the higher worlds, in tune with the refined energies one is entered into a new realm of spiritual awareness
of the higher chakras or centers of consciousness. Of and practice by a teacher or preceptor through the
or relating to the devas. Implies that something is di- transmission of blessings. Denotes initial or deep-
vinely guided. See: deva. ened connection with the teacher and his lineage and
devotee: A person strongly dedicated to something or is usually accompanied by ceremony. Initiation, re-
someone, such as to a God or a guru. The term dis- vered as a moment of awakening, may be conferred
ciple implies an even deeper commitment. See: bhakta, by a touch, a word, a look or a thought. See: grace,
bhakti, guru bhakti. ßaktinipâta.
devout: Strongly attached to religion or religious obliga- Dîpâvalî: Ƥ¥ŸΔƒ¤ “Row of Lights.” A very popular
tions. See: bhakti. home and community festival during which Hindus
dharma: ∞º@ “Righteousness.” From dh®i, “to sustain; of all denominations light oil or electric lights and
carry, hold.” Hence dharma is “that which contains set off fireworks in a joyful celebration of the victory
or upholds the cosmos.” Dharma, religion, is a com- of good over evil, light over darkness. It is a Hindu
plex and comprehensive term with many meanings, solidarity day and is considered the greatest national
including divine law, law of being, way of righteous- festival of India. In several countries, including Ne-
ness, ethics, duty, responsibility, virtue, justice, good- pal, Malaysia, Singapore, Sri Lanka and Trinidad and
ness and truth. Essentially, dharma is the orderly Tobago, it is an inter-religious event and a national
fulfillment of an inherent nature or destiny. Relating holiday. It occurs in October-November.
to the soul, it is the mode of conduct most conducive disincarnate: Having no physical body; of the astral
to spiritual advancement, the right and righteous path. plane; astral beings. See: astral body, astral plane.
There are four principal kinds of dharma, known col- dissipate: Here, to let loose more than often the vital
lectively as chaturdharma: “four religious laws:” 1) ®ita: sexual energies, which must be transmuted in order
“Universal law.” The inherent order of the cosmos. 2) to make progress in spiritual life. Dissipation occurs
var∫a dharma: “Law of one’s kind.” Social duty. 3) through excessive talk, and through loss of the vital
âßrama dharma: “Duties of life’s stages.” Human or de- fluids, such as through masturbation or excessive in-
velopmental dharma. The natural process of maturing tercourse only for pleasure, with no intention of con-
from childhood to old age through fulfillment of the ceiving a child. See: actinic, odic, transmutation.
duties of each of the four stages of life—brahmachârî dissolution: Dissolving or breaking up into parts. An
(student), g®ihastha (householder), vânaprastha (elder alternative term for destruction. See: Na†arâja.
advisor) and sannyâsa (religious solitaire). 4) svad- Divine: Godlike; supremely good or beautiful.
harma: “Personal path, pattern or obligation.” One’s Divinity: A God, or Deity. Also the spiriuality or holi-
perfect individual pattern through life, according to ness that pervades the universe and is most easily felt
one’s own particular physical, mental and emotional in the presence of a holy man or in a temple.
nature. See: four traditional goals. dogma: An authoritative principle, belief, or statement
dharmaßâla: ∞º@ÀŸƒ “Abode of righteousness.” A mon- of ideas or opinion, especially one considered to be
astery or âßrama, offering religious training for monks absolutely true.
and in some cases lay persons on pilgrimage or reli- door of Brahman: Brahmarandhra; also called nirvâna
gious retreat. In Living with Íiva, it specifically refers chakra. A subtle or esoteric aperture in the crown
to branch monasteries of Kauai Aadheenam. of the head, the opening of sushum∫â nâ∂î through
dhotî: ∞Ë™¤ (Hindi) A long, unstitched cloth wound which ku∫∂alinî enters in ultimate Self Realization,
about the lower part of the body, and sometimes and the spirit escapes at death. Only the spirits of the
passed between the legs and tucked into the waist. A truly pure leave the body in this way. Saμsârîs take a
traditional Hindu apparel for men. downward course. See: jñâna, ku∫∂alinî.
dh®iti: ∞‡⁄™ “Steadfastness.” See: yama-niyama. dosai: njhir An Indian crepe, a crisp, paper-thin pan-
diaphragm: The muscular partition between the abdo- cake, generally made with soaked, slightly fermented
men and chest cavity, instrumental in breathing. ground rice and urad dal, water and spices.
diaphragmatic breathing: Deep regulated breathing dowry: Money or property brought by a bride to her
from the diaphragm, at the solar plexus region, as husband at marriage. A tradition that exists in most
opposed to the upper chest. cultures in some form, but which in India has been
diaspora: From the Greek, “scattering.” A dispersion of carried to abusive extremes, where the bride’s family
religious or ethnic group(s) to foreign countries, such must pay exorbitant sums of money to the groom’s
as the scattering of Jews when driven out of the land family to buy a husband for their daughter. Dowry is
of Israel, or Hindus driven from Sri Lanka, Pakistan outlawed now in India.
and Bangladesh. dross: Rubbish, waste matter; useless byproduct.
dîfî: (Shûm) The space aspect of the mind. The per- drudgery: Work that may be tedious, menial, hard or
spective of space travel, devas and Gods; inner com- unpleasant.
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Druid: An ancient Celtic priest, magician or sooth- emanation: “Flowing out from.” Åbhâsa. Shining forth
sayer of Britain, Ireland and Gaul (ancient region from a source, emission or issuing from. A monistic
corresponding roughly to modern-day France and doctrine of creation whereby God issues forth mani-
Belgium). festation like rays from the sun or sparks from a fire.
dual: Having or composed of two parts or kinds. embryo: The early development of a human/animal
dualism: See: dvaita-advaita. within the womb, up to the end of the second month.
duality: A state or condition of being dual. An undeveloped plant within a seed.
dvaita-advaita: Æ˝Ê™ ÇÆ˝Ê™ “Dual-nondual; twoness-not Emerson, Ralph Waldo: American poet, essayist and
twoness.” Among the most important categories in philosopher (1803-1882), a central figure of American
the classification of Hindu philosophies. Dvaita and transcendentalism. Enamored of Indian thought, he
advaita define two ends of a vast spectrum. —dvaita: was instrumental in popularizing the Bhagavad Gîtâ
The doctrine of dualism, according to which reality and the Upanishads in the US.
is ultimately composed of two irreducible principles, eminent: High; above others in stature, rank or achieve-
entities, truths, etc. God and soul, for example, are ment. Renowned or distinguished; prominent, con-
seen as eternally separate. —dualistic: Of or relating spicuous. Not to be confused with: 1) imminent, about
to dualism, concepts, writings, theories which treat to happen; 2) emanate, to issue from; 3) immanent,
dualities (good-and-evil, high-and-low, them-and-us) inherent or indwelling.
as fixed, rather than transcendable. —pluralism: A emkaef: (Shûm) No awareness, state beyond that of
form of nonmonism which emphasizes three or more singular awareness. Not a word for Self Realization,
eternally separate realities, e.g., God, soul and world. but the entry into that nonexperience. Pronounced
—advaita: The doctrine of nondualism or monism, eem-kaw-eef. See: Shûm.
that reality is ultimately composed of one whole prin- emotional body: See: koßa.
ciple, substance or God, with no independent parts. enlightened: Having attained enlightenment, Self Re-
In essence, all is God. —monistic theism: A dipolar alization. A jñânî or jîvanmukta. See: jñâna, Self Re-
view which encompasses both monism and dualism. alization.
See: monistic theism. enlightenment: For Íaiva monists, Self Realization,
dysfunctional: Abnormal, impaired, not functioning samâdhi without seed (nirvikalpa samâdhi); the ulti-
completely. mate attainment, sometimes referred to as Paramât-
ma darßana, or as âtma darßana, “Self vision” (a term
ego: The external personality or sense which appears in Patanjali’s Yoga Sûtras). Enlighten-
of “I” and “mine.” Broadly, individual ment is the experience-nonexperience resulting in the
identity. In Íaiva Siddhânta and other realization of one’s transcendent Self, Paraßiva, which
schools, the ego is equated with the exists beyond time, form and space. Each tradition
tattva of ahaμkâra, “I-maker,” which has its own understanding of enlightenment, often
bestows the sense of I-ness, individu- indicated by unique terms. See: God Realization, ku∫-
ality and separateness from God. See: â∫ava mala. ∂alinî, Self Realization.
egocentric: Placing one’s own ego in the center of all enmity: Active or aggressive, deep-seated hatred or ill
values and experiences. will, often mutual between two parties.
egoism: The tendency to be self-centered; egotism, conceit. equivocal: Uncertain; undecided; doubtful.
egoity: Self-interest, selfishness See: â∫ava mala. esoteric: Hard to understand or secret. Teaching in-
egotist: One who is selfish, conceited or boastful. tended for a chosen few, as an inner group of initiates.
Eckhart, Meister Johannes: German theologian (1260- Abtruse or private.
1327) regarded as the founder of Catholic mysticism essence (essential): The most important, ultimate, real
in Germany. His influential works concern the union and unchanging nature of a thing or being. —essence
of the individual soul with God. of the soul: See: âtman, soul.
elastic: Flexible, able to stretch and immediately return eternity: Time without beginning or end.
to an original length or shape. ether: Åkâßa. Space, the most subtle of the five elements.
elemental temples: Five temples in South India, each See: âkâßa.
enshrining one of the Pañchatattva Liˆgas, five sacred ethereal: Highly refined, light, invisible.
emblems of Lord Íiva representing the five basic ele- etheric: Having to do with ether or space.
ments: earth (p®ithivî), water (âpas), fire (tejas), air ethics: The code or system of morals of a nation, people,
(vâyu) and ether (âkâßa). 1) The Earth Liˆga is en- philosophy, religion, etc. See: dharma, yama-niyama.
shrined in the Ekambareßvara Temple at Kanchipuram. ethnic: Pertaining to, or designating a large group or
2) The Water Liˆga is worshiped at Jambukeßvara groups of people with the same culture, race, religion,
Temple in Trichy. 3) The Fire Liˆga is venerated at the or national heritage.
Arunchaleßvara Temple in Tiruvannamalai. 4) The Air evil: That which is bad, morally wrong, causing harm,
Liˆga is venerated at the Írî Kalahasti Temple, north pain, misery. In Western religions, evil is often thought
of Tirupati. 5) The Åkâßa Liˆga is enshrined at the of as a moral antagonism to God. Hindus hold that
stunning Írî Na†arâja Temple of Chidambaram. evil, known in Sanskrit as pâpa, pâpman or dush†â,
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is the result of unvirtuous acts (pâpa or adharma) vance of a vow or holy day. Hindus fast in various ways.
caused by the instinctive-intellectual mind dominat- A simple fast may consist of merely avoiding certain
ing and obscuring deeper, spiritual intelligence. The foods for a day or more, such as when vegetarians
evil-doer is viewed as a young soul, ignorant of the avoid tamasic or rajasic foods or when nonvegetarians
value of right thought, speech and action, unable to abstain from fish, fowl and meats. A moderate fast
live in the world without becoming entangled in mâyâ. would involve avoiding heavier foods, or taking only
—intrinsic evil: Inherent, inborn badness. Hinduism juices, teas and other liquids. Such fasts are sometimes
holds that there is no intrinsic evil, and the real nature observed only during the day, and a normal meal is
of man is his divine, soul nature, which is goodness. permitted after sunset. Serious fasting, which is done
See: hell, karma, pâpa, sin. under supervision, involves taking only water for a
evolution of the soul: Adhyâtma prasâra. In Íaiva Sid- number of days and requires a cessation of most ex-
dhânta, the soul’s evolution is a progressive unfold- ternal activities.
ment, growth and maturing toward its inherent, di- fetus: A human/animal embryo more than eight weeks
vine destiny, which is complete merger with Íiva. The after conception until birth.
soul is not created at the moment of conception of a First World: The physical universe, called Bhûloka, of
physical body. Rather, it is created in the Íivaloka. It gross or material substance in which phenomena are
evolves by taking on denser and denser sheaths—cog- perceived by the five senses. See: loka.
nitive, instinctive-intellectual and prâ∫ic—until finally five family practices: Pañcha ku†umba sâdhana, or
it takes birth in physical form in the Bhûloka. Then five parenting guidelines. 1) Good Conduct—Dhar-
it experiences many lives, maturing through the re- machâra: Loving fathers and mothers, knowing they
incarnation process. There are young souls just be- are the greatest influence in a child’s life, behave the
ginning to evolve, and old souls nearing the end of way their dear children should when adults. They nev-
their earthly sojourn. See: mala, moksha, reincarnation, er anger or argue before young ones. Father in a dhotî,
saμsâra, vißvagrâsa. mother in a sârî at home, all sing to God, Gods and
excruciating: Intensely painful, agonizing. guru. 2) Home Worship—Dharma Svag®iha: Loving
existence: “Coming or standing forth.” Being; reality; fathers and mothers establish a separate shrine room
that which is. in the home for God, Gods and guardian devas of the
existentialism: A philosophy that emphasizes the family. Ideally it should be large enough for all the
uniqueness and isolation of the individual experi- dear children. It is a sacred place for scriptural study,
ence in a hostile or indifferent universe, regards hu- a refuge from the karmic storms of life.3) Talking
man existence as unexplainable, and stresses freedom About Religion—Dharma Sambhâshana: Loving fa-
of choice and responsibility for the consequences of thers and mothers speak Vedic precepts while driving,
one’s acts. eating and playing. This helps dear children under-
existentialist: Pertaining to, or believing in, the philoso- stand experiences in right perspective. Parents know
phy of existentialism. many worldly voices are blaring, and their dharmic
exuberant: Full of unrestrained enthusiasm or joy. voice must be stronger. 4) Continuing Self-Study—
Dharma Svâdhyâya: Loving fathers and mothers keep
faith: Trust or belief. Conviction. informed by studying the Vedas, Ågamas and sacred
From the Latin fidere, “to trust.” Faith literature, listening to swâmîs and pandits. Youth face
in its broadest sense means “religion, a world they will one day own, thus parents prepare
dharma.” More specifically, it is the es- their dear children to guide their own future progeny.
sential element of religion—the belief 5) Following a Spiritual Preceptor—Dharma Saˆga:
in phenomena beyond the pale of the Loving fathers and mothers choose a preceptor, a tra-
five senses, distinguishing it sharply from rationalism. ditional satguru, and lineage to follow. They support
Faith is established through intuitive or transcendent their lineage with all their heart, energy and service.
experience of an individual, study of scripture and He in turn provides them clear guidance for a success-
hearing the testimony of the many wise ®ishis speak- ful life, material and religious.
ing out the same truths over thousands of years. This five states of mind: The conscious, subconscious, sub-
inner conviction is based in the divine sight of the subconscious, subsuperconscious and superconscious
third eye center, âjñâ chakra. Rightly founded, faith mind. See: mind (five states).
transcends reason, but does not conflict with reason. forbearance: Self-control; responding with patience
Faith also means confidence, as in the testimony and and compassion, especially under provocation. En-
reputation of other people. The Sanskrit equivalent is durance; tolerance. See: yama-niyama.
ßraddhâ. Synonyms include âstikya, vißvâsa, dharma forehead marks: See: tilaka.
and mati. force field: A region of space through which a force,
family life: See: g®ihastha âßrama, extended family, joint for example, an electric current, is operative. Here
family. the term is used in reference to psychic energies, both
family practices: See: five family practices. positive and negative, that are generated by the emo-
fast: To abstain from all or certain foods, as in obser- tions, the mind, the higher or lower chakras or ema-
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nate from the inner higher or lower worlds. Positive Ga∫apati: í®¥⁄™ “Leader of the ga∫as.”
psychic force fields, such as those surrounding and A surname of Ga∫eßa.
protecting a temple, an ashram or harmonious home, Gandhi: í≥∞¤ Mohandas Ka ram-
are built up by worship, invoking of the Deities, sâd- chand Gandhi (1869-1948), the Hindu
hana, tapas and disciplined living, attracting divine nationalist leader whose strategy of
spirits, or devas. Negative force fields, such as found nonviolent resistance won India’s
in the worst areas of a city or within an inharmonious freedom from British colonial rule. Often honored as
home, are built up by anger, violence, lust and out- Mahâtma (“great soul”).
bursts of such lower emotions, attracting evil spirits, Ga∫eßa: í®‰ À “Lord of Categories.” (From ga∫, “to
or asuras. See: odic, actinic, prâ∫a. count or reckon,” and Èßa, “lord.”) Or: “Lord of at-
formless: Philosophically, atattva, beyond the realm of tendants (ga∫a),” synonymous with Ga∫apati. Ga∫-
form or substance. Used in attempting to describe the eßa is a Mahâdeva, the beloved elephant-faced Deity
wondersome, indescribable Absolute, which is “time- honored by Hindus of every sect. He is the Lord of
less, formless and spaceless.” God Íiva has form and is Obstacles (Vighneßvara), revered for His great wis-
formless. He is the immanent Pure Consciousness or dom and invoked first before any undertaking, for
pure form. He is the Personal Lord manifesting as in- He knows all intricacies of each soul’s karma and the
numerable forms; and He is the impersonal, transcen- perfect path of dharma that makes action successful.
dent Absolute beyond all form. Thus we know Íiva in He sits on the mûlâdhâra chakra and is easy of access.
three perfections, two of form and one formless. See: See: ga∫a, Ga∫apati, Mahâdeva.
Paraßiva, Satchidânanda. Ga∫eßa Chaturthî: í®‰ À ò™‹ ¨ ¤ Birthday of Lord
four traditional goals: Chaturvarga, “four-fold good,” Ga∫eßa, a ten-day festival of August-September that
or purushârtha, “human goals or purposes.” The culminates in a spectacular parade called Ga∫eßa
four pursuits in which humans may legitimately en- Visarjana. It is a time of rejoicing, when all Hindus
gage, a basic principle of Hindu ethics. 1) dharma worship together.
(“Righteous living”): The fulfillment of virtue, good Gaˆgâ sâdhana: íÄퟖŸ∞≤ A practice for unburden-
works, duties and responsibilities, restraints and ob- ing the mind, performed by releasing the energy of
servances—performing one’s part in the service and unwanted thoughts. An internal cleansing sâdhana of
upliftment of society. This includes pursuit of truth sitting quietly by a river or stream and listening to the
under a guru of a particular paramparâ and sam- Aum sound as the water flows over the rocks. When a
pradâya. See: dharma. 2) artha (“Wealth”): Material thought arises, it is mentally placed into a leaf held in
welfare and abundance, money, property, possessions. the right hand, then gently tossed into the water. Then
Artha is the pursuit of wealth, guided by dharma. It a flower is offered to thank the water for carrying away
includes the basic needs—food, money, clothing the thought. This is a subconscious cleansing process
and shelter—and extends to the wealth required to of letting go of hurts, anger, problems or whatever
maintain a comfortable home, raise a family, fulfill it is that rises in the mind to disturb the meditation.
a successful career and perform religious duties. See: Ganges (Gaˆgâ): íÄíŸ India’s most sacred river, 1,557
yajña. 3) kâma (“Pleasure, love; enjoyment”): Earthly miles long, arising in the Himalayas above Haridwar
love, aesthetic and cultural fulfillment, pleasures of under the name Bhagîratha, and being named Gaˆgâ
the world (including sexual), the joys of family, intel- after joining the Alakanada (where the Sarasvatî is
lectual satisfaction. Enjoyment of happiness, security, said to join them underground). It flows southeast
creativity, usefulness and inspiration. 4) moksha (“Lib- across the densely populated Gangetic plain, joining
eration”): Freedom from rebirth through the ultimate its sister Yamunâ (or Jumnâ) at Prayaga (Allahabad)
attainment, realization of the Self God, Paraßiva. The and ending at the Bay of Bengal.
spiritual attainments and superconscious joys, attend- Gangetic: Near to or on the banks of the Ganges river
ing renunciation and yoga leading to Self Realization. in North India.
Moksha comes through the fulfillment of dharma, ar- Gangetic abodes of Íiva: Ancient pilgrimage places that
tha and kâma in the current or past lives, so that one is devotees strive to visit at least once in a lifetime, in-
no longer attached to worldly joys or sorrows. cluding the sacred Vißvanâtha Temple of Varanasi (on
fundamentalism: Any religious creed or philosophical the banks of the Gaˆgâ between the Vara∫â and Asî
persuasion marked by extreme dogmatism and in- Rivers); Ga˜gotri Temple at the source of the Ga˜ga
tolerance. There are fundamentalist denominations (near Kedarnath), and the sacred temples in the cities
within many religions, believing in a literal interpreta- of Hardwar and Rishikesh.
tion of their scripture as the exclusive truth, the one garbhag®iha: í∫@퇓 The “innermost chamber,” sanc-
and only way which all souls must follow to attain sal- tum sanctorum, of a Hindu temple, where the pri-
vation. Historically, fundamentalism, especially when mary mûrti is installed. It is a small, cave-like room,
coupled with evangelical zeal, has led to aggression, usually made of granite stone, to which only priests
even violence, against nonbelievers. are permitted access. Esoterically it represents the cra-
nial chamber. See: temple.
gauche: Someone lacking grace or social tack; awkward,
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clumsy. See: âßrama dharma.

ghee: î¤ Hindi for clarified butter; gh®ita in Sanskrit. g®ihastha dharma: 퇓—¨∞º@ “Householder law.” The
Butter that has been boiled and strained. An impor- virtues and ideals of family life. See: âßrama dharma.
tant sacred substance used in temple lamps and of- gross: Dense, coarse, unrefined, crude; carnal, sensual;
fered in fire ceremony, yajña. It is also used as a food lacking sensitivity.
with many âyurvedic virtues. See: yajña. guarantor: A person or corporation that makes or gives
Gibran, Kahlil: Lebanese mystic, poet, dramatist and assurance or pledge.
artist (1888-1931), best known for The Prophet. gu∫a: í‹® “Strand; quality.” The three constituent prin-
Gîtâ: í¤™Ÿ “Song.” Foreshortened title of Bhagavad Gîtâ. ciples of prak®iti, primal nature. The three gu∫as are:
See: Bhagavad Gîtâ. —sattva: “Purity,” quiescent, rarified, translucent, per-
gluttony: Excessiveness in eating or drinking. vasive, reflecting the light of Pure Consciousness. —
God Realization: Direct and personal experience of rajas: “Passion,” inherent in energy, movement, action,
the Divine within oneself. It can refer to either 1) savi- emotion, life. —tamas: “Darkness,” inertia, density,
kalpa samâdhi (“enstasy with form”) in its various the force of contraction, resistance and dissolution.
levels, from the experience of inner light to the re- The gu∫as are integral to Hindu thought, as all things
alization of Satchidânanda, the pure consciousness are composed of the combination of these qualities
or primal substance flowing through all form, or 2) of nature, including âyurveda, arts, environments and
nirvikalpa samâdhi (“enstasy without form”), union personalities. See: âyurveda.
with the transcendent Absolute, Paraßiva, the Self God, guru: í‹¡ “Weighty one,” indicating an authority of great
beyond time, form and space. In The Master Course knowledge or skill. A title for a teacher or guide in any
trilogy, the expression God Realization is used to name subject, such as music, dance, sculpture, but especially
both of the above samâdhis, whereas Self Realization religion. According to the Advayatâraka Upanishad
refers only to nirvikalpa samâdhi. See: râja yoga, samâ- (14-18), guru means “dispeller (gu) of darkness (ru).”
dhi, Self Realization. See: guru-ßishya system, satguru.
God: Supernal being. Either the Supreme God, Íiva, or guru bhakti: í‹¡∫⁄# Devotion to the teacher. The at-
one of the Mahâdevas, great souls, who are among His titude of humility, love and ideation held by a student
creation. See: Gods, Mahâdeva, Íiva. in any field of study. In the spiritual realm, the devotee
Gods: Mahâdevas, “great beings of light.” The plural of strives to see the guru as his higher Self. By attuning
God refers to extremely advanced beings existing in himself to the satguru’s inner nature and wisdom, the
their self-effulgent soul bodies in the causal plane. The disciple slowly transforms his own nature to ultimate-
meaning of Gods is best seen in the phrase, “God and ly attain the same peace and enlightenment his guru
the Gods,” referring to the Supreme God—Íiva—and has achieved. Guru bhakti is expressed through serv-
the Mahâdevas, who are His creation. See: Mahâdeva. ing the guru, meditating on his form, working closely
grace: “Benevolence, love, giving,” from the Latin gra- with his mind and obeying his instructions. See: guru,
tia, “favor,” “goodwill.” God’s power of revealment, satguru, guru-ßishya system.
anugraha ßakti (“kindness, showing favor”), by which Gurudeva: í‹¡Æ‰Δ “Divine” or “radiant preceptor.” From
souls are awakened to their true, Divine nature. Grace guru, “teacher” and deva, “angel.” An affectionate, re-
in the unripe stages of the spiritual journey is experi- spectful title for the satguru. See: guru, satguru, deva.
enced by the devotee as receiving gifts or boons, often Guru Mahâsannidhânam: í‹¡ º“Ÿ–⁄≤Ù∞Ÿ≤ºÎ Spiritual
unbidden, from God. The mature soul finds himself head of a traditional aadheenam. See: aadheenakartar.
surrounded by grace. He sees all of God’s actions as guru paramparâ: í‹¡¥¿Ä¥¿Ÿ “Preceptorial succession”
grace, whether they be seemingly pleasant and helpful (literally, “from one teacher to another”). A line of
or not. See: ßaktinipâta. spiritual gurus in authentic succession of initiation;
gratification: Indulging in what is desired. the chain of mystical power and authorized continuity,
Great Oath: The Íaiva sannyâsin’s vow of renunciation, passed from guru to guru. See: sampradâya.
the mahâvrata of the Íaivite pathfinders. It is the re- Guru Pûr∫imâ: í‹¡ ¥›⁄®@ºŸ Occurring on the full moon
linquishment of the world, desire and ego. It is detach- of July, a day of rededication to all that the guru repre-
ment founded in knowledge of the magnetic nature of sents. It is occasioned by pâdapûjâ—ritual worship of
body, mind and emotion, a knowledge which inclines the guru’s sandals, which represent his holy feet. See:
the soul toward noninvolvement with external forms guru-ßishya system.
and, in time, summons forth realization of Paraßiva, guru-ßishya system: í‹¡⁄Àœæ “Master-disciple” system.
Absolute Reality. See: sannyâsa. An important educational system of Hinduism where-
g®ihastha: 퇓—¨ “Householder.” Family man or woman. by the teacher conveys his knowledge and tradition
Family of a married couple and other relatives. Per- to a student. Such knowledge, whether it be Vedic-
taining to family life. The purely masculine form of Ågamic art, architecture or spirituality, is imparted
the word is g®ihasthin, and the feminine g®ihasthî. through the developing relationship between guru
G®ihasthî also names the home itself. See: âßrama and disciple. See: guru, guru bhakti, satguru.
dharma. guruthondu: FUbjhz;L “Service to the guru.” In Living
g®ihastha âßrama: 퇓—¨ ÇŸÃ˘º “Householder stage.” with Íiva, guruthondu refers to the period of service
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that all young men of Gurudeva’s Íaiva Church are heroic measures: Medical intervention that provides
expected to fulfill in a monastery, at least six months breathing or heart function for someone whose
and ideally two years, prior to marriage. It also refers body cannot sustain these processes on its own. Such
to the three-hour period that monastics devote in measures today include cardiopulmonary resuscita-
specific projects, working under the guru’s direction, tion (CPR) and artificial respiration by human or
performed as a personal vigil, preceded and ended by machine. Heroic measures span the gamut from
with a ceremony in the temple. emergency intervention, such as in an auto accident
or a near drowning, to applying mechanical devices
harmonize: To bring about agreement to the body of an elderly person who has suffered or-
or harmony. gan failure who would expire without such intrusion.
ha†ha yoga: “§æËí “Forceful yoga.” Such heroic measures are welcomed in the event of
Ha†ha yoga is a system of physical and accident or disease as temporary measures when re-
mental exercise developed in ancient covery is likely, but they are not advised as long-term
times as a means of rejuvenation by life support with little or no hope of recovery, espe-
®ishis and tapasvins who meditated for long hours, cially in advanced years when death is immanent. It is
and used today in preparing the body and mind for the latter artifical extension of life beyond the natural
meditation. In the West, ha†ha yoga has been super- capacity of the body to sustain itself or recover from
ficially adopted as a health-promoting, limbering, an injury that Living with Íiva advises against.
stress-reducing form of exercise, often included in higher-nature, lower nature: Expressions indicating
aerobic routines. Esoterically, ha and †ha, respectively, man’s refined, soulful qualities on the one hand, and
indicate the microcosmic sun (ha) and moon (†ha), his base, instinctive qualities on the other. See: koßa,
which symbolize the masculine current, piˆgalâ nâ∂î, mind (five states), soul.
and feminine current, i∂â nâ∂î, in the human body. Himalayan abodes of Íiva: These renowned pilgrimage
See: âsana, ku∫∂alinî, nâ∂î, yoga, râja yoga. sites include Mount Kailâßa (in Tibet) and Lake Ma-
Ha†ha Yoga Pradîpikâ: “§æËí¥˘Æ¤⁄¥éŸ “Light on ha†ha nasarovar at its base; Kedarnath (in Garhwal, Uttara
yoga.” A 14th-century text of 389 verses by Svatmara- Pradesh) and Amarnath, the ice Liˆga cave temple in
ma Yogin which describes the philosophy and practic- Kashmir.
es of ha†ha yoga. It is widely used in yoga schools today. Himalayan Academy: An educational and publishing
havana: “Δ≤ “Making oblations through fire.” The Ve- institution of Saiva Siddhanta Church founded by Si-
dic fire ritual. Same as homa. Can also refer to the vaya Subramuniyaswami in 1957. The Academy’s ob-
offering place, or ku∫∂a. Havis and havya name the jective is to spread the teachings of Sanâtana Dharma
offerings. See: homa. through the monthly magazine HINDUISM TODAY, In-
havana ku∫∂a: “Δ≤ é‹©¢ “Offering pit.” The fire pit, nersearch travel-study programs, The Master Course
usually lined with bricks, into which offerings are trilogy of Dancing with Íiva, Living with Íîva and
placed during havana, or homa, rites. Merging with Íiva, as well as other publications and
heart chakra: Anâhata chakra. Center of direct cogni- web resources, all as a public service to Hindus world-
tion. See: chakra. wide. See: Hinduism Today, Subramuniyaswami.
heaven: The celestial spheres, including the causal plane Himâlayas: ⁄“ºŸƒæ “Abode of snow.” The mountain
and the higher realms of the subtle plane, where souls system extending along the India-Tibet border and
rest and learn between births, and mature souls con- through Pakistan, Nepal and Bhutan.
tinue to evolve after moksha. Heaven is often used by hiμsâ: ⁄“Ä–Ÿ “Injury;” “harm;” “hurt.” Injuriousness,
translators as an equivalent to the Sanskrit Svarga. hostility—mental, verbal or physical. See: ahiμsâ.
See: loka. Hindu: ⁄“≥Æ‹ A follower of, or relating to, Hinduism.
hedonist: Dedicated to or obsessed with the pursuit of Generally, one is understood to be a Hindu by being
pleasure. born into a Hindu family and practicing the faith, or
heinous: Grossly wicked or reprehensible; abomi- by professing oneself a Hindu. Acceptance into the
nable. fold is recognized through the name-giving sacrament,
hell: Naraka. An unhappy, mentally and emotionally a temple ceremony called nâmakara∫a saμskâra, giv-
congested, distressful area of consciousness. Hell is a en to born Hindus shortly after birth, and to Hindus
state of mind that can be experienced on the physi- by choice who have proven their sincerity and been
cal plane or in the sub-astral plane (Naraka) after accepted by a Hindu community. Full conversion is
death of the physical body. It is accompanied by the completed through disavowal of previous religious af-
tormented emotions of hatred, remorse, resentment, filiations and legal change of name. While traditions
fear, jealousy and self-condemnation. However, in the vary greatly, all Hindus rely on the Vedas as scriptural
Hindu view, the hellish experience is not permanent, authority and generally attest to the following nine
but a temporary condition of one’s own making. See: principles: 1) There exists a one, all-pervasive Su-
asura, Naraka. preme Being who is both immanent and transcendent,
heresy: An opinion or belief that is strongly at variance both creator and unmanifest Reality. 2) The universe
with beliefs, customs within an established religion. undergoes endless cycles of creation, preservation and
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dissolution. 3) All souls are evolving toward God and HINDUISM TODAY: The Hindu family magazine founded
will ultimately find moksha: spiritual knowledge and by Sivaya Subramuniyaswami in 1979, published bi-
liberation from the cycle of rebirth. Not a single soul monthly by Himalayan Academy to affirm Sanâtana
will be eternally deprived of this destiny. 4) Karma is Dharma and record the modern history of a bil-
the law of cause and effect by which each individual lion-strong global religion in renaissance, reaching
creates his own destiny by his thoughts, words and 150,000 readers in over 100 countries. See: Himalayan
deeds. 5) The soul reincarnates, evolving through Academy.
many births until all karmas have been resolved. 6) Hispanic: Latin American; relating to their culture.
Divine beings exist in unseen worlds, and temple wor- holy ash: See: vibhûti.
ship, rituals, sacraments, as well as personal devotion- holy feet: The feet of God, a God, satguru or any holy
als, create a communion with these devas and Gods. person, often represented by venerable sandals, called
7) A spiritually awakened master or satguru is essential ßrî pâdukâ in Sanskrit and tiruvadi in Tamil. The feet
to know the transcendent Absolute, as are personal of a Divinity are considered especially precious as they
discipline, good conduct, purification, self-inquiry represent the point of contact of the Divine and the
and meditation. 8) All life is sacred, to be loved and physical, and are thus revered as the source of grace.
revered, and therefore one should practice ahiμsâ, The sandals or feet of the guru are the object of wor-
nonviolence. 9) No particular religion teaches the only ship on his jayantî (birthday), on Guru Pûr∫imâ and
and exclusive way to salvation above all others. Rather, other special occasions. See: satguru.
all genuine religious paths are facets of God’s pure Holy Kural: See: Tirukural.
love and light, deserving tolerance and understanding. holy orders: A divine ordination or covenant, confer-
See: Hinduism. ring religious authority. Vows that members of a reli-
Hindu Heritage Endowment: A publicly supported gious body make, especially a monastic body or order,
charitable foundation established by Satguru Sivaya such as the vows (holy orders of renunciation) made
Subramuniyaswami in December, 1993, as a public by a sannyâsin at the time of his initiation (sannyâsa
service. Its philanthropic mission is to set up and dîkshâ), which establish a covenant with the ancient
maintain secure, professionally managed endowments holy order of sannyâsa. See: sannyâsa dîkshâ.
to offer financial support for individuals, religious homa: “˺ “Fire-offering.” A sacred ceremony in which
leaders and institutions of all lineages of Sânatana the Gods are offered oblations through the medium of
Dharma. www.HHEonline.org fire in a sanctified fire pit, homaku∫∂a, usually made
Hindu solidarity: Hindu unity in diversity. A major of earthen bricks. Homa rites are enjoined in the Ve-
contemporary theme according to which Hindu de- das, Ågamas and Dharma and G®ihya Íâstras. See: agni.
nominations are mutually supportive and work to- Homo sapiens: Human beings, man; the species includ-
gether in harmony, while taking care not to obscure or ing all existing races of mankind.
lessen their distinctions or unique virtues. The underly- hosting guests: Hospitality toward special guests in
ing belief is that Hinduism will be strong if each of its Hindu homes is extraordinary. It follows the Vedic
sects, and lineages is vibrant. See: Hinduism. edict that the guest is God in one of many forms.
Hinduism (Hindu Dharma): ⁄“≥Æ‹ ∞ º@ India’s indig- Therefore, greetings and hospitality are offered as if
enous religious and cultural system, followed today to a God. ¶While each visitor, whether close or dis-
by nearly one billion adherents, mostly in India, but tant, is treated with love and generosity, a protocol
with large diaspora in many other countries. Also is observed on special occasions for honored guests
called Sanâtana Dharma (Eternal religion) and Vai- in the South Indian/Sri Lankan Hindu tradition. The
dika Dharma (Religion of the Vedas.) Hinduism is house is decorated with tombais (ornaments made
the world’s most ancient religion and encompasses a from palm leaves) and mango leaves above the front
broad spectrum of philosophies ranging from plural- door. Outside the front door on the porch are set a
istic theism to absolute monism. It is a family of myr- kuttuvilaku (standing oil lamp) and kumbha (water
iad faiths with four primary denominations: Íaivism, pot with five mango leaves and a decorated coconut,
Vaish∫avism, Íâktism and Smârtism. These four hold representing Lord Ga∫eßa). Kolams (floor decora-
such divergent beliefs that each is a complete and in- tions made from colored rice flour) are drawn at the
dependent religion. Yet, they share a vast heritage of threshold or gate of the home. ¶Guests are greeted
culture and belief—karma, dharma, reincarnation, all- at the door with offerings of vibhuti, kuˆkuma and
pervasive Divinity, temple worship, sacraments, mani- chandana, then sprinkled lightly with rose water and
fold Deities, the guru-ßishya tradition and a reliance given a small candy. They then enter the home and are
on the Vedas as scriptural authority. From the rich soil led into the shrine room where the elder man of the
of Hinduism have sprung other traditions, including house performs âratî to Ga∫eßa, Murugan and Íiva.
Jainism, Buddhism and Sikhism, which rejected the Following the âratî, everyone goes into the commu-
Vedas and thus emerged as completely distinct reli- nal room of the house and arranges themselves in a
gions, dissociated from Hinduism, while still sharing chakravâla, or a circle according to age, first the men,
many philosophical insights and cultural values with then the ladies, each younger sitting to his or her el-
their parent faith. See: Hindu. der’s left. The most senior male leads everyone in a
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peaceful invocation, then bhâjanas are led and sung impurity: A state of immorality, pollution or sin. Un-
by all. Other activities follow. ¶For meals, mats are cleanliness.
laid on the floor in two lines, one side for men and inanimate: See: animate-inanimate.
another for ladies. Banana leaves are placed before inauspicious: Not favorable. Not a good time to
each person, sometimes on top of plates. The lady of perform certain actions or undertake projects. Ill-
the house and the youngest women serve everyone. omened.
Salt is first placed at the top right corner of each leaf, incantation: Japa or mantraprayoga. The chanting of
followed by the curries and rice with sambar. Seconds prayers, verses or formulas for magical or mystical
are offered until everyone is satisfied. After the initial purposes. Also such chants (mantra). See: mantra.
rice with sambar, rice is served with râsam and then incarnation: From incarnate, “made flesh.” The soul’s
with curd, or yogurt, as well as more salt, if neces- taking on a human body. —divine incarnation: The
sary, and pickles. Tumblers of water and râsam are concept of avatâra. The Supreme Being’s (or other
available for each guest (although usually water only Mahâdeva’s) taking of human birth, generally to re-
is served nowadays). Kesari, payasam or other sweets establish dharma. This doctrine is important to sev-
and tea are served after the meal. When the meal is eral Hindu sects, notably Vaish∫avism, but not held by
concluded, very special guests would be offered a bowl most Íaivites. See: avatâra, Vaish∫avism.
of water to wash their hands where they sit. Hands are indigent: Impoverished; poor; needy; destitute.
never washed in the kitchen sink, but the bathroom indomitable: Not easily discouraged, defeated or sub-
is okay. In Asia a special sink is most often located in dued. Unconquerable.
the room where meals are taken. The hostess, standing Indra: Ñ≥Æ˙ “Ruler.” Vedic God of rain and thunder, war-
and facing East, gives each married lady kuˆkuma and rior king of the devas. A great, inner-plane being who
all guests a gift upon their departure, often as simple is invoked in hundreds of Vedic hymns.
as a few betel leaves or a candy. Friends, relatives and I-ness: The conceiving of oneself as an “I,” or ego, which
casual guests are treated according to a more informal Hinduism considers a state to be transcended. See:
protocol. â∫ava mala, mind (individual).
hrî: “˚¤ “Remorse; modesty.” See: yama-niyama. infidel: One who has no religious beliefs, or who rejects
humility: Modesty in behavior, attitude, or spirit; not a particular religion.
arrogant or prideful. infiltrate: To gradually penetrate so as to counteract or
hu∫∂i: “‹⁄©• “Offering box,” from hun, “to sacrifice.” A seize control from within.
strong box inside Hindu temples into which devotees infinitesimal: Infinitely small; too small to be mea-
place their contributions. sured.
hymns: Songs of praise to God, Gods or guru. inhibit: To hold back, restrain, prohibit or forbid. To
hypocrisy: Professing beliefs, feelings, or virtues that suppress.
one does not hold or possess; false pretensions. initiation (to initiate): Entering into; admission as a
member. In Hinduism, initiation from a qualified pre-
icçhâ ßakti: ÑôöŸÀ⁄# “Desire; will.” ceptor is considered invaluable for spiritual progress.
ice: See: methamphetamine. See: dîkshâ, ßaktinpâta, sannyâsa dîkshâ.
i∂â nâ∂î: Ñ•Ÿ≤Ÿ•¤ “Soothing channel.” innate: Naturally inborn; not acquired. That which
The feminine psychic current flowing belongs to the inherent nature or constitution of a
along the spine. See: ku∫∂alinî, nâ∂î, being or thing.
odic, piˆgalâ. inner light: A moonlight-like glow that can be seen in-
ideology: A set of doctrines or beliefs that form the ba- side the head or throughout the body when the v®ittis,
sis of a system of thought, often used to mean narrow- mental fluctuations, have been sufficiently quieted. To
minded or uncritical adherence to such a system. be able to see and bask in the inner light is a milestone
immanent: Indwelling; inherent and operating within. on the path. See: v®itti.
Relating to God, the term immanent means present inner planes: Inner worlds or regions of existence.
in all things and throughout the universe, not aloof innerversity: Learning from within. A word coined by
or distant. Not to be confused with imminent, about Sivaya Subramuniyaswami which indicates turning
to happen; emanate, to issue from; eminent, high in inward, through yoga concentration and meditation,
rank. to the vast superconscious state of mind; whence
immemorial (from time immemorial): From a time knowledge can be unfolded.
so distant that it extends beyond history or human insignia: Plural of the Latin insigne. Signs or symbols
memory. of identity, rank or office, such as a badge, staff or
imminent: Threatening to happen without delay; im- emblem.
pending. instinctive: “Natural” or “innate.” From the Latin in-
impetus: A push that stimulates activity. Driving force; stinctus, participle of instingere, “impelling,” pricking,”
motive, incentive. “instigating.” The drives and impulses that order the
impulse: A sudden wish or urge that prompts an un- animal world and the physical and lower astral aspects
planned act or feeling. of humans—for example, self-preservation, procre-
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ation, hunger and thirst, as well as the emotions of the ups and downs in life. See: marul, paßu-jñânam,
greed, hatred, anger, fear, lust and jealousy. See: mind, sakala avasthâ.
yama-niyama. Ish†a Devatâ: Ñ{Æ‰Δ™Ÿ “Cherished” or “chosen Deity.”
instinctive mind: Manas chitta. The lower mind, which The Deity that is the object of one’s special pious
controls the basic faculties of perception, movement, attention. Ish†a Devatâ is a concept common to all
as well as ordinary thought and emotion. Manas Hindu sects. See: Íakti, Íiva.
chitta is of the manomaya koßa. See: koßa, yama-ni- Islam: The religion founded by Prophet Muhammed
yama, mind. in Arabia about 625 ce. Islam connotes submission
instinctive-intellectual mind: The mind in ordinary to Allah, the name for God in this religion. Adherents,
consciousness, when actions are based either upon known as Muslims, follow the “Five Pillars” enjoined
instinctive emotional desires and fears or intellectual in their scripture, the Koran: faith in Allah, praying
concepts and reason. See: astral body, instinctive mind, five times daily facing Mecca, giving of alms, fasting
koßa, odic force, soul, subtle body, vâsanâ. during the month of Ramadan, and pilgrimage. Islam
intellect: The power to reason or understand; power has over one billion followers, mostly in the Middle
of thought; mental acumen. See: intellectual mind, East, Pakistan, Africa, Indonesia, China, Russia and
mind. neighboring countries.
intellectual mind: Buddhi chitta. The faculty of reason island abode of Íiva: A renowned pilgrimage site that
and logical thinking. It is the source of discriminating devotees strive to visit at least once in a lifetime. Irai-
thought, rather than the ordinary, impulsive thought van Temple is situated on the banks of the historically
processes of the lower or instinctive mind, called ma- famous Wailua River on the Garden Island of Kauai
nas chitta. Buddhi chitta is of the manomaya koßa. See: in the Hawaii island chain. See: Iraivan Temple, San
mind. Mârga Sanctuary.
internalize: To take something inside of oneself. Èßvara: ÖÕΔ¿ “Highest Lord.” Supreme or Personal God.
internalized worship: Yoga. Worship or contact with See: Parameßvara.
God and Gods via meditation and contemplation Èßvarapûjana: Ñ@ÕΔ¿¥›ú≤ “Worship.” See: yama-niyama.
rather than through external ritual. This is the yogî’s Itihâsa: Ñ⁄™“Ÿ– “So it was.” Epic history, particularly the
path, preceded by the charyâ and kriyâ pâdas. See: Râmâya∫a and Mahâbhârata (of which the Bhagavad
meditation, yoga. Gîtâ is a part). This term sometimes encompasses the
intimacy: Privacy; closeness marked by informality. Purâ∫as, especially the Skânda Purâ∫a and the Bhâga-
intone: To speak with a singing tone or with a particular vata Purâ∫a (or Írîmad Bhâgavatam). See: Mahâb-
intonation. hârata, Râmâya∫a, Sm®iti.
intrinsic: Inward; essential; inherent. Belonging to the
real nature of a being or thing. jagadâchârya: úíÆŸòŸæ@ “World
intuit: To know or sense without resorting to rational teacher.”
processes. jaggery: A dark, crude sugar made
intuition (to intuit): Direct understanding or cogni- from the sap of certain species of palm.
tion, which bypasses the process of reason. Intuition Jainism: (Jaina) úÊ≤ An ancient non-
is a far superior source of knowing than reason, but it Vedic religion of India made promi-
does not contradict reason. See: cognition, mind (five nent by the teachings of Mahâvîra (“Great Hero”),
states). ca 500 BCE. The Jain Ågamas teach reverence for all
Iraivan: ,iwtd; “Worshipful one; divine one.” One of life, vegetarianism and strict renunciation for ascet-
the most ancient Tamil epithets for God. See: Iraivan ics. Jains focus great emphasis on the fact that all
Temple. souls may attain liberation, each by their own effort.
Iraivan Temple: A chola-style white-granite Iraivan Their great historic saints, called Tîrthaˆkaras (“Ford-
Temple, hand-carved in Bangalore, India, established Crossers”), are objects of worship, of whom Mahâvîra
on Hawaii’s Garden Island of Kauai. In the sanctum was the 24th and last. Jains number about six million
sanctorum, the Supreme God, Íiva (Parameßvara- today, living mostly in India.
Parâßakti-Paraßiva), will be enshrined as a massive japa: ú¥ “Recitation” or “incantation.” Practice of con-
700-pound, single-pointed earthkeeper quartz crystal. centrated repetition of a mantra, often while counting
See: San Mârga Sanctuary. the repetitions on a mâlâ or strand of beads. It may
irul: ,Us; “Darkness.” The first of three stages of the be done silently or aloud. Sometimes known as man-
sakala avasthai where the soul’s impetus is toward tra yoga. A major sâdhana in Hindu spiritual practice,
pâßa-jñânam, knowledge and experience of the world. from the simple utterance of a few names of God to
See: pâßa-jñânam, sakala avasthâ. extraordinary feats of repeating sacred syllables mil-
iruvinaioppu: ,Utpidbahg;g[ “Balance.” The balance lions of times for years on end. See: mantra, yama-
which emerges in the life of a soul in the stage of niyama, yoga.
marul, or paßu-jñânam, the second stage of the sakala Jesus Christ: A teacher and prophet in the first century
avasthai, when the soul turns toward the good and of this era whose teachings are the basis of Christianity.
holy, becomes centered within himself, unaffected by Jew: An adherent of Judaism, or descendant of such
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adherents. See: Judaism. Kabala: A body of mystical teachings

jîva: ú¤Δ “Living, existing.” From jîv, “to live.” The indi- of rabbinical origin, partially based
vidual soul, âtman, bound by the three malas (â∫ava, on an esoteric interpretation of the
karma and mâyâ). The individuated self (jîva-âtman) Hebrew scriptures.
as opposed to the transcendental Self (parama âtman). Kadaitswami: filapw;Rthkp
The jîvanmukta is one who is “liberated while living.” Marketplace swâmî.” A satguru of the
See: âtman, evolution of the soul, purusha, soul. Nandinâtha Sampradâya’s Kailâsa Paramparâ. Born
jñâna: ◊Ÿ≤ “Knowledge; wisdom.” (Tamil: jñânam) The ca 1804; died 1891. Renouncing his career as a judge
matured state of the soul. It is the wisdom that comes in Bangalore, South India, Kadait swami became
as an aftermath of the ku∫∂alinî breaking through the a sannyâsin and trained under the “Rishi from the
door of Brahman into the realization of Paraßiva, Ab- Himålayas,” who then sent him on mission to Sri
solute Reality. The repeated samâdhis of Paraßiva ever Lanka. He performed severe tapas on an island off the
deepen this flow of divine knowing which establishes coast of Jaffna, awakening many siddhis. For decades
the knower in an extraordinary point of reference, he spurred the Sri Lankan Íaivites to greater spiri-
totally different from those who have not attained tuality through his inspired talks and demonstration
this enlightenment. Jñâna is sometimes misunder- of siddhis. He initiated Chellappaswami as the next
stood as book knowledge, as a maturity or awakening satguru in the paramparâ. Kadaitswami’s name given
that comes from simply understanding a complex at his initiation was Muthyanandaswami. See: Kailâsa
philosophical system or systems. Those who define Paramparâ, Nâtha Sampradâya.
jñâna in this way deny that the path is a progression khadi kavi: fhjpfht “Hand made saffron color.” Hand-
of charyâ-kriyâ-yoga-jñâna or of karma-bhakti-râja- spun, hand woven cloth, ocher in color, worn by Hin-
jñâna. Rather, they say that one can choose one’s own du renunciates. A Tamil term referring to the color
path, and that each leads to the ultimate goal. See: God taken on by robes of sâdhus who sit, meditate or live
Realization, door of Brahman, Self Realization, samâdhi. on the banks of the Ganges. The Sanskrit equivalent
jñâna dâna: ◊Ÿ≤ÆŸ≤ “Gifts of wisdom.” The karma yoga is kâshâya.
of printing, sponsoring and distributing Hindu reli- kahuna: “Deep one.” A priest in the Native Hawaiian
gious literature, pamphlets and books, free of charge religion: 1) Kahuna pule officiated in the temples
as a way of helping others spiritually. See: yama-ni- (heiau) and performed rites for the inauguration of
yama. houses. 2) Healer kahunas were medicine men who,
jñâna mârga: ◊Ÿ≤ºŸí@ See: jñâna pâda. depending on their specialty, delivered babies, treat-
jñâna pâda: ◊Ÿ≤¥ŸAÆ “Stage of wisdom.” According to ed sick children, and plied the arts of magic, diag-
the Íaiva Siddhânta ®ishis, jñâna is the last of the four nosis with fingertips, psychic reading and contacting
successive pâdas (stages) of spiritual unfoldment. It the spirits of illness. 3) Kaula kahunas were reclusive
is the culmination of the third stage, the yoga pâda. ascetic prophets who lived aloof from society. A rare
Also names the knowledge section of each Ågama. See: few kahuna lineages are carried forth today.
jñâna, pâda. kaîf: (Shûm) The state of awareness being aware of itself.
jñânî: ◊Ÿ≤¤ “Sage.” One who possesses jñâna. See: jñâna. Pronounced kaw-eef. See: Shûm.
Judaic-Christian: Concerned with two of the three re- Kailas (Kailâsa): éÁ ƒ Ÿ– “Crystalline,” or “abode of
ligions descended from Abraham, Judaism and Chris- bliss.” The four-faced Himâlayan peak (22,028 feet)
tianty, especially in the sense of their shared beliefs. in Western Tibet; the earthly abode of Lord Íiva. As-
Judaism: The religion of over 12 million adherents sociated with Mount Meru, the legendary center of
worldwide (over half in the United States), first of the universe, it is an important pilgrimage destina-
the Abrahamic faiths, founded about 3,700 years ago tion for all Hindus, as well as for Tibetan Buddhists.
in Canaan (now Israel) by Abraham, who started the Kailâsa is represented in Íâktism by a certain three-
lineage, and in Egypt by Moses, who emancipated the dimensional form of the Írî Chakra yantra (also called
enslaved Jewish tribes. Its major scripture is the Torah. kailâsa chakra). See: Írî Chakra.
jyotisha: ùæË⁄™Œ From jyoti, “light.” “The science of Kailâsa Paramparâ: éÁƒŸ–¥¿~¥¿Ÿ A spiritual lineage
the lights (or stars).” Hindu astrology, the knowledge of 162 siddhas, a major stream of the Nandinâtha
and practice of analyzing events and circumstances, Sampradâya, proponents of the ancient philosophy
delineating character and determining auspicious mo- of monistic Íaiva Siddhânta. The first of these mas-
ments, according to the positions and movements of ters that history recalls was Maharishi Nandinatha (or
heavenly bodies. In calculating horoscopes, jyotisha Nandikesvara) 2,250 years ago, satguru to the great
uses the sidereal (fixed-star) system, whereas Western Tirumular, ca 200 bce, and seven other disciples (as
astrology uses the tropical (fixed-date) method. stated in the Tirumantiram). The lineage continued
down the centuries and is alive today—the first recent
siddha is known as the Rishi from the Himalayas,” so
named because he descended from those holy moun-
tains. In South India, he initiated Kadaitswami (ca
1804–1891), who in turn initiated Chellappaswami
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(1840–1915). Chellappan passed the mantle of au- Ga∫eßa. A great Mahâdeva worshiped in all parts of
thority to sage Yogaswami (1872–1964), who in 1949 India and the world. Also known as Muruga, Kumâra,
initiated the present satguru, Sivaya Subramuniyas- Skanda, Sha∫mukhanâtha, Subrama∫ya and more, He
wami. See: Nâtha Sampradâya, Patanjali, Tirumular, is the God who guides that part of evolution which
Yogaswami. is religion, the transformation of the instinctive into
kalaßa: éƒÀ “Water pot; pitcher; jar.” In temple rites, a divine wisdom through the practice of yoga. See:
a pot of water, kalaßa, topped with mango leaves and Muruga, Pleiades, Veda.
a husked coconut represents the Deity during special Kauai: Northernmost of the Hawaiian islands; 553 sq.
pûjâs. Kalaßa also names the pot-like spires that adorn mi., pop. 50,000.
temple roofs. Kauai Aadheenam: Monastery-temple complex found-
Kali Yuga: é⁄ƒæ‹í “Dark Age.” The Kali Yuga is the last ed by Sivaya Subramuniyaswami in 1970; international
age in the repetitive cycle of four phases of time our headquarters of Saiva Siddhanta Church.
solar system passes through. It is comparable to the kavadi: fhto A penance offered to Lord Murugan-
darkest part of the night, as the forces of ignorance are Kârttikeya, especially during Tai Pusam, consisting of
in full power and many subtle faculties of the soul are carrying in procession a heavy, beautifully decorated,
obscured. See: mahâpralaya, yuga. wooden object from which pots of milk hang which
kama∫∂alu: 麩•ƒ‹ “Vessel, water jar.” Traditionally are to be used for His abhisheka. The participant’s
earthen or wooden, carried by sannyâsins, it symbol- tongue and other parts of the body are often pierced
izes the renunciate’s simple, self-contained life. The with small silver spears or hooks. See: penance.
tree from which kama∫∂alus are traditionally made is kevala avasthâ: éÂΔƒ ÇΔ—¨Ÿ “Stage of oneness, alone-
the kama∫∂alutaru. See: sannyâsa dharma, sannyâsin. ness.” (Tamil: avasthai.) In Íaiva Siddhânta, the first
Kane: The central, primary God of the Hawaiians, of three stages of the soul’s evolution, a state begin-
Lord of procreation, associated with dawn, sun and ning with its emanation or spawning by Lord Íiva as
sky, creator of the three worlds (upper heaven, lower an etheric form unaware of itself, a spark of the Di-
heaven and earth) and the beings within them. vine shrouded in a cloud of darkness known as â∫ava.
Kant, Immanuel: German philosopher (1724-1804) Here the soul is likened to a seed hidden in the ground,
whose classic works include Critique of Pure Reason yet to germinate and unfold its potential. See: â∫ava,
(1781) and Critique of Practical Reason (1788). avasthâ, evolution of the soul, sakala avasthâ, soul, ßud-
karma: éº@ “Action,” “deed.” One of the most important dha avasthâ.
principles in Hindu thought, karma refers to 1) any konrai: bfhz;iw The Golden Shower tree, Cassia fistula;
act or deed; 2) the principle of cause and effect; 3) symbol of Íiva’s cascading, abundant, golden grace.
a consequence or “fruit of action” (karmaphala) or koßa: éËÀ “Sheath; vessel, container; layer.” Philosophi-
“after effect” (uttaraphala), which sooner or later re- cally, five sheaths through which the soul functions
turns upon the doer. What we sow, we shall reap in simultaneously in the various planes or levels of exis-
this or future lives. Selfish, hateful acts (pâpakarma tence. They are sometimes compared to the layers of
or kukarma) will bring suffering. Benevolent actions an onion. The koßas, in order of increasing subtlety,
(pu∫yakarma or sukarma) will bring loving reac- are as follows. —annamaya koßa: “Sheath com-
tions. Karma is threefold: sañchita, prârabdha and posed of food.” The physical or odic body, coarsest
kriyamâna. —sañchita karma: “Accumulated ac- of sheaths in comparison to the faculties of the soul,
tions.” The sum of all karmas of this life and past lives. yet indispensable for evolution and Self Realization,
—prârabdha karma: “Actions begun; set in motion.” because only within it can all fourteen chakras fully
That portion of sañchita karma that is bearing fruit function. See: chakra. —prâ∫amaya koßa: “Sheath
and shaping the events and conditions of the current composed of prâ∫a (vital force).” Also known as the
life, including the nature of one’s bodies, personal prâ∫ic or health body, or the etheric body or etheric
tendencies and associations. —kriyamâna karma: double, it coexists within the physical body as its
“Being made.” The karma being created and added to source of life, breath and vitality, and is its connection
sañchita in this life by one’s thoughts, words and ac- with the astral body. Prâ∫a moves in the prâ∫amaya
tions, or in the inner worlds between lives. Kriyamâna koßa as five primary currents or vayus, “vital airs or
karma is also called âgâmi, “coming, arriving,” and winds.” Prâ∫amaya koßa disintegrates at death along
vartamâna, “current, revolving, set in motion.” While with the physical body. See: prâ∫a. —manomaya
some kriyamâna karmas bear fruit in the current life, koßa: “Mind-formed sheath.” The lower astral body,
others are stored for future births. See: â∫ava, fate, from manas, “thought, will, wish.” The instinctive-
mala, mâyâ, moksha, pâßa, sin, soul. intellectual sheath of ordinary thought, desire and
karma yoga: éº@æËí “Union through action.” Selfless emotion. It is the seat of the indriyas, sensory and
service. See: yoga. motor organs, respectively called jñânendriyas and
kar∫avedha: é®@Δ‰∞ “Ear-piercing.” See: saμskâras of karmendriyas. The manomaya koßa takes form as the
childhood. physical body develops and is discarded in the inner
Kârttikeya: éŸ⁄%@ é  æ Child of the Pleiades, from worlds before rebirth. It is understood in two layers: 1)
K®ittikâ, “Pleiades.” Second son of Íiva, brother of the odic-causal sheath (buddhi) and 2) the odic-astral
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sheath (manas). See: indriya, manas. —vijñânamaya or Kârttikeya .

koßa: “Sheath of cognition.” The mental or cognitive- kukarma: é‹éº@ “Unwholesome acts,” or the fruit there-
intuitive sheath, also called the actinodic sheath. It is from. See: karma.
the vehicle of higher thought, vijñâna—understand- kulaguru: 鋃틡 “Family preceptor” or “teacher.” The
ing, knowing, direct cognition, wisdom, intuition kulaguru guides the joint and extended family, par-
and creativity. —ânandamaya koßa: “Body of bliss.” ticularly through the heads of families, and provides
The intuitive-superconscious sheath or actinic-causal spiritual education. He may or may not be a satguru.
body. This inmost soul form (svarûpa) is the ultimate kumbhâbhisheka: é‹Ω∫Ÿ⁄∫Œ‰é “Water pot ablution.” The
foundation of all life, intelligence and higher facul- formal consecration of a new temple and its periodic
ties. Its essence is Parâßakti (Pure Consciousness) and reconsecration, usually at twelve-year intervals, fol-
Paraßiva (the Absolute). See: actinic, actinodic, mano- lowing renovation, extensive cleaning and renewal.
maya koßa, odic, soul, subtle body. The rites culminate with the priests’ pouring sancti-
K®ish∫a: é‚œ® “Black.” Also related to k®ish†i˙, “draw- fied water over the temple spires, which resemble an
ing, attracting.” One of the most popular Gods of the inverted pot, or kumbha. Leading up to the consecra-
Hindu pantheon. He is worshiped by Vaish∫avas as tion, during the construction of a temple, the follow-
the eighth avatâra incarnation of Vish∫u. He is best ing rituals are performed by the sthapati (architect)
known as the Supreme Personage celebrated in the assisted by the temple priest: 1) pañcha silanyasa: set-
Mahâbhârata, and specifically in the Bhagavad Gîtâ. ting five stones in the foundation at the northeast cor-
In Gau∂îya Vaish∫avism, K®ish∫a is the Godhead. ner of the main sanctum; 2) prathama silanyasa: laying
k®ish∫adâna: é‚œ®ÆŸ≤ “Black gifts.” Bad money, funds of first stone on foundation bed; 3) nilayasthapanam:
derived through adharmic activities, which should not placement of the door frame; 4) garbhanyasam: en-
be received as donations by institutions, temples or casement of a cubical silver or gold box of gems, silver,
âßramas. Bad money can never do good. It has a curse gold and herbs; 5) sthupi sthapanam: placement of the
upon it. See: yama-niyama. tower capstone; 6) nethron meelanam: awakening the
kriyâ: ⁄é˚æŸ “Action.” 1) In a general sense, kriyâ can refer Deity by completing the chiseling of the eyes with a
to doing of any kind. Specifically, it names religious gold chisel dipped in milk and honey; 7) mulalinga
action, especially rites or ceremonies. 2) In yoga termi- sthapanam: installing the Deity.
nology, kriyâ names involuntary physical movements Kumbhalavalai: Fk;gpHhtis A large and popular tem-
occuring during meditation that are pretended or ple to Lord Ga∫eßa located in Alaveddy, Northern Sri
caused by lack of emotional self-control or by the Lanka, near Gurudeva’s Sri Subramuniya Ashram.
premature or unharnessed arousal of the ku∫∂alinî. ku∫∂alinî: é‹©d⁄ƒ≤¤ “She who is coiled; serpent power.”
3) Various traditional ha†ha yoga techniques for The primordial cosmic energy in every individual
cleansing the mucous membranes. 4) The second which, at first, lies coiled like a serpent at the base of
stage of the Íaiva path, religious action, or kriyâ pâda. the spine and eventually, through the practice of yoga,
See: kriyâ pâda. rises up the sushum∫â nâ∂î. As it rises, the ku∫∂alinî
kriyâ mârga: ⁄é˚柺Ÿí@ See kriyâ pâda. awakens each successive chakra. Nirvikalpa samâdhi,
kriyâ pâda: ⁄é˚查ŸÆ “Stage of religious action; worship.” enlightenment, comes as it pierces through the door
The stage of worship and devotion, second of four of Brahman at the core of the sahasrâra and enters it.
progressive stages of maturation on the Íaiva Sid- Ku∫∂alinî ßakti then returns to rest in any one of the
dhânta path of attainment. See: pâda. seven chakras. Íivasâyujya, perpetual Íiva conscious-
kriyâ yoga: ⁄é˚æŸæËí “Action union.” A term for vari- ness, is complete when the ku∫∂alinî arrives back in
ous schools of meditative yoga practice emphasizing the sahasrâra and remains coiled in this crown chakra.
prâ∫âyâma, breathing techniques, to accelerate spiri- See: chakra, door of Brahman, samâdhi, nâ∂î, tantra.
tual progress, aggressively breaking awareness free of ku∫∂alinî ßakti: é‹©d⁄ƒ≤¤À⁄# The pure (neither mas-
day-to-day consciousness and arousing the ku∫∂alinî culine nor feminine) force that flows through the
with the goal of expanded consciousness and self sushum∫â nâ∂î. See: ku∫∂alinî, sushum∫â nâ∂î.
transformation. Paramahansa Yogananda (1893-1952), ku∫∂alinî yoga: é‹ ‹ © d ⁄ ƒ≤¤æËí “Uniting the serpent
who taught kriyâ yoga, called it the “airplane route” to power.” Advanced meditative practices and sâdhana
God. The modern revival of this ancient meditation techniques, a part of râja yoga, performed to deliber-
system is said to have begun with the deathless avatâra ately arouse the ku∫∂alinî power and guide it up the
Babaji in 1861. spine into the crown chakra, sahasrâra. In its highest
kriyamâna karma: ⁄é˚溟≤éº@ “Actions being made.” form, this yoga is the natural result of sâdhanas and
See: karma. tapas well performed, rather than a distinct system of
kshamâ: ’ºŸ “Patience.” See: yama-niyama. striving and teaching in its own right.
kshatriya: ’⁄&æ “Governing; sovereign.” See: caste. Kural: Fws; See: Tirukural.
Ku: The Hawaiian Deity worshiped for prosperity, kurta shirt: Traditional men’s shirt of India, usually
good fishing, abundant crops, good will, noble off- thigh length and collarless.
spring, righteous leaders and victory in battle. In the kuttuvilaku: Fj;Jtpsf;F A standing lamp found in the
Hindu pantheon, Ku is known as Kumâra, Skanda temple, shrine room or home. It is made of metal,
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with several wicks fed by ghee or special oils. Used mystical sense, light also illumines inner objects (i.e.,
to light the home and used in pûjâ. Part of temple mental images). —inner light: light perceived inside
and shrine altars, the standing lamp is sometimes the head and body, of which there are varying intensi-
worshiped as the divine light, Parâßakti or Parajyoti. ties. When the karmas have been sufficiently quieted,
Returning from the temple and lighting one’s kuttu- the meditator can see and enjoy inner light indepen-
vilaku courts the accompanying devas to remain in dently of mental images.
the home and channels the vibration of the temple linchpin: A central, key element; a locking pin inserted
sanctum sanctorum into the home shrine. Called in a hole at the end of an axle or other shaft to prevent
dîpastambha in Sanskrit. a wheel from slipping off.
lineage: A direct line of ancestors and descendants or
Lahiri Ayanâμßa: ƒ⁄“⁄¿ Çæ≤ŸÄÀ See: predecessors and successors.
ayanâμßa. liturgy: The proper, prescribed forms of ritual.
Lao Tzu: Chinese philosopher (6th loka: ƒËé “World, habitat, realm, or plane of existence.”
century bce), author of Tao-te Ch- From loc, “to shine, be bright, visible.” See: three
ing, traditionally regarded as the worlds.
founder of Taoism. See: Taoism. Lono: The Hawaiian God of weather, worshiped to
Lemurian Scrolls: A work like none other on the planet, bring the rains and dispense fertility. One of four
Lemurian Scrolls came to Gurudeva in a series of clair- primary Gods, along with Ku, Kane and Kanaloa.
voyant revelations during 1973-1974 in answer to his Lono, also the God of harvest, is known as Ga∫eßa
need, inwardly expressed, for the ancient ideal pattern in the Hindu tradition.
on which to begin molding his several Íaivite mon- lotus flower: An aquatic plant (Nelumbo nucifera) na-
asteries in the Western world. Thus, as a boon from tive to southern Asia and Australia, with large leaves,
the Gods, Gurudeva began developing the siddhi, or fragrant, pinkish flowers, a broad, rounded, perforated
psychic ability, to perceive and read from a series of seedpod, and fleshy rhizomes.
ancient manuscripts with his inner eye. These were lotus pose: Padmâsana. The most famous of ha†ha yoga
presented to him by a librarian on the astral plane, poses and the optimum position for meditation. The
and as Gurudeva read from them, he dictated them legs are crossed, turning the soles of the feet up, which
word by word to a scribe who recorded them on pa- then resemble a lotus flower. See: âsana, ha†ha yoga,
per. The manuscripts, written some two million years padmâsana.
ago, unfolded the nature of life in Íaivite monaster- lucid dreaming: The practice of remaining conscious
ies in the Tretâ and Dvâpara Yugas. This text, along in the dream state and directing the course of one’s
with subsequent writings, gave Gurudeva the pattern dream.
of culture and administration that he sought for his lunar calendar: A calendar based primarily on the
own monasteries. In addition, they disclosed much cycles of the moon rather than the sun. For example,
new knowledge about how man came to this planet, a month is from one full moon to the next or from
journeying millions of years ago from the Pleiades the new moon to the next new moon. There are both
and other planets to further the soul’s unfoldment. lunar and solar based calendars in India, though to-
Lemurian Scrolls was for 25 years entrusted only to the day the solar is becoming prevalent. See: ayanâμßa,
resident monastics of Gurudeva’s monasteries, until pañchâˆga.
1998 when they were released to the world. These an-
gelic prophecies, exquisitely illustrated, overwhelm the macrocosm: “Great world” or “uni-
reader with a sense of his divine origin, purpose and verse.” See: microcosm-macrocosm,
destiny and have the power to motivate a profound three worlds.
rededication to anyone’s spiritual quest. Madurai Meenakshi citadel: The
liberal Hinduism: A synonym for Smârtism and the labyrinthine Meenakshi-Sundar-
closely related neo-Indian religion. See: neo-Indian eßvara temple, on the Vagai River in
religion, Smârtism. Madurai, the Athens of India. This edifice holds two
liberation: Moksha, release from the bonds of pâßa, after temples, one to Íiva and one to Íakti. The tall gopu-
which the soul is liberated from saμsâra (the round ras, thousand-pillared hall, sacred tanks and shrines
of births and deaths). In Íaiva Siddhânta, pâßa is the vibrate with thousands of years of worship at this
three-fold bondage of â∫ava, karma and mâyâ, which seven-walled citadel.
limit and confine the soul to the reincarnational cycle magnetized: Having been made magnetic. As certain
so that it may evolve. Moksha is freedom from the physical elements are magnetized with actinodic pow-
fettering power of these bonds, which do not cease to er within a shrine through the chanting of mantras
exist, but no longer have the power to fetter or bind and by various other means.
the soul. See: mala, moksha, pâßa, reincarnation, Self mahâ: º“Ÿ An adjective or prefix meaning “great.”
Realization, soul. Mahâbhârata: º“Ÿ∫Ÿ¿™ “Great Epic of India.” The
light: In an ordinary sense, a form of energy which world’s longest epic poem. It revolves around the
makes physical objects visible to the eye. In a religious- conflict between two royal families, the Pâ∫∂avas and
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Kauravas, and their great battle of Kurukshetra near second stage of the sakala avasthai. At this time, the
modern Delhi in approximately 1424 BCE. The Mahâ- Lord’s concealing grace, tirodhâna ßakti, has accom-
bhârata is revered as scripture by Vaish∫avites and plished its work, giving way to anugraha, His revealing
Smârtas. See: Bhagavad Gîtâ, Itihâsa. grace, leading to the descent of grace, ßaktinipâta. See:
Mahâdeva: º“ŸÆ‰Δ “Great shining one;” “God.” Refer- â∫ava, anugraha, karma, mala, marul, mâyâ, sakala
ring either to God Íiva or any of the highly evolved avasthâ, ßaktinipâta, tirodhâna ßakti.
beings who live in the Íivaloka in their natural, ef- manifest: To show or reveal. Perceivable or knowable,
fulgent soul bodies. God Íiva in His perfection as Pri- therefore having form. The opposite of unmanifest
mal Soul is one of the Mahâdevas, yet He is unique or transcendent. See: formless.
and incomparable in that He alone is uncreated, the ma∫ipûra chakra: º⁄®¥›¿òé˚ “Wheel of the jewelled
Father-Mother and Destiny of all other Mahâdevas. city.” Solar-plexus center of willpower. See: chakra.
He is called Parameßvara, “Supreme God.” He is the mankolam: kh';nfhyk; “Mango design.” The paisley, a
Primal Soul, whereas the other Gods are individual stylized image of the mango, symbol of auspicious-
souls. It is said in scripture that there are 330 million ness, associated with Lord Ga∫eßa.
Gods. See: Gods, Parameßvara, Íiva, deva. manomaya koßa: º≤˺æéËÀ See: koßa.
mahâprasthâna: º“Ÿ¥˘—¨Ÿ≤ “Great departure.” Death. ma∫∂apa: º©•¥ From ma∫∂, “to deck, adorn.” Temple
See: transition. precinct; a temple compound, open hall or chamber.
mahârâja: º“Ÿ¿Ÿú “Great king.” Indian monarch. Title In entering a large temple, one passes through a se-
of respect for political or (in modern times) spiritual ries of ma∫∂apas, each named according to its posi-
leaders. tion, e.g., mukhama∫∂apa, “facing chamber.” In some
Maharshi (or Maharishi): º“⁄Œ@ “Great seer.” Title for temples, ma∫∂apas are concentrically arranged.
the greatest and most influential of siddhas. mânsâhâra: ºŸÄ–Ÿ“Ÿ¿ “Meat-eating.”
mahâsamâdhi: º“Ÿ–ºŸ⁄∞ “Great enstasy.” The death, or mânsâhârî: ºŸÄ–Ÿ“Ÿ¿¤ “Meat-eater.” One who follows a
giving up of the physical body, of a great soul, an event nonvegetarian diet. See: vegetarian.
that occasions tremendous blessings. Also names the mantra: º≥& “Mystic formula.” A sound, syllable, word
shrine in which the remains of a great soul are en- or phrase endowed with special power, usually drawn
tombed. See: cremation, death. from scripture. Mantras are chanted loudly during
Mahâßivarâtri: º“Ÿ⁄ÀΔ¿Ÿ⁄& “Íiva’s great night.” pûjâ to invoke the Gods and establish a force field.
Íaivism’s foremost festival, celebrated on the night be- Certain mantras are repeated softly or mentally for
fore the new moon in February-March. Fasting and an japa, the subtle tones quieting the mind, harmoniz-
all-night vigil are observed as well as other disciplines: ing the inner bodies and stimulating latent spiritual
chanting, praying, meditating and worshiping Íiva as qualities. Hinduism’s universal mantra is Aum. To be
the Source and Self of all that exists. truly efficacious, such mantras must be bestowed by
mahâtala: º“Ÿ™ƒ Sixth netherworld. Region of con- the preceptor through initiation. See: Aum, incanta-
sciencelessness. See: chakra. tion, japa, pûjâ.
mahâ vâsanâ daha tantra: º“ŸΔŸ–≤ŸÆ“™≥& “Great Manu Dharma Íâstra: º≤‹∞º@ÀŸ—& “Sage Manu’s law
purification by fire.” See: vâsanâ daha tantra. book.” An encyclopedic treatise of 2,685 verses on
Maheßvara: º“‰Ã¿ ¸ “Great Lord.” In Íaiva Siddhânta, the Hindu law assembled as early as 600 bce. Among
name of Íiva’s energy of veiling grace, one of five as- its major features are the support of var∫a dharma,
pects of Parameßvara, the Primal Soul. Maheßvara is âßrama dharma, strî dharma and seeing the Self in all
also a popular epithet for Lord Íiva as Primal Soul and beings. Despite its caste-based restrictions, which de-
personal Lord. See: Na†arâja, Parameßvara. termine one’s life unrelentlingly from birth to death, it
makimai: kfpik The Hindu tradition of regularly giv- remains the source of much of modern Hindu culture
ing to a temple or âßrama a fixed percentage of one’s and law. These “Laws of Manu” are the oldest and con-
income. Fifteen percent, approximately one sixth, was sidered the most authoritative of the greater body of
the makimai established in South India by the Chet- Dharma Íâstras. The text is widely available today in
tiar community around Palani Temple and now prac- several languages. See: caste, dharma.
ticed by the Malaka Chettiars of Malaysia. See: tithe. Manu Saμhitâ: º≤‹ –Ä⁄“™Ÿ “Verses of Manu.” Alternate
mala: ºƒ “Impurity.” An important term in Íaivism term for Manu Dharma Íâstras.
referring to three bonds, called pâßa—â∫ava, karma, mârga: ºŸí@ “Path; way.” From mârg, “to seek.” See: pâda.
and mâyâ—which limit the soul, preventing it from marriage (or wedding) pendant: A gold ornament
knowing its true, divine nature. See: â∫ava, karma, worn by the Hindu wife around the neck representing
liberation, mâyâ, pâßa. her vows of matrimony. Known as maˆgala sûtra in
mâlâ: ºŸƒŸ “Garland.” A strand of beads for holy reci- Sanskrit, and tali in Tamil. She reveres it as an image
tation, japa, usually made of rudrâksha, tulasî, sandal- of her husband and ritually worships it during her
wood or crystal. Also a flower garland. morning devotions.
malaparipakam: kyghpghfk; “Ripening of bonds.” The marul: kUs; “Confusion.” The second of the three stages
state attained after the three malas, â∫ava, karma and of the sakala avasthai when the soul is “caught” be-
mâyâ, are brought under control during marul, the tween the world and God and begins to seek knowl-
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edge of its own true nature, paßu-jñânam. See: paßu- elements—or control of the ku∫∂alinî, which is yoga.
jñânam, sakala avasthâ. See: Kârttikeya.
Masonic Lodge: A society or body of Freemasons. A meditation: Dhyâna. Sustained concentration. Medita-
fraternal, all-male order derived from the organized tion describes a quiet, alert, powerfully concentrated
guilds of stoneworkers in the Middle Ages, who unlike state wherein new knowledge and insights are awak-
other classes of people, were allowed to travel freely ened from within as awareness focuses one-pointedly
from country to country. In the 1700s, with the decline on an object or specific line of thought. See: internal-
of stoneworking arts, fraternity lodges were opened to ized worship, râja yoga, Satchidânanda.
honorary Masons who were not stoneworkers. Free- mendicant: A beggar; a wandering monk, or sâdhu, who
masonry teaches moral philosophy and welcomes lives on alms. See: sâdhu.
members of all faiths. medium: A person who communicates with the de-
Master Course, The: A trilogy of three masterful vol- parted or with agents of another world or dimension.
umes by Satguru Sivaya Subramuniyaswami—Danc- See: mediumship.
ing with Íiva, Hinduism’s Contemporary Catechism; mediumship: The phenomenon in which a person goes
Living with Íiva, Hinduism’s Contemporary Culture; into a trance and allows a disincarnate, astral being to
and Merging with Íiva, Hinduism’s Contemporary enter or take control of his body, often to convey ver-
Metaphysics—constituting a daily study of 365 lessons, bal messages to others in attendance, as in a seance.
one for each day of the year, undertaken privately or menopause: The permanent cessation of menstruation,
as a correspondence study with Himalayan Academy. normally occurring between ages 40 and 55. The de-
See: Dancing with Íiva, Merging with Íiva. cline in ovarian hormones may result in unpleasant
masturbation: Manipulating one’s own genitals, or the effects, such as hot flashes, and may be coupled with
genitals of another, for sexual gratification. See: celi- midlife emotional crises, leading to a variety of health
bacy, dissipation, ojas, tejas, transmutation. problems.
materialism (materialistic): The doctrine that matter menopause, male: The male equivalent of female meno-
is the only reality, that all life, thought and feelings pause, the mid-life passage also termed virapause and
are but the effects of movements of matter, and that andropause, physiological, chemical and hormonal,
there exist no worlds but the physical. Materialists changes, particularly the decrease in the body’s pro-
usually hold that there is no God—a cosmic, mate- duction of testosterone. Generally occurring in the
rial, prime mover perhaps, but no personal God. An late forties or early fifties, the timing is generally par-
Indian school of thought which propounded this view allel, as for women, with the vâ∫aprastha âßrama, the
were the Chârvâkas. See: atheism, worldly. life stage of withdrawal into higher pursuits. Without
ma†ha: º§ “Monastery.” See: monastery. proper psychological preparation, this can be a dif-
ma†havâsi: º§ΔŸ⁄– “Monastery dweller.” A monastic. ficult passage, accompanied by mood swings, fatigue,
See: monk. depression, feelings of inadequacy and loss of purpose
mati: º⁄™ “Cognition, understanding; conviction.” See: and direction in life. See: menopause.
yama-niyama. mental body (sheath): The higher-mind layer of the
maya: ºæ “Consisting of; made of,” as in manomaya, subtle or astral body in which the soul functions in
“made of mind.” Maharloka of the Antarloka or subtle plane. In San-
mâyâ: ºŸæŸ “Artfulness,” “illusion,” “phantom” or “mirif- skrit, the mental body is vijñânamaya koßa, “sheath of
ic energy.” The substance emanated from Íiva through cognition.” See: koßa, subtle body.
which the world of form is manifested. Hence all cre- mental plane: The refined strata of the subtle world.
ation is termed mâyâ. It is the cosmic creative force, Here the soul is shrouded in the mental or cognitive
the principle of manifestation, ever in the process sheath, called vijñânamaya koßa.
of creation, preservation and dissolution. Mâyâ is a Merging with Íiva: The third book in Gurudeva’s Mas-
key concept in Hinduism, originally meaning “super- ter Course trilogy, this tome is aptly subtitled Hindu-
natural power; God’s mirific energy.” See: mala, mind ism’s Contemporary Metaphysics. It explores the meta-
(universal). physics of the soul, written directly, intimately, to the
Mayan: An advanced civilization that thrived 3,000 seeker on the path of enlightenment. Merging with
years ago in southern Mexico, Guatemala and north- Íiva consists of 365 daily lessons comprising Gurude-
ern Brazil. The Mayans were adept in astrology, math- va’s inspired talks, dictations and writings on yoga and
ematics and agriculture. They built great cities and mysticism from 1950 to 2001. It’s about God, about
temples out of stone and believed in many nature the mystical realm of the fourteen chakras, the yogic
Gods. path, the human aura, karma, force fields, thought
mayil: kapy;“Peacock.” See: mayûra. and the states of mind, the two paths, living a pure
mayûra: ºæ›¿ “Peacock.” (Mayil in Tamil.) The vâhana, life, clearing the subconscious, meditation and Self
or mount, of Lord Kârttikeya, symbolizing effulgent Realization. Released in 1999, it is custom illustrated
beauty and religion in full glory. The peacock is able with 71 original South Indian paintings.
to control powerful snakes, such as the cobra, sym- meridian: The passageways of vital energy, known as
bolizing the soulful domination of the instinctive chi in Chinese and prâ∫a in Sanskrit, as well as blood
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flow through the body. It is an important component er of past impressions, reactions and desires. Also, the
of traditional Chinese medicine. Meridians act as the seat of involuntary physiological processes. —subsub-
route for circulating chi and blood, connecting viscera conscious mind: Vâsanâ chitta (“mind of subliminal
with extremities and for communication between the traits”). The area of the subconscious mind formed
upper/lower and interior/exterior parts of the body. when two thoughts or experiences of the same rate
Most of the major meridians are subtly governed by of intensity are sent into the subconscious at differ-
a physical organ. The major meridians of the human ent times and, intermingling, give rise to a new and
body are: governing vessel, large intestine, conception totally different rate of vibration. This subconscious
vessel, pericardium, heart, stomach, kidney, spleen, formation later causes the external mind to react to
liver, lung, gall bladder, bladder, small intestine, and situations according to these accumulated vibrations,
san jiao (“triple warmer”). See: acupuncture, circadian be they positive, negative or mixed. —superconscious
rhythm. mind: Kâra∫a chitta. The mind of light, the all-know-
metaphysics: The philosophy that examines the nature ing intelligence of the soul. The Sanskrit term is turîya,
of reality, especially those aspects of reality beyond the “the fourth,” meaning the condition beyond the states
realm of physical perception, or impossible to investi- of wakefulness (jâgrat), “dream” (svapna), and “deep
gate by intellectual scientific study. sleep” (sushupti). At its deepest level, the supercon-
methamphetamine: A highly toxic, synthetic chemical scious is Parâßakti, or Satchidânanda, the Divine Mind
often used illicitly as a stimulant. Also called crystal of God Íiva. In Sanskrit, there are numerous terms
meth, ice, methedrine and speed. This drug of abuse for the various levels and states of superconscious-
is one of the most addictive and popular on the streets ness. Specific superconscious states such as: vißvachai-
today. An average dose causes a rush of energy and tanya (“universal consciousness”), advaita chaitanya
sense of euphoria that, unlike other drugs, can easily (“nondual consciousness”), adhyâtma chetanâ (“spiri-
be hidden from observers. Consistent abuse of this tual consciousness”). —subsuperconscious mind:
drug is known to result in inability to hold a job, alien- Anukâra∫a chitta. The superconscious mind working
ation of family and friends, violent crime, domestic through the conscious and subconscious states, which
abuse, stealing and other illegal acivities to support brings forth intuition, clarity and insight. See: chitta,
the habit, excessive persistent insomnia lasting from consciousness, saμskâra, Satchidânanda, vâsanâ.
a couple of days to a week and causes permanent mind (three phases): A perspective of mind as instinc-
damage to the brain. Clandestine “meth” laboratories tive, intellectual and superconscious. —instinctive
are exceedingly dangerous. Police officers and drug mind. Manas chitta, the seat of desire and governor
enforcement agents must exercise extreme caution of sensory and motor organs. —intellectual mind.
when entering a suspected methamphetamine labo- Buddhi chitta, the faculty of thought and intelligence.
ratory, often in a home, due to the volatile and lethal —superconscious mind: Kâra∫a chitta, the stratum
nature of the chemicals used in the drug’s produc- of intuition, benevolence and spiritual sustenance. Its
tion. At such sites, chemicals are usually airborne in most refined essence is Parâsakti, or Satchidânanda,
life-threatening quantities. They contaminate cloth- all-knowing, omnipresent consciousness, the One
ing, especially footwear, and often cause spontaneous transcendental, self-luminous, divine mind common
explosions. to all souls. See: awareness, consciousness.
microcosm-macrocosm: “Little world” or “miniature mind (universal): In the most profound sense, mind is
universe” as compared with “great world.” Microcosm the sum of all things, all energies and manifestations,
refers to the internal source of something larger or all forms, subtle and gross, sacred and mundane. It
more external (macrocosm). In Hindu cosmology, the is the inner and outer cosmos. Mind is mâyâ. It is
outer world is a macrocosm of the inner world, which the material matrix. It is everything but That, the Self
is its microcosm and is mystically larger and more within, Paraßiva, which is timeless, formless, cause-
complex than the physical universe and functions at less, spaceless, known by the knower only after Self
a higher rate of vibration and even a different rate of Realization. The Self is the indescribable, unnameable,
time. The microcosm precedes the macrocosm. Thus, Ultimate Reality. Mind in its subtlest form is undiffer-
the guiding principle of the Bhûloka comes from the entiated Pure Consciousness, primal substance (called
Antarloka and Íivaloka. Consciousness precedes physi- Parâßakti or Satchidânanda), out of which emerge the
cal form. In the tantric tradition, the body of man is myriad forms of existence, both psychic and material.
viewed as a microcosm of the entire divine creation. See: chitta, consciousness, mâyâ.
mind (five states): A view of the mind in five parts. Mirabai (Mîrâbâî): º¤¿Ÿ∏ŸÖ A Vaish∫ava saint (ca
—conscious mind: Jâgrat chitta (“wakeful conscious- 1420), poetess and mystic, said to be a Râjput prin-
ness”). The ordinary, waking, thinking state of mind in cess who abandoned the world in surrender to Lord
which the majority of people function most of the day. K®ish∫a. Her life story and songs are popular today,
—subconscious mind: Saμskâra chitta (“impression especially in Gujarat.
mind”). The part of mind “beneath” the conscious Miranda reading: A mandatory, formal, legal, verbal
mind, the storehouse or recorder of all experience warning given by police in the US to a person who
(whether remembered consciously or not)—the hold- has been taken into custody advising of his right to
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remain silent and to have legal counsel. Advaita Siddhânta, dvaita-advaita.

mitâhâra: ⁄º™Ÿ“Ÿ¿ “Measured eating; moderate appe- monk: A celibate man wholly dedicated to religious life,
tite.” A requisite to good health and an essential for either cenobitic (residing with others in a monastery)
success in yoga. The ideal portion per meal is des- or anchoritic (living alone, as a hermit or mendicant).
cribed as no more than would fill the two hands held Literally, “one who lives alone” (from the Greek monos,
side by side and slightly cupped piled high, an amount “alone”). A synonym for monastic. Its feminine coun-
called a ku∂ava. All the six tastes should be within terpart is nun. See: monastic, sannyâsin.
these foods (sweet, salty, sour, pungent, bitter and mors voluntaria religiosa: Latin for “religious self-
astringent), which should be vegetarian, well cooked willed death,” a tradition in many religions which,
and highly nutritious. See: yama-niyama. with the sanction of community elders and religious
moksha: ºË’ “Liberation.” Release from transmigra- leaders, offers the aged person who knows the end
tion, saμsâra, the round of births and deaths, which of physical life is near to voluntarily, peacefully and
occurs after karma has been resolved and nirvikalpa slowly end his life by fasting. Known in Hinduism as
samâdhi—realization of the Self, Paraßiva—has been prayopaveßa.
attained. Same as mukti. See: four traditional goals, mortal sin: In the Abrahamic religions, a transgression
ku∫∂alinî, Paraßiva. that, if unexpiated in this one and only life, deprives
monastery: “Place of solitariness.” Ma†ha. The age-old the soul from closeness to God for eternity. Most
tradition, carried forward from Lemurian times into Christian denominations, as well as Islam and mid-
the Hindu culture of India, a sacred residence where line conservative Judaism, believe that mortal sin will
those of the same gender live under strict vows and always automatically and inexorably condemn the
work out their birth karmas in community toward sinner to eternal punishment. See: sin.
realization of the Self. In monasteries, dedicated Mount Kailas: One of the most famous peaks in the
to transmutation of the sexual energies, celibacy is Himalayas. See: Kailas.
strictly upheld and there is no fraternizing with the Mount Tamalpais: A magnificent mountain in Marin
opposite sex. The purpose of the monastery is to cre- County near San Francisco, California. A place of
ate an environment in which the monastic can balance special power, it provides excellent hiking along with
the male and female energies (piˆgala and idâ) within some of the most outstanding lookout points in Cali-
himself so that he lives in the spiritual, or sushum∫â, fornia.
energy, which cannot be maintained in close associa- m®idaˆga: º‡ÆóÓ (Tamil: m®idaˆgam) A South Indian
tion with the opposite sex. The monastic, whether a concert drum, barrel-shaped and played on both ends.
monk or a nun, is in a sense neither male nor female, mukti: º‹ ⁄ # “Release.” A synonym for moksha. See:
but a pure soul being. See: âßrama, nâ∂î. moksha.
monastic: A monk or nun (based on the Greek monos, mûlâdhâra chakra: º›ƒŸ∞Ÿ¿òé˚ “Root-support wheel.”
“alone”). A man or woman who has withdrawn from The four-petaled psychic center at the base of the
the world and lives an austere, religious life, either spine which governs memory. See: chakra.
alone or with others in a monastery. (Not to be con- mumia: The force of dissolution or withdrawal of life
fused with monistic, having to do with the doctrine of force from organic substances and living organisms.
monism.) A monastery-dweller is a ma†havâsi, and For example, as soon as vegetables are picked, the
sâdhu is a rough equivalent for mendicant. See also: force of dissolution, mumia, sets in. Therefore, the
monastery, monk, sannyâsin. food should be cooked and eaten as soon after pick-
monism: “Doctrine of oneness.” 1) The philosophi- ing as possible, before the mumia force gets strong.
cal view that there is only one ultimate substance or Mumia, as it causes the breakdown of the cells, is an
principle. 2) The view that reality is a unified whole impure force. When food that is breaking down is
without independent parts. See: dvaita-advaita. regularly eaten, the body and mind become sluggish.
monistic theism: Advaita Èßvaravâda. Monism is the Mu∫∂aka Upanishad: º‹©•é Ü¥⁄≤ŒÆÍ Belongs to the
doctrine that reality is a one whole or existence with- Atharva Veda and teaches the difference between the
out independent parts. Theism is the belief that God intellectual study of the Vedas and their supplemen-
exists as a real, conscious, personal Supreme Being. tary texts and the intuitive knowledge by which God
Monistic theism is the dipolar doctrine, also called is known.
panentheism, that embraces both monism and theism, mundane: Worldly, especially as distinguished from
two perspectives ordinarily considered contradictory heavenly or spiritual. Ordinary. From Latin mundus
or mutually exclusive, since theism implies dualism. “world;” mundanus “worldly.”
Monistic theism simultaneously accepts that God Murugan: KUfd; “Beautiful one,” a favorite name of
has a personal form, that He creates, pervades and Kârttikeya among the Tamils of South India, Sri Lanka
is all that exists—and that He ultimately transcends and elsewhere. See: Kârttikeya.
all existence and that the soul is, in essence, one with Murugan’s South Indian abodes: A series of six temples
God. Advaita Siddhânta (monistic Íaiva Siddhânta, or to be visited in specified order, a life-changing pil-
Advaita Èßvaravâda Íaiva Siddhânta) is a specific form grimage called Arupadai Veedu: Tirupparankundram,
of monistic theism. See: advaita, Advaita Èßvaravâda, known as the mount of beauty; Tiruchendur, abode
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of fulfillment; Palani Hills, the mount of meditation; the center of the central Veda (the Yajur). ¶In a second
Swamimalai, the abode of Kumara Guru; Tiruttani, rendering, Na-Ma Íi-Vâ-Ya corresponds to Íiva’s five
the sport on the hills; and Palamadirsolai, the fruit actions, reflected in the symbolism of Lord Na†arâja
grove of grace. as follows. Na represents saμhâra, destruction or
mûshika: º›⁄Œé From mûsh, “to steal.” The mouse, Lord dissolution, corresponding to the hand which which
Ga∫eßa’s mount, traditionally associated with abun- holds a blazing flame. Ma stands for His concealing
dance. Symbolically, the mouse carries Ga∫eßa’s grace grace, tirodhâna ßakti, symbolized by Lord Na†arâja’s
into every corner of the mind. See: Ga∫eßa. planted foot. Vâ indicates revealing grace, anugraha
mystic: One who understands religious mysteries or ßakti, by which souls return to Him, reflected in the
occult rites and practices. Inspiring a sense of mys- left front hand in the elephant trunk pose, gajahasta,
tery and wonder. pointing to His left foot, source of revealing grace. Íi
mysticism: Spirituality; the pursuit of direct spiritual stands for s®ish†i, creation, and Íiva’s back right hand
or religious experience. Spiritual discipline aimed holding the drum. Ya stands for Íiva’s power of stithi,
at union or communion with Ultimate Reality or preservation and protection, shown in His hand ges-
God through deep meditation or trance-like con- turing abhaya, “fear not.” ¶Na-Ma Íi-Vâ-Ya also stands
templation. From the Greek mystikos, “of mysteries.” for the five elements: Na as earth; Ma, water; Íi, fire;
Characterized by the belief that Truth transcends Vâ, air; and Ya, âkâßa. See: mantra, japa.
intellectual processes and must be attained through nâmakara∫a: ≤Ÿºé¿® “Name giving.” See: saμskâras
transcendent means. See: clairaudience, clairvoyance, of childhood.
psychic, trance. namaskâra: ≤º—響 “Reverent salutations.” Traditional
Hindu verbal greeting and mudrâ where the palms are
nâ∂î: ≤Ÿ•¤ “Conduit;” “river.” A nerve joined together and held before the heart or raised
fiber or energy channel of the subtle to the level of the forehead. The mudrâ is also called
(inner) bodies of man. It is said there añjali. It is a devotional gesture made equally before a
are 72,000. These interconnect the temple Deity, holy person, friend or even momentary
chakras. The three main nâ∂îs are acquaintance.
named i∂â, piˆgalâ and sushum∫â. — namaste: ≤º—™‰ “Reverent salutations to you.” A tra-
i∂â: Also known as chandra (“moon”) nâ∂î, it is pink ditional verbal greeting. A form of namas, meaning
in color and flows downward, ending on the left side “bowing, obeisance.” See: namaskâra.
of the body. This current is feminine in nature and is Nandi: ≤⁄≥Æ “The joyful.” A white bull with a black tail,
the channel of physical-emotional energy. —piˆga¬â: the vâhana, or mount, of Lord Íiva, symbol of the
Also known as sûrya (“sun”) nâ∂î, it is blue in color powerful instinctive force tamed by Him. Nandi is the
and flows upward, ending on the right side of the perfect devotee, the soul of man, kneeling humbly be-
body. This current is masculine in nature and is the fore God Íiva, ever concentrated on Him. The ideal
channel of intellectual-mental energy. —sushum∫â: and goal of the Íiva bhakta is to behold Íiva in all.
The major nerve current which passes through the Nandinatha, Maharishi: ≤⁄≥Æ≤Ÿ¨ º“⁄Œ@ (ca 250 BCE)
spinal column from the mûlâdhâra chakra at the base A synonym of Nandikeßvara. The first siddha satguru
to the sahasrâra at the crown of the head. It is the of the major stream of the Nandinâtha Sampradâya,
channel of ku∫∂alinî. Through yoga, the ku∫∂alinî en- the Kailâsa Paramparâ, recorded in Panini’s book of
ergy lying dormant in the mûlâdhâra is awakened and grammar as the teacher of ®ishis Patanjali, Vyaghra-
made to rise up this channel through each chakra to pada and Vasishtha. Among its representatives today
the sahasrâra chakra. See: chakra, ku∫∂alinî, râja yoga. is Satguru Sivaya Subramuniyaswami. See: Kailâsa
nâga: ≤Ÿí “Snake,” often the cobra; symbol of the Paramparâ, Nâtha Sampradâya.
ku∫∂alinî coiled on the four petals of the mûlâdhâra Nandinâtha Sampradâya: ≤⁄≥Æ≤Ÿ¨–Ä¥˘ÆŸæ See: Nâtha
chakra. See: ku∫∂alinî, mûlâdhâra chakra. Sampradâya.
nakshatra: ≤’& “Star cluster.” Central to astrological Naraka: ≤¿é Abode of darkness. Literally, “pertaining
determinations, the nakshatras are 27 star-clusters, to man.” The nether worlds. Equivalent to the Western
constellations arranged along the ecliptic, or path of term hell, a gross region of the Antarloka. Naraka is a
the sun. An individual’s nakshatra, or birth star, is the congested, distressful area where demonic beings and
constellation the moon was aligned with at the time young souls may sojourn until they resolve the dark-
of birth. See: jyotisha. some karmas they have created. Here beings suffer the
Nama˙ Íivâya: ≤ºÅ ⁄ÀΔŸæ “Adoration (homage) to consequences of their own misdeeds in previous lives.
Íiva.” The supreme mantra of Íaivism, known as the Naraka is understood as having seven regions, called
Pañchâkshara, or “five syllables.” Na is the Lord’s veil- tala, corresponding to the states of consciousness of
ing grace; Ma is the world; Íi is Íiva; Vâ is His reveal- the seven lower chakras. They are described as places
ing grace; Ya is the soul. The syllables also represent of torment, pain, darkness, confusion and disease, but
the physical body: Na the legs, Ma the stomach, Íi these are only temporary abodes for the evolving soul.
the shoulders, Vâ the mouth and Ya the eyes. Em- Hinduism has no eternal hell. See: asura, hell.
bodying the essence of Íaiva Siddhânta, it is found in Na†arâja: ≤¢¿Ÿú “King of Dance,” or “King of Danc-
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ers.” God as the Cosmic Dancer. Perhaps Hindu- to the Íaiva Siddhânta scriptural compendium called
ism’s richest and most eloquent symbol, Na†arâja Tirumurai.
represents Íiva, the Primal Soul, Parameßvara, as the negative attachment: A fear, worry or doubt about the
power, energy and life of all that exists. This is Íiva’s future or a lingering regret about the past that keeps
intricate state of Being in Manifestation. The dance one from “flowing with the river of life,” living fully in
of Íiva as Na†eßa, Lord of Dancers, is the rhythmic the moment as an independent, spiritual being, facing
movement of the entire cosmos. All that is, whether each experience in the light of understanding.
sentient or insentient, pulsates in His body, and He Nehru, Jawaharlal: A major political influence in
within it. Both male and female elements are depicted India’s movement for independence, Nehru (1889-
in this icon—as also shown in Ardhanârîßvara, the 1964) was born in Allahabad, educated at Harvard.
“half-female God,” symbol of the inseparable nature of With Mahatma Gandhi he helped negotiate India’s
Íiva-Íakti. See: Nama˙ Íivâya, Parâßakti Parameßvara, freedom from Britain. After the formation of Pakistan
Parâßakti, Paraßiva. in August, 1947, he became Prime Minister of India.
Natchintanai: ew;rpe;jid The collected songs of Sage neo: A prefix meaning new and different; modified.
Yogaswami (1872-1964) of Jaffna, Sri Lanka, extolling neo-Indian religion: Navabhârata Dharma. A modern
the power of the satguru, worship of Lord Íiva, ad- form of liberal Hinduism that carries forward basic
herance to the path of dharma and striving for the Hindu cultural values—such as dress, diet and the
attainment of Self Realization. See: Kailâsa Paramparâ, arts—while allowing religious values to subside. It
Yogaswami. emerged after the British Râj, when India declared
Nâtha: ≤Ÿ¨ “Master, lord; adept.” An ancient Himalayan itself an independent, secular state. It was cultivated
tradition of Íaiva-yoga mysticism, whose first histori- by the Macaulay education system, implanted in India
cally known exponent was Nandikesvara (ca 250 bce). by the British, which aggressively undermined Hin-
Nâtha—Self-Realized adept—designates the extraor- du thought and belief. Neo-Indian religion encour-
dinary ascetic masters (or devotees) of this school. ages Hindus to follow any combination of theological,
Through their practice of siddha yoga they have at- scriptural, sâdhana and worship patterns, regardless
tained tremendous powers, siddhis, and are sometimes of sectarian or religious origin. Extending out of and
called siddha yogîs (accomplished or fully enlightened beyond the Smârta system of worshiping the Gods
ones). The words of such beings penetrate deeply into of each major sect, it incorporates holy icons from
the psyche of their devotees, causing mystical awaken- all religions, including Jesus, Mother Mary and Bud-
ings. Like all tantrics, Nâthas have refused to recognize dha. Many Navabhâratis choose to not call themselves
caste distinctions in spiritual pursuits. Their satgurus Hindus but to declare themselves members of all the
initiate from the lowest to the highest, according to world’s religions. See: Smârtism.
spiritual worthiness. Nâtha also designates any follow- nerves: Cordlike bundles of fibers made up of neurons
er of the Nâtha tradition. The Nâthas are considered through which impulses pass between the brain, cen-
the source of ha†ha as well as râja yoga. See: Kailâsa tral nervous system and other parts of the body. Here
Paramparâ, Nâtha Sampradâya. also names the fibrous network of inner bodies.
Nâtha Sampradâya: ≤Ÿ¨–Ä¥˘ÆŸæ “Traditional doctrine nervous system: The system of the brain, spinal cord,
of the masters.” Sampradâya means a living stream of nerves, ganglia and parts of the receptor and effector
tradition or theology. Nâtha Sampradâya is a philo- organs that regulates the body’s responses to internal
sophical and yogic tradition of Íaivism whose origins and external stimuli.
are unknown. This oldest of Íaivite sampradâyas New Age: According to Webster’s New World Dictionary:
existing today consists of two major streams: the “Of or pertaining to a cultural movement, popular in
Nandinâtha and the Ådinâtha. The Nandinâtha Sam- the 1980s [and ever since], characterized by a concern
pradâya has had as exponents Maharishi Nandinatha with spiritual consciousness, and variously combin-
and his disciples: Patanjali (author of the Yoga Sûtras) ing belief in reincarnation and astrology with such
and Tirumular (author of Tirumantiram). Among its practices as meditation, vegetarianism and holistic
representatives today are the successive siddhars of medicine.”
the Kailâsa Paramparâ. The Ådinâtha lineage’s known Nightingale, Florence: English hospital administrator
exponents are Maharishi Adinatha, Matsyendranatha (1820-1910) born in Florence, Italy, was influential in
and Gorakshanatha, who founded a well-known or- modernizing training for nursing. In 1854 during the
der of yogîs. See: Kailâsa Paramparâ, Nâtha, Íaivism, Crimean War she organized a new type of hospital
sampradâya. unit, introducing sanitary reforms, and securing nec-
Nayanar: ehadhq “One who shows the way.” The 63 essary supplies. In 1907 she became the first woman
canonized Tamil saints of South India, as documented to receive the British Order of Merit.
in the Periyapurâ∫am by Sekkilar (ca 1140). All but a Nirgu∫a Brahman: ⁄≤í‹® @ ∏˘“˜≤ÎÎ “God without qualities.”
few were householders, honored as exemplars of radi- See: Brahman.
cal devotion to Lord Íiva, though their biographies nirvâ∫a sâdhaka: ⁄≤Δ@® –Ÿ∞é Title for a senior sâd-
are perhaps historically inaccurate and the actions of haka in Saiva Siddhanta Church who has followed the
some were violent, even heinous. Several contributed pattern of wearing white throughout monastic life
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and not entering the auxiliary training of the natyam. prâ∫amaya and annamaya koßas. See: actinic, koßa,
Nirvâna sâdhakas may qualify for holy orders of san- subtle body.
nyâsa after age 72. officiate: Performing duties and responsibilities of an
nirvâ∫î and upadeßî: ⁄≤ΔŸ@®¤ ܥƉÀ¤ Nirvâ∫î means officer or priest.
“extinguished one,” and upadeßî means “teacher.” In oils, degraded: Describes oils that have been overused
general, nirvâ∫i refers to a liberated soul, or to a cer- or overheated in the cooking process to the point of
tain class of monk. Upadeßî refers to a teacher, gen- toxicity, such as in deep-frying, or that are exceed-
erally a renunciate. In The Master Course, these two ingly high in saturated fat or cholesterol, or that have
terms have special meaning, similar to the Buddhist been found to be unhealthy to use in cooking. The
arhat and bodhisattva, naming the two earthly modes unhealthiest oils include coconut oil, cottonseed oil,
of the realized, liberated soul. After full illumination, rapeseed (canola) oil, palm oil, corn oil, peanut oil
the jîvanmukta has the choice to return to the world and all hydrogenated oils, as well as others. The most
to help others along the path. This is the way of the healthy cooking oils are ghee (clarified butter), olive
upadeßî (or bodhisattva), exemplified by the benevo- oil and sesame oil. Olive oil and sesame oil are also
lent satguru who leads seekers to the goal of God Re- nutritious in salads and other raw dishes. Flaxseed oil
alization. He may found and direct institutions and also has many health advantages, but it should never
monastic lineages. The nirvâ∫î (or arhat) abides at be heated.
the pinnacle of consciousness, shunning all worldly ojas: åú–Î “Vigor, force, strength, vitality.” In âyur-
involvement. He is typified by the silent ascetic, the veda, the underlying life-sap or fluid-essence of the
reclusive sage. See: satguru, vißvagrâsa. dhatus, the seven tissue systems of the body—plasma,
nirvikalpa samâdhi: ⁄≤⁄Δ@é≈¥–ºŸ⁄∞ “Undifferentiated blood, muscle, fat, bone, nerves and reproductive
trance, enstasy (samâdhi) without form or seed.” The tissue. Ojas pervades every part of the body and un-
realization of the Self, Paraßiva, a state of oneness be- derlies all physical capacities. It is not a physical sub-
yond all change or diversity; beyond time, form and stance, but exists on a subtle level. Ojas is depleted by
space. The prefix vi- connotes “change, differentiation.” excessive sex, drugs, talking, loud music, emotional
Kalpa means “order, arrangement; a period of time.” burnout and insufficient rest. Signs of diminished ojas
Thus vikalpa means “diversity, thought; difference of are fear, worry, sensory organ pain, poor complexion,
perception, distinction.” Nir means “without.” See: cheerlessness, harshness, emaciation, immune system
râja yoga, samâdhi, Self Realization. disorders and easily contracting of diseases (all the
niyama: ⁄≤æº “Observance.” See: yama-niyama. symptoms of the modern disease AIDS). Conserva-
nondualism: “Not two-ness.” Monistic philosophy. See: tion of the vital sexual fluids increases the store of ojas,
advaita, monism, monistic theism, Vedânta. strengthens the immune system and enhances health
nonsectarian: Not limited to or associated with a par- and the quality of one’s consciousness. See: âyurveda,
ticular religious denomination. tejas, transmutation.
olai: Xiy “Leaf.” An ancient form of Indian books used
observation: The act of being aware, in India, made of strips of fronds from the palmyra
recording or noting things. (t®i∫∂ruma) and talipot (tâlapatra, “fan-leaf ”) palms.
occult: Hidden, or kept secret; re- Prepared birch bark (bhûrja pattra) was the medium
vealed only after initiation. See: mys- in the North. The pages were loosely tied, with cord
ticism. passed between one or two holes and usually bound
occultism: The study of, and attempt- between wooden covers. Ink made from lampblack
ed control over, the supernatural. or charcoal was applied with a reed pen. Or, more
odic: Spiritually magnetic—of or pertaining to con- commonly in the South, the letters were scribed with
sciousness within aßuddha mâyâ, the realm of the a stylus, then rubbed with powdered lampblack. These
physical and lower astral planes. Odic force in its ra- books average about 2 inches high and 8 inches wide
reified state is prak®iti, the primary gross energy of and up to 11 or 12 inches thick, wound with string and
nature, manifesting in the three gu∫as: sattva, rajas generally protected in colored cloth.
and tamas. All matter, earth, air, fire and water, as old soul: One who has reincarnated many times, expe-
well as thought, are odic force. It is the force of attrac- rienced much and is therefore further along the path.
tion and repulsion between people, people and their Old souls may be recognized by their qualities of com-
things, and manifests as masculine (aggressive) and passion, self-effacement and wisdom. See: evolution
feminine (passive), arising from the piˆgalâ and i∂â of the soul, soul.
currents. These two currents (nâ∂î) are found within Om: Ç˺Π“Yes, verily.” The most sacred mantra of Hin-
the spine of the subtle body. Odic force is a magnetic, duism. An alternate transliteration of Aum. See: Aum.
sticky, binding substance that people seek to develop omnipotent: All-powerful. Able to do anything.
when they want to bind themselves together, such as omnipresent: Present everywhere and in all things.
in partnerships, marriage, guru-ßishya relationships omniscient: Possessing infinite knowledge, all-knowing.
and friendships. It, of itself, is stagnant and unflow- oneness: Quality or state of being one. Unity, identity,
ing. Odic energy is the combined emanation of the especially in spite of appearances to the contrary—e.g.,
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the oneness of soul and God. See: monism. meditation. The legs are crossed, the soles of the feet
opinionated knowledge: A faculty of memory stored upward, resembling a lotus flower. Sitting in this pose
in the memory gridwork of the subconscious mind balances and quiets the intellectual-emotional ener-
which provides a platform for the intellect, developing gies. See: lotus pose, râja yoga, yoga.
an ego. Knowledge gained through the study, hearing pagan: The pre-Christian religion of Europe, akin to
and quoting of opinions of others. Looking at the shamanism and other of the world’s indigenous faiths,
world through the eyes of others. which have survived to this day despite organized per-
ordain (ordination): To confer the duties and respon- secution. Pagans are gradually surfacing again, and
sibilities, authority and spiritual power of a religious have acknowledged a kinship with Hinduism. The
office, such as priest, minister or satguru, through reli- term pagan is used negatively by Semitic faiths to in-
gious ceremony or mystical initiation. See: dîkshâ. dicate a follower of another religion, or of no religion.
orthodox: “Of right (correct) opinion.” Conforming to See: mysticism, shamanism.
established doctrines or beliefs. Opposite of heterodox, pañcha nitya karma(s): ¥ZŸ⁄≤´æéº@ “Five constant du-
“different opinion.” ties.” A traditional regimen of religious practice for
Hindus: 1) dharma (virtuous living), 2) upâsanâ (wor-
pâda: ¥ŸÆ “The foot” (of men and ship), 3) utsava (holy days), 4) tîrthayâtrâ (pilgrimage)
animals); quarter-part, section; stage; and 5) saμskâras (sacraments.) See: dharma, pilgrim-
path. Names the major sections of the age, saμskâra.
Ågamic texts and the corresponding Pañchâkshara Mantra: ¥ZŸŸ’¿º≥& “Five-lettered chant.”
stages of practice and unfoldment Íaivism’s most sacred mantra. See: Nama˙ Íivâya.
on the path to moksha, liberation. pañchâˆga: ¥ZŸŸÄí “Five limbs, or parts.” (Tamil: pañ-
According to Íaiva Siddhânta, there are four pâdas, châˆgam) The name of the traditional Hindu alma-
which are successive and cumulative; i.e. in accom- nac, so named because of its five basic elements—
plishing each one the soul prepares itself for the next. tithi, nakshatra, kâra∫a, yoga and vara (or vasara).
(In Tamil, Íaiva Siddhânta is also known as Nalu-pâ- It provides information about unseen astrological
da, “four-stage,” Íaivam). —charyâ pâda (or mârga): factors, which influence the subtle environment. Pañ-
“Good conduct stage.” The first stage where one learns châˆgams are used to determine the optimum times
to live righteously, serve selflessly, performing karma for all activities. See: jyotisha, lunar calendar.
yoga. It is also known as dâsa mârga, “servitor’s path,” pa∫∂ara: ¥©•¿ An informal order of independent
a time when the aspirant relates to God as a servant priests, often self-taught and self-appointed, who
to a master. Traditional acts of charyâ include clean- emerge within a community to perform pûjâs at a
ing the temple, lighting lamps and collecting flowers sacred tree, a simple shrine or a temple.
for worship. Worship at this stage is mostly external. pandit (pa∫∂ita): ¥⁄©•™ A Hindu religious scholar or
—kriyâ pâda (or mârga): “Religious action; worship theologian, a man well versed in philosophy, liturgy,
stage.” Stage of bhakti yoga, of cultivating devotion religious law and sacred science.
through performing pûjâ and regular daily sâdhana. pantheon: All the Gods of a religion together.
It is also known as the satputra mârga, “true son’s way,” pâpa: ¥Ÿ¥ “Wickedness; sin, crime.” 1) Bad or evil.
as the soul now relates to God as a son to his father. A 2) Wrongful action. 3) Demerit earned through
central practice of the kriyâ pâda is performing daily wrongdoing. Pâpa includes all forms of wrongdo-
pûjâ. —yoga pâda (or mârga): Having matured in ing, from the simplest infraction to the most heinous
the charyâ and kriyâ pâdas, the soul now turns to crime, such as premeditated murder. Each act of pâpa
internalized worship and râja yoga under the guid- carries its karmic consequence, karmaphala, “fruit of
ance of a satguru. It is a time of sâdhana and serious action,” for which scriptures delineate specific pen-
striving when realization of the Self is the goal. It is ance for expiation. Pâpa is the opposite of pu∫ya
the sakhâ mârga, “way of the friend,” for now God is (merit, virtue). See: evil, karma, penance, pu∫ya, sin.
looked upon as an intimate friend. —jñâna pâda (or Parabrahman: ¥¿∏˘“˜≤Î “Supreme (or transcendent)
mârga): “Stage of wisdom.” Once the soul has attained God.” A synonym for Nirgu∫a Brahman, Absolute Re-
Realization, it is henceforth a wise one who lives out ality, beyond time, form and space. Same as Paraßiva.
the life of the body, shedding blessings on mankind. See: Brahman, Paraßiva.
This stage is also called the San Mârga, “true path,” on paramaguru: ¥¿ºí‹¡ “Grand preceptor.” The guru of
which God is our dearest beloved. The Tirumantiram a disciple’s guru.
describes the fulfillment of each stage as follows. In Paramâtman: ¥¿ºŸ´º≤Î “Supreme Self,” or “transcen-
charyâ, the soul forges a kindred tie in “God’s world” dent soul.” Paraßiva, Absolute Reality, the one tran-
(sâlokya). In kriyâ it attains “nearness” (sâmîpya) to scendent Self of every soul. Contrasted with âtman,
Him. In yoga it attains “likeness” (sârûpya) with Him. which includes all three aspects of the soul: Paraßiva,
In jñâna the soul enjoys the ultimate bliss of identity Parâßakti and ânandamaya koßa. See: âtman, koßa, soul.
(sâyujya) with Íiva. Parameßvara: ¥¿º‰Ã¸¿ “Supreme Lord or Ruler.” God
padmâsana: ¥Ø˜Ÿ–≤ “Lotus posture.” The most famous Íiva's third perfection, Supreme Mahâdeva, Íiva-Íakti,
ha†ha yoga âsana, the optimum pose for sustained mother of the universe. In this perfection as Personal,
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father-mother God, Íiva is a person—who has a body, tion for the sake of destruction, of torture, and of
with head, arms and legs, etc.—who acts, wills, blesses, murder for the sake of murder. Pâtâla also names the
gives darßana, guides, creates, preserves, reabsorbs, ob- netherworld in general, and is a synonym for Naraka.
scures and enlightens. In Truth, it is Íiva-Íakti who See: chakra, loka, Naraka.
does all. The term Primal Soul, Paramapurusha, desig- Patanjali: ¥™°ú⁄ƒ A Íaivite Nâtha siddha (ca 200 bce)
nates Parameßvara as the original, uncreated soul, the who codified the ancient yoga philosophy which out-
creator of all other souls. Parameßvara has many other lines the path to enlightenment through purifica-
names and epithets, including those denoting the five tion, control and transcendence of the mind. One of
divine actions: Sadâßiva, the revealer; Maheßvara, the the six classical philosophical systems (darßanas) of
obscurer; Brahmâ, the creator; Vish∫u the preserver; Hinduism, known as Yoga Darßana. His great work,
and Rudra the destroyer. See: Na†arâja. the Yoga Sûtras, comprises some 200 aphorisms de-
paramparâ: ¥¿Ä¥¿Ÿ “Uninterrupted succession.” A lin- lineating ash†âˆga (eight-limbed), râja (kingly) or
eage. See: guru paramparâ. siddha (perfection) yoga. Still today it is the foremost
parârtha pûjâ: ¥¿Ÿ¨@¥›úŸ “Public liturgy and worship.” text on meditative yoga. Different from the namesake
See: pûjâ. grammarian. See: râja yoga, yoga.
Parâßakti: ¥¿ŸÀ⁄# “Supreme power; primal energy.” Pati: ¥⁄™ “Master; lord; owner.” An appellation of God
God Íiva’s second perfection, which is impersonal, Íiva indicating His commanding relationship with
immanent, and with form—the all-pervasive Pure souls as caring ruler and helpful guide. In Íaiva Sid-
Consciousness and Primal Substance of all that exists. dhânta the title is part of the analogy of cowherd
There are many other descriptive names for Parâßak- (pati), cows (paßu, souls) and the tether (pâßa—â∫ava,
ti—Satchidânanda (“existence-consciousness-bliss”), karma and mâyâ) by which cows are tied. See: Pati-
light, silence, divine mind, superconsciousness and paßu-pâßa, Íiva.
more. Parâßakti can be experienced by the diligent Pati-jñânam: gjp"hdk; “Knowledge of God,” sought for
yogî or meditator as a merging in, or identification by the soul in the third stage of the sakala avasthai,
with, the underlying oneness flowing through all form. called arul. See: arul, sakala avasthâ, ßaktinipâta.
The experience is called savikalpa samâdhi. See: râja Pati-paßu-pâßa: ¥⁄™ ¥À‹ ¥ŸÀ Literally: “Master, cow
yoga, Íakti, Satchidânanda. and tether.” These are the three primary elements
Paraßiva: ¥¿⁄ÀΔ “Transcendent Íiva.” The Self God, (padârtha, or tattvatrayî) of Íaiva Siddhânta philoso-
Íiva's first perfection, Absolute Reality. God Íiva as phy: God, soul and world—Divinity, man and cos-
That which is beyond the grasp of consciousness, tran- mos—seen as a mystically and intricately interrelated
scends time, form and space and defies description. unity. Pati is God, envisioned as a cowherd. Paßu is
To merge with Him in mystic union is the goal of all the soul, envisioned as a cow. Pâßa is the all-important
incarnated souls, the reason for their living on this force or fetter by which God brings souls along the
planet, and the deepest meaning of their experiences. path to Truth. The various schools of Hinduism de-
Attainment of this is called Self Realization or nirvi- fine the rapport among the three in varying ways. For
kalpa samâdhi. See: samâdhi, Íiva. pluralistic Íaiva Siddhântins they are three beginning-
pâßa: ¥ŸÀ “Tether; noose.” (Tamil: pâßam) The whole of less verities, self-existent, eternal entities. For monistic
existence, manifest and unmanifest. That which binds Íaiva Siddhântins, paßu and pâßa are the emanational
or limits the soul and keeps it (for a time) from man- creation of Pati, Lord Íiva, and He alone is eternal
ifesting its full potential. Pâßa consists of the soul’s reality. See: pâßa, Íaiva Siddhânta, soul.
three-fold bondage of â∫ava, karma and mâyâ. See: payasam: ghahrk; A cooked, milk-based, pudding des-
liberation, mala, Pati-paßu-pâßa. sert often served at special festive occasions, generally
pâßa-jñânam: ghr"hdk; “Knowledge of the world.” made from tapioca or rice.
That which is sought for by the soul in the first stage penance: Prâyaßchitta. Atonement, expiation. An act of
of the sakala avasthai, known as irul. See: irul, sakala devotion (bhakti), austerity (tapas) or discipline (su-
avasthâ. k®itya) undertaken to soften or nullify the anticipated
paßu: ¥À‹ “Cow, cattle, kine; fettered individual.” Refers reaction of a past action. Penance is uncomfortable
to animals or beasts, including man. In philosophy, karma inflicted upon oneself to mitigate one’s kar-
the soul. Íiva as Lord of Creatures is called Paßupati. mic burden caused by wrongful actions (kukarma).
See: pâßa, Pati-paßu-pâßa. It includes such acts as prostrating 108 times, fasting,
paßu-jñânam: gR"hdk; “Soul-knowledge.” The object self-denial, or carrying kavadi (public penance), as
of seeking in the second stage of the sakala avasthai, well as more extreme austerities, or tapas. Penance is
called marul. See: marul, sakala avasthâ. often suggested by spiritual leaders and elders. Peni-
pâtâla chakra: ¥Ÿ™Ÿƒ òé“Fallen” or “sinful region.” tence or repentance, suffering regret for misdeeds, is
The seventh chakra below the mûlâdhâra, centered in called anutâpa, meaning “to heat.” —bâla tâ∂ayati
the soles of the feet. Corresponds to the seventh and prâyaßchitta: “Child-beating penance,” performed
lowest astral netherworld beneath the earth’s surface, to mitigate the pâpa, sometimes called sin, accrued
called Kâkola (“black poison”) or Pâtâla. This is the by having beaten a child. FFirst, the adult counts the
realm in which misguided souls indulge in destruc- number of slaps or hits—with cane, stick, strap, hand,
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or fist—that he (or she) administered to children in voice to emphasize a point: $.25. Pouting and turning
the past. Then he meditates on the extent of harm he the head away: $.50. Saying unkind things, unneces-
caused and in what ways. He lets the reality of this live sary snide remarks: $.75. Sharp comments uttered in
with him for a week or two. (He may, at first, deny it, a raspy voice: $1.00. Long, brooding silences (an ex-
rationalize it, explain it away to himself, tell himself pression of anger that appears peaceful but is a way
that there are a dozen reasons why striking a child was of cutting a person out of one’s life): $2.00. (Mental
necessary, useful, customary and therefore acceptable. arguments happen during those silences, deafening si-
But all is Íiva, and no violence toward another human lences, loud deafening silences, during which thought
being, let alone our own flesh and blood, is accept- swirls around how to retaliate or refute the other
able.) Once acceptance is complete, while looking into person’s point.) A deeply cutting remark or hurtful
a large mirror, he administers upon his own body five insinuation or criticism of a personal nature: $2.50. A
hits for each one he gave to a child, with hand, cane, long, angry dissertation as to how others are totally
belt, etc., in the exact area of the body where the hurt wrong and how matters cannot continue in this way
was felt by the child. This may take time, and it should any longer: $4.00. An angry rage in which the aura
be painful. Thus, looking in the mirror, he slaps him- turns black-red, or a jealous outburst in which one
self five times for every slap he gave each child, pinch- emphasizes, “I am in command. You are the serfs. You
es himself five times for every pinch given, etc. ¶After obey me, because you fear me.” Or “You are wrong,
this phase of the prâyaßchitta has been completed and and I don’t like you. You did something terrible, un-
the abuser feels much relieved of the heavy karmas, forgivable, stupid...(and such hateful things)” $5.00.
the abuser must 1) apologize to all the children he For the wealthy, each of these amounts can be dou-
has abused and assure them that he will no longer bled; for the very wealthy, quadrupled. A jar labeled
ever use corporal punishment, but instead use positive “Krodha Prâyaßchitta” is established in the shrine room
discipline. 2) Then he assures the children under his to receive the payments. The sum collected is sent to
influence that he will protect them from such brutal- a charity on the first Sunday of each month. See: evil,
ity at home and in school. 3) Next, he writes to his kavadi, pâpa, prâyaßchitta, sin, tapas.
satguru or other mentor about his penance, indicating perfections: Qualities, aspects, nature or dimensions
if the guilt has passed and inner peace has returned. that are perfect. God Íiva’s three perfections are
He includes a handwritten pledge, vrata, stating: a) Paraßiva (Absolute Reality), Parâßakti (Pure Con-
that he will never inflict such abuse ever again; and sciousness) and Parameßvara (Primal Soul). Though
b) that he will notify the school that children must be spoken of as three-fold for the sake of understanding,
treated with respect and kindness and receive no beat- God Íiva ever remains a one transcendent-immanent
ing of any kind, and that any misbehavior by children Being. See: Parameßvara, Parâßakti, Paraßiva, Íiva.
under his care should be reported to him by teachers perplexity: Puzzlement; the state of being confused,
so that appropriate discipline can be administered at uncertain, befuddled.
home. 4) Once the mentor responds, the penance is pilgrimage: Tîrthayâtrâ, one of the five sacred duties
complete. —pushpa prâyaßchitta: “Flower penance.” (pañcha nitya karmas) of the Hindu, is to journey
Those who have been physically abused are as much periodically to one of the innumerable holy spots in
in need of penance to mitigate the experience as India or other countries. Preceded by fasting and con-
are those who abused them. Each person—child or tinence, it is a time of austerity and purification, when
adult—who has been beaten at any time, no matter all worldly concerns are set aside and God becomes
how long ago, is enjoined to put up in the shrine room one’s singular focus. Streams of devout pilgrims are
a picture of the person or persons by whom they were received daily at the many ancient holy sites (tîrthas)
beaten, be it a father, mother or teacher. Then, every in India, and tens of thousands at festival times. See:
day for thirty-one days, he or she places a flower in pañcha nitya karma.
front of each picture and, while doing so, sincerely piˆgalâ nâ∂î: ⁄¥Ä탟 ≤Ÿ•¤ “Tawny channel.” The mas-
forgiving the person in heart and mind. If no picture culine psychic current flowing along the spine. See:
is available then some symbol or possession can be ku∫∂alinî, nâ∂î, râja yoga.
substituted, or even a paper with the name written plexus: A structure consisting of interwoven parts; a
on it. —krodha prâyaßchitta: “Anger penance.” Anger network. Especially of nerves, blood vessels, or lym-
arises from the second chakra below the mûlâdhâra, phatic nodes.
the vitala chakra, and when that force center begins Plotinus: (205-270ce) Egyptian-born Greek philosopher
to vibrate, it vibrates in many different ways, spinning who founded Neo-Platonism, a revival of Platonism,
counterclockwise, causing disturbance to the natural in the Roman Empire. He taught ahiμsâ, vegetarian-
ßânti that otherwise prevails. Below are the some of ism, karma, reincarnation and belief in an immanent
the various faces of anger that the vitala chakra gives and transcendent Supreme Being.
rise to. For each, a monetary sum is paid to compen- pluralism (pluralistic): Any doctrine that holds exis-
sate, as a form of penance, for allowing oneself to sink tence to be composed of three or more distinct and
into this hurtful, unwholesome state of mind. Angry irreducible components, such as God, souls and world.
emotions that are suppressed: us$.10. Raising one’s See: dvaita-advaita.
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polarize: To turn, grow, think, feel in a certain way as a prâyopaveßa: ¥˘ŸæË¥Δ‰À “Resolving to die through fast-
result of attraction or repulsion. In The Master Course, ing.” Self-willed death by fasting. See: suicide.
often to consciously align individual spiritual forces precept: A commandment meant as a rule of action
with the higher cosmic forces, also to attract and sus- or conduct.
tain the presence of divine beings. preceptor: Highly respected teacher and head of a spiri-
Polynesian: Referring a group of islands in the Pacific, tual order and clan; the equivalent of the word satguru.
east of Australia and the Philippines, or to its peoples, Pretaloka: ¥‰˘™ƒËé “World of the departed.” The realm
languages or cultures. of the earth-bound souls. This lower region of Bhu-
pornography: Pictures, writings, movies or other media varloka is an astral duplicate of the physical world.
that present sexual matters in a manner intended to See: loka.
incite lust. Primal Soul: The uncreated, original, perfect soul—Íiva
positive discipline: A system of raising children with Parameßvara—who emanates from Himself the in-
love, respect and dignity, as a compassionate alterna- ner and outer universes and an infinite plurality of
tive to traditional punitive methods. Based on the individual souls whose essence is identical with His
books by author Jane Nelsen ED.D., it offers practical essence. God in His personal aspect as Lord and Cre-
guidelines for parents and teachers to help children ator, depicted in many forms: Na†arâja by Íaivites,
develop self-discipline, responsibility through firm Vish∫u by Vaish∫avites, Devî by Íâktas. See: Na†arâja,
but kindly guidance and mutual respect. Parameßvara.
potluck: Whatever is available, with little or no choice. Primal Substance: The fundamental energy and rarified
pradosha: ¥˘ Æ ËŒ The auspicious 3-hour period, 1½ form from which the manifest world in its infinite
hours before and after sunset. Pradosha especially diversity is derived. See: Parâßakti.
refers to this period on the 13th (trayodaßî) tithi of processed sugar: See: sugar, processed.
each fortnight, an optimum time of the month for procrastination: Postponing or needless delaying.
meditation. Its observance, prepared for by fasting, is promiscuity: Engaging in sex indiscriminantly or with
called pradosha vrata. See: fast, tithi. many partners. Not confining one’s sexual relation-
prâ∫a: ¥˘Ÿ® Vital energy or life principle. Literally, “vital ship to one person.
air,” from the root pra∫, “to breathe.” The interrelated prostitute: A person who solicits and accepts payment
odic and actinic forces. The sum total of all energy for sexual acts.
and forces. Prâ∫a in the human body moves in the prostrate: Lying face down, as in submission or adora-
prâ∫amaya koßa as five primary life currents known tion. See: prostration.
as vâyus, “vital airs or winds.” These are prâ∫a (outgo- prostration: pra∫âma: ¥˘ ® Ÿº “Obeisance; bowing
ing breath), apâ∫a (incoming breath), vyâ∫a (retained down.” Reverent salutation in which the head or
breath), udâ∫a (ascending breath) and samâ∫a (equal- body is bowed. —ash†âˆga pra∫âma: “Eight-limbed
izing breath). Each governs crucial bodily functions, obeisance.” The full body form for men, in which
and all bodily energies are modifications of these. the hands, chest, forehead, knees and feet touch the
Usually prâ∫a refers to the life principle, but some- ground. (Same as ßash†â∫ga pra∫âma.) —pañchâˆga
times denotes energy, power or the animating force pra∫âma: “Five-limbed obeisance.” The woman’s
of the cosmos, the sum total of all energy and forces. form of prostration, in which the hands, head and
prâ∫a chakravâla: ¥˘Ÿ®òé˚ΔŸƒ “Energized circle or as- legs touch the ground (with the ankles crossed, right
sembly.” See: chakravâla. over the left). A more exacting term for prostration
Pra∫ava: ¥˘®Δ “Humming.” The mantra Aum, denoting is pra∫ipâta, “falling down in obeisance.” See: bhakti,
God as the Primal Sound. It can be heard as the sound namaskâra.
of one’s own nerve system, like the sound of an elec- protocol (cultural): A code of correct conduct for any
trical transformer or a swarm of bees. The meditator procedure. A code of correct etiquette and cultured
is taught to inwardly transform this sound into the behavior among the members of a particular ethnic,
inner light which lights the thoughts, and bask in this religious or social group, often unwritten and passed
blissful consciousness. Pra∫ava is also known as the on by example from generation to generation. For
sound of the nâdanâ∂î ßakti. See: Aum. instance, there is a protocol for properly and hum-
prâ∫âyâma: ¥˘Ÿ®ŸæŸº “Breath control.” See: râja yoga. bly approaching a guru, swâmî or other holy person.
prâ∫ic body: The subtle, life-giving sheath called prâ- Likewise, there is a protocol for respectfully receiving
∫amaya koßa. See: koßa. an important foreign diplomat.
prârabdha karma: ¥˘Ÿ¿π∞éº@ “Action that has been un- pseudo: A prefix meaning false, sham, pretended.
leashed or aroused.” See: karma. psyche: The soul.
prasâda: ¥˘–ŸÆ “Clarity, brightness; grace.” 1) The virtue psychiatrist: A medical specialist who treats mental and
of serenity and graciousness. 2) Food offered to the emotional disorders.
Deity or the guru, or the blessed remnants of such psychic: “Of the psyche or soul.” Sensitive to spiritual
food. 3) Any propitiatory offering. See: sacrament. processes and energies. Inwardly or intuitively aware
prâyaßchitta: ¥˘Ÿæ⁄Ã% “Predominant thought or aim.” of nonphysical realities; able to use powers such as
Penance. Acts of atonement. See: penance. clairvoyance, clairaudience and precognition. Non-
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physical, subtle; pertaining to the deeper aspects of posite, pollution, are a fundamental part of Hindu
man. See: mysticism, odic. culture. While they refer to physical cleanliness, their
psychic entanglements: See: psychic tubes. more important meanings extend to social, ceremo-
psychic tubes: Channels of astral matter which connect nial, mental, emotional, psychic and spiritual contam-
a man and woman who have had sexual intercourse. ination. Freedom from all forms of contamination is
Such connections persist for a 12-year period, though a key to Hindu spirituality, and is one of the yamas.
they are greatly diminished after 6 years. Psychic tubes Physical purity requires a clean and well-ordered en-
also persist between child and mother up until age 24. vironment, yogic purging of the internal organs and
Through the process of brahmacharya all such con- frequent cleansing with water. Mental purity derives
nections are gradually dissolved and a new connection from meditation, right living and right thinking. Emo-
established with the guru. See: brahmacharya. tional purity depends on control of the mind, clearing
psychoanalyze: To interpret mental and emotional pro- the subconscious and keeping good company. Spiri-
cesses as results of unconscious impulses, repressed tual purity is achieved through following the yamas
experiences and conflicts, etc. and niyamas, study of the Vedas and other scriptures,
psychologist: A person schooled in understanding of pilgrimage, meditation, jâpa, tapas and ahiμsâ. See:
mental and emotional processes and behavior and dharma, pâpa, penance, pu∫ya, yama-niyama.
treating disorders according to one or another of the purusha: ¥‹¡Œ “The spirit that dwells in the body/in the
various modern theories of human behavior. universe.” Person; spirit; man. Metaphysically, the
psychology: The intellectual study of mental processes soul, neither male nor female. Also used in Yoga and
and behavior. The emotional and behavioral charac- Sâˆkhya for the transcendent Self. A synonym for ât-
teristics of an individual, or an activity. man. Purusha can also refer to the Supreme Being or
psychometry: The ability of one’s nervous system or Soul, as it often does in the Upanishads.
psychic faculty to register and interpret vibrations purusha dharma: ¥‹¡Œ∞º@ “A man’s code of duty and
from objects. conduct.” See: dharma.
puberty: The stage of adolescence at which one be-
comes physiologically capable of sexual reproduction. Radhakrishnan, Dr. S. (Râdh â-
pûjâ: ¥›úŸ “Worship, adoration.” An Ågamic rite of wor- k®ish∫an): ¿Ÿ∞Ÿé‚ œ ®≤Î (1888-1975)
ship performed in the home, temple or shrine, to the President of India from 1962 to
mûrti, ßrî pâdukâ, or other consecrated object, or to 1967, a scholar, philosopher, prolific
a person, such as the satguru. Its inner purpose is to writer, compelling speaker and effec-
purify the atmosphere around the object worshiped, tive spokesman of Hinduism. Along
establish a connection with the inner worlds and in- with Vivekånanda, Tagore, Aurobindo and others, he
voke the presence of God, Gods or one’s guru. helped stimulate the current Hindu revival by making
pujârî: ¥‹úŸ¿¤ “Worshiper.” A general term for Hindu Hinduism better known and appreciated at home and
temple priests, as well as anyone performing pûjâ. Pu- abroad, especially in the intellectual world. He was a
jârî (sometimes pûjârî) is the Hindi form of the San- foremost proponent of panentheism.
skrit pûjaka; pûsârî in Tamil. Archaka is another term râja yoga: ¿ŸúæËí “King of yogas.” Also known as
for the officiant priest used in the southern tradition. ash†âˆga yoga, “eight-limbed yoga.” The classical yoga
Purohita is a Smârta brâhmin priest who specializes in system of eight progressive stages to Illumination as
domestic rites. See: pûjâ. described in various yoga Upanishads, the Tirumanti-
punarjanma: ¥‹≤ú@≥º “Reincarnation.” From puna˙, ram and, most notably, in the Yoga Sûtras of Patañjali.
“again and again,” and janma, “taking birth.” See: re- The eight limbs are: 1) —yama: “Restraint.” Virtuous
incarnation. and moral living, which brings purity of mind, free-
punjabi: A woman’s outfit of India, a term derived from dom from anger, jealousy and subconscious confusion
Punjab, a northern state in India. In current form it is which would inhibit the process of meditation. 2) —
a modest pant suit for women with a kurta upper gar- niyama: “Observance.” Religious practices which cul-
ment with a widened bottom designed to sit on. tivate the qualities of the higher nature, such as devo-
pu∫ya: ¥‹©æ “Holy; virtuous; auspicious.” 1) Good or tion, cognition, humility and contentment—inducing
righteous. 2) Meritorious action. 3) Merit earned the refinement of nature and control of mind needed
through right thought, word and action. Pu∫ya in- to concentrate and ultimately plunge into samâdhi. 3)
cludes all forms of doing good, from the simplest —âsana: “Seat” or “posture.” A sound body is needed
helpful deed to a lifetime of conscientious beneficence. for success in meditation. This is attained through
Each act of pu∫ya carries its karmic consequence, kar- ha†ha yoga, the postures of which balance the ener-
maphala, “fruit of action”—the positive reward of ac- gies of mind and body, promoting health and serenity,
tions, words and deeds that are in keeping with dhar- e.g., padmâsana, the “lotus pose,” for meditation. 4)
ma. (Opposite of pâpa.) See: karma, pâpa, penance. —prâ∫âyâma: “Mastering life force.” Breath control,
Pure Consciousness: See: mind (universal), Parâßakti, which quiets the chitta and balances i∂â and piˆgalâ.
Satchidânanda. Science of controlling prâ∫a through breathing tech-
purity-impurity: Íaucha-aßaucha. Purity and its op- niques in which the length of inhalation, retention
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and exhalation is modulated. Prâ∫âyâma prepares the reincarnation: “Re-entering the flesh.” Punarjanma;
mind for deep meditation. 5) —pratyâhâra: “With- metempsychosis. The process wherein souls take on
drawal.” The practice of withdrawing consciousness a physical body through the birth process. The cycle
from the physical senses first, such as not hearing of reincarnation ends when karma has been resolved
noise while meditating, then progressively receding and the Self God (Paraßiva) has been realized. This
from emotions, intellect and eventually from indi- condition of release is called moksha. Then the soul
vidual consciousness itself in order to merge into the continues to evolve and mature, but without the need
Universal. 6) —dhâra∫â: “Concentration.” Focusing to return to physical existence. See: evolution of the
the mind on a single object or line of thought, not soul, karma, moksha, saμsâra, soul.
allowing it to wander. The guiding of the flow of relative: Quality or object which is meaningful only in
consciousness. When concentration is sustained long relation to something else. Not absolute.
and deeply enough, meditation naturally follows. 7) relative reality: Mâyâ. That which is ever changing and
—dhyâna: “Meditation.” A quiet, alert, powerfully con- changeable. Describes the nature of manifest existence,
centrated state wherein new knowledge and insight indicating that it is not an illusion but is also not Ab-
pour into the field of consciousness. This state is pos- solute Reality, which is eternal and unchanging. See:
sible once the subconscious mind has been cleared absolute, mâyâ.
or quieted. 8) —samâdhi: (contemplation/God Re- religion: From Latin religare, “to bind back.” Any sys-
alization) “Enstasy,” which means “standing within tem of belief in and worship of suprahuman beings
one’s self.” “Sameness, contemplation.” The state of or powers and/or a Supreme Being or Power. Religion
true yoga, in which the meditator and the object of is a structured vehicle for soul advancement which
meditation are one. See: âsana, enlightenment, enstasy, often includes theology, scripture, spiritual and moral
samâdhi, yoga. practices, priesthood and liturgy. See: Hinduism.
rajas: ¿ú–Î “Passion; activity.” See: gu∫a. remorse: Deep, painful regret or guilt over a wrong one
Ramakrishna (Râmak®ish∫a): ¿Ÿºé‚œ® (1836–1886) has done. Moral anguish. See: penance.
One of the great saints and mystics of modern Hin- renunciation: See: sannyâsa.
duism, and a proponent of monistic theism—fervent repressions: Experiences, desires or inner conflicts re-
devotee of Mother Kâlî and staunch monist who siding in the subconscious mind and hidden from the
taught oneness and the pursuit of nirvikalpa samâdhi, conscious mind. Suppressed desires.
realization of the Absolute. He was guru to the great resent (resentment): A feeling of ill-will, indignation or
Swami Vivekananda (1863–1902), who international- hostility from a sense of having been wronged.
ized Hindu thought and philosophy. retaliate: To pay back an injury like for like, to get even.
Ramana Maharshi: ukz kfhp=p (1879-1950) Hindu Ad- righteous indignation: A standing up for dharma, a
vaita renunciate renaissance saint of Tiruvannamalai, show of angry displeasure on personal moral or reli-
South India. gious principles, accompanied in its lower forms by a
Rama Tirtha (Râma Tîrtha): ¿Ÿº™¤¨@ One of the first vain sense of superiority.
Indian monks (1873-1906) to bring yoga and Vedânta ®ishi: à⁄Œ “Seer.” A term for an enlightened being, em-
to the West, he lectured throughout Japan and Amer- phasizing psychic perception and visionary wisdom.
ica, spreading “practical Vedânta.” In the Vedic age, ®ishis lived in forest or mountain re-
Râmâya∫a: ¿ŸºŸæ® “Life of Râma.” One of India’s two treats, either alone or with disciples. These ®ishis were
grand epics (Itihâsa) along with the Mahâbhârata. It great souls who were the inspired conveyers of the
is Valmiki’s tragic love story of Råma and Sîtâ, whose Vedas. Seven outstanding ®ishis (the sapta ®ishis) men-
exemplary lives have helped set high standards of dig- tioned in the Âig Veda are said to still guide mankind
nity and nobility as an integral part of Hindu Dharma. from the inner worlds.
Astronomical data in the story puts Råma’s reign at Rishi from the Himalayas: The first known satguru of
about 2015 bce. the Kailâsa Parampâra in recent history (ca 1770-1840)
rasâtala chakra: ¿–Ÿ™ƒ òé˚ “Subterranean region.” famous for having entered a teashop in a village near
The fifth chakra below the mûlâdhâra, centered in Bangalore where he sat down, entered into deep samâ-
the ankles. Corresponds to the fifth astral netherworld dhi and did not move or speak for seven years. Streams
beneath the earth’s surface, called Âijîsha (“expelled”) of devotees came for his darßana. Their unspoken
or Rasâtala. Region of selfishness, self-centeredness prayers and questions were mysteriously answered in
and possessiveness. Rasâ means “earth, soil; moisture.” dreams or in messages on paper that manifested in
See: chakra, Naraka. the air and floated down to the floor. One day he sud-
realm: A kingdom, region, area or sphere. See: loka. denly arose and left the village, later to pass his power
reconcile: To settle or resolve, as a dispute. To make to Siddhar Kadaitswami (1804-1891).
consistent or compatible, e.g., two conflicting ideas. rite (or ritual): A religious ceremony. See: sacrament,
reconciliation: Harmonization of quarrels or mending saμskâra.
of differences. rites of passage: Sacraments marking crucial stages of
reincarnate: To take birth in another body, having lived life. See: saμskâra.
and died before. rites of passage, not attending: As the Nandinâtha
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Sûtras indicate, rites of passage, sacraments or plines, is usually celibate and under the guidance of a
saμskâras are special moments in life that are pre- guru. He wears white and may be under simple vows,
ciously guarded by all members of the community. but is not a yogi or sannyâsin. In Gurudeva’s monastic
Thus, tradition indicates certain restrictions as to communities, sâdhakas, or postulants, abide by four
who may attend, though those who do not attend vows—obedience, humility, purity and confidence,
may participate in preparations and receptions af- which they renew every two years. See: sâdhana.
terwards. Those who refrain from attending rites of sâdhana: –Ÿ∞≤ “Effective means of attainment.” Self-ef-
passage include widows and widowers, brahmachârîs fort, spiritual discipline; the way. Religious or spiritual
and brahmachâri∫îs and anyone who has been di- disciplines, such as pûjâ, yoga, meditation, japa, fast-
vorced. The reason is to protect the impressionable ing and austerity. The effect of sâdhana is the building
subconscious mind of those receiving the sacrament of willpower, faith and confidence in oneself and in
from the impressions of the possibilities of renuncia- God, Gods and guru. Sâdhana harnesses and trans-
tion, widowhood and divorce. Funeral rites, however, mutes the instinctive-intellectual nature, allowing
are open to everyone, though a couple just married progressive spiritual unfoldment into the supercon-
within the past year will stay away. Other important scious realizations and innate abilities of the soul. See:
funeral customs are: 1) a son who would normally pâda, râja yoga, sâdhana mârga, spiritual unfoldment.
light the pyre for his parents will not if his wife is sâdhana mârga: –Ÿ∞≤ºŸí@ “The way of sâdhana.” A
pregnant. Instead, a cousin or brother will take his phrase used by Sage Yogaswami to name his prescrip-
place; 2) when a widow is at her husband’s funeral tion for seekers of Truth—a path of intense effort,
rites, the other widows of the village gather around spiritual discipline and consistent inner transforma-
her, not the married couples. Note that if a widowed tion, as opposed to theoretical and intellectual learn-
person remarries, he or she is no longer considered ing. See: pâda, sâdhana, spiritual unfoldment.
a widow or widower and may attend rites of passage sâdhu: –Ÿ∞‹ “Virtuous one; straight, unerring.” A holy
with his or her new spouse. See: saμskâras. man dedicated to the search for God. A sâdhu may
ritual: A religious ceremony conducted according to or may not be a yogî or a sannyâsin, or be connected
some prescribed order. in any way with a guru or legitimate lineage. Sâdhus
Rudra: ¡Æ˙ “Controller of terrific powers;” or “red, shin- usually have no fixed abode and travel unattached
ing one.” The name of Íiva as the God of dissolution, from place to place, often living on alms. The femi-
the universal force of reabsorption. Rudra-Íiva is nine form is sâdhvî.
revered both as the “terrifying one” and the “lord of saffron: An orange yellow, traditional color of the Hin-
tears,” for He wields and controls the terrific powers du monk, said to originate from the mud of the Gaˆgâ
which may cause lamentation among humans. See: discoloring their white robes.
Na†arâja, Íiva. sage: A person respected for his spiritual wisdom and
judgement.
ßabda koßa: ÀπÆéËÀ “Sheath of Sagu∫a Brahman: –í‹®∏˘“˜≤Î “God with qualities.” The
sounds, or words.” Vocabulary; a dic- Personal Lord. See: Brahman, Parameßvara.
tionary or glossary of terms. sahasradala padma: –“–˘Æƒ¥Ø˜ “Thousand-petaled
sacrament: 1) Holy rite, especially one lotus.” Another name for the sahasrâra, or crown,
solemnized in a formal, consecrated chakra. See: sahasrâra chakra, chakra.
manner which is a bonding between sahasrâra chakra: –“–˘Ÿ¿ò$ “Thousand-spoked wheel.”
the recipient and God, Gods or guru. This includes The cranial psychic force center. See: chakra.
rites of passage (saμskâra), ceremonies sanctifying saint: A holy person. See: Nayanar.
crucial events or stages of life. 2) Prasâda. Sacred sub- Íaiva: ÀÊΔ Of or relating to Íaivism or its adherents, of
stances, grace-filled gifts, blessed in sacred ceremony whom there are about 400 million in the world today.
or by a holy person. See: prasâda, saμskâra. Same as Íaivite. See: Íaivism.
sacrifice: Yajña. 1) Making offerings to a Deity as an Íaiva Ågamas: ÀÊΔ ÇŸíº The sectarian revealed scrip-
expression of homage and devotion. 2) Giving up tures of the Íaivas. Strongly theistic, they identify Íiva
something, often one’s own possession, advantage as the Supreme Lord, immanent and transcendent.
or preference, to serve a higher purpose. The literal They fall in two main divisions: the 64 Kashmîr Íaiva
meaning of sacrifice is “to make sacred,” implying an Ågamas and the 28 Íaiva Siddhânta Ågamas. The latter
act of worship. It is the most common translation of group are the fundamental sectarian scriptures of Íai-
the term yajña, from the verb yuj, “to worship.” In va Siddhânta. The Íaiva Ågama scriptures, above all
Hinduism, all of life is a sacrifice—called jîvayajña, a else, are the connecting strand through all the schools
giving of oneself—through which comes true spiritual of Íaivism. The Ågamas themselves express that they
fulfillment. Tyâga, the power of detachment, is an es- are entirely consistent with the teachings of the Veda,
sential quality of true sacrifice. that they contain the essence of the Veda, and must
sâdhaka: –Ÿ∞é From sadh, “going straight to the goal.” be studied with the same high degree of devotion. See:
A spiritual aspirant; a devotee who performs sâdhana. Ågama, Vedas.
A serious seeker who has undertaken spiritual disci- Íaiva Dharma: ÀÊΔ ∞º@ Another name for Íaivism. See:
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Íaivism. 10) the beliefs in satguru (preceptor), Íivaliˆga (object

Íaiva Dharma Íâstras: ÀÊΔ Æº@ ÀŸ—& Saiva Siddhanta of worship) and saˆgama (company of holy persons).
Church’s Book of Discipline, detailing policies, mem- See: Íaivism.
bership rules and mission guidelines. Íaivite (Íaiva): ÀÊΔ Of or relating to Íaivism. See: Íaivism.
Íaiva Neri: irtbewp “Íaiva path.” Tamil term for sakala avasthâ: –éƒ ÇΔ—¨Ÿ “Stage of embodied being.”
Íaivism. See: Íaivism. (Tamil: avasthai.) In Íaiva Siddhânta, the second of
Íaiva Samayam: irt rkak “Íaivite religion.” See: Saivism. three stages of the soul’s evolution, when it is engaged
Íaiva Siddhânta: ÀÊ Δ ⁄–ØÛ Ÿ ≥™ “Final conclusions of in the world through the senses as it first develops a
Íaivism.” The most widespread and influential Íaivite mental, then emotional and astral body, and finally
school today, predominant especially among the Tam- a physical body, entering the cycles of birth, death
il people in Sri Lanka and South India. It is the formal- and rebirth under the veiling powers of karma and
ized theology of the divine revelations contained in mâya. Progress through sakala avasthâ is measured in
the twenty-eight Íaiva Ågamas. Other sacred scrip- three stages: 1) irul, “darkness;” when the impetus is
tures include the Tirumantiram and the voluminous toward pâßa, knowledge and experience of the world
collection of devotional hymns, the Tirumurai, and (pâßa-jñânam); 2) marul, “confusion;” caught between
the masterpiece on ethics and statecraft, the Tiruku- the world and God, the soul begins to turn within for
ral. For Íaiva Siddhântins, Íiva is the totality of all, knowledge of its own nature (paßu-jñânam); and 3)
understood in three perfections: Parameßvara (the arul, “grace,” when the soul seeks to know God (Pati-
Personal Creator Lord), Parâßakti (the substratum jñânam); and receive His grace. See: avasthâ, evolution
of form) and Paraßiva (Absolute Reality which tran- of the soul, kevala avasthâ, ßuddha avasthâ.
scends all). Souls and world are identical in essence Íâkta: ÀŸ# Of or relating to Íâktism. See: Íâktism.
with Íiva, yet also differ in that they are evolving. A Íakti: À⁄# “Power, energy.” The active power or mani-
pluralistic stream arose in the Middle Ages from the fest energy of Íiva that pervades all of existence. Its
teachings of Aghoraßiva and Meykandar. For Agho- most refined aspect is Parâßakti, or Satchidånanda, the
raßiva’s school (ca 1150) Íiva is not the material cause pure consciousness and primal substratum of all form.
of the universe, and the soul attains perfect “same- In Íaiva Siddhânta, Íiva is All, and His divine energy,
ness” with Íiva upon liberation. Meykandar’s (ca 1250) Íakti, is inseparable from Him. Íakti is most easily
pluralistic school denies that souls ever attain perfect experienced by devotees as the sublime, bliss-inducing
sameness or unity with Íiva. See: Íaivism. energy that emanates from a holy person or sanctified
Saiva Siddhanta Church: “Church of God Íiva’s Re- Hindu temple. See: ku∫∂alinî, Parâßakti, Íâktism.
vealed Truth,” founded in 1949 by Satguru Sivaya ßaktinipâta: À⁄#⁄≤¥Ÿ™ “Descent of grace,” occuring
Subramuniyaswami. during the advanced stage of the soul’s evolution
Saiva Siddhanta Yoga Order: Ecclesiastical body of life- called arul, at the end of the sakala avasthai. Íak-
time renunciate swâmîs of Saiva Siddhanta Church. tinipâta is two-fold: the internal descent is recognized
This saˆgam was founded by Satguru Sivaya Subra- as a tremendous yearning for Íiva; the outer descent
muniyaswami in 1949. of grace is the appearance of a satguru. At this stage,
Íaivism (Íaiva): ÀÊΔ The religion followed by those the devotee increasingly wants to devote himself to all
who worship Íiva as supreme God. Oldest of the four that is spiritual and holy. Same as ßaktipâta. See: arul,
sects of Hinduism. The earliest historical evidence grace, sakala avasthâ, ßaktipâta.
of Íaivism is from the 8,000-year-old Indus Valley Íâktism (Íâkta): ÀŸ# “Doctrine of power.” The religion
civilization in the form of the famous seal of Íiva as followed by those who worship the Supreme as the
Lord Paßupati, seated in a yogic pose. There are many Divine Mother—Íakti or Devî—in Her many forms,
schools of Íaivism, six of which are Íaiva Íiddhânta, both gentle and fierce. Íâktism is one of the four pri-
Pâßupata Íaivism, Kashmîr Íaivism, Vîra Íaivism, mary sects of Hinduism. Íâktism’s first historical signs
Siddha Siddhânta and Íiva Advaita. They are based are thousands of female statuettes dated ca 5500 bce
firmly on the Vedas and Íaiva Ågamas, and thus have recovered at the Mehrgarh village in India. In philoso-
much in common, including the following principal phy and practice, Íâktism greatly resembles Íaivism,
doctrines: 1) the five powers of Íiva—creation, pres- both faiths promulgating, for example, the same ul-
ervation, destruction, revealing and concealing grace; timate goals of advaitic union with Íiva and moksha.
2) The three categories: Pati, paßu and pâßa (“God, But Íâktas worship Íakti as the Supreme Being exclu-
souls and bonds”); 3) the three bonds: â∫ava, karma sively, as the dynamic aspect of Divinity, while Íiva is
and mâyâ; 4) the three-fold power of Íiva: icçhâ ßakti, considered solely transcendent and is not worshiped.
kriyâ ßakti and jñâna ßakti; 5) the thirty-six tattvas, or There are many forms of Íâktism, with endless variet-
categories of existence; 6) the need for initiation from ies of practices which seek to capture divine energy or
a satguru; 7) the power of mantra; 8) the four pâdas power for spiritual transformation. See: Íakti, tantric.
(stages): charyâ (selfless service), kriyâ (devotion), salutations to the sun: Sûrya namaskâra. A group of
yoga (meditation), and jñâna (illumination); 9) the eight or more yoga âsanas, postures, performed in
belief in the Pañchâkshara as the foremost mantra, methodic sequence in the morning while facing and
and in rudrâksha and vibhûti as sacred aids to faith; saluting the sun. The sequence incorporates stretching
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and limbering exercises with controlled breathing and ing.” A ceremony held between the fourth and sev-
reverent concentration as a daily regimen for good enth months in which the husband combs his wife’s
health and as a preparation for meditation. hair and expresses his love and support. —jâtakarma:
samâdhi: –ºŸ⁄∞ From verb-root with prepositional pre- “Rite of birth.” The father welcomes and blesses the
fixes samådhå “to hold together completely.” “Enstasy,” new-born child and feeds it a taste of ghee and honey.
which means “standing within one’s Self.” “Sameness; See: saμskâra.
contemplation; union, wholeness; completion, accom- saμskâras of childhood: From naming to education.
plishment.” Samâdhi is the state of true yoga, in which —nâmakara∫a: “Name-giving” and formal entry into
the meditator and the object of meditation are one. one or another sect of Hinduism, performed 11 to 41
Samâdhi is of two levels. The first is savikalpa samâdhi days after birth. The name is chosen according to as-
(“enstasy with form” or “seed”), identification or one- trology, preferably the name of a God or Goddess. At
ness with the essence of an object. Its highest form is this time, guardian devas are assigned to see the child
the realization of the primal substratum or pure con- through life. One who converts to or adopts Hindu-
sciousness, Satchidânanda. The second is nirvikalpa ism later in life would receive this same sacrament.
samâdhi (“enstasy without form” or “seed”), identifi- —annaprâßana: “Feeding.” The ceremony marking the
cation with the Self, in which all modes of conscious- first taking of solid food, held at about six months.
ness are transcended and Absolute Reality, Paraßiva, (Breast-feeding generally continues). —kar∫avedha:
beyond time, form and space, is experienced. This “Ear-piercing.” The piercing of both ears, for boys
brings in its aftermath a complete transformation and girls, and the inserting of gold earrings, held
of consciousness. Note that samâdhi differs from sa- during the first, third or fifth year. —chû∂âkara∫a:
myama. See: God Realization, ku∫∂alinî, Paraßiva, râja “Head-shaving.” The shaving of the head, for boys
yoga, samyama, Satchidânanda, Self Realization, trance. and girls, between the 31st day and the fourth year.
samayam: rkak; “Religion.” —vidyârambha: Marks the beginning of formal edu-
sampradâya: –Ä ¥ ˘ Æ Ÿæ “Tradition,” “transmission;” a cation. The boy or girl ceremoniously writes his/her
philosophical or religious doctrine or lineage. A liv- first letter of the alphabet in a tray of uncooked rice.
ing stream of tradition or theology within Hinduism, —upanayana: Given to boys at about 12 years of age,
passed on by oral training and initiation. The term marks the beginning of the period of brahmacharya
derives from the verb sampradâ, meaning “to give out,” and formal study of scripture and sacred lore, usually
“render,” grant, bestow or confer; to hand down by tra- with an âchârya or guru. —samâvartana: Marks the
dition; to bequeath. end of formal religious study. See: saμskâra.
saμsâra: –Ä–Ÿ¿ “Flow.” The phenomenal world. Trans- saμskâras of adulthood: From coming-of-age to mar-
migratory existence, fraught with impermanence and riage. —®itukâla: “Fit or proper season.” Time of
change. The cycle of birth, death and rebirth; the to- menses. A home blessing marking the coming of age
tal pattern of successive earthly lives experienced by for girls. —keßânta: Marking a boy’s first beard-shav-
a soul. A term similar to punarjanma (reincarnation), ing, at about 16 years. Both of the above are home
but with broader connotations. See: evolution of the ceremonies in which the young ones are reminded
soul, karma, reincarnation. of their brahmacharya, given new clothes and jewelry
saμskâra: –ė響 “Impression, activator; sanctification, and joyously admitted into the adult community as
preparation.” 1) The imprints left on the subconscious young adults. —nißchitârtha “Settlement of aim.”
mind by experience (from this or previous lives), Also called vâgdâna, “word-giving.” A formal engage-
which then color all of life, one’s nature, responses, ment or betrothal ceremony in which a couple pledge
states of mind, etc. 2) A sacrament or rite done to themselves to one another, exchanging rings and other
mark a significant transition of life, such as name-giv- gifts. —vivâha: Marriage.” An elaborate and joyous
ing, first feeding, commencement of learning, coming ceremony performed in presence of God and Gods,
of age and marriage. See: mind (five states), sacrament. in which the homa fire is central. To conclude the cer-
saμskâras of birth: From the rite of conception to the emony, the couple take seven steps to the Northeast
blessings of the new-born child. —garbhâdhâna: as the groom recites: “One step for vigor, two steps for
“Womb-placing.” Rite of conception, where physical vitality, three steps for prosperity, four steps for hap-
union is consecrated with the intent of bringing into piness, five steps for cattle, six steps for seasons, seven
physical birth an advanced soul. —punsavana: “Male steps for friendship. To me be devoted (Hiranyakeßi
rite; bringing forth a male.” A rite performed during G®ihya Sûtras 1.6.21.2. ve).” See: saμskâra.
the third month of pregnancy consisting of prayers saμskâras of later life: —vânaprastha âßrama: Age 48
for a son and for the well-being of mother and child. marks the entrance into the elder advisor stage, cel-
A custom, found in all societies, based on the need for ebrated in some communities by special ceremony.
men to defend the country, run the family business —sannyâsa âßrama vrata: The advent of withdrawal
and support the parents in old age. The need for male from social duties and responsibilities at age 72 is
children in such societies is also based on the fact that sometimes ritually acknowledged (different from san-
women outlive men and leave the family to join their nyâsa dîkshâ). See: sannyâsa dharma. —antyesh†i: The
husband’s family. —sîmantonnayana: “Hair-part- various funeral rites performed to guide the soul in
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its transition to inner worlds, including preparation âtura. Vidvat (“knowing; wise”) sannyâsa is the spon-
of the body, cremation, bone-gathering, dispersal of taneous withdrawal from the world in search for Self
ashes, home purification. See: cremation, death, ßrâd- Realization which results from karma and tendencies
dha, saμskâra, transition. developed in a previous life. Vividishâ (“discriminat-
samyama: –Ωæº “Constraint.” Continuous meditation ing”) sannyâsa is renunciation to satisfy a yearning for
on a single concept to gain revelation on a particular the Self developed through scriptural study and prac-
subject or area of consciousness. As explained by Sage tice. Mârka†a sannyâsa is taking refuge in sannyâsa as a
Patanjali, samyama consists of dhâranâ, dhyâna and result of great sorrow, disappointment or misfortune
samâdhi. See: dhâra∫a, dhyâna, râja yoga, samâdhi. in worldly pursuits. (Mârka†a means “monkey-like,”
Sanâtana Dharma: –≤Ÿ™≤∞º@ “Eternal religion” or “Ev- perhaps implying the analogy of a monkey clinging
erlasting path.” It is a traditional designation for the to its mother.) Åtura (“suffering or sick”) sannyâsa
Hindu religion. See: Hinduism. is entering into sannyâsa upon one’s deathbed, real-
sañchita karma: –⁄ZŸ™éº@ “Accumulated action.” The izing that there is no longer hope in life. See: sannyâsa
accumulated consequence of an individual’s actions dharma, sannyâsa dîkshâ.
in this and past lives. See: karma. sannyâsa dharma: –~≥柖∞º@ “Renunciate virtue.” The
sanctum sanctorum: “Holy of holies.” Garbhag®iha. life, way and traditions of those who have irrevocably
The most sacred part of a temple, usually a cave-like renounced prerogatives and obligations of the house-
stone chamber, in which the main icon is installed. holder, including personal property, wealth, ambitions,
See: temple. social position and family ties, in favor of the full-time
Íâ∫∂ilya Upanishad: ÀŸ⁄©•≈æ Ü¥⁄≤ŒÆÍ Belongs to the monastic quest for divine awakening, Self Realization
Atharva Veda. Discusses eight forms of yoga, restraints, and spiritual upliftment of humanity. See: sannyâsa,
observances, breath control, meditation and the na- sannyâsa dîkshâ, sannyâsin.
ture of Truth. sannyâsa dîkshâ: –~≥柖Ƥ’Ÿ “Renunciate initiation.”
saˆga: –óÓ “Association; fellowship.” (Tamil: Saˆgam) This dîkshâ is a formal rite, or less often an informal
Coming together in a group, especially for religious blessing, ushering the devotee into renunciate mo-
purposes. nasticism, binding him for life to certain vows which
Íaˆkara: ÀóÏ¿ “Conferring happiness; propitious.” An include chastity, poverty and obedience, and direct-
epithet of Íiva. ing him on the path to Self Realization. See: sannyâsa
Sankara (Íaˆkara), Adi: ÀóÏ¿ One of Hinduism’s most dharma.
extraordinary monks (788-820) and pre-eminent guru sannyâsin: –~≥æŸ⁄–≤Î “Renouncer.” One who has taken
of the Smârta Sampradâya. He is noted for his monis- sannyâsa dîkshâ. A Hindu monk, swâmî, and one of
tic philosophy of Advaita Vedânta and his many scrip- a world brotherhood (or holy order) of sannyâsins.
tural commentaries. See: Advaita Siddhânta, Vedânta. Some are wanderers and others live in monasteries.
San Mârga: –≥ºŸí@ “True path.” The straight spiritual See: sannyâsa, sannyâsa dharma, sannyâsa dîkshâ,
path leading to the ultimate goal, Self Realization, swâmî.
without detouring into unnecessary psychic explora- Sanskrit (Saμsk®ita): –Ä—é‚™ “Well-made;” “refined,”
tion or pointless development of siddhis. See: pâda, “perfected.” The classical sacerdotal language of ancient
sâdhana mârga. India, considered a pure vehicle for communication
San Marga Sanctuary: A meditation tîrtha at the foot with the celestial worlds. It is the primary language
of the extinct volcano, Mount Waialeale, on Hawaii’s in which Hindu scriptures are written, including the
Garden Island, Kauai. Paths lead visitors to the sacred Vedas and Ågamas. Employed today as a liturgical, lit-
Wailua River, then up stone stairs to the Chola-style erary and scholarly language, but no longer used as a
white-granite Iraivan Temple, hand-carved in Banga- spoken vernacular.
lore, India. In the sanctum sanctorum, the Supreme ßânti: ÀŸ⁄≥™ “Peace.”
God, Íiva (Parameßvara-Parâßakti-Paraßiva), will be Íânti Mantra: ÀŸ⁄≥™ º≥& “Peace chant.” So that each
enshrined as a massive 700-pound, single-pointed gathering of devotees is harmonious and productive,
earthkeeper quartz crystal. San Marga Sanctuary, especially sessions of teacher and student, this mantra
founded in 1970, is among many public services of from the Taittirîya Upanishad (2.1.1) is recited at the
Saiva Siddhanta Church. outset to invoke peace, clarity and divine blessings,
sânnidhya: –Ÿ⁄≤Ù±æ “(Divine) presence; nearness, prox- thus dispelling all potential enmity or confusion. It
imity.” The radiance and blessed presence of ßakti is recited again at the end as a closing benediction.
within and around a temple or a holy person. santosha: –≥™ËŒ “Contentment.” See: yama-niyama.
sannyâsa: –~ ≥ 柖 “Renunciation.” “Throwing down” sapta ®ishis: –Pà⁄Œ Seven inner-plane masters who
or “abandoning.” Sannyâsa is the repudiation of the help guide the karmas of mankind.
dharma, including the obligations and duties, of the sârî: –Ÿ¿¤ (Hindi: –Ÿ•˛¤) The traditional outer garment
householder and the assumption of the even more of Hindu women, consisting of a long, unstitched
demanding dharma of the renunciate. The ancient piece of cloth, usually colorful cotton or silk, wrapped
ßâstras recognize four justifiable motivations for en- around the body, forming an ankle-length skirt, and
tering into sannyâsa: vidvat, vividishâ, mârka†a and around the bosom and over the shoulder.
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sarvabhûta: –Δ@∫›™ “All living beings.” seer: A wise person who sees beyond the limits of or-
sarvada: –Δ@Æ “For all times.” dinary perception.
ßâstra: ÀŸ—& “Sacred script; teaching.” 1) Any religious Self (Self God): God Íiva’s perfection of Absolute Real-
or philosophical treatise, or body of writings. 2) A de- ity, Paraßiva—That which abides at the core of every
partment of knowledge, a science. soul. See: Paramâtman, Paraßiva.
sat: –™Î “True, existing, good; reality, existence, truth.” Self Realization: Direct knowing of the Self God, Paraßi-
See: Satchidânanda. va. Self Realization is known in Sanskrit as nirvikalpa
Satchidânanda (Sachchidânanda): –⁄cÆŸ≤≥Æ “Exis- samâdhi; “enstasy without form or seed;” the ultimate
tence-consciousness-bliss.” A synonym for Parâßakti. spiritual attainment (also called asamprajñata samâ-
Lord Íiva’s Divine Mind and simultaneously the pure dhi). Esoterically, this state is attained when the mystic
superconscious mind of each individual soul. Perfect ku∫∂alinî force pierces through the sahasrâra chakra
love and omniscient, omnipotent consciousness, the at the crown of the head. This transcendence of all
fountainhead of all existence, yet containing and per- modes of human consciousness brings the realization
meating all existence. Also called pure consciousness, or “nonexperience” of That which exists beyond the
pure form, substratum of existence, and more. One mind, beyond time, form and space. But even to as-
of the goals of the meditator or yogî is to experience sign a name to Paraßiva, or to its realization is to name
the natural state of the mind, Satchidânanda, subdu- that which cannot be named. In fact, it is “experienced”
ing the v®ittis through yogic practices. See: Parâßakti. only in its aftermath as a change in perspective, a per-
satguru (sadguru): –ØÓ¡ ‹ “True weighty one.” A spiritual manent transformation, and as an intuitive familiar-
preceptor of the highest attainment and authority— ity with the Truth that surpasses understanding. See:
one who has realized the ultimate Truth, Paraßiva, God Realization, liberation, ku∫∂alinî, Paraßiva, râja
through nirvikalpa samâdhi—a jîvanmukta able to yoga, samâdhi.
lead others securely along the spiritual path. He is al- self-effacement: Modest, retiring behavior; giving all
ways a sannyâsin, an unmarried renunciate. All Hindu credit to God, preceptor and other persons and not
denominations teach that the grace and guidance of accepting praise for one’s accomplishments.
a living satguru is a necessity for Self Realization. He self-effulgent: Shining brilliantly by itself.
is recognized and revered as the embodiment of God, Semitic religions: The three faiths—Judaism, Islam and
Sadâßiva, the source of grace and of liberation. See: Christianity—that trace their origins to Abraham. See:
guru bhakti, guru, guru-ßishya system. Abrahamic.
satsaˆga: –´–~í Gathering in the company of good souls. sevâ: –‰ΔŸ “Service.” Karma yoga. An integral part of the
sattvic: Of, or relating to the sattva gu∫a, the quality of spiritual path, where the aspirant strives to serve with-
goodness or purity. See: gu∫a. out thought of reward or personal gain. The central
satya: –´æ “Truthfulness.” See: yama-niyama. practice of the charyâ pâda. See: yoga.
Sat Yuga (Satya Yuga): –™Î æ‹ í “Age of Truth,” also seval: nrty; The large, red, fighting rooster (kukku†a in
called K®itâ, “accomplished, good, cultivated, kind Sanskrit) that adorns Lord Murugan’s flag, heralding
action; the winning die cast of four dots.” The first the dawn of wisdom and the conquest of the forces of
in the repetitive cycle of yugas, lasting 1,728,000 years, ignorance. See: Kârttikeya.
representing the brightest time, when the full light of sexuality: Hinduism has a healthy, unrepressed out-
the Central Sun permeates Earth. See: yuga. look on human sexuality, and sexual pleasure is part
savikalpa samâdhi: –⁄Δé≈¥–ºŸ⁄∞ “Enstasy with form” of kâma, one of the four legitimate goals of life. On
or “seed.” See: râja yoga, samâdhi. matters such as birth control, sterilization, mastur-
scripture (scriptural): “A writing.” A sacred text or holy bation, homosexuality, bisexuality, petting and po-
book(s) authoritative for a given sect or religion. See: lygamy, Hindu scripture is tolerantly silent, neither
ßâstra, sm®iti, ßruti. calling them sins nor encouraging their practice, nei-
Second World: The astral or subtle plane. Here the soul ther condemning nor condoning. The two important
continues its activities in the astral body during sleep exceptions are adultery and abortion, both of which
and after the physical body dies. It is the in-between are considered to carry heavy karmic implications for
world which includes the Devaloka and the Narakalo- this and future births. See: celibacy, dissipation, odic
ka. The Second world exists “within” the First World force, ojas, tejas, transmutation.
or physical plane. See: three worlds. shaman: A priest of certain tribal societies who acts as
sect: A group of adherents who form a smaller associa- a medium between the visible world and an invisible
tion withing a larger (often religious) body. A religious spirit worlds. See: Shamanism.
denomination. shamanism (shamanic): From a Siberian tribal word,
sectarian: Narrow adherence to the beliefs of a specific akin to the Sanskrit ßrama∫a, “ascetic,” akin to ßram,
sect, especially in the sense that all other sects are in- meaning “to exert.” The religion of certain indige-
correct or incomplete. nous peoples of Northeast Asia, based on the belief in
secular: Not sacred or religious; temporal or worldly. good and evil spirits who can be contacted and influ-
seed karma: Dormant or anârabdha karma. All past ac- enced by priests, or shamans, generally during a state
tions which have not yet sprouted. See: karma. of altered consciousness or trance. Also descriptive of
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many of the world’s native, tribal faiths, and of vari- juxtaposed with the term Vedânta, it refers to the
ous groups that today carry forward the practices and daily theistic practices of religion, as opposed to the
traditions of shamanism to maximize human abilities monistic, meditative aspects; though Íaiva Siddhânta
of mind and spirit for healing and problem-solving. encompasses both theism and monism, Vedânta and
sha†ko∫a: ŒTÏË® “Six-pointed star,” formed by two in- Siddhânta, Vedas and Ågamas.
terlocking triangles, the upper one representing Íiva’s siddhânta ßrava∫a (or ßrâva∫a): ⁄–ØÛŸ≥™Ã˘Δ® “Scrip-
transcendent Being, and the lower one Íiva’s manifest tural audition.” See: yama-niyama.
energy, Íakti. The sha†ko∫a is part of Lord Kârttikeya’s siddhi: ⁄–⁄ØÛ “Power, accomplishment; perfection.” Tra-
yantra. See: Ardhanârîßvara, Kârttikeya. ditionally refers to extraordinary powers of the soul,
sheath: A covering or receptacle, such as the husk sur- especially psychic powers developed through consis-
rounding a grain of rice. In Sanskrit, it is koßa, philo- tent meditation and deliberate, yogic sâdhana. The
sophically the bodily envelopes of the soul. See: koßa, eight classical siddhis are: 1) animâ: to be as small as an
soul, subtle body. atom; 2) mahimâ: to become infinitely large; 3) laghi-
Shintoism: The indigenous religion of Japan, based on mâ: super-lightness, levitation; 4) prâpti: pervasive-
the sacred power or God, kami, within a variety of ness, extension, to be anywhere at will; 5) prakâmya:
forms, mainly of nature. fulfillment of desires; 6) vashitva: control of natural
Shûm-Tyêîf: A Nâtha mystical language of meditation forces; 7) ißititva: supremacy over nature; 8) kâma-
revealed in Switzerland in 1968 by Sivaya Subramuni- avasayitva: complete satisfaction.
yaswami. (Pronounced shoom-tyay-eef.) Its primary Sikhism: “Discipleship.” Religion of nine million mem-
alphabet looks like this: bers founded in India about 500 years ago by the saint
Guru Nânak. A reformist faith which rejects idolatry
1234567890-=qwerty and the caste system, its holy book is the Ådi Granth,
Shûm perspectives: The four perspectives of the mind: and main holy center is the Golden Temple of Am-
—moolîf: intellectual/philosophical; —shûmîf: indi- ritsar.
vidual awareness; —simnîf: scientific/intellectual; ßilpi: ⁄Ài⁄≈¥ “Craftsman.” A stone worker or other tra-
—dîfî: space travel, devas and Gods, inner communi- ditional Hindu artrisan.
cation. See: defee, moolef, shûmef, simnef. silver cord: The astral substance which connects the
shûmef: (Shûm) The perspective of the mind as a solid physical body to the astral body which is disconnected
and individual awareness traveling from one area of at the time of death of the physical body.
the mind to another. Pronounced shoom-eef. See: simnef: (Shûm) The perspective of the mind in its sci-
Shûm, Shûm perspectives. entific, intellectual state. Pronounced sim-neef. See:
shun: To avoid or keep away from consistently. Shun- Shûm, Shûm perspectives.
ning detractors or adversaries is courteously avoid- sin: Intentional transgression of divine law. Akin to the
ing interaction and karmic entanglement with those Latin sons, “guilty.” Hinduism does not view sin as a
who have shown by their actions that such interaction crime against God, but as an act against dharma—
would not be beneficial or welcome. Shunning is a moral order—and one’s own self. See: karma.
form of protection through nonengagement, building ßishya: ⁄Àœæ “A pupil” or “disciple,” especially one who
a “friendly, firm wall” while still remaining cordial. has proven himself and has formally been accepted
siddha: ⁄–ØÛ A “perfected one’’ or accomplished yogî, a by a guru.
person of great spiritual attainment or powers. See: Íiva: ⁄ÀΔ The “Auspicious,” “Gracious,” or “Kindly one.”
siddhi. Supreme Being of the Íaivite religion. God Íiva is All
siddha yoga: ⁄–ØÛæËí “Yoga of perfected attainment, or and in all, simultaneously the creator and the cre-
of supernatural powers.” 1) A term used in the Tiru- ation, both immanent and transcendent. As personal
mantiram and other Íaiva scriptures to describe the Deity, He is Creator, Preserver and Destroyer. He is
yoga which is the way of life of adepts after attaining a one Being, perhaps best understood in three per-
of Paraßiva. Siddha yoga involves the development of fections: Parameßvara (Primal Soul), Parâßakti (Pure
magical or mystical powers, or siddhis, such as the Consciousness) and Paraßiva (Absolute Reality). See:
eight classical powers. It is a highly advanced yoga Parameßvara, Parâßakti, Paraßiva, Na†arâja, Íaivism,
which seeks profound transformation of body, mind Satchidânanda.
and emotions and the ability to live in a flawless state Íiva consciousness: Íivachaitanya. A broad term nam-
of God Consciousness. 2) The highly accomplished ing the experience or state of being conscious of Íiva
practices of certain alchemists. See: siddha yogî, siddhi. in a multitude of ways. See: jñâna, mind (five states).
siddha yogî: ⁄–ØÛæËí¤ “Yogî of perfection.” A perfected Íivâchârya: ⁄ÀΔŸòŸæ@ The hereditary priests of the
one, adept, a realized being who is the embodiment Íaiva Siddhânta tradition. The title of Ådißaiva Brâh-
of the most profound yogic states and has attained mins. An Ådißaiva priest who has received the nec-
magical or mystical powers. See: siddha yoga, siddhi. essary training and dîkshâs to perform public Íiva
siddhânta: ⁄–ØÛŸ≥™ “Final attainments” or “conclusions.” temple rites known as Ågamic nitya parârtha pûjâ. A
1) Siddhânta refers to ultimate understanding arrived fully qualified Íivâchârya is also known as archaka.
at in any given field of knowledge. 2) Especially when Íivâchârya, too, names the family clan of this priestly
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tradition. See: brâhmin. are regarded as complementary to and a means to

Íivaliˆga: ⁄ÀΔ⁄ƒóÓ “Mark,” “Token” or “Sign of Íiva.” understanding the Vedas. Smârtas adhere to San-
The most prevalent emblem of Íiva, found in virtually kara’s view that all Gods are but various depictions
all Íiva temples. A rounded, elliptical, aniconic image, of Sagu∫a Brahman. Thus, Smârtas are avowedly
usually set on a circular base, or pî†ha. The Íivaliˆga eclectic, worshiping all the Gods and discouraging
is the simplest and most ancient symbol of Íiva, espe- sectarianism. The Smârta system of worship, called
cially of Paraßiva, God beyond all forms and qualities. pañchâyatana pûjâ, reinforces this outlook by includ-
The pî†ha represents Parâßakti, the manifesting power ing the major Deity of each primary Hindu sect of
of God. Liˆgas are usually of stone (either carved or ancient days: Ga∫eßa, Sûrya, Vish∫u, Íiva and Íakti. In
naturally existing, svayambhû, such as shaped by a order to encompass a sixth important lineage, Sankara
swift-flowing river), but may also be of metal, pre- recommended the addition of a sixth Deity, Kumâra.
cious gems, crystal, wood, earth or transitory materi- Thus he was proclaimed Sha∫mata Sthapanâchârya,
als such as ice. See: Íaivism. founder of the six-fold system. One among the six
Íivaloka: ⁄ÀΔƒËé “Realm of Íiva.” See: loka. is generally chosen as the devotee’s preferred Deity,
Íivaness: Quality of being Íiva or like Íiva, especially Ish†a Devatâ. For spiritual authority, Smârtas look
sharing in His divine state of consciousness. See: Íiva to the regional monasteries established across India
consciousness. by Sankara, and to their pontiffs. Within Smârtism
Íivarâtri: ⁄ÀΔ¿Ÿ⁄& “Night of Íiva.” See: Mahâßivarâtri. three primary religious approaches are distinguished:
Íiva-Íakti: ⁄ÀΔÀ⁄# Father-Mother God, both imma- ritualistic, devotional and philosophical. See: Sankara.
nent and transcendent. A name for God Íiva encom- smidgen: A tiny bit, small piece or quantity.
passing His unmanifest Being and manifest energy. sm®iti: —º‡⁄™ That which is “remembered;” the tradi-
See: Parameßvara, Primal Soul, Íiva. tion. Hinduism’s nonrevealed, secondary but deeply
Íivasambandha: ⁄ÀΔ–Ä∏≥∞ “Bound together in love revered scriptures, derived from man’s insight and
of Íiva.” The underlying unity and harmony among experience. Sm®iti speaks of secular matters—science,
devotees of Íiva, irrespective of caste or creed. law, history, agriculture, etc.—as well as spiritual lore,
Sivathondar: rptbjhz:lh; “Servant of Íiva.” Conveys ranging from day-to-day rules and regulations to
the same mystic meaning as Sivanadiyar, denoting a superconscious outpourings. From the vast body of
devotee who regularly performs actions dedicated to sacred literature, ßâstra, each sect and school claims
God Íiva; selfless work in service to others. See: karma its own preferred texts as secondary scripture, e.g., the
yoga, Sivathondu. Râmâya∫a of Vaish∫avism and Smârtism, or the Tiru-
Sivathondu: rptbjhz;L “Service to Íiva.” Akin to the murai of Íaiva Siddhânta. Thus, the selection of sm®iti
concept of karma yoga. See: karma yoga. varies widely from one sect and lineage to another.
Íivâya Nama˙: ⁄ÀΔŸæ ≤ºÅ “Adoration to Íiva.” Alter- See: Mahâbhârata, Tirumurai.
nate form of Nama˙ Íivâya. See: Nama˙ Íivâya. socialism: A system of government in which private
Skanda: —é≥Æ “Quicksilver; leaping one.” One of Lord ownership and production is superceded by commu-
Kârttikeya’s oldest names, and His form as scarlet- nity or state control.
hued warrior God. See: Kârttikeya. Socrates: Greek philosopher and teacher (470-399 bce).
Skanda Shash†hî: —é≥ÆŒœ§¤ A six-day festival in His method of question and answer is expressed in the
October-November celebrating Lord Kârttikeya’s, or dialogues of Plato, his foremost student.
Skanda’s, victory over the forces of darkness. solar plexus: A major physical and psychic nerve cen-
ßloka: ÕƒËé A verse, phrase, proverb or hymn of praise, ter of the body, located physically at the base of the
usually composed in a specified meter. Especially a sternum.
verse of two lines, each of sixteen syllables. Íloka is the soul: The real being of man, as distinguished from body,
primary verse form of the Sanskrit epics, Râmâya∫a mind and emotions. The soul—known as âtman or
and Mahâbhârata. purusha—is the sum of its two aspects, the form or
slothful: Lazy, disinterested in working or exerting body of the soul and the essence of the soul (though
oneself. many texts use the word soul to refer to the essence
Smârta: —ºŸ™@ “Of or related to sm®iti,” the secondary only). —essence or nucleus of the soul: Man’s inner-
Hindu scriptures. See: Smârtism, sm®iti. most and unchanging being—Pure Consciousness
Smârtism: —ºŸ™@ “Sect based on the secondary scrip- (Parâßakti or Satchidânanda) and Absolute Reality
tures (sm®iti).” The most liberal of the four major (Paraßiva). This essence was never created, does not
denominations of Hinduism, an ancient Vedic brâh- change or evolve and is eternally identical with God
minical tradition (ca 700 bce) which from the 9th Íiva’s perfections of Parâßakti and Paraßiva.
century onward was guided and deeply influenced soul body: ânandamaya koßa (“sheath of bliss”), also
by the Advaita Vedânta teachings of the reformist referred to as the “causal body” (kâra∫a ßarîra), “in-
Adi Sankara. Its adherents rely mainly on the classi- nermost sheath” and “body of light.” Body of the
cal sm®iti literature, especially the Itihâsas (Râmâyana soul, or soul body, names the soul’s manifest nature
and Mahâbhârata, the latter of which includes the as an individual being—an effulgent, human-like
Bhagavad Gîtâ), Purâ∫as and Dharma Íâstras. These form composed of light (quantums). The soul form
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evolves as its consciousness evolves, becoming more means “restraint; religious meditation.” Thus, Sub-
and more refined until finally it is the same intensity ramuniya means a self-restrained soul who remains
or refinement as the Primal Soul, Parameßvara. See: silent or, when he speaks, speaks out from intuition.
âtman, evolution of the soul, koßa, Parâßakti, Paraßiva, substratum: “Layer underneath.” In philosophy, the
purusha, Satchidânanda, spiritual unfoldment. substance or underlying force which is the founda-
spiritual unfoldment: Adhyâtma vikâsa. The unfold- tion of any and all manifestation: Satchidânanda. See:
ment of the spirit, the inherent, divine soul of man. Parâßakti, Satchidânanda.
The very gradual expansion of consciousness as subsubconscious mind: Vâsanâ chitta (“mind of sub-
ku∫∂alinî ßakti slowly rises through the sushum∫â. liminal traits”). The area of the subconscious mind
The term spiritual unfoldment indicates this slow, im- formed when two thoughts or experiences of the same
perceptible process, likened to a lotus flower’s emerg- rate of intensity are sent into the subconscious at dif-
ing from bud to effulgent beauty. When philosophi- ferent times and, intermingling, give rise to a new and
cal training and sâdhana is complete, the ku∫∂alinî totally different rate of vibration. This subconscious
rises safely and imperceptively, without jerks, twitches, formation later causes the external mind to react to
tears or hot flashes. Brings greater willpower, compas- situations according to these accumulated vibrations,
sion and perceptive qualities. be they positive, negative or mixed.
ßrâddha: Ã˘ŸØÛ Relating to commemorative ceremonies subsuperconscious mind: Anukâra∫a chitta. See:
for the deceased, held one week, one month after mind.
death, and annually thereafter, according to tradition. subtle bodies: The various aspects of man: pra∫ic, astral,
See: saμskâras of later life. mental and the innermost body of the soul.
ßruti: Ã˘‹⁄™ That which is “heard.” Hinduism’s revealed subtle body: Sûkshma ßarîra, the nonphysical, astral
scriptures, of supreme theological authority and spiri- body or vehicle in which the soul encases itself to
tual value. They are timeless teachings transmitted to function in the Antarloka, or subtle world. The subtle
®ishis, or seers, directly by God thousands of years ago. body includes the prâ∫ic, astral and mental sheaths
Íruti is thus said to be apaurusheya, “impersonal,” or if the soul is physically embodied. It consists of only
rather “suprahuman.” Íruti consists of the Vedas the astral and mental sheaths after death, when the
and the Ågamas, preserved through oral tradition prâ∫ic sheath disintegrates. And it consists of only the
and eventually written down in Sanskrit. Among the mental sheath when the astral sheath is dropped off
many sacred books of the Hindus, these two bodies of just before rebirth or when higher evolutionary planes
knowledge are held in the highest esteem. See: Ågama, are entered. See: jîva, koßa.
sm®iti, Veda. ßûdra: À›Æ˙ “Worker, servant.” See: caste.
stimulants: Drugs that temporarily arouse or acceler- ßuddha: À‹ØÛ “Pure.”
ate physiological or organic activity. Certain drugs are ßuddha avasthâ: À‹ØÛ ÇΔ—¨Ÿ “Stage of purity.” (Tamil:
capable of stimulating psychic experiences, often with avasthai.) In Íaiva Siddhânta, the last of three stages of
unpleasant consequences. evolution, in which the soul is immersed in Íiva. Self
strî dharma: —&¤∞º@ “Womanly conduct.” See: dharma. Realization having been attained, the mental body is
subconscious mind: Saμskâra chitta. See: conscience, purified and thus reflects the divine soul nature, Íiva’s
mind (five states). nature, more than in the kevala or sakala state. Now
ßubha: À‹∫ “Auspicious,” “splendid,” “bright.” the soul continues to unfold through the stages of real-
ßubha muhûrta: À‹∫º‹“›™@ “Auspicious time.” A range of ization, and ultimately merges back into its source, the
time when specified activities are most likely to thrive Primal Soul. See: avasthâ, evolution of the soul, kevala
and succeed. avasthâ, sakala avasthâ, vißvagrâsa.
sublimate: To cause an instinctual impulse to manifest Íuddha Íaiva Siddhânta: À‹ØÛ ÀÊΔ⁄–ØÛŸ≥™ “Pure Íaiva
itself in a higher expression rather than a lower form. Siddhânta,” a term first used by Tirumular in the Ti-
Coined after the property of some substances to trans- rumantiram to describe his monistic Íaiva Siddhânta
form themselves directly from a solid to a gas without and distinguish it from pluralistic Siddhânta and
becoming liquid. See: transmutation. other forms of Siddhânta that do not encompass the
submission: Yielding to the power of another. Compli- ultimate monism of Vedânta.
ance; meekness. Sufism: A mystical Islamic tradition in which Muslims
Subramuniyaswami: Rg;gpuKdpaRthkp Current and seek to find the truth of divine love and knowledge
162nd satguru (1927–) of the Nandinâtha Sampradâya’s through direct personal experience.
Kailâsa Paramparâ. He was ordained Sivaya Subramu- sugar, processed: In Living with Íiva, a number of
niyaswami by Sage Yogaswami on the full-moon day forms of sucrose processed from sugar cane. These
of May 12, 1949, in Jaffna, Sri Lanka, at 6:21 pm. This include “white sugar” (the most refined form of su-
was just days after he had attained nirvikalpa samâ- crose), confectioner’s sugar (powdered white sugar)
dhi in the caves of Jalani. The name Subramuniya is a and brown sugar (white sugar with molasses added).
Tamil spelling of the Sanskrit Íubhramunya (not to be Highly refined cane sugar is unhealthy because they
confused with Subrama∫ya). It is formed from ßubhra are stripped of all of the natural vitamins and miner-
meaning “light; intuition,” and muni, “silent sage.” Ya als which are helpful in the digestion of sugars, caus-
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ing the body to rob the same vitamins and minerals title for a Hindu monk, usually a sannyâsin, an ini-
from the body’s stores to assimilate them. Less refined tiated, orange-robed renunciate, dedicated wholly
cane sugar products, such as raw sugar, turbinado and to religious life. As a sign of respect, the term swâmî
sucanat (dried cane juice and molasses), make health- is sometimes applied more broadly to include non-
ier alternatives. More nutritious sweeteners are maple monastics dedicated to spiritual work. See: monk, san-
syrup, date sugar (pulverized dried dates), honey, bar- nyâsa dharma, sannyâsin.
ley malt, rice syrup, jaggery and molasses. swastika (svastika): —Δ⁄—™é “It is well.” The ancient
sukarma: –‹éº@ See: karma. Hindu symbol of auspiciousness and good fortune,
ßukladâna: À‹ è ƒÆŸ≤ “White, bright or pure gifts.” representing the sun. The right-angled arms of the
Funds that are given freely and were earned through swastika denote the indirect way in which Divinity is
dharmic means, and thus unsullied by the negative reached—through intuition and not by intellect. It
karmic taint of adharmic activities. See: yama-niyama. has been a prominent icon in many cultures.
superconscious mind: Kâra∫a chitta. See: mind (five sympathetic nervous system: The part of the auto-
states), mind (three phases), Satchidânanda. nomic nervous system originating in the thoracic
supernatural: Beyond or transcending the natural laws and lumbar regions of the spinal cord that in gen-
of the physical cosmos. Of or relating to an order of eral inhibits or opposes the physiological effects of
existence beyond the visible universe, referring to the parasympathetic nervous system, as in tending to
events, agencies or knowledge superseding or mys- reduce digestive secretions, speeding up the heart, and
tically explaining the laws of nature. See: mysticism, contracting blood vessels.
shamanism. syncretism: The combination of different beliefs or
superstition: A belief or practice not supported by ex- practices.
perience or reason. synthesis: Here: the application of reason to reach a
supplicate (supplication): To ask for, beg humbly. To particular conclusion from general concepts; also the
earnestly pray for. combination of ideas to form a new idea.
suppressed: Subdued; ended forcibly. Kept from being
revealed; inhibited. Deliberately excluded from the tai chi chuan: An ancient Chinese
mind, such as with unacceptable desires or thoughts. system of slow, graceful, meditative,
suppression: Desires, thoughts or memories conscious- sequential movements. Many of the
ly excluded from the mind. Related to repression, in movements are originally derived
which similar desires, etc., are excluded, but on a com- from the martial arts, so in certain
pletely subconscious level. systems the combat aspect is a central
Supreme God: Highest God, the source or creator of all focus. Tai chi, closely associated with acupuncture and
other Gods, beings and all manifestation. founded in the context of Taoism, fosters the circula-
sushum∫â nâ∂î: –‹Œ‹Ω®Ÿ ≤Ÿ•¤ “Most gracious channel.” tion and control of chi, “vital energy,” within the body,
Central psychic nerve current within the spinal col- to enhance health and vitality, physical strength and
umn. See: ku∫∂alinî, nâ∂î, samâdhi. balance, and to foster a calm, tranquil mind.
sutala chakra: –‹™ƒ òé˚ “Great abyss.” Region of obses- tala: ™ƒ “Plane or world; level; base, bottom; abyss.”
sive jealousy and retaliation. The third chakra below Root of the name of the seven realms of lower con-
the mûlâdhâra, centered in the knees. Corresponds sciousness centered in the seven chakras below the
to the third astral netherworld beneath the Earth’s mûlâdhâra. See: chakra, hell, Naraka.
surface, called Saμhâta (“abandoned”) or Sutala. See: talâtala chakra: ™ƒŸ™ƒ òé˚ “Lower region.” The fourth
chakra, hell, Naraka. chakra below the mûlâdhâra, centered in the calves.
sûtra: –›& “Thread.” An aphoristic verse; the literary Region of chronic mental confusion and unreason-
style consisting of such maxims. From 500 bce, this able stubbornness. Corresponds to the fourth astral
style was widely adopted by Indian philosophical sys- netherworld beneath the Earth’s surface, called Tâmis-
tems and eventually employed in works on law, gram- ra (“darkness”) or Talâtala. This state of conscious-
mar, medicine, poetry, crafts, etc. Each sûtra is often ness is born of the sole motivation of self-preservation.
accompanied by a commentary called bhâshya and See: chakra, Naraka.
sometimes subcommentary called tika, vyakhyana or tamas(ic): ™º–Î “Force of inertia.” The quality of dense-
tippani. Through the media of short, concise, easily ness, inertia, contraction, resistance and dissolution.
memorized sûtras, vast amounts of knowledge were See: gu∫a.
preserved. Reciting relevant sûtra texts from memory taμbûrâ: ™Ä∏›¿Ÿ (Hindi) A long-necked, four-stringed
is a daily sâdhana in various Hindu arts and sciences. fretless lute that provides a drone accompaniment for
svâdhish†hâna: —ΔŸ⁄∞}Ÿ≤ “One’s own base.” See: chakra. a singer or instrumentalist.
svar∫aßarîra: —Δ®@ À ¿¤¿ The golden actinic body Tamil: jkpH; The ancient Dravidian language of the
formed after many experiences of Self Realization. Tamils, a Caucasoid people of South India and North-
See: vißvagrâsa. ern Sri Lanka, now living throughout the world. The
swâmî (svâmî): —ΔŸº¤ “Lord; owner; self-possessed.” official language of the state of Tamil Nadu, India.
He who knows or is master of himself. A respectful Tamil Nadu: jkpH; ehL State in South India, 50,000
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square miles, population 55 million. Land of count- macharya, control of the sexual energies by lifting the
less holy scriptures, saints, sages and over 40,000 mag- heat into the higher chakras. See: celibacy, ojas, tapas,
nificent temples, including Chidambaram, Madurai, transmutation.
Palani Hills and Râmeßvaram. temple: An edifice in a consecrated place dedicated
tâ∫∂ava: ™Ÿ©•Δ “Exuberant dance.” Any vigorous dance to, the worship of God or Gods. Hindus revere their
sequence performed by a male dancer. There are many temples as sacred, magical places in which the three
forms of tâ∫∂ava. Its prototype is Íiva’s dance of bliss, worlds most consciously commune—structures es-
ânanda tâ∫∂ava. The much softer feminine dance is pecially built and consecrated to channel the subtle
called lâsya, from lasa, “lively.” Dance in general is spiritual energies of inner-world beings. The temple’s
nartana. See: Na†arâja. psychic atmosphere is maintained through regular
tantra: ™≥& “Loom, methodology.” 1) Most generally, a worship ceremonies (pûjâ) invoking the Deity, who
synonym for ßâstra, “scripture.” 2) A synonym for the uses His installed image (mûrti) as a temporary body
Ågamic texts, especially those of the Íâkta faith, a class to bless those living on the earth plane. In Hinduism,
of Hindu scripture providing detailed instruction on the temple is the hub of virtually all aspects of social
all aspects of religion, mystic knowledge and science. and religious life. It may be referred to by the Sanskrit
The Tantras are also associated with the Íaiva tradi- terms mandira, devâlaya (or Íivâlaya, a Íiva temple),
tion. 3) A specific method, technique or spiritual prac- as well as by vernacular terms such as koyil (Tamil).
tice within the Íaiva and Íâkta traditions. For example, temptation: Something tempting, enticing or alluring.
prâ∫âyâma is a tantra. 4) Disciplines and techniques temptress: An alluring, enchanting woman.
with a strong emphasis on worship of the feminine That: When capitalized, this simple demonstrative pro-
force, sometimes involving sexual encounters, with noun refers uniquely to the Ultimate, Indescribable
the purported goal of transformation and union with or Nameless Absolute. The Self God, Paraßiva. It is the
the Divine. See: ku∫∂alinî, sushum∫â nâ∂î, tantrism. English equivalent of Tat, as in, Tat tvam asi, “You
tantric (tântrika): ™Ÿ⁄≥&é 1) Adjectival to qualify prac- are That!”
tices prescribed in the Tantra traditions. 2) Referring theistic: The belief that God exists as a real, conscious,
to the methods of directing the subtle masculine/fem- personal Supreme Being, creator and ruler of the uni-
inine, aggressive/passive energies that flow between verse. May also include belief in the Gods.
men and women. 3) Also names a practitioner of any Third World: Íivaloka,“Realm of Íiva.” The spiritual
of the Tantra traditions. 4) Tantra has today come to realm or causal plane of existence wherein Mâhadevas
commonly refer to sex-based spiritual practices devel- and highly evolved souls live in their own self-efful-
oped in Hinduism (known as “left-handed tantra”) gent forms. See: Íivaloka, three worlds, loka.
and in other faiths, including Bon, Tibetan Buddhism, thought form: Manifestations of astral matter, or odic
Taoism, Christianity, Judaism and the New Age. See: force, created within the aura of a person, which travel
Íâktism, ku∫∂alinî, râja yoga, tantra. through astral space, or odic force fields, from one
Taoism: A Chinese religion, based on the doctrines of destination to another. They have the power to create,
Lao-Tzu, founded 2,500 years ago, advocating simplic- preserve, protect and destroy. They can also be seen,
ity, selflessness and other virtues. Taoism, a potently just as auras can be seen. See: astral plane, aura, odic
mystical tradition, is concerned with man’s spiritual force, intellect.
level of being. Following is estimated at 50 million, three worlds: The three worlds of existence, triloka,
mostly in China and and other parts of Asia. are the primary hierarchical divisions of the cosmos.
tapas: ™¥–Î Also tapasya. “Warmth, heat,” hence psychic 1) Bhûloka: “Earth world,” the physical plane. 2) An-
energy, spiritual fervor or ardor. Austerity, asceticism, tarloka: “Inner” or “in-between world,” the subtle or
penance. State of accelerated unfoldment and work- astral plane. 3) Íivaloka: “World of Íiva,” and of the
ing with the forces through spiritual practices. A state Gods and highly evolved souls; the causal plane, also
of humble submission to the divine forces and sur- called Kâra∫aloka. See: chakra, Naraka.
render to the processes of inner purification which tilaka: ڪĎ Marks made on the forehead or the brow
occur almost automatically at certain stages. In the with clay, ashes or sandalwood paste as an indication
monastery tapas is administered and guided by the of Hindu sectarian affiliation.
guru. Denotes religious austerity, severe meditation, time-out: A period of removing oneself or another per-
penance, bodily mortification, special observances; son from a conflict to allow time to cool off. A tech-
connotes spiritual purification and transformation as nique of positive discipline for raising children with
a “fiery process” which “burns up” impurities, ego, il- love rather punishment. See: positive discipline.
lusions and past karmas that obstruct God Realization. tirodhâna ßakti: ⁄™¿Ë∞Ÿ≤À⁄# “Concealing power.” Veil-
tapasvin: ™¥⁄—Δ≤Î One who performs tapas or is in the ing grace, or God’s power to obscure the soul’s divine
state of tapas. nature. Tirodhâna ßakti is the particular energy of Íiva
tejas: ™‰ú–Î “Brilliance, fire, splendor.” Heat or fire, one that binds the three bonds of â∫ava, karma, mâyâ to
of the five elements—earth, water, fire, air, ether. Tejas the soul. It is a purposeful limiting of consciousness to
also names the glow of tapas in the shining expres- give the opportunity to the soul to grow and mature
sion of the tapasvin. Tejas is increased through brah- through experience of the world. See: evolution of the
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soul, grace. Navamî, Daßamî, Ekâdaßî, Dvâdaßî, Trayodaßî, Chat-

tîrthayâtrâ: ™¤¨@æŸ&Ÿ “Journey to a holy place.” Pilgrim- urdaßî, and lastly either Pûr∫imâ (full moon) or
age. See: pilgrimage. Amâvasyâ (new moon). These are sometimes prefixed
tiru: jpU “Sacred; holy.” The exact Tamil rendition of to indicate either the dark (k®ish∫a) fortnight—when
ßrî. Feminine equivalent is tirumati. the moon is waning—or the light (ßukla) fortnight—
Tirukural: jpUf;Fws; “Holy couplets.” A treasury of when the moon is waxing—e.g., Íukla-Navamî. Most
Hindu ethical insight and a literary masterpiece of the Hindu festivals are calculated according to the tithis.
Tamil language, written by Íaiva Saint Tiruvalluvar trance mediumship: In spiritualism, trance medium-
(ca 200 BCE) near Chennai. See: Tiruvalluvar. ship describes the phenomenon in which the medium
Tirumantiram: jpUke;jpuk; “Holy incantation.” The leaves the physical body, and a disincarnate being en-
Nandinåtha Sampradåya’s oldest Tamil scripture; ters or takes control of the body, often giving forth
written ca 200 BCE by Âishi Tirumular. It is the earliest verbal messages to others in attendance, as in a seance.
of the Tirumurai texts, and a vast storehouse of esoter- See: samâdhi.
ic yogic and tantric knowledge. It contains the mystical transcend: To go beyond one’s limitations, e.g., “to
essence of râja yoga and siddha yoga, and the funda- transcend one’s ego.” Philosophically, to go beyond
mental doctrines of the 28 Íaiva Siddhânta Ågamas, the limits of this world, or more profoundly, beyond
which in turn are the heritage of the ancient pre-his- time, form and space into the Absolute, the Self God.
toric traditions of Íaivism. See: Tirumurai, Tirumular. transcendent: Surpassing the limits of experience or
Tirumular: jpU|yh; An illustrious siddha yogî and ®ishi manifest form. In Íaiva Siddhånta, a quality of God
of the Nandinâtha Sampradâya’s Kailâsa Paramparâ Íiva as Absolute Reality, Paraßiva, the Self. Distin-
who came from the Himalayas (ca 200 bce) to Tamil guished from immanent. See: Paraßiva.
Nadu to compose the Tirumantiram. In this scrip- transference: Passing something from one place (or
ture he recorded the tenets of Íaivism in concise and state) to another.
precise verse form, based upon his own realizations transgress: To overstep or break a law or principle.
and the supreme authority of the Íaiva Ågamas and transition: Passing from one state, condition or place
the Vedas. Tirumular was a disciple of Maharishi to another. A synonym of death which implies, more
Nandinatha. See: Tirumantiram, Kailâsa Paramparâ, correctly, continuity of the individual rather than his
Vedânta. annihilation.
Tirumurai: jpUKiw “Holy script.” A twelve-book col- transmigration: Reincarnation, the repeated rebirth of
lection of hymns and writings of South Indian Íaivite the soul in a succession of human bodies.
saints, compiled by Saint Nambiyandar Nambi (ca transmutation: Change from one form to another. Here,
1000). changing or transforming the sexual/instinctive ener-
tiruvadi: jpUto The feet of the satguru or his holy gies into intellectual and spiritual ones. Transmuta-
sandals, known in Sanskrit as ßrî pâdukâ, worshiped tion means to reverse the forces that constantly flow
as the source of grace. The guru’s feet are especially from the sahasrâra downward into the mûlâdhâra. It
sacred, being the point of contact of the divine and is lifting the force of sexual impulses that would tend
physical spheres. See: pâdukâ. to manifest in visualization, longing for affection and
Tiruvalluvar: jpUts;Sth; “Holy weaver.” Tamil weaver sensual feelings, often leading to masturbation and
and householder saint (ca 200 bce) who wrote the loss of the sacred fluids. One exception for both men
classic Íaivite ethical scripture Tirukural. He lived and women is the occurrence of wet dreams, for here
with his wife, Vasuki, famed for her remarkable loy- the astral, psychic vitality of the actinodic into the ac-
alty and virtues, near modern-day Chennai. There a tinic energies rises as the odic fluids are released. How-
memorial park, the Valluvar Kottam, enshrining his ever, night emissions are to be controlled and may be
extraordinary verses in marble. See: Tirukural. minimized or eliminated by taking only liquid or light
tithe (tithing): In Sanskrit daßamâμßa, or makimai in foods in the evening. ¶Monks enhance transmutation
the Tamil tradition. The spiritual discipline, often a by not eating after high noon, not viewing pornogra-
vrata, of giving one tenth of one’s gainful and gifted phy, not mentally conjuring up sexually stimulating
income to a religious organization of one’s choice, images, never joking or talking about sexuality and,
thus sustaining spiritual education and upliftment of course, not flirting or interacting sensually with
on earth. Tithing is given not as an offering, but as women or men. If sexual energies are aroused or one
“God’s money.” has erred from his disciplines, he performs the ap-
tithi: ڪڬ A lunar day, approximately one-thirtieth of propriate penance (such as fasting) or tantra (such as
the time it takes the moon to orbit the earth. Because prâ∫âyâma) to correct the matter. The Tirumantiram
of their means of calculation (based on the difference (verse 1948) states, “If the sacred seed is retained, life
of the longitudinal angle between the position of sun does not ebb; great strength, energy, intelligence and
and the moon), tithis may vary in length. There are alertness: all these are attained.” See: actinic, celibacy,
15 tithis in each fortnight (half month). The names odic, ojas, tejas.
of the tithis are Prathamâ (new moon), Dvitîyâ, Tri- triko∫a: ⁄&éË® A triangle; symbol of God Íiva as Abso-
tîyâ, Chaturthî, Pañchamî, Shash†hî, Saptamî, Ash†amî, lute Reality. Also represents the element fire.
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triple bondage: See: mala, pâßa. of spiritual awakening and the constant renunciation
tripu∫∂ra: ⁄&¥‹©•˙ “Three marks.” The Íaivite sectarian of obstacles on the path to liberation. See: sannyâsa.
mark, consisting of three horizontal lines of vibhûti Vaish∫avism (Vaish∫ava): ΔÊœ®Δ One of the four major
(holy ash) on the brow, often with a dot (bindu) at religions, or denominations of Hinduism, represent-
the third eye. The three lines represent the soul’s three ing roughly half of the world’s one billion Hindus. It
bonds: â∫ava, karma and mâyâ. Holy ash, made of gravitates around the worship of Lord Vish∫u as Per-
burnt cow dung, is a reminder of the temporary na- sonal God, His incarnations and their consorts. The
ture of the physical body and the urgency to strive for doctrine of avatâra (He who descends), especially
spiritual attainment and closeness to God. See: bindu, important to Vaish∫avism, teaches that whenever
tilaka, vibhûti. §§ adharma gains ascendency in the world, God takes
trißûla: ⁄&À›ƒ A three-pronged spear or trident wielded a human birth to reestablish “the way.” The most re-
by Lord Íiva and certain Íaivite ascetics. Symbolizes nowned avatâras were Råma and K®ish∫a. Vaish∫av-
God’s three fundamental ßaktis or powers—icçhâ ism stresses the personal aspect of God over the im-
(desire, will, love), kriyâ (action) and jñâna (wisdom). personal, and bhakti (devotion) as the true path to
Truth: When capitalized, ultimate knowing which is salvation. The goal of Vaish∫avism is the attainment
unchanging. Lower case (truth): honesty, integrity; of mukti, defined as blissful union with God’s body,
virtue. the loving recognition that the soul is a part of Him,
and eternal nearness to Him in Vaiku∫†ha, heaven.
ultimate: Final, last. —Ultimate Re- vaißya: ΔÊÕæ “Landowner; merchant.” See: caste.
ality: Final, highest Truth. God Íiva’s vanakkam: tzf;fk; The Tamil equivalent to namaskâra.
Absolute Reality, Paraßiva. Varâha Upanishad: Δ¿Ÿ“ Ü¥⁄≤ŒÆÍ A minor Upanishad
unfoldment: Opening gradually, es- of the K®ish∫a Yajur Veda.
pecially in stages. See: evolution, spiri- vâsanâ: ΔŸ–≤Ÿ “Abode.” Subconscious inclinations.
tual unfoldment. From vâs, “dwelling, residue, remainder.” The sublimi-
United Nations: UN, a worldwide organization estab- nal inclinations and habit patterns which, as driving
lished in 1945, devoted to world peace, promoting eco- forces, color and motivate one’s attitudes and future
nomic, social and educational welfare and to creating actions. Vâsanâs are the conglomerate results of sub-
cultural understanding between nations. conscious impressions (saμskâras) created through
unmanifest: Not evident or perceivable. Philosophically, experience. Saμskâras, experiential impressions,
akin to transcendent. Íiva is unmanifest in His form- combine in the subconscious to form vâsanâs, which
less perfection, Paraßiva. See: formless. thereafter contribute to mental fluctuations, called
unravel: To undo, to separate, disentangle something v®itti. The most complex and emotionally charged
entangled. vâsanâs are found in the dimension of mind called
upadeßa: ܥƉÀ “Advice; religious instruction.” Often the sub-subconscious, or vâsanâ chitta. See: saμskâra,
given in question-and-answer form from guru to dis- mind (five states), vâsanâ daha tantra, v®itti.
ciple. The satguru’s spiritual discourses. vâsanâ daha tantra: ΔŸ–≤ŸÆ“™≥& “Purification of the
upadeßî: ܥƉÀ¤ A liberated soul who chooses to teach, subconscious by fire.” Daha means burning, tantra is
actively helping others to the goal of liberation. Con- a method, and vâsanâs are deep-seated subconscious
trasted with nirvâ∫î. See: nirvâ∫î and upadeßî, satguru. traits or tendencies that shape one’s attitudes and
Upanishad: Ü¥⁄≤ŒÆÍ “Sitting near devotedly.” The motivations. Vâsanâs can be either positive or nega-
fourth and final portion of the Vedas, expounding tive. One of the best methods for resolving difficulties
the secret, philosophical meaning of the Vedic hymns. in life, of dissolving troublesome vâsanâs, the vâsanâ
The Upanishads are a collection of profound texts daha tantra is the practice of burning confessions, or
which are the source of Vedânta and have dominated even long letters to loved ones or acquaintances, de-
Indian thought for thousands of years. They are philo- scribing pains, expressing confusions and registering
sophical chronicles of ®ishis expounding the nature grievances and long-felt hurts. Also called spiritual
of God, soul and cosmos, exquisite renderings of the journaling, writing down problems and burning them
deepest Hindu thought. See: ßruti, Veda, Vedânta. in any ordinary fire brings them from the subcon-
scious into the external mind, releasing the supressed
vâhana: ΔŸ“≤ “Bearing, carrying emotion as the fire consumes the paper. This is a mag-
or conveying.” Each Hindu God is ical healing process. —mahâ vâsanâ daha tantra:
depicted as riding an animal or bird The special sâdhana of looking back over and writ-
vâhana, which is symbolic of a func- ing about the various aspects of one’s life in order to
tion of the God. For example, Íiva clear all accumulated subconscious burdens, burning
rides the bull, a symbol of strength the papers as done in the periodic vâsana daha tantra.
and potency. Kârttikeya rides the peacock, mayûra, Ten pages are to be written about each year. Other
emblem of beauty and regality. aspects of this tantra include writing about people
vairâgya: ΔÊ¿Ÿìæ “Dispassion; aversion.” Freedom from one has known (people check), all sexual experiences
passion. Distaste or disgust for worldliness because (sex check). See also: vâsanâ.
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va†a: Δ¢ The banyan tree, Ficus indicus, sacred to Íiva. fish, fowl and eggs. Vegetarianism is a principle of
Thought to derive from va†, “to surround, encom- health and environmental ethics that has been a key-
pass”—also called nyagrodha, “growing downwards.” stone of Indian life for thousands of years. Vegetarian
Ancient symbol of the Sanâtana Dharma. Its relative, foods include grains, fruits, vegetables, legumes and
the aßvattha, or pîpal tree, is given in the Upanishads dairy products. Natural, fresh foods, locally grown,
as a metaphor for creation, with the “roots above and without insecticides or chemical fertilizers, are pre-
the branches below.” ferred. The following foods are minimized: frozen
Vâstu Íâstras: ΔŸ—™‹ À Ÿ—& Various ancient texts on and canned foods, highly processed foods, such as
vâstu, “the science of time and space,” in the words white rice, white sugar and white flour; and “junk”
of renowned Indian architect, Sri V. Ganapati St- foods and beverages (those with abundant chemi-
hapati. The Vâstu Íâstras are categorized as part of cal additives, such as artificial sweeteners, colorings,
the Sthâpatyaveda, science of architecture, classed flavorings and preservatives, or prepared with un-
among the Upavedas, which are secondary Vedic texts wholesome ingredients).
discussing such areas as statecraft, health and music. veiling grace: Tirobhâva ßakti. The divine power that
Vâstu unfolds the scientific principles and models of limits the soul’s perception by binding or attaching
spiritual art and architecture to yield a harmonious the soul to the bonds of â∫ava, karma, and mâyâ—
flow of energy in the physical environment, giving enabling it to grow and evolve as an individual being.
rise to good health, wealth, intelligence and happiness. See: grace.
Veda: Δ‰Æ “Wisdom.” Sagely revelations which comprise vel: nty; “Spear, lance.” The symbol of Lord Kârttikeya’s
Hinduism’s most authoritative scripture. They, along divine authority as Lord of yoga and commander of
with the Ågamas, are ßruti, that which is “heard.” The the devas. (Known as ßûla in Sanskrit.) See: Kârttikeya.
Vedas are a body of dozens of holy texts known col- vicarious: Empathizing or sharing in the experience of
lectively as the Veda, or as the four Vedas: Âig, Yajur, another person through feeling or imagination.
Sâma and Atharva. In all they include over 100,000 vibhûti: ⁄Δ∫› ⁄ ™ Powerful,” “pervading,” “appearing.”
verses, as well as additional prose. The knowledge From bhû “existence,” or “manifestation” and vi,
imparted by the Vedas ranges from earthy devotion “apart.” Holy ash, a whitish powder prepared by burn-
to high philosophy. Each Veda has four sections: ing cow dung along with other precious substances—
Saμhitâs (hymn collections), Brâhma∫as (priestly milk, ghee, honey, etc. It symbolizes purity and is one
manuals), Åra∫yakas (forest treatises) and Upanishads of the main sacraments offered to God and given to
(enlightened discourses). The oldest portions of the worshipers after pûjâ in all Íaivite temples and shrines.
Vedas are thought by some to date back as far as 6,000 Íaivites wear three stripes on the brow as a distinct
bce, written down in Sanskrit in the last few millennia, sectarian mark, as do many Smârtas.
making them the world’s most ancient scriptures. See: vibration: A distinctive emotional aura or atmosphere
ßruti, Upanishad. that can be instinctively sensed or experienced.
Vedânta: Δ‰ÆŸ≥™ “Ultimate wisdom” or “final conclu- vidyârambha: ⁄ΔYŸ¿Ä∫ “Commencement of learning.”
sions of the Vedas.” Vedânta is the system of thought See: saμskâras of childhood.
embodied in the Upanishads (ca 1500-600 bce), which vigil: A one-hour time of sâdhana, ideally before sun-
give forth the ultimate conclusions of the Vedas. rise, a regimen of pûjâ, chanting of the Guru Mantra,
Through history there developed numerous Vedânta personal japa, scriptural study, ha†ha yoga and medi-
schools, ranging from pure dualism to absolute mo- tation.
nism. The Vedânta perspective elucidated in Living vî∫â: Δ¤®Ÿ Large South Indian popular musical instru-
with Íiva is Advaita Èßvaravâda, “monistic theism” or ment usually having seven strings and two calabash
panentheism, exemplified in the Vedânta-Siddhânta gourds as resonance boxes.
of Rishi Tirumular (ca 250 bce) of the Nandinâtha Vish∫u: ⁄Δœ®‹ “All-pervasive.” Supreme Deity of the
Sampradâya in his Tirumantiram, which is a perfect Vaish∫avite religion. God as personal Lord and
summation of both the Vedas and the Ågamas. See: Creator, the All-Loving Divine Personality, who pe-
dvaita-advaita, monistic theism. riodically incarnates and lives a fully human life to
Vedic-Ågamic: Simultaneously drawing from and re-establish dharma whenever necessary. In Íaivism,
complying with both of Hinduism’s revealed scrip- Vish∫u is Íiva’s aspect as Preserver. See: Vaish∫avism.
tures (ßruti), Vedas and Ågamas, which represent two vißuddha chakra: ⁄ΔÀ‹Øò Û $ “Wheel of purity.” The fifth
complimentary, intertwining streams of history and chakra. Center of divine love. See: chakra.
tradition. The difference between Siddhânta and Ve- vißvagrâsa: ⁄ΔÃ¸íŸ˘ – “Total absorption.” The final merger,
dânta is traditionally described in the way that while or absorption, of the soul in Íiva, by His grace, at the
the Vedas represent man looking for God, the Ågamas fulfillment of its evolution. It is the ultimate union
hold the perspective of God looking to help man. This of the individual soul body with the body of Íiva—
is reflected in the fact that while the Vedas are voiced Parameßvara—within the Íivaloka, from whence
by ®ishis, God or the Goddess is the bestower of truth the soul first emanated. This occurs at the end of the
in the Ågama texts. See: grace, ßruti. soul’s evolution, after the four outer sheaths—an-
vegetarian: Íakâhâra. Of a diet which excludes meat, namaya koßa, prâ∫amaya koßa, manomaya koßa and
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vijñâmaya koßa—have been discarded. Finally, ânan- dulgence in sex thoughts.” Sivananda advises a sattvic
damaya koßa, the soul form itself, merges in the Pri- diet, rising early (as wet dreams usually occur in the
mal Soul. See: âtman, evolution of the soul, nirvâ∫î and last quarter of the night), cold showers, ha†ha yoga,
upadeßî, samâdhi, soul. fresh fruit and raw foods, not going to bed right after
Vißvaguru: ⁄ΔÕΔí‹¡ “World as teacher.” The playful a heavy meal. He says, “The actual essence does not
personification of the world as the guru of those with come out during wet dreams. It is only the watery
no guru, headmaster of the school of hard knocks, prostatic juice with a little semen. When nocturnal
where students are left to their own devices and learn emission takes place, the mind which was working in
by their own mistakes rather than by following a tra- the inner astral body suddenly enters the physical body
ditional teacher. vehemently in an agitated condition. That is the rea-
vital forces: The life-giving energies in the physical body. son why emission takes place suddenly.” He concludes,
vitala chakra: ⁄Δ™ƒ òé˚ “Region of negation.” Region “Do not get depressed or anxious. It is best not to give
of raging anger and viciousness. The second chakra too much importance to these dreams. Forget them,
below the mûlâdhâra, centered in the thighs. Corre- then they will not trouble you.” See: transmutation.
sponds to the second astral netherworld beneath the winds of the body: The five primary prâ∫as or forces of
earth’s surface, called Avîchi (“joyless”) or Vitala. See: the physical body. When they are in perfect balance,
chakra, Naraka. vibrant health is experienced. See: prâ∫as.
vivâha: ⁄ΔΔŸ“ “Marriage.” See: saμskâras. worldly: Materialistic, unspiritual. Devoted to or con-
Vivekananda, Swami: ⁄ΔΔ‰éŸ≤≥Æ Disciple of Sri Ramak- cerned with the affairs or pleasures of the world, es-
rishna who was overtaken by an ardent love of Hindu- pecially excessive concern to the exclusion of religious
ism and a missionary zeal that drove him onward. He thought and life. Connoting ways born of the lower
passed into mahâsamâdhi at the age of 39 (1863–1902). chakras: jealousy, greed, selfishness, anger, guile, etc.
vrata: Δ˘™ “Vow, religious oath.” Often a vow to perform
certain disciplines over a period of time, such as pen- Yama: æº “The restrainer.” Hindu God
ance, fasting, specific mantra repetitions, worship or of death; oversees the processes of
meditation. Vratas extend from the simplest personal death transition, guiding the soul out
promise to irrevocable vows made before God, Gods, of its present physical body. See: death.
guru and community. yama: æº “Reining in, restraint.” See:
vrâtyastoma: Δ˘Ÿ´æ—™Ëº “Vow pronouncement.” The yama-niyama.
traditional purification rite, outlined in the Ta∫∂ya yama-niyama: æº ⁄≤æº The first two of the eight limbs
Brâhma∫a, to welcome back into a Hindu community. of râja yoga, constituting Hinduism’s fundamental
It is performed for Hindus returning to India from ethical codes, the yamas and niyamas are the essential
abroad and for those who have embraced other faiths. foundation for all spiritual progress. The yamas are
v®itti: Δ‡ ⁄ % “Whirlpool, vortex.” In yoga psychology, the ethical restraints; the niyamas are the religious
names the fluctuations of consciousness, the waves practices. Here are the ten traditional yamas and ten
of mental activities (chitta v®itti) of thought and niyamas. —yamas: 1) ahiμsâ: “Noninjury.” 2) satya:
perception. A statement from Patanjali’s Yoga Sûtras “Truthfulness.” 3) asteya: “Nonstealing.” 4) brahm-
(1.2) reads, “Yoga is the restraint (nirodha) of mental acharya: “Divine conduct.” 5) kshamâ: “Patience.”
activity (chitta v®itti).” In general use, v®itti means: 1) 6) dh®iti: “Steadfastness.” 7) dayâ: “Compassion.” 8)
course of action, mode of life; conduct, behavior; way ârjava: “Honesty, straightforwardness.” 9) mitâhâra:
in which something is done; 2) mode of being, nature, “Moderate appetite.” 10) ßaucha: “Purity.” —niya-
kind, character. See: mind (individual), râja yoga. mas: 1) hrî: “Remorse.” 2) santosha: “Contentment.”
3) dâna: “Giving.” 4) âstikya: “Faith.” 5) Èßvarapû-
Weaver’s Widsom: Gurudeva’s Ameri- jana: “Worship of the Lord.” 6) siddhânta ßrava∫a:
can English translation of the ancient “Scriptural audition.” 7) mati: “Cognition.” 8) vrata:
Tamil ethical scripture, Tirukural. See: “Sacred vows.” 9) japa: “Recitation.” 10) tapas: “Aus-
Tirukural. terity.” See: anna dâna, jñâna dâna, k®ish∫a dâna, râja
Web browsing: Computer viewing yoga, ßukla dâna.
of sites on the World Wide Web on a yantra: æ≥& “Vessel; container.” A mystic diagram com-
computer containing information posted by individu- posed of geometric and alphabetic designs—usually
als or group or organizations. etched on small plates of gold, silver or copper. Some-
wedding penant. See: marriage pendant. times rendered in three dimensions in stone or metal.
wet dream: An involuntary emission of semen during The purpose of a yantra is to focus spiritual and
sleep, usually as a result of a sexual dream. Swami mental energies according to a computer-like yantric
Sivananda discusses wet dreams in his Yoga Lessons pattern, be it for health, wealth, childbearing or the
for Children, Chapter 36 on Brahmacharya. He states, invoking of one God or another. It is usually installed
“Many young boys and men suffer from wet dreams. near or under the temple Deity. Psychically seen, the
Sri Aurobindo states that an occurrence once a week temple yantra is a magnificent three-dimensional edi-
is normal. To have it more frequently indicates in- fice of light and sound in which the devas work. On
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the astral plane, it is much larger than the temple itself. the Kali Yuga, in which we are now, the cycle begins
yoga: æËí “Union.” From yuj, “to yoke, harness, unite.” again with a new Satya Yuga.
The philosophy, process, disciplines and practices
whose purpose is the yoking of individual conscious- Zoroastrian: Of or related to Zoroas-
ness with transcendent or divine consciousness. One trianism, a religion founded in Persia
of the six darßanas, or systems, of orthodox Hindu by Spenta Zarathustra (ca 600 bce). It
philosophy. Yoga was codified by Patanjali in his Yoga has roughly 150,000 adherents today,
Sûtras (ca 200 bce) as the eight limbs (ash†âˆga) of mostly near Bombay, where they are
râja yoga. It is essentially a one system, but histori- called Parsis. The faith stresses mono-
cally, parts of râja yoga have been developed and em- theism while recognizing a universal struggle between
phasized as yogas in themselves. Prominent among the force of good (led by Ahura Mazda) and evil (led
the many forms of yoga are ha†ha yoga (emphasizing by Ahriman).
bodily perfection in preparation for meditation), kri- Zen: A school of Mahâyâna Buddhism that asserts that
yâ yoga (emphasizing breath control), as well as karma enlightenment can be attained through meditation,
yoga (selfless service) and bhakti yoga (devotional contemplation and intuition, rather than through
practices) which could be regarded as an expression faith and devotion.
of râja yoga’s first two limbs (yama and niyama). See:
bhakti yoga, kriyâ yoga, ha†ha yoga, râja yoga.
yoga mârga: æËíºŸí@ See: pâda.
yoga pâda: æËí¥ŸÆ The third of the successive stages in
spiritual unfoldment in Íaiva Siddhânta, wherein the
goal is Self Realization. See: pâda, yoga.
Yoga Sûtras: æËí–›& The great work by Íaivite Nâtha
siddha Patanjali (ca 200 bce), comprising some 200
aphorisms delineating ash†âˆga (eight-limbed), râja
(kingly) or siddha (perfection) yoga. Still today, it is
the foremost text on meditative yoga. See: Kailâsa
Paramparâ, râja yoga, yoga.
Yogaswami: nahfRthkp “Master of yoga.” Sri Lanka’s
most renowned contemporary spiritual master (1872-
1964), a Sivajñâni and Nâtha siddhar revered by both
Hindus and Buddhists. He was trained in and prac-
ticed ku∫∂alinî yoga under the guidance of Satguru
Chellappaswami, from whom he received guru dîkshâ.
Sage Yogaswami was in turn the satguru of Sivaya Sub-
ramuniyaswami, current preceptor of the Nâtha Sam-
pradâya’s Kailâsa Paramparâ. Yogaswami conveyed his
teachings in hundreds of songs, called Natchintanai,
“good thoughts,” urging seekers to follow dharma and
realize God within. See: Kailâsa Paramparâ.
yogî: æËí¤ (yogin) One who practices yoga, especially
ku∫∂alinî or râja yoga. In Gurudeva’s monastic com-
munity, yogîs, or tapasvins, are distinguished by their
yellow robes and earnestness in the performance of
sâdhana and humble service. (Hindi and modern In-
dian vernaculars. Sanskrit: yogin.)
yoginî: æË⁄í≤¤ Feminine counterpart of yogî.
yoke: To join securely as if with a yoke; bind: partners
who were yoked together for life. To force into heavy
labor, bondage, or subjugation.
yoking: Joining securely or closely uniting.
young soul: A soul who has gone through only a few
births, and is thus inexperienced or immature. See: soul.
yuga: æ‹í “Aeon,” “age.” One of four ages which chart
the duration of the world, our solar system, according
to Hindu thought. They are: Satya (or K®ita), Tretâ,
Dvâpara and Kali. In the first period, dharma reigns
supreme, but as the ages revolve, virtue diminishes
and ignorance and injustice increases. At the end of
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Sansk®it Pronunciation
Saμsk®ita Ucchâra∫am
sa\sk&[ta oÅarNama<
VOWELS CEREBRAL CONSONANTS SIBILANTS
Vowels marked like â are Pronounced with the tongue ÀÎ ß …sure (palatal)
sounded twice as long as turned up and back against the sh …shut (cerebral)
the short vowels. The four roof of the mouth. These are
ŒÎ
dipthongs, e, ai, o, au, are al- also known as retroflex. –Î s …saint (dental)
ways sounded long, but never ¢Í † …true ANUSVÅRA
marked as such. The dot over Devanâgarî letters
§Í †h …nuthook represents the nasal of the type
Ç a as in about •Í ∂ …drum of letter it precedes; e.g.: ÇÄí =
ÇŸ Ÿ â …tar, father ßÍ ∂h …redhaired aˆga. It is transliterated as μ
Ñ ⁄ i …fill, lily ®Î ∫ …none or as the actual nasal (ˆ, ñ, n,
Ö ¤ î …machine DENTAL CONSONANTS
∫, m). At the end of words it is
Ü ‹ u …full, bush sometimes ºÎ (m).
Sounded with the tip of the
á › û …allude tongue at the back of the upper VISÅRGA ( ) ˙ Å
front teeth. Pronounced like huh (with a
à ‚ ®i …merrily short, stopping sound), or hih,
â · ®î …marine ™Î t …tub after i, î and e.
ƒ‡ l®i …revelry ¨Î th …anthill ASPIRATES
ä ‰ e …prey ÆÍ d …dot The h following a consonant
ä‰ Ê ai …aisle ∞Î dh …adhere indicates aspiration, the addi-
≤Î n …not tion of air, as in nâtha or bhakti.
å Ë o …go, stone Thus, th should not be con-
ç È au …Haus LABIAL CONSONANTS fused with th in the word then.
Sounded at the lips.
GUTTURAL CONSONANTS SPECIAL CHARACTERS
Sounded in the throat. ¥Î p …pot ◊Î jñ …a nasalized sound,
éÍ k …kite, seek ∂Í ph …path like gya or jya.
êÎ kh …inkhorn ∏Î b …bear ’Î = éÍ+ ŒÎ ksh
íÎ g …gamble ∫Î bh …abhor CONVENTIONS
îÎ gh …loghouse ºÎ m …map 1. As a rule, the root forms of
ñÍ ˆ …sing SEMIVOWELS Sansk®it words are used (with-
y …yet (palatal) out case endings).
PALATAL CONSONANTS æÎ
r …road (cereb.) 2. òÎö is transliterated as cçh,
Sounded at the roof of the ¿Î @ and òÎò as cch.
mouth. ƒÎ l …lull (dental)
3. Geographical and personal
òÎ ch …church ΔÎ v …voice (labial), names (e.g., Hardwar), are gen-
öÍ çh …much harm but more like w when follow- erally marked with diacriticals
úÎ j …jump ing a consonant, as in the word only as main lexicon entries.
swâmî. 4. Diacritical marks are not used
ûÎ jh …hedgehog “Î h …hear (guttural) for Tamil words.
†Î ñ …hinge
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Index
Anukrama∫ikâ
Anau}a[maiNak[a
Å∫ava: bondage of, 10, 85, (s)705; also Age; Death; Elders; Longevity; Reincarnation
psychism and, 102-103; rudrâksha Agni: See Digestion; Fire
mâlâ analogy, 103-105. See also Igno- Agreement: achieving, 560-561
rance; Malas Agricultural age: attitudes toward wealth, 827-828;
Å∫ava mârga: youth and, 635 family teamwork in, 243; less stress, 209. See also
Abortion: discussion, 419-423; bad Technological age
money, 383-385, (s)716 (see Money); of daughters, Ahiμsâ: discussion, 22-26, 501-510; abortion vs.,
xxix; to save mother’s life, 325, 423, (s)712 421-423; Bhagavad Gîtâ vs., 518-519; in business,
Abrahamic religions: beliefs heretical to, 679; contrast 523-524; and contentment, 71; Dalai Lama and, 535-
with Hinduism, 89, 464-465; Westerners’ rejection 536; defense and, 516; domestic, 341-342; environ-
of, 679-780. See also Christianity; Islam; Judaism. mental, (s)714; essence of Hinduism, 46; exceptions
Absolution: Gods and, 506-507; obtaining, 64; pen- to, (s)713; full expression of, (s)710; Hindu culture
ance and, 535; temple worship and, 672 and, 346; lifestyle choices, 516; in parenting, (s)731;
Abuse: combatting, 61, 655-656, (s)723 (see also in professional life, (s)738; in science, (s)740; social
Bystanders); and divorce, (s)728; by mother-in-law, responsibility, 322-323; supreme importance of, 23,
284; penance for, 226-227, 347-348, 373; priest, see (s)712; teaching to children, 640; video games vs.,
Priests; response to, 374-375, 481-482, 530-531 (see 397-398; vrata of, 508. See also Noninjury; Nonvio-
also Forgiveness); role of media, 656; verbal, 357-358, lence, Vegetarianism
371-375, (s)722. See also Bystanders; Child abuse; Åjñâ chakra: satguru needed, 102; conception and,
Counseling; Crime; Dowry; Forgiveness; Spouse abuse 419; God Íiva and, 509. See also Chakras; Third eye
Acceptance: of others, 562-563; power of, xxxii, 38, Alcohol: discussion, 153-155; dependence on, 439;
481-482, 529, (s)699. See also Forgiveness guidelines, (s)747. See also Beer; Liquor; Wine
Åchâryas: functions of, 695; instructions for, (s)787; Allowances: not recommended, 334
protocol, (s)754. See also Monastics; Swâmîs Altar: simple version, 178
Activity: diet and, 135-137 America: first Hindu temple of, xix. See also Ameri-
Actors: karmic responsibilities of, 152 cans; Canada; United States; West
Acupuncture: ha†ha yoga and, 798 Americans: converting to Íaivism, 588; many seekers,
Addiction: to credit, 32; to nicotine, (s)746; to por- 662. See also America; Seekers; Westerners
nography, 411-413 Anâhata chakra: two choices, 102; powers of, 102-103;
Adolescents: See Children; Puberty; Youth direct cognition, 107; cleansing, 308; Lord Murugan
Adultery: injunction against, (s)727; karmic entangle- and, 509. See also Chakras; Cognition
ments of, 407-408; penance for, 227, 410; pornogra- Anarchy: dharma vs., 519-520
phy and, 412; refraining from, 410-411; and separa- Ancestors: offerings to, (s)750; worship of, 447-448
tion, (s)728; three kinds, 407 Angels: in all religions, 572. See also Devas
Advaita: dvaita and, 573-574. See also God Realization; Anger: not in âchâryas, (s)787; alcohol and, (s)747;
Monism; Realization; Self avoidance of, (s)722, (s)731; brahmacharya incom-
Advaita Èßvaravâda: See Monistic theism; Íaiva Siddhânta patible with, 24; caste and, 482-483; against children,
Advaita Siddhânta: See Monistic theism; Íaiva Siddhânta 245; in children, 341; drugs and, 149; overcoming,
Adversity: facing wisely, 40; boon from Gods, 609. See 226-227, 347-348, 370-371, 629; restricting spiritual
also Acceptance; Challenges; Karma; Problems practice, 91, 507, 509, (s)702. See also Antagonism;
Affairs: premarital, 296-297, (s)733. See also Adultery; Conflict; Disharmony; Emotions; Violence
Celibacy; Faithfulness; Sex; Virginity Angry All the Time: eight forms of anger, 226
Affection: not shown in public, 408; reserved for Antagonism: dualism and, 506; mark of young soul,
spouse, (s)727 502; not creating, (s)720; sexual entanglement and,
Affirmations: efficacy of, 210; of faith, (s)706, (s)772; 409. See also Anger; Argument; Conflict; Disharmony;
use of, (s)772, (s)774 Emotions; Violence
Ågamas: authorship, (s)704. See also Íaiva Ågamas Antarloka (includes Devaloka, Narakaloka, Pret-
Age: hierarchy of, xxxiii-xxxiv. See also Elders aloka): discussion, 445-455; astral existence, (s)705;
Aggressiveness: discussion, 65-66; diet and, 135-136 birth or death and, 426; souls between births, 423,
Aging: discussion, 431-440; without fear, (s)748. See 496; visiting during sleep, (s)703. See also Astral
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plane; Devaloka; Narakaloka; Pretaloka; Three worlds Asuras: anger and, 91; avoiding influence of, 58-59,
Apology: for misconduct, (s)787; remorse and, 61. See 223; bad money and, 383-384; gossiping and, 376;
also Atonement; Penance; Remorse; Repentance protecting home from, 91, 246. See also Beings
Appetite: moderation in, 49-52, (s)710. See also Atheism: noninvolvement with, (s)757
Moderation Åtman: renunciate’s goal, 628. See also God Realiza-
Appreciation: power of, 541-545 tion; Self
Åßrama dharma: stages of life, xxxv-xxxvi, 123, 167, Atonement: mitigating karma, 491-492. See also Apol-
621-622, (s)748. See also Brahmacharya âßrama; ogy; Penance; Remorse; Repentance
G®ihastha âßrama; Vânaprastha âßrama; Sannyâsa Attachment: bondage of, 490; negative, (s)774; to
âßrama personality, 204; releasing, (s)699; resentment as,
Åßramas: coed vs. same-sex, 619; life in, 605, 612, 625; 530-532; to tasks, 204
upkeep of, (s)783 Attention: path to enlightenment, (s)774; step towards
Åratî: cleansing husband’s aura, 253 concentration, 192
Arbitration: role of community, (s)737 Attire: monastics’, (s)783; satguru’s, (s)760; traditional
Archana: special personal pûjâ, 587 Hindu, (s)720, (s)722-773; for weddings, 308. See
Architecture: temple, (s)764 also Clothing; Dress codes; Modesty
Argument: anger and, 226; avoidance of, 161, 189, 204, Attitudes: aging and, 437; beliefs and, 23, 265, 501-
555-557, (s)720, (s)760; effects on family, 560. See 502; children’s absorption of, 515; clothing and,
also Antagonism; Conflict; Disharmony 651-652; monastic, (s)780-781; Tamil Íaiva, (s)773;
Årjava: See Honesty television and, 141
Arms: See Weapons Aum: beneficial for all, 794; chanting before meals,
Arts: developing proficiency, (s)773; religious expres- 140; how to chant, 115; overcoming abuse, 273
sion in, 468; traditional, (s)715 Aum Nama˙ Íivâya: importance of, 585. See also Pa-
Arul: grace, as compassion, 46 ñchâkshara Mantra
Arul pâda: stage of grace, 85-86, 88-89, 100. See also Aura: cleansing, 225, 253, 587-588, 671; congested,
Pâdas 231; effect on home, 58; extension of nerve system,
Åsanas: See Ha†ha yoga 295; karma seen in, 802; nâ∂îs of, 35; psychic en-
Ascetics: honoring, (s)754; in Hinduism, 619; provid- tanglement of, 126-127; purity displayed in, 57-59;
ing service to, (s)729 study of, (s)774. See also Entanglement; Nâ∂îs;
Ash: See Holy ash; Vibhûti Nervous system; Tubes
Ash†âˆga yoga: eight steps of, xix; first two limbs, 21; Aurobindo, Sri: celibacy, 124; power of acceptance, 481
prerequisites for, xx. See also The Master Course Austerity: discussion, 116-119; practice of, (s)711; sat-
Asia: attitudes toward alcohol, 154; ideals of, 843 guru’s guidance, (s)759. See also Discipline; Penance;
Associates: choosing wisely, 521-522, 653, 679, (s)716, Sâdhana; Tapas
(s)757; no drug proponents, (s)746. See also Com- Automobile: genetics and, 247
panions; Friends; Peers Autopsy: guidelines, (s)750
Association: men with men, (s)720; women with Avasthâ: soul’s evolution through, 85-88
women, (s)722 Awareness: aware of itself, 181; cognizing, 796; con-
Asteya: discussion, 31-33. See also Covetousness; trolling, 174-181, 186-188, 193, 197-199; diet and,
Credit; Debt; Stealing 135-136; externalized by sex, 125; ha†ha yoga and,
Åstikya: def., 88. See also Faith. 795, 804-807; moving through mind, 185, 452. See
Astral body: appearing as ghost, 453-454; controlling, also Energy; Memories; Willpower
136, 166-167; diet and, 135; disease and, 373, 532; Åyurveda: alcohol guidelines, 154; food guidelines,
dropping off, 450; experiences in, 165; five winds of, 50, 135-136, 140, (s)744; ha†ha yoga and, 795, 798-
124-125; ha†ha yoga and, 793-795, 799-802; karma 799, 805; for illness, (s)745; life changes and, 433;
and, 802; old age and, 437; in reincarnation process, resolving karma, 802
419-420, 422, 426, 445; travel in, 431, 450. See also
Astral plane; Devas; Ghosts Babies: changing family dynamics,
Astral plane: discussion, 445-455; asuric beings of, 286, 322; first 31 days, 426. See also
246; communication in, 597-598; devonic beings of, Birth; Pregnancy
91; inner-plane schools, 130-131; protecting home, Backbiting: avoiding, (s)712; effects
266; psychic tubes, 124-128. See also Antarloka; As- of, 376-378
tral body; Asuras; Occultism; Psychism; Three worlds Balance: in diet and life, 135-140
Astrology: auspicious timing and, 142-143, (s)773; Bali: Íaivism in, 649
caution, (s)775; choosing profession, 335; karma Bankruptcy: divorce likened to, 318
and, 495; lifespan and, 432, 436; marriage and, 284, Barge: Philosophers’, 555
293, 305-307, 558, (s)724, (s)726; parenting and, 143, Bathing: on returning home, (s)720; upon arising,
266-267, (s)731 (s)702, (s)723
Astronauts: experience of, 506 Beads: See Rudrâksha beads
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Bedtime: parent-child talks, 330. See also Sleep Breath: controlling, 159-161, 178-179. See also
Beer: discussion, 154-155. See also Alcohol; Liquor; Prâ∫âyâma
Wine Breeding: See Genetics
Behavior: See Habits Bribery: def., 386; discussion, 386-391; bad money,
Beings, inner-world: See Asuras; Devas; Gods 383-386, (s)716 (see Money); of children, 331-332,
Beliefs: and arrogance, 467, 493; attitudes created by, 334, 342, 349, 387-388, 390-391; refusal to partici-
104, 501, 515, 638; children’s absorption of, 515-516; pate, 47, (s)716, (s)739; three kinds of, 386. See also
commitment to, 656-657; computer analogy, 515- Corruption
516; conduct vs., 470; and death, 447, 463; and fam- Bride: protection of, 308
ily unity, xxx-xxxiii, 92, 265, 277; of Hinduism, 423; British: overcoming effects of, 686
and meditation, 177; and nonviolence, 23, 501-502, Buddha: celibacy of, 124
506; restructuring, 177, 502; and reverence for life, Buddhism: on drugs and alcohol, 153; monasticism
515, 536; of Íaivite Hinduism, (s)704-706; and toler- in, 64; nonviolence in, 501, 515; religious authority
ance, 23, 463, 501-502, 506, 536 in, 683; sectarianism in, 663. See also Dalai Lama
Bhagavad Gîtâ: violence in, 518-520. See also Mahâb- Budget: monthly, (s)735; tithe and, (s)736, 841. See
hârata also Income; Money; Tithing; Wealth
Bhajana: at local missions, (s)765; heard by devas, 585 Burial: injunction against, (s)750
Bhakti: cultivating, (s)711; internalizing, 7; mûlâdhâra Business: auspicious timing for, (s)773; bribery
chakra and, 224; starts in home, 334, 605. See also disrupting, 388; bringing offspring into, 294, 335,
Love 363-364, (s)733; guidelines for, 31-33, 36, 523-524,
Bhakti yoga: more with age, (s)702 (s)735, (s)737; tithing and, 831-832, 840. See also
Bhojana Mantra: mealtime chant, (s)772 Career; Profession; Vocation
Bhûloka: physical plane, 127, 581, (s)705. See also Bystanders: responsibility of, 323-325, 342-343. See
Three worlds also Abuse
Bible: Íaivite Hindu, (s)770
Bindi: discussion, 582-583 California: priests’ group in, 655
Bindu: See Bindi Canada: laws against corporal pun-
Birth: control methods, 423; family retreat following, ishment, 345-346; temple in Toronto,
58, 426-427, (s)755; good and bad, 153, 227, 370, 650. See also America; Seekers; West
373, 424, 464, 477; religion and, 469; swâmîs’ non- Career: drugs vs., 152; switching,
participation, (s)786. See also Reincarnation 364. See also Business; Profession;
Blackmail: form of bribery, 391 Vocation
Blame: detachment from, 629; foolishness of, 492-493 Caste system: discussion, 482-483; erosion of priest-
Blessings: pilgrimage and, 466-467; praying for, 600; hood, 470 (see Priesthood); modern adjustments,
satguru’s, (s)724, (s)726-727, (s)759, (s)765; tithing 634; non-recognition of, (s)755; rights of all, (s)714
and, (s)736, 841 Catholicism: conversion tactics, 635-637; doctrines
Bliss: spiritual love and, 562; unfoldment and, 12-14, 19 of, 636, 680; schools affiliated with, 635-637; in Sri
Boasting: refraining from, (s)716, (s)781 Lanka, 684. See also Christianity; Religions
Bodies: subtle, (s)774. See also Astral body; Mental Celibacy: after adultery, 410; after divorce, (s)728;
body; Physical body; Soul body eightfold, (s)715; option in marriage, (s)727; pro-
Bondage: dissolving, (s)705; many forms of, 270; tecting children’s, see Chaperoning; until marriage,
psychic, see Tubes; renunciate’s freedom from, 627; 34, 296, 408, (s)710, (s)733; vow of, 129, (s)725; of
suffering and, 490. See also Malas widowed, (s)724. See also Brahmacharya; Purity;
Books: See Media Sex; Virginity
Boons: from the Gods, 476, 507, (s)715 Ceremonies: auspicious timing for, (s)773; home
Borrowing: guidelines, (s)737 purification, 282. See also Rites of passage; Rituals;
Boys: training of, (s)731 Sacraments; Saμskâras
Brahmacharya âßrama: critical period, 634. See also Certificates: See Forms
Åßrama dharma; Student Chakras: âjñâ (third eye), see Åjñâ chakra; anâhata
Brahmachârîs/brahmachâri∫îs: classed with wid- (cognition), see Anâhata chakra; below mûlâdhâra,
owed/ divorced, (s)728 see Tala chakras; caste and, 483; children and, 343;
Brahmacharya: discussion, 34-37, 123-131; anger closing off lower, 450; depicted in music, 468; drugs
incompatible with, 23-24; improves guru-ßishya and, 149, (s)746; higher and lower, 59, 63, 344, 509;
relationship, 607; in marriage, 270; power of, 623; of inner planes and, 449; journey upwards, 19, 98, 105-
unmarried devotees, (s)725; of widowed, (s)724. See 107, 127, 165, 610; lower, see Tala chakras; ma∫ipûra
also Brahmacharya âßrama; Celibacy; Chaperoning; (willpower), see Ma∫ipûra chakra; meditation and,
Purity; Sex; Virginity 165; mûlâdhâra (memory), see Mûlâdhâra chakra;
Brahman, door of: see Door of Brahman physical body has all, 168, 449, 493; sahasrâra (il-
Brahmins: See Caste system lumination), see Sahasrâra chakra; sexual energies
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and, see Transmutation; slippery pole analogy, 509; 563, 605; television and, 247-248, 403; tithing by,
soul body and, 166; study of, (s)774; svâdhish†hâna 825-826, 836; truthfulness of, 24; two kinds, 520-
(reason), see Svâdhish†hâna chakra; tala, see Tala 521; video games and, 397-398; willpower in, 197-
chakras; teaching children about, 331; transmutation 198. See also Chaperoning; Child abuse; Education;
and, see Transmutation; vißuddha (divine love), see Family; Guidance; Parenting; Parents; Schools; Youth
Vißuddha chakra. See also Unfoldment China: Dalai Lama and, 535; death observances in, 447
Challenges: facing positively, (s)699, (s)739; to un- Chinmayananda, Swami: advice for youth, 685
foldment, (s)781. See also Acceptance; Adversity; Chiropractic: ha†ha yoga and, 799
Karma; Problems Choices: guidance vs., 331-335, 361
Channeling: cautions, 455. See also Ghosts; Medium- Christianity: and alcohol, 154; attacks on Hinduism
ship; Possession; Psychism by, 246, 469, 681-683; beliefs heretical to, 669, 677,
Chanting: before meals, 140; daily, (s)702-703, (s)772; 680; church system of, 684; conversion tactics, see
when approaching satguru, (s)758. See also Japa; Conversion; corporal punishment in, 346, 375; de-
Mantra stroying other religions, 666; doctrines of, 255, 312,
Chaperoning: of computer usage, 397-398, 412 (see 638, 669, 677, 680; effects on India, 52, 375; God as
Computers); of interpersonal relationships, 293, 296, puppeteer, 168; guilt and, 529; in Hawaii, 666; no
311, 335-336, (s)733 (see also Brahmacharya); of monopoly on U.S., 662-664; religious authority in,
video-game usage, 397-398. 683; resisting influences of, 447, 638-640, 667-669,
Character: building, 19, 21, 40, (s)769, 802; eroded by 686-687; schools affiliated with, 635-639; sectarian-
drugs, (s)746; peer pressure and, (s)734 ism within, 663-664; symbols of, 583. See also Abra-
Chariot: analogy of, 21 hamic religions; Catholicism; Religions
Charity: dâna vs., 74; merits of, 841. See also Dâna; Christmas: not our holiday, 650, 687
Giving; Makimai Church: modern system of, 684; separation from state,
Charya: See Virtue 663
Chastity: See Brahmacharya; Celibacy; Purity; Sex; Circumambulation: significance, 587-588
Virginity Clairaudience: See Psychism
Cheating: see Adultery; Dishonesty; Fraud Clairvoyance: See Psychism
Chellappaguru: Nâtha Sampradâya, 607-608; and Cleanliness: personal, (s)702; spirituality and, 57-58;
Yogaswami, 609-610 of surroundings, (s)703
Chemistry: consciousness and, 51, 53. See also Drugs Clothing: cleanliness of, 57-58, (s)702; dress codes,
Chettiars: increased tithing by, 824 650-652; men’s, (s)720; monastics’, (s)783; statement
Chidambaram: uniqueness of, 588 of culture, 651-652; of widowed, (s)724; women’s,
Child abuse: discussion, 341-349; call to action, 347, (s)722. See also Attire; Dress codes; Modesty; Robes
561; caste and, 482; e-mail testimonies, 374; forbid- Cockroaches: compassionate control, 45
den, (s)731; get help!, 273, 325, (s)723; our problem Cognition: discussion, 101-104; cultivating, (s)711
too, xxix; penance for, 227, 232; protection needed, Cognizantability: in Merging with Íiva, 796
xxix; satguru repairing damage, 479; verbal, 371-375; Colgate, William: increased tithing by, 829
vicious cycle, 245, 284. See also Abuse; Bystanders; College: protecting children in, 335-336
Children; Counseling; Parenting Colors: ha†ha yoga and, 794
Children: abuse of, see Child abuse; in agricultural vs. Commitment: need for, 360-361, 656-657, 668-669,
technological age, 243; alienation of, 277-278; ar- 677; protecting sense of, (s)757; release from, (s)767;
ranging marriages of, see Marriage; basic teachings to Saiva Siddhanta Church, (s)766
for, 331, (s)700; bribery of, see Bribery; character Communes: monasteries vs., 619
traits of, 143, 266-267; computers and, 395-398, 412; Communication: family priority, 278-279; with Gods
controlling energy, 343-344; at daily pûjâ, 90, 260; and devas, see Prayer, Shrine room, Temple worship;
day-care centers, 657; divorce and, 318, 321-323; parent-child, 329-334; prayer and, 597
emotional stability of, 128; family disharmony and, Communism: views of, 71
561; foremost duty to, 638; formative years, 78, 363, Community: defending, 516, (s)713; family and, 244,
478, 484, 515, 558, 635-636, (s)757; genetics and, 265, 279; hierarchical governance of, 557; ideal, 694;
247; of interfaith marriages, 311; mother’s critical improving dynamics of, 686; role in abusive situa-
influence, 21, 244-249, 256-257, 283-284 (see also tions, 561, 656, (s)723 (see also Abuse, Bystanders);
Working mother); neglected, 246, 317, 320; parents’ role in alcoholism, (s)747; role in arbitration, (s)737;
adultery and, 409-410; positive guidance of, 341-344, role in marriages, 308, 321-325, 683, (s)724, (s)726;
350, 375, (s)731-732; premature independence, 257, service to, 159, 516; vows and, 114. See also Group;
331-334; preparing for puberty, 330-331; protect- Society
ing against drugs, (s)746; renouncing secrecy, 279; Companions: choosing wisely, 59, 165, 188-190,
repeating parents’ karmas, 278; sacrificing for, xxvii; (s)721; clothing and, 651-652. See also Associates;
saμskâras for, (s)731; scriptures for, 478, 484; sen- Friends; Peers
sitivity of, 246; teaching by example, 343, 479, 503, Compassion: discussion, 45-46; for all beings, 536-
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537, (s)712; beliefs conducive to, 515; cultivating, Contention: See Argument; Conflict; Disharmony
(s)710; Dalai Lama, 535-536; and perception of evil, Contentment: discussion, 71-72; and ahiμsâ, 22;
(s)706; vegetarianism as, 510. See also Ahiμsâ. cultivating, (s)711, (s)778
Compatibility: in marriage, 284, 291-293, 305-307, Continence: See Brahmacharya; Celibacy; Purity; Sex;
(s)724, (s)726. See also Astrology Virginity
Competition: contentious nature of, 167, 613, (s)700; Contraception: abortion vs., 423
ethics and, 523 Contracts: written business, (s)737
Complaint: aging and, 438, 440; refraining from, (s)701 Contrition: See Apology; Penitence; Remorse
Comprehension: consciousness of, 202-205 Conversation: man-woman, (s)720, (s)722; monastics’
Computers: limits needed, 281; pornography and, protocol, (s)785; satguru and, (s)759-760
411-412; prayers written on, 599; use and abuse, Conversion: Americans’ reasons, 588; assisting in,
395-402, (s)715. See also Internet; Websites; World (s)734; Christian schooling and, 635-637; deflecting
Wide Web attempts, 638-639; ethical, (s)767; from and to Hin-
Concentration: exercises, 139, 193, 205; ha†ha yoga duism, 469-471, 680-681; susceptibility to, 669, 677
and, 796-797; leading to meditation, 162, 192-193; (see also Schools); wars and, 639. See also Religions;
monastics’, (s)780; path to enlightenment, (s)774; Vrâtyastoma
persistence, 14; tools for, 199; mahâ vâsanâ daha Cord: sacred, 129
tantra and, 192 Corruption: nonparticipation in, (s)739, (s)785. See
Conception: attracting older souls, 419; karmic also Bribery
responsibility, 420-423; of monastic sons, (s)769; Counseling: for conversion, (s)767; for domestic
Narakaloka souls, 273, 521; potluck off the astral abuse, 273, 325, 375, (s)721; for families, xxxi, xxxv;
plane, 419 for life transitions, (s)748; for marriages, 318-319,
Conditioning: overcoming, 177 683, (s)726; by monastics, 79, (s)785; for terminal
Conduct: belief vs., 470 illness, (s)749. See also Guidance
Confession: repentance and, 223-225, (s)702. See also Courts: community arbitration preferred, (s)737; di-
Atonement; Penance vorce cases, 318; human rights, 345-346; vigilantism
Confidence: monastics’ vow, (s)778 vs., 517, 534
Conflict: beliefs and, 501-502; effect on unfoldment, Covetousness: refraining from, (s)710. See also Asteya
189; forestalling, (s)768; key to ending, 504-506; Cows: caring for, xxviii
lower consciousness and, 505, 522. See also Dishar- Crafts: aid to unfoldment, 138
mony; Violence; War Creativity: brahmacharya and, 130; conflict vs.,
Confusion: apologizing for, 556; chakra of, (s)746; (s)782; gossip vs., 376; importance of, 138; inner
overcoming, 86, 174-176, 378, 573; ramification laws, 377; skills and, (s)773; superconscious, 191-192
and, 211-212; religious, 635-637; restricting spiritual Creator: God Íiva as, 7, (s)704
practice, 507; stage of, see Marul Pâda Creatures: love of all, xxviii; nonviolence toward,
Conscience: awakening of, 477; remorse and, 62-63; (s)712 (see Ahiμsâ, Vegetarianism); stewardship of,
vegetarianism and, 509 (s)714. See also Ecology; Environment; Species
Conscious mind: alcohol’s effect on, 153, 155; inter- Credit: not among members, (s)737; use and abuse,
relating with other states, 138; limited state, 253; and 31-33. See also Asteya; Debt
seeds of desire, 796; see also Mind Creeds: rights of all, (s)714
Consciousness: alcohol and, 153-155; in all life, Cremation: guidelines, (s)750
515; caste and, 482-483; chakras and, 331, (s)774; Crime: causative factors, xxv, 245, 345; child abuse as,
cleanliness and, 59; continuity after death, 465; diet 345-346; prevention of, 478-479, 681; punishment
and, 50-53, 517; drugs and, 147-152; expansion of, for, see Courts. See also Abuse
(s)778; ha†ha yoga and, 794; levels of, 501-510, 520- Criticism: of children, 329-330; destructive effects,
524; music and, 403; raising, 19, 107, 127-128, 516, 317, 544, 686; foolishness of, 493; lower conscious-
(s)702; Íiva as pure, 7, 9, (s)704; undying, 432. See ness, 227; of oneself, 214; of satguru, 204, (s)760; of
also Awareness; Chakras; Energy; Spirituality; Unfold- spouse, 244
ment; Willpower Cruelty: in animal testing, (s)714; conquering, (s)710;
Consent: required for marriage, 306, (s)726 described, 45
Consequences: in child-rearing, (s)732 Culture: breakdown of, 317, 633, 693; clothing and,
Consideration: soul quality, 546-549 651-652; eroded by drugs, (s)746; manifestations of,
Consistency: in daily sâdhana, 161-164; every single (s)773; name affirming, (s)772; outgrowth of temple
brick, 13-14; and harmony with guru, 607; in ha†ha worship, 672
yoga, 807; overcoming doubts and fears, 573; realis- Cultures: Hindu vs. British Christian, 346; respect for
tic goals, 174-176; willpower and, 200 all, 504, 516, 642-643, (s)714; Tamil Íaiva, (s)773
Contemplation: experience of, 14; meditation leading Currents: See Nâ∂îs
to, 193; monastics’ purpose, (s)778; path to enlight- Curses: discussion, 372-375; broken by forgiveness,
enment, (s)774; Self and, 14 373. See also Profanity; Swearing
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Cybersex: See Pornography Destiny: man’s, 12

Cynicism: expression of contempt, 370 Destroyer: God Íiva as, (s)704
Detachment: affectionate, 531; and quest for God, 6;
Daßamâμßa: See Tithing vows and, 7
Dalai Lama: ahiμsâ of, 535-536 Detractors: dealing with, (s)757, (s)768; guarding
Dâna: asteya and, 31. See also Char- against, 652-654
ity; Giving Devaloka: assistance from, 572; between births, 483-
Dance: God Íiva’s cosmic, xxii; 484; entering during sleep, 130-131; invoking forces
ha†ha yoga analogy, 799; religious of, 39; Narakaloka and, 58-59, 520-523; promiscuity
expression in, 468. See also Arts a barrier, 126; Second World, 581. See also Antar-
Dancing with Íiva: memorizing ßlokas of, 484; Íaivite loka; Astral plane; Three worlds
Hindu philosophy, xix; scriptural authority of, Devarams: heard by devas, 581, 585
(s)770; text for all ages, 639-640 Devas: astrological help, 306; communication with,
Darßana: effects of, 467; experience of, 586; of satguru, 581-582, 585-586; depicted in art, 468; ghosts vs.,
186, (s)758 454; guardian, 91, 164, 581; help for penitent, 223,
Darkness (stage of): See Pâdas 535; in the home, 58, 255-256, 266, 282; monastic
Daughters: training, (s)731; visits after marriage, xxx. community and, 620; monitoring bad money, 385;
See also Children; Education; Marriage; Youth praying to, 593-601, (s)773, (s)775; vows and, 111.
Daya: See Compassion See also Angels; Devaloka; Prayer
Dead: cremation of, (s)750. See also Deceased; Departed Devotee: God and, 466
Death: discussion, 445-450; aftermath of, (s)750; Devotees: groupies vs., 84-85, 336, 370-371. See also
anniversary ceremonies, 447-448, (s)750; astral Disciples; Íishyas
existence after, 166, 453-454 (see Astral body); distri- Devotion: brahmachâri∫î’s path, (s)725; cultivat-
bution of assets, xxxviii; family retreat following, 58, ing, 89-90; feigned, (s)716; key to one-pointedness,
426-427, (s)755; Hindu attitudes toward, 463-465; 490; mitigating intolerance, 39; protecting sense of,
inner-plane counselors, 454; preparedness, 211-213, (s)757; to satguru, (s)758. See also Bhakti
(s)749; not promoting, (s)740; psychosomatic, 432; Dharma: discussion, 475-485; abortion and, see Abor-
Saint Tiruvalluvar on, 463; self-willed, 423-425; tion; anarchy vs., 520; beliefs and, 501; box analogy,
swâmîs’ worldly, (s)786; vâsanâs and, 233. See also 508; caste and, 483; commitment as, 656-657; and
Aging; Longevity; Reincarnation; Rites of passage concept of sin, 464; contentment and, 72-73; defense
Debt: avoiding, 31-33, (s)710; tithing and, 829-830. and, 516-519; divorce vs., 318-319; failure to teach,
See also Asteya; Credit 317; faith and, 84; guidebook of, 374; householder’s,
Decadence: diet and, 49 364, 622; karma controlled by, 343; men’s and wo-
Deceased: attitude toward, (s)750. See also Dead; men’s, 241-249, 253-261, 265, 470, (s)730; progres-
Departed sive stages of, (s)748; religious duty, 159; remorse
Deception: discussion, 24-26, 47-49; false remorse, 62; and, 63; serving satguru, (s)758; soul’s evolution and,
families destroyed by, 277-278; of guru, 112, 115; re- 8-9, 88; vegetarianism as, 53; youth and, (s)734 (see
fraining from, (s)710, (s)760; religious, 671, 678, 682. also Brahmacharya). See also Åßrama dharma; Duty;
See also Honesty; Truthfulness Ethics; Purusha dharma; Íaiva Dharma; Sanâtana
Decision: power of, 152-153. See also Willpower Dharma; Strî dharma; Var∫a dharma
Defense: ahiμsâ and, (s)713; dharma and, 516, 519- Dharmaßâla: functions of, (s)764
520; retaliation vs., 534. See also Protection Dh®iti: See Steadfastness
Deities: care of, 564; stone images of, 467. See also De- Diaspora, Hindu: and matchmaking, 306; Nand-
ity; God; Gods inâtha Sûtras and, 694; problems from, xxvi-xxix.
Deity: family and, 254; mother as, 254; ßakti of, 246. See also Westernization
See also Deities; God; Gods Diet: discussion, 49-53; consciousness and, 140, 510;
Deliberation: importance of, (s)699 guidelines, (s)744-745; healthy sweets, 356; physical,
Delinquency: family breakdown and, xxv; working mental, emotional, 135-140. See also Åyurveda; Di-
mother and, 281, 284 gestion; Food; Moderation; Nutrition; Vegetarianism
Denial: forms of, 223 Digestion: aids to, 140; mental, 137-138; prâ∫âyâma
Departed: communication with, 597; food offerings for, 151
to, (s)750. See also Dead; Deceased Dignitaries: protocol, (s)754
Depression: alcohol and, (s)747; avoiding, 114; envi- Dîkshâ: guru, 116; mantra, 116; sannyâsa, 621-624.
ronment and, 58; faith vs., 84; mumia and, 57 See also Initiation
Desire: bondage of, 5, 490; contentment vs., 71-72; Diplomacy: need for, 26
harnessing, 9, 59-60, 130; karmic effects of, 464; Disbelief: abyss of, 467
ku∫∂alinî and, (s)702; redirecting, (s)701; restrain- Disciples: God Íiva and, 466; story, 541; varying na-
ing, 38, 52, 475, (s)781; seeds of, 796-797; sexual, see tures of, 7. See also Devotees; Íishyas
Sex Discipline: discussion, 341-350; abusive, 374; bribery
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vs., 390-391; foremost, (s)712; monastics’ life of, see ligious, 159; never shirking, (s)700; protecting sense
Monastics; privilege and, 577. See also Austerity; Pen- of, (s)757; religious ideal, xxvii-xxviii; stages of life
ance; Positive Discipline; Sâdhana; Tapas and, (s)748; women’s special, (s)722. See Dharma
Disciplines: personal, (s)703, (s)748; recommenda- Dvaita: advaita and, 574. See also Theism
tions, (s)702; strictness explained, 693. See also
Sâdhana Ear-piercing: sacrament of, (s)731
Discouragement: avoiding, 162; misbehavior and, Earth: citizenship of, (s)714; rever-
(s)732; overcoming, 614 ence for, 643; sacrifice to, 117-119;
Discrimination: cultivating, 136-139, 141; karma con- stewardship of, 510, (s)740, 829. See
trolled by, 218-219. Contrast with Prejudice also Ecology; Environment; Species
Disease: defense against, (s)713; diet and, 53; negativi- East: women in, 241. See also Asia;
ty and, 548; speech and, 373; stress and, 209; tobacco India
and, 155. See also Health; Illness Eating: guidelines, 51, (s)744. See also Diet; Digestion;
Disharmony: lower-consciousness trait, 520-521; Food
resolving before sleep, see V®ittis; working wife and, Eckhart, Meister: on gratitude, 543
253, 257 (see also Working mother); zero tolerance Ecology: care of, 119, (s)738; humanity and, 50; veg-
for, 555-561, (s)700 etarianism and, 53. See also Earth; Environment;
Dishonesty: See Deception; Fraud Species
Disobedience: neglect and, 246 Eddy, Mary Baker: God is love, 529
Distraction: methods of avoiding, 8; overcoming, 181, Education: ahiμsâ in, 505; computers in, 395-397;
185-186, 193 drugs vs., 152; keeping it practical, 362; marriage
Diversity: protecting Earth’s, (s)714; teaching respect and, 268-272; of monastic sons, (s)769; outreach
for, 504 and, (s)766; parents’ responsibility, (s)700; perpetu-
Divine: transmutation and, (s)727 ating Íaiva Dharma, 633-643, 479; supporting, 78,
Divorce: bad money, 383-385, (s)716 (see Money); do- (s)736, (s)748; television and, 247-248; ultimate goal
mestic violence and, 323, 325; example, 300; Hindu of, 642; youth employment vs., 334-335. See also
attitudes toward, xxxii; increase of, 682; irrelevance Children; Schools; Youth
of, 318, 622; karma and, 271, 319; marriage without, Eggs: not consuming, 51-53, 510, (s)710, (s)744
xxxi, 126, 292, 319; modern variation, 320; problems Ego: coconut analogy, 530; freedom from, 467; limita-
arising from, 317-319; responsibility to prevent, 321- tions of, 491; monastics and, 79; psychism and, 103;
323; secrecy leading to, 277-278; statistics, xxxi. See public vs. hidden, 227; releasing bondage of, 530;
also Divorced renunciates’ freedom from, 626; rudrâksha mâlâ
Divorced: instructions for, (s)728. See also Divorce analogy, 103-104; shrouding effect of, 10; soul vs.,
Doctors: See Åyurveda; Healing; Health; Medicine 542, 545-547. See also Å∫ava; Personality
Domestic violence: See Child abuse; Spouse abuse Ekadaßa Rudra: Balinese Íiva festival, 649
Domination: marriage and, 268-272; psychic, 296 Elders: âdharmic, 437-438; authority of, 557; caring
Door of Brahman: energy from, 130; evolution and, for, (s)730; family adjustments, 285-287; guidance
168; monastics and, 620 by, 318, 325, 481, 557, 559; honoring, (s)729, (s)754;
Dot (forehead): See Bindi respect for, xxxvi, xxxiii-xxxiv, (s)729; role of, 325,
Double standard: religious, 649-650 431, 435, 683, 686, (s)726, (s)747; stage of life, (s)748;
Dowry: abusive system, xxix, xxxvi; injunction against, vows and, 114. See also Aging; Åßrama dharma
(s)726; type of bribery, 387 Embalming: injunction against, (s)750
Drama: See Arts Emotion: freeing memories from, 217, 226-233, 421,
Dreams: discussion, 451-452; ahiμsâ in, 501; astral 559. See also Astral body; Emotions; Vâsana daha
experiences, 166; confusion and, 213; non-preoccu- tantra
pation with, (s)775; noninjury in, (s)710; types of, Emotional body: See Astral body
127, 187 Emotions: aging and, (s)748; alcohol and, 154-155,
Dress codes: discussion, 650-651 (s)747; alleviated by dharma, 484; balancing stimuli,
Dress: See Attire; Clothing; Modesty 137-139, 141; clothing and, 651; controlling, 22, 210,
Drugs: bad money, 383-385, (s)716 (see Money); de- 213, 559, (s)774; effect on one-pointedness, 7; intel-
pendence on, 439; dysfunctional families and, 281; lect and, 104; maturing of, 432; meals and, (s)744;
injunction against, (s)746; mind-altering, 147-153; negativity and, 212; not identifying with, 14, (s)699;
psychic vulnerability, 454; teaching children about, promiscuity and, 34; releasing, 73-74, 347. See also
280. See also Alcohol; Narcotics; Nicotine; Tobacco Astral body; Emotion
Dualism: nondualism and, (s)704; violence and, 23, Empathy: bhakti and, 577
501, 506 Employees: proper treatment, (s)737
Duality: in human nature, 576; perception of, 5; Endowments: establishing, (s)736, (s)748. See also
Yogaswami and, 574 Hindu Heritage Endowment
Duty: ahiμsâ and, (s)713; avoidance of, 8; Hindu re- Energy: becoming aware of, 180; cognizing, 796; from
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soul body, 451; God Íiva as, 9; ha†ha yoga and, 794; Families: joined by marriage, 291, 298, 305-308, 355,
masculine and feminine, 242, 259; seeing Íiva as, 92; (s)726-727; monastics and, (s)784; swâmîs and,
sexual, 408; sushum∫â and, 799-800; transmutation (s)786. See also Family
of, 124-125, 129, 178; types of, 558; wise use of, 34- Family: abuse within, see Abuse, child abuse, Spouse
36. See also Prâ∫a; Transmutation abuse; agricultural vs. technological age, 243; ahiμsâ
Engagement: celebration of, 307 in, 341; alcohol and, (s)747; birth or death in, (s)755;
Enjoyment: obsession with, 317 breakdown of, 317, 693; business of, 363-364; daily
Enlightenment: brahmacharya and, 34-35; destiny of meetings of, 21; destroyed by adultery, 37; domestic
all souls, 23; mountain-peak analogy, 569, 572-574; violence, see Abuse, child abuse, Spouse abuse; dowry
path to, (s)711, (s)774; perseverance and, 40. See hardship, xxxvi (see Dowry); extended, xxxviii-xxxix,
also Samâdhi 242, 286, 321, (s)730; followers as one, (s)729; future
Enmity: abjuring, (s)739; beliefs conducive to, 23 of humankind, 643; guru and, 336, 605, 615; harmo-
Entanglement: not for monastics, (s)785; protecting ny in, 557, 564; Hinduism’s strengthening influences,
family from, (s)730. See also Aura; Nâ∂îs; Tubes xxx-xxxvii; ideals of, 266-268; joint, xxxvii-xxxviii;
Entertainment: avoiding vulgarity, (s)720; television kulaguru and, 272; modern challenges, xxv-xxix;
as, 141 monastery and, (s)729; monastic’s, 623-624, (s)780;
Environment: cleanliness in, (s)703; responsibility Monday home evening, 282, (s)721; mother’s es-
for, 33; reverence for, (s)714. See also Earth; Ecology; sential role, 246, 248-249, 255-258; mutual respect
Species in, 23; nuclear, 299; peace within, 503; predictable
Equality: marriage and, 270 crises of, 298-299, 323; problems and solutions, 277-
Eroticism: in Hinduism, 407, 414 287; protection of, 517, 519; providing for, (s)735;
Ethics: business, 523-524; household, (s)730; scientists’, raising monastic son, (s)769; reincarnation and, xxx,
(s)740. See also Ahiμsâ; Dharma; Yama-niyama 363, 435, 446-448, 464; renunciation of, 628; respect
Etiquette: complying with, (s)755 for, 641; role in death, (s)749; sâdhana in, 167; so-
Europe: Laws against corporal punishment, 345. ciety and, 27, 247-248; strengthening, 294, (s)730,
See also West (s)733; teamwork in, 243, 334; unity of, 300, (s)732;
Evil: Hindu views on, 464; not intrinsic, (s)706; per- worshiping together, 90. See also Babies; Children;
ception of, 23 Daughters; Families; Father; Home; Householder;
Evolution: See Soul; Unfoldment Husband; Marriage; Mother; Parenting; Parents; Sons;
Example: teaching by, 143, 245, 343, 479, 504, 563, 605 Spouse; Wife; Youth
Excellence: demanding of oneself, (s)700 Fantasy: sexual, 128, (s)715
Exercise: analogy of, 107; brahmacharya and, 36; Farewell: traditional forms, (s)772
health and, (s)745; spiritual, 13. See also Ha†ha Yoga; Fasting: guidelines, (s)745; for health, 52, (s)745; as
Sâdhana penance, 128, 227, 410, 413, (s)745; self-willed death
Existentialism: noninvolvement with, (s)757; views by, 424, (s)712; weekly religious, 159
of, 71 Father: children and, 245, 300, 320; of monastic son,
Exorcism: explanation, 454. See also Possession (s)769; role of, 247. See also Parenting; Parents
Experience: faith and, 87-88; of God, xiv, xvii, 7-9, Faults: spouse’s, (s)721, (s)723; wise handling of, 26.
503, 589; intellectualization vs., 101; learning from, See also Mistakes; Parenting
278, 493-494, (s)699; philosophy vs., 10; resolving, Favors: indebtedness and, 49
11; of Self, 12; self-created, 489; and soul’s evolution, Fear: not of aging, (s)748; chakra of, (s)746; in chil-
8; tendencies created by, 229; understanding, 217. dren, 278, 341; not of death, 465; drugs and, 149;
See also Karma; Mistakes never causing, 350, (s)712, (s)731, (s)787; overcom-
Exploitation: avoidance of, 516, (s)738 ing, 348, (s)710; reincarnation and, 536; releasing,
Eyes: levels of consciousness and, 521; not looking (s)699; sex and, 124, 126
into, (s)720, (s)722. See also Third eye Feeding, first: sacrament of, (s)731
Feedings: mass, 78
Face: loss of, 64 Feelings: karma and, 46
Failure: negativity and, 378; swear- Feet: touching in respect, xxxiii, (s)754, (s)786
ing and, 370. See also Success Feminism: dharma vs., (s)722
Faith: discussion, 83-88; cultivating, Festivals: attending temple, (s)765; Ekadaßa Rudra,
(s)711; destruction of, 343, 635-639; 649; observances, (s)703; priests for, (s)764
expressions of, (s)706; protection of, Fever: body’s natural defense, 798
(s)757; tithing as, 831 Fickleness: flexibility vs., 41. See also Indecision
Faithfulness: in marriage, 20, 36, 126, (s)710. See also Finances: See Money; Credit; Debt
Adultery; Marriage Fire: of cremation, (s)750; subconscious cleansing,
Faiths: respect for all, (s)714. See also Religions 422. See also Åratî; Flame; Homa; Prayer; Vâsanâ
Falsehood: refraining from, (s)710, (s)760 daha tantra
Fame: renunciation of, 627, 629 Fish: not consuming, 52-53, 510, (s)710, (s)744
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Flame: seen by devas, 581. See also Fire Garden: excluding pests, (s)713
Flexibility: fickleness vs., 41 Garlanding: guidelines, (s)755
Flirtation: damaging effects of, 409; renouncing, (s)715Generation gap: and family stress, 300; late marriage
Flowers: and forgiveness, 227, 347-348 and, 298
Food: gu∫as and, 135; offering to God, 92; purity in, Genetics: arranged marriages and, 247; intermarriage
57, 59-60, 140; renunciate’s detachment, 629; sat- and, 448
guru’s, (s)758; serving guidance with, 330; sharing of Gestures: of greeting, (s)754; humility in, (s)716;
rice, (s)703; stockpiling, (s)714. See also Diet; Mod- Tamil Íaiva, (s)773. See also Posture
eration; Vegetarianism Ghee: analogy of, 648
Food-blessing mantra: excerpt, 71 Ghosts: discussion, 453-454
Forbearance: monastics and, 39 Gifts: bribery vs., 390; marriage-related, 307; mo-
Forces: help in controlling, 572; occult, (s)775; odic nastics and, (s)784; as penance, 225; for prayers
and actinic, 123; of nervous system, 295; psychic, answered, 601; at swâmî’s departure, (s)754; tithing
296. See also Energy on, 821. See also Charity; Dâna; Giving
Forehead: marks worn on, 651, (s)724, (s)772 G®ihastha âßrama: community leaders needed,. See
Forgiveness: for abuse, 373, 375; and belief in rein- also Åßrama dharma; Householder
carnation, 465; compassion and, 45; flower pen- Ginger root: health benefits, 140
ance, 227, 347; flowers and, 347-348; inner vs. outer,Girls: training of, (s)731
Giving: discussion, 74-79; boomerang effect, 831;
(s)780; power of, 529-532, 534; seeking, 61, 64, (s)749
Form: God Íiva and, 8-10, (s)704; mind as, 12; signifi- merits of, 823; tithing vs., 833. See also Charity;
cance of, 465; unreality of, 13 Dâna; Gifts
Forms: business tithing reconciliation, 840; daßama Global Forum: Al Gore at, 401; generic Western attire,
bhâga vrata, 836, 841; personal tithing reconcilia- 651; Gurudeva’s message, 642
tion, 839 Goals: contentment and, 72; Eastern vs. Western, xx-
Fortune-telling: See Psychism vii; four traditional, 698; karma controlled by, 362;
Fowl: not consuming, 52-53, (s)710, (s)744 longevity and, 433-439; spiritual, xxi, 174-175; types
Fraud: bad money, 383-385, (s)716 (see Money); Tiru- of, 211. See also Priorities
kural on, 386 God and Gods: faith in, (s)711; men of, (s)780; prais-
Free will: arranged marriage and, 293 ing, (s)772; singing praises, (s)765; tapas and, 117;
Freedom: minorities and, (s)739; responsibility and, vows to, 111, 113-114. See also Deities; Deity; God;
508, 576-577 God Íiva; Gods
Friends: renunciation of, 628; role in abusive situa- God: One Supreme, 668. See God Íiva
tions, 323, (s)723. See also Associates; Chaperoning; God Íiva: âjñâ chakra and, 509; blessings of, (s)736,
Companions; Friendships; Peers 841; consciousness of, see God-consciousness; cosmic
Friendships: monitored by parents, (s)733 dance of, xxii, 11; dedication to, (s)779; experiencing,
Frugality: practicing, (s)714 216; focus for widowed, (s)724; God of Love, 584,
Frustration: modern life and, 467; worldliness and, 293 589; guests as, 75; Hinduism’s focus, 468; His one
Fulfillment: East vs. West, xxvii; giving as, 74-75; limitation, 11, 589; husband revered as, 271, (s)723;
wife’s, 77; women and, 249, 257 love as, 536-537; merging into, 200, 467; monastics’
Full-moon day: food sharing, (s)703 refuge, (s)778; mountaintop representing, 468;
Fundamentalism: violence and, 23 nature of, xiii-xiv, 5-7, 10-11, (s)704; perception of,
Funeral rites: See Rites of passage 9; personal experience of, 9, 503; relationship with,
Future: bringing Íaivism into, (s)779; of lineage, xxxv, 89-93, 466-467; satguru as, (s)754, (s)758; see-
(s)787; monastics and, (s)778; providing for, (s)735 ing in all, 8, 93, 265, 562-563, 577, 698; souls and,
8, 11, (s)705; temples of, (s)771; three perfections
Gambling: Gambler’s Lament (Vedic of, 583-584; will of, 201-202; worship of, 7, 10. See
quote), 33; nonparticipation in, 33, also Deity; God; God and Gods; Gods; Maheßvara;
(s)716 Na†arâja; Parameßvara; Satchidânanda; Íiva-Íakti;
Gandhi, Mahatma: celibacy of, 36, Íivaliˆga
113, 124; dharma of defense, 516; God-consciousness: death and, (s)749; mâyâ vs, 216;
and Hindu solidarity, 661; lifestyle, monastics and, (s)778; shrine room and, (s)720;
516; on penance, 421; power of acceptance, 481 tapas and, 599; virginity and, 125. See also God Re-
Ga∫eßa: dharma and, 476-479; functions of, 114, 584; alization
gatekeeper to Hinduism, 477; ha†ha yoga and, 801; Goddess: See Íakti
mûlâdhâra chakra and, 508; sugar cane fields rep- God Realization: at death, (s)749; foremost goal, 464,
resenting, 468; supplication of, (s)705; temples of, 698; life’s purpose, 656; sannyâsa and, 619-621, 624.
(s)771; worship of, (s)771. See also God and Gods See also Advaita; Enlightenment; God-consciousness;
Gaˆgâ: pilgrimage to, (s)771; reverence for, 575 Realization; Sahasrâra chakra; Self; Self Realization
Ganges: See Gaˆgâ Gods: avoiding lower chakras, 507; blessings of,
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(s)720; communication with, 585; created by God Habits: creating new, xxii; formation
Íiva, 584; depicted in art, 468; and family harmony, of, 561; motivation and, 370; replac-
561; grace of, 476; praying to, 593-598, 601; profes- ing unwanted, 59, 200, 214, 440;
sion and, 480; relationship with, 466-467; serving, tendencies and, 218
475, 478; soul’s evolution and, 477; temple and, 581, Ha†ha Yoga Pradîpikâ: yamas and
584-588; in the West, 469; written prayers to, (s)775. niyamas in, 21
See also Deities; Ga∫eßa; God; God and Gods; God Ha†ha yoga: discussion, 793-807; awareness and, 136;
Íiva; Murugan daily practice, (s)702; as exercise, (s)745. See also
Gold: value of, 383 Exercise
Gore, Al: expansion of Internet, 401 Hairline: directing gaze at, (s)720, (s)722
Gossip: discussion, 376-378; avoiding, (s)712; con- Halloween: ghosts and, 453
structive use of, 356 Hamlet: quote from, 47
Grace: descent of, 86; God’s and Gods’, 75, 86, 476, Hands: shaking, (s)755, (s)785
(s)705; guru’s, 60, 199, 507; invoking through pûjâ, Happiness: cultivating, 563; karma yoga and, 544-545
90; mitigating karma, 223, 492; penance and, 225; Hardship: See Adversity
satguru’s, 186, (s)706, (s)759; stage of, see Pâdas; Harmony: astrology and, 557; establishing, 556; ex-
tapas as, 598 pression of love, 564; goal of politics, (s)738; Gods
Graft: See Bribery; Corruption and, 469; guru-ßishya, 203-204; ha†ha yoga and, 804;
Grafting: marriage likened to, 291-292, 297 Nandinâtha Sûtras and, 694; nature of universe, 563;
Gratitude: constant, (s)701. See also Appreciation organizational, 654; personal, 559-560; promoting,
Greeks: ancient religion of, 160 (s)740, (s)756, (s)782, (s)787; Íânti Mantra invok-
Greeting: traditional forms, (s)754, (s)772 ing, (s)772; spiritual priority, 555; of three worlds,
G®ihastha âßrama: community leaders needed, 672. (s)706; Vedas on, 556, 560; worship and, (s)711. See
See also Åßrama dharma also Compatibility
Group: individual and, 165, 481, (s)729. See also Com- Hatred: in children, 341; crimes of, 668; overcoming,
munity; Organizations; Society 347-348; reincarnation and, 536; restricting spiritual
Gu∫as: food and, 135 practice, (s)702
Guests: treated as God, xxviii, 75, 91, 280, (s)729, 841; Havana: at local missions, (s)765; written prayers and,
unrelated adult, (s)730. See also Hospitality 594. See also Fire; Prayer
Guidance: accepting, 212; choices vs., 333-335, 361; Hawaii: ancient religion of, 666
effective timing, 330; by elders, (s)729, (s)748; by Headaches: ginger-root remedy, 140
guru, (s)702; by mother, 470, (s)730; by orthodoxy, Head-shaving: sacrament of, (s)731
(s)786; by parents, 331-336, (s)700, (s)731-734; by Healing: from misdeeds, 64; professions of, 480;
preceptor, 698, (s)740, (s)747, (s)769; by satguru, recommended systems, (s)745, 799
(s)711, (s)759; by scripture, (s)770. See also Chil- Health: diet and, 50, 53, (s)744; forgiveness and, 532;
dren; Parenting; Preceptor; Satguru; Youth ha†ha yoga and, 793-795, 797-800, 802-803, 806;
Guide, spiritual: See Guru; Preceptor; Satguru moderation and, 50; natural methods, (s)745; pres-
Guilt: in Christianity, 529; effects of, 341, 529; infidel- ervation of, 71, (s)713; sweets and, 356; tobacco vs.,
ity and, 410, (s)727; remorse vs., 63; 155, (s)746; unborn child’s, (s)747; vâsanâ daha tan-
Guns: toy, 397-399 tra and, 231. See also Alcohol; Disease; Drugs; Illness;
Guru: discussion, 97-103; blessings of, (s)720; chil- Longevity; Nutrition; Tobacco
dren’s first, xxxiii, 244, 479; faith in, (s)711; grace Heat: regulating body’s, 798
of, 199, 507; guidance of, 112, 115, 481, (s)702; hus- Heaven: self-created, 440. See also Devaloka
band as, 270-271; monastics’ refuge, (s)778; month Hell: self-created, 440. See also Narakaloka
of, (s)759; penance given by, 535; praising, (s)772; Helpfulness: and choice of profession, (s)738; cultiva-
protection by, 149; relationship with, 48, 112, 115- tion of, (s)720, (s)787; hospitality and, (s)729; ren-
116, 601, 605, 608, 612, 624; role of, 26; service to, dered freely, (s)701; in speech, (s)712
606; singing praises, (s)765; spiritual force of, 605- Heritage: See Tradition
615; varying attitudes, xxxv; vows to, 111, 114; wise Himalayan Academy: commitment to, (s)764; corre-
choice of, 99. See also Preceptor; Satguru spondence study, xxi; ha†ha yoga system of, 795, 807
Guru Mantra: on approaching satguru, (s)758 Hindu Heritage Endowment: commitment to, (s)764;
Guru Pûr∫imâ: love offerings, (s)736 as savings plan, (s)735; tithing to, 832
Gurukulas: life in, 161. See also Åßramas; Monastery Hindu solidarity: unity in diversity, 661-673, (s)756,
(s)781
Hindu Women’s Liberation Movement: purpose of,
241. See also Women’s liberation movement, Working
mother
Hinduism: on abortion, 422; attempted destruction
of, 246, 258, 470; attitudes toward alcohol, 154; con-
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version into, 469-471, 680-681; entrance into, 478; viii, 77, 257, 261, (s)723; working wife and, 253
eroticism in, 407, 414; essence of, 501; ethical code Hymns: of Satguru Yogaswami, (s)765. See also
of, 21; flexibility of, xxxv; ha†ha yoga as introduction, Natchintanai; Songs
803; liberal, 668-672; minimal religious duties, 159;
in modern times, 822; name affirming, (s)772; and I∂â and piˆgalâ: balancing, 798-799;
other religions, 468; population statistics, xxxvii, dreams and, 187; transmutation
822; pride in, 469; repairing attitudes toward, 470; and, 130
richness of, 463; solidarity in diversity, see Hindu Ideals: never compromising, (s)779
solidarity; standing strong for, 677-687; support Ignorance: dissolving, (s)705; evil
of, (s)781; teaching to children, 355, 359-360; vast and, (s)706; faith and, 89; shrouding
resources online, 400-402; in the West, 662. See also effect of, 10; soul’s evolution and, 86. See also Å∫ava;
Hindu solidarity; Religion; Íaivism; Íâktism; Sanâta- Ego
na Dharma; Smârtism; Vaish∫avism Illness: natural healing, (s)745; terminal, 423-425,
Hinduism Today magazine: commitment to, (s)764; (s)712, (s)749. See also Disease; Health
United Nations and, xxv; website, 400-401 Illusion: form and, 13, 465; mind as, 12; veil of, 491.
Hobbies: aid to unfoldment, 138 See also Form; Mâyâ
Holy ash: wearing, (s)702, (s)724, (s)772. See also Images: stone, of Deities, 467, 585-586; traditional,
Vibhûti (s)715
Holy men: avoidance during menses, (s)722; serving, Immortality: aging and, (s)748; Vedas on, (s)749
(s)729 Impatience: overcoming, 38-40, (s)710. See also Pa-
Holy Orders: of monastics, (s)778; of Sannyâsa, 619, tience
626, (s)725 Impulses: sources of, 201
Homa: written prayers and, (s)773 Impurity: avoiding, (s)710. See also Purity
Home: ahiμsâ modeled in, 505; birthplace of har- Income: gross vs. net, 834; sanctifying, 825-826, 830,
mony, 555; cleanliness of, (s)703; dying at, (s)749; 837; spending within, 283, (s)735; tithing to lineage,
ending war in, 504; extension of temple, 90; God’s (s)736, 841. See also Budget; Credit; Debt; Money;
house, 91-92; Hindu attire in, (s)720, (s)722; house Tithing; Wealth
vs., 280-283; ownership of, (s)735; prâ∫as in, 557- Indecision: overcoming, (s)710. See also Fickleness
558; protecting vibration of, 73-74, 164; protection Independence: premature, (s)732
of, (s)713; purification ceremony, 282; purity of, India: abortion in, 421; average income, 822; long
57-58; purpose of, 841; reflection of monastery, 167; subjugation of, 470
renunciation of, 629; returning from work, (s)720; Indigestion: mental, 137-138. See also Digestion
as temple, 253; temple and, 255, 586, 595; woman’s Individual: group and, 165, (s)729; harmony within,
essential role, 241-242, 244-247, 254-260, 300, 470, 559-560
(s)723, (s)730. See also Family; Household; Marriage; Industrialization: effect on family, 277
Shrine room Infidelity: ruinous effects of, 409-410
Homelessness: houselessness vs., 280 Initiation: mantras and, 115; readiness for, 98, 112,
Homes: visiting fellow devotees’, (s)729 116, (s)766; seeking, (s)758. See also Dîkshâ
Honesty: discussion, 46-49; bribery vs., (s)716; finan- Inner planes: See Antarloka; Íivaloka; Three worlds
cial, (s)735; practicing, (s)710. See also Truthfulness Innersearch Travel-Study Programs: annual inten-
Hospitality: helpfulness and, (s)729; Hindu spirit of, sives, xxi
280; spiritual duty, xxviii, 75. See also Guests Innerversity: learning from, 138
Hostility: punishment and, 350 Infinity: mind and, 10
Household: ethics of, (s)730; pest control, 45, (s)713. Insecurity: in children, 341; manifestations of, 285
See also Home Insensitivity: conquering, (s)710
Householder: choosing path of, (s)734; dharma Insincerity: karma of, 549
of, 364, 622; stage of life, (s)748. See also Åßrama Inspiration: eroded by swearing, 370. See also Cre-
dharma; Family; Marriage ativity; Intuition
Humanity: advancement of, 259; as one family, xxxix; Instinctive mind: conquest of, 627; controlling, 19,
desire to help, 465; inherent perfection of, 464; mo- 21, 111, 128, 201; diet and, 135; domination by, 297;
nastics’ family, (s)780; progress of, 503; rights of all, functions of, 558; loosening hold of, 225, (s)701; na-
(s)714; scientists and, (s)740 ture of, 503. See also Subconscious mind
Humility: cultivating, (s)716; feigned, 112, 115; in Institutions: screening contributions, 383-385. See
prosperity, (s)735; monastics’ hallmark, (s)781; also Group; Organizations
power of, 556, 560; vow of, 40, (s)778 Intellect: attainment vs., 574-576; balancing stimuli,
Hurtfulness: Narakaloka and, 521 137-139; body of, 453; conquest of, 627; controlling,
Husband: abuse of, 343; daily pûjâ of, 260; dharma 22, 200-201, (s)780; detachment of, 7; drugs and,
of, 265, 657; home as refuge, 253; instructions for, (s)746; faith and, 83, 85-89; functions of, 503, 558;
(s)721; role in family, 279, 285, (s)730; wife and, xxx- God and, 10; harmony impaired by, 607; loosening
908 LIVING WITH ÍIVA

hold of, (s)701; nature of, 6; not identifying with, Kalîbasa: breath control, 179
(s)699; purifying, 104-105; sâdhana and, 162; spiri- Kali Yuga: celibacy stabilizing, 124, 127; darkness of,
tual, (s)711 xv; life in, 625; maintaining God-consciousness in,
Intelligence: God Íiva as, 10 827; monastics balancing, 619; Narakaloka influence
Interests: monastics’ personal, (s)780 in, 59
Intermarriage: genetics and, 448 Kâma Sûtra: eroticism in, 407
Internet: children and, 397; limits needed, 281; por- Karma: discussion, 489-496; accepting responsibility,
nography and, 411-412; The Master Course available, 11, 493, 529, (s)699, (s)780; of adultery, 408, 410;
xx; use and abuse, 399, (s)715. See also Computers; alleviating, 101, 103, 225, 232, 491-494, 560; of back-
Media; Websites; World Wide Web sliding, 213; belief in, 466; of bribery, 388-389, 391;
Intimacy: eyes and, (s)720, (s)722 business practices and, 524; of child abuse, 349; and
Intolerance: overcoming, 39; restraining, (s)710. See concept of sin, 464; contentment and, 72; control-
also Tolerance ling, 73, 86, 163, 217-219, 362; death and, 446; of
Intuition: in child-rearing, 284; gaining access to, 376; deception, 48; dharma and, 8, 475-476, 507-508, 536;
remembering, 199; subsuperconscious mind and, 161 of divorce, 271, 319, 322; of drug abuse, 150-152;
Inventions: cautions, (s)740 not an excuse, 343; family and, 265-267, 278, 287,
Investment: tithing as, 833. See also Hindu Heritage 448; forgiveness and, 530; giving and, 75; of gossip,
Endowment 376; ha†ha yoga and, 800-803; of insincerity, 549;
Iraivan temple: no bribes, 387; pilgrimage to, (s)771; intensified at puberty, 355; knowledge and, 369; law
reverence for, (s)764 of, 5; love and, 564; and mental agitation, 9; monas-
Irul pâda: stage of darkness, 85, 87, 89. See also Pâdas tics and, 39, 79; of neglect, 248; overcoming, 32, 40;
Ish†a Devatâ: personal relationship with, 466 of physical abuse, 348; physical body needed, 446;
Islam: attitude toward alcohol, 154; beliefs heretical to, prayers and, 596; profession and, 480; reincarnation
677; doctrines of, 255, 638; effects on India, 52; reli- and, 230, 449, 463-464, (s)705, (s)749; removing
gious authority in, 683. See also Abrahamic religions bondage of, 10, (s)705; resolving, xxxii; of retaliation,
533; rice analogy, 495; sâdhana and, 371; sexual in-
Jainism: attitude toward drugs, 153; tercourse and, 408; softened by sâdhana, 433; soul’s
nonviolence in, 501, 515-516; scrip- evolution and, 8, 11, 86; of suicide, 423, 496; televi-
tural quote, 502 sion and, 142; of thoughts and feelings, 46; three
Japa: as penance, 225; guru and, 115; kinds, 495; of tithing, 823, 831; toys analogy, 8; veg-
heard by devas, 585; prerequisites, etarianism and, 53; war and, 517; Westerners’ belief
795; rudrâksha beads for, (s)711. See in, 679; of wife abuse, 324-325; of working wife, 255;
also Chanting; Japa yoga; Mantras young souls’, 625. See also Acceptance; Challenges;
Japa yoga: effects of, 57; practice and cautions, (s)702; Malas; Problems; Seed karmas
Íiva-consciousness and, 8. See also Chanting; Japa; Karma yoga: Gurudeva’s expectations, 606; happiness
Mantras and, 545; more with age, (s)702. See also Service;
Jealousy: restricting spiritual practice, 507 Seva
Jefferson, Thomas: on religious freedom, 662 Kârttikeya: dissolving ignorance, (s)705; hill repre-
Jewelry: guidelines for use, (s)722-724 senting, 468. See also God and Gods; Murugan
Jñâna: attainment of, 10; willpower and, 197. See also Kauai Aadheenam: institutions of, (s)764; Na†arâja
Wisdom deity of, 593; sons’ service at, 606
Joy: promoting, (s)787; serenity and, (s)711; sorrow Kavadi: at Murugan festivals, (s)703; as penance, 225;
and, 13, 490, 494 performing, 227
Judaism: attitude toward alcohol, 154; beliefs heretical Kevala avasthâ: See Avasthâ
to, 677; doctrines of, 255, 638; reform and liberal Killing: penance for, 232
movements of, 670-671; religious authority in, 684. Kindness: cultivating, 555; expression of love, 563;
See also Abrahamic religions healing power of, 544-545; in parenting, (s)731; in
Justice: courts and, see Courts; goal of politics, (s)738- speech, (s)712
739; karma and, 465; Lord Ga∫eßa as, (s)705 King, Martin Luther, Jr: power of acceptance, 481
Jyotisha: See Astrology Knowing: contemplation and, 14; thinking vs.,
546-549
Kadaitswami: Nâtha Sampradâya, Knowledge: danger of, (s)740; God and, 10; karma
607 and, 369
Kadavul Hindu Temple: address, Kriyâ: See Worship
601 Kriyâ yoga: cautions, (s)702
Kaîf: def., 181 Kriyamâna karma: discussion, 495-496
Kailâsa, Mount: pilgrimage to, Kriyâs: ha†ha yoga and, 795; primitive release, 804
(s)771; reverence for, 575 Kshatriyas: dharma of, 518-519, 634. See also Caste
Kailâsa Paramparâ: mission of, 621 system
INDEX 909

Ku∫∂alinî: discussion, 799-801; awakening of, 164, (s)780; power of, 279, 334, 454; true vs. magnetic,
477; cautions, 804; monastics and, (s)778; sexual 309; ways of expressing, 563-564. See also Bhakti
energies and, 125. See also Ku∫∂alinî yoga LSD: See Drugs
Ku∫∂alinî yoga: cautions, (s)702. See also Ku∫∂alinî Lust: avoiding in associates, (s)720; controlling, 35-36,
Kulaguru: family and, xxxviii, xxxiv-xxxv, 272 (s)710; renunciation of, 629
Kumbhalavalai: pilgrimage to, (s)771 Lying: See Deception; Falsehood

Lakshmi: wife as, 260 Magic: non-practice of, (s)775

Languages: respect for all, (s)714; Magnetism: prâ∫ic, 557; sexual, 126
specialized, 586-587, (s)773 Mahâbhârata: on ahiμsâ, 519;
Laws: and child abuse, 345-346; cos- defense vs. anarchy, 520; personal
mic, 8; and hate crimes, 668; natural, sacrifice in, xxvii. See also Bhagavad
210; Saiva Siddhanta Church and, Gîtâ
(s)787; spiritual, 13; and violence, 506. See also Maharshi, Ramana: spiritual attainment of, 570
Courts Mahâßivarâtri: love offerings, (s)703
Laziness: spiritual, 371 Maheßvara: God Íiva as, xiv
Leadership: g®ihasthas needed, 672; older souls’ re- Ma∫ipûra chakra: two choices, 106; willpower chakra,
sponsibility, 505, 522. See also Ministers 106-107, 533. See also Chakras; Willpower
Learning: sacrament of, (s)731; subconscious absorp- Makimai: giving after tithing, 75; Hindu tradition,
tion, 138. See also Education; Schools 824. See also Tithing
Lemurian Scrolls: scriptural authority of, (s)770 Malas: overcoming, 103; Íiva’s concealing grace, 85-86.
Liberation (Moksha): death vs., 449; destiny of all See also Å∫ava; Bondage; Karma; Mâyâ
souls, 467; goal of life, 23; Nandinâtha lineage and, Malice: chakra of, (s)746; tapas and, 598
(s)757; reincarnation and, (s)705; ultimate goal, 464; Mandela, Nelson: power of acceptance, 482
of women, 241; yoga and, 503 Manipulation: emotional, (s)722; not of satguru,
Life: basic tenets of, 503; last days of, (s)749; lessons of, (s)759
(s)774; living joyously, 219; preservation of, (s)713; Mankind: See Humanity
purpose of, 190, 475, 698 (see Dharma); reality of, Mantras: discussion, 115-116; anger restricting, 91;
465; religion as guide, 337; remembrance of prior, chanting daily, (s)702, (s)772; as death nears, (s)749;
464; sanctity of, 515; seeing as Íiva, 698; spiritual policeman analogy, 115; power of, 369; Íaivism’s
opportunity, (s)701; stages of, 331, 434-436, 621, foremost, (s)706. See also Aum; Aum Nama˙ Íivâya;
(s)748; thirst for, 628 Bhojana Mantra; Chanting; Food-blessing mantra;
Lifespan: See Aging; Death; Longevity; Reincarnation Guru Mantra; Japa; Pañchâkshara Mantra
Lifestyle: changing, 176, 188 Manu Dharma Íâstras: on penance for adultery, 410
Light: consciousness at death, (s)749; God Íiva as, 7, Manu Saμhitâ: on vegetarianism, 509
10; seeking within, (s)701; Self as, 13 Manu Sm®iti: on protection of women, xxxvii
Lineage: distributing teachings of, (s)766; maintain- Marie Antoinette: Let them eat cake, 49
ing purity of, 97, (s)786; marrying within, (s)726; Marriage: age difference in, 298; antagonism in, 272;
perpetuation of, (s)766; samâdhi shrines of, (s)771; arranged, 259, 291-297, 305-308, 310-311, (s)725,
shunning detractors, (s)768; sons for, (s)769; study- (s)726; balancing forces in, 123; both families’ sup-
ing teachings of, (s)711; supporting, (s)736. See also port, 307-309; brahmacharya in, 129; bribery and,
Nandinâtha lineage; Sampradâya; Satguru 387, 391; celibacy until, 34-35, 37, 296, 335, 408,
Liquor, hard: abstaining from, 154; injunction against, (s)733; counseling for, 318-319, 683, (s)726; crises
154. See also Alcohol; Beer; Wine of, 322; damaging factors, 254; early vs. late, 291-300,
Listening: choices in, 611; scriptural, see Siddhânta 336, 412; faithfulness in, 126, 129, (s)710; genetics
ßrava∫a. See also Music and, 247; harmony in, 561; ideals of, 265; impor-
Literature: distribution of, 78, (s)766; violence in, 633 tance of preserving, 317-320; infidelity, 409-410 (see
Livelihood: See Business; Career; Profession; Vocation Adultery); intercultural, xxvi-xxix; interfaith, 311-
Living with Íiva: Íaivite Hindu lifestyle, xx; scriptural 312; international, 309-310; lifetime commitment,
authority of, (s)770 311, 622; many facets of, 292; patterns of, 268-272;
London: Swaminarayan temple, 824, 834 pornography and, 411-414; sacrament of, (s)731;
Longevity: diet and, 50, (s)745; forgiveness and, 532; sexual purity in, 36-37, 123; ship analogy, 319; sup-
ha†ha yoga and, 794-795, 798, 800; planning for, 433- port groups for, 321; sustaining, (s)727; symbols
436, 438-439, (s)748; secrets of, 432-433; tobacco vs., of, 583; teaching respect for, 641; union of families,
155, (s)746. See also Aging; Death; Elders; Health 355, (s)727; vows of, 244; young man’s option, 685.
Lotus: posture for meditation, 178 See also Compatibility; Family; Home; Remarriage;
Love: chakra of, (s)746; focused on family, (s)723; Spouse abuse
God Íiva as, 6, 10-11, 536-537, (s)704; governing Marul pâda: stage of confusion, 85, 86, 88-89, 100.
by, 557; many levels of, 561-562; monastics’ spirit, See also Pâdas
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Massage: ha†ha yoga and, 798 control of, 376-378, 550; daily maintenance, 213;
Master Course: See The Master Course does not age, 431; five states of, 161, (s)774; infin-
Masturbation: prâ∫a and, 127 ity and, 10; mastery of, 14; nature of, 12, 503; not
Materialism: meditation vs., 173; modern dominance identifying with, 14; over matter, 432; purity in, 5;
of, 317; stress and, 320; worship and, 93 quieting, 177; Self and, 13; states of, 147, 253; three
Mati: See Cognition phases of, 558. See Conscious mind; Subconscious
Mâyâ: bondage of, 10, 102-103; God Íiva as, xiii; mind; Superconscious mind
piercing the veil, 64; removal of, (s)705; significance Mind-reading: See Psychism
of, 465. See also Form; Illusion; Malas Ministers: needed in Hinduism, 683. See also Leader-
Meals: Bhojana Mantra, (s)772; monastics’ travel- ship
ing, (s)784; offering to God, 92; parental guidance Minorities: society and, (s)739
during, 330; preparation for, 140, (s)703; regularly Misbehavior: children’s, (s)732
scheduled, (s)744; serving others first, (s)723. See Miscarriage: abortion vs., 423
also Diet; Food; Nutrition Misdeeds: remorse for, 60-65, (s)711; tapas and, 117.
Meat: not consuming, 53, 307, (s)710, (s)744 See also Penance; Sin
Meat-eating: effects on consciousness, 51; reasons to Mission house: burning prayers at, (s)775; functions
stop, 53; and violence, 509-510, 517 of, (s)764-765
Media: adharmic role models, 60, 311, 414; combat- Mission: monastics’, (s)779; two-year, (s)769
ting abuse, 656; dharmic enjoyment of, 35. See also Missionaries: responding to, 638; youth as, 337, 484
Internet; Movies; Television; World Wide Web Mistakes: learning from, 431, 435, 625; parents’ atti-
Medicine: ahiμsâ and, (s)740; natural methods, tude toward, (s)731-732. See also Experience; Faults
(s)744-745. See also Åyurveda; Healing; Health Mistrust: in children, 341-342
Meditation: before meals, 140; best times, 143; cau- Misunderstanding: resolving, 211-213
tions, xxi, 273, 507, (s)702; concentration leading to, Mitâhâra: See Moderation
162, 192-193; controlling your own mind, 550; daily Moderation: alcohol and, 155; of appetite, 19, 49-52;
practice, (s)699, (s)702-703; diet and, 50-51, 136; in diet, 19, 136, (s)710, (s)744
discipline in, 5; discussion, 173-181; encouraging Modesty: discussion, 60-62, 65-66; in attire, 36,
son’s, 622; encouraging spouse’s, (s)727; fears re- (s)722; cultivating, (s)711. See also Attire; Clothing
garding, 163, 177; force for change, 190; ha†ha yoga Moksha: See Liberation
and, 793, 795, 807; objectivity and, 214; overcoming Moment: eternity of, 38, (s)699
obstacles, 185-193; path to enlightenment, (s)774; Monastery: families and, 270, (s)729; harmony in,
persistence in, 14; (s)702; psychedelics vs., 147-151; 557; life in, 65, 143, 402, 625; never borrowing from,
readiness for, 232-233, 521; sâdhana and, 166, 199; (s)737; preparation to enter, (s)725; raising sons
Satchidânanda, 165; on satguru, (s)758; Shûm lan- for, 622, (s)769; reflected in homes, 167; search for
guage, (s)773; sleep and, 186-187; understanding candidates, (s)766; selflessness in, (s)778. See also
karma, 480-490; worship and, 90, 93, 589 Åßramas; Monasticism; Monastics
Mediumship: cautions, 454. See also Channeling; Monasticism: discussion, 619-626; candidacy for,
Ghosts; Occultism; Psychism 624; community support for, 641; encouraging
Meenakshi temple: pilgrimage to, (s)771 sons, (s)769; importance of, 695; remorse in, 65; in
Meetings: daily family, (s)731; Íânti Mantra at, (s)772 Swaminarayan Fellowship, 824; training for sannyâs,
Memorials: after death, (s)750 (s)725. See also Monastery; Monasticism; Sâdhakas;
Memories: aging and, 440; freeing from emotion, 217, Sannyâsins; Swâmîs
228-233, 421, 559; hurtful, 347. See also Memory Monastics: discussion, 622-624; ahiμsâ and, 23; at-
Memorization: importance of, 634 titudes and qualities, (s)780-781; conduct, 26, 48;
Memory: counteracting loss of, 432; see also Memo- giving by, 79; Holy Orders of, (s)778; karma and,
ries 39; mission of, (s)779; no entanglements, (s)785;
Men: choice of paths, (s)734; instructions for, (s)720; personal care, (s)783; power of, 24; as priests, (s)764;
seated on right, (s)755; women’s behavior with, protocol with, (s)754-755; relationship with guru,
(s)722-723. See also Sexes 605-606, 624; relatives of, (s)769; renegade, (s)768;
Menopause: family crisis, 298-299, 322 restrictions for, (s)782; travel and retreat, (s)784. See
Menses: activity during, (s)722 also Monastery; Monasticism; Sâdhakas; Sannyâsins;
Mental body: aging and, 331, 432, (s)748; astral body Swâmîs
and, 451 Monday: family home evening, 266, 282-283, (s)721
Merging with Íiva: on controlling desire, 796; Íaivite Money: borrowing and lending, (s)737; good vs. bad,
Hindu unfoldment, xx; scriptural authority of, (s)770 383-386, (s)716; increasing importance of, 827-828;
Merit: See Pu∫ya refusing ill-gotten funds, 383-386, (s)716; steward-
Millennium Peace Summit: United Nations, 651 ship of, 825, 828, 833, 837; wealth vs., 283; youth and,
Mind: agitation of, 9; awareness moving through, 185; 334, (s)732. See also Budget; Credit; Income; Prosper-
balancing stimuli, 137; computer analogy, 515, 639; ity; Tithing; Wealth
INDEX 911

Monism: theism and, 574-575. See also Advaita emotions and, 39. See also Antarloka; Astral plane;
Monistic theism: discussion, 573-577; orchestra/audi- Three worlds
ence analogy, 574; Siddhânta and Vedânta, (s)704. Narcotics: effects of, 151. See also Drugs
See also Íaiva Siddhânta Na†arâja: boons from, 593; God Íiva as, 11, 584; wor-
Monks: See Monastics ship of, (s)771. See also God Íiva
Moon: phases of, (s)783 Natchintanai: Satguru Yogaswami’s, (s)765; scriptural
Morality: basis for society, 37 authority of, (s)770. See also Yogaswami
Moscow: Global Forum, 642, 651 Nâtha Sampradâya: discussion, 606-615. See also
Mother: as Deity, 254; dharma of, 241, 657; essential Nandinâtha Sampradâya; Sampradâya
role of, 21, 244-249, 253-259, 282-284, 300; ruling Nation: family and, 244; patriotism to, (s)738; protec-
the house, xxx. See also Parents, Working mother. tion of, 519, (s)713
Mother-in-law: bride’s compatibility, 306, 558; har- Nations: harmony among, (s)714
mony with, 284-287 Nature: harmony with, (s)740. See also Ecology; Envi-
Motivation: misconceptions, 372; sources of, 201 ronment
Mount Kailâsa: See Kailâsa Navaratnam, Pundit K.N.: experiences in Christian
Movies: family outings, 403; negative role models, school, 637
311; selective watching, 35, 137. See also Actors; Necessity: speech and, (s)712
Media Necklace, gold: gift from mother-in-law, 307
Moving: family crisis, 322 Negativity: causes of, 210; and failure, 369, 378;
Mûlâdhâra chakra: discussion, 507-509; box of dhar- mechanics of, 547-548; overcoming, 177, 212; self-
ma, 507-509; entrance into, 97, 105, 509; four petals fulfilling prophecy, 174
of, 223; ha†ha yoga and, 801; Lord Ga∫eßa and, 477, Neglect: of home, 246; parental, 244-245, 249, 317,
509, 801; memory chakra, 502; psychic tubes, 125; 320, (s)731, (s)734; and separation, (s)728; of
repentance and confession, 223-224; time and, 451. women, 242
See also Chakras Nehru, Jawaharlal: effect on family, 277
Mumia: in preserved or unfresh foods, 57 Neighbors: role in abusive situations, 323
Murugan: anâhata chakra and, 509; functions of, 114, Nelsen, Dr. Jane: Positive Discipline, 350
584; hill representing, 468; temples of, (s)771; trans- Neo-Indian religion: Sanatana Dharma vs., 49; Ve-
mutation and, 127; willpower and, 479; worship of, dânta and, 577
(s)705, (s)771. See also God and Gods; Kârttikeya Nerve currents: becoming aware of, 180; ha†ha yoga
Music: of drug culture, (s)746; effects on consciousness, and, 797; onion analogy, 805
403; as religious expression, 7, 468; superconscious Nerve system: See Nervous system
composition, 191; traditional, (s)715. See also Arts Nervous system: breath and, 160; drugs and, 149-150;
Mysticism: in all religions, 572; in Hinduism, 463, harp analogy, 189; ha†ha yoga and, 804-807; mar-
468; practiced without religion, 572 riage and, 295; unfoldment and, 148. See also Aura;
Awareness; Ha†ha yoga; Nâ∂îs; Tubes
Nâ∂îs: marriage and, 35-36, 126; New Age: committment to noncommitment, 361
sampradâyas and, 100, 102. See also New Orleans, Louisiana: fighting bribery, 388
Aura; Entanglement; Tubes Nicotine: addiction and, (s)746; dependence on, 439.
Nâmakara∫a saμskâra: See Name; See also Drugs; Tobacco
Rites of passage; Saμskâras Nintendo: and other violent video games, 397-398
Name: importance of, 478, (s)772 Niyamas: in brief, (s)711; related to yamas, 20. See
Name-giving: sacrament of, 470, (s)731. See also also Yama-niyama
Nâmakara∫a saμskâra Nondualism: dualism and, (s)704
Nandinâtha lineage: See Nandinâtha Sampradâya Nonduality: in human nature, 576
Nandinatha, Maharishi: sampradâya of, 606, 609, Noninjury: beliefs supporting, 515; difficulties in
613-614 practice, (s)713; even in dreams, (s)710; ideal of,
Nandinâtha Sampradâya: distinctness of, (s)786; 341; vow of, 516. See also Ahiμsâ; Nonviolence
future of, (s)787; ha†ha yoga in, 794; liberation and, Nonviolence: conscientious objectors, 517; defense
(s)757; scriptures of, (s)770; successors, (s)787; The and, 516-517; full expression of, (s)712; philosophi-
Master Course, xix; Vedic-Ågamic tradition, (s)770. cal basis, 501-502, 515; teaching to children, 504-
See also Chellapaguru; Kadaitswami; Nâtha Sam- 505; vegetarianism as, 509-510. See also Ahiμsâ;
pradâya; Rishi from the Himalayas; Sampradâya; Noninjury
Subramuniyaswami; The Master Course; Tirumular; Nudity: avoiding exposure to, (s)715
Yogaswami Nutrition: vegetarianism and, 53. See also Åyurveda;
Nandinâtha Sûtras: discussion, xv, 693-695; back- Diet; Vegetarianism
ground, 606, 613; contents, 609; vrata, 167
Narakaloka: bad money and, 383; conceiving children
from, 273; Devaloka and, 59, 449, 521-523; lower
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Obedience: in children, 341; monas- titude, (s)778; releasing, 446-447, (s)699; resolving
tics’ vow, (s)778; to parents, (s)734; before death, (s)749; resolving issues, 66, 227-233;
to satguru, (s)759 sannyâsins’ unspoken, (s)786. See also Memories
Observances: See Yama-niyama Patanjali, Rishi: on ahiμsâ, 501, 508; Yoga Sûtras of,
Observation: faculty of soul, 215; 21. See also Yoga Sûtras
practicing, 216; willpower and, 550 Path: Eternal, 468; spiritual, 12, 41, 569
Obstacles: See Challenges Paths: two traditional, 684, (s)734
Occultism: cautions, (s)775. See also Astral plane; Patience: beliefs and, 465. See also Impatience
Channeling; Ghosts; Mediumship; Psychism Patriarch: of extended family, xxxviii
Oil lamp: in shrine room, 255 Peace: begins in home, 503; beliefs supporting, 515;
One-pointedness: cultivating, 7; key to overcoming emanating, (s)700; goal of politics, (s)738; higher
karma, 490 consciousness and, 520; lifestyle choices, 516; move-
Opinions: upadeßa vs., 212 ments for, 523; outgrowth of religion, 672; personal,
Organizations: dishonesty in, 49; guarding against de- 504-505; protection of, 519; renunciate ideal, 628;
tractors, 652-654; no conflicting, (s)757; restricting Íânti Mantra invoking, (s)772; temple worship and,
membership, 522. See also Institutions 246; vegetarianism and, 510
Orthodoxy: strength in, (s)786 Peers: resisting pressure from, (s)734; role in alcohol-
Outreach: methods of, (s)766 ism, (s)747. See also Associates; Companions; Friends
Overindulgence: counteracting, 52 Penance (Prâyaßchitta): discussion, 223-227; for
abortion, 421; for adultery, 227, 410; for bribery,
Pâdas: soul’s evolution through, 388; for domestic violence, 273; fasting as, (s)745;
85-89. See also Arul pâda; Irul pâda; forgiveness enabled by, 347-348, 375; mitigating
Marul pâda karma, 492; obligatory, 116; performance of, 535,
Paganism: demise of, 666 (s)702-703, (s)711; for pornography, 413; psychic
Pain: pleasure and, 494; renunciate’s protection and, (s)775; for resentment, 532; re-
detachment from, 629; source of, 5 solving karma through, 9; satguru’s guidance, 232,
Palmistry: See Psychism (s)759; for sexual fantasy, 128; for untruthfulness,
Pañcha Ga∫apati: marriage recommitment, 308 27; for verbal abuse, 373. See also Atonement; Re-
Pañcha nitya karmas: Hindu religious duties, 159, 162 morse; Repentance
Pañchâkshara Mantra: importance of, 585; secret of, Pendant: marriage, (s)723-724
(s)706 Penitence: healing effects of, 506; higher-conscious-
Paramâtman: See Self ness trait, 507, 521. See Remorse; Repentance
Parameßvara: God Íiva as, (s)704 Peoples: respect for all, (s)714
Parârtha pûjâ: restrictions, (s)771, (s)782 Perfection: inherent in humanity, 464; realistic ap-
Parâßakti: God Íiva as, (s)704 proach, 111, 113-114, 116; striving for, 175, 209, 213,
Paraßiva: God Íiva as, 7, (s)704; nature of, xiv; path 463
to, (s)706; realization of, 8, 620; satguru’s realization, Perfections: God Íiva’s three, 583
(s)758. See also God Íiva; Self Persecution: withstanding, (s)715
Parenting: discussion, 329-336, (s)731-733; accenting Perseverance: cultivating, (s)710. See also Steadfastness
the positive, 267; arranged marriages, 259, 291-295, Personality: attachment to, 204; public vs. hidden,
311, (s)725-726; astrology and, 143, 266-267; attract- 228. See also Ego
ing older souls, 419; bribery of children, 331-332, Pests: nonviolent control, 45, (s)713
334, 387, 391; choice of schools, 635-638; controlling Philosophy: discipline and, 577; experience vs., 10;
prâ∫as, 557-561; farmer analogy, 248; instilling val- religion vs., 571-572, 576; Vedânta as, 569, 571, 574
ues, 355, 359, 484; keeping family together, 277-283; Physical body: aging of, 431, 434-440; astral body
monastic sons, 622-624, (s)769; Narakaloka children, and, 450; avoiding preoccupation, (s)745; aware-
521; neglecting children, 244-249, 317; positive ness’ effects on, 136; chakras and, 449; controlling,
discipline, 329, 341-350, 375; protecting children’s 22; detachment from, 629; feeling warmth of, 180;
virginity, 129; setting examples, 24, 168, 363, 479, 515, impermanence of, 698; importance of, 5, 168, 449,
605, 826; teen years, 355-362; television, 142, 403; 493; language of, 62; mastering, (s)774; not identify-
unequivocal support, 309-310; verbal abuse, 371-375. ing with, 14, (s)699; preparing for cremation, (s)750;
See also Chaperoning; Children; Conception; Father; soul’s connection with, 419-420; touching protocol,
Guidance; Mother; Parents; Youth 408, (s)727, (s)755, (s)785. See also Aura; Diet;
Parents: children’s first guru, 160; debt to, xxvii-xxviii, Ha†ha yoga; Health; Longevity; Nâ∂îs; Nervous system
(s)734; duties to children, 27, 503, 611-612, 634, 640, Physical plane: See Bhûloka
(s)730, (s)733, (s)746; psychic ties with, 128; rever- Piˆgalâ: See I∂â and piˆgalâ
ence for, xxxiii-xxxiv, 537; serving one’s, (s)730. See Pilgrimage: dissolving psychic entanglements, 124;
also Father; Mother; Parenting experiencing God during, 7; monastics’ guidelines,
Past: facing positively, 188, 210, 214; monastics’ at- (s)784; as penance, 225; religious priority, 159, 589,
INDEX 913

(s)771; significance of, 466-467; sunrise, 209; to Prejudice: and reincarnation, 536
other temples], (s)764 Preserver: God Íiva as, (s)704
Pillars: Hinduism’s three, 614, (s)779 Pretaloka: confused souls in, 453. See also Antarloka;
Planes: See Antarloka; Bhûloka; Íivaloka; Three worlds Astral plane; Ghosts; Three worlds
Plans: See Goals Pride: â∫ava and, 104; modern glorification of, 60;
Plato: on youth, 356 restraint of, (s)716, (s)760; in Íaiva Dharma, 337
Play: functions of, 397 Priesthood: attack on Hinduism through, 470; of
Pleasure: faith and, 84; pain and, 494; renouncing, 629 Saiva Siddhanta Church, (s)764. See also Caste sys-
Politics: discussion, (s)738-739; bribery and, 390; mo- tem; Priests
nastics and, (s)779, (s)785 Priests: abuse of, 654-655; more authority needed,
Pornography: discussion, 407, 410-414; addiction to, 683-684; role in Hinduism, 466; worship performed
411; avoiding, 34-37, (s)712; penance for, 413 by, 90, 586-587. See also Caste system; Priesthood
Positive Discipline: Dr. Jane Nelson, 350; methods, Priorities: identifying, 162. See also Goals
329, 375; teaching, 227 Privileges: discipline and, 577, (s)732
Possession: explanation, 454 Problems: alcohol and, (s)747; creating unneces-
Possessions: monastics and, (s)782-783; renunciation sary, 175; effect on one-pointedness, 7; pilgrimage
of, 629 and, 467; positive approach to, 40, 46, 160, 253, 279,
Posture: humility in, (s)716; meditation and, 178. See 370, 465, 493-495, 515, 560, 573; religion’s effects on,
also Gestures 647; resolving before sleep, see V®ittis; vâsanâ daha
Potter-Efron, Ron: eight forms of anger, 226 tantra and, 559, (s)774; video-game approach, 398;
Pottu: See Bindi wrongful marriages and, (s)726. See also Acceptance;
Poverty: avoiding, 32; financial vs. spiritual, (s)735. Adversity; Challenges; Karma
See also Prosperity Procrastination: harm done by, 653
Power: monastics’, 24; wife’s, 77, 254. See also Siddhis Produce: tithing on, 822, 834-835
Prâ∫a: on astral plane, 451; bedtime exercise, 186; Profanity: avoiding, (s)712. See also Curses; Swearing
control of, 165; creation and, 377; death and, 445; Profession: choice of, 335, 360-364, 480, (s)738. See
disharmony and, 556; in groups, 654; in the home, also Business; Career; Vocation
254, 265, 282, 557-561; magnet analogy, 254; main- Professionalism: avoiding entanglements, 407; habits
taining youthfulness, 432; money as, 383-384; in re- and, 370; at home, 73-74; in marriage, 270-271. See
lationships, 560; teaching children about, 331; three also Workplace
kinds, 228, 558. See also Energy Progress: contentment and, 72
Prâ∫âyâma: for digestion, 51; ha†ha yoga and, 794, Promiscuity: discussion, 34-37; effects of, 126, 128,
803-804 409; late marriage and, 295; non-association with,
Practice: insincerity vs., 570-571; intellectualization (s)716, (s)720
vs., 39, 336; key to attainment, 571 Promises: honoring, (s)710; marital, 307, (s)726
Practices: five for children, (s)700; religious, 642. See Prophets: other religions and, 468
also Rituals Prosperity: humility in, (s)735; tithing and, 821, 823-
Pradosha: fasting, (s)745 824, 829-831, 841. See also Wealth
Praise: detachment from, 629 Prostration: as penance, 116, 225; to satguru, (s)754,
Pramukhswami, Sri Sri Sri: Swaminarayan Fellow- (s)758
ship, 413 Protection: ahiμsâ vs., (s)713; Gandhi on, 516; hus-
Prârabdha karma: discussion, 495-496 band’s duty, (s)730; psychic, (s)775. See also Defense
Prasâda: after each meal, 92 Protocol: monastics’, 623-624; with religious leaders,
Prâyaßchitta: See Penance 615, (s)754; with satguru, (s)754-755, (s)758-760;
Prayer: before meals, 140; as death nears, (s)749; social, (s)755; with swâmîs, (s)754, (s)786; Tamil
importance of, 585; pilgrimage and, 466; psychic Íaiva, (s)773
protection and, (s)775; resolving karma through, 9, Psychedelic movement: discussion, 147-151
343, 475; written, 453, 593-601, (s)773, (s)775. See Psychedelics: See Drugs
also Tyêîf Psychiatry: damaging premise of, 272; temple wor-
Preceptor: counsel of, 319; family’s, xxxviii; need for, ship as, 672. See also Psychology
272, 610-611, 698; role in alcoholism, (s)747; role in Psychism: â∫ava and, 102-104; cautions, 149, 455,
marriages, 307, (s)724; scientists and, (s)740; teach- (s)775. See also Astral plane; Channeling; Ghosts; Me-
ing children about, (s)731. See also Guru; Satguru diumship; Occultism
Precepts: five for children, (s)700 Psychology: ha†ha yoga as, 800; reverse, 605. See also
Predators: defense against, (s)713 Psychiatry
Preferences: personal, (s)782 Puberty: and early marriage, 291, 297; family crisis,
Pregnancy: no alcohol during, (s)747; and marriage 298-299, 323; nervous system and, 295; prârabdha
dynamics, 322; premarital, 281, 297, 423; soul’s con- karmas and, 355; preparing children for, 331; sacra-
nection during, 419. See also Conception ment of, (s)731; vow at, (s)733. See also Youth
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Pûjâ: anger restricting, 91; daily home, 3, 159; failure 361; first priority, 337, 533, 685; freedom to choose,
to teach, 317; meaning of, 586; parârtha, (s)782; per- 639; intercultural marriage and, xxvi; meditation
sonal, 213-214; psychic protection and, (s)775; Íaiva and, 93; mother’s role, 246; nature of, (s)706; never
âtmârtha, (s)771; stabilizing vibration of home, 266; denying, (s)738; path analogy, 570, 572; politics and,
traditional offerings, 825. See also Rituals; Shrine (s)739; putting into practice, 563; sâdhana and, 159-
room; Temple 160, 163-164, 166; serving, 476; supporting, 821-825,
Punishment: of children, 345-346, 349, 390, (s)731- 832-833; teaching to children, 633-641; U.S. freedom
732; corporal, 345-349, 375; damaging effects of, 278, of, 662-663, 667-668; Vedânta and, 570-572, 577;
350 worldliness vs., 479. See also Abrahamic religions;
Purity: discussion, 57-60; ahiμsâ and, 519; emotional, Buddhism; Catholicism; Christianity; Hinduism;
516; of home, 58, 470; honesty and, 25; monastics’ Islam; Jainism; Religions; Íaiva Dharma; Íaivism;
vow, (s)778; sexual, 123, (s)710; vow of, 129. See also Sanâtana Dharma; Semitic religions
Brahmacharya; Celibacy; Impurity; Sex; Virginity Religions: alien, (s)757; children torn between, 636-
Purusha dharma: See Dharma; Husband 637; death of, 678; differences among, 637-638, 669,
Pu∫ya: accumulating, 76; and future births, 464; of 677; harmony among, 463, 468, (s)756; symbols
giving, 841; tithing and, 835 proclaiming, 582-583; unity of, 571-573. See also
Conversion; Religion
Races: harmony among, (s)714 Remarriage: of divorced couple, 322; problems
Radhakrishnan, Dr. S.: on conver- perpetuated by, 319; of widowed, (s)724. See also
sion to Hinduism, 469 Divorce; Marriage; Widowed
Râja yoga: cautions, 273, (s)702, 804; Remorse: discussion, 60-66; for deception, 47; ex-
exercise, 180 pressing, (s)711; higher-consciousness trait, 507;
Ramakrishna, Sri: teachings of, 214 for infidelity, (s)727. See also Atonement; Penance;
Râmâya∫a: personal sacrifice in, xxvii; violence in, Repentance
520 Reno, Nevada: bad-money scholarships, 385
Ramification: and confusion, 211; meditation vs., 177 Renunciates: honoring, (s)754. See also Monastics;
Rats: dietary experiment, 51 Sannyâsins
Reactions: overcoming, 216-219 Renunciation: by aged men, (s)748; choosing path of,
Reality: degrees of, 7; desire to cognize, 12; life and, (s)734; at death, 450; by elderly householders, 622;
465; unmanifest, 7 monastics’, 624, (s)781; path of, 627-629; swâmîs’,
Realization: intellectualization vs., 491, 577; monistic 619, (s)778, (s)786; two-way process, 626. See also
theism and, 577; practice and, 573; reaction vs., 218; Sannyâsa
steps toward, 5, 8-9; world and, 574; worship and, Repentance: demonstrating, 62. See also Atonement;
574-575. See also Advaita; God Realization; Self; Self Penance; Remorse
Realization Resentment: ahiμsâ vrata for, 508; in children, 341;
Reason: faith and, 88 forgiveness vs., 529-533, 536; overcoming, 347-348;
Rebelliousness: in children, 342 punishment and, 350
Reconciliation: achieving, 224, 556; near death, (s)749; Resistance: passive, 516
with preceptor, (s)768; tithing, (s)736, 838-840 Resources: protecting Earth’s, (s)714, (s)740
Rededication: yearly to satguru, (s)759 Respect: for all, 504, 516, 642, (s)714; based on attain-
Regret: downside of, 214; releasing, (s)699 ment, (s)755; caste and, 482; for children, 341; de-
Reincarnation: discussion, 445-450; abortion and, stroyed by divorce, 320; for elders, xxxvi, xxxiii-xxxiv,
422-423; attitudes based on, 463-465; cycle of, 471; 606, (s)729; for the eminent, (s)751, (s)754; har-
dharma and, 483; drugs and, 153; family and, xxx, mony and, 557, 564; modeling for children, (s)700;
266, 335, 341, 363; giving and, 76; irrelevance of for other traditions, (s)756; for parents, (s)734; for
past lives, 446; karma and, 476, 493, 496, 681, (s)705, women, xxx, (s)720
(s)749; monastics and, (s)778; prejudice and, 536; Responsibility: freedom and, 508, 576-577
preparing for, 434; religious confusion and, 636; strî Responsibilities: prioritizing, 803; ßishya’s vs. guru’s,
dharma and, 256; varying beliefs, 515; vâsanâs and, 212; worldly, 6
233; Westerners’ belief in, 679; wife abuse and, 325. Responsiveness: example, 612
See also Aging; Birth; Death; Longevity Rest home: Gurudeva’s visit to, 438
Relationships: acceptance in, 563; drugs vs., 152; Restraints: See Yama-niyama; Yamas
ha†ha yoga and, 803; meditation and, 189; Nand- Retaliation: forgiveness vs., 530, 533-535; lower con-
inâtha Sûtras and, 694; pornography and, 410; rein- sciousness and, 63
carnation and, 465-466; trust and, 48; vâsanâ daha Retirement: new focus after, (s)748; saving for, (s)735;
tantra and, 231. See also Disharmony; Harmony timing of, 435
Relatives: caring for, (s)730; role in abusive situations, Retreat: after births and deaths, 426, (s)755; monas-
323. See also Parents tics’, (s)783-784; spiritual, 6
Religion: benefits of, 105, 209, 648; commitment to, Revelation: personal, 507
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Reverence: for all life, 45, 515; for the environment, Íaiva Dharma: Christian schooling vs., 636-638; per-
(s)714; for parents, xxxiii-xxxiv; for satguru, (s)754, petuating, 160, 633-641
(s)758; for women, (s)720 Íaiva Dharma Íâstras: local missions and, (s)765;
Revolution: never advocating, (s)738 scriptural authority of, (s)770
Rice: sharing of, (s)703 Íaiva Siddhânta: discussion, 577; putting into prac-
Ridicule: of Hinduism, 470, 585 tice, 563; summary, (s)706; on worship, 7. See also
Righteousness: See Dharma Monistic Theism; Saiva Siddhanta Church; Saiva Sid-
Rights: of all species, 50; children’s, 345; choice of reli- dhanta Yoga Order; Íaivism
gion, 639; human, 481-482, (s)714; parental, 26 Saiva Siddhanta Church: brahmacharya in, 129; com-
Rishi from the Himalayas: Nâtha Sampradâya, 607; mitment to, (s)764; low divorce rate, xxxi; entrance
prayers and, 594 into, (s)767; guidance of, 620; local laws and, (s)787;
®ishis: meditations of, 793; sapta, 167, 620 marriage contracts in, 270; membership of, (s)728,
Rites of passage: children’s, (s)731; funeral, (s)750, (s)766; missions of, (s)765; re-entrance to, (s)768;
(s)786; marriage ceremony, 305, 307-308; name- supported by tithing, 823; worldwide family of, 268;
giving ceremony, 470, 680, (s)731; no divorced, youth and, (s)733. See also Íaiva Siddhânta; Saiva
widowed or non-family-path attendees, (s)728; Siddhanta Yoga Order; Íaivism
post-death, 447-448. Saiva Siddhanta Yoga Order: candidacy for, 624; core
Rituals: daily, xxxiv, (s)702; importance of, 572; spon- of Church, (s)766; criteria for sannyâsa, 621; one-
soring, (s)736. See also Ceremonies; Pûjâ; Saμskâras mindedness in, 620. See also Íaiva Siddhânta; Saiva
Robes: color-coding, 35, 621, 623; monastics’, (s)783; Siddhanta Church; Íaivism
saffron, (s)786 Saiva Swami Sangam: one-mindedness in, 620. See
Rudra: misconceptions, 584 also Saiva Siddhanta Yoga Order
Rudrâksha beads: analogy of, 103; for japa, (s)711; Íaivism: on alcohol, 154; conversion to, (s)767; dilu-
wearing, (s)772 tion of, 648; ghee analogy, 648; greatness of, 843; ma-
jor Hindu sect, 582; in modern times, xv, 615, 647-
Sacraments: children’s essential, 649; monastics’ mission, (s)779; perpetuity of, 480;
(s)731; at local missions, (s)765; reconversion to, xiv; scriptures of, (s)770. See also
many Hindu, 470. See also Ceremo- Hinduism; Íaiva Siddhânta; Saiva Siddhanta Church;
nies; Rites of passage; Saμskâras Saiva Siddhanta Yoga Order; Sanâtana Dharma
Sacrifice: discussion, 116-119; Íaivites: fellowship of, 589
ideal of, xxvii-xxviii; performance of, Sakala avasthâ: See Avasthâ
(s)711. See also Austerity Íakti (lower-case): dâna and, 78; of Deity, 246; experi-
Sâdhakas: two-year vows of, 621. See also Monastics ence of, 586, 588; Gods’ worldwide, 469; vending-
Sâdhana: discussion, 159-168; benefits of, 177; consis- machine approach, 609; wife’s power, (s)721
tency in, 5, 7, 164, 573, (s)711; construction analogy, Íakti: mother as, 254; Vivekananda’s vision of, 575;
14; daily personal, 174, (s)702, (s)758; diet and, 50; wife revered as, 271. See also Íiva-Íakti
dissolving psychic entanglements, 124; encouraging Íaktinipâta: descent of grace, 86
spouse’s, (s)727; and God-consciousness, 9; God Íâktism: attitude toward alcohol, 154; major Hindu
Íiva’s will, 202; gratitude & appreciation, 542-543; sect, 582. See also Hinduism
guru’s guidance in, 101; and harmony, 557; karma Samâdhi: contemplation leading to, 193; merging into,
and, 371; longevity and, 433; mitigating karma, 492; 201; psychic abilities and, 103; shrines of, (s)771. See
monastics’, (s)783; obligatory, 116; pornography vs., also Enlightenment; God Realization; Self Realization
411; remembering intuitive flashes, 199; resolving Sampradâya: discussion, 97-102, 606-615; computer
karma through, 475; simple forms of, 107; and soul’s learning vs., 395-396; finding one’s, 85; future of,
evolution, 7; The Master Course, xxi, (s)774; will- (s)787; loyalty to, 112, 116; perpetuation of, 608. See
power and, 199-200. See also Austerity; Discipline; also Lineage; Nandinâtha Sampradâya; Nâtha Sam-
Penance; Tapas; The Master Course; Vigil pradâya; Satguru
Safety: defense of, (s)713 San Mârga: Iraivan Temple of, (s)771; path through
Sagan, Carl: on teenagers, 356 higher chakras, 508
Sahasrâra chakra: crown chakra, 494; departing body Sanâtana Dharma: basic principles of, 505, 560; first
through, (s)749; door of Brahman, 130; God Íiva defense against âdharma, 272-273; institutions of,
and, 575; reincarnation and, 446; sapta ®ishis in, 93, (s)764; meaning of, 468; path to realization, 572;
106; satguru needed, 102; spine currents and, 100. repairing attitudes toward, 470; standing strong for,
See also Chakras (s)779. See also Hinduism; Íaivism
Saints: in all religions, 572; depicted in art, 468; proto- Sañchita karma: discussion, 495-496
col with, (s)754; Íaivite, xiv, 589, (s)770 Sandals, satguru’s: See Tiruvadi
Íaiva Ågamas: scriptural authority of, (s)770; temple Íaˆkara: God as, 10. See also Sankara
architecture of, (s)764; Tirumantiram and, 606 Sankara: celibacy of, 124. See also Íaˆkara
Íaiva âtmârtha pûjâ: home worship, (s)771 Sannyâsa âßrama: Stage of withdrawal, 621-622, (s)748
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Sannyâsa: discussion, 619-622; ideals of, 628; prepa- Self-contempt: forgiveness vs., 529-530
ration for, 605, (s)725; readiness for, 623-627; and Self-control: cultivating, 200, (s)702, (s)715
women, 622; young man’s option, 684-685. See Self-discipline: caste and, 482; cultivating, 200
also Åßramas; Monasticism; Renunciation; Sannyâsa Self God: inspired talk, 12-14
âßrama; Sannyâsins; Swâmîs Selfishness: effects of, 438; mitigating, 74, 77
Sannyâsins: non-traditional, (s)781; self-declared, Selflessness: cultivating, (s)711; mitigating karma,
(s)748. See also Monastics; Renunciation; Sannyâsa; 494; monastics’, (s)778
Swâmîs Self Realization: discussion, 10-14; don’t procras-
Sanskrit: pronunciation guide, 895; ritual worship tinate, 698; monastics’ purpose, (s)778. See also
and, 586-587, (s)773 Advaita; God Realization; Realization; Self
Íânti Mantra: at meetings, (s)772 Semitic religions: views of, 71
Sapta ®ishis: duty of, 167; guidance by, 620 Senility: belief and, 432. See also Aging
Sarcasm: destructiveness of, 563 Seniority: hierarchy of, xxxiii, 557
Saμskâras: children’s essential, (s)731; religious duty, Seniors: See Elders
159; selecting priests for, (s)764. See also Ceremonies; Senses: quieting, 179, 185, 216
Rites of passage; Sacraments Separation: grounds for, 273, 325, (s)728; Hindu at-
Satchidânanda: experience of, 161, 164-165; God Íiva titudes toward, xxxii; sense of, 10
as, 7, 583; maintaining consciousness of, 105; nature Serenity: seeking, (s)711
of, xiv; realization of, 8 Servants: proper treatment of, (s)737
Satguru: discussion, 97-103; blessings of, (s)727; family Service: art as, 468; atonement through, 506; encour-
and, 622; gifts to, 77, (s)736; grace of, (s)706; guid- aging spouse’s, (s)727; to God, Gods and Guru, 698,
ance of, (s)711, (s)725-726; healing damaged minds, (s)758; longevity and, 433; mitigating karma, 477,
479; help in meditation, 186; meeting one’s, 86; and 494; monastics and, (s)780, (s)785; opportunity for
monastic sons, (s)769; protecting, (s)779; protocol widowed, (s)724; through local missions, (s)765;
with, (s)754-755, (s)758-760; psychic protection of, tithing time in, 821, 834; two-year mission, (s)769;
(s)775; reconciling with, (s)768; relationship with, unbroken continuity of, 475; as worship, 7. See also
224-226, 232, 606, 698, (s)759, (s)778; role of, 26, 413, Karma yoga; Seva
466; sovereign edicts of, (s)765; story of, 203-204; Seva: dâna and, 76. See also Karma yoga; Service
tiruvadi of, (s)771. See also Guru; Sampradâya Severance: religious, (s)767
Satsaˆga: at local missions, (s)765 Sex: discussion, 123-130; and psychic entanglements,
Scholars: honoring, (s)754 408-409; dharmic expression of, 407, (s)715; not in
Schools: corporal punishment in, 346; inner-plane, disharmony, 273; eight levels of, 413; Internet and,
131, 187; parents’ choices, 633-639, (s)757; religious 411-412; monastics’ noninvolvement, (s)782; only in
abuses in, 635-638, 667-668. See also Education marriage, (s)733; premarital, 296; purity in, (s)710;
Science: Hinduism and, 649, 679 regulation of, (s)727; renunciation of, 629; teaching
Scientists: edicts for, (s)740 children about, 279, 330-331; transmuting forces of,
Scott, Sir Walter: on truthfulness, 47 (s)724; vâsanâ daha tantra and, 231; Western glori-
Scriptures: daily study, (s)702; distribution of, fication of, xxviii. See also Adultery; Brahmacharya;
(s)766; faith in, 83-84; listening to, 98, 101, (s)711; Celibacy; Intimacy; Morality; Promiscuity; Virginity
memorizing, 478, 484; parliamentarians and, (s)739; Sexes: protocol between, (s)755; rights of all, (s)714
persistence of, 99; protection of, (s)779; of Saiva Shakespeare: on truthfulness, 47
Siddhanta Church, (s)770; on suicide, 424. See also Shame: expressing, (s)711; peer pressure and, (s)734
Íaiva Ågamas; Siddhânta ßrava∫a; Tirukural; Tiru- Shellfish: not consuming, 53, (s)710, (s)744
mantiram; Tirumurai; Upanishads; Vedas Shinto: alcohol and, 153
Secrecy: families destroyed, 277; renouncing, 279-280 Shopping: hidden violence in, 510, 516, (s)714
Secrets: not from satguru, (s)759 Shortcomings: See Faults
Sectarianism: strength in, 663-671; tree analogy, 665 Shrine room: avoidance during menses, (s)722; closed
Sects: honoring all, (s)729, (s)739, (s)754, (s)756, after birth or death, 426, (s)755; communion with
(s)765, (s)779, (s)781; symbols proclaiming, 582 God, 466; daily worship in, xxxiv, 260; family devas
Secular humanism: noninvolvement, (s)757 in, 595; minimal standards, 91-92; murthis, (s)771;
Security: finding within, 439 oil lamp in, 255; readying for worship, 260, 564,
Seed karmas: managing, 494-496. See also Karma (s)723; spiritual refuge, (s)720; worshiping together,
Seekers: in America, 662; assisting, (s)734, (s)767; 90. See also Temple; Worship
impatience of, 162 Shuddha avasthâ: See Avasthâ
Seers: faith in, 83, 87-88 Shûm: ha†ha yoga and, 793, 795; meditation and,
Self: as reference point, xxii; description, 687; God (s)773, (s)779
Íiva as, 10. See also Advaita; God Realization; Real- Shûmîf: perspective of, 452
ization; Self Realization Shunning: of detractors, (s)768
Self-confidence: developing, 175, 209 Shyness: aggressivness vs., 65
INDEX 917

Íi: Va and, 200-202 and, 467; life-transforming effects, 361; perfection of,
Siblings: bonding rituals, xxx 464; Primal, (s)704; qualities of, 65, 503, 657, (s)701,
Siddhânta: path to realization, 571; unity with Ve- (s)705, 823; released by renunciate, 629; spontaneity
dânta, (s)704 of, 63. See also Soul body; Souls; Unfoldment
Siddhânta ßrava∫a: discussion, 97-101; basis for right Soul body: conscious control of, 166, 452; energy in-
knowledge, 104 flux from, 451
Siddhis: feminine, 254, 330. See also Power Souls: Íaivite, (s)767; two kinds, 520; young and old, 5,
Sight: spiritual, 582 7, 22, 148-150, 448-449, 464, 502, 505, 522, 548, 625-
Silence: discovering within, 180; as satguru’s message, 626. See also Soul; Soul Body; Unfoldment
(s)760; wall of, (s)768 Sound: ha†ha yoga and, 794
Simplicity: honesty and, 49 Space: transcended by God Íiva, (s)704
Simpson, O.J.: and wife abuse, 324 Spanking: injunction against, 342, (s)731
Sin: abortion and, (s)712; atonement for, (s)703; Species: protecting, 516, (s)714; rights of all, 50. See
confession of, (s)702; views on, 464; Narakaloka and, also Earth; Ecology; Environment
449; temporary condition, 422; of wife abuse, 325 Speculation: financial, 32-33
Singing: See Arts Speech: ahiμsâ in, 501, (s)721, (s)731; controlling, 24,
Íishyas: Gurudeva’s expectations, 336, 370-371, 606, 369-373, 376-378; excessive, (s)760; spiritualization
693; relationship with guru, 26, 606; responsiveness of, (s)712
of, 612. See also Devotees; Disciples Spine: awareness and, 178; feeling power of, 181; sam-
Íiva: See God Íiva pradâyas and currents within the, 100, 102
Íiva-Íakti: unity of, 272. See also God Íiva Spirit: flooding mind with, 209-213
Íivaliˆga: worship of, 10, (s)771 Spirituality: built on harmony, 557; longevity and,
Íivaloka: souls and, (s)705; spiritual ray from, 588; 438; marriage and, 294. See also Consciousness; Un-
Third World, 581. See also Three worlds foldment
Skills: for boys and girls, (s)731; cultivating creativity, Spouse abuse: discussion, 323-325; both families’
(s)773; tithing and, 834 responsibility, 308; call to action, 561; dowry mur-
Slander: avoiding, (s)712; response to, (s)760 ders, xxix (see Dowry); that first slap, 325; forbidden,
Slavery: child abuse as, 374; wife abuse and, 325 (s)721; get help!, 273, 323, 325, (s)723; penance for,
Sleep: aided by ginger-root, 140; astral experiences 227, 232. See also Abuse; Bystanders; Counseling
in, 166; communication during, 598; controlling Spouse: encouraging spirituality, (s)727.
awareness during, 128, 130-131, 585; inner-plane Írâddha ceremony: reincarnation and, 447
experiences, 451-452; meditation during, 187; mo- Sri Lanka: dearth of swâmîs, 684; war toys in, 398
nastics and, (s)783; preparation for, 186, 213, (s)703, State: separation from church, 663
(s)772; resolving disharmony before, see V®ittis. See Status: based on attainment, (s)755
also Bedtime Steadfastness: discussion, 39-41; cultivating, (s)710;
Smârtism: major Hindu sect, 582. See Hinduism key to overcoming karma, 490; power of, 11, (s)699
Smoking: See Drugs; Nicotine; Tobacco Stealing: bad money, 383-385, (s)716 (see Money);
Social problems: See Society penance for, 232; refraining from, 31-33, 37, (s)710
Social Security: tithing on, 834 Stillness: superconscious and, 185. See also Quiet
Society: destroyed by promiscuity, 37; divorce and, Stories: intermarriage, xxvi-xxviii; power of apprecia-
318-322; elders and, 435-436; late marriage and, 297; tion, 543; refusal to bribe, 386; resentful son, 536;
eroded by gambling, (s)716; family and, 21, 27, 244- tithing, 824-826, 829, 835; two disciples, 541; Yogas-
247, 256, (s)730; leadership of, 505; minorities and, wami and the Vedântin, 574
(s)739; serving, 168; slavish compliance with, 317; Strength: inner vs. outer, 215
women and, 241. See also Community; Group Stress: alcohol and, (s)747; freedom from, 693; gam-
Solidarity; Hindu: See Hindu solidarity bling and, 33; Hindu attitudes toward, xxxii; man-
Song of the Sannyâsin: Vivekananda’s poem, 627-629 aging, 209; materialism and, 320; promiscuity and,
Songs: sacred, (s)765, (s)770; traditional, (s)715. See 409; wise handling of, 73-74; working mother and,
also Bhajana; Hymns; Natchintanai see Working mother
Sons: for monastery, 622, (s)769; Gurudeva’s expecta- Strî dharma: importance of, 470. See also Children;
tions, 606; training, (s)731. See also Children; Educa- Dharma; Family; Home; Mother; Wife; Women
tion; Marriage; Monasticism; Youth Student: stage of life, (s)748. See also Åßrama dharma;
Sorrow: joy and, 13, 490; source of, 5 Brahmacharya âßrama
Soul: after physical death, (s)750; austerity and, 117, Study: daily religious, 130; spiritual, (s)774
119; awakening of, 215-216; connection with body, Subconscious mind: cleansing, 24, 202, 347, 422; diet
419-420; destiny of, 23; ego vs., 228, 542, 546-548; and, 135; ha†ha yoga and, 794, 796; karma and, 369;
evolution of, 8-9, 11, 19, 21, 85-89, 476; faith and, negativity in, 210; releasing burdens of, 192, 214-219,
83; gardening analogy, xvi-xvii; God and, 7; im- 226, 559; remolding, 138, (s)774; reprogramming,
mortality of, (s)748; intellect and, 6, 105; liberation 173-177, 185, 200; swearing and, 369; television and,
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142; verbal abuse and, 372; video games and, 398. Teasing: refraining from, (s)720
See also Emotion; Memories; Past; Vâsanâs Technological age: attitudes toward wealth, 827-828;
Subramuniyaswami, Satguru Sivaya: astral experi- effect on family, 243; Hinduism in, 685; home and,
ences of, 450, 453-454; early years of, 518; expecta- 253; sâdhana in, 161-163; Íaivism in, xv-xvi, 647-
tions, 336, 370-371, 606, 693; ha†ha yoga system of, 649, 673; stress in, 209; temptations of, 484. See also
793-795; Na†arâja vision of, 584; Nâtha Sampradâya, Agricultural age
608; writings of, (s)770 Technology: controlling, 649. See also Automobile;
Substratum: God Íiva as, 9 Computers; Media; Telephone; Television
Success: built on harmony, 557; means to, (s)699; Teenagers: See Children; Youth
sabotaged by abusive speech, 369-374; wife and, 254, Telepathy: sexual entanglement and, 409
(s)721 Telephone: sexual fantasy and, 414
Íudras: See Caste system Television: cautions, 141-142; children and, 247; and
Suffering: alleviating, 168, 484; soul’s evolution and, confusion, 105; guidelines, 403, (s)715; hiμsâ pro-
490 moted by, 523; limiting, 283; pornography and, 414.
Sugar: and health problems, 356; and hyperactivity, See also Media
344; and overstimulation, 137; minimizing intake of, Temple: emotional release in, 73-74; family and, 254;
53, 140, (s)744 Gods and, 581-588; protection of, (s)779; regular
Suicide: discussion, 423-425; increase of, 682; injunc- attendance, 589, (s)765; separation of sexes, (s)755;
tion against, (s)712; karmic repercussions, 496; letter source of strength, 246; supporting, 78, 481, (s)703,
from teen, 357-359 (s)735-736, 824-827. See also Shrine room; Temples;
Sun: analogy, 200; salutations to, 77, (s)745 Temple worship; Worship
Superconscious mind: conscious control of, 205; cre- Temple worship: dissolving psychic entanglements,
ativity and, 191-192; at death, (s)750; diet and, 135, 124; Divine communion, 7, (s)706; esoterics of, 671-
141; functions of, 558; meditation and, 151 672. See also Temple; Temples; Worship
Support groups: for marriages, 321 Temples: architecture of, (s)764; avoidance during
Surgery: psychic, 223 menses, (s)722; birth or death and, (s)755; burning
Sushum∫â: ha†ha yoga and, 799-800 prayers at, (s)775; devotion and, 463; dress codes,
Sûtras: See Nandinâtha Sûtras; Yoga Sûtras 650-652, (s)720; erotic imagery and, 414; never bor-
Svâdhish†hâna chakra: chakra of reason, 344; ahiμsâ rowing from, (s)737; persistence of, 99; pilgrimage
and, 509 to, 466-467, (s)771; prayer and, 593-596, 601; priest
Swaminarayan Fellowship: on child abuse, 347; abuse, 654-656; priesthood and, 470; of Saiva Sid-
strictness of, 413; tithing in, 824, 834; youth pro- dhanta Church, (s)764. See also Prayer; Pûjâ; Shrine
grams of, 633 room; Temple; Temple Worship
Swâmîs: abuse of, 653, 656; instructions for, (s)786; Temptation: facing positively, 216; financial, 33 (see
mutual chaperoning of, 335; protocol with, (s)754- Credit, Debt, Gambling); old habits, 188; sexual, 125,
755; responsibilities to seekers, 679-682; self-styled, 129; of technological age, 484; vows and, 111; of
35; vows of, (s)778. See also Monastics; Sannyâsa; would-be monastics, 623; youth and, 278-279, 334-
Sannyâsins 337, 343
Swearing: effects of, 369-370. See also Curses; Profanity Tendencies: children’s, 143; controlling, 218, 559; cre-
Symbols: educational tool, 641; religious, 582, (s)772 ated by experiences, 229
Terrorism: dharma vs., 520; video games and, 397
Tai Chi Chuan: ha†ha yoga and, 798 Testimony: Hindu wife’s, 259
TAKA: See Today at Kauai Aad- The Master Course: discussion, xix-xxii; lifetime study,
heenam (s)774. See also Himalayan Academy
Tala chakras: anger opens the door, Theft: See Stealing
91; bad birth, 477-478; closing off, Theism: monism and, 575. See also Dvaita
450, 508; drugs and, 149, (s)746; Thinking: knowing vs., 546-549
emerging from, 224, 477; Gods’ avoidance of, 507; Third eye: blinded by resentment, 537; functions of,
guilt and, 63; irul pâda and, 89; journey through, 582; heart chakra and, 102. See also Åjñâ chakra
106; misdeeds performed in, 224; seven below Third World: monastics’ doorway to, 620
mûlâdhâra, 344; worlds of darkness, 59 Thoughts: ahiμsâ in, 501; breath and, 160, 178; effect
Tamalpais, Mount: sunrise pilgrimage, 209 on body, 209; karma and, 46; power of, 377, (s)701
Tapas: discussion, 116-117; dissolving psychic en- Three worlds: physical, inner and causal, 581-586,
tanglements, 124; malice and, 598; resolving karma (s)705-706. See also Antarloka, Bhûloka, Íivaloka
through, 101, 475, 492; and soul’s evolution, 7. See Tilaka: significance of, 582. See also Bindi
also Austerity; Discipline; Penance; Sâdhana Time: cyclic nature of, 503; giving of, 76, 79; tithing in
Ta∫∂ya Brâhma∫a: on conversion to Hinduism, 470 service, 821, 834; transcended by Íiva, (s)704
Teaching: monastics and, 79; as penance, 227 Time-out: in child-rearing, 350, (s)732
Teachings: gifts of, 78 Tipping: bribery vs., 389
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Tirtha, Rama: spiritual attainment of, 570 lectualization vs., 87; known by few, 629; realization
Tirukural: on adultery, 407-408; on asceticism, 40; of, 5, (s)774; search for, 173; Vedânta’s view of, 569
on austerity, 119; on avoiding poverty, 32; on bad Truthfulness: discussion, 24-27. See also Honesty
money, 385; book of dharma, 374; on business eth- Truths: eternal, 506
ics, 523; English translation, 478; on forbearance, Tubes: psychic, 124-128, 408-409. See also Aura; En-
530, 533; on the good life, v; on harmony, 642; on tanglement; Nâ∂îs
kindly speech, 555; on hard liquor, 154; Living with Twain, Mark: on truthfulness, 47
Íiva compared to, xv; memorizing, 484; on nonin- Tyêîf: written prayers in, 593, 597-599, (s)773. See also
jury, 502; purpose of, 258; on reincarnation, 463; Prayer; Shûm
scriptural authority of, (s)770; on tolerance, 561;
on truthfulness, 25; on vegetarianism, 509-510; on Understanding: reaction vs.,
the worthy wife, 241. See also Tiruvalluvar; Weaver’s 217-218
Wisdom Unfoldment: basic law of, 547; caste
Tirumantiram: on brahmacharya, 130; on concep- and, 482-483; drugs and, 149-151;
tion, 419; on hard liquor, 154; on meat-eating, 510; foundation for, 19-21; hastening,
confluence of Vedas and Ågamas, 606; scriptural 131; obstacles to, (s)781; sâdhana
authority of, (s)770; on temple worship, 588; yamas and, 610; slow process, 176; stages of, 85; of wid-
and niyamas in, 21. See also Tirumular owed, (s)724. See also Chakras; Soul
Tirumular, Rishi: on death, 420; Nâtha Sampradâya, United Nations: Millennium Peace Summit, 651; Year
606, 608, 613. See also Tirumantiram of the Family, xxv
Tirumurai: scriptural authority of, (s)770 United States: divorce statistics, xxxi; Hinduism in,
Tiruvadi: worship of, (s)758, (s)771 666-668; longevity statistics, 432; multi-religious
Tiruvalluvar, Saint: on great aspirations, 114; Tiruku- nation, 662-664, 671; tradition in, 693. See also
ral of, 258. See also Tirukural America; West
Tithing: discussion, 821-838; benefits of, 376; business Universe: God Íiva and, 7-9, 12; perfection of, 38, 563;
reconciliation form, 840; dâna and, 74; God’s money, unity of, 22
(s)736, 841; honesty in, (s)735; personal reconcilia- University: See College
tion form, 839; selflessness in, (s)711; vow of, 31, 841. Unmarried: instructions for, (s)725
See also Hindu Heritage Endowment Upadeßa: opinions vs., 212
Tobacco: health effects of, 155; injunction against, Upanishads: on abortion, 423; scriptural authority of,
(s)746. See also Drugs; Nicotine 100, (s)770; on steadfastness, 40; wisdom of, xxxii;
Today at Kauai Aadheenam: Gurudeva’s website, xxi yamas and niyamas in, 21
Tolerance: beliefs conducive to, 23; cultivating, (s)739; USA Today newspaper: on corporal punishment, 346
expression of love, 561; teaching, 504, 506, 642. See
also Intolerance Va: Íi and, 201-202
Toronto, Canada: temple dress code, 650 Vacation: pilgrimage vs., 466
Touching: psychic entanglement, 126. See also En- Vaish∫avism: major Hindu sect, 582.
tanglement; Nâ∂îs; Tubes See Hinduism
Toys: choosing wisely, 397-399 Vaißyas: See Caste system
Tradition: in the arts, (s)715; in child-rearing, (s)731; Values: Eastern vs. Western, xxvii;
in clothing, (s)720, (s)722, (s)783; culture and, 693; life’s true, (s)701; television and, 248
faith in, 87; passing to next generation, 633; protective Vânaprastha âßrama: elder advisors, xxxvi, 167. See
effect of, 335; respect for, (s)756; value of, 258-259; Åßrama dharma; Elders
wisdom of, (s)786; women and, 258; youth and, 329 Var∫a dharma: See Caste system
Training: monastic sons, (s)769; new monastics, Vâsanâ daha tantra: discussion, 226-232; clearing
(s)783; for sannyâs, (s)725; sons and daughters, subconscious mind, 532; creativity and, 192; as
(s)731 death nears, (s)749; mental maintenance, 214, 217,
Transgressions: forgiving, (s)780; vâsanâ daha tantra 559, (s)774; physical abuse and, 347; remorse and,
and, (s)774 64, 66. See also Subconscious mind; Vâsanâs; V®ittis
Transmutation: of desire, 9, 52; of sexual energies, Vâsanâs: death and, 233; disharmony and, 556; me-
123-130, (s)724, (s)727; steps toward, 178. See also chanics of, 559; positive and negative, 229-230;
Energy; Prâ∫a resentment and, 531. See also Subconscious mind;
Transparency International: fighting bribery, 389 Vâsanâ daha tantra; V®ittis
Traumas: resolving, 228 Vastu Íâstras: temple architecture of, (s)764
Travel: auspicious timing for, 143, (s)773; monastics’ Vatican: beliefs condemned by, 680
guidelines, (s)784 Vedânta: discussion, 569-577; unity with Siddhânta,
Tribals: wisdom of, 643 (s)704; Western adherents, 679-680
Trust: destroyed by divorce, 318; relationships and, 48 Vedas: on abortion, 423, (s)712; on ahiμsâ, 509, 519;
Truth: adhering to, (s)710, (s)712; highest, 519; intel- on alcohol, 13, 154; on brahmacharya, 127; on
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desires, 535; and food-blessing mantra, 71; funda- Vratas: discussion, 111-115; ahiμsâ, 501, 508; brah-
mental to Hinduism, 100, 665, (s)781; on gambling, macharya, 34-37, 129; daßama bhâga, 31, 825, 836,
33; on giving, 823; God Íiva’s authorship, (s)704; on 841; Nandinâtha Sûtras, 167; sâdhana and, 159. See
harmony, 503, 556, 560; on levels of consciousness, also Vows
520; living ideals of, 627; on marriage, 305; peace Vrâtyastoma: conversion to Hinduism, 470. See also
invocation, 504; on sinful thoughts, 407; on the Conversion
soul, 532; on soul’s immortality, (s)749; sanctity of, Vulgarity: avoiding exposure to, (s)715
665; Íânti Mantra of, (s)772; scriptural authority of, Vyasa, Sage: on ahiμsâ, 501
(s)770; on service, 159; support of, (s)781; Tiruman-
tiram and, 606; on truth, 272-273 War: aggressive conversion and,
Vegetarianism: discussion, 52-53; ahiμsâ in practice, 639; beliefs conducive to, 501; child
509-510; guidelines, (s)744; higher consciousness abuse and, 349; defense vs. anarchy,
and, 51; purity and, (s)710; at weddings, 307. See 516, 518, 520; in the home, stopping,
also Åyurveda; Diet; Food; Moderation; Nutrition xxxix; key to ending, 504; toys and,
Veils: mental, 560 398-399
Vel: Lord Kârttikeya’s, (s)705 Wastefulness: avoiding, (s)714
Vibhûti: worn on forehead, 581 Watcher: superconscious experience, 164
Video games: effects on children, 397-398 Water: drinking plentifully, 140, (s)744
Vigil: daily personal, see Sâdhana; as death nears, Wealth: discussion, (s)735-736; building family’s, 335,
(s)749; unbroken, 166 364; obsession with, 317; purpose, 841; redefined,
Village: global, 310, 643; protection of, 516-517, (s)713 283; renunciation of, 627; true source, 821, 828-829.
Vînâ: ha†ha yoga analogy, 797 See also Credit; Income; Money; Prosperity; Tithing
Violence: avoiding, (s)715; beliefs and, 23, 502, 506; in Weapons: bad money, 383-385, (s)716. See also Money
children’s books, 633; cycle of, 344, 348-349; defense Weaver’s Wisdom: guidebook of dharma, 374; memo-
vs., 517-520; diet and, 510, 517; domestic, see Child rizing, 478. See also Tirukural; Tiruvalluvar
abuse, Spouse abuse; evolving out of, 506-507; hidden Websites: www.endcorporalpunishment.org, 346;
forms of, 510; injunction against, 342, 350; levels of www.gurudeva.org, xx; www.HinduismToday.com,
consciousness and, 522; Narakaloka and, 521; obsta- 400; Tyêîf font available, 599. See also Internet; World
cle to enlightenment, 23; penance for, 347; respon- Wide Web
sibility to prevent, 323; take children and run!, 273; Weddings: financial guidelines, (s)726; rules of purity,
tradition of, 349; in video games, 397-398. See also 307; swâmîs’ nonparticipation, (s)786. See also Rites
Abuse; Ahiμsâ; Bystanders; Conflict; Noninjury; War of passage; Saμskâras; Vivâha
Violin: analogy of, 13 West: marriage in, 294; women in, 241-242; yoga in,
Virginity: early marriage and, 296-297; and God- 571. See also America; Europe; United States; West-
consciousness, 125; guarding until marriage, 125- erners; Westernization
126, 128-129, 408, (s)725. See also Brahmacharya; Westerners: ha†ha yoga and, 793-794, 803; impatience
Celibacy; Impurity; Sex of, 112, 176; misconceptions of guru, 605; seeking
Virgins: marriage between, 296 initiation, 112; turning to Hinduism, 588, 662, 679.
Virtue: path to wisdom, (s)706; teaching children, See also Americans; Seekers; West; Westernization
(s)733 Westernization: problems, xxvii-xxix; resisting, 332,
Visiting: religious ceremony and, (s)729 337. See also West; Westerners
Vitamins: dependence on, 439 Wheat: pride/modesty analogy, 62
V®ittis: resolving before sleep, 213, 273, 505, 556, 558- White: guidelines for wearing, (s)724-725. See Clothing
561, (s)782. See also Vâsanâs Widowed: instructions for, (s)724, (s)728; renuncia-
Vißuddha chakra: divine love, 45; satguru needed, 102; tion by, 621-622, (s)748
harmony with guru, 105. See also Chakras Wife: abuse of, see Spouse abuse; dharma of, 241; at
Vivâha: marriage sacrament, 470. See also Ceremonies; home, 256, 409; husband and, 77, 260-261, (s)721;
Marriage; Sacraments; Saμskâras; Weddings instructions for, (s)723; power of, 77, 253-254, 265;
Vivekananda, Swami: celibacy of, 124; on conversion role of, (s)730; working, 253, 257, 281-282, 407. See
to Hinduism, 469, 681; Goddess vision of, 575; on also Marriage; Mother; Spouse; Women
Hindu attire, 652; Song of the Sannyâsin, 627-629; Wiles: womanly, 330
tolerance taught by, 661 Will and testament: prepared by all, (s)735
Vocation: discussion, (s)738. See also Business; Career; Will: God Íiva’s, 201-202, (s)706. See also Willpower
Profession Willfulness: willpower vs., 197-198
Vows: celibacy, 129; death, 425; and detachment, 7; Willpower: discussion, 197-202; cognizing, 181; con-
fulfillment of, (s)711; marriage, 244; monastics’, tentment and, 72; cultivating, 14, 106-107, 174, 190,
(s)768, (s)778-779, (s)782; noninjury, 516; at pu- (s)711; diet and, 136; ha†ha yoga and, 796; intellectu-
berty, (s)733; sannyâsins’, 621; tithing, (s)736, 841; of alization vs., 39; karma and, 534; life as, 436; monas-
the unmarried, (s)725. See also Vratas tics and, 625, (s)780; Lord Murugan and, 479; prayer
INDEX 921

and, 601; relying on, (s)699; spiritual, 201, 546, 550; 159; Sanskrit language, (s)773; supplicating Lord
turning inward, 213; use vs. misuse, 533. See also Ga∫eßa first, (s)705; Tamil Íaiva ways, (s)773; teach-
Awareness; Decision; Energy ing children, (s)731; of wedding pendant, (s)723;
Wine: discussion, 153-155. See also Alcohol; Beer; women’s key role, 470. See also Pûjâ; Shrine Room;
Liquor Temple; Temple Worship
Wisdom: attainment of, 10-11, 14; path to, (s)706; Wrongdoing: renouncing, (s)710
truthfulness and, 25
Witness, false: never, (s)712, (s)785 Yama-niyama: discussion, 19-22; es-
Witness: renunciate ideal, 628 sence of discipline, 100; faith and, 84,
Women: Abrahamic theology and, 255; abuse of, xxix, 88; ha†ha yoga and, 794; initiation
341-342 (see also Spouse abuse); agricultural vs. and, 116; interrelatedness, 31, 111;
technological age, 243; alcohol and, (s)747; attack listed, 19; monastics and, 101; vow
on Hinduism through, 246, 470; bindi worn by, 583; of, 111-115
dharmic attitude toward, 115; East and West, 241; Yamas: in brief, (s)710; and contentment, 73. See also
education for, 362; fulfillment and, 249, 257; in the Yama-niyama
home, 256; instructions for, (s)722; liberation of, Yoga: in action, ix, (s)700, (s)780; bringing it all to-
241 (see also Women’s liberation movement); men’s gether, 503; cautions, 273, 507, (s)702, 804; daily
behavior with, (s)720-721; and monasticism, 621; practice, (s)702; experiential, (s)780; Hinduism and,
monastics and, (s)782, (s)785; protection of, xxxvii, 463, 571; and inner sight, 582; intellectualization vs.,
516; psychic force of, 296; renunciation by, (s)781; 576; ku∫∂alinî and, 164; meditation and, 7; nurtured
respect for, xxx; seated on left, (s)755. See also by dharma, 494; path to wisdom, (s)706; psychedel-
Mother; Sexes; Wife ics vs., 147-151; sâdhana and, 160, 166; soul’s evolu-
Women’s liberation movement: fallacy of, 255-256. tion and, 86; understanding karma, 489; without
See also Hindu Women’s Liberation Movement; Work- religion, 572; worship and, 90, 93. See also Ash†âˆga
ing mother yoga; Bhakti yoga; Ha†ha yoga; Japa yoga; Karma
Words: path of, 574 yoga; Râja yoga
Work: as exercise, (s)745; less during menses, (s)722; Yoga Sûtras: ha†ha yoga in, 794; yamas/niyamas in, 21
returning home from, (s)720; as service, 475 Yogas: progression of, 799
Working mother: discussion, 245-249; and child Yogaswami, Satguru Siva: on ahiμsâ, 509; celibacy of,
abuse, 349; dilemma of, 253-254; house vs. home, 124; Chellappaguru and, 610; dynamic aging of, 432;
281; poor decision, 255-256, 317. See also Hindu on fever, 798; monistic theism of, 574; Natchintanai
Women’s Liberation Movement; Home, Mother; of, (s)765, (s)770; Nâtha Sampradâya, 608; prayer of,
Women’ liberation 588; refusing bad money, 383-384; sacrifice taught
Workplace: clothing in, 651; opposite sex in, 407, 409. by, 117-119; on sâdhana, 166; sayings of, 5, 10-11,
See also Professionalism 307, 463, 517, 557, 589; songs of, 605, 619; teachings
World: abandoning for monastery, (s)725; controlling of, xv; on tradition, 694. See also Natchintanai
forces of, (s)699, (s)720; external, 7; God Íiva’s cre- Yogî tapasvins: two-year vows of, 621
ation, (s)714; home and, 253; improving conditions Youth: brahmacharya and, 125, 129; celibacy of, (s)725;
in, 465; keeping informed, (s)715; living positively choice of profession, 294, 335, 362-364, 480; cross-
in, xxi-xxii, 163-167, 186, 198, 544; monastics and, cultural, 329; delinquency, 284; dharma of, 558, 657,
(s)781, (s)785; in monistic theism, 576; nature of, (s)734; education of, (s)722; encouraging religious
(s)705; problems of, 168; releasing as death nears, involvement, 685; family breakdown and, xxv; guid-
(s)749; renunciation of, (s)748; scientists and, (s)740. ance of, 312, (s)731; lasting impressions of, (s)757;
See also Universe missionary spirit, 336; modern trends, 309; and
World Wars: effect on family, 243, 277, 284, 298, 361, money, 334, (s)732; and pornography, 412; prepar-
693 ing for adulthood, 484, 641, (s)733; pressures of teen
World Wide Web: pornography and, 412; resources years, 295-297, 299, 356-361; protection of, 335-336;
for Hindus, 400-402; use and abuse, (s)715. See also religious mentorship of, 360; renouncing secrecy,
Computers; Internet; Media; Websites 279; setting goals, 362; Swami Chinmayananda’s ad-
Worldliness: frustration and, 293; guidelines, (s)716; vice, 685; two-year mission, (s)769; Westernization of,
religion vs., 479 xxvi-xxviii. See also Åßrama dharma; Chaperoning;
Worlds, inner: See Antarloka; Íivaloka Children; Education; Family; Guidance; Parenting
Worlds; three: See Three worlds
Worry: contentment vs., 72
Worship: discussion, 89-93, 585-589; birth or death
and, (s)755; daily personal, 260, (s)702; encourag-
ing spouse’s, (s)727; failure to teach, 317; family and,
254; internal and external, 7, 576; at local missions,
(s)764-765; path to wisdom, (s)706; religious duty,
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Scriptural Bibliography
Íâstrîya Sandarbhagranthasûchî
xaas}aIya sandBa*g‰nTasaUcaI
ITED BELOW ARE THE SOURCEBOOKS FROM WHICH
WERE DRAWN THE SACRED EXCERPTS PUBLISHED
IN “VERSES FROM SCRIPTURE” AND ELSEWHERE IN
Living with Íiva. THE ABBREVIATION IS FOLLOWED BY
THE EDITOR/TRANSLATOR, TITLE AND PUBLISHER.

AVG: Ralph T.H. Griffith, Hymns of the Upanishads, Including the Yoga
Atharva Veda (New Delhi, Munshiram Upanishads (Oklahoma, Santarasa
Manoharlal Publishers Pvt. Ltd., 1985) Publications, 1980)
BO: Indicates “based on translation from…” UPB: V.M. Bedekar and G.B. Palsule, Sixty
CJ: Rama Gose, Candrajñânâgama Upanishads of the Veda (Delhi, Motilal
(Varanasi, Shaiva Bharati Shodha Banarsidass, 1990)
Pratishthanam 1995) UPH: Hume, Robert E., Thirteen Principal
EH: Karan Singh, Essays on Hinduism (Delhi, Upanishads (Madras: Oxford University
Ratna Sagar Ltd., 1990) Press, second edition, 1958)
HV: Abinash Chandra Bose, Hymns from UPM: Mascaro Juan, The Upanishads
the Vedas (Bombay, Asia Publishing (Baltimore: Penguin Books Inc., 1965)
House, 1965) UPP: Prabhavananda, Swami; and Manchester,
KA: R. Shamasastry, Kau†ilya’s Arthaßâstra Frederick, The Upanishads, Breath of the
(Mysore, Wesleyan Mission Press, 1923) Eternal (Hollywood: Vedanta Press, 1971)
NT: The Sivathondan Society, Natchintanai, UPR: Radhakrishnan, S., The Principal
Songs and Sayings of Yogaswami (Jaffna, Upanishads (New York: Harper and
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SY: Ratna Chelliah Navaratnam, Saint VE: Panikkar, Raimond, The Vedic Experience
Yogaswami and the Testament of (Delhi: Motilal Banarsidass, 1989)
Truth (Columbuturai, Thiru Kasipillai VO: Herman W. Tull, The Vedic Origins of
Navaratnam, 1972) Karma, Cosmos as Man In Ancient Indian
RM: Arthur Osborne, ed., The Collected Works Myth and Ritual (Albany, State University
of Ramana Maharshi (London, Rider, of New York Press, 1989)
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(New Delhi, Veda Pratishthana, 1977) YT: Georg Feuerstein, Yoga, The Technology of
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Samhita, A Scientific Synopsis (New Delhi: Inc., 1989)
Indian National Science Academy, 1980)
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Holy Utterances of Saint Tirumular
(Hawaii, Saiva Siddhanta Church, 1982)
UPA: K. Narayanasvami Aiyar, Thirty Minor
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Index of Inspired Talks

Preraka Vârtânukrama∫î
p‰erk[ vaata*anau}a[maNaI
1. See God Everywhere
URUDEVA HAS TRULY GIVEN HUMANITY A LEGACY
OF MATCHLESS TEACHINGS. living with Íiva WAS
DRAWN FROM HALF A CENTURY OF INSPIRED TALKS.
HERE WE ENDEAVOR TO BRIEFLY RECORD THE DATE
AND CIRCUMSTANCES EACH TALK ISSUED FORTH.

See God Everywhere, comprising Monday through Friday’s lessons, is an

inspired talk given before a group of devotees by Gurudeva on February 28,
1984, Mahâßivarâtri, Íiva’s Great Night, in the Kadavul Hindu Temple, and
published in Know Thy Self in 1993. Saturday and Sunday’s lessons are The Self
God, Gurudeva’s ultimate statement on Absolute Reality, which he gave to a
small group of karma yoga initiates at his Sacramento Street Temple in San
Francisco on October 3, 1959, just before flying to Hawaii for the first time.
2–9. Noninjury and Truthfulness; Nonstealing and Other Virtues;
Compassion, Honesty and Diet; Purity and Remorse; Contentment
and Giving; Faith and Worship; Scriptural Study and Cognition; Vows,
Incantation and Austerity: These eight chapters were composed in a series
of question-and-answer sessions with Gurudeva on the Hindu restraints and
observances, yamas and niyamas, from February 14 to March 26, 1990, at
Kauai’s Beachboy Hotel.
10. Celibacy and Fidelity
The lessons of this chapter are drawn from Íaivite Virtue, the Power of Celi-
bacy for Hindu Youth, published in 1989, and from The Book of Virtue, a com-
panion to the Íaivite Íâstras which Gurudeva dictated in 1974.
11. Physical, Mental, Emotional Foods
The first six lessons are drawn from a chapter by the same name in the 1967
Master Course, based on an inspired talk given March 1, 1958 in San Francisco.
Sunday’s lesson is Gurudeva’s first published article, June 1949, from a Ceylon
newspaper.
12. Chemical Chaos
This chapter begins with an inspired talk given in 1964 in San Francisco,
addressing the issue of psychedelic drugs, when the drug movement was just
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getting started and no one yet knew the long-term effects of these powerful
substances. Additional input is from audio recordings made in February and
March of 1999 for a CD published by the monastery called “Drug Free Kauai,
Ten Hard Lessons on Drug Abuse.”
13. Discipline for Self-Transformation
The first four lessons on sâdhana are from an upadeßa given in Kadavul Hindu
Temple to devotees at Kauai Aadheenam’s Guru Pûr∫imâ festival in 1982. The
remaining three lessons are assembled from answers to questions submitted in
1999 and 2000 by cyberspace cadets on Kauai Aadheenam’s daily website and
from the study book published in 1982 entitled Hindu Sâdhana, The Master
Course Book Two.
14–15. The Meditator; Obstacles to Meditation
These two chapters embody a discourse by Gurudeva in October of 1972, out-
lining effective beginning techniques of meditation and offering insights on
overcoming obstacles to successful inner life. It was first published in 1973 as
The Meditator, in the “On the Path” series.
16. Harnessing Willpower
This chapter’s first five lessons are from “Willpower and Comprehension,” an
unpublished manuscript dictated at the Kona Surf Hotel in the early 1970s.
Saturday and Sunday present “The Consciousness of Comprehension,” a Sun-
day inspired talk given at the San Francisco Temple sometime in 1958 or ’59.
17. Life Is Meant to Be Lived Joyously
The chapter begins with a short excerpt about stress from “Problems and
Solutions Confronting Íaivism in the Technological Age,” an inspired talk
gathered from discourses given in Sri Lanka on pilgrimage in January of 1982.
The first three lessons (beginning with “Spiritual things you must understand
with your heart”), are from “Facing Your Past” a talk Gurudeva gave on Octo-
ber 7, 1962, to devotees at his San Francisco Temple. Thursday’s (beginning
with “Morning pûjâs are…”) and Friday’s lessons are from “Anâhata Yoga,” a
pamphlet published in 1964. Saturday and Sunday are from “Facing Overlap-
ping Reactions,” Gurudeva’s Sunday message of June 8, 1958.
18. The Power of Penance
This unique chapter is drawn from the dictations on penance that Gurudeva
gave in February of 1997 for a series of pamphlets to help devotees and stu-
dents cope with subconscious obstacles and unresolvable problems.

19–20. The Hand that Rocks the Cradle Rules the World; Her Power, Her
Domain: These chapters are drawn from an historic discourse given by
Gurudeva on his fifty-third Jayantî, January 5, 1980, at the Kadavul Hindu Tem-
ple, enjoining the modern Hindu woman to not forsake her dharma but pro-
tect the home and nurture the family as her gift of love to the next generation.
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21. Marriage and Family Life

The first five lessons of this chapter are from an upadeßa on marriage which
Gurudeva gave on May 17, 1990. Saturday’s lesson is from a series of talks on
marital harmony given October 24-25, 1989. Sunday’s lesson is from a series
of talks given on ahiμsâ, also in October of 1989. Portions of these talks were
reproduced as Publisher’s Desk articles in HINDUISM TODAY entitled “Trouble
in the Home, Differences within Marriage” in March, 1991, and “Marriage is
Forever” in September, 1992.
22. Family Togetherness
This chapter’s first three lessons on family life are from Gurudeva’s October,
1997, Publisher’s Desk, “Keeping Secrets: the First Step in Leaving Home,”
followed by “Is Your House a Home or a Hotel Room?” Publisher’s Desk,
November, 1999.
23. The Wisdom of Early Marriage
The first five lessons here are from “Child Marriage” an inspired talk given in
the San Francisco Temple on March 14, 1963, and like other Sunday lectures
of that period, reproduced on a mimeograph machine for the congregation.
The last two lessons are from “Early Marriages,” Gurudeva’s Publisher’s Desk
column of July, 1993.
24. Modern Matchmakers
The first four lessons of this chapter are drawn from Íaiva Dharma Íâstras,
The Book of Discipline of Íaiva Siddhânta Church. Friday and Saturday are
from “Cross National Marriages,” Gurudeva’s Publisher’s Desk column of
August, 1993. Sunday’s advice for young men and ladies was excerpted from
“Growing Old,” given in San Francisco on November, 26, 1960, along with an
internet response given in May, 2000, to a young man’s question, “I’m in love
with a Christian girl…”
25. Divorce and Abuse
This chapter is drawn from four Publisher’s Desk articles: “Marriage Is For-
ever” (September, 1992), “Divorce, Indian Style” (October, 1992), “Coping with
Divorce” (January, 1991), and “It all Starts with that First Slap” (September,
1994).
26. Bringing Up Children
“Teenage Upbringing,” Publisher’s Desk, October, 1989, makes up Monday
and Tuesday’s lessons. Wednesday through Saturday are drawn from two Pub-
lisher’s Desk discourses: “Who Are the Mentors—Kids or Parents?” (October
1991), and “The ‘Why Don’t You?’ Philosophy” (June, 1991). Sunday presents
upadeßas on chaperoning from 1996.
27. Positive Discipline
This chapter’s first two lessons are from “The Problem with Taking It Out on
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the Children,” Publisher’s Desk, July 1999. Wednesday and Thursday present
“Spare the Rod and Save the Child,” Publisher’s Desk, February 1997. Friday
is drawn from Gurudeva’s 1996 discussions on penance. Saturday and Sunday
present the Publisher’s Desk, “Time In and Time Out: Two Sides of Disci-
pline,” from April, 1997.
28. Teenage Trials
This candid advice on raising teens is from “Teenage Upbringing” Gurudeva’s
Publisher’s Desk column, October, 1989, as well as from an upadeßa on com-
mitment given at the Concord, California, Palaniswami Temple in June of
1988. Wednesday’s story of heartbreak was first published in Gurudeva’s Pub-
lisher’s Desk, “Suicide, Parental Pressures” in December, 1996. This chapter
also includes Internet upadeßas from 2000, particularly on short- and long-
term goals and educating oneself for future objectives. Sunday, on the choice
of careers for youth, is drawn from the 1995 edition of Íaiva Dharma Íâstras.
29. Language that Hurts
This chapter captures “Swearing, Gossip and Backbiting (Publisher’s Desk,
January/February, 2001) and “Verbal Abuse” (Publisher’s Desk, July/August,
2001) along with excerpts from a Sunday talk given in the ’60s at the San Fran-
cisco Temple entitled, “Gossip and Backbiting.”
30. Bribery and Bad Money
This discussion on rightly acquired wealth brings forth “Good Money, Bad
Money,” Publisher’s Desk, May, 1997, and “Bribery is Disruption of Society and
Culture,” Publisher’s Desk, April, 1999.
31. What about Computers?
Two Publisher’s Desk columns are the basis of this chapter: “A Cool, Calcu-
lating Computer-Educated Generation” (May, 1996), and “Games that Kill”
(March, 1992), along with advice on television that Gurudeva dictated to his
ma†havâsis in a question-and-answer session on May 14, 1990.
32. Adultery and Pornography
This chapter presents “A Mystical View of Adultery,” and “Pornography on
the Internet” from Gurudeva’s Publisher’s Desk column (June, 1999, and June,
1998, respectively).
33. Birth, Abortion and Suicide
Monday’s discussion on the timing of incarnation is drawn from a lengthy
upadeßa on death and rebirth which Gurudeva gave at an editing session in
August/September, 1989. Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday present “Let’s Talk
about Abortion” (Publisher’s Desk, January, 1992). Friday and Saturday bring
forth “Let’s Talk about Suicide” (Publisher’s Desk, December, 1992). Sunday’s
discussion on the thirty-nine day retreat is from the 1995 edition of Íaiva
Dharma Íâstras, with a response to a question from an Internet devotee.
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34. Old and Gray

Old and Gray embodies Gurudeva’s June, 1995, Publisher’s Desk, “Old and
Gray and in the Way” which was drawn from an upadeßa to his editing team
on May 8, 1990. It concludes with “On Growing Old” (beginning in Friday’s
lesson with “In the Western World, the elderly....”), a Sunday lecture given in
San Francisco on November, 26, 1960.
35. Beyond Death, Astral Life
This discussion comes from Gurudeva’s August/September, 1990, upadeßa on
death, dying, the afterlife and reincarnation.
36. The Joys of Hinduism
This chapter is excerpted from the inspired talk “Courage, Courage, Courage,”
given to devotees gathered before the homa fire in the Kadavul Hindu Temple
on October 19, 1978.
37. Duty and Destiny
The first four lessons of this chapter on dharma are from “Courage, Cour-
age, Courage.” Friday and Sunday’s lessons are from a series of lectures given
in Mauritius from February 28 through March 2, 1982, in which Gurudeva
ignited a spiritual revival among the large Hindu population of the island
nation. Saturday’s insights on the caste system are drawn primarily from
answers to questions from Gurudeva’s “Internet congregation.”
38. The Wheel of Karma
Monday and Tuesday’s lessons are from “Wheel of Karma,” a talk given to
devotees at the San Francisco Temple and published in pamphlet form in
1964. It is followed by “Karma and Responsibility,” a talk Gurudeva gave in
Kauai in 1981. Friday is from a short upadeßa given in 1988, and the last two
lessons are from writings done while creating Dancing with Íiva, Hinduism’s
Contemporary Catechism.
39–40. To Do No Harm; War and Peace
This discourse on the Hindu view of ahiμsâ, noninjury, was dictated during
a series of question-and-answer sessions in December, 1989, on Kauai, for the
Upadeßa Series. Gurudeva dictated hundreds of pages on a host of subjects
that year for the coming editions of Living with Íiva and Merging with Íiva,
including karma yoga, râja yoga, japa yoga, ha†ha yoga, marriage, and death
and dying. These were typed at the Beachboy Hotel on a Sony portable com-
puter. Wednesday’s lesson of Chapter 40 was dictated on September 9, 1990.
41. The Power Called Forgiveness
This chapter consists primarily of two Publisher’s Desk columns Gurudeva
wrote for HINDUISM TODAY, “Forgiveness, Resentment, Reconciliation”
(November, 1997) and “Non-Retaliation” (February, 1998). Sunday is drawn
from Hindu Sâdhana, a study book published in 1982.
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42. Nurture Gratitude, Be Considerate

The first three lessons capture Gurudeva’s Publisher’s Desk column, “Grati-
tude and Appreciation,” June, 1997. The last paragraph of Wednesday and the
first two paragraphs of Thursday capture an unpublished manuscript called
“A Little Bit of Kindness,” probably from the ’60s. Friday through Sunday (and
the last paragraph of Thursday) are from “How to Be Considerate,” a Sunday
lecture given at the temple in San Francisco on September 28, 1958.
43. Zero Tolerance for Disharmony
The first five lessons of this chapter bring forth Gurudeva’s Publisher’s Desk of
June, 1996, and “How to Stop Tolerating Turmoil,” published in the following
issue. Saturday and Sunday are from a talk on spiritual love given in Kadavul
Hindu Temple during November, 1999.
44. Why We Need Religion
A talk entitled “Vedanta” from the 1970s makes up the first four lessons of this
chapter. The final three lessons, on monistic theism, were created in 1990 in
response to questions from ma†havâsis at an afternoon editing session.
45. Palaces of the Gods
This chapter is drawn from an inspired talk given by Gurudeva in the small
island country of Mauritius during a spiritual lecture tour February 28
through March 2, 1982. The original talk was published as “Dharma, Gods and
Temple Worship,” an Insight Section in HINDUISM TODAY published shortly
after the tour.
46. Sending Prayers to the Gods
This chapter was drawn from Praying to the Gods, A Modern Tantra on Writing
Prayers for the Sacred Temple Fire (1990).
47. The Spirit of the Guru
Monday’s lesson is an upadeßa Gurudeva gave to two of his âchâryas on Sep-
tember 30, 1989. The remaining lessons are “The Spirit of the Guru,” a talk
given in Kadavul Hindu Temple to devotees during the Guru Pûr∫imâ festival
in July of 1991.
48. Íiva’s Monastics
This chapter was drawn primarily from the chapter in Íaiva Dharma Íâstras,
the Book of Discipline of Íaiva Siddhânta Church (1995), in which Gurudeva
records the structure, lifestyle and codes of conduct of his monastic order.
Sunday is Swami Vivekananda’s “Song of the Sannyâsin.”
49. Passing on Our Heritage
Monday begins with “Tools for Educating the Young,” the October, 1995, Pub-
lisher’s Desk column. The next five lessons are drawn primarily from “Protect,
Preserve and Promote the Íaiva Dharma,” an inspired talk given in the temples
and âßramas of Malaysia, Sri Lanka and South India during the Innersearch
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Travel-Study Program in January, 1981. Sunday’s lesson is from “Global Edu-

cation,” a presentation which Gurudeva submitted at the Global Forum of
Spiritual and Political Leaders for Human Survival, Development and Envi-
ronment held in Moscow, January 14-19, 1990.
50. Íaivite Culture
Monday and Tuesday are from “Problems and Solutions Facing Íaivism in
a Technological Age” an inspired talk gathered from discourses given in Sri
Lanka by Gurudeva, Sri Sivaya Subramuniyaswami, during his annual pil-
grimage in January of 1982, in which he courageously discussed the threats of
conversion, liberal Hinduism and Western influences, impelling Saivism’s glo-
rious past into the future. Wednesday and Thursday are from two Publisher’s
Desks: “Clothes—Dress Codes” (February, 1992) and “Happy Priests, Happy
People” (June 1992). Friday’s is from “Let’s Talk About Detractors” (Publisher’s
Desk, November, 1994), and Saturday is from “Let’s Stop Bashing Our Priests.”
(Publisher’s Desk, December, 1994). Sunday is from a talk on commitment
given to Church members at the Concord, California, Palaniswami Temple in
June of 1988.
51. Hindu Solidarity
This chapter is drawn from two inspired talks: “Hinduism, Solidarity in
Diversity,” given in Walnut Creek, California, on June 3, 1983, and “Problems
and Solutions Facing Íaivism in a Technological Age” given in Sri Lanka dur-
ing January of 1982.
52. Stand Strong for Hinduism
This chapter is drawn from the inspired talk by the same title, delivered on
May 25, 1980, at Nugegoda, Sri Lanka, in which he called upon Hindus to
proudly proclaim their faith to the world, to support one another and to be
strong themselves through strengthening their religion.
Resource 1: Ha†ha Yoga
This insightful presentation is drawn from Gurudeva’s inspired talks on ha†ha
yoga given in 1971-1972 and in August of 1990.
Resource 2: Religion’s Dues
This unique explanation of Hindu tithing is drawn primarily from God’s
Money, published by Himalayan Academy in 1989.
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Colophon
Antyavachanam
Antyavacanama<
MERGING SIMULTANEOUSLY WITH THE FOUNDA-
TION AND FIRST FEW COURSES OF IRAIVAN TEM-
PLE, Living with Íiva, hinduism’s contemporary culture, LIKE
IRAIVAN, IS A MONUMENTAL ACCOMPLISHMENT.
THOUGH IT IS THE SECOND BOOK IN the trilogy, it
is the final book to be completed, taking its proud place
as a 1,000-page tome alongside Dancing with Íiva and Merging with Íiva.
The text for the second edition was drawn together, dictated, written and
edited by Gurudeva in unfailing daily afternoon sessions with his ma†ha-
vâsis from April, 2000, to June, 2001, on an AirPort (wireless ethernet)
network of four Apple Macintosh PowerBook G4 Titanium computers
using Farallon’s Timbuktu at an oceanside field office. This book was
designed and illustrated by the âchâryas and swâmîs of the Íaiva Sid-
dhânta Yoga Order at Kauai Aadheenam, Kauai’s Hindu Monastery on
Hawaii’s Garden Island. This edition was typeset in Adobe InDesign CS2
on a Gigabit Ethernet network of Apple Macintosh PowerBook G4 and
PowerMac G5 computers and an Xserve G5. The text is set in Adobe’s
Minion family of fonts to which diacritical marks have been added using
Fontographer: 12.5-point medium on 15-point linespacing for the body of
the book and 8.25 on 9.75 for the glossary and index. Sanskrit and Tamil
fonts include those by Ecological Linguistics, Brahmi Type and Srikrishna
Patil. Production was supervised by Jainendra Prakash Jain at Shri Jainen-
dra Press in New Delhi, India.
The cover art is a watercolor by Tiru S. Rajam, 87, of Chennai, India,
commissioned for this book in 2000. The painting on the half-title page
is by the same artist, a venerable national treasure of South India, musi-
cal composer and traditional Tamil Íaivite artist whose work is perma-
nently exhibited in the British Museum in London. The line illustrations
used in the highlight boxes on the title pages are also by S. Rajam, drawn
from his Periyapuranam and Íiva’s Pranks collections. The vivid oil por-
trait of Gurudeva on the back cover and the Ga∫eßa on page ii were gifts
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by India’s renowned artist and national treasure, Sri Indra Sharma, 82,
during his sojourn on Kauai in late 1997. He was also commissioned to
execute the portrait of Jnanaguru Yogaswami on page iv. The elegant and
philosophically rich watercolor paintings that initiate each chapter are
the work of Tiru A. Manivelu, 64, commissioned in 2000-2001. The back-
ground patterns adorning the title pages were created by a gifted soul of
our sannyâsin order based on Manivelu’s paintings.
The comprehensive index was created by Tirumati Chamundi Saba-
nathan of Santa Rosa, California, using Sonar Bookends. Sanskrit trans-
lation of the chapter titles was provided by Dr. David Frawley (Pandit
Vamadeva Shastri) of Santa Fe, New Mexico, with proofreading by Dr.
Mahesh Mehta of Ontario, Canada, and Dr. P. Jayaraman of New York.
Proofreading of the book was completed by Kulapati Easvan Param of
Walnut Creek, California, and editing by a brilliant multilingual scholar
who wishes to remain anonymous.
For the transliteration, or spelling, of Sanskrit words we chose the
system used by Sir Monier Williams (1819-1899) in his Sanskrit dictionar-
ies. It seemed more natural to us than the system now used in academic
texts. Denoting the ch sound and the sh sound are two of the main dif-
ferences. In the academic system, the ch sound (as in chakra) is spelled
with a simple c. We chose ch instead, because in English the c is always
sounded as c as in count, or c as in cinder, never as a ch sound, as in charm.
We also sought a system that does not require a change in spellings when
diacriticals are dropped off. That’s why we also chose to not use the dot
under the s for Œ, and instead use sh, and to put an i after ®, as in ®ishi. A
chart of pronunciation is found on page 895.
A tremendous, historic effort is now underway, for which all three
worlds are grateful. Translators around the globe are coming forward to
render the three books of our trilogy into an array of tongues. Mrs. Sudha
Kulkarni of Pune, India, is translating The Master Course into Marathi.
Mr. Sergey Lobanov of Moscow translated Dancing into Russian, and Mr.
Alexander Ivantsov of Chernigov, Ukraine, translated Merging. Dr. Cris-
tina Berisso of Redding, California, is bringing the trilogy into Spanish.
Mr. Sukumaran Apparu and Kulamata Ahila Devi Ganesan of Malaysia
translated Dancing into Malay. Lakshmi Hartmann of Bondorf is bring-
ing Merging into German. Tirumati Damara Shanmugan, founder of the
S.H.I.V.A. Braille Foundation of La Mesa, California, has translated the
trilogy into braille. Tiru S. Kumarakulasingam of New Malden, England,
COLOPHON 935

and Tiru R.V. Subramanian of Greenbelt, Maryland, are dedicated to

rendering the trilogy in Tamil, with the assistance of Kulapati Appasamy
Kuppusamy of Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, as typesetter and proofreader.
As I write this colophon, these three Tamil elders are laboring on the 365
Nandinâtha Sûtras, the core of the the entire Master Course trilogy.
This is the conclusion of the time-honored Master Course. The teach-
ings contained within the trilogy of Dancing, Living and Merging with Íiva
have inspired millions of my devotees in many counties to build temples
and make orderly their lives through the past fifty years in various ways,
large and small. The tireless efforts of the Saiva Swami Sangam made this
all possible. With each and every one who has played a part in the cre-
ation of The Master Course we share a well-earned portion of the good
karmas that will happen in the lives of all who are exposed, even a little, to
these divine truths. May you bask in the glory of good accomplishment.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR 937

About the Author

NCE IN A WHILE ON THIS EARTH THERE ARISES A
SOUL WHO, BY LIVING HIS TRADITION RIGHTLY AND
WHOLLY, PERFECTS HIS PATH AND BECOMES A LIGHT
TO THE WORLD. SATGURU SIVAYA SUBRAMUNIYA-
SWAMI (1927-2001) WAS SUCH A BEING, A SHINING
example of awakening and wisdom, a leader recognized
worldwide as one of Hinduism’s foremost ministers. ¶In 1947, as a young
man of 20, he journeyed to India and Sri Lanka and was two years later
initiated into sannyâsa by the renowned siddha yogî and worshiper of Íiva,
Jnanaguru Yogaswami of Sri Lanka, regarded as one of the 20th century’s
most remarkable mystics. For over five decades, Subramuniyaswami, af-
fectionately known as Gurudeva, taught Hinduism to Hindus and seek-
ers from all faiths. Known as one of the strictest gurus in the world, he
was the 162nd successor of the Nandinâtha Kailâsa lineage and founding
satguru of Kauai Aadheenam, a 458-acre temple-monastery complex on
Hawaii’s Garden Island of Kauai. From this verdant Polynesian âßramâ on
a river bank near the foot of an extinct volcano, his monastics, under the
direction of his successor, Satguru Bodhinatha Veylanswami, continue to
live their cherished vision, following a contemplative and joyous existence,
building a jewel-like white granite Íiva temple, meditating together in
the hours before dawn, then working to promote the dharma together
through Íaiva Siddhânta Church, Himâlayan Academy and Hindu Heri-
tage Endowment. ¶His Church nurtures its membership and local mis-
sions on five continents and serves, personally and through books and
courses, the community of Hindus of all sects. Its mission is to protect,
preserve and promote the Íaivite Hindu religion as expressed through
three pillars: temples, satgurus and scripture. Its congregation is a disci-
plined, global fellowship of family initiates, monastics and students who
are taught to follow the sâdhana mârga, the path of yogic striving and per-
sonal transformation. The recognized hereditary guru of 2.5 million Sri
Lankan Hindus, Gurudeva proclaimed his Church a Jaffna-Tamil-based
organization which branched out from the Sri Subramuniya Ashram in
Alaveddy to meet the needs of the growing Hindu diaspora of this century.
It gently oversees some 40 temples worldwide. ¶HINDUISM TODAY is the
influential, award-winning, international quarterly magazine founded by
Gurudeva in 1979. It is a public service of his monastic order, created to
938 LIVING WITH ÍIVA

strengthen all Hindu traditions by uplifting and informing followers of

dharma everywhere. Gurudeva’s numerous books present his unique and
practical insights on Hindu metaphysics, mysticism, culture, philosophy
and yoga. His Íaivite Hindu Religion children’s course is taught in many
schools, preserving the teachings among thousands of youths. Hindu Her-
itage Endowment is the public service trust founded by Gurudeva in 1995.
It seeks to establish and maintain permanent sources of income for Hindu
institutions worldwide. ¶In 1986 he founded a branch monastery in Mau-
ritius. That same year, New Delhi’s World Religious Parliament named
him one of five modern-day Jagadâchâryas, world teachers, for his inter-
national efforts in promoting a Hindu renaissance. Then in 1995, in Delhi,
the Parliament bestowed on him the title of Dharmachakra for his re-
markable publications. The Global Forum of Spiritual and Parliamentary
Leaders for Human Survival chose Subramuniyaswami as a Hindu repre-
sentative at its unique conferences. At Chicago’s historic centenary Parlia-
ment of the World’s Religions in September, 1993, Subramuniyaswami was
elected one of three presidents to represent Hinduism at the Presidents’
Assembly, a core group of 25 men and women voicing the needs of world
faiths. In 1996 Gurudeva upgraded the newspaper HINDUISM TODAY to a
magazine, a quantum leap that placed it on newsstands everywhere. From
1996 to 2001 Gurudeva was a key member of Vision Kauai 2020, a group
of inspirers (including the Mayor, county council, business and education
leaders) that met to fashion the island’s future based on spiritual values.
On August 25, 2000, Gurudeva received the prestigious United Nations U
Thant Peace Award in New York (previously awarded to the Dalai Lama,
Nelson Mandela, Mikhail Gorbachev, Pope John Paul and Mother Teresa),
and he addressed 1,200 spiritual leaders gathered for the UN Millennium
Peace Summit. ¶Learning on October 9, 2001, that he had advanced intes-
tinal cancer, Gurudeva decided to follow the Indian yogic practice, called
prâyopaveßa in Sanskrit scripture, to abstain from nourishment and take
water only from that day on. In the first weeks of his fast, Gurudeva seam-
lessly transferred his duties and responsibilities to his chosen successor,
Satguru Bodhinatha Veylanswami, 59, a disciple for 37 years. He left his
body peacefully on the 32nd day of his self-declared fast, at 11:54 pm on
November 12, 2001, surrounded by his twenty-three monastics. ¶If you ask
people what is so special about Gurudeva, they may point to his incredible
power to inspire others toward God, to change their lives, to be a light on
their path toward God, a father and mother to all who drew near.
Visit Gurudeva's legacy on the web: www.gurudeva.org
 939

There are a few unusual men who have had enough

of worldliness and choose to dance, live and merge
with Íiva as Hindu monks.

HESE RARE SOULS FOLLOW THE PATH OF THE TRA-

DITIONAL HINDU MONASTIC, VOWED TO POVERTY,
HUMILITY, OBEDIENCE, PURITY AND CONFIDENCE.
THEY PURSUE THE DISCIPLINES OF charyÅ, kriyÅ, yoga
AND jñÅna THAT LEAD TO SELF REALIZATION. Know-
ing God is their only goal in life, the power that drives them tirelessly
on, they live with other ma†havâsis like themselves in monasteries, apart
from worldliness, to worship, meditate, serve and realize the truths of the
Vedas and Íaiva Ågamas.
Guided by Satguru Bodhinatha Veylanswami, successor to Satguru Sivaya
Subramuniyaswami, and headquartered at Kauai Aadheenam in Hawaii,
USA, on the beautiful Garden Island of Kauai, the Saiva Siddhanta Yoga
Order is among the world’s foremost traditional Íaivite Hindu monastic
orders, accepting candidates from every nation on Earth. It is an advaitic
Íaiva Siddhânta order, a living stream of the ancient Nandinâtha Sam-
pradâya, originally deriving from India, and in recent centuries based in Sri
Lanka. Young men considering the renunciate path who strongly believe
they have found their spiritual calling in this lineage are encouraged
to write to Bodhinatha, sharing their personal history, spiritual aspira-
tions, thoughts and experiences. Holy orders of sannyâsa may be con-
ferred on those who qualify after ten to twelve years of training. Write to:

Satguru Bodhinatha Veylanswami

Guru Mahâsannidhânam, Kauai Aadheenam
107 Kaholalele Road, Kapaa, Hawaii 96746-9304 USA
E-mail: [email protected]; World Wide Web: www.gurudeva.org
Hail, O sannyâsin, love’s embodiment! Does any power exist
apart from love? Diffuse thyself throughout the happy world. Let
painful mâyâ cease and never return. Day and night give praise
unto the Lord. Pour forth a stream of songs to melt the very stones.
Attain the sight where night is not, nor day. See Íiva everywhere
and rest in bliss. Live without interest in worldly gain. Here, as
thou hast ever been, remain. —SATGURU SIVA YOGASWAMI
940 LIVING WITH ÍIVA

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Weaver’s Wisdom
Ancient Precepts for a Perfect Life
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Loving Ga∫eßa
Hinduism’s Endearing Elephant-Faced God
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 5 REVIEWS & COMMENTS 5

H.H. Sri La Sri Arunagirinatha gives everything. “Living with Siva is living with love.”
Sri Gnanasambanda Desikar
¶We seekers of the present day who can read English
Paramacharya Swamigal,
are highly fortunate since Gurudeva has decided to
Aadheenakarthar and 292nd
Guru Mahasannidhanam of release this second edition wherein he has included
Madurai Aadheenam, about 800 pages of his inspired speeches which cover
Madurai, India all the subjects on the Earth, varying from marriage,
abortion, suicide, television, computers… is there
The book Living with Siva is the greatest book ever anything else which is left out? ¶The traditional path
written. It is a book of divine instruction. It offers of dharma is elucidated—methods and techniques
comfort in sorrow, guidance in perplexity, advice for which will be helpful to everyone to find God within
our problems, rebuke for our sins and daily inspira- themselves are enumerated in this book. The four
tion for our every need. This is not simply one book. It progressive stages of life are defined. The normal hu-
is an entire library of books covering the whole range man life span is specified as 120 years with transitions
of literature. It includes history, poetry, drama, biog- at 40 and 80. The student stage is from 12 to 24, the
raphy, prophecy, philosophy, science and inspiration- householder stage is from 24 to 48; the stage of re-
al reading. ¶Living with Siva alone truly answers the spected elder is from 48 to 72 and the stage of the re-
greatest questions that men of all ages have asked: ligious solitaire after 72 years of age. How wonderful it
“Where have I come from?”, “Where am I going?”, “Why would be if the human race understands these stages
am I going?”, “Why am I here?”, “How can I know the and regulates their lives accordingly! In the modern
Truth?” Living with Siva reveals the truth about God, world, there are many who become householders
explains the origin of man, points out the only way around twenty by losing brahmacharya and become
to salvation and eternal life and explains the age-old disrespected elders around sixty-five! ¶Starting from
problem of sin and suffering. Living with Siva dis- the purpose of life, the 365 Nandinatha Sutras unfold
covers sin and confronts us with it, helps cleanse us one after the other with stunning simplicity and as-
from the pollution of sin, imparts strength, provides tonishing brightness like pearls. Defining discipline,
us with a sword for victory over sin, makes our lives touching on theology, they specify ethics showing
fruitful and gives us power to pray. care for the world, they examine life and death. There
are instructions for everybody, for every situation—
Sri Sri Swami Bua Ji Maharaj, for men, women, parents, husbands, wives, business
age 112, founder and head men, politicians, scientists—none is forgotten or left
of the Indo-American Yoga-
out. ¶Some have called these sutras a modern Tiru-
Vedanta Society in New York,
teacher of Sanatana Dharma in
kural. I would like to call these a “Parallel Tirukural”—
South America and elsewhere parallel because these convey the same messages in
similar formats of aram, porul, veedu and inbam in
The hands of a clock are powered short precise sentences loaded with essence. ¶The
from the center no matter where they point. Like- language used is very simple, direct and does not
wise, Siva’s followers, wherever they are, whatever need any interpreter. Each sutra emanates religious
direction they look at, are powered by Siva from the fragrance to Saiva followers. This book which is an
universal center and guided by the satguru. But these excellent compilation of ethical rules, moral direc-
days the digital clocks have come up. So, the center as tives, saintly instructions and Godly guidance, should
well as the hands have become invisible. It does not reach far and wide and become the pride posses-
mean that they do not exist. It is only more difficult to sion of many, transforming this land worthy of living.
visualize the center and the hands. ¶At this juncture,
there is a proclamation in the form of a book that Pundit K.N. Navaratnam,
says God is within you and you are in God. The hands M.A.F.A., F.A.A., Jaffna Tamil
elder, Jyotisha Marthand and
have merged with the center. We see only the move-
National Astrologer of Australia,
ments—only the dance—only the change in the Sivathondan Center, Hallam,
digits. ¶This is an ardent attempt to break the mis- Australia
conception that if you worship God Siva, He will take
everything away from you. This is not true. God Siva Living with Siva is the latest mo-
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numental spiritual work from our beloved Gurudeva. votion and vision as this, except Swamiji’s earlier trea-
In this time of spiritual darkness his teachings are like tise Dancing with Siva. The book is a testimony of his
the cooling rains on a parched summer afternoon. communion with Lord Siva, as just a thinker, whatever
Following directly in the lineage of Tirumular, who his intellect, cannot give this kind of disclosure. ¶The
gave us three thousand verses of wisdom, Gurudeva subject matter embodied in Living with Siva is so di-
has blessed us with another thousand pages of in- versified and comprehensive that it leaves out no as-
sight that is akin to being hit over the head with a pect of present day life and the prevailing distortions
hammer to awaken us from our spiritual slumber. This in society. The book is a practical guide to individuals
work is medicine for a sick and diseased world where as to how to be pure in thoughts and actions. I would
the darkness of maya has led many people away like to particularly draw the attention of the truth
from God. God consciousness cannot be explained seeker readers to the 365 Nandinatha Sutras for right
in words but must be uncovered inside oneself by living. If practiced, the individual will elevate himself
oneself. Gurudeva explains how to remove the maya and the society to where there will be no misdeeds,
of the world and conditioning of the mind like peel- no violence, no social tensions, no hatred, no cold
ing the layers off an onion. ¶In all his works, Gurudeva wars, no fear, no greed and no lust for power. It will
shows the path that must be walked. It is a path that be a society without any kind of evil. There would be
must be walked alone, although we can take great a mutual tolerance, nonviolence, unity, equality, love,
reassurance he is always with us like a divine guide international peace and brotherhood. ¶Humanity is
pointing in the right direction and offering advice on the brink of its self-annihilation and self-destruc-
and encouragement. All seekers are urged to join us tion. It is crying and groaning. There is darkness all
on this great journey. The road is tough and full of around. International brutalities, terrorism and blood
dangers and pitfalls, but once on it we must follow it thrust have made the Earth a hell. The path shown by
to the end. It is so reassuring Gurudeva is here to pro- Living with Siva is the only hope. It is the silver lining
vide the much needed religious insight in our tech- in the thick and dark clouds.
nologically advanced and ever-changing world. He is
like a shining diamond spreading his divine wisdom Tiru A. Kandiah, Ph.D
to all corners of the world. Jaffna Tamil elder, Author of
Malarum Manamum; Former
Head of the Department of
Sri Sri Swami Pragyanand,
Tamil, University of Kelaniya,
Founder and Patron of Sai
Sri Lanka, Former Professor at
Pragya Dham, Pragya Mission
the University of London, now
International, Pragya Mitra
living in Sydney, Australia
Pariwar and Pragya Yoga
Foundation, New Delhi, and If a person studies these lessons every day for a year,
Vishwa Mata Gayatri Trust, he or she will have completed a profound sadhana, a
Delhi, India personal odyssey into the interior life of him or her-
I wonder how deep is Sivaya Subramuniyaswami’s self and into the depths of Hinduism, a practice suf-
knowledge about the great Hindu Gods Ganesha and ficient to change their lives by transforming the way
Siva. These volumes have made him an institution they look at life itself.
in himself rather than an individual. While reading
Living with Siva, I feel that Swamiji has completely H.H. Dada J.P. Vaswani
engaged himself with Lord Siva and, through deep Head of the worldwide Sadhu
Vaswani Mission, renowned
meditation, he has actually visualized what he has
Sindhi religious leader and
written in the book. He has actually attained in reality eloquent lecturer, Pune, India
all that a saint aspires to achieve. With his thoughts
and writings, Swamiji has rendered valuable service Living with Siva, Hinduism’s
to humanity all over the world, not only to Hindus. Contemporary Culture deals
Swamiji is a living, legendary scholar, and he has influ- with some of the profound issues of our time concern-
enced the entire galaxy of saints the world over. The ing God, family life, money, food, religion and culture.
saintly world is highly proud of him. ¶I have not come The Western materialistic goal is personal fulfillment.
across any other publication so deep in thought, de- The Eastern religious ideal is fulfillment of one’s duty
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towards parents, children, society, country and reli- culture, which has displayed resilience and an ability
gion. When the children of Eastern families encounter to survive many of the ravages of modern society. It
Western values, in many cases personal fulfillment is not only Hindus, but all seekers of wisdom, truth
overrides duty, threatening to cut at the very roots of and knowledge living in different parts of the world,
our culture. Taking India and the West as two poles for who will be inspired and guided by this remarkable
comparison, this wonderful book analyzes the cause masterpiece.
of the cultural crisis and its ethical, philosophical and
social implications. ¶Living with Siva is the fruit of V. Canaganayagam
Satguru Sivaya Subramuniyaswami’s years of study Former manager of Gurudeva’s
Sri Subramuniya Ashram in
and experience. It is a reflection on the fundamentals
Alaveddy, Sri Lanka
of Hinduism, the religion which, like the sun, is ever
ancient and ever new, the religion that rises up after Living with Siva is an excellent
every upheaval like a center-of-gravity doll. What book which lays down the dhar-
does Hinduism have to say about the issues relating mic way in which every Hindu
to traditional family life and their relevance to modern could live his or her life from the beginning to the
times? How far are Hinduism’s ideas about God, fam- end. Hindu literature is so vast that it is not possible
ily life, money, food and culture different from those for everyone to go through it and gather the essence
of other faiths? This lucid, impressive and highly read- of it. Besides, the language in which it is enshrined
able book draws our attention, among other things, may not be familiar to all. To make the spiritual trea-
to the focus of Hinduism on dharma and its deep- sures of Hinduism available to all who wish to avail
rooted faith in the theory of karma. When dharma is themselves of them and the rendering of them in
the shared ideal of every family member, as opposed an international language like English is much to be
to self-fulfillment or socio-economic objectives, it is appreciated. We Hindus value the words of a sage or
easier to navigate troubled waters. Faith in karma, swami. That the intuition and insight of Gurudeva
the law by which our thoughts, words and deeds reap and the swamis have gone into the making and pub-
their natural reactions helps hold the family together. lication of this book makes it all the more sacred. In
¶At a time when we are facing a global failure of the a fast-moving world everyone does not find time for
traditional family unit and find ourselves at a loss in so many things, even to know and practice one’s reli-
coping with the by-products of such a failure, this gion. The dedication of this book in memory of Siva
timely book emerges as a breath of fresh air, remind- Yogaswami of Jaffna makes the Jaffna man proud of
ing us of our rich cultural heritage. Here is a book that his spiritual inheritance.
is waiting to embrace into its fold millions of Hindus
who are waiting to be converted into true Hindus. Sri Svami Yogananda Giri
Founder and Spiritual Head
Shiva Pasupati of Unione Induista Italiana,
Jaffna Tamil elder, President’s Sanatana Dharma Samgha,
Counsel and Former Attorney Gitananda Ashram,
General of Sri Lanka, President Carcare, Italy
of the Australian Tamil
Foundation, Sydney, Australia I read Living with Siva by Sat-
gurudeva with great pleasure and interest. His en-
One of the greatest challenges cyclopedic knowledge expresses its vastness and
facing modern society, particularly in the more “de- deepness in this book. It is really extraordinary how
veloped” countries, is the need to reestablish the Satgurudeva deals with any subject with great abil-
family unit, the disintegration of which has largely ity and wisdom: from ethical to spiritual life, social life
contributed to the increase in crime, the misuse of with all its sacraments (samskaras), emotional purity,
drugs and other evils. In Living with Siva, Gurudeva penance (tapas). Actually, every aspect of dharma,
has revealed very lucidly all aspects of Hinduism’s sadhana and Hindu religion is dealt with in an illu-
contemporary culture, drawing on the experiences of minating and crystal clear manner. It’s a book for ev-
over 6000 years of Hindu family history. There is now eryone on everything. Satgurudeva takes us by hand
an urgent need to preserve and practice the Hindu lesson after lesson, leading us towards full spiritual
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emancipation. It is surely a text that any person who think, “Oh! Where do I find enough time to read this
aspires to reach spiritual emancipation should read dictionary?” But once you start reading, it motivates
and above all meditate on. May Siva give long life to you to read more than one lesson a day! Thank you,
this representative of Him on Earth so that he may al- Gurudeva, for this wonderful gift.
ways illumine the path.
Sri Sri Swami Satchidananda,
Thiru Satkunendran Founder and Spiritual Head of
Jaffna Tamil elder, Assistant Satchidananda Ashram and
Secretary of the Sivathondan its Light of Truth Universal
Nilayam, Toronto, Ontario, Shrine (LOTUS), renowned
Canada yoga master and visionary,
Yogaville, Virginia
What an appropriate book to be
released by Gurudeva in this Kali Gurudeva Sri Sivaya Subramuniyaswami has done it
Yuga cycle, when the Tamil diaspora in Europe, North again. Here in this book he clearly guides the reader
America and Australia are reeling aimlessly, being who would want to follow the Saiva Siddhanta tradi-
unable to discriminate between the good and bad, tion. May all the readers benefit by this great book.
especially our youth, who are caught in the midst of
the Western “culture shock.” They do not know how Swami Shuddhananda
to respect parents, guru, temple and teachers at Brahmachari
Founder of the Lokenath
school. People changing religion for mere financial
Divine Life Mission, India, and
benefits, breakdown in marriages, family and the Lokenath Divine Life Fellowship,
dawn of a new culture… “single parent homes!” The USA
author beautifully states that the Western materi-
alistic goal is personal fulfillment, while the Eastern In this most useful handbook of
religious ideal is fulfillment of duty to one’s parents, daily practice, Satguru Sivaya Subramuniyaswamiji,
society and country, which includes tradition. How- inspires every Hindu—and seekers in general—to fol-
ever, when children of Eastern families are raised up low the timeless principles of Sanatana Dharma. I am
with Western values, personal fulfillment overrides sure, like his previous two books, Dancing with Siva
everything else. This book contains golden advice in and Merging with Siva, this final book of his creative
easy to understand English, is interesting to read, as trilogy, Living with Siva, will guide travelers on the
each subject is short, and the reader can simply get path of Truth towards the ultimate destination of real-
the message of Gurudeva without the aid of another izing Oneness with Siva.
person to provide explanation. This is written target-
ing the present and future generations who are des- Ashwinee Ragoonanan
perately seeking the truth, which parents are unable Jyotishi from Banaras Hindu
University, Publisher of Kashi
to interpret in a modern way, and this is aptly seen
ka Patra, President of the
in this brilliant work. Enlightening both to the young Kashika Yog and Meditation
and old alike. For the young, all the unanswered ques- Foundation, Trinidad and
tions have meaningful explanations and, for the old, Tobago
many topics refresh the mind and, of course, answers
to the questions of modern times are found only in Sri Adi Sankaracharya was responsible for reestablish-
this invaluable book. The guru is so kind and gener- ing the status of Sanatana Dharma when it was at its
ous in saying that one needs to read only one lesson a lowest ebb. Today, without a doubt, it is safe to say
day, as he appreciates our hectic lifestyle. Topics vary that Gurudeva Satguru Sivaya Subramuniyaswami
from yoga practice to computers, war and peace to is an incarnation of Adi Sankaracharya in principle
reverence for the environment, tobacco and drugs to and wisdom, reestablishing and redefining Sanatana
guidelines for business and money. Guru protocol is a Dharma for the present generation and future minds.
must to be read over, as many devotees are not aware The gamut of Sanatana Dharma could not be com-
of the do’s and don’ts in the presence of the guru. A posed in a more lucid and comprehensive manner
first glance at the size of the book will make anyone as it is presented in Living with Siva. Swamiji, in his
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compilation of Living with Siva, has caught the dyna- book plays a very important role in educating the Hin-
mism of Hinduism to touch the spirit and mind of both dus. There are certain topics, like the wisdom of early
the young and the old, the ancient and the modern. marriage, which are quite controversial in modern
time. Gurudeva has dealt with them beautifully, and I
Vimala Krishnapillai, Ph.D have every hope that people will appreciate the matu-
Lecturer at the University of rity of thought running through these topics.
Colombo, Sri Lanka, President
of the Sri Ramakrishna Sarada
Thillaiampalam Visuvalingam,
Samithi, Colombo, Joint
President of the Saiva
Trustee of the Siva Yogar Swami
Sidhdhantha Manram,
Thiruvadi Trust
Managing Editor of Anbu Neri,
Mississauga, Ontario, Canada
Living with Siva is a priceless, monumental text. On
reading it, I felt that Lord Siva, transcending time and Living with Siva is a divine work
space, has transmitted His gift of grace, to human- of Siva Consciousness. These
ity through Satguru Sivaya Subrumuniyaswami. The lessons address all the issues confronting a mod-
presence of the direct communication of truth, so ern person who wishes to follow Sanatana Dharma.
far as it can be put in words, is there on every page. This divine work should be in all households for the
Written in simple words, it is made understandable Saivite Hindus, young and old, to gain the true path
to all who aspire to walk the Saiva path, Saivaneri. of Lord God Siva realization. ¶This is a book on Siva
Every aspect of day-to-day living, both secular and consciousness for all Saivite Hindus, and especially for
religious, family, society, food, health, money man- those who lack faith in themselves and whose faith
agement and, above all, God, are touched upon. Step is undermined by ignorance and indifference. We are
by step, Gurudeva helps one to live a balanced, har- all fortunate that such a book has been conceived
monious life with the goal of raising one’s spiritual by Gurudeva to meet the needs of modern men and
consciousness. The tremendous energizing power of women. May the almighty Lord Siva bless him with all
the text awakens and arouses one from his or her stu- courage and a long healthy life to continue his divine
por to keep the inner light aglow. ¶The text contains contribution.
in essence the whole of Hindu heritage, the Vedas,
Upanishads, Agamas and the outpouring of saints Brahmacharini Maya Tiwari
and sages down the ages. Herein, Sanatana Dharma, Spiritual Head of the Wise Earth
Monastery, Candler, North
the ancient and eternal path, ever fresh and vibrant,
Carolina, and the Mother Om
forges forth into international frontiers as the religion Mission,
of the future. ¶May we express our hearts’ deepest Guyana, South America
gratitude and praise to Satguru Sivaya Subramuniyas-
wami for placing this sacred text as samarpanam at In this impressive guidebook,
the tiruvadi, gracious feet, of his Paramaguru Siva Yo- Gurudeva’s beneficent voice of universal Truth un-
gaswamigal of Yalpanam, Sri Lanka, whom we adore earths and reintroduces the Hindu dharmas for
and venerate as our ancestral kulaguru. living in awareness, integrity and joy. More than a
perennial wellspring of Hindu ideals, Living with
H.H. Swami Tejomayananda Siva demonstrates everyday-life ways that help us
Spiritual Head of Chinmaya to become conscious of negative habits and pro-
Mission, Central Chinmaya
vides us with the means to recognize, acknowledge
Mission Trust, Sandeepany
Sadhanalaya, Mumbai, India
and rid toxic thoughts and harmful activities from
our lives. This guidebook is a masterful blueprint for
The book becomes interesting reclaiming physical, emotional and spiritual health
since it touches almost all aspects or, as Gurudeva puts it, “the ahimsa home” wherein
of one’s life, secular and spiritual. It is the lack of such we may connect our inner experience to the infinite
information and knowledge that creates confusion in wisdom of the rishis. Living with Siva implies exactly
the minds of people regarding their own duties and that: cultivating unflinching awareness and adher-
understanding of their religion. In this context, this ence to the path of dharma.
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Pandit Rajendra Sharma Tiru Perampalam

Priest of the Hindu Worship Saravanamuthu
Society, Houston, Texas President of the Selangor
Wilayah Persekutuan Ceylon
Living with Siva is not a book, Saivites Association, Chairman
but a manual of salvation for all of the First National Malaysian
humankind! Gurudeva has taken Saiva Siddhanta Seminar, 1983,
out the nectar supreme from Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
Sanatana scriptures and has presented them here in Living with Siva is not a book for keeping in the cup-
simple language for the benefit of all living creatures. board of a home library; instead, the book should form
If I compare this manual to the great Bhagavad Gita, an essential item in the prayer room, taking its place
I would not be wrong. Bhagwan Sri Krishna gave the with the ritual utensils used for prayer at the altar. The
synopsis of the Vedas and Upanishads to Arjun in subjects covered are most relevant for not only the
the simple language of the day, yonder “Prakrit,” for adult Saivite Hindu but more for Saivite children for
the benefit of the simple-minded people. So has whom the reading of this book should be manda-
Gurudeva presented this great essence of the Sana- tory, as the present Saivites are faced with new mul-
tana Dharma for the public of today. A long time ago tifarious challenges arising from negative influences
a great religious and social reformer was born who prevalent in modern society. It is only through sound
gave us a great treatise which is known to the modern knowledge of the tenets of Sanatana Dharma that the
world as Manu Smriti, and in this modern time we community could insulate itself from the onslaught
have our own Gurudeva who has made it possible for of new-fangled practices that only cater to the base
us by giving the same kind of knowledge for the com- instincts and would attract many rebirths to atone for
mon people of today. I hereby suggest that this great the bad karmas thus accumulated. Living with Siva
book of knowledge be kept in all homes and libraries is for daily use during prayers, by those present—a
on this Earth. lesson a day would keep bad karmas at bay. ¶Living
with Siva contains 365 lessons which were originally
Vishwaguru delivered to the disciples at Kauai Aadheenam and
Mahamandaleshwar Paramhans others and, as such, have been tested and tried and
Swami Maheshwarananda
found to be very appropriate for all those profess-
Spiritual Head of the Society
“Yoga in Daily Life,”
ing or wanting to learn more about Saivite Hinduism.
Vienna, Austria The author has delved deeply and systematically into
the various subjects that constitute the lessons. For
With this divine work, once more example, the ten yamas and the ten niyamas have
Gurudeva is going to inspire and uplift the conscious- been expounded upon extensively, so much so that
ness of mankind, especially of the Hindus who live in 100 pages give detailed explanations on the ancient
different parts of the world. After the volumes Danc- scriptural injunction for all aspects of human thought,
ing with Siva and Merging with Siva, this new publica- attitude and behavior, giving no room for any doubts
tion brings Lord Siva straight into our daily lives. Living to arise in the mind of the layman. The oft repeated
with Siva is designed to become an integrated part of advice is that a family should pray together to be on
everyday life—day-by-day throughout the whole year the spiritual path. ¶The lessons have been flavored
the reader will get a divine lesson that motivates and and garnished with the occasional Sanskrit or Tamil
encourages him the whole day long. I congratulate word to convey the exact meaning and interpreta-
the author of this really ingenious guidebook that tion of the tenets under discussion. But almost every
preserves and makes approachable the eternal values Sanskrit or Tamil word used has been accompanied
of Sanatana Dharma for our modern civilization in an by its most appropriate English word or phrase. Thus,
easily comprehensible way. Especially, I recommend the object of introducing specific Sanskrit and Tamil
this book to Indian parents living in and outside of In- words, namely to make their meanings familiar to
dia. The children are the future of this Earth, and in or- the reader, has been achieved through this method
der to reveal and establish the ethical fundamentals of of repeating the words and thus enabling the reader
Vedic culture and religion to the new generation, this to learn the word and its meaning through minimum
book really should not be missed in any Indian family! effort. ¶The present lifestyle of many Saivites is based
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on Western culture, which in some instances runs shared with those in the child’s home. The school, fur-
contradictory to Hindu culture. The adoption of an thermore, is at all times competing with the influence
alien custom and tradition often results in the arousal of the television on young minds. Beginning at a very
of negative emotions which destroy not only the in- tender age, the child could enter an empty house
dividual but the family and the community. The writ- after school while the mother is slaving with the
ings in this book cry out to the Saivite reader: Go back father for additional income to purchase luxuries in
to basics. An appeal is also being made to the readers their “competition with the Jones.” ¶Living with Siva
of Living with Siva to study the scriptures and practice is a powerful weapon now in the hands of Saivites to
the Saivite customs and traditions which have been combat the evils mentioned under such a scenario,
cleansed in the fire of purification which had been fu- and it is hoped that every Saivite will arm himself or
eled by the logs of love, fasts, sacrifices and experience herself with this weapon of destruction of evil and
during the past many millennia, which would lead the use it every day to save not only oneself but to liber-
devotee to merge with Siva. ate as many souls as possible from their prarabdha
karma by following the advice as enunciated in the
R. Rajathurai lessons and in the Nandinatha Sutras of this book.
Former school teacher, former
president of the Senpaga K.L. Seshagiri Rao, Ph.D.
Vinayagar Temple, Singapore Professor Emeritus at the
University of Virginia, Editor
The release of this book at this
of the quarterly journal World
point in time is most appropriate Faiths Encounter, Chief Editor of
in view of the many challenges the forthcoming Encyclopedia
faced by the Saivite community. The book contains of Hinduism, Columbia, South
a wealth of information on various topics within its Carolina
more than a thousand pages. Anyone reading the 365 On the threshold of the 21st century, Satguru Sivaya
lessons, which form the daily sermon for the whole Subramuniyaswami has presented us with a special
year, would feel His Holiness’ concerns for the multi- gift: Living with Siva: Hinduism’s Contemporary Cul-
farious problems faced by the Hindu Saivite commu- ture. It is a timely gift to the followers of Saivism and
nity in general and the youth in particular. Rapid prog- to Hindus all over the world. ¶The author underscores
ress achieved in the fields of science and technology, in this work the essential principles of Sanatana
especially within the second half of the 20th century, Dharma, popularly known as Hinduism, and relates
has to some extent warped human thinking. Man them to the issues and problems of our times and
now thinks of “playing God” by tinkering and tamper- society. Dharma includes a code of conduct in all its
ing with nature’s creation to improve its quality. This aspects: duties to God, to fellow human beings and to
illusion has produced some horrendous results—an creation in general. Deep faith in Siva, God, provides a
example is the mad cow disease. Such new thinking firm basis for individuals and groups to deal with the
has also affected long established institutions by problems of life successfully; it leads to the wisdom
creating disarray. For example, the holy matrimony that discovers right solutions and to the strength that
normally conducted in a sanctified holy place is now puts them into action in individual and social life. ¶A
sometimes conducted in odd places—while para- great deal of attention is given to life and living, here
chuting, while deep-sea diving and so on—and the and now, in this technological age. For example, the
consumption of non-sattvic food on such occasions institution of the family, which is under severe attack
is becoming fashionable. The legal empowerment these days, is given special attention, and the ways
of women has resulted in a shift of women’s place in to restore the sacred values of the family to domestic
creation. God’s natural empowerment of women as life are discussed. It shows that spiritual life that ne-
creators has now been surrendered to the pill and to glects worldly duties is callous, and worldly life that
the abortionist; the nourishment of children has now neglects spiritual values is blind. In the process, many
largely been surrendered to the udder of the cow, the misconceptions about Hinduism are corrected. ¶Hu-
street hawker and to the school canteen operator. man beings become entangled in materialism under
And as for education, it is left entirely to the school conditions of ignorance. Exclusive materialistic en-
which is unable to replace what should rightly be deavors frequently make people aggressive, arrogant,
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selfish, violent and miserable. The author points out years or more. The traditional Hindu way of living,
that spiritual nature illumines the intellect and dispels which has undergone many changes with the ad-
ignorance. Living in divine consciousness releases vent of scientific advancement, is brought to light
spiritual values such as love, compassion, service by Gurudeva forcefully and in a methodical way. His
and abiding happiness, which uplift life and bring all opening sentences with his guru Siva Yogaswami’s
peoples together. ¶This is a significant publication; it is sayings, “See God in everything; you are in God; God
not merely informative, but also transformative. While is within you; you must have a strong body and a
it continues to strengthen Sivasambandham in the pure mind,“ are apt and thought provoking. This
spirit of the ancient Tirukural, it is also of ecumenical book, with a wealth of knowledge and advice to all
and contemporary interest . For anyone interested in Hindus, has come out at the proper time when some
improving the quality of life, it can serve as a valuable Hindus are at a crossroads, having lost their roots,
moral and spiritual guide on a daily basis. I hope it their culture, having been enticed by the Western
will receive the wide attention it deserves. culture and worldly pleasures. I am delighted to see a
well-planned and well-written book of Hindu culture.
Vina Kandavanam Hindu philosophy is well explained by simple analo-
Patron of the the Hindu gies and anecdotes. ¶This book has many valuable
Religious Society of Ontario,
pieces of advice and suggestions for all Hindus to
Canada, editor of Athmajothy,
President of the Tamil Writers
take note of. Go through the daily lessons in the book,
Association of Canada and digest the messages, follow them diligently, and you
author of 25 literary and will be a different person. You will be amazed to see
religious books the wealth of knowledge this book has to offer to the
Experience is the key word in this holy book. There readers. Most of us are ignorant of our tradition and
are 365 well-planned lessons, each of which is an Hindu culture. It is high time that we realize our roots
experience. Life and books are shaken and honeyed and start living as true Hindus. ¶Gurudeva has writ-
together in a manner and style suitable for all lev- ten about all aspects of life and has analyzed them
els of readers who are inclined towards Sanatana from various angles, traditional and modern: practi-
Dharma. By providing the right experience, Gurudeva cal advice to parents on managing a home, rearing
slowly and steadily paves the way for the readers to children, dealing with teens, managing money, eat-
open up their minds and elevates them to realize the ing healthy foods, praying as a family and worship-
Siva within themselves and to live with Him thereaf- ing in temples. He has explained about the yamas
ter. Once this unique stage of Siva Consciousness is and niyamas, the core of the Hindu disciplines and
reached, life becomes smooth, peaceful, joyful and restraints for individuals, groups, communities and
meaningful. ¶It is my humble opinion that this sa- nations. He speaks of untying the malas that bind
cred book has the power to lighten up the hearts and us, namely anava, karma and maya, of purifying the
minds of the readers and cleanse them of all forms of intellect, transmuting willpower, about vows and vra-
sin, evil thought and desire and put them on the path tas, marriage and sanctity. ¶He also speaks of marvels
of Sanatana Dharma. I pray to Lord Siva that all His of meditation and consciousness, subconsciousness
devotees be able to taste this Saiva fruit, a wonderful and superconsciousness, and a whole lot of social is-
gift from Gurudeva. sues like women’s liberation and mothers’ neglecting
children due to pressure of work in the office and at
Sivanesan Sinniah home. Hence, children miss motherly love and affec-
School Community Advisor tion. ¶Burning problems of immigrant communities
with Toronto School Board,
such as interfaith marriages, divorces, cross-national
President of the Association
of Sri Lankan Graduates of
marriages and clashing of cultures are dealt with in
Canada, founder member and this book very carefully. He also mentions about life
past president of Sivathondan in the inner world, astral planes, transition, death and
Center of Toronto rebirth. Lots of interesting facts are given in this book.
This treasure trove of Gurudeva should be in the Hence I feel that it is a must for everyone who is inter-
hands of everyone who is eager to learn or know the ested in inner peace of mind and spiritual bliss.
Hindu way of life, which is older than five thousand
 5 REVIEWS & COMMENTS 5

Rajesh K.R. Bali sciousness in a lucid and compassionate manner. It

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Georg Feuerstein, Ph.D.
The more times I read Satguru Director of the Yoga
Research Center, author of
Sivaya Subramuniyaswami’s Liv-
The Shambhala Encyclopedia
ing with Siva, the more attachment I have with our of Yoga, Lower Lake,
supreme Lord Sada Shiva. All Hindus understand California
the vastness of Sanatana Dharma and that there are
many ways to approach that one Supreme God, Sada Satguru Sivaya Subramuniya-
Siva. The way Gurudeva has explained Hinduism in swami is today’s foremost spokesman for the living
his many writings is indeed unique. It allows the indi- spiritual tradition of Saivism. Like his earlier book
viduals to go deeper in their search for their personal Dancing with Siva, the complementary Living with
Deity. I am certain that there are many followers of Siva is yet another priceless gift to the world. This
Sanatana Dharma who, by merely reading the writ- comprehensive and easy-to-read work not only gives
ings of His Holiness, have been put on the fast track the reader reliable and deep insight into the practice
towards attaining liberation. ¶Having gone through of Saivism but Hinduism as a whole. Full of wisdom
some of his writings on Siva confirmed that my spiri- and sane counsel, Living with Siva points a sure way
tual objective on this Earth is to attain the great devo- out of the complexities and confusions of conven-
tion of Lord Sada Siva. Living with Siva indeed is one tional life, drawing the reader closer to peace and in-
scripture that is written in very simple terms. The for- ner freedom. Even non-Saivites can benefit from this
mat is great and it is a practical guidebook for mod- masterful presentation.
ern Hindus. I absolutely appreciate the 365 lessons on
various aspects, e.g. sadhana, siddhanta, ethics, etc. Dr. Mahesh Mehta
It covers all aspects of human life, and it certainly is a Professor of Indian Religions
and Philosophy, Department
guide in our household. I am certain this book will be
of Languages, Literatures and
well received by devotees at large. Cultures, University of Windsor,
Canada
Dr. David Frawley, O.M.D.
(Pandit Vamadeva Shastri), Living with Siva is, at its best,
Vedacharya, Director of the
about living in the constant consciousness of Siva,
American Institute of Vedic
Studies, Author of How I
that is, living a life divine. Living with Siva is a prod-
Became a Hindu, Santa Fe, uct of Subramuniyaswami’s profound wisdom and
New Mexico realization. It is written out of a benevolent desire to
enable earnest aspirants to achieve their spiritual un-
Satguru Sivaya Subramuniyaswami has emerged as foldment systematically and steadily. The lessons are
the most articulate living spokesman for Hindu Dhar- both secular and spiritual instructions for the inner
ma in the West and in a modern English idiom. Liv- journey of a sadhaka to the ultimate goal of merging
ing with Siva is the latest of his monumental texts on into Siva. Part One is especially significant in that it
the world’s oldest and most comprehensive religious deals with the cultivation of mental and moral puri-
tradition, covering its enormous depth, beauty and fication and of meditative discipline culminating in
power with both detail and precision. ¶All who want seeing the eternal dance of Siva in one’s own Self and
to practice any paths in the field of Hindu Dharma in all beings and things.
will find much relevant instruction in the book. Those
who want to understand what Hinduism really is will
find that the book expands their horizons exponen-
tially. In fact, anyone interested in higher knowledge
will find the book to be a treasure house of wisdom
illuminating all aspects of life, the universe and con-
Satguru Sivaya Subramuniyaswami, the year 2000 awardee of the prestigious United
Nations U Thant Peace Award for his two decades of publishing Hinduism Today mag-
azine, guided the spiritual life of millions, teaching them the ancient ways of Sanâtana
Dharma so they would live well in a challenging modern era.
•  How do Hindus deal with spouse and child abuse, addiction and divorce?
•  What is the responsible use of television, computers and the Internet?
•  How do Hindus arrange marriages? How are marriages sustained?
•  Why are daily disciplines so central to human spirituality? HINDUISM’S CONTEMPORARY CULTURE
Living with Íiva is remarkable in its directness, profoundly useful in its counsel and
unflinching in its assessments of difficult issues that people on the inner path face in Satguru Sivaya Subramuniyaswami
this twenty-first century. It is an invaluable asset to any home and family.

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