The Betrothal: Rituals (Alex)
The Betrothal: Rituals (Alex)
The Betrothal
The Japanese betrothal ceremony, called the yuino, is an
exchange of symbolic gifts between the groom's and bride's
families. Some popular gifts are: konbu, a seaweed whose name
can be written to mean "child-bearing woman"; a long white
piece of hemp, representing a wish that the couple will grow old
and gray together; and a folding fan, which spreads to show
future wealth and growth. The main gift is money (about
$5,000), tucked in a special envelope called ashugi-bukuro,
which has gold and silver strings that are impossible to unknot.
The other gifts are given in ornate rice-paper envelopes.
Sake-Sharing Ceremony
The traditional Japanese ceremony is a Shinto ceremony, though
many Japanese in America celebrate weddings with a Buddhist
ceremony. Regardless of religious rituals, most Japanese also
include a cultural sake-sharing tradition at the wedding,
popularly called san-san-kudo -- san means "three," ku means
"nine," and do means "to deliver." This ritual dates back to a
time when sharing sake created a formal bond as strongly as a
handshake did in Victorian times. Using three flat sake cups
stacked atop one another, the bride and groom take three sips
each from the cups. Then their parents also take sips (for a total
of nine sips), cementing the bond between the families.
Speeches
Wedding speeches and blessings are very important at Japanese
weddings. Family, friends, colleagues, and teachers all stand up
at one point or another to wish the couple well. Traditionally,
these speeches might be moralistic tales about matrimony's
importance; in America, they have evolved into heartfelt
messages of love from close friends and family.
The rental fee for the groom's kimono is about $600. The rental
fee for the bride's five kimonos and dress can be $10,000 or
more. In some rural areas brides are displayed in the window of
their homes like mannequins in a store front window.
Kombu or Kelp - This is a very traditional Japanese food which is made from
broccoli, squashes, fresh ginger, garlic, mushrooms, kombu and carrots. It is a very
delicate sea food flavored clear soup which is a must during weddings. This soup
is usually served with medium sized tofu, some sesame seeds and sliced green
onions.
Japanese sushi cakes - Weddings are said to be incomplete, until there is a wedding
cake. This is made from smoked salmon, sushi rice, eggs along with other ingredients.
There is no particular style of making this cake and you can put in your own creativity to
make this cake enjoyable. This cake forms the menu item of all Japanese weddings.