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Essential
12 Step
Recovery
STEPS
BY THE
BIG BOOK
7th Revision
We are building an arch through

which we shall walkfreeat last. (75: 3)
In a friendly, focused group of sponsors, sponsees,

and others in recovery we Study and Practice the
Twelve Steps as originally described in the text,
Alcoholics Anonymous
Essential 12 Step Recovery
Practice These Principles
(60: 0)
STEPS
BY THE
BIG BOOK
Our group study supports the pass-it-on process of
one alcoholic talking with another. This workbook is
for sponsors and sponsees who want to work through
the Steps together, and for those in recovery who
want to go through the Steps again.
Together, We Can Do It!

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TABLE OF CONTENTS
THE 12 STEPS OF ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS
INTRODUCTION
2
3
Study and Practice

Your Group
Working with a Sponsor or Buddy
Guide to This Guide
How a Session May Go
Example of Group Format
3
4
5
5
6
9
PART I
SESSION 1 through SESSION 7
Big Book: Preface, Chapters 1 5
Relaxation Focus Meditations / Prayers Steps 1, 2, 3
Notes: Steps 1, 2, 3
Step 1
Step 2
Step 3
PART II SESSION 8 through SESSION 12

Big Book: Chapter 5
Relaxation Focus Meditations / Prayers Step 4
Assets and Liabilities Check List
Notes: Step 4
Annotated Big Book pp. 64-67 Step 4 Resentment
Step 4 Flow Chart
Step 4 Resentment A&B: Grudge List & Turnarounds
Step 4 Fear
Step 4 Relationships Including Sex
Step 4 Review
PART III SESSION 13 through SESSION 20

Big Book: Chapters 6 & 7
Relaxation Focus Meditations / Prayers Steps 5 12
Notes: Steps 5 12
Step 5
Step 6
Step 7
Step 8
Step 9
Step 10
Step 11
Step 12
SUMMARY OF STEPS BY THE BIG BOOK

INDEX
11
13
15
18
29
33
37
39
40
41
45
49
53&57
65
71
77
79
81
83
89
93
97
99
101
103
105
107
111
115
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The 12 STEPS of ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS

[Optional:
the point ;
Spiritual Principles]
STEP 1 We admitted we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had
become unmanageable.
[Honesty
I have a problem!]
STEP 2 Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to
[Hope
sanity.
Theres help for my problem.]
STEP 3 Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as
we understood Him. [Trust
I make a commitment to follow ALL of the suggestions.]
STEP 4 Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

[Courage
Who am I?]
STEP 5 Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact
nature of our wrongs.
[Integrity
I share who I am with someone else.]
STEP 6 Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
[Willingness
As a result of Step 4, I see things about myself I would like to change.]
STEP 7 Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

[Humility
I start trying to change!]
STEP 8 Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make
amends to them all.
[Compassion
people that I mistreated, or for whom I had ill feelings.]
As a result of Step 4, I make a list of
STEP 9 Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do
so would injure them or others.
[Justice
people so that I can get rid of my bad feelings.]
If possible, I mend things with these
STEP 10 Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong

promptly admitted it.
[Perseverance
physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually?]
I look at ME daily. How am I doing:
STEP 11 Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact
with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and
the power to carry that out.
[Spiritual awareness
I continue to grow as a human
being daily.]
STEP 12 Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to
carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
[Service
I try to help other alcoholics/addicts, and
to practice what I have learned in all areas of my life.]
INTRODUCTION
Study and Practice
How can we alcoholics in recovery live happy, joyous, and free? (Alcoholics
Anonymous, page 133: paragraph 0)
Alcoholics Anonymous is the life changing program formed by two desperate
alcoholics in 1935. In the Big Book, as the text Alcoholics Anonymous is known, we read
the written words of the first 100 men and women of AA as they were put in the way of a
spiritual awakening. Where did their words come from? What were their practices of the
day by day disciplines that became the principles of the 12 Steps? How did they do it?
The Steps are suggested guides for recovery. There is no rule that says anyone has
to do them, and there is no regulation about how they should be done. This Steps by the
Big Book workbook is for those who are willing to grow along spiritual lines (60: 1) by
studying the first 103 pages of the Big Book while actually doing the Steps. Our goal is to
study the Steps as a friendly, focused group, and work them as the authors of the Big
Book described. We wish to make the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous part of our
lives by collaborating with a power greater than ourselves an inner knowing, our own
best and highest nature. To this end we ask ourselves two primary questions:
-(Study) What do the Big Book authors say about the Steps?
-(Practice) What does the Big Book say to each one of us about our own
actual practice of the principles of the Steps in our daily lives?
Some of us in the recovering community in the Brattleboro, Vermont, area found
that we did better studying the Big Book as a group rather than on our own. It is our
belief that the only wrong way to work the Steps is alone. Together we can do it! The
work of this group study supports the pass-it-on process of one alcoholic talking with
another. This workbook is for those in recovery who want to go through the Steps again;
or freshen up on their Steps prior to working with a sponsee; or for sponsors and sponsees
who want to progress through the Steps together. The only requirements are to show up,
study the Big Book, and do each Step. This guide comes from these experiences. This is
only an introduction to the spiritual riches of the Big Books directions to the 12 Steps.
We hope this manual is useful throughout recovery, whether one is working the Steps for
Introduction
the first time, or has followed the Steps for many years. Perhaps your group may craft its
own manual, the better to reflect the warmth and strength of the safe harbor found in the
12 Steps.[12&12, 35:2] If appropriate, simply say your own addiction in place of alcohol.
Your Group
Please be aware that everything in this workbook comes from our experience,
strength, and hope. Every process and suggestion in this workbook is optional.
Our Steps by the Big Book group sessions are not official AA meetings
because we limit enrollment to a specific number of participants.
Your group can be of any size or composition. An even number of

participants, perhaps from 2 to 16, allows members of the group to work in
pairs as buddies. A group may be simply one sponsor and one sponsee.
Agree on a purpose, plan and session format of the Steps by the Big Book
group, and that in general the group will stick to the schedule.
Agree that each member attends every session if possible, commits to read the
text and respond to the session questions, and in fact DOES each Step as it is
encountered. (Fifth Steps are not shared at the sessions.)
Agree that each member of the group contacts one or more members (buddies)
and/or a sponsor regularly between sessions.
Agree that group members can expect to spend at least as much time on
reading, writing and contact with buddies between sessions as in group time.
Agree on a date by which participants may leave or new members may join
the group after it begins.
Agree that group members will not drink or use during the course.
Group Norms
While there are no rules in AA, there are written Traditions and unwritten norms
(i.e. identifying oneself as an alcoholic in meetings). In order to ensure that your group
runs smoothly, we suggest considering these questions:
Will start and end times for the sessions be honored?

Will one group member chair the entire process, or will group members take turns
chairing the sessions?
Will absolute confidentiality and anonymity about the group be practiced?
Will readings be read at the sessions, or should the readings be completed in
advance?
Is each group member expected to speak and share personal writings at group
sessions? (It is suggested that members do their Fifth Step outside of the sessions
with a sponsor or buddy.)
Introduction
Will group members consider not speaking a second time until all have had a
chance to share first?
Will someone serve as a friendly timekeeper?
Working with a Sponsor or Buddy

Our group experience has shown that it is useful for group participants to work
closely with one or more members of the group (buddies), in a manner that
compliments working with a sponsor.
The support and stimulus of working the Steps with a buddy, a sponsor, or both,
leads to personal growth and change. We read the Big Book chapters or selections
together. Together, we work on our reflections and writings about the focus questions and
inventories. Together we get and give support for this process of working the Steps, and
for sharing our discoveries, doubts and experiences in the group.
Guide to This Guide

Our reference for this study of the 12 Steps is the first 103 pages of Alcoholics
Anonymous, fourth edition, the basic text (xi: 2) for the program and fellowship of
Alcoholics Anonymous. The Big Book (BB) notations are to page and paragraph, as in
(64: 0, 1), i.e. (64) page 64; (: 0) the partial paragraph at the top of the page; (1) the first
full paragraph on that page; etc. Quotes from the Big Book are in italics. (SbBB) refers to
this Steps by the Big Book workbook.
Please ignore anything in the group sessions or this workbook that you feel
contradicts what you find in the Big Book.
As a study group we will cover:

Preface and Forewords
Doctors Opinion
Chapter 1. Bill's Story
Chapter 2. There Is a Solution
Chapter 3. More About Alcoholism
Chapter 4. We Agnostics
Chapter 5. How It Works
Chapter 6. Into Action
Chapter 7. Working With Others
Step 1.
Step 1
Steps 1 and 2
Steps 1 and 2
Step 2
Steps 3 and 4
Steps 5 through 11
Step 12
Introduction
To prepare for the Steps by the Big Book group sessions, we read the Big Book
paragraph by paragraph. We pause at commas and stop at periods. We turn the
declarative statements of the Big Book into questions for ourselves. We constantly ask,
"What does this mean for me in my life?" We then explore these questions with others.
In essence, this manual is a cut-and-paste scrapbook of pithy suggestions
concise and helpful insights that can have an immediate effect on how we study and work
the Steps. The session material is drawn from the Big Book, and AA literature, such as
Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions (12&12), with focus questions and comments
borrowed verbatim without attribution from meetings, others in recovery, and from a
number of published and recorded recovery sources. Any errors that appear in this guide
belong to those of us who compiled it.
This workbook is divided into three parts: Part I covers Steps 1, 2 and 3; Part II
examines Step 4; Part III looks into Steps 5 through 12. Each of the parts begins with
focused meditations/prayers and notes on the Steps in question. Next are the specific
sessions on each Step with reflective questions about the Big Book reading. Optional
material and sample definitions are in brackets []. Finally, there are worksheets that are
intended to help you focus your writing on each Step. On pages 7 - 9 you will find the
basic workbook session outline and an optional suggested group session format.
How a Session May Go

Typically we read the session material on our own and write our responses.
This is a team effort. We meet as a committed group of equals once or twice a
week, or as the group sees fit. We open with a time of quiet relaxation, followed by a
very brief check-in as to how each member is doing with studying and working the Steps.
We read condensed selections from the Big Book on a particular Step, and then for 10 to
15 minutes one group member speaks of her or his personal experience doing this Step by
the Big Book process. Every member then shares their writings or reflections on that
sessions Step work. Discussion is encouraged, as long as we speak out of our own
experience. Some groups choose to expand or contract the session material, such as
skipping over several sessions in Step 4. We may close with reciting the Step and a
meditation or prayer.
Introduction
An OUTLINE of a typical Study Session

I
ON YOUR OWN: STUDY What did the Big Book authors say?
READ - Individually, and with your sponsor or other group members, study the
suggested readings for the Step you are working on.
WRITE - We suggest one or two 15-20 minute writing sessions per day.
o Write of your own experience working the Step under consideration.
Respond to the issues the readings raise for you.
o Reflect on the focus points in each session and think about writing on
three or four, or all of them, as you see fit.
o Try reading aloud the bulleted focus and reflection comments to help
make them stick. Cross them off as you respond to them.
o Consider completing the worksheets intended to build on what the Big
Book says about the practice of each Step.
TALK - Meet with one or more other members of the group or with your sponsor
or both to discuss the readings and your written reflections on them.
PRACTICE DAILY RELAXATION WITH MEDITATION / PRAYER Strive to develop a daily practice of quiet centering before reading and writing.
Use whatever meditations or prayers are meaningful to you. (See BB p.13: 4 and
Step 11, BB pp. 85-88) [Optional: also see this SbBB workbook p. 14]
WITH THE GROUP: PRACTICE What does the Big Book say to me about
my own practice of this Step?
II
o We each reflect together in depth about our own life practices of how we
actually live and do the Step in question as illuminated by the Big Book.
o We each share what we have written.
III
DAILY PRACTICE OF 12 STEP PRINCIPLES
o We each consider our own personal daily practice of the principles of the
relevant Step.
o The spiritual life is not a theory. We have to live it. (83: 2)
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IV TAKE THE STEP
Since the way people take the Steps in AA is highly personal, we leave it to
individual members to decide when they have taken each Step. The Big Book has us
consider, Is our [Step] work solid so far? Can we answer to our satisfaction? (75: 3-76:
1) One measure is our own peace of mind. Some groups observe completing each Step
by joining hands and reciting the Step, along with selected meditations or prayers.
Introduction
How might a Study
and Group Practice session go?
A group member responds:
Generally speaking, we are people in recovery who come together to work on the
Steps because we want to. We are willing to commit to five months or so of weekly
sessions. And most stay when we hear about the details of this particular group
approach to working the Steps by the Big Book. The workbook can be a little dry
and it may seem like drudgery, but it helps to read it out loud like a bedtime story.
We get the importance of closely reading the Big Book outside of the group
sessions with a buddy and maybe other group members, and/or a sponsor. We take
what that book has to say personally. It becomes our book. We spend time each day
in quiet reflection, and write frankly about what the Big Book and the workbook
bring up for us. Those who are not writers talk it out with their buddy and/or
sponsor.
The weekly group sessions are friendly and we try to begin on time, sitting in a
circle.
~Someone familiar with the process may chair the early sessions. Later we can each
take turns chairing for three sessions or so in a row, and we might all agree to change the
format as needed. We say which Step we are covering and what will happen that particular
session. We may open with the Third Step prayer. The silent quiet time is refreshing and
helps us to be there.
~We check-in one after the other, keeping it short. We often read aloud the Steps
by the Big Book workbook notes and session selections for that Step.
~Either the chairperson or someone they choose starts off by reviewing some
favorite short selections from the Big Book, reading a sentence or paragraph or a few
pages. Then they read part of what they have written in response and speak about their
personal work on that Step according to the Big Book.
~Others carry on by reading aloud their own writing, or say their reflections. The
discussions get lively, yet focus on each persons own working of that Step with the support
of all. As the Big Book says, Cooperate; never criticize. To be helpful is our only aim. (89: 3)
~If we havent finished a particular Step, we may choose to spend another week on
it, or we may agree good enough and we stand and grasp hands and recite the Step and
often say a prayer from the reading. Together we have taken that Step.
~Then we look ahead to the next session, and encourage each other to meet with our
buddies, to do the Big Book reading and to do the writing. We may close with the Seventh
Step prayer, and we might go out for coffee and head on home.
Introduction
Optional example of FORMAT outline

for a typical Group Practice session.
This is for a 1 hour session once a week. You may adjust the length of
the session to 2 or more hours, add breaks, etc.
1st Open on time with focus meditation or prayer such

as the Third Step prayer and from 1 to 5 minutes or more
of centering silence.
2nd
Initial 2 min.: Review agenda for this session.
3rd The SESSION Approximate group study and

practice times:
~10 min.: 30 second check-ins around the group.
~15 min.: Review brief selections from the reading.
~15 min.: Session chairperson or designated group
member may share their writing and experience with this
reading and this Step according to the Big Book.
~40 min. Discussion (40 min. per 1 hour session. 70
min. per 2 hour session, etc.): Group members may share their
writing and talk about questions and worksheets on actually
working the Step in question by the Big Book.
When ready, take the Step together.
4th Final 3 min.
Review next session's agenda.
Encourage reading and writing between sessions.
Urge meeting with ones buddy and/or sponsor.
5th Close on time with meditation or prayer such as the
Seventh Step prayer.
Introduction
IF I am abstinent
& desire recovery...
MY JOB
& I am willing to
grow along
spiritual lines...
(as best I can,*
for ~2 3 hours a week)

STUDY ON MY OWN
Daily* relax and quiet time
Daily* read Big Book selections
& Step by Big Book questions
Daily* WRITE
on Big Book phrases
& Step by Big Book queries
"What these mean in MY life."
Weekly talk with Buddy/Sponsor
Weekly ATTEND
Steps by Big Book group sessions
OUR JOB
then I may commit with

others to a friendly, focused
study group
Easy does it,

But Do It!
Buddy's/Sponsor's
Same as My Job
STUDY WITH BUDDY
Weekly TALK with
buddy/sponsee
Weekly ATTEND group session
Together we can do it!
Relax! Our reasonable best is good enough.
All ATTEND every Steps by the Big Book session*

GROUP PRACTICE SESSION
Begin on time / Review the session agenda
Quiet time - meditation-prayer / Check-in around circle
Chairperson or other: Read part of Big Book selection
Share Writing on Big Book & Steps by Big Book workbook
Others share Writing and Reflections in turn
Take Step together
Review next session / closing meditation-prayer / End on time
10
JOB
Introduction
Steps 1 3
Focus
11
12
Steps 1 3
Focus
PART I
SESSION 1 THROUGH SESSION 7
STEPS 1 2 3
RELAXATION FOCUS MEDITATIONS / PRAYERS
3RD STEP MEDITATION / PRAYER
God [of our understanding], I offer myself to Thee to build with me and to
do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may
better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may
bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, Thy Love, and Thy Way
of life. May I do Thy will always. (63: 2)
7TH STEP MEDITATION / PRAYER

My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me, good and
bad.
I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which
stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my fellows. Grant me
strength, as I go out from here, to do your bidding. (76: 2)
11TH STEP MEDITATION / PRAYER

We ask God [of our understanding] to direct our thinking, especially asking
that it be divorced from self-pity, dishonest or self seeking motives. (86: 2)
Thy will be done. (88: 0)
SERENITY PRAYER
God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change,
Courage to change the things we can,
And wisdom to know the difference. (12&12, p. 125: 2)
Steps 1 3
Focus
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What might a day in recovery look like?

ONE GROUP MEMBERS DAILY DISCIPLINES:
Upon awakening, read Daily Reflections (for example).

Practice relaxation focus with meditation and prayer.
Don't drink or drug.
Go to a meeting; join a group; get active.
Call your sponsor, contact another member of fellowship.
Read from the Big Book; concentrate on one of the Steps.
Complete a daily inventory (Step 1; Step 4; Step 10)
Pause and ask for help.
Have fun enjoying a sober activity.
ANOTHER GROUP MEMBERS RELAXATION PRACTICE

[Optional: As though lying on a sunlit beach, let us relax and breathe deeply of the
spiritual atmosphere.... (12&12, 100: 1)]
1. Relax the body:
~Sit quietly and comfortably, letting the body arrive here in this place.
~Close your eyes, deeply relax all of your muscles from your feet up to your face.
~Let all body sensations come and let them go. Feel your natural body embody you.
2. Relax the breath:

~Take three deep breaths, then let the breath be here.
~You may breathe through your nose. As you inhale, feel the cool of the air on your nostrils.
Sense the sharpness in the back of your throat. As you exhale, note the softness as you
follow the breath all the way out. You may repeat a word or phrase or prayer silently on
each out-breath. For example some repeat, Ah well. Ah well. Ah well.
3. Relax the mind:

~ Let the thoughts come, and let the thoughts go.
~When you notice the mind wandering (it will !), just notice it and passively bring the
attention back to the breath.
~Rest in that space at the end of breathing out, before the next breath.
When you finish, sit quietly for a few moments before you open your eyes and stand
up.
Practice for approximately 20 minutes every day or 3-4 times a week.
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Steps 1 3
Focus
NOTES ON STEPS 1 2 3
It meant destruction of self-centeredness. (14: 1)
STEP 1
foundation (12: 4)
No words can tell of the loneliness and despair I found in that bitter
morass of self-pity. I had met my match. I had been overwhelmed. Alcohol was
my master. (Bills Story, 8: 1)
Like Bill, we are alcoholics, and we have hit bottom. The problem is our mental
obsession that leads us to take a drink, and our resulting physical compulsion to drink to
excess. Our minds and lives are unmanageable; we must surrender. Working Step 1
begins when we become abstinent. We have to stop our personal addictive alcoholic
behaviors so that our continued acting out does not hinder our surrender. If we are not
drinking today, then we must abstain from that particular addictive thought or behavior
that robs us of peace of mind.
This is a disease of isolation and loneliness. We are prisoners of our selfsufficiency, isolated inside. We admit we need to grow and that we are not free. We are
people who appear to be sure of themselves but are actually eaten alive with fear inside.
(193: 2) If anxiety is the existential basis of our addiction, then we must alter our fear,
remorse, shame and guilt in order to find happiness so that we do not have to go back to
drinking. [Shame: feeling disgrace for who we are in our essence.] [Guilt: feeling
disgrace for how we have behaved.] As recovering alcoholics, we have to do something
about being restless, irritable and discontented (xxviii: 4) or we will drink again. Our
experience is that we do not become whole without a solution beyond ourselves. The
point is to experience a personality change sufficient to bring about recovery. (567: 1)
Human nature, the self and instincts are not the problem. The problem is how we
habitually react to people, places, and things in our instinctual and self-absorbed ways,
such that we risk drinking or having an emotional dry bender. How may we come to have
a profound alteration in [our] reaction to life? (567: 4) How may we be free?
Recovery is an individual alcoholics experience of the transformative power that
comes from actually working the Steps from actually practicing the principles of the
Steps 1 3
Notes
15
program of action of the fellowship of Alcoholics Anonymous. Out of our discontent

with the way we are, we study and practice the 12 Step principles as a daily discipline in
order to achieve and maintain spiritual balance. Rather than argue with the various
hypotheses of AA, we experiment by doing the Steps as written and see what the results
are. A sponsor is our essential guide through the 12 Steps. It is not about us or our
opinions; it is about our action of working and living the Steps on a daily basis. The
spiritual power, which comes from the practice of the 12 Steps within the AA fellowship,
can move us to be sober and live with serenity and peace of mind.
STEP 2
cornerstone (47: 2)
Why dont you choose your own conception of God? It was only a
matter of being willing to believe in a Power greater than myself. Nothing more
was required of me to make my beginning. (Bills Story, 12: 2, 12: 4)
In AA we find hope that we can be restored to sanity, we can become whole. We
can be well, or more well. We can rediscover the intrinsic goodness of our very being.
This hope of Step 2 follows the desperation of Step 1 as the dawn follows the dark.
If our problem is that we have a body which will die if we drink, and we have a
mind which compels us to take that drink, then we are powerless indeed. We are without
power. Yet the fact that we and others like us are not drinking or using, one day at a
time, is proof of the action in our own lives of a solution a power greater than any one
of us. Step 2 reminds us we are crazy to think that we need to be in control or that we can
do it alone. We no longer need to live solo with the pain and insanity that have been our
nature. Insanity is when we lack perspective (5: 5) and things are out of proportion (37:
1), and when we repeat the same mistakes over and over expecting different results
AA is a spiritual, not a religious, program. Spirituality is what we do, religion is
what we say. Spirituality is what happens to us when we work the Steps within the AA
fellowship community. Step 2 does not say: We believe IN a power that WOULD restore
us. Step 2 describes the solution as we came to believe THAT a power greater than
ourselves COULD restore us to sanity. (59: 2) The emphasis is not on who or what this
power is, but on what this power can do. We begin to turn inward to find a higher power
that works and feels safe. A group, the practice of the spiritual principles of the 12 Steps,
or our own understanding of a higher power can qualify as the power greater than us.
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Steps 1 3
Notes
STEP 3
keystone (62: 3)
I humbly offered myself to God, as I then understood Him, to do with me

as He would. I placed myself unreservedly under His care and direction. I
admitted for the first time that of myself I was nothing; that without Him I was
lost. (Bills Story, 13: 2)
Heard in a meeting: The problem is Me! The solution is Beyond Me! And the
program of action is Let It!
Is the stone heavy? Put it down and rest. Rest in just being - rather than doing.
The central affirmative action in Step 3 is a decision. We become willing to take
action to do something different. We find that our troubled minds arise from our own
self-centered reactions to life events. (62: 2) We may loosen our grip on our fearful sense
of self. We can stop exhausting ourselves as if we were in charge of making things
happen in this world. We were never meant to do it alone.
We are asked to turn our will and lives over to the care of what we do not
understand. Yet we may define our own conception of this power, as we may for our own
understandings of other spiritual expressions and spiritual terms. (47: 1) Working Step 3
will help us discover what works best for us. And by working Step 3 we are allowing an
unsuspected inner resource (567-568) to care for us, not control us or conduct our lives
for us. We are not giving anything away; we are not struggling to become something we
are not. We are learning to cooperate with what we always were. We are complete and
whole as we are; the stuff we mixed in was to survive. We are aligning ourselves with a
Spirit of the Universe (46: 2) one with our own best and highest nature.
Spirituality is our tool based on personal experience, which gets better the more
we experiment with it and use it. Step 3 reflects a spiritual progression through practice
from hope to faith to trust. The decision to turn our will and lives over to the care of a
higher power of our own understanding is one we may make each day, one day at a time.
The authors of the Big Book call Step 3 the keystone (62: 3) to the wonderfully
effective spiritual structure (47: 2) of a spiritual awakening that is being built by the
discipline of the practice of the 12 Steps within the fellowship. How do we work Step 3?
We do it by working Steps 4 12.
Steps 1 3
Notes
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SESSION 1
Preface and Forewords
A wonderfully effective spiritual structure can be built. (47: 2)
I
II
READ Read the Table of Contents, Preface, and the Forewords to the First,
Second, Third, and Fourth Editions of the Big Book. Many will read the
Foreword to Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions (12&12) as well.
WRITE Consider the focus questions relating to the readings, and write
reflective answers to them, as you see fit. Cross off the bulleted comments as you
take them in. Include your own questions and observations, and explore your
doubts as well as your certainties in detail and in depth.
TALK Talk with your sponsor and/or buddy about the process you are about
to undertake.
WITH THE GROUP: PRACTICE What does the Big Book say to me
about my practice of the 12 Steps?
We discuss the purpose, plan and session format of this Steps by the Big Book
group course. Consider that each member is expected to not only talk about but to
do each of the Steps and, if possible, to attend every session with the team.
This is a commitment, a team effort. Together we can do it!
We discuss how the Big Book readings influence our own recovery process.
Points of Focus and Reflection

1.) Contents -A repeating mighty purpose and rhythm (10: 3) of the Steps and of the
Big Book can be seen even on the Contents page (Consider page v).
The Problem is set out in Doctors Opinion and Chapter 1. [See 17: 1; 19: 3]
The Solution is introduced in Chapters 2, 3 and 4. [See also 17: 3; 25: 1]
The Program of Action is described in Chapters 5, 6 and 7. [See also 9:6; 42: 2]
2.) 1955 Foreword to Second Edition (Consider pp. xv: 3-xvii: 2; xix: 1; xxi: 0)
What do the Big Book authors mean when they say that, this is but a beginning,
only the augury of a much larger future ahead? (xv: 2)
How am I part of that future? What do I know about the story of AA?
What were the tenets of the Oxford Groups? (xvi: 0) [See also 263: 0]
What is the message of AA? (xvii: 3; xviii: 0; xxi: 0) [See also xvi: 2; 17: 3; 45: 2;
60: 0; 77: 0; 89 :1]
What are the principles by which the individual alcoholic could live? (xix: 1)
What are the principles by which AA groups and AA as a whole could survive and
function? (xix: 1)
What is the alternative to the high road? (xxi: 0)
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Step 1
SESSION 2
STEP 1
The Doctors Opinion
Step 1: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become
unmanageable.
Physical craving for liquor. (xxvii: 7 - xxviii: 0)
They cannotdifferentiate the true from the false. (xxviii: 4)
I
READ
WRITE As part of your Step 1 written inventory begin to write about:

o Your own definition of each word in this Step, and every Step. Then look up
each word individually in the dictionary.
o Write what each part means to you: We admit that we are powerless over our
alcoholism-addiction and that our lives [and minds] have been and are
unmanageable.
o How am I powerless over alcohol? Even if I have been sober for a
significant length of time, over what am I powerless?
o How is my life unmanageable today?
TALK Talk with your sponsor and other members of the group about the
readings and your reflections on them.
PRACTICE DAILY RELAXATION WITH MEDITATION / PRAYER

You may follow the Big Book and 12&12 suggestions for meditation and prayer,
or choose a practice that is in line with your own belief system. The goal is to set
aside some quiet reflection time, perhaps 15-20 minutes twice a day.
Read The Doctors Opinion. Many will read Step 1 in the 12&12.
II WITH THE GROUP: PRACTICE What does the Big Book say to me about
my practice of Step 1?
As we each go about our daily activities, we think about the people, places, and
things that are unmanageable, or over which we are powerless. Each day we
write: I cannot control / have no power over________.
We also list what we can control and what we do have power over.
We share our lists with the group.
Points of Focus and Reflection (Consider pp. xxvi: 3-xxix: 3) Try them out loud.
Consider avoiding 'yes' and 'no' rote answers, and responding fully in detail and in depth.
The Problem as understood by Dr. Silkworth in the Doctors Opinion.
1.) The mental obsession (xxviii: 4) [(L obsession- siege) preoccupation, fixed idea]
2.) The physical compulsion [physical craving or allergy (xxx: 0), compelled to act]
3.) The using to excess [abuse: spree (xxix: 0)], and the need to control our
drinking.
4.) The need for a psychic change. (xxix: 1, 3) (Also xxvii: 4; xxviii: 2; xxxi: 4)
Step 1
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1.) Mental Obsession

[Mind: unmanageable (59: 2)]
How am I affected by Dr. Silkworths definition of alcoholism as a medical
problem? (xxx: 0) [Disease: (L- To lack ease.) Involuntary disability. See 64: 3]
Did I drink essentially because [I] like the effect produced by alcohol? (xxviii: 4)
Have I been restless, irritable, and discontented? (xxviii: 4)
Have I sought the sense of ease and comfort which comes at once by taking a few
drinks? (xxix: 0)
Describe in detail how I succumbed to the desire again? (xxix: 0)
In what ways did I reach the point where I could not differentiate the true from the
false? (xxviii: 4)
When did I first experience an abnormal mental obsession with alcohol? Describe.
2.) Physical Compulsion
[Body: powerless (59: 2)]
How did I develop the physicalphenomenon of craving [allergy]? (xxvii: 7 xxviii: 0,1; xxix: 0, 4; xxx: 1, 5)
How do I describe my pathological physical reaction to alcohol?
In what ways has my alcoholic body become as sick as my alcoholic mind? (xxvi:
2)
What is my understanding of the concept of alcoholism as the manifestation of an
allergy? (xxviii: 1) [Allergy (Gr allos strange): An abnormal reaction.]
How do I feel about the idea of hospitalization? (xxvi: 4; xxviii: 0)
When did I first experience a physical compulsion or craving for alcohol?
Describe.
3.) Drinking to Excess:
In what ways did I pass through the well-known stages of a spree, emerging
remorseful, with a firm resolution not to drink again? (xxix: 0)
In what ways did I repeat this over and over? (xxix: 0)
What are my reflections on the ideas that alcoholism has never
beenpermanently eradicated; and that the only reliefis entire abstinence?
(xxx: 5)
When did I first experience the loss of control of my drinking? Describe.
4.)
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Psychic Change
What is my understanding of a psychic change? (xxix: 1, 3)
What is meant by being required to follow a few simple rules? (xxix: 1)
Am I aware that, if I have been abstinent from alcohol a while, Step 1 is about my
powerlessness over some other behavior or thought-habit that reflects the
unmanageability of my life and mind?
Am I aware that I need to find a way to stop that behavior so that my surrender is
not blocked by continued acting out?
What is of significance to me in this chapter? What do I not agree with?
Step 1
SESSION 3
STEP 1
Bills Story
Step 1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become
unmanageable.
Upon a foundation of complete willingness. (12: 4)
the mental twist which leads to the first drink of a spree. (92: 0)
Step 1 written inventory
I
ON YOUR OWN: STUDY What did the the Big Book authors say?
READ Chapter 1 Bills Story, pp.1 16. Read in the Big Book how in 1934
one of AA's founders, Bill W., learned of the problem, the solution, and the
program of action to recover from alcoholism.
o 1. The Problem: From Dr. Silkworth, Bill learned of the medical problem of
alcoholism as both a mental and a physical illness. (7:1; xxv-xxxii)
o 2. The Solution: From Dr. Carl Jung, (through Roland H. and Ebby T.) Bill
learned of the spiritual solution to the problem as a necessary vital spiritual
experience. (27: 5; see also 9: 6; 567-8)
o 3. The Program of Action: From the Oxford Group (through Ebby T.), Bill
learned of the discipline of practicing a step by step program of principles and
action that opens one to the necessary vital spiritual experiences. (27: 4) [See
also He Sold Himself Short, 263: 0]
WRITE Write down how the matters set forth in Bills Story reflect your own
life.
o Cross off the bulleted focus and reflection comments as you consider them.
o Continue writing your Step 1 inventory about your powerlessness over alcohol
and how your life is unmanageable.
TALK Speak with your sponsor and other group members about the study
group and the Step 1 readings.
We review selections from Bill's Story together.

We each consider sharing our own writings and personal Step 1 stories with the
group.
Rather than 'yes' and 'no' responses, consider answering in detail and with
examples.
Step 1
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Points of Focus and Reflection (Consider 2: 2; 3: 2; 5: 4-6: 1; 8: 1-9: 6; 12: 2-14: 6)

1.) The Problem (17: 1)
What did Bill mean by, I commenced to forge the weaponthat one day would
turnlike a boomerang andcut me to ribbons? (2: 2)
Was there a time for me when liquor ceased to be a luxury; it became a necessity?
(5: 1)
Did I think I could control the situation? (5: 1)
Did I ever wonder, Was I crazy? (5: 5)
How does an appalling lack of perspective relate to sanity, honesty, or humility?
(5: 5) What do sanity, honesty, and humility mean to me? [Optional: 12&12 pp,
48: 0; 58: 1; 72: 2]
In what specific ways did I feel the remorse, horror and hopelessness of the next
morning? (6: 1)
Did I ask, Should I kill myself? (6: 1)
In what ways did I seek oblivion? (6: 1)
In what ways have I felt fear? (6: 2, 7: 0)
What are my reflections on Dr. Silkworth's proposition that we have been
seriously ill, bodily and mentally? (7: 1)
Did I see that I could not take so much as one drink? (5: 4)
Did such self-knowledge (7: 2) of the problem of the insanity of that first drink (8:
2) alone keep me sober?
Bill describes taking Step 1 by admitting, Alcohol was my master. (8: 1)
In what ways has alcohol been my master? (8: 1)
2.)
The Solution (17: 3)

What is my understanding of the simple religious idea? (9: 6)
What was my reaction to religion, the church, and God? (10: 1)
How do I react to the suggestion, Why dont you choose your own conception of
God? (12: 2; 46: 2)
Bill takes Step 2 when he understands that, nothing more was required...to make
my beginning than being willing to believe. (12: 4)
Note that Bill was instructed to sit quietly and to test [his] thinking by the new
God-consciousness within. (13: 4)
3.) The Program of Action (9: 6)

What is my understanding of the practical program of action? (9: 6)
How did this derive from the non-alcoholic Oxford Groups of that day? ( xvi: 0;
and see 263: 0)
What are the essential requirements, as I understand them? (13: 5 - 14: 0)
How do I understand, It meant destruction of self-centeredness? (14: 1)
What were the revolutionary and drastic proposals? (14: 2)
Note that Bill essentially takes Step 3 through Step 12 at this time while still in
the hospital. [Step 1 (8: 1); Step 2 (12: 4); Steps 3-11 (13: 2-4); Step 12 (1st part
13: 5; 2nd part 14: 5, 6)]
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Step 1
STEP 1 WRITTEN INVENTORY

Step 1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become
unmanageable.
Consider these questions, which are borrowed from meetings and recovery literature.
Add your own as you see fit. Copy and expand this template in your own notebook.
Consider responding in detail with specific examples, rather than rote yes's or no's.
I POWERLESSNESS
Body The physical compulsion [compelled to act]
What were all of the types and amounts of alcohol and drugs I used, from my first time to
the present? What did it cost me or others purchases, income, fines? Emotional cost?
When have I experienced the abnormal physical reaction to alcohol? [One drink leads to
another. Suggestion: Describe the last drink or a similar episode in detail.]
When did I recognize that I lost control of my drinking? [I drink to excess. I cannot stop
when I want to. Heard in a meeting: When I drink I break out in a binge.]
In what ways have I attempted, and have failed, to control my drinking? Did I use
alcohol, or did alcohol use me?
What were the things I did while acting out on my disease that I would never do when
focusing on recovery? (ie: destructive behavior, loss of memory and blackouts, being
abusive physically or verbally, insane and suicidal behaviors, etc.)
What would my life be like if I admitted being powerless over alcohol and other
dysfunctional behaviors?
What other aspects of my life am I powerless over?
In what ways has my disease been active recently? How do I behave compulsively?
Step 1
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STEP 1 WRITTEN INVENTORY

II UNMANAGEABILITY
Mind The mental obsession [besieged, haunted]
(obsessed with self = self-centeredness)
When and how has my mind told me that one drink will not hurt?
How did jails or institutions take over the management of my life at different times?
How am I addicted to changing my mood? What was I trying to change? In what ways
am I addicted to looking outside of myself for exterior things to change the way I feel?
Are there situations that I fear will be so painful that I will drink again?
How is my addictive thinking and behavior manifested in my life today? Be specific.
What is it like when I am obsessed with someone or something?
Do I maintain a crisis mentality, reacting to every challenge as a personal insult? How
has this affected my life?
Do I insist on having my own way? Do I consider the needs of others? How has this
behavior/attitude affected my relationships?
What in my life can I truly manage?
What managed my life when using, and what manages my life in recovery?
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Step 1
SESSION 4
STEP 1 & 2
There is a Solution
Step 1 We admitted we were powerless over alcohol, that our lives had become
unmanageable.
Step 2 Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to
sanity.
Fellowship the powerful cement which binds us. (17: 2)
READ Read Chapter 2, There is a Solution and Appendix II, Spiritual

Experience in the Big Book.
WRITE Continue to write about how you are powerless over alcohol, and why
your life is unmanageable (then and now). Respond to at least three or four of the
optional focus questions, and to ones of your own.
TALK
Talk with your sponsor and other group members about powerlessness.
my practice of Step 1 and Step 2?
Letting go of the illusion that we can control our addictive behavior on our own is
the first step on the way to recovery.
Only when we realize we cannot control our using do we find a way to change, a
way out.
We each consider sharing our own written reflections on Steps 1 & 2 with the
other members of the group. Pick a topic that interests all or several members of
the group and engage in a round robin discussion.
Points of Focus and Reflection (Consider 17: 2-18: 4; 20: 1-23: 1; 25: 1-3; 27: 2-28: 3)
1.) The Power of the Fellowship
How do I understand the fellowship as the powerful cement which binds us? (17:
2)
How have I experienced the common solution, the way out? (17: 3)
Did my alcoholic illness engulf all whose lives touch the sufferer's? (18: 1)
How is it that I can win the entire confidence of another alcoholic? (18: 4)
Step 1
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2.) The Real Alcoholic

In what ways do I have a hopeless condition of mind and body? (20: 1)
What is my reaction to the idea that a real alcoholic is one who loses all control
of his liquor consumption once he begins to drink? (21: 1)
Am I a real alcoholic? (21: 1) If not, why not? If so, describe fully.
Did I have control over alcohol?
What absurd, incredible and tragic things did I do while drinking? (21: 2)
In what respects have I been dishonest and selfish? (21: 2)
Have I been a real Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde? (21: 2) Describe.
When have I searched madly for the bottle? (22: 0)
Have I used a combination of sedative and liquor? (22: 0)
Can I answer the riddle of why I took that one drink, that first drink, over and
over? (22: 3; 22: 2; 23: 1)
How do I respond to the premise that the main problem of the alcoholic centers in
his mind, rather than his body? (23: 1)
In what ways do I share the malady of the lie, the mental obsession that somehow,
someday [I can] beat the game and take one drink? (23: 2; 22: 2) [See also 326: 2)
In what specific ways have I lost the power of choice in drink? (24: 1)
3.) The Spiritual Experience
In what ways is my being sober today evidence of having tapped an unsuspected
inner resource which I may identify with [my own] conception of a Power greater
than [myself]? (567: 4-568: 0)
In what ways had I come to believe in the hopelessness and futility of life as I had
been living it? (25: 1) Describe in detail.
Have I felt I had but two alternatives:?
o One was to go on to the bitter end, blotting out the consciousness of our
intolerable situation
o and the other, to accept spiritual help? (25: 3 )
How does one go about accepting spiritual help? Might ones spiritual life then
include our constant thought of others and how we may help meet their needs?
(20: 0) Can I accept that the concept of others includes me?
Am I ready for the self-searching, the leveling of [my] pride and the confession of
shortcomings that the process requires? (25: 1) (See also 42:1, 2; 64: 1; 122: 1)
What was the certain simple attitude (27:0) that allowed the utterly
hopelessdrunk (26: 1, 3) to become a free man? ((26: 4; 28: 1) [See 28: 3
willing and honest enough to try.]
How do Dr. Carl Jung's reflections on vital spiritual experiences as the solution to
our problem apply to my recovery? (27: 4, 5)
How might William James Varieties of Religious Experience be of use to me?
(28: 3)
Have I experienced the presence of a higher power? Be specific.
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Step 1
SESSION 5
STEP 1 & 2
More About Alcoholism
Step 1. We admitted that we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had
become unmanageable.
Step 2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to
sanity.
We were alcoholics (30: 2; see also 60: 2)
Take Step 1
READ Read of relapse in Chapter 3, More About Alcoholism.
WRITE Write the story of your last drink in detail or tell aspects of your story
through several drinking episodes. .
o You may focus on these or other points in your written reflections:
-The Starting Problem:
Our mental obsession. (The Lie) There came the time
that we were stone cold sober and we picked up even though we had years of experience
about where it would lead us. The subtle insanity which precedes the first drink. (40: 2)
-The Stopping Problem:
Our physical compulsion (craving, allergy). That once
we put the drink into our system there was never enough, we could not stop.
-How we drank to excess: Why? Because we are alcoholic. (30: 2) [See also 342: 1]
TALK
Talk with your sponsor or with other members of your group.
my practice of Step 1 and Step 2?
We talk with other group members about relapse. Did any of the stories in this chapter
move us more than others did? Have we ever faced a situation where only our higher
power stood between us and a drink? (43: 3) Have we ever relapsed? Describe in depth.
Points of Focus and Reflection (Consider 32: 2-34: 2; 35: 1-38: 2; 39: 2-43: 3)
1.) The Man of Thirty
Do I have a reservation of any kind, [or] any lurking notions that someday [I] will
be immune to alcohol? (33: 1)
Was I astonished at [my] inability to stop? (33: 3)
Had I lost the power to choose?(34: 2)
Like the man of thirty, did I have an utter inability to leave it alone? (34: 2)
Step 1
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2.) Jim
What mental states are the crux of the [drinking] problem? (35: 0)
Can I identify with Jim who found himself drunk even after accepting what others
knew of alcoholism [Step 1], and the answer [they] had found [Step 2]? (35: 3)
Have I been crazy and insane?(see 5: 5; 37: 1; 38: 1, 2)
Was I able to stop drinking on the basis of self-knowledge? (39: 1)
3.) The Jaywalker
Are my thought-habits and behaviors absurd and incomprehensible? (37: 4)
How have I been strangely insane? (38: 2)
4.) Fred
Can I identify with Fred, who would not believe himself an alcoholic [Step 1],
much less accept a spiritual remedy for his problem [Step 2]? (39: 2)
Was I told that if I had an alcoholic mind, the time and place would come I
would drink again? (41: 2-42: 0)
What are the spiritual answer and the program of action? (42: 2)
What are my thoughts about the idea that the alcoholic at certain times has no
effective mental defense against the first drink? (43: 3)
III
DAILY PRACTICE OF STEP 1 PRINCIPLES:

Do I know that admitting powerlessness does not mean admitting worthlessness?
How may I accept my new freedom in no longer having to lie about my drinking?
How may I stay in touch with the reality of my disease, no matter how long I have
been free from drinking?
In what ways today have I begun to be honest in recovery?
Can I tell my sponsor or someone else when I have been thinking about drinking
or acting out on my disease in some other way?
How am I practicing open-mindedness, humility, and willingness today?
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IV
TAKE STEP 1 Take Step 1 in the second paragraph of BB page 30.

We had to fully concede to our innermost selves that we were alcoholics. This
is the first step in recovery. (30: 2)
This is how the Big Book authors described taking Step 1. If we concede, then
according to the Big Book and under the conditions of this day, we take Step 1. As with
all of the Steps, we each take Step 1 when we each say so.
Some write a statement such as this:
I admit I am powerless over ___________________. My life is unmanageable.
__________________(signature) ______________(date)
The group may or may not choose to observe the completion of this Step by holding
hands and reciting the Step.
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Step 1
SESSION 6
STEP 2
We Agnostics
sanity.
Willing to believecornerstone [of a] spiritual structure. (47: 2)
Burn the idea into the consciousness of every man that he can get well
regardless of anyone. (98: 2)
Take Step 2
I
ON YOUR OWN:
STUDY What did the Big Book authors say?
READ Read Chapter 4, We Agnostics and Appendix II. Many will read Step 2
in the 12&12.
WRITE Write about your reflections on the chapter. Spirituality is taking the
focus off of us, being more considerate of others, and awakening to a life already
connected to a higher power. You may want to consider these questions:
o Do I believe that I can be restored to wholeness?
o How can I see a higher power working in my life?
o What characteristics does my higher power NOT have?
o What characteristics DOES my higher power have? This is sufficient to begin.
TALK Call your sponsor and other group members to discuss your thoughts on
the chapter.
II WITH THE GROUP: PRACTICE What does the Big Book say to me
about my practice of Step 2?
What's the point of Step 2? The point is (60: 1) that we can get well, or more well.
We can be restored to sanity, to wholeness. We can come to have faith in this
hope, even when our disease says, "There is no hope for me, I might as well use."
Step 2 reminds us that it is crazy to think we needed to be so much in control.
Points of Focus and Reflection (Consider pp. 44: 1,3; 45: 1,2,3; 47: 1; 52: 1,2,3; 567-8)
1.) Am I willing?
Can I believe that other alcoholics have found peace of mind through this
process?
What is it, precisely and in detail, that I have worshipped? (54: 1)
What, exactly, have I experienced? (55: 2-3)
Am I willing to consider that I am not at the core of everything good or bad
and hence there may be a power greater than any one of us?
Was I insane or crazy to believe the lies the alcohol told me?
Step 2
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2.) My Problem
What do these definitions of alcoholism mean to me?:
- when you honestly want to, you find you cannot quit entirely [Mind]
- when drinking, you have little control over the amount you take. [Body] (44: 1)
If being crazy or insanity is a loss of perspective and proportion (5: 5; 37: 1), how
is this like denial, dishonesty, or lack of humility? [12&12 pp. 48: 0; 58: 1; 72: 2]
In what areas of my life do I need sanity now?
In what ways am I addicted to my painful and insane ways of thinking and
reacting?
3.) My Solution
How do I react when the authors tell me that we must find a spiritual basis in life
or else? (44: 3) In what ways am I spiritual?
What does this mean to me: the Big Books main object is to enable you to find a
Power greater than yourself which will solve your problem? (45: 2)
4.) My Own Conception of a Higher Power
What do the terms agnostic, we came to believe and restore us to sanity
mean to me? (See 55: 1-4, 57: 0)
How does my childhood training about God affect my life and recovery today?
(45: 3)
What does it mean when the authors of the Big Book say, When, therefore, we
speak to you of God, we mean your own conception of God? This applies, too, to
other spiritual expressions. What [do] they mean to you? (47: 1)
What does work mean, as in, Is not our age characterized by the ease with which
we discard old ideas for new,throw away the theory or gadget which does not
work for something new which does? (52: 1)
What works and does not work in my life to give me serenity and peace of mind?
For me, how is it that, Our ideas did not work. But the God idea did? (52: 3)
III
DAILY PRACTICE OF STEP 2 PRINCIPLES

How may I practice my new belief that I can get well or more well?
How may I know that help is available, that I am not entirely alone?
How may I stop relying on my own thinking and begin to ask for help today?
How may I be willing to grow along spiritual lines? (60: 1)
Have I sought help from my sponsor, gone to meetings, and reached out to other
recovering alcoholics? What were the results?
May I find a sign of a higher power in the support I receive from the fellowship?
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IV TAKE STEP 2 We take Step 2 in the second paragraph of BB page 47.
Do I now believe, or am I even willing to believe, that there is a Power greater
than myself? (47: 2)
...Willing to get well. (97: 4-98: 0)
When we assent, then according to the Big Book and under the conditions of this
day, we take Step 2. Keep in mind that our reasonable best is always more than good
enough. Some groups mark taking Step 2 by holding hands and reciting the Step.
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Step 2
STEP 2 Written Inventory

sanity.
Consider these questions, which are borrowed from meetings and recovery literature.
Add your own as appropriate. Consider responding in detail with specific examples,
rather than rote yes's or no's.
Insanity
What is my understanding of my own sanity and insanity? [The Big Book authors define
sanity as sane and sound. (69: 2) [healthy, whole] Insanity is a lack of proportion, of the
ability to think straight (37: 1), and crazy is an appalling lack of perspective. (5: 5)]
What things have I repeatedly done that move me toward my own destruction?
How has my life been out of balance? Have I lacked perspective? How and when?
In what ways does my insanity say that things outside myself can make me whole or fix
all my problems?
Came to believe
What does the phrase came to believe, mean to me? (59: 2) What do I believe in?
What are my negative thoughts, feelings, attitudes or beliefs that block my spirituality?
Can I believe that I can get well? Why? How, and in what ways?
Higher Power
What is a power greater than myself?
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Step 2
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What are my grievances against a higher power?

What is the evidence that a higher power is working in my life?
What are the characteristics my higher power does NOT have?
What characteristics DOES my higher power have? [If you choose, you can use this
understanding of higher power as a beginning for now.]
Restored to sanity
[L. sanitas "sanity, health, being whole, sound or well"]
What type of sanity is Step 2 referring to?
Where in my life do I need sanity now?
How have I sought help from a higher power today?
Who do I know who is recovering well? What are they doing that is working?
Have I sought help from my sponsor, gone to meetings, and reached out to other
recovering alcoholics? What were the results?
Have I used a meeting or the fellowship as a higher power? What happened?
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Step 2
SESSION 7
STEP 3
How it Works pp. 58 - 64
Step 3 Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we
understood Him.
The keystone of the new and triumphant arch. (62: 3) A beginning. (63: 3)
Take Step 3
I
ON YOUR OWN:
READ Read Chapter 5, How it Works, pp. 58- 64: 0. Many will also read Step
3 in the 12&12.
WRITE Write about your thoughts and reflections on this chapter and the
focus questions.
TALK Call your sponsor and other members of the group to discuss the reading
and your reflections.
-The first part of Chapter 5 is often read at meetings. What might it mean to each of us?
-Perhaps one or more members of the group can share their experiences with working
Step 3 by the Big Book. We each may consider sharing our written reflections on Step 3.
Points of Focus and Reflection (Consider pp. 60: 3-63: 3)
1.) The Problem of Self
a.) Each person is like an actor who wants to run the whole show. (60: 4)
Our actor is self-centered Are not most of us concerned with our resentments,
our self-pity, or ourselves? (61: 2-62: 0)
How am I like an actor? (60: 4) What roles, what masks, what characters do I
play? Are these old worn out defenses? [See 73: 1; Optional 12&12, 57: 1]
Am I almost always in collision with something or some body? (60: 4)
b.) The show doesnt come off. (61: 1)
Where do I think that life does not treat me right? (61: 1)
Where do my actions make the other players wish to retaliate and snatch all they
can get out of the show? (61: 1)
In my own life, am I familiar with the progression: anger => indignation => selfpity? (61: 1) Describe in detail.
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In what ways does the following describe me? Is he not a victim of the delusion
that he can wrest satisfaction and happiness out of this world if he only manages
well? (61: 1) [Is this the essence of Step 1?] -What do delusion (30: 2; 61: 1),
denial (10: 1), and manages (61: 1) mean to me?
c.) So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. (62: 2)
What does this mean? Didnt alcohol and other people cause all my troubles?
How do my reactions to life events make me suffer? Be specific.
Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we
step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. (62: 1) Is this so? How?
Where in the past have I made decisions based on self that later placed me in a
position to be hurt? (62: 1) Be specific and give details. [See what self-instincts
can be threatened, and that we react to, in the Step 4 Affects My column (65: 2)]
2.)
The Solution: The God Idea (45: 3; 52: 3)

We alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness. (62: 2)
How has my playing God worked, or not worked, to give me and others serenity?
We had to quit playing God. It didnt work. (62: 3)
When did I stop playing God?
3.) The Program of Action

Can I make a decision to turn my life and will over to a higher power of my
understanding, just for today?
In what ways am I taking action on Step 3 when I abstain from alcohol and work
the remaining Steps?
Step 3 Promises: Is it possible that I could enjoy peace of mind, face life
successfully, and lose [my] fear? (63: 1) How?
III

How does Step 3 allow me to build on the surrender I have developed in Step 1
and Step 2?
Am I fighting anything in recovery? What do I think would happen if I became
willing to let recovery prevail in that area of my life?
How may I reaffirm my decision on a daily basis and continue to take the action
of working the rest of the Steps?
How may I decide to let go today, and surrender to being in unison with life?
*************************
IV TAKE STEP 3 We take Step 3 in the second paragraph on BB page 63.
Have we decided that we are the agents of the higher power of our understanding?
(62: 3) [See also 49: 1; 68: 3] Are we willing to decide to let go of our need to control,
just for today?
According to the Big Book, and under the conditions of this day, we take Step 3.
Some groups acknowledge taking this Step by reciting the great Third Step Prayer
(63: 2). Others will join hands and recite the Step. Feel free to do what is appropriate for
you and the group.
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Step 3
STEP 3 Written Inventory

Step 3: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we
understood Him.
Consider these questions, which are borrowed from meetings and recovery literature, and
ones of your own. Consider responding in detail with specific examples.
Decision
Who or what made my decisions for me while drinking?
Can I make a decision to turn my will and my life over to the care of a higher power of
my understanding just for today? What fears or reservations do I have about turning
my life over?
What actions will I take to follow through on my decision to turn my life over to a higher
power?
Self-will To work Step 3 we need to identify the ways we have acted on self-will.
[Willful: (from ON wella- well of boiling heat) Headstrong, obstinate, rigid.
Gaining power over people and situations.] [Willing: Being receptive to new
possibilities. Using our will in harmony with life, not against it.]
How have I been self-centered? How have I been defiant?
Which problems have I tried to resolve through willpower? What were the results?
In what ways are my troubles of my own making? (62: 2)
How do my reactions to life events make me suffer? Be specific.
In what ways am I an extreme example of self-will run riot? (62: 2) How have I acted on
self-will?
How has my self-will affected others?
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Step 3
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Have there been times in my recovery when I have found myself subtly taking back my
will and my life? What alerted me? What have I done to recommit myself to the Third
Step?
The God of My Understanding
Who or what makes my decisions for me in recovery?
Why is it okay to have a different higher power from everyone else?
How is my higher power working in my life today? How do my higher power and I
communicate? What do I do in order to be open to my higher power?
Is my current concept of a higher power still working? How might I need to change my
concept of a higher power?
Turning It Over
What are specific examples of how I turned my life and will over to my addictions?
How would my day look if I were to turn my will and my life over to the care of a higher
power of my understanding?
What are my fears about making this decision?
Which thoughts and behaviors am I willing to turn over right now? Which am I holding
on to?
How do I take action to turn my will and my life over to my higher power on a daily
basis? Are there any practices I do regularly? What are they?
What have I done recently that demonstrates my surrender to recovery and to working a
program?
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Step 3
II
Step 4
Focus
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Step 4
Focus
PART II
SESSIONS 8 - 12
STEP 4
RESENTMENT:
We asked God [of our understanding] to help us show them the same
tolerance, pity, and patience that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend.
When a person offended we said to ourselves, This is a sick man. How
can I be helpful to him? God save me from being angry. Thy will be
done. (67: 0)
[Optional: If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will
pray for the person or thing that you resent, you will be free. If you will
ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to them, you
will be free. Ask for their health, their prosperity, their happiness, and you
will be free. Even when you dont really want it for them and your prayers
are only words and you dont mean it, go ahead and do it anyway. Do it
every day for two weeks, and you will find you have come to mean it and to
want it for them, and you will realize that where you used to feel bitterness
and resentment and hatred, you now feel compassionate understanding
and love. (Freedom From Bondage, 552: 1)]
FEAR:
We let Him [higher power of our understanding] demonstrate, through us,
what He can do.
We ask Him to remove our fear and direct our attention to what He would
have us be.
At once, we commence to outgrow fear. (68: 3)
RELATIONSHIPS INCLUDING SEX:
We asked God [of our understanding] to mold our ideals and help us to live
up to them. (69: 2)
In meditation, we ask God what we should do about each specific matter.
(69: 3)
We let God be the final judge. (70: 0)
Step 4
Focus
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STEP 4 ASSETS AND LIABILITIES CHECKLIST

Also STEP 10 DAILY WRITTEN INVENTORY
We look at, "What qualities do I have that I like? That others like?" And we
look at, "What qualities do I have that do not give me or others peace of mind?"
[Optional: Adapted from a June 1946, A.A. Grapevine article describing a
Character Assets and Character Liabilities Checklist, such as Dr. Bob and
many of the early AAs used to take newcomers through the Steps. See also He
Sold Himself Short. (263: 0, 1, 2) Consider adding fear, selfishness, conceit,
carelessness, intolerance, ill-temper, sarcasm, etc.]
A.A. Grapevine Volume 3 Issue 1 June 1946
Daily Moral Inventory
Mail Call for All A.A.s at Home Or Abroad
Enclosed you will find a little card to make that moral inventory with regularity.
Mark W., Jackson, Mississippi
My Daily Moral Inventory [Day____] Month____ Year_____
Check Results DAILY in Proper Column
ASSETS* (Character Assets)
LIABILITIES* (Character Defects)
[* Which traits work, and which do not work to give me serenity and peace of mind?]
Strive for
Watch for
-Self forgetfulness [self-forgetting]
-Self pity
-Humility
-Self justification [self-centered]
-Modesty
-Self importance [selfish]
-Self valuation
-Self condemnation
-Honesty
-Dishonesty
-Patience
-Impatience
-Love [courage]
-Hate [fear]
-Forgiveness [avoid retaliation]
-Resentment [anger]
-Simplicity
-False Pride
-Trust
-Jealousy
-Generosity
-Envy
-Activity
-Laziness
-Promptness
-Procrastination
-Straightforwardness
-Insincerity
-Positive thinking
-Negative thinking
-High-minded, spiritual, clean thinking -Vulgar, immoral, trashy thinking
-Look for the good
-Criticizing
-Eliminate the negative
-Accentuate the positive.
CHECK THE SCORE EVERY NIGHT TRY TO GET THE SLATE CLEAN
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Step 4
Focus
NOTES ON STEP 4
When the spiritual malady is overcome, we straighten out mentally and
physically. (64: 3)
I ruthlessly faced my sins [blocks to Spirit]. (Bills Story, 13: 2)
Heard in a meeting: We need self-acceptance before we can have self improvement.
Problem / Solution / Program of Action

We have come a long way to reach Step 4. We now understand that our problem
lies in being powerless over such recurring mental obsessions as the thought that we can
drink again in safety, when taking that drink triggers our physical compulsion to drink to
excess.
Our solution is to find a power greater than any one of us which can restore us to
sanity, health, and wholeness. We come to believe that we can get well.
Our program of action is to turn our life and will over to such a power, of our own
understanding, by the discipline of the daily practice of the principles of the Twelve Steps
within the AA fellowship. The key to this action is our experience that our troublesare
basically of our own making. (62: 2) We have learned that our own reactions to hard
times or good times have become self-centered thought-habits that frequently stand in the
way of recovery. We learn that with help, we can change these for our own serenity.
Kit of spiritual tools
The 1st-2nd-3rd-4th working of Step 4 lists
We have been promised a kit of spiritual tools. (25: 1) Step 4 delivers a process
(64: 1), a method (114: 1) and a treatment (551: 1) that we can use often on our reactions
to past events and present day troubles (Step 10), so we are less likely to pick up a drink
and more likely to have peace of mind. While there is hard work ahead, we will be
learning a lot about ourselves, and we do not have to dread it. Step 4 is not a test, we
cannot fail it. The last thing we need is another chance to beat up on ourselves.
Inventory of Character Assets and Character Defenses

[An] inventory...is an effort to discover the truth about the stock-in-trade.(64: 1)
We are in the business of staying sober, and the ways we think and behave are the stock
Step 4
Notes
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in trade. We are practicing understanding the exact nature of what we have done in our
lives that has worked, and what has not worked, to give us peace of mind. We may
address questions like these to better see our character assets:
When have I done the right thing? What are my successes?
What qualities do I like about myself? That others like?
What are my values? Which ones am I committed to living by, and how?
How have I shown concern for others, including myself?
What spiritual principles am I practicing in my life?
[For Step 4 character assets see BB pages 67: 0, 1 and 70: 3. Also see the optional
adapted 1946 A.A. Grapevine Character Assets and Character Liabilities checklist on
page 40 of this workbook for a sample list of assets.]
Blocks to our spirit

The premise of Step 4 is that we have difficulty turning our life and will over
because some of our thoughts and behaviors block us from experiencing our spirit our
higher power or our own better nature. We use the Step 4 process in order to identify
these habitual blocking thoughts and behaviors in any resentment, fear, or hurtful action.
Once we look deeper inside for the source of our old worn out defenses, or patterns, or
defects, or shortcomings which are usually involved in the roles we played in painful
life events then we can move on and change them in the Steps that follow. This enables
us to clear a channel choked up with self-centered, dishonest or fearful motives and
permits us to return to our search for our higher power's will, not our own, in any moment
of stress. [Optional, see 12&12, 103: 0]
What part of ourselves?

Through practice we learn to focus not so much on who it was that hurt or
threatened us, or how they did that, but more on what part of ourselves was disturbed so
that we drank, or acted as though we had been drinking. This often relates to feelings
associated with our attitudes, personalities and behaviors in reaction to real or imagined
threats to our security, our self esteem, or our sex / relationship instincts. We have little
control over others and what they do, but we can change how we habitually react to life
events. This is difficult for us. But, if we do not change we may drink. We have to ask for
help. We find that help through the discipline of the practice of the Twelve Steps.
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Step 4
Notes
Where are we responsible?

We develop new skills in asking where we were responsible in the course of day
to day happenings. The Big Book authors never accuse, criticize, or judge us. The
purpose of this step is to help us become aware of ourselves as we were in the past and
how we are today. We are invited to precisely describe our thinking and behavior. We
name our part. We wrestle with spiritual inquiries such as, Where were my motives selfcentered or dishonest or at fault? (See 86: 2) We must honestly ask what these terms
mean to us in our own experience and in our own words. (See 47: 1; 63: 3) We set down
a true picture in accurate proportion and real perspective of how we were involved.
We may have been selfish intentionally, or because we did not even think of the
concerns of others. Certainly we have often lied or not been genuine on purpose, but we
are also dishonest when we see things only in our own distorted way, and not as they
really are. Our self-seeking and inconsiderate behaviors relate to where we tried to
control or manipulate others, thinking that we were better than or inferior to them. Fear
is our number one character defect, underneath all the others. Our behaviors are driven by
ancient fears for our very existence, of losing our security, of not getting our desires, and
of being shown up for what we are trying to hide. These culminate in our faults: our
instincts and emotions in collision, or deep seismic gaps between what we instinctively
want for ourselves and what we wish for others. (67: 2, 3; 69: 1)
In Step 4, we practice giving accurate descriptions of what has blocked us from
our spirit. We state where we missed the mark when we could have been on target, and
where we were out of bounds in this game of life. Why do we behave in these ways?
Because we are alcoholic. (See 60: 2; 338)
Turnarounds
In focused meditation and prayer, we recognize that others like ourselves are sick
and suffering. We ask our higher power to help us wish for others and for ourselves that
we all may have deep happiness, genuine serenity, and peace of mind. This helps return
us to being right size, and gives us a new perspective as we join in with life. We find that
we put our trust in this new faith, not by way of emotion or wishing, but by our own
experience through our own practice.
Step 4
Notes
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Step 4 Directions: Who-How-What & Why, When, Where and Willing.

The directions for Step 4 are in the Big Book, yet surprisingly few alcoholics in
recovery comprehend them, and fewer still practice them. Our goal is to do both. Our
method is to follow the instructions as written and see what the results are.
The reading describes what an inventory is. (64: 1) Then the Big Book authors
look at the things in ourselves which had been blocking us (64: 0) from our higher power,
which turns out to be self, manifested in various ways. (64: 2) This chapter specifically
mentions the blocks to our spirit of our resentments (64: 3), our fears (64: 3), and the
consequences of our own conduct (69: 1) in the area of our personal relationships
(including sex). (64: 3 - 65: 0) For every one of these three manifestations of self (anger,
fear, sex) the book has us analyze our life experiences in each of these four ways:
1ST We set them on paper. (64: 3) Who-How-What We learn that our troubles
are not so much who hurt us or how they did that, but rather may stem from our own
reaction to what part of ourselves is being threatened.
2ND We considered it carefully. (65: 3) Why? Why work to change? We learn
that we have to wrestle with these issues or we may drink again and die.
3RD We turned back to the list. (66: 3) When? When ready to change we learn
to avoid retaliation, and instead see others as being as sick and as worthy as ourselves.
4TH Referring to our list again. (67: 2) Where & Willing? By examining our
defects and shortcomings (50: 1), our motives (86: 2) and the exact nature of our wrongs
(59: 2), we learn where we may be selfish, dishonest, self-seeking, and frightened (67: 2),
we thereby become willing to set these matters straight. (67: 2)
An annotated selection from the Big Book Step 4 follows on pages 45 48 of this
SbBB workbook which highlights these four workings of our grudge list (65: 1).
[Optional: Once this healthy practice has become grooved, it will be so
interesting and profitable that the time it takes wont be missed. (12&12, 89: 2)]
~ Sessions 8 11, SbBB pages 54-76, thoroughly look into what the Big Book
says regarding resentments, fears, and relationships including sex. Optional written
inventory forms are provided.
~ Other Options on SbBB page 50 points out that some may choose to skip the
intervening Sessions and go directly to Session 12 on SbBB page 77 for one group
members condensed summary of the Big Book Step 4 process.
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Step 4
Notes
STEP 4 BIG BOOK ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS

Chapter 5, pp 63: 4 67: 2
Annotated
to show four workings of list
69: 3 "In other words, we treat [resentment, fear or] sex[/relationship

conduct] as we would any other problem." [ie: MAKE A LIST, etc.]
[THE FOUR WORKINGS OF OUR GRUDGE LIST:
1st Who-How-What;
2nd Why;
3rd When;
4th Where & Willing
1st
Who (resentful at?);

How (hurt us?);
What (part of self affected?)
2nd
Why (do this work?)
3rd
4th
1st2nd3rd4th
When (ready to change, what do we do?)
{Turnaround}
Where (were we at fault?)

& Willing (to change?) ]
.From the Big Book:.

63:4 Next we launched out on a course of vigorous action, the first step of
which is a personal housecleaning, 64:0 which many of us had never
attempted. Though our decision was a vital and crucial step, it could have
little permanent effect unless at once followed by a strenuous effort to face,
and to be rid of, the things in ourselves which had been blocking us. Our
liquor was but a symptom. So we had to get down to causes and conditions.
64:1 Therefore, we started upon a personal inventory. This was Step Four.
A business which takes no regular inventory usually goes broke. Taking a
commercial inventory is a fact-finding and a fact-facing process. It is an
effort to discover the truth about the stock-in-trade. One object is to disclose
damaged or unsalable goods, to get rid of them promptly and without regret.
If the owner of the business is to be successful, he cannot fool himself about
values.
64:2 We did exactly the same thing with our lives. We took stock
honestly. First, we searched out the flaws in our make-up which caused our
failure. Being convinced that self, manifested in various ways, was what had
defeated us, we considered its common manifestations.
Step 4
Notes
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64:3 Resentment is the number one offender. It destroys more alcoholics

than anything else. From it stem all forms of spiritual disease, for we have
been not only mentally and physically ill, we have been spiritually sick.
When the spiritual malady is overcome, we straighten out mentally and
physically.
[1st Who-How-What? ]
[1st] In dealing with resentments, we set them ON PAPER. [LIST]

[WHO]
We LISTed people, institutions or principles with whom we were angry.
[HOW did they hurt us]
We asked ourselves why we were angry.
[WHAT part of ourselves was hurt]
In most cases it was found that our self-esteem, our pocketbooks, our
ambitions, our personal relationships 65:0 (including sex) were hurt or
threatened. So we were sore. We were burned up.
[REPEAT:]
[WHO]
65:1 On our grudge list we set opposite each name
[HOW]
our injuries.
[WHAT]
Was it our self-esteem, our security, our ambitions, our personal, or sex
relations, which had been interfered with?
65:2 We were usually as definite as this example:
I'm resentful at: The Cause:
Affects my:
..
[WHO?
HOW did they hurt me?
Mr. Brown His attention to my wife

Told my wife of my mistress
Brown may get my job
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WHAT instincts affected?]
Sex relat; Self-esteem (fear)

Sex relat; Self-esteem (fear)
Security; Self-esteem (fear)
Step 4
Notes
Mrs. Jones
She's a nut
Pers relat. Self-esteem (fear)
She snubbed me
Committed her husband for drinking
he's my friend
She's a gossip
My employer Unreasonable, unjust

overbearing
Threatens to fire me for
drinking etc.
Self-esteem (fear)
Security
My wife
Misunderstands & nags

Pride
Likes Brown
Sex relations
Wants house in her name
Security (fear)
..
65:3 We went back through our lives. Nothing counted but thoroughness
and honesty. When we were finished
=>
nd
[2nd
WHY should we look at this?]
[2 ] we considered IT [LIST] carefully. The first thing apparent

66:0 was that this world and its people were often quite wrong. To
conclude that others were wrong was as far as most of us ever got. The usual
outcome was that people continued to wrong us and we stayed sore.
Sometimes it was remorse and then we were sore at ourselves. But the more
we fought and tried to have our own way, the worse matters got. As in war,
the victor only seemed to win. Our moments of triumph were short-lived.
66:1 It is plain that a life which includes deep resentment leads only to
futility and unhappiness. To the precise extent that we permit these, do we
squander the hours that might have been worth while. But with the alcoholic,
whose hope is the maintenance and growth of a spiritual experience, this
business of resentment is infinitely grave. We found that it is fatal. For
when harboring such feelings we shut ourselves off from the sunlight of the
Spirit. The insanity of alcohol returns and we drink again. And with us, to
drink is to die.
Step 4
Notes
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66:2 If we were to live, we had to be free of anger. The grouch and the
brainstorm were not for us. They may be the dubious luxury of normal men,
but for alcoholics these things are poison.
rd
[3rd
WHEN we were ready...
{Turnaround} ]
[3 ] 66:3 We turned back to the LIST, for it held the key to the future.
We were prepared to look at it from an entirely different angle. We began to
see that [WHO] the world and its people really dominated us. In that state,
the [HOW] wrong-doing of others, fancied or real, [WHAT] had power to
actually kill. How could we escape? We saw that these resentments must be
mastered, but how? We could not wish them away any more than alcohol.
[REPEAT:]
66:4 This was our course: We realized that [WHO] the people who
wronged us were perhaps spiritually sick.
67:0 Though we did not like [HOW] their symptoms and [WHAT] the
way these disturbed us, they, like ourselves, were sick too. We asked God to
help us show them the same tolerance, pity, and patience that we would
cheerfully grant a sick friend. [WHEN] When a person offended we said to
ourselves, This is a sick man. How can I be helpful to him? God save me
from being angry. Thy will be done.
67:1 We avoid retaliation or argument. We wouldn't treat sick people that
way. If we do, we destroy our chance of being helpful. We cannot be helpful
to all people, but at least God will show us how to take a kindly and tolerant
view of each and every one.
[4th WHERE at fault? & WILLING to set things straight.]
[4th] 67:2 Referring to our LIST again. Putting out of our minds the
wrongs others had done, we resolutely looked for our own mistakes.
[WHERE] Where had we been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking and
frightened? [See motives 86: 2] Though a situation had not been entirely
our fault, we tried to disregard the other person involved entirely. Where
were we to blame? The inventory was ours, not the other man's. When we
saw our faults we LISTed them. We placed them before us in black and
white [LIST]. We admitted our wrongs honestly and were [WILLING]
willing to set these matters straight.
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Step 4
Notes
STEP 1
STEP 2
STEP 3
We Admit
Powerless
Unmanageable
Restore to
Sanity
Turn Over
STEP 4
Inventory: Assets & Defenses
Who Am I?
Work GRUDGE LIST 1-2-3-4 Ways
Big Book pp. 63-67 Resentments, etc.
1st:
It was not so much WHO offended me,

Or HOW they did that [Column 1 & 2]
but WHAT part of myself I Re-Acted to.

Instincts: Security? Self-esteem? Sex? [Column 3]
2nd:
3rd:
WHY work on this? So I wont drink again.
WHEN I am ready I turn back to the list:

Avoid Retaliation (67: 1)
They are as sick and suffering as me.
4th:
WHERE were my own Motives:

Selfish? Dishonest? Self-centered? Fearful?
Am I WILLING to set this straight?
STEPS 5, 6, 7 & 8
STEPS 9, 10, 11 & 12
Clean House
Practice these
Principles daily
Step 4
Notes
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Other Options
Before launching into Sessions 8, 9, 10 and 11, you may wish to pause
and reflect a moment. Perhaps you are restless, irritable, and discontented
(xxviii: 4) about this whole Step 4 process and it may be good to let that go.
Relax. Take some deep breaths. Allow yourself to be present in your body
for a while.
Remember that there are as many ways to list ones own character assets
and character defenses by taking Step 4 as there are people in recovery.
The following story is one condensed example from a time before the Big
Book was written down:
...It was Dr. Bob's afternoon off - he had me to the office and we spent three or
four hours formally going through the ... program as it was at that time. ... Dr.
Bob led me through all of these steps. At the moral inventory [now Step 4], he
brought up several of my bad personality traits or character defects such as
selfishness, conceit, jealousy, carelessness, intolerance, ill-temper, sarcasm, and
resentments. We went over these at great length, and then he finally asked me if I
wanted these defects of character removed. When I said yes, we both knelt at his
desk and prayed, each of us asking to have these defects taken away.
This picture is still vivid. If I live to be a hundred, it will always stand out in my
mind. It was very impressive, and I wish that every A.A. could have the benefit of
this type of sponsorship today. (BB, He Sold Himself Short, 263: 0, 1, 2)
That was one way to do it. Now, in these Steps by the Big Book sessions, we
are looking at the method presented on pages 64 to 71 of Alcoholics
Anonymous. It is not THE way to do the Step 4 inventory, but it is A way.
There has been a lot of confusion about the process of taking this inventory
by the Big Book, but it is actually quite simple. The instructions are
condensed, and it is often difficult to understand and follow. In Sessions 8
11 of this workbook we will be looking at them in great detail. Give it a try
with the group, your buddy and/or your sponsor.
However, at this point some groups elect to spend a session on the

Big Book directions and then skip Sessions 8 11. They go right to Session 12
on page 77 of this SbBB workbook, the Grudge List - One Group Member's
Pocket Treatment, and that is fine too. The point is to get to work on
writing your own inventory. Easy does it, but do it!
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Step 4
Notes
STEP 4: Made a searching

and fearless moral inventory
of ourselves
I need to look at my life
Borrowed from AA pamphlet P-55, The
Twelve Steps Illustrated, Alcoholics
Anonymous, www.aa.org
Step 4
Notes
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Notes
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SESSION 8
STEP 4
RESENTMENT (Part A) INVENTORY
How It Works
Resentment (Part A) Grudge List
Step 4: Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
The 1ST and 2ND working of the grudge list: Who-How-What & Why
If we were to live, we had to be free of anger. (66: 2)
[Step Four is but the beginning of a lifetime practice. (12&12, 50: 2)]
I
ON YOUR OWN:
STUDY- What did the Big Book authors say?
READ Read Chapter 5, How It Works. (8 paragraphs, pp. 64-66) Many will
read Step 4 in the 12&12 as well, where there is no mention of a written inventory
beyond an assets/liabilities checklist. Watch for paralysis from fear/perfectionism.
o We come here with a huge load of stored up shame, guilt, and unresolved
pain to be let go of. Step 4 helps us lay bare the conflicts of the past so that
we are no longer at their mercy.
o Step 4 gives us the means to find out who we are, and what we are not. It
is about finding our assets as well as our defects of character. We discover
that our problems began long before we took our first drink. We may have
felt isolated and afraid, and it was our desire to change the way we felt that
led to our drinking.
o We have a disease. We are not responsible for being an alcoholic, any
more than a diabetic is responsible for being diabetic. But now that we
know we are an alcoholic, we are responsible for our recovery. There are
no longer excuses, because we realize we must live the principles of the
Steps daily or we will die spiritually, emotionally and physically.
o We are working on practices things we do that we will use every day
of our lives to move us from being restless, irritable and discontented
toward keeping us sober and having serenity and peace of mind.
WRITE Do Step 4 as best you reasonably can, and that is more than good
enough.
Start writing your grudge lists, one list at a time. Who-How-What. Put down all
the people, places, and things who you resent on a list. Then list a few notes about
how you were hurt or threatened (65: 0), or where you had expectations of others, or
others had expectations of you where you were sore or were burned up. (65: 0).
And then list what part of your self was affected.
[Resentment: (L -to re-feel.) Indignantly to feel old injuries over and over again.]
[Anger: (ON -grief.) To rage.] [Grudge: (OF -to murmur.) Ill-will.]
TALK Meet with your sponsor and other members of the group. If there were
abuse issues, the task is to not deny them, and to seek outside counseling help.
PRACTICE DAILY MEDITATION / PRAYER
Step 4
Call on a higher power.
Resentment Inventory
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II WITH THE GROUP: PRACTICE- What does the Big Book say to me about
Share about experiences with resentments and how working the Steps worked on them.
Points of Focus and Reflection (Consider pp. 64: 0-66: 2) Try reading these out loud.
List assets and liabilities as to which behaviors and thought-habits work, and
which do not work, to give serenity and peace of mind in life. See page 40 this workbook.
A. The 1ST Working of the Grudge List: Who-How-What Begin with

relaxation / centering silence. Ask for help. In dealing with resentments, we set them on
paper. (64: 3)
List all the people, institutions, or principles you resent. Tip: Carry a list with you
and write down details about every time you are restless, irritated, and discontent,
every time you are annoyed, angry, or have expectations, etc.
Try the example of the Mr. Brown multi-column chart on BB page 65.
Grudge List from this example (65: 2)

Im resentful at:
The Cause:
Who? (People, Places, Things,
How? How they hurt or
Institutions, Principles, etc.)
threatened me.
Affects my:
What? What part of self
affected that I reacted to.
Fill in only the first column for now.

Make the chart as large or as small as you see fit.
1.) Who? The First Column: Who hurt or threatened me? (65: 0) Im resentful
at (65: 2)
In the first column, the grudge list (65: 1), we listed [names of] people,
institutions, or principles with whom we were angry. (64: 3)
List 100 or 300 or 1000 names of people (parents, spouse, co-workers, the people
in traffic or the checkout line, etc.), institutions (jail, IRS, etc.), or principles
(You reap what you sow. Our troubles are of our own making, etc., etc.) about
which you have resentments.
Grudge List
example (65: 2)
Mr. Brown
Mrs. Jones
My employer
My wife
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2.) How? The Second Column: How did they hurt or threaten me? (65: 2) After
you have made the list of all the people, institutions, and principles that you resent, one at
a time you are ready to begin to fill in the second column. You might consider selecting a
few representative grudges to work on now, reserving the option to eventually work
through all of them in due time.
We asked ourselves why we were angry. (64: 3)
We set opposite each name our injuries. (65: 1)
Grudge List
example (65: 2)
Mr. Brown

threatened me.
His attention to my wife.
Told my wife of my mistress.
Brown may get my job.
Now that you have made a list of everything the people, places, institutions,
principles, etc. on your list did to cause your resentment, you are ready to proceed to
the Third Column. You list what part of yourself was affected by the actions of the
person, place, institution, or principle that you resent.
3.) What? The Third Column: What part of my Self did they hurt or threaten?
In most cases it was found that our self-esteem, our pocketbooks, our ambitions, our
personal relationships (including sex) were hurt or threatened. (64: 3-65: 0)
Was it our self-esteem, our security, our ambitions, our personal, or sex relations,
which had been interfered with? (65: 1)
Opposite each selected name, and every cause (65: 2) listed, one at a time
succinctly write down in the third column what part of your self, or your instincts,
or your actors role, was affected. [See: Each person is like an actor. (60: 4)]
[Heard in a meeting: We list the three Ss of the instinct of Self:
o Security instinct material and emotional;
o Society/Self-esteem instinct fear for our very existence;
o Sex instinct relationship, companionship. (also see 12&12, p 49: 0)]
Our resentments are part of our reaction to these perceived threats.
Grudge List
example (65: 2)
Mr. Brown

threatened me.
Brown may get my job.
Step 4
What? What part of self

affected that I reacted to.
Security
Self-esteem (fear)
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B. The 2ND Working of the Grudge List: Why? Why must I change?
When we were finished we considered it [list] carefully. (65: 3) Begin with silence.
1.) Resentments build us up to a drink.
To conclude that others were wrong was as far as most of us ever got.(66: 0)
Sometimes it was remorse and then we were sore at ourselves. (66: 0) [ie: self
pity. See He becomes angry, indignant, self-pitying. (61: 1)]
It is plain that a life which includes deep resentment leads only to futility and
unhappiness. (66: 1)
To the extent that we permit these [resentments],we squander the hours.(66:
1) But with the alcoholic, whose hope is the maintenance and growth of a
spiritual experience, this business of resentment is infinitely grave. (66: 1)
For when harboring such feelings we shut ourselves off from the sunlight of the
Spirit. (66: 1)
2.) If we drink, we die.
We found that it is fatal. (66: 1)
The insanity of alcohol returns and we drink again. (66: 1)
And with us, to drink is to die. (66: 1)
3.) To live and be free of anger.
If we were to live, we had to be free of anger. (66: 2)
For alcoholics these things are poison. (66: 2)
C. What might we learn from the 1ST and 2ND working of the list?
1ST Set them on paper. (64: 3) Who-How-What?
We learned from the First Column of our grudge list that our anger and
resentment at who hurt us (or did not meet our expectations) really does hold our
mind hostage and controls us, and blocks us from the spirit of our understanding.
We learned from the Second Column that it is not who the people, institutions, or
principles are that make us angry and resentful; it is how they hurt or threatened
us. It is not so much who they are but how they ACT. Just like us, they may be
good people who do foolish things. We may begin forgiving ourselves for our
own actions and behaviors, and others for their actions, right here.
We learned from the Third Column that it is not who or even how they hurt us,
but the way we have habitually chosen to REACT to what they threaten in us
which determines whether we are upset or not. We react by habit.
2ND Considered it carefully. (65: 3) Why?
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Why must I change? Our present mental resentment habits lead to self pity, are
a waste of time and, if we do not change, we may drink and die. Our own
thought-habits lead us to drink.
Now we know why we must change. We go to the 3RD and 4TH working of the
grudge list in Session 9, when we are ready, to see where we were responsible.
Step 4
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SESSION 9
STEP 4
RESENTMENT (Part B) INVENTORY
How It Works
Resentment (Part B) Turnarounds
The 3RD and 4TH working of the grudge list: When? & Where?
They, like ourselves, were sick too. (67:0)
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ON YOUR OWN: STUDY What did Big Book authors say?
READ Read of Step 4 Resentments in the Big Book (the final 4 paragraphs, pp.
66-67)
o Turn Back In Session 9 we turnback (see 66: 3) to the list and do the 3RD
and 4TH workings of our resentment inventory.
o Turnarounds Turnarounds is a term used by some in AA to indicate the
beneficial huge emotional displacements and rearrangements (27: 4) that
happen to us as we work through the Big Book Step 4 process. Our Step 4
turnaround is returning us to our proper orientation, back from our isolation.
o We are given tools to do this through a close and inquiring reading of Step 4
in the Big Book.
WRITE
Write about one or more resentments or about your reflections on the
readings. Heard in a meeting: An expectation is a resentment waiting to happen.
TALK
PRACTICE DAILY MEDITATION / PRAYER Ask for help.
Call your sponsor and other members of the group.
about my practice of my resentment inventory?
Continue your discussions with the group about your resentments and how you are
working the Steps in order to address them.
Points of Focus and Reflection (Consider pp. 66: 3-67: 2) Cross off the bulleted points.
A. The 3RD Working of the Grudge List: When? When I am ready, what
do I do? Turned back to the list (66: 3) Begin with centering silence.
1.)
A Different Angle Lessons of the Three Columns

We turned back to the list, for it held the key to the future. (66: 3)
We were prepared to look at it from an entirely different angle. (66: 3)
We began to see that the world and its people really dominated us. (66: 3) [First
Column lesson- There is no room in my head for contact with my higher
power.]
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In that state, the wrong-doing of others, fancied or real [Second Column

lesson- It was not who, but how they hurt me that Im mad at.]
had power to actually kill. (66: 3) [Third Column lesson- I react and drink.]
2.) How Could We Escape? (66: 3) Empathy They are like us.
This was our course: We realized that the people who wronged us [First Column
names -who hurt us] were perhaps spiritually sick. (66: 4)
Though we did not like their symptoms[Second Column how they hurt us]
and the way these disturbed us, [Third Column what part of self we reacted
to]
they, like ourselves, were sick too. (67:0)
3.) Meditation / Prayer * (see C 3, below) Avoid retaliation.
We asked God [of our understanding] to help us show them the same tolerance,
pity, and patience that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend. (67: 0)
We avoid retaliation or argument. (67: 1)
B. The 4TH Working of the Grudge List: Where? Where am I

responsible? Can I describe my part?
Referring to our list again. (67: 2) Meditation / prayer to ask for help.
1.) Our Own Mistakes
Putting out of our minds the wrongs others had done, we resolutely looked for our own
mistakes. (67: 2) [Mistake: A wrong action. Error; not right; blunder; out of bounds;
missing the mark; defect; shortcoming.]
2.) Our Motives More writing in more columns.
Where had we been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking and frightened? (67: 2)
o These motives (86: 2) were the terms used by early AAs as mirror-images
of the Four Absolutes of the Oxford Group: Absolute Selflessness,
Absolute Honesty, Absolute Purity, and Absolute Love.
o In contrast, since the Big Book authors were afraid of getting drunk trying
for perfection, and to be absolutely too good too soon, they tried rather to
be less selfish, less dishonest, less self-seeking, and less fearful.
Consequently they found they were less likely to take a drink and less
likely to live on an emotional dry bender.
Opposite each Third Column instinct or role that was threatened and that you
reacted to, write down and share precisely and in detail what your motives were.
Try to keep your written responses concise with specific examples. Avoid
generalities. Expand upon "I lied," or "I was dishonest," by telling what happened;
for example: "I promised to be there and never showed up."
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Motives defined: What do these terms mean to you? (see 47: 1)
a.) Selfishness
Concern for self regardless of others.
Selfishness: ego = me. Self-absorption: "It's all about me!" Regard for our own
interest or happiness to the disregard of the well-being of others. Not aware of
others and their needs. Instinctively putting our own needs first. A false sense of a
separate self, etc.
o Habitual selfishness: We could not see others or our real place in the
universe. [Optional: Our total inability to form a true partnership with
another human being. 12&12, 53: 1]
o Turnaround: We begin to see that we can change to our true nature so
that ultimately the best care of ourselves lies in our unselfish regard for the
concern of the whole, that care for others includes us as well. Care of our
selves becomes care of our soul, and is known to be care of all.
b.) Dishonesty
A tendency to deceit, to conceal our true character.
Dishonest: Fraudulent, not what purported. The reverse of honesty; lack of
probity or integrity; disposition to deceive, defraud, or steal; thievishness; theft,
fraud. Not corresponding to fact. Trying to be people pleasers in order to gain
approval from other people. Believing the lies our mind tells us, etc.
o Habitual dishonesty: We lost perspective. We often did not even know we
were lying because we had a false way of seeing reality. D-E-N-I-A-L
o Turnaround: We begin to see that we can change to our true nature to
be who we truly are, free from concealment, to be a sincere person acting
in direct, frank, open ways. We are good and caring people.
c.) Self-seeking, inconsiderate
Concern for self over (or under) others.
Self-seeking: The seeking after our own welfare before that of others, prosecution
of selfish ends. To put ourselves either above or below others. Seeing ourselves as
better or worse than others. Lacking perspective, etc
o Inconsiderate: Thoughtless, negligent, rash, incautious, heedless.
o Habitual self-seeking: As a matter of course we tended to put our needs
first, including our needs to be first, to be last, to be liked, to be feared,
and to be pitied. [Top of the heap, or to hide underneath it. 12&12, 53: 1]
o Turnaround: We begin to see that we can change from self-seeking to
our true nature to be thoughtful and considerate and in partnership with
others and to act with loving compassion toward ourselves and others.
d.) Fear
Dread. Self-reliance failed us. (68: 1)
Fear: To feel alarmed or uneasy. The emotion of pain or uneasiness caused by the
sense of impending danger. Apprehension of some future evil. [Fear that we
would lose something we already possessed or would fail to get something we
wanted. 12&12, 76: 2], or be found out for who we are. To lose heart, etc.
o Habitual fear: Always anticipating ambush. Our apprehension of
impending danger, our anxiety, was the existential basis for our
selfishness, our dishonesty and self-seeking, and our drinking.
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o Turnaround: We begin to see that we can change to our true nature to
be free of alarm and apprehension, free of being restless, irritable and
discontented, and to embrace a feeling of goodwill toward all creation,
including us. We can act with loving compassion for others and ourselves.
o [Heard in a meeting: Fear is to lose heart. Courage is to take heart. Love
is to open one's heart. Trust is to rely on heart. Faith is trust in heart.]
3.) Our Faults Where were we out of bounds in this game of life?
a.) The Inventory is ours.
Though a situation had not been entirely our fault
we tried to disregard the other person involved entirely. (67: 2)
Where were we to blame? (67: 2) Did we step on their toes? (See 62: 1) [Blame:
Responsibility for fault or error, or being not right. Blundering; out of bounds;
missing the mark; defects, shortcomings.]
Our reactions out of bounds? The inventory was ours, not the other man's. (67: 2)
b.) List our faults. [See motives 86: 2]

When we saw our faults, we listed them. (67: 2) [Fault: A seismic gap; a conflict
between deeply held values; or instincts in collision, ie: We want to help others,
but also we want our own way. Out of bounds; missing the mark; shortcomings.]
We placed them before us in black and white. (67: 2) Write them down.
Disregarding everyone and everything else involved, look at each angry reaction
situation and see what, if anything, we did to cause each event, or to make it
worse, or to react to it and hence create more troubles for ourselves or others.
We admitted our wrongs honestly (67: 2) [Wrong: Twisted way of thinking and
acting. Error; not right; blunder; out of bounds; missing the mark; shortcomings.]
C. Our Turnarounds by four workings of the Grudge List. Willing?

Am I willing to set it straight?
1.) Willing. And were willing to set these matters straight. (67: 2) [Straight: Not
crooked. Honest; by the rules; right; in bounds. Selfless, honest, loving, pure motives.]
2.) Turnarounds In order to save our own lives, we are turning from our habitual
point of view. We stood at the turning point. (59: 1) Ideas, emotions, and attitudes which
were once the guiding forces of the lives of these men are suddenly cast to one side, and a
completely new set of conceptions and motives begin to dominate them. (27:4) We
become willing to do things differently. We are willing to change. We turn around.
3.) * (A-3) Relax / Meditate / Pray We meditate / pray for the benefit of all. Many
in AA use such a composite prayer on behalf of others and for themselves. [Optional:
God of my understanding, bless _______ (including myself), for she/he is a sick person,
and but by your grace, there go I. I pray for their health, happiness and prosperity. I pray I
may show them the patience, kindliness and love I would want to be shown or that I
would show a sick friend. God save me from being hurt, threatened, insulted, or angry.
How may I help them? May thy will, not mine, be done. (See 67: 0; 552: 1)]
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STEP 4 Resentment Grudge List (65: 1) Inventory Forms
Make multiple copies or expand these templates into your own notebook.
Who? Who hurt or threatened me? Im resentful at (65: 2)
Work down the list from top to bottom, just writing the names at this time. Ignore the
Second and Third columns for now. Use multiple pages.
Person
18.
Institution
Principle I resent
19.
1.
20.
2.
21.
3.
22.
4.
23.
5.
24.
6.
25.
7.
26.
8.
27.
9.
28.
10.
29.
11.
30.
12.
31.
13.
32.
14.
33.
15.
34.
16.
35.
17.
36.
Etc., etc.
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Step 4- Resentment- Fill in Second and Third Columns
1. Who? First Column name: Im Resentful At (65: 2)
Who hurt or threatened or interfered with me? Inventory one name at a time.
2. How? Second Column: The Cause (65: 2)
How did they hurt or threaten or interfere with me?
Opposite each selected name we write down in four or five words how they hurt us that
caused our anger and resentment. We write just in this second column for now.
3. What? Third Column: Affects My (65: 2)
What instincts or parts of my Self did they hurt or threaten and that I reacted to?
Opposite each selected name, and every cause listed, we succinctly write down in the
third column what part of self (security, society/self-esteem, sex or relationships, etc.), or
instinct (64: 3-65: 1), or actors role or character (60: 4) was hurt or threatened or in play.
Our resentments are part of our reaction to this perceived threat.
1. First Column:
Im resentful at:
Who? Who resent?
2. Second Column:
The cause:
How? The cause?
3. Third Column:
Affects my:
What? Part of self?
.
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STEP 4 Resentment Turnarounds
For every item in the Third Column we ask, Where am I responsible?
Make multiple copies or expand in your notebook.
For every Third Column situation or event, and reaction, fill in resentment turnarounds.
Where am I responsible? We write down and share precisely and in detail what our
motives were. [See motives 86: 2]
Putting out of our minds the wrongs others had done, [Second Column] we
resolutely looked for our own mistakes. (67: 2)
Where had we been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking and frightened? (67: 2)
.
Where was I selfish? (67: 2) [Concern for self regardless of others. Self-absorbed.]
Where was I dishonest? (67: 2) [A tendency to deceit, conceal our true character, lack
perspective. We believed our own lies.]
Where was I self-seeking (67: 2) or inconsiderate? (69: 1) [Concern for self over or
under others.]
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Where was I frightened? (67: 2) [Habitual anxiety: Afraid of losing something we have,
not getting something we want, or of being found out for who we are.]
.
Write our faults. The inventory was ours, not the other man's. (67: 2) When we saw our
faults we listed them. We placed them [faults] before us in black and white. (67: 2)
Where was I at fault? (67: 2) [A seismic gap between our own and others deeply held
values or our own instincts in collision. Out of bounds? Miss the mark?]
(Why do we act this way? Because.see p. 338)
.
Willing to set matters straight. Were willing to set these matters straight. (67: 2)
Step 4 Resentment Turnaround Meditation / Prayer.
[Optional: God bless _____________(including myself), for they are a sick person, and
but by your grace, there go I. I pray for their health, happiness, and prosperity. I pray I
may show them the patience, tolerance, kindliness and love I would want to be shown or
that I would show a sick friend. God save me from being hurt, threatened, insulted or
angry. How may I help them? May thy will, not mine be done. (See 67: 0; 552: 1)]
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Step 4
FEAR
SESSION 10
FEAR INVENTORY
STEP 4
How It Works
Our fears. (68: 1)
But did not we, ourselves, set the ball rolling? (67: 3)
I
ON YOUR OWN: STUDY- What did the Big Book authors say?
READ Read Chapter 5, How It Works, on the fear inventory. (67-68)
o We want to get rid of the fear and resentment that control our thinking so a
power greater than any one of us can direct our thinking instead.
o Our fears come from our early childhood ideas, emotions, and attitudes (27:
4) that we developed in reaction to ancient fancied or real (66: 3) threats to
our basic instincts of life. Without awareness, our old thoughts and fears may
become todays actions.
o [Fear: (OE- sudden danger.) Dread, expectation of harm, or ambush; dismay,
panic.]
o Heard in a meeting: Anxiety is the existential basis of our addiction to
alcohol.
WRITE Write daily about your fears and {#1 #2 #3} the three fear questions.
TALK Call your sponsor and other members of the group to discuss fear.
PRACTICE DAILY MEDITATION / PRAYER Call on a higher power.
II WITH THE GROUP: PRACTICE- What does the Big Book say to me about
my practice of my fear inventory?
What are the underlying fears we try to avoid by using alcohol?
Points of Focus and Reflection. (Consider pp. 67: 3-68: 3)
A. Who-How-What The word fear. (67: 3) We may treat fear, or any other problem,
as we do resentments. (See 69: 3) Begin with relaxation / centering silence.
Use the same page 65 three-column format to take an inventory of your fears.
Fear Inventory
Who: People, institutions, and
principles that cause me fear.
#1 When did I first have this
fear?
How? How have they

frightened me?
#2 Why do I have this fear?
What? What part of my self

has been affected and how
have I reacted to it?
1.) First Column: Who? Who threatened me? 1st Fear Question {#1}When did
I first have this fear? (See 68: 1)
We reviewed our fears thoroughly. We put them on paper, even though we had no
resentment in connection with them. (68: 1) List your fears and the first time you had
them. We find that we are fearful of everything and everyone.
Fear Inventory
Who: People that cause me fear.
#1 When did I first have this
fear?
Mr. Brown
2.) Second Column: How? How did they threaten me? 2nd Fear Question:
{#2}Why do I have this fear? (See 68: 1) How did self-reliance fail me?
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Fear Inventory
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FEAR
We asked ourselves why we had them. (68: 1) We literally ask over and
over and over for each circumstance and every response:
Why do I have this fear?
Why do I fear that?
And the reason I fear that?etc. (Our very being feels threatened.)
Wasn't it because self-reliance failed us? (68:1)
Fear Inventory
Who: People, that cause
me fear. #1 When did I
first have this fear?
Mr. Brown
How? How have they

frightened me?
#2 Why do I have this
fear?
Told my wife of my
mistress.
3.) Third Column What? What part of my life instinct was hurt or threatened, and
how did I react to it?
Which of our instinctive social/self-esteem and security and sexual needs, desires
and actors roles were threatened and at play in our fear reactions? [12&12, 49: 0]
Fear Inventory
Who: People that cause me
fear. #1 When did I first have
this fear?
Mr. Brown
How? How have they

frightened me?
#2 Why do I have this fear?
Told my wife of my mistress.
What? What part of self has

been affected and how have I
reacted to it?
Self-esteem (fear) Sex relations
Personal relationship
B. We Turned Back to the List. (66: 3) Meditation / Prayer * Ask for help.
Trust Higher Power rather that Self-Reliance.
o 3rd Fear Question: {#3}May I share feelings and experiences of courage
about trusting and relying on my higher power, as found through the
practice of this program? (See 68: 2)
o [Courage: (heart, inner strength) acting in the face of fear.]
o We trust infinite God [of our understanding] rather than our finite selves. (68:
2) We let [our higher power] demonstrate, through us, what [our higher
power] can do. (68: 3) [See also 49: 1; 62: 3] What does this mean? Is this
what the program of action is all about?
Our Own Mistakes (67: 2) Where had we been Selfish, Dishonest, Self-seeking
or Inconsiderate? (67: 2; 69: 1) Where am I responsible?
o We write precisely and in detail about our reactions to fear situations and
Third Column threatened instincts.
When We Saw Our Faults We Listed Them. (67: 2) [See motives 86: 2]
o But did not we, ourselves, set the ball rolling? (67: 3) What did I do? The
effects of our self-centered fear.
C. Step 4 Fear Turnaround Willing to change * Relax Meditation / Prayer
[Optional: God of my understanding, I pray that my fear be removed and my
attention directed to being who you would have me be today. May thy will, not
mine, be done. (See 68: 3)]
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Fear Inventory
FEAR
STEP 4
Fear Inventory Form
The Big Book authors indicate that the best way to deal with our fears is to do
exactly what we did with resentments: We write them down; we consider them carefully;
we look at what part we played in creating them or in reacting to them; we list what our
motives were in playing that part. (See 69: 3) Expand on this list as desired. Use multiple
pages.
The word fear somehow touches about every aspect of our lives. It set in
motion trains of circumstances which brought us misfortune we felt we didn't deserve.
(67: 3)
.
Person
16.
Institution
Principle I fear.
17.
{#1}When did I first have this fear? (See 68: 1)
1.
18.
2.
19.
3.
20.
4.
21.
5.
22.
6.
23.
7.
24.
8.
25.
9.
26.
10.
27.
11.
28.
12.
29.
13.
30
14.
31.
15.
32.
Etc., etc.
Step 4
Fear Inventory
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FEAR
Step 4-Fears Fill in Second and Third Columns
Make multiple copies or expand these templates into your own notebook
1. First Column: Who threatened me? 1st Fear question: {#1}When did I first
have this fear? (See 68: 1) Inventory one fear at a time.
2. Second Column: How did they threaten me? 2nd Fear question:
{#2}Why do I have this fear? We asked ourselves why we had them. (68: 1)
We literally ask over and over and over for each circumstance and every response,
Why do I have this fear? And why do I fear that? And what is the reason I
fear that? Etc., etc. We fear for our very existence. Wasn't it because selfreliance failed us? (68: 1) We write just in this second column for now.
3. Third Column: What life instincts threatened?
Which of our actors roles (60: 4) or instinctive social/self-esteem and security and sexual
needs and desires were threatened and at play in our reactions? Our self-esteem, our
pocketbooks, our ambitions our security our personal or sex relationswere
hurtthreatened[or] had been interfered with. (64: 3 - 65: 0,1) [and we reacted!]
First Column: Who?
Fears- {#1}When did I
first have this fear? (68:
1)
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Second Column: How?

Cause- {#2}Why do I
have this fear? And that
one? Etc., etc.
Step 4
Third Column: What?

Affects my- I reacted to
threats to these instincts.
Fear Inventory
FEAR
STEP 4 Fear Turnarounds
For every Third Column situation and our fear reaction, we fill in our
turnarounds.
Where am I responsible? But did not we, ourselves, set the ball rolling? (67: 3)
Write our Motives. Referring to our list again. Putting out of our minds the wrongs
others had done, we resolutely looked for our own mistakes. Where had we been selfish,
dishonest, self-seeking and frightened? (67: 2)
We write down and share precisely and in detail what our motives were. [motives 86: 2]
.
Where was I selfish? (67: 2) [Concern for self regardless of others. Self-absorbed.]
Where was I dishonest? (67: 2) [A tendency to deceit, conceal our true character, lack
perspective. We believed our own lies.]
Where was I self-seeking (67: 2) or inconsiderate? (69: 1) [Concern for self over or
under others.]
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Step 4
Fear Inventory
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FEAR
.
Write our faults.
The inventory was ours, not the other man's. When we saw our faults we listed
them. We placed them [faults] before us in black and white. (67: 2)
Where was I at fault? (67: 2) [A seismic gap between our own or others deeply held
values or our own instincts in collision. Out of bounds? Miss the mark?]
.
Willing to change.
Step 4 Fear Turnaround Meditation / Prayer.
3rd Fear question: {#3}May I share my feelings and experiences about trusting and
relying on the higher power of my understanding? (See 68: 2, 3)
[Optional: God of my understanding, I pray that you remove my fear and direct my
attention to being who you would have me be today. May thy will, not mine, be done.
(See 68: 3)]
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STEP 4
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How It Works
Sex conduct. (69: 0)

I
SEX INVENTORY
Relationships (Including Sex) (64-65)
Whom had we hurt? (69: 1)
READ Read about the relationship / sex conduct inventory (7 paragraphs BB
pp. 68 70). The inventory will help you note certain old ideas and behaviors that
do not work to give peace of mind, and exchange them for others that work better.
WRITE Write about how your behavior hurt others and yourself. Such as:
o Have my relationship or sexual behaviors been based in selfishness or love?
o Have I had difficulties with trust, or being a partner, and with making
commitments?
o Have I used sex or other behaviors to fill the spiritual void inside myself?
TALK Talk about this topic with your sponsor and other group members.
PRACTICE DAILY RELAXATION MEDITATION / PRAYER
about my conduct in relationships, sexual and otherwise?
Points of Focus and Reflection (Consider pp. 68: 4-70: 2)
A. Who-How-What We Make a List: Now about sex. (68: 4) We got this all down on
paper and looked at it. (69: 1) We all have sex problems. Wed hardly be human if we
didnt. (69: 0)
Relaxation Meditation / prayer: ask for help.
Use the same three-column format to take an inventory of your relationship / sex
behavior. (See 69: 3)
1.) First Column: Who? Who have I hurt? (See 69: 1)
We reviewed our own conduct over the years past. (69: 1) List all the people,
institutions and principles you have caused trouble for (including yourself)
through your sexual conduct and relationship behaviors. [Also Harm we have
done ourselves, 12&12, (79: 3)]
One act of sexual and relationship misconduct can hurt many different people.
Relationship / Sex Inventory as in this example (65: 2)
Who have I hurt?
My wife
My mistress
2.) Second Column: How? How have I hurt them?

We can hurt someone in many, many ways. These include by having or not
having sex with them, by creating jealousy and flirting with someone else, or by
being lost in fantasies and obsessions about our hidden relationship / sexual
desires.
Who have I hurt?
How did I hurt them?
My wife-My mistress. Overbearing
My mistress-
-Unreasonable. Unjust
Step 4
Relationship / Sex Inventory
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SEX
3.) Third Column: What? What part of my Self was affected?
What did your self-willfulness lead to?
We were most often seeking something more than simply sex. Were we trying to
feel proud, or raise our self-esteem, or fulfill our instincts or desires for emotional
security, or material security? What about our actors roles? (60: 4)
Who have I hurt?
How did I hurt them?
My wife-
-My mistress. Overbearing
My mistress-
-Unreasonable. Unjust
What part of my Self was

affected and led me to act?
Self esteem (fear)
Sex relations Security
Personal relationships
B. Nine Relationship Questions [1 9] * Where am I responsible? [motives 86: 2]

Motives [1]Where had we been selfish,
[2]dishonest, or
[3]inconsiderate [self-seeking]? (69: 1)
[4]Whom had we hurt? (69: 1) [See First Column]
Feelings Created [5]Did we unjustifiably arouse jealousy,
[6]suspicion or
[7]bitterness? (69: 1)
[8] Fault Where were we at fault . (69: 1) [Out of bounds? Miss the mark?]
What Should We Have Done? [9]What should we have done instead? (69: 1)
In this way we tried to shape a sane and sound ideal for our future [relationship and] sex
life. (69: 2) Whatever our ideal turns out to be, we must be willing to grow toward it. [69:
3]
C. Step 4 Relationship/Sex Turnaround
Willing to change
We subjected each relation to this test was it selfish or not? (69: 2)
We must be willing to make amends where we have done harm. (69: 3)
Counsel with persons is often desirable... (69-70)
If sex is very troublesome, we throw ourselves the harder into helping others. This
takes us out of ourselves. It quiets the imperious urge. (70: 2)
* Three Meditations / Prayers. We act as agents of the higher power of our

understanding. (49: 1; 62: 3; 68: 2, 3)
o We ask God: We asked God[of our understanding] to mold our ideals and
help us to live up to them. (69: 2)
o We let God. We let God be the final judge. (70: 0)
o We relax meditate / pray: In meditation, we ask God what we should do
about each specific matter. (69: 3) We earnestly pray for the right ideal, for
guidance in each questionable situation, for sanity, and for the strength to do
the right thing. (70: 2)
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Step 4
SEX
STEP 4 Relationship / Sex (pp. 64 65) Inventory Forms
Who? Whom had we hurt? (69: 1)
We reviewed our own conduct over the years past. (69: 1) List all the people,
institutions, and principles we have caused trouble for through our sexual conduct and
relationship behaviors. Work down our list from top to bottom, just writing names for
now. Ignore the Second and Third columns for the time being.
Person
16.
Institution
Principle I hurt
17.
1.
18.
2.
19.
3.
20.
4.
21.
5.
22.
6.
23.
7.
24.
8.
25.
9.
26.
10.
27.
11.
28.
12.
29.
13.
30
14.
31.
15.
32.
Etc, etc.
Step 4
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SEX
Step 4- Inventory Relationships (including Sex) (64-65)
Fill in Second and Third Columns
1, First Column: Who? Who did I hurt? (See 69: 1)
Inventory one name at a time.
2. Second column: How? How did I hurt them?
We reviewed our own conduct. (69: 1) We list all the ways we have hurt others by our
conduct. This includes how we hurt someone by having or not having sex with them, or
by having sex with someone other than them, or by not being present with them and for
them when we are lost in fantasies, etc. We write just in this second column for now.
3. Third Column: What? What part of self affected?
What instinct or part of my self, which of my roles, led to my conduct? Our self-esteem,
our pocketbooks, our ambitionsour securityour personal or sex relations...,[etc.] (64:
3-65: 0,1) We were most often seeking something more than simply sex.
First Column: Who?
Name: Who I hurt.
Second Column: How?

Cause: How I hurt them.
Third Column: What?

What part of myself led
me to do what I did.
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SEX
Relationship and Sex Turnarounds
For every Second Column and Third Column situation and event, fill in sex and
relationship turnarounds.
The nine sex and relationship questions [1 9]
We reviewed our own conduct over the years past. Where had we been selfish, dishonest,
or inconsiderate? Whom had we hurt? Did we unjustifiably arouse jealousy, suspicion or
bitterness? Where were we at fault, what should we have done instead? We got this all
down on paper and looked at it. (69: 1) [See motives 86: 2]
.
[1] Where was I selfish? (67: 2) [Concern for self regardless of others. Self-absorbed.]
[2] Where was I dishonest? (67: 2) [A tendency to deceit, conceal our true character,
lack perspective. We believed our own lies.]
[3] Where was I self-seeking (67: 2) or inconsiderate? (69: 1)? [Concern for self over
or under others.]
[4] Whom did I hurt? (69: 1) [To knock, strike, upset, offend.] (See First Column)
[5] Where did I arouse jealousy? (69: 1) [Resentment, envy, and fear of being
displaced in ones affections.]
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SEX
[6] Where did I arouse suspicion? (69: 1) [Expectation or dread of something wrong.]
[7] Where did I arouse bitterness? (69: 1) [Animosity. Grievous to the mind, etc.]
[8] Where was I at fault? (67: 2) [A seismic gap between our own deeply held values or
our own instincts in collision. Out of bounds? Miss the mark?]
[9] What could I have done instead? What should we have done instead? (69: 1)
Was I selfish? We subjected each relation to this test - was it selfish or not? (69: 2)
Sane and sound ideals for a future sex / relationship life: We tried to shape a sane and
sound ideal for our future sex life. (69: 2)
Am I willing to grow toward these ideals? Whatever our ideal turns out to be, we must
be willing to grow toward it. (69: 3)
People with whom I will take counsel on sex / relationship matters: Counsel with
persons is often desirable... (70: 0)
............................................................................................................................
Willing to change.
Step 4 Relationship / Sex Turnaround Meditations/Prayers
We ask God: We asked God [of our understanding] to mold our ideals and help
us to live up to them. (69: 2)
We let God: We let God [of our understanding] be the final judge. (70: 0)
We relax meditate / pray: In meditation, we ask God [of our understanding]
what we should do about each specific matter. (69: 3) We earnestly pray for the
right ideal, for guidance in each questionable situation, for sanity, and for the
strength to do the right thing. (70: 2)
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SESSION 12
STEP 4
REVIEW
How It Works REVIEW
Grudge List One Group Members Pocket Treatment

WRITE YOUR OWN!
I read Step 4, pp. 64-71 in Alcoholics Anonymous to examine three of my blocks to my higher power:
resentment, fear, and the harms done in my relationships / sex conduct. I list my assets too. We set
them on paper. (64: 3) I begin and end writing times with meditation / prayer. With practice, this
inventory method takes me but a moment. My reasonable best is good enough.
1.)
1ST Working of Grudge List (64: 3-65: 2): WHO-HOW-WHAT?

A. First Column: WHO? Who hurt or threatened me? (64: 3)
I list the names of people, places, and things that cause me to be angry, irritable,
unreasonable, and discontented. I put them all down. At this time I do not say what they did,
or why they bother me. I just make the list of who did it.
First Column lesson: My head is full of resentments. There is no room for conscious contact
with my higher power.
Grudge List (See example on page 65 of Big Book.)

First Column: Who?
Who hurt or threatened me?
Mr. Brown
B. Second Column: HOW? How have they hurt or threatened me? (65: 0)
After I am done with the list of names of people, places, and things that make me irritable,
unreasonable, and discontent, I am ready to fill in the Second Column. For each First Column
name, I state simply how they hurt me, what happened, what they (or I) did that makes me
feel the way I do.
Second Column lesson: It is less who the person is and more how his/her behavior made me
angry. May I begin forgiveness of myself and others here?
Grudge List
First Column: Who?
Who hurt or threatened me?
Mr. Brown
Second Column: How? How

did they hurt me?
May get my job.
C. Third Column: WHAT? What part of my Self was hurt or threatened and that I reacted
to? (64: 3, 65: 1)
Now for each event in the Second Column, I write down in the Third Column what instincts of
my Self were hurt or threatened by the person, place, or thing. I consider the three Ss of
Self: Security (material and emotional), Society/Self-esteem (fear for very existence), Sex
(and relationship, companionship) instincts. [See 12&12, p. 49: 0] Also the actors roles I
play. How do my own negative feelings and reactions, my own worn out defenses, affect me?
Third Column lesson: I discover that what leads me to a drink is not who or how they hurt me,
but the way I RE-ACT to what part of myself that was threatened. My own reactions and my
own thought-habits lead me to drink.
Grudge List
First Column: Who? Who
Hurt or Threatened Me?
Second Column: How? How

have they hurt me?
Mr. Brown
May get my job.
Step 4
Third Column: What? What

part of my Self was affected
and that I reacted to?
Self-esteem (fear)
Security
Review
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STEP 4
REVIEW
2.)
2ND Working of Grudge List (65: 3-66: 2): WHY? Why must I change? Resentment is a
waste of time. My anger leads to indignation and self-pity. I will drink again if I think this way. If I
drink I will die spiritually, mentally, and physically.
3RD Working of Grudge List (66: 3-67: 1): WHEN? When I am ready, what do I do?
3.)
They, like ourselves, were sick too. We asked God to help us. We avoid retaliation. (67: 0,1)
Relaxation
Meditation / prayer. *
4TH Working of Grudge List (67: 2): WHERE? Where am I responsible?
4.)
Disregard the
other person involved entirely. (67: 2)
Now that I have completed the three column chart, I ask myself: What have I done to cause
myself to feel this way? When have I done this before?
What did I do in my conduct in relationship to this person, place, or thing to cause me to feel
restless, irritable and discontented? (xxviii: 4) Do I have unreasonable expectations? Have
I been acting out of fear? What am I afraid of? Do my own reactions lead me to be hurt and
to hurt others? How old is my behavior?
o Other Columns Lessons: What is my part? [See motives 86: 2]
Where was I selfish (self-absorbed)?
Where was I dishonest (believing my own lies, or not genuine)?
Where was I self-seeking (wanting to control or be controlled by someone

else)? (67: 2)
Where was I frightened (where did self-reliance fail me)? (68 :1)
Where was I at fault (out of bounds, or missing the mark)?
What could I have done instead? (69: 1,3)

Answers to these questions will help me find my character defects, shortcomings, defenses,
and the exact nature of our wrongs that I will address in Step 5 (59: 2). [We learned that if
we were seriously disturbed, our first need was to quiet that disturbance, regardless of
who or what we thought caused it. 12&12, 47: 2]
[AND: I may write about how these old worn out defenses blocked me from growing up and
growing spiritually false pride, perfectionism, being phony, selfishness, impatience, self-pity,
resentments, intolerance, alibis, dishonest thinking, putting things off, guilt and shame, fear,
taking things for granted, etc., etc.]
STEP 4 TURNAROUNDS WILLING to change

* MEDITATION / PRAYER:
Anger: The one that hurt or threatened me is also a sick person. I deeply wish for them (and
me) the same serenity and peace of mind that I would have for myself. God, of my
understanding, save me from being hurt, threatened, insulted, or angry. How may I help them?
(67: 0; 552: 1) (I say this for myself too)
Fear: I pray that my fear be removed and my attention directed to being who you would have
me be today. May thy will, not mine, be done. (68: 3)
Relationship/Sex: We earnestly pray for the right ideal, for guidance in each questionable
situation, for sanity, and for the strength to do the right thing.(70: 2)
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Willing to change: Today I may meditate, go to a meeting, talk with my sponsor so I am more
open to my higher power and less restless, irritable and discontent. Today I do not have to be
hurt or to hurt myself, and I do not have to drink.
Step 4
Review
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Steps 5 12
Focus
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PART III
SESSIONS 13 - 20
STEPS 5 12
STEP 5
We can be alone at perfect peace and ease. We begin to feel the
nearness of our Creator. (75: 2)
We thank God [of our understanding] from the bottom of our heart that we
know Him better. (75: 3)
STEP 6
We ask God [of our understanding] to help us be willing. (76: 1)
STEP 7
My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me, good and
bad. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character
which stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my fellows. Grant me
strength, as I go out from here, to do your bidding. Amen. (76: 2)
STEP 8
If we havent the will to do this, we ask until it comes. (76: 3)
STEP 9
Our real purpose is to fit ourselves to be of maximum service to God [of
our understanding] and to the people about us. (77: 0)
Reminding ourselves that we have decided to go to any lengths to find a
spiritual experience, we ask that we be given strength and direction to do
the right thing, no matter what the personal consequences may be. (79: 1)
Asking each morning in meditation that our Creator show us the way of
patience, tolerance, kindliness and love. (83: 1)
The spiritual life is not a theory. We have to live it. (83: 2)
Steps 5 12
Focus
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STEP 10
Every day is a day when we must carry the vision of God [of our
understanding]s will into all of our activities.
How can I best serve Thee Thy will (not mine) be done. (85: 1)
STEP 11
We ask God [of our understanding]s forgiveness and inquire what
corrective measures should be taken. (86: 1)
We ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced
from self-pity, dishonest or self seeking motives. (86: 2)
We ask God for inspiration. (86: 3)
Period of meditationprayer that we be shown all through the day what
our next step is to be, that we be given whatever we need to take care of
such problems. We ask especially for freedom from self-will. (87: 1)
Thy will be done. (88: 0)
[Optional: Lord, make me a channel of thy peacethat where there is
hatred, I may bring lovethat where there is wrong, I may bring the spirit
of forgivenessthat where there is discord, I may bring harmonythat
where there is error, I may bring truththat where there is doubt, I may
bring faiththat where there is despair, I may bring hopethat where
there are shadows, I may bring lightthat where there is sadness, I may
bring joy. Lord, grant that I may seek rather to comfort than to be
comfortedto understand, than to be understoodto love, than to be
loved. For it is by self-forgetting that one finds. It is by forgiving that one
is forgiven. It is by dying that one awakens to Eternal Life. Amen. 12&12
99: 3]
STEP 12
The truth that faith alone is insufficient. To be vital, faith must be
accompanied by self sacrifice and unselfish, constructive action. (93: 2)
Lay out the kit of spiritual tools. (95: 1) If he is to find God [of ones
understanding] the desire must come from within. (95: 3)
We have no monopoly on God; we merely have an approach that worked
with us. (95: 4)
Helping others(97: 1) Trust in God and clean house. (98: 2)
We put ourselves in God [of our understanding]s hands. (100: 1)
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PART III
NOTES ON STEPS 5 - 12
Steps 5 8: We are building an arch through which we shall
walkfreeat last. Is our work solid so far? (75: 3)
STEP 5
My schoolmate visited me and I fully acquainted him with my problems and
deficiencies. (Bills Story, 13: 3)
We lied to others and to ourselves for years about who we were and what we did.
Now, we turn and speak straight, in true perspective, to another person. We discuss our
strengths and limitations without judgment or blame. We let it all out; we get real. We
share the thoughts, actions, and motives in our lives that have worked and have not
worked to make us happy, joyous, and free.
We show love and respect for ourselves when we ask others to hear our Fifth
Step. As we share our inventory, we become clearer about the exact nature of our old
worn out defenses, our wrongs, our defects and shortcomings. Now, we focus on what is
behind the patterns of our alcoholism, and the reasons why we acted out in the ways we
did. Step 5 calls for courage and a sense of trust in the process of recovery. With courage,
we tell the truth about who we are then, with trust, we listen to the response. Our lonely
existence of shame is replaced by humility and self acceptance.
We ourselves are the ones to decide if we have now worked the first five Steps
satisfactorily. (76: 0) The measure is our own peace of mind.
STEP 6
Ibecame willing . (Bills Story, 13: 3)
Heard in a meeting: Step 6: Allow me to NOT do what I want to do. What
am I willing to give up? Am I ready for change?
We become willing to give up our bondage of self-absorption.
We become convinced that we are powerless over our addiction to alcoholic
thoughts and behaviors, and that our lives and minds are unmanageable. When we try to
manage life, life becomes unmanageable. Our compulsive physical cravings, our
Steps 5 12
Notes
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emotional obsessions, and our spiritual void lead us to be restless, irritable, and
discontented. These all motivate us to react to life events with selfishness, dishonesty,
self-seeking, and fear.
We are worn out.
We are dishonest when we do not see the reality of what is unfolding before us in
true perspective and proportion. We are selfish and self-seeking in that our own selfcentered desire, disinterest, or disgust are the criteria by which we judge and react to life.
[12 & 12, 92: 3 93: 0] We are fearful as we anticipate the sense of loss that will happen
if we do not get what we desire, or lose what we have, or we are found out for who we
are and what we have done. [12 & 12, 76: 2]
We are exhausted.
And we drink. Or we act and think as though we have been drinking, on an
emotional dry bender. Now we are exhausted with our way, we are worn out by our
habitual choices; we are sick and tired of the consequences of doing things our way. Our
way did not work. (52: 3) In Step 6, when these things become objectionable to us, we
are ready to give them up. This is a gift of desperation. When we could not spot or note
our thought-habits and behaviors, we could not get rid of them. Today, when we can see
and name them, we can renounce them, turn them over and change.
STEP 7
to have my new found Friend take them away, root and branch. (Bills Story,
13: 3)
Heard in a meeting: Step 7: Allow me to DO what I do not want to do. What am I
going to do instead? Will I ask for help to make these changes?"
We may think of a shortcoming as falling short of our potential. In Step 7 we are
going to practice new things in our lives, and a personality change sufficient to bring
about recovery, a conversion, begins to take place. (567: 1) We are asking for help and
strength from the power that we discover within us, through the discipline of the practice
of working this program as understood by the fellowship of Alcoholics Anonymous.
While we cannot - nor should not - deny our instincts, we are asking the higher power of
our understanding to remove us from that habitual and insatiable demand for the
satisfaction of our instincts beyond our true needs. [Optional: 12&12, 71: 1]
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Notes
The effort, or the act of working this Step, is in the asking. We are asking for help
to have wisdom and clarity, to be made strong. How we go about asking through
prayer, through meditation or other spiritual practices, or by thinking it over is up to us.
We are not going to ask just once, we will ask again and again throughout our lifetimes
until in a moment of grace we find strength to go on without drinking or using. We need
spiritual strength to go forth into the world and take those actions that are consistent with,
and even demanded by, the understanding we have from our quiet time alone with our
higher power. We take refuge in and cooperate with this inner knowing in the process
of letting go, of opening ourselves to change. We have come to see that we are a part of,
rather than apart from, this universal family. This true perspective of humility gives us
peace of mind. [12 & 12, 48: 0; 58: 1; 72: 2]
STEP 8
We made a list of people I had hurt or toward whom I felt resentment. (Bills
Story, 13: 3)
Steps 8 and 9 are powerful tools to address guilt and shame.
Step 8 is the beginning of a process of healing relationships. We do not just look
at ourselves; we must actually look at our roles in relation to others. This takes hard work
and effort. We know who we have really harmed. These disturbances live on inside of us
until we find a way to honor our feelings. Step 8 is a way out of remorse and regret. We
do not let a long list distract us from the most difficult and painful relationships and the
true amends we have to make.
With our sponsor, we discuss each person on our list and the potential amends we
might make. We will not have to avoid anyone. We will not have to be afraid of being
found out for some neglected responsibility. Instead of being servile or scraping, of
feeling shame and guilt or of feeling forever less than, now as Gods people we stand on
our feet; we dont crawl before anyone. (83: 3) With a sense of inclusion comes a sense
of acceptance. We grow in the program to be true companions with others and ourselves.
Steps 5 12
Notes
85
Steps 9 12: Heard in a meeting:

We practice Steps 9, 10, 11 and 12 on a daily basis.
STEP 9
I expressed my entire willingness to approach these individuals, admitting my
wrong. Never was I to be critical of them. I was to right all such matters to the utmost of
my ability. (Bills Story, 13:3)
Heard in a meeting: To make an amend = make an apology + change behavior.
The goal is to directly make amends to those we have harmed, not excusing our
behavior, blaming others, trying to prove something, or arguing about those events. This
is not a secret way to show that we are right and they are wrong. We set things straight.
[Optional: Step 9 in the 12 & 12 gives us clear cut directions for making amends:
First we will wish to be reasonably certain we are on the A.A. beam.
Then we are ready to go to these people
to tell them what A.A. is,
and what we are trying to do.
Against this backdrop we can
freely admit the damage we have done
and make our apologies.
We can pay, or promise to pay
whatever obligations, financial or otherwise, we owe.
12 & 12, 84: 1]
The Big Book authors relate how another of AAs founders, Dr. Bob, made his
amends. This was on June 10, 1935, which is considered the anniversary date of
Alcoholics Anonymous:
One morning he took the bull by the horns and set out to tell those he feared what
his trouble had been. He found himself surprisingly well received, and learned that many
knew of his drinking. Stepping into his car, he made the rounds of people he had hurt. He
trembled as he went about, for this might mean ruin, particularly to a person in his line
of business. At midnight he came home exhausted, but very happy. He has not had a drink
since. (A Vision for You, 156: 1, 2)
Step 9 gives us a way to make restitution and to set right the damage we have
caused in the past. We can admit the wrong and not feel we are groveling or obliged to
hide in shame. Making amends is a commitment to a continuous process of change. We
will spend the rest of our lives practicing the spiritual principles that will bring real
change in the way we are partners with people.
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Notes
STEP 10
I was to test my thinking by the new God-consciousness within. (Bills Story, 13:
4)
Heard in a meeting: If we are not growing in recovery, we are moving backward
toward active addiction.
The addictive diseases are characterized by denial, self deception, isolation and
loneliness. In Steps 4 9 we act to identify and change that in us which blocks us from a
power greater than ourselves. In Step 10, we practice the principles of Steps 4 - 9 in real
time on a daily basis. This turns the slogan one day at a time into a philosophy of life.
Step 10 invites the practice of continuous awareness of our intentions, motives,
and behaviors, and guards against persistent defects or new problems. We consider our
conduct and thought patterns in order to initiate change. It is not so much to see what is
wrong, but to see what IS. When we are attentive, we may inventory ourselves at any
time of the day. Also we may retreat to places of quiet and work the Steps in a more
formal way annually or semiannually.
We are not cured of alcoholism. What we really have is a daily reprieve
contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition. (Into Action, 85: 1)
STEP 11
I was to sit quietly when in doubt asking only for direction and strength to meet
my problems as He would have me. (Bills Story, 13: 4)
In Step 11, our work is to seek to improve the conscious contact we have always
had with an unsuspected inner resource, (567: 4-568: 0) which is our higher power. As
we work through the Steps, we discover more of the nature of this spirit. Yet it is often
easier to identify what is not the God of our understandings will for us than what is. It is
understood that it is not Gods will for us to drink and lapse into active alcoholism.
Eventually, all things merge into one. And through it all is our common
experience of healing from alcoholism as this power that is greater than ourselves is made
manifest in our lives. Our practice changes as we change. We each grow into an evolving
exercise of personal meditation and prayer as we progress on our own spiritual path. May
we be cautious that our own private devotions do not take us away from the fellowship.
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STEP 12
Spiritual awakening: It meant the destruction of self-centeredness. There was a sense
of victory, followed by such a peace and serenity as I had never known. (Bills Story, 14: 1, 2)
The result of these steps: Belief in the power of God, plus enough willingness, honesty,
and humility to establish and maintain the new order of things were the essential requirements.
(13: 5-14: 0)
Carry the message: Particularly was it imperative to work with others as he had worked
with me. Faith without works was dead. (14: 6)
Practice these principles: My friend emphasized the absolute necessity of demonstrating
these principles in all my affairs. (14: 6)
A spiritual awakening is real because our lives are changed as a result. We can see
and feel it. Many of us feel more alive, loving, open, and better able to join fully in life.
We come to know the natural joy of things experienced just as they are. We may rest in
just being, not doing.That power, whether it is our own best and highest nature or a
force beyond ourselves, becomes ours to tap into whenever we are open to it. It guides
our actions and provides inspiration for our continued growth. This comes about
gradually and slowly as we work the Steps. We grow more and more uncomfortable
acting out on our character defects, and begin to feel more at ease practicing spiritual
principles and exercising our character assets.
The founding moment of AA was Bill W. sharing his story with Dr. Bob. We can
only keep what we have by giving it away, because we reinforce our recovery by sharing
it with others. The message of a spiritual awakening perhaps is that we are not alone, we
can stay sober, we can recover, and there is hope. We simply present the message of our
own story as positively as we can, and remain available to help when we are asked.
We see which Step principles we are meant to practice in each event of life. We
are more aware of our old unworkable thought-habits that leap to mind when we react to
life events and that dictate our actions. Now we may pause, ask for help (87: 3), and then
respond in a workable way that contributes to the serenity and peace of mind of all. The
positive principles of honesty, selflessness, courage, and compassion arise naturally as we
enjoy that profound alteration in [our] reaction to life that the Big Book authors speak of.
(567: 4) The spiritual benefits of our new worthy behaviors are real and will materialize
if we work for them. We deeply wish for others as well as for ourselves that we all may
be happy, joyous and free. Gratitude becomes the underlying force in all that we do. We
let our lives speak.
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STEP 5
Into Action
pp 72 75
Step 5 Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature
of our wrongs.
We have a written inventory and we are prepared for a long talk. (75: 1)
I
ON YOUR OWN:
Take Step 5
READ Read about Step 5 in Chapter 6, Into Action, pp. 72 75. Many read
Step 5 in the 12 & 12. Step 5 is a step out of our isolation.
WRITE Review the work you did on Step 4. Steps 4 and 5 are action Steps that
explore denial and self-deception, and contribute to self acceptance. Have you left
anything out? Write it down.
TALK Find someone with whom to take Step 5. Let your higher power guide
you in finding the right person in the program. You may choose to share different
parts of your story with different people. Make an appointment and take the Step.
PRACTICE DAILY MEDITATION / PRAYER We are not alone.
We may read and discuss Chapter 6, pp. 72- 75 having to do with Step 5.
The actual taking of Step 5 is private and will not occur within the group.
However, group members may speak generally about their experiences and share
some of their reflective writings about taking Step 5 by the Big Book.
Suggestion: Be specific and thorough when responding to the session questions.
Try to avoid rote 'yes' and 'no' answers.
Points of Focus and Reflection (Consider 72-75: 3) Cross off the bulleted points.
1.) We are only as sick as our secrets.
a.) Fear
Step 4 and Step 5 are the most discussed and the most skipped Steps. Why?
Do I have any fears or reservations about doing this Step? What are they?
How has working the first four Steps prepared me for taking Step 5?
Was I so numb that I did not realize my wrongs?
b.) Admitted to God [of our own understanding]

Have I opened myself to the presence of a higher power before going over my
inventory with my Fifth Step sponsor? How do I do this?
How is my Third Step decision reaffirmed by working the Fifth Step?
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2.)
c.) Admittedto ourselves

How am I very much the actor? (73: 1)
Had I been under constant fear and tension, and did that make for more drinking?
(73: 2)
d.) Admittedto another human being
What may happen to those who hang on to some of the worst items in stock, or
have not told someone else all their life story? (73: 0)
How will working Step 5 help me to begin to develop new ways of having
relationships?
Am I in complete readiness to talk to the right person, (74: 2) and to listen to their
response?
The exact nature of our wrongs
Can I get down to causes and conditions? (64: 0)
Have I inventoried my grosser handicaps? (71: 0)
What does the exact nature of our defects mean? (72: 1) What is behind my
alcoholism and the reasons I acted out in the ways I did?
Why do I need to admit the exact nature my own basic starting point / motive
of my wrongs and not simply the wrongs themselves?
What is the distinction between my motives (86: 2) and my actions or behaviors?
The 5th Step promises: Do I now feel I can look the world in the eye? (75: 2)
III

How may I practice being honest with myself, accepting who I am, both the good
and the harm that I do, and living up to my potential?
Where am I responsible and where am I not responsible? What patterns would I
rather not repeat in the future?
How may I practice the courage to share the parts of myself that should never see
the light of day? (73: 2)
How may I practice being committed to trusting this process, trusting another
person, and trusting myself to do it?
How may I practice relying on my higher power, relying on the program of
recovery and relying on the fellowship?
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IV TAKE STEP 5
When we decide who is to hear our story, we waste no time. We pocket our
pride and go to it, illuminating every twist of character, every dark cranny of the past.
(75: 1, 2)
When we have admitted to God of our understanding, to ourselves, and to another
human being the exact nature of our wrongs, then according to the Big Book and under
the conditions of this day, we have taken Step 5.
An optional written Step 5 inventory is on p. 91 of this workbook. The actual
taking of this Step will occur outside the group. The group may decide to observe taking
Step 5 in a manner similar to the way some AA groups celebrate anniversaries.
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STEP 5 WRITTEN INVENTORY [optional]

(Step 8 inventory on reverse)
Step 5 Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact
nature of our wrongs.
Items to share in the Fifth Step that are not listed in the Step 4 inventories.
Make multiple copies or expand this template in your own notebook.
-Am I identifying the exact nature of my wrongs, that is, what is behind my alcoholism
and the reasons I acted out in the ways I did?
-Am I listing all those behaviors and parts of myself that I had vowed would never see
the light of day? (73: 2)
-
Step 5
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STEP 8 WRITTEN INVENTORY [optional]

(Step 5 inventory on reverse)
Step 8 Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to
make amends to them all.
-I complete the list of people I have harmed that I compiled in Step 4.
-I list what I did.
-I list and discuss with my sponsor what an amend might look like.
(I do not yet concern myself with whether or not I should, or will be able to, actually
make the amends.)
All persons harmed.
-
What I did.
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What amends might be.

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SESSION 14
STEP 6
Into Action
p. 76: 1
Step 6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
Let go. (76: 1) We ask God [of our understanding] to help us be willing. (76: 1)
I
ON YOUR OWN:
Take Step 6
READ Review Into Action p. 75: 3. Read of Step 6 on p. 76: 1. (See also 263:
0, 1, 2) Many read Step 6 in the 12 & 12.
o Have you done the Step work so far to [your] satisfaction? (75: 3-76: 1)
o Heard in a meeting: When you were ready, you let your drinking go. You can
do the same with your other defects and shortcomings.
WRITE List all of your character defects from Steps 4 and 5 and write brief
descriptions of them. [Defect: A lack; an imperfection. To fall short; to miss the
mark.] [Change: To substitute something else for. To exchange.]
o You may have become so attached to your defenses, patterns, masks and
actors roles (60: 4) -your defects- that you have begun to identify with them.
o Yet there comes a point when it is more painful to stay in the old patterns than
it is to risk something new and unknown.
o The key to Step 6 is to maintain the honesty developed through all the Steps,
and to be patient with yourself.
TALK Call your sponsor and other members of the group to discuss your
thoughts on Step 6.
PRACTICE DAILY RELAXATION
MEDITATION / PRAYER.
II
WITH THE GROUP: PRACTICE What does the Big Book say to me
[Optional: Having been granted a perfect release from alcoholism, why then
shouldn't we be able to achieve by the same means a perfect release from every
other difficulty or defect? This is a riddle. (12&12 64: 2)]
Consider having a round robin discussion about one particular defect, and the
groups experiences with Step 6 by the Big Book.
Points of Focus and Reflection (Consider 75:3-76: 1) Try saying these out loud.
1.) Awareness of Character Defects
In what ways are my defects really basic human traits that have been distorted by
my own self-centeredness?
In what specific ways am I addicted to outside things to change my feelings?
Can I list each defect I have and the ways I act on it?
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How do I feel when I act out on each defect? What feelings do my defects help
me change or avoid? Is every defect another face of fear?
What would my life be like without each defect?
2.)
Willingness
Am I ready to become willing?
Which of my unwanted defects am I dismayed to find are still here?
Which of my defects have I had most of my life, and are like survival skills? How
did each defect (or pattern or defense or role or mask) protect me?
Which unhealthy behaviors do I seem to repeat over and over?
Do I fear I cannot change? Does my personality seem to equal my defects?
How have I changed so far? What defects do I no longer have to act on?
Can I see the principles of 12 Step recovery as being the opposite of my character
defects?
Am I entirely ready (59: 2) to let my higher power set my character defects at one
remove from me?
.
3.) Letting Go
When will the pain of holding on to my defects of character become greater than
my fear of change?
Have many of my thought-habits brought nothing but pain and degradation to my
life? Do I need help in dealing with them?
How may I let go through prayer and meditation and reflect on my higher power?
How does my surrender deepen in this step? Can I relax since I do not do it alone?
What action can I take that shows that I am entirely ready?
.
III

How may I demonstrate my commitment to persevere in my recovery today?
How am I willing to act differently?
How may I increase my trust in the God of my understanding by working Step 6?
How may I practice the principle of self-acceptance, even when once again I act
on a defect against my will?
Can I not do what the alcoholic in me says, I want to do today?
Do I understand this is just for today, one day at a time?
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IV
TAKE STEP 6
We take Step 6 in the first paragraph on BB page 76.
-See page 95 of this workbook for an optional Step 6 written inventory.

As we put our willingness to change into practice, one day at a time, then according to
the Big Book, and under the conditions of this day, we take Step 6.
Observe carrying out Step 6 in the manner that your group sees fit.
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STEP 6
WRITTEN INVENTORY (optional) (Step 7 on reverse)
Step 6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of
character.
Review the list of character defects that you elaborated in writing in Step 4.
List each defect, and give a definition of it.
Write about how you act on your character defects, and what effect it has on you
and others.
Ask yourself what feelings you are trying to suppress or change when you act out
on the defect?
What would your life be like without this behavior?
Which spiritual principle may you apply instead?
.
Defect:
Definition:
Effect of acting on it:
Feelings involved:
Alternatives:
Defect:
Definition:
Feelings involved:
Alternatives:
Defect:
Definition:
Feelings involved:
Alternatives:
Defect:
Definition:
Feelings involved:
Alternatives:
Etc, etc.
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STEP 7
WRITTEN INVENTORY (optional)
(Step 6 on reverse)
Step 7 Humbly asked him to remove our shortcomings.
Every day of the week I may choose a character defect or shortcoming to monitor. How
am I doing with it? How am I asking for strength and help? Which spiritual principle am
I applying instead?
MONDAY:
Shortcoming: What did I do?
-
Spiritual principle: What did I do?

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TUESDAY:
-
WEDNESDAY:
-
THURSDAY:
-
FRIDAY:
-
SATURDAY:
-
SUNDAY:
-
Etc, etc.
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-

-

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Step 6
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STEP 7
Into Action p. 76: 2
Step 7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

Let God [of our understanding] (76: 1)
Grant me strength. (76: 2)
I
ON YOUR OWN:
Take Step 7
READ Read Chapter 6, Into Action p. 76, paragraph 2 on Step 7. [See also
265: 0, 1, 2] Many also read Step 7 in the 12&12.
o Heard in a meeting: Humility is our acceptance of who and what we really
are, that we are worthwhile, and that we are grateful.
WRITE Write about the character defects and shortcomings you act out on, and
the spiritual principles you might use instead. [Shortcoming: Failure to hit a
target. To miss the mark. Out of bounds.]
o Heard in a meeting: Our defects are never completely removed, but rather
replaced with other attributes (God Given!).
TALK Talk with your sponsor and other members of the group about your
experiences with Step 7. Discuss your character defects and what you are doing
about them.
PRACTICE DAILY RELAXATION
MEDITATION / PRAYER
We may read p. 76: 2 Chapter 6, Into Action on Step 7. Members of the group
may be asked to share their experience, strength, and hope on Step 7 by the Big
Book. We may each share our writings on Step 7 in a round robin format.
Points of Focus and Reflection (Consider 76: 2)
1.) Humbly:
The action of humility
How has my way landed me in difficulty?
Am I acting as my own higher power? [See quit playing God, BB, 62: 3]
How does my usefulness to myself and others depend on my being balanced?
How does my gratitude for my life in recovery relate to my staying right size?
How may I take a new perspective on the world and so act differently?
How may I grow to have solution-based thinking?
How is humility (55: 4) related to honesty (58: 1) and sanity (5: 5; 37: 1) in
regards to my own sense of proportion and perspective?
AA literature focuses on humility as seeing things in true perspective, as they
really are. [Optional, see also 12&12 pp. 48: 0; 58: 1; 72: 2]
Humility is a sense of our own humanness. We are truly just trying our best.
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2.) Asked Him :

Meditation / Prayer
How does the spiritual principle of surrender apply to getting out of the way so a
higher power of my understanding can work in my life?
Have I asked other recovering alcoholics to help me by sharing their experience,
strength, and hope in this matter of prayer and meditation?
How is the Serenity Prayer (12&12, 41: 0; 125: 2) an expression of Step 7?
Do I work very hard to act on target, in ways that oppose my shortcomings?
Does my higher power do Steps 6 and 7 for me?
3.) Remove our shortcomings:
Practice
Why are defects of character in Step 6 called shortcomings in Step 7? (59: 2)
How is my self-centered fear the chief activator of my character defects? [12&12
76: 2]
Can I see the many faces of my fear (my defects) and not deny or overlook them?
How may I recognize my fear and/or anger, bring it to awareness, and deal with it
in a healthy manner? Can I ask for help to change my fears?
How can I stop building walls, and act instead as if I want to be happy, serene and
sane?
Am I prepared to take an active role in the new and healthier world that I am now
a part of?
Can I ask for the strength to do the practice? What does the term practice mean
to me?
III

Has my sense of perspective been out of proportion lately?
How may I accept my powerlessness over my shortcomings as well as my
alcoholism?
How may I humbly ask for strength, practice spiritual principles, and get out of
my higher powers way?
Can I become more conscious of my motives and intentions before I act?
Instead of fear and anger, can I respond with love and patience?
May I practice trust and being worthy, by practicing being responsible?
Today, can I do what the alcoholic in me says, I dont want to do?
Have there been times when I have been able to refrain from acting on a character
defect and to practice a spiritual principle instead? Do I recognize this as the
higher power of my understanding working in my life?
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IV TAKE STEP 7 We take Step 7 in the second paragraph on BB page 76.
See page 96 of this workbook for an optional Step 7 written inventory.

Under the conditions of this day, and according to the Big Book, we take Step 7.
You may mark taking Step 7 in the manner you and your group choose. Some form a
circle and recite the powerful Step 7 prayer together.
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STEP 8
Into Action pp. 76 - 84
Step 8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make
amends to them all.
Like a tornado roaring his way through the lives of others. (82: 3)
I
ON YOUR OWN:
Take Step 8
READ Read pp. 76 - 84 in Chapter 6, Into Action on Steps 8 and 9. Many will
read Step 8 in the 12&12. We are learning how to live in partnership with all men
and women.
WRITE Make a list of all people you have harmed. Write down what you did to
those people. Put down what an amends might be.
o Do not yet concern yourself now with whether or not you should, or will
be able to, actually make the amends.
TALK Talk with your sponsor and with other members of the group about
whom to include on your list of amends. Step 8 is part action and part attitude:
first you make a list; second you become willing.
o Talk with your sponsor about what an amends might look like. (76: 3)
PRACTICE DAILY RELAXATION WITH PRAYER / MEDITATION
We read selections from Into Action pp. 76-84 together. We share our writings.
Without mentioning names, we talk about those we included on our list.
Does my list have too many, or too few, people on it? Have I included everyone I
have ever interacted with? Did I only include people I committed egregious acts
against?
Points of Focus and Reflection (Consider 76: 3-77: 1; 78: 2-79: 0; 80: 5; 83: 2, 3)
1.) All persons we had harmed
Where had I been at fault?
How may I be clear to myself about my responsibility in the wrongs I have done?
[Responsible: Able to respond, soberly and appropriately. Accountable. Reliable.]
How may I accept my responsibility to other people, yet not accept responsibility
for other people?
May I let go of the feeling of responsibility for the way certain people treated me?
Do I owe amends to people who have also harmed me? (77: 1)
Have I put my own name on the top of my list of people I have harmed? Why or
why not? [see 12&12, 79: 3-80: 0, 1]
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2.) What harms have I committed against the people on my list?

-Business acquaintances: (76: 4) Did I not cooperate with others or not put in a
days work? Did I pad expense accounts or steal money?
-Friends we have hurt. (76: 4) Have I gossiped or been emotionally unavailable?
Have I stolen from them? Have I failed to keep in contact?
-Those we hate. (77: 1) Have I wished ill-will upon them? Have I spoken badly of
them? Have I committed the harms described above?
-Our creditors: We owe money. (78: 2) Have I failed to admit that money or
services are owed? Have I failed to make arrangements to pay what is owed?
-Perhaps we have committed a criminal offense. (78: 3) Have I paid my fine and
done my time? Have I made a commitment not to repeat those crimes?
-We have domestic troubles. (80: 5) The family, (83: 1) spouse, or parents. (82: 2)
Have I physically / emotionally / verbally abused my spouse, children, or other
family members? Have I been emotionally unavailable to those family members?
-Some people cannot be seen. (82: 3) Have I done any or all of the above to
those I cannot locate or who have died?
3.) Willing to make amends to them all
What have I done to become willing to make these amends?
Why am I not willing to make amends with some of the people on my list? Do I
have fear of making direct amends? Do I have persistent resentment toward
some? Am I unable to see the harm I have caused?
In making amends, am I still trying to please, or control, or punish, or behave in
some other way that interferes with an honest relationship? Will it help to revisit
Steps 4 and 5, and Steps 6 and 7 about these issues?
What would my life be like if I had already made these amends?
III

How may I move beyond my resentments, and blaming others, and believing I
was the innocent victim, and all my other justifications for the harms I caused?
Are there any names I have not added to my list? Am I willing to add them now?
Am I beginning to feel compassion and empathy for others, including myself?
Describe.
How may I have peace with my past, so that I may have peace in the present and
future?
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IV TAKE STEP 8: WRITE THE LIST
We take Step 8 in the third paragraph of BB page 76.
See page 92 of this SbBB workbook for the optional Step 8 written inventory.
When we have finished writing the list of people we have harmed, then according to the
Big Book and under the conditions of this day, we have taken Step 8.
Observe taking Step 8 in the manner that you and your group choose.
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STEP 9
Step 9. Made direct amends wherever possible, except when to do so would injure
them or others.
The spiritual life is not a theory. We have to live it. (83: 2)
Take Step 9
I
READ Read pages 76 - 84 in Chapter 6, Into Action on Step 9. Many read Step
9 in the 12&12.
Reparations take innumerable forms. (79: 1)
WRITE Take a name, and decide what action is needed to re-create the best
possible relationship with that person.
TALK Talk with your sponsor and other members of the group. Review the
written directions as they are in the Big Book. [Optional 12&12, 84: 1]
o Making amends means being able to say you are sorry, that you make
mistakes, that you care, and that you are growing and changing.
o Keep it a pure and simple amend and nothing else.
PRACTICE DAILY MEDITATION / PRAYER We are not alone.
We may read pages 76-84 in Chapter 6, Into Action on Step 9. ~Support is needed
to carry out this Step. ~We can only do the part we are responsible for when we
make amends.
Step 9 requires patience, thoughtful self examination, and restraint.
Group members may share their experiences with this Step by the Big Book.
Points of Focus and Reflection (76: 3-78: 0; 79: 1-80: 1; 81: 1-82: 1; 83: 1-84: 1)
1.) Ask for willingness
How is making amends a commitment to a continuous process of change?
Why is making amends more than just saying, Im sorry?
What about financial amends? What behaviors do I need to amend?
Do I owe amends to people who have also harmed me? (77: 1)
Do I owe amends to anyone who is dead? What was special about that person that
I might be able to use in planning my amends?
Am I genuine in making my amends, or do I have hidden motives, such as to gain
acceptance or love from someone else, or to prove them wrong and me right?
Can I let go of the outcome, knowing that I have no control over the other
persons response?
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2.) Direct amends

The Big Book states that in making amends:
o We become ready, and we have obtained permission. (80: 1)
o Wehave consulted with [our sponsor or] others. (80: 1)
o Weasked God [of our understanding] to help. (80: 1)
o We ask that we be given strength and direction to do the right
thing. (79: 1)
o We are trying to put our lives in order [and] to be of maximum
service to God and to the people about us. (77: 0)
o Face to face, we make direct amends. (59: 2)
o We go out to our fellows. (76: 3) We goin a helpful and forgiving
spirit. (77: 1) We secure their consent. (80: 1)
o We will never get over drinking until we have done our utmost to
straighten out the past. (77: 2)
o We have a sincere desire to set right the wrong. (77: 0)
o We are there to sweep off our side of the street. (77: 2)
o Their faults are not discussed. We stick to our own. (78: 0)
o Confessing our former ill feeling and expressing our regret. (77: 1)
o We should admit our fault. (81: 1)
o We are sorry for what we have done andit shall not be repeated.
(81: 1)
Step 9 Promises: Do I now know a new freedom and a new happiness? (83: 4)
3.) Will making direct amends injure them or others?
Will I be harming the person or others further by making amends?
When I feel guilty, do I put them in the position of having to take care of me?
Talk with your sponsor and other group members about how these amends might
be made.
III

How may I accept responsibility for the harm I caused and for repairing that
harm? How may I give of myself and be of service to others?
May I accept that my love and tolerance also extend to myself?
How may I let go of all my expectations about how my amends will be received?
For what have I forgiven myself?
How may I accept that my recovery is the living amend I make to myself?
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IV Take Step 9 Make the amends for this day.
We take Step 9 in paragraph 3 on BB page 76.
We go out to our fellows and repair the damage done in the past. (76: 3)
Upon completing the first three amends or so, we continue Step 9 while proceeding with
Step 10, Step 11, and Step 12 on a daily basis.
Mark taking Step 9 in the manner that your group sees fit.
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STEP 10
Step 10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly
admitted it.
A daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition. (85: 1)
Daily Step 10 written inventory
I
.
ON YOUR OWN:
Take Step 10
READ Read Chapter 6 Into Action pages 83- 85 in the Big Book. Many read
Step 10 in the 12&12. What does it mean that the Promises directly precede
Step 10 in the Big Book?
WRITE Continue your written journal of your reflections. ~Go deeper with a
feeling before trying to make it go away. ~If you choose to act out on your
feelings in a vengeful or manipulative way, you may have some regrets later on.
~If you are upset your emotional reactions are real and therefore valid, no matter
what they are. ~What might your anger-sadness-fear be covering up?
TALK Talk with your sponsor and other members of your group. Step 10
combines self examination (inventory) with making amends.
We may share our reflections. One or more members of the group may choose to
speak on Step 10 by the Big Book.
Points of Focus and Reflection (Consider 84: 2-85: 2)
1.) Continued to take personal inventory
How may I work Step 10 to keep me within this day?
What did I do today that worked and did not work to give me and others serenity
and peace of mind? (84: 2) (See page 40 this workbook for Step 10 inventory.)
Can I determine my responsibility and do what is necessary to set things straight,
and let go of the outcome?
2.) When we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
Have I been resentful, selfish, dishonest, or afraid today? (84: 2)
Today have I allowed myself to become too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired?
Have I kept something to myself that I should have discussed with my sponsor?
Was there fear in my life today? (84: 2)
Have I harmed others, directly, or indirectly, today? How?
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Do I owe any apologies or amends? Where was I wrong [twisted]? (84: 2)

Was I out of bounds? Did I make mistakes; miss the mark?
If I could do it over again, what would I do differently?
How might I do better next time?
3.) We have entered the world of the spirit. (84: 2) Watch. Ask. Turn.
Do I watch for my selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear as I go through
the day? (84: 2)
Do I ask a higher power of my understanding to remove these at once, because I
am now watching and I am starting to be awake? (84: 2)
Do I turn that force of my self-willfulness toward good for others? (84: 2)
4.) Step 10 promises
Have I ceased fighting anything or anyone even alcohol? (84: 3)
Have I been restored to sanity? (85: 0) Is this the sanity of Step 2?
Has my spiritual malady been overcome; have I straightened out mentally
(meaning the obsession of the mind that takes me to a drink)? (See 64: 3)
Am I recovered? (17: 1)
5.) We are not cured of alcoholism (85: 1)
Is it enough for me just to stay sober? Have I been letting up on my spiritual
program of action and resting on my laurels? (85: 1)
III

How may I not forget how important my happiness and my comfort (my serenity
and peace of mind) are, one day at a time?
How may I do the work of recovery, regardless of how I feel?
How may I be honest with myself, about myself, while an event is still
happening?
When I make a mistake do I think I am the mistake, or that it was human error?
What have I done today about which I feel positive?
How may I know which principles I need to practice in a given situation?
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IV TAKE STEP 10 ON A DAILY BASIS
We take Step 10 in the second paragraph on BB page 84.
We continue to take personal inventory and continue to set right any new mistakes as
we go along. (84: 2)
According to the Big Book and under the conditions of this day, we practice Step 10 on a
daily basis.
Acknowledge taking Step 10 in the manner that you and your group see fit.
See page 40 of this workbook for the optional Step 10 Daily Written Inventory (Assets
and Liabilities Checklist.)
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Step 10
SESSION 19
STEP 11
Into Action
pp. 85 88
Step 11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact
with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and
the power to carry that out.
We pauseand ask.... (87: 3) It works it really does. (88: 1)
Take Step 11
I
ON YOUR OWN:
READ Read from Chapter 6, Into Action the bottom of page 85 to the end of
the chapter. Many read Step 11 in the 12&12.
WRITE Continue to write your daily reflections. Continue to make your Step
9 amends, and to take a Step 10 daily inventory.
TALK Continue to discuss your work with your sponsor and other group
members.
o Heard in a meeting: Being spiritual is being open minded and looking for the
gifts in things.
o Heard in a meeting: I pray to be who I am and all I am (and not somebody
different) to get a better and clearer sense of my place in the universe.
PRACTICE DAILY MEDITATION / PRAYER Meditation and prayer, like

other tools of recovery, are intensely practical. Like all tools, they work better the
more we use them. See an optional relaxation practice on p. 14 of this workbook.
We review the three meditation / prayer practices of Step 11, BB pp. 85 - 88.
Points of Focus and Reflection (Consider 85: 3-88: 3)
1.) Prayer and meditation
Step 11 begins with the word sought (59: 2), the past tense of to seek; how and
what am I seeking? Do I have a specific spiritual path?
What is my understanding of the differences between religion and spirituality?
What have I done to explore my own spirituality?
Do I recognize that a moment of silence is meditation, where I may quiet my
mind on a regular basis so that I can gain understanding and knowledge from my
higher power my own unsuspected inner resource? (567: 4)
Heard in a meeting: Prayer is talking to. Meditation is listening for.
Step 11
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[Optional: Thy will not mine, be done. Just saying it over and over will often
enable us to clear a channel choked up with anger, fear, frustration, or
misunderstanding, and permit us to return to the surest help of all our search
for God [of our understanding]s will, not our own, in the moment of stress.
12&12, 103: 0]
2.) Conscious contact

The Big Book authors speak of the Retire at night meditation / prayer (86:1):
Review our day. Were we resentful, selfish, dishonest, or afraid?
Were we thinking of ourselves most of the time? After making our review we
ask God [of our understanding]s forgiveness and inquire, what corrective
measures should be taken? (86: 1)
There also is the On awakening meditation / prayer (86: 2, 3 - 87: 0, 1, 2): We

ask God [of our understanding] to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be
divorced from self-pity, dishonest or self-seeking motives. (86: 2)
We ask for freedom from self-will. (87: 1)
Be quick to see where religious people are right. (87: 2)
And, there is the Through the day meditation / prayer (87: 3 - 88: 0): We
pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action. We
constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show, humbly saying to
ourselves many times each day Thy will be done. (87: 3 - 88: 0)
3.) The power to carry that out.

Why do we pray only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry
that out? (59: 2)
How does humility apply to this?
III

How may I clear away my insistence that I want or I need something, and let
things be?
How may I remember that I am not in charge of the world?
How may I have the faith and courage to seek the knowledge, the will and the
power to live my life in a way that brings serenity and peace of mind?
How may I pass on to others my inner knowing of creations deep wish of well
being for me and others?
How may I make a commitment to the practice of regular meditation and prayer?
Have I meditated and prayed today?
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IV
TAKE STEP 11 ON A DAILY BASIS.
We take Step 11 in the first three paragraphs on BB page 86.
We ask God [of our understanding]. (86: 1, 2, 3)
According to the Big Book and under the conditions of this day, we practice Step
11 on a daily basis.
Take Step 11 in the manner that you and your group see fit. Some
recite the Step or read an 11th Step prayer.
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Step 11
SESSION 20
STEP 12
Working With Others
pp. 89 - 103
Step 12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to
carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
Helping others is the foundation stone of your recovery. (97: 1)
Trust in God and clean house. (98: 2)
ON YOUR OWN:
Take Step 12
READ We read Chapter 7, Working With Others. Many will read Step 12 in
the 12&12.
WRITE We write our daily reflections. We continue making our Step 9

amends. We do Step 10 spot-check inventories, and we may work at annual or
semi-annual inventories of all Steps. We practice Step 11 meditation / prayer.
TALK We talk with our sponsor and new comers. We carry the message.
o Heard in a meeting: The message of Step 12 is not You should get sober,
but rather Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps.
(60: 0)
o Heard in a meeting: We carry the message; we cannot carry the drunk.
PRACTICE DAILY PRAYER / MEDITATION. We practice Step 11

conscious contact with the higher power of our understanding on a daily basis.
We may read and discuss Chapter 7, Working With Others. One or more members of the
group might share their experiences with Step 12 of the Big Book.
Points of Focus and Reflection (Read BB Chapter 7. See pp. 109-110 this workbook.)
1.) Spiritual awakening as the result
What is my overall experience as a result of working the Steps?
By doing my own work in Steps 1 through 11, have I developed a new way of
thinking, feeling and acting, and connecting with others?
Is it my experience that I have undergone a profound alteration in [my] reaction
to life? (567: 4)
Have I had a personality change sufficient to bring about recovery? (567: 1)
What lasting changes have resulted from my spiritual awakening?
Having awakened to the reality that I too am a good and caring person, can I
invite others to see themselves the way that a loving higher power might see
them, rather than from their own distorted or antagonistic outlook?
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2.) Carry this message

What is this message that is referred to in Step 12? (60: 0) (See also 17: 3; 45: 2;
77: 0; 89: 1.)
In my experience, does this message include that there is hope, we are not alone,
we can stay sober, and we can recover?
Did someone carry the message to me? (See p. 18: 4,5)
Why was an AA member able to reach me in a way that no one else ever had?
What kind of service work am I doing today to carry the message?
What are the step-by-step requirements for Twelfth Step work? (See BB Chapter
7, and this SbBB workbook pp. 109 - 110)
May I share who I am, where I have come from, and how it is for me now?
3.) Practice these principles
What does it mean to me to practice? (60: 0) Does it mean to keep trying?
What does it mean to practice these principles (60: 0) in all my affairs?
Do I find life offering opportunities to repeatedly experience my old
shortcomings, my old patterns, my old behaviors, my old actors roles (60: 4), my
old thought-habits and my old motives (86: 2), but each time with new
understanding?
III

How may I deeply wish that others, including myself, may be happy, joyous, and
free?
How may I understand that sometimes the best way of loving and helping is to
stop enabling someone else to drink?
What is my attitude about sponsorship? What is my attitude about service?
How may I practice spiritual principles, such as compassion, regardless of how I
feel?
If my disease is often expressed as self-centeredness, how may I express my
recovery as selfless service?
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IV WORK STEP 12 ON A DAILY BASIS
We take Step 12 in the first paragraph on BB page 89.
A group reading of the last portion of Chapter 11, A Vision for You, is a fitting way to
end these Steps by the Big Book group sessions. (164: 2, 3, 4)
[Heard in a meeting: If you want to be happy, serve others.
"How may we alcoholics live happy, joyous, and free? (133: 0)
o Happiness is being free of suffering free of our mind's tortured reactions to
the things that may hurt or frighten us.
o Joy is taking grateful delight in another's happiness, including our own.
o Freedom is the reprieve from grasping onto our self-centered
alcoholism/addiction, our self-absorption, just for today."]
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Step 12
STEP 12 PASS THIS ON (94: 1) PRINCIPLES FROM THE BIG BOOK

When all other measures failed, work with another alcoholic
would save the day. (Bills Story, 15: 1)
This is our twelfth suggestion: Carry this message to other alcoholics! You can help
when no one else can. (89: 1)
. . .
When you discover a prospect for Alcoholics Anonymous, find out all you can
about him. (90: 1)
Realizing [you] are dealing with a sick person. Put yourself in his place. (90:
1,2) So cooperate; never criticize. (89: 3)
Don't deal with him when he is very drunk.... (90: 3)
If he does not want to see you, never force yourself upon him. (90: 4)
You might place this book where he can see it in the interval. (90: 4)
See your man alone [withoutfamily], if possible. (91: 3)
. . .
Tell him enough about your drinking habits, symptoms, and experiences to
encourage him to speak of himself. If he wishes to talk, let him do so. (91: 3)
Give him a sketch of your drinking career up to the time you quit. But say
nothing, for the moment, of how that was accomplished. (91: 3)
When he sees you know all about the drinking game, commence to describe
yourself as an alcoholic. (91: 4)
Give him an account of the struggles you made to stop. (92: 0)
Show him the mental twist which leads to the first drink of a spree. (92: 0)
. . .
And be careful not to brand him as an alcoholic. (92: 1)
If he sticks to the idea that he can still control his drinking, tell him that possibly
he can - if he is not too alcoholic. But insist that if he is severely afflicted, there
may be little chance he can recover by himself. (92: 1)
Continue to speak of alcoholism as an illness, a fatal malady. (92: 2)
Talk about the conditions of body and mind which accompany it. (92: 2)
Even though your protg may not have entirely admitted his condition, he has
become very curious to know how you got well. Let him ask you that question, if
he will. (92: 2-93: 0)
. . .
Tell him exactly what happened to you. (93: 0)
... Make it emphatic that he does not have to agree with your conception of God.
He can choose any conception he likes, provided it makes sense to him. (93: 0)
Let him see that you are not there to instruct him in religion. (93: 2)
Outline the program of action.... (94: 1)
Make it plain he is under no obligation to...see you again if he doesn't want to.
(94: 1)
. . .
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Your candidate may give reasons why he need not follow all of the program. ...
Do not contradict such views. (94: 2)
On your first visit tell him about the Fellowship of Alcoholics Anonymous. If he
shows interest, lend him your copy of this book. (94: 2)
...Do not wear out your welcome. Give him a chance to think it over. (95: 1)
...You will be most successful with alcoholics if you do not exhibit any passion for
crusade or reform. (95: 1)
Never talk down to an alcoholic from any moral or spiritual hilltop; simply lay
out the kit of spiritual tools for his inspection. (95: 1)
. . .
Show him how they [the Steps] worked with you. (95: 1)
Offer him friendship and fellowship. (95: 1)
Tell him that if he wants to get well you will do anything to help. (95: 1)
...If he expects you to act only as a banker...or a nurse for his sprees, you may
have to drop him.... (95: 2)
If he is sincerely interested and wants to see you again, ask him to read this book
in the interval. (95: 3)
If he thinks he can do the job in some other way...encourage him to follow his own
conscience. (95: 4)
. . .
Suppose now you are making your second visit to a man. He has read this volume
and says he is prepared to go through with the Twelve Steps of the program of
recovery. Having had the experience yourself, you can give him much practical
advice. (96: 2)
Though an alcoholic does not respond, there is no reason why you should neglect
his family. ... The family should be offered your way of life. (97: 3)
The minute we put our work on a service plane, the alcoholic commences to rely
on our assistanceclaiming he cannot master alcohol until his material needs
are cared for. Nonsense. (98: 1)
Burn the idea into the consciousness of every man that he can get well regardless
of anyone. (98: 2)
When working with a man and his family, you should take care not to participate
in their quarrels. (100: 2)
We are careful never to show intolerance or hatred of drinking as an institution.
(103: 1)
. . .
Be sober, considerate, and helpful, regardless of what anyone says or does. (99:
1)
We may read Chapter 8, To Wives; Chapter 9, The Family Afterwards; Chapter 10, To
Employers and Chapter 11, A Vision for You. These chapters teach us how to practice
the Twelve Step principles in all our affairs.
Some of us may immediately begin working through the Steps again with the
perspective that we have gained from our journey thus far.
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Step 12
SUMMARY
SUMMARY OF STEPS BY THE BIG BOOK
[Direct quotes from Big Book and 12&12.
Compile your own!]
A.) the drink problem (17: 1)

B.) a common solution (17: 3)
C.) a practical program of action (9: 6)
A.) The Problem:
Step One
We were full of fear (52: 2)
[Honesty]
...Alcoholism as an illness, a fatal malady. (92: 2)

If, when you honestly want to, you find you cannot quit entirely [mental
obsession], or if when drinking, you have little control over the amount you take
[physical compulsion], you are probably alcoholic. (44: 1)
[Mental:] They are restless, irritable and discontented, unless they
can again experience the sense [mental obsession] of ease and
comfort which comes at once by taking a few drinks. (xxviii: 4)
[Physical:] After they have succumbed to the desire again, as so
many do [they pick up a drink], and the phenomenon of craving
[physical compulsion] develops, they pass through the well-known
stages of a spree, emerging remorseful, with a firm resolution not
to drink again. This is repeated over and over. (xxix: 0)
The main problem of the alcoholic centers in his mind [mental obsession],
rather than in his body [physical compulsion]. (23: 1)
Was I crazy? I began to wonder, for such an appalling lack of
perspective seemed near being just that. (5: 5)
The alcoholics under investigation were still childish, emotionally
sensitive, and grandiose. [12&12, 123: 0]
We were having trouble with personal relationships, we couldn't
control our emotional natures, we were a prey to misery and
depression, we couldn't make a living, we had a feeling of
uselessness, we were full of fear, we were unhappy, we couldn't
seem to be of real help to other people.(52: 2)
Summary of Steps by the Big Book
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SUMMARY
B.) The Solution:
Step Two
Quit playing God. (62: 3)
[Hope]
Burn the idea into the consciousness of every man that he can get well
regardless of anyone. (98: 2)
You may be suffering from an illness which only a spiritual experience will
conquer. (44: 1)
Unless this person can experience an entire psychic change
there is very little hope of his recovery. (xxix: 0)
They appear to be in the nature of huge emotional displacements
and rearrangements. (27: 4)
The personality change sufficient to bring about recovery from alcoholism.
(567: 1)
(Dr. Jung) Ideas, emotions, and attitudes which were once the
guiding forces of the lives of these men are suddenly cast to one
side, and a completely new set of conceptions and motives begin to
dominate them. (26: 1; 27: 4)
Most of our experiences are what the psychologist William James
calls the educational variety because they develop slowly over a
period of time. (567: 4)
With few exceptions our members find that they have tapped an unsuspected
inner resource which they presently identify with their own conception of a Power
greater than themselves. (567: 4)
Most of us think this awareness of a Power greater than ourselves is the essence
of spiritual experience. Our more religious members call it God-consciousness.
(568: 0)
First of all, we had to quit playing God. It didnt work. (62: 3)
When, therefore, we speak to you of God, we mean your own
conception of God. This applies, too, to other spiritual expressions
which you find in this book. Do not let any prejudice you may
have against spiritual terms deter you from honestly asking
yourself what they mean to you. (47: 1)
We find that no one need have difficulty with the spirituality of the program.
Willingness, honesty and open mindedness are the essentials of recovery. But
these are indispensable. (568: 3)
To us, the Realm of the Spirit is broad, roomy, all inclusive;
never exclusive or forbidding to those who earnestly seek. It is
open, we believe, to all. (46: 2)
[The] main object is to enable you to find a Power greater than
yourself which will solve your problem. (45: 2)
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SUMMARY
C.) The Program of Action:
"... We pauseand ask...." (87: 3)
Step Three and Beyond [Trust]

It meant destruction of self-centeredness. (14: 1)
The only effort necessary being that required to follow a few simple rules.
(xxix: 1)
Almost none of us liked the self-searching, the leveling of our
pride, the confession of shortcomings which the process requires
for its successful consummation. But we saw that it really worked
in others. (25: 1)
Selfishness - self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our
troubles. (62: 1)
So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. They
arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of
self-will run riot, though he usually doesn't think so. Above
everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness. We must,
or it kills us! (62: 2)
"He is the Principal; we are His agents." (62: 3)
STEP 4
[Courage] Next we launched out on a course of vigorous
actiona strenuous effort to face, and to be rid of, the things in ourselves which
had been blocking us [from higher power]. Our liquor was but a symptom. So we
had to get down to causes and conditions. (63: 4)
Where had we been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking and
frightened? (67: 2) "...Dishonest or self-seeking motives." (86: 2)
We admitted our wrongs honestly and were willing to set these
matters straight. (67: 2)
If you have already made a decision [Step 3], and an inventory of
your grosser handicaps [Step 4], you have made a good
beginning. (71: 0)
When the spiritual malady is overcome, we straighten out
mentally and physically. (64: 3)
STEP 5
[Integrity] We usually find a solitary self-appraisal
insufficient. (72: 2)
They told someone else all their life story. (73: 0)
We have a written inventory and we are prepared for a long talk.
(75: 1)
We pocket our pride and go to it, illuminating every twist of
character, every dark cranny of the past. Once we have taken this
step, withholding nothing, we are delighted. We can look the world
in the eye. (75: 2)
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SUMMARY
STEP 6
[Willingness]
STEP 7
[Humility] Let God. (76: 1)
Let go. (76: 1)
STEP 8
[Compassion]
We have a list of all persons we have
harmed [Step 4] and to whom we are willing to make amends. We made it when
we took inventory. We subjected ourselves to a drastic self-appraisal. (76: 3)
STEP 9
[Justice]
Now we need more action, without which we find
that Faith without works is dead. Now we go out to our fellows and repair the
damage done in the past. (76: 3)
If we are painstaking ... Self-seeking will slip away.... Fear of
people and of economic insecurity will leave us. ... If we work for
them. (83: 4)
STEP 10
[Perseverance]
Continue to watch for selfishness,
dishonesty, resentment, and fear. When these crop up, we ask God at once to
remove them. We discuss them with someone immediately and make amends
quickly if we have harmed anyone. Then we resolutely turn our thoughts to
someone we can help. Love and tolerance of others is our code. (84: 2)
STEP 11
[Spiritual awareness]
Let us think about the twentyfour hours ahead. We ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be
divorced from self-pity, dishonest or self-seeking motives. (86: 2)
"... We pauseand ask..." (87: 3)
Humbly saying to ourselves many times each day Thy will be
done. (88: 0)
STEP 12
[Service] Nothing will so much insure immunity from
drinking as intensive work with other alcoholics. It works when other activities
fail. This is our twelfth suggestion: Carry this message to other alcoholics! You
can help when no one else can. Remember they are very ill. (89: 1)
The main thing is that he be willing to believe in a Power greater
than himself and that he live by spiritual principles. (93: 0)
Trust in God [Steps 1 3] and clean house [Steps 4 8 & 9
10 11]. (98: 2)
Helping others [Step 12]. (97: 1)
Be sober, considerate, and helpful, regardless of what anyone
says or does. (99: 1)
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INDEX to SbBB Workbook

.
Abstinence, see Group Norms, also 4, 10, 15

Actor, 33, 55, 62, 68, 72, 77, 90. 93, 108
Alcoholics Anonymous (BB), 5, 6, 18, 45-48,
109-110, 111-113
Alcoholics Anonymous, (AA), i, 3, 4, 21, 58
Allergy, see Physical Compulsion, also 19-20
Ambition, see Instincts
Amends, 86, 99-100, 101-102, 114
Anger, see Resentment
Anonymity, see Group
Anxiety, see Fear
Appendix II, 29
Arch, 33, 83
Assets, see Inventory, also 40, 42, 88
Attendance, see Group
Avoid Retaliation (Forgive), see Turnaround,
also 48, 58, 78
Big Book, see Alcoholics Anonymous
Bill W., 21-22, 88
Bills Story, 21
Blame, see Shortcoming
Body, see Physical Compulsion
Brattleboro, 3
Buddy, see Group
Cement, 25
Character Assets, see Inventory, also Assets
Character Defects, see Shortcoming
Compulsion, see Physical Compulsion
Conduct, see Relationship
Confidentiality, see Group
Conscious Contact, see Focus, also 87, 105-106
Contents & Forewords (BB), 18
Contents (SbBB), 1
Cornerstone, 16, 29
Courage, see Assets, also 60, 66, 83
Craving, 19, 83, 111
Defect, see Shortcomings
Denial, see Shortcomings, also Physical
Compulsion, also 59, 87, 89
Disease, 15, 20
Dishonest, see Motives
Doctors Opinion, 19
Dr. Bob, 50, 86, 88
Dr. Silkworth, 19
Ebby T., 21
Fault, see Shortcoming
Fear Three Questions, 65-70
Fear, 15, 39, 43, 44, 46-47, 55, 59, 64, 65-70,
72, 75, 77
Fearful, see Motives
Fellowship, 25, 110
Focus, 6, 7, 13, 14, 19, 39, 81-82, 105-106, 114
Forewords, 18
Forgive, see Avoid Retaliation
Format, see Group
Foundation, 15, 21, 107
Getting Well, see Sanity, also Step 2
God, see Higher Power
Group Format, 6-10
Group Norms, 4-5
Grudge List, see Resentment
Guilt, 15
Happy, Joyous and Free, 3, 108
Harm, see Relationship
Higher Power, Choice of, 22, 29, 30, 31-32, 34
Homework, see Group
Hurt, see Relationship
Inconsiderate, see Motives
Instincts, 46, 49, 55, 62, 66, 68, 72, 74, 77
Introduction, 3
Inventory, 39-78
James, William, 26
Jung, Carl, 21, 26, 112
Keystone, 17, 33
Liabilities, see Inventory
Meditation, see Focus
Mental Obsession, 19-20, 24, 27, 104
Message, 18, 88, 108, 114
Mind, see Mental Obsession
Mistake, see Shortcoming
More About Alcoholism (BB), 27
Motives, defined 59, also 43, 44, 48, 49, 58-60,
63-64, 69-70, 72, 75-76, 78, 90, 106, 113
Norms, see Group
Obsession, see Mental Obsession
Outline of Session, see Group
Oxford Group, 18, 21-22, 58
Part I Focus, 13
SbBB Index
115
Part I Notes, 6, 15-17

Part II Focus, 39
Part II Notes, 6, 41-44
Part III Focus, 81-82
Part III Notes, 6, 83-88
Personal Relationships, see Instincts
Physical Compulsion, 15, 19-20, 23, 27
Pocketbook, see Instincts
Powerless, 16, 23
Practice, see Principles, also 3, 7, 14, 98, 108
Prayer, see Focus
Prefaces (BB), 18
Principles, 7, 28, 30, 34, 40, 42, 48, 60, 64, 66,
70, 72, 76, 78, 88, 90, 94, 98, 100, 102, 104,
106, 108, 109-110, 114
Problem, 18, 19, 21-22, 27, 33
Program of Action, 18, 21-22, 34
Recover, 15, 104
Reference, 5
Relapse, 27
Relationship Nine questions, 70, 73-74
Relationships, 39, 42, 44, 46, 69, 70, 71-76, 7778, 85, 90, 92, 99-100, 101-102
Relaxation, see Focus
Religion, 16
Resentment, 39, 40, 42, 44, 45-48, 49, 53-64,
77-78
Responsible, 99
Retaliation, see Avoid Retaliation
Roland H., 21
Safe harbor, 4
Sanity, 16, 29, 31
SbBB, see Steps by the Big Book
Self, see Instincts
Self-esteem, see Instincts
Selfish, see Motives
Self-seeking, see Motives
Sessions, see Group Norms
Sex Instinct, see Instincts
Sex, see Relationships
Shame, 15
Shortcomings, see Inventory, also 13, 41, 43, 44,
58-60, 63-64, 69-70, 72, 75-76, 78, 83-85, 8990, 93-95, 97-98, 113
116
Society, see Instincts

Solution, 18, 21-22, 25, 34
Spirit, see Higher Power
Spiritual Structure, 18
Spirituality, 16, 29
Sponsor, 5
Step 01, 15, 19, 22, 23-24, 25, 27, 28, 111
Step 02, 16, 22, 25, 27, 29-30, 31-32, 112
Step 03, 17, 22, 33-34, 35, 113
Step 04, 22, 37-78, 113
Step 05, 22, 83, 89-91, 113
Step 06, 22, 83, 93-95, 114
Step 07, 22, 84, 96, 97-98, 114
Step 08, 22, 85, 92, 99-100, 114
Step 09, 22, 86, 101-102, 114
Step 10, 22, 40, 87, 103-104
Step 11, 22, 87, 105-106, 114
Step 12, 22, 88, 107-110, 114
Step 4 Flowchart, 49
Step 4 Review, 77-78
Step Written Inventories, 23-24, 28, 31-32, 3536, 78, 91, 92, 95, 96
Steps by Big Book, ii
Steps, Twelve, 2
Study, see Principles, also 3, 7
Summary of Steps, 111-114
Taking Steps, 3, 7, 28, 30, 34, 50, 78, 90, 94, 98,
100, 102, 104, 106, 108
There Is A Solution (BB), 25
Thought-habits, see Shortcomings
Turnarounds, 43, 57, 60, 63-64, 66, 69-70, 72,
75-76, 78
Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, 6, 18,
Twelve Steps, see Steps, Twelve
Unmanageable, 15, 24
We Agnostics (BB), 29
Well, see Sanity
Whole, see Sanity
Willing, 17, 34, 35, 58, 62, 70, 74, 76
Wrong, see Shortcoming, also 60, 104
SbBB Index
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Study and Practice

PART II SESSION 8 through SESSION 12

PART III SESSION 13 through SESSION 20

SUMMARY OF STEPS BY THE BIG BOOK

The 12 STEPS of ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS

Theres help for my problem.]

I make a commitment to follow ALL of the suggestions.]

STEP 4 Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

I share who I am with someone else.]

As a result of Step 4, I see things about myself I would like to change.]

STEP 7 Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

I start trying to change!]

As a result of Step 4, I make a list of

If possible, I mend things with these

STEP 10 Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong

I look at ME daily. How am I doing:

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How a Session May Go

An OUTLINE of a typical Study Session

DAILY PRACTICE OF 12 STEP PRINCIPLES

How might a Study

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Optional example of FORMAT outline

1st Open on time with focus meditation or prayer such

Initial 2 min.: Review agenda for this session.

3rd The SESSION Approximate group study and

& desire recovery...

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7TH STEP MEDITATION / PRAYER

11TH STEP MEDITATION / PRAYER

What might a day in recovery look like?

Upon awakening, read Daily Reflections (for example).