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The funniest reactions to
Netanyahus Hitler-mufti theory
l Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netan-
yahu told the World Zionist Congress

last week that the mufti of Jerusalem
gave Adolf Hitler the idea for the Holocaust, prompting swift and widespread
condemnation from serious people.
German Chancellor Angela Merkel
was quick to put the Nazi leader back
on the hook, saying Germany abides
by its responsibility for the Holocaust.
And Israeli historians and politicians
publicly denounced Netanyahus
claim, comparing it to the rhetoric of
conspiracy theorists.
With this, Netanyahu joins a long line

of people that we would call Holocaust
deniers, Moshe Zimmerman, a
professor of German history at Hebrew
University, told the New York Times.
At the same time, the wheels of
Internet mockery got rolling, providing
a lighter take on the controversy. Here
are some of the best jabs:
The Yoko Ono theory

We finally know who really broke up the
Beatles.
Meet the soup mufti

Everyone knows the iconic Soup Nazi
character from the sitcom Seinfeld.
If the mufti really had the impact on
history that Netanyahu suggested,
wouldnt we be saying Soup Mufti as
much as Soup Nazi?
Lesson learned
If Bart Simpson writes something on
the chalkboard enough times, it almost
seems true.
The muftis hotel was just ranked

the best in the Middle East.
(Yes, that mufti.)
l Last week we
learned that the

grand mufti of Jerusalem, Haj Amin
al-Husseini, gave Hitler the idea for the
Final Solution or
at least that Israels
prime minister believes that he did.
But it turns out
that the Palestinian
nationalist was not
merely a notorious
anti-Zionist and antiSemite: He also was a talented hotel
builder, responsible in part for what
is now the acclaimed Waldorf Astoria
Jerusalem.
The luxury hotel the mufti built,
which since has been refurbished
and is under new management, was
just named top hotel in the Middle
East and seventh in the world in
the Conde Nast Travelers annual
Readers Choice Awards.
According to the Times of Israel,
the Waldorf Astoria Jerusalem,
previously the Palace Hotel,
opened in 2014 after a $50 million
refurbishment. The original
hotel, in western Jerusalem near
Independence Park, was empty for
years, then used for government
offices by both the British Mandate
and Israel and then vacant again.
Citing a recent Israeli TV report,
the Times of Israel said Israels prestate militia, the Haganah, planted
listening devices in the hotels
chandeliers to spy on meetings of
Britains Peel Commission, held there
from late 1936 to mid-1937.
Jerusalems Mamilla Hotel and King

David Hotel also made the Middle
East top 10 list.
According to GoJerusalem, a
tourism website, the Palace was
built in 1928-29 under the order of
Jerusalems Supreme Muslim Council
and supervised by the infamous
mufti of Jerusalem.
The engineer supervising the
hundreds of Arab workers was
Jewish and a Haganah member,
facilitating the spying incident later.
But, GoJerusalem writes, the Palace
didnt stay in business long.
Due to a hardcore rivalry, much
deceit (during the excavation, it was
revealed that the site was an old
Muslim cemetery the Mufti knew
that but covered it up) and a dash
of sabotage between the Britishappointed Arab mayor and the mufti,
the hotel was destined to fail. Its
management was handed over to
a corrupt local hotelier, but it was
forced to close its doors once the
King David opened down the block.
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Someone had to connect the Netanyahu controversy with Joe Bidens
announcement that he will not seek the Democratic presidential nomination.
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Dumbledore is an academic and he believes

that certain channels of communication
should always remain open.
Author J.K. Rowling, defending her opposition to a cultural boycott of Israel with an
analogy from her Harry Potter books.
AT THE MOVIES:
Room a winner
with audiences
Room, a smallish-budget indie
film, won the
audience choice award
at the recent Toronto
Film Festival, and critics
all agree that Oscar nominations will rain down
upon it. It opened a
couple of weeks ago in
limited release and now
is gradually rolling out to
theaters everywhere. The
film centers on Jack, a
5-year-old boy who is
locked in an 11 x 11 foot
room with his mother,
called Ma (Brie Larson).
Ma was kidnapped by a
crazy guy when she was
a teen, sexually abused,
and forced to live in this
cramped space. Nonetheless, she somehow
manages to give Jack a
fulfilling life. They
eventually do make a
daring escape, and the
second half of the film
shows how they cope
with the real world.
Room is based on a
lauded 2010 novel by
Irish-Canadian Emily
Donoghue. Many asked
for the film rights. Irish
director LENNY ABRAHAMSON, 48, courted
Donoghue for several
years and he got the
rights when she realized
what he wrote in his first
letter to her was true
other filmmakers would
try to change her text
and usual visual tricks.
The key was to keep it
simple.
Abrahamson has directed four acclaimed
indie films, the most recent of which (Frank,
2014) was noted in this
column. Back in 2014,
he spoke to The Forward about being an
Irish Jew. His grandfather, a kosher butcher,
came to Ireland in the
1930s. Although not
religious, Abrahamsons
family belonged to an
Orthodox shul, and he
went to Hebrew school
and was bar mitzvah.
He said he faced little
anti-Semitism growingup he was a curiosity
to schoolmates, most of
whom never met a Jew.
The director told the
Forward that while he
feels deeply Irish, his
films have been influenced by the outsider
perspective of being a
Jew, and by the Jewish
intellectual tradition.
Just in time for Halloween comes Scouts
Guide to the Zombie
Apocalypse, a horror film with comedy.
HALSTON SAGE, 22,
has a co-staring role
as a badass cocktail
waitress who teams up
with three boy scouts to
save their peaceful town
from a Zombie invasion.
(Zombie opens everywhere today.)
AMANDA PEET, 44
(HBOs Togetherness)
Lenny Abrahamson
Halston Sage
Stephen Breyer
The literary corner

David Benioff
Charlotte Rae
has penned her first

book, Dear Santa, Love,
Rachel Rosenstein. The
title character is a little
Jewish girl who wishes to
celebrate Christmas like
most of her friends and
neighbors. It was inspired
by questions Peets own
two older children asked
about Santa, etc. (She
and her husband, DAVID
BENIOFF, 45, have two
daughters, 8 and 5, and a
boy, 10 months.) She told
People: They felt left
out, as I think most Jewish children do, and I was
exploring different ways
to make sense of it.
Some of the books proceeds will go to Seeds
of Peace, a non-political
organization that tries
to bring teenagers from
conflict zones around
the world together and

teach them the skills of
co-existence and peace
making.
Peet, the daughter of
a Quaker father and a
Jewish mother, who did
celebrate Christmas and
Chanukah as a child, and
once referred to herself as a little of both,
called herself a Jewish
mother while speaking to People. She
told Time that she and
Benioff, the Emmy-winning creator of Game
of Thrones, have never
celebrated Christmas.
Her sister, a medical
doctor who is her only
sibling, also has a Jewish
husband.
CHARLOTTE RAE,
89, best known as
Mrs. Garrett in the
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The Court and the World: American Law and the New
Global Realities. No, its not beach reading but it does
explain why American lawyers and judges have to be
aware of law in other countries in an increasingly intertwined world.
N.B.
1980s sitcom Facts of

Life, is out with a new
memoir: The Facts of
My Life. While Facts
was her most visible role,
she had a long career in,
frankly, higher quality
productions. A talented
musical comedian, she
was nominated for two
Tony awards in the 60s,
and she was screamingly
funny as the character
Sylvia Schnauser on Car
54, Where Are You?
(Check YouTube; use Rae
and 54 as search terms.)
Her 54 husband was

the late AL LEWIS,
Grandpa on The
Munsters.
She was born Charlotte Lubotsky in Milwaukee and her mother was
childhood friends with
GOLDA MEIR. Rae details her battle with alcohol and her devastation
when composer JOHN
STRAUSS, her husband
and the father of her two
sons, came out as gay in
1975. (They divorced).
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A fierce struggle for restitution
Local synagogue to host Kristallnacht commemoration
LOIS GOLDRICH
hat can prompt a person to

take on a difficult, obstaclestrewn, and sometimes
painful task?
For Dr. Joanne Intrator, the reasons to
pursue her mission the restitution of Wallstrasse 16, a Berlin property stolen by the
Nazis grew as she moved forward.
When the New York-based psychiatrist was
offered a chance to regain the family-owned
building in what is now East Berlin, she
approached the prospect with caution. But
after learning later that the building subsequently was used to produce both Nazi flags
and the yellow stars Jews were forced to wear,
she grew bolder, demonstrating both courage
and tenacity in her struggle.
Ultimately, after about nine years, Dr.
Intrator won. But as both German officials
and her own lawyer told her her case was
unusual. Most claimants die without seeing
any results.
Dr. Intrator, who lives on Long Island City,
will speak about her experiences on November 9 at Mahwahs Beth Haverim Shir Shalom
in a Kristallnacht commemoration co-sponsored by the synagogue and the Center for
Holocaust and Genocide Studies at Ramapo
College. A regular contributor to the Journal
for the Study of Antisemitism, Dr. Intrator has
spoken about Holocaust and restitution issues
in both Germany and the United States. The
story of her familys experiences under the
Nazis was included in a special exhibit of the
City Museum of Berlin. The exhibit, Stolen
Heart, will be shown at the Center for Jewish
History in February 2016 under the auspices
of the Leo Baeck Institute.
I was born in the United States right after
the war, Dr. Intrator said, and both her parents, Gerhard and Lotte Intrator, were refugees from Germany. They owned a great
deal of property, but they had to sell it bit by
bit to get money to get out. Their connection to the building in East Berlin then in
the center of the city only surfaced after the
Berlin wall came down.
When her father died in 1993, Dr. Intrator
knew that he was connected to the building in some way. His name appeared in the
Grundbook, which recounted the history
of the ownership of the building. Our name
came up as well as that of another family
related to us who our grandfather was in
business with. Although her father always
had maintained that they would never see
a cent from the Germans, she took over his
claim.
A German history major in college,
Dr. Intrator said she was brought up in
the shadow of my parents experiences.
Dr. Joanne Intrators family once

owned this building in Berlin.
While reclaiming the building was, as she

explained, meaningless financially, the family share was minute, the whole issue was one
of principle.
Her journey began when a lawyer from
Berlin came to see Dr. Intrator and her
brother, Jack, about the building. His fee, he
explained, was being paid by a Zurich-company that was owned by a former concentration camp survivor who had done well and
now was financing cases such as these. The
lawyer urged Dr. Intrator to sign on to the restitution effort. Relatives in her extended family had already done so, he said.
But something disturbing surfaced at that
meeting, which would cause trouble later on.
Apparently, the building in question changed
ownership sold in a forced auction before
November 9, 1938 Kristallnacht. That
meant it could be excluded from the German
law that held that any property taken for
religious or philosophical reasons would be
returned to the Jewish owner. This did not
include forced auctions, Dr. Intrator said.

The lawyer said the burden of proof was
on the Jewish claimant. Wed have to prove
that anti-Semitism was the reason the building was sold. I said, Youve got to be kidding.
On April 7, 1933, my father was told he would
have to prove he wasnt Jewish or he would
have to give up his position as a judge. He lost
the position.
While the lawyer thought the family ultimately would win, he was sure that the representatives of the people who bought the
building in the forced auction would take
them to an appeals court. That, he said, was
not covered in his arrangement with the firm

in Zurich, and it would be very expensive. It
would also take quite a long time, by which
time, he said, some members of your family will be dead, Dr. Intrator said. That was
quite a statement.
He went further and said we should make
a deal with the people who took the building and split the proceeds for its sale. My
brother and I exchanged looks: How could
we go into a business relationship with the
people who took the building?
I was a mother, a wife, I did the first brain
imaging on psychopaths, I had an academic
career. But I was going to figure this out.
Since I was going to Munich that fall to present the findings of my research, I told the lawyer I would come to Berlin and see the building and wed talk. In the meantime, she and
her brother began to dismantle the family
home in Forest Hills and I found file drawers I had never opened. In the drawers were
some 3,000 documents, now in the Jewish
Museum in Berlin.
They were primarily letters between
my father, grandfather, and other relatives
trapped in Germany or Eastern Europe who
were ultimately killed, she said. The letters
also discussed her fathers legal issues. They
supported the position that [the family] was
under persecution, Dr. Intrator said.
She sent the files to Berlin.
Still, as the time approached to go to Germany, I was getting apprehensive, she said.
I didnt know much. Fortunately, she found
Hans Frank, a former partner in the international law firm Fried, Frank, Harris, Shriver
& Jacobson. Mr. Frank, who since has died,
was a tax expert who helped fellow victims
of Nazism.
He was my dads age and had been in the
same program to become a municipal judge,
Dr. Intrator said. He came here in 1933. Mr.
Frank, she said, was like an angel, very supportive throughout the whole period. Joining
her in Berlin, Mr. Frank disagreed with her
attorney, who urged that she should negotiate with the new owners. He said we had a
strong case and there was no reason to.
Returning to New York, there was not
much happening. It was like hurry up and
wait. They needed this and that, constantly
delaying consideration of her case. They
said they were backed up. They had so many
cases and not enough help. In 1995, however, Dr. Intrator got my act together. She
had the letters translated and became more
familiar with their contents. Returning to Germany in 1995 for the 50th anniversary of the
liberation of Auschwitz, she felt increasingly
optimistic.
I met with the lawyers and it was the same
story. They blew me off, she said, although
Local
she did learn then that the Nazi flag had been
produced in the building and suggested
unsuccessfully that this might prove the
Nazis had engineered its seizure.
Finally, in 1997, her lawyers came up with
the idea that she should confront the judges
directly. I went to Berlitz, improved my German, and went, she said. There were three
officials. The first one attacked my grandfather, saying he was a bad businessman. I told
him to stop, adding that my father had said
we would never get a cent. Then I pulled out
a camera and photographed them. I said I
would show my family in the U.S. what they
looked like. Pandemonium broke out, and
they said they would put the case on the top
of their pile. The chief bureaucrat handed me
candies while I was crying. At least I got their
attention.
That action, pulling out her camera, was
intuitive and spontaneous, she said. If people are not moved by guilt, sometimes they
may be moved by shame, she added.
Still, there was one obstacle after
another. In 1999 Dr. Intrator hired an international investigative agency, which discovered a number of interesting things, apparently overlooked by her own lawyers. They
were American-born, useful, and smart,
she said. Not only did they uncover the Nazi
membership of the people who took the
building, but they found that those new owners had rented space in the building since the
1920s, and were aware they were renting
from a Jewish landlord. They watched the
deterioration of his economic life, then took
the building in a forced auction. It was appalling that the lawyers didnt know this.
Those same lawyers, however, were making headway with other members of her
family, who held larger shares in the building. While they had supported Dr. Intrators
restitution effort, an uncle had fallen on
hard times and could sorely use the money
he would gain by negotiating with the new
owners.
Hans Frank helped find a way for me to
negotiate, she said. In the file cabinet was
a letter from a cousin describing in minute
detail what being rounded up was like. I had
it translated and sent it in English and German to all the relatives. I said, We cant negotiate with them. This happened to one of our
relatives. We all became a unified force.
Shy at the beginning of her quest, Dr. Intrator said she grew angry and infuriated. I
wasnt shy anymore. Indeed, she said, her
family was worried about her determination
to take this to the bitter end.
The story, however, ends well. Although
the value of the Berlin building had deteriorated, the family was able to sell it and saw
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some financial gain. But even more, The

process allowed me to go though the letters
and learn about my family, said Dr. Intrator,
who is now writing a book about her lifechanging experience.
It was a hard thing to do, she said, adding that information that would have proved
helpful in restitution efforts has only recently
been uncovered by brilliant scholars in their
40s looking under rocks. The information
was not available. The wall had just come
down, and the East and West had not united
in terms of information. The lawyers should
have helped me, but it was just a business
venture for them. They were not really interested in restitution, or our family.
Dr. Intrator said that she speaks about her
experiences because stuff like this shouldnt
happen again. If I had not found out the
details, the level of participation of the Nazis
and depth with which they went into our
lives would not be known. I watched the
stages of the destruction of my family subtle but persistent. This can happen anywhere
in the world.
While the generation of survivors is almost
gone, it is important for my sons generation, she said. I needed to show him who
his family was and that his mother is fierce.
Beth Haverim Shir Shaloms rabbi, Joel
Mosbacher, feels strongly that it is important
to keep the memory of the Shoah alive. Now

more than ever, with fewer and fewer survivors, it becomes ever more incumbent upon
us to remember and tell the stories of the
Holocaust, and how it came to be that man
could be so inhumane against man, he said.
Now more than ever, our children, who will
never meet an actual survivor, need to know
that the Holocaust was real, and that it can
happen again in the world to us, to others
unless we are diligent, and unless we learn
the lessons of the past.
Its not that we teach kids to be Jewish
because of the Holocaust; we dont. Its not
that we say, be Jewish otherwise Hitler wins.
That doesnt work as an educational philosophy. We teach about the power, meaning,
and values of living a Jewish life. And we also
teach about what can happen when human
beings fail to live up to their humanity.
The two are not mutually exclusive.
What: Dr. Joanne Intrator will speak
about her restitution efforts
When: November 9 at 7 p.m.
Where: At Beth Haverim Shir Shalom,
280 Ramapo Valley Road (Route 202)
in Mahwah.
For information: Call (201) 512-1983 or
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Making the case for prison reform

Former convict to speak at River Edge congregation
LARRY YUDELSON
Its not every synagogue speaker
who has served two stints in jail
for mail fraud.
Then again, its not every
former prisoner who wants to
document the experience of
other former prisoners the way
Steven Spielberg recorded the
memories of her Holocaust survivor parents. And even fewer
of those documentary-making
former prisoners grew up in
Teaneck.
During my time in prison,
I spent every day I could interviewing women about their stoEvie Litwok
ries, Evie Litwok said.
Ms. Litwok will speak at Temple Avopsychiatric hospitals 30 years ago, we have
dat Shalom in River Edge on Friday night,
to close the prisons and bring them back
November 13.
down to people who pose a threat to sociEven people who are in prison have
ety. Non-violent crime does not represent
human rights, and these rights are being
a threat, she said.
violated, said Rabbi Paul Jacobson,
The past 40 years saw a radical growth
explaining why he invited her to speak.
in the prison population in this country.
Our tradition commands us to treat
With less than 5 percent of the worlds
everyone with respect and dignity.
population, the United States has about a
I spent my life in the womens movequarter of its prisoners. Forty years ago,
ment, the gay movement, said Ms. Litabout 150 people per 100,000 were in
wok, who graduated from Teaneck High
prison. In 2012, the figure was 707.
School in 1969 and is now living on a
We have built a system that is not fair,
friends couch in Manhattan. Nothing radthat disproportionately affects black and
icalized me as much as a week in prison.
brown people, Ms. Litwok said.
What was stunning for me was how
Writing in the Atlantic last month, Tamuch domestic violence there was in the
Nehesi Coates made a strong argument
stories of her fellow inmates, how much
that the disproportionate affect itself
abuse there was, and the most important
was the goal that drove the growth of the
thing, how many of these women were
American prison system.
not guilty of anything but were just in the
As the civil-rights movement wound
wrong place at the wrong time.
down, [Patrick] Moynihan looked out and
I met a lot of women who lived in small
saw a black population reeling under the
towns in places like Kentucky or Tenneseffects of 350 years of bondage and plunsee. If they werent working in a grocery
der, Mr. Coates wrote. He believed that
store or gas station, they all got high.
these effects could be addressed through
That was their life, because there was no
state action. They were through the mass
employment. Were putting people into
incarceration of millions of black people.
prisons who are unemployed and nothing
Ms. Litwok said, In prison, what you
better to do than to get high. We have to
see are black people, poor people, brown
show them how to help other people and
people. Nobody who is in prison is high
teach them skills. Just the way we closed
up on any kind of food chain. Theyre all
people who couldnt afford any kind of

attorney. They pled guilty for fear that
instead of 10 years would have to spend
life in jail.
The latest figures is that some 100 million people have been convicted of some
kind of crimes; misdemeanors or felonies.
We have 2.3 million people in prison. We
have 12 million in American jails in a year
much shorter sentences but a lot of people. There are 5.9 million on supervised
release. under the control of the Department of Justice. Im one of those people.
I have three years of probation. It adds up
to 20 million people under some kind of
control during a given year, she said.
Ms. Litwok wants to use the tools she
used as a graduate student in Holocaust
studies to look at Americas prison system.
Its important to memorialize Americas 40 years of mass incarceration. People
dont understand what we did, she said.
I want to create a digital library for the
formerly incarcerated. My little contribution would be if you could see the faces
and hear the stories, and understand that
not only are we jailing and incarcerating
people, we are incarcerating their families.
One of the most striking things was women
reading out loud the letters their children
sent them, she said.
As a Jewish woman, Ms. Litwok has
some atypical stories from her years in
prison. Being Jewish in prison is an experience in and of itself, because there are
not many of us, she said.
She wore a star of David inmates are
allowed religious jewelry and that often
led to the question: What is a Jew?
There wasnt a day that I didnt have to
answer the question at least six times why
I didnt believe in Jesus Christ. You have to
be careful about your answers. You cant
be a wise guy. In prison, nobody is really
your friend, but you cant afford to have
enemies. If you offend someone your life
in prison can be miserable. People would
say to me, Have a blessed day and pray to
Jesus because they knew I wasnt praying
to Jesus.
And then there were the women who
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did the services in Hebrew and everybody

was clapping afterward like we were doing
a Broadway show. They got to get out in
the evening for a three-hour dinner and
service. That was a big perk.
Then they converted to Islam for Ramadan, she said.
Ms. Litwok said she had no idea what
being in prison would entail.
You can see The Shawshank Redemption 300 times, and its not reality until
you walk through the prison door, she
said. When you hear the door close
behind you, it only takes a couple of hours
to realize what the losing of freedom
means.
You go from being a free person where
you can speak your mind and walk your
dog and go anywhere to having to follow
a set of rules that are for the most part
unreasonable. You dont have any rights
to make any choices about anything.
But being freed from prison doesnt
mean that you can start with a clean slate,
your debt to society paid.
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Theres no way for anyone to have a normal life

after prison, she said. The two things you need to
survive are housing and a job and you cant get either.
If they do a background check on you and find you
were in prison, you wont get an apartment. If you
dont have a family thats going to support you Ms.
Litwoks family cut ties with her youre homeless
or, anecdotally, theres a lot of suicide.
Its very gratifying that the Jewish community is
beginning to see prison reform as an issue, Rabbi
Rachel Kahn-Troster of Teaneck said.
Rabbi Kahn-Troster is director of programs at
Truah: The Rabbinic Call for Human Rights, which
began a campaign last year to educate the Jewish community on ending mass incarceration. The campaign
grew out of the groups work on ending torture, which
has morphed into a fight against solitary confinement
in prison.
Ending solitary confinement is still at the center of
Truahs prison reform efforts.
Solitary confinement has been called torture by the
United Nations, Rabbi Kahn-Troster said. It begins
to drive people crazy. It leads to physical and mental
degeneration very quickly. It doesnt lead to peoples
rehabilitation.
The people most likely to be in solitary are those
who have the hardest time in prison, like the mentally
ill. We imagine its the punishment for your crime, the
worst for the worst. The reality is that most people
end up in solitary confinement because theyve broken a prison rule. It could be something as little has
having too many stamps.
In California, people have been in solitary for
decades. Juveniles can end up in solitary. People are
shocked to learn that people who are in pretrial detention can end up in solitary. We shouldnt be doing that
to people, she said.
Look at Kalief Browder, Ms. Litwok said. He was
on Rikers Island, 16 years old, accused of stealing a
backpack, was in prison for three years without a trial.
He was detained because he couldnt afford bail. They
put him in solitary for a thousand days. When he came
out he killed himself. and it turned out he hadnt stolen the backpack.
Rabbi Kahn-Troster said that were beginning to
see a sea change. People are seeing that the point of
incarceration should be to rehabilitate people. Most
people who go to prison come back to our communities. What does it mean if they come back in worse
shape than when they left?
The question is like a giant mountain, an imposing
challenge, she said. On the other hand, since so much
change is happening, we feel we can chip away at the
mountain in a way that makes a difference, she said.
Truah has called on New Jersey residents to show
their support for a state bill, introduced last year, that
would curtail the use of solitary confinement.
It will take a while to get through, Rabbi KahnTroster said.
Ms. Litwok said that people need to demand alternatives to incarceration. My alternative is community
service. Let them work for nonprofit charities. Let
them staff a food bank.
Most of the bank robbers I met were kids who had
a Bonnie-and-Clyde idea. It was just stupidity. Let
them help people.
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Puppy
love
Dumont pet-rescuer
places Egyptian dog
in Israeli household
JOANNE PALMER
ow did a mistreated dog from

Egypt end up in an Israeli
household in Closter?
If you ever have been in
love with a dog, youre well on your way to
understanding right away. If not, you should
know that when your dog looks up at you
and wags her tail and cocks her head and
smiles at you (and yes, dogs do smile), well,
its just a tiny little side trip to heaven.
Okay, you, in this paragraph, means
me. Not everyone loves dogs; there are
those benighted souls who have not yet
given over their hearts, and others who suffer from allergies and cannot. But it is fair to
say that dogs offer the kind of pure, unconditional love that people, being much more
complicated beings, simply cannot.
Although dogs have love to offer, often
they are mistreated, abandoned, and
abused. Often such dogs end up in shelters,
which work hard to try to find homes for
them; some shelters keep dogs until they
can be placed, but others run out of space
and euthanize dogs who have come to be
seen as unadoptable.
The possibility of that fate is what drives
Robyn Urman of Dumont. Shes a full-time
hairdresser whose second full-time job, a
volunteer one, is running the rescue service
called Pet ResQ Inc, a group that, according
to its website, www.petresqinc.org, saves
dogs from high kill shelters, puts them in
foster homes, and gets them ready for their
forever homes.
Ms. Urman is Jewish, and a Jewish-based
sense of obligation to work toward repairing this broken world has been a guiding
force for her. I have always loved animals,
she said. I have always been a caregiver.
Through the years, I volunteered at places
where I recognized the true horror of what
people do to animals.
Once you walk into a shelter, it changes
you, she said.
Ms. Urman grew up in Paramus; when
she discovered her love for rescuing dogs
she lived in New Milford, in an apartment
where she was not allowed to have pets.
Instead, I transported them, and I did what
I could, she said. When she could have
dogs, she fostered them, taking in special
needs cases, nursing them to health, and
then arranging their adoptions by people
who could surround them with love while
she took on the next challenging situation.
I took the dogs no one else would
Abby Hockstein cuddles with Major, n Masoor.
take, she said. I had a dog who was blind

because someone threw battery acid in his
face, and a border collie who was beaten
with a baseball bat, and ended up in a great
home in Tenafly.
Its fortunate that Im a hairdresser
in Tenafly at Salon Pavel, she said
because I meet everyone, and everybody
knows me, and Im not shy.
Although Ms. Urman has been working
with abused dogs for more than 20 years,
the emotional ante was upped even further for her when she went to New Orleans
to help rescue dogs endangered by Hurricane Katrina (and discovered many killed
by the storm and its aftermath as well). I
always say that it is the best thing I have
ever done as a human being, and the worst
thing that Ive ever seen, she said.
I learned how not to shower, how to
sleep in a parking lot, how to never think
about nails and never think about makeup
and meet the most incredible people from
around the world, she said. The work was
eye-opening.
You get in the zone at least I did and
I close my eyes, do what has to be done, and
fall apart afterward.
We rescued a lot of animals.
Three years after Katrina and three years
less one month after Hurricane Rita, another
devastating storm that triggered mass evacuations across much of the southwestern
coast, and which drew Ms. Urman back for
more rescue work she and friends shed
met in the course of their work organized
a reunion in New Orleans. It was the first
time Id been there when they had running
water, she said. And then Gustav hit the
next day. It was gross. That hurricane too
also killed people, mostly in Baton Rouge.
She was drawn as well to a flood in Iowa
in 2008. I got to swim with dead pigs in the
river, she said. Dead everythings. I came
home with a really bad stomach thing.
But something good came out of Hurricane Katrina for animal rescuers it raised
peoples awareness of the problems abandoned animals face, and the devastation it
causes the families who are forced to leave
them behind.
Back at home, Ms. Urman who celebrated becoming bat mitzvah in 2005,
when she was 42, with Dr. Dennis Shulman of Demarest, who is not only a rabbi
but also a Ph.D. psychologist and the 2008
Democratic nominee for Congress, officiating continued to place dogs. She talked to
everyone she met about the dogs she fostered, and how she could use all the help
she could get with the work. Everyone can
do something, she said; if you cannot adopt
or foster a dog, you can do all sorts of volunteer work, and you can provide financial
support. People either talk or they walk,
and I am lucky to know a lot of walkers,
Ms. Urman said. You should treat people
the way you want to be treated.
Pet ResQ works at rescuing animals,
fostering them, and finding the homes in
which both they and their new families will
flourish. She has fostered some dogs herself,
including some blind dogs, and she now has
as a full-time, forever dog the one she calls
her heart dog. I have worked with over
2,000 dogs but I love him, she said.
Animals make a big difference in peoples lives, she continued, so its important
to get the match right. We are very careful,
she said. People have to fill out an application, and we do reference checks and make
home visits. We have to make sure that people understand how much it might cost if
something happens. Dogs eventually get
sick, and veterinarians do not work for free.
I am a big dog lady perhaps an unnecessary statement and I have learned not
to expect other people to be like me, she
continued. I get it. I get that. People only do
what they are willing to do, and if you have
to ask them to do it they will throw it in your
face, so I dont ask any more.
That means, in practice, that Ms. Urman is
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careful about asking for help, and works
at lowering her own expectations.
Sometimes, though, people rise to
meet those expectations. Pilots will fly
dogs all over the country for me, she
said. They have a lot of money, and
they have the time.
Ms. Urman finds dogs to rescue from
all sorts of places, ranging from word of
mouth to Facebook. Its all in the networking, she said. Through Facebook,
she heard that the Muslim Brotherhood
in Egypt were dipping dogs in gasoline,
setting them on fire, and then tossing
them as burning missiles, among other
cruelties.
Through a Facebook friend, an Egyptian woman named Leila, who lives in
Cairo and who I adore, Ms. Urman
Major bears a striking resemblance to the Egyptian god Anubis.
said, told her about a dog, then named
Masoor. This dog was one of the first I
vendors, entertainment, and activities for
have ever gotten that didnt have an issue,
raised money to get dogs out. She finds
kids and their pets; it is also Ms. Urmans
she added; that is, he does not have any speflight parents, who are coming to New York
cial needs. He is beautiful, but she couldnt
annual opportunity to introduce Pet ResQ
and are willing to say that the dog is theirs.
find a home for him. Leila told me about
to the community.)
If dogs come without a human attached
him, and asked if I would take him, and I
The person who picked him up for me
to them, it would be another five hours at
said yes, I would.
held him overnight, I got him on Monday,
cargo and customs.
He looks to be like a Doberman-German
and then he got groomed because he
So he came to Kennedy, and I got him on
shepherd mix. They call them baladis, it
stank and then he went to Nitzas house.
a transport on October 11, which was also
means mutts in Arabic, Ms. Urman said.
And he got his name changed, not
the date of my big event, Woofstock. (Woofstock, held in Tenafly each fall, includes
I said Id take him. Leila and her friends
because anyone objected to his Arabic
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name, but because Autocorrect changed

Masoor to Major, Ms. Urman said.
Nitza Hockstein is fostering Major. I have
been fostering for a number of years, Ms.
Hockstein said. I started when my kids, Ari,
Noa, and Abby, were going crazy for a dog,
and I didnt know if theyd actually pull their
weight if we got them, so I said we should
foster first. We could take a dog for a few
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Stories of Nazi-hunting
In Englewood, Efraim Zuroff to talk about Holocaust war criminals
ABIGAIL KLEIN LEICHMAN
Dr. Efraim Zuroff jokes that his childhood
fantasy was to be the first Jew to play in the
National Basketball Association.
That didnt work out as he had hoped,
so instead he made a career of hunting
down Nazis and bringing them to justice
a task that many other Jews tell him is
their dream job.
On the evening of Monday November 9
the 77th anniversary of Kristallnacht
Dr. Zuroff will share personal stories from
his 30-plus years of Nazi hunting at the
Moriah School of Englewoods 44th annual
Library Benefit.
The library is one of the tools we have
in teaching about the Holocaust and Jewish history in general, he said in an interview from Eastern Europe, where he is
finishing his next book and also gathering
information on former Danish soldiers
responsible for the deaths of many Polish
Jews interned in a camp in Belarus during
1942 and 1943.
There is greater consciousness of the
Holocaust in Western society than ever
before, and Holocaust education can help
in the fight against xenophobia and racism, he said.
As director of the Simon Wiesenthal
Centers Israel branch in Jerusalem,
Dr. Zuroff coordinates Nazi war crimes
research worldwide and compiles the centers annual Status Report on the investigation and prosecution of Nazi war criminals, including a most wanted list. His
activities have been the subject of five television documentaries.
I will talk about what it means to be a
Nazi hunter in the 21st century, he said.
Im going to talk about efforts to bring
Nazis to justice through personal stories of
cases Ive dealt with to give people a greater
understanding of how we work, what trials
and tribulations we face, and why its still
important to try to maximize justice, 70
years after the end of World War II.
Among the many war criminals Dr.
Zuroff has helped bring to justice is Dinko
Sakic, the former commandant of the
Croatian concentration camp Jasenovac, a
place knows as the Auschwitz of the Balkans. In early October 1999, Sakic who
lived in Argentina for more than 50 years
was sentenced in Zagreb to 20 years
imprisonment. His was the first trial of a
Nazi war criminal in a post-Communist
country. Sakic died in prison in 2008, the
same year Dr. Zuroff was nominated for a
Nobel Peace Prize.
Raised in Brooklyn, Dr. Zuroff moved to
Israel in 1970, right after college. In 1978,
he became the first director of the Simon
Wiesenthal Center in Los Angeles, where
he helped establish a library and archives
Dr. Efraim Zuroff coordinated international efforts to bring Nazi war criminals to justice.
and was the historical adviser for the Academy Award-winning documentary Genocide. In 1980, the U.S. Justice Departments Office of Special Investigations
There is greater
consciousness
of the Holocaust
in Western
society than
ever before.
DR. EFRAIM ZUROFF
hired him as its sole researcher in Israel.

For six years, he assisted in the preparation of cases against many Nazi war criminals living in the United States.
In 1986, after his research uncovered the
postwar escape of hundreds of Nazi war
criminals to English-speaking countries,
Dr. Zuroff rejoined the Wiesenthal Center to coordinate its international efforts
to bring Holocaust perpetrators to justice.
These efforts have influenced the passage
of special laws to enable the prosecution
of Nazi war criminals in Canada, Australia,
and Great Britain.
In 2002, Dr. Zuroff co-launched Operation Last Chance, which offers financial
rewards for information facilitating the
conviction and punishment of remaining Nazi war criminals. His book by the
same name will be available for sale at the
Moriah evening.
So far, Operation Last Chance has been
initiated in Lithuania, Latvia, Estonia,
Poland, Romania, Austria, Croatia, Hungary, Germany, Argentina, Chile, Brazil,
Uruguay, and Norway, and has yielded the
names of some 800 previously unknown
suspects. One hundred and ten of those
names have been submitted to local
prosecutors.
Dr. Zuroff is a return guest at the Moriah
Library Benefit; his first appearance coincided with the 1994 publication of his first
book, Occupation: Nazi-Hunter, chronicling efforts to prosecute Nazi war criminals in Western democracies and explaining the rationale for such efforts several
decades after the crimes. His books and
articles have been translated into many
languages, and he speaks about his work
across the world.
He is now collaborating with a non-Jewish Lithuanian writer, Ruta Vanagaite, on
a unique book, Our People, about Lithuanian complicity in the murder of Jews.
The title is a double entendre referring to
Dr. Zuroffs relatives, who were murdered
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in the Holocaust, and Ms. Vanagaites relatives, who, she recently discovered to her
horror, participated in the murdering. The
book is coming out in Lithuanian in January, and an English version will follow.
Lithuania has been playing a major
role in efforts in Eastern Europe to rewrite
the narrative of the Holocaust to hide the
crimes of the local populations and downplay the evil of Nazism and equate it with
Communism, Dr. Zuroff said.
Emily Dauber of Englewood, a co-chair
of the benefit, described Dr. Zuroff as
an interesting and compelling speaker
whose work is of particular relevance in
todays world, to the state of Israel, and to
us as Jews.
Who: Nazi hunter Dr. Efraim Zuroff
What: Guest speaker at the Moriah
Schools 44th annual Library Benefit
When: Monday, November 9; 7:30 dinner, 8:15 talk
Where: Moriah, 53 S. Woodland St.,
Englewood
How much: Prepaid reservations start
at $60 per person ($110 per couple);
$75 per person at the door
Sponsored by: Elysha and Andrew
Rothstein
Reservations: www.moriah.org or
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No injuries but New Brunswick fire devastates landmark
Debra Rubin
Two days after a devastating fire gutted historic Congregation Poile Zedek in
New Brunswick, its rabbi stood outside its
charred brick faade and vowed to come
back.
Sure, well rebuild, Rabbi Abraham
Mykoff said on October 25, shortly after
leaving a meeting with the Middlesex
County Prosecutors Office, which concluded the blaze appears to be accidental, although an exact cause has not yet
been determined.
Well start all over, Rabbi Mykoff said,
although he does not know where the
congregation would be holding services
or what religious articles may be needed.
The engineer said the structure is good.
Ive received lots of offers of space from
synagogues and churches, he added. Its
been very heartwarming.
Firefighters arrived at 4:19 p.m., a short
time before Shabbat, on October 23 to find
heavy smoke coming from the Orthodox
synagogue, which is listed on the National
Register of Historic Places. The blaze was
under control by 8 p.m., but damage to
the building was severe and extensive,
according to the prosecutors office.
A press release from Mayor James
Cahills office said firefighters responded
within minutes to discover smoke in various places in the building. Shortly thereafter, flames broke through the roof.
The caretaker, the only person inside
the shul, escaped unhurt. Nearby buildings were evacuated as a precaution.
Smoke could be seen rising for miles as
firefighters from surrounding communities raced to offer mutual aid and helicopters circled overhead.
Jessica Wadkins, who works in Highland
Park, was walking across the Albany Street
bridge spanning the Raritan River between
Highland Park and New Brunswick when
she saw the synagogue roof engulfed in
flames. It was like a big barrel of smoke,
she said. It looked like a tornado.
Rabbi Mykoff ran into the burning
building, accompanied by a firefighter,
in an effort to save the synagogues Torah
scrolls. I handed him a Torah and went
to get another when part of the chandelier
came smashing down, Rabbi Mykoff said.
I said thats enough.
Nine other Torah scroll were lost in the
flames; some of them had been pasul
unfit for use. Rabbi Mykoff remained optimistic as he waited for officials to come to
allow him into the shul for the first time
since the fire. Although the basement,
which houses study space, the library,
and auxiliary prayer space, had suffered
some smoke and water damage, he hoped
that some books and religious articles
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were salvageable.
From the parking deck directly across
the street from the synagogue, piles of
debris were visible inside the structure,
whose roof had collapsed. Stained glass
windows were shattered, and pieces
of debris littered its steps. Yellow tape
encased the buildings fence, and a police
officer sat in his vehicle in its driveway.
Passing vehicles on Neilson Street slowed
as they went by, and pedestrians stopped
to stare.
Robert Weiss of Highland Park found
out from a police officer as he walked to
Shabbat services that the fire had engulfed
Poile Zedek.
Im devastated, Mr. Weiss said. Ive
been going here eight or nine years.
Avraham Shusteris of Monsey, N.Y., said
that when he had been a student at nearby
Rutgers University, this synagogue was
my whole life. It gave me an opportunity
to make a difference.
The 114-year-old congregation, which
once served the citys large immigrant
population, built the Neilson Street building in 1923. While the other Orthodox
synagogues followed their congregants
to neighboring Highland Park, the shul
stayed, attracting nearby Russian immigrants and Rutgers students. Many in the
After the
fire, above,
and before,
right
100-family congregation make the walk

from Highland Park.
The building was placed on the national
register in 1995. Its sanctuary with its
high ceilings, rows of stained glass windows, elegant lamps on the bima, and
striking turn-of-the-century art deco chandelier was renovated about three years
ago.
Mr. Shusteris, who speaks Russian, said
he was able to act as somewhat of a community liaison to immigrant members.
My last year, I spent more time here
than in class, he said. My connection to
the rabbi and shul made a huge impact in
my life. Its really sad for me, a tragedy.
When I look at that burned-out building
its like the Beit Hamikdash the Temple
in Jerusalem has burned.
The Jewish Federation in the Heart of
New Jersey released a statement, posted

on its website, noting it was devastated
by the tragic fire.
The thoughts of the entire Jewish community in the heart of New Jersey go out
to all the families connected with the
congregation today and from its inception, it continued. We are grateful to the
fire departments that kept the fire from
spreading to adjacent buildings and to all
those who continue to assure the safety of
the community.
The federation has established an email
address, [email protected], for anyone who wants to leave a supportive message for the congregation.
This story was first published in the
MetroWest New Jersey Jewish News; Debra
Rubin is the papers Middlesex bureau chief.
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Local delegates report back from the World Zionist Congress
LARRY YUDELSON
effi Kogen voted in Jerusalem

last week.
The 24-year-old Fair Lawn
native, now transplanted to Manhattan, was one of 145 American delegates
to the World Zionist Congress and one of
a handful from northern New Jersey.
It was really exciting to take part in
the ongoing Zionist project, he said.
The first Zionist Congress was convened in 1897 by Theodor Herzl, to figure
out concrete steps toward his radical idea
of creating a Jewish state.
This years Congress, the 37th, could
barely grab the attention of the Jerusalem
Post or the Jewish Telegraphic Agency,
news organizations that once reveled in
the play-by-play of Jewish bureaucracy.
More than 50,000 American Zionists
paid $10 to vote in this years elections,
which allocated the American delegations members between competing parties, ranging from the political left to the
political right, from Reform to Orthodox.
For Mr. Kogen, who loves meetings and

was a delegate for Mercaz, the Conservative movements Zionist organization, it
was an incredible honor to take part in
the discussions.
We might think, okay, we have the
State of Israel, what is there to keep
going? Why does this body continue to
meet? he said. Yet there are so many
tensions that continue to exist, between
the right and left politically, between
diaspora Jewry and Jews who live in
Israel, the different religious streams.
This is a body that provides for those tensions to be addressed.
First, of course, there were the
speeches. The one time the Zionist Congress made it to the news was with Prime
Minister Benjamin Netanyahus speech;
he seemed to blame the Holocaust on
the Palestinian grand mufti, and it dominated headlines in Israel and around the
world for days. But there was also the
actual business of marking up resolutions
in committee and voting on them.
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Zionist Congress
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Jewish Family Service of North Jersey will
honor its past presidents at a Chai To
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Lawn Jewish Center/CBI. A Wish List auction will be held to provide client services
offer attendees the opportunity to bid
for the chance to sponsor client services.
Those services include bereavement or
therapy sessions, a Caf Europa program,
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The dinner is co-chaired by Allyn and
Richard Michaelson and Linda Dombrowsky and Ronald Rosensweig.
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Joanne Palmer
has used is controversial and widely disliked by the public, although it has been
protected by the board. According to the
boards president, Yehuda Weissmandl,
that firm no longer works for the board,
although it apparently had been fired once
before, only to return. As the financial cri-
t is not overstating or editorializing

to say that the situation in the East
Ramapo school district is a mess.
No matter who or what you believe
caused it, or what may be keeping the issue
from being resolved, the situation itself
the districts poverty, the unusual demographics, the unconventional relationship
between most of the board members and
the districts students, the students needs
is a tense and unhappy one.
As many media outlets, from local
papers to the New York Times to the
nationally broadcast National Public Radio show This American Life
have described, and as a report East
Ramapo: A School District in Crisis, a
November 2014 document compiled by
Henry Greenberg, a fiscal monitor for
New York States education department
sis has continued, many teachers, adminshows, out of the 33,000 school-aged chilistrators, and support staff have been laid
dren in the district, which includes nine
off, and many arts and athletics programs
Rockland County towns, 24,000 go to private schools. There is a very high percenthave been terminated, along with full-day
age of charedi Jews in the school district,
kindergarten. The cuts have been so deep
and almost all of those private schools
that often students are unable to take the
are yeshivas. As a whole, the district percourses they need to graduate within the
formed badly on standardized tests, had
four years of a standard high school education. Many give up.
low rates of graduation, and came out low
All this has left public school parents
on all the conventional ways of determining success.
feeling underserved, unable to give their
A majority of the school board
members are Jewish. None of
them send their children to public schools.
An unusually high percentage
of the districts budget is dedicated to transportation, which
includes taking yeshiva students
to their schools, and to special education, which benefits
yeshiva students as well as their
counterparts in public schools,
although the education department is not always happy with
the way the district has chosen
to spend its special education
funds.
Also according to the report,
the districts funds are depleted,
the majority will not allow taxes
to be raised, the atmosphere at
board meetings often becomes
Members of Rockland Clergy for Society Justice are together at a rally. Rabbi Ari Hart of
poisonous, with foul words
the Hebrew Institute of Riverdale speaks; Rabbi Paula Mack Drill stands directly behind
exchanged and the board often
him. Rabbi Michael S. Churgel of the Reform Temple of Rockland sits at the far left. The
retreating to private sessions;
three rabbis are, respectively, Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform.
Katrina Hertzberg
until recently it took comments
from parents only once those
children the education they deserve, and
public school parents who represent
private meetings were over, very late at
profoundly voiceless.
about 100 different countries, are more
night. The board has spent unusual sums
In response, the board often accuses
likely than not to speak a language other
on legal representation, and the firm it
A majority of the
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members are
Jewish. None of
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children to
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Dr. Oscar Cohen, right, and community activist Paul Adler are on their way
to Albany to lobby. Rabbi Paula Mack Drill
than English, and are unlikely to be Jewish

of anti-Semitism. The problems have to
do entirely with inadequate funding and
excessive government mandates, they say.
Despite the serious allegation in the
Greenberg report, an attempt to have the
state place a monitor in the district failed
this spring in the state legislature.
Meanwhile, the liberal Jewish community in the county decided to act. The
local rabbis were galvanized by the arrival
of Adam Baldachin, a Conservative rabbi
who arrived at the Montebello Jewish Center two years ago. Because he and his wife
are still celebrating and adjusting to
their new baby, a son, Lior, he was unable
to talk about it (or anything else non-baby),
but one of his colleagues, Paula Mack Drill,
also Conservative and a rabbi at the Orangetown Jewish Center in Orangeburg, was
able to talk about it, and about him.
Rabbi Baldachin is really the source of
See EAST Ramapo page 52
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The program, in cooperation with the worldwide Shabbat Project and coordinated by Koshertroops, was at Bais
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than 150 people participated in the Shabbaton, including
families from the JEP Hebrew school. Rabbi Chaim Zev
Levitan and families in Olympia opened their homes and

organized the Shabbaton, with meals and lectures from
renowned speakers including Rabbi Mordechai Suchard of
Gateways. The evening ended with a Havdalah concert with
music by the Traveling Chassidim at Bais Torah in Monsey.
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gala brunch on Sunday, November 8, at 10:30 a.m., at Rockland
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Reducing stress
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On the first Monday of the
month, Rockland Jewish Family Service offers mindfulness,
meditation, and other techniques to reduce stress and
anxiety and help attain a higher
state of wellbeing. The program
is led by Eva Sax-Bolder. A
senior rabbinical student from
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RJFS is at 450 West Nyack Road in West Nyack.
Upcoming classes are on November 2, December 7,
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Holocaust course
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Jersey boy
Max
Weinberg,
the Bosss
drummer,
has had
quite a ride
JOEY LEICHMAN
ax Weinberg talks
the way he drums.
Hes pithy, self-possessed, and without
excess, a seamless
synthesis of many
varied, unlikely influences.
And he is a total Jersey boy. Born in
Newarks Jewish community in 1951, since
1974 he has been a cornerstone member
of Bruce Springsteens E Street Band. After
more than 40 years on and off with Springsteen, Weinberg has more than a few Bossisms to share.
We have a lot of maxims in our situation, he said. To be the Boss you must pay
the cost. Give people more than their moneys worth. Take your fun very seriously.
And another one. Bruce had a great
line that I read, he said. The lights of the
oncoming train are getting closer.
No matter what you might think about
rock drummers sense of social responsibility, Weinberg believes in giving back. On
October 10, Weinberg, who now lives off
Sandy Hook Bay in Atlantic Highlands with
his wife, Rebecca, led a musical ensemble
at Holy Name Medical Centers annual
Founders Ball. This year, the Teaneckbased health care center honored Angelica Berrie of Englewood, president of the
Russell Berrie Foundation. The foundation, according to its website, russellberriefoundation.org, focuses on promoting
the continuity of the Jewish people, fostering religious understanding and pluralism, supporting advances in diabetes and
humanistic medical care.

Weinberg has supported a number of
local charitable causes through the years,
including Overlook Hospital in Summit,
the Monmouth County SPCA, Prevention
First, and The Joan DAncy ALS Foundation. In February, Temple Rodeph Torah
in Marlboro honored him as its Humanitarian of the Year in recognition of his volunteer work.
Whenever Im asked, and when Im
around, Im happy to do it, Weinberg
said. I cant point to one specific moment
in time when I said, Im gonna do this
or Im gonna do that, but in our religion theres the concept of tikkun olam
Hebrew for repairing the world
which I embrace seriously and took to
mean any way you can do it. My way of
doing that was through music, and specifically drumming.
I love getting people up to dance,
because when youre dancing youre
not thinking about your problems or the
worlds problems. Being with Bruce, whos
very committed to social activism, fortunately it rubs off on you.
In August 1974, when he was 23 years
old, living at home, still a student at Seton
Hall University, Weinberg was drumming in the hit Broadway musical Godspell. Thats when he saw a drummer
wanted ad in the Village Voice. The listing, from Springsteen, specified no junior
Ginger Bakers the Boss did not want a
drummer like Creams, who was brilliant
but had a predilection for extended solos.
Weinberg brought a stripped-down kit
bass drum, snare drum and hi-hat cymbals
to the audition.
It lasted for three hours.
At the audition, Weinberg instinctively
processed Springsteens cues, throwing
accents and pauses in response to the
frontmans gestures.
Thats something Weinberg still does
today, 40 years later. His reputation for
never taking his eyes off Bruce was born
largely of necessity.
Being the drummer, youre there to
have things run smoothly, he said. Im
so totally focused on Bruces thing, Im
not thinking about anything else. Bruce
is running the show, Im providing the
white line down the middle of the road.
You do it long enough, youre not thinking, youre reacting.
One week and one audition after the
first one, Weinberg was invited to join
what would soon be named the E Street
Band. The group was inducted into
the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame in 2014.
Springsteen was inducted on his own in
1999, but last year Mighty Max Weinberg was enshrined there along with
bandmates Roy Bittan, Clarence Clemons, Danny Federici, Nils Lofgren, Vini
Lopez, Patti Scialfa, David Sancious, Garry
The mighty Max Weinberg, star of late-night television,

found a place where Bernard Purdie, Buddy Rich, and
Keith Moon intersected, and he made it his own. I ask
and he delivers for me night after night. Bruce Springsteen
The E Street Band, in its most recent

incarnation, above, and, at right, in its
classic 1977 form: Bruce Springsteen
is surrounded, from left, by Clarence
Clemons, Roy Bittan, Garry Tallent,
Danny Federici, Max Weinberg, and
Steven Van Zandt
Tallent, and Stevie Van Zandt.

When you can get to this age and still
deliver, thats very important to us, Weinberg said. I havent heard anybody say,
Oh, you should have seen them 30 years
ago. Nobodys ever asked for their money
back now, and thats important to every
one of us.
When called upon and regrouped, its
quite amazing how quickly it all comes
together. In 20 minutes, were there. You
put in the time and hours and the miles
its there.
At 64, Weinberg is nearly six years
removed from his other high-profile gig,
bandleader for Conan OBrien. He and his
Max Weinberg 7 were the house band for
Late Night with Conan OBrien, beginning with the first show, in 1993, and he
led Max Weinberg and the Tonight Show
Band during OBriens 2009-10 stint as
host of the Tonight Show with Conan
OBrien.
Not only did he front the band, but
the always impeccably dressed Weinberg
became OBriens perfect comedic foil.
When OBrien sidekick Andy Richter
left the show in 2000, I was thrust into
the comedic limelight, and I was the guy
Conan turned to, Weinberg said. I could
never be as witty or quick as Andy, so the
first few times he did that I just stared
at him and it got a big laugh. That nonresponsive sidekick, the drummer who
refuses to do rimshots that became a
personality and it was very popular.
My deadpan, where I had no emotion
that became a character on the show.
Late night shows are all about the writing and the personality of the host. Everything else is an addition to what that person
is doing. You respect that format, and when

called upon you do the best you can.
Weinberg was able to take the job with
OBrien because the E Street Band, as far
as he knew, was over. Springsteen disbanded the band in 1989. A decade later,
though, the Boss called it again for 1999s
Reunion Tour. Weinberg, then six years
into his Late Night tenure, decided to
keep both gigs, providing the impetus for
what became known at NBC as the Weinberg-Springsteen Rule: Weinberg had special dispensation to leave the show to tour
with Springsteen.
When I was doing both Springsteen and Late Night it was an embarrassment of riches, Weinberg said.
I felt incredibly busy, but I never felt
overwhelmed. I got into a certain rhythm,

and it just was a great opportunity. The
strangest thing was going back and forth
between the music styles. Playing on TV
was very jazz-influenced, although I dont
consider myself a jazz drummer.
Playing with the E Street Band, thats
the heart of my musical personality. Thats
a much more muscular approach, simpler
in terms of its musical orientation.
There were some times during Springsteens 2009 Working On a Dream tour
when Weinberg could not leave Late
Night. It wasnt a problem, however;
Weinbergs son Jay, then 19, filled in for
those concerts. ( Jay Weinberg, now 25
is the drummer for heavy metal band
Slipknot. Ali Weinberg, 28, is a digital
journalist at ABC News.)

The entire family benefitted from Max
Weinbergs New York-based TV career,
because it allowed him much more time
with his kids. The best thing for me, my
children were growing up and I was home
the whole time, he said. When they
were young, every Friday theyd come to
New York after school and visit the show
and wed go eat at the Hard Rock Cafe or
Planet Hollywood.
Although in recent years Weinberg has
been tapped for a great deal of E Street
Band duty between the Wrecking Ball
World Tour in 2012-13 and the High Hopes
Tour in 2014 the band played more than
160 shows he is working hard on other
projects as well. The Max Weinberg Quintet specializes in hard bop jazz. It stands
in relatively condensed contrast against
two larger ensembles, the 15-piece Max
Weinberg Big Band and 23-piece Max
Weinberg Orchestra.
The Orchestra, which Weinberg
describes as a classic society dance band,
focuses on the Great American Songbook.
The group will resume its traditional Monday night residency at the Rainbow Room
in Rockefeller Center beginning November
2. (Tickets are available at rainbowroom.
com/reservations.)
Although Weinberg is most noted for
rock drumming, he grew up listening to
a variety of music, including big bands
led by legendary bandleaders like Lester
Lanin. We are paying tribute to the days
when people would dress up in tuxedos
and go out and dine on a weeknight, said
Weinberg. Its an epochal thing.
When he was a child, and throughout
his teens, Weinberg also played in a local
bar mitzvah and wedding band, thus
expanding his repertoire, as well as his
range of experiences, ever farther.
On October 21, Weinberg and E Street
guitarist Stevie Van Zandt (who played
mobster Silvio Dante on The Sopranos
and starred in the Netflix original series
Lillyhammer) hosted the Grammy
Museums 2015 Architects of Sound
Awards at Club Nokia in Los Angeles. The
event honored Frank Sinatra, who would
have been 100 this year, and coincided
with the 2015 opening of Sinatra: An
American Icon, the official exhibition of
the Frank Sinatra Centennial.
When Im not playing with Bruce I do
keep myself busy entertaining people,
said Weinberg, whose Orchestra performances at the Rainbow Room have
included material from Sinatra, as well as
Ella Fitzgerald, Duke Ellington, and even
the Rolling Stones.
Whether its playing the drums or leading [a group], I like entertaining people,
he continued. Playing the drums keeps
me very humble, since its the thing I
started to do when I was 7 years old
and Im still doing it. Putting a drum set
together is the most mechanical thing I can
do. I like being in the trenches, [being] on
my own gigs, setting up my own drums. I
recently did a jazz tour in Italy, and

there was a lot of driving in the van
and sleeping on the floor. It keeps
me in touch with what it was that I
liked about being a musician when
I was 12 years old.
Weinbergs family, like so many
of their neighbors, moved from
Newark to South Orange and then
to Maplewood. His grandfather
helped raise funds to build Temple Sharey Tefilo-Israel in South
Orange. His family developed a
strong relationship with the Reform
synagogues rabbi, Avraham Soltes,
who headed Congregation Beth
Chavairuth in Tenafly and was a
chaplain at the United States Military Academy in West Point.
He looked like central castings
Max Weinberg when he was young, and in 2014, when he and the other members of the E Street Band were inducted into the
version of a rabbi, Weinberg said
Rock and Roll Hall of Fame.
of Soltes. He approached the litury in a very poetic and artistic
and musical fashion. He was a personal
over its four decades of existence, but the
family friend of my parents, and I really
years have not been entirely kind to the
looked forward to his services. What I
group. Original members Danny Federici
f a c t s
really responded to was the ceremonial
and Clarence Clemons died in 2008 and
aspects that have changed so much over
2011, respectively. Weinberg has had open
Born April 13, 1951 in Newark.
the years.
heart surgery and a bout with cancer.
When I was a kid I loved the choir and
(Im fine now, thank God, he said.) He
Bar mitzvah breakthrough:
the organ, which was high church, they
has lost count of how many orthopedic
Weinberg started playing at
called it. It was very formal. The pomp
surgeries hes undergone to alleviate the
the age of 6 and his first public
and circumstance and the traditions, thats
appearance came the next year
difficulties brought on by the sheer physiin a bar mitzvah band. He played
something I miss.
cal demands of drumming.
When the Saints Go Marching In.
Playing four-hour rock shows, particuWeinberg still identifies with the Reform
larly as a young man, took its toll, Weinmovement.
He attended Temple Sharey
berg said. You do start getting reflective. To
I embraced my religious training in a
Tefilo-Israel, a Reform Judaism
still not only get along but still make vibrant
humanist way, he said. I try to be nice
congregation in South Orange,
music none of us take that for granted.
to people, I live by the golden rule, I try to
where he was inspired by a local
You look back and you see people
bring joy through music to whatever audirabbi and had what he later
described as a wonderful Jewish
youve known for longer than you didnt
ence I find myself in front of. In Hebrew
background. He would later say
know them. Im 64. I met Bruce when
school I took the idea of tzedaka (charity)
that the Jewish concept of seder,
I was 23, at the beginning of everything,
and tikkun olam very seriously.
meaning order, became key to his
and its very, very special. If you look at the
Whether hell find himself in front of a
vision of how a good drummer serves his bands music.
people on the bus, these are relationships
Springsteen audience soon is anybodys
that go back 40, 45 years.
guess including Weinbergs. As has been
Weinberg has been a member of the E Street Band since 1974, when he
We started when we were children,
the case since that first audition in 1974,
answered a help wanted ad in the Village Voice. He played Springsteens
essentially. Our kids are older now than we
Weinberg is waiting. Hes watching for a
Sandy and Fats Dominos Let the Four Winds Blow at the audition. He
accepted an offer of $110 per week and joined the band.
were when I met Bruce and the E Street
signal from the Boss.
Band. Its gotten deeper and richer for all
Theres nothing coming up with Bruce
Weinbergs first public performance came on September 19, 1974, at The
of us. Its an amazing thing to look around
as far as I know, he said. When we work,
Main Point in Bryn Mawr, Pennsylvania.
and Ive known most of these people for
we work really hard. The last cycle was
over 40 years. Its a blessing, more than
almost three years, nearly 200 concerts.
Max says keep it simple: Ive got four drums. Anything more is redundant.
anything else.
You need downtime after that, to recharge
Besides, I tend to trip over things.
So, yes, the lights of the oncoming train
and live. The time off is as important as the
Weinberg has played on numerous studio sessions including Meat Loafs
may be getting closer. And it turns out
time you spend concertizing and recordBat Out of Hell, which sold over 43 million copies worldwide.
theres a physical cost to being close to the
ing and everything else.
Boss. Still, Weinberg is having fun, and as
Although he is curious about whether
Hes also an author: In 1984, Weinberg published The Big Beat:
Springsteen said, thats something to be
Springsteen will decided to revive the band
Conversations with Rocks Greatest Drummers, a series of interviews with
taken seriously.
again, After almost 42 years, I dont ask,
some of his favorite drummers.
Im having a great time, Weinberg
he said. Springsteen is firmly in control of
said. Im able to play music I like, and I
the bands present and future, he added,
Hot stuff: Weinberg was named Best Drummer in the Playboy 1985 Pop and
approach every song Ive played as the
and its been that way since the beginJazz Music Poll and Best Drummer again in Rolling Stones 1986 Critics Poll.
most important song Ive ever played. It
ning. Its a question of if its in the cards,
Kudos from the Boss: About the best-selling record, Born in the USA,
can be a Sam & Dave song or The TemptaWeinberg said. Whether it includes the E
Springsteen is quoted as saying Max was the best thing on the record.
tions. It can be Hava Nagila at a wedding.
Street Band or me, Bruce has a lot of differThe more you do, the longer you live,
ent things he can do and does well.
The motherlode: Bruce Springsteen has sold more then 64 million albums
the more engaged you are in your life,
I dont know but I remain hopeful
in the United States and more than 120 million records worldwide.
your friends, and your family.
that some of our greatest years are still
Weinberg and the E Street Band played on most of them.
The concept of retiring is something
ahead.
I have never, ever embraced for myself.
E Street has been phenomenally sucThats why they call it playing.
cessful, both artistically and commercially,
MAX
Editorial
Meet the Mets...
y father had his

heart broken in 1957.
He was not alone.
When the Dodgers
just up and left, forsaking their
gritty Brooklyn home for the
blinding sunlight, tacky glamor,
and unconvincing palm trees
of Los Angeles, they left shredded inner organs in their tearshrouded wake.
For a few years, the Dodgers
abandoned fans, particularly
the ones from Brooklyn, sullenly
nursed their wounds. And then,
in 1962 which must have felt
like eons later, but wasnt enough
time to heal many hearts voila!
The Mets!
Not strong and victorious like
their predecessors, the Mets instead
were dopey, lovable, incompetent,
gloriously named clowns. My father
TRUTH REGARDLESS OF CONSEQUENCES
would turn the car radio or the

television on and off, on and then
quickly off, hopefully on and then,
with a click and a sigh, off again.
Of course, there were those
wonderful years when they won.
Miraculously, there was 1969, when
nobody expected them to, and
there was 1986, when the slapstick
of the ball between the poor Boston
guys legs riveted even those of us
who were simply fair-weather fans,
Met-lovers by inheritance, with
open-mouthed awe. And then all
those bad years and near misses,
the Madoff thing and then, again
miraculously, now.
Because the thing is, the Mets
are the Jewish team. Their big, rich,
arrogant counterparts, the Yankees,
are not. Theyre corporate. And did
I say theyre arrogant? Its true that
the Yankees are in the Bronx, but
they seem like Midtowns team;

the Mets, way out in Queens, seriously bridge-and-tunnel-land, are
very outer borough. The Mets not
necessarily these Mets, of course,
but the essence of the Mets are
scrappy, first-generation, entrepreneurial, not entitled; theyre able
to fail, get up, and try again. Their
stadium is in Flushing, an astonishingly linguistically and ethnically
diverse place, home to first-generation strivers.
And then of course there is the
fact that the teams majority owner,
Fred Wilpon, is Jewish.
My father is not around to see
his beloved Metsies poised on the
brink of baseball history. We are
still saying kaddish for him, though,
and I keep thinking about how very
happy he would be just exactly now.
JP
Lets go Mets!
The Bronfman Youth

Fellowship in Israel
he Bronfman Fellowship
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probably most disqualifyingly to most people of all the
program, five free weeks in Israel,
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high school.
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American teenagers 13 girls, 13
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Because it is simply astonishing.
For one thing, it brings students
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intellectuals, politicians, entrepreneurs, leaders. It allows them to be
in Israel in a way that a less intense
tour might not; they are invited to
look below the surface.
Perhaps even more importantly, it gives these 26 young
Jews a chance to meet other Jews
with whom they have very little in
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By the end of the trip, each fellow most likely will have formed
some relationships that will last for
years, perhaps forever, and they
will find themselves woven into a
network that will be very useful to
them as they plan their futures. It
will plunge them into the kind of
rarefied intellectual atmosphere
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the ones chosen for this trip often
live for. It will allow them to argue
in safety with opponents as smart
and as committed as they are.
It might change their lives. It
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The Bronfman Youth Fellowship
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Will America ever

punish those who call
for Jewish genocide?
ike any municipality with one-party rule, Englewood can

be politically tone-deaf.
Hence, it wasnt surprising to see its Jewish residents
receive an invitation this week from my friend Mayor Frank
Huttle, inviting us all to a Get Out the Vote Rally with special guest
Senator Cory Booker this coming Sunday.
Unless youve been living on Mars for the past few weeks, youll
know that Cory has been in hot water with the Jewish community ever
since he came out in support of the Iran nuclear deal, as well as the
Democratic filibuster that ensured that there would be no Senate vote.
I know this more than most. Nearly 25 years ago, at Oxford, I introduced Cory to Judaism and the Jewish
community, and I lectured with him
across the United States introducing him
to the American Jewish scene. I have seen
an avalanche of anger pour out; countless people who were awed by Corys special friendship with our community have
been writing to me about their feelings of
hurt and betrayal. They have asked how
Cory could have supported the deal.
Rabbi
This has only increased with the recent
Shmuley
wave of stabbings and murders of innoBoteach
cent Jewish Israelis, which many people
surmise came in the wake of the Iran deal
and the evisceration of American Jewish
political power.
Our enemy smells weakness. Our enemy smells blood. And the
Obama administrations moral equivocations have not helped.
There was, for example, the disgusting justification for these murders offered by John Kerry, who said, Theres been a massive increase
in settlements over the course of the last years, and theres an increase
in the violence because theres this frustration thats growing. Kerry is
well aware of the fact that Palestinian terrorism traces itself to decades
before the 67 war and Israeli settlements. And surely Kerry remembers that Israel did everything the world asked withdrawing completely from Gaza, removing all 8,500 Israeli citizens from their homes
before evacuating every last soldier from the area. The result: more
than 10,000 rockets fired by Hamas after the end of the occupation.
Then there is the ongoing and painful moral equivalency drawn
between the murder of Jews on the one hand, and the Israeli security
services killing their Palestinian terrorist assailants on the other. Asinine, vapid, and downright foolish accusations of cycles of violence,
Rabbi Shmuley Boteach of Englewood is the founder of This World:
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defending Israel in national media. The author of 30 books, he soon
will publish The Israel Warriors Handbook. Follow him on Twitter
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mutual incitement on both sides, and Jewish and Palestinian dead violate basic moral sensibilities.
Every day Jews are stabbed, slashed, shot, and murdered on the streets of Jerusalem, Tel Aviv, and Beersheba.
And every day the world lies about violence on both
sides, as if Netanyahu and Israel are inciting Jews to take
knives and stab Palestinians, just as Palestinian clerics on
the PA payroll and Mahmoud Abbas incite their people to
murder Jews.
There can be only one conclusion. Jewish blood is
cheap, and it is getting cheaper by the day. I know of no
other ethnic or religious group on earth that faces daily
incitement to genocide, with the world making not even
a peep of protest.
And here is where there is a path back for good friends
of our community, like Cory, Debbie Wasserman Schultz,
and others. It is a way for them to right a considerable
wrong. After they voted to legitimize the single most brutal government on earth, they must, at the very least,
speak out, on the Senate and House floor, against Iran and
Hamas genocidal intent against the Jewish people.
To simply overlook the support that our elected officials
gave to the Iran deal is unacceptable, even as we witness
sycophants in our community who will do anything to
curry favor and retain access to those in power. Over the
last few weeks I have watched rabbis and other communal
leaders embarrass themselves in offering political cover to
those who voted for the deal. Brown-nosing betrays the
values and interests of our community, and it is lowly and
unacceptable. But to sever our ties with good friends like
Cory, who have always shown our community love and
affection, is likewise something that we have to avoid.
Rather, I would call upon Cory, who remains a soul
friend, to take the Senate floor and denounce once and
for all the genocidal threats that Iran makes against Israel,
and demand that President Obama do the same. And if it
means that the president and members of his party will
be annoyed, so be it. Protecting innocent life is far more
important.
The administrations refusal even once to condemn
Irans threats to murder all Israels Jews is an immoral
omission, destined to forever live in infamy, especially
now that Iran has already violated the nuclear agreement
by testing ballistic missiles, just days after it was signed.
President Obamas silence on Iranian calls to genocide will
forever tarnish his legacy.
Irwin Cotler, the former Canadian justice minister
and one of the worlds great defenders of human rights,
observes that the Holocaust and the genocides that followed in Srebrenica, Rwanda, and Darfur occurred not
only because of the machinery of death, but because of
state-sanctioned incitement to genocide. When repeated
threats to genocide are ignored, they pass through to the
very consciousness of the body politic. They are transmitted down our cerebral cortexes, circumventing any moral
filter. They end up animating our actions. The population
becomes desensitized to death.
Hitler was the most evil man who ever lived. But once
he began the final solution, even he masked his mass
murder of the Jews. But Iran openly boasts of its planned
extermination of Israel. Irans Supreme Leader Ayatollah
Khamenei has repeatedly called for the annihilation of
the Jewish state, and said there is a religious justification
to kill all the Jews. Echoing the Nazis, Iranian leaders have
referred to Jews as filthy bacteria, and Israel as a cancer
that must be removed.
Good friends of Israel approved the nuclear agreement,
but their support for Israel in other areas does not absolve
them of the failure to speak out against Irans desire to
exterminate the Jews of Israel.
The same is true of objecting to Hamas receiving
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Israeli marriages, American Jews,

and Israels security
n the midst of all that has been going on in Israel,

message delivered by Israel to Conservative, Reform,
you might wonder why a mission to Israel to join
and Reconstructionist Jews and their rabbis is that they
Israeli counterparts in a push for alternatives
practice a second-class form of Judaism, or perhaps no
to marriages approved by the chief rabbinate is
Judaism at all. Yet the majority of affiliated Jews in America belong to one or another of these movements.
important just now.
I personally have seen just how angering this is to peoAs everyone who ever has gone on a mission to Israel for
ple who are deeply committed to Israel and to their Jewwhatever purpose knows, the trips are planned months in
ish religious denomination but who wonder how comadvance. You can never know when Israel will find itself
mitted Israel is to them. Israel supporters with a great
in a critical situation, so the mission goes when it was
deal of communal and political clout find themselves
planned to go. That is why the Jews for Religious Equality
trying to quiet that anger. They also continue to try to
Coalition ( J-REC) will be in Israel from November 10 to 16
engage fellow Jews in Israel advocacy, even as those Jews
seeking a change in Israeli marriage law.
become more and more ambivalent about Israel, and
But why is this mission significant at all? And why is it
increasingly distanced from it.
American Jews business?
And why should they not be distanced and affronted
First some background: The only legal form of marriage for Jews in Israel is marriage performed under the
when a chief rabbi or an Orthodox Minister of Religious
auspices of the chief rabbinate, which is a government
Affairs declares Reform Jews, for example, not Jewish?
agency and Orthodox. Israeli Jews may
Israel needs people who can speak wholeheartedly to the American government and
have a legally recognized civil marriage
to fellow Jews on her behalf, and it cannot
abroad, but they cannot have one in their
afford to lose these people over a chief rabhomeland. This means that the only marriage format available to them is an Orthobinate and an Orthodox establishment for
dox one, unless they have the time, money,
which most of the Israeli population itself
and will to go to Cyprus or elsewhere to be
has little or no respect. The rabbinates
married.
ongoing derogation of these American leaders Jewish credentials, added to anti-demSince Orthodox rules are in force for
ocratic behavior in religious areas of Israeli
Israelis who wish to marry, a persons
Rabbi Dr.
life, can only drive potential supporters of
choice of spouse may be limited. For examMichael
ple, if a kohen wants to marry a convert or
Israel away in the long run.
Chernick
divorcee, he will find his way blocked. Such
I have met people who are leaving shortly
marriages are not permitted according to
for this J-REC mission, and I am joining
traditional Jewish law, which is what the
them. They are engaged lovers of Israel,
chief rabbinate follows. The rabbinate also maintains a
and they will continue to support Israel in spite of how
database of who may or may not marry a fellow Jew for
its religious establishment acts toward them. But they
easy reference, should any of those people apply to the
fear for the future of Israel-diaspora relations, which
office for marriage.
are jeopardized by the government-supported religious
Secular Israelis who think all they have to do is prove
establishments insensitivity to both Israeli and diaspora
they are Jewish to get married to another Jew often find
Jews.
that isnt enough. Even when your Jewish pedigree
Neither Hiddush nor J-REC has as its goal the destruction of the chief rabbinate; they believe that it should
appears sufficient, if you are a nonobservant Jew you
remain a force for those who want it and are willing to
may find yourself caught in a bureaucratic labyrinth
abide by its rules. Rather, their goal is opening a way for
until the matter is settled.
those who for practical or ideological reasons wish
Enter J-REC and Hiddush. The first is an American
to marry without conforming to Orthodox Jewish regulaorganization whose members are Jewish professionals, spiritual leaders, and concerned lay people who
tions in order to do so.
cover the Jewish-American religious and secular specWhile this may seem to be a small matter, it has festrum. The second is an Israeli organization representing
tered into a major one for American Jews, who in many
groups in Israel seeking to create a new path to Jewish
cases have their ties to Israel intrinsically bound up with
life for Israelis looking for an alternative to Orthodoxy.
their denominational allegiances. You only need consider how many synagogues arrange trips to Israel for
Both are seeking, as a first practical step in this direction, the creation of legal marriage alternatives to chief
their members each year.
rabbinate marriages in Israel.
J-REC and Hiddush sincerely hope that what appears
But still, why is this important enough for American
to be a minor matter of marriage law in Israel does not
Jews who have joined J-REC to go to Israel in the midst
become the source of a separation, or worse, a divorce,
of the present situation?
between lovers of Israel in the diaspora and lovers of
Dov Zakheim, known for his work with the United
Israel in the Land. Our Israel-diaspora marriage brings
States Defense Department and as a foreign affairs
too many benefits to each of its partners to be frittered
adviser in Washington, organized J-REC and has gotten
away by leaving the issue of marriage in the hands of a
strong support for its work from the American Jewish
religious establishment that has not shown much sympathy for or respect to the majority of its own constituCommittee. His central argument for American involvement in wresting the monopoly over marriage in Israel
ency, or for the majority of Jews living in the diaspora.
from the chief rabbinate is how this monopoly insults
Rabbi Michael Chernick of Teaneck holds a doctorate
American Jewish spiritual leaders and their committed
in rabbinic literature and semikhah from Yeshiva
constituents.
University. For 40 years, he was a professor of rabbinic
Essentially, such a monopoly implies that Israel recognizes Orthodox Judaism as the only legitimate form
literature at Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of
of Jewish religious expression. That being the case, the
Religion. He regards himself as a Jew for all Jews.
Opinion
Letters
The Jewish trinity
The whole truth about UNESCO
Dr. Lance Strate

his past Rosh Hashanah, as I was sitting in the
sanctuary at Congregation Adas Emuno, listening
to the Torah portion known as the Akedah or, the
binding of Isaac, my thoughts turned to the Avot
prayer, and the phrase God of Abraham, God of Isaac, God
of Jacob.
It occurred to me that the patriarchs constitute a trinity, but
we never call them that. We shy away from that word, trinity,
no doubt because it is so strongly associated with Christian
Trinitarianism, which posits one God taking the form of three
persons, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.
Christians do not have a monopoly on divine trinities, however. The Hindu religion also includes a doctrine of three-inone, in which the divine Godhead is composed of Brahma
the Creator, Vishnu the Preserver, and Shiva the Destroyer.
And then there is the Triple Goddess, a New Age notion based on
ancient polytheistic beliefs, in
which the three manifestations
of the Goddess are referred to as
the Virgin or Maiden, the Mother,
and the Crone or Wise Woman,
corresponding to three main
stages of life.
Apart from religion, we
Dr. Lance
encounter countless other triniStrate
ties in many different realms,
from Sigmund Freuds id, ego,
and superego to the three witches
in Shakespeares Macbeth; from Alexander Dumas Three
Musketeers to the three little pigs of fairytale fame; from Julius
Caesars veni, vidi, vici, to the French Revolutions libert,
egalit, fraternit; from Abraham Lincolns government of the
people, by the people, for the people, to Kelloggs Rice Krispies Snap! Crackle! Pop! Lists of three are psychologically satisfying, conveying a sense of completion. They are especially
quotable and easy to remember: blood, sweat, and tears; sex,
lies, and videotape, and stop, look and listen.
The Jewish trinity, especially expressed as God of Abraham, God of Isaac, God of Jacob, is certainly memorable in
being a list of three, and even more so through the poetic
technique of rhythmic repetition. Also, from an anthropological perspective, our trinity uses the motif of family to represent relationships between peoples, so that
the Children of Israel share a degree of kinship with the
other descendants of Abraham via Ishmael, and the other
descendants of Isaac via Esau.
Of course, there is another trinity, of Noah, who, like Abraham, hears Gods voice and follows his commands, along with
Shem, one of the three sons of Noah and the ancestor of the
Semitic peoples, and Arpachshad, the father of the founders
of the city of Ur and the ancestor of Abraham. But we dont
invoke that list of three in our prayers.
From a theological perspective, the parallel structure of
God of Abraham, God of Isaac, God of Jacob is interpreted to
mean that each of the patriarchs had to form his own individual relationship with God. So, from a purely subjective standpoint, the God of Abraham is not the same God as the God of
Isaac, and both are distinct again from the God of Jacob (referring to each persons own personal conception or perception
of the Divine).
So what are the differences? Abraham, who hears Gods
voice commanding him to leave home and go forth to a foreign land, is a model of obedience. That is never more true
than when he demonstrates his willingness to follow Gods
command and sacrifice his son Isaac. A religion that follows
Abraham alone would be one of submission. Submission
alone, obedience to a higher authority, may include license to
In about 1659, Rembrandt finished this painting,

Jacob Wrestling with the Angel. WIKIMEDIA COMMONS
kill, without question, in Gods name. That is why a religion of

Abraham is incomplete.
Isaac also submits to Gods will, but does so by playing
the part of the martyr. The religion of Isaac therefore is
one of sacrifice as well as submission. Certainly, Abraham
also demonstrates a willingness to sacrifice by offering up
his own son, but there is a world of difference between
being the one who wields the knife or the one who is the
sacrificial lamb.
Sacrifice alone threatens to privilege death over life, and
rituals of sacrifice suggest that the appetite for such forms of
submission may never be satiated or appeased. That is why a
religion of Isaac also is incomplete.
Jacob does not reject submission and sacrifice, but adds the
all-important element of struggle. His religion is one that is
not only about a voice that commands, but also about a vision
that inspires, of a stairway to heaven that suggests the possibility of reaching for a higher state of being. His story is one of
laboring for love he worked for 14 years to earn the right to
marry Rachel. And as the patriarch who wrestles with God, he
is renamed Israel, becoming the eponymous ancestor of the
Israelites, the Jewish people.
Jacob adds the vital third element of struggle, not blind
obedience, but questioning, grappling, reasoning, a raising
of awareness, of consciousness, and that is what makes the
religion of Jacob complete.
The Jewish trinity is an altogether human one, consisting
of three different and distinct individuals, not in any way
consubstantial, not a three-in-one, but rather three patriarchs who simply are related to one another by direct line of
descent. And yet they point to what might be considered a
divine trinity in Judaism, what might be thought of as three
faces or aspects of God, but more appropriately as three relationships to God: submission to God in the religion of Abraham, sacrifice for God in the religion of Isaac, and struggle
with God in the religion of Jacob.
Perhaps, then, there is a message of caution against the varieties of religious experience that include submission and/or
sacrifice alone? Without the third person of Jacob, without the
struggle, there is no Israel, and Judaism as a religion would
not be complete.
Dr. Lance Strate of Palisades Park is a professor of
communication and media studies at Fordham University in
the Bronx and the president of his synagogue, Congregation
Adas Emuno in Leonia.
Reading the editorial Jews and the Western Wall

(October 23), many if not most of your readers will
miss the irony of its emphasis and omissions. The
editor has honed in on the alleged fact when, referring to the Wall, that world will unite to assert our
claims to truth and history. Which world is she
referring to, the Jewish world or the world at large?
She lauds the fact that UNESCO has postponed a
resolution to declare the Western Wall part of the AlAksa Mosque complex and thus a Palestinian/Muslim
holy site.
I must ask how many readers of the Jewish Standard intend on visiting the newly declared by
UNESCO Palestinian/Muslim Historical Heritage
Sites of Bilal ibn Rabah Mosque and the Ibrahimi
Mosque when they visit Israel? Not sure, not in the
readers bucket list? Perhaps if I refer to their names
before UNESCO asked Israel to take them off the list
of Israeli Historical Heritage sites Kever Rachel and
Maarat haMachpelah (Tomb of the Patriarchs)
they will know of what I write. UNESCO has changed
or attempted to change history from Jewish to Muslim by a vote of 26 to 6, with 25 Duh, I dont knows.
One cant argue that this really asserted our claims.
Another great victory in the halls of the U.N.?
The most current problems facing Jews and the
State of Israel do not just hone in on the Western
Wall. Instead of writing about the Jews and the
Western Wall, the editor should have written about
the current twisting and distortions of history. She
should be writing about the attempts to deny the
historical connection of the Jews to Eretz Yisrael.
The Jews of today are linked in an unbroken chain
with the Jews of thousands of years ago. The Muslims claim many of their holy sites because they are
Jewish sites and they believe that their religion has
superseded the Jewish religion. Muslims believe the
sites are now Muslim, and only Muslims can worship
there.
Why not include the contents of the two resolutions that were passed and the one that was postponed? Give the full contents of these three resolutions, information that has not been forthcoming in
the general media. The Muslims are intent on denying and erasing any connection of the Jews historically to our Holy land. Inform your readers, so that
they can become informed individuals and able to
counter these lies and distortions. Ignorance on
the part of your readers in this instance is not bliss.
Howard J. Cohn
New Milford
Where are our leaders?
The blatant anti-Semitism in the U.S. press and all

over the world has me extremely concerned. And
contributing to that concern is the lack of a strong
response by our Jewish leadership.
When someoneanyonecriticizes Obama or
any African-American, we are all treated to a barrage of the words racist and racism. Make no
mistakecriticism of Israel in the current situation
is anti-Semitic.
Sympathy for Palestinian children and their
mothers, along with photos, is prevalent in the
American press, with no corresponding sympathy for Israeli parents and their children suffering
at least the same amount of violence perpetrated
against them.
Currently, Israels very existence is at peril
because Obama has forsaken her and has thrown
his support to her enemies. Where are our Jewish
Letters
leaders? Why arent they calling out our politicians
and the media for their unjust treatment of Israel?
A campaign has to be launched to do just that in
order to raise the awareness of the general public.
(Christians are being tortured and beheaded by the
Mid-East zealots and Christian leadership is also
silent.)
We should not be afraid to identify anti-Semitism
where it exists, and I am asking our Jewish leadership to take command by using the public arena
TV, radio and the press to bring our plight to our
citizens. It is not sufficient to write about this in Jewish publications.
Susan Ebenstein
Hackensack
Shmuley
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hundreds of millions of dollars in U.S. aid even as it retains

a genocidal charter against the Jewish people wherever they
are found.
As New Jersey residents, we must demand of our good
friend Senator Booker that he take to the Senate floor and
condemn, in unequivocal terms, any and all American interactions with, and support of, groups who call for the murder
of Jews, from the Palestinian Authority, to Hamas, to Hezbollah, to Iran.
And slowly, with action rather than words, we can all begin
to rebuild loving relationships and special friendships.
Support for Israel must never be a partisan issue. Whenever people say to me that Republicans are better friends
to Israel than Democrats are, I remind them that arguably
the single greatest friend of Israel in the entire United States
Senate is a Democrat from the State of New Jersey. His name
is Robert Menendez, and I believe and trust that with time
and experience Cory ultimately will follow the path Senator
Menendez has blazed, standing up to tyrants and fighting
for liberty the world over.
Being good, having fun
Now that were back to routine, after the intense

and on-going beautiful aura of spending many Yom
Tovim with family and community, we can all reflect
on the days of awe 5776 before our next round of
chagim.
Kudos and acknowledgement go to the administrators and staff of our local yeshivot, especially on the
high school level, in directing our Jewish children to
greater heights.
To enjoy a vibrant Simchat Torah in our midst,
so teenagers would have friends and guests from all
over joining together, my daughter Ilana hosted over
18 children in her Englewood home; many other
community families did the same thing. Ilana was
so impressed with the turnout, and wholeheartedly
praised they way in which the administrators and
staff had done an effective, wonderful job conveying to the student body how to conduct themselves
appropriately over the chag while being able to enjoy
in the lively festivities as well. Admiration for Rabbi
Ciner, at the helm of Frisch, where my granddaughter is a student, and all the high school administrators, including Rabbi Yosef of TABC, and the staff had
guided the students to conduct themselves appropriately during the festivals. Its a pleasure to recognize
that in stark contrast to many previous years, when
there had been some behavioral problems, the youth
of klal Yisrael in our area today have been guided
with yirat shamayim while having fun at the same
time.
Such behavior is something that everyone
administrators, staff, and the students themselves
who get the primary credit can be so proud of!
Ruby Kaplan (Sara Gdanskis grandmother)
Teaneck
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Celebrating events amid the culture of a great institution

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magine dancing your first

dance as husband and wife
on an ocean floor beneath
a 94-foot whale. Or picture your best man giving
a heartfelt wedding toast
as he stands next to the
worlds tallest freestanding dinosaur. Or how about
dining on a sumptuous entre while
seated in an ornate period room with
the great masterpieces of Degas and
Monet within a stones throw from the
orchestra?
Welcome to the world of private
events and celebrations at museums.
Call it a night at the museum, where
weddings, bar and bat mitzvahs, anniversary parties, dinners, and other lifecycle events, meet culture, science,
technology and history. While partygoers can revel in good food, and good
friends for the occasion, they also can
drink in an ambience of elegance, style
and edification that is unique to the
museum.
Hosting an event at the American
Museum of Natural History affords the
guest and the host a most unique experience, said Audrey Isaac, director of
sales and marketing, event and conference services for the museum, on
the Upper West Side of Manhattan. For
instance, the Milstein Hall of Ocean Life,
the Rose Center for Earth and Space
or the Theodore Roosevelt Rotunda
among the most popular rentable
spaces at the museum have some of
the museums iconic symbols of natural
wonder and history. Where else, Ms.
Isaac asked, can you drink a toast amid
the stars in the Rose Center for Earth
and Space?
With its capacious and august halls
filled with artifacts that have fascinated museum and moviegoers alike
remember the inspired Ben Stiller
movie series Night of the Museum?
The American Museum of Natural History also has inspired many a wedding.
The wedding ceremonies typically take
place in the space known as the Powerhouse, with its capacity of 500-seated guests. Hosts can choose to have
their receptions which can be kosher
catered from among the many avail-
Mingling among the art at The Jewish Museum.
able halls.
At the Intrepid Sea, Air and Space
Museum on the west side of Manhattan,
the uniquely historic and modern mix of
the institution attracts events that have
included bar and bat mitzvahs, anniver-
sary parties, corporate and social functions, corporate launches, galas, movie
premieres, press events, trade shows, to
name a few.
The Intrepid is a unique venue
because it has both indoor and out-
door spaces, amazing views of the New

York City skyline, and the opportunity
for guests to explore a legendary aircraft carrier, the first space shuttle, the
worlds fastest jets, and a secret submarine, said Lisa Yaconiello, assistant vice
president for events at the Intrepid.
Those events, Yaconiello said, can
be held on the Flight Deck, inside the
Space Shuttle Pavilion, inside one of
the three bays in the hangar deck, the
Allison & Howard Lutnick Theater, the
Michael Tyler Fisher Center for Education, or on the pier. Many hosts
actually choose to have their event in
multiple locations. The Intrepid can
host intimate parties with as few as 20
people, or giant galas with as many as
5,000 people, if the entire complex is
rented.
As with many museums, guests at the
Intrepid can view the many exhibitions,
included the authentically restored aircraft or the museums newly opened On
the Line exhibition.
Sometimes, hosting a celebration at a
particular museum touches not only the
senses, but also the soul.
That was the experience of one family
who chose to have their sons bar mitzvah which fell out on Purim at the
Museum of Jewish Heritage, located
in Battery Park City in lower Manhattan. The space was very appealing with
its 5,000 square-foot main events hall
featuring floor-to-ceiling windows and
views of the New York harbor and the
Statue of Liberty. But there was more,
said the bar mitzvah boys mother. As
her husband read the Megillat Esther in
the theater, the Edmund J. Safra Hall,
the power of the Jewish peoples ability
to survive and thrive, and then to celebrate that feat, crystallized for her, and
for many of her guests.
I felt it in my bones, she said.
What an amazing thing to do, being
here and reading the Megillah. It was
a testament to the fact that we are
still here (as a people) and here in this
museum, which is dedicated to Jewish heritage. It felt like a double simcha to be having this bar mitzvah, said
the mother, whose parents survived the
Shoah. Being there for our sons bar
mitzvah really ended up having a very
powerful dimension. It was, in so many
ways, really beautiful.
The mothers reaction was not unusual, said Rachel Heumann, director of
museum events for the Museum of Jewish Heritage. She remembers one client
who was looking for an elegant venue
to have her sons bar mitzvah. She was
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Akeley Hall of African Mammals at The

American Museum of Natural History.
R. Mickens
looking at upscale hotels and then came

to see the space at the museum.
She literally started crying, said Ms.
Heumann. She was so happy that she
could use the space, that there was a
level of elegance, but it was also a place
that had meaning.
Ms. Heumann said that the museum, which serves as a living memorial
to those who died in the Holocaust,
attracts about 50 to 75 percent of clients who have family members who
survived the Shoah.
At The Jewish Museum on Fifth Avenue in New York City, events are open
to either corporate or patron members
who are at the $10,000 level of support,
who can have their events in the lobby
or in the auditorium of the elegant
French Gothic Revival building.
This is a beautiful and historic building, said Molly Kurzius, publicist for
The Jewish Museum.
Ronya Gordon, special events and
rental coordinator for the museum,
said that many guests take advantage
of viewing the exhibitions when they
attend events at The Jewish Museum.
Yes, they have access to the work on
display. Many even fold the exhibitions
into their programs or events.
At the Brooklyn Museum, the Beaux
Arts Court is the centerpiece of its
event venues where weddings are often
held. On the third floor of the museum,
the events have the bonus of being surrounded by 19th century European art.
Its a beautiful area, said a museum spokeswoman. Very whimsical and
romantic perfect for a wedding.
At the Liberty Science Center in Jersey City, everything from mad science
childrens birthday parties to events
for 1,200 can take place. The museum
offers views of Manhattan and the Statue of Liberty from its various spaces.
The Beaux-Arts Court at the Brooklyn Museum.
The main events hall at the Museum of Jewish Heritage.
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When the all-inclusive sanctuary and ballroom is an option
Heidi Mae Bratt
ome people are rightly so

so connected to their synagogues and temples that when
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a wedding, that could mean that the
sanctuary in which theyve enjoyed
Shabbat or holiday services is the same
place that they can stand under the
chuppah with their betrothed. For a
bar or bat mitzvah, the synagogue
or temple is often the place in which
the young man or woman came up
as a child into young adulthood, and
the services are very familiar. So once
they take the bima to leyn the Torah
or haftorah or lead services, there may
Synagogues that have

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help make the simcha
at the synagogue a
good choice for
enjoying the whole
event under one roof.
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At the JCC of Paramus/Congregation Beth Tikvah, said executive director Norman Levin, there are many
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All told, Levin said, events at the
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Dr. Marianna Fedorenko and Samuel Weiner

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A father reflects on the challenges facing his two sons brit milahs
Ed Silberfarb
The forecast for the next day was light snow turning to rain, but the evening was clear and brisk.
I left the apartment on 10th Street in Greenwich
Village and went for a walk to pick up a bottle of
scotch, and to walk off the excitement and anticipation of the big day. The bagels, lox and cream
cheese were in place. It was February 8, 1969, and
the next day was the brit of our first born, Jake.
There were a few snowflakes in the air when I
returned.
Family would be coming from all points my
brother, pregnant sister-in-law and their 15-month
old son from Vermont; my wife, Sharons, sister
Joan from Florida, an aunt and two uncles from
Baltimore, another aunt and uncle from the Kingsbridge section of the Bronx; an uncle from Borough Park, Brooklyn; and an aunt from Jersey City.
We awoke early Sunday, February 9, to check
out the few snow flurries that had been predicted. We could barely see out the window through
what seemed to be a white curtain. One of the
biggest snowstorms in city history was under way.
By the time it was over, 20 inches would have
fallen on the city, causing 43 deaths, no subways
or buses for two days, schools and government
offices closed, grocery stores and super markets
wiped clean, and total snowbound isolation for
the borough of Queens.
The citys emergency manager was out of town.
Salt spreaders and snow removal equipment were
all safely tucked away in garages. To make the
unpreparedness worse, there was a rumor that
sanitation workers were on a work slow-down
because they were unhappy about the result of
their last strike.
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nient target than the weather bureau.

Though he managed to get re-elected,
the storm became a caustic issue in the
campaign. It became known forever
more, especially in Queens, as Lindsays
Snowstorm.
But what about the bris? Would that
take place? The mohel, who lived in
Brooklyn, had not yet shown up. Moles
burrow underground, was one remark.
He can tunnel under the snow.
My brother, Peter, who had completed his internship and was in the midst of
a medical residency, said in the worstcase scenario he would do the circumcision. After all, he had done one in his
training and would just need a little help
with the appropriate prayers. Sharon,
who was terrified about a brit under the
best of circumstances, retreated to a
bedroom with Jake and hid.
The guests continued to arrive. An
uncle came from Brooklyn looking like
an arctic explorer, carrying food prepared by his wife, who had the sense
not to leave home because of the
storm. Joan, who had come the day
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before, somehow produced some flowers and began arranging food, unconcerned as the wind, now blizzard proportions, howled outside. Another uncle
and aunt, dressed like Eskimos, and
with her famous sponge cake that no
party could be without, arrived from the
Bronx. The Baltimore relatives were in
place and so was the Jersey City representative. Still no mohel, though despite
the storm, a minion had gathered.
Then, with my brother putting everyone at ease by sharpening a carving
knife, Rabbi Braunstein, the mohel,
arrived. Sanity was restored, at least for
the moment. The ceremony was solemn
and moving despite the stress and anxiety of the day. The unbroken chain from
Abrahams Covenant was still in tact.
Then came the ugly aftermath, the
guests attempt to journey home. My
aunt and two uncles caught the last
train to Baltimore. There would be nothing after that for two days. My brothers
car was buried in snow. He, Anne and
little Ben were unexpected houseguests
for three days. When he finally excavated his car he found that someone had
been there first and broken into it. The
Bronx relatives may have set some sort
of record for subway travel. It took them

longer to get home five hours than it
took others to get to Baltimore.
Though street traffic came to a halt,
the telephone was still working. The
first call for Sharons sister was from her
son in Miami to tell her that the weather
there was okay, but his waterbed had
broken, and he was trying to siphon
the water out the window to keep from
flooding the bedroom. The next call was
from her mother. She had left the brit to
attend to the babys grandfather, who
was sick. As a precaution, they called for
an ambulance. When that didnt arrive,
they found a taxi that was actually moving to get to the hospital. Joan then left
for the airport to learn, of course, that
all flights were cancelled. She slept at
the airport, which had been cleaned out
of food, and flew home the next day.
Two years and eight months later it
was time for another brit. Our second
son, Joe, born October 1, would be
eight days old later in the week. The
weather was balmy, but there was a
different problem. October 8 was a Saturday, and to our disbelief there was no
mohel within walking distance of our
10th Street home in Greenwich Village.
We canvassed the few synagogues in

the area. Then we tried the hospitals,
naively thinking surely there would be a
mohel on duty.
Though I wanted someone I knew and
could trust, I was beginning to lower my
standards in desperation. Then came a
call from a Hasid in Williamsburg, Brooklyn. He had heard of my plight, and
would walk over the Williamsburg Bridge
to perform the brit. I thanked him, but I
realized I could never let a stranger do
this sacred and sensitive operation.
I called Rabbi Braunstein in Brooklyn and pleaded for the brit to be a
day later. He asked if I had exhausted
all possibilities. When I assured him I
had, he told me to try again. Then, after
another round of phone calls, he agreed
to do it on Sunday.
And so the ceremony again took on
special meaning. Neither a cataclysmic
storm nor our isolation on Shabbat could
stay the performance of this holy ritual.
Ed Silberfarb was a reporter for the Bergen
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Herald Tribune where he was City Hall bureau
chief. Later, he was a public information
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Everyone loves to discover a handwritten card or note among a thick stack of
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Useful Information for the Next

Generation of Jewish Families
The Gift of Failure

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November, 2015
The Gift of Failure . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5

Teaching children how to get up again
Mind Your Manners. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6

Social skills refined in thank you and please
Tutoring for a Boost . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8
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Local options to bolster academics
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A primer on the trait
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A big sister mentor gains much
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Questions for the audiologist
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musings from the editor

E
ach winter for many years, a big box from

West Palm Beach would arrive at our
door. Bulging slightly from the sides, it
was from Dillards, a department store I was
not familiar with, but now know is very popular in other parts of the country.
The package would be from my mother-inlaw, Bea, a Florida snowbird, inveterate shopper and fashion maven. Packed inside, its price
tags attached, were the most darling clothes
for the children. You see, my mother-in-law was
also a very savvy shopper and would hit the
stores during their final clearance sales. So the
red velvet party dress with its sweet crinoline
for Shaina, and the name brand navy sweat suit
meant for Yehuda, were purchased for a song.
The only hitch: while Shaina was 2 years
old, the dress was a size 7. I squirreled it away
in a box in the closet, hoping that when Shaina was five years older and wore a 7, that the
clothings appropriate season would match
her size. That fuzzy hoodie no matter how
cute could not be worn during a sweltering
August. But whenever the children did wear
the clothes, they looked wonderful and fetched
compliments.
I remember another
time when the television signal in the United
States changed from
analog to digital. We had
two hulking televisions.
The change was coming and if you didnt get
some sort of converter,
you would be lost. I was
ready to go television-
free. But my mother-in-law insisted that was

not to be. She purchased with Sony points
earned on her credit card a slim television
that would adapt easily and that would allow
us to watch television.
Yes, shopping was a feeling for my motherin-law. She loved to look good, loved making
everyone else look good, loved shopping at
Macys Herald Square and, of course, loved
her family: her older son, Jeff, my husband, his
brother, Frank, and their families, including five
grandchildren.
After 93 years, she died last week. A life
that started in Queens, N.Y., ended in Queens,
N.Y. Not to be reductive, and who could sum
up a life anyway, but it included decades of
hard work, outliving two husbands, raising two
sons, taking trips around the world a life that
was lived her way. Left a legacy of memories,
history and love for her family.
She was also a distinct personality.
How many senior citizens wear multiple
earrings that is, more than one piercing,
keep up with the latest fashion trend, and tattoo eyeliner underneath her brown eyes in her
80s to always look made up?
That was my mother-in-law, ever in style,
ever with it, ever young. A fiercely independent woman, she watched her stocks and her
shows, like Shark Tank, with equal interest.
I remember when she would come over for
Shabbos lunch. She never came empty handed. There was always a tchotchke for the children, a tie for Jeff and some motherly insights
for me. I would make sure to include corned
beef on the menu because the salty, fatty meat
was a favorite of hers.
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James L. Janoff
Natalie Jay
Heidi Mae Bratt
Peggy Elias
George Kroll
Karen Nathanson
Janice Rosen
Brenda Sutcliffe
Publisher
Editor
Deborah Herman
Art Director
AdvisoryBoard
Michelle Brauntuch, MS,CCLS
Barry Weissman, MD
Child Life Specialist, Englewood Hospital, Englewood
Pediatrician, Hackensack and Wyckoff
Hope Eliasof
Cheryl Wylen
Holistic Chiropractor, Oakland
Ed Silberfarb
Denise Morrison Yearian
Rifka Schonfeld
Contributing Writers
Jane Calem Rosen
Marketing and Communications Specialist
Howard Prager, DC, DACBSP
Advertising Director
Account Executives
Psychologist, Teaneck
Marriage and Family Therapist, Midland Park
Cheers,
About
About Our Children is designed to help Jewish families in our area live healthy, positive lives that make the most of
the resources available to them. By providing useful, current, accurate information, the publication aims to guide parents to essential information on faith, education, the arts, events, and child-raising in short, everything that todays
Jewish family, babies to grandparents, needs to live life to the fullest in northern New Jersey and Rockland County.
Dr. Annette Berger, Psy.D.
I remember when we visited her many

years before, when she lived on Long Beach,
Long Island where she raised her family.
We were going to hit the sand and, not being
a beach girl myself, I didnt have the right
clothes. Bea to the rescue. But of course, she
had the right clothes! There is a photograph
of me wearing her white terrycloth cover-up
on top of my bathing suit, playing with baby
Yehuda.
Thanksgiving was always a tradition spent
with Bea. For years, our family would take the
Long Island Railroad to Franks house in Jericho, and the whole family would gather for the
meal, and then some.
This Thanksgiving, sadly, there will be an
empty seat.
But this Thanksgiving, I will try to fill it with
thanks.
I will be thankful that Bea was a grandmother to my children. I will be thankful that
we had her for so long. I will be thankful that
she was here for us when we needed her. And
most of all, I will be thankful that as a mother, she raised my wonderful, loving and kind
husband.
Wishing all gratitude.
Director of Adult Programs and Cultural Arts

YM-YWHA of North Jersey, Wayne
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Recognizing the Gift of Failure

As a Way to Success
R I F KA S C H O N F E L D
Only those who dare to fail greatly
can ever achieve greatly.
ROBERT F. KENNEDY
I have not failed. Ive just found

10,000 ways that wont work.
THOMAS A. EDISON
Success is stumbling from failure to

failure with no loss of enthusiasm.
WINSTON CHURCHILL
obert F. Kennedy, Thomas Edison, and Winston Churchill, three

men who changed the course of
the 20th century, viewed failure as part
of the process of success. In her book,
The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents
Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can
Succeed, Jessica Lahey writes about
the significance of failure in childrens
lives. She explains that early failure and
its consequences help children develop
a toolbox of skills to gain autonomy and
competence for later in life.
Paul Tough, in his book How Children Succeed: Grit, Curiosity, and the
Hidden Power of Character, outlines the
skills and character traits children attain
by encountering and overcoming failure.
Persistence
Persistence is about knowing what you
want and not stopping until you get it.
Remember Watty Pipers The Little Engine that Could? While the little blue
engine is the smallest of all the engines,
she is the only one who agrees to help
the dolls and toys over the mountain.
Though it is unclear whether such a
small engine can succeed, the engine
repeats to herself, I think I can. I think
I can. And eventually makes it to the
other side of the mountain.
It is just this persistence or perseverance that we need to teach our children.
When struggling, we need to push ourselves in order to reach our goal. Like all
non-cognitive skills, persistence cannot
be taught through a worksheet. As parents, we can be role models for our children and teach them that when things are
tough, they still need to keep trying. Setting our own goals (whether they are fitness, educational, or personal goals) and
then sharing our triumphs and failures
with our children will teach them that it
is okay to fail and then keep on working
towards a goal. Parents and educators
need to model persistence and encourage
second, third, and twentieth tries.
Grit
The truth is that you cannot teach curiosity. You can, however, model curiosity when your children are little by asking
your own questions and working with
them to look them up. You can also answer their questions, regardless of how
silly or frequent they are. These questions will get longer and more important
and as time goes on they will develop
skills to answer them themselves.
Grit goes hand in hand with persistence.

Children who fail and then pull themselves up and start again are exhibiting
grit. They know that though it is painful
and their knees are scraped, they can
try again. Without grit, there is no persistence, and every failure is final.
Self control
A famous study in the 1960s, often dubbed the marshmallow test,
tested children on their self control.
The very young children were handed a marshmallow and told that they
could get a second one if they waited
until the researcher came back in the
room in order to eat the first. Some
children ate the first right away and
did not receive a second, but others sang or talked to themselves in
order to avoid eating the marshmallow. Eventually, when the researcher
returned, those children received a second marshmallow. The researchers then
followed those children for the next several decades.
What the researchers found astounded them. Those children who
had managed to control themselves in
order to get the second marshmallow
had more successful marriages, careers,
and lives in general. The ability to con-
Self-confidence
trol themselves and delay gratification

ended up allowing them to set goals and
achieve them even if it meant waiting a
bit along the way. Helping children set
goals and then working with them to
achieve them is an excellent way to develop self-control.
Curiosity
Curiosity is about asking questions and
wanting to know how the world works.
Self-confidence is about believing in

yourself. In order to take risks, fail, and
continue again, you need to be confident
that you are strong and capable. Part of
self-confidence comes from success, and
part of it comes from overcoming failure.
As parents and educators, we have to let
children fail when they deserve to fail in
order to help them learn to overcome
that failure.
The greatest gift you can give your
children is the gift of failure. Trust me,
theyll thank you later.
Rifka Schonfeld is the founder and director of
S.O.S (Strategies for Optimum Success) for all
grade levels. A reading specialist, she gives
workshops and creates school reading labs. Ms.
Schonfeld, who has served the Jewish community for more than three decades, provides several other services. 718-382-5437, rifkaschonfeld@
gmail.com, rifkaschonfeldsos.com.
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eaching children manners provides them with

the social skills needed to be successful in life.
Although the refinement of these skills may take
years to master, if parents are deliberate and consistent, their efforts will pay off.
Between the ages of 2 and 5, children are most
receptive to learning codes of conduct because they
have a strong desire to please their parents and theyre
soaking up everything in their environment, says Parent Educator Chris Buker. Start with simple courtesies
and expand your expectations as they grow.
Thats what Sherry Brown has done. When her
boys began pointing and asking for things around age
2, she introduced phrases such as, Please and Thank
you. She tackled table manners too.
I started teaching them they had to wait until everyone got to the table to eat, says Brown of Zachary,
now age 6, and Hunter, 2. They also have to ask to be
excused and they must clear their dishes. Chewing with
their mouths open and talking while eating has been addressed too. Zachary is doing pretty good at this; with
Hunter its a constant conversation.
Whats important is to be specific about your
expectations.
Instead of saying, Mind your manners, tell them,
When we go out for dinner I want you to and state

exactly what you want to see, says child psychologist
Carl Chenkin. This removes any ambiguity in your
childs mind and gives him opportunities to succeed.
Role playing may also help.
Its a fun way to introduce a variety of social skills,
says Buker. Use play phones to teach telephone etiquette. Let kids practice greeting and shaking hands
with their stuffed animals and dolls. Before going out
for a nice dinner, make a special meal with good dishes
at home. Encourage your child to get dressed up then
play out the scenario so she knows what to expect.
Browns boys have found this to be beneficial.
If theres a situation they are unfamiliar with, we
coach them ahead of time on what to expect, she says.
Just recently we celebrated my grandfathers 97th birthday, and there were a lot of relatives the kids hadnt met.
Before leaving home we reminded them to shake peoples
hands when they were introduced, not interrupt conversations and say their pleases and thank yous.
Childrens books that focus on manners can reinforce
refinement skills, as can television and movies. This has
been Amy Riddells experience. While watching TV one
day, her 4 -year-old son Nicholas pointed out a scene
where a group of kids was having a food fight.
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At Fusion Academy, a new progressive private school opening in Englewood and currently housed temporarily
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Students at Fusion Academy can shape
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In addition to the school, which accommodates students with particular
needs but is neither a special education
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The tutoring supplements their academic education with different courses
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The overall philosophy of the school
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to Stephanie Torossian, director of admissions and outreach of the school that
was founded in California in 1989 and
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the whole child academically, socially
and emotionally to build motivation and
confidence.
At the Practice Perfect, a tutoring service in Tenafly that focuses on
the SATs and ACTs, a diagnostic exam
right off the bat helps to guide prospective college students into whether they
would be better off taking the SAT or the
ACT, both standardized examinations required in the college admission process.
Theres been a lot of interest this
year especially because the SAT is
changing its format. Students are very
interested in what that may mean for
college admission.
Many students need help crafting
their writing writing that is essential
to the college application process. Connecting with the students is something
that writing coach and essay tutor Deb
Breslow tries to do when she meets with
her students to help them with their col-
lege essays.
In a session that some have described as therapeutic, Ms. Breslow,
who has the students visit her at her
home which creates a warm, informal
environment plumbs their interests to
come up with a good essay idea, takes
assiduous notes and presents them to
students for them to write their essays.
The essay has taken on a really,
really important role in the admission
process, says Ms. Breslow. Just how
important the essay is, and how many
may be required in the admission to
several colleges, can become very
overwhelming.
Unfortunately, so many kids still
dont know how to write an essay.
When it comes to lessons for bar
or bat mitzvah or Judaic studies, Cantor Barbra Lieberstein visits her clients
weekly in their homes in Bergen or
Rockland. Her lessons, which focus on
learning Hebrew, prayers and other essentials for the bar and bat mitzvah, are
personal and tailored to each students
needs. With some 70 clients, Cantor Barbra Lieberstein will now send out some
of her trained staff to help prepare students, but when the event nears, she will
resume tutoring the students herself.
In addition to her bar and bat mitzvah training work, Cantor Lieberstein
also teaches Hebrew in small groups
from two to four people, usually clients
who are unaffiliated otherwise, but want
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What distinguishes Mathnasium a
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The ABCs of ADHD

DENISE MORRISON YEARIAN
rom the time Cody Schumacher was

age 2, he displayed attention problems, accompanied by unrivaled
determination and temper tantrums.
Concerned, his mother approached the
pediatrician, but she dismissed it as a
developmental norm and said the boy
would outgrow it. By age 5, however, the
behaviors had escalated.
When the kindergarten teacher
said, I cant harness Codys attention
long enough to work with him, I knew
something wasnt right, says Martha
Schumacher of her now 12-year-old son.
What baffled me was he was bright and
could articulate his thoughts far better
than his peers. So when the school said
he needed to repeat kindergarten not
because of intelligence but because of
maturity issues I had to do something,
but I was clueless on where to begin.
Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a behavioral condition
that impairs a childs ability to function
in the academic, social and domestic environments. The terms ADD (attention
deficit disorder) and ADHD are sometimes used interchangeably as the result
of a diagnosis that has evolved over the
years.
It used to be ADD with or without
hyperactivity. Now it is ADHD in one of
the three types hyperactivity, impulsivity and attention, says Dr. John T.
Walkup, associate professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Johns
Hopkins Medical Institutions. Children
can have any combination of the three
types, or they can have all three. With
proper treatment and management,
however, these kids can go on to live
successful, productive lives.
Frank Kros, MSW, JD, president of
the Upside Down Organization and nationally recognized speaker on ADHD,
agrees. All ADHD children have four
primary symptoms: impulsivity, time
disorientation, working memory deficit
and attention issues, he says. The first,
impulsivity, equates to issues with self
control. This refers to the student who,
despite repeated warnings, blurts out
the answer instead of raising his hand,
or the one who yanks a toy out of another childs hand just because he wants it.
Thats what clued Ms. Schumacher
that her youngest son Tyler had ADHD.
By the time he was 3, Ty began showing signs of extreme impulsiveness,
she says of her now 8-year-old. I often
found myself saying to him, What were
you thinking? when he did something
wrong. Hed also start activities then
grow quickly bored and move on. I knew
ADHD could be genetic, so I was already
on the lookout for it. About midway
through kindergarten problems cropped

up, so I took him in for evaluation.
The second symptom, time disorientation, affects the way children with
ADHD track time, making task organization and time management a challenge.
Likewise, working memory deficit, or
how many thoughts one can hold in his
head at a given time, can pose a problem
too.
This is critical in decision making,
problem solving and following directions, says Kros. If a teacher says,
Sharpen your pencil, pull out paper,
open your book to page twelve and read
the first two paragraphs, the child with
ADHD will have trouble holding all of
those thoughts simultaneously.
Time disorientation and working
memory deficit were just two of the
symptoms that alerted Kim Marchman
that her son had a problem. Andrew
was 5 when we began to notice he was
extremely disorganized and constantly
lost things, says the mother of her now
17-year-old. Initially we dismissed it as
typical boyish behavior. But then we noticed he couldnt stay focused and took
longer than his peers to complete school
work. His teacher also stressed that his
papers were either turned in incomplete
or werent handed in at all. Out of necessity, I began to create strategies to help
him stay focused and on task.
The last primary characteristic seen
in children with ADHD is attention problems, which can be manifested in hyperactivity and/or inattentiveness.
The difference between the two is
the predominantly hyperactive child
is self stimulating and overtly active,
whereas the predominately inattentive
child is zoning, says Walkup. The latter is more difficult to recognize because
the child can, in fact, look as if hes paying attention when hes not. Then theres
the combined type where the child is hyperactive in some settings and inattentive in others.
Although ADHD affects both genders equally, research shows boys are
diagnosed three to eight times more
frequently than girls, due in part to attention issues. Boys with ADHD tend
to lean more toward hyperactivity while
girls tend to be more inattentive, though
we dont understand why, says Kros.
As a result, girls often go undiagnosed
until academic challenges increase in
latter years. Does this mean boys have
ADHD more? No. It just means their conduct is often more noticeable, which can
lead to an earlier diagnosis than their
counterparts.
Screening for ADHD begins with an
evaluation by a primary care doctor or
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The Jewish Youth Encounter Program, JYEP, is a Hebrew

School in Teaneck, where in addition to the children
learning in a classroom with their peers, they are paired
with a Big Brother or Big Sister, a teen mentor who tutors
them in Hebrew reading and language and serves as a
Jewish role model. The following is an essay written by
Elisheva Rothberg, one of the Big Sisters..
Throughout my JYEP experience I was fortunate to
be a big sister to two amazing girls, Sabrina, who has
been my little sister for the past four years, and Emilia,
who was my little sister for two years. My first day being
a big sister was probably one of the most memorable.
I was walking with JYEP Director Debby Rapps so she
could show me who my new little sister was, and she
walked me over to this third grade girl with long brown
hair. I was expecting the first week to feel stiff and a
little uncomfortable being that we knew nothing about
each other. But Sabrina didnt let things feel uncomfortable. Sabrina was outgoing and warm, and at that moment I realized this was going to be a great experience.
Throughout that first year Sabrina and I learned
the aleph bet together. We got really close; we became
friends. She would talk to me about her life and asked
questions about being Jewish and what it is like being
an observant Jew. She was always eager to learn and
wanted to learn more. She reviewed at home, and would
apologize when she forgot. We played bingo and matching games and we would even make some games up.
The following year at orientation I found out that
I would be having two littles that year, Sabrina and
Emilia. I was nervous about how that would work out
because Sabrina and I were already working together
and Emilia had no idea who we were. However, I quickly
realized when meeting Emilia she was outgoing too. After the first week it was like I was always the big sister
of Sabrina and Emilia. We taught Emilia all the games
we made up, and included her in all our jokes. Over
the two years all three of us worked together; we read
different stories and learned how to read and translate
sentences and phrases.
My siblings and parents at home loved being involved as well. When we invited Sabrina and Emilia
over for Chanukah, they got to know them. We all lit
the candles together, each one getting to light their own
menorah and reciting the blessing that we learned in
JYEP together. Afterwards we sat down for dinner of
yummy fried food. Before last Passover I decided to get
them excited about learning the story of the splitting
of the sea. They each got to create a cake in which we
made the splitting of the sea. Sabrina and Emilia got really into it as they iced the cake blue and decorated it
with assorted candies.
The Shabbatonim with JYEP were memorable. I
was able to share my love for Shabbat with Sabrina and
Emilia by them experiencing it first hand. I was able
to show them all the different customs that we talked
about in JYEP. It was another opportunity for me to get
to know my littles better, and to hang out with them
outside of the school setting. The Shabbatonim also
give the littles a chance to interact with one another
to create one big family filled with many little brothers
and sisters and big brothers and sisters.
JYEP has been an incredible experience. I may have
taught Sabrina and Emilia Hebrew and about Judaism,
but they taught me many things if not more. They gave
me a different perspective on life and on Judaism; they
made me realize many different things about myself
that I didnt know before. I am happy that they were my
littles and I will miss them next year. It made me realize
how much we have in common with all Jews, and there
is so much more that unites us than separates us.
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Do Not Work, Do Not Create, And Do Not Pass Go on the Sabbath
he Almighty rested on the seventh

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light switching, no riding neither
car nor elevator. Reading is encouraged,
and also discussion, words of Torah and
Talmud, of course. But as the day wears
on, the young Shabbat observers grow
restless. The nap is too sedentary. The
walk in the park has limitations. Mincha
and havdalah seem unattainable.
The strain is eased with a device not
quite in the spirit of Shabbat perhaps,
but halachically unassailable. Its the
Monopoly game, which has absorbed
young and old for some 80 years.
The players span three generations.
Grandpa is the banker and chooses the
top hat as his token. Abba picks the
hand iron to insure a freshly pressed
shirt. Its the car, of course, for Devorah,
who just got her drivers license, and a
shoe for 13-year-old Yehuda, who has
become a runner. There are no more official tokens, but 10-year-old Eli found a
miniature horse, which, after some dispute, the other players agree to allow in
the game.
The fake money is distributed. The
dice are rolled. The game begins and so
do the arguments. Devorah lands in jail
and claims there was no due process.
She demands a writ of habeas corpus.
Yehuda wants to put all his houses on
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him out of the game. Thats not how one

honors ones father, but Monopoly, like
life, observes no such courtesies.
Eli finally gets a monopoly other
than railroads Baltic and Mediterranean Avenues, the cheapest property on
the board. He quickly builds houses, and
is accused of being a notorious slumlord,
providing no heat or hot water. Devorah
lands there, and threatens to organize a
rent strike because of deplorable conditions, but theres no Housing Court to
adjudicate the issue.
The game goes on. The players keep
circling the board. Play is adjourned so
Shabbat can be concluded properly,
then play resumes. A strategic moment
comes when Devorahs Chance card
tells her to Take a walk on the Boardwalk. She buys it, one of the two most
valuable properties on the board. The
other, Park Place, is in Yehudas portfolio, but, alas, is mortgaged.
The dice keep rolling. Grandma, a reluctant spectator, and 18-year-old Naftali,
just back from an evening of learning at
the kollel, offer suggestions to end the
game, but the dogged competitors will
have none of it. All the property has been
purchased. Abba owns a pristine strip of
yellow and red stretching from Kentucky
Avenue to Marvin Gardens. He wants to
build houses, but there is an outcry that
hes ruining the landscape and must submit to an environmental impact study.
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says he must divide them. Abba lands
on Income Tax, and says, hell just pay
10 per cent of his cash, but the revenue
agents say, No, you must count your
property also. These are profound legal
issues and theres no higher authority to
resolve them. The official printed rules
of the game have long been lost, and
Shabbat does not allow the use of the
computer for reference or the telephone
for consultation.
The game continues under protest. Eli
has acquired St. James Place and Tennessee Avenue, and wants to buy New York
Avenue from Grandpa to gain a monopoly.
Grandpa wont sell. You have to sell! Eli
insists with a Godfather-like menace in his
voice, but Grandpa holds firm.
Grandpa draws a Community Chest
card that says he won second prize in
a beauty contest. Amidst howls of derision, he collects $10.
Yehuda lands on Park Place, but
doesnt have enough money to buy it.
Devorah will loan him the money, then
buy it from him. No! is the ensuing uproar, but Yehuda manages to buy it by
mortgaging everything he owns.
Meanwhile Eli, like a Harriman or
Vanderbilt, has been collecting railroads.
The cognoscenti ridicule such a foolish
tactic until Abba draws a card that instructs him to ride the nearest railroad
and pay the owner double. It almost puts
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Grandpa, who owns both Water Works

and the Electric Company, is accused of
violating the anti-trust laws with an illegal
monopoly. But isnt that the name of the
game? is his bewildered reply.
Play is stalled while Devorah and
Yehuda, owners of Boardwalk and Park
Place, each try to buy the others property with unrealistic offers. Grandpa finally sells New York Avenue to Eli, who
now has no money to build, while Grandpa has money but no property to build
on. And Abba, under protest, is about to
take up residence in Devorahs luxury
hotel on Pennsylvania Avenue.
All the players are refueled with $200
payments for passing Go except for the
hapless jail inmates. This infusion of
money, like an anti-recession ploy, prevents failure of even the most reckless
junk bond entrepreneur. The game continues with no end in sight.
Finally Grandma has a scheme for
closure a melavah malkah fortified
with fresh pizza that no real estate colossus could reject. The assets of each
player are totaled. The game may be
over but not the arguments.
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About
Teen Chef Eitan Bernath

Creates the Sweetest Thanksgiving
H e i d i M a e B rat t
o whats been cooking with

Teanecks favorite teen chef?
Plenty. Since his appearance
on the Food Network show, Chopped,
which aired more than a year ago in
September 2014, Eitan Bernath, an 8th
grader at Yavneh Academy, has turned
bar mitzvah, shot up four inches in
height, and has gotten his braces off so
now his sweet smile reflects his pearly
whites.
Poised and mature, Eitan, who is
busy with a full palette of day school responsibilities, has deepened his involvement in the kosher culinary world.
Hes spent the summer attending two professional cooking schools,
took an online culinary course on the
science of cooking offered by Harvard,
grew an enviable garden of vegetables
and herbs in his familys backyard,
blogged about cooking on his website, cookwithchefeitan.com, written
columns of his own recipes for a local
magazine, and sharpened his photography skills in order to add picture-taking
of his dishes to his culinary oeuvre.
It sure is a full plate.
At times I have to juggle school
deadlines and professional deadlines,
says Eitan, who is scheduled to be a
presenter at the upcoming 2015 Hazon
Philadelphia Jewish Food Festival and a
participant at the Kosher Bloggers Conference at NYU, among other upcoming
engagements and appearances.
But it is all a lot of fun and I would
not want it any other way. Also, I have
been able to meet many people in the kosher culinary world, and that has been
amazing.
We asked Eitan if he could create a
few Thanksgiving recipes exclusively
for About Our Children, and he happily
obliged. He came up with two seasonal
desserts that take advantage of fruits of
autumn: pumpkin and cranberries.
Eitans Pumpkin Pie Parfait with a
Pistachio Rosewater Crumble is a nod
to the classic holiday pie, with a twist
that is ethnic and innovative, and pays
a bit of homage to his favorite cuisine:
Indian.
Likewise, in his Thanksgiving Chocolate Chip Cookies, Eitan has added cranberries, which are traditionally used to
make the sauce of the big Thanksgiving
Day turkey. The cranberries give the
cookies a chewy and fruity bite.
He makes some mean cookies,
12 About our Children NOVEMBER 2015
Chef Eitan Bernath chops pistachios for the dessert. Photos by Jerry szubin
says his younger brother, Yoni, 10, a 5th

grader at Yavneh Academy and among
his biggest fans.
So what creates a teen chef?
Eitan began by watching his moth-
er, Sabrina Bernath, cook. But when he

was about 9 or 10, he started requesting
more exotic food, and his mother encouraged him to try his hand at preparing his own food. He took her up on the
offer, and the first dish he made, a basic

burrito beans and cheese has
morphed into a more complex dish,
which remains a family favorite.
He loves science and is very good at
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About
it, says Sabrina Bernath. He loves

how cooking changes food, that scientific aspect, so cooking was a form
of play for him.
That play became a passion.
And that passion, encouraged by his
mother, and his father, Jason Bernath, is what Eitan has been following through.
He says for his greatest inspiration, he learns from YouTube, the Internet, and from the Food Network.
His fateful appearance on
Chopped began when a friend,
who knew about his cooking skills,
sent an email about an open casting
call at the Food Network. Eitan and
his mother filled out the application,
not thinking that anything would materialize, but hoping. Lo and behold,
he was called for an interview. After a
few rounds, he made the cut, and appeared on the show choosing to go
on television with his kippah, a Jewish statement that has been widely
praised.
Eitans statement of his Jewish
pride on Chopped was even recognized by, among others, Chabad,
which honored him with its Tzivos
Hashem award celebrating the Power of Jewish Children at its annual
dinner
Watching this young man cook
is a pleasure. He demonstrated how
to make the Pumpkin Pie Parfait
with a Pistachio Rosewater Crumble for a reporter recently, preparing all the ingredients, and ever the
professional, had one already in the
oven baking. The kitchen was redolent with fragrance of the pumpkin
pie spices.
They have pumpkin spice mix,
but its better to use one separately
and mix them yourself, Eitan advises. This way you can control them
more.
Not only was it a pleasure meeting Eitan and his family, but also I
got the pleasure of sampling the
dessert.
The result?
Shall we say the proof was in the
pudding or in this case, the parfait.
The verdict?
Just like this young man
delicious.
Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of About
Our Children.
Chef Eitan Bernath busy preparing the Pumpkin Pie Parfait.
Pumpkin Pie Parfait with a Pistachio Rosewater Crumble
For Pumpkin Cream:

1 15-ounce can of pumpkin puree
2 eggs
3/4 cup of dark brown sugar
12 teaspoon ginger
12 teaspoon cinnamon
14 teaspoon cloves
14 teaspoon nutmeg
14 cup of vanilla soymilk
14 cup of nondairy creamer
Thanksgiving Chocolate Chip Cookies
For Pistachio Crumble:

1 1/2 cups shelled pistachios
1 tablespoon rose water
2 tablespoons margarine
3 tablespoons sugar
1 1/2 teaspoons cinnamon
Other: Pareve whipped cream
1. Preheat the oven to 350 degrees.
2. With a handheld beater, beat
pumpkin puree, eggs and sugar in a
bowl until combined.
3. Add the ginger, cinnamon, cloves,
and nutmeg to the pumpkin mixture.
4. then add the soymilk and nondairy
creamer and beat for 2 minutes.
5. bake in a 9-inch round deep dish
for 45 minutes.
6. While the pumpkin mixture bakes,
melt the margarine.
7. then crush the pistachios until they
are small chunks.
8. Combine the crushed pistachios,
rose water, sugar, cinnamon and melted margarine and stir until it forms a
Photos by eitAn bernAth
lumpy paste.
9. bake the crumble at 350 degrees
for 15 minutes until its crunchy and
slightly darkened.
10. once cooled break the crumble
into smaller pieces with your hands.
11. to assemble the parfait, layer the
crumble on the bottom of a glass,
then cover with a thick layer of the
pumpkin.
12. Finally, top the parfait with
whipped cream and sprinkle the top
of the three layers with some remaining crumble.
(Makes about 48 cookies.)

2 sticks margarine (softened)
2/3 cup granulated sugar
1/2 cup firmly packed dark brown sugar
1 large egg
1 tsp vanilla extract
2 cups all-purpose flour
3/4 teaspoon baking soda
3/4 teaspoon salt
1/3 cup pareve chocolate chips
1/3 cup chopped walnuts
1/3 cup chopped dried cranberries
1. Preheat oven to 375
degrees.
2. Cream together the
margarine, sugar, brown
sugar, in a mixer until light
and fluffy.
3. beat in vanilla and egg
until full combined.
4. next add in the flour,
baking soda, and salt into
the mixer and mix until
combined.
5. Finally add in the chocolate chips, walnuts, and
cranberries and mix until
combined.
6. Drop the dough by

heaping tablespoons about
two inches apart on a
cookie sheet lined with
parchment paper.
7. bake for 9 to 12 minutes.
8. Cool the cookies for
one minute on the cookie
sheets then transfer them
onto a cooling rack.
9. once the cookies are
completely cool, store in
an airtight container.
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About
Hear Ye, Hear Ye
Safeguarding the Health of Your Hearing

H e i d i M a e B rat t
ave you ever thought of getting an audiologist

evaluation for your pre-school child? Perhaps
not, but there are thousands of children in the
U.S. who have hearing loss. Hearing is critical to speech
and language development, communication, learning,
and literacy. Childhood hearing loss can be congenital,
delayed onset, acquired or progressive in nature. An
early hearing evaluation may be a way to prevent any
later problems.
About Our Children consulted Patricia E. Connelly, PhD, a pediatric audiologist at The Valley Hospital, Kireker Center for Child Development, and Donna
Szabo, AuD, director of audiology at Innovative Hearing
Solutions, for their expertise.
AOC: Why would a child see an audiologist?
Patricia Connelly: Delayed speech or language
development, that is, not meeting the developmental
milestones for producing the sounds of speech, making words, using or understanding words in meaningful
ways; for listening issues; if the child exhibits behaviors
that seem to be related to hearing; for ear infections; and
with issues having to do with academic performance.
AOC: When would they be referred to a medical
doctor?
Patricia Connelly: Test results should always be
discussed with a childs pediatrician or primary care
provider. However, a referral to an otolaryngologist
(ear, nose, throat doctor) is indicated when the hearing test results demonstrate any kind of hearing loss,
transient or permanent, if examination of the ear canals
reveals drainage, blood in the ear canal, excessive wax
build-up or a foreign body.
Donna Szabo: Children should always see an ENT
first who would recommend a hearing test. If they see
an audiologist first and hearing loss is detected then
they should be referred to an ENT. Some children who
get ear infections or swimmers ear should always be
referred to an ear specialist.
AOC: What are the most common hearing problems faced by the pediatric population?
Patricia Connelly: Persistent fluid in the middle
ear from allergies, ear infections or problems with the
adenoids, transient hearing loss from middle ear fluid.
Donna Szabo: Conductive hearing loss due to ear
infections is very common in pediatrics. We are also
seeing teenagers as well as adults in our office who
experience hearing loss accompanied by tinnitus from
listening to loud music. Hearing loss in children is not
limited to these causes. Hearing loss from head trauma,

ear injuries such as a punctured ear drum or congenital
losses are also a concern for the pediatric population.
AOC: How can a parent safeguard their childs
hearing?
Donna Szabo: Parents should limit the volume
and the time a child spends listening to music with
earphones. Avoid loud music or use earplugs when in
noisy environments such as parties, bar mitzvahs and
weddings.
Patricia Connelly: Practice and reinforce safe lis-
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buds that are wired to limit the loudness
of the device. Insist on the use of hearing
protection earmuffs when participating
in activities with high noise levels, such
as when using gardening equipment
(mower, leaf blower, snow blower) or in
recreational activities (snowmobiling,
target shooting).
AOC: What is an acceptable level
of noise/music/sound to ensure that a
childs hearing is not compromised?
Patricia Connelly: When earphones
or ear buds are being used, the volume
should be set so that the listener can still
hear environmental sounds. This is not
only for hearing protection, but also for
personal protection and awareness of
whats going on around the child.
Donna Szabo: My rule of thumb is
that if someone other than the person
listening to music with earphones can

hear the music, it is too loud. Some personal listening devices come with output limiters and parents can set them to
safe listening levels. Adults and children
who ride the subways or are in loud environments tend to use music with earphones to drown out the noise. In doing
this they put themselves at risk for hearing loss due to noise exposure. Children
as well as young adults need to be aware
of the dangers of loud noise that doesnt
always affect their hearing at the time of
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future. If they experience a decrease in
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ENT and audiologist as soon as possible.
ADHD continued from page 9
That was one of the first things we

did educate ourselves, says Schumacher. We joined CHADD [Children and
Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder];
they have a wealth of information so
parents can stay on top of the issue and
learn how to help their child at various
stages of development. Another thing
thats important is to find someone you
can trust to care for your child.
After Codys diagnosis, the psychiatrist started the process of finding medication that would allow him to function
without affecting his personality. It took
about a year before we found the right
combo, says Schumacher, who states
they took the same route with Tyler. In
addition to the meds, we created charts
to help the kids to stay on task. We also
learned how to interact with them to
bring about positive rather than negative responses.
Marchman didnt experience the
same success with medication and opted to stick with non-prescription strategies to control Andrews disorder. In
addition to visuals and other techniques
we use at home, we also work closely
with the school to maintain balance in
the classroom, she says. There are
good days and bad days, but overall its
working well.
Indeed it is. This past spring Andrew
graduated from high school with aboveaverage grades and is now attending a
local community college. Cody and Tyler
are flourishing too.
Some people equate ADHD with IQ
but theres no correlation, says Kros.
In fact, some of the most accomplished
people in the United States have or
are believed to have had severe cases
of ADHD Bill Gates, Michael Phelps,
Steven Spielberg, even Abraham Lincoln yet they have all gone on to live
successful lives.
specialist who will inquire about family

history and perform exams to rule out
other health-related issues. Parents will
be asked a series of questions regarding
the childs lifestyle and behaviors. Teachers and other significant caregivers will
be consulted too. Information gleaned
will be evaluated alongside other criteria such as developmentally appropriate behaviors, how long symptoms have
persisted and if they appear in one or
more of the three subtypes before age
7. Doctors will then use a rating scale to
determine degree of impairment.
Although Schumacher didnt know
where to go for help with Cody, the boys
grandparents were friends with the head
of a local hospital and so consulted him.
He brought in a team of experts to evaluate Cody [and later Tyler] and he was
diagnosed with ADHD, combined type,
says Schumacher. When we found out
we were relieved; now we could work
on fixing the problem. Cody felt better
too because he could finally understand
why he behaved the way he did.
Andrews disorder wasnt addressed
so quickly. As he got older, Marchman
continued to create strategies to help
her son succeed, both at home and at
school. Then five years later while attending an academic workshop, she was
clued in. The speaker was talking about
ADD and learning disabilities when the
light bulb went on, Thats Andrew! I immediately called the pediatrician and
asked for an evaluation. By fifth grade
the diagnosis was made and an IEP [individual education plan] was in place
to help him succeed in school, says
Marchman.
If parents suspect their child has
ADHD, they should talk with their pediatrician, says Walkup. Equally important
is to read up on the condition and go to
reliable sources for information. There
is a number of websites that have false
data and if parents take that advice, it
can keep their child from getting help.
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Titantic Exhibition
at Liberty Science
Titanic: The Artifact Exhibition at The Liberty Science Center, opening Oct. 31, focuses on
the legendary RMS Titanics compelling human stories. It features more than 100 authentic artifacts set within replicas of cabins and other areas within the famous ill-fated ship.
Visitors will be drawn back in time to April 1912, when the ship embarked on its maiden
voyage and follow a chronological journey through life on the Titanic from the ships
construction to life on board, to the moments of impact and sinking, including a chance to
touch an iceberg, and the modern day efforts to recover and conserve the wreckage for
future generations. Liberty Science Center, 222 Jersey City Boulevard, Jersey City. 201200-1000. www.lsc.org.
The Big Apple Circus

Returns to the Big Apple
Big Apple Circus returns to the Big Top at Lincoln Center for the companys
38th season with an all-new show, The Grand Tour. The Grand Tour transports audiences to the 1920s, the advent of the modern travel era, when
the most adventuresome began to tour the world in ships, planes, trains, and
automobiles. With every seat less than 50 feet from the stage, audiences
attending the circus will be entertained by the world-class entertainers as
they perform acts from all over the world. Clowns, jugglers, acrobats and
aerialists from Africa, Asia, Australia, Europe, and North and South America
appear with ponies, puppies and more. Big Apple Circus, Damrosch Park
on Lincoln Center Plaza, Amsterdam Ave. and W. 62 St., Manhattan.
www.bigapplecircus.org
Wild Kratts
at bergenPAC
Power of Pictures
at The Jewish Museum
The Jewish Museum will present The Power of Pictures Family Day, a fun-filled day of
activities, on Sunday, November 15 from noon to 4 p.m. Children can design vibrant
posters at a drop-in art workshop; create a surreal family portrait; rock out in Russian
and English with the band Lyagushki; and explore the power of the camera to capture
the world around us through gallery tours of the exhibition The Power of Pictures: Early
Soviet Photography, Early Soviet Film. This event, for children age 3 and up, is free with
admission. The Jewish Museum,1105 Fifth Ave. Manhattan. 212-423-3200, www.
thejewishmuseum.org.
The Wild Kratts are back at bergenPAC

on Sunday, Nov. 15. Animated Kratt
Brothers, Martin and Chris, come to real
life in a classic Wild Kratts story. Through
hilarious pratfalls and amazing animal
wow facts, the Wild Kratts team rescues
a helpless animal friend and returns
her home. Through a mix of live footage and animation, The Kratt Brothers
produce a compelling product that children enjoy. Their live show brings their
PBS television show to life and engages
the audience. Through their adventures
the viewers learn that animals can take you anywhere in science. Two shows are
scheduled at 1 and 4:30 p.m. bergenPAC, 30 N. Van Brunt St, Englewood,
201-227-1030. www.bergenpac.org.
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1. First through fifth grade students at

Ben Porat Yosef enjoyed a Discovery
Learning Day, BPYs unique STEEM
(science, technology, engineering,
English language arts, and math)
program, where they learned
estimating, measuring and comparing
the abilities of animals while testing
their own physical limits.
2. Characters such the Minions, Sponge
Bob and Elmo appear monthly at a visit
at the Character Tot Shabbat at the
Chabad Center in Franklin Lakes.
3. The Friendship Circle of Passaic
County recently sponsored its 3rd
annual family fun fundraiser walk. The
trek was part of its effort to support
its many programs for special needs
families.
4. The Chief Rabbi of Israel, Rabbi David
Lau, recently visited the Chabad House
at Rutgers University during his final
stop on his visit to the U.S. The Chief
Rabbi was greeted by more than 100
students and faculty of Rutgers.
5. Students in Glen Rock Jewish Centers

Hebrew school classes, specifically its
Kulanu, Achat and Shtaeem classes, had
the thrill of seeing a Torah unrolled as
they were guided through the historical
highlights of the Torah by Rabbi
Schlosberg.
6. Academies at Gerrard Berman Day
School second grader Jessica Krakovsky,
third grader Brielle Berger, and second
grader Eliana Nahomove show off their
miniature sukkahs that were built using
upcycled and natural materials for
the schools annual miniature sukkah
building contest.
7. Seventh grade students at the
Jewish Community Center of Paramus/
Congregation Beth Tikvah Hebrew
School engage in online learning with
educators in Israel. Students hail from
Paramus, River Edge, New Milford,
River Vale, Cresskill and Washington
Township.
8. Who better to learn than from

a professional? Broadcaster Sara
Lee Kessler recently spoke about
interviewing skills with the Moriah 8th
graders who are participating in the
Names, Not Numbers program.
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N OV E M B E R
To Our Readers: This calendar is a day-by-day schedule of events. Although all information is as timely as we can make it, its a good idea to call to
verify details before you go.
DaybyDay
Sunday, November 1
Boo Zoo: At the Wildlife Conservation Society
Queens Zoo Boo at the Zoo will be 11 a.m. to
4 p.m. Highlights include face-painting, crafts,
pumpkin treats for the zoos animals and more.
For information, www.queenszoo.com.
Wandering Que: The famous Wandering Que
will be at Shomrei Torah, 19-10 Morlot Ave., Fair
Lawn from noon to 9 p.m. For information, www.
shomrei-torah.org/wandering.
Calling All Jewish Teen Girls: CTeen is hosting
the first program of the year. In addition to getting to meet the crew, the teens will be visiting a
senior home. The program is at 1 PM. It will be
at the Chabad Center, 194 Ratzer Road, Wayne.
At the kickoff event, in conjunction with Mitzvah
Day, CTeen will be visiting a senior center and
bringing joy to the seniors.
Monday, November 2
Naomi Miller Sings: The Wayne Y is holding a
special Lunch & Learn presentation at 12 pm.
The community is invited to hear Joan Limans
story of After Bad Things Happen to Good
People. Naomi Miller will sing musical excerpts
from her show, A LimanAde Life. Free. 1 Pike
Drive, Wayne, 973-595-0100.
Saturday, November 7
Bargains Galore at Beth Or: Rummage sale
sponsored by the synagogues Sisterhood offers
great deals for gently used clothing, jewelry,
shoes, toys and other items. 7 to 9:30 p.m. 56
Ridgewood Road, Township of Washington. 201664-7422, www.templebethornj.org.
Sunday, November 8
Bargains Galore at Beth Or: Rummage sale
sponsored by the synagogues Sisterhood offers
great deals for gently used clothing, jewelry,
shoes, toys and other items. 9 a.m. to 1 p.m. 56
Ridgewood Road, Township of Washington. 201664-7422. www.templebethornj.org.
Ralphs World: Experience Ralphs World, the
mega-fun musical planet where kids rock out to
high-energy tunes of Grammy nominated Ralph
Covert. For ages 3 to 8. 11:30 a.m. to 12:30 p.m.
Scheuer Auditorium. The Jewish Museum, 1109
Fifth Ave, Manhattan. 212-423-3200, www.
thejewishmuseum.org
Friday, November 13
Tot Shabbat at Temple Israel & JCC: At 11 a.m.

Opportunity to participate in age appropriate services. Located at 475 Grove St. in Ridgewood. For
more information, 201-444-9320, email office@
synagogue.org or visit www.synagogue.
Cantorial Classics: Congregation Rinat Yisrael
in Teaneck will present a concert of Cantorial
Classics, featuring cantors Yanky Lemmer and
Yaakov Motzen, on Motzei Shabbat, November 14,
at 8 p.m.
Sunday, November 15
BCHSJS The Moriah School:11 A.M. at 53
S .Woodland St., Englewood invites teens and
parents to hear Hussein Aboubakr share his connection to Israel as a former Muslim and Egyptian
prisoner, imprisoned for studying Hebrew He survived torture, his own family disowning him.
The Amit Chanukah boutique: from 1 to 5 p.m.
At Congregation AABJ&D in West Orange. If you
are a vendor or know someone who is interested
in participating, please call 973-669-8421
The Power of Pictures: The Jewish Museum
presents The Power of Pictures Family Day, from
noon to 4 p.m. Children can design vibrant posters at a drop-in art workshop, create a surreal
family portrait; rock out in Russian and English
and more. The Jewish Museum, 1109 Fifth Ave.,
Manhattan, 212-423-3200. www.thejewishmuseum.org.
Fall Boutique: Early Childhood Department
at the Kaplen JCC on the Palisades holds its
annual Fall Boutique from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Also
on Monday, November 16, 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. All
proceeds benefit the Early Childhood special programs at the Kaplen JCC on the Palisades, 411 E.
Clinton Ave., Tenafly. 201-408-1435
Tuesday, November 17
End the Anxiety: Rifka Schonfeld, director of
S.O.S presents Paul Foxman, author of The
Worried Child and Dancing With Fear at 8:45
a.m. to 4 p.m. Merkaz Hasimcha, 1898 Bay Ave.,
Brooklyn. Limited slots available. 718-382-5437
[email protected]
Wednesday, November 18
Asthma Awareness: Pulmonologist Dr. Steven
Kanengiser of The Valley Hospital leads the program on some of the latest asthma treatments
for children. From 7 to 8:30 p.m. Township of
Washington Public Library, 144 Woodfield Road,
Township of Washington. To register 1-800 8255391, www.valleyhealth.com/events.
Thursday, November 19
Character Tot Shabbat: Join Sponge-Bob, the

Minion, Elmo and other characters for monthly
Tot Shabbat from 4 to 5 p.m. at the Chabad
Center, 375 Pulis Ave., Franklin Lakes.
The Scoop on Sugar: Nutritionist Janet Brancato

will explain how understanding the role of carbohydrates and importance of label reading are in a
healthy diet. Session from 7 to 8:30 at The Valley
Hospital Conference Center.
Saturday, November 14
Friday, November 20
Ys Broadway Gala: Broadway stars and local

young talent team up for Wayne YMCAs annual
gala at the newly renovated Rosen PAC. The
Saturday night show, which kicks off the Rosen
PACs 2015-16 season, stars four Broadway
actors and features a performance by the Wayne
Valley High School Chamber Choir. 1 Pike Drive,
Wayne. 973-595-0100.
Family Services at Temple Israel & JCC: 6:30

p.m. Opportunity to participate in age appropriate
services. Located at 475 Grove St. in Ridgewood.
For more information, 201-444-9320, email
[email protected] or visit www.synagogue.
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He said, Mommy, they arent supposed to throw food thats bad manners! And it started up a great conversation, says Riddell. Hes pointed out
situations in public too. Just recently
we were in a restaurant and another
child was having a bad moment. Nicholas said, Mommy, that boy is standing in his seat and yelling and throwing food; hes hurting my ears! I said,
Youre right. Thats bad manners.
When you see others displaying
either good or bad manners, it can be
used as a teaching tool, says Chenkin.
Just make sure you dont contrast another childs good manners with your
childs bad behavior: Look at how
polite that child is. Why cant you be
like that? This is belittling and can be
counterproductive.
Even after he has been grounded
in social graces, your child may need a
few gentle reminders. When he forgets
to use eating utensils, offer a one-word
cue such as fork. If hes picking his
nose say, Would you like a tissue?
If this doesnt bring the desired response, wait and discuss it in private
so as not to shame or embarrass him.
You want your child to feel good
about these new skills, so rather than
Mind Your
Manners
Start early
Between the ages of 2 and 5, children are most receptive to learning
the rules of polite conduct. Begin with
developmentally appropriate manners
and expand your expectations as they
mature. Some courtesies such as saying,
Please and Thank You, staying seated during dinner and chewing with their
mouths closed are easy to understand.
Others such as greeting strangers, shaking hands or answering the telephone
may take more time to learn.
Offer incentives
One way to motivate children is to create a manners sticker chart. Focus on
one or two manners at a time and offer
stickers for desired behavior. When your
child has a good grasp on those, add
new ones to the chart.
lecturing him about what he isnt doing, offer positive reinforcement when
he does display good manners. Verbal
praise, a hug or a pat on the back goes
a long way, says Buker.
Riddell does this. When she joined
her son for a recent classroom party,
another mother privately pointed out
Nicholass well-mannered behavior.
He was sitting there with his
hands folded, quietly encouraging the
other kids to settle down, says Riddell. When the students got up to get
their food, I told him, You were being
good and doing what the teacher told
you to do. Im very proud of you. And
his face lit up.
Above all be consistent with rules
and expectations. And remember mind
your own Ps and Qs.
I think its important to live by
example because our kids are always
watching us, says Brown. Lately
when Zachary gets out of the car, hell
run to open the car door for me just
like his dad does. Then hell say,
Wasnt I a gentleman for you? And Ill
say, Yes you were. Thank you!
Denise Morrison Yearian is the former editor of two parenting magazines and the
mother of three children and grandmother
of four.
Convey clear expectations

Be specific with regard to the manners
you want to see. Instead of saying, Mind
your manners tell your child, When we
go to the restaurant I want you to . . .
and state your expectations clearly. This
removes any ambiguity in your childs
mind and gives him opportunities to succeed. Likewise, if your child is venturing
into an unfamiliar setting, coach him on
what to expect and what your expectations for his behavior will be.
Act it out
Role-playing is a fun way to build social
confidence. Use play phones to teach
your child telephone etiquette. Let her
practice greeting and shaking hands with
her stuffed animals and dolls. Before
going out for a nice dinner, make a
special meal with good dishes at home.
Encourage your child to get dressed up
then play out the scenario so she knows
what to expect.
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Simchas
Bnai mitzvah
SARAH BAKAL
Sarah Renee Bakal, daughter
of Miriam and Todd Bakal of
Upper Saddle River, celebrated becoming a bat mitzvah
on September 26 at Temple
Israel & Jewish Community
Center, Ridgewood.
CHLOE CHILDS
ETHAN CHILDS
Chloe and Ethan Childs, twins
of Hope and Kenny Childs
of Fair Lawn and siblings
of Ross and MacKenzie,
celebrated becoming bnai
mitzvah on September 5 at
the Fair Lawn Jewish Center/
Congregation Bnai Israel.
REBECCA FINKEL
JACK GOODMAN
Rebecca Finkel, daughter

of Dr. Diana and Steven
Finkel of Fair Lawn and sister
of Mitchell, Scott, Shane,
and Alexandra, celebrated
becoming a bat mitzvah on
October 24 at the Fair Lawn
Jewish Center/Congregation
Bnai Israel.
Jack Goodman, son of

Michelle and Jordan
Goodman of Teaneck, celebrated becoming a bar mitzvah on October 10 at Temple
Emeth in Teaneck.
OLIVIA FORNASIERI
Olivia Fornasieri, daughter of
Belinda and Steven Fornasieri
of Wyckoff and sister of
Leo, celebrated becoming
a bat mitzvah on October
3 at Temple Beth Rishon in
Wyckoff.
CASEY FROST
Casey Frost, daughter of
Laura and Jeff Frost of
Mahwah and sister of Megan,
celebrated becoming a bat
mitzvah on October 24
at Temple Beth Rishon in
Wyckoff.
KYLA GINSBERG
ALYSON COHEN
Alyson Cohen, daughter of
Laine and Todd Cohen of
Woodcliff Lake and sister of
Jenna, celebrated becoming
a bat mitzvah on October
24 at Temple Emanuel in
Woodcliff Lake.
ELIZABETH ESTEROW
Elizabeth Esterow, daughter
of Laura and Ken Esterow
of Wyckoff and sister of
Alison and Sarah, celebrated
October 10 at Temple Beth
Rishon in Wyckoff.
Kyla Ginsberg, daughter

of Amy and Seth Ginsberg
of Englewood and sister of
Bryan, celebrated becoming
a bat mitzvah on September
26 at Temple Emeth in
Teaneck.
EDEN GLICK
Eden Glick, daughter of Lily
and Robert Glick of Closter,
mitzvah on October 10 at
Temple Beth El of Northern
Valley in Closter.
JORDANA SINGER
JOSHUA SANDERS
NOAM GREENSTEIN
Noam Greenstein, son of
Ami Greenstein and Deborah
Rivel of Teaneck, and brother
of Yoni and Maya, celebrated
becoming a bar mitzvah on
October 17 at Congregation
Beth Sholom in Teaneck.
LUCRECIA KLEINMANN
Lucrecia Kleinmann, daughter of Veronique and Raphael
Kleinmann of Oakland and
sister of Leonora, celebrated
Bnai Israel.
ISABEL KOSSOY
Isabel Kossoy, daughter of
Julie and David Kossoy of Fair
Lawn and sister of Nathan
and Emma, celebrated
Bnai Israel.
JAMIE NASSAU
brother of Ilana Beth, celebrated becoming a bar

Temple Emanuel in Woodcliff
Lake.
Todd Pleeter of Hawthorne,

and brother of Josh, 11,
celebrated becoming a bar
Barnert Temple in Franklin
Lakes.
MELISSA REIFMAN
Melissa Reifman, daughter of
Robyn and Gary Reifman of
Upper Saddle River and sister
of Stephanie and Michael,
Lake.
Joshua Sanders, son of

Marcie and Scott Sanders of
Saddle River and brother of
Jeremy, celebrated becoming a bar mitzvah on October
17 at Temple Emanuel in
Woodcliff Lake.
Jordana Singer, daughter

of Bonnie and Craig Singer
of Paramus and sister of
Dylan, celebrated becoming
a bat mitzvah on September
12 at Temple Beth Or in
Washington Township.
MAX STUPAK
Max Stupak, son of Ilysa and
Darren Stupak of Woodcliff
Lake and brother of Sarah,
celebrated becoming a bar
Lake.
DEREK SCHULMAN
Derek Schulman, son of
Heather and Glen Schulman
of Upper Saddle River and
PARTY
Jamie Nassau, son of

Kimberly and Curtis Nassau
of Wyckoff and brother of
Justin, celebrated becoming
a bar mitzvah on October
10 at Temple Beth Rishon in
Wyckoff.
LILI PITKOWSKY
Lili Pitkowsky, daughter of
Rabbi Joel Pitkowsky and
Ingrid Goldfein of Teaneck,
and sister of Jonah, celebrated becoming a bat
Congregation Beth Sholom in
Teaneck.
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MAX FIHMA
Max Ross Fihma, son of Patty
and Larry Fihma of Woodcliff
Lake and brother of Sam,
Robin, and Allison, celebrated
becoming a bar mitzvah
on October 10 at Temple
Emanuel in Woodcliff Lake.
Ryan Goldstein, son of Amy

and Jonathan Goldstein of
Woodcliff Lake and brother
of Sammy and Harlow, celebrated becoming a bar mitzvah on October 17 at Temple
Emanuel in Woodcliff Lake.
ANDREW PLEETER
Andrew Pleeter, son of Sandi
Pleeter of Ridgewood and
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The Mufti of Jerusalem, Haj Amin al-Husseini, meets with Adolf Hitler in 1941.
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Holocaust, revisited
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f a man was a Jew, it was

exterminationist terms. As Major Saungood enough for him
ders related from faraway Palestine,
to be killed or stamped
about an episode that presaged the Nazi
out, wrote a senior Britatrocities that were to follow in Germany
ish official serving abroad to his superiand then in occupied Europe and North
ors in London in 1929.
Africa, the same hatred of Jews simply
From where was this gentleman
for being Jews was in painful evidence
Major Alan Saunders writing his disthere. For there were thousands, even
patch? From Munich or Berlin or any of
millions, of ordinary people in Europe
the other German cities where Hitlers
and the Middle East who regarded the
Nazi Party was gaining supporters and
Jews as a social and religious poison and
street thugs? In fact, no.
wanted them all of them dead. In
Major Saunders was the head of the
that sense, the Fuhrer was their repreBritish police in Palestine during the
sentative and their master.
mandate period, and his
The second is that as an
statement was about the
Israeli Jew, Netanyahu is
August 1929 Arab massanaturally sensitive to the
cre of 69 Jews in Hebron,
Palestinian Arab dimena city where their commusion of the broader issue
nity had been a continuous
of collaboration with the
presence for at least two
Nazis. That is something
millennia.
I can relate to. As a kid, I
I was reminded of Major
remember sitting around
Saunders pithy summary
my grandfathers table
Ben Cohen
of the motive behind the
with his relatives from BosHebron pogrom when
niamen with sad eyes and
news broke of Israeli Prime
the muscles and paunches
Minister Benjamin Netanyahus speech
of retired boxers, who had spent their
to the World Zionist Congress in Jeruyouths in the Socialist-Zionist Hashomer
salem, in which he essentially argued
Hatzair movement, graduating to fight
that it was the Mufti of Jerusalem, Hajj
with Marshal Titos communist partisans
Amin al-Husseini, who crystallized the
against the Nazi occupation of Yugoslaidea of the mass extermination of the
via that began in 1941. Men who, I realJews in Adolf Hitlers mind. But before I
ized with awe, actually had killed some
talk about the controversy that followed
of these Nazis that Id seen in the movies.
these comments, I want to make some
And yet when they spoke about the
more general observations by way of
war, their anger really flowed when they
introduction.
remembered the locals who had assisted
The first is that while Hitler unarguably
the Germans. Like Netanyahu now, what
remains the most powerful and devastatthey found hardest to stomach was the
ing anti-Semite to ever hold state power,
spectacle of those non-Jews who lived
he was far from the only one at that time
alongside them collaborating with the
to approach the Jewish question in
Nazi extermination program.
Opinion
In the pantheon of Nazi collaborators, Mufti Hajj Amin
al-Husseini is right up there with Pavelic in Croatia, Petain in France, Horthy in Hungary, and all the other quislings their name comes from Norways collaborationist
leader, Vidkun Quisling who implemented Hitlers will.
It was, ironically, the British authorities who appointed
him to his position in 1921. During the 1929 massacre in
Hebron, as during the openly anti-Semitic 1936-39 Arab
revolt in Palestine, al-Husseini proved himself a confirmed
Jew-hater and the natural ally of Hitler in the Arab and
Muslim worlds.
It wasnt until November 1941 that the Mufti met Hitler
in person. Significantly, in the view of many historians,
that encounter in Berlin took place two months before the
Wannsee conference, where leading Nazis led by Hitlers
security chief, Reinhard Heydrich, plotted the implementation of the Final Solution the extermination of the
Jews.
In the official German record of their discussions (not
an exact transcript, but a summary of what was said), it
was clear that both Hitler and the Mufti already were in
agreement that the Holocaust had to be visited upon the
Jews. For his part, the Mufti expressed his appreciation of
Germanys commitment to the elimination of the Jewish
national home, while Hitler restated his active opposition to the Jewish national home in Palestine, which was
nothing other than a center, in the form of a state, for the
exercise of destructive influence by Jewish interests.
For good measure, the Fuhrer added that Germany
was also aware that the assertion that the Jews were carrying out the functions of economic pioneers in Palestine
was a lie. The work there was done only by the Arabs, not
by the Jews a slander that could easily be expressed
in the exact same words by the Boycott, Divestment and
Sanctions movement, which targets the Jewish national
home in our own time.
That last point highlights a critical factor that the furor
around Netanyahus speech much of it generated by visceral opponents of Israel who only talk about the Holocaust when it justifies their backing of Palestinian violence
against Jews now largely has missed.
During the 1930s, both Germany and Palestine were the
sites of mob violence, boycotts, and discriminatory laws
and regulations against Jews. The Nazis consolidation of
power in the 1930s was what enabled them to launch their
campaign of war and genocide at the end of that decade.
Had Palestine been conquered by the Germans from the
British, there is no doubt that the Mufti would have been
installed as the local quisling, and that the entire Jewish
population would have been shipped to concentration
and death camps in Europe assuming that the Germans
and their Arab militias didnt build similar camps in the
vicinity, of course. That was the mutual vision expressed
in Berlin in 1941, the distinctly Arab contribution to the
achievement of the Thousand Year Reich.
As the German historian Matthias Kuentzel has noted,
the 700,000 Jews in the Middle East were in Hitlers sights
when he received the Mufti.
As Hitler envisaged it, after the assault on the Soviet
Union, the Wehrmacht would also occupy the Caucasus
and so open the way to the Middle East...Part of this scenario was the killing of the Jews, Kuentzel writes. Even
though this grand ambition failed, the Mufti was still able,
as the prominent Israeli Holocaust historian Yehuda Bauer
put it, to be an active partner in devising the Final Solution. The Mufti also played a role in its implementation,
raising three SS divisions composed of Bosnian and Albanian Muslims in the western Balkans.
Nor did the Mufti forget Palestine. The Israeli scholar
Edy Cohen has revealed how, in May 1943, he blocked a
deal agreed to by the British and the Germans to allow
4,000 Jewish children to enter Palestine in exchange for
20,000 German prisoners of war, while in 1944, he parachuted a terror cell into Tel Aviv with the intention of poisoning the local water supply.
The Mufti, disgracefully, escaped the Nuremburg Trials
of Nazi war criminals and ended his days in Beirut in 1974.
His legacy survives in the daily incitement against Jews
that emanates from Palestinian official and social media.
So, when considering the latest Netanyahu controversy,
please remember this: Those Holocaust scholars who criticized Netanyahus speech nonetheless recognize the fundamental, bitter fact of Palestinian anti-Semitism and the
Muftis position in fomenting it. It is the Palestinian leadership and their supporters who have neither offered an
apology nor reparations for the Muftis crimes against the
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paid family leave and/or workplace flexibility.
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Rabbis, the American Jewish World Service, and the

Jewish Theological Seminary. Places where Ive spent
the bulk of my own professional life also are on the list:
Bend the Arc, the National Council of Jewish Women,
and the Forward Association.
Thats pretty remarkable, considering that when
AWPs Better Work, Better Life campaign launched in
2009, most of the 100 being celebrated for their policies didnt offer any paid parental leave. By spring 2014,
there were 82 organizations on the list, and on October
7, the Jewish Theological Seminary approved a new paid
leave policy, bringing the number to AWPs target of 100.
Jewish organizational leaders used to espouse the
values of family, community, continuity and volunteerism yet inflexible workplace policies implied that
their ideal professional had no personal responsibilities
or commitments, Bronznick told me in a conversation
that unfolded over phone and email.
Taking away peoples salaries when they were having
children and were at a stressful and financially vulnerable period in their lives is an example of the paradox
between a community that lauded Jewish continuity, yet
did not offer paid leave because they could not afford
it, she said.
Over time, however, the Jewish community has
embraced paid leave.
As organizations began to adopt paid leave, they discovered its great benefits: increases employee morale
and retention, lowers turnover and builds loyalty, she
said.
Beyond the Jewish community, many families across
the country flail in the gulf between what the federal
government requires and what they need. The Family
and Medical Leave Act of 1993 allows full-time workers
to take 12 weeks of job-protected unpaid leave to care
for a new baby (by birth or adoption) or a seriously ill
family member.
But it doesnt apply to everyone. Not freelancers. Not
contract workers. Not employees at small companies.
Not new employees. In fact, FMLA covers fewer than 60
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States have begun to fill the gap by
passing their own paid leave legislation:
California (2002), New Jersey (2008),
and Rhode Island (2013), along with
some cities. Companies are stepping
up, too, especially in the tech sector,
with Twitter, Facebook, Netflix, Reddit,
Microsoft and Adobe now offering droolworthy paid-leave policies.
Were in a time of unprecedented
attention, said Vicki Shabo, vice president at the National Partnership for
Women & Families, a nonpartisan, nonprofit advocacy group. It feels like the
time is right to be having an animated
conversation about how were going to
address the needs of working families.
In recent years, paid leave has gained
unprecedented ground its (finally!)
emerging as a presidential campaign
issue. With nearly half of women in
the workforce, mothers are either the
sole or primary source of income for
the family in 40 percent of households
with children, according to the Pew
Research Center. Thats up from 11 percent in 1960.
We watch Modern Family on television, but were still playing by Leave It
to Beaver rules, U.S. Labor Secretary
Thomas Perez said in a kickoff video for
the national Lead on Leave tour he
took this year (with White House senior
adviser Valerie Jarrett and a presidential adviser, Tina Tchen) to highlight the
progress being made and encourage
more local governments and businesses
to follow suit.
President Barack Obama called for
action on paid leave during his State of
the Union address in January, describing
the United States as the only advanced
country on Earth that doesnt guarantee
paid sick leave or paid maternity leave.
The Family and Medical Insurance
Leave Act, or FAMILY Act, is a proposal
for paid leave from lead sponsors Sen.
Kirsten Gillibrand, D-N.Y., and Rep.
Rosa DeLauro, D-Conn., who described
it recently in the Washington Post as a
modern, workable model that draws
upon lessons from successful programs
in California, New Jersey, Rhode Island
and around the globe. It has 106 cosponsors in the House of Representatives and 19 in the Senate.
In the meantime, the Jewish community is an increasingly vital part of the
Lead on Leave movement.
A quick glance at the 100 organizations on AWPs list indicate an audacious
goal has been met. Many of the Jewish
organizations with the highest CEO
pay are embracing paid leave, with the
American Jewish Joint Distribution Committee, Birthright Israel and the Foundation for Jewish Camp among them.
But robust family-friendly policies still
arent the norm. Notably absent are several Jewish labor and social justice organizations. When I asked Bronznick about
this, she said that shes sure, in time,

theyll come on board. Diplomatic optimism is important when youre playing
the long game and its paying off.
In the last two years, the Jewish Federations of North Americas CEO, Jerry
Silverman, and EVP, Mark Gurvis, sent a
letter to federations across the country
extolling the benefits of these policies
and urging local federations to adopt
these policies, Bronznick said. So the
virtuous circle continues to expand.
For Jacob Feinspan, executive director
of Jews United for Justice, AWPs efforts
showed him that a paid leave policy was
the smart thing to do. Its also an issue
the organization has galvanized around;
JUFJ is a lead partner in the DC Paid Family Leave Coalition and the push for paid
leave legislation that the Washington
Post calls the most generous in U.S.
Three staff members have used JUFJs
parental leave policies.
Its been a central driver of the continuity of staff that weve been able to
have a major component of our success in the work that we do, Feinspan said. I dont think we would have
been able to retain the staff that weve
retained without paid leave.
Part of running a Jewish communal
organization is valuing the people that
are part of our community, he added.
Sari Ferro, vice president of human
resources at UJA-Federation of New
York, the nations largest federation,
said that when Bronznick started the
initiative, paid leave was lacking in the
community.
I felt that at my organization, Ferro
said. We had a large percentage of
women, a high turnover. There was a
need to do something a stronger, separate maternity leave policy [beyond disability] was needed to make this a better
place to work.
In the past three years, 47 employees
have taken advantage of UJA-Federation
of New Yorks new parental leave policy.
People shouldnt have to fear that
they cant pay their bills because theyre
on maternity leave, Ferro said. It
doesnt feel very communal or family
friendly.
At the end of 2015, AWP will formally
cease operations, the natural outcome
of its original intent, which was to serve
as an intervention rather than a permanent institution, according to a recent
AWP report. In preparation, the organization has been readying a network of
next-generation catalysts who will gather
in New York on Oct. 29 for the AWP Culminating Convening.
The reality is that organizations that
want to be a magnet for talent cant
afford not to have paid leave, Bronznick
said. The misconception is that raising the next generation is a personal,
individual task rather than a collective
responsibility.
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TEL AVIV The assassins bullet that

killed former Israeli Prime Minister
Yitzhak Rabin 20 years ago, on November 4, 1995, also stunted the center-left
party that championed peace: Rabins
once-mighty Labor.
In the two decades since Rabins
murder at the hands of a Jewish
extremist, Yigal Amir the killer
opposed a peace deal with the Palestinians Labor, Israels founding
party, has fallen from being the countrys moderate-left flagship to competing among a handful of opposition
factions, a perennial loser in Israels
elections.
Its hard for [Labor] to win because
most of the nation is convinced that
with the Palestinians, its impossible
to get to an agreement, said Bar-Ilan
University political science professor
Shmuel Sandler. The issue of security is the top issue that influences the
Israelis. Its not like in the U.S., where
Its the economy, stupid.
Labor and its predecessors ran the
government uninterrupted for the
Jewish states first three decades
from founding Prime Minister David
Ben-Gurion through the leaders who
brought Israel through the victorious
Six-Day and Yom Kippur wars.
Then, beginning in 1977, there were
a series of close contests with Likud, its
right-wing rival. Likud won three of the
next four elections, two of them by just
one seat. Labor and Likud effectively
tied in the 1984 election and shared
power.
In 1992, Rabin swept Labor back to
victory with 44 of the Knessets 120
seats.
But since Rabins assassination,

Labors story has been one of neartotal failure, with experts split on
how the party should move forward:
by embracing its core ideology, or by
moving toward the political center.
Except for an abortive government
from 1999 to 2001, Labor has lost
every election since 1992. Likud or
its offshoot Kadima have ruled Israel
uninterrupted for nearly 15 years. Elections in 2009 and 2013 saw Labor drop
to fourth and third place, respectively.
Its center-left, pragmatist mantle has
been adopted by newer parties like
Yesh Atid, which was founded three
years ago.
Labors problem, according to
Hebrew University political science
professor Shlomo Avineri, is that the
party hasnt been able to present a
viable alternative to Likuds hard-line
approach.
Just saying again and again and
again, we have to go back to negotiations [with the Palestinians], thats not
good enough, he said.
Ever since Rabins government
began making territorial concessions
to the Palestinians, Labors hawkish
opponents have attacked the party as
weak and dangerously naive. Rabin,
a venerated ex-general who won the
Six-Day War, had touted his security
credentials in the 1992 campaign. The
only other Labor candidate to win,
Ehud Barak in 1999, was the most decorated soldier in Israels history.
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aim at his bureaucratic, dovish successor, Shimon Peres, now 92. Ads in
1996 for Likud candidate Benjamin
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Jerusalem. Netanyahu won the election.
Mr. Peres, you brought our security to an unprecedented nadir, Netanyahu said in a 1996 debate. This
is a direct result of your terrible policy, that placed
our security, our childrens security, in [Palestinian
Authority President Yasser] Arafats hands.
Its a message Likud has repeated ever since, and
one that has resonated following a four-year intifada
in the early 2000s that killed some 1,000 Israelis.
Vying for his fourth term this year, Netanyahu won the
election after telling voters that he would not establish a Palestinian state in the coming term or divide
Jerusalem.
Israels changing demographics have also hurt
Labor. The million immigrants who arrived from the
Soviet Union in the early 1990s tend to vote for rightwing parties. Religious Jewish Israelis, who also generally support the right, have grown in number as well.
In recent years, Labor has tried to rebrand itself as
more than the party of peace. In 2013, party leader
Shelly Yachimovich called Labor a centrist party
and campaigned on its social-democratic credo, focusing on housing and the economy while barely talking
about peace and security. Labor finished third in the
election, behind Likud and Yesh Atid.
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negotiations with the Palestinians while still branding
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itself as centrist. The party united with former Likudnik Tzipi Livni to burnish its centrist credentials, but
still came in second to Netanyahus Likud.
And since it lost, Labor has continued to eschew talk
of peace, instead using phrases like separation and
advocating a diplomatic arrangement with the Palestinians. In an address this month at the Yitzhak Rabin
Center in Tel Aviv, Labor Party chairman Isaac Herzog
pushed an Israeli-Palestinian agreement but did not
use the word peace.
The separation between the states needs to be
applied politically in a diplomatic solution, Herzog
said. We cant ignore it unless [we] hide our heads
in the sand.
Sandler and Avineri say tacking to the center is still
a good strategy for Labor, given Israeli demographics and skepticism of Palestinian intentions. But some
party supporters say Labor will only return to power
if it embraces Rabins unapologetic pursuit of peace.
One of the fundamental and tough mistakes was
that, since the assassination and the days of Ehud
Barak, the party decided not to present a real alternative that followed Rabins path, Labor lawmaker Hilik
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issues of defense and diplomacy, but we kept sitting in
right-wing governments. We lost our identity.
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According to a clause in the coalition agreement signed
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Should the Likud-led coalition enact the clause as part of next
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because they enable large families, typical of those parties constituents, to make ends meet. Secularist parties,
by contrast, see high subsidies as a counterproductive
entitlement that allows parents with many children to
avoid working.
Throughout the years, child subsidies became a bargaining chip in coalition agreements, said Noam Gruber, a senior researcher at the Shoresh Institute, a think
tank focused on socioeconomic issues. When you give
a high child subsidy, it becomes normative that a woman
will stay home and have children. That blocks the path
to education and work.
Introduced in 1959, the subsidies got higher as families grew larger. Until recently, the payments worked
on a progressive scale, so that parents received a larger
per-child subsidy for each subsequent child. A 2001 law
written by a UTJ lawmaker gave a family with one child
approximately $40 per month, while a family with five
children received about $600 per month including a
$200 boost for the fifth child.
Facing an economic crisis in 2003, then-Finance Minister Benjamin Netanyahu cut the total subsidy budget
by 40 percent. Ten years later, then-Finance Minister
Yair Lapid cut the subsidies again as an incentive for
charedi men many of whom study Torah all day to
join the labor force.
Lapids cuts, which are now in place, replaced the
progressive payment scale with a flat scale. Families
receive approximately $36 per month per child, no matter how many children they have.
After payments began in 1959, the number of large
families ballooned. In 1960, there were fewer than
40,000 Israeli families with four or more children. By
1975, that number had nearly tripled to 111,000.
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We feel we need a higher birth rate, Gruber said.
We dont want to be in the situation of Western Europe
and Japan, of a population thats getting smaller. In the
context of the Jewish nation, we want numbers.
Now, with Lapids Yesh Atid party out of the governing
coalition, and charedi parties back in, subsidies are set
to rise again. The Likud-UTJ agreement includes a rollback of Lapids cuts, which UTJ spokesman Yair Eiserman said is part of a package of reforms to help poor
Israelis including, for example, free dental care for
children.
We wanted there to be a social change, he said. The
last government hurt the weaker classes and the middle
class. There were dramatic blows to national insurance,
welfare. We saw to it to change the situation, to guide
budgets to the weaker classes so they wont collapse
under the economic burden.
Critics of the anti-vaxxer clause say it will hurt poor
families. According to the 2014 State Comptrollers
report, as of 2010, the number of unvaccinated children
had been growing, many from charedi or Bedouin families who refused vaccines either because of misinformation or an ideological opposition to vaccination. While
Jewish Israelis, on average, had fewer than three children per family according to a 2009 Central Bureau of
Statistics report, Arab Israelis had an average of 3.62 and
charedi Israelis 6.53.
We cannot agree to a precedent that hurts children
due to actions of their parents that the state does not
like, Yizhak Kadman, executive director of the Israel
National Council for the Child, wrote in an email. Cutting the child subsidies will unnecessarily hurt poor families and weak populations that are sometimes excluded
from health services.
Activists for Arab-Israeli rights also support high subsidies due to the above-average Arab-Israeli birth rate,
as well as the communitys high rates of poverty. Eyad
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children.
NOAM GRUBER
Snunu, chief economist for Arab-Israeli advocacy group

Mossawa, said that the government should invest in
Arab communities if it wants to increase labor force participation not cut subsidies.
The statistics show that immediate cancellation of
the subsidies, without preparing the ground for employment training, only deepens poverty, Snunu said.
Gruber sees high child subsidies as an unsustainable
burden on taxpayers. But those attempting to cut the
payments, he said, should learn from previous cuts,
which proved debilitating for poor families.
They cut a lot of money from the subsidies and
pushed families into real poverty, he said. On the
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Sufganiyot, a Chanukah favorite in Israel, on display in Jerusalems Central

Bus Station.
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In Israel, Chanukah season

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TEL AVIV After more than three weeks of
feasts, prayers and days off from work and
school, Israels busy holiday season from
Rosh Hashanah through Simchat Torah
finally ended earlier this month.
But, it turns out, another holiday was just
beginning. Chanukah.
To be sure, Chanukah doesnt begin this
year until the evening of December 6. But
just as in the United States, when the end of
Halloween now means the beginning of the
Christmas season (remember when that
day used to be Thanksgiving?), in Israel,
the conclusion of the High Holidays sometimes even earlier means the start of the
Chanukah season.
Welcome to Chanukah creep.
Of course, Chanukah isnt the Jewish
Christmas in Israel. Its a relatively minor
holiday, celebrating an ancient Jewish kingdom; adults still have to work. Chanukah
gifts arent a thing, either, so there are no
crowds mobbing the mall for last-minute
shopping.
But one thing thats huge in Israel during Chanukah is sufganiyot, the oily jelly
doughnuts that traditionally are eaten here
rather than latkes, the holiday favorite
among American Jews. Savvy businesses
have noted Israelis love of the pastries and
are marketing them to the hungry masses
months in advance.
In September, right after Rosh Hashanah
ended, the Israeli bakery chain Roladin
rolled out its first batches of sufganiyot.
Roladin is famous in Israel for getting
creative with its sufganiyot, including
variations with syringes filled with jelly (or
another gooey treat), ensuring each bite
has that perfect ratio of fried dough and
filling. Last week, a branch of the bakery in
Tel Aviv showed off a variety of flavors the
traditional jelly-filled entries sat on display
trays alongside dulce de leche; meanwhile,

an employee carried a tray from the kitchen
filled with chocolate-sprinkled versions.
The bakery starts sufganiyot so early, a
spokeswoman said, simply because people
like them in fact, theyve been getting an
early jump on the doughnuts for 26 years.
People come in for it, for sure, she
said. We have the sufganiyot with the most
innovative flavors. The inspiration comes
from French desserts.
Others have followed Roladins lead. A
sweet shop in Jerusalems Machane Yehuda
market plans to start selling the doughnuts
this week. And a bakery in the Jerusalem
Central Bus Station sold its first sufganiyot
on Thursday, presented in layered rows on
its front counter.
In the United States, they sell jelly
doughnuts all year round, said Ramon
Mendesona, a ceramics artist with a stall
in Tel Avivs Nachalat Binyamin craft market. Why should we save them just for
Chanukah?
After all, Mendesona and a couple other
artists in the craft market sell menorahs.
For them, Chanukah season never ends.
Tourists buy them year-round. Israelis,
they said, begin buying menorahs a month
or so before the holiday.
Fortunately, for Israelis who love sweets,
sufganiyot season is in full swing. One fan
of the early doughnut push is Elie Klein,
a public relations professional who ate an
average of 100 sufganiyot a year from 2010
to 2012. Like a marathon runner, Klein got
friends to donate money for each sufganiyah he consumed and ended up raising
$40,000 for various charities.
While Klein has had his fill of doughnuts
for a while, he said he still loves seeing
them in bakery windows.
The fact weve turned it into something so huge, this seasonal food, its pretty
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Justin Trudeaus win in Canada

Will he change the tone of Canadas support for Israel?
JOSH TAPPER
TORONTO The election of Liberal Party
leader Justin Trudeau as prime minister represents the first change in Canadian government since Stephen Harper and his Conservatives assumed power in 2006.
What is unlikely to change, however, is
Ottawas robust support for Israel a policy cemented under Harper, whose forceful backing of the Jewish state earned him a
reputation as one of worlds most pro-Israel
political leaders.
When it comes to core Jewish issues,
Trudeau has said all the right things since
assuming the Liberal leadership in 2013. He
continued to do so throughout the 78-day
election campaign, which ended on October
19 with his center-left partys crushing defeat
of the Conservatives.
Though some are lamenting the loss of
such a reliable defender of Israel, Trudeau,
like his predecessor, has stressed that Canada will remain a strong friend of Israel. In
a statement earlier this year, he praised the

two countries enduring bond of friendship,
rooted in our shared commitment to peace
and democracy. And during the Israel-Gaza
conflict last summer, he called Hamas a terrorist organization and upheld Israels right
to defend itself. He has also criticized efforts
by the Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions
movement to pressure Israel.
But there is likely to be a significant shift
in tone away from the often strident and
polemical style of Harpers Conservatives.
Harpers harsh rhetoric toward Hezbollah, his condemnation of Hamas during
the Israel-Gaza conflict last year, and his
consistently tough stance on Iran which
led to the severing of diplomatic relations
in 2012 endeared him to many in Canadas 300,000-member Jewish community.
Trudeau, at the very least, promises a softer
strategy.
Under the Harper government, what we
were hearing was a regurgitation of Likud
policies and a support for a hard-right Likud
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government, said Bernie Farber, a former CEO of the Canadian Jewish Congress and a failed Liberal candidate in
the 2011 Ontario provincial election.
What were going to see is a more balanced, a more thoughtful, approach
toward [Israel].
In a foreign policy debate last month,
Trudeau accused Harper of using Israel
as a domestic political football, insisting that all three of us Thomas Mulcair of the New Democratic Party was
the third candidate in the race support Israel and any Canadian government will.
I think weve been very clear that
many things are going to change in this
new government, but Canadas support for Israel is not going to be one of
them, said Michael Levitt, a Liberal
parliamentarian and founding member
of the Canadian Jewish Political Affairs
Committee.
Mira Sucharov, a professor of political
science at Ottawas Carleton University
and a columnist for the liberal Israeli
daily Haaretz, expects Trudeau to avoid
the less fair-minded tone favored by
Harper. But she also pointed out how
similar the three candidates were in
their support for Israel throughout the
campaign.
In an interview with the Canadian Jewish News earlier this month, Trudeau
labeled BDS a new form of anti-Semitism in the world. Sucharov called
the prime minister-designates stance
right out of a Jewish federation-style
playbook.
Hes hewing very close to how the
Jewish community wants to view the Palestine solidarity movement thats taken
hold over the last few years, Sucharov
said.
One foreign policy position Trudeau
has pledged to amend is Canadas break
with Iran. Canada has been in a sort of
diplomatic squeeze since refusing to
endorse the Iranian nuclear deal negotiated by its Western allies over the summer. The Liberals support the deal,
and Trudeau has expressed a desire to
reopen Canadas mission in Tehran.
Trudeaus election marks an extraordinary rebound for the Liberal Party,
which saw its political stature decimated
in 2011, when its candidates won only 34
of 308 seats in the House of Commons.
As further humiliation, 52 percent
of Canadian Jews voted for the Conservatives in 2011 12 points above the
national average. Jewish voters, who
have historically voted Liberal, apparently were swayed by an admixture of
Harpers tough rhetoric and the accusation by then-Liberal leader Michael
Justin Trudeau, Canadas prime

minister-elect, at a panel discussion
in Washington on October 24, 2013.
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Ignatieff that Israel committed war

crimes in Lebanon in 2008.
Jewish voters in some districts
returned to the Liberals. Joe Oliver, the
Conservative candidate in Torontos
Eglington-Lawrence district and Canadas first Jewish finance minister, lost
to the Liberals Marco Mendicino, who
is not Jewish. The Liberals also pulled
an upset in Winnipeg South Centre,
in Manitoba, and won a seat in Ontarios Markham-Thornhill both Jewish
strongholds. The Conservatives did,
however, retain their seat in Torontos
Thornhill district, which is about onethird Jewish.
Martin Sampson, a spokesman for the
Centre for Israel and Jewish Affairs, a
national advocacy group, said the fluid
voting patterns prove the Jewish community is not monolithic.
Its a sign of the Jewish community
more broadly its very comfortably
across a range of issues and identifying
with different parties, Sampson said.
Levitt, whose York Centre district had
been in Liberal hands since 1962 before
the Conservatives won there in 2011,
downplayed Israel and other traditionally Jewish issues as motivating factors
for his Jewish constituents. Instead, he
insisted that the Liberals won them over
with its wider platform, including tax
cuts for the middle class and a promise
to immediately increase Canadas Syrian
refugee intake.
There was a sense of comfort in what
we were talking about, Levitt said.
That was reestablished.
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Rabbi Rick Jacobs, leader of the Union for Reform Judaism, speaks at the
groups 2013 biennial.
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urIeL HeILMAN
ome 5,000 Reform Jews will

gather Nov. 4-8 in Orlando, Florida, for the biennial conference
of the Union for Reform Judaism. With about one in three American
Jews identifying as Reform, the movement constitutes Americas largest Jewish religious denomination. Read on for
more about the movement, its leadership, and its connections to Cincinnati,
Detroit, Scarsdale, New York, and, yes,
Mattoon, Illinois.
The movement is led by a

pilot and a dancer both
from Scarsdale
Two of Reforms three main institutions,

the Union for Reform Judaism, its congregational arm, and Hebrew Union
College-Jewish Institute of Religion, its
flagship rabbinic school, are led by men
who hail from the same synagogue:
Westchester Reform Temple in Scarsdale. Both men, rabbis Rick Jacobs of
the URJ and Aaron Panken of HUC, also
have unconventional hobbies. Panken
is a licensed commercial pilot and has
a degree in electrical engineering from
Johns Hopkins University. Jacobs, who
stands 6-foot-4, is a former dancer and
choreographer.
Reform Judaism embraces

intermarried families ...
Today, half of all married Reform Jews

have non-Jewish spouses; for those
who married between 2000 and 2013,
that number is 80 percent. Concomitantly, the movement has moved away
from discouraging intermarriage and
has focused instead on welcoming
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intermarried families. In 1973, the

movements rabbinical arm, the Central Conference of American Rabbis,
issued a nonbinding resolution opposing officiating at intermarriages. In
2010, a Reform rabbinic task force recommended reaching out to the intermarried and adapting rituals to include
non-Jewish family members. Today,
most Reform rabbis perform interfaith
weddings.
But wont ordain

intermarried rabbis
The movements rabbinical school bars

ordaining rabbis who are married to
non-Jews. However, Reform rabbis may
Every year, at
least 800 to
900 people
undergo Reform
conversions to
Judaism.
marry non-Jews after graduation and
face no sanction for doing so. Panken,
the Hebrew Union College president,
has indicated that a review of the longtime ban on ordaining intermarried rabbis may be in the works. (The Reconstructionist Rabbinical College recently
dropped its own ban on intermarried
rabbinical students, becoming the first
U.S. Jewish denomination to make that
decision.)
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Breakfast honors Reb Yitz Cohen

The Jewish Center of Teaneck will honor its baal tefillah, Yitzchok Cohen, aka Reb Yitz, at its Lev Tov breakfast, set for Sunday, November 8, at 10 a.m.
Mr. Cohen regularly officiates at Shabbat services on Friday
nights and Saturdays and on many holidays. He also gives Shabbat morning and holiday sermons and is involved in many center
activities. He has been leading davening on Shabbat and holidays
since his bar mitzvah, under the guidance of his father, a cantor
for more that 40 years.
Mr. Cohen holds a masters degree in psychology from Touro
University and teaches Torah studies at the Gottesman RTW
Academy in Randolph.
For reservations, call the center office at (201) 833-0515,
ext. 200. Sponsors will be listed in a special Lev Tov breakfast
brochure.
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Schechter Kristallnacht
music commemoration
The Morris and Ruth Kotek zl Holocaust and Heritage
Research Center at the Solomon Schechter Day School of Bergen County will host a Kristallnacht community commemoration on Monday, November 9, at 7 p.m., at the school.
The commemoration will include Music Composed in
the Ghettos and Concentration Camps: Songs of Courage
and Resistance, a performance/lecture by Dr. Tamara
Freeman, a Holocaust ethnomusicologist and concert violist. The presentation includes a 14-piece recital. She plays a
1935 Joseph Bausch viola, a relic of the Holocaust.
SSDS is at 275 McKinley Ave., New Milford. For information, call (201) 262-9898.
Reform Jews
from page 41
For converts, mikvah (and,

sometimes, circumcision) are
encouraged but optional
Every year, at least 800 to 900 people

undergo Reform conversions to Judaism,
according to the movements records,
and some 9 percent of all Reform Jews
were raised as non-Jews. Conversion
requirements and rituals vary. Immersion in a mikvah a ritual bath is recommended but not required. Some men
also undergo circumcision; others, who
already have been circumcised by a doctor, undergo a drawing of blood called a
hatafat dam to symbolize the covenant.
Neither is mandatory. Those who have
undergone a Reform conversion must
make a public declaration of commitment to the Jewish people, to living life
as a Jew, and to Jewish values. They may
do so at the mikvah, in the rabbis office
before a three-person religious panel,
or in the synagogue sanctuary with the
congregation present. In synagogue conversion ceremonies, converts typically
hold the Torah, recite the Shema prayer,
are given a Hebrew name, and receive a
blessing.
Tamara Freeman
Mollie Bakal
Alex Rothschild
Man/youth/regional honorees feted

The Northern New Jersey Federation
of Jewish Mens Clubs Man-of-the-Year
and Youth-of-the-Year dinner is set for
Wednesday, November 4, at 6 p.m. at
Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael in Springfield.
NNJFJMC named Howard Schreiber
of Ramsey the Regional Man of the Year.
He is a Temple Israel and Jewish Community Center of Ridgewood congregant
and lay leader and president of Schreiber
Foods International, Inc. He has been a
key figure in the FJMCs Yellow Candle
program, which memorializes Holocaust
victims, and he was among the first consultants to FJMC in developing its Keruv
initiative, an outreach program to interfaith families. He is also a past TI-JCC
Man of the Year.
Two other Temple Israel congregants are being honored as well: Alex
Rothschild of Paramus, immediate past
co-president of the TI-JCC Brandeis

Mens Club, is Man of the Year, and Mollie Bakal of Upper Saddle River is the
congregations Youth of the Year. In addition to the recognition they will receive
from the NNJFJMC, they will be feted
by their TI-JCC community in separate
events this spring; Alex will be honored
at a Man-of-the-Year brunch and roast
during a Mens Club Shabbat and Mollie
will be the honoree during Youth Club
Shabbat.
In addition to his work with the mens
club, Alex Rothschild is a shul lay leader,
chairing the rabbi reappointment and
IT committees, serving as treasurer, and
budget chair. Mollie Bakal is involved
with Ramapo Readers and Bergen Reads
Literacy Program. For information, go to
www.nnjr.org.
Summer camp is a major

point of connection
Every summer, approximately 10,000

campers attend the Reform movements
15 summer camps and the movement
has plans to open five new camps by 2020.
Thats nearly three times the number of
children in the nations 13 Reform day
schools. Between 2009 and 2014, enrollment at Reform Jewish day schools fell by
19 percent to 3,704 students, according
to the Avi Chai Foundation, which tracks
such data. Though about one in 10 Reform
Jewish children are enrolled in Jewish day
schools (including some at day schools not
affiliated with Reform), about one-quarter
are enrolled in some other Jewish educational program (such as supplementary
Hebrew school) and about one-third take
part in an organized Jewish youth program. With the Reform Jewish birthrate
at 1.7 children per woman lower than
the replacement rate and below the other
two major Jewish denominations (4.1 for
Orthodox, 1.8 for Conservative) the number of Reform Jewish children altogether is
declining.
Synagogue attendance lags
If you took a representative sample of 100

Jews in synagogue on any given Shabbat,
A scene from the 2013 URJ biennial.
13 percent would be Reform, compared

to 21 percent Conservative, 56 percent
Orthodox, and 8 percent claiming no
denomination. Only 4 percent of Reform
Jews say they attend religious services at
least weekly, compared to 11 percent of
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American Jews overall. About 29 percent

of Reform Jews say they believe in God
with absolute certainty, compared to 41
percent of Conservatives and 89 percent
of Orthodox.
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The Detroit area is home to

the nations largest Reform
synagogue
That would be Temple Israel in West

Bloomfield, Michigan, with 3,374 members. The smallest movement-affiliated
synagogue? The Mattoon Jewish Community Center in Illinois, with six members. Altogether, the Union for Reform
Judaism has 858 affiliated congregations
about 15 new ones since the last biennial two years ago, according to URJ
officials. Reform synagogues are spread
across the country. Approximately twothirds of American Reform Jews live
outside the Northeast: 28 percent in the
South, 22 percent out West, and 9 percent
in the Midwest.
Ohio is home to Americas

first rabbinical seminary
HUC, Reform Judaisms seminary, was

established in 1875 in Cincinnati. Why
Cincy? Because thats where its founder,
Isaac Mayer Wise, was a congregational
rabbi. Today, the movements combined
HUC-Jewish Institute of Religion maintains the Cincinnati campus as well as
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rabbinic seminaries in New York, Los

Angeles, and Jerusalem. (Last year, 10
of HUCs 35 rabbinic graduates were
ordained in Cincinnati.) Fun fact: The
Klau Library at HUC Cincinnati houses
the largest collection of printed Jewish
material in America and second in the
world after Israels National Library in
Jerusalem.
About half of new Reform

rabbis are women
The gender breakdown of newly

ordained Reform rabbis is about 50-50
these days, according to HUC. In all,
3,181 Reform rabbis have been ordained
since HUCs inception in the 19th century, including 724 women and 92
Israelis (37 of them women). The first
American female Reform rabbi, Sally
Priesand, was ordained in 1972, and the
first Israeli woman to receive Reform
ordination was Rabbi Naamah Kelman,
in 1992. HUC also has 496 cantorial
alumni, including 230 women, since
graduating the first female cantor, Barbara Ostfeld, in 1975.
(Unless otherwise noted, the statistics
cited are based on data from the Pew
Research Centers landmark 2013 survey
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Rabbi Daniel Cohen, Temple Sharey Tefilo-Israel, South Orange
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Rabbi Jeremy Donath, Congregation Darchei Noam, Fair Lawn
Rabbi Dov Drizin, Valley Chabad, Woodcliff Lake
Rabbi Reuven Drucker, Agudath Israel of Edison, Highland Park
Rabbi Dr. Andy Dubin, Jewish Center of Northwest Jersey, Washington
Rabbi Levi Dubinsky, Chabad Lubavitch of Mountain Lakes and Denville, Denville
Rabbi Dovid Dubov, Chabad Lubavitch of Mercer County, Princeton
Rabbi Menashe East, Mt. Freedom Jewish Center, Randolph
Rabbi Renee Edelman, Temple Shaarey Shalom, Springfield
Rabbi Eric Eisenkramer, Temple Bnai Shalom, East Brunswick
Rabbi Ron Yitzchok Eisenman, Ahavas Israel, Passaic
Rabbi Fred Elias, Kol HaNeshama, Englewood
Rabbi Kenneth Emert, Temple Beth Rishon, Wyckoff
Rabbi Shammai Engelmayer, Temple Israel Community Center, Cliffside Park
Rabbi Ephraim Epstein, Congregation Sons of Israel, Cherry Hill
Rabbi Noah Fabricant, Temple Beth Or, Washington Twp
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Rabbi Adam Feldman, The Jewish Center, Princeton
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Rabbi David J. Fine, Temple Israel & JCC, Ridgewood
Rabbi Steven Fineblum, Temple Sinai, Cinnaminson
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Rabbi Joshua Finkelstein, East Brunswick Jewish Center, East Brunswick
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Rabbi Joseph Forman, Or Chadash, Flemington
Rabbi Gerald Fox, Temple Beth Shalom, Brigantine
Rabbi Alex Freedman, Temple Emanu-El, Closter
Rabbi Jennifer Frenkel, Congregation Mkor Shalom, Cherry Hill
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Rabbi Chaim Marcus, Congregation Israel of Springfield, Springfield
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Rabbi Randall Mark, Shomrei Torah Wayne, Wayne
Rabbi Andrew Markowitz, Congregation Shomrei Torah, Fair Lawn
Rabbi Abby Michaleski, Congregation Mkor Shalom
Rabbi Bennett Miller, Anshe Emeth Memorial Temple, New Brunswick
Rabbi Ellie Miller, Temple Bnai Or, Morristown
Rabbi Steven L. Mills, Temple Beth Ahm, Parsippany
Rabbi Jordan Millstein, Temple Sinai of Bergen County, Tenafly
Rabbi Steven Miodownik, Congregation Ahavas Achim, Highland Park
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Rabbi Joel Mosbacher, Beth Haverim Shir Shalom, Mahwah
Rabbi Randi Musnitsky, Temple Har Shalom, Warren
Rabbi Avroham Mykoff, Congregation Poile Zedek, New Brunswick
Rabbi David Nesson, Morristown Jewish Center - Beit Yisrael, Morristown
Rabbi Levi Neubort, Anshei Lubavitch Fair Lawn, Fair Lawn
Rabbi Yaakov Neuburger, Congregation Beth Abraham, Bergenfield
Rabbi George Nudell, Congregation Beth Israel, Scotch Plains
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Rabbi Melinda F. Panken, Temple Shaari Emeth, Manalapan
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Cantor Eli Perlman, Jewish Congregation Concordia/Monroe Township,
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Rabbi Robert Pilavin, Congregation Sons of Israel, Manalapan
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Rabbi Michael Pont, Marlboro Jewish Center, Marlboro
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Rabbi Ethan Prosnit, Temple Emanu-El, Westfield
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Did a Jewish woman blaze a new

path for women in pro baseball?
Hillel Kuttler
or Justine Siegal, attending

Opening Day games of the Cleveland Indians with her grandfather led to a lifelong passion for
baseball and dreams of one day playing
for the Tribe.
Heaven, she called the outings, where
she sat in the first row behind the home
dugout the best seats in the house.
Along with the passion, Siegal developed an acute knowledge of the national
pastime, so much so that she went on to
make a career in baseball.
This month, the 40-year-old Siegal,
who lives in Southern California, got even
closer to the action than those box seats:
She worked as a coach for the Oakland
Athletics Instructional League team in
Arizona.
In doing so, Siegal became the first
woman to serve as a coach for a Major
League Baseball club. She joined the
ever-growing list of women blazing new
paths in the game.
I was only able to stand in an As uniform because of the women who came
before me, she said. Its humbling and
great to be part of history, but my focus is
to build for the future.
Siegal follows in a long line of women
intent on making baseball their careers,
said Leslie Heaphy, a Kent State University professor who chairs the Society for
American Baseball Researchs Women in
Baseball Committee. Those predecessors
primarily players and umpires encountered a glass ceiling in mens leagues that
may be cracking now, with reports of MLB
executive Kim Ng again being considered
for general manager positions.
Teams in the NFL and NBA already have
hired female assistant coaches.
Maybe what Justine is doing will further open that door. I certainly hope so,
Heaphy said. Being invited to coach in
Major League Baseball is a huge step.
She added: With her having this very
visible role, and the attention being paid
to it, people will say, Oh, wow, thats
possible.
Heaphy has spoken with Siegal about
some of that history. The latter is intent
on building on earlier womens efforts. I
would never limit the possibilities, Siegal said.
Siegal already was a baseball pioneer
as the first woman to pitch batting practice to major leaguers, first with the Indians in 2011 and later for five other teams,
including the Athletics. She had been the
first woman to coach for a mens professional team, with the independent
Brockton (Massachusetts) Rox in 2009.
And from 2008 to 2011, she was a coach
Before she coached for the Oakland Athletics, Justine Siegal already had made baseball history in 2011, by throwing
batting practice for the Cleveland Indians.
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for Springfield College, from where she

earned a doctorate in sports psychology.
In 2010, she founded Baseball for All,
which works to increase opportunities for
girls and young women to play baseball. Siegal said the organization has inspired the
creation of girls teams and leagues around
the country, with others in the works.
Siegal started playing baseball when
she was 5 years old, and went on to play
in boys leagues. Her first job was in the
sport: working at a batting cage as a high
school senior. Later, to win the batting
practice gigs with major league teams, she
emailed general managers and attended
the winter meetings so she could approach
managers in person.
At the Instructional League, she
employed some sports psychology techniques to help the teams youngest and
rawest prospects. Siegal mentioned that
one of her charges there was 17, the same
age as her daughter, Jasmine, who tagged
along one weekend.
Using what she termed a sly approach,
Siegal would sit next to a player and allow
him to initiate a conversation about any
difficulties he was experiencing. Eventually the discussion would lead to possible solutions and with luck to the player
reaching a conclusion on his own.
I want them to come up with the idea
and make the connection, so its something
they own, she said. It builds confidence.

When I coach girls and women, respect is
there right away. With men, its Who is
she, and does she know what shes doing?
When I empower them and I reinforce
them, we make progress together. Its definitely tied to psychology. Its the reason I
wanted to coach men when I was 16, and
why I wanted to coach in college.
In Arizona, Siegal said she sensed that
some players admired her. One told her
it was cool that she was expanding the
reach of baseball. Others said they hoped
that shed be back with the Athletics in
spring training.
They knew how hard I fought to continue in baseball, she said. And they
understand hard work and sacrifice.
Dan Feinstein, the Athletics director
of professional scouting and baseball
development, called Siegal a great addition to the organizations Instructional
League staff.
She can do a little bit of everything,
and helped out in a variety of roles
from on-field instruction to throwing batting practice, he said. She has also been
an asset in our off-field classroom instruction, which included leading numerous
discussion groups on the mental side of
the game.
To go back to her childhood, what was
it like going to all those opening days with
her grandfather, Alvin Siegal, and to so

many other games with her father, Mike?
I got to watch Nolan Ryan, Roger Clemens, Reggie Jackson. I just dreamt of playing for the Cleveland Indians, Siegal said.
My love for the game came from my familys enthusiasm for baseball.
Siegals family history also includes
strong Jewish communal ties. Her grandfather and his wife endowed the Cleveland
College of Judaic Studies, which is now
affiliated with Case Western Reserve University and is called the Laura & Alvin Siegal Lifelong Learning Program. For many
years, Alvin Siegal led the fundraising for
Israel Bonds in Cleveland.
Alvin Siegal, now 92, is most responsible for the familys connection to baseball.
He began attending games when he was
8, using the free tickets that were distributed at school. The trolley delivered him
to League Park, then the Indians home.
Little could he have known that his
granddaughter would be pitching to and
coaching with players on the Indians and
other teams. A few years back, he saw her
throw batting practice for the St. Louis
Cardinals during spring training in Florida.
I think shes the most wonderful
young lady, Alvin Siegal said. Shes just
a hard worker. I think she knows more
about baseball than some major league
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6 Like most Pale of Settlement tongues
12 Noodge noise
16 Genre of most (but not all) of the Book
of Genesis
17 Italian ghetto built in 1679
18 Ecclesiastes says its not for the swift
19 American singer known for her YouTube
single Friday
21 Sea in Borats homeland
22 What a Jewish homeland just was, for
centuries
23 Lets not forget...
24 God-given
26 Abu ___ (Jerusalem neighborhood)
27 Something Leviticus says not to do with
various family members
28 Sermonize
30 She played Florida Evans on Maude
and Good Times
34 Drink not sold in Israel until 1992
37 Met our mothers in the ___ (Billy Joel
lyric from Allentown)
38 Gets a 60 percent on the Bagrut exam
40 U.S. equivalent of an Israeli Kaspomat
41 Golem alternative
44 Master escapist
45 Chutzpah of sorts
46 Karl Marxs birthplace
49 Mormon term for a Jew or other
non-Mormon
51 Nosh
52 One sign that a fish is kosher
56 Kind of Zionism?
57 Higher power?
58 The Jerusalem Talmud, to most Jews
59 Rumor ___ It... (2005 Rob Reiner
movie)
61 Contact astronomer Carl
63 She was the I in the film version of
The King and I
68 Pick, as a sandwich at Mendys
70 Palindromic name thats a variation on
the Bibles first lady
71 Simon and Garfunkel, e.g.
72 She co-starred with Bette and Billy in
Parental Guidance
74 Kukla, Fran, and Ollie, e.g.
76 ___ them for a sign upon thine hand
77 Star of Allens Crimes and
Misdemeanors
78 Silent Spring author
82 Meaning of the name of the Hebrew
letter dalet
83 She used to date Jerry
84 Sierra ___ (country whose parliament
building was designed by Israelis)
85 Word that helps make something chosen
86 Mixed linen and wool, according to
Leviticus
87 Flower whose Hebrew name is Amnon
vTamar (two Biblical characters)
1 34-Across alternative
2 The Shema and others
3 Former Labor Secretary Reich
4 On the Exodus
5 Large muscle, on Goldberg
6 More like last weeks challah
7 Court shots for Dick Savitt
8 He sang Alices Restaurant
9 Jerusalem Christian holy site ___ Dolorosa
10 Monsters ___ (Pixar film with Crystals)
11 Journalist Roberts who serves as a TV
panelist alongside Paul Krugman and
David Brooks
12 Gambol like American Pharoah
13 Fey impersonated her
14 Sing like Mel Torme
15 Part of the name of Manchesters Jewish
newspaper
20 Mideast capital
25 It might be filled with broken glass after
a wedding
27 Holocaust film Au Revoir ___ Enfants
28 ___ guilty (listened to Dershowitz,
perhaps)
29 Emulate Israeli President Moshe Katsav
31 Jews in ALL ___ (California project for
Jews of color)
32 Character in Rick Bermans Star Trek
universe
33 Ed Asner character Grant
35 ___-Man (supervillain created by Stan
Lee)
36 Javits Convention Center architect
39 Monotheism number
41 Performs ark duty on the bima, perhaps
42 Persona non ___ (official status of
Richard Falk in Israel)
43 Rosemarys Baby actress
44 Jewfro, e.g.
47 Exploits by 44-Across
48 90210 actor Ziering
50 Burning the chametz, e.g.
53 Groucho gaze
54 Term for the group Brian Epstein
managed
55 Phrase at a less-traditional Jewish
wedding
59 Initial state of the world, according to
Genesis
60 Jewish prep school in N. Carolina
62 Site in Jerry Seinfelds Bee Movie
64 Spouted anti-Semitism, in a way
65 He used to criticize Jews with fellow
inventor Henry Ford
66 Talmudic sentences, almost by definition
67 No respect comedian Dangerfield
69 They let you ride the Jerusalem Light
Rail
72 Home-___ (kind of matzo balls)
73 Louis P. ___ (Jewish St. Louis mayor who
shared a name with a soothing plant)
74 Like some of the cows in Pharaohs
dream
75 Tsene ___ (Yiddish womens Bible)
76 La ___ (Road forming the eastern
border of LAs historically Jewish
Fairfax District)
79 Prince ___ (Ashman/Menken song
from Aladdin)
80 It might contain poppy seed filling for
hamentashen
81 Sound of Music peak
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Blind Love
A Holocaust journey to Poland with mans best friend
Dr. Wallace Greene
lind Love is the first

film ever made about
blind people traveling to Poland with the
help of their guide dogs to learn about the
Holocaust.
Its footage includes blind participants
and their guide dogs taking part in the
2012 and 2013 March of the Living programs. Blind Love: A Holocaust Journey
Through Poland with Mans Best Friend
will be screened on CBCs Documentary
Channel in late 2015, but next month it will
be shown to a live audience during Torontos Holocaust Education Week, with the
co-sponsorship of the Toronto Jewish Film
Festival. CBCs Michael Enright, one of
Canadian radios best-known voices, narrates the film.
The 28-minute documentary is a moving and profoundly touching account
about how blind people interact with their
world, about their relationships with their
guide dogs, and about the importance of
building a society where everyone is cared
for and cherished young and old, strong
and weak, abled and disabled. It is about
building a world filled with blind love, not
blind hate.
The six blind Israelis in the film lead
viewers on a very unusual journey.
In the Majdanek concentration camp,
Liron Artzi, a 30-year-old blind attorney
from Tel Aviv, was overwhelmed with
emotion and started to cry. The tour
guides description of the scene a large
room with rows of exposed water pipes
and shower heads on the ceiling, next to
the Majdanek gas chambers had a visceral impact on her. She sobbed uncontrollably, without uttering a sound. Her
guide dog, Petel, with keen canine intuition, recognized her need for comfort
and responded by licking away her tears.
In the Jewish cemetery in Warsaw, a
blind woman touched an old gravestone.
Her hands caressed every crevice, each
Hebrew letter, reading the stone with her
The track to Auschwitz, above, and the gate to the concentration camp, top.
fingertips as if it were a page of Braille.

Sometimes one picture can express
more than a thousand words, says Dr.
Shmuel Rosenman, chairman of the International March of the Living, now in its
27th year.
The films producer, Eli Rubenstein, also
heads the March of Living in Canada. The
trip was sponsored by the Israel Guide Dog
Center for the Blind, the only such training
facility in the Middle East. The nonprofit
center has matched more than 500 guide
dogs the service is free and there is a
long waiting list.
A concentration camp is perhaps one
of the few places on earth where the ability to see might not be an advantage, one
of the participants said. I admit that not
This is a powerful film. If organizations want to screen it they should get in touch with
these organizations:
In the United States:
Michael J. Leventhal, executive director, Israel Guide Dog Center for the Blind
Call (215) 343-9100 or email [email protected]
In Canada:
Sara Gabriel, director, Canadian Friends of the IGDCB
Call (416) 577-3600 or email [email protected]
having the ability to see saved me from

sights that are not easy.
It was not lost on the members of the
delegation that Jewish people with disabilities had zero chance of survival during the
Nazi regime. It also was quite symbolic
that the delegation consisted of six blind
people. The blind participants felt that the
march from Auschwitz to Birkenau was the
trips high point, because it showed the
world that a person with disabilities can
be just like a regular person.
It is estimated that the Nazis murdered
200,000 disabled Germans in the T-4 or
euthanasia program, which later became
the model for the mass murder of Jews and
others. The program served as a training
ground for SS members who later staffed
the concentration camps. It also was not
lost on the participants as they made the
3-kilometer journey between Auschwitz
and Birkenau that the Nazis used dogs as
weapons to intimidate, maim, and kill,
and here they were, marching proudly
with their guide dogs, who are trained to
be gentle and loving to the very people the
Nazis set out to destroy.
David Shentow, a Holocaust survivor,
was touched by the sight of blind Jews

marching with their guide dogs in Poland.
In the film, he recounts his arrival in Auschwitz as a 17-year-old in 1942. On the
train platform, he was met by SS guards
and their German shepherds. The Jews
were told to leave their luggage on the
train. One man standing beside Shentow
politely asked an SS officer if he could
retrieve a photo from his luggage. The
SS officer lost his temper and let his dog
loose. The dog flew in the air straight to
the mans neck. As the man stopped moving I thought, My God. That man is dead.
This all happened in the first 10 or 15 minutes, and I knew I was in hell.
Another Holocaust survivor, Max
Glauben, wanted to have his photo taken
with the Israeli delegation. I am touched
to see the same animals that were used by
the Nazis to kill and maim us are now helping us, he says in the film.
At the ceremony in Birkenau, Moti
Levy, a 59-year-old computer scientist
who was blinded in both eyes and lost his
left arm during an IDF training exercise
in 1976, was chosen to light one of the six
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Calendar
Saturday
nov.
october 31
Rabbi Elimelech
Goldberg
Shabbat in Teaneck:
Rabbi Elimelech
Goldberg, founder of
Kids Kicking Cancer,
a program that helps
sick children use the
martial arts as a platform
for meditation to ease
their pain, speaks at the
three morning minyanim
at Congregation Rinat
Yisrael. Rabbi Goldberg
was a top 10 CNN Hero
last year. At 8:45 p.m., he
will lead his Breath Brake
Seminar that teaches
people how to live longer
by helping to defeat
stress. 89 W. Englewood
Ave. (201) 837-2795 or
www.rinat.org.
Robert Black
photo courtesy Thomas Giroir
Avraham Willig
Kumsitz in Teaneck:
Congregation Beth
Aaron and Renewal
present Niggunim with
Neshama, a kumsitz
and concert, 8:30
p.m. It features Rabbi
Avraham Willig and his
brothers, accompanied
by their father, Rabbi
Mordechai Willig, and
includes previews of their
upcoming album. Renewal
helps people with kidney
disease find matches
for kidney donation.
950 Queen Anne Road.
(201) 836-6210, jsturm@
renewal.org, or www.
bethaaron.org.
Sunday
november 1
Mitzvah Day: The
Jewish Federation of
Northern New Jersey
hosts Mitzvah Day, a
community-wide day
of volunteering, local
collections, and blood
drives. (201) 820-3962
or www.JFNNJ.org/
MitzvahDay.
Blood drive in Paramus:

The JCC of Paramus/
Congregation Beth
Bang on a Can and

the Jewish Museum
in Manhattan present
Bang on a Can: The
Power of Pictures on Thursday,
Nov. 5, 7:30 p.m., at the museum.
The concert celebrates composers
who were isolated behind the
Iron Curtain. Bassist Robert
Black, a founding member of
the Bang on a Can All-Stars, is
joined by violinist Katie Lansdale,
cellist Ashley Bathgate, pianist
Marko Stuparevic, percussionist
Mike Jones, and the Hartt Bass
Band in a program of chamber
music by experimental Russian
composers. A rare performance
of Ustvolskayas relentless
Composition No. 2 for piano,
eight double basses, and one
giant cube of wood will be
performed. The concert is in
conjunction with the museums
exhibition, The Power of Pictures:
Early Soviet Photography, Early
Soviet Film. 1109 Fifth Avenue at
92nd Street. (212) 423-3337 or
TheJewishMuseum.org.
Tikvah holds its JFNNJ

Mitzvah Day community
blood drive, 8:30 a.m.1:30 p.m. East 304
Midland Ave. (201)
262-7691 or (800)
RED-CROSS, code
Mitzvahdayparamus.
Blood drive in Glen

Rock: The Glen Rock
Jewish Center holds
its JFNNJ Mitzvah Day
community blood drive,
8:30 a.m.-1:30 p.m. 682
Harristown Road. (201)
652-6624 or (800)
RED-CROSS, code
Mitzvahdayglenrock.
Blood drive in Tenafly:

Temple Sinai of Bergen
County and Kesher
Community Synagogue
hold its JFNNJ Mitzvah
Day blood drive at Sinai,
8:30 a.m.-1:30 p.m. 1
Engle St. (201) 568-3035
or (800) RED-CROSS,
code Mitzvahdaytenafly.
Blood drive in
Ridgewood: Temple
Israel and JCC holds
its JFNNJ Mitzvah Day
blood drive, 8:45 a.m.-2
p.m. 475 Grove St. (201)
444-9320.
School open house

in Teaneck: Torah
Academy of Bergen
Academy holds an open
house. Registration,
9:15 a.m.; program
10 a.m.-1 p.m. 1600

Queen Anne Road.
Preregistration at www.
tabc.org/admissions/
open-house-2015. Donna
Hoenig, (201) 837-7696,
ext. 107.
Dedication in Closter:
Temple Emanu-El of
Closter celebrates
the dedication of
its daily chapel
windows, honoring all
Campaign for the Next
Generation donors,
10 a.m. Celebratory
breakfast. Reservations,
Kim, carbaugh@
templeemanu-el.com.
Sinatra and Elvis

birthday celebration:
Temple Beth Sholom
in Fair Lawn holds
Ol Blue Eyes Meets
The King, celebrating
Frank Sinatras 100th
and Elvis Presleys 80th
birthdays, with music
by crooner Steve Maglio
and Elvis impersonator
Bob McArthur, 5:30
p.m. Dinner combines
Hoboken and Memphis
fare catered by Kosher
Nosh. 40-25 Fair Lawn
Ave. Reservations, (201)
797-9321.
School open house in

River Edge: Rosenbaum
Yeshiva of North Jersey
holds an open house, 7
p.m. 666 Kinderkamack
Road. (201) 986-1414, ext.

338, [email protected],
or www.rynj.org.
Monday
november 2
Music lecture in Tenafly:
Dumont historian Dick
Burnon gives a video/
lecture The Life and
Times of American
Humorist Will Rogers,
at a meeting of the
Senior Activity Center at
the Kaplen JCC on the
Palisades, 11:15 a.m. 411
East Clinton Ave. (201)
569-7900, ext. 235 or
www.jccotp.org.
(201) 796-5040 or www.

fljc.com.
Senior music program

in Wayne: Lunch &
Learn at the Wayne
YMCA meets to hear
Naomi Miller sing, noon.
The Metro YMCAs of the
Oranges is a partner of
the YM-YWHA of North
Jersey. 1 Pike Drive. (973)
595-0100, ext. 236.
Sephardic Jewish
history: Rabbi Benjamin
Yablok discusses The
World of Sephardic
Jewry, at a lunch and
learn at Young Israel
of Fort Lee, noon. He
was on the faculty of
schools including the
Westchester Hebrew
High School and retired
as associate principal of
Manhattan Day School.
1610 Parker Ave. (201)
592-1518 or yiftlee.org.
Fools, hosted by Cantor

Sam Weiss, as part of
a Jewish Film Festival,
7 p.m. Popcorn. Series
continues Nov. 9, 15, and
23. East 304 Midland
Ave. (201) 262-7691.

Tenafly: Lubavitch on
the Palisades Day School
holds an open house,
7:30 p.m. 11 Harold St.
(201) 871-1152, ext. 510, or
www.LPSNJ.org
Feature film: The Kaplen

in Tenafly screens
Sullivans Travels, 7:30
p.m., as part of a series,
Top Films You May Have
Missed or Want to See
Again. Introduction and
discussion sessions. 411 E.
Clinton Ave. (201) 4081493.
Tuesday
november 3
New Milford: Solomon
Schechter Day School of
Bergen County invites
parents of prospective
students to an open
house, 7-9 p.m. 275
McKinley Ave. (201)
262-9898, ext. 203,
[email protected], or
www.ssdsbergen.org.
Wednesday
november 4
Caregiver support in
Rockleigh: A support
group for those caring
for the physically frail or
people with Alzheimers
disease meets at the
Gallen Adult Day
Health Care Center at
the Jewish Home at
Rockleigh, 10-11:30 a.m.
Topics include long term
care options, financial
planning, legal concerns,
and the personal toll of
caregiving. 10 Link Drive.
Shelley Steiner, (201)
784-1414, ext. 5340.
Avinoam Patt
Book discussion: The
Fair Lawn Jewish Center/
Congregation Bnai Israel
continues its Book and
Lunch program as Dr.
Ellen Schiff discusses
Alice Hoffmans novel
The Marriage of
Opposites, inspired by
the real-life family history
of artist Camille Pissarro,
noon. 10-10 Norma Ave.
Using humor for

Holocaust trauma:
Film in Paramus:
The JCC of Paramus/
Congregation Beth
Tikvah shows Ship of
Avinoam Patt, a
University of Hartford
professor, discusses
Humor in Responding
to the Trauma of the
Holocaust at Ramapo
College of New Jersey,
1 p.m. Sponsored by
Ramapos Gross Center
Calendar
for holocaust and
Genocide studies. 505
ramapo Valley road,
Mahwah. (201) 684-7409.
Thursday
november 5
Film in Tenafly: the
Kaplen JCC on the
Palisades begins a
daytime film school series
with dr. eric Goldman,
author and a film critic for
the Jewish standard, with
a screening of Barbarian
invasions, 10 a.m. Course
runs through dec. 17. 411
east Clinton ave. (201)
408-1493.
in-residence Michael
hollander will discuss
israels social Climate
during services. Kiddush
follows. 180 Piermont
road. (201) 750-9997 or
www.templeemanu-el.
com.
rummage sale in
Washington Township:
temple Beth Ors
sisterhood holds a
rummage sale, 7-9:30
p.m.; and sunday, 9 a.m.1 p.m. 56 ridgewood
road. (201) 6647422, ext. 10, or www.
templebethornj.org.
Sunday
Friday
november 8
november 6
run/walk in Paramus:
Shabbat in Paramus:
Young Jewish Families
Club of the JCC of
Paramus/Congregation
Beth tikvah holds family
services, followed by
refreshments and gym
time, 7:30 p.m. east 304
Midland ave. (201) 2627691, jccparamus.org, or
[email protected].
Shabbat in Teaneck:
temple emeth has family
services, 7:30 p.m. 1666
windsor road. (201) 8331322 or www.emeth.org.
Saturday
november 7
Yavneh academy holds

its 11th annual Benjamin
schwartz Memorial
5K/1 Mile Fun run at
the westfield Garden
state Plaza, beginning
at 8:45 a.m. www.
yavnehacademy.org and
click on Fun run/walk
or call (201) 262-8494,
ext. 309 .
rummage sale in
closter: the sisterhood
of temple Beth el
of northern Valley
holds its semi-annual
rummage sale, 9 a.m.noon, and 1-3 p.m. 221
schraalenburgh road.
(201) 768-5112.
Shabbat in closter:
temple emanu-el of
Closter offers services and
Playroom with Parent,
both at 9 a.m. scholar-
Book club in Paramus:

dina stein facilitates a
discussion on Fannie
Flaggs book, the allGirl Filling stations Last
reunion, at the JCC of
Paramus/Congregation
Beth tikvah, 10 a.m.
refreshments. 304 east
Midland ave. (201) 2627691.
Marking Kristallnacht
in Jersey city:
Congregation
Bnai Jacob marks
the anniversary of
Kristallnacht during
Lox n Learning, 10
a.m. second and third
generation holocaust
survivors will discuss
growing up with parents
and grandparents who
were holocaust survivors.
176 west side ave. (201)
435-5725 or bnaijacobjc.
org.
hoboken art tour:

For the second year,
United synagogue of
hoboken will be a stop
on the hoboken artists
tour day, noon-6 p.m.
115 Park ave. (201)
659-4000 or office@
hobokensynagogue.org.
Marking Kristallnacht in
Tenafly: the Kaplen JCC
on the Palisades screens
the film in darkness
directed by agnieszka
holland, as part of its
annual Kristallnacht
commemoration, 7 p.m. it
tells the story of Leopold
socha, a sewer worker
and petty thief in a nazioccupied city in Poland,
who encounters a group
of Jews trying to escape
the ghetto liquidation
and hides them for
money in the labyrinth
of sewers beneath the
city. sponsored by
the richard h. holzer
Memorial Foundation
and presented by the
Martin Perlman & Joann hassan holocaust
education institute. 411 e.
Clinton ave. (201) 4081418.
Marking Kristallnacht in
Fair Lawn: Congregation
shomrei torah screens
displaced Miracle at st.
Ottilien for its annual
susan nelson Glasser
Memorial Kristallnacht
commemoration, 7
p.m. Yetta Marchuckselengut, a st. Ottilienborn holocaust
educator, is the guest
speaker. refreshments.
sponsored by the Kovacs
family. 19-10 Morlot
ave. (201) 791-7910 or
mediahappenings@
gmail.com.
w. englewood ave. (201)

374-2272, orakornbluth@
yeshivatheatid.org, or
www.yeshivatheatid.org/
open-house.
in New york
Sunday
november 1
Films in Nyc: the
Museum of Jewish
heritage a Living
Memorial to the
holocaust screens
Birthplace, and
inventory, both directed
by Pawel Lozinski, 2
p.m. Both in Polish with
english subtitles. 36
Battery Place. (646) 4374202 or www.mjhnyc.org.
Saturday
november 7
ramaz School open
house: ramaz Upper
school holds an open
house. doors open at 7:15
p.m.; program at 8. 60 e.
78th st. (212) 774-8093,
admissions@ramaz.
org, or www.ramaz.org/
preregister2015.
Sunday
Monday
november 8
november 9
yu high School open

house: the Yeshiva
School open house

in Teaneck: Yeshivat
heatid, a Bergen County
yeshiva, holds an open
house at Congregation
rinat Yisrael, 8 p.m. 389
University high school

for Boys (Mta) holds an
open house. registration,
9 a.m.; program at 9:30.
2540 amsterdam ave.
avi Matansky, (212) 960-
5400, ext. 6676, info@

yuhsb.org, or yuhsb.org/
openhouse.
Saturday
november 14
Big Night out
fundraiser: the Kaplen
in tenafly celebrates
strong women, strong
Community at its
annual Big night Out
fundraiser at the Museum
of Jewish heritage a
Living Memorial to the
holocaust, 7:30 p.m.
honorees are dr. Jennifer
ashton, Gayle Gerstein,
and eva rubach. Jen
Maxfield, weeknight
reporter for nBC 4
new York, is master
of ceremonies. also a
guest performance by
Grammy award-winning
israeli-born violinist Miri
Ben-ari. www.jccotp.
org/bignightout, or (201)
408.1405.
Singles
Sunday
november 8
Seniors meet in West
Nyack: singles 65+
meets, with music by
Jeff sherer, at the JCC
rockland, 11 a.m. all are
welcome, particularly
those from hudson,
Passaic, Bergen, or
rockland counties.
450 west nyack road.
refreshments. Gene
arkin, (845) 356-5525.
Teaneck film festival includes movies of Jewish interest

This years Teaneck International Film
Festival, which runs from November 5 to
8, includes films likely to be interesting
to the Jewish community. Those movies will be screened on Sunday, November 8, at Teaneck Cinemas and the Puffin Cultural Forum. Those films include
Dough, Felix and Meira, Rosenwald,
Secrets of War, When Voices Meet, and
Zemene.
The English film Dough is about a
friendship that develops between an
Orthodox Jewish baker and the young,
black Muslim immigrant he hires without knowing about his new employees
side business.
The Canadian entry, Felix and Meira,
is about a relationship between a young
chassidic housewife from Montreals
Jewish community and the man she
meets who is mourning the death of his
estranged father.
The documentary Rosenwald is
about the son of Jewish immigrants who
became the head of Sears Roebuck. Julius
Rosenwald was one of the wealthiest

early 20th-century Americans, one of the
countrys greatest philanthropists, and an
inspiring leader in Jewish partnerships
with African Americans.
Secrets of War, which takes place during World War II, explores the friendship
of three children whose lives are changed
drastically during the Nazi occupation of
Holland.
In post-apartheid South Africa, after Nelson Mandela was released from prison, the
Peace Train toured the country with a
mixed-race childrens choir led by Sharon
Katz. Their story is told in the award-winning documentary, When Voices Meet. It
will be followed by musical selections by Ms.
Katz and others, who will also participate
in a talkback. Wise Older Women, sponsors
of the film, will present its annual award to
Eva Sandrof, chair of Temple Emeths Social
Action Committee, at the screening.
Zemene, an Ethiopian documentary,
is about a girl with a rare curvature of the
spine whose chance encounter with Dr.
Rick Hodes changes her life forever.

Opening night for the tenth annual TIFF
will be Thursday, November 5, at Teaneck
Cinemas, at 7 p.m., and 7:30 for the screening of the documentary Althea, the story
of tennis great Althea Gibson. Tony Awardwinner Lillias White will return for the
Saturday night gala, performing From
Brooklyn to Broadway on November 7 at
8:30 p.m. at Temple Emeth. On Sunday,
November 8, at 10:30 a.m., Bob McGrath
will host Kid Flix Mix, a program for 4- to
8-year-olds, at the Puffin Cultural Forum.
Admission for children will be free, thanks
to a grant from the Puffin Foundation; the
adults accompanying them will be asked
to pay. Also on Sunday morning at Temple
Emeth, the silent film classic Nosferatu,
with original music composed and played
by German virtuoso Markus Horn, will be
shown at 11 a.m.
B u y t i c k e t s o n l i n e a t w w w.
teaneckfilmfestival.org, or in person at the
Teaneck General Store and the Teaneck
Cinemas. Call (201) 203-1723.
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Distinguished speaker
series at Wyckoff shul
Rabbi Uri Regev, founder and president of the Israel-diaspora
Partnership, Freedom of Religion for Israel and its Israeli
counterpart, Hiddush, opens the Distinguished Speaker
series at Temple Beth Rishon in Wyckoff. Rabbi Regev, the
subject of a recent Jewish Standard cover story, will discuss
Are We Serious About Advancing Religious Pluralism in
Israel? on Sunday, November 8, at 10:30 a.m. Breakfast will
be at 9:45. The synagogue is at 585 Russell Ave. in Wyckoff.
The Fred Emert Memorial Adult Education Fund with TBR
Patron support sponsors the program. For information, call
(201) 891-4466.
Rabbi Uri Regev

Courtesy JTA
Maccabeats
concert
in Passaic
The Maccabeats are performing
on Sunday, at Adas Israel in Passaic at 2 p.m.
The program, also honoring honoring Stella Rabner, is
a fundraiser for the Sequoia
Senior Program-Jewish Family
Service & Childrens Center of
Clifton-Passaic. The shul is at
565 Broadway. Check www.jfsclifton.org/maccabeats or call (973) 777-7638.
Adult classes in Woodcliff Lake

Temple Emanuel of the Pascack Valley
is offering a new session of classes for
adults.
A minyan study group led by Rabbi
Shelley Kniaz is on Sundays 8 to 9 a.m.,
beginning November 1. Rabbi Kniaz also
teaches a beginner Hebrew reading
class on Mondays at 11 a.m., beginning
on November 9. Intermediate Hebrew
begins Tuesday, November 10 at noon.
Mini-courses include A Rabbi Reads
the Quran and Developing Your Inner
Mensch: A Taste of Mussar. The shul

also offers a two-year adult bar/bat mitzvah series.
A La Carte Adult Learning with
Rabbi David Klatzker, Cantor Sokoloff, and Rabbi Shelley Kniaz also is an
option. Participants choose the place
(the coffee house, your home, the park),
the time, and the topic. Gather friends to
join you, or come by yourself.
For information, call Gail at (201) 3910801 or email her at [email protected].
Dr. Hillel Ben Sasson
Dr. Benjamin Gampel
Dr. Barbara Mann
JTS offers discussion on messianic

thinking in Israeli politics
The Jewish Theological Seminary hosts
The State of Israel: Messianism Without a Messiah? with speakers Dr. Hillel
Ben Sasson, a visiting assistant professor
of Israel studies at JTS, and Dr. Benjamin
Gampel, Dina and Eli Field Family Chair
in Jewish history there. Dr. Barbara Mann,
JTS Simon H. Fabian chair in Hebrew literature, will moderate the talk. The discussion will explore what the messianic idea
has meant for Jews through the agesand
in modern Israel, the role it plays in contemporary Israeli politics on both the right
and left, and the dramatic and even revolutionary implications of messianic thinking in shaping the future and fate of the
Jewish state.
The program JTSs Gerson D. Cohen
Memorial Lecture is on Wednesday,
November 18, at 7:30 p.m. at JTS, 3080
Broadway (corner 122nd Street), in Manhattan. Photo ID is required. Reservations
are at www.jtsa.edu/messianism. The
panel also will be live streamed at www.
jtsa.edu/live.
Tracy Morgan coming to bergenPAC

Tickets are on sale for Tracy Morgans
Picking Up The Pieces at the Bergen
Performing Arts Center in Englewood on
Saturday, April 2, at 8 p.m.
Morgan starred on NBCs Emmy and
Golden Globe Award-winning 30 Rock
for seven seasons. While on a standup
comedy tour last year, he was critically
injured in a car accident that prevented
him from continuing to work and tour.
After months of rehabilitation, his goal was
to return to the entertainment world. He
recently hosted Saturday Night Live with
his 30 Rock co-stars Alec Baldwin, Tina
Fey, Jane Krakowski, and Jack McBrayer.
T i c ke t s a re av a i l a b l e a t w w w.
ticketmaster.com or the box office, (201)
227-1030.
Tracy Morgan
Showcasing the
American-Jewish experience
Yiddish concert in NYC

The Jewish Peoples Philharmonic Chorus, conducted by Binyumen Schaechter with pianist Shinae Kim, presents
From Paris to Peretz: A Musical Tour,
on Sunday, Nov. 1, at 2 p.m.
The concert is at Kaufman Music
Center at Merkin Concert Hall in
Manhattan. Its an encore presentation

of the one in May at Symphony Space.
English translations are provided.
Call (212) 501-3330 or go to www.TheJPPC.org or www.kaufmanmusiccenter.
org.
The Palisades Players at the Kaplen JCC on

the Palisades in Tenafly presents Broadway, a Jewish Experience, its debut, upbeat
musical revue, on Saturday, Nov. 7, at 7:30
p.m., and Sunday, Nov. 8, at 2:30. The show
will feature the contributions of many great
Jewish composers, librettists, and writers whose works have been performed on
Broadway, including Irving Berlin, Rodgers
and Hammerstein, Sondheim, Bernstein, and
many modern day songwriters. Check www.
jccotp.org or call (201) 408-1493.
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Rockland
East Ramapo
FROM PAGE 20
the participation of the Rockland County

Board of Rabbis, Rabbi Drill said.
Before he came, many of us were wringing our hands, we were very worried, but
we couldnt get any kind of agreement
from all the rabbis. There was a feeling
that you dont air your dirty laundry in
public, and these were fellow Jews.
In fact, the school board president,
Mr. Weissmandl, refuses to engage with
whether the board has made any accusations of anti-Semitism. I have no comment on that, he said. I do not want to
go down that road.
We are not
interested in
demonizing
or blaming or
pointing fingers.
We are only
advocating
for children.
Period. We
believe that state
intervention
is needed.
DR. OSCAR COHEN
He and the board have the entire communitys best interests at heart, Mr.
Weissmandl said. East Ramapo is a very
complex, very complicated district. It is
an anomaly in that it is severely underfunded and at the same time it is a very
high-needs district. Our situation is very
unique, and that makes it hard to run the
district efficiently and provide for the
needs of every child.
He ran for the board, although neither his children nor any other children
in his community who do not have special needs go to public school, because,
he said, I live in this community, I have
lived here all my life, and I care dearly
about every single child in the district.
I think that I am succeeding in a lot
of ways, not as fast as I would have liked,
but this board has brought about a lot of
change over the last couple of years, he
added.
He had a message to his doubters. I
say to them to look closely at my record,
to sit down with me and get to know me,
to understand what we are doing and
why we are doing it. To give the process
an opportunity to work.
Still, concerns continue to grow. The
Rockland rabbis board is made up of representatives of the liberal movements;
they are Conservative and Reform, and

very few of their congregants live in
the East Ramapo school district, and so
they are not directly affected by the turmoil there. Still, there are many retired
teachers in the Rockland Jewish community, and many parents of former public
school students, and they were personally pained by what they saw. Their sense
of morality was goaded into action. And
the news from East Ramapo became
harder to ignore.
When Rabbi Baldachin first arrived at
his new shul, one of the first questions
a reporter doing a new-rabbi-in-town
story asked him was his feelings about
East Ramapo, as he reported in a story
in eJewish Philanthropy. He knew nothing about it then, but he learned quickly.
He knew that what he was hearing was
wrong, and that he had to act.
So when Rabbi Baldachin came to
Montebello and got involved in our board
of rabbis, he spoke in an incredibly wise
and prophetic voice, Rabbi Drill said.
We needed him to get us jumpstarted
about the need for tochecha, for administering the kind of necessary rebuke to
fellow Jews that the Bible and Jewish tradition mandate.
The board of rabbis joined with clergy
from other religions to form the Rockland
Clergy for Social Justice, and they began
an intensive lobbying effort, frequently
going up to Albany to meet with Governor Cuomos representatives, eventually
getting his ear, eventually getting Henry
Greenbergs report.
We are organized by a couple of veteran NAACP folks, without whom nothing would happen, Rabbi Drill said.
Chief among them is Oscar Cohen, who
has been with us since the beginning.
He is a longtime advocate for vulnerable
people.
He is also the retired headmaster of
a school for the deaf, and without him
nothing would be organized. He keeps us
all in line. Hes your good old-fashioned
secular Jew, and he is an amazing man.
The members of the coalition that has
come together over improving public
schools disagree on many other issues
abortion rights, same-sex marriage, Zionism, among others, so we have learned
to keep our focus laser-straight on the
kids of East Ramapo, Rabbi Drill said.
Because the East Ramapo school
board members and their supporters
have taken to screaming anti-Semitism,
the presence of rabbis wearing kippot is
essential, she said.
The fight has been sobering I am a
very wide-eyed, patriotic American, she
said, and therefore, at least on some subconscious level, she expected justice to
be straightforward. It wasnt. When the
legislation to have the monitor in the
district failed, she was shocked. It was
absolutely partisan, she said; the Republicans didnt let the bill get to the floor.
Although, she added, Part of it really is
Republican ideology the state should

keep its fingers out of our school districts. Still, it was painful.
Her own synagogue has taken up the
challenge of helping students in East
Ramapo. Among other programs and services, Our kids volunteer with the kindergarten, which is down to two hours
there, she said.
Dr. Cohen, who is the education chairman of the Nyack and Spring Valley
branches of the NAACP East Ramapo is
in Spring Valley explains how he came
to reach out to the board of rabbis.
We have been working, trying to sit
down with the school board leaders and
leaders in the ultra-Orthodox community, ever since the majority of the school
board became ultra-Orthodox, he said.
We have brought in a law professor,
Yishai Boyarin, a former Israeli Defense
Forces paratrooper whose expertise now
is in dispute resolution his father is
Daniel Boyarin, the well-known Talmudic scholar. Yishai was very interested
in trying to bring peace to this issue, he
spent a lot of time with it, pro bono, but
the school board essentially told us, We
have the power, you dont, and we are
not interested.
So then, in 2011, the NAACP filed a
complaint with the Department of Education; that complaint has been ongoing for
the last four years. There have been other
legal attempts; the Advocates for Justice
is a public interest law firm that came
up here at the request of the NAACP and
filed their own complaints. There really
have been a number of attempts to find
some resolution.
And all the while we are watching services to public school students get cut
more and more, and none of this seems
to be getting any traction.
And whenever anyone questioned the
board or its motives, the board would cry
anti-Semitism.
I am of the school that says that if you
cant find a workable solution to a problem, change the problem. Redefine it.
So if the fear of being charged with
anti-Semitism was keeping government officials away, if that was the roadblock, then how could we counter it? So
I started reaching out to people I didnt
know, to Reform and Conservative rabbis

in Rockland.
So this deeply secular man found himself organizing a group of Jews, Christians, and Muslims, sidestepping the
landmines that could have exploded
at any point. We are not interested in
demonizing or blaming or pointing fingers, he said. We are only advocating
for children. Period. We believe that state
intervention is needed.
The problem, as he and his allies see
it, is that it is abnormal for people to be
in charge of a public school system if they
oppose that system for their own children.
It is illogical. It doesnt make a lot of sense.
I acknowledge that people often want to
vote down taxes often seniors, people on
fixed incomes but it is illogical to want to
dismantle it. Among other reasons, failing
school systems often drag down real estate
prices but in the charedi community that
is irrelevant, because the community sells
its property to each other.
Meanwhile, the non-charedi Jewish
community in Rockland has been trying
to show that there is more to life in the
county than the East Ramapo struggle
would suggest. The board of rabbis has
gotten a grant from the Jewish Federation
of Rockland County a very generous
one, Rabbi Drill said to say that that we
are Jewish Rockland. We live in the world,
we want a thriving liberal Jewish community, but people from the outside say,
Why do you want to move there? They
say, Are you crazy? We dont want to live
in Monsey.
The campaign is up on Facebook; to see
it, go to Facebook and type in Rockland
and Jewish.
And the modern Orthodox community
in Rockland, which feels constrained from
making any kind of common cause with
the movements to its left, is under attack
also, Rabbi Drill said. It feels like everyone is in their foxholes.
She does have some good news. Our
synagogue is thriving. We have 500 families, about 70 of them from Bergen County.
And Rabbi Baldachins synagogue is rallying around him. But his issue, with East
Ramapo, is heartbreaking. Sometimes it
feels like were doing great but everyone
around us is struggling.
Obituaries
Roza Berkinfand
Roza Berkinfand, 92, of Fair Lawn,

died on October 19. Arrangements
were by Louis Suburban Chapel,
Fair Lawn.
Elaine Epstein
Elaine Epstein, 71, of Wayne,

formerly of Massachusetts, died on
October 26.
She worked in medical and
law offices and was the business
administrator for over 45 years for
the law firm founded by her husband
in Rochelle Park, and volunteered at
Chilton Memorial Hospital.
She is survived by her husband,
Barry; sons, Eric ( Julie) and Michael
(Tracy); and six grandchildren.
Arrangements were by Robert
Schoems Menorah Chapel,
Paramus.
Beatrice Freund
Beatrice Freund, ne Lang, 94, of

Demarest, formerly of the Bronx,
died on Oct. 28.
Born in New York City, she was a

homemaker.
Predeceased by her husband,
Solomon, she is survived by a son,
Bruce; two grandchildren, and four
great- grandchildren.
Arrangements were by Eden
Memorial Chapels, Fort Lee.
Harry Gray
Harry Gray, 92, of Fair Lawn, died

on October 20.
A Holocaust survivor, before
retiring he was co-owner of Al &
Harrys Luncheonette in Ridgewood
and was a member of the Pabianice
Society.
Predeceased by a brother, Zelik
Gerson, he is survived by a sisterin-law, Henia Gerson; nieces Ruth
Leff and Eva Gerson Frisco (Tomas);
grandnieces, grandnephews, and
cousins.
Donations can be sent to Jewish
Family Service of North Jersey, Fair
Lawn. Arrangements were by Louis
Suburban Chapel, Fair Lawn.
Zionist
frOm page 16
There were 91 resolutions that made it through committee. Only about half of those came up for a vote. You
might blame the speeches for detracting from the work
of the congress. Or you might blame the newfangled
clicker technology, by which delegates were supposed
to vote electronically but led in some cases to confusion
and to those who didnt like the outcome of voters
rushing the stage.
It was a taste of the Israeli democracy that we see in
the Knesset, Mr. Kogen said.
He said that Mercaz was quite pleased with the way
the resolutions went. As a party in the center, it was our
privilege to focus on issues of transparency and best
practices. We were able to quite successfully sponsore
what we hope will be some very effective and lasting
measures to improve the body overall.
For the actual votes, delegates were reminded which
position their party wanted them to take, influenced by
our underlying ideologies, occasionally by our coalition
partners, he said. Im proud of voting my conscience
on a few issues that didnt line up strictly with how Mercaz told me to vote.
In other cases, he said, Mercaz opposed seemingly
motherhood-and-apple-pie resolutions.
A lot of these ideological resolutions are couched in
some pretty innocent terminology, and only when you
read a little deeper do they reveal themselves. A perfect example is a resolution proposed by World Likud
calling for the Israeli government to restore Jewish heritage sites in the Land of Israel. It could be just a rather
inane call for archaeological preservation. It could just
as easily mean calling for a change in the status quo
on the Temple Mount, something that the majority of
Natalie Muschell
Natalie Muschell, ne Trutz, 90, of

Maryland, formerly of Paterson and
Fair Lawn, died on October 25.
Before retiring, she was an office
administrator/legal secretary at Verp
& Leddy in Wayne.
Predeceased by her husband,
Seymour, and a grandson, Steven
Landis, she is survived by daughters,
Susan Landis (Ed) and Rita Leiby
( Jim); two grandchildren; and two
great-grandchildren.
Arrangements were by Louis
Bela Tsyrulnik
Bela Tsyrulnik, 88, of Fair Lawn,

died on October 17.
Arrangements were by Louis
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delegates to the Congress, as well as the Israeli government, is opposed to. Were talking about Bibi needing
to balance a party that has moved quite to the right of
him. As he adamantly asserts that Israel will not do anything to change the status quo on the Temple Mount, the
representatives of his party at the Zionist Congress are
trying to change the status quo.
Another local delegate, Dr. Alan Kadish of Teaneck,
described the Congress as fascinating.
Dr. Kadish is president of Touro University and was a
delegate for the Orthodox Zionist slate.
It was an important learning experience about how
things work in an organization that has been around over
a hundred years, he said. Probably the most important
thing was the negotiations before the Congress. The leadership of the World Zionist Organization for the next five
years was elected, based on coalition politics.
To Dr. Kadishs satisfaction, Avraham Duvdevani an
Orthodox Jew was reelected as chair of the WZO.
We passed resolutions that I think were important.
The seating in the Congress was based on philosophical
orientation. The religious Zionists, the Zionist Organization of America, and Likud were on one side. Meretz and
ARZA were on the other side.
One interesting resolution to declare the Jewish people indigenous to the Land of Israel passed. Narrowly,
but it passed, he said.
Overall, he said, we have to get more people involved
in the enterprise next go-round. Only 57 thousand votes
were cast out of millions potentially. Theres no question
the entire community needs to make more of an effort
to get out the vote the next time.
It was a really exhilarating experience participating in something that went back to Herzls dream, he
added. While we made a lot of progress, theres more
we can do if we work together.
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Egyptian dog
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months, and I would see if they would take up part of

the burden.
They did. They adopted a dog a three-legged Labrador who they decided to keep. He loves company, so
we decided to keep getting fosters too, she said. It is a
win-win for us. We get to help by fostering, and he gets
a friend.
In fact, Ms. Hocksteins youngest child, Abby, who is
at Northern Valley High School, is the one who drove
us, her mother said. She is very interested in animal
rescue, and shes been volunteering all the time.
Ms. Hockstein was born in Israel but moved to the
United States as a baby. She spends a great deal of time
in Israel, though, and her ties remain strong. My son
just finished serving in the IDF, she said. He made aliyah right out of high school. The irony of the situation
is not lost on her.
I just wish the rest of the world would be like this, just
taking care of what we have to take care of. Everything
else really doesnt matter lets just help out. And dogs
are an easy thing to bond over. Robyn and Leila an
American Jew and an Egyptian Muslim are both interested in taking care of dogs. They are both good people
helping in bad situations.
It shows what the world could be if we had our priorities straight, she said.
Rabbi Adina Lewittes of Closter, who leads Shaar Communities, is a proudly failed foster family, she said; she
found it impossible to give up the dog she had fostered
and adopted it instead.
She finds deep inspiration in Robyn Urmans work,
and beyond that, in her life. Robyn embodies the traditional mandate that we treat all of life with the utmost
dignity, fulfilling our obligation to diminish tzaar baalei
chayim the suffering of living creatures. She has
dedicated her whole life to this, in a manner that is completely heroic, not only in saving these animals from
horrendous shelters and almost certain death, but also
in making the effort to find the right loving, nurturing
homes where they can thrive.
Its not only the dogs who benefit, though, Rabbi
Lewittes added. The no-tech gadget-free love they offer
is medicinal. In a world that is saturated with all kinds of
distractions and pressures, she introduces an element of
love that is healing and pure. Her gift extends beyond the
animals well-being to the well-being of the families she
creates with them.
Ms. Urmans inspirational effect on others is evidenced by the extraordinary team she has been able
to put together, she said. Veterinarians, dog walkers,
groomers, foster families, office volunteers, pilots who
have their own planes
Bring on more puppy love!
torches. His dog, Sammy, accompanied him. Levys

father had grown up just a few kilometers away, in the
town of Oswiecim. I knew a lot about the Holocaust,
but here I could experience with my hand, with my
hearing, and with the smells, he said. In Auschwitz
you can smell the basement and the stale smell of old
things in the barracks where all the items are stored. In
Majdanek I could feel the fence with the barbed wire. I
touched things and I understood. We walked the same
paths that they had walked.
Guiding the blind through Poland for five days
proved to be a challenge for Haskel, an experienced
tour guide who has worked in Poland for the past 10
years. I had to describe each place in detail, size,
colors, from what material things are made of and to
give them every opportunity to feel things with their
hands, he said. This experience opened my eyes.
Since I needed to get into great detail, it made me see
things I had never noticed before. There are places in
Poland where there is nothing left, that even people
with eyesight find it difficult to imagine what took
place there.
One such place is a small clearing in the Lopuchowo
woods, just four kilometers from the quaint little town
of Tykocin, the prewar home of a 1,500-member Jewish community. On August 25, 1941, the Jews were
rounded up by Nazi and local police and brought to
the woods. Today, the blind people entered the quiet
wood, their dogs led them through low-lying brush
and around puddles, the byproduct of the constant
rain. The killing field is fenced and draped with Israeli
flags. I could feel like those people who walked from
the town to the forest, Levy said. You imagine how
they walked here with their families, their children in
their hands, the elderly trailing behind. I suppose they
knew they were walking to their death.
The group sat in a circle with open umbrellas, listening to Haskel tell the story. Their dogs lay down
on the ground beside them. One of the participants
read a passage from a text in Braille that Haskel had
prepared. The murdered bodies were thrown into a
pit. A cruel fate awaited the children as the Nazi commander sicced his dog at them and they were thrown
into the pits while still alive. A small girl didnt understand what was happening and out of her childish
naivet, while they threw her in the pit, she asked,
Why are you throwing dirt in my eyes? The fingers
of the blind woman pause on the page of Braille, and
her voice breaks.
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n 1 Religious school students at Shomrei Torah

of Wayne bagged snacks to donate to Family
Promise of Passaic. Courtesy Shomrei Torah
n 2 Magen David Adom held an emergency blood drive
to benefit Israel at Boys Town Jerusalem. Courtesy BTJ
n 3 Nearly 180 sixth and seventh graders and their families
attended Temple Emanu-El of Closters first annual Kesher
Olam Expo. About 15 nonprofit organizations shared
volunteer opportunities. Courtesy Temple Emanu-El
n 4 The Ben Porat Yosef community and friends

celebrated the schools purchase of its building
at a festive Chanukat Habayit on October 18. The
program began with a ceremonial ribbon-cutting
and continued with a siyyum haTorah and a carnival.
Activities included mezuzah making, a petting zoo, a
concert with Yoni Z, and blow up rides. Courtesy BPY
n 5 Torah Academy of Bergen Countys 42 alumni now

studying in Israel had a reunion with the schools head,
Rabbi Yosef Adler, and coach Bobby Kaplan at Big Apple
Pizza in Jerusalem during Sukkot. Courtesy TABC
n 6 The JCC of Paramus/Congregation Beth Tikvah opened
its fall adult education programming with a concert by
its cantor, Sam Weiss, right, and Cantor Randy Herman
of Bet Torah in Mount Kisco, N.Y. Courtesy JCCP/CBT
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The theater performers at Heritage Pointe of Teaneck,
the independent senior living community, are taking
their shows on the road.
This follows the performance of two comedies
before a full house of their fellow residents and family
and friends at the retirement community. Their first
stop is Brookdale Senior Living in Paramus.
The residents did two remarkable performances at
Heritage Pointe and feel they are now ready to bring
their talents to other venues, said Lorraine Amendola, life enrichment director at Heritage Pointe.
They proved that regardless of how old you may be
and the performers range up to their mid-90s you
can still make people laugh.
The play, A Reunion was written by 84-year-old
resident Bill Rini. Rini, wearing a blonde wig, performs
in the comedy as Prince Not-so-Charming, with coresidents and co-stars Bunny Yegelwel and Mary Calhoun who play the Wicked Witch and Snow Off White,
respectively. This play, very loosely based on the Snow
White fairy tale, takes place with the characters now
older and living in a retirement home.
The second play, Whats the Story? deals with a
married couple attempting to explain to their parents
why theyre getting divorced. The play is performed
by residents Irwin Geller, Sylvia Silver, Walter Calhoun, and Rifkie Jacobowitz.
Both plays are directed by Helene Marshall, a resident of Heritage Pointe of Teaneck and a long-time
director of plays who previously ran a local childrens
theatre. She is an instructor of the Drama Improvisation Workshop at the Teaneck Senior Services Center.
Those venues wishing to book a performance of the
Heritage Pointe of Teaneck players can contact Amendola at (201) 836-9260. There is no charge.
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Stephen Steiner
For years, Rabbi Ari Greenspan and Professor Ari Zivotovsky have taken what they
term halachic adventures.
Now, from February 3 to 16, you can join
them on an adventure to India.
For the two Aris, a halachic adventure
includes not only halacha ( Jewish law), but
science, history, and archeology. They visit
Jewish communities wherever they go. They
hope to bring 40 hardy souls with them to
India this winter.
This is not your usual tour of India,
they say. The trip is not for someone who
is looking to sit under a palm tree. We are
going to be on the move.
If you like Jewish history, interesting
and exotic locales, high level scholarship
and interesting lectures, this is the trip for
you, said Rabbi Greenspan. We will sing,
daven, and spend Shabbat with these communities, some of which have never had a
group of Jewish visitors. This may be the last
opportunity to experience these communities before they disappear forever.
We are going on a leadership mission to
see what was Jewish India by going to villages and even the jungle, to explore the
old synagogues most of which havent been
used for many years, but are still designated
as a synagogue, said Rivka Segal, program
director of the OU Israel Center.
The communities in India we will visit
are so excited for us to come, even more
excited than we are to visit them, she said.
This is a tremendous opportunity to connect to Jews who desire deeper ties with
their people. It is our responsibility to help
them grow. If you are an adventurer, this trip
was made for you!
We will be visiting with some of the few
remaining Jews in India. At the same time,
we will be traveling to the community of
Bnei Menashe, perhaps descendants of the
Ten Tribes of Israel, who are returning to
the tradition of their ancestors, the tribe of
Menashe. We will also visit a community
of 1,500 Christians in Erode who are in
the process of converting to Judaism. Currently, they have transformed their Zionist Church community to Torah-observing
congregants. So we will be exploring the
past, present and future of Jews and Judaism in India.
Participants will cook authentic Indian
cuisine with the locals, ride elephants, visit
the exotic spice gardens of the East, and
enjoy backwater boating in the marshes of
Cochin.
The tour operator will be Ralphy Jirad
from Mumbai. Hes dedicated his life to
preserving the history of the Jewish people
of India, said Ms. Segal. He sees this as his
mission; to remind people of what was. He
has the keys to every shul, whether its used
or not; he knows every mashgiach who has
ever worked in India.
Mr. Jirad is arranging for kosher food for
the mission, she said.
Whenever possible we plan to be eating
some of the native Indian food; we will be
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working with OU Rabbinic Field Representatives, including Rabbi Yossi Turnower, head of OU Kashrut in Israel,
who has been to India many times,
she said.
We encourage people who are leaders and interested in a more profound
and broad understanding of world Jewry
to join us on this mission and to register
very soon.
This will be a one of a kind experience, said Rabbi Greenspan. Sometimes enter t aining, other times
heartwarming, always fascinating,
educational and inspiring. It requires an

inquisitive mind, willingness to be challenged, to forget the clock and routine
and the understanding that the road less
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and the unexpected.
Information on the mission can be
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within India.
Teaneck storeowners give

to Israeli lifesaving organization
In solidarity with Israel during these
difficult times, 18 Teaneck businesses
teamed up last week to raise thousands
for United Hatzalah of Israel. Participating businesses include: The Purple Bow,
On The Table, Chopstix, Poppys Bagels/
Pizza and TCBY, Brooklyns, Privet,
Links, EJs Place, Rock N Roll Sushi &
Noodle Bar, ETC Steakhouse, Schnitzel
Plus, Gotham Burger, Garden State Jewelers, The Wig Washers, Rubin & Dombeck LLC Attorney at Law, Cedar Market, Teaneck Doghouse, and Berkshire
Abstract & Title Agency LLC.
A portion of all sales from the local
shops and restaurants along Queen
Anne Road and West Englewood benefited United Hatzalah, Israels largest
independent and fully volunteer emergency medical first response organization. United Hatzalahs network of 3,000
trained volunteers across Israel work
around the clock to provide free emergency medical services in emergencies
and terror attacks. Combining customized GPS technology and medically

equipped motorcycles, United Hatzalahs average response time is three
minutes.
When all the stores, customers and
Teaneck came together in supporting Hatzalah, the support is so much
greater in numbers, said Rachel Kupfer, owner of housewares shop On the
Table. Along with Rebecca Katz of The
Purple Bow, the two decided to organize the fundraiser. We wanted to
raise money for Hatzalah because they
are the first to respond. Hopefully, one
day we will never need them, but for
now, they need more help, equipment
and manpower to keep being the first
to respond in times of terror. This is the
smallest way we here in Teaneck can
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