Sexuality God's Gift
Sexuality God's Gift
Sexuality God's Gift
Pastoral Letter of
Most Reverend Francis J. Mugavero
Bishop of Brooklyn
February 11, 1976
Sexuality is one of God’s greatest gifts to man and woman. We can say
this only because sexuality “largely conditions his or her progress toward
maturity and insertion” but also because it is that aspect of personhood which
makes us capable of entering into loving relationships with others. Theology
teaches that relationship – the gift of oneself to another – is at the very heart of
God. The Father and Son give themselves totally to one another and the
mutuality of their total response in love is the Holy Spirit, binding them together.
we honor God and become more like Him when we create in our own lives the
loving, other-centered relationships which at the same time gives us such human
satisfaction and personal fulfillment.
Let us say clearly and without apology that chastity is a virtue which
liberates the human person. Chastity means simply that sexuality and its
physical, genital expressions are seen as good for man and woman – good in so
far as we make them serve life and love. Any of our good powers can be turned
to destructive purposes due to lack of concern, weakness, or even a well-
intentioned error. The excitement and adventure of human living is to take our
God-given talents and become someone worthwhile – lovable and loving. It
should not be surprising that the power and pleasure which are part of sexuality
will demand of us the intelligence, honesty and sacrifice that might test our
maturity to the utmost degree. But we do not fear sexuality, we embrace it.
What we fear at times is our own inability to think as highly of the gift as does the
God who made us sexual being,
Does it appear unusual that as member of the same Church some can
embrace married love and others celibate love as expression of personal
sexuality? It did not seem contradictory to Christ, who respected and blessed
matrimony as a sacrament of His own mission as an unmarried man. Far from
condemning sexuality, He knew man and woman were created thus by God as
“very good” and may “become as one flesh” in the permanently faithful union of
married love. Neither did He discourage those who would sacrifice the genital
expression of their sexuality out of love for serving fellowman and God’s
Kingdom as priest, Religious and dedicated laity.
But if we are honest with ourselves as were the Christians who have lived
before us, each of us will recognize that it is not easy to integrate sexuality into
our lives. We all want to be loved and accepted. We want to draw close to other
people, and many of us will seek fulfillment in that special closeness which
married life should be. Helping our sexuality develop in a constructive way – in
a way which will help us gain and give the love and affection that brings
tremendous joy and peace of mind – demands that we consciously live our lives,
that we do not just “let things happen.” The relationships with other people
which can make our life full and enjoyable do not just “happen.” We are
members of a Church whose people have been part of the successes and
failures of almost two thousand years of human living. We are continually being
brought out of slavery by the loving Spirit of God. One form of slavery is the
ignorance of how to love – how to use our sexuality for giving life, for truly loving,
for deep and lasting relationships.
There may be no convincing way to say this to someone who does not
want to listen. We know, however, that the experience of countless human
beings and sound psychology support the wisdom of the Church teaching
regarding both the goodness of sexuality and the unfortunate ambiguity related
to its genital expression. Although each of us is called to live our sexuality in the
sense of the human qualities and relationships seen above, its genital
expression (physical sexual contact, arousal, orgasm) needs a special context
before it can serve human love and life generously and without deception.
Pre-Marital Relations
Human beings can use mineral for health and strength or turn them into
bombs to kill and destroy. The pleasant smile can find its true meaning as a sign
of friendship or be used to deceive. Sexuality can find its genital expression
serving mutual love and new life in the total commitment of marriage, or it can
easily become self-serving and stripped of its true meaning. What is meant to
be the expression of deep love of a man and woman joined forever through
marriage in the service of life can be trivialized as merely a way of enjoying this
person I am with. In pre-marital intercourse the full genital expression of sexual
love is robbed of its proper context of exclusive commitment, the genuine and
permanent gift of oneself to one’s beloved, and the possibility of the couple’s
love showing itself in a stable enough environment to develop new life.
Multiple Motivations
Homosexual Orientation
A Call To healing
A most important way to aid the human person achieve sexual integration
and live the virtue of chastity is to provide from life’s earliest years a loving and
secure climate. We urge parents and teachers to examine their own attitudes
toward sexuality and to set the pace for young people in developing as loving
and mature men or women.
This Holy synod likewise affirms that children and young people have a
right to be encouraged to weigh moral values with an upright conscience and to
embrace them by personal choice and to know and love God more adequately.
Hence, it earnestly entreats all who exercise government over peoples or
preside over the work of education to see that youth is never deprived of this
sacred right.
We call on all men and women of good will to help create a more
wholesome climate in society. There are still so many imprisoned wither
psychically or physically in the destructive activity of prostitution. The social
problems of pornography must be challenged by community concern.
Advertising and media too often miss vital important opportunities to free the
human spirit and instead contribute to a sex-saturated atmosphere that confuses
rather than heals.
Together
We are very conscious of the fact that all of us touch one another with our
lives. What gratitude we should all have for those who have struggled with the
difficulties of sexual integration and chastity in their lives and are now witnesses
to us that it can indeed be done – that fidelity, commitment, self-sacrifice and
compassion are realities in the lives of so many. We rejoice in you and thank
you.
Yet we recognize that maturity in these areas comes only through what
for many people will be a long and demanding process growth. To our brothers
and sisters of all ages who are experiencing difficulties – to those who cannot yet
see that the personal and public commitment of marriage should be the context
for the gift of oneself in sexual relations; to those whose homosexual orientation
is causing them pain and confusion to the widowed and to the adolescent
encountering sexual needs: to those separate from their spouse by
circumstances or by divorce – to all of you we pledge our willingness to help you
bear your burdens, to try to find new ways to communicate the truth of Christ
because we believe it will make you free. We respect you in your struggle.
Grace and peace to you from God our Father and from the Lord Jesus
Christ.
Francis J. Mugavero
Bishop of Brooklyn
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