Best Interest of Child and Tender Years Doctrine
Best Interest of Child and Tender Years Doctrine
Best Interest of Child and Tender Years Doctrine
by BENCHPRESS
A Filipino couple, both working in the United States (US), met and fell in love. After three (3) years of living
together and having a daughter, they got married. A few months later, the wife gave birth to their second child,
but their relationship began to deteriorate. The wife claimed that her husband nagged her too much about
money matters while he claimed she was a spendthrift, buying expensive jewelry and antique furniture
instead of attending to household expenses.
Eventually, the relationship turned sour and the wife moved to a different state, leaving her husband and
children behind. The husband moved back to the Philippines. Due to the demands of his work, however, he
was forced to live in the US once again, so he left his children with his sister. It was only two years later that
the mother of the children went to the Philippines to gain custody over her children.
The Regional Trial Court (RTC) gave the father sole parental authority and suspended the mothers parental
authority over her children. Visitation rights were to be agreed upon by the parties and approved by the RTC.
The Court of Appeals reversed the trial courts decision and granted custody to the mother and visitation rights
to the father on weekends premised on the tender years doctrine, which provides that no mother shall be
separated from her child under seven years of age, unless the court finds compelling reasons for such
measure.
The Supreme Court (SC) sustained the findings and conclusions of the RTC, reiterating that the paramount
criterion for granting parental authority is the best interest of the child and not the tender years doctrine
[the RTC] gave greater attention to the choice of Rosalind (the daughter) and considered in detail all the
relevant factors bearing on the issue of custody It is not so much the suffering, pride, and other feelings of
either parent but the welfare of the child which is the paramount consideration.
Citing Unson III v. Navarro, it explained that in all controversies regarding the custody of minors, the sole
and foremost consideration is the physical, education, social and moral welfare of the child concerned, taking
into account the respective resources and social and moral situations of the contending parents.
The SC further explained the rules in ascertaining the childs best interest
In ascertaining the welfare and best interests of the child, courts are mandated by the Family Code to take into
account all relevant considerations. If a child is under seven years of age, the law presumes that the mother is
the best custodian. The presumption is strong but it is not conclusive. It can be overcome by compelling
reasons. If a child is over seven, his choice is paramount but, again, the court is not bound by that choice. In
its discretion, the court may find the chosen parent unfit and award custody to the other parent, or even to a
third party as it deems fit under the circumstances.
Lastly, the Court observed that the childrens age and their choice of parent should have been taken into
consideration when assessing the childrens best interest
Not only are the children over seven years old and their clear choice is the father, but the illicit or immoral
activities of the mother had already caused emotional disturbances, personality conflicts, and exposure to
conflicting moral values, at least in Rosalind. This is not to mention her conviction for the crime of bigamy
The children understand the unfortunate shortcomings of their mother and have been affected in their
emotional growth by her behavior (Espiritu v. Court of Appeals, G.R. No. 115640, 15 March 1995, J. Melo).
Custody battle
Nothing can be more traumatic than a husband and a wifes battle for custody of their
children, except probably for a child to know that his or her parents are in a bitter, legal tugof-war for his or her custody.
[1] Is a wife, a Christian who converted to Islam before her marriage to a Muslim and converted back
to Catholicism upon their separation, still bound by the moral laws of Islam in the determination of
her fitness to be the custodian of her children?
The standard in the determination of sufficiency of proof, however, is not restricted to Muslim laws.
The Family Code shall be taken into consideration in deciding whether a non-Muslim woman is
incompetent. What determines her capacity is the standard laid down by the Family Code now that
she is not a Muslim.
Indeed, what determines the fitness of any parent is the ability to see to the physical,
educational, social and moral welfare of the children, and the ability to give them a healthy
environment as well as physical and financial support taking into consideration the
respective resources and social and moral situations of the parents.
The record shows that petitioner is equally financially capable of providing for all the needs of her
children. The children went to school at De La Salle Zobel School, Muntinlupa City with their tuition
paid by petitioner according to the schools certification.
[2] The welfare of the minors is the controlling consideration on the issue.
In ascertaining the welfare and best interest of the children, courts are mandated by the Family Code
to take into account all relevant considerations.
Article 211 of the Family Code provides that the father and mother shall jointly exercise
parental authority over the persons of their common children.
Similarly, P.D. No. 1083 is clear that where the parents are not divorced or legally separated,
the father and mother shall jointly exercise just and reasonable parental authority and fulfill
their responsibility over their legitimate children.
Either parent may lose parental authority over the child only for a valid reason. In cases where
both parties cannot have custody because of their voluntary separation, we take into consideration
the circumstances that would lead us to believe which parent can better take care of the
children. Although we see the need for the children to have both a mother and a father, we
believe that petitioner has more capacity and time to see to the childrens needs. Respondent
is a businessman whose work requires that he go abroad or be in different places most of the time.
Under P.D. No. 603, the custody of the minor children, absent a compelling reason to the contrary, is
given to the mother.
[3] However, the award of custody to the wife does not deprive the husband of parental
authority. In the case of Silva v. Court of Appeals, we said that:
Parents have the natural right, as well as the moral and legal duty, to care for their children, see to
their upbringing and safeguard their best interest and welfare. This authority and responsibility may
not be unduly denied the parents; neither may it be renounced by them. Even when the parents are
estranged and their affection for each other is lost, the attachment and feeling for their offsprings
invariably remain unchanged. Neither the law nor the courts allow this affinity to suffer absent, of
course, any real, grave and imminent threat to the well-being of the child.
neglect
abandonment
unemployment
immorality
habitual drunkenness
drug addiction
insanity
Case law: Agnes Hirsch vs. CA and Franklin Hirsch (GR No. 174485, July 11, 2007)
Custody battles over children: what determines fitness of a parent over another?
Nothing can be more traumatic than a husband and a wifes battle for custody of their
children, except probably for a child to know that his or her parents are in a bitter, legal tugof-war for his or her custody.
Similarly, P.D. No. 1083 is clear that where the parents are not divorced or legally separated,
the father and mother shall jointly exercise just and reasonable parental authority and fulfill
their responsibility over their legitimate children.
Either parent may lose parental authority over the child only for a valid reason. In cases where
both parties cannot have custody because of their voluntary separation, we take into consideration
the circumstances that would lead us to believe which parent can better take care of the
children. Although we see the need for the children to have both a mother and a father, we
believe that petitioner has more capacity and time to see to the childrens needs. Respondent
is a businessman whose work requires that he go abroad or be in different places most of the time.
Under P.D. No. 603, the custody of the minor children, absent a compelling reason to the contrary, is
given to the mother.
[3] However, the award of custody to the wife does not deprive the husband of parental
authority. In the case of Silva v. Court of Appeals, we said that:
Parents have the natural right, as well as the moral and legal duty, to care for their children, see to
their upbringing and safeguard their best interest and welfare. This authority and responsibility may
not be unduly denied the parents; neither may it be renounced by them. Even when the parents are
estranged and their affection for each other is lost, the attachment and feeling for their offsprings
invariably remain unchanged. Neither the law nor the courts allow this affinity to suffer absent, of
course, any real, grave and imminent threat to the well-being of the child.
Summary:
[1] In custody disputes, the paramount criterion is the
welfare and well-being of the child.
[2] General rule: custody of a child below seven years of
age belongs to the mother.
[3] Exception: if there are compelling reasons, custody
may be denied and granted to another party under
Article 214 of the Family Code.
[4] Compelling reasons for a mother to lose custody:
neglect; abandonment; unemployment and immorality;
habitual drunkenness; drug addiction; maltreatment of
the child; insanity; affliction with a communicable illness.
Posted by Atty. Gerry T. Galacio at Wednesday, July 11, 2007
39 comments :
Anonymous said...
greetings atty, i would like to ask for your opinion on my situation.
i am separated from my husband not legally. we separated because he is having an affair
with another woman and had a child with her. presently, he is living in with that woman and
their child, while me and my son have our own apartment to stay. i work in an office and i
have a yaya for my son. my husband does not give financial support regularly, so my inlaws
sometimes takes over and gives support to us. ever since we separated, about 4 yrs, little by
little he distants himself from my son. before he would come visit my son every 2 weeks and
then lately months will take before he sees him. my inlaws regularly visits us every 2 weeks,
and they are the ones getting updates about their grandson and tells my husband. i guess
my husband doesnt want to see me thats why he seldom visits my son. my son who is 7
years old is beginning to ask me why his father do not stay with us and why does his father
doesnt fulfill his role of being a father to him like his other classmates in school. i just change
the subject whenever he asks because i dont want to rationalize to my son or give an
impression to my son that me and his father have mutual views on the separation. he is
slowly staying away from his responsibility to my son.
i would like to ask atty what do i have to tell my son if he asks questions about his father's
absence? is my husband developing no concern with my son anymore that he is drifting
away, much more at the time my son needs a father at his age? is it normal for a father that
its ok with him of not being part of the life of his own child? because i can see in my son his
longing for a father role in his life.
my heart breaks when i see my son like this.
can you help me atty? thank you so much for your time.
July 31, 2008 3:41 AM
dreamer said...
This is how I think of the situation: Children will always ask question. Will you tell the child
the truth,beat-around-the-bush, or assume. I would tell the child the truth, but just not in so
many words, how ever I would try to explain, as long as I don't have to lie, it wont hurt me as
much in the future.
July 31, 2008 11:33 AM
Also, Dr. Dobsons Focus on the Family ministry has a website www.family.org. Please surf
to the section on "Parenting/ Special Family Situations" where you will find articles such
as: Adopting a Significant Family Purpose; Single Dads Raising Daughters; One Single
Dad's Story; Next Steps / Related Information; As a single parent, am I deserting my children
by taking a few days to myself?
Dr. Dobsons article titled What encouragement can you offer to single parents?
can be found at
http://family.custhelp.com/cgi-bin/family.cfg/php/enduser/std_adp.php?p_faqid=908
August 01, 2008 9:24 AM
Anonymous said...
thank you so much atty for your advices and suggested articles and books i can read to help
me with my situation.
my husband was always passive before when i try to talk to him about his affair, he was in
denial at first but when i found out proofs of his infidelity, he finally told me that i was the
reason why he had that affair because i did not fulfill his desire of having another child with
him after our first born.
in my heart atty, i wanted to have another child but i have a reproductive problem, so bearing
another child will be a challenging one for me as i did with my firstborn. i was so thankful to
God that He blessed us with our firstborn inspite of my reproductive problem. my OBGYN
told me to wait a few years after our first born before i conceive again.
but my husband didnt understand my situation, he accuses me that i did not want another
child so he was tempted to have one with a mistress.
but i believe atty that in our early years of our marriage that he has been philandering behind
my back and when he mistakenly had his mistress pregnant, he put the blame on me
because i have a reproductive problem.
my husband had many girlfriends before he was married to me. i didnt got a CENOMAR of
him to check of his background, because i trusted him that much. he wasnt very open to talk
about his girlfriends before and i respected that because i trust him. however, he was able to
mention to me before, that before he had me as his girlfriend, he had an existing one. when
we went steady, he did not ended his relationship immediately with the other girl, it went to a
point that he had two of us as his girlfriends. but then at his own will, he broke up with the
other one, and we were steady for 3 years before getting married.
i was so in love with him that i didnt forsee this kind of behavior in him about that situation
having two girlfriends at the same time, and how can this be a piece of information on how
will he handle relationships in the future.
when i found out about his affair, and he finally admitted it, he told me that there is nothing to
talk about and he wants to get out of our marriage and if he has the money, he will file for
annulment.
when he said that i believe he has come up with this decision of leaving us finally after
denying the affair at first because he was still in the process of making decision of leaving us
or not. so when he finally made that decision of leaving us, no one can change his decision
not even his parents.
i also sought for his parents' help, but they cant do anything to the stubbornness of my
husband.
atty, how can i explain this all to my son? about the situation of me and his father's infidelity?
about why did his father left us?
can you please help me atty? i dont know how to explain to my son. i dont know what to tell
him or not to tell him. can you give me an example of what to tell my son, please atty?
thank you so much po.
August 02, 2008 7:50 AM
read my related article Can you legally force your spouse to love and live with you? (look
for the link in the sidebar).
If you want people to pray for you regarding this situation, please follow this link to a prayer
room for men and women:
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October 23, 2008 3:55 PM
Anonymous said...
What if the parents were never married. The mother has been taking care of the child since
day 1, the father has not shown any kind of support, interest, or has not donated a penny
towards the child's needs. He is now taking the mother to court seeking paternity and
legitimation, and is also seeking joint custody but he has 4 other children that he owes child
support on. The mother is about to graduate from college and feels like she can raise her
son without the drama and leeching behavior that comes along with the father. Do you think
the court will grant his wishes even though he has been to jail, owes thousands in child
support, and is involved in questionable activity?
November 30, 2008 9:30 AM
Anonymous said...
Can a "would-be" mom force the father to acknowledge(through surname and financial
support) their child even if the father doesn't want to? Theirs is an extramarital affair because
the man is already married though he is filing for an annulment. thanks atty.
January 12, 2009 1:30 PM
Anonymous said...
just a follow up to the previous post atty.. what if the wife of the man filing for annulment
knew of this situation (pregnant other woman). what might possibly happen to the case? will
it favor the wife now? pwede ba silang ipakulong ng wife?
January 14, 2009 1:32 PM
Jojo said...
Dear Atty.,
I am the ninong of three, wonderful kids who I love so much as if they were my own children.
In fact, I am the one supporting the education of one of the children, the middle of the three,
whom I am the most closest to emotionally and feels the same way for me in return.
The father and mother lives in my house as my sort of "assistance" to them and also I want
to be with the children and experience their presence.
However, the mother has been errign and doing some strange, mysterious actions lately like leaving the house in the early afternoon, telling the kids that she is going to buy school
supplies or whatever but then she comes home the following day at 10 a.m. intoxicated. We
investigated and have discovered that she is seeing/dating a SP02 policeman. We also
discovered that this has been going on for a long time now. The husband and wife are
always fighting because of this but the wife who is an Ilongga (and not so educated) is very
"mataray" and she threatens the husband that she will take the kids away and the husband
will not see them anymore (which also means I will not see them too since I am close to the
husband) and also demands "sustento" if ever they will spearate. She screams at the top of
voice and is very scandalous specially when she is drunk. I pity my kumpare, the husband,
because he is so tolerant and understanding and tries his best to try to mend the problem
peacefully but the wife is very abusive and repeats her galivanting out at night. Also, I pity
the husband because he is a part time reflexologist and whatever he earns he gives to her
so that she can save the money but instead it appears she spends it on her drinking spree
and we have been told by witnesses that she sometimes pays for the bill of the whole
"barkada" of that policeman that we think she is having an affair with. Dapat with all the
money he has been remitting to her from his part-time work he should already ahve saved
almost 20K but when he asked the wife - wala daw! Geesh! She spends like there is no
tomorrow and living the life of a single woman! To top it all she has in the past verbally
threatened the husband re kilala nya isang pulis against him. We strongly believe that she is
having an extra martal affair because of her regularity going out, lying and leaving the kids all
alone with no one to watch them and retuning back the following morning but we have no
solid evidence but all verbal reports from friends and witnesses and we do believe they are
reliable. I and the husband are distressed by this and the husband would like to separate but
he would also like to have custody of the children since he is the breadwinner (and of course
I would also like to continue my assistance for the kids but I am at a dead end since I have
no blood relations to them whatsoever).
I (or rather the husband) needs help as he is a battered husband psychologically by the wife
but what is a common concern for both of us is that he at the same time will be able to gain
custody of the kids specially the 2nd of the three. Please help! Whom can we approach for
legal assistance - he doesn't earn much so is there some sort of a free public assistance
office somewhere that can be of REAL assistance and be sympathetic to his cause?
We are in a dead end about this since neither of us have any legal experience or
connections.
Thank you so much and please we need help.
March 09, 2009 10:51 AM
Jojo said...
Dear Atty.,
Oh I forgot to mention that the SP02 police officer I was talking about is also a married man
the info we got was from other policemen working in the same precint he is assigned to. Can
the husband also file a case against that police officer aside from pursuing his cause with his
wife and gaining custody of his kids?
March 09, 2009 11:27 AM
Ermita, Manila; Telephone no: 523-84-81; Email Address: [email protected] or visit any
Regional/Provincial/City Prosecution Offices in your locality.
March 10, 2009 5:13 PM
Parenthood said...
Good Day Atty. Galacio
i lost my love to my husband so i had committed adultery and now i'm pregnant with another
man. i had a 5yr old daughter with my husband. since i am pregnant with my 5yr old
daughter, we live with my parents. though he's giving a financial support, still its lack. now
he's working abroad, he earns money but he gives us no half of his salary and sometimes
delayed for how many months. when he found out that i'm pregnant, he took my daughter
away from me and he decided that his sister in law would take care of my daughter while
he's back in abroad now. what will be my rights for my daughter? they even don't want me to
borrow my daughter... pls help me. i want my daughter back.
April 06, 2009 10:20 AM
Anonymous said...
ggod morning..my brother got married last 2006 thru a civil wedding..and he had 2 kids now
2 years old and 4 months old...
He had a hard time to look fof a job because of his age so my parents provide everything
and me too..I was the one who provide money for 2 caesarian operations that cost
35thousand each...from giving birt..and i was very much disappointed because the girl
choose to live in her parents house and since the birth of the children my parents were not
able to see them because the wife doesnt allow my brother to visit my parents in davao..But
my parents were the one whoe provide for the milk,foods and clothings because of my
brother situation..
then last week his wife told him that she will changed the family name of my 2
nephews..because my brother cant give what she want i am overseas..i spent more money
since 2005 for her knowing that she will be a good mother because she is a christian...
my parents were in davao and the children were in manila...do my brother had a right to
bring my nephew to visit my parents in davao? or does his wife has the right to change the
family name of the kids because she want too?whats our right as a provider of the kids
needs...im overseas and i felt so bad for the kids because the woman cant provide anything
when it talks about the future..til now my parents provide everything especially the milk..the
side of the girl did not provide anything because they have no money...my parents continue
to give money even if they were not able to see the kids...when they bay were hospitalized i
sent money for the private hospital..i just want an answer if she can easily changed the
family name of my nephews?what are the grounds of changing it...
hope to hear from you atty..thanks and have a blessed holy week...
April 09, 2009 8:37 AM
Anonymous said...
Hello Attorney,
I just learnt about Republic Act 9262 or the "Anti-Violence Against Women and their Children
Act of 2004. This is my story. I am now annulled and got the finality last year. I and my exhusband have 3 kids, 14, 12 and 10 years old. The problem started when my ex-husband
went to Japan to work. I and the kids stayed in the Philippines. He would go home in the
Philippines twice or 3 times a year. Then one day I had my papsmear and he called that day
and wanted to know the result. I joked and told him that I'm infected w/ a sexual disease and
asked him if ke was cheating on me and having sex w/ other girls in Japan. His voice
trembled and sounded worried. When I started laughing and told him I was just joking he got
really angry. Which made me suspicious. Then one day he called overseas and asked him if
he is cheating on me coz I could feel something different the last time he went home and
called. And at that very moment he admitted he has a girlfriend there and they are living
together and he told the girl that he is married but we are separated w/c at that time was a
lie. Because we were together still. Learning about his "pambabae" really hurt me a lot and
at that time my kids were 5years old, 3 years old and 1 1/2 year old. One of our close friends
suggested that I should be smart and ask him to sponsor me to go to Japan so I could start
earning for myself and my kids coz during our marriage I was a plain housewife. I thought
"yeah, why not". Thinking I'll try to save the marriage eventhough he cheated because I
wanted my kids to have a whole family and if things don't workout between me and my
husband then I can start my life. So I told him that idea and he agreed but he had some
terms. I shouldn't show my face to his girlfriend then and go and stay with my cousin who
lives in a coutryside area in Japan. He was and is in Tokyo. So agreed but I wasn't able to
get a good job in that area where my cousin was staying. So I called him up and ask if I
could go to Tokyo and begged. Finally, he agreed after I begged and cried a lot but I have to
hide from the girlfriend then. At that time I was really naive and stupid. Why do I have to
hide? Anyway, I was able to get a job in Tokyo and few months after without knowing that he
was actually keeping tab of the money that he has spent on me getting to Japan and while I
was looking for a job. One day he surprised me and showed me a list of the amount I owe
him up to the last centavo. I got annoyed and told him he doesn't have the right to make a
tab and suddenly tell me I owe him that much. After that argument he stopped and told me I
don't have to pay it anymore and I told him I don't owe him anything but he owes me a lot
because he is the guilty party in this separation. Now, I have boyfriend and our marriage is
annulled. I am still here in Tokyo and working. The kids were staying with my family in the
Philippines. My mother past away two years ago and my father si diabetic and has high
blood pressure. Despite the annullment I am in good terms w/ my in-laws. My ex-husband
give child support- (20,000yen per kid). This year I agreed that the kids can stay w/ his family
for a year or two while I'm waiting for my Canadian visa. Before he would be sending me
60,000 yen per month for child support for the 3 kids. But because the kids are now w/ his
family. He won't be sending me the child support but send it directly to his family and he is
asking me to help him financially. He has a live-in girlfriend now and she is 3 months
pregnant. Now my question is, after all he did to me, can he do that ask ME to help him
financially for the child support? What if I don't give him any financial help he was the guilty
party anyway, will I be legally in trouble? Will he have a case against me if I don't give any?
Sorry for the long story.
April 16, 2009 8:30 PM
Anonymous said...
dear atty...
good day. nagbabakasali na matulungan nyo ako sa sitwasyon ko. ganito kasi ako noon,
from the celebration of our marriage 2003(civil in Manila City Hall), i stand as the
breadwinner for my husband and an unborn child. we lived in his parents house, i sent him to
finish his college educ. (he was turning in 2nd year but have to stop in 1st semester kasi i
was pregnant and i ask him na unahin muna yung baby). and then, late 2004, we began
fighting even in the littlest thing. he became suspiscious because i work so hard i leave
house 5am and return almost midnight due to extend overtime. at first, nakikipaghiwalay na
ako dahil inaabuso na nya ako, psychologically, mentally...and physically,he hit me several
times on the face,pumapasok ako sa ofc na mixed yellow and purple ang mukha ko, still i
covered it up sa ofcmates ko. pero hindi sya pumayag, he was in 3rd yr then. in short,
nabola nya ako at nangako na magbabago at once na makatapos sya, hihinto na ako ng
work at he will provide for us and get our own place. in 2005, nakikipaghiwalay na sya,
ayoko naman kasi yung bata, paano na? he continued insulting me with words para ako na
mismo humiwalay sa kanya. he provokes me para magalit, he always does. then when i got
pregnant with our 2nd child, he despised me. hindi daw sa kanya yung bata. buntis ako at
lagi nya akong pinapaiyak at ginagalit, very unhealthy para sa baby. i was very concerned to
the child i have to escape from his sight. he keeps insisting na maghiwalay na kami despite
the fact na buntis ako. he'll finish his studies oct 2006. bakit ngayon pa nya naisip
makipaghiwalay. para syang wala sa katinuan. natatakot na ako sa kanya. nagpaaalam ako
sa in-laws ko na magbabakasyon sa parents ko as soon as i filed my maternity leave...
To settle the issue of custody or the parental visits, you have to file a petition in court asking
it to set the terms and conditions your husband can have custody of your children.
You also have the option of filing RA 9262 cases against your husband (please read my RA
9262 posts; look for the links in the sidebar).
Husbands and wives are obliged to support each other. It is doubtful if you can have the
money you spent for your husband's college studies reimbursed to you.
For free legal assistance, please contact the DOJ Action Center. The DOJAC acts on
complaints, requests for assistance and legal queries of walk-in clients of the DOJ. For legal
assistance please visit the Department of Justice Action Center (DOJAC) Main Office,
Ground Floor, Multi-Purpose Building, Padre Faura Street, Ermita, Manila; Telephone no:
523-84-81; Email Address: [email protected] or visit any Regional/Provincial/City
Prosecution Offices in your town or city.
You can also try to seek help from the SALIGAN (Sentro ng Alternatibong Lingap Panligal)
Manila, G/F Hoffner Building, Social Development Complex, Ateneo de Manila University,
Loyola Heights, Quezon City, Philippines; Tel. (632) 426-6001 loc. 4858-4860, Telefax: (632)
426-6124; E-mail: [email protected]; Website: www.saligan.org
June 04, 2009 10:21 AM
dali1966 said...
dear atty, my girlfriend has a malaysian husband, they are not yet divorced but due to his
continued affairs my gf has moved back to phlippines from malaysia, her husband constantly
threatens to come to the philipinnes and take her son away from her.
Could you please advise her as to his rifghts to do this. How does malaysian law stand up in
the philipines. Is he just trying to scare her or is it possible that he is correct and he can coe
to take her son from her?
Thank you very much in advance of your responce.
Yours sincerly
Ian
July 15, 2009 3:40 PM
Anonymous said...
Dear attorney,
Good day po.
Kailangan kopo sana ng advice or opinon nio kung ano po ang dapat kong gawin..
Married na po kami ng husband ko for 5 years, pero nag decide na po kami na mag hiwalay
na coz di na po talaga kami magkasundo.
Nagkaron ako ng affair sa married man. Tapos na po yun bago ko pa man cia maging
bf.Alam po ng asawa ko ang past ko bago pa kami ikasal.pero sa loob po ng 4 na taon ng
pagsasama namin madalas po na binubugbog nia ko at sinasabihan ng masasamang salita
dahil sa pangit kong nakaraan.Lagi po niang iniinsist na nanlalake ako kahit hindi naman.
Tiniis ko po yun sa paniniwalang nagkakaganun lang cia kasi nga dahil sa past
ko.Pinapatawad ko cia everytime na humihingi cia ng tawad at sinasabing di na mauulit pang
muli.Pero nung mangyari pa po ulit yun, gumawa cia ng sulat sa magulang ko na ipakulong
na cia pag naulit pang saktan nia ko.Hindi na nga po nia ko nasasaktan pero patuloy pa din
po ang mga masasakit na salita na sinasabi nia sa akin.
Ang problem ko po ngaun ay kung may karapatan po ba ako na mag file ng custody para sa
akin ang anak ko na 2 years old lang?Usapan po namin na tuwing week end sa kanya pero
di po natutupad kasi lagi din nia kinukuha ang anak ko sa tuwing gusto nia. Lagi po ciang
nag iinom at puro barkada.Wala po kaming trabaho pareho pero may business po kami na
pinatayo ng magulang nia.. dun po kami kumukuha ng pangsustento sa anak namin.At
savings para sa anak namin.Ngayon po ako lang ang nag mamanage ng business namin
kasi nasa lupa po namin yun.Pede po bang mag file ako ng child custody or pananakit sa
akin kahit matagal na po yung ngyari?. aware po ang lahat na ginagawa sa akin yun ng
asawa ko..
sana po matulungan nio ako..
July 16, 2009 11:53 AM
can no longer file the case. For example, if the violence took place in April 2004, then it can
no longer be filed today.
Seek the help of the Women and Childrens desk Officer of the nearest PNP Station in filing
a case against your husband.
Under RA 9262, you can ask the court to issue a Protection Order so that your husband can
be forced to leave your conjugal dwelling and to stay away from you and your child. Please
read my RA 9262 posts (look for the links in the sidebar). Ask the help of the DSWD in your
town or city in filing for a Protection Order under RA 9262.
July 17, 2009 9:03 AM
Anonymous said...
Hi, i would like to ask about my nieces' situation and request your help on what options we
can explore. My sister's husband has been having affairs with different women, although not
simultaneously. The recent one was exposed by the other woman herself, with photos and
friends to prove their affair. My eldest niece saw the photo and having heard her parents'
discussion over it has affected her psychologically. She verbally told her mom that it's ok if
her mom decides to kick her dad out, sensing that the issue may affect her mom's
pregnancy. To make the story short, my sister did not kick her husband out and since the
revelation she has been focusing more on her husband than the psychological effect on her
daughter (her performance in school has deteriorated and she has been telling people how
bothered she was that her dad had his arms wrapped around another woman). To make
matters worse, her husband has been feeding negative things to my niece regarding her
grandparents (my parents) and the rest of our family. He even forbids my niece from going to
my parent's house or going with my mom. We can see that my niece is getting very confused
as she is very close to my mom and she is being forbidden to be with her all of a sudden.
She has now been showing episodes of tantrums, crying violently to tell my mother she can
no longer come to visit (my mom and dad live a few houses away from my sister's house and
my mom is the one who accompanies my niece to and from the school). This is very
confusing for a child of 7 years. My sister, instead of mediating, sides with her husband and
allows him to dictate every decision in their family no matter how detrimental to their
daughter. As a backgrounder, my brother in law has been involved in and fired for
mishandling of finances in his previous jobs. Aside from womanizing, he also is a financial
burden as he even spends his children's money to buy branded clothing. Once, some people
from the barangay went to their house to collect money he owed a woman and left his wife to
face them. My niece was likewise home to witness the confrontatoin. He has been making
loans under my sister's name and spends the money for his own pleasure. All loans are
being left to my sister for settling. Is there any way that we can contest the custody of the
chid, knowing very well that the child will choose her grandmother and that both parents are
psychological not capable of protecting her? Can I or any of my other siblings file adoption
since we are all living comfortably abroad? If these options are not possible, can we request
temporary custody of my niece till her parents are cleared psychologically?
September 04, 2009 4:24 PM
traumatic situation. These are legal options which you and/or your mother should weigh very
carefully.
Your mother can try to get the child to counseling. She can try to contact Ptr. Clem Guillermo
and his wife, well-known family counselors, through their nightly radio program Heartline
aired over DZAS 702 Khz, 10:30 to 12. I think the DZAS tel. no. is 92-11-52. The program is
available on the Internet at http://www.febc.ph/stations/dzas/index.html . Ptr. Clems office is
in the Back to the Bible Building, corner of West Avenue and EDSA (opposite SM City North
EDSA).
If you prefer a psychiatrist to counsel your niece, please try to contact Dr. Randy Dellosa at
http://www.randydellosa.com/
September 07, 2009 7:58 AM
Anonymous said...
Dear Atty,
I am a single mom of an 8 month child. Is it possible to ask a support from his father even if
he's living abroad. He has the dual citizenship of Filipino and British. I just want to be fair
enough for my son since his father have 3 children in UK and Im pretty sure what my son is
receiving right now is not as what the rule says of an illegitimate children. If its possible
where will I go?
October 01, 2009 5:41 PM
Anonymous said...
Greetings Atty.
I would just like to ask, can I file a case for custody sa 2 children ko, hindi kami kasal ng
kinakasama ko and foreigner sya, since nalaman ko na may babae sya na binabahay
ngayon nakikipaghiwalay nako sa kanya pero gusto ko makuha yung custody ng dalawang
anak namin,kailangan ko lang po ng legal advice para alam ko yung hakbang nagagawin ko.
November 25, 2009 8:36 AM
Anonymous said...
Goodmorning Atty,
I just need your opinion about this. If a mother has the custody of the child and the parents
are not legally separated by court, they just distant themselves because the guy has an affair
with other girls, too many to count by they are in different places and he has another child to
one of his affairs. So he falls under Adultery/Concubinage.
When the mother had the child, she was still with the guy so in the birth certificate the "socalled" father acknowledge the child and lately the mother knew that the guy have different
affairs with other girl.
Note that they are not married and they are separated for almost 4 years.
The mother didn't accept any support coming from the guy and she raised the child with the
help of her parents and relatives.
My question is that, the child has his father's surname. The mother wants to have her
surname used by his child. What are the things needed so that the child can have the
mothers surname?
Thank you and have a good day
December 20, 2009 11:01 AM
Dutch23 said...
My partner and I have decided to separate after 3 years of living together. We are not
married and we have 2 daughters who are 3 years old and 2 years old. Both our daughters
are carrying my surname with my consent. She works for a cruise liner based in America and
this January she will be leaving again for another 10 months duty, this will be her second trip.
I work in a call center in alabang. What she wants is when she leaves again that our
daughters stay with her mother in cavite. I on the other hand would like the kids to stay with
me in paranaque while she is away. I understand that she has priority over kids since they
are below 7 years old
My question is, when she leaves, does she have the right to deny my claim as the father and
not have custody of the kids? I understand when she gets back then she has priority and I
would willingly give back the children.
And If I am unable to have custody of the kids, what are my options or rights of visitation
What are the laws on the family code that can be used to apply to our situation and what are
the laws that apply to me as a father?
Hoping for your legal advice. Thank You
Warren
January 29, 2010 5:34 PM
authority belongs to the mother. Even if your children are using your surname in their birth
certificates with your consent, they remain illegitimate. Even if your children reach seven
years of age and above, they will remain under their mothers parental authority.
Parental authority (which includes custody and the right to make all decisions regarding the
children) belongs to the mother. She can thus decide as to which person she can entrust the
children while she is away.
[2] What you have as the father has is visitation right. Please read my post on Visitation
rights over illegitimate children (look for the link in the sidebar). If you and the mother cannot
agree on the terms and conditions of the visitation, you will have to file a petition asking the
court to set such terms and conditions.
February 01, 2010 10:59 AM
How do courts determine which parent has the right of custody of the
children in legal separation, annulment or declaration of nullity?
Please read my previous posts on the issue of custody:
Can a mother be deprived of custody of her child?
Custody battles over children: what determines fitness of a parent over another?
Custody battles over children between grandparents and a father or mother
The Supreme Court Rule on Provisional Orders A.M. No. 02-11-12-SC enumerates the
procedures that our Family Court judges must follow in deciding the issue of custody in
relation to petitions for legal separation, annulment of voidable marriage or declaration of
nullity of marriage. Please take note that:
(1) This Rule became effective in 2003 or before RA 9262 Anti-Violence Against Women and Their
Children Act of 2004 became effective in 2004; and
(2) This Rule applies specifically to petitions for declaration of absolute nullity of void marriage or for
annulment of voidable marriage, or for legal separation.
RA 9262 has its own Implementing Rules and Regulations and Rule on Violence Against Women
and Their Children A.M. No. 04-10-11-SC. The speakers (active and retired Family Court judges) in
the MCLE seminars I am attending say that they also use the Rule on Provisional Orders as
especially the choice of the child over seven years of age, unless the parent chosen is unfit;
(3) to the surviving grandparent, or if there are several of them, to the grandparent chosen by the
child over seven years of age and of sufficient discernment, unless the grandparent is unfit or
disqualified;
(4) to the eldest brother or sister over twenty-one years of age, unless he or she is unfit or
disqualified;
(5) to the childs actual custodian over twenty-one years of age, unless unfit or disqualified; or
(6) to any other person deemed by the court suitable to provide proper care and guidance for the
child.
The custodian temporarily designated by the court shall give the court and the parents five days
notice of any plan to change the residence of the child or take him out of his residence for more than
three days provided it does not prejudice the visitation rights of the parents.
Section 5 of the Rule states that appropriate visitation rights shall be provided to the parent
who is not awarded provisional custody unless found unfit or disqualified by the court.
Atty laserna
Juvenile justice and welfare act
The Juvenile Justice and Welfare Council (JJWC) under the
Department of Justice has issued the implementing rules and
regulations of R.A. No. 9344, or the Juvenile Justice and Welfare
Act of 2006.
It cites Article 40 of the United Nations Convention on the Rights of
the Child, which provides that the members states have the duty to
recognize the right of every child alleged as, accused of, adjudged,
or recognized as, having infringed the penal law to be treated in a
manner consistent with the promotion of the childs sense of dignity
and worth, taking into account the childs age and desirability of
promoting his/her reintegration; that whenever appropriate and
desirable, the State shall adopt measures for dealing with such
children without resorting to judicial proceedings, providing that
human rights and legal safeguards are fully respected; that the
member states shall ensure that children are dealt with in a
manner appropriate to their well-being by providing for, among
others, a variety of disposition measures such as care, guidance and
supervision orders, counseling, probation, foster care, education
and vocational training programs and other alternatives to
institutional care.
In all cases, the law enforcement officer shall turn over the physical
custody of the child to the LSWDO within eight (8) hours from
apprehension, as required under Section 21(i) of R.A. No. 9344,
even if the law enforcement officer has not yet exhausted all
measures to determine the age of the child and even if the initial
investigation has not yet been terminated.
In the event a child whose custody is turned over by the law
enforcement officer is 15 years old or below, the LSWDO shall take
all measures to release the child to the parents or guardians, or to
any of the persons or organizations auithorized by R.A. No. 9344,
and proceed with the development of appropriate programs as
provided by the said law.
From the time he/she takes custody of the child in conflict with the
law, the law enforcement officer shall handle the case of the child
with utmost confidentiality. Particularly, the law enforcement officer
shall:
(a) Use a system of coding that provides aliases for children taken
into custody;
(b) Maintain a separate logbook for children in conflict with the law;
(c) Exclude the public, particularly the media, from the area where
the child is being held in custody pursuant to Section 43 of the Act;
(d) Not provide any detail or information to the public, particularly
the media, that shall lead to the identity of the child;
(e) Keep the results of the medical examination confidential; and
(f) Mark the records of the child and the report on the initial
investigation as confidential.
(c) Abused when upon the evaluation of the LSWDO, the child is
found to be maltreated, whether habitual or not, as defined in
Section 3(b) of Republic Act No. 7610, or the Special Protection of
Children Against Abuse, Exploitation and Discrimination Act [R.A.
7610].
The filing of the petition for involuntary commitment shall be done
in accordance with the provisions of Title VIII, Chapter 1 of P.D. 603
and the SC Rule on Commitment of Children.
The child in conflict with the law who is above fifteen (15) but below
eighteen (18) years of age shall be exempt from criminal
responsibility, unless he/she acted with discernment. Being exempt,
the child shall be dealt with in the same manner as a child who is
victimless crime where the imposable penalty is not more than six
(6) years of imprisonment, as provided under Rule 26(2)(b).
The LSWDO shall meet with the child and his/her parents or
guardians for the development of the appropriate diversion and
rehabilitation program, in coordination with the BCPC.
Under Rule 46, where the imposable penalty for the crime
committed exceeds six (6) years imprisonment, diversion measures
may be resorted to only by the court and will proceed in accordance
with the SC Rules on Juveniles in Conflict with the Law.
Per Rule 47, the authority conducting the diversion proceedings
shall:
(1) Explain to the child and his/her family the objective of the
diversion proceedings, the value of diversion and the consequence
of not undergoing diversion.
(2) Ask the child of the circumstances of the offense, the motives or
purpose of the offense and the factors that led the child to commit
the offense.
(3) Ask the child of his/her personal circumstance including his/her
parents and family, his/her peers and educational status.
(4) Make the child in conflict with the law understand the
consequences of his/her actions and the corresponding
responsibilities.
(5) Ensure that the child understands and realizes his/her
accountability, be remorseful of his/her actions and takes on the
responsibility in repairing the harm done in lieu of filing a formal
case in the court.
The authority conducting the diversion proceedings shall also
determine if diversion is appropriate and desirable based on the
Where the maximum penalty imposed by law for the offense with
which the child in conflict with the law is charged is imprisonment of
not more than twelve (12) years, regardless of the fine or fine alone
regardless of the amount, and before arraignment of the child in
conflict with the law, the court shall, pursuant to the SC Rules on
Juveniles in Conflict with the Law, determine whether or not
diversion is appropriate. (Rule 60).
Under Rule 61, children detained pending trial may be released on
bail or recognizance as provided for under Sections 34 and 35 of the
Act. In all other cases and whenever possible, detention pending
trial may be replaced by alternative measures, such as close
supervision, intensive care or placement with a family or in an
educational setting or home. Institutionalization or detention of the
child pending trial shall be used only as a measure of last resort and
for the shortest possible period of time.
Per Rule 63, where a child is detained, the court shall order the:
(a) release of the minor on recognizance to his parents and other
suitable persons;
(b) release of the child in conflict with the law on bail; or
(c) transfer of the minor to a youth detention home/youth
rehabilitation center.
The court shall not order the detention of a child in a jail pending
trial or hearing of his/her case.
Whenever detention is necessary, a child will always be detained in
youth detention homes established by local governments, pursuant
to Section 8 of the Family Courts Act, in the city or municipality
where the child resides.
In the absence of a youth detention home, the child in conflict with
the law may be committed to the care of the DSWD or a local
rehabilitation center recognized by the government in the province,
city or municipality within the jurisdiction of the court. The center or