The Sexual Liberals and The Attack On Feminism
The Sexual Liberals and The Attack On Feminism
The Sexual Liberals and The Attack On Feminism
General Editors
Gloria Bowles
Renate Klein
Janice Raymond
Consulting Editor
Dale Spender
The Athene Series assumes that all those who are concerned with formulating
explanations of the way the world works need to know and appreciate the
significance of basic feminist principles.
The growth of feminist research has challenged almost all aspects of social
organization in our culture. The Athene Series focuses on the construction of
knowledge arid the exclusion of women from the process both as theorists
and subjects of study and offers innovative studies that challenge established
theories and research.
On Athene When Metis, goddess of wisdom who presided over all
knowledge was pregnant with Athene, she was swallowed up by Zeus who
then gave birth to Athene from his head. The original Athene is thus the
parthenogenetic daughter of a strong mother and as the feminist myth goes,
at the third birth of Athene she stops being Zeus obedient mouthpiece and
returns to her real source: the science and wisdom of womankind.
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Contents
Acknowledgments
Introduction, Dorchen Leidholdt
Part I: Feminism and Liberalism
Liberalism and the Death of Feminism, Catharine A. MacKinnon
Sexology and Antifeminism, Sheila Jeffreys
Woman-Hating Right and Left, Andrea Dworkin
Part II: Family Structures: The Patriarch and the Pimp
Making an Issue of Incest, Louise Armstrong
Taking Our Eyes Off the Guys, Sonia Johnson
Family Matters, Ann Jones
Confronting the Liberal Lies About Prostitution, Evelina Giobbe
Part III: The New Reproductive Liberalism
The New Reproductive Technologies, Gena Corea
Mothers on Trial: .Custody and the "Baby M" Case,
Phyllis Chesler
Sexual and Reproductive Liberalism, Janice G. Raymond
In the Best Interest of the Sperm: The Pregnancy of Judge
Sorkow, Pauline B. Bart
Abortion and Pornography: The Sexual Liberals' "Gotcha"
Against Women's Equality, Twiss Butler
Part IV: Sexuality
When Women Defend Pornography, Dorchen Leidholdt
Eroticizing Women's Subordination, Sheila Jeffreys
Resistance, Andrea Dworkin
Sex Resistance in Heterosexual Arrangements, A Southern
Women's Writing Collective
Toward a Feminist Praxis of Sexuality, Wendy Stock
Sexual Liberalism and Survivors of Sexual Abuse, Valerie Heller
Part V: The Male Backlash
The Many Faces of Backlash, Florence Rush
Liberals, Libertarianism, and the Liberal Arts Establishment,
Susanne Kappeler
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Acknowledgments
Without the help of many individuals and organizations, this book and
the conference that gave birth to it would not have been possible. First
of all, we would like to express our deepest appreciation to the dedi
cated activists who helped organize the conference: Dolores Alexander,
Sue Batkin, Jillouise Breslauer, Zesara Chan, Michael Christian, Amy
Elman, Evelina Giobbe-Kane, Ralph Hummel, Annie McCombs, Maura
Maguire, Kristen Reilly, Leslie Rimmel, Evelyn Rivera Radinson, Norma
Ramos, David Satz, and Dorothy Teer. Lorelei Pettigrew, Catharine
MacKinnon, and Twiss Butler provided invaluable advice during the
planning of the conference. Lettie Cottin Pogrebin and Gloria Steinem
together gave a statement and show of support that heartened both
the organizers and the audience. New York University Law School's
Law Women deserve a vote of thanks for their sponsorship, as does
the NYU Law School administration for providing funding for sign lan
guage interpreters. Words are inadequate to express our gratitude to
the individuals and - foundations who provided necessary moral and
financial support: Laura Lederer and the L. J. Skaggs and Mary C. Skaggs
Foundation, the Butler Family Foundation, and Helen Hauben and the
Joe and Emily Lowe Foundation. Finally, our thanks to Susan Matula,
who painstakingly typed and edited the transcripts of the conference
presentations.
Introduction
Dorchen Leidholdt
Most of the essays in this volume began as speeches and panel presen
tations at a conference that, although all but ignored by the main
stream media, reverberated throughout the women's movement. On
April 6, 1987, eight hundred people packed an auditorium at New York
University Law School, while hundreds more sat riveted to television
monitors outside. They came to hear many of the major feminist writ
ers, thinkers, and leaders address an ideology and a program that, they
asserted, was undermining feminism in the guise of being its best friend.
The subject of the conference was liberalism or, to use British fem
inist historian Sheila Jeffreys' more precise terminology, "sexual liber
alism": a set of political beliefs and practices rooted in the assumption
that sexual expression is inherently liberating and must be permitted
to flourish unchecked, even when it entails the exploitation or brutali
zation of others.1 To sexual liberals, sexuality is not a construct of cul
ture that reflects and reinforces a culture's values including its deval
uation of women, as feminists contend, but an icon of nature, so fragile
that any analysis, criticism, or attempt at change threatens not only the
existence of human sexuality but everyone's freedom.
Conflict between feminists and sexual liberals is nothing new. In
deed, the two groups have been at odds from the beginning of the
second wave of feminism in the 1960s, if not before. The early con
sciousness-raising groups and the activism and publications they gen
erated squarely confronted the sexual attitudes and mores of liberal
and left-wing men. In Notes from the First Year, for example, a collection
of essays published by New York Radical Women in 1968, Shulamith
Firestone identified and then dissected what she called "the seeming
freedoms" for women championed by so-called progressive men. At
the top of her list was sexuality:
1The title of the conference and this volume "The Sexual Liberals and the Attack on
Feminism"is the inspiration of Sheila Jeffreys.
As for sex itself, I would argue that any changes were as a result of male
interests and not female. . . . A relaxing of mores concerning female
sexual behavior was to his advantage; there was a greater sexual supply
at a lower or nonexistent cost. But his attitudes haven't changed much.2
kin, Phyllis Chesler, Florence Rush, and other feminist writers, became
so enraged at the feminist presentations that he began stamping his
feet and waving his arms in what could only be described as a temper
tantrum. Clearly it was not state sanctions against pornography that
incurred his wrath but mere feminist speech against pornography. The
inescapable conclusion was that continued access to pornography was
a cherished privilege of many civil libertarian men.
In the mid-1980s there were two developments that prompted sex
ual liberals to step up their attacks against feminists. The first was an
amendment to a municipal human rights ordinance that defined por
nography as a practice of sex discrimination and gave women injured
in its production and dissemination a cause of action to sue pornogra
phers. The ordinance, authored by Catharine MacKinnon and Andrea
Dworkin, represented a significant break with legal tradition. Unlike
antiobscenity laws that frame the harm of pornography in moralistic
and aesthetic terms, as the offense that pictures and words that arouse
some people's prurient interests do to other people's sensibilities, the
ordinance identified pornography's harm in feminist political terms, as
its damage to the status and safety of women. Unlike antiobscenity
laws, which empower the state's prosecutors to bring criminal charges
against alleged purveyors of obscene materials, the feminist ordinance
empowered individual women to file civil suits against traffickers in
pornography.
The civil rights antipornography ordinance was twice passed by the
Minneapolis City Council, only to be vetoed each time by its civil lib
ertarian mayor. A slightly altered version was approved by the Indi
anapolis City Council and signed into law by that city's mayor. Before
a single suit could be brought under the ordinance, it was challenged
on overbreadth grounds by the Media Coalition in conjunction with
American Booksellers Association and the ACLU. Playboy lent the ser
vices of its legal counsel and flooded local legislators with letters de
nouncing the feminist law.
The ordinance was eventually held to be unconstitutional by a con
servative district court judge, a decision affirmed by a conservative cir
cuit court panel. The truth of the matter was that the feminist law flew
in the face of both liberal and conservative legal traditions and so was
attacked by forces on both ends of the male-dominated political spec
trum. Moreover, many conservatives are sexual liberals. Fundamental
ist Marabel Morgan's best-selling The Total Woman, which attempted to
indoctrinate women into sexual submission, pomography-style, was no
aberration of conservatism, and two of the three most popular pornog
raphy magazinesHustler and Penthouseare published by arch-con
servatives and aimed at politically reactionary audiences.
Political reality notwithstanding, sexual liberals floated the rumor that
This was the political backdrop of the conference, although battleground may be the more accurate term. The feelings of excitement and
exhilaration that swept the audience no doubt stemmed from the real
ization that feminists had weathered the attacks leveled by far more
powerful opponents, that they were still fighting sexual exploitation,
and that they at long last had an opportunity to tell the truth about
who they were and what they were up against, in their own language
and on their own terms. The speakers were angry and witty and in
spiring. They had survived pimps and Mormon patriarchs, censorship
in the name of freedom of speech, and coercion in the guise of freedom
of choice. Their characters had been vilified and their words distorted,
but they were still therewith more clarity, commitment, and courage
than ever before.
Part I
FEMINISM AND
LIBERALISM
Once there was a women's movement. I first heard about it from the
liberated issue of Rat, which Robin Morgan and a collective of intrepid
women put together by taking over an underground newspaper on
which they had worked. What I learned from liberated Rat was that
something that excluded women from equal participation, that deni
grated women's voice, that silenced women's contribution, that did not
take women seriously, that patronized women, that no matter what
else that something did or didn't do, it had to be publicly repudiated
at minimum, and at best taken over and transformed. I did not hear at
that time that feminists had censored Rat, although no doubt some
people thought so. To me, it was speech.
Then, there was a women's movement that criticized as socially based
not natural or God-given or even descended from Congress acts like
rape as male violence against women, as a form of sexual terrorism. It
criticized war as male ejaculation. It criticized marriage and the family
as institutional crucibles of male privilege, and the vaginal orgasm as a
mass hysterical survival response. It criticized definitions of merit as
implicitly sex biased, class biased, and race biased. It even criticized
fairy tales.
When this movement criticized rape, it meant rapists and the point
of view that saw rape as sex. When it criticized prostitution, it meant
pimps and johns and the point of view that women are bom to sell
sex. When it criticized incest, it meant those who did it to us, and the
point of view that made our vulnerability and enforced silence sexy.
When it criticized battery, it meant batterers, and the point of view that
violence expressed the intensity of love. Nobody thought that in criti
cizing these practices, the movement was criticizing their victims.
It also criticized sacred concepts from the standpoint of women's
Copyright 1990, Catharine A. MacKinnon.
This was also a movement that demonstrated against the Miss America
Pageant and Snuff and understood the connection between the two. It
understood that sexual objectification as use and sexual objectification
as abuse are two facets of the same problem, that the logic of both is
making a person into a sexual thing. Miss America is the foreplay,
turning a woman into a plaything. Snuff is the consummation, turning
a woman into a corpse.
This was a movement that defaced objectifying posters. It marched,
it petitioned, it organized, it hexed Wall Street and levitated the Pen
tagon, it sued, it used whatever it could get its hands on. In the words
of Monique Wittig, failing that, it invented.
Why did we do all of this? We did it, I think, because we were a
movement that valued women. Women mattered. We were not defen
sive about it. When women were hurt, this movement defended them.
Individually and in groups, it organized and started shelters and groups
of and for all women: battered women, incest survivors, prostitutes.
We did this not because those women were thought "bad" by society
or considered outlaws or shunned. We did it because what was done
to them was a systematic act of power against each one of us, although
they were taking the brunt of it. This was not a sentimental identifica
tion. We knew that whatever could be done to them could be, was
being, would be done to us. We were them, also.
This was a movement that took women's side in everything. Of
everything, it asked the question: "Is it good for women?" Each woman
was all women in sbme way. Any woman who was violated was our
priority. It was a deeply collectivist movement. In this movement, when
we said "women, w e," it had content. It didn't mean that we all had
to be the same in order to be part of this common condition. That, in
fact, was the genius, one of the unique contributions of this movement:
it premised unity as much on diversity as on commonality. It did not
assume that commonality meant sameness.
This was a movement in which people understood the need to act
with courage in everyday life, that feminism was not a better deal or a
riskless guarantee but a discipline of a hostile reality. To say that the
personal was political meant, among other things, that what we do
every day matters. It meant you become what you do not resist. The
personal and everyday was understood to be part of the political order
we organized to change, part of our political agenda. To see the per
sonal as the political did not mean that what turns you on grounds the
policies you promote.
We also felt and understood, I think, a responsibility to all women.
We opposed women's invisibility, insisted on women's dignity, ques
tioned everything that advanced itself at women's expense. Most of all,
with this statistical disparity because women choose jobs which pay
less because they are women.6
So you have a large pile of men at the top and a large pile of women
at the bottom and the question is, which of the two theories best ex
plains that: the theory that says women are the same as men or the
theory that says women are different from men? Obviously the latter
theory does, especially if you believe that women do what they want
to do, and are free to want anything. Even then, the women's move
ment was fairly clear that Sears' position, even in the mouth of a fem
inist, justified an oppressive status quo which kept some women on
the bottom, and it was perverse to do this in the name of feminism.
Then it became a good day to go back to bed if bed is a safe place
for you the day we were told by feminist groups that guaranteeing
maternity leave to women is a form of sex discrimination, and a statute
that does this violates Title VII of the Civil Rights Act. No feminist
group that filed a brief in the Supreme Court case on the subject said
that it was sex discrimination not to give women maternity leave. No
one said that if Title VII required maternity leave be denied to women,
that would be sex discrimination under the Constitution. Nobody said
squarely that if all the people hurt by this deprivation are women, that
makes it discrimination on the basis of sex.
Actually, the Supreme Court figured this out all by itself, better than
any brief from any women's group did. The Supreme Court said essen
tially that granting maternity leaves by law is not sex discrimination, it
is sex equality. Women getting what they need to work is what sex
equality means. The decision, I might add, was written by Justice
Thurgood Marshall, a Black man.7 Once he did it, some feminist groups
cheered and took credit for what they had opposed.
Then there was the debate over sadomasochism. If it had escaped
you before, it was hard to miss this breakdown in what the women's
movement had meant. The part I want to highlight has to do with our
ability to say the word "w e" in discussions of sexuality, including of
sexual abuse, and to have it mean anything. It seems to me that the
advocacy of sadomasochism as women's first love, women's final des
tiny, what we would all do if we really did what we wanted, is based
on the absence of a critique of why women would experience sexuality
in exactly the way in which it has been shoved down our throats since
day one: top down. Actually, women have largely rejected the politics
6Written Testimony of Alice Kessler-Harris before the United States District Court for the
Northern District of Illinois in EEOC v. Sears, Roebuck & Co., 504 F.Supp. 241 (N.D. 111.
1988).
7California Federal Savings & Loan, et al. v. Guerra, 479 U.S. 272 (1987).
law to make acts against women actionable acts like coercion, force,
assault, trafficking in our flesh. Pornography, they said, is sex equality.
Women should just have better access to it. Using the debased model
of equality-as-sameness that the women's movement we used to know
was predicated on criticizing, they argued that pornography must not
be actionable by its victims because, among other reasons, "the range
of feminist imagination and expression in the realm of sexuality has
barely begun to find voice. Women need the freedom and socially rec
ognized space to appropriate for themselves the robustness of what
traditionally has been male language."10 Men have it; FACT women
want it. Thus, "even pornography which is problematic for women can
be experienced as affirming of women's desires and of women's
equality" n (emphasis added). This is a subquote from Ellen Willis in
the brief, "Pornography can be psychic assault," get it, that rape only
happened in your head "but for women, as for men, it can also be a
source of erotic pleasure. . . . A woman who enjoys pornography, even
if that means enjoying a rape fantasy, is, in a sense, a rebel." From
what is she rebelling? Their answer: "Insisting on an aspect of her sex
uality that has been defined as a male preserve."12 Now who can't tell
the difference between rape and sex? Rape has been a male preserve.
But to insist on being defined by what one has been forced to be de
fined by is, to say the least, a rather limited notion of freedom. And
choice. And a women's movement that aspires to inhabit rapist pre
serves is not a women's movement I want any part of.
Equality in the FACT brief means equal access to pornography by
women. That is, equal access by women to the population of women
who must be treated in the ways that the ordinance makes actionable,
so that pornography of them can be available. The FACT brief further
objects that the ordinance "makes socially invisible women who find
sexually explicit images of women in positions of display or penetrated
by objects to be erotic, liberating, or educational."13 In other words, an
entire population of women must continue to be treated in the ways
the ordinance makes actionable so that this other population of women
can experience its eroticism, liberation, or education at their expense.
The FACT brief was critical of the politics of the ordinance for im
plying that in a society of sex inequality where sex is what women
have to sell, sex is what we are, sex is what we are valued for, we are
born sex, we die sex that if we don't choose all of that, if we don't
10Ibid. at 121.
11Ibid.
12Ibid.
13Ibid. at 129.
tion largely on its own. You know, it is an incredible insult when the
state does sex equality better than the women's movement does it. We
would have lost statutory maternity leave if this feminism had its way.
And pornography has been saved.
Liberalism makes these results necessary, in part because it cannot
look at sexual misogyny. This is because misogyny is sexual. To be
clear, it is sexual on the left, it is sexual on the right, it is sexual to
liberals, and it is sexual to conservatives. As a result, sexuality, as so
cially organized, is deeply misogynist. To male dominance, of which
liberalism is the current ruling ideology, the sexual misogyny that is
fundamental to all these problems cannot be seen as a sex equality
issue because sexuality is premised on sex inequality. Equality law can
not apply to sexuality because equality is not sexy and inequality is.
Equality cannot apply to sexuality because sexuality occurs in private
and nothing is supposed to interfere in the private, however unequal
it is. And equality cannot be more important than speech because sex
ual expression is sex and unequal sex is something men want to say.
Having said that, here we are in this room there are more people
at this conference than it took Bolsheviks to topple the czar. You make
me begin to believe that we may have a women's movement to get
back. In your workshops, perhaps you could think about ways the
ordinance is one, we know others, and there are many waiting to be
discovered to mobilize women's sex-based physical and economic in
security, women's vulnerability and desperation, not to be defeated by
women's sex-based personal indignity, women's boredom, and wom
en's despair. Think about how to change women's fear, so that fear is
no longer the most rational emotion we feel, how to transform wom
en's invisibility and exhaustion and silence and self-hate. If we loosed
all of that, what could stand against it? Also, think about how, against
all odds, against history, against all the evidence, we can create in
vent a sex-based hope.
This was called foreplay, and Ellis is regarded as having invented it.
It's an amazing concept of sex, but do you know any sex education
book not based upon it?
Before we leave Havelock Ellis, I would like to say something about
his sexual proclivities. I think it is very important that we understand
these male sexologists in depth. I think it's important to us to under
stand what they were really interested in. Havelock Ellis has taught,
through his influence on a hundred years of sex advice books, how
sexual intercourse was to be carried out, what men were to do, and
what women were to experience during that act. As far as we know,
he virtually never, if ever, engaged in that act himself. Now this is not
unusual. This is typical for the sexologists of the twentieth century. If
you go into their biographies you discover that they never did what
they said everybody should do.
Havelock Ellis's favorite sexual practice was urolagnia watching
women urinate. He got women to visit him and he got them to go into
a room and urinate into a potty with the door open so that he could
hear, if not exactly see, what they were doing. He got some quite wellknown women and sex reformers to do this for him. We are fortunate
that he left us a record of his feelings about this sexual practice: he
wrote poetry about it. Since he is considered a great thinker and the
father of sex advice literature, his poetry has got to be worth recording.
It goes like this:
My lady once leapt from the bed,
Whereon she naked lay beside my heart.
And stood with perfect poise, straight legs apart,
And then from clustered hair of brownish red,
A wondrous fountain curve, all shyness fled,
Arched like a liquid rainbow in the air,
She cares not, she, what other women care,
But gazed as it fell and faltered and was shed.
(Eric Trudgill, 1976)
You may have thought that there was something odd about this
description, something that did not accord with what you know about
women's biology. There are not many women who have fountain curves
and rainbows. I think that it would indicate to us that it was not women
urinating that Ellis was really interested in.
Another so-called sign of Ellis's progressiveness is that he advocated
women's right to sexual pleasure. He wrote an article called "Women's
Erotic Rights," in which he stated that women both could and should
have sexual pleasure (Havelock Ellis, 1913). You can imagine, consid
ering what is supposed to have been the benighted state of sexual prac
tice in the nineteenth century, that quite a lot of people reading this
article today would see it as enormously progressive. It is important to
look at Ellis's concept of sexual pleasure.
THE CONCEPT OF
SEXUAL PLEASURE
It is generally accepted as truth that sexologists, sex reformers, and
sex therapists of the twentieth century have strived to ensure that women
enjoy the act of sexual intercourse. For this reason women have some
times mistakenly seen the industry of sex therapy as being in women's
interests. This misperception has prevented some from taking a critical
look at the industry.
It is very unfortunate that we do not have a word in our language
which would allow us to talk about sexual response, sexual feeling,
that is not positive. The only word we have is pleasure. Therefore,
there is an assumption running through sexual libertarian literature and
through the general understanding of sex that any kind of sexual re
sponse or feeling is somehow positive. This linguistic shortcoming leads
to considerable confusion. We desperately need and will, I hope, soon
acquire a word that will allow us to describe sexual feeling that is not
positive, not in our interest. Such a word would need to sum up the
feelings of humiliation and betrayal, the totally negative feelings that
women often have when we experience this thing called sexual arousal.
These negative feelings are associated with sexual arousal arising from
literature, pictorials, acts, experiences, and fantasies that are forced on
us, that are humiliating to us, that degrade us.
In "Seeking Ecstasy on the Battlefield," Gordon and Dubois provide
an example of the problems that arise from having a one-dimensional
notion of "sexual pleasure." They state that middle-class women in the
late nineteenth century were resisting the patriarchy in a very positive
way (Ellen Carol Dubois and Linda Gordon, 1984). How do we know
this? Well, it is because a lot of them apparently had orgasms. Forty
percent, according to one survey, had orgasms occasionally; 20 per
cent frequently. This Gordon and Dubois saw as wonderfully revolu
tionary.
These middle-class women were in relationships which were unregenerately patriarchal, in which men had all the power. These women
were probably simply being used as spittoons in the act of sexual in
tercourse. Was orgasm in such a situation something positive, empow
1986)
You will not, of course, find sexual advice to men telling them to sur
render themselves to themselves or indeed to nature in sexual inter
course. If they did so, sex as we know it would probably disappear. I
think it would be a good idea if men started surrendering themselves
to themselves every so often.
What this demonstrates is that the message of the sexual libertarians
has gotten into feminist culture. Even within the feminist movement,
women are encouraged to be complicit in their own oppression by be
coming consumers of pornography, by engaging in sadomasochistic
practices, by eroticizing their own oppression.
A hundred years of sexology has told us that when women learn to
take pleasure in submission in sex, we will be subordinating ourselves
in our lives as a whole. In this respect, the sexologists knew their busi
ness. And their business was to ensure that women were undermined,
unable to fight their oppression. Today the sexual liberals who are
fighting feminist activists, who see themselves as being in the progres
sive pro-sex and anticensorship lobbies, are continuing the sexologists'
work. Through eroticizing our subordination in the name of "sexual
liberation," they shore up the foundations of male supremacy.
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Woman-Hating
Right and Left
Andrea Dworkin
It's been a long time since we've come together to say what we mean
by feminism and why the struggle for women's freedom matters to us
enough that we devote our lives to it: not three hours on Saturday
afternoon; not an occasional letter here and there; not an outraged "Oh,
my God, you don't mean that!" We actually don't think our lives are
trivial. Imagine. And we don't think the crimes committed against us
are minor and insignificant. And that means we have made phenome
nal progress in understanding that we are human beings who have
rights on this earth; that nobody can take those rights away from us;
and that we have been injured by the systematic subordination of
women, by the systematic sexual abuse we have been exposed to. And
we are politically organized to fight back and to change the society in
which we live from the ground up.
I think as feminists we have a way of looking at problems that other
people appear not to understand. To name names, the right and the
left appear not to understand what it is that feminists are trying to do.
Feminists are trying to destroy a sex hierarchy, a race hierarchy, an
economic hierarchy, in which women are hurt, are disempowered, and
in which society celebrates cruelty over us and refuses us the integrity
of our own bodies and the dignity of our own lives.
Now, that's not a problem that the left has decided must be solved.
You may have noticed. And that is not a problem that the right thinks
is any problem. The right hasn't gotten to the point of saying the prob
lem is not important yet as the left has, because the left is always
avant-garde. Since the left is avant-garde, it can be out there in front
saying, "Well, yes, we understand the problem. It just isn't particularly
important." The right, being the dinosaurs, just say there is no prob
lem. And we're supposed to pick between them.
So feminists look at the society we live in and try to understand how
Copyright 1987, 1990, Andrea Dworkin.
we are going to fight male power. And in order to try to figure out
how we're going to fight it, we have to figure out how it's organized,
how it works. How does it survive? How does it work itself out? How
does it maintain itself as a system of power?
In the course of looking at male power, at all the institutions of male
power, trying to understand how they work you know, it's like put
ting sand in their gas tanks; we've got to stop them from working. So
we try to figure out how we can do that.
We have to look at the role of the right in upholding male power
over women and we have to look at the role of the left in upholding
male power over women: not at what they say but at what they do.
And so we have to go beyond the reality they present to us when they
say, as they often do, one way or another: "Little girls, we know what's
good for you. We are acting in your best interests." The right wing will
promise you a husband whom yes, it's true, you have to obey him,
but then he has to love you for doing it, for obeying him. Now, there
are circumstances like the ones we live under in which for a lot of
women that's not a bad offer. Because you cut down the number of
men you have to listen to by several million.
And the left says and they think this is a good deal they say
also: "Little girls" unless they are being particularly politically pro
gressive at the moment, in which case they can sometimes say "big
cunts," because that's their idea of freedom they address us in
whichever tone of voice they are using at the moment, and they say to
us "Well, what we'll do is that we will allow you to have an abortion
right as long as you remain sexually accessible to us. And if you with
draw that accessibility and start talking this crap about an autonomous
women's movement, we will collapse any support that we have ever
given you: monetary, political, social, anything we have ever given you
for the right to abortion. Because if your abortion right is not going to
mean sexual accessibility for us, girls, you can't have it." And that's
what they've been doing to us for the last fifteen years.
So feminists come along, and we say: Well, we are going to under
stand how it is that these people do what they do. We are going to
approach the problem politically. That means that we are going to try
to isolate and describe systems of exploitation as they work on us, from
our point of view as the people who are being hurt by them. It means
that even though we're on the bottom and they're on the top, we are
examining them for points of vulnerability. And as we find those points
of vulnerability and you might locate them anatomically, as well as
any other way we are going to move whatever muscles we have,
from whatever positions we are in, and we are going to get that bas
tard in his collective manifestation off of us.
And that means we are politically organizing a resistance to male
your best friends whom you don't want anything to do with any more.
It doesn't matter who the individual women are. They all have the
same vulnerability to rape, to battery, as children to incest. Poorer
women have more vulnerability to prostitution, which is basically a
form of sexual exploitation that is intolerable in an egalitarian society,
which is the society we are fighting for.
Part of what we have to do in this resistance I'm talking about is to
refuse to collaborate with male power. Refuse to be used by it. Refuse
to be its chicks up front. Refuse to collaborate with it to make our lives
a little bit easier. Refuse to collaborate with it even though that's really
how you get a platform to speak in this society. A ventriloquist could
be moving your mouth if you're a woman who is fronting for male
power. You are not working in behalf of your sisters. You're working
for the boys. And you're making it easier for them to hurt other women.
It's very hard not to collaborate with male power because male power
is ubiquitous. It is everywhere.
Part of having a feminist resistance to male power includes expand
ing the base of that resistance to other women, to women you have
less in common with, to women you have nothing in common with. It
means active, proselytizing dialogue with women of many different
political viewpoints because their lives are worth what your life is worth.
That's why.
We have to go past the conventional political barriers, the lines that
the men have drawn for us. "Our girls are over there; we'll call them
Democrats, we'll call them socialists, we'll call them whatever we want
to call them. Those girls are over there; that's their girls. The girls on
our side aren't allowed to talk to the girls on their side." Well, if the
girls on either side talked to the girls on the other side, they just might
find out that they're being screwed the same way by the same kinds
of men.
And so when we look at women's real experience which is what
feminists do that neither the right nor the left does what do we find?
We find that women all over the political spectrum, whatever their
ideologies, are raped and that women experience battery, in marriage
and out of marriage. We find that a huge number of adult women have
been incest victims even as the current rate of incest is growing in this
country. Right now, experts believe there are 16,000 new cases of fa
ther/daughter incest which is only one kind of incest every year.
Women's real experience includes prostitution, and women's real
experience includes pornography. And when we look at women's real
experience and when we don't accept the pabulum that we're being
fed by the boys from both sides who are telling us what to think and
what our lives really are what we find, for instance, when we look
at the pornography, is that we can trace its use in sexual abuse back
generations. We can take generations of women: girl, young woman,
mother, grandmother. The pornography did not have to be all over the
streets to be a functioning part of the sexual abuse of women in this
society. I'm only reminding you of what you already know, which is
that most sexual abuse of women takes place in private. It takes place,
really, where we can't see it. And the astonishing achievement of the
women's movement was to say: "We no longer respect your privacy,
rapist."
Women are isolated in their homes. This is not to say that women
can't go out; women can go out. But the things that happen to women
mostly happen in the home. The home is the most dangerous place for
women in this society. More women are killed in their homes than
anywhere else. A woman is battered in this country a woman mar
ried or cohabiting every eighteen seconds. The home is a dangerous
place for women.
And before the women's movement, the women who were raped,
the women who were beaten, didn't know that anybody else was. It
only happened to her alone in all the world. Why? Because of some
thing she did; because of something she was; because of something
she did wrong; because she was bad in some way. The problem the
violence was effectively hidden by male supremacy. The fact was that
you could go down a block in a city and find massive numbers of women
who had had precisely the same experiences of violence by men against
them for precisely the same reason. And the reason there is really
only one reason is that they're women. That's it. They're women.
The society is organized not just to punish women but to protect the
men who punish women. And that's what we are trying to change.
Now, in terms of dealing with the right and the left and woman
hating, I want to talk to you especially about pornography and some
of the strategies around pornography where the right and the left coa
lesce to keep the pornography safe, to keep women subordinated
through the pornography, and to keep the sexual abuse that pornog
raphy does cause cause protected and safe as well.
Pornography existed in the home and was used in sexual abuse.
Pornography was available to men in men-only groups. Many of us
growing up if we're forty or fifty we didn't see pornography. It
didn't saturate the environment the way it does now. As a result, there
was always a missing piece when later as feminists we tried to under
stand sexual abuse. There was never any way of understanding how
all these rapist values and ways of abusing women got communicated
or how all the rationales for the abuse got communicated. How did
men learn them? They didn't just fall out of the sky; we don't think
they did. I guess some people think they did. Down with the Ten
Commandments they came. This is the way you hit her. This is the
way you tie her up.
But we don't think it's like that. So: we have women as private
property, owned by men, in houses, isolated. And then to deal with
what is called the pornography problem we have something called ob
scenity laws. And what obscenity laws do when they work in a society
is that they hide the pornography from women and children. They
keep us from seeing it. They don't keep it from being used on us by
men in sexual abuse. The men can get it and use it. But we don't get
to see it, to talk about it, to organize around it, to learn everything that
we can learn about how male supremacy works from it. We don't get
to do that.
One of the ways the social structure has protected male supremacy
has been the right-wing strategy of using obscenity laws to keep por
nography a secret from women but to keep it available to men, to men
as individuals, to all-male groups.
We have this strange notion that surfaces in the women's movement
now and then it's a great trivialization of our lives; it's also wrong
that there is a division of women in the world that is phenomenologically real into good women and bad women. And we have some very
proud leftist women who want to be recognized as, perceived as, and
considered bad. Baaad. Now, the reality is that you can do everything
in the world to be a good woman in this society but when you are in
the private house with the private husband whom you've attracted
through your conformity to being what is on the surface a good woman,
when that man starts hitting you, he hits you because you're bad. And
the underlying premise of this society is that all women are bad, that
we have a nature that's bad and we deserve to be punished. And you
can be the baaadest woman on the left which means being a good
woman from the point of view of the left and when the leftie starts
hitting you, he hits you because you're a woman, because you're bad
the way a woman is bad, not the way a leftist is bad; you're bad be
cause you're a woman and you deserve to be punished.
You can look at the way that is manifested in institutions. I ask you
to consider it in relation to pornography, because in pornography there
is nothing that can be done to a woman that can punish her enough
for being a woman. And the very nature of her being is that she gets
sexual pleasure out of being punished. You don't have to ask to be a
bad girl. You live under male supremacy; you are one. You are a woman;
what is hateful in you in you, defining you is the reason that men
have for hurting you. It's the reason that they don't say: "I'm hitting a
human being, and I'm hurting that human being." They say: "I'm pun
ishing a bitch. I'm punishing a whore." They say what the pornogra
phy says: "You really like it, don't you. There's something in you that
really . . . it really satisfies."
And then when you go for help, thinking you're an individual per
son who does not like to be hurt, the psychologist says, "There's some
thing in you that really liked it, isn't there?" You say: "Gosh, no. I
don't think so." And he tells you: "Well, you're not being honest and
you certainly don't know yourself very well." And you go to your yogi,
and he's liable to tell you the same thing. It's a little discouraging, isn't
it? Even the vegetable people believe that if you're a woman, you're
bad.
We're supposed to have this nature that craves abuse. Pornography
is about punishing us to the point of annihilation for being women and
both the right and the left have a role to play in protecting pornogra
phy. They act in concert to make sure we get punished. This public
fight they're always having, from our point of view and for our pur
poses, is a diversion. They each do their part to keep us down. And
the important thing is to understand what their part is.
What happens around obscenity laws is that the right-wing judges
these authoritarian people who supposedly hate pornography more
than they hate anything in the world (believe that and I have swamp
land I want to sell you) have established the legal formula that pro
tects pornography. In defining obscenity, they have established the
formula the pornographers use to protect legally the material they pub
lish. The Supreme Court says: "Do it this way, this way, and this way.
As long as you have this, and this, and this, we won't touch you."
That's what all those obscenity decisions say.
And then we have our wonderful, left-wing, avant-garde writers who
join in and say: "Fine and I'll provide the socially redeeming material
so that you can meet the standards of the formula that the right-wing
men have given you." And occasionally a right-wing writer does it too.
William Buckley or somebody like that. He doesn't turn down the
money. Feminists turn down the money. People who don't turn down
the money aren't feminists.
So you have this extraordinary social agreement between the right
and the left who act as if they're fighting all the time that in fact
they can put any amount of woman-hating exploitation, torture, vi
ciousness, or savagery in their magazines, just so they wrap it in a
piece of writing that will meet the standard the Supreme Court set.
That's all they have to do. They barely have to be literate to meet that
standard. And they do this together. And if you let them distract you
by the public cockfight they're always having, you miss the fact that
the free market. There's a free market of ideas. And in this free market
of ideas, ideas compete. And the good ideas win and the bad ideas
lose.
You might think as I did that an idea is ineffable and is not a
commodity. I mean, you sort of can't pull it out of the air and put it
on the market to sell it and say, "It weighs so much, and I'm selling it
for so much per pound." It turns out that if you trace the ideas that
the left is talldng about, they mean women. They mean women being
objectified in pornography, being used in pornography, being ex
ploited in pornography. That's "the free market of ideas." And the
ideas look strangely like us. We're the ideas, and they've got a free
market in us, folks. And they do have a free market in us.
The truth is that oppression is a political reality. It is a state of power
arrangements in which some people are on the bottom, and they are
exploited and used by people who are on the top, or who are on top
of them. In this country, where everything has to be psychologized,
and also used by sociologists, we don't talk about oppression as a po
litical reality. Instead, we talk about people being victims. We say soand-so was victimized. So-and-so was a victim of rape. And it's an all
right word. It's a true word. If you were raped, you were victimized.
You damned well were. You were a victim. It doesn't mean that you
are a victim in the metaphysical sense, in your state of being, as an
intrinsic part of your essence and existence. It means somebody hurt
you. They injured you.
And if it happens to you systematically because you are born a
woman, it means that you live in a political system that uses pain and
humiliation to control and to hurt you. Now, one of the things that has
happened to us is that a whole bunch of people have said not that we
are victims but that we feel victimized. We feel it. It's a state of mind.
It's a state of emotional overreaction. We feel it. It's not that something
happened to us; instead, we have a state of mind that's bad. And fem
inists are responsible for this state of mind, because we make women
feel victimized.
When we point out that there is a rape every three minutes, that a
woman is beaten every eighteen seconds in this country, that's very
bad for women because it makes them feel victimized. And we're not
supposed to be bad and make women feel bad. This is the ultimate
mind fuck. It takes away all the ground that we can stand on to say:
"We have a political problem. We are going to find a political solution.
And we are going to have to change the society that we live in to find
it."
If you take a bunch of people and suddenly you find out that one is
being beaten every eighteen seconds, that one is being raped every
three minutes, that ten billion dollars a year now is being spent on
watching them being raped for fun, watching them being exploited
and objectified and violated for fun, and you don't feel a little bit put
upon, I mean a little bit frazzled around the edges by that, it seems to
me that one would be not only a victim but half dead, totally numb,
and a true fool.
Exploitation is real and identifiable, and fighting it makes you strong,
not weak. Sexual violation is real, and it is intolerable, and fighting it
makes you strong, not weak. Woman hating is real, and it's systema
tized in pornography and in acts of sexual violence against women,
and fighting it makes you strong, not weak. And the right and the left
both whether it's Phyllis Schlafly lecturing on how if you had been
virtuous you wouldn't have been sexually harassed or the left explain
ing to you that you should celebrate your sexuality and forget about
rape, forget about it, don't have a bad attitude, don't feel like a victim
they both want women to accept the status quo, to live in the status
quo, and not to organize the political resistance that I talked about
earlier. Because the first step in resisting exploitation is recognizing it,
seeing it, and knowing it, and not lying about where it is sitting on
you.
And the second step is caring enough about other women that if
today you are fine, and yesterday you were fine, but your sister hang
ing from the tree is not fine, that you will go the distance to cut her
down.
Feminism is opposition to woman hating in order to achieve a truly
egalitarian society. And there can't be any women's movement that is
rooted in political defenses of woman hating. Those who think that
woman hating is all right they're not feminists. They're not. Those
who think that it's all right sometimes, here and there, where they like
it, where they enjoy it, where they get off on it especially sexually
they're not feminists either. And the people who think that woman
hating is very bad some places, but it's all right in pornography because
pornography causes orgasm, are not feminists. Pornography does cause
orgasm in people who hate women it sure does. And people who
hate women so much that they believe that the exploitation of women
is speech or is an idea are not feminists. People who believe that women
are not quite human beings like they are or that women in pornog
raphy are not quite human beings like they are are not feminists.
Anybody who fronts for those who hate women, who produce woman
hating, who produce pornography, who celebrate woman-hating sex,
those people are not feminists.
Part II
FAMILY
STRUCTURES: THE
PATRIARCH AND
THE PIMP
When we first spoke out, ten years ago, on the subject of incest, of our
abuse, as children, by fathers and stepfathers, of our childhood rape
by older brothers, stepbrothers, funny uncles, grandfathers there was,
for all the pain, sometimes humor.
And there was, even through the anguish, a terrific mood of ebul
lience, of fantastic hope. Not only was it thrilling to pull insight and
clarity from turmoil. But then in the late 1970s there was that sense
of empowerment, of possibility for real change.
In these ten years things have become unimaginably worse for child
victims, now, and for the women, their mothers, who try to protect
those children. And for survivors, who now find the very stuff of their
trauma, their degradation, their violation as children, the common cur
rency of talk show guest "experts" and "professionals"; find their cou
rageous speaking-out transformed into no more than a new plot option
for ongoing dramatic series.
People say to me, "Well, but at least we're talking about it now."
Yes. But it was not our intention merely to start a long conversation.
In breaking the silence, we hoped to raise hell. Instead, we have
raised for the issue a certain normalcy. We hoped to raise a passion for
change. Instead, what we raised was discourse and a sizable problem-management industry. Apart from incest educators, we have in
cest researchers, incest experts, incest therapists, incest awareness pro
grams, incest prevention programs.
And, of course, we have that immense backlash from fathers' rights
groups, which now threatens to re-entomb children and women in si
lence in fear for their very safety once again.
This society has now devised systematic torments for children who
tell of abuse. We label these torments "help." We now tell children in
schools to tell. And when they do tell, we either disbelieve them, or
Copyright 1990, Louise Armstrong.
Both Karen and Dorrie had supporters. With the turn of events, a
group of women were galvanized to action as Mothers Against Raping
Children (MARC). Karen Newsom's two children were hidden away.
And Dorrie and Chrissy went into hiding as well. Sometimes together,
for more time separately, they became fugitives. The women were la
beled kidnappers and hostage-takers and said to be using tactics that
were terrorist.
Here is what Dorrie, our young kidnapper-terrorist, wrote in her
journal on August 27, a week after Karen had been jailed.
Lord, how much longer can this mess continue? The whole system is
crazy. What more can they do to these children? First, these sick men
have sexually used them, Dale gives them to the perverts, Karen & I
protect them by hiding them. . . . The State refuses to hear these chil
dren's cries. . . . I can't even begin to express what I feel right now.
Anger, fright, loneliness and even hatred. I don't want to hate. It's not
in me.
I still have the migraine. I sure could use a hug. Even a sticky hug &
kisses.
My head is worse today. I can't tell you how alone I feel. . . . Oh and
Karen still in jail.
I've managed to keep the life that was set out to be destroyed pro
tected. I chose to protect that life through your so-called courtroom, and
now I have to do it alone without your so-called courtroom of justice.
That life being a five-year-old child. A child whose life has barely be
gun. She's a victim of today's society. A victim of a courtroom that does
not serve with justice. A victim of a so-called father who takes his sexual
pleasures from his daughter. How sickening? How horrifying to a fiveyear-old child.
The saddest day in my life was telling my 8-year-old goodbye and my
9-month-old son. And then came my 5-year-old daughter, who I've tried
and will continue to protect, goodbye. They know I love them. I hope
God helps each one through this horrid time we're going through.
My other hope is for justice to work for the innocent. No child de
serves to be raped. And no child should be forced to live with her rapist.
And no mother should be punished for loving what God gave her to love
and protect.
tional TV, said, "You have to understand. At the time I thought I was
doing her a favor." Another said, "I'm a good man. I don't run around.
I provide for my family. And I've never slept with anyone except my
wife and my daughters."
We correctly identified the permission for men to molest their own
children as a method by which girl children learned, at a very tender
age, their sexual vulnerability, their status as sexual objects for male
gratification; and by which boy children, molested by fathers and step
fathers at a very early age, learned what their future possibilities and
prerogatives could be with their own children.
We identified incest as effectively legal, and we called for the repeal
of the license. We challenged the system to make it a crime as it is to
molest the neighbors' kids.
However, what we saw, and what the offenders saw, as a license to
exploit, the powers-that-be saw as a potential threat to the status quo.
And the mental health professionals saw as a business.
We called it traditional, they called it deviant. We called it criminal,
they called it sick. And the offenders the perpetrators when they
finally caught their breath they called it a big lie. Our political under
standing was all but completely obliterated.
"Sick" became so thoroughly ingrained as the correct way to "un
derstand" that even the appearance, in 1980, of a group of perfectly
respectable doctors and professors under the banner of the "pro-incest
lobby" could not shake the public's need to disbelieve the obvious.
These men were passionately promoting the healing powers of "posi
tive incest": they sought an open permission for sex with their chil
dren. They said incest was sometimes beneficial (take two children every
four hours and call me in the morning). And the media and the pop
ulace looked at these perfectly normal men and as one voice they cried,
"Sick! That's sick!"
What we failed to apprehend, in our exuberance, was the sheer pas
sion and intensity that lay behind the endorsement and behind the
permission: the power of the backlash that would press its thumbs to
the eyeballs of anyone who tried to withdraw that permission.
We failed to apprehend, too, what would happen when the state
took one look at the size of the problem and had an epiphany: If they
treated paternal child molestation as a crime, there was the prospect
that one-tenth of the otherwise law-abiding, productive, economically
useful and prosperous male citizens would be diverted to making li
cense plates in jail.
And so to label these crimes against children a disease was itself, in
fact, a child of necessity. The problem was that they could not identify
the offender, singly, as the sick one. For one thing, in the public mind,
expressing. And, alas, at least until now, we have given no cause why
it should be. Incest in the present has not been a priority political issue
for feminists.
It was not long after we first spoke out that it began to become clear
that many feminists had also succumbed to the medical model. Survi
vors in significant numbers fell prey to the litany of shame and guilt.
They fell victim to the litany of childhood sexual abuse as an individual
emotional problem, and they with the help of many of the new ther
apeutic "experts" lost sight of the political/power issue at hand. That
is not to say, of course, that there is no place for individual counseling,
individual help, individual support. It's just to say that when you are
looking at a systematic, system-endorsed power abuse, individualized
solutions exclusively individualized solutions are antithetical to
change.
It was depressing, as well, to watch formerly feminist therapists se
duced into paying the price of the ticket of access. To be fair, however,
there was no other way into the incest club than to check your political
persuasions permanently at the door; to agree with the "illness model";
and to speak of dynamics, etiology, of dyads, triads; and to tinker around
with ever-more-fantastical methods of "behavior modification" for an
"illness" in perfectly normal men.
With the re-introduction of Kiss Daddy Goodnight as Kiss Daddy Good
night: Ten Years Later (Louise Armstrong, 1987), I had occasion to get
back in touch with some of my friends who first joined me in speaking
out. How did they feel about what had happened in these ten years?
Here is what one woman, Maggie, wrote:
Dear Louise,
Ten years! My god! I remember how brave I felt saying the words,
getting my story out there. All those valiant thoughts of how it would
change the world, help thousands, get it out of the closet, shake foun
dations. In many ways the outcome has been somewhat surprising. It's
sort of like, "She labored and labored and brought forth a mouse!" Noth
ing's really changed.
We've been sold a bill of goods, particularly by the mental health peo
ple and the courts. The whole message is that those kids will just have
to grow up fast and learn to understand daddy and give him another
chance and that daddy just somehow got off to a bad start and if we will
all sit down rationally and discuss it, that:
1. Daddy will see the error of his ways and be good.
2. Mommy will realize that if only she'd been more understanding
and available to daddy and more intimate, she would have stopped it
from happening.
3. We would get over our shame and realize we were not to blame.
And we'd all live happily ever after.
Bullshit.
Recently, I went to yet another seminar on incest and child abuse which
you must understand is good business for the "helping" professions,
and they expounded all day on early recognition, immediate involvement
and intervention, etc., etc. We spent the whole day learning what we as
clinicians could do to save the kids.
Then the bureaucrats from the state got up to speak and the first thing
they said was that unless you had proof positive i.e., caught everyone
red-handed there wasn't really much that could be done. Talk about
intellectual masturbation.
All this funding, all these incest programs are a total abuse of
power. If the kids are taken away, what good does that do the kids?
And where are they putting those kids? We keep hearing that they're
sometimes re-molested in foster care. Do you think those kids are go
ing to come forward and speak about it again? And go through it all
again?
The mother can't win. She's wrong no matter what happens. If she
leaves, she didn't support her husband and work it through to keep the
family intact. If she stays, somehow she's condoning it. Usually, she's so
burned by her first experience, trying to leave or trying to get help to
protect the child, she doesn't ever want to confront it again. She's burned
out.
Ten years. I'm married to a wonderful man. He's my best friend. My
heart still skips a beat when I see him. I still think he's beautiful. We're
great together. Our lives work. We travel. We went to Africa to see the
gorillas, rode elephants in Thailand. We love spending time together.
And I still, deep down, don't trust him.
I'm successful, well liked, have substance, humor, joy, and on some
level I still hate myself.
It still goes back to the damage of childhood, and it pisses me off. I'm
bored to death with "my story," and furious that it can still get in my
way at times. All those neurotic fears have nothing to do with me, with
my husband, with us, with the reality of us. I've swollen up like a blimp
since we married for fear of the kind of wonderful intimacy we have. I'm
losing weight again. It's tiring, boring, and redundant. But when I look
around me I'm more alive than most people. I have more joy in my
life, more variety, more pizzazz, and part of me loves who I am. I just
think it would have been one hell of a lot easier if my folks had been
Ozzie and Harriet. (Maybe just Harriet?) All that wasted energy and all
those moments of self-hatred. . . .
There are incest counselors, incest programs, incest awareness groups,
incest survivor groups, incest education for mothers and kids. . . . And
it's still happening. And it's still legal. They're still getting away with it.
There's a whole business around it, a structure to protect it.
And we're getting used to it. "Hey, did you hear about so-and-so?
She was molested by daddy." "No kidding. I assume she's getting some
counseling. Where shall we go for lunch?"
God, when I think back to the hope we had, the ideas we had, the
significance we attached to what we were doing, the belief we had that
we could change things for kids now and then when I look at how
things really are for kids now. . . .
I hate to say we made things worse. I guess we didn't, but I think
things are worse, and maybe somebody has to say so out loud before
anything can ever change.
I'd like to see survivors wake up to the power abuse, and the abuse
by professionals, talking about them as depersonalized victims, objects
of study to be quantified and described in terms of some prefabricated
set of personality specifications.
Ten years later. Damn. I am pissed off. I think it's time for a survivor
revolt. No more "poor little things," or "how hard it must be for you."
Let's just get some action to stop it.
Yes. I agree. It is time, ten years later, to begin action for change. If
there is to be change.
How long are we going to watch the protective women we wished
our mothers had been, relentlessly hounded, legally crucified and do
nothing? How long are we going to watch as the "Chrissies" of today
become if they are lucky, if it is a very good day the survivors, the
"Maggies," of tomorrow?
REFERENCES
Armstrong, Louise. (1987). Kiss daddy goodnight: Ten years later. New York: Pocket Books.
Eberle, Paul, and Eberle, Shirley. (1986). The politics of child abuse. New Jersey: Lyle
Stuart.
2 women refuse to let children return to alleged sexual abuse. (1987, August 16). Mobile
(Alabama) Press Register.
It's the rich as male on top, the poor as female on the bottom. It's
humans on top, all other living things on the bottom. It's large on top,
small on the bottom large countries as male, small countries as fe
male and so on.
Now where we learn that this is "natural" and "normal" is in the
family. All of us had one of those, and some of them, as I say, were
more blatantly patriarchal than others. Some of us got a really thor
ough-going education, and as was said in my introduction, I got one
of the best there ever was! I'm grateful to the Mormon elders for a truly
matchless education in patriarchal ontology. I can't be fooled again,
and neither can you graduated Catholics or any others of you who
were true believers in any religion.
When I say that all women have been seasoned as slaves and pros
titutes, I'm talking about seasoning that began at home. All other so
cietal institutions avidly participated in it, of course. But no matter how
we're seasoned as prostitute or as wife, which is the same thing
we're seasoned in the patriarchal family almost exclusively to serve sexual
functions.
No matter what form seasoning takes, it always has the same goal
to make us feel worthless and dependent. Obviously, incest is a sea
soning tool par excellence; one incident of incest is really all that is
necessary to teach us our role in patriarchy It is such a profound be
trayal of trust, primarily of our trust in ourselves. It is designed to
make us feel powerless, to shatter our inner core of confidence, and
therefore to make us feel utterly dependent on men. It functions to
make us believe passionately that we need a savior, that men must
save us, that we have to go through them to be saved. That somehow
we've got to get them to change their minds about us. We've got to make
them agree that their behavior is terrible and get them to stop it. Our
seasoning teaches us nonsense: that we've got to get the slaveholders
to free the slaves.
That's the goal of seasoning: to make us believe that we must always
go through someone else to be free. Of course, the reason we're
taught this is because freedom never happens that way. Tyrants never
free the slaves. It's an historical truth that the oppressed must always
rise and free themselves, and in freeing themselves, free everyone. The
truth is that radical change, change at the root, must be made by us.
There are many reasons for our being in the only position, histori
cally speaking, to change things. One of these is the basic paradox of
tyranny, that the oppressors are always less free than the oppressed.
Another is that, as women, we are truly outside men's system. Virginia
Woolf said that, you know. She said in Three Guineas that women are
the Society of the Outsiders, that that's where we have our power.
give up all chance for independence and freedom. Our freedom must
depend exclusively on us; we are the only ones we can change and
control.
We must understand and internalize the fact that men are totally
irrelevant now as far as change is concerned. So we can take our eyes
off them and look at ourselves to make a shining new reality right
here, right now in the midst of the old putrescent, collapsing world of
the fathers.
As long as we're focused on the men, we're never going to see that
the door to our jail cell is open, that it's open not into patriarchy but
into our own power. As long as we're concentrating on the men, doing
everything with our pimps in mind, we're never going to break free.
Our pimps are the men around us. They're the legislators, professors,
ministers none of you still has ministers or priests, I trust? Our pimps
are our fathers, our husbands, our sons. To be everything in relation
to them is slavery.
I learned this as a prostitute-in-training in Mormondom, in a Mor
mon home as well as the church. And in the Democratic Party. And in
liberal and progressive and leftist groups. And in the National Orga
nization for Women, which is modeled, also, on the patriarchal family.
I learned these things in the same place you learned them. We have all
learned them the hard way.
When I escaped from Mormonism, I looked out and saw that all
churches were the Mormon church. I looked out further and saw that
the whole world was the Mormon church. Over the years as I kept
looking, I saw that Congress and the legislatures and the political par
ties and Mother Jones and National Public Radio were also all the Mor
mon church you know, "Nothing New Considered," "The Same Old
Stuff Considered." I saw that they were all the Old Boys' Club.
I decided I wasn't going to escape from one brothel just to get my
self trapped in another; that something was basically wrong with thinking
that any of these institutions was the New World. So it seemed to me
that it was time for me to take my eyes off the guys, to get rid of the
superstitious belief that if I didn't monitor every single thing they did,
if I didn't clutch at them and beg them and plead with them and lobby
them and kick and scream and stamp my foot and demand, they would
go berserk and kill us all.
But this is nonsense, of course, because all evidence shows that men
have gone berserk anyway. With our eyes fastened unblinkingly on their
faces day and night for thousands of years, they have grown increas
ingly mad. With our attention riveted upon them they are killing us and
the world around us daily. The evidence is that with our reactive, fear
ful, dependent behavior we have been facilitating patriarchy in all its
Family Matters
Ann Jones
When we consider the structure of the family and what goes on within
it, the sexual liberals seem beside the point. When we consider the
family, we have to talk about child sexual abuse, incest, and the area
of family violence that I've focused on: wife abuse, marital rape, and
battering often culminating, in the cases I've looked into, in homi
cide. I've written particularly about cases in which a woman fought
back and attacked or killed a man who abused her. But we know that
far more often the outcome is the other way around, that it is the woman
who dies. Exploring our sexuality requires freedom, and for women
the family structure is still a prison.
The family is grounded in the same kind of repression that brings
us capitalism and what Freud and others have been pleased to call
"civilization." These days the American family is touted as a last bas
tion of red, white, and blue American life. The family is also said to be
the first line of defense (or the last) against sexual license, drug addic
tion, homosexuality, widespread depravity, and crime. We are charged
to defend the family at all costs. The military terminology is no acci
dent.
We have come to expect this kind of language from people on the
right, and in fact the right waves the bright banner of the American
family to justify almost any of its schemes no matter how vicious
from book banning to bombing abortion clinics. But it's a little discon
certing when feminists, whom we have more or less learned to trust,
talk about the family in this way when feminists find nothing fun
damentally wrong with the family as an institution but seek only
"equality" within it.
What that implied in the early days of the current feminist move
ment was some sort of contract about the housework. If you could just
Copyright 1990, Ann Jones.
get him to make the bed you had to lie in, perhaps things would work
out after all.
Many feminists in those embattled early days refused altogether to
fill the conventional woman's role within the family; instead they went
out into the world and there struggled to be independent women in a
system designed to make that as difficult as possible and suddenly
unsurprisingly, they wanted to get back in. We watched a rather em
barrassing procession of women marching in quick step to the altar and
the maternity ward, and telling us how wonderful it all was, as though
they had just invented it. (This parade still continues, though the joy
ous song is once again drowned out by the lament of the overburdened
supermom, an old dirge meant to inspire a rising generation of women
to just stay home in the first place.)
It's useful to study history. We learn from it how institutions and
laws, social and economic forces, traditions and habits of mind con
verge to keep women in marriage and in a subordinate position within
the family. We can name a long list of factors: inadequate job training
for women, lack of access to jobs, lower wages paid to women, absence
of child care, discriminatory promotion policies, discrimination in
housing, sexual harrassment, rape, and so on.
These considerations led women in the movement to work for equality
outside the family, in economic, political, and social life. We didn't
speak much about sexual equality, for history also teaches us that
whenever feminists turn from the body politic to the body they some
how wind up in the master bedroom. ' 'zt surely there are connections
to be made, for self-defined sexuality is one more thing like auton
omy, self-determination, safety, and the minimum wage that is de
nied women in the family.
Family "stability" in a patriarchal system depends upon sexual
repression of women. The same repression of woman-defined sexuality
is also essential to pornography, and in both cases it is based on the
separability of love from lust. This is no mere coincidence. In the tra
ditional scheme of things, women love while men lust. The whole "de
sire" of a woman ladies don't feel "lu st" is supposed to be encom
passed in her love for her husband. In the perfect woman, desire, and
marital duty perfectly coincide. Male sexuality, on the other hand, is
based on a lust so powerful and apparently uncontrollable that grown
men find themselves raping their own "seductive" children. Pornog
raphy, like prostitution, has always been a permissible outlet for male
sexuality which, to hear men tell it, is as glorious as it is boundless.
Indeed, in this scheme, pornography and prostitution are not only nec
essary but good, for they safeguard the family structure by draining off
excess male lust. Thus do these "social evils" sanitize and maintain
"civilization."
The problem is not simply that this traditional view of sexuality
maintains the family at the expense of female sexual pleasure, but that
it makes violence against women inevitable.
It is in the interests of pornography, prostitution, and family my
thology to stress as much as possible the difference between male and
female sexuality. That difference lowers our expectation of passionate
companionship between women and men. Young college women I've
met recently, for example, expect that they will marry men they pas
sionately love. But they also expect that passion will soon pale they
call this "being realistic" to be replaced by the "other advantages" of
marriage and the family structure. They expect to remain in the family
for the sake of those other "advantages," though what those benefits
may be is not quite clear.
Traditionally, the main "benefit" for a woman in marriage was that
the man made the living, or at least in certain classes he was supposed
to. We all know what women traded for that. But wars, tough eco
nomic times, and periods of active feminism have brought more and
more women into the work force, and the old arrangement has broken
down. And when a woman gains neither love nor support, when she
finds no advantage to being in the family, then a man has only muscle
and terror to keep her.
We still cite economic dependence as one of the main reasons why
battered women remain in the family as long as they do. But I meet
more and more battered women severely battered women and women
who have struck back who were not being supported by the men
who were their abusers. Rather the economic arrangement is often the
other way around: the man lives off the woman, off her wages or her
welfare check or the proceeds of her prostitution. He dominates and
exploits her economically, just as he does physically and sexually. The
parties may be husband and wife or a cohabiting couple, but the ar
rangement is the classic one of pimp and prostitute. The man main
tains the arrangement by terror and violence, for when traditional bar
gains break down, what other sources of power do men have?
We know that men beat women because they can. No one stops
them because to do so would be to interfere with the family. It would
be un-American. But men beat women also because they think they
must. Like the American generals in Viet Nam who destroyed cities in
order to "save" them, men batter women in order to hang on to them.
We know that batterers inflict the greatest violence and the greatest
damage not when women "take it," but when women try to get away.
Men rape and batter women not for what women have done but for
what they are about to do: escape.
Violence has always been an important tool for maintaining the fam
ily to serve the purposes of patriarchy. We can see that women who
act against that violence women who denounce those arrangements,
women who try to leave, women who work on behalf of women are
the very ones accused of breaking up the family. It is the women who
expose violence, not the men who commit violence, who are said to be
"dangerous." And indeed they are, for the family depends upon vio
lence and its concealment.
Women who successfully escape pay all sorts of real costs for having
done so. Middle-class and upper-class women who leave lose their class
status and the "privileges" their children might have enjoyed better
health care, better education if they had remained with highly paid
men. Poor women may slide deeper into poverty. Any woman may
lose her children. And women who fight back against batterers are
punished most severely of all. Most of those who kill their assailants
serve long, long terms in prison.
What part does a positive sexuality play in all this? Very little. In
violent marriages, in violent families, sex is a weapon. Whether it is
used in rape or incest, whether it is directed against a woman or a
child, sex is used in the same way that terrorists use, say, genital tor
ture or mutilation to humiliate, to shame, to destroy a sense of au
tonomy and authority, to erase identity. Rapists and batterers within
the family are, in fact, domestic terrorists and they use exactly the same
methods that international political terrorists use for exactly the same
purposes: domination and control. The purpose of all domestic terror
ism is to control the lives of women. To my way of thinking, that has
everything to do with gender, but little if anything to do with a posi
tive sexuality.
The abuse of children in the family perpetuates this system to the
next generation through the process of socialization. It doesn't seem to
matter much whether the children are girls or boys, or even whether
they suffer abuse themselves or merely witness it. They are taught the
same lesson: that violence is "normal" behavior, that men are powerful
abusers, women and children powerless abused.
Susan B. Anthony knew all of this, and she wrote about it in The
Revolution. And then somehow the knowledge got lost. It took us a
long time to resurrect it. And now we are in danger of forgetting it
again. Susan Brownmiller's book, Against Our Will, is a milestone in
the women's movement because it demythologized desexualized
rape. We learned and not for the first time in history that sexual
and physical violence against women is not "sexual" at all but simply
lions, over the years women who faced extreme difficulties and dan
ger and yet freed themselves from violent homes to make new lives.
These women not only managed to save themselves and their children
but they also organized to save other women from violent men. Now
after more than a decade of intensive work on the issue of violence
against women within the family, we must still cite woman abuse as
the only major crime for which the only significant relief comes from
organizations of survivors acting on behalf of victims. This movement,
I think, is one of the most remarkable chapters in the history of women.
And it's not finished.
Yet many of those battered women go back not to the man who
battered them, but to another man, another marriage, another nuclear
family. Some of them are battered again, but most of them are not.
They think they are smarter, and they probably are. They think they
know the danger signs, and they probably do. Similarly, women who
have not been battered believe that they are both wise and in control,
that it can't happen to them, that if it did they wouldn't stand for it.
What all these women still believe, you see, is that violence erupts
spontaneously from the individual man.
We should know better than that. Susan Brownmiller showed us
that rapists serve all men by enforcing male supremacy. Batterers do
on the home front what rapists do both there and in the streets they
are the home guard of male supremacy. So as we continue to work
against what is euphemistically called "domestic violence," as we con
tinue to work for those women and children who are the immediate
victims of male violence, we should be clear that our quarrel is not only
with certain abusive men but with male supremacy. Our goal should
be not merely to redefine our sexuality but to redefine the world and
our place in it. Our fight should be not just "against domestic vio
lence" but against that peculiar "domesticity" which couldn't carry on
without it.
REFERENCES
Brownmiller, Susan. (1986). Against our will. New York: Bantam.
9For example, Joe Comforte, owner of the Mustang Ranch, Nevada; Russ Reade and
Kenneth Green, owners of the Chicken Ranch, Nevada; and Jim Fondren, owner of the
Sagebrush Ranch, Nevada.
10For example, Earl Montpetit, owner of the OZ nightclub in St. Paul, Minnesota, con
victed of promoting prostitution and awaiting trial on charges of engaging in prostitution
with a minor in 1988; Walter Montpetit, former owner of the Belmont Club in St. Paul,
Minnesota, convicted of promoting prostitution in 1988 (Minneapolis Star and Tribune,
April 1988); David Fan, current owner of the Belmont Club, lost liquor license this year
for employing a 13-year-old girl as a nude dancer and evidence of prostitution-related
activities (Minneapolis Star and Tribune, September 1989); Patrick Carlone, proprietor of
Hollywood Stars Dance Studios in St. Paul, Minnesota, convicted of two counts of pro
moting prostitution of his employees in 1988 (Minneapolis Star and Tribune, January 1988).
"T here are over 150 "mail-order bride" companies operating in the United States. The
News and Observer. (Raleigh, 21, November 1986: p. 20A).
12 Martin Hodas, owner of "Paradise Alley" in New York City; Clemente D'Alessio and
Scott Hyman, convicted child pornographers and former managers of adult bookstores
subsidiaries of "Show World" in New York City (Ritter, 1987: pp. 166-69); Feris Alex
ander, owner of a number of "adult bookstores and peep shows" in Minneapolis, Min
nesota.
or forced into the role of the prostitute while her husband adopts the
role of the "john." Contests promoted by pornographers, like Hustler's
"Beaver H unt"13 and pornographic computer bulletin boards like High
Society's "Sex-Tex,"14 have resulted in a proliferation of homemade
pornography. In this situation the wife is compelled to assume the role
of "porn queen" when her husband adopts the role of the pornogra
pher. The growth of "swingers' magazines" and "wife-swapping clubs"
have allowed men to assume simultaneously the role of john and pimp,
paying for the use of another man's partner by making his wife avail
able in exchange. The last barrier separating the roles of wife and pros
titute is smashed when men engineer sexual encounters with prosti
tutes which include their wives. One prostitution survivor describes
the dynamics of such an experience:
A lot of men enjoyed bringing me in as a third party with their wives.
Usually what would end up happening is we'd watch some porno
graphic film, say, and then he'd say, "All right, I want you to do that to
my wife." Now, in these instances, I felt the wife was the victim, and
that I was there to hurt the wife. I felt there was a real power play there,
where the man was obviously saying to the wife, "If you don't do this,
I'm going to leave you." I mean there were great overtones of manipu
lation and coercion. (WHISPER, 1988)
same logic has been used against prostitutes who have attempted to
bring charges against customers who have sexually assaulted them. A
California court recently ruled in favor of a john charged with raping a
prostitute, on the grounds that the courts were "not in the business of
adjudicating breaches of illegal contracts" (LA Times, 1986: pp. 1, 7).
The role of prostitute is taught to girls in the home through paternal
sexual abuse. The fact that an estimated seventy-five percent of women
in the sex industry were sexually abused as children suggests that the
ramifications of incest and sexual assault in childhood contribute to the
recruitment of women and children into prostitution.15 One survivor
asserts,
I believe that I became a prostitute because of the physical abuse that I
experienced in my childhood. It made me very intimidated and afraid of
men, and I was very easily pushed around by men. I also believe that
another factor that played a large part in my getting involved in prosti
tution was the sexual abuse that I encountered at a very young age, 12
. . . and it was like three encounters that happened boom, boom boom
to let me know it was not just an isolated incident. (WHISPER, 1988)
16Public Hearings before the Minneapolis City Council; Session II, December 1983, p. 70.
17None of the women used in pornography received additional compensation, signed a
contract affirming consent and none maintained possession or control of the material.
Furthermore one woman disclosed that a customer threatened her with a knife when
she refused to pose for pornographic pictures. He subsequently tied her with ropes,
photographed her in bondage, withheld payment, and left her tied up in a motel. Mimi
Silbert also recognized the role played by pornography in legitimizing victimization in
her study on the sexual assault of prostitutes (1982, p. 21).
came into this world with the desire to be a prostitute. I think that that
was something that was put on me by the dynamics of society. Some
thing that was taught me. (WHISPER, 1988)
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Alexander, Priscilla. (1983, July). Working on prostitution, California: NOW, Inc., Eco
nomic Justice Committee.
Alexander, Priscilla. (1987). Prostitution: A difficult issue for feminism. In Delacoste and
Alexander (Eds). Sex work. Cleis Press.
Barry, Kathleen, (1981). The underground economic system of pimping. Journal of Inter
national Affairs.
Boyer, D. (1984, January). A cultural construction of a negative sex role: The female
prostitutes.
Carmen, Arlene and Moody, Howard. (1985). Working women: The subterranean world of
street prostitution. New York: Harper and Row.
COYOTE/NTFP (National Task Force on Prostitution) Policy Statement. 1984-1986.
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"I'm blunt," says judge to outraged feminists. (1986, May 11). Los Angeles Times, Part IX,
pp. 1, 7.
St. Paul Star Tribune. (1989, September 7). St. Paul, Minnesota.
Star Tribune. (1988, January 22). Minneapolis, Minnesota, p. IB.
Star Tribune. (1988, April 19). Minneapolis, Minnesota, p. 1A.
Silbert, Mimi. (1982, November). Sexual assault of prostitutes. Phase I, Final Report. San
Francisco: National Center for the Prevention and Control of Rape, National Institute
for Mental Health.
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WHISPER.
Part III
THE NEW
REPRODUCTIVE
LIBERALISM
brutal contraceptives like Depo-Provera and drugs like diethylstilbestrol (DES). A few of the many books that provide documentation are
Diana Scully, 1980; Janice Raymond, 1979; Michelle Harrison, 1982;
Boston Women's Health Book Collective, 1984; Gena Corea, 1977; 1980;
Barbara~Seaman and Gideon Seaman, 1977.
This kind of violence against women is escalating with the new re
productive technologies (Gena Corea, 1986b). Under these technolo
gies, I include in vitro fertilization (IVF), the test-tube baby procedure.
That entails pumping a woman full of hormones so she will release
more than the usual number of eggs from the ovary; placing her under
general anesthesia, usually, and sucking her eggs out; fertilizing the
eggs in a dish and, when she's kneeling on a gynecological table, her
head down by her hands and her rear end pointed upward, inserting
the embryo through her vagina and into her uterus. It sounds simple.
In fact, it is a complicated procedure that rarely works.
Embryo flushing is another of the new reproductive technologies.
You artificially inseminate the woman, flush the embryo out of her,
and then insert the embryo into another woman. That's done in cows.
A couple of brothers who worked on cows for seven years figured it
was time to move on to women. So they started a company to do that
(Gena Corea, 1987). Their procedure is highly experimental. Only two
births have resulted from it.
Sex predetermination that is, predetermining the sex of a child
is also one of the new reproductive technologies.
Surrogate motherhood could be used with the embryo flushing tech
nique or with in vitro fertilization or with sex predetermination. Many
combinations of the different technologies are possible.
Before discussing the violence of the new reproductive technologies,
let me point out briefly that these technologies were not developed out
of compassion for infertile women nor are they just for the infertile.
They will eventually affect the vast majority of women.
A pattern has emerged in the spread of a new reproductive technol
ogy. When it is introduced, it is presented as something for a small
proportion of women in certain groups. But then, quickly, physicians
expand the indications for the technology so that it is used on a large
proportion or even the majority of women. For example, in obstet
rics, electronic fetal monitoring was introduced for use on women judged
to be at high risk of obstetrical complications. But now in many indus
trialized countries, it is used on most birthing women. The same pat
tern is evident with ultrasound, amniocentesis, cesarean section, and
genetic testing and counseling.
It is likely that this pattern will emerge with newer technologies such
as IVF, egg donation, sex predetermination, and embryo evaluation.
IVF, for example, was originally proposed for use on a small group of
women those whose infertility was caused by blocked or absent fal
lopian tubes. But physicians quickly extended the indications for IVF
so that now even fertile women are among IVF candidates. These are
women married to men with low sperm counts. Instead of physicians
saying, "Maybe there's a terrific hormone we could inject into men to
see if we could raise the sperm count," they operate on women's bod
ies.
Very early on, technodocs began saying that once they found a way
to use donor eggs with in vitro fertilization, many more women for
example, women with bad eggs would become candidates for this
procedure. I asked one reproductive technologist, "How do women get
'bad eggs'?" He said that women who work in places where there are
toxic chemicals may have their eggs damaged by those chemicals. These
women could simply use another person's egg, he said, and they won't
mind because the process of birth is much more important to women
than the genetic content of the child. (I guess he'd say that the average
woman is very unlike Bill Stem, the man who hired Mary Beth White
head as a so-called surrogate and for whom the genetic content of the
child his genetic content was so overwhelmingly important it justi
fied impairing the lives of scores of people around him, most notably
Mary Beth Whitehead's.) The technodoc said this was a large group of
women and would grow larger as we learn more and more about the
effects of toxic chemicals on eggs.
In Melbourne, Australia, a couple of years ago, we learned from
Carl Wood, a physician heading an IVF program, that some women in
his program were asking him to use donor eggs rather than their own
in the in vitro fertilization attempt. The allegedly said they didn't want
to reproduce themselves because they were dissatisifed with some of
their own qualities, like their appearance and intelligence. They wanted
to use donor eggs, the eggs of women who, unlike themselves, were
adequate human beings (Karen Milliner, 1984; John Schauble, 1984; and
Fiona Whitlock, 1984.)
Now, I don't know how women suddenly, without prompting, come
to the conclusion that they don't want to use their own eggs. I suspect
that Wood's announcement was a trial balloon floated to see if there
would be much objection to this selective breeding practice. He was
just announcing a fact and was quite helpless before it. He was being
subjected to these consumer demands and really, what could the poor
man do?
His plight opens up the vision of a whole new clientele for IVF with
donor eggs: women who feel inadequate. It is a large clientele.
There's another way in which I think the use of the new reproduc
cause over the years that technodocs have been developing the tech
nologies, they have displayed no interest (for very good reason) in
gathering the information necessary to determine the actual success.
Medical writer, Susan Ince and I did a survey of all the in vitro
fertilization clinics in the United States for the Medical Tribune in the
spring of 1985 and for the first time exposed routine deception in the
reporting of IVF success (Gena Corea and Susan Ince, 1985; 1987). Briefly,
we found that half the clinics in the country had never produced even
one test-tube baby. Despite that, they were claiming high success rates,
some as high as 25 percent. They could do that because they were in
total control of the definition of success. No uniform definition exists.
Any clinic can define success in any way it wants. Clinics don't define
it in terms of live births, which is the way many women entering the
clinic would think. "Twenty percent success rate? That means I have a
20 percent chance of coming away with a baby." It doesn't mean that
at all.
One of the definitions of success was "percentage of pregnancies
per laparoscopy," the operation performed in order to suck eggs out
of the ovary. But the fact that there's a pregnancy doesn't mean that
there will be a birth. When it is a chemical pregnancy, as many are,
that simply means that there is a slight elevation in the level of hor
mones present during pregnancy. There will be no baby. Some tech
nodocs count that as "success" knowing that there will be no baby.
There are many, many tricks with the statistics to make it look as
though a clinic is successful. IVF clinic directors explained the tricks to
us when we interviewed them. They were telling on each other. That's
how we learned what they were doing.
I want to describe briefly some of what the women go through be
cause women's experience of in vitro fertilization has been rendered
invisible. It lies in the shadows, quiet and dark.
Women who go through IVF have already been through an incredi
ble amount of medical probing and prodding, much of which is painful
and humiliating. Many have had biopsies of the endometrium, the
uterine lining; tubal insufflation the filling up of the oviducts with
pressurized carbon dioxide to see if the tubes are open; injection of dye
into the uterus and oviducts; drug treatments; and blowing out of the
tubes to maintain an opening.
But once in an in vitro fertilization program, the manipulations of a
woman's body and emotions begin in earnest. Drugs are administered;
blood samples are taken, and the hormones within measured; ultra
sound exams are done to estimate when the women will ovulate; ster
ile normal saline is put into a woman's bladder through a catheter for
the ultrasound right before the laparoscopy; the laparoscopy for egg
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Boston Women's Health Book Collective. (1984). The new our bodies, our selves. New York:
Simon and Schuster.
Burton, Barbara A. (1985, March). Contentious issues of infertility therapy: A consumer
view paper presented at the Australia Family Planning Conference.
When Mothers on Trial: The Battle for Children and Custody was pub
lished, the truth was out: I was not a nice, male-identified, genderneutral liberal feminist. I was a nice woman-identified radical. I did not
believe that men and women had to be the same in order to be treated
equally. I mistrusted gender-neutral legislation especially in those areas
where women are most obviously different from men: in the areas of
reproductive biology, heterosexual relations, pregnancy, childbirth,
lactation, mother-infant bonding and the bottom-line responsibility for
primary child care. After all, freedom of choice involves the right to
have an abortion and the right to have and keep a baby if women so
choose.
For saying all this, some feminists accused me of romanticizing the
biological chains that bind us; and of biological determinism. I presum
ably wanted all women to be married, pregnant, and poor. I was against
gender-neutral feminism and against women's right to buy or kidnap
another woman's child or to rent another woman as a "surrogate uterus"
in the name of feminism.
In Mothers on Trial and elsewhere I note that mothers are women and
therefore have few maternal rights and many maternal obligations; and
that feminists fighting for father's rights or for the primacy of sperm
are, to me, a pretty shabby spectacle. Were feminists in favor of joint
custody because it would empower mothers (who are women) or be
cause it would empower fathers and men, many of whom have no
intention of assuming any primary child care responsibility after they
win joint custody? Unfortunately relatively few men are trying to as
sume some child care responsibility. Such men do not do as many things,
or the same things that women do in terms of housework or children.
Nor are such men perceived in the same way as women when they
children. Why did she have to flee with her child to retain custody?
Because in the nineteenth century, and for all the previous centuries of
patriarchal history, men have always owned wives and children, as
legal chattel property. All during the eighteenth and nineteenth cen
turies,if a man divorced his wife, she was not legally entitled to ever
again see her children. Like surrogate-contract mother Mary Beth
Whitehead, legal wives had no legal rights.
Susan B. Anthony came to the aid of Mrs. Phelps, took her in, helped
find her sanctuary. She did so without shame. Some of Anthony's ab
olitionist friends chastised her for doing so. They told her she was en
dangering the women's rights movement and the anti-slavery cause.
Anthony disagreed. She said:
Don't you break the law every time you help a slave to Canada? Well,
the law that gives the father the sole ownership of the children is just as
wicked, and I'll break it just as quickly. You would die before you would
deliver a slave to his master, and I will die before I will give up the child
to its father.
rise to this occasion heroically, with no help from anyone. But when
fathers fight for custody, fathers win custody anywhere from 60 to 82%
of the time, even when they're grossly unfit, as fathers or as husbands,
and even when they've never been their child's primary caretaker.
In my study, in the United States, between 1961 and 1981, 82 per
cent of those fathers who contested custody won custody within two
years. Eighty-seven percent had done no primary child care. One third
were wife batterers. More than one third kidnapped their children and
took them on "sprees." Nearly two thirds of these fathers tried to se
riously brainwash children against their mothers. Two thirds refused
to pay child support for the very children they claimed to love. It is
not always the good guys who fight for and get custody. It is at
least two thirds of the time the bad guys who fight for custody.
Just when feminists began to organize for the right to abortion, and
for equal pay for equal work, at that precise moment in history, men
in every state legislature and in the judiciary, men running Hollywood
studios and T.V. stations and newspapers, men who were economic
losers and/or whose patriarchal kingdoms had begun to tremble as wives
moved for divorce, men everywhere started to say, "Oh, you want
equality? You want men's jobs? You want to leave us? Okay, bitch!
We'll take your children. They were only on loan to you. It's our sperm
and our dollars that matter. They were only on loan to you."
In the landmark case of Dr. Lee Salk against his wife, Kirsten, Dr.
Salk was granted custody not because Kirsten was unfit and not be
cause he was an involved father, but because the judge found him to
be more intellectually stimulating and richer than his legal wife who
was, after all, only his womb-man or "surrogate uterus." Many people
applauded this decision as a progressive and liberal decision which
indeed it was.
Then there's Mary Beth Whitehead's case. Mary Beth was a New
Jersey housewife and mother, who, for reasons unknown to me and,
indeed, of no real business of mine, signed a contract to be a surrogate
mother. She was psychiatrically interviewed and, once a month for nine
months, inseminated by Noel Kean's Infertility Center of New York.
Mary Beth was impregnated with the semen of William Stem. Dr.
Stern forced her to undergo, against her will, but by contract, an am
niocentesis test. Not only did he want a baby to whom he was geneti
cally related; he wanted one who was genetically perfect.
Whitehead was contractually on notice that, if the baby was geneti
cally defective, she must have an abortion. If she didn't have an abor
tion, then Dr. Stem would no longer be responsible for the child, le
gally or economically.
Mary Beth had the amniocentesis test. It made her so angry that she
didn't tell the Stems the sex of her child. And when it was time to
deliver, she chose to have her legal husband, Richard, in the delivery
room with her.
A woman faces all kinds of medical consequences and physical risks,
including death, during pregnancy. Although the initial non-medically
facilitated contributions of the future mother and father are comparable
she contributes the egg, he contributes the sperm the similarities
stop there. She is pregnant for nine months. She carries the baby, feels
it moving inside her. She goes through labor. She delivers. She begins
to lactate. She breastfeeds the baby. Mary Beth did all these things.
Additionally, throughout her life she was being socialized into moth
erhood. Motherhood is not what men are socialized into. William Stem's
position was in no way identical to or even comparable with Mary Beth
Whitehead's.1
On March 27, 1986, when she gave birth, Mary Beth saw that her
new daughter looked like herself and like her other daughter, Tuesday.
At that point, Mary Beth felt that she had made a terrible mistake. She
could not honor that surrogacy contract. It was too inhumane. It was
beyond her capacity to do so.
She called Noel Keane, the lawyer who in many ways functions like
pimps and profiteers do in terms of women's sexual and reproductive
capacities, and said, "I can't go through with this." And he allegedly
replied, "Well, Mary Beth, okay. Take your baby home. We will find
another surrogate mother for the Sterns. The worst that could happen
is that they might want some visitation." And she allegedly said, "I'll
give them all the visitation they want. I feel so bad. I feel so guilty."
Mary Beth went home and continued to breastfeed her daughter.
On March 30, 1986, three days later, she let the anguished and arro
gant Sterns have the baby. Within twenty-four hours, Mary Beth ar
rived at their door, distraught, weeping, having had no sleep. She
pleaded, "I need to have the baby back. It's my baby. I can't give her
up." The Sterns gave the baby back. (If they really thought she was
crazy or an unfit mother, why would they have done so?) By April 12,
1986, Mary Beth allegedly informed the Sterns that she could not sur
render her daughter. Mary Beth Whitehead continued to breastfeed
and care for her for four and a half months.
The Stems went to a lawyer, Gary Skoloff. And he, in turn, went to
his colleague, Judge Harvey Sorkow. Now at this point in time, there
had been no paternity test. The existing birth certificate said "Sara Eliz
*Had Mary Beth wanted to donate the eggs and had their "harvesting" been painful,
dangerous or expensive, then in that case, egg donation would not have been the same
as sperm donation.
after day, where the men in the bar cheered the rapists on. You do
something like that to a woman and you kill her. The victim of the
New Bedford rape was driven out of town. She allegedly began to drink
and take drugs. (I would too wouldn't you?) And died in a car acci
dent irr Florida. They said it was an accident. It was the inevitable con
sequence of what the rapists and our woman-hating society did to her.
In Mary Beth Whitehead's case, it was not just a few bad guys who
cheered her rapists on. It was the entire country.
Some feminists said, "We must have a right to make contracts. It's
very important. If a woman can change her mind about this contract
if it isn't enforced we'll lose that right! And we'll lose the Equal Rights
Amendment." They didn't consider that a contract that is both im
moral and illegal isn't and shouldn't be enforceable. They didn't con
sider that businessmen make and break contracts every second, rene
gotiate them, buy themselves out with only money at stake. Only a
woman who, like all women, is seen as nothing but a surrogate uterus,
is supposed to live up to or be held down for the most punitive,
most dehumanizing of contracts. No one else. Certainly no man.
Judge Sorkow ruled that the contract was enforceable and awarded
the Sterns custody "in the best interests of the child." Indeed, this was
just one of many contemporary custody battles between a legally mar
ried man and woman or between an adoptive couple and an impov
erished birth mother. The child is usually awarded to the highest bid
der. Whoever earns more money is seen as "better" for the child. How
can a stay-at-home mother, like Mary Beth Whitehead, who earns no
money ever be seen as the better parent? Even when the mother has a
comparatively lucrative career she is usually seen as a selfish careermonster and therefore bad for the child.
Judge Sorkow ruled that the contract was not baby selling. How
ever, if the baby were stillborn, or the mother miscarried, contractually
the mother only gets $1,000. But if she delivers a perfect, whole, living
baby, which she surrenders for adoption, then and only then is she
entitled to the $10,000. Is that baby selling or not?
Judge Sorkow also rejected the idea that surrogacy contracts exploit
women and create an underclass of breeders. He reached this conclu
sion even though, under the contract, the surrogate mother gets ap
proximately fifty cents an hour. (Mary Beth refused the $10,000. It
was put in escrow and the interest that accrued contractually went to
William Stern.) Now think: who is going to be so economically desper
ate that she will be happy and grateful to get fifty cents per hour? It
will probably be working-class women, impoverished women, and/or
Third World women whose fertility is seen as a resource to be plun
dered by men who want genetically perfect babies in their own sper
matic image. This kind of genetic narcissism means that already living
children who need to be adopted poor, black, minority, disabled,
abused, abandoned, neglected children are not being adopted. As a
society, none of us is adopting such children before we sign surrogacy
contracts, and before we decide to reproduce ourselves biologically.
As a start, we planned a feminist press conference at the Court
house. And we kept going back. We demonstrated with whomever
came to the courthouse to join us, with whomever called to offer their
support. Local mothers of young children. Outraged mothers and fa
thers of grown children. I called at least two hundred feminists to join
us. One liberal feminist expert in reproductive rights and motherhood
said that she couldn't jeopardize her new-found celebrity as a neutral
expert on network talk shows by joining us and appearing to "take
sides." Another liberal feminist said that Mary Beth was too tarred and
feathered and would only hurt our need for "main-stream respectabil
ity." A third liberal feminist said that Mary Beth was causing a lot of
"anxiety" among lesbian co-mothers and infertile women who might
themselves want the option of hiring someone just like her.
Eventually, the case was appealed to the New Jersey Supreme Court.
The Court overturned Judge Sorkow's decision upholding the contract.
It ruled that the contract was against public policy (in terms of baby
selling and baby buying and in terms of the birth mother's right to
change her mind) and could therefore not be enforced. And although
it affirmed the lower court decision granting custody to the Stems the
court nevertheless acknowledged Mary Beth Whitehead's status as the
mother and awarded her visitation rights. (Of course, why reward those
who kidnap children?)
A partial victory at last. But New Jersey is just one state. Many courts
in other states are hearing cases just like Mary Beth Whitehead's. They
could rule in other ways.
Mary Beth Whitehead the woman is brave. She went after what
belongs to all of us. And we must not let her and others like her fight
by themselves for our collective rights.
I call on everyone to join us at a rally tomorrow outside of Noel
Keane's Infertility Center in NYC.
moded and, besides, women had already heard enough of this and it
was depressing. Let's not be simplistic and blame men, they said, since
this analysis "offers so few leverage points for action, so few imagina
tive entry points for visions of change" (Ann Snitow et al., 1983: 30).
Instead, they began to talk about the "Happy Breeders," and the "Happy
Hookers" and the "women who loved it" and those who would love
it if they could only have "the freedom and the socially recognized
space to appropriate for themselves the robustness of what tradition
ally has been male language" (FACT, 1985: 31).
This was familiar, too, but then something strange happened. Those
women who had noted the thread of continuity between liberal patriar
chal discourse and FACT feminism, for example, began to notice that
instead of women mimicking male speech, men began to mimic women.
Gary Skoloff, the lawyer for Bill Stem in the New Jersey surrogacy
case, summed up his court argument by saying: "If you prevent women
from becoming surrogate mothers and deny them the freedom to de
cide . . . you are saying that they do not have the ability to make their
own decisions. . . .It's being unfairly paternalistic and it's an insult to
the female population of this nation" (Sarah Snyder, 1987). Some women
felt that "imitation is the sincerest form of flattery." They began to
testify in favor of things like pornography and surrogacy so that they
could imitate all the men who imitated them. It became difficult to tell
who was imitating whom.
And state legislators began to submit bills advocating surrogate con
tracts with proper regulations, of course that mostly protected the
sperm donor and the brokerage agencies, because feminism was in the
best interests of men, and finally men had realized this. It was as
the feminist humanists had always said: women's liberation means men's
liberation.
Harvey Sorkow, the judge in the initial "Baby M" decision, saw that
Bill Stern, the sperm donor, was overwhelmed with the "intense de
sire" to procreate and even said it was "within the soul." He said the
feminist argument, that an "elite upper-economic group of people will
use the lower-economic group of women to 'make their babies,' " was
"insensitive and offensive" to the Bill Sterns of this world. A man of
feeling himself, he said that Mary Beth Whitehead was a "woman
without empathy." He was very concerned that Mr. Stern experience
his "fulfillment" as a father, and so he gave him Baby Sara whom Mr.
Stern called Baby Melissa ("In the Matter of Baby 'M '," 1987: 72, 73,
106, 96).
Shortly before this, the Attorney General convened a Commission
on Pornography which heard testimony from women who had been
abused in pornography "a parade of self-described victims who tell their
then they would not find the evidence in behavior and actions that
keep women's agency restricted to the states of pornography and sur
rogacy.
It is interesting to see where our right to choose gets defended and
where it doesn't. It is more than coincidental that the liberals have not
defended women's agency in the creation of a culture that defies pa
triarchy, but have chosen to restrict their defense of women's agency
to those very institutions of pornography and surrogacy that uphold
male supremacy.
The choice that radical feminists defend is substantive. We ask what
is the actual content or meaning of a choice that grows out of a context
of powerlessness. Do such choices as surrogacy foster the empower
ment of women as a class and create a better world for women? What
kind of choices do women have when subordination, poverty, and de
grading work are the options available to most? The point is not to
deny that women are capable of choosing within contexts of power
lessness, but to question how much real power these "choices" have.
To paraphrase Marx and apply his words here, women make their own
choices, but they often do not make them just as they please. They do
not make them under conditions they create but under conditions and
constraints that they are often powerless to change. When Marx ut
tered these thoughts, he was acclaimed for his political insight. When
radical feminists say the same, they are blamed for being condescend
ing to women.
The sexual and reproductive liberals would convince us that our
freedom is in abdicating our freedom in the case of surrogacy, the
secured liberty of a contract which "frees" the so-called surrogate to be
artificially inseminated, to be constantly monitored medically, to be paid
only partially if she miscarries, to submit to amniocentesis, to undergo
an abortion if the test reveals the fetus to be genetically or congenitally
abnormal or, conversely, to refrain from aborting if the fetus is normal,
to follow doctors' orders faithfully, to abstain from smoking, drinking,
and drugs not authorized by the physician. Are these the freedoms
that women have died for? Is this the final absurdity of a word and
reality of freedom that has lost all depth and power of meaning?
If this is what female freedom reduces to, we are not far from the
world that Orwell described in 1984 where, in pointing out how thought
is dependent on words, he gave the example of the word "free" which
had been stripped of all political meaning. Thus "free" could only be
used in such statements as "This dog is free from lice" or "This field
is free from weeds." "It could not be used in its old sense of 'politically
free' or 'intellectually free,' since political and intellectual freedom no
longer existed even as concepts" (George Orwell, 1949: 247). Judge Sor-
kow and the liberal lawyers, such as John Robertson and Lori Andrews
whom he echoes in defending surrogacy as "procreative liberty," serve
only to further strip the concept and reality of freedom of any real
political meaning for women. For they help to reinforce the notion that
female freedom is in having "the right" to give up our freedom, our
control over our bodies.
There's a lot of pseudo-feminist rhetoric of freedom and choice that
masks the essential slavery of surrogacy. And there's a conscious ma
nipulation of language and reality that happens when defenders of sur
rogacy use the rhetoric of "procreative liberty," knowing that many
women will resonate with this phrase because of the feminist emphasis
on reproductive choice articulated around the abortion issue. Judge
Sorkow himself equated the "right" to be a surrogate mother with the
right to have an abortion. The feminist fight for legal abortions was the
right to control over our bodies. Let there be no mistake about it
surrogacy is the "right" to give up control of our bodies. And anyone
who doesn't understand this should read the surrogate contracts care
fully, even the ones that have been legislatively laundered to omit the
grosser inequities of the Whitehead-Stern agreement.
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Andrews, Lori. "Alternative Modes of Reproduction." In Reproductive laws for the 1990's,
A briefing handbook. Newark, New Jersey: Women's Rights Litigation Clinic, Rutgers
Law School, 1988.
Coveny, Lai and Kay, Leslie. "A Symposium on Feminism, Sexuality, and Power." Off
Our Backs (January 1987).
FACT (Feminist Anti-Censorship Taskforce et al.). Brief Amiri Curiae, No. 84-3147. In
the U.S. Court of Appeals, 7th Circuit, Southern District of Indiana, 1985.
"In the Matter of Baby 'M '." Superior Court of New Jersey, March 31, 1987.
Kurtz, Howard. "Pornography Panel's Objectivity Disputed." Washington Post, October
15, 1985.
Orwell, George. 1984. New York: New American Library, 1949.
Snitow, Ann, Stansell, Christine, and Thompson, Sharon, eds. Desire: The Politics of Sex
uality. London: Virago, 1983.
Snyder, Sarah. "Baby M Trial Hears Closing Arguments." Boston Globe, March 13, 1987.
Having learned libel law from Kitty MacKinnon I specify that the fol
lowing is my opinion, hyperbole, and came to me in a dream.
Once upon a time, the Goddess of Gender Neutrality, Pregnant Per
son's Mode, who was made a Goddess by Zeus as a reward for signing
the FACT brief,1 flew into the chambers of Judge Sorkow2 and landed
on his Bible which was open to the "begats" part, where Abraham
begat Isaac, Isaac begat Jacob, and on and on, with not a woman around.
The goddess said, "Judge, have I got a deal for you! You can experi
ence what you have been talking about, see what pregnancy really is.
I have a client who wants to father a child, but he doesn't want a
woman to have anything to do with it. I can arrange for you to carry
the baby; and, of course, you will have your expenses paid and receive
'consideration3 for your effort.' "
After several inseminations with a rooster baster, the Judge began
to feel tired all the time. Frequently he had to rush back to chambers,
barely making it, to throw up. He was pleased, however, that he was
going to be a birth-father. By the second trimester, he started feeling
better, and he was excited to feel the baby moving inside him. But the
Feminist Anti-Censorship Task Force brief opposing the MacKinnon Dworkin antipornography ordinance passed in Indianapolis.
2The New Jersey judge who upheld the contract awarding Mary Beth Whitehead's daughter
Sara to William Stern, the sperm donor. The contract was later held to be against public
policy and was voided by the New Jersey Supreme Court.
3Legal term for remuneration in a contract.
PREGNANCY AS THE
ULTIMATE GOTCHA
For those determined to maintain sex discrimination, the ultimate
gotcha is pregnancy a condition impossible to achieve without, as it
were, male input, but one which assigns virtually the entire physiolog
ical burden to women. Thus, pregnancy discrimination cuts clean, con
trolling women without penalty to men. "Men can't get pregnant, you
know," chuckles an insurance executive, justifying maternity sur
der the ERA ineffective, those for "compelling social interests, such as
the protection of the individual's right to privacy, and the need to take
into account objective physical differences between the sexes" (Barbara
Brown et al., 1971: p. 887).
Abortion is not mentioned in this article2 which was intended to
guide the legislative history of the ERA. Still, we are to understand
that it was not just police searches that were to be handily taken care
of elsewhere in the Constitution by the right of privacy, even though
it was admitted that "the position of the right of privacy in the overall
constitutional scheme was not explicitly developed by the Court" in
the 1965 Griswold decision (Barbara Brown, et al., 1971: p. 900).
Perhaps this assurance of the vagueness and elasticity of the new
abortion-privacy constitutional right, "derived from a combination of
various more specific rights embodied in the First, Third, Fourth, Fifth
and Ninth Amendments," tempted liberal women to hope that they
could get by stealth what they dared not demand as a fundamental
right to be secured by the ERA as a requisite for equal treatment under
the law. Certainly, liberal men must have been satisfied with the pros
pect of having abortion legally available, but isolated from any wom
an's claim to bodily integrity or equal protection, and thoroughly under
male control. Then as now, political supporters of the Equal Rights
Amendment could be counted on to welcome a solution that simply
shunted an awkward issue onto another track. Their instincts could
hardly have differed from those of their predecessors of whom Emer
son wrote, "The proponents may have wisely refused to be too explicit
about the laws and institutions the Amendment would reach" (Barbara
Brown et al., 1971: p. 886).
In evident delight at the versatility of his new invention, Emerson
speculated on the many ways in which the right of privacy might be
applied. His 1971 comments clearly suggest the legal basis for its later
use in defending pornography: "This constitutional right of privacy op
erates to protect the individual against intrusion by the government
upon certain areas of thought or conduct, in the same way that the
2In a 1974 letter, Emerson explained why the article did not address abortion:
The main reason we did not discuss the abortion problem in the article was that
abortion is a unique problem for women and hence does not really raise any ques
tion of equal protection. Rather the question is one that is concerned with privacy.
(Senate Subcommittee, 1983 & 1984: p. 635)
If abortion is "a unique problem for women," so is pregnancy. Under this standard
of equal protection defined by men's needs rather than human needs, women would
not be protected from discrimination on the basis of pregnancy, the quintessential form
of sex discrimination.
showitz that abortion could be held legal hostage for pornography. The
rapidity with which Dershowitz made the connection suggests that he
and others envisioned the pornography of pregnancy as well as the
sexual accessibility of women when they championed abortion. Its ma
nipulation against the civil rights antipomography ordinance is like a
promise redeemed, a latent possibility realized.
Dershowitz's clever idea seems to have appeared first in July, 1984,
in a syndicated version of his monthly Penthouse column on the law.
Commenting on the Indianapolis antipornography ordinance, he said:
In the end, the issue is one of choice and freedom much like the debate
over abortion. On one side of the scale are practices that some regard as
immoral and dangerous (pornography and abortion). On the other side
is the right of individuals to choose to engage in such practices. No one
would deny either side the right to try to persuade the other that its
practices are terrible. The real question is whether we are willing to give
one side the prohibitory power of the government to enforce its views
against the other. (Alan Dershowitz, 1984: p. 19)
Webster and rushing into the states with the keen excitement of a gang
attack in which men test themselves against each other in pursuit of a
common enemy. The battle cries are "life" and "choice." The rhetoric
on both sides is pornographic, but to speak of sex discrimination is
treason.
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Brown, Barbara A., Emerson, Thomas I., Falk, Gail, and Freedman, Ann E. (1971, April).
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Krauthammer, Charles. (1987, April 3). The Baby M verdict. Washington Post.
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MacKinnon, Catharine. (1984a). Roe v. Wade: A study in male ideology. In Jay L. Garfield
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Part IV
SEXUALITY
I'd like to talk about the theory underlying the thinking and action of
that part of the contemporary women's movement that identifies itself
as "pro-sex." It includes FACT (the Feminist Anti-Censorship Taskforce), No More Nice Girls, the veterans of Samois, and the editors
and writers of On Our Backs, The Powers of Desire, Coming to Power,
and Pleasure and Danger. I'm talking about all those groups and indi
viduals who have labeled the antipomography feminist movement
"antisex."
The antisex label is in large part an age-old antiwoman slur, origi
nated by men to punish rebellious women for not doing what they
wanted us to do. It's the flip side of that other time-honored slander,
"whore," which is the way men punish women for doing what they
force us to do.
But there is a partial truth in the antisex gibe. If you understand that
sex is socially constructed which we do and if you see that male
supremacy does the constructing which we see and if the sex in
question is the sex men use to establish their dominance over women,
then yes, we're against it. We argue that this sex puts women down,
that it keeps us there, and that in this society, pornography is central
to its construction. I'm saying the antisex label that has been attached
to us really should read: "against the sexual oppression of women."
I'm also suggesting the converse: that knowingly or not, the "pro-
^ h is essay is based on a speech given at the National Conference on Women and the
Law, 1985.
that keep people from acting on or even knowing about their inner
most sexual desires. Unquestioned is the belief that society is unrelent
ingly hostile to sexual expression, especially to sex that centers around
dominance and submission. "Erotophobic" is the adjective that crops
up again and again in pro-sex writing.
I confess that I find this theory perplexing. It sounds fine in the
abstract. It just doesn't apply to the world in which I live. When I walk
down the street on my way to work in the morning, I pass newsstand
after newsstand in which pornography magazines outnumber nonpornographic publications ten to one; I get ogled by businessmen with
briefcases and construction workers in hardhats; I pick up the Daily
News waiting for the Number 1 train, and, while trying to ignore the
Penthouse subway advertisements undressing Princess Diana, I con
front New York Post headlines about the rape and murder of a Harlem
mother of six. I'm beginning to think that there's been a time warp,
and the pro-sex people really inhabit America circa 1955.
Instead of being repressed, sex is being expressed and expressed
and expressed. And it's not the sex of intimacy, mutuality, and equal
ity, which the pro-sex people deride as "vanilla," that's being pro
moted and acted out. It's the supposedly kinky variety the sex of
dominance and subordination. How prevalent is this kind of sex? Con
sider John Briere and Neil Malamuth's 1983 study, which found that
60 percent of a sample of 350 ordinary male students indicated a like
lihood of sexually coercing (read raping) a woman, and Diana Russell's
1978 study, which found that only 7.8 percent of a probability sample
of 930 women had not been sexually harassed or assaulted. If you put
these together, you realize that sexual dominance and subordination
are a majority experience. Obviously the thought police are falling down
on the job.
To be fair, not all the pro-sex people contend that male sexuality is
repressed. Some believe that sexual repression is the peculiar plight of
women, indeed the only noteworthy problem of women. The argu
ment goes like this: Because of our sexual repression, we must unques
tionably make use of any means available to stimulate our desires
sex roles, pornography, whips and chains, swastikas, you name it. It
is suggested that the more our desires and fantasies are like those of
sexist men, the better. If only women can uncover our repressed sexual
fantasies and give free reign to them, so it goes, then we will be liber
ated, too.
This apparently was the rationale behind an exercise Paula Webster
conducted in a workshop at the 1982 Barnard conference on sexuality,
organized by "pro-sex feminists." There she asked the women partici
pating to write down, anonymously, their most forbidden sexual fan
tasies. Some of them went like this: "I want to buy a strap-on dildo";
"I want to fantasize about being a pom star"; "I want to rape a woman";
"I want to sleep with a young girl"; "I want to be fucked into insensi
bility every which way."
I'd like to break a real taboo at this point, and raise a few questions
that the pro-sex people consistently evade. Where do these sadistic and
masochistic fantasies come from? To borrow from Simone de Beauvoir,
are they born or are they made? Are they really agents of our libera
tion? If we are aroused by them, does it automatically follow that we
are empowered by them?
To begin to answer these questions, we have to look beyond the
fantasies themselves to the culture in which they develop. It is not just
coincidence that they imitate the violence men do to women and girls.
Think about the implications for our sexuality of the following statis
tics: More than a third of us were sexually abused as children (Russell,
1984). For many of us, our first sexual experience was a sexual assault.
Forty-four percent of us will be raped (Russell, 1984). The environment
in which we learn about and experience our bodies and sexuality is a
world not of sexual freedom but of sexual force. Is it any surprise that
it is often force that we eroticize? Sadistic and masochistic fantasies
may be part of our sexuality, but they are no more our freedom than
the culture of misogyny and sexual violence that engendered them.
The inescapable fallacy of the sexual repression thesis, as applied to
women by the pro-sex people, is that it looks at sexuality within a
context of largely mythical sexual restrictions and outside an environ
ment of real, ongoing male sexual exploitation and abuse. In doing so,
it turns what is done to women's sexuality by external oppression into
something we do to ourselves in our heads. It suggests that if only
women can break through internal "taboos," we will have sexual free
dom, indeed we will be free. It ignores the real political lesson of wom
en's sexual experience: women cannot have sexual freedom, or any
other kind of freedom, until we dismantle the system of sexual oppres
sion in which we live.
The failure to recognize and confront this system is most evident in
pro-sex thinking about pleasure and danger. It is significant that the
pro-sexers use the word "danger" to describe the less-than-rosy side
of women's sexual experiences. Danger connotes the threat of some
thing harmful. It does not describe the actual denigration, exploitation,
and violence that are done to women daily. Danger is the boogeyman
in the dark. It is not the continuous insults, the leers and entreaties,
the chattel status of our bodies, the real brutal fucks, the rapes, and
the beatings.
By making the sexual use and abuse of women into just a scary
game, the pro-sex people can locate pleasure for women squarely in its
midst. "Pleasure and danger" really mean "pleasure in danger"; "com
ing to power" means "orgasm within a system of power over and power
against women." What is ignored is that the governing sexual system
exists to keep women from exercising real power and experiencing au
thentic pleasure. Within its perimeters, there is no meaningful choice,
real agency, or genuine pleasure.
Acting out the roles of dominance and submission that the system
forces on us is not the same as choosing them. Experiencing arousal
and orgasm in the course of acting out these roles is not defining our
own sexuality. I've come to believe that a human being can learn to
eroticize anything including banging one's head against a brick wall.
I think that this is pretty much what sex has been for women except
that it's often more like being banged against a brick wall. Women
learn to eroticize this abuse in spite of our bodies and against our in
terests. The sexuality our culture offers women today through pornog
raphy is not new, not avant-garde, not revolutionary. It's the same sex
male supremacy has always forced on us: being used as the instrument
of someone else's sexual agency the instrument of someone socially
male.
False assumptions of choice, agency, and pleasure have led the pro
sex people into mindboggling doublethink and utter callousness to
women's condition. I offer two examples. In an article called "Pornog
raphy and Pleasure," which appeared in the 1981 Heresies Sex Issue,
Paula Webster took issue with Women Against Pornography for inter
preting a picture in its slide show as the documentation of a rape.
Webster wrote, "I thought this [characterization] indicated certain biases
about pain and pleasure and preferred positions. Yet the most impor
tant misunderstanding was that a mere representation was spoken of
as a reality." The representation in question was an actual photograph
of a prepubescent girl being anally penetrated by an adult man.
The second example is a quote from Kate Ellis in an article that ap
peared in American Film. She said, "There were always certain kinds of
sex that took place out of the home and certain kinds in the home.
Good women were in the home; bad women were someplace else. If a
man wanted to do 'that,' he'd go to a prostitute. Cable porn can feed
women's imaginations so that 'good girls' will feel free to do what only
'bad girls' used to do." By holding up the condition of the prostitute
as the model of sexual emancipation for all women, Ellis is operating
in the great liberal tradition. She is also utterly denying the reality of
prostitutes' lives. A 1984 study of San Francisco street prostitutes got
at some of it (Mimi Silbert and Ayala Pines, 1984). Of the 200 girls and
women studied, 60 percent reported sexual abuse in childhood and 73
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Eroticizing Women's
Subordination
Sheila Jeffreys
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Resistance
Andrea Dworkin
poor, not to mention if you are too crazy, which a hell of a lot of women
are after what we have all been through, not to mention if you have
been silenced by sexual abuse, not to mention if it began when you
were a child, and you have been fighting, and fighting, and fighting
for your identity and your integrity because somebody tried to destroy
it back then before it was even fully formed. This silence that we live
in is supposed to be okay. We're supposed to accept it.
Then the reality the hard thing, the difficult thing is that men
use sex to express their dominance over us. And that is a very nice
way of putting it. Sex is constructed, as people have said, specifically
to be male dominance. That is what it is in a society that men run and
control and in which we are unequal and sexually subordinated.
I think it is not a surprise in this system that women have learned
to eroticize being powerless. It is a tragedy, but it is not a surprise.
And the beautiful benefit to male dominance of women's learning to
feel sexual pleasure in being powerless is that it makes it a lot easier to
be dominant. The police force isn't what keeps this subject population
subjected.
I don't know why we don't think that we have a right to exist, just
to exist. The pornographers can feel safe walking down the streets. I
don't know why all the stores that sell pornography feel safe day in
and day out, but they're safe. I don't feel safe but they're safe. They're
not worrying about anyone. They're not worrying about us. What are
we going to do to them? We could do plenty but we don't do anything.
Now what I am asking for, pleading for, is a consistent and militant
activism against those institutions and systems of exploitation that hurt
women. I would beg you to consider pornography a primary one of
those institutions. But wherever it is that you want to put your heart
and your spirit and your body in fighting for women's freedom, you've
got to tell someone or show someone. You can't just have it in your
head and be good at heart. You have to be willing to be a little bit
heroic, to take the blows that come when you are, to take the punish
ment you're going to get punishment for being a woman anyway,
you're going to get hurt anyway.
The difference is that when you become politically active, as I'm
sure many of you know, they learn your name. And then they say:
"Get her. Pick that one. Get that one. Make sure." They write down
your name. They understand. They have a list of priorities. And if they
know your name, you're at the top of the list, and not just at the bot
tom. And so you risk something, because you can get punished more.
I am asking you not to let us lose what we have gained through
fifteen years of an effort to understand sexual abuse, an effort to un
derstand the way sexual violation becomes normative in this society,
every effort that we have made to fight the people who are purpose
fully trying to hurt us. There's no ambiguity about it. They're not lying
about it. They're really not. They admit it. They just don't want you to
care ahout it, or do anything about it, or think you can do anything
about it.
We've made tremendous gains. If there is no women's movement
no real, political, organized resistance, active and militant we will not
make more gains. Mirrors can only take you so far. I plead with you
to find some way to reinvigorate your activism against woman-hating,
against sexual violation of women, and not to be part of the women's
movement as a protection racket for sex, and especially for all kinds of
sexual practices that specifically and clearly hurt women.
Sex Resistance in
Heterosexual Arrangements
A Southern Women's W riting Collective
violation. The oddity is, women must learn to desire. To learn such
"natural" desire, women are encouraged to engage in scripted mastur
bation, to create fantasies where none exist, to try "adventurous" and
"new " sexual techniques, to accept pornography in other words, to
seek out as desire the disorientation that accompanies sex.
Attempting to achieve nonacquiesence to male-constructed "needs,"
women learn to recognize even the subtle signs of male desire. Enough
women have learned how to avoid becoming available to it so that
mention of women's headaches is a male joke. So women do have
headaches, and dress and undress in closets, deliberately gain or lose
weight, become alcoholic, develop other drug dependencies, carefully
orchestrate schedules, and attempt to shut down all communications
that might hint at intimacy.
There are some feminists who seem to believe that these activities
of sex avoidance represent the quaint subterfuges of a long-dead past
but they are wrong. This dismissive view may be a function of some
social privilege that most ordinary women do not have. We believe the
life of sex avoidance is the reality for many women in heterosexual
arrangements.
Women's historical sex avoidance can, with feminist consciousness,
become an act of sex resistance. The sex resister understands her act as
a political one. Her goal is not only personal integrity for herself but
political freedom for all women. She resists on three fronts: she resists
male-constructed sexual "needs," she resists the misnaming of her act
as prudery, and she especially resists the patriarchy's attempt to make
its work of subordinating women easier by "consensually" construct
ing her desire in its own oppressive image.
The patriarchy attempts to reach within women to fuck/construct us
from the inside out. This attempt assumes many forms, such as sex
"education" and sex advice. Popular advice columnists counsel women
to use pornography, pornographic fantasy, and sex toys in order to
"enhance" their sexual lives. Such advice, which relies on the patriar
chy's account of sexual "normalcy," never questions the practice of
sexuality and the ways in which this practice precludes women's right
ful options, including the option of sex avoidance. The choice to avoid
sex is never perceived as valid. Women are schooled to "choose" por
nography and pornographic lives under the threat of losing their pri
mary relationships with husbands or boyfriends. They are taught by
male "experts" to desire male-constructed sexual pleasure.
The normalcy of such coercion of desire makes untrue the claim that
our sexuality is our own. As long as the price of not choosing sex is
what it presently is for any woman, sex is in fact compulsory for all
women.
it. The actual changes feminist sex therapy effects in real women's lives
that I have observed in my own clinical practice are welcome and em
powering ones.
Whether we uncritically adopt the male-constructed model of sex
uality and act on the assumption that all sex is good sex, or take the
opposite tack, avoiding sex out of an aversion to the subordination
under which we live and its construction as sexuality, we are acting in
response to the reality of patriarchy. Other options are possible. Social
change does not suddenly emerge from nothingness; it evolves often
through a series of social mutations. Some of these mutations are fem
inist and some are not; we need to foster the feminist elements, and
use them, discarding the rest as we redefine our practice of sexuality
through analysis, application, and reanalysis. We cannot afford to wait
and do not need to wait for the revolution. We have not waited to
become assertive, to begin to analyze and change the politics of child
care and housework, and to organize women's groups to challenge and
end pornography, battery, and rape. Sheila Jeffreys spoke about shar
ing sexual fantasies, including disturbing rape fantasies, with other
feminists with the goal of examining these fantasies, understanding
their origin, and ultimately transcending them. A consciousness-raising
format might lend itself well to development of a feminist praxis of
sexuality.
My own passionate opposition to pornography and commitment to
the antipomography movement is fueled not only by my anger at men's
rape, abuse, and sexual subordination of women, and their control of
our lives and our sexuality. It is fueled also by my hope that women
can evolve and develop our own model of sexuality based not on a
submission/domination dynamic but on a mutual exchange between
equals. Both FACT and WAS suffer failure of vision: FACT in its in
ability to imagine an alternative to patriarchal sex, and WAS in its in
ability to imagine that creating alternatives is a form of resistance to
the patriarchy.
All feminists are "socialization failures." If the patriarchy functioned
perfectly, we would not exist with our current consciousness. Some
how, some of us have managed to slip through the cracks and avoid
the attempts of the patriarchy to brainwash us completely. Conse
quently, we have the ability to imagine a different sexuality and to
struggle to create it. We must continue to question our assumptions
and, through feminist analysis, to detoxify ourselves from a culture
that hates women. Through these experiences we are formulating new
ways of living and being. Deconstructing patriarchal sexuality and ab
staining from patriarchal sex may be a stage in the articulation and
creation of a feminist sexuality, in the same way that black separatism
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The sexual liberals create myths to disguise and distort the effect of
exploitative, abusive behavior on the victims of incest and child sexual
abuse. These myths serve to absolve both the society and the abuser
from accountability, placing the responsibility for the continued
oppression of the victim on the victim herself. These myths distort our
perception of reality, so that those being harmed do not know they are
being hurt, and those perpetrating the harms do not believe they are
hurting others.
As a feminist and as a survivor of incest, which includes child-rape
and the making of child pornography, I am naming the criminal acts
that liberals distort and deny. Incest and the sexual use of any child by
an adult, whether the adult is the parent, the parent figure, or a pe
dophile, is a crime. The crimes are many in a single act of sexual vio
lation. There are always assault and battery. There are weapons tan
gible and intangible. For the child, the intangible weapon is emotional
extortion. Another weapon is the threat of death, seldom articulated
by the child rapist, yet feared by the victim.
Since 1980, as a leader in the anti-incest movement, and as a thera
pist working specifically with victims, I have heard the pain of thou
sands of adult women survivors of incest, of child sexual abuse, and
of battering. I've experienced tremendous sadness as I learned of the
sexual self-mutilation that some female sex abuse victims ritualize, trying
to make it right. This behavior, an actual or symbolic reenactment of
what was done to the child victim, is often an abortive attempt to heal
the adult. I am infuriated when I think of the thousands of women and
children who attempt suicide as the only way to end their sexual abuse.
* Dedicated to Linda Marchiano.
Copyright 1990, Valerie Heller.
Myths are not just untrue facts. They are unproved collective beliefs
that are accepted uncritically and used to justify a social institution.
The social institution, in this case, is the oppression of women through
sexual subordination. This includes the practice of incest and child sex
and can therefore be abused again. Some adult survivors of incest and
child sexual abuse internalize this myth. As if on automatic, these women
act as though the protocol for any interpersonal interaction requires
sex, which they will obsessively pursue if others do not initiate it.
Another liberal myth is that the victim of sexual abuse really wants
it because she just lies there and takes it. This is a justification of the
condition of the sexually abused child, who is taught to lie still and
take it. In adulthood, this myth reinforces learned patterns of submis
sion: survivors think they can't say no to the sexual needs or advances
of a person they think they like or care about. To say no means not
being believed, facing the devastating fear of annihilation and rejection
by another person. To say no requires that the survivor have confi
dence in what she perceives reality to be and what she knows her
needs to be.
As adults, some survivors think that they are resisting abuse by lying
still and taking it; it isn't true. The internalization of this myth in sex
ually abused adult women is demonstrated by the masochist who con
tends that the "bottoms" have power and the prostitute who believes
that she has control over her tricks. These women are not resisting;
instead, their conditioning of abuse is being reinforced. The fears and
feelings from childhood are being reactivated. Our oppression contin
ues each time we lie still and take it.
The traditional myth applied specifically to survivors is that they
abstain from sexual interaction because there is something wrong with
them. The truth is that for some survivors, abstaining from sex is part
of the recovery process. The decision to abstain is not usually a delib
erate one; the survivor does not one day sit down and decide no longer
to be sexually active. Instead, it is an intrapsychic decision that emerges
from the survivor's realization that as a child, she or he was sexually
violated. This often sudden awareness and acceptance of the truth jolts
the survivor's reality. To be sexual at that time could activate deep
conflicting feelings, disturbing memories, and fears. The adult may
reexperience the earlier trauma in the form of flashbacks, with periods
of confusion, and sometimes in regressed states. At the time of self
disclosure, a great amount of working through must occur. It is appro
priate for survivors to abstain, for the period of time they choose, as
part of their healing. Remember that some survivors have been "on
call" to service someone sexually ever since they were little children.
To abstain from sexual activity may be the first time in a survivor's life
that she is able to explore her own sexuality.
This last myth pertains only to survivors. Some of the time we be
lieve that by experiencing the intensity of our sexual energy, in the
present day, it will destroy us. That it will make us disappear. This is
Part V
THE MALE
BACKLASH
Suffer women once to arrive at equality with you, and they will at that
moment become your superiors.
Cato, Roman Statesman, 195 B.C.
The second wave of the women's liberation movement was bom a brief
twenty-two years ago. A large segment of this movement was gener
ated by left-wing women who painfully discovered that their male
comrades dismissed their struggle as trivial compared to the "larger
issues" of classism, racism, capitalism, and imperialism. The male
mentality could not, or would not, grasp the premise that women, as
a sex, suffered from discrimination, rape, and battering, whether lo
cated in the gilded, cages of suburbia or the slums of the inner city.
After many bitter confrontations, these women came to understand that
men, whether Marxists or reactionary warmongers, were equally reluc
tant to forego their male prerogatives. So they struck out for them
selves, and created the radical arm of the women's liberation move
ment.
When the sit-ins, street theater, antiwar demonstrations, and stu
dent rebellions dissipated in a conservative climate no longer condu
cive to their protests, the revolutionaries of the 1960s and early 1970s
exchanged Karl Marx, Mao, and Che Guevera for the teachings of East
ern gurus, Werner Ehrhart (EST founder), the American Civil Liberties
Union, and the Human Potential Movement. They moved from collec
tive freedom to freedom of the spirit, from group action to self
assertiveness, from the rights of the oppressed to the individual right
of Nazis and pornographers, and from radical change to superficial re
form. The radicals of the 1960s became the liberals of the 1970s and
1980s and in the process undermined the work of the women's move
ment.
For a while "women's liberation" was a household word and it was
winning burden, will no longer use men as "security objects," and will
give men more time to spend with the children. The woman in control
of her life will not feel the need to control her husband and, in case of
divorce, will relieve him of alimony and child support. And, most im
portant, since men traditionally make "the pass" and expose their "fragile
egos" to the ."emotional hurt" of refusal, the sexually free women will
do the asking and men will have the opportunity to do the rejecting.
But, Farrell warned, "Men cannot be expected to participate in these
changes unless women's liberation is redefined as a two-sex movement
which provides enough benefits for men to make the change worth
while" (Warren Farrell, 1975: p. 161).
What changes is Farrell talking about? Farrell and his followers man
aged not to notice that working women have always shared the breadwinning burden and, in today's standard two-income home, they do
so more than ever. They ignored the fact that men have always availed
themselves of women's income and labor as much for their own secu
rity as the reverse; that men have always had the greater need to ex
ercise control over either financially dependent or independent women;
that they rarely use leisure time with children, rarely meet alimony and
child-support obligations and that men, traditionally in the driver's seat,
more often than not humiliate and reject women sexually and other
wise. Farrell's platform for a two-sex movement was carried a step fur
ther by the Berkeley Men's Center Manifesto. It proposed that "human
liberation" is the only ultimate goal because "all liberation movements
are equally important; there is no hierarchy in oppression" (Joseph Pleck
& Jack Sawyer, 1974: p. 174). Clearly, these men had not the slightest
understanding of what the women's movement was all about. Had they
bothered to learn, they might know that movement women never sought
to entice men with rewards nor make compromises in exchange for
their support. Had they bothered to investigate sexist history, they might
know that, vis-a-vis men and women, there has always existed a hier
archy of oppression, that even the most subjugated and enslaved men
have always kept women in a state of subordination.
The concept of male liberation has no basis in history because men,
as a sex, were never oppressed within age-old established patriarchal
ideology, which still controls our social structure and its institutions.
Consequently, male liberationists invented their own agenda, which
would allow them to continue to enjoy their existing advantages at the
expense of women's existing disadvantages. And their goals for human
liberation more cooptation than a mutually beneficial alliance could
only dull the sharp edges of sexist politics to nonthreatening ineffec
tiveness. Their platform merely reinforced the entrenched sexist status
quo. And when women would not buy their proposals, would not ac
cept them as our benefactors nor allow them to piggy-back off our
movement, male liberationists did not retreat graciously; they became
angrier and nastier.
Farrell reiterates his concern for "emotionally hurt" men and adds that
sexual rejection compels them "to turn women into sex-objects," hence
to pornography, which "offers men access to women without rejec
tion." He also joined the countless attacks on Shere Hite's Women and
Love, a book which identifies women's general dissatisfaction with the
men in their lives, because it presents "no category for female abuse of
men." In short, it is unyielding women who harbor a death wish toward
BACKLASH: GENDER-NEUTRAL
About two years ago I was notified of the formation of a committee
of male rape survivors. Its purpose was to raise public awareness of
the problems of the rape of males which, the notice said, is far more
common than people realize, citing statistics which indicated that a
quarter or more of all rape victims in New York City are males. The
committee hoped it would not be dominated by one gender. This ap
peared to be an invitation for women to join because the problem of
rape is a concern for both men and women. The stated goal of the
committee is to work for "gender-neutral" assault statutes.
Was this group simply looking for equal protection under the law or
was it telling us that male rape is not an issue of sexism because women
also rape men? We know and they know, of course, that it is gay and
heterosexual men, not women, who rape men. This fact, however, does
not make male rape gender-neutral. Men rape other men because they
feminize their victims within heterosexual patterns of dominance and
11 do not wish to include Men Against Pornography or Northeast Men's Emerging Net
work (NEMEN) in the Farrell category. These groups, and perhaps others, support and
contribute to women's efforts and try to solve their own problems without looking for
benefits or compromises.
BACKLASH:
THE POSTFEMINIST ERA
The myth that in this postfeminist era women have achieved their
desired goals has gained credibility with the public. Women, we are
told, now compete with men on equal terms for status, power, and
I worry about the mental "help" professionals who take every public
problem and wash it into a private one. I worry, too, about lay people
who spin-dry each social illness until it looks like an emotional disease. I
worry about the rest of us who wring every fear into a phobia. (Ellen
Goodman, 1981: p. 13)
The most recent within this genre is Dr. Toni Grant's Being a Woman,
subtitled "Fulfilling Your Femininity and Finding Love." Dr. Grant, a
clinical psychologist and adviser on her nationally syndicated radio talk
show, "The Toni Grant Program," moves the source of the problem
from the female psyche directly to the damaging influence of the wom
en's movement or, as she puts it, "the big lies of women's libera
tion." What are these big lies? They are the notions that women pro
fessionals can "have it all," that "accomplishment and education" are
advantages, and there is merit in the "grandiose" idea of women's
"unrealized potential." In the world according to Grant, these myths
have produced misguided Amazons who delight in man bashing and
dominating men. Women's strength, she goes on, must be tempered
with qualities attributed to the mother, madonna, and courtesan arche
types. Mother is for caring and nurturing, madonna is for virtue and
morality, and courtesan is for sexual allure. She advises that "the in
tegrated women must assimilate all these aspects of womanhood into
her personality to experience herself as a full woman" (Toni Grant,
1988). Men, however, who are just fine the way they are, are exempt
from any responsibility in their relationships with women. It strikes me
that any woman who accepts this double standard and attempts to
assimilate these impossibly contradictory aspects, would wind up a
tragically unbalanced, splintered, fractured, schizophrenic personality.
The previously mentioned how-to, self-improvement books progressed
from keeping women "barefoot and pregnant" to keeping them "neu
rotic and miserable." But Toni Grant's Being a Woman (1988) is the most
virulent, in its attempt to return us to the dark ages of submission and
acceptance of our socially imposed inferiority.
BACKLASH: A REACTION
TO STRENGTH AND
DETERMINATION
Retaliation from right-wing elements against the women's move
ment is neither sudden nor surprising. It is an extension of the tradi
tional designation of women as inferiors; it is the result of the contin
ued assertion that subordination, ordained by God and biology, is
women's destiny. It is straightforward, unabashed misogyny; it is ob
and impact of the women's movement. Why not then select a combi
nation of these usages to formulate our own definition? For example:
(a) Liberal backlash: The hostile counteraction resulting from frustrated
liberal attempts to neutralize the force and impact of a particular radical
group or movement, (b) Reaction: behavior of male liberationists who
balk and become openly antagonistic when female liberationists reject
them as allies, (c) Action: Acrimonious backlash against the women's
movement resulting from failed attempts by progressives to neutralize
women's demands for radical change.
The survival of women's movements is founded on periodic revolts
by women over the centuries. Their persistent demand for liberation
has given us a history, an identity as full human beings, and hope for
a nonbiased future. Our history, identity, and hope consolidate us as
an ongoing force. The many faces of backlash substantiate the truth
that feminism is not dead, cannot be ignored, is effective, has a steady
impact, and that, one way or another, it will win.
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Dutch, Robert A., ed. (1962). Roget's thesaurus, Rev. ed. New York: St. Martin's Press.
Farrell, Warren. (1975). The liberated man. New York: Bantam Books.
Farrell, Warren. "Gender." Los Angeles Times. (November, 1987).
Goodman, Ellen, (1981). At large. New York: Fawcett Crest.
Grant, Toni. (1988). Being a woman. New York: Random House.
Hayakawa, S. (1968). Modern guide to synonyms. New York: Funk and Wagnall.
Pleck, Joseph H. and Jack Sawyer, eds. (1974). Men and masculinity. Englewood Cliffs,
New Jersey: Prentice-Hall.
Stern, Jess and Lawrence Urdang, eds. (1973). The Random House dictionary of English
language. New York: Random House.
Liberals, Libertarianism,
and the Liberal Arts
Establishment
Susanne Kappeler
There has been a very interesting shift in the use of the words liberal
and libertarian in recent sexual politics. In my experience, a shift in the
usage of words, names, and labels is never insignificant. I consider it
significant, for instance, that in public usage and in the media, our
movement has become the women s movement or feminism, where we
originally called it the women's liberation movement. And this change
in name has accompanied an attempt to obliterate the political aims of
the WLM, namely the liberation of women from oppression, so that
now the terms woman and feminist have apparently become inter
changeable and have replaced the term women's libber.
While the terms liberal, libertarian and libertine all have something to
do with liberty, they have acquired different connotations and of course
have different histories. While a libertine was originally a free thinker
on religion, the so-called free thinking of the Marquis de Sade has given
the word a new meaning, which the Oxford English Dictionary (OED)
lists as licentious (man). Similarly, the term libertarian, defined by the
Oxford English Dictionary as a "believer . . . in free will (opp. necessitar
ian); advocate of liberty," has acquired the taint of a somewhat exces
sive demand for liberty, which might account for the change in con
temporary sexual politics from sexual libertarian to sexual liberal: signaling
a more moderate and measured commitment to liberty. By contrast,
the term liberal still has a pretty nice ring about it, of generosity (as in
a liberal dose of brandy), of open-mindedness, absence of prejudice,
and devotion to democratic reforms. Few remember the meaning which
my OED lists as the first and original sense of liberal: "fit for a gentle
man." It adds that this use is now rare, except in liberal education
(Harold Offerdal, 1986; Mazer Mahmood, 1986). And along with all
this comes a liberal invitation to all, including women, children and
minorities, to share this sexual feast, to become sexual consumers
at least in (the) theory.
In practice, this liberal generosity, this open-minded and unpreju
diced democratic reform to extend what is fit for a gentleman to com
moners and women and blacks, is liberal in a different sense, too: not
rigorous or literal. For this pleasure so rigorously structured around
object-choice, where the chosen object is a demoted subject, could not
exist in a democracy of equals where everyone was fit to be a subject
and consumer: there would be no one left to be chosen and consumed
as object.
What enables this discourse around object-choice and desire is far
more than gay liberation politics. It is the orthodox structures of west
ern patriarchal thinking, centered around the individual and his free
dom. The same structure is visible in our economic and cultural entrepreneurism and consumerism, and of course in what is so appropriately
called the "liberal arts." It is the arts establishment which conducts the
most vigorous defense of a "principle" of freedom of expression which
gives license to the enormous industry of culture and pornography,
without ever so much as referring to the industrialized and commercial
form of the expression which it defends. Freedom of expression, like
all the human rights formulated by nations and united nations, con
cerns the rights of the (male) individual vis-a-vis the state and safe
guards against the state's encroachment upon individual personal free
dom. It does not, as women the world over know, safeguard the rights
of the individual against the individual. And while the latter is pro
tected by the law of the nation in the case of men, the law, as we have
seen, also regulates the "rights" of men to "privacy," i.e., to women,
and thus encroaches directly on the freedom and rights of women
themselves (Andrea Dworkin, 1987; Catharine MacKinnon, 1983).
The freedom of expression defended by the arts establishment, by
FACT, and by other defenders of pornography is the freedom to pro
duce and market "expression" industrially and commercially, not the
right of the individual to hold and express views and opinions and to
seek information. Indeed, the capitalist production of "expression" can
be said to militate directly against the individual's right to express and
seek to obtain a diversity of information and opinion. In Britain at this
moment, the government itself is launching an attack on the freedom
of expression and access to information, by a proposed clause, Clause
28, which would prohibit local government from
(a) promoting] homosexuality or publishing] material for the promotion
of homosexuality;
(b) promoting] the teaching in any maintained school of the acceptability
It does not even matter what is the political orientation of those who
practice in the arts establishment: the very conception of the arts en
sures the continuation of its fundamental liberal individualism, the
maintenance of a principle founded on what is fit for a gentleman.
Thus, one of the major Marxist critics in Britain tells us that
artists need a guaranteed freedom to communicate what, in terms of their
own understanding of their work, needs to be communicated. This sounds
like, and is, a definition of individual freedom. (Raymond Williams, 1982:
pp. 124-125)
REFERENCES
Dworkin, Andrea. (1987). Intercourse. London: Seeker and Warburg.
MacKinnon, Catharine A. (1983, Summer). Feminism, Marxism, method and the state:
Toward feminist jurisprudence. Stgns 8, no. 4, 635-58.
Mahmood, Mazher. (1986 August 3). Scandal of Britons who buy young boys for 3/
night. The Sunday Times, p. 3.
Offerdal, Harold, (1986, August 24). The child victims of pom. The Observer, p. 6.
Rights of Women Policy Group and Lesbian Custody Group. (1988, January). "Outlaw
ing the lesbian community: A briefing paper." London.
Watney, Simon. (1986). The banality of gender. In Robert Young (Ed.). Sexual difference
The Oxford Literary Review (special issue) 8, nos. 1-2. p. 4.
Williams, Raymond. (1982). Communications. 3rd ed. Harmondsworth: Pelican.
In case you missed it, that ignoble equating of same-sex sex acts
with obscenity was the "liberal" position.
Tribe's single-minded privacy tactic might have seemed expedient
and pragmatic given the Supreme Court's historic hostility to homosex
uality.5 Legally, however, the tactic was sheer sophistry, claiming a
shield for criminal sodomy only "in the most private of enclaves," the
home (motel rooms, presumably, did not qualify), but completely con
ceding the state's power to delegitimatize homosexuality however and
wherever else it pleases: "There is thus no cause for worry," argued
Tribe, that a favorable ruling from the Supreme Court "would cast doubt
on any administrative programs that states might fashion to encourage
traditional heterosexual unions."6 That could only be reassuring if one
is a heterosexual man to whom women are invisible. And in the age
of AIDS, what exactly did he mean by "any administrative programs"?
Politically, Tribe's argument gets even worse. Consider, for in
stance, the fact that for women in heterosexual unions the home is the
most dangerous place on earth; it's where women get raped most, as
saulted most, and killed most. Moreover, Tribe's privacy-based argu
ment embarked on a slippery slope that could seriously erode the state's
ability to protect individuals from injury such as incest. Essentially, by
appealing narrowly to the privacy right, Tribe's line of argument paid
tribute to some linchpin precepts of male supremacy (among them,
men's right to sexual release, in fantasy and in fact, no matter at what
cost to anyone else) and opened not a single area of jurisprudential
discourse that might conceivably defy the forces that keep homophobia
alive and well.
One does not need a great legal mind to grasp that if your claim to
legal entitlement rests on a self-interested sellout of others who are
powerless, you've got a craven and shabby case.
4Laurence H. Tribe, et al., "Brief for Respondent," Bowers v. Hardwick 478 U .S., 16.
5In a 1976 case called Doe v. Commonwealth's Attorney 425 U.S. 901 (1976), the high court
flatly rejected a challenge to Virginia's sodomy law.
6Tribe, et al., p. 24.
have bought the notion that a liberal democracy and its companion, a
"free" press, actually thrive here in the United States.
Please understand that I am aware there can be and have been abuses
of censorship. You've no doubt heard the argument. If we allow cen
sorship, it will get us first. And the Customs Tariff has been used against
the wrong materials. But sometimes liberals and their partners, anticensorship feminists, can be misleading about how dangerous these
abuses are. For example, many of you have probably read or heard
that the Canadian antipornography documentary, Not a Love Story, has
been banned by the Ontario Film Review Board. That is not true. The
censor board did decide that the film should not get a license for public
screenings, but that anybody could see the film, provided they agreed
to have a discussion period afterward. Not a bad idea, actually. So all
of you who think Not a Love Story has been banned have been lied to
by pornography apologists who want you to believe that censorship is
the worst thing on earth. Look at women's lives and think about how
ridiculous that claim is. I want to add that Not a Love Story is one of the
most widely viewed National Film Board movies ever made in my
country. Some ban.
I will agree that the Customs Tariff has been administered, shall we
say, unevenly. After the court decision I described earlier, the Customs
Tariff was supplanted by a customs memorandum that offers what I
call a laundry list of all the depictions that are not allowed in the coun
try. Among the proscribed depictions are the celebration of incest, the
sexualization of rape those are inspired by feminist antipomography
activity as well as other depictions that have fallen under our obscen
ity law, which, in our country, tends to target erect penises and pene
tration. Some call obscenity anti-sex. If you define sex as the penis, I
guess it is.
Anyway, included in the list is depictions of anal sex. This element
of the tariff has been used against gay male sex education about AIDS.
I'll give you an amazing example, just to show how laws sometimes
miss the point that what we are after is subordination. The customs
officials perused one gay male magazine and read a description of a
spectacularly subordinating experience one man had on his hands and
knees sucking a man off. The description didn't bother the customs
officials. What did vex their standard was a letter to the editor that
asked how to have anal sex without getting AIDS. After Customs was
through with the magazine, the description of fellatio was intact while
the letter to the editor, and the editor's valuable response was deleted.
Very bad.
Fortunately, this case was taken to court, and eventually, anal sex
was removed from Customs' list of undesirables. But my point is this.
But we are having a harder time with another liberal value: freedom of
sex. You will have heard these values espoused in the pornography
debate in that wishy-washy claim that it is not the sex in pornography
we mind; it's the violence. You've heard this, haven't you? We love
sex. We hate violence. Well, all of that doesn't take into account that
the violence is there for sex, and it completely avoids the conditions of
women used in that so-called "just sex" type of pornography.
We found out how dangerous that avoidance can be in a recent ob
scenity decision made in Canada. We had a judge who had obviously
been listening to those feminists who tout the "give us sex but spare
us the violence" line. He had been listening to all those liberal plati
tudes about consent, and in a mad moment decided that he would look
at a picture and decide on its face whether it was obscene. And he
looked at the pornography and said, "This is not obscene because I see
consent on the screen. I see it in the woman smiling." Guess what
movie he was looking at? Deep Throat.
So we have a case in Canada in which Deep Throat has been judged
not to be obscene. Why? For a number of reasons: Because the judge
was looking only at the images on the screen instead of considering
the practice of subordination on which pornography thrives. [Linda
"Lovelace" Marchiano's book Ordeal tells the brutal truth about Deep
Throat.] Because he was listening to pseudofeminists who were refus
ing to analyze sexuality. Because he was listening to pseudofeminists
who consider prostitution a profession freely chosen instead of an in
stitution of sexual abuse. Because in some cases in Canada, these pseudo
feminists have actually gone to court to defend pornography against
obscenity charges.
It strikes me that our movement has to confront these tendencies.
We have to be able to say that speech is not more important than wom
en's lives. We have to stop celebrating "consent" when we address
prostitution and start noticing the gender breakdown in the so-called
sex trade, especially the painfully obvious questions about who is buy
ing and who is being sold. And we have to avoid the easy liberal path
to pro-sex politics and be sex-critical instead. These views may not be
especially popular in our hypersexualized culture, but they are the wave
of feminism's future.
REFERENCES
Knafka, C. L. (1985). Sexually explicit, sexually violent and violent media: The effects of
multiple naturalistic exposure and debriefing on female viewers. Unpublished Ph.D.
dissertation, University of Madison, Wisconsin.
The American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) and the Canadian Civil
Liberties Association (CCLA) have long been considered the defenders
of civil liberties in North America. Siding with disadvantaged groups
and supporting unpopular positions, civil libertarians (CLers) attracted
their share of hostility as they struggled to carve out a sphere for polit
ical and social protest during the great struggles for liberty of the last
century. Several of these struggles directly involved feminist issues,
such as Margaret Sanger's fight for birth control in the 1910s and 1920s,
or issues important to women, such as the right to organize in labor
unions.
But the traditional male domination of the ACLU and the CCLA has
led them, in recent years, to make political choices that primarily serve
men, and, as a corollary, big business. A quick rundown of the current
ACLU-CCLA client list reveals that CLers now represent rapists and
pornographers as well as Nazis and the tobacco industry. These choices
have generated huge and painful splits between the women who have
decided to stay with the CLers and those who have felt that they could
not work within such organizations. These splits have been all the more
painful because many of the women who have made the decision to
withdraw have defined feminism as a matter of women's civil liberties,
and have always felt strongly about the defense of civil liberties of
both women and men. Indeed, some of these women have decided
that the present CL positions on issues relating to women are a per
version of the meaning of civil liberties, and having left the CLers re
luctantly, are now deciding that it is time to reclaim this part of their
movement.
There are probably many reasons for the emerging antifeminism of
the CLers. One explanation is purely structural: the Skokie marches
split the ACLU (and to a lesser extent, the CCLA), and one of the
Copyright 1990, Kathleen A. Lahey.
Pornography
As the controversy over pornography intensifies, civil libertarians
are finding it more difficult to conceal their essential antifeminism as
well as their conservative alliances. The 1986 media campaign against
the antipomography movement illustrates these alliances.
In 1985, the Fraser Committee on Pornography and Prostitution
(constituted by the federal Liberal government, which lost power shortly
afterward) reported on its deliberations (Fraser Committee, 1985). Its
findings and recommendations were dramatically different from those
of the United States Report on Obscenity and Pornography in 1971: in
its recommendations the Fraser Committee recognized the harms of
pornography. It advocated a range of legal methods of addressing that
harm, including the enactment of various kinds of civil remedies and
the revision of administrative guidelines (including the customs tariff
and the film board guidelines) in order to combat the importation of
pornography (Fraser Committee, 1985). Canada imports 97 percent of
all pornography that is consumed domestically; 85 percent comes from
the United States (Fraser Committee, 1985). In 1986, the report of the
United States Attorney General's Commission on Pornography came
to many of the same findings and recommendations as the Fraser Com
mittee: pornography harms women in a variety of ways, and a range
of legal remedies including civil remedies should be adopted to deal
with that harm (Fraser Committee, 1985).
Although civil libertarians in Canada had remained fairly silent in
the face of the Fraser report, they were alarmed by the United States
report, doubtless because they knew that the United States report would
have much more influence than the Canadian report in both the United
States and Canada: such is the nature of cultural domination. Even
before the United States report was released, however, it was clear that
it would attract considerable public and government attention in Can
ada, and therefore Canadian pornographers led by Ray Argyle de
veloped a major pro-pomography media campaign.
Ray Argyle is the chair of Argyle Communications, Inc., a Toronto
public relations firm. Early in 1986, he contacted his United States af
filiate, Gray and Company of Washington, D.C., to propose a major
media campaign to "educate" North Americans about the threat to free
speech posed by the antipomography movement. As a result of this
proposal, Gray and Company entered into a contract for $900,000 with
the Council for Periodical Distributors Associations. According to the
contract proposal, the project would have the following purposes:
1. to discredit the C om m ission on Pornography and an tip o m o g rap h y
w orkers;
2. to create a m ajor coalition of individuals and organizations opposed
to the C o m m ission 's findings and recom m endations, including "a c a
dem icians, civil lib ertarian s" and others; and
3. to "la u n ch a series of preem ptive strikes against the C om m ission 's
report, using 'ad vertorials' in m ajor national new spapers and m aga
zines, placing sp o kesp erso ns on national and local television and ra
dio new s, public affairs, and talk show s, holding a series of new s
con feren ces in m ajor c itie s," and lobbying. (Gray and C om pany, 1986)
Overall, this campaign has been designed to defend the publishers and
distributors of pornography by enabling them to hide behind rhetoric
about freedom of speech, since even the principals of Gray and Com
pany recognized that public attitudes toward pornography were nega
tive and it would not be easy for pornographers to get public support
if they made free speech claims on their own behalf. And part of the
strategy was to recruit civil libertarians as spokespersons in order to
legitimize the campaign especially feminist civil libertarians, who
would give this campaign credibility among feminists.
The Council for Periodical Distributors is a member of the Media
Coalition, along with the American Booksellers Association, the Asso
ciation of American Publishers, and the National Association of College
Stores. Most of these groups, joined by the ACLU and others to make
their interests appear to be local, filed an amicus brief written by Mi
chael Bamberger supporting Paul Ferber in the Supreme Court case
testing the New York child pornography law. (Michael Bamberger is
the lawyer for the Media Coalition.) Most of these groups, with a few
local ones added, again represented by Michael Bamberger with the
ACLU as amicus, brought the Indianapolis action testing the civil rights
ordinance against pornography (Catharine MacKinnon, 1986).
As far as anyone knows, this is the first time that antifeminists and
conservatives have engaged in such "major, concerted, intentional, and
funded" opposition to the feminist antipornography movement (Ca
tharine MacKinnon, 1986). Not only was the contract executed, but Gray
and Company has been very active on its clients' behalf: the list of
"themes" in the memorandum describes precisely the substance of press
stories and television shows (Catharine MacKinnon, 1986).
And there is more to this story. In the wake of the media smear
campaign, the Ontario Liberal government announced that its film re
view board might have to be dismantled in order to "adjust" the Ca
nadian legal regime to the dictates of an impending free-trade agree
ment with the United States. This announcement was made despite
repeated assurances that Canada will be allowed to retain its cultural
self-determination even if such a free-trade agreement is executed
(Kathleen Lahey, 1986). To the list of essential liberal freedoms, then,
feminists learned that we must also add free trade. And feminists dar
ing to question the effect that a free-trade agreement will have on the
availability of pornography in Canada have been accused of media hype
and hysteria, with politicians insisting that Canada's self-determination
on this issue will be protected by Article 20 of the GATT, which pro
tects local sovereignty from imperialist trade conduct in matters of "public
morality and safety."
Rape
Civil libertarians have also actively opposed feminist efforts to re
form rape laws. In the 1970s, Canadian feminists, like feminists every
where, engaged in detailed studies of the operation of rape laws in an
attempt to figure out why this crime against women went largely un
reported, and, even when it was reported, why it usually went unpun
ished. Feminists discovered that the nature of the evidence that was
considered to be admissible in rape investigations and trials had a lot
to do with whether women even wanted to report having been raped,
let alone go through a trial: women could be examined in detail about
their past sexual history by police, judges, and defense lawyers. The
abuses that women suffered under those evidentiary rules are now leg
endary, and in some jurisdictions, legal history. Until recently, Canada
has been one such jurisdiction, for the federal government enacted a
series of reform measures in the 1970s and 1980s to make this kind of
evidence inadmissible.
Then Canada adopted its ERA, a set of constitutional equality guar
antees which not only give sex equality explicit constitutional status,
but which also expressly state that any measure designed to ameliorate
the condition of any disadvantaged group including groups disad
vantaged by sex are not to be considered as constituting sex discrim
ination. Ever since the ERA came into effect (in 1985) the largest num
ber of cases which have raised charter defenses have been rape cases,
with rapists arguing that the past sexual history rules of the reformed
rape laws violate their rights to a fair trial.8 (To my knowledge, no
rapist has yet argued that rape is also protected by freedom of expres
sion.) In recent appeals to the Ontario Court of Appeal in two of these
cases, the CCLA was an intervenor, making the constitutional argu
ment for the rapist. In a letter explaining why she did not think that
she was acting against the interests of women, Louise Arbour, the fem
inist lawyer who acted for the CCLA on the appeal, contended that
she understood the importance of civil liberties in Canada because she
had been in Quebec when the War Measures Act had been invoked
(Louise Arbour, 1987).
Sexual Harassment
At one North American university (which cannot be named here
because the professor involved has said that he will sue for defama
tion), the very first person to be accused of sexual harassment under
the new guidelines threatened to sue the complainant for defamation
unless the accusation was withdrawn. After being informed that the
local civil liberties association had endorsed the professor's position (on
the grounds of academic freedom), the complainant withdrew her com
plaint, and she still cannot publicly air the dispute without fear of a
defamation suit.
As if this tactic were not enough to silence the actual complaints that
women have made under these procedures, male academics have now
organized themselves to oppose even the existence of sexual harass
ment procedures. In a recent academic newspaper (which cannot be
named here because the professor involved in the unnameable case
will sue for defamation), the very professor who had been the subject
8See R. v. Gayme and Seaboyer, No. 7 C.R.D. 725.330-05 (Ont. Sup. Ct., Nov. 22, 1985)
(sections 246 and 246.7, limiting defense counsel's scope of permissible cross-examina
tion, held inoperative and violative of Charter); R. v. LeGallant, No. 6 C.R.D. 725.330-03
(B.C. Sup. Ct., June 10, 1985) (sections 246.6 and 246.7 violate the principles of funda
mental justice set out in the Charter); cf. R. v. Wiseman, No. 6 C.R.D. 725.300-02 (Ont.
Dist. Ct., June 25, 1985) (section 246.7 is reasonable and noncapricious provision and it
does not violate Charter). As of 1989, Gayme and Seboyer was on appeal to the Supreme
Court of Canada.
CONCLUSION
As these examples indicate, the differences between the CLers and
feminists are scarcely superficial or trivial; on the contrary, they go to
the core of the feminist agenda, and, if one is interested in analyzing
them from the perspective of CLers, they also go to the core of the
western liberal agenda. These differences are fundamental, and, I sub
mit, they are fundamental because feminism challenges male preroga
tive on all points across the male political spectrum including the point
of liberalism's greatest aspirations and activism.
As a political movement, western liberalism is dedicated to improv
ing the quality of life for men and for those who share their psycholog
ical styles, aesthetic tastes, and economic goals. Access to and exploi
tation of women is basic to maintaining and optimizing the male quality
of life. As a political movement, feminism is dedicated to improving
women's quality of life, and particularly to combatting oppressions that
women experience at the hands of men. This means that so long as
women experience male domination and exploitation as oppressive,
feminists and liberals will continue to differ. And these differences will
not be resolved until the men and the women who run the ACLU
and the CCLA admit that this is all true.
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of Law, Queens University of Kingston, Ontario.) [Note: Louise Arbour was appointed
to sit as a trial judge in the Supreme Court of Ontario in December 1987.]
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a theory of actual gender equality. New England Law Review 20:4, 649, 652-61.
Lahey, Kathleen A. (1986). Free trade and pornography: A discussion paper. Toronto:
METRAC. (Available from Metro Toronto Action Committee on Violence Against Women
and Children, 158 Spadina Road, Toronto, Ontario Canada. Telephone: (416) 392-3135.)
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Faculty of Law, Queens University of Kingston, Ontario.)
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Report of the special committee on pornography and prostitution. Ottawa: Minister of Supply
and Services Canada.
Part VI
POLITICS AND
POSSIBILITIES
Be-Witching: Re-Calling
the Archimagical Powers
of Women
Mary Daly
have and necrophilia, you know, the hatred of life, the love of what
is decaying, dead.
And I think that the way we fight this battle most essentially is not
on the men's terms, on the boys' terms, but by expanding our auras,
our O-zones, our be-ing, by turning, as Sonia Johnson says, our eyes
away from the guys, very frequently, even though on another level we
may be watching them.
This means opening our Third Eye, and opening our Inner Ear, our
Third Ear. It means, also, making a crucial distinction which every one
of us can understand very deeply, and maintaining that distinction.
That is between the foreground, which is the fathers' flatland, the plas
tic world that they have manufactured, and the deep Background,
Named by Denise Connors, which is the Wild Realm of women's Selves.
In the 1980s, as I hardly need to tell you, we have been facing a time
in which all the earth's creatures, including ourselves, are targeted by
the maniacal fathers, sons, and holy ghosts for extinction by nuclear
holocaust or, failing that, by chemical contamination, by escalated or
dinary violence, by manmade hunger and disease that proliferate in a
climate of deception and mind-rot.
Within the general context of this decade's horrors, women face in
our daily lives forces whose intent is to mangle, strangle, tame, and
turn us against our own purposes. And yet at this very time some
how, living, longing, through, above, before and beyond it thou
sands, hundreds of thousands, hopefully millions of women struggle
to Re-member ourselves and our history, to sustain and intensify the
life-loving that is a Biophilic consciousness.
I would like to say something about lust. I would like to talk to you
about the very word lust, and the expression "pure lust." The very title
of my book, Pure Lust, is double edged, and the word lust is doubleedged.
On the one side, lust and pure lust Name the deadly dispassion that
prevails in patriarchy, the life-hating lechery that rapes and kills the
objects of its obsession/aggression. Indeed, the usual meaning of lust
within the lecherous state of patriarchy is well-known. It means sexual
desire of a violent, self-indulgent character, lechery, lasciviousness.
Phallic lust, violent and self-indulgent, levels all life, dismembering spirit/
matter, attempting annihilation.
Its refined cultural products, from the sadistic pornography of the
Marquis de Sade to the sadomasochistic theology of a Karl Barth are
on a continuum. They are the same. This lust is pure, in the sense that
it is characterized by unmitigated malevolence.
The word Lust, however, has utterly other meanings than this. It
means vigor, fertility, as the increasing Lust of the earth, or of the
there for many years. Emperors and kings crouched at the foot of the
pillar to catch the precious turds that dropped, while Symeon touched
his feet with his forehead 1,244 times in succession.
If this seems bizarre, it is because the sadoworld is bizarre. Another
ascetic was Robert Oppenheimer, the manufacturer of the first atomic
bomb, the great scientist, who declared that he needed war, that it was
necessary for discipline. He said: "Study, and our duties to men and
to the commonwealth, war and personal hardship, and even the need
for subsistence, ought to be greeted by us with profound gratitude. For
only through them . . . can we know peace."
Now we could leave them to it, except that they impose this asceti
cism upon the rest of us, you know, in the form of all kinds of depri
vation. And among these, physical deprivation. Yes, millions, millions,
millions are starving. Sensory deprivation: these buildings. Mental de
privation in the form of Biggest Lies.
If you are a graduate of the catholic church, you are aware of the
doctrine of the Eucharist. What does that mean? It means that this isn't
bread and wine; it's the body and blood of Christ. It looks like bread;
it tastes like wine. But it's really flesh and blood.
And when you've been trained in Biggest Lies, you can believe any
thing.
In that same tradition is pornography. Just think about it. Andrea
Dworkin has pointed out that the pornographic conceit is the lie that
women want it. That women want to be raped, maimed, murdered,
tortured, and finally dismembered.
If they create Biggest Lies, then we're so grateful for a modicum of
truth that we grovel, grovel, grovel for something from the boys, these
ascetics who are depriving us of our fullness of life force.
One of the strategies that they use is reversal. George Orwell talked
about "doublethink." Doublethink is the internal mechanism by which
the doublethinker forgets what he or she is doing, and at the same
time, on some level, knows.
Reversal is the external manifestation of doublethink. For example,
Reagan is called the "Great Communicator." The MX missile these
are obvious is called "Peacekeeper." Animal rights activists are called
"terrorists." The "natural look" is the name for makeup, and women
who won't wear it are called "unnatural." Those who do not want
women to have free choice about abortion are called "pro-lifers."
And then there is another type of convoluted reversal. For example,
the expression "forcible rape" implies that there's another kind of rape,
which is benign. And indeed, there are psychologists who do proclaim
that there's such a thing as "benign rape." So what they do is they
make this big category, "rape," and then you have two types, forcible
and benign. Ugh.
So reversal and doublethink permeate the atmosphere of the sadosociety.
Among the obstacles are embedded needs. Embedded in women is
a false need for belonging. There's this box, this need to belong: to
belong to a man; to belong to some organization; to belong to a move
ment which isn't moving; to belong to some little community; to be
long to a therapy group.
And the more women try to belong, the more they forget about BeLonging. And if I separate, if I capitalize and make it Be-Longing, then
I'm Naming the Lust for Happiness. Our real Lust is not to belong; it's
Be-Longing, ontological longing.
Another box which is a trap, which they've embedded into women,
is the possessed need for befriending. The need to be befriended, deadended. This makes me think of therapy, you know, all of this need to
be befriended by this person that you're paying a fortune to because
you don't have friends, or whatever.
So, the need to be befriended is a shrunken caricature of the desire
for Be-Friending, which is the sharing of Happiness. Be-Friending is
the Lust to share Happiness.
And bewitching is another box which is a trap. You know, the need
to be bewitching: "Feminization 101." Femininity. Feminization.
And what is really underneath that captivated, warped desire is the
desire for Be-Witching, which is the Lust for Metamorphosis. So we
have to spring free from that box. That means that we have to dislodge
from our psyches those plastic passions which have been embedded
by the mind-manipulators, the mind-binders. I would admit that plas
tic passions are "real," the way plastic is real. I mean, they're blobs in
inner space that just roll around, roll around. They have no nameable
agent or object.
They're therapeutic. By therapeutic I mean this kind of mentality:
"How can I deal with the way you feel about how I deal with the way
you deal with how I deal?" "Oh, that lecture was very therapeutic."
Writing is "therapeutic." Speaking is "therapeutic." Not writing is
"therapeutic." Not speaking is "therapeutic." Whereas I would suggest
that writing is writing, speaking is speaking, acting is acting, doing is
doing.
The plastic passions, then, are embedded through their therapy, their
media, their religion, their gunk, their pseudo-feminism, their FACT,
their man-made plastic feminism. These plastic passions are guilt, anx
iety, depression, hostility, bitterness. "Oh, she's so bitter. It must be
I'll be punished just as much for being a little bit of a feminist as for
going the whole way. So we might as well go the whole way.
The third criterion for the truth of that enunciation, that statement,
is that I have the feeling, the experience, of moral outrage on behalf of
women as women. Not just on behalf of women as this class, this race,
this group, this age, this particular physical ability or disability, but on
behalf of women as women. That means that in every cell of my being,
I feel outrage on behalf of the women burned as witches; on behalf of
the women burned as widows in India; on behalf of the clitoridectomized women of Africa; on behalf of those raped, battered, tortured in
and on the model of pornography; on behalf of incest victims. I feel
outrage for all women because I am a woman, and if I were the last
one to affirm this, I still would be a Radical Feminist. Because, don't
you see, I am a woman. And if I love myself, then I am a Radical
Feminist.
The fourth criterion is constancy or persistence. And that means that
I'm a Radical Feminist even when it's not cool, even when it's not
rewarded. And it never really is rewarded. It just appears to be at cer
tain points, when the boys have let out a few pseudo-rewards. Even
when there are no apparent rewards, I am constant to that vision. If
this is true of me, or of you, or of anyone, then perhaps we have the
right to say: "I am a Radical Feminist."
On the Journey there are many travelers.
I think I see quite a few here: the Hags, the Nags, the Crones, the
Furies. There are also Augurs, Brewsters, Dikes, Dragons, Dryads, Fates,
Phoenixes, Prudes.
Prude. I like the word "Prude." Prude is from the French prudefemme, meaning a wise, good, proud woman. Prudes, then, are proud
women. And we are Shrewd. And we are Shrews. Prudes are Shrews.
A Shrew, according to the Oxford English Dictionary, is a person es
pecially a woman given to railing, or scolding, or other perverse or
malignant behavior.
And we are Scolds. A Scold is a woman addicted to abusive lan
guage. Given the usual language in patriarchy, this is thought provok
ing.
And some of us are Websters. A Webster, as Judy Grahn first pointed
out, is according to Webster's a female weaver. And we are Weirds.
A Weird is a Fate, a Norn. And, of course, we are Dikes some of us.
A dike is, according to Webster's, a barrier preventing passage, espe
cially excluding something undesirable.
There are obstacles. Women are called "mysterious," and that's a
very convoluted ideology, isn't it? I would like briefly to comment on
the mystery of man. Men are mysterious. The patriarchal male is the
most mysterious creature there is. Notice that it's really not a very nice
word. If you look up mystery, you'll find that it is derived from a word
meaning to close, used of the eyes and lips. I don't want to close my
eyes and my lips, but that's what it means to be bound by mystery.
Each definition of mystery is more unappetizing than the next. Ac
cording to Webster's it means "a religious truth revealed by God that
man cannot know by reason alone, and that once it has been revealed
cannot be completely understood." It sounds like something they would
think up.
It is Crone-logical to point out that one possible reason a "religious
truth" said to be revealed by God continues to be unintelligible is sim
ply that it makes no sense. Mystified believers are, of course, com
manded to deny their own intellectual integrity, and blindly believe the
babbling of men to whom God purportedly has revealed the nonsen
sical mystery.
A Bitchy, Bewitching woman a Soothsayer is compelled to No
tice and Denounce the universal lack of sense masked by the mysteri
ous men. Such Formal Denouncements by Furies could be grouped
under several nonclassifications, such as "The Failure of Man"; "Flopocracy: A History of Man's Disasters"; "The Mysterical Man: A Critical
Study in Male Psychology"; "The Eternal Mystery/Mistery/Misery of
Man."
Many women, having frequently peeked behind the male veils and
Gossiped out the facts, are able to Hear such Denouncements. Sensing
and dreading the imminent possibility of such exposure, man cloaks
himself in ever murkier mysteries. He is constantly having mysteries/
misterics. In his religious "revelations," especially, he mysterically re
veals/re-veils himself. He withdraws into all-male clubs and secret
societies those manifold priesthoods of cockocracy marked by mumbojumbo, ridiculous rituals, and cockaludicrous costumes. Hoping to dis
tract from his own stupendous senselessness and to prevent women
from Seeing through and Naming his illusions/delusions, he requires/
prescribes female "mysteriousness," pompously proclaiming that
women's eyes and lips must be sealed.
And so, opening our eyes and lips further, what can we think and
what can we say? What we can say is sometimes blocked by the fact
that our vocabulary to Name the snools is limited. We can say prick,
prick, prick; here a prick, there a prick, everywhere a prick, prick. And
whereas there's a multiplicity of precise pejoratives, these have not been
accessible, and so I devised the "Glossary of Snools" in Pure Lust, and
then in the Wickedary I went further off the edge.
Among the snools are the fixers, the jocks, the plug-uglies. Pluguglies are among the grosser forms of snoolish incarnations.
I
would like to fly ahead here to speaking about the doomsday clock.
You know, the doomsday clock is an image that occurs in the "Bulletin
of the Atomic Scientists." And they have had this little logo for many
years. Actually, for forty years since about 1947.
The hands of the doomsday clock have been moved from various
positions such as twelve minutes to midnight (midnight representing
nuclear holocaust) to seven minutes to midnight, to three minutes to
midnight. In 1984, for the second time the hands were moved to three
minutes to midnight.
And when we think of the various atrocities of pornography, of in
cest, of sexual abuse, of all of this, we must think also most profoundly
of the rape and holocaust of our Sister the Earth, which is the rape and
holocaust of all of us, and which they intend.
Jumping off the doomsday clock requires opening our Third Eye and
flying no longer reacting to them; there is no time for that. Don't you
see? It requires moving into our own Time/Space, so that yes, we may
act, we may demonstrate, we may be very, very active on the bound
ary of their institutions, but only in so far as our Vision tells us that it
is the correct expenditure of energy, which is so precious: our Gynergy.
So I'd like to come to a conclusion here with briefly speaking to you
about "Jumping Off the doomsday clock . . . Eleven, Twelve, Thir
teen." You know that "Widdershins" is the direction which is the "lefthand path" of pagan dances. And it's the direction of the moon. Spin
sters Spinning Widdershins turning about-face feel/find an Other
Sense of Time.
We begin by asking clock-whys and then move on to counter these
clock-whys with Counterclock Whys Questions that whirl the Ques
tioners beyond the boundaries of Boredom, into the flow of Tidal Time/
Elemental Time.
The man-dated world is clockocracy the society that is dead set by
the clocks and calendars of fathered time. It is marked by measure
ments that tick off women's Lifetimes/Lifelines in tidy tidbits. Clocko
cracy is marked by male-ordered monotony that breaks Biorhythms,
preparing the way for the fullness of fathered time, that is, doomsday.
The fathers' clocks are all doomsday clocks, meting out archetypal
dead time, marking the beat of the patriarchal death march. They are
measures of the untime of the State of Possession tidy time, nuclear
time, doomed time.
Spinsters Spinning about-face face the fact that clockocracy's clocks
Over the past several weeks, I have been interviewed by many publi
cations, specifically about the Baby M case and more generally about
the issue of surrogacy.1 With few exceptions, each of these interviews
has raised the specter of women having a go at each other Mary Beth
Whitehead competing against Betsy Stem. The media depicts surro
gacy as something that has been created by women for women out of
one woman's desperate need for a child, and the other's so-called al
truistic "drive" to give the "gift" of a child. The failure of the surrogate
arrangement is portrayed as the failure of women, women who ulti
mately come into conflict with each other; the failure of females who,
fickle as we are, change our minds. Then the cat fight begins. Unfor
tunately this perception often gets replicated at a personal level. For
example, most of Mary Beth Whitehead's anger is directed at Betsy
Stern, not Bill Stern.
What the media does not present is how women get pitted against
each other, and how surrogacy is really about two women doing for
one man, fulfilling his need for a genetic link to a child and for repro
ductive continuity. Both women in the surrogate package provide merely
the maternal environment for a new brand of father-right a repro
ductive menage a trois with the man's needs once more at the center
of the triangle. Nancy Reame, a nurse who worked in Noel Keane's
surrogate agency and counseled many women who served as so-called
surrogates, said she'd come to see surrogacy as a male transaction. The
1The conference, at which this paper was originally given, was held shortly after the first
New Jersey Court decision rendered on the "Baby M" case. Commonly referred to as
the Sorkow decision, it was promulgated on March 31, 1987. The interviews I mention
took place prior to and after that decision.
Copyright 1990, Janice G. Raymond.
real interaction, she said, is between the sperm donor and the male
psychiatrist who ultimately adjudicates the fitness of the supposed sur
rogate mother (Gena Corea, 1987). This does not make the news.
The left-wing media has a more subtle take on women's supposed
cat fights. I was called several weeks ago by a writer from the Chicagobased democratic socialist weekly, In These Times. He told me, near the
middle of the interview, that his "angle" on the Baby M story, for
which I was being interviewed, was dissension among feminists over
surrogacy. (He believed class to be the essence of this case and wanted
to highlight how feminists were divided over surrogacy because of their
class consciousness.)
When the left-wing New Statesman, a major socialist journal in Brit
ain, wanted to excerpt for publication a section of my book, A Passion
for Friends, I was surprised, because much of my work has been critical
of the left's antifeminism. The section that was excerpted was part of
my chapter on "The Obstacles to Female Friendship." The way this
excerpt was headlined, wrenched from its context and introduced, made
it sound as if the book was a testament of women's inability to sustain
friendships because of the various obstacles, and that this was the es
sence and substance of the entire book.
We witnessed the same highlighting of dissension among women in
the so-called pornography debates, this time with women writing the
copy. The headline in the June, 1986, issue of Off Our Backs read:
"Coming Apart: Feminists and the Conflict Over Pornography." Bar
bara Ehrenreich, in her review of two books on pornography in the
New York Times Book Review, contended that "the level of intrafeminist
invective on one issue [pornography] has sometimes threatened to sur
pass the antifeminist invective from the far right." Writing in Sojourner,
during the campaign for the antipomography ordinance in Cambridge,
Boston FACT members accused "ardent" ordinance supporters of di
viding the women's movement by name calling and discrediting dedi
cated feminists (Sojourner, 1985). Even a radical feminist journal, in an
editorial that basically supported the ordinance, chastised defenders of
the ordinance for their "extremism" and "intolerance" which suppos
edly presents a "dire threat" to the women's movement and which
promotes tension, fear, and mistrust among women (Lise Weil, 1985).
There was one thing that was terribly lopsided about all these charges
and warnings. Most of them put the blame for this dissension squarely
on the shoulders of those women who supported the ordinance and
who reacted with creative rage to the FACT brief, because they found
in it a real betrayal of women. But there is another thing that is very
wrong about all these charges and warnings. They sentimentalize dis
sension, and they sentimentalize unity among women. It is as if to
cal, because this kind of unity is sustained only at the cost of ignoring
what causes the real divisiveness among women. Love for women can
not only appear to be sensitive and respectful of other women's opin
ions. It must be a love that takes action, even in the face of other wom
en's opposition to that action. A sentimental love for women fosters a
tyranny of tolerance. We do not have to be tolerant of any opinion or
action that other women express in the name of unity, especially when
that tolerance becomes repressive. Women have the right and the au
thority to say no, pornography is wrong, surrogacy is wrong, and to
persuade others, to make judgments, and to make those judgments
real in the political world.
During six years, in the course of writing a book on female friend
ship, I have been preoccupied with the obstacles to female friendship
(Janice Raymond, 1986). One of the most horrendous obstacles is the
state of violation, subordination, and atrocity in which many women
live their lives. And one of the most devastating consequences of this
state is to make women not lovable to their own selves and to other
women. When a woman sees a sister dehumanized and brutalized
throughout history, throughout her own life, in almost every culture;
when a woman sees the endless variations of this abuse and brutality,
and how few women really survive; when a woman sees this graphi
cally depicted all around her, female friendship is erased from mem
ory, and women are not affected by other women. The state of pornog
raphy, incest, and surrogacy (among others) reinforces the absence of
women to each other. Violence against women is not only central to
women's oppression. It is central to the lack of female friendship.
The forces of sexual liberalism tell all of us who have a vision of
female freedom and female friendship not to make that vision real. They
tell us to settle for a superficial unity that is built upon the apolitical
and sentimental notion that anything that divides us is not worth the
price of the conflict.
Female friendship is much more than the private face of feminist
politics. We need an ideal and reality of friendship that invests women
with power. Radical feminism befriends women because it empowers
women to act on behalf of ourselves and each other.
Working for women is a profound act of friendship for women. It
makes friendship political. Our work is based on the conviction that it
is possible for women to be free, to struggle against those forces that
are waged against us all, and to win, only if we have a real vision of
what unites women; only if we are capable of translating that vision
into a reality that makes our affection for women political; and only if
affection for women translates into action for women.
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Corea, Gena. (1987, January). Quoted in a conversation with.
Raymond, Janice G. (1986). A passion for friends: A philosophy of female affection. Boston:
Beacon Press.
Sojourner, September 1985.
Weil, Lise. (1985, Summer). "Imagining our freedom: Thoughts on the pornography de
bate." Trivia: A Journal of Ideas 7, pp. 4-10.
Author Index
Donahue, Roger, 89
Dos Reis, Ana Regina Gomez, 91
Douglas, Justice William O., 187
Dubois, Ellen Carol, 17-18, 21, 125
Dutch, Robert, 173
Dworkin, Andrea, 9, 119, 177, 180,
200n
Easterbrook, Judge Frank, 37
Eberle, Paul, 55
Eberle, Shirley, 55
Ehrenreich, B., 149-50
Eisenstein, Zillah, 200
Ellis, Havelock, 19, 20
Emerson, Thomas I., 114, 117, 118,
119, 121
Ethics Committee of the American
Fertility Society, 89
FACT (Feminist Anti-Censorship
Taskforce), 104, 107, 108
Falk, Gail, 114, 117, 118, 119, 121
Farrell, Warren, 166, 167, 168
Fraser Committee on Pornography
and Prostitution, 202
Frazer, Elizabeth, 22
Freedman, Ann E., 114, 117, 118,
119, 121
Gidycz, C., 150n
Goldstein, Al, 187
Goodman, Ellen, 171-72
Gordon, Linda, 17-18, 21, 125
Grant, Dr. Toni, 172
Gray and Company, 203
Gray, Diana, 73
Walker, Kenneth, 25
Walker, Lenore, 150, 150h
Washington Post, 116
Watney, Simon, 25, 179
Webster, Paula, 130-31
Weeksr Jeffrey, 18, 25
Weil, Lise, 223
WHISPER, 68-80ff
White, Justice Byron R., 189
Whitlock, Fiona, 88
Williams, Raymond, 182
Willis, Ellen, 10, 148, 150-51
Winich, Charles, 72
Wisniewski, N., 150w
Subject Index
222
Hustler magazine, 77
Hysterectomies, unnecessary, 86
Liberalism:
and death of feminism, 3-13
individuality of, 12
and nineteenth-century sex re
search, 14-27
political liberalism, 176-77
reproductive liberalism, 83-113
sexual misogyny and, 13
see also Civil libertarians; Repro
ductive liberalism
Liberated Man, The (Farrell), 166
Liberty, 198-201
Love, criticism of, 5
Lovelace, Linda, see Marchiano, Linda
Penselin, Ulla, 93
Personal liberty, 177
Pimps:
as "business managers," 68
exploitation by, 71
patriarchy and, 76
pseudo-psychological profile of, 7374
racist definition of, 74-75
society's view of, 74
Playboy Foundation, 107
Playboy Philosophy, 76
Pleasure and Danger (Gordon/Dubois),
18, 125, 126, 131
Political liberalism, 176-77
Politics, 209-26
be-witching, 211-21
women's friendships, 222-26
Pornography, 9, 32-33, 114, 116, 12627, 200, 202-4
arousing nature of, 143
exploitation in, 78
feminist activism against, 14
feminist pro-pornography, 106
First Amendment and, 36-37
gay-rights advocates and, 187
impact of, 65
obscenity laws and, 33
as outlet for male sexuality, 62-63
photographs, 79
politicians' denouncement of, 35,
38-39
pornography gotcha, 119-22
protection of, 37
racist stereotypes of women of color
in, 69-70
as sexual equality, 10
strategies around, 32-40
use by johns, 79
victims of, 80
"Pornography and Pleasure" (Here
sies Sex Issue), 130
Pornography and Prostitution in Can
ada, 202
"Positive incest," 50
Postfeminist era women, 170-72
Powell, Bernadette, 65
Schlafly, Phyllis, 39
Sears v. EEOC, 7 -8
Seasoning:
employed by pimps as recruitment
technique, 76
goal of, 58
underlying principle of, 58-59
of women as slaves, 56-57
"Seeking Ecstasy on the Battlefield"
(Gordon/Dubois), 18, 21
Sex-based classifications by law, 6
Sex predetermination, 87-88, 92
Sex resistance, 146-47
"Sex Resistance in Heterosexual Ar
rangements" (Southern Wom
en's Collective), 125-26, 126m
Sex/sex acts:
as a weapon, 64
cross-generational sex, 127
dangers to women in, 17
dissociating bodily experience from,
152
enthusiasm in, 23, 24
as expression of men's dominance,
^38
and surrender, 25
"Sex-Tex" computer service, 77
Sex therapy, 153
Sexual abuse:
myths, 158-60
pornography and, 33-34
sexual liberalism and survivors of,
157-61
see also Child sexual abuse; Myths,
sexual abuse
Sexual Difference, 179
Sexual equality, 6
as pornography, 10
Sexual harassment/assault, 205-6
statistics, 119, 128, 140, 150, 205-6
Sexual incompatibility label, 147
Sexuality, 123-207
avoidance of, 143-44, 151, 153
practice of, 141-42
as eroticized dynamic of male
dominance/female submis
sion, 143
Sexuality (continued)
preclusion/force, 142-43
resistance, 136-39
sexual abuse, survivors of, 157-61
toward a feminist praxis of, 148
women's defense of pornography,
125-31
see also Male sexuality; Pornogra
phy; Women's sexuality
Sexual liberalism, fundamental mis
conception of, 178
Sexually Adequate Female, The (Ca
prio), 24
Sexual misogyny, and liberalism, 13
Sexual performance, basing self-es
teem on, 158
Sexual pleasure, concept of, 21-27
Sexual privilege, hierarchy of, 127
Sexual repression, 127-29
Singley, Dorrie Lynn, 45-49
Skoloff, Gary, 99-100, 104
Snuff, 5
Social determinism, 106
Socialization failures, feminists as, 154
Sorkow, Judge Harvey, 99-102, 105,
112-13
Southern Women's Writing Collec
tive, 140-47, 148
Stanley v. Georgia, 187
Stern, Betsey, 222
Stern, William, 88, 98-100, 104, 201,
222
Stock, Wendy, 148-55, 192
Stoltenberg, John, 184-90
Stratten, Dorothy, 12
Subordination:
eroticizing of, 132-35
pregnancy and, 119-20
Suicide attempts, by sexual abuse
victims, 158
Surgical violence against women, 8594
Surrender, and sexual intercourse,
25
Surrogacy contracts, 98, 99, 101, 104,
107-10, 201
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Twiss Butler
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with responsibility for analyzing institutional promotion of sex discrim
ination in the areas of pregnancy, insurance, pornography, and com
munications and education media.
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Susan G. Cole
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Engineering: Journal of International Feminist Analysis, she is also associate
director of the Institute of Women and Technology.
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that resulted in its closing, and protested against the "snuff" films in
the early 1970s; the protests raised the consciousness of the entire na
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