Masculine and Feminine Qualities and Their Shadows

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Masculine and Feminine Qualities, and their Shadow, by Jason Espada

To start with, two considerations
1. Distinguishing masculine and feminine qualities from the male and
female gender
and
2. a definition of the shadow
In this culture at this time there is a lot of confusion about what it means to
be a man, and what it means to be a woman. The discussion of masculine
and feminine qualities themselves should not be confused with the male and
female gender. Neither should it be taken as having the aim of making a
man more masculine, or a woman more feminine. Every person has both
masculine and feminine qualities, in different amounts. That should be
respected. That is how it is, and as it should be.
What balance means is different for each of us, but seeking balance is
natural to us all. In fact, we can say that the masculine and feminine
qualities in us themselves need the other for balance, and to reach their full
potential.
A few examples: strength needs gentleness to that it doesnt become
stubborn, inflexible, or so it doesnt run roughshod over everything; logic
needs feeling so it doesnt become dry abstraction, removed from life and
the things we value; dream, aesthetics, and a sense of beauty need discipline,
order and dedication so that beautiful, inspiring works can be brought into
this world, and so on. Im sure we can all observe how qualities work to
balance and support each other.
In Taoism, the masculine and the feminine principles are called yin and
yang. These are recognized as two expressions of the one life force, or Tao.
They are always found together in life. Although we may see just one side,
when one quality is there and working in a balanced way, the other is there
in a healthy way as well.
I have the image of a ball, maybe the size of a softball, held in the hand
one side is blue, and the other, red. Showing the blue half, if we look
closely, we can see that behind it is red. Its like this. Whenever we see one
quality in what we would call a balanced expression, the other is there
behind it, supporting it.
In Taoism, balanced expression is called true yang, or true yin, and when
out of balance, these expression are called abberant yang or abberant yin.
A Western way of looking masculine and feminine in terms of their useful,
or right functioning is to recognize that sometimes these qualities are
expressed via what are called their shadow. As I understand the idea of the
shadow it is the potential qualities have for being limiting or destructive.
And as the name implies, there is always an unconscious or unaware aspect
to the functioning of the shadow.
The Potential Benefits of this Study
Two possible benefits can come from learning about the masculine and
feminine as they are (or are not manifest) in our lives. First, this can help us
to understand ourselves. From there we can aim at greater balance and
wholeness. This should be in accord with who we want to be from the
inside - not from outside, from our culture or what anyone says we should
be.
We can consciously cultivate what we ourselves feel we need more of, or
reduce what we have too much of. Or, we can seek to compliment what we
already have working in us, for the sake of wholeness and fulfillment.
The second benefit we can gain from studying the masculine and feminine
qualities is that we can become more aware when some shadow is
manifesting, and so we can at least aim to correct that, for our own sake, and
for everyone elses sake too.
I hope these notes are helpful to these ends. This is just my take on what is a
big subject, so feel free to add, or subtract or modify these pages, however it
suits your needs.
Masculine
shadow
courageous
bold
strong
aggressive
heroic
seeking name, fame
rough
tough
macho
concerned with valor

honor
adventurous
charismatic
having a martial or fighting spirit
dominance
confidence
extroversion
expansive
growth oriented
concerned with the outside world
empire builder
big picture
visionary
a show-off
careless
egotistical
megalomaniac
destructiveness
brutality
violent
abusive
doesnt know when to stop

greed takes over never enough
outgoing
active
energetic, vigorous
robust
over-active
cant sit still
in control
taking charge
controlling
domineering
inspiring
leading by example
pushing others
out of the way
decisive
afraid to be wrong
can end things abruptly
burns bridges
having conviction
commitment
focus
dogmatic
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drive
dedication to an ideal
uncompromising when
necessary
goal oriented
achievement oriented
ambitious
driven
direct
outspoken
assertive
having the qualities of leadership
narrow-mindedness
stubborn
too focused on the result alone

to the exclusion of all else
not listening to others

ruthlessness
opinionated
inflexible
authoritative
always having the last word
competitive in a positive sense
competitive in a negative sense
values logic
unemotional
compulsive thinking and
behavior;
not able to see the big picture;
what is important gets lost in
activity, removed from feeling
and nature;
stuck in limited thinking
difficulty expressing emotions
clarity of thought and purpose

values directness
constructive criticism
discerning
form
order
structure
linear
mono-maniacal
can be blunt
sarcastic
takes the initiative
can be rude,
pushy
firm
directed
logical
action oriented
rigid
inconsiderate
one dimensional
impatient
independent
isolated
uncomfortable with
uncertainty
overly intellectual
Feminine
shadow
values feeling
too emotional
irrational
touchy, irritable
moody
bitchy
uncertain
being wishy-washy
indecisive
insecure,
and expression
talk for talks sake

empty talk
caring for others

nurturing
nursing a grudge
nurturing resentment,
not forgiving and moving on
not letting go
holistic
yin
inward
consolidating
earthy
grounded,
down to earth
peaceful,
settled
gentle
yielding
passivity
intuitive
receptive
listening
values reflection
connected-ness
cooperation
seeks harmony, peace
inclusiveness, acceptance
sentimental, verging on
maudlin, sappy
vague, fuzzy thinking
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values home, family
values social bonding, caring
neglects personal development
values dreams
intuition
fantasy
the form-less
relational
soft
tender
flexible
lost in illusion
delusional
attached
dependent
manipulative
patient
considerate
a door-mat
sympathetic
compassionate
modest
low self esteem

a lack of self worth
sensitive
over sensitive
petty
melodramatic:
a drama queen
aesthetic minded
concerned with beauty
refinement
vain
process oriented
detail oriented
graceful
values subtlety
being indirect
being coy
playing games
dishonest
deceptive
passive-aggressive

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Masculine and Feminine Qualities, and their Shadow, by Jason Espada

seeking name, fame

concerned with valor

doesnt know when to stop

can end things abruptly

too focused on the result alone

not listening to others

always having the last word

competitive in a positive sense

competitive in a negative sense

clarity of thought and purpose

takes the initiative

talk for talks sake

caring for others

neglects personal development

low self esteem

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