W isdom

from
Women in
the Bible
G i a n ts of t he Fa i t h
Spe a k i n to Our Li v e s

JOHN C. M AXWELL

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PR E FAC E

In 2010 I got the opportunity to speak at Joyce Meyers

Love Life Womens Conference. Joyce and I are good
friends, and Ive often appeared on her television show.
On this day I chose to talk about how to live a fulfilling
life, and about the importance of attitude. When I got
up to speak, I told the audience that for ten years I had
spoken to men at Promise Keepers events, but that I was
glad that God had finally given me a greater audience to
speak to. The whole place went nuts, and we had a wonderful time that day.
When I finished speaking, I couldnt help thinking
about my mother, Laura, whom Id lost the year before. No
person has had a greater impact on my life. Mom taught
me true love and modeled God to me every day. It didnt
matter if I was dealing with a scraped knee, a bruised
ego, or a broken heart: she was always there to give a hug,
share a tear, and provide a listening ear. I learned love and

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respect from her. I cannot put into words what I gained

from her wisdom and her unconditional love. Every day
I miss her. But I take comfort in knowing that she lived
a full life for eighty-eight years, and that she is now with
the one she loves most: Jesus.
My appreciation for Mom got me thinking about all
the influential women who have shaped who I am, taught
me spiritual lessons, modeled leadership, and made my
life meaningful. It all started with Grandma Minton, who
interceded for me when I was a very young child. I can
tell you, I was a very ornery child, so I really needed
people to talk to God on my behalf. I believe she almost
single-handedly prayed me into the Kingdom.
And then there was Miss Tacey, my fourth-grade
teacher. I deserved a permanent spot in the cloakroom
for the way I acted in class, but instead she gave me a
permanent spot in her heart. She used to write me encouraging notes. Even today she still writes to me. When I
publish a new book, she writes me a note to tell me how
much she likes it. Recently she wrote one that said, I
had no idea you would turn out this way. Neither did I.
My sisterinlaw Anita has also been a great influence.
She, my brother Larry, my wife, Margaret, and I have traveled the world together. Anita has always been sunshine

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to my soul. Her beautiful spirit shines on every person

she meets and lights up every situation she encounters.
I spent a lot of time with my younger sister Trish.
She was called Patty back when we were kids. She loved
to tag along with my brother Larry and me. Believe it
or not, when I needed to buy my first car after I graduated from college, she was the one who lent me the
money for the down payment. Trish and her husband,
Steve, have two beautiful daughters. When Rachael was
young, I called her Angel because of the angelic expression she always had. I called Jennifer Sweet Pea, which
she loved.
Of course there is Margaret, the love of my life. I fell
in love with her at camp when I was in junior high school.
The moment I first saw her I knew she was the one for
me. Including our dating years, weve been together for
over fifty years! Her love for God and family has been a
great blessing to us. Her years of faithful ministry have
been a blessing to many.
Our whole world changed when our daughter, Elizabeth, arrived in our lives. I call her Apple of My Eye.
Daughters always have a special place in a fathers heart.
Elizabeth has one in mine. And when our son, Joel, got
married, Lis, our daughterinlaw, became a beautiful part

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of our family. Lis has been a delight, and shes made our
son a better person.
Elizabeth and Lis have also done the most wonderful
thing a human being can do for another person: theyve
given us grandchildren. Of course we have a special love
for our grandsons, John and James. But Madeline, Hannah, and Ella are the three smartest, most talented, and
most beautiful girls on the planet. All five of these children bring light into our lives.
Margaret and I just took Maddie and Hannah on a trip
to Pennsylvania to celebrate their thirteenth birthdays. We
filled them up with history at Gettysburg and in Philadelphia until they couldnt take any more. We had to take
them to Hershey for the rides and the water park so that
they could enjoy being kids again.
I have also been influenced greatly by the women
whose stories are told in the Bible. From the time I was a
child, Mom talked to me about these giants of the faith,
people such as Ruth and Hannah, Abigail and Mary. The
traits they modeled and the leadership they exhibited have
provided invaluable lessons to me.
And that got me to thinking. What if I could write
another Giants book focused entirely on the women
whose stories have been so valuable to me? I imagined
what it would be like to visit heaven for a day, see my

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mom again, and be introduced to these amazing women

of the faith.
If youve read Running with the Giants or Learning
from the Giants, you have an idea about whats coming.
We will imagine what it would be like to spend time with
nine giants of the faith. Well walk with them, listen as
they share wisdom from their lives, and take away lessons
that can help us every day. In addition, Ive asked nine
important women in my life to share their perspectives in
sections called Woman to Woman. Youll hear from my
wife, Margaret, my sister, Trish, Trishs adult daughters,
Rachael and Jennifer, my brother Larrys wife, Anita, my
daughter, Elizabeth, my daughterinlaw, Lis, and my two
older granddaughters, Maddie and Hannah, who are thirteen. You dont have to be a woman to benefit from the
lessons these women have to teach us. The truths they
teach are universal.
So come along and join me as we take a journey and
gain wisdom while walking with these giants of the faith.

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RUTH
Follow Your Heart to Find Your Hope

I got up before dawn this morning. Thats not uncommon.

Decades ago I made a commitment to get up anytime
I felt that God was waking me, even if it was in the
middle of the night. I know its God if I wake up with
a compelling idea or with an urgent sense that I need
to pray about something. When that happens I usually
just slip out of my bedroom quietly to keep from waking
Margaret.
Thats what I did this morning. Its five oclock and
its still dark outside. Im now in my study, sitting in my
favorite thinking chair. The pull of God was especially
strong this morning, and I have a profound sense of anticipation, but Im not sure what God is up to or what He has
in store for me. I ask God to speak to me and to direct me
in prayer. I close my eyes, and I wait.

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A Vision
I try not to get distracted by thinking about my heavy
travel schedule or the work that sits waiting for me on
my desk. I want to quiet my mind and be open to whatever God has to say. For some reason my mind keeps
shifting toward my mother. Thats bittersweet. Any time I
think about my mom I smile, because her love for me was
unconditional. But it also makes me sad to think about
her because she died in 2009. I still miss her.
Suddenly my head starts to swim. I want to open my
eyes, but I cant. There are flashes of light like Im seeing stars. And my ears start ringing. The next minute I
have that feeling of falling you get sometimes when youre
nodding off, and my body jerks. Am I falling asleep? I
wonder.
When I open my eyes, Im standing in a beautiful
meadow filled with pink flowers on a sunny day. I can
smell the grass and the pleasantly sweet scent of the
flowers. I take a deep breath. The air is fresh and warm
and dry.
I start to look around to take everything in, and thats
when I notice you standing right beside me. You look as
surprised as I feel. Its reassuring to know that Im not
alone in this experience.

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The moment I am about to ask you how you got here,

I hear a voice calling.
John.
The sound almost makes my knees buckle, because
the voice can belong to only one person: my mom.
I turn around and there she is, standing before me. I
start to weep uncontrollably. I grab her in my arms, and
then I bury my face in her shoulder as I did when I was
a child.
When I pull my face up, she is smiling at me. She
is as calm and steady and accepting as ever. Her face is
youthful, and she doesnt seem to have a care in the world.
Oh, John, its so good to see you. Ive missed being
with you, she says. I see youve brought someone with
you. Good. You always did have a friend with you.
Mom, I ask. Are weare we in heaven?
Of course, dear, she answers.
I gasp when Im hit with an overwhelming thought,
and I start to cry again. Are we going to get to see Jesus?
No, John, Im sorry, but we cant do that now. That
will have to wait until your own time comes. But when it
does, trust me. You wont be disappointed. Mom smiles.
Come along with me, she says as she walks across the
meadow.
Today we have a different purpose, Mom says. You

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and your friend are going to get to meet nine w

omen
amazing w
omeneach a giant of the faith. When you
were a child, I taught you about each of them. But today
you will meet them in person. And you will have an opportunity to learn from them about life and leadership. Their
wisdom can help you greatly if you apply it to your life.
We havent walked far when I see a woman in a robe
thats the same pink color as the flowers in the meadow.
Around her waist is a broad sash that has been embroidered with a pattern in gold thread. It reminds me of the
stalks of wheat I saw in fields when I was a boy growing
up in Ohio.
Here is the first one, Mom says. A mischievous
smile breaks over her face. I wont tell you who she is.
Ill let you figure that out on your own. Listen to what she
has to say. She will guide you. And youll see me again
before you leave. With that, Mom turns and walks away.
I greet you in the name of the Living God, the
woman in pink says. I have been asked to tell you my
story. Walk with me. She walks slowly through the
meadow. You and I move alongside her.
When I married Mahlon, she begins, I thought I
was the most favored woman in the world.
The wife of Mahlonthis is Ruth!
My father arranged the marriage, of course, and I

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didnt even mind that Mahlon was not a Moabite like me,
Ruth explains. I also accepted that his widowed mother
would be living in the same house with us. Mahlon was a
good man. He was kind, hardworkingand handsome. I
hoped for a good marriage. What I did not expect was to
love this new family so deeply. As I got to know them, I
came to love everything about them: their traditions and
customs, and the God they worshipped wholeheartedly.
They were my true family, more so even than my own
mother and father, to whom I was born.
We had been married only a short time, so short that
God had not yet given us children, when the unthinkable happened. I lost my dear Mahlon. And before my
motherinlaw, Naomi, and I were even finished mourning,
Mahlons brother, Kilion, also died. I understand that no
one escapes pain or death in life, but this gutted me. Just
when Id found my right place, it was taken away from me.
We were alone in the world, with no way to live. In those
days a woman couldnt own property or direct her own
affairs. She had to depend on a husband, brother, or father.
Naomi insisted that Kilions wife, Orpah, and I go
back to our fathers houses. We had been honorable
women, so we knew they would take us back. Orpah left.
But II felt like I had a huge decision to make. I felt like
Naomi was my family. What was I going to do?

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What I decided that day taught me one of lifes most

important truths, and now I want to teach it to you. She
stops walking, turns to face us, and says, Follow your
heart to find your hope.

Following Her Heart

Ruth pauses for a moment, watching us to see if we are
listening carefully, taking in what she is trying to help us
understand. Then she begins to walk again, with us at her
side. And she starts to explain what she means:
My Heart for Naomi Outweighed Everything Else
My decision was to stay with Naomi. Immediately we
left Moab for Judah, her homeland. When we arrived
in the town of Bethlehem, we had no hope. I could tell
Naomi had given up. She thought God had abandoned
her. I knew that she had come back home to die. So be it.
If she was going to die, I would die with her. I would be
buried alongside her, among her people, who were now
my people. I didnt care what happened to me. My heart
felt things my eyes could not see, and it knew what my
mind could not understand. Naomi had been so good to
me, how could I not be good to her?

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My Heart for Naomi Led Me to Boaz

When we got to Naomis old homeland, I knew I needed
to do something so that we would not starve. God in His
loving-kindness told His people to always leave the edges
of the fields unharvested for people like Naomi and me.
So I went to gather grain during the harvest.
I believe it was no accident that I ended up in the
fields of Boaz. When you make a G
od-honoring decision with the heart, God guides you with His hand. I
didnt know it, but God had made a way for me. Boaz had
already heard about me, and he protected me like I was
a member of his household. He fed me and he even gave
me extra grain to take back to Naomi.
My Heart for Naomi Led Us to Hope
When Naomi found out I had spent the day in the fields
of Boaz, her relative, she realized God was providing
for us. It rekindled her hope and she came alive again.
The old Naomi was back. She knew Boaz was a good
man, so she told me what to do so that he would become
our kinsman redeemerand my husband. Where once
all had looked dark and hopeless, we now possessed a
bright future.

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Life Lessons from Ruth

As we walk silently for a while, I think about what Ruth
has told us. It must have taken a lot of courage for her to
leave her home and everyone she knew to travel to an alien
land. In that way, she was like Abraham. She would have
been seen and treated like an a liena foreigner. Despite
this, she followed her heart.
When Ruth speaks again, its as if she has anticipated
my thinking. She says,
Understand that in Gods Eyes There Are No
Outsiders
When we left for Judah, I knew I would be an outsider
to the Children of Israel, says Ruth. But I wasnt a foreigner to God. He accepted me as a part of His family.
And He made it official when Boaz married me.
Maybe youve felt like an outsider at times. Some
people feel that way their whole lives, like they dont fit
anywhere, like nobody understands them. Even Jesus was
treated as an outsider. The people He came to save didnt
recognize Him or want Him.1 But you dont have to be
on the outside looking in. God invites you to be a part
of His family. All you have to do is say yes to Him, and
youll be His adopted child. He loves you and wants you.

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When Youre in Distress, Let Love Motivate

You to Change
My world fell apart when my husband, Mahlon, died. I
had found my place in the world, and then it was taken
away from me. What was I to do?
What drives you when your situation is dire? Is it
fear? Worry? Frustration? Resentment? Bitterness? None
of those emotions will take you in the right direction.
Instead look for love. Love will carry you forward. Follow your heart.
Hold on to Faithfulness Because It Is the Father
of Many Blessings
I trust God for Who He is, not for what He does. But God
rewards faithfulness. I was faithful to Naomi, and God
blessed me by directing me to Boaz. Boaz was faithful
to God and His Law. When Boaz realized that we were
relatives, and that someone in our clan needed to help
us, he went to the elders of the town and contacted our
nearest relative to see if he would help us. When that man
couldnt fulfill his duty, Boaz took action to redeem our
property and care for us. He was faithful to God, and as
a result, God blessed both us and him.
God always makes a way for those who love Him.

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The guidelines He gave for the harvest blessed us with

food.2 The guidelines He gave for treating widows blessed
us with a new family and me with a husband.3 And of
course, that led to my greatest joy of all, giving birth to
my son Obed. He became a blessing as he fathered Jesse,
who fathered David, Israels great king and a man after
Gods own heart.
When you are faithful to God, He will bless you. You
may not know how He will do it or when He will do it,
but you can always be sure that God is faithful.

The Prayer of Ruth

Ruth stops and says, Before I leave you, I want to pray
for you. Would that be all right? We both nod yes.
God My Redeemer,
You are faithful and good. You love us and
want the best for us. First I pray that my friends
would know their own hearts. When they are in
doubt or distress, help them to be sensitive to You.
Speak to them through Your Spirit, and help them
to have the courage to follow where You lead. And
I pray that You would always reward them with
hope. Amen.

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When we open our eyes, we see that Ruth is smiling at

us. My friends, she says, my time with you has come
to an end. But your next mentor is waiting for you ahead,
outside the gates of the city. Keep walking along this path,
and you will find her. With that Ruth turns and walks
back the way we came.

Leadership Lessons from Ruth

We hesitate a moment. Which do we want more? To stop
Ruth and ask her questions? Or to move forward and meet
the next person? We sense our time here is limited and
decide to keep walking. As we do, I reflect on what Ruth
said and on her story in the Bible. With each step, leadership lessons become clear to me from Ruths life:
1. Do What You Know Is Right, Not What Looks
Right to Others
The logical thing for Ruth to do when her husband died
was to go home to her own family and look for a new
husband. Naomi suggested she do that. And Ruths
sisterinlaw Orpah followed that advice.
Ruth could have allowed her questions and doubt to
influence her to leave Naomi. But instead her heart came
to grips with what she believed. She moved from the

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agony of questions she could not answer to the reality of

answers she could not escape. She felt a deep conviction
that she was to stay with Naomi. And she followed that
conviction.
As leaders we need to remember that. Strong convictions precede great actions. When we know something is
rightand that conviction is bolstered by the knowledge
that our motives are pure, as Ruths w
erewe need to follow through. Others may s econd-guess our thinking and
our decision-making. But when we know whats right, we
cant let those things throw us off. We need to stand by our
convictions. As Albert Mohler, president of the Southern
Baptist Theological Seminary, said, Convictions are not
merely beliefs we hold; they are those beliefs that hold
us in their grip.
2. Following Your Heart with Integrity Can
Increase Your Influence with Others
Because Ruth followed her heart and went with Naomi to
Bethlehem, her influence on others increased. Instead of
looking down on her as a foreigner, the Hebrews noticed
her and admired her. She gained the favor of Boaz, who
told her, Ive heard all about youheard about the way
you treated your motherinlaw after the death of her

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husband, and how you left your father and mother and
the land of your birth and have come to live among a
bunch of total strangers. God reward you well for what
youve doneand with a generous bonus besides from
God, to whom youve come seeking protection under his
wings. 4
When Ruth followed her heart and made her decision, she stood out from the beige lives of others. She
impressed the people of an entire town, including the
elders, who blessed her, declaring,
May God make this woman who is coming
into your household like Rachel and Leah,
the two women who built the family of Israel.
May God make you a pillar in Ephrathah and
famous in Bethlehem! With the children God
gives you from this young woman, may your family rival the family of Perez, the son Tamar bore
to Judah.5
By following her heart and doing what she knew was
right, Ruth went from being a foreigner to being someone
who was respected, blessed, and honored.
When you follow your heart and do the right thing,

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your leadership potential increases. Leadership is influence, so anything that increases your influence and favor
with others makes it easier for you to lead.
3. Remember to Be Humble and Keep Working
as God Blesses You
When Boaz recognized Ruth and started to bless her, it
might have been natural for her to slack off. After all, she
was receiving the favor of a relative who had the power
to redeem her and the property that had once belonged
to Naomis husband. But Ruth remained faithful and kept
working hard. Scripture says she worked hard before Boaz
invited her to eat with him. Afterward she got right back
to work and gleaned in the field until evening. And then
she threshed what she had gathered before going home.
This is the pattern she followed until both the barley and
wheat harvests were done.
When God grants you favor as a leader and you
receive His blessings, dont let it go to your head and
dont let up. Keep working. When you have favor and
momentum, push ahead. Naomi understood this. When
she and Ruth began to receive Boazs favor, they didnt
just sit back and enjoy the provisions he made sure they
received. Naomi capitalized on them. She told Ruth to lie
at Boazs feet, as a sign of her desire to seek his protection.

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And he graciously gave it. He immediately became their

advocate.
God wants His people to be recognized by others because
of their love. I think we too often forget that. Ruths words
of wisdom are a good reminder. If we love others and
follow our heart in the way we treat everyone, its hard
to go wrong.

Woman to Woman
Whenever I hear the story of Ruth, Im always
struck by how she reacted to the loss of her hus
band and brotherinlaw. She and Naomi suddenly
found themselves alone in the world, at the end
of their rope, with no way to change their circum
stances. In their culture, without a man, they had
almost no options. If anyone could have felt like a
victim, Ruth could. And she could have easily given
in to her grief and lost hope.
But Ruth didnt surrender to despair and hope
lessness. Instead, after she and Naomi arrived in
Bethlehem, she immediately went to work looking
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for ways to provide for the two of them. The solu

tion she found involved hard manual labor, but
she didnt let that stop her. She worked all day,
every day, picking up the scraps left over after the
harvesters had done their work. She chose to do
something, even when she didnt see where God
was leading.
The lesson I learn from Ruth as a woman is
that I dont ever need to see myself as a victim of
circumstances. Especially in a modern world with
many more options than Ruth had, I can instead
choose to have hope and look for a way to overcome
challenges. I dont have to be defined by what has
happened to me. Rather I can follow Gods lead and
take action, and it will open the way to changing
my circumstances and finding fulfillment and joy
according to Gods plan.
Margaret Maxwell

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Questions for Reflection or Discussion

To learn more about Ruth, read Ruth 1:
1
4:22 and
Matthew 1:5 6.
1. Whom do you relate to most in the story of Ruth:
Naomi, Ruth, or Boaz? Explain.
2. What would you have done in the place of Naomis
daughtersinlaw? Would you have gone home like
Orpah? Or would you have followed Naomi to Bethlehem? Why?
3. When Ruth moved to Bethlehem with Naomi, she was
in a pretty difficult situation where she had very little
power to control her destiny. How does that kind of
situation make you feel?
4. How much did Ruth rely on God and how much did
she rely on her own initiative and ability to work hard?
5. How do you try to balance God-reliance and self-
reliance when facing a difficult personal challenge?
6. Where or how do you find hope when life feels
hopeless?
7. Where in your life would you currently benefit from
following your heart more?

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