Module - 1

Self Awareness
One of the most important factors in building your self esteem and confidence is your self awareness. But
what exactly is it, why is it important and how can you become more self aware?
Being self aware knows:
what you want in your life
your strengths and weaknesses
what motivates you and makes you happy
what you want to change about yourself or about your life
your goal how far
how you relate to others
you need to improve as a person
your most important beliefs and values
how you see yourself as a person
There are other factors that could be added. The last one above has a direct relation to your sense of self
value and self esteem.
Why is self awareness important?
f you want to change your life in any way you need to know yourself before you can act. !ou need to know
what you need to do to head in the right direction and you can"t do that until you know yourself.
n addition, being self aware will mean that you will be better able to choose a suitable career which will
satisfy you. #elf awareness can enrich your life because you can then move closer to living your values and
reali$ing your dreams.
Becoming self aware does not mean being selfish though. %iscovering the inner you will enable you to give
more of yourself to others and this will benefit your relationships as well as helping to build your self esteem
and confidence as you become truer to yourself.
Techniques of Self Awareness
The Johari Window, named after the first names of its inventors, &oseph 'uft and (arry ngham, is one of
the most useful models describing the process of self awareness and human interaction.
) four paned *window,* as illustrated above, divides personal awareness into four different types, as
represented by its four +uadrants: open, hidden, blind, and unknown. The lines dividing the four panes are
like window shades, which can move as an interaction progresses.
n this model, each person is represented by their own window. 'et"s describe mine:
,. The *open* +uadrant represents things that both know about myself, and that you know about me.
-or example, know my name, and so do you. The knowledge that the window represents, can
include not only factual information, but my feelings, motives, behaviors, wants, needs and desires...
indeed, any information describing who am. .hen first meet a new person, the si$e of the opening
of this first +uadrant is not very large, since there has been little time to exchange information. )s the
process of getting to know one another continues, the window shades move down or to the right,
placing more information into the open window, as described below.
/. The *blind* +uadrant represents things that you know about me, but that am unaware of. #o, for
example, we could be eating at a restaurant, and may have unknowingly gotten some food on my
face. This information is in my blind +uadrant because you can see it, but cannot. f you now tell me
that have something on my face, then the window shade moves to the right, enlarging the open
+uadrant"s area. 0ow, may also have blindspots with respect to many other much more complex
things. -or example, perhaps in our ongoing conversation, you may notice that eye contact seems to
be lacking. !ou may not say anything, since you may not want to embarrass me, or you may draw
your own inferences that perhaps am being insincere. Then the problem is, how can get this
information out in the open, since it may be affecting the level of trust that is developing between us?
(ow can learn more about myself? 1nfortunately, there is no readily available answer. may notice
a slight hesitation on your part, and perhaps this may lead to a +uestion. But who knows if will pick
this up, or if your answer will be on the mark.
2. The *hidden* +uadrant represents things that know about myself, that you do not know. #o for
example, have not told you, nor mentioned e.g., my favourite ice cream. This information is in my
*hidden* +uadrant. )s soon as tell you that love *Ben and &erry"s 3herry 4arcia* flavored ice
cream, am effectively pulling the window shade down, moving the information in my hidden
+uadrant and enlarging the open +uadrant"s area. )gain, there are vast amounts of information,
virtually my whole life"s story, that has yet to be revealed to you. )s we get to know and trust each
other, will then feel more comfortable disclosing more intimate details about myself. This process is
called: *#elf5disclosure.*
6. The *unknown* +uadrant represents things that neither know about myself, nor you know about me.
-or example, may disclose a dream that had, and as we both attempt to understand its significance,
a new awareness may emerge, known to neither of us before the conversation took place. Being
placed in new situations often reveal new information not previously known to self or others.
Components of Self:
A. Self Confidence
#elf5confidence is the confidence one has in oneself, one7s knowledge, and one7s abilities. t is the
confidence of the type: * can do this*. * have the ability to do this*. #elf5confidence is the one thing that is
much more important than many other abilities and traits. f you do not have self5confidence, what you do
will never become fruitful at all. The fruits of what you do without self5confidence are lost.
1 !ress Sharp
)lthough clothes don7t make the man, they certainly affect the way he feels about himself. 0o one is more
conscious of your physical appearance than you are. .hen you don7t look good, it changes the way you
carry yourself and interact with other people. 1se this to your advantage by taking care of your personal
appearance. n most cases, significant improvements can be made by bathing and shaving fre+uently,
wearing clean clothes, and being cogni$ant of the latest styles.
This doesn7t mean you need to spend a lot on clothes. One great rule to follow is 8spend twice as much, buy
half as much9. :ather than buying a bunch of cheap clothes, buy half as many select, high +uality items. n
long run this decreases spending because expensive clothes wear out less easily and stay in style longer than
cheap clothes. Buying less also helps reduce the clutter in your closet.
" Wal# $aster
One of the easiest ways to tell how a person feels about herself is to examine her walk. s it slow? tired?
painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful? ;eople with confidence walk +uickly. They have places to go,
people to see, and important work to do. <ven if you aren7t in a hurry, you can increase your self confidence
by putting some pep in your step. .alking /=> faster will make to you look and feel more important.
% &ood 'osture
#imilarly, the way a person carries herself tells a story. ;eople with slumped shoulders and lethargic
movements display a lack of self confidence. They aren7t enthusiastic about what they7re doing and they
don7t consider themselves important. By practicing good posture, you7ll automatically feel more confident.
#tand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. !ou7ll make a positive impression on others and
instantly feel more alert and empowered.
( 'ersonal Commercial
One of the best ways to build confidence is listening to a motivational speech. 1nfortunately, opportunities
to listen to a great speaker are few and far between. !ou can fill this need by creating a personal commercial.
.rite a 2?5@? second speech that highlights your strengths and goals. Then recite it in front of the mirror
aloud Aor inside your head if you preferB whenever you need a confidence boost.
) &ratitude
.hen you focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasons why you can7t have it. This leads you
to dwell on your weaknesses. The best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude. #et aside time
each day to mentally list everything you have to be grateful for. :ecall your past successes, uni+ue skills,
loving relationships, and positive momentum. !ou7ll be ama$ed how much you have going for you and
motivated to take that next step towards success.
* Compliment other people
.hen we think negatively about ourselves, we often proCect that feeling on to others in the form of insults
and gossip. To break this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people. :efuse to engage in
backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. n the process, you7ll become well
liked and build self confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in
yourself.
+ Sit in the front row
n schools, offices, and public assemblies around the world, people constantly strive to sit at the back of the
room. Dost people prefer the back because they7re afraid of being noticed. This reflects a lack of self
confidence. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over this irrational fear and build your self
confidence. !ou7ll also be more visible to the important people talking from the front of the room.
, Spea# up
%uring group discussions many people never speak up because they7re afraid that people will Cudge them for
saying something stupid. This fear isn7t really Custified. 4enerally, people are much more accepting than we
imagine. n fact most people are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an effort to speak up at least
once in every group discussion, you7ll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts,
and recogni$ed as a leader by your peers.
- Wor# out
)long the same lines as personal appearance, physical fitness has a huge effect on self confidence. f you7re
out of shape, you7ll feel insecure, unattractive, and less energetic. By working out, you improve your
physcial appearance, energi$e yourself, and accomplish something positive. (aving the discipline to work
out not only makes you feel better, it creates positive momentum that you can build on the rest of the day.
1. $ocus on contri/ution
Too often we get caught up in our own desires. .e focus too much on ourselves and not enough on the needs
of other people. f you stop thinking about yourself and concentrate on the contribution you7re making to the
rest of the world, you won7t worry as much about you own flaws. This will increase self confidence and
allow you to contribute with maximum efficiency. The more you contribute to the world the more you7ll be
rewarded with personal success and recognition.
0 Self 1ma2e - what does it mean?
#elf image is how you see yourself. This may be how you see yourself physically or your opinion of who and
what you are which is normally called self concept. t is important as it affects your self esteem and
confidence.
#elf image includes:
.hat you think you look like
(ow you see your personality
.hat kind of person you think you are
.hat you believe others think of you
(ow much you like yourself or you think others like you
The status you feel you have
What can you do to impro3e your Self 1ma2e?

3hange negative thoughts to positive ones by focusing on the positive and forgetting the negative
things that happen to you
:emember compliments and note them down
Euestion whether your view of yourself is accurate. and why you see yourself like you do
Dake changes that will help you Ffor example, clothes, appearance, hair style and behaviour
)ccept things about yourself that are true.
4et exercise 5 you will look and feel betterG
)ccept criticism constructively so you can move forward and improve yourself
What is your 'ersonal 1dentity?
!our personal identity is the way that you see yourself and is closely related to your self image. t is very
important to you because it will affect the way you feel about yourself and how you behave in challenging
situations. !our personal identity includes:
.ho are you?
.hat makes you uni+ue?
.hat are your values?
!our physical identity Awhat you think you look like to othersB also known as body image
!our internal identity Awho you think you are in terms of your personality and character, values etc.B
(ow you see yourself in relation to others
(ow you identify yourself in terms of your Cob
!our personal goals
The most important thing to reali$e about your personal identity is that it can be close to how other people
see you in which case you will be at harmony with the world and others around you or it can be very
different from how others see you and so you may feel you are misunderstood and you feel life is battle to
make others appreciate who you are.
C Self Concept
#elf5concept has been defined as: *ones self5identity, a schema, consisting of an organi$ed collection of
beliefs and feelings about oneself*F as *ones sense of "me" identity, as **F and as *a cognitive appraisal of
our physical, social, and academic competence.*#o, is one"s self concept one"s self5image? One"s self5
identity? The *De*? The **? Or a self5 appraisal
Type of Self Concept
). ;ositive #elf 3oncept
B. 0egative #elf 3oncept
Module - "
What does self ima2e ha3e to do with self esteem?
#elf <steem is how you feel about yourself. mage is about how you see yourself and how you believe others
see you. They are closely connected because if you have a poor opinion of yourself your self esteem will be
low
4i2h Self 5steem 6ow Self 5steem
,. 3reative ,. :igidity
/. ndependence /. %efensiveness
2. -lexibility 2. #elf %oubt
6. )bility to manage change 6. 0egativity
=. )dmitting to Distake =. Blindness to :eality
@. Optimism @. -ear
H. )ccepting criticism H. nability to accept criticism
I. Openness to new ideas I. nability to accept new deas
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'eople with healthy self-esteem are a/le to feel 2ood a/out themsel3es< appreciate their own worth< and ta#e pride in
their a/ilities< s#ills< and accomplishments ;eople with low self5esteem may feel as if no one will like them or accept
them, or that they can"t do well in anything.
(aving positive self5esteem is the first step towards happiness and a better life. Self-esteem impro3es our confidence 1f
we ha3e confidence< we will reach out for new challen2es and will impro3e our relationships 6ow self-esteem< on the
other hand< can cause us to /e unhappy and insecure
The good news is that self-image changes over time. So if you feel that you are suffering from low self-esteem, you can
take steps to improve it. Here are a few things that you can do right away, everyday, to enhance your self-esteem:
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0o one is perfect. nstead of thinking about what you are lacking, consider what is uni+ue about you. t is said that the
greatest achievement is successful self5acceptance. !ou will find that you are most comfortable with others if you are
comfortable with yourself.
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-ears can be real or imagined. Two of our most common fears are the twin evils of failure and reCection. )ssess your fears
carefully. f your fear is real, then expand your resources and strategies to deal with it. f your fear is imagined, analy$e what
is stopping you from getting what you want in life.
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%on7t take failures or reCections too seriously. t is not the end of the world if you fail. <instein once said, 8)nyone who has
never made a mistake has never tried anything new.9 #o look at the positives in each failureF you can learn from it and
improve next time.
Thin# /ac# to the time you learned to ride a /icycle 9ou pro/a/ly fell se3eral times< /ut with each fall< you=d ha3e
2otten up and /rushed off the dust Before you knew it, you7d become pretty good at it. The same applies here 9ou ha3e
to wor# on your s#ills to o3ercome your failures See failure or re>ection as a part of life
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Being preoccupied with things in life that you cannot control Asuch as the weather, the traffic, other people7s attitudes and
problems, etc.B will stress you out. !ou can relieve yourself of a lot of stress by letting go of these unnecessary worries.
:ather, shift your attention to things that you can take charge of. ;erhaps you cannot control the situation, but you can
control your own response to it and how you want it to affect you for the rest of your life.
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<xperiment with different activities that will help you get in touch with your talents and take pride in new skills you
develop.
Why should self esteem matter to you?
#elf esteem can be the difference between success and failure

<steem can affect your thinking, causing your outlook to be positive or negative

<steem affects your confidence

t affects your self image

f you do not value yourself how will you be able to value others?

#elf esteem enables you to have the right attitude to succeed at work

t affects your happiness

Module - %
What is Emotional Intelligence?
<motional ntelligence Euotient is defined as a set of competencies demonstrating the ability one has to
recogni$e his or her behaviors, moods, and impulses, and to manage them best according to the situation..
%aniel 4oleman has suggested that there are five components of <E:
1 ?nowin2 our own emotions: <motions are termed as powerful reactions. t means to say that everyone
should be aware of his emotions. (owever, this is not the case. t has been proved that some are highly aware
of their emotional side of life, and others are perfectly oblivious to their emotions. t has some serious
implications for day5to5day life. 1f one is not aware of his emotions how can one ma#e a >ud2ment li#e
whom to marry< whom to date with< or which car to /uy #econd, it has been observed that when one is
not has any inkling about one7s emotions then they are found to be low in expressiveness. <xpressiveness
means showing your expressions through facial expressions, body language, and other gestures. 'ack of
expressiveness hurts in terms of interpersonal relationships since, other people will find it tough to decipher
the inner world of that person. (ence, being aware of one7s emotions is a must.
" Mana2in2 your own emotions: n day5to5day life, often we try to manage our emotions. t is like
regulating the nature, intensity and expression of concerned emotions. -or example, if we don7t get expected
grade in the examination, we try to remain calm before our parents, nevertheless, the emotions running
behind our face is not good. Danaging emotions is very much important for your mental health and for
keeping your interaction with others efficient.
% Moti3atin2 oursel3es: To get something special in our life, one thing that matters most is self motivation.
Dotivating oneself to work hard and be on right direction is one of the main aspects of <motional
ntelligence. Being high in this can give surprising results for any individual.
( ;eco2ni@in2 and influencin2 others= emotions: This relates to the ability to understand others exactly. t
is to recogni$e their mood and the emotions that they had at any point of time. )s life experience says, this
ability is very much valuable in practical settings. -or example, understanding others7 mood and emotions
exactly can say us whether it is the right time or not to ask for a favor.
) 4andlin2 relationship: (andling relationship is the most important point of strong interpersonal
relationship. .e have seen many people who handle relationship very well and in the process become
successful. On the other hand, some people make a total mess of their interpersonal relationship. This is the
basic difference between having good <E and not. ) person with high <E will always handle relationship in
optimum way.
8e2ati3e emotions are, for example: apathy, grief, fear, hatred, shame, blame, regret, resentment, anger,
hostility. 3ritici$ed, %isrespected, <mbarrassed, (umiliated, nferior,
nsulted
'ositi3e emotions are, for example: interest, enthusiasm, boredom, laughter, empathy, action, curiosity, love,
)ware, )wesome, Balanced, and Beautiful, Believing, Blessed, Blissful, Brave, Bright, Brilliant, 3alm, )nd
3apable
1mportance of 5motions
Sur3i3al
0ature developed our emotions over millions of years of evolution. )s a result, our emotions have the
potential to serve us today as a delicate and sophisticated internal guidance system. Our emotions alert us
when natural human need is not being met. -or example, when we feel lonely, our need for connection with
other people is unmet. .hen we feel afraid, our need for safety is unmet. .hen we feel reCected, it is our
need for acceptance which is unmet.
!ecision Ma#in2
Our emotions are a valuable source of information. Our emotions help us make decisions. #tudies show that
when a person7s emotional connections are severed in the brain, he can not make even simple decisions.
.hy? Because he doesn7t know how he will feel about his choices.
'redictin2 0eha3ior
Our feelings are also useful in helping us predict our own, and others7 behavior.
Communication
Our emotions help us communicate with others. Our facial expressions, for example, can convey a wide
range of emotions. f we look sad or hurt, we are signaling to others that we need their help. f we are
verbally skilled we will be able to express more of our emotional needs and thereby have a better chance of
filling them. f we are effective at listening to the emotional troubles of others, we are better able to help
them feel understood, important and cared about.
4appiness
The only real way to know that we are happy is when we feel happy. .hen we feel happy, we feel content
and fulfilled. This feeling comes from having our needs met, particularly our emotional needs. .e can be
warm, dry, and full of food, but still unhappy. Our emotions and our feelings let us know when we are
unhappy and when something is missing or needed. The better we can identify our emotions, the easier it
will be to determine what is needed to be happy.
Module - (
Mana2in2 your 5motions:
#trong emotions are both a cause of, and a result of conflict. ;eople in conflict may have a variety of strong
and often negative emotions55anger, distrust, disappointment, frustration, confusion, worry, or fear. These
emotions often mask the substantive issues in dispute. (owever, the emotions, too, are real and must be dealt
with.
,B :ecogni$e and understand your own emotions as well as your opponents".
/B %etermine the source of the feelings.
2B Talk about feelings55yours and your opponents". %on"t suppress them, or deny them55acknowledge them
and deal with them directly.
6B <xpress your own feelings in a non5confrontational way. This can be done, for example, by using 5
messages, where you say * feel angry because. . .* rather than *!ou made me angry by. . .* The first
approach explains your feelings without accusing anyone else, while the second focuses blame on the
opponent who is likely to become hostile or defensive in response..
=B )cknowledge your opponents" feelings as legitimate.
@B %o not react emotionally to emotional outbursts. !ou should acknowledge the outburst with active
listening Awhich shows that you understand the strength of the speaker"s feelingsB,
HB 1se symbolic gestures. 4estures such as apologies, sympathy notes, shared meals, or even handshakes can
be very useful in expressing respect and defusing negative emotions at little cost.
Module A )
Attitude: The way we feel or think about something, a person, a place, a situation or any individual.
Types of Attitutde:
, ;ositive )ttitude
/ 0egative )ttitude
2 0eutral )ttitude
8ature of Attitude:
, )ttitude is invisible
/ )ttitude is ac+uired
2 )ttitude is pervasive
6 )ttitude affect behavior
T5A System:
T J Thought
< J <motions
) J )ctionsKBehaviour
0uildin2 'oiti3e Attitude:
, Take responsibility and try to fulfill them
/ #urround yourself with positive people
2 Be more aware of your thought
6 -ace 3hallenges
= :ead about the life of ;ositive people
Acti3ities:
Johari Window Buestionnaire
Instructions: Read each numbered item carefully. Read the statements marked A and B. Determine
which statement is most similar to what you would do. Assign a point value to the A and B statements
using the following scale. he total point value for A and B is five !"#.
$f statement A is most similar to what you would do: A % " B % &
$f statement A is not satisfactory' but better than B: A % ( or ) B % * or +
$f statement B is most similar to what you would do: A % & B % "
$f statement B is not satisfactory' but better than A: A % * or + B % ( or )
*. $f a friend of mine had a personality conflict with a mutual ac,uaintance of ours and $ thought it
was important for them to get along' $ would:
A. ell my friend that $ felt s-he was partially responsible for any problems with this other person
and try to let him-her know how the person was being affected by him-her.
B. .ot get involved because $ wouldn/t be able to continue to get along with both of them once $
had entered into their conflict in any way.
+. $f one of my friends and $ had a heated argument in the past and $ reali0ed that s-he was ill at ease
around me from that time on' $ would:
A. 1ust let the whole thing drop to avoid making things worse by discussing it.
B. Bring up his-her behavior and ask how s-he felt the argument had affected our relationship.
). $f a friend began to avoid me and act in an aloof and withdrawn manner' $ would:
A. ell him-her about his-her behavior and suggest that s-he tell me what was on his-her mind.
B. 2ollow his-her lead 3 keep our contact brief 3 aloof since that seems to be what s-he wants.
(. $f two of my friends and $ were talking and one of them slipped and brought up a personal problem
of mine that involved the other friend' of which s-he was not yet aware' $ would:
A. 4hange the sub5ect and signal my friend to do the same.
B. Briefly e6plain what the other friend was talking about and suggest that we go into it later.
". $f a friend of mine were to tell me that' in his-her opinion' $ was doing things that made me less
effective than $ might be in social situations' $ would:
A. Ask him-her to describe what s-he has observed and suggest changes $ might make.
B. Resent his-her criticism and let him-her know why $ behave the way $ do.
7. $f one of my friends aspired to an office in our organi0ation for which $ felt s-he was un,ualified'
and if s-he had been tentatively assigned to that position by the leader of our group' $ would:
A. .ot mention any misgivings to either my friend or the leader of our group and let them handle
it in their own way.
B. ell my friend and the group leader of my misgivings and leave the final decision to them.
8. $f $ felt that one of my friends was being unfair to me and his-her other friends' but none of the
other friends had mentioned anything about it' $ would:
A. Ask the other friends how they perceive the situation to see if they felt s-he was being unfair.
B. .ot ask the others how they perceive our friend' but wait for them to bring it up with me.
9. $f $ were preoccupied with some personal matters and a friend told me that $ had become irritated
with him-her and others and that $ was 5umping on him-her for unimportant things' $ would:
A. ell him-her $ was preoccupied and would probably be on edge for a while.
B. :isten to his-her complaints but not e6plain myself to him-her.
;. $f $ had heard some friends discussing an ugly rumor about a friend of mine which $ knew could
hurt him-her and s-he asked me what $ knew about it' if anything' $ would:
A. <ay $ didn/t know anything and tell him-her our friends wouldn/t believe ugly rumors anyway.
B. ell him-her e6actly what $ had heard' when $ had heard it' and from whom $ had heard it.
*&. $f a friend pointed out that $ had a personality conflict with another friend with whom it was
important for me to get along' $ would:
A. 4onsider his-her comments out of line and tell him-her $ didn/t want to discuss the matter.
B. alk about it openly with him-her to find out how my behavior was being affected by this.
**. $f my relationship with a friend has been damaged by repeated arguments on an issue of
importance to us both' $ would:
A. Be cautious in my conversations with him-her so the issue would not come up again to
worsen our relationship.
B. =6plain the problems the controversy is causing for our relationship and suggest that we
discuss it until we get it resolved.
*+. $f in a conversation with a friend about his-her personal problems and behavior s-he suddenly
suggested we discuss my problems and behavior as well as his-her own' $ would:
A. Be evasive and try to keep the discussion away from me.
B. >elcome the opportunity to hear what s-he felt about me and encourage his-her comments.
*). $f a friend of mine began to tell me about his-her hostile feelings about another friend whom s-he
felt was being unkind to others !and $ agreed wholeheartedly#' $ would:
A. :isten and also e6press my own feelings to her-him so s-he would know where $ stood.
B. :isten' but not e6press my own negative views and opinion because s-he might repeat what $
said in confidence.
*(. $f $ thought an ugly rumor was being spread about me and suspected that one of my friends had
,uite likely heard it' $ would:
A. Avoid mentioning the issue and leave it to him-her to tell me about it if s-he wanted to.
B. Risk putting him-her on the spot by asking directly what s-he knew about the rumor.
*". $f had observed a friend in social situations and thought that s-he was doing a number of things
which hurt his-her relationships' $ would:
A. Risk being seen as a busy?body and tell him-her what $ had observed and my reactions to it.
B. @eep my opinion to myself rather than be seen as interfering in what is none of my business.
*7. $f two friends and $ were talking and one of them inadvertently mentioned a personal problem
which involved me' but of which $ knew nothing' $ would:
A. Aress them for information about the problem and their opinions on it.
B. :eave it up to my friends to tell me or not' letting them change the sub5ect if they wished.
*8. $f a friend seemed to be preoccupied and began to 5ump on me for seemingly unimportant things'
as well as others without real cause' $ would:
A. reat him-her with kid gloves for a while on the assumption that s-he was having some
temporary personal problems which were none of my business.
B. ry to talk to him-her about it and e6plain how his-her behavior was affecting others.
*9. $f $ had begun to dislike certain habits of a friend to the point that it was interfering with my
en5oyment of their company' $ would:
A. <ay nothing to him-her directly' but let him-her know my feelings by ignoring him-her
whenever the annoying habits were obvious.
B. Bet my feelings out in the open and clear the air so that we could continue our friendship
comfortably and en5oyably.
*;. $n discussing social behavior with one of my more sensitive friends' $ would:
A. Avoid mentioning his-her flaws and weaknesses so as not to hurt his-her feelings.
B. 2ocus on his-her flaws and weaknesses so s-he could improve his-her interpersonal skills.
+&. $f $ knew my friends/ attitudes toward me had become rather negative lately and $ knew $ might be
assigned an important position in our group' $ would:
A. Discuss my shortcomings with my friends so $ could see where to improve.
B. ry to figure out my own shortcomings by myself so $ could improve.
Johari Window Scorin2 Sheet
Below are two columns where you are to record the points you assigned for each response to the
1ohari >indow Cuestionnaire. otal the points at the bottom of each column.
Solicits Feedback
+B
)A
"A
8A
9B
*&B
*+B
*(B
*7A
+&A
Total
Willingness to Disclose/Give Feedback
*A
(B
7B
;B
**B
*)A
*"A
*8B
*9B
*;B
Total
Johari Window
Alot the totals from each column on the graph below. he total from the <olicits
2eedback column is recorded along the hori0ontal a6is. he total from the >illingness
to Disclose column is recorded along the vertical a6is. !.D=: & is at the top of the
vertical a6is and "& at the bottom of the vertical a6isE# Divide the graph into four
sections by drawing straight lines from the scores.
Attitude self assessment test
(ealthy self5esteem is an important factor in achieving your potential. #uccessful people are able
to take measured risks and avoid wallowing in self5pity. They are ready to see the best in all
people and are will to trust others with responsibility.
This short +ui$ will help you assess you self5esteem. :ate each of the +uestions on this four5point
scale:
2 J always
/ J more than half the time
, J Occasionally
? J 0ever
,. feel comfortable when am set apart from the group.
/. accept responsibilities when things go wrong.
2. share credit with others.
6. am comfortable accepting a compliment.
=. set goals and visuali$e accomplishing them.
@. am confident in myself and my abilities.
H. am willing to take necessary risks.
I. think positively in the face of challenges.
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Solicits Feedback
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$idden %nkno&n
L. can say 8no9.
,?. understand my attitude towards people plays a role in my success.
,,. see the positive +ualities in other people.
,/. listen to others.
,2. ;eople describe me as a positive person.
,6. understand my attitude towards circumstances controls how respond to challenges.
,=. view each new situation as an opportunity or a challenge.
Add up the total points and chec# scorin2 after the >ump:
%, A () (igh self5esteem. !ou are confident about yourself and your abilities. !ou have a
positive attitude.
%. A %+ #trong self5esteem. !ou are generally confident about yourself and your abilities. !ou
tend to remain positive and optimistic in your attitude.
"% A "- Doderate self5esteem. !ou have periods of self5doubt, but tend to be more positive than
negative.
1) A "" 'ow self5esteem. !ou have periods of self5doubt and tend to be more negative than
positive.
. A 1( 0egative self5esteem. !ou have little or no confidence in your abilities. !ou tend to
demonstrate negative attitudes.
;osen/er2 Self-5steem Scale A:osenberg, ,L@=B
The scale is a ten item 'ikert scale with items answered on a four point scale 5 from strongly
agrees to strongly disagree. The original sample for which the scale was developed consisted of
=,?/6 (igh #chool &uniors and seniors from ,? randomly selected schools in 0ew !ork #tate.
nstructions: Below is a list of statements dealing with your general feelings about yourself. f
you strongly agree, circle SA. f you agree with the statement, circle A. f you disagree, circle !.
f you strongly disagree, circle S!.
,. On the whole, am satisfied with myself.
#) 5) 5% 5#%
/.M )t times, think am no good at all.
#) 5) 5% 5#%
2. feel that have a number of good +ualities.
#) 5) 5% 5#%
6. am able to do things as well as most other people.
#) 5) 5% 5#%
=. M feel do not have much to be proud of.
#) 5) 5% 5#%
@. M certainly feel useless at times.
#) 5) 5% 5#%
H. feel that 7m a person of worth, at least on an e+ual plane with others.
#) 5) 5% 5#%
I. M wish could have more respect for myself.
#) 5) 5% 5#%
L. M )ll in all, am inclined to feel that am a failure.
#) 5) 5% 5#%
,?. take a positive attitude toward myself.
#) 5) 5% 5#%
Scorin2: #)J2, )J/, %J,, #%J?. tems with an asterisk are reverse scored, that is, #)J?, )J,,
%J/, #%J2. #um the scores for the ,? items. The higher the score, the higher the self5esteem.
#cores below ,= suggest low self5esteem.
Attitude Test
#uccess. #o what is your attitude towards success? .hat does that mean for you? Take the =5
minute test belowF you may be surprised at the results you get.
#elect one of the three answers to the +uestions below, and then compute your score based on the
instructions at the end of the test
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A)B have a clear idea of what success means to me.
ABB have no idea what success means to me.
A3B have somewhat of an idea what success means to me.
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A)B always seek advice and feedback.
ABB never seek advice and feedback.
A3B #ometimes seek advice and feedback.
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A)B never give up something enCoy now, for something better in the future.
ABB #ometimes give up something enCoy now, for something better in the future.
A3B always give up something enCoy now, for something better in the future.
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A)B .hen have a setback or reCection, give up and +uit.
ABB .hen have a setback or reCection, learn from it and try again.
A3B #ometime setbacks or reCection causes me to +uit, other times try again.
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A)B believe will be successful.
ABB believe will never be successful.
A3B Daybe will be successful, maybe will not.
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A)B am always fully prepared for the things do.
ABB am never prepared for the things do.
A3B #ometimes am prepared and other times am not.
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A)B would never take a risk, only want sure things.
ABB am somewhat open to taking risks.
A3B am willing to take risks if the rewards seem worth it.
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A)B .hat happens in my life is not my responsibility.
ABB .hat happens in my life is somewhat my responsibility.
A3B .hat happens in my life is totally my responsibility.
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A)B 3hange always brings me new opportunities.
ABB 3hange never brings me new opportunities.
A3B 3hange sometimes brings me new opportunities.
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A)B go all out when am working on something.
ABB hold back somewhat when am working on something.
A3B never go all out when am working on something.
1f you score was /etween * and 1. you are well on your way to success 1f your score was
/etween ) and @ero< you need to fine-tune your attitude towards success