• a strong positive emotion of regard and affection; "his love for his work";

"children need a lot of love"

• any object of warm affection or devotion; "the theater was her first love";
"he has a passion for cock fighting";
• have a great affection or liking for; "I love French food"; "She loves her
boss and works hard for him"
• beloved: a beloved person; used as terms of endearment
• get pleasure from; "I love cooking"
• a deep feeling of sexual desire and attraction; "their love left them
indifferent to their surroundings"; "she was his first love"
• be enamored or in love with; "She loves her husband deeply"
• a score of zero in tennis or squash; "it was 40 love"
• sleep together: have sexual intercourse with; "This student sleeps with
everyone in her dorm"; "Adam knew Eve"; "Were you ever intimate with
this man?"
• sexual love: sexual activities (often including sexual intercourse) between
two people; "his lovemaking disgusted her"; "he hadn't had any love in
months"; "he has a very complicated love life"

How to Define Love

“How on earth are you ever going to explain in terms of chemistry and physics so important
a biological phenomenon as first love?”
— Albert Einstein

Love is difficult to define. How do you avoid confusing it with infatuation or lust? Philosophers
and psychologists both have attempted to define love, per least its difference from infatuation
and lust. If you are looking to find love, the following observations may be helpful.

Love is much more than a risk, but is a risk that one can take and grasp and fall into a dark
abyss or dig oneself a hole and only crawl back when you overcome your emotions.

How can one truly define what love is? Not even an experienced person can truly grasp or
explain love to its truest and deepest meaning. Its concepts are just a never ending story of
an open book of experiences. But love does lie in one's heart, where memories are but
shadows lingering in your soul.
[edit ] Steps
1. The dictionary defines love in several ways in which we use the word. For
example, love is:
1. A strong positive emotion of; affection or pleasure; e.g, "His love for his
work." or "I love cooking."

2. Any object of warm affection or devotion or liking: "The theater was her first
love". "I love French food".

3. Beloved: a beloved person; used as a term of endearment.

 4. A deep feeling of sexual desire and attraction; e.g., "She was his first love" or
"She loves her husband."

5. A score of zero in tennis or squash: "It was 40-love!"

6. Sexual love: sexual intercourse between two people. e.g. "They made love."
"He hadn't had any love in months".

2. Love is characterized by the desire to want good things for that person no matter
what. And you're willing to work out your problems together. And you can hardly breathe
when you're around them. Even though you may see them all the time or hardly ever, it's
as if you get that rush of what you felt when you got your first kiss.
3. The Greeks defined love in four categories:
1. Agape love is unconditional love. It is love by "choice" even if you are not
pleased. A good example is "God loves us with our faults."
2. Philia love is the dispassionate virtuous love, guided by our likes or our
healthy or unhealthy needs and desires.
3. Storge is the word for family love and the physical show of "affection", the
need for physical touch. Sometimes the love between exceptional friends. See
also: WikiPedia:Storge
4. Eros is the physical "sexual" desire, intercourse. It is the root word of erotic,
and eroticism.
4. Define love by thinking of what it means to you. Be bold and write down the
feelings and thoughts you have about love.
5. Be aware of moments when you feel love towards anyone or anything.
6. Consider your motives, what are you each getting from the situation, especially if it
is progressing too quickly.
7. Think about whether you'd feel the same way if the other person's looks were to
change (is it just attraction).
8. Capture your feelings in metaphors, poetry or songs. "Love is like..."
9. Define love like a psychologist: love can be viewed as having three parts,
triangularly. There are three key components:
1. Passion underlies physical desire, sexual behavior, and arousal. This is the
physical side.
2. Intimacy is the emotional aspect: closeness, connectedness, and warmth of
friendship.
3. Commitment is the decision-making part "CHOICE" of love; are couples
willing to work it out?
10. Expressing love may start as flirting with smiles, winks and maybe even kissing,
but it is usuallyinfatuation at this point, approaching with curiosity by one or both parties.
While time is usually spent looking to discover more about this intriguing person, much
time will be spent pondering the many possibilities of what could happen, or the
consequences that may become of a certain action, or on the other hand the good that
may come of it.
11. Thrill as the person in love having little else of such interest in the real world, food
may taste bland, concentrating has become a serious mental struggle and even fun
pastimes may seem worthless, as pacing and walking or even simply sitting or lying while
musing about the person seems a most engaging thing to do.
 o This type of behavior can lead to serious disturbances at work and at home,
especially if the person feeling love is already an item with somebody else with whom
they may have shared these feelings at some time in the past.

2. Deeply in love--never scientifically proven to exist--it is thought that one can only be
really in love with one person at a time. The part of the human being that is reserved for
sharing with another (which some may call the soul, or the heart) is used up while
dedicating itself to that one source, and that it is impossible to feel
the overwhelming feeling of love in two sources: "twice-at-once" sounds impossible!
o Although similar, love is thought not to be like pain which has definite
locations; it is thought that it can move around, although usually it will reside in the
lower stomach or the bottom of the throat, with sensitive areas like the temples and
the legs and joints feeling stressed and weak. The mouth is often dry and the eyes
seem strained, and this is all usually given the diagnosis of love sickness, or in some
cases where love isn't present, influenza.

3. Endure for a time. Time does seem to be the only healer in the case of lost love.
The full connection of two loving parties (mutually) could lead to a stronger relationship,
and developments such as procreation and marriage; but in the case of a single party or
the rejection of the first party by the second, or even in the case of a secret love, being in
love will usually only fade after the interest is out of sight and out of mind, or gives full
closure to the pursuer.
4. Love forever (especially in literature)--it is forever. No matter how much time passes
by, or what obstacles become present in the path of true and pure love, love will endure.
This may be far fetched from reality, but many find it to be a preferable way to think.
o Although this may be a much more joyous belief to have of love, there are
also those situations where love does fail. This can be easily said to have been due to
false love of mistaken identity between persons (as lovers are star crossed and are
meant to find each other). Either way, the difference between feeling love and not
feeling it is a distinct one, and cannot be mistaken. It is a true sickness that is present
and can be more crippling than the flu, depression and many other illnesses
combined.

o Love can cause war; in the cases of love of religion and the love of money;
war can cause people to steal and murder, it can lead to suicide and shatter marriage
and family life, it can spread disease and give birth to evil; but love is eternal and
cannot be eliminated, it is what makes people human. "I think therefore I am" may also
be translated as "I love therefore I am".

5. Allow yourself to think so you may choose why, where and when to find your
life partner not just for simple breeding or survival of the fittest, but in order for
developing and choosing as human beings not just feeling beings.
6. Share your love and spread it on through new generations, so while love lasts
eternally, your mark upon humanity is also forever through your children and children's
children; you make your mark by your genetic codes, understandings and teachings
continuing--passed on and developed forevermore!
o This eternal possibility is a gift, not just dedication; you have to choose as
we were born with conscientiousness, not like animals who only have instinct.
o Desire is the want of more and is unfillable, not to be confused with Love
which is joy and contentment.
[edit ] Tips
• There are many combinations, all of which form some kind of love. Is there passion
and friendship but very little commitment? This is defined as "passionate love." Are you
committed but feel no passion or friendship? This is called "empty love." What most
people ultimately desire, is "TRUE LOVE" the total package: passion, intimacy, friendship
and commitment in one healthy relationship. It's the most fulfilling love. It is unconditional,
and in my opinion the only "CHOICE".

• For inspiration, read Elizabeth Barrett Browning's famous poem, "How Do I Love
Thee?"

• For additional inspiration, you might want to consider this Shakespeare quotation:
"Love is not love/Which alters when it alteration finds" (Sonnet 116)

Spiritually Speaking
• It is also said that love is one of God's greatest, most complex creations, and even
that "God is love!"
• What greater love is there than one would risk or give his life for a sinner, but in this
way God proved His love for us. While we were still sinners and enemies to God: He
provided a way for us to receive His greatest gift of love.

[edit ] Warnings
• Just because you feel love doesn't mean the other person does!

• People are capable of falling in and out of love so if your "true love" turns out to be
abusive or makes you cry more than smile, end it and find a healthy person to love.
• Remember there are levels of love, and true love is a "CHOICE" and just because
someone says they love you doesn't mean they do love you. Their actions will tell.

• "Love is not a feeling, it's an ability."

• Love can take over your whole life if you are not careful. Let it not take you over, but
become a part of who you are. When you think about the person you love it should make
you want to be a better person, for them.

Basically “LOVE” is a unique feeling that can’t be defined if we really live it. On the
contrary it can be defined with all its technicalities for all other purposes. To be very
straight and simple, “Love” can be defined as the behavioral approach between two
persons that involves affection, emotion and sentiments.
Here we have tried to define love through several definitions.
 Love is a feeling of strong connection and attachment those are persuaded by extreme
delight and admiration; dedication and devotion to each other along with affection and
tenderness.
  Love is not a necessity, but it is life's greatest gift and luxury. It is to care, to be kind
and patient. It is considered as perfect love when a person doesn't expect anything else but
love.
 Love knows when to put pride to the side, because the greatest thing one can be proud
of is the love that is shared.
 Love is or should be unconditional. And thus is giving and selfless, it is a celebration of
what is right and what is true
 For the unperfected will pass upon, the coming of that which is perfect, as perfect love
never ends.
 Love is undying devotion.
 Love is the desire to be intimate both physically and emotionally.
 Love endures all, hopes all, and bears all. It is believing, sharing and dreaming.
 Love is a feeling of completeness, forgiving, understanding and inspiring.
 Love is the attainment of life's greatest inspiration. It is supporting, but not
overbearing.
 Love is a complete expression of oneself or the other. it is being open to each other's
expression
 Love can be strong, yet so fragile.
 There are those out there who have not been lucky enough to find it, some never will.
In addition, what one would call true love...love in its best, purest, truest sense is even rarer
and harder to find.
 The dream of finding and marrying for true love exists and concludes by everything
falling into place.

Love is any of a number of emotions and experiences related to a sense of

strong affection[1] and attachment. The word lovecan refer to a variety of different
feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure to intense interpersonal
attraction. The word love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and
attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure ("I loved that meal") to intense interpersonal
attraction ("I love my girlfriend"). This diversity of uses and meanings, combined with
the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently
define, even compared to other emotional states.

As an abstract concept, love usually refers to a deep, ineffable feeling of tenderly

caring for another person. Even this limited conception of love, however,
encompasses a wealth of different feelings, from the passionate desire and intimacy
of romantic love to the nonsexual emotional closeness of familial and platonic
love[2] to the profound oneness or devotion of religious love.[3]Love in its various
forms acts as a major facilitator of interpersonal relationships and, owing to its
central psychological importance, is one of the most common themes in the creative
arts.

The English word "love" can have a variety of related but distinct meanings in
different contexts. Often, other languages use multiple words to express some of the
different concepts that English relies mainly on "love" to encapsulate; one example is
the plurality of Greek words for "love." Cultural differences in conceptualizing love
thus make it doubly difficult to establish any universal definition.[4]

Although the nature or essence of love is a subject of frequent debate, different

aspects of the word can be clarified by determining what isn't love. As a general
expression of positive sentiment (a stronger form of like), love is commonly
contrasted with hate (or neutral apathy); as a less sexual and more emotionally
intimate form of romantic attachment, love is commonly contrasted with lust; and as
an interpersonal relationship with romantic overtones, love is commonly contrasted
with friendship, although other definitions of the word love may be applied to close
friendships in certain contexts.

When discussed in the abstract, love usually refers to interpersonal love, an

experience felt by a person for another person. Love often involves caring for or
identifying with a person or thing, including oneself (cf. narcissism).

In addition to cross-cultural differences in understanding love, ideas about love have

also changed greatly over time. Some historians date modern conceptions of
romantic love to courtly Europe during or after the Middle Ages, although the prior
existence of romantic attachments is attested by ancient love poetry.[5]

Because of the complex and abstract nature of love, discourse on love is commonly
reduced to a thought-terminating cliché, and there are a number of
common proverbs regarding love, from Virgil's "Love conquers all" to the Beatles' "All
you need is love." Bertrand Russell describes love as a condition of "absolute value,"
as opposed to relative value. Theologian Thomas Jay Oord said that to love is to "act
intentionally, in sympathetic response to others, to promote overall well-being."[citation
needed]
Philosopher Gottfried Leibniz said that love is "to be delighted by the happiness
of another."[6]
 1. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as
that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying
oneness.
2. A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed
to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.
3.
a. Sexual passion.
b. Sexual intercourse.
c. A love affair.
4. An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object.
5. A person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction; beloved. Often
used as a term of endearment.
6. An expression of one's affection: Send him my love.
7.
a. A strong predilection or enthusiasm: a love of language.
b. The object of such an enthusiasm: The outdoors is her greatest love.
8. Love Mythology. Eros or Cupid.
9. often Love Christianity. Charity.
10. Sports. A zero score in tennis.

Never try to define love. Once defined love is confined. Once confined -- It dies.

Source Unknown

YourDictionary defines love as a strong affection for a person or thing. The definition
of love encompasses dozens of expressions of affection with varying degrees of
intensity. Love includes feelings ranging from mild affection to intense sexual desire.
Because love encompasses such a broad range of emotion, and may be related to so
many people, places and things, the definition of love is unusually broad.
The world "love" comes to us from the Middle English word luf, derived from the Old
English word "lufu." This is akin to Old High German, "luba," and another Old English
word, lēof, which means ‘dear’. Yet another word related to love, "lubere" or "libere,"
comes to us from the Romans. This Latin word means 'to please'. In all words related
to the word love, roots relating to dear, pleasing, and cherished may be found,
hinting at the deeper transcendent meaning of the modern word.
Most people think of the definition of love as a strong romantic attachment between
two people, often intermingled with sexual desire and attraction. Throughout history,
people defined love more broadly, encompassing many relationships. These forms of
love and affection hold true today, although may not be the first definition that
comes to mind when one hears the word. For example:

• Love among family members; familial love, or love based on kinship ties
• A mother’s love for her offspring
• Love of neighbor, based on the Christian teaching of expressing concern and
charity for all people
 • Love of country, or patriotism
• Love of God, or expressive love for a deity or deities

Nearly all religions and cultures use precise language to define love. Most languages
use various words to express levels of emotion, kinship, or affection. Ancient Greek,
for example, uses many words to define precise levels of emotion. “Agape” means
love in modern day Greek, but in ancient times referred to a pure love without sexual
connotations. “Eros” includes passionate love full of desire and longing. “Philia”,
mentioned by Aristotle, meant a dispassionate, virtuous and unselfish love. “Xenia”
includes hospitality, and refers to a type of love most would consider charity or
giving.
Our modern language uses the word love almost too frequently. We say “I love you”
to our spouses, but say “I love chocolate ice cream!” to a friend to express a much
less intense feeling.
Some people define love not by a feeling, but by actions. In this definition, love isn’t
what you say – it’s what you do. Love would then be a verb, expressed in unselfish
actions and deeds.
Romance is a general term that refers to a celebration of life often through art,
music and the attempt to express love with words or deeds.[1] It also refers to
a feeling of excitement associated with love.[2] Historically, the term "romance" did
not necessarily imply love relationships, but rather was seen as an artistic expression
of one's innermost desires; sometimes including love, sometimes not. Romance is
still sometimes viewed as an expressionistic, or artful form, but within the context of
"romantic love" relationships it usually implies an expression of one's love, or one's
deep emotional desires to connect with another person. "Romance" in this sense can
therefore be defined as attachment, fascination, or enthusiasm for something or
someone, inliterature similar exaggerated narration is called romance.

"One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love." - Sophocles

"Attention is the most basic form of love; through it we bless and are blessed." - John Tarrant

"We love because it's the only true adventure." - Nikki Giovanni

"Love is like quicksilver in the hand. Leave the fingers open and it stays. Clutch it, and it darts
away." - Dorothy Parker

"Love is friendship set on fire." - unknown

"Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing." - Goethe

"To be in love is merely to be in a state of perceptual anesthesia." - H.L. Mencken

"Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it...It really is
worth fighting for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk everything, you
risk even more." - Erica Jong

"Sometimes love is stronger than a man's convictions." - Isaac Bashevis Singer

"Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness." - Oliver Wendell Holmes

"Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it." - Robert Mitchum

"Love stretches your heart and makes you big inside." - Margaret Walker

"Love has no awareness of merit or demerit; it has no scale... Love loves; this is its nature." -
Howard Thurman

"Love is like war: Easy to begin but hard to end." - Anonymous

"Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other." - Rainer
Maria Rilke

"Where love is, no room is too small." - Talmud

"Loves makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place." - Zora Neale Hurston

"Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." - Mark Twain

"Love is more than three words mumbled before bedtime. Love is sustained by action, a
pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day." - Nicholas Sparks

"To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven." - Karen Sunde

"A love song is just a caress set to music." - Sigmund Romberg

"Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit." - Peter Ustinov

"Love is like a violin. The music may stop now and then, but the strings remain forever." -
unknown

"Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence." - Erich
Fromm
"In the final analysis, love is the only reflection of man's worth." - Bill Wundram, Iowa Quad
Cities Times

"Love doesn't make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile." - Elizabeth
Browning

"Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

A medley of extemporanea;
And love is a thing that can never go wrong;
And I am Marie of Roumania."
- Dorothy Parker

"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not
loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy
is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be
unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're
getting this down."
- Woody Allen,

What is Love

What is love? It is one of the most difficult questions for the mankind. Centuries have passed by,
relationships have bloomed and so has love. But no one can give the proper definition of love. To
some Love is friendship set on fire for others Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to
find it. No matter how you define it or feel it, love is the eternal truth in the history of mankind.

Love is patient, love is kind. It has no envy, nor it boasts itself and it is never proud. It rejoices over
the evil and is the truth seeker. Love protects; preserves and hopes for the positive aspect of life.
Always stand steadfast in love, not fall into it. It is
like the dream of your matter of affection coming
true. Love can occur between two or more
individuals. It bonds them and connects them in a
unified link of trust, intimacy and interdependence. It
enhances the relationship and comforts the soul.
Love should be experienced and not just felt. The
depth of love can not be measured. Look at the
relationship between a mother and a child. The
mother loves the child unconditionally and it can not
be measured at all. A different dimension can be
attained between any relationships with the magic of love. Love can be created. You just need to
focus on the goodness of the other person. If this can be done easily, then you can also love easily.
And remember we all have some positive aspect in us, no matter how bad our deeds maybe. And as
God said �Love all�
 Depending on context, love can be of different varieties. Romantic love is a deep, intense and
unending. It shared on a very intimate and interpersonal and sexual relationship. The term Platonic
love, familial love and religious love are also matter of great affection. It is more of desire, preference
and feelings. The meaning of love will change with each different relationship and depends more on
its concept of depth, versatility, and complexity. But at times the very existence of love is questioned.
Some say it is false and meaningless. It says that it never exist, because there has been many
instances of hatred and brutality in relationships. The history of our world has witnessed many such
events. There has been hatred between brothers, parents and children, sibling rivalry and spouses
have failed each other. Friends have betrayed each other; the son has killed his parents for the
throne, the count is endless. Even the modern generation is also facing with such dilemmas
everyday. But �love� is not responsible for that. It is us, the people, who have forgotten the
meaning of love and have undertaken such gruesome apathy.

In the past the study of philosophy and religion has done many speculations on the phenomenon of
love. But love has always ruled, in music, poetry, paintings, sculptor and literature. Psychology has
also done lot of dissection to the essence of love, just like what biology, anthropology and
neuroscience has also done to it.

Psychology portrays love as a cognitive phenomenon with a social cause. It is said to have three
components in the book of psychology: Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. Also, in an ancient
proverb love is defined as a high form of tolerance. And this view has been accepted and advocated
by both philosophers and scholars. Love also includes compatibility. But it is more of journey to the
unknown when the concept of compatibility comes into picture. Maybe the person whom we see in
front of us, may be least compatible than the person who is miles away. We might talk to each other
and portray that we love each other, but practically we do not end up into any relationship. Also in
compatibility, the key is to think about the long term successful relationship, not a short journey. We
need to understand each other and must always remember that no body is perfect.

Be together, share your joy and sorrow, understand each other, provide space to each other, but
always be there for each others need. And surely love will blossom to strengthen your relationship
with your matter of affection.
Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
William Shakespeare.

Chapman's Five Emotional Love Languages:

• Words of Affirmation
This is when you say how nice your spouse looks, or how great the dinner tasted.
These words will also build your mate's self image and confidence.
• Quality Time
Some spouses believe that being together, doing things together and focusing in on
one another is the best way to show love. If this is your partner's love language, turn
off the TV now and then and give one another some undivided attention.
• Gifts
It is universal in human cultures to give gifts. They don't have to be expensive to send
 a powerful message of love. Spouses who forget a birthday or anniversary or who
never give gifts to someone who truly enjoys gift giving will find themselves with a
spouse who feels neglected and unloved.
• Acts of Service
Discovering how you can best do something for your spouse will require time and
creativity. These acts of service like vacuuming, hanging a bird feeder, planting a
garden, etc., need to be done with joy in order to be perceived as a gift of love.
• Physical Touch
Sometimes just stroking your spouse's back, holding hands, or a peck on the cheek
will fulfill this need.

Determining Your Own Love Language

Since you may be speaking what you need, you can discover your own love language by
asking yourself these questions:
• How do I express love to others?
• What do I complain about the most?
• What do I request most often?

Speaking in your spouse's love language probably won't be natural for you. Dr. Chapman
says, "We're not talking comfort. We're talking love. Love is something we do for someone
else. So often couples love one another but they aren't connecting. They are sincere, but
sincerity isn't enough."

Emotional Experiences

The number one emotional experience reported by folks is feeling the presence of God in their
lives. The emotional high of being in love (which generally lasts around 2 years) is the second
highest emotional experience that people reportedly have.

That is why it can be so difficult to try and talk some sense into someone who is in the midst
of falling in love. Chapman stated that obsessive love can render people mentally
incompetent. "There's not much difference between being in love and being insane."

Fading Tingle and Empty Love Tanks

After the first or second year of marriage, when the initial "tingle" is starting to fade, many
couples find that their "love tanks" are empty. They may have been expressing love for their
spouse, but in reality they may have been speaking a different love language. The best way to
fill your spouse's love tank is to express love in their love language. Each of us has a primary
love language. Usually, couples don't have the same love language.

Tank Check
Dr. Chapman recommends that you have a "Tank Check" 3 nights a week for 3 weeks. Ask
one another "How is your love tank tonight?" If, on a scale from zero to ten, it is less than 10,
then ask "What can I do to help fill it?" Then do it to the best of your ability.

A lot of ink has been exhausted in writing about a variety of subjects like life, death,
happiness, and grief. However, the one topic that has remained a favorite with authors,
playwrights, poets, and laypeople alike has been: love. Each of the quotes below is a
quotation of love!

Joseph Campbell
When you make a sacrifice in marriage, you're sacrificing not to each other but to unity in a
relationship.

Pearl S. Buck
A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way
they express their love.

Doc Childre
The greatest gift a parent can give a child during all the ups and downs of life is love.

Sydney Smith
Marriage resembles a pair of shears, so joined that they cannot be separated; often moving in
opposite directions, yet always punishing any one who comes between them.

Thomas Moore
Romantic love is an illusion. Most of us discover this truth at the end of a love affair or else
when the sweet emotions of love lead us into marriage and then turn down their flames.

Honore de Balzac
One should believe in marriage as in the immortality of the soul.

Amy Bloom
Marriage is not a ritual or an end. It is a long, intricate, intimate dance together and nothing
matters more than your own sense of balance and your choice of partner.

Anonymous
It is not uncommon for slight acquaintances to get married, but a couple really have to know
each other to get divorced.

French Proverb
Love makes time pass; time makes love pass.

W. Somerset Maugham
Love is only a dirty trick played on us to achieve continuation of the species.

Martin Scorsese
You've got to love something enough to kill it.
Chinese Proverb
Married couples who love each other tell each other a thousand things without talking.

Douglas Jerrold
In all of the wedding cake, hope is the sweetest of plums.

Passionate love is a quenchless thirst....Kahlil Gibran.

Love is made by two people, in different kinds of solitude.

It can be in a crowd, but in an oblivious crowd....Louis Aragon.

Do you want to know a good way to fall in love?

Just associate all your pleasant experiences with someone,
and disassociate from all the unpleasant ones....Richard Bandler.

You can give without loving,

but you cannot love without giving....Amy Carmichael.

Love makes the wildest spirit tame,

and the tamest spirit wild....Alexis Delp.

People love others not for who they are,

but for how they make them feel....Irwin Federman.

Love is like pi -- natural, irrational,

and very important....Lisa Hoffman.

Love talked about is easily turned aside,

but love demonstrated is irresistible....Stan Mooneyham.

Love is a friendship caught on fire....Northern Exposure.

In love, there is always one who kisses

and one who offers the cheek....French Proverb.

To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven....Karen Sunde.

We say we love flowers, yet we pluck them.

We say we love trees, yet we cut them down.
And some people still wonder why some are afraid
when they are told they are loved....Unknown.

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.

I love you straightforwardly, without complexities
or pride; so I love you because I knew no other
way than this, where 'I' does not exist, nor 'you'.
So close that your hand on my chest is my hand, so
close that your eyes close as I fall asleep....Pablo Neruda.

He drew a circle to shut me out, heretic rebel,

a thing to flout. But love and I had the wit to win,
we drew a circle that took him in....Edwin Markham.

In real love you want the other person's good.

In romantic love, you want the other person....Margaret Anderson.

Dance like no one's watching,

love like you'll never be hurt,
sing like no one's listening,
live like it's heaven on earth....William Purky.

I love you, not for what you are,

but for what I am when I am with you....Roy Croft.

Love is not a matter of counting the years --

it's making the years count....Wolfman Jack Smith.

Love creates an "us" without

destroying a "me"....Unknown.

Love grows by giving. The love we give away

is the only love we keep. The only way to
retain love is to give it away....Elbert Hubbard.

One of the characteristics of love relationships that flower

is a relatively high degree of mutual self-disclosure -- a
willingness to let our partner enter into the interior of our
private world and a genuine interest in the private world of
that partner. Couples in love tend to show more of themselves
to each other than to any other person....Nathaniel Branden.

To love is to enjoy seeing, touching, and sensing

with all the senses, as closely as possible, a lovable
object which loves in return....Del Amour Stendhal.

Love simply cannot spring up without that self-surrender

to each other. If either withholds the self,
love cannot exist....Dr. E. Stanley Jones.

The best proof of love is trust....Dr. Joyce Brothers.

Love is friendship set to music....Pollock.

Love is, above all, the gift of oneself....Jean Anouilh.

When love is accompanied with deep intimacy,

it raises us to the highest level of human experience.
In this exalted space, we can surrender our egos, become
vulnerable and know levels of joy and well-being unique
among life experiences. We attain a glimpse of the rapture
that can be ours. Boundaries are blurred, there are no
limitations and we rejoice in union. We become one and,
at the same time, both....Leo Buscaglia.

I love you not only for what you are, but for
what I am when I am with you. I love you not
only for what you have made of yourself, but for
what you are making of me. I love you for the part
of me that you bring out....Elizabeth Barrett Browning.

Love is an irresistible desire to be

irresistibly desired....Robert Frost.

Absence diminishes small loves and increases

great ones, as the wind blows out the candle
and fans the bonfire....Francois Duc De La Rochefoucauld.

True love stories never have endings....Unknown.

We waste time looking for the perfect lover,

instead of creating the perfect love....Tom Robbins.

The greatest happiness of life is the conviction

that we are loved - loved for ourselves, or rather,
loved in spite of ourselves....Victor Hugo.

Gravitation is not responsible for

people falling in love....Albert Einstein.

Time is too slow for those who wait,

too swift for those who fear,
too long for those who grieve,
too short for those who rejoice,
but for those who love,
time is eternity....Henry Van Dyke.

Love is a canvas furnished by Nature

and embroidered by imagination....Voltaire.
Love is composed of a single soul
inhabiting two bodies....Aristotle.

Love is the exchange of two fantasies and

the contact of two skins....Nicholas Chamfort.

Love is an energy - it can neither be created

nor destroyed. It just is and always will be,
giving meaning to life and direction to goodness...
Love will never die....Bryce Courtney.

Immature love says: "I love you because I need you."

Mature love says: "I need you because I love you."....Erich Fromm.

Love has nothing to do with what you are

expecting to get -- only with what you are
expecting to give -- which is everything....Katherine Hepburn.

If I know what love is,

it is because of you....Herman Hesse.

The first duty of love is to listen....Paul Tillich.

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength

while loving someone deeply gives you courage....Lao-Tsu.

Love, the magician, knows this little trick

whereby two people walk in different directions
yet always remain side by side....Hugh Prather.

Love is just a feeling of togetherness

and openness in your heart....Ken Keyes.

Love is not a matter of what happens in life.

It's a matter of what's happening in your heart....Ken Keyes.

You can't force someone to love you; all you can do is

become someone who can be loved; the rest is up to them....Unknown.

A baby is born with the need to be loved -- and never

outgrows it. Children are God's apostles, day by day
sent forth to preach of love and hope and peace....James Russell Lowell.

Love is a butterfly, which when pursued is just

beyond your grasp, but if you will sit down quietly
it may alight upon you....Nathaniel Hawthorne.

The greatest pleasure of life is love....William Temple.

Where there is great love there are

always miracles....Willa Cather.

Who travels for love finds a thousand

miles not longer than one....Japanese Proverb.

Music is love in search

of a word....Sidney Lanier.

All, everything that I understand, I understand

only because I love....Leo Nikolaevich Tolstoy.

Life is one fool thing after another where as

love is two fool things after each other....Oscar Wilde.

To love and be loved is to feel the

sun from both sides....David Viscott.

Life is a journey, and love is what

makes that journey worthwhile....Unknown.

Ever has it been that love knows not its own

depth until the hour of separation....Kahlil Gibran.

Love is too strong a word to say it too early, but it has too
beautiful a meaning to say it too late....Kurt Spiteri Cornish.

Lust is when you love what you see.

Love is when you lust for what's inside....Renee Conkle.

The beginning of love is at the end

of resistance....Danielle Light.

Love is first friendship

and then commitment....Jacques Pierre Ribault.

To fear love is to fear life....Bertrand Russell.

Love is an act of endless forgiveness,

a tender look which becomes a habit....Peter Ustinov.

We should all be so lucky to have someone who will

never let us go. The ultimate legacy is to leave behind
someone who will love you forever....Ally McBeal.

Fear? What is there to fear in love? Love is the very

reason we live. To fear love is to lose all sense of living,
and if we cannot love, then why have we been put here? Fearing
love is like being afraid of breathing. It's not something
to be scared of. It's so natural that no one can resist....Unknown.

We cannot choose who we love,

only whose love we accept....Unknown.

I love you, not because you are perfect,

But because you are so perfect for me....Unknown.

Couples who love each other tell each other

a thousand things without talking....Chinese Proverb.

Sex is a momentary itch,

love never lets you go....Unknown.

Let no one who loves be unhappy.

Even love unreturned has its rainbow....James Matthew Barrie.

Love will find a way through paths

where wolves fear to prey....Lord George Gordon Byron.

When you like someone, you like them in spite of their faults.
When you love someone, you love them with their faults....Elizabeth Cameron.

Where there is love there is life....Mahatma Gandhi.

She who has never loved,

has never lived....J. Gay.

To love without expected return on my investment

frees me to love with purity of heart, mind and soul...
I am not distracted by selfish motive or disappointed
by insensitivity...I am free to love...just love....L. Hodge.

There is but one genuine love potion - consideration....Menander.

There is no surprise more magical than

the surprise of being loved: It is God's
finger on man's shoulder....Charles Morgan.
There is only one happiness in life,
to love and be loved....George Sands.

Love, you know, seeks to make happy

rather than to be happy....Ralph Connor.

Love is a verb. We can't say it enough. Love must not

only be spoken, but must also be shown. The beginning of
love is God. He showed His love in the most sacrificial of
ways so we could know our incredible value to Him. The price
of our adoption was the emptying of heaven of its greatest
treasure, God the Son, who is our Savior....Phil Ware.

Love is the triumph of imagination

over intelligence....H.L. Mencken.

Since love grows within you, so beauty grows.

For love is the beauty of the soul....St. Augustine.

What we have once enjoyed we can never lose.

All that we love deeply becomes a part of us....Helen Keller.

Love is the seed of all hope. It is the enticement

to trust, to risk, to try, to go on....Gloria Gaither.

Sooner or later we begin to understand that love is

more than verses on valentines and romance in the movies.
We begin to know that love is here and now, real and true,
the most important thing in our lives. For love is the creator
of our favorite memories and the foundation of our fondest dreams.
Love is a promise that is always kept, a fortune that can never be
spent, a seed that can flourish in even the most unlikely of places.
And this radiance that never fades, this mysterious and magical joy, is the
greatest treasure of all -- one known only by those who love....Unknown.

Love is the passionate and abiding desire on the part of two

or more people to produce together conditions under which each
can be and spontaneously express, his real self; to produce
together an intellectual soil and an emotional climate in which
each can flourish, far superior to what either could achieve alone....Unknown.

Love can touch us one time and last for a lifetime,

and never let go till we're gone....Titanic Theme.

Falling in love consists merely in uncorking the

imagination and bottling the common-sense....Helen Rowland.
Romantic love is a passionate spiritual-emotional-sexual
attachment between a man and a woman that reflects a high
regard for the value of each other's person....Nathaniel Branden.

True love is spelled G-I-V-E. It is not based on what you can get,
but rooted in what you can give to the other person....Josh McDowell.

Love is energy of life....Robert Browning.

True love is eternal, infinite, and always like itself.

It is equal and pure, without violent demonstrations: it is seen
with white hairs and is always young in the heart....Honore De Balzac.

To love someone is to acknowledge the goodness of who they are.

Through loving a person we awaken their awareness of their own innate
goodness. It is as though they cannot know how worthy they are until they
look into the mirror of our love and see themselves....John Gray, Ph.D.

Once you have learned to love,

You will have learned to live....Unknown.

All love that has not friendship for its base,

is like a mansion built upon the sand....Ella Wheeler Wilcox.

To love is to be vulnerable....C.S. Lewis.

Once in a while, in the middle of an ordinary life,

love gives us a fairy tale....Unknown.

Love means tearing down the separateness and the boundaries

between your heart feelings and another person....Ken Keyes.

It [Love] is not a word, nor a single action.

In truth, it can never be wrong
Like the sunrise, perfect in every possible way.
It is many things and yet it must exist
In the small space of the heart.
Once found it can bloom endlessly, with no cease.
It can choke one's throat, bring one to tears...
But it never hides in shadows or in darkness
It never feeds itself on deception.
It grows with trust, honesty and compassion.
Nothing less, always more....Unknown.

Love is a hole in the heart....Ben Hecht.

In Persian, the verb "to love" is translated
"to have a friend"....the phrase "I love you"
is translated "I have you as a friend"....Unknown.

Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like a volcano and then

subsides and when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have
to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is
inconceivable that you should ever part, because this is what love is.
Love is not the breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the
promise of eternal passion, and it is not the desire to mate every
minute or every second of the day. That is just being "in love"
which any fool can do…Love itself is what's left over when being in love has
burned away, and this both an art and a fortunate accident....Louis De Bernieres.

To love someone is nothing, to be loved by someone is something,

but to be loved by the one you love is everything....Unknown.

Love is the doorway through which the human soul

passes from selfishness to service....Unknown.

Love is that condition in which the happiness of another

person is essential to your own....Robert A. Heinlein.

When you are in love, life should not be measured by the

moments of breath, but by the breath-taking moments....Unknown.

Friendship may, and often does, grow into love,

but love never subsides into friendship....Lord Byron.

Love is a disease which fills you with a desire

to be desired....Henri, Comte de Toulouse-Lautrec.

Love is what is left in a relationship after

all the selfishness is taken out....Nick Richardson.

I love you, and because I love you, I would

sooner have you hate me for telling you the
truth than adore me for telling you lies....Pietro Aretino.

There is no disguise which can hide love

for long where it exists, or simulate it where
it does not....Francois Duc De La Rochefoucauld.

When we are in love we often doubt that

which we most believe....Francois Duc De La Rochefoucauld.
As you think, you travel, and as you love, you attract.
You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will
be tomorrow where your thoughts take you....James Lane Allen.

To love and win is the best thing.

To love and lose, the next best....William M. Thackeray.

The way to love anything is to realize

that it might be lost....Gilbert Chesterton.

To love is to admire with the heart:

to admire is to love with the mind....Theophile Gautier.

Love does not die easily. It is a living

thing. It thrives in the face of all of life's
hazards, save one--neglect....James D. Bryden.

Love is something eternal;

the aspect may change,
but not the essence....Vincent Van Gogh.

Kindness in words creates confidence

Kindness in thinking creates profoundness
Kindness in giving creates love....Lao-Tsu.

The pleasure of love is in the loving; and there

is more joy in the passion one feels than
in that which one inspires.....Francois Duc De La Rochefoucauld.

Love is union with somebody, or something,

outside oneself, under the condition
of retaining the separateness and
integrity of one's own self....Erich Fromm.

Love is the immortal flow of energy that

nourishes, extends and preserves. It's
eternal goal is life....Smiley Blanton.

Anything will give up its secrets if you love it

enough. Not only have I found that when I talk to the
little flower or to the little peanut they will give
up their secrets, but I have found that when I silently
commune with people they give up their secrets also -- if
you love them enough....George Washington Carver.
Love is the essence of God....Ralph Waldo Emerson.

Music is expression of harmony in sound.

Love is the expression of harmony in life....Stephen F. Gaskin.

Real love is a pilgrimage. It happens when there is no strategy,

but it is very rare because most people are strategists....Anita Brookner.

Being in love is a wonderful feeling but being

loved and appreciated in return can be the most
wonderful experience that can happen to your life....Unknown.

The art of love...is largely the

art of persistence....Albert Ellis.

The best portion of a good man's life

is his little, nameless, unremembered acts
of kindness and of love....William Wordsworth.

Suddenly, quietly, you realize that ~ from this moment

forth ~ you will no longer pass through this world alone.
Like a new sun, this awareness rises within you, freeing
you from fear, opening your life. This is the beginning
of love and the end of all that came before....Unknown.

Love does not begin and end the way we seem to

think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war;
love is a growing up....James Baldwin.

We find rest in those we love, and we provide a resting

place for those who love us....Saint Bernard of Clairvaux.

Love alone is capable of uniting living beings in such a way

as to complete and fulfill them, for it alone takes them and joins
them by what is deepest in themselves....Pierre Teilhard De Chardin.

Love is always bestowed as a gift -- freely,

willingly, and without expectation....
We don't love to be loved; we love to love....Leo Buscaglia.

No cord nor cable can so forcibly draw, or hold so fast,

as love can do with a twined thread....Robert Burton.

As a result of a kiss, there arises in the mind a

wonderful feeling of delight that awakens and binds
together the love of them that kiss....St. Aelred.
Love is a verb. Love is something you do: the sacrifices
you make, the giving of self. If you want to study love,
study those who sacrifice for others. Love -- the feeling --
is a fruit of love the verb....Stephen R. Covey.

Love is the greatest refreshment in life....Pablo Picasso.

Real love begins where nothing is

expected in return....Antoine de Saint-Exupéry.

Love is when each person is more concerned

for the other than for one's self....David Frost.

Remember that the best relationship is

one in which your love for each other exceeds
your need for each other....Unknown.

Give all to love;

Obey thy heart....Ralph Waldo Emerson.

Love puts the fun in together,

the sad in apart,
the hope in tomorrow,
the joy in a heart....Unknown.

Love is its own reward....Thomas Merton.

I believe love produces a certain

flowering of the whole personality
which nothing else can achieve....Ivan Sergeevich.

Love: To feel with one's whole self the

existence of another being....Simone Weil.

Between whom there is hearty truth

there is love....Henry David Thoreau.

Love endures when the lovers love many things together

And not merely each other.....Walter Lippmann.

Love in its essence is spiritual fire....Swedenborg.

Who, being loved, is poor?....Oscar Wilde.

He who is devoid of the power to forgive, is devoid

of the power to love....Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Physical love is total intimacy.

It is the sign that the lovers have
nothing to refuse each other, that they
belong wholly to each other....J. Leclercq.

We are not the same persons this year as last;

nor are those we love. It is a happy chance if we,
changing, continue to love a changed person....W. Somerset Maugham.

We forgive to the extent that we love....Francois Duc De La Rochefoucauld.

Where there is a today....there was probably

a yesterday....but possibly never a tomorrow....
make the most of wherever your heart desires
to be....tell her you love her....Unknown.

This was love at first sight, love everlasting:

a feeling unknown, unhoped for, unexpected -- in so
far as it could be a matter of conscious awareness;
it took entire possession of him, and he understood,
with joyous amazement, that this was for life....Thomas Mann.

Holding the heart of another in the

comforting hands of prayer is a
priceless act of love....Janet L. Weaver.

A man reserves his true and deepest love not for the
species of woman in whose company he finds himself
electrified and enkindled, but for that one in whose
company he may feel tenderly drowsy....George Jean Nathan.

Love and respect are the most important aspects

of parenting, and of all relationships....Jodie Foster.

In those whom I like, I can find no common

denominator; in those whom I love I can:
they all make me laugh....Wystan Hugh Auden.

You say that love is nonsense....I tell you it is

no such thing. For weeks and months it is a steady
physical pain, an ache about the heart, never leaving one,
by night or by day; a long strain on one's nerves like
toothache or rheumatism, not intolerable at any one instant,
but exhausting by its steady drain on the strength....Henry Adams.
Live through feeling and you will live through love.
For feeling is the language of the soul, and feeling is truth....Matt Zotti.

Love comes when manipulation stops; when you

think more about the other person than about his
or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself
fully. When you dare to be vulnerable....Dr. Joyce Brothers.

A very small degree of hope is

sufficient to cause the birth of love....Stendhal.

To love is not a passive thing. To love is active voice.

When I love I do something, I function, I give. I do not love
in order that I may be loved back again, but for the creative
joy of loving. And every time I do so love I am freed, at least
a little, by the outgoing of love, from enslavement to that most
intolerable of master, myself....Bernard Iddings Bell.

Because of a great love,

one is courageous....Lao-Tsu.

What does love look like? It has the hands to help others.
It has the feet to hasten to the poor and needy. It has eyes
to see misery and want. It has the ears to hear the sighs and
sorrows of men. That is what love looks like....St. Augustine.

Love is a force more formidable than any other.

It is invisible -- it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is
powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you
more joy than any material possession could....Barbara De Angelis.

The love of liberty is the love of others;

the love of power is the love of ourselves.
We cannot force love....William Hazlitt.

Where we love is home,

home that our feet may leave,
but not our hearts....Oliver Wendell Holmes.

Love is everywhere, it has no distance.

All you have to do is stop the resistance....Matt Zotti.

True love is the parent

of humility....William Ellery Channing.
The motto of chivalry is also the motto of wisdom;
to serve all, but love only one....Honore De Balzac.

God loves each of us as if there

were only one of us....St. Augustine.

Sometimes you have to just take a chance in love and life.

You can't live your life amongst a mound of "what ifs."
You have to follow your heart and hope for the best....My Best Friend.

Love is more than words....Unknown.

To live is like to love - all reason is against it,

and all healthy instinct for it....Samuel Butler.

A joyful heart is the inevitable result of

a heart burning with love....Mother Teresa.

In life, actions speak louder than words,

but in love, the eyes do....Unknown.

Love is friendship that has caught fire.

It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence,
sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good
and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and
makes allowances for human weaknesses....Ann Landers.

The quickest way to receive love is to give;

the fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly;
and the best way to keep love is to give it wings....Unknown.

For every beauty there is an eye somewhere to see it.

For every truth there is an ear somewhere to hear it.
For every love there is a heart somewhere to receive it....Ivan Panin.

Love is the child of freedom, never

that of domination....Erich Fromm.

Love is an instinct and hence beyond mind's control.

Love is an emotion and works always with motion....Unknown.

When you love you should not say, "God is in my

heart" but rather, "I am in the heart of God."
And think not you can direct the course of love,
for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course....Unknown.
If you have reasons for loving someone,
then you are using your mind, but if you
love someone for no reason,
then you are using your heart....Unknown.

Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others,

and the delight in the recognition....Alexander Smith.

Our love must not be a thing of words and fine talk.

It must be a thing of action and sincerity....I John 3:18.

There is no remedy for love but to love more....Thoreau.

Pure love is matchless in majesty; it has no parallel in power

and there is no darkness it cannot dispel....Meher Baba.

He who is in love is wise and is becoming wiser, sees newly

every time he looks at the object beloved, drawing from it with
his eyes and his mind those virtues it possesses....Ralph Waldo Emerson.

Life is to be fortified by many friendships.

To love and to be loved is the greatest happiness of existence....Sydney Smith.

Love is the only game that is not called

on account of darkness....M. Hirschfield.

We've got this gift of love, but love is like a

precious plant. You can't just accept it and leave
it in the cupboard or just think it's going to get on
by itself. You've got to keep watering it. You've got to
really look after it and nurture it....John Lennon.

An act of love that fails is just as much a part of the

divine life as an act of love that succeeds, for love is
measured by fullness, not by reception....Harold Loukes.

It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship

and persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual
affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will
not be created for years or even generations....Kahlil Gibran.

Love is what happens to men and women who

don't know each other....W. Somerset Maugham.

You know what's the most terrifying thing about admitting

that you're in love? You're just naked. You put yourself
in harm's way and you lay down all your defenses. No clothes,
no weapons. Nowhere to hide, completely vulnerable. The only
thing that makes it tolerable is to believe the other person
loves you back and you can trust him not to hurt you....Unknown.

We all want to fall in love. Why? Because that experience makes

us feel completely alive. Where every sense is heightened, every
emotion is magnified, our everyday reality is shattered and we are
flying into the heavens. It may only last a moment, an hour, an
afternoon. But that doesn't diminish its value. Because we are left
with memories that we treasure for the rest of our lives....Unknown.

Love is not what we become but who

we already are....Stephen Levine.

It is difficult for some people to accept that love

is a choice. This seems to run counter to the generally
accepted theory of romantic love which expounds that
love is inborn and as such requires no more than to
accept it. This theory believes that love is a magical
force which frees us from all suffering and solves every
problem, that it is an end unto itself. To a limited extent,
there may be some truths to each of these beliefs,
but having the capacity to love is not the same as
having the ability to love....Leo Buscaglia.

Joy is a net of love that captures souls....Mother Teresa.

The most important thing in life is to learn how to

give out LOVE, and to let it come in....Morrie Schwartz.

When we love something it is of value to us, and when

something is of value to us we spend time with it, time
enjoying it and time taking care of it....M. Scott Peck.

Love is not some complex, mystical abstraction.

It is something accessible and human that we learn
through our everyday experience, as often at times
of failure as in moments of ecstasy....Leo Buscaglia.

Real beauty lies in the spiritual accord

that is called love which can exist between
a man and a woman....Kahlil Gibran.

The majority of us lead quiet, unheralded lives as we pass

through this world. There will most likely be no ticker-tape
parades for us, no monuments created in our honor. But that
that does not lessen our possible impact, for there are
scores of people waiting for someone just like us to come
along; people who will appreciate our compassion, our unique
talents. Someone who will live a happier life merely because
we took the time to share what we had to give. Too often we
underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word
a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act
of caring, all of which have a potential to turn a life around.
It's overwhelming to consider the continuous opportunities
there are to make our love felt....Leo Buscaglia.

Love is a force that connects us to every strand of

the universe, an unconditional state that characterizes
human nature, a form of knowledge that is always there for
us if only we can open ourselves to it....Emily Hilburn Sell.

If you open your heart,

love opens your mind....Unknown.

True love is the unearned compliment,

the gift forever giving....Burke Day.

Love is like a beautiful flower which

I may not touch, but whose fragrance
makes the garden a place of delight
just the same....Helen Keller.

Love is the reward of love....Schiller.

Hate is easy;
Love takes courage....Unknown.

The hardest of all is learning to be a well of

affection, and not a fountain, to show them
that we love them, not when we feel like it,
but when they do....Nan Fairbrother.

When the one man loves the one woman and the one
woman loves the one man, the very angels leave
heaven and come sit in that house and sing for joy....Brahma.

Love is the flower of life, and blossoms unexpectedly

and without law, and must be plucked where it is found,
and enjoyed for the brief hour of its duration....D.H. Lawrence.
Love is wanting what you have, not having
what you want....Jaci in Alaska -- an on-line love story.

Growth of the soul is our goal, and there are many

ways to encourage that growth, such as through love,
nature, healing our wounds, forgiveness, and service.
The soul grows well when giving and receiving love.
I nourish my soul daily by loving others and being
vulnerable to their love. Love is, after all, a verb,
an action word, not a noun....Joan Borysenko, Ph.D.

Happiness and love are just a choice away....Leo Buscaglia.

To write a good love letter, you ought to begin

without knowing what you mean to say, and finish
without knowing what you have written....Jean Jacques Rousseau.

Love is always saying you're sorry....Rep. Burke Day.

Love is life...and if you miss love,

you miss life....Leo Buscaglia.

Heaven is the perfect,

unconditional love for another....Unknown.

Wicked men obey from fear;

good men, from love....Aristotle.

To love someone means to see him as

God intended him....Fyodor Dostoyevsky.

You love simply because you

cannot help it....Kim Anderson.

A woman unsatisfied must have luxuries.

But a woman who loves a
man would sleep on a board....D. H. Lawrence.

Love is being stupid together....Calvin.

Love cures people -- both the ones

who give it and the ones who
receive it....Dr. Karl Menninger.

Spread love everywhere you go: first of all

in your own house. Give love to your children,
to your wife or husband, to a next door neighbor...
Let no one ever come to you without leaving better
and happier. Be the living expression of God's kindness;
kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in
your smile, kindness in your warm greeting....Mother Teresa.

True love never dies for it is lust that

fades away. Love bonds for a lifetime
but lust just pushes away....Alicia Barnhart.

Love is like playing the piano.

First you must learn to play by the rules,
then you must forget the rules and play from your heart....Unknown.

Absence sharpens love,

presence strengthens it....Traditional.

The greatest healing therapy is

friendship and love....Hubert Humphrey.

No love, no friendship, can cross the path of our destiny

without leaving some mark on it forever....Francois Mocuriac.

Plant impossible gardens.

Look forward to dreams.
Cry during movies.
Swing as high as you can on a swingset, by moonlight.
Cultivate moods.
Do it for love.
Take lots of naps.
Take moonbaths.
Giggle with children.
Listen to old people.
Drive away fear.
Play with everything.
Entertain your inner child.
Build a fort with blankets.
Get wet.
Hug trees.
Write love letters....SARK.

To paraphrase something the anthropologist

Ashley Montagu once said, the way I change my
life is to act as if I'm the person I want to be.
This is, to me, the simplest, wisest advice you
can give anyone. When you wake up and act like a
loving person, you realize not only that you are
altered, but that the people around you are also
transformed, because everybody is changed by
the reception of this love....Bernie Siegel.

My bounty is as boundless as the sea,

My love as deep; the more I give to thee
The more I have, for both are infinite....Shakespeare.

Joy does not simply happen to us. We have to

choose joy and keep choosing it every day. It is
a choice based on the knowledge that we belong to
God and have found in God our refuge and our safety and that nothing, not even
death, can take God away from us. Joy is the experience
of knowing that you are unconditionally loved and that
nothing--sickness, failure, emotional distress, oppression,
war, or even death--can take that love away....Henri Nouwen.

Remember who loved you first....Jesus Christ.

Once you love, you cannot take

it back, cannot undo it. What you
felt may have changed, shifted slightly,
yet still remains love....Whitney Otto.

Patience with others is Love,

Patience with self is Hope,
Patience with God is Faith....Adel Bestavros.

I fell in love with her courage, her sincerity, and

her flaming self-respect and it's these things I'd
believe in even if the whole world indulged in wild
suspicions that she wasn't all she should be…I love her
and that's the beginning of everything....F. Scott Fitzgerald.

The fruit of Silence is Prayer

The fruit of Prayer is Faith
The fruit of Faith is Love
The fruit of Love is Service
The fruit of Service is Peace.... Mother Teresa.

Listen more carefully •

Notice the seasons change •
Hold hands with someone you love •
Give more hugs •
Watch more sunsets •
Take walks •
Sing out loud more often •
Square dance a little •
Have more picnics •
Make friends wherever you go •
Feel good about yourself •
Daydream a little •
Laugh as much as possible •
Take your shoes off •
Use your imagination •
Tell more stories.... National Storytelling Festival.

Remembering God, or whatever you choose to call the

Loving force that created us, is what "waking up"
is all about. It is remembering that Love is what
created us and, therefore, Love is what we are. It is
remembering that we are spiritual beings, who were
created as the essence of Love....Jerry Jampolsky & Diane Cirincione.

1. Do what's right. Be on time, be polite, and be honest;

remain free from drugs; and if you have any questions, get
out your Bible. 2. Do your best. Mediocrity is unacceptable
when you are capable of doing better. 3. Treat others as you
want to be treated. Practice love and understanding....Lou Holtz.

In an article describing his Palm Springs home,

Architectural Digest reported that Frank Sinatra had
the following credo hanging on his bedroom wall:
I believe in the sun even when it's not shining.
I believe in love even when not feeling it.
I believe in God even when He is silent....Unknown.

We can only learn to love by loving....Iris Murdoch.

Pleasant fragrances of the breezes of love blow from the

lovers even though they might conceal it. The effects of
these breezes bear witness to them even if they disguise
it and are apparent even if they hide it....Abu Ali Katib.

Love, then, hath every bliss in store; 'Tis friendship,

and 'tis something more. Each other every wish they
give; not to know love is not to live....John Gray.

You may wish to be loving -- you may even try with all your
might -- but your love will never be pure unless you are free
from resentment. When we are free from resentment, loving
is effortless. When we have to try hard to love, this is
generally a sign that we are repressing our resentments....John Gray.

Love works in miracles every day: such as weakening the strong,

and stretching the weak; making fools of the wise, and wise men
of fools; favouring the passions, destroying reason, and in a
word, turning everything topsy-turvy....Marguerite De Valois.

Love is the emblem of eternity: it confounds all notion of time:

effaces all memory of a beginning, all fear of an end....Germaine De Stael.

Two things you should NEVER say to the one you love:
"I love you, but..." and "If you loved me,
you would..." Should you really qualify love with conditions?....Unknown.

One forgives to the degree that one loves....Francois Duc De La Rochefaucould.

Love withers with predictability; its very essence is

surprise and amazement. To make love a prisoner of the
mundane is to take its passion and lose it forever....Leo Buscaglia.

But love is a durable fire

In the mind ever burning;
Never sick, never old, never dead
From itself never turning....Sir Walter Raleigh.

There are only four questions of value in life...

What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made?
What is worth living for? What is worth dying for?
The answer to each is the same. Only love....Don Juan De Marco.

Love is a thing, well, its kind of like quicksand:

The more you are in it, the deeper you sink.
And when it hits you, you've just got to fall....UB40.

Find the person who will love you because of

your differences and not in spite of them and
you have found a lover for life....Leo Buscaglia.

For women, "I love you" is the sweetest phrase in the

world. But not every man who says it means it. On the other hand,
some men may feel it deeply, but still find it hard to say.
There are several reasons these words might stick in a man's throat.
The first is that, quite commonly, men have a difficult time
expressing the emotions they feel most deeply. Another reason
is the words "I love you" might be interpreted as a
marriage proposal. So that nothing gets lost in the translation,
men with this concern will wait for the time in which they
can back up their words with a lifetime commitment....John Gray.

Love is the true means by which the world is enjoyed:

our love to others, and others' love to us....Thomas Trahern.

Love never claims, it ever gives; love never suffers,

never resents, never revenges itself. Where there is love
there is life; hatred leads to destruction....Mahatma Gandhi.

What we need to know about loving is no great mystery. We all

know what constitutes loving behavior; we need but act upon it,
not continually question it. Over-analysis often confuses the
issue and in the end brings us no closer to insight. We sometimes
become too busy classifying, separating, and examining, to remember
that love is easy. It's we who make it complicated....Leo Buscaglia.

Love is the only way to grasp another human being in

the innermost core of his personality....Victor Frankel.

Romantic love reaches out in little ways, showing attention

and admiration, Romantic love remembers what pleases a woman,
what excites her, and what surprises her. Its actions whisper:
you are the most special person in my life....Charles Stanley.

Do not be afraid of showing your affection. Be warm and tender,

thoughtful and affectionate. Men are more helped by sympathy,
than by service; love is more than money, and a kind word
will give more pleasure than a present....Sir John Lubbock.

The number one way a man can succeed in fulfilling a

woman's primary love needs is through communication.
By learning to listen to a woman's feelings, a man can
effectively shower a woman with caring, understanding,
respect, devotion, validation, and reassurance....John Gray.

Romantic-love relationships are made or broken by the effectiveness or

ineffectiveness of communication. The essence of mutual self-disclosure
is communication. And no element of communication is more important to
romantic love than that of feelings and emotions....Dr. Nathaniel Branden.

Love...Force it and it disappears. You cannot will love,

nor even control it. You can only guide its expression.
It comes or it goes according to those qualities in life
that invite it or deny its presence....David Seabury.
Love wholeheartedly, be surprised, give thanks and praise then
you will discover the fullness of your life....David Steindl-Rast.

To fall in love is easy, even to remain in it is

not difficult; our human loneliness is cause enough.
But is a hard quest worth making to find a comrade
through whose steady presence one becomes
steadily the person one desires to be....Anna Strong.

True love grows by sacrifice and the more thoroughly

the soul rejects natural satisfaction the stronger and
more detached its tenderness becomes....Saint Teresa.

We really have to understand the person we want to love.

If our love is only a will to possess, it is not love. If we
only think of ourselves, if we know only our own needs and ignore
the needs of the other person, we cannot love....Thich Nat Hanh.

We can cure physical diseases with medicine, but the only

cure for loneliness, despair, and hopelessness is love.
There are many in the world who are dying for a piece of bread,
but there are many more dying for a little love....Mother Teresa.

They do not love that do not show their love....William Shakespeare.

If you are truly in love with a man's daughter.

You'll love her till eternity ends, and after....Jerusalmi Streete.

Some people think only intellect counts: knowing how to solve problems,
knowing how to get by, knowing how to identify an advantage and
seize it. But the functions of intellect are insufficient without
courage, love, friendship, compassion and empathy....Dean Koontz.

Love is not losing freedom, it is sharing freedom with another....Unknown.

Love is an education in itself....Eleanor Roosevelt.

Love is the special feeling that brightens all our days,

and the secret of its meaning is found in simple ways.
Love is missing someone whenever you're apart, but somehow
feeling warm inside because you're close in heart....Kay Knudsen.

If I tell you I love you can I keep you forever?....Casper.

Love doesn't require anything of the other person....

love gives without asking anything in return....Unknown.

To the child, Love is both real and pretense:

a necessity sometimes, a role at other times:
instinctive, yet learned behavior....Unknown.

A newly married couple said, "What shall we do

to make our love endure?" Said the Master,
"Love other things together"....Anthony De Mello.

Love does not bind with chains and demands,

love gives the soul wings. Love teaches freedom
and happiness and gives inner peace....Unknown.

What love is: It is blind devotion, unquestioning self-humiliation,

utter submission, trust and belief against yourself and against the
whole world, giving up your whole heart and soul to the smiter....Charles Dickens.

The moment I heard my first love story I began seeking you...

not knowing that the search was useless. Lovers don't meet somewhere
along the way, they're in one another's soul from the beginning....Unknown.

Love is when the woman of your dreams becomes a

reality and sleep stops being a priority....Unknown.

'Tis better to have loved and lost,

than never to have lost at all....Samuel Butler.

Love is like the moon; when it does

not increase it decreases....Segur.

Love can happen anywhere at any time and

almost always when we least expect it....Unknown.

Marry a person you love to talk to. As you

get older, their conversational skills
will be as important as any other....Unknown.

The highest love of all finds its fulfillment not in

what it keeps, but in what it gives....Father Andrew.

Lust is a state of the mind, love is a

state of the heart & soul....Unknown.

No one can tell anyone what love is; you will simply
know it when you feel nothing else....Jared Little.
Love many things, for therein lies the true strength,
and whosoever loves much performs much, and can accomplish
much, and what is done in love is done well....Vincent Van Gogh.

In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything

and two minus one equals nothing....Mignon McLaughlin.

Love is the only gold....Tennyson.

We all love best not those who offend us least,

nor those who have done most for us, but those who make
it most easy for us to forgive them....Samuel Butler.

Love feels no burden, thinks nothing of trouble, attempts what is

above its strength, pleads no excuse of impossibility; for it thinks
all things lawful for itself, and all things possible....Thomas A. Kempis.

Love is not finding someone to live with,

it's finding someone you can't live without....Rafael Ortiz.

Joy is love exalted; peace is love in response; long-suffering is

love enduring; gentleness is love in society; goodness is love in
action; faith is love on the battlefield; meekness is love in tough
situations; and temperance is love in training....D.L. Moody.

We are shaped and fashioned by what we love....Goethe.

Love is not blind -- it sees more, not less. But because

it sees more, it is willing to see less....Rabbi Julius Gordon.

And in that moment I possessed and lost the whole world and
everything in it and was left with the feeling and the knowledge,
which is love, that no matter how we give ourselves we always end up
losing. That to love is to lose, the moment we agree to the bargain. And
that, being human, we keep standing there wanting to lose more....Ann Rinaldi.

Love can hope where reason would despair....George, Lord Lyttleton.

True love doesn't have a happy ending:

true love doesn't have an ending....Unknown.

The strongest evidence of love is sacrifice....Carolyn Fry.

Love is...born with the pleasure of looking at each other,

it is fed with the necessity of seeing each other, it is
concluded with the impossibility of separation....Jose Marti Y Perez.

Love distills desire upon the eyes,

love brings bewitching grace into the heart....Euripides.

Depth has one address: fidelity in love....Dr Laura.

Once you've felt love, you'll know it's love

because you don't want to let it go....Jean Zheng.

If you can't love me at my worst,

you don't need me at my best....Unknown.

Love is when you are kept awake at night with

thoughts of him...and when sleep finally finds you,
he is waiting there in your dreams....Unknown.

Love ever gives-forgives-outlives and ever stands with

open hands. And while it lives, it gives. For this is love's
prerogative -- to give and give and give....John Oxenham.

Love may last for just a moment but memory

can make that moment last forever....Unknown.

Love is like air, you cannot see it, however you can feel it.
Sometimes it can create great turbulence and other times
it is so calm you question it's reality....Unknown.

Love isn't just 'at the moment' it's forever....Unknown.

The story of love is hello and goodbye...

until we meet again....Jimi Hendrix.

Love is a promise, love is a souvenir, once given

never forgotten, never let it disappear....John Lennon.

Love one another, but make no bond of love; let it rather be

a moving sea between the shores of your soul. Fill each other’s
cup, but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread,
but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and
be joyous, but let each one of you be alone....Kahlil Gibran.

Love suffers long

And is kind.
Love envies not.
Seeks not her own.
Thinks no evil.
Bears all things.
Believes all things.
Hopes all things.
Love never fails....I Corinthians 13:4-6.

Never forget that the most powerful

force on earth is love....Nelson Rockefeller.

Love is...running into his arms,

Colliding with his heart,
And exploding into his soul....Unknown.

Like any other living, growing thing, love requires

effort to keep it healthy....Leo Buscaglia.

Love is a flower...you've got to let it grow....John Lennon.

Love runs raw and wild through my heart and soul,

nourishing me and helping me to grow....Unknown.

Love is a mutual self-giving which

ends in self-recovery....Fulton J. Sheen.

How blessed I am that I can walk beside you, lean upon you,
and live within the warmth of your love....Roy Lessin.

Love is a gift. You can't buy it, you can't

find it, someone has to give it to you.
Learn to be receptive of that gift....Kurt Langner.

The image of myself which I try to create in my own

mind in order that I may love myself is very different
from the image which I try to create in the minds of
others in order that they may love me....Wystan Hugh Auden.

When you have nothing left but love, then for the first
time you become aware that love is enough....Unknown.

O divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be

consoled as to console; to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love. For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned; and it is in dying
that we are born to eternal life....Saint Francis of Assisi.

Had we not loved ourselves at all, we could never

have been obliged to love anything. So that self-love
is the basis of all love....Thomas Traherne.

I think of love as a muscle like the heart.

It's powerful. It pumps blood through you and keeps
you alive and feeling good....Amanda Innis.

It is easy to hate and it is difficult to love. This is how

the whole scheme of things works. All good things are difficult
to achieve; and bad things are very easy to get....Morarji Desai.

Love is a gift from God, and as we obey His laws and genuinely
learn to serve others, we develop God's love in our lives.
Love of God is the means of unlocking divine powers which help us
to live worthily and to overcome the world....David B. Haight.

'Tis said of love that it sometimes goes, sometimes flies; runs with one,
walks gravely with another; turns a third into ice, and sets a fourth in
a flame: it wounds one, another it kills: like lightning it begins and ends
in the same moment: it makes that fort yield at night which it besieged but
in the morning; for there is no force able to resist it....Miguel De Cervantes.

Love all that has been created by God, both the whole and
every grain of sand. Love every leaf and every ray of light.
Love the beasts and the birds, love the plants, love every
separate fragment. If you love each fragment, you will understand
the mystery of the whole resting in God....Fyodor Dostoevski.

Love works a different way in different minds

the fool it enlightens and the wise it blinds....John Dryden.

Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that

you care for to be what they choose for themselves,
without any insistence that they satisfy you....Wayne Dyer.

God proved His love on the Cross. When Christ

hung, and bled, and died, it was God saying
to the world, 'I love you'....Billy Graham.

I met in the street a very poor young man who was

in love. His hat was old, his coat worn, his cloak
was out at the elbows, the water passed through his
shoes -- and the stars through his soul....Victor Hugo.

Love is the only bow of life's dark cloud. It is the Morning and
Evening Star. It shines upon the cradle of the babe, and sheds
its radiance upon the quiet tomb. It is the Mother of Art, inspirer
of poet, patriot, and philosopher. It is the air and light of every
heart, builder of every home, kinder of every fire on every hearth,
it was the first dream of immortality. It fills the world with melody.
Love is the magician, the enchanter, that changes worthless things to
joy, and makes right royal kings of common clay....Robert Green Ingersoll.

Love is never lost. If not reciprocated, it will flow

back and soften and purify the heart....Washington Irving.

Nothing is more beautiful than the love that has weathered

the storms of life. The love of the young for the young,
that is the beginning of life. But the love of the old for
the old, that is the beginning of things longer....Jerome K. Jerome.

The world is wonderful and beautiful and good beyond

one's wildest imagination. Never, never, never could one
conceive what love is, beforehand, never....D. H. Lawrence.

Human Love...It is that extra creation that stands hurt and

baffled at the place of death. Being human, wanting children
and sunlight and breath to go on, forever....Christopher Leach.

Love means the body, the soul, the life, the entire being.
We feel love as we feel the warmth of our blood, we breathe
love as we breathe air, we hold it in ourselves as we hold
our thoughts. Nothing more exists for us....Guy De Maupassant.

Love never reasons, but profusely gives; it gives

like a thoughtless prodigal its all, and then
trembles least it has done to little....Hannah More.

Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do...

but how much love we put in that action....Mother Teresa.

Do not think that love in order to be genuine has

to be extraordinary. What we need is to love without
getting tired. Be faithful in small things because
it is in them that your strength lies....Mother Teresa.

The way of peace is the way of love.

Love is the greatest power on earth.
It conquers all things....Peace Pilgrim.

Pure love is a willingness to give without a

thought of receiving anything in return....Peace Pilgrim.
Love expands....Hugh Prather.

Love rules his kingdom without a sword....Proverb.

It is easy to half the potato where there is love....Irish Proverb.

Love is an expression and assertion of self-esteem, a response

to one's own values in the person of another. One gains a
profoundly personal, selfish joy from the mere existence
of the person one loves. It is one's own personal, selfish
happiness that one seeks, earns, and derives from love....Ayn Rand.

Many people when they fall in love look for a little

haven of refuge from the world, where they can be sure
of being admired when they are not admirable, and praised
when they are not praiseworthy....Bertrand Russell.

The root of the matter…the thing I mean...is love, Christian love,

or compassion. If you feel this, you have a motive for existence,
a guide for action, a reason for courage, an imperative
necessity for intellectual honesty....Bertrand Russell.

Give us, O God, the vision which can see Your

love in the world in spite of human failure.
Give us the faith to trust Your goodness in spite
of our ignorance and weakness. Give us the knowledge
that we may continue to pray with understanding hearts.
And show us what each one of us can do to set forward
the coming of the day of universal peace....Frank Borman.

There is a time for risky love. There is a time for

extravagant gestures. There is a time to pour out
your affections on one you love. And when the time
comes -- seize it, don't miss it....Max Lucado.

Love cannot endure indifference. It needs to be wanted.

Like a lamp, it needs to be fed out of the oil of another's
heart, or its flame burns low....Henry Ward Beecher.

Death is a challenge. It tells us not to waste

time...it tells us to tell each other right now
that we love each other....Leo F. Buscaglia.

"True love" isn't so much a dreamy feeling that you have

as it is an enduring commitment to give sacrificially -- even,
or perhaps especially, when you don't feel like it....William R. Mattox, Jr.

Two hearts, two minds, in time did find

one love, one aim two paths the same.
Hold fast...and love will last....Matt Buttram.

There is seemingly so little love shared in this world,

it is not surprising that we ask, "Where have all
the lovers gone?" Since love is the most vital energy
for good that is within our power to utilize, it is puzzling
why we so seldom do so. Love is just a useless, abstract idea
until we put it into action...unless we are always actively
living in love, we are not utilizing the greatest gift we have
been given and which we, in turn, have to offer....Leo Buscaglia.

There is much to be known, and above all much to

be loved, be it the turn of the seasons or the shape
of a river pebble. Indeed, the more we find to love,
the more we add to the measure of our hearts....Adaon.

In a relationship. The times that I remember the most.

Are the times when I was with my girlfriend in the spirit of
love. Not in the feeling of lust....Brad Breitenstein.

Love and electricity are one in the same, my dear...

if you do not feel the jolt in your soul every time
a kiss is shared, a whisper is spoken, a touch is felt,
then you're not really in love at all....C. J. Franks.

The moment you have in your heart this extraordinary thing called
love and feel the depth, the delight, the ecstasy of it, you will
discover that for you the world is transformed....Jiddu Krishnamurti.

The more connections you and your lover make, not just between
your bodies, but between your minds, your hearts, and your souls,
the more you will strengthen the fabric of your relationship, and
the more real moments you will experience together....Barbara De Angelis.

Worship: It is the song of the heart that is grateful to God.

Work: It is the secret of success.
Play: It is the symbol of youthfulness.
Read: It is the source of knowledge.
Think: It is the strength of the mind.
Love: It is the sacrament of life.
Dream: It is the soul of aspiration.
Help: It is the secret of happiness.
Laugh: It is the song of experience.
Pray: It is the source of strength.
Plan: It is the secret of being able
to have time for all of the above.
Inspiration....Unknown.

Each of us is responsible for creating an environment

of warmth and consideration for those we love. I have
always tried to define a good day not in terms of one
in which all things were made right and comfortable for
me but rather, as a day in which I have been able to make
another's day more loving and special for them. We must
treat each other with dignity. Not because we merit it
but because we grow best in thoughtfulness....Leo Buscaglia.

To love only for the looks is to only see with your eyes,
but to love with your soul is to see with your heart....Unknown.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those

things you must build upon in order to have a solid
emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson,
love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned
to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is
said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant....Unknown.

Love is not to be purchased, and affection has no price....St. Jerome.

Love is swift, sincere, pious, joyful, generous, strong,

patient, faithful, prudent, long-suffering, courageous,
and never seeking its own; for wheresoever a person seeketh
his own, there he falleth from love....Thomas ã Kempis.

Love can never grow old. Looks may lose their brown
and gold. Cheeks may fade and hollow grow. But the
hearts that love will know, never winter's frost and
chill, summer's warmth is in them still....Leo Buscaglia.

Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you.

All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery
when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills
you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.
Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.
Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it
to the world around you in any way you can....Unknown.

Dwell not on the past. Use it to illustrate a point,

then leave it behind. Nothing really matters except
what you do now in this instant of time. From this moment
onwards you can be an entirely different person, filled
with love and understanding, ready with an outstretched hand,
uplifted and positive in every thought and deed....Eileen Caddy.

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely

to seek and find all the barriers within yourself
that you have built against it....Rumi.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience,

kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.
Against such things there is no law. Notice the word *fruit*
is singular, yet it lists nine....Galatians 5:22. So there is
only one fruit of the Spirit. That fruit is love. The others....
Joy -- love smiling
Peace -- love resting
Patience -- love waiting
Kindness -- love showing itself
sensitive to others' feelings
Goodness -- love making allowances
Faithfulness -- love proving constant
Gentleness -- love yielding
Self-control -- love triumphing over
selfish inclinations....Unknown.

Forever will little opportunities to love daily drop

into our hands to abundantly satisfy the question,
"Lord, what will you have me do?"....Unknown.

The litmus test of discipleship is in Jesus’

own words, "By this all will know you are
My disciples, if you love one another"....John 13:35.

Don't be afraid of showing affection. Be warm and tender,

thoughtful and affectionate. Men are more helped by sympathy
than by service. Love is more than money, and a kind word
will give more pleasure than a present....Sir John Lubbock.

Our lives are shaped by those who love us as well

as those who refuse to love us....Dr. Karl Menninger.

Of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps

the most fatal to true happiness....Bertrand Russell.

Lust is the forest fire that destroys everything

in its path, love is a torch that burns
intensely and bonds two hearts....Unknown.

Love is taking the standards that you have for

someone, or even your own feelings, and having
them totally blown away....J. Edward Bucher.

A deep man believes that the evil eye can whither,

the heart's blessing can heal, and that love can
overcome all odds....Ralph Waldo Emerson :-)

Peace will come when the power of love

overcomes the love of power....Jimi Hendrix.

Love has to spring spontaneously from within

And it is no way amenable to any form of inner or outer force.
Love and coercion can never go together;
But though love cannot be forced on anyone,
It can be awakened in him through love itself.
Love is essentially self communicative;
Those who do not have it catch it from those who have it.
True love is unconquerable and irresistible,
And it goes on gathering power and spreading itself,
Until eventually it transforms everyone whom it touches....Meher Baba.

Love is as much of an object as an obsession,

everybody wants it, everybody seeks it, but few ever
achieve it, those who do will cherish it, be lost in it,
and among all, never...never forget it....Curtis Judalet.

To love another person is to see the face of God....Victor Hugo.

I love you. And not in a friendly way, although I think

we're great friends. And not in a misplaced affection,
puppy-dog way, although I'm sure that's what you'll call it.
And it's not because you're unattainable. I love you.
Very simply, very truly. You're the epitome of every attribute
and quality I've ever looked for in another person....Chasing Amy.

To love one who loves you,

To admire one who admires you,
In a word,
to be the idol of one's idol,
Is exceeding the limit of human joy;
It is stealing fire from heaven....Delphine De Girardin.
I must conquer my loneliness alone. I must be happy
with myself or I have nothing to offer you. Two halves
have little choice but to join; and yes, they do make
a whole. But two wholes when they coincide...
that is beauty. That is love....Peter McWilliams.

Do you want me to tell you something really

subversive? Love is everything it's cracked
up to be. That's why people are so cynical
about it...it really is worth fighting for,
being brave for, risking everything for.
And the trouble is, if you don't risk anything,
you risk even more....Erica Jong.

Love is not obedience, conformity, or submission.

It is a counterfeit love that is contingent upon
authority, punishment, or reward. True love is respect
and admiration, compassion and kindness, freely
given by a healthy, unafraid human being....Dan Barker.

This is the miracle that happens every time

to those who really love; the more they give,
the more they possess....Rainer Maria Rilke.

You know it's love when the tiny details about

another person, ones that are insignificant to most
people, seem fascinating and incredible to you....Unknown.

Only love lets us see normal things in an

extraordinary way....Alejandro De Solminihac.

Treasure the love you receive above all.

It will survive long after your gold and
good health have vanished....Og Mandino.

Love vanquishes time. To lovers, a moment can be eternity,

eternity can be the tick of a clock. Across the barriers
of time and the ultimate destiny, love persists, for the
home of the beloved, absent or present, is always in the
mind and heart. Absence does not diminish love....Mary Parrish.

The greatest gift that you can give to others is the

gift of unconditional love and acceptance....Brian Tracy.

True love begins when nothing is looked

for in return....Antoine De Saint-Exupery.
Some emotions don't make a lot of noise. It's hard
to hear pride. Caring is real
faint -- like a heartbeat.
And pure love -- why, some days it's so quiet,
you don't even know it's there....Erma Bombeck.

True love comes quietly, without

banners or flashing lights....Erich Segal.

If you create the space and the desire to have love in your
heart as your top priority, you'll start to see that you have
the capacity to make loving decisions, and to have loving
reactions, and to become nondefensive, and to become a better
listener...and pretty soon a little annoyance will come your
way or someone will do something wrong...and you'll just find
yourself forgiving them. You'll find yourself not wanting to
be thrown off-center simply to follow some negative train of
thought that's going to bring you somewhere you don't want to
go. You'll find yourself able to stay in that feeling of love --
and when you do, almost everything else magically takes care of
itself...love is the most important answer in life....Richard Carlson.

Love is the strongest force the world possesses,

and yet it is the humblest imaginable....Mahatma Gandhi.

The greatest possession we have costs

nothing; it's known as love....Brian Jett.

Honesty is a principle. Service is a principle. Love is a

principle. Hard work is a principle. Respect, gratitude,
moderation, fairness, integrity, loyalty, and responsibility
are principles. There are dozens and dozens more. They are
not hard to identify. Just as a compass always points to true
north, your heart will recognize true principles....Sean Covey.

If we don't tell them we love them, the ones we

fall in love with are usually gone before we had
the chance to lose them ourselves....Unknown.

Love is the hammer that will break the hardest heart....Unknown.

Those who are afraid of love and where it might

take you, don't be. For letting someone into your
life and letting them know you that well is the
greatest accomplishment ever....Nikole Flannery.
Love has the power to break all chains --
Swim the deepest seas --
Endure the strongest pains --
Love is the glow in the darkest night leading
you on until you have sight....Cristoto Larita.

If we listened to our intellect, we'd never have a

love affair. We'd never have a friendship. We'd never
go into business, because we'd be cynical. Well, that's
nonsense. You've got to jump off cliffs all the time
and build your wings on the way down....Ray Bradbury.

You can search throughout the entire universe for

someone who is more deserving of your love and affection
than you are yourself, and that person is not to be
found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the
entire universe, deserve your love and affection....Buddha.

True love is visible not to the eyes but to the heart,

for eyes may be deceived....Antoine De Saint-Exupery.

Love dictates, but a kiss writes the secrets of the heart....Unknown.

If you begin the day with love in your heart,

Peace in your nerves,
And truth in your mind,
You not only benefit by their presence
But also bring them to others,
To your family and friends, and to all those
Whose destiny draws across your path that day....Unknown.

Even if courage fails you, tell that special someone

that you love them in anyway possible....Unknown.

When someone opens his/herself up to you,

it is not so that you know where to
attack in the time of battle, but so
that you know how to protect him/her from
the world with your love....Unknown.

Love is not measured by how many times you touch each other
but by how many times you reach each other....Cathy Moraney.

Let's try to remember that love means keeping in

touch with each other's thoughts and feelings...
listening, not just to words, but to the emotions
behind them...seeing, not just the smiles and frowns,
but the hurts and pleasures that cause them....Unknown.

Love is of all passions the strongest, for it attacks

simultaneously the head, the heart, & the senses....Voltaire.

When you really want love you will

find it waiting for you....Oscar Wilde.

You must love yourself before you love another.

By accepting yourself and fully being what you are...
your simple presence can make others happy....Jane Roberts.

The person who doesn't fit in with our notions of who is worthy
of our love -- the bag lady at the corner, the strange man who
rides through town on a three wheel bike all strung up with
flags -- is just the person who, by not fitting into our patterns,
insists that we expand not only our views but also our capacity
to love. Today, see if you can stretch your heart and expand your
love so that it touches not only those whom you can give it easily,
but also those who need it so much....Daphne Rose Kingma.

To love is to place happiness in the heart of another....Leibnitz.

I'm still kissing your hand as one that truly loves all
the yous....words of the most sensitive guy I know...
my forever friend Philip Larson....I love you :-)

I love the sun for days, the moon for night,

and you forever....Philip...."ditto" from me to you :-)

I have a thought...the one God has meant for us is going to

be the hardest to get, the hardest to keep, and the hardest
to accept. Because through all that, love will grow stronger,
bonds will become thicker, and the future will become more
clear. Love wasn't made to be easy, otherwise, we wouldn't
end up with the RIGHT person, we would end up with the first
one who came along. By struggling, we single out the wrong
ones and realize who really is the ONE....J.D.

For one human being to love another; that is perhaps the most difficult of our tasks;
the ultimate, the last test and proof; the work for
which all other work is but preparation....Rainer Maria Rilke.

Love is not getting, but giving. Not a wild dream of

pleasure and madness of desire -- oh, no -- love is
not that! It is goodness and honor and peace and pure
living - yes, love is that and it is the best thing in
the world and the thing that lives the longest....Henry Van Dyke.

...when we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives

but are grateful for the abundance that's present -- love, health,
family, friends, work, the joys of nature, and personal pursuits
that bring us pleasure -- the wasteland of illusion falls
away and we experience heaven on earth....Sarah Ban Brethnach.

It is not love, but lack of

love which is blind....Glenway Wescott.

'Tis the gift to be simple, 'tis the gift to be free.

'Tis the gift to come down where we ought to be.
And when we find ourselves in the place just right,
'Twill be in the valley of love and delight....Traditional Shaker Hymn.

Genuine love will always feel urged to communicate joy --

to be a joy-giver. Mankind needs joy....Lawrence G. Lovasik.

Love is a medicine for the sickness of the world;

a prescription often given, too rarely taken....Dr. Karl Menninger.

Nothing worth doing is completed in our lifetime; therefore we

must be saved by hope. Nothing true or beautiful makes complete
sense in any immediate context of history; therefore we must be
saved by faith. Nothing we do, however virtuous, can be
accomplished alone; therefore, we are saved by love....Reinhold Niebuhr.

Love doesn't just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made,

like bread, re-made all the time, made new....Ursula K. Le Guin.

Sometimes we see things not as they are but as

we are: Love brings understanding....Unknown.

Love is broad; if you love someone, you love all things,

not just their beauty. Love is narrow; you love one and
only one, compared to them, no one matters....A. Braxton.

Love is blind. That is why he always

proceeds by touch....French Proverb.

It is the special quality of love not to be

able to remain stationary, to be obliged to
increase under pain of diminishing.... Andre Gide.

The joy of late love is like green firewood when set aflame,
for the longer the wait in lighting, the greater heat it
yields and the longer its force lasts....Chrétien De Troyes.

We live by admiration, hope and love....William Wordsworth.

A successful marriage requires falling in love

many times, always with the same person....Mignon McLaughlin.

A job is what we do for money;

work is what we do for love....Marysarah Quinn.

There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth

out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth
is not made perfect in love....1 John 4:18.

Love is something wonderful, it nears to the divine,

it is something man nor beast can hate, nor yet
can thy define. Oh sweet and mystic words of love,
so gentle, and so dear, they penetrate the soul of
man, so that his heart may hear....K R Lamprey.

If you open your heart, love opens your

mind....Charles John Quarto, Eric Lowen, Dan Navarro.

As selfishness and complaint pervert and cloud the mind,

so love with its joy clears and sharpens the vision....Helen Keller.

Love and you will be loved, and you will be able to do

all that you could not do unloved....Marques De Santillana.

Whom we love best, to them we can say least....English proverb.

Love is that enviable state that knows no

envy or vanity, only empathy and a longing
to be greater than oneself....Joe McMahon.

There are mysteries about our love. Things that neither

one of us may ever understand because love is an emotion
without limit and understanding. We know we love each other
but we could never explain completely as why we love each
other. Love is not a clock. You simply cannot take it apart
just to see what makes it tick, and even if you could, you
probably could never get it back together again....Unknown.
Love means to love that which is unlovable, or it
is no virtue at all; forgiving means to pardon the
unpardonable, or it is no virtue at all; faith means
believing the unbelievable, or it is no virtue at all;
and to hope means hoping when things are hopeless,
or it is no virtue at all....G.K. Chesterton.

Love all, trust a few;

Do wrong to none....William Shakespeare.

It isn't possible to love and part...you can

transmutate love, ignore it, muddle it, but you
can never pull it out of you. I know from experience
that the poets are right: love is eternal....E M Forester.

Live to love, and love to live....Pierre Khalbourji.

A man is a little thing while he works

by and for himself; but when he gives
voice to the rules of love and justice,
he is godlike....Ralph Waldo Emerson.

Love doesn't grow on trees like apples in Eden --

it's something you have to make. And you must
use your imagination too....Joyce Cary.

Love is a feeling that is held tightly within the heart.

It begins small and then consumes the body, and pours out
our skin flowing eternally to merge with its beloved
waters. It is a mark of pride, that scars the body for
all others to look upon. Eyes will speak of the burning
and consuming cool warmth from head to toe. The shiver
of a touch reversed by the warm burning touch of the skin.
These feelings are impossible for one to gain, for it is only
known in the eyes of the beholds of love....Paul John Kayiales.

Love considers the well-being of others

as important as its own....Unknown.

He who loves best his fellow-man, is loving

God the holiest way he can....Alice Cary.

Giving someone all your love is never an assurance

that they'll love you back...don't expect love in
return; just wait for it to grow in their heart but
if it doesn't, be content it grew in yours....Unknown.

Just as the wind dances in my hair, as the ocean massages

my thoughts, as the sun blankets me in happiness, and as
the earth travels with me across universal challenges,
so all the elements of your love fill my life....Unknown.

In love, never put yourself in a situation where

you're not sure of where you stand in a person's
life...never assume, never expect so that if they drop
you, you have enough strength to move on....Unknown.

Love without friendship is life without hope....Unknown.

The measure of our love for others can be largely determined by

the frequency and earnestness of our prayers for them....Unknown.

Love doesn't need to be doubted, tested or proven...

it's meant to be shown, shared, and nurtured.
Find your strength in love....SARAH.

The consciousness of loving and being

loved brings a warmth and richness to life
that nothing else can bring....Oscar Wilde.

Positive thoughts: joy, happiness, fulfillment, achievement,

worthiness, have positive results: enthusiasm, calm,
well-being, ease, energy, love....Peter McWilliams.

The best way to know God is to love many things....Vincent Van Gogh.

Kindness in words creates confidence,

Kindness in thinking creates profoundness,
Kindness in giving creates love....Lao-Tsu.

Scientific proof that we all need love

Wednesday, 28 June 2006

Love is one of the most confusing and wonderful parts of life. There is perhaps no subject about
which so many stories, songs and poems have been written. Speculation about it is always an
area of fascination, particularly for women.

But what is love and do we really need it? It's common to hear people say they're happy to be
alone and can live without it.

If you have an interest in this subject, the experiments of famed American psychologist Harry
Harlow from the 1950s onwards are worth hearing about. He arguably did more to expand our
understanding of the psychological underpinnings of love than anyone before him.

Before I continue, readers should be aware that the experiments I'm going to talk about involve
animals - specifically monkeys. Some of these can be viewed as disturbing and cruel, and if you
don't wish to hear about such things, now's the time to stop reading and explore elsewhere on the
site.

Let me say up-front, that I find some of these experiments uncomfortable to hear about also. But
the results are so fascinating that they're difficult to ignore. There could be an interesting ethical
debate on this point about whether the ends justify the means, but that's a subject for another
article.

Dr Harlow conducted his experiments on love using infant macaque monkeys, because of the
similarity of behavior they display with human children.

"The macaque infant differs from the human infant in that the monkey is more mature at birth and
grows more rapidly," Harlow said in a paper on the subject, "but the basic responses relating to
affection, including nursing, contact, clinging, and even visual and auditory exploration, exhibit no
fundamental differences in the two species. Even the development of perception, fear, frustration,
and learning capability follows very similar sequences in rhesus monkeys and human children."

Harlow's interest was mainly in how love developed between mother and child, and the effects of
that relationship on later responses to affection. He first got the idea for his experiments when he
noticed that baby monkeys separated from their mothers developed emotional attachments to
gauze cloths used to keep their cages clean. When the cloths were removed, the monkeys would
often throw temper tantrums until they were returned. Harlow speculated that the cloths might be
being used as surrogate mothers.

To test his theory, he created two fake mothers for his baby monkeys - one made of wire and one
made of cloth and warmed from within by a light bulb. Both "mothers" were given a face, and a
"breast" in the form of a bottle from which the babies could feed. Both fulfilled all the biological
needs of their "children", feeding them and so forth, but only the cloth mother was made with
comfort in mind. The monkeys showed very little interest in the wire mothers, but developed
strong attachments to the cloth mothers - clinging to them tightly and becoming distressed when
they were removed.

Even if two mothers were provided - a wire one with milk and a cloth one without - the monkeys
would prefer the latter. The conclusion was that comfort was much more important to the babies
than other variables such as feeding.

If Harlow separated baby monkeys from their new cloth mothers, even for long periods, the
importance of the relationship was never forgotten. As soon as their surrogate mother was
returned, the monkeys would immediately rush to cling desperately to her.

The babies given cloth mothers also grew to be more psychologically stable than those who had
only wire mothers. This was demonstrated when they were put into dangerous and strange
situations, such as having noisy toy-robots put into the cages with them. Those with cloth mothers
to cling to during the ordeal showed a much greater level of bravery, and much less negative
emotion, than those who had no surrogate comfort mother present. The level of psychological
security given by these immobile mother figures was found to be very high.

Monkeys who had been raised alone, with no such cloth surrogate, showed no emotional
response when one was initially introduced to their cages. Although in time, they could also be
shown to develop a strong attachment.

In observation, the level of affection displayed in babies raised by a surrogate mother was very
similar to that between a real mother and baby. Both types grew to be more psychologically and
physically healthy than those who were denied any type of mother, even though all biological
needs were taken care of in all the subjects.

At this point, Harlow's experiments grew darker. He began to design surrogate mothers that he
called "Iron Maidens". These were mothers with all the comfortable features of the cloth mothers,
but who also had the ability to turn evil. Without warning, they would prod their babies with metal
spikes or blow cold air against them so hard that they were pushed against the side of the cage.

Despite the cruelty of his "Iron Maidens", Harlow noticed something interesting. No matter how
abusive the evil mothers were, the baby monkeys always came back and displayed affection
towards them.

Even in the face of abuse, the need for love was overwhelming. It seemed anything was
preferable to being without it.

Another interesting result came from these "tough-love" experiments. The worse the mothers
abused their "children", the more needy those children became. This showed the myth that you
can toughen people up against love by denying it to them is wrong. We need it, and removing it
will just damage us, not make us stronger.

Harlow's experiments, while sometimes dark, tell us a basic truth about ourselves. We are not just
robots engaged in a mindless search for fulfilling our biological requirements. Instead, love is at
the very center of our being. In fact, it can be shown to be more important to us than even our
more basic physical needs.

Harlow's means were definitely disturbing, but his results tell us something beautiful about what it
means to be alive.
 Types Of Boys...
Confused about your Boy...or Boy-to-be...or whatever? Just consult my handy-dandy guide to
types of boys and you're smiling! This fortnight...The Computer Geek, The Busy Hands Boy, and
The Untouchable Boy.Check back next fortnight for three new ones...and email me with
suggestions if you know of any other types you want me to research at the usual address:
[email protected]

The Computer Geek

How To Recognise Him: You probably know the type I'm talking about. He's very clever,
probably in all the top sets. His main things are his computer, his gameboy, his
playstation...you understand. That is his life. I do not wish to stereotype, but he will probably
either have really nasty hair or he will put so much gel on it that it will resemble a pan of chip
fat. He can be quite good-looking but doesn't really take much time on his appearance. He
hangs around with other computer geeks and the chances are you won't be able to stand them.
He can be outwardly funny and goofy but inside lurks a shy, sensitive little creature.

Where You'll Find Him: Primarily, anywhere there is a computer. He may be in the library. Or,
he will be hanging out with his friends in the usual computer geeks' hideout...your job is to find
wherever your school's one is.

He Likes: His computer and playstation/gameboy, obviously. He likes having a laugh, but you
may find his sense of humour weird...whatever turns you on! He also likes girls, though it may
not seem that obvious.

He Dislikes: Losing a computer game, Other boys who are not on 'his level', and 'normality'.

How To Get Him: If your usual flirting style is very outrageous, please don't try it on him.
Chances are he's very shy, or failing that, just not interested. However, you will need to be
obvious, because he may be clever but he's very dim when it comes to stuff like that. So
Obvious, but NOT outrageous. If you know anything about computers or games or whatever,
that'll impress him as a conversation starting point, but if not, please don't embarass yourself.

The Busy Hands Boy

How to recognise him: He's always chasing, following, or touching/hugging/putting his arm
around some girl, and it's always a different one. The kind of boy you'd usually take a ten mile
hike to avoid (well, that's me, not sure about you). Unfortunately, he's usually drop dead
gorgeous and therefore very difficult to resist. He'll have gelled, spiky hair and a cheeky, flirty
smile. He'll also have a looooooooooooong history of ex-girlfriends.

Where You'll find him: Either with his mates talking (in a very degrading manner, obviously)
ABOUT girls, or with a girl trying to butter her up. He's probably very popular, with a large
group of friends, so chances are you'll know his territory anyway.

He Likes: Jordan, Britney, J.Lo, Beyonce.....Girls in general

He Dislikes: Girls kicking him where the sun don't shine. (When you're this kind of boy, it does
happen on a regular basis)

How To Get Him: Basically, to get this boy, you have to play hard to get. He loves the
challenge of the chase and if you give in to him straight away, the chances are he'll get bored
with you. If he hasn't noticed you, flirt very outrageously with him so that he DOES notice you.
Once you've got him eating out the palm of your hand, suddenly cool off. It'll leave him
determined to get you, and once he does, he'll be much keener to hang on to you for as long as
possible. It will also keep his hands away from any OTHER girl who dares to cross his path.

The Untouchable Boy

How To Recognise him: This one's not hard to recognise. He doesn't need to be fantastically
good-looking (though this is often the case) but there's always SOME little thing about him that
gets the girls flocking to him like sheep.Something you can't quite put your finger on. Loads of
girls fancy the pants off him, but he is simply very, very, very picky. He doesn't want any of
them. He'll have a haughty air, and probably a dry or cynical sense of humour. He's popular
amongst his friends as the joker of the group.

Where You'll Find Him: In the middle of his group of friends, making them all laugh, or
blowing off some poor girl.

He likes: Well, not many of the girls that like HIM, that's for sure. He likes his friends, and his
playstation.

He Dislikes: See above sentence about girls. He also hates being got the better of.

How To Get Him: Similar strategy to busy-hands boy, but more subtle. First off, you HAVE to
start an argument with him. A fun-one, obviously, not a serious one, or he'll never look at you
again. That way, you'll always have a conversation-base and something to tease him with. And
when this boy starts teasing you, you know you're on to a good thing. When he teases, you flirt
and tease him back. Smile at him a lot...he likes that.

Types Of Boys
All boys are unique, some boys are more unique than others...

Every boy is unique. In our work in Scouting, it's important to remember that above
pretty much everything else. There are, however, certain identifiable types of boys each of us
has encountered throughout our life. Society may change and evolve, but boys will always be
boys. To be an effective leader, whether you are a Scoutmaster or a Patrol Leader, it is
important to not only understand these generalized types of boys, but to understand the
individual boys in your charge.

While the types listed below may be helpful to you in reaching and motivating some of
the boys, most real life boys will fall between these types, having characteristics of several
different types. Your job, as a Scout leader, is to get to know your boys, find out what makes
them tick, and then find a way to focus their energy on the patrol and troop. It's not always an
easy job, but you aren't alone in your work.
The Natural Born Leader
This type of boy naturally knows how to lead a group. Often, he'll be the natural choice
of the Patrol as Patrol Leader. He has the raw talent, but sometimes lacks the experience and
practice. For that reason, the Natural Born Leader isn't always seen as such. For the members
of the patrol, he'll just be the guy they knowwill do a good job. His natural talents, though,
need to be honed through training and practice.

The Smooth Running Boy

This type of boy takes things pretty much as they come. He's agreeable and easily led.
He may or may not have initiative or ambition. He's equally at home in the sunshine, and the
rain and nothing seems to get him down. In most things, he won't put forth a great deal of
effort, but he won't shirk his responsibilities either.

The Passive Boy

This type of boy has no initiative at all. He has to be told to do everything. He will
follow where his is led, but has to be led everywhere. Unlike the Smooth Running Boy, the
Passive Boy won't put forth any effort without a little prodding. Unlike the Lazy Boy, he
doesn't look for ways to get out of doing things.

The Clever Boy

His natural talent is to analyze everything. He's adept at discovering mistakes and
weaknesses. He has the added talent of knowing how things work or should be done. He's a
good choice for Assistant Patrol Leader because you definitely want him on your side. Left to
his own devices, he'll point out the faults and mistakes the Patrol Leader makes, and will often
comment "I would have done it better." For that reason, you want him right by your side,
keeping you on your toes, and not sowing discontent within the patrol.

The Lazy Boy

Like the passive boy, the lazy boy has no initiative. Unlike the passive boy, who will
complete tasks and work hard if asked to do so, the lazy boy simply prefers not to do
anything. He lacks the energy and motivation of even the passive boy. He'll tend to complain
about anything that requires energy, or takes him away from his preferred activity (whatever
that is). You'll have to keep an eye on him because he's prone to taking short-cuts and doesn't
put much thought into the short-cut he takes.

The Troublemaker
This type of boy naturally attracts trouble like a magnet. At times, he doesn't even have
to work at it. Sometimes, however, he works very hard at it. He can really take the life out of
any activity or meeting, and will certainly test your ability to control the group. It doesn't
matter why the Troublemaker attracts (or makes) trouble. The easiest way to handle him is to
keep him busy.

The Grouchy Boy

 Nothing satisfies this type of boy. He can never find anything good about anything; the
weather, the food, the activity. He can find ten reasons not to do something for every
reason to do it. He's like a wet blanket on campouts and hikes, dragging everyone's spirits
down.

The Wise-Guy
Like the Clever Boy, the Wise-Guy is particularly adept at discovering mistakes and
weaknesses. Unlike the Clever Boy, who tends to figure out how to fix it before speaking up,
the Wise-Guy leaps before he looks. He can be a real asset if you can get him to stop and
think before he does or says anything.

The Bully
Part Wise-Guy, part Troublemaker, part Grouch, the Bully delights in dominating
everything. He brags about his abilities, and uses intimidation to get his way. Any boy is
capable of challenging the Patrol Leader's authority from time to time, but the Bully will seize
every opportunity to do so, and he'll do whatever it takes to be the boss. The good thing is
that most Bullies don't like it when people stand up to them, so the best way to handle a Bully
is to not let him win.

13 Types of Girls you should Avoid

In general, men are looking first for physical attraction at a woman. Many of them consider
that if she is beautiful andwell dressed, its the perfect partner they are looking for. But they
don't know that behind this appearance its hidingsomething worst.

Maybe this happened to you too. After you began a relationship with her you found out that
she is not exactly what you want and what you expect. She hurt you and dumped you when
you last expected. Many men arechasing after a woman who lied them and used them. But, in
order to stop this, you should know from the beginning which types of girls you should avoid
for to not be hurt again.

Desperate girl

-it is the type of the girl who spend all her life laid out, looking for a perfect life, and
suddenly she discover that she gets old and she doesn't get married yet because she hasn't
met the perfect man for her

-she wants desperately to get married no matter who the guy is or what he does

-she is pressed by the time and is ready to marry with a jerk as long as he has marriage
material

-watch out because if you marry one of this, you have to spend the rest of your life with her

Materialistic girl
-usually is good looking and well dressed

-is looking very well outside but inside it is a bunch of money hungry taker

-she is looking all the time after boys which are staying very well with their wallet

-she expects that a man should finance her entire life just because she is biologically female

-she is very friendly, nice at the beginning but after some time you'll see that no matter how
much you give her, she wants more

-she is greed personified

-she is interested only in what she wants and not others feelings

-stay away from this kind of girl because she will dumped you after she spend all your money

Angry girl

-she is the type of the girl which sees life like a battle

-anything what is happening or is told to her is seen as a insult at her address

-has also a bad opinion about man, sees only the wrong sides of a man

-she is always upset and angry

-usually she likes to take out of context everything what is said to her and to interpret the
words like she wants

-you don't have any future with her, she has a simmering anger at men which can explode at
any moment

Insecure girl

-she is very nice and treats men very well

-but she suffers by frustration

-is wracked by anxiety about making the wrong decision

-she has to think twice about what to do, what to wear, where to go, what to eat

-she needs constant reassurance that she's attractive and worries incessantly

Stupid girl

-this type of girl likes to speak a lot but she doesn't say nothing smart
-she likes to say always gossips about the others, but when you want to talk something
important with her, she is not able to make conversation

Uptown girl

-she is very rich

-everything she has is better than yours and she wants to make sure that you know it

-she only dates the best of best

-is entirely focused on herself

-she is very selfish, self-indulgent grown up as '' daddy's little girl''

-needs to be constant center of attention no matter what she does or where she goes

Childish girl

-everything in life hurts this kind of girl

-is the type of girl who cries a lot, every innocent comment or criticism will upset her

-avoid this kind of girl because if you are dating one you will have to spend all the time
apologizing even if you didn't make any mistake

-avoid also long term relationship with her because she is capable of suicide if you want to
leave her and all the blame will be thrown on yourself

Elusive girl

-is the type of girl who is afraid to start a relationship

-she might be hurt in a past relationship and so subconsciously avoids or sabotages new
relationships in the present

-she look interested at the beginning but after a while she runs away

-is the type of girl who likes to send mixed messages so you'll never understand her

Talking girl

-it is a big difference between somebody who is able to make good conversation and have
sense of humor , and somebody who always have to make a comment about everything

-it is the type which is very hard to please and always has to say something about everything is
happening or speaking around her
Romantic girl

-this lives in her own world, of movies and romance novels

-she is very dreamy, imagining things, expecting Prince Charming to come after her

-she doesn't know how the real world is

-she was grown with the idea that she is a princess

Dragger girl

-this kind of girl will always make you feel bad even there is no reason to feel that

-it is always worrying and she can never be happy, everything around her is a total drag

-even if a wonderful thing happen to you, she will make you feel like it was the worst thing
that could happen ever

Controlling girl

-she likes to have the total control in your relationship and on you too

-wants to control you in everything you do, you wear or eat

-if you try to control her too, she will get angry, cry, scream or use any deceptive female tactic
until you give up

Flirting girl

-she flirts with anybody and flaunt her sexuality at every opportunity

-has a big power of attraction

-exist the risk to dump you in any moment if somebody better comes along

With all these types of girls you should avoid, it is now more easy for you to make a good
choice about your next girlfriend; but remember that not all the women are the same, maybe
there is somewhere a good, carrying woman just for you.
Types of Girls
Hard Disk Girls:
She remembers everything, FOREVER.

RAM Girls:
She forgets about you, the moment you turn her off.
Windows Girls:
Everyone knows that she can't do a thing right, but no one can live without her.

Screensaver Girls:
She is good for nothing but at least she is fun!

Internet Girls:
Difficult to access.

Server Girls:
Always busy when you need her.

Multimedia Girls:
She makes horrible things look beautiful.

CD-ROM Girls:
She is always faster and faster.

Email Girls:
Every ten things she says, eight are nonsense.

Virus Girls:
Also known as "WIFE"; when you are not expecting her, she comes, installs herself and uses
all your resources. If you try to uninstall her you will lose something, if you don't try to
uninstall her you will lose everything.

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