Transformed: A New Way of Being Christian by Caesar Kalinowski
Transformed: A New Way of Being Christian by Caesar Kalinowski
Transformed: A New Way of Being Christian by Caesar Kalinowski
Transformed
Copyright 2013 by Caesar Kalinowski
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Kalinowski, Caesar.
Transformed : a radical picture of the Christian life : who we are & how we get
to live / Caesar Kalinowski. 1st [edition].
pages cm
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN 978-0-310-33349-4 (softcover)
1. Christian life. I. Title.
BV4501.3.K355 2014
248.4dc232013018942
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Contents
Acknowledgments . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11
Part 1
A New Identity
1. Who Are You?. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17
2. A New Way of Being . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31
Part 2
3. Family. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
4. Missionaries. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
5. Servants. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
6. Disciples. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
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I found myself a young married father of three small children, still
struggling with many of the same sins, attitudes, and relational
muck I grew up with. And now I was passing this legacy on to my
kids.
Wait. Stop the train!
I finally realized that it wasnt fame or fortune I desired. It was
something bigger and much profounder than all of that. I longed to
be truly different. To be someone else.
I wantedno, I neededa transformation to occur.
Maybe this is your journey too.
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and proficiency of my use of foul language. The supposed disci
pline and hoped-for modifications of my soap-licking days hadnt
taken root in my life or my use of language.
More on my transformation in that area later.
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the life I was living as a Christian, father, and pastor in the United
States. It seemed that whenever I was over there in Africa with the
Sudanese believers, we were the church.
Them and me. Together we were the church.
They didnt have buildings or any resources to do church. No elab
orate Sunday services with lights and sound systems. They just were
the church. They loved each other, shared what very, very little they
had, and literally laid down their lives for the sake of the gospel. And
these Christians who owned nothing (no-thing) were filled with joy.
Seriously.
One day while we were distributing food in a refugee camp near
the border of Uganda, I met a boy who looked to be about twelve
years old.
Who are you? I asked him.
His name was James. He was tall and superthin, and just like
everyone else in this camp, he had lived through near-starvation
and brutal attacks by militant rebels that had decimated his vil
lage. I noticed that his left hand and arm were scarred and dis
figured, and he had a large patch of hair missing that seemed to
have been burned off at some point in the past. I asked our trans
lator if he knew what had happened to the boy. He asked James
to tell me his story.
James shared that a few months earlier he and his two broth
ers were walking with their parents when radical Islamic soldiers
hacked his parents to death with machetes right before their
eyesbecause they were Christians. The soldiers then threw him
and his two brothers onto a large pile of burning garbage. His
brothers died in the fire that day, but James somehow managed
to crawl out of the fire and escape with his life.
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The point of this story J esus told wasnt to get us all to go and
sell our stuff; it was for us to see where our true treasure, hope,
and delight are found. Do we find our happiness, security, and
purpose in our stuff and from what we doo r in who we are
because of who he is?
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which points to the reality that the church is a family. It is part of
our transformed identity, and well look deeply into how our family
identity shapes the church in chapter 3.
Unlike our human fathers, God is the consistently patient Father.
He is the ultimate provider. He is a perfectly caring and protective
Father. Regardless of how good of a dad we had growing up, he
was flawed and imperfect. But not our heavenly Father. Hell never
yell (or curse) at us and never leave or abandon us. He will never
harm or abuse us. We have an eternal and never-changing, loving
Father, and we are his family on this earth.
Saved to Serve
We have entered into a relationship with J esus that defines our
identity. He is not only our Brother; he is also our King. And we
are now his servants who serve others as a way of life, following
Jesus ultimate example on the cross. Being a servant is a part of
our renewed identity. In fact, J esus reminds his followers of their
new reality: Whoever wants to be first must be your slavejust
as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to
give his life as a ransom for many.6
When J esus washed his disciples feet just days before his death,
he showed them a clear picture of who he was and who he was
making them to be. At first, Peter, who often spoke before think
ing, declared that he would never allow Jesus to wash his feet. But
Jesus told his disciples, Very truly I tell you, no servant is greater
than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent
him.7
When I was a new believer, an older brother befriended me and
spent time teaching me about our identity as a servant. Johnnie
became a lifelong mentor and friend of mine as he listened to me;
modeled Christlike behavior for me; and prayed, ate meals, and
laughed (a lot) with me. One thing I noticed about Johnnie was that
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omforted the early church, and his indwelling presence trans
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forms our identity into sent ones, literally missionaries.
When I was a boy growing up in the Midwest, our church building
had a big map of the world in the lobby with pins marking places
where we supported missionaries. There were also pictures of
these missionaries, who were usually dressed in outdated cloth
ing and looked rather sad. Every once in a while, one of these
missionaries would come and visit on a Sunday and tell us sto
ries from the field and show us pictures of skinny, dirty children
with flies on their eyes and lips. Yuck. Then the pastor would
pass the offering baskets to take up a special offering for them.
Twice.
We were taught that these p
eople in the photographs, who always
worked and served in faraway lands, were the missionaries. They
never told us what the Bible teaches: all Christians are missionar
ies. After his resurrection, Jesus appeared to his disciples behind
locked doors and commissioned them: Peace be with you!
As the Father has sent me, I am sending you. And with that he
breathed on them and said, Receive the Holy Spirit.8
The church is not a building; the church is p
eople. Always has
been. I am not sure how we came to refer to the buildings that we
often gather in on Sunday as the church, but it is some pretty
bad theology. In my community, we often, somewhat jokingly,
correct one another when someone says, Ill see you at church
on Sunday. We respond, You cant go to church; you are the
church!
The church has always been a sent p eople. J esus never
intended that we primarily find our Christian life and expression
through a one- to two-hour service once a week inside a building.
We have the other six days and twenty-two hours each week to
live out our identity as his missionary family. Jesus command to
go and make disciples was not a suggestion.
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would want to meet with me, presumably to talk about spiritual
things, but I agreed to meet with her if she was up for it.
We met at a local caf. Jody was a highly tattooed twentysome
thing, very thin, and perpetually shaking from the cocktail of drugs
she took for her depression, on top of alcohol abuse. The dark
circles under her eyes added to her hollow look. I remember that
she seemed like a scared puppy who had been beaten by a hor
rible master. But when I asked her to tell me her story, immediately
I could see that she was amazingly smart, articulate, and ready to
talk.
Jody told me she had grown up in a house with a mother who
saw a pretty steady string of men who came in and out of their
lives. Sex and drugs were always around for her both to see and
to participate in from a very early age. Her mother also suffered
from clinical depression and was the one who had suggested
Jody start taking many of the same drugs she was on. Two years
earlier, Jody found out she had cancer. Her boyfriend at the time,
Nick, immediately abandoned her because he could not deal
with this cancer stuff. She had recovered (miraculously) from the
cancer, alone, and had then reunited with Nick, with whom she
was currently living. A week previous to our visit, she found out
she was pregnant, and Nick promptly moved out again, saying he
could not handle that either. She was contemplating ending her
life.
In the weeks and months that followed, the Holy Spirit carefully
guided my wife and I, along with our missional community, to pur
sue Jody. He sent us on an extended rescue mission. At first,
even though she said she wanted our help, she stopped answer
ing phone calls. I had to drive over to her apartment in order to
talk with her. She didnt have a car, so we began to serve Jody by
giving her rides to work or to doctors appointments. Eventually
we even picked her up to come celebrate, eat, and experience
God with our church community on Sunday mornings. She found
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Transformed
A New Way of Being Christian
by Caesar Kalinowski
In Transformed, Caesar Kalinowski looks realistically at
the identity you have been given in Christ and how it
reshapes everything about you. Set free from
performance-driven spirituality and guilt, you will draw
closer to God, allowing him to radically change the wellworn rhythms and patterns of your every day life and
transform your relationships from the inside out.