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Marriages - Problems & Solutions: Let Us Now Focus On Them in Depth Self-Esteem Issues

Marriages often face problems that stem from issues like low self-esteem, inability to confide in one's spouse, handling crises, and poor conflict resolution. Other challenges include lack of sharing household responsibilities, which can cause stress and resentment if one spouse feels taken for granted. To have a healthy marriage, couples must work on communicating openly, supporting each other through difficult times, and resolving disagreements respectfully.

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Marriages - Problems & Solutions: Let Us Now Focus On Them in Depth Self-Esteem Issues

Marriages often face problems that stem from issues like low self-esteem, inability to confide in one's spouse, handling crises, and poor conflict resolution. Other challenges include lack of sharing household responsibilities, which can cause stress and resentment if one spouse feels taken for granted. To have a healthy marriage, couples must work on communicating openly, supporting each other through difficult times, and resolving disagreements respectfully.

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Marriages - Problems & Solutions

"A marriage is not when the 'perfect couple' comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences." -- Dave Maurer The a ove !uote contains a !uintessential truth" no marriage is perfect# and each couple has to ta$e proactive efforts in order to have harmony etween them. Let us now focus on them in depth Self-esteem issues

If one of the spouses has a low self-esteem# it can reflect on the marriage in a num er of ways" the spouse may perceive the marriage as an une!ual match# may feel unworthy of the partner's love.

And# conse!uently# put up with the partner's undesira le this creates a sense of dissonance in the marriage and resentment.

ehaviour. %ver time# uilds mistrust and

Increasing your self-esteem cannot happen overnight. It re!uires concerted effort. It will also re!uire the support of your spouse and other family mem ers. &tart appreciating the good traits in yourself. 'earn to loo$ at situations o jectively rather than simply assume that everything is your mista$e. Try and when you feel something is not really your fault. e assertive

Problems confiding The ina ility to confide can e a source of major discord in a marriage.

A marriage is considered the most intimate of relationships# and if you feel una le to open up and confide to your spouse# it will not only leave you feeling incomplete# it will create resentment# dissatisfaction and frustration in the spouse.

Do as$ yourself why you are not a le to confide. Is it a personality trait( Is there something a out your spouse that stops you from confiding( )larify in your mind the reason for your reticence and try to tac$le it head on. Intimacy crisis All marriages go through crises. It is how the couple responds to those crises that are crucial. A couple might get along very well with each other. *ut if they cannot cope with a crisis in a mature manner# as a team# the very structure of the marriage gets wea$ened. True# crises li$e death in the family# infertility# and financial disaster can e

immense personal challenges to an individual and call for tremendous coping strategies. *ut if you attempt to deal with crises together# you will realise that coping ecomes far more eara le and you can derive from each other's strengths.

Poor conflict resolution skills )onflicts happen in every marriage. *ut some couples are una le to deal with them in a mature and reasona le manner. As a result# minor irritants get highlighted and small pro lems are lown into large ones. )onflict thus escalates and goes eyond the coping resources of the couple. To avoid such a scenario# a couple must always remain vigilant as to whether the conflict is getting out of hand.

It is alright to have disagreements and fights# as long as you are eventually a le to resolve the deadloc$. *ut if you find that you are getting into a situation where neither of you is willing nor a le to ac$ out# it is important to ta$e time out. Decide to come ac$ to the point of conflict after giving it some respite. And#

perhaps# you will have a different perspective. Tal$ out your disagreements. And# in some situations# agree to disagree while finding a compromise solution. Lack of sharing

This aspect is usually e+perienced

y women# many of whom feel that hus ands

do not contri ute to sharing the home responsi ilities as much as they should.

This leads to feelings of eing ta$en for granted# feeling stressed out in an attempt to alance home and wor$. This is e+pressed through caustic comments# nagging and irrita ility# which gives rise to more difficult pro lems. ,omen need to have a clear and fran$ discussion with their hus ands regarding sharing of household responsi ilities. If you are a career woman# it is all the more important that you have the support of your hus and and family. Most hus ands do not want their wives' careers to suffer. It is just that they are not perceptive enough to realise that they are not supporting their wives y not eing actively involved in sharing some of the household responsi ilities.

)larifying this with them in a calm and rational manner will ma$e them aware of the situation. And they will at least egin to ma$e some attempts. This is not to say that they will e positive a out wanting to tac$le chores

overnight. *ut they will have at least developed some sensitivity toward the situation-

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