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The document discusses the issue of spanking children as a form of discipline. It presents perspectives from both sides of the debate. Some parents believe spanking is an acceptable form of discipline when done properly, while others think there are more effective disciplinary techniques that don't involve physical punishment. The document outlines various non-spanking methods of discipline and considers factors like a child's developmental stage and being consistent with discipline. Overall, it aims to present facts from both viewpoints to help parents decide what they think is best for their family.

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Is Spanking Okay 2

The document discusses the issue of spanking children as a form of discipline. It presents perspectives from both sides of the debate. Some parents believe spanking is an acceptable form of discipline when done properly, while others think there are more effective disciplinary techniques that don't involve physical punishment. The document outlines various non-spanking methods of discipline and considers factors like a child's developmental stage and being consistent with discipline. Overall, it aims to present facts from both viewpoints to help parents decide what they think is best for their family.

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Is Spanking Okay?

By: Faith Kruchowski

*Spanking is a tough question when it comes to parenting. A lot wonder if they are disciplining their child correctly without harming
their futures. Almost every parent with a child thinks about this question. Can I spank my child without worrying about being child abuse? Is it okay to spank my child when they are naughty? Some parents base spanking off of their past and their experience with it or if they should turn to spanking their child as their main discipline. It really all depends on what you believe is right. I think spanking is neither right nor wrong. Im here to give you the facts and decide for yourself. Some parents have other forms of discipline without spanking and if fine. These are the facts from both sides to help you decide which is better.

*When parents spank their children, it isnt to hurt them or


abuse them; it is because the child did something wrong and the parents want them to learn from it. There are so many myths out there about spanking children that are not true. Some myths on spanking children are:

Fact: The word good in this statement


point out something enjoyable is happening to children. Being hit never feels good and a spanking every once in a while wont help children learn wanted behaviors. It is true that hitting children does not have lasting value in teaching wanted behaviors. Myth: Spanking a child is the only way to let them know you are mad at them. Fact: It is wrong of a parent to only spank their child to relieve stress, but they often do it anyways. A parent letting off steam is a good thing but spanking has no value to children. It should be handled in a different way.

Myth: Children that dont get spanked are spoiled. Fact: Spoiled is something children learn.
The child chooses not to listen and continually want their way with whatever they want. Myth: As long as you are not frustrated or angry, it is okay to spank your child. Fact: This has to be stopped with parents spanking their children harshly and when it is unnecessary. Some parents feel as if, if their anger got out of control and start spanking their child, that they wont be able to stop hitting them. What this statement is trying to get across is, if you feel as if the child should be disciplined, wait a bit to cool off before you spank the child. Myth: A spanking every once in a while is always good for a child.

*Some people think that if they spank their child or if


children are being spanked, they might grow up to be violent people. For example: I am the only girl with seven other brothers, me being the middle child. I, along with all my brothers was spanked as children up until around the age of eight years old. I can say that I wasnt spanked as much as my brothers but when I did something very wrong like playing with fire in the barn around bails, I got spanked on the butt with a hand or a block. I dont remember actually f eeling the pain from the spanking but rather feeling scared of the spanking. I only remember crying from being scared. My brothers on the other hand got hit harder than me, which I believe did hurt them. They do remember my dads hand hurting their butts. Even though my brothers were way naughtier than me, they shouldnt have been spanked that hard. Spanking should be used as a disciple but not beating to cause physical pain. When children are spanked repeatedly to cause pain and not used as disciple, it can cause major problems for the child. It can cause present and future cognitive issues for the child.

Step 5: Keep at it: If you are use to spanking your child,


getting use to not spanking them can take quite a bit of work but make sure to stay with the program. Do not give up!

Step 6: Review the results: Review your child's latest


behaviors, consider what is working and what is not working, and adjust your techniques: If something isnt working, change it. It is like trial and error with children and disciplining them. Something may work for one child but another; all children are different and respond differently to discipline. There are some good techniques for discipline, you just have to figure out which one works best for your child.

*There are plenty of other ways to discipline your child


without spanking. As the parent, you will just have to pick and choose which one(s) work best with your child. The different techniques are:

Natural Consequences: which is let nature run its route when it is appropriate. For example, if a child leaves his/her umbrella at school, the child will get wet the next time it rains.

*Some parents dont believe in spanking their child which is


perfectly fine. There are benefits to not spanking children. Sometimes it works better not to spank their child. Spanking is a quick way to disciple a child but when spanking isnt used, more effort has to be put into disciplining your child. If you dont want to spank your child or wont spank them, here are some steps to do so:

Logical Consequences: This means providing logical


consequences to the child when they do something wrong. Such as if a child runs out in the middle of the road, tell that child the consequences that come from his/her actions. You can do so by taking away privileges or missing something that is important to them.

Step 1: Choose not to spank: This may seem obvious to


some people but you have to either tell yourself that you will only spank in certain situations or to not spank at all or never.

Distraction: this is a technique to use with toddlers and preschoolers. You can try and take their attention off of something that is wrong onto something better for them.

Step 2: Tell your family and friends: If you dont want


anyone else including yourself not to spank your child, let others know that you do not use spanking to discipline your child.

Positive Discipline: you as the parent can use the


misbehavior as a time to teach them. Such as when a child breaks their toy accidently, show them how to organize their things better and put it in a safe place so it doesnt get broken. Try to eliminate any negative language with your child.

Step 3: Learn about child development: This will help you


understand how children act at certain ages through their development. This will help you to better understand them in certain situations.

The Reward System: this technique is used by praising your


child whenever they do something positive such as helping put toys away or helping a another friend that has fallen off of the floor.

Step 4: Find support websites to help you out: Fine some


websites that support no spanking such as www.nospank.net or www.stophitting.com. These websites have some helpful information for parents that want to use different forms of discipline rather than spanking.

The Point System: you can give your child points for being
good and take away points whenever they have been bad.

Use the points to reward them with something. Take away privileges whenever they dont have enough points.

*According to a lot of Parenting Councilors, they will tell you


that there are three basic elements for successful parenting, they are: 1. The parent should be very specific in stating what is to be expected for the child and to make sure the rules are clearly defined. The parents should observe their child(ren) closely and follow through on their rules that they made for their child(ren). The parent(s) should be consistent and follow through with the discipline.

*With all these different techniques, you can combine or pick


and choose whichever work best with your parenting style.

*Whichever technique you choose to discipline your child is


your choice but use it correctly and know what effects your child negatively and what effects your child positively. 2.

3.

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