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Transcribed: April 28, 2010 | Audio Duration: 02:14:16 : Billable 67 mins

Seduction Roadmap Week 4

Okay, guys. That marks the 6-minute West Coast Time mark. So I want to welcome
you to the fourth week of the Seduction Roadmap Boot Camp. Thanks for being
with me. I see a lot of callers on the line.
Today I have a couple of things, the first thing is, I got a really awesome success
story from a guy name Jimmy in the Seduction Roadmap Program, so I want to
read that to you guys. Jimmy wrote saying:
Hey, Jon. I have to say this. The Seduction Roadmap is blowing my mind. I went on
a first-date last Thursday, and by the time I used the eighth frame you talked about
last week she was begging me to go back to my place, and telling me I turned her
on too much. I knew it was true because when I stuck my hand down her jeans it
was soaking. I can't wait to see what's going to be taught next and what will
happen when I come to the boot camp and you customizeshit. You're the man.
Jimmy from Illinois.
So that's really awesome, I know there are more guys out there who are having
success with this stuff as I've got a couple other emails as well. If you're having
success with the Seduction Roadmap Boot Camp please send me any success
story, I love to read those, it makes me feel like you guys are using the stuff and
appreciating it, so send those to [email protected], also send your
questions at I've gotten a decent amount of questions so far. The questions will
be answered in three weeks on the Q&A call, so send your questions in, I won't
answer them right away, but in three weeks when we have the Q&A call we're
going to read every single question sent in by you, and I will answer all of those. So
send those questions in at [email protected].
I also want to let you guys know we do still have a couple spots in the Seduction
Roadmap boot camp which is taking place May 28 through May 30. So what that
means is until May 6, we can still give you guys a discount on it. The Seduction
Roadmap boot camp is going to be really awesome because in it we are going to
customize each piece of the roadmap to your specific life stories. So we're going to
come up with sexual attraction stories from your real life. We are going to come up
with, you know, sexual frames that match your real life and match things that you
are looking for in girls and real experiences you've had. We're going to match your
sexual body language, we're going to match everything up to your real life so that
you no longer have to tell my stories or use my routines and you can still get the
same amazing results.
There's also going to be personalized instruction which is the real make or break
on a lot of the stuff because a lot of problems, you know, things like I dont know
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what to do to attract a girl. It can be fixed over the phone, but a lot of stuff like body
language, facial expressions, tonalitythat stuff has to be seen by an expert in
field, and the way you approachyour approach angles, whether or not you
escalate, there are a lot of stuff that seeing (inaudible 0:18:26) in field can fix really
quickly, and personalized instruction will be happening at that Seduction Boot
Camp, about two nights in field with a Sinn's of Attraction instructor. And also, I'm
going to be revealing my Seduction Roadmap, so I'll be sharing with you guys like
the word-for-word routines, stories, everything that I use. These are things that I
dont even teach in this program, just because I dont want everyone in the world
using them.
So as I've said, there were ten spots initially, we've only got six left. We are going to
be emailing our full list about it, so that's about 20,000 guys that we are going to
send out this offer to and try to get them to sign up, but the price is going to go up
too on May 6th. But right now you can get a spot for three payments of $600-$1,800, but that price is going up next Thursday. So not this Thursday, but a week
from Thursday, and then we'll probably email about it the week after that. So we still
have a deal for you guys for taking the plunge and joining the Seduction Roadmap
boot camp, and then taking the further initiative to be on the call four spots later. So
if there's something you're interested in, you're looking for a boot camp, I highly
recommend that you guys come to this because it's going to be a one-time only
thing. I dont think it's going to be part of a product or anything because it's going to
be customized entirely to the ten guys who show up. So, six spots left, if you want
to go sign up go to: www.SeductionRoadmap.com/workshop
I think that's all the housekeeping news so without further ado here I want to start
talking to you guys aboutUnleashing a Woman's Sexual Side. Unleashing a
Woman's Sexual Sidewhat does it mean? What is this audio module going to be
about?
Let's start off by thinking about what a woman's sexual side is. So every guy who is
listening has had an experience with a woman that was sexual, unless you're a
virgin, in which case you've just kissed a girl or done other things, but you've had
an experience with a side of that woman personality that she doesnt let everyone
see. Female sexuality is all about that part of her personality that she brings out
behind closed doors. That she brings out when we're passed the point of attraction,
and we're passed the point of comfort, and she now wants to have sex. That
primitive part of her brain has kicked in that says I want to have sex right now.
One thing to remember is that all women have a sexual side. A lot of guys write me
emails, or they meet me on workshops, whatever, and they say, well I dont like
club girls, or I dont like party girls or I dont like this type of girl or that type of girl.
And the girls that I like, they dont really have a sexual side, they're like more
demure, and like they're more elegantand I'm likeyou're ridiculous. Like every
woman has a sexual side. Now what we need to think about is what stops her from
showing this sexual side offright. We have to accept the basic idea that women

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want sex basically as much as men. Women are just as sexual, in fact their sex
drive increases as they get older, peaking around 32, whereas men decrease from
18.
So understanding that women want sex; the myth that women dont want sex, or
that women are giving something up, or you're taking something when you're
having sex is just a myth. But what happens is that this side is only going to come
out based on certain parameters, and every woman is going to have a different
parameter, for some girls it's someone who has a lot of girls around him. For a club
girl who really cares about the club social scene, if you're with a lot of girls that's
going to trigger parts of her sexuality. For other girls it might bemaybe the girl has
been burned by players before and now she's like a little more guarded and that
just turns her off. So there are these different filters that stop a woman from letting
loose and letting that sexual side out. Now we already talked a lot about how to
bypass those filters. Building sexual attraction starts to bypass those filters and get
the woman interested sexually. We talked about building sexual frames which allow
women a safe, comfortable space to kind of let loose that sexual side of her
personality. We talked about setting interactions so that you, her, and the two of
you together are operating in a place that's comfortable sexually.
But now we want to talk about how to turn that woman on and bring out that sexual
side and get her comfortable with a sexually escalating interaction, and get her
even more to lead the sexual interaction. Because ultimately we want to build
enough compliance and enough momentum that the girl is actually escalating on
us. In that she's agreeing to all escalations that we're coming up with. And that
happens by unleashing this woman's sexual side. So the way we're going to
classify a woman's sexual side is we're going to break it down in terms of
psychologyright. So what we're trying to do, is we are trying to bring out a
specific sub-personality and a sub-personality is in transpersonal psychology is a
personality mode that kicks in to allow a person to cope with certain type of
psychosocial situations. That's basically a lot of scientists talk in different situations,
different parts of a woman comes out. The mode may include thoughts, feelings,
actions, physiology and other elements of human behavior to self-present a
particular mode that works to negate particular psychosocial situations.
The average person has about a dozen sub-personalities. So this mode may
include thoughts, feelings, actions, physiology and other elements of human
behavior to self-present a particular mode that works to negate psychosocial
situations. So basically when the sub-personality kicks in it takes over the thoughts,
feelings, actions, physiology and all other elements of human behaviors. Selfpresent, meaning that it presents not only to the person that you're interacting with
but to itself; it actually feeds back upon itself. So as you can see, it would be really,
really helpful to bring out that part of a woman's personality if you're trying to get
sexual with her, because it's going to change her thoughts, feelings, actions,
physiology and other elements that make her self-present that she wants to get
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gets. Anticipation is a huge builder of arousal and a huge builder of sexual tension.
One of the things that I like to think about in terms of a metaphor is that men and
women are both on a train headed to towards sex. It's just women are on the train
about 15 minutes behind. I think that came from (inaudible 0:26:39) Steve or
something like that.
But it's a really good idea because women are usually ready to have sex about 15
minutes later, physically and emotionally and stuff, so hitting that sub-personality to
come out and then waiting and not taking advantage of it, the more you wait the
more that personality really will start to crave sex, and that's when she's start to do
things to escalate the interaction and take control of it herself.
So when we're dealing with a sub-personality and getting it to kind of self-present,
we're dealing with what I like to think of as sexualized self-images. So, let's talk
about self-images before we get into the idea of sexualized self-image. A person's
self-image is the mental picture, generally, of a kind that is quite resistant to
change. It depicts not only the details that are potentially available to objective
investigation by others, but also items that have been learned by that person about
him or herself either from personal experiences, or by internalizing the judgments
of others. A simple definition of a person's self-image is their answer to the question
what do you believe people think about you? So our self-image is just the way
we think about ourselves. It's the type of person you consider yourself to be, and
we make these definitions and judgments about ourselves and our place in society
all the time. We think of ourselves as a person who's optimistic, or a person who
knows what he wants, or a person who procrastinates, or a person who is lazy, or a
person who is stupid, or a person who is unattractive to women, or a person who is
attractive to womenbut we all have images of ourselves, and generally we have
images of ourselves that are sorted by categories.
Have you've ever heard the term situational confidence? It relates to the taking
upon of different sub-personality and self-images as a relation of that subpersonality, so a great example of that is a guy who is really good with women and
his job. Maybe he's a bartender or a promoter or something like that, and he's used
to just getting the hottest girls that come in there, and in that situation he'll talk to
anyone, he knows everyone, he's very comfortable. Then you put him in a situation
where he goes to maybe another bar where he doesnt know anybody, or a club,
you know, and now all of a sudden he's not comfortable approaching people and
he's taking on a self-image that is, may be even 180-degrees, the opposite of what
he believed about himself two minutes ago. And the reason is that we as humans
sort through our self-images again, and based on our surroundings, based on the
external clues from other people we're interacting withsocial proofwe decide
what we feel about ourselves in this situation. Facts, emotions, logicthey dont
really come into it as much as the cycling through these various self-images until
one fits and feels comfortable. And so what we're looking to do with the girls is as
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and push this towards having a sexualized image of themselves in the situation
that we're in.
So what is the situation that we're in? She's attracted to us, we have a decent
amount of comfort and now we want to shape that she's the kind of person that
when she's attracted to someone, and she has a good amount of comfort, is
sexually aggressive and comfortable getting naughty and maybe even comfortable
being really, really dirty, and doing all sorts of fantasy stuff that she's thought about
but hasnt really ever had the chance to do. So that's kind of the process that we're
looking to do when we're unleashing a woman's sexual side; in fact getting her to
bring out that sub-personality and the sexualized self-image, and we're going to
have some tools to do that which I will be talking about very shortly.
So let's talk about the three tools for unleashing a woman's sexual side, and these
are what we're going to be using once we've built sexual attraction, once we've set
our sexual frames as we are setting our sexual frames. In fact, a lot of the times,
you can bounce between the sexual frames and your grounding stories. You're
talking about yourself. You're talking about how you grew up, where you grew up,
how your personality shaped your views which shaped the frames that we're
setting. So we talked about grounding a little bit on the sexual attraction thing, if
you guys want to review.
Now the three tools for unleashing a woman's sexual side arenumber one cold
reads. Cold reads are amazing for shaping a woman's sexual side because they
allow you to get her to accept various self-images through your intuition. Because
you present any sort of evidence or even just no evidence but you are able to
ground yourself as a person who is good at reading people, or you're able to
ground her as someone who reminds you of a friend who was like this or that.
Anything that you can do to empower these cold reads to make her accept them
with real evidence is going to make them better.
We're also going to talk about sexual qualifiers. Now we're going to use the
qualification process, we're going to use the compliance ladder process that we've
been working on, and we're going to use that to sexualize our qualifiers and get the
girls complying to sexual things. And lastly, we're going to talk about sex talk. And
sex talk, to me, is the combination of being able to talk about sex in the normal
subject and talk about sex in a way that's arousing, use dirty talk, things of that
nature. So those are the tools we're going to be breaking down on this call.
Let's jump right in to the first tool, maybe the best tool, for bringing out that
woman's sexual sidecold reads. I've read a lot of books about cold reads, one of
the ones I recommend is a book called "Completely Cold" by Kenton Knepper.
Another one that's really good is "The Complete Book of Cold Reading" by Ian
Roland. Cold reading is an amazing technique for almost every area of picking up
women, from attracting them to building comfort, to getting them to go sexual, to
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something that I recommend you spend a little more time on, than you spend on
the rest of the techniques that you learn overallall of the skills. If you spend a
little more time on getting your cold reading and warm reading abilities up, then you
will be much better with women. So what is cold reading, cold reading is a series of
techniques used by mentalists, (delusionists ?), psychics to determine or express
details about another person, often in order to convince them that the reader knows
much more about a subject than they actually do. That last line is really important,
to convince the subject that they know much more about them than they actually
do.
That's what we want to do with cold reading. When we're using cold reads to
unleash a woman's sexual side, we want to convince her that we know her better
than she knows herself, and that she wants to get sexual because we know her
better and we can tell that she wants to get sexual because that sexual side is
aching to get out, which, for the most part, is true about most women. Like the thing
about this stuff is; it's techniques to let women get around society's judgments and
stupid things to get in the way of them having more sex which they want to do. So I
dont really ever think it's that bad or manipulative, but cold reading exists with
warm readings as well.
Warm reading is when you know a little bit more about girls. So warm reading is the
stuff we want to mix in with our cold reading and so, for example, let's say I just
nailed a cold read and a girl is really reeling, now I want to use something that I
already know about her to kind of tie it down. So let's say I'm talking to a girl and I
just cold read her about something, about thinking too much, and earlier she told
me that she's an interior designer, right I might now say, you knowI bet that when
you're doing interior design, you totally spend like 30 minutes figuring out where to
put a lamp. I can tell that you're totally the kind of person who micro-analyses
everything and wants everything to be beautiful and perfect. Because what do
interior designers want, their job is to make everything perfect and beautiful and
make you feel good about the fact that you spend a lot of money to have someone
decorate your house for you.
So dont be afraid to mix in the warm reads and feed her back things that she told
you about herself. That sounds like it wouldnt work, but you'd be amazed. Girls
never seem to realize that you're just telling them things they already told you. And
people dont because there are things that generally do tend to be true about them
as well. So that's another thing to keep in mind with cold reads.
Now an important part of cold reading is the process of setting cold reads by
pacing and leading. So in NLP the process of pacing and leading refers to making
statements about the current reality of an individual, and then directing their
attention somewhere else. So what we're trying to do when we're pacing, is we are
trying to get their mind to subconsciously agree with what we're saying. Because
the more someone subconsciously agrees with you, the more authority the things
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read, like I gave a cold example in one of the calls leading up to this about
fractured sexual identities. I talked about that like a large cold read, you want to
build up some momentum with that, and I got an email from a guy saying he didnt
know when to use it and he creep the girl out. If you dont pace, if you dont get the
girl to accept you as an authority first, she's never going to accept your critique of
her sexuality. So by the time you're trying to land a big cold read about her
sexuality you want to already establish a lot of pacing. And we establish the pacing
early on with things that she can easily agree on.
So let's say we are at this club, Crest, in L.A. and I say something likeYou know,
it's crazy, like we're here at Crest and I can tell that it's going to be a great night,
I'm really excited. You know, it's Friday night, it's getting late, all of these are
statements that are pacing and that I can usebefore cold readsto get the girl's
mind agreeing with me before I start trying to direct it. So if you just bust out cold
reads out of nowhere without a little bit of pacing first, getting a little bit of stuff that
she can agree to; and later on it can be different, you know, later on it can be
something likeYou know, I'm so glad we met. I came out and I was not expecting
to meet someone, I'm sure you werent expecting to meet someone really cool
either. Her mind is going to agree to thatright. And thenIt's crazy, we've been
talking all night. I feel like, you know, I know you so much more. All of these little
statements are going to make your cold reads land harder, and when you're cold
reading you want to arrange all of your cold reads in the order of pacing and
leading. So I might say something likeYou know, it's crazy, like we are at Crest
on a Friday night, like I can tell it's going to be a good night, but you seem a little
nervous. OrI can tell you're an intuitive person. It's getting late, I can tell you are
an intuitive person, and I know that like most guys would be asking for your
number now, but I dont want to let you leave, so come back with me. All of those
things and you're going to have a much better chance of landing them.
So be aware when I'm going through the word-by-word cold reads that I'm going to
start busting out for your guys pretty soon, that you want to use thatleading and
pacingand try to think about where the paces are, where the leads are in each
cold read because the better you understand this concept, the better you're going
to get at cold reading, and you'll get there much faster as well.
The next concept I want to talk about when it comes to cold reading is the idea of
building a cold read ladder. Like I talked about before, we are trying to build what's
known in the persuasion circles as an authority frame. Like I talked about before,
the more a person believes you, the more you pace, the more you do things that
agree with what the girl believes, and the more you can start leading. So when
you're starting out with cold reads, you want to start out with innocuous ones, we
want to start out with ones that arent the ones I'm about to give you for unleashing
a woman's sexual side. By the time you get to the ones for sexuality, you should've
used three to five cold reads already. The thing is, cold reading builds momentum
because every time you're right, the person wants you to be right more and more,

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because it's really cool that you seem to know more about them than they know
about themselves.
So we want to think about cold reading in a process has a ladder, like each cold
read is building upon itself. We use innocuous ones likeOh, my God, you seem
nervous, I bet you that when you get nervous you get really clumsy . Or, you know
I can tell that when most people meet you they think you're kind of shy. OrI
can tell like you definitely like to be the center of attention, but sometimes you just
dont want the pressure of it. Things that early on we can use to build sexual
attraction, or just use to build comfort, we want to build those up before we start to
use the cold reads I'm about to give you which are all about unleashing a woman's
sexual side and getting her to accept a sexualized identity.
Alright, so I know I've strung you guys along for long enough, I want to now break
out the cold reads. So dont worry you will get written accompaniments with these,
where these are written down for you in order. But for now try to keep along. So I
might say something likeYou know, (inaudible 0:42:18) you, that people see a
totally different side to you than what your close friends might see. Like I bet if
someone asked you like what I just asked you, where you workedlike what's the
craziest thing you've ever done, you would probably hold back, but with someone
thats like really close to you they would never ask that because they were
probably there when you did it. I mean, I can just tell from talking to you, you're
probably one of those people that likes the kind of darker side of things, but it's
only really with people you really you're really comfortable with. So there we've got
a couple of different things, right?
What we're doing we are separating the girl into parts, when you're trying to bring
out sub-personalities it's really important that you break the girl into parts, because
when you name a part it starts to become real. So likeI bet with you, I bet that
people really see a different side to you than what your close friends might see.
Obviously that's a pacing statement. Obviously everyone's friends see a different
side than everyone else. SoI bet if someone asked you, at work, what the
craziest thing you've ever done was, you probably would hold back. Again, a
pacing statement; most people arent going to be talking about the craziest thing
they've ever done at work. But with someone that's really close to you, they would
never ask that because they were probably there when you did it, more pacing.
Again, we're talking about crazy things. She's thinking about all the stuff she's
done, what does it mean, it's slightly sexual. I mean I can just tell from talking to
you that you're probably one of those people that like the darker side of things, but
only really, with people you're really comfortable with.
There, our leading statementsI can tell just from talking to you that you're
probably one of those people that like the darker side of things. If you just say that
to a girl, she's going to reject it. So if you put the pacing in front of it, she's going to
accept it, and now you're building momentum; and then, again, you go back to the
pacingOnly with people you're really comfortable with. While she's getting really

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comfortable with us right now, we're having this conversation, we're building
comfort, we're doing all the other things that build sexual comfort, and we are also
(turning 0:44:48) out that sexual side image and showing her that she can do
that, she can be sexual and we dont judge.
Alright, next cold read, okay, this one startsHave you ever been in one of those
relationships that's totally selfish? Actually, you know what, forget I said that. I bet
you can be someone who totally takes and takes and takes. Men are probably
afraid to break up with you, so they do a bunch of stupid shit that gets them
dumped anyway. You know, my ex-girlfriend really was someone who never had a
problem with maintaining attraction. I was always attracted to her, but with you, I
can tell that you can actually push men away. That's just like my gut opinion, you
knowsorry, in the field I work in I'm paid for my gut opinion.
Okay so let's look at that one broken downhave you ever been in one of those
relationships that's totally selfish? We're just using that question to frame our cold
read, it doesnt matter if she answers it or doesnt answer it. Ideally, if she's like
hesitating, then you can go Actually, forget I said that. I bet you can be someone
who totally takes and takes and takes. Like, men are probably afraid to break up
with you so they do a bunch of stupid shit so they get dumped. Every girl in the
world has had that experience where a guy was afraid to break up with her so they
did a bunch a stupid stuff to get them dumped. You know, and again, it's flattering
and it's leading. Now we've led her and now we need to paceMy ex-girlfriend
really was someone who never had a problem with maintaining attraction, like I
was always attracted to her. Now we are tying it down, we're framing this a little bit
to let her know why we understand that, and then now we're going to go for one
more lead. With you, I can tell that you can actually push men away, you know,
that's just my gut opinion. And thenthis part is actually from one of my stackSo
in the field I work in I am paid for my gut opinion.
So yes, that cold read is really, really effective because it frames her as someone
who takes and takes, which she's going to want to push against. It also shows her
as attractive but, you know, someone who pushes people away. So now her natural
inclination is not going to be to push away but to go closer because this cold read
is actually what I like to think about as a push back, that means we're saying it so
that the girl actually does the opposite. In general, we want to switch up our push
backs and our cold reads we want her to accept against. Right, because if we just
keep telling the girl how she is, then eventually she'll kind of starts to disagree, or
she just you know it might not take as easily. Whereas if you give her a mix of
pushing and pulling with you cold reads, you're going to have a much better
reaction. You're going to get her to do the things that she wants to do.
Alright, here's another exampleI can see you as being way too hesitant for the
things that you like to do, and more aggressive over things likewait, you totally
have to have all the lights out when you're with a guy. That's totally like the
difference between a couple that has like public displays of affection, and a couple

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that like will be normal in public, but sneak off somewhere and have sex in the
bathroom. I can tell you need that excitement. You dont have fantasies about
things like sex at work or in publicdo you?
Okay, so sex in public, sex and work, those are very, very, very, very common
female fantasiessuper, super common. Most girls have them, and here we are
going to kind of use a couple of different things that we want. Right, we are using a
mix of pushing and pulling here, right? So we are pulling her in when you say, I can
see you as being too hesitant about things that you like to do, and more aggressive
over things like(dot, dot, dot). Like you purposely want to stop that thought here,
and then as if just had another thought, say something likewait, you totally have
to have the lights off when you have sex, I can tell. So that's where we are pushing
her away. Now we're combining the push and the pull with these cold reads and
we're framing her as being hesitant about things that she likes to do which she can
accept, and more aggressive over things, but they're not too sexually out there, and
then, it's like the difference between a couple that has public displays of affection
and a couple that sneaks off and has sex in the bathroom. A guy can tell that you
need that excitement.
Now we're framing her, again, and we're cold reading her as someone who needs
that excitement, like public sex, and fantasies. And then we ask her a question, we
goYou dont have fantasies about things like sex at work or in public ? It doesnt
even matter if she answers, what I'm looking for is, I just want her to have like a
little look of confusion and then I want to be likeUgh, you are trouble. I might like
you a little too much. And now I've totally escalated things, and I can go back to
normal talk. So that's a really, really, really effective cold read. That's one as you
can see, this one is getting more and more sexual though, so you're going to need
to have more and more rapport and comfort and compliance from landing other
cold reads before this; like you can't lead off with this cold read.
Okay, here's another oneI can tell that you either have an older brother or you
have always gotten along with older men. In fact I bet with your friends, you can be
kind of dramatic, but here's the other thing with youwhen you have a problem
with yourself you're actually a very private person. I bet you're actually really good
at keeping a secret.
Okay, so a lot of stuff happening in this one too. Starting off we have some pacing.
I can tell that you either have an older brother or you've always gotten along with
older men. If she has an older brother, you're going to look like a genius there,
she's going to really feel like you know her. Most women feel like they get along
better with older men. Most women date older men, starting in high school, you
know, there are various studies and statistics that say that men mature five years
later than women, or whatever. But that's a pacing statement that she's just going
to accept. And then we leadin fact, I bet with your friends you can be kind of
dramatic. Every girl can be kind of dramatic, right? Were leading her towards a
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Here's the other thing, this is the thing with you something I noticed I can tell
that those are like transitional phrases within a cold read.
Those allow you to transition and lead, from pacing the leading in a really smooth
manner. When you have a problem with yourself, you're actually a very private
person. You can actually be really good at keeping a secret. So there, again, one of
those sexual frames pops up, right. Good at keeping secrets, that's important.
When she has a problem she's very privateshe's not the type of person who
kisses and tells, she's not the kind of person who everyone has to know about.
She's not the kind of person who has a reputation. All of those things are really,
really important. So this cold read is a little less sexual. You can actually use this
one before you can use the one that we just talked about with the public sex. So
this one you can use even as you're building attraction, this one would work, and at
the same time it's also opening up that sexual part of the woman, because you're
getting her to frame that she's a private person. And she can really be good at
keeping secrets. She gets along with older men, she's emotional, dramatic, and
really, really effective.
Next cold readthe thing is, with you being a woman, you had actually had to deal
with that much more than I. That can be related to anything. A girl, you know, talk to
a girl about going on dates, talk to a girl thats talking to (duchy 0:53:34) guys in
bars, talk to a girl about being judged sexually, judged for her looks, anything really.
Any gender stereotype between men and women is something you could use just
to launch this cold read. What most guys dont get, is that women are more sexual
than men. It's just how they express it, is socially ridiculed by society, so they often
feel uncomfortable about it. If most guys just knew how to let women be women,
things would go a lot easier in relationships. So here, we are cold reading her that
it's not that women arent sexual, its just how they express it. So she can express
her sexuality in a way with us that will not be judged.
So the thing is, that with you being a woman, you actually had to deal with bad
society judgment much more than I. What most guys dont get is that women are
more sexual than men, it's just how they express it is often ridiculed by society and
they feel uncomfortable about it. If most guys just knew just how let women be
women, things would go a lot easier in relationships. The phrase "let women be
women" is a really, really good one for using with girls. I know it's probably a little
dated, but that song, "You Make Me Feel Like A Natural Woman" like there's
something about women's duality that when a guy can express that he understands
that women need to feel like women, it's universally attractive and universally starts
to bring out the sub-personality in women, because it basically pushes the button
that saysYou're an insider and you understand the way women think and feel
sexuallyand so maybe even if she doesnt want to sleep with you yet, just letting
her know that you are on the inside, at least makes her comfortable and at least
gets her to believe that she can open up her sexual side with you even to discuss it
and as things tend to go, the more you discuss this stuff with women, the more it
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So this is a really, really good one. The thing is that with you being a woman, you
had to deal with much more judgment in society than I did. What most guys dont
get is that women are more sexual than men, it's just how they express it is socially
ridiculed by society and they often feel uncomfortable about it. If most guys just
knew how to let women be women, things would go a lot easier in relationships.
Alright, and that wraps up our cold read section. So I gave you five cold reads that
you can use in various parts of the interaction, it's up to you to figure out what order
those should go in, so get out there, experiment. Like I told you, the more sexual
ones come later, but throw those into an order. I'm specifically not giving you an
order so that you go out and use these and figure out where they fit in into the
model, because that's the stuff that supercharger things in moving towards sex.
Now, the next thing I want to talk about, also supercharger things towards sex, and
that's the idea of using sexual qualifiers. So qualifiers are used for a variety of
reasons. They're used to demonstrate reasons why we like the girl, they're used to
give her statement of intent compliments, they're used to build momentum, and
they are also used to move forward in the interaction. So in my model I think of
different types of qualifiers. There are qualifiers for attraction, things like, can you
cook, little funny, teasing qualifiers, there are qualifiers for comfort that your bait,
hook, reel, releases, your frame qualifierprep releases. Your basic ideas of
qualification where you get a girl to give you reasons that you should like her and
then you reward her for that. Compliance-based qualifications as I like to call it, and
then there's sexual qualification.
And sexual qualification is something you can't start to do until you've really got a
lot of momentum, until there's a lot of sexual tension in there, you've built sexual
attraction, you've set the sexual frames, you've used your sexual cold reads, you've
used things like Strawberry Fields, you've made out with the girl already at this
point, there is an air that it's on, that the two of you are very, very sexually attracted
to each other, and sexual qualifiers are used to screen the girl for sexuality and get
her used to complying sexually. Compliance is all about you asking a girl to do
something and her doing it. Sexual compliance is all about getting her to comply to
talking about sex, describing sex, talking about herself and her sexual habits, and
her sexual abilities. Getting her to actually qualify herself on her sexual abilities is
doable and also is something that builds a ton of momentum moving towards sex.
Once a girl has gone to the level where she's trying to convince you logically to
sleep with you, a lot of good things are happening for you. So you can also use, I
like girls whose statementsso you have your bait, hook, reel, release rapports,
your frame, qualify, prep, releases; and your I like girls who statements. So that's
going to be what we're going to use to sexually qualify.
Let's give some examples. The first example is a bait, hook, reel, release rapport,
this one you can use about 20 minutes in once you've started to frame sexually,

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and so you are going to bait. You're going to sayWhat is your favorite place on
your body to be kissed besides your lips? Most girls are going to say ears or neck.
If a girl says anything besides ears or neck and you can't actually kiss it, ask her
what she likes between ears and neck. Then you're going to reel her in by kissing
her neck, then her ears, and sayingSo you think this? Kissing her neckis better
than thiskissing her ears. And then you're going to release and sayThat's all
you get for now.
So let's go through that again, and this time I won't talk about the parts. I'm talking
to a girl and I saywhat is your favorite place on you body to be kissed besides
your lips? She'll saymy neckI'll go in and kiss her neck, and I goSo you think
this, kiss her neck, is better than thiskiss her ears. And then I'll push her away
physically, not hard and goWell that's all you get for now. What we've done is
we've gotten her to, by answering that question, neck or earsqualify herself
sexually. Qualify what she likes sexually, and then we've asked her another
question but she doesnt have to answer, and that whole point is, we are getting
her used to qualifying herself and then rewarding her with physical escalation.
What happens with compliance is it builds momentum, and so when you're sexually
qualifying and you get her used to qualifying herself to you, and then getting
physical rewards, or getting any sort of reward for using her sexuality to win you
over, she's now going to get more sexually validated, feel more comfortable, and
mixed in with the sexual frames, the sexual attraction and the cold readsthere's
now going to be a rocket feel in the air, because every time she's complying she's
getting turned on.
Alright, let's go to our next example. The next example, here we are going to use a
little bit of an old-school concept. So we are going to use a bait, hook, reel, release
rapport, but what we're looking to do here is we're looking to do a little bit of a
sexual value elicitation. Basically we are looking to figure out what she likes about
sex, but we are going to do it in a really non-weird way. So as you're talking to the
girl, I might say, okay, I have to ask. What are you into sexually? And she'll answer,
maybe she'll say something likeWell, you know, I really rough, hard sex where I
get my hair pulled, and I get held down, and we get really sweaty and close . Now
I'm going to reel her in, no matter what she says to me, that's hot. And now I want
to feed back her description to her. So I'd be like--That's hot, you know, when it's
like really rough and you're really together and it's hot and it's sweaty and I'm like
holding you down, and ugh And now we're going to release. As soon as she
starts to seem like she's into it, we release. We goWe'd better stop before I need
a cold shower. And then we're going to use the sexual momentum to ask another
sexual question. We're going to ask a rapport question. What's the weirdest place
you've ever had sex? Because that push-pull that we throw in, in the middle is
enough that we fractionating, we are getting her turned on, we're figuring out what
she likes for later, so that when you start to escalate sexually, the girl says she likes
rough sex, like sweaty, where she's getting held down. You should hold that girl's
behind her back when you make out with her, like put your hand near her throat
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If she says she likes like sensually and smooth, you should put music on and like
dim the lights. Basically you're getting an idea on how she wants to be seduced,
and then you use that to build more momentum. So one more timeWhat are you
into sexually? She answers, we're going to gothat's hot; and feed back whatever
she just said. So let's this time, I goWhat are you into sexually? And she's likeI
really like being on top, and I really like slow and long and deep. And I'd say
That's s hot, I can just imagine if you were on top of me, I would just slowly and
deeplyugh we have to stop, I'm going to need a cold shower, Actually, what's
the weirdest place you've ever had sex? And now we can start asking another
sexual question, get her more aroused, and stop it. But what we want to start doing
is we want to start that process of getting her turned on, stopping it, and then
getting her turned on again. That fractionation of sexuality and arousal, is really
important for unleashing a girl's sexual side, because it creates that sexual tension
and that sexual frustration; the anticipation that she wants to be touched and she
wants to get laid.
In that success story that I read earlier, the guy talked about how the girl was wet
when he put his hand down her pants, and that's very common when you get good
at fractionating between sexuality and arousal, and normal stuff.
Alright I want to give you guys a couple more examples. I'm not going to go through
full routines or anything with them, butDo you spit or swallow? You can definitely
ask girls if they give head, and then if they spit or swallow. If a girl tells you if she
spits or swallows she will have sex with you. You can use anything that you like
girls who are turned by. Like I like girls who are turned by hair pulling and biting,
and, you know, kissing, and rubbing. Like whatever you like you can sayI like
girls who You can ask her on a scale of 1 to 10 how good of a kisser are you?
And then (inaudible 1:05:57) rate her. You can also ask, what kind of girls do you
like? If a girl qualifies herself that she likes girls, you're bringing out that sexual side
of her; you're bringing out that part of her personality that makes her sexual
decisions.
Okay, that's going to be the end of sexual qualification for today. The last thing I
want to talk about in this module is sexual talk, and sexual talk refers to discussing
sexual subjects, dirty talk and sexual statements of intent. So I'm going to try to
guide you as normally as possible, through the world of sexual talk because it is
very important to escalating things verbally, and it's something that most guys
never really got a crash course on. So when I'm talking about discussing sexual
subjects, I'm talking about discussing past sexual experiences, sexual fantasies,
things that turn you on, things that turn you off. Things that turn her on, things that
turn her off, her past sexual experiences, because if you can get a girl talking about
her past sexual experiences, and things that could have been better, or different, or
things that she always wanted to do, that's going to move you really, really far
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Dirty talkI'm going to touch on briefly, I am not going to give you dirty examples
because I just can't do it to guys, and sexual statement of intent which are basically
statements that are meant to arouse her and give her mental images of sex. Put
the idea of hot sex on her brain. So let's break it down.
Example number one: this is one of my favorite sexual statements of intent, it
actually came about from my buddy Captain Jack. We were on a boot camp in
Scottsdale, Arizona, and during the boot camp he met this really hot pilot, and he
was talking to her inside and he said, "If no one was here right now, I would bend
you over the table and take care of business." And then he told me that line and the
next night I used it to take a girl home. It's a really great statement of intent
because, again, nothing to object to. The golden of statements of intent whether or
not they're sexualespecially if they are sexualis that you dont want to give the
girl anything to object to. So it's not, you know, I want to bend you over and take
care of business, it'sIf no one was here right nowsomething that can't happen
because you're in a busy club, or a restaurant on a date, or anywhere. Anywhere
where there are a lot of peopleI would bend you over the table and take care of
business. If no one was here right now In fact, you can just use the phrase, if no
one was here right now, and use any other common female fantasy, you know, I
would do this, that or the other to you.
Alright, moving on, the next sex talk example. What is your biggest turn on? This is
just a question you should ask every girl. LikeWhat is your biggest turn on? What
really turns you on, you know. If you're scared about asking this question, you can
lead into it, by asking: what's your biggest turn off? So I might be talking to a girl
about an ex-girlfriend that I had and I'd say you knowIt's such a turn off to me
when girls kiss and tell. Like what's your biggest turnoff? And then she answers
and I goOkay, now I have to ask, what's your biggest turn on? Getting a girl to
talk about her turn on is the first step to bringing out that sexual side of her. Getting
her to just acknowledge that there are things that turn her on, to be a sexual
creature, is a really big part of it, you should always ask girls that.
The next sex talk exampleYou have no idea what I'm thinking about doing to you
right now. OrYou have no idea what I want to do to you right now. This is a great
one for later on in the interaction, for when you've already made out with her, you
know, maybe it's getting close to closing time, and you have no idea what I'm
thinking about doing to you. Or, you have no idea what I want to do to you right
now. Then you want to use dirty talk. Because a lot of the times the girls are going
to ask you, what, and when you give a lame answer, you're blown out. So you want
t think slow, sensual, use feelings-language, you know, I would caress your back, I
would bend you over, I would pull you on top of me, I would kiss all down your
body. Make her thinking, and you want to use a deep, sexy voice like that Ying
Yang Twin Song, that Whisper song, like that's the like good-voice tone. Like
breathy, you know it helps to like, breathe out. It's super sexual predator, and what
I'm doing on the phone here, as we're recording this module, so I'll leave you with
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what, and then you use dirty talk to describeslow, sensual imagery, in a deep,
deep, scary voice. That's the last one of those.
Okay. So those are our three tools:
We talked about cold reads.
We talked about sex talk.
We talked about sexual qualifiers.
Let's recap everything we learned on this call:

So first, we defined a woman's sexual side.

We talked about what it is. Every girl has it, it's that sub-personality and
sexualized self-image that she accepts in the current situation. When to
unleash it, you want to first build sexual attraction then set your sexual
frames and as you're setting your sexual frames we want to kind of vary it up
between grounding, sexual frames, and unleashing a woman's sexual side.

We talked about sexualized self images.

We explained the three tools. The three tools for unleashing a woman's
sexuality, being number one, cold reads, and again, those sexualized cold
reads that I taught you guys as well as the ones that you can use a little bit
earlier, and you want to make sure that you build up a cold read ladder so
that you're not using sexual cold reads as some of your first cold reads.

We talked about using sexual qualifiers. Using sexual qualification to build

compliance and move the interaction forward and rewarding the girl both
physicalwith physical escalationlike kissing, touching, and rewarding the
girl verbally, with you know, feedback and compliments, and statements of
intent.

And lastly we talked about sexual statements of intent. Those are the last
things to use, and those come right before you're ready to relocate the girl to
somewhere where you're going to try to have sex with her. So dont use
those early on, because those will creep a girl out if you use them too early.

Generally, you're going to mix up the cold reads are always going to come first,
and then you'll start mixing in the sexual qualification and the sex talk and the
sexual statement of intent which is part of sex talk. And then, ultimately, leading to
dirty talk where you're trying to arouse the girl, and get her sexually turned on
enough to leave with you and go back to your apartment, and you screw each
other's brains out. So that's the whole part of unleashing a woman's side, is getting
her to a place where she's ready and willing to do that.

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Now, as you know I like to give you examples, so I have two exercises I'm going to
give you guys today.
The first one: I want you to pick three cold reads and build your own cold read
ladder. There are at least two of those five cold reads that are not sexual at all that
you can use as your first cold read, there's a couple that are more sexual you can
use as your last, and the other ones you can figure out, going in the middle. Write it
out and practice it in front of a mirror. Before you even bring it out in the field, write
it down in handwriting, and get in front of the mirror and practice it two or three
times till you start to get a feel for how to deliver these cold reads in a way that
makes it seem believable, and in a way that doesnt seem scripted or pre-acted
out. And then once youve done it two or three times in front of the mirror, I want
you to commit to using it in every set for the next week. That means you're going to
try throw out all three of those cold reads as long as you talk to a girl long enough
that you get into comfort. Once you've gotten a girl attracted and you've started to
set some sexual frames start throwing out those cold reads and try to get through
all of them. That's our first exercise.
Our second exercise is: Like I said, I dont get too much into the dirty talk stuff,
there are some good resources out there for you. Dont use porn as a good
resource on dirty talk, it's not good dirty talk. But what I want you to do is I want you
to practice recording yourself using some dirty talk or sexual statements of intent.
The idea here is you need to have a good sexy voice. Like a dirty-talk sexy voice,
is very important for getting women turned on, because it has a lot of good things.
It also plays on the psychological factor that when you talk in different voices and
you name different parts of a woman, you can talk to different parts of them, if you
speak in a certain voice. So by dropping your voice and having like a sexy breathy
voice, only when you're escalating sexually and getting her aroused, she's going to
be more aroused. So record yourself talking for two or three minutes in a sexy, dirty
voice, then replay it and record it again, trying to sound sexier.
Repeat this until your voice sounds good to you, like it sounds sexy and it doesnt
sound silly or weird. It can be really hard to figure out in the beginning but once you
get it you'll start to hear it, and it will actually sound like something you could
imagine a girl being turned on by it. It will probably always sound a little silly and
weird just because it's yourself, but it will sound like something that you could
imagine the girl being into, and that's the real point.
So that's going to wrap us up for today, thank you guys for being on the call. Be
sure to send in success stories and questions to [email protected],
And I will talk to you all soon.

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