Conversation Skills
Conversation Skills
FRANCISCO DE MIRANDA
What is conversation?
People sometimes use the term 'conversation to mean any spoken encounter or
interaction
It is a social skill that allows people to make a verbal transaction to communicate
something
Adjacency:
The two moves in an exchange are related to each other through the use of
adjacency pairs. These are utterances produced by two successive speakers in
which the second utterance can be identified as being related to the first.
Some examples of adjacency pairs are:
A: Hello!
B: Hi!
(Greeting-Greeting)
Turn taking
Knowing who is to speak, when, and for how long.
Failing intonation helps you identifying when it is your turn
Foreigners sometimes lose their turn because they hesitate in order to find the
right word.
Teaching our students expressions like, Wait, there's more, or That's not all, as
well as fillers and hesitation devices such as Erm . . ., Well . . ., so you can guess
what happened . . ., etc. will help them to keep going.
Finally, it is well worth looking at ways in which we initiate and build on what
others have said such as Thai's like what happened to me . . . and Did I tell you
about when . . .?, so that students can make appropriate contributions.
The devices used for opening and closing different conversations are very similar.
Many conversations start with adjacency pairs designed to attract attention, such
as:
A: Gosh it's hot in here today.
B: I'm used to it.
Openings such as these allow further talk once the other person's attention has
been obtained. Many foreign students use openings that make them sound too
direct and intrusive, for example, by asking a very direct question.
Topics
Different cultures talk about different things in their everyday lives. Native
speakers are very aware of what they should and should not talk about with
specific categories of people in their own language, but the rules may be
different in a foreign language.
Male and female differences in conversation
Women are more likely to show an interest in personal details than men.
They are also better listeners and more likely to help the person they are
speaking to develop a topic, by asking information questions and making
encouraging remarks and gestures.
Men are more reluctant to disclose personal information. They prefer it when
there is a purpose for the conversation and they would rather talk about
outside topics, e.g. games, hobbies, politics, cars, etc. than themselves.
References
Brown (2001) en Martnez (2010). Oral Expression Module. Universidad
Nacional Experimental Francisco de Miranda.