Unleash The Warrior Within

Praise for Unleash the Warrior Within
His potent prose and no-nonsense approach will motivate [readers] to begin to behave differently. Publishers Weekly Machowicz takes you into the trenches of your passive mindset and pulls you out a self-assertive warrior. Daily News Unleash the Warrior Within has, and will continue to have, a lasting impact . . . Richards words echo in my head. Tom Deters, former editor-in-chief of Muscle and Fitness magazine Unleash the Warrior Within draws on Richards SEAL experiences to set forth a program for achieving success in any area of life. Warfare is simply a metaphor for any problem that needs to be confronted and resolved, and the principles he sets forth are applicable not only to war, but to anything from relationships to climbing the corporate ladder. The book is highly condensed and continues to yield new insights with multiple readings. Frank Troy, PhD, retired professor
Richard Mack Machowicz is the compelling host and producer

of the Discovery Channel show FutureWeaponsa hit since its debut in 2006. Mack has also produced and hosted Weapons That Changed the World, a one-hour special for the Discovery Channel, which also aired on the Military Channel. Mack is a 10-year veteran of the U.S. Navy SEALs. Much of his expertise with soldier craft and military hardware comes from his experience as a Navy SEAL. During his service tenure, he participated in numerous tactical operations with SEAL Team One and Two. While at SEAL Team Two he was attached to the training cadre as the Leading Petty Ofcer of Land, Mountain, and Arctic Warfare. Mack has over 20 years experience in the martial arts, studying such systems as muay thai boxing, Jeet Kune Do, kickboxing, aikido, jujitsu, savate, arnis, and karate. He was a certied instructor in the Naval Special Warfare Combat Fighting Instructor Course, a Naval Special Warfare Scout/Sniper and has received multiple black belts. Mack also served as a personal protection specialist for many high prole individuals within the political arena, business world, and entertainment industry. As founder of the Bukido Institute and creator of the Bukido Training System, Mack teaches a performance philosophy that uses unarmed combat as a pathway for exploring the dynamics of doubt, hesitation, second-guessing, stress, pain, fatigue, and fear. Mack has worked with and conducted speaking engagements for various professionalsranging from athletes from the National Football League and the National Basketball Association to senior executives and members of the entertainment industrymaximizing their ability to focus in any environment. Macks work has been featured in a number of publications including the Los Angeles Times, LA Weeklys Best of LA, Muscle and Fitness, Glamour, Mens Fitness, Jump, the Dallas Morning News, Mentors magazine, and dozens of Internet publications. His work has appeared on Extra, ESPN, the Discovery Channel, NBC, The Jim Rome Show, Last Call with Carson Daly, Fox Sports, and Lifetimes New Attitudes, among many others. Mack is also cofounder of the lm company Warpath Entertainment and a member of the Screen Actors Guild.
Develop the Focus, Discipline, Confidence and Courage You Need to Achieve Unlimited Goals
U NLEASH THE WARRIOR WITHIN

RICHARD MACK MACHOWICZ
A MEMBER OF THE PERSEUS BOOKS GROUP
Many of the designations used by manufacturers and sellers to distinguish their products are claimed as trademarks. Where those designations appear in this book and Da Capo Press was aware of a trademark claim, the designations have been printed in initial capital letters. Bukido is a registered trademark of Richard J. Machowicz. Copyright 2000, 2002, 2008 by Richard J. Machowicz An earlier edition of this book was originally published in hardcover in 2000 by Hyperion under the title Unleashing the Warrior Within. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise, without the prior written permission of the publisher. Printed in the United States of America. Cataloging-in-Publication data for this book is available from the Library of Congress. First Da Capo Press edition 2008 ISBN: 978-0-7382-1248-7 Published by Da Capo Press A Member of the Perseus Books Group www.dacapopress.com Da Capo Press books are available at special discounts for bulk purchases in the United States by corporations, institutions, and other organizations. For more information, please contact the Special Markets Department at the Perseus Books Group, 2300 Chestnut Street, Suite 200, Philadelphia, PA 19103, or call (800) 810-4145, ext. 5000, or e-mail [email protected]. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
For the true warriors, the men and women who do the dangerous, dirty, and often thankless jobs that make the world a better place; my immediate and extended family; and for Amanda and Josiethe loves of my life.
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Contents
Preface to the Second Edition Introduction
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The Three Dynamic Elements of Combat Crush the Enemy Called Fear Create an Action Mind-set The Four Critical Keys to Conquering Anything
Chapter 5 Master Your Weapons Chapter 6 Guarantee the Win Chapter 7 Never Grow Complacent
Acknowledgments Appendix Glossary
Preface to the Second Edition

wo of the most overused words in our modern vernacular might be the words, war and warrior. Why is it that we are attached to these words? What is it about these words that cause us to engage in a way that either inspires or elicits so much emotional energy? In todays world, why would anyone want to Unleash the Warrior Within? Here is a fact: Our collective human history is permeated with the context of war. It would be easy to point at some location on a world map and say that is the reason war is on our brains. But that is not the truth. The truth is that we have been using the word war so much and for so long that its meaning is so much deeper. It is because we are so familiar with the word that we rarely, if ever, explore its meaning or how often it is used to talk about persevering through unthinkable odds. When we talk about the war on drugs, what are we really talking about? Were talking about our wish to end the dangers of illegal drugs. When we talk about the war on poverty, were talking about our desire to end poverty. When we talk about the war on AIDS, were talking about controlling and ending the deaths caused by HIV and AIDS. Now what about the war on war? We want to end war. But to end war we must understand war. And the starting point for all war comes from within each of us. True warriors understand this; this is why we need more warriors. Being a warrior is not about the act of ghting. Its about the ability, courage, and commitment to end the war within oneself and not quit until the job is done. Whether its ending war within your home, your relationships, your neighborhood,
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your business, your country, or your world, warriors understand that they have to start from within themselves and build outward. They know that by mastering the war within themselves, they can make the greatest difference in their world. What is this war within? It is the battle that takes place within our own minds. Just like in real war, we have conicting ideas that ght against one another. This conict is internal and begins when that tiny voice within us tells us were not capablethat we shouldnt bother striving to overcome the challenges placed before us. We may call them dreams, goals, or objectives, but in the end it is the accomplishment of that which we desire. With every desire we have we must come face to face with our core beliefs about whether or not the desire can be made a reality. On one level, we believe were capable of great things. We see ourselves as heroic gures. But at the rst sign of stress, fatigue, and fear that diminishing voice creeps in. Our mind begins to work against us. That tiny voice grows in intensity and volume. We hesitate. We begin to doubt our abilities. Now that internal voice is so loud that we can barely make any sense of it. We second-guess ourselves. We believe there is an inherent scarcity with regards to what might be possible. It is in that moment that the inner war is raging. The internal conversation suggests that somehow there is something intrinsically wrong with us and that were just not enough. Struggling against this voice feels, in a relative sense, like were going through an epic battle every time we face a challenge that may seem too great for us to overcome. This is the critical moment that you must Unleash the Warrior Within. Why? Because, in a relative sense, conict is combat, and no one is more prepared to handle that dynamic than the warrior.
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Combat is an incredibly intense microcosm of life. In the space of a few minutes you can run the entire gamut of emotionsfrom fear to hate, from loss to triumph. It is an extremely powerful metaphor. Combat requires the ability to focus like nothing else. In combat, action has to be simple and it has to stay simple. Under the life-or-death pressure of an attack, even the slightest complexity will lead to confusion, and confusion can get you killed. Success in combat is about thinking and acting decisively, cutting through fear and achieving clarity in rapidly changing circumstances. These are the core elements of warriorship; this book brings them into the arena of life. If you wish to adopt a warriors path, you must work to win that war within yourself. It is in fact the one single area you can completely control. It is the one place where you can make the biggest difference in your life. This work is an ongoing practice that will require persistent awareness and effort. But it is one of the most worthwhile tasks you will ever undertake. The warrior is a concept that speaks to us deeply. Look at all of the references around us in todays culture. Great athletes are called warriors. Successful business people are called warriors. Even great philanthropists are called warriors. Whether were talking about medicine, education, or those tireless individuals working for the benet of humankind, we hear the word warrior used to describe women and men who show up, give their very best, and refuse to quit until the goal is reached. These people work past fatigue, pain, and injury to accomplish things that everyone, perhaps even they, considered impossible. We love the warrior. Secretly we all aspire to be the warrior. We all want to be the one who will show up when the odds are against us. We love that indomitable spirit. We love the individual who musters the courage to step boldly into and beyond
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fear, for that is the person we all want to be. But being a warrior doesnt happen by accident. You must choose that path, have courage, and commit completely . . . this is way of the warrior. Warriors are not bystanders. Warriors have options. Warriors can create favorable conditions for themselves. They can act responsibly in their own best interests and in the interests of others. They can protect themselves and their loved ones. They can show up when it matters most. Most importantly, they know that they exist purely to serve. In serving others, they get their greatest rewards. These ideas may seem lofty for a book that is about helping you achieve what you want most out of life. But, here is a fact: someday you will die. What will you do with this incredible gift that is your life? Do you want to get to the end of the road and wish you had strived more, accomplished more, and loved more? To do these things you will have to take chances, demonstrate courage, and commit in a way that allows you to be exible but never allows you to quit on yourself. Our existence is a wonderful thing. Anything we wish to accomplish is available to us. All we have to do is focus on the moments we place ourselves in, bring our very best to those moments, and not quit until we make them a reality. While it may sound simple, it is denitely not easy. There are all kinds of distractions, naysayers, and statistical odds that seem to work against us at all times. I know personally what it is like to be told that you are too scrawny, too stupid, too young, too old, too unrealistic, and too unreasonable. I even understand what it is like to buy into these useless, diminishing beliefs or internal conversations. More importantly, I have put them aside to accomplish whatever I want. I dont say this to brag in any way. I say this because if a guy like mewho was kicked out of a public elementary school
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system for being too unruly, sent to a place where the state sends juvenile delinquents, was assigned a special education classication when I later returned to the public school system, had a teacher tell one of my parents I would never amount to anythingcan put aside all the mental baggage that comes with that kind of a journey, then so can you. But, it is not easy. In fact it is very challenging and often feels as if I am at war with myself. I must combat and hold off the doubts, the stress, and the fear that creeps in whenever I stretch to accomplish a task beyond my comfort level. This is reality: Rarely, if ever, will you be attacked, and, most likely, you will never see combat in the literal sense, but the principles that make for effectiveness in battle are just as relevant in the daily challenges you face. Unleash the Warrior Within is going to give you weapons that will allow you to think and act decisively. Think of Unleash the Warrior Within as your own personal armory of weapons. Some of the weapons in it may be useful all the time, some may only be useful for specic situations, and some may be of no use to you at all, but they are there for others to use as they like. In the end, these weapons exist only to help you focus on the most important things at the most important times. What is focus? My humble attempt at a denition of the word focus is this: when clarity, concentration, and action converge to create a specic result in the present. Whatever you want out of life comes down to your ability to focus. No one really ever teaches us how to focus other than just to say focus. We are supposed to understand exactly what that means and, maybe for the most part, we get the gist of what is means. But, the challenge is that focus is like a laser beam: move a little to the left or right or add a little fog or some
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distance, and the laser either misses the target completely or diffuses to such an extent that it acts like a poor ashlight. If focus is where our mind, body, and spirit converge to create specic action in the present, then doubt, second-guessing, hesitation, the unknown, stress, pain, and fear are the obstacles that diminish the quality of our laser-like focus. During the stress of combat, nothing is ever close to perfect. Combat demands a mix of incredible exibility, focused intensity, and a clearly dened purpose. Unleash the Warrior Within is designed to help you perform in this environment. It is through this extreme metaphor of combat, when lives are literally on the line, that we will explore the dynamics of fear, doubt, hesitation, and the numerous other obstacles that diminish who you are and who you are capable of being. What will you get from this book? You will get the challenges and the opportunities only a warrior would take on. You are capable of more than you ever thought. You have within you the power to alter your universe, not in a mystical, hokey sense, but in the concrete application of proven principles that will unleash within you a warrior who cannot be stopped. This book is part psychology, part strategy and tactics, part drive, but most importantly, its about having heart. Unleash the Warrior Within is a gateway to the noble virtues of wisdom, courage, determination, generosity, honor, and wellbeing. This is what a true warrior stands for and it is what you are capable of being, if you so choose. This philosophy of performance is a proven path for accomplishment. I have used it to accomplish everything I have done. It has now been published in four languages and has served tens of thousands in accomplishing what they want. Based on the many responses Ive had from readers through letters and email, Ive received further
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conrmation that it works. It will serve you. In this new edition, besides this new preface, Ive added a small amount of additional material to nearly every chapter. My intention: To add just a handful of new ingredients, very sparingly, to help make my principles and message even clearer and even more effective. I extend to you an invitation to meet your true self within these pages and explore the adventure that is your life. There are challenges within these pages, but for the warrior, they are opportunities to see how far you can go and what you are absolutely capable of being. With all my respect and appreciation, Mack March 28, 2008
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Introduction
The only easy day was yesterday.

Navy SEAL Commandment
ou know when hell is coming. You think about it. You watch that week get closer and closer, then the day get closer and closer. The anxiety builds, the doubt builds, the fear builds. Hell Week lasts six days and ve nights, but when youre in it, it feels like the rest of your life. Still, if you want to be a Navy SEAL, you have to go through it. I wanted more than anything to be part of the premier special operations unit in the United States military, perhaps the world. What I learned through the experience, and from the resulting ten-year SEAL career, is this: If you want something bad enough, you have the power to make it happenno matter what other people have to say, no matter how tough the odds at rst appear to be. Im not telling you this to make you feel good, Im not telling you this because it sounds nice. Im telling you
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this because I know its true. Ive lived it. And you can, too. By using the principles in this book youll develop the courage and condence to unleash the warrior within you. In doing so youll achieve more than you ever thought possible, because this is not a book about ideology. Its a philosophy of performance. Its about how to get things done. Theres an expression used by SEALs, and I knew it by heart before Hell Week even started: The more we sweat in peace, the less we bleed in war. SEAL training may seem cruel and extreme, but it doesnt hold a candle to what actually happens in combat. SEALs have died in combat, but not one has ever been captured or left behind enemy lines. To hone us into men of that caliber, the navy was going to test our mettle and mold us through nothing short of the res of hell. That is the reason for Hell Week, the sixth week in the six-month initial training program of Basic Underwater Demolition/SEAL Training, better known as BUD/S. Funny, the day I walked into the navy recruiters ofce I didnt know what I was asking when I thumbed through the description of naval jobs and stopped on the page that showed three tiny photos of guys holding machine guns, scuba diving, and jumping out of an airplane. Whats this? I said. The recruiter explained that the acronym SEAL stood for sea, air, and land. SEAL Team can attack from any environment, under any imaginable condition. The so-called frogmen of World War II are the grandfathers of SEAL Team because they were the rst underwater demolition units. SEAL Team was created during Vietnam to beat the Vietcong at their own game, the recruiter told me.
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I was nineteen; I still had my collection of Batman comic books. I couldnt believe my earsI could actually get paid to be a superhero? Sign me up, I replied. What do I have to do to get in? As it turns out, the odds of anybody getting in arent good: Only fteen out of every thousand navy enlistees who take the screening test to enter BUD/S pass it. And of those who do get in, more than 70 percent dont make it through. The smart money would have bet Id be part of the 70 percent, because at six feet tall I weighed maybe 155 pounds soaking wet. In high school my performance as a student was . . . lets say uneven at best. A teacher went so far as to tell my mother Id never amount to anything. In boot camp I quickly rose to become the recruit chief petty ofcer over the other enlistees, but even then I wasnt given much of a shot: During one of our required boot camp classes a big, meaty ofcerthe kind of guy who looks like he spends too much time in the gym began asking everyone, What do you want to do in the navy? What job are you going to go for? When he looked at me, I said, Im going to be a Navy SEAL. Theres no way you can be a SEAL. I know, trust me, he said with a dismissive laugh. Youre not SEAL material. Youre too small, youre too skinny . . . Sir, Im going to be a SEAL, sir, I reiterated. Theres no way. Period. I bet you a hundred thousand dollars right now theres no way you could be a SEAL. Sir, Ill take that bet, sir, I replied. And if I could nd him now Id tell him to pay up, because I earned every cent of that $100,000. Never let anyone discourage you from your dreams or goals, no matter how big or small, because no one can ever guess
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how much youre capable of doing. Youre the only one who can decide that. Every man whos been through BUD/S shares an intimate acquaintance with the bell. Its a huge brass bell, about a foot-and-a-half wide and two feet high. Its tied to a white detailed rope thats thick, heavy, and beautifully braided into one big knot at the bottom. The bell has a few little scratches on it, but as a rstphase BUD/S classman, your responsibility is to make sure that bell is so clean and shiny it reects like a mirror. Each of us had touched that bell, so we all deeply understood its importance and signicance: At the end of training, each candidate rings the bell to signify he has made it, to say, I did it. But ringing the bell before the end of training has an opposite meaning thats equally powerful: Once you ring it, the shows over. You ring that bell before the end of training, you say to the world: I quit. I cant handle it. Theres no changing your mind, theres no coming back. To remind you of this fact, all the way through the rst phase of training the helmets of the candidates who have quit are lined along the compound. Your helmet is green with a white stripe down the middle and your name is stenciled on the front and back. Every time you go to clean the bell there are at least ten more helmets, ten more names to read of guys who quit even before Hell Week. In class number 136, my class, a hundred or more helmets lay stacked next to one another, forming a kind of hedge that went all the way around the compound. Every morning Id read names of guys I knew, and it hit me that, man, if I dont stay in the game, my helmet could be there, too.
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Thats the image I had in my mind the day Hell started. Coronado Island lies off the coast of San Diego. One half of it is a tourist resort, the other half is where the navy conducts the toughest training imaginable. At noon Sunday, the 120 of us from Class 136 who hadnt already dropped out found ourselves in this giant tent on the shores of Coronado. Inside the tent, there was a persistent hiss of hushed whispers from guys trying to talk to each other; wed all heard the legends about what happens in Hell Week. Some guys try to act cool, playing cards in the sand. Those are the guys who think theyre going to waltz in and breeze right through thisit often turns out that theyre the rst ones to quit. On the other side are the guys who are really nervousI was one of them. But I tried to keep my body relaxed and tell myself, Whatever it is, youve just got to do it. Hours stretched out and most of us tried to get a couple minutes of sleep if we could. None of us had packed much in our backpacksa pair of skivvies, maybe some socks, just some basic things to be able to hopefully change into during the weekbut we used them as pillows. Everything quieted down. People started to relax. The sun set as the day faded into early evening. It was like the lull right before the storm. Then, ra-ta-ta-ta! Boom! Boom! All of a sudden machine guns were sounding off over our heads, big ash explosions went off. A violet haze hung in the air from smoke grenades. You couldnt even see your backpack, you couldnt see anybody, everybody was bumping into
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each other. Get the hell out! came this thunderous bellow. They ran us out of the tent, screaming: Go here, go over there, you guys cant get it right, drop on the ground, get up. We were trying to do what they were telling us to do, but there was too much at once, it was impossible. They were spraying us with hoses, shooting off guns. Hit the ocean, they ordered and we had to jump in the surf. It was a cold night, and we were freezing. After we were completely soaked, they hauled us back out and screamed at us to do push-ups, pull-ups, and sit-ups. Then, we ran back into the tent, and before our eyes they pulled out all the fresh clothes that we had packed for later in the week and had us drag them through the sand, then soak them in the dirt and salt water. After that, we were ordered to bring them all in and fold and organize them again. Then everything got kicked over and knocked all apart. They just constantly mess with you. There was no way to do anything right. All of a sudden some guys just said Forget thisexcept they didnt say forgetand one or two quit right then in the rst half hour. But the instructors just went on and on. We were never fast enough, always late, and that meant you were always paying for a mistake, yours or somebody elses. I was on the brink of saying I quit when I rst arrived for training. Then I remembered the words of Crow, the guy who helped me train to get into BUD/S. He was much older than me and he had said, Mack, youve got to understand something. The system is designed for you to fail every single time. Theyre going to push you to see where your limit is. I didnt understand what he was saying at the time, but in that instant everything made
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sense. Its purely a survivors game, its about who makes it through and who doesnt. The process still irritated me, but that one little piece of advice was exactly what I needed. It let me keep a sense of perspective even when I was so tired I couldnt remember my name. Once I understood the rule, then it was just a matter of sticking to it. I told myself this: I can only be defeated if I give up or die. And I wasnt going to give up. During the training, we lost all concept of time and normalcy because we couldnt get a moments break. Days turned into nights and nights turned into days. Sometimes you got sleep when you were lying down freezing, sometimes you got sleep when you were walking, believe it or not. I dont ever remember sleeping in Hell Week. Id heard that the only way you could make it through BUD/S is to take it one evolution at a time: If you thought about whats going to happen next, you forgot to focus on where you were at the moment. And if that happened, you drowned, or you broke your leg, or you froze. If you went anyplace, you ran. Everything was made into a drill. Not only that, but you ran together as a crew with a boat on top of your head. We lost two classmates due to broken necksa thing that easily happens when you are running over slimy rocks and huge soft sand berms. One guy slips out, two guys slip out, and all of a sudden the entire weight of the boat comes down on one persons neck. If your team was the last to get anywhere, they threw sand in the boat, or they put in the coxswain, the boat driver, or the guy who seemed to not be carrying his share of the load, so you had to carry even more
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weight, ensuring that you couldnt win the next sprint. The whole thing is designed to put pressure on the boat crew so that you learn to work together as a team, and you learn that youre only as good as your weakest link. So there better not be any weak links. It was true about a team, and I understood it was also true about me, the individual. No matter how well I could do one thing, it didnt matter if my skills in other areas were weak. But above all, what mattered was this: You dont have to like it, you just have to do it. Stand up, shake it off, and keep going. Surf torture formed the rhythm of our lives. It marked the next descent into another ring of hell, the only way we knew one drill had ended and another would begin. Everything always came back to sitting in the water, arms linked together like a barrel of monkeys to form a chain of freezing bodies. As the surf came in, it pounded you and made it hard to breathe because of all the salt water, sand, and shells that went up your nose and down your throat. When a strong wave came in, the line got snaky and uneven, but you couldnt let go. If you broke, the punishment wasnt worth it. If somebody broke you tried to grab their arm so quickly that, hopefully, the instructors wouldnt catch it. But, again, they knew the game, you didnt. They ordered you to stand up, and just when you thought youre about to go out and get warm again, they turned you around and put you back in. One session went on for forty-ve minutes, maybe an hour. Suddenly the instructors said, Stand up, and we marched back out of the water. Were going to have a
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race right now. First ve people back dont have to go back in the water. Anybody else, back in the ocean, the instructors told us. I was cold and I was not going to get back in that damn water. There was just no way. So when they said Go! man, I took off like greased lightning toward the rock jetty. Once we reached that we had to turn around and run back to create a two-mile loop. I was just ying, ahead of the pack, but all at once I began to feel a burning, cutting feeling in my feet. It took me a second to realize what was happeningall the broken shells drudged up in the surf had collected in my boots and become tiny razor blades, slicing my heels and toes to ribbons. I just knew that could be a problem latermy feet would swell and be painful. Still, anything was better than feeling my blood turn to ice in that surf. So I kept running, but I was losing speed. Two guys passed me, then a third, and I said to myself, Oh crap, Im in real danger of not making it. Somewhere inside me something screamed No! and let loose a power that felt like a volcano erupting inside. My arms pumped. My feet moved faster. Before I knew it I was at the linethe fourth guy in, with another right behind me. As soon as the rest got there they had to line back up and sit in the ocean while the ve of us were rewarded with a chance to at least huddle and get some warmth going through our bodies for a while. The line between winning and losing was clear. I may have done some damage to my feet, but it was a kind of a morale victory that meant so much to me. It gave me a small victory to hold on to. It provided the condence to know that, if I could win once, I could win again. I hud-
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dled tight against the others and understood that you have to create little moments of victory for yourself, no matter how small or how short they last. Those are the moments that carry you through to the next big challengeand theres always another challenge, waiting just around the corner. The next hours and days blurred into one another. You knew it was day because you were sweating and near heat exhaustion. You knew it was night because thats when hell freezes over. Off the island there were metal piers that jut out into the water, with nothing around them but ocean and sky. The orders were to strip down to your underwear, if you were wearing any. If you were not, too bad. Strip anyway. Then, one by one, we were thrown into the open ocean. Tread water is the only command. After twenty minutes of that, you were hauled up on to the metal pier and told to lie at at attention. And so it went, back and forth like that, about every ten minutes. Just when you got a chance to rest for a second, you had to do push-ups or sit-ups and then it was back in the water. Over time it got cold, colder than youve ever been in your life. Lying there, shaking and shivering, I looked to my left and I looked to my right, and I only saw bodies opping around like sh on a deck after youve hooked them out of the water. All of a sudden there was nothing but the noise of ja-ja-ja that turned out to be the chattering of teeth. Added to that was the sound of bodies hitting the metal deck, making it hum like a tuning fork. One thing was clear: This was a deliberate attempt to freeze us into hypothermia.
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Forty-eight hours later, things had only gotten harder. The instructors put us out in the ocean again, like they did on the day of the metal piers. But this time, they were not letting us out. They brought out the bell, making it as accessible as possible, within reach of any of us. Were not going to let anybody out of here until somebody quits, the instructors yelled. It went on for twenty minutes, then thirty minutes, and everyone was shaking and waiting for somebody to quit. Nobody would, because there was no You can start over again, there was no coming back. You were either in the game or you were out of the game. But mindnumbing cold has a way of shattering any resolve. This is screwed up, forget it, forget it, guys started saying out loud up and down the line. Shut up, man, get it together, I yelled back. I knew all that talk would eat away at everyones determination and make it collapse. Mine was just as much in peril as anybody elses. And, nally, the rst domino fellone guy jumped up and grabbed the rope on the bell, cracking the gong against the brass three times. Dong, dong . . . dong. All at once there was a stampede of who could get to that bell the fastest. A little ambulance pulled up right next to us with piping hot chocolate, coffee, and fresh donuts. The instructors offered towels and big wool blankets to warm them up, telling them they had tried hard, that anyone would understand why theyd quit. Class 136 dropped in size by eighty people within ten minutes. Meanwhile, while it seemed our classmates were being rewarded for quitting, the few of us remaining in
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the water hadnt stopped shaking. We were each looking back and forth, seeing who would be the next to give it up. People had quit but they still werent letting us out like they said they would. How long would this go on? Somewhere in the corner of my mind came the realization that the instructors were weeding us out by playing negative games with our minds. The only way I would be able to win this one would be to play a positive game. I looked up at the moon and repeated, like a mantra, The sun is beaming heat rays to the moon. The heat rays are bouncing off the moon like a mirror and warming my body. Im getting a moon tan, Im getting a moon tan, Im a moon tan. It seemed like a pretty meager tool had for making myself warm, but it was the only one I had, and it worked. My core body temperature rose maybe one or two degrees, but it was enough for me, at 155 pounds, to stay in while hypothermia hit guys with much higher body fat percentages and they ended up quitting. Soon the sky started turning pink like the inside of a conch shell. Dawn was breaking. I made a huge mental connection that would stay with me forever: The name of the game is to make it through the night to see the morning. Its such a big thing to create those moments of courage, because that fuels commitment. You can always do more than you think, you can always go a lot farther than you think. It was the last day of hell, almost 122 hours had passed, and the instructors showed no signs of letting up. They brought food to us in boxed lunches and by then wed all learned to protect our food, because if the instructors came by and you werent paying attention, theyd kick
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sand at your food or spit on it with tobacco juice, leaving you to eat whatever you could stomach. All I was thinking was, Just make it a couple more hours. . . . The lunch break went by too quickly and before we knew it we were back carrying the boats on our heads, doing this drill and that drill. By three oclock in the afternoon the sun was starting to go down and all the instructors had to say was, This is the worst class in the history of SEAL training! You havent done one damn thing right! You guys are the worst maggots to ever crawl on earth! The instructors started hammering us, leaving us in the ocean to freeze again, ordering pull-ups and push-ups when wed get back out. By this point you were lucky if scabs and scratches didnt run up and down the length of your legs, as if somebody had spent hours just racking and racking sandpaper across your skin, making blood trickle down your legs. The lymph nodes in my legs swelled to the size of golf balls because cuts in my feet left by seashells had opened the way for infection. I doubted I would ever be able to walk again, because I couldnt move my legs. I thought, I hope this is worth it. My legs were almost frozen in one position because the swollen lymph nodes had started to cut off blood circulation to my lower body. One instructor we called Doc Knock came up to me. He was a corpsman, the navys version of a medic. Do you want to quit, sailor? he yelled. Although every inch of my body screamed yes, I said in the strongest voice I could manage, No, Instructor Knock! Then get up right now, Doc Knock said, picking me up with an arm around my rib cage. He gave me ve minutes of his time, walking me in circles for ve minutes until my legs started working again.
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The sun was getting low in the sky now, and the instructors yelled, You dirt bags still havent got it right! You need more practice. Were going another night, and after that maybe another. Conventional wisdom said Hell Week is secured by about two oclock in the afternoon of the last day, and it was far, far past that. Nothing had lightened up, it was only getting harder. Everyone was probably thinking exactly what I was: This is unbelievable. They put us back in for more surf torture and we looked at one another, trying to quell this rising sense of panic that, Man, this could actually go into another night . . . Then all of a sudden we heard a roar behind us. Over the megaphone came the order, Turn around! We turned to see a gure rising over the sand hill. It was the captain of the naval amphibious base. I knew then I had made it. Tears just started owing out of my eyes. I had done something no one, not even I, knew I could do. Again I heard the voices telling me I was too small, that there was no way I could stick it out. Then the voices faded; from that moment on there was no doubt I could measure up. No one would ever be able to take that from me, ever. The end of Hell Week was the beginning of my ten-year career as a SEAL. When I left the navy, I served for a time as a personal protection specialist for a number of business leaders and celebrities. Drawing from my experience as a SEAL hand-to-hand combat instructor and from almost two decades perfecting various forms of martial arts (including arnis, muay thai, and jujitsu), I have also created a self-protection training system called Bukido.
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The word Bukido was formed out of Japanese characters to describe the journey an individual must take to bring out the warrior within. I designed Bukido as a serious combat training system to be used for self-protection and in deadly situations, not for sport or tournament amusement. All of my Bukido clients are extremely successful in their elds of expertise, whether they are scientists, entrepreneurs, lawyers, psychologists, or journalists. Despiteor maybe because oftheir own accomplishments, each has been intrigued by my background: How, they want to know, did I manage to motivate myself to such a high performance standard year after year? What is it like, they ask me, to commit every ber, every molecule of being, to completing a goal? How do you train yourself to not ever consider the option of quitting under the most stressful situations? I believe the reasons people make it through BUD/S are so personal they never share them with their teammates. I certainly didnt go around asking, and nobody asked me why I made it. They only cared that you made it. We never really sat around analyzing why we made it: I tell ya, HoJo, the reason I made it through is because I had a miserable childhood wasnt exactly conversation over a couple beers. But for someone to drive themselves to those extremes, I believe theyre ultimately trying to create something of absolute value. Theyre trying to dene a life for themselves, to establish a different, higher standard for the rest of their lives. Being a warrior is not about the act of ghting. Its about being so prepared to face a challenge and believing so strongly in the cause you are ghting for that you refuse to quit.
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When I look at why I made it through Hell Week, why I went the distance through the pain threshold, through the cold threshold, why I pushed myself and continued to keep going, it was because it was something I really wanted. I didnt have the words to describe it at that point, but when I look back now I see that I was clearly driven by the image of me someday wearing a big gold trident on my chest. I loved the thought of the respect I would earn from others having accomplished this. I loved the fact that, unlike money or fame or material possessions, this accomplishment could never, ever be diminished or taken away from me. This experience was not something that I was forced to survive; I could have gotten out of it anytime. I put myself in the situation. The value wasnt just about surviving, it was about choice. It was about the fact that I tested myself and I passed the test. I would always be a SEAL, Im a SEAL now, even though Im not doing the job. That means not being the strongest, or the fastest, or even the smartest. Its simply a matter of being the one who does not quitand thats an ability available to anyone. Where did I get the mental ability to make it through the toughest situations? SEAL training doesnt bestow this quality; they want to see who already possesses it. That surprised me when I realized it. I went into the military looking for masters, the people who would deliver all the secrets of the universe. It came from studying the martial arts for more than half my lifeyoure always told there is a guru out there who will teach you if you do x, y, and z. As a kid I would go from dojo to dojo. I would do x, y, and z and would learn some really valuable things, and learn a lot of things that werent really valuable at all. I came to
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realize there are a lot of people out there with a lot of great information. They are called teachers. In SEAL Team, I was trained by some of the greatest teachers on the planet and had available to me the nest resources that money can buy. But, ultimately, to nd a master you have to nd that master within yourself. Find what works best for you. Always remember that you are trying to master yourself, not nd a master for you. The concepts that you will read about in this book are tools I developed to master myself. They have been tested in combat under the worst situations imaginable. Most have been written in blood. Along the way Ive discovered that people who have created success never tell you you can or cant do it. They only want to know how badly you want it. Its the people who are afraid to take the chance or have inherited someone elses success who tell you about everything youve got to lose. The people who are afraid of risking it all quit the rst time the going gets rough. Its not until you risk it all and go for the thing you really want that life becomes unlimited. All the shackles are released. Other books on the market have given eyewitness accounts of SEAL Teams in combat, as well as autobiographical works on SEAL careers. Unleashing the Warrior Within offers something no other book has: A plan for thinking like a SEALat least, one SEALso that you, too, can reach incredible goals, to live on a different, higher standard, and achieve more of what you want out of life. Bukido students learn these ideas in the process of mastering a physical discipline. While its impossible to bring the full visceral impact of my teachings to
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the page, I guarantee that if you participate completely in the drills incorporated in the book and apply them daily, something inside you will change. By the time you nish the chapters that follow, you will have gone through a seven-step process to free that warrior within yourself. The metaphor of combat and ghting may seem over the top but I promise you, the more you push yourself to accomplish anything that seems beyond your comfort level, the more youre going to hear from yourself and others how it is impossible. I am saying this as nicely as I can, but when those conversations come up about how you cant do something or accomplish your dreams, they will not be pleasant conversations. They will seem like attacks. There are times when it will feel as if someone is trying to reach inside you and take out your heart. It may seem as if they are only looking out for you, and you know what? That may be the truth. But here is an idea you may want to take on board: It is your job to prepare for the worst so that you can still perform at your best. My opinion of my existence is that I can accomplish anything I put my complete mind, body, and energy into. I will remain as exible as possible to do this, and I will stay open to the central idea that for every problem that comes into existence so does its solution. The hardest part of that simple equation is that I must be patient and mentally clear about all the mental baggage that must drop away long enough for me to even be able to see the solutionand then be able to act on it.
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The hardest and most important part of every ght is all of the moments that exist just before the moment the rst blow is thrown. I must bring my very best to all of those moments in order to be ready for the actual moment that my dream is on the line. That is why strategic considerations, mental preparation, and physical training are so critical in the making of a warrior. Everybody knows life isnt easy. Sometimes it even feels like a war. Often we have to ght to make even our simplest goals and dreams possible. But if you know how to ght, and know what youre ghting for, you can always come out on top. Im going to teach you how to ght for what you love.
Chapter 1
The Three Dynamic Elements of Combat
. . . if one advances condently in the directions of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.
Henry David Thoreau
rom nuclear warfare to hand-to-hand combat, there is only one guiding strategy: targets, weapons, movement. If you know what your target is, that will dictate which weapon you use. Once you have your weapon, the weapon will dictate how you move it. This was the underlying principle behind everything I learned becoming a SEALin scout/sniper operations, in the Naval Special Warfare Combat Fighting Instructor Course, in land, mountain, desert, and arctic warfare, and in counterterrorist operations. Understanding these conceptstargets dictate weapons, weapons dictate movementsaved my life during everything from a screwed-up skydive to a couple of nasty bar ghts in Southeast Asia. But never was this important idea clearly and simply stated.
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Targets dictate weapons, weapons dictate movement is the fundamental principle behind succeeding in anything. But I didnt read this in a book or hear it articulated from any admiral. The person who led me to form the Three Dynamic Elements of Combat, the basis for all Bukido, was a forty-ve-year-old suburban executive assistant named Donna. What ultimately became Bukido started off as a little business in which I took on beginners and gave them great self-protection skills very quickly. I had a shoestring budget and started teaching out of my garage. Most of the people who signed up were men and a few were bodyguards who wanted more know-how. I was teaching students the way I had been taught, but it was too severe for civilians, too demanding. The students were picking up skills, but it was going very, very slowly. My mother set up a seminar on rape prevention with me for a group of her coworkers. The women were like my momthey didnt want any fancy stuff, they just wanted to know how to prevent or survive a rape or attack. The tools I had available to teach them were traditional martial arts and my diverse SEAL training, and none of those would create skills instantaneously. They all required a certain level of athletic ability most people just dont spend time developing. I rened a program that was very basic, but even though the students were very responsive and complimentary and I regularly had twenty-ve to fty people sign up, I never had the feeling they knew enough. If a situation truly got ugly, most would be shut down by fear and forget the basic strikes that could offer them any protection from an attacker.
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One student, Donna, was very committed and wanted to develop better physical skills, so she signed up for private training. I began by teaching her a set series of movementsbasic boxing punches, grappling and martial arts kicks, repeating and repeating the drill in order to perfect her movement. She got to the point where she moved wonderfully, a regular Rocky. Yet, when I grabbed her, everything went out the window. She panicked like a deer in headlights. So I worked with her on more movement, better weaponsmore knee strikes, a lightning jabbut when things got rough, the results were the same. We were both frustrated. Im just not getting this. I cant do it, she said one day in disgust. I turned away from her for an instant to cool off, because I wanted to yell, Of course you can! Just do it! But instead, I did something else. I whirled back around and grabbed her by the throat. And when I grab, I dont play. I dont feign. This may seem mean or macho or intense, but what I learned as a SEAL is to train as close to reality as possible because that is the only way to condition yourself to perform during a real situation. You might get cuts and bruises in the process, but it will someday save your hide. Her face turned red, she ailed against my grip. Take my eyes out, I growled. Do something, anything! Then, wham. Like a laser, without any indecision, she took the most direct and immediate route: Her hand jutted out to bury her ngers in my eyes. Instantly my hands dropped away from her throat.
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It was pure, mainline result. She had stopped thinking about where her hand was supposed to be, or how she was supposed to stand, or where she was supposed to move next. She just got results. It was phenomenal. I started doing this to all my students before I taught them any other skill, and without fail they all did the same thingthey managed to get a nger into my eye and make me release them. Sometimes they were slow, sometimes they were awkward, sometimes they looked funny, but they did it. Each got the result. The lesson was obvious: Get everything out of the way of the target. Then you will clearly see what weapons you need and what movement is required. But doubt and second-guessing where youre supposed to be, or how youre supposed to be doing something, obscures what you need to go for. Everything becomes difcult and overwhelming when you dont really understand your target or havent dened your intention. The more complicated something is, the more difcult it is to bring into reality. Bukido was born from this realization. Without a focused mind, results are happenstance, unreliable. Thought precedes every action, so in order to focus the mind, you need a way to streamline your thinking. Bukido is about prioritizing the process so you do things in an effective order to get results more efcientlywhich means getting results faster. This strategy also guides personal achievement: First you decide on a goal. After that, you look at what tools you need to achieve it, then you put those weapons in motion. After doing an introduction drill on the Three
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Dynamic Elements of Combat, one of my clients said she realized in retrospect that she had already done this in order to go after her biggest dream: To see her byline in the New Yorker magazine. She was conscious of the fact that she picked her target, but she had been unconscious of everything she did to make that a reality. When she nally saw her name in print, it seemed to her to only be good luck, forgetting she had honed her weaponher skillsand she had positioned herself to be in the right place at the right time to show off those skills. She forgot the years she spent in school to become a better writer, that she wrote articles in other publications, met others in her eld, and over years developed a network. That target, the image of her name in the magazine, wasnt something she necessarily thought about every day, but it was in the back of her mind, guiding her movement in the direction of that target. Once she picked her target, she mobilized the skills she would need to knock down that target. When we make the conscious choice to pick the target, to sharpen our weapon, to make our movement efcient we get results faster than relying on an unconscious process. Those results are much slower and appear more happenstance. We do this every day and arent even aware of it. Heres a rudimentary example: Please go turn on your bathroom light.
Was it difcult to hit the target? Did I tell you which hand to use? Did I tell you how to move your arm? Did I tell you how to get to the bathroom? Did I tell you to walk, run, jump?
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The answers to all are, obviously, no. Did you turn the light on anyway? Of course. The directive simply told you what to focus on and a million tiny actions occurred, resulting in something being accomplished. Why? Because it was target-driven. The more I habitually condition myself for the tasks in the future, the better my skills are. The better my skills are, the easier the task is to perform and the less energy it takes to perform it. Think of when you were a child; turning on a light switch was as difcult as anything you could imagine. But once you could do it, it required no energy. The habitual action made the coordination of movement so easy and uid it required no effort or thought. If I told you what you had to do and made you perform it to an exact specication, the task would become more difcult simply because now it would be more complicated. Life is often chaotic and unpredictable. But once you pick a target, that target will lead you to the next steps if you let it. I teach each of my students that I dont care what they have to do to hit the target, just hit the target and knock it down. If you ask ten Academy Award-winning actors how they got to the moment where the Oscar was handed to them, youll hear ten different stories. Likewise, if you ask ten millionaires how they became rich, theyll all have different tales to tell. You cant afford to abandon a target in the process of knocking it down, because when you do that you lose the power of focus and concentration. What happens if you keep shifting from target to target? Think about the domino effect: When you shift targets, what does that automatically do to your weapons? What does that automatically do to your movement? It throws
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everything into chaos. If youre shifting from one target to another target, theres no way to successfully deploy your weapons and movement with purpose. The ability to focus is lost. Diffuse a laser and it is just light. On the other hand, movementthat is, how you get your weapons to your targetis ultimately exible. The only thing to keep in mind is balance, so you dont risk everything, you dont fall on your face. You stay exible. When you are exible youll nd the way to knock down your targets. While role models can be a guide whose experience you can learn from, understand that you are on your own path. Think exible.
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Targets Weapons dictate dictate Weapons Movement
Imagine a punch thrown from a boxer like Mike Tyson, or a kick of Bruce Lees. Lethal, right? Wrong. No matter how powerful they are, they dont have any effectunless they hit the target. The difference between success and failure comes down to just one thing: Your ability to focus on a target. The more laserlike the focus, the quicker the target is attained. The reason is simple: You dont diffuse your energy if you precisely dene what it is youre going after. Here is a systematic way to evaluate whether a target is one you really want to go for or not, taken from the way a SEAL commander evaluates whether or not a target is attainable. The process is the same whether the target is obliterating an enemys weapon
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stockpile, landing a business account, or even getting a date for the company picnic. Navy SEALs who undergo an exclusive course called Special Operations Target Analysis Studies are taught to assess targets through a no-fail matrix known by the acronym CARVER: Criticality, Accessibility, Recognizability, Vulnerability, Effect on the Overall Mission, and Return on Effort or Recuperability. This is the way you gure out what target counts the most. Heres how these elements factor into assessing the value of any military target, large or small:
Criticality: How vital is this to the overall mission? If I hit this target, is it going to contribute to achieving ultimate victory? Accessibility: How easily can I get to this target? How easy is it for me to hit this target? Recognizability: How easy is it for me to nd this target? How easy or difcult is it for me to recognize the things I need to do in order to knock this target down? Vulnerability: What is the degree of force needed to destroy the target? Can it be easily nished within a certain time frame? What is the extent of the resources needed to knock this target down? Effect on the Overall Mission: To what degree will the destruction of this target affect my enemy? How much closer will this get us to ending the war? Return on Effort (what SEALs call recuperability): Can the enemy recover from the destruction of this target? If so, how long will it take? What is the return on the initial investment of resources, and when will I see it?
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These are the principles I use to teach students the primary targets in Bukido. Different areas on the body were evaluated using CARVER in order to dene the best targetsthose that will be consistently available and produce an instant result. The primary targets are what we refer to in the singular simply as Eyes-Throat-Groin. Each one of them is critical for the body to function; accessible with arms and legs, which are the four major weapons we all carry around; recognizable on anyone; and each of them is extremely vulnerable to attack. Each, when destroyed, has a devastating overall effect on the body. And guess what? Every one of them, when severely damaged, will require some time for an attacker to recover. All three targets become part of one thought, so that eventually students dont even have to hear Eyes-Throat-Groin, they just look to see which of those three targets are open, then they go. If one is closed, its likely two are open. But if two are closed, one is always going to be open. By hitting these targets were going to have a major effect on the system that will then open up other targets. We prioritize our targets to make things very easy, so that we never forget where we are or where were going next. In Bukido we concentrate on really destroying at least one of our rst-strike targets before we proceed to anything else. Remember, when youre battling for your life there are no referees or judges. It is not about performing for the fans. Its about getting home alive. You might be thinking, Thats great if I get attacked, but what does this have to do with me getting what I want out of life? In fact, thats what a student of mine, who is an actor, asked me one day after class. This is all great if my
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boss is Charlie Manson. But Richard, how does this help me gure out what I want? he joked, but his tone told me that underneath the smiling exterior was a man who really wanted answers. So we sat down with a pen and a piece of paper, and I said, Give me ve things youre struggling with right now. A lot of things were weighing on himhe felt he needed to get in better shape, there was a beachfront property he was considering buying, his agent was driving him crazy so he was thinking about getting another one, and, almost as an afterthought, he mentioned that hed like to convince a certain producer to use him for a new project. Lets call these targets, I told him. What were going to do is analyze these targets and prioritize them using CARVER, so you know which one is the most important for you to take care of right away. I asked him a series of questions. We gave a value to every answer based on 1 to 5; 5 being the most valuable and/or easiest to attain, and 1 being the least valuable and/or the most difcult to attain. I offered just a few words of guidance: Remember, for this to work, you have to be ruthlessly honest with yourself. I began with the issue of getting in shape. Criticality was the rst factor to assess. What I want you to think about is how critical is the accomplishment of this target? Will hitting this target improve your life in a signicant way? On a scale of one to ve? Maybe a two, he said. Then I moved on to accessibility. How accessible are the tools or the facility you have to get it? Do you have ultimate control over this or does it require other people to
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be involved? Who really does the work it will take to get this done? True power is recognizing who or what really wields the authority to make things happen. This ones all about me, he replied. So its very accessible? Yeah. Lets give it a ve. The next question was one of recognizability. Will you recognize when you are doing things that help you get closer to being in shape? Is what you have to do clearly dened? Tape my mouth shut? he laughed. Being honest? I know what I have to do. Everybody knows that. Weve all read the magazines. Its a ve. Okay. So how vulnerable is this target? How much can get in the way of you accomplishing this target? Or, does going after this target make you vulnerable in any way? Its a two. Lots of things can get in the way, like when Im crunched for time or really stressed, he said. Then we needed to determine how getting in shape would, ideally, affect his overall happiness and well-being. How close does this take you to where you need to go? It would lower my cholesterol no doubt, and I wouldnt feel so sluggish, so Ill give it a three. Then I asked him about return on efforthow much time, money, and/or effort will it take before I see a result? Will I overextend myself going for this target? How easy and how soon will it be for me to see a return on my effort? Will the rewards I get from taking out this target be worth the investment of time and energy I use to reach it? Here he had to pause. If I looked at myself in the mirror, it might take just a couple months to see a result
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if I hire a trainer. Without one, it might take a while longer, but I could do it. Ill give it a four. We went through his remaining targets the same way, ending up with this chart:
Carver Matrix
Targets Get in Shape Beach Property Better Agent Convince Producer Critical Access Recognize Vulnerable 2 2 3 4 5 3 2 3 5 5 2 3 2 2 1 2 Effect Return Total Happiness 3 2 4 5 4 2 2 5 21 16 14 22
The chart revealed some pretty interesting things. The target he initially considered almost an afterthought, a kind of pie-in-the-sky wish, turned out to be the most critical target weighing on him at the moment. The items with the two highest scores, getting in shape and having the producer consider him, showed not only what was most critical but what was also relatively easy to knock down. Finding a better agent and buying a beachfront property, once he sat down and thought about it, werent ultimately that important at the moment. He could stop worrying about them and focus on what he really wanted and could attain. Pick four targets that you are interested in, get a piece of paper, and ruthlessly ll out a CARVER matrix of your own. Its very important to go through and answer all of the questions on page 26 in order to get the most complete, objective view possible. What you initially thought
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was the easiest or most important issue might turn out to be not as big a deal once youve completed the CARVER matrix. Or, it may turn out to be more difcult than its worth. Things may change, of course, but you cant worry about that. Youve got to deal with the reality at that moment to plan for the future. The answers will also reveal where the strategic weaknesses in any given target might hide. Once you get the broad view of the target and can see every aspect in context, you know what youre really dealing with. And when you know what youre dealing with, you can always compensate and adjust your plan. In my experience, what is most critical and what I think will have the greatest impact on my overall happiness are the two most telling factors. They tell me how much I really want this target. Desire is the fuel that drives me to nd the solution to the other factors. If this target is truly critical and truly affects happiness, then I will nd ways to make it accessiblein other words, I will make it happen, and I will also make sure I dont overextend myself in the process. If two targets are both critical and hitting them would have a high effect on your happiness, go with the easier that is, more accessibleone rst. You can build on that successnothing breeds condence like accomplishment. The reason I teach that we must ruthlessly evaluate the target is to properly assess its value. Very often I see people make a target of goals with little value. Heres what I mean: getting home from work to watch must-see TV. Yes, it can be entertaining, but ultimately, what does this do for your sense of achievement in life? I guarantee that
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if you make that target critical, youll be in front of the tube on Tuesday night without fail. The sad thing about making a target like this critical is that it is easy to attain. Like the old saying, we tend to go down the path of least resistance. Youll be an extremely successful TV viewer. If that brings fulllment, who am I to stop you? But if you can focus your energy on getting in front of the TV, imagine what could happen if you focused that same energy, one night a week, to achieving something you really want. At least you would be in the process of moving toward something of value. Inch by inch, piece by piece. Cynicism, that its-not-important attitude, is like a cancer because it eats away at your sense that achieving something counts. When that happens, failure cant be far behind. For example, why does a goal like weight loss have such a high failure rate? Because people dont consider losing weight critical to the function of their lives. It would be nice, sure, but critical? Its only when it becomes critical your doctor orders you to lose thirty pounds because youve developed diabetes or you cant t into your wedding dress and the ceremony is only three weeks awaythat people act and succeed. If you look closely at any of those beforeand-after stories so popular in magazines about people who have lost weight and kept it off, youll notice that each story always has a turning point, a moment where the issue became absolutely central to the way that person functions in the world. Some factor in their lives forced this act to become critical and the central focus in their lives. There was an absolute value placed on their given target and they allowed nothing to get in the way. It almost seemedand in some cases actually wasa matter of life
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and death. The accomplishment of the goal was made black or white, there was nothing relative about it. Hitting that target became nonnegotiableit had to happen. So often we wait for an expert to give us permission to act upon something that is critical to our lives. Weight loss is a perfect example: We go to a doctor. The doctor prescribes losing ten pounds as a preventative step to ward off cardiovascular disease or high blood pressure. All of a sudden its like were given the go-ahead to start looking after our health. Stop looking to others to give you permission to go after the target you want to knock down. You are your own master. Set the target up, then knock it down. It really is that simple once you stop waiting for permission. Stop waiting for the perfect moment. Stop waiting until you can move perfectly. Stop saying youd do it if only you had a sharper weapon. Stop waiting for the ideal situation. There is no such thing. Let me mention a quick word about weapons and movement: Develop your weapons to take out specic targets. One simple concept to think about is that in war, weapons are chosen based on the fact that they can hurt the enemy and not hurt you. When developing your skills and using them, make sure they can take out the target without you getting hurt in the process. For instance, if you rely on skills like manipulating and lying to people to get what you want, guess what? Its only a matter of time before that explodes in your face. Developing skills like attention to detail, strategic thinking, and effective communication creates powerful weapons that, when aimed at a specic target, yield dramatic results that you can be
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proud of. As for movement, it should be effective rst, efcient second. Time and practice make movement efcient. Once you have decided that a particular target is absolutely critical to your life and happiness, you must make it your mission to achieve it. This mission must become the central focus of your time and energy. Once declared and pursued, this mission will unveil the several smaller targets that you need to knock down along the way in order to accomplish your mission. After you have declared what your mission is, there is only one thing you absolutely need to understand in order to jump-start your mission. When I went through BUD/S, we were told there was only one secret to making it through the training. It wasnt anything we could put in a backpack, or study up on. It was guts. All you need is guts. But what does that mean? I discovered what that meant every moment of my ten-year SEAL career. It was just a feeling at rst, an intensity of being. I had to nd a way to articulate that to my students. If you can answer yes to each of these three questions, you have the guts you need to take out your target:
Gut Check
Are you willing to make a choice? Do you have the courage to start? Can you make the commitment to nish?
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to nish. The people who do are those who have the guts to get through the losses along the way in order to reach the victory at the end. Now that you understand that targets dictate which weapons you choose, and the type of weapons you have dictate how they must be used, you have to appreciate one more thing: Its not until you make a target a matter of life and death that you end up living. Knocking down a big target is nothing more than knocking down a bunch of smaller targets. I dont spent a lot of time talking about the importance of setting goals because you are, by the very nature of being human, a target-driven machine. You are already knocking down hundreds, if not thousands, of targets every single day. You just may not be aware of it. You want to be the person who takes responsibility for picking targets that will signicantly improve the quality of your life. Deciding between one television channel or another is not something that will substantively enhance the quality of your life. All that you are doing in that moment is cutting off one channel for the other. You must stretch beyond these distractions and focus on a target that will make your life valuable to you. Making a true choice is a qualitative action that requires consideration, determination, and execution. It requires a level of contemplation and clarity most of us rarely bring to an individual thought. This level of laserlike effort is a must in order to effectively take responsibility for putting your full intention behind a specic target. When this happens you will be amazed at how weapons (skill sets, tools) will appear to aid you and how effortless movement comes into existence. Movement
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(process, interaction, exchange) in its purest form is simply the moment when and how the target and weapon touch. We move all the time throughout each and every day and rarely, if ever, do we have to concentrate on the mechanics of our bodies in motion. If accomplishment is really this simple, what are the things that make it hard? Here is the bad news and good news at the same time: Most of what makes this hard takes place within your own mind. That means you have the power to make it a whole lot easier. What follows in this book are some weapons to help you understand yourself better so that you can make accomplishing your goals much simpler.
Chapter 2
Crush the Enemy Called Fear
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past, I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone, there will be nothing. Only I will remain.
Frank Herbert, Dune
his was my seventeenth jump. Ive done hundreds of others since, but this is the one Ill never forget. We were in freefall training, called HALO for H igh Altitude, Low O pen. HALO is one of many different methods the military uses as a way of inserting special operations troops into hostile territory. The reason HALO is important is that its a very sneaky way to get to a target. When an airplane ies low you can easily see the paratroopers jumping out, but when the plane ies high, and the jumpers wait until theyre only 1,500 feet above the ground to open their chutes, something very different happens. Flying at up to 30,000 feet, if you see anything at all from the ground you might just glimpse an airplane going by. What you wont see are the heavily armed troops spilling out in a string across the sky.
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After two weeks of ground school, where we learned what malfunctions we could potentially face and how to deal with them, our job was to practice. I call it a job but at that point in the process they were basically fun jumps. We didnt have tons of equipment on as we learned to get comfortable ying through the air without wings. Everything had been going great so far. I was having a blast. I thought, This is a lot of fun, Im loving the tremendous adrenaline rush I get through my body each and every time I jump. The instructor, Rico, would always tell us, Today the devil holds all the cards, to beat him youve got to cheat him. When I was on the ground all I could think was, How soon can I cheat that bastard again? That day we were working on formations, coming together in groups of three or four in the air, then separating. Im thinking about my routine. Two other guys and I are supposed to come out together as a three-man team and create a triangle. Then were going to y away, rotate, and catch each other a different way before ying off in delta, which is when you put your hand at your sides and become a human bullet. I hear the drone of the jet engines of the C141 and look around. Some guys have their eyes closed, some guys are talking, some guys are working on their formations, some guys are nervously ddling with their straps. We were issued old PC Mark 2s for trainingthey tie very tight to the body with nylon straps and metal rigging hooks that dig in everywhere. You cinch the rig down into your body because you want to keep it nice and close. If its loose, when the chute opens it will feel as though
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someone is literally trying to unzip your body. The straps come over your shoulders, across your chest, and then you have a reserve parachute across your belly. Like most everybody else I just rested my hands on the reserve and tried to look like I was taking a nap. One of the reasons you sort of close your eyes is, of course, to look like youre really cool, but youre also genuinely trying to relax your body. The fact of the matter is, youre jumping out of an airplane, you could die. Its hard to completely get out of your mind that eventually youre going to be stepping from an airplane at 15,000 feet, and if you dont do everything right you dont get a second chance. Some guys are being boisterous, pumping up for that moment when we get right up to the ramp and were about to leave behind a perfectly good airplane. I was no exception. On my black helmet Ive got a piece of tape that has Japanese writing on the side and a big red kamikaze character in the center. Behind the wall of machismo, thoughts creep in and out. You have to get along very well with your parachute, and you want your parachute to get along very well with you. If that parachute doesnt get along, you at least want the reserve to get along with you really well, because thats the nal one to save you. I see somebody rehearsing his drills and it occurs to me, You know, thats a pretty good idea. I start rehearsing, too, and so does everybody else. The sudden desire to rehearse is like a disease, its catching. Just then you can hear the bolts unlocking on the hydraulic door for the ramp. The top part of the ramp goes up and the bottom part goes down, unfolding to cre-
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ate a at little place with quite a view. The toxic, diesel smell of the burning JP5 fuel assaults your nose. You can hear the rushing of the air. Its weird. All of a sudden you cant hear anything, but you think you can hear everything. When you stand up you cant actually hear your boots landing on the metal oor, but you know the clinkclink is supposed to be there as you walk. Your ears strain to hear it. Everybody starts to line up. We again rehearse our little routine and go over malfunction drills. Youre trying to keep your mind busy so youre not just sitting, waiting. As you wait, the fear grows. But if you have tasks that keep your mind focused on your objective, the fear withers. The jump master looks back and yells, Two minutes! There is no way you can hear him so he holds up two ngers. He returns to sticking his head out the ramp. The rst time I saw a jump master I thought, Man, that has to be the scariest job on earth. Is he thinking about being blown away? Since then Ive discovered that the more youre in charge, the more things youre focused on getting done and the less youre focused on all the things that could go wrong. With the countdown on, everybody in line begins the gear check. You turn the guy in front of you around and check to make sure his pins line up properly, no pins bent up. And you go down the line, checking one another. This is standard no matter what youre doingwere always taking care of one another, because these are the teams. Its important to have somebody watching your back. The jump master throws out a streamer to check the wind. One minute, he yells, and now you take a deep
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breath in. Everybody takes a hit off of an oxygen bottle as it passes. This helps your brain to think clearly, because the air is thin at 15,000 feet. Before you know it the jump master yells, Thirty seconds, and we group up, grabbing onto one anothers shoulders. Clouds race by, but the ground goes slowly. The buildings and cars below look like the miniatures you played with as a kid. Just for a split second you remember that concrete is hard. The jump master gives the nod and yells Go! Theres a sucking in of breath, then you step out and whooom. Reex wants you to close your eyes and wait until it is all over before you open them again, but you ght it and win. The rst moment out of the plane is like being in a washing machine. You get a sensation of being yanked and dragged around. Finally you relax, you reach terminal velocity, and the wind current cradles you. Suddenly you become conscious of your body. You look at your buddys face and its going blu-blu-blu, shock waves of air hitting skin at 130 miles an hour. We perform our rehearsed routine then clear away from one another. I look down at my altimeter, 2,500 feet, no problem. Waving off, I look up; nobody is ahead of me, no one is to the side of me, and, most importantly, no one is above me. I reach down, nd the main parachutes ripcord, and pull my chute. Nothing happens. I say to myself, Youre supposed to pull it no more than three times. I lock on to the ripcord once more. I pull. It doesnt release. Oh, man.
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I say, Okay, this third time Im going to make this thing release. At this point I retract the hand I was using to keep myself stable in the air so I can use both hands to pull. But whats happening to my head? Its going straight down to earth. Im picking up speed dramatically. Where is my parachute? On my back. Where are my feet? Directly in line with the parachute when it opens. Bad mistake. A beginners mistake. A dead mans mistake. Wham! And I jerk the parachute free. Suddenly I can feel itmy chute wraps around my foot. And Im just thinking, Oh God. This is a bad parachute malfunction for one reason: I cant pull a reserve parachute, because if I pull my reserve parachute, I know what happens. It goes up in line with the rst one. If my reserve gets tied up in my main parachute, Im steak tartare. Theres no doubt about it. Its crystal clear. Before I can cut away the rst parachute, I have to clear it off my body. I can feel it apping around on my legs, on my back, doing everything but opening. Thats when it attacked me: The Panic. Decision making, rational thinking, start to shut down. Ive got one thing going for me: I have been trained by the best in the world. The better your conditioning, the better your training, the quicker you get through that moment when panic seizes you. But that split second it takes to recognize fear and move past it feels like eternity. Then, the rush kicks in. Okay, I quickly say to myself. What do I have to do? The answer: Get this parachute off. How do I do it? I slowly reach down with my right hand toward my leg so I can get the parachute off
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from where its wrapped around my foot and my shin. I have to be careful because if I ip over into the parachute then Im wearing the whole thing, completely tied up, going headrst straight to the ground. Ive got to be meticulous and focused. Everything in my world is focused on clearing my leg and staying in balance. Just for a second I see the ground, but tear my eyes away. I know ground rush, that hypnotic pull of gravity, just sucks you right in. Finally it comes free. The parachute deploys and all of a sudden I feel it clear. Now Im traveling anywhere from 150 to 180 miles an hour, with the chute deployed. The next two seconds seem to take minutes. Even though the parachute is released and its slowing me down, Im still headed to earth head rst. My body is going in one direction, the parachute is going in the other direction, and then Whip! It nally catches and hurls me upright. The only thing I can do is just go limp. If I had kept my body tense I would have gone right back through the risers of the chute and been caught like a dolphin in a tuna net. I look down at my altimeter. Five hundred feet left, time to guide my parachute and land on the ground. Dirt never felt so good. Its a given that fear exists for every one of us. But never for a moment think that if youre afraid of something, that fear is somehow a warning and will save you. Good evaluation of past experiences makes for good decisions, period. And its good decisions that will save you. Why do we think it will hurt when we fall out of an airplane and hit the ground? We remember how much it hurt when we fell out of a chair, or fell off our bikes when
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we were kids. Thus, we perceive that dropping out of a plane is obviously going to multiply that pain by a factor of about, oh, lets say a million. If during freefall training I had been truly afraid of jumping out of an airplane, if I was truly convinced that the likelihood of dying was greater than the likelihood of living, would I have jumped in the rst place? No. You dont have to jump out of an airplane to conquer that fear of death and embrace the experience of life. But you do have to live and act in spite of fear, whatever that fear may be. When Im afraid to ask a girl out, I feel stupid because I didnt ask her out. If I back down from a bully because Im afraid, that fear and frustration stays with me for hours and hours, because it was a failure to act. Fear is not a true indicator of danger, evaluated experience is. If you let your world become constricted by fear, fear has already won. Youre trapped in a kind of living death. Fear is by denition defensive and reactive. During my bad jump, the thought that kept repeating was, What do I have to get done? What do I have to get done? What do I have to get done. . . . The more you think about fear, the more you start to shut down your thinking. We know that a thought precedes every action, so if Im spending thoughts on fear Im reducing the availability of thoughts needed to take effective action. As a result, the less ability youre going to bring to solving the situation presented to you. Theres a well-known saying among men who have been in the military: In combat, a mans brains turn to water and run out his ears. Warriors train at such an intense level exactly for this reasonif you dont know how to handle it, fear will shut you down.
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One of my clients came to me exactly for this reason. A reclusive inventor by nature, Julio* was in his element in the early days of his own small audio business, when it was just about coming up with an idea, trying it out in his shop, and ne-tuning the details. But Julio started to feel uneasy when it blossomed into a real enterprise with the pressures of employing other people and having to meet complete strangers to whom he had to sell his ideas. Thinking he was analyzing his business by imagining all the things that could go wrong and why someone would not buy his product, Julio would spend hours and hours imagining situations that might happen. Soon he felt extremely nervous every time he had to talk to a prospective client. Slow sales in the beginning led him to imagine he would have to let his two employees go, and that his family would lose the investment of capital theyd put behind him. This led to anxiety so strong he would wake up at night with chest pain. Beginning with the seeds of unease, Julios fear grew like a weed until it strangled off his decision-making ability. He literally became afraid to pick up the phone. What he needed was to nd a way to break down his fear, understand the nature of it, and then move through it to his target of developing a successful business. Fear is the perception of an unknown threshold. The more unknowns, the greater the fear. The unknown why, when, what, where, who, and how much have more to do with fear than the actual task or danger itself. The less
*Some names and other identifying details have been changed in the interest of privacy.
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control we have the greater our perceived fear. This is why surprise quickly gives way to fear. Suppose youre growing up in an unstable environment, like an alcoholic home, where actions are completely unpredictable. As you get older you recognize there are indicators for behavior, but when youre very young you cant guess what that alcoholic is going to do. Again, everything is outside of your sphere of reference. You dont know how bad its going to hurt, when its going to come, what is going to take place. It almost always catches you by surprise, and fear takes root in surprise. The more fear you have in your thoughts, the more fear is transmitted to your mind or body, so the less youre able to think. The more diminished your thinking, the more diminished your action. Fear causes us to recoil, to move away from. If youre thinking move backward in your head, youre moving backward in your body. Surprise is a major component of fear. Warriors know this and use it to their advantage. In SEAL Team we are taught there are Three Elements of a Successful Attack: Surprise, Speed, and Violence of Action. If you want to cause chaos or if somebody is trying to cause chaos to you, these three factors will do it. The reasons are simple once you think about it: The greater your surprise, the greater your biochemical stress is going to be. The greater your biochemical stress, the greater your fear. Its just that simple. Speed is the next factor. If something comes at you very quickly there is going to be a moment where you freeze. Speed allows very little time for you to properly evaluate what is happening and act on it. The nal factor is violence of action. It has to do with the intensity and full commitment of going after a target.
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It is extreme in nature. The objective is to leave no possibility for recovery. Surprises do happen in life, but that is not the same as saying life is full of surprises. If you live it that way, if you live life without planning the most basic actions, you live life purely as a reaction. If you say to yourself, Im just going to react to whatever happens, then youre going to face a lot more fear. You dont choose to live through a reght, where bullets rain down like deadly hail, by luck. You ensure your survival by taking charge of moments. We all know that you cant control everything in life, but just as its true that we can tolerate a lot more pain than imaginable when its necessary, its also true that you control a lot more than you think. I see students all the time who live in a world where they only want to take charge of maybe 20 percent of life. I have to go to work in the morning. Presto! You wake up and go to work in the morning. Its amazing that people take charge of things all the time, but theyre not aware of it. Yet, they are not willing to take control of the biggest things they want in life. Its easier to say you cant control those things than to say, I have to control them, so I have to take the responsibility to get things done. I cant control other people and I cant control a situation. But I can control my actions in that situation. Often Ive found thats enough. I developed a simple formula to teach my students like Julio they have the ability to improve the outcome of every situation that they face. The Improved Outcome Formula essentially works like this: There are three elements that come together to create a particular outcome.
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First I have to realize that there is only one constant that will be present in every situation I face for the rest of my life: me. I am the only constant that will be present in every situation that I face. This includes all of my past baggage and conditioning from my parents, friends, and society. This is what I constantly take with me everywhere I go. In Julios case, he started with this assessment of himself: I am an extremely knowledgeable technician with years of education and apprenticeship at some top recording studios under my belt, but I am also the kind of person who feels uncomfortable drawing attention to myself. The second element I call improvement. Improvement is anything I do to better myself. Anything. It could be as simple as a small attitude adjustment I make to acquire new skills that better prepare me to face the world, or learning as much as I can from the difculties I have to face. Julio did as much to improve himself as time and money would allow, to the best of his ability at the time. He voraciously read books on business management, took a public speaking course through a community college program, and, through encouragement from a friend, began taking my class not only to learn how to focus through stressful situations but to interact with other people in an environment that was unfamiliar to him. The third element of the Improved Outcome Formula is the situation. You have to separate yourself from it; you are not the situation. It exists independently of youyou are not responsible for the weather, for example, or for how other people choose to act. Often you put yourself in situations by volunteering to be part of something or through neglecting a responsibility. The only
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thing you can ultimately be responsible for in any situation is yourself. Work harder on controlling yourself than you do trying to control your situation. You will see better outcomesas was Julios experience. Once he accepted the fact that it is the nature of business that some people will want your product and others wont, he stopped focusing on the what ifs and concentrated on the known elementshis products benets and his experience. Selling is still something that makes him uncomfortable, but the fact is he got good enough at it to make money. The result is now hes got enough in the bank to hire someone else to do most of the selling. Let me take you back to Hell Week as an example of a crappy situation: I think it was Thursday. I dont know for sure, though, because like every other enlistee I had been up for close to a hundred straight hours. The sun was going down and night was falling. We were cold, we were wet. We could barely stand up, let alone move. My legs were scabbed and cut, and my shoulders were chapped from carrying around an IBS, an inatable rubber boat. Wed just nished chow. The instructors were mad at us and we didnt understand why, but that was nothing new. They were always mad at us for something. Suddenly the order came that we had to do push-ups with our legs angled up on the boats to increase the resistance and thus make the exercise even harder. Our arms were weak, our bodies shaking from fatigue. We were your standard cold, wet, and miserable. This is absolutely the most miserable #*!+%! place in the world. This sucks, I kept saying over and over to myself. My arms shook. The whole thing was pathetic.
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Out of nowhere I remembered advice an older navy guy had given me. Hed served for a lot of years, and I respected his opinion. He said, Train as if theyre going to kill you in BUD/S. And no matter how bad it gets, if you can nd a way to put a smile on your face youll make it through the worst. No matter what. And you know what? At that moment I did. I was there shaking but my face muscles pulled back from my lips. I bared my teeth like an animal. Then a strange thing happened: Imagining what a freakish grimace I was making made me smile for real. The next thing you know, I was thinking, Hey, Im smilingthis is not so bad. If you instructors made it through this, I can make it through this. If you made it, I can make it! You had to do this, I can do this! My attitude switched from negative to positive instantly. Did my situation change at all? Not one bit. I was still in the push-up position, my legs were still cut, my arms were still tired, I still hadnt slept, the instructors were still yelling at me. Yet, everything had changed. With a slight improvement in my attitude my mind-set shifted from a fear-based perspective that this torture would never end to one where nishing was not only possible, it was guaranteed. In ten years I can honestly say there were a lot of other times the job was much more challenging. Sometimes you think, Why the hell am I here? Why am I putting myself through this? You come to understand that a sense of humor is not only helpful, but a requirement. I was fortunate to be in platoons with men who could keep me laughing through the hell. Chief Don Shipley was one. Imagine: Youve been on an operation for three days, no food, no water, youre
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freezing, and youre miserable. Crap is too ne a word to describe how youre feeling. You could see Shipley scan us boys in his platoon, looking us up and down. Then, he looks each of us in the eye and says in a tone like hes passing hors doeuvres at a cocktail party, Kick in the groin, anyone? Huh? Punch in the face? Got one left. It never failed to elicit groans and laughs. But all of a sudden, things didnt seem so bad. You knew your body could do more, you could go farther. As long as your mind is in the game, your body is in the game. In Bukido we teach that the way to destroy an attacker is to destroy the attackers mind. You can damage a mans body, but if you dont damage him in a way that undercuts his very thinking, he can come back. But if you destroy his mind, theres no way his body can come back. The mind is the re. Extinguish that re, you destroy the blaze. I put my students in situations that provoke as much fear as possible to give them clear examples. Fear versus focus, problem versus solution. By experiencing these situations rsthand, they clearly understand which one they would rather have. The question always is, Do you like this one better when its full of fear? Or do you like this one when youre taking control, taking action? Naturally, they always choose the side where the fear is nonexistent, or minimal at least. I had a student who was deathly afraid of being choked because she had once been attacked by an abusive boyfriend. During a jealous rage he had thrown her down on the couch and held her by the throat, screaming that he would kill her. Although this had occurred more than a decade ago, she still woke up in the middle of the night
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with nightmares of being choked. More than that, she told me, she had grown to hate anything at all touching her neck, even a necklace. With her consent, my assistant instructors and I put her in those exact situations she feared. Being choked is painfulI mean really painful. But it is the kind of pain you can focus through. I showed her that she could handle ve seconds before she had to even take out an eye. Once she experienced this and realized she could take concrete action before her life was actually at risk, she discovered a condence that not only helped her shake the fear of being choked, but worked as a sort of metaphor that helped her put the daily stresses of life in general in perspective. She gave me this example: I used to freak out if I was late on some payment and got a call from a bill collector. In my mind Id immediately go to, Oh my God, my credit is ruined, I have no future, she said. Now I tell myself, Okay, if I can do something in ve seconds when somebody is choking me, I can surely do something in a day that will make this guy ease up, too. I often teach my students the difference between pain and chaos: You can focus through pain. In chaos, you cant. As soon as you give your thoughts away to the pain, as soon as you believe you are in chaos, you shut down. The way to conquer fear is to move into and through it. Imagine it as a veiled, paper-thin mist and just walk through it. Its like fog: Sometimes a fog seems as dense as stone. You cant see anything through it, it seems to engulf you. But if you keep walking, putting one foot in front of the other, all of a sudden its gone. Suddenly you can see everything. It helps some of my students to imagine fear
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as this paper-thin, veiled mist. And once you walk through this paper-thin mist, its clear on the other side. Your fear is behind you. Once students get through those articially imposed stresses, then, hopefully, they can take that remembered experience out into the rest of their lives. It must be understood that fear is a problem. Really, nothing good comes from fear. Not better thoughts, not keener vision, not better action, not better results. Fear causes the bodys natural survival mechanisms to misre and perform unreliably. The more time it takes to recognize the fear, the longer the body and mind perform unreliably. The longer you put off addressing a problem, the harder it is to solve. Ensuring survival comes from being able to evaluate past experiences correctly. I dont have to be a genius to evaluate when a gun is pointed at my face. Fear does not tell me, Be smart here, this is a gun pointed at you. Its our evaluation that a gun has the potential to kill, or at the very least create massive injury, that lets us know how dicey the situation is. If I had never seen a gun before I would not understand the massive potential of this device, yet I may read the menacing body language of the individual holding the object and get a sense that something is not right. I may have seen this type of body language in an individual that has hurt me before. I might not know how this person with the device intends to hurt me, but it is clear that the intent is there. The unknown factors how, when, and why will lead to increased fear based purely on my evaluation of my past experience with this exhibited behavior. But if you have no absolute reference to evaluate a
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particular experience, the likelihood that fear will even show up decreases. Thats why babies appear fearless. I dont buy it, one of my students, Lila, told me when I said that during a Bukido course. Lila is a systems analyst by day, and by night is a painter who at the time was about to have her rst gallery opening. Ive never, ever done anything thats even remotely like showing my own work in front of an audience. But I know Im scared of it. I think you have, I replied. When you went to school did you ever have to read before the class, a book report or anything? School was a long time ago, but yes, Lila said. Did the boys in the back row snicker? Did your teacher criticize something about the report, the way you delivered itdid she tell you to slow down, to not talk so fast? I seem to remember something like that, but what are you getting at? Lila replied. That you have done something like the gallery exhibit beforeor at least, something your brain equates with being like the exhibit, I told her. As adults, we have so many references based in life experience. We tend to draw conclusions from those references, and in the process we often transfer fears, appropriately and inappropriately, from situations that appear similar and ll in the gaps with images of the worst thing that could happen. In my own experience, I have found that fear comes in two categories: uncontrolled fear and controlled fear. Uncontrolled fear rises in proportion to the number and
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intensity of unknowns there areyou dont know how bad its going to be, you dont know what its going to be, you dont know what the cause is, you dont know what the effect is, you dont know whats going to happen to you. The hands sweat, the heart races, the body shakes. In fact there are so many unknowns you cant even remember what is known. Thinking constricts, and your ability to solve any problem is so small that everything seems completely out of control. Think about trying to talk to someone when a radio is playing. Thats what fear is likeits that static drowning out communication. The louder that noise is, the harder it is to hear that voice inside telling you the solution. What we want is to be able to take that fear, recognize it, move beyond it, and get a little closer to the source, actually hear whats being said to us. Along those lines, lets say youve had a falling out with a buddy, or a coworker, or a signicant other. If your falling outs are like mine, often theres nothing but a blur of words, angry sentences thrown back and forth until you both walk away in disgust and neither of you can tell right away what exactly transpired. But after a momentor an hour, or a few daysto sort things through, it will become evident that one or both of you reacted out of some type of fear. If you then apply the most elementary troubleshooting, its just a problem: Working your way back through the actions and words, you can nd where the fear lies and address it, if both of you are willing. At the risk of sounding like a typical male, I have to admit that when communication breaks down in my rela-
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tionships I think about it like a radio breaking down. You open it and nd there are all these resistors, capacitors, transistorsthings you dont know what the hell they are. Your rst reaction might be, Oh my God, I dont know what to do. Start back at the power source and work your way forward to nd the chain that will eventually enable you to x the problem. In effect, thats what uncontrolled fear does: It shorts the connection between thought and action. What you want to do is go back to the source as quickly as possible to nd a way to get around the short. In a state of controlled fear, you have a grip on certain thingsthere are more things known to you than are unknown. When I jump out of the airplane Im familiar with that event. I pump myself up beforehand to remind myself of what I know so I can go around or underneath the fears that remainwill my equipment work? Will anyone down on the ground shoot at me when I get there? Fear is a problem, and like any problem, if you want a solution you rst have to recognize that the problem exists. I believe fear is a constant in most peoples lives. Fear to ask that girl out, fear to get a promotion, fear to change jobs, fear to go anywhere. We may not call it fear we may talk about having anxiety, or being nervous, or having a general sense of unease about something, but all of these feelings are just other names for low-level fear. It seems the biggest fear that most of us have in our daily life is the fear of looking stupid. A friend of mine in the San Bernardino Sheriffs Department once told me about a cop who failed to call for backup because he was afraid hed look stupid to his coworkers. What happened?
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He got in a reght and got shot. Thats a guy who was afraid to act based on his experience. He was afraid to act on his own knowledge. It wasnt that he was afraid of what was going to happen. He was more afraid of looking stupid than willing to be smart and calling for backup. Does that make sense? No. But it happens all the time. Its more accepted to be afraid than it is to stand up and take charge. Fear is an industry in our culture. Think about all of the people out there trying to make money off of your fear. Your fear of being fat, broke, unattractive, of being attacked, or being without someone for the rest of your life. There is enough fear out there to go insane. But more often than going insane, the culture of fear keeps us in jobs we hate, relationships that are hurtful to our selfesteem, houses we dont like, and in neighborhoods we have outgrown. One of the biggest, and hardest, lessons I learned about fear was at SEAL Team Two, when I volunteered for a winter warfare platoon. Its one of the toughest platoons because not only is it physically demanding, but you have to put up with Arctic temperatures, sometimes 65 degrees below zero. There is never a moment where you feel warm and comfortable. I really didnt understand that when I volunteered to get into the platoon. I simply understood it was challenging, and because I was seeking mastery of myself, I wanted the challenge. I had always prided myself on the fact that if I have a fear, I always look it in the eye and walk right into it. Thats really the only way you can conquer fear, because its like a heat-seeking missile. You cant run away from it, you cant hide from it, you cant
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duck it. No matter where you go, it nds you. But if you walk right at it, it misses you completely. It goes right past you, as if it were just an illusion. So imagine how difcult is was for me when I nally realized: Damn, Im afraid of being cold. I was literally afraid of being cold, really cold. The extreme nature of Arctic temperatures can freeze appendages black, damaging them to the point where they must be amputated; basic survival is much more difcult because the environment itself could quickly kill you. Its important to remember that since I was raised in Miami, not North Dakota, I had never had the chance to become familiar with extreme cold on a day-to-day basis. Also, I had experienced cold during BUD/S and found that it has the power to grate on the mind as few things do. But as bad as that was, it never got below freezing. Being in an environment of ice and snow for months on end could only be worse by far, or so I reasoned. But I didnt recognize this fear for a long, long time. I disguised it as anger, I disguised it as annoyance or jealousy. I even disguised it as hate sometimes. I verbally attacked people because I was afraidId blow up at them and disguise my anger as a justied response to the other persons inexperience. I remember the rst time we went skiing on a downhill course. I felt like an idiot. I was overdressed because I wouldnt listen. We had hours and hours of classes before we set foot on the slopesId had top-notch experts detailing for me exactly what it was I needed to do. Yet I blew off their knowledge and experience in that environment and in effect said, Oh, I know better. But that was fear talking. It wasnt
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as if I had done it and found a better way to do it. No, I had never done it before in my life. Not only had I never done winter warfare before where you must navigate through avalanche terrain, shoot in hip-deep snow, and dive in glacial waters, I had never even skied in my entire life. But there I was, some kind of expert on knowing how to dress. All I was focused on was how to stay warm: Got to stay warm, must stay warm. But they were trying to teach me that when youre really moving out in a cold environment you cant overdress. So I overdressed, and then I overheated, and then I sweat, and then, big surprise, I got cold. Cold surprised mehow could I be cold with so many clothes on? That caused stress in me, so I tried to compensate for that stress and that fear with very stupid thoughts. I started getting really, really uncomfortable and thinking about how uncomfortable I was rather than about the mechanics of skiing. And I started thinking about things that didnt matter versus things that did. My fear caused me to put on more and more clothing. More and more clothing caused me to overheat so I was now super-uncomfortable in an environment where I would otherwise have just been uncomfortable. And I couldnt think about any of the things I was supposed to do. I was afraid to go down the hill because I didnt know how to control my skis, because I hadnt listened to anything theyd been saying about how to get down a slope. This would have been ne if a hot toddy were waiting for me back at the lodge after a hard day on the bunny slope, but the fact of the matter was that within days I had to be ready to spend fteen days plowing through Arctic snow and sleet with a ninety-six-pound pack strapped to my back. Imagine hearing the ice formed from your own sweat breaking off
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your body at the same moment you realize, Ive still got twenty miles to go before I get to pitch a tent on ice. . . . Only two things can get in the way of knocking down a target, or accomplishing a goal: lack of knowledge, or fear. Thats it. If somebody teaches you howgiven time to absorb new concepts and given the time needed for experiencing and training those conceptsyet you still dont do what they tell you to do, guess what: its fear. When I say knowledge, that includes the training and conditioning of that knowledge. Knowledge doesnt come from somebody telling you something. Its information when its just out there. Knowledge is information youve taken on board and integrated into your decisions and actions. Sometimes I would do it right, sometimes I would do it wrong. I couldnt get consistent because I was thinking more about things that werent necessary versus the things that were. Eventually I picked up the mechanics for downhill skiing. I went through two and a half years ghting through fear, ghting through the knowledge that I would not accept in order to be successful. Why was it so hard? Because mentally I was not aware of my fear. As I said, its better to look fear in the eye right away because eventually the two of you will meet up again. I managed to force myself through the fear. Over time, as I became more familiar with the environment, there was less fear and I started subconsciously taking off a little more of the clothes. As I became more and more familiar with the environment, I started to actually respect the harshness of the landscape and it wasnt so shocking to me anymore. I still had those fearsdont get me wrongbut the interference got lighter,
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and so my thinking got a little clearer. And all you need is a little bit of clarity to do one thing right. The next thing you know, I started doing little things better here and there. So when all was said and done I had managed to do a decent job, and I was given the opportunity to go to French school when I came back. Four months of sitting in a warm classroom was a welcome breakplus, by the time I got nished I could order a glass of wine and ask a French girl for her phone number. But as soon as I came back from that, I had my new orders waiting for me. Youre going to ski instructor school, my commanding ofcer told me. The fear leapt back into my body. I dont know anything about skiing, Im the worst skier in the planet. Why are you guys sending me to ski instructor school? What are you, high? I said. I mean, thats what I felt like saying. I was in the military, after all. Theres not much room for discussion. Sometimes, however, the universe has lessons to teach you and you dont have a choice. Good things can come from that. The best learning experience came from this challenge I wasnt willing to face. So off I went, back out on the snow. And something unexpected happened. By no means was I some kind of honor student, but where the best skiers only improved on their skill by maybe 25 percent, I improved my own personal abilities by 100 percent. I managed to get an instructors certication. Now, I wasnt skiing like somebody whod been born with skis strapped on his feet, but for the rst time I perfected the basic mechanics and correct fundamentalshow your balance works, putting your
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chest down the fall lineall the things Id just muscled through before. I began saying to myself, Hey, Im understanding this information, meaning, now its starting to become knowledge. Before long the class was over, and right away I had a platoon of my own to teach. And you know what? My evaluations rated me as a key instructor in the program, one who performed awlessly. How did I, a former idiot on skis, became one of the best instructors? Two reasons: Not only did I know correct fundamentals, I always remembered what it was like to be a beginner. And once I started nding success in one area, all of the other stuff almost instantly made sense to me. Ultimately the more familiar you are with an environment, the less fear you have of that environment. The less fear, the less interference to being able to take on knowledge, to be able to do things. If you can learn one thing from my misery in winter warfare, understand that interference can last for years without you even being aware of it. You can lash out at people, you can get mad at yourselfyou can even end up hating yourself without ever realizing that fear is the interference, the block in the road of progress. Fear only causes me to react. Fear only causes me to wait. Fear moves me away from effective action. When you nd yourself acting like a jerk, stop for a second and just ask yourself, What am I afraid of here? I truly believe there are two root emotions to everything a person experiences. You are either moving toward fear or youre moving toward love. Positive emotions, I believe, are attached to some kind of love. During my skydive
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where so many things went wrong, I was able to get my thoughts in control because I wanted to live through the experience. I knew I had so many things worth living for. The value I placed on my life was stronger than my fear of death. Every time I get ready to jump out of an airplane, I feel fear. The unknown of death has inherent fear. I dont want to die. But being afraid of dying isnt what pulls your chute. Wanting to live does. Plenty of people commit suicide by jumping off a building. That is not wanting to live. That is wanting to jump away from life into death, that ending it somehow will be better than living it. Now, they may not be saying to themselves, Im jumping to love, but they think theyre jumping to something that has greater value than life. Maybe it is as simple as relief or revenge, or the feeling that death is somehow better than living. All negative emotions are attached to some fear, without exception. When I wanted to be a SEAL I had fear of Hell Week. But if I would have followed that fear, let it consume me, I never would have accomplished becoming a SEAL. If I followed that fear, I never would have pulled that parachute, I never would have solved that problem. Living in fear keeps you from acting effectively. Its that simple. The more things you care about passionately in your life, the more you build inherent value in your life. The less you have of value in your life, the more you feel youre moving toward fear. Think about this for a second: Remember when you experienced love for another person for the rst time. Think about that rst experienceyou had unlimited energy. Unlimited. You could stay up all night talking to
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that person, you could run around all day, you could go through anything just to get to that person. You would do whatever is possible to get to that moment of togetherness. Think about what it would be like if we lived life like were always falling in love. I have a motto I always say in class: Aggressively live life. A student helped me understand that the Latin root of the word aggressive means to move toward. So when I say I live aggressively, it means I go after the experience of living. When youre doing that youre open, your energy is unlimited, and you can do anything. Joyce was a student I met two years after she had suffered a horseback riding accident that nearly cost her her life. An experienced equestrienne who had grown up riding, Joyce was out on the trail by herself one day. She and her horse came to a hedge they had jumped many times before, but this day the footing on the other side was wet and slippery. As her horse landed, he stumbled and Joyce fell. But what happened in the next moment was worse: As he came to his feet, the horse tried to step away from Joyce, but instead his rear hoof hit her thigh, tearing through the skin, crushing her bone and cutting an artery. She was lucky someone came along and found her before she bled to death. Although it was a long, painful road to recovery, Joyce eventually was able to get back up on her horse. At rst it was just to sit while the animal walked around the ring, but eventually she felt strong enough to get back to her regular riding style. Yet, all of a sudden, fear caught up to herher hands would shake, her throat would constrict, she couldnt focus on anything but the terror of
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being injured again. She was facing uncontrolled fear and the more fearful she became, the more her horse sensed something was wrong and became fearful himself. The combined fears of the horse and rider were quickly creating a dangerous situation. Joyce came to me not because she thought Bukido would help her with fear, but because she wanted to do something that might help her improve her sense of balance. But one day she came to class and I could see she had been crying. Whats wrong? I asked. Im never going to be able to ride again, and that makes me feel like a part of myself is dying, she told me, obviously distraught. Just the way she said that made it clear to me that her love of horses and all the joy that had brought her was still stronger than her fear of being hurt. After some experimentation I developed for her an exercise called Fear Crusher, which I now use for all my students. It comes in two sections:
SECTION I: PRIDE DRILL

1. Write down a moment in your life when you felt you really accomplished something, large or small. It doesnt matter when it happenedit could have been when you were ve years old or just yesterday. Examples: landing a big account at work. Tying your shoes for the rst time as a child. Running your rst ten-mile race. Underneath that, write down as many things as you can about that moment that made it so special. Read back over what you have written. Take a moment to really see how those words look on paper.
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2. Write down all the things that you value about the idea of hitting your current target. This should include: what you imagine your life would be like after accomplishing it, how you will feel about yourself, and how it might alter the way others perceive you. Then, turn all of those things into one powerful, motivating sentence. My motivating sentence is often, Im doing what I want and I know what Im doing. I used it many times when the job called for me to do something like dive into pitch-black waters with a bomb strapped to my back. 3. Write down three things that happen to you when you are nervous or afraid. Examples: Do you start talking really fast? Does your stomach get tight? What are some of the things that you say to yourself? This is to help you recognize your dialogue and other telltale signs of fear when they approach. 4. Create an action trigger. This is a command that propels your mind and body into action. Examples: Go for it! Showtime!
SECTION II: MOVE THROUGH FEAR

1. Recognize your telltale signs of fear. In Joyces case, when she was riding she would start to hunch her shoulders and look down at the ground. She found herself saying things like, This is going to be bad, I could come off any second, and Oh no, this could scare my horse, hes crazy . . . 2. Recall the sense of accomplishment you wrote down in your Pride Drill. Feel it as if it were happening again. I had Joyce shut her eyes and imagine what it felt like the rst time she and her horse cleared a fence, how nice it was to be all dressed up
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in her riding clothes and have her horse groomed, and how good it felt to be handed a ribbon. Repeat your powerful motivating sentence three times slowly. Example: I love this because it proves that my instincts about the market are right. If I can do this I can do anything. Joyce would say to herself, I love my horse, I have been a rider all my life and I can keep on riding. Calmly and simply state what it is you are going to accomplish. Out loud if you can; rmly to yourself if others are pres-ent. Joyce didnt set a goal of riding in the Olympics, because thats not what mattered or what she was ultimately training for. Instead her goal was to connect with her horse and perform her basic routine to the best of her ability. So she said, I am going to ride today, hit my points, stay relaxed, and have fun. Take a deep breath, hold it, let it out. Pull your action trigger: Showtime! Go for it! Joyce would say, Lets do it! and then put her foot in the stirrup. Go!!!!!!!!! She who dares, wins. And I mean that literally: Although at rst it wasnt easy, Joyce dedicated herself to getting through and beyond her fear. After six months she competed in a small, local show and took home a blue ribbon. I thought about all the times it felt like me and my horse were the same creature and how it would feel like ying, she reported. Then I pulled my action trigger, Lets do it, and away we went! I do that every time I ride now. With practice this process will get easier, require less energy, and take less time. Like Joyce, youll eventually be able to do it all in seconds.
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ability. Unless fear is acknowledged as the problem it is, it will always lead you back to the same placeand there youll be, not understanding why the targets youve set up remain so hard to knock down. I am not interested in the idea that fear is good or bad, just like I am not interested in whether a problem is good or bad. What I am interested in, and whats important here, is that xating on or ignoring a problem leads to harder and more painful challenges down the road. It is a lot more benecial to focus on the target in front of you and draw the solution you want out of it in that moment. Ive provided you with a few tools to dissipate fear, but lets now begin to create a way of being that continually moves you through fear and beyond it toward your targets.
Chapter 3
Create an Action Mind-set
Act as though it were impossible to fail.

Winston Churchill
hat is an Action Mind-set? Its the state of mind you need to have in order to handle any situation. Its formed by the language we use to talk to ourselves, and even slight changes in the words we choose can have a signicant impact on our actions. Im going to give you an example of this. The more fully you participate in imagining this scene, the more youll get out of it.
Its getting dark, and youve just pulled into your driveway. Youre tired from a long, busy day at work. All you want to do when you get inside is kick your shoes off, relax on the sofa, and watch a little TV. You walk up to your front door, unlock it, and enter your house. After you have stepped inside you turn, close the door, and lock it. Its dark inside your entryway and you reach to ip on the light switch on the wall
Create an Action Mind-set near the window. By the moonlight shining in, you suddenly see a large man coming at you with a baseball bat in his hand. He wants to hurt you, so you get ready to defend yourself. Now you see him raise the bat and begin to swing. You throw your hand up and cover your face.
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Stop. How did that make you feel? Were you anxious? Was it painful to imagine? What happened to your arm? Did feelings of helplessness rise? Lets try it again.
Its getting dark, and youve just pulled into your driveway. Youre tired from a long, busy day at work. All you want to do when you get inside is kick your shoes off, relax on the sofa, and watch a little TV. You walk up to your front door, unlock it, and enter your house. After you have stepped inside you turn, close the door, and lock it. Its dark inside your entryway and you reach for the light switch on the wall near the window. By the moonlight shining in, you suddenly see a large man coming at you with a baseball bat in his hand. He wants to hurt you, so you decide to take him out. Now you see him raise the bat and begin to swing. You throw your hand up and bury your ngers in his eye. The bat falls from his hand. He yelps and stumbles to the ground.
Stop. Now, how does that make you feel?
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This is the Reactive versus Active Mind scenario I put my students through in the beginning of their training. If you are like each and every one of them, you found that in the second scenario you felt in controlyou might have even had the sensation of feeling physically larger. I teach this concept to Bukido students before they learn any physical moves. I come into the room, put my assistant instructor in front of them, and shout, Get ready to defend yourselves! without telling them how or what to do. The universal response is to jump backward, hunch the shoulders, and put hands in the air. The students who have previous martial arts experience might do this smoothly and calmly, the sixty-year-old banker might do it awkwardly, but all of them, without exception, physically retract in some way. Then I shout, Take him out! Immediately their body language changesthey are propelled forward, hands out, moving straight at the person in front of them. Even if they dont know what they are doing, they physically throw their bodies forward. Its like somebody just grabbed them by a rope and yanked them forward. One command freezes them, the other unleashes them. Its one of the most important things anybody walks away with from Bukido training. You can hear it until you go deaf, but the things you say to yourself really do make a difference in how you live. You can read it in a hundred magazines or books, but when you have a visceral experience of it, theres no arguing: Internal dialogue affects external performance. Let me take you back to my struggles with winter warfare training. The rst time I went down a slope all I could
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think was, I cant get my skis to work. If youre focused on being out of control, are you focused on being in control? Obviously not. I brought that thought into reality very quickly, because I gave my discipline away by thinking about being out of control. Also, I was afraid of looking stupidthat universal fear we talked about in the last chapter. Think about it. I had been in the martial arts for a long time, been a SEAL for a fair number of years. I felt pretty condent on my feet, pretty good with my balance. And then I got in a new environment, a completely alien environment, and I felt like an adolescent. I feared I would look dumb; my dialogue inside told me, These guys think Im a moron because I cant do this stuff. I kept feeding myself that dialogue, and, big surprise, I kept becoming that dialogue. The reality was the skis worked neit was me that wasnt working. Now that you recognize fear, Im going to give you a few tools that will help you intensely focus your thinking so that you can act effectively no matter what the situation. This two-pronged program creates an action-oriented thought process so that you can teach yourself to use commands that propel you into practical action. Just as the scenario above illustrates, you may act, but that action can be useless or, at worst, detrimental. Learn to move in a direction that will get you somewhere. Creating an Action Mind-set begins with understanding what I call verbal-inuence conditioning: Words inuence our minds and condition our actions. The words you use generate the direction in which you go mentally and physically. Verbal-inuence conditioning lets you take an aggressive and systematic approach to your self-talk that
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will get things done. It begins with knowing what words you habitually tell yourself, and what value you give them. We all respond to self-talk in a similar way. If Im six feet ve and weigh 335 pounds, play for the NFL, make $4 million a year, and say, Im worthless, I hate myself, I am going to start creating self-destructive behaviorlike drug or alcohol abuse, blowing off important appointments, mishandling money, cultivating friends in low placesjust exactly the same as if I were a ve feet two, 110-pound college girl whos saying those identical things to herself. Its just that college girls engaging in self-destructive behavior dont make for spectacular headlines or great segments on ESPN SportsCenter, so we often have the impression that somebody famous destroying his life is a unique phenomenon. But, in fact, its not. You have to become distinctly aware of the words you choose to say to yourself, and what verbal-inuence conditioning youre creating. Im no psychoanalyst, so I cant tell you how you started calling yourself smart, or fat, or good with your hands, or never good enoughor whatever, take your pick. But, I have discovered this for myself: The fact that we can change our feelings means we have power over them. And if this is true, it is also true that we have to understand that being in charge of our feelings means we cant blame them on anybody else. Start changing your feelings by challenging your assumptions about what you think of yourself. Whenever you hear that voice in the back of your head say, I cant, ask the questions: Where is the evidence that I cant? Is this literally true? Has anyone else been able to do this? In other words, dont believe everything you hear, even if you are the one doing the talking.
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One of the best lessons I ever had in this began as a friendly outing one night in Southeast Asia with a few of my SEAL teammates and a group of Korean ROK marines. We had just nished an amphibious landing that had involved a couple of long, cold, wet nights and some serious demolitions that created plumes of water reaching hundreds of feet in the air. We were kicking back at a beachfront baractually, it was a tiny shack with sand for a oor, bamboo for walls, and dried palm fronds for a ceiling. I swear, it looked like something out of Gilligans Island. Who knows how these things get started, but somehow the subject came up about the tough reputation Americans have, or think they have. Your president is a Hollywood cowboy, joked our Korean counterparts. You are all show. Think so? said Tony. He was smiling, but it didnt matter. Tony always looked mean. He was the kind of guy who had to duck and walk sideways through doorjambs because his shoulders wouldnt t. There werent a lot of people in this world who would, or could, tell Tony what to do. See this guy right here? Tony pointed in my direction, so I looked over my shoulder to see who he was pointing at. Nobody was there. It had to be me he was talking about. He walked over and put his hand on my shoulder. Mack can beat your best guy at arm wrestling. And he wont even break a sweat. I looked up at Tony and thought, Are you insane? What are you doing? But I would no sooner say that than I would jump in front of a moving trainunless the job called for it and I had practiced it a few times. The Koreans started laughing and raising their
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beers. To them I was the skinny little new guy in the corner, weighing in at maybe 165 pounds. I was the nice guy, the one who acted polite and learned to say please and thank you in their language. Thats a good one, they joked. Well bet you a round. Youre on, Tony said, a wide, knowing grin spreading across his face. I sat down on one of the wooden stools and over walks what I can only describe as the Hulk: 215 poundshuge for an average Koreanthick and solid as concrete. He smiled but it was more like a snarl. Let me put you out of your misery, shrimp, he saidor words to that effect. Tony leaned down and put his hand on the back of my neck, commanding my full and complete attention. Remember, he said slowly in low, even tones, you are a SEAL. I knew what he meant. He meant win. He meant that my actions represent the most elite corps created in the history of the American military. He meant every inch of my being had to be dedicated to excellence, to a level of supreme effort most people never demand of themselves. You are a SEAL equals a kind of armor. When you are in the heat of battle you dont feel the armor, but when you are just sitting around on a barstool on a beach with it on and you just want to relax, sometimes you think, This feels a little heavy today . . . I turned back around to the Hulk. We put our hands together. His palm was wider and it enveloped mine. I kept repeating, I am a SEAL to myself, then nally let the words escape my lips in a whisper. Go!
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And then it was on. I could feel the force of the Hulks arm bearing down. I pulled something up from inside me and before he even had time to blink, his hand was slammed down against the rough wood. He looked startled, then the look shifted to defeat. He knew hed have a lot of explaining to do to his corpsmates that night about how a scrawny American kid on his rst platoon managed to get the better of him. I wonder if he would have taken it better if hed realized it wasnt the puny Miami kid whod beaten him. It was the Navy SEAL in me who did it. I see the exact opposite happen with people all the time. Jake was severely injured in a motorcycle accident a few years ago, and as a consequence a few areas of his body are weaker than others. One shoulder was also dislocated, so it is structurally weaker than the other and his ankle was crushed, requiring extensive surgery. During one class he was in the middle of a target-training combination when he went for the eye strike to his training partner. Jake then was about to move in for the follow-up kick to the groin when I saw him hesitate and make a stutter step. I could see the second-guessing going on in his brain loud and clear, as if he had a billboard over his head. What happened? I asked. I could see you were thinking about something other than the target. I dont know, he said. I just got ustered. You were about to kick with your bad leg, right? Yes, he admitted. There are only three things that could be going on if you are not thinking about the target, I told him. You could be thinking about how much pain it will cause if you make contact with that leg. You could be worried that
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when you put your leg down after you have kicked him that you will lose your balance. Or, maybe you are not clear about what weapon you are trying to use. You forget where Im at, Richard, he replied. Major bones and ligaments were destroyed in my ankle. I am more or less walking around thanks to a bunch of titanium pins that hold my joint together. It became clear to me that his verbal-inuence conditioning was telling him Im injured, Im limited. We needed to replace the old conditioning with new conditioning that would allow Jake to see everything he could do rather than the few things he couldnt. I replied, I understand that. The physical mechanisms literally arent there for you to develop control, but lets use what you do have. You have to make your capabilities exceed your limitations. So instead of using the shin of his leg, he used his knee. He learned to swing his st as though he were bowling for the groin, and how he could stomp through a knee without overextending himself. He also learned how to strike targets from different angles while on the ground. Jake was now thinking about the things he could do, rather than dwelling on all the things that he could not. His self-talk was now moving in a productive way. Paul had a problem that was more subtle. Unlike Jake, who was injured in a motorcycle accident, he had no physical impairmentin fact, he was a natural athlete. In his rst lesson he picked up the physical discipline of Bukido with greater ease than almost anyone Ive taught. Paul was a smart person, a high school grad with a few years of community college to his credit. He was a talented artist with a real gift for special effects makeup, and
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that had always been his dream job. But at age thirty-four, he was still working in a job that paid just slightly more than minimum wage and lived in a tiny apartment with a long-standing girlfriend. Theyd been going out for nearly seven years but no one could understand why, since they rarely were heard to say a civil word to each other. I couldnt gure out what the deal was with Paul why did he choose to do so little when he had so much he could be doing with the artistic gift hed been given? So I started paying closer attention to the things Paul said in class. Sure enough, the same words kept coming out of his mouth, things like whatever, good enough, and no way. More than once I heard him talk about liking a new car, or admiring a beautiful woman at the gym, then hed add with a smirk and a shrug of his shoulders, Yeah, like that would ever happen. . . . They seemed like throwaway phrases in casual conversation, harmless habits of speech. In fact, they were much more than that: They indicated a verbal-inuence conditioning that said that no matter what, failure was inevitable, that what he had was all he was ever going to get, and that the fulllment of dreams only happened to other people. I hoped Paul would glean information from class that would help him understand the ways he sabotaged his own desires, but after a few classes Pauls attendance became irregular, and soon, like he had done with other things in his life, Paul just faded out before he could even see the simplest results from training. Some months later I ran into him in a mall. That was cool stuff I learned in your class, he offered after wed said our hellos.
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Yeah? Great, I said with a smile. So what are you up to? Well, there is somebody who was thinking about starting a makeup school and thought maybe I could teach something, but I dont think thats really going to pan out, he told me. My dad wants me to move back to Washington to work in his gravel business, so if things dont start taking off I could do that. . . . My girlfriend thinks I should get a degree and maybe do some paralegal work, but I dont know . . . What do you want to do, Paul? I asked. He shrugged. Im not sure. Sounds like you need to pick a target, I began, but I could see his gaze was already turning away. I patted him on the shoulder. Never mind, man. Great to see you. Good luck. I nd that it can be difcult to identify the verbalinuence conditioning thats working against you. To help ferret it out so you can transform it into something positive, I use this exercise: Your mission, should you choose to accept it: Keep a journal for three days straight, recording your thoughts throughout the day. Write down as much as you can. If you have to do this on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday when work pressures arent usually so intense, then do it. However, you will get your best results if you do this for three consecutive days during the week. The reason for this is simple: You face more challenges during the workweek than on the weekend. And remember to be ruthlessly honest with yourself. Write down the thoughts as they come to you. Dont edit them while you write them down. The only person you cheat by editing your thoughts is yourself.
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Dont give yourself an out. If you do, youll use it when things get tough! After you have completed this exercise, get two different color highlighter markers. Highlight, in one color, all of the negative verbal-inuence conditioning that you nd in your journal, then highlight all positive entries that you nd in the other color. This exercise, honestly completed, will show you not only what you think about yourself and your surroundings, but how you communicate with yourself. The quality of your internal dialogue determines the quality of your exterior performance. The challenge now is to take control of the dialogue you use with yourself. Every month do this exercise again to monitor your improvement or lack of improvement. Dont be too hard on yourselfyouve got a lifetime of conditioning to overcome. After all, it took twenty years for the rst episode of Star Wars to show up. To help you replace any unproductive verbal-inuence conditioning you might be carrying aroundand lets face it, everybody doesfeel free to use any one or all of the elements from Bukidos Code of the Warrior Spirit . Repeat this to yourself instead of habitual phrases you use that could be holding you back:
1. I will be responsible for my life and my actions. 2. I will concentrate all the energy of my body and mind on one specic target at a time. 3. I will develop the ability to remain calm and composed, for even in the worst situations I will nd opportunity. 4. I will spend my time wisely, for it is too precious a commodity to waste.
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5. I will continually challenge myself to learn by exposing myself to others with skills greater than my own. 6. I will develop patience in all things, for it is the essential quality of a powerful mind. 7. I will make my capabilities exceed my limitations.
After you get a handle on the verbal-inuence conditioning that underlies your behavior in general, you can most effectively use what in Bukido is known as the Verbal Command Request (or VCR). The Verbal Command Request is a command you give yourself or another person. It has to be structured in a way that will elicit a specic result. Nike has built one of the most successful advertising campaigns around a Verbal Command Request: Just Do It.
Action Mind-set: The process of recognizing and

moving beyond your fear to completely focus on the knowns. The process begins by understanding the words we use that inuence our thoughts and condition our actions.
Verbal Command Request: A command you use on yourself or another that is structured in a specic way to elicit a known result.
My understanding of this evolved from little phrases, mantras really, that would pump me up when the going got tough. On missions I would tell myself, I am going to
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get home if its the last thing I do on this planet. There were times when I was keenly aware of the fact that the only thing between me and certain death was a piece of equipment, or a buddy covering my back, and for those times what drove me and kept me on track was this loop that kept repeating in my head: I can only be defeated in two ways, if I give up or die. This brings the mind into the task that has to be accomplished, intensies the desire to make it a reality, and thus propels the body to action. I wrote that down in pencil on a little scrap of paper and carried it around so long that the words faded off the paper, but I still knew what they said. Later I discovered that by making a Verbal Command Request shorter you increase the imperativeness of the command, and that creates the driving intensity necessary to bring that action into existence even more quickly. The simpler the command, the easier it is to remember and the easier it is to recall under extreme stress. My brother, John, is the one who helped me realize this. I had just gotten out of the navy and he was asking me about my winter warfare experiences. I was telling him some of the mental games I played with myself to get through it. That kind of reminds me of when you were a kid, he said suddenly. Remember that thing you used to say? That I wanted to go out with each of Charlies Angels? I laughed. Still dreamin, huh? No, idiot, you used to say Pain to power, he replied. You remember that? We would get into ghts, I would hit you a few times, and you would start whispering this pain-to-power thing. I would start slugging you really good but nothing had any effect on
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you. Eventually you would punch me in the face, and if I was lucky, Mom would walk in and break it up. I remember thinking that nothing could hurt you. Well, in the last ten years I found a few things that could hurt . . . I joked, but I was already remembering what a powerful little phrase that was for me. Literally, it meant to me that for every punch that landed I got stronger from it, and meaner, and tougher. Pain meant I was still in the game, and had a chance to win. So I can only be defeated in two ways, if I give up or die was shortened to, Not dead, cant quit. That was the shorthand for the conversation I would have with myself: Are you dead yet? No. Then dont quit. The extreme nature of the command made things very clear-cut for me. Giving up then became a choice, and therefore instantly recognizable. That single statement allowed me to get through a decade of the most intense SEAL trainingand has effectively guided me through the rest of my life. For us in SEAL Team, work was only over once we were physically back home. The conventional wisdom said that the operation wasnt over until we were actually back in the showers at home. Up until that point, nothing could be taken for granted. When you are going toward your extraction point after you have taken out your primary target, you can get ambushed on the way home. Once back, when youre cleaning your gear, putting everything away so that you are set up for the next mission, you could have a loaded round in your weapon and accidentally shoot your-
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self or someone else through carelessness or lack of attention. There were times I was so dog-tired after a twentyhour day in the eld, I had to ght the call of sleep during that nal half hour it would take to clean my M14. It was a chore that I would have loved to have blown off were it not for the fact that my training drilled into me the fact that a professional doesnt quit until every task is complete. The It aint over until youre in the shower phrase the BUD/S instructors used instilled in all of us a sense of followthrough and hypervigilance. To keep myself awake and on track Id ask myself, Are you in the shower? In your everyday life you arentGod willinggoing to have a grenade launched or a semiautomatic round red at you, but if you have created your own VCR it can help you build a follow-through mentality so youll always know what direction you are headed in and develop the momentum that you need to follow through to the end objective. That momentum makes it possible for you to knock down the hurdles along the path that get in the way of your targets. One of my students is a perfect example. She comes from a rough-and-tumble family from the Allegheny Mountains of western Pennsylvania, and she herself is no shrinking violet. Shes now a successful screenwriter, but struggled for years to break into professional writing. She had so many rejection letters she used them as wallpaper in her guest bathroom! When I asked what kept her going through years of discouragement, she told me, Theres an expression in my family, Your grandmother was a Wilcox, and a Wilcox ghts. Old Grandma Wilcox was famous for raising six kids, ghting with the tax assessor
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and winning, and doing a whole bunch of other nearmythic feats. It means that no matter how rotten things get, you not only can keep going, you have to keep going, because thats the way youre made. I just kept telling myself, Grandma was a Wilcox. That family expression had turned into a powerful Verbal Command Request, demanding action even in the face of failure. You can structure specic physical actions, coordination, and movement all with a super-short VCR. We do this in Bukido. All the physical mechanics, particular weapons, locations in time and space, burning intensity, and complete commitment are driven solely by a target. That target is then given a label, and that label becomes a preloaded action trigger. For example, when I tell a student eyes after he has perfected the mechanics of an eye strike, the word unleashes him toward his target. I spend a lot of time developing every element of the strike, and for a while it requires detailed explanation every time the students do it, but as their skills increase I start saying less and less. A little time passes and I say even less. Then all I say is eyes. And eventually all they do is think it, and they can do everything. Likewise, the same idea applies to structuring specic mental connections and verbal communication, all with a super-short command. Heres an example of what I mean: Lets say you and your signicant other often have arguments over a particular subject. Perhaps you dont agree on political issues, so any time the news comes on you two end up in a spat over the presidents policy in China. The fact is you probably knew your partner had radically different views on politics before you deepened
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your relationshipso, ultimately, how he or she votes wasnt the most important issue in the relationship. Arguing about the presidents policy in China over the dinner table sure isnt going to change the policy and its certainly not going to bring the two of you any closer. When you nd yourself revving up to set them straight, stop for a second and think, Is hammering my point home worth sacricing the harmony of the moment? Create a Verbal Command Request like Harmony, or Chill to say to yourself. Make it something that will remind you that the target of this relationship is compatibility, and thereby soften your languageboth your body language and the words you say. For a Verbal Command Request to work, you need to be very specic about what you want it to accomplish. It has to bring back that same intensity every single time you use it. Try a couple out, nd the one that works the best. Remember, it only has to make sense to youGrandma was a Wilcox doesnt say much to me, but it certainly doesnt stop it from being a meaningful command to my screenwriting student that kept her writing even when she had no encouragement that her words would nd an audience. Youll nd that Verbal Command Requests not only work on yourself but can also work on other people as well. When I rst started teaching those rape prevention seminars to women, I was trying to design a command structure that appeared to be a request but in actuality was a command. If a woman orders an attacker to Go away, theres a chance it will iname him even further, and make him want to show her whos boss even more.
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However, if she says Please go away, even in the same harsh tone, it softens the command without taking away any of the imperativeness. You dont have to mean please, but because even the worst cretins are conditioned to the word please, we are more likely to hear the word please rst, then swallow easier what is commanded afterward. Please go away is then heard more as a request, but in fact it is not. This helps a woman draw a line in the sand so that if this man comes any closer, there is no doubt he is a threat, and she must act on her plan. Although I initially intended it for women, I have found that in civilian society, it works for everyone, men, women, young, old. I often ask students why they think one person ever attacks another person. I get all kinds of responses: Because he was locked in a closet as a child, or Because he is trying to intimidate someone else, or Because he wants what you have, or Because he has no other way to vent his aggression. They are all wrong. There is only one reason anybody ever attacks anybody elsewhether its on the street or in a bar or across the conference room table: Because they think they can. Period. Its just that simple. Their belief that they think they can gives them all the permission they need to start their attack. This has nothing to do with whether they have the skills or ability to see the attack through. One of my clients owns a computer hardware company, and she also happens to be a very attractive woman in her fortiesa detail I mention only because it seems to be an issue in the male-dominated world of technology. She tells the story of being on one business trip to negotiate a pur-
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chase of material used in the production of her product: She arrived a little early for a meeting and was alone with a buying agent for the other company, a low-level manager. After what seemed like a cordial greeting, the man, in the most condescending manner imaginable, proceeded to explain to her that the discussion would likely involve a lot of technical terms that might be too much for her to follow, and he implied he was the one who would be calling the shots, so to speak, on the particulars of the sale. What I got from his conversation was he thought since I was there early I was there to take notes for my boss, who had yet to arrive. He assumed I was an easy mark for his little power play, she tells. I cant even describe the look on his face when his boss walked in and told him I was not only the buyer and the president of the company, but the inventor of the product being manufactured! The man was not in a position to call the shots in this situation, but when he looked at this woman, he made a series of wrong assumptions and condescended to her simply because he thought he could. After you establish a Verbal Command Request, you have drawn a line in the sand. If the person crosses that, there is no doubt you are being attacked, a boundary has been crossed, and now you must act. Try it on a telemarketer and youll see what I mean: If a telemarketer calls and introduces himself, tell him, Sorry, not interested. If he keeps talking, say, Dont call me again. If he keeps talking, thats your cue to hang up. Its a simple plan, but the principles behind it work nearly every time you face an unsolicited confrontation. Remember to keep your com-
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mands short and in bite-size chunks. This keeps you focused on your agenda, not on theirs. Its the bad guys tendency to go after an easy mark. Remember, they chose you because they think they can take you. I mean, why does the old saying go You always hurt the one you love? Because you canusually without fear of a surprise reprisal. Sad, but true. Each time Id run into my neighbor, Jacob, he would spend a good ten minutes giving me the latest installment of a continuing drama at his work. The sous chef at a ritzy L.A. restaurant, Jacob felt picked on by the executive chef. We can be talking about something banal and, out of the blue, hell start attacking me, Jacob told me more than once. My question was always, What does he attack you about? Anything! It doesnt matter if its my responsibility or not. It can be about how fresh the salmon is, or the late bread delivery. Now at work I feel panicked all the time, never knowing when the chef is going to set off the next bomb! Despite Jacobs belief to the contrary, conicts dont arise out of nowhere. In my experience I have found that four elements precede any conict. Once you identify them, you can be aware of them, no matter how subtle or quickly they take place:
PRELUDE TO A CONFLICT
1. The Pitch: This is the rst moment you are confronted with a potential adversary. It can be direct or indirect.
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The direct pitch is something like a xed stare; he wants me to make a decision one way or another. Its a sizing up. It could be, You got a problem with me? Hey babe, you look good in those pants. Whats the time? Pitches should feel uncomfortablebut they dont always. The big thing with the pitch is to recognize whether it belongs or it doesnt belong. It might be the timing of the actions or words that seems off, or they might feel out of context for the conversation or the situation. Of the four factors, it can be the hardest to spot. From the way Jacob described his situation at work, it seemed that any time the chef didnt approach him with a direct orderin other words, when it just seemed like normal conversationthere was a pitch buried in his words. The chef seemed like the kind of person who didnt chat, but used seemingly idle conversation to nd something he could pick a ght about. 2. The Warning : The warning could be a supposedly friendly stranger insisting on helping a woman with her groceries: You dont want to do that, let me help you with those. It can be as blatant as, Im warning you, Ill knock your block off if you take that parking space. Warnings are usually transmitted by body language, such as a nger being pointed, one person closing the distance to the other person. In Jacobs case the chef would start to talk more quickly and his face would take on a hawkish quality. The warning serves two purposes, either to scare you off or pump up the aggressor so he can move to the next step of a conict, which is the standoff. 3. The Standoff : Think of this in the classic bar ght scenario: face to face, nose to nose, like two bucks going at it. The
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standoff with my girlfriend usually goes this way: Her: Okay, Okay, Fine. Be that way, or Me: Fine. Go for it. Do what youve got to do. For poor Jacob it usually went something like this: Chef: What did you just say? Jacob: Nothing. Its a point of tension that is the prelude to action. 4. Crossing the line : Something happens, and there will be repercussions. For Jacob it was always that his boss would start screaming, and he would be told to get the hell out.
One person is going to be the cause, the other one is going to be the effect. This is where the attacker pulls the woman into the car, or the boss takes credit for your idea at the staff meeting. Its the point where the little boy takes his ball home and wont play with the other kids, or the point where the right hook lands squarely on someones jaw. I designed this mental checklist so that I could control the destination of a conict to my advantage. Does it work all the time? Only if you dont get caught up in the dialogue of the moment. When you are more concerned with coming across as mean, or witty, or superior you become ensnared in the event, and you are not able to see it clearly. Jacob and I talked about these four elements during our neighborly talks. Understanding his bosss subtle clues helped Jacob keep his head down and work relatively untouched long enough to get another job and get the hell away from the volatile chef. He wasnt able to change the chef into a nice guy, but he was able to control himself (not this situation) so that the outcome of the chefs behavior affected him less. There might be times, though, when you want a Verbal Command Request to escalate the emotional level of a situ-
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ation. For instance, if youre in sales for a living, the chances are good you dont want to sit around all day with prospective clients shooting the breeze. You need to nd out if they are really committed to doing business, and if so, how much they are able to spend. In that case you will set up a series of Verbal Command Requests as markers for conversation. Lets take an example from my brother, John, who has worked in car dealerships. He has come to the conclusion that there are only two types of people who walk into a car business: shoppers and buyers. Its hard to turn a shopper into a car buyer, yet its very easy to turn off a buyer and make him a shopper! The target is selling a car, so when hes faced with prospective buyers John runs through a series of VCRs to direct the conversation: Is there a type of vehicle I can help you with? This may seem like just a friendly request, but what its actually doing is helping John establish their interest right off the bat, and asking them to actively engage his services. Immediately if the prospective buyer says, Im just looking, John knows instantly where he stands. Now John will approach him as a shopper. If the buyer says, I like this one here, John knows the person is here for a specic vehicle. How long have you been looking at a vehicle like this? From this response John gets quite a few indicators of the persons level of seriousness. If the prospective buyer says his friend has one exactly like it and loves it, that tells John the person is very serious. John now knows he is moving closer to rather than away from a sale. If the prospective buyer says he has been looking for three weeks at various models but likes this one the best, he just told
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John he is closer to purchase than he is to continuing his shopping. Either way, John might now suggest a test drive to strengthen the rapport with the prospective buyer. However, if he says he has been looking for three weeks and wants to do more research, John knows to approach him as someone who is not buying today but as someone whom he may see again later if he treats him right. That lets John know he should not spend a lot of time trying to wrap up a sale today. During the test drive, John will now use a third Verbal Command Request: When you bought your last car, what was that experience like? The answer to this gives John a clearer and better rapport with the person, and the information he needs to best handle working the negotiation process with the buyer. If the buyer says it was a great experience, John asks what made it that way. He now has a blueprint of how he, too, will conclude this negotiation. If the person reports a terrible previous experience, John knows what to avoid or to reduce the intensity of negotiation. Would you like to have a cup of coffee or a soda and look at the numbers? The buyers response will be the most telling in terms of how immediate the sale will be. It will tell John if they are interested in buying a car this minute or if they need a little more time. By using these VCRs, John uses his time efciently; instead of spending forty minutes to one hour with a customer who ultimately does not purchase, he now needs to invest only twenty minutes to determine whether a customer is a buyer or shopper. This way John visits with more customers per day, increasing his opportunities for commissions.
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From the responses to Verbal Command Requests like these, you can actively drive a prospective client in one direction or the other. The beauty of this is that you know what lies ahead in each direction. The client always feels he has the choice, but you have preselected the options. This severely limits your surprise along the way. Thinking reactively has an inherent quality of fear. People who think this way are always one step behind, trying to counter moves that have already taken place. Reactive thinking requires that you begin to think about what youre going to do and how youre going to do it only after an event has already begun to take place. How can you be anything but one step behind, scrambling to catch up, if someone else is already taking effective action and knows where they are going next? This is why in Bukido we say, It all comes down to who can cause chaos rst and capitalize on it. An action mind-set is one where all your knowledge is preloaded and just waiting for you to pull the trigger and go. Now lets move through the action mind-set using an example most everybody knows too wellthe process of nding a better job.
MOVING THROUGH THE ACTION MIND-SET

1. Pick your target. The target is based on parameters that you set. You may want a position that will pay you more money, provide a bigger challenge to your abilities, stimulating you to learn and improve, and either be closer to home so theres less of a commute, or offer more exible hours.
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2. Recognize your fear. You might doubt your abilities, feel that security at your old place may be jeopardized if you start looking for another post, even dread the prospect of having to meet new people and carve out a new niche for yourself. Theres an old saying that the devil we know is better than the devil we dont, and that applies to jobs, too. 3. Understand the verbal-inuence conditioning that works against your desire for a new and better position. Use the exercise on page 78. Once you recognize it, you can alter it to work for you. 4. Deploy a Verbal Command Request to put yourself in gear and get going. 5. Move through and beyond whatever fear comes up. Use the exercises from chapter 2 as a guide. 6. Completely focus on your known action. That means once you have dened exactly what it is youre supposed to do to knock down your target, do it. Check job listings, send out resums, contact friends to get the word outdo whatever it is you have to do. Let nothing get in the way.
We live in a world where we cant control everyone and everything, so as a result there are times when, no matter how effectively we employ an Action Mind-set, we are going to be caught in a position where we are forced to react. Take, for instance, interviewing for that new job, or for a promotion. In this situation, you will want to come across your best in an environment that is potentially stressful, and in the worst-case scenario, outright hostile. Youll have to stay exible and competent in an interview, even though you must react to a variety of different questions and conditions. Given that, here are seven Keys to
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Minimizing Reaction Time that SEALs are taught while training for counterterrorist operations:
SEVEN KEYS TO MINIMIZING REACTION TIME

1. Limit your responses. Dont try to do or say too much at one time. Keep your answers simple and to the point. 2. Simpler techniques are faster techniques. A high-pressure situation like a job interview is not the time to experiment. By keeping your answers simple and to the point, the interviewers nd your point easier to follow and faster to understand. 3. Practice your techniques (perfect practice makes for a performance you can rely on). Before your interview, practice answering some of the questions you believe they might ask. Simplify your answers to the best of your abilities, saying them over and over again so they sound smooth and automatic. Develop some specic questions of your own to ask the interviewer. 4. Position yourself so that your actions are natural, smooth, and efcient. The better prepared you are for your interview, the easier it will be to stay exible, open, and relaxed. 5. Remember, you can react later with a fast (simple) technique than earlier with a slow (complicated) technique. If you are asked a question in which you feel forced to react, take a moment to carefully consider what is being asked. Dont just blurt an answer out to ll the void of silence. If you do, you will most likely spend a considerable amount of time trying to explain what it is that you blurt-
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ed out and why. By taking a moment, you will be able to give an answer that is carefully considered in less time than the one that is blurted out and has to be explained. 6. Anticipate correctly and gain a little, anticipate incorrectly and lose a lot. The more information you can gather about the particular interviewing process, the better prepared you will be to handle yourself, the interviewers, and their questions. A little piece of good information can give you an edge in the interview. Bad or incorrect information can lead you to make numerous faulty assumptions that could cost you the position you seek. I can tell you in the military, good intelligence always works toward making an operation successful. 7. All reaction time is shortened with advance information. The more homework that you do before the interview, the easier and faster it will be for you to react to what is asked of you in the interview.
There is a formula that has been in use for thousands of years: cause and effect. The ancient Chinese general and philosopher Sun Tzu used it in 400 B.C., and it works better than ever today. The Action Mind-set is a life stance for going forward in the world in a way where you can act effectively, no matter whats in front of you. Remember that in a warriors mind, it is better to be the cause of an effect than to be an effect that was caused. If you take away only one idea from this chapter make it this: The quality and quantity of your internal dialogue determines the intensity and direction of your physical movement.
Chapter 4
The Four Critical Keys to Conquering Anything

Know your enemy and yourself, and in one thousand battles you will never be in peril. When you are ignorant of the enemy but know yourself, your chances of winning or losing are equal. If ignorant both of your enemy and of yourself, you are certain, in every battle, to be in peril.
Sun Tzu, The Art of War
want to tell you a story about my client Karen, the computer hardware manufacturer I mentioned in the previous chapter. A scientist with two Ph.Ds., Karen had invented a certain computer component designed to save money in the computer manufacturing process, while at the same time increasing the machines computing efciency. Excited by the breakthrough technology, a major electronics rm in Texas called for a meeting with her company to discuss the product. If they liked what they heard, the rm was prepared to set up an account that would mean more than $2 million for Karens company. The next Monday, Karen and two of her top managers were in a boardroom in Texas to present her product to the men from the rmtechnical representatives, purchasing managers, and a vice president. Karen enthu-
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siastically began to lay out the technical improvements inherent in her design. But something was terribly wrong. While they smiled at her politely, some were doodling on their notepads, some were holding their brows, some were even whispering among themselves. In short, they were doing everything but paying attention to what she had to say. When the men did have questions, they didnt ask her but rather directed their queries to her production manager, Peter. Karen initially felt a burst of anger. How dare they treat me this way, she fumed. Its the same old crap. They dont believe a woman can know this much about what they do! But she knew if this situation got away from her, so would a two-million-dollar account. She had to think of a way to turn this situation to her favor, because otherwise she was going down in ames. And fast. You understand that the target dictates the weapon and the weapon dictates the movement, that fear interferes with your decision of whether or not to go after those targets, and that we can create a mind-set to go beyond fear and indecision. The question now is, how do we actually get to that target, dream, goal, or ambition? By using exactly what Karen used to eventually walk away with that $2 million: the Four Critical Keys to Conquering Anything. The keys are: assess the situation; create a simple plan; take action; and evaluate your progress. You can remember them through the acronym ACTE. Karen took a minute to ask herself, What am I here to accomplish? Making these men treat me as an equal, or taking their account for $2 million?
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First she used a Verbal Command Request on herself to focus her energy: Get the account. Then she assessed the situation: She couldnt undo in one business meeting these ignorant mens attitudes about women they have obviously held for their entire lives. Nor could she force them to hear her opinion directly. In order to get through this hostile situation and come out on top, she created a simple plan: to subtly direct Peter to be the intermediate between her and the men at the meeting. If she cant guide the men, she can guide the person they are paying attention to. Then she can take action: She suggested a line of ideas for the discussion to follow, then said, Peter probably knows more about this than I do, so Ill let Peter run with it. Whenever she wanted input from the men from the rm, she directed it as a question through Peter. Peter, meanwhile, is a smart guy who quickly picked up on the strategy, having worked with Karen for many years and being a seasoned pro in the industry. Then, she evaluated the progress. Are the men now engaged in the process? Yes. They are asking questions, having put down their doodling and quit talking amongst themselves. They have started using phrases like, On this rst order . . . To survive this attack, Karen had to essentially change her role from being the head of the company to playing a support role. Is it fair? No. Did it work? Yes. She didnt have to like it, but she did it in this circumstance because it got results. On the battleeld, theres no room for ego. She did what she had to do for her company, its employees, and her future in the industry. She conquered
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their ignorance, walked away with the two-million-dollar contract, and bought herself a new Mercedes as a reward. Warfare is all about strategic thinking. Strategic thinking is more than just planning, its about gaining the greatest advantage and making the fewest mistakes. It takes into account all the many obstacles that can get in the way of you accomplishing what you want, and identies the various factors that move you toward what you want. I developed the Four Critical Keys to Conquering Anything that I now use to teach self-protection from a checklist used in the military called the Four Keys to a Successful Operation. The principles, however, apply to most any situation. (See chart on p. 103.) This thought process can be used for targets no matter what the size, no matter how complicated, how simple, how immediate, or far-reaching. Its application is universal. Once you understand the full extent of ACTE, it will, with practice, be available for you to use under even the most intense stress, no matter the scope or magnitude of your target. The rst element, Assess the situation, is like homework: The more thoroughly you complete it, the easier time youll have when test day comes around. The better you assess, the better, and more easily, everything else will fall into place. Assessing the situation begins with you making a choice. What are you going to tackle? I cant tell you how many people have said to me, Youre so lucky you know what you want to do in life. Its not luckGod didnt open the heavens one day and say, Hey, Richard, do this. All I did was choose one thing that I enjoy. I enjoy doing a lot
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Assess the situation: Solutions naturally evolve when you know what you are dealing with. Create a simple plan: A simple plan is easy to remember and easy to perform and leads to a faster result. Take action: The more direct your route in taking action, the quicker your result. Evaluate your progress: What happened? Have my plan and my actions created my desired results? If not, start over. Assess the situation again, create a simple plan, take action. In evaluating anything, the 100 Percent Rule should be your measuring stick: If it works 100 percent of the time, it stays. If it doesnt, x it. If you cant x it, get rid of it.
of different things, and I could have picked any one of them. Yet, I had to make a choice. It doesnt have to be the perfect thing, it just needs to be something to start your momentum, to fan the re inside you. Choosing something always leads to something else. Choosing nothing and choosing nothing is a choicealways leads nowhere. If you live passively, you are forcing yourself to live reactively. One choice, no matter how small, can save you from analysis paralysis, where you spend more time thinking about doing something than you spend actually doing it.
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Once you understand what it is you are going to focus on, you have to be able to understand your target in contextwhats all around it? There are a few systematic ways to assess that. It begins with observation. People use their eyes, but they rarely see whats happening in their world. One of the exercises I do in Bukido to teach how to assess whether a person presents a physical threat or not is to ask students, Whats the rst thing you should look at when a person approaches you? The eyes, they invariably say. I walk up to them. Right now, I tell them in a menacing voice, Im going to kick your butt with my eyes. And I give them the ercest stare that I have in my repertoire. For a split second theyre taken aback, then they realize nothing is happening and nothing will happen. I must be losing my touch, I say, still keeping the stare. It always works in the Mickey Spillane novels. . . . Then they learn the correct answer: the hands. Always look at a persons hands. The reason for that is if somebody has a knife or a gun, there is a 99.9 percent chance he or she will be carrying it in his hands. If his or her hands are empty, then I look at his approach to my action zone, a 3-and-a-half to 4-foot imaginary circle that surrounds my body. I can see if his or her hands are reaching for something, and if so, then I pick a target. Even in a nonlethal situation the hands are importantthey tell whether a person is anxious, or impatient, or smokes a lot, or is married, or works outside. You cant avoid using your hands, and as a result they give away more about our lives than were even conscious of. A scout/sniper is trained through a systematic
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process, so that instead of looking around haphazardly he doesnt miss anything. In Bukido I teach the same concepts used in sniper training through observation drills such as this: I take a student and face him toward the wall so he cant see whats going on behind him. I then take two quarters. I place one about six feet from him off to one side or other of his centerline. The other I put right next to the heel of his foot. While Im doing this I have him cover his ears, close his eyes, and make noises so he cant hear the quarters touch the ground. When Im done I tell him to open his eyes and turn around. Two quarters are on the ground, I say. If you can stay where you are and nd them, youre fty cents richer. I step off to one side of him, but I watch his eyes. He starts looking every which way, all over the place, then he sees the one six feet in front of him. Got one, he says. Good, but theres one more to go. Invariably, his eyes will dart everywhere againhell scan the ceiling, ask to see behind the door. He shifts his eyes all over the place, trying to see the whole room at one time with no set technique. Finally, I give him a clue by reminding him its on the oor. Frustrated, he looks at his feet and, surprise, theres the quarter. Too late, I tell him. If the quarters had been snakes, which one would have bit you? If they had been knives, which one would have stabbed you? If they had been men, which one would be more dangerous? And if they had been guns, which one wouldnt have missed? The message is clear and the impact immediate: The closest threat is the one you have to pick up rst, not last.
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It seems the human tendency is to look at everything as being out there without realizing that without the rst, closest step, nothing goes anywhere. Systematic observation begins by scanning from near to far, then from right to left. You have to do this like you are radar. Go in sweeping motions where you are covering yourself as you reach out to the farthest reaches of the room or your vision. Try it the next time youre looking for a womans earring, or your keys. Youll nd that in this way you can see things in a formatted order, allowing your brain to quickly register information, process it, and take action, if necessary. This is true whether youre facing a dozen armed assassins or if youre walking into the company Christmas partyfrom what I hear from my clients, the dynamics arent very different. The point is, with systematic observation you develop the habit of never missing anything and of making a ruthless evaluation of what truly exists. For me this has also been a metaphor for nding my path to a goal or dream. You must always start with the
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closest thing, and that is always going to be yourself. This is the thing you can have an immediate impact on. You need to be able to assess four major factors: What do I have? What do I need? What are my strengths? What are my weaknesses? Some weaknesses can be addressed, some weaknesses cant be, and so must just be taken into account when you are ready to create your plan. But before you get to that, there are a few more things to assess: No matter what your long-term goal is, short-term targets are in front of it. That means as you use the scanning process of observation, you must see the targets that are now in front of you. Some targets are there because the industry or government or boss says they have to be there; some we put in front of ourselves, like acquiring a new skill or developing a friendship or alliance. Once you have completed a CARVER matrix and prioritized your targets (see chapter 1), the target that is considered most valuable becomes your mission. A mission is comprised of primary and secondary targets. Lets say you have selected a mission. Now you must ask yourself, What specic targets will move me closer to accomplishing my mission? Once I have answered this question and laid out a series of targets, I now have to assess which of these targets is the closest to me. Which can I have an immediate impact on? These become my primaries. Targets that are farther away from me, that are more difcult to get to right now, become the secondaries. I rarely go beyond developing a secondary list of targets because a lot can change after I knock down some primaries. I want to be exible, and I dont want to overextend my resources while I am still in the process of assessing the value of a given group of targets.
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How do you use this in an everyday situation? Lets say youre self-employed and are concerned about your nances. Through the CARVER matrix youve decided that setting up a retirement fund is the rst thing you have to do to establish future nancial security. A retirement fund then becomes your mission. What are some of the things you need to accomplish your mission? Money, a place to put it, and a way to go about doing it. The problem is that these things are pretty vague and dont provide clear, measurable targets. What you need to do is dene a target that is right next to you that can either provide you with more information on how best to proceed, or that can move you directly toward the accomplishment of your mission.
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You know that a friend of yours has just set up an IRA (individual retirement account) and she understand the whole process. Because she is closest to you, talking to her will become your primary target. Having the money, a place to put it, and a way to go about doing it will become your secondary targets. This means that you will not focus on them until you have spoken to her. After you talk to her, you will then have some new targets to pursue. Be sure to organize these new targets in the same way: The closest or primary targets should be the rst you focus on. Once they are knocked down, then move on to the secondary targets that are farther away. With each target that you knock down, you will move closer and closer to the
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accomplishment of your mission: the setting up of a retirement account. Congratulations! Organizing things by primaries and secondaries helps you focus on what is right in front of you, like that quarter from the observation drill. Stress and confusion come from trying to focus on too many things at one time. They lead to feeling overwhelmed, which can greatly impede or shut down your progress. When you cut down the number of things you have to concentrate on, you increase the amount of focus you can bring to knocking down a clearly dened target. Environmental analysis is related to systematic observation. This is the point in training where my Bukido students dedicate some time to examining the environments where they work, play, and live. The goal of environmental analysis is to become really aware of what is normal and usual in their everyday life. What belongs in it? What is supposed to be here? This process was absolutely critical when I worked as an executive protection specialist thats a fancy term for bodyguard. If I dont know what really belongs, how will I know what doesnt? It is what doesnt belong, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant, that is my warning indicator that a problem might exist, or even that there could be the potential for a problem to arise. For goal setting, the question is, What in my environment is going to get in the way of me knocking down my established targets? Awareness training is the nal component needed for assessing the situation. More than just observing, it is the use of all your senses to solve problems. That means: 1) kinesthetically be aware of where you are in space, how
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your body moves; 2) stop waiting for your turn to talk and start really listening to people. And dont just listen to the people you think youre supposed to listen to. Listen to everybodyyou never know where your next piece of information will come from. Finally, dont forget that the nose knowsthe olfactory sense is the one most directly linked to memory. When SEALs were in country in Vietnam they would eat what the enemy ate, because if they did not the very smell of them eating American food would stand out in that environment. You will be surprised at what you can put together using all your senses in harmony. I often hear intuition talked about as if it were some kind of mystic phenomenon. I believe in intuition, in fact I rely on it, but I believe it is the result of using one if not all of your ve senses hearing, seeing, feeling, smelling, tastingto optimum effect, together with evaluated experience of past events. The synthesis of these together, which happens so quickly it is mostly unconscious, creates the sixth sense of intuition. You can have good or bad intuition. You can misread the input gathered from using your senses, and you can make a poor evaluation of your experiences, and youll come up with bad intuition. Good intuition results from the proper use of your senses plus careful and smart evaluation of experience. But, since intuition usually happens on such an unconscious level, the use of it is haphazard. Through rigorous awareness training, the senses are trained and intuition develops, rising to a conscious level. Thats when it truly becomes a sixth sense, something that can be readily and reliably called upon. In the media you often see intuition packaged with
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fear. Something told me there was something wrong about that guy, or I knew something was off but I didnt do anything. They are always statements made from a hindsight perspective. They show a systematic refusal to pay attention to something that their senses brought in not magic hocus-pocus senses, but things you see, hear, smell, and feel. Then they failed to put that together with good evaluation of the experience. Because they waited until they were in a state of fear to notice things, the tendency in most cases was to shut down and let somebody else take charge of them. Be like your cat or doguse your senses to be in the here and now of every moment. Another effect of awareness training is that it cultivates your curiosity. The bottom line is: Assume nothing, ask a lot of questions, and verify as much as you can. The second part of the acronymn ACTE is to Create a simple plan. You can be imaginative in your planning but if its not simple to execute, then redesign it. Or trash it. A plan should answer these three core questionsand if you do this, youll be way ahead of most people:
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1. How do I get there? 2. What do I do when I get there? 3. How do I get out of there?
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served as the special projects coordinator for SEAL Team Twos Intelligence Department, I realized that a to-do list was best when it mirrored the metabolic highs and lows we all experience in a day. When you wake up you have energy, but you have not reached the zenith yet. So, you warm up with the relatively critical targets that are accessible. I start each day with a list of primaries. To build momentum I usually begin with a few that have both a relatively high priority and can easily be knocked down, like working out and banking. As I gain strength and focus, I am ready to tackle the primaries that are the most critical, and I am also at my physical and mental peak of the day. Thats when I schedule client contacts, advanced classes, and critical business meetings outside of the company. The timing usually works well because the tendency is for the most critical targets not to be immediately accessiblefor instance, chances are Im not going to be able to meet with a video producer rst thing in the morning or after normal business hours. When I approach these primaries, I already have the momentum of success behind me, having knocked down the primaries I schedule daily. I save the primaries that are the most accessible, but the least critical, for the end so that I can wrap up on a successful note when my energy and focus are starting to lose their edge. This is when Ill oversee an evening class of beginning students (less physically demanding than advanced classes), return personal phone calls, or grocery shop. Once you have a plan, rehearse the most critical
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primary targets a few times. For me, its my business meetings and client contacts, because that is how my business grows. Doing this will prepare you for the moment you have to act. Marksmen often train using a technique called dry ring. Essentially, what they do is make the weapon completely safe, without ammunition, then work their techniques over and over again until a rm but relaxed grip, alignment of the front to rear sights, a steady trigger pull, and a visual sharpening of their focus on the front sight of the weapon becomes as automatic as breathing. Today, I dry re a meeting going over the points I want to make, what I will say, how I want it to go. Ultimately, your ability to create simple plans and take action is important because people dont pay you for hours that you work or for your education, per se. They pay you for the value you bring. The better your plan, the more valuable your actions are. Its just that simple. After my plan is in place comes the third part: I just Take action. Without action, everything else youve done up to this point is useless, a series of interesting mental exercises, nothing more. In SEAL Team, when we are doing combative swimmer operationswhich means we attack ships with bombs strapped to our backswe say, Plan your dive, then dive your plan. The theory is that you think more clearly in planning than you do under the stress of action. So the more you can act according to plan, the smoother everything runs. Its about staying focused and nishing what you know. Finally, Evaluate. What worked? What didnt? What can I do the same? What could I do differently next time?
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When you evaluate, you are teaching yourself how to ACTa ssess the situation, c reate a simple plan, and t ake action. You are grading yourself, and you have to be honest. If you did a crappy job, tell yourself that, but know that you can learn from a crappy job. What you are trying to do is learn how to get it right more often, not sit around beating yourself up over what youve done wrong. Fix what can be xed. If it cant be xed, try something else. In this way youll develop your Standard Operating Procedures, or SOPs. Once you start knocking down targets, youll recognize a pattern to the things that turn out right. This pattern can become the basis for your Standard Operating Procedure. For example, I understand that treating people with courtesy gets results. Courtesy then becomes an SOP. An SOP is a fail-safe process to get things done: Thoughts require energy. The more I condition a specic thought, the less energy it takes to bring that thought into reality. This produces faster results reliably. Its like loading a macro on your computer, where you program one key to perform the function it previously took ve separate keys in a certain sequence to produce the same result. A macro saves you time so you can get to the important work, which is thinking up new ideas and acting on them. While some targets fall down right away, others may take years. Dont stall out in the evaluation process. Take a deep breath, and start the ACTE cycle all over again. Thats how youll keep moving forward. It sometimes seems to me that life is a series of pop quizzes. The best tests of what you know come when you
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least expect them. This test came when our ofcer received orders for us to do a security test for the marines who guarded an air force communications installation in the Philippines. It was the mid-eighties, and the NPA (New Peoples Army), headquartered in Manila, were making a habit of sending small bands of sparrow units to capture or assassinate foreign and domestic military leaders. The NPA then used the hostages to strong-arm the government and leverage their way to legitimacy. This particular communications installation was headed by an air force lieutenant colonel, just the kind of leader the local terrorist groups were looking for. Tim, Rusty, and I were tapped for the assignment. Our job was to get into the windowless, one-story secured facility and somehow take the colonel hostage. We were supposed to press for three demands as conditions of his release: have our cause broadcast over the military satellite network, release one of our brothers in arms from the U.S. government, and secure safe passage for ourselves, which in our case would be SEAL SOP: Get back to the ocean. Once were there, we have the advantage over almost anyone. That was all the instruction we had, the rest would be up to us. We had to act as ruthlessly and unpredictably as real terrorists in order to give the best training to the marines. This was in the early days before terrorism had grown into the deep-rooted global threat that it is today, and dealing with terrorist tactics wasnt yet standard training for most branches of the military. SEAL Team was the exception, because our unit had actually been formed to out-Vietcong the Vietcong. The marines knew a test was coming, so once they
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heard the colonel was nabbed they would know not to use live ammunition. But this wasnt a run-of-the-mill drill they didnt know exactly what we were going to do, and they didnt know when wed strike. The three of us only had a few hours notice to prepare for this. It was my rst such operation, but I was looking forward to working with two pros like Tim and Rusty. First we had to assess the situation. We examined information on the surrounding area, familiarized ourselves with a blueprint of the building, and looked at maps of access roads. Our resources for the assignment were what we could carry: three weapons loaded with blanks and three backpacks with basic escape and evasion gear. Then, we created a simple plan. We didnt plan very far into the operation because there were too many unknownsour secondary targets might change once we saw where we were after our rst few targets were knocked down. We did know the operation overseers assumed we were going to be holed up in the building, and the marines were acting on the assumption that they were either going to peacefully negotiate us out of the building, or storm in and kill us. A few hours later, it was time to take action. We took a standard navy van from the garage pool, spray painted PWD (for Public Works Division) on the sides, and drove to the gates. Dressed in civilian coveralls with hard hats, we looked like general construction workers from the base. Tim smiled and waved at everybody and showed the guard a fake work request sheet. It was amazing how easy it was to get through simply by acting as if we had every right to be there.
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We pulled around to the side of the communications building and unloaded a bin with some toolboxes. It looked as if we were going to work on an electrical problem inside the building. Wed only thrown empty toolboxes on the top of the bin, under them, the bin was lled with our backpacks and weapons. The blueprint had told us exactly where the colonels ofce suite was located, so we just blithely strolled in. Tim knocked on the colonels door to see if he was inside. What is it? the colonel snapped, irritated at the interruption. Tim opened the door and the colonel stood up to see who would be so rude as to barge in without being announced. Rusty slipped past Tim, and before the colonel had a chance to grasp what was really going on, Rusty had a Beretta 92F-9mm pointed at his temple. I was right behind them, pushing the bin in through the door. Once in, I pushed it to one side and drew my weapon. Tim shut the door and walked to the colonel. I stayed at the door and covered the entrance. Please sit down, Colonel. I believe you are expecting us? Tim said. His tone was respectful but he couldnt help but be intimidating. He was the kind of guy who could have, and had, bitten a nose or ear off an enemy stupid enough to come after him. Yes, I was expecting you, but I thought this was going to happen a week ago, replied the colonel, who was himself no shrinking violet. You guys are late. Tim shrugged, still smiling. Well, sir, they only call us when it absolutely, positively has to be destroyed overnight.
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So how do you want to play this? the colonel said. The rst thing were going to do is clear the building of everybody except you, Tim told him. Whats the best way to do this without hurting any of your people? The idea was to proceed the way terrorists usually do. The colonel knew all this, and said the safest bet was for him just to call his second-in-charge and tell him to make everyone leave. The colonel looked at Rusty, who still held the gun. Does he have to point that thing at me the entire time? Tim nodded. Until the building is cleared. Within ten minutes the single-oor building was empty of all personnel. Rusty and I quickly secured all of the buildings doors by locking them from the inside. Now it was down to just three SEALs and one air force colonel. Back in the colonels ofce, we shed our PWD coveralls and put on our camouage. With the cammies on we could slip out and melt into the surrounding jungle, if or whenwe had to. We turned on the TV in the ofce to watch the satellite broadcast to see what, if anything, the military news was reporting about our surprise visit to the installation. Nothing yet. I turned down the volume. Wed no doubt be receiving a call from the security chief soon, but in the meanwhile Tim and Rusty doubled-checked our gear while I took out some neoprene rubber, tape, and fake blood wed brought along to underline the realism of the situation. I got busy making a couple of fake bloody ngers, just in case the marines needed a reminder of how dangerous and serious a terrorist situation would be. The phone nally rang. The captain of security for
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the marine task force was on the line. Tim handed me the list of demands. You should record this, Captain, I told him, and proceeded to read the three items we required. Each had to be met within a three-hour deadline. Call back in fteen minutes and report to us what youve done was the only thing I said as I hung up the phone. The three of us had until that phone call to assess what kind of a situation we had in front of us. Since we were not being monitored, and we had no way to get any more information than what wed come in with, we had to keep our plan as simple as possible. Fifteen minutes later, the phone rang. We havent been on TV, I said. Have our brothers in arms been released? I asked. Tim looked at me questioningly. I shook my head to tell him, no, none of the demands had been met. Do it, he said. We hadnt practiced this, but I knew what he meant. We hadnt prepared those fake ngers just to pass the time. I said over the receiver, Because of you the colonel has now lost a nger. If we dont hear from you in ve minutes, he loses another one. And I hung up. We had now accelerated the pace. There were only two doors from which the marine strike force could enter the building, the side and the front, both of which we locked from the inside. I hustled to get to the side door. Quickly but quietly I cracked the door, in time to see the back of a marines head. He was rst in front of a long line of troops ready to storm the door, but unfortunately, he was checking in back of him
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rather than watching the door. He turned back with a shocked look as I pitched a bloody rubber nger into his face. The rest of the marines backed up for a split second, just long enough for me to slam the door and lock it again. I could hear them forcing the door as I hurried back into the ofce where Tim and Rusty waited with the colonel. Theyre ready to enter, I said. If that door doesnt give in the next second or two, theyll be moving around to the other one, if theyre not already there. I guess well get to see what it looks like when marines storm in, the colonel said, settling back into his chair. Tim turned to look at him and said, Do you seriously think I am going to let them kill me? The colonel looked confused. But thats the exercise. Thats your exercise, sir, not mine, Tim told him. I could see Tim was thinking about what we might possibly be able to do next. All of this was happening more quickly than wed imagined. I know exactly how we can get out of here, Rusty said as he came back in from making a nal sweep around the ofces. Youre going to love this. Come with me. We took the colonel and followed Rusty down a hall and through a side door, which took us straight into a garage bay located in the back of the building. Not only that, two new camouage-painted trucks sat there, calling our names. Rusty jingled a set of keys he found hanging obviously on a hook. Ta da! Holy Mary, I said, I love this job. The competitive juices were owing nowthe marines wanted to get us, but we didnt want to be got.
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We loaded our packs into the back of the pickup and Rusty hopped in to keep everything from rolling around. Tim took the drivers seat, and I put the colonel in the middle of the passengers seat. I slid in with my Beretta drawn. Sorry about the nger, I joked with the colonel. Rusty pulled the bay door open and got in the back as we pulled away. We quickly drove toward the front entrance of the installation only to nd a marine vehicle at the gate, but the way it was parked gave us enough room to get by. However, the bigger problem was the marine standing in the middle of the road with his M16 drawn at us. Tim gunned the truck and headed right toward him. I dont even think his blood pressure increased, he looked as if he was just driving the kids to Sunday school. The marine realized just in the nick of time that Tim wasnt about to stop. He jumped out of the way, rolling in the dirt as we passed. The base was huge. We were headed out on a long road that would eventually take us off the base, if we could get that far. This was a straight stretch of road that seemed to reach all the way to the horizon. The colonel started to look a little nervousobviously nothing was going as he had anticipated. How are you doing? I asked. Its been a long time since Ive been able to play out of the ofce like this, he said with a tight smile. The look on his face seemed to be saying that he had taken for granted the fact that the security force would save him, and now they werent acting as he had assumed they would. As we raced from the base compound, we could see
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feet apart, moving across a wide-open eld like men searching for an avalanche victim. Finally they moved past us, and Tim gave us a hand signal to melt into the stream. As the current from the stream took us out to sea, the voices of the young marines yelling at one another rose over the sound of the water. Desperately they were trying to nd those damn SEALs. It stuck in my mind, underlining a point that would be reinforced again and again during my career: Its difcult to come back and win when you start from a reactive position, like those unfortunate marines. When the salt water hit us a few minutes later, that was the end of the game. Wed made it out to sea. On the beach to meet us were our SEAL controller, the captain of the marine security force, and the air force master sergeant who had overseen the operation. Everybody was quiet. Finally the air force sergeant stepped up. That was pretty informative, he said. Pretty informative indeed. We drove to the debrieng site; now it was time to evaluate. When we pulled up to the security building, all the marines and air force personnel involved with the exercise were standing out front. They had looks of surprise and amazement on their faces. They were astonished, as if some kind of miraculous event had taken place. Yet, all we had done was set up targets and knocked them down, one right after the other. If we had not known how to ACTE, the whole operation could have quickly become mired in confusion. But we did know how to implement strategic thinking, so for us what could have been an incredibly complicated operation became a simple series of processes: Assessing the situations, Creating simple plans, Taking action, and Evaluating the results.
Chapter 5
Master Your Weapons
The more I sweat in peace, the less I bleed in war.

SEAL Commandment
rust me on this: A weapon that jams in the heat of combat doesnt do you any goodand will most likely get you killed. Skills are your own private arsenal of weapons you deploy to hit your target. The better your weapons, the easier it is to hit your targets. The more skills you have, the more exible you are, and its that exibility that will ensure your victory. In Bukido training, once I have introduced you to the concept of targets, we talk about the weapons that best match those targets. We make sure that the weapons we use always damage the chosen target, not ourselves. Then we talk about the movement associated with those weapons. Students never use any weapon that is beyond their current skill level, because I dont want them to be preoccupied in the thick of battle with guess-
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ing which weapon is best. I want them to know. In the military they say, Master one weapon, dont try to master all of them. The reason for this is that once you have mastered one, then all weapons relate to the one you have mastered. In the beginning, students are limited in their weapon choice. But as time goes by and they master the weapons they have available, they nd they are very exible with those weapons. The following chart provides my beginning students with a checklist of basic weapons immediately at their disposal.
Beginning Students Weapons

Targets Eyes and Throat Nose, Eardrums, and Groin Groin, Nose, Throat, and Joints Groin, Nose, and Throat Head and Joints Weapons Fingertips Palms Knees Shins Heel Stomp
Although this is designed for use in hand-to-hand combat, the idea is that no matter what youre tackling, only give yourself a few things at the beginning to work on to avoid being overwhelmed. One of my students, Dana, just landed her rst teaching job out of college and reports that she used the chart from Bukido to organize her class. Heres one of her many versions of the chart:
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Weapons Lesson plans: Build around primaries, secondaries Homework: One page oral report, memorize one short poem a week Computer lab: computer company employee volunteered to do class visit Open house; calls home; class assignment to write story of an ancestor
The goal is really to go beyond thinking about the weapon and solely focus on the target. The targets position determines which weapon will be used, and how the weapon will be used. You work and train a weapon to such a degree it simply becomes an extension of your body. It is as much a part of you as are your ngers, eyes, lips, and tongue. The weapons require as little thought to perform their function as blinking. If I can operate ve different things that dont require a lot of energy, I can get a tremendous amount done. Think again about the example of the light switch: You dont have to think about your nger when you turn on a light switch. You barely think about the light switch itself. I learned this concept in association with the use of weapons like the M60 machine gun, the McMillan 86 sniper rie with a Leupold 10x scope, and a Tanto fulltang Cold-Steel knifebecause, lets face it, during the occasions you need to use those, you dont have time to
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think, Gee, how does this thing work? The principle, however, applies to the use of any skill or ability. I have a student who majored in French and lived in France, and as a result she speaks the language like a native. I studied French in the Special Forces Language School, but I just know the rudiments of the language. I asked her what it was like to speak uently. She shrugged, I dont think about it. If the person in front of me speaks French, thats what I use to get my point across. Her ability is her weapon, and the target is communication. Once you have walked through the paper-thin mist of fear, you have to have something to do on the other side. The answer to what you have to do is deploy your weapon. Without this task to focus on, the fear will return twice as strong. This is where training plays such a critical part in your performance. The way you train dictates the quality of your chosen action, how easy it will be for you to use your weapon, and thus how efciently you knock down your target. How you practice determines the quality of your performance in deploying a weapon. Perfect performances cant exist without perfect practice. The Training Pyramid is a systematic method that allows the progression of learning to occur naturally. This provides a way to acquire more weapons (i.e., skills) you dont already possess. My experiences in training for close-quarter battle honed my thinking about training in general, and introduced me to the ideas behind the Training Pyramid. Close-quarter battle essentially means clearing and securing rooms from terrorists who have taken hostages. In other words, we get rid of the bad guys. This is the most
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volatile situation imaginable: You have merely a fraction of a second to determine who are the tangos (terrorists) and who are the hostages. Not only that, its highly possible to shoot one of your own people, because a fulledged battle will be raging in a space that might be the size of a bedroom. Bullets travel through plasterboard and wood, and if the room is made from concrete or steel there is the danger of ricochet. Its not uncommon for explosives to go off before and during your entrance. How do we prepare to face this absolute chaos? Reduce the entire process down into distinct increments, second by second. Then, after everyone knows exactly where he is supposed to be, what he is supposed to do, and how he is supposed to move, all the pieces are slowly and gradually put back together. It is a dangerous piece of choreography. People have been shot and killed just in the training. The Training Pyramid ensures that in every step along the way skills are learned correctly and thoroughly developed, so you have them when you need them most. Before I go further in the discussion of the Training Pyramid, I want to give you a quick example of it: typing.
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The process of learning to typeor not learning to type!is exactly what Im talking about. First you have to familiarize yourself with the keyboard, exactly where all the letters, numbers, and symbols are placed. Then you have to learn how to position your hands so that you can strike the basic keys you need to learn rst. These are examples of the correct fundamentals. Next you have to concentrate to be able to physically move your ngers over the keyboard in a way that will produce legible words. To concentrate fully in the beginning, you need to fully, slowly focus on the fundamentals you were given. You repeat those concentrated movements over and over again to be able to be consistent, hitting the keys you want to hit, getting the same correct results over and over again. Assuming that you have applied the correct fundamentals, concentration, and consistency, you will nd that you are over time able to make fewer and fewer typos and look at the keyboard less and less. Now you are developing accuracy. Finally, as your typing gets more accurate until it feels like second nature, your speed will gradually and naturally increase. Over time you will nd you are able to type as fast as you talk! But if something breaks down in the processyou dont learn correct fundamentals, or you dont concentrate on what you learn, or you dont have the patience to practice often enough to develop consistencyyoull end up like me. A rotten typist. Correct fundamentals are the basics, the foundation on which everything rests. Every new skill has basics to it. Coaches talk about being in the zone, or ow, or just peak performance. It feels the same, no matter what youre doing: Theres a sense that you are controlling every-
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thing, a feeling of timelessness where action happens in slow motion, being hypersensitive to everything you are physically experiencing, and a belief that anything might be possible. But without correct fundamentals, achieving this state is impossible. If the fundamentals are learned incorrectly, performance will be inconsistent. Results will be slipshod at best. If you think you know what youre doing but perform inconsistently, the more youll be frustrated at your uneven performance. Sometimes this is why a beginner can beat an expert, because if the beginner only knows a little information but knows it correctly, he can focus on that to get results. Meanwhile the expert gets frustrated because he keeps telling himself, This shouldnt be happening. The expert tends to make things more complicated. My brother, John, is no Bjorn Borg, but he is a much better tennis player than I am. But when we play tennis, he tends to try the more difcult techniques, like slicing the ball to create top or bottom spin so that when the ball hits the ground or my racket, it jumps in an unexpected direction. Luckily for me, he is not an expert at this advanced stuff. He spends a lot of focus and energy trying to beat me using techniques that are fancy. I just concentrate on hitting the ball in a direction where he has to run to get it, or I hit it directly at him to force him to square up and volley the ball back to me. This basic technique can work for me for a complete game, or set, or maybe even a match. So sometimes I get to walk home the winner, but when he focuses on what he does best he wins. Because he has a better grasp of the fundamentals, when he leaves the fancy stuff alone and just sticks to those fundamentals he knows better than me, he beats me like a dirty rug. Thats why he wins most of the time.
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Concentration comes after the fundamentals have been clearly and completely dened. To fully sharpen your concentration you need four things to work in harmony. The rst is attention, the second alertness, the third focus, and the last control. This maximizes the energy you have to use to accomplish the given objective. The reason soldiers are called to attention in the military is so that they are physically placed into a state of alertness, ready to receive their next order. Now the group is completely alert to the possibilities involved in whatever theyre doing. Once they receive the order, they now have something to completely focus on. That is the reason a general can have control on the battleeld, because every soldier is focused completely on his task. But in this war, youre both the soldier and the general. You know youve achieved true concentration when everything but the correct fundamentals feels outside and away from your body. You and the thing you are doing are the only things that exist on the planet. In sniper training, they gave us a visualization tool that allowed us to develop laserlike concentration, called a sniper bubble. Let me backtrack for a moment here and reiterate that being a sniper means youre not some yahoo on top of a building taking potshots at innocent bystanders. You are a military instrument of surgical precision. You have to grasp a thousand factors that play into one shot, because there is no second shot. A sniper must take into consideration the wind variance, thermal activitythe way heat plays off the earthdistance, how the target is moving, the grain of a bullet, how fast his own heart is beating. You cannot spare one one-hundredth of a second on the ght last night
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with your girlfriend, or how hungry you are, or where you need to be next. You visualize a bubble around you that seals you off from the rest of the world, and the only things that matter are the things that happen within that bubble. It feels like there is a gradual shutting off of the outside world, a void opens up separating me from everything else. It creates two worlds: mine and the outside. In one the normal activity of everyday life continues. In the other, only me, my rie, my target, and my training remain. Then my world condenses, it comes in toward me. Everything in my world intensies. Whatever is connected to this rie is the only thing that existsthere are no bugs or sun or rain or mud. Sniper school is an intense course that runs seven days a week for nearly three months. It is a coveted school because it represents the ultimate in precision. To be a sniper means you are someone who reaches for a higher standard, someone with superior eld craft skills, a true
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professional even among the SEALs. When I was there, I had two things working against meone was a chief who didnt want to lose a man in the middle of a demanding workup for his platoon. The other was that I wore glasses, so I wasnt considered a likely candidate to make a good sniper. But because I had done a decent job on all of my assignments, my lieutenant and chief felt they needed to pay attention to my request. Once accepted into the school, I had to perform at the courses extremely high standard throughout the entire training, otherwise it was back to the platoon. Because they took a chance on the blind kid, if I failed, that cloud would stay with me for the rest of my SEAL career. But regardless of how hard you worked during the course or how much you wanted to be a sniper, to graduate it all came down to one single shot. My graduation rested on completing this operational exercise: Shoot a man who trains terrorists. According to the training brief, this was the only time we had ever been able to nail down his schedule. The brief also said that, if I miss this guy, it will spark a major-scale international incident. The target, I was told, wears body armor, so I had to be ready to make a head shot on a moving target at dusk. I related all this during my assignments mission brieng to a room full of people. Let me get this straight. Youre guaranteeing a head shot on a moving target at three hundred and fty yards? Theres no way youll make that shot. Youll go to the body, the warrant ofcer told me with a challenging smile on his face. No sir, I said. I cant. Hes wearing body armor.
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Well see, the warrant ofcer said, skeptically. On test day, my sniper buddy and I traveled ten miles to get to the underground bunker area where the target was. We had to stalk in slowly to our position, I had to make the shot right at dusk, sneak out of there, then rendezvous with the helicopter that would take us back to base camp. During the entire exercise, there would be instructors posing as the enemy out there in jeeps and on foot searching for us. Finally, we arrived at the position. I leaned into my rie. There was nothing but my brain, my eye, the rie, and the nger that would follow through on the trigger. Only bone supported my body in this position, no muscle was used. We got a two-minute warning. No problem, I thought. I pointed the crosshairs on the target. He was standing, giving orders. I closed my eyes. If my natural point of aim is right, when I open my eyes my focus should still be on him. I open them, and there he is. Piece of cake, I thought cockily. Thats when it happens. The bipod holding the rie in place ripped out of the berglass stock of my weapon because of the combined weight of the rie and the pressure of me leaning on it. Damn. There went my sniper bubble. What was I going to do? After all the things I had to do to get to sniper training, I could blow it because of this? I felt a tinge of panic. Then that switch in my head ipped on: Whats the rst step to x this? I asked myself. I brought myself to attention.
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In my bag I had a so-called eld expedient bipod, an incredibly high-speed piece of gearthree sticks whittled down to points on the bottom end and held together at the top with rope and rubber bands. Because a McMillan 86 sniper rie has a free-oating barrelmeaning nothing can touch the barrel because anything could alter the shotI couldnt just tie my contraption to the barrel. To do that would throw off all the instrumentation and precision of the weapon. So, I quickly rigged the bipod in a way that made it lock into position with rubber bands behind the barrel. By the time I nished that, I had less than forty seconds to make the shot. I took my position again. The bipod shifted again. I repositioned it, took my place, and it seemed to hold. Twenty seconds. I reacquired my target with my scope, but my heart was racing out of control. Because the rst shot had to count, all the anxiety I felt was related to the unknown. Could I make that rst shot? I decided I would go through the entire process of pulling off the shot, except I wouldnt put a round in the chamber. I dry red the weapon, repeating the process seven times. I had just ve seconds before the order to go would come. But I felt different now. The world had been shut out. In my mind I wasnt doing the shot for the rst time, I was just ring the weapon like I had been doing. It wasnt a fresh shot, just one precision shot in a series of precision shots I had already made. My buddy said, Zero. I loaded the weapon slowly,
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methodically. I rested in my natural point of aim. No wind. All I had to do was put the scope on the target. I could see the beat of my heart slightly raising the ries scope at even intervals. My breathing was smooth, slow, and deep. The only thing that was needed to set the whole chain in motion was a voice that would suddenly appear like a breeze, saying, Go! Myself, the weapon, and the target were all one. Then I heard it. Go! The terrorist moved from the truck to the bunker, and then stood for a moment to watch the others unloading the weapons. The second he stopped, I aimed for his nose. I took a breath, exhaled half of it out, then followed through with the trigger. The weapon surprised me when it went off. I caught a glimpse of his guthra, the traditional Arab headdress, ying up. Then my weapon fell off the improvised bipod, hitting the ground. I called the shot to my sniper buddy, telling him exactly where I thought the shot landed on the moving dummy that was my terrorist. A half minute left, I said, which meant a half inch left from the tip of his nose. Back at base camp, everyone who had been in the mission brieng came over to shake my hand. The warrant ofcer who had doubted the possibility of my getting the shot came up. I was impressed, he said, extending his hand. Even some guys on my team might not have made that shot. I said thank you, but I was thinking about the truly awesome intensity of concentration each of us has available to bring to bear when we shut out the outside world. It was this situation that led me to formulate the third
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statement from Bukidos Code of the Warrior Spirit: I will develop the ability to remain calm and composed, for even in the worst situations I will nd opportunity. Consistency is the by-product of using correct fundamentals and concentration over time. It works out like an equation: Correct fundamentals + Concentration = Consistency. It is about working toward getting something right every time you do it, because when you do it right once, you know its possible for that to be the rule rather than the exception. Accuracy means that you not only do it right every time, but you hit the bulls-eye. Accuracy cannot be argued with or denied. Well done is quickly done, said Augustus Caesar, meaning that if you do it right the rst time you dont waste time having to come back and x it. I ask students, Which is more important, speed or accuracy? A large percentage think speed is more important because thats what we hear all the timeGet rich quick, Lose weight now, Find answers fast. People are often beat by speed, or at least it appears that way. So, I give a little demonstration: I stand a student in front of me. I strike a menacing pose, and ick my ngers at their eyes so quickly they hardly have time to blink. It never fails to startle them. Then I say, Was that pretty fast? Yeah, I could barely see it, is the usual reply. Okay, I say, and as I do I smoothly, almost casually, reach up and stick my nger in their eye. Its not done quickly, but I use mechanics to take advantage of their natural blind spotyou cant see anything coming underneath your chin unless you are looking straight down. The
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result is, I always hit the target. My body was completely relaxed and they were not startled at all. At least not until my nger arrived in their eye. They rub their eye while I ask them again, Whats more important, speed or accuracy? Everyone then revises their answer: Accuracy. In a shooting school taught by championship marksman John Shaw, he would always remind us of a principle crucial to a good shooter. He said, Slow is fast. The importance of this concept is that it reminds you that smooth, deliberate movement is more successful than fast, jerky movement. It sets you up to understand that while speed impresses, accuracy killswhether its in combat, or in the courtroom, or on the court. Speed must always be tempered by accuracy. It doesnt matter how fast Michael Jordan is, if he doesnt make the basket, it doesnt matter. If you focus on accuracy, over time speed develops as a consequence. Accuracy is a focused progressionmeaning you have to consciously have it in your mind that you want to be accurate; speed, on the other hand, is a natural progression. You can only go as fast as you can be accurate. Sprinter Michael Johnson, who won two gold medals at the Atlanta Summer Games of the Olympics, is probably one of the fastest men to ever grace the planet. But Johnsons coaches dont yell, Run faster! Run faster! They break down and perfect every single stride, every single movement for ultimate economy of motion. Not a ngertip is out of place. Every stride must look like every other stride. For speed to really happen, you must be relaxed. The better your skill or knowledge, the easier it will be to relax.
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A beginner has a tendency to want to get it over with, to rush through things. But true speed comes when you least expect it, when you are focused on other things. When I teach the correct fundamentals in training, I actually make people move in slow motion. I do this primarily for two reasons. The rst is control. It forces the students to focus and develop the correct muscle memory and sense where their bodies are in time and space. The second is because in a threatening situation the world does seem to move like a slow-motion picture with the sound turned down. The reason for that is the bodys biochemical ight-or-ght responses are activatedendorphins pump through your system, your blood thickens, your heart and lungs speed up, even your eyesight becomes keener. When I have been faced with intense situations imagine ve guys surrounding you with your demise being the only thing on their mindsI drop into gear. What I do mentally is put the real world above me, and I drop below that real world into a primal state. I am in multiple attacker mode. I am not thinking. I am just letting the training do its work. It is beyond the static noise of everyday life, moving into a place where the world seems to disappear. I work systematically, one target at a time, one attacker at a time. If I destroy an arm, its only to get to a throat. If I am taken to the ground I remove the attackers eye or crack his larynx so that I can get to his eyes. If I see the attackers neck open I break it. I do whatever I have to do to get to the next attacker effectively and efciently. To be in this place, nothing must be wasted, you cant overextend yourself by spending too much time on any one thing. You cant afford to think you are overwhelmed,
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because if you do you are overwhelmed. And when that happens, youre dead. Literally. You often hear the expression giving it your all or giving 110 percent effort. I dont believe in thinking that way, or training that way. You cant put 110 percent into anything because its against the very laws of physics. You only have 100 percent, and I believe that the closer you push yourself to 100 percent, the closer you are to shutting your body down. You can run your car at top speed for a few seconds, but after that it starts to shake, and ultimately it falls apart. The more effective way to think is to aim for bringing all your skills to 80 percent of your maximum, in whatever you do. At this point you are able to think, to use your body to stay in balance and harmony, to ow rather than force. In sports performance, researchers call this the steady state, because your bodys systems are running at an efcient level: Lactic acid production has leveled off, the liver and kidneys have gotten rid of waste products, and oxygen delivery equals the metabolic demand for it. Hormones and other brain chemicals get released to erase sensations of pain and fatigue. To master your weapons means that you have the ability to act without having to think or reason. You just know. In a perfect world, you would have a great instructor to lead you through the process of the Training Pyramid. As a SEAL, I was fortunate to have worked for a government that could afford to comb the earth for the best knowledge and make it available to me, but rarely are we in situations like that. Most of the time you have to be the one to teach yourself, whether its on the job or learning a sport or trying to
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gure out how to build an addition onto your garage. These are some of the things I found that I have to remind myself of as I go through this imperfect real world, always trying to acquire new weapons to add to my arsenal of skills. Look for ways to learn the basics. Dont try to pick up an advanced book on any subject and expect to get it. Approach learning like a child learns to run. Expect to crawl for a little while, then to walk for a while. With time and patience youll be running before you know it.
Look for material that simply explains the basics and how they are executed. Break down what you are trying to learn into small, simpleto-understand, bite-size chunks. Dont try to learn it all at once; remember learning is something that requires a journey. Make sure that the information you have allows you to get the same measurable results over and over when you try it out. By learning the basics right, you are laying a foundation on which you will build all of your skills.
Never forget that you are a beginner, or, if you have experience, that you may have developed your abilities on an unstable foundation. Beginners get easily frustrated and discouraged because new skills or information can leave them feeling foolish and/or uncoordinated. Beginners always have one
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advantage in learning a completely new skill: they dont have to overcome bad habits. People with experience can easily become frustrated and discouraged because they are constantly ghting against old habits and their previous haphazard success. To them, change is uncomfortable. The older you get, the harder it is to pick up new skills and the less patience you have while trying to learn them. So many things get in the way of our learning. Sometimes it is past fears, bad habits, or just negative verbal-inuence conditioning. Theres a well-known story about Bruce Lee once telling a student with a lot of training and experience that he would have to unlearn everything he had learned and start over again. This caught the student by surprise, because the student had worked long and hard with many masters to develop his skills. Bruce Lee then told the student the story of a Japanese Zen master who had a university professor come to him to learn the way of Zen. The master could see that the professor was already full of his own knowledge and wanted to impress the master with it. While the master patiently listened to the professor demonstrate his knowledge, the master began pouring the professor a cup of tea. The master lled the cup but kept pouring anyway. The professor stopped talking and watched the Zen master while the tea poured across the table. The professor asked, Why do you continue to pour the tea? The cup is full. It cant hold anymore. Like this cup, the master said, you are full of your own opinions and speculations. How can I show you Zen unless you rst empty your cup? The point Bruce Lee was trying to make is that you have to let go of all your old habits and preconceived
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notions in order to be open to learning. Anything can be learned at any stage of life, if you are patient and persistent enough to see the process to the end. Know what type of learner you are. This is not about your IQ. The question is, how do you best respond to new information when it is presented to you, and how do you most easily take that information on board? Each of us responds to one of three general types of learning modes:
Visual learners: They need to watch demonstrations. They need to see in order to understand. Auditory learners: They want to hear detailed explanation. They want to understand every piece of the process. Kinesthetic learners: They want to do it over and over. They usually want to work it out themselves. They need to learn by feeling it.
We are all, to some degree, a combination of these three types. One type, however, tends to be the best and most comfortable way we take in the majority of our learning. When a person is confused he often provides the best clues to what type of a learner he is. As an instructor I listen for the way he structures his questions. A visual learner will say things like, I cant see how to do it. Im having a problem seeing it. An auditory learner might say, What youre saying to me just doesnt make sense. Maybe Im hearing it wrong. A kinesthetic learner will say, I cant feel this. My body doesnt know what its doing. When design-
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ing a program to teach yourself anything, try to include visual, auditory, and kinesthetic drills to cover your bases and increase your chances of grasping the new skill. Relish your victories. If you were learning from a good instructor, that person would constantly encourage success by getting you to completely refocus before having you demonstrate a particular skill again. This minimizes failure on the next attempt, constantly builds a momentum of success, and programs neurological memory, reducing failure and frustration. You have to do this for yourself: After a successful attempt at a new skill, relive the success by going over each thing you did right. Before you attempt to try your new skill again, take a moment to completely refocus yourself. This way you will have a much better chance of repeating your success. Remember, if you can do it once, you can do it again. Ask a lot of questions along the way. Questions are the key to knowledge and understanding. This may be a clich, its also the truth: There is no such thing as a stupid question. Acquiring a skill is a lot more important than the fear of looking stupid. If the material that you are learning does not come with a list of questions for you to test yourself, then develop your own. This may sound foolish, but by testing yourself you will quickly nd out if you really understand the material or are just going through the motions. Just by developing questions you are learning the material more thoroughly and developing better retention.

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By the way, these elements are also what you should look for in a great instructor. So if youre shelling out money to learn something from someone, a personal trainer, say, or a weekend business seminar, evaluate how well the instructor is doing by using this as the gold standard. What are we ultimately talking about with all this? Power in all that we do. Keep this in mind:
Power: (pou'er), n. 1. the ability to do or act; the capability of doing or accomplishing something.
(The Random House Dictionary of the English Language)
Power is not about how strong you are or how fast you can move. Speed and strength are assets, but they are not requirements. It is about developing and maximizing the power potential that is available within each of us. It is about bringing only the power that is necessary to knock down the chosen target. The scholastic logician of the fourteenth century, William of Occam, said it best: It is vain to do with more what can be done with fewer. Once you have honed your weapons and gathered your abilities, you are ready to rene your movement. There are six factors that you have to consider if you want to move your weapons in a powerful manner, using only what is necessary to knock down a given target. First you must have a purpose. Your purpose is the target you have in mind. You have to have a reason to move your weapon, otherwise its just movement for the sake of movement.
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Next, there is attention. As Ive noted, in the military they call us to attention so that we can be brought to full alertness. Your mind and body are now prepped for action. If you arent fully alert, you could move your weapon in a way that will hurt you or someone else. You may be a professionally trained stunt driver, but if you get behind the wheel and you are not paying attention, that may be the last time you get behind the wheel, or you could wreak havoc in your environment. Balance is another factor. Moving a weapon with balance means you can think more clearly by providing a view of the big picture. You do not give more weight to one area over another. In this way you move in equilibrium. After balance comes exibility. Balance leads to control, control leads to exibility. Flexibility is the ability to go from one point to another in the blink of an eye. Never be permanently set or locked in your thinking. A exible mind is always ready to seize opportunities, and drop one ineffective weapon for another of greater use. You wont get far without persistence: This comes from an undying belief in your own ability to eventually gure something out, to get something done. It is the knowing that you can get to the end. Finally, there is patience: This is the ability to stay relaxed and know that, eventually, something will open up and then you will seize that moment. A warrior develops from the mind out to the body; out from the body, to tools or skills just beyond his body, and from there out to the world itself. The warrior knows his mind is his ultimate weapon. The more he sharpens it, the more he can cut through the B.S.
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In SEAL Team, there is never a time when we are not training. You should constantly be in training for something, because you can never know anything too well on which your life depends. Thats the idea behind the Training Pyramidif you know how to start from a foundation and build up, you can learn anything in a way that will produce reliable skills. As you develop the warrior within you, you come to understand that the pursuit of that ideal is what life is all about. Its why you exist on this planet. The warrior never underestimates the value of training, because he/she never underestimates the challenges that will face him/her. If you wish to be a success in anything, you must be willing to get better at what it is you are committing all of your time and energy toward. One of the most important things I have ever heard about successful people is, Successful people do what unsuccessful people are unwilling to do. The simple fact is most people just dont want to train. Whether it is mental or physical training doesnt matterto them training just isnt that important. They nd ways to avoid it, condemn it, or barely get through it. Talented people lose that talent if they dont train; it is merely only a matter of time. Ask any great coach and they will tell you that games are won on the practice eld. Great training allows you to confront your fears, understand the dynamics that you will be dealing with, and allows you to get a sense of the rhythms and course of the action. If you have to get good at communicating an idea, get in front of people, serve them, and great things will
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happen. If you have to learn something new, talk to people with that knowledge, serve them, and study them. Pick up a book about the subject or research it on the Internet. Immerse yourself in the subject and you will be surprised by just how much you take on board. At the heart of great training is the intense desire to learn. Approach any target like this and you will knock that target down!
Chapter 6
Guarantee the Win
The ideal general wins the war before the battle is ever fought.
Sun Tzu
ometimes it feels like I never left the teams, because it seems I hear the term Navy SEALs every day. It feels like everybody and their brother says they were a SEAL, or they are selling a training system that trained the Navy SEALs. Good for themthe SEALs do comb the earth for the best training available, taking a little bit from that system, a little bit from this, because you never know where youre going to pick up the most useful information. But why does the association with Navy SEALs mean so much and have such marketing power? Because the name is synonymous with winning. What most people dont understand, though, is that we dont win because were a tough bunch of badasses were a tough bunch of badasses because we do our homework and refuse to quit. We dont train to ght, we train to win. We have a saying, Its easy to be hard, but its hard
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to be smart. Now Im going to tell you everything I believe is contained within that little axiom: Sometimes opportunity comes to you, but most of the time you have to move toward it. A SEAL never relies on luck or chance, because he knows that both can just as easily go in his opponents favor. The truth is that the best luck often follows the hardest work. Gather your abilities, then prepare to make opportunities for yourself. A SEAL has been taught to understand that there are consequences for every action. This is why he weighs his actions, so that he knows in advance whether the battle is worth the ght it will take to win it. The Advantage-Stacking Thought Process will help you do this. Advantage stacking is another strategic planning tool to organize many of the ideas weve talked about in the previous chapters. You want to stack so many of the advantages in your favor that, when the order comes, when the opportunity presents itself, you cant help but win. Every successful person, whether they realize it or not, stacks advantages. We never used this term in the teams, but this was what we were doing every minute of the day. Advantage stacking, put together with the Action Mind-set, builds an intensity of commitment to everything you do. It underlies the effectiveness and efciency of every given action you choose to take. Its about clearly demonstrating that you are able to defeat the enemy before the rst battle is ever fought. If you demonstrate complete superiority and absolute commitment to eliminating the threat of the enemy, a smart enemy will see that to wage war with you is complete folly. The enemy that is blind or ignorant, however, will still attempt to wage war
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with you. Let me give you an example: In executive protection, the bodyguard does not try to create a situation in which the person being protected is invulnerable. That would be a waste of time and effort, because complete safety is impossible. Everyone is vulnerable, to some degree. But a smart bodyguard will stack every possible advantage in his favor to make his protectee, or principal, so difcult a target that he or she is not worth the effort and the potential consequence the bad guy would have to suffer in order to succeed. This is called hardening the target. Advantage stacking is one more element that gives you the courage and condence to act because it promotes efcient and decisive action. Advantage stacking as a mind-set costs very little in effort, resources, and time when compared to the benets that you will reap when you act successfully. Advantage stacking really comes down to answering questions that make the difference between success and failure. I created the acronym ADVANTAGES as an easy checklist of questions that must be answered well in advance of the moment you need to act:
A D V A N T A G E S Attitude Desire Visualization Attention Necessity Timing Alliances Gear Emergency Skills
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The more advantages you stack in your favor, the more you show yourself and everyone else how badly you want to knock down the target. Lets go down the list: A: Attitude. Your attitude permeates your entire approach to life. What does it cost you to start from a point of thinking there are more things going for you than going against you? What a fantastic foundation to build your attitude upon. Albert Einstein is supposed to have said, Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character. A good attitude cant exist without basic self-esteem, because if you dont value yourself, how can you truly understand what it is to value anything or anybody else? Self-esteem cant exist without self-discipline. By that I dont mean you have to become a monk or a yogi; self-discipline begins by you alone taking responsibility for your actions. After you start creating true self-esteem, you inherently understand that others have value. And in understanding the value of others, you never, ever, underestimate or disrespect an adversary. Ask yourself, What attitude am I approaching this situation with? Am I treating everyone I come in contact with as playing an important role in the accomplishment of my chosen goal? If a situation is not going well, check your attitude. What effect is the way I am approaching this having on the experience? Remember that example from Hell Week. The situation was difcult, but just a slight shift in my attitude created by my forced smile changed the outcome. When I deal with people, this is the rst place I want to start. When I ignore the advantage a cando attitude brings, I usually pay dearly.
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D: Desire. How badly do you want it? Its got to provoke some feeling inside: Does it make your heart race? Or, does it bring you a feeling of peace? Do you feel exhilarated? I can remember how I felt after two weeks of plowing through snow and sleet with a ninety-six-pound pack strapped to my back, hearing the ice break off my body as I realized there was still twenty more miles of mountainous terrain to cover. The desire not to quit kept my feet moving. I didnt let the mountain beat me, I beat the mountain. Whatever the case may be, only go after that which you truly desire. Otherwise, the odds are good that you wont have the energy it takes to see it through to the end, because nothing is ever as easy as it looks. Setting yourself up for failure is the worst thing you can do, because it undermines your belief in yourself. For instance, dont start working out because you think you should lose weight, or because you read it in a magazine. Do it because it is going to create value in your life by allowing you to participate, function in the world with more endurance and power. Work inside out, rather than outside in. Think of desire as the rocket fuel that gets everything off the ground and propels you into places that have seemed otherwise unreachable. The desire not to quit has been my fuel for almost everything. V: Visualization. The more clearly I visualize the results, the closer it is to being accomplished. I literally would see little pictures of myself as being a SEAL, like diving under the water in full combat swimmer gear . . . but I hadnt done that yet. I knew I could do the job if I could make it
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through Hell Week and the rest of BUD/S, because I had already seen it. In Bukido we create this thing called the Mind Lab, where it is the students assignment to create an imaginary attacker. At rst its awkward; they have a hard time seeing that attacker, but we break it down so that one little piece of the picture at a time comes into focus. At rst it appears to them like still pictures in a photo album, but then I start asking them questions to ll in the details: How is the attackers arm moving? Where is this happening, in a house, on the street? Is he holding a weapon, and if so what does it look like? Eventually the pictures build into a slide show, then start moving as if in a lm, and then, nally, its almost a virtual reality experience, where the students feel they are in that environment face-to-face with the attacker. The students are eventually able to take their attacker and put him in any situation, in any environment, so that they are able to practice in the Mind Lab. Learning to see the relevant details allows you to anticipate correctly. Whenever I needed to absolutely relax when I was working in the teams, I would go to this mountain retreat I had created in my mind. In this mountain retreat there was a pristine lake, and it was always summertime at this mountain retreat. Id always go and sit down by the lake, which was calm and at. The air was cool but comfortable. I could feel the life of nature around me, but nothing would disturb this moment. I would take a small pebble, throw it in the lake, and watch the ripples until they disappeared and the lake was smooth as glass again. By the time I nished this mental image, my body would always be completely relaxed, my mind clear. I dont go there as
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much as I did because now I have other tools that are simpler and get results faster. I do visit it sometimes, but now all I need to do to achieve that calm is watch the ripples until they disappear. To create your own mental picture, start with your breath. In Bukido we have a combat commandment that says, I will always remember that breathing is the skill that keeps the mind calm and the body strong during adversity. Heres a simple visualization exercise that also can help you relax. You can do it standing up or sitting down, before a board meeting or before asking somebody out on a date: Take one Mississippi to breathe in. Feel the breath completely ll your lungs. See the air rushing into the lungs. Hold it for another one. Imagine all the tension in your body entering your lungs and mixing with the air you have just inhaled. Then, exhale out for one and with that outgoing breath will go all the tension in your body. At rst, take three Mississippis to complete the cycle, but the more often you do it youll nd the longer youll want to and be able to stretch out each part of the cycle. A: Attention. Bring your complete attention to what it is that you are doing. Remember, you can only solve one problem at a time. There is no way to solve all of your problems or difculties at the same time. Attention is not about the past or the future, it is about the moment youre living right now. N: Necessity. Dene what is absolutely necessary and do it to the best of your ability. Edit your actions so that you
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keep only what is absolutely necessary. Write them down so that you can have an objective list of what you need to do. Chances are, when you see it all written down, there will be a few things that are redundant. Cross them off. T: Timing. There are a few things to consider in regard to this. One is just about being on time: When conducting an ambush in SEAL Team, we are conditioned to understand that you can be several hours early but you cant afford to be one minute late. Another is about pacing yourself: Sometimes life requires you to sprint, other times it is an endurance event. Cross-train your mind so that you can be patient and exible. Timing is something that confuses many people. I break it up in two ways: There is time that is wasted and time that is spent. Wasted time is when youre moving and doing things where nothing gets accomplished. There are people who will waste your time, there are things and events that will do it, too. Our time on this planet is measured, not indenite. You have to make a decision about whether you want to waste time or spend time. Relaxing and enjoying yourself is not wasted time, even if it is spent watching a silly TV show that you really want to see. In Bukido, this concept of wasting time and spending time is talked about in terms of ratios. Because I was a sniper, the importance of one shot, one kill is conditioned in my mind as the most efcient use of time, resources, and energy. This means that all the time I spend to prepare and position myself to get to a specic target, no matter how long or laborious, is worth the single effort of pulling the trigger to get that single result of a target
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falling down. This means for every specic action I take, I get a specic result, always moving closer and closer to the end objective. We strive to make every move count toward knocking down a given target. A 1:1 ratio would be where I move once and seriously damage or cause chaos on the attacker. It is important to know that just because an attacker moves rst, it doesnt necessarily mean he strikes rst. If the attackers body has to move three times before he can damage a target on me (a 3:1 ratio), and I only have to move once with a very simple technique that causes a lot of damage to him (a 1:1 ratio), then I will strike rst. When an attacker moves earlier with a technique that is more complicated, no matter how dangerous his chosen attack might be, his strike will be slower because it takes more time to perform. This is the reason we say that you can react later with a fast (simple) technique than earlier with a slow (more complicated) technique. A fast, effective technique uses time much better then a slow, effective technique. So even if I move slightly later than the attacker, I am employing a technique that uses time more efciently. I will arrive at my target before he does. In SEAL Team we cannot afford to waste time on operations; to ensure this we schedule it, in some cases, down to the second. One of the tools we use to properly schedule each phase involved in a mission is called a Phase Diagram. The Phase Diagram allows us to clearly and independently see each phase of the mission and how it ows in relation to timed objectives. To properly construct a Phase Diagram, we start from the point at which the primary target has to be knocked down. From this
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point we rst work backward in time, including every detail that is involved and the time it takes to perform each detail. Once this is completed, it comes down to scheduling each phasefrom after you have knocked down the target until youre back home and safely in the shower. Any set time restrictions, difculties, and contingencies must be included within the ow chart of the Phase Diagram.(See p. 160.) A: Alliances. Do I have allies? If not, how do I get some? Alliances begin with you extending yourself. When I think about alliances I think about value for value: You need to give something in order to get, even if what you have to give is as simple as a thank-you. The military practically denes the term structure, but to exist within it, as with any huge system, you have to learn the difference between the strict ow chart of ofcial organization and the unofcial, personal system of how things actually get done. I learned to treat everyone with the same amount of dignity and courtesy, because in practical application, the le clerk often had as much ability to get something done as the ofcer. I try to develop alliances with my students: From me they learn Bukido, from them I often gain new clients, suggestions about how to improve my business, good books to read, even clothes to buy. A friend once said to me, Its not who you know, its who knows you. Why make adversaries when you can make allies? G: Gear. Do I have the appropriate equipment to get the job done? Gear in an everyday sense can mean your clothes, your computer, your caranything that serves
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Building a Phase Diagram

Begin constructing your Phase Diagram from the moment you need to hit your target.
Designated Target and Target Time
Build from your target to the starting point. S t a rt i ng Po in t

Planning and preparation Time it takes to arrive Arriving at target location Designated Target and Target Time
then Build from your target to the finishing point.

Designated Target and Target Time Departing from target location Time it takes to arrive home Safe in the shower
Build into each phase at least one contingency but no more than three. Be sure to pad some extra time into each phase as well. When opportunity is approaching you can afford to be early, but being one minute late could cost you everything.
Completed Phase Diagram

Planning and preparation Time it takes to arrive Arriving at target location Designated Target and Target Time Departing from target location Time it takes to arrive home Safe in the shower
Any phase that requires movement of some type must have at least two contingencies. Movement is where most plans run into the greatest problems.
to facilitate your actions. Any gear you have should be appropriate for the environment in which youre using it. More complicated is not necessarily better. Anything with a lot of parts has that much more that can go wrong with
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it. Use what you need, and forget the bells and whistles theyre usually nothing more than distractions anyway. Gear is an important idea that too often gets neglected take care of your gear so that your gear takes care of you. E: Emergency. If you dont have a backup in case things go wrong, you dont have a plan, period. What are you going to do, and how much do you have to do, to salvage the situation if it doesnt proceed as you envision it? At the very least, how are you going to make a safe exit? S: Skills. As we talked about in the last chapter, acquiring new and better skills is a lifelong process. But in planning for the short term, you need to ask: Do I need new or better skills before I can tackle this, or will what I have now get me through? Assessing the situation ruthlessly will tell you where your skill level is. If I dont have the time or money to acquire new skills, I check my alliances to see if they can provide what I need. The better my skills, the more effective my actions. Advantage stacking might begin as something you write down as a part of planning for how youll knock down a target, but the more you use it youll see that it becomes a general attitude, a way to approach life. The ADVANTAGES checklist is not only a part of everything I do in my business, it helped me get my business off the ground. In the not-too-distant past I had to present the idea of the Bukido Institute to three businessmen who had the means to make it possible for me to knock down the target. If they didnt buy the concept, I would be another two years
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away from my target. This is what I used to prepare for the meetingand since youre reading this book right now, you already know the ending: Demonstrate absolute enthusiasm and condence in the concept of having a central place where people can come to learn this system I have developed. What I have developed can be useful to people and can improve their safety, mental health, and life in general.
Desire: Do I really want this institute? Yes. Would I rather be doing something, anything else? No. Be prepared to demonstrate this desire in every action that I take. Visualization: Attitude:
I see myself in a shirt that has the Bukido logo. I am teaching a small group of students who are intently focused on the lesson of the day. The room is clean, mirrors line the side, mats are placed throughout. Punching bags hang in one corner. I imagine seeing myself interviewed in magazines, returning phone calls from people interested in Bukido, having a checking account with the corporate name on it.
There are a few other projects in the wings but I wont pursue them now because to do so would dilute my focus. My complete attention has to be focused on this target.
Necessity:
Attention:
Do I really need to have a place? Yes. Without it I dont have the credibility I need to knock down the secondary targets I have lined up behind it. Do I really need
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this meeting or can I do it some other way? No. An in-theesh presentation will make an impression they wont be able to pass up. Has there been enough demand to warrant growing my business? Yes. Is this the right time to meet with the investors? Have they lost money recently on a similar idea? No indication of that. Is a morning meeting the best? Yes. If they like what they hear the meeting can maybe extend over into lunch. The more time I have, the better. Can I perform reliably right now? Yes. Have other friends in business look over the proposal for potential problems. Ask students for their testimonials to put in the proposal. Establish a good rapport with the club where I want to rent space. When I get to their ofces for the meeting, be kind and courteous to everyone I meet. Treat everyone as a potential ally. Do I have the proposal well organized with diagrams, sales gures, competing business information, etc.? Is more information readily available? Yes. Do I have a suit that makes me look like a man who can handle money? Yes. What happens if I get shot down before I can even make my case? What will I say as I exit? Can I make do with what I have going now until another opportunity comes along, or do I need to look for another venture?
Skills: Emergency: Gear: Alliances: Timing:
Can I effectively present the proposal or do I need to practice my pitch? I can present it. Ive practiced to the
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point where I could present the thing backward. Would it be worthwhile to have others chime in? No. Do I know how to be a good instructor and promote business? Is the Pope Catholic? It may seem simple, but the attitude of stacking advantages in my favor has gotten me through some of the most complicated, and dangerous, things I have ever had to face. Everything you have learned so far has ultimately been about stacking advantages in your favor. But I want you to really be condent that these principles work, even under the most physically stressful conditions, when lives are really on the line. This was the environment they were born out of, where they were tested and honed. Now Im going to take you on a SEAL mission so you can see all the principles of this book put into action. Are you up for it? Lets go. The mission appears, at face value, to be straightforward. Our mission will be to take black-and-white photos of a hangar. Except, that means the hangar is located in a place where pictures cant be taken by either aerial photography or satellites. And lets just say that also means there are a lot of not-so-nice people dead set against us seeing whats inside that particular hangar. So if were going to get a shot of it, we have to do it in the pitch black of night. Im the point man in our squad, but because I am also the intelligence representative and I have been trained in extreme night photography, Im also charged with the duty of bringing an image out of complete blackness. Meaning, Im supposed to capture an image I cant see.
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The seven of us on this operation are ying at night in a huge C130 Galaxy aircraft. Camouage uniforms cover our wet suits, over which we each wear a static line parachute with a belly reserve. Diving ns are taped to my shins, just as they are to everybody elses. I see my teammates by the glow of red lights that run across the inside top of the aircrafts bulkhead. It is dark but I can see that some guys are napping while others are keeping their thoughts busy. Maybe theyre thinking about the mission, or about their loved ones, or maybe just about the pizza theyre going to devour when we get back. I look into the belly of the plane and see two inatable black boats, called combat rubber raiding crafts, placed on top of each other. They then are tied onto a 1,500-pound wooden platform loaded with sandbags so the boats will fall at through the air and land upright in the water. Inside the boats are engines, weapons, and backpacks, everything we need to get the op started right. The whole package is then connected to a gigantic G-12 parachute. Completed it is called a stacked rubber duck. The chief petty ofcer stands up; before he became a chief they used to call him Boats because he is the epitome of a sailorick his ears and salt comes off. He smacks each of us on the head to get us to attention as he moves to the rear of the aircraft to check the Duck. Five minutes! he yells while lifting up his right hand to give us a visualfour ngers and a thumb. He proceeds to examine the duck one last time. Butteries utter in the stomach; the signal that fear is creeping up. Im in fact getting ready to hurl my body out of this plane as it cruises 1,200 feet above the ground,
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just enough space for the parachutes to open. I use my standard Verbal Command Request for these situations: I know what Im doing. I want to be here. A large ramp in the back starts to drop; we can hear the hydraulic motors of the C130s ramp drop down. The red light in the back of the aircraft next to the rear exit comes on. I can see moonlight shining on the black water. The chief yells, Hook up! while giving us the appropriate hand signal. We click the metal hooks of our static lines onto a thick wire cable, then stick a pin into a tiny hole that locks the hook on the cable. Chief taps his head, the cue to check your equipment. We do a quick inspection. I check my buddy in front to make sure his lines are in proper place and there is no gear hanging off of him that could lead to any kind of a malfunction. My buddy behind me does the same for me. Were ready to jump. Chief looks back and yells, Two minutes! with two ngers appropriately raised. We respond, and each show our two ngers to the man in front and the man behind us. We start to tighten our stick, a straight formation. I watch the other guys running malfunctions checks. Chief sticks his head out of the ramp to make sure were on course, throwing out a streamer to check the wind. The skin on his face ripples from the force of 130-knot winds. He looks back and smiles. We are going. He stands up, steps to the rear, hooks up his static line. He taps the guy in front to let him know he is all set, and like dominos the taps run all the way up to me, the one in front. I inch up closer to the duck; the stick tightens again, the light turns green. Chief reaches over and pulls the quick release on the duck.
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It takes off. I move out to be right next to it. The stick follows quickly, because if we dont stay close to the duck, we wont be anywhere near it when it hits the water. As the parachute on the duck comes out, I jump into blackness, immediately getting into a tight, tucked, parachute body position, so that 130-mile-an-hour winds dont just toss me and tangle the chute. One-one thousand, twoone thousand, three-one thousand, four The chute bursts open. The leg straps that run along the sides of my groin jerk together as my body comes to an instant halt. The pain that is caused is a welcome relief, there is no doubt that the chute has been deployed. I look up to check my canopy to make sure the chute is good. Then . . . wheres the duck? There it is. I look right and left, and count the parachutes. Six, plus me, means we are all here. My job is to get to the duck rst and cut the rigging that will set them free. But I cant think about that yet because thats my secondary target. My primary target is hitting the water. I undo the belly band on my reserve chute and unlatch the left side of my reserve. I swing it away from me to the right. I reach up and unclip my chest strap. I do this so that I dont get tangled up in the harness of the parachute when I enter the water. Now the only two things holding me into this parachute as I fall from the sky are the two leg straps clipped on my hips. I undo the quick releases on my ns and slide them over my boots. My ns are on; a thought ashes over my mind: Got to get the boats set up quick so we can set up the navigation compasses and minimize the drift in the ocean. But I cant think about that right now.
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First things rst. Land in the water. There are maybe fty feet left. I am right next to the duck. So far so good. At ten feet, I unclip my leg straps, then fall into the ocean. The cold shocks my body and makes me catch my breath. Ive go to focus on the target in front of me. I look around to make sure that I am clear of the parachute in the water. Ive got to get the chute gathered together and let it sink so nobody else gets tied in itand so nobody else ever nds it. I swim quickly to the duck. The current is a little swifter than I thought; got to get the next phase done quickly. I hear someone swimming up next to me; I know its one of my guys. My swim buddy and I climb onto the duck. I look for the donut, the piece where the two boats can be tied together. I have to do this with no lights and go by feel alone. I know what to do because Ive rehearsed it so many times with my eyes closed. I pull my knife out, the only one that is pulled out during this entire procedure. This is our Standard Operating Procedure. Two knives would be faster, but that also doubles the chance that one of the boats could be accidentally punctured. I reach for the donut. Cutting lines, I say, warning everyone that theres the danger of cutting lines under tension. I slice it. The lines snap away. My swim buddy nds the other donut when that gets cut, the wooden pallet will drop away. Clear pallet, I say, and I cut the last donut. Half the pallet slides away while the other half of it is still tied to the boat. Whats going on? What happened?
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I have to nd out why. At this point, if someone gets tied up in those loose nylon lines and the pallet comes loose, they could get dragged underwater. This has to be xed now. I am also painfully aware that the current is pulling us off course. Chief swims over to ask me whats taking so long except, he doesnt say it like that. Give me two seconds, I reply. I close my eyes. I reach one hand to the side of the boat, trying to nd where the line is tied. There is a tight stressed line wrapped around some others. I reach down. It leads into the water; I know this is the one holding the pallet up. Clear line! Nylon line under stress dictates the weapon: knife. The weapon dictates the movement: Turn the knife edge so that the line can be cut in a motion that goes away from the rubber boat. I protect my face from the tension in the line as I cut it with my knife. The pallet drops and disappears in the water. Three targets down, 150 more already lined up. We have a thirty-mile transit in the ocean with twelve ve-gallon gasoline bladders. More than enough gas to get us where we need to go. Advantage stacking. That doesnt leave much room for gear. Good thing this is a reconnaissance mission. If it was a direct-action mission meaning, if we had to destroy somethingwed need a lot more gear. We have to be out of here by sunrise. We have to make it back to a submarine ten miles out, or well be making the evening news. We are ten minutes behind schedule, according to the phase diagram we built during our planning. We have
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seven hours left to get this op done. No mission ever goes as perfectly as planned. The secret is to plan thoroughly so that you can perform reliably. Effectiveness rst, efciency second. My intuition radar is going offI need to make the course correction in my head, because I just feel in my gut that our satellite navigation system is off by a hair. I navigated us onto beaches for years before we ever got these electronic navigation aids. They are helpful in doublechecking the route, but I dont rely on them exclusively. I check my compass bearing and nd out my intuition was right. Were off. Chief and the lieutenant are not happy with whats going on, their faces show concern. Whenever they rely on one of their men to take charge, they put a lot on the line. Sometimes it is their careers, and sometimes it is the very lives of their men. But while its difcult for them to rely on an enlisted man, they know that the small size of our unit means they have to trust the man with the best experience. The man that has their trust better not screw up. One screwup will destroy a thousand at-a-boys. I have an idea, I say. You better be right, the chief says. No problem, I say, but Im not feeling absolutely convinced. I rely on my senses and good experience: I make the course correction. The primary target that is now solely on my mind is getting to the beach on the right spot. Nothing else matters. The right spot on the beach offers cover for us to conceal our movement to the next target. We also dont
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want the ocean to crash us into the rocks. This operation becomes ten times more difcult if we dont get to the right point on the beach. The weather is good and we make up ten minutes. The Frog Godpassed down from the combat demolition units in WW II, known as Frogmen, the grandfathers of the SEALsmust be with us. Two guys bring us just outside of the surf zone and stay in the boats as ve of us swim 700 yards to the beach with our gear. That water is cold. I think about the camera. Has any water gotten into the camera case? Did I put the silicone lubrication on the seals of the camera case? I know I did. I better have. I cant think about the possibility of failure right now. Attitude. What Ive got to think about is the weather. Frog God was nice to give us good weather to get onto the beach, but guess what? Good weather makes the beach and brush very dry. Not good for sneaking. Getting to the hangar might take some time. We might lose again the ten minutes we just made up. We may even lose hours. Five guys moving through dry brush sounds like a heard of wild elephants stampeding. Lieutenant knows this. He quickly assesses the situation after we travel 500 yards into the hinterland, that area just beyond the beach. The lieutenant powwows with me and the chief and creates a simple plan. A tough decision is made: Lieutenant does not want to split up the men, but we cant move fast enough with ve guys. It comes down to me and the lieutenant. Bad for us if we make a mistake. This is much more dangerous for us, but overall the men are safer because we can now move more smoothly and
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stealthily. This is not what we planned. We just reduced our repower by more than half but increased our chances to complete the mission successfully. Assess the situation. Create a simple plan. Take action. Evaluate your progress. Chief is not happy. Lieutenant and I take off. Take action. We have about a mile to go before we get to the next target, the place where we take the photo. My job right now is to watch for booby traps, listen for the things that dont belong, keep clear of trails, and navigate. Lieutenant keeps our pace count and makes the major decisions. We have to slow down because were making too much noise. In some places we are forced to crawl under brush, and in others we must slowly step inch by inch, with our feet moving over dry, brittle branches and leaves. It is much more difcult to move stealthily at night than you might think. For one thing, its hard to see where youre going. I know guys who have stepped off small slopes because they couldnt even see their hand in front of their face. The other reason is that people can hear better at night. Think about it: All of the ambient noise that happens in the daylight, like birds chirping or cars driving by, dies. Not to mention the fact that people by nature are diurnal. Accuracy comes before speed. I walk into a large spiderweb that covers my face. A good-size spider is moving from my cheek toward my neck. As a kid I was practically arachnophobicone of the reasons I wanted to be a point man was to completely get over that fear, because the point man is always rst to hit the webs. What an exercise in walking through your fear and getting to the other side. Now I reach up, grab the spider, and toss it away.
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I check my watch. Weve eaten up an hour and a half going just a mile. Finally, we reach the hangar. Were at the point where we have to pick the best place to take a photo. We do this all with hand signals. During the entire trip we havent said one word to one another. Now the whole op comes down to me. No one can help me, no one can give me advice, no one can overrule me. It now all comes down to, Can I bring an image I cannot see onto lm that I cannot develop until I get back on the submarine? No big deal, right? Slowly, I bring the pack around to my front. I have zippers on the pack because Velcro would be too loud. I can hear the sand in the zippers grating. To me it sounds like a bulldozer. When the zipper is fully opened, I slowly but deliberately remove the camera case from the bag. I do this with eyes closed to concentrate fully. This is the way I practiced a thousand times. Perfect practice. My eyes can deceive me at night but my mind wont, so I visualize what has to be done. Lieutenant points at his watch. He gives me only half an hour to get this job done. Timing. I open the case. Everything inside the case is preset for this moment. I even have two cameras. Gear. There is a SEAL axiom that states, Two is one and one is none. Thats advantage stacking. I have to stealthily extend the aluminum legs of the tripod without making any noise. I have to screw the Canon F-1 camera onto it. I double-check the individual settings to make sure they are where I want them. Know your gear. The f-stop, or lens aperture, has to be fully open, the focus ring on the lens has to be set on innity, and the
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shutter speed must be placed on bulb setting to control the speed of the shutter manually. I screw the cable release into the shutter release. This is all completed with my eyes closed. I just concentrate on the correct fundamentals. I have to calculate the different time exposures in my head. The more light I let in on that lm, the more I burn that image onto the lm. Thats why we are here. Lieutenant keeps a watchful eye out for sentries. The opening and closing of the cameras shutter sounds like a guillotine to me. I could almost swear the sound can be heard from a mile away. All of a sudden, we hear a guard approach. We stop cold. He walks within a hundred feet of our position. From the way hes walking its obvious the guard feels comfortable in his surroundings. He sounds like a rhino. Lieutenant ever so slowly raises his CAR-15 rie with suppressor. He points it at the guard. We dont even breathe. Did he hear us? Does he see us? It seems like an hour goes by as he walks past us. I am denitely aware of the passing time. Four more exposures to go, just in case. Click. They are long exposures. Click. Once the exposures are done, I feel a tremendous wave of pressure wash over me. I really wont know if Ive done everything right until we get back to the sub and develop the pictures. Have I done everything right? Have I wasted everybodys time, moneyor lives? These thoughts are the fear talking. This is the verbal-inuence conditioning that leads to feelings of panic. I have to move past it. I must rely on my training and use a Verbal Command Request that moves me forward to the next target.
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I must get focused, this is the point in an operation where you can get sloppy in your thinking. Weve accomplished the main objective but this mission is far from nished. I have to be focused in the now. With the same slow, methodical movements, I return every single thing back to its original location. The new primary target is to not leave a shred of evidence behind. No one can ever know we have been here. I go through my preplanned mental checklist. Everything is back in its designated place. The next target is to link back up with the guys. It takes an hour to get back, putting us about a half hour behind schedule. When we arrive at our rally point, the lieutenant takes out a small pin light that has a red lter covering it. We get to our spot. He ashes the red light three times. We wait. No response. He does it again. Nothing. We look at each other. Did the chief feel that we werent going to make it back on time? No way, there is nothing on earth that could make the chief leave some of his boys behind. Lieutenant closes his eyes. Maybe he is praying. He opens them, then sends three quick ashes. If we cant link up with the chief, then we will have to act on our secondary extraction plan. Which means that me and the lieutenant could end up spending a week hiding in enemy territory waiting for our next opportunity to extract. This was our contingency in case of an emergency. At last we get three ashes in return. Lieutenant and I walk to where the red light was ashing. Lieutenant whispers, Eight. Chief whispers in reply, Three. This is the challenge and reply, so we know were talking to each
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other and not an enemy in disguise. It could be any combination as long as it equals eleven. The linkup is complete. We head to the beach. Chief looks at me. I give him a thumbs-up. He gives me one nod. That nod says, You better have gotten the shot. I dont dwell on failure, because it is not an option. We are hustling nowweve got a sub to catch. We hit the beach. Twenty minutes later, we are through the surf zone and onto the boats. We are moving out. One hour and fteen minutes remain for us to go ten miles. That cuts it tight. Im glad that were not loaded down with a ton of gear, because dawn is coming. If the sun breaks the horizon, the sub wont surface and we will be exposed like ducks on a pond. Our radio man tries to make contact to let the sub know we are on our way to the extraction pointthe place where we will be picked up. I check our bearings, make sure we are headed on the right course. Half hour down. I can feel dawn coming. Like Dracula, we could all be dead if the sun gets to us. Then it happens. Second only to being shot at, the worst thing that can happen when traveling in a small boat when you want to get someplace is that the engine on the other boat dies. This engine failure would be disastrous if we hadnt planned for it. The lieutenant had wanted to bring a spare engine for a single boat, but the chief asked him, Why should we just bring a spare engine when we could bring a completely spare boat for the same effort? Since the lieutenant is a very smart man, he listened to his chief. We transfer the gear and gas bladders to our boat. Chief and his swim buddy stab all of the air tubes, then
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jump into our boat. We watch to make sure that the useless engine dragged the deated boat under the ocean. Chief leans over. Mack, did you get the @#!$ shots? I want to say, I dont know, but that aint an option. So I say, Yes, Chief. I am thankful that I have trained this skill over and over again, always trying to nd a better, cleaner, more efcient way to perform it. Consistency. No contact on the radio yet. Five minutes till we stop the boat. And we are not even close to being nished. I look at my watch. Sunrise is at 6:00. Its 5:50 right now. We have two more minutes of driving. Still no sign of the sub. We stop the boats, put the engine on idle, and sit there, oating at sea. We can still see landthat means we can be seen. They can see us if they are looking . . . and intelligence sources say they routinely watch the ocean. Eventually, they will be looking, but when and how soon? Two minutes go by. It will take seven minutes just to reload the gear and boats onto the sub. Radio man tries one more time. Ten minutes till dawn. Chief looks at me. Lieutenant looks at me. Were in the right spot, I say. We better be, the chief replies. He looks back, checks the navigation. Radio man tries again. Nothing. Eight minutes till dawn. Then, two hundred meters to our right, the water looks like its boiling. A periscope comes out of the water. My heart nearly leaps out of my chest. We have seven minutes left. We race over to the sub. It breaks the surface like a city on the ocean.
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But were not in the showers yet. . . . The nervous energy disappears and in its place is focused energy, like lasers. The other half of the platoon is on the sub throwing down lines to drag our packs and equipment on board. A Jacobs ladder is lowered for us to climb up. The sky is turning purple, threads of pink hint at the horizon. The stars are fading. The boats are rolled up and stowed in the deck lockers. We le into the sub, climbing down the porthole of the subs tower. I follow the engine through and down the porthole. The last person on deck is the subs ofcer. I look up at him and its like looking up through a well. The sky behind him is blue now. He pulls the hatch closed, sealing it. We disappear. And by the waywe got the shots. What it comes down to is this: Consistent success is about stacking every advantage that you possibly can in your favor. The more advantages you create and execute on, to the very best of your ability, the more wins you will end up with. The Advantage-Stacking Thought Process is all about getting and sustaining momentum by successfully knocking down a bunch of small targets on the way to completely owning a big target. Nothing breeds condence better than accomplishment. Momentum is critical in developing a level of condence that you can count on when you need it most!
Chapter 7
Never Grow Complacent
Tomorrow is the most important thing in life. Comes into us at midnight very clean. Its perfect when it arrives and puts itself in our hands. It hopes weve learned something from yesterday.
John Wayne
t was a perfect Malibu night. The hot summer day had turned cool and comfortable thanks to the light ocean breeze. The grounds of the Spanish-style mansion sprawled over most of a hill overlooking the Pacic. And the stars were out in record number. The ve hundred or so guests who were attending this $5,000-a-plate benet for a local Los Angeles charity didnt have to walk up any stairs on the steep property. They checked in their limousines and a trolley was provided to bring them from the gardens below up to the catered white tent. Inside the tent, giant ice sculptures decorated a buffet lled with nouvelle cuisine, with shrimp the size of bananas and lobster freshly pulled from the water. Champagne fountains owed, the tables were set with white linens and silver, and the live band
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included some well-known R&B artists whose music Id loved hearing on the radio growing up. The guests lling the dance oor looked like a veritable Whos Who of pop culturean Oscar-nominated actress rubbing shoulders with a television news anchor, a record producer laughing at a joke from a sitcom star. Id arrived several hours before the event to check the property, looking for weak linksany areas not totally securethat might be just what a stalker, or the paparazzi, would need to crash the event. After supervising the guest check-in, my job for the rest of the night would be to shadow a man whose boyish charm, rugged good looks, and crystal blue eyes make him one of the biggest box ofce draws in the world. If he has any problems, all he has to do is look over his shoulder and Ill know what to do. But with my black Armani suit and perfect shave, well, I look like any other Hollywood wannabe-type and just blend into the background. The blending in was obviously working. The reputation California women have for being some of the most attractive on the planet is certainly well deserved, and a couple of them were attempting to engage me in conversation. I was thinking, This is a pretty good deal. Id been in California less than three months. But, here I was, already at the epicenter of glamour, making more money than I had ever even seen in my life, having a beautiful redhead slip me a note to meet her later at the Marmalade Cafe, and being fed a gourmet meal. It was a far cry from mystery meatloaf and corn, being stuck in a submarine for a month with two hundred smelly guys, getting up at 4:00

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to crawl through mud and sewage, and, just maybe, get shot at. Tonight the most serious threat Id likely encounter was a Nikon-wielding National Enquirer reporter. But something felt wrong. I was attered by the female attention, but really, why were they talking to me? They obviously didnt know my face, but because I was in the inside circle next to the star, it probably seemed as if I were somebody with a certain amount of Hollywood clout. Although I was near all this wealth and luxury, I was really just on the sidelines, watching other people live their lives. I realized at that moment I was facing the most dangerous threat of my life: the lure of comfort, the lure of close enough. This wasnt anything like what I had always wanted to do, but with perks like this I could easily grow accustomed to a lucrative and comfortable life, and watch the years slide into decades. It occurred to me that there are many other people who were more interested, more patient, and better suited to work in executive protection. It was not as if I had retired after a career in the police force or military and was looking for interesting times and some big paychecks to pay for my Baja sailing habit, as was the case for some of the top protection guys. When I decided to sign up for my second enlistment in the SEALs, thats when I made the decision that, ultimately, there was more I was meant to do within the teams. I hadnt gathered enough skills. Although my evaluations said my work had been outstanding, I knew, deep within myself, that I had grown complacent. I knew what the job required, there were many times it was exciting and rewarding, but I had stopped looking for that next
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big hurdle. I felt I was coasting on past success. I managed to become a SEAL at age nineteen. I thought, What a great start to a life, but I didnt want my biggest accomplishment to forever be behind me. Because I was no longer the skinny kid and had carved out a niche for myself, I had forgotten there were plenty of challenges left for me. When I had to make the decision to sign up again, I had to face the fact that all I had done was widen my comfort zonethere was still a universe of knowledge and experience that it would take me ve lifetimes to know, if I was open to them. I started focusing on developing a consistent set of principles so that I could become a better SEAL. But, as I neared age thirty, something hadnt felt right about being in the military anymore, either. I had ten years under my belt as a SEAL, what most would consider halfway to retirement. Those ten years had seemed to pass in the blink of an eye, another ten years would probably do the same. I felt I wanted to create something uniquely my own, something I could share with the world. One of the hardest truths from my SEAL training came back to me: In war, if you grow complacent, you die. Its as simple as that. Allowing yourself even a moment of complacency in the eld signals the prelude to things going wrong. Leave behind a tiny piece of trash on a reconnaissance mission and you could get a whole battalion of marines or rangers, whose mission it is to take out that target after SEAL Team has set it up, killed. That one complacent act on your part can be the sign that tells the enemy that an American force was there watching them. Now on the alert, the
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enemy can set up an ambush for the U.S. force they now know is on the way. Complacency is the rst and easiest thing you can allow in that it will screw up your life. It will kill marriages, friendships, careers, opportunities, dreams, and even entire societies. By growing complacent, I was slowly quitting on myself. Ive often met people who retire from an occupation they were really good at and then nd themselves bored, miserable, and listless. Its as if you can actually see the life draining right out of them. Human beings need mountains to climb, we need frontiers to explore. We have to reach for the impossible, or something in us dies. The body might take years to catch up, but inevitably it follows the will. Change is inevitable; seeking improved change is the hallmark of a developed being. Up to the point in my life when I left SEAL Team, I had been dedicated to the pursuit of being an ideal warrior, and I had to remind myself of all that meant: The mercenary ghts for a buck, the soldier ghts because he is ordered to, but the warrior ghts for a cause. He doesnt ght for pettiness or mindless bloodshed. The warrior ghts because he believes that he is ghting for something good, something positive, something that will improve the quality of the world around him. The warrior never forgets that he is the example and so will always remember to act accordingly. He is a leader, and when there is no one else to lead, the warrior must lead himself forward to a different, higher standard. The warrior knows that he cannot and will not hide the truth from himself, because to do so would be to
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breed weakness. The warrior knows if he chooses the weakest path, ultimately the person he truly cheats is himself. The warrior understands the importance of discipline and understands fully that the highest, most valuable form of discipline is self-discipline. It is the only path that leads to mastery of any type. Discipline is not a gift you get at birth, its not in your genes. It is simply doing something and sticking to it, even if you have to take it second by second. Every self-starter who has accomplished incredible success has had self-discipline over himself or herself at least to some degree. It may have been only over the subject that he or she felt passionately about, but that passion drove him or her to develop new and improved skills, to seek out new teachers and new innovations, to attempt to satisfy an unquenchable thirst for knowledge on the subject of his or her passion. To choose the path of a warrior means you must develop an inextinguishable passion for life. When you do, the amazing value of it is always in the forefront of your mind and propels your body. In SEAL Team, when things looked the worst, when the mud was up to our ears, when the night was the coldest, when the mountain looked the highest, when the guns felt the hottest, the only way around it all was through it. Get amongst it, wed say. This, above all, will unleash the warrior inside each of us. Its not enough to understand the principles in this book, we have to continuously apply them. Dont look for ways to get around life. Grab it, jump in it. Do something, anything, but get amongst it!
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In the end we all will die. There is no way to get around that fact. What will you create with the gift that is your life? My only aspiration for this book is to humbly serve you in knocking down your targets. Thank you for reading it.
Acknowledgments
I dont know if I can adequately acknowledge all the people who taught me the lessons that are in this book, or that I learned while writing it. I know in my heart that Ill never be able to thank them all the way they should be thanked. But I will attempt, in some small way, to do so. I would like to thank the talented literary agent, Neeti Madan, for taking a chance; my incredible manager, Andrew Lear; and everyone at the Core. To David Feldman, my brilliant lawyer, and everyone at his rm Bloom Hergott Diemer Rosenthal LaViolette & Feldman. To my editor, Matthew Lore, thank you for all of your effort, patience, and support. Without him you would not have this book in your hands. Also, to Courtney Napoles, Renee Caputo, and everyone at Da Capo Press and the Perseus Books Group for supporting Matthew and for everything they did to get this revision to print. To the woman who provided the spark that got this whole thing ablaze, Rene Vogel, thank you for everything you did to help this turn out right. Thanks to Mary Rakow and Lola Willoughby for taking the time to carefully read this work in its
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earliest incarnations and helping to model it into a work that I am proud of. Thank you, Blair Bunting, for your excellent cover photo, and Alex Camlin for your great art direction. Thanks to John Buksbazen for helping me to articulate in a simple way what I tend to make complicated. John, I really appreciate your friendship. It was my distinct pleasure to work and serve with all the men of BUD/S Class 136, Alpha, Golf, and Hotel platoons, and the training cadres of SEAL Team One and Two. You guys taught me a lot. I would like to send specic thanks to the following: James Madson, Don Shipley, Vincent Napple, Tim Farrell, Chuck Williams, Randy Paulus, Andy Nelson, Joe Macguire, Tom Brown, Brian Zinke, Rock Blais, Todd Seniff, Steve Decker, Boyd Renner, Matt May, Kevin Holderby, and Frank Odermann. I promise I could ll up another book with the names of the great men I have served with. If your name is not mentioned here, thank you and please forgive me. These men taught me some of my biggest lessons in the Teams and in lifesome of which I didnt want to learn. You all helped a boy become a man. I would like to send David Soul a special thanks for showing me how a professional Scout/Sniper/SEAL looks and acts. A special acknowledgment to the late, great Gunnery Sergeant Carlos N. Hathcock II (USMC) for his contributions to the NSW Scout/Sniper Program. He did much more than teach men how to shoot; he taught them how to survive in the eld. John Shaw developed a series of programs at his institute that taught me so much more than just how to shoot. It is important to acknowledge that the reconnaissance mission in Chapter 6 is an amalgamation of both real world and operational exercises. I tried hard to exclude any information that would give away any actual SEAL operational tactics, eld strategies, or standard operational procedures currently in use by SEAL Team. There are men out there in the long, dark, cold night busting their asses to do a very demanding job
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without me making it anymore difcult for them. As for all of the other military stories, they are told as closely to the facts as I can best remember. Students of the Bukido Institute sign a non-disclosure agreement that states they will not give out specic information about the program and that the institute will not discuss them in a public forum. It is for this reason that almost all of their names and anecdotes have been altered to conceal their identities. To the professionals that have guided, supported, or shared some of their knowledge with me after SEAL Team: Edward Dugan, John Quinn, Blair Gluba, John Cox, Jerry Glazebrook, Larry Nicholson, James Stalnaker, Joseph Paskvan, Fred Foster, and Kurt Angel. To Rod Koyne, one cool hardcharger whom I always managed to drag into trouble. And to Avi Korein, who led me to choose between following a dream and something that I was merely interested in. These men have forgotten more about professionally protecting people and assets than Ill ever learn. I owe a debt of gratitude to many men for the ways in which they have inuenced my thinking on the martial arts: The instructors of the NSW Combat Fighting Instructor Course (for nding the best instructors in the world to teach us); Paul Vunack; Frank Cucci; Jerry Peterson; the Gracie family; Tony Blauer; Bruce Chiu; Danny Isanto; and, of course, Bruce Lee. To each I give thanks for contributing, directly or indirectly, to my diversied learning. And to the lady who made me rethink everything that I ever learned, Donna Johnson, thank you. I want to thank Lisa and Robert Hockley and Ray Byers in Marina del Rey. I really appreciate the professionalism and the courteous and respectful nature with which you took a chance on me. I also want to thank Bill Yoshin Jordan Sensei/Abbot and the whole Sangha of the Santa Monica Zen Center for everything and nothing. To John Wilson, who brought to my attention how much Bukido training was really worth. His help and guidance were
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instrumental in the Bukido Institute taking off. To the hardcharging members of Team Bukido: Christopher and Stephanie Hicks, Spencer Levy, Kendall Blair, Derron Ross, and Andrew Rothmund. Each of you deserves more thank yous than I could say in a lifetime. Your hard work and tireless dedication are an example to me. I would also like to express my appreciation to all of my students for their constant encouragement and their tireless dedication to giving the training away. I love you all. To Sharon and Gordon Rorick, thank you for opening your home and hearts to me when I rst arrived in California. It is great to have you as part of my extended family. And, to the people who helped me in ways Ill never be able to express fully. It is barely scratching the surface to say that without them this target could not have been knocked down. To my mom, Patricia Patrick, who encouraged me to follow my dreams and do what I love. I love you, Mom. To my father, Peter, and stepmother, Judy, thank you for teaching me attention to detail and what it takes to be professional. I love you for that. To John, my brother, I love you buddy. To Welton and Carol Whann, I cant begin to express the depth of my affection for you both. Your faith in me allowed this work to come into existence. The passion you both share for success in all things continues to guide my path today. And, to Samantha Dunn who went through hell to help me set up this target, not to mention the journey we went on to knock it down. You were the literary genius and guiding force of this fullled dream. You are one of a kind. Last and certainly not least, to the two people who are my life. I want to express my love and gratitude to my wife, Amanda. She inspires me to strive and to be a ner man in all things I do. She is a loving partner and wonderful mother to our daughter, Josephine. Josie, your mom and I love you so very much and hope that this book may someday serve you in some small way with accomplishing your dreams.
Appendix
This exercise was designed for you to apply your understanding of the Three Dynamic Elements of Combat. But to do this, you will use an amalgamation of the principles in the book to create and dene specic weapons and their accompanying movement to take out your target. Pick one target that you really want to knock down. Target:
Dene at least ve weapons that will help you knock down this target. Your weapons inventory should include the following as a guide: 1. Allies (who can help you and how can you help them?):
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2. Skill acquisition (training):
3. A to-do list (basic schedule planning):
4. Gear (equipment):
5. Desire (how bad do you want this target?):
Explain how you will use each weapon to knock down your target. Take your time on this part, include details but avoid overcomplicating how you will move. When addressing the weapon in this example, connect it directly to your chosen target. This is to always remind you that you are using this weapon to knock down a specic target. Weapon One:
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Glossary
ACTE: Acronym that stands for Assess the situation; Create a simple plan; Take action; and Evaluate your progress. Action Mind-set: The process of recognizing and moving beyond your fear to completely focus on what is known. Action Trigger: A specically constructed Verbal Command Request that propels you into action. Advantage-Stacking Thought Process: A strategic thought process developed to stack so many advantages in your favor that when you take action, you cant help but win. ADVANTAGES: An acronym that stands for Attitude; Desire; Visualization; Attention; Necessity; Timing; Alliances; Gear; Emergency; Skills. It is the starting point for questions that, when answered, stack advantages in your favor. Basic Underwater Demolition/SEAL Training (BUD/S): The primary training course that must be passed for an individual to be considered eligible for a SEAL Team. Berm: A large sand pile that stretches for miles and acts as a sea break during heavy storms. Bukido: A word created from Japanese characters to describe the journey an individual must take to bring out the warrior within.
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Bukido Training System: A symbiosis of mental and physical disciplines that develop skills for use under extreme stress and in the accomplishment of goals. A philosophy of performance, not a philosophy of ideology. CARVER matrix: The process that allows an individual to clearly evaluate the priority ranking of a given set of targets. The matrix also tells the individual about the strengths and weaknesses inherent in each target evaluated. Close-Quarter Battle (CQB): The clearing and securing of rooms that contain armed threats. Dry ring: A practice professional shooters do to perfect the mechanics of their shooting technique. It is done only after the weapon is made completely safe, without ammunition. 80 Percent MAX: The point at which you use all of your abilities to 80 percent of your maximum potential. A place where your body and mind stay in balance and harmony, to ow rather than force. In sports performance, researchers call this the steady state, because your bodys systems are running at an efcient level. Energy: The capacity of power or force available for action. Evolution: A cycle or series of events involving the movement of troops, ships, and equipment. Focus: The ability to bring your full and complete attention to a precise, central point. The Four Critical Keys to Conquering Anything: A simplied and prioritized process for strategic thinking and planning represented by the acronym ACTE. Hardening the target: The deliberate attempt by a security force to stack every possible advantage in their favor in an effort to make their protectee or principal appear so difcult a challenge that the potential attacker moves on to another target. Improved Outcome Formula: A formula that demonstrates that when you work harder on controlling yourself than you do trying to control your situation, your outcomes improve. Inatable Boat Small (IBS): A small, six-man rubber boat used in BUD/S.
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Intuition: The result of using one, if not all, of your ve senses hearing, seeing, feeling, smelling, tastingto optimum effect, in combination with evaluated experience of past events. Jacobs ladder: A large rope ladder with wooden steps specically designed to board the uneven and slick sides of naval vessels. JP5: A type of jet fuel. The Mind Lab: A tool progressively developed with the student to enhance creative visual imagery for virtual training experiences. Mission: A series of primary and secondary targets that, when knocked down, accomplish a major objective. Movement: A series of actions or activities intended to arrive at a particular end. The process of using a weapon to knock down a target. Naval Special Warfare (NSW): The command structure that oversees all special operations units in the navy. Phase Diagram: A scheduling tool used in mission planning to clearly and independently see each phase of the mission and how it ows in relation to timed objectives. Power: The ability to act. Primaries: Clearly identied targets that are positioned right in front of you. They must be knocked down before you can take the next step on the path of accomplishing the overall goal or mission. Rally point: A designated location to conduct rendezvous or linkups during eld operations. ROK marine: A Republic of Korea marine. SEAL (SEa Air Land): Acronym for how this elite unit can insert, inltrate, attack, exltrate, and extract from any environment, under any imaginable condition. Secondaries: Tentative targets positioned behind your selected primary targets so that you are constantly moving forward toward the overall goal or mission. Sniper bubble: The process a sniper uses to shut off the outside world in order to intensely focus on the task at hand. Sniper cell: A self-contained designated unit of scout/snipers.
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Stacked rubber duck: A platform with two rubber boats placed on top of each other to expedite airborne ocean insertions. Standard Operating Procedures (SOP): A recognized then adopted pattern which assures a specic level of performance that produces faster results reliably. A fail-safe process to get things done. Target: An object or goal to be reached. The Three Core Questions of a Plan: How do I get there? What do I do when I get there? How do I get out of there? The Three Dynamic Elements of Combat: The understanding that targets dictate weapons, and weapons dictate movement. Without a clear target in mind, the process of choosing weapons and/or movement for their own sake is an exercise in futility. Training Pyramid: A process of designing a training program to ensure that new skills are thoroughly developed from a solid foundation to a level where an individual can perform accurately and knock down a target with appropriate speed. Verbal Command Request: A command you use on yourself or another that is structured in a specic way to elicit a known result. Verbal-Inuence Conditioning: The understanding that words inuence our thoughts and condition our actions. Vietcong: A Communist-led army and guerrilla force in South Vietnam that fought its government and was supported by North Vietnam. Warrior: An individual who is so prepared to face the challenge before him and believes so strongly in the cause he is ghting for that he refuses to quit. Weapon: Any skill, instrument, or device designed to knock down targets. Zen: A discipline, study, or practice developed for the direct purpose of reaching enlightenment.

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Praise for Unleash the Warrior Within

Richard Mack Machowicz is the compelling host and producer

U NLEASH THE WARRIOR WITHIN

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The only easy day was yesterday.

The Three Dynamic Elements of Combat

The Three Dynamic Elements of Combat

The Three Dynamic Elements of Combat

The Three Dynamic Elements of Combat

Three Dynamic Elements of Combat

The Three Dynamic Elements of Combat

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The Three Dynamic Elements of Combat

The Three Dynamic Elements of Combat

The Three Dynamic Elements of Combat

The Three Dynamic Elements of Combat

Crush the Enemy Called Fear

Crush the Enemy Called Fear

Crush the Enemy Called Fear

Crush the Enemy Called Fear

Crush the Enemy Called Fear

Crush the Enemy Called Fear

Crush the Enemy Called Fear

Crush the Enemy Called Fear

Crush the Enemy Called Fear

Crush the Enemy Called Fear

Crush the Enemy Called Fear

Crush the Enemy Called Fear

Crush the Enemy Called Fear

Crush the Enemy Called Fear

Crush the Enemy Called Fear

SECTION I: PRIDE DRILL

Crush the Enemy Called Fear

SECTION II: MOVE THROUGH FEAR

Crush the Enemy Called Fear

Create an Action Mind-set

Act as though it were impossible to fail.

Stop. Now, how does that make you feel?

Create an Action Mind-set

Create an Action Mind-set

Create an Action Mind-set

Create an Action Mind-set

Create an Action Mind-set

Action Mind-set: The process of recognizing and

Create an Action Mind-set

Create an Action Mind-set

Create an Action Mind-set

Create an Action Mind-set

Create an Action Mind-set

Create an Action Mind-set