Features of A Good Listner
Features of A Good Listner
Someone who gives you a lot of attention when you are talking about your problems or things that worry you, and tries to understand and support you
#1 Is the person that you are talking to looking you in the eyes? It shows that they respect you and they are interested in what you are saying.
#2 Is the person that you are talking to asking questions or commenting on the things that you say? This is very important. It shows that they are truly listening to what you have to say.
Works at finding value in all topics. Listens to discover new knowledge. Judges value of the content rather than the delivery. Listens for central themes. Uses them as anchor points for the entire lecture. Works hard at listening; remains alert. Focuses on understanding completely rather than coming up with opposing views.
Fights distractions; ignores bad habits of other students; knows how to concentrate. Welcomes difficult material as exercise for the mind. Does not get hung up on emotionally charged words or ideas; listens with an open mind. Uses extra time to think more deeply about what the lecturer is saying; summarizes what has been covered.
How to Be a Good Listener Be attentive: Use your face,voice and body to show that you are interested in what that person is talking about Listen with an accepting attitude Ask questions which show that you like to listen Use ideas and emotions to try to communicate to the person Test your understanding
Use encouraging words to show you are listening: Mmm,hmm I see Right Uh,huh
Use nonverbal actions to show you pay attention to what is being said: Relaxed posture Head-nodding Facial expression Relaxed body expression
Use encouraging words that will invite them to continue: Tell me more Let's talk about it Things to avoid: Do not interupt Do not interrogate Do not try to think of your response in your head while listening Do not change the subject
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