Shownotes How BDSM can be the secret to liberation What allows humiliation to have an erotic aspect The reason a man’s first job is to contain a woman Why surrendering the ego and sexuality go hand-in-hand What led Om to his professional journey with BDSM The difference between boundaries and control Why Tantra and BDSM are often taught together  Bio  Om Rupani is the author of ⁠Prerequisites to Ecstasy⁠ and has been teaching man-woman relating, sensuality, Tantra & BDSM for over 15 years through both in-person and online workshops worldwide. His passion is to help men & women create thriving, functional and erotically vibrant relationships through his online courses. ⁠Creating The Dominant Man⁠ is designed to help the modern man come into fuller embodiment of his masculinity, dominance and his leadership — both in the world and in his relationships with women. And ⁠What Men Want: A Course For Women⁠, which gives the modern woman a template for how she might create a passionate and harmonious relationship with the man who is ready and trained to lead, cherish and adore her. Om deeply believes that a thriving erotic life needs to be at the center of a happy man-woman dynamic, and he believes we should investigate and embody our Eros in all its nuance and expression. He offers a robust training in the erotic arts, ⁠BDSM Fundamentals And Scene Play Training⁠, which he feels all human beings on the planet should take. Timestamps From 1:09:25 to 1:10:35 MOOD ad - 1:10 00:00:29 - Guest introduction 00:03:17 - Om describes what containment actually means 00:07:13 - What Layla has wished for from past partners 00:07:19 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:10:45 - The importance of addressing upset in a contained state 00:13:25 - What brought Om to his professional journey in BDSM 00:14:20 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification  00:18:19 - The biological vulnerability of women 00:20:17 - Om explains what “bad containment” looks like 00:24:24 - What men have lost in the modern world 00:29:15 - Why niceness in a man doesn’t contain a woman 00:33:12 - Om believes men need to reclaim in wolf in them 00:35:32 - The difference between boundaries and control 00:36:08 - Reach your full pleasure capacity with Obliss Women’s Sexual Masterclass and Men’s Sexual Mastery 00:41:39 - Coming home to your own safety as a woman 00:44:26 - What is a bratty submissive? 00:50:16 - The bitter pill Layla has had to swallow in her healing 00:54:17 - What does it look like to move out of pain and into devotion? 00:63:01 - How fundamental distrust of men keeps women from healthy relationships 01:09:25 - Discover MOOD Sexy Supplements 01:11:03 - Why Tantra and BDSM are often taught together  01:15:19 - No one gets a free pass on dealing with their worthiness 01:20:28 - The truth about why a dom can hold safe space for you 01:28:27 - Why surrendering the ego and sexuality go hand-in-hand 01:33:12 - Conclusion