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Say This, Not That: A Foolproof Guide to Effective Interpersonal Communication
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This simple, straightforward guide to effective communication is for anyone who has ever wanted to “eat their words.”
Do you ever feel that your words produce the exact opposite effect of what you were hoping for—escalating tensions rather than solving problems? Author of Emotional Bullshit Carl Alasko has found that with the right guidance, anyone can learn effective communication skills. In Say This, Not That, Alasko presents readers with simple instructions for what to say . . . and what not to say. Accompanying each pair of statements is a brief discussion of what makes one so negative and destructive, and the other inviting of the kind of discussion needed. This book is the ultimate resource for anyone who longs to consistently say the right thing at the right time.
Do you ever feel that your words produce the exact opposite effect of what you were hoping for—escalating tensions rather than solving problems? Author of Emotional Bullshit Carl Alasko has found that with the right guidance, anyone can learn effective communication skills. In Say This, Not That, Alasko presents readers with simple instructions for what to say . . . and what not to say. Accompanying each pair of statements is a brief discussion of what makes one so negative and destructive, and the other inviting of the kind of discussion needed. This book is the ultimate resource for anyone who longs to consistently say the right thing at the right time.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I wish I had gotten this book 25 years ago. It has information I've needed for a long time. The main gist of it is to think before you speak but it's covered in all different situations like at work, with your kids, with your spouse, etc. It's contains little ideas for how to interact without offending those around you that could really be life changing. It's easy to read, you can skip what you don't need and it's very helpful.
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