Own Your Sh*t: Master Your Mind and Life in 90 Days

Own Your Sh*t: Master Your Mind and Life in 90 Days

Break Free from the Bullsh*t, Conquer Your Fears, and Unleash Your True Potential

Are you stuck in a cycle of stress, self-doubt, and frustration? 'Own Your Sht' is more than just a book—it's your personal guide to breaking free from the mental and emotional shackles that hold you back. This isn't about sugar-coating or vague platitudes. It's about facing your deepest fears, dismantling the self-limiting beliefs that have kept you small, and stepping boldly into the life you've always dreamed of. Over the next 90 days, you'll embark on a transformative journey from feeling overwhelmed to becoming unstoppable, with the support of a community that understands your struggles and celebrates your victories. Get ready to own your sht, reclaim your power, and revolutionize your life.

Foreword: An Invitation to Own Your Journey

Welcome, courageous reader.

You've picked up this book because something inside you is ready to break free, to shatter the limits that have kept you tethered to mediocrity. This isn't a guide for the faint-hearted or the easily satisfied. This is a call to arms for those who are done with settling and ready to Own Their Sh*t.

We live in a world brimming with distractions, fake promises, and self-doubt. The noise is relentless, and the chaos can be paralyzing. But amidst this whirlwind, there's a quiet, persistent voice inside you—a voice that knows you are capable of more. This book is your answer to that voice. It's a raw, unfiltered journey through the depths of your own potential, challenging you to confront your fears, embrace your flaws, and harness your unique power.

This journey isn't about me. It's about you—your dreams, your struggles, and your ultimate transformation. My role here is not to lecture but to provoke, to challenge, and to support you in claiming the life you've always known you were meant to live. But before we dive in, let me share a bit of my own story—because like you, I’ve wrestled with self-doubt, fear, and the urge to settle for less.

There was a time when I, too, was stuck—trapped in a cycle of overthinking, procrastination, and self-sabotage. I knew I had more to offer, but the gap between my potential and my reality felt insurmountable. It wasn’t until I hit rock bottom—when the excuses and justifications ran dry—that I realized the only way forward was through radical honesty and relentless action. That moment changed everything for me. I decided to own my sh*t, face my fears head-on, and rebuild my life from the ground up. This book is born out of that journey, infused with every hard-earned lesson, every battle scar, and every breakthrough that has shaped me.

Throughout these chapters, you will meet people like you—facing the grit and grime of real life, wrestling with their demons, and learning to rise above. These aren't stories of perfection; they are tales of resilience, courage, and relentless pursuit of personal truth. They are the stories of those who decided to Own Their Sh*t and redefine their reality.

This book doesn’t promise an easy path. It doesn’t offer quick fixes or sugar-coated solutions. It demands something profound and often uncomfortable: complete ownership of your life. It's about cutting through the bullshit, facing your fears head-on, and doing the work. If you're looking for excuses, this isn't the book for you. But if you're ready to take a long, hard look in the mirror and commit to changing what you see, then you're in the right place.

We’ll explore powerful systems and frameworks—drawn from the latest in psychology, neuroscience, and the experiences of those who’ve walked this path before. These aren’t just theories; they’re actionable strategies designed to create real, lasting change. But they only work if you do. We'll challenge conventional wisdom and push the boundaries of what's possible, but it requires you to show up fully. This book is a partnership—a pact between you and me, a commitment to own our sh*t together, no matter how messy, difficult, or exhilarating the journey becomes.

As you read, I encourage you to reflect on why you picked up this book. What are you hoping to change? What dreams have you buried under layers of doubt and fear? Take a moment to acknowledge that voice inside you—the one that brought you here—and make a promise to yourself to see this journey through.

So, turn the page if you're ready to embark on a transformative journey. A journey where you'll laugh, cry, and discover the deepest corners of your soul. A journey where you'll learn to wield the power of your thoughts and emotions, not as burdens, but as the keys to your freedom. It's time to stop running from your potential. It's time to Own Your Sh*t.

Let’s get to work.

Ramez

Introduction: Taking Ownership

Are you grappling with financial insecurity, wondering if your job could be the next one claimed by AI or if inflation will erode your savings before you can catch your breath? Does the ceaseless stream of political chaos and the looming threat of global conflict leave you feeling overwhelmed and powerless? If these worries keep you awake at night, you’re not alone—these are not just abstract concerns; they’re the harsh realities millions of us face every day.

Welcome to Own Your Sht: Master Your Mind and Life in 90 Days*. This book isn’t just another guide on personal growth—it’s a manifesto for those who are ready to stop being paralyzed by fear and start reclaiming their lives. Whether you’re exhausted by the relentless demands of a rapidly changing job market, disillusioned by the diminishing returns of endless work, or simply tired of feeling stuck in a world that seems to be spiraling out of control, this book is your call to action.

We live in a time of unprecedented change. The rise of artificial intelligence threatens to upend entire industries, putting jobs that were once considered secure at risk. Inflation gnaws away at your hard-earned money, making the future feel more uncertain than ever. Political unrest isn’t just background noise anymore—it’s a force that shapes our daily lives, dictating everything from the price of goods to the stability of nations. But here’s the truth: the more chaotic the world becomes, the more crucial it is for you to take ownership of your life.

What does it mean to own your sh*t? It means taking full responsibility for your life, your actions, and your outcomes—no excuses, no blaming external circumstances. It’s about recognizing that while you can’t control the world around you, you can control how you respond to it. Owning your sh*t is about reclaiming your power, not as a passive observer of your life but as the active creator of your reality. It’s about stepping up to the plate, acknowledging your fears, and choosing to act in spite of them.

This isn’t a journey for the faint-hearted. It’s for those who are tired of waking up every day with a sense of dread, who are done feeling like they’re constantly behind. It’s for those who know, deep down, that they’re capable of so much more and are ready to claim it. This book doesn’t offer platitudes or quick fixes—it offers a path. A path that requires you to confront your deepest fears, dismantle the beliefs that have held you back, and build a mindset that not only survives in these turbulent times but thrives.

You’re here because you’re ready to face the truth. The truth that the world is changing rapidly, and the only way to navigate this storm is by taking full responsibility for your life. Together, we’ll explore strategies rooted in both ancient wisdom and cutting-edge neuroscience. From the Stoic philosophers who taught us the power of resilience in the face of adversity, to modern insights into how stories can rewire our brains for success, this journey will equip you with the tools you need to transform your reality. These tools are unique, powerful, and proven—they combine the timeless teachings of the past with the latest breakthroughs in understanding the human mind.

As you embark on this journey, you won’t be alone. You’ll meet Emily, Mark, Izzy, Dave, and Maya—five individuals at their own crossroads, brought together by the mysterious workings of fate. Each of them grapples with the same uncertainties and fears that you do, and each is committed to owning their sh*t, just as you are. Through their stories, you’ll find reflections of your own struggles and triumphs, reminding you that transformation is possible, and you’re in powerful company.

As Marcus Aurelius once said, You have power over your mind—not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength. Laozi teaches us, Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power. And the Buddha reminds us, The mind is everything. What you think, you become. These timeless truths will serve as your compass as you navigate the challenges ahead.

Before you turn the page, take a moment to commit to this journey. Write a personal manifesto—your pledge to own your sh*t over the next 90 days. Let it be your promise to confront your fears, to push beyond your limits, and to emerge stronger on the other side. This is where your transformation begins. Ask yourself: What am I most afraid of? What do I need to take ownership of in my life? Let these questions guide your manifesto, and let this be the first step toward the life you truly want to live.

The journey starts now. Let’s make it happen.

Personal Manifesto Template: A 90-Day Commitment to Ownership

Title: My Commitment to Ownership

Introduction:

Who Am I Right Now?

Begin by describing your current state. Who are you at this moment? What are the key aspects of your identity that define you today? Reflect on your strengths, weaknesses, fears, and current challenges.

Example Prompt: I am someone who... (struggles with self-doubt, constantly feels overwhelmed by work, fears the uncertainty of the future, etc.)

Section 1: Defining My Core Values

What Do I Stand For?

Identify the core values that are most important to you. These values will serve as your compass throughout this journey. Consider what principles you want to guide your decisions and actions over the next 90 days.

Example Prompts:

I value... (integrity, resilience, courage, creativity, etc.)

My non-negotiables are... (honesty, kindness, accountability, etc.)

Section 2: Acknowledging My Fears and Limitations

What Holds Me Back?

List the fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs that have been keeping you stuck. Be brutally honest with yourself. This is where you confront the inner saboteur that whispers you’re not good enough.

Example Prompts:

I fear... (failure, rejection, uncertainty, etc.)

I have been holding back because... (I’m afraid of being judged, I don’t believe I deserve success, etc.)

Section 3: My Vision for Transformation

What Do I Want to Become?

Paint a clear picture of who you want to be at the end of these 90 days. Describe the changes you want to see in yourself and your life. Be specific—what does your ideal future look like? How do you feel, act, and think in this new reality?

Example Prompts:

In 90 days, I will be... (more confident, financially stable, at peace with myself, etc.)

I will have... (achieved financial goals, built a healthier mindset, established a new routine, etc.)

Section 4: My Commitments

How Will I Get There?

List the specific actions and habits you will commit to in order to achieve your vision. These should be realistic and actionable steps that you can start implementing immediately.

Example Prompts:

I commit to... (waking up earlier, practicing mindfulness daily, budgeting my finances, etc.)

Every week, I will... (reflect on my progress, adjust my goals, seek support from my accountability partner, etc.)

Section 5: My Affirmation

What Will Keep Me Going?

Create a powerful affirmation or mantra that you will repeat daily to keep yourself motivated and focused. This should be a statement that resonates deeply with you and reinforces your commitment to change.

Example Prompts:

My mantra is... (I am strong enough to face any challenge, I am deserving of success, etc.)

I will remind myself every day that... (I am in control of my destiny, I have the power to change my life, etc.)

Conclusion:

Seal Your Commitment

Write a concluding statement that seals your commitment to this journey. Sign and date your manifesto to mark the beginning of your transformation.

Example: Today, I take full ownership of my life. I am committed to this journey of growth and transformation. Signed, [Your Name], [Date].

Additional Insights to Guide You:

Mindful Reflection:

Take your time with each section of the manifesto. Reflect deeply before writing, allowing your thoughts and emotions to surface naturally. Consider meditating or sitting quietly before you begin, which will help you tap into your subconscious, where your true desires and fears reside.

Embrace Vulnerability:

Remember, this manifesto is for your eyes only. It’s a safe space to be completely honest and vulnerable. The more truthful you are with yourself, the more powerful your manifesto will be. Don’t shy away from writing down your deepest fears and wildest dreams.

Visualization Technique:

As you write, visualize your future self—the person you will become in 90 days. Close your eyes and imagine living the life you’re describing. Visualization can make your goals feel more tangible and achievable, turning your written words into a vivid picture of your future.

Setting the Right Environment:

Create a quiet, comfortable space to write your manifesto. You might want to light a candle, play soft music, or even write outdoors in nature. Setting the right environment will help you connect more deeply with your intentions, making this exercise a meaningful ritual rather than just another task.

Final Thought:

This template isn’t just about writing a plan—it’s about opening a dialogue with yourself. It’s about acknowledging where you are, confronting what holds you back, and boldly stepping into who you want to become. Revisit your manifesto regularly, using it as a compass to guide you through the 90-day journey. It’s your personal declaration of ownership, a living document that will evolve with you as you grow. Embrace this process with an open heart, and let it be the foundation of your transformation.

Chapter 1: The Real Enemy: Your Inner Saboteur

Have you ever felt like you’re your own worst enemy? Like no matter how hard you try, there’s a voice inside holding you back? It’s the voice that says, 'You’re not good enough,' 'You’ll fail anyway, so why try?' or 'Who are you to think you deserve success?' This chapter is dedicated to recognizing and challenging this inner voice—the relentless critic, the inner saboteur, that thrives on your self-doubt and fear, and keeps you from becoming who you’re meant to be.

Every person has an inner saboteur—a relentless critic that thrives on self-doubt and fear. It’s that persistent voice whispering, You’re not good enough, You’ll fail anyway, so why try? or Who are you to think you deserve success? This chapter is dedicated to recognizing and challenging this inner voice, the root of many self-imposed limitations.

The café, nestled in a quiet corner of the city, is your refuge. The scent of freshly ground coffee mingles with the aroma of rain-soaked streets, creating a comforting cocoon from the outside world. It’s the kind of day that invites reflection—the soft patter of rain against the windows syncs with the jazz playing softly in the background, and time seems to stretch in this warm, dimly lit space.

As you sit at your favorite table, the warmth of the coffee cup grounding you in the moment, your gaze wanders across the room. It’s a habit now—scanning the environment, noticing the details: the way the light catches the amber wood of the tables, the subtle hum of conversations blending into a soothing backdrop. You’re here for a break from the relentless pace of life, but you’re also here for something more—a connection, a story, perhaps even an epiphany.

Your eyes settle on a woman a few tables away, her fingers moving deftly across the pages of a journal. She’s lost in thought, her brow slightly furrowed in concentration. There’s something about her that piques your interest—perhaps it’s the way she seems both absorbed and aware, present in her writing but also attuned to the world around her. On an impulse, you offer her a smile when her eyes meet yours. It’s a small gesture, but in this moment, it feels significant—a bridge between two strangers.

To your surprise, she smiles back, and before long, you find yourself initiating a conversation. There’s a natural flow to it, as if you’ve known each other for years. Her name is Emily, she tells you, and she’s a creative writer and podcast host. As she speaks, her voice carries a mix of passion and uncertainty. I never thought I’d be doing this, she admits, her fingers idly tracing the edge of her journal. I left corporate law two years ago to pursue writing full-time. My parents... they’ve never understood why I’d give up something so stable.

There’s a flicker of pain in her eyes as she speaks, a shadow of the inner turmoil that has been her constant companion. Emily’s parents had always been practical people—her father, a banker, and her mother, a schoolteacher. They valued hard work, security, and the predictability of a steady paycheck. Growing up, Emily had absorbed these values, excelling in school, securing a scholarship to a prestigious law school, and landing a coveted position at a top firm. On the surface, she was living the dream—her parents’ dream.

But beneath the polished exterior, Emily was suffocating. The long hours, the endless paperwork, the relentless pressure to bill hours and climb the corporate ladder—it drained her. The creative spark that had always burned within her, the one that fueled her love for storytelling and poetry, was dimming under the weight of contracts and legal jargon. She would find herself staring out of her office window, longing for the days when she could spend hours lost in a story, the world around her fading as her characters came to life on the page.

The decision to leave was both liberating and terrifying. Emily remembers the day vividly—the sun was setting, casting a golden hue over her office as she handed in her resignation. There was a sense of finality in the act, but also a deep-seated fear. She had no safety net, no backup plan—just a burning need to reclaim her life, to follow her passion. Her parents, however, saw it differently. To them, it was a reckless decision, an unnecessary risk. You’re throwing away everything you’ve worked for, her father had said, his voice heavy with disappointment. "Writing